1 00:00:01,967 --> 00:00:04,400 DIANNE: Talking about this now, 2 00:00:04,467 --> 00:00:06,367 it's hard, 3 00:00:06,467 --> 00:00:09,900 because I had loved him so much, 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,867 and that's what hurts more than anything. 5 00:00:14,867 --> 00:00:17,166 It's mortifying. 6 00:00:17,166 --> 00:00:20,066 It's so shameful. 7 00:00:20,066 --> 00:00:22,166 I felt stupid. 8 00:00:22,166 --> 00:00:25,800 You have this monster of a husband who's doing 9 00:00:25,867 --> 00:00:27,300 these things, 10 00:00:27,367 --> 00:00:30,000 and then everybody finds out in front of you, 11 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:30,567 and then everybody finds out in front of you, 12 00:00:30,667 --> 00:00:31,867 it's your husband. 13 00:00:31,967 --> 00:00:33,867 You know, you feel like you just really 14 00:00:33,967 --> 00:00:35,767 want to crawl in a hole and die. 15 00:00:37,266 --> 00:00:39,867 I saw this man as a loving person, 16 00:00:41,467 --> 00:00:44,667 and to actually hear these things... 17 00:00:44,667 --> 00:00:46,500 it's like... 18 00:00:46,567 --> 00:00:48,367 this is not the man that I love. 19 00:00:48,367 --> 00:00:50,567 Who is this person? 20 00:01:16,500 --> 00:01:19,000 It just devastates me to know what he's been doing 21 00:01:19,066 --> 00:01:22,467 and that I was married to this monster. 22 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:36,367 He's in a cage where he belongs, 23 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,000 and I pray he'll stay there until the day he dies. 24 00:01:53,900 --> 00:01:55,400 I just want to put my hands around his neck 25 00:01:55,467 --> 00:01:57,400 and just shake the hell out of him 26 00:01:58,467 --> 00:02:00,000 and just say, "What in God's name is wrong with you? 27 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,667 and just say, "What in God's name is wrong with you? 28 00:02:02,667 --> 00:02:07,867 Why? Why do you think you have a right to do this?" 29 00:02:13,667 --> 00:02:16,567 [The Paper Chase's "What's So Amazing About Grace?" plays] 30 00:02:16,667 --> 00:02:19,000 [strings continue playing sinister tune] 31 00:02:19,100 --> 00:02:20,400 [static crackling] 32 00:02:23,266 --> 00:02:25,467 [knock at door] [creaking] 33 00:02:25,567 --> 00:02:30,000 -[banging on door] -[creaking] 34 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:30,066 -[banging on door] -[creaking] 35 00:02:30,066 --> 00:02:34,767 -[banging on door] -[creaking] 36 00:02:34,867 --> 00:02:37,367 [water dripping] 37 00:02:37,367 --> 00:02:40,800 [banging on door] [creaking] 38 00:02:40,867 --> 00:02:42,867 [sinister chord strikes] 39 00:02:49,500 --> 00:02:52,400 I was carefree when I was 19. 40 00:02:53,567 --> 00:02:57,100 I had just gotten out of high school. 41 00:02:57,166 --> 00:03:00,000 Um, I was really into the dancing scene, 42 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:00,767 Um, I was really into the dancing scene, 43 00:03:00,867 --> 00:03:04,767 and I didn't have any cares, 44 00:03:04,767 --> 00:03:06,300 really, in the world. 45 00:03:07,767 --> 00:03:10,767 I was living in Honolulu, Hawaii, at the time. 46 00:03:10,867 --> 00:03:14,567 Mark and I met at a nightclub in Waikiki. 47 00:03:14,667 --> 00:03:18,567 The club was very crowded, and my girlfriend and I 48 00:03:18,567 --> 00:03:21,166 were put at his table with his buddy, 49 00:03:21,266 --> 00:03:24,200 because there was nowhere else for us to go. 50 00:03:24,266 --> 00:03:27,367 Mark was stationed in the marines in Pearl Harbor. 51 00:03:27,467 --> 00:03:30,000 He was very charming, very charismatic, 52 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:30,700 He was very charming, very charismatic, 53 00:03:30,767 --> 00:03:32,667 and we were just having lots of fun. 54 00:03:32,667 --> 00:03:35,467 He had asked for my phone number. 55 00:03:35,567 --> 00:03:36,767 Would you like to dance? 56 00:03:38,567 --> 00:03:40,600 DIANNE: We were together quite a bit. 57 00:03:40,667 --> 00:03:43,700 He was always generous to me. 58 00:03:43,767 --> 00:03:46,467 Mark was very kind and loving. 59 00:03:46,567 --> 00:03:48,367 Um, he was wonderful. 60 00:03:48,367 --> 00:03:51,567 Mark and I were seeing each other for almost 61 00:03:51,667 --> 00:03:55,000 a year, and then he got stationed in 62 00:03:55,100 --> 00:03:58,166 Camp Lejeune, North Carolina. 63 00:03:58,166 --> 00:04:00,000 We didn't know what to do. 64 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:00,500 We didn't know what to do. 65 00:04:00,567 --> 00:04:06,100 I did say to him, "I feel like I'm falling in love with you." 66 00:04:06,166 --> 00:04:09,667 And he acknowledged the same feeling. 67 00:04:09,767 --> 00:04:12,300 We remained boyfriend and girlfriend. 68 00:04:12,367 --> 00:04:15,166 It was a long-distance relationship. 69 00:04:15,266 --> 00:04:16,867 I missed Mark so much. 70 00:04:16,967 --> 00:04:18,867 It was very lonely at times. 71 00:04:18,967 --> 00:04:22,467 I felt so deeply invested in Mark at that time, 72 00:04:22,467 --> 00:04:25,700 because I really believed I was in love with him. 73 00:04:25,767 --> 00:04:27,567 I thought, at that age, 74 00:04:27,667 --> 00:04:29,667 I knew what love was, 75 00:04:29,767 --> 00:04:30,000 but I really didn't. 76 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:31,367 but I really didn't. 77 00:04:50,867 --> 00:04:54,000 A few years after he went to North Carolina, 78 00:04:54,100 --> 00:04:55,667 the phone rang. 79 00:04:55,767 --> 00:04:58,166 [phone ringing] 80 00:04:59,667 --> 00:05:00,000 Hello? 81 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:00,700 Hello? 82 00:05:00,700 --> 00:05:02,800 And when Mark came on the phone, he said, 83 00:05:02,867 --> 00:05:04,100 "I'm in prison." 84 00:05:05,367 --> 00:05:08,066 And I said, "What do you mean, you're in prison?" 85 00:05:08,066 --> 00:05:09,266 Oh, my God. 86 00:05:09,266 --> 00:05:10,467 I said, "What did you do?" 87 00:05:10,567 --> 00:05:13,166 And he said, "Well, they're saying I committed rape." 88 00:05:14,667 --> 00:05:16,600 And he goes, "But I didn't do it, Dianne." 89 00:05:16,667 --> 00:05:18,367 He said, "I'm being framed." 90 00:05:18,467 --> 00:05:20,000 So what happened? 91 00:05:20,066 --> 00:05:24,567 He had told me that this woman was pushed into a McDonald's 92 00:05:24,667 --> 00:05:28,667 bathroom, and she was physically attacked, 93 00:05:28,767 --> 00:05:30,000 and I'm listening to the story, 94 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:30,467 and I'm listening to the story, 95 00:05:30,467 --> 00:05:32,400 and I said, "Did you do this?" 96 00:05:32,467 --> 00:05:33,400 And he said, "No." 97 00:05:33,467 --> 00:05:35,166 And he was -- he actually was crying on 98 00:05:35,166 --> 00:05:38,367 the phone and said, "I did not do this, Dianne. 99 00:05:38,467 --> 00:05:43,200 I was nowhere near that area on that day." 100 00:05:43,266 --> 00:05:44,800 When I heard him crying, 101 00:05:44,867 --> 00:05:48,867 I knew in my heart, there's just no way that Mark did this. 102 00:05:49,967 --> 00:05:53,800 He had never shown any signs of anger. 103 00:05:53,867 --> 00:05:56,266 Um, he never raised a hand to me. 104 00:05:56,266 --> 00:05:58,467 That's why it was really difficult for me 105 00:05:58,567 --> 00:06:00,000 to believe that he did such a thing. 106 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:01,200 to believe that he did such a thing. 107 00:06:02,467 --> 00:06:04,266 Oh, Mark. 108 00:06:04,266 --> 00:06:06,867 But this was before the internet came 109 00:06:06,967 --> 00:06:08,200 into existence. 110 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:12,800 So I didn't know Mark did not have a good alibi for this. 111 00:06:12,867 --> 00:06:17,000 And then this woman who was attacked, 112 00:06:17,066 --> 00:06:20,500 she was able to describe him to the T. 113 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:26,667 But I had no knowledge of any of this whatsoever. 114 00:06:26,667 --> 00:06:28,700 I can't remember the sentence that he got. 115 00:06:28,767 --> 00:06:30,000 But I remember him just telling me that he loved me, 116 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,467 But I remember him just telling me that he loved me, 117 00:06:32,567 --> 00:06:34,166 and when he got out, 118 00:06:34,266 --> 00:06:37,266 he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. 119 00:06:37,367 --> 00:06:39,100 AS MARK: You believe me -- 120 00:06:39,166 --> 00:06:41,567 I mean, that I'm innocent? 121 00:06:41,667 --> 00:06:43,400 Of course I believe you. 122 00:06:43,467 --> 00:06:45,567 DIANNE: I remember saying to him, 123 00:06:45,567 --> 00:06:47,767 I will wait for you till you get out of prison, 124 00:06:47,867 --> 00:06:50,200 and then we can start our lives together. 125 00:06:50,266 --> 00:06:53,600 Because I came from such a dysfunctional family, 126 00:06:53,667 --> 00:06:57,200 I think I wanted so much for someone to love me 127 00:06:57,266 --> 00:06:58,867 for who I was. 128 00:06:58,867 --> 00:07:00,000 Good night. 129 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:00,467 Good night. 130 00:07:00,467 --> 00:07:04,567 Looking back, I really wish I had never said that to him. 131 00:07:13,700 --> 00:07:16,100 While Mark was in prison, 132 00:07:16,166 --> 00:07:20,000 our relationship was going on through phone 133 00:07:20,100 --> 00:07:25,667 and via letters for approximately 8 to 10 years. 134 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:30,000 And Mark convinced me that he was wrongly convicted. 135 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:30,967 And Mark convinced me that he was wrongly convicted. 136 00:07:30,967 --> 00:07:34,767 When Mark proposed to me, he proposed over the phone. 137 00:07:34,767 --> 00:07:36,567 I wasn't sure if I should do this, 138 00:07:36,567 --> 00:07:39,767 but I was really afraid that if I didn't marry Mark, 139 00:07:39,767 --> 00:07:42,100 I would never get married. 140 00:07:42,166 --> 00:07:45,900 I had dated other men while he was in prison, 141 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:48,667 but I've always had this feeling 142 00:07:48,767 --> 00:07:50,367 that nobody ever would want me. 143 00:07:50,367 --> 00:07:51,767 [knocking noises] 144 00:07:51,867 --> 00:07:53,100 Yes? 145 00:07:53,166 --> 00:07:56,667 So when Mark asked me to marry him, 146 00:07:56,767 --> 00:07:59,000 I thought, well, nobody's asking me, so I 147 00:07:59,066 --> 00:08:00,000 might as well grab it while I can. 148 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,000 might as well grab it while I can. 149 00:08:02,100 --> 00:08:03,567 MAN: They're ready for you. 150 00:08:03,567 --> 00:08:06,667 At that point, I was still believing that he was 151 00:08:06,767 --> 00:08:07,967 very innocent. 152 00:08:11,667 --> 00:08:12,867 MAN: Welcome, loved ones. 153 00:08:12,967 --> 00:08:14,800 We are gathered here today... 154 00:08:14,867 --> 00:08:17,900 I left Hawaii to move to North Carolina, 155 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,100 where I didn't know anybody. 156 00:08:20,166 --> 00:08:22,467 MAN: Mark, do you promise to cherish... 157 00:08:22,567 --> 00:08:26,066 DIANNE: It was strange to be married in a prison. 158 00:08:26,066 --> 00:08:29,667 The prison guards were off to the side. 159 00:08:29,767 --> 00:08:30,000 It was not at all 160 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:30,867 It was not at all 161 00:08:30,967 --> 00:08:34,467 something that I imagined when I was growing up. 162 00:08:34,467 --> 00:08:37,467 MAN: And Dianne, do you promise to cherish... 163 00:08:37,467 --> 00:08:40,400 But to me, it was a happy day. 164 00:08:40,467 --> 00:08:42,100 I was excited. 165 00:08:42,166 --> 00:08:44,266 He seemed really, really happy. 166 00:08:44,266 --> 00:08:46,066 It seemed genuine. 167 00:08:46,066 --> 00:08:49,467 This was a man who seemed to really love me. 168 00:08:49,567 --> 00:08:52,166 MAN: I now pronounce you husband and wife. 169 00:08:52,166 --> 00:08:55,900 [scattered applause] 170 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,100 But when I look back at it now, I do believe 171 00:08:59,166 --> 00:09:00,000 that Mark was using me to look good to the parole board. 172 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:04,867 that Mark was using me to look good to the parole board. 173 00:09:04,867 --> 00:09:07,867 [applause] 174 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:18,700 It was about 2 to 2 and a half years after Mark and I 175 00:09:18,767 --> 00:09:21,767 were married, I went to go visit him. 176 00:09:21,867 --> 00:09:24,600 We were just sitting at this picnic table, and he said, 177 00:09:24,667 --> 00:09:26,367 "I have something to tell you." 178 00:09:26,467 --> 00:09:27,700 I said, "Okay." 179 00:09:27,767 --> 00:09:29,367 What is it? 180 00:09:29,367 --> 00:09:30,000 And he said, "Diane, I committed the crime." 181 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:33,967 And he said, "Diane, I committed the crime." 182 00:09:35,667 --> 00:09:38,100 And I remember looking down and thinking, 183 00:09:38,166 --> 00:09:40,066 I don't think I heard that right. 184 00:09:40,066 --> 00:09:43,200 And I said to him, "What -- what did you say?" 185 00:09:43,266 --> 00:09:47,000 Mark said, "I committed the rape." 186 00:09:47,066 --> 00:09:50,200 And I just remember looking at him really dumbfounded. 187 00:09:50,266 --> 00:09:52,667 I know I must have had a look of shock on my face. 188 00:09:52,767 --> 00:09:54,567 That's not what you said before. 189 00:09:54,667 --> 00:09:57,367 I know. I lied to you. 190 00:09:59,667 --> 00:10:00,000 DIANNE: I remember asking him, why are you telling me now? 191 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:04,166 DIANNE: I remember asking him, why are you telling me now? 192 00:10:04,166 --> 00:10:08,767 He said, "Because last night," he said, "I was reading 193 00:10:08,767 --> 00:10:11,400 the word of God, the Bible," and he said, 194 00:10:11,467 --> 00:10:16,100 "I just decided to pray, and I felt like God was saying, 'You 195 00:10:16,166 --> 00:10:17,867 got to tell her the truth.'" 196 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,467 I was in such a state of shock. All this time, 197 00:10:25,567 --> 00:10:28,266 I've always believed he was innocent. 198 00:10:28,266 --> 00:10:30,000 I asked him, I said, "Why did you do this?" 199 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:31,900 I asked him, I said, "Why did you do this?" 200 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:35,100 And he said to me, "I don't know." 201 00:10:35,166 --> 00:10:38,367 He said, "I just saw her, 202 00:10:38,467 --> 00:10:40,867 and before I knew it, I had her in the bathroom on the floor." 203 00:10:43,367 --> 00:10:48,100 And he acted like he just didn't know why he did it. 204 00:10:48,166 --> 00:10:50,700 And I said to Mark, 205 00:10:50,767 --> 00:10:54,166 is this the only time you have ever done this? 206 00:10:54,166 --> 00:10:55,667 And he said, "Yes." 207 00:10:55,767 --> 00:10:57,567 He did have tears in his eyes. 208 00:10:57,567 --> 00:11:00,000 He said he was really sorry he lied to me, 209 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:00,300 He said he was really sorry he lied to me, 210 00:11:00,367 --> 00:11:02,967 but he said he was afraid if he told me 211 00:11:02,967 --> 00:11:05,567 the truth that I would never want anything to do with him. 212 00:11:06,967 --> 00:11:08,166 I never meant to lie to you. 213 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:11,600 I said, "Did you ask God to forgive you?" 214 00:11:11,667 --> 00:11:13,867 He said, "Yes, I did." 215 00:11:13,867 --> 00:11:16,066 So I looked at him, and I said, 216 00:11:16,066 --> 00:11:18,166 "If God is willing to forgive you, 217 00:11:18,266 --> 00:11:21,567 who am I to not forgive you?" 218 00:11:23,100 --> 00:11:25,667 But it didn't mean that I wasn't angry. 219 00:11:25,667 --> 00:11:28,867 I started questioning everything. 220 00:11:28,867 --> 00:11:30,000 I kept saying you are so stupid, Dianne. 221 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:31,467 I kept saying you are so stupid, Dianne. 222 00:11:31,467 --> 00:11:35,767 You are so naive that you believed him 223 00:11:35,867 --> 00:11:37,900 all these years. 224 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:40,066 But I really didn't know what to do, 225 00:11:40,066 --> 00:11:41,700 and I didn't know where to go. 226 00:11:42,767 --> 00:11:44,266 Are we okay? 227 00:11:44,266 --> 00:11:46,166 DIANNE: I didn't have any money. 228 00:11:46,166 --> 00:11:47,767 There was no way I could pack up 229 00:11:47,767 --> 00:11:50,800 and move back to Hawaii -- I just didn't have the finances. 230 00:11:50,867 --> 00:11:53,667 I married this man, and I believed in my heart 231 00:11:53,667 --> 00:11:56,166 when you marry someone, it's for better or for worse. 232 00:11:56,166 --> 00:11:57,667 I love you. 233 00:11:57,767 --> 00:11:59,767 DIANNE: So this is the worst part of it. 234 00:12:10,500 --> 00:12:12,367 Mark and I were married for three years 235 00:12:12,367 --> 00:12:15,000 before he got out of prison, 236 00:12:15,066 --> 00:12:17,867 and then I got pregnant with our daughter. 237 00:12:17,967 --> 00:12:19,900 Mark did seem like a good dad at first. 238 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:22,000 He was excited to be out again. 239 00:12:22,066 --> 00:12:25,767 He was excited to see his daughter and hold her. 240 00:12:25,767 --> 00:12:28,467 But within a year of getting out, 241 00:12:28,567 --> 00:12:30,000 Mark started coming home really late. 242 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:30,767 Mark started coming home really late. 243 00:12:31,767 --> 00:12:33,200 Then, all of a sudden, 244 00:12:33,266 --> 00:12:36,567 he wasn't coming home until the next day. 245 00:12:39,100 --> 00:12:42,000 He would come home after being out all night long. 246 00:12:42,066 --> 00:12:43,367 Mark? 247 00:12:43,467 --> 00:12:45,967 And he would just go right to the bathroom, and you 248 00:12:45,967 --> 00:12:49,266 could hear he was taking a shower, and then he would come 249 00:12:49,266 --> 00:12:52,867 out and sit in the dining room and have some coffee. 250 00:12:52,867 --> 00:12:54,467 Where have you been? 251 00:12:54,567 --> 00:12:56,467 Don't worry about it. 252 00:12:56,467 --> 00:12:58,867 I am worried. 253 00:12:58,967 --> 00:13:00,000 DIANNE: I didn't think it was normal for your husband to stay 254 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:04,166 DIANNE: I didn't think it was normal for your husband to stay 255 00:13:04,266 --> 00:13:07,000 out all night and not come home till the next day. 256 00:13:07,066 --> 00:13:11,100 So I felt I had a right to say, "Where were you?" 257 00:13:11,166 --> 00:13:12,767 You can't just stay out all night 258 00:13:12,767 --> 00:13:14,166 and not tell me where you're going. 259 00:13:14,166 --> 00:13:17,700 DIANNE: He did not like me asking those kind of questions. 260 00:13:17,767 --> 00:13:20,567 Who do you think you are, my warden? 261 00:13:21,700 --> 00:13:24,767 His attitude was like, I'm just supposed to accept 262 00:13:24,767 --> 00:13:28,066 what he does, and I'm not supposed to question it. 263 00:13:28,066 --> 00:13:30,000 All he kept saying was he was hanging 264 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:30,066 All he kept saying was he was hanging 265 00:13:30,066 --> 00:13:33,767 out with a guy that he met in prison. 266 00:13:33,867 --> 00:13:35,467 I couldn't help but wonder if 267 00:13:35,467 --> 00:13:38,266 he was involved with another woman. 268 00:13:38,367 --> 00:13:42,000 Please don't lie to me, Mark. Not again. 269 00:13:42,100 --> 00:13:43,767 DIANNE: He would just yell at me 270 00:13:43,767 --> 00:13:46,100 and say that I don't trust him. 271 00:13:46,166 --> 00:13:47,900 Are you kidding me with this, Dianne? 272 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,100 I knew I never should have told you what happened. 273 00:13:50,166 --> 00:13:51,567 Mark, please! 274 00:13:51,667 --> 00:13:55,867 But I never thought he would be out hurting 275 00:13:55,967 --> 00:14:00,000 women or stalking women, because I really thought 276 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:00,567 women or stalking women, because I really thought 277 00:14:00,667 --> 00:14:06,300 he was very sincere in saying he would never do it again. 278 00:14:06,367 --> 00:14:09,600 I thought you said you forgave me, or did you not mean it? 279 00:14:09,667 --> 00:14:12,467 No, I meant it. 280 00:14:12,467 --> 00:14:15,767 I'm sorry -- I didn't mean to make you upset. 281 00:14:18,767 --> 00:14:20,367 Everything I had done and everything 282 00:14:20,467 --> 00:14:22,567 I had believed in in him was wrong. 283 00:14:40,467 --> 00:14:43,467 It was hard for Mark to find a job when he got out 284 00:14:43,467 --> 00:14:47,166 because of his record, and we started going into 285 00:14:47,266 --> 00:14:50,100 a lot of debt because of it. 286 00:14:50,166 --> 00:14:51,066 Where are you going? 287 00:14:51,066 --> 00:14:52,900 We're not done talking about this. 288 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:56,699 It put a big strain on our relationship, because the bills 289 00:14:56,699 --> 00:14:57,000 It put a big strain on our relationship, because the bills 290 00:14:57,100 --> 00:14:58,800 weren't getting paid the way they should have 291 00:14:58,867 --> 00:15:01,767 and we had a really bad argument. 292 00:15:01,867 --> 00:15:03,667 So now this is my fault? 293 00:15:03,767 --> 00:15:07,100 No, but I can't be the only one supporting this house. 294 00:15:07,166 --> 00:15:10,200 DIANNE: And he did -- he stormed out, 295 00:15:10,266 --> 00:15:14,567 and so I locked the door, and I even put a chain 296 00:15:14,667 --> 00:15:16,100 up on the door. 297 00:15:17,967 --> 00:15:20,367 So I thought he was gone. 298 00:15:23,667 --> 00:15:25,266 And that night, I said my prayers 299 00:15:25,367 --> 00:15:26,699 and everything, and I went to bed. 300 00:15:26,699 --> 00:15:26,867 and everything, and I went to bed. 301 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,600 I must have been in a really deep sleep, and I 302 00:15:31,667 --> 00:15:34,767 remember moving in my bed, and I felt something on my back. 303 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:38,166 My eyes opened up real fast, 304 00:15:38,166 --> 00:15:39,667 and I jumped out of the bed, 305 00:15:41,467 --> 00:15:42,700 and there he is. 306 00:15:42,767 --> 00:15:44,400 [quietly] Mark? 307 00:15:45,667 --> 00:15:48,367 I just said, "What the hell are you doing here?" 308 00:15:48,367 --> 00:15:50,300 How did you get in here? 309 00:15:50,367 --> 00:15:53,300 DIANNE: I locked the door, I put the chain up, 310 00:15:53,367 --> 00:15:55,166 and he looked at me, and he -- all of a sudden, 311 00:15:55,166 --> 00:15:56,699 he's laying there, and he smiled, and he goes, 312 00:15:56,699 --> 00:15:57,000 he's laying there, and he smiled, and he goes, 313 00:15:57,100 --> 00:15:59,667 "You know, that's just one of the things you learn 314 00:15:59,667 --> 00:16:00,800 "in prison. 315 00:16:00,867 --> 00:16:02,300 "You learn how to make all kinds 316 00:16:02,367 --> 00:16:04,967 of homemade tools to break into people's homes." 317 00:16:06,667 --> 00:16:09,600 He said, "You could have 10 million locks on your door, 318 00:16:09,667 --> 00:16:12,266 but anybody could break into any home 319 00:16:12,266 --> 00:16:15,000 if they are determined to do it." 320 00:16:15,066 --> 00:16:18,300 He was grinning like, you know, he was really evil. 321 00:16:18,367 --> 00:16:21,767 It was just really very uncomfortable. 322 00:16:21,767 --> 00:16:23,700 That's when I started getting scared. 323 00:16:23,767 --> 00:16:26,699 Oh, come on Dianne, what's wrong? 324 00:16:26,699 --> 00:16:27,100 Oh, come on Dianne, what's wrong? 325 00:16:27,166 --> 00:16:29,100 DIANNE: I was like, who is this person? 326 00:16:29,166 --> 00:16:30,967 I just got my pillow, and I got 327 00:16:30,967 --> 00:16:34,000 another blanket, and he said, "Where are you going?" 328 00:16:34,066 --> 00:16:35,800 I said, "I'm going into my daughter's room." 329 00:16:37,166 --> 00:16:40,000 And I closed the door, and I said, "Don't come in," 330 00:16:41,100 --> 00:16:44,000 and he just -- I guess he rolled over and went back to sleep. 331 00:16:48,900 --> 00:16:51,066 I was praying like crazy 332 00:16:51,066 --> 00:16:55,066 that he wasn't breaking into people's homes. 333 00:16:55,166 --> 00:16:56,699 But I knew I couldn't ask him, because I knew 334 00:16:56,699 --> 00:16:58,900 But I knew I couldn't ask him, because I knew 335 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:01,600 by that time, he wasn't gonna tell me the truth. 336 00:17:07,300 --> 00:17:09,467 Mark had been out all night, 337 00:17:09,467 --> 00:17:11,700 and it must have been around 10 in the morning. 338 00:17:11,767 --> 00:17:14,467 So I was in the kitchen, and I had just 339 00:17:14,567 --> 00:17:17,166 made a pot of coffee, and he comes in. 340 00:17:17,166 --> 00:17:18,567 Morning. 341 00:17:18,667 --> 00:17:22,800 DIANNE: And he said something to me, and I didn't respond. 342 00:17:22,867 --> 00:17:24,300 I said morning, Dianne. 343 00:17:26,166 --> 00:17:26,699 DIANNE: I just didn't want to talk to him anymore that day, 344 00:17:26,699 --> 00:17:29,467 DIANNE: I just didn't want to talk to him anymore that day, 345 00:17:29,467 --> 00:17:32,166 because I was so tired of him doing this. 346 00:17:34,767 --> 00:17:36,100 When I didn't respond, 347 00:17:36,166 --> 00:17:37,367 that's when he got angry. 348 00:17:38,367 --> 00:17:41,600 He said, "Oh, so now you're gonna give me 349 00:17:41,667 --> 00:17:44,567 the silent treatment because I've been out all night." 350 00:17:45,567 --> 00:17:48,567 I said, "No, I just don't feel like talking to you." 351 00:17:49,500 --> 00:17:51,367 And he had a cup of coffee, 352 00:17:51,467 --> 00:17:53,567 and he picked it up, and I just watched him. 353 00:17:54,767 --> 00:17:56,699 He flung it at the wall. 354 00:17:56,699 --> 00:17:56,800 He flung it at the wall. 355 00:18:01,367 --> 00:18:04,367 And the coffee cup, of course, shattered. 356 00:18:04,467 --> 00:18:08,166 There was coffee all over the wall, and he said, 357 00:18:08,266 --> 00:18:13,200 "Now pick this up and clean this effin mess." 358 00:18:14,266 --> 00:18:16,900 And he said, "Because if you don't, I promise you, 359 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:18,400 I will kill you." 360 00:18:20,900 --> 00:18:24,100 And he walked out into the yard to work on the car. 361 00:18:27,567 --> 00:18:30,367 I just stood there for a while, just staring at it. 362 00:18:30,367 --> 00:18:32,867 It was the first time he threatened to kill me. 363 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:35,467 I believed his threat. 364 00:18:35,567 --> 00:18:38,166 It was the way he said it to me. 365 00:18:38,166 --> 00:18:40,467 There was almost no soul there. 366 00:18:40,467 --> 00:18:42,700 After I cleaned it up and everything, 367 00:18:42,767 --> 00:18:44,867 he walked in, he went to the kitchen, 368 00:18:44,967 --> 00:18:46,200 he looked towards the wall. 369 00:18:46,266 --> 00:18:48,000 It was all cleaned up. 370 00:18:48,066 --> 00:18:49,600 He didn't say a word to me. 371 00:18:49,667 --> 00:18:53,467 He just got some more coffee in another cup, 372 00:18:53,467 --> 00:18:55,500 and he turned around, and he walked out. 373 00:19:00,367 --> 00:19:03,100 I kept thinking in the back of my mind, 374 00:19:03,166 --> 00:19:05,567 this is not the person I met in Hawaii. 375 00:19:05,567 --> 00:19:08,867 This is not the way a marriage is supposed to be. 376 00:19:08,867 --> 00:19:10,867 But I didn't tell anybody. 377 00:19:10,867 --> 00:19:16,000 How do you sit down and tell somebody that your husband is 378 00:19:16,100 --> 00:19:18,266 threatening to kill you? 379 00:19:18,367 --> 00:19:20,066 It's really hard. 380 00:19:31,166 --> 00:19:33,000 [interviewer speaking] 381 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:46,867 DIANNE: I was traveling for three weeks, 382 00:19:46,967 --> 00:19:49,767 and Mark picked me up at the airport 383 00:19:49,867 --> 00:19:52,367 and gave me a kiss and said, "Welcome home." 384 00:19:52,367 --> 00:19:55,567 And I opened the passenger door, and there 385 00:19:55,567 --> 00:19:56,699 was a pair of white pantyhose laid out. 386 00:19:56,699 --> 00:19:59,467 was a pair of white pantyhose laid out. 387 00:20:02,100 --> 00:20:06,100 And there were some bikini underwear from a female, 388 00:20:06,166 --> 00:20:07,767 and I just stood there. 389 00:20:07,867 --> 00:20:09,900 I didn't even get into the car. 390 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:11,100 I felt paralyzed. 391 00:20:11,166 --> 00:20:13,200 I felt like I couldn't move, and the car 392 00:20:13,266 --> 00:20:15,100 door is open, and I just couldn't get in. 393 00:20:15,166 --> 00:20:17,100 Oh. [laughs] 394 00:20:17,166 --> 00:20:19,166 DIANNE: When Mark opened the door and realized what 395 00:20:19,266 --> 00:20:22,066 I was staring at in disbelief, right away, 396 00:20:22,066 --> 00:20:23,867 he said, "Oh, you caught me." 397 00:20:23,967 --> 00:20:26,500 He said, "This was supposed to be a surprise for you, 398 00:20:26,567 --> 00:20:26,699 but I didn't get to put it in a gift bag." 399 00:20:26,699 --> 00:20:28,667 but I didn't get to put it in a gift bag." 400 00:20:28,767 --> 00:20:31,800 -I, uh, forgot to wrap it up. -Stop it. 401 00:20:31,867 --> 00:20:35,266 I knew in my heart as soon as he said it, that was not true. 402 00:20:35,367 --> 00:20:36,800 I know you're lying to me. 403 00:20:37,967 --> 00:20:41,867 I said I don't believe that you got these from me. 404 00:20:41,867 --> 00:20:44,100 I just believe that you were caught with them. 405 00:20:47,867 --> 00:20:51,166 And he changed his tone of voice and said, 406 00:20:51,166 --> 00:20:54,166 "That's because you never believe me." 407 00:20:54,266 --> 00:20:55,600 Just get in. 408 00:20:57,767 --> 00:21:00,100 He said, "Don't you want to take them?" 409 00:21:00,166 --> 00:21:03,600 And I said, "No, I don't want anything to do with them." 410 00:21:03,667 --> 00:21:05,567 And he gathered it up really quickly 411 00:21:05,567 --> 00:21:07,767 and threw it in the glove compartment. 412 00:21:07,867 --> 00:21:09,700 And that was the end of that conversation. 413 00:21:10,767 --> 00:21:13,000 I remember feeling really nauseous 414 00:21:13,100 --> 00:21:16,000 and thinking, what has he been doing? 415 00:21:16,066 --> 00:21:19,467 My first thought was, "Oh, dear God, 416 00:21:19,567 --> 00:21:21,467 please don't let him have hurt somebody." 417 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,600 I could never call the police, because 418 00:21:25,667 --> 00:21:26,699 I couldn't prove he was doing anything. 419 00:21:26,699 --> 00:21:28,166 I couldn't prove he was doing anything. 420 00:21:28,266 --> 00:21:31,600 And he had threatened to kill me a number of times. 421 00:21:32,767 --> 00:21:36,166 So I told an elder of the church this. 422 00:21:36,166 --> 00:21:39,500 I said, "I don't know what to do or where to go." 423 00:21:39,567 --> 00:21:41,700 And he said, "You're gonna stay put, 424 00:21:41,767 --> 00:21:43,967 and you're going to stand by his side." 425 00:21:43,967 --> 00:21:46,300 I know this is not what you want to hear, 426 00:21:46,367 --> 00:21:48,166 but you need to see this through. 427 00:21:48,266 --> 00:21:50,467 No, you don't understand what he's like. 428 00:21:50,567 --> 00:21:54,200 DIANNE: "You're not gonna tell his parole officer, because we 429 00:21:54,266 --> 00:21:56,467 do not want Mark to go back to prison." 430 00:21:56,567 --> 00:21:56,699 He said, "Because this church isn't gonna help you 431 00:21:56,699 --> 00:21:59,700 He said, "Because this church isn't gonna help you 432 00:21:59,767 --> 00:22:01,300 if he goes back to prison." 433 00:22:01,367 --> 00:22:02,867 You're on your own. 434 00:22:04,467 --> 00:22:07,367 DIANNE: And he turned around, and he walked away, 435 00:22:07,367 --> 00:22:10,066 and I -- I was left standing there, 436 00:22:10,066 --> 00:22:13,867 dumbfounded that this pastor said this. 437 00:22:13,867 --> 00:22:16,000 I really felt betrayed, 438 00:22:16,100 --> 00:22:17,867 because this is supposed to be 439 00:22:17,867 --> 00:22:22,266 a godly man whom I look for counseling. 440 00:22:22,367 --> 00:22:24,367 And I remember looking down at the ground saying, 441 00:22:24,367 --> 00:22:25,567 "Oh, dear God, 442 00:22:25,567 --> 00:22:26,699 if he's not gonna help me, who's gonna help me?" 443 00:22:26,699 --> 00:22:27,767 if he's not gonna help me, who's gonna help me?" 444 00:22:29,166 --> 00:22:30,667 I just didn't know what to do. 445 00:22:49,700 --> 00:22:52,400 DIANNE: His behavior definitely was 446 00:22:52,467 --> 00:22:55,600 becoming unpredictable and getting worse. 447 00:22:55,667 --> 00:22:58,000 I could see the darkness growing inside of him 448 00:22:58,100 --> 00:23:00,767 little by little -- I was finding myself 449 00:23:00,867 --> 00:23:03,066 more afraid of him. 450 00:23:03,066 --> 00:23:06,121 One day, Mark answers the door, and there's a sheriff there. 451 00:23:06,121 --> 00:23:07,367 One day, Mark answers the door, and there's a sheriff there. 452 00:23:07,367 --> 00:23:10,500 He said, "I have a summons for you to go to small claims 453 00:23:10,567 --> 00:23:13,567 courts, because to check on your rent bounced." 454 00:23:13,667 --> 00:23:15,667 I'm just in a state of shock. 455 00:23:15,767 --> 00:23:17,400 I said, "Thank you," and he left, 456 00:23:21,867 --> 00:23:23,567 I got my check register out. 457 00:23:25,667 --> 00:23:29,700 We're supposed to have $130 in our account. 458 00:23:30,867 --> 00:23:32,667 It was minus over 200. 459 00:23:36,100 --> 00:23:36,121 Mark is standing there. 460 00:23:36,121 --> 00:23:37,667 Mark is standing there. 461 00:23:37,667 --> 00:23:41,000 He's not saying a word. I said to him, 462 00:23:41,100 --> 00:23:43,800 "Did you take any money out of the ATM machine?" 463 00:23:43,867 --> 00:23:47,100 And then he got very defensive with me and said, 464 00:23:47,166 --> 00:23:50,266 "I have a right to go to a bar 465 00:23:50,266 --> 00:23:54,200 after I work hard and get a Bloody Mary." 466 00:23:54,266 --> 00:23:56,967 I said, "You need to get on the phone with your mother, 467 00:23:56,967 --> 00:23:58,266 "and you really should 468 00:23:58,367 --> 00:24:00,967 "tell your mother that you need some money, and you need to tell 469 00:24:00,967 --> 00:24:02,767 your mother why." 470 00:24:02,767 --> 00:24:04,100 He got so angry. 471 00:24:04,166 --> 00:24:06,121 He was swearing, and he just yanked this antenna off the TV. 472 00:24:06,121 --> 00:24:08,700 He was swearing, and he just yanked this antenna off the TV. 473 00:24:08,767 --> 00:24:10,467 Mark, what are you doing? 474 00:24:10,467 --> 00:24:12,000 And he came at me, and he kept 475 00:24:12,066 --> 00:24:13,900 whacking me on the head with the antenna. 476 00:24:16,166 --> 00:24:19,100 I was yelling, "Stop it, stop it, you're hurting me!" 477 00:24:19,166 --> 00:24:20,900 And then he said, "F.U." 478 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,300 And he tossed the antenna. 479 00:24:26,166 --> 00:24:29,767 And I just got on my knees near the bed, 480 00:24:29,767 --> 00:24:34,767 and I was crying, and I was begging God to please help him. 481 00:24:34,767 --> 00:24:36,121 Dear Lord... 482 00:24:36,121 --> 00:24:36,467 Dear Lord... 483 00:24:36,567 --> 00:24:38,300 Please help our marriage. 484 00:24:38,367 --> 00:24:42,900 Please help him to see what he's doing is wrong. 485 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:45,166 The next thing I knew, he sat on the corner 486 00:24:45,266 --> 00:24:49,300 of the bed, and he said, "Dianne, I'm really sorry." 487 00:24:49,367 --> 00:24:50,967 I don't know what came over me. 488 00:24:50,967 --> 00:24:55,567 He said. "There's a part of me that really wants 489 00:24:55,567 --> 00:24:58,367 "to do good and be a wonderful husband to you. 490 00:24:58,467 --> 00:25:02,100 But there's another part of me that this evil takes over." 491 00:25:02,166 --> 00:25:04,900 And he said, "And I just let it take over." 492 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:06,121 I keep trying to fight it, but I can't. 493 00:25:06,121 --> 00:25:08,166 I keep trying to fight it, but I can't. 494 00:25:09,567 --> 00:25:12,567 He said that, "There's an evil in me, then 495 00:25:12,667 --> 00:25:15,467 "it chooses to come out, and I let it. 496 00:25:15,467 --> 00:25:17,066 It seems to control me." 497 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,800 He really had genuine tears, and I believed 498 00:25:20,867 --> 00:25:23,266 he was really speaking the truth from his heart. 499 00:25:25,967 --> 00:25:29,066 I took his hand, and I said, "Let's work on this together." 500 00:25:30,100 --> 00:25:31,166 And he goes, "Okay." 501 00:25:31,266 --> 00:25:33,467 He said, "I'll try to do better." 502 00:25:33,567 --> 00:25:36,121 And I think for a little while, he did, but it just -- 503 00:25:36,121 --> 00:25:37,166 And I think for a little while, he did, but it just -- 504 00:25:37,166 --> 00:25:40,767 this evil in him just kept overpowering him. 505 00:25:52,767 --> 00:25:54,667 We had the TV on, and then all 506 00:25:54,667 --> 00:25:56,967 of a sudden, there's a knocking on the door. 507 00:25:56,967 --> 00:25:59,400 Mark gets up to go answer the door, 508 00:25:59,467 --> 00:26:01,600 and two sheriffs come in the door, 509 00:26:02,867 --> 00:26:06,100 and I'm sitting there just stunned, like, oh, dear God. 510 00:26:06,166 --> 00:26:08,066 Now what? They said, 511 00:26:08,066 --> 00:26:10,900 "We have a warrant for your arrest." 512 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:15,600 And so I said, "For what?" They said, "Peeping." 513 00:26:15,667 --> 00:26:18,600 I just looked at Mark, and Mark just looked at the sheriff. 514 00:26:18,667 --> 00:26:22,066 He wouldn't look at me -- they put Mark in handcuffs, 515 00:26:22,066 --> 00:26:24,200 and he just was silent. 516 00:26:24,266 --> 00:26:28,567 He didn't argue, he didn't try to defend himself, nothing. 517 00:26:33,166 --> 00:26:36,121 The very next day, I saw him in the jail, 518 00:26:36,121 --> 00:26:36,266 The very next day, I saw him in the jail, 519 00:26:38,567 --> 00:26:41,400 and that's when the anger in me came out. 520 00:26:41,467 --> 00:26:44,300 What is wrong with you? 521 00:26:44,367 --> 00:26:47,200 And I said to him, "Is this true? 522 00:26:47,266 --> 00:26:48,700 Did you do this?" 523 00:26:48,767 --> 00:26:52,367 And he said yes, he admitted it, and I said, 524 00:26:52,467 --> 00:26:55,000 "You owe this woman an apology. 525 00:26:55,066 --> 00:26:58,667 What in heaven's name is wrong with you?" 526 00:26:58,667 --> 00:27:00,100 And he just looked at me, he says, 527 00:27:00,166 --> 00:27:02,500 "Yeah, I'm not gonna be apologizing to her." 528 00:27:05,166 --> 00:27:06,121 I wanted -- literally wanted to put my hands through the bars 529 00:27:06,121 --> 00:27:08,266 I wanted -- literally wanted to put my hands through the bars 530 00:27:08,367 --> 00:27:09,567 and -- and just 531 00:27:09,667 --> 00:27:13,166 pull his hair and beat his head against the bars, 532 00:27:13,266 --> 00:27:15,200 because I was so frustrated. 533 00:27:15,266 --> 00:27:18,200 That's when I started really seeing that Mark is gonna do 534 00:27:18,266 --> 00:27:19,467 what Mark wants to do, 535 00:27:19,567 --> 00:27:22,867 and it didn't matter who he hurt in the process. 536 00:27:24,166 --> 00:27:27,867 So I just said, "Okay, well you can sit here, I'm leaving." 537 00:27:27,867 --> 00:27:30,066 And I turned around and walked out of the jail. 538 00:27:43,567 --> 00:27:45,166 I heard through the grapevine that 539 00:27:45,266 --> 00:27:47,100 he was stalking a young girl. 540 00:27:47,166 --> 00:27:50,867 So I went to the parole officer, and I sat down, 541 00:27:50,967 --> 00:27:52,467 and I said to him, 542 00:27:52,467 --> 00:27:54,867 "Please tell me exactly what's going on." 543 00:27:54,967 --> 00:27:59,800 And he said, "Dianne, he terrorized this girl." 544 00:27:59,867 --> 00:28:03,700 He said apparently he was standing behind this girl in 545 00:28:03,767 --> 00:28:05,667 the grocery store, and she had 546 00:28:05,767 --> 00:28:06,121 to pull her license out to write a check or something. 547 00:28:06,121 --> 00:28:08,567 to pull her license out to write a check or something. 548 00:28:08,567 --> 00:28:11,567 And he noticed where she's staying at this place, 549 00:28:11,567 --> 00:28:12,700 this apartment complex. 550 00:28:12,767 --> 00:28:15,100 He was following her everywhere. 551 00:28:15,166 --> 00:28:19,166 Every time she drove in her car, he was right behind her. 552 00:28:19,166 --> 00:28:23,900 This young girl was absolutely terrified, and she finally 553 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:27,667 called the police and reported it, and I felt like this chair, 554 00:28:27,767 --> 00:28:30,800 the seat in the chair, just kept sinking deeper and deeper 555 00:28:30,867 --> 00:28:33,000 into this pit, and I couldn't get out of it. 556 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:36,121 I just wanted to run and keep running and not stop, 557 00:28:36,121 --> 00:28:37,567 I just wanted to run and keep running and not stop, 558 00:28:37,567 --> 00:28:40,967 because I kept thinking, if they don't do something with him, 559 00:28:40,967 --> 00:28:44,400 this is gonna keep being more, but it just got worse 560 00:28:44,467 --> 00:28:47,000 and worse -- it did get worse. 561 00:28:47,100 --> 00:28:48,767 MAN: Mark? 562 00:29:08,266 --> 00:29:11,367 Mark had to face a judge in court 563 00:29:11,367 --> 00:29:14,867 about the peeping and the stalking. 564 00:29:14,867 --> 00:29:17,000 The prosecuting attorney, 565 00:29:17,100 --> 00:29:20,495 He said, "Your honor, we need to throw this man in prison 566 00:29:20,495 --> 00:29:21,467 He said, "Your honor, we need to throw this man in prison 567 00:29:21,567 --> 00:29:24,500 "and throw away the key, because he's not gonna stop 568 00:29:24,567 --> 00:29:26,166 doing what he does." 569 00:29:26,266 --> 00:29:30,867 But his defense attorney wanted to have Mark go to 570 00:29:30,967 --> 00:29:34,967 an inpatient hospital slash therapy unit, 571 00:29:34,967 --> 00:29:37,166 um, to get some treatment. 572 00:29:37,166 --> 00:29:39,100 The judge agreed to do this. 573 00:29:39,166 --> 00:29:42,100 So I thought, okay, this will be good. 574 00:29:42,166 --> 00:29:44,600 Hopefully, he'll get help. 575 00:29:46,367 --> 00:29:49,767 When he got out, we went to church the first Sunday. 576 00:29:49,867 --> 00:29:50,495 The pastor welcomed him back in front of 577 00:29:50,495 --> 00:29:52,100 The pastor welcomed him back in front of 578 00:29:52,166 --> 00:29:53,800 the whole congregation. 579 00:29:53,867 --> 00:29:55,567 [speaking indistinctly] 580 00:29:55,667 --> 00:29:58,100 And he stood up and talked, and he said, you know, 581 00:29:58,166 --> 00:30:00,867 "I just want to let you know, I'm a new man. 582 00:30:00,867 --> 00:30:02,300 "I'm just a new man. 583 00:30:02,367 --> 00:30:05,066 And I rededicated my life to Christ." 584 00:30:05,066 --> 00:30:09,967 He had a really charismatic attitude, and he could sell 585 00:30:09,967 --> 00:30:11,967 the shirt off his back to you, 586 00:30:11,967 --> 00:30:14,100 that's how good he was at doing it. 587 00:30:14,166 --> 00:30:16,367 And I'm watching him, 588 00:30:16,367 --> 00:30:18,867 and I'm thinking to myself, "Oh, brother." 589 00:30:18,967 --> 00:30:20,495 So after church was done, I said to him, 590 00:30:20,495 --> 00:30:22,667 So after church was done, I said to him, 591 00:30:22,667 --> 00:30:25,667 "This is a real joke to you isn't it?" 592 00:30:25,667 --> 00:30:27,867 Is this fun for you? 593 00:30:27,967 --> 00:30:29,867 What are you talking about? 594 00:30:29,867 --> 00:30:32,000 Aren't you worried they'll find out the truth about you? 595 00:30:32,066 --> 00:30:33,100 DIANNE: When he looked at me, 596 00:30:33,166 --> 00:30:35,700 and he had such an evil expression on his face, 597 00:30:35,767 --> 00:30:38,200 I can't even begin to describe it. 598 00:30:38,266 --> 00:30:40,367 And how exactly would they find that out, Dianne? 599 00:30:42,166 --> 00:30:45,767 He says, "Well, whatever they don't know 600 00:30:45,867 --> 00:30:47,100 isn't gonna hurt them." 601 00:30:50,867 --> 00:30:53,667 So I knew right then and there I was 602 00:30:53,667 --> 00:30:56,367 truly living with a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. 603 00:31:07,667 --> 00:31:11,166 There was a part of me that didn't want to leave, 604 00:31:11,266 --> 00:31:14,400 because then it would be easier for him to do 605 00:31:14,467 --> 00:31:16,000 all that he wanted to do. 606 00:31:16,066 --> 00:31:20,495 I felt responsible as his wife to watch out, 607 00:31:20,495 --> 00:31:20,900 I felt responsible as his wife to watch out, 608 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:25,500 so hopefully that he wouldn't go and hurt another person. 609 00:31:25,567 --> 00:31:27,767 He got a job at the Sheraton Hotel, 610 00:31:28,900 --> 00:31:31,467 and he was real excited about it. 611 00:31:31,567 --> 00:31:34,500 I became nervous right away, because he had 612 00:31:34,567 --> 00:31:37,467 access to the keys in the hotel rooms. 613 00:31:39,367 --> 00:31:41,567 And then one night, I was looking for something, 614 00:31:41,667 --> 00:31:43,800 and I opened the trunk of the car, 615 00:31:43,867 --> 00:31:46,400 and here was this sock. 616 00:31:49,100 --> 00:31:50,467 I thought, what is this? 617 00:31:50,567 --> 00:31:53,867 So I picked it up and I realized immediately by holding it, 618 00:31:53,867 --> 00:31:57,300 there was a big bulge on the bottom of it, 619 00:31:57,367 --> 00:31:59,700 and then I opened it up, 620 00:31:59,767 --> 00:32:01,567 and lo and behold, 621 00:32:01,667 --> 00:32:04,100 there's all the keys to the Sheraton Hotel. 622 00:32:07,567 --> 00:32:09,600 And I thought, dear God in heaven, 623 00:32:09,667 --> 00:32:12,000 that's exactly what I was afraid of. 624 00:32:12,066 --> 00:32:13,700 I was just absolutely petrified 625 00:32:13,767 --> 00:32:17,066 and thought my instinct was correct. 626 00:32:17,066 --> 00:32:19,767 I really believe he took those keys 627 00:32:19,767 --> 00:32:20,495 so he can go into the room. 628 00:32:20,495 --> 00:32:21,567 so he can go into the room. 629 00:32:21,567 --> 00:32:24,800 If he knew a female was in that hotel room, 630 00:32:24,867 --> 00:32:26,266 then he can go in there, 631 00:32:26,266 --> 00:32:30,567 lock the door, and do whatever unspeakable things to her. 632 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,600 I didn't confront Mark about this, 633 00:32:37,667 --> 00:32:41,166 and I didn't go to the police department about it 634 00:32:41,266 --> 00:32:44,467 or tell anybody else about it, because he had threatened to 635 00:32:44,567 --> 00:32:45,967 kill me so many times. 636 00:32:45,967 --> 00:32:49,467 So I was constantly living in fear with him. 637 00:32:49,467 --> 00:32:50,495 That's why I just threw them away in a really big dumpster. 638 00:32:50,495 --> 00:32:52,867 That's why I just threw them away in a really big dumpster. 639 00:32:52,867 --> 00:32:54,800 But it turned out he did get 640 00:32:54,867 --> 00:32:58,367 fired exactly from what I was worried about. 641 00:32:58,367 --> 00:33:01,400 Mark got fired, because the hotel 642 00:33:01,467 --> 00:33:03,767 found him sneaking into a room. 643 00:33:09,767 --> 00:33:12,767 Another argument we had was about our finances. 644 00:33:12,867 --> 00:33:15,967 He took more money out of the account, and I just 645 00:33:15,967 --> 00:33:18,867 told him, "Okay, you're gonna fix this." 646 00:33:18,867 --> 00:33:20,495 I was so done with his behavior. 647 00:33:20,495 --> 00:33:22,467 I was so done with his behavior. 648 00:33:22,567 --> 00:33:24,300 Then I just turned around and started 649 00:33:24,367 --> 00:33:25,667 walking towards our bedroom, 650 00:33:25,767 --> 00:33:27,500 Wasting it on God knows what -- you're the reason 651 00:33:27,567 --> 00:33:29,367 we're in debt, so you fix it. [gasps] 652 00:33:29,367 --> 00:33:31,900 And he grabbed me by the shoulder and flung me around 653 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,500 and hit me up against the wall, 654 00:33:33,567 --> 00:33:36,567 and he just put his hands on my neck, and he just 655 00:33:36,667 --> 00:33:38,166 kept squeezing and squeezing, 656 00:33:39,500 --> 00:33:41,200 and I realized I was in trouble. 657 00:33:44,667 --> 00:33:47,166 I had both my hands on his hands pleading, 658 00:33:47,266 --> 00:33:49,166 "Stop, stop, please, please!" 659 00:33:49,166 --> 00:33:50,967 I couldn't say anything else, because he's -- 660 00:33:50,967 --> 00:33:53,400 it was getting tighter and tighter. 661 00:33:54,867 --> 00:33:57,867 I mean, I couldn't even breathe. 662 00:33:57,967 --> 00:33:59,500 He looked really scary. 663 00:33:59,567 --> 00:34:01,200 It was like 664 00:34:01,266 --> 00:34:03,967 looking into somebody's eyes that had no soul. 665 00:34:05,100 --> 00:34:07,867 He just was gone. 666 00:34:07,967 --> 00:34:10,567 I've heard it said before, 667 00:34:10,567 --> 00:34:13,266 if you've ever looked in the eyes of a murderer, 668 00:34:13,367 --> 00:34:13,788 there is no soul. 669 00:34:13,788 --> 00:34:15,500 there is no soul. 670 00:34:15,567 --> 00:34:18,100 And I never really understood that. 671 00:34:18,166 --> 00:34:22,266 And that one night, that's exactly what I saw. 672 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:27,700 I kept looking at his eyes, and there was nothing there, 673 00:34:27,767 --> 00:34:31,567 and I honestly could say I understand what that means now. 674 00:34:31,667 --> 00:34:36,166 He just looked at me, and he just let go, and I slid down, 675 00:34:36,166 --> 00:34:41,000 and he said, "Dianne, if you contact my parole officer," 676 00:34:41,100 --> 00:34:43,667 he said, "I guarantee you, I'll kill you." 677 00:34:45,300 --> 00:34:47,467 And then he turned around and he went outside. 678 00:34:51,767 --> 00:34:53,467 [whimpering] 679 00:34:53,567 --> 00:34:55,200 That was the night that I 680 00:34:55,266 --> 00:34:57,867 finally realized I can't do this anymore. 681 00:34:57,867 --> 00:35:00,700 I knew I had to do something to get out of there. 682 00:35:00,767 --> 00:35:04,300 There was a couple that was a part of our Bible study for 683 00:35:04,367 --> 00:35:08,600 years, and the husband and the wife told me both, 684 00:35:08,667 --> 00:35:11,300 they said if you have any problems with him, the wife 685 00:35:11,367 --> 00:35:13,767 said, "Call me immediately." 686 00:35:13,867 --> 00:35:19,000 So the next day, I called her, and I told her what happened, 687 00:35:19,100 --> 00:35:20,300 and she said, "Dianne, 688 00:35:20,367 --> 00:35:24,266 I will be over there as soon as I get off of work." 689 00:35:24,367 --> 00:35:28,300 We made sure he wasn't there, and we boxed a few things. 690 00:35:28,367 --> 00:35:31,400 I left him a note, and I said, "We're done." 691 00:35:34,367 --> 00:35:37,100 I was 37 when I moved to Minnesota. 692 00:35:38,667 --> 00:35:42,200 I came here in February of 1990. 693 00:35:42,266 --> 00:35:43,788 I filed for the divorce in October, 694 00:35:43,788 --> 00:35:44,467 I filed for the divorce in October, 695 00:35:44,567 --> 00:35:47,767 and it was finalized in December. 696 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:51,567 The divorce cost $35, and it 697 00:35:51,667 --> 00:35:54,000 was the best investment I've ever made. 698 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,367 Once the divorce was finalized, 699 00:35:57,467 --> 00:35:59,867 we never had any communications at all. 700 00:36:11,467 --> 00:36:13,788 I was flipping through YouTube, 701 00:36:13,788 --> 00:36:15,300 I was flipping through YouTube, 702 00:36:15,367 --> 00:36:19,000 and then I -- I flipped through this picture, and I thought, 703 00:36:19,100 --> 00:36:21,266 that looked just like Mark, and I thought it couldn't be. 704 00:36:21,266 --> 00:36:23,100 And then something told me to go back to it. 705 00:36:23,166 --> 00:36:26,667 And I looked at it, and I thought, oh, my God, it's him. 706 00:36:26,667 --> 00:36:30,567 So I clicked on it, and that's how I found out. 707 00:36:30,567 --> 00:36:33,567 We've got a minimum 708 00:36:33,667 --> 00:36:36,100 of 11 victims with your DNA, 709 00:36:37,367 --> 00:36:40,900 ranging from 11 years old to 52 years old. 710 00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:43,788 A part of me was really shocked 711 00:36:43,788 --> 00:36:44,867 A part of me was really shocked 712 00:36:44,867 --> 00:36:48,166 that he was listed as the Clearfield Rapist, 713 00:36:49,467 --> 00:36:52,400 and I was totally shocked when I heard 714 00:36:52,467 --> 00:36:56,000 that he admitted to murdering three different people. 715 00:36:58,900 --> 00:37:01,166 [interviewer speaking] 716 00:37:04,266 --> 00:37:06,500 I'm listening to this, and my eyes are as 717 00:37:06,567 --> 00:37:08,800 big as saucers, and my mouth just dropped open, 718 00:37:08,867 --> 00:37:13,767 and I just, I kept gasping for breath and thinking, 719 00:37:13,867 --> 00:37:15,300 oh, dear God. 720 00:37:15,367 --> 00:37:17,066 [interviewer speaking] 721 00:37:18,700 --> 00:37:20,400 [interviewer speaking] 722 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,467 There was a part of me that just kept saying, 723 00:37:27,567 --> 00:37:31,667 how could you ever be married to this evil, evil monster? 724 00:37:33,300 --> 00:37:37,100 And then there was a part of me who wanted to see 725 00:37:37,166 --> 00:37:40,467 these women and put my arms around them and just say, 726 00:37:40,567 --> 00:37:41,567 "I'm so sorry." 727 00:38:08,166 --> 00:38:12,867 I feel like I have waited years to hear him 728 00:38:12,867 --> 00:38:13,788 try to explain why he does what he does. 729 00:38:13,788 --> 00:38:15,500 try to explain why he does what he does. 730 00:38:15,567 --> 00:38:17,867 When we were together, 731 00:38:17,867 --> 00:38:20,066 he never mentioned anything like this to me. 732 00:38:20,066 --> 00:38:22,000 When I asked him, "Why do you do this?" 733 00:38:22,066 --> 00:38:23,767 He never said anything. 734 00:38:23,867 --> 00:38:26,667 He just shrugged his shoulders and said, "I don't know. 735 00:38:26,667 --> 00:38:27,867 I just don't know." 736 00:38:27,967 --> 00:38:32,166 So now years later, he's saying it's a hunger. 737 00:38:32,266 --> 00:38:35,367 It's a drive. It satisfies me. 738 00:38:36,567 --> 00:38:39,667 I don't understand how anybody could 739 00:38:39,667 --> 00:38:42,800 be satisfied with destroying human life. 740 00:39:03,500 --> 00:39:05,967 DIANNE: There's no sincere remorse in him. 741 00:39:05,967 --> 00:39:09,900 I want so much to see some flicker of hope in him, 742 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,967 some light in there, in his eyes. 743 00:39:12,967 --> 00:39:13,788 But I think that flicker has just fizzled out. 744 00:39:13,788 --> 00:39:17,100 But I think that flicker has just fizzled out. 745 00:39:32,467 --> 00:39:33,700 Do I want to forgive him? 746 00:39:33,767 --> 00:39:36,200 There's a part of me that says, no, 747 00:39:36,266 --> 00:39:39,367 I don't want to, because he hurt and destroyed 748 00:39:39,367 --> 00:39:40,400 too many lives. 749 00:39:40,467 --> 00:39:43,166 But there's another part of me that says, 750 00:39:43,166 --> 00:39:43,788 I'm not gonna let this monster define who I am. 751 00:39:43,788 --> 00:39:47,266 I'm not gonna let this monster define who I am. 752 00:39:47,367 --> 00:39:51,400 So I have to choose to forgive him sincerely. 753 00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:13,788 Why didn't I see this evil Mark 754 00:40:13,788 --> 00:40:16,367 Why didn't I see this evil Mark 755 00:40:16,467 --> 00:40:19,767 in Hawaii when we were dating? 756 00:40:19,867 --> 00:40:23,867 I just kept asking myself that question, why didn't I see 757 00:40:23,867 --> 00:40:25,467 some of these signs? 758 00:40:25,567 --> 00:40:28,100 I had carried so much guilt for so long. 759 00:40:28,166 --> 00:40:29,667 I should have gone to the police, 760 00:40:29,667 --> 00:40:33,100 but I really believed he was gonna kill me, and for a long 761 00:40:33,166 --> 00:40:35,967 time, I just kept seeing myself as the victim. 762 00:40:35,967 --> 00:40:37,266 And then one day, I don't know, 763 00:40:37,266 --> 00:40:39,667 I woke up, and I said, Dianne, you're not a victim. 764 00:40:39,767 --> 00:40:42,100 You are a survivor. 765 00:40:42,166 --> 00:40:43,788 Now, years later, I have made peace. 766 00:40:43,788 --> 00:40:45,266 Now, years later, I have made peace. 767 00:40:45,266 --> 00:40:48,567 But I keep going back to that one statement 768 00:40:48,567 --> 00:40:50,467 he said to me years ago, 769 00:40:50,467 --> 00:40:53,367 there's a part of me that wants to do really good. 770 00:40:53,467 --> 00:40:58,266 But there's another part of me that wants to do evil. 771 00:40:58,367 --> 00:41:01,367 That's the thing I think about all the time. 772 00:41:01,467 --> 00:41:03,367 Evil took over him. 773 00:41:03,367 --> 00:41:05,967 But he allowed it to take over him. 774 00:41:13,266 --> 00:41:13,788 There's a new show called America's Most Wanted. 775 00:41:13,788 --> 00:41:15,967 There's a new show called America's Most Wanted. 776 00:41:16,767 --> 00:41:18,166 She said, "There's a man on there, 777 00:41:18,266 --> 00:41:19,400 and he looks like your husband." 778 00:41:19,467 --> 00:41:22,667 I was more terrified than I'd ever been 779 00:41:22,667 --> 00:41:26,400 because now I knew this man was a murderer.