[woman] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
[in Spanish]
I'm willing to try anything
to get our sex life back on track.
- How's everything going? - We're having some arguments and stuff.
Did you ever bring up the prenup to her again?
I haven't. No.
Even though our relationship has become a bit complicated...
Hi, baby!
...I still believe that Jasmine and I can work anything out.
Oh, baby! God.
[Riley] I met a woman from Vietnam on a dating app.
And I'm actually coming to see her for the first time.
And I'm very interested in hiring a private eye.
My main concern is, is she really divorced?
And is she still on the dating app?
Okay.
Wow, okay.
Look, she's here in Romania.
The bedroom is too far away.
[Amanda] Did you hear what he said?
Yeah.
I've been waiting for this for so long
but I feel guilty
for even being in a relationship with Razvan,
you know, because of my late husband, Jason.
[man] Carmella has not been honest with you about who she is.
The person you've been messaging with
is a man named Christian.
We have a recording of Christian.
I can play it for you. We also have a message, I can show that to you.
I don't think I can do it right now.
So you have some closure.
♪ You know you're so sexy ♪
♪ You know you're so fine ♪
♪ Bet you like to chihuahua all night ♪
You're taking too long with my coffee.
[in English]
You're a barista today.
[laughs]
It's my first morning in Romania
and waking up with Razvan
after months of only being able to see him on the phone,
it feels amazing, but also is a little strange.
[laughs]
This is the first time being with a man since my husband passed away
and I am used to just
my kids running in and waking me up in the morning,
like, mommy, make us breakfast.
Come on, what are we doing? Like, you know.
So it's a little strange but also too, like, it's kind of nice
just to wake up peaceful, you know, next to the person that you love.
A lot of people.
[laughs] Stop it.
I just wear socks. I like to wear socks all the time.
Oh, my God.
What?
She starts sucking my neck.
It was hard for me--
Well, go to the bathroom with your box of tissues.
That is not good.
[laughs]
[Amanda speaking]
Okay.
Okay, good.
'Cause you stink. I didn't want to tell you.
Oh my gosh.
This is good. Without socks.
[laughs]
Get ready.
No.
That's not a good cowboy voice.
So we are ready.
Does it look like I'm ready?
Oh.
Um...
I mean, I love you and I feel like I feel happy.
I mean, kind of, but, like, I don't know.
Like, if I didn't want to kiss you or felt, like, so terrible about, like, I wouldn't have.
Like, was it strange for you?
I do. You're sweet.
[Amanda] I do feel like I connected with Razvan last night,
but it's still really hard for me.
I'm nervous and kind of scared
but it's difficult to talk with Razvan about my emotions,
because it's supposed to be a fun, exciting trip,
and I don't want to bring down the mood.
Mmm-hmm.
When you are with someone and they pass away, it's kind of like,
I don't know. I don't want to say it's, like, I'm, like, cheating
but, like, I have, you know, a sense of guilt, like, is this okay?
There's just so many things going through me right now,
that I don't even know what emotions they are.
I love you.
[all] Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now, and at the hour of our death.
Oh, my Jesus, forgive us our sins.
Save us from the fires of hell.
Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name.
My name is Meisha. I'm 43 years old from Blaine, Minnesota.
I work full time for the Catholic Church
as the director of pastoral care,
helping people connect with God in their final moments.
[all] Give us this day our daily bread
For many years, I worked as an on-air journalist.
And in many ways, I lived a very glamorous life.
Blessed art thou amongst women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
I was not raised with any religion.
But over a decade ago, I had a pretty profound spiritual awakening.
While I was vacuuming my living room,
I had a vision of two huge suns
suspended out of the sky in front of my window.
And the first thing that I thought was,
am I having a heart attack?
I was terrified.
And I started to slink down to the ground,
almost as if something was pushing me down.
And there was a voice that was seared into my mind
that told me to pray.
And then I was lead to the Bible.
So I read it straight through to the very last paragraph of Revelation.
And that led me to the steps of the Roman Catholic Church.
- Amen. - Amen.
And now, we pray for no traffic.
[laughing]
Long before my conversion,
I fell in love with a foreign exchange student in high school,
and ultimately, that led me to move out to Sweden.
I was married to him when I was 22 years old.
Unfortunately, the marriage did not last
but we have two beautiful daughters, Marie and Svea
and they're the most precious thing in the world, so it was worth it.
After my divorce, I had a full social life.
I was the fun party girl at the bar and going out all the time.
I had a lot of friends and it was a blast.
Oh my gosh, this dress.
Okay, so this is one that I wore to an event
for the sexiest singles in Philadelphia.
It shows, like, a lot of, like, side boob.
Back then, I was always meeting people and I would go on dates.
Usually they were handsome men who were really, really successful
and when they took you out on a date, they would really do it up.
One in particular, he got a helicopter.
Like, stuff like that. It was really, really cool.
But post conversion,
things got real lonely, real fast.
The things that I was interested in doing were starting to change.
All I could talk about was the Bible and going to church
and I could just feel people kind of go, that's too much.
And I understood it.
But it felt very lonely.
I felt super lost and isolated
until I started talking to someone across the world.
He is the most incredible human being that I have ever met.
Everything was just so in sync.
Our heart, our soul, our mind.
I'm absolutely in love with the man.
[Nicola's mother in Hebrew]
- [Nicola] - [Nicola's mom]
[in English] My name is Nicola and I am 46 years old.
I live with my mom.
[in foreign language]
[in English] We live in Israel, in a city called Nahariyya.
Living with my mom, it's very hard.
She don't hear good.
[in Hebrew]
[Nicola in English]
You live with your parents until you get married.
I live a simple life, devoting myself to the lord.
Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
I become devout Catholic
not because my mom or my dad,
they didn't go to the church.
It's because my grandmother.
My grandmother always taught me about praying the rosary,
going to mass, since I was, like, six, seven years old.
My normal day is I wake up in the morning, I pray to God
and then I work on my Catholic website.
Israel contains only 2% Catholic.
There's not a lot of option for someone like me to find a partner.
I pray to God.
I trust you. You will send me the right woman at the right time.
I never believed that I will have any relationship
with a divorced woman from America
but you know, when you give your life to Jesus, and you trust him,
God do things that you don't expect.
When I saw Meisha in social media seven years ago,
she was very lost.
So I sent her a message.
And he said something to the effect of,
you don't know me but this is the most important thing in your life.
I had already had my conversion experience
in my living room at that point,
but I was still newborn baby learning about my faith
and his message hit me at the exact right moment when I needed to hear it.
That's God.
[Nicola] So when Meisha respond,
Nicola, I need Jesus more in my life
and you will be my Jesus boy, this is where the connection start.
[Meisha] He was just filling me with all this historical and theological knowledge.
And with Nicola's support,
I found the courage to leave my television career
and devote myself full-time to my faith,
which definitely brought Nicola and I closer together.
And slowly, slowly, we started to laugh
and say what we like in the phone.
And then we started to talk every day for maybe 10 hours.
I even didn't go to sleep.
[Meisha] It took us years to admit to one another
that we had feelings for each other.
Between that and COVID, it's been seven years that we've never met,
but all of that's about to change.
I am getting ready to fly almost 7,000 miles to Israel
to finally meet Nicola in person.
And I'm hoping that by the end of the trip, Nicola and I are engaged.
- Have you ever been here before? - Never.
- It's cute. - Super cute.
Yeah.
But I know that my friends and family
definitely have their reservations
about my relationship with Nicola.
Thank you so much.
Enjoy. Let me know if there's anything else I can do.
Thank you.
You're leaving in how many days?
Three. I'll be there for two weeks.
I'm so excited to meet him face to face.
So you're not worried that he's a virgin?
but it is a big part of a relationship and certainly a marriage.
I know.
Because of his faith, Nicola is celibate until marriage
and so that leaves him a 46-year-old virgin.
While I so admire his convictions,
at the same time, it makes me worried
knowing that I need certain things like affection.
A lot of affection.
Obviously, there's no sex before marriage.
So when I get there, I have to just see how he is
with just even just basic affection.
[Taylor] Meisha's situation, it all seems crazy.
She went through this spiritual awakening,
as she likes to call it,
and now she wants to get engaged
to this extremely devout, conservative, Catholic man.
There was a few times where we talked to Nicola on FaceTime
and he seems nice.
I know they're both Catholic,
but they're just so different.
It's hard to understand what she sees in him.
Well, has he even been in a long-term relationship?
He has had a girlfriend
but it was many, many years ago.
I'm just saying, that's concerning.
Nicola's dating life has been virtually non-existent.
I struggle with that a little bit
because when you have different relationships,
you learn a little bit each time.
But if you don't have a lot of relationships,
I wonder if there's so much that you don't know
about how to nurture a relationship
simply because you haven't had those experiences.
I just think that two weeks is not enough time to get engaged.
Why can't you just wait until he can come over here?
Let him get to know the kids and the family. See if it's a good fit.
Even if I went over there multiple times to try to figure it out,
and he came over here
I don't think I'm ever going to walk away and go,
I have all my answers now.
I think all I can do is follow my heart.
I can understand Taylor's concerns
because if all goes well on this trip,
Nicola and I definitely plan on applying for the K-1 visa,
which means that we won't have much time together in person before getting married.
And since we're both practicing Catholics, divorce is not an option.
So that can be a little scary.
But I truly believe that Nicola is the man that I'm supposed to be with.
I love him, so I have to trust God.
Well, I hope you know what you're doing.
Oh, baby!
I love all these tropical mountains, ocean.
Yeah, look at those... landscape.
[chuckles]
I'm hoping that Gino will put more effort
into having sex during this trip.
Do you still in the back of your mind think that she is real?
No, I've never done that.
You want to try? See what comes up?
It's pretty cold. It's not windy.
Yeah, it's kinda chilly.
[indistinct]
- Somebody made a trail right there. - Right.
- Be careful, you don't want to roll. - [both laugh]
Today, I'm meeting up with my sister, Lashanti.
It's been a really hard couple of days
because the producers are telling me that
my girlfriend, Carmella, is actually a man named Christian
and that he had been catfishing me for the past four years.
They played some audio of his voice
and I couldn't even listen to the whole thing.
It was just too painful.
- Kind of far. - I know, so small.
So, how do you feel about everything?
Uh, honestly, I'm still trying to, like, process everything,
'cause I know it's been a few days,
but it's still kind of, like, it's still fresh on my mind,
especially, like, the voice message and stuff, like...
Do you still in the back of your mind think that she is real?
A little bit,
There is someone behind these messages
that I have a deep connection with.
And I do think that it could be a big misunderstanding
just because how deep the connection was,
but I don't know where to go from here.
Did you ever reverse search the pictures that she sent you?
No, I've never done that.
You want to try? See what comes up?
That's a good idea.
I suggested that we reverse image search,
because usually, when you put somebody's picture in the search engine,
all the social media that they have pops up.
It's weird that he didn't already search her pictures himself anyway,
because that's the first thing I woulda did.
I know Tyray's feeling hurt. I know he's embarrassed,
but I just want him to move forward.
- [Tyray] I'll send you a picture of her then. - Okay.
Okay. Got it.
I'm gonna try both of these.
That's weird. Nothing popped up for that one.
Let's try another one.
No search results.
I'm gonna try this one.
Still no.
I don't even know where this person found these pictures.
It's kinda good that we didn't find anything.
[Tyray] Honestly, I feel relieved
when Lashanti doesn't find anything about Carmella
'cause I'm, like, maybe Carmella is real,
and maybe, you know,
what the producer was told was... wasn't true.
Maybe her boyfriend found out about us talking
and they wanted to end our relationship, who knows?
Either way, I need to get some more information
about exactly what's going on
so I can try to figure this out.
Is there something that you know that we don't know?
I don't know anything, honestly, like,
besides that.
But there might be another way to find out more about her.
Um, so, um...
...the producer was telling me they do have a message from her.
- [Lashanti] Like a text? - Yeah.
What did it say?
I don't know.
I think I'll see the message, it might be easier
than hearing an actual voice.
Okay.
Um, "Hi.
[Tyray reading]
Wow.
I'm, like, even more confused now.
Because it's, like, it's saying two things, like,
I can't be with him, but then at the same time,
I love him, so it's just, like...
I don't know.
There has to be some truth to something in there, so...
So you feel like this person loves you?
They're saying the right things, that's for sure.
[Tyray] I don't think Lashanti knows
how deep my relationship is with Carmella.
There was just so much between us, even over texts.
Having this person say they love me, you know, it meant a lot.
[Lashanti speaking]
I don't know what you're thinking.
I don't even know how I feel,
but honestly, I... I want more answers.
You don't think you want to block her?
I'm gonna give it a few more days.
I mean, after reading that email,
it's kinda clear what's happening here.
I just don't know why it's not getting through to Tyray.
My biggest fear is that if the person messaged him,
he will respond.
Thinking that whatever excuse they tell him is the truth,
and that he'll just take no trip,
he'll keep giving them all his money, I don't know.
If he doesn't come to terms with what's happening,
I feel like he can get his heart broke even worse.
And I can't sit back and let them happen to my brother again.
- [Lashanti] Just a scammer, scamming people. - Mm.
That's the end of it.
Maybe.
I just need a little bit of time.
[sighs]
[Spanish music playing]
This is my second home right now.
Oh, baby!
[Gino] Yeah, I love all these mountains.
Um, you know, and ocean.
[Jasmine speaking]
- Look, baby. - Oh, hmm?
Yeah, look at those landscapes...
- Big mountains in Panama! - Yeah...
[chuckling]
I'm super excited to be back in Panama
'cause I get to see Jasmine again.
It's been months since we've been together.
And this trip is likely the last time I'm in Panama
before we get our K-1 visa approved
and Jasmine comes to the USA,
so it's kind of a big deal,
big trip for me and her to get our bond back together.
[chuckles] Why are you looking at me like that?
You're looking at me crazy.
[Jasmine speaking]
Yeah, I'm excited.
- [Jasmine speaking] - [Gino] Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm so happy to have my baby here in Panama again.
Finally together.
And I cannot think of a better love nest
for the next three weeks.
[door opens]
[Jasmine] Welcome home, my angel!
Oh, my god. Whoa! [chuckles]
[Gino] Paradise.
- [Jasmine] Ta-da! - So nice.
Wow!
[Jasmine] I'm crossing my fingers Gino will love this place
as much as I love it.
[Jasmine speaking]
- Liz, oh, my god. How are you? - [Liz laughs]
- [Gino] How's it going? - [Jasmine] Lovely.
- So good to see you. - [Liz] Mm!
- [chuckles] - [Jasmine] Yes.
- Oh, Coco! - Coco!
[laughing]
- Daddy's here! - [Gino] Oh, my god.
- Look at him. - [Jasmine] Yeah.
How excited. [chuckles]
Coco, relax.
And this is the main bedroom.
- Where all the action... Yes. - [Gino] Oh, wow.
And one of the most amazing, like, things,
the balcony.
- Yeah. - [Gino] Wow!
- Look at this! This is crazy! - [Jasmine laughing]
[Gino] What a view.
And this island is artificial, like, they created it.
- It's just for filthy rich people in Panama. - Oh, really?
Those aren't my neighbors, no. [chuckles]
Now you see what I wanted so badly.
Well, it's...[chuckles]
It's, like, breathtaking, right?
Is it worth $3,000? That's the question.
Of course it is.
To me, it's a very reasonable price.
Because you said that the visa's gonna be approved anytime soon.
So it's... it's not, like, I'm gonna stay here forever.
Right.
When I first met Jasmine,
she wasn't into, um,
you know, more luxurious things.
She... she got by on a lot less.
But her taste in luxurious lifestyle is becoming...
...more and more important to her, it seems.
And when she comes to Michigan, you know,
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to offer her
the lifestyle she's looking for.
It could lead to disappointment for her.
You know, and it's not...
it's not, you know...
It worries me.
So you like the place, right?
Oh, yeah, of course, it's beautiful!
But we have to live based on our budget.
You wanna try the bed to see how, like, you like it?
I don't have to try it right now, if that's what you're asking.
[Gino] Um...
Let's try the bed.
- Hmm? - Let's try the bed to see if you like it.
[Gino] Okay, let's see.
I know that Gino's always thinking about saving money
and spending money, you know,
but this is not the right moment to be talking about that,
not the first night we're together.
[Jasmine] Baby.
- [Gino] Oh. - [Jasmine] Let me take off your shoes.
[Gino] Oh, okay.
Oh, my gosh.
I can't even remember when was the last time I have sex with Gino.
In a relationship, sex is super important.
So I'm hoping that Gino will put more effort
into having sex during this trip.
Oh, my god!
Look at me.
- [Gino] Okay. - [Jasmine speaking]
I'm just trying to enjoy the feel... enjoy the bed, the comfort.
Feel how comfortable it is.
[Gino] I know Jasmine feels that there's not enough
sex in our relationship.
Don't get me wrong, sex is important,
I'm not saying it's not.
It's important to me too.
So enjoy the bed and enjoy me too.
Oh, my glasses.
[Jasmine] So put them there.
Let me... Don't find excuses again.
It's always the same [bleep].
But after seeing her spending habits,
and how she's being a little pushy with me to get what she wants,
it's not making me feel good about our future together.
And that affects my sexual desire.
[Jasmine] Baby!
[Gino] Oh, my god...
[Jasmine speaking]
Do you want me?
Huh?
[Gino] Stop asking me that.
[Jasmine] My behavior is completely normal.
Like, any other girl, you know, fiancee,
will do after not seeing her man.
[Jasmine speaking]
[Jasmine] Okay...
I'm not surprised, but I'm disappointed that he's pushing me away.
That's not how you treat the person that you love.
I found out she's communicating with my dad.
Talking a lot of [bleep] to turn him against me.
Oh, my God!
I'm very afraid for Riley.
That's very manipulative.
It's a big red flag.
The foundation of any relationship
is trust and honesty.
Your foundation has super cracks in it.
[Riley] Packing up.
It's like, it's like Tetris in here.
With the packing.
Just know how to fold very well.
I thank the army for that.
[Riley] I'm leaving for Vietnam today,
and I cannot believe I'm about to spend time,
in person, with Violet.
It's crazy. It's been two years in the making.
And I'm nervous, I'm excited,
I'm worried, all in one.
Violet's birthday is actually today.
So I got her pearls.
After talking to the PI,
I still feel a little worried, apprehensive,
but I truly care about Violet,
and I really wanna make this work.
So the PI is still an option that I'm gonna,
you know, keep in my back pocket.
But my hope is when I get to Vietnam,
Violet and I can have a discussion
and she can address all my concerns,
where I don't have to hire a PI.
[car horn beeps]
[Riley] All right, let's get it.
- What up, yo? - [Alexa] What up?
[beeping]
- [Riley] I got stuff. - [Alexa] You need help?
[Riley] Nah, you ain't gonna be able to help.
- You're weak! - Good. get in the car.
[Riley] Well, you could...
[both laugh]
[Riley] Alexa is my buddy buddy,
so she's watching Mila for me,
my pup, my little girl, while I'm in Vietnam,
and she's gonna give me a ride to the airport.
[Riley exhales]
[Riley] I'm really going to Vietnam, huh?
[Alexa] Yes, you are.
You think she's gonna show up?
That would be nice. [chuckles]
- After I flew 8,000 miles, you know! - I mean...
It'd be nice to see the person at the airport that I came to see!
- I mean, I'm gonna tell you something. - [Alexa] Okay.
So I found out, like, she's been communicating with my dad.
Because she was upset,
talking a lot of [bleep], to turn him against me,
so there's, like, 150 text messages that she sent,
trying to make it like I'm such a piece of garbage.
Oh, my God!
Don't you think that that's a little bit
manipulative, on her part?
- Yeah... - [Alexa] And a huge red flag.
Yeah, but I just wanna get over there,
to find out what I need to find out.
So I might hire a PI.
Why are you shaking your head?
If you feel the need
to have to have a PI follow her,
there's an issue!
- No, that's not true. - [Alexa] No.
- Really? - [Riley] So, if you know me,
I need to over-stand, not understand,
I need to over-stand stuff.
- I know, but I also know... - Yeah.
- ...that the foundation of any relationship... - Mm-hmm?
...has to be trust and honesty.
- [Riley] Yeah. - And right now, your foundation
has super cracks in it.
[Riley] Yes, but I wanna be with her.
- I'm going there to fight for this, you know? - Okay...
So it's about getting all the information possible
- to make an informed decision. - [Alexa] Okay...
[Alexa] I just really, really hope you get the answers you seek.
[Riley] I think I will get the answers I seek.
[Riley] Holy crap.
- [Riley] Thank you. - [Alexa] Aw...
- You take care, okay? Be safe. - [Riley] I will. Safe drive.
Bye!
I'm very afraid for Riley.
Because Violet going to his dad,
that's very manipulative.
To me, it's a big red flag.
But once he opens his heart to someone,
he protects that person,
even though that person may not be deserving of his protection.
But, you know what? I'm still supportive of his decision.
And if that's what he needs to do,
then that's what he needs to do.
[Riley] Check-in is over here? Okay.
This is scary.
I'm about to take a flight,
over a ocean, or two,
and I'm going to meet a person
that I've only spoken to on an app.
I don't know what to expect when I finally meet her when I land.
This is it.
We're getting on the plane now.
Clearly, we have a lot of things to work through,
but I'm hoping,
with every ounce of being,
that we can connect and be on that next level,
because if things work out,
I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with her.
I've always wanted to have my own family,
and I'm really ready to become a husband and a step-father.
So this trip could change my life forever.
[Wasim speaking]
My mom will say, "Why you want to marry divorced woman?"
I know her reaction can be very bad.
[speaking in foreign language]
[Amanda speaking]
"Dada died."
I don't know if I should have come here.
[Razvan speaking]
I know, but...
Razvan doesn't fully understand.
It's hard to be in the moment and enjoy things
because I feel guilty for leaving my kids.
Like, what if I...
[Wasim speaking]
Be careful.
[Wasim speaking in foreign language]
[Nicola speaking in foreign language]
[Nicola in English] After seven years,
talking in the phone,
all the day, not sleeping,
my sweetheart, Meisha,
is coming from Minnesota in a few days,
and I cannot explain to you
how much I am excited to see her, you know?
But today, I am going fishing.
This is the spot that my dad used to go fish.
And his dad was a fisherman.
His grandfather was a fisherman.
Fishing is in my blood.
[Nicola exclaiming]
[both laughing]
But my best friend Wasim,
he is my rosary warrior.
So he's the only person that I can talk about my personal life.
[conversing in Hebrew]
[both laugh]
[in English] The only relationship I had, it was 16 years ago.
And it wasn't very serious relationship.
So I am still a virgin,
and I would never sleep with a woman until I get married.
or 46, or 65,
I have to be a virgin, and celibate,
until I get married to the right woman.
[in foreign language]
[in English] I don't, I don't like that Meisha slept with somebody else before,
but the Bible telling you,
that when Jesus come into your life,
you become a new creature.
Your past does not matter anymore.
So I must look at Meisha now in a new way.
She's a virgin.
Because the Holy Spirit enter her life,
and change her, from inside, to outsides.
[in Hebrew]
[in English] My mom, she think I'm talking with some woman.
You know, when I'm in my room.
But she don't know that this woman is real.
She just think she is a friend.
If in doubt, my mom is not devout Catholic.
People in the Middle East wanted to marry a virgin.
That's how the tradition here.
I know her reaction can be very bad.
Family is very important here.
And I, a little bit concerned that my mom
will not accept Meisha, 'cause of who she is.
[in Hebrew]
It is my first full day with Razvan in Romania
and he is taking me to see what is called Old Town.
Thank you.
I really want us to have a good time
but I'm a little thrown off by something that just happened.
Like, oh my gosh. Why would Jr. say that?
We were talking for one second and he was like,
"Dada died."
Right before we left Razvan's apartment,
my son, Jr., called
and he asked to talk with Razvan
and then out of nowhere,
Jr. says, "Oh, my dada died."
Him and Razvan talk about it a little bit
And then I tell him
even though his dad died,
he's still all around
and he's like, "I already know that." And then he ran away.
And, so, it kind of caught me off-guard,
I don't know why he said that to Razvan, um,
I don't know.
It just makes me feel, like, sad
and makes me feel like I don't know if I should have come here or not,
you know?
I know, but a chance for us versus, like,
my children's well-being.
Like, I don't want to, like, hurt them.
Yeah.
What if I... leave early?
Would you be, like, upset?
If I leave to go back to see my kids 'cause they're hurt?
- Like and... - Yeah?
For you.
What about for my kids?
I know Amanda's kids have been through a lot
and I do understand that it's hard for her
being away from her kids.
I'm really trying to empathize with her feelings.
And I'm trying my best to make her feel better.
I want to show her we can focus on this moment between us.
Okay.
No.
It's hard to be in the moment and enjoy things
because I am a little bit distracted.
I feel guilty for leaving my kids.
But I need to see if this is the right guy
to bring into my kids' lives,
to, you know, have a future with.
But what's so hard is Razvan doesn't fully understand.
Losing their dad,
they still have all these feelings and...
[sighs] I don't know. I've, like...
There's nothing really... there's no, like guide book
to get you through this. You just have to
do your best. And it's so important for me
to keep them in that place.
Like, I don't want...
them to
be hurt again.
Baby, all I want is to peel this.
Sit there and peel this potato, okay?
Jasmine tries to order me around sometimes
and it just frustrates me.
If you don't have a cutting board, I can't do it.
Thank you for the help, Gino.
I'm not cooking without the proper equipment.
Where are you going?
Baby?
[growling softly]
[whispers]
[Gino grunts]
[Gino exhales]
[Jasmine speaking]
[Jasmine] Yeah?
[Jasmine] It's very disappointing that Gino just got here,
and he's already showing me zero interest,
on having, you know, any kind of
intimacy with me.
But while he has been napping,
I had some extra time to think.
Baby, I'm sorry. Can we start again?
Let's reset.
[Jasmine] I'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable.
I understand that your personality is very different from mine.
[Coco growling]
- [Gino] Okay. - [Jasmine] Yeah?
[Jasmine] I might be hurt, but the reality is that
my man is here for three weeks,
so we don't have to fix everything on the first night.
It's very important that we start off on the right foot.
So let's start fresh and new,
I'm gonna cook dinner.
How does that sound?
- Sounds good. - [Jasmine] Okay.
- So give me kiss? - [smacking lips]
Okay.
Let's go make dinner.
[Gino] Okay.
[Gino] I don't know if Jasmine understands that
when I turn her down,
it doesn't mean I'm not attracted to her.
It's just, sex is not the most important thing on my mind tonight.
Um, there's more important stuff.
Look at this.
Meatballs.
- [Gino] Oh, nice. - Yeah, but they are plant-based,
and you will see that they taste--
- [Gino] I like meat, though. - Exactly the same as meat meat.
- [Jasmine] You know? - [Gino] Oh, you're kidding.
[both chuckle]
[Jasmine] So, you're gonna help me peel the potatoes.
[Gino] I don't know where anything's at.
[Jasmine] So what are you looking for?
[Gino] I'm looking for, like, a peeler, or the...
Oh, I haven't seen a peeler, but we do have a knife.
[Jasmine] So that's why I'm telling you--
[Gino] How are we gonna cook,
with not having the right tool?
Baby, take it.
[Gino] Uh...
- Where's the cutting board? - [Jasmine] Here.
Use this as a cutting board.
- [Gino] Hmm... - Baby, please.
We can't cook,
um, without the proper equipment.
[Jasmine] Just start, just, baby.
All I want is to peel this.
Sit there and peel this potato, okay?
So one instruction at a time.
- Peel the potato. - All right. I heard you.
[Jasmine] Okay, perfect.
[Gino] We just don't have the equipment that I would normally--
Yeah, baby, this is the fifth time you said it.
But you're not performing a surgery,
you're just peeling a potato.
It's not easy to peel potatoes with a giant knife.
Jasmine tries to order me around sometimes.
And it just frustrates me.
I am not a pushover,
and I am not gonna let Jasmine push me around.
Do you mind hurrying up?
Because the water is about to boil.
[Jasmine] Good.
And you have to peel a carrot.
Baby, hurry up.
No, no no. I'm not peeling with that knife anymore.
I need a peeler.
You know how you do it?
- Do it like this... - I'm not using... I'm not gonna.
Now, the beet.
What about it?
Peel it.
With what?
[Jasmine] With a knife!
No, I need, no, I need a cutting board.
I will not do it on a plate.
I need, if you don't have a cutting board, I can't do it.
Listen, that's the way it is when I move
- to a new apartment that is furnished. - [Gino] Right.
Sometimes they have, like,
a lot of stuff, sometimes they--
But we can't cook until you get the proper equipment.
You don't have a cutting board--
You don't have a peeler or a cutting board.
Well, I'm not cooking without the proper equipment.
- Thank you for the help, Gino. - [Gino] Yeah.
[Gino] All right, um.
Where are you going?
[Jasmine] Baby?
I had that annulment meeting.
It was actually really intense. Like...
These people are gonna determine forever
the rest of my future.
Even though I have been legally divorced,
in the eyes of God, I am still not allowed to remarry
unless I am granted an annulment.
[Meisha] Are you my baby?
[smacking lips] Are you my sweet pumpkin?
[Meisha] In a few days, I am flying over to Israel
to meet my boyfriend, Nicola,
in person for the very first time,
and I am beyond excited.
This is the same brand as... [indistinct]
You'll like him. He's gonna protect you, 'cause he's sweet.
[Meisha] I'm a bit nervous as to what it's gonna be like
when we're together in person.
Even though we're both very devout Catholics,
we have lived very different lives up until this point,
so that could complicate things.
[device beeping]
[Meisha] Hi!
Hi, sweetie pie.
Did you see who had just came to visit you? Look.
- [Nicola] Oh... - [Meisha] Your little baby!
- Oh my god, Meisha. - [laughing] Stop.
[Meisha] Stop!
- [Nicola] No... - It is your baby. Get used to it.
Nicola!
- It's a cat! - You're being very overdramatic about a cat.
- Okay... - [Meisha] Hey, but listen.
Do you remember I told you I had that annulment meeting...
- [Nicola] Yes. - ...at the archdiocese?
[Meisha] The interview itself, was actually, like,
really intense, like,
these people are gonna determine forever
the rest of my future.
Like, that was a weird feeling.
Even though I have been legally divorced for over a decade,
in the eyes of God,
I am still not allowed to remarry
unless I am granted an annulment.
In order to get an annulment,
there is special criteria that the church looks at
to make sure that first marriage
was not a valid marriage.
I've started the process,
but there is no guarantee that it will be approved.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] Like, you do kind of say to yourself, like, what if they said,
"Nope. We're not granting the annulment."
Like, what that would mean for me and you.
[Meisha] Yeah, I know.
[Meisha] Yeah, I know, and it would just be weird,
because you couldn't really--
- Well, keep praying for us. - [Nicola] Yes.
[Meisha] I'm trying to stay positive,
that everything is going to work out
the way that I believe it should,
but if I don't get this annulment,
then I'm not sure what's gonna happen.
The only way that Nicola and I can be together,
is to get the K-1 visa,
for Nicola to come to the US,
and for us to get married.
If we can't do that, then,
I don't think realistically, we have a future.
[Morea] That makes you look like a sailor.
You think a sailor wore this?
[chuckling]
[Meisha] This, I thought you guys would think it is super cute.
That's, yeah. Okay, bring that.
Right now I live with my daughters,
Morea, who is 19,
and my younger daughter Svea, who is 17.
How about this one?
No. I...[laughs] I just don't like it!
[Meisha feigns screaming] Why? This is so cute!
- Why? - [Svea] I just don't like the pattern.
My daughters and I have certainly been through a lot.
Not only with my divorce,
with their father, but also
because of my spiritual awakening,
that's quite a transformation
for them to watch their mother go through.
And now, this whole experience with Nicola.
So it's very important for me to know
that I have their support before going to Israel.
[Meisha] They're all in the yes pile.
'Cause I don't agree.
It's really exciting that you guys finally get to meet.
Yes.
And if I did get engaged...
[Morea] I think it'd be really weird.
Thinking about a guy coming in here and living with us.
And we haven't even met him.
We have no idea what he's like.
Like, we've talked on the phone, for, like, a minute.
- Mm-hmm. - So...
[Morea] I think my mom and Nicola getting engaged
would be, you know, really nice for both of them.
You know, they both believe in the same thing, they're very similar.
It's just always a concern, of, like,
he's never met any of us in person.
Every time I've talked to him, it's been pretty awkward.
He's always praying for us,
he's always, you know, telling us about God.
And that's pretty much all we talk about.
So I don't feel like we've really gotten to know him.
[Morea] Something that makes me a little worried
is, like, how Catholic he is.
Yeah.
Would we be, like, judged,
for, you know, the things we do?
- Mm-hmm. - [Morea] Like, what if me and Svea, like,
get a boyfriend, and,
you know, would that ever be an issue?
I wish I could say, like,
well, not everything will turn into
a mini-sermon about what God thinks about that.
But I can't, 'cause I don't know.
'Cause I don't think me or Svea would wanna live
with someone who's constantly, like, judging,
- you know? - Mmm-hmm.
Nicola is extraordinarily rooted in his faith.
So is your mother, but he has been rooted his whole life,
so he's very strong.
But he won't be our real parent,
and I think of how we live our lives
is nothing that he can really control.
I think that's something that, you know,
you should ask about when you're there
before deciding that you wanna spend
- the rest of your life with him. - Yeah.
I believe that God has given me a love
that I've been searching for in Nicola.
But my biggest love is my daughters.
So he's going to have to accept my daughters
for exactly who they are,
even if they are not as devout as he or I right now.
And I do worry that that might be really hard for him,
and that would spell real worry for him and I.
[speaking foreign language]
[chuckles]
First stop, LA,
I'm finally heading to Vietnam
to meet Violet in person.
And I've been waiting so long for this trip, and I'm excited.
This is Tony.
I met Tony when we were waiting for our flight.
We're gonna be on the same flight.
Tony, where are you going?
Hi, I'm going to Thailand.
Look at that. We get to meet the most interesting people
while waiting for our flight.
[Riley] I never travelled this far for a woman
but I think that Violet is worth it,
and I really believe that we could be a family.
I'm coming to see you, baby. I'm coming see you.
[speaking foreign language]
[in English]
[speaking foreign language]
[in English]
[speaking foreign language]
[in English] But I'm also strong woman.
[chuckles]
[woman speaking foreign language]
[Violet speaking in foreign language]
[in English]
[speaking foreign language]
[in English]
Have a great day, Violet.
Just letting you know I'm thinking about you.
Talk to you later, okay, baby girl?
Bye.
[Violet speaking in foreign language]
[speaking foreign language]
[in English]
[speaking Vietnamese]
[all laughing]
We should have a toast
for a beautiful future together.
[Razvan] So...
I really want to ask you something.
[Amanda chuckles] What?
Stop it, no.
[chuckles]
Wait a minute!
[Razvan speaking]
Let's see it. Show me now.
It's kind of like...
It's just like...
[Amanda chuckles]
Mmm-hmm.
What is it?
[Razvan speaks]
[Amanda] It looks like something, like, from a movie.
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] Yes.
[Razvan speaking]
Okay. To what?
I love you.
[laughs] What?
Tell me something silly.
Stop that. No. No.
[chuckles]
I knew it was the key.
But I don't think I will be back in Romania for some time,
so I don't need a key.
You'll what?
For what?
Why didn't you ever tell me that you scheduled this?
I want it to be a surprise.
We always talk about me coming there,
and to get my papers, and be together.
So, it's everything is good
No...
That's not realistic.
[Amanda] Like, I have to see.
I need to consider talking with Junior and Leo,
like, letting them know, like, "Oh, how would you feel
if Razvan would come here to visit?"
I have to think of my kids.
And I think it's just way too soon.
I don't know.
[Amanda] When Razvan says that he wants to come to America,
it seems insane to me.
And I think it's just way too soon.
Like, there's just too much I have to figure out.
And, you know, it seems like he was disappointed.
But I'm trying my best to make him understand
that it's about my kids
and their feelings.
And that's my job as a mom to do what's best for them
and put my feelings, you know, behind theirs.
Maybe when you go there
you can tell them a little bit, you know,
that we are together.
I don't think you fully, like, understand
what it's like to be a widow of two children.
Meeting someone in another country,
introducing that guy to her young children.
It's their feelings, how they feel about it.
I know her kids come first, but...
I don't know.
I understand. I totally understand, but...
First of all...
...you don't even know how they feel about me.
Okay, I can tell you that they would not be okay
with you coming right after I leave here
and, like, staying in our house.
Like, are you telling me that "I'm not willing to wait
and be by your side to make sure your children
and are okay with it" for one year?
You know, what would be really hard,
like, you coming into their lives,
and then, like, us not working out.
And then it's, like, another guy, like, that just left,
you know, like their dad.
I'm just saying, like, how would that make them feel?
So, it's so much more fragile.
I came here to Romania
to meet the man of my dreams.
The man that I want to have a future with.
But also it's a very delicate situation,
and I want to be certain
about the relationship before my kids are involved.
I can't take any risks on that.
I really wanted to cook a goddamn vegan food for you!
Don't raise your voice.
It's so frustrating because you don't listen when I speak.
I'm just trying to cook for you, Gino.
Jasmine needs to understand that she can't walk all over me.
[sobbing] I just wanna make him happy but I can't.
I really wanted to cook a goddamn vegan food for you!
Don't raise your voice.
It's so frustrating because you don't listen when I speak.
I'm just trying to cook for you, Gino.
I understand that but I'm not gonna cook
without the proper equipment.
[sobbing]
Just because I asked you to peel a few potatoes.
Like, what is wrong with that?
[Gino] I'm just frustrated because, you know, um,
I just don't think that, uh,
she was understanding me.
Jasmine doesn't listen to me.
A lot of times when I try to speak to her,
like, it goes in one ear and out the other, kind of thing.
I don't wanna upset her,
but Jasmine needs to understand that
she can't walk all over me,
and I'm gonna stand up for myself.
I mean, it hurts me that he treats me bad,
but at the same time it hurts me that he's hurt
because I don't know how his freaking mind works.
And maybe he's suffering.
And I feel bad that he got angry.
Like, I really tried to take care of everything,
and I thought that this was gonna be fun, you know.
We were gonna enjoy.
We were gonna be at this moment
happily eating our food.
[Jasmine sobbing]
Why are you crying like that?
Because you're mad at me.
I'm not mad at you. I didn't say I was mad.
I mean, I just like to have the proper equipment,
you know, to cook.
Like, sometimes in my house we didn't have things,
and we figured out how to solve it.
That's the way I am. My mind works differently.
I am not saying that it's not important,
but for me it's not a big deal.
But now I know that for you it is.
And I'm sorry.
You don't have to be sorry.
So do you wanna order food?
Hmm, uh, well,
not really. I mean...
I traveled today, so I think I'm gonna go to sleep.
Okay, my angel, let me put you to bed.
- Okay? - Okay.
- Your sleeping hat? - Yeah.
I know Jasmine, you know, loves me, um,
very much and I do love her very much,
but today didn't go like I hoped
so I'm looking forward to a good sleep, because
I haven't had any time to relax or anything
so that could be part of it.
Do you want me to lay with you,
or do you want me to go out
- and wait until you're sleeping? - Yeah.
Just let me sleep.
Okay, okay.
I don't know how tomorrow he's gonna feel.
But we cannot keep wasting our time like this.
I really wanted to collect good memories
and have a better outlook
of how our lives living together as a married couple
is gonna look like in the United States.
[woman] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
People would describe me as the life of the party for sure.
[woman] Whoo!
But I'm really looking for somebody that I wanna
spend the rest of my life with.
And I think with Cleo, I may have found that.
But she is really different from women that I've dated in the past.
[Sheila speaking]
[speaking foreign language]
[producer speaking]
[Amanda] I find it really rude
that Razvan is talking to this guy.
Obviously about me.
What did he say
because I heard my name a few times.
[man speaking]
[both chuckle]
[Riley] I just arrived in Vietnam
and that chemistry that I was feeling with Violet,
it's real and... I'm just so happy.
So, what are we doing tomorrow?
You kidding me?
You think I flew for two days
to come here and not see you?
No.
I wanted to talk to you about signing a prenup.
[Jasmine speaking]
If there is a [bleep] prenup,
I'm not gonna marry you.
[bleep] Just forget it.
[bleep] you. [bleep] you.