- Can we all please stand?
- Today's the day that I've been waiting for.
Today's the day that I've prayed for.
- Oh, [bleep].
- Over three weeks ago,
ten singles took a brave leap of faith
in order to find love.
- You are beautiful. - Aww, thank you.
- They married as complete strangers.
[cheers and applause]
- I'm married!
[giggles]
I'm somebody's wife.
I'm Steve's wife.
♪ ♪
- Last week, our remaining four couples
explored what it would take to fall in love
in the real world.
Noi and Steve.
- I'm finally ready
to let you know that I love you.
- What? [both laugh]
You do?
♪ ♪
- Lindsey and Mark.
- I want you to know that you are appreciated
and that you are cared for.
And I don't want you to ever think otherwise.
- I feel the same way about you.
♪ ♪
- Jasmina and Michael.
- Every three to four years, [bleep] happened
where I just gotta deal with more grief.
I've built a tolerance up like a muscle
of just, like, learning how to put my emotions in a box
and just move on.
- I'm very happy
that he's finally, you know,
opening up and letting me in.
- Katina and Olajuwon.
- When we talk about a wife level,
this is what I look at.
- I know and I-- - I need to see
where you are as a woman.
If you don't want to cook,
what are you-- What are you gonna do?
Are you gonna clean?
I care for you so much.
But it bothers me
because I don't know where you stand.
♪ ♪
- And tonight, with less than five weeks
until Decision Day,
our couples must explore ways to go deeper.
- [laughs] - What are you doing, yo?
- In order to form a foundation of trust
and intimacy in their marriages
before they have to make
the biggest decision of their lives.
- We should try to have sex
in a semi-public place.
[both laugh]
- If I'm being honest,
my vagina not getting wet for you.
♪ ♪
- Tell me about the trajectory of your sex life.
- So the way--
- Okay. - It isn't really satisfying.
- You need to not be so rude when you're talking about it.
You're gonna say she's lazy.
- To be married to someone
who talks about your, like, insecurities.
It just makes me feel like I'm not, like--
I'm, like, I'm not good enough.
[sniffles]
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ Finally feel ♪
♪ Alive ♪
- Good morning.
We're still resolving our issues,
we're still having good times.
- Still are married.
- Still married.
See?
- It has now been over three weeks since
our couples met and married at first sight.
- He said he wanted me to work out with him.
♪ ♪
- And only two weeks
since they moved in together as husband and wife.
- Did you see my other brush?
- It's not-- It's not in the bathroom?
- No, I literally just had it in my hand.
♪ ♪
- It's this one?
- Yeah, where'd you find it?
- Bathroom.
- [chuckles]
- As they continue to form their new lives together,
it's important to strengthen their connection by delving
into deeper levels of trust
and intimacy in their marriage.
But giving this process everything they've got
is crucial, because in just five weeks,
they will have to make a decision whether
they're going to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Hey ♪
♪ Yeah, oh ♪
♪ ♪
- Yo, chica.
- You're bigger than me right now, it's so great.
I feel like I could hug you.
♪ ♪
- What's the story?
- So I do think Mark's a good guy.
I do see the potential in him.
But let me tell you what upsets me, like,
he started being intimate with me and then pulling way back.
- Why?
- Like, he keeps telling me,
"I don't want to just have sex with you.
I want it to be intimate and emotional."
And I was like, "Okay, well, what is that for you?"
- Right. - Because--
- What does that look like, sound like--
- You were the one who initiated sex
on the night you met me, so it can't be that important
to you if you were willing to do that.
I was the one who said no.
He hasn't had sex with me for almost two weeks.
14 days, right? - Oof.
- Mm-hmm.
- And you're still in this relationship?
[laughs]
- Today, we're-- We take a little nap.
I wake up and he, like,
takes my clothes off like we're gonna have sex
and I was like, "Okay, I'm into it."
- Mm-hmm.
- No, it was like a quick and dirty.
He didn't worry about me.
At all.
I was like, "It doesn't work like that,
you know, there's two people here."
- Mm-hmm. - Finished pretty quickly
and then was like, "I gotta go pee
and then I'm gonna go work out,"
and I said, "You know, I just gotta ask you something.
"You told me that you haven't been able to have sex with me
because you need an emotional connection."
- Mm-hmm. - That wasn't emotional to me
in any sense.
And I was like, "All right, leave.
I'll get my vibrator, I got this."
- So weird.
Because he's also-- He's such the pleaser,
you would think he wouldn't--
- No pleasing here, girl.
No pleasing at all.
- Hmm. - None.
My sexual needs were being more met
when I was single and dating.
My thing is,
what is an emotional connection to you, then?
Help me define it.
- But it's more than that.
He wants this intimate connection,
and I hear you, 'cause he's had--
- Okay, well define it to me.
What is that?
Is that laughing and enjoying each other's times
and moving through conflict and finding a resolution?
- It's that--it's that look.
It's that feeling.
- Oh, no, no, no, gross.
I don't want that.
- [laughs]
I know you don't like to take things that slowly.
But, like, you're the toaster, and he feels like
he's gotta take all the pieces apart
and understand how to put them back together again
before he can even put the bread in.
- Mm. - Right?
Lindsey speed, you need to tone it down.
- It's a lot.
- It is a lot.
But you're not the type that's gonna give up on this.
- You know, the way things are going,
it seems like
we will never have sex again.
And I will become the Sahara Desert.
I will dry up like a vault.
He needs to step up a little bit, if I'm being honest.
I need a lot more than what he's giving me.
It's not enough.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Mm ♪
♪ Oh, yeah ♪
♪ ♪
- Sit on this couch, I'll fall asleep for real.
- Last night when Olajuwon said,
"I wasn't stepping up as a wife,"
I felt bad because
I take being a wife to him very seriously.
It made me feel like I was kind of disappointing him
and then also disappointing myself.
It--it definitely was just, like, yeah.
[knock at door] You wanna get the door?
- Yeah, I got it.
- I am excited to see Dr. Viviana
'cause I'm interested to see what her opinion and take is
on our marriage and how we're doing.
- Hi! - Hi, how you doing?
Viviana, how you doing? - Hello!
Each marriage for our couples
is uniquely different,
and comes with its own set of strengths and challenges.
Aw, it's so good to see you! - It's good to see you too.
- But for our couples, it's important
to become completely vulnerable
in order to build trust
in an accelerated way.
As y'all know,
we kind of know everything that's going on.
We're kept abreast of everything.
So.
You've been through a lot as a couple.
But why is it that
every time I hear about what's happening between y'all,
we're talking about food and cooking?
- I know. - I mean, what is that?
- The cooking and food.
That's what I--I need in my wife, I need that.
- So did you not eat
before you were married?
- To me, I would--I could grab anything on the go and--
Or I could make something easy and small,
but I have a wife now.
And she works at home.
- Where did you get these ideas
about what a skill set is for a wife?
- That--that's just in me.
I'm okay with taking care of the household if I'm happy.
And I--
- But if you're not happy, you're just gonna drop it?
- Then--no, I'm not gonna drop it.
But it's--then I-- I look at this as, like,
why am I in this marriage?
I mean, I can point out stories,
it's more than just cooking and cleaning.
It's, like, we had a housewarming.
- Mm-hmm.
- [clears throat] - Oh, I know, I know
all about housewarming. - I did all that.
- I kept it very easy for my wife.
But then at the end of the night,
we're not-- When it's time to clean,
the remark of saying, "I'ma clean half the floor,"
it bothers me because now I question,
are we mentally on the same level?
- Mentally?
- Like--no, like-- - You're questioning
her mental capabilities... - No, because--
- Based off of wanting to clean maybe less?
- I'll--I'll put it like this.
No, it's not even like-- I'll put it this way.
- That's what you just said, though.
- If I said--no, 100%.
But if I saw my wife cleaning
at night or something like that,
I'm not putting my head on the pillow to close my eyes
knowing that it bothers my wife
that the place isn't sharp enough.
And the fact that it happened literally, like,
two days again after that.
There's a level of where am I being met?
Like, you did it--
For a house woman, you didn't handle it?
As--as a wife, I felt like it wasn't met.
- So I can understand feeling, like,
"Well, if there isn't a happiness
"or a partnership feeling at home,
then--then why am I doing this?"
But to make it ride on something
as trivial as cooking and cleaning?
Man, of all things,
why does it matter?
- Because I--it's impacting our marriage, I can feel it.
- So how do you think
that affects your trust with him?
- It makes me feel like I'm with someone that
if I do something wrong, they're gonna, like,
threaten to leave me.
♪ ♪
- I want you to start thinking about us
because regardless of what
everything around us, this is real.
What's happening right there. - Can I pause you right there?
Do you think she doesn't think about y'all?
- No, I think she thinks of I.
I talked to her about laziness.
It's just really--really, I feel like there's a lot of--
- You think she's lazy?
- When it comes to our marriage,
just caring for the other person,
the effort isn't there. - Wow.
- It's--it's really triggering.
It's--I'm not being met, I'm just--
- So it almost sounds like you have this idea
of what marriage looks like.
You have this idea about what a husband looks like,
what a wife looks like. - No.
- And unless she looks 100% like that off the bat,
you're gonna talk down to her,
you're gonna say she's not grown,
you're gonna say she's lazy.
That's what it's coming across as.
I would hope that that's not what's actually going on.
But as an outsider, that's what it looks like.
- No-- - And I would love for her
not to think that. - No, she--she knows that.
- She's the most important person in your life.
- But she knows that, I just feel like--
- Does she? Katina, do you know that?
♪ ♪
- [sighs]
- What is the struggle there?
- It's just his tone.
Like, I feel like someone's beating up on me.
So like, some of the things that he's saying,
they're already, like, insecurities that I felt.
I mean, for this process, to be--
To be married to someone
who calls out your, like, insecurities.
- Calls out your faults.
- ♪ Do you want ♪
♪ Do you want love ♪
♪ Will it all work out ♪
- [sniffles]
- ♪ I want love ♪
♪ Yeah, I want love ♪
♪ We all have our doubts ♪
- It just makes me feel like I'm not, like--
Like, I'm not good enough.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Now there's a change in me ♪
- To be married to someone who
calls out your, like, insecurities.
[sniffles]
♪ ♪
It just makes me feel like I'm not, like--
Like I'm not good enough.
♪ ♪
It's just hard for me.
When you're telling me that, like,
oh, like, I'm lazy or, like, things like that.
That's all the echoes that I'm hearing in my mind.
So your tone and, like, the--you--
The words that you choose,
even though it might be your truth,
they're al--also very harsh.
♪ ♪
Your energy, your tone,
that is what you need to work on.
- I hear that, the--
- What did--what did you hear her just say?
- It's my tone, I have to work on my tone.
- Tell her, "I hear you say
that I need to work on--" - I hear you say
I need to work on my tone. - What else?
- My demeanor? - What else?
- I--that's really it, that's what I heard out of that.
- And--and pointing out her faults and insecurities,
especially when they're triggers for her.
- Right. - That's not taking care
of your wife.
♪ ♪
- You're my wife.
There's gonna be things that I just expect it to be done.
And same thing with me, I'm your husband,
there's things I expect to be done.
Those are big moments for me where I'm like,
"I need my partner." - But why are they
such big moments?
I don't understand.
- They are--it's not-- 'cause they are.
- I feel like somebody taught you something that is
gonna make you end up divorced
several times. - No, it's--
- Because that expectation of marriage,
of what real-life marriage looks like?
I just think, like, it's gonna topple over.
I feel like I don't really know how I'm going to help you
if you have this archaic idea about--
And very flimsy idea about what makes a good wife.
Especially because I believe that
physical and emotional intimacy are so precious.
And that's what life is all about with a partner.
If it's hinging on cooking and cleaning,
it is--it's too flimsy of an argument.
You're not gonna make it with anybody.
- It's not that, it's everything--
- No, I'm telling you it is.
- I know, I know. - Because I'm an expert in this
and I know what-- - I'm saying it about
myself, though.
It's not about the cooking and cleaning,
I feel like-- - Okay, if it's outside
of cooking and cleaning,
what is it that you think she needs
to grow in this way in order to not be lazy
and not show that
she's ambivalent about our marriage?
- Maybe I was expressing it the wrong way.
Like.
It's frustrating because...
I care for you.
♪ ♪
I get emotional because... [clears throat]
When you feel like you're giving 100...
- Say I. - When I feel like
I'm giving myself and I'm not being met.
So it's tough
when I talk to you, and I get no reaction.
- Mm.
- And I express how I feel.
Because-- [clears throat]
I can't grow if I don't know how you feel.
It's frustrating.
- It's not frustrating, it's scary.
- It's scary.
It's scary.
[clears throat]
Please open up.
The cooking and cleaning,
you don't have to do that every day.
I point those things out
because that's the only way I could kinda
bring it to you.
You see, I--I am emotional with this marriage.
You can see my frustration is coming off of the lack
of--of you being vulnerable.
- How do you feel about
what I'm saying about how he's saying,
what he's saying?
- Um.
I hear what you're saying,
and I am gonna try my best--my very best
to be more vulnerable and open with you
and tell you what's on my mind, tell you my thoughts.
I'm serious when I tell you that
I do want to be married to you.
- I don't want you to operate from a place of fear anymore.
Okay?
If you don't share with him,
he's not gonna know you well enough
to be able to say yes
to staying together on Decision Day.
- Mm-hmm. - Okay?
- ♪ You gotta pick up all the pieces and restart ♪
- Thank you. - No problem.
- Smells nice next to the low tide smell.
- Right. Oh! [laughs]
- In addition to meeting with the couples in person,
Dr. Viviana sent the couples
exercises to help them discuss the big and the small things
that couples often avoid talking about.
- "What is your favorite sexual position and why?"
- It's being on top because recently,
I've discovered a G-spot orgasm.
So that's gonna take the bank for me.
- Okay.
- Honest communication
is the key to building trust and intimacy,
which leads to a healthy marriage.
- "What would you think if you caught me watching porn?"
- I think it might turn me on, actually.
- [swallows] Obviously, I would love
to experience that with you.
It would just be fun to catch you in the act.
[both laugh]
- If you could change one thing about me physically,
what would it be?
For real.
- Y'all hear my husband? - For real.
♪ ♪
- "What can I do better in our marriage?
And why?"
- Talk to me.
Just throughout the day.
Just about the small things.
I feel like those small conversations
can lead to us having bigger ones.
- [clears throat] - [clears throat]
Wow, this game was so much fun.
- Now you're done, right?
[both laugh]
"What can you do better in our marriage?"
I would say listen and understand me.
Just know I'm not-- I'm not--I'm not your enemy.
- [chuckles] - You know what I'm saying?
I really--I really mean that.
Like, I just want you to know
that it's not you against me.
Does that makes sense?
- Mm-hmm.
Okay. - All right, you go.
Hmm.
- Is there anything you have-- - Nope.
- [giggles] Is there anything you have
been embarrassed to tell me?
Why were you embarrassed?
[laughs]
I can give you something from high school.
The seniors always hold this prank
on, like, the new students.
Specifically, the girls.
So this girl was like, "You started your period."
And I was like, "Oh, my God!"
So she was like, walking behind me,
you know, so nobody sees.
And as I walk into the bathroom,
she, like, moves her bag, right?
- Oh, God. - And so I, like,
cover really quickly.
And I, like, sit on the ground and like--I'm, like,
screaming, I'm like, "Oh, my God!"
Because I don't want nobody to see it.
- Right, right, right. - But it was a joke.
It was a prank, but I was very embarrassed
in that moment because everybody crowded around me
and was, like, laughing. - Right, right.
- And they were like, "Got you!"
- Were you pissed after?
- I was--I needed a moment.
- Hmm.
All right, let me see.
Have I ever told you the pee-pee boy story?
- [giggles]
- Yo, you're a bully, yo.
Next question.
Nah.
You're a bully. - Who called you pee-pee boy?
- Nah, I don't like that.
You laughed instantly, what's up with you?
- [laughs] I'm sorry.
- Why would you laugh-- - It's the way you say it,
"Have I ever told you the pee-pee boy?"
- Why would you laugh immediately?
- Because pee-pee is a funny word.
- But that's what they call--called me.
- You--okay, when did you pee on yourself?
- I was six years old.
You know, like, when you were a kid...
[clears throat] They used to do story time.
- Mm-mm. - And story--
We all were sitting down on the--on the floor.
And the teacher was reading a story, and I raised my hand
and said "Hey, I need to use the bathroom."
And she said, "Wait until the story's over."
- No, she didn't. - And I'm like, "Miss?"
- [giggles] - She's just like,
"Mike, stop being disruptive."
So I'm like, "Okay.
Got something for you."
- [laughs] - So imagine
the pee just spreaded, and all the kids are, like,
standing on the chairs, standing on the table,
like, "Aw, Mike's pee-pee boy!
Mike pee-pee boy," so.
- [laughing]
- And that's funny.
All right. [clears throat]
"Tell your partner what your favorite physical feature
is about them and why?"
- I like your arms. - Thank you.
♪ ♪
- Just wanna--just--
- [chuckles]
- Whoo, child, that's it.
- Your smell.
- [snorts] - Yeah.
I would say your smell, for sure.
- [laughs]
- ♪ You can't stop our hearts from burning out ♪
- ♪ Call me, call me, call me yours ♪
♪ 'Cause this is no ordinary love ♪
- Hi! - Hi, how are you?
- You look beautiful. - Hello, yo.
- Hi, Steve.
- Would you like something to drink?
- We have coffee if you want some.
- We have green tea, sparkling water.
- You know what, I am great. - Water.
- You good? - I'm really good, yeah.
Thank you. - You're welcome.
- So I'm here
mainly to talk about trust and intimacy and connection.
It sounds like y'all have created
a pretty good bond so far.
Like, right off the bat.
- Yeah. - I think so.
I think we've done a pretty good job so far.
- We have a great physical connection.
We--we hold hands a lot, we cuddle a lot.
And I feel like we definitely communicate through that,
you know, I would say.
- And I heard that y'all have been "enjoying each other."
[both laugh]
- Yeah, we've--yes, we've had a great time together.
- Okay, great.
Do you all talk about it amongst each other?
- Intimacy. - Like, do y'all have that
kind of trust with each other
where you can talk about intimacy and your needs
and what's going well, what's maybe needs to change
a little bit as you get to know each other?
- I think for me,
I'm still at the point where
I'm still getting comfortable with him.
- That carries over to other places as well.
Like, you know, one other thing that--that happens
when we're having issues, sometimes it's hard for her
to verbalize how she feels.
♪ ♪
- When I get upset, I have a tendency to shut down.
- Which is super scary, I'm sure, for him.
- For him, yeah.
So our last disagreement, um, I was really upset.
And I didn't say a word to him.
- What's going on internally for you when you're--
When you've shut down and you ha--need that space?
- I--you know, in the past have lashed out at, like, partners.
And I think I am
so angry that I will just say things to just hurt them.
- Yikes. - Whatever I can think of,
I'll--I'll just say,
and I don't want to say anything to him
that I can't take back.
- What did you learn about his feelings for you
in all of this?
- I didn't realize, like, how badly, like, I hurt him
by leaving the way that I did.
- Do you think maybe you could talk to each other?
♪ ♪
- It just kind of broke my heart
to see you hurt like that.
[sniffles]
So I mean, I know it's something like obviously,
like, I need to work on.
But, like, I just, like, don't ever,
like, want to put you in that situation again.
But also recognizing that, like,
I can't do it, like, overnight.
Like, it's gonna take a lot for me to get
to a place where I can actually
verbalize it without being destructive.
[sniffles]
- I know that it's not gonna be easier overnight.
It's gonna be challenging for both of us.
But something has to change
because this isn't sustainable the way it is.
If something upsets you, tell me right away, I--
You know, I want that.
That at least gives me the opportunity
to be like, "Okay, look, you know,
"Why are you upset?
Let me help--how can I help you not be upset?"
♪ ♪
- Wouldn't you prefer for him to share with you
the first time something bugs him?
- Mm-hmm.
- Same thing. - Yeah.
- So then let's continue to build that trust
in order for you to also be able
to share your criticisms or concerns or desires.
What would speak to you to build trust in him?
- I mean, I need, like, more of, like, a concrete plan.
Like, you know, he doesn't wanna work.
And I would really, you know,
like to be in a relationship
where we're both contributing financially.
- You--you doubt that I'm capable of making money?
♪ ♪
- I don't doubt that, I just...
Ever since I've known you, like, that hasn't been
something that I've seen.
So I don't know.
- But it--but it--but it hasn't
affected you financially, right?
Because I, you know, at this point--
- No, but it will, though.
- I'm over here, you know,
cooking, cleaning, getting the house in order.
Do you like the benefits of having
these meals and having this place spotless?
Because if it's so important for me to get a full-time job,
this place is not gonna be as clean
and--and the food's not gonna be as good.
- To me, it just sounds like excuses.
♪ ♪
I think we could equally contribute to that.
You know, I don't think it needs to just be,
like, you do all the housework.
And then I work where, like, we could both work.
- See--and now this requires faith on my part,
because I've been doing these things
and I haven't seen that, you know?
- Mm-hmm. - Like, I haven't seen us
splitting tasks, you know?
Like--like, part of me is like, "Well, maybe we should
try that first so that you can really feel what that's like."
Because what--if I get a job, there's no going back.
- Would you ever be okay with him--
If y'all had enough savings,
would you ever be okay with him being, like,
a stay-at-home husband or dad?
- That's just not what I want.
Or ever envisioned, like, for my marriage.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- You ready to see Viviana?
- I am.
- She should come more often so you could clean, huh?
- Don't do that. - Okay.
- Don't do that. - [chuckling]
[knock at door] - Let's not do that.
[chuckles]
♪ ♪
- Hi! - Hello!
- Hi! - How are you?
♪ ♪
- There he is.
Hi! - Hello.
It's good to see you. - [laughs]
It's good to see you too.
Shall we--there you are. - Yes.
Welcome to our apartment. - Thank you.
Look at the sign! - You like that?
- You are so sweet, yes.
Thank y'all so much for having me.
I'm here to visit y'all so we can talk more
about intimacy and how to build trust
and then set you up for
some success going down the road.
So physically, what have you been going through?
And where's the trust level when it comes to intimacy?
- I would say we aren't very really
physically intimate in any way, really.
- Any sort of hand-holding or hugs or kisses?
Cuddling? - None.
- Okay, why is that?
- Take--let her take the lead
on where we're going physically?
- Did you know that he was letting you take the lead?
Was that something that y'all have discussed?
- I told him that I am
someone who has always
had an emotional and mental connection with someone
before physical came into place.
- That's what you're used to.
- It's not that that's what I'm used to,
it's just that's what I prefer as well--
- Oh. - Is to have
a connection with somebody's mind
and whatever first before I give them my body.
And also, if I'm being honest,
if I have no connection with you,
my vagina not getting wet for you.
♪ ♪
That's just what it is.
- So you feel like you haven't gotten to a place
where you even feel connected?
- There are times where I do feel like it's a moment
or what--you know, like, we're, like, laying down
or it was like a, you know, good day.
But if I'm being honest, I do feel like
there are other times where I feel like
we're just coexisting at this point.
- Oh, no, that can't feel good.
- And we're just not communicating.
- Do you think that that's because
of what was said in the past
or the accusations that were made?
- Yes.
- You have been aggressive
and your family agreed. - I've never said--no, no, no.
Aggressive? I've never used that word.
- So I'm a liar now.
- Are you worried that anytime
you share something that you don't like
that she's going to deem you and label you
as aggressive and disrespectful?
- Yes.
The comfortability level of just reaching out
and to speak about anything just isn't there for me.
- But, like, if I told you
that I genuinely wanted to start over
and it's not being reciprocated,
there's just so much I can do.
- When I hear her speak and say,
"I'm trying, but you're doing this.
I'm trying, but you're doing this."
- Mm-hmm.
- It's like I'm focused on the issue and she's focused
on how I'm causing the issue.
- That's not what I'm-- - Or maintaining it.
- That's not what I'm focused on.
- That's what it sounds like to me, that's--
- She just--we were talking about communication.
- You're saying you're trying.
- Yes, so have you said-- - Exactly, but what I'm--
- Can you say that you have tried to talk to me?
- When do I get to finish a thought?
- Okay, well, you did stop talking and so I continued on.
So finish your thought, Michael.
- I can say
100% each time that we have a conflict--
- Not about conflict,
we're talking about normal communication.
- But that's part of communication.
It's conflict resolution. - Well, right now, we're just
focusing on the communication and getting back
to just talking on a normal day-to-day.
- I don't--I don't know where we're headed--
- Okay, so then let's break this down.
Let's break this down.
This is part of a communication breakdown.
So let's start over.
- Do you feel like I've taken ownership
of the things that I need to work on?
- I think you're so stuck on taking ownership of stuff.
And I'm not
holding anything that happened in the past against us.
My problem is just I feel like
I'm the one that's really trying
and putting in more of the effort.
- That's huge because that means that
you do have some trust for him.
- Hearing that, yeah, it makes me feel like
you're giving me the benefit of the doubt.
But I still don't know how to communicate without it
seeming--as I'm seeing it in a disrespectful manner.
- Journaling is a really great way
to release a lot of concerns or fears.
Is there any way you could journal it
and then maybe share it with her?
- Yeah. - And the other thing is,
creating that safe space because this is where trust
and intimacy can grow.
♪ ♪
With the intimacy piece,
do y'all want to get to that place where you are
hugging, kissing freely?
- For sure.
- And tell her why.
- I feel like...
I was hoping that, like, if we get closer physically,
and I'm not talking about sex.
Just a little more intimate, if we get a little more closer,
we can get more of an emotional connection.
That deep, deep spark.
- When I feel like we're speaking more
and we're getting a better connection,
then I want to do those things as well.
Kiss you, cuddle you, you know,
or whatever comes after that. - Mm-hmm.
♪ ♪
- Hold on, you were just smiling.
Is she kissable?
- Look at her.
- Aww, your eyes are smiling now.
I absolutely believe you can work through this.
- ♪ Every single step I take brings me closer ♪
- ♪ Can't stop our hearts from burning out ♪
[meowing]
- Oh.
She's awake.
What is that, catnip?
Now what is the catnip supposed to do?
- I dunno, make them crazy.
♪ ♪
- And here comes JC.
- They're getting along, though.
- I mean, when it comes to food,
I feel like they just eat and they don't really
get territorial.
- That's nice that they don't. - I'm curious how this exit is
with those two.
- Do you think Viv's allergic to cats?
- Could like-- [knock at door]
Oh, the door. - I'll get it.
- You wanna get it? - Yeah, I'll get it.
- Dr. Viviana is coming over today
to talk to me and Lindsey, and I'm not quite sure
how it's gonna go.
- Hey. - Hi!
- Welcome, you look so nice.
- You do, too.
- But I hope it goes
in a very loving, nurturing way.
- Good to see y'all! - Good to see you.
- And all the felines.
- Not about something that we're not doing
that often that I feel like we're gonna talk about.
[chuckling] - Okay, guys.
I'll let you start for once.
- Not that she wouldn't just
go right in, anyway. - Yeah, oh, yeah.
- Okay, how do you feel about your marriage?
♪ ♪
- [clears throat]
[both laughing]
No.
- We're never getting through this.
Okay.
As of--as of this moment.
- Oh, it's so hard to look at him
'cause he makes me laugh so hard.
- Mark, how do you feel about your marriage?
- I think it's been, um, a interesting three weeks
of getting to know somebody.
- Yeah, I mean,
I knew that there could be fireworks between y'all.
I did not think that they would get so bad.
♪ ♪
- I just need a moment, please.
- What do you want me to do?
- Just don't talk to me, that's what I mean.
- No problem.
I'm good, I'm good. - That's what I thought.
Walk away. - Okay, okay.
- Call your mom, see if she can let you in tonight.
- Have another drink.
Have another drink.
- I'm telling you that I'm not satisfied.
- Okay. - Right now,
and I'm very unhappy. - Same, same, same.
You're not aware of what you say
and I'm not aware sometimes of what I say.
And that's the problem. - Why am I here?
Wha--what do you like about me?
Because it doesn't seem like there's anything.
♪ ♪
- I don't want y'all to ever experience that
from each other again, or from anyone,
for that matter.
And that's why I think it's really important
that my coming here to really talk about trust and intimacy
will propel you, I hope,
to leave that part of your past in the past.
- Mm. - And to know that you can
never do that to each other again.
Does that make sense?
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah.
[clattering] - Oh!
- Dang.
- Need a napkin?
- Wait, there's one right here.
- Okay.
So what's going on?
Tell me about the trajectory of your sex life.
- So the way--
- I mean, what I'm seeing is, whoo, zigzag up and down.
- Let's see, on our wedding night, he was like,
"I'm gonna make you feel
"so cared for and loved for in ways you've never imagined.
I'm gonna treat you so well."
And we were really firing on all cylinders.
- Mm-hmm. - And he and I were intimate
the next day.
And it was going well.
And then, like, two days later again,
he's like, "Ah, the second time didn't feel good.
I'm not sure," and I was like--
- The second time y'all had sex?
- That's what he said to me.
"It just didn't feel right."
- Is--is that what happened?
Help me to understand what happened
and what's going on for you. - Yeah, me too,
I would love to know.
- Yes, I said those things.
I felt really close to you
and really comfortable with you,
and it felt really real.
So when we were laying down, and it felt really good
and I felt really comfortable,
I made a move and yes, we got intimate.
- And how was it?
- I--I thought it was great.
- Did you like it?
♪ ♪
- Wasn't bad for the first time.
- Okay. - It wasn't really satisfying.
- Okay, but it was-- It wasn't bad.
- No, I felt, like, "Oh, he's really passionate,
he's romantic." - Great.
- "He could probably handle me."
Doesn't look like it.
- Doesn't look like it?
Lindsey, do you want
to have a good sex life with him?
- Yeah. - Okay, then you need to not
be so rude when you're talking about it.
- It's so hard, Viv.
Like, I feel like we've been--I've been trying
to talk to you about this forever.
- Are you saying it's hard to not be rude?
- No, it's so hard to talk to him about this.
It's like, "Well, I threw my towel in.
I give up," you know?
- So you don't get to give up in a marriage,
you get to say, "Hey, we haven't figured this out yet.
"But it's still important to me,
"I still need this.
And I still wanna talk about this."
So let's figure out
what would need to happen for both of you
'cause this is both of your sex life.
What would make sense for both of you in order
to behave in ways and treat each other in ways
and work on the connection in ways to where
physical intimacy makes sense?
Now, do you trust each other enough to give each other
the benefit of the doubt at this point?
Or are you still working towards it?
- I think I trust Mark, I'm not sure Mark trusts me.
- I've never not trusted you, I feel that you don't trust me.
- That's not the case, I definitely trust you.
- Let's make a differentiation here.
Do you trust that you each want the best for each other?
- Yes.
- Yeah, I absolutely think that about Mark.
- Do you trust that you want to be
more emotionally and physically intimate
with each other?
- I would like that to happen. - Yes.
- You both want the same things.
You both want to be close.
You both want to trust even more.
You both actually do trust each other even though
you think you don't.
That needs to settle in for a little bit.
Overall, you trust that
you want the best for each other,
and that you're looking out for each other's interests.
Now prove that you're looking out
for the marriage's best interest.
- Okay.
- And don't be hurtful.
Don't make me go like this.
You know how many times I was, like, listening
and watching and I'm like, "What?"
Guys.
You hit really below the belt, don't do that anymore.
You can't.
That can't happen on my watch.
♪ ♪
All my veins are running empty now I'm back with you ♪
- How do you think the conversation
with Dr. Viviana went?
- I feel like we talked about a lot.
That was the first time that I really heard you say,
"Well, I feel like you're not putting effort in."
Because it's just like, "Yeah, you can wave that
ownership flag all you want, but that's not enough."
- Mm-hmm.
I appreciated that she just,
you know, let us talk but in a different way.
Because I feel like what we need to do moving forward
is just communicate.
- Right.
I think the writing down things might be a good idea too.
Because I realize, even when we're speaking to her,
we both were not letting the other person
finish a full thought. - That happened twice.
Please stop trying to use that as something
to, like, go off of. - Okay.
Whether it happened twice, three times, one time.
My point is it happened more than once.
- So what does that have to do with journaling?
- What I'm saying is we both have done this
where we're cutting each other off.
So my thought process is,
if we write things down,
let the other person get out everything they want to say
and then respond to that.
- I personally don't want to write that down because I
have no problem just being vocal and talking like this.
But you can write down your thoughts
and come to me with your journal.
I'm open to listening to what you journaled about.
- Okay, but this is our issue.
Why does it sound like I'm the one doing the exercise?
- I think that that's you in your head.
- If there's an issue that we both need to fix,
we should be doing the same things
to help that issue be fixed.
- I'm not making it a you thing.
That's what you're taking it as.
If I'm telling you I don't need to journal,
then Michael, I don't need to journal.
- I don't need to journal.
- I'm not done, Michael.
Why do I need to write in a journal
if I'm vocally telling you,
"Hey, I'm done, you can speak now."
- Are you done? - Yes.
- So the reason I'm introducing a new tool
is 'cause it hasn't been done yet.
You--you've shown time and time again.
- I'm sorry, can you give me one second, please?
- Of course.
♪ ♪
[door opens]
[door closes]
♪ ♪
- When Michael and I are by ourselves,
the communication goes right out of the door.
I'm just saying the same [bleep] back and forth.
- Is she okay?
- So that's why it's frustrating
'cause I'm saying, "Let's try it."
And you keep going back to "Well, you haven't done it."
Okay, so I'm saying let me try it.
I don't get why that's not clicking.
- Okay.
Let's come back in here, and let's just talk this out.
Let's--let's figure this out.
♪ ♪
- I feel like he's just not hearing me out,
and it's just his way or no way.
I can't help but feel like
this is not how it should be in a marriage.
I'm getting a little frustrated
because I'm literally saying that moving forward,
I would like to try a different approach.
And you're not accepting of it.
But that's what I would like to try to see
if we can have adult conversations.
You speak, I speak, you speak, I speak.
And that's why I needed to take a step back
because you weren't giving that space and that platform for us
to just try it out.
I personally don't want to journal.
- I don't give a damn about journaling.
I use it as maybe this can fix the problem.
So if you're saying that you want to try
the, "Are you done?"
The check ins, we can do that.
The reason we were going back and forth is because
I didn't hear you say we have another option.
The biggest thing was the we part.
- But even if I didn't say we, I still thought that
you weren't giving me that space to try
what I wanted to try. - Right now, I'm telling you.
You keep going backwards and saying--you just said--
- But this just happened five seconds ago.
- Okay, five sec--right now, present tense,
I'm telling you eff the journaling,
we can do it that way.
♪ ♪
It's just frustrating,
talking in circles, talking in circles,
until we just talk past each other
and make the conflict worse.
It's hard to open up to somebody about things
if it always turn into some type of disagreement.
- I think you need to work on really
hearing me when I speak.
- When Jasmina is pointing fingers,
it's a constant battle, it's a constant struggle.
It becomes a you against me thing.
When in--in a marriage, it should be an us thing.
If me and Jasmina can't figure out how
to resolve those small conflicts,
then we're never ever gonna get to the point
where we can resolve bigger issues in our marriage.
[sighs]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Looking out from the pier ♪
♪ ♪
- Just because we're going through a rough patch
doesn't mean that I'm not still gonna put
effort with our marriage.
That's a part of marriage.
I'm being a lot more vulnerable
than I was in the beginning, for sure.
I gotta woo him.
I'm gonna woo him.
- Ooh!
- Hi.
- Ay, you got my candy. [laughs]
- Hi.
- Ooh. - So.
Can you guess what this is?
- Movie night! - Yeah.
- You know I love that. - Yeah.
- That is huge to me, wow.
- When we first moved in here, I noticed you kept saying,
like--mentioning, like, a movie night,
movie night, movie night. - Yeah.
- And then I feel like we tried a couple of times.
- Yes. - But you know, you work
and you get home late. - Yes.
- And then we try to watch something.
- This is perfect. - And we would fall asleep.
So I was like, "You know what,
"it was something that I remember
"he kept saying, like, repetitively
and it was a movie night." - Mm-hmm.
You don't really go out. - Nope.
- I'm the going out person. - Yep.
- So I figured let's, like,
have a relaxing night in. - Yes.
- And do a movie night together.
- And I haven't been to a movie theater since COVID,
so this is, like, perfect.
- Yeah. - This is perfect.
So we can have a night in together.
- We tightening up on my type of night time now?
- Yes, and I know you were like,
"Oh, I gotta stop eating the candy,"
but this is the one time I had to pull out all the candy.
- This is perfect.
I'm shocked, I wouldn't have thought
you would have thought of that.
Like, every time we talk about going out, it's like, out out.
- Mm-hmm. - This is my type of going out.
So this really means a lot to me.
It really takes my breath 'cause, I mean,
you--you actually listened.
- Yeah, of course I listen to you.
- For real, for real, that means a lot to me.
'Cause I don't care about the world,
I care about, like, who I'm with.
- Mm-hmm. - That makes a moment.
- Yeah, I know that.
- Oh, this means a lot to me.
Thank you. - You're welcome.
- You look great, too.
- Thank you.
[both laugh]
- You're sexy.
So I'm definitely happy.
I'm happy I got to see this side of you
and see that you can hear me
even when--at my worst moments.
- Mm-hmm.
- And you know that I mean well,
for real. - Yeah, of course.
You have a big heart.
You're really a softy on the inside.
For all that hard stuff, you soft.
- Soft for you, soft for you, for real.
- [giggles]
I'm happy, I can't stop smiling
that I really brought joy to him.
Just knowing that I hit something
right on the nail for him
that he, like, actually enjoys.
That was the best part just knowing that I got it right.
- You know what I love about us is that you could
be yourself and I could be myself.
Like, yeah, I look like I work out all day, but I eat candy.
- Well, you do work out. - I know, I know.
[both laugh]
But I got to eat candy. I could drink juice.
I don't gotta fake sip champagne
to make you happy or feel like an adult.
- Mm-hmm.
- You know, my husband, he holds you down
as an adult and as a husband.
- Mm-hmm. - So it's cool for me.
Like, this is nice, this is nice.
I really feel like I got so much off my shoulder
and that it's nice that you can take control.
It's like a whole new beginning.
I love it.
I love it, love it, love it, seriously.
You're showing emotions through your actions.
This is what I was talking about.
- I told you I got you.
- I know, but now I'm seeing it
that I--words is cool.
People have let me down so many times.
- Yeah.
- And this-- You have not let me down.
This is what I needed, seriously.
♪ ♪
Movie time.
[both laugh]
All I ever wanted was someone ♪
♪ To hold my hand ♪
♪ ♪
- [giggles]
♪ ♪
I just love a good Nerf gun fight.
I think I've loved a Nerf gun fight since I was a kid.
[whispering] Don't narc on me!
It's a great way to get out some aggression
and tension when things are stressing you out
and another great way to have some fun.
- What?
There's a better weapon hidden?
"Good luck, the wife."
- And I feel like he needs to let loose a little bit.
- I don't know how to use this thing.
- I'm gonna win.
I don't take loss as an option.
♪ ♪
- Oh, jeez!
[Nerf gunfire]
♪ ♪
- [giggling] - All right, I shot you!
Okay, you lost!
You really--
- I think I won.
You get a five second head start!
- ♪ Running from you wasting ♪ - Ow, you're--you're cheating!
- ♪ In my parents' basement ♪
♪ Bubblegum and braces ♪
- She's got some crazy laugh to her.
- [laughs]
- And then you put a gun in her hand.
And I think she really might try and kill me tonight!
- [laughs]
- ♪ Gracious ♪
♪ I'm outrageous ♪
♪ Our love, love, love is a movie ♪
♪ And baby, I'm the star ♪
♪ I'm outrageous ♪
- Jeez.
She's pretty serious, I mean, this is, like,
not even a game.
This is, like, I'm gonna shoot you.
Like.
This thing's broken!
Ah! - [laughs]
[knock at door]
- All right, go get the door, put the guns away.
- Time out.
- I mean, with so much going on,
it's nice to come home and have a playful night
of fun and Nerf fights
and just enjoy each other's company.
- Oh, no.
Oh, no. - Oh, gosh.
Oh, I saw something about penis.
- I saw something that's a candy G-string,
and I'm pretty sure it's for you.
♪ ♪
"Mark and Lindsey.
"You're receiving this basket because we want you
"to have fun together as you focus
"on trust and intimacy this week.
"We urge you to push past any uncomfortable feelings
so you can build intimacy in your marriage."
- Physical intimacy is an important component
in any marriage,
especially a new marriage.
Lindsey and Mark have had some stumbling blocks
in that department.
So we've given them a gentle nudge,
which will hopefully send them in the right direction.
- "Have some fun this week and enjoy the goodies."
"The silent treatment."
You can read it, babe.
- "The point of this game is for Lindsey
to always listen to Mark and stop talking first."
I'm just kidding, it doesn't say that.
[laughs]
"The point of this game is to deepen your connection
without speaking."
Oh, that's great.
Silence is good for me because sometimes
there's so much going on that I like a little quiet time.
I think with intimacy, I like it soft
and romantic and not so...
[blows air]
I like a little bit of peace.
It doesn't happen a lot here.
- [giggles] - A ball gag.
- Yeah, I can't wait.
You're gonna have noise scares.
- You're gonna put a ball in my mouth,
like, this is--this is--
- Like a little chew toy.
Yeah, just be happy I'm not putting
a latex suit on you as well.
- That would never happen! - [laughs]
- I'd be forced out of Boston. - We haven't gotten
through the whole box yet, it might be in there.
- The gag ball?
Hmm, not so much something that is for me.
But it's my wife,
and I'm trying to show her we can trust each other.
Whatever Lindsey wants to do in the basket, we're gonna do.
It's what you do when you get married.
You get real adventurous and silly.
Oh, my God.
[grunts] - [giggles]
- [muffled] I can't even breathe with this thing on.
Okay.
Easy there, you're gonna break a tooth.
Okay.
- Open your mouth.
- I'm gonna, like, I'm gonna choke.
- No, open your mouth.
It goes in there, it's a ball gag.
It goes in your mouth.
- [normally] I'm gonna gag and choke.
- Mark looks like
a pig in a Polynesian buffet that did not quite
get the apple stuffed in his mouth.
He's like,
"I fought till the end. This isn't happening."
♪ ♪
- You're all about that.
- [muffled] Aw, yeah.
♪ ♪
[squeals] - [muffled] You put it on?
- [laughing]
How am I gonna put this on?
- Mm-hmm.
[laughter]
- Yeah, yeah, here you go.
There you go, there you go, there you go.
There you go.
Yeah.
- [giggling] - There we go.
I got this all over my hands.
- [laughing]
- You sound like a dolphin.
- It always feels good to laugh with Mark.
That's one of the things that attracts me to Mark most
is the fact that we can literally
just look at each other and just laugh.
But I want what I had for Mark on the honeymoon
and on our wedding night.
I want him to, like, dive in.
♪ ♪
- [chuckles]
- [whispered] So gross. - [chuckles]
[both laughing]
♪ ♪
- Oh.
- [muffled] Did you just drool on me?
- [muffled] Yes, I just went for a kiss.
[both laughing]
♪ ♪
This is fun to be playful.
But I'm not thinking,
"Ooh-la-la, let me go take off your pants."
I'm just like, "Stop laughing,
you're scaring me a little bit."
Ow.
No--no force.
My tooth hurts!
[both laugh]
Pick another card, you win.
- [grunts]
♪ ♪
Okay.
Small words.
- [grunts]
[packaging crinkling]
- Oh, what are you doing with that?
Ah.
- [giggles] - [muffled] Oh, God.
It's so sticky.
♪ ♪
What are you writing?
Penis? - [laughs]
I'm writing the word driven on my husband's forehead.
Because I want him to know that I really believe in him.
I think that he's hardworking
and motivated and capable.
And what I'm learning about Mark tonight is that
even though he may be closed-minded
and not interested in something, he will still
give it a shot, and that counts for something.
- [muffled] Are you having fun? - [giggling]
I got a candy G-string, and I got [bleep] on my head.
And a ball in my mouth on my teeth.
- [muffled] Uh-huh. - I'm having fun.
- Uh-huh.
- [grunts]
♪ ♪
[chuckles]
[groans]
♪ ♪
There goes my shirt.
♪ ♪
- [giggles]
Hold on, hold on a second.
- Where are you going?
- [giggles]
- This is what you want on the refrigerator?
[camera clicks]
- Uh-huh.
I feel relaxed.
- It looks like he got hazed
at a college sorority.
But I'm the one who hazed him!
[laughs]
You look sexy as [bleep].
We gotta add that to the fridge.
Mark's first ball gag.
Something to show the grandkids, you know?
♪ ♪
- Nope, this is not for me.
♪ ♪
♪ I'm coming way up ♪
- I'm getting the guys together for a little
synthetic ice hockey.
- That sounds fun.
At least you guys are doing something active.
- You ready to go have fun with the girls?
- Yeah. - Okay.
- Noi invited all the girls to do aerial yoga.
You know what that is? - Yoga.
- Yeah, but it's like these--
- Oh, you're flying, like, the--
- Yeah. - I can't imagine y'all.
- How do you think me and Jasmina--
- I'm jealous that I'm not gonna be there to watch you.
That's gonna be so funny. - I feel like I'm
gonna bust my ass.
- I think if we can get home and get out
of the activity without getting injured
or hurting ourselves, I think it's a win.
- I can't make no promises. [both laugh]
- ♪ Let me hear you say ♪
- ♪ Bump to the wall and grind ♪
- ♪ Let me hear you say ♪
- ♪ Bump to the wall and grind ♪
- Reay to get on the ice? - Yeah, I'm ready, man.
- All right, man, what size are you?
- I'm 13.
- ♪ Bump to the wall and grind ♪
- ♪ Let me hear you say ♪
- ♪ Bump to the wall and grind ♪
- This is your once a month workout.
- Aerial yoga. - I know.
- I think sometimes it's really nice
to hear from the other wives
where they're at in the process
and how they're feeling.
And it's great to kind of get both perspectives
and put it into perspective, really.
- Nervous?
- No. - Yeah, a little bit.
- I'm excited.
- I've done yoga before,
and I've done the aerials before,
so this is right up my alley.
This is definitely my cup of tea.
- All right, first things first to get started.
Find yourself at the top of the mat
to walk yourself all the way in.
Push the hammock down, look to your feet.
Lift on your tippy toes
and as you're looking at your feet, knee to the nose.
And scoot your way in. So you want to wiggle a little.
- [blows raspberry]
[chuckles]
I am so nervous about
getting up on the, like, rope.
- 'Cause when you're ready, your left foot is
gonna go up and over to the other side.
- Oh, girl. - I know it can be
a little awkward but if you need to grab...
- Oh.
- I'm not flexible enough for this.
- Flex your knees, grab your foot in.
- I'm 30, I can't move the way that I used to.
I need to start stretching,
working out with my husband more.
[laughs]
- Goes back and then-- - [yelps]
[laughter] - You got it.
- ♪ Yeah, I work out tip top upside down ♪
♪ It's your girl got her head spinning round and around ♪
- Wider than the hammock, start to slide your hands down.
- Whee! - This is my idea of fun.
[giggles]
- Look at that booty, it's poking.
- You see it poking? - You got a nice little booty.
You do.
- Okay, I wanna come up.
- [laughs] - I need help.
- I got you, you're fine.
- Now that Alyssa's not around, this meetup
is going really well.
I think Katina is...
♪ ♪
Let's not ruin a good thing.
We're getting along well.
I really don't want to say anything.
And I hope that that continues to be
the progress now that we've trimmed the fat.
- ♪ Yo, we like it ♪ - ♪ When we lose ♪
- ♪ When we lose our minds - ♪ Our minds ♪
- Two, one.
Front sway, drop your knee down.
- That one butterfly move where we were, like,
upside down, legs open, it did it for me.
I definitely felt like I probably broke my coochie,
I ain't gonna lie.
Oh, [bleep].
- You all did it.
- I probably won't do it again.
[chuckles]
- Namaste.
- And good job and congratulations
on your first time being upside down multiple times in the air.
- Thank you! - Yeah, thank you.
- Thank you, that was so fun.
♪ ♪
- So guys, I got some big news.
I dropped the I word.
All: Ooh!
- I told her I loved her.
- Ooh. - Wow.
- Nice, brother, that's a special feeling.
- How did she--how did she take you saying that?
- She got up and--and ran
down--down the beach.
[chuckling]
- Jumped on the lifeguard and came back.
- No, she--she took it-- She was shocked for a minute,
and she kind of looked at me and she's like.
And then she's like, "I love you too."
So it's like, oh. - That's great.
- So I took a risk, man, I took a risk.
But she--luckily, she came back with it.
- Nice, brother. - Thanks, man.
- That's great, man.
♪ ♪
- Come on, O. - Wrong way.
- ♪ Oh, you turn me on ♪
- Oh, Mike, Mike, Mike!
- I was too busy fumbling, bro!
- I got you!
- So this is my first time playing hockey.
I've never even skated before.
So as expected, I'm not the greatest at ice hockey.
- Mike!
Whoa! - Ah!
- [bleep]
- Oh! - Steve!
Steve, clear it!
♪ ♪
- Oh, Mike, go!
- Ah!
- Mike! Run it!
Steve, Steve!
- ♪ Oh my, help me again ♪
♪ You bring me back from the end ♪
- I definitely took a couple falls.
I think Olajuwon took a couple falls.
I think we took a couple falls together.
- Whoa!
- Oh!
- I'm coming!
- [bleep] - Ah!
[bleep]
- You good, you good? - Yeah, yeah.
Did that go in? - Yeah.
- Okay, good, good, nice shot.
And luckily, no one got really hurt.
- I'm adjusting pretty well to married life.
I mean, I'm pretty happy.
I don't miss dating.
- Do you guys still feel like you're,
like, you're chasing or being chased?
- I think that I miss the chase a little bit.
But I'd say the thing
that I miss is, like, the mystery.
Like, I almost think Steve and I
are too comfortable around each other.
[chuckles]
- I miss that chase part of, like, dating.
And that's something that I said, like,
even in the beginning when we were,
like, having our problems.
And I'm like,
"Honestly, our problems started
"because of you and your mouth.
"And I feel like I'm the one that's talking to you,
reaching out to you, chasing you."
- Guys, they never, like...
Think.
[chuckling]
There's nothing I miss about dating.
I like living with someone.
I like waking up to someone.
Like, I just--I'm enjoying everything.
But at the same time,
I'm also taking it day by day.
So I'm not letting myself
getting lost in, like, the fairy tale.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I'm still realistic, but I don't miss dating.
[chuckles]
- I don't know, man.
I've had some fun.
- With dating. - Yeah.
- So you--
- [laughs] - So you--so you
miss the chase?
- Yeah, man, I miss being wooed.
I've dated some--I've dated some established men
and older men.
Men who, like, really got their [bleep] together
and are ready to, like, woo a woman.
And I like to be wooed.
The type of men that approached me
are big fish, but they don't necessarily have
the qualities I want when it comes to a husband.
And I think I could very easily have that with Mark.
And I'd love to have that with Mark,
but I'm not willing to give up all of that woo.
You gotta give me some, okay?
Listen, at least he's having sex with me again
and I'm getting my orgasm, so. [laughs]
- Okay. - Oh, my God.
- It does wonders for my attitude.
[laughter]
It really does.
- At its best in these last four weeks,
when has it been its highest and when has it been its lowest
since you guys got married?
- It's like touch and go each week.
I feel like as far as, like, effort
on things that she's done for me,
I'd say she's like a nine.
More like a ten because she's done so many nice things for me
as far as, like, doing things and cleaning the house,
taking care of the cats.
But listening to me and how I need her
to relax a little bit on some things,
I give her, like, a six
because that's not where I want it to be for me.
- I'm gonna say last week, you guys seen my energy,
I was dead.
I was at--I was at, like, a four out of ten, it was low.
But this week, I feel like, you know,
I'm an eight out of ten, and that's really high.
It just means you're going through moods and swings.
- So there was never a time when you felt like
a one or a zero?
- One and zero, if I hit that low, I'm giving up.
- I've definitely had a time where I was like,
maybe, like, a two or a one
just because things were so tough.
And I'm just like,
"If we're having this much issues
this early on, like, how are we gonna get out of this?"
- Right. - I mean, my parents were
never married, so I never really had my own, like, idea
of what marriage looks like.
So I knew I was be--going into it.
I created my own idea of what marriage is.
But even with that, I didn't think
it'd be this difficult this early on.
- On a scale of one to ten, what do you rate your marriage?
- I think maybe, like, a seven.
♪ ♪
Because we had a lot of great conversations
and so I think until I start-- Things start moving
and we're doing everything that we said we're gonna do,
then that rating will be higher.
But I can't think-- I can't think
she'll say anything higher than a seven.
- I don't even feel comfortable giving us a rating,
to be honest.
So I'm just not gonna do it.
- I think that's fair.
- We're just--we're just working on our marriage
and that's just that.
- What number do you need to get at
for Decision Day to say yes,
in your head?
You gotta be a ten,
or you willing to go yes on an eight?
- Would I go yes on an eight?
I'll go yes on an eight.
- Okay.
- But I just feel like 'cause our first month
has just been no communication at all
that our last month together
would have to be pretty [bleep] amazing
for me to say yes on Decision Day
because we just lost
a whole month of getting to know each other.
- Sometimes Mark says that.
He's like, "We lost three weeks until we had
a breakthrough and understood how to communicate."
And it hurts my feelings when he says that
'cause I'm like, "We didn't lose three weeks."
- I know. - "I learned so much
in those three weeks." - Mm-hmm.
And the difference is I didn't learn [bleep] about [bleep].
[laughter]
♪ ♪
- I'm tired.
Oh, skates.
I thought I was gonna break my ankle.
- Me too.
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
According to the one month,
is there anything that you think we need to work on?
- I need to be wooed.
- Wooed. - From that--you gotta earn me.
Like, you have me and I'm willing
to take you for better or worse and through all your stuff,
but, like, I get wooed a lot.
Like, I dunno,
there ain't no woo.
- With Lindsey and most of her relationships,
she probably always had somebody kind of, like,
pursue her pretty hard.
But the difference between that and this
is that there was breathing room.
In this situation, we're with each other
all day, all night.
That we have difficult conversations,
it's sometimes harder to go woo her.
She will get wooed when the time is right,
and when she gets wooed, it will be great.
- I need to feel like
you are invested in me
and, like, you're making an effort.
That would be all the difference for me between
saying yes and no on Decision Day.
♪ ♪
- Gotcha.
♪ ♪
I will take what you want
into consideration and try to work on it.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Watch out, now you better make it last ♪
♪ Find out, gonna make it your last chance ♪
♪ Oh ♪
- Hi!
- Hello. - Hi, welcome.
- How are you? - Good, good.
Great to see you.
I'm gonna be your yoga teacher for today.
We're going to help you guys connect.
- For some couples,
doing a little extra homework to jumpstart physical intimacy
pays off down the road.
- I'm gonna have you two begin sitting back to back.
We're gonna work on getting in sync.
- And for a couple like Jasmina and Michael who are
physically attracted to one another,
but need to feel more connected,
Tantric yoga could be just what they need.
- Just take a deep breath in together
and let it out slowly.
♪ ♪
- Yoga is definitely
a different level of intimacy.
- Press against each other
and see if you can feel a little stretch
through the upper back,
through the chest and shoulders.
- Michael and I are putting our hands on each other,
and it feels good being, you know, close to him
and letting him receive all of me in a sense.
- See if you can hear her heartbeat.
Breathing slowly.
Good, last breath.
♪ ♪
All right.
One more activity for you tonight.
It is really helpful in creating trust, communication.
- I can definitely
see myself being intimate with Michael.
- "While one person is asking the question,
"the person answering must be blindfolded.
"If you feel your spouse was honest with the answer,
you can reward them with a treat."
- But that's only if we create a bond and trust one another.
♪ ♪
- "Do you think you've been fully vulnerable with me?
If not, why not?"
- No, I have not been fully vulnerable with you.
Because with the lack of communication, I don't feel
that you honestly care sometimes
for the marriage.
[clears throat]
Or for me as a person.
So I would definitely say I'm holding back
giving my all and being 100% vulnerable.
- All right.
♪ ♪
- Yeah.
So.
♪ ♪
"What's hard to say?"
- That I wish I trust you more.
Once you have more conversations,
and I don't feel like you're being
or trying to be defensive,
you're just genuinely trying to understand my point of view.
That'd be a step in the right direction
of me trusting you.
♪ ♪
- It's not a shock to me that
you feel that way.
- Yeah.
- I also know that I have to create
a safe space for you to trust me.
And me getting--giving you certain reactions
when we've had conflicts,
I see why you've been the way you are.
But nothing is always completely your fault.
- This is the first time Jasmina has taken ownership
in saying that she does need to create
that safe space for us to have open co--open dialogue.
And I think that's a huge, huge step
in the right direction.
- [whispering] You like raspberries?
Do you like blackberries?
- [whispering] I like everything.
- Because I can tell that
she's really taking it in
and trying to understand me.
- "Do you regret getting married at first sight?"
- [exhales]
No.
We've had a rough patch, for sure.
But I will say if we can make it through this hump,
I think we'll know each other a lot more.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I don't regret it.
- I mean, we've definitely had bumps.
But we've also had good moments where I know
what it's like to be married to you, like, when we're good.
And if those moments can continue,
you know, that would be amazing.
♪ ♪
- I care for her,
I want to build a really strong connection
and strong bond.
So hoping that, you know, moving forward,
we can build that trust.
- Tilt your head back.
Open.
- [grunting]
- [laughs]
♪ ♪
You were supposed to trust me, why you move?
- [laughs] Damn!
Oh, man.
- [laughing] - What are you doing?
- I'm sorry.
- Wow.
So much for trust. - You wasn't supposed to move.
[chuckling]
Any flavor you want?
Lime, raspberry?
- I'll take raspberry.
- Looks like we have a whole game ahead of us, huh?
- I know, cheers. - All right.
- Let's drink before we play.
[both laugh]
- We've given Noi and Steve
the five senses exercise because although
they have a good sense of intimacy already,
this game will allow them to go deeper.
- What do you think, do we shuffle it
or we just go straight from the top?
- Let's just go straight from the top.
- Ideally, it will force them
to get out of their comfort zones
and practice communicating their needs, wants, desires,
and even fears.
- "Taste.
Take a body shot."
What is a body shot?
- There's two ways you can do it.
One right in the skin,
or two if you put a shot glass
on someone's body and take it off of it.
There's two approaches.
- [laughs] Okay.
This is not ideal. [laughs]
I don't know how to do this.
- Just open wide.
[laughing]
- I've never taken a body shot before.
Ever.
- [chuckles]
You got it!
I mean, it's not my first body shot by any means.
And I'm sure it's not hers.
She might have just been, you know,
acting like that for her new husband.
- "Dance for your partner."
- [chuckles]
[both laughing]
- What are you doing?
♪ ♪
[laughs]
- Now guess what fruit it is.
- Blackberry? - Blackberry.
- Mmm.
"Tell your partner one intimate fantasy you have
or would like to try with them."
Why don't you go first?
[laughs]
- I think we should try
taking a shower and washing each other
with soap and water.
Washing the other person.
[both laugh]
- Okay, okay.
[laughs]
I'm like...
so you just want to take a shower and get clean?
All right.
I think we should
try to have sex
in a semi-public place.
[both laugh]
- What do you mean semi?
♪ ♪
- [whispering] Outside of our home.
- Okay, that sounds good to me.
I have a few ideas.
Run 'em by you.
I'm actually shocked 'cause this is the first time I think
she's said the word sex in public,
and never mind to have sex in public.
I'm actually somebody who really enjoys
helping somebody fulfill their fantasies.
So whether we're on a road trip
or just going for a walk in the woods.
But I have a few other ideas,
I just think I have to find something that
is safe enough to not get in trouble.
And that would--that she'd be comfortable enough with it.
- "Write down your fears, struggles, or worries
and watch it burn together."
♪ ♪
As much as I
love Steve and we have this, like, intimate connection,
I'm starting to realize that
I have to do things that are uncomfortable for me.
Some of my fears is not surviving as a married couple.
It's so much work.
Just opening up and letting my husband see who I really am.
A few of my worries, worrying if I am strong enough
to be your better half.
Worried about our future.
Worried that you won't love everything about me.
- You don't have to worry about that.
[both laughing]
- Oh, my God. - Okay, just playin'.
I fear that we can't grow and adjust in the ways
we need from each other.
♪ ♪
As far as intimacy goes and sexual chemistry,
things are still really great for us.
And I feel really secure in what we have.
But my biggest concern at this point in this marriage
is the expectation that Noi has for me,
and that it doesn't work out between us.
♪ ♪
- Can I try?
- What are you gonna do?
- For you on you.
I'll pro--I'll not go.
- My trust have not-- Hasn't been the same
since the whipped cream.
- [laughs] - Go ahead, do your thing.
♪ ♪
Feel how smooth that is?
- Wow, look at you. - See?
I would say at this point,
I'm feeling hopeful in our marriage.
I'm feeling like our mindset has changed.
♪ ♪
- [laughing]
- What?
I'm not sleeping without this, I'm dead serious.
- Maybe you should put it over your mouth so you don't snore.
- And when we can just have fun with each other
and really focus on building a great foundation
and being each other's better half.
- I think yoga was good.
- Yeah. - It definitely made us closer.
- I think doing the exercise was the first time
that we looked at each other in the eye
for a long period of time since--since the wedding day.
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
- I haven't felt a spark since,
like, our wedding day.
- ♪ All I want is you in my arms ♪
- But looking each other in the eyes,
all these exercises just brought up similar feelings.
I really enjoyed connecting
on that level first before we got--
- Before speaking. - To--yeah.
- Yeah, I agree with that. - Mm-hmm.
- If we keep building on the conversations we had today,
it would be inevitable that the emotional connection
would grow. - Mm-hmm.
- But once we have the emotional intimacy
as a foundation, I think everything else would--
- Fall into place. - Fall into place naturally.
- I definitely feel like a connection is forming.
But I feel like we have, like, those good days
and then, like, something will happen.
We just need, like, a really good--
- Yeah. - Streak, like.
[chuckles]
- I personally feel like after the blind truth exercise,
it's made me feel like now we know
where each other's heads is at.
- Mm-hmm.
I enjoyed all the activities
and I think it definitely put us in a better place for sure.
- How so?
- Well, I didn't cut you off at all.
I gave my props.
Gimme a high-five.
- You have--we need, like, a whole week of that.
- Gimme a high-five. - A whole week of that
and I'll give you a high-five. - Small wins.
- Get a fist bump.
- What is that?
- You're corny as hell. - [laughs]
- I hate that you think you're mad funny.
- I hate that you fell for it!
- ♪ I'm not gonna tell us no ♪
- ♪ We gonna keep on, we gonna keep on rising ♪
[knock at door]
- Ooh!
[laughs]
- Ah, perfect.
That's what I'm talking about, Dr. Viviana,
that's what I'm talking-- I see a whip.
I see a whip, I like that... [imitates whipcrack] Anyway.
Ooh. - Oh, my God.
- Now we're talking, Dr. Viviana.
Now we're talking.
- Dr. Viviana sent us a--a care package.
I think that's for you.
- Hell no, this ain't going in my butt!
You know I don't play with nothin' with the cheeks.
No, I ain't doin' that.
- Oh, no, I think I put this on.
I have been in a relationship where I was more--
A little bit of the dominant one and it kind of just, like,
turned me off a little bit. Not a little bit, a lot.
"Olajuwon and Katina, you are receiving this basket
"because we want to-- Want you to have...
[both laugh]
- "Fun together as you focus on trust and intimacy this week.
"We urge you to push past any uncomfortable feelings
"so you can build intimacy in your marriage.
Enjoy these goodies."
Lemme see this.
Does it hurt?
- Hit me with it right here.
Damn, that was my hand! - Does it hurt?
- Not my hand, I gotta use it!
- ♪ You know you wanna ♪
♪ You know you wanna ♪
- Okay, girl.
Okay. - It's kinda cute.
- It is.
- You like my outfit?
This is? - Yeah.
And I wear this.
[chuckles]
- That--this is so weird.
- Are you supposed to--hell, no,
you ain't putting it on my neck 'cause I'm your dog!
- Yeah, I put it right here. - Hell no!
- And then I be like, "Come on, Olajuwon."
- [laughs]
What are you doing, yo?
- [laughing]
♪ ♪
- This might be the first outfit we wear.
When we go down.
Or if it goes down.
My wife and I have not had sex in our marriage.
So today, I've seen the tension break from her.
- Now you can't see me, you don't know what I'm gonna do.
- I don't know. [laughs]
♪ ♪
- ♪ No, I won't beg you to stay if you want to ♪
- I seen her loosen out.
I got to finally make my wife vulnerable
with this type of dressing up and this dialogue.
- I like to be in control,
and I don't like to be controlled,
but I do like
someone who's gonna be, like, "Grr."
Like, I like that. - Yeah.
- [chuckles] - We're getting closer.
♪ ♪
Oh, my God.
- I'm really ticklish.
- I'm trying to give you a massage.
- I know, but it tickles. - Get it together.
- I'm trying to grow up but I can't.
- Yeah, grow up, exactly.
- [laughs] Grow up, let me, like--
Let me--let my hands do its magic, you know?
Gonna do your back now baby.
- Okay.
- Ooh. - This is really what
I'm about, I'm really good at massages.
- It feels so good.
- You never had a man give you a mass--like a--
- No, this is my first time.
- Yeah, and you feel good.
That means we got-- We got some chemistry.
- We got some chemistry. - We got some chemistry.
- But we already knew that.
- Yeah, but now we're really testing it.
Like, I know when she says she felt a little razzle
when I was on her back.
I was surprised she didn't say when I was on her stomach
'cause I was kind of near the tutu.
But hey, if the back is where it is, that's why I like you.
You're all done, baby. - Okay, my turn.
- It's another way of us being intimate.
I--it's cool seeing each other naked,
but I have never touched her like that.
Back to the blindfolds. - So you put this back on.
- Okay.
- And no peeking. - I'm not peeking.
I'm not peeking. - Don't cheat.
- ♪ Ooh ♪
- I'm gonna lift up your shirt, okay?
- I knew you was gonna do that--I knew you was
gonna do something like that. - Do what?
- ♪ Ooh ♪
- Okay, ready? - Yeah.
- Don't kick me.
♪ ♪
- Ah!
- [giggling]
- Is that wat--is that liquor?
She put a shot in my belly button.
That was kinda, like,
"Oh, you really wanna get nasty."
Lucky I took a shower! [laughs]
It showed me that she is really comfortable with me.
I had fun with you today, it was good.
- I had fun with you too. - It was good.
- Want to carry me?
- Carry you? - Yeah.
I like when you carry me.
Oh!
[laughs]
[squeals]
- ♪ I don't wanna be right if this is wrong ♪
- [laughs]
- ♪ Take me to, take me to the unknown ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ I want a higher love, I wanna love ♪
- Still to come this season on "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ Ooh ♪
- The way I look at you, I'd--I have never
opened up to anybody this way.
Being in love feels like you're complete.
It's so beautiful.
- I'm in love with you, but I also love you and like you.
[giggles]
- All three. - All three of them!
- I promise to light up your life
like the candles you do every night.
- Ooh.
- I'm grateful, and I appreciate you.
I wish going into Decision Day was easier than this.
- Let me see your phone real quick.
Why do you have that?
It's tough.
It's [bleep] that I didn't want.
- ♪ Side by side ♪
- We're setting ourselves up to--to just fail.
- Anytime we have a conversation
about our honeymoon-- - Stop, stop, stop, stop.
You don't have to, like, grip me like that.
- You know what, I'm done.
- That's all BS.
Could you be doing more?
- I'm a real person with real feelings.
- You give me affection, you pull it all the way back.
- I feel you complain and you nag.
- Then you can kiss my ass.
- You want to fight with me, you want to get tough.
- I swear to God, if you're [bleep]--
Filming is done for the night.
- You're a bad person, you betrayed me.
- This bitch is like,
"I don't [bleep] know what just happened."
- It's the end of the road for us.
- ♪ La-la-la ♪
♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪
- The time has come for you to make a decision.
- Do you want to stay married?
- Or do you want to get a divorce?
- [sniffles]
♪ ♪