- Oh, [bleep].
- Just over one month ago,
ten singles took a bold leap of faith
in order to find love.
They married as complete strangers,
and in three and a half weeks,
they’ll have to decide whether they want to stay married
or get a divorce.
[upbeat music]
Last time, our couples celebrated
their one-month anniversary as husband and wife.
- ♪ Your love for me, I circled ’round the block ♪
- Jasmina and Michael.
- Do you feel like reliving the wedding day
brought us any closer?
- It definitely reminded me of that day
and how happy I was that day.
I really hope that this feeling continues.
- ♪ It’s my time, oh ♪
- Lindsey and Mark.
- I’ll always protect you
’cause you’re, like, such a sweet person.
I think we’ve grown to a point of comfortability
with each other on trust.
Hopefully, we will figure things out.
♪ ♪
- Noi and Steve.
- What are you gonna do for work?
Like, what are our expectations around money?
Just know that, like, if we don’t have those discussions,
like, we’re setting ourselves up to just fail.
[dramatic music]
- Katina and Olajuwon.
- Why do you have that?
- I don’t have a profile. This is old.
- It’s spit in my face because you are married!
You’re married, you shouldn’t be on dating apps.
- Filming is done for the night.
I’m done. Thank you. Get this off of me.
♪ ♪
- And tonight,
our couples confront the reality
of what a lifetime with their spouse
would actually entail.
[both snapping] - It’s still salty.
- You ain’t throwing it out, though.
- Mm-mm, I’m eating that [bleep].
- We’ll keep on splitting Sushi duties
and we’ll both split the bathroom duties. Perfect.
Pleasure doing business with you.
You’re not sold?
- I don’t think that’s the right play here.
♪ ♪
- Like, I’m a real person with real feelings.
- It’s been a month and I don’t have feelings for him.
♪ ♪
- This is a boundary.
I feel like you’ve crossed it. This bothers me.
- Two-way street.
- No, Mark. I take accountability.
- All me. All me. Okay, you do.
- Any time we have a conversation on--
- Stop, stop, stop, stop.
You don’t have to, like, grip me like that.
- I’m done.
This is no man of mine.
No friend of mine.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It’s all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There’s no other way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ It’s all or nothing ♪
[up-tempo electronic music]
♪ ♪
[knocking on door]
♪ ♪
- You know Auntie Katina don’t like dogs.
- Oh, hey.
- Hi.
- Hey. - What’s going on?
- Hello.
- I know you don’t like dogs.
Just rub him for a quick second.
[laughs]
- I came to see Jasmina just because, you know,
she spends a lot of time with me and Olajuwon,
and she’s, like, my go-to person,
and I know that she’ll be able to listen to me
and comfort me in this moment.
- What’s going on?
- So, you know, we just came back from, like, the dinner,
and he was just like, "Oh," like, "Let me see your phone."
And I was like, "Okay," so I opened my phone,
and there’s a dating app on my phone.
[tense music]
Clicked on it, it was just a login page
’cause I don’t use dating apps.
- It’ll be some [bleep] if you was logged into that app.
- [laughs]
- Then I would have been like, "Oh."
- Yeah, I really didn’t know what he was talking about.
When he was like, "Go to your phone,"
I’m like, "What is in my phone?"
Literally, I was like,
"I didn’t know I had that on there."
And that’s not an excuse. It’s just, that’s my truth.
I have millions of things that I download and I don’t delete.
- Yeah.
- But he’s just like, "Oh, all that doesn’t matter.
You’re giving me buts and excuses."
And then I was trying to tell him
the way that he approached the situation in my eyes
was, like, you know, disrespectful
for me, in my opinion.
And he was just like, it’s not about my feelings.
It’s about what I did.
I know Olajuwon’s working on his tone,
but I’m not seeing a change.
And today, the tone that he used just wasn’t okay.
So for me, it’s thinking about, like,
"Is this something that you’re going to do again to me?"
And I don’t know if I would be able to see myself
with someone who operates like that.
- So how did you guys leave off the conversation?
Did it get resolved any way,
or was it just, like, he walked away--
- He walked away.
He was like, he just needed to cool off.
♪ ♪
- So to finish the conversation or...
- Mm...
we tried to, like, have the conversation
but no matter what I say to him,
in his mind, it’s still always gonna be like,
"But you still had it on your phone."
- I think when you’re really upset about something
and somebody’s giving you reasonings
for why something was there
or why something was the way it was,
when your emotions are high, it’s like, "I don’t want it.
I can’t hear that right now."
Even if it’s you defending something,
it’s always gonna sound like an excuse.
And I think sometimes when you’re really emotional--
especially him--emotional and passionate about something,
your emotions can take over, like, your logic.
But the fact that he didn’t 100% say,
"You know what? I’m done"-- he didn’t say that.
- Hmm... - Did he say that?
- He didn’t say it, but it’s kind of just, like--
like, "now this is in my mind" type thing.
- He also said he is a type of person
to say things when he’s upset,
even though that still don’t give him the right
to say whatever he wants when he’s upset.
Like, "Oh, Decision Day, I’ll say no,"
but he really does say whatever when he’s--
- Right. - When he’s upset.
- But he said that that just shows, like--
it shows for him, it’s like a lack of seriousness
when I signed up for this
’cause I should have scoured and cleared my phone.
And for me to just do this one thing,
and that’s what you’re gonna use against me,
it’s like, "How is that supposed to make me feel?"
You understand what I’m saying?
Like, I’m a real person with real feelings.
♪ ♪
- She’s not someone that really cries a lot,
so just seeing her cry in front of me,
it’s just not--
it’s not sitting well with me
because I know she has to be really hurt
and really upset to feel those emotions.
I think it’s just the way that he said it
and how you would actually talk to each other.
- Yeah, you hear the man talking he’s saying,
"I’ll talk at you, not with you.
Like, so I feel like we’ve had these talks
to put it into action,
and you didn’t put it into action,
so that’s why my feelings are hurt.
- And I think you should definitely voice that.
- If he lets me.
♪ ♪
[upbeat hip-hop music]
- ♪ I’m about to pop out, come through ♪
♪ When you search the whole block now ♪
- Talk to me, bro.
How are you feeling currently in terms of, like,
where are you guys at?
- She said what she had to say.
- Do you wanna talk about it?
Do you want to talk about it?
- I’m not bringing up the conversation to her, no.
♪ ♪
I want her to really think about what she’s done
and how I feel as her husband.
You’re the one with the [bleep] on your phone.
Until you could apology and just be 100,
"I’m taking full responsibility,"
whatever you say to me, it’s still an excuse.
♪ ♪
Dude, I done a lot. I deleted Instagram.
I tried to--whatever. She didn’t like the hair.
I changed the look a little bit.
I put some effort into this,
so it’s like, when you see that,
it just makes you question everything.
And, you know, we’ve been married for over a month.
You still got dating apps? Like, what is this, TV for you?
[tense music]
- So when she says she didn’t remember
she had the app on her phone
’cause she has a whole bunch of apps on her phone.
It was just another one of them that she didn’t think to delete
’cause it’s not something she uses.
Do you not believe her when she says that?
- Katina is a smart woman, bro.
She knows what’s right, what’s wrong,
what you shouldn’t and what you should do.
She has common sense.
So I mean, she could say, "Oh, I don’t have this.
I don’t have it active."
Let’s be real. I’ve known you for 30 days.
I gotta go off what I see.
It’s very easy to log on, log off.
I’ve done that.
I used to do that, you know what I mean?
- So do you not trust her now or...
- No, I definitely look at her a little different.
I have to. I have to.
I’ve never given my heart out to somebody
in such a short manner of time
and to put your trust into somebody--trust is everything.
So to think that she was having a dating app
and she might be one foot in, one foot out,
and not fully committed into this marriage,
and it hurts.
It truly hurts.
- So if she does give you that apology,
taking full ownership of everything,
do you still feel like you’ll hold a grudge on it?
- No, I’d just definitely look at it differently.
You feel like somebody’s moving dirty on you or something,
keep your eyes open.
♪ ♪
Can’t ignore it.
- Damn.
♪ ♪
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪ This is our time now ♪
♪ Don’t you dare look back ♪
♪ ’Cause we can have it all ♪
- So every morning, this is what I wake up to.
♪ ♪
- Jerk. - [laughs]
- Merging their lives together means they have to adapt
to their partners’ routines,
habits, and personal preferences.
- I keep trying to tell Chloe
that I am the queen of the castle.
[quirky music]
- Mike is trying Feeny’s dog cookies.
- It’s good for Feeny, it’s good for me.
- Ew.
- These are fire.
- How well our couples can navigate
the ups and downs of everyday life
can make all the difference
and it can provide valuable insight
into what their future might look like.
- Ew, did you really just eat that?
- There are really good, though, low-key.
- No, high-key, that’s nasty.
- Because the goal is not just to be married for eight weeks.
The goal is to be married for a lifetime.
- ♪ Oh, we all get one moment to shine ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Oh, and this one is mine ♪
♪ This moment is mine ♪
- Today, we’re gonna use the whiteboard and make a list
of the things you wanna do for the week.
What day we’re gonna do chores, what day we’re gonna clean,
you know, work, gym, things like that.
So it’s right there in front of you every day.
Chloe, I’m making a board to try to, you know,
help Lindsey and me figure this out.
What do you think?
[light, plucky music]
Nothing? You’re just gonna go to sleep.
Okay.
Thanks for your help, Chlo.
I need to be at a place of, "I see potential
based on how we operate day-to-day with each other."
The whiteboard is something that might be helpful
in this day-to-day with Lindsey.
Building some structure
and getting us on the same page
will probably make things more balanced,
and that will help our relationship.
♪ ♪
- Hey, babe. - Hey.
- I got so much crap. - Oh.
- One, I got another litter box for JC,
and then some melon mochi candy.
[bag crinkling]
What you doing? - Team boarding.
I put together a board so that we could write down stuff
we wanna do for the week
and anything that we wanna work on as a couple
and put together some schedules so it’s concrete.
[upbeat music]
- I like that. Love that.
I’m in agreement.
So can I--I told you one way I like to do a meal prep,
and that’s, like, basically lay out the meals
and then do BLD--
- For meal prep? - Yeah.
- Well, all my food is for work.
Also, I don’t prep dinners.
- Well, can we have a little compromise
and, if we’re gonna meal prep, go all the way?
Because your schedule’s shifting right now
and my schedule is full-blown, so, like, it helps for me
to not have to think about dinners.
- What do you wanna have for dinners?
- I don’t know.
It doesn’t have to be something crazy.
Like, we do another pizza night or chicken.
- Okay, so...
- Will you eat carrots or broccoli?
- For dinner? - Yeah.
- With what? - Anything else you want.
But will try them? - Sure, sure, sure.
- Perfect.
- Anything in particular you wanna do during the week,
like, for an activity, like a movie night,
a show-- we’re gonna watch a show?
- Should we find something that we wanna watch
and watch together?
- Probably. That makes sense. - Yeah.
- It’s healthy.
- The worst part about living with Mark
is that he is a stubborn only child.
He’s just so used to being like,
"This way works for me and I like it this way."
But this is such a beautiful compromise.
It means that he’s making space and time for me
in his life, and I love that.
- "Unplugged time daily." What is that? What is that?
- Yeah, so, like, if we’re doing lunch
or we’re having a movie night, I want your phone away.
Like, no texting, no playing on the internet,
so we can actually spend time together.
- Okay.
- That’s just something I want. I want your undivided.
- Okay.
- There are moments with Mark where he makes me feel
very heard and understood and cared for,
and I really hope that he will follow through with this.
I like this.
♪ ♪
[upbeat funk music Too s♪
♪ Crème de la crème, honey ♪
♪ Check me out, check me out ♪
- Hello. How are you?
- Good. How are you? - Good.
- What’s going on, cuz? - How’s it going?
- What’s happening, man?
We came here to get Sushi a little wash.
- Hi, Sushi.
- Steve knows that I want three kids.
I’ve always wanted three children.
But we never really talked about,
you know, what our life is gonna look like
once we actually have children.
[laughing] Oh, no.
♪ ♪
Sushi, no.
Wait, we have to take a bath first. Come on.
- I think he knows what he’s in for.
[Sushi whines]
- I want him to get used to being responsible
for, you know, a pet
because I think that’s, like, a surefire way to see
if somebody really is ready to have children.
♪ ♪
[Sushi whines]
- All right. - Ready?
- You wanna give him the first spray?
- Sure.
[upbeat funk music]
Whoo!
- ♪ You know I cool it down like frostbite ♪
♪ You know I’m sub-zero ♪
♪ So let me give a piece of advice ♪
♪ ♪
- I guess I’ll hold him still.
♪ ♪
- How do you feel being, like, a dog dad?
You’re adjusting pretty well.
- Yeah, I mean-- - I feel like you actually
kind of like it. - Yeah.
I mean, I’ve had dogs all growing up.
It’s just a long time since, you know,
I’ve lived with a dog.
For me, it was just-- I’d been traveling so much.
I didn’t want to add another responsibility,
but now that we’re talking about settling in a bit,
it makes a little bit more sense.
I mean, I guess we’ve already got one, so--
- Would you get another dog?
- I know you want another dog. - [laughs]
- I like Labradoodles.
- They’re beautiful dogs.
Not as beautiful as you, Sushi.
Having a pet in your life
is like having a child in your life.
My dog Sushi has been there
longer than any man in my life.
- Look what I got for you.
- It just means so much that my husband and Sushi
have a very special bond, and I’m so happy
about Sushi finally having a dad.
[laughs]
- This is your style.
- Wow, look at you, Sushi.
Good job. You’re like a brand-new dog.
- I’ll let you go on the ground now.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It’s calling your name ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ Ooh, I like to rendezvous ♪
♪ Name a better duo, that’s me plus you ♪
♪ Ooh, you like to wear them hoops ♪
♪ You can get the rock like a alley-oop ♪
- Oh, look, we can get a little plant.
Come right in here, actually.
I wanna pick up a watermelon.
It was on my list.
I’ve never had a Sugar Baby watermelon.
Do you wanna try it?
[plucky music]
- I’m not big into fruit.
- All right, well, I wanna try this one.
I’ve never had this one before, so I wanna try it.
- Okay. - Do you like spaghetti squash?
- No.
- Do you like honeydew or melons?
- No. - Cantaloupe?
- No.
The budget is $150,
and right away, the minute we arrive,
I see Lindsey grabbing
every possible vegetable and fruit.
- This is, like, perfect right now for ripeness.
♪ ♪
- Currently, I’m not working, so every dollar adds up.
- Babe.
- Can’t get it. Not in the budget.
If we have a budget that we agree on,
you need to respect that, and we need to stick to it.
- Yes, yes, yes, it’s sweet corn season.
♪ ♪
See how, like, white it is right now?
In fact, it’s so sweet.
- No, I’m good. I’m good. [both laugh]
Okay, you have to buy that now.
- [laughs] Yeah. - Yeah.
- Do you want lemons or limes for your water?
- No. - Do you like grapefruit?
- Not really, no.
- Pears? - No.
- Butternut squash? - No.
- Shallots? - No.
- Ooh, have you ever had a rambutan?
- No. - You wanna try one?
- Mm-mm.
- Pickles? - No.
- Eggplant? - No.
- Bacon. - Ooh.
- I’ve always picked on girlfriends
who date or have husbands
which I like to call the chicken finger men.
Like, the husbands who can’t eat anything
and don’t have a nice palate
and just wanna eat chicken fingers
and mac and cheese.
And here I am.
I married chicken finger man.
I think we were over budget by 40%.
It’s a big-- - Hmm.
- It’s a big window.
♪ ♪
- I mean, I don’t buy this many fruits.
[dynamic electronic music]
- ♪ I’ll be the pretty one in green ♪
♪ These other girls, they just like me ♪
- How did your day go?
- My job is changing locations,
so we’ve just been packing.
- Is the new school closer to the apartment or further?
- Same distance, to be honest.
- You know, the reason I ask is because I feel like,
eventually, it’ll probably be easier
to just drive to work as opposed to taking the train.
- Oh, like you bring me?
- No, like you bring yourself, I mean.
- [laughs] How’s that gonna happen?
- Well, that’s why we have these cards.
Early on in my marriage,
I found out that Jasmina does not know how to drive.
- So I don’t know how to drive.
- You ever taken the actual test?
- Why waste my money when I know I’m gonna fail?
- I think we should make that our first goal together.
Take your permit test and pass.
♪ ♪
We are going to study for a permit test.
- [laughs]
- Jasmina not driving
means that I’m the one running the errands
and picking up Feeny.
Right now, it’s not a big deal,
but eventually, plan is to get her license
so she no longer needs me to drive her anywhere.
She seems ready, and I’m excited to get started.
All right. Now, this is easy.
If another driver... - Uh-huh.
- Cuts you off in traffic, what do you do?
- Flip them off. [laughs] - There you go.
That’s my girl. No, no. [buzzer blares]
- Oh. - Seriously.
- Beep your horn.
- You gotta ignore ’em.
- Who said? - Ignore ’em.
- That’s the law? - That’s the law--that’s--
you don’t wanna get into more trouble.
All right, you’re driving.
It’s a yellow light. What do you do?
- Slow down.
- You know what you’re doing. All right.
- And then when I get my driver’s license--
- Okay. You say what?
- Vroom. Right through. - No, no, no.
Making a turn, you must blank your speed.
- You slow down. - Slow down. You got it.
So you’re driving on the highway,
and you hear-- [imitates car clunking]
So you pull over.
What should you use to caution the other drivers?
- Your hazard lights?
- This is a little tough.
A single broken yellow line means--
- Next question. [both laugh]
- A single broken yellow line means what?
- A broken one means that you can cross over,
the solid one means you can’t.
Is that right?
- Are you serious? - That’s wrong?
- That’s right. - Oh.
- What are you nervous about?
- Not--the question is driving.
[laughs]
I am afraid of the road,
and I’ve also been in a couple car accidents
that just really made me scared,
but I’m answering all of these questions
and I’m getting them all right,
so it makes me feel a little bit better
about, you know, getting my license.
So I appreciate that he’s taking this step
and, you know, doing this on his own
because Lord knows I would not have.
It was easy. Stop playing. Give me my license.
- You’re doing your thing. [both laugh]
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So Katina and I, we let some time come between us
and--just to cool off and relax.
- Yeah, we had a conversation
before we went to sleep last night,
just talking about the whole situation,
and I understood where you were coming from.
- Yes. - You know, nobody wants to see
a dating app in someone’s phone,
so I said sorry to him, but I’ll say sorry again now.
And yeah.
And then I think you understood where I was coming from too.
- Yeah, so I have to learn how to control my emotions
a little better, and I apologized to Katina
but we definitely--
- Yeah, we’re good now.
- Yeah, fixed our problem.
- We’re good. We’re moving forward.
Today’s a new day.
- No marriage is perfect,
but with effort, everything’s possible.
I appreciate you.
- I appreciate you too.
♪ Baby, I’m a boss ♪
♪ I’ve been working all day ♪ - We go over here? - Yeah.
After you, my man. - Okay. All right.
Did you get her a picture frame?
She posted something on her story.
I’m like, "Did Steve get this for her?"
- Yeah, you like it? - I like that.
- Thanks, man. - That’s good.
Was that for, like, the anniversary?
- Yeah, it was actually a picture taken on this beach.
- Was it? That’s smooth.
- Yeah, man.
- So things are going good?
- Things are good. We had a good week.
What about you, man? How’s everything going?
- It’s going better than I thought.
♪ ♪
We have such, like, good times
but then, like, tough conversations.
I really care about the person that she is
and where her good really is coming from
and all the noise that she brings to the table.
But, you know, there was so much talk about the future.
"Our kids are gonna be like this,
and we’re gonna have joint this and joint that."
I’m like, "No." Like, "Whoa.
I’m not, like, looking to do that yet."
- Yeah, how is that adjustment
now that you’re working from home going?
- So I’m not working from home.
- Oh, you--okay. You’re not working?
- They just wanted me to take a leave
because I can’t work as--the time
that I used to be able to work.
- How has Lindsey responded to that?
Has she remained supportive?
- Oh, yeah, she’s like, "This is, like,
"a perfect opportunity for you to, like,
find a job in Boston, then."
And I’m like, "I can look, but I can’t guarantee
I’m gonna find one this fast."
- I mean, we’re talking about making a living, right?
- Right. - Like, I feel like
that’s a priority before anything, right?
Like, one thing you can relate on,
you know, just like you, I’m without a full-time job.
- Yeah.
- But I came into this whole situation
feeling pretty secure.
I saved up a bunch of money.
I have a pretty good runway here.
- Yeah. - For whatever reason,
it seems like she has to go into it with so much faith
because she’s never seen me in my sales engineering position.
- Right. - I have plenty of savings.
I’m contributing three or four times as much.
I’m not asking her to contribute more.
So in the now, I don’t think there’s a problem.
But I think there’s a perception problem
and I think there’s a future problem.
You know, part of me is like, "Hey, if you don’t believe
in me, like, there’s nothing I can do."
I feel like I’ve done everything I could
short of getting a full-time position
to prove how much I’m into this.
- Yeah.
- Physical, verbal expressions of love, effort,
cooking, cleaning, you know what I mean?
Like, I’m like, "What else can I do?
Is the only way to make you happy for me to get a job?"
- Right.
- Like, it’s just hard for me to, like, sit with that.
- Comprehend that. Yeah, yeah. - Yeah.
- I would be so upset if you got a job
and then she was, like, still unsure.
- Still asking for more?
- Yeah.
- But if we end up going that she needs me
to get a full-time job,
I won’t have the creative energy to put, you know--
- To do what you like to do.
- To dream of a future together, you know?
- Right.
- Like, yeah, we can do that, but if I’m gonna get a job,
I need to know what the plan is.
- Right. - Are we buying a house,
or do you just want nice things?
Are we going on vacation? What’s the plan here, you know?
- Right. - If I do that,
it’s gonna stifle what we could create together.
- Yeah.
- I mean, I know that these are a lot of,
you know, the frustrating things.
When we’re not having issues,
everything can be really great, man.
- Right.
- Like, we have a lot of fun together.
It’s just hard when we know Decision Day is coming up
and there’s that uncertainty. - Yeah.
That’s what I worry about.
I feel like I finally got to a place
where I’m like, "You know, I really care about you,
but is it enough where I wanna say yes?"
- It’s so hard when it’s a roller coaster constantly.
Like, even if you’re having a good streak,
it can all just take a turn and you’re like--
- Yeah, like-- - Can we do this?
- Seeing all these things play out, it’s just a lot.
I think about the longevity
and how it’s gonna be if it doesn’t change.
When you have a eight-week time limit, essentially,
to get to a place of "yes"...
it’s like you’re on the clock a lot.
- All right, first one to drop a pass
has to jump into the water. - Okay.
[electronic music]
[laughter]
♪ ♪
- One-handed, one-handed, one-handed, right?
- One-handed? - One-handed.
♪ ♪
Oh! [both laugh]
♪ ♪
[grunts] - All right, you gotta go.
- ♪ Runnin’, runnin’ ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Runnin’, runnin’ ♪
- Attaboy.
Attaboy, Steve-o.
- ♪ I run this town like marathon ♪
- I appreciate the shades. I’ll see you later.
- ♪ Jump on the highway ♪
♪ Crank the radio ♪
- This is it.
Today, I’m gonna teach Jasmina how to drive
so she can practice for her driving test.
She is a teacher,
but today, I’m teaching my wife how to drive.
We got cones in the back so we can create our own--
- [laughs] - Our own lanes.
I’m gonna teach her how to parallel park,
turns, the difference between the brake and the gas pedal.
We did the index cards,
and she did way better than I thought she would.
So now it’s time to put some of those things into practice
and really see how she does.
I thought I’d be a lot more calm.
I’m getting tense for some reason.
- You? - Yeah, I’m getting tense.
You know what it is?
’Cause you’re too happy and too smiley.
I don’t know why that’s throwing me off.
Like, I want you to be nervous, and you’re not nervous.
That’s just making me nervous.
I had a lot of things that I thought
about how marriage would be,
but never in a million years
did I think I’d be teaching my wife how to drive.
But she definitely needs to get her license,
and if she knows how to drive,
it’s just gonna make our lives just a lot easier.
We’re gonna treat this very, very seriously.
Like, this is just your driving test.
So I’m gonna be grading you on everything.
From hand placement, checking your mirrors,
looking at both mirrors before you take off.
Okay? - Yes.
- Right? - Mm-hmm.
- I don’t like how happy you are.
- [laughs] - I want you to be nervous,
and I’m more nervous than you are.
- No, I’m gonna be nervous
when I get behind the wheel for sure.
- Okay, we’re gonna start with some just basics.
So I’m gonna have you get into the driver’s seat.
- If you’re nervous, you’re gonna make me nervous.
- [clears throat] All right, I’m not nervous.
I’m cool. We cool. - Your life is in my hands.
My dog’s life is in my hands. - We’re good. We’re good.
Get into the driver’s seat.
- In the past, I’ve always been very nervous and scared,
but today, I don’t really feel that way.
I don’t know if it’s because of Michael
and just him being nervous
and it just changed my whole mood
because I didn’t want it to be two nervous people.
♪ ♪
But I think because he was nervous,
it just made it more fun. [laughs]
Seat belts. - Mm.
Yes. For sure. - Feeny, lookit.
You’ve never seen Mama in the front seat.
- He’s like, "I can’t watch."
[both laugh]
Okay, ready? - Are you ready?
- Ready as I’ll ever be.
- Failed. Failed.
You already failed. - What? Oh.
- It’s just like in a driving test.
You wanna look at all your mirrors before you do anything.
- Okay.
- Put it into drive.
Okay, now slowly take your foot off the brake.
The car is gonna automatically start
to move just a little bit.
You’ve got this. There you go.
- Holy [bleep]. - Do a full turn. Signal.
- Which way? - To the right.
Now, when you do a turn,
I want you to turn-- yep, just like that.
- I at least know that much. - Exactly.
Right hand over left. right hand over left.
I want you to put your foot on the gas.
- [Bleep]. Where is the gas?
- What? - Sorry, my foot slipped.
Why are you holding on?
- Just for my protection.
- Where am I going? - Brake.
- [laughs]
You said put the car in park.
I’m supposed to brake first and then put it in park, right?
- Yeah, but you don’t ever have to slam the on brake.
- I didn’t-- I literally taped it.
- It’s okay.
- You got these cones way... - No, they’re good.
- Too close. - They’re good.
- Oh, I [bleep].
- Just go through these cones.
- We ’bout to go through these cones, all right.
Have faith, please. - Mm-hmm.
- Are the cones good on your side?
- Cones are good.
All right, now you gotta bang a U-turn.
Full turn. Full turn. - Like, quick? Like this?
- Full turn, yep. - Oh, [bleep].
Ooh. - Okay. We moving. Okay.
- Ahh, where are we going? - What are you do--
what happened?
What just happened?
Why you wanna be in "Fast & Furious" so bad?
- [laughs]
- This is not tryouts, all right? Come on.
- [laughs]
- Let’s just turn right here.
- Well, I get scared that the cone is there.
- No, no. Keep going. Keep going. Keep going.
- Ahh. Ahh. Ahh. - Keep going. You’ll make it.
Keep going. Keep going. Keep going. That’s good.
Don’t hit the cone. Don’t hit the cone.
- I can’t. Did I hit it?
both: Ahh!
- Somebody’s dead.
- I don’t know if I would say Michael and I are becoming
more affectionate with one another,
but we are definitely enjoying being around each other more
and it’s definitely bringing us closer.
And so I have no doubt that if that continues,
then more affection will come.
- How do you think you did? - Amazing.
- How would you grade yourself?
- Honestly-- - A "D"?
Nah, I’ll give it C plus, C minus.
- I only hit one cone. - Yeah.
But you have a heavy foot. That scares me.
- But the thing is, who told the gas to be that strong?
I think I did good.
Tell him I did good.
I did good?
♪ ♪
- You did better than I thought.
Now we just gotta work on you actually getting a license.
♪ ♪
- Go potty, Sushi. - [inaudible]
It’s okay.
- Oh, he’s gonna pee on this. [laughs]
- He always pees on this corner or that corner.
[laughs]
This is his home.
- Wow, he really has to pee.
- I’m usually happy once he goes up here
because the pooper scooper is really easy
to pick up on, like, this.
- I think his Velcro thing is coming off.
Do you want to put it back on him?
- Oh, it fell off? - Yeah.
- Oh, hold on one second, buddy.
♪ ♪
Yeah, I must have strapped it without it on.
Me and Sushi have a pretty special relationship.
I feel like he trusts me. I take him out.
I make sure he has treats and, you know,
I do my best not to kick him while I’m sleeping.
- Here, you do it. - Oh, what?
You don’t wanna be on TV picking it up?
- Show what a great dog dad you are.
- Give me the damn thing. Ugh!
- [laughs]
- One big one? All right, good.
We’re good. We can do this.
And then just think about, you know,
making sure he’s doing well and attended to.
♪ ♪
- Good job, everybody.
Let’s go back inside
and make sure our food’s not burning.
♪ ♪
Good job. You want a treat?
You wanna give him a treat?
- I think at this point, I’m definitely, you know,
taking some more ownership of Sushi for sure.
But at the same time, it wasn’t my responsibility
that I brought into this marriage.
- Make him sit first.
[laughs] Or just give him the treat.
- Would just hope that I would get
appreciation for that rather than an expectation.
- The waffles don’t take that long to make,
so you could, like, start cooking, like,
the potatoes and eggs.
- Okay. [clears throat]
I think it’s more important
that we be fair with each other, you know?
I don’t think anybody wants to feel like
they’re the person who needs to do everything.
[tense music]
Hey, I can cook for you.
I can clean up after you and myself.
- Can you hand me a knife too for the waffles?
- And that’s great for you.
- Thanks.
- But, I mean, the same way
she feels uncertain about my employment status,
I’m uncertain about how she will contribute
to our relationship in this way.
- All right, so we have to clean the closet.
The bathroom’s gonna get cleaned.
- Okay.
- How ’bout we split tasks? You do one, I do the other?
♪ ♪
- I was gonna do my clothes.
That’s gonna take me longer than your laundry.
- Okay, well, I’ll save you one of the bathrooms,
but I’ll do one of them--
- No, do both-- - ’Cause it’s two of them.
And we can both do one of them, I think.
- You can do both of them. - I think that’s pretty fair.
I think we can both do one of them.
- I think you can do both. - So which one do you want?
♪ ♪
Do you hate cleaning bathrooms that much?
- I hate cleaning bathrooms.
♪ ♪
- Do you hate them so bad that from here on out,
you’ll take Sushi duties?
Responsibility of taking him out?
- So I’ll tell you what.
So then we’ll keep on splitting Sushi duties
and we’ll both split the bathroom duties.
Perfect. Pleasure doing business with you.
♪ ♪
No? You’re not stoked?
- Yeah, I don’t think that...
- Yeah, I think you should-- - That’s not--
- I think that’s fair. - The right play here.
- [scoffs] Whoa.
- It drives me a little crazy because,
you know, it’s always, like, a discussion
about what I’m not doing,
but then it’s never a discussion
about what he’s not doing.
So I think that’s a very one-sided perspective.
It makes me nervous.
- Getting fiery on a Saturday morning, huh?
♪ ♪
- ♪ ’Cause now I’m up ♪
♪ And I ain’t never coming down ♪
♪ High above ♪
♪ Yeah, you know I’m flying now ♪
- My guy. - [laughs]
- Adjusting to married life
can be challenging for any newlywed,
but when you’re married at first sight,
everything is moving so fast
that it’s easy to become overwhelmed.
- Hey, girl, hey.
[laughs]
- But marriage symbolizes commitment,
which means that our couples have vowed to stay together
and work through all of their issues,
including things which may have caused them
to walk away from previous relationships.
- Look at you.
- And talking with friends and family members
who have their best interests at heart
can help put things in perspective.
[upbeat electronic music]
♪ ♪
- So what’s up? How you doing?
- Good, man.
Now I’m married. - Yeah.
So you guys been together a month?
- Yeah.
- And what do you feel like you’ve found out about her,
and what do you feel like you need to find out about her?
- Yeah, I’m really getting to know who my wife is.
- Well, that’s probably a good thing...
- Yes, absolutely.
- To get to know who your wife is.
- We go up and down, but our biggest situation
was, so far--is the other day,
I seen she had a dating app on her phone.
And...I got upset.
I’m not--you know me. I’m very forward.
I don’t beat around the bush.
You know that. - Yeah.
- People say, "Olajuwon’s an [bleep]."
you know, until they get to know me.
"Oh, the kid’s a goofball," you know what I mean?
- Right. He gets a little amped up.
- Yeah, yeah.
- When I coached, I used to say,
"You play with emotion,
but you don’t let emotion play with you."
- Exactly.
It’s very important that I seen Coach Mack.
He’s one of my mentors
and he’s like almost a father figure to me
And he’ll be honest about my perspective
if I’m right or wrong.
He doesn’t just tell me what I wanna hear,
but he lets me know what I need to hear.
And-- [clears throat]
That means a lot to me.
♪ ♪
We butted heads-- finally really butted heads.
And, you know it.
I was talking, I mean,
with expression-- I was talking passionate
because I care for Katina, and she knows that.
- There is not a bad bone in your body. I know that.
- Yeah, I’m just a passionate speaker, and I...
I apologized.
She apologized.
It was very genuine and it was real.
There was no eye-rolling
and I didn’t have, like, a ’tude at the end.
- Right. Right. Right. So it was gone. It was over.
You let it go and you talked it out and it’s gone.
- And we don’t have no thing. So of course I’ma slip up.
- Yeah. - I am human. I’m not perfect.
None of us are perfect.
- As with everybody, when we’re passionate,
we’re amped up,
we tend to start popping off at the mouth
and saying things a million miles a minute--
- Yeah.
- Right? ’Cause I do the same thing.
And then you gotta play backtrack and rewind the tape
and then try to make up for those moments, right?
But some things that get said can’t be unsaid.
So my best advice would be that, you know,
you watch what comes out of your mouth, right?
- Oh, 100%
- And getting mad isn’t a bad thing, right?
- No, no. - That’s a--
- Means I care for her-- - Like any other emotion,
it’s how you let that anger out, right,
and how you deal with it that matters, right?
Not that it comes, just that you deal with it
and you let it go afterwards. - I understand.
- I think the biggest thing that they have going for them
is that they’re both authentic with each other.
And I just encourage him to keep speaking up.
I mean, to bottle something up would not be good
for anyone who is married, right?
You know, like you talked before,
other people think about life in different ways.
- Mm-hmm - Right?
Because of the way they’re raised
and because of the experiences
that brought them to where they are.
But one thing that you kind of both have to agree on
is the sanctity of that vow you took.
Right? - Mm-hmm.
- Is the seriousness of,
"I’m with you and you are with me
and no matter what pops up, we’re gonna work it out."
Right? - Right, right.
- We’re gonna try our best to-- - To do it.
- To talk about it and then move on from it,
because there really isn’t-- or there shouldn’t be anything
that breaks that bond, you know?
If it’s real. - Yeah.
- It seems like he really wants to make a connection with her
and it looks like he’s working really hard
to build some kind of trust.
And I wish him the best with it.
So good, keep moving in a positive direction.
- 100%. - And in another, you know,
40 years when you’re coming to visit me
in the old folks’ home and bringing me food--
- I’ll be old and fat by then. - [laughs]
We’ll talk about you and your wife and your 15 grandkids.
- We’ll both be fully bald by then.
[laughter]
- ♪ Go on and live your life ♪
- It feels like a blizzard out here.
- ♪ Go on ♪
- Hi. - Hey, beautiful.
- So how are things? How are you doing? How’s life?
So last time we seen each other--
the housewarming.
- The housewarming, yep.
- From your perspective,
how did it look like we were doing?
- You guys seemed to be
playing off of each other really nicely.
- Roller coaster. - Yes!
- Nobody’s here for-- - Says Mr. Competitor.
- I thought you were the competitive one.
- Mr. Competitor. - All for fun.
- Even, like, just the light hand touching
that was happening.
Like, just the little tiny stuff.
- It was good. Little--yeah.
Claire is one of the sisters
that I go to for advice, specifically on relationships.
It’s great to get a woman’s perspective
and to get a little more insight on what I should do
going forward being that Decision Day is approaching.
And I would say since then, we’ve made even more progress--
- Oh, good. - In that arena.
♪ ♪
- How are you?
- Mike and I are actually pretty good.
- Oh, good. - I know.
From the last time we spoke,
we’re in, like, a really good place right now.
♪ ♪
There’s no more tension.
- That’s good ’cause I was concerned about that.
That’s not the type of energy that either one of you need.
- Yeah.
- You know I’m all about pros and cons.
So go ahead and tell me some pros
and some cons about being married.
- Being married or Michael?
- Being married to Michael. - I was like...
- Who else you married to? [both laugh]
- I would say
he’s been doing a lot better with communication.
Like, he, you know,
texts me now throughout the day.
You know, we have conversations when we’re home.
- I would say mentally right now,
we’re on the same page
for the first time. - Okay. Good.
- Since we started this. - Mm-hmm.
- I feel like for a long time,
we kind of were, like, playing a dance.
Like, we both were just like, "Wait, so are you"--
- Yeah, like, kind of not trusting each other.
- "Are you feeling me? Are you not feeling me?
Are you serious about this? Do you wanna be"--
it was like a weird dance that we both were doing.
- Mm-hmm.
- And I think that led to both of us,
like, not opening up to each other
’cause we couldn’t trust the other person.
We were doing the same exact thing to each other.
And we’ve made a lot of progress
and we’re at a place where, like, we’re friends.
We enjoy spending time with each other.
Like, for example, yesterday, we played Scrabble
at, like, 11:00 p.m. in the bed.
You know what I’m saying? Like, that’s something
we would have never done three weeks ago
’cause we just weren’t clicking.
- He was not really good at Scrabble
but he got an A for effort. - That’s good.
Those things are great to do together.
- Yeah, but also,
you know, I’m...
it’s been a month and I don’t have feelings for him.
[tense music]
- Physically, we’re kind of at a standstill.
This is the longest I’ve had to wait
to be physical and intimate with somebody.
- Mm-hmm. - I think right now,
I’m, like, thinking about my every move.
Like, "Okay, is this too much? Can I do this?"
- Oh, right. Yeah. - "Is this okay?"
I’ve never had that in my head.
- I think if you try to break a little barrier,
see what she gives you back.
If you feel like you’re not getting it, then,
you know, whatever. - Yeah.
- I would just try something little.
I wouldn’t go in for the real thing, but...
- Just be like-- - [laughs]
You know what I’m saying?
But I would do something little.
- Yeah. - Just little things.
Something super tiny. - Yeah.
- I’m not, like, closed off to him or, like, anything.
And I told him, like, my heart is open for sure.
You know, for-- - Yeah, I know.
- Yeah, for those feelings to come, but...
- Well, you know, I know how you are,
and you have to have something that, you know,
makes you desire somebody, so--
- That is a worry.
Like, if there’s, like, no romance
or, like, anything like that by Decision Day,
then I ultimately...
wouldn’t say yes past Decision Day
if there was, like, no, you know, deep feelings.
♪ ♪
- I want to-- you know, I need--
I want to feel like...
the effort that I’m giving,
which from my perspective is 110%...
- Mm-hmm.
- I want to feel like that’s being reciprocated.
And, like, I’ve talked about things to her
that I haven’t talked about in Lord knows how long.
- Yeah - Like, things I didn’t even
wanna talk about, like Ma, Grandma.
And I felt like if I opened up,
that would give her the space to feel comfortable--
- It would make her comfortable.
- To open up, right.
We can no longer be stagnant in any department.
- Right, right.
- Emotionally, physically, mentally.
It has to be on the up and up.
And if there’s any part of our relationship
that’s taking three steps back,
then me saying yes on Decision Day
is not gonna happen.
♪ ♪
- ♪ You’re lonely to feel lonely ♪
♪ Getting off on pity ♪
♪ I’m not sorry, oh ♪
- So... [clears throat]
Mark is on the outs for me.
Not sure he’s gonna be able to get back in.
My issue is, can he take accountability
when he makes a mistake?
- Mark said he wanted a whiteboard.
He wanted to make a schedule. We made a schedule.
He didn’t follow through with it.
Mark said he wanted to move to Boston, get a new job.
Now he’s wishy-washy.
Mark said he wanted to do a checkpoint every night.
Can’t stay in the room and he walks out.
Mark said he wants to talk about the future.
Can’t even tell me what his budget is for rent.
He has never been consistent.
He has never followed through.
I am furious and he is clueless.
He is falling short in every way,
and then he’s not giving me any actions
that show me in any way or form that he cares for me.
So I’m just not sure what we’re doing here,
to be honest with you.
This is no man of mine.
♪ ♪ ♪
- Cheers to us hanging out. - I know. I miss you.
- I miss you too. - I love you.
- I love you too.
I haven’t seen Ana in so long.
She couldn’t come to my wedding,
and I really want to see what her take is on our marriage
and how we’re doing.
I really never showed you a picture of him?
- No, I’ve been dying.
- I think I just need some words of encouragement.
So I wanted to give her
update A through Z on my marriage.
- Do you have any with his shirt off?
- Yeah, I do.
- [clicks tongue] - [laughs]
- Good job, Sis.
You guys look good together.
You gonna have some cute babies.
Have you guys had some relations?
- No, we haven’t. It’s been hard.
It’s not an easy thing ’cause to be honest,
I don’t think I could go to the end without,
like, obviously being intimate, but we still haven’t yet.
- You guys just, like, are affectionate
and kiss each other
and he’s touching you? - Yeah.
- He be saying some fly stuff,
and then I’d be like-- [giggles]
Like-- [both laugh]
- So do you feel like you’re opening up emotionally,
like, more since you’re married now?
Like, it’s different... - Yeah.
- Than just being in a regular relationship?
- So the other day when that instance happened
when I had a dating app on my phone...
- Oh, a dating app?
- And there was no active account.
- Oh, so it was old.
- Yeah, but he didn’t care about that part.
It made me feel like, do I need, like--
I feel like just going back
and, like, reverting, and, of course,
it was in my mind, like, "I need to protect myself.
I need to, like, protect my heart."
You know? - Right. Right.
- Girl, it was bad.
Like, it was, like, kinda, like, a screaming match.
- You are married!
You can roll your eyes. That’s all I need to say--
- No, I’m rolling my eyes because you’re yelling at me.
- But it’s okay! It’s okay.
- That’s why I’m rolling my eyes.
- Then we don’t need to talk. Then we don’t need to talk.
- You know, later on, we did have, like, a discussion
and we are in a better place now,
but I would say that was, like, a moment
where I was just like...
you know, it hurt me.
- And now going forward, you’re like,
"Is he gonna react like that every time
he sees something he doesn’t like?"
- Yes. - Or not talk to me about it.
- Right, and what I learned
with, like, communicating with him is being calm.
- But he has to do the same for you.
- You’re 100% correct.
And when problems do arise, I just want him to be able
to just, like, think about, like, how he--
- How he says it. - Comes about it.
- Yeah.
- But I think that that’s something that he has to learn,
like, over time how to do.
- Yeah. - I have to figure out
if I have the patience to deal with him
trying to change how he executes things.
- When is Decision Day? It’s getting close, right?
- Yeah. - It’s, like, so nerve-racking.
It’s coming up so quick.
I mean, my advice to you would be have fun.
You’re beautiful. Like, you’re smart.
Like, you guys just have fun together.
You married a stranger too.
You’re doing this together. - Mm-hmm.
- You know what I mean? That’s my advice.
- At the end of the day, he’s a good man.
He’s so funny. - Is he?
- He’s hard-working. - Oh, I love that.
- He has a really big heart.
But I’m just like, "You know what?
Here I am. Like, it what it is."
I got married at first sight because I was tired
of wasting my time with people who weren’t serious.
I do believe that I did marry someone who is committed
to this as much as I am and that no matter
what obstacles are put in our way,
that we’ll be able to overcome them together.
♪ ♪
Miss you. - I miss you too.
[smooches] Ooh, you’re kissing me.
Yeah, baby.
It’s more action than you’re getting from your man.
[both laughing]
♪ ♪
Katina. [laughter]
- Let’s go. You’re cut off.
[laughter]
♪ ♪
- ♪ I keep thinking ♪
♪ What I could do to you ♪
I’m talking to Noi about life after "Married at First Sight."
She told me that she didn’t want to move in
after Decision Day.
And for me, that’s a bit surprising.
It’s not something I’d ever even considered.
I thought moving in was just something that came with it.
I got married at first sight because I’m ready
to start building a future with somebody.
And it’s something that I’m taking very seriously,
and I would hope that my wife
would be willing to do the same.
Oftentimes, Noi doesn’t express everything she feels,
but I feel like there’s something more she needs
to feel certain about me, my employment status,
and where things stand in that regard.
♪ ♪
I’m not sure if that’s the case in this instance,
but if it ends up being that, then, yeah,
you know, I think it would be unfortunate
that I would have to do that just to prove something to her.
For me, it’s concerning because the same way
she feels uncertain about my employment status,
I’m uncertain about how committed are you really
if you have a fallback place that you can, at any point,
call it quits and move back to.
♪ ♪
♪ Tick, tick, tock, tock ♪
♪ Time waits for nobody ♪
- Okay.
- Thank you.
- Erica, I’ve known for the last seven years,
and she’s been through a lot of my most recent relationships.
She’s known the ups and downs.
How’s it going?
- Good. How are you? - Good. Good.
It’s been a while. - It has.
- Ugh. - So...
- It’s been a lot. - Tell me.
- It’s been almost five weeks, and we have good times.
- Tell me.
- She’s always been very honest and truthful and blunt
and gives me an honest opinion.
If I need some tough truth, Erica will tell me.
We can enjoy things, whether we’re in the house
watching a movie or watching a show
or talking about things or playing with the cats.
I think what’s interesting is, when we have good times,
they’re really organic and natural.
So it’s been, like, good moments
and then tough conversations.
And then if anything wasn’t "resolved,"
it’s brought into the next week.
One month seemed to be a turning point,
and I thought things were heading
in the right direction, and then here we are
right back into the same arguments
we’ve been having since week one.
The first two weeks, it was, like,
me trying to adjust to her.
Adjust to the way she speaks
and trying to adjust to everything going on in my life.
Like, a lot of the things at the beginning,
I just didn’t know how to react to.
And she likes me to be direct, but I’m like, "If your tone’s,
"like, a hard tone, you wanna be direct,
you might take it the wrong way."
So I just don’t say much.
And then she’s like, "You need to tell me how you feel."
I’m like, "If I tell you how I’m feeling,
you might take it like"--
and then if she continues with the subject
and I get loud with my voice, it, like, brings her back
to, like, when she got yelled at as a kid,
so she’s like, "Can you stop yelling at me?"
I’m like, "You just said the same thing to me
"four times in a row. I heard you.
I raised my voice ’cause I’m getting frustrated now."
Oh, thank you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
- Thank you so much.
- It’s tough.
She has, like, a-- she has a very tough exterior.
And I think if anything someone says--
the way she hears it
and the way she formulates the sentence,
it comes a certain way, uh-uh.
And I’m like, "I didn’t say that."
It’s like, "Uh-uh, I’m out." Like, so it’s like--
- You guys have really bad communication, it sounds like.
- Yeah.
Well, that’s what I would say a lot,
and like, you know, week two and week three,
like, I’m still getting to know you.
And when we would talk about things futuristic,
I’m like, "I’m not there yet."
And, like, I can’t process these things.
- You’re not, but three weeks.
- Now it’s, like, three weeks.
- So she’s not wrong for saying,
like, "Where are we gonna be?" - No, yeah.
- You need to try and discuss
not holding grudges.
And you both have to be able to give a little.
You just have to be very open and honest.
You can’t just shut down.
- What I worry about is, in such a short time frame,
to be able to process this all
and say, "Yep, I want this forever."
It’s so hard.
That’s why I’m kinda like-- I’m not one or the other.
I’m like, I haven’t been away from her
to see if I really miss her.
- Right.
- But I’m not to a point where I’m like,
"I can’t live without you." - Right.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Whoo ♪ - ♪ Scandalous ♪
- Hi. - Oh, my God.
- Hey, girl, hey.
- Hi. - Hi.
I’m so glad you’re here. - Me too.
- Sriracha and I tell each other everything,
and it’s a little unnerving to know that Steve and I
are still navigating a lot of these unknowns
about how we’re gonna move forward as a married couple.
So it is a little concerning for me,
and hopefully I’ll get some good advice.
It’s mostly good.
- What do you mean mostly, girl?
- Should we start with, like, the things that are awesome,
or do you wanna hear about the things
that are questionable?
- Start with good. My drink’s not here yet, so--
- Yeah, we’ll wait till the alcohol gets here.
Well, it’s, like, mostly good.
I mean, like, Steve and I are, like,
just so playful with each other.
We’re always, like, laughing and having fun
and I can be, like, a kid around him,
which, like, I need somebody like that.
He’s really sweet. Like, he’s really thoughtful.
He did, like, a really cute, like, picnic
and, like, told me he loved me.
- On the first month?
♪ ♪
- In married at first sight timeline,
a month is like a couple years.
- Okay.
- Thank you so much.
- Okay.
- Yeah, so, like, that part’s all good.
Concerns...
his issue with me is, like,
"You should be doing more around the house."
He’s like, "It’s an unbalanced situation
"’cause, like, I do almost all of the housework.
Cooking, cleaning, grocery store runs."
And I’m sitting here like,
"Wait a minute, you’re telling me
"we need to have equal effort in this marriage
"when, like, you have more free time than I do
for obvious reasons."
His reasoning was, you know,
"You don’t help out enough in the house
"because you work.
"But you working is just for you.
"Like, me cooking for us is for us.
Me going to the store is for us."
And I’m like, "Me working
and making money is also for us."
- Yeah. - What do you mean?
It’s not all about me. Like, this is for you too.
Like, down the line, this is for you.
And then, like, the other thing that, like,
really rubbed me the wrong way--
he’s like, "Why don’t we do this hypothetical situation
"where, like, Noi picks up more housework
to see if she can, because I don’t think she can."
♪ ♪
"You’re already so tired from working."
- That’s what he said to you? - Mm-hmm.
- That’s shady.
- What, I’m gonna pick up more housework
so you can have less, and then what else
are you gonna do?
- Let’s do another hypothetical situation
where you have a job. - Exactly.
- By hypothetical, it means it’s not real,
’cause you don’t have a job.
- I know. No, I know.
That’s why I’m like, "You’re ridiculous right now."
Like, this is crazy. - He’s feeling emasculated.
He’s feeling some type of way. All this stuff.
You need to derail the subject
’cause that’s what it’s really about.
Does he not wanna work, or is he like,
"Oh, no, I wanna work. I’ve been looking"?
What does he say to this?
- He’s waiting for me to come up with, like, a plan for him.
Like, a plan together so that--he’s like,
"I don’t know"--he’s like, "I don’t know what to do
"until we have the plan, the talk,
and you won’t talk to me," and blah, blah, blah.
I’m like, why do I need to give you the game plan?
The game plan is, you need to find one.
What do you mean? There’s nothing else to it.
I would literally be happy if you did anything.
Like, I don’t even care what you do.
Like, get a part-time job. I don’t know.
- Yeah.
To be really honest,
I think Steve should get a job for himself.
Not for my sister,
not for the imaginary kids that he wants,
but I think he should get a job for him.
’Cause to my knowledge,
he’s not super happy with how things are.
If you don’t like it, do something else.
Duh.
- It’s hard for me ’cause I’m like,
"Obviously I want to help you,
I want to be supportive," but I’m like,
I can’t put myself in this type of situation.
Choosing to be with you forever
and still not knowing, like, if you can work.
- Forever is really long, girl.
- I know, and, like, honestly,
we’ve had some conversations about finances where I’m like,
I don’t feel comfortable combining our income.
♪ ♪
I’m trying to be cautious, obviously.
Like, you want me to move in with you,
like, right after Decision Day
when, like, I still don’t know
if you can, like, hold down a job?
He was like, "I don’t think you’re ready for marriage then
if you don’t want to live with me."
I’m just being cautious ’cause like,
I don’t wanna have to rebuild my life all over again.
I moved out to Boston for a relationship,
and that relationship didn’t work out.
And I just remember how tough and difficult that was,
and I just wanna do everything I can to make sure
that I don’t put myself in that situation again.
I mean, I need to see something happen.
I need to see him kinda step up to the plate
and take some action towards finding a job
or figuring out some kind of game plan.
And I’m hoping to see that before Decision Day.
- I don’t know you to date people like this, to be honest.
- I mean, I wouldn’t date someone
who didn’t have their stuff together,
who I would have to have these hard conversations with.
I just wouldn’t. - Yes.
- Because I don’t need to. - But you married that.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
So what are you gonna do?
- Well, that’s-- - What are you gonna do?
- That’s where I’m right now, Michael.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I can’t sleep at night now ♪
♪ Waiting for the background ♪
♪ Of my mind to quiet down ♪ [line ringing]
- Hey.
- Hey. How’s everything?
- It’s good.
I mean, I know we chatted somewhat recently,
and I told you about the pasta fiasco.
- The noodle incident.
- The noodle incident, yeah.
- That’s how I’m gonna refer to it.
- But since then, we celebrated our one-month anniversary.
- Aww, Steve, that’s so nice.
- Yeah, yeah. We had just a really great day.
It ended up being, like, the perfect evening,
you know, nice weather.
We had a great time.
Not to say there aren’t any problems.
- Problems like what?
- Oh, like, one of my issues right now
is that she’s talking about potentially staying
in her own apartment after Decision Day.
I’m like, I mean, I feel--
I don’t know, I feel kind of uncomfortable with that.
Like, I mean, do you think
I have any reason to be concerned?
I mean, here’s one more thing that kinda came up
that was a bit awkward.
After the noodle situation,
like, I made it pretty clear, like,
I can’t be having any more social media.
Like, I don’t need our relationship
to be open to the public when we have issues.
And then I get another social media post.
It basically said,
"The moment you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do."
And I’m like, "Seems like it’s directed at me.
If it’s not directed at me, I don’t know what it could be."
And I’m like, "Hey, by the way, I saw your post.
Was that about me?"
You know, she’s like, "No."
I’m just like...I mean, I’m confused, right?
’Cause I don’t know what the issue could be.
- Well, I think she’s saying it’s not about you,
and for now, you have to take that at face value.
You have to believe her.
And listening to what’s been going on
since the beginning of the relationship,
what I hear you saying, what she’s told you,
it’s all the same, that she needs space.
And maybe there are times she’s going to explicitly
ask you for that, and maybe there are times
when she’s gonna push you away to get it.
And that’s just human behavior.
It sounds like you know
exactly what questions you have,
you know exactly what kinda answers you want,
and now it’s time to go communicate that to her.
[emotional pop music]
- ♪ If love can win, then we can’t be apart ♪
♪ Go back to the start ♪
- Chef Morency, what are we making today?
- We are making lasagna rolls.
I’m gonna have you start with cutting some peppers.
- How am I cutting them?
- Oh, into little squares.
- Diced? - Diced, yeah.
You don’t get to correct Chef Morency in his kitchen.
- Oh, I’m sorry. I will cut them into squares.
- We say little squares. We don’t say dice.
- How much?
- Just keep going until it feels right.
- [laughs]
- We cook with feeling in Chef Morency’s kitchen.
- Okay. - We don’t do measurements.
We don’t do any precision.
Just-- - Cook with feeling.
Cook from the heart.
- Okay. Okay. Okay.
- Today, I get to show Jasmina my cooking skills.
Since the beginning of this marriage,
she’s been cooking, and I’m excited for her
to be my sous-chef today.
- I’m gonna feel it from the heart.
♪ ♪
- I’m hoping that it would help us begin to really build
that emotional connection that we’re both longing for.
We’ve made a lot of progress in our marriage,
but we still have, you know, a long way to go.
It’s smelling fire, though. Tell me it’s not.
- Is it? Let me smell it.
It smell cute. - Right?
Try not to put your eyelashes in it.
[both laugh]
- Michael’s never cooked for me.
So I’m just happy to, you know,
experience another first with him,
and it feels nice to feel that Michael cares.
And that’s what I appreciate the most.
Four weeks really went by fast,
and I feel like we’re doing good now.
We found a rhythm and I just think
if it stays this way,
I know for sure, like, an emotional connection
and everything will, like, follow.
♪ ♪
- I think we both understand the role that we played
in where things weren’t clicking
at the beginning. - Yeah.
- But I will say, like, looking back hindsight,
there were times where I don’t feel like
I was giving 100%, right?
Like, in the moment,
I was telling myself, "This isn’t working
"because we just aren’t communicating well,
"or she just doesn’t understand me,
"or she’s painting me to be this type of way.
That’s why this isn’t working,"
as opposed to saying, like, "What can you be doing
to give this marriage a shot?"
It’s like, could you be doing more?
Does that make sense?
- Yeah, I feel like that’s just
the first time you’ve said that.
Like, I appreciate you acknowledging everything.
♪ ♪
- If this is my marriage and I’m fighting for it,
nothing should stop me from trying to make this work.
So that’s the one thing that I wanna do moving forward,
is make sure I’m doing as much as I can possibly do.
♪ ♪
You feel me? - I feels you.
That’s what happen when you cook with Chef Morency.
- What? - Comes from the heart.
- [laughs]
♪ ♪
- Communication with Michael has definitely gotten better.
I’m honestly relieved he’s finally, you know,
opening up and letting me in
so I can understand him a little bit more.
It’s good for now. It definitely could be better,
but I’m hopeful that it’ll get there.
Okay. - Now the moment of truth.
- Mm-hmm.
- ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Hey, hey, hey, hey ♪
♪ ♪
[both snapping rhythmically]
- What it taste like? What it taste like?
- ♪ It’s too salty, but it’s good ♪
- Okay.
You ain’t throwing it out, though.
You’re not throwing it out.
- I’m eating that [bleep]. - Okay.
- It is delicious, though.
- Let me taste mine.
♪ ♪
- One blow?
- [inhales sharply] Ahh.
- I was told not to comment in Chef Morency’s kitchen.
♪ You set my heart on fire ♪
- Okay, so I got some rice, some beans...
- Yeah. - Some tequila, of course,
’cause it can’t be-- - Yes, I know. It can’t be--
both: Taco Tuesday without tequila.
- Before I got married, me and my friends,
we would always do a Taco Tuesday night.
And since I’ve been married, I haven’t been able
to experience one of those nights,
so I decided I would bring that night to us.
Have you ever done a Taco Tuesday?
- Nope.
I’m about to have my first Taco Tuesday with my wife.
- This is your first time? - Yeah, I’m dead serious.
I like that you involve me,
like, in something that you do with your girls.
- You know, I want you to experience, like,
what I, like, used to do on a regular basis.
Things got heated
during the discussion of the dating app,
and it’s gonna be in the back of my mind,
but I can’t focus on that.
I didn’t sign up for this to get a divorce.
I signed up for a marriage that will last.
So some things I knew that I would have
walked away from being single it’s like,
you don’t do that in a marriage,
and I do feel grateful we were able to get over it.
So it is important for me to give 100% effort
to make sure that it’s long-lasting.
- Cheers.
- Our first taco night.
- That’s what I’m talking about, baby.
- [laughs]
One more. - Get it right in there.
[up-tempo music]
Wow, look how that looks. - Perfect.
- This looks so good.
- I brought the restaurant to us.
- I know.
And I can finally use this table
like a regular human being.
- For once. We always sit right there on the counter.
- I know. - [laughs]
- Ooh.
- Rice and beans, your favorite.
- Rice and beans.
- You know I’m gonna attempt to make rice and beans again.
Hopefully I can perfect it.
- We are overall happy. Our vibe is great.
You wouldn’t have even known.
If you came into our home, you wouldn’t even know
that there is even any type
of bumps or nicks in the road.
So it means the world to me to see that we could
come together still and understand each other.
So when you was younger, did you ever get in trouble
with stuff a lot when you was in school?
- Yeah, I was, like-- what kind of kid was I?
I don’t know. I was just like...
- You never got in trouble? - I just didn’t like school.
No, I got in trouble one time.
Me and my friend got in a fight.
- Hmm. - I got suspended.
They tried to give me, like, at-home suspension.
My mom called them and she was just like, "No."
- Your mom don’t play.
- It was in-- "She has to go to school."
’Cause she knew if I was at home,
I would be watching TV.
- Doing something that you wasn’t supposed to be doing.
- So they locked me in a room at school for three days.
- Yeah, I know what you’re talking about.
- [laughs]
- When I was in middle school-- I’ll never forget.
It’s so funny.
I used to have two best friends,
Chris and Durrell, and-- [laughs]
We’re in one class together in math, and I’ll never forget.
The teacher, I don’t know how she didn’t realize it,
all three of us were like,
"Oh, we’re gonna go to the bathroom," just individually.
Like, Chris was gone for 30 minutes,
20 minutes. - Mm-hmm.
- And then Durrell went, and he was gone for 15.
And then I went out, the last one.
We were hanging out.
We saw the principal and we started running.
Oh, he chased us all the way to the classroom.
Durrell was the slowest one, so he caught Durrell.
Me and Chris got away. We were also taller than him
and everything, but it was so funny.
It’s one of the, like, best moments
I always think about when I’m in high school.
It’s just about, like, the little things.
That’s why I always tell you little things matter.
The little things mean so much to me
because you can’t paint a picture
if you don’t have the key details that make it special.
And that means being vulnerable
and coming out of your comfort zone for the one you love.
I’m proud we did that
because I have a woman that’s brilliant.
I have a woman who’s funny and a woman who cares.
I know she cares.
We were low and now we’re good.
We’re really good. We came a long way, Katina.
- I know.
- It’s great.
I’m happy I met you, Katina, and I love our marriage.
- ♪ Gonna stay strong until the battle is won ♪
♪ Oh ♪
♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪
[dynamic jazzy music]
♪ ♪
- Come here, my child.
♪ ♪
Oh, my little purr baby.
♪ ♪
[smooching]
Since we’ve been back from the one-month anniversary,
it’s been one thing after another, but, you know,
I feel like we do best when we’re just having fun
and laughing and enjoying each other.
So I arranged for our wedding photographer
to come by after dinner,
and I got these corny shark costumes,
and we’re gonna do a little shark family shoot.
♪ ♪
- Oh, my God.
- JC, come here, baby.
♪ ♪
- [laughs] Look at JC.
- I really care for Mark
and I really wanna be there for him, for better or worse.
And I’m getting a little bit of the worse,
but I just want a fun and relaxing night
where we can enjoy ourselves.
So for this photo shoot,
I’m going to try to put everything aside
and just be present in the moment and enjoy it.
Wanna try a bite of this?
You can pick whatever thing you like.
- No, that’s all you. That is all you.
Why don’t you try the sauce? Just the flavor.
- I don’t want to. I appreciate it.
♪ ♪
- What about, like, a pinky dip?
- Nope. - Please.
- No, I don’t want them.
- I just want you to taste the flavor.
- I know you do. I know.
But it’s not something I like, though.
- How do you know? - I know what I like.
- What’s in there?
Things you like are in there.
- But I don’t wish to. I appreciate it.
- Could you dip a fry in it? It’s a compromise.
- It’s me saying "no" and you saying "okay."
- Yeah.
- Nope.
- You don’t like pineapple? - No.
- Hmm.
Suspect.
- After talking with Erica, I really understood
what she was trying to help me with,
that we really need to work on our
communication skills between the two of us.
And I’m hoping that tonight, we’re able to do that
and really clear the air.
So this process is not an easy process.
- Yeah, I know. I’m here too.
It’s not easy. - Can I finish?
- Yeah. - Cool.
[tense music]
Every day has been different, I feel.
- Mm.
- We have great times.
- Mm.
- Then we have very difficult times, I feel.
And, you know, it took me four weeks to get to a point
where I was like, I do really care for this girl,
but I still don’t know what direction to go
because we have such a roller-coaster relationship.
So it’s a lot of, "Will these things ever smooth out
or will they not ever smooth out?"
Is what goes on in my head.
Will things that happened in the past stop resurfacing
in our current day-to-day?
- Wait a minute.
Not once are you looking at this of,
"Where can I do better and where did I go wrong?"
I get, like, "Well, if that’s what you think,
"that’s what you think, fine.
I’ll do what you want if that’s what you want."
And right now, I’m at the point of no return
and I’m not sure I can even give anything else in.
♪ ♪
I really wanna put our differences aside
and enjoy the night together,
but once again, the past keeps resurfacing
and Mark takes no accountability
or responsibility to acknowledge
or change his behavior, and it’s a problem for me.
I did tell you very many times, "This is a boundary.
I feel like you’ve crossed it. This bothers me."
- You know that when you say I crossed boundaries,
you don’t say it in that type of tone.
You raise your voice and you get extreme--
- Mark, you raise your voice. - Can you listen?
I raise my voice after you shout about your boundaries.
- Sure. It’s all me, right?
No accountability. Got it.
- Two-way street.
- No, Mark. I take accountability.
- All me. All me. Okay, you do.
- Anytime we had a conversation on the honeymoon--
- Stop. Stop. Stop. Stop.
You don’t have to, like, grip me like that.
- Okay, good. I’m done.
Mark is so quick to shut off and disconnect,
and I’m trying to grab his hand,
look in his eyes, and connect with him.
And when he recoils, I’m just hurt.
- ♪ Let it go up in flames ♪
♪ This dynamite, let it go up in flames ♪
- This isn’t nice. I’m talking to a wall.
And a brick wall is a brick wall,
and I’m not sure I wanna hurdle this brick wall.
- ♪ I’ll kill the lights ♪
♪ Let it go up in flames ♪
[door creaks]
- Hi. How are you? - Hi. How are you?
- Nice to see you. Come on in.
- Cool. I’m so excited. - Yeah.
Got the cats kinda spread out in different places.
I’ve got a couple over here.
- Awesome.
- Got one over here. It’s gonna be just me.
The wife took off a little bit.
So it’ll just be me and the kids.
It’s a little uncomfortable and awkward, the situation,
’cause Lindsey decided
to take some time away from the evening.
So she’s not gonna be part of the cat photo.
It’s not something that I wanted to do without her,
but it is what it is.
- I would recommend,
since you already had that one on your lap,
if we’re putting this all together--
oh.
- Hey. - Hi.
- You look very nice. - Thank you.
- I’m not feeling it.
You can just do it with just him. I’m gonna go.
- Okay.
- Ugh, I’m so mad at Mark.
♪ ♪
- Okay. - Okay.
♪ ♪
- I wanna do this, but I don’t wanna just put an effort in.
I just wanna hear if he wants me to be here or not.
♪ ♪
- What you doing?
- I’m gonna go to my house for the night to pack up.
♪ ♪
I feel like I’m going to raise my voice,
so I need to say, "I just need to take a minute
because I’m so hurt."
And if I’m that hurt, I’m gonna be really angry.
So I just need a moment.
I’m really frustrated with you.
I’m very upset with you.
I feel like you actually don’t give a [bleep].
And when I try to talk to you,
you, like, recoil and you get defensive,
and I’m just-- I can’t do it no more.
I can’t take the lack of boundaries,
the lack of accountability.
It ain’t worth it to me. The price is too high.
- Price is too high. - Yeah.
- The way that we speak and receive messages,
it has to change ’cause we’re doing the same thing
over and over again.
She’ll get mad about something that’s probably valid,
but her way of telling it to me and being expressive
doesn’t make me go change real quick
because it’s coming from such a negative tone, I feel.
I can’t change how you feel.
- Hmm.
- All I said was, things are a two-way street.
I can take accountability. I just feel like discussions
and difficulties we’ve had have been a two-way street.
That’s all I’ve said.
- Mark, there are certain discussions
that there isn’t a two-way on that.
- Okay. All right.
If that’s how you feel, it’s how you feel.
- You keep pushing me away. - I’m not trying to push you--
- You keep doing these things where I’m like,
you’re not invested.
You’re not ready.
You’re not pouring in.
You can pour into everybody else,
but not this.
- I don’t try to push you in any direction.
- Mark, you don’t try to do nothing hard.
- Okay, then I don’t do anything, Linds.
Okay, I don’t do anything. Great.
You feel better?
Whenever I try to say something, it’s always like,
she feels I’m just trying to defend myself
and I can’t hear her point.
And I’m like, I hear your point
but there are two points in this argument.
There’s what I did and there’s the way you talk about it.
And those are the things that we go
back and forth with every week.
We have someone here to do a photo shoot.
Do you want to do the photo shoot?
- Do I wanna pretend like I like you? No.
- Then don’t. Then don’t.
But we have somebody here who is taking her time
to be here to do a photo shoot,
and if you’d like to do a photo shoot,
that would be great. If you don’t--
- I don’t see the point of a family photo shoot.
- I think it’d be great if you stayed for the photo shoot.
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- I mean, do I want to? No.
Do you want me to? That’s a different question.
- Yeah, I think it’d be great
if you stayed for the photo shoot.
I have three cats. You have two cats.
We’ve been here for five weeks. It would be a fun photo shoot.
- Okay, if you would like me to stay for this photo shoot,
then I can stay for this photo shoot.
- So stay for the photo shoot.
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Oh, my God.
- Is everything okay? - Oh.
- Are you ready to go?
Let me grab this right here.
- Hey, what do you think I should wear?
- You want me to come help you? - Yeah.
- I can. Let’s see.
- I don’t really think I’m surprised that she’s staying,
even though she wants to leave right afterwards.
She wants space from me.
I think that this is something that Lindsey
would wanna do regardless
of how she feels about me or the situation we’re in.
I think she would want to have a fun photo with all the cats.
- It’s literally so many cats. - There we go.
Regardless of where they are, we’ve got them all.
[camera shutter clicks] Oh, my goodness.
This is amazing.
- That’s the thing I know about Lindsey is, when she’s pissed,
she can be pissed royally
and then do an activity with me and be fine.
- Yeah, lay down on the floor. Let’s catch those bubbles.
- And then once it’s over, though,
she goes right back to that mood, that place
because everything is gone and she’s like, "I’m pissed."
- All right, do you guys want any of just the two of you?
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- Oh, I’ll leave it up to him.
- Yeah. - Yeah?
All right, move in there. Move closer to her.
All right.
- Communication-wise, it just-- it’s almost like
we try, but it doesn’t work.
And I don’t know if it will ever.
- ♪ Is it really worth it? ♪
♪ Are you really worth it? ♪
♪ So tell me, are you worth it? ♪
♪ ♪
- It’s going down. - You got it.
- Next time on "Married at First Sight,"
with less than three weeks left until Decision Day,
Dr. Pepper and I will speak
to each of the spouses individually
to take a real and honest look at their marriages.
- If this is how it is now,
it could only get worse from here.
- I literally almost always feel sad all the time.
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- Do you feel as though your marriage is in danger?
- It’s just, I don’t feel anything when he touches me.
- I said, "I don’t want you to do anything
out of obligation." - But that was a dumb move.
- Anybody wants to say something,
they can say it to me
’cause I don’t play those games.
Dr. Pepper is saying that "he said, she said."
Totally disrespectful. It’s like spit in my face.
- Nothing lasts forever.
- You’re telling the world that I’m not enough for you.
- All I asked for was consistency.
- All I want is healthy communication, woman.
- Mark, would you like me to leave right now?
- If you want to.
- It’s a yes or no question. - If you want to!
- Dr. Pepper is here to help me? Not at all.
- Keep talking, Olajuwon.
- Oh, my God.
[laughs]
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