1 00:00:09,403 --> 00:00:11,283 - # I was tired of being upset 2 00:00:11,283 --> 00:00:13,443 # Always wanting something I never could get 3 00:00:13,443 --> 00:00:15,563 # Life's an illusion, love is a dream 4 00:00:15,563 --> 00:00:17,763 # But I don't know what it is 5 00:00:17,763 --> 00:00:23,003 # Everybody's happy nowadays 6 00:00:27,003 --> 00:00:32,243 # Everybody's happy nowadays... # 7 00:00:36,163 --> 00:00:37,283 - BELL DINGS 8 00:00:37,283 --> 00:00:39,283 Food for table three. 9 00:00:45,683 --> 00:00:47,523 - There you go, a cappuccino. 10 00:00:49,203 --> 00:00:50,683 - PHONE RINGS 11 00:00:53,003 --> 00:00:54,603 Hello? 12 00:00:54,603 --> 00:00:56,563 - # Life's an illusion, love is the dream 13 00:00:56,563 --> 00:00:58,563 # Life's the illusion, love is the dream 14 00:00:58,563 --> 00:01:01,163 # Life's the illusion, love is the dream... # 15 00:01:04,163 --> 00:01:05,403 - Stay back. 16 00:01:05,403 --> 00:01:08,243 - I went up the ladder, but he started moving around 17 00:01:08,243 --> 00:01:10,603 so we're keeping it calm and low-key. 18 00:01:10,603 --> 00:01:12,963 - Calm and low-key? It's not a hostage negotiation. 19 00:01:12,963 --> 00:01:14,723 What are his demands? 20 00:01:14,723 --> 00:01:17,403 A pizza and helicopter to Alton Towers? I'm here now. 21 00:01:17,403 --> 00:01:18,523 Fun time's over. 22 00:01:18,523 --> 00:01:19,723 - We've rung his mum and dad. 23 00:01:19,723 --> 00:01:22,123 Look, we don't want to alarm him in case he falls. 24 00:01:22,123 --> 00:01:24,443 - I've got it. Calm and low-key. 25 00:01:24,443 --> 00:01:28,603 Joe! Joe! Ground Control to Major Tom. Get down here now! 26 00:01:29,883 --> 00:01:31,803 - Not so close to the edge, Joe. 27 00:01:31,803 --> 00:01:35,083 - Hey! Joke's over, son. Now get down! 28 00:01:35,083 --> 00:01:37,883 I'm counting to three and you're coming down. One. Two... 29 00:01:40,083 --> 00:01:41,403 ..three. 30 00:01:44,283 --> 00:01:46,323 Has anybody got a big net and a bag of crisps? 31 00:01:46,323 --> 00:01:49,163 Why didn't you keep your eye on him? 32 00:01:49,163 --> 00:01:50,483 I thought it was your job. 33 00:01:50,483 --> 00:01:52,843 - I'm his Learning Support. I'm not with him every minute of the day. 34 00:01:52,843 --> 00:01:55,163 - Well, who was, then? Buzz Lightyear? Now, come on, Joe! 35 00:01:55,163 --> 00:01:56,923 That's enough! Down! Down! 36 00:01:59,643 --> 00:02:02,643 All right, call off the Swat team. Batman and Robin have arrived. 37 00:02:02,643 --> 00:02:04,803 - Mr Joe's Dad! It's Joe! 38 00:02:04,803 --> 00:02:06,563 It's Joe! He's doing a Joe! 39 00:02:06,563 --> 00:02:08,363 - I can see. Thanks, Ramesh. 40 00:02:10,243 --> 00:02:12,443 - Special needs is all well and good. 41 00:02:12,443 --> 00:02:13,803 - That's enough, Mr Elliot. 42 00:02:16,643 --> 00:02:19,883 - Well, this is a thing, little man. 43 00:02:19,883 --> 00:02:22,243 - Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. 44 00:02:22,243 --> 00:02:25,483 Written by? - Come down now, Joe. 45 00:02:25,483 --> 00:02:30,843 - Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. Written by? 46 00:02:30,843 --> 00:02:34,003 - Come down and I'll tell you. - Written by? 47 00:02:34,003 --> 00:02:37,563 - No. That's not what happens. - What happens? 48 00:02:37,563 --> 00:02:42,803 - What happens is you come down and I'll tell you. 49 00:02:45,723 --> 00:02:47,403 - Is Baby Emily here? 50 00:02:47,403 --> 00:02:49,883 - Baby Emily is waiting in the playground. 51 00:02:51,363 --> 00:02:56,803 - Everybody's Happy Nowadays. Buzzcocks. 1979. Written by? 52 00:03:24,803 --> 00:03:27,443 - Hey? How did he get hold of your ladders? 53 00:03:27,443 --> 00:03:30,003 - I were getting a football off the roof. 54 00:03:30,003 --> 00:03:32,163 Not, strictly speaking, part of my job description, 55 00:03:32,163 --> 00:03:33,323 but that's by the by. 56 00:03:33,323 --> 00:03:35,283 - You couldn't stop him? A seven-year-old? 57 00:03:35,283 --> 00:03:36,483 - I didn't see him. 58 00:03:36,483 --> 00:03:39,923 And even if I had, I couldn't've, you know, physically stopped him. 59 00:03:39,923 --> 00:03:42,843 Well, not without filling out a form in triplicate. 60 00:03:47,963 --> 00:03:49,243 Pete Shelley. 61 00:03:58,803 --> 00:04:00,123 - Well done. 62 00:04:04,043 --> 00:04:05,403 - Sorry, folks, sorry. 63 00:04:05,403 --> 00:04:07,403 - As long as he's safe and sound. 64 00:04:07,403 --> 00:04:08,963 - Yeah. Don't worry about it. 65 00:04:08,963 --> 00:04:11,083 I'm sure you'd rather he was sitting on the roof than 66 00:04:11,083 --> 00:04:14,483 hitting his head on his desk, hey? You're brilliant at handling it. 67 00:04:14,483 --> 00:04:16,203 I... I can't think how it must be for you. 68 00:04:16,203 --> 00:04:18,723 I've explained to my two that he's different so they're fine 69 00:04:18,723 --> 00:04:21,083 with it, but maybe not all the other kids are, you know? 70 00:04:21,083 --> 00:04:24,163 - Yeah, thanks, Linda, but, erm, thanks again and sorry, folks. 71 00:04:24,163 --> 00:04:25,323 We'll sort it. 72 00:04:25,323 --> 00:04:28,203 - Mr Joe's Grandad? Is Joe really in trouble? 73 00:04:28,203 --> 00:04:29,803 - I doubt it, son. 74 00:04:29,803 --> 00:04:30,923 They'll probably give him 75 00:04:30,923 --> 00:04:32,723 a government grant for performing arts. 76 00:04:39,683 --> 00:04:41,763 - Grab hold...grab hold of that. 77 00:04:41,763 --> 00:04:45,683 - Did anything happen at school today, Joe, that made you sad? 78 00:04:45,683 --> 00:04:50,923 Or upset? - Let me see now. 79 00:04:50,923 --> 00:04:55,283 - Why did you go up there, Joe? Were you missing Terry this afternoon? 80 00:04:55,283 --> 00:04:58,283 - I was missing Terry this afternoon. 81 00:04:58,283 --> 00:05:01,763 - Was it your school work? Something too hard for you? 82 00:05:01,763 --> 00:05:03,283 - Was it my school work? 83 00:05:03,283 --> 00:05:05,643 - Joe. 84 00:05:05,643 --> 00:05:08,963 - Has someone been bullying you, Joe? Cos I tell you what, 85 00:05:08,963 --> 00:05:10,963 if a lad gives you a dig, you give 'em a dig back. 86 00:05:10,963 --> 00:05:12,723 But ten times harder. - Thanks, Maurice. 87 00:05:12,723 --> 00:05:14,403 - OK. Let's try this. 88 00:05:14,403 --> 00:05:16,443 You went on the roof because... 89 00:05:17,883 --> 00:05:19,203 - Because. 90 00:05:19,203 --> 00:05:20,923 - Joe? - Because... 91 00:05:22,283 --> 00:05:23,723 - I'm autistic. 92 00:05:28,403 --> 00:05:32,763 I'm autistic. I'm autistic. I'm autistic. Nobody wants that. 93 00:05:38,843 --> 00:05:40,443 Told you it was bullying. 94 00:05:41,843 --> 00:05:43,363 - Maurice. Go and tell Louise that 95 00:05:43,363 --> 00:05:45,123 he won't be coming for his uke lesson today. 96 00:05:45,123 --> 00:05:46,643 - Can't you phone her? 97 00:05:46,643 --> 00:05:49,603 - Look, we owe her two weeks money and he needs his music for next week. 98 00:05:49,603 --> 00:05:50,643 Go on. 99 00:05:57,003 --> 00:05:58,203 - Hi. - Hiya. 100 00:05:59,363 --> 00:06:02,603 - Hello, Emily. I hope you've had a nice day with Alison. 101 00:06:02,603 --> 00:06:04,003 - It's all in the book, OK? 102 00:06:04,003 --> 00:06:05,803 - Oh, OK, quick, thank you! 103 00:06:05,803 --> 00:06:07,003 - Pleasure. 104 00:06:09,603 --> 00:06:11,483 - Now, then, young lady... 105 00:06:15,243 --> 00:06:19,043 Right, then, it's Wednesday, so it's pasta with tomato sauce, 106 00:06:19,043 --> 00:06:20,283 and banana for afters. 107 00:06:20,283 --> 00:06:21,643 - Nicola. 108 00:06:24,403 --> 00:06:25,523 - Oh, shit! 109 00:06:27,963 --> 00:06:29,763 Well, this is a surprise. 110 00:06:29,763 --> 00:06:31,603 And you know I don't like surprises. 111 00:06:32,603 --> 00:06:34,723 - Well, we came to see you! Didn't we? 112 00:06:34,723 --> 00:06:36,163 Yes, we did! 113 00:06:36,163 --> 00:06:38,643 Hasn't she grown? And a lovely smile. 114 00:06:38,643 --> 00:06:41,723 - Ye... Yeah, though I think her increasingly organised limb 115 00:06:41,723 --> 00:06:44,603 movements are more remarkable than a smile which has been around 116 00:06:44,603 --> 00:06:47,043 since she was six weeks and socially reinforced ever since. 117 00:06:49,763 --> 00:06:50,883 - Where's Eddie? 118 00:06:50,883 --> 00:06:54,803 - Eddie? Ah, what, what do you mean, where's Eddie? 119 00:06:54,803 --> 00:06:58,283 He's at work, of course. Eddie, Eddie's at work. Why? 120 00:06:59,843 --> 00:07:03,283 - We just like to see both of you together, that's all. 121 00:07:03,283 --> 00:07:04,763 Are you all right? 122 00:07:04,763 --> 00:07:09,163 - Like I said, I don't like surprises. And neither does Eddie. 123 00:07:14,803 --> 00:07:16,283 - PHONE RINGS 124 00:07:26,243 --> 00:07:31,443 - Eddie. Erm, there's a problem. You need to get here. 125 00:07:31,443 --> 00:07:32,643 Right now. 126 00:07:37,363 --> 00:07:38,403 - Joe? 127 00:07:44,443 --> 00:07:47,643 Joe. You know that word you said? Autistic? Do you remember? 128 00:07:52,283 --> 00:07:53,723 - Whole Wide World. 129 00:07:55,323 --> 00:07:57,723 - Wreckless Eric. 1977. 130 00:07:57,723 --> 00:08:00,363 You know how you find some things a bit more difficult 131 00:08:00,363 --> 00:08:01,523 than the other kids? 132 00:08:03,883 --> 00:08:06,283 - Let me see now... 133 00:08:08,603 --> 00:08:10,923 No. Hong Kong Garden. 134 00:08:10,923 --> 00:08:13,163 - Siouxsie And The Banshees. 1978. 135 00:08:13,163 --> 00:08:17,403 So today, when you went up on the roof, what did you go up there for? 136 00:08:17,403 --> 00:08:18,603 Can you remember? 137 00:08:22,723 --> 00:08:25,283 - Did somebody say something to you, Joe? 138 00:08:29,403 --> 00:08:31,163 - The Haribos. 139 00:08:31,163 --> 00:08:32,603 - What about the Haribos? 140 00:08:33,763 --> 00:08:37,323 - What about the Haribos? - You didn't find them, did you? 141 00:08:37,323 --> 00:08:41,083 - No. - Where didn't you find them? 142 00:08:42,603 --> 00:08:44,323 - Under the sink. 143 00:08:44,323 --> 00:08:46,363 - And where didn't you eat them? 144 00:08:47,443 --> 00:08:48,843 - Under my bed. 145 00:08:48,843 --> 00:08:54,443 - Right! OK. Right. 146 00:08:54,443 --> 00:08:57,043 Is it me or did he just do a number on us? 147 00:08:57,043 --> 00:08:59,883 - I thought you were going to ask him what he thinks autistic means. 148 00:08:59,883 --> 00:09:01,163 - Well, I thought you were. 149 00:09:01,163 --> 00:09:03,323 He clearly doesn't want to talk about it, does he? 150 00:09:03,323 --> 00:09:06,003 - No. Because he thinks it's bad. Or wrong. 151 00:09:06,003 --> 00:09:07,563 - No, we don't know that. 152 00:09:07,563 --> 00:09:10,243 - Well, why else would he say, "Nobody wants that"? 153 00:09:10,243 --> 00:09:12,923 - There's got to be something on the internet about this! 154 00:09:12,923 --> 00:09:15,803 - Or we could talk to actual human beings that have been through 155 00:09:15,803 --> 00:09:17,003 the same thing. 156 00:09:17,003 --> 00:09:19,163 - Please not the Parents Support Group. 157 00:09:20,203 --> 00:09:22,403 - How can you say that when you've never been? 158 00:09:22,403 --> 00:09:25,443 - Three little words. "Parents", "Support" and "Group." 159 00:09:25,443 --> 00:09:28,723 - Three more. "Narrow", "Minded" and "Twat". 160 00:09:28,723 --> 00:09:30,323 - It's like I've never been away. 161 00:09:32,643 --> 00:09:35,163 - Ah, there she is! Oh, you're back. 162 00:09:35,163 --> 00:09:38,963 - Ah, look at ya. My baby! 163 00:09:38,963 --> 00:09:40,243 - All right? 164 00:09:42,683 --> 00:09:44,083 It's James. 165 00:09:44,083 --> 00:09:45,323 Alison. 166 00:09:45,323 --> 00:09:47,083 - Oh, I think we met on Facetime once. 167 00:09:47,083 --> 00:09:48,203 - Was that Uganda? 168 00:09:48,203 --> 00:09:52,083 - You were moving around in the background in a very small towel. I don't remember the country. 169 00:09:56,043 --> 00:09:57,363 - DOOR OPENS 170 00:09:59,243 --> 00:10:00,643 - Guess who's here? 171 00:10:02,083 --> 00:10:03,123 - Shrek. 172 00:10:03,123 --> 00:10:04,363 - Not this time. 173 00:10:07,443 --> 00:10:08,723 - Hello you. 174 00:10:11,323 --> 00:10:14,043 - You went away and you came back. 175 00:10:14,043 --> 00:10:15,683 - That's right! 176 00:10:15,683 --> 00:10:17,763 - I've been back all the time. 177 00:10:17,763 --> 00:10:19,243 - That's right. 178 00:10:20,963 --> 00:10:23,003 - Something Better Change. 179 00:10:23,003 --> 00:10:26,203 - The Stranglers. 1977. 180 00:10:26,203 --> 00:10:27,403 - Correct. 181 00:10:35,723 --> 00:10:38,603 Joe won't be here today and they wanted you to have this. 182 00:10:38,603 --> 00:10:40,883 - Thank you. He's not still on the school roof, is he? 183 00:10:40,883 --> 00:10:42,203 Ralph mentioned it. 184 00:10:42,203 --> 00:10:45,123 - No. No. - Wait there. I've got next week's music for him. 185 00:10:48,923 --> 00:10:50,243 - Hiya. 186 00:10:51,563 --> 00:10:54,243 - Tricky chord change from G to F. - G to F, you're saying. G to F. 187 00:10:54,243 --> 00:10:55,323 - Yes. 188 00:10:59,083 --> 00:11:00,563 - You all right. You keeping busy? 189 00:11:00,563 --> 00:11:02,203 - Yes, thank you. 190 00:11:03,363 --> 00:11:06,123 - Just children you're teaching now, is it? No adults? No men? 191 00:11:06,123 --> 00:11:09,723 Or women? At all? 192 00:11:09,723 --> 00:11:13,603 - No. Not at the moment. But, er, thanks for the interest. 193 00:11:16,923 --> 00:11:18,443 CAR APPROACHES 194 00:11:18,443 --> 00:11:19,483 CAR HORN BLARES 195 00:11:23,483 --> 00:11:24,923 That was so close. 196 00:11:27,123 --> 00:11:28,563 So close. 197 00:11:28,563 --> 00:11:30,283 - You can give me a lift to the brewery. 198 00:11:30,283 --> 00:11:32,963 Have a look at that computer shit. You put it in wrong. 199 00:11:32,963 --> 00:11:35,203 - Dad, it's you. Not the program. 200 00:11:35,203 --> 00:11:36,843 And I can't. Nicola needs me. 201 00:11:36,843 --> 00:11:38,603 - Light bulb need changing, does it? 202 00:12:05,083 --> 00:12:10,243 - So... Uganda. That must've been quite an experience. 203 00:12:10,243 --> 00:12:16,603 - Yeah. Before that, worked on a conservation project in Zanzibar. 204 00:12:16,603 --> 00:12:20,163 - Wow. - Freeing dolphins from tuna nets. 205 00:12:20,163 --> 00:12:21,243 - Really? 206 00:12:23,883 --> 00:12:25,043 Really? 207 00:12:27,163 --> 00:12:30,403 That's fascinating. - You into conservation? 208 00:12:30,403 --> 00:12:32,803 - Yeah, yeah. I do my bit. 209 00:12:35,323 --> 00:12:38,123 I can't pass a worm on a path without putting it 210 00:12:38,123 --> 00:12:39,803 in the nearest flowerbed. 211 00:12:39,803 --> 00:12:41,123 PAUL CHUCKLES 212 00:12:59,523 --> 00:13:03,803 - Hiya, Eddie, we were wondering when you'd be back. Vincent! 213 00:13:03,803 --> 00:13:06,163 - How was the drive? - Very, very fast. 214 00:13:06,163 --> 00:13:08,163 - Just keep pretending. - I am pretending. 215 00:13:11,323 --> 00:13:13,763 Pretend you're still married? What would I do that for? 216 00:13:13,763 --> 00:13:16,323 - Because I asked? And because everyone else has agreed 217 00:13:16,323 --> 00:13:17,603 to go along with it. 218 00:13:17,603 --> 00:13:20,483 - But mainly because Nicola says so and she's got your cock in a noose. 219 00:13:20,483 --> 00:13:23,723 - She just hasn't told her mum and dad yet that we've split up and I've moved away. 220 00:13:23,723 --> 00:13:26,963 - It's been two years! We should have christened you Soft Touch and had done with it. 221 00:13:26,963 --> 00:13:28,603 - Dad, just behave yourself. 222 00:13:28,603 --> 00:13:31,963 - I'm not making any promises. Unlike you two on your wedding day. 223 00:13:36,043 --> 00:13:37,443 - Right. 224 00:13:38,523 --> 00:13:40,763 - OK, he's started using the word autistic. 225 00:13:40,763 --> 00:13:43,163 And we should have been ready for that, but we weren't. 226 00:13:43,163 --> 00:13:46,083 And worse than that, he clearly thinks it's a bad thing. 227 00:13:46,083 --> 00:13:50,083 We tried to talking to him about it, he doesn't want to, so I just, I don't really know what we do next. 228 00:13:50,083 --> 00:13:53,043 - Well, maybe try talking to each other about it first. 229 00:13:53,043 --> 00:13:54,283 - That's all we ever do. 230 00:13:54,283 --> 00:13:56,923 - No, I mean, one of you pretend to be Joe, 231 00:13:56,923 --> 00:13:59,963 and then the other explain it to Joe so Joe understands. 232 00:13:59,963 --> 00:14:01,523 - OK, like role play? - Yeah. 233 00:14:01,523 --> 00:14:04,443 - Paul. Two more beers down this end when you're ready. 234 00:14:04,443 --> 00:14:07,163 - Any chance your family could role play as paying customers? 235 00:14:07,163 --> 00:14:10,443 - Who would have thought that offal could find its way into a salad? 236 00:14:10,443 --> 00:14:11,763 - This is wonderful. 237 00:14:11,763 --> 00:14:13,883 You must know more than anybody in your line of work 238 00:14:13,883 --> 00:14:16,203 that marriages have their ups and downs, right? 239 00:14:16,203 --> 00:14:19,163 - It's a long and winding road, that's for sure. 240 00:14:19,163 --> 00:14:20,803 - Amen to that. 241 00:14:29,043 --> 00:14:32,323 - Where's Emily? There she is. 242 00:14:32,323 --> 00:14:36,483 - Always full of beans. Lining things up. Our Eddie was the same. 243 00:14:36,483 --> 00:14:39,283 'Cept in his case it was his mam's shoes, so, 244 00:14:39,283 --> 00:14:41,003 we've all got our crosses to bear. 245 00:14:41,003 --> 00:14:42,323 No offence. 246 00:14:42,323 --> 00:14:44,123 - None taken. 247 00:14:48,043 --> 00:14:49,283 - So let me get this right, 248 00:14:49,283 --> 00:14:52,003 Joe's the only one who doesn't know he's autistic? 249 00:14:52,003 --> 00:14:55,043 - It's a little bit more complicated than that. 250 00:14:55,043 --> 00:14:56,883 - So it's, like, what, a secret? 251 00:14:56,883 --> 00:14:59,203 - No, no, it's not a secret, exactly. 252 00:14:59,203 --> 00:15:01,283 - If you were keeping it a secret, 253 00:15:01,283 --> 00:15:04,163 maybe that's why he thinks it's a bad thing. 254 00:15:04,163 --> 00:15:05,523 - Told you he's smart, didn't I? 255 00:15:05,523 --> 00:15:07,603 - Way smarter than your last boyfriend. 256 00:15:07,603 --> 00:15:10,163 It's not exactly a high bar, though, James. 257 00:15:10,163 --> 00:15:13,403 - VINCENT: - You don't get to win Hanwell Lads Welterweight three times on the trot 258 00:15:13,403 --> 00:15:14,803 without some staying power. 259 00:15:14,803 --> 00:15:17,083 - MAURICE: - Oh, you boxed, did ya? I didn't know that. 260 00:15:21,003 --> 00:15:23,403 Do you like having a baby cousin, Joe? 261 00:15:26,163 --> 00:15:27,283 - Joe. 262 00:15:32,163 --> 00:15:33,683 - Do you like Baby Emily? 263 00:15:33,683 --> 00:15:36,443 I like Baby Emily. 264 00:15:36,443 --> 00:15:38,723 It's good practice for when you have a baby sister 265 00:15:38,723 --> 00:15:40,163 or brother of your own one day. 266 00:15:41,923 --> 00:15:45,283 We don't want another baby. We have enough with me. 267 00:15:48,483 --> 00:15:50,963 Oh, I see. 268 00:15:52,683 --> 00:15:55,563 Well, we like a man who speaks his mind, hey, Vincent? 269 00:15:57,323 --> 00:15:59,243 Well done, Joe! 270 00:15:57,323 --> 00:15:59,243 - THEY CLAP 271 00:16:04,323 --> 00:16:06,243 - What if James has got a point? 272 00:16:06,243 --> 00:16:07,843 - About what? 273 00:16:07,843 --> 00:16:12,483 - That, that we're cowards, for not talking to Joe about his autism. 274 00:16:12,483 --> 00:16:14,443 - Are you sure that's what he said? 275 00:16:14,443 --> 00:16:15,483 - He didn't have to. 276 00:16:16,963 --> 00:16:18,363 I think he might be right. 277 00:16:22,003 --> 00:16:23,963 - What was it Nicola said we should do again? 278 00:16:25,403 --> 00:16:28,843 - Try talking to each other the way we would talk to Joe if he could understand. 279 00:16:28,843 --> 00:16:34,123 - All right, well, you'd better start, then. I'll join in at the chorus. 280 00:16:35,923 --> 00:16:39,843 - So, Joe, you know that word you used? 281 00:16:41,443 --> 00:16:42,843 - BED SQUEAKS IN NEXT ROOM 282 00:16:44,523 --> 00:16:45,923 SQUEAKING CONTINUES 283 00:16:45,923 --> 00:16:47,443 - Is that what I think it is? 284 00:16:49,203 --> 00:16:53,403 - Yep. But I'm afraid to say it out loud. 285 00:16:55,403 --> 00:16:57,683 - We should have got her that futon she wanted. 286 00:17:05,283 --> 00:17:06,803 - SQUEAKING CONTINUES 287 00:17:12,843 --> 00:17:14,283 SQUEAKING 288 00:17:18,243 --> 00:17:20,603 AIR PUMP SQUEAKS 289 00:17:20,603 --> 00:17:22,043 She went straight off. 290 00:17:25,283 --> 00:17:26,563 Good as gold. 291 00:17:33,523 --> 00:17:37,163 This is mad. - I realise it's a difficult situation, 292 00:17:37,163 --> 00:17:40,203 but I think now the subterfuge has begun, 293 00:17:40,203 --> 00:17:43,083 it'd be even worse if we told them the truth. 294 00:17:43,083 --> 00:17:44,803 - So I have to cancel t'ai chi 295 00:17:44,803 --> 00:17:48,363 and then humiliate myself to save you from feelings of embarrassment? 296 00:17:48,363 --> 00:17:49,883 - Thank you for understanding. 297 00:17:54,683 --> 00:17:56,283 Strange, isn't it? 298 00:17:56,283 --> 00:17:58,763 You have seen me undress a thousand times 299 00:17:58,763 --> 00:18:01,883 and I have seen you undress a thousand times. 300 00:18:01,883 --> 00:18:03,403 But this feels uncomfortable 301 00:18:03,403 --> 00:18:06,963 because a previous intimacy has now been abandoned. 302 00:18:06,963 --> 00:18:08,123 - Just so we're clear. 303 00:18:08,123 --> 00:18:11,483 You saying "undress" over and over really isn't helping much. 304 00:18:11,483 --> 00:18:15,043 - You have watched me defecate whilst giving birth. 305 00:18:15,043 --> 00:18:17,803 I pretty much think we have nothing left to hide. 306 00:18:17,803 --> 00:18:20,203 - I saw you defecate. I didn't watch. 307 00:18:20,203 --> 00:18:22,363 There's a crucial difference. 308 00:18:35,563 --> 00:18:37,763 Have to give you bigger portions next time. 309 00:18:38,923 --> 00:18:40,163 At the gastropub. 310 00:18:41,803 --> 00:18:43,323 Still got an appetite? 311 00:18:43,323 --> 00:18:45,043 For food. I meant. 312 00:18:45,043 --> 00:18:47,003 - No, just, erm, just thirsty. 313 00:18:48,363 --> 00:18:49,723 - I'll bet. - Hm? 314 00:18:49,723 --> 00:18:51,043 - Help yourself. 315 00:18:52,843 --> 00:18:55,003 - You don't have, erm, any energy drinks 316 00:18:55,003 --> 00:18:57,803 or anything like that, do you? - No energy drinks, no. 317 00:18:57,803 --> 00:18:59,683 Plenty of milk, though. 318 00:18:59,683 --> 00:19:01,483 Make yourself a Horlicks, if you like. 319 00:19:01,483 --> 00:19:04,083 Although you might want to put some clothes on before you do. 320 00:19:04,083 --> 00:19:06,963 Hot milk and bell ends are an accident waiting to happen. 321 00:19:31,403 --> 00:19:32,923 HE BREATHES HARD 322 00:19:37,363 --> 00:19:41,563 - Anyone I know? What are you doing? It's two o'clock in the morning. 323 00:19:41,563 --> 00:19:42,723 - Nervous tension. 324 00:19:45,483 --> 00:19:50,443 He's got a tattoo with Becky's name on it. - Is it spelt right? 325 00:20:07,683 --> 00:20:09,923 - Don't think he's got much of a sense of humour. 326 00:20:09,923 --> 00:20:12,123 - Cos he doesn't laugh at your jokes? 327 00:20:12,123 --> 00:20:14,643 - No further questions, your honour. 328 00:20:14,643 --> 00:20:15,923 SHE LAUGHS 329 00:20:31,083 --> 00:20:33,803 - Sorry. You don't mind, do you? 330 00:20:33,803 --> 00:20:37,043 - No. Of Course not. Course not. 331 00:20:49,483 --> 00:20:50,643 - Are you awake? 332 00:20:51,723 --> 00:20:52,923 - Yeah. 333 00:20:57,563 --> 00:20:59,843 When you said "autistic", Joe, 334 00:20:59,843 --> 00:21:02,363 what do you think that word means? 335 00:21:04,123 --> 00:21:06,643 - What do you think it means? 336 00:21:06,643 --> 00:21:09,523 - Come on, Paul. Stop dicking around. - I'm not. 337 00:21:09,523 --> 00:21:12,363 I'm not, because that is what he's going to say, isn't it? 338 00:21:12,363 --> 00:21:14,763 Because he doesn't know what it means. - OK. 339 00:21:14,763 --> 00:21:16,043 - Neither does anybody. 340 00:21:16,043 --> 00:21:18,283 - OK. I'm sorry. Fair enough. Fair enough. 341 00:21:20,763 --> 00:21:24,083 Can you just, say what, what you think he might say. 342 00:21:30,923 --> 00:21:32,043 - Er... 343 00:21:35,003 --> 00:21:36,443 I don't know what it means. 344 00:21:38,163 --> 00:21:40,403 But people keep using it about me. 345 00:21:40,403 --> 00:21:47,363 So I think it's got something to do with me and it might mean 346 00:21:47,363 --> 00:21:50,003 that I don't play football like the other boys... 347 00:21:52,683 --> 00:21:56,323 ..and I go and play my music any time I can, 348 00:21:56,323 --> 00:21:59,923 and I like remembering songs and...and bands. 349 00:22:04,003 --> 00:22:07,243 And sometimes you get annoyed with me 350 00:22:07,243 --> 00:22:11,323 and you talk through your teeth and you say "I'm fine" - 351 00:22:11,323 --> 00:22:13,643 and that's how I know that you're annoyed with me. 352 00:22:17,523 --> 00:22:19,003 And you love me. 353 00:22:19,003 --> 00:22:21,323 And you think I'm the best boy in the world. 354 00:22:25,843 --> 00:22:27,203 And it's just a word. 355 00:22:31,483 --> 00:22:34,203 It's just a word and I'm going to have to get used to it. 356 00:22:38,883 --> 00:22:41,163 - Is there anything that you want to ask me now? 357 00:22:43,283 --> 00:22:46,483 - What do you think it means? Me being autistic. 358 00:22:46,483 --> 00:22:48,083 - He'd never ask that. 359 00:22:48,083 --> 00:22:49,163 - No, I know. 360 00:22:53,043 --> 00:22:57,683 What do you see when you see me, huh? Mum? 361 00:23:03,323 --> 00:23:05,003 - I see a puzzle that I love. 362 00:23:07,163 --> 00:23:09,683 A boy I thought was one thing and turned out to be another. 363 00:23:13,563 --> 00:23:16,643 And I see a boy that sometimes has difficulties 364 00:23:16,643 --> 00:23:18,683 making himself understood. 365 00:23:20,883 --> 00:23:22,963 Half in and half out of the world. 366 00:23:25,723 --> 00:23:28,363 We all have secrets and... 367 00:23:28,363 --> 00:23:31,843 and hidden feelings, but yours are buried deeper, maybe. 368 00:23:35,083 --> 00:23:37,803 And I see a boy who we might look after all our lives. 369 00:23:40,563 --> 00:23:44,403 A boy that's loved, but might never find love with anybody else. 370 00:23:44,403 --> 00:23:46,723 And that's... Sometimes that's hard for your mum and dad. 371 00:23:48,603 --> 00:23:52,043 And maybe sometimes that makes it hard for you because... 372 00:23:52,043 --> 00:23:53,923 sometimes you can see that in us... 373 00:23:56,283 --> 00:23:57,403 ..the panic. 374 00:24:09,203 --> 00:24:11,283 - MUSIC: Brassneck by The Wedding Present 375 00:24:20,283 --> 00:24:21,923 # No, I sent you that letter 376 00:24:21,923 --> 00:24:24,923 # To ask you if the end was worth the means 377 00:24:24,923 --> 00:24:27,523 # Was there really no in-between? 378 00:24:30,603 --> 00:24:32,163 # And I still don't feel better 379 00:24:32,163 --> 00:24:35,563 # I just wondered if it could be like before 380 00:24:35,563 --> 00:24:38,243 # And I think you just made me sure 381 00:24:39,563 --> 00:24:41,043 # But that's typically you 382 00:24:41,043 --> 00:24:43,523 # And I might have been a bit rude 383 00:24:43,523 --> 00:24:46,243 # But I wrote it in a bad mood 384 00:24:49,363 --> 00:24:51,723 # I'm not being funny with you 385 00:24:51,723 --> 00:24:53,643 - # But it's hard to be engaging 386 00:24:53,643 --> 00:24:56,163 # When the things you love keep changing 387 00:25:02,403 --> 00:25:03,723 # Brassneck! 388 00:25:07,563 --> 00:25:08,923 # Brassneck! 389 00:25:10,723 --> 00:25:14,603 # I just decided I don't trust you any more 390 00:25:14,603 --> 00:25:18,803 # I just decided I don't trust you any more... # 391 00:25:20,803 --> 00:25:22,563 - Vardy. Leicester City. 392 00:25:26,603 --> 00:25:29,043 - Vardy. Leicester City. 393 00:25:29,043 --> 00:25:31,923 - Rashford. Manchester United. 394 00:25:33,883 --> 00:25:37,603 - Rashford. Manchester United. 395 00:25:38,923 --> 00:25:40,683 - Who's your favourite player? 396 00:25:43,803 --> 00:25:46,923 - Sorry to interrupt, guys, I just need to get to the kettle. 397 00:25:46,923 --> 00:25:48,843 - Sorry. - What do you think, Joe? 398 00:25:48,843 --> 00:25:51,003 - Manchester United. 399 00:25:51,003 --> 00:25:53,283 - No, no, no, no, no. That's your favourite team. 400 00:25:53,283 --> 00:25:56,003 Marcus Rashford is your favourite player. 401 00:25:56,003 --> 00:25:59,323 Right, go and get your stuff and I'll test you again on the way. 402 00:26:00,603 --> 00:26:04,203 You said it. Last night. The panic he feels in us. 403 00:26:04,203 --> 00:26:06,323 He worries that he doesn't fit in. 404 00:26:06,323 --> 00:26:08,283 And this might be a way that he can. 405 00:26:09,323 --> 00:26:11,203 - He doesn't like football. 406 00:26:11,203 --> 00:26:14,603 - It doesn't matter. Football cards. Dates. Stats. 407 00:26:14,603 --> 00:26:15,803 It plays to his strengths. 408 00:26:15,803 --> 00:26:17,523 It's all the other lads talk about. 409 00:26:17,523 --> 00:26:19,443 It's got to be worth a try, hasn't it? 410 00:26:19,443 --> 00:26:21,723 - I thought we were trying to work out how to talk to him. 411 00:26:21,723 --> 00:26:24,763 - We are. And we will. But this is something we can do right now. 412 00:26:28,363 --> 00:26:29,683 Arms up! 413 00:26:31,163 --> 00:26:32,363 Favourite player? 414 00:26:33,723 --> 00:26:34,923 - Marcus Rashford. 415 00:26:39,043 --> 00:26:41,563 - Stewed apple for pudding. No more sweet things. 416 00:26:41,563 --> 00:26:42,883 - Her or me? 417 00:26:42,883 --> 00:26:44,243 - Both! 418 00:26:44,243 --> 00:26:49,923 According to my thermometer, Emily should be having her breakfast. 419 00:26:52,203 --> 00:26:53,563 This is ridiculous. 420 00:26:53,563 --> 00:26:55,523 - Really? I think it suits you. 421 00:26:55,523 --> 00:26:57,003 - We are adults. 422 00:26:57,003 --> 00:26:59,323 And I know your reasons for lying to your mum and dad... 423 00:26:59,323 --> 00:27:00,883 - For not telling them the truth. 424 00:27:00,883 --> 00:27:02,803 - Shall we just settle on misleading? 425 00:27:02,803 --> 00:27:04,163 - Go on. 426 00:27:04,163 --> 00:27:06,763 - Well, whatever your reasons, we can't go on like this. 427 00:27:06,763 --> 00:27:09,203 Not least because this one will soon be able to talk 428 00:27:09,203 --> 00:27:12,163 and when she does, she might just mention the fact that Mummy 429 00:27:12,163 --> 00:27:15,923 and Daddy live in separate houses - in separate cities. 430 00:27:15,923 --> 00:27:18,163 - She might be a late talker. 431 00:27:18,163 --> 00:27:21,763 - We sit down and we tell them. Now. Agreed? 432 00:27:26,283 --> 00:27:29,483 - Your mother and I. We have some news for you. 433 00:27:31,203 --> 00:27:33,883 - Typical. - How did you guess? 434 00:27:35,283 --> 00:27:38,723 - Guess what? - You both smiled as though you'd guessed. 435 00:27:38,723 --> 00:27:39,843 - What's the news? 436 00:27:39,843 --> 00:27:42,323 - You tell us. You've clearly guessed. 437 00:27:42,323 --> 00:27:43,603 - Nobody's guessed. 438 00:27:43,603 --> 00:27:46,243 The reason that Nicola was 439 00:27:46,243 --> 00:27:50,363 looking at you like that is that we have some news of our own. 440 00:27:50,363 --> 00:27:52,963 - We're splitting up. - A trial separation. 441 00:27:52,963 --> 00:27:54,963 - It's permanent. - It's mutual. 442 00:27:54,963 --> 00:27:56,483 - I'm leaving him. 443 00:27:56,483 --> 00:27:58,243 - There's nobody else. 444 00:27:58,243 --> 00:27:59,843 - He had an affair. 445 00:28:01,563 --> 00:28:03,043 - It's amicable. - I hate him. 446 00:28:06,803 --> 00:28:09,843 - Right. Favourite player. 447 00:28:11,883 --> 00:28:13,083 - Marcus Rashford. 448 00:28:13,083 --> 00:28:14,443 - Who does he play for? 449 00:28:14,443 --> 00:28:15,803 - Manchester United. 450 00:28:15,803 --> 00:28:17,403 - Brilliant. Brilliant. 451 00:28:17,403 --> 00:28:21,403 So if any of the lads ask about football, that's what you say. 452 00:28:21,403 --> 00:28:23,643 All right? Top lad? 453 00:28:23,643 --> 00:28:26,563 - Top lad. Hair set to handsome. 454 00:28:26,563 --> 00:28:28,483 - Hair set to handsome. 455 00:28:28,483 --> 00:28:30,163 BELL RINGS 456 00:28:30,163 --> 00:28:31,523 Off you go, mucker. 457 00:28:56,123 --> 00:28:58,483 IN POLISH: 458 00:29:08,523 --> 00:29:10,723 - I can see that Vincent might be a bit of a handful, 459 00:29:10,723 --> 00:29:13,003 but it's a big decision to make at their age. 460 00:29:13,003 --> 00:29:14,803 - Certainly surprising. 461 00:29:14,803 --> 00:29:16,163 Has somebody thrown this? 462 00:29:17,883 --> 00:29:20,523 - Big decision to make at any age come to that. 463 00:29:20,523 --> 00:29:21,843 - Indeed. 464 00:29:21,843 --> 00:29:25,163 Which is why I appreciate you being supportive of my indecision over the years. 465 00:29:25,163 --> 00:29:26,643 - Is that's what you call it? 466 00:29:26,643 --> 00:29:28,683 You two have had more reunions than Take That. 467 00:29:28,683 --> 00:29:30,443 - No more. - Then why lie to her mam and dad? 468 00:29:30,443 --> 00:29:33,683 - Because last time she told them, they gave her so much grief. 469 00:29:33,683 --> 00:29:35,403 - Wake up and smell the laundry. 470 00:29:35,403 --> 00:29:38,283 Nicola doesn't want to admit to herself that it's over. 471 00:29:38,283 --> 00:29:40,323 - Dad, I have a new life in Manchester. 472 00:29:40,323 --> 00:29:42,123 - New, maybe. I doubt it's a life. 473 00:29:44,323 --> 00:29:46,243 Hello, Ralph. How you doing? 474 00:29:46,243 --> 00:29:48,163 - Is that job still going? 475 00:29:48,163 --> 00:29:50,123 - Brewery Assistant? Yeah. 476 00:29:50,123 --> 00:29:51,283 - Can I apply? 477 00:29:52,603 --> 00:29:56,443 - 'Course you can. 'Course you can. I'll get you the application form. 478 00:30:00,563 --> 00:30:02,323 - No need to look so nervous. 479 00:30:02,323 --> 00:30:04,883 - Don't worry, Ralph. He makes me nervous, too. 480 00:30:04,883 --> 00:30:06,643 - Don't tell my mum about this. 481 00:30:06,643 --> 00:30:09,323 - Fat chance of me having a conversation with your mum. 482 00:30:09,323 --> 00:30:12,643 All right. I won't do, not if you don't want me to. 483 00:30:12,643 --> 00:30:16,683 Has she said she don't want you working with me? 484 00:30:16,683 --> 00:30:19,043 Has she said she's got a problem with me, like? 485 00:30:19,043 --> 00:30:21,163 - No. But she's not good with change. 486 00:30:26,923 --> 00:30:29,283 - What? - "Has your mum said anything about me? 487 00:30:29,283 --> 00:30:31,443 "Does she ever talk about me at all?" 488 00:30:31,443 --> 00:30:32,763 # I want you back 489 00:30:32,763 --> 00:30:34,723 # I want you back... # - Oh, give over. 490 00:30:34,723 --> 00:30:36,483 I was looking after Ralph. 491 00:30:36,483 --> 00:30:40,443 - "Perhaps you just don't want to admit to yourself that it's over." 492 00:30:48,003 --> 00:30:51,563 First one to tell me the first sound they heard this morning? 493 00:30:52,843 --> 00:30:54,563 Maisie? - A bird singing. 494 00:30:54,563 --> 00:30:57,123 - Very good. Maisie's table can go. 495 00:30:58,643 --> 00:31:02,483 - What sound did you hear this morning, Joe? Can you remember? 496 00:31:05,923 --> 00:31:07,163 - Ramesh? 497 00:31:07,163 --> 00:31:10,243 - A car. Probably diesel because of the sound of the engine. 498 00:31:10,243 --> 00:31:12,243 - Very good. Ramesh's table can go. 499 00:31:13,483 --> 00:31:14,563 Joe? 500 00:31:17,363 --> 00:31:20,163 - What sound did you hear, Joe? Can you remember? 501 00:31:20,163 --> 00:31:23,003 - What did you hear, Joe? Just tell Miss! Tell her. 502 00:31:24,803 --> 00:31:26,323 - Can you think of anything? 503 00:31:29,923 --> 00:31:31,323 - Miss! Miss! 504 00:31:32,803 --> 00:31:34,723 - Was it a lamb bleating, Joe? 505 00:31:34,723 --> 00:31:39,203 - "Bleating". Good word, Ella. Joe's table can go. 506 00:32:00,243 --> 00:32:05,443 - I've got Theo Walcott, Robert Snodgrass and John O'Shea. 507 00:32:05,443 --> 00:32:07,763 - John O'Shea? Have you got Peter Crouch? 508 00:32:07,763 --> 00:32:10,563 - Yeah. My dad says he's just a beanpole. 509 00:32:10,563 --> 00:32:14,683 Joe. Joe. What've you got? Hey? 510 00:32:20,003 --> 00:32:21,643 Got any swaps? 511 00:32:21,643 --> 00:32:23,323 - Let me see now. 512 00:32:26,203 --> 00:32:27,403 I don't think so. 513 00:32:28,963 --> 00:32:31,243 - Who's your favourite player? 514 00:32:31,243 --> 00:32:33,683 - Is it Aguero? Sterling? 515 00:32:33,683 --> 00:32:35,323 - Who's your favourite player, Joe? 516 00:32:35,323 --> 00:32:38,003 - Who does he play for? Chelsea? Or Spurs. 517 00:32:38,003 --> 00:32:39,923 You've got to have a favourite. 518 00:32:41,723 --> 00:32:43,203 - Marty. 519 00:32:43,203 --> 00:32:46,203 Marty the Zebra. Madagascar. 520 00:32:49,243 --> 00:32:50,363 - Eden Hazard. 521 00:32:50,363 --> 00:32:51,883 - I gave you that yesterday. - Didn't. 522 00:32:51,883 --> 00:32:54,523 Anyway, Harry Kane is better... 523 00:32:55,643 --> 00:32:58,203 - # There she goes 524 00:32:58,203 --> 00:33:02,243 # There she goes again 525 00:33:02,243 --> 00:33:07,203 # Racing through my brain 526 00:33:07,203 --> 00:33:10,123 # And I just can't complain 527 00:33:10,123 --> 00:33:14,723 # This feeling that remains 528 00:33:16,963 --> 00:33:20,163 - # There she goes 529 00:33:20,163 --> 00:33:23,323 # There she goes again 530 00:33:24,923 --> 00:33:28,403 # Pulsing through my vein... # 531 00:33:30,283 --> 00:33:32,603 Oi! Why can't you keep an eye on your ladders? 532 00:33:32,603 --> 00:33:36,163 - Don't blame me cos you can't control your own kid. - What? What did you say? 533 00:33:36,163 --> 00:33:37,843 - Paul! 534 00:33:37,843 --> 00:33:41,483 - I think you and I need a word. - What were you thinking! - Joe's dad has every right to be angry. 535 00:33:41,483 --> 00:33:43,443 - Oh, God, are you all right? 536 00:33:43,443 --> 00:33:45,923 Did you touch any moss up there? Or leaves? 537 00:33:45,923 --> 00:33:47,403 - I'm so sorry, Sarah. 538 00:33:47,403 --> 00:33:49,163 - He's never been good with heights. 539 00:33:49,163 --> 00:33:51,643 - I don't know how they let Joe get up there again. 540 00:33:51,643 --> 00:33:54,323 - I dare say he'll need an anti-histamine what with all 541 00:33:54,323 --> 00:33:57,963 the excitement and dust, of course, but that's not your concern. 542 00:33:57,963 --> 00:33:59,963 - Ah, you're all right, aren't you, Bill? 543 00:33:59,963 --> 00:34:01,963 You're tough as old boots, eh! 544 00:34:01,963 --> 00:34:05,243 - I know you mean well, Alison. He could've fallen. 545 00:34:05,243 --> 00:34:07,483 And hit his head. They both could. 546 00:34:07,483 --> 00:34:11,643 And I don't know how to say this, cos Joe is a lovely boy, but... 547 00:34:11,643 --> 00:34:14,043 - But what? - When things like this happen, 548 00:34:14,043 --> 00:34:16,403 it's always Joe that they happen to, isn't it? Really? 549 00:34:16,403 --> 00:34:18,403 - I see. I didn't know you felt like that. 550 00:34:18,403 --> 00:34:20,643 - No other parent would be different. Sorry. 551 00:34:34,483 --> 00:34:38,323 - I know it's good up here, mate, but this has got to stop. 552 00:34:42,643 --> 00:34:46,963 - Marcus Rashford, Manchester United. 553 00:34:58,283 --> 00:35:00,963 - I can only apologise that this has been allowed to happen again. 554 00:35:00,963 --> 00:35:04,563 - Well, at least Joe had a mate up there with him this time, 555 00:35:04,563 --> 00:35:06,123 it's kind of progress, isn't it? 556 00:35:06,123 --> 00:35:07,683 - I know we like to see the light side, 557 00:35:07,683 --> 00:35:10,483 but he did set his mind on getting up there again and found a way. 558 00:35:10,483 --> 00:35:12,963 I worry what he might do next. - Hang on. 559 00:35:12,963 --> 00:35:15,563 He isn't the only kid to have had an odd bad day. 560 00:35:15,563 --> 00:35:20,123 - Well, his bad days used to be once a term, then once a week, but now they're every other day. 561 00:35:20,123 --> 00:35:22,003 I do think that some of the children get upset 562 00:35:22,003 --> 00:35:25,003 by some of Joe's behaviour, so that doesn't help him integrate. 563 00:35:25,003 --> 00:35:26,963 - The children have told you that, have they? 564 00:35:26,963 --> 00:35:29,043 - We've had feedback from some of the parents. 565 00:35:29,043 --> 00:35:30,963 - I think I can guess which ones. 566 00:35:30,963 --> 00:35:34,323 - We love Joe, we can handle Joe. The question 567 00:35:34,323 --> 00:35:37,083 is whether Joe can handle this school any more. 568 00:35:37,083 --> 00:35:38,883 - I'll come in and talk to the parents. 569 00:35:38,883 --> 00:35:42,603 Reassure them that there's nothing to worry about. Paul and I are happy to do that. 570 00:35:42,603 --> 00:35:43,923 - Yeah... 571 00:35:50,163 --> 00:35:51,723 What are we going to say to the parents? 572 00:35:51,723 --> 00:35:52,923 - I haven't a clue. 573 00:35:52,923 --> 00:35:55,643 Which is why we're going to talk to people at the support group. 574 00:35:55,643 --> 00:35:57,803 - I don't know if I can get cover tonight. 575 00:35:57,803 --> 00:36:01,523 - Come on. They're just people in the same boat as us. 576 00:36:01,523 --> 00:36:03,163 People that've been through it. 577 00:36:03,163 --> 00:36:05,483 - And not a Fred Perry T-shirt between them. 578 00:36:05,483 --> 00:36:06,643 - What? 579 00:36:06,643 --> 00:36:08,763 - It's all a bit hand-knitted and cords. 580 00:36:08,763 --> 00:36:11,923 - Are you serious? - I'm sorry, it... it's the group thing. I... 581 00:36:11,923 --> 00:36:14,643 - Right, but you're perfectly happy to go to Old Trafford 582 00:36:14,643 --> 00:36:17,523 with 65,000 strangers and chant inanely for two hours. 583 00:36:17,523 --> 00:36:19,603 I'll see you there. 7.30. 584 00:36:31,843 --> 00:36:33,643 - It doesn't make any sense. 585 00:36:34,723 --> 00:36:37,923 I just don't see the point of you separating at this stage of your lives. 586 00:36:37,923 --> 00:36:40,603 - Because we're so close to death, you mean. 587 00:36:40,603 --> 00:36:41,883 - Partly, yeah. 588 00:36:41,883 --> 00:36:42,923 - CRUNCHING 589 00:36:44,563 --> 00:36:47,923 - We should've broken up years ago, He's always been the same. 590 00:36:47,923 --> 00:36:49,883 So it serves me right, really. 591 00:36:49,883 --> 00:36:51,563 And, then, in the end is it better to 592 00:36:51,563 --> 00:36:55,083 struggle on in a relationship or struggle on outside a relationship? 593 00:36:55,083 --> 00:36:56,843 In the end, it's all a struggle. 594 00:36:56,843 --> 00:36:59,163 Well, you know better than anyone. 595 00:36:59,163 --> 00:37:03,083 - Me? Is that why you made me cake? 596 00:37:03,083 --> 00:37:05,603 So you can tell me you think I'm struggling? 597 00:37:05,603 --> 00:37:09,723 - I know it. And you hide it. Like I hide it. 598 00:37:10,803 --> 00:37:12,403 - To be fair, I knew, too. 599 00:37:13,523 --> 00:37:15,123 Sorry. Sorry. 600 00:37:15,123 --> 00:37:17,083 Welcome. Welcome, one and all. 601 00:37:17,083 --> 00:37:18,443 - Did you follow me? 602 00:37:18,443 --> 00:37:21,403 - I just wanted to tell my daughter that I don't want this. 603 00:37:21,403 --> 00:37:26,163 - You should have thought of that before you slept with half the congregation. - Oh, Mum, please! 604 00:37:26,163 --> 00:37:27,603 - What? - This explains so much. 605 00:37:27,603 --> 00:37:29,643 - And I want a word with you, Dr Graves. 606 00:37:29,643 --> 00:37:33,043 Why are you pushing my daughter all hours when she has a baby at home? 607 00:37:33,043 --> 00:37:36,203 - Don't blame me. I have tried to challenge her dedication at every juncture, 608 00:37:36,203 --> 00:37:38,483 but it's almost as if she enjoys the job. 609 00:37:42,603 --> 00:37:45,883 - Tomorrow? - We said a few days. It's been a few days. 610 00:37:45,883 --> 00:37:48,523 - Two days. Why are you so keen to get away? 611 00:37:48,523 --> 00:37:52,803 - Look at it. And it smells of animals and rain. 612 00:37:52,803 --> 00:37:54,243 - So did most of Africa. 613 00:37:54,243 --> 00:37:57,763 - Africa had heat, had mystery. 614 00:37:57,763 --> 00:38:00,883 - There's a nightclub in Keswick that's pretty mysterious. 615 00:38:00,883 --> 00:38:04,563 - Look, all I want is for us to get back to what it was like 616 00:38:04,563 --> 00:38:05,843 when it was just us. 617 00:38:05,843 --> 00:38:07,203 You know? 618 00:38:10,883 --> 00:38:14,243 - It was lovely. It is lovely. 619 00:38:14,243 --> 00:38:17,323 But, well, I've not seen any of my school mates yet 620 00:38:17,323 --> 00:38:19,323 and I've hardly spent any time with Joe. 621 00:38:19,323 --> 00:38:21,283 - Joe won't mind. Will you, Joe? 622 00:38:25,323 --> 00:38:26,723 See. He doesn't mind. 623 00:38:26,723 --> 00:38:27,923 - Don't do that. - Do what? 624 00:38:27,923 --> 00:38:29,283 - You were making fun of him. 625 00:38:29,283 --> 00:38:30,363 - No, I wasn't. 626 00:38:30,363 --> 00:38:31,963 - It felt like you were. 627 00:38:31,963 --> 00:38:33,083 - Well, I wasn't. 628 00:38:34,483 --> 00:38:36,963 - Not the good suitcase. Haven't you put me through enough? 629 00:38:36,963 --> 00:38:39,443 - After 30 years of marriage, I think at least I deserve that! 630 00:38:39,443 --> 00:38:40,483 - Mum! 631 00:38:42,923 --> 00:38:44,203 Look after yourself. 632 00:38:46,283 --> 00:38:47,323 - You too. 633 00:38:49,203 --> 00:38:50,803 Your dad's a liar. 634 00:38:50,803 --> 00:38:52,283 He can't help it. 635 00:38:52,283 --> 00:38:53,643 - I know. 636 00:39:06,963 --> 00:39:10,403 - So, do you want me to order you your own taxi, Vincent? 637 00:39:10,403 --> 00:39:12,723 Or have you already arranged that? 638 00:39:12,723 --> 00:39:15,763 - No. No. I feel I should stay here for a few days. 639 00:39:15,763 --> 00:39:19,043 - What? - Sorry, Dad. That's not convenient. 640 00:39:19,043 --> 00:39:21,763 - Why? Because you and Eddie will have to pretend 641 00:39:21,763 --> 00:39:24,843 you're still together until I'm gone. Is that what's bothering you? 642 00:39:24,843 --> 00:39:26,683 I'm not stupid, Nicola. 643 00:39:46,483 --> 00:39:48,163 - Thanks for this, Alison. 644 00:39:48,163 --> 00:39:51,683 My brain just goes to mush when I have to fill in a form. 645 00:39:51,683 --> 00:39:53,163 - No problem. I actually enjoy it. 646 00:39:53,163 --> 00:39:55,643 I was that girl at school that used to colour code her notes. 647 00:39:55,643 --> 00:39:59,923 - Really? I'd never have guessed. Bet you ironed your pants as well. 648 00:40:02,003 --> 00:40:05,043 I need to talk to Alison. You sit here with Jan. 649 00:40:05,043 --> 00:40:07,403 We have tea and biscuits. We go home on the bus. 650 00:40:07,403 --> 00:40:10,683 - You need to talk to Alison. I sit here with Jan. 651 00:40:10,683 --> 00:40:13,163 We have tea and biscuits. We go home on the bus. 652 00:40:13,163 --> 00:40:15,243 - Yep. Correct. All right? 653 00:40:15,243 --> 00:40:16,403 - It's all right. 654 00:40:17,643 --> 00:40:18,683 - OK? 655 00:40:18,683 --> 00:40:20,243 - Yeah, yeah. He'll be fine now. 656 00:40:20,243 --> 00:40:21,723 - Cool, OK, so... 657 00:40:21,723 --> 00:40:23,883 this one is all done, this one is all done... 658 00:40:30,923 --> 00:40:33,443 - You know, when I first told our Mark he was autistic, 659 00:40:33,443 --> 00:40:34,563 he was relieved. 660 00:40:34,563 --> 00:40:37,163 He said he thought he didn't have any mates at school 661 00:40:37,163 --> 00:40:38,363 because he was ugly. 662 00:40:38,363 --> 00:40:42,043 - Oh, God. - When I told the other parents, they ran a mile. 663 00:40:42,043 --> 00:40:43,723 Now, they were ugly. 664 00:40:43,723 --> 00:40:46,643 - So, do you think I shouldn't bother talking to the parents? 665 00:40:46,643 --> 00:40:48,723 - I'm just not sure it's where you should be 666 00:40:48,723 --> 00:40:50,443 putting your energies right now. 667 00:40:50,443 --> 00:40:51,723 - It's only if it helps Joe. 668 00:40:51,723 --> 00:40:54,283 - If it helps Joe? And how's that working out? 669 00:40:54,283 --> 00:40:56,683 Cos it doesn't seem to me like the behaviour of a kid 670 00:40:56,683 --> 00:40:58,763 who's happy to be at the school he's at. 671 00:41:00,283 --> 00:41:03,283 - We always said that he would go mainstream and local. 672 00:41:04,283 --> 00:41:06,523 I mean we're... We're doing all this to get your Mark 673 00:41:06,523 --> 00:41:07,843 back into mainstream. 674 00:41:07,843 --> 00:41:11,403 - Because that's what Mark wants. It's what he tells us he wants. 675 00:41:12,403 --> 00:41:15,203 And he's 16. And six foot three. 676 00:41:18,963 --> 00:41:21,003 - LAUGHTER 677 00:41:21,003 --> 00:41:23,283 Sorry! - Ah! - Sorry. 678 00:41:23,283 --> 00:41:25,723 - Sophie, this is my husband, Paul. - Oh, hi! 679 00:41:25,723 --> 00:41:28,283 - Hello. How are you? All right? - Paul, this is Mark. 680 00:41:28,283 --> 00:41:29,883 - Hello, Mark. 681 00:41:29,883 --> 00:41:31,523 - Hello, hello. 682 00:41:31,523 --> 00:41:33,723 - This is Sophie, she's your new waitress. 683 00:41:33,723 --> 00:41:35,203 - What? 684 00:41:36,243 --> 00:41:38,963 - You need a part-time job and Paul needs the help. 685 00:41:38,963 --> 00:41:42,243 Because, as you can see, he can't even make it to one meeting on time. 686 00:41:42,243 --> 00:41:45,963 - Wow. Er, thanks. I don't know what hours I could do. 687 00:41:45,963 --> 00:41:48,723 - Oh, Paul'll sort that. He's really flexible like that. 688 00:41:48,723 --> 00:41:50,323 - She's a hard woman to say no to. 689 00:41:50,323 --> 00:41:51,523 - Oh, I'm aware of that. 690 00:41:51,523 --> 00:41:54,563 - Also, Sophie was looking for someone to drive her 691 00:41:54,563 --> 00:41:57,163 and Mark to gigs now and then so I thought you'd be up for that. 692 00:41:57,163 --> 00:41:59,243 - You don't have to, if you don't want to... 693 00:41:59,243 --> 00:42:01,243 - 'Course he wants to. Mark's into indie. 694 00:42:01,243 --> 00:42:02,923 - Is he? - Yeah. 695 00:42:02,923 --> 00:42:04,643 - What bands you into, Mark? 696 00:42:07,123 --> 00:42:10,843 - I can't drive, you see, so it makes things difficult and, erm, yeah, 697 00:42:10,843 --> 00:42:12,483 Mark loves a live band. 698 00:42:12,483 --> 00:42:13,643 - How's your waitressing? 699 00:42:13,643 --> 00:42:15,283 - Worse than my driving. 700 00:42:17,083 --> 00:42:18,243 Thank you. 701 00:42:18,243 --> 00:42:20,843 - You're welcome! So welcome. Thank you for tonight. 702 00:42:20,843 --> 00:42:22,363 Safe home! 703 00:42:22,363 --> 00:42:25,883 - Yeah, yeah. Nice to meet you. - Bye, Mark. - See you at work. - See you soon. 704 00:42:32,283 --> 00:42:34,123 - It got mad at the Fellside. 705 00:42:35,483 --> 00:42:38,403 Really did, I was going to...try and get away earlier, 706 00:42:38,403 --> 00:42:40,843 but I couldn't, I just... - No, no, you didn't try, Paul. 707 00:42:40,843 --> 00:42:45,323 You sat outside in the car for two hours. Not coming in. I saw you. 708 00:42:49,763 --> 00:42:52,243 - So that's what the Sophie thing was about, was it? 709 00:42:52,243 --> 00:42:54,523 Eh, stitching me up to give her a job. 710 00:42:54,523 --> 00:42:59,203 - No. No, that was about helping her out because she helped me. 711 00:42:59,203 --> 00:43:01,683 It's called supporting each other. 712 00:43:01,683 --> 00:43:05,283 It's what people do when they're all in the same boat, 713 00:43:05,283 --> 00:43:07,243 bringing up a child that's different. 714 00:43:07,243 --> 00:43:09,243 - Well, I couldn't, I'm sorry. 715 00:43:10,563 --> 00:43:12,123 - Is that it? 716 00:43:12,123 --> 00:43:15,083 - I couldn't go in. I don't know why. I just couldn't, OK? 717 00:43:24,323 --> 00:43:27,083 OK. Let's just say that Joe understands 718 00:43:27,083 --> 00:43:30,323 what autistic means. Except that he doesn't, not really. Cos none of us do. 719 00:43:30,323 --> 00:43:34,283 But let's just say that, that he sees some other kids, 720 00:43:34,283 --> 00:43:38,603 more, you know, severely autistic than him. 721 00:43:38,603 --> 00:43:41,803 Now, does he think that that's what autistic means? 722 00:43:41,803 --> 00:43:44,883 Now, does he think that's how the world sees him? 723 00:43:44,883 --> 00:43:46,323 How we see him? 724 00:43:46,323 --> 00:43:48,643 - Better that than he thinks it's a bad thing. 725 00:43:48,643 --> 00:43:52,283 Might at least give him a sense of who he is. An identity. 726 00:43:52,283 --> 00:43:56,083 - Club Autistic. I bet it's got quite a waiting list. 727 00:43:56,083 --> 00:43:59,843 - If it helps to give him a feeling of belonging and support, why not? 728 00:43:59,843 --> 00:44:01,963 - But what about our club? 729 00:44:01,963 --> 00:44:07,963 Eh? Me and you and Joe and Rebecca? Isn't that enough? 730 00:44:09,563 --> 00:44:11,243 - Not any more, no. 731 00:44:11,243 --> 00:44:14,203 Look, we thought we were doing all right, turns out we weren't. 732 00:44:14,203 --> 00:44:17,523 We need other people. We've always needed other people. 733 00:44:17,523 --> 00:44:18,723 You saw that before I did. 734 00:44:18,723 --> 00:44:22,883 - I know. I just... I want to be the one with the magic touch. 735 00:44:24,083 --> 00:44:27,363 With Joe. I just... I could always handle him. 736 00:44:27,363 --> 00:44:30,963 I could always get through to him...in the end. 737 00:44:30,963 --> 00:44:34,083 And it was a struggle, but I could always do it. 738 00:44:34,083 --> 00:44:36,083 And it just... It felt better that way. 739 00:44:43,123 --> 00:44:45,603 No, that's not true, is it? Made me feel better that way. 740 00:44:50,403 --> 00:44:53,083 It's just in the last few months, I feel like I'm losing that. 741 00:44:55,803 --> 00:44:57,403 I feel like I'm losing my boy. 742 00:46:12,283 --> 00:46:15,203 - So, first off, thanks, thanks to you and your kids for, 743 00:46:15,203 --> 00:46:17,923 for doing your best to understand him - or at least trying to, 744 00:46:17,923 --> 00:46:21,763 and for putting up with some of the things he does that are a bit... 745 00:46:23,523 --> 00:46:25,083 Well, just out of the ordinary. 746 00:46:26,683 --> 00:46:30,683 I know he can be distracting and, from what I hear these days, 747 00:46:30,683 --> 00:46:33,083 upsetting to some of your children. 748 00:46:33,083 --> 00:46:36,123 I get that the roof and the head banging are new 749 00:46:36,123 --> 00:46:38,123 and they are hard to deal with. 750 00:46:38,123 --> 00:46:39,643 - And the running out the classroom. 751 00:46:39,643 --> 00:46:43,483 - Yep, that too, yep. But I'm not apologising for Joe. 752 00:46:43,483 --> 00:46:46,643 I know there are a lot of good reasons for him to be here. 753 00:46:46,643 --> 00:46:48,323 - Nobody minds him being here at all. 754 00:46:48,323 --> 00:46:50,483 - OK, well, another way of thinking about that 755 00:46:50,483 --> 00:46:53,443 is that it's good for your children to have him here. 756 00:46:53,443 --> 00:46:55,803 For them to be around a child that's different, 757 00:46:55,803 --> 00:46:58,003 that has a different way of looking at the world, 758 00:46:58,003 --> 00:47:01,963 that communicates differently, that doesn't much care about, you know, 759 00:47:01,963 --> 00:47:07,283 Sats or peer group approval or, God help us, football cards. 760 00:47:08,803 --> 00:47:09,843 That's a privilege. 761 00:47:11,043 --> 00:47:13,643 So I reckon with the right level of support 762 00:47:13,643 --> 00:47:15,883 and the right attitude, 763 00:47:15,883 --> 00:47:18,043 this school should do all right by children like Joe 764 00:47:18,043 --> 00:47:20,123 and be a better school for having him. 765 00:47:20,123 --> 00:47:25,483 - Thanks, Alison. That's lovely, but can we get to specifics? About Joe. 766 00:47:25,483 --> 00:47:28,203 And his behaviour. And what we can do about it. 767 00:47:28,203 --> 00:47:30,163 - We could. But we'd be wasting our time. 768 00:47:30,163 --> 00:47:34,563 Because, well, Joe's not going to be coming here for very much longer. 769 00:47:34,563 --> 00:47:38,763 We're going to find a school for him that's a bit more specialist. 770 00:47:38,763 --> 00:47:41,243 It's not going to be easy. But that's what we're going to do. 771 00:47:41,243 --> 00:47:43,963 - I don't understand. When did you decide this? 772 00:47:43,963 --> 00:47:47,803 - When we realised that we were getting more out of the idea of him being integrated than he was. 773 00:47:47,803 --> 00:47:50,923 - So what's this all about? I thought you were going to reassure the parents. 774 00:47:50,923 --> 00:47:52,243 - I am reassuring the parents. 775 00:47:52,243 --> 00:47:54,643 About the next child like Joe that comes here. 776 00:47:56,363 --> 00:47:57,643 And the one after that... 777 00:48:02,803 --> 00:48:04,043 - A special school? 778 00:48:04,043 --> 00:48:06,843 I thought you didn't want him going to a special school. 779 00:48:06,843 --> 00:48:08,363 - Well, it's not a special school. 780 00:48:08,363 --> 00:48:12,283 It's, er, an autism unit in an ordinary school. 781 00:48:12,283 --> 00:48:15,043 - Well, you're still taking him out of the school he knows. 782 00:48:15,043 --> 00:48:20,763 - Well, something needed to be done. We've made the right decision. 783 00:48:20,763 --> 00:48:23,683 - Great. Good for you. What you talking to me about it for? 784 00:48:23,683 --> 00:48:25,003 - You've always got an opinion. 785 00:48:25,003 --> 00:48:27,123 - Well, you've never asked to hear it before. 786 00:48:27,123 --> 00:48:28,603 - Well, I'm asking for it now. 787 00:48:28,603 --> 00:48:29,643 FOOTSTEPS APPROACH 788 00:48:31,603 --> 00:48:34,203 - I think my opinion giving days are behind me, Paul. 789 00:48:41,163 --> 00:48:44,003 - This job that Ralph has applied for with you. 790 00:48:44,003 --> 00:48:45,523 - Uh? What job? 791 00:48:45,523 --> 00:48:48,723 - He left the application form out, Maurice, so don't mess about. 792 00:48:48,723 --> 00:48:50,483 Has he got any chance of getting it? 793 00:48:50,483 --> 00:48:53,683 - Yeah. He's a grafter. He's got a good job record. 794 00:48:53,683 --> 00:48:55,203 We get on. 795 00:48:55,203 --> 00:48:56,923 - Well, that's good to hear. 796 00:48:56,923 --> 00:48:59,443 - Yeah, he's got a good chance and, er, if he does get it, 797 00:48:59,443 --> 00:49:00,603 he'll get it on merit. 798 00:49:00,603 --> 00:49:03,283 - Well, that's great. Just make sure he doesn't, all right? 799 00:49:03,283 --> 00:49:05,443 - What? - Let him do the interview. 800 00:49:05,443 --> 00:49:07,563 But, please, Maurice, don't give him the job. 801 00:49:07,563 --> 00:49:11,763 - What? Why not? - I can't tell you that. I just need you to promise me that you'll let him come close, 802 00:49:11,763 --> 00:49:13,283 but not get the job in the end. 803 00:49:13,283 --> 00:49:15,323 - He's a grown man. He makes his own decisions. 804 00:49:15,323 --> 00:49:18,643 - I've got my reasons, I just don't want to go into them with you! 805 00:49:18,643 --> 00:49:20,123 - Oh, I get it. 806 00:49:21,123 --> 00:49:24,643 Don't take it out on Ralph, you know, just cos you've still got a problem with me. 807 00:49:24,643 --> 00:49:27,123 - A problem with you? My God. 808 00:49:27,123 --> 00:49:29,803 The view from your ego must be breathtaking. 809 00:49:29,803 --> 00:49:32,563 Hard as it must be for you to believe, Maurice, 810 00:49:32,563 --> 00:49:34,803 this isn't about you, it's about me. 811 00:49:34,803 --> 00:49:37,443 And if what we had or didn't have means anything to you, 812 00:49:37,443 --> 00:49:39,763 then that should be enough for you to do what I ask. 813 00:49:39,763 --> 00:49:44,283 - OK. OK. OK. I get the message. He won't get the job. 814 00:49:46,043 --> 00:49:47,323 I promise. 815 00:49:52,283 --> 00:49:53,323 - Hiya. 816 00:50:12,283 --> 00:50:13,723 - Where's James? 817 00:50:16,883 --> 00:50:18,283 - DOOR BANGS 818 00:50:33,043 --> 00:50:34,083 - Do you love him? 819 00:50:34,083 --> 00:50:35,443 - Of course I love him. 820 00:50:35,443 --> 00:50:37,283 We had tattoos done and everything. 821 00:50:37,283 --> 00:50:39,083 - "We"? Oh, wonderful. 822 00:50:39,083 --> 00:50:40,683 - Paul. 823 00:50:40,683 --> 00:50:43,603 Look, in fairness to James, it must've been hard to come here 824 00:50:43,603 --> 00:50:46,003 and meet your whole family in one go. 825 00:50:46,003 --> 00:50:47,843 You had all that freedom... 826 00:50:47,843 --> 00:50:51,123 - No, it isn't that. It isn't that. Well, it is that. 827 00:50:51,123 --> 00:50:53,283 But it's more... - How do you mean? 828 00:50:53,283 --> 00:50:57,803 - I know Joe takes a bit of getting used to. It's, like, I don't know, 829 00:50:57,803 --> 00:51:00,243 it's like he's almost afraid of him. 830 00:51:00,243 --> 00:51:02,803 - Have you actually asked James about any of this? 831 00:51:02,803 --> 00:51:04,403 - No. We're not speaking. 832 00:51:04,403 --> 00:51:09,323 - Clearly. Look, stop trying to second guess what James is feeling 833 00:51:09,323 --> 00:51:12,083 and just go and talk to him before it's too late. 834 00:51:12,083 --> 00:51:15,443 - Since when did you think talking about feelings was a good idea? 835 00:51:15,443 --> 00:51:17,523 - Oh, I don't. I just do it to annoy your dad. 836 00:51:17,523 --> 00:51:19,443 Go on! Get after him. 837 00:51:19,443 --> 00:51:22,363 He might be the love of your life or he might not, 838 00:51:22,363 --> 00:51:24,963 but you need to find out and whatever happens, 839 00:51:24,963 --> 00:51:26,523 we're here for you. 840 00:51:26,523 --> 00:51:28,843 If you're happy, we're happy. 841 00:51:30,963 --> 00:51:32,523 - You're becoming all right, you know! 842 00:51:32,523 --> 00:51:33,803 - Can I have that in writing? 843 00:51:37,963 --> 00:51:39,083 - Just to be clear. 844 00:51:40,203 --> 00:51:43,483 That was the old, "We want you to be happy but, please God, dump him" 845 00:51:43,483 --> 00:51:45,083 tactic you just did then? 846 00:51:45,083 --> 00:51:46,203 - Correct. 847 00:51:52,083 --> 00:51:54,003 - Vincent, you're still here? 848 00:51:54,003 --> 00:51:56,683 There's not a rail strike I don't know about, is there? 849 00:51:56,683 --> 00:51:58,163 - I just need a little time. 850 00:51:58,163 --> 00:52:02,603 - You've had a little time. Won't your congregation be missing you? 851 00:52:02,603 --> 00:52:04,963 - I've got a new curate. He's stepping in. 852 00:52:04,963 --> 00:52:06,923 He won't even notice I'm gone. 853 00:52:06,923 --> 00:52:09,483 - You'll have to go back and face the truth some time. 854 00:52:09,483 --> 00:52:11,403 - Nicola's right, Vincent. 855 00:52:11,403 --> 00:52:13,563 - Perhaps I'll give it two years like you two did. 856 00:52:15,123 --> 00:52:18,563 - I didn't lie, by the way. About my marriage. 857 00:52:18,563 --> 00:52:20,203 I just didn't tell you the truth. 858 00:52:20,203 --> 00:52:22,683 - You didn't feel you could tell your own mum and dad? 859 00:52:22,683 --> 00:52:25,723 - The last time I told you, I got nothing but judgment from you. 860 00:52:25,723 --> 00:52:27,963 And I realise now that your response was partly you 861 00:52:27,963 --> 00:52:30,843 projecting your own guilt on to my adultery. 862 00:52:30,843 --> 00:52:33,403 - I'm your dad, if you don't mind. 863 00:52:33,403 --> 00:52:36,203 - And I'm your ex-husband so, you know, we might want to be 864 00:52:36,203 --> 00:52:39,163 moving this along to something slightly less incendiary. 865 00:52:40,243 --> 00:52:43,163 - I'm sorry, Eddie, but it needed to be said. 866 00:52:43,163 --> 00:52:44,483 - Again. Really? 867 00:52:44,483 --> 00:52:47,963 - OK, OK, you might have a point, Nicola. I've been thinking. 868 00:52:47,963 --> 00:52:51,283 And praying. And this time, it's going to be different. 869 00:52:51,283 --> 00:52:52,563 - I'm glad to hear it. 870 00:52:52,563 --> 00:52:55,443 - I am going to redeem myself with you and God. 871 00:52:55,443 --> 00:52:57,043 - Just me would be a start. 872 00:52:57,043 --> 00:52:58,723 - I'm going to stay right here 873 00:52:58,723 --> 00:53:02,643 and I'm not going to leave till I've got you two back together again. 874 00:53:10,803 --> 00:53:13,843 - James! James! Oh...! 875 00:53:23,403 --> 00:53:24,603 You didn't get on. 876 00:53:24,603 --> 00:53:25,923 - Wasn't my bus. 877 00:53:31,803 --> 00:53:33,123 Came after me. 878 00:53:33,123 --> 00:53:35,043 - I was just going to the shops. 879 00:53:42,043 --> 00:53:43,403 - You know we love you. 880 00:53:44,763 --> 00:53:46,203 - We love you. 881 00:53:46,203 --> 00:53:47,563 - Rolling Stones. 1967. 882 00:53:49,523 --> 00:53:51,523 Sorry. Dad joke. 883 00:53:53,043 --> 00:53:56,123 - And you know you find some things harder than other kids? 884 00:53:58,363 --> 00:54:00,123 - Lost Weekend. 885 00:54:00,123 --> 00:54:03,003 - No, no, no, you don't, you don't get to ask a question. 886 00:54:03,003 --> 00:54:05,003 Not till you've answered Mum. 887 00:54:06,683 --> 00:54:08,443 - What do you think autistic means? 888 00:54:10,683 --> 00:54:14,803 - Let me see now. 889 00:54:14,803 --> 00:54:18,363 - Well, it means.... 890 00:54:20,363 --> 00:54:22,563 It just means different, really. 891 00:54:26,683 --> 00:54:28,243 - I'm not the same. 892 00:54:28,243 --> 00:54:33,603 - Well, most of you is the same, but maybe a bit of you is different. 893 00:54:33,603 --> 00:54:37,003 The bit that makes some things harder for you. 894 00:54:37,003 --> 00:54:38,323 And some things easier. 895 00:54:38,323 --> 00:54:41,043 Like you remember things better than the other kids and... 896 00:54:41,043 --> 00:54:44,083 - And the good news is that makes you Joe. 897 00:54:44,083 --> 00:54:47,123 And Joe is an absolute belter. 898 00:54:47,123 --> 00:54:50,203 - "And the good news is we'll be landing immediately 899 00:54:50,203 --> 00:54:53,083 "and the bad news is we're crash landing." 900 00:54:53,083 --> 00:54:54,643 - Joe. 901 00:54:54,643 --> 00:54:55,963 - Madagascar 2. 902 00:54:55,963 --> 00:54:57,243 - I know. I know. 903 00:55:00,683 --> 00:55:02,003 - I'm not the same. 904 00:55:04,123 --> 00:55:06,923 - Well, no-one's the same. 905 00:55:08,923 --> 00:55:14,043 - So... I am the same. 906 00:55:14,043 --> 00:55:18,603 - Well, everybody is a bit different. 907 00:55:18,603 --> 00:55:22,323 And the bit of you that's different is autistic. 908 00:55:22,323 --> 00:55:24,323 That's just what it's called. 909 00:55:27,963 --> 00:55:29,723 - I'm sorry. I'm very sorry. 910 00:55:29,723 --> 00:55:32,003 - No, no, no, hey, no, no, no, you don't, no, 911 00:55:32,003 --> 00:55:33,483 that's not what we mean. 912 00:55:33,483 --> 00:55:34,963 No, it's not that you've, 913 00:55:34,963 --> 00:55:39,803 that you've done anything wrong or it's bad. 914 00:55:39,803 --> 00:55:43,683 - You never have to be sorry for this. Never. 915 00:55:44,843 --> 00:55:50,043 Because we've all got things... We're all a bit broken, you know. 916 00:55:52,443 --> 00:55:55,443 - We are. - And... 917 00:55:55,443 --> 00:55:57,443 - Just one thing. - Yes. 918 00:55:58,603 --> 00:56:01,843 - I have a choc ice. In the freezer. 919 00:56:01,843 --> 00:56:04,283 And it might be going mouldy. 920 00:56:04,283 --> 00:56:07,083 - No, no, it won't. You know that. 921 00:56:07,083 --> 00:56:09,883 - And from time to time you might need a bit more help. 922 00:56:11,723 --> 00:56:14,123 But that's OK. 923 00:56:17,723 --> 00:56:20,003 - I don't want to talk about autistic any more. 924 00:56:20,003 --> 00:56:23,523 - Me neither, love, me neither. 925 00:56:36,363 --> 00:56:37,523 - Guess what? 926 00:56:37,523 --> 00:56:39,363 - James is staying. 927 00:56:39,363 --> 00:56:41,763 - Er, better than that. 928 00:56:41,763 --> 00:56:43,123 We're engaged! 929 00:56:48,123 --> 00:56:49,643 - BOTH: Ah! 930 00:56:51,963 --> 00:56:53,563 MUSIC IN HEADPHONES 931 00:56:57,203 --> 00:56:58,563 # ..want to say 932 00:56:59,963 --> 00:57:03,283 # There's nothing left I want to say 933 00:57:03,283 --> 00:57:05,803 # There's nothing left I want to say 934 00:57:05,803 --> 00:57:09,563 # Because I've put up with you for too long 935 00:57:12,843 --> 00:57:16,483 # I thought I could stick with you but I was wrong... # 936 00:57:30,643 --> 00:57:32,643 - First day at a special school? 937 00:57:32,643 --> 00:57:34,043 - It's not a special school. 938 00:57:34,043 --> 00:57:35,363 It's a specialist base. 939 00:57:35,363 --> 00:57:37,923 - Can we stop pretending that it's not just a bit weird? 940 00:57:37,923 --> 00:57:39,803 - It's not the way to my school. 941 00:57:39,803 --> 00:57:41,643 - You can see how it is with Joe at the moment. 942 00:57:41,643 --> 00:57:43,003 They're going to need some help. 943 00:57:43,003 --> 00:57:46,843 - We're supposed to be going to London. I've got a job lined up in a recording studio. - No, you haven't. 944 00:57:46,843 --> 00:57:49,363 - You get on better than most couples that are together. 945 00:57:49,363 --> 00:57:50,923 - The reason being we aren't together. 946 00:57:50,923 --> 00:57:53,683 - You promised me. - Because I won't do your dirty work without knowing why. 947 00:57:53,683 --> 00:57:55,883 - Maybe it's just too big a change for him. 948 00:57:55,883 --> 00:57:57,243 - It's day one, Paul. 949 00:57:57,243 --> 00:57:59,603 - Exactly. Which means we can change our minds.