1 00:00:01,043 --> 00:00:02,336 - Chivalry. Maybe it's dead. 2 00:00:02,336 --> 00:00:04,046 Depending on who you ask. 3 00:00:04,046 --> 00:00:05,881 But is that really such a bad thing? 4 00:00:05,881 --> 00:00:07,299 What started as a catchall 5 00:00:07,299 --> 00:00:09,718 for honor, justice, all that good stuff 6 00:00:09,718 --> 00:00:11,094 morphed into a catchall 7 00:00:11,094 --> 00:00:12,721 for the gendered ideals of courtship. 8 00:00:12,721 --> 00:00:14,348 But drawing from inspirational figures 9 00:00:14,348 --> 00:00:17,100 like RBG and Ida B. Wells, 10 00:00:17,100 --> 00:00:19,353 women started demanding a seat at the table 11 00:00:19,353 --> 00:00:22,648 and chivalry became about more than who was holding the door. 12 00:00:22,648 --> 00:00:24,942 Our generation has made a point to buck 13 00:00:24,942 --> 00:00:27,861 these sexist norms that we inherited from our parents. 14 00:00:27,861 --> 00:00:29,613 You know, the ones that were designed to uphold 15 00:00:29,613 --> 00:00:31,323 the notions that men should protect 16 00:00:31,323 --> 00:00:32,741 and provide for their women. 17 00:00:32,741 --> 00:00:35,118 - After you. 18 00:00:35,118 --> 00:00:36,328 I insist. Please. 19 00:00:37,496 --> 00:00:39,039 Okay. Fine. 20 00:00:39,039 --> 00:00:40,832 Guess we'll-- 21 00:00:40,832 --> 00:00:42,543 all right. 22 00:00:42,543 --> 00:00:45,170 - The good news is, we've blown up the old rules 23 00:00:45,170 --> 00:00:47,965 our parents taught us. 24 00:00:47,965 --> 00:00:51,843 But the bad news is, the new rules are still TBD. 25 00:00:51,843 --> 00:00:54,930 [sensual music] 26 00:00:54,930 --> 00:00:57,349 - Oh, my God, this can't be happening! 27 00:00:57,349 --> 00:00:58,350 - She's fine. 28 00:01:01,603 --> 00:01:04,231 - Shit! Can someone help me? 29 00:01:05,607 --> 00:01:07,025 [knocking at door] 30 00:01:07,025 --> 00:01:08,735 Andre, are you in there? [music slows to a stop] 31 00:01:08,735 --> 00:01:10,362 - Uh, I'll be right there. 32 00:01:10,362 --> 00:01:12,823 Um, I will be just a minute. 33 00:01:12,823 --> 00:01:14,074 This will be quick. 34 00:01:14,074 --> 00:01:17,119 Don't move. Please. 35 00:01:17,119 --> 00:01:18,662 - Sorry. 36 00:01:18,662 --> 00:01:19,955 My laptop charger fell behind my dresser, 37 00:01:19,955 --> 00:01:21,081 and I've got this term paper due, 38 00:01:21,081 --> 00:01:22,124 and my computer's at 4%. 39 00:01:22,124 --> 00:01:23,542 - Say less, girl. I got this. 40 00:01:27,296 --> 00:01:28,338 - You're a lifesaver. 41 00:01:28,338 --> 00:01:30,257 And don't call me girl, boy. 42 00:01:30,257 --> 00:01:32,968 - Understood...friend. 43 00:01:32,968 --> 00:01:34,803 - Thank you. - Mm-hmm. 44 00:01:34,803 --> 00:01:37,389 Now, let's pick up 45 00:01:37,389 --> 00:01:40,684 where we left off... 46 00:01:42,644 --> 00:01:43,937 Open retainer case. 47 00:01:43,937 --> 00:01:45,230 Bonnet on. 48 00:01:45,230 --> 00:01:47,316 Five-minute gratitude journal? 49 00:01:47,316 --> 00:01:48,984 Damn it! 50 00:01:48,984 --> 00:01:51,111 - Moment's passed. I'm going to bed. 51 00:01:51,111 --> 00:01:53,488 - Is there anything that I can do to bring the moment back? 52 00:01:53,488 --> 00:01:54,489 I'm so sorry. 53 00:01:54,489 --> 00:01:56,450 Maybe, like--okay. 54 00:01:58,493 --> 00:02:00,746 Hey, uh--babe, can you-- 55 00:02:00,746 --> 00:02:01,913 can you turn the lights back on? 56 00:02:01,913 --> 00:02:04,374 I--I can't find my jammies. 57 00:02:04,374 --> 00:02:05,584 Annika? - Shh. 58 00:02:07,961 --> 00:02:10,130 both: ♪ Watch out, world ♪ 59 00:02:10,130 --> 00:02:11,548 ♪ I'm grown now ♪ 60 00:02:11,548 --> 00:02:13,258 ♪ I'm grown ♪ 61 00:02:13,258 --> 00:02:15,260 - ♪ Learn something new every day ♪ 62 00:02:15,260 --> 00:02:18,347 ♪ I don't know so I'ma feel my way ♪ 63 00:02:18,347 --> 00:02:20,932 ♪ Got the weight of the world on me ♪ 64 00:02:20,932 --> 00:02:21,933 ♪ But no regrets ♪ 65 00:02:21,933 --> 00:02:23,894 ♪ This is what I say ♪ 66 00:02:23,894 --> 00:02:25,854 both: ♪ Watch out, world ♪ 67 00:02:25,854 --> 00:02:26,897 ♪ I'm grown now ♪ 68 00:02:26,897 --> 00:02:28,315 ♪ I'm grown ♪ 69 00:02:28,315 --> 00:02:29,983 - ♪ You can't tell me nothin' ♪ 70 00:02:29,983 --> 00:02:33,236 both: ♪ My heartbeat is so loud ♪ 71 00:02:33,236 --> 00:02:34,780 ♪ ♪ 72 00:02:34,780 --> 00:02:38,367 ♪ Mama, look, I'm grown now ♪ 73 00:02:38,367 --> 00:02:39,826 ♪ I'm grown ♪ 74 00:02:39,826 --> 00:02:42,412 ♪ ♪ 75 00:02:42,412 --> 00:02:43,747 - It's a little weird. 76 00:02:43,747 --> 00:02:45,207 - What you're saying is wrong. 77 00:02:45,207 --> 00:02:46,750 - No, no, no, no. 78 00:02:46,750 --> 00:02:48,251 You sound like you're from the Stone Age. 79 00:02:48,251 --> 00:02:49,836 - I'ma tell you, it's a little weird. 80 00:02:49,836 --> 00:02:51,421 Trust me. - Okay. 81 00:02:51,421 --> 00:02:53,048 We're gonna ask this young gentleman right here. 82 00:02:53,048 --> 00:02:54,591 - Please. - What? 83 00:02:54,591 --> 00:02:55,967 - He's gonna agree with me. - What, what, what, what? 84 00:02:55,967 --> 00:02:57,844 - You're riding in the car with a woman. 85 00:02:57,844 --> 00:02:58,887 This woman is driving the car. 86 00:02:58,887 --> 00:03:01,723 She stops for gas, and... 87 00:03:01,723 --> 00:03:03,141 - I pump. - [grunts] 88 00:03:03,141 --> 00:03:04,434 - What am I, a savage? 89 00:03:04,434 --> 00:03:05,977 - That's what I'm-- put it right there. 90 00:03:05,977 --> 00:03:07,729 Case closed. You pump. 91 00:03:07,729 --> 00:03:09,856 - If you're driving with a woman, you pump. 92 00:03:09,856 --> 00:03:12,192 Unless you're a--a child, the elderly, 93 00:03:12,192 --> 00:03:14,695 or you have the misfortune of living in New Jersey. 94 00:03:14,695 --> 00:03:16,071 - No, no, Sloane is a modern woman, 95 00:03:16,071 --> 00:03:18,407 and she's just used to doing things for her son. 96 00:03:18,407 --> 00:03:19,366 - Son? - He didn't say that. 97 00:03:19,366 --> 00:03:20,617 He's joking. 98 00:03:20,617 --> 00:03:22,244 - Okay, yes. Cat's out of the bag. 99 00:03:22,244 --> 00:03:23,412 Pig's out of the blanket. 100 00:03:23,412 --> 00:03:25,038 Jordans out of the box. 101 00:03:25,038 --> 00:03:26,456 Sloane got a kid. 102 00:03:26,456 --> 00:03:28,959 - [inhales sharply] That's very real. 103 00:03:28,959 --> 00:03:30,460 - It's too much. - I'm sorry, bro. 104 00:03:30,460 --> 00:03:31,503 I know you really liked her. 105 00:03:31,503 --> 00:03:32,838 - Yeah. 106 00:03:32,838 --> 00:03:34,548 RIP Sloane, man. She had so much potential. 107 00:03:34,548 --> 00:03:37,551 - She really did. - She really did. 108 00:03:37,551 --> 00:03:40,011 [sighs] You guys want to go hoop? 109 00:03:40,011 --> 00:03:41,012 - I'm down. 110 00:03:41,012 --> 00:03:42,681 - No. No. What? 111 00:03:42,681 --> 00:03:45,392 I said she has a kid, not a side ponytail. 112 00:03:45,392 --> 00:03:46,726 Look, I--I really like her, 113 00:03:46,726 --> 00:03:47,936 and I want to see where it goes. 114 00:03:47,936 --> 00:03:49,271 - It goes to parent-teacher conferences 115 00:03:49,271 --> 00:03:50,730 at 23 years old, man. - Mm! 116 00:03:50,730 --> 00:03:53,275 - Every Thursday to see Mrs. Susan. 117 00:03:53,275 --> 00:03:54,693 Look, I have a year of maturity 118 00:03:54,693 --> 00:03:56,862 and, uh, wisdom over you, Douglas. 119 00:03:56,862 --> 00:03:59,322 And even I'm not ready for that, okay? 120 00:03:59,322 --> 00:04:01,032 - Okay, well, if this was a year ago, yes, 121 00:04:01,032 --> 00:04:02,742 I would have told y'all to go tell her 122 00:04:02,742 --> 00:04:05,328 that I died in a parking lot carnival accident, okay? 123 00:04:05,328 --> 00:04:07,289 - I remember that. - It was very me. 124 00:04:07,289 --> 00:04:09,875 But now, I feel like my life's on the right track, 125 00:04:09,875 --> 00:04:12,419 and, uh, I'm ready for something serious. 126 00:04:12,419 --> 00:04:13,920 - You know what? 127 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:15,213 I'm proud of you for letting your heart lead. 128 00:04:15,213 --> 00:04:16,339 It's beautiful. - Okay. 129 00:04:16,339 --> 00:04:17,716 - Sure. [phone chimes] 130 00:04:17,716 --> 00:04:18,884 There's a lot of growth going on around here. 131 00:04:18,884 --> 00:04:20,719 This is really good. 132 00:04:20,719 --> 00:04:22,679 I just got an email from Dr. Itch-Bay. 133 00:04:22,679 --> 00:04:25,098 - Dr. Ooh-Hay? - Look at it. Dr. Itch-Bay. 134 00:04:25,098 --> 00:04:26,808 Well, her name's Dr. Edith Horne, all right? 135 00:04:26,808 --> 00:04:28,185 The professor has paired us up together 136 00:04:28,185 --> 00:04:29,561 because we're doing a project 137 00:04:29,561 --> 00:04:30,937 focusing on student mental health. 138 00:04:30,937 --> 00:04:34,107 And this Betty White-ass lady has up and decided 139 00:04:34,107 --> 00:04:35,567 what our project was gonna focus on, 140 00:04:35,567 --> 00:04:38,195 without asking me, the darling of the campus. 141 00:04:38,195 --> 00:04:40,238 - You gotta show her who the oss-bay is. 142 00:04:40,238 --> 00:04:42,866 All right? - All right. 143 00:04:42,866 --> 00:04:44,451 - Sometimes I think I'm outgrowing you guys. 144 00:04:46,870 --> 00:04:50,248 [rhythmic hip-hop music] 145 00:04:50,248 --> 00:04:52,000 - ♪ Well, she a bad mama-jama ♪ 146 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,336 ♪ Watch how she move when she pose for the camera ♪ 147 00:04:54,336 --> 00:04:57,339 ♪ Dancing on the table, there goes all her manners ♪ 148 00:04:57,339 --> 00:04:59,174 [camera shutters clicking] 149 00:04:59,174 --> 00:05:02,135 ♪ She a bad, bad mama jama ♪ 150 00:05:02,135 --> 00:05:04,095 - Hey. Yo. 151 00:05:04,095 --> 00:05:05,597 Baby's first photo shoot! 152 00:05:05,597 --> 00:05:08,850 - Hi. Thank you for coming. 153 00:05:08,850 --> 00:05:10,143 Also, I don't want to hear a word 154 00:05:10,143 --> 00:05:11,853 about my feminism going out the window, okay? 155 00:05:11,853 --> 00:05:13,772 - I got you. Mm. - I'm still new to this 156 00:05:13,772 --> 00:05:15,857 and I don't know if people are, like, giving me attitude 157 00:05:15,857 --> 00:05:17,275 or if they're just serving. 158 00:05:17,275 --> 00:05:18,652 - Who? - I don't know. I don't know. 159 00:05:18,652 --> 00:05:19,820 Can you just hype me up? 160 00:05:19,820 --> 00:05:21,112 Hype me up. - I got you. I got you. 161 00:05:21,112 --> 00:05:23,824 I'll be like a-- like a soccer mom, but louder. 162 00:05:23,824 --> 00:05:25,158 Whoo-whoo! - Yes. 163 00:05:25,158 --> 00:05:27,202 Also, will you cosplay as my manager? 164 00:05:27,202 --> 00:05:29,246 Because I've been putting off signing this contract all day. 165 00:05:29,246 --> 00:05:30,997 I don't know what any of these words mean. 166 00:05:30,997 --> 00:05:33,124 - I would love to. 167 00:05:33,124 --> 00:05:35,710 Oh. Likeness rights in perpetuity? 168 00:05:35,710 --> 00:05:38,129 No, no, no. Whose day do I have to ruin? 169 00:05:38,129 --> 00:05:41,216 Excuse me. You. Yes. 170 00:05:41,216 --> 00:05:43,051 - Hey. - Hi. 171 00:05:43,051 --> 00:05:45,095 - Congrats on your first gig. 172 00:05:45,095 --> 00:05:47,305 I'm so honored that I could help you pop 173 00:05:47,305 --> 00:05:49,182 your photo shoot cherry. - Thank you. 174 00:05:49,182 --> 00:05:50,725 Well, if I don't totally blow it, 175 00:05:50,725 --> 00:05:53,061 we should go celebrate. 176 00:05:53,061 --> 00:05:55,021 - I'd love to. Um, Wednesday night? 177 00:05:55,021 --> 00:05:57,524 - Like--like dinnertime? 178 00:05:57,524 --> 00:05:59,693 - That's usually the meal you eat at night. 179 00:05:59,693 --> 00:06:01,444 I mean, we could go to IHOP, if you really-- 180 00:06:01,444 --> 00:06:03,196 - No. I mean, Wednesday is perfect. 181 00:06:03,196 --> 00:06:04,698 Sounds chill. 182 00:06:04,698 --> 00:06:07,033 - Sounds chill. 183 00:06:07,033 --> 00:06:08,952 I'll see you later. 184 00:06:08,952 --> 00:06:09,870 [laughs] 185 00:06:12,163 --> 00:06:15,083 - I cannot believe you've never been here before, man. 186 00:06:15,083 --> 00:06:16,543 You gotta try this sour, all right? 187 00:06:16,543 --> 00:06:18,253 - Oh, let's try it. 188 00:06:22,841 --> 00:06:23,884 Mm. 189 00:06:23,884 --> 00:06:25,302 - Mm? - Mm. 190 00:06:25,302 --> 00:06:28,847 Notes of pressed hair, wet dumpster, 191 00:06:28,847 --> 00:06:30,974 and a beer I never want to try again. 192 00:06:30,974 --> 00:06:33,768 - You just don't have a refined palate, like me. 193 00:06:33,768 --> 00:06:35,604 - Please, your palate is about as refined 194 00:06:35,604 --> 00:06:37,772 as my five-year-old's. 195 00:06:37,772 --> 00:06:40,025 [bell rings] Oh, my gosh. 196 00:06:40,025 --> 00:06:43,737 I gotta win one of those for Avery before we leave. 197 00:06:43,737 --> 00:06:47,407 It'll make me feel less guilty about being away from him. 198 00:06:47,407 --> 00:06:49,618 - What you feel guilty for? You're a great mom. 199 00:06:49,618 --> 00:06:52,329 - Oh, I know I'm a great mom. 200 00:06:52,329 --> 00:06:55,624 But you know, sometimes when I'm taking time for myself, 201 00:06:55,624 --> 00:06:57,125 I feel like I could be taking him 202 00:06:57,125 --> 00:06:59,252 for a bike ride or something. 203 00:06:59,252 --> 00:07:01,046 - I mean, it would be nice to meet him one day. 204 00:07:01,046 --> 00:07:02,213 - [laughs] 205 00:07:02,213 --> 00:07:03,840 Oh, I'm not gonna do you like that. 206 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:07,177 [tense music] 207 00:07:07,177 --> 00:07:09,638 - He just punches this other dude 208 00:07:09,638 --> 00:07:11,556 right in the middle of the skating rink 209 00:07:11,556 --> 00:07:13,308 because he was hotdogging in front of Lauryn. 210 00:07:13,308 --> 00:07:14,768 So obviously, she's freaking out. 211 00:07:14,768 --> 00:07:16,311 She texts me to come over. 212 00:07:16,311 --> 00:07:17,937 I'm zooming quickly to pick her up-- 213 00:07:17,937 --> 00:07:19,856 - Oh, so that's why you were an hour late 214 00:07:19,856 --> 00:07:21,191 for our date tonight. 215 00:07:21,191 --> 00:07:24,319 The one that we talked about several times. 216 00:07:24,319 --> 00:07:27,030 - Oh. Oh, I'm--I'm so sorry. 217 00:07:27,030 --> 00:07:28,323 I didn't-- I didn't think you'd be 218 00:07:28,323 --> 00:07:29,866 mad at me for helping Lauryn. 219 00:07:29,866 --> 00:07:31,201 - I mean, I just thought that we'd spend 220 00:07:31,201 --> 00:07:33,244 our time together as a couple. 221 00:07:33,244 --> 00:07:35,205 Not me hearing you go on and on 222 00:07:35,205 --> 00:07:38,333 about this low-stakes heroic tale. 223 00:07:38,333 --> 00:07:39,959 - Okay. You know what? 224 00:07:39,959 --> 00:07:41,795 Noted. 225 00:07:41,795 --> 00:07:44,756 But if you're interested in a high-stakes story, 226 00:07:44,756 --> 00:07:46,800 I know just the one to-- 227 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:48,468 - I have to study for midterms. 228 00:07:48,468 --> 00:07:50,637 And you have to be on the lookout 229 00:07:50,637 --> 00:07:52,514 for the next damsel in distress. 230 00:07:52,514 --> 00:07:58,853 ♪ ♪ 231 00:08:00,313 --> 00:08:02,232 - [sighs] 232 00:08:06,403 --> 00:08:07,737 - It's just, when he's with me, 233 00:08:07,737 --> 00:08:09,447 I want him to really be with me, 234 00:08:09,447 --> 00:08:11,866 not dashing off to move dressers 235 00:08:11,866 --> 00:08:14,744 or bragging about saving a girl from the roller rink. 236 00:08:14,744 --> 00:08:16,538 - That's so weird. 237 00:08:16,538 --> 00:08:18,665 Andre just saved me from a bad date at a roller rink. 238 00:08:18,665 --> 00:08:20,375 [giggles] 239 00:08:20,375 --> 00:08:22,460 - Girl, how do you go to the same school as us? 240 00:08:22,460 --> 00:08:25,588 - I have an IQ of 146. 241 00:08:25,588 --> 00:08:27,048 - Okay, but in our defense, 242 00:08:27,048 --> 00:08:28,800 Andre never said he was busy with you. 243 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,593 - That's even worse! 244 00:08:30,593 --> 00:08:32,887 Look, I'm not saying he should ignore your problems, 245 00:08:32,887 --> 00:08:35,223 but I need him to be my boyfriend. 246 00:08:35,223 --> 00:08:36,599 And the thing is, 247 00:08:36,599 --> 00:08:38,768 he doesn't even know why I'm mad at him. 248 00:08:38,768 --> 00:08:40,437 - I don't know why Annika's mad at me. 249 00:08:40,437 --> 00:08:42,647 The only reason she liked me in the first place 250 00:08:42,647 --> 00:08:44,733 is because I always showed up for her as a friend. 251 00:08:44,733 --> 00:08:46,901 - Oh, so you Captain Save-a-Ho 252 00:08:46,901 --> 00:08:48,611 to keep your other options open. 253 00:08:48,611 --> 00:08:51,489 - No, I just-- I don't know what to do. 254 00:08:51,489 --> 00:08:53,575 When a friend is in a crisis, what should I do? 255 00:08:53,575 --> 00:08:54,951 Should I ignore them? 256 00:08:54,951 --> 00:08:56,036 That doesn't feel like the right thing. 257 00:08:56,036 --> 00:08:57,620 The right thing feels like stepping up. 258 00:08:57,620 --> 00:08:59,581 - It's better than getting stepped on. 259 00:08:59,581 --> 00:09:02,375 - Actually, I like getting stepped on by women. 260 00:09:02,375 --> 00:09:04,544 - And I've yet to meet a lady who didn't have feelings. 261 00:09:04,544 --> 00:09:06,463 Of course yours is gonna have some. 262 00:09:06,463 --> 00:09:07,964 For the other ones, they just-- 263 00:09:07,964 --> 00:09:11,134 yeah, they need somebody to move stuff for them. 264 00:09:11,134 --> 00:09:12,469 - I would just like the record to show 265 00:09:12,469 --> 00:09:13,762 that I did not ask for his help 266 00:09:13,762 --> 00:09:16,014 out of some sort of, like, gender bias. 267 00:09:16,014 --> 00:09:17,974 - I would also just like the record to show 268 00:09:17,974 --> 00:09:19,350 that I don't feel bad about asking for his help 269 00:09:19,350 --> 00:09:22,020 because I was scared, I was alone, 270 00:09:22,020 --> 00:09:23,688 and I was at a roller rink. 271 00:09:23,688 --> 00:09:25,398 - Okay, to be clear, 272 00:09:25,398 --> 00:09:27,567 I love how close you guys are with Andre. 273 00:09:27,567 --> 00:09:29,152 But let's just be real. 274 00:09:29,152 --> 00:09:31,488 If I made a plate for one of his frat brothers 275 00:09:31,488 --> 00:09:33,573 or did some other dude's laundry, 276 00:09:33,573 --> 00:09:35,992 he would be so jealous he would start lifting weights again. 277 00:09:35,992 --> 00:09:37,744 - Look, women always want it both ways. 278 00:09:37,744 --> 00:09:39,829 It's like, Sloane loves it when I plan a date night, 279 00:09:39,829 --> 00:09:41,247 and then she always says I'm too old-school. 280 00:09:41,247 --> 00:09:44,542 - That's why I say, unless we're dating, 281 00:09:44,542 --> 00:09:47,212 it's a strong maybe. 282 00:09:47,212 --> 00:09:48,963 - Lesbians should be allowed to partake 283 00:09:48,963 --> 00:09:50,632 in your little toxic hetero traditions 284 00:09:50,632 --> 00:09:52,008 if it benefits them. 285 00:09:52,008 --> 00:09:53,676 - Like go to a dinner date for two 286 00:09:53,676 --> 00:09:55,720 at a vegan fusion restaurant. 287 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:58,098 - [sighs] I don't know if it's a date. 288 00:09:58,098 --> 00:10:00,850 She is the one who suggested dinner for two, 289 00:10:00,850 --> 00:10:03,186 but I'm the one who suggested that we celebrate. 290 00:10:03,186 --> 00:10:05,772 - It's too bad you're not in a hetero relationship. 291 00:10:05,772 --> 00:10:08,108 - Girl. - No, please. Continue. 292 00:10:08,108 --> 00:10:09,776 I'm actually dying to see where this goes. 293 00:10:09,776 --> 00:10:11,402 - If the guy offered to pay for dinner, 294 00:10:11,402 --> 00:10:13,196 you would know it was a date. 295 00:10:13,196 --> 00:10:15,281 - Not all guys pay. And not all girls want them to. 296 00:10:15,281 --> 00:10:16,908 - It's like as soon as the check comes, 297 00:10:16,908 --> 00:10:18,660 their dresses don't have pockets anymore, right? 298 00:10:18,660 --> 00:10:20,120 - Most dresses don't have pockets. 299 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:21,579 But I also think it makes more sense 300 00:10:21,579 --> 00:10:23,206 that if you make the most money, 301 00:10:23,206 --> 00:10:24,457 you should cover the bill. 302 00:10:24,457 --> 00:10:25,875 - Look, just because you're going Dutch 303 00:10:25,875 --> 00:10:27,043 doesn't mean it's not a date. 304 00:10:27,043 --> 00:10:28,545 - I would rather be alone forever 305 00:10:28,545 --> 00:10:29,712 than date a guy who doesn't pay. 306 00:10:29,712 --> 00:10:31,256 I mean, that's just how I was raised. 307 00:10:31,256 --> 00:10:34,050 My mom doesn't even have access to a credit card. 308 00:10:34,050 --> 00:10:35,718 But that's just because women be shopping. 309 00:10:35,718 --> 00:10:38,555 - Okay. Let's focus up, please. 310 00:10:38,555 --> 00:10:40,056 I still don't know if it's a date, 311 00:10:40,056 --> 00:10:42,308 and I don't have your little hetero cheat codes. 312 00:10:42,308 --> 00:10:44,519 - Okay, so just take things into your own hands. 313 00:10:44,519 --> 00:10:45,687 Pay for dinner yourself 314 00:10:45,687 --> 00:10:46,604 before she can even say, "Let's split." 315 00:10:46,604 --> 00:10:48,481 - Power move. Date declared. 316 00:10:48,481 --> 00:10:50,567 Honestly, I wish I thought of that. 317 00:10:50,567 --> 00:10:52,610 - Okay. I'll do it. 318 00:10:52,610 --> 00:10:54,362 But only if you tell Andre 319 00:10:54,362 --> 00:10:56,239 that you need him to prioritize you. 320 00:10:56,239 --> 00:10:59,159 - These two things are not equal in boldness 321 00:10:59,159 --> 00:11:01,911 or necessity, but fine. 322 00:11:04,122 --> 00:11:05,665 - Douglas. Andre. 323 00:11:05,665 --> 00:11:07,542 Presumable frat people and/or cult members. 324 00:11:07,542 --> 00:11:08,459 Uh, how you guys doing? 325 00:11:08,459 --> 00:11:09,961 - Uh, wait, hold on. 326 00:11:09,961 --> 00:11:12,380 Your full name is Douglas? - Mm-hmm. 327 00:11:12,380 --> 00:11:13,631 - Well, you seem like you're in a better mood. 328 00:11:13,631 --> 00:11:15,133 - Well, yeah, I just emailed Dr. Ballbuster 329 00:11:15,133 --> 00:11:16,217 and basically told her 330 00:11:16,217 --> 00:11:17,552 how we're gonna do the research. 331 00:11:17,552 --> 00:11:19,095 I told her what kind of data we're gonna use 332 00:11:19,095 --> 00:11:20,513 and that everything needs to flow through me. 333 00:11:20,513 --> 00:11:22,348 You poke the bear long enough, you get the claws. 334 00:11:22,348 --> 00:11:23,558 You know what I'm talking about. 335 00:11:23,558 --> 00:11:24,809 - What? - I don't. 336 00:11:24,809 --> 00:11:26,603 - You on some penitentiary shit, huh? 337 00:11:26,603 --> 00:11:28,229 - Dude, academia is just like jail, man. 338 00:11:28,229 --> 00:11:30,273 First day, you gotta walk in, shank a [bleep]. 339 00:11:30,273 --> 00:11:31,858 Intellectually, of course. - Damn. 340 00:11:31,858 --> 00:11:33,484 Well, assuming that all the murder talk 341 00:11:33,484 --> 00:11:36,112 is hypothetical, I'm happy for you. 342 00:11:36,112 --> 00:11:38,114 - Thanks, man. [phone chimes] 343 00:11:38,114 --> 00:11:40,450 Oh, well, look who, uh-- who emailed me back. 344 00:11:40,450 --> 00:11:42,452 "Professor Jackson, thank you for such spirited feedback. 345 00:11:42,452 --> 00:11:43,745 "I would like to discuss this further. 346 00:11:43,745 --> 00:11:45,872 "Please come to my office tomorrow, 4:00 p. m. 347 00:11:45,872 --> 00:11:47,457 Don't be late." 348 00:11:47,457 --> 00:11:48,917 Looks like Granny, uh, couldn't miss 349 00:11:48,917 --> 00:11:50,835 the early bird special, huh? 350 00:11:50,835 --> 00:11:51,920 I'm not nervous about it. 351 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:54,422 [quirky music] 352 00:11:54,422 --> 00:11:56,841 I'm just gonna go check it out. - That's fantastic for you. 353 00:11:56,841 --> 00:11:58,176 - Well, at least one of us isn't struggling 354 00:11:58,176 --> 00:11:59,469 with the ladies, I guess. 355 00:11:59,469 --> 00:12:02,430 - No, bro. I'm driving the struggle bus. 356 00:12:02,430 --> 00:12:04,557 I mean, I asked Sloane if I could be 357 00:12:04,557 --> 00:12:06,893 introduced to her kid, and she laughed it off. 358 00:12:06,893 --> 00:12:08,186 I was just trying to show I cared. 359 00:12:08,186 --> 00:12:09,395 It wasn't that deep. 360 00:12:09,395 --> 00:12:10,772 - Well, then I guess you just do 361 00:12:10,772 --> 00:12:12,398 whatever you can to show her, then. 362 00:12:12,398 --> 00:12:13,858 - I got you on this one. 363 00:12:13,858 --> 00:12:16,402 Like, uh, get the kid some LEGOs. 364 00:12:16,402 --> 00:12:17,862 - Talk to me. Okay. - All right. 365 00:12:17,862 --> 00:12:20,240 Another one is, show the boy how to throw a punch. 366 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:21,449 - Okay. - The last one-- 367 00:12:21,449 --> 00:12:23,076 maybe arguably the best one-- 368 00:12:23,076 --> 00:12:25,036 get the boy a beer. 369 00:12:25,036 --> 00:12:26,913 - Mm... - Get the boy a beer? 370 00:12:26,913 --> 00:12:28,373 - Maybe not that one. 371 00:12:28,373 --> 00:12:30,208 If I know anything about women, 372 00:12:30,208 --> 00:12:33,253 the four worst words that you could ever say are, 373 00:12:33,253 --> 00:12:34,254 "But you never asked." 374 00:12:39,717 --> 00:12:41,719 - Doug. - Huh? 375 00:12:41,719 --> 00:12:44,264 - Special delivery for you. 376 00:12:44,264 --> 00:12:47,433 - Well, I have a special delivery for you. 377 00:12:47,433 --> 00:12:52,438 - Ooh. - Surprise. 378 00:12:52,438 --> 00:12:56,109 Because you said your little man liked riding bikes, so... 379 00:13:04,450 --> 00:13:06,828 - Why would you buy my son a bike without asking me first? 380 00:13:06,828 --> 00:13:09,455 - I--I just thought I was doing right by you 381 00:13:09,455 --> 00:13:10,999 because I wanted to be the kind of guy 382 00:13:10,999 --> 00:13:12,959 that steps up for you, no questions asked. 383 00:13:12,959 --> 00:13:15,670 - Well, you should have asked before you did that. 384 00:13:15,670 --> 00:13:18,381 'Cause see, now you're a grown-ass man 385 00:13:18,381 --> 00:13:22,135 buying a bike for a boy that you've never even met. 386 00:13:22,135 --> 00:13:24,846 - Yeah, that wasn't the slam dunk 387 00:13:24,846 --> 00:13:27,056 I thought it was in my head. 388 00:13:27,056 --> 00:13:30,852 - It is not. 389 00:13:30,852 --> 00:13:32,186 Come on. Let's--let's sit. 390 00:13:32,186 --> 00:13:34,564 - Look, I'm sorry. 391 00:13:34,564 --> 00:13:37,442 And I want you to know I'm-- 392 00:13:37,442 --> 00:13:39,068 I'm a bit out of my depth here. 393 00:13:39,068 --> 00:13:41,946 I've never been with someone that's, 394 00:13:41,946 --> 00:13:43,740 you know, had a kid before. 395 00:13:43,740 --> 00:13:45,283 I was just trying to show you I'm all in 396 00:13:45,283 --> 00:13:48,536 because I really, really like you. 397 00:13:48,536 --> 00:13:51,664 [soft music] 398 00:13:51,664 --> 00:13:54,000 - And I really, really like you too. 399 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,085 I mean, I love having fun with you. 400 00:13:56,085 --> 00:13:58,004 And I know you are a good man. 401 00:13:58,004 --> 00:14:01,007 But I don't think you need to buy my son a bike 402 00:14:01,007 --> 00:14:02,467 in order to prove that. 403 00:14:02,467 --> 00:14:04,594 - I'm sorry for thinking that that was a good idea. 404 00:14:04,594 --> 00:14:09,640 I may have acted on some very flawed advice. 405 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:10,850 - You think? 406 00:14:10,850 --> 00:14:11,934 - Next time-- 407 00:14:11,934 --> 00:14:13,019 - Next time? 408 00:14:13,019 --> 00:14:16,314 - I'll ask you what you want. 409 00:14:16,314 --> 00:14:19,692 - Now that is the sexiest thing a man could ask. 410 00:14:23,571 --> 00:14:25,448 - [sighs] Sorry I'm late, Professor. 411 00:14:25,448 --> 00:14:26,991 I got here when I-- 412 00:14:26,991 --> 00:14:28,451 - Come. 413 00:14:28,451 --> 00:14:31,120 Sit. 414 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:33,206 - You're, um--you're the Edith 415 00:14:33,206 --> 00:14:34,665 from the psych department at Cal U? 416 00:14:34,665 --> 00:14:37,085 [quirky music] 417 00:14:37,085 --> 00:14:39,337 Wow. Okay, wow. 418 00:14:39,337 --> 00:14:44,217 First, Edith, let me just start by saying, wow. 419 00:14:44,217 --> 00:14:46,969 Um, secondly, I'm excited to be working with you, Edith. 420 00:14:46,969 --> 00:14:49,222 I really am-- - It's Dr. Horne. 421 00:14:49,222 --> 00:14:50,848 At least, that's what they called me 422 00:14:50,848 --> 00:14:54,102 when I successfully defended my dissertation at Georgetown. 423 00:14:54,102 --> 00:14:56,437 Before we get started, I wanted to touch base 424 00:14:56,437 --> 00:14:57,772 on our email exchange. 425 00:14:57,772 --> 00:14:59,065 - We don't have to. 426 00:14:59,065 --> 00:15:00,983 Um, it--look, it's-- it's in the bridge. 427 00:15:00,983 --> 00:15:03,069 Water under the past, you know what I mean? 428 00:15:03,069 --> 00:15:04,946 To be honest, I didn't even realize I sent you an email. 429 00:15:04,946 --> 00:15:06,197 Was it from a Hotmail account? 430 00:15:06,197 --> 00:15:07,740 Because my Hotmail kind of been acting up. 431 00:15:07,740 --> 00:15:08,741 It has a mind of its own. 432 00:15:08,741 --> 00:15:10,034 - Well, from your mind came, 433 00:15:10,034 --> 00:15:12,328 "You must read 'Psychology Yesterday.' 434 00:15:12,328 --> 00:15:14,455 "Because otherwise, you'd know I'm the voice 435 00:15:14,455 --> 00:15:16,249 "of Black mental health on campus. 436 00:15:16,249 --> 00:15:18,835 There's too many cooks in this kitchen." 437 00:15:18,835 --> 00:15:20,378 - I don't have my glasses. 438 00:15:20,378 --> 00:15:22,421 I'm not sure I can see this right, but-- 439 00:15:22,421 --> 00:15:25,174 oh, yeah. 440 00:15:25,174 --> 00:15:27,677 Highlighter. Wow. 441 00:15:27,677 --> 00:15:29,137 Okay. I see the confusion. 442 00:15:29,137 --> 00:15:30,805 Right here, it says "too many cooks." 443 00:15:30,805 --> 00:15:32,807 That's supposed to be T-W-O, not T-O-O. 444 00:15:32,807 --> 00:15:35,226 So I meant two cooks in the kitchen, 445 00:15:35,226 --> 00:15:36,727 which is the desired number. 446 00:15:36,727 --> 00:15:37,937 It's kind of like that TV show, "The Bear." 447 00:15:37,937 --> 00:15:39,313 You seen that? Yes, Chef. No, Chef. 448 00:15:39,313 --> 00:15:41,482 Thank you, Chef. Corner. 449 00:15:41,482 --> 00:15:43,484 - No. 450 00:15:43,484 --> 00:15:44,777 - I'm gonna cut the BS, okay? 451 00:15:44,777 --> 00:15:46,154 I thought you were a white woman. 452 00:15:46,154 --> 00:15:49,115 An old white lady. 453 00:15:49,115 --> 00:15:51,284 - Maybe next time, do a little research 454 00:15:51,284 --> 00:15:53,077 before you start firing off wild emails. 455 00:15:53,077 --> 00:15:54,871 - Yeah. - And to be clear, 456 00:15:54,871 --> 00:15:57,790 you shouldn't be emailing female colleagues like this 457 00:15:57,790 --> 00:15:59,333 of any race. 458 00:15:59,333 --> 00:16:00,793 - You're 100% right. 459 00:16:00,793 --> 00:16:02,211 And I'm sorry. 460 00:16:02,211 --> 00:16:03,838 The truth is, this university has 461 00:16:03,838 --> 00:16:05,381 kind of put me through the wringer 462 00:16:05,381 --> 00:16:07,049 a couple of million times. 463 00:16:07,049 --> 00:16:09,177 So I'm a little defensive when it comes to issues 464 00:16:09,177 --> 00:16:11,762 that affect our people. 465 00:16:11,762 --> 00:16:14,390 - Calm down, Cornel. 466 00:16:14,390 --> 00:16:16,225 But I get it. 467 00:16:16,225 --> 00:16:18,978 Having spent my whole career in academia, 468 00:16:18,978 --> 00:16:21,480 I've been there. 469 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:22,857 - So can we start over? 470 00:16:22,857 --> 00:16:24,483 If you're willing to have me, 471 00:16:24,483 --> 00:16:28,154 I'd love to work with you on this, Dr. Horne. 472 00:16:28,154 --> 00:16:30,114 - If I didn't want to work with you, 473 00:16:30,114 --> 00:16:33,367 we wouldn't be having this conversation. 474 00:16:33,367 --> 00:16:34,702 - Understood. 475 00:16:34,702 --> 00:16:36,537 - By the way, you're lucky. 476 00:16:36,537 --> 00:16:39,332 If I was an old white lady, 477 00:16:39,332 --> 00:16:41,751 I would have gone full Karen on your ass. 478 00:16:41,751 --> 00:16:44,629 [upbeat music] 479 00:16:44,629 --> 00:16:48,424 - What an inspired choice, to replace eggs with chickpeas 480 00:16:48,424 --> 00:16:51,427 in an egg salad flatbread. 481 00:16:51,427 --> 00:16:53,471 - Yeah. 482 00:16:53,471 --> 00:16:56,182 Almost as inspired as your crazy amazing photos 483 00:16:56,182 --> 00:16:57,850 from the shoot the other day. 484 00:16:57,850 --> 00:16:59,602 I-- - Whenever you're ready. 485 00:16:59,602 --> 00:17:00,978 Or you're ready. 486 00:17:02,188 --> 00:17:05,149 [quirky music] 487 00:17:05,149 --> 00:17:06,859 ♪ ♪ 488 00:17:06,859 --> 00:17:09,737 - Here. - Thank you. 489 00:17:09,737 --> 00:17:11,113 - Okay, flex. 490 00:17:11,113 --> 00:17:12,657 - No, no, it was my treat, 491 00:17:12,657 --> 00:17:15,076 as a thank you for helping me get the gig. 492 00:17:15,076 --> 00:17:16,577 Also, I asked you. 493 00:17:16,577 --> 00:17:18,537 I'm sure you skipped a date or something to be here. 494 00:17:18,537 --> 00:17:22,291 - Well, I'll get the tip as a thank you for dinner. 495 00:17:22,291 --> 00:17:26,420 ♪ ♪ 496 00:17:26,420 --> 00:17:27,922 - I know you're pissed at me this week 497 00:17:27,922 --> 00:17:31,092 for not respecting our time together. 498 00:17:31,092 --> 00:17:33,219 But I want you to know that you have 499 00:17:33,219 --> 00:17:35,680 my complete attention tonight. 500 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:38,099 I promise. - Good. 501 00:17:38,099 --> 00:17:39,475 'Cause I want to get weird tonight. 502 00:17:39,475 --> 00:17:42,061 Now strip. - Yes, ma'am. 503 00:17:42,061 --> 00:17:44,855 - Hey, does anyone know how to cut a pineapple? 504 00:17:46,899 --> 00:17:49,026 - I actually do know how to cut open a pineapple, 505 00:17:49,026 --> 00:17:50,611 and it can be very dangerous. 506 00:17:50,611 --> 00:17:52,738 - Just let her learn to cut a pineapple on her own 507 00:17:52,738 --> 00:17:54,532 and prioritize me for once. 508 00:17:54,532 --> 00:17:56,909 - I was just trying to help. 509 00:17:56,909 --> 00:18:01,414 - Look, I love that you like being the problem solver. 510 00:18:01,414 --> 00:18:05,418 But when you're doing everything for everyone else, 511 00:18:05,418 --> 00:18:08,588 it just makes it really hard for me to feel special to you. 512 00:18:08,588 --> 00:18:09,797 - What? No. 513 00:18:09,797 --> 00:18:12,967 You--you are special to me. 514 00:18:12,967 --> 00:18:16,262 And if I'm not making you feel that way, 515 00:18:16,262 --> 00:18:18,389 then I've got work to do. 516 00:18:18,389 --> 00:18:20,016 - I do too. 517 00:18:20,016 --> 00:18:21,976 My whole life, I felt like I had to be strong. 518 00:18:21,976 --> 00:18:24,478 But you're the first person to make me feel 519 00:18:24,478 --> 00:18:26,814 like it's okay to let my guard down. 520 00:18:26,814 --> 00:18:27,982 [soft music] 521 00:18:27,982 --> 00:18:29,650 - Really? 522 00:18:29,650 --> 00:18:31,402 - Asking for what I want just makes me vulnerable. 523 00:18:31,402 --> 00:18:36,073 So when you don't hear me, 524 00:18:36,073 --> 00:18:40,119 I guess it just confirms that fear for me. 525 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:41,871 I'm sorry. - No, no. 526 00:18:41,871 --> 00:18:43,914 You have nothing to apologize for. 527 00:18:43,914 --> 00:18:46,667 And--and of course I want to be a good guy. 528 00:18:46,667 --> 00:18:48,628 But I want to be a good boyfriend 529 00:18:48,628 --> 00:18:49,754 more than anything. 530 00:18:49,754 --> 00:18:50,755 - You are. 531 00:18:54,175 --> 00:18:56,719 [laughs] Look at us, 532 00:18:56,719 --> 00:18:59,472 resolving our issues without some big blowup. 533 00:18:59,472 --> 00:19:01,140 - I know. We really are maturing. 534 00:19:01,140 --> 00:19:02,850 [knock at door] 535 00:19:02,850 --> 00:19:05,102 - Sorry to bug you guys, but I think I messed up, 536 00:19:05,102 --> 00:19:07,271 and I'm starting to get, like, really dizzy. 537 00:19:07,271 --> 00:19:09,732 - Okay, no. Hospital. - Okay. Okay. 538 00:19:09,732 --> 00:19:11,817 - Um, just-- I'll go pull the car around, 539 00:19:11,817 --> 00:19:13,277 and you just keep her hands above her heart. 540 00:19:13,277 --> 00:19:14,362 - Yep. Hands up. 541 00:19:14,362 --> 00:19:15,780 - ♪ Don't need to hurt ♪ 542 00:19:15,780 --> 00:19:17,948 - Sure, chivalry can be as basic 543 00:19:17,948 --> 00:19:22,078 as holding the door open for someone. 544 00:19:22,078 --> 00:19:23,913 But it can also be a lot more. 545 00:19:23,913 --> 00:19:25,790 Sometimes, the noble thing isn't 546 00:19:25,790 --> 00:19:28,000 jumping in and taking control 547 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:32,421 but stepping back and lending support. 548 00:19:32,421 --> 00:19:34,465 Other times, it means figuring out 549 00:19:34,465 --> 00:19:36,092 when and where you're needed most. 550 00:19:36,092 --> 00:19:38,052 - ♪ 'Cause there ain't no question ♪ 551 00:19:38,052 --> 00:19:39,512 ♪ I'll be there ♪ 552 00:19:39,512 --> 00:19:41,889 ♪ I'll be there ♪ 553 00:19:41,889 --> 00:19:45,101 - I guess for us, the only way to define chivalry is, 554 00:19:45,101 --> 00:19:48,771 it looks a lot like communication. 555 00:19:48,771 --> 00:19:51,440 And ordering an extra side of fries, 556 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:54,652 even when your girl says she isn't hungry. 557 00:19:54,652 --> 00:19:55,945 - You want me to drive you home? 558 00:19:55,945 --> 00:19:57,863 - Sure. - Okay. 559 00:19:57,863 --> 00:20:01,325 - And maybe you can come inside and meet little man. 560 00:20:01,325 --> 00:20:02,535 - Oh. 561 00:20:02,535 --> 00:20:04,245 I mean, I would love to. 562 00:20:04,245 --> 00:20:06,330 If you're ready for that, though. 563 00:20:06,330 --> 00:20:07,748 - I am. 564 00:20:07,748 --> 00:20:10,000 - ♪ Oh, call me ♪ 565 00:20:13,462 --> 00:20:14,463 - That is how I took the food delivery robot 566 00:20:14,463 --> 00:20:16,424 to court and won. 567 00:20:16,424 --> 00:20:18,634 I have so many blocked numbers as a result. 568 00:20:18,634 --> 00:20:20,469 Um, do you want me to call us car, or-- 569 00:20:20,469 --> 00:20:23,139 - Is this a date? 570 00:20:23,139 --> 00:20:26,100 [light music] 571 00:20:26,100 --> 00:20:28,728 ♪ ♪ 572 00:20:28,728 --> 00:20:30,771 - Do you want it to be? 573 00:20:30,771 --> 00:20:37,778 ♪ ♪ 574 00:20:38,863 --> 00:20:40,656 - Do you always have to make things so difficult? 575 00:20:40,656 --> 00:20:42,950 - Well, let me make it easy for you. 576 00:20:42,950 --> 00:20:49,874 ♪ ♪