1 00:00:02,127 --> 00:00:03,247 - Oh, [bleep]. 2 00:00:03,378 --> 00:00:05,418 - Just over one month ago, 3 00:00:05,547 --> 00:00:07,877 ten singles took a bold leap of faith 4 00:00:08,008 --> 00:00:09,758 in order to find love. 5 00:00:09,885 --> 00:00:12,685 They married as complete strangers, 6 00:00:12,763 --> 00:00:14,473 and in three and a half weeks, 7 00:00:14,556 --> 00:00:17,266 they’ll have to decide whether they want to stay married 8 00:00:17,392 --> 00:00:18,852 or get a divorce. 9 00:00:18,936 --> 00:00:20,516 [upbeat music] 10 00:00:20,604 --> 00:00:22,274 Last time, our couples celebrated 11 00:00:22,397 --> 00:00:25,607 their one-month anniversary as husband and wife. 12 00:00:25,734 --> 00:00:28,574 - ♪ Your love for me, I circled ’round the block ♪ 13 00:00:28,654 --> 00:00:31,284 - Jasmina and Michael. 14 00:00:31,406 --> 00:00:33,486 - Do you feel like reliving the wedding day 15 00:00:33,575 --> 00:00:34,735 brought us any closer? 16 00:00:34,826 --> 00:00:37,286 - It definitely reminded me of that day 17 00:00:37,412 --> 00:00:39,292 and how happy I was that day. 18 00:00:39,414 --> 00:00:41,924 I really hope that this feeling continues. 19 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:43,790 - ♪ It’s my time, oh ♪ 20 00:00:43,919 --> 00:00:45,549 - Lindsey and Mark. 21 00:00:45,629 --> 00:00:47,419 - I’ll always protect you 22 00:00:47,506 --> 00:00:51,216 ’cause you’re, like, such a sweet person. 23 00:00:51,301 --> 00:00:54,431 I think we’ve grown to a point of comfortability 24 00:00:54,513 --> 00:00:56,683 with each other on trust. 25 00:00:56,765 --> 00:00:59,175 Hopefully, we will figure things out. 26 00:00:59,268 --> 00:01:00,598 ♪ ♪ 27 00:01:00,686 --> 00:01:02,226 - Noi and Steve. 28 00:01:02,312 --> 00:01:03,692 - What are you gonna do for work? 29 00:01:03,772 --> 00:01:06,982 Like, what are our expectations around money? 30 00:01:07,109 --> 00:01:09,489 Just know that, like, if we don’t have those discussions, 31 00:01:09,611 --> 00:01:12,661 like, we’re setting ourselves up to just fail. 32 00:01:12,781 --> 00:01:14,741 [dramatic music] 33 00:01:14,825 --> 00:01:16,795 - Katina and Olajuwon. 34 00:01:16,910 --> 00:01:18,500 - Why do you have that? 35 00:01:18,620 --> 00:01:20,870 - I don’t have a profile. This is old. 36 00:01:20,956 --> 00:01:24,036 - It’s spit in my face because you are married! 37 00:01:24,126 --> 00:01:25,746 You’re married, you shouldn’t be on dating apps. 38 00:01:25,836 --> 00:01:27,706 - Filming is done for the night. 39 00:01:27,796 --> 00:01:30,626 I’m done. Thank you. Get this off of me. 40 00:01:30,716 --> 00:01:32,086 ♪ ♪ 41 00:01:32,175 --> 00:01:33,545 - And tonight, 42 00:01:33,635 --> 00:01:35,595 our couples confront the reality 43 00:01:35,679 --> 00:01:37,969 of what a lifetime with their spouse 44 00:01:38,056 --> 00:01:40,056 would actually entail. 45 00:01:40,142 --> 00:01:42,062 [both snapping] - It’s still salty. 46 00:01:42,144 --> 00:01:43,274 - You ain’t throwing it out, though. 47 00:01:43,353 --> 00:01:44,773 - Mm-mm, I’m eating that [bleep]. 48 00:01:44,855 --> 00:01:46,445 - We’ll keep on splitting Sushi duties 49 00:01:46,523 --> 00:01:48,323 and we’ll both split the bathroom duties. Perfect. 50 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,150 Pleasure doing business with you. 51 00:01:50,277 --> 00:01:51,317 You’re not sold? 52 00:01:52,738 --> 00:01:55,068 - I don’t think that’s the right play here. 53 00:01:56,325 --> 00:01:57,535 ♪ ♪ 54 00:01:57,659 --> 00:02:00,249 - Like, I’m a real person with real feelings. 55 00:02:00,329 --> 00:02:02,909 - It’s been a month and I don’t have feelings for him. 56 00:02:02,998 --> 00:02:04,618 ♪ ♪ 57 00:02:04,708 --> 00:02:05,918 - This is a boundary. 58 00:02:06,001 --> 00:02:08,001 I feel like you’ve crossed it. This bothers me. 59 00:02:08,128 --> 00:02:09,088 - Two-way street. 60 00:02:09,171 --> 00:02:10,131 - No, Mark. I take accountability. 61 00:02:10,213 --> 00:02:11,553 - All me. All me. Okay, you do. 62 00:02:11,673 --> 00:02:12,843 - Any time we have a conversation on-- 63 00:02:12,924 --> 00:02:14,184 - Stop, stop, stop, stop. 64 00:02:14,259 --> 00:02:15,929 You don’t have to, like, grip me like that. 65 00:02:16,011 --> 00:02:17,471 - I’m done. 66 00:02:17,554 --> 00:02:20,014 This is no man of mine. 67 00:02:20,098 --> 00:02:21,678 No friend of mine. 68 00:02:21,767 --> 00:02:24,597 ♪ ♪ 69 00:02:24,686 --> 00:02:26,346 - ♪ It’s all or nothing ♪ 70 00:02:26,438 --> 00:02:28,978 - This is "Married at First Sight." 71 00:02:29,066 --> 00:02:31,356 - ♪ There’s no other way ♪ 72 00:02:31,443 --> 00:02:32,653 ♪ ♪ 73 00:02:32,736 --> 00:02:34,816 ♪ It’s all or nothing ♪ 74 00:02:34,905 --> 00:02:37,875 [up-tempo electronic music] 75 00:02:37,949 --> 00:02:42,789 ♪ ♪ 76 00:02:42,871 --> 00:02:44,411 [knocking on door] 77 00:02:44,539 --> 00:02:46,169 ♪ ♪ 78 00:02:46,249 --> 00:02:48,959 - You know Auntie Katina don’t like dogs. 79 00:02:49,044 --> 00:02:50,844 - Oh, hey. 80 00:02:50,921 --> 00:02:51,921 - Hi. 81 00:02:52,047 --> 00:02:53,207 - Hey. - What’s going on? 82 00:02:53,298 --> 00:02:54,918 - Hello. 83 00:02:55,050 --> 00:02:56,220 - I know you don’t like dogs. 84 00:02:56,343 --> 00:02:58,053 Just rub him for a quick second. 85 00:02:58,178 --> 00:02:59,428 [laughs] 86 00:02:59,554 --> 00:03:02,934 - I came to see Jasmina just because, you know, 87 00:03:03,058 --> 00:03:05,348 she spends a lot of time with me and Olajuwon, 88 00:03:05,435 --> 00:03:07,595 and she’s, like, my go-to person, 89 00:03:07,729 --> 00:03:09,479 and I know that she’ll be able to listen to me 90 00:03:09,564 --> 00:03:10,904 and comfort me in this moment. 91 00:03:10,982 --> 00:03:13,322 - What’s going on? 92 00:03:13,402 --> 00:03:17,162 - So, you know, we just came back from, like, the dinner, 93 00:03:17,239 --> 00:03:19,529 and he was just like, "Oh," like, "Let me see your phone." 94 00:03:19,616 --> 00:03:22,156 And I was like, "Okay," so I opened my phone, 95 00:03:22,244 --> 00:03:25,124 and there’s a dating app on my phone. 96 00:03:25,247 --> 00:03:28,997 [tense music] 97 00:03:29,084 --> 00:03:31,044 Clicked on it, it was just a login page 98 00:03:31,128 --> 00:03:33,168 ’cause I don’t use dating apps. 99 00:03:33,255 --> 00:03:35,885 - It’ll be some [bleep] if you was logged into that app. 100 00:03:35,966 --> 00:03:37,046 - [laughs] 101 00:03:37,134 --> 00:03:38,514 - Then I would have been like, "Oh." 102 00:03:38,593 --> 00:03:39,893 - Yeah, I really didn’t know what he was talking about. 103 00:03:39,970 --> 00:03:41,010 When he was like, "Go to your phone," 104 00:03:41,096 --> 00:03:42,176 I’m like, "What is in my phone?" 105 00:03:42,264 --> 00:03:43,314 Literally, I was like, 106 00:03:43,432 --> 00:03:44,772 "I didn’t know I had that on there." 107 00:03:44,891 --> 00:03:48,061 And that’s not an excuse. It’s just, that’s my truth. 108 00:03:48,145 --> 00:03:50,945 I have millions of things that I download and I don’t delete. 109 00:03:51,022 --> 00:03:52,322 - Yeah. 110 00:03:52,441 --> 00:03:54,781 - But he’s just like, "Oh, all that doesn’t matter. 111 00:03:54,901 --> 00:03:57,111 You’re giving me buts and excuses." 112 00:03:57,195 --> 00:03:58,905 And then I was trying to tell him 113 00:03:58,989 --> 00:04:01,159 the way that he approached the situation in my eyes 114 00:04:01,283 --> 00:04:03,243 was, like, you know, disrespectful 115 00:04:03,326 --> 00:04:05,286 for me, in my opinion. 116 00:04:05,412 --> 00:04:07,872 And he was just like, it’s not about my feelings. 117 00:04:07,956 --> 00:04:10,456 It’s about what I did. 118 00:04:10,542 --> 00:04:13,382 I know Olajuwon’s working on his tone, 119 00:04:13,462 --> 00:04:16,802 but I’m not seeing a change. 120 00:04:16,882 --> 00:04:20,892 And today, the tone that he used just wasn’t okay. 121 00:04:20,969 --> 00:04:23,719 So for me, it’s thinking about, like, 122 00:04:23,805 --> 00:04:27,805 "Is this something that you’re going to do again to me?" 123 00:04:27,893 --> 00:04:31,693 And I don’t know if I would be able to see myself 124 00:04:31,813 --> 00:04:34,323 with someone who operates like that. 125 00:04:34,399 --> 00:04:36,689 - So how did you guys leave off the conversation? 126 00:04:36,818 --> 00:04:38,108 Did it get resolved any way, 127 00:04:38,195 --> 00:04:39,785 or was it just, like, he walked away-- 128 00:04:39,863 --> 00:04:41,323 - He walked away. 129 00:04:41,406 --> 00:04:44,196 He was like, he just needed to cool off. 130 00:04:44,326 --> 00:04:45,736 ♪ ♪ 131 00:04:45,827 --> 00:04:47,867 - So to finish the conversation or... 132 00:04:47,996 --> 00:04:49,786 - Mm... 133 00:04:49,873 --> 00:04:52,713 we tried to, like, have the conversation 134 00:04:52,834 --> 00:04:55,214 but no matter what I say to him, 135 00:04:55,337 --> 00:04:57,587 in his mind, it’s still always gonna be like, 136 00:04:57,672 --> 00:05:01,012 "But you still had it on your phone." 137 00:05:01,092 --> 00:05:03,972 - I think when you’re really upset about something 138 00:05:04,054 --> 00:05:06,564 and somebody’s giving you reasonings 139 00:05:06,681 --> 00:05:08,391 for why something was there 140 00:05:08,517 --> 00:05:10,937 or why something was the way it was, 141 00:05:11,019 --> 00:05:13,309 when your emotions are high, it’s like, "I don’t want it. 142 00:05:13,396 --> 00:05:15,106 I can’t hear that right now." 143 00:05:15,190 --> 00:05:17,690 Even if it’s you defending something, 144 00:05:17,776 --> 00:05:19,736 it’s always gonna sound like an excuse. 145 00:05:19,861 --> 00:05:22,281 And I think sometimes when you’re really emotional-- 146 00:05:22,364 --> 00:05:24,874 especially him--emotional and passionate about something, 147 00:05:24,950 --> 00:05:28,700 your emotions can take over, like, your logic. 148 00:05:28,787 --> 00:05:31,827 But the fact that he didn’t 100% say, 149 00:05:31,915 --> 00:05:34,635 "You know what? I’m done"-- he didn’t say that. 150 00:05:34,709 --> 00:05:36,999 - Hmm... - Did he say that? 151 00:05:37,087 --> 00:05:40,467 - He didn’t say it, but it’s kind of just, like-- 152 00:05:40,549 --> 00:05:42,719 like, "now this is in my mind" type thing. 153 00:05:42,801 --> 00:05:44,801 - He also said he is a type of person 154 00:05:44,886 --> 00:05:46,296 to say things when he’s upset, 155 00:05:46,388 --> 00:05:49,308 even though that still don’t give him the right 156 00:05:49,391 --> 00:05:51,311 to say whatever he wants when he’s upset. 157 00:05:51,393 --> 00:05:53,443 Like, "Oh, Decision Day, I’ll say no," 158 00:05:53,562 --> 00:05:57,442 but he really does say whatever when he’s-- 159 00:05:57,566 --> 00:05:59,066 - Right. - When he’s upset. 160 00:05:59,192 --> 00:06:00,902 - But he said that that just shows, like-- 161 00:06:01,027 --> 00:06:04,237 it shows for him, it’s like a lack of seriousness 162 00:06:04,364 --> 00:06:05,874 when I signed up for this 163 00:06:05,949 --> 00:06:08,529 ’cause I should have scoured and cleared my phone. 164 00:06:08,618 --> 00:06:11,118 And for me to just do this one thing, 165 00:06:11,246 --> 00:06:13,246 and that’s what you’re gonna use against me, 166 00:06:13,331 --> 00:06:15,671 it’s like, "How is that supposed to make me feel?" 167 00:06:15,750 --> 00:06:17,460 You understand what I’m saying? 168 00:06:17,586 --> 00:06:20,336 Like, I’m a real person with real feelings. 169 00:06:20,422 --> 00:06:24,132 ♪ ♪ 170 00:06:24,259 --> 00:06:26,759 - She’s not someone that really cries a lot, 171 00:06:26,845 --> 00:06:29,895 so just seeing her cry in front of me, 172 00:06:29,973 --> 00:06:31,723 it’s just not-- 173 00:06:31,808 --> 00:06:33,638 it’s not sitting well with me 174 00:06:33,768 --> 00:06:36,558 because I know she has to be really hurt 175 00:06:36,646 --> 00:06:39,516 and really upset to feel those emotions. 176 00:06:40,942 --> 00:06:44,572 I think it’s just the way that he said it 177 00:06:44,654 --> 00:06:46,244 and how you would actually talk to each other. 178 00:06:46,323 --> 00:06:47,783 - Yeah, you hear the man talking he’s saying, 179 00:06:47,908 --> 00:06:49,078 "I’ll talk at you, not with you. 180 00:06:49,159 --> 00:06:51,199 Like, so I feel like we’ve had these talks 181 00:06:51,286 --> 00:06:52,496 to put it into action, 182 00:06:52,621 --> 00:06:54,081 and you didn’t put it into action, 183 00:06:54,164 --> 00:06:57,044 so that’s why my feelings are hurt. 184 00:06:57,125 --> 00:07:00,245 - And I think you should definitely voice that. 185 00:07:00,337 --> 00:07:01,707 - If he lets me. 186 00:07:01,796 --> 00:07:04,416 ♪ ♪ 187 00:07:04,507 --> 00:07:06,717 [upbeat hip-hop music] 188 00:07:06,801 --> 00:07:08,971 - ♪ I’m about to pop out, come through ♪ 189 00:07:09,054 --> 00:07:10,224 ♪ When you search the whole block now ♪ 190 00:07:10,305 --> 00:07:11,725 - Talk to me, bro. 191 00:07:11,806 --> 00:07:14,096 How are you feeling currently in terms of, like, 192 00:07:14,184 --> 00:07:15,944 where are you guys at? 193 00:07:16,019 --> 00:07:17,649 - She said what she had to say. 194 00:07:19,147 --> 00:07:21,687 - Do you wanna talk about it? 195 00:07:21,816 --> 00:07:23,226 Do you want to talk about it? 196 00:07:23,318 --> 00:07:25,738 - I’m not bringing up the conversation to her, no. 197 00:07:25,820 --> 00:07:28,320 ♪ ♪ 198 00:07:28,406 --> 00:07:30,236 I want her to really think about what she’s done 199 00:07:30,325 --> 00:07:31,915 and how I feel as her husband. 200 00:07:31,993 --> 00:07:34,623 You’re the one with the [bleep] on your phone. 201 00:07:34,704 --> 00:07:37,084 Until you could apology and just be 100, 202 00:07:37,165 --> 00:07:39,075 "I’m taking full responsibility," 203 00:07:39,167 --> 00:07:42,207 whatever you say to me, it’s still an excuse. 204 00:07:42,337 --> 00:07:43,747 ♪ ♪ 205 00:07:43,838 --> 00:07:47,928 Dude, I done a lot. I deleted Instagram. 206 00:07:48,009 --> 00:07:49,969 I tried to--whatever. She didn’t like the hair. 207 00:07:50,053 --> 00:07:51,353 I changed the look a little bit. 208 00:07:51,429 --> 00:07:53,009 I put some effort into this, 209 00:07:53,139 --> 00:07:55,139 so it’s like, when you see that, 210 00:07:55,225 --> 00:07:57,445 it just makes you question everything. 211 00:07:57,519 --> 00:07:59,649 And, you know, we’ve been married for over a month. 212 00:07:59,729 --> 00:08:02,899 You still got dating apps? Like, what is this, TV for you? 213 00:08:03,024 --> 00:08:06,244 [tense music] 214 00:08:06,361 --> 00:08:09,071 - So when she says she didn’t remember 215 00:08:09,197 --> 00:08:10,527 she had the app on her phone 216 00:08:10,615 --> 00:08:12,195 ’cause she has a whole bunch of apps on her phone. 217 00:08:12,283 --> 00:08:14,493 It was just another one of them that she didn’t think to delete 218 00:08:14,577 --> 00:08:15,997 ’cause it’s not something she uses. 219 00:08:16,079 --> 00:08:17,959 Do you not believe her when she says that? 220 00:08:18,039 --> 00:08:19,919 - Katina is a smart woman, bro. 221 00:08:20,041 --> 00:08:21,711 She knows what’s right, what’s wrong, 222 00:08:21,793 --> 00:08:23,963 what you shouldn’t and what you should do. 223 00:08:24,045 --> 00:08:26,625 She has common sense. 224 00:08:26,715 --> 00:08:28,515 So I mean, she could say, "Oh, I don’t have this. 225 00:08:28,591 --> 00:08:30,221 I don’t have it active." 226 00:08:30,301 --> 00:08:33,391 Let’s be real. I’ve known you for 30 days. 227 00:08:33,471 --> 00:08:35,641 I gotta go off what I see. 228 00:08:35,724 --> 00:08:37,184 It’s very easy to log on, log off. 229 00:08:37,267 --> 00:08:38,387 I’ve done that. 230 00:08:38,476 --> 00:08:39,846 I used to do that, you know what I mean? 231 00:08:39,936 --> 00:08:41,266 - So do you not trust her now or... 232 00:08:41,396 --> 00:08:43,146 - No, I definitely look at her a little different. 233 00:08:43,231 --> 00:08:45,901 I have to. I have to. 234 00:08:45,984 --> 00:08:48,654 I’ve never given my heart out to somebody 235 00:08:48,737 --> 00:08:50,277 in such a short manner of time 236 00:08:50,405 --> 00:08:52,955 and to put your trust into somebody--trust is everything. 237 00:08:53,074 --> 00:08:55,914 So to think that she was having a dating app 238 00:08:55,994 --> 00:08:57,834 and she might be one foot in, one foot out, 239 00:08:57,912 --> 00:09:00,752 and not fully committed into this marriage, 240 00:09:00,874 --> 00:09:01,754 and it hurts. 241 00:09:01,875 --> 00:09:03,715 It truly hurts. 242 00:09:03,793 --> 00:09:05,173 - So if she does give you that apology, 243 00:09:05,253 --> 00:09:06,753 taking full ownership of everything, 244 00:09:06,838 --> 00:09:09,048 do you still feel like you’ll hold a grudge on it? 245 00:09:09,132 --> 00:09:10,882 - No, I’d just definitely look at it differently. 246 00:09:10,967 --> 00:09:13,047 You feel like somebody’s moving dirty on you or something, 247 00:09:13,136 --> 00:09:14,596 keep your eyes open. 248 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:16,099 ♪ ♪ 249 00:09:16,181 --> 00:09:18,311 Can’t ignore it. 250 00:09:18,433 --> 00:09:19,853 - Damn. 251 00:09:19,934 --> 00:09:22,524 ♪ ♪ 252 00:09:22,604 --> 00:09:23,984 [upbeat pop music] 253 00:09:24,105 --> 00:09:25,815 - ♪ This is our time now ♪ 254 00:09:25,940 --> 00:09:28,440 ♪ Don’t you dare look back ♪ 255 00:09:28,526 --> 00:09:31,316 ♪ ’Cause we can have it all ♪ 256 00:09:31,446 --> 00:09:34,816 - So every morning, this is what I wake up to. 257 00:09:34,949 --> 00:09:37,079 ♪ ♪ 258 00:09:41,289 --> 00:09:44,169 - Jerk. - [laughs] 259 00:09:52,217 --> 00:09:55,677 - Merging their lives together means they have to adapt 260 00:09:55,804 --> 00:09:57,764 to their partners’ routines, 261 00:09:57,847 --> 00:09:59,717 habits, and personal preferences. 262 00:09:59,808 --> 00:10:01,348 - I keep trying to tell Chloe 263 00:10:01,476 --> 00:10:03,636 that I am the queen of the castle. 264 00:10:03,728 --> 00:10:06,358 [quirky music] 265 00:10:06,481 --> 00:10:08,521 - Mike is trying Feeny’s dog cookies. 266 00:10:08,650 --> 00:10:11,530 - It’s good for Feeny, it’s good for me. 267 00:10:11,653 --> 00:10:13,113 - Ew. 268 00:10:13,196 --> 00:10:14,656 - These are fire. 269 00:10:14,739 --> 00:10:16,319 - How well our couples can navigate 270 00:10:16,449 --> 00:10:18,449 the ups and downs of everyday life 271 00:10:18,535 --> 00:10:20,335 can make all the difference 272 00:10:20,453 --> 00:10:22,623 and it can provide valuable insight 273 00:10:22,705 --> 00:10:24,825 into what their future might look like. 274 00:10:24,916 --> 00:10:26,786 - Ew, did you really just eat that? 275 00:10:26,876 --> 00:10:28,706 - There are really good, though, low-key. 276 00:10:28,837 --> 00:10:30,707 - No, high-key, that’s nasty. 277 00:10:30,839 --> 00:10:35,259 - Because the goal is not just to be married for eight weeks. 278 00:10:35,343 --> 00:10:37,973 The goal is to be married for a lifetime. 279 00:10:40,849 --> 00:10:45,769 - ♪ Oh, we all get one moment to shine ♪ 280 00:10:45,854 --> 00:10:47,654 ♪ ♪ 281 00:10:47,730 --> 00:10:53,240 ♪ Oh, and this one is mine ♪ 282 00:10:53,361 --> 00:10:55,281 ♪ This moment is mine ♪ 283 00:10:55,363 --> 00:10:59,033 - Today, we’re gonna use the whiteboard and make a list 284 00:10:59,117 --> 00:11:01,157 of the things you wanna do for the week. 285 00:11:01,244 --> 00:11:03,204 What day we’re gonna do chores, what day we’re gonna clean, 286 00:11:03,288 --> 00:11:05,288 you know, work, gym, things like that. 287 00:11:05,373 --> 00:11:08,043 So it’s right there in front of you every day. 288 00:11:08,126 --> 00:11:12,956 Chloe, I’m making a board to try to, you know, 289 00:11:13,047 --> 00:11:15,417 help Lindsey and me figure this out. 290 00:11:15,550 --> 00:11:17,220 What do you think? 291 00:11:17,343 --> 00:11:19,803 [light, plucky music] 292 00:11:19,888 --> 00:11:23,518 Nothing? You’re just gonna go to sleep. 293 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,730 Okay. 294 00:11:25,810 --> 00:11:27,600 Thanks for your help, Chlo. 295 00:11:27,729 --> 00:11:31,319 I need to be at a place of, "I see potential 296 00:11:31,399 --> 00:11:34,069 based on how we operate day-to-day with each other." 297 00:11:34,152 --> 00:11:36,362 The whiteboard is something that might be helpful 298 00:11:36,446 --> 00:11:38,156 in this day-to-day with Lindsey. 299 00:11:38,239 --> 00:11:39,739 Building some structure 300 00:11:39,866 --> 00:11:41,616 and getting us on the same page 301 00:11:41,743 --> 00:11:44,623 will probably make things more balanced, 302 00:11:44,746 --> 00:11:46,746 and that will help our relationship. 303 00:11:46,831 --> 00:11:48,371 ♪ ♪ 304 00:11:48,458 --> 00:11:51,038 - Hey, babe. - Hey. 305 00:11:51,127 --> 00:11:53,167 - I got so much crap. - Oh. 306 00:11:53,254 --> 00:11:55,264 - One, I got another litter box for JC, 307 00:11:55,340 --> 00:11:58,970 and then some melon mochi candy. 308 00:11:59,093 --> 00:12:01,263 [bag crinkling] 309 00:12:02,764 --> 00:12:05,144 What you doing? - Team boarding. 310 00:12:05,266 --> 00:12:08,806 I put together a board so that we could write down stuff 311 00:12:08,937 --> 00:12:10,397 we wanna do for the week 312 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,570 and anything that we wanna work on as a couple 313 00:12:13,650 --> 00:12:17,740 and put together some schedules so it’s concrete. 314 00:12:17,820 --> 00:12:19,950 [upbeat music] 315 00:12:20,073 --> 00:12:23,283 - I like that. Love that. 316 00:12:23,409 --> 00:12:25,119 I’m in agreement. 317 00:12:25,245 --> 00:12:28,375 So can I--I told you one way I like to do a meal prep, 318 00:12:28,456 --> 00:12:31,956 and that’s, like, basically lay out the meals 319 00:12:32,043 --> 00:12:34,503 and then do BLD-- 320 00:12:34,629 --> 00:12:36,419 - For meal prep? - Yeah. 321 00:12:36,506 --> 00:12:37,836 - Well, all my food is for work. 322 00:12:37,966 --> 00:12:39,586 Also, I don’t prep dinners. 323 00:12:39,676 --> 00:12:41,756 - Well, can we have a little compromise 324 00:12:41,844 --> 00:12:43,514 and, if we’re gonna meal prep, go all the way? 325 00:12:43,638 --> 00:12:46,348 Because your schedule’s shifting right now 326 00:12:46,474 --> 00:12:48,854 and my schedule is full-blown, so, like, it helps for me 327 00:12:48,977 --> 00:12:51,307 to not have to think about dinners. 328 00:12:51,396 --> 00:12:52,646 - What do you wanna have for dinners? 329 00:12:52,730 --> 00:12:53,730 - I don’t know. 330 00:12:53,815 --> 00:12:55,155 It doesn’t have to be something crazy. 331 00:12:55,233 --> 00:12:58,153 Like, we do another pizza night or chicken. 332 00:12:58,236 --> 00:12:59,356 - Okay, so... 333 00:12:59,487 --> 00:13:01,527 - Will you eat carrots or broccoli? 334 00:13:01,656 --> 00:13:02,866 - For dinner? - Yeah. 335 00:13:02,991 --> 00:13:04,781 - With what? - Anything else you want. 336 00:13:04,867 --> 00:13:06,077 But will try them? - Sure, sure, sure. 337 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:07,620 - Perfect. 338 00:13:07,704 --> 00:13:09,504 - Anything in particular you wanna do during the week, 339 00:13:09,622 --> 00:13:11,832 like, for an activity, like a movie night, 340 00:13:11,958 --> 00:13:13,708 a show-- we’re gonna watch a show? 341 00:13:13,835 --> 00:13:15,925 - Should we find something that we wanna watch 342 00:13:16,004 --> 00:13:17,214 and watch together? 343 00:13:17,338 --> 00:13:18,838 - Probably. That makes sense. - Yeah. 344 00:13:18,965 --> 00:13:20,675 - It’s healthy. 345 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:22,720 - The worst part about living with Mark 346 00:13:22,844 --> 00:13:25,934 is that he is a stubborn only child. 347 00:13:26,014 --> 00:13:27,474 He’s just so used to being like, 348 00:13:27,557 --> 00:13:29,677 "This way works for me and I like it this way." 349 00:13:29,767 --> 00:13:32,187 But this is such a beautiful compromise. 350 00:13:32,312 --> 00:13:34,612 It means that he’s making space and time for me 351 00:13:34,689 --> 00:13:37,399 in his life, and I love that. 352 00:13:39,277 --> 00:13:41,397 - "Unplugged time daily." What is that? What is that? 353 00:13:41,529 --> 00:13:43,739 - Yeah, so, like, if we’re doing lunch 354 00:13:43,865 --> 00:13:47,415 or we’re having a movie night, I want your phone away. 355 00:13:47,535 --> 00:13:50,405 Like, no texting, no playing on the internet, 356 00:13:50,538 --> 00:13:52,748 so we can actually spend time together. 357 00:13:52,874 --> 00:13:54,294 - Okay. 358 00:13:54,375 --> 00:13:57,415 - That’s just something I want. I want your undivided. 359 00:13:57,545 --> 00:13:59,045 - Okay. 360 00:13:59,130 --> 00:14:01,260 - There are moments with Mark where he makes me feel 361 00:14:01,382 --> 00:14:03,972 very heard and understood and cared for, 362 00:14:04,052 --> 00:14:07,972 and I really hope that he will follow through with this. 363 00:14:08,056 --> 00:14:09,386 I like this. 364 00:14:09,474 --> 00:14:11,774 ♪ ♪ 365 00:14:15,563 --> 00:14:16,773 [upbeat funk music Too s♪ 366 00:14:16,898 --> 00:14:18,228 ♪ Crème de la crème, honey ♪ 367 00:14:18,358 --> 00:14:21,528 ♪ Check me out, check me out ♪ 368 00:14:21,611 --> 00:14:23,651 - Hello. How are you? 369 00:14:23,738 --> 00:14:24,778 - Good. How are you? - Good. 370 00:14:24,906 --> 00:14:26,486 - What’s going on, cuz? - How’s it going? 371 00:14:26,574 --> 00:14:28,084 - What’s happening, man? 372 00:14:28,159 --> 00:14:31,369 We came here to get Sushi a little wash. 373 00:14:31,454 --> 00:14:32,584 - Hi, Sushi. 374 00:14:32,705 --> 00:14:35,205 - Steve knows that I want three kids. 375 00:14:35,291 --> 00:14:37,081 I’ve always wanted three children. 376 00:14:37,168 --> 00:14:40,248 But we never really talked about, 377 00:14:40,338 --> 00:14:41,878 you know, what our life is gonna look like 378 00:14:41,964 --> 00:14:43,674 once we actually have children. 379 00:14:43,758 --> 00:14:46,678 [laughing] Oh, no. 380 00:14:46,761 --> 00:14:50,721 ♪ ♪ 381 00:14:50,807 --> 00:14:52,177 Sushi, no. 382 00:14:52,266 --> 00:14:54,516 Wait, we have to take a bath first. Come on. 383 00:14:54,602 --> 00:14:56,152 - I think he knows what he’s in for. 384 00:14:56,270 --> 00:14:57,440 [Sushi whines] 385 00:14:57,522 --> 00:15:00,572 - I want him to get used to being responsible 386 00:15:00,650 --> 00:15:02,610 for, you know, a pet 387 00:15:02,693 --> 00:15:05,653 because I think that’s, like, a surefire way to see 388 00:15:05,780 --> 00:15:08,370 if somebody really is ready to have children. 389 00:15:08,449 --> 00:15:09,489 ♪ ♪ 390 00:15:09,617 --> 00:15:12,117 [Sushi whines] 391 00:15:12,203 --> 00:15:13,703 - All right. - Ready? 392 00:15:13,788 --> 00:15:14,958 - You wanna give him the first spray? 393 00:15:15,081 --> 00:15:16,541 - Sure. 394 00:15:16,624 --> 00:15:19,294 [upbeat funk music] 395 00:15:19,377 --> 00:15:21,127 Whoo! 396 00:15:21,212 --> 00:15:25,762 - ♪ You know I cool it down like frostbite ♪ 397 00:15:25,842 --> 00:15:29,142 ♪ You know I’m sub-zero ♪ 398 00:15:29,262 --> 00:15:31,932 ♪ So let me give a piece of advice ♪ 399 00:15:32,014 --> 00:15:34,604 ♪ ♪ 400 00:15:34,684 --> 00:15:37,444 - I guess I’ll hold him still. 401 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:43,610 ♪ ♪ 402 00:15:43,693 --> 00:15:45,823 - How do you feel being, like, a dog dad? 403 00:15:45,903 --> 00:15:47,863 You’re adjusting pretty well. 404 00:15:47,989 --> 00:15:49,239 - Yeah, I mean-- - I feel like you actually 405 00:15:49,323 --> 00:15:51,083 kind of like it. - Yeah. 406 00:15:51,159 --> 00:15:52,909 I mean, I’ve had dogs all growing up. 407 00:15:52,994 --> 00:15:54,504 It’s just a long time since, you know, 408 00:15:54,579 --> 00:15:56,329 I’ve lived with a dog. 409 00:15:56,456 --> 00:15:58,456 For me, it was just-- I’d been traveling so much. 410 00:15:58,541 --> 00:16:01,171 I didn’t want to add another responsibility, 411 00:16:01,252 --> 00:16:04,842 but now that we’re talking about settling in a bit, 412 00:16:04,922 --> 00:16:06,422 it makes a little bit more sense. 413 00:16:06,507 --> 00:16:08,427 I mean, I guess we’ve already got one, so-- 414 00:16:08,509 --> 00:16:10,679 - Would you get another dog? 415 00:16:10,761 --> 00:16:13,181 - I know you want another dog. - [laughs] 416 00:16:13,264 --> 00:16:14,644 - I like Labradoodles. 417 00:16:14,724 --> 00:16:16,854 - They’re beautiful dogs. 418 00:16:16,934 --> 00:16:18,984 Not as beautiful as you, Sushi. 419 00:16:19,061 --> 00:16:20,311 Having a pet in your life 420 00:16:20,396 --> 00:16:22,306 is like having a child in your life. 421 00:16:22,398 --> 00:16:24,318 My dog Sushi has been there 422 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,740 longer than any man in my life. 423 00:16:26,861 --> 00:16:28,361 - Look what I got for you. 424 00:16:28,446 --> 00:16:32,776 - It just means so much that my husband and Sushi 425 00:16:32,867 --> 00:16:36,157 have a very special bond, and I’m so happy 426 00:16:36,245 --> 00:16:39,535 about Sushi finally having a dad. 427 00:16:39,624 --> 00:16:41,634 [laughs] 428 00:16:41,709 --> 00:16:42,959 - This is your style. 429 00:16:43,044 --> 00:16:46,344 - Wow, look at you, Sushi. 430 00:16:46,422 --> 00:16:49,552 Good job. You’re like a brand-new dog. 431 00:16:49,675 --> 00:16:51,675 - I’ll let you go on the ground now. 432 00:16:51,761 --> 00:16:54,221 ♪ ♪ 433 00:16:54,305 --> 00:16:57,145 - ♪ It’s calling your name ♪ 434 00:16:57,225 --> 00:16:59,145 ♪ ♪ 435 00:16:59,227 --> 00:17:01,017 - ♪ Ooh, I like to rendezvous ♪ 436 00:17:01,103 --> 00:17:03,403 ♪ Name a better duo, that’s me plus you ♪ 437 00:17:03,481 --> 00:17:05,231 ♪ Ooh, you like to wear them hoops ♪ 438 00:17:05,316 --> 00:17:07,226 ♪ You can get the rock like a alley-oop ♪ 439 00:17:07,318 --> 00:17:09,068 - Oh, look, we can get a little plant. 440 00:17:09,153 --> 00:17:11,703 Come right in here, actually. 441 00:17:11,781 --> 00:17:13,031 I wanna pick up a watermelon. 442 00:17:13,115 --> 00:17:14,485 It was on my list. 443 00:17:14,575 --> 00:17:16,825 I’ve never had a Sugar Baby watermelon. 444 00:17:16,911 --> 00:17:18,581 Do you wanna try it? 445 00:17:18,704 --> 00:17:21,044 [plucky music] 446 00:17:21,123 --> 00:17:22,423 - I’m not big into fruit. 447 00:17:22,542 --> 00:17:24,042 - All right, well, I wanna try this one. 448 00:17:24,126 --> 00:17:25,706 I’ve never had this one before, so I wanna try it. 449 00:17:25,795 --> 00:17:27,635 - Okay. - Do you like spaghetti squash? 450 00:17:27,755 --> 00:17:28,755 - No. 451 00:17:28,839 --> 00:17:30,629 - Do you like honeydew or melons? 452 00:17:30,758 --> 00:17:32,258 - No. - Cantaloupe? 453 00:17:32,385 --> 00:17:33,555 - No. 454 00:17:33,636 --> 00:17:35,846 The budget is $150, 455 00:17:35,930 --> 00:17:39,600 and right away, the minute we arrive, 456 00:17:39,684 --> 00:17:41,484 I see Lindsey grabbing 457 00:17:41,602 --> 00:17:43,732 every possible vegetable and fruit. 458 00:17:43,813 --> 00:17:46,863 - This is, like, perfect right now for ripeness. 459 00:17:46,941 --> 00:17:48,781 ♪ ♪ 460 00:17:48,859 --> 00:17:52,399 - Currently, I’m not working, so every dollar adds up. 461 00:17:52,488 --> 00:17:53,608 - Babe. 462 00:17:53,739 --> 00:17:55,909 - Can’t get it. Not in the budget. 463 00:17:55,992 --> 00:17:57,372 If we have a budget that we agree on, 464 00:17:57,451 --> 00:18:01,961 you need to respect that, and we need to stick to it. 465 00:18:02,039 --> 00:18:05,539 - Yes, yes, yes, it’s sweet corn season. 466 00:18:05,626 --> 00:18:08,546 ♪ ♪ 467 00:18:08,629 --> 00:18:10,419 See how, like, white it is right now? 468 00:18:10,506 --> 00:18:12,256 In fact, it’s so sweet. 469 00:18:12,341 --> 00:18:15,221 - No, I’m good. I’m good. [both laugh] 470 00:18:15,303 --> 00:18:17,303 Okay, you have to buy that now. 471 00:18:17,430 --> 00:18:19,260 - [laughs] Yeah. - Yeah. 472 00:18:19,348 --> 00:18:21,138 - Do you want lemons or limes for your water? 473 00:18:21,267 --> 00:18:23,227 - No. - Do you like grapefruit? 474 00:18:23,311 --> 00:18:24,731 - Not really, no. 475 00:18:24,812 --> 00:18:25,902 - Pears? - No. 476 00:18:25,980 --> 00:18:27,560 - Butternut squash? - No. 477 00:18:27,648 --> 00:18:28,978 - Shallots? - No. 478 00:18:29,108 --> 00:18:31,238 - Ooh, have you ever had a rambutan? 479 00:18:31,319 --> 00:18:32,569 - No. - You wanna try one? 480 00:18:32,653 --> 00:18:33,903 - Mm-mm. 481 00:18:33,988 --> 00:18:35,068 - Pickles? - No. 482 00:18:35,156 --> 00:18:36,406 - Eggplant? - No. 483 00:18:36,490 --> 00:18:38,990 - Bacon. - Ooh. 484 00:18:39,118 --> 00:18:42,498 - I’ve always picked on girlfriends 485 00:18:42,622 --> 00:18:44,792 who date or have husbands 486 00:18:44,874 --> 00:18:48,174 which I like to call the chicken finger men. 487 00:18:48,294 --> 00:18:51,264 Like, the husbands who can’t eat anything 488 00:18:51,339 --> 00:18:52,969 and don’t have a nice palate 489 00:18:53,049 --> 00:18:54,129 and just wanna eat chicken fingers 490 00:18:54,216 --> 00:18:55,336 and mac and cheese. 491 00:18:55,426 --> 00:18:57,256 And here I am. 492 00:18:57,345 --> 00:18:59,185 I married chicken finger man. 493 00:18:59,263 --> 00:19:02,853 I think we were over budget by 40%. 494 00:19:02,933 --> 00:19:04,983 It’s a big-- - Hmm. 495 00:19:05,061 --> 00:19:06,191 - It’s a big window. 496 00:19:06,312 --> 00:19:07,772 ♪ ♪ 497 00:19:07,855 --> 00:19:09,605 - I mean, I don’t buy this many fruits. 498 00:19:09,690 --> 00:19:11,110 [dynamic electronic music] 499 00:19:11,192 --> 00:19:14,782 - ♪ I’ll be the pretty one in green ♪ 500 00:19:14,862 --> 00:19:17,782 ♪ These other girls, they just like me ♪ 501 00:19:17,865 --> 00:19:19,155 - How did your day go? 502 00:19:19,241 --> 00:19:21,201 - My job is changing locations, 503 00:19:21,327 --> 00:19:23,787 so we’ve just been packing. 504 00:19:23,871 --> 00:19:27,831 - Is the new school closer to the apartment or further? 505 00:19:27,917 --> 00:19:29,377 - Same distance, to be honest. 506 00:19:29,502 --> 00:19:31,382 - You know, the reason I ask is because I feel like, 507 00:19:31,504 --> 00:19:33,014 eventually, it’ll probably be easier 508 00:19:33,089 --> 00:19:36,219 to just drive to work as opposed to taking the train. 509 00:19:36,300 --> 00:19:37,470 - Oh, like you bring me? 510 00:19:37,551 --> 00:19:39,221 - No, like you bring yourself, I mean. 511 00:19:40,221 --> 00:19:43,181 - [laughs] How’s that gonna happen? 512 00:19:43,265 --> 00:19:46,385 - Well, that’s why we have these cards. 513 00:19:46,519 --> 00:19:47,899 Early on in my marriage, 514 00:19:48,020 --> 00:19:51,190 I found out that Jasmina does not know how to drive. 515 00:19:51,273 --> 00:19:52,823 - So I don’t know how to drive. 516 00:19:52,900 --> 00:19:54,190 - You ever taken the actual test? 517 00:19:54,276 --> 00:19:56,106 - Why waste my money when I know I’m gonna fail? 518 00:19:56,237 --> 00:19:58,067 - I think we should make that our first goal together. 519 00:19:58,155 --> 00:19:59,815 Take your permit test and pass. 520 00:19:59,907 --> 00:20:01,577 ♪ ♪ 521 00:20:01,701 --> 00:20:04,701 We are going to study for a permit test. 522 00:20:04,787 --> 00:20:05,907 - [laughs] 523 00:20:06,038 --> 00:20:07,658 - Jasmina not driving 524 00:20:07,748 --> 00:20:09,918 means that I’m the one running the errands 525 00:20:10,042 --> 00:20:11,342 and picking up Feeny. 526 00:20:11,419 --> 00:20:12,879 Right now, it’s not a big deal, 527 00:20:12,962 --> 00:20:15,762 but eventually, plan is to get her license 528 00:20:15,881 --> 00:20:18,091 so she no longer needs me to drive her anywhere. 529 00:20:18,175 --> 00:20:20,885 She seems ready, and I’m excited to get started. 530 00:20:20,970 --> 00:20:23,680 All right. Now, this is easy. 531 00:20:23,764 --> 00:20:25,474 If another driver... - Uh-huh. 532 00:20:25,599 --> 00:20:28,939 - Cuts you off in traffic, what do you do? 533 00:20:29,061 --> 00:20:31,401 - Flip them off. [laughs] - There you go. 534 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,230 That’s my girl. No, no. [buzzer blares] 535 00:20:33,315 --> 00:20:34,775 - Oh. - Seriously. 536 00:20:34,859 --> 00:20:36,069 - Beep your horn. 537 00:20:36,152 --> 00:20:37,692 - You gotta ignore ’em. 538 00:20:37,778 --> 00:20:39,028 - Who said? - Ignore ’em. 539 00:20:39,113 --> 00:20:40,913 - That’s the law? - That’s the law--that’s-- 540 00:20:40,990 --> 00:20:42,620 you don’t wanna get into more trouble. 541 00:20:42,700 --> 00:20:45,200 All right, you’re driving. 542 00:20:45,286 --> 00:20:47,116 It’s a yellow light. What do you do? 543 00:20:47,204 --> 00:20:48,834 - Slow down. 544 00:20:48,956 --> 00:20:51,206 - You know what you’re doing. All right. 545 00:20:51,292 --> 00:20:52,882 - And then when I get my driver’s license-- 546 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:54,210 - Okay. You say what? 547 00:20:54,295 --> 00:20:55,965 - Vroom. Right through. - No, no, no. 548 00:20:56,088 --> 00:21:00,878 Making a turn, you must blank your speed. 549 00:21:00,968 --> 00:21:03,008 - You slow down. - Slow down. You got it. 550 00:21:03,137 --> 00:21:05,427 So you’re driving on the highway, 551 00:21:05,514 --> 00:21:06,974 and you hear-- [imitates car clunking] 552 00:21:07,099 --> 00:21:09,179 So you pull over. 553 00:21:09,310 --> 00:21:11,650 What should you use to caution the other drivers? 554 00:21:11,729 --> 00:21:13,149 - Your hazard lights? 555 00:21:13,272 --> 00:21:15,232 - This is a little tough. 556 00:21:15,316 --> 00:21:17,776 A single broken yellow line means-- 557 00:21:17,860 --> 00:21:20,400 - Next question. [both laugh] 558 00:21:20,488 --> 00:21:23,318 - A single broken yellow line means what? 559 00:21:23,449 --> 00:21:26,619 - A broken one means that you can cross over, 560 00:21:26,702 --> 00:21:28,162 the solid one means you can’t. 561 00:21:28,287 --> 00:21:29,577 Is that right? 562 00:21:29,663 --> 00:21:31,543 - Are you serious? - That’s wrong? 563 00:21:31,665 --> 00:21:33,955 - That’s right. - Oh. 564 00:21:34,043 --> 00:21:36,253 - What are you nervous about? 565 00:21:36,337 --> 00:21:38,047 - Not--the question is driving. 566 00:21:38,172 --> 00:21:39,382 [laughs] 567 00:21:39,507 --> 00:21:41,087 I am afraid of the road, 568 00:21:41,175 --> 00:21:42,555 and I’ve also been in a couple car accidents 569 00:21:42,676 --> 00:21:44,006 that just really made me scared, 570 00:21:44,094 --> 00:21:46,184 but I’m answering all of these questions 571 00:21:46,263 --> 00:21:47,683 and I’m getting them all right, 572 00:21:47,807 --> 00:21:51,307 so it makes me feel a little bit better 573 00:21:51,393 --> 00:21:53,443 about, you know, getting my license. 574 00:21:53,521 --> 00:21:56,021 So I appreciate that he’s taking this step 575 00:21:56,106 --> 00:21:57,646 and, you know, doing this on his own 576 00:21:57,733 --> 00:21:59,823 because Lord knows I would not have. 577 00:21:59,902 --> 00:22:02,202 It was easy. Stop playing. Give me my license. 578 00:22:02,279 --> 00:22:04,449 - You’re doing your thing. [both laugh] 579 00:22:04,532 --> 00:22:07,452 [upbeat music] 580 00:22:07,535 --> 00:22:10,205 ♪ ♪ 581 00:22:10,287 --> 00:22:14,287 - So Katina and I, we let some time come between us 582 00:22:14,375 --> 00:22:16,045 and--just to cool off and relax. 583 00:22:16,126 --> 00:22:18,166 - Yeah, we had a conversation 584 00:22:18,254 --> 00:22:20,844 before we went to sleep last night, 585 00:22:20,923 --> 00:22:22,973 just talking about the whole situation, 586 00:22:23,050 --> 00:22:25,840 and I understood where you were coming from. 587 00:22:25,928 --> 00:22:27,548 - Yes. - You know, nobody wants to see 588 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,140 a dating app in someone’s phone, 589 00:22:29,223 --> 00:22:34,143 so I said sorry to him, but I’ll say sorry again now. 590 00:22:34,228 --> 00:22:35,728 And yeah. 591 00:22:35,813 --> 00:22:39,073 And then I think you understood where I was coming from too. 592 00:22:39,149 --> 00:22:43,739 - Yeah, so I have to learn how to control my emotions 593 00:22:43,821 --> 00:22:46,701 a little better, and I apologized to Katina 594 00:22:46,782 --> 00:22:48,372 but we definitely-- 595 00:22:48,450 --> 00:22:49,330 - Yeah, we’re good now. 596 00:22:49,410 --> 00:22:50,830 - Yeah, fixed our problem. 597 00:22:50,911 --> 00:22:52,251 - We’re good. We’re moving forward. 598 00:22:52,371 --> 00:22:53,751 Today’s a new day. 599 00:22:53,831 --> 00:22:55,041 - No marriage is perfect, 600 00:22:55,124 --> 00:22:57,174 but with effort, everything’s possible. 601 00:22:57,251 --> 00:22:59,251 I appreciate you. 602 00:22:59,336 --> 00:23:00,706 - I appreciate you too. 603 00:23:04,216 --> 00:23:08,716 ♪ Baby, I’m a boss ♪ 604 00:23:08,804 --> 00:23:09,934 ♪ I’ve been working all day ♪ - We go over here? - Yeah. 605 00:23:10,014 --> 00:23:11,894 After you, my man. - Okay. All right. 606 00:23:11,974 --> 00:23:13,774 Did you get her a picture frame? 607 00:23:13,893 --> 00:23:14,943 She posted something on her story. 608 00:23:15,019 --> 00:23:16,099 I’m like, "Did Steve get this for her?" 609 00:23:16,228 --> 00:23:17,268 - Yeah, you like it? - I like that. 610 00:23:17,354 --> 00:23:18,864 - Thanks, man. - That’s good. 611 00:23:18,939 --> 00:23:20,359 Was that for, like, the anniversary? 612 00:23:20,441 --> 00:23:23,111 - Yeah, it was actually a picture taken on this beach. 613 00:23:23,193 --> 00:23:25,203 - Was it? That’s smooth. 614 00:23:25,279 --> 00:23:26,699 - Yeah, man. 615 00:23:26,780 --> 00:23:28,120 - So things are going good? 616 00:23:28,198 --> 00:23:30,948 - Things are good. We had a good week. 617 00:23:32,244 --> 00:23:34,704 What about you, man? How’s everything going? 618 00:23:34,788 --> 00:23:37,038 - It’s going better than I thought. 619 00:23:37,124 --> 00:23:38,584 ♪ ♪ 620 00:23:38,667 --> 00:23:40,087 We have such, like, good times 621 00:23:40,169 --> 00:23:42,129 but then, like, tough conversations. 622 00:23:42,254 --> 00:23:45,474 I really care about the person that she is 623 00:23:45,591 --> 00:23:47,761 and where her good really is coming from 624 00:23:47,843 --> 00:23:50,893 and all the noise that she brings to the table. 625 00:23:50,971 --> 00:23:54,431 But, you know, there was so much talk about the future. 626 00:23:54,516 --> 00:23:55,976 "Our kids are gonna be like this, 627 00:23:56,060 --> 00:23:58,560 and we’re gonna have joint this and joint that." 628 00:23:58,646 --> 00:24:00,266 I’m like, "No." Like, "Whoa. 629 00:24:00,356 --> 00:24:02,316 I’m not, like, looking to do that yet." 630 00:24:02,399 --> 00:24:03,649 - Yeah, how is that adjustment 631 00:24:03,734 --> 00:24:05,494 now that you’re working from home going? 632 00:24:05,569 --> 00:24:08,279 - So I’m not working from home. 633 00:24:08,364 --> 00:24:09,824 - Oh, you--okay. You’re not working? 634 00:24:09,907 --> 00:24:11,487 - They just wanted me to take a leave 635 00:24:11,617 --> 00:24:13,617 because I can’t work as--the time 636 00:24:13,702 --> 00:24:14,832 that I used to be able to work. 637 00:24:14,954 --> 00:24:17,334 - How has Lindsey responded to that? 638 00:24:17,456 --> 00:24:18,706 Has she remained supportive? 639 00:24:18,832 --> 00:24:20,082 - Oh, yeah, she’s like, "This is, like, 640 00:24:20,167 --> 00:24:21,287 "a perfect opportunity for you to, like, 641 00:24:21,377 --> 00:24:22,997 find a job in Boston, then." 642 00:24:23,087 --> 00:24:25,007 And I’m like, "I can look, but I can’t guarantee 643 00:24:25,089 --> 00:24:26,589 I’m gonna find one this fast." 644 00:24:26,674 --> 00:24:28,804 - I mean, we’re talking about making a living, right? 645 00:24:28,884 --> 00:24:30,344 - Right. - Like, I feel like 646 00:24:30,469 --> 00:24:32,099 that’s a priority before anything, right? 647 00:24:32,179 --> 00:24:33,849 Like, one thing you can relate on, 648 00:24:33,973 --> 00:24:36,523 you know, just like you, I’m without a full-time job. 649 00:24:36,642 --> 00:24:37,642 - Yeah. 650 00:24:37,726 --> 00:24:39,686 - But I came into this whole situation 651 00:24:39,770 --> 00:24:41,020 feeling pretty secure. 652 00:24:41,146 --> 00:24:42,516 I saved up a bunch of money. 653 00:24:42,606 --> 00:24:44,396 I have a pretty good runway here. 654 00:24:44,525 --> 00:24:46,195 - Yeah. - For whatever reason, 655 00:24:46,318 --> 00:24:49,818 it seems like she has to go into it with so much faith 656 00:24:49,905 --> 00:24:53,775 because she’s never seen me in my sales engineering position. 657 00:24:53,867 --> 00:24:56,367 - Right. - I have plenty of savings. 658 00:24:56,453 --> 00:24:58,253 I’m contributing three or four times as much. 659 00:24:58,372 --> 00:25:00,542 I’m not asking her to contribute more. 660 00:25:00,624 --> 00:25:03,924 So in the now, I don’t think there’s a problem. 661 00:25:04,044 --> 00:25:06,004 But I think there’s a perception problem 662 00:25:06,088 --> 00:25:08,798 and I think there’s a future problem. 663 00:25:08,882 --> 00:25:11,722 You know, part of me is like, "Hey, if you don’t believe 664 00:25:11,802 --> 00:25:14,222 in me, like, there’s nothing I can do." 665 00:25:14,346 --> 00:25:16,806 I feel like I’ve done everything I could 666 00:25:16,890 --> 00:25:19,060 short of getting a full-time position 667 00:25:19,184 --> 00:25:21,144 to prove how much I’m into this. 668 00:25:21,228 --> 00:25:22,478 - Yeah. 669 00:25:22,563 --> 00:25:25,573 - Physical, verbal expressions of love, effort, 670 00:25:25,649 --> 00:25:27,529 cooking, cleaning, you know what I mean? 671 00:25:27,609 --> 00:25:29,069 Like, I’m like, "What else can I do? 672 00:25:29,153 --> 00:25:31,613 Is the only way to make you happy for me to get a job?" 673 00:25:31,739 --> 00:25:33,069 - Right. 674 00:25:33,198 --> 00:25:35,698 - Like, it’s just hard for me to, like, sit with that. 675 00:25:35,784 --> 00:25:37,584 - Comprehend that. Yeah, yeah. - Yeah. 676 00:25:38,787 --> 00:25:41,077 - I would be so upset if you got a job 677 00:25:41,165 --> 00:25:43,425 and then she was, like, still unsure. 678 00:25:43,500 --> 00:25:45,340 - Still asking for more? 679 00:25:45,419 --> 00:25:46,549 - Yeah. 680 00:25:46,628 --> 00:25:48,628 - But if we end up going that she needs me 681 00:25:48,756 --> 00:25:50,216 to get a full-time job, 682 00:25:50,299 --> 00:25:52,179 I won’t have the creative energy to put, you know-- 683 00:25:52,259 --> 00:25:53,679 - To do what you like to do. 684 00:25:53,761 --> 00:25:54,971 - To dream of a future together, you know? 685 00:25:55,095 --> 00:25:56,555 - Right. 686 00:25:56,638 --> 00:25:59,978 - Like, yeah, we can do that, but if I’m gonna get a job, 687 00:26:00,100 --> 00:26:01,600 I need to know what the plan is. 688 00:26:01,685 --> 00:26:02,975 - Right. - Are we buying a house, 689 00:26:03,103 --> 00:26:05,113 or do you just want nice things? 690 00:26:05,189 --> 00:26:07,269 Are we going on vacation? What’s the plan here, you know? 691 00:26:07,399 --> 00:26:09,029 - Right. - If I do that, 692 00:26:09,109 --> 00:26:11,529 it’s gonna stifle what we could create together. 693 00:26:11,612 --> 00:26:12,742 - Yeah. 694 00:26:12,821 --> 00:26:14,701 - I mean, I know that these are a lot of, 695 00:26:14,782 --> 00:26:16,412 you know, the frustrating things. 696 00:26:16,492 --> 00:26:17,782 When we’re not having issues, 697 00:26:17,910 --> 00:26:19,330 everything can be really great, man. 698 00:26:19,453 --> 00:26:20,543 - Right. 699 00:26:20,621 --> 00:26:21,961 - Like, we have a lot of fun together. 700 00:26:22,039 --> 00:26:23,869 It’s just hard when we know Decision Day is coming up 701 00:26:23,957 --> 00:26:25,037 and there’s that uncertainty. - Yeah. 702 00:26:25,125 --> 00:26:26,375 That’s what I worry about. 703 00:26:26,460 --> 00:26:28,300 I feel like I finally got to a place 704 00:26:28,378 --> 00:26:30,628 where I’m like, "You know, I really care about you, 705 00:26:30,714 --> 00:26:35,304 but is it enough where I wanna say yes?" 706 00:26:35,427 --> 00:26:38,307 - It’s so hard when it’s a roller coaster constantly. 707 00:26:38,430 --> 00:26:40,220 Like, even if you’re having a good streak, 708 00:26:40,307 --> 00:26:41,807 it can all just take a turn and you’re like-- 709 00:26:41,934 --> 00:26:43,734 - Yeah, like-- - Can we do this? 710 00:26:43,811 --> 00:26:46,611 - Seeing all these things play out, it’s just a lot. 711 00:26:46,688 --> 00:26:48,318 I think about the longevity 712 00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,820 and how it’s gonna be if it doesn’t change. 713 00:26:50,901 --> 00:26:54,401 When you have a eight-week time limit, essentially, 714 00:26:54,488 --> 00:26:58,578 to get to a place of "yes"... 715 00:26:58,659 --> 00:27:01,289 it’s like you’re on the clock a lot. 716 00:27:01,370 --> 00:27:03,620 - All right, first one to drop a pass 717 00:27:03,705 --> 00:27:05,825 has to jump into the water. - Okay. 718 00:27:05,916 --> 00:27:06,996 [electronic music] 719 00:27:07,084 --> 00:27:09,924 [laughter] 720 00:27:10,003 --> 00:27:11,173 ♪ ♪ 721 00:27:11,255 --> 00:27:12,805 - One-handed, one-handed, one-handed, right? 722 00:27:12,881 --> 00:27:13,921 - One-handed? - One-handed. 723 00:27:14,007 --> 00:27:17,297 ♪ ♪ 724 00:27:17,386 --> 00:27:19,966 Oh! [both laugh] 725 00:27:20,055 --> 00:27:21,215 ♪ ♪ 726 00:27:21,348 --> 00:27:23,518 [grunts] - All right, you gotta go. 727 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,350 - ♪ Runnin’, runnin’ ♪ 728 00:27:25,477 --> 00:27:27,017 ♪ ♪ 729 00:27:27,104 --> 00:27:29,274 ♪ Runnin’, runnin’ ♪ 730 00:27:29,356 --> 00:27:31,436 - Attaboy. 731 00:27:31,525 --> 00:27:33,615 Attaboy, Steve-o. 732 00:27:33,694 --> 00:27:35,364 - ♪ I run this town like marathon ♪ 733 00:27:35,445 --> 00:27:37,815 - I appreciate the shades. I’ll see you later. 734 00:27:39,575 --> 00:27:41,495 - ♪ Jump on the highway ♪ 735 00:27:41,577 --> 00:27:44,747 ♪ Crank the radio ♪ 736 00:27:44,872 --> 00:27:46,582 - This is it. 737 00:27:46,707 --> 00:27:48,537 Today, I’m gonna teach Jasmina how to drive 738 00:27:48,625 --> 00:27:50,375 so she can practice for her driving test. 739 00:27:50,460 --> 00:27:51,880 She is a teacher, 740 00:27:51,962 --> 00:27:55,012 but today, I’m teaching my wife how to drive. 741 00:27:55,090 --> 00:27:58,390 We got cones in the back so we can create our own-- 742 00:27:58,510 --> 00:28:00,760 - [laughs] - Our own lanes. 743 00:28:00,888 --> 00:28:02,888 I’m gonna teach her how to parallel park, 744 00:28:02,973 --> 00:28:06,233 turns, the difference between the brake and the gas pedal. 745 00:28:06,351 --> 00:28:08,401 We did the index cards, 746 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:10,730 and she did way better than I thought she would. 747 00:28:10,814 --> 00:28:13,364 So now it’s time to put some of those things into practice 748 00:28:13,442 --> 00:28:14,862 and really see how she does. 749 00:28:14,943 --> 00:28:16,193 I thought I’d be a lot more calm. 750 00:28:16,278 --> 00:28:17,898 I’m getting tense for some reason. 751 00:28:17,988 --> 00:28:20,198 - You? - Yeah, I’m getting tense. 752 00:28:20,282 --> 00:28:21,412 You know what it is? 753 00:28:21,533 --> 00:28:23,083 ’Cause you’re too happy and too smiley. 754 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,080 I don’t know why that’s throwing me off. 755 00:28:25,162 --> 00:28:27,332 Like, I want you to be nervous, and you’re not nervous. 756 00:28:27,414 --> 00:28:29,754 That’s just making me nervous. 757 00:28:29,833 --> 00:28:31,253 I had a lot of things that I thought 758 00:28:31,335 --> 00:28:32,675 about how marriage would be, 759 00:28:32,753 --> 00:28:34,463 but never in a million years 760 00:28:34,588 --> 00:28:37,048 did I think I’d be teaching my wife how to drive. 761 00:28:37,132 --> 00:28:39,512 But she definitely needs to get her license, 762 00:28:39,593 --> 00:28:41,053 and if she knows how to drive, 763 00:28:41,136 --> 00:28:42,546 it’s just gonna make our lives just a lot easier. 764 00:28:42,638 --> 00:28:44,558 We’re gonna treat this very, very seriously. 765 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:46,470 Like, this is just your driving test. 766 00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,020 So I’m gonna be grading you on everything. 767 00:28:48,101 --> 00:28:50,901 From hand placement, checking your mirrors, 768 00:28:50,979 --> 00:28:53,979 looking at both mirrors before you take off. 769 00:28:54,107 --> 00:28:55,277 Okay? - Yes. 770 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:56,530 - Right? - Mm-hmm. 771 00:28:56,610 --> 00:28:58,070 - I don’t like how happy you are. 772 00:28:58,153 --> 00:29:00,033 - [laughs] - I want you to be nervous, 773 00:29:00,113 --> 00:29:01,283 and I’m more nervous than you are. 774 00:29:01,365 --> 00:29:02,705 - No, I’m gonna be nervous 775 00:29:02,783 --> 00:29:04,243 when I get behind the wheel for sure. 776 00:29:04,326 --> 00:29:06,786 - Okay, we’re gonna start with some just basics. 777 00:29:06,870 --> 00:29:10,080 So I’m gonna have you get into the driver’s seat. 778 00:29:10,165 --> 00:29:12,035 - If you’re nervous, you’re gonna make me nervous. 779 00:29:12,125 --> 00:29:13,915 - [clears throat] All right, I’m not nervous. 780 00:29:14,002 --> 00:29:15,632 I’m cool. We cool. - Your life is in my hands. 781 00:29:15,754 --> 00:29:17,714 My dog’s life is in my hands. - We’re good. We’re good. 782 00:29:17,798 --> 00:29:19,218 Get into the driver’s seat. 783 00:29:19,299 --> 00:29:21,799 - In the past, I’ve always been very nervous and scared, 784 00:29:21,927 --> 00:29:25,677 but today, I don’t really feel that way. 785 00:29:25,806 --> 00:29:27,596 I don’t know if it’s because of Michael 786 00:29:27,683 --> 00:29:28,773 and just him being nervous 787 00:29:28,850 --> 00:29:30,640 and it just changed my whole mood 788 00:29:30,727 --> 00:29:33,557 because I didn’t want it to be two nervous people. 789 00:29:33,647 --> 00:29:35,057 ♪ ♪ 790 00:29:35,148 --> 00:29:36,148 But I think because he was nervous, 791 00:29:36,275 --> 00:29:38,155 it just made it more fun. [laughs] 792 00:29:39,194 --> 00:29:40,994 Seat belts. - Mm. 793 00:29:41,071 --> 00:29:44,321 Yes. For sure. - Feeny, lookit. 794 00:29:44,408 --> 00:29:45,948 You’ve never seen Mama in the front seat. 795 00:29:46,034 --> 00:29:47,914 - He’s like, "I can’t watch." 796 00:29:47,995 --> 00:29:50,915 [both laugh] 797 00:29:50,998 --> 00:29:53,958 Okay, ready? - Are you ready? 798 00:29:54,042 --> 00:29:56,002 - Ready as I’ll ever be. 799 00:29:56,086 --> 00:29:57,586 - Failed. Failed. 800 00:29:57,671 --> 00:29:58,881 You already failed. - What? Oh. 801 00:29:59,006 --> 00:30:00,416 - It’s just like in a driving test. 802 00:30:00,507 --> 00:30:02,627 You wanna look at all your mirrors before you do anything. 803 00:30:02,718 --> 00:30:03,968 - Okay. 804 00:30:04,052 --> 00:30:05,262 - Put it into drive. 805 00:30:05,345 --> 00:30:07,925 Okay, now slowly take your foot off the brake. 806 00:30:08,015 --> 00:30:10,525 The car is gonna automatically start 807 00:30:10,642 --> 00:30:13,192 to move just a little bit. 808 00:30:13,270 --> 00:30:15,860 You’ve got this. There you go. 809 00:30:15,981 --> 00:30:18,441 - Holy [bleep]. - Do a full turn. Signal. 810 00:30:18,525 --> 00:30:20,645 - Which way? - To the right. 811 00:30:20,736 --> 00:30:22,316 Now, when you do a turn, 812 00:30:22,404 --> 00:30:24,204 I want you to turn-- yep, just like that. 813 00:30:24,281 --> 00:30:25,451 - I at least know that much. - Exactly. 814 00:30:25,532 --> 00:30:27,622 Right hand over left. right hand over left. 815 00:30:27,701 --> 00:30:29,991 I want you to put your foot on the gas. 816 00:30:30,078 --> 00:30:31,908 - [Bleep]. Where is the gas? 817 00:30:32,039 --> 00:30:34,499 - What? - Sorry, my foot slipped. 818 00:30:34,583 --> 00:30:36,333 Why are you holding on? 819 00:30:36,418 --> 00:30:37,708 - Just for my protection. 820 00:30:37,794 --> 00:30:40,384 - Where am I going? - Brake. 821 00:30:40,464 --> 00:30:43,224 - [laughs] 822 00:30:43,300 --> 00:30:45,220 You said put the car in park. 823 00:30:45,302 --> 00:30:46,762 I’m supposed to brake first and then put it in park, right? 824 00:30:46,887 --> 00:30:48,557 - Yeah, but you don’t ever have to slam the on brake. 825 00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:49,850 - I didn’t-- I literally taped it. 826 00:30:49,931 --> 00:30:51,851 - It’s okay. 827 00:30:51,933 --> 00:30:54,353 - You got these cones way... - No, they’re good. 828 00:30:54,436 --> 00:30:55,896 - Too close. - They’re good. 829 00:30:56,021 --> 00:30:57,061 - Oh, I [bleep]. 830 00:30:57,147 --> 00:30:59,017 - Just go through these cones. 831 00:30:59,107 --> 00:31:01,227 - We ’bout to go through these cones, all right. 832 00:31:01,318 --> 00:31:03,738 Have faith, please. - Mm-hmm. 833 00:31:03,862 --> 00:31:05,152 - Are the cones good on your side? 834 00:31:05,238 --> 00:31:06,358 - Cones are good. 835 00:31:06,448 --> 00:31:07,988 All right, now you gotta bang a U-turn. 836 00:31:08,075 --> 00:31:10,125 Full turn. Full turn. - Like, quick? Like this? 837 00:31:10,243 --> 00:31:11,703 - Full turn, yep. - Oh, [bleep]. 838 00:31:11,787 --> 00:31:14,997 Ooh. - Okay. We moving. Okay. 839 00:31:15,082 --> 00:31:16,622 - Ahh, where are we going? - What are you do-- 840 00:31:16,750 --> 00:31:17,710 what happened? 841 00:31:17,793 --> 00:31:19,093 What just happened? 842 00:31:19,211 --> 00:31:20,921 Why you wanna be in "Fast & Furious" so bad? 843 00:31:21,004 --> 00:31:22,174 - [laughs] 844 00:31:22,255 --> 00:31:23,665 - This is not tryouts, all right? Come on. 845 00:31:23,757 --> 00:31:26,047 - [laughs] 846 00:31:26,134 --> 00:31:27,684 - Let’s just turn right here. 847 00:31:27,761 --> 00:31:29,601 - Well, I get scared that the cone is there. 848 00:31:29,679 --> 00:31:31,179 - No, no. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. 849 00:31:31,264 --> 00:31:33,064 - Ahh. Ahh. Ahh. - Keep going. You’ll make it. 850 00:31:33,141 --> 00:31:34,891 Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. That’s good. 851 00:31:34,976 --> 00:31:36,346 Don’t hit the cone. Don’t hit the cone. 852 00:31:36,436 --> 00:31:37,726 - I can’t. Did I hit it? 853 00:31:37,813 --> 00:31:39,863 both: Ahh! 854 00:31:39,940 --> 00:31:41,270 - Somebody’s dead. 855 00:31:41,358 --> 00:31:43,988 - I don’t know if I would say Michael and I are becoming 856 00:31:44,111 --> 00:31:45,651 more affectionate with one another, 857 00:31:45,779 --> 00:31:48,699 but we are definitely enjoying being around each other more 858 00:31:48,782 --> 00:31:51,412 and it’s definitely bringing us closer. 859 00:31:51,493 --> 00:31:54,293 And so I have no doubt that if that continues, 860 00:31:54,371 --> 00:31:56,461 then more affection will come. 861 00:31:56,540 --> 00:31:58,960 - How do you think you did? - Amazing. 862 00:31:59,042 --> 00:32:00,462 - How would you grade yourself? 863 00:32:00,544 --> 00:32:03,134 - Honestly-- - A "D"? 864 00:32:03,213 --> 00:32:05,803 Nah, I’ll give it C plus, C minus. 865 00:32:05,882 --> 00:32:07,222 - I only hit one cone. - Yeah. 866 00:32:07,300 --> 00:32:10,220 But you have a heavy foot. That scares me. 867 00:32:10,303 --> 00:32:13,643 - But the thing is, who told the gas to be that strong? 868 00:32:13,723 --> 00:32:15,563 I think I did good. 869 00:32:15,642 --> 00:32:17,312 Tell him I did good. 870 00:32:17,394 --> 00:32:18,814 I did good? 871 00:32:18,937 --> 00:32:20,147 ♪ ♪ 872 00:32:20,230 --> 00:32:21,810 - You did better than I thought. 873 00:32:21,898 --> 00:32:24,108 Now we just gotta work on you actually getting a license. 874 00:32:28,655 --> 00:32:31,025 ♪ ♪ 875 00:32:31,158 --> 00:32:33,618 - Go potty, Sushi. - [inaudible] 876 00:32:33,702 --> 00:32:35,622 It’s okay. 877 00:32:36,997 --> 00:32:39,117 - Oh, he’s gonna pee on this. [laughs] 878 00:32:39,207 --> 00:32:41,417 - He always pees on this corner or that corner. 879 00:32:41,501 --> 00:32:43,041 [laughs] 880 00:32:43,170 --> 00:32:44,590 This is his home. 881 00:32:44,671 --> 00:32:46,341 - Wow, he really has to pee. 882 00:32:46,465 --> 00:32:47,675 - I’m usually happy once he goes up here 883 00:32:47,757 --> 00:32:49,177 because the pooper scooper is really easy 884 00:32:49,301 --> 00:32:50,841 to pick up on, like, this. 885 00:32:50,927 --> 00:32:52,427 - I think his Velcro thing is coming off. 886 00:32:52,512 --> 00:32:54,472 Do you want to put it back on him? 887 00:32:54,556 --> 00:32:55,846 - Oh, it fell off? - Yeah. 888 00:32:55,974 --> 00:32:58,484 - Oh, hold on one second, buddy. 889 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:00,020 ♪ ♪ 890 00:33:00,145 --> 00:33:02,275 Yeah, I must have strapped it without it on. 891 00:33:02,355 --> 00:33:05,185 Me and Sushi have a pretty special relationship. 892 00:33:05,317 --> 00:33:07,527 I feel like he trusts me. I take him out. 893 00:33:07,652 --> 00:33:09,862 I make sure he has treats and, you know, 894 00:33:09,946 --> 00:33:12,866 I do my best not to kick him while I’m sleeping. 895 00:33:12,991 --> 00:33:14,281 - Here, you do it. - Oh, what? 896 00:33:14,367 --> 00:33:15,447 You don’t wanna be on TV picking it up? 897 00:33:15,535 --> 00:33:16,865 - Show what a great dog dad you are. 898 00:33:16,953 --> 00:33:19,003 - Give me the damn thing. Ugh! 899 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:20,620 - [laughs] 900 00:33:20,707 --> 00:33:22,207 - One big one? All right, good. 901 00:33:22,334 --> 00:33:23,634 We’re good. We can do this. 902 00:33:23,710 --> 00:33:25,210 And then just think about, you know, 903 00:33:25,337 --> 00:33:28,337 making sure he’s doing well and attended to. 904 00:33:28,423 --> 00:33:29,723 ♪ ♪ 905 00:33:29,799 --> 00:33:30,719 - Good job, everybody. 906 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:31,880 Let’s go back inside 907 00:33:31,968 --> 00:33:33,638 and make sure our food’s not burning. 908 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,640 ♪ ♪ 909 00:33:36,723 --> 00:33:39,023 Good job. You want a treat? 910 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,400 You wanna give him a treat? 911 00:33:42,479 --> 00:33:45,019 - I think at this point, I’m definitely, you know, 912 00:33:45,106 --> 00:33:47,526 taking some more ownership of Sushi for sure. 913 00:33:47,609 --> 00:33:51,069 But at the same time, it wasn’t my responsibility 914 00:33:51,196 --> 00:33:52,906 that I brought into this marriage. 915 00:33:52,989 --> 00:33:54,699 - Make him sit first. 916 00:33:54,783 --> 00:33:56,703 [laughs] Or just give him the treat. 917 00:33:56,785 --> 00:33:58,375 - Would just hope that I would get 918 00:33:58,453 --> 00:34:01,373 appreciation for that rather than an expectation. 919 00:34:02,832 --> 00:34:04,252 - The waffles don’t take that long to make, 920 00:34:04,376 --> 00:34:06,206 so you could, like, start cooking, like, 921 00:34:06,294 --> 00:34:08,844 the potatoes and eggs. 922 00:34:08,922 --> 00:34:10,212 - Okay. [clears throat] 923 00:34:10,298 --> 00:34:11,468 I think it’s more important 924 00:34:11,591 --> 00:34:14,471 that we be fair with each other, you know? 925 00:34:14,594 --> 00:34:16,104 I don’t think anybody wants to feel like 926 00:34:16,179 --> 00:34:19,019 they’re the person who needs to do everything. 927 00:34:19,099 --> 00:34:20,929 [tense music] 928 00:34:21,017 --> 00:34:22,637 Hey, I can cook for you. 929 00:34:22,769 --> 00:34:24,939 I can clean up after you and myself. 930 00:34:25,063 --> 00:34:28,023 - Can you hand me a knife too for the waffles? 931 00:34:28,108 --> 00:34:29,858 - And that’s great for you. 932 00:34:29,943 --> 00:34:31,113 - Thanks. 933 00:34:31,194 --> 00:34:32,534 - But, I mean, the same way 934 00:34:32,612 --> 00:34:35,572 she feels uncertain about my employment status, 935 00:34:35,657 --> 00:34:38,697 I’m uncertain about how she will contribute 936 00:34:38,785 --> 00:34:41,785 to our relationship in this way. 937 00:34:41,913 --> 00:34:45,253 - All right, so we have to clean the closet. 938 00:34:46,585 --> 00:34:48,095 The bathroom’s gonna get cleaned. 939 00:34:48,169 --> 00:34:49,249 - Okay. 940 00:34:50,714 --> 00:34:52,884 - How ’bout we split tasks? You do one, I do the other? 941 00:34:52,966 --> 00:34:54,546 ♪ ♪ 942 00:34:54,634 --> 00:34:56,264 - I was gonna do my clothes. 943 00:34:56,344 --> 00:34:58,304 That’s gonna take me longer than your laundry. 944 00:34:58,430 --> 00:34:59,970 - Okay, well, I’ll save you one of the bathrooms, 945 00:35:00,056 --> 00:35:01,176 but I’ll do one of them-- 946 00:35:01,308 --> 00:35:02,638 - No, do both-- - ’Cause it’s two of them. 947 00:35:02,726 --> 00:35:04,266 And we can both do one of them, I think. 948 00:35:04,352 --> 00:35:06,102 - You can do both of them. - I think that’s pretty fair. 949 00:35:06,187 --> 00:35:07,937 I think we can both do one of them. 950 00:35:08,023 --> 00:35:10,783 - I think you can do both. - So which one do you want? 951 00:35:10,859 --> 00:35:12,989 ♪ ♪ 952 00:35:13,069 --> 00:35:14,739 Do you hate cleaning bathrooms that much? 953 00:35:14,821 --> 00:35:16,111 - I hate cleaning bathrooms. 954 00:35:16,197 --> 00:35:17,947 ♪ ♪ 955 00:35:18,033 --> 00:35:20,993 - Do you hate them so bad that from here on out, 956 00:35:21,077 --> 00:35:22,537 you’ll take Sushi duties? 957 00:35:22,662 --> 00:35:24,162 Responsibility of taking him out? 958 00:35:26,666 --> 00:35:28,246 - So I’ll tell you what. 959 00:35:28,335 --> 00:35:30,505 So then we’ll keep on splitting Sushi duties 960 00:35:30,629 --> 00:35:31,919 and we’ll both split the bathroom duties. 961 00:35:32,005 --> 00:35:34,135 Perfect. Pleasure doing business with you. 962 00:35:34,215 --> 00:35:37,675 ♪ ♪ 963 00:35:37,761 --> 00:35:39,181 No? You’re not stoked? 964 00:35:40,555 --> 00:35:43,055 - Yeah, I don’t think that... 965 00:35:43,183 --> 00:35:44,483 - Yeah, I think you should-- - That’s not-- 966 00:35:44,559 --> 00:35:46,689 - I think that’s fair. - The right play here. 967 00:35:48,396 --> 00:35:50,186 - [scoffs] Whoa. 968 00:35:50,273 --> 00:35:53,573 - It drives me a little crazy because, 969 00:35:53,693 --> 00:35:55,193 you know, it’s always, like, a discussion 970 00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,360 about what I’m not doing, 971 00:35:57,489 --> 00:35:58,909 but then it’s never a discussion 972 00:35:59,032 --> 00:36:01,662 about what he’s not doing. 973 00:36:01,743 --> 00:36:06,163 So I think that’s a very one-sided perspective. 974 00:36:06,247 --> 00:36:07,667 It makes me nervous. 975 00:36:07,749 --> 00:36:10,379 - Getting fiery on a Saturday morning, huh? 976 00:36:10,502 --> 00:36:12,882 ♪ ♪ 977 00:36:12,962 --> 00:36:14,632 - ♪ ’Cause now I’m up ♪ 978 00:36:14,714 --> 00:36:16,474 ♪ And I ain’t never coming down ♪ 979 00:36:16,549 --> 00:36:17,969 ♪ High above ♪ 980 00:36:18,051 --> 00:36:19,551 ♪ Yeah, you know I’m flying now ♪ 981 00:36:19,636 --> 00:36:21,216 - My guy. - [laughs] 982 00:36:21,304 --> 00:36:22,564 - Adjusting to married life 983 00:36:22,681 --> 00:36:24,391 can be challenging for any newlywed, 984 00:36:24,516 --> 00:36:26,636 but when you’re married at first sight, 985 00:36:26,726 --> 00:36:28,346 everything is moving so fast 986 00:36:28,436 --> 00:36:30,266 that it’s easy to become overwhelmed. 987 00:36:30,397 --> 00:36:31,807 - Hey, girl, hey. 988 00:36:31,898 --> 00:36:33,148 [laughs] 989 00:36:33,233 --> 00:36:35,073 - But marriage symbolizes commitment, 990 00:36:35,193 --> 00:36:37,823 which means that our couples have vowed to stay together 991 00:36:37,904 --> 00:36:39,664 and work through all of their issues, 992 00:36:39,739 --> 00:36:41,779 including things which may have caused them 993 00:36:41,908 --> 00:36:44,118 to walk away from previous relationships. 994 00:36:44,244 --> 00:36:45,914 - Look at you. 995 00:36:45,995 --> 00:36:47,245 - And talking with friends and family members 996 00:36:47,372 --> 00:36:48,872 who have their best interests at heart 997 00:36:48,957 --> 00:36:51,417 can help put things in perspective. 998 00:36:51,543 --> 00:36:54,343 [upbeat electronic music] 999 00:36:54,421 --> 00:36:59,431 ♪ ♪ 1000 00:36:59,509 --> 00:37:01,429 - So what’s up? How you doing? 1001 00:37:01,511 --> 00:37:02,601 - Good, man. 1002 00:37:02,721 --> 00:37:04,141 Now I’m married. - Yeah. 1003 00:37:04,264 --> 00:37:06,354 So you guys been together a month? 1004 00:37:06,433 --> 00:37:07,853 - Yeah. 1005 00:37:07,934 --> 00:37:11,274 - And what do you feel like you’ve found out about her, 1006 00:37:11,354 --> 00:37:13,814 and what do you feel like you need to find out about her? 1007 00:37:13,940 --> 00:37:16,070 - Yeah, I’m really getting to know who my wife is. 1008 00:37:16,151 --> 00:37:17,241 - Well, that’s probably a good thing... 1009 00:37:17,318 --> 00:37:18,318 - Yes, absolutely. 1010 00:37:18,445 --> 00:37:19,615 - To get to know who your wife is. 1011 00:37:19,738 --> 00:37:21,278 - We go up and down, but our biggest situation 1012 00:37:21,364 --> 00:37:23,994 was, so far--is the other day, 1013 00:37:24,117 --> 00:37:26,037 I seen she had a dating app on her phone. 1014 00:37:26,119 --> 00:37:28,619 And...I got upset. 1015 00:37:28,705 --> 00:37:30,755 I’m not--you know me. I’m very forward. 1016 00:37:30,832 --> 00:37:31,962 I don’t beat around the bush. 1017 00:37:32,083 --> 00:37:33,083 You know that. - Yeah. 1018 00:37:33,168 --> 00:37:34,458 - People say, "Olajuwon’s an [bleep]." 1019 00:37:34,586 --> 00:37:35,836 you know, until they get to know me. 1020 00:37:35,962 --> 00:37:37,172 "Oh, the kid’s a goofball," you know what I mean? 1021 00:37:37,297 --> 00:37:38,757 - Right. He gets a little amped up. 1022 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,760 - Yeah, yeah. 1023 00:37:39,841 --> 00:37:41,261 - When I coached, I used to say, 1024 00:37:41,342 --> 00:37:42,472 "You play with emotion, 1025 00:37:42,594 --> 00:37:43,934 but you don’t let emotion play with you." 1026 00:37:44,012 --> 00:37:45,142 - Exactly. 1027 00:37:45,263 --> 00:37:46,973 It’s very important that I seen Coach Mack. 1028 00:37:47,056 --> 00:37:48,426 He’s one of my mentors 1029 00:37:48,516 --> 00:37:50,686 and he’s like almost a father figure to me 1030 00:37:50,810 --> 00:37:53,600 And he’ll be honest about my perspective 1031 00:37:53,688 --> 00:37:54,808 if I’m right or wrong. 1032 00:37:54,939 --> 00:37:56,319 He doesn’t just tell me what I wanna hear, 1033 00:37:56,399 --> 00:37:58,479 but he lets me know what I need to hear. 1034 00:37:58,568 --> 00:37:59,988 And-- [clears throat] 1035 00:38:00,111 --> 00:38:01,781 That means a lot to me. 1036 00:38:01,863 --> 00:38:03,243 ♪ ♪ 1037 00:38:03,323 --> 00:38:06,663 We butted heads-- finally really butted heads. 1038 00:38:06,785 --> 00:38:07,835 And, you know it. 1039 00:38:07,911 --> 00:38:09,161 I was talking, I mean, 1040 00:38:09,245 --> 00:38:11,245 with expression-- I was talking passionate 1041 00:38:11,331 --> 00:38:13,831 because I care for Katina, and she knows that. 1042 00:38:13,958 --> 00:38:16,288 - There is not a bad bone in your body. I know that. 1043 00:38:16,377 --> 00:38:19,297 - Yeah, I’m just a passionate speaker, and I... 1044 00:38:19,380 --> 00:38:20,260 I apologized. 1045 00:38:20,340 --> 00:38:22,260 She apologized. 1046 00:38:22,342 --> 00:38:24,592 It was very genuine and it was real. 1047 00:38:24,677 --> 00:38:25,847 There was no eye-rolling 1048 00:38:25,929 --> 00:38:28,389 and I didn’t have, like, a ’tude at the end. 1049 00:38:28,515 --> 00:38:31,025 - Right. Right. Right. So it was gone. It was over. 1050 00:38:31,100 --> 00:38:33,020 You let it go and you talked it out and it’s gone. 1051 00:38:33,102 --> 00:38:35,652 - And we don’t have no thing. So of course I’ma slip up. 1052 00:38:35,730 --> 00:38:38,150 - Yeah. - I am human. I’m not perfect. 1053 00:38:38,233 --> 00:38:39,443 None of us are perfect. 1054 00:38:39,526 --> 00:38:41,856 - As with everybody, when we’re passionate, 1055 00:38:41,986 --> 00:38:43,026 we’re amped up, 1056 00:38:43,112 --> 00:38:44,782 we tend to start popping off at the mouth 1057 00:38:44,864 --> 00:38:46,784 and saying things a million miles a minute-- 1058 00:38:46,866 --> 00:38:47,826 - Yeah. 1059 00:38:47,909 --> 00:38:49,289 - Right? ’Cause I do the same thing. 1060 00:38:49,369 --> 00:38:51,699 And then you gotta play backtrack and rewind the tape 1061 00:38:51,788 --> 00:38:54,668 and then try to make up for those moments, right? 1062 00:38:54,749 --> 00:38:58,169 But some things that get said can’t be unsaid. 1063 00:38:58,253 --> 00:39:00,843 So my best advice would be that, you know, 1064 00:39:00,922 --> 00:39:03,842 you watch what comes out of your mouth, right? 1065 00:39:03,925 --> 00:39:05,015 - Oh, 100% 1066 00:39:05,093 --> 00:39:06,093 - And getting mad isn’t a bad thing, right? 1067 00:39:06,219 --> 00:39:07,389 - No, no. - That’s a-- 1068 00:39:07,470 --> 00:39:09,060 - Means I care for her-- - Like any other emotion, 1069 00:39:09,138 --> 00:39:11,718 it’s how you let that anger out, right, 1070 00:39:11,808 --> 00:39:13,808 and how you deal with it that matters, right? 1071 00:39:13,893 --> 00:39:15,903 Not that it comes, just that you deal with it 1072 00:39:15,979 --> 00:39:17,559 and you let it go afterwards. - I understand. 1073 00:39:17,689 --> 00:39:20,519 - I think the biggest thing that they have going for them 1074 00:39:20,608 --> 00:39:23,028 is that they’re both authentic with each other. 1075 00:39:23,111 --> 00:39:25,741 And I just encourage him to keep speaking up. 1076 00:39:25,864 --> 00:39:27,954 I mean, to bottle something up would not be good 1077 00:39:28,074 --> 00:39:30,244 for anyone who is married, right? 1078 00:39:30,326 --> 00:39:31,986 You know, like you talked before, 1079 00:39:32,078 --> 00:39:34,788 other people think about life in different ways. 1080 00:39:34,914 --> 00:39:35,924 - Mm-hmm - Right? 1081 00:39:35,999 --> 00:39:37,209 Because of the way they’re raised 1082 00:39:37,292 --> 00:39:38,502 and because of the experiences 1083 00:39:38,585 --> 00:39:39,925 that brought them to where they are. 1084 00:39:40,044 --> 00:39:43,594 But one thing that you kind of both have to agree on 1085 00:39:43,673 --> 00:39:46,183 is the sanctity of that vow you took. 1086 00:39:46,259 --> 00:39:47,679 Right? - Mm-hmm. 1087 00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:48,840 - Is the seriousness of, 1088 00:39:48,928 --> 00:39:50,258 "I’m with you and you are with me 1089 00:39:50,346 --> 00:39:53,096 and no matter what pops up, we’re gonna work it out." 1090 00:39:53,182 --> 00:39:54,392 Right? - Right, right. 1091 00:39:54,475 --> 00:39:56,515 - We’re gonna try our best to-- - To do it. 1092 00:39:56,603 --> 00:39:58,603 - To talk about it and then move on from it, 1093 00:39:58,688 --> 00:40:02,818 because there really isn’t-- or there shouldn’t be anything 1094 00:40:02,942 --> 00:40:05,112 that breaks that bond, you know? 1095 00:40:05,194 --> 00:40:07,114 If it’s real. - Yeah. 1096 00:40:07,196 --> 00:40:09,526 - It seems like he really wants to make a connection with her 1097 00:40:09,616 --> 00:40:10,906 and it looks like he’s working really hard 1098 00:40:10,992 --> 00:40:12,452 to build some kind of trust. 1099 00:40:12,577 --> 00:40:15,287 And I wish him the best with it. 1100 00:40:15,371 --> 00:40:17,541 So good, keep moving in a positive direction. 1101 00:40:17,624 --> 00:40:20,084 - 100%. - And in another, you know, 1102 00:40:20,168 --> 00:40:22,288 40 years when you’re coming to visit me 1103 00:40:22,420 --> 00:40:24,920 in the old folks’ home and bringing me food-- 1104 00:40:25,006 --> 00:40:27,256 - I’ll be old and fat by then. - [laughs] 1105 00:40:27,342 --> 00:40:30,182 We’ll talk about you and your wife and your 15 grandkids. 1106 00:40:30,303 --> 00:40:31,973 - We’ll both be fully bald by then. 1107 00:40:32,055 --> 00:40:33,105 [laughter] 1108 00:40:37,685 --> 00:40:39,145 - ♪ Go on and live your life ♪ 1109 00:40:39,270 --> 00:40:41,020 - It feels like a blizzard out here. 1110 00:40:41,147 --> 00:40:43,317 - ♪ Go on ♪ 1111 00:40:43,399 --> 00:40:45,819 - Hi. - Hey, beautiful. 1112 00:40:45,902 --> 00:40:48,822 - So how are things? How are you doing? How’s life? 1113 00:40:48,947 --> 00:40:50,657 So last time we seen each other-- 1114 00:40:50,782 --> 00:40:52,122 the housewarming. 1115 00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:53,120 - The housewarming, yep. 1116 00:40:53,201 --> 00:40:54,411 - From your perspective, 1117 00:40:54,494 --> 00:40:56,294 how did it look like we were doing? 1118 00:40:56,371 --> 00:40:57,461 - You guys seemed to be 1119 00:40:57,538 --> 00:40:59,498 playing off of each other really nicely. 1120 00:40:59,582 --> 00:41:01,502 - Roller coaster. - Yes! 1121 00:41:01,626 --> 00:41:04,546 - Nobody’s here for-- - Says Mr. Competitor. 1122 00:41:04,671 --> 00:41:06,011 - I thought you were the competitive one. 1123 00:41:06,089 --> 00:41:07,509 - Mr. Competitor. - All for fun. 1124 00:41:07,632 --> 00:41:08,802 - Even, like, just the light hand touching 1125 00:41:08,883 --> 00:41:09,933 that was happening. 1126 00:41:10,009 --> 00:41:11,139 Like, just the little tiny stuff. 1127 00:41:11,219 --> 00:41:13,299 - It was good. Little--yeah. 1128 00:41:13,388 --> 00:41:16,098 Claire is one of the sisters 1129 00:41:16,182 --> 00:41:20,442 that I go to for advice, specifically on relationships. 1130 00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:22,730 It’s great to get a woman’s perspective 1131 00:41:22,855 --> 00:41:26,145 and to get a little more insight on what I should do 1132 00:41:26,234 --> 00:41:30,364 going forward being that Decision Day is approaching. 1133 00:41:30,446 --> 00:41:33,366 And I would say since then, we’ve made even more progress-- 1134 00:41:33,449 --> 00:41:35,279 - Oh, good. - In that arena. 1135 00:41:35,368 --> 00:41:36,948 ♪ ♪ 1136 00:41:37,036 --> 00:41:38,826 - How are you? 1137 00:41:38,913 --> 00:41:40,463 - Mike and I are actually pretty good. 1138 00:41:40,540 --> 00:41:42,000 - Oh, good. - I know. 1139 00:41:42,083 --> 00:41:43,293 From the last time we spoke, 1140 00:41:43,376 --> 00:41:45,836 we’re in, like, a really good place right now. 1141 00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:47,380 ♪ ♪ 1142 00:41:47,463 --> 00:41:49,053 There’s no more tension. 1143 00:41:49,132 --> 00:41:51,382 - That’s good ’cause I was concerned about that. 1144 00:41:51,509 --> 00:41:55,799 That’s not the type of energy that either one of you need. 1145 00:41:55,888 --> 00:41:57,178 - Yeah. 1146 00:41:58,307 --> 00:42:01,227 - You know I’m all about pros and cons. 1147 00:42:01,310 --> 00:42:04,020 So go ahead and tell me some pros 1148 00:42:04,105 --> 00:42:07,865 and some cons about being married. 1149 00:42:07,942 --> 00:42:09,492 - Being married or Michael? 1150 00:42:09,569 --> 00:42:12,239 - Being married to Michael. - I was like... 1151 00:42:12,321 --> 00:42:15,371 - Who else you married to? [both laugh] 1152 00:42:16,534 --> 00:42:17,744 - I would say 1153 00:42:17,827 --> 00:42:19,497 he’s been doing a lot better with communication. 1154 00:42:19,579 --> 00:42:21,079 Like, he, you know, 1155 00:42:21,164 --> 00:42:23,254 texts me now throughout the day. 1156 00:42:24,625 --> 00:42:27,915 You know, we have conversations when we’re home. 1157 00:42:28,004 --> 00:42:29,884 - I would say mentally right now, 1158 00:42:29,964 --> 00:42:31,014 we’re on the same page 1159 00:42:31,090 --> 00:42:32,300 for the first time. - Okay. Good. 1160 00:42:32,425 --> 00:42:33,845 - Since we started this. - Mm-hmm. 1161 00:42:33,926 --> 00:42:35,176 - I feel like for a long time, 1162 00:42:35,261 --> 00:42:36,551 we kind of were, like, playing a dance. 1163 00:42:36,637 --> 00:42:37,847 Like, we both were just like, "Wait, so are you"-- 1164 00:42:37,930 --> 00:42:39,100 - Yeah, like, kind of not trusting each other. 1165 00:42:39,182 --> 00:42:40,392 - "Are you feeling me? Are you not feeling me? 1166 00:42:40,475 --> 00:42:41,685 Are you serious about this? Do you wanna be"-- 1167 00:42:41,768 --> 00:42:42,848 it was like a weird dance that we both were doing. 1168 00:42:42,935 --> 00:42:44,055 - Mm-hmm. 1169 00:42:44,145 --> 00:42:46,235 - And I think that led to both of us, 1170 00:42:46,314 --> 00:42:48,114 like, not opening up to each other 1171 00:42:48,191 --> 00:42:49,691 ’cause we couldn’t trust the other person. 1172 00:42:49,776 --> 00:42:52,566 We were doing the same exact thing to each other. 1173 00:42:52,653 --> 00:42:55,453 And we’ve made a lot of progress 1174 00:42:55,531 --> 00:42:58,241 and we’re at a place where, like, we’re friends. 1175 00:42:58,326 --> 00:43:00,536 We enjoy spending time with each other. 1176 00:43:00,620 --> 00:43:02,540 Like, for example, yesterday, we played Scrabble 1177 00:43:02,622 --> 00:43:04,292 at, like, 11:00 p.m. in the bed. 1178 00:43:04,373 --> 00:43:06,133 You know what I’m saying? Like, that’s something 1179 00:43:06,209 --> 00:43:08,129 we would have never done three weeks ago 1180 00:43:08,211 --> 00:43:09,881 ’cause we just weren’t clicking. 1181 00:43:09,962 --> 00:43:12,212 - He was not really good at Scrabble 1182 00:43:12,298 --> 00:43:14,428 but he got an A for effort. - That’s good. 1183 00:43:14,509 --> 00:43:16,839 Those things are great to do together. 1184 00:43:16,969 --> 00:43:20,139 - Yeah, but also, 1185 00:43:20,264 --> 00:43:22,984 you know, I’m... 1186 00:43:23,101 --> 00:43:25,731 it’s been a month and I don’t have feelings for him. 1187 00:43:25,812 --> 00:43:28,192 [tense music] 1188 00:43:28,314 --> 00:43:30,404 - Physically, we’re kind of at a standstill. 1189 00:43:30,483 --> 00:43:31,823 This is the longest I’ve had to wait 1190 00:43:31,943 --> 00:43:33,493 to be physical and intimate with somebody. 1191 00:43:33,569 --> 00:43:34,989 - Mm-hmm. - I think right now, 1192 00:43:35,113 --> 00:43:37,663 I’m, like, thinking about my every move. 1193 00:43:37,740 --> 00:43:39,830 Like, "Okay, is this too much? Can I do this?" 1194 00:43:39,951 --> 00:43:41,081 - Oh, right. Yeah. - "Is this okay?" 1195 00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:42,790 I’ve never had that in my head. 1196 00:43:42,870 --> 00:43:44,960 - I think if you try to break a little barrier, 1197 00:43:45,039 --> 00:43:46,289 see what she gives you back. 1198 00:43:46,374 --> 00:43:47,674 If you feel like you’re not getting it, then, 1199 00:43:47,750 --> 00:43:49,250 you know, whatever. - Yeah. 1200 00:43:49,335 --> 00:43:50,495 - I would just try something little. 1201 00:43:50,586 --> 00:43:52,086 I wouldn’t go in for the real thing, but... 1202 00:43:52,171 --> 00:43:53,961 - Just be like-- - [laughs] 1203 00:43:54,048 --> 00:43:55,168 You know what I’m saying? 1204 00:43:55,299 --> 00:43:56,549 But I would do something little. 1205 00:43:56,676 --> 00:43:58,336 - Yeah. - Just little things. 1206 00:43:58,469 --> 00:43:59,969 Something super tiny. - Yeah. 1207 00:44:00,054 --> 00:44:02,184 - I’m not, like, closed off to him or, like, anything. 1208 00:44:02,265 --> 00:44:04,775 And I told him, like, my heart is open for sure. 1209 00:44:04,851 --> 00:44:06,391 You know, for-- - Yeah, I know. 1210 00:44:06,519 --> 00:44:08,729 - Yeah, for those feelings to come, but... 1211 00:44:08,855 --> 00:44:12,365 - Well, you know, I know how you are, 1212 00:44:12,441 --> 00:44:16,111 and you have to have something that, you know, 1213 00:44:16,195 --> 00:44:19,105 makes you desire somebody, so-- 1214 00:44:19,198 --> 00:44:20,158 - That is a worry. 1215 00:44:20,241 --> 00:44:24,871 Like, if there’s, like, no romance 1216 00:44:24,954 --> 00:44:27,964 or, like, anything like that by Decision Day, 1217 00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,710 then I ultimately... 1218 00:44:30,835 --> 00:44:34,005 wouldn’t say yes past Decision Day 1219 00:44:34,088 --> 00:44:37,128 if there was, like, no, you know, deep feelings. 1220 00:44:37,216 --> 00:44:38,626 ♪ ♪ 1221 00:44:38,718 --> 00:44:40,298 - I want to-- you know, I need-- 1222 00:44:40,386 --> 00:44:43,136 I want to feel like... 1223 00:44:43,222 --> 00:44:44,892 the effort that I’m giving, 1224 00:44:45,016 --> 00:44:48,846 which from my perspective is 110%... 1225 00:44:48,936 --> 00:44:50,226 - Mm-hmm. 1226 00:44:50,313 --> 00:44:51,653 - I want to feel like that’s being reciprocated. 1227 00:44:51,731 --> 00:44:54,231 And, like, I’ve talked about things to her 1228 00:44:54,358 --> 00:44:57,858 that I haven’t talked about in Lord knows how long. 1229 00:44:57,945 --> 00:45:00,605 - Yeah - Like, things I didn’t even 1230 00:45:00,740 --> 00:45:05,080 wanna talk about, like Ma, Grandma. 1231 00:45:05,161 --> 00:45:06,501 And I felt like if I opened up, 1232 00:45:06,579 --> 00:45:07,909 that would give her the space to feel comfortable-- 1233 00:45:07,997 --> 00:45:08,867 - It would make her comfortable. 1234 00:45:08,956 --> 00:45:10,206 - To open up, right. 1235 00:45:10,291 --> 00:45:13,091 We can no longer be stagnant in any department. 1236 00:45:13,211 --> 00:45:14,211 - Right, right. 1237 00:45:14,295 --> 00:45:15,425 - Emotionally, physically, mentally. 1238 00:45:15,504 --> 00:45:16,674 It has to be on the up and up. 1239 00:45:16,756 --> 00:45:18,046 And if there’s any part of our relationship 1240 00:45:18,132 --> 00:45:19,342 that’s taking three steps back, 1241 00:45:19,425 --> 00:45:21,505 then me saying yes on Decision Day 1242 00:45:21,594 --> 00:45:22,934 is not gonna happen. 1243 00:45:23,054 --> 00:45:28,184 ♪ ♪ 1244 00:45:28,267 --> 00:45:31,267 - ♪ You’re lonely to feel lonely ♪ 1245 00:45:31,395 --> 00:45:33,105 ♪ Getting off on pity ♪ 1246 00:45:33,189 --> 00:45:36,019 ♪ I’m not sorry, oh ♪ 1247 00:45:36,108 --> 00:45:38,188 - So... [clears throat] 1248 00:45:38,277 --> 00:45:40,107 Mark is on the outs for me. 1249 00:45:40,238 --> 00:45:42,528 Not sure he’s gonna be able to get back in. 1250 00:45:42,615 --> 00:45:44,915 My issue is, can he take accountability 1251 00:45:44,992 --> 00:45:46,542 when he makes a mistake? 1252 00:46:05,554 --> 00:46:06,854 - Mark said he wanted a whiteboard. 1253 00:46:06,973 --> 00:46:08,473 He wanted to make a schedule. We made a schedule. 1254 00:46:08,557 --> 00:46:09,887 He didn’t follow through with it. 1255 00:46:09,976 --> 00:46:11,386 Mark said he wanted to move to Boston, get a new job. 1256 00:46:11,477 --> 00:46:12,897 Now he’s wishy-washy. 1257 00:46:12,979 --> 00:46:15,559 Mark said he wanted to do a checkpoint every night. 1258 00:46:15,648 --> 00:46:17,518 Can’t stay in the room and he walks out. 1259 00:46:17,650 --> 00:46:20,610 Mark said he wants to talk about the future. 1260 00:46:20,695 --> 00:46:22,615 Can’t even tell me what his budget is for rent. 1261 00:46:22,697 --> 00:46:24,817 He has never been consistent. 1262 00:46:24,907 --> 00:46:26,827 He has never followed through. 1263 00:46:45,678 --> 00:46:47,808 I am furious and he is clueless. 1264 00:46:47,888 --> 00:46:51,018 He is falling short in every way, 1265 00:46:51,142 --> 00:46:53,312 and then he’s not giving me any actions 1266 00:46:53,394 --> 00:46:55,774 that show me in any way or form that he cares for me. 1267 00:47:06,157 --> 00:47:08,867 So I’m just not sure what we’re doing here, 1268 00:47:08,951 --> 00:47:11,201 to be honest with you. 1269 00:47:11,287 --> 00:47:13,287 This is no man of mine. 1270 00:47:17,126 --> 00:47:20,586 ♪ ♪ ♪ 1271 00:47:20,713 --> 00:47:23,593 - Cheers to us hanging out. - I know. I miss you. 1272 00:47:23,716 --> 00:47:25,046 - I miss you too. - I love you. 1273 00:47:25,134 --> 00:47:26,184 - I love you too. 1274 00:47:26,260 --> 00:47:28,350 I haven’t seen Ana in so long. 1275 00:47:28,429 --> 00:47:30,139 She couldn’t come to my wedding, 1276 00:47:30,222 --> 00:47:34,522 and I really want to see what her take is on our marriage 1277 00:47:34,602 --> 00:47:35,852 and how we’re doing. 1278 00:47:35,936 --> 00:47:37,726 I really never showed you a picture of him? 1279 00:47:37,813 --> 00:47:39,733 - No, I’ve been dying. 1280 00:47:39,857 --> 00:47:42,777 - I think I just need some words of encouragement. 1281 00:47:42,902 --> 00:47:44,992 So I wanted to give her 1282 00:47:45,071 --> 00:47:48,161 update A through Z on my marriage. 1283 00:47:48,240 --> 00:47:50,200 - Do you have any with his shirt off? 1284 00:47:50,284 --> 00:47:51,704 - Yeah, I do. 1285 00:47:54,121 --> 00:47:55,961 - [clicks tongue] - [laughs] 1286 00:47:56,082 --> 00:47:57,502 - Good job, Sis. 1287 00:47:57,583 --> 00:47:59,043 You guys look good together. 1288 00:47:59,126 --> 00:48:00,336 You gonna have some cute babies. 1289 00:48:00,419 --> 00:48:03,919 Have you guys had some relations? 1290 00:48:04,048 --> 00:48:06,258 - No, we haven’t. It’s been hard. 1291 00:48:06,342 --> 00:48:08,592 It’s not an easy thing ’cause to be honest, 1292 00:48:08,677 --> 00:48:11,177 I don’t think I could go to the end without, 1293 00:48:11,263 --> 00:48:14,733 like, obviously being intimate, but we still haven’t yet. 1294 00:48:14,809 --> 00:48:17,019 - You guys just, like, are affectionate 1295 00:48:17,103 --> 00:48:18,103 and kiss each other 1296 00:48:18,187 --> 00:48:19,267 and he’s touching you? - Yeah. 1297 00:48:19,355 --> 00:48:20,775 - He be saying some fly stuff, 1298 00:48:20,898 --> 00:48:22,108 and then I’d be like-- [giggles] 1299 00:48:22,191 --> 00:48:23,861 Like-- [both laugh] 1300 00:48:23,943 --> 00:48:26,243 - So do you feel like you’re opening up emotionally, 1301 00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:29,160 like, more since you’re married now? 1302 00:48:29,281 --> 00:48:30,661 Like, it’s different... - Yeah. 1303 00:48:30,783 --> 00:48:33,543 - Than just being in a regular relationship? 1304 00:48:33,619 --> 00:48:35,949 - So the other day when that instance happened 1305 00:48:36,038 --> 00:48:39,248 when I had a dating app on my phone... 1306 00:48:39,333 --> 00:48:40,543 - Oh, a dating app? 1307 00:48:40,626 --> 00:48:41,746 - And there was no active account. 1308 00:48:41,836 --> 00:48:43,456 - Oh, so it was old. 1309 00:48:43,587 --> 00:48:45,627 - Yeah, but he didn’t care about that part. 1310 00:48:45,714 --> 00:48:47,304 It made me feel like, do I need, like-- 1311 00:48:47,425 --> 00:48:49,305 I feel like just going back 1312 00:48:49,385 --> 00:48:51,055 and, like, reverting, and, of course, 1313 00:48:51,137 --> 00:48:53,137 it was in my mind, like, "I need to protect myself. 1314 00:48:53,264 --> 00:48:54,814 I need to, like, protect my heart." 1315 00:48:54,932 --> 00:48:56,062 You know? - Right. Right. 1316 00:48:56,142 --> 00:48:57,482 - Girl, it was bad. 1317 00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,270 Like, it was, like, kinda, like, a screaming match. 1318 00:48:59,353 --> 00:49:01,613 - You are married! 1319 00:49:01,689 --> 00:49:03,609 You can roll your eyes. That’s all I need to say-- 1320 00:49:03,691 --> 00:49:05,481 - No, I’m rolling my eyes because you’re yelling at me. 1321 00:49:05,609 --> 00:49:06,649 - But it’s okay! It’s okay. 1322 00:49:06,735 --> 00:49:08,235 - That’s why I’m rolling my eyes. 1323 00:49:08,320 --> 00:49:09,570 - Then we don’t need to talk. Then we don’t need to talk. 1324 00:49:09,655 --> 00:49:11,105 Then we don’t need to talk. 1325 00:49:13,534 --> 00:49:16,624 - You know, later on, we did have, like, a discussion 1326 00:49:16,704 --> 00:49:18,584 and we are in a better place now, 1327 00:49:18,664 --> 00:49:20,124 but I would say that was, like, a moment 1328 00:49:20,207 --> 00:49:21,957 where I was just like... 1329 00:49:22,042 --> 00:49:23,632 you know, it hurt me. 1330 00:49:23,711 --> 00:49:25,671 - And now going forward, you’re like, 1331 00:49:25,754 --> 00:49:27,514 "Is he gonna react like that every time 1332 00:49:27,631 --> 00:49:29,261 he sees something he doesn’t like?" 1333 00:49:29,341 --> 00:49:30,681 - Yes. - Or not talk to me about it. 1334 00:49:30,801 --> 00:49:32,841 - Right, and what I learned 1335 00:49:32,928 --> 00:49:37,428 with, like, communicating with him is being calm. 1336 00:49:37,516 --> 00:49:40,186 - But he has to do the same for you. 1337 00:49:40,269 --> 00:49:41,849 - You’re 100% correct. 1338 00:49:41,979 --> 00:49:45,399 And when problems do arise, I just want him to be able 1339 00:49:45,524 --> 00:49:47,694 to just, like, think about, like, how he-- 1340 00:49:47,818 --> 00:49:48,778 - How he says it. - Comes about it. 1341 00:49:48,861 --> 00:49:50,281 - Yeah. 1342 00:49:50,362 --> 00:49:52,032 - But I think that that’s something that he has to learn, 1343 00:49:52,156 --> 00:49:53,866 like, over time how to do. 1344 00:49:53,991 --> 00:49:55,371 - Yeah. - I have to figure out 1345 00:49:55,451 --> 00:49:58,331 if I have the patience to deal with him 1346 00:49:58,412 --> 00:50:02,372 trying to change how he executes things. 1347 00:50:02,458 --> 00:50:05,038 - When is Decision Day? It’s getting close, right? 1348 00:50:05,169 --> 00:50:06,959 - Yeah. - It’s, like, so nerve-racking. 1349 00:50:07,046 --> 00:50:08,876 It’s coming up so quick. 1350 00:50:08,964 --> 00:50:11,344 I mean, my advice to you would be have fun. 1351 00:50:11,425 --> 00:50:13,335 You’re beautiful. Like, you’re smart. 1352 00:50:13,427 --> 00:50:15,297 Like, you guys just have fun together. 1353 00:50:15,387 --> 00:50:16,467 You married a stranger too. 1354 00:50:16,555 --> 00:50:18,055 You’re doing this together. - Mm-hmm. 1355 00:50:18,140 --> 00:50:19,810 - You know what I mean? That’s my advice. 1356 00:50:19,892 --> 00:50:22,062 - At the end of the day, he’s a good man. 1357 00:50:22,144 --> 00:50:23,564 He’s so funny. - Is he? 1358 00:50:23,646 --> 00:50:24,806 - He’s hard-working. - Oh, I love that. 1359 00:50:24,897 --> 00:50:25,977 - He has a really big heart. 1360 00:50:26,065 --> 00:50:28,285 But I’m just like, "You know what? 1361 00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:31,400 Here I am. Like, it what it is." 1362 00:50:31,487 --> 00:50:34,027 I got married at first sight because I was tired 1363 00:50:34,114 --> 00:50:37,744 of wasting my time with people who weren’t serious. 1364 00:50:37,826 --> 00:50:40,696 I do believe that I did marry someone who is committed 1365 00:50:40,788 --> 00:50:43,748 to this as much as I am and that no matter 1366 00:50:43,832 --> 00:50:45,672 what obstacles are put in our way, 1367 00:50:45,751 --> 00:50:47,671 that we’ll be able to overcome them together. 1368 00:50:47,753 --> 00:50:49,003 ♪ ♪ 1369 00:50:49,088 --> 00:50:50,838 Miss you. - I miss you too. 1370 00:50:50,923 --> 00:50:52,343 [smooches] Ooh, you’re kissing me. 1371 00:50:52,424 --> 00:50:53,764 Yeah, baby. 1372 00:50:53,842 --> 00:50:55,472 It’s more action than you’re getting from your man. 1373 00:50:55,594 --> 00:50:57,264 [both laughing] 1374 00:50:57,388 --> 00:50:58,758 ♪ ♪ 1375 00:50:58,847 --> 00:51:01,557 Katina. [laughter] 1376 00:51:01,642 --> 00:51:03,892 - Let’s go. You’re cut off. 1377 00:51:03,978 --> 00:51:05,438 [laughter] 1378 00:51:05,563 --> 00:51:06,653 ♪ ♪ 1379 00:51:06,772 --> 00:51:09,572 - ♪ I keep thinking ♪ 1380 00:51:09,650 --> 00:51:12,530 ♪ What I could do to you ♪ 1381 00:51:36,260 --> 00:51:40,560 I’m talking to Noi about life after "Married at First Sight." 1382 00:51:40,639 --> 00:51:42,559 She told me that she didn’t want to move in 1383 00:51:42,641 --> 00:51:44,231 after Decision Day. 1384 00:51:44,310 --> 00:51:46,310 And for me, that’s a bit surprising. 1385 00:51:46,395 --> 00:51:48,235 It’s not something I’d ever even considered. 1386 00:51:48,314 --> 00:51:51,274 I thought moving in was just something that came with it. 1387 00:52:25,601 --> 00:52:27,981 I got married at first sight because I’m ready 1388 00:52:28,062 --> 00:52:29,902 to start building a future with somebody. 1389 00:52:30,022 --> 00:52:32,522 And it’s something that I’m taking very seriously, 1390 00:52:32,608 --> 00:52:34,358 and I would hope that my wife 1391 00:52:34,443 --> 00:52:36,033 would be willing to do the same. 1392 00:52:51,377 --> 00:52:55,047 Oftentimes, Noi doesn’t express everything she feels, 1393 00:52:55,130 --> 00:52:58,680 but I feel like there’s something more she needs 1394 00:52:58,759 --> 00:53:01,679 to feel certain about me, my employment status, 1395 00:53:01,762 --> 00:53:03,972 and where things stand in that regard. 1396 00:53:04,056 --> 00:53:05,386 ♪ ♪ 1397 00:53:05,516 --> 00:53:07,926 I’m not sure if that’s the case in this instance, 1398 00:53:08,060 --> 00:53:10,940 but if it ends up being that, then, yeah, 1399 00:53:11,063 --> 00:53:12,693 you know, I think it would be unfortunate 1400 00:53:12,773 --> 00:53:15,403 that I would have to do that just to prove something to her. 1401 00:53:43,387 --> 00:53:45,717 For me, it’s concerning because the same way 1402 00:53:45,806 --> 00:53:48,596 she feels uncertain about my employment status, 1403 00:53:48,684 --> 00:53:51,274 I’m uncertain about how committed are you really 1404 00:53:51,353 --> 00:53:54,863 if you have a fallback place that you can, at any point, 1405 00:53:54,940 --> 00:53:56,570 call it quits and move back to. 1406 00:54:03,323 --> 00:54:04,953 ♪ ♪ 1407 00:54:08,620 --> 00:54:11,210 ♪ Tick, tick, tock, tock ♪ 1408 00:54:11,290 --> 00:54:13,210 ♪ Time waits for nobody ♪ 1409 00:54:13,292 --> 00:54:15,132 - Okay. 1410 00:54:15,210 --> 00:54:16,460 - Thank you. 1411 00:54:16,587 --> 00:54:19,547 - Erica, I’ve known for the last seven years, 1412 00:54:19,631 --> 00:54:21,931 and she’s been through a lot of my most recent relationships. 1413 00:54:22,009 --> 00:54:24,219 She’s known the ups and downs. 1414 00:54:24,303 --> 00:54:25,603 How’s it going? 1415 00:54:25,679 --> 00:54:27,059 - Good. How are you? - Good. Good. 1416 00:54:27,139 --> 00:54:28,929 It’s been a while. - It has. 1417 00:54:29,016 --> 00:54:31,136 - Ugh. - So... 1418 00:54:31,226 --> 00:54:33,056 - It’s been a lot. - Tell me. 1419 00:54:33,145 --> 00:54:36,655 - It’s been almost five weeks, and we have good times. 1420 00:54:36,732 --> 00:54:38,112 - Tell me. 1421 00:54:38,192 --> 00:54:41,072 - She’s always been very honest and truthful and blunt 1422 00:54:41,153 --> 00:54:43,113 and gives me an honest opinion. 1423 00:54:43,197 --> 00:54:46,317 If I need some tough truth, Erica will tell me. 1424 00:54:46,408 --> 00:54:50,328 We can enjoy things, whether we’re in the house 1425 00:54:50,412 --> 00:54:52,292 watching a movie or watching a show 1426 00:54:52,372 --> 00:54:54,082 or talking about things or playing with the cats. 1427 00:54:54,166 --> 00:54:56,286 I think what’s interesting is, when we have good times, 1428 00:54:56,376 --> 00:54:58,036 they’re really organic and natural. 1429 00:54:58,170 --> 00:55:00,130 So it’s been, like, good moments 1430 00:55:00,214 --> 00:55:02,514 and then tough conversations. 1431 00:55:02,591 --> 00:55:04,341 And then if anything wasn’t "resolved," 1432 00:55:04,468 --> 00:55:05,638 it’s brought into the next week. 1433 00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:07,849 One month seemed to be a turning point, 1434 00:55:07,930 --> 00:55:09,180 and I thought things were heading 1435 00:55:09,264 --> 00:55:11,644 in the right direction, and then here we are 1436 00:55:11,725 --> 00:55:12,925 right back into the same arguments 1437 00:55:13,018 --> 00:55:14,348 we’ve been having since week one. 1438 00:55:16,146 --> 00:55:17,606 The first two weeks, it was, like, 1439 00:55:17,689 --> 00:55:19,149 me trying to adjust to her. 1440 00:55:19,233 --> 00:55:20,943 Adjust to the way she speaks 1441 00:55:21,026 --> 00:55:22,736 and trying to adjust to everything going on in my life. 1442 00:55:22,861 --> 00:55:23,951 Like, a lot of the things at the beginning, 1443 00:55:24,029 --> 00:55:25,529 I just didn’t know how to react to. 1444 00:55:25,656 --> 00:55:28,406 And she likes me to be direct, but I’m like, "If your tone’s, 1445 00:55:28,534 --> 00:55:30,954 "like, a hard tone, you wanna be direct, 1446 00:55:31,036 --> 00:55:32,866 you might take it the wrong way." 1447 00:55:32,955 --> 00:55:34,335 So I just don’t say much. 1448 00:55:34,414 --> 00:55:35,834 And then she’s like, "You need to tell me how you feel." 1449 00:55:35,916 --> 00:55:36,876 I’m like, "If I tell you how I’m feeling, 1450 00:55:36,959 --> 00:55:38,289 you might take it like"-- 1451 00:55:38,377 --> 00:55:40,207 and then if she continues with the subject 1452 00:55:40,337 --> 00:55:42,797 and I get loud with my voice, it, like, brings her back 1453 00:55:42,881 --> 00:55:44,301 to, like, when she got yelled at as a kid, 1454 00:55:44,383 --> 00:55:45,723 so she’s like, "Can you stop yelling at me?" 1455 00:55:45,801 --> 00:55:46,971 I’m like, "You just said the same thing to me 1456 00:55:47,052 --> 00:55:48,722 "four times in a row. I heard you. 1457 00:55:48,846 --> 00:55:52,096 I raised my voice ’cause I’m getting frustrated now." 1458 00:55:52,224 --> 00:55:53,684 Oh, thank you. 1459 00:55:53,767 --> 00:55:56,057 - Thank you. - Thank you. 1460 00:55:56,144 --> 00:55:58,614 - Thank you so much. 1461 00:55:58,730 --> 00:55:59,980 - It’s tough. 1462 00:56:00,065 --> 00:56:02,975 She has, like, a-- she has a very tough exterior. 1463 00:56:03,068 --> 00:56:06,148 And I think if anything someone says-- 1464 00:56:06,238 --> 00:56:07,778 the way she hears it 1465 00:56:07,906 --> 00:56:09,156 and the way she formulates the sentence, 1466 00:56:09,241 --> 00:56:10,831 it comes a certain way, uh-uh. 1467 00:56:10,909 --> 00:56:12,199 And I’m like, "I didn’t say that." 1468 00:56:12,286 --> 00:56:14,696 It’s like, "Uh-uh, I’m out." Like, so it’s like-- 1469 00:56:14,788 --> 00:56:17,368 - You guys have really bad communication, it sounds like. 1470 00:56:17,457 --> 00:56:18,577 - Yeah. 1471 00:56:18,709 --> 00:56:20,089 Well, that’s what I would say a lot, 1472 00:56:20,168 --> 00:56:21,708 and like, you know, week two and week three, 1473 00:56:21,795 --> 00:56:23,415 like, I’m still getting to know you. 1474 00:56:23,547 --> 00:56:25,087 And when we would talk about things futuristic, 1475 00:56:25,173 --> 00:56:26,593 I’m like, "I’m not there yet." 1476 00:56:26,717 --> 00:56:28,087 And, like, I can’t process these things. 1477 00:56:28,176 --> 00:56:29,886 - You’re not, but three weeks. 1478 00:56:29,970 --> 00:56:32,640 - Now it’s, like, three weeks. 1479 00:56:32,764 --> 00:56:34,394 - So she’s not wrong for saying, 1480 00:56:34,474 --> 00:56:36,234 like, "Where are we gonna be?" - No, yeah. 1481 00:56:36,310 --> 00:56:39,560 - You need to try and discuss 1482 00:56:39,646 --> 00:56:43,066 not holding grudges. 1483 00:56:43,150 --> 00:56:46,490 And you both have to be able to give a little. 1484 00:56:46,612 --> 00:56:48,282 You just have to be very open and honest. 1485 00:56:48,363 --> 00:56:50,783 You can’t just shut down. 1486 00:56:50,866 --> 00:56:54,116 - What I worry about is, in such a short time frame, 1487 00:56:54,202 --> 00:56:56,082 to be able to process this all 1488 00:56:56,163 --> 00:56:58,003 and say, "Yep, I want this forever." 1489 00:56:58,123 --> 00:56:59,463 It’s so hard. 1490 00:56:59,541 --> 00:57:01,631 That’s why I’m kinda like-- I’m not one or the other. 1491 00:57:01,710 --> 00:57:03,040 I’m like, I haven’t been away from her 1492 00:57:03,128 --> 00:57:04,208 to see if I really miss her. 1493 00:57:04,296 --> 00:57:05,416 - Right. 1494 00:57:05,505 --> 00:57:06,705 - But I’m not to a point where I’m like, 1495 00:57:06,798 --> 00:57:08,928 "I can’t live without you." - Right. 1496 00:57:09,009 --> 00:57:10,719 ♪ ♪ 1497 00:57:10,802 --> 00:57:13,472 [upbeat music] 1498 00:57:13,555 --> 00:57:16,635 - ♪ Whoo ♪ - ♪ Scandalous ♪ 1499 00:57:16,725 --> 00:57:19,025 - Hi. - Oh, my God. 1500 00:57:19,144 --> 00:57:21,984 - Oh, my God. - Hey, girl, hey. 1501 00:57:22,064 --> 00:57:25,154 - Hi. - Hi. 1502 00:57:25,233 --> 00:57:27,443 I’m so glad you’re here. - Me too. 1503 00:57:27,527 --> 00:57:30,157 - Sriracha and I tell each other everything, 1504 00:57:30,238 --> 00:57:32,908 and it’s a little unnerving to know that Steve and I 1505 00:57:32,991 --> 00:57:35,121 are still navigating a lot of these unknowns 1506 00:57:35,202 --> 00:57:37,832 about how we’re gonna move forward as a married couple. 1507 00:57:37,955 --> 00:57:39,875 So it is a little concerning for me, 1508 00:57:39,998 --> 00:57:43,208 and hopefully I’ll get some good advice. 1509 00:57:43,335 --> 00:57:45,845 It’s mostly good. 1510 00:57:45,921 --> 00:57:47,461 - What do you mean mostly, girl? 1511 00:57:47,547 --> 00:57:49,757 - Should we start with, like, the things that are awesome, 1512 00:57:49,841 --> 00:57:51,181 or do you wanna hear about the things 1513 00:57:51,259 --> 00:57:52,799 that are questionable? 1514 00:57:52,886 --> 00:57:55,346 - Start with good. My drink’s not here yet, so-- 1515 00:57:55,430 --> 00:57:57,270 - Yeah, we’ll wait till the alcohol gets here. 1516 00:57:57,349 --> 00:57:58,429 Well, it’s, like, mostly good. 1517 00:57:58,517 --> 00:58:00,057 I mean, like, Steve and I are, like, 1518 00:58:00,185 --> 00:58:02,515 just so playful with each other. 1519 00:58:02,646 --> 00:58:04,436 We’re always, like, laughing and having fun 1520 00:58:04,523 --> 00:58:06,693 and I can be, like, a kid around him, 1521 00:58:06,775 --> 00:58:08,825 which, like, I need somebody like that. 1522 00:58:08,902 --> 00:58:11,652 He’s really sweet. Like, he’s really thoughtful. 1523 00:58:11,738 --> 00:58:14,118 He did, like, a really cute, like, picnic 1524 00:58:14,199 --> 00:58:15,869 and, like, told me he loved me. 1525 00:58:15,951 --> 00:58:17,701 - On the first month? 1526 00:58:17,828 --> 00:58:19,498 ♪ ♪ 1527 00:58:19,579 --> 00:58:21,619 - In married at first sight timeline, 1528 00:58:21,707 --> 00:58:23,667 a month is like a couple years. 1529 00:58:23,750 --> 00:58:25,340 - Okay. 1530 00:58:25,419 --> 00:58:26,539 - Thank you so much. 1531 00:58:26,670 --> 00:58:27,710 - Okay. 1532 00:58:27,796 --> 00:58:31,126 - Yeah, so, like, that part’s all good. 1533 00:58:32,217 --> 00:58:34,047 Concerns... 1534 00:58:34,177 --> 00:58:36,217 his issue with me is, like, 1535 00:58:36,304 --> 00:58:38,724 "You should be doing more around the house." 1536 00:58:38,849 --> 00:58:41,389 He’s like, "It’s an unbalanced situation 1537 00:58:41,476 --> 00:58:44,726 "’cause, like, I do almost all of the housework. 1538 00:58:44,813 --> 00:58:47,403 Cooking, cleaning, grocery store runs." 1539 00:58:47,482 --> 00:58:48,732 And I’m sitting here like, 1540 00:58:48,817 --> 00:58:51,317 "Wait a minute, you’re telling me 1541 00:58:51,403 --> 00:58:55,163 "we need to have equal effort in this marriage 1542 00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:57,660 "when, like, you have more free time than I do 1543 00:58:57,743 --> 00:58:59,333 for obvious reasons." 1544 00:58:59,411 --> 00:59:00,621 His reasoning was, you know, 1545 00:59:00,746 --> 00:59:02,366 "You don’t help out enough in the house 1546 00:59:02,456 --> 00:59:03,666 "because you work. 1547 00:59:03,749 --> 00:59:05,749 "But you working is just for you. 1548 00:59:05,876 --> 00:59:08,376 "Like, me cooking for us is for us. 1549 00:59:08,462 --> 00:59:10,302 Me going to the store is for us." 1550 00:59:10,422 --> 00:59:11,762 And I’m like, "Me working 1551 00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:13,380 and making money is also for us." 1552 00:59:13,467 --> 00:59:15,007 - Yeah. - What do you mean? 1553 00:59:15,093 --> 00:59:17,603 It’s not all about me. Like, this is for you too. 1554 00:59:17,721 --> 00:59:19,721 Like, down the line, this is for you. 1555 00:59:19,806 --> 00:59:21,266 And then, like, the other thing that, like, 1556 00:59:21,391 --> 00:59:22,771 really rubbed me the wrong way-- 1557 00:59:22,851 --> 00:59:25,271 he’s like, "Why don’t we do this hypothetical situation 1558 00:59:25,395 --> 00:59:27,935 "where, like, Noi picks up more housework 1559 00:59:28,065 --> 00:59:30,025 to see if she can, because I don’t think she can." 1560 00:59:30,108 --> 00:59:32,068 ♪ ♪ 1561 00:59:32,152 --> 00:59:34,032 "You’re already so tired from working." 1562 00:59:34,112 --> 00:59:36,282 - That’s what he said to you? - Mm-hmm. 1563 00:59:36,406 --> 00:59:37,776 - That’s shady. 1564 00:59:37,866 --> 00:59:39,826 - What, I’m gonna pick up more housework 1565 00:59:39,951 --> 00:59:41,121 so you can have less, and then what else 1566 00:59:41,203 --> 00:59:42,453 are you gonna do? 1567 00:59:42,537 --> 00:59:44,117 - Let’s do another hypothetical situation 1568 00:59:44,206 --> 00:59:45,786 where you have a job. - Exactly. 1569 00:59:45,874 --> 00:59:47,424 - By hypothetical, it means it’s not real, 1570 00:59:47,501 --> 00:59:48,591 ’cause you don’t have a job. 1571 00:59:48,668 --> 00:59:50,128 - I know. No, I know. 1572 00:59:50,212 --> 00:59:51,632 That’s why I’m like, "You’re ridiculous right now." 1573 00:59:51,713 --> 00:59:53,593 Like, this is crazy. - He’s feeling emasculated. 1574 00:59:53,673 --> 00:59:55,553 He’s feeling some type of way. All this stuff. 1575 00:59:55,634 --> 00:59:56,724 You need to derail the subject 1576 00:59:56,802 --> 00:59:58,092 ’cause that’s what it’s really about. 1577 00:59:58,178 --> 00:59:59,638 Does he not wanna work, or is he like, 1578 00:59:59,721 --> 01:00:00,811 "Oh, no, I wanna work. I’ve been looking"? 1579 01:00:00,889 --> 01:00:02,349 What does he say to this? 1580 01:00:02,474 --> 01:00:04,394 - He’s waiting for me to come up with, like, a plan for him. 1581 01:00:04,476 --> 01:00:06,266 Like, a plan together so that--he’s like, 1582 01:00:06,353 --> 01:00:08,193 "I don’t know"--he’s like, "I don’t know what to do 1583 01:00:08,313 --> 01:00:09,653 "until we have the plan, the talk, 1584 01:00:09,731 --> 01:00:11,191 and you won’t talk to me," and blah, blah, blah. 1585 01:00:11,316 --> 01:00:13,606 I’m like, why do I need to give you the game plan? 1586 01:00:13,693 --> 01:00:15,783 The game plan is, you need to find one. 1587 01:00:15,862 --> 01:00:18,742 What do you mean? There’s nothing else to it. 1588 01:00:18,824 --> 01:00:21,084 I would literally be happy if you did anything. 1589 01:00:21,159 --> 01:00:22,489 Like, I don’t even care what you do. 1590 01:00:22,577 --> 01:00:24,077 Like, get a part-time job. I don’t know. 1591 01:00:24,162 --> 01:00:25,082 - Yeah. 1592 01:00:25,163 --> 01:00:27,003 To be really honest, 1593 01:00:27,124 --> 01:00:28,424 I think Steve should get a job for himself. 1594 01:00:28,500 --> 01:00:29,750 Not for my sister, 1595 01:00:29,835 --> 01:00:31,635 not for the imaginary kids that he wants, 1596 01:00:31,711 --> 01:00:33,841 but I think he should get a job for him. 1597 01:00:33,922 --> 01:00:35,512 ’Cause to my knowledge, 1598 01:00:35,632 --> 01:00:38,552 he’s not super happy with how things are. 1599 01:00:38,677 --> 01:00:41,467 If you don’t like it, do something else. 1600 01:00:41,555 --> 01:00:42,935 Duh. 1601 01:00:43,014 --> 01:00:44,104 - It’s hard for me ’cause I’m like, 1602 01:00:44,182 --> 01:00:45,272 "Obviously I want to help you, 1603 01:00:45,350 --> 01:00:46,770 I want to be supportive," but I’m like, 1604 01:00:46,852 --> 01:00:49,522 I can’t put myself in this type of situation. 1605 01:00:49,604 --> 01:00:51,364 Choosing to be with you forever 1606 01:00:51,481 --> 01:00:56,191 and still not knowing, like, if you can work. 1607 01:00:56,278 --> 01:00:58,148 - Forever is really long, girl. 1608 01:00:58,238 --> 01:01:00,318 - I know, and, like, honestly, 1609 01:01:00,407 --> 01:01:02,617 we’ve had some conversations about finances where I’m like, 1610 01:01:02,701 --> 01:01:05,541 I don’t feel comfortable combining our income. 1611 01:01:05,662 --> 01:01:06,662 ♪ ♪ 1612 01:01:06,746 --> 01:01:08,286 I’m trying to be cautious, obviously. 1613 01:01:08,373 --> 01:01:09,833 Like, you want me to move in with you, 1614 01:01:09,916 --> 01:01:11,376 like, right after Decision Day 1615 01:01:11,459 --> 01:01:12,749 when, like, I still don’t know 1616 01:01:12,878 --> 01:01:14,378 if you can, like, hold down a job? 1617 01:01:14,462 --> 01:01:16,552 He was like, "I don’t think you’re ready for marriage then 1618 01:01:16,673 --> 01:01:18,513 if you don’t want to live with me." 1619 01:01:18,592 --> 01:01:20,182 I’m just being cautious ’cause like, 1620 01:01:20,260 --> 01:01:23,890 I don’t wanna have to rebuild my life all over again. 1621 01:01:23,972 --> 01:01:26,772 I moved out to Boston for a relationship, 1622 01:01:26,892 --> 01:01:28,692 and that relationship didn’t work out. 1623 01:01:28,768 --> 01:01:31,348 And I just remember how tough and difficult that was, 1624 01:01:31,438 --> 01:01:34,018 and I just wanna do everything I can to make sure 1625 01:01:34,107 --> 01:01:36,857 that I don’t put myself in that situation again. 1626 01:01:36,943 --> 01:01:38,903 I mean, I need to see something happen. 1627 01:01:39,029 --> 01:01:43,409 I need to see him kinda step up to the plate 1628 01:01:43,533 --> 01:01:47,753 and take some action towards finding a job 1629 01:01:47,871 --> 01:01:50,871 or figuring out some kind of game plan. 1630 01:01:50,957 --> 01:01:53,747 And I’m hoping to see that before Decision Day. 1631 01:01:53,835 --> 01:01:56,745 - I don’t know you to date people like this, to be honest. 1632 01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:58,260 - I mean, I wouldn’t date someone 1633 01:01:58,340 --> 01:02:00,260 who didn’t have their stuff together, 1634 01:02:00,383 --> 01:02:02,053 who I would have to have these hard conversations with. 1635 01:02:02,135 --> 01:02:03,585 I just wouldn’t. - Yes. 1636 01:02:03,678 --> 01:02:05,808 - Because I don’t need to. - But you married that. 1637 01:02:05,931 --> 01:02:08,681 [tense music] 1638 01:02:08,767 --> 01:02:09,927 ♪ ♪ 1639 01:02:10,060 --> 01:02:11,230 So what are you gonna do? 1640 01:02:11,311 --> 01:02:12,851 - Well, that’s-- - What are you gonna do? 1641 01:02:12,938 --> 01:02:14,358 - That’s where I’m right now, Michael. 1642 01:02:14,439 --> 01:02:17,609 ♪ ♪ 1643 01:02:21,947 --> 01:02:23,107 - ♪ I can’t sleep at night now ♪ 1644 01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:26,160 ♪ Waiting for the background ♪ 1645 01:02:26,284 --> 01:02:30,414 ♪ Of my mind to quiet down ♪ [line ringing] 1646 01:02:30,497 --> 01:02:32,117 - Hey. 1647 01:02:32,207 --> 01:02:34,417 - Hey. How’s everything? 1648 01:02:34,501 --> 01:02:36,131 - It’s good. 1649 01:02:36,253 --> 01:02:38,553 I mean, I know we chatted somewhat recently, 1650 01:02:38,630 --> 01:02:41,590 and I told you about the pasta fiasco. 1651 01:02:41,675 --> 01:02:43,015 - The noodle incident. 1652 01:02:43,134 --> 01:02:44,264 - The noodle incident, yeah. 1653 01:02:44,344 --> 01:02:45,934 - That’s how I’m gonna refer to it. 1654 01:02:46,012 --> 01:02:49,182 - But since then, we celebrated our one-month anniversary. 1655 01:02:49,307 --> 01:02:51,727 - Aww, Steve, that’s so nice. 1656 01:02:51,810 --> 01:02:53,690 - Yeah, yeah. We had just a really great day. 1657 01:02:53,812 --> 01:02:55,772 It ended up being, like, the perfect evening, 1658 01:02:55,855 --> 01:02:57,605 you know, nice weather. 1659 01:02:57,691 --> 01:02:59,111 We had a great time. 1660 01:02:59,192 --> 01:03:00,822 Not to say there aren’t any problems. 1661 01:03:00,944 --> 01:03:02,404 - Problems like what? 1662 01:03:02,487 --> 01:03:06,697 - Oh, like, one of my issues right now 1663 01:03:06,825 --> 01:03:09,125 is that she’s talking about potentially staying 1664 01:03:09,202 --> 01:03:12,502 in her own apartment after Decision Day. 1665 01:03:12,622 --> 01:03:14,502 I’m like, I mean, I feel-- 1666 01:03:14,624 --> 01:03:16,174 I don’t know, I feel kind of uncomfortable with that. 1667 01:03:16,251 --> 01:03:18,001 Like, I mean, do you think 1668 01:03:18,128 --> 01:03:19,458 I have any reason to be concerned? 1669 01:03:19,546 --> 01:03:21,626 I mean, here’s one more thing that kinda came up 1670 01:03:21,715 --> 01:03:23,765 that was a bit awkward. 1671 01:03:23,842 --> 01:03:25,972 After the noodle situation, 1672 01:03:26,052 --> 01:03:27,472 like, I made it pretty clear, like, 1673 01:03:27,554 --> 01:03:29,064 I can’t be having any more social media. 1674 01:03:29,180 --> 01:03:31,390 Like, I don’t need our relationship 1675 01:03:31,516 --> 01:03:35,766 to be open to the public when we have issues. 1676 01:03:35,854 --> 01:03:41,194 And then I get another social media post. 1677 01:03:41,276 --> 01:03:43,026 It basically said, 1678 01:03:43,111 --> 01:03:46,571 "The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do." 1679 01:03:46,698 --> 01:03:49,328 And I’m like, "Seems like it’s directed at me. 1680 01:03:49,409 --> 01:03:51,739 If it’s not directed at me, I don’t know what it could be." 1681 01:03:51,870 --> 01:03:53,750 And I’m like, "Hey, by the way, I saw your post. 1682 01:03:53,872 --> 01:03:55,622 Was that about me?" 1683 01:03:55,707 --> 01:03:57,207 You know, she’s like, "No." 1684 01:03:57,292 --> 01:04:01,552 I’m just like...I mean, I’m confused, right? 1685 01:04:01,671 --> 01:04:04,721 ’Cause I don’t know what the issue could be. 1686 01:04:04,841 --> 01:04:06,471 - Well, I think she’s saying it’s not about you, 1687 01:04:06,551 --> 01:04:08,391 and for now, you have to take that at face value. 1688 01:04:08,511 --> 01:04:09,801 You have to believe her. 1689 01:04:09,888 --> 01:04:12,098 And listening to what’s been going on 1690 01:04:12,223 --> 01:04:14,353 since the beginning of the relationship, 1691 01:04:14,434 --> 01:04:17,774 what I hear you saying, what she’s told you, 1692 01:04:17,896 --> 01:04:20,606 it’s all the same, that she needs space. 1693 01:04:20,732 --> 01:04:22,532 And maybe there are times she’s going to explicitly 1694 01:04:22,609 --> 01:04:24,109 ask you for that, and maybe there are times 1695 01:04:24,235 --> 01:04:27,105 when she’s gonna push you away to get it. 1696 01:04:27,238 --> 01:04:31,198 And that’s just human behavior. 1697 01:04:31,284 --> 01:04:32,794 It sounds like you know 1698 01:04:32,911 --> 01:04:34,831 exactly what questions you have, 1699 01:04:34,913 --> 01:04:36,543 you know exactly what kinda answers you want, 1700 01:04:36,623 --> 01:04:39,963 and now it’s time to go communicate that to her. 1701 01:04:41,961 --> 01:04:43,341 [emotional pop music] 1702 01:04:43,421 --> 01:04:47,431 - ♪ If love can win, then we can’t be apart ♪ 1703 01:04:47,550 --> 01:04:49,340 ♪ Go back to the start ♪ 1704 01:04:49,427 --> 01:04:51,297 - Chef Morency, what are we making today? 1705 01:04:51,429 --> 01:04:53,469 - We are making lasagna rolls. 1706 01:04:53,598 --> 01:04:56,638 I’m gonna have you start with cutting some peppers. 1707 01:04:56,768 --> 01:04:58,348 - How am I cutting them? 1708 01:04:59,479 --> 01:05:01,609 - Oh, into little squares. 1709 01:05:01,731 --> 01:05:03,691 - Diced? - Diced, yeah. 1710 01:05:03,775 --> 01:05:05,825 You don’t get to correct Chef Morency in his kitchen. 1711 01:05:05,944 --> 01:05:07,744 - Oh, I’m sorry. I will cut them into squares. 1712 01:05:07,821 --> 01:05:09,241 - We say little squares. We don’t say dice. 1713 01:05:09,322 --> 01:05:11,162 - How much? 1714 01:05:11,282 --> 01:05:12,952 - Just keep going until it feels right. 1715 01:05:14,119 --> 01:05:15,409 - [laughs] 1716 01:05:15,495 --> 01:05:18,375 - We cook with feeling in Chef Morency’s kitchen. 1717 01:05:18,456 --> 01:05:19,826 - Okay. - We don’t do measurements. 1718 01:05:19,958 --> 01:05:21,378 We don’t do any precision. 1719 01:05:21,459 --> 01:05:23,289 Just-- - Cook with feeling. 1720 01:05:23,420 --> 01:05:25,050 - Cook with feeling. Cook from the heart. 1721 01:05:25,130 --> 01:05:27,210 - Okay. Okay. Okay. 1722 01:05:27,298 --> 01:05:30,928 - Today, I get to show Jasmina my cooking skills. 1723 01:05:31,010 --> 01:05:32,390 Since the beginning of this marriage, 1724 01:05:32,470 --> 01:05:34,890 she’s been cooking, and I’m excited for her 1725 01:05:34,973 --> 01:05:36,523 to be my sous-chef today. 1726 01:05:36,641 --> 01:05:38,231 - I’m gonna feel it from the heart. 1727 01:05:38,309 --> 01:05:40,019 ♪ ♪ 1728 01:05:40,145 --> 01:05:42,865 - I’m hoping that it would help us begin to really build 1729 01:05:42,981 --> 01:05:45,821 that emotional connection that we’re both longing for. 1730 01:05:45,942 --> 01:05:47,822 We’ve made a lot of progress in our marriage, 1731 01:05:47,902 --> 01:05:50,742 but we still have, you know, a long way to go. 1732 01:05:50,822 --> 01:05:52,622 It’s smelling fire, though. Tell me it’s not. 1733 01:05:52,699 --> 01:05:54,489 - Is it? Let me smell it. 1734 01:05:54,576 --> 01:05:55,946 It smell cute. - Right? 1735 01:05:56,035 --> 01:05:57,945 Try not to put your eyelashes in it. 1736 01:05:58,037 --> 01:06:00,287 [both laugh] 1737 01:06:00,373 --> 01:06:01,963 - Michael’s never cooked for me. 1738 01:06:02,041 --> 01:06:04,131 So I’m just happy to, you know, 1739 01:06:04,210 --> 01:06:05,840 experience another first with him, 1740 01:06:05,920 --> 01:06:10,590 and it feels nice to feel that Michael cares. 1741 01:06:10,675 --> 01:06:13,135 And that’s what I appreciate the most. 1742 01:06:13,219 --> 01:06:15,809 Four weeks really went by fast, 1743 01:06:15,889 --> 01:06:18,469 and I feel like we’re doing good now. 1744 01:06:18,558 --> 01:06:21,808 We found a rhythm and I just think 1745 01:06:21,895 --> 01:06:24,275 if it stays this way, 1746 01:06:24,355 --> 01:06:27,855 I know for sure, like, an emotional connection 1747 01:06:27,942 --> 01:06:30,532 and everything will, like, follow. 1748 01:06:30,612 --> 01:06:32,362 ♪ ♪ 1749 01:06:32,489 --> 01:06:34,449 - I think we both understand the role that we played 1750 01:06:34,532 --> 01:06:36,122 in where things weren’t clicking 1751 01:06:36,201 --> 01:06:37,661 at the beginning. - Yeah. 1752 01:06:37,744 --> 01:06:40,124 - But I will say, like, looking back hindsight, 1753 01:06:40,205 --> 01:06:41,505 there were times where I don’t feel like 1754 01:06:41,581 --> 01:06:43,921 I was giving 100%, right? 1755 01:06:44,042 --> 01:06:45,212 Like, in the moment, 1756 01:06:45,293 --> 01:06:47,133 I was telling myself, "This isn’t working 1757 01:06:47,212 --> 01:06:49,132 "because we just aren’t communicating well, 1758 01:06:49,214 --> 01:06:50,974 "or she just doesn’t understand me, 1759 01:06:51,049 --> 01:06:53,009 "or she’s painting me to be this type of way. 1760 01:06:53,092 --> 01:06:54,472 That’s why this isn’t working," 1761 01:06:54,552 --> 01:06:57,972 as opposed to saying, like, "What can you be doing 1762 01:06:58,056 --> 01:07:01,426 to give this marriage a shot?" 1763 01:07:01,559 --> 01:07:03,729 It’s like, could you be doing more? 1764 01:07:06,064 --> 01:07:07,524 Does that make sense? 1765 01:07:07,607 --> 01:07:08,897 - Yeah, I feel like that’s just 1766 01:07:09,025 --> 01:07:11,275 the first time you’ve said that. 1767 01:07:11,402 --> 01:07:14,242 Like, I appreciate you acknowledging everything. 1768 01:07:14,322 --> 01:07:15,612 ♪ ♪ 1769 01:07:15,740 --> 01:07:17,910 - If this is my marriage and I’m fighting for it, 1770 01:07:18,034 --> 01:07:20,834 nothing should stop me from trying to make this work. 1771 01:07:20,912 --> 01:07:23,412 So that’s the one thing that I wanna do moving forward, 1772 01:07:23,540 --> 01:07:26,460 is make sure I’m doing as much as I can possibly do. 1773 01:07:26,584 --> 01:07:28,344 ♪ ♪ 1774 01:07:28,419 --> 01:07:30,419 You feel me? - I feels you. 1775 01:07:30,505 --> 01:07:33,095 That’s what happen when you cook with Chef Morency. 1776 01:07:33,216 --> 01:07:34,426 - What? - Comes from the heart. 1777 01:07:34,509 --> 01:07:36,299 - Comes from the heart. - [laughs] 1778 01:07:36,427 --> 01:07:38,047 ♪ ♪ 1779 01:07:38,137 --> 01:07:40,887 - Communication with Michael has definitely gotten better. 1780 01:07:40,974 --> 01:07:44,484 I’m honestly relieved he’s finally, you know, 1781 01:07:44,602 --> 01:07:45,852 opening up and letting me in 1782 01:07:45,937 --> 01:07:47,767 so I can understand him a little bit more. 1783 01:07:47,897 --> 01:07:50,227 It’s good for now. It definitely could be better, 1784 01:07:50,316 --> 01:07:52,436 but I’m hopeful that it’ll get there. 1785 01:07:52,527 --> 01:07:53,987 Okay. - Now the moment of truth. 1786 01:07:54,112 --> 01:07:55,952 - Mm-hmm. 1787 01:07:56,030 --> 01:07:57,450 - ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ 1788 01:07:57,574 --> 01:07:59,994 ♪ Hey, hey, hey, hey ♪ 1789 01:08:00,118 --> 01:08:01,488 ♪ ♪ 1790 01:08:01,619 --> 01:08:04,459 [both snapping rhythmically] 1791 01:08:04,539 --> 01:08:06,579 - What it taste like? What it taste like? 1792 01:08:06,666 --> 01:08:08,536 - ♪ It’s too salty, but it’s good ♪ 1793 01:08:08,626 --> 01:08:09,876 - Okay. 1794 01:08:09,961 --> 01:08:11,131 You ain’t throwing it out, though. 1795 01:08:11,212 --> 01:08:12,212 You’re not throwing it out. 1796 01:08:12,297 --> 01:08:13,667 - I’m eating that [bleep]. - Okay. 1797 01:08:13,798 --> 01:08:15,378 - It is delicious, though. 1798 01:08:15,466 --> 01:08:16,836 - Let me taste mine. 1799 01:08:16,968 --> 01:08:18,758 ♪ ♪ 1800 01:08:18,845 --> 01:08:20,355 - One blow? 1801 01:08:20,471 --> 01:08:22,811 - [inhales sharply] Ahh. 1802 01:08:22,890 --> 01:08:25,770 - I was told not to comment in Chef Morency’s kitchen. 1803 01:08:29,564 --> 01:08:30,114 ♪ You set my heart on fire ♪ 1804 01:08:31,482 --> 01:08:34,402 - Okay, so I got some rice, some beans... 1805 01:08:34,485 --> 01:08:35,735 - Yeah. - Some tequila, of course, 1806 01:08:35,820 --> 01:08:37,030 ’cause it can’t be-- - Yes, I know. It can’t be-- 1807 01:08:37,155 --> 01:08:39,205 both: Taco Tuesday without tequila. 1808 01:08:39,324 --> 01:08:41,034 - Before I got married, me and my friends, 1809 01:08:41,159 --> 01:08:42,699 we would always do a Taco Tuesday night. 1810 01:08:42,827 --> 01:08:45,657 And since I’ve been married, I haven’t been able 1811 01:08:45,788 --> 01:08:47,328 to experience one of those nights, 1812 01:08:47,457 --> 01:08:50,417 so I decided I would bring that night to us. 1813 01:08:50,501 --> 01:08:52,091 Have you ever done a Taco Tuesday? 1814 01:08:52,170 --> 01:08:53,500 - Nope. 1815 01:08:53,588 --> 01:08:55,338 I’m about to have my first Taco Tuesday with my wife. 1816 01:08:55,465 --> 01:08:57,135 - This is your first time? - Yeah, I’m dead serious. 1817 01:08:57,216 --> 01:08:58,926 I like that you involve me, 1818 01:08:59,010 --> 01:09:00,760 like, in something that you do with your girls. 1819 01:09:00,845 --> 01:09:03,345 - You know, I want you to experience, like, 1820 01:09:03,431 --> 01:09:05,811 what I, like, used to do on a regular basis. 1821 01:09:05,892 --> 01:09:07,432 Things got heated 1822 01:09:07,518 --> 01:09:09,768 during the discussion of the dating app, 1823 01:09:09,854 --> 01:09:12,274 and it’s gonna be in the back of my mind, 1824 01:09:12,357 --> 01:09:14,067 but I can’t focus on that. 1825 01:09:14,192 --> 01:09:16,362 I didn’t sign up for this to get a divorce. 1826 01:09:16,444 --> 01:09:18,784 I signed up for a marriage that will last. 1827 01:09:18,863 --> 01:09:20,913 So some things I knew that I would have 1828 01:09:21,032 --> 01:09:23,622 walked away from being single it’s like, 1829 01:09:23,701 --> 01:09:25,121 you don’t do that in a marriage, 1830 01:09:25,203 --> 01:09:28,713 and I do feel grateful we were able to get over it. 1831 01:09:28,831 --> 01:09:32,001 So it is important for me to give 100% effort 1832 01:09:32,085 --> 01:09:34,885 to make sure that it’s long-lasting. 1833 01:09:35,004 --> 01:09:37,174 - Cheers. 1834 01:09:37,256 --> 01:09:38,546 - Our first taco night. 1835 01:09:38,633 --> 01:09:40,223 - That’s what I’m talking about, baby. 1836 01:09:40,301 --> 01:09:42,221 - [laughs] 1837 01:09:42,303 --> 01:09:43,803 One more. - Get it right in there. 1838 01:09:43,888 --> 01:09:47,468 [up-tempo music] 1839 01:09:47,558 --> 01:09:49,308 Wow, look how that looks. - Perfect. 1840 01:09:49,394 --> 01:09:51,064 - This looks so good. 1841 01:09:51,187 --> 01:09:52,477 - I brought the restaurant to us. 1842 01:09:52,563 --> 01:09:53,523 - I know. 1843 01:09:53,606 --> 01:09:54,896 And I can finally use this table 1844 01:09:55,024 --> 01:09:56,574 like a regular human being. 1845 01:09:56,651 --> 01:09:58,361 - For once. We always sit right there on the counter. 1846 01:09:58,444 --> 01:10:00,244 - I know. - [laughs] 1847 01:10:00,321 --> 01:10:01,451 - Ooh. 1848 01:10:01,572 --> 01:10:03,122 - Rice and beans, your favorite. 1849 01:10:03,241 --> 01:10:04,701 - Rice and beans. 1850 01:10:04,784 --> 01:10:06,834 - You know I’m gonna attempt to make rice and beans again. 1851 01:10:06,911 --> 01:10:09,081 Hopefully I can perfect it. 1852 01:10:09,205 --> 01:10:12,035 - We are overall happy. Our vibe is great. 1853 01:10:12,125 --> 01:10:13,425 You wouldn’t have even known. 1854 01:10:13,501 --> 01:10:15,001 If you came into our home, you wouldn’t even know 1855 01:10:15,086 --> 01:10:16,836 that there is even any type 1856 01:10:16,921 --> 01:10:18,341 of bumps or nicks in the road. 1857 01:10:18,423 --> 01:10:21,343 So it means the world to me to see that we could 1858 01:10:21,426 --> 01:10:23,716 come together still and understand each other. 1859 01:10:23,803 --> 01:10:26,683 So when you was younger, did you ever get in trouble 1860 01:10:26,764 --> 01:10:29,354 with stuff a lot when you was in school? 1861 01:10:29,434 --> 01:10:31,314 - Yeah, I was, like-- what kind of kid was I? 1862 01:10:31,436 --> 01:10:32,936 I don’t know. I was just like... 1863 01:10:33,020 --> 01:10:34,520 - You never got in trouble? - I just didn’t like school. 1864 01:10:34,605 --> 01:10:35,765 No, I got in trouble one time. 1865 01:10:35,898 --> 01:10:37,228 Me and my friend got in a fight. 1866 01:10:37,316 --> 01:10:39,356 - Hmm. - I got suspended. 1867 01:10:39,444 --> 01:10:42,404 They tried to give me, like, at-home suspension. 1868 01:10:42,488 --> 01:10:44,068 My mom called them and she was just like, "No." 1869 01:10:44,157 --> 01:10:45,407 - Your mom don’t play. 1870 01:10:45,491 --> 01:10:46,951 - It was in-- "She has to go to school." 1871 01:10:47,076 --> 01:10:48,116 ’Cause she knew if I was at home, 1872 01:10:48,202 --> 01:10:49,542 I would be watching TV. 1873 01:10:49,620 --> 01:10:51,040 - Doing something that you wasn’t supposed to be doing. 1874 01:10:51,122 --> 01:10:52,792 - So they locked me in a room at school for three days. 1875 01:10:52,874 --> 01:10:54,584 - Yeah, I know what you’re talking about. 1876 01:10:54,667 --> 01:10:57,167 - [laughs] 1877 01:10:57,295 --> 01:10:58,845 - When I was in middle school-- I’ll never forget. 1878 01:10:58,963 --> 01:10:59,963 It’s so funny. 1879 01:11:00,089 --> 01:11:01,919 I used to have two best friends, 1880 01:11:02,008 --> 01:11:03,798 Chris and Durrell, and-- [laughs] 1881 01:11:03,926 --> 01:11:06,096 We’re in one class together in math, and I’ll never forget. 1882 01:11:06,179 --> 01:11:08,889 The teacher, I don’t know how she didn’t realize it, 1883 01:11:08,973 --> 01:11:10,773 all three of us were like, 1884 01:11:10,850 --> 01:11:12,600 "Oh, we’re gonna go to the bathroom," just individually. 1885 01:11:12,685 --> 01:11:15,645 Like, Chris was gone for 30 minutes, 1886 01:11:15,772 --> 01:11:17,272 20 minutes. - Mm-hmm. 1887 01:11:17,356 --> 01:11:19,936 - And then Durrell went, and he was gone for 15. 1888 01:11:20,026 --> 01:11:21,736 And then I went out, the last one. 1889 01:11:21,819 --> 01:11:22,949 We were hanging out. 1890 01:11:23,029 --> 01:11:24,779 We saw the principal and we started running. 1891 01:11:24,864 --> 01:11:27,124 Oh, he chased us all the way to the classroom. 1892 01:11:27,200 --> 01:11:28,700 Durrell was the slowest one, so he caught Durrell. 1893 01:11:28,826 --> 01:11:30,786 Me and Chris got away. We were also taller than him 1894 01:11:30,870 --> 01:11:32,330 and everything, but it was so funny. 1895 01:11:32,455 --> 01:11:33,715 It’s one of the, like, best moments 1896 01:11:33,831 --> 01:11:35,291 I always think about when I’m in high school. 1897 01:11:35,374 --> 01:11:37,384 It’s just about, like, the little things. 1898 01:11:37,502 --> 01:11:39,462 That’s why I always tell you little things matter. 1899 01:11:39,545 --> 01:11:40,955 The little things mean so much to me 1900 01:11:41,047 --> 01:11:43,507 because you can’t paint a picture 1901 01:11:43,591 --> 01:11:46,261 if you don’t have the key details that make it special. 1902 01:11:46,344 --> 01:11:47,974 And that means being vulnerable 1903 01:11:48,054 --> 01:11:50,514 and coming out of your comfort zone for the one you love. 1904 01:11:50,640 --> 01:11:52,350 I’m proud we did that 1905 01:11:52,433 --> 01:11:55,853 because I have a woman that’s brilliant. 1906 01:11:55,937 --> 01:11:58,687 I have a woman who’s funny and a woman who cares. 1907 01:11:58,773 --> 01:11:59,823 I know she cares. 1908 01:11:59,899 --> 01:12:02,529 We were low and now we’re good. 1909 01:12:02,610 --> 01:12:05,950 We’re really good. We came a long way, Katina. 1910 01:12:06,030 --> 01:12:07,530 - I know. 1911 01:12:07,657 --> 01:12:09,027 - It’s great. 1912 01:12:09,158 --> 01:12:11,698 I’m happy I met you, Katina, and I love our marriage. 1913 01:12:11,828 --> 01:12:16,208 - ♪ Gonna stay strong until the battle is won ♪ 1914 01:12:16,290 --> 01:12:17,460 ♪ Oh ♪ 1915 01:12:17,542 --> 01:12:21,882 ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪ 1916 01:12:22,004 --> 01:12:25,054 [dynamic jazzy music] 1917 01:12:25,174 --> 01:12:26,554 ♪ ♪ 1918 01:12:26,676 --> 01:12:27,966 - Come here, my child. 1919 01:12:28,052 --> 01:12:29,892 ♪ ♪ 1920 01:12:29,971 --> 01:12:32,011 Oh, my little purr baby. 1921 01:12:32,098 --> 01:12:33,718 ♪ ♪ 1922 01:12:33,808 --> 01:12:35,228 [smooching] 1923 01:12:35,309 --> 01:12:37,349 Since we’ve been back from the one-month anniversary, 1924 01:12:37,436 --> 01:12:40,226 it’s been one thing after another, but, you know, 1925 01:12:40,314 --> 01:12:43,364 I feel like we do best when we’re just having fun 1926 01:12:43,442 --> 01:12:45,242 and laughing and enjoying each other. 1927 01:12:45,319 --> 01:12:48,359 So I arranged for our wedding photographer 1928 01:12:48,447 --> 01:12:49,987 to come by after dinner, 1929 01:12:50,074 --> 01:12:52,704 and I got these corny shark costumes, 1930 01:12:52,785 --> 01:12:54,745 and we’re gonna do a little shark family shoot. 1931 01:12:54,871 --> 01:12:57,791 ♪ ♪ 1932 01:12:57,915 --> 01:12:59,915 - Oh, my God. 1933 01:13:00,001 --> 01:13:02,001 - JC, come here, baby. 1934 01:13:02,086 --> 01:13:03,666 ♪ ♪ 1935 01:13:03,754 --> 01:13:06,344 - [laughs] Look at JC. 1936 01:13:06,424 --> 01:13:07,934 - I really care for Mark 1937 01:13:08,009 --> 01:13:12,389 and I really wanna be there for him, for better or worse. 1938 01:13:12,471 --> 01:13:14,431 And I’m getting a little bit of the worse, 1939 01:13:14,557 --> 01:13:16,557 but I just want a fun and relaxing night 1940 01:13:16,642 --> 01:13:18,062 where we can enjoy ourselves. 1941 01:13:18,144 --> 01:13:20,274 So for this photo shoot, 1942 01:13:20,354 --> 01:13:22,274 I’m going to try to put everything aside 1943 01:13:22,356 --> 01:13:24,776 and just be present in the moment and enjoy it. 1944 01:13:24,901 --> 01:13:26,861 Wanna try a bite of this? 1945 01:13:26,944 --> 01:13:28,404 You can pick whatever thing you like. 1946 01:13:28,487 --> 01:13:30,657 - No, that’s all you. That is all you. 1947 01:13:30,781 --> 01:13:32,661 Why don’t you try the sauce? Just the flavor. 1948 01:13:32,783 --> 01:13:34,453 - I don’t want to. I appreciate it. 1949 01:13:34,577 --> 01:13:35,787 ♪ ♪ 1950 01:13:35,870 --> 01:13:36,950 - What about, like, a pinky dip? 1951 01:13:37,038 --> 01:13:38,118 - Nope. - Please. 1952 01:13:38,205 --> 01:13:39,285 - No, I don’t want them. 1953 01:13:39,373 --> 01:13:40,373 - I just want you to taste the flavor. 1954 01:13:40,458 --> 01:13:41,538 - I know you do. I know. 1955 01:13:41,626 --> 01:13:43,456 But it’s not something I like, though. 1956 01:13:43,544 --> 01:13:45,554 - How do you know? - I know what I like. 1957 01:13:45,630 --> 01:13:47,970 - What’s in there? 1958 01:13:48,049 --> 01:13:49,469 Things you like are in there. 1959 01:13:49,550 --> 01:13:51,470 - But I don’t wish to. I appreciate it. 1960 01:13:51,552 --> 01:13:54,052 - Could you dip a fry in it? It’s a compromise. 1961 01:13:54,138 --> 01:13:56,718 - It’s me saying "no" and you saying "okay." 1962 01:13:56,807 --> 01:13:58,887 - Yeah. 1963 01:13:58,976 --> 01:14:00,056 - Nope. 1964 01:14:00,144 --> 01:14:02,654 - You don’t like pineapple? - No. 1965 01:14:02,730 --> 01:14:05,320 - Hmm. 1966 01:14:05,399 --> 01:14:06,729 Suspect. 1967 01:14:06,817 --> 01:14:09,737 - After talking with Erica, I really understood 1968 01:14:09,820 --> 01:14:11,320 what she was trying to help me with, 1969 01:14:11,405 --> 01:14:12,815 that we really need to work on our 1970 01:14:12,907 --> 01:14:14,657 communication skills between the two of us. 1971 01:14:14,784 --> 01:14:16,834 And I’m hoping that tonight, we’re able to do that 1972 01:14:16,911 --> 01:14:18,041 and really clear the air. 1973 01:14:18,162 --> 01:14:23,422 So this process is not an easy process. 1974 01:14:23,501 --> 01:14:25,341 - Yeah, I know. I’m here too. 1975 01:14:25,461 --> 01:14:27,341 It’s not easy. - Can I finish? 1976 01:14:27,421 --> 01:14:28,841 - Yeah. - Cool. 1977 01:14:28,965 --> 01:14:30,475 [tense music] 1978 01:14:30,549 --> 01:14:33,009 Every day has been different, I feel. 1979 01:14:33,135 --> 01:14:34,425 - Mm. 1980 01:14:34,512 --> 01:14:37,512 - We have great times. 1981 01:14:37,640 --> 01:14:39,270 - Mm. 1982 01:14:39,350 --> 01:14:42,020 - Then we have very difficult times, I feel. 1983 01:14:42,144 --> 01:14:45,774 And, you know, it took me four weeks to get to a point 1984 01:14:45,856 --> 01:14:49,276 where I was like, I do really care for this girl, 1985 01:14:49,360 --> 01:14:51,650 but I still don’t know what direction to go 1986 01:14:51,737 --> 01:14:55,527 because we have such a roller-coaster relationship. 1987 01:14:55,616 --> 01:14:59,366 So it’s a lot of, "Will these things ever smooth out 1988 01:14:59,453 --> 01:15:01,043 or will they not ever smooth out?" 1989 01:15:01,163 --> 01:15:02,463 Is what goes on in my head. 1990 01:15:02,540 --> 01:15:06,210 Will things that happened in the past stop resurfacing 1991 01:15:06,293 --> 01:15:07,713 in our current day-to-day? 1992 01:15:07,837 --> 01:15:08,877 - Wait a minute. 1993 01:15:09,005 --> 01:15:10,555 Not once are you looking at this of, 1994 01:15:10,631 --> 01:15:13,181 "Where can I do better and where did I go wrong?" 1995 01:15:13,259 --> 01:15:14,509 I get, like, "Well, if that’s what you think, 1996 01:15:14,593 --> 01:15:15,803 "that’s what you think, fine. 1997 01:15:15,886 --> 01:15:17,046 I’ll do what you want if that’s what you want." 1998 01:15:17,179 --> 01:15:19,059 And right now, I’m at the point of no return 1999 01:15:19,140 --> 01:15:22,810 and I’m not sure I can even give anything else in. 2000 01:15:22,893 --> 01:15:24,813 ♪ ♪ 2001 01:15:24,895 --> 01:15:26,855 I really wanna put our differences aside 2002 01:15:26,939 --> 01:15:28,899 and enjoy the night together, 2003 01:15:29,025 --> 01:15:32,325 but once again, the past keeps resurfacing 2004 01:15:32,403 --> 01:15:34,243 and Mark takes no accountability 2005 01:15:34,321 --> 01:15:35,781 or responsibility to acknowledge 2006 01:15:35,906 --> 01:15:38,276 or change his behavior, and it’s a problem for me. 2007 01:15:38,409 --> 01:15:42,369 I did tell you very many times, "This is a boundary. 2008 01:15:42,455 --> 01:15:44,925 I feel like you’ve crossed it. This bothers me." 2009 01:15:45,041 --> 01:15:47,171 - You know that when you say I crossed boundaries, 2010 01:15:47,251 --> 01:15:49,001 you don’t say it in that type of tone. 2011 01:15:49,086 --> 01:15:50,706 You raise your voice and you get extreme-- 2012 01:15:50,796 --> 01:15:52,416 - Mark, you raise your voice. - Can you listen? 2013 01:15:52,548 --> 01:15:56,178 I raise my voice after you shout about your boundaries. 2014 01:15:56,260 --> 01:15:57,800 - Sure. It’s all me, right? 2015 01:15:57,928 --> 01:15:59,508 No accountability. Got it. 2016 01:15:59,597 --> 01:16:00,677 - Two-way street. 2017 01:16:00,765 --> 01:16:01,895 - No, Mark. I take accountability. 2018 01:16:01,974 --> 01:16:03,274 - All me. All me. Okay, you do. 2019 01:16:03,350 --> 01:16:04,640 - Anytime we had a conversation on the honeymoon-- 2020 01:16:04,769 --> 01:16:05,809 - Stop. Stop. Stop. Stop. 2021 01:16:05,936 --> 01:16:07,056 You don’t have to, like, grip me like that. 2022 01:16:07,146 --> 01:16:09,186 - Okay, good. I’m done. 2023 01:16:09,273 --> 01:16:12,403 Mark is so quick to shut off and disconnect, 2024 01:16:12,485 --> 01:16:14,535 and I’m trying to grab his hand, 2025 01:16:14,612 --> 01:16:16,532 look in his eyes, and connect with him. 2026 01:16:16,614 --> 01:16:19,874 And when he recoils, I’m just hurt. 2027 01:16:19,950 --> 01:16:22,540 - ♪ Let it go up in flames ♪ 2028 01:16:22,620 --> 01:16:25,960 ♪ This dynamite, let it go up in flames ♪ 2029 01:16:26,082 --> 01:16:28,672 - This isn’t nice. I’m talking to a wall. 2030 01:16:28,793 --> 01:16:32,253 And a brick wall is a brick wall, 2031 01:16:32,338 --> 01:16:35,048 and I’m not sure I wanna hurdle this brick wall. 2032 01:16:35,132 --> 01:16:37,432 - ♪ I’ll kill the lights ♪ 2033 01:16:41,180 --> 01:16:42,810 ♪ Let it go up in flames ♪ 2034 01:16:42,932 --> 01:16:44,312 [door creaks] 2035 01:16:44,391 --> 01:16:46,641 - Hi. How are you? - Hi. How are you? 2036 01:16:46,727 --> 01:16:48,017 - Nice to see you. Come on in. 2037 01:16:48,145 --> 01:16:49,435 - Cool. I’m so excited. - Yeah. 2038 01:16:49,522 --> 01:16:51,322 Got the cats kinda spread out in different places. 2039 01:16:51,440 --> 01:16:52,610 I’ve got a couple over here. 2040 01:16:52,691 --> 01:16:53,861 - Awesome. 2041 01:16:53,984 --> 01:16:55,824 - Got one over here. It’s gonna be just me. 2042 01:16:55,903 --> 01:16:58,073 The wife took off a little bit. 2043 01:16:58,155 --> 01:16:59,775 So it’ll just be me and the kids. 2044 01:16:59,865 --> 01:17:02,825 It’s a little uncomfortable and awkward, the situation, 2045 01:17:02,910 --> 01:17:04,620 ’cause Lindsey decided 2046 01:17:04,703 --> 01:17:08,503 to take some time away from the evening. 2047 01:17:08,582 --> 01:17:11,962 So she’s not gonna be part of the cat photo. 2048 01:17:12,044 --> 01:17:14,424 It’s not something that I wanted to do without her, 2049 01:17:14,505 --> 01:17:16,925 but it is what it is. 2050 01:17:17,007 --> 01:17:18,507 - I would recommend, 2051 01:17:18,634 --> 01:17:20,184 since you already had that one on your lap, 2052 01:17:20,261 --> 01:17:22,681 if we’re putting this all together-- 2053 01:17:22,805 --> 01:17:24,105 oh. 2054 01:17:24,181 --> 01:17:25,271 - Hey. - Hi. 2055 01:17:25,349 --> 01:17:27,019 - You look very nice. - Thank you. 2056 01:17:27,101 --> 01:17:28,311 - I’m not feeling it. 2057 01:17:28,394 --> 01:17:29,854 You can just do it with just him. I’m gonna go. 2058 01:17:29,979 --> 01:17:31,019 - Okay. 2059 01:17:31,147 --> 01:17:33,767 - Ugh, I’m so mad at Mark. 2060 01:17:33,858 --> 01:17:36,358 ♪ ♪ 2061 01:17:37,862 --> 01:17:39,282 - Okay. - Okay. 2062 01:17:39,363 --> 01:17:41,323 ♪ ♪ 2063 01:17:41,407 --> 01:17:44,617 - I wanna do this, but I don’t wanna just put an effort in. 2064 01:17:44,702 --> 01:17:47,542 I just wanna hear if he wants me to be here or not. 2065 01:17:47,663 --> 01:17:49,123 ♪ ♪ 2066 01:17:49,206 --> 01:17:51,166 - What you doing? 2067 01:17:51,250 --> 01:17:53,960 - I’m gonna go to my house for the night to pack up. 2068 01:17:54,044 --> 01:17:59,594 ♪ ♪ 2069 01:17:59,717 --> 01:18:01,837 I feel like I’m going to raise my voice, 2070 01:18:01,927 --> 01:18:03,387 so I need to say, "I just need to take a minute 2071 01:18:03,470 --> 01:18:05,560 because I’m so hurt." 2072 01:18:05,681 --> 01:18:08,231 And if I’m that hurt, I’m gonna be really angry. 2073 01:18:08,309 --> 01:18:10,189 So I just need a moment. 2074 01:18:10,269 --> 01:18:12,899 I’m really frustrated with you. 2075 01:18:12,980 --> 01:18:14,650 I’m very upset with you. 2076 01:18:14,732 --> 01:18:17,192 I feel like you actually don’t give a [bleep]. 2077 01:18:17,276 --> 01:18:19,146 And when I try to talk to you, 2078 01:18:19,236 --> 01:18:20,856 you, like, recoil and you get defensive, 2079 01:18:20,946 --> 01:18:23,366 and I’m just-- I can’t do it no more. 2080 01:18:23,449 --> 01:18:24,829 I can’t take the lack of boundaries, 2081 01:18:24,909 --> 01:18:26,329 the lack of accountability. 2082 01:18:26,410 --> 01:18:29,910 It ain’t worth it to me. The price is too high. 2083 01:18:29,997 --> 01:18:32,867 - Price is too high. - Yeah. 2084 01:18:32,958 --> 01:18:35,628 - The way that we speak and receive messages, 2085 01:18:35,753 --> 01:18:37,093 it has to change ’cause we’re doing the same thing 2086 01:18:37,171 --> 01:18:38,591 over and over again. 2087 01:18:38,714 --> 01:18:41,174 She’ll get mad about something that’s probably valid, 2088 01:18:41,258 --> 01:18:44,008 but her way of telling it to me and being expressive 2089 01:18:44,094 --> 01:18:46,514 doesn’t make me go change real quick 2090 01:18:46,597 --> 01:18:49,887 because it’s coming from such a negative tone, I feel. 2091 01:18:49,975 --> 01:18:51,805 I can’t change how you feel. 2092 01:18:51,936 --> 01:18:53,056 - Hmm. 2093 01:18:53,145 --> 01:18:55,515 - All I said was, things are a two-way street. 2094 01:18:55,606 --> 01:18:57,516 I can take accountability. I just feel like discussions 2095 01:18:57,608 --> 01:18:59,778 and difficulties we’ve had have been a two-way street. 2096 01:18:59,860 --> 01:19:00,940 That’s all I’ve said. 2097 01:19:01,028 --> 01:19:02,528 - Mark, there are certain discussions 2098 01:19:02,613 --> 01:19:04,113 that there isn’t a two-way on that. 2099 01:19:04,240 --> 01:19:07,620 - Okay. All right. 2100 01:19:07,701 --> 01:19:09,411 If that’s how you feel, it’s how you feel. 2101 01:19:09,495 --> 01:19:11,875 - You keep pushing me away. - I’m not trying to push you-- 2102 01:19:11,956 --> 01:19:13,116 - You keep doing these things where I’m like, 2103 01:19:13,207 --> 01:19:15,327 you’re not invested. 2104 01:19:15,459 --> 01:19:16,629 You’re not ready. 2105 01:19:16,710 --> 01:19:18,130 You’re not pouring in. 2106 01:19:18,212 --> 01:19:21,172 You can pour into everybody else, 2107 01:19:21,298 --> 01:19:23,128 but not this. 2108 01:19:23,217 --> 01:19:25,297 - I don’t try to push you in any direction. 2109 01:19:25,427 --> 01:19:26,847 - Mark, you don’t try to do nothing hard. 2110 01:19:26,971 --> 01:19:28,811 - Okay, then I don’t do anything, Linds. 2111 01:19:28,889 --> 01:19:31,309 Okay, I don’t do anything. Great. 2112 01:19:31,392 --> 01:19:32,812 You feel better? 2113 01:19:32,935 --> 01:19:34,485 Whenever I try to say something, it’s always like, 2114 01:19:34,561 --> 01:19:36,061 she feels I’m just trying to defend myself 2115 01:19:36,146 --> 01:19:37,306 and I can’t hear her point. 2116 01:19:37,398 --> 01:19:38,648 And I’m like, I hear your point 2117 01:19:38,774 --> 01:19:40,444 but there are two points in this argument. 2118 01:19:40,526 --> 01:19:44,486 There’s what I did and there’s the way you talk about it. 2119 01:19:44,571 --> 01:19:45,781 And those are the things that we go 2120 01:19:45,864 --> 01:19:48,124 back and forth with every week. 2121 01:19:48,200 --> 01:19:49,790 We have someone here to do a photo shoot. 2122 01:19:49,868 --> 01:19:51,158 Do you want to do the photo shoot? 2123 01:19:51,287 --> 01:19:53,327 - Do I wanna pretend like I like you? No. 2124 01:19:53,414 --> 01:19:55,004 - Then don’t. Then don’t. 2125 01:19:55,082 --> 01:19:58,002 But we have somebody here who is taking her time 2126 01:19:58,085 --> 01:19:59,295 to be here to do a photo shoot, 2127 01:19:59,378 --> 01:20:00,418 and if you’d like to do a photo shoot, 2128 01:20:00,504 --> 01:20:01,804 that would be great. If you don’t-- 2129 01:20:01,880 --> 01:20:06,300 - I don’t see the point of a family photo shoot. 2130 01:20:06,385 --> 01:20:08,605 - I think it’d be great if you stayed for the photo shoot. 2131 01:20:08,679 --> 01:20:10,099 ♪ ♪ 2132 01:20:10,180 --> 01:20:12,600 - I mean, do I want to? No. 2133 01:20:12,683 --> 01:20:14,813 Do you want me to? That’s a different question. 2134 01:20:14,893 --> 01:20:15,943 - Yeah, I think it’d be great 2135 01:20:16,020 --> 01:20:17,440 if you stayed for the photo shoot. 2136 01:20:17,521 --> 01:20:19,111 I have three cats. You have two cats. 2137 01:20:19,189 --> 01:20:21,859 We’ve been here for five weeks. It would be a fun photo shoot. 2138 01:20:21,942 --> 01:20:24,362 - Okay, if you would like me to stay for this photo shoot, 2139 01:20:24,445 --> 01:20:25,865 then I can stay for this photo shoot. 2140 01:20:25,946 --> 01:20:27,446 - So stay for the photo shoot. 2141 01:20:27,531 --> 01:20:33,041 ♪ ♪ 2142 01:20:41,879 --> 01:20:43,459 Oh, my God. 2143 01:20:43,547 --> 01:20:45,167 - Is everything okay? - Oh. 2144 01:20:45,257 --> 01:20:46,507 - Are you ready to go? 2145 01:20:46,592 --> 01:20:49,852 Let me grab this right here. 2146 01:20:49,928 --> 01:20:51,388 - Hey, what do you think I should wear? 2147 01:20:51,513 --> 01:20:53,183 - You want me to come help you? - Yeah. 2148 01:20:53,265 --> 01:20:55,475 - I can. Let’s see. 2149 01:20:55,559 --> 01:20:57,559 - I don’t really think I’m surprised that she’s staying, 2150 01:20:57,644 --> 01:20:59,064 even though she wants to leave right afterwards. 2151 01:20:59,146 --> 01:21:00,806 She wants space from me. 2152 01:21:00,898 --> 01:21:03,068 I think that this is something that Lindsey 2153 01:21:03,192 --> 01:21:05,402 would wanna do regardless 2154 01:21:05,486 --> 01:21:08,066 of how she feels about me or the situation we’re in. 2155 01:21:08,197 --> 01:21:10,817 I think she would want to have a fun photo with all the cats. 2156 01:21:10,908 --> 01:21:13,788 - It’s literally so many cats. - There we go. 2157 01:21:13,911 --> 01:21:16,501 Regardless of where they are, we’ve got them all. 2158 01:21:16,580 --> 01:21:18,420 [camera shutter clicks] Oh, my goodness. 2159 01:21:18,499 --> 01:21:20,249 This is amazing. 2160 01:21:20,376 --> 01:21:22,746 - That’s the thing I know about Lindsey is, when she’s pissed, 2161 01:21:22,878 --> 01:21:25,168 she can be pissed royally 2162 01:21:25,255 --> 01:21:28,675 and then do an activity with me and be fine. 2163 01:21:28,759 --> 01:21:31,929 - Yeah, lay down on the floor. Let’s catch those bubbles. 2164 01:21:32,012 --> 01:21:33,182 - And then once it’s over, though, 2165 01:21:33,263 --> 01:21:35,023 she goes right back to that mood, that place 2166 01:21:35,099 --> 01:21:37,929 because everything is gone and she’s like, "I’m pissed." 2167 01:21:38,018 --> 01:21:42,108 - All right, do you guys want any of just the two of you? 2168 01:21:42,231 --> 01:21:49,241 ♪ ♪ 2169 01:21:51,156 --> 01:21:53,026 - Oh, I’ll leave it up to him. 2170 01:21:53,117 --> 01:21:54,277 - Yeah. - Yeah? 2171 01:21:54,410 --> 01:21:57,700 All right, move in there. Move closer to her. 2172 01:21:57,788 --> 01:21:59,748 All right. 2173 01:21:59,832 --> 01:22:03,212 - Communication-wise, it just-- it’s almost like 2174 01:22:03,293 --> 01:22:05,253 we try, but it doesn’t work. 2175 01:22:05,337 --> 01:22:07,127 And I don’t know if it will ever. 2176 01:22:07,214 --> 01:22:11,384 - ♪ Is it really worth it? ♪ 2177 01:22:11,468 --> 01:22:15,218 ♪ Are you really worth it? ♪ 2178 01:22:15,305 --> 01:22:17,925 ♪ So tell me, are you worth it? ♪ 2179 01:22:18,016 --> 01:22:19,346 ♪ ♪ 2180 01:22:19,476 --> 01:22:20,976 - It’s going down. - You got it. 2181 01:22:21,103 --> 01:22:23,403 - Next time on "Married at First Sight," 2182 01:22:23,480 --> 01:22:26,230 with less than three weeks left until Decision Day, 2183 01:22:26,316 --> 01:22:27,646 Dr. Pepper and I will speak 2184 01:22:27,734 --> 01:22:29,574 to each of the spouses individually 2185 01:22:29,653 --> 01:22:33,163 to take a real and honest look at their marriages. 2186 01:22:33,282 --> 01:22:34,322 - If this is how it is now, 2187 01:22:34,450 --> 01:22:35,950 it could only get worse from here. 2188 01:22:36,034 --> 01:22:38,954 - I literally almost always feel sad all the time. 2189 01:22:39,037 --> 01:22:40,367 ♪ ♪ 2190 01:22:40,497 --> 01:22:43,247 - Do you feel as though your marriage is in danger? 2191 01:22:43,333 --> 01:22:46,003 - It’s just, I don’t feel anything when he touches me. 2192 01:22:46,128 --> 01:22:48,168 - I said, "I don’t want you to do anything 2193 01:22:48,255 --> 01:22:50,265 out of obligation." - But that was a dumb move. 2194 01:22:50,340 --> 01:22:51,680 - Anybody wants to say something, 2195 01:22:51,758 --> 01:22:52,758 they can say it to me 2196 01:22:52,843 --> 01:22:54,223 ’cause I don’t play those games. 2197 01:22:54,344 --> 01:22:55,854 Dr. Pepper is saying that "he said, she said." 2198 01:22:55,929 --> 01:22:58,519 Totally disrespectful. It’s like spit in my face. 2199 01:22:58,599 --> 01:23:00,429 - Nothing lasts forever. 2200 01:23:00,517 --> 01:23:02,187 - You’re telling the world that I’m not enough for you. 2201 01:23:02,311 --> 01:23:04,441 - All I asked for was consistency. 2202 01:23:04,521 --> 01:23:05,771 - All I want is healthy communication, woman. 2203 01:23:05,856 --> 01:23:07,356 - Mark, would you like me to leave right now? 2204 01:23:07,483 --> 01:23:08,613 - If you want to. 2205 01:23:08,692 --> 01:23:09,862 - It’s a yes or no question. - If you want to! 2206 01:23:09,985 --> 01:23:11,355 - Dr. Pepper is here to help me? Not at all. 2207 01:23:11,445 --> 01:23:13,365 - Keep talking, Olajuwon. 2208 01:23:13,447 --> 01:23:15,867 - Oh, my God. 2209 01:23:15,949 --> 01:23:17,409 [laughs] 2210 01:23:17,534 --> 01:23:20,544 [dramatic music]