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[ woman laughs ]
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Narrator: A work accident
shatters a family.
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I was about two
when my dad fell.
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Narrator: You struggle
to make a better life.
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Joy: It was tough to to think of
the future
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And what it was going
to be like.
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Narrator: A woman tries to find
a second shot at happiness.
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She finally was happy.
I was excited for her.
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Narrator: But sometimes
it's the second shot,
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That proves the deadliest.
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[ siren wails ]
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Wienmuller: She's pointing with
her left hand,
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And she said
the bullet's right here.
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Man #2: You just never know
in a small community
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What evil lurks
just right next door to you.
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-- Captions by vitac --
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Captions paid for by
discovery communications
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Narrator: It's christmas eve,
2004 in lindon, utah,
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At fred lee and wife
joy's house.
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And 46-year-old joy
is videotaping
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A special christmas eve
tradition with her grandsons.
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Fred:
Okay, riley.
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Usually we let them open
one present.
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Most time we tried to
make it be pajamas,
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But yeah, we go ahead
and open one present
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Because they're all
so excited about it.
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Narrator: Six-year-old dakota
can't contain his excitement.
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Joy:
It was fun to do that.
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I tried to make holidays
fun as possible.
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Narrator:
But not every gift is a hit
with 10 year old riley.
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That's joy's husband,
50-year-old fred.
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Beside him is joy
and fred's son-in-law, travis,
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And their third grandson,
jordan, aged nine.
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But their daughter, jessica,
isn't here.
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Joy: Christmas
that year with that video.
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We didn't have jessica there.
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That's why travis was there
with the boys,
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Is because jessica
was in prison at that point.
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Narrator: Jessica is in jail
on drug-related charges.
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It's the latest
in a line of challenges
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That joy and fred have faced.
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Joy:
Whoa.
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Joy and fred have spent
most of their lives living in
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And around lindon, utah,
brought up in the mormon faith.
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They meet in high school
when joy is 14 and fred is 18.
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Joy: I was just a freshman
and he was a senior.
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And he asked me to go get a
drink at the purple turtle,
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And my mom actually
let me go.
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And it just kind of ended up
being him mostly,
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And I didn't really go out
with a lot of other boys.
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Narrator:
Mormon high school sweethearts
often get married young.
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Joy: And he's like,
"well, let's just get married,
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We're gonna get married."
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Two weeks after he finally said,
he's going to marry me,
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Then yeah,
I found out I was pregnant.
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Narrator:
Joy's family aren't happy.
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Joy:
My parents weren't super
thrilled with
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With fred me dating him
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Because he was older
and they didn't really think
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He was going to amount
to a whole lot.
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Narrator: But the young couple
take it in its stride.
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They have a traditional wedding
in October of 1976.
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Joy:
My mother was really mad at me,
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So she said she wasn't
going to pay for our wedding.
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So I bought the material
and I made my wedding dress
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And all my bridesmaid dresses
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And fred's sister
did all the flowers
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And my uncle did the pictures
and we did it at the church.
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Narrator: And by 1978, they had
two adorable little girls.
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One-year-old jessica
and baby nicole,
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Born in July that year.
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Fred gets a decent job
in construction.
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While joyce stays home
with the girls.
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In 1981, five years into
their marriage, tragedy strikes.
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I was about two
when my dad fell.
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He was building a water tank
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And he was at the top
of the scaffolding
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And it just broke loose
and he fell.
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And he fell about 30 feet.
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Narrator:
He's rushed to the hospital
with a fractured hip.
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There he falls into a coma
for a month.
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I remember, as a kid,
going in and seeing him
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In the hospital
a couple of times
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And not recognizing him
because his face was bruised up.
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Narrator:
By then, the 26-year-old fred
has suffered some brain damage.
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Joy: It was tough to to think of
the future
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And
what it was going to be like.
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It was hard to accept
that he wasn't going to go back
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To where he was and I was going
to have to pick up the slack.
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Narrator: The new fred
is prone to confusion.
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He has severe mood swings
and can't hold down a job.
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Joy: He would stay up like
in his garage,
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Like for two or three nights,
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Like a couple of nights
with no sleep,
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Just stay out there
like solitude.
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And then he would come in and
just crash for a couple of days,
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Just be in bed.
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You know then he's usually
really grouchy
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When he'd get up,
he'd just be angry,
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And want to break things.
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Narrator: Fred loses his
workers compensation for a time
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Because he's out
looking for work
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And joy isn't sure
how she's going to cope.
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And then she learned she is
pregnant with their third child,
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Amanda, born in January 1982.
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With three little ones
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And an impaired husband
to look after,
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Joy knows she has to step up.
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Joy:
So I had started to go to work
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Just doing stupid jobs
like rolling hot dogs,
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And I would
have to leave my kids
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And I still didn't have
enough money to pay the bills.
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Narrator:
Because of fred's accident,
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Joy has been holding
the family together.
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To make enough
money to support everyone,
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She trains up as an x-ray
technologist in 1986.
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Then she qualifies as
an ultrasound technologist,
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Eventually starting her
own business in 1994.
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Joy: It was empowering.
It did give me confidence
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That I could do hard things
and still keep it all together.
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But to abandon that dream of
being home with them
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And doing all the stuff that
mom's are supposed to do
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Was hard when I had to realize
that that wasn't going to happen
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And I was going
to be working full time.
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Narrator:
Fred isn't exactly the most
disciplined stay-at-home dad.
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The couple's teenage daughters
are given free reign.
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Persson:
My dad was not strict.
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I don't remember my dad ever
saying "do your homework."
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He let us get away with
basically whatever we wanted.
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Narrator: He struggles
to control his mental illness,
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Persson: He had medication
that he would take
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That would help him,
but he'd also abuse it.
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He would take too much of it
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And he'd get kind of
a like a high going.
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Narrator: The girls begin
acting out in school
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And experimenting with drugs.
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All three have run-ins
with the law.
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They don't have anybody to go
to who would just love them
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And and take care of them
and protect them.
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Even though I did everything
I could to try
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And make stuff normal,
it still wasn't.
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And they suffered for that.
And I feel bad.
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Narrator: Christmas 2004.
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Just a few months
before this video was filmed,
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27-year-old jessica is jailed
for drug-related charges.
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Joy is left to organize
the holidays
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With son-in-law travis
for jessica's three kids.
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Joy: Jessica's boys
are pretty cute kids.
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So they were fun.
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All those boys are just
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Like my own boys
because I've had them
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Since they were babies.
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Raised 'em.
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They were rambunctious.
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So they just were always
wrestling and running
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And chasing,
all the time.
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Narrator:
This video is the only way
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Jessica will see her kids
for christmas.
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Jessica:
Actually, I think that's the
second time I went to prison.
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Of course, it's you know,
it's hard being away
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From your kids, you know,
and especially being in prison,
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But when I was in there, I went
to school, took college classes,
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So that when I got out,
I'd be a better person.
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Travis: Oh, oh. Okay.
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Narrator:
Despite the family's struggles,
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Joy and fred
seem to be doing okay.
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23 years after his accident,
fred has mellowed.
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Narrator:
Joy's strength is a wife,
mother, and grandmother
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Has brought her family
through a lot of pain.
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Jessica:
My mom is a strong lady.
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She took over the reins
and took charge of the family.
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She did what she had to do
to keep us together
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And keep our home
and put food on the table.
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And she's pretty amazing.
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Narrator:
With a bit of luck,
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This could be
the beginning of better times.
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Taking care of her husband',
mental disabilities.
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Her three grown daughters
problems, and their kids,
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Has left joy
no time for herself.
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In November 2005,
she makes a huge decision.
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I just couldn't stand to live
like that anymore.
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I didn't know what else to do.
So I finally filed for divorce.
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And I know fred was shocked,
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He didn't think
I would ask for divorce.
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He thought that everything
was wonderful
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And I would stay forever
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And I thought I would,
but I couldn't do it anymore.
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Joy doesn't make the decision
to leave fred lightly.
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Narrator:
She has put her family
first her whole life,
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But she feels now
is the right time
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To prioritize herself.
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It's now December of 2005.
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And the newly single joy fills
her new home.
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A trailer
on a construction site,
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She still works
as an ultrasound technologist.
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But now she's also
a real estate developer.
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As she files for divorce,
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Fred and joy come to
a new living arrangement.
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He keeps the house and she gets
nearby a lot of land
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Inherited from fred's father.
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Joy plans to build
two townhouses,
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Each with three sellable condos,
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As soon as it's possible
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She'll move
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Persson:
My mom did a really good job
managing the whole thing
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And just kind of like my mom's,
little project.
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My mom's little baby
that she was focusing on.
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Narrator:
Around this time,
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While living in her trailer
at the construction site...
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Hi.
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Joy befriends one of
the contractors.
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Mike sidwell.
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A plumber named mike sidwell,
or "sid" to his friends.
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It's like you got
your hands full here.
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Yeah,
that's an understatement.
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Joy: So he come up
and was talking to me,
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And he is being
really funny and cute.
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So it was so nice just
to have him work and do things
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And not be angry and pout-y
and just be fun to be around.
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He was just fun.
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I brought something with me.
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Narrator: And soon,
joy realizes mike is finding
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All sorts of excuses
to stop by and say hi.
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[ laughs ]
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But mike is 13 years
younger than joy.
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Grab a coffee together?
Okay.
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Joy: I kept telling him,
like, "I'm old."
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Like, "you're a lot younger
than me,"
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Like "and it's okay," he's like,
"you know, you're my --"
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He's always called me,
"you're my sunshine."
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"you're my little bundle of
joy," is what he called me.
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He was a little bit younger
than her, and at first I didn't
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Really think it was anything
that was going to take off,
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But their relationship
got closer.
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And mike, he was
he was a great guy.
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He he loved my mom.
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I was excited for her.
She finally was happy, you know.
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Narrator:
By the spring of 2006,
they're inseparable.
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[ laughter ]
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Mike knows how
to bring out joy's fun side.
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Like, during this camping trip
the couple takes that summer.
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We went 4-wheeling
and camping
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And kind of about an hour and a
half away out in the desert,
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There was a big creek that ran
through, and it was really cool.
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Was like six acres.
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He was just so cute
all the time
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And he just had
nice body,
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I mean his pictures were
nice looking.
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So I wanted to get
some pictures of him.
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Kind of surprised that a cute
guy would like me, you know,
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So, you know, just kind of still
surprised at the whole thing.
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Narrator:
But as things seem to be
falling into place for joy.
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She still has issues
with her grown-up daughters.
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24-year-old amanda is convicted
and jailed on drug charges.
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And to make matters worse,
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Fred has been dragging his heels
over finalizing the divorce.
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[ cell phone ringing ]
oh, god it's fred!
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Although joy is doing
nothing wrong,
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He accuses her
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Of improperly capitalizing
on the lot of land,
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She got in their
initial agreement.
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You're laughing at me every day.
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Joy:
He made it difficult because
he was still in love with me.
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And I did everything for him,
you know, so when I left,
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Nobody was making his meals
or cleaning his house
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And paying the bills,
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Mike enjoy trying not to let
fred get in the way
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Of their new life...
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Or their family.
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It's the fall of 2006,
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And it's a special day
for joy's daughter, amanda,
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Who is receiving her ged.
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Joy:
She was in jail at the time.
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And so she got
her diploma in jail,
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Which was was great
that she got it.
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So I was excited
that she had done it.
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She was proud of herself
that she got her diploma.
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She was my baby
and she was born in a hard time,
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And I was glad
that she did that,
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She did the incentive
to finish that there.
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I loved her to death.
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[ applause ]
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Narrator: It's 2007.
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And while joy's
youngest daughter is
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In and out of
jail on drug charges...
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...She and mike
are ready to move in together,
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But they won't be
living alone for long.
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Because by August 2008,
amanda has a baby
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And is arrested again
soon after.
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So joy feels compelled
to take-in her daughter nia.
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I'd always had kids from 18
to when I got divorced,
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You know, like 30 years later.
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And so it's the first time
in my life
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Since 18 I didn't have children
to take care of.
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And then nia was kind of
thrown into that.
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Narrator:
To joy's relief mike is more
than happy with the idea.
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Joy:
He was so good with her.
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He never, not one time, ever
complained about having her.
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Narrator:
He missed out on raising his own
daughter, aubree.
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Who lived with her mother
when she was young.
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Barnes: I met my dad, mike,
for the first time.
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I was probably
like three or four.
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I lived with my mom
for majority of my life
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And I would come up to
northern utah to visit my dad.
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Narrator:
So now he seems to be enjoying
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This second chance
at fatherhood.
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Barnes: My dad,
he never got the chance
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To be
a part of my younger years.
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And so he did get
that second chance with nia
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To help raise her
and become her father figure.
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Joy: He would get up with her
in the middle of the night
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If she was sick,
he'd watch her if I needed
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To go do something
for a minute.
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He just rolled with it
and turned into
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This father figure.
That was wonderful.
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Narrator: Before long, nia
is turning two.
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Let's dance.
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Narrator: And then three.
321
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And soon, mike,
joy, and little nia
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Are an inseparable
and happy family unit.
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My mom taking taking nia in,
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And raising her
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Was the best thing that could
have happened for nia.
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Nia needed like a good,
stable home environment.
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And and my mom and sid
were giving it to her.
328
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Narrator:
After four years of hassle,
329
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Joy's divorce to fred
is finally settled.
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And so, in February 2011,
mike has a surprise for joy.
331
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Joy: He'd come home
and he just kind of
332
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Walked in the kitchen
and got down on his knee
333
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And just said,
"I can't wait any longer.
334
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You know, I could ask you
right now,
335
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You know, will you marry me?"
336
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And then he had a ring
and he put it on my finger
337
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And and I cried
because I didn't --
338
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I wasn't expecting that.
339
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I was just
kind of come out of the blue.
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Narrator:
With everything going so well
for the happy couple.
341
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It's easy to forget
joy's troubled past
342
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And her troubled
ex-husband, fred.
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Persson:
After a few years of them
being separated,
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It seemed my dad
was having such a hard time
345
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Adjusting still and adapting,
346
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It was still so just obsessed
with my mom.
347
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Narrator: And his behavior
towards joy has escalated.
348
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Fred is becoming more
than just a nuisance,
349
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He has started stalking joy,
350
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Who has concerns
for the safety of her family.
351
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He stalked me on purpose
because he knew it scared me
352
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And he thought it was funny
that he could scare me.
353
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He bought this other car,
a mach 1,
354
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And he put "stalker"
on the back of the car,
355
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He wrote "stalker" on it.
He thought it was funny.
356
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And he came to the bank
I was at.
357
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And the bank president
walked me out the back door
358
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So I wouldn't have to
talk to him,
359
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That he still came up to the car
and tried to take nia.
360
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Narrator:
Joy has to get a protective
order against fred.
361
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But is determined not to let him
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Get in the way of her happiness.
363
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April 30, 2011.
364
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And mike and joy
are tying the knot.
365
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Joy: It was his first wedding
and so my second one,
366
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But, you know, my first one
was a lot different
367
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And so I wanted to be a fun
wedding and everybody to come
368
00:25:46,279 --> 00:25:49,113
And just enjoy theirself.
369
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So it was that it
and it was really fun.
370
00:25:54,020 --> 00:25:57,454
Narrator:
Joy's grandchildren help
walk her down the aisle.
371
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And their friends and
family film their special day.
372
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♪♪
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Jessica:
You know, it was the next step
in their relationship,
374
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You know,
because they were was happy
375
00:26:12,738 --> 00:26:15,773
And everything was just falling
into place for their,
376
00:26:15,775 --> 00:26:20,010
You know, their new life, they
was going to begin you know?
377
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Narrator:
Mike's daughter, aubree,
378
00:26:28,421 --> 00:26:32,690
Is also one
of joy's bridesmaids.
379
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My dad sent me a picture of
the ring that he bought for joy
380
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And told me
that he was going to marry her.
381
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She is what made him happy.
382
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,634
So I was like,
"okay, let's do this."
383
00:27:01,554 --> 00:27:03,487
Narrator:
It's been a long time coming,
384
00:27:03,489 --> 00:27:06,457
But mike has finally
secured his joy.
385
00:27:09,829 --> 00:27:13,497
And the couple has filed to get
permanent custody of nia.
386
00:27:15,635 --> 00:27:20,371
I wanted her to have
that father for eternity.
387
00:27:20,373 --> 00:27:24,942
I wanted her to be in my family
and be part of it.
388
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♪♪
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Narrator:
It's Thursday, July 3, 2014.
And the sidwells are preparing
390
00:27:41,394 --> 00:27:43,761
For the start
of a holiday weekend.
391
00:27:50,002 --> 00:27:53,003
So we were just going to play
out in the yard and in the pool
392
00:27:53,005 --> 00:27:54,905
And have a barbecue
393
00:27:54,907 --> 00:27:58,609
And the next day
would watch fireworks.
394
00:27:58,611 --> 00:28:00,310
Awoo!
395
00:28:03,582 --> 00:28:04,915
Narrator: Five-year-old nia
396
00:28:04,917 --> 00:28:09,386
Is out visiting
her aunt jessica for the day.
397
00:28:09,388 --> 00:28:12,289
Jessica:
I was living with my dad
at that time
398
00:28:12,291 --> 00:28:13,957
And I had asked my mom
399
00:28:13,959 --> 00:28:17,461
If I could take nia
for the day,
400
00:28:17,463 --> 00:28:19,663
And she said, yeah,
I could take her,
401
00:28:19,665 --> 00:28:23,534
But she didn't want nia
to go around my dad.
402
00:28:23,536 --> 00:28:27,805
But I felt sympathy for my dad.
So I took nia over
403
00:28:27,807 --> 00:28:30,874
To spend some time
with my dad while I was there.
404
00:28:30,876 --> 00:28:36,380
And I,
I lied to my mom that day.
405
00:28:36,382 --> 00:28:38,782
Hey, jess.
-That afternoon,
406
00:28:38,784 --> 00:28:43,721
Jessica calls and asks if she
can keep nia a little longer.
407
00:28:43,723 --> 00:28:48,192
Joy has a business appointment
at 7:30 that evening anyway,
408
00:28:48,194 --> 00:28:54,198
So they agree that jessica will
drop nia off with mike later on.
409
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:59,937
Joy leaves mike at home alone,
ready for nia's arrival.
410
00:28:59,939 --> 00:29:03,307
Sid was being cute and had
this pull all blown up
411
00:29:03,309 --> 00:29:07,444
And ready for her to play in
when jessica dropped her off.
412
00:29:07,446 --> 00:29:11,081
And so he was still trying
to be that good dad.
413
00:29:13,052 --> 00:29:17,921
Narrator: That evening, at 8:15,
joy gets a call.
414
00:29:17,923 --> 00:29:19,623
[ cell phone rings ]
415
00:29:19,625 --> 00:29:21,859
-Hello?
-Grandma.
416
00:29:21,861 --> 00:29:26,630
Narrator: It's her grandson,
jessica's son, riley.
417
00:29:26,632 --> 00:29:28,999
He's calling to let her know
that he and jessica
418
00:29:29,001 --> 00:29:30,534
Have dropped nia off with mike.
419
00:29:30,536 --> 00:29:32,803
I'm kind of
in the middle of something.
420
00:29:32,805 --> 00:29:36,340
-This might sound weird...
-But there's something else.
421
00:29:36,342 --> 00:29:39,943
Riley said, "we just dropped nia
off and we seen fred
422
00:29:39,945 --> 00:29:41,745
Hiding behind the van."
423
00:29:45,951 --> 00:29:48,685
Are you sure it was him?
424
00:29:48,687 --> 00:29:50,120
Narrator:
The protective order means
425
00:29:50,122 --> 00:29:54,625
Fred isn't allowed to be
anywhere near joy's house.
426
00:29:54,627 --> 00:29:57,594
And so I immediately
just ran out the door
427
00:29:57,596 --> 00:30:01,632
And started calling mike,
and he didn't answer.
428
00:30:01,634 --> 00:30:02,966
[ quietly ]
come on, mike.
429
00:30:02,968 --> 00:30:08,939
♪♪
430
00:30:08,941 --> 00:30:11,241
Let's going 100 on the
freeway with the flashers on.
431
00:30:11,243 --> 00:30:13,911
I was just going as fast
as I could go to get there.
432
00:30:13,913 --> 00:30:15,946
Because I was, like,
20 minutes away.
433
00:30:31,831 --> 00:30:34,064
Narrator: The caller is joy
and mike's neighbor.
434
00:30:44,009 --> 00:30:46,643
Police from all over
the county respond.
435
00:30:46,645 --> 00:30:50,247
[ sirens wail ]
436
00:30:50,249 --> 00:30:54,251
Adams: I would say
that an active shooter situation
437
00:30:54,253 --> 00:30:56,653
Is probably about
the highest priority thing
438
00:30:56,655 --> 00:30:58,789
That we can respond to.
439
00:30:58,791 --> 00:31:01,792
Everybody kind of dropping
what they're doing to as quickly
440
00:31:01,794 --> 00:31:04,962
And effectively stop that
activity from continuing on.
441
00:31:58,751 --> 00:32:00,751
[ sirens wail ]
442
00:32:00,753 --> 00:32:05,222
[ radio chatter ]
443
00:32:05,224 --> 00:32:10,394
I pulled up and I retrieved my,
my patrol rifle from my vehicle.
444
00:32:12,932 --> 00:32:18,068
Narrator:
Heavily-armed officers make
their way across the complex.
445
00:32:18,070 --> 00:32:19,403
Adams: I remember in the back
of my mind
446
00:32:19,405 --> 00:32:22,306
Thinking
"we're probably screwed here."
447
00:32:22,308 --> 00:32:25,375
It would be very easy
to be ambushed.
448
00:32:25,377 --> 00:32:33,784
♪♪
449
00:32:33,786 --> 00:32:35,485
We were probably only about
20 feet away
450
00:32:35,487 --> 00:32:38,889
When he came around the corner.
451
00:32:38,891 --> 00:32:42,693
He kept yelling at us
to kill him.
452
00:32:42,695 --> 00:32:45,896
He started to reach inside
of his coveralls
453
00:32:45,898 --> 00:32:48,498
And what was going through
my mind
454
00:32:48,500 --> 00:32:52,369
Was that he's he's about
to pull out a gun.
455
00:32:52,371 --> 00:32:57,808
We paused milliseconds long
enough to not pull triggers,
456
00:32:57,810 --> 00:33:00,310
That intuition saved fred's life
457
00:33:00,312 --> 00:33:05,449
As he came out of his bibs
with an empty hand.
458
00:33:05,451 --> 00:33:09,119
And he went to the ground.
459
00:33:09,121 --> 00:33:11,355
We were able to handcuff him.
460
00:33:11,357 --> 00:33:17,060
♪♪
461
00:33:17,062 --> 00:33:18,662
Narrator:
With fred in custody,
462
00:33:18,664 --> 00:33:21,631
Officers begin to search
the housing complex.
463
00:33:24,436 --> 00:33:27,971
They find weapons on the lawn
in front of joy and mike's unit
464
00:33:30,476 --> 00:33:33,577
Laid out on the grass
are a 12-gauge shotgun.
465
00:33:36,181 --> 00:33:38,081
And a nine millimeter handgun.
466
00:33:40,619 --> 00:33:44,621
The door to the unit
is smashed in.
467
00:33:44,623 --> 00:33:46,423
Adams:
We did not know where joy was.
468
00:33:46,425 --> 00:33:49,526
We did not know if there were
other people in the home
469
00:33:49,528 --> 00:33:52,929
Or if fred was acting alone
470
00:33:52,931 --> 00:33:56,333
Narrator: And there's no sign
of 5-year-old nia.
471
00:34:07,579 --> 00:34:13,617
[ nia speaking indistinctly ]
472
00:34:13,619 --> 00:34:17,554
[ siren wails ]
473
00:34:17,556 --> 00:34:20,724
Narrator: As officers search
joy and mike sidwell's home,
474
00:34:22,895 --> 00:34:25,729
They make
a terrible discovery...
475
00:34:25,731 --> 00:34:27,998
[ camera shutter clicks ]
476
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,467
...The body of mike sidwell.
477
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:37,174
But there's no sign of nia.
478
00:34:40,846 --> 00:34:43,046
Just before 9:00 p.M.,
479
00:34:43,048 --> 00:34:48,852
Joy arrives back at her home,
now a crime scene.
480
00:34:48,854 --> 00:34:51,488
Joy:
All I could do, when I got
there was just stand out
481
00:34:51,490 --> 00:34:58,462
In the road and stare and.
And not know what's going on in.
482
00:34:58,464 --> 00:35:01,298
And they said
that fred killed mike.
483
00:35:03,836 --> 00:35:05,969
Like that in my brain,
it's like that's not possible.
484
00:35:05,971 --> 00:35:08,605
He can't have been killed, he
can't have been killed by him.
485
00:35:09,041 --> 00:35:11,942
[ echoes ]
my granddaughter!
486
00:35:11,944 --> 00:35:13,376
And they didn't know where nia
was at.
487
00:35:13,378 --> 00:35:17,981
I'm like, "you got to find nia
nia's there. He took her."
488
00:35:17,983 --> 00:35:19,883
He took her."
489
00:35:19,885 --> 00:35:21,585
Wienmuller:
Once I got to the scene
490
00:35:21,587 --> 00:35:25,388
And I learned that nia,
a 5-year-old
491
00:35:25,390 --> 00:35:29,793
Was in the house at the time
that the incident occurred.
492
00:35:29,795 --> 00:35:32,929
So we were very concerned
for her safety.
493
00:35:32,931 --> 00:35:34,531
Nia!
494
00:35:34,533 --> 00:35:37,000
Joy:
I didn't know if he had done
something to her to hurt her
495
00:35:37,002 --> 00:35:39,169
Or hold her hostage
or something like, but --
496
00:35:39,171 --> 00:35:42,172
Or if he had killed her.
I did. I didn't know.
497
00:35:43,342 --> 00:35:45,475
Officer:
We'll find your granddaughter.
498
00:35:45,477 --> 00:35:47,377
[ cries ]
499
00:35:47,379 --> 00:35:50,547
Grandma!
500
00:35:50,549 --> 00:35:53,283
Narrator: Joy is overwhelmed
when she sees nia emerge
501
00:35:53,285 --> 00:35:56,720
From a house across the street.
502
00:35:56,722 --> 00:35:58,722
When she seen me
she just you know,
503
00:35:58,724 --> 00:36:00,757
She just clung to me,
just clung to me.
504
00:36:00,759 --> 00:36:04,327
And I was just so happy
to see her that she was okay.
505
00:36:04,329 --> 00:36:07,831
So I was happy she was okay and
she was happy that I was okay.
506
00:36:07,833 --> 00:36:10,033
And she's just little, you know,
507
00:36:10,035 --> 00:36:13,403
So she -- just -- she's hanging
on me, you know?
508
00:36:13,405 --> 00:36:16,873
And then he was looking...
Narrator: Nia is terrified.
509
00:36:16,875 --> 00:36:19,543
But describes what she saw.
510
00:36:19,545 --> 00:36:25,649
She said that fred had shot
"siddy" in the nose
511
00:36:25,651 --> 00:36:27,717
And then she pointed
with her left hand
512
00:36:27,719 --> 00:36:29,753
And she said
the bullet's right here.
513
00:36:32,324 --> 00:36:36,092
Narrator: Nia, I was able to
get herself to safety.
514
00:36:36,094 --> 00:36:38,161
Wienmuller:
She went out the door,
515
00:36:38,163 --> 00:36:42,632
Then she contacted the neighbor
there, which I'm so grateful
516
00:36:42,634 --> 00:36:46,236
That they answered the door
at that time
517
00:36:46,238 --> 00:36:48,238
For that 5-year-old
little girl.
518
00:36:51,143 --> 00:36:56,479
Narrator:
After nia has told police
what she saw her grandpa do,
519
00:36:56,481 --> 00:36:59,482
Lindon city detectives
start questioning fred.
520
00:37:02,087 --> 00:37:07,157
My role was just to let fred
kind of tell his story,
521
00:37:07,159 --> 00:37:09,092
Which happened very easily.
In this case.
522
00:37:20,472 --> 00:37:25,108
I think fred was almost a
little proud of what he'd done.
523
00:37:25,110 --> 00:37:27,244
I don't believe in any of
the interview
524
00:37:27,246 --> 00:37:30,213
He ever said he was sorry
for going over there
525
00:37:30,215 --> 00:37:33,283
To try to take joy's life.
526
00:37:33,285 --> 00:37:37,287
Narrator:
He begins to tell detectives
exactly what happened.
527
00:38:04,283 --> 00:38:07,617
Gray:
Fred was very calm and collected
during the interview.
528
00:38:07,619 --> 00:38:10,120
I had to keep telling myself
this individual
529
00:38:10,122 --> 00:38:11,788
Just killed somebody.
530
00:38:11,790 --> 00:38:19,362
♪♪
531
00:39:01,106 --> 00:39:04,641
He was able to push the door in
and make access
532
00:39:04,643 --> 00:39:07,610
And he said right
then he saw nia.
533
00:39:09,748 --> 00:39:12,082
It was probably less than
a half an hour before that
534
00:39:12,084 --> 00:39:15,085
She was at fred's house,
spending time with him
535
00:39:15,087 --> 00:39:19,222
And now she's over
having to witness this.
536
00:39:19,224 --> 00:39:21,758
I can only speculate
to the irreparable damage
537
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,695
That that probably does
to the child's psyche.
538
00:39:25,697 --> 00:39:30,467
Narrator:
But fred is still on a rampage,
determined to find joy.
539
00:39:32,504 --> 00:39:37,507
While he searches upstairs,
nia makes her escape.
540
00:39:37,509 --> 00:39:39,676
Running to a neighbor's house.
541
00:39:41,646 --> 00:39:44,080
With no luck finding joy,
542
00:39:44,082 --> 00:39:48,818
Fred heads outside
to continue his search.
543
00:39:48,820 --> 00:39:50,887
And begins shooting
at the other condos.
544
00:39:53,959 --> 00:39:58,294
Eventually, finding neighbor
ron mabe at home.
545
00:39:58,296 --> 00:40:00,730
Gray: His mission
was not yet complete.
546
00:40:00,732 --> 00:40:02,832
So I do believe that anybody
547
00:40:02,834 --> 00:40:05,135
That stood in fred's way
at that point,
548
00:40:05,137 --> 00:40:10,140
Would have been
a potential victim in this case.
549
00:40:10,142 --> 00:40:13,343
Narrator:
Ron has already alerted
the police and within minutes
550
00:40:13,345 --> 00:40:17,380
The squad cars are approaching.
551
00:40:17,382 --> 00:40:21,351
Running out of ammo, fred leaves
his weapons on the lawn.
552
00:40:31,663 --> 00:40:36,933
Gray:
I don't know that I've stared
maybe a pure evil down before.
553
00:40:36,935 --> 00:40:39,269
That's kind of what
came across to me.
554
00:40:41,273 --> 00:40:44,441
Narrator: Fred lee is charged
with aggravated murder,
555
00:40:44,443 --> 00:40:47,277
Assault, and burglary,
attempted murder,
556
00:40:47,279 --> 00:40:51,281
Stalking, and unlawful
possession of firearms.
557
00:40:53,985 --> 00:40:57,053
He makes a legal deal
and pleads guilty to murder,
558
00:40:57,055 --> 00:41:00,557
Aggravated burglary,
stalking, and domestic violence
559
00:41:00,559 --> 00:41:03,693
In the presence of a child.
560
00:41:03,695 --> 00:41:08,832
He is sentenced to
21 years to life.
561
00:41:08,834 --> 00:41:10,533
Joy: The last day in court
before he got sentenced,
562
00:41:10,535 --> 00:41:14,904
All he could say was,
"I wish joy would have
been more understanding."
563
00:41:14,906 --> 00:41:17,707
I mean, he just.
564
00:41:17,709 --> 00:41:19,542
He never was sorry for it.
565
00:41:21,546 --> 00:41:24,781
Gray:
You just never know, I guess,
in a small community
566
00:41:24,783 --> 00:41:28,384
What evil lurks
just right next door to you.
567
00:41:31,690 --> 00:41:36,092
Narrator: His daughters struggle
to comprehend what he did.
568
00:41:36,094 --> 00:41:41,931
Jessica: Do I forgive him?
Probably not.
569
00:41:41,933 --> 00:41:44,267
Mostly because not only did
he kill sid,
570
00:41:44,269 --> 00:41:48,338
But he he took himself
out of our life.
571
00:41:48,340 --> 00:41:52,876
We needed him.
572
00:41:52,878 --> 00:41:56,479
Narrator:
Saying goodbye to mike is
the hardest thing of all.
573
00:41:59,851 --> 00:42:02,485
Barnes: He won't ever be able
to be a grandpa.
574
00:42:02,487 --> 00:42:05,188
He will never be able to, like,
walk me down the aisle.
575
00:42:05,190 --> 00:42:09,392
He won't ever be able to, like,
see my failures or my successes.
576
00:42:09,394 --> 00:42:11,661
And like,
that's what sucks the most.
577
00:42:11,663 --> 00:42:14,230
You dad's supposed to be
like your number one fan.
578
00:42:14,232 --> 00:42:18,935
And he's he is,
but he's my guardian angel.
579
00:42:23,341 --> 00:42:25,174
Joy: I miss him every day,
I miss his happiness,
580
00:42:25,176 --> 00:42:28,011
His fun,
he's taken care of me,
581
00:42:28,013 --> 00:42:32,882
And I feel like
I don't have any dreams left.