Ya-a-ay!
Thank you very much.
Usman's mom gave us her blessing. BOTH: Yay!
This has just exhausted me!
But you're worth it, you're worth every single struggle.
I talked to my dad about today. Yeah.
He wants to do family therapy.
Since I'm pregnant, this therapy session would be worth a shot.
Hopefully, we can mend things by the time the new baby arrives.
Babe, I'm doing this for you, OK?
So, babe, I want to go back to my home town in Arkansas
so you can meet the rest of my family.
If someone has a bad opinion or is being negative,
it can really get into his head.
I don't think we can survive something like that.
What Michael has put me through
in these past months, it's overwhelming.
How would you have felt, Michael?
But how would you have felt?
What y'all's planning next after you leave Prague?
Were you going to tell me about this too, or what?
Cheers to Germany.
Sounds like you're um...
What's the word? "Nosy" - that's it.
Baby, do I need to pack my fun underwear?
Your G-strings? Yeah, you can pack your fun underwear.
I'm not packing any underwear. You're not wearing any?
You having yourself some vino or coffee? No, coffee.
I haven't been in the mood to drink lately. Boring! Just kidding.
Liz and I have had a crazy few weeks
where we've been working on ourselves and our relationship.
I want to take her to meet all my family in Arkansas.
We are having a second engagement party.
It will be great to be able to share a part of me,
for Liz to see where I grew up, for us to learn more about each other.
Liz, there's a couple things.
In communicating with my family, we say "y'all" -
"How're y'all doin'?"
And they say "thank you" a lot - "Thank you, Liz."
"Why, thank you!" (CHUCKLES)
Do they say "pop" instead of "soda"? Yeah.
"Y'all're going to have a great time." Y'all.
Y'all. "Y'all want to come over and have a great time tonight?"
"Y'all just come on over."
"Y'all, I have some great dessert for y'all after dinner."
OK, that sounded like... That sounded like a call girl.
I may have anxiety about this, but I'm going
cos it's very important that I get to know his family
and know another side of Ed.
They're throwing us a big party, so...
It's kind of a do-over.
It's not a do-over when I don't have people there.
I don't want to be left alone at the party.
You're very good at wandering away from me.
I will be very upset if you do that to me.
I am nervous to come in and meet everybody
just because there could be already an opinion
or a picture created of myself from things Ed said when we broke up.
This is going to be a great test for us,
to see how Ed defends our relationship to his family.
Come on, guys.
Let's go see where Daddy grew up. (CHUCKLES)
You got 'em? Yeah.
Last night, we landed in Bentonville, Arkansas with our dogs.
Today, the plan is for me to show Liz my town, where I grew up,
and hopefully, give her more understanding of who I am.
My hope is that spending time in my home town with Liz
will make the engagement party that much more special.
There were six kids in our family. I was the middle, spoiled one.
How much of a rebel troublemaker were you?
I did troubling things, but I never got caught.
It was rare that I ever got in trouble.
I can picture Ed as a little kid. I was a lot more cuter.
I imagine him being this cute, rebellious little kid. Yeah.
I can imagine if we had a little mini-you -
that would be a handful. That would be a handful!
We were fortunate. We had a great upbringing until um,
I was about a senior in high school, when my mom and dad divorced.
I think that your mom did a very good job.
I don't know your dad, and I know there's some resentment there,
but it seems like he provided well. He did.
I've forgiven my dad, you know - I'm at peace with it.
Did your dad pass here in Arkansas?
Yes.
I mean, my dad was a great guy,
but he got into a crowd where all he would do is party.
My mom didn't want anything to do with that.
My mom ended up divorcing my dad and packing up all of her stuff
and moving to California.
The day after graduation, I followed my mom out too, to California,
but I didn't like my dad after my parents' divorce.
My dad passed away about ten years ago,
and my mom and I really started to depend on each other so much
for emotional support.
It's kind of weird, being here where we grew up,
and I'm not even talking to my mom right now.
This is my house.
Oh, man, this is crazy!
Is it the same? Yeah.
Wow!
This is a very nice area, honey. Yeah.
Funny story - before graduation,
My brother and I went to the party. It was, like, one in the morning.
At the top of the hill, in my mom's car, we shut off the engine.
My mom's brakes squeaked,
so we coasted so my dad wouldn't hear.
Cos if we came through the door, my dad would get pissed off.
My brother was drunk - oh, my God, so sick.
My dad's standing on my balcony, naked, smoking a cigarette, going,
"Where the hell have you been?" I said, "They had a party for me."
Mike gets out of the car, he does three spins,
and goes right on his face.
My dad goes, "Get him in the house!"
We never got in trouble, my dad never brought it up.
You moved here when? We lived here first grade through high school.
Yeah, this is where I grew up.
It feels really good -
I'm standing in front of the house I grew up in with my fiancee.
To me, it means a lot. I'm standing in my past with my future.
Wow.
Bentonville High School.
I haven't been here, baby, in, like, 40 years.
I only went on two dates in junior high, in high school total.
Once I was in college, I met my ex-wife, first girl I was ever with.
Then I met Liz, my first serious relationship after my ex-wife.
For me to share my past with Liz and open up like this,
it's a pretty big deal.
Wow, this is crazy.
High school was...
It was a little better than junior high and elementary.
I was teased and bullied.
Kids would call me No-Neck.
Um...
Bullies stopped when I realised I could make people laugh,
and I just became class clown.
How about you, did you experience bullying?
No, I didn't experience bullying,
but I didn't have a lot of friends though.
So, you didn't... Come here, buddies!
I didn't really have anyone to hang out with.
Yeah.
I did sports though.
In junior high, I did gymnastics.
Then I ran track, which was very tiring, no kidding.
I didn't know you ran. Yeah.
You want to see me run? Run in your Crocs?
Run in my Crocs? I'll try. (CHUCKLES)
Please don't fall.
I won't. (LAUGHS)
I want to know how you would line up. You would stand like this.
I can't even bend over, I'm so fat. I've never done the stance.
Oh, shit, I'm so old! So...
On your mark, get set, and go, and you would just... (GRUNTS)
As fast as you can, come on, baby!
(LAUGHS)
I got the puppies!
OK, that's enough.
You want to run?
I'm taking an interest in Ed's childhood stories and upbringing.
I'm understanding a lot of his personality now.
I feel like this trip is making me feel closer to him.
Your high-school kiss, right here! (LAUGHS)
Maybe I'll get some stinky pinkie.
Ed and I are really good when it's just the two of us.
Having the second engagement party,
I'm really terrified of drama, fights
because of the last engagement party.
We need this to go well to prove to Ed's family members
how much I love him.
I am just absolutely praying and hoping that it's not a disaster,
but I'm still scared.
There's one more thing I've got to do.
Oh, my God! (LAUGHS)
2 00:12:10.840 -- 00:12:14.920 align:middle line:90% position:50% I'm just grateful that you've come to your senses.
Last night, Michael took his Instagram down.
I wouldn't say that I forgive Michael for everything
but it's a step in the right direction.
When I cried last night, Michael comforted me.
It was the old Michael, he could calm me down.
At the moment, he showed me that the man I fell in love with
is still there.
I realise, being married, that you are going to have ups and downs.
I'm a true believer that true love conquers.
My voice sounds a little bit better.
You brought me over here sick as a damn dog.
Yeah, you damn sure did!
No. If I'd have told you, we probably wouldn't be sitting here.
Your bad behaviour brought me here. Don't play with my feelings.
I don't get upset like most people, I really get off-balance,
like your car, the way I acted.
Oh, my God!
All right, where's the mechanic?
Hi, sir. How are you?
I ripped this off, I tore it off.
No, I was the accident, I...
Yeah, he was really mean to me. (LAUGHS)
If you pay attention to me like you did this car
and kept me maintenanced, we wouldn't have no damn problems.
Are you out your mind?
I don't need nobody to tell me how to handle my man.
Not if you don't make it a problem.
You screwed it up, not me.
I don't feel like I need therapy.
I've not caused the problems in our marriage.
Every time we have a problem, it's Michael telling me lies.
Am I going to hear about this Instagram for the next 30 years?
Aw, shit! That's petty, that's petty.
You're just doing it because of what you had to do.
I don't want you keeping an eye on me!
Maybe we do need to go to counselling.
I'm gon' block my ears, but YOU need to hear it.
You can open my legs but you can't open my ears. (LAUGHS)
Oh!
That's nice.
(LAUGHS)
I'm not against going to counselling for Michael, but before our wedding
in Nigeria, we tried this, and things didn't go well at all.
Make him happy. When he comes back, the food is ready, hm?
I don't trust the Nigerian counsellor.
In Nigerian culture, the man is the head of the household,
and they're going to side with the Nigerian man!
It looks good.
I already know the outcome.
If I go ahead and go to counselling, I'm not going to be told what to do.
Michael, you got your way, now you're back to an asshole?
OK, OK, OK, just kidding. It's OK.
Where's your head at right now? Hm?
It's been a few days since we got back from the Grand Canyon
and announced the pregnancy on social media.
We haven't really heard anything from my side of the family
until yesterday, when Becky and Jenn reached out
because they wanted to meet up.
Since I haven't seen or talked to my sisters at all in a while,
I really don't know what to expect.
I mean, I don't know where their head is at, you know,
but now I'm pregnant, and this is a whole other ballgame.
Not really communicating with my sisters this past month
hasn't been very easy
because up until recently, we were very close.
I'm hoping that we can take the first steps
into fixing relationships and putting the drama behind us.
Let's sit over here in the shadow. Yeah.
You want to sit over here? Yeah.
Hi, guys.
(MAKES DOG-CALL SOUND)
What you got? Some banana- and-chocolate something with dates.
Today, I wanted to meet with Libby just to see where she's at in life.
I feel like she's drifting away into the abyss.
She posted such incredible news on her social-media platform,
which is bullshit, you know?
The way that it made us feel, the way it made me feel, especially,
it didn't feel like her.
I don't remember inviting YOU, but...
Yeah. I didn't know you were coming, actually, so...
Oh, yeah - you shouldn't leave your wife with strangers. Her sisters (!)
Of course she's being influenced by Andrei. I mean, hello!
Anybody can see that.
She couldn't even come alone today.
Are you going to congratulate your sister first about the pregnancy,
or you going to be what you are, and not do it?
You wanted us to come so we could wish you guys a congratulations?
Invitation, what are you talking about?
We could see right through it, you guys are so calculating.
What is calculated? "Let's get pregnant and post it
and not tell our family and say, 'Are you going to congratulate us?'"
You posted it on Instagram but you didn't bother to tell us.
Me and Libby and Becky have always been very close,
and I found out Libby was pregnant the same time the entire world did.
I feel like, is that how you feel about us,
we're not anyone special to you, to have us find out the same time
fucking random Joe Shmoe does? It's hurtful.
Like, Libby would not have made that decision on her own, period.
That is true, and that's not our fault.
OK, Pamela, so, what next?
Pamela? Yes.
Now, everything I say, I'm like someone else
you don't get along with?
Well, you're following her lead, like.
I feel that the whole root of these problems
are coming from Libby's mother, Pam.
She's the one that started all of this kind of behaviour.
She is covering up for Charlie,
and her daughters, Rebecca and Jenn, follow her lead.
I didn't do anything wrong. Why the fuck are you so mad?
Exactly!
I'm not going to do this.
You are literally on a whole nother level.
This is your fucking jealousy! You think I'm jealous of you?
Yes! You don't do fucking shit!
I made 750 last year! Shut the fuck up!
Stop fucking yelling at her, you asshole! Stop it!
Get some respect! You have no fucking respect!
Get the fuck away from me. Fuck off!
2 00:23:18.640 -- 00:23:20.640 align:middle line:90% position:50% (KIM SIGHS)
Nobody's here, right? Huh?
OK. That's nice.
I'll tell you where to put them, then you hammer-and-nail it,
cos I can't do that, OK? OK.
Today is going to be the last day
for me and my queen, Kimberly, to be in Sokoto.
Babe, we should put it here.
OK, then you should get a hammer and nail, and you do that.
Here.
Waa! (LAUGHS)
Earlier today, I finally got Usman's mom's blessing.
I feel like she finally sees me for who I am.
It makes me tear up a little bit.
I've jumped out of planes 72 times. It's very exhilarating,
but nothing is more exhilarating than this blessing.
Let me put the plaques up here, like these.
I haven't seen this one.
That's awesome.
I think it's really cute that Usman wants me to come over here
and decorate his house - putting my wifely, womanly touch on his house.
Makes me feel special. He calls it "our house" now.
It's not working!
It's not supposed to be like that. (TUTS)
Don't you think we should get something? Tape or something.
I like this room.
What are you doing?
(LAUGHS)
Babe,
I'm all hot and sweaty now though!
Yes! Oh, my God! (LAUGHS)
Oh, my God!
I love you. I love you too.
Oh, my God, it's so pretty.
OK. (LAUGHS)
He put a ring on it. (LAUGHS)
It's beautiful.
This just drives it home for me that this man loves me
as much as I love him.
I feel like all of the fights, getting the blessing,
this is what it comes to now, this is what made it all worth it.
This is the perfect end of the trip for me,
is to leave here knowing I'm going to be Usman's wife.
You said this whole house is mine too, right? It is.
We should go do yammy in that bed
so you'll remember it when I leave. Come on!
I had no idea he was going to propose.
I just remember seeing him there with that ring like, "Oh, my God!"
He did it, I couldn't believe it. "Oh, my God!"
It was crazy, and I love my ring.
Mom said yes.
Come on! (CHUCKLES)
Ahh!
Yay! We're in Germany?
Yeah, we are, yup.
Yara, how many times you been to Germany?
Yeah.
Yeah - in transit or what?
Looks like we'll hit this next highway, and we're just
rolling straight forward.
I wonder if we'll drive on the autobahn, and we can go really fast.
Ever driven on the autobahn? Nah, never did.
It'd be cool, if we take that there.
I do have a baby in the car, I can't go at unlimited speed.
The drive to Garmisch-Parkenkirken is about five-and-a-half hours.
Are you sure it's "Garmisch-Parkenkirken"?
No, I'm not saying it right. Say it ten times fast.
Garmisch-Partenkirchen, Garmisch-Partenkirchen,
Garmisch-Parkenkunken.
It's a hard word! I don't speak Germany.
Yara, have you talked to your girlfriend today?
A little bit, yeah.
Hopefully, we'll get to have more fun in this next city.
Hopefully, we'll have more time to finally go out.
We're not just going to see her just because! I know.
She's shielding over there. OK, I understand (!)
I am really worried about Karina, that she's a refugee.
She just... She don't have nothing, she just alone.
She needs my support. I want to go as fast as possible to see her
and help her with whatever she needs.
This is a cool-looking little town.
Jovi, maybe we can stop somewhere and get something for Karina.
Like what? I don't know, like, something for her.
We can stop at the store and check something.
I mean, yeah - I guess we can stop, if you want.
Call me whenever you're done, I will come pick you up. We'll go get gas.
(SPEAKS UKRAINIAN)
Mylah, you want to walk? Go, walk.
Just don't make a mess!
It's honestly make me feel so much upset.
I feel like my heart is still in Ukraine,
and I feel like it always will be like that.
That's why I feel like I should stay in Europe
and I should help my people,
Ooh, look at that one, Michael!
Michael and I made up again last night.
I hate how me and Michael fight a lot,
but I do believe we have the best make-up sex there is.
(LAUGHS)
Hey! I'm so glad you guys came and met me.
You look so pretty. Thank you, so do you.
Michael, you look nice too.
After Michael and I made up, I changed my flight,
so I will not be leaving Nigeria today.
But Rene is flying out, and we want to catch her so we can say goodbye,
and we want to buy her a thank-you present for all she's done for us.
I'm so sad about going home. I know. Thank you for coming.
You look good. What happened?
The last time I saw you, you didn't look so happy.
Yeah, things change overnight. (LAUGHS) I guess,
and I guess you ain't getting on that plane with me, sister.
Yes, yes.
Me and Michael want to shop with you, we want to get you a gift.
Let's get busy.
Having Rene stick with me through thick and thin, you know,
coming to Nigeria, I love her to death.
I love this. Oh!
Rene, let's do it, let's do it.
Ready? (BOTH PLAY DRUMS)
(LAUGHS)
It's good to have friends on the outside, looking in.
Real friends will tell you what you don't want to hear.
I'm so glad that she convinced me to talk to Michael.
She's been a trouper, and without her, I couldn't have done this trip.
I love everything. Michael, you want one,
for when you come to the States?
So, I have to know -
how did you guys go from being at each other's throats
to holding hands?
Did you drop your Instagram? Something happened.
Aw! That's why he's got Mama back.
OK! I was scared that you weren't going to change your mind,
and that was that.
Are you feeling OK today? Well, I mean, I'm feeling OK because
So?
When I took his phone, there was girls in there, I called one.
Who was the girl, Michael?
The point is, I haven't met this friend, this girl.
So, what does this mean for the relationship? It's...
It means we're working on it.
It's exhausting me.
This is the last chance we have if he wants to be with me.
You guys have other things you need to address besides just Instagram.
Do you guys have a plan for working on stuff?
Have you thought about meeting a counsellor on Zoom?
Aw, shit, no! I'm not getting me a damn counsellor,
for me to cuss the counsellor out when he tells me I'm wrong.
I ain't letting them tell me what to do, especially a counsellor here.
They're not telling you what to do, it's a guideline.
I'm Angela's friend, I came here to support her,
but it's been complete chaos for the the past four days.
I think they need to work on some relationship skills.
I think outside help would be great for them.
I'm thinking, if you made a little contract with a counsellor,
you can stick to the guidelines of how to communicate better.
Rene, you know I'm not doing that.
Babe,
It just feels like you guys put a Band-Aid over this.
(LAUGHS)
So, you want this one, baby? I love this bag.
We'll get that.
Give me hugs.
All right, I will see you soon.
Thank you so much, Rene. You too.
I couldn't have done this trip without you. Thunda!
Thunda and lightning!
I can't wait to hear how marriage counselling goes.
Get your ass outta here! (LAUGHS) Love you.
Bye, guys! Safe travels. Let me know when you're home.
I will, I'll call you.
2 00:38:56.800 -- 00:38:58.800 align:middle line:90% position:50% You all right?
Oh. What do you think about here?
Yeah. You want to try it, have a look, see what we think?
Yeah? OK. Let's have a look and see.
Last night, I was glad that Eutris was sticking up for me.
But I woke up this morning and I realised that
it's not helping matters to antagonise Bilal,
that's not the way to get him to give me what I want.
What I want right now is to open a yoga studio and be a mother
and start a family with Bilal.
Mm,
Bilal is working back at the hotel right now,
so I'm meeting Eutris to go shopping.
After what happened last night, we both need to have a conversation.
We're just looking. I just wanted to come outside here
so that we could...we could talk. OK.
I feel like, initially, you were a little feisty and heated.
Really? I'm a Caribbean woman, I understand that, that's how we are.
But I realise that, in American culture,
they will take that as something that's offensive.
(SIGHS AND LAUGHS WEAKLY)
I...
Um, even if him and I have an argument,
I feel like it's hard for me to get my point across.
Even though Eutris was so heated last night,
Bilal can be difficult to deal with.
After dinner, Bilal was angry,
so he went to bed and there was no conversation.
He builds walls around him, like, fortresses,
and it's hard for you to get through that.
We spoke about things on the phone,
you told me there's a prenup and stuff like that.
He was going to set up my business with the yoga studio.
Mm-hm. I told you, we put a timeline when we could have children.
And how do you feel about that?
Well, the doctor told me,
by the time I'm 40, there's going to be a 5% chance to get pregnant.
Jesus! Are you serious? Mm-hm.
And what did Bilal say about this?
Since the doctor's visit, Bilal and I, we have never had a conversation
of, when are we going to have children.
It's... (SIGHS)
I am just asking questions I thought a best friend would want to know
about the husband of her best friend.
I think Shaeeda needs to get through to him.
At the moment, I don't think that's happening.
So, the yoga studio, that was your condition as well?
Yes. You spoke to him about having a studio now?
Right now... Mm.
..because I don't have credit in America,
he says he cannot do anything when it comes to setting up a studio.
But it's still in process. I cannot judge him
and say, "He doesn't want to give me a studio,"
it's still premature.
I hear what you're saying, you're trying to be positive and optimistic,
but I really hope he understands how important family is to you,
cos you've never had kids before.
What I mean is, make him not be so comfortable.
He's very comfortable, that's why you can't get through to him.
He needs to think as well, "What could she do?"
Right now, that thought is not in his mind.
You never give him any doubts, do you know what I mean?
Divorce is never a good option for a Muslim.
I'm not suggesting that. It's always your last option.
You try to work it out. I'm not suggesting you should do that.
But you've waited all these years, and he deserves to understand that,
and to give you everything, right?
I want what's best for you, and I want this to work out.
You deserve a family, it's what you've always wanted, right?
I believe you should get that.
Even after what happened last night, um, I do trust Eutris.
She's my best friend, she was coming with good intentions.
I still need Eutris as my advocate
because I have been trying to have this conversation with Bilal
but it always fall on deaf ears.
I hope Eutris can convince Bilal to open his heart,
because every time I blink my eyes, I hear "tick, tock".
I feel as if, if I continue to wait, I could wait for a lifetime.
(ED KNOCKS)
My signature knock.
Hey, come on in! How are you, Christine?
You made it. We made it, finally.
Hi, Liz, so good to meet you. You brought the puppies!
They're in there. They're excited.
I can't wait to meet the puppies!
After showing Liz my home town,
it's going to be a nice dinner with my sister Christine
and her husband Jack.
The engagement party is tomorrow, and I'm feeling amped, I'm excited.
When I broke up with Liz the last time,
I spent a lot of time in Arkansas with Christine,
she gave me a lot of support.
She came from seeing my heart break to meeting Liz.
I'm hoping that Christine will really give Liz a chance.
What would you like first?
Do you like mashed potatoes? I love everything here.
All right.
Ed and Liz had several split-ups. It made all of us nervous, honestly.
It was definitely devastating, the last time they broke up,
before getting back together. It was... It was bad.
He seems so very happy, which makes me happy.
That's what I want for him.
But it has to go both ways, let's see how it goes.
Chicken. Jack's famous chicken.
I keep hearing a lot about this.
It's really good. Mm-hm.
So, Ed, I talk to Mom at least weekly,
sometimes a couple times a week.
She seems superbusy.
The only thing that Mom reiterates to me probably every time we talk
is that she worries about you, she wants you to be happy.
She doesn't want you to get hurt. Yeah.
We might try to call Mom and just say,
"Hey," you know, just... Mm-hm.
(CLEARS THROAT)
After my mom moved out of my house,
she went back to Arkansas for a couple months,
then came back to California, and is now taking care of my uncle
about 40 minutes from where I live.
It's been a year since I've seen my mom.
The fact that we haven't been speaking,
it really has left a big hole in my heart.
I'm hoping that Liz and I make a great impression in Arkansas
that will follow us back to California
and maybe open up a channel with my mom
where we can be friends, talk again.
You guys have to understand where she's coming from.
She's set in her ways.
She's just very protective of us, of you. Yeah.
I think Mom is just going to need some more time.
She is historically stubborn.
Ed and Liz got engaged, and Mom had reservations
because of the multiple break-ups, and still does,
and, as a mom would, worries about her boy.
Sorry. They're touchy subjects, so... No, I know.
I've tried to reassure Mom, "Just give it time, Ed loves you."
You're 50-something years old
and you've found someone you really care about,
and it's a risk you're going to take.
My hope and prayer is that she will, at some point,
give you guys a chance to get together and talk and meet
Tomorrow night, our plan is for everyone to meet there at fiveish.
OK.
Liz, do you have any... Do you have concerns,
meeting in the big group? Just nervous...
..meeting everybody.
She's very reserved.
I don't have, like, a family member or a friend,
it's just...it's me.
Everyone's loud, but looking forward to getting to know you and meet you
and visit with you. No pressure (!)
But honestly, Liz, it is going to be a lot.
I have worries of what Ed's family might think about me,
because I don't know what Norma has told them
and I don't know what I'm walking into.
If they don't agree with us being together, being engaged,
it'll be very hard for Ed to settle down and move forward with marriage
because his family is so important to him.
2 00:50:21.600 -- 00:50:24.320 align:middle line:90% position:50% Oh, my God, I can kiss you here now, huh?
Um, not really.
Not really.
You know that she's my fiancee, right? Yes, sir.
You see I'm happy? Yes.
We just arrived back in Abuja. I'm so happy.
Kimberly and I are engaged right now.
Unfortunately, tomorrow, she'll be leaving to the United States.
I'll go back to the United States and file the K-1 paperwork.
We'll get married in the United States.
I can't wait for Usman to get to the States and experience my life.
Come see me at work, know what I mean? Let me wait on you.
With my ring, I'll be like, "Hi! How are you?"
We need to talk to the lawyer, then we'll start the paperwork.
OK. Soon. Once you come to the States
with the K-1, you know we get married, like, right...
We have to do it within that 90 days.
We don't want a big wedding, right? Like, just family - MY family.
We have a plan - we have more than a plan,
we have a lot of plans.
Team UsKim. (CHUCKLES)
Yay!
You tired? A little bit.
(LINE RINGS)
Oh, I look lovely (!)
Hi, how are you guys doing? We're fine.
We're in Nigeria. We just got back from his mom's in Sokoto,
and we got the blessing! And he proposed last night. Wow!
Very nice, congratulations.
It looks like we're ready for the fiance visa. Yes!
That's what we're calling for.
I leave tomorrow, so what are the next steps for the fiance visa?
You know it can take between six to eight months
to get it started? Told you that. We knew that.
Six to eight months. That's not bad.
That's not going to be possible.
What's going to happen is, you guys have to get married
within 90 days, then after the 90 days,
you would follow your application for your Green Card.
You're not going to be able to travel
unless you get permission to travel.
I don't want any problem with my family. I don't either.
Remember, the main purpose is to show that you're there
to be with your wife -
you're so in love with your wife that you can't think of yourself
being a day apart from her.
Yeah, um, you're right.
What other stipulations do you guys have?
They want to make sure I don't do the same thing his ex-wife did.
I have the list right here.
Engagement agreement... (LAUGHS)
Wow. ..between the family of Usman and Kimberly.
No.1 - either Usman or Kimberly have no right to anyone's properties
or money unless willingly.
No.2 - if the couple decides to move to the United States,
Kimberly must allow Usman to visit his family every quarter,
four times a year.
No.3 - Kimberly must allow Usman to marry a young lady
to enable him to have children.
Then we have witnesses, look. (LAUGHS)
We had to sign it. Well, there's a law against polygamy.
I don't know if you guys know that.
In other words, in the United States,
you can't marry more than one woman.
Not in the United States. If he comes back to Nigeria
and picks a woman from his region, then he could do it here,
it just wouldn't be recognised in the United States, right?
Even though it's OK to do in other countries,
in the United States, it's prohibited.
You could lose your Green Card if it were found that
you were polygamous, that you were married to more than one person.
After you get the Green Card,
you can be married to only one woman. (LAUGHS)
No matter what you're able to do in Nigeria,
you still have to comply with American law
in order to get a Green Card and to maintain a Green Card.
Wow.
I wish we would have talked to an immigration lawyer earlier.
I had no idea that him taking a second wife in Nigeria
would be an issue.
If Usman can't take a second wife, I don't think he'll marry me,
because it's not what his family wants, what he wants.
He wants children, that's what this second-wife thing is about.
Usman has to talk to his mom about this.
Without their blessing, there's no wedding,
he won't be coming to America.
I really hope we haven't came this far just to hit a dead end.
You asshole! Get the fuck out of my face!
You are his chess piece!
How can you be so disrespectful?
You're following! I'm following?
You are a follower! I understand that
if that makes you feel better at night,
to make up shit in your head about everybody in our family, sure.
Delirious, you're delirious! You are.
You're fucking walling yourselves in,
not knowing what's actually happening to yourself.
You're excluding yourselves from everyone that really means to you.
Stop.
This is exactly why I didn't want to come today,
and I didn't want Libby to come either.
I think Libby was extremely optimistic about the sisters.
Here we are again in the same spot.
We're being aggressive, and it's not working.
Um, I really am not proud about what I just did.
I'm going to tell you that I saw, like, my sister in high school,
someone trying to beat her up at the lockers, and I lunged at you.
I'm sure you can understand that.
You guys have been against him since he's gotten here.
I don't want a rift between you guys and me! You don't want to do it!
Do I need to remind you, about five minutes ago,
the choice that we decided to make,
doing it on social media first, and you hit him?
I had anger, I guess, starting to form,
but it's really just hurt.
As your sister, I would have never done that to you
the way you did that, I would have thought about you!
But I did think about you.
His dad is closest with him, we wanted to make it a nice trip.
Honestly, I was in the Grand Canyon, I'm like, "I'm about to do this.
Dad's going to tell the whole world."
We had this plan, it had been discussed.
"Maybe I can chat with her after the fact."
I wish you would have just said it,
because in doing that, like, you ended up hurting me.
I know you didn't want to.
Don't cry. You're going to make me cry, stop.
I didn't know who that person was
when I saw that picture, it didn't feel like her.
Obviously, it's him manipulating her in a way where,
"You can't trust anybody!"
She doesn't know the deep pain that I felt,
she has no idea.
I don't want to be estranged from my little sister,
but it seems like it's heading that way,
her and Andrei's motives.
Listen, we made the decision as a husband and wife, as a family,
to not share it right away, but I don't want to feel like
I'm being mean or insensitive.
Insensitive was what you did.
I'm still happy for you, Libby, I'm so happy for you,
but what you did to me makes me feel like I don't know you.
I really feel so terrible, seeing Becky
being so upset, but the way things are going lately,
I didn't think that my sisters would feel this way.
Even though I was so upset with my mom and my sisters,
I wish that I would have handled the situation differently
than the way that I did it.
When you're not up-front with someone,
there's a lot of room for speculation.
I hope it's not because you're going to put us
in the same group as my mom and Charlie.
Can you at least understand why I did it?
I can understand! I'm just trying to get you to see my side.
I feel really bad.
My goal in life is to be happy and at peace.
I don't want to go towards the drama, the pain,
the pitting against each other.
That's how I feel, I'm in the same boat.
I don't want to live that way.
Dad and I talked about doing some therapy, because he knows somebody.
What did he say about it? He asked if we were willing to get together.
Who's "everybody"?
Literally everybody, even Charlie included.
Do you know how much fucking therapy our family needs?
Things have really hit a new low with my family.
No-one's innocent, including Andrei and myself.
Everyone needs to start owning up to their faults,
and we all need to figure out how to communicate
and to be cordial and respectful of one another.
I'm really, really, really hoping that this therapy session
will be our saving grace.
2 01:02:17.080 -- 01:02:21.320 align:middle line:90% position:50% I think I look pretty damn good, honey. All right, ready?
'Scuse me!
What do you think?
(LAUGHS) I AM Miss USA, baby.
If you want to go to that thing, you better come on.
Michael and I are headed to go see a marriage counsellor.
I know it's very important to him.
But I'm not going to lie, my guard is up because I'm 56 years old.
Like my mother used to say, you can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Oh, God, here we are! Yeah.
But I'm willing to try again because
Michael's willing to put the effort in for the first time in two years.
Maybe he IS trying to fix this marriage.
Hello.
Thank you, o se.
No, we don't, HE does.
Thank you. (CHUCKLES)
Thank you, I appreciate you. Welcome. Please take a seat.
What are you trying to achieve by coming for counselling?
On his end. He would not tell me he loved me,
he had an Instagram I don't approve of, and we had problems
because he's over here, talking to women.
He does do this stuff, I mean, he's let me down.
How does that make you feel? Really unloved.
You're really cruel, Michael!
Everything I'm saying, you didn't do?
Like, I mean, we've been waiting for the past two years.
I'd like to just encourage you that,
when one person is speaking, you listen to the other person.
Now, what do you think you can do to gain her trust?
Having said that,
is there anything you think you ought to have told your spouse
that you have not said?
You haven't cheated on me?
Are you sure, Michael?
I'll try. (LAUGHS)
Yeah, I do have something to tell you,
since we're going to start the slate clean.
So, I had put a Duet... Have you ever heard of TikTok?
I Duetted this guy.
So...
This thing about Billy.
It started out to get attention from you,
and it didn't work, it backfired.
You ignoring me, you know, at that time...
..I developed a crush on Billy.
You developed a crush on Billy? A TikTok crush!
It was nothing big.
I don't have no more crush on him, no.
I decided to tell Michael about my TikTok crush on Billy
because if we're going to move forward, we need to come clean.
I just want to let him know, I'm truthful.
It's not hard, telling the truth.
It might be uncomfortable but it's not hard.
I'm trying to show you in front of our counsellor.
You don't think about the consequences to me.
I'm as lonely as you.
Billy is just a crushable man.
Just look at him. He's not only good-looking, he's charismatic.
But it's a crush, it's not an affair.
And this relationship would have never worked,
because I love my husband.
You don't just stop loving somebody.
Over the period of the crush, he's become my friend.
He's got kidney disease.
What he's going through, I wanted to help him. So,
Huh?
It's... I...
I want to thank you. I didn't want to come here, but I am glad I did.
All right, Michael?
As-salaam alaikum. Hey!
How are you doing? I'm doing good.
Remember our dinner with Eutris?
Of course. I think you have offended her, she said some things.
I offended Eutris?
She felt offended.
She didn't like when you called her nosy.
She feel like that was disrespectful.
She asked about, can we talk about me and you,
and I said, "Sure, no problem,"
however, some things are husband-and-wife stuff.
It would be nice...
..if she gave an apology.
I think you guys should have a conversation. She's on the terrace.
I really want to get my best friend and my husband on the same page.
I am 100% open to doing it,
but it would be nice if I could maybe get an apology.
Be nice. I'm always nice.
Last night didn't go as planned.
The whole trip was for us to coexist and have a good time.
Eutris is Shaeeda's best friend,
my wife's best friend. I would love for us all to be friends,
but I do think she's overstepping boundaries.
She was pretty hostile.
There's no smiling or anything from her.
But I'm here to make peace and try to set the record straight that
Shaeeda's in good hands.
Hello! How are you doing? I'm fine.
No, don't stand up! Sit down, you're good. All right (!)
Are you enjoying this beautiful weather? Yes.
Isn't this hotel pretty nice? It's a beautiful setting. How are you?
I'm really good.
I know for sure, I was more of in a joking mode.
I apologise if that came out a different way.
Right. Right?
There is a couple questions I wanted a little bit more clarity on,
if that's OK with you.
Erm, she mentioned something about a prenup to me.
And I think she couldn't...
Well, you'd suggested to wait for kids, like, three years.
What about that? A doctor told her, in three years,
there's a 5% chance
I've always wanted more children, all right?
But at the same time, you know, what I am telling her is that
a year and a half, could be two years from now, whatever,
we start working on it.
The three years - it didn't say that we were going to wait three years,
it just says that we have up to three years
to say, like, "OK, let's have a child."
Because guess what - once you have a child,
the child is there, you can't take it back.
What if Shaeeda was to tell you that she's pregnant in six months' time?
OK.
But if it was a situation where she was like, "Hey..."
She's pregnant. "..I'm pregnant,"
six, seven months from now, whatever... Great.
OK, that's good.
So, they're not planning to have the baby, but if the baby happens,
it's the will of God.
So, I'm thinking,
Bilal said he'd be happy, and definitely, Shaeeda would be happy.
Problem solved.
I don't want to have a child in six months.
But like you said, you just don't know what could happen. Yeah.
OK, that's good to know.
Wow, like, Shaeeda tells her friend everything! (LAUGHS)
I'm surprised that she knows, hey, like,
when it comes to, like, our behind-the-doors activity
of when we're trying to conceive or when we're not trying to conceive.
Whatever she has to tell me, that's not going to change my mind per se.
2 01:15:12.800 -- 01:15:14.800 align:middle line:90% position:50% Oh. (SIGHS)
(LAUGHS) Other way around!
I don't want to go, Usman!
It's a long flight - 25 hours. Wait till you do it.
It's like I'm going back in time a day.
I'm flying home to San Diego.
This trip had a lot of ups and downs, but I got engaged,
I got the blessing. That's exactly what we wanted.
But after we talked to the immigration lawyer last night,
we found out Usman taking a second wife
will prevent us getting married.
It sucks that I have to leave before we figure out what to do.
I'm worried about our future.
This was a good trip. It is, it is.
It was super, supergood until we talked to that lawyer.
Uh-huh. We will come up with a plan that's going to work or not.
I know.
It sucks, cos I was picturing getting married
on the beach in San Diego.
You know, where I go all the time? Yeah.
Go back home, and then, you know, try and set you down, have some rest.
Let's go.
(SIGHS)
I'm trying really, really hard not to cry, just so you know.
(SIGHS)
I just miss you so much when I'm not around you.
I just love being around you, you know?
I know, babe, and I love you being around me too, you know that.
We had so much drama. I don't want you to just remember the drama,
I want you to remember the good times.
All right, it's OK.
The yammy was my favourite part too. OK.
(GROANS) We're at the airport.
Mm-hm. (SIGHS)
It is a sad moment. We've been together, you know?
It's good to go back, but like, we don't want to leave, you know?
We don't want to leave each other.
Stop crying. I know.
I only have, like, short, limited times with him, you know?
It's just hard. I wish I could take him with me
or stay longer or something.
I hate it, it's not fair.
Huh? It's not fair.
I know it's not fair.
It is all about process, we will follow the process.
(LAUGHS)
We will do it. We made it through all this, so...
I have to be positive. I don't know exactly where to start,
but we'll figure it out.
This is crazy! Don't cry!
It's all right. It's all right, it's OK, babe.
It's a matter of time. I know.
I love you. I love you too, babe.
I'll text you when I get to Germany. OK.
All right. (SIGHS) Bye.
This trip showed me how much I mean to Usman,
but it is discouraging that our marriage could be in danger.
We have to figure out this whole second-wife thing.
If Usman decides to apply for the K-1, it could still be a year
before he comes to the States.
I have no idea when I'm going to see him again.
I feel like so much of our future is just out of our control.
Sank you.
What are you snickering for back there?
It's T, T - "Thank you."
Han...Dank you. (LAUGHS) "Thank you."
Thank you.
Were you able to find anything for Karina?
Like what?
I don't know. I just feel like I really, really wanted to help her.
And not just her, there is so many people who, like, needs help.
What do you mean, stay?
I feel like I need to be here right now,
I feel like I need to help the people.
I need to be longer than two or three weeks or something.
I can just maybe stay here for a little while
and try to help more people.
You want to stay in Europe while I go back home to work? Yes.
What?
I don't like this idea.
I completely support you wanting to help,
but you should do all that stuff before we leave.
I know you want to stay here and help, and I know it's your people,
but also, you've got to think about your immediate family.
Yara, I think um... Don't worry.
I still think you should go back with your family.
I am a grown-ass woman, and I will just, like, decide.
You want me to go to work for three weeks and worry about you?
You can help from a distance. How?
You think I'm not right about that?
I'm getting pretty mad. It started with looking at apartments
so she could see her family. I told her, not going to happen.
She wants to stay in Europe longer to help Ukrainian people,
her family and friends.
It feels like every day, she's coming up with any reason
to try to be away from me, in a foreign country.
It's coming from her mom. I'm not going to let her disrespect me.
This needs to stop.
What the fuck are y'all saying back there about me?
We're saying it would be nice if we would stay together.
Why are you letting your mom influence you?
I feel like you're looking for every excuse to stay here.
Your mom's showing you apartments here.
If you stay in Europe, it's going to be more of that -
more of her getting attached to you, her wanting you to stay in Europe.
I can already see how this is going to work.
You don't want to talk about your mom changing your mind?
I am a grown-ass woman,
I'm not a fucking woman with no brain.
It's just one thing after another.
(LIZ SQUEALS) Holy fucking mother!
Ready, baby?
Today we are heading to our second engagement party.
You guys, Adam and Lance are here.
I'm worried because I see Ed eventually leaving me
if his family's not accepting.
Everything was so confusing with the lawyer.
We need to talk about how we want things done.
Taking the second wife is illegal in America,
but it's important to Usman that he has a child.
What? I don't understand.
Who the fuck raises the child, me?
We came as a family, we'll go home as a family.
Jovi, please?
I don't think it was Yara's original plan
to stay in Europe longer, I think Karina,
her mom, they're influencing her to stay.
See? My mom crying, Jovi!
I don't want to have the baby in another country.
You have to leave with me.
You'll not be able to stay here, do you realise that?
I want to give birth in America.
I am not going to be comfortable leaving America, period.
I have to go and see my family tomorrow.
I would love to meet your family. Er...
There's no way that I would let anybody disrespect my mom,
not while I'm standing next to her.
We're not here to disrespect your family,
but we also aren't going to let your family berate my mom either.
Hi, Billy. Hey, angel.
My husband, Michael.
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