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Previously on
Before the 90 Days.
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I didn't expect me
to fall in love this soon.
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Oh, yeah.
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The next step is talking about
if I can move in.
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And I hope she's
on the same page as I am
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because I just don't know
if I could handle
that kind of rejection.
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To the United Staes?
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If you would have
told me that in the beginning
I would have been like,
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"Well, that's
kind of a red flag."
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The most important thing
in a relationship is trust.
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When you lose trust
you have nothing,
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And I don't think
Amanda trusts me.
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Sometimes I feel like,
your family,
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they don't liking me.
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Gino's cousin texted me
on social media
something that...
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Would you agree
to talk to Dana
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- through video call?
- Okay.
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Okay.
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We agreed that
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I feel like
I've been manipulated.
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And he just kept saying
it was probably best
we not talk about it
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to protect you.
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Oh, man, my heart is racing.
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It's finally here, you know.
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The real Carmella told me
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that she'd be open to meeting.
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I don't know
how I'm gonna react
when I see this person.
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Are you getting up?
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I don't think so.
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What?
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The last few days
with Razvan and I
have been so much better.
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Razvan has really
been showing me
that he cares about me,
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that he's listening.
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I don't know.
I feel closer with him.
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So we stayed up all night.
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Um...
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And we...
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Yeah.
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Oh, my God.
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Why would you even say that?
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I just felt like
it was the right time.
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And also,
it was really difficult
to hear his friend Deanna
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call my relationship
with Razvan toxic.
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Honestly, it makes me
want to be a better partner
for Razvan
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because I love him.
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I feel like that waiting,
like, just made it
more special.
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I was kind of worried.
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Like, I would feel bad
to be with someone else,
like, intimately.
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But I did, and I feel like
it was a good thing.
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- No. It was
a really special moment.
- Oh, My God.
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And...
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You are really amazing
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because sometimes
you are distant with me.
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But, uh, last night
I didn't feel that.
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We really connected...
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...in that moment.
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You know, I talked
with the producer
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to push the video
after you leave,
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like, because we don't
have much time,
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and I want to spend
those days with you.
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- And...
- Aw.
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You're so sweet.
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And I do want
to make things work.
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So I feel like we
are in a good place.
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This is so exciting.
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Yeah.
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Oh, yeah.
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Yeah.
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So, you are scared?
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No.
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Not even
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I mean, you...
you think I'm not, you know,
a vampire or something?
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Okay.
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- On three. Let's go.
- Okay.
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One.
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Two. Three. Go.
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That is too easy.
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It's too easy, look.
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Why you running so fast?
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I just like
to let you win.
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- Yeah.
- Oh, okay.
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This is how I thought
this trip will go.
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Like, be relaxed, be happy.
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Hold on.
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And I'm hoping
that we will just
keep planning our future
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because things
are getting more serious
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with us being intimately.
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And I hope
that she will continue
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being 100%
in this relationship
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Oh, cool.
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For example, these are called
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We put inside
whatever we want.
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Oh, beans, mmm.
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Perfect.
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Okay.
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- Love it.
- Oh, it smells good.
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- Um, these
are your creations.
- Oh, my gosh.
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- Our creations.
- Yeah!
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Mmm, so good.
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- Yes, baby. Found a menu.
- I love that [bleep].
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It's a little rocky.
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Watch your step.
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I'm an expert.
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I could walk this
even with high heels,
trust me.
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Ever since I came to Panama
Jasmine and I's relationship
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has kinda been up and down.
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But I feel like Jasmine and I
are making progress
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on this trip to Boquete.
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- Look at this waterfall.
- I love it.
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- This is beautiful.
- Yes!
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Look at it.
Oh, my gosh.
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I could take a shower in that.
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- The water is cold.
- Get me some soap.
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Things are going very well.
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But when I think about
our next step
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for her to move to Michigan,
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I know there's some things
we still have to resolve
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like the issues Jasmine has
with my family.
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Be careful over here.
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So, um, we didn't
have a chance
to call Dana yesterday,
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so I wanna call him today...
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...so that we can
speak to him.
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Why don't we find some rocks
and have a squat, and...
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How does that sound?
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Okay.
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I've been very mad
ever since Gino's cousin,
who I have never met,
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send me a very ugly
and hurtful message
on social media
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questioning my love for Gino.
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So, Gino wants me
to talk to his cousin
to resolve this issue.
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Don't show me immediately,
you first.
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Shh.
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Because at the end of the day
I... I want them to like me
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because I know
that Gino's family's
important for him.
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But at the same time
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It's very hard for me
to control my mouth.
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Whoa, Dana, what's up?
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How are you doing?
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I'm doing...
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Can you see
I'm in the great outdoors?
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Uh, Western Panama.
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Awesome, yeah.
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So, um,
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anyway, I have Jasmine here.
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Um...
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Hi.
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So, uh, so, Dana, you know,
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uh, you remember the message
you sent to Jasmine about,
you know...
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Yeah. So you didn't
mean anything by it
which I...
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That's what, you know...
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Dana, so...
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what... What do you mean?
Like, what kind of doubts
you have?
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Like, the way, see, yeah,
and I don't mean to be rude
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it's, like, the only person
I have to prove
my love is real is to Gino.
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Just for the record,
I do love Gino.
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Like, yes, we have
had arguments, but,
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You know, it's not like
Gino is an innocent baby
and I'm like the bad bitch.
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I don't feel like
Dana's apology is sincere.
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He's just saying it
because Gino's there.
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But the way he really
feels toward me is that...
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Well, thanks
for taking the time
to talk to us.
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Uh...
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And I'm glad
you and Jasmine
were able to, you know,
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uh, work out some stuff.
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I was hoping
that Dana and Jasmine
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could resolve
their differences today.
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But it seems like Jasmine
is not going to let this go.
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Okay. Bye.
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Bye, Dana.
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- All right, guys.
- Oops.
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Oh, [bleep].
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I just Jasmine to understand
that my family
is very important to me.
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And now that she's about
to move to Michigan with me,
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I just want them to get along
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because I don't wanna be
in the situation where
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I have to choose
between my family and Jasmine.
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That would be,
you know, devastating.
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I'm struggling to understand
where you stand.
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I'm feeling very nervous
about confronting Christian.
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Why would I have sex
with you last night,
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and then lie?
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But you kind of did.
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I... Because I'm...
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Okay, look, I...
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I'm nervous
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just not knowing
what's gonna happen
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and what might come
from this meeting.
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Even though she's not the face
I've been talking to,
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it's the face that I loved.
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Oh, man.
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I feel like even the fact
that you're there
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will just make me feel
more at ease.
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We are heading to the B and B.
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And I'm still feeling
really upset.
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You know, Christian and I
had sex last night.
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And we agreed to talk about it
the next day.
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But this morning, he lied,
and he told the producers
that we didn't go all the way.
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For him to now lie about it
and say that never happened,
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I'm wondering
is he embarrassed or ashamed
to have sex with me?
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It feels like a betrayal.
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Um, I'm feeling
extremely deflated.
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This morning I sent
a message to Cleo
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kind of explaining
what I told the producers
regarding our intimacy.
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And then she called me
on her way to class,
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and was really upset.
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She called me a manipulator.
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She called me a gaslighter.
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She asked me
if I was a psychopath.
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And I mean, the first thing
I said was, like...
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..."do you even know me?"
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It's just extremely upsetting
that something that I feel
is a very small situation
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that would be remedied
with just some communication
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has really blown out
of proportion.
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I'm not in a relationship
with somebody
to be anxious all the time,
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waiting on them to decide
whether or not I'm
an evil person,
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or here for ulterior motives.
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I need to talk about things
because I can't go on
feeling like this.
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Do you wanna, like,
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- just make yourself
comfortable?
- Sure.
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Um, Christian.
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Hello.
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This is my friend Jane.
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- Um, sorry, you're meeting
in such an awkward situation.
- Hey, Jane.
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- Nice to meet you.
- Hey.
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Yeah, obviously,
it's not ideal.
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Um, you two have probably
been talking,
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and it's... I feel like
I'm not necessarily getting
a fair shake.
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Uh, but, uh, yeah.
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I'm feeling very nervous
about confronting Christian.
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Being autistic,
I definitely thrive on
emotional consistency
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when it comes to commitment.
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And because Christian
has gone back so much
on his words,
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I do need
the emotional support
of a friend.
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- This one's yours.
- Oh, thank you.
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So, I don't feel
really great right now.
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So, like,
I don't know how well
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I'll be able to articulate
what I think.
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Um, last night
we had been intimate,
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and you make it like
such a big important part
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of us going forward
as a couple.
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And the next day
you suddenly change your tune,
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and you lie.
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I'm struggling to understand
where you stand.
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Okay, um...
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...when I messaged you
this morning,
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and asked you
what did you say,
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I wanted to double check
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because I'm not sure
if you might have
felt uncomfortable
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and not have said anything
about last night.
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I told you that I was
perfectly happy
with being open.
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What leads you to think
that I would change my mind
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when I've never ever not stuck
to what I said to you?
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Um, I, because,
253
00:19:36,586 --> 00:19:39,965
See, I was trying to avoid
a situation like this where...
254
00:19:39,965 --> 00:19:43,482
But you've created
this situation.
255
00:19:43,482 --> 00:19:47,896
I mean, why would I have sex
with you last night
and express those feelings,
256
00:19:47,896 --> 00:19:49,379
and then lie?
257
00:19:49,379 --> 00:19:51,310
- But you kind of did.
- But you kind of did.
258
00:19:51,310 --> 00:19:53,034
But I didn't, not in my mind.
259
00:19:58,068 --> 00:20:00,206
I think Christian
is trying to save his face.
260
00:20:00,206 --> 00:20:02,103
Uh, I think
he just got caught, uh,
261
00:20:02,103 --> 00:20:05,482
and... and he just was trying
to find an excuse.
262
00:20:05,482 --> 00:20:10,000
And I feel that's
partially the reason
why he's so defensive.
263
00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:14,275
I am not sure if Christian
is confident to date
a transgender woman.
264
00:20:14,275 --> 00:20:18,172
The only reason why
he basically admitted
that he had sex with Cleo
265
00:20:18,172 --> 00:20:20,379
is because he was
challenged by her.
266
00:20:22,793 --> 00:20:24,068
I'm...
267
00:20:24,068 --> 00:20:27,758
Okay, look, I...
I feel really grouped up on.
268
00:20:29,172 --> 00:20:32,586
It feels very uneven,
the fact there's two of you
and there's only one of me.
269
00:20:32,586 --> 00:20:34,000
I feel, like,
really on the spot.
270
00:20:36,206 --> 00:20:38,000
Jane, would it be all right
if, you know,
271
00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,379
you just went out of the room
for a little bit while
Cleo and I talked?
272
00:20:42,206 --> 00:20:43,896
- Would you mind?
- Sure.
273
00:20:43,896 --> 00:20:44,965
I appreciate that.
Thank you.
274
00:20:44,965 --> 00:20:46,034
I'm gonna go then.
275
00:20:50,896 --> 00:20:52,586
I am being defensive.
276
00:20:52,586 --> 00:20:56,379
Like, between the two of them
both chiming in,
277
00:20:56,379 --> 00:20:58,379
it's very uncomfortable.
278
00:20:58,379 --> 00:21:00,793
I just want the opportunity
to talk to Cleo one on one
279
00:21:00,793 --> 00:21:04,689
because I feel like
now she's not giving me
the benefit of the doubt
280
00:21:04,689 --> 00:21:06,965
and it's really
leaving me thinking,
281
00:21:06,965 --> 00:21:09,655
"Is this even a relationship
that I can be in anymore?"
282
00:21:42,275 --> 00:21:43,517
Oh, man.
283
00:21:47,275 --> 00:21:50,448
I can't believe
that I'm finally meeting
the real Carmella.
284
00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,172
I need to find out
if she has anything to do
with this whole scam
285
00:21:56,172 --> 00:21:58,034
with Christian and Barbados.
286
00:21:59,793 --> 00:22:02,310
And after what
I've been through,
I can't trust anything
287
00:22:02,310 --> 00:22:04,068
unless I see it with
my own two eyes.
288
00:22:04,068 --> 00:22:06,482
So confronting
Carmella in person,
289
00:22:06,482 --> 00:22:10,344
I can get a read of her
to see if she is lying or not.
290
00:22:15,793 --> 00:22:19,482
I'm nervous just not knowing
what's going to happen
291
00:22:19,482 --> 00:22:23,000
or what might come
from this meeting, you know.
292
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,551
Even though she's not
the face I've been talking to,
293
00:22:26,103 --> 00:22:27,344
it's the face I loved.
294
00:22:51,965 --> 00:22:55,655
Hold on. Let me put
my glasses on.
295
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,758
I'm Tyray. Nice to meet you.
296
00:23:04,310 --> 00:23:05,551
Oh.
297
00:23:13,482 --> 00:23:15,068
Okay.
298
00:23:15,068 --> 00:23:17,241
- So, how you doing?
- All right.
299
00:23:21,689 --> 00:23:22,758
So...
300
00:23:26,793 --> 00:23:28,413
Another version.
301
00:23:28,413 --> 00:23:30,551
This is weird, I'm sorry.
I know...
302
00:23:31,103 --> 00:23:32,551
It's okay. I feel the same.
303
00:23:37,275 --> 00:23:40,862
Seeing the real Carmella
in person was a mind [bleep] .
304
00:23:43,206 --> 00:23:46,206
To see her, like,
in the flesh, I'm like...
305
00:23:46,206 --> 00:23:48,172
Dumbfounded.
I'm like, "Oh, my God."
306
00:23:50,206 --> 00:23:53,206
She's dressed nice.
She's got her nails done.
307
00:23:53,206 --> 00:23:55,931
She looks, you know,
even better than the photos.
308
00:23:57,103 --> 00:23:59,965
This is the person
I was in love with
for four years
309
00:23:59,965 --> 00:24:01,655
but at the same time,
it's not her.
310
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,379
And it's hurtful, you know,
to know that.
311
00:24:09,310 --> 00:24:11,172
I don't even know
where to start.
312
00:24:11,172 --> 00:24:13,103
I bet it was weird
for you, right?
313
00:24:13,103 --> 00:24:17,482
I mean, you said you met
on a dating app, right?
314
00:24:17,482 --> 00:24:18,793
Yeah.
315
00:24:18,793 --> 00:24:21,000
Just the whole thing
as crazy, right?
316
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:24,482
I was on this dating site
and I met this girl,
317
00:24:24,482 --> 00:24:26,172
and she kind of like
came on to me
318
00:24:26,172 --> 00:24:28,310
and I thought it was weird,
'cause usually girls don't
really do that, you know?
319
00:24:28,310 --> 00:24:30,310
- Mmm-hmm.
- And then she was telling
me like what she wanted
320
00:24:30,310 --> 00:24:33,068
to do with her life,
that she wanted to,
like, model,
321
00:24:33,068 --> 00:24:35,896
and then, like, travelling,
and then, like, she wasn't
really my type
322
00:24:35,896 --> 00:24:38,896
and then I felt like we got
a mental connection too.
323
00:24:38,896 --> 00:24:40,689
She said she lived in Barbados
324
00:24:40,689 --> 00:24:42,413
and, like, I never seen proof
though either,
325
00:24:42,413 --> 00:24:45,000
but we were chatting
for four years
326
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,862
then I found out
she was actually
a man named Christian
327
00:24:47,862 --> 00:24:49,448
and he was using
your pictures.
328
00:24:50,172 --> 00:24:51,586
It's crazy.
329
00:24:53,793 --> 00:24:57,413
I do kind of feel stuck
about the situation,
about, like, everything,
330
00:24:57,413 --> 00:24:59,586
and, like,
coming here was like,
331
00:24:59,586 --> 00:25:01,896
"Dang, it's gonna be hard
to see, you know, to see you."
332
00:25:01,896 --> 00:25:05,172
Because I was, like,
in a relationship with
the image of you,
333
00:25:05,172 --> 00:25:07,482
so it's like...
It's just so hard.
334
00:25:09,586 --> 00:25:11,068
Mmm-hmm.
335
00:25:14,586 --> 00:25:17,965
Carmella is nice,
but she does seem
a little uncomfortable.
336
00:25:19,206 --> 00:25:22,896
Maybe she knows,
but not saying anything
and she has a little guilt.
337
00:25:22,896 --> 00:25:25,344
That's why she's acting
the way she's acting.
338
00:25:27,310 --> 00:25:28,482
So, I have a question.
339
00:25:31,172 --> 00:25:33,000
This is weird.
I'm sorry, but...
340
00:25:33,896 --> 00:25:35,551
You don't have anything
to do with this, right?
341
00:25:37,689 --> 00:25:39,689
Oh.
342
00:25:39,689 --> 00:25:42,551
You don't, like, know anybody
named Christian from Barbados?
343
00:25:47,068 --> 00:25:50,586
Hi!
Happy Valentine's Day.
344
00:25:50,586 --> 00:25:53,172
No one's ever spoiled me
the way Statler is tonight.
345
00:25:54,068 --> 00:25:56,275
But Statler can be
pretty intense,
346
00:25:56,275 --> 00:25:59,862
so it does worry me
that she might have
something else planned.
347
00:25:59,862 --> 00:26:02,413
I have like a month
until my lease is up,
348
00:26:02,413 --> 00:26:04,551
and I'm not planning
on renewing it.
349
00:26:20,793 --> 00:26:21,965
Statler?
350
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,172
"I hope you've had
a fabulous day.
Let's have some fun.
351
00:26:34,172 --> 00:26:37,862
Your first clue
is in the field
outside your front door.
352
00:26:39,793 --> 00:26:41,413
XOXO, Statler."
353
00:26:50,068 --> 00:26:51,689
Today's Valentine's Day.
354
00:26:51,689 --> 00:26:55,000
I come home from work.
Statler's not in.
355
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,620
And she's surprised me
with a scavenger hunt.
356
00:26:58,655 --> 00:27:00,689
I've no idea how
she pulled this off
357
00:27:00,689 --> 00:27:03,379
being that we've been
together 24-7,
358
00:27:03,379 --> 00:27:07,689
and we're out in the middle
of nowhere and she doesn't
know this area well.
359
00:27:07,689 --> 00:27:10,758
I think it's the most
romantic thing anybody
has ever done for me.
360
00:27:11,655 --> 00:27:13,137
In the field?
361
00:27:14,344 --> 00:27:15,448
Ah, found it.
362
00:27:21,241 --> 00:27:23,965
Yeah, you're cute.
You stay there. Stay.
363
00:27:28,551 --> 00:27:33,448
"Good job finding clue two.
Don't open your gift."
364
00:27:33,448 --> 00:27:37,448
"But bring it with you.
You're next clue is with
the wood in a bag.
365
00:27:37,448 --> 00:27:40,068
Go to it, you should."
'Kay.
366
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:54,344
Right.
367
00:27:55,655 --> 00:27:59,344
"Meet me out under
the stars and grab
your warmest clothes.
368
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,689
I want to kiss you
in the dark and roast
some marshmallows.
369
00:28:03,689 --> 00:28:07,137
You are all I desire.
So hurry to the fire."
370
00:28:09,793 --> 00:28:12,965
I didn't know that
she would do something
like this.
371
00:28:14,241 --> 00:28:16,137
The unknown
is making me nervous.
372
00:28:17,551 --> 00:28:19,034
I hope it's not a proposal.
373
00:28:19,793 --> 00:28:21,137
That would be too soon.
374
00:28:35,655 --> 00:28:38,068
All right. Looks like
there's fire so far.
375
00:28:38,551 --> 00:28:40,344
I'm feeling pretty nervous.
376
00:28:40,344 --> 00:28:42,586
Telling someone I want
to move here.
377
00:28:42,586 --> 00:28:43,965
I want to move in with you.
378
00:28:44,586 --> 00:28:45,862
I want to live with you.
379
00:28:46,689 --> 00:28:48,344
For ever and ever and then...
380
00:28:50,172 --> 00:28:51,517
She might not agree to that.
381
00:28:54,448 --> 00:28:57,793
Being here in person
with Dempsey this past week
382
00:28:57,793 --> 00:29:00,551
has been absolutely amazing.
383
00:29:00,551 --> 00:29:03,448
In my heart, I know
I'm ready to move in with her
384
00:29:03,448 --> 00:29:05,275
because of the way
she makes me feel.
385
00:29:05,275 --> 00:29:07,620
I feel happier than
I've ever felt before.
386
00:29:09,793 --> 00:29:11,551
I feel like
I'm at a rose ceremony.
387
00:29:12,379 --> 00:29:14,896
I want to talk about
our future now
388
00:29:14,896 --> 00:29:17,241
because I don't want
to wait any longer
389
00:29:17,241 --> 00:29:19,655
to find out if she feels
the same way.
390
00:29:19,655 --> 00:29:23,482
But if she says
she isn't ready,
it would really suck.
391
00:29:23,482 --> 00:29:27,241
Because it might mean
things aren't going as well
as I think they are.
392
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:36,551
- Hi.
- Hi.
393
00:29:36,551 --> 00:29:39,413
- Happy Valentine's Day.
- Happy Valentine's.
394
00:29:42,586 --> 00:29:44,551
- Are those for me?
- Here. These are for you.
395
00:29:44,551 --> 00:29:46,655
But I'll hold them
because they have
a lot of thorns.
396
00:29:46,655 --> 00:29:48,448
So you're the thorn
to my rose?
397
00:29:48,448 --> 00:29:50,655
Yeah, I am the thorn
to your rose.
398
00:29:50,655 --> 00:29:53,241
- Do you want to sit down?
- Yeah.
399
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,310
- For you.
- Thank you.
400
00:29:56,068 --> 00:29:58,379
These are
the pomegranate drinks.
401
00:29:58,379 --> 00:30:00,724
- Feel free to chug
or cheers. Yep.
- Cheers.
402
00:30:07,655 --> 00:30:08,758
You're drinking fast.
403
00:30:09,448 --> 00:30:11,551
Um...
404
00:30:11,551 --> 00:30:14,068
- Are you okay?
- Yeah, it's a good...
It's a good. Yeah.
405
00:30:14,068 --> 00:30:17,068
- Yeah.
- First Valentine's Day.
A big day. Yeah.
406
00:30:26,068 --> 00:30:27,379
- Whoa, girl.
- I know.
407
00:30:27,379 --> 00:30:29,344
- Steady on.
- Steady on.
408
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,586
So, yeah, go ahead.
Feel free to open your, uh...
409
00:30:34,586 --> 00:30:36,724
My stuff.
410
00:30:40,793 --> 00:30:42,586
Oh, I see!
411
00:30:42,586 --> 00:30:44,551
- What is it?
- Jewelry.
412
00:30:44,551 --> 00:30:47,068
They're mushroom earrings
that are made from mushrooms.
413
00:30:47,068 --> 00:30:50,241
I brought it all the way
from Dallas.
414
00:30:50,241 --> 00:30:52,655
- Oh, there we go.
- Oh, there it is.
415
00:30:52,655 --> 00:30:55,448
- I know you like mushrooms.
- I do.
416
00:30:56,241 --> 00:30:57,689
They're so cute.
417
00:30:57,689 --> 00:30:59,965
- Yeah, they're cute.
- Yeah. Thank you.
418
00:31:05,586 --> 00:31:08,310
No one's
ever smiled at me
the way Statler is tonight.
419
00:31:09,344 --> 00:31:10,965
It makes me feel special.
420
00:31:11,448 --> 00:31:12,862
Yeah, I feel very special.
421
00:31:14,344 --> 00:31:16,551
But Statler can be
pretty intense
422
00:31:16,551 --> 00:31:19,344
so it does worry me
that she might have
something else planned.
423
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:22,448
You're a bit sticky.
424
00:31:22,793 --> 00:31:23,965
Yeah.
425
00:31:24,793 --> 00:31:26,448
Understatement
of the year.
426
00:31:32,655 --> 00:31:34,344
Oh, wow.
I think I broke a tooth.
427
00:31:35,172 --> 00:31:36,620
I think I broke a tooth.
428
00:31:36,620 --> 00:31:38,172
- What do you mean
you've broken a tooth?
- Am I bleeding?
429
00:31:38,172 --> 00:31:39,896
Is there blood?
430
00:31:39,896 --> 00:31:41,517
No?
431
00:31:42,241 --> 00:31:43,448
No.
432
00:31:45,068 --> 00:31:46,206
Mmm.
433
00:31:46,793 --> 00:31:47,965
Um...
434
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,620
So I brought you here today
435
00:31:51,344 --> 00:31:53,724
- because
it's Valentine's Day...
- Yeah.
436
00:31:54,896 --> 00:31:58,068
...and I...
My feelings for you
have increased.
437
00:31:59,068 --> 00:32:01,482
You know, I wasn't expecting
things to go this well.
438
00:32:01,482 --> 00:32:05,551
They were going really well
over texts and video chat.
439
00:32:05,551 --> 00:32:06,689
Mmm-hmm.
440
00:32:06,689 --> 00:32:09,896
And then, you know, in person,
I just expected you to,
441
00:32:09,896 --> 00:32:12,620
you know, not be
as amazing as you are.
442
00:32:13,275 --> 00:32:14,413
And...
443
00:32:20,172 --> 00:32:21,344
I love you.
444
00:32:27,379 --> 00:32:28,620
Yeah, I also love you.
445
00:32:30,896 --> 00:32:33,068
- Are you serious?
You're sure?
- I'm serious.
446
00:32:33,068 --> 00:32:34,551
- Yeah.
- Like 100%?
447
00:32:35,793 --> 00:32:36,862
100%.
448
00:32:39,448 --> 00:32:41,551
- Wow, that's...
- Cool.
449
00:32:41,551 --> 00:32:43,551
- That's romantic.
- It's so romantic.
450
00:32:43,551 --> 00:32:45,241
- It's really romantic.
- Yeah.
451
00:32:50,896 --> 00:32:55,551
Since we've reached the, uh...
"I love you, you love me."
452
00:32:56,344 --> 00:32:57,448
'Cause, like...
453
00:32:58,379 --> 00:33:00,172
You know, I get home
from England
454
00:33:00,172 --> 00:33:02,620
and I have like a month
until my lease is up.
455
00:33:04,068 --> 00:33:06,655
And I'm not planning
on renewing it.
456
00:33:09,551 --> 00:33:11,344
So I think, like,
the next step is, like...
457
00:33:12,344 --> 00:33:14,137
Me moving to England.
458
00:33:15,896 --> 00:33:18,965
Maybe like
move in with you.
459
00:36:47,344 --> 00:36:48,551
That's why you
become stronger.
460
00:38:21,862 --> 00:38:23,965
How much is your salary?
461
00:38:33,241 --> 00:38:34,344
Oh!
462
00:39:37,379 --> 00:39:38,448
Okay.
463
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:46,310
Uh, labor, yeah.
464
00:41:05,034 --> 00:41:09,551
$1,725 and 15 cents.
465
00:41:56,344 --> 00:41:57,310
Oh?
466
00:42:00,137 --> 00:42:01,310
Like, for example...
467
00:42:04,896 --> 00:42:07,103
I don't know.
Let's not speculate.
468
00:42:29,586 --> 00:42:32,758
Oh, look.
This is a like a stove.
469
00:42:35,172 --> 00:42:37,241
Your grandfather had
a stove like this?
470
00:42:38,172 --> 00:42:39,827
That's so cool.
471
00:42:40,758 --> 00:42:42,172
Look at that little heart!
472
00:42:43,344 --> 00:42:45,862
I really want to go with
Amanda to Bran Castle
473
00:42:45,862 --> 00:42:49,172
because it's the castle
of Dracula
474
00:42:49,172 --> 00:42:51,862
and it's a very
beautiful place.
475
00:42:51,862 --> 00:42:54,068
Um, I mean Dracula's castle...
476
00:42:54,896 --> 00:42:57,620
It doesn't scream
romance to me.
477
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,551
It's like a urban legend
based off of a king
478
00:43:01,551 --> 00:43:08,758
that's lived in this castle
and he would, like,
do really horrible things.
479
00:43:08,758 --> 00:43:14,448
But I think it's romantic,
just the idea and the thought
that Razvan put into it.
480
00:43:18,482 --> 00:43:20,655
Stop it!
481
00:43:21,344 --> 00:43:23,344
Oh, look at this
torture chamber.
482
00:43:29,793 --> 00:43:30,965
Oh, look at this.
483
00:43:32,965 --> 00:43:35,586
Oh. Yeah!
484
00:43:35,586 --> 00:43:37,620
So you sit here and you have
to tell me the truth.
485
00:43:45,586 --> 00:43:47,241
I always answer.
486
00:43:57,482 --> 00:44:00,172
Do you think that's
an interrogation question?
487
00:44:02,655 --> 00:44:06,172
Yesterday, Razvan got
approved for the tourist visa.
488
00:44:11,482 --> 00:44:12,827
Like, it doesn't seem real.
489
00:44:13,896 --> 00:44:15,000
Yeah.
490
00:44:16,172 --> 00:44:19,103
Seeing him so happy
just makes me happy,
491
00:44:19,103 --> 00:44:21,068
but also in the back
of my mind,
492
00:44:21,068 --> 00:44:25,758
I'm still not 100% sure
about him coming
to the US so soon.
493
00:44:36,758 --> 00:44:40,241
I will tell my children
when I feel like
they are ready.
494
00:44:43,586 --> 00:44:44,724
I don't know.
495
00:44:53,586 --> 00:44:56,275
I'm not asking you
like exactly.
496
00:44:56,275 --> 00:44:59,758
I have no idea when
my children will be ready
497
00:44:59,758 --> 00:45:01,103
'cause I haven't spoken
with them yet.
498
00:45:01,103 --> 00:45:05,275
And it probably
will be emotional for them.
499
00:45:10,862 --> 00:45:12,965
Exactly, I don't know.
500
00:45:12,965 --> 00:45:15,448
But I want them to be
100% themselves.
501
00:45:24,655 --> 00:45:27,172
I mean, that could
be a possibility
that they say that.
502
00:45:35,655 --> 00:45:36,758
I don't know.
503
00:45:39,793 --> 00:45:40,931
Let's no speculate.
504
00:45:45,103 --> 00:45:47,655
I don't know.
I don't know.
We'll have to see.
505
00:45:55,655 --> 00:45:57,655
Let's look and see
what's in here.
506
00:45:59,379 --> 00:46:02,758
I understand now that
he has the visa,
507
00:46:02,758 --> 00:46:05,655
he wants to know the answers
to these questions.
508
00:46:05,655 --> 00:46:10,068
But I've never had
to figure out the proper way
509
00:46:10,068 --> 00:46:13,793
to introduce a new romantic
partner to my children.
510
00:46:13,793 --> 00:46:16,379
And I feel like with Razvan
being so pushy
511
00:46:16,379 --> 00:46:20,000
and not being
so understanding
with that aspect of it,
512
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,862
he's making it
more difficult for me
513
00:46:21,862 --> 00:46:25,068
when it's already
an extremely difficult
situation to begin with.
514
00:46:29,172 --> 00:46:31,000
You didn't even
come in here yet.
515
00:46:34,689 --> 00:46:37,379
My choices on waiting
to tell my kids,
516
00:46:37,379 --> 00:46:38,758
it has nothing to do with you.
517
00:46:38,758 --> 00:46:42,275
So, the fact you still
don't understand, like...
518
00:46:43,344 --> 00:46:44,448
Okay.
519
00:46:52,862 --> 00:46:56,000
Baby, I'm scared of losing you
520
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:57,241
because of your family.
521
00:46:58,689 --> 00:47:00,448
What would you do
if they hate me?
522
00:47:01,586 --> 00:47:03,862
Have a conversation
and try to work
it out with them.
523
00:47:03,862 --> 00:47:06,103
And you will defend me?
524
00:47:06,103 --> 00:47:10,000
Well, I mean, like, I'd have
to see what happened
and who said what.
525
00:47:22,793 --> 00:47:25,172
Maybe you think
she wants your money?
526
00:47:42,896 --> 00:47:43,965
Baby...
527
00:47:51,551 --> 00:47:54,896
I feel that the conversation
between Jasmine
528
00:47:54,896 --> 00:47:58,551
and my cousin, Dana,
could've gone a little
bit better.
529
00:47:58,551 --> 00:48:02,275
The good news is that
Jasmine didn't blow up
or anything,
530
00:48:02,275 --> 00:48:05,862
but at the same time,
she didn't try to make
amends either.
531
00:48:07,310 --> 00:48:10,241
So since things are going
good between us on this trip,
532
00:48:10,241 --> 00:48:15,310
this is the moment I wanna
address a few concerns
with Jasmine
533
00:48:15,310 --> 00:48:17,620
because I don't want
to do it when things are bad.
534
00:48:17,620 --> 00:48:19,862
I want to do it
when things are good.
535
00:48:24,793 --> 00:48:27,344
Aww!
536
00:48:27,896 --> 00:48:29,103
Yeah, I love it.
537
00:48:29,689 --> 00:48:31,620
You're ready?
538
00:48:31,620 --> 00:48:36,344
Yeah, but I wanted...
I wanted to ask you something.
539
00:48:41,172 --> 00:48:45,620
I know you, you know, like,
after the conversation
with Dana,
540
00:48:45,620 --> 00:48:49,241
I'm happy that you
and him were able to talk.
541
00:48:52,172 --> 00:48:55,034
But one of the things
I hope you...
542
00:48:56,241 --> 00:48:59,310
...try harder and try
to work on is
543
00:48:59,310 --> 00:49:01,620
there's been times
you were saying a lot of...
544
00:49:03,137 --> 00:49:06,448
...not so nice things
about my family and stuff.
545
00:49:06,448 --> 00:49:08,793
And that my family
should be less involved
in my life.
546
00:49:11,551 --> 00:49:15,034
And I... I just wish
you wouldn't
do that anymore.
547
00:49:16,413 --> 00:49:18,068
You know, my family's
a part of my life,
548
00:49:18,068 --> 00:49:20,137
and that's not going
to change for me.
549
00:49:23,068 --> 00:49:27,448
I just wanted to let you know
if, you know, it bothers me,
550
00:49:27,448 --> 00:49:31,310
- just have
a positive attitude--
- Okay, yes.
551
00:49:31,310 --> 00:49:34,241
But I'm sorry.
I'm working on that.
552
00:49:35,551 --> 00:49:39,310
It's my anxiety.
My anger issues.
553
00:49:40,034 --> 00:49:43,137
It's hard to handle,
and I feel that...
554
00:49:45,724 --> 00:49:46,793
It's just that...
555
00:49:50,068 --> 00:49:51,758
Why would you do
if they hate me?
556
00:49:55,344 --> 00:49:57,137
- They're not going
to hate you. I know my--
- But what...
557
00:49:57,137 --> 00:49:59,896
Give me an example
what would you do
if they hate me
558
00:49:59,896 --> 00:50:01,551
even if that never happens.
559
00:50:01,551 --> 00:50:02,965
What will you do?
560
00:50:04,793 --> 00:50:06,172
I would talk to them.
561
00:50:06,172 --> 00:50:09,310
Uh, and ask them why
they feel the way they feel,
562
00:50:09,310 --> 00:50:11,793
and have a conversation
and try to work it out
with them--
563
00:50:11,793 --> 00:50:14,172
And you will defend me?
564
00:50:14,172 --> 00:50:17,965
Well, I mean, like,
I'd have to see what happens
and who says what.
565
00:50:23,137 --> 00:50:25,448
Don't worry about it. No.
566
00:50:25,448 --> 00:50:29,344
I'm scared
of losing you
because of your family.
567
00:50:30,620 --> 00:50:31,862
No.
568
00:50:34,275 --> 00:50:36,620
No. You shouldn't
be scared like that.
569
00:50:38,137 --> 00:50:40,896
No, I haven't even been
to the United States,
570
00:50:40,896 --> 00:50:44,586
and I just managed to make
your family hate me.
571
00:50:45,551 --> 00:50:46,896
No, my family
doesn't hate you.
572
00:50:46,896 --> 00:50:50,793
And I'm scared
that they're gonna hate me
because I know myself.
573
00:50:50,793 --> 00:50:54,758
I'm... I'm so
unstable emotionally.
574
00:50:57,551 --> 00:51:00,689
I cannot manage
my stupid anxiety.
575
00:51:04,310 --> 00:51:06,448
I know it's a problem I have.
576
00:51:06,448 --> 00:51:08,241
It has happened my whole life.
577
00:51:08,241 --> 00:51:13,068
Every time I feel insecure,
or threatened by people,
578
00:51:13,068 --> 00:51:18,068
my way to deal with it
is I put this shield
579
00:51:18,068 --> 00:51:21,068
by hurting them more
580
00:51:21,068 --> 00:51:25,068
than the pain
they are causing to me
at that moment.
581
00:51:25,068 --> 00:51:29,172
But then I regret
what I said because I hurt
people that I love
582
00:51:29,172 --> 00:51:33,241
and that I care about
and then it's like
double pain for me.
583
00:51:34,068 --> 00:51:36,275
It is a cycle
that I'm trying to break
584
00:51:36,275 --> 00:51:39,793
because that's sabotaging
my relationship with Gino
585
00:51:39,793 --> 00:51:43,793
because of my insecurities
is not doing any good
to my life.
586
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,206
Baby, you're the only man
on Earth
587
00:51:49,172 --> 00:51:51,965
that has kept up
with all my [bleep].
588
00:51:55,344 --> 00:51:57,620
Yeah, I told you.
I'm in this 100%.
589
00:51:57,620 --> 00:51:59,965
Like, you're not going
to be able to get rid of me.
590
00:52:01,724 --> 00:52:04,034
But, yeah, my family.
They're important to me.
591
00:52:04,034 --> 00:52:07,448
You should be excited
to meet my family.
592
00:52:07,448 --> 00:52:09,137
Not threatened.
593
00:52:10,793 --> 00:52:14,379
So I just want you
to work on that, if you can.
594
00:52:15,724 --> 00:52:16,862
Can you try?
595
00:52:18,793 --> 00:52:21,103
I'm gonna work on it.
Baby, I promise.
596
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,379
Thank you so much
for being honest.
597
00:53:27,793 --> 00:53:30,137
Hi, ma'am. Hi, sir.
Welcome to Barcode.
598
00:53:30,137 --> 00:53:31,413
What do you want to drink?
599
00:53:34,275 --> 00:53:35,689
He wants beer.
600
00:53:35,689 --> 00:53:37,965
Okay, how about you, ma'am?
601
00:53:58,793 --> 00:54:02,482
She said, "What do you
think about this bar?"
602
00:54:19,413 --> 00:54:21,241
She said,
"There are many girls."
603
00:55:09,034 --> 00:55:10,137
Topic.
604
00:55:21,793 --> 00:55:24,034
For the fixing of the house,
605
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,034
so how will you get the money?
606
00:56:00,413 --> 00:56:02,241
She said,
"It's really hard.
607
00:56:02,241 --> 00:56:05,724
Because she has no work
and you have work.
608
00:56:05,724 --> 00:56:09,000
Then for the payment
and the cost, it's too much."
609
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:11,758
She's so shy
about asking for it.
610
00:57:05,034 --> 00:57:08,689
If you can't afford,
don't force it.
611
00:57:26,620 --> 00:57:29,965
Maybe you think
she wants your money?
612
00:57:40,448 --> 00:57:42,344
You're having thoughts?
613
00:57:49,344 --> 00:57:53,034
"I am not
want your money."
614
00:57:58,689 --> 00:58:02,275
I don't want
David thinking that
I aim to his money.
615
00:58:02,275 --> 00:58:05,172
I am seeing him
because of money.
616
00:58:05,172 --> 00:58:12,000
But I'm realizing that David
doesn't have the money
to support me and Jhonreil
617
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:17,758
and I have so many
questions about our future.
618
00:58:45,172 --> 00:58:46,896
You seem very upset.
619
00:58:46,896 --> 00:58:49,551
I'm very upset.
This is very upsetting.
620
00:58:49,551 --> 00:58:52,724
I'm terrified that this
could be the last straw
for our relationship.
621
00:58:52,724 --> 00:58:54,517
This is the thing.
So, now you're
questioning me
622
00:58:54,517 --> 00:58:55,896
when I'm telling you
the truth.
623
00:58:55,896 --> 00:58:58,551
I kind of feel like
we're going 'round in circles.
624
00:58:58,551 --> 00:59:02,620
I did not ever, ever feel bad
about being transparent
625
00:59:02,620 --> 00:59:03,896
about our intimacy.
Ever!
626
00:59:21,103 --> 00:59:23,862
All right.
I want to tell
you my side of things.
627
00:59:23,862 --> 00:59:26,413
Can I just please
have like an opportunity
to like explain?
628
00:59:27,448 --> 00:59:28,551
Okay.
629
00:59:29,379 --> 00:59:30,862
I was trying
to double check with you
630
00:59:30,862 --> 00:59:33,551
before I said anything
that would have made
you uncomfortable.
631
00:59:33,551 --> 00:59:36,379
But when we were on the phone,
you didn't really
let me speak,
632
00:59:36,379 --> 00:59:39,931
and you were just telling me,
"You're such a gaslighter.
You're such a manipulator.
633
00:59:39,931 --> 00:59:41,344
Are you a psychopath?"
634
00:59:41,344 --> 00:59:43,620
I did not say,
"Are you a psychopath?"
I said...
635
00:59:46,103 --> 00:59:47,551
Two different people.
636
00:59:48,758 --> 00:59:50,724
When you say
something like that,
637
00:59:50,724 --> 00:59:53,103
it makes me feel like
no matter what I say,
638
00:59:53,103 --> 00:59:55,931
you're going to think
I'm saying something
in order to...
639
00:59:56,758 --> 00:59:59,241
manipulate you
or gaslight you.
640
00:59:59,241 --> 01:00:01,482
I mean, I'm not going
to be in a relationship
641
01:00:01,482 --> 01:00:03,551
with someone that calls me
these types of things.
642
01:00:03,551 --> 01:00:07,482
I'm sorry that I did not
filter myself,
643
01:00:07,482 --> 01:00:09,379
but I was very upset.
644
01:00:09,379 --> 01:00:11,655
I still struggle to understand
645
01:00:11,655 --> 01:00:16,206
why you would hide
that we had been intimate.
646
01:00:16,206 --> 01:00:19,241
I honestly felt, "Oh,
maybe he's not ready
647
01:00:19,241 --> 01:00:24,931
to be dating somebody
that is transgender
and doing it publicly."
648
01:00:24,931 --> 01:00:26,931
I could care about
what society thinks.
649
01:00:27,862 --> 01:00:30,448
I let for a brief moment
what my family thought
650
01:00:30,448 --> 01:00:32,827
influence me for a very
short time.
651
01:00:34,206 --> 01:00:35,862
I'm giving you the truth here.
652
01:00:35,862 --> 01:00:37,758
And this is the thing.
So now you're questioning me
653
01:00:37,758 --> 01:00:39,551
when I'm telling you
the truth.
654
01:00:44,551 --> 01:00:49,862
You seem very upset
and I don't want you
to get upset.
655
01:00:49,862 --> 01:00:53,275
I'm willing to give you
the benefit of the doubt
because I really, really care.
656
01:00:53,275 --> 01:00:55,517
I'm very upset.
This is very upsetting.
657
01:00:57,827 --> 01:01:03,931
I did not ever, ever feel
bad about being transparent
about our intimacy.
658
01:01:03,931 --> 01:01:06,655
- It doesn't matter--
- I kind of feel we're going
'round in circles.
659
01:01:06,655 --> 01:01:08,275
I think you probably
missed the fact
660
01:01:08,275 --> 01:01:10,862
that I'm willing to give you
the benefit of the doubt.
661
01:01:10,862 --> 01:01:12,551
Are you though?
I don't feel like that.
662
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:16,724
I'm sorry.
663
01:01:16,724 --> 01:01:20,172
I'm trying to see
your perspective.
You had second thoughts.
664
01:01:20,172 --> 01:01:22,172
- No, I never
had second thoughts ever.
- No, no, no.
665
01:01:22,172 --> 01:01:23,344
No, no, no, no.
666
01:01:23,344 --> 01:01:26,068
- No second thoughts.
- That's not what I meant.
667
01:01:26,068 --> 01:01:28,103
I just meant you had
second thoughts
668
01:01:28,103 --> 01:01:29,931
about the fact
that I'd be comfortable
669
01:01:29,931 --> 01:01:34,517
telling everybody
that we had been intimate.
670
01:01:35,551 --> 01:01:36,724
Yes. Yes.
671
01:01:40,103 --> 01:01:43,103
This was really, really,
extremely rough for me today.
672
01:01:43,103 --> 01:01:45,551
- And I know it was
for you too.
- It was for me too.
673
01:01:46,827 --> 01:01:49,862
But this can make us
trust each other more.
674
01:01:49,862 --> 01:01:51,655
It can make us know more
about each other,
675
01:01:51,655 --> 01:01:53,206
and it can make
our relationship stronger.
676
01:01:53,206 --> 01:01:54,344
I do believe that.
677
01:01:57,448 --> 01:01:59,172
I want to believe that too.
678
01:02:00,931 --> 01:02:03,551
I hope you're sincere.
679
01:02:03,551 --> 01:02:08,000
I am, and I honestly
just want to give you
a hug right now.
680
01:02:15,862 --> 01:02:20,620
I'm feeling so confused
right now because...
681
01:02:27,758 --> 01:02:29,448
Good? Good? Good.
682
01:02:32,551 --> 01:02:34,482
- Yeah.
- Okay.
683
01:02:34,482 --> 01:02:38,275
But I'm trying to keep
the peace, shut it all down
and not think about it
684
01:02:38,275 --> 01:02:41,620
because I'm terrified
that if I do,
685
01:02:41,620 --> 01:02:44,000
it's gonna be the last straw
for our relationship.
686
01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:45,931
But it's really
not what I want
687
01:02:45,931 --> 01:02:48,896
'cause I'm invested,
I'm really invested.
688
01:02:49,655 --> 01:02:52,551
Hey, Jane, do you want
to come back in?
689
01:02:52,551 --> 01:02:55,379
- I'm sorry for just being
super awkward.
- Not at all.
690
01:02:55,379 --> 01:02:57,344
- Are you okay?
- I'm okay.
691
01:02:58,275 --> 01:02:59,931
I want...
I want like a refresher.
692
01:03:01,206 --> 01:03:02,448
I wanna like start anew.
693
01:03:03,551 --> 01:03:05,827
Do you think that'd be
something that we could
maybe like
694
01:03:05,827 --> 01:03:09,275
get together another time
and, like, like hang out
and have a pint,
695
01:03:09,275 --> 01:03:11,551
- and hang out?
- I mean...
696
01:03:12,275 --> 01:03:13,724
I'd be happy to.
697
01:03:14,655 --> 01:03:17,172
- Sure.
- Awesome.
698
01:03:17,172 --> 01:03:20,724
- All right. I'm just going
to walk you to the door.
- Cool. Thank you.
699
01:03:22,206 --> 01:03:24,137
I really thought
this was the end
of our relationship.
700
01:03:25,344 --> 01:03:27,000
I understand I made a mistake
701
01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:30,655
in not being open
about our intimacy.
702
01:03:30,655 --> 01:03:33,379
But at the same time,
this situation never would
have happened
703
01:03:33,379 --> 01:03:35,000
if we had clear communication
704
01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:38,000
and from the get-go,
she would've given me
the benefit of the doubt.
705
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:39,758
I'm not going to hold
that against her,
706
01:03:39,758 --> 01:03:43,275
but going forward
I really hope she understands
that she can trust me.
707
01:03:44,931 --> 01:03:46,344
Thanks for walking me out.
708
01:03:47,275 --> 01:03:49,103
Just gonna get a car.
709
01:03:49,103 --> 01:03:51,172
- Thank you
for staying so late.
- No worries.
710
01:03:51,172 --> 01:03:54,172
How are you feeling?
Just like... truly?
711
01:03:55,275 --> 01:03:56,448
I...
712
01:03:57,344 --> 01:04:00,103
I feel bad for him.
713
01:04:00,103 --> 01:04:05,103
That he felt that he was being
questioned or, you know...
714
01:04:05,103 --> 01:04:08,448
I did feel that he was very
defensive but also attacking
715
01:04:08,448 --> 01:04:11,172
in his defense, like,
as a friend,
716
01:04:12,379 --> 01:04:15,620
I don't have a very good
feeling about this.
717
01:04:16,551 --> 01:04:19,379
And I just want you to be
718
01:04:19,379 --> 01:04:21,448
kind of guarded,
a little bit, maybe...
719
01:04:32,275 --> 01:04:34,344
I am very worried about Cleo
720
01:04:34,344 --> 01:04:36,172
after seeing Christian today.
721
01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:40,655
I don't know if I believe that
722
01:04:40,655 --> 01:04:42,931
it was just
a simple misunderstanding,
723
01:04:42,931 --> 01:04:44,931
because Christian was
extremely defensive,
724
01:04:44,931 --> 01:04:49,000
and this is just not how
you talk to a person
725
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,448
you genuinely, like,
respect and care about.
726
01:04:51,448 --> 01:04:53,862
It more sounded like
being right,
727
01:04:53,862 --> 01:04:55,551
for him,
is the most important thing.
728
01:04:55,551 --> 01:04:56,931
Are you tired?
729
01:04:56,931 --> 01:05:00,103
Yeah, very tired.
Today was a long day.
730
01:05:02,620 --> 01:05:04,275
We're doing good now,
though, right?
731
01:05:05,068 --> 01:05:06,689
Yeah.
732
01:05:08,103 --> 01:05:09,689
I think so, too.
733
01:05:14,275 --> 01:05:16,275
I haven't asked you
what happened with your ex.
734
01:05:16,275 --> 01:05:18,000
Have you spoken to her?
735
01:05:18,000 --> 01:05:20,000
I talked to her,
like, a month ago.
736
01:05:21,551 --> 01:05:23,379
I'm hurt.
737
01:05:23,379 --> 01:05:25,758
Thought I could trust her
but now I'm not so sure.
738
01:05:25,758 --> 01:05:28,275
Is there anything
between you guys?
739
01:05:34,172 --> 01:05:36,931
So, I have a question.
You don't have anything
to do with this, right?
740
01:05:38,379 --> 01:05:39,793
Uh...
741
01:05:42,758 --> 01:05:43,448
They haven't tried to
reach out to you, have they?
742
01:05:59,620 --> 01:06:00,586
So, I have a question.
743
01:06:02,724 --> 01:06:04,965
This is weird,
I'm sorry, but...
744
01:06:04,965 --> 01:06:06,793
You don't have anything
to do with this, right?
745
01:06:08,448 --> 01:06:09,965
Uh...
746
01:06:13,586 --> 01:06:15,517
I don't know these people.
747
01:06:15,517 --> 01:06:17,517
I'm thankful for you
letting me know.
748
01:06:17,517 --> 01:06:19,517
It's kind of freaky,
749
01:06:19,517 --> 01:06:24,413
people stealing my identity,
in a sense.
750
01:06:24,413 --> 01:06:26,034
It's a lot.
751
01:06:32,068 --> 01:06:33,310
When Carmella tells me that
752
01:06:33,310 --> 01:06:35,000
she's not involved
with the scam,
753
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:37,586
I believe her because
she comes off real genuine.
754
01:06:39,448 --> 01:06:41,517
I feel relieved being able
to remove her
755
01:06:41,517 --> 01:06:43,620
from that whole scenario.
756
01:06:43,620 --> 01:06:46,000
But at the same time,
it really [bleep] sucks
757
01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:48,172
knowing that
I'm not any closer
758
01:06:48,172 --> 01:06:50,137
to finding out
who this person really is.
759
01:06:52,172 --> 01:06:54,206
They haven't tried
to reach out to you,
760
01:06:54,206 --> 01:06:55,379
- have they? No?
- Nah.
761
01:06:57,344 --> 01:06:58,896
I was expecting an apology,
762
01:06:58,896 --> 01:07:00,793
to get an explanation
from this person, but...
763
01:07:02,896 --> 01:07:04,344
And it's like...
764
01:07:04,344 --> 01:07:06,344
- It's hard.
- ...I have to accept that.
765
01:07:06,344 --> 01:07:09,896
The way that you so badly
wanted it to work out,
766
01:07:09,896 --> 01:07:11,517
like, you convinced yourself,
767
01:07:11,517 --> 01:07:13,896
like, you know,
this person was real.
768
01:07:13,896 --> 01:07:15,517
That's what
I felt like I was doing,
769
01:07:15,517 --> 01:07:17,103
and that's why
I was still stuck on her.
770
01:07:17,896 --> 01:07:19,413
But then talking to you
771
01:07:19,413 --> 01:07:21,137
is 100%
the confirmation I needed
772
01:07:21,137 --> 01:07:22,517
that it's just a big scam.
773
01:07:22,517 --> 01:07:25,034
You know what I mean?
Like...
774
01:07:25,034 --> 01:07:28,724
I hope I didn't, like,
burst the fantasy.
775
01:07:28,724 --> 01:07:30,724
No. Not at all.
776
01:07:30,724 --> 01:07:32,448
Like, now it's like,
it's like...
777
01:07:32,448 --> 01:07:34,965
Not even a fantasy now.
Now it's just, like, reality.
778
01:07:39,896 --> 01:07:42,068
I don't know,
it's complicated.
779
01:07:42,068 --> 01:07:46,344
At first I was like, "No way.
I don't know this guy."
780
01:07:46,344 --> 01:07:47,896
It's just, like, weird
'cause, like,
781
01:07:47,896 --> 01:07:49,965
not only did he just
fall in love with
782
01:07:49,965 --> 01:07:53,724
the pictures, but he fell
in love with this "person"
783
01:07:53,724 --> 01:07:56,724
pretending to be me,
so it's just...
784
01:07:56,724 --> 01:07:58,724
It's a lot of mixed feelings.
785
01:07:58,724 --> 01:08:01,724
But he seems like a good guy,
786
01:08:01,724 --> 01:08:03,379
and I just feel sorry.
787
01:08:09,034 --> 01:08:10,586
What are you thinking?
788
01:08:12,206 --> 01:08:14,241
Just about everything, like...
789
01:08:14,241 --> 01:08:16,724
This whole, like, journey,
it's, like,
790
01:08:16,724 --> 01:08:18,413
almost to an end now,
it feels like.
791
01:08:18,413 --> 01:08:21,034
You know what? I'm just gonna
delete that altogether.
792
01:08:21,034 --> 01:08:22,724
Block, delete, right.
793
01:08:22,724 --> 01:08:24,344
Just close that chapter.
794
01:08:24,344 --> 01:08:26,586
Don't stick around and see
795
01:08:26,586 --> 01:08:28,896
how red the flags can get.
796
01:08:28,896 --> 01:08:30,724
- Just get out.
- Yeah.
797
01:08:30,724 --> 01:08:32,000
That's why I wear glasses,
798
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:33,517
'cause I just be ignoring
the red flags.
799
01:08:36,172 --> 01:08:39,000
But, like,
don't let it stop you
800
01:08:39,000 --> 01:08:41,068
from trying again.
801
01:08:41,068 --> 01:08:42,448
- Thank you.
- You deserve love
802
01:08:42,448 --> 01:08:43,896
and happiness and all of that.
803
01:08:43,896 --> 01:08:46,241
Thank you for that.
804
01:08:49,448 --> 01:08:51,241
Carmella's telling me
to be positive
805
01:08:51,241 --> 01:08:54,793
and to not let the situation,
you know, ruin me.
806
01:08:54,793 --> 01:08:55,896
She's really sweet.
807
01:08:56,689 --> 01:08:58,241
I got you something.
808
01:08:58,241 --> 01:08:59,517
- This is yours.
- Oh, sweet.
809
01:08:59,517 --> 01:09:00,793
I didn't know what to get you.
810
01:09:01,793 --> 01:09:04,241
Definitely feels like
we're vibing,
811
01:09:04,241 --> 01:09:06,517
and that's confusing,
but it makes me feel good.
812
01:09:08,068 --> 01:09:11,000
Oh, it's a candle.
Thank you.
813
01:09:11,000 --> 01:09:12,344
You're welcome.
Glad you like it.
814
01:09:12,344 --> 01:09:13,586
Thank you so much.
815
01:09:13,586 --> 01:09:15,275
Oh, yeah,
you're welcome.
816
01:09:18,620 --> 01:09:21,241
So, like, are you
in a relationship right now?
817
01:09:22,793 --> 01:09:26,517
Um, no. Like, I just wanna
live my life
818
01:09:26,517 --> 01:09:28,000
and I just wanna do me.
819
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:30,448
And if I meet somebody
along the way,
820
01:09:30,448 --> 01:09:32,000
then I meet them.
821
01:09:32,000 --> 01:09:33,413
So, like,
would you wanna, like,
822
01:09:33,413 --> 01:09:35,137
keep in touch and, like,
be friends?
823
01:09:35,137 --> 01:09:36,896
I won't do
anything weird.
824
01:09:38,448 --> 01:09:40,793
I... I trust you,
I believe you.
825
01:09:40,793 --> 01:09:43,068
I definitely wanna come back
to Denver.
826
01:09:43,068 --> 01:09:46,344
Yes! It's beautiful here
when it's not so cold.
827
01:09:46,344 --> 01:09:47,689
Maybe we can, like, hang out,
828
01:09:47,689 --> 01:09:49,000
- travel somewhere.
- Yeah!
829
01:09:49,000 --> 01:09:51,344
Maybe up in California we can
do something, so, yeah.
830
01:09:51,344 --> 01:09:53,310
So, I've never been
to California before.
831
01:09:53,310 --> 01:09:55,137
Oh, really? Oh, yeah,
definitely show you around.
832
01:09:57,448 --> 01:09:58,827
I guess we'll get out of here.
833
01:09:58,827 --> 01:10:00,172
Wanna do a quick water cheers?
834
01:10:00,172 --> 01:10:01,620
Or you can do your wine,
if you want.
835
01:10:01,620 --> 01:10:03,448
I know,
I think I drank all my water.
836
01:10:03,448 --> 01:10:04,620
- So...
- All right, cheers.
837
01:10:10,344 --> 01:10:11,827
I'm extremely,
extremely glad
838
01:10:11,827 --> 01:10:13,517
that I came to Denver.
839
01:10:13,517 --> 01:10:17,620
I might never get the answers
I was looking for.
840
01:10:17,620 --> 01:10:19,827
But I realized
I can't control that.
841
01:10:19,827 --> 01:10:21,241
Okay.
842
01:10:23,344 --> 01:10:25,034
Ooh.
843
01:10:26,448 --> 01:10:28,965
The past month
has been a huge whirlwind.
844
01:10:28,965 --> 01:10:33,034
All the lies and exposure,
and I got my heart broken.
845
01:10:34,827 --> 01:10:36,965
But I feel like
it's made me stronger.
846
01:10:37,793 --> 01:10:39,793
Don't flip.
847
01:10:40,724 --> 01:10:42,793
Okay, this is it.
848
01:10:42,793 --> 01:10:44,241
All right.
849
01:10:45,586 --> 01:10:46,896
All right.
850
01:10:46,896 --> 01:10:49,000
Thank you.
I appreciate you coming.
851
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:50,965
Nice to
meet you, too.
852
01:10:50,965 --> 01:10:52,896
- Thank you.
- You're welcome.
853
01:10:52,896 --> 01:10:54,689
- Hope you have a good night.
- You too.
854
01:10:57,344 --> 01:10:59,724
I think one reason I was drawn
to the online relationship
855
01:10:59,724 --> 01:11:01,310
with the fake Carmella
856
01:11:01,310 --> 01:11:02,724
is because I didn't have
the confidence
857
01:11:02,724 --> 01:11:03,862
to date in the real world.
858
01:11:04,689 --> 01:11:06,620
But meeting the real Carmella
showed me
859
01:11:06,620 --> 01:11:08,896
that I need
to get out of my shell.
860
01:11:08,896 --> 01:11:10,965
And I do wanna
put myself out there more,
861
01:11:10,965 --> 01:11:13,827
and not be so afraid.
I can trust again.
862
01:11:13,827 --> 01:11:15,517
And I feel more confident
than ever
863
01:11:15,517 --> 01:11:17,689
that someone is out there
for me.
864
01:11:17,689 --> 01:11:21,000
So maybe that's the closure
I was looking for.
865
01:11:21,000 --> 01:11:27,448
♪ I know, I know,
inside you're beautiful ♪
866
01:11:27,448 --> 01:11:30,827
♪ I know
when the world falls down ♪
867
01:11:30,827 --> 01:11:33,068
♪ It's you I have to hold ♪
868
01:11:33,068 --> 01:11:34,586
Oh, man.
869
01:11:38,620 --> 01:11:40,517
Crazy.
870
01:11:41,448 --> 01:11:43,034
Phew.
871
01:11:55,344 --> 01:11:57,793
Since we've reached the, uh,
872
01:11:57,793 --> 01:11:59,620
I love you, you love me,
873
01:11:59,620 --> 01:12:04,137
is, like,
me moving to England...
874
01:12:04,137 --> 01:12:09,241
maybe, like, move in with you?
875
01:12:18,827 --> 01:12:20,896
But I just think that
we should, like,
take things slow and...
876
01:12:26,965 --> 01:12:29,000
I just have rushed
in the past also,
877
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:32,689
and it's just not worked well
for me for many reasons.
878
01:12:34,310 --> 01:12:36,517
What about, like,
just getting your own place?
879
01:12:36,517 --> 01:12:39,517
Just live up the road,
and then
880
01:12:39,517 --> 01:12:41,827
maybe, like,
six months or something?
881
01:12:41,827 --> 01:12:46,000
We can hopefully then
move in together
882
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:48,517
once we've known each other
a little bit more and...
883
01:12:49,827 --> 01:12:51,310
I don't know.
884
01:12:54,793 --> 01:12:57,206
I mean, why, though?
Like, what's the point?
885
01:12:58,827 --> 01:13:01,379
When I'm in, I'm all in.
You know, 100%.
886
01:13:03,827 --> 01:13:05,620
I can't really understand why
887
01:13:05,620 --> 01:13:07,655
Dempsey doesn't want
me to move in with her.
888
01:13:08,344 --> 01:13:10,517
She's okay with
me moving to England
889
01:13:10,517 --> 01:13:12,689
and living somewhere else.
890
01:13:12,689 --> 01:13:14,724
But if we love each other
891
01:13:14,724 --> 01:13:16,724
and are trying to have
a future together,
892
01:13:16,724 --> 01:13:19,172
why would I move
to another country
893
01:13:19,172 --> 01:13:21,896
to live in a place
that's not with
894
01:13:21,896 --> 01:13:23,724
the person that I'm dating?
895
01:13:23,724 --> 01:13:26,103
Doesn't make any sense.
896
01:13:27,689 --> 01:13:30,310
Do you feel like we really,
deeply know each other enough?
897
01:13:31,310 --> 01:13:33,034
I do, yeah. Do you not?
898
01:13:35,206 --> 01:13:37,517
I do think that we have a lot
to learn about each other.
899
01:13:39,827 --> 01:13:42,896
Like, I did not know that
you had cheated
900
01:13:42,896 --> 01:13:44,586
until a few days ago.
901
01:13:44,586 --> 01:13:46,344
Like, I don't care
how long ago it was.
902
01:13:46,344 --> 01:13:48,137
You... It's something
that you did.
903
01:13:48,896 --> 01:13:50,896
And I...
I wasn't aware of that.
904
01:13:53,034 --> 01:13:54,310
Yeah.
905
01:13:56,827 --> 01:13:58,379
Uh...
906
01:13:59,827 --> 01:14:03,068
This is what I mean about
we have so much to learn
about each other.
907
01:14:03,068 --> 01:14:05,241
I didn't know that about you.
What else am I gonna learn
908
01:14:05,241 --> 01:14:06,620
about you? D'you know? Like...
909
01:14:06,620 --> 01:14:08,517
I don't know.
I haven't asked you
910
01:14:08,517 --> 01:14:10,448
what happened
with your ex, like...
911
01:14:10,448 --> 01:14:12,448
Is there anything
between you guys?
912
01:14:12,448 --> 01:14:14,896
- There's nothing between us.
- But have you spoken to her?
913
01:14:14,896 --> 01:14:18,137
I mean, yeah.
We talked... We talk.
914
01:14:20,724 --> 01:14:22,896
- Yeah, we talked, like, she--
- When?
915
01:14:22,896 --> 01:14:25,413
I talked to her,
like, a month ago.
916
01:14:26,344 --> 01:14:28,034
Why were you speaking to her
a month ago?
917
01:14:28,034 --> 01:14:30,137
When you're coming here
to see me?
918
01:14:30,137 --> 01:14:31,896
Did you wanna see her?
919
01:14:33,310 --> 01:14:34,896
I'm not hiding anything
from you.
920
01:14:34,896 --> 01:14:37,000
But you've not
been... [sighs] I don't know.
921
01:14:38,793 --> 01:14:41,310
I told her
I was coming to meet,
922
01:14:41,310 --> 01:14:43,310
uh, my new girlfriend.
923
01:14:45,034 --> 01:14:46,896
And then...
924
01:14:46,896 --> 01:14:50,517
at that point
she asked if, like,
925
01:14:50,517 --> 01:14:54,241
she could pick me up
from the airport...
926
01:14:55,896 --> 01:14:57,965
and stay in a hotel together,
927
01:14:57,965 --> 01:14:59,655
- just get closure.
- Oh, my God.
928
01:15:00,586 --> 01:15:02,241
Closure for what?
929
01:15:03,724 --> 01:15:05,275
I don't know.
930
01:15:07,448 --> 01:15:09,068
I'm thinking
of all the things
931
01:15:09,068 --> 01:15:11,310
that's happened in this time.
932
01:15:11,310 --> 01:15:13,034
Finding out she cheated,
finding out
933
01:15:13,034 --> 01:15:14,275
she'd been speaking to her ex.
934
01:15:15,310 --> 01:15:17,448
I feel like
I don't even know her
935
01:15:17,448 --> 01:15:18,655
as well as I thought I did.
936
01:15:19,413 --> 01:15:22,137
Feel a little bit sick
right now.
937
01:15:23,448 --> 01:15:26,965
I'm not so sure I could trust
Statler, and without trust,
938
01:15:27,724 --> 01:15:29,241
what's the point?
939
01:15:48,517 --> 01:15:52,000
I don't think that
we go well together.
940
01:15:52,000 --> 01:15:54,379
This is very...
941
01:16:29,379 --> 01:16:33,551
So, Razvan and I
had a fight last night.
942
01:16:35,482 --> 01:16:39,137
It was just, like,
about maybe, you know, like,
943
01:16:39,137 --> 01:16:40,862
me feeling like
944
01:16:41,793 --> 01:16:44,482
we just are different
945
01:16:44,482 --> 01:16:46,758
and, like,
it's just not gonna work.
946
01:16:48,206 --> 01:16:50,206
Last night, I asked Razvan
947
01:16:50,206 --> 01:16:53,931
what his plan is when he comes
to the United States.
948
01:16:53,931 --> 01:16:56,689
He got very defensive.
949
01:16:56,689 --> 01:16:58,551
He thought that
I was telling him,
950
01:16:58,551 --> 01:17:00,103
"You need to get
a job immediately,
951
01:17:00,103 --> 01:17:02,689
you need to pay half
of the bills immediately."
952
01:17:02,689 --> 01:17:06,379
I pay all my bills
just fine without him.
953
01:17:06,379 --> 01:17:08,103
But if he is coming there
954
01:17:08,103 --> 01:17:10,172
I would expect him
to have a plan
955
01:17:10,172 --> 01:17:13,655
and be able to
support himself financially,
956
01:17:13,655 --> 01:17:17,206
and not just sit back
and chase his dreams
957
01:17:17,206 --> 01:17:19,862
while I'm supporting him,
and my kids.
958
01:17:20,965 --> 01:17:23,000
We have to, like, talk about
959
01:17:23,000 --> 01:17:25,103
realistic expectations
of when he comes to the US.
960
01:17:26,103 --> 01:17:28,793
I just got this impression,
like, Raznan,
961
01:17:28,793 --> 01:17:33,000
if he doesn't go the US
and, like, become an actor,
962
01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:36,413
become, like, a singer,
like, whatever he wants to do,
963
01:17:36,413 --> 01:17:38,310
I feel like
he just won't do it.
964
01:17:38,310 --> 01:17:42,482
And to me, a man should,
if he cares about
965
01:17:42,482 --> 01:17:45,482
his person that he's with,
his family, like,
966
01:17:45,482 --> 01:17:49,000
he would do anything, like,
to contribute and to help out.
967
01:17:49,000 --> 01:17:52,172
I feel like he's so prideful,
like, he's not gonna even try
968
01:17:52,172 --> 01:17:55,379
to do something else
while pursuing his dreams.
969
01:17:55,379 --> 01:17:58,689
And he was like,
"Oh, you just...
970
01:17:58,689 --> 01:18:02,310
don't wanna, like,
support me and my goals."
971
01:18:02,310 --> 01:18:05,448
And it kind of, like,
snowballed from there.
972
01:18:41,931 --> 01:18:44,310
I don't know,
I feel like I was...
973
01:18:44,310 --> 01:18:47,379
Like, I need
to not say nothing
974
01:18:47,379 --> 01:18:49,310
because she has more money.
975
01:18:49,310 --> 01:18:52,551
But I never asked for nothing
for her.
976
01:19:24,310 --> 01:19:28,689
I did say things that,
you know, were hurtful to him.
977
01:19:28,689 --> 01:19:34,172
I told him, like, I think
maybe he's not the type of man
978
01:19:34,172 --> 01:19:36,206
I am looking for.
979
01:19:36,206 --> 01:19:39,413
Um, I'm looking for
980
01:19:39,413 --> 01:19:42,655
a man that will
put his pride aside
981
01:19:42,655 --> 01:19:45,655
and do anything
for his family.
982
01:19:45,655 --> 01:19:47,793
I told him, like,
when I first met Jason,
983
01:19:47,793 --> 01:19:49,275
he was a manager
at a restaurant,
984
01:19:49,275 --> 01:19:51,000
and he, like, started here,
985
01:19:51,000 --> 01:19:53,034
and he did what he had to do
to, like,
986
01:19:53,034 --> 01:19:55,034
provide for his family.
987
01:19:55,034 --> 01:19:57,172
And Raznan was like...
988
01:19:58,482 --> 01:20:00,862
didn't respond well
to what I was saying.
989
01:20:03,034 --> 01:20:05,379
I tell her, "Why you need
to do these things?
990
01:20:05,379 --> 01:20:07,034
Why you need
to ruin a good night?"
991
01:20:07,034 --> 01:20:10,758
And it's like
she just say things
992
01:20:10,758 --> 01:20:12,482
and try to find things.
993
01:20:12,482 --> 01:20:17,275
And then she's sorry,
but then she does again.
994
01:20:35,965 --> 01:20:40,068
I just don't think that
we go well together.
995
01:20:41,793 --> 01:20:44,931
I mean, also too,
with me, like, I feel like...
996
01:20:44,931 --> 01:20:48,413
I don't know, did I get into
a relationship too quickly?
997
01:20:48,413 --> 01:20:50,206
And also, like,
998
01:20:50,206 --> 01:20:52,965
does Raznan know
how to be with someone
999
01:20:52,965 --> 01:20:56,310
who still has, like,
open wounds of, like,
1000
01:20:56,310 --> 01:20:58,862
losing a husband, and...
1001
01:21:00,275 --> 01:21:02,965
being, like, a widowed mom?
1002
01:21:02,965 --> 01:21:05,620
Like, I don't know.
1003
01:21:14,758 --> 01:21:18,034
Because I was thinking that
1004
01:21:18,034 --> 01:21:20,758
she has a difficult time
with what happened.
1005
01:21:44,482 --> 01:21:47,310
I'm the first person
he's been with
since he had his heart broke,
1006
01:21:47,310 --> 01:21:50,206
and for me, it's like,
he's the first person I'm with
1007
01:21:50,206 --> 01:21:54,000
after, like, a tragic event,
like, in my life.
1008
01:21:54,000 --> 01:21:57,310
So maybe we both are, like,
1009
01:21:57,310 --> 01:22:00,551
broken in some ways,
so, like...
1010
01:22:00,551 --> 01:22:02,482
we're looking for
something else,
1011
01:22:02,482 --> 01:22:04,551
like, in the other person.
1012
01:22:04,551 --> 01:22:07,000
And whether
it's truly there or not,
1013
01:22:07,000 --> 01:22:09,275
maybe we just want to see it.
1014
01:22:39,379 --> 01:22:40,793
I don't know, I feel like...
1015
01:22:40,793 --> 01:22:42,137
I don't know,
is something wrong with me?
1016
01:22:42,137 --> 01:22:45,758
But in
the right relationship...
1017
01:22:49,689 --> 01:22:51,689
you're not feeling this,
1018
01:22:51,689 --> 01:22:54,103
that there's something
wrong with you.
1019
01:23:30,206 --> 01:23:32,758
Next time
on Before The 90 Days...
1020
01:23:40,758 --> 01:23:43,758
Jhonreil and I
have thought about...
1021
01:23:44,965 --> 01:23:48,103
But I know my son is scared.
1022
01:23:56,034 --> 01:23:59,310
I don't know
where things are with us.
1023
01:23:59,310 --> 01:24:02,137
I don't even know if I'm in
a relationship this morning.
1024
01:24:02,137 --> 01:24:03,862
Like, I have no clue.
1025
01:24:03,862 --> 01:24:06,827
I'm so anxious that I've
sabotaged this in some way.
1026
01:24:07,965 --> 01:24:09,137
Hey.
1027
01:24:09,137 --> 01:24:10,689
It's gonna be over.
1028
01:24:10,689 --> 01:24:13,000
So...
1029
01:24:13,000 --> 01:24:14,862
How you...
how are you feeling?
1030
01:24:14,862 --> 01:24:16,758
Um...
1031
01:24:18,482 --> 01:24:20,172
- Hi.
- Hi.
1032
01:24:20,172 --> 01:24:22,275
As much as
we butt heads,
1033
01:24:22,275 --> 01:24:24,275
I really wanna make this work
with Violet.
1034
01:24:24,275 --> 01:24:26,931
This is me apologizing.
1035
01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:30,275
But I don't know
if Violet is willing
1036
01:24:30,275 --> 01:24:31,827
to give this another chance
or not.
1037
01:24:45,482 --> 01:24:47,586
You are connected
on a subconscious level.
1038
01:24:47,586 --> 01:24:51,241
- Yeah.
- But Christian,
you lack sensitivity.
1039
01:24:59,137 --> 01:25:01,482
If things are to not work out
between us,
1040
01:25:01,482 --> 01:25:05,103
I don't know if I'm ready
to deal with that.
1041
01:25:11,379 --> 01:25:12,758
Why, do you think she will be?
1042
01:25:16,862 --> 01:25:20,758
So it'll be like atomic bomb
that I'm dropping on them all.
1043
01:25:26,413 --> 01:25:28,965
Do you think you're pregnant?
1044
01:25:28,965 --> 01:25:31,103
'Cause you're kinda
looking like it.
1045
01:25:31,103 --> 01:25:33,413
When I think about
my future with Jasmine,
1046
01:25:33,413 --> 01:25:36,103
having a child
is really important to me.
1047
01:25:36,103 --> 01:25:38,482
At this moment
today, I tell you,
1048
01:25:38,482 --> 01:25:39,965
I don't wanna have a baby...