[man] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
[men exclaiming]
[Bozo in Croatian]
[Andjelka in Croatian]
[Bozo in English]
-[dramatic music playing] -[Vanja] No!
I missed my connecting flight by 10 minutes.
And to make matters worse, I've been reaching out all day and Bozo is not picking up.
So I'm just hoping I'm not doing all this for nothing.
[chuckles, sniffles]
[in Spanish]
[Brian in English] I'm feeling positive that me and Ingrid have cleared the air.
I'm ready. I'm ready for my happily ever after.
[Loren]
I know she's still upset with me.
But it is frustrating because, at the end of the day,
the one thing we don't have is time.
[Tigerlily sniffles]
I love you so much. I can't bear leaving you.
There has been some issues between us,
and I'm worried being so far apart, they'll become bigger issues.
It's just really scary.
Getting married on this trip, I can't exactly do that.
[Matilda]
[Rayne] Why did you invite me if you hate me?
If... If you can't--
[Rayne] Ugh! You will never see me again.
I'm done.
[Chidi]
Even though he couldn't see me, he could hear my heart.
It still wasn't enough.
[sobbing]
[dramatic music playing]
So disappointed.
I just gotta roll with the flow.
I'm on my way to see Bozo
and I miss my connecting flight
by 10 minutes.
Thankfully the airlines were able to rebook me.
But at this point, I'm worried because I still haven't heard from him.
He didn't pick up my calls before I left.
He didn't message me while I was flying.
It's been an entire day since I've heard anything from him.
And this is scaring me.
What if he changed his mind about us?
Let's figure this out.
All right. Here we go.
[line ringing]
-[line ringing] -All right, it's ringing.
Hi!
-There you are. -[Bozo in English]
Uh... [chuckles] I'm not there.
Um, I missed my connection in Frankfurt.
So I'm stuck at the airport.
[Bozo]
I'm just stressed out, but it's okay.
It's gonna be a couple of hours late.
They're putting me on another flight.
[Bozo]
-Okay. -[Bozo]
-Okay. See you soon. Ciao. -[Bozo]
Bye. Bye.
Finally! I'm so relieved to hear from him.
Even though I'm arriving later than expected,
my mind is finally at ease because I heard from him.
And, uh, now I can just think about getting there
and finally getting to see him.
Everything is flashing through my mind.
All this time that I invested to him, all of my emotions.
I am really hoping to get a ring at the end of this trip.
That would be the best gift to send me home with. [chuckles]
[upbeat music playing]
[Bozo] Perfect.
Talking with my mom made me so much more anxious
about meeting Vanja.
[in Croatian]
[in English] I was nervous hiding the stuff, that I'm jobless.
And then like, will she be disappointed?
So it was, like, a heavy burden for me.
And then I remembered, this girl is something special.
Like, I see the bright future for us.
So now I'm so happy excited, I just can't wait to see her.
[in Croatian]
[Bozo]
[Mirjana in Croatian]
[Bozo]
[Andjelka]
-[Bozo] Ciao, ciao. -[Mirjana]
[in English] I am a little bit nervous, but more excited.
She got on the airplane, and all that way from the United States.
I actually feel like I don't deserve it.
Like, it's a big, huge compliment.
Amazing person doing that because of you...
Wow. Wow, what a feeling.
[pleasant music playing]
[Vanja]
People are arriving, she might be here.
Probably she will be
totally pink color. [chuckles]
I was in Split just eight months ago
where I was in a solo hot girl summer trip [chuckles]
and we never got to meet.
And here I am, eight months later, living out this fantasy in real life.
This is, really, the most important trip of my lifetime. [chuckles]
Is that Vanja?
No.
-Vanja! [chuckles] -[Vanja squealing]
[upbeat music playing]
[both laughing]
[Bozo]
-[Vanja] -[Bozo] Yes.
[Vanja]
[Bozo]
-[Bozo chuckles] -I can't believe it. He's huggable.
Oh, thank you.
-I should hug oftener, actually. -Yes.
-No. No. -[Bozo chuckles]
No, what are you talking about.
Look, it's a perfect sized hug.
-Yeah, who they talking about? -[both chuckle]
-Is that for me? -Yes.
-[Vanja gasps] Thank you so much. -[Bozo chuckles] Yeah.
-I'm shaking. Look at that. -Don't!
Please, please, please, please. Everything is fine now.
-[Vanja] Oh, my gosh. -Did you get any sleep?
-Um, three hours, so. -Okay.
If you're not too tired, I have plan for us.
-Yes. I'm down. -[upbeat music playing]
This feels so surreal.
Here I am. Finally able to see him.
And I saw him with a plant in his hand.
Usually, a guy will give you a bouquet of flowers and ends up dying.
And he gave me a plant 'cause he knows that's what I love,
and it was just so special and so sweet.
[upbeat music continues playing]
A kiss would have been nice.
But that's okay. I want him to feel comfortable.
He's very old-school, and actually that's what I love about him.
Because I'm used to always having guys asking for kisses and more,
and he's not like that.
So I'm going to let him lead the way, and see where he leads me to.
[Bozo]
[Vanja chuckles]
-[horns honking] -[upbeat music playing]
[Rayne] It's just the worst day of my life.
I always thought that nothing could ever come between us.
But he let his ways and his false faith come between,
and that's where we're sitting.
Yesterday, I asked Chidi to move to a hotel with me.
It turned into the entire family
just gang up on me.
I flew all the way across the world
to come meet a man that I fell in love with.
And here I sit alone.
I only wish we'd never have fought.
And I could have still been with Chidi.
I believe, honestly, this is the end of our relationship.
[sobbing]
[in English]
I'm a very strong person,
but on the inside I have a lot of pain deep down
I've been hurt so much in the past, throughout my life.
Especially with romantic relationships.
When I was about three months pregnant,
Lexie's father literally
just one night just gave me a hug goodbye
and never, ever, ever came back.
And the other guys that I've been with
had issues like drug use.
There was no love and there was no connection.
I thought Chidi was different.
The Chidi I met on the phone was very supportive.
I love him with everything.
I've done everything for him.
But since I've gotten here,
he's continuously rejected me or let me down in many, many ways.
I'm so confused. Like, ever since last night, I feel numb.
I want to leave in the back of my mind,
but something won't let me.
Spiritually, I feel connected here for some reason,
like something will happen.
Something else is holding me.
[Chidi sighs]
[Chidi] Because of what happened yesterday night.
[in English]
[man in English]
-[woman] Are you okay? -Sit.
[groans]
[Chidi speaking]
So after all that happened, last night's...
[in English]
-[man speaking] -[Chidi] Yes.
[exclaims]
[man speaking]
[Chidi speaking]
-Hmm. -[Chidi speaking]
Be there for her.
[in English]
[chuckles softly]
So she doesn't believe in this harmony.
Are you-- Are you willing to give up your family?
That's what you really have to talk about with her.
If you really want to go ahead
um, with the relationship.
[woman in English]
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry, I-- [sobbing]
If you don't want me to get in your way,
of course, I don't want to get in your way.
I will step aside.
Because I've seen how important she is to you.
And I want you to get married.
I want you to have a family.
-I don't know if you understand me. -Yeah, I getting you.
Okay. I'm not asking you to choose me over her.
Never.
[in English]
Even though it's-- it's a very hard thing for me to do.
When whatever comes, I will support him.
I will still be for him, but I won't stand in the way.
I'm sorry.
It's not just like not shaking someone's hand
or not wearing some revealing top.
It's a lot.
Over the last two months,
Adnan became more controlling.
We just keep running into issue after issue.
But that's not normal.
[chuckles] I mean it's--
It's him trying to manipulate you.
[Niles] I told you that I couldn't get married on this trip and--
[Matilda] When did you tell me that?
I told you that over the phone.
You didn't tell me that. Stop that! Stop lying!
How can you say that to me?
You didn't say that.
Me and you, know that.
Oh, God.
[cow mooing]
[upbeat music playing]
I am headed to Cruz's salon to do my hair
and also to talk to him about some things.
Tomorrow. I'm leaving to see my husband, Adnan.
We haven't seen each other
in probably about a month and a half,
I'm really excited to see him again,
but I at the same time, I'm pretty anxious,
just with everything that's been going on.
When I first got back from Jordan,
I was a happy newlywed.
But over the last two months,
everything started changing.
Adnan became more controlling.
It feels like he has a rule
about every single thing in my life.
And we just keep running into issue after issue.
Recently we got into an argument
and I was so frustrated.
I never thought that in the short amount of time that we've been apart,
we'd be having so many problems.
-Hello. -[Cruz] Hi.
Hi.
It's so weird. I don't know what to do anymore.
I'm like, hello.
[Tigerlily chuckles] I know, I know.
-[Cruz] What's up? -Um, so I brought some more clothes.
-[Cruz] Wow! -For Shea.
Oh, my gosh, she's gonna love it.
Wow, this is heavy.
And then I have another suitcase in the car.
-Let me put this up. Have a seat. -[Tigerlily] Okay.
We'll get started.
[Tigerlily] Adnan has a lot of rules on what I can't wear.
So I'm giving Shea everything
that Adnan might not approve of.
-Have a seat doll. -All right.
I haven't gotten to even wear some of these clothes.
The world has not gotten to see me in these clothes yet,
and that is just really disappointing.
Um, so I'm leaving tomorrow,
so I just thought we could curl it
-a little bit for my trip. -Just a little bit more
-glammed up for you. -Yeah.
Are you excited to go to Turkey to see Adnan?
That's kind of cool.
[chuckles]
I know I was really looking forward
to going to Jordan again,
but I think with just everything,
going on in the Middle East is just better.
If we meet in Turkey instead.
[Cruz] So how are you guys doing?
Everything good?
[Tigerlily] I mean...
we've been having, like some issues recently.
[Cruz] More issues? Like what else?
[Tigerlily] Well, a few days ago,
I was having some back pain, neck pain,
and I needed to see my chiropractor.
And he didn't understand what the chiropractor did.
He went on social media
and sent me this video saying,
"Do you want me to accept this?"
The girls bent over the guys like kind of on top.
I have no idea who this person is,
but it's not my chiropractor.
And now Adnan thinks
that that's what the chiropractor visit looks like.
[man] I gotcha.
Nice.
Like this. big, tall, you know,
handsome man.
Actually my chiropractor is better looking
than the one that is on there.
[laughs hysterically]
But either way, I trust this man with my health,
so I shouldn't have to argue whether or not I can see him.
So now he has an issue.
With my male health care practitioners.
-He wants me to change them and have all women -[Cruz] Whoa.
It's not just like not shaking someone's hand
or not wearing, you know, some revealing top.
This is like my health.
Did you tell them that?
Well, the next morning, um, I was upset still,
so I didn't take his calls,
and then it literally, like sent him to the hospital.
What do you mean, sent him to the hospital?
When I finally talked to him,
he was having breathing problems
and dizziness like he literally went into the hospital.
But that's not normal.
I mean, [chuckles softly] it's him trying to, like,
kind of manipulate you. If you ask me.
[Tigerlily] I know Adnan can be sensitive,
but I never thought that having an argument
would send him to the freaking hospital.
You know, based on how he was feeling,
it was sort of like a panic attack.
But I also think he's playing it up a little bit.
To get some sympathy from me.
Because this is just a little much.
You know, I felt bad.
And then we didn't talk about it again, obviously.
-And then now-- -So, nothing is resolved.
Right. Nothing is resolved now.
And you still got to deal with it just because he's stressed out.
-I know. -[Cruz] He can go to the hospital.
He's an adult. He's got to face these adult situations.
I know, that's why we need to get it worked out.
Because this trip is supposed to be
all about baby making.
Baby making?
Like, why so soon.
It's just, you know, I'm older now
than I was when I had my last kid.
And with us only seeing each other
every two months, how do I know that
time that we see each other is going to be
a good fertility window for us,
and so we're really, really limited.
[Cruz] I think it's crazy.
They're having some difficulties seeing eye to eye,
and now she's going to go
and she wants to have a baby.
But they need to get their situation
straight before they start procreating,
and I feel that they really do love each other.
But I don't know if that's gonna be enough.
What happens if you get pregnant
and then it's not going to work out.
And now you have the baby and he's over there.
I mean, marriage is one thing, and it's huge step.
But now this is like you can't
take that back?
[Matilda in English]
[in English]
[Matilda speaking]
[in English]
[sobbing]
He told me that I need to wait.
[Niles] Ah, you're in the van.
Hey, Mat.
Please don't talk to me right now.
Please don't talk to me right now. Please.
I need to go to the hotel.
[Niles] Driver um, just-- Just take us back to the hotel. Please.
[Matilda speaking]
At the risk of everything going horribly wrong here,
I have to-- I have one very major question to ask you. Okay?
Did you ever hear me say
I agreed to get married on this trip?
[Niles] It's not-- It's not a prank.
Matilda, I told you that I couldn't get married on this trip.
And we-- and I said that
we would discuss-- we would discuss--
[Matilda] When did you-- When did you tell me that?
-That I told you that over the phone. -[Matilda] When?
-So many times. -You didn't tell me that.
Stop that. Stop lying.
[in English]
[Niles] I'm not lying to you.
[in English]
I didn't say you were lying.
Nobody's said-- Nobody's accusing anybody of anything.
What was the reason why you were coming to Ghana?
The reason was to get-- was to meet you in person
and get to know you and see what--
Did you say that to me? You took--
-I thought I did. -You-- You told me that
we will get married on this trip.
I said we will-- We will get ma--
-We will plan that on this trip. -You didn't say that.
Please. Please. You didn't say that.
-Yet, I remember saying that. -You didn't tell me that.
Please stop.
How can you say that to me?
You didn't say that.
Me and you know that when you come to Ghana, we will get married.
Oh, God.
[in English]
I came on...
-[Matilda] Saturday. -Saturday. Yes.
Five days.
You didn't tell me anything about--
about-- about us not getting married.
Did you tell me?
When I got here, I was just so happy to see you,
and I just thought,
"She's here. I'm finally here."
Let's just enjoy this. Okay?
[in English]
-[Niles] In person, no. -[in English]
In person, we did not do that.
We did not discuss that in person.
So right now, who's lying right now.
Me and you, who is lying right now?
Nobody's lying.
Matilda thinks that I'm lying
and it may certainly look that way.
I thought I was pretty clear that
I would not be getting married on this trip.
[in English]
Wait a minute. I told her.
Now hold on, Matilda.
I'm not there to plan this wedding yet.
So this can't happen on this trip.
[in English]
[Niles] This is an example of how I struggle
with these kind of social skills.
Sometimes I don't know when I go into-- into a mode
where I just don't tell the full truth.
I guess I'm just trying to say it in such a way that
doesn't make her-- That--
That doesn't cause her to be unnecessarily angry.
[sniffles]
[Niles] Matilda?
Matilda, please.
I guess I should've just spelled it out.
I'm sorry. Okay?
Talk to me, Matilda. Please.
[speaking Portuguese]
[Brian in English] Before we leave Gurupi
I asked Ingrid if she could arrange
something with her parents so we could finally meet.
[Brian in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
Mmm-mmm.
[speaking Portuguese]
Mmm-mmm.
[cell phone ringing]
[in English] Hello?
[in Portuguese]
[in English] I am outside.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[in English] I've been in Gurupi for a week,
and me and Ingrid have been on a roller coaster ride
since the beginning.
There's highs and super lows
and super highs and super lows.
It's hard to keep up with sometimes
But yesterday me and Ingrid
had a nice conversation
about communication and respect,
and I think we're definitely better because of it.
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[Brian in English] I'm really excited because tomorrow
Ingrid and I are going to Recife,
and I just love being by the beach.
But before we leave Gurupi
I asked Ingrid if she could arrange
something with her parents so we could finally meet.
[Brian in Portuguese]
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[Brian speaking]
[in English] Ingrid did warn me
about her parents being tough
and possibly not wanting to meet me.
So I'm super excited
and surprised that they did agree.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid chuckles]
A hey, yay, yay, yay, yay! [chuckling]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian in English] I thought I was here to meet both of her parents.
So I'm a little disappointed that her father's not around.
I mean, I get the fact that
he has to work and he has responsibilities, right?
But I can't help but to feel that
he's totally avoiding meeting me.
From what I heard from Ingrid,
he probably has preconceived notions
about me because of my disability.
And I don't think that's fair at all.
Wish I had the chance to win them over.
But I'm really happy at least her mom is coming
and I can have a chance to make a good impression on her.
[in Portuguese]
-[in English] Are you close to your mom? -[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[Ingrid continues speaking]
[Brian in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
-Luiza. -Luiza.
[both speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian chuckles]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
Mmm-hmm.
[Brian in English] I mean, I'm working extra hard
to win over her mom
and usually, I'm pretty confident in my talking game.
I can talk just about to anybody.
But I'm just getting stonewalled here,
and it's very difficult to break that.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[in English] Okay? Yes. Yes.
-[Ingrid] Okay. -[Brian] Okay.
[in English] She's just cold
and no emotions, nothing.
I don't know if it's my wheelchair
or the fact that I'm from another country,
but I just don't know what to do right now.
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
Mmm-mmm.
[in Portuguese]
Mmm-mmm.
-[Brian in English] Let's go. Please. -[Ingrid] I'm hungry.
Please I'm starving. I'm hungry.
[in Portuguese]
[Luiza speaking]
[chuckles]
-[Brian in English] -[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[Brian in English] It is really crazy
to think that somebody would have the audacity
to say that I'm not gonna eat at the table with you guys.
I mean, it was the reason for the meeting.
It was reason for the lunch.
Ingrid and I have been through a lot on this trip,
and this is the last thing we need.
If her mom doesn't like me,
I mean, that can rub off on Ingrid,
and then we're done.
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[Luiza speaking]
[Brian chuckles softly]
So you're really okay with me meeting your family tomorrow?
[in English]
But I am very nervous.
[Loren] Tomorrow I'm meeting Faith's family,
and I know their opinion of me is a huge
factor in whether or not me and Faith
move forward in this relationship.
Do you think you're going to tell them what I did?
It's just-- that's going to be a whole thing.
[Faith] Um...
[Loren] Come on. You want me to explore?
Do you want to play in the water now or later?
-Yes. -[Loren] Yeah?
[in English]
Yeah? Let's do it.
[Faith] Last night, me and Loren
arrived in my hometown in Leyte.
And today I wanted to spend a day with Loren
before I introduce him to my family.
[in English]
I am so very proud of where I came from,
so it's very special to me to share it with Loren.
And even though I still don't know if I can trust him,
[in English]
About our relationship.
[in English]
[Loren] Sure.
Why don't I do that?
-[Faith speaking] -[Loren] Right?
I do things for you all day, every day forever.
How about a foot massage, yeah?
[Faith in English]
-It's okay? -[Faith] Mmm-hmm.
[Loren] All that sand. [chuckles]
[Faith in English]
Sand Massage.
[laughs]
[in English]
[both laugh]
[Loren] So tomorrow is your family, right?
-[Faith] Yeah. -I should know a little bit.
What was it like growing up?
What should I expect?
[in English]
[Loren] Yeah.
[in English]
Um...
[continues in English]
[Loren] Mmm-hmm.
But the fact that you work so hard, right?
-And you love your family... -[Faith] Mmm-hmm.
...is amazing.
It's a great thing about you.
I love it.
And I want to be a part of that.
Help your mom, help your family.
Get your brothers to school.
And I'll do that with you. That's fine.
No matter where that is or what we're doing,
we'll figure it out.
True teamwork.
Yeah.
[in English]
So you're really okay with me meeting your family tomorrow?
[in English]
[Loren] Yeah?
[in English]
[Loren] Okay.
[in English]
[Loren] I'm nervous, too.
It makes sense to be nervous,
to bring me to your families.
Do you think you're going to tell them what I did?
[Faith] Um...
We'll see.
Are you okay with that?
Yeah, it's just-- that's going to be a whole thing.
[Faith] Yeah.
You know, family is important for me.
[in English]
-Right. -[Faith] Um...
[in English]
[Loren] That's fine.
-It's up yo you. -[Faith] Mmm-hmm.
All right. Let's-- You want to go before it gets dark?
Yeah.
[Loren] Today has been amazing.
Faith has totally just opened up,
I feel like this is what we needed.
But tomorrow I'm meeting Faith's family,
and they're the most important people in Faith's life.
And I imagine she's probably going to tell her family
about the cheating and the STD.
That's totally understandable.
I get it, but it doesn't show me in the best light.
I know their opinion of me is a huge factor
in whether or not me and Faith
move forward in this relationship.
So I'm really nervous.
Who knows what they're gonna think of me after that?
Physical touch is very important for me.
It's so important to be able to feel the other person
and just you-- you connect that way.
I knew that Vanja has the biggest energy and in person.
I mean, it's almost like overwhelming
super long hugs coming your way then, get ready.
♪♪ Bam, bam, bam, bam, bam bam, bam, bam, bam, bam ♪
[chuckles]
[Vanja] Ah! Look at all that stuff in the water.
You're so lucky. You get to see this every day.
[Bozo in English]
After this long, strenuous, horrible journey.
After eight months of building this up,
I'm finally here in Croatia with Bozo.
And he is a little delicious cookie.
I can't believe that I can actually touch him.
I can talk to him. I can smell him.
I feel like I'm on, you know,
the 7th heaven cloud. [chuckles]
How do you feel after the whole
-flight and stuff? -I feel awesome
because I actually get to see you.
And look at you.
-[in English] -Yeah. Yes.
Super long hugs coming your way then, get ready.
Physical touch is very important for me.
It's so important to be able to feel the other person
and just you connect that way.
Yeah.
[Bozo in English]
[Vanja] I'm so glad that you plan something right off the bat.
-[sighs in relief] It makes me feel good. -[Bozo chuckles]
[Bozo] I knew that Vanja has the biggest energy,
and in person she's like
I expect it to be unbelievable presence.
I mean, it's almost like overwhelming.
Like, it's wow!
So that's why I plan to take her immediately to make a date.
Here we have cooking class.
[Vanja] Oh, my God. How exciting!
And I know she's good with cooking cakes and so on.
So that's something I think can bond us even more.
[indistinct conversation]
[man exclaiming]
[woman] Welcome, guys.
-Hi. Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you.
-Hi. Nice to meet you. -[Nikolina] Welcome to our family.
Hi, guys. Hi, guys.
-[Nikolina] Follow me here. -[Vanja] Okay.
[Nikolina] You are going to be next to this board.
[Bozo speaking]
[Vanja] Yeah.
[laughs] Looks like you've done this before.
This is it.
[Nikolina speaking]
[all laughing]
[laughs] I love it.
It's so funny.
Yes. Look at that perfect circle.
[Bozo] Want to try?
[Vanja] Yeah.
Okay, hold on.
-You're so sharp... -[Vanja] Okay, I gotta...
Okay.
The class is super fun. It feels cute.
It feels romantic.
This is the purpose of this trip.
-Yeah. -It's to get to do fun stuff together,
get to know each other more in person.
[Nikolina] So now we are gonna do the filling.
Swiss chard, onions and garlic.
Yeah, just put it on one spot.
So come here, guys. Help them.
Spread it all over.
Sinia, please come.
And please make room.
[Vanja] Whoa.
[Nikolina] This is a soparnik.
It will look like diamond shape.
-Here. -[all exclaiming]
-Please enjoy. -[Bozo] Edges first?
-You don't like it? -[Nikolina] Oh, yes.
[Bozo] Essence of Dalmatia.
I've never had this before. This is amazing.
[woman] Mm. Amazing.
-[Nikolina] Here you are. -[Bozo] Thank you so much.
How long have you guys been together?
-Two and a half years. Almost three. -Yeah.
Yeah.
How did you guys meet?
-Online. [laughs] -In a library.
-Online... Online library. -In church.
-[man] Online library in church. -Yes.
-[man] Yeah, okay, yeah. -[Bozo] Oh, yeah.
[woman] Was it like love at first sight?
[Vanja] It was a "swipe right" situation.
[all laughing]
[Vanja] And here we are eight months later. [laughs]
Just got here
about four hours ago from America.
[laughs]
[man] This is your first time, like...
Yeah. It's the first time meeting in real life.
[man] Like, are you like
official or maybe something in-between or...
No, we're not.
Why would I be coming all the way from Orlando here for a friend?
[all exclaiming]
I'm kidding. We are married. My ring is in the car.
[Vanja] I'm totally confused.
He said that, you know, we're just friends,
but this is a lot more than that.
This is pursuing a potential forever connection.
I know that he jokes around, but it's really hurtful.
I honestly don't even know what's going on in his head.
I'm speechless.
I'm completely speechless.
[Adnan speaking]
After all these changes that
I have made for Adnan,
what he's doing
just seems like a total slap in the face.
[Tigerlily] Why did I pack so much stuff?
[gasps] Really?
Hi.
[thunder rumbling]
[Tigerlily] Thank you.
I am headed to the airport for my trip to Turkey.
Adnan is already on his way.
But I have a long
overnight flight ahead of me.
This trip is supposed to be about
baby making.
It's supposed to be fun.
But instead,
all I'm thinking about
is these issues
that I have to talk about with my husband.
And I don't know how it's gonna go.
Going to Turkey.
I am so nervous.
I love Adnan so much,
and I have been hesitant
to push back on any issues
because I don't want to lose him.
But with us talking about having a baby,
you know, I really need to have both of us
be on steady ground.
And I'm hoping that
we can get there.
[Adnan] I can't believe it.
I will see Tigerlily soon.
[Tigerlily] I hope it's on time.
Nothing that Adnan's posting
is obscene or bad.
But it's just the simple fact that
I could not do anything remotely close
to what he's doing.
After all these changes that I have made for Adnan,
what he's doing
just seems like a total slap in the face.
[Brian, in Portuguese]
[Ingrid, in English] No.
[in English] Ingrid warned me about her parents being tough.
I didn't think someone could be that rude.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid's mom, in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Ingrid's mom speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
-[Ingrid, in English] No. -[Brian laughs]
[in Portuguese]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
[both chuckle]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[in English] I didn't know that Ingrid's dad
doesn't let her travel
or is very strict on her travel stuff.
But she's got to be her own woman.
She has two children. She's... Come on.
Dad doesn't need to be telling her where she can go and not go.
[in Portuguese]
-[Brian speaking] -[Ingrid's mom speaking]
[Brian, in English] Ingrid warned me about her parents being tough,
but I really didn't think it would be that bad.
I didn't think someone could be that rude.
They clearly are not supportive of our relationship
at all.
-[in Portuguese] -[Ingrid] Mm.
[Brian, in English] And, I mean, I don't even know
how me and Ingrid could have a meaningful relationship
if her parents don't accept me.
[in Portuguese]
-[laughs] -[Ingrid] Huh?
[Ingrid speaking]
[Ingrid laughs]
[Bozo speaking]
[Vanja] Get in, get in, get in.
Of course, I'm really hoping that Bozo's going to
spend the night, you know,
but I just don't know what to expect from him.
[Bozo speaking]
[Vanja] There's a beautiful couch available. What do you think?
[Niles] Well, I can do the knocking,
but I will have to see what happens
after this first trip.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] Is it okay if I help you out?
Matilda?
Talk to me.
Before we go to the room,
I feel like you just have to to say something, okay?
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] Right now, I'm flustered.
Matilda is as upset as I've ever seen her
because I told her I can't get married on this trip.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] I don't know.
She has every right to be mad.
Yes, I had multiple opportunities to come clean.
Every time the wedding was brought up in the past,
there was a chance for me to set things straight.
I just didn't.
I made a mistake.
A very bad mistake, okay?
I should have just told you. I...
I didn't want to ruin the moment.
We were here. We were happy.
Well, I can do the knocking. I can get...
I can do almost everything else.
[Niles] I'm going to tell them--
[Niles] I will have to see
what happens when I get back
to the States after this first trip
so that I can work it out,
plan my schedule accordingly,
so that I can come back here and get married.
[Matilda] I need a minute.
I know that I love Matilda
and I'm ready to get engaged with her.
The knocking ceremony,
it's essentially like the official engagement.
I thought this would be a compromise between
postponing the wedding and going through with it.
But I don't know if Matilda is going to accept that.
Look, I'm sorry for not being communicating with you.
I should have been clearer.
I should have said, "What date do you have in mind?"
at some point.
And I didn't.
I'm sorry.
I think you have just seen a firsthand example
of masking, you know that?
Where...
just to keep you happy,
I didn't tell you everything that I needed to tell you.
I hinted at it.
I might have said, you know, "Hold off on it.
Don't do anything until I got here."
But that is not "I will not marry you on this trip."
And...
would that have been something
that you would have liked if I had
just said that outright?
[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
Would you have been okay with me telling you outright
-that I can't get married on this trip? -I think so.
Yes, I would be okay.
You should have told me earlier.
[Niles] I'm sorry.
And I need to be a little bit more direct
from now on. I can...
It hurts my heart when we're like this.
[Matilda] Okay.
I understand you, okay?
-[Niles] Okay. -I will wait till you get ready.
-Okay? -Okay, Matilda.
[Matilda speaking]
But at the same time, I love this man.
And I'm starting to understand
sometimes
it's difficult for him
to communicate
because of his autism...
-You know what, if I... -I want you to promise me
that you will come back for me.
Okay.
And that's why I gave you this ring today.
Okay.
I gave you this ring
because this ring is my promise to you that
I shall come back.
I will make sure that
everything settles like it's supposed to.
-You sure? -That...
I have never been more sure about anything in my life.
-Do you understand? -Okay.
I am going to do the knocking.
[Matilda speaking]
-Yes, Matilda. -Mm-hmm.
Okay.
[Matilda speaking]
In Ghanaian culture,
the bride always gets married very soon
after the knocking ceremony.
They will not accept him.
That will be a very big problem.
[Niles] You still want that drink tonight?
[Matilda speaking]
-[Niles] I will. -[Matilda] Okay. I'll be waiting.
[meows]
[Vanja] At this point, I'm a little confused personally,
because before the cooking class,
we had this
incredible moment
at the airport where we embraced
and, you know, I feel this connection
and everything is amazing.
Granted, I wanted a kiss, I didn't get a kiss,
but fine, you know.
I feel like this connection
is real and palpable.
So, I honestly don't know
why he would say that we're just friends.
I just, honestly, I can't make any sense of it.
All right.
Home sweet home.
I literally just arrived from America,
so I'm choosing
not to bring this up because,
you know, I'm hopeful,
maybe it was just a misunderstanding,
and we're gonna be able to enjoy the rest of the evening
like nothing ever happened.
Get your jacket, don't freeze.
Thank you.
-[Bozo] No worries. -[Vanja] Yay.
[Bozo] Look, how is... How is it, peaceful?
[Vanja] It is so beautiful here.
Feels like we have the whole town to ourselves.
-Sorry, sorry. Yeah, yeah. -Oops. It's okay.
[Bozo speaking]
-[Vanja] Uh-huh. -[Bozo speaking]
-Wow. -[Bozo] Yeah.
-And here now are Vanja and Bozo. -[Bozo chuckles]
Yeah.
[Vanja exhales]
[softly] 26.
[Bozo speaking]
[Vanja] Okay. Get in, get in, get in.
I rented my own space for three weeks,
and that's where I'll be staying
for the duration of my visit.
We never really talked about
whether or not he's going to stay with me.
And after everything that
transpired at the cooking class,
I don't want to be pushy or anything like that.
[Bozo] Ooh!
[Vanja] Of course, I want Bozo to spend the night with me,
but I just don't know what to expect from him.
[Bozo chuckles]
-[Vanja] Wow. -[Bozo] Look up.
[Vanja] World's slowest elevator.
Ah. There we go.
Wow.
Oh, my God. [chuckles softly]
This is just stunning.
Oh, my goodness.
[Bozo] Magnificent.
Yeah.
Having Vanja in Croatia is totally surreal.
Having great connection and having good time.
Except there was a little bit awkwardness
at the cooking class
because I said that we are just friends.
Obviously, she took it as offense,
but I think it's fair standpoint.
She's so dear to me. I appreciate her,
but I also don't want to make
huge step into the dark
not knowing if there is romantic chemistry there.
[Vanja speaking]
-[Bozo] Oh, no. -Yeah.
-Are you serious? -Yes. Yes.
-Okay. -[Vanja] Okay.
[Bozo laughs]
No way.
[both laugh]
-For what is this? For a car? -[Vanja] This is a car freshener.
-Yeah, air freshener. -Oh, my God. That's so nice.
Looks like we are actors
in some old French movie.
-[Vanja laughs] -[Bozo laughs] This is so sweet.
-Thank you. Thank you so much. -[Vanja] You're welcome.
So, remember how you said you wanted to try
some of my baking?
So, I made you some cookies.
Unfortunately, they traveled just like I did.
And this is what you got.
-Ah, you're so sweet. -[Vanja] All the cookies got smushed.
-You're so sweet. -So, they were all
beautiful cookies, and now you got
-a cookie dough. -[Bozo] Thank you so much, Vanja.
-Thank you. Oh, my God. -[Vanja] So, try it.
-You're such a sweetheart. -[Vanja] Try it. Let me know what you think.
[Bozo] They're so delicious.
-Are you joking? -[Bozo] Wow, you're good.
Mm.
[Vanja] Okay.
[mumbles] Thank you so much.
[Vanja laughs]
Okay. Uh...
I'm really, really tired.
[Vanja] There's a beautiful couch available.
[Bozo] I know. Thank you. Thank you so much. I will go.
[Vanja] Oh.
-So, not enough gifts to stay at the apartment tonight? -[Bozo laughs]
I didn't bribe you enough. Is that what it is?
[Bozo] Oh, thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you so much.
You, you, you are such a sweetheart.
Okay.
Uh, thank you once again so much.
-I appreciate it. -[Vanja] All right.
-Bye. I'll see you tomorrow. -[Bozo] Good night.
-Thank you. -[Bozo] Ciao, ciao.
[Vanja] Bye.
[sighs]
So sad he doesn't want to stay. This sucks.
I'm a little disappointed that he is not staying here with me
in this beautiful, gorgeous apartment.
But, um, you know,
he obviously didn't feel comfortable.
But the way that he was acting at the cooking class,
I... That... I just...
I don't even know how to process that.
That was awful.
Today was just a shock to me.
I am hoping for a change in behavior.
[sighs] What the heck?
It's just, it feels like
I might have been a fool all along. Oh, God.
[man speaking]
[Rayne sniffing]
It's my second day alone in the hotel.
Chidi and I are not speaking,
but we've texted a few times.
I've continuously invited Chidi to the hotel
to talk about everything that happened.
But he still hasn't come over.
Every night passes, I wait for him at the door.
Literally, like, I wait for that knock
to think he's gonna come surprise me.
'Cause that's what I would have done, you know?
The fact that Chidi hasn't come to visit with me,
it's breaking my heart.
I'm ready to go home.
[Chidi] I haven't seen Rayne
since she left my sister's house
three days ago.
[man] Chidi, boy, boy, boy.
-Alpha. -[Chidi] Dodo.
[man speaking]
[Chidi speaking]
[Chidi] Oh.
-Alpha, how you doing? -[Chidi laughs] Look at this guy.
I feel sad, and I need someone to talk to.
Christian is my best friend.
-[Christian] So how are you? -I'm fine.
[Christian] Oh, that's good.
[Chidi] Well, um...
[Christian] How do you mean?
[Chidi] Well, um...
She told me
she doesn't like how my sister comes around.
[Christian speaking]
Yeah. Wow.
[Chidi] But I never forget
the emotions that overwhelmed me by the things she said.
She said a whole lot of horrible things.
[Christian speaking]
[Chidi] Yeah?
The truth is that I love Rayne.
Like, I love her.
Bro, bro, can that...
My question now is...
[Chidi] Like...
Knowing how she yells
and shouts and easily get angry...
-[Christian] Yeah. -And...
Like, being blind, not being able to see,
having someone always yelling on your head, shouting.
Honestly,
I don't think I can put up with that.
[exhales sharply]
I am confused about what to do.
It's not really working. It's not working.
-You think it's that easy? -[Christian] I know it's not.
Someone you love,
someone you've vowed to always be there for,
someone you need to support
-and care for. -Bro, bro, bro...
[Chidi speaking]
Yeah.
[Christian speaking]
[Rayne] Here I am, in the hotel room.
How do you like
my outfit that I bought earlier?
I've been very depressed
about being in the hotel and being alone without Chidi.
But then a little bit earlier, he reached out and said
he wanted to see me tomorrow, which made me really happy.
And I finally felt like leaving the hotel,
so I did a little shopping.
So, this is the one that I bought that has lace.
It's very silky. It's real soft.
And I bought that, obviously,
with Chidi in mind.
Thinking that if he touched it, he would love it.
Even though I'm still angry about everything that went down,
it was so nice to hear his voice.
And I feel like maybe he might be coming to his senses.
And that maybe he'll open his eyes big enough
to see how much his family has really come between us.
I'm feeling hopeful because I know Chidi.
He loves me and he cares for me.
And he would never let me walk away.
Ah.
[Bozo] Next time on Before 90 Days...
[vocalizing]
This is the Bozo that I fell for.
With you, I've been able to find somebody that I really click with.
But I don't think we're just friends.
Has there been chemistry so far?
Uh...
He does not want to see me.
He wants nothing to do with me.
You've been through a lot of [bleep] in your life.
Have you tried opening up to him a little bit?
I think that would probably be a good start.
If you really know all the ins and outs,
it's not pretty.
[Niles] If they deny my proposal to postpone the wedding,
her family could
very possibly not allow me to marry her at all.
Lord have mercy.
[Adnan speaking]
Why are you acting like
everything's fine?
How would you feel if
I just got out of the shower
and I take a photo without a shirt on?
[Adnan speaking]
You're done with what?
-[Rayne] We've been through the same thing over and over. -No.
-I see you're sucking your sister's tits. -No.
It is sad.
Right now, he is definitely crossing the line.
You better learn to chill,
because you're messing with the wrong freaking ass person.