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Hey y'all, it's your girl, Saweetie.
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Making love, hooking up,
smashing, knocking the boots,
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getting pipe,
whatever you want to call it,
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sex...
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is a huge part of life.
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Without sex, Netflix and chill
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would be just watching
a whole-ass movie with someone
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and not getting it in.
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Ew!
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Look, we all love our sex,
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but statistics have shown
that during the pandemic
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libidos worldwide have taken a major L.
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It's been reported
that for nearly 50 percent of us
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lockdown was a major vibe killer.
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We're in a sex drought, y'all.
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So, think of this show
as a refresher course
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to rehab your sex drive,
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sex lives, and get your libido
popping in no time.
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We'll be hearing and learning
from a bunch of sexperts.
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Pay more attention to your partner
and less attention to your penis size.
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From funny-ass amateurs.
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-Fucking.
-Fucking.
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-Fucking.
-So I said, "smashed on" once
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and it didn't go well.
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-And this lot.
-Hey, Saweetie!
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Hey, girl!
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-Oh, wow.
-Wow. Look at this.
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Y'all ain't the sex toys I asked for,
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but y'all are kind of fly.
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Who are you?
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Well, we're sex-positive puppets.
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My name is Zeek.
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My pronouns are "they, them."
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'Cause I'm a non-binary babe.
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Gender fluid, pansexual as fuck,
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and down for whoever.
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I know that's right.
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Hey, I am Molly.
Pronouns are "she" and "her."
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I am into girls, I am into guys,
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but more importantly,
subscribe to my Just for Fans
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at "Molly gives it a try
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nothing beats good old-fashioned bi WAP
One-seven-three-four-six-eight."
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Ooh, catchy handle, sis.
And who's this hairy fellow?
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Yes, and yes. What? Oh, oh, oh.
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Oh hey, hi, sorry.
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I'm Mike, and I'm a big gay bear.
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Oh, we love a big boy. You good?
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Yeah, just getting my evening sorted out.
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We're almost done here, right?
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Daddy busy. Yes...
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-Yes?
-Hey.
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I'm Barb.
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And this hunky piece of felt
is my husband, Tuck.
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[laughs nervously]
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-Is he okay?
-Oh, oh, don't mind him.
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He's just in shock. He's your biggest fan.
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-[laughs]
-In fact, you're his celebrity hall pass.
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-What's that?
-You're the one celebrity
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I've given him express permission
to have sex with
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without any consequences.
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Is that right?
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-D'oh!
-[thuds]
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[giggles]
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So, that's the show.
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They're my sex-positive puppets.
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But what exactly does sex positivity mean?
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To me, sex positivity means
the opposite of shaming.
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It's about educating people on sex
with advice that can be empowering.
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But that's just my take.
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Sex positivity is like a fingerprint.
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Everyone's definition
is a little different.
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Sex positivity means
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honesty about sex.
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Loving each other and on yourself
in all shapes, sizes, and shades.
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Sex positivity means to me
maximizing your experience
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and your enjoyment of sex, on your terms.
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Letting people do their thing.
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As long as they're not hurting anybody,
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we shouldn't be shaming anyone
for any kink or anything.
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Be into feet, be into getting spit on,
whatever your deal is.
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You like getting doo-doo'd on.
Go do your thing, man.
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So many people
are not getting their needs met.
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Because they're too afraid
to tell someone to eat their ass.
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If someone wants to be really vanilla
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and only have sex with their husband,
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that's me, and I think that's fine.
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It doesn't mean I'm not sex positive.
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Americans are both obsessed with sex
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and deeply afraid of it.
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We'll fully watch people get murdered
on the news.
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But we won't let a woman
show her nipple on Instagram.
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And also the more comfortable you are
talking about stuff,
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the more you're going to communicate
with the people you having s...
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You're gonna have better sex.
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Sex positivity is better sex, yeah.
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My mom, who is 67 years old,
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she told me when I was 25,
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"Please have as much sex as you can,
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because they don't tell you
that it stops."
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And if she'd have known
that her dick was gonna run out,
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she would have caught
all the dicks that I did.
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So I'm catching dick for me...
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and my mother.
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That sounds weird,
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but that's why sex positivity is good.
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♪ Talking about sex positivity ♪
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♪ Positivity ♪
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♪ Positivity ♪
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[man panting]
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Water.
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Water, water.
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[gasps]
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Oh!
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[panting]
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[water sloshing]
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[woman exclaiming]
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[grunting]
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[screams]
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That's good, yeah!
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Depending on culture,
religion, or society,
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sex can be a very taboo topic
to speak openly about.
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-Mm-hmm.
-Let's break that taboo right now.
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Yes, we want your freak flag to fly high.
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But also help keep you...
[moaning] ...safe.
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Barb, you good, girl?
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Oh yeah, just being open
and celebrating sex.
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Oh, okay.
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So, was Tuck holding it down
during lockdown?
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Oh, yeah, yeah. No sex drought for us.
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We love to see it.
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So, what is your secret
on keeping it popping in the bedroom?
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Oh, Saweetie, you know,
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what keeps our sexual appetite growing
is our... [moaning] ...mindfulness.
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Mindfulness of one another
when we have sex.
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And not to focus so much on how we look,
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or how we perform,
that we forget to enjoy it.
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All that, and obviously butt stuff.
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-Yeah.
-Yeah. [spits]
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Ta-da!
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Oh, my goodness.
Y'all out here really "Finding Nemo."
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I was down by the vagina.
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Oh, I'm not mad at it.
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[laughs] Who's next?
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-Okay.
-[laughs]
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COVID. COVID really cock-blocked
my vagina.
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I had to put it in rehab for a sec.
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Sex is maybe
the most important thing to me,
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which is weird to say because
I haven't had it for a really long time.
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So, the longest I've gone
without sex, I mean,
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I would say, like...
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four years.
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Just like a couple of months or so.
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Probably a year.
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Yeah, four years.
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Maybe five.
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I want to say like two or three months.
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The moment of truth:
it's more likely seven, I think.
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It makes me feel really shitty.
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I hate going without sex.
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I hate the feeling
of not having, like, that connection
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with somebody, anybody.
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If sexual frustration was a sound...
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Uh...
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I think that's it.
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You know the sound of the Titanic sinking?
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-[groans]
-Like... [growls] Like a...
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-[whines]
-...creaking of the metal.
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-[exhales sharply]
-[thumps]
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-Could you hear it?
-[whimpers]
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-[groans]
-[growls]
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-[wails]
-[screams]
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[laughs]
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Like that.
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Ooh. How much sex should we be having?
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There is no right answer.
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My name is Oloni, I am a sex educator.
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I'm an award-winning TV presenter.
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And I'm an ambassador
for Lovehoney. [laughs]
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Everyone's libido is completely different,
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and that is completely fine.
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You might want to have sex once a week.
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You might want to have sex once a month.
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It could be every single day in the week.
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Whatever works for you.
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My name is Emily Morse.
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I'm a doctor of human sexuality,
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and I'm the founder and host
of Sex With Emily.
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I think it is okay to be in a period
of time where you're not having sex.
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In fact, I think it is really healthy,
you know?
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And you can always have sex with yourself.
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Ladies, there's coconut oil
and two fingers.
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Masturbating is an amazing tool.
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So, if you're not having sex
with someone, just masturbate.
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Self-pleasure's great, man.
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♪ Get it on ♪
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♪ Sex ♪
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-Adam?
-Yes, Eve?
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We've been going steady for a while now,
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and I want you to know
you're the only man for me.
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I should hope so.
I'm literally the only man here.
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I love you. I think I'm ready.
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Lets have, uh...
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-What's it called?
-[God] Sex.
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-Let's have sex.
-All right, okay.
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Great. Really, not sure what to do here.
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Is there an instruction manual?
I mean, come on,
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no one has ever done this before.
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This is literal virgin territory.
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-Just touch me.
-Really?
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Yeah, go on.
Just, yeah, just get in there.
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No, just. Yeah.
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Yeah.
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[both moaning]
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-[Adam] Oh, my...
-[snake groans]
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I can see everything from up here.
It's unbelievable.
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[both moan]
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All right, let's vibe out
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and get to know each other a little more.
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-Yeah.
-It is healthy to talk about sex,
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and you guys seem pretty open.
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So, what was your first time like?
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Yeah, well, me and Barb,
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we decided to wait till we were married
to lose our virginity.
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So the first time
for both of us was very special.
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-What a honeymoon.
-[all exclaim]
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-That's sweet.
-Yeah.
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It was amazing.
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The beaches were so beautiful.
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Our sun-kissed skin,
rubbing against each other,
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sand between our toes.
It was utterly perfect.
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-Barb?
-Hmm?
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Our honeymoon was in Buffalo.
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Uh-oh.
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There are no beaches in Buffalo.
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Um...
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Ahem. Okay, well, what about you, Zeek?
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How did you lose your virginity?
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Well, to be real with you, Saweetie,
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I don't really know
how to answer that question,
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because I don't believe in virginity.
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I don't think your first sexual experience
is defined by penetration.
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It's not like some magic dick comes along
and changes you forever.
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-[all laugh]
-Haha, "magic dick."
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Tell us about yours, Saweetie.
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Um...
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[sighs] You know what? I'm good.
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I think it might just be a little too much
for the audience.
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-What?
-Come on.
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-Come on.
-Come on.
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Don't be embarrassed.
Remember there's no judgment here.
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Tell old Mike, come on.
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Come on, come on.
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-[whispers]
-Okay.
256
00:10:23,831 --> 00:10:25,333
-[whispers]
-Okay.
257
00:10:25,416 --> 00:10:28,044
-[whispers]
-Oh my God.
258
00:10:28,127 --> 00:10:29,670
What's she saying?
259
00:10:30,921 --> 00:10:32,131
What the fuck?
260
00:10:32,715 --> 00:10:33,966
Oh, my God.
261
00:10:34,550 --> 00:10:35,718
Oh my God, yeah!
262
00:10:35,801 --> 00:10:38,220
We're not going to be able to air that.
263
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[all laugh]
264
00:10:40,931 --> 00:10:44,393
Losing my virginity was important to me
265
00:10:44,477 --> 00:10:45,978
because I wanted to be a grown-up.
266
00:10:46,062 --> 00:10:50,691
And I don't know how that gets so
localized to your hormonal body.
267
00:10:50,775 --> 00:10:53,319
Like, if you want to be grown,
pay some tax.
268
00:10:53,402 --> 00:10:56,405
My parts didn't feel like
they were supposed to be mine.
269
00:10:56,489 --> 00:10:59,408
So, it was a bit confusing.
270
00:10:59,492 --> 00:11:05,373
I tried to find the pleasure,
but it was more a mental thing,
271
00:11:05,456 --> 00:11:06,999
"Oh my gosh, I'm having sex,"
272
00:11:07,083 --> 00:11:09,627
rather than a whole spiritual
273
00:11:09,710 --> 00:11:14,757
and body engagement
that I feel now. [laughs]
274
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Me having sex at 17
275
00:11:16,967 --> 00:11:19,970
was like if I tried to walk
into a helicopter and fly it right now.
276
00:11:20,054 --> 00:11:22,640
Like, we are all lucky,
that there wasn't a tragedy.
277
00:11:22,723 --> 00:11:24,433
[helicopter whirs]
278
00:11:24,517 --> 00:11:27,895
I'll tell you what, I orgasmed
the first time I had sex...
279
00:11:29,063 --> 00:11:30,314
bitch!
280
00:11:30,398 --> 00:11:33,901
I luckily met a guy who, um...
281
00:11:34,402 --> 00:11:37,947
knew I was a virgin,
and like took a lot of, like, care
282
00:11:38,030 --> 00:11:39,949
and pride in taking my virginity,
283
00:11:40,032 --> 00:11:42,785
and then he eventually moved to New York
284
00:11:42,868 --> 00:11:45,579
to be with his girlfriend,
and never really called me again.
285
00:11:45,663 --> 00:11:47,957
[machine] You have no new messages.
286
00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:49,792
The best way I would describe it is
287
00:11:50,543 --> 00:11:54,547
I was having sex,
and my brain was being a commentator.
288
00:11:54,630 --> 00:11:57,383
So like, "You're tongue-kissing her now,
you're tongue kissing her now."
289
00:11:57,466 --> 00:11:59,885
And his hand has moved
to one of her breasts.
290
00:12:00,386 --> 00:12:03,556
And he's massaging.
He's massaging probably too vigorously.
291
00:12:03,639 --> 00:12:05,057
She's moved his hand away.
292
00:12:05,599 --> 00:12:07,852
He really is trying to move in
to seal the deal now.
293
00:12:07,935 --> 00:12:09,979
Don't, just don't come too quick.
294
00:12:10,062 --> 00:12:11,689
Whatever you do,
don't come too quick, mate.
295
00:12:11,772 --> 00:12:13,691
You can handle this.
This is gonna be great now.
296
00:12:13,774 --> 00:12:15,776
He's thrusting, he's thrusting.
297
00:12:15,860 --> 00:12:17,361
He's not quite there,
but now he's thrusting.
298
00:12:17,445 --> 00:12:19,071
He's trying to think about something else.
299
00:12:19,155 --> 00:12:20,489
He's trying to think about fruit
300
00:12:20,573 --> 00:12:22,992
for some reason
to try and stop himself ejaculating.
301
00:12:23,075 --> 00:12:24,368
It is a weird move by him.
302
00:12:24,452 --> 00:12:26,662
He's approaching the final straight now.
303
00:12:26,745 --> 00:12:28,330
And it's over.
304
00:12:28,414 --> 00:12:31,750
And... I've got
a fairly non-expressive face,
305
00:12:31,834 --> 00:12:34,003
but I imagine she was able
to read some of that.
306
00:12:36,630 --> 00:12:39,008
I'm Alexander Cheves,
and I'm a sex writer.
307
00:12:39,091 --> 00:12:42,803
I think that the biggest mistake
people make in having their first time
308
00:12:42,887 --> 00:12:45,097
is thinking that it's gonna be like porn.
309
00:12:45,181 --> 00:12:47,808
Girls, please do not get on top.
You have no business getting on top.
310
00:12:47,892 --> 00:12:49,268
It's not that time yet.
311
00:12:49,351 --> 00:12:51,395
It will come, but it's just not now.
312
00:12:51,479 --> 00:12:53,397
And I have literally worked on a porn set.
313
00:12:53,481 --> 00:12:56,775
And can tell everybody they're acting,
314
00:12:56,859 --> 00:13:00,321
there are edits
and messes that get edited out,
315
00:13:00,404 --> 00:13:01,780
and nobody has sex like that.
316
00:13:01,864 --> 00:13:03,699
Not even porn stars have sex like that.
317
00:13:03,782 --> 00:13:06,660
Porn is not a sex education source.
318
00:13:06,744 --> 00:13:09,622
Pick a partner that you trust
and that you feel safe with.
319
00:13:09,705 --> 00:13:12,708
Make sure you communicate
ahead of time. Use protection.
320
00:13:12,791 --> 00:13:14,168
I don't want to hear excuses, guys.
321
00:13:14,251 --> 00:13:16,212
Don't care what your mum says,
you're not special.
322
00:13:16,295 --> 00:13:18,714
There is a condom out there for you.
Wear it, please.
323
00:13:18,797 --> 00:13:21,550
♪ Safer sex is the greatest sex ♪
324
00:13:23,511 --> 00:13:24,345
Sex!
325
00:13:29,683 --> 00:13:32,144
My question for Dr. Ruth is, well...
326
00:13:32,645 --> 00:13:35,314
I'm quite interested
in Dr. Ruth's sex life
327
00:13:35,397 --> 00:13:37,191
and personal history. Like...
328
00:13:38,067 --> 00:13:40,110
Is Dr. Ruth someone who has a lot of sex?
329
00:13:40,194 --> 00:13:42,863
Does she, you know, what's she into?
330
00:13:42,947 --> 00:13:44,657
And then also, I'd like to know...
331
00:13:44,740 --> 00:13:46,951
is it true that...
332
00:13:48,077 --> 00:13:51,038
a clit is basically like a small dick?
333
00:13:51,121 --> 00:13:54,875
Okay, Mae. Okay, my dear. [laughs]
334
00:13:54,959 --> 00:13:57,211
Okay, number one,
335
00:13:57,294 --> 00:13:59,338
my personal sex life
336
00:13:59,964 --> 00:14:03,759
is only my business
and my partner's. Goodbye.
337
00:14:03,842 --> 00:14:04,760
Wait.
338
00:14:05,302 --> 00:14:07,096
Your other question
339
00:14:07,179 --> 00:14:09,682
is a very important one,
340
00:14:09,765 --> 00:14:13,352
and I don't want you to think
about the clitoris
341
00:14:14,103 --> 00:14:17,356
as a penis, but you are right.
342
00:14:17,439 --> 00:14:19,733
When the clitoris is aroused,
343
00:14:20,526 --> 00:14:23,862
blood flows into the clitoris.
344
00:14:23,946 --> 00:14:27,950
It has the characteristics of a penis.
345
00:14:28,033 --> 00:14:30,870
Thank you for that great question.
346
00:14:30,953 --> 00:14:32,496
Thanks, Dr. Ruth.
347
00:14:33,455 --> 00:14:35,833
Next question, please.
348
00:14:35,916 --> 00:14:40,713
Oh, Dr. Ruth, how do I make sure
I'm treating a sex worker ethically?
349
00:14:41,255 --> 00:14:42,882
Asking for a friend.
350
00:14:42,965 --> 00:14:44,174
Hi, Trixie.
351
00:14:44,258 --> 00:14:45,759
I'll tell you how.
352
00:14:45,843 --> 00:14:47,761
Make sure you pay double.
353
00:14:47,845 --> 00:14:50,556
And if that partner says "How come?"
354
00:14:50,639 --> 00:14:54,685
you say, "Dr. Ruth
said I should pay double."
355
00:14:54,768 --> 00:14:57,938
Thank you for that question,.
Bye-bye. Good luck.
356
00:14:58,022 --> 00:14:59,315
Thanks, Dr. Ruth.
357
00:15:00,399 --> 00:15:01,525
Goodbye.
358
00:15:05,446 --> 00:15:08,657
Bush. He-he, bush.
359
00:15:10,576 --> 00:15:13,913
Bermuda Triangle. Hmm.
360
00:15:17,916 --> 00:15:21,587
Brasília. [laughs]
361
00:15:21,670 --> 00:15:26,842
-[whistle blows]
-Brasília! Brasília! Brasília!
362
00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,848
I'ma have your nails
looking handsome as hell in no time.
363
00:15:32,931 --> 00:15:34,600
[gasps] You're too good to me.
364
00:15:35,601 --> 00:15:38,938
You know, after so long
in the sexual wilderness,
365
00:15:39,021 --> 00:15:42,274
you'll need to unwind and relax
that body of yours.
366
00:15:42,358 --> 00:15:46,195
so the sex can feel as carefree
and sensual as possible.
367
00:15:46,278 --> 00:15:48,322
Hashtag: "self care is sexy".
368
00:15:48,405 --> 00:15:49,657
No joke.
369
00:15:49,740 --> 00:15:52,284
When venturing back into the sexual arena,
370
00:15:52,368 --> 00:15:54,912
one of the most important
areas are your...
371
00:15:54,995 --> 00:15:56,580
important areas.
372
00:15:56,664 --> 00:16:00,793
Hygiene and grooming
are a huge part of a person's sex appeal.
373
00:16:00,876 --> 00:16:04,672
Personally, I don't subscribe
to gendered beauty standards.
374
00:16:04,755 --> 00:16:07,675
I just let it grow
with the flow, you know?
375
00:16:07,758 --> 00:16:10,052
Big-time sascrotch energy.
376
00:16:10,135 --> 00:16:12,012
-[tearing]
-[Mike] Ah!
377
00:16:13,055 --> 00:16:14,723
I went for the bald eagle.
378
00:16:16,058 --> 00:16:18,268
Oh, my lord.
379
00:16:19,603 --> 00:16:21,855
Don't give me like a bald vagina.
380
00:16:22,481 --> 00:16:25,025
But, I don't want '70s bush,
you know what I mean?
381
00:16:25,109 --> 00:16:26,944
Look like you handle your stuff.
382
00:16:27,027 --> 00:16:29,613
I love when women let it grow.
383
00:16:29,697 --> 00:16:31,824
I think you're meant to have pubic hair.
384
00:16:32,574 --> 00:16:35,327
Full disclosure, I'm utterly hairless.
385
00:16:35,411 --> 00:16:37,788
I just wish there was more
of an open conversation
386
00:16:37,871 --> 00:16:39,748
about what guys should do
with their pubic hair.
387
00:16:40,624 --> 00:16:43,252
'Cause there is nothing.
I'm flying blind right now.
388
00:16:43,335 --> 00:16:45,087
[razor buzzes]
389
00:16:46,964 --> 00:16:50,384
Well, the first time that I, like,
put Veet on my vagina,
390
00:16:50,467 --> 00:16:53,721
I let it get to, like,
into, like, the crevices,
391
00:16:53,804 --> 00:16:57,599
and I had a burnt clitoris
for, like, I don't know,
392
00:16:57,683 --> 00:16:58,726
two weeks.
393
00:16:58,809 --> 00:17:01,103
-[sizzling]
-[howls]
394
00:17:02,438 --> 00:17:03,605
That kind of sucked.
395
00:17:04,481 --> 00:17:06,275
I couldn't use peppermint soap anymore.
396
00:17:07,276 --> 00:17:08,360
What is this?
397
00:17:10,779 --> 00:17:12,156
You have to be clean, I mean...
398
00:17:13,323 --> 00:17:14,408
You have to be clean.
399
00:17:14,491 --> 00:17:17,161
It's a big spectrum of hygiene
that we need to cover
400
00:17:17,244 --> 00:17:19,621
because it is not even
just bodily hygiene.
401
00:17:19,705 --> 00:17:21,749
You know when you go into a man's bed
402
00:17:21,832 --> 00:17:23,459
and you can tell
he don't wash his bedsheets.
403
00:17:24,084 --> 00:17:27,171
Your bedsheets smell frusty.
404
00:17:27,254 --> 00:17:28,839
Like, is that a word? Frumpy.
405
00:17:28,922 --> 00:17:31,800
It smells like the word... blech.
406
00:17:31,884 --> 00:17:33,135
Uh...
407
00:17:36,180 --> 00:17:37,681
Clean ears, very important.
408
00:17:37,765 --> 00:17:40,517
Yuck. Like, if you can't clean your ears,
409
00:17:40,601 --> 00:17:41,852
your dick must be dirty.
410
00:17:41,935 --> 00:17:44,354
I don't know why men
more often don't just...
411
00:17:44,438 --> 00:17:46,440
flop out their dicks
and wash them in a sink.
412
00:17:46,523 --> 00:17:48,567
It should be more socially acceptable
413
00:17:48,650 --> 00:17:51,361
to take your dick out
in a public restroom sink
414
00:17:51,445 --> 00:17:52,279
and give it a wash.
415
00:17:52,362 --> 00:17:56,742
If I saw a man washing his dick in public,
I would applaud him.
416
00:17:56,825 --> 00:17:58,410
I wouldn't be alarmed.
417
00:17:58,494 --> 00:18:00,329
I wouldn't be offended.
I would say thank you.
418
00:18:00,412 --> 00:18:02,206
I will say, sometimes I've been with guys
419
00:18:02,289 --> 00:18:05,125
where they wash the penis
too aggressively,
420
00:18:05,209 --> 00:18:07,544
and then when you are doing
the oral sex, you're like,
421
00:18:07,628 --> 00:18:11,673
"Did you shove an entire bar
of Irish Spring up your piss slit?"
422
00:18:12,257 --> 00:18:15,135
I absolutely know what this is.
423
00:18:15,219 --> 00:18:18,138
Well, worryingly, it really looks used.
424
00:18:18,222 --> 00:18:21,266
I'm gay. Don't you flush
your butthole out with this?
425
00:18:21,934 --> 00:18:23,185
Oh.
426
00:18:23,268 --> 00:18:24,770
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm gay.
427
00:18:24,853 --> 00:18:27,940
You can't stump me
with a butthole mechanism.
428
00:18:28,023 --> 00:18:30,317
I think the word is "douche."
429
00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:32,861
Okay, I like "butthole mechanism."
430
00:18:32,945 --> 00:18:36,198
The official name is "anal douche,"
but I like "butthole mechanism."
431
00:18:36,698 --> 00:18:38,826
Fill it with water, up the butt,
432
00:18:38,909 --> 00:18:40,410
squeezy, squeezy,
433
00:18:40,494 --> 00:18:42,955
pushy out the water, sexy, sexy.
434
00:18:43,997 --> 00:18:46,416
Says that on the box. [laughs]
435
00:18:49,044 --> 00:18:51,004
I think that the hygiene mistakes
that we make
436
00:18:51,088 --> 00:18:52,923
are thinking that there's
something wrong with us
437
00:18:53,006 --> 00:18:56,260
and that we somehow
have to change our natural odor.
438
00:18:56,343 --> 00:18:58,887
I mean, the vaginas
are self-cleaning ovens, essentially.
439
00:18:58,971 --> 00:19:02,015
You are not supposed to wash
inside your vagina.
440
00:19:02,099 --> 00:19:03,642
We have our natural balance,
441
00:19:03,725 --> 00:19:06,687
and it's going to pretty much stay
how it's supposed to.
442
00:19:06,770 --> 00:19:09,857
It's not just about intimacy.
It's also about self.
443
00:19:09,940 --> 00:19:12,860
Making sure that,
we get those regular STI tests.
444
00:19:12,943 --> 00:19:14,653
Some people are still not doing that.
445
00:19:14,736 --> 00:19:16,905
They ignore those smells.
446
00:19:16,989 --> 00:19:20,701
They ignore the burn,
or the pain or, you know,
447
00:19:20,784 --> 00:19:22,911
that's coming from their genitals.
And it's like why?
448
00:19:22,995 --> 00:19:25,581
You should be, at a minimum,
449
00:19:25,664 --> 00:19:29,668
getting a full-range screen
for STIs every three months.
450
00:19:29,751 --> 00:19:31,879
And that's true for men,
that's true for women,
451
00:19:31,962 --> 00:19:34,590
that's true for queer people,
that's true for non-queer people.
452
00:19:34,673 --> 00:19:36,425
And a full screening for me...
453
00:19:37,176 --> 00:19:39,720
I'm already HIV positive,
so I don't get screened for HIV,
454
00:19:39,803 --> 00:19:45,184
but I get screened for gonorrhea,
chlamydia, hep C, and syphilis.
455
00:19:46,101 --> 00:19:50,188
And everybody who's having sex
needs to be screened for those things.
456
00:19:50,272 --> 00:19:52,649
That's just being a responsible,
sexually active adult.
457
00:19:52,733 --> 00:19:56,195
I have a feeling
my grandmother had one of these.
458
00:19:56,737 --> 00:20:00,908
♪ Communication leads to
Better copulation ♪
459
00:20:02,201 --> 00:20:04,620
[camera shutter clicks]
460
00:20:07,623 --> 00:20:10,292
You are getting my good side, right?
461
00:20:10,834 --> 00:20:13,253
Profile pics are so important.
462
00:20:14,671 --> 00:20:17,382
[camera shutter clicks]
463
00:20:21,261 --> 00:20:24,139
Mike, did you ever sort your evening out?
464
00:20:24,223 --> 00:20:27,559
Oh, yeah, my new profile
is working a treat.
465
00:20:27,643 --> 00:20:30,479
-[phone dings]
-Yes, yes.
466
00:20:31,271 --> 00:20:32,231
Yes.
467
00:20:33,398 --> 00:20:36,360
What ever happened to a good
old-fashioned pick-up line in a bar?
468
00:20:37,527 --> 00:20:39,279
Also, why am I even in this bit?
469
00:20:39,363 --> 00:20:40,781
Where the hell is Saweetie?
470
00:20:40,864 --> 00:20:42,616
She's doing Zeek's nails.
471
00:20:45,285 --> 00:20:47,204
Three tours on the dating apps wars.
472
00:20:47,287 --> 00:20:49,081
I've spent lot of time on there.
473
00:20:49,164 --> 00:20:52,000
Gotta cast a wide net
if you want to catch a lot of fish.
474
00:20:53,502 --> 00:20:54,920
I've been on Tinder...
475
00:20:55,003 --> 00:20:57,381
Tinder for the straight people,
Grindr for people who grind...
476
00:20:57,464 --> 00:20:58,382
Been on Bumble...
477
00:20:58,465 --> 00:21:01,426
Grindr is certainly
the most popular gay sex app.
478
00:21:01,510 --> 00:21:03,220
-...been on Hinge.
-GROWLr for bears.
479
00:21:03,303 --> 00:21:05,597
Oh, gosh. I use Scruff primarily.
480
00:21:05,681 --> 00:21:06,765
I've been on Raya...
481
00:21:06,848 --> 00:21:10,519
...which is a dating app for
DJs who jump off their friends' yachts.
482
00:21:10,602 --> 00:21:11,603
I've been on Jdate...
483
00:21:11,687 --> 00:21:13,981
Recon is for gay men and queer men
484
00:21:14,064 --> 00:21:16,316
who are into kinks and fetishes.
I use that one quite a bit.
485
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:18,944
-I've been on JSwipe.
-ChristianMingle,
486
00:21:19,027 --> 00:21:21,071
which is confusing,
'cause if your name is Christian,
487
00:21:21,154 --> 00:21:22,906
why would you want
to meet someone else named Christian.
488
00:21:22,990 --> 00:21:25,784
And for a shot period, I was on OkCupid,
489
00:21:25,867 --> 00:21:28,370
but I met my fiancé doing a podcast.
490
00:21:28,453 --> 00:21:30,372
I was on Yahoo! Personals,
491
00:21:30,455 --> 00:21:32,666
and this was, like,
the app back in the day
492
00:21:32,749 --> 00:21:35,377
where you had to fill out paragraphs
493
00:21:35,460 --> 00:21:37,379
of who you was and what you wanted to be.
494
00:21:37,462 --> 00:21:40,549
I said, "Oh, my God, this is a book."
495
00:21:40,632 --> 00:21:43,010
Now dating apps are just like Uber Eats.
496
00:21:43,093 --> 00:21:45,345
You can just Uber Eats
that dick right on over.
497
00:21:45,429 --> 00:21:48,265
-[doorbell rings]
-Hi, here's your dick.
498
00:21:49,266 --> 00:21:50,517
Guys would say,
499
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:53,270
"Yeah, I'm...
500
00:21:53,353 --> 00:21:55,188
I want a relationship, I want a thing,"
501
00:21:55,272 --> 00:21:57,774
and then I say, "I'm trans,"
and then the next thing I knew,
502
00:21:57,858 --> 00:22:00,944
my inbox was flooded with nudes
503
00:22:01,028 --> 00:22:05,323
in all various forms, and shapes,
and sizes, and colors,
504
00:22:05,407 --> 00:22:07,701
and, after a while, it just...
505
00:22:09,619 --> 00:22:12,205
got horrifying. [laughs]
506
00:22:12,289 --> 00:22:15,751
My DMs are like
the United Nations of dick right now.
507
00:22:15,834 --> 00:22:17,377
I've got dick from all over the world.
508
00:22:17,461 --> 00:22:19,921
I've got Caribbean dick.
I've got Greek dick.
509
00:22:20,005 --> 00:22:22,466
I've got-- Guys will send you a dick pic
510
00:22:23,216 --> 00:22:24,342
just 'cause it is Tuesday.
511
00:22:24,426 --> 00:22:26,678
The way that straight men
photograph their dicks,
512
00:22:26,762 --> 00:22:29,473
it's like the last photo
of them seen alive.
513
00:22:29,973 --> 00:22:33,351
I met a guy on an app,
and he invited me over,
514
00:22:33,435 --> 00:22:35,395
and I knew he was in an open relationship.
515
00:22:35,479 --> 00:22:38,231
I showed up at his house, and we sat down
in the living room and he was like,
516
00:22:38,315 --> 00:22:40,192
"We have to hook up in the living room,
517
00:22:40,275 --> 00:22:43,779
because my husband is home,
and he's a little bit racist."
518
00:22:43,862 --> 00:22:45,781
I was like, "Excuse me?"
519
00:22:45,864 --> 00:22:48,116
This guy matched with me,
520
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:49,868
and I said, "Hi," he said, "Hi."
521
00:22:49,951 --> 00:22:52,954
Then he said, "I want to see
your dark brown pussy lips."
522
00:22:53,038 --> 00:22:56,958
And I was like, "First of all,
we just said hello!"
523
00:22:57,042 --> 00:22:59,544
Like, we need to build up
to pussy lip chat.
524
00:22:59,628 --> 00:23:00,962
I'm not mad at dating apps.
525
00:23:01,046 --> 00:23:04,466
I think it's great. I think
it's really important for people
526
00:23:04,549 --> 00:23:05,926
to put themselves out there.
527
00:23:06,009 --> 00:23:07,803
I met my husband...
528
00:23:07,886 --> 00:23:10,055
There's no other way to say it.
It was a one-night stand.
529
00:23:10,847 --> 00:23:12,724
You know, I always tell my friends
530
00:23:12,808 --> 00:23:15,143
that have a lot of rules
when it comes to dating,
531
00:23:15,227 --> 00:23:17,771
"Open your mind, open your heart,
and open your legs to love."
532
00:23:17,854 --> 00:23:19,356
'Cause you never know
when you might find it.
533
00:23:21,983 --> 00:23:23,902
The biggest thing
that I think apps have done
534
00:23:23,985 --> 00:23:27,155
is that they've changed the way
we present ourselves to each other.
535
00:23:27,697 --> 00:23:29,658
Among men who have sex with men,
536
00:23:29,741 --> 00:23:33,036
my generation, and certainly
the generation following mine,
537
00:23:33,120 --> 00:23:35,413
is very concerned
about whether or not they're a top
538
00:23:35,497 --> 00:23:37,874
or a bottom or a versatile,
and they see these roles
539
00:23:37,958 --> 00:23:41,753
as being really divided
and fixed and permanent.
540
00:23:41,837 --> 00:23:45,215
Because that's literally a tag
within the app
541
00:23:45,298 --> 00:23:47,342
that you can either filter
or search somebody for.
542
00:23:47,425 --> 00:23:51,179
So we have this idea
that you must be one or the other.
543
00:23:51,263 --> 00:23:52,556
And I think that that's very new.
544
00:23:52,639 --> 00:23:56,518
Weirdly, like, dating apps are the place
where I did try to use pick-up lines
545
00:23:56,601 --> 00:23:59,604
because I never knew what to say first.
546
00:23:59,688 --> 00:24:01,523
Because, like,
if you're really good-looking,
547
00:24:01,606 --> 00:24:02,941
you can open with like, "Hey!"
548
00:24:03,024 --> 00:24:05,235
But if you're, you know,
kind of average like me,
549
00:24:05,318 --> 00:24:08,446
you have to, like, try to open
with a fun fact, where you're like,
550
00:24:08,530 --> 00:24:11,074
"A lot of people think Vermont
makes the most maple syrup,
551
00:24:11,158 --> 00:24:14,286
but it's actually New Hampshire.
Hi, I'm Ian."
552
00:24:16,955 --> 00:24:19,166
-[interviewer] Has it worked?
-Not once.
553
00:24:23,461 --> 00:24:25,297
[woman] With female intimate anatomy,
554
00:24:25,380 --> 00:24:27,883
the first rule
is that you don't start there ever.
555
00:24:27,966 --> 00:24:31,094
It's important to start at the very
peripheries or at the fingers,
556
00:24:31,178 --> 00:24:33,180
the hands, the arms, and have eye contact,
557
00:24:33,263 --> 00:24:35,348
and make the woman feel safe.
558
00:24:35,432 --> 00:24:37,184
So my name is Stella Anna Sonnenbaum.
559
00:24:37,267 --> 00:24:40,687
I'm a somatic sexologist
in central London.
560
00:24:40,770 --> 00:24:43,106
Once we get to the intimate anatomy,
561
00:24:43,190 --> 00:24:45,483
a nice way is pussy paw strokes,
562
00:24:45,567 --> 00:24:47,986
which is just, with a lubricated hand,
563
00:24:48,069 --> 00:24:50,071
going over the vulva like this,
564
00:24:50,155 --> 00:24:52,574
from different directions,
and find the grooves.
565
00:24:53,116 --> 00:24:55,660
So, the inner labia
sometimes stick out, like here.
566
00:24:55,744 --> 00:24:58,038
Sometimes even more and different colors.
567
00:24:58,121 --> 00:25:01,750
Rose or white-colored,
or grey, purple, or brown.
568
00:25:01,833 --> 00:25:04,586
And sometimes they are hardly there,
569
00:25:04,669 --> 00:25:06,713
so women who look like this.
570
00:25:06,796 --> 00:25:10,467
We can make a vulva sandwich, like that.
571
00:25:11,176 --> 00:25:13,386
The other difference
between different women
572
00:25:13,470 --> 00:25:16,932
is how far is the clitoral head,
which is here,
573
00:25:17,015 --> 00:25:21,978
away from the vaginal opening,
because the further it is away,
574
00:25:22,062 --> 00:25:24,981
the more difficult it is to achieve orgasm
575
00:25:25,065 --> 00:25:28,068
with penetration alone,
without any additional stimulation
576
00:25:28,151 --> 00:25:29,819
on the clitoral head.
577
00:25:29,903 --> 00:25:33,323
The clitoris also has legs,
which are here in the outer labia,
578
00:25:33,406 --> 00:25:35,533
so when a woman gets very aroused,
579
00:25:35,617 --> 00:25:37,619
then the entire thing here swells up.
580
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,789
A nice way to stimulate
the head of the clitoris
581
00:25:40,872 --> 00:25:44,125
is to first of all go around clockwise
for quite a long time.
582
00:25:45,168 --> 00:25:47,212
Some women like direct touch
583
00:25:47,295 --> 00:25:48,672
on the clitoral head.
584
00:25:48,755 --> 00:25:50,048
For other women, it's agony.
585
00:25:50,131 --> 00:25:52,008
It's like being on an electric wire,
586
00:25:52,092 --> 00:25:53,551
so communication is key here.
587
00:25:53,635 --> 00:25:55,262
Some women's clitorises are hidden
588
00:25:55,345 --> 00:25:57,722
by the hood,
and some are really, like, large,
589
00:25:57,806 --> 00:25:59,808
prominent and sticking out.
590
00:25:59,891 --> 00:26:03,228
Oral sex, stimulating
with the tongue the entire vulva...
591
00:26:03,311 --> 00:26:05,105
That can be really nice.
592
00:26:05,605 --> 00:26:07,315
There's also another arousal zone.
593
00:26:07,399 --> 00:26:10,652
The perineal sponge here
between the vagina and the anus.
594
00:26:10,735 --> 00:26:14,531
Rimming, so stimulating
the anal area, can feel really nice.
595
00:26:14,614 --> 00:26:18,118
The other thing to concentrate on
is the clitoral head.
596
00:26:18,201 --> 00:26:20,870
Quick tongue movements,
they can either be up and down
597
00:26:20,954 --> 00:26:22,414
or they can be across,
598
00:26:22,497 --> 00:26:24,874
keeping some stamina going there
599
00:26:24,958 --> 00:26:28,712
and doing the same repetitive movements
for quite a long time.
600
00:26:29,379 --> 00:26:31,047
Other arousal zones.
601
00:26:31,131 --> 00:26:34,884
So, the G-ridge starts
just after the vaginal opening,
602
00:26:34,968 --> 00:26:37,929
and it goes all the way
to the G-spot around the corner.
603
00:26:38,013 --> 00:26:41,308
Women have different amounts
of G-spot tissue.
604
00:26:41,391 --> 00:26:44,144
Some have a G-ridge, some just a G-spot,
605
00:26:44,227 --> 00:26:46,855
and with other women
there is hardly any G-spot tissue at all.
606
00:26:46,938 --> 00:26:50,233
A nice stroke to find the G-spot
with the middle finger,
607
00:26:50,317 --> 00:26:53,361
we need to have the thumb
on the two o'clock
608
00:26:53,862 --> 00:26:55,947
and then to do a kind of pincer movement
609
00:26:56,031 --> 00:26:57,324
because what we have in between,
610
00:26:57,407 --> 00:27:00,327
the urethra is wrapped
in a sheath of erectile tissue,
611
00:27:00,410 --> 00:27:02,829
so that is also an arousal zone.
612
00:27:02,912 --> 00:27:08,418
A penis is unlikely to ever hit the G-spot
because it's going around the corner,
613
00:27:08,501 --> 00:27:11,671
but what a penis can hit
are two other pleasure zones
614
00:27:11,755 --> 00:27:13,506
that are at the end of the vagina.
615
00:27:13,590 --> 00:27:15,383
One towards the belly button
616
00:27:15,467 --> 00:27:18,553
that's, like, all the way in.
That is called the A-spot often.
617
00:27:18,636 --> 00:27:20,972
And there's one that's also
at the end of the vagina
618
00:27:21,056 --> 00:27:22,140
that's towards the guts,
619
00:27:22,223 --> 00:27:24,851
and that's sometimes
called the O-spot or the P-spot.
620
00:27:24,934 --> 00:27:28,188
And so, this is more likely
to get hit by a penis
621
00:27:28,271 --> 00:27:30,982
or by a toy, yeah,
if there is intercourse.
622
00:27:31,608 --> 00:27:34,069
♪ Don't be a rookie
When it comes to getting nooky ♪
623
00:27:38,823 --> 00:27:40,742
-Mm.
-[both giggle]
624
00:27:40,825 --> 00:27:43,453
[peach] Ugh, why is it always the grapes?
625
00:27:43,536 --> 00:27:45,121
[eggplant] I know. Always the grapes.
626
00:27:45,205 --> 00:27:47,374
I mean, why do they get the love?
627
00:27:47,457 --> 00:27:49,209
Well, red grapes help stimulate
628
00:27:49,292 --> 00:27:51,503
the production of estrogen
and testosterone.
629
00:27:51,586 --> 00:27:54,130
So, you know, trust the science.
630
00:27:54,214 --> 00:27:55,757
[sighs] All right, Fauci.
631
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:59,636
Well, I'm a powerhouse of vitamin C,
so I increase the sex drive.
632
00:27:59,719 --> 00:28:01,721
Eat me, eat me!
633
00:28:01,805 --> 00:28:03,223
-Ah.
-[both giggle]
634
00:28:03,973 --> 00:28:06,684
I guess, we're just gonna
have to stay as emojis.
635
00:28:06,768 --> 00:28:08,728
Honestly, I have no idea why I'm here.
636
00:28:08,812 --> 00:28:10,021
I'm not even a fruit.
637
00:28:10,105 --> 00:28:11,940
I'm a vegetable.
638
00:28:13,149 --> 00:28:15,443
Where is that grape going?
639
00:28:15,944 --> 00:28:18,071
Stuff it in there, big guy.
640
00:28:18,154 --> 00:28:22,367
-Ick!
-Yeah, get me. Stick me in there.
641
00:28:22,450 --> 00:28:24,369
That would be a surprise.
642
00:28:24,452 --> 00:28:27,372
-[yawns]
-[meows]
643
00:28:27,455 --> 00:28:28,540
So, uh...
644
00:28:29,833 --> 00:28:30,834
wanna?
645
00:28:31,376 --> 00:28:33,795
Eh, I'm not really feeling it tonight,
babe.
646
00:28:35,088 --> 00:28:37,298
Oh, my gosh.
647
00:28:38,049 --> 00:28:41,052
What happened to you two? Hmm?
648
00:28:41,553 --> 00:28:42,929
At the beginning of the show,
649
00:28:43,012 --> 00:28:45,390
y'all were literally swimming
in each other.
650
00:28:45,932 --> 00:28:48,935
And now, this is just sad.
651
00:28:49,018 --> 00:28:50,687
The vibes are hella off.
652
00:28:50,770 --> 00:28:51,980
You got to set the mood.
653
00:28:52,772 --> 00:28:55,567
-What do you mean?
-Get the lights right.
654
00:28:55,650 --> 00:28:57,777
-Ooh!
-Get some music on.
655
00:28:57,861 --> 00:28:59,362
-[romantic music playing]
-Ah.
656
00:28:59,446 --> 00:29:02,741
And kick that cat out of the room, please.
657
00:29:02,824 --> 00:29:04,576
[meows]
658
00:29:04,659 --> 00:29:06,119
Bye, Stanley.
659
00:29:06,202 --> 00:29:08,746
Okay, vibe check. How are we feeling?
660
00:29:08,830 --> 00:29:11,207
-[moaning]
-[giggling]
661
00:29:11,291 --> 00:29:14,210
Oh! See, now you're speaking my language.
662
00:29:14,294 --> 00:29:17,213
-[growls]
-[moans]
663
00:29:18,131 --> 00:29:20,425
Setting the scene for sex
is very important.
664
00:29:20,508 --> 00:29:22,552
You know,
you have to have a little ambiance.
665
00:29:22,635 --> 00:29:24,804
A nice candle, not too scented
666
00:29:24,888 --> 00:29:26,973
because we want to be able
to smell ourselves.
667
00:29:27,056 --> 00:29:28,933
[laughs] Yes.
668
00:29:29,017 --> 00:29:33,313
Foreplay helps. The passion,
kissing on my neck and, you know,
669
00:29:33,396 --> 00:29:37,275
just admiring my body
and letting me know you're into it.
670
00:29:37,358 --> 00:29:40,820
Going down on a woman is so important.
There is not...
671
00:29:40,904 --> 00:29:44,824
You can't just stick your face in it,
smoosh it about and pray.
672
00:29:44,908 --> 00:29:48,786
Sometimes they're too teethy.
I'm gonna ask you to gum, like just...
673
00:29:48,870 --> 00:29:50,288
Gum... just...
674
00:29:50,371 --> 00:29:51,790
Don't go in there and...
675
00:29:51,873 --> 00:29:55,752
Just... lips. Push your lips forward
676
00:29:55,835 --> 00:29:57,795
and then the tongue underneath it.
677
00:29:57,879 --> 00:29:59,756
Don't just... el, el. That's not cool.
678
00:29:59,839 --> 00:30:04,177
There is no scene-setting for sex
in my marriage anymore.
679
00:30:04,260 --> 00:30:09,599
I kind of feel like there's an honesty
in that, that should be respected.
680
00:30:09,682 --> 00:30:12,101
I mean, some people have a fight
to get in the mood.
681
00:30:12,185 --> 00:30:14,062
Some people really like that as foreplay.
682
00:30:14,145 --> 00:30:16,689
I just feel like I get in the mood for sex
683
00:30:16,773 --> 00:30:19,234
by, like, putting
my husband's dick in my mouth.
684
00:30:20,944 --> 00:30:24,739
When you engage all your senses
and you have an environment that's sort of
685
00:30:24,822 --> 00:30:27,784
geared towards you feeling good
and your partner feeling good.
686
00:30:27,867 --> 00:30:30,203
To me, that is the best way
to set the mood for sex.
687
00:30:30,286 --> 00:30:34,332
The best place I've had sex is
688
00:30:34,415 --> 00:30:36,084
on a terrace in Paris.
689
00:30:36,167 --> 00:30:37,460
-On a beach.
-In a hot tub.
690
00:30:37,544 --> 00:30:40,046
I got fingered on Magic Mountain.
691
00:30:40,129 --> 00:30:42,465
One time I jerked off
on the second floor of a Neiman Marcus
692
00:30:42,549 --> 00:30:45,260
in a handicap stall.
I will not be discussing it at this time.
693
00:30:45,343 --> 00:30:46,886
Ikea...
694
00:30:46,970 --> 00:30:50,431
I love basic simple design.
695
00:30:50,515 --> 00:30:52,100
It really gets me going.
696
00:30:52,183 --> 00:30:54,561
Um... I had sex in like uh--
697
00:30:54,644 --> 00:30:57,063
It's not that weird,
but I think it is weird for me.
698
00:30:57,605 --> 00:31:00,441
But you know, if you were like sitting
699
00:31:00,525 --> 00:31:03,695
in like a dinner party or something,
or like a party,
700
00:31:03,778 --> 00:31:05,613
and everyone goes,
"Where is the weirdest place you had sex"?
701
00:31:05,697 --> 00:31:07,949
My answer, everyone would go "Oh, my God"!
702
00:31:08,491 --> 00:31:12,203
That's pathetic because I imagine
there's like really cool answers,
703
00:31:12,287 --> 00:31:13,788
but I had sex in a Portaloo.
704
00:31:14,289 --> 00:31:16,416
Absolutely disgusting
and I don't recommend it.
705
00:31:16,499 --> 00:31:17,959
In fact I condemn it.
706
00:31:18,042 --> 00:31:20,003
Oh! I had sex in a lake.
707
00:31:20,086 --> 00:31:24,048
I've definitely been fingered in a lake
and had sex in a Canadian lake at night.
708
00:31:24,132 --> 00:31:28,094
Beautiful, probably some moose watching.
709
00:31:28,177 --> 00:31:30,346
You got to have a pervy moose
watching you.
710
00:31:30,430 --> 00:31:32,640
And most Canadians have had sex in a lake
711
00:31:32,724 --> 00:31:36,060
and um, actually, ask Katherine Ryan
if she's had sex in a lake.
712
00:31:36,144 --> 00:31:40,857
Mae Martin, sadly I don't think I had sex
in a Canadian lake.
713
00:31:40,940 --> 00:31:42,734
I grew up in Sarnia
714
00:31:42,817 --> 00:31:44,903
where we have
a massive petrochemical plant
715
00:31:44,986 --> 00:31:47,864
and so I think part of the reason
I can still reproduce
716
00:31:47,947 --> 00:31:49,490
is that I never had sex in that lake.
717
00:31:49,574 --> 00:31:51,826
But no, I don't think I had sex
in the lake.
718
00:31:51,909 --> 00:31:53,995
I mean, my follow-up question
is which lakes?
719
00:31:54,078 --> 00:31:55,538
-We have Great Lakes.
-Yeah, yeah.
720
00:31:55,622 --> 00:31:58,499
We're talking Lake Ontario,
Lake Superior...
721
00:31:58,583 --> 00:32:01,127
um... you know...
722
00:32:01,210 --> 00:32:03,421
-Georgian Bay.
-What?
723
00:32:03,504 --> 00:32:05,048
Is Mae like a seahorse?
724
00:32:05,131 --> 00:32:07,634
What is she doing?
Like, only mating in the water?
725
00:32:07,717 --> 00:32:10,595
I've had sex on a bed.
I've had sex on a couch.
726
00:32:10,678 --> 00:32:14,349
I've had sex on a futon,
which is a bed and a couch.
727
00:32:14,432 --> 00:32:18,311
And then once on the floor, near a couch.
728
00:32:20,938 --> 00:32:25,652
So, I like having sex indoors,
in my bedroom.
729
00:32:27,528 --> 00:32:32,450
[Stella] What I hear from men,
is that women handle penises quite rough.
730
00:32:32,533 --> 00:32:35,662
Without any lube or without any saliva.
731
00:32:35,745 --> 00:32:38,831
So it's often, this kind of movement,
up and down.
732
00:32:38,915 --> 00:32:40,333
And often when there is no lubrication,
733
00:32:40,416 --> 00:32:42,126
that can be downright painful.
734
00:32:42,210 --> 00:32:43,753
And a lot of women tell me
735
00:32:43,836 --> 00:32:46,673
they just don't know what to do
with a penis or they're not confident
736
00:32:46,756 --> 00:32:48,508
to handle a penis.
737
00:32:48,591 --> 00:32:51,010
And so, I really like talking about it.
738
00:32:51,094 --> 00:32:53,054
What's often forgotten is the perineum
739
00:32:53,137 --> 00:32:56,474
which is behind the testicles,
between the testicles and the anus
740
00:32:56,557 --> 00:32:59,143
and what we have there is the root
of the penis within.
741
00:32:59,227 --> 00:33:04,774
So that is often surprisingly essential
and a nice area to touch as well.
742
00:33:04,857 --> 00:33:07,694
The other forgotten area
are the testicles.
743
00:33:07,777 --> 00:33:10,905
The testicles are in the scrotum,
the skin bag
744
00:33:10,988 --> 00:33:14,075
and we can either pull the testicles out
a little bit like that.
745
00:33:14,158 --> 00:33:20,540
Or we can make a ring around the testicles
and either stroke or tickle.
746
00:33:20,623 --> 00:33:23,084
Just a word of warning,
the only thing you must not do
747
00:33:23,167 --> 00:33:25,461
is obviously hitting it really hard
748
00:33:25,545 --> 00:33:27,088
and twisting in any way.
749
00:33:28,089 --> 00:33:31,926
So for the penis itself,
it is quite nice to make rings.
750
00:33:32,010 --> 00:33:35,972
And to see which is actually most
pleasurable because that may differ.
751
00:33:36,055 --> 00:33:39,016
The other thing to discover,
often the underside
752
00:33:39,100 --> 00:33:41,227
is really sensual and pleasurable
753
00:33:41,310 --> 00:33:47,108
But what about comparing the right side
with the left side or the upper side.
754
00:33:47,191 --> 00:33:50,194
A nice simple stroke is when we hold
the penis like that
755
00:33:50,778 --> 00:33:54,657
and glide our palms on top of the glans.
756
00:33:54,741 --> 00:33:58,578
And we can also move
the glans around like this.
757
00:33:58,661 --> 00:34:01,289
Or we can do the stroke
that is called a lemon squeezer.
758
00:34:01,372 --> 00:34:03,332
Where we kind of come from above.
759
00:34:03,416 --> 00:34:07,003
We turn around,
and then all sort of on and off.
760
00:34:07,837 --> 00:34:10,465
So a common misconception is that
761
00:34:10,548 --> 00:34:13,426
in order to give oral sex to a penis owner
762
00:34:13,509 --> 00:34:15,595
that we use our mouth only.
763
00:34:16,304 --> 00:34:18,306
Mm, I would suggest not.
764
00:34:18,389 --> 00:34:20,850
I will suggest to use the hand
and the mouth.
765
00:34:20,933 --> 00:34:23,936
An interesting area
is the sulcus area here.
766
00:34:24,020 --> 00:34:26,814
So that is where the shaft
and the glans meet, um.
767
00:34:26,898 --> 00:34:29,609
Usually that is quite pleasurable
to touch.
768
00:34:30,109 --> 00:34:32,987
So go with the mouth over the sulcus area
769
00:34:33,071 --> 00:34:36,324
and then off again,
and then use the hand also.
770
00:34:36,407 --> 00:34:38,493
To the sulcus area and off again.
771
00:34:38,576 --> 00:34:42,038
What is crucial is lube, lubrication.
772
00:34:42,121 --> 00:34:46,584
More saliva than you think is possible
to produce. A lot, yeah?
773
00:34:46,667 --> 00:34:50,588
And so you still have the one hand free
to stimulate the anal area
774
00:34:50,671 --> 00:34:54,759
And that can be just on the outside,
like on the rim.
775
00:34:54,842 --> 00:34:58,054
Or we can also insert a fingertip inside.
776
00:34:58,137 --> 00:35:01,682
It depends on the nails.
If you have long nails, don't do that.
777
00:35:02,433 --> 00:35:05,186
♪ Let's talk about sex ♪
778
00:35:05,269 --> 00:35:07,188
♪ Let's talk about sex ♪
779
00:35:08,898 --> 00:35:11,651
-I love you.
-I love you too.
780
00:35:13,319 --> 00:35:16,781
You know, I would really love for you
to talk dirty to me.
781
00:35:18,407 --> 00:35:21,994
-I don't know what to say.
-Say whatever turns you on.
782
00:35:22,078 --> 00:35:24,705
-Shock me.
-You sure?
783
00:35:24,789 --> 00:35:26,916
Oh, yeah, I'm sure.
784
00:35:28,918 --> 00:35:30,211
Okay.
785
00:35:30,294 --> 00:35:32,713
Um... yeah.
786
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:35,341
I really want to fuck your Dad!
787
00:35:35,424 --> 00:35:36,717
-Wait, what?
-What?
788
00:35:36,801 --> 00:35:38,094
-What?
-Dude.
789
00:35:40,054 --> 00:35:41,222
I don't know about you
790
00:35:41,305 --> 00:35:43,099
but I think we've all learned
something new.
791
00:35:43,182 --> 00:35:44,350
Yeah.
792
00:35:44,433 --> 00:35:46,227
And it's not just the physical stuff
that's important.
793
00:35:46,310 --> 00:35:48,229
-No.
-There is an art to saying
794
00:35:48,312 --> 00:35:49,605
the right thing in bed.
795
00:35:50,439 --> 00:35:53,025
-Communication is hella important.
-Yes.
796
00:35:53,109 --> 00:35:57,655
For a lot of people, talking in bed
and specifically dirty talking,
797
00:35:57,738 --> 00:35:59,240
can be a huge turn-on.
798
00:35:59,866 --> 00:36:00,992
Yes.
799
00:36:01,075 --> 00:36:02,618
With enough conviction,
800
00:36:02,702 --> 00:36:04,954
you can take any word
and make it sound dirty.
801
00:36:05,037 --> 00:36:06,414
Ooh!
802
00:36:06,497 --> 00:36:09,542
Just remember to always keep it
respectful and keep it icy.
803
00:36:09,625 --> 00:36:10,585
[murmuring]
804
00:36:10,668 --> 00:36:13,129
Let's try.
Someone in the class, shout a word.
805
00:36:13,212 --> 00:36:16,090
Ooh! Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh! Me.
Me, me, me, me, me.
806
00:36:16,174 --> 00:36:18,176
-[Saweetie] Uh-huh?
-Door hinge.
807
00:36:19,135 --> 00:36:22,972
Hmm. Do you want to see me
open up like a door hinge?
808
00:36:23,055 --> 00:36:26,475
Oh! You did it.
809
00:36:26,559 --> 00:36:30,396
How about, uh, mango?
810
00:36:30,479 --> 00:36:31,898
Ooh.
811
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:37,028
Mm. You know what will taste
even better after I eat this mango?
812
00:36:37,111 --> 00:36:38,863
[class exclaims]
813
00:36:38,946 --> 00:36:41,324
-Oh, wow.
-That's true.
814
00:36:41,407 --> 00:36:43,326
Okay, okay, this ought to stump her.
815
00:36:44,076 --> 00:36:45,203
Sassafras.
816
00:36:45,286 --> 00:36:47,205
-[Zeek] Oh!
-Um...
817
00:36:47,288 --> 00:36:49,832
-Can I please get the language of origin?
-Latin.
818
00:36:51,167 --> 00:36:52,627
Definition please.
819
00:36:52,710 --> 00:36:55,713
Sassafras, a North American deciduous tree
820
00:36:55,796 --> 00:36:58,049
with aromatic bark and leaves.
821
00:36:58,132 --> 00:36:59,926
-How does she know that?
-I don't know.
822
00:37:00,509 --> 00:37:02,386
Can you spell it out?
823
00:37:02,929 --> 00:37:06,057
-S, A--
-Sorry, I meant can you spell "sassafras"
824
00:37:06,140 --> 00:37:08,351
with your tongue on my punani?
825
00:37:08,434 --> 00:37:10,770
-[class exclaims]
-[laughs]
826
00:37:10,853 --> 00:37:14,190
-Damn, that is so hot.
-So good.
827
00:37:14,273 --> 00:37:15,650
Told you, Icy's here to teach y'all.
828
00:37:15,733 --> 00:37:18,110
Oh, my God, I just came.
829
00:37:20,071 --> 00:37:23,407
Oh, yeah, I love talking dirty.
I am a dirty talker.
830
00:37:23,491 --> 00:37:26,827
That is an important part
of my sex life for sure.
831
00:37:26,911 --> 00:37:28,913
There is so many different layers to dirty
832
00:37:28,996 --> 00:37:32,375
because you've got dirty as in "Ugh."
Or dirty as in, "Oh, yeah."
833
00:37:32,458 --> 00:37:35,544
I think that the problem
with talking dirty, is once you start,
834
00:37:35,628 --> 00:37:38,422
like once you open Pandora's box,
you can't stop
835
00:37:38,965 --> 00:37:40,341
and it has to kind of escalate.
836
00:37:40,424 --> 00:37:43,719
I've often been sucking the dick,
and someone goes "Yeah."
837
00:37:43,803 --> 00:37:46,389
"Suck my dick." And I go, "I am."
838
00:37:47,723 --> 00:37:51,394
Why are you telling me what I am doing?
Is this closed captioning?
839
00:37:51,477 --> 00:37:55,690
It is dependent on the person,
and how good they are at it.
840
00:37:55,773 --> 00:37:59,944
Sometimes, like...
it's cool like, to be degraded.
841
00:38:00,027 --> 00:38:03,864
And then sometimes
it can be like weirdly too specific.
842
00:38:04,532 --> 00:38:07,576
Like I remember one time
I was fucking this guy and he was like,
843
00:38:07,660 --> 00:38:09,245
"Do you like that, idiot?"
844
00:38:09,328 --> 00:38:11,330
And I was like, "Idiot?"
845
00:38:11,414 --> 00:38:14,000
"I'm not an idiot," like--
846
00:38:14,083 --> 00:38:15,876
You're thinking of it as talking dirty,
847
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,629
but more or less,
think of it as just talking sexy.
848
00:38:18,713 --> 00:38:21,215
As in bringing out your inner sexy.
849
00:38:21,299 --> 00:38:26,304
You know, I'm not trying to talk to you
in the sense of what you want to hear.
850
00:38:26,387 --> 00:38:28,472
I'm going to tell you what I want to hear.
851
00:38:28,556 --> 00:38:30,433
How I feel about myself.
852
00:38:31,142 --> 00:38:34,186
My top tips
for starting to talk dirty are like
853
00:38:34,270 --> 00:38:36,105
just live in your comfort zone.
854
00:38:36,188 --> 00:38:40,359
You know, you don't got to go straight
porno crazy off the top.
855
00:38:40,443 --> 00:38:43,612
You don't got to say nothing nutty like,
"Let me pee on your tits."
856
00:38:43,696 --> 00:38:46,907
You can just kiss a neck
and say "Do you like that"?
857
00:38:46,991 --> 00:38:50,202
You know, just start simple
and ease yourself in.
858
00:38:50,786 --> 00:38:53,456
If I auditioned for a Marvel movie,
that would be my sex voice.
859
00:38:54,123 --> 00:38:56,417
"We can't let Thanos
get the infinity stones."
860
00:38:56,500 --> 00:38:58,919
You like that? You like that?
861
00:38:59,003 --> 00:39:00,755
Ye-Yeah.
862
00:39:00,838 --> 00:39:02,923
I-- see, I'm doing it right now!
I don't even know--
863
00:39:03,007 --> 00:39:06,719
I can't even make fun of how I sound
when I'm doing sex. I get so embarrassed.
864
00:39:06,802 --> 00:39:08,262
When I'm "doing" sex.
865
00:39:08,804 --> 00:39:12,683
This is the part of the interview
where I admit I've never had sex before.
866
00:39:12,767 --> 00:39:14,310
[laughs]
867
00:39:16,312 --> 00:39:19,815
A common mistake is to neglect the mouth.
868
00:39:19,899 --> 00:39:22,151
The mouth has a lot of nerve endings
869
00:39:22,234 --> 00:39:23,986
so the lips and the tongue.
870
00:39:24,070 --> 00:39:27,907
And when we talk
in a sexual way, it's about feeling.
871
00:39:27,990 --> 00:39:29,450
I think I am doing it right now.
872
00:39:29,533 --> 00:39:35,373
It's about feeling the mouth,
so that every syllable is being felt.
873
00:39:35,456 --> 00:39:38,501
You might say something
like, "I want to come all over your face,"
874
00:39:38,584 --> 00:39:40,002
and then, she's just like
875
00:39:40,086 --> 00:39:43,297
"What? Why would you want to do that?
Like why?"
876
00:39:43,381 --> 00:39:45,049
Her sexual boundary might just be,
877
00:39:45,132 --> 00:39:48,844
"I don't mind you nutting on
my butt cheeks or my inner thighs."
878
00:39:48,928 --> 00:39:51,347
You know, on her face
might sound disrespectful.
879
00:39:51,430 --> 00:39:53,724
Oh, of course, we'd love talking dirty.
880
00:39:53,808 --> 00:39:56,310
That's the hottest part of it.
881
00:39:56,394 --> 00:39:59,647
And especially
if you have a nice sexy voice too.
882
00:39:59,730 --> 00:40:02,316
Oh, my God, that's like,
"Let's bring it on."
883
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:05,444
Talk dirty to me. Yeah, in the ear.
Right here, let's have it.
884
00:40:05,528 --> 00:40:08,614
I want to really give it to you so-so bad
885
00:40:08,697 --> 00:40:13,577
you naughty, you naughty bloody,
bloody woman, I am gonna f--
886
00:40:13,661 --> 00:40:15,663
You are gonna--
Jesus, I'm gonna give it to you.
887
00:40:16,288 --> 00:40:20,084
If you think dirty talk
might be for you, after watching that,
888
00:40:20,167 --> 00:40:22,128
here's a little song
the team has put together
889
00:40:22,211 --> 00:40:24,797
to help you with your naughty vocabulary.
890
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,633
♪ A is for anal ♪
891
00:40:27,716 --> 00:40:30,052
♪ B is for ball sack ♪
892
00:40:30,136 --> 00:40:35,558
♪ C is for cunnilingus
Cock, clitoris. and climax ♪
893
00:40:35,641 --> 00:40:40,771
♪ D is for dildo
It's a dick without a guy ♪
894
00:40:40,855 --> 00:40:47,444
♪ E is for ejaculate
Or ejaculate if you like ♪
895
00:40:49,071 --> 00:40:50,781
♪ F is for fisting ♪
896
00:40:50,865 --> 00:40:52,741
♪ Have you found your G-spot ♪
897
00:40:52,825 --> 00:40:56,078
♪ H is for a handjob round the back
Of the chemistry block... ♪
898
00:40:56,162 --> 00:40:57,246
That's very specific.
899
00:40:57,329 --> 00:41:01,834
♪ I is for inter-girl intercourse
When you stick it between two thighs ♪
900
00:41:01,917 --> 00:41:03,752
♪ J is for jism, K is for kissing ♪
901
00:41:03,836 --> 00:41:05,921
♪ Lesbian, gay, bi, trans, queer
Cis, straight ♪
902
00:41:06,005 --> 00:41:08,048
♪ From New Zealand to Great Britain ♪
903
00:41:08,132 --> 00:41:10,217
♪ M, mutual masturbation ♪
904
00:41:10,301 --> 00:41:11,969
♪ N, nipple stimulation ♪
905
00:41:12,052 --> 00:41:13,888
♪ Oral, Penile, just a Quickie ♪
906
00:41:13,971 --> 00:41:15,431
♪ Rimming or Scrotalingus ♪
907
00:41:15,514 --> 00:41:17,141
♪ Tribbing, Upside-down ass spanking ♪
908
00:41:17,224 --> 00:41:18,851
♪ Voyeurism, just plain wanking ♪
909
00:41:18,934 --> 00:41:20,603
♪ Triple-X pornography ♪
910
00:41:20,686 --> 00:41:22,062
♪ It's a Yes, Yes, Yes for me ♪
911
00:41:22,146 --> 00:41:23,814
♪ And when we're done
We feel the ease ♪
912
00:41:23,898 --> 00:41:25,524
♪ We all lie back and get some Zs ♪
913
00:41:26,108 --> 00:41:33,032
♪ That concludes the A to Z of sex ♪
914
00:41:34,450 --> 00:41:35,367
Good job, everyone.
915
00:41:35,451 --> 00:41:37,620
That was a lot of sex acts
we packed in there.
916
00:41:37,703 --> 00:41:40,289
-Chock full, right?
-Sex is fun.
917
00:41:40,998 --> 00:41:44,543
Okay, you said you wanted us to try
some new toys together, right?
918
00:41:44,627 --> 00:41:47,004
-I did.
-And you were willing to try anything?
919
00:41:47,087 --> 00:41:49,089
-Uh-huh.
-And I was allowed to choose.
920
00:41:49,173 --> 00:41:51,550
Yes, you were. Fuck! This is so hot!
921
00:41:51,634 --> 00:41:53,719
Okay. Well, get ready, babe.
922
00:41:53,802 --> 00:41:54,929
I bought us...
923
00:41:56,222 --> 00:41:59,475
Speak Out! Let's play Speak Out.
924
00:41:59,558 --> 00:42:03,479
Everybody loves Speak Out.
Give me something to say.
925
00:42:03,562 --> 00:42:06,941
I'm gonna get him to say
"This relationship is over."
926
00:42:07,024 --> 00:42:08,442
Speak Out.
927
00:42:14,949 --> 00:42:17,618
Welcome to Mistress Icy's dungeon.
928
00:42:17,701 --> 00:42:20,037
The best way to keep your sex life lit?
929
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:21,413
Level up the kink.
930
00:42:21,497 --> 00:42:24,792
Role play, throw in some toys,
suck on some toes.
931
00:42:24,875 --> 00:42:28,170
We're gonna cover it all
in whipped cream and lick it off.
932
00:42:28,254 --> 00:42:30,965
Now, kink is not for everyone.
933
00:42:31,048 --> 00:42:32,883
But for those kink lovers out there,
934
00:42:32,967 --> 00:42:36,470
it's great that you're getting
something from the experience.
935
00:42:36,554 --> 00:42:37,721
Any questions?
936
00:42:37,805 --> 00:42:41,517
[muffled speaking]
937
00:42:43,602 --> 00:42:44,603
Sex toys?
938
00:42:44,687 --> 00:42:46,021
[muffled speaking]
939
00:42:46,105 --> 00:42:47,982
Great question. Let's find out.
940
00:42:49,775 --> 00:42:51,944
I do use sex toys,
I think they are crucial.
941
00:42:52,027 --> 00:42:53,153
And I think more people should use them.
942
00:42:53,237 --> 00:42:55,531
I think more straight couples
should use them.
943
00:42:55,614 --> 00:42:58,367
-I think they're the best.
-I do like some machinery
944
00:42:58,450 --> 00:42:59,910
in the mix for sure.
945
00:42:59,994 --> 00:43:02,454
I have used one
of those little vibrator things.
946
00:43:02,997 --> 00:43:04,415
I don't know what the-- Vibrator.
947
00:43:04,498 --> 00:43:05,833
I think that's what they call it.
948
00:43:05,916 --> 00:43:09,712
You definitely got to have a strap-on,
if you're gonna go sling some D.
949
00:43:09,795 --> 00:43:12,840
You know what I mean?
That's like lesbian requirement.
950
00:43:12,923 --> 00:43:15,342
So I mean, I don't even know
if I consider it a sex toy,
951
00:43:15,426 --> 00:43:17,595
as much as like, a sex friend.
952
00:43:18,178 --> 00:43:20,931
-Sex homie.
-I love anything that vibrates.
953
00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:23,517
Something that really has
some battery power to it.
954
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,144
Something that will take out
the power in my building.
955
00:43:25,227 --> 00:43:26,937
I want to be shell-shocked.
956
00:43:27,479 --> 00:43:31,567
Sex toys need to be,
not just for single women alone
957
00:43:31,650 --> 00:43:34,903
to fill in for a dick
that they can't get elsewhere.
958
00:43:34,987 --> 00:43:36,780
Sex toys are great.
959
00:43:36,864 --> 00:43:38,657
And dick is great.
960
00:43:38,741 --> 00:43:40,534
Together, they are the greatest.
961
00:43:40,618 --> 00:43:43,954
I don't have several strap-ons.
One strap-on for one girl.
962
00:43:44,038 --> 00:43:47,374
You take her out when you first date,
you say "pick your dick."
963
00:43:47,458 --> 00:43:50,085
Then, that's the dick
for the relationship.
964
00:43:50,169 --> 00:43:51,128
If she was with a dude,
965
00:43:51,211 --> 00:43:53,797
he wouldn't just be switching
his dick out every other second.
966
00:43:53,881 --> 00:43:55,424
The best thing you can do for yourself
967
00:43:55,507 --> 00:43:57,593
is get one of those molds
of your own dick.
968
00:43:57,676 --> 00:43:59,470
And fuck yourself with your own dick
969
00:43:59,553 --> 00:44:02,181
'cause that, it's like, as an empath,
970
00:44:02,264 --> 00:44:05,059
it is the quintessential sexual experience
971
00:44:05,142 --> 00:44:07,603
'cause you're like "Okay,
this is what it feels like
972
00:44:07,686 --> 00:44:08,812
when I'm fucking somebody."
973
00:44:10,939 --> 00:44:15,152
Sex toys have really come a long way
in the last 15 to 20 years.
974
00:44:15,235 --> 00:44:19,323
You used to see sex toys
that came in a box with a porn star on it
975
00:44:19,406 --> 00:44:21,784
because toys were typically made by men,
976
00:44:21,867 --> 00:44:25,746
thinking that all that people with vulvas
wanted was a toy that looked like a penis.
977
00:44:25,829 --> 00:44:29,708
What they come to find out
is that toys can be small
978
00:44:29,792 --> 00:44:30,959
and they can stimulate the clitoris.
979
00:44:31,043 --> 00:44:34,380
My favorite, favorite toy
is a suction toy.
980
00:44:34,463 --> 00:44:38,425
So it basically behaves as though
it's like you having oral sex.
981
00:44:38,509 --> 00:44:41,220
There isn't really sex toys
that were doing that like five years ago.
982
00:44:41,303 --> 00:44:45,724
This is literally sucking on your clit,
and it feels phenomenal.
983
00:44:45,808 --> 00:44:47,434
Toys that are Bluetooth-enabled.
984
00:44:47,518 --> 00:44:49,812
Then you can have a partner
control it from the next room
985
00:44:49,895 --> 00:44:52,147
or from across the country,
across the world.
986
00:44:52,231 --> 00:44:55,776
They just press a couple of buttons
and they can change the speed.
987
00:44:55,859 --> 00:44:58,028
They can change the intensity.
988
00:44:58,112 --> 00:45:00,781
You're making a big purchase, dude.
Is it attractive to me?
989
00:45:00,864 --> 00:45:03,659
Do I like the color of this toy?
Do I like how it feels?
990
00:45:03,742 --> 00:45:06,620
And it's an intimate thing. You can see
having a relationship with this toy.
991
00:45:06,703 --> 00:45:10,499
Couple of mistakes people make
buying sex toys is they buy
992
00:45:10,582 --> 00:45:12,501
dildos that are just too big.
993
00:45:13,710 --> 00:45:14,920
I just want like...
994
00:45:15,003 --> 00:45:18,006
I want a strap-on that has like...
995
00:45:18,090 --> 00:45:20,342
[bleep]
996
00:45:20,426 --> 00:45:23,095
Someone is gonna steal this idea actually,
so I don't want to say it.
997
00:45:23,178 --> 00:45:24,221
I'm gonna design it.
998
00:45:24,304 --> 00:45:26,181
And it is going
to revolutionize the world.
999
00:45:26,265 --> 00:45:29,059
♪ Everybody get sexual ♪
1000
00:45:29,143 --> 00:45:31,812
♪ As long as it's consensual ♪
1001
00:45:32,896 --> 00:45:37,067
[scoffs] Molly! You done, girl?
We got a segment to do.
1002
00:45:37,151 --> 00:45:39,278
Give me one second,
I am just finishing up...
1003
00:45:39,361 --> 00:45:41,822
[panting] ...a custom bid.
1004
00:45:41,905 --> 00:45:43,866
Whew! Oh.
1005
00:45:43,949 --> 00:45:46,618
That was more satisfying
than the one time I went to McDonald's
1006
00:45:46,702 --> 00:45:49,246
just one minute
before they stopped serving breakfast
1007
00:45:49,329 --> 00:45:50,706
and I still got a McGriddle.
1008
00:45:51,957 --> 00:45:54,835
Yeah, I started using
one of those Bluetooth vibrators
1009
00:45:54,918 --> 00:45:57,421
that everyone has been talking about
during my cam shows.
1010
00:45:57,504 --> 00:46:00,507
All my clients have to do
is download the app.
1011
00:46:00,591 --> 00:46:03,427
So whether you're some dad
of three in Chugwater, Wyoming
1012
00:46:03,510 --> 00:46:05,637
or an architect from Sugartown, UK.
1013
00:46:05,721 --> 00:46:06,889
You can now control--
1014
00:46:06,972 --> 00:46:09,683
or in the architect's case,
build-- my orgasm.
1015
00:46:10,476 --> 00:46:13,979
It's the hottest thing
that has ever been invented.
1016
00:46:14,062 --> 00:46:15,939
My subscriptions
have gone through the roof.
1017
00:46:16,023 --> 00:46:18,734
My clients love it!
1018
00:46:18,817 --> 00:46:21,320
I'm trying to think
of more ways to spice up my show.
1019
00:46:21,403 --> 00:46:24,281
Well, girl, have you tried role playing?
1020
00:46:24,364 --> 00:46:26,200
'Cause that will definitely
get them tipping.
1021
00:46:26,283 --> 00:46:28,744
Well, what do you mean? Like sexy improv?
1022
00:46:28,827 --> 00:46:31,580
Yeah, girl, you get to dress up
and be anybody you want.
1023
00:46:32,289 --> 00:46:34,708
It can be so sexy.
1024
00:46:34,791 --> 00:46:38,629
Oh! Oh. Oh! [breathes heavy]
1025
00:46:38,712 --> 00:46:41,507
-What?
-I forgot to turn the Bluetooth off.
1026
00:46:42,174 --> 00:46:44,343
Ooh. I love to see my pretty bitches...
1027
00:46:44,426 --> 00:46:46,094
-[moans loudly]
-...experiment with new things.
1028
00:46:46,929 --> 00:46:48,263
-That's my girl.
-Oh, yeah!
1029
00:46:48,347 --> 00:46:49,848
Go ahead, Molly.
1030
00:46:49,932 --> 00:46:51,725
Oh, my God. Yes, yes!
1031
00:46:51,808 --> 00:46:54,811
-Yes! Yes! Yes!
-It is about to get real crazy up in here.
1032
00:46:54,895 --> 00:46:56,480
-[vibrator buzzes]
-[Saweetie giggles]
1033
00:46:57,064 --> 00:47:00,442
I think my biggest turn-on is dicks.
1034
00:47:00,526 --> 00:47:01,401
Dicks.
1035
00:47:01,485 --> 00:47:02,694
I like dicks.
1036
00:47:02,778 --> 00:47:05,572
I like that like, come comes out of them.
1037
00:47:05,656 --> 00:47:06,907
That impresses me.
1038
00:47:06,990 --> 00:47:09,493
Seeing him in sexy underwear turns me on.
1039
00:47:09,576 --> 00:47:10,702
Him seeing me in sexy--
1040
00:47:10,786 --> 00:47:12,955
Me seeing me in sexy underwear
turns me on.
1041
00:47:13,038 --> 00:47:17,417
Hmm. My biggest turn-on is vaginas.
1042
00:47:18,377 --> 00:47:21,713
And my biggest turn-off
is when the vaginas go away.
1043
00:47:22,339 --> 00:47:24,508
Honestly for me
the biggest turn-on is looking at me.
1044
00:47:24,591 --> 00:47:26,760
A person who cross-dresses for a living.
1045
00:47:27,427 --> 00:47:29,346
And it doesn't affect you at all.
1046
00:47:29,429 --> 00:47:31,390
You see it as a completely normal job.
1047
00:47:31,473 --> 00:47:32,766
A turn-on for me is how
1048
00:47:33,308 --> 00:47:35,602
you know, my husband is so nice
1049
00:47:35,686 --> 00:47:39,648
with a waiter or someone
like a stranger on the street, you know.
1050
00:47:39,731 --> 00:47:41,525
That really is my love language.
1051
00:47:41,608 --> 00:47:44,570
Also, when he unloads that dishwasher?
1052
00:47:44,653 --> 00:47:48,949
Bitch, I am moist!
1053
00:47:49,032 --> 00:47:52,119
What is the kinkiest thing I've ever done?
1054
00:47:56,957 --> 00:47:57,791
Dang.
1055
00:47:57,874 --> 00:48:02,087
I don't know, I am not gonna--
I don't know, I mean.
1056
00:48:11,471 --> 00:48:13,807
I'm going through
a library of things in my head
1057
00:48:13,890 --> 00:48:16,602
and I'm like, I'm not saying that on TV.
1058
00:48:16,685 --> 00:48:18,729
What is... [laughs]
1059
00:48:18,812 --> 00:48:21,398
What is the kinkiest thing I've ever done?
1060
00:48:21,982 --> 00:48:24,443
I am into kinks now,
that I would never have foreseen.
1061
00:48:24,526 --> 00:48:25,777
Like, I'm into foot stuff.
1062
00:48:25,861 --> 00:48:28,864
Like, I would like someone
to hold my foot when I come.
1063
00:48:28,947 --> 00:48:31,366
I really like kind of role plays
1064
00:48:31,450 --> 00:48:33,827
and any kind of weird power dynamic,
I'm into.
1065
00:48:33,910 --> 00:48:35,662
I've been the bad little girl.
1066
00:48:36,204 --> 00:48:38,457
-I've been the nurse.
-[beeping]
1067
00:48:38,540 --> 00:48:40,917
Oh! I've been the warrior princess.
1068
00:48:41,668 --> 00:48:42,878
Been that.
1069
00:48:43,503 --> 00:48:45,756
I haven't done anything with anime yet,
1070
00:48:45,839 --> 00:48:48,425
but I might try anime soon. [laughs]
1071
00:48:48,508 --> 00:48:51,303
So, okay, this is my fantasy. I'm a chef.
1072
00:48:51,386 --> 00:48:54,931
And I'm a young nervous chef.
Trying to prove myself.
1073
00:48:55,015 --> 00:48:56,892
Trying to make a name
in the culinary industry.
1074
00:48:56,975 --> 00:49:00,228
And then
a really sexy food critic comes in.
1075
00:49:00,312 --> 00:49:04,274
And she is ordering my food,
and I'm just like desperate to please.
1076
00:49:04,358 --> 00:49:07,069
She's sending stuff back.
She's like, "It's too salty" or whatever.
1077
00:49:07,152 --> 00:49:09,696
And then anyway, I present her
with like my main dish.
1078
00:49:09,780 --> 00:49:10,822
She is eating the food
1079
00:49:10,906 --> 00:49:12,908
and then I go down on her,
under the table.
1080
00:49:14,409 --> 00:49:15,827
[moans]
1081
00:49:16,953 --> 00:49:17,954
[sighs]
1082
00:49:18,038 --> 00:49:19,706
That's my-- I keep thinking about it.
1083
00:49:19,790 --> 00:49:21,208
I'm gonna make it happen.
1084
00:49:21,291 --> 00:49:23,043
I'm gonna get someone
to act that out with me.
1085
00:49:23,126 --> 00:49:25,587
'Cause I'm like, trying to get,
you know, a Michelin star.
1086
00:49:25,671 --> 00:49:27,547
Or like five stars for my restaurant.
1087
00:49:30,175 --> 00:49:34,429
Kink is anything
that is not plain vanilla sex.
1088
00:49:34,513 --> 00:49:36,264
Outside of the--
1089
00:49:37,974 --> 00:49:39,518
It's like basically anything
but missionary.
1090
00:49:39,601 --> 00:49:42,521
And just so,
most people are a little bit kinky.
1091
00:49:42,604 --> 00:49:43,939
I will say that...
1092
00:49:45,190 --> 00:49:47,609
for me and for a lot
of kinky people I know,
1093
00:49:48,110 --> 00:49:52,072
we start doing kink
before we know what it's called.
1094
00:49:52,155 --> 00:49:54,324
When I was a kid, I would sometimes like
1095
00:49:54,408 --> 00:49:55,784
tie up my action figures
1096
00:49:55,867 --> 00:49:58,745
and I would like gag them
with Scotch tape or whatever.
1097
00:49:58,829 --> 00:50:00,831
I used to watch these movies where like--
1098
00:50:00,914 --> 00:50:04,793
Oh, my God, I remember Leonardo DiCaprio
getting cuffed to a pole in Titanic.
1099
00:50:04,876 --> 00:50:07,796
It was just like, the hottest thing
in the world to me.
1100
00:50:07,879 --> 00:50:09,005
Like what does it say that I wanted
1101
00:50:09,089 --> 00:50:12,050
Rose and Cal to get together.
Not Rose and Jack.
1102
00:50:12,134 --> 00:50:14,886
How dark is that? At 13.
1103
00:50:16,054 --> 00:50:19,099
I was like, this is too vanilla.
Jack and Rose.
1104
00:50:19,182 --> 00:50:22,728
And like, here is my encouragement
to people who think they might be kinky.
1105
00:50:22,811 --> 00:50:25,188
If you are kinky, if you have interest...
1106
00:50:26,440 --> 00:50:30,861
be open-minded and explore,
and you will find more.
1107
00:50:35,365 --> 00:50:38,285
Dr. Ruth, my question for you is
1108
00:50:38,785 --> 00:50:43,540
what constitutes
a healthy sexual relationship?
1109
00:50:43,623 --> 00:50:44,624
Hi, Romesh.
1110
00:50:44,708 --> 00:50:49,421
First of all, Romesh, I like very much...
the question.
1111
00:50:49,504 --> 00:50:54,885
If you like her,
if you really have things in common,
1112
00:50:54,968 --> 00:50:57,095
then stop worrying.
1113
00:50:57,179 --> 00:50:59,681
Just enjoy the moment.
1114
00:50:59,765 --> 00:51:03,393
Make sure that you enjoy your erection.
1115
00:51:03,935 --> 00:51:10,400
And that she enjoys
your giving her great orgasms.
1116
00:51:10,484 --> 00:51:14,404
Good luck to you. Bye-bye.
I'm Dr. Ruth Westheimer.
1117
00:51:14,488 --> 00:51:18,158
Thank you very much
for such a great answer, Dr. Ruth.
1118
00:51:18,742 --> 00:51:21,119
Next question, please.
1119
00:51:21,203 --> 00:51:24,122
Hi, Dr. Ruth, I have a question for you.
1120
00:51:24,206 --> 00:51:25,248
Um...
1121
00:51:26,041 --> 00:51:27,918
How do you stop yourself
1122
00:51:28,001 --> 00:51:30,003
from getting lockjaw
when you're sucking dick?
1123
00:51:30,086 --> 00:51:32,714
'Cause I have that problem a lot.
1124
00:51:32,798 --> 00:51:35,467
London, okay. So here is what you do.
1125
00:51:36,468 --> 00:51:38,094
I've never had that question.
1126
00:51:38,637 --> 00:51:41,765
Wonderful that you're engaging
in oral sex.
1127
00:51:41,848 --> 00:51:46,353
I'm sure that he also goes down on you.
1128
00:51:46,436 --> 00:51:51,608
So, your jaw,
make sure that you're relaxing your jaw.
1129
00:51:51,691 --> 00:51:55,237
That you don't do it, like so hard,
1130
00:51:55,320 --> 00:51:57,405
that you get a cramp.
1131
00:51:57,489 --> 00:52:02,327
Maybe do a little exercise
with your hand on your jaw before.
1132
00:52:02,828 --> 00:52:05,455
And then, if he is very large,
1133
00:52:05,539 --> 00:52:09,459
you don't have to take that whole penis
in your mouth.
1134
00:52:09,543 --> 00:52:12,921
Just take the glans, just the tip,
1135
00:52:13,004 --> 00:52:15,423
and he will not know the difference.
1136
00:52:15,507 --> 00:52:17,509
Good question. Goodbye.
1137
00:52:17,592 --> 00:52:20,512
Aw! Thanks, Dr. Ruth. Okay.
1138
00:52:20,595 --> 00:52:21,721
I learned a lot.
1139
00:52:24,057 --> 00:52:26,309
[moaning]
1140
00:52:27,018 --> 00:52:29,062
-Keep going.
-Tell me when!
1141
00:52:29,145 --> 00:52:31,273
-I will.
-Promise me.
1142
00:52:31,356 --> 00:52:32,482
I will!
1143
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,819
-Not yet.
-You better tell me.
1144
00:52:37,153 --> 00:52:38,446
Oh, my God.
1145
00:52:39,114 --> 00:52:39,948
Oh, my God!
1146
00:52:41,116 --> 00:52:43,952
Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Oh, my God. Oh, my God...
1147
00:52:44,035 --> 00:52:46,246
Now!
1148
00:52:47,414 --> 00:52:49,291
[screams]
1149
00:52:55,171 --> 00:52:58,091
-That was amazing.
-You're amazing.
1150
00:53:02,053 --> 00:53:05,974
Fucking hell.
I'm fucking drenched down here.
1151
00:53:07,100 --> 00:53:10,478
Came right on my fucking puppeteer's face.
1152
00:53:10,562 --> 00:53:11,771
Jesus.
1153
00:53:12,522 --> 00:53:14,190
Okay, that's it.
1154
00:53:14,274 --> 00:53:17,193
Thank you for watching,
but the show is over.
1155
00:53:17,277 --> 00:53:19,279
We've reached the climax.
1156
00:53:19,362 --> 00:53:21,531
-Really? What?
-Oh, no!
1157
00:53:21,615 --> 00:53:23,950
-My gosh.
-No, I was just faking it.
1158
00:53:24,034 --> 00:53:26,244
[all laugh]
1159
00:53:26,328 --> 00:53:29,789
-What! I really thought--
-I know.
1160
00:53:29,873 --> 00:53:31,458
Classic. Classic.
1161
00:53:31,541 --> 00:53:32,667
What a skank.
1162
00:53:34,461 --> 00:53:37,839
Of course I've faked it.
I'm fucking busy. Let's go.
1163
00:53:37,923 --> 00:53:40,842
I'm a good actress. Are you serious?
1164
00:53:40,926 --> 00:53:43,261
I didn't have my first orgasm
until I was like 25.
1165
00:53:43,345 --> 00:53:45,931
I didn't start having them
regularly until my 30s.
1166
00:53:46,014 --> 00:53:48,433
I've dated people for years
who never gave me an orgasm,
1167
00:53:48,516 --> 00:53:49,768
and I just thought that was fine.
1168
00:53:49,851 --> 00:53:53,897
And now I love seeing
this new generation of empowered
1169
00:53:53,980 --> 00:53:55,565
like sexual people
1170
00:53:55,649 --> 00:53:57,484
who have equality in the bedroom.
1171
00:53:57,567 --> 00:53:59,611
I don't know
what this says about my psychology,
1172
00:53:59,694 --> 00:54:01,404
but when someone says "Don't come,"
1173
00:54:02,155 --> 00:54:03,990
I come in two seconds.
1174
00:54:04,074 --> 00:54:06,993
A scientist
would probably say that an orgasm...
1175
00:54:07,077 --> 00:54:08,244
Starts off in your toes.
1176
00:54:08,328 --> 00:54:12,999
It feels like you've played the lotto
for the first time and won all the money.
1177
00:54:13,917 --> 00:54:16,336
I just find orgasms really relaxing.
1178
00:54:16,419 --> 00:54:17,754
A orgasm is like
1179
00:54:18,463 --> 00:54:21,758
walking into that all-white room
in The Matrix.
1180
00:54:23,510 --> 00:54:24,594
It's just like a--
1181
00:54:24,678 --> 00:54:26,638
Goddamnit, how do you describe an orgasm?
1182
00:54:27,347 --> 00:54:28,890
An orgasm is a--
1183
00:54:30,016 --> 00:54:31,643
Uh...
1184
00:54:31,726 --> 00:54:33,812
Uh, an orgasm is...
1185
00:54:34,354 --> 00:54:37,983
So, an orgasm... an orgasm...
1186
00:54:38,066 --> 00:54:39,985
I, I, I... huh.
1187
00:54:40,068 --> 00:54:42,612
A little feather is tickling your big toe.
1188
00:54:42,696 --> 00:54:43,571
Yes.
1189
00:54:43,655 --> 00:54:45,824
Then it goes from your toes,
and goes straight to your vagina.
1190
00:54:46,658 --> 00:54:47,575
Goddamn, hmm.
1191
00:54:47,659 --> 00:54:49,494
Often-- So it depends, so there is a...
1192
00:54:49,577 --> 00:54:51,538
Flood of...
1193
00:54:51,621 --> 00:54:52,914
This, like...
1194
00:54:52,998 --> 00:54:53,957
There's like a...
1195
00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:55,709
...flow of like pleasure.
1196
00:54:55,792 --> 00:54:58,003
-It can be...
-Three little fireworks...
1197
00:54:58,086 --> 00:54:59,713
-...tingly...
-Right at the...
1198
00:54:59,796 --> 00:55:02,298
-...physical...
-...beginning of your vagina.
1199
00:55:02,382 --> 00:55:03,383
[sighs]
1200
00:55:03,466 --> 00:55:04,426
[sighs]
1201
00:55:06,011 --> 00:55:06,845
You know?
1202
00:55:06,928 --> 00:55:08,888
These fireworks gotta go somewhere.
Where they gonna go?
1203
00:55:08,972 --> 00:55:11,683
I'm trying to think... I think--
1204
00:55:11,766 --> 00:55:14,352
As I approach orgasm,
I become increasingly frantic.
1205
00:55:14,436 --> 00:55:15,729
-...emotional
-Twitching.
1206
00:55:15,812 --> 00:55:17,147
-It is kind of...
-...mental.
1207
00:55:17,230 --> 00:55:18,481
-Panic.
-Happening in the brain.
1208
00:55:18,565 --> 00:55:20,108
-It's kind of
-...too dirty.
1209
00:55:20,191 --> 00:55:21,317
-No, it is good.
-We're just doing
1210
00:55:21,401 --> 00:55:23,236
what our insides are telling us to do.
1211
00:55:23,319 --> 00:55:25,739
An increased blood flow in the genitals.
1212
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:27,824
-Dang.
-That's so hard.
1213
00:55:27,907 --> 00:55:29,576
-Like a fucking horse.
-Oh, yeah.
1214
00:55:29,659 --> 00:55:30,910
-No, that's great.
-Right...
1215
00:55:30,994 --> 00:55:32,829
-...before...
-The fireworks go up.
1216
00:55:32,912 --> 00:55:35,081
It feels like a washing machine
being thrown down the stairs.
1217
00:55:35,165 --> 00:55:37,250
-[growls]
-[Romesh] I then pull a face,
1218
00:55:37,333 --> 00:55:39,961
it's very similar to when I'm trying to
open a tough pickle jar.
1219
00:55:40,045 --> 00:55:41,463
[laughs] Okay.
1220
00:55:41,546 --> 00:55:43,214
The nerves all fire together.
1221
00:55:43,298 --> 00:55:44,424
Ooh!
1222
00:55:44,507 --> 00:55:45,884
-...build up.
-Close your eyes...
1223
00:55:45,967 --> 00:55:47,761
-Wet yourself.
-...with a kind of enjoyment.
1224
00:55:47,844 --> 00:55:48,928
Shit comes out this way.
1225
00:55:49,554 --> 00:55:51,514
-Yes.
-I don't know the technical terms.
1226
00:55:51,598 --> 00:55:52,932
-Fluid.
-Water.
1227
00:55:53,016 --> 00:55:54,559
-Moist.
-[laughs]
1228
00:55:54,642 --> 00:55:57,062
And there is a specific brain area
that lights up as well.
1229
00:55:58,646 --> 00:55:59,481
Oh!
1230
00:55:59,564 --> 00:56:00,482
-[moans]
-[fireworks pop]
1231
00:56:00,565 --> 00:56:01,983
Oh, yeah.
1232
00:56:02,067 --> 00:56:04,194
-[moaning]
-[fireworks pop]
1233
00:56:11,868 --> 00:56:14,120
If it was good for you, it's good for me.
1234
00:56:14,204 --> 00:56:15,246
Was it good for you?
1235
00:56:16,706 --> 00:56:20,001
♪ Everybody is talking about sex
Talking 'bout sex ♪
1236
00:56:21,127 --> 00:56:24,464
Looks like this show
is about to finish, y'all.
1237
00:56:24,547 --> 00:56:26,049
[all groan]
1238
00:56:26,132 --> 00:56:27,217
-[moans]
-[vibrator buzzes]
1239
00:56:27,300 --> 00:56:28,760
And so am I.
1240
00:56:30,553 --> 00:56:32,305
Molly, if you don't
put that Bluetooth down...
1241
00:56:33,765 --> 00:56:34,724
Oh.
1242
00:56:35,767 --> 00:56:38,436
We've reached the end of the show.
So what did y'all learn?
1243
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:41,481
Well, we learned
that everyone has a different definition
1244
00:56:41,564 --> 00:56:42,565
of sex positivity.
1245
00:56:43,191 --> 00:56:44,692
Also I learned that Mike's towel
1246
00:56:44,776 --> 00:56:47,737
only covers 65% of his nether region.
1247
00:56:47,821 --> 00:56:48,780
It's true.
1248
00:56:48,863 --> 00:56:51,866
Well, I learned that it's important
to remember how much fun sex can be.
1249
00:56:51,950 --> 00:56:54,869
And that it's okay
to laugh in the bedroom.
1250
00:56:54,953 --> 00:56:57,288
As long as you're not laughing
at my dingle-dongle.
1251
00:56:58,248 --> 00:56:59,999
That's short for "penis."
1252
00:57:00,750 --> 00:57:03,253
And that orgasms
aren't the be-all and end-all.
1253
00:57:03,336 --> 00:57:04,212
Mm-hmm.
1254
00:57:04,295 --> 00:57:05,713
They're everything.
1255
00:57:06,381 --> 00:57:10,510
And I've learned it's important to be safe
and respectful at all times.
1256
00:57:10,593 --> 00:57:13,680
Sex without consent isn't sex.
1257
00:57:13,763 --> 00:57:17,600
Yeah, safe and
enthusiastically consensual sex
1258
00:57:17,684 --> 00:57:19,561
is beautiful sex.
1259
00:57:19,644 --> 00:57:21,980
-A hundred percent.
-What about you, Saweetie?
1260
00:57:22,063 --> 00:57:23,314
Did you learn anything?
1261
00:57:24,065 --> 00:57:25,442
Actually I did.
1262
00:57:25,525 --> 00:57:27,485
I learned a whole lot, y'all.
1263
00:57:27,569 --> 00:57:31,072
I learned that sexual experiences
shouldn't affect your self-worth.
1264
00:57:31,739 --> 00:57:35,160
And more importantly,
I learned that sex positivity
1265
00:57:35,243 --> 00:57:37,871
is really about being comfortable
within your own body.
1266
00:57:38,371 --> 00:57:41,082
No one should tell you
who you should have sex with.
1267
00:57:41,166 --> 00:57:42,917
Or how to have sex.
1268
00:57:43,543 --> 00:57:45,920
Look, I was an only child for 11 years.
1269
00:57:46,004 --> 00:57:48,381
I didn't have someone
teaching me about sex.
1270
00:57:48,464 --> 00:57:51,551
I didn't have a big sister
coaching me through my curious thoughts.
1271
00:57:51,634 --> 00:57:53,636
It was just me and my home girls talking.
1272
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:57,223
Now imagine a whole bunch of teenagers
giving each other sex advice.
1273
00:57:57,307 --> 00:57:59,517
Like, sis, this is not Degrassi.
1274
00:58:00,268 --> 00:58:02,228
But I think the major thing I learned
1275
00:58:02,312 --> 00:58:05,982
is making a show about sex
is way more lit with puppets.
1276
00:58:06,065 --> 00:58:09,277
-I know that's right.
-I know that's right.