[man] Previously on Before the 90 Days
Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
I was not raised with any religion.
I was the fun party girl.
But I had a pretty profound spiritual awakening,
and God has given me a love that I've been searching for in Nicola.
So you're not worried that he's a virgin.
[woman speaking in Vietnamese]
[Violet speaking Vietnamese]
[laughing]
[Violet speaking in English]
[Violet speaking in Vietnamese]
[Riley in English] I just wanna get over there,
find out what I need to find out,
so I might hire a PI.
Maybe you can tell the kids that we are together.
I can't risk you coming into their lives
and us not working out.
And then it's like another guy that'd just left,
you know, like their dad.
It's so much more fragile.
[Jasmine speaking] Baby...
Well, I'm not cooking with the proper equipment.
Jasmine needs to understand that I am not a pushover.
I really wanted to cook a goddamn vegan food for you!
[crying]
When I get to Israel,
and after I meet Nicola, I'll text you.
-Okay. -I'll definitely text you.
It's happening.
My daughters are dropping me
off at the airport
and I am finally off to Israel to meet Nicola.
-So, just, like, go... -So, just pull up here, honey.
[Svea] Well, here we go.
Two weeks is a long time to be away,
but at the same time, two weeks may not feel like a long time at all,
especially being that I have to learn so much about Nicola.
I really need this.
I love you both so much.
-[Meisha's daughter] Have fun. -[Meisha] I will.
I'll be smart.
["Chasing Stars" playing]
♪ You're living the moment♪
♪ Carried away from who you are♪
[Meisha] All right, the bags are checked
and I'm, like, so excited, but I'm so nervous.
Um, I'm gonna see what happens.
♪ Chasing stars♪
♪ Chasing...♪
At the end of this trip, the hopeful outcome is engagement.
I mean, he's everything to me, so...
The worst case scenario is that I even lose my best friend
and I think that that ultimately
is what could potentially hurt the most.
Probably a little bit of a crazy person but...
But I'm such a firm believer
that sometimes we just have to step out in faith and say,
"Screw it. I am just going for it."
I love him and he is my babe.
Here I come.
[airplane roaring]
Oh, Meisha, I'm coming.
[engine whirring]
I am so excited.
I mean, of course I'm gonna be nervous.
I've been nervous the whole time.
Seven years of talking about this moment.
[laughs]
[indistinct chatter in background]
And my expectation with Meisha...
Ugh, it's going to be amazing.
When I'm going to see Meisha,
I'm going to give her, like, you know...
Small kiss.
Small, fast and nice with emotion, you know.
[kisses]
[laughs]
Is that Meisha?
Nah.
Oh, my God. [chuckles]
Meisha! [chuckles]
Oh, finally... [chuckles]
Oh, my...
[Meisha speaking]
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha speaking]
[both chuckling]
[Meisha speaking]
-[Meisha speaking] -[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha speaking]
[Nicola chuckling]
I'm so completed.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] How happy are you?
Okay, good.
Thanks be to God.
-[speaking Hebrew] -Huh?
[speaking Hebrew]
-What does that mean again? -[Nicola]
Did I look exactly how you thought I would when you first saw me?
Yes.
-I looked exactly... -Exactly, even better.
-Better in person than on the phone? -Better in person.
Yes.
It far exceeded my expectations.
Even cuter, even better, and...
Just my babe.
[chuckles]
-[Meisha] -[Nicola speaking indistinctly]
Aw.
-[Nicola chuckles] -[Meisha] Oh, my God.
Is it... [chuckles]
-Okay. -[Nicola speaking]
-Stop it. -[Nicola speaking]
-Okay... -[Nicola speaking]
Is this gonna... Is your car still gonna run?
[Nicola chuckles]
-Oh, okay. -[Nicola speaking]
Let's go.
-[Meisha] I'm so glad I got to kiss you. -[Nicola speaking]
[straining]
-[Meisha] Yes! -[Nicola sighs]
Let's say one Our Father, and...
-[both] One Hail Mary. -...that this car does not break down.
Do you think it's gonna...
Okay.
Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name...
What's most important right now
is that me and Nico, like, get to know each other on the deepest level possible.
I have to take this time to really get to know Nicola and his world,
so we can decide if we wanna be together forever,
-which I think we do. -Yes.
Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be.
Amen. Let's go.
[Gino] I wanna put a few things away here.
I'm so happy, babe, that you're in a better mood today, you know.
-[Gino] Oh. -I know I was rough last night.
[Gino speaking]
I only had a...
a few hours sleep, you know, so...
-[Jasmine] Bad. -So I feel a little better today.
Yeah. What I'm trying to tell is that you really surprised me this morning.
I was not expecting you to be... [chuckles]
all, like, ready and...
[laughs]
I was not expecting it and it was good.
That's good to hear, baby.
Mmm.
[chuckles]
Where can I put this?
[Jasmine speaking]
So you're gonna try to do it more frequent?
Yeah, let's see how it goes.
You know, I don't like to plan stuff like that.
-Let's just let it happen naturally. -Naturally, right?
But you know what? I did bring a couple of gifts for you.
[gasps] Thank you, baby.
Ta-da!
Uh, a travel pocket.
I know you used the other one so much, it...
I believe you told me it broke,
so I wanted to get you another one.
Yeah, so you brought me exactly the same, yeah.
You were using it everyday and I wanted to get you
something that you can use everyday.
[Jasmine chuckles] Thank you, baby.
I would say creative is number one.
She gave me very creative gifts the first time I met her.
-Yeah. -Those were...
-Very thoughtful. -Those were the best gifts
because, you know, it comes from the heart.
-I... -Everything that I do for you comes from my heart, okay?
Everything, baby, everything,
because I love you.
-I love you too. -Aw, my baby.
So cute.
So I also got you...
some hair that you asked me...
to investigate to show you what they offer in Michigan.
It's 330 bucks.
[Jasmine] Thank you, baby.
I love this gift, but it's just...
Do you have, like, any idea how many of this
I have to put on to get this look?
-I... -How many do you use?
I use, like, ten.
-You use ten. -[Jasmine] Yeah.
So, like, this hair cost me $3,500, okay?
I thought it was, like, half of that cost,
But it's good that we're having this conversation right now
so you can have an idea because once I'm in Michigan,
I'm gonna be your wife, you know...
So, it's not gonna be, you know, like, me paying for all these things.
[Gino chuckles]
[Jasmine] I know that Gino thinks that I'm unreasonable,
but I have sacrificed so many things for our relationship.
I'm giving up everything here in Panama.
So the one thing I'm not going to sacrifice
is my quality of life once I move to the United States.
You want a beautiful wife, this is what it takes.
You know, you just want...
You're not thinking about budget.
You're just asking for things that, you know,
are pretty luxurious
and you have to do things within a budget.
Gino, I'm not gonna stop wearing hair extensions once I'm in Michigan.
You understand?
Well, we're certainly, one way or the other,
we'll work it out, so don't worry.
Okay, let's go to breakfast.
Okay.
[sniffs]
She knows I have some money saved, okay?
That's the problem.
She thinks she can grab my retirement money like it's cash
and start spending it.
No, you can't do that.
Are you ready? We're starving.
You're gonna bring the unicorn?
Yeah, I wanna bring my unicorn.
I really think it's time for me to set the expectations for Jasmine
when it comes to my money.
But I'm terrified about bringing up the prenup to her
because she might take it the wrong way
and, you know, she might explode.
[Christian] People would describe me as the life of the party
but I'm really looking for somebody
that I want to spend the rest of my life with.
and I think I may have found them.
But Cleo is really different from women that I've dated in the past.
I have a proposal for you today.
Because you're gonna be just wasting your time
-explaining [bleep] to me. -No, no, no, no.
-No, it's not all... -If there is a [bleep] prenup, I'm not gonna marry you.
I don't look too bad, huh?
I clean up pretty nice.
[laughs]
I'm getting ready for a Halloween party
that my friend Morgan's throwing.
I'm going as Chet Steiner, '70s news man.
Are we live? We're live.
3, 2, 1...
This is Chet Steiner reporting from Twin Cities, Minnesota.
Outside of a Halloween party now, we're gonna go inside
and see where everything's all about.
Stay tuned for more.
My name's Christian.
I'm from Minneapolis, Minnesota
and I'm 30 years old.
Hey everybody!
-[woman] Hey. -[Christian] How's it goin'?
People would describe me as the life of the party for sure.
[indistinct]
[woman] Whoo!
-[people talking indistinctly] -[woman laughs]
When I go out, I like to dance.
I like to drink a cocktail
and I love to make people laugh.
Now can we get a comment from the cow, please?
[women laughing]
When it comes to dating, I've dated many types of women.
I have been called starry-eyed Christian before
where I'm really, really infatuated with somebody for a time
and then maybe just doesn't work out
and as soon as they're gone, somebody else is there.
I've had a few serious relationships.
During the pandemic, I eloped with a girlfriend of mine
but I ended up getting it annulled later that year.
I never really settling.
I'm really looking for somebody
that I wanna spend the rest of my life with.
A companion, a partner.
[fire crackling]
[Christian] There's something about that dynamic of a husband and wife
that no matter what, at the end of the day
you have somebody to come home to,
that I've always been longing for.
And I think with Cleo, I may have found that.
Cleo to me is like a princess from another planet.
She's a model from Italy.
She lives in London.
She's extremely gorgeous.
She's wonderful.
She's very genuine.
Cleo and I first started talking
on social media almost a year ago.
I was just scrolling and saw her.
She has this humor that just cracks me up
and if a girl can make me laugh, I just...
I tend to crush pretty easy.
It started off as very friendly, but
soon it started to snowball into something that was more.
And it slowly evolved over time where I got really strong feelings for her.
Even though I've never met her before,
I feel extremely close to her.
And probably for the last four months,
we've been on a video call every single night
and sometimes for hours at a time.
But Cleo is really different from women that I've dated in the past.
[people talking indistinctly]
[drilling]
[Cleo] I'm Cleo.
I'm 33 years old.
I'm a student and a model...
[car honks]
...and I'm autistic.
Just putting my sunflower lanyard on...
-[sirens wailing in background] -...and my light headphones
to, kind of, block the noise.
[vehicles honking]
[Cleo] Um, this is very noisy for me.
[sirens wailing]
[people talking indistinctly]
It affects the way a person
[bell dings]
I can get very easily overstimulated by various thing.
[wheels clattering]
[Cleo speaking]
[drum cracking]
[Cleo] It affects my ability to make decisions.
So I am really drawn to making sure that everything is predictable to an extent.
And throughout my life, being autistic has...
-[Cleo speaking] -[child crying]
[Cleo speaking]
I was subjected to a lot of bullying
because I was different.
I used to try my hardest to suppress and try to mask my symptoms
But I still fail miserably sometimes
and it was just really, really hard.
On the positive, I feel that being autistic
allows me to be unapologetically myself.
And I am proud of that.
-[Ousama] Hey, Cleo. -Nice to see you.
[Ousama] How are you?
-[Cleo] Okay. I'm a little bit stressed. -Running a little late?
-Yeah, I'm sorry I'm late. -[chuckles]
I just had to go through all of Central London...
-[Ousama] That's okay. -...and it was so busy.
-Yeah. -[Cleo] I'm a little bit overwhelmed right now,
so, like, I'm gonna need, like, a few minutes...
[Ousama] Yeah, chill, chill, we're chilling, we're chilling.
-I've got time today so no rush. -[Cleo] That's great.
[people talking indistinctly in background]
[Ousama] I met Cleo at university.
We connected over the weird stuff of life.
Spirits, ghosts, astrology, psychedelics.
All of the good stuff. [chuckles]
It was pretty intense this week.
-[Cleo] Yes. -Yep.
It was really intense despite the, um...
Like...
[chuckles softly]
Um, I just feel like...
Because, like, I mean...
Sorry, guys, it's just, kind of,
the first day's filming, and I feel like...
You know, I love to, kind of, understand people better.
Do you guys know your star sign,
or your personality type at all?
[Cleo] Okay. Yeah, I can totally see you being an Aquarius.
And...
[Cleo] A Leo. Okay.
And what about you?
A Libra.
Keeping a straight face. For sure. [laughs]
[Cleo speaking]
And understanding myself better.
-Yeah, sorry. It's just, like... -Yep, yep.
[Cleo] Yeah, yeah.
[Ousama speaking]
He's a Gemini.
-Mmm. -He's a Gemini.
-This is your first Gemini? -He is.
[Ousama speaking]
Very tumultuous. So, the highs are high, and the lows are low.
[Ousama] Yeah.
[Cleo speaking]
It is.
[mid-tempo electronic music playing]
[Cleo] My boyfriend's name is Christian.
We met a year ago.
And my first impression of him was...
I'm joking.
No, I'm joking.
Christian and I met on social media.
And we just started talking.
And pretty soon,
he was what I was thinking about
most of the day.
Christian is extroverted, he's goofy,
doesn't take himself too seriously.
[in generic American accent] You killed my brother,
you dirty rat.
[Cleo] And he just looks cute.
Like, I'm totally a simp for him.
A simp is like...
You're, like... I don't know, it's really hard to explain.
Like, basically your brain shuts off
and you're just dumb for now.
Like, you'd do anything for them.
[Ousama speaking]
Do you think you guys are a good match?
Um, I believe astrology does indicate tendencies,
as opposed to deciding destiny, but...
[Ousama] Yeah.
Changing plan every day.
Wanting to do one thing, and then,
-you know, doing another. -Yeah, yeah.
And really taking you on a roller-coaster.
So, me being autistic, I'm very introverted,
I'm kind of worried that this could cause some friction.
So, is that something that's kind of bothering you then?
Just, kind of, like, that super-extroverted side of him?
I mean, here's the thing.
Maybe the opposite attracts, but I feel, with him,
he's probably the most extroverted person
-that I've ever dated. -Hmm.
So, that, kind of, scares me a little bit.
[Ousama] Yeah.
[Cleo] In my past relationships,
there's definitely been times where I felt that being autistic
made me feel like I was a burden,
because maybe I was getting too anxious,
or I would refuse to do things, refuse to go out.
And that made things hard.
I feel like I've really put my heart out there for Christian,
but there's a real concern that maybe Christian
isn't necessarily somebody that's gonna be happy
being in a committed relationship.
You know, especially, with somebody like me.
And I do worry that I'll be totally heart-broken if things don't work out.
Love the chocolate.
[Amanda] I don't think this is cooked.
[Razvan speaking]
[Riley speaking]
I can't wait to give Violet a hug,
but we have a bet.
Whoever touched the other person first loses.
Beautiful.
So, I gotta stay strong.
Oh.
Ah, you gonna hug me first, you're gonna lose the bet.
[laughing]
[pigeons cooing]
[Razvan speaking]
But why are you, like, spreading it around like that?
And the pancake guy love the chocolate.
Mmm.
All right, pancake man.
We had such a long day, and I was so tired.
[Amanda] I've been in Romania with Razvan for two days now.
I'm very happy to be here with him,
but last night,
I got upset because
I feel like he was pushing too much
when it comes to telling my kids about our relationship.
So, how do you feel about our conversation last night?
[Razvan speaking]
Yeah. [chuckles softly]
[Amanda] I don't think this is cooked.
[Razvan speaking]
-[chuckling] No. No. -Come on. Come here.
[mumbling]
[Razvan speaking]
Do they have American food there?
Okay, girl.
[car door closes]
[Amanda] This looks nice.
-[Razvan speaking] -[Amanda] And healthy.
[Razvan speaking]
-[Amanda] Yeah. -[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] I don't eat dairy.
[Amanda] No.
I don't... I don't like packaged food. Like, really.
I'm sorry.
-I'm really not trying to be picky. -[sighs]
Like, these things, I don't eat them really.
[Razvan speaking]
Well, I choose you to be my boyfriend.
That's true.
I don't eat... I don't eat shellfish.
Shellfish. Fish with a shell.
Lobster, crab, shrimp.
I literally had told you that before.
Like, so many times.
[Amanda] I know Razvan and I are still getting to know one another, but...
Jeez Louise, I've told him so many times, like, what I eat.
Maybe it's not that common in Romania,
so he's not used to it.
But it's nice to see that Razvan's trying.
I just hope that, moving forward,
he can listen and respect my needs
the first time I tell him.
Or the second. Or I'll take it... Even the third.
[chuckles softly]
Salsa?
Yeah.
[Riley speaking]
After 37 hours of flights and layovers,
and 8,700 miles,
finally, I'm about to land in Vietnam.
And meet Violet for the very first time.
My stomach is kind of in knots because it's like,
we've been communicating for two years.
I can't believe I'm actually here in Vietnam.
My heart is going nuts right now.
I can't wait to give Violet a hug,
but we have a bet.
Whoever touched the other person first loses.
So, if I touch her first, she wins total control of me.
So, I gotta stay strong.
[Violet speaking]
I can't believe this is actually happening.
[Riley speaking]
Vi, Vi.
Look at you. Beautiful.
Oh.
Ah, you gonna hug me first, you're gonna lose the bet.
You hug me, you lose the bet.
Vi, Vi.
[Violet speaking]
You're gonna cry?
I'm not crying. You're crying.
Oh, you're so beautiful.
I lost?
Oh, no, no. You lose.
Okay, I lose.
-You're my boss. -Yeah.
Nearly two years, and I finally get to meet her in person,
and I'm, like, really...
I'm smiling too much.
Oh.
I think I'm really, really happy.
You lie.
You don't look anything like your photo.
No.
You look more beautiful.
Yeah.
[laughs boisterously]
Can I kiss you?
Yes.
Thank you.
How did I get so lucky to have you?
Yeah.
Come on, let's go. Where are we going? Which way?
-Uh... -You show me.
I'll follow you, boss.
[Riley] Yeah, for now.
[Riley laughs] The rest of my life?
I wanted to talk to you about how you feel,
you know, about signing a prenup.
Like, from the bottom of my heart...
Like [bleep] you.
A 100 times [bleep] you.
["Si Te Vas" by Abe Stewart playing]
[Gino] Ooh, Eiffel Tower.
[Jasmine chuckles] All right.
[Gino] That's pretty awesome.
Thank you.
[Gino] It's my first morning back in Panama,
and it feels so good to be with Jasmine.
But, after our conversation today
about spending expectations,
it worries me that Jasmine wants to live this life of luxury
when she comes to USA.
I was tired last night, okay?
But, I like massages.
Are you gonna be able to give them to me?
No, not like that. Just a regular massage.
Because I...
Regular massage is what I'm asking for. All right?
[Jasmine] Okay, whatever.
[Jasmine speaking in Spanish]
[Jasmine speaking in English]
I really appreciate it.
There's something I kind of want to talk to you today about
that's kind of important.
-So... -Which is?
Um...
Something that I've been thinking about recently,
and, um, I want to bring it up to you now.
The idea of a prenup came up in the past,
and she was not a happy camper.
Jasmine shut it down pretty quickly
and I didn't wanna fight with her at the time.
But it's different now.
Like, we have a lot of issues going on,
and our visa could be approved anytime soon.
So, I mean, I feel like I have to do it.
So, you know I've been working since I graduated college
-in 1993. -Yeah.
And I've been working hard my whole life,
getting up every day, going to work.
I got that part. So?
No, I'm just trying to explain to you what's going on with my investments
-that I've saved... -Are you gonna lose your money?
No, no, no, no. So...
Okay, what I'm trying to say is, um...
I wanted to talk to you about how you feel,
um, you know, about signing a prenup.
Now, here's the deal with that.
Let me explain.
I'm super in love with you. You're super in love with me.
We're both very in love, okay?
But, like, if, um...
What I'm saying is, uh...
What am I saying?
Um...
I forgot where I was. But, um...
Like, it hurts me. Like, you think I'm marrying you to...
To divorce, first of all.
No, I... No.
I'm not saying that.
I'm saying I think we'll be together forever.
I think we're gonna last forever.
I know we're both in love,
-and were gonna last forever. -So why do you need a prenup?
Because in case something happens outside of our...
Do you listen how stupid you sound right now?
You know what? If you wanna hear me,
like, from the bottom of my heart...
Like [bleep] you.
A 100 times [bleep] you.
It's very disrespectful.
It seems like this is kind of like
a lot of our arguments how they go.
Like, you always get upset and then that's it.
That's your position.
My position is
I'm just taking it out,
and we're no longer engaged.
[Jasmine speaking via voice-over]
Gino and I have talked about the prenup before, but...
Because after two years,
you're expecting someone to know who you are.
And he doesn't know me.
According to him, I'm gonna take everything from him,
and he's gonna lose his money.
That's the perception he has of me.
So, you're gonna finish that?
I don't wanna stay here any longer.
I can bring this home with me, I think.
Yeah.
She's always told me,
"You know, we're gonna be forever, Gino.
You know, I would rather have you dead
than to be with another person,"
she'd tell me.
Hola.Uh, I want to bring my food home.
For her to come out suddenly,
and say, "Oh, no, forget all of that what we talked about.
By the way, we're gonna break-up today because
you're saying that you wanna protect your assets."
[Jasmine] I can do it by myself.
Close the door.
[Gino] It makes me wonder, you know,
what she's in this for. You know, it kind of makes me question it.
[Jasmine] I can open my own door.
[via sign language]
[Sheila speaking]
[Sheila speaking other language]
[softly in English] What?
[via sign language]
[Sheila speaking]
And I feel so excited, and happy,
and just a little nervous.
[Sheila speaking other language]
[speaking other language]
[Sheila speaking other language]
[Sheila speaking in English]
[speaking in native language]
[speaking English] I want David and I have some privacy
and... [clears throat]
[chuckles]
[speaking Tagalog]
[speaking English]
[speaking Tagalog]
[speaking English]
[Sheila speaking]
♪ When your heart's a racer, racing at the speed of light ♪
♪ And you feel like you got nowhere else to go♪
♪ Know I'll hold you till the sun comes in the morning light ♪
♪ Yeah, I'll keep you safe I'll never let you go ♪
♪ I'll never let you go ♪
[Sheila crying]
[Sheila sniffles]
[Sheila clears throat]
what... what you...
What you think? What?
[laughs]
Thank you.
[giggles]
[producer] In person... [laughs]
No, you. You.
[laughs]
[giggles]
How was your flight?
You ate?
Little hungry?
Okay.
You can... [chuckles]
[giggles]
[cries]
[producer] "H".
Hotel.
[laughs]
Oh, yeah. We... Maybe.
[Cleo speaking]
Have you discussed that at all?
How does that work with, like...
Well, I... You know, sex isn't
the end-all be-all in a relationship. At least for me.
-That's the thing... -[woman] I don't know, dude.
That's a huge part of relationships.
[chuckles softly]
In just a few days, my boyfriend Christian
is coming to London to meet me
for the very first time.
So, today I am meeting up with my friend Jane
and we are going for a little shopping trip
in a vintage store
because I love you know...
[chuckles softly] And I would love to find the perfect look to wear
when I meet Christian the first time at the airport.
Cleo, hey!
[Cleo] Oh, you're here!
-So, so nice to see you. You look so good. -Oh, thank you.
How is it going?
-[Jane speaking] -[Cleo] Yeah.
Oh, what do you think? Do you think this could be an option?
Your legs...
You don't want to hide your legs.
My mum always said you should show your legs
-as long as you can. -Exactly.
I have known Cleo for nearly a decade now.
She's a very beautiful person.
She was always very kind on the inside
and very, I think, fragile and very sensitive.
She lives her authentic self
and I have been there through that journey
and have seen, like, everything she had to go through
to actually arrive where she is today
and I admire her for that strength.
So what's so special about this guy?
-I mean... -Yeah, I mean, I always thought
that I was never going to be a person that was
ever going to have like a long-distance relationship,
And I was really, kind of, like, puzzled by how
like, even though we'd never met,
we had such a closeness and I think
that's really kind of, like, what, you know, swept me off my feet.
Are you not concerned, you know...
It is one thing to see a person on the chats, on a video,
but it doesn't give you, like, the body language...
Like, in a sense, yeah.
Yeah.
I mean, that would totally be, like, tragic. [chuckles] But, like...
But, like, I mean...
Especially because he's never dated a trans woman before.
At birth, I was assigned male.
However, I identify as a transgender woman.
Growing up, I always related more to my female peers.
I tried my hardest to fit in as, you know, a man
but that was just not what I felt.
And it was just so hard to, even, look in the mirror,
or just simply go about my daily life.
I remember going to sleep and, like, praying
that the next morning I would wake up as a girl.
And I didn't want to add anything else to the mix.
Have you discussed that at all?
Yeah, we have... We have...
We actually have talked about this.
I did bring up that insecurity
and he was, kind of, very honest about it.
Obviously, I am worried
that once he's here, like, there's maybe certain things about me
that, you know, maybe, like, he wouldn't have noticed online,
or, you know, maybe be bothered by
the things about me that I feel insecure about.
I've been transitioning for, like, nine years,
and right now, I medicate and take hormones
and also testosterone blocker on a daily basis.
There's a whole array of surgeries
that some transwomen elect to have.
Transgender people have their hairline lowered, their Adam's apple shaved.
Quite a few transwomen get gender confirmation surgery.
I don't think I have any hesitations about having surgery.
It's just about finding the right time and place
and I think it's also very important to choose the right person,
...it's not so much about whether he would be accepting
but it's more, is he going to be able
to, like, hold to the pressure, like societal pressure?
Or the fact that...
Like, you know, people would say, you know,
"She is not a woman. She is a..." you know,
"She's a man" or whatever.
Like, is he going to be able
to deal with all of that?
Because he has never dated a trans person,
is he going to stand by you?
I'm hoping. [chuckles] I mean...
[Christian] The game today is Texas hold'em.
All right. I am going to bet 200.
I'm going to London very soon to meet Cleo
and even though Cleo and I have not met in-person yet,
I feel closer to her than any woman I've dated
within the last few years, for sure.
[Christian speaking]
That's why I'm making this big trip all the way to London
to see if this relationship can go the distance.
So you're already in for 50?
-Now she wants to call, okay, all right. -[Kristen laughs]
-[man 1] Oh, you, damn. -I'm wondering now what do you got?
-Did you get a four or something? -[man 2] Something happened.
[Kristen] I don't know.
I may have just thrown my money away.
-I don't know. [laughs] -We'll see.
I'm very open with my friends about the fact
that Cleo's transgender.
But, I mean, if...
If I were to bring her around my friends and family
without having told them, I don't think anyone would be able to tell.
She presents as a woman
and she is gorgeous.
[Ben] So when are you heading to London?
Uh, pretty soon. Pretty soon, yeah.
It's definitely grandiose to travel across seas
not for the place but for a person.
[chuckles] That's true.
Yeah, there's just something about Cleo.
I mean, there's definitely some differences
but as far as like my feelings towards Cleo,
it's strong enough, I feel like, to overcome,
you know, any type of situation like that.
But have you ever, like, dated,
hooked-up with someone who's trans?
No, this is... This is going to be the first time.
Have you even explored with other genders
or is this all-new to you?
Uh, there is a time in college
where I made out with a guy.
And immediately I just knew, I was like,
"This ain't for me." Like, I'm heterosexual. AF. You know?
I'm just not into dudes.
So has Cleo had gender confirmation surgery?
That is something that she would have to say.
That is not something that I feel comfortable with disclosing with people.
Hypothetically, if you got some boobies up front.
-[Christian] Oh, my God. -You got a [bleep] down low.
-Oh, boy. Um... -[laughing]
I mean, I... I'd have to cross that bridge when I come to it.
So Cleo and I have discussed
our anatomy and...
But when my friends and family broach this subject,
I just find it extremely uncomfortable to answer
because it's not like I'm asking,
"Hey, buddy, what's your girlfriend's labia like?"
Or "Does she have a big [bleep]?"
It's kind of nasty word, too. Ugh.
But are you nervous?
Like, in this moment, no.
But I feel like, maybe in like in...
-[laughs] -...you know, when it's... when it's time,
when the sun goes down and everything.
But at the same time, like,
I'm not... I'm not worried about it, honestly.
[Kristen] How are you not worried about it?
'Cause, like, you're someone that's said,
"I am not attracted to men."
No, I'm not. So, I'm not. And it's not...
So how does that work with, like...
Well, I...
[exhales] I mean, you know, sex isn't the end-all
be-all in a relationship. At least for me.
-That's the thing... -[Kristen] I don't know, dude.
That's a huge part of relationships.
I'm wondering if this is like a... like an exploration for him.
It's not really something that I am for sure,
like, "Yes, he can handle it" or "No, he can't."
Um, but I think it will be hurtful for Cleo
if he isn't able.
So I don't know.
That is something that he really has to ask himself.
Well...
I mean...
Maybe I will have some anxieties or some apprehension, uh,
because, you know, it's definitely...
It's definitely going to be different.
I can't... I can't say that it won't be.
I think there's going to be some situations
that will present challenges for us.
But I'm putting a lot into this relationship
and I really don't want to consider
whether or not Cleo or I won't work out
because it really is kind of heartbreaking, to think about that.
So, Vivi, what are we doing tomorrow?
[Violet speaking]
[Riley] I don't understand how I'm not a priority for Violet right now.
Sucks.
[Riley speaking]
[laughing]
Normal? This is normal?
-[Violet speaking] -[Riley] Oh, my Lord.
Thirty-seven hours of travel and flights,
I'm finally in Vietnam,
and it's[chuckles] really exciting
to be with Violet in the flesh
because that chemistry and connection
that I was feeling with Violet, it's real.
And... [exhales] I'm just so happy.
[Riley chuckles]
[Riley] That's my hotel.
[Violet] It's your hotel.
[Violet speaking Vietnamese]
-Hello. -[woman] Good afternoon, sir.
Oh, I'm checking in.
-You want the two keys. -Yes.
[both laughing]
Violet and I both agree that
she would not be staying in a hotel with me
because she explained, in her culture, that
sleeping with a man that she's not married to is inappropriate
and I can definitely respect that.
But, she knocks on the door, I'm going to open it.
[laughs]
-This will be your room. -Hmm.
You will... You will put me in first... Wow.
Oh, it's a big bed.
[exhales] I'm here.
Vivi, you take it easy.
-I'm going to take a shower and everything. -[Violet] Yes.
We could go and get something to eat and just relax.
Mmm, I need to change clothes.
What time do you want to meet?
In 40 minutes?
-Okay? -Okay.
[Violet] I'm your boss.
-[Riley] You're my boss. -Yes.
-Vivi -Wow.
Hello.
-Oh, my God. -You look beautiful.
My God, you look beautiful.
Look at you.
You're beautiful.
-Thank you. -Can't get enough of you.
You know, in Vietnam, we have tradition of...
-Oh. -Yeah.
-Yes. -All right, so next time I'll wait for you.
-Yes. -You show up.
This definitely the Violet I know.
Very sassy, you know, very direct in what she's expecting
or what's going to happen.
I'm all about it because this trip needs to be
about full transparency and communication.
-Cheers. -Cheers to you and us.
It's great to be here
for a fun-filled two weeks.
Finally.
Oh, thank you. Yes.
So I wasn't here for your birthday.
-Aw. [laughs] -And I feel bad.
I got you pearls.
-Aw, thank you. -Happy birthday.
[Riley] So, pearl necklace, pearl bracelet, pearl earrings.
-You want me to put it on you? -Yeah.
Oh, which one you want to wear now?
-All of them... -This one.
That one? The wrist?
-Here you go. -[Violet] Okay.
Really?
I get a pat on the... I get pats on the cheek.
I bought you pearls.
[speaking Vietnamese]
So, we have a lot, you know...
to work on, right?
Mmm-hmm.
I have a lot of questions.
-[speaking English] -Yeah.
Okay.
So, what are we doing tomorrow?
Tomorrow...
Uh...
Okay, so what time will I be seeing you, then?
Uh...
What do you mean "if" I want to meet you?
I want to meet you.
-[laughs] -What do you mean "if"?
You think I flew for two days to come here...
-Yeah. -...and I might not want to see you?
"If" I want to see you? Are you kidding me?
-Nah. -Maybe tomorrow we have dinner together?
Okay.
It's a hard thing to find out on my first full day I'm here
that I won't have the day with her, you know?
You ready to go?
Let's go, okay.
[Riley] I'm only here for two weeks and I...
I don't understand how I'm not a priority for Violet right now.
Sucks.
-Stay, have a good night. -I'll see you tomorrow. Okay.
-Sleep well.
-Bye, baby. -[Riley] Okay, bye.
I have very very deep feelings for Violet
and I wanna believe in her and I wanna believe in us but
I'd expected a little more engagement from her.
Between our reactions about the pearls
and not wanting to speak about certain things
and then, not being able to spend time with me,
it's... it's definitely a little concerning.
[Riley speaking]
[Razvan speaking in English]
[Amanda chuckles] Okay, that was kinda good.
I think, little by little, Razvan and I,
are able to understand each other a little bit more.
And that makes me feel hopeful.
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] Aw, okay.
[birds chirping]
[Razvan speaking]
Oh, my gosh. Why are there so many birds?
[Razvan speaking]
But what if they poop on me?
[Amanda] I know.
[chuckles] They will.
It sounds like I am
walking in one of those old black-and-white movies
where the vampire comes out of a leaky alley
and it's creeping me out.
I mean, we are in Romania.
What if these are vampire bats?
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] Yeah.
[Razvan speaking]
[Amanda] Aw, how cute.
But I'm not an actress. I don't wanna do it.
[Razvan speaking]
So, you'll kiss this girl?
[exhales heavily]
Oh, you do? You have to think about it?
-[Razvan speaking] -Okay.
Before I came to Romania I made it clear to Razvan
that I am not okay with him kissing another woman.
I feel like Razvan has given me a lot of reasons to be jealous
just with his online content,
him flirting with other girls on his livestreams
and something about him kissing another woman in front of me,
it just makes me uneasy and I don't like it.
-[Razvan speaking] -[Amanda] Yeah.
Wonderful.
[Razvan speaking]
Okay.
[Razvan speaking]
My music career is also very important for me.
-[phone ringing] -[birds chirping]
[speaking foreign language]
[Ovidiu in English]
-[Razvan speaking in English] -[Amanda] Okay.
[Amanda chuckles]
[Razvan speaking foreign language]
[Ovidiu speaking foreign language]
[Amanda in English] I find it really rude
that Razvan is talking to this guy
obviously about me because I hear my name.
I don't know, it makes me, like,
uncomfortable a little bit because
I don't know what he's saying.
[Razvan and Ovidiu speaking foreign language]
[Razvan in English]
Sure.
-[Razvan speaking] -[Amanda] Okay.
So, what did he say?
Because I heard my name a few times.
What did you say?
No, no, what did I tell you the problem was?
Okay. Did I say I was jealous if you do
a video with another girl?
You can do whatever you want to do.
[Amanda] I'm just telling you my feelings on it
and you can make your own decision. Okay?
Do whatever you wanna do...
Your actions will tell me what I need to know.
So, that's fine.
[Razvan speaking]
[Nicola speaking in English]
I just don't know if I totally agree, yet.
[car honks]
[Meisha] Oh, my gosh. Why was it honking at you?
You're... not the best driver?
[cackles]
[Nicola speaking in English]
No. You're the best driver in the world.
[Nicola speaking]
-[Meisha] Wow, Nico! -[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] Holy!
-[Nicola speaking] -[Meisha] That is insane!
[man 1] With pleasure.
-Yes, I... gave you. -[Nicola speaking]
[man 1] Okay.
[Meisha] That is... that's a lot of information but okay.
-Okay, you just go to your room... -[Meisha] Oh!
-...and we'll send it to you. -[Nicola speaking]
-[man 1 speaking] -[Meisha speaking in English]
-[man 1] You're welcome. By the elevator. -Oh, my gosh.
I don't really think that Nicola himself
knows how different it is
to be a 46-year-old virgin.
And now being in the flesh, in the physical
I'm starting to just realize that I'm gonna have to try and navigate this.
-[Meisha] Oh, my God! -[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha speaking]
I am very comfortable
being flirty and fun and touchy and romantic.
And I know that those gestures don't have to lead to sex.
-[Nicola groaning] -[Meisha] Let's see my bed.
[Meisha] Let's see my bed.
But Nicola doesn't have that
same natural ability to just kinda be in that element with a woman,
but if he's not an affectionate person
that's gonna be a problem for me.
You can go get the wine.
-All I know, is I have to take a shower. -[Nicola speaking]
-[Meisha] Yeah. -[Nicola speaking]
[Nicola exclaims]
[Meisha] Nico.
[Nicola speaking]
[Nicola and server speaking foreign language]
-Thank you. What? -[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] What do you mean?
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] What?
This is structured...
Nico! This is structured chaos.
These are piles of
what I'm... what... you know, I need to lay it all out
so I can actually see what's going on.
[Nicola speaking]
What?
I have a whole another suitcase
-so, you can't let this bother you because, um... -[Nicola speaking]
You have to say to yourself, "I will learn to love it."
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] I don't know if that is true.
Okay, will you show me the food? We can talk about clothes later.
[Nicola speaking]
[Meisha] Okay. Oh, my God.
No, you're gonna feed me that whole big bite?
-Yes. -Okay. Oh! [chuckles]
[muffled] Okay, wow.
-Don't worry, sweetie pie. -Next time
you feed your woman just a little tiny portion.
Okay, thank you, sweetheart. Wow.
-My eyes are watering. [laughs] -[Nicola laughs]
[Meisha] They are.
I am genuinely curious
how this day has been for you.
[speaking English]
[Meisha] I love you for that.
-Thank you for saying that. -Yes.
I do not disagree with you.
I just don't know if I totally agree with you, yet.
[Meisha] No. No.
I just mean that there's gonna be a lot
that we have to learn about each other still and a lot
that we're gonna go through and
everything
looks good but we have to go deep
and know for real that it is good.
[in English]
[Meisha] Yeah.
[Meisha] Amen.
[Nicola in English]
"Thy will be done on earth, as it is in heaven."
You know, if you truly loved me
you would listen to my proposal.
Now I'm trying to explain it to you...
[Jasmine speaks indistinctly]
-[bleep]. I want it. -[Gino] Don't rip that up.
I took a [bleep] picture of it anyway.
[bleep] you.
After our discussion about prenup yesterday
Jasmine hasn't spoken to me so I really don't know where we're at.
And also,
Jasmine slept in another room last night.
Uh, it doesn't feel good.
On the one hand I want the prenup,
but I don't want our relationship to end because of this.
So, this morning I actually woke up
and I, like, wrote down a proposal
that, you know, with Jasmine's best interest,
you know, in mind, like, I want to, like, protect her.
Um, all I want her to do is listen to me.
[Jasmine] Yes?
Good morning.
I was wondering if you wanna, you know,
sit down and talk some.
Okay.
[Gino softly] Okay.
Um,
how are you doing?
I'm sad. I'm disappointed.
I'm mad at you.
We've been engaged for more than a year
and now you're showing me, like,
like you don't trust me that you need...
conditions.
-And you... -No, I do trust you.
Then show it, with actions.
Like, why are you asking for it?
Gino talking about a prenup is like
the same nightmare I went through
so I have to walk away with nothing.
Just my... my clothing.
And now, it's like,
a different character, but the same story.
No, but I have... I have a proposal for you today.
What is the proposal about?
-If you're done telling me what your thoughts are... -Yeah.
Because if there is a prenup, there is no marriage.
-There is no engagement. There is nothing. -[Gino] Just listen.
-Let me speak first. -No.
But you have to be clear
because you're gonna be just wasting your time
-explaining [bleep] to me. -No, no, no.
-No, not at all. -If there is a [bleep] prenup
I'm not gonna marry you!
-I don't... -[Jasmine] Period.
-I'm not gonna listen to something I'm... -No, no. Okay, well then
that shows me that you don't love me. You don't give a [bleep].
So, [bleep] all of it then.
Forget it then.
[bleep]. Just forget it.
[bleep] you. [bleep] you.
[sobbing]
You're such an idiot.
[Gino] Forget it.
[Jasmine speaking]
[sobbing]
[Gino] Hmm.
I mean, this is exactly why I proposed a prenup.
[crying]
She's always screaming and yelling
and can't have a normal conversation
and I can't talk to her,
and that's a problem.
Yes, I love her, um, but,
I've had fears about her temper,
um, since I've met her.
Well, actually, more... yeah, since I met her.
[Jasmine] Are you talking about me?
Pack up your things. Get out of here.
You know, if you truly loved me
you would listen to my proposal.
-You didn't even give me a... -Okay, what is the [bleep] proposal?
[Gino] My proposal...
So, and I even write "protection for Jasmine."
That's the high... That's the headline.
If I was the person that initiated divorce
you would be giving the highest amount of financial protection.
Do you understand that?
Now, I'm trying to explain it to you...
[Jasmine] Let me see the [bleep].
So, this is... so...
This means that if I initiate divorce
I'm gonna get a very small amount.
-[Gino] If you do. -That means that I'm stuck with you.
If you [bleep] cheat on me, I have to accept it.
-I cannot get divorce. -No, no, no. No, no, no, no.
It says "except for cheating".
I don't want this. I don't want this.
[Gino] Don't rip that up.
You know what, I took a [bleep] picture of it anyway.
-It's just... -[Jasmine] I would really appreciate
if you just take your things and get out of my house.
-Yeah, I'm not going to. -Because you're a [bleep] idiot.
-Really? -Like, all my [bleep] demons come out
because of you.
-[Jasmine speaking] -You cannot even communicate
'cause you can't comm... 'cause you yell, yell, yell.
I get along even with my exes better than I do with you.
-They are better people. -Just yell, yell, yell. Don't you?
That's all you know how to [bleep] do.
Even, like, I feel more attracted
to my ex even than to [bleep] you.
-And he's better looking than you... -Yeah, well... Oh!
-...and he has more money than you. -Yeah, right.
-And he... yeah... -[Gino] Yeah, right.
-...and he doesn't have sex problems like you do. -[Gino] Oh, yeah, exactly.
You [bleep] couldn't.
You're the worst sexual person in the world.
Oh! You should just go and ask my ex-boyfriend
-if I'm the worst sexual person. -I don't have to ask him.
-So, why aren't you still with your ex? -[Jasmine speaking]
[Jasmine] Go and ask him.
Why aren't you still with your ex?
Tell me that.
I won't even answer that.
If only you knew.
[door closes]
[Jasmine] All I want is love,
and to be loved and respected.
And I'm not getting any of these things from Gino
bringing up the prenup stuff.
His lies,
communicating with exes.
Like, no woman has loved him
like the way I do love him,
but, Gino is looking at me like a gold digger.
So, that's very painful.
[man 2] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
My God, I cannot believe he's gonna be here.
Christian will be here in London
in less than 24 hours.
I've put a lot of faith in this relationship
but there's a part of me that worries
maybe he's not gonna be strong enough.
So, does your family know that Cleo's trans?
[Christian] Uh...
[Sheila speaking foreign language]
[man 3 speaking English]
[Sheila] Reservation, oh.
[Sheila] I'm a little bit nervous
because I've never been with a deaf person before.
Meeting your family is actually
of utmost importance to me.
[Nicola speaking]
It just makes me feel like
maybe the reason he's been hiding me
because he is actually
bothered with my past.
Well, then, so you haven't told them
-that I'm here in Israel? -No. No.
Do they know that I exist?
When I tell you things, like, you just don't listen.
[Razvan speaking English]
When I love I put everything in that person and
I'm really scared that we have a lot of fights.
[Amanda softly]
[Razvan] I don't know.
Hey, hey, hey.
How was Vietnam?
Did you get butterflies when you saw her?
She made a lot of plans.
Said that she couldn't see me.
You have to be more demanding than that.
[Riley] I feel like I'm an afterthought.
Can you at least say that the rest of the time I'm here,
you're gonna make time for me?
[Jasmine speaking foreign language]
I want him
to show me that I'm worth fighting for.
I... I really need that.
[woman speaking foreign language]
I was thinking, like, what if Carmella was, like, in prison or something.
Yeah, you're delusional.
She's not in prison.
And I found some stuff that he needs to know.
This is her, right?
What the [bleep]?
[bleep].