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- Ah, [bleep].
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As long as I can remember,
I've wanted to have a wife.
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- [burps] Sorry.
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Gotta get that last bit out
before I become a lady.
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- Just over two weeks ago,
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ten singles took an audacious
leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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- Michael.
- How are you?
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- They married as
complete strangers.
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[cheers and applause]
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- Oh, my God.
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I can't believe
I'm somebody's wife.
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- ♪ I keep spending
every dollar ♪
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- Last time, most of our couples
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took another step closer
as they shared time
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with their friends and families.
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- Hey.
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♪ ♪
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- Katina and Olajuwon.
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- Like, when I have
my little tantrums,
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you have not slipped on me.
- She's very patient.
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- If he's acting hot and
out of place, just keep calm.
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- Let him take a moment
and calm down.
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- Jasmina and Michael.
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- Honeymoon was a lot of
ups and downs
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but we decided to just,
you know, start all over,
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re-introduce ourself
and not, like, hold anything
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against each other.
- Any grudges.
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- Okay. We love a reset.
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- Yeah.
- Mm-hmm.
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- Alyssa and Chris.
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- When Pastor Cal came,
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we landed on getting divorced.
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[dramatic music]
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- I know that I tried my best.
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Um...
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[sighs]
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♪ ♪
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- Noi and Steve.
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- If you need time,
by all means ask for it.
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Communicate that to me.
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You shouldn't post it
and be like,
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"This relationship's
not working."
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- Yeah, I probably shouldn't
be sharing it with the public.
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- Lindsey and Mark.
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- You shouldn't have said that.
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- I don't like to brush
things under the rug.
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I like to direct--
- Okay, well, this is a team
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and if you can't get that,
this isn't gonna work.
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- I'm not a team for you
when I put my [bleep]
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hazmat suit on
and give up a day of work?
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- Okay, I'm good. I'm good.
- You're asking about a team.
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- I'm good.
Have another drink.
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I just can't--
I can't do this anymore.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ So here I go ♪
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- And tonight
with just 5 1/2 weeks
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until Decision Day,
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our couples examine
just what it will take
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to fall in love.
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- We're gonna do some squats.
- Jasmina doesn't work out.
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- We gonna go like this?
- Mm-mm.
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- No? That's not a sq--
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- So her being a personal
trainer is hilarious to me.
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I'm not doing that.
I'm not doing that.
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- I'm gonna order
the raw stuff for you.
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- Wait, wait, wait, wait.
You don't have to do that.
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Oh.
- Don't look at it.
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Just eat it.
- Wait a minute.
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I think this thing
should go back on the ocean.
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- Do you think you are
beginning to fall in love?
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- So no,
love is not on the table.
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[dramatic music]
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- Just because we're married,
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it doesn't mean it's gonna work.
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- You should know how
to communicate
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when we're in the same spot.
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- Calm down.
That's not a way to talk to me.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm telling you
that I'm not satisfied.
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- You say to me I say
things that make you hurt
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and you say stuff
that annoys the [bleep]
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out of me
but you're not aware of it.
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- Uh-uh.
I'm done putting myself second.
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Now I'm first.
Now you gotta earn me.
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- I can't settle with somebody
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if I think they don't have
a base on just being an adult.
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- You know what?
I need a break.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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[up-tempo rock with bagpipes]
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♪ ♪
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- I am at the supermarket.
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I am getting ready to go food
shopping for me and my husband.
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I am used to just
shopping for myself.
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I'm not used to having
to shop for a man
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and especially someone who
wants everything from scratch.
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I go out to eat usually so it's
definitely a transition for me.
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Hopefully he's not on my back
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when I get back
that I didn't get enough stuff.
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- With one couple already
having chosen divorce,
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our remaining four couples
have been married
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to each other
for just over two weeks
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and are fully submerged
in married life
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for better or worse.
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- Hi, guys.
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♪ ♪
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I like my bacon really crispy.
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- Between work, family,
and friends
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juggling everyday life
with a brand-new spouse
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can be a lot to get used to.
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- So many cats.
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- So I'm here trying to design
this bandana for Feeny.
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♪ ♪
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That's how it came out.
Not too bad.
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- For most couples,
love is already the bond
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that holds them together
as they navigate
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through the challenges
that come their way.
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But for our couples,
the process of building
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and sustaining that critical
connection begins now
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because in just 5 1/2 weeks,
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they're going to have to decide
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whether they're going to stay
married or get a divorce.
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- ♪ We've been through
it all ♪
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♪ But I still got you ♪
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- Couples that get married
at first sight
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are often surprised
at the challenges they face
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in their journey
to lifelong love.
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So we've encouraged
all of our couples
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to plan special dates
to ignite a spark
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that will hopefully lead them
in the right direction
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for a long
and successful marriage.
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[rhythmic pop music]
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♪ ♪
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- I woke up
to an empty apartment
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with just Sushi next to me
and my wife is gone.
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And I get a text
from Noi saying,
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"Meet me at the park
by a sign."
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♪ ♪
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"Hi, Hubby. I've planned
an adventure for you
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"so get ready
and give it a shot.
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"Your next clue is hidden
in a game that requires
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two players to start in love."
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Well, it's probably not
baseball.
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Uh, must be the tennis court.
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♪ ♪
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It looks like I'm on a treasure
hunt to find my wife.
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"These are colorful and near.
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"Remember when we went
to Ward's Berry Farm
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"and you tucked one
behind my ear?
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♪ ♪
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- How do I look?
- There you go. It's great.
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Probably the garden.
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♪ ♪
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- I appreciate Steve so much
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and I see
where I can make improvements
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to help him
feel more appreciated.
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- "Your next clue is hidden
in your favorite sport."
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- So I set up the scavenger hunt
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and I thought
it'd be really cute
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for me to incorporate
some of our memories together.
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- "On our wedding day,
we said our 'I dos'
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with a scenic view of this."
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- Steve, do you take Noi to
be your lawfully wedded wife?
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- I do.
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♪ ♪
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- I just want him to know
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that I am incredibly
grateful for him.
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- "This was one of the
first photos we took together
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"on our wedding day
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"when we gathered
with our families
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to create our new family tree."
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So maybe by the trees.
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[upbeat music]
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♪ ♪
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"I will soon be found.
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All you have to do
is turn around."
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♪ ♪
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- Hello.
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- I found your treasures.
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- ♪ You make me wanna fly ♪
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♪ I'm diving with my eyes
closed ♪
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- How was it?
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- It was good. I found 'em.
It took a little while.
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♪ ♪
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Is that what you were doing
all morning?
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- Yeah.
[both laugh]
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You found me.
- I did.
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Where have you been
this whole time?
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Over here somewhere,
stashed away?
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I'm happy that my wife
put this together for me.
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You know, I love adventures.
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I love random things
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and I love thoughtful gifts,
essentially.
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So it really makes me feel like
I have a special wife
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and it makes me
feel connected with her,
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especially after going through
some challenges
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and being reminded
that we're doing well
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and we're in a good place.
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- Did you think that was cute?
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- Well, I think everything
you do is cute.
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- ♪ You make me love you
crazy ♪
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[up-tempo music]
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- ♪ You know what you do
to me ♪
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♪ Come and make a move on me ♪
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♪ ♪
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- [indistinct]
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- Cool. Thanks.
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- How was your day?
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- Pretty good. Thanks.
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- How were the cats today?
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- I don't know. I wasn't home.
- Oh.
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Nobody's dead.
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- That's always a good thing.
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- I'm so irritated at Mark.
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I really just need Mark to say,
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"I'm sorry
if I hurt your feelings"
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or "I care about you."
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And it's just irritating to me.
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I'm just waiting for the next...
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explosion.
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[silverware clinking]
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- How is it?
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- Good.
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[tense electronic music]
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♪ ♪
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[shaker grinding]
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♪ ♪
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[grinding continues]
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♪ ♪
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- So what'd you do all day?
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- Work.
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- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah.
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- How was that?
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- Good.
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[silverware clinking]
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- You?
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- It was good.
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♪ ♪
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We're not meshing well.
We're not clicking.
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We both have an ideal
as to what we like and want.
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And if we don't feel
that we have it,
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that causes tension.
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♪ ♪
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- Pretty good at bowling.
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- You? Yeah.
- You.
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- No.
- No?
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- Not really.
It's beginner's luck.
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- [snorts]
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[tense music]
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♪ ♪
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- Do you feel that you were
out of line last night?
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- No, I feel like any time
we have a good time
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and we're having fun,
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you're just, like, so negative
and such a Debbie Downer.
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You are literally
constantly like,
261
00:10:10,593 --> 00:10:12,927
"You're not this, I'm not that,
this isn't that, this is mine,
262
00:10:12,946 --> 00:10:15,262
"I need this, I need--I, I, I.
263
00:10:15,282 --> 00:10:17,949
You're not. You are. I'm not."
264
00:10:18,101 --> 00:10:20,677
And I'm like, when are you
gonna just start, you know,
265
00:10:20,695 --> 00:10:23,680
giving me any affirmation
or kindness?
266
00:10:23,773 --> 00:10:25,515
Like, I'm trying to be
supportive of you
267
00:10:25,533 --> 00:10:27,959
and kind to you and I feel like
268
00:10:28,111 --> 00:10:30,019
we have these great times
and fun,
269
00:10:30,038 --> 00:10:31,463
and then you go ahead
and do something
270
00:10:31,614 --> 00:10:33,523
and I'm like, "I don't even
know who you are."
271
00:10:33,616 --> 00:10:35,041
I don't know who to trust.
272
00:10:35,135 --> 00:10:37,193
What you're showing me
and then what you're giving me
273
00:10:37,286 --> 00:10:38,970
are two completely
different things.
274
00:10:39,122 --> 00:10:41,956
Literally, I have no idea
what's going on.
275
00:10:42,050 --> 00:10:44,976
I am very upset with you.
276
00:10:45,203 --> 00:10:46,719
- Same.
277
00:10:46,813 --> 00:10:48,813
- I have, like, literally
flipped my off switch on you.
278
00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:50,273
- Okay.
279
00:10:51,968 --> 00:10:56,488
I mean, I'm not trying
to argue with you but--
280
00:10:56,715 --> 00:10:58,715
- You're not trying
to do anything with me.
281
00:10:58,733 --> 00:11:00,825
- You're really positive.
282
00:11:01,052 --> 00:11:02,494
I don't know how you can't see--
283
00:11:02,645 --> 00:11:04,220
- 'Cause I feel like
I've just absorbed
284
00:11:04,313 --> 00:11:06,981
your toxic sludge for weeks now.
285
00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:08,558
- Same. Same.
- For weeks.
286
00:11:08,576 --> 00:11:10,727
No, you're so negative.
287
00:11:10,745 --> 00:11:12,245
- Me?
- Yes.
288
00:11:12,397 --> 00:11:14,580
And your life is in chaos
and you're always complaining.
289
00:11:14,675 --> 00:11:16,582
- It's really not.
290
00:11:16,677 --> 00:11:18,918
- Mark, when are you gonna
get some awareness about that?
291
00:11:19,070 --> 00:11:21,421
- All right.
292
00:11:21,515 --> 00:11:22,847
Okay.
293
00:11:23,074 --> 00:11:24,331
♪ ♪
294
00:11:24,426 --> 00:11:26,333
- I need Mark to, like,
295
00:11:26,353 --> 00:11:28,261
come to his senses a little bit
296
00:11:28,355 --> 00:11:31,764
and realize what he's doing
and how it's affecting me.
297
00:11:31,917 --> 00:11:33,674
He's so focused on how things
are affecting him.
298
00:11:33,768 --> 00:11:36,194
He's forgetting there's another
person in this marriage now.
299
00:11:36,421 --> 00:11:39,680
And I'm so concerned on
how he's being affected
300
00:11:39,774 --> 00:11:41,774
I've kind of put myself second.
301
00:11:41,927 --> 00:11:43,760
And now I'm like, "Uh-uh,
I'm done putting myself second.
302
00:11:43,853 --> 00:11:46,262
Now I'm first.
Now you gotta earn me."
303
00:11:46,355 --> 00:11:47,597
And like, I don't know
if you can.
304
00:11:47,615 --> 00:11:49,207
You might be out
of your league, buddy.
305
00:11:49,434 --> 00:11:51,100
I'm telling you
that I'm not satisfied.
306
00:11:51,194 --> 00:11:52,526
- Okay.
- Right now I'm very unhappy.
307
00:11:52,620 --> 00:11:53,878
- Same. Same. Same.
- Okay.
308
00:11:54,105 --> 00:11:55,029
Can you just listen?
You're always jumping in.
309
00:11:55,048 --> 00:11:56,272
- Sure. Okay.
310
00:11:56,291 --> 00:11:57,290
- I'm telling you...
- Yeah.
311
00:11:57,442 --> 00:11:59,033
- That I am still
upset with you.
312
00:11:59,052 --> 00:12:00,443
I thought we had
a moment last night
313
00:12:00,536 --> 00:12:01,386
where we were
finally having fun.
314
00:12:01,613 --> 00:12:02,612
- We did.
315
00:12:02,630 --> 00:12:03,780
- And then I realized
that's not Mark.
316
00:12:03,873 --> 00:12:04,797
That's Mark on camera.
- Oh, you--
317
00:12:04,891 --> 00:12:06,299
- That isn't Mark.
318
00:12:06,393 --> 00:12:08,042
- I--I--
- Who is it?
319
00:12:08,061 --> 00:12:09,227
- Stop with the camera stuff.
320
00:12:09,454 --> 00:12:10,787
- Who are you?
- I know who I am.
321
00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,455
- I don't.
- Okay. Then you don't then.
322
00:12:12,474 --> 00:12:13,790
- I don't.
- You don't pay attention.
323
00:12:13,883 --> 00:12:14,958
You're not aware.
- I don't think you know
324
00:12:15,051 --> 00:12:16,292
who you are.
- You're not aware.
325
00:12:16,385 --> 00:12:17,718
You're not aware of what you say
326
00:12:17,738 --> 00:12:19,237
and I'm not aware sometimes
of what I say
327
00:12:19,388 --> 00:12:20,572
and that's the problem.
- Mark--
328
00:12:20,723 --> 00:12:22,131
- You say to me I say things
that make you hurt
329
00:12:22,150 --> 00:12:23,557
and you say stuff that annoys
the [bleep] out of me
330
00:12:23,651 --> 00:12:24,801
but you're not aware of it.
331
00:12:24,819 --> 00:12:26,393
- Yeah, but Mark,
332
00:12:26,488 --> 00:12:28,805
I'm sick of feeling
like I'm bending over backwards
333
00:12:28,823 --> 00:12:32,158
to be gracious to you
and kind to you.
334
00:12:32,252 --> 00:12:35,661
And I'm trying to be
so empathetic of you.
335
00:12:35,756 --> 00:12:37,738
This whole time,
during all your bull[bleep],
336
00:12:37,832 --> 00:12:40,166
I've been like, "I think Mark
deserves this kindness
337
00:12:40,260 --> 00:12:42,761
"because Mark seems like
a really genuine and kind guy
338
00:12:42,912 --> 00:12:44,429
"and I feel like
he's going through a hard time.
339
00:12:44,656 --> 00:12:46,506
And I want to be his wife
and support him."
340
00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:50,660
And I am so frustrated
because I feel like
341
00:12:50,678 --> 00:12:53,179
you are literally
sabotaging yourself
342
00:12:53,331 --> 00:12:54,831
and treating me poorly
right now.
343
00:12:54,924 --> 00:12:58,425
I feel unappreciated
and uncared for.
344
00:12:58,445 --> 00:13:00,261
Why am I here?
345
00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:02,338
I'm not sure.
346
00:13:02,357 --> 00:13:04,115
Why am I trying so hard
for somebody
347
00:13:04,267 --> 00:13:07,452
who's treating me not great
right now?
348
00:13:07,603 --> 00:13:09,512
What do you like about me?
349
00:13:09,531 --> 00:13:13,182
♪ ♪
350
00:13:13,201 --> 00:13:15,960
'Cause it doesn't seem like
there's anything.
351
00:13:16,187 --> 00:13:20,465
♪ ♪
352
00:13:24,696 --> 00:13:26,137
♪ ♪
353
00:13:26,364 --> 00:13:29,974
- I feel unappreciated
and uncared for.
354
00:13:30,126 --> 00:13:31,884
Why am I here?
355
00:13:31,978 --> 00:13:34,037
I'm not sure.
356
00:13:34,055 --> 00:13:35,705
Why am I trying so hard
for somebody
357
00:13:35,798 --> 00:13:38,708
who's treating me not great
right now?
358
00:13:38,726 --> 00:13:40,893
What do you like about me?
359
00:13:41,046 --> 00:13:42,395
♪ ♪
360
00:13:42,489 --> 00:13:45,490
'Cause it doesn't seem like
there's anything.
361
00:13:45,641 --> 00:13:47,233
At all.
- You want me to tell you?
362
00:13:47,327 --> 00:13:48,568
- Yeah.
363
00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:50,570
♪ ♪
364
00:13:50,664 --> 00:13:53,406
- I think you have
an incredible, loving person
365
00:13:53,500 --> 00:13:56,000
buried inside of you.
366
00:13:56,152 --> 00:13:58,061
- That's insulting.
That's a dig.
367
00:13:58,154 --> 00:13:59,486
- It's not taking a dig.
- That's a dig.
368
00:13:59,506 --> 00:14:00,913
- It's not taking a dig.
369
00:14:01,066 --> 00:14:02,398
I think you have this
incredible love inside--
370
00:14:02,491 --> 00:14:04,233
I said this is at the wedding
to you and you were like,
371
00:14:04,252 --> 00:14:06,010
"Huh. Interesting.
You noticed that."
372
00:14:06,162 --> 00:14:07,737
- Oh, it's just buried
deep inside.
373
00:14:07,755 --> 00:14:09,739
- I think you have this
incredible love
374
00:14:09,757 --> 00:14:14,001
inside of you that I think that
sometimes it's hard to show.
375
00:14:14,020 --> 00:14:16,245
I think you have
a tough exterior.
376
00:14:16,339 --> 00:14:17,171
- You don't think
I've showed you
377
00:14:17,190 --> 00:14:18,598
nothing but kindness and love?
378
00:14:18,692 --> 00:14:21,934
- I think you have shown me
your way that is--
379
00:14:22,087 --> 00:14:23,361
Like, I think you have done
nurturing things.
380
00:14:23,512 --> 00:14:24,696
I think you take care
of the cats.
381
00:14:24,923 --> 00:14:26,255
I think you were there
for my mom the first week.
382
00:14:26,274 --> 00:14:27,348
I think you do
a lot of good things.
383
00:14:27,367 --> 00:14:29,200
There's nothing bad about you.
384
00:14:29,352 --> 00:14:30,702
I've never said
I don't like you.
385
00:14:30,929 --> 00:14:33,204
I simply say
386
00:14:33,356 --> 00:14:36,523
that we have a difficulty
with our personalities
387
00:14:36,543 --> 00:14:39,102
because you're not feeling
love and affection from me.
388
00:14:39,195 --> 00:14:41,528
I feel sometimes
condescending tone
389
00:14:41,548 --> 00:14:43,047
and talks and stuff like that.
390
00:14:43,199 --> 00:14:44,716
And that's where
we're mixing the signals.
391
00:14:44,867 --> 00:14:47,944
That's where we're not
getting to the next page.
392
00:14:47,962 --> 00:14:50,129
I think that we both
like each other
393
00:14:50,281 --> 00:14:52,281
and we both see good things
in each other
394
00:14:52,375 --> 00:14:54,967
and it's just
our communication skills.
395
00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:58,212
And our communication together
has to improve
396
00:14:58,306 --> 00:15:02,125
for us to get to the next week.
397
00:15:02,218 --> 00:15:03,401
- I think I just got put
in a place
398
00:15:03,628 --> 00:15:05,552
where it's not just
the communication for me
399
00:15:05,647 --> 00:15:08,648
and it's wearing on me
and I gotta be honest with you.
400
00:15:08,742 --> 00:15:13,486
I've got a lot less hope today
than I have ever had before.
401
00:15:13,638 --> 00:15:16,063
Like, I came right into
the marriage at 100%
402
00:15:16,157 --> 00:15:18,065
and you kept pulling back and
pulling back and pulling back.
403
00:15:18,159 --> 00:15:21,735
And now I'm at 1%.
404
00:15:21,755 --> 00:15:23,588
You've really turned
your nose up at the 99
405
00:15:23,815 --> 00:15:26,090
and I don't wanna
give it to you anymore.
406
00:15:30,505 --> 00:15:32,838
- Well, 1% is better than zero.
407
00:15:32,933 --> 00:15:34,323
♪ ♪
408
00:15:34,342 --> 00:15:35,749
We can communicate better.
409
00:15:35,769 --> 00:15:37,769
We can grow on that.
- Mm.
410
00:15:37,996 --> 00:15:39,920
- But if we can't understand
each other,
411
00:15:39,940 --> 00:15:42,181
then it's just not gonna work.
412
00:15:42,333 --> 00:15:43,757
♪ ♪
413
00:15:43,777 --> 00:15:45,443
- Okay, so we'll see.
414
00:15:45,670 --> 00:15:49,263
- ♪ Karma goes around
and around and around ♪
415
00:15:49,357 --> 00:15:52,433
♪ And it's coming for you ♪
416
00:15:52,452 --> 00:15:54,935
[bird chirps]
417
00:15:54,955 --> 00:15:56,937
- ♪ What's this? ♪
418
00:15:57,031 --> 00:16:00,199
♪ I got my dark eyes ♪
419
00:16:00,293 --> 00:16:02,185
♪ Look here, now ♪
420
00:16:02,278 --> 00:16:07,448
♪ I'm not nobody's wife ♪
421
00:16:07,467 --> 00:16:08,874
- This is cute.
422
00:16:08,969 --> 00:16:11,043
♪ ♪
423
00:16:11,137 --> 00:16:12,637
Thank you.
424
00:16:12,788 --> 00:16:14,880
- I set up a picnic
for me, Jasmina, and Feeny
425
00:16:15,033 --> 00:16:16,549
as a way to spend
some more time with Jasmina,
426
00:16:16,701 --> 00:16:18,718
get to know her a little better.
427
00:16:18,870 --> 00:16:20,870
I also know how much
Feeny means to Jasmina
428
00:16:20,963 --> 00:16:23,222
so I wanted to see
if I can, you know,
429
00:16:23,316 --> 00:16:25,466
build a stronger bond
with him to let her know that
430
00:16:25,560 --> 00:16:27,652
if Feeny is important to her,
431
00:16:27,879 --> 00:16:29,470
he's going to be
important to me too.
432
00:16:29,489 --> 00:16:31,714
- What's this?
- I don't know. You tell me.
433
00:16:31,733 --> 00:16:35,326
- So I'm automatically like,
"Oh, my God, he got me a gift."
434
00:16:35,478 --> 00:16:37,311
- Feeny, sit.
435
00:16:37,405 --> 00:16:39,813
- Feeny, you got a toy.
436
00:16:39,833 --> 00:16:40,981
[laughs]
437
00:16:41,001 --> 00:16:42,834
It's gifts for Feeny.
438
00:16:43,061 --> 00:16:44,744
Aww.
439
00:16:44,896 --> 00:16:48,506
Which is honestly even better
and it makes me very happy
440
00:16:48,733 --> 00:16:50,824
to see that he's doing things
for my dog
441
00:16:50,844 --> 00:16:54,737
because Feeny is
a very big part of my life.
442
00:16:54,756 --> 00:16:56,589
Oh, my God.
- [laughs]
443
00:16:56,741 --> 00:16:58,407
Aw, this is so nice.
- So put that on him.
444
00:16:58,501 --> 00:17:00,259
Put that on him. Put that on.
- Look.
445
00:17:00,411 --> 00:17:02,336
- See if it fits.
- It says "dog meets world."
446
00:17:02,355 --> 00:17:04,914
This is so cute.
447
00:17:05,007 --> 00:17:08,100
- So I know how much
Feeny means to you
448
00:17:08,253 --> 00:17:09,861
and it's important for me
to have, you know,
449
00:17:10,012 --> 00:17:11,771
a good relationship
with Feeny as well
450
00:17:11,923 --> 00:17:13,756
and for us to bond,
451
00:17:13,849 --> 00:17:16,034
get him to listen to me.
- [laughs]
452
00:17:16,261 --> 00:17:18,369
- Let me see
if I can do a command.
453
00:17:18,596 --> 00:17:21,614
- You have to have a treat.
- All right.
454
00:17:21,766 --> 00:17:23,783
Okay. Ready?
- All right, Feeny.
455
00:17:23,935 --> 00:17:25,025
Don't embarrass me.
456
00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:27,270
[clears throat] Paw.
457
00:17:27,288 --> 00:17:29,696
[Feeny panting]
458
00:17:29,716 --> 00:17:32,550
- [laughs]
- [clears throat]
459
00:17:32,701 --> 00:17:34,052
I gotta put some more bass
in my voice.
460
00:17:34,279 --> 00:17:35,461
Paw.
461
00:17:35,613 --> 00:17:36,870
♪ ♪
462
00:17:36,890 --> 00:17:39,131
What am I doing wrong?
463
00:17:39,284 --> 00:17:40,800
- [laughs]
- Feeny.
464
00:17:40,952 --> 00:17:42,226
Feeny.
465
00:17:42,453 --> 00:17:44,044
- Probably also let him see it,
that you have it.
466
00:17:44,138 --> 00:17:45,805
- See the treat?
- Yes.
467
00:17:45,957 --> 00:17:47,732
- Paw.
468
00:17:47,959 --> 00:17:49,125
Paw.
469
00:17:49,143 --> 00:17:52,144
Hah. Good paw.
- [laughs]
470
00:17:52,238 --> 00:17:54,405
Good boy.
471
00:17:54,632 --> 00:17:56,482
Aww.
472
00:17:56,576 --> 00:17:58,818
- One of the things I've been
trying to figure out, right?
473
00:17:58,912 --> 00:18:01,487
It's 'cause I remember back
in the honeymoon,
474
00:18:01,581 --> 00:18:05,566
both times where we had, like,
issues with communication...
475
00:18:05,585 --> 00:18:08,311
specifically how you felt like
I was speaking to you...
476
00:18:08,404 --> 00:18:10,646
- Mm-hmm.
- Had to do with trying
477
00:18:10,665 --> 00:18:14,258
to address things that I didn't
like or appreciate or whatever.
478
00:18:14,485 --> 00:18:16,152
So I'm trying to figure out
what's the best way
479
00:18:16,245 --> 00:18:17,929
to communicate to you
in those moments?
480
00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:19,822
- The best way
to communicate to me
481
00:18:19,915 --> 00:18:21,582
is to talk to me and both times,
482
00:18:21,601 --> 00:18:23,434
you weren't talking to me.
You were talking at me.
483
00:18:23,661 --> 00:18:25,252
You were telling me
what I needed to do
484
00:18:25,346 --> 00:18:26,253
and you were using a tone.
485
00:18:26,347 --> 00:18:27,513
- So let's--
- So the best way
486
00:18:27,665 --> 00:18:29,423
is to have
a conversation like this
487
00:18:29,442 --> 00:18:31,167
not to raise your voice.
488
00:18:31,185 --> 00:18:32,777
Say you need space,
you need a breather,
489
00:18:33,004 --> 00:18:34,779
you need to go into
the other room and calm down
490
00:18:35,006 --> 00:18:36,522
before we continue
the conversation.
491
00:18:36,674 --> 00:18:41,119
So it's not like what way
do I need to talk to you,
492
00:18:41,270 --> 00:18:42,511
it's just you just need
to talk to me.
493
00:18:42,530 --> 00:18:44,789
[plucky music]
494
00:18:44,940 --> 00:18:46,290
- I feel like we both
were speaking at a tone
495
00:18:46,442 --> 00:18:49,368
that was higher
than usually we'd speak.
496
00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:50,944
Do you agree with that?
497
00:18:51,038 --> 00:18:52,855
- I agree with that.
- Yeah.
498
00:18:52,874 --> 00:18:55,708
- But what I'm saying to you
is you would have never
499
00:18:55,802 --> 00:18:58,027
got that tone out of me
if you didn't listen to me
500
00:18:58,045 --> 00:18:59,620
when I asked you
to not speak that way.
501
00:18:59,714 --> 00:19:02,456
I wouldn't have went there if
you didn't just hear my signs
502
00:19:02,550 --> 00:19:04,791
and read the room that
that's not a way to talk to me.
503
00:19:04,886 --> 00:19:06,719
And that's just...
504
00:19:06,871 --> 00:19:08,629
it's basic knowledge
505
00:19:08,648 --> 00:19:10,481
on how to have a conversation
with someone
506
00:19:10,708 --> 00:19:12,466
and, you know,
hear each other out.
507
00:19:12,485 --> 00:19:14,801
- I'm asking you how do
I communicate with you better
508
00:19:14,821 --> 00:19:16,896
and you keep telling me
that communication is normal,
509
00:19:16,990 --> 00:19:18,564
you should know how to have
a conversation with somebody.
510
00:19:18,658 --> 00:19:19,991
That doesn't help us.
511
00:19:20,142 --> 00:19:22,218
- That does--
Mike, how do you not know
512
00:19:22,311 --> 00:19:23,719
how to have a basic conversation
513
00:19:23,738 --> 00:19:25,221
and hear the other person talk?
514
00:19:25,239 --> 00:19:27,556
- But basic is specific
to how you were brought up,
515
00:19:27,650 --> 00:19:29,500
how you speak to your friends
or family
516
00:19:29,652 --> 00:19:30,651
or the places
that you've been in.
517
00:19:30,745 --> 00:19:33,487
For me, the way I speak
518
00:19:33,506 --> 00:19:35,506
and where I communicate
with other people may be okay.
519
00:19:35,658 --> 00:19:37,400
But if I'm with you
and telling you,
520
00:19:37,418 --> 00:19:39,418
"Help me communicate
with you better,"
521
00:19:39,570 --> 00:19:41,995
and all you say is, "You should
know how to communicate,"
522
00:19:42,015 --> 00:19:43,514
well, we're in the same spot.
523
00:19:43,741 --> 00:19:45,683
I'm telling you to help me.
- Calm down.
524
00:19:45,910 --> 00:19:47,927
- I'm not--you see?
You said "calm down."
525
00:19:48,021 --> 00:19:49,762
I'm just speaking passionately.
- Well, you can calm down.
526
00:19:49,914 --> 00:19:50,913
You're saying, "I'm telling you
to help me."
527
00:19:50,932 --> 00:19:52,598
You can talk.
- I'm not upset.
528
00:19:52,750 --> 00:19:55,008
- Okay. It doesn't matter
if you're not upset.
529
00:19:55,102 --> 00:19:56,694
You're getting annoyed.
530
00:19:56,845 --> 00:19:58,362
- And that's okay 'cause
that's a human emotion.
531
00:19:58,514 --> 00:19:59,939
I'm not a robot.
- Okay.
532
00:20:00,091 --> 00:20:02,258
But don't talk to me like that.
Just relax.
533
00:20:02,276 --> 00:20:03,534
You were getting annoyed.
534
00:20:03,686 --> 00:20:05,611
It could have went
to another place.
535
00:20:05,705 --> 00:20:07,705
It's like, "No, we can
just calm back down."
536
00:20:07,856 --> 00:20:09,207
Okay. I see you're annoyed.
Okay.
537
00:20:09,358 --> 00:20:10,449
Let's both calm down
and just talk.
538
00:20:10,543 --> 00:20:11,934
- Yeah.
539
00:20:11,953 --> 00:20:14,119
[tense music]
540
00:20:14,214 --> 00:20:15,454
♪ ♪
541
00:20:15,606 --> 00:20:17,122
I hear you.
542
00:20:17,275 --> 00:20:19,792
♪ ♪
543
00:20:19,944 --> 00:20:22,386
So today was supposed
to be a positive day
544
00:20:22,538 --> 00:20:24,630
so I didn't expect it
to take a left turn.
545
00:20:24,724 --> 00:20:27,541
We still have a lot
of communication issues
546
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,453
and a lot of things that
we need to address and unpack.
547
00:20:30,471 --> 00:20:31,804
But it's gonna be a journey
and I'm hoping that
548
00:20:31,956 --> 00:20:33,806
this was a step
in the right direction.
549
00:20:33,900 --> 00:20:40,980
♪ ♪
550
00:20:41,132 --> 00:20:44,075
- ♪ I can give you everything
you could dream of ♪
551
00:20:44,226 --> 00:20:45,818
♪ Keep you coming back ♪
552
00:20:45,970 --> 00:20:47,820
♪ Keep you wanting
my touch all day ♪
553
00:20:47,914 --> 00:20:49,747
♪ ♪
554
00:20:49,898 --> 00:20:50,897
♪ Don't hold it back ♪
555
00:20:50,917 --> 00:20:54,143
♪ Say so ♪
556
00:20:54,161 --> 00:20:58,147
- Thank you for helping me
cut the plantains earlier.
557
00:20:58,165 --> 00:21:00,258
- Yeah, no doubt. No doubt.
558
00:21:00,485 --> 00:21:02,576
Were you surprised
I helped you cut 'em?
559
00:21:02,595 --> 00:21:03,928
- I was surprised.
560
00:21:04,079 --> 00:21:05,912
You saw me struggling
cutting it.
561
00:21:05,932 --> 00:21:07,339
- Why was you surprised?
562
00:21:07,492 --> 00:21:09,492
- You know, you were a little--
563
00:21:09,510 --> 00:21:13,496
We were both upset
with each other...
564
00:21:13,514 --> 00:21:15,347
from last night
to this morning, right?
565
00:21:15,500 --> 00:21:16,941
- Yeah.
566
00:21:29,772 --> 00:21:32,698
What is the definition
of a wife to you?
567
00:21:32,850 --> 00:21:33,849
I just want to know.
568
00:21:33,942 --> 00:21:36,035
Maybe we have two
different definitions.
569
00:21:36,187 --> 00:21:39,446
♪ ♪
570
00:21:39,465 --> 00:21:42,875
- I mean, it's someone
who's a partner, your partner.
571
00:21:43,027 --> 00:21:44,802
- Yeah.
572
00:21:44,953 --> 00:21:47,212
- You know,
I'm your support system.
573
00:21:47,307 --> 00:21:50,366
But I don't like that question
because I just--
574
00:21:50,384 --> 00:21:56,480
You explained to me
that you wanted me to cook more
575
00:21:56,632 --> 00:21:58,557
and you felt like
I wasn't cooking more
576
00:21:58,709 --> 00:22:02,545
and I wasn't stepping up to
the plate with my work duties.
577
00:22:02,638 --> 00:22:04,396
- No, it is more than that.
578
00:22:04,549 --> 00:22:05,806
It's just more
than that, Katina.
579
00:22:05,825 --> 00:22:08,217
Do you see when--
580
00:22:08,235 --> 00:22:12,071
When we had our house warming?
- Mm.
581
00:22:12,223 --> 00:22:13,331
- Did you see how
at the end of the night
582
00:22:13,558 --> 00:22:17,576
when everybody was leaving
and then I say,
583
00:22:17,728 --> 00:22:20,338
"Hey, do you want to,
like--let's clean up."
584
00:22:20,489 --> 00:22:23,507
[clears throat]
And you say...
585
00:22:23,659 --> 00:22:25,676
"I only wanna clean
half the floor."
586
00:22:25,828 --> 00:22:27,570
Do you feel where I come from?
Seriously.
587
00:22:27,663 --> 00:22:29,738
As an adult
when it's time to clean up
588
00:22:29,832 --> 00:22:31,090
and you see your husband saying,
589
00:22:31,242 --> 00:22:33,592
"Hey, let's clean" --
Because was I not cleaning?
590
00:22:33,744 --> 00:22:35,077
- You--
591
00:22:35,170 --> 00:22:36,428
- Could please not
roll your eyes
592
00:22:36,581 --> 00:22:38,522
because I'm trying
to talk with you
593
00:22:38,749 --> 00:22:40,416
and I'm not
trying to talk at you.
594
00:22:40,509 --> 00:22:41,859
- Okay. Sorry I rolled my eyes.
Okay.
595
00:22:42,086 --> 00:22:43,527
- So when it's time
to clean up, right?
596
00:22:43,679 --> 00:22:45,196
I said, "Hey, let's clean up,"
and I was cleaning
597
00:22:45,347 --> 00:22:48,440
and you said,
"I wanna clean half the floor."
598
00:22:48,593 --> 00:22:50,183
- Mm-hmm.
599
00:22:50,203 --> 00:22:51,702
- And I said,
"Oh, let's clean the floor"
600
00:22:51,854 --> 00:22:54,020
and you made
a little babble about it
601
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,707
so I said, "You know what?
You go to sleep."
602
00:22:56,859 --> 00:22:59,118
Who sat out here and
cleaned the floor for you?
603
00:22:59,270 --> 00:23:01,604
♪ ♪
604
00:23:01,622 --> 00:23:03,789
Where is my other half?
605
00:23:03,941 --> 00:23:06,625
♪ ♪
606
00:23:06,777 --> 00:23:08,386
When I say I want a wife,
607
00:23:08,537 --> 00:23:10,112
I want somebody
who's going to be whole like,
608
00:23:10,131 --> 00:23:11,889
"Hey, my husband is stepping up
609
00:23:12,116 --> 00:23:13,707
"and he wants to clean
this together
610
00:23:13,801 --> 00:23:15,968
"and I'm not gonna let him fall
611
00:23:16,120 --> 00:23:18,303
and go to bed while
he's sitting here cleaning."
612
00:23:18,398 --> 00:23:20,623
♪ ♪
613
00:23:20,641 --> 00:23:23,383
I came to this marriage
for a wife,
614
00:23:23,403 --> 00:23:26,812
not to help somebody
grow as an individual.
615
00:23:26,964 --> 00:23:29,573
You think it's just food
but it's bigger than that.
616
00:23:29,725 --> 00:23:32,743
You are my wife.
I'm not your boyfriend.
617
00:23:32,970 --> 00:23:36,305
I'm not your friend.
I have a ring on my finger.
618
00:23:36,398 --> 00:23:37,915
Understand what this means.
619
00:23:38,142 --> 00:23:39,992
- I hear you. I do.
- Okay. Okay.
620
00:23:40,144 --> 00:23:41,234
♪ ♪
621
00:23:41,254 --> 00:23:42,811
When I envisioned my marriage,
622
00:23:42,830 --> 00:23:45,648
I did expect that obviously,
you know,
623
00:23:45,666 --> 00:23:48,759
every man wants a wife
who's gonna do certain things,
624
00:23:48,911 --> 00:23:51,595
which I am happy
and ready to sign up for.
625
00:23:51,822 --> 00:23:55,658
But I wasn't, I guess,
expecting the fact
626
00:23:55,676 --> 00:23:59,328
that I would not be meeting
someone else's standards.
627
00:23:59,346 --> 00:24:01,087
- When you don't put
that much effort,
628
00:24:01,107 --> 00:24:03,332
that [bleep] bothers me.
629
00:24:03,350 --> 00:24:05,184
- I wasn't expecting this.
630
00:24:05,336 --> 00:24:09,613
♪ ♪
631
00:24:13,786 --> 00:24:16,120
- ♪ You could be the one
to break my resolve ♪
632
00:24:16,271 --> 00:24:16,937
♪ Solve these lonely nights
and fights with myself ♪
633
00:24:17,031 --> 00:24:18,681
♪ Try not to mingle ♪
634
00:24:18,699 --> 00:24:20,624
♪ It's so hard staying
single ♪
635
00:24:20,776 --> 00:24:23,185
- Hey, we had another first.
- Hmm.
636
00:24:23,278 --> 00:24:25,704
- Our first ordered meal.
- Oh. [laughs]
637
00:24:25,856 --> 00:24:28,023
- Our first takeout.
- This is our first takeout.
638
00:24:28,042 --> 00:24:29,692
- I had in my head
that once we moved in,
639
00:24:29,710 --> 00:24:31,117
I was gonna cook at some point.
640
00:24:31,212 --> 00:24:32,303
- Oh.
- At some point.
641
00:24:32,530 --> 00:24:33,954
- Continue, continue.
- [laughs] What?
642
00:24:34,048 --> 00:24:36,289
It just hasn't happened
'cause we keep getting takeout.
643
00:24:36,309 --> 00:24:39,626
- Most often, first comes love
and then comes marriage.
644
00:24:39,645 --> 00:24:42,538
But for our couples who met
at the altar as strangers,
645
00:24:42,556 --> 00:24:44,130
they're still navigating
through a lot
646
00:24:44,150 --> 00:24:45,649
of first experiences together.
647
00:24:45,801 --> 00:24:47,209
- How do you like
your hamburgers?
648
00:24:47,228 --> 00:24:49,061
- Like medium, medium well.
649
00:24:49,213 --> 00:24:50,379
- Okay.
650
00:24:50,397 --> 00:24:52,156
- And love may be
slower to grow.
651
00:24:52,383 --> 00:24:54,641
Love is unlikely to appear
out of thin air.
652
00:24:54,660 --> 00:24:56,385
So if you do romantic things,
653
00:24:56,403 --> 00:24:58,478
if you're open and honest
with your spouse,
654
00:24:58,498 --> 00:25:00,647
then you have the hope
of creating those feelings.
655
00:25:00,666 --> 00:25:02,816
[doorbell rings]
656
00:25:02,910 --> 00:25:04,150
- What's happening?
657
00:25:04,170 --> 00:25:06,228
- What is this? It's a bottle.
658
00:25:06,247 --> 00:25:08,672
- So to help them explore
the potential for love,
659
00:25:08,824 --> 00:25:11,825
we've given them
some deeper topics to discuss.
660
00:25:11,844 --> 00:25:14,419
[up-tempo music]
661
00:25:14,514 --> 00:25:21,477
♪ ♪
662
00:25:23,264 --> 00:25:26,431
[plucky music]
663
00:25:26,526 --> 00:25:30,027
- Okay. [laughs]
664
00:25:30,178 --> 00:25:31,754
- [laughs]
665
00:25:31,772 --> 00:25:33,864
- Have you been in love before?
666
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:39,444
- I have been in love before--
I think once.
667
00:25:39,539 --> 00:25:41,280
♪ ♪
668
00:25:41,432 --> 00:25:43,098
- Okay.
- Have you?
669
00:25:43,117 --> 00:25:45,117
- Yeah, I feel like I've been
in love several times.
670
00:25:45,269 --> 00:25:47,119
- Hmm.
671
00:25:47,213 --> 00:25:49,621
- Yeah. Great.
672
00:25:49,774 --> 00:25:52,107
- Like, how many times?
673
00:25:52,126 --> 00:25:54,443
Just curious.
- I feel like all my--
674
00:25:54,461 --> 00:25:57,537
So I've had five
serious relationships
675
00:25:57,557 --> 00:25:59,281
and I feel like, I don't know,
676
00:25:59,300 --> 00:26:00,632
I feel like I loved
each one of them.
677
00:26:00,785 --> 00:26:02,301
♪ ♪
678
00:26:02,395 --> 00:26:03,952
- Okay.
679
00:26:03,971 --> 00:26:05,470
That was kind of interesting
680
00:26:05,623 --> 00:26:08,065
only because I feel like
he's been kind of hesitant
681
00:26:08,216 --> 00:26:10,568
to even have
that discussion with me.
682
00:26:10,795 --> 00:26:12,218
Whereas, like, I've been
pretty comfortable
683
00:26:12,238 --> 00:26:13,462
in saying that to him.
684
00:26:13,555 --> 00:26:15,406
One of the questions was
"Do you feel like
685
00:26:15,633 --> 00:26:17,724
you're falling
in love with Steve?"
686
00:26:17,743 --> 00:26:20,652
And I said that I feel like
it's slowly happening.
687
00:26:20,746 --> 00:26:22,413
[waves crashing]
688
00:26:27,736 --> 00:26:29,995
- What do you think it takes
for you to fall in love?
689
00:26:30,147 --> 00:26:33,999
- I think really seeing how
that person shows up for me,
690
00:26:34,151 --> 00:26:38,821
like, in times where
I'm having a hard time.
691
00:26:38,914 --> 00:26:41,414
So when things
aren't necessarily fun.
692
00:26:41,434 --> 00:26:44,009
And when I see how my partner
693
00:26:44,161 --> 00:26:45,494
shows up for me
in those moments,
694
00:26:45,512 --> 00:26:48,772
that's really how I know...
695
00:26:48,924 --> 00:26:51,350
I guess, that I love them.
696
00:26:51,502 --> 00:26:53,852
♪ ♪
697
00:26:54,004 --> 00:26:58,023
- For me, I think it's
more about, like...
698
00:26:58,117 --> 00:27:00,951
♪ ♪
699
00:27:01,178 --> 00:27:03,011
Feeling comfortable
expressing it, right?
700
00:27:03,105 --> 00:27:04,179
If I'm at a point
where it's like,
701
00:27:04,198 --> 00:27:06,031
"Oh, I want to say it
or I feel it,"
702
00:27:06,125 --> 00:27:08,684
and I'm close enough
with somebody that, you know,
703
00:27:08,777 --> 00:27:10,127
I have a strong enough
connection
704
00:27:10,354 --> 00:27:11,962
and I feel comfortable
expressing it
705
00:27:12,114 --> 00:27:13,964
then at that point,
I feel like--
706
00:27:14,116 --> 00:27:16,467
I mean, a lot has to happen
to get there for sure.
707
00:27:16,618 --> 00:27:21,380
You know, building trust
and just building a bond.
708
00:27:21,474 --> 00:27:23,974
But I think once I feel it
and I feel like I'm ready
709
00:27:24,126 --> 00:27:26,551
to say it that's when I'm--yeah.
710
00:27:26,704 --> 00:27:27,811
- That when you know?
- That's when I know.
711
00:27:28,038 --> 00:27:30,147
That's what it takes for me.
- Mm-hmm.
712
00:27:31,709 --> 00:27:33,317
- Do you still feel like
it's too soon for you
713
00:27:33,468 --> 00:27:35,635
to talk about those things
or you're not ready
714
00:27:35,729 --> 00:27:37,655
or you're still,
like, not ready?
715
00:27:37,882 --> 00:27:39,398
- I think we're getting closer
for sure.
716
00:27:39,550 --> 00:27:43,402
I think we're uncovering what's
necessary in this marriage.
717
00:27:43,554 --> 00:27:46,221
- No, are you?
I mean, like, I'm comfortable.
718
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:49,074
- Well, when I say "we,"
I mean, I'm included in that.
719
00:27:49,226 --> 00:27:50,409
♪ ♪
720
00:27:50,561 --> 00:27:52,060
- Okay.
[both laugh]
721
00:27:52,154 --> 00:27:53,896
Like, how do you feel though?
722
00:27:53,914 --> 00:27:55,731
That was, like, my question.
723
00:27:55,749 --> 00:27:58,066
- Yeah, I mean,
I guess I'm sort of
724
00:27:58,085 --> 00:27:59,234
saying the same thing here.
725
00:27:59,327 --> 00:28:00,827
Like, we're coming a long way.
726
00:28:00,846 --> 00:28:03,514
[tense music]
727
00:28:03,665 --> 00:28:04,831
- I know I'm at the point
in my life
728
00:28:04,850 --> 00:28:06,833
where I'm just not afraid to--
729
00:28:06,927 --> 00:28:09,687
Like, if I'm feeling...
730
00:28:09,838 --> 00:28:11,689
I'm feeling like
I'm falling in love
731
00:28:11,916 --> 00:28:13,524
or I feel in love,
like, I don't wanna wait
732
00:28:13,675 --> 00:28:15,934
to tell the person that I'm with
733
00:28:16,086 --> 00:28:18,937
how I really feel
because I just feel like--
734
00:28:19,089 --> 00:28:21,940
Like we don't really have time
to waste, especially now.
735
00:28:22,092 --> 00:28:24,776
♪ ♪
736
00:28:24,929 --> 00:28:27,596
It's a little scary
to think about the fact
737
00:28:27,614 --> 00:28:29,856
that he is so nervous
about saying it.
738
00:28:29,875 --> 00:28:32,784
And I don't know why
he's so apprehensive about it
739
00:28:32,878 --> 00:28:36,196
because it seems like
he has been comfortable
740
00:28:36,215 --> 00:28:38,457
saying that to other people.
741
00:28:38,551 --> 00:28:41,034
And I'm hoping that he will
say it sooner than later
742
00:28:41,128 --> 00:28:45,055
'cause I'm just concerned that
if he keeps putting it off,
743
00:28:45,282 --> 00:28:47,707
that, you know, he might start
actually doubting
744
00:28:47,727 --> 00:28:49,451
if he feels that way.
745
00:28:49,470 --> 00:28:52,304
We've already made
the big commitment
746
00:28:52,398 --> 00:28:54,231
to each other, right?
747
00:28:55,809 --> 00:28:57,717
- Yeah, we got married.
748
00:28:57,737 --> 00:28:59,385
It's a pretty big commitment.
749
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,146
- So, like, what are we--
750
00:29:01,298 --> 00:29:03,648
- There was a lot that needed
to happen after that as well.
751
00:29:03,801 --> 00:29:05,968
I mean, we're already watching
one couple get a divorce.
752
00:29:05,986 --> 00:29:07,911
Like, we need--
753
00:29:08,063 --> 00:29:09,805
Like, just because
we're married,
754
00:29:09,898 --> 00:29:11,656
it doesn't mean it's gonna work.
755
00:29:11,751 --> 00:29:12,975
We have to make it work.
756
00:29:13,068 --> 00:29:14,585
We have to take the active steps
757
00:29:14,736 --> 00:29:16,569
and put in the work
to make it work.
758
00:29:16,663 --> 00:29:19,089
And we have to want to do that.
759
00:29:19,316 --> 00:29:22,092
So yes, we got married
but that only goes so far.
760
00:29:22,244 --> 00:29:24,094
It's a big step.
It's an important one for sure,
761
00:29:24,321 --> 00:29:26,655
but everything else
that happens in between that
762
00:29:26,673 --> 00:29:28,824
is really what is
the most important.
763
00:29:28,842 --> 00:29:31,843
[tense music]
764
00:29:31,996 --> 00:29:35,847
♪ ♪
765
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,017
[emotional music]
766
00:29:39,111 --> 00:29:42,354
- What do you think it takes
for you to fall in love?
767
00:29:42,448 --> 00:29:46,358
♪ ♪
768
00:29:46,510 --> 00:29:48,285
- Devotion.
769
00:29:48,512 --> 00:29:51,863
Just a commitment
or straight loyalty.
770
00:29:51,957 --> 00:29:53,624
♪ ♪
771
00:29:53,775 --> 00:29:55,793
That's what it takes
to fall in love.
772
00:29:55,944 --> 00:30:00,446
- For me, I would say someone
who supports me
773
00:30:00,466 --> 00:30:04,693
and someone who's loyal,
774
00:30:04,786 --> 00:30:07,379
understanding, who's patient.
775
00:30:07,473 --> 00:30:11,383
And I'm big on, like,
the person that I'm with
776
00:30:11,535 --> 00:30:13,126
I want them to be
my best friend.
777
00:30:13,145 --> 00:30:16,555
Like, he's the first person
I dial for, like, everything.
778
00:30:16,707 --> 00:30:18,557
Nobody else.
779
00:30:18,709 --> 00:30:21,485
♪ ♪
780
00:30:21,712 --> 00:30:25,656
I do see the potential of me
falling in love,
781
00:30:25,807 --> 00:30:28,492
but I would say that we need to
782
00:30:28,719 --> 00:30:31,311
still focus on this
emotional connection.
783
00:30:31,330 --> 00:30:34,573
I don't want to...
784
00:30:34,725 --> 00:30:37,225
end up hurt.
785
00:30:37,244 --> 00:30:40,896
And I don't want to be
so vulnerable
786
00:30:40,989 --> 00:30:43,748
that I ended up feeling like--
787
00:30:43,901 --> 00:30:46,009
Making myself feel stupid,
like, internally.
788
00:30:46,236 --> 00:30:49,179
Like, "You should have been
smarter than that."
789
00:30:49,331 --> 00:30:52,424
I actually am more guarded
than how I come off.
790
00:30:52,518 --> 00:30:54,685
- Oh, I know you are.
791
00:30:54,836 --> 00:30:56,595
Because you have no--
You're not--
792
00:30:56,747 --> 00:30:58,597
Because you don't cry.
- [laughs]
793
00:30:58,691 --> 00:31:01,083
I do cry, but--
794
00:31:01,176 --> 00:31:02,359
- When?
- No, I'm saying--
795
00:31:02,510 --> 00:31:03,418
- You didn't cry at the wedding.
796
00:31:03,511 --> 00:31:04,528
You didn't cry at the honeymoon.
797
00:31:04,755 --> 00:31:06,755
You leaned back.
Your eyes was dry. When?
798
00:31:06,773 --> 00:31:08,607
How much higher can I get?
- [laughs]
799
00:31:08,759 --> 00:31:11,201
I do cry but I do it in private.
800
00:31:11,353 --> 00:31:12,444
- [laughs]
801
00:31:12,538 --> 00:31:14,037
- I do. Like, you will--
802
00:31:14,189 --> 00:31:15,780
Like, so my ex-boyfriend, right?
803
00:31:15,933 --> 00:31:17,599
I used to cry all the time,
all the time,
804
00:31:17,692 --> 00:31:19,209
but it got to the point
where he was--
805
00:31:19,436 --> 00:31:21,786
He was, like, verbally abusive
towards me.
806
00:31:21,939 --> 00:31:24,272
[emotional music]
807
00:31:24,366 --> 00:31:26,717
And when I would cry,
he would be like,
808
00:31:26,868 --> 00:31:28,944
"Oh, like you weak..."
and, like, stuff.
809
00:31:28,962 --> 00:31:30,295
And like, I just told myself
810
00:31:30,389 --> 00:31:33,465
I would never cry
these same tears ever again.
811
00:31:33,617 --> 00:31:35,117
And ever since
that relationship,
812
00:31:35,210 --> 00:31:38,896
I just--I don't--
I just don't cry.
813
00:31:39,047 --> 00:31:40,880
I just trained myself
not to cry.
814
00:31:40,974 --> 00:31:42,882
I don't know. I just am--
815
00:31:42,902 --> 00:31:45,143
I guess I'm just kinda numb
a little bit.
816
00:31:45,295 --> 00:31:47,812
That's being honest with you.
I'm just numb.
817
00:31:47,965 --> 00:31:49,147
♪ ♪
818
00:31:49,299 --> 00:31:51,299
- Don't let anybody
dictate your future
819
00:31:51,318 --> 00:31:54,578
or how you react
to certain situations.
820
00:31:54,729 --> 00:31:57,322
It's okay to cry.
It is a human emotion.
821
00:31:57,474 --> 00:32:00,659
If you don't cry,
you're not human.
822
00:32:00,753 --> 00:32:02,402
Everybody cries.
823
00:32:02,421 --> 00:32:05,830
Hearing my wife say that
she trained herself not to cry
824
00:32:05,983 --> 00:32:07,165
says a lot.
825
00:32:07,259 --> 00:32:09,501
One, that she's a strong,
independent person,
826
00:32:09,653 --> 00:32:12,504
but two, it tells me that also
she's sheltered
827
00:32:12,656 --> 00:32:17,509
and that could stop us
expanding in our marriage.
828
00:32:17,661 --> 00:32:20,395
- Do you think you are
beginning to fall in love?
829
00:32:24,443 --> 00:32:25,943
- I'll let you go first.
830
00:32:27,613 --> 00:32:30,763
[sentimental music]
831
00:32:30,783 --> 00:32:32,765
- I see the potential
that you are someone
832
00:32:32,785 --> 00:32:33,951
that I could fall in love with
833
00:32:34,178 --> 00:32:35,510
but I like you--
- That's cool, baby.
834
00:32:35,529 --> 00:32:36,620
You're falling in love.
835
00:32:36,847 --> 00:32:38,363
I heard it. I heard it.
I heard it.
836
00:32:38,515 --> 00:32:40,348
[laughs]
837
00:32:40,442 --> 00:32:42,033
- No, no.
That's not what I said.
838
00:32:42,186 --> 00:32:43,868
- I said there is potential...
- I don't know. It's close.
839
00:32:44,021 --> 00:32:45,854
- That it could happen.
- Oh, you was close.
840
00:32:45,872 --> 00:32:47,613
I thought you was about to say
"love you."
841
00:32:47,633 --> 00:32:48,966
Whoa. Whoa.
- Mm-mm.
842
00:32:49,117 --> 00:32:50,525
- [laughs]
843
00:32:50,618 --> 00:32:51,543
- I ain't trying
to scare you away.
844
00:32:51,695 --> 00:32:53,303
♪ ♪
845
00:32:53,530 --> 00:32:55,213
[laughs]
846
00:32:55,365 --> 00:32:58,033
♪ ♪
847
00:32:58,051 --> 00:32:59,551
What about you?
848
00:32:59,703 --> 00:33:06,558
♪ ♪
849
00:33:06,710 --> 00:33:09,561
- I say I like you.
I definitely like you.
850
00:33:09,713 --> 00:33:11,947
Falling in love
is such a strong word to me.
851
00:33:13,884 --> 00:33:14,974
- Mm-hmm.
852
00:33:15,068 --> 00:33:16,551
- I'm not gonna say that.
853
00:33:16,570 --> 00:33:18,996
[dramatic music]
854
00:33:19,147 --> 00:33:21,906
So no, love is not
on the table for me.
855
00:33:22,059 --> 00:33:26,228
♪ ♪
856
00:33:26,321 --> 00:33:28,154
- Mm-hmm.
- And that's not a bad thing.
857
00:33:28,173 --> 00:33:30,749
You're your own person.
I'm my own person.
858
00:33:30,901 --> 00:33:33,084
But I definitely like you.
I definitely like you.
859
00:33:33,237 --> 00:33:34,085
There's nothing wrong with that.
860
00:33:34,179 --> 00:33:35,661
- Mm-hmm.
861
00:33:35,681 --> 00:33:36,921
- I don't fall in love easily.
862
00:33:37,074 --> 00:33:38,406
I don't know
enough about my wife
863
00:33:38,425 --> 00:33:39,683
to even say the word love.
864
00:33:41,928 --> 00:33:45,747
The connection has to grow.
Standards have to be met.
865
00:33:45,766 --> 00:33:48,266
And we apply what we hear.
866
00:33:48,418 --> 00:33:51,511
What the other one said
that affects them.
867
00:33:51,530 --> 00:33:52,771
I can't get over that.
868
00:33:52,865 --> 00:33:54,256
Like, that has to be--
869
00:33:54,274 --> 00:33:56,441
That's, like,
literally has to be done
870
00:33:56,593 --> 00:33:59,778
for any type of love
of any of that to grow.
871
00:33:59,930 --> 00:34:04,708
♪ ♪
872
00:34:06,436 --> 00:34:08,770
- I think what will
probably help you
873
00:34:08,863 --> 00:34:11,864
is if I express myself more,
874
00:34:11,884 --> 00:34:13,383
I think.
- Yeah.
875
00:34:13,610 --> 00:34:16,219
- If I'm less guarded with you.
- Mm-hmm.
876
00:34:16,371 --> 00:34:20,799
- And you know, also coming
to the table with,
877
00:34:20,893 --> 00:34:22,875
you know, these meals
878
00:34:22,969 --> 00:34:25,637
and, you know, the cleaning
and everything just showing you
879
00:34:25,789 --> 00:34:29,474
that I'm taking this role
as a wife seriously.
880
00:34:29,568 --> 00:34:31,309
♪ ♪
881
00:34:31,461 --> 00:34:34,053
- I have to see it
to believe it.
882
00:34:34,073 --> 00:34:37,390
I heard so many people,
many women say things to me
883
00:34:37,409 --> 00:34:40,468
and don't even take a step
forward to what they say.
884
00:34:40,562 --> 00:34:43,896
So I hope you take it serious.
885
00:34:43,990 --> 00:34:45,824
I just gotta see it.
886
00:34:45,976 --> 00:34:49,160
♪ ♪
887
00:34:49,313 --> 00:34:50,995
- I got you.
888
00:34:51,148 --> 00:34:52,497
- I hope so.
889
00:34:52,649 --> 00:34:52,756
♪ ♪
890
00:34:56,762 --> 00:34:57,669
[upbeat music]
891
00:34:57,821 --> 00:35:00,672
♪ ♪
892
00:35:00,824 --> 00:35:02,340
- How was your day?
893
00:35:02,492 --> 00:35:03,825
♪ ♪
894
00:35:03,844 --> 00:35:05,918
- [clears throat]
895
00:35:05,938 --> 00:35:07,495
I didn't tell you.
896
00:35:07,589 --> 00:35:09,755
Today's actually the anniversary
897
00:35:09,775 --> 00:35:12,258
of my brother's passing.
898
00:35:12,277 --> 00:35:13,685
- Oh.
- Yeah.
899
00:35:13,837 --> 00:35:16,688
[emotional music]
900
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:18,115
♪ ♪
901
00:35:18,266 --> 00:35:20,859
So I went by the cemetery,
showed my respects.
902
00:35:21,011 --> 00:35:22,694
- I'm sorry.
I didn't know that.
903
00:35:22,846 --> 00:35:23,954
- Yeah.
904
00:35:24,181 --> 00:35:26,348
It's okay.
- How long has it been?
905
00:35:26,366 --> 00:35:28,850
- It's been a minute. '99, '98.
906
00:35:28,943 --> 00:35:30,852
- Did you go by yourself?
- Yeah.
907
00:35:30,871 --> 00:35:32,612
- I wish I would have known.
908
00:35:32,631 --> 00:35:35,023
- Yeah. You was at work.
909
00:35:35,041 --> 00:35:38,543
- Mike and I, we haven't really
been speaking much in the house
910
00:35:38,695 --> 00:35:40,362
since the picnic.
911
00:35:40,380 --> 00:35:42,864
It's just,
"Hey, how was your day?"
912
00:35:42,883 --> 00:35:44,366
You know, type of conversations.
913
00:35:44,384 --> 00:35:45,884
So I love the fact that
914
00:35:45,978 --> 00:35:48,311
he just opened up to me
about his brother.
915
00:35:48,463 --> 00:35:50,372
So that makes me feel
a little bit better
916
00:35:50,390 --> 00:35:52,816
and connected to Michael.
917
00:35:52,967 --> 00:35:54,225
What's the first question?
918
00:35:54,319 --> 00:35:55,877
♪ ♪
919
00:35:55,896 --> 00:35:57,729
- "Have you been in love
before?"
920
00:35:57,881 --> 00:35:59,063
♪ ♪
921
00:35:59,158 --> 00:36:03,994
- Yes. I would say...
922
00:36:04,221 --> 00:36:06,237
three times.
923
00:36:06,331 --> 00:36:07,664
Three and a possible.
924
00:36:07,891 --> 00:36:10,909
[both laugh]
925
00:36:11,061 --> 00:36:13,395
- What about those relationships
926
00:36:13,413 --> 00:36:16,155
made you feel like it was love?
927
00:36:16,249 --> 00:36:18,750
- They just always just made me
feel good about myself
928
00:36:18,902 --> 00:36:20,993
and always treated me right
and with respect
929
00:36:21,013 --> 00:36:23,922
and we had a friendship first.
930
00:36:24,074 --> 00:36:27,333
And I just knew it 'cause
I would just be so giddy.
931
00:36:27,352 --> 00:36:29,001
[laughs]
932
00:36:29,021 --> 00:36:32,522
So what about you?
933
00:36:32,674 --> 00:36:36,084
- I'ma say one and a possible.
- [laughs] Okay.
934
00:36:36,102 --> 00:36:38,603
- My possible
is, like, high school.
935
00:36:38,755 --> 00:36:40,030
Like, at that age, you don't
even have an understanding.
936
00:36:40,181 --> 00:36:41,531
Well, I didn't have
an understanding
937
00:36:41,683 --> 00:36:43,349
of what love really meant.
938
00:36:43,368 --> 00:36:44,926
So that's my possible.
939
00:36:44,945 --> 00:36:47,445
My other love, I would say
other person I was in love
940
00:36:47,597 --> 00:36:49,447
was my last relationship.
941
00:36:49,599 --> 00:36:51,023
- How did you know
you was in love?
942
00:36:51,043 --> 00:36:53,543
- So I think because we had
a foundation of friendship
943
00:36:53,770 --> 00:36:56,213
kinda how you said.
It's like I knew her.
944
00:36:56,364 --> 00:36:58,106
I knew her triggers.
I knew her past.
945
00:36:58,124 --> 00:37:01,776
She knew my past so we really
understood each other.
946
00:37:01,795 --> 00:37:03,611
And I think that's what began,
like,
947
00:37:03,630 --> 00:37:05,947
the foundation of us
being able to have,
948
00:37:05,966 --> 00:37:07,298
you know, certain conversations
949
00:37:07,451 --> 00:37:09,801
and me being able
to be vulnerable.
950
00:37:09,953 --> 00:37:11,453
♪ ♪
951
00:37:11,546 --> 00:37:13,897
And it just grew from there.
952
00:37:14,048 --> 00:37:15,473
- Yeah. Same.
- Yeah.
953
00:37:15,625 --> 00:37:17,234
♪ ♪
954
00:37:17,385 --> 00:37:19,218
- What do you think
it takes for you
955
00:37:19,238 --> 00:37:21,721
to fall in love with someone?
956
00:37:21,740 --> 00:37:24,466
- I have to be--
957
00:37:24,484 --> 00:37:25,984
Be able to be vulnerable
with somebody.
958
00:37:26,136 --> 00:37:27,485
- Mm-hmm.
959
00:37:27,579 --> 00:37:29,471
- I would say for me,
it's never super-super easy
960
00:37:29,564 --> 00:37:31,473
for me to be vulnerable
with somebody
961
00:37:31,491 --> 00:37:33,583
'cause, you know, as a man,
962
00:37:33,810 --> 00:37:35,418
when you're vulnerable
with somebody,
963
00:37:35,570 --> 00:37:38,571
it can make you feel,
like, weak.
964
00:37:38,665 --> 00:37:42,667
So being able to have that
comfortability with somebody
965
00:37:42,761 --> 00:37:46,763
to where I'm not afraid to be
vulnerable it's I would say
966
00:37:46,990 --> 00:37:50,267
what propels me to fall
in love with that person.
967
00:37:50,494 --> 00:37:52,769
- Would you say
you're vulnerable?
968
00:37:54,606 --> 00:37:55,997
Right now.
969
00:37:56,016 --> 00:37:58,090
- I don't think
we've had conversations
970
00:37:58,110 --> 00:37:59,592
that would show that.
971
00:37:59,611 --> 00:38:02,428
[tense music]
972
00:38:02,447 --> 00:38:04,672
- But what's stopping us
from having those conversations
973
00:38:04,691 --> 00:38:06,766
or what's stopping you
from bringing up conversations
974
00:38:06,785 --> 00:38:09,268
to be open, to be vulnerable,
975
00:38:09,288 --> 00:38:10,678
to be comfortable?
- Mm-hmm.
976
00:38:10,772 --> 00:38:13,623
Um, I went into this saying
977
00:38:13,775 --> 00:38:15,366
that I'm gonna be vulnerable
day one.
978
00:38:15,519 --> 00:38:16,534
- Okay.
979
00:38:16,686 --> 00:38:19,111
- So this is new territory
for me
980
00:38:19,131 --> 00:38:20,797
'cause I would have--
I've never done that
981
00:38:20,948 --> 00:38:24,709
to where I'm making a decision
to be vulnerable
982
00:38:24,861 --> 00:38:30,198
before I even am 100%
comfortable with a person.
983
00:38:30,291 --> 00:38:33,034
I have to make the decision
for myself
984
00:38:33,053 --> 00:38:34,886
that I'm going to be
vulnerable day one.
985
00:38:34,980 --> 00:38:40,299
- I'm hearing him but sometimes
it's hard for me
986
00:38:40,319 --> 00:38:43,469
to believe him
when he says certain things
987
00:38:43,563 --> 00:38:46,548
because it's like if that's the
promise you made to yourself
988
00:38:46,566 --> 00:38:49,384
then why haven't you taken
those steps to be open
989
00:38:49,402 --> 00:38:51,569
or be, you know, vulnerable?
990
00:38:51,721 --> 00:38:53,071
♪ ♪
991
00:38:53,165 --> 00:38:54,889
- [clears throat]
992
00:38:54,908 --> 00:38:56,649
- ♪ I just wanna do something
that I ain't never did ♪
993
00:38:56,743 --> 00:38:57,834
♪ I just wanna ♪
994
00:38:59,504 --> 00:39:02,080
[dynamic music]
995
00:39:02,232 --> 00:39:03,173
♪ ♪
996
00:39:03,324 --> 00:39:05,249
♪ I'll make it rain ♪
997
00:39:05,344 --> 00:39:07,993
♪ ♪
998
00:39:08,013 --> 00:39:10,088
- Is it too well done? Your--
999
00:39:10,240 --> 00:39:11,923
♪ ♪
1000
00:39:12,075 --> 00:39:14,092
- Yes, but I'm still very
grateful that you cooked.
1001
00:39:14,244 --> 00:39:15,352
- It's too chewy?
- And I enjoy it.
1002
00:39:15,503 --> 00:39:17,020
- Is it too chewy?
- It's like leather
1003
00:39:17,171 --> 00:39:20,523
but I am still very
grateful you--
1004
00:39:20,675 --> 00:39:22,767
[clears throat] Hold on.
- [chuckles]
1005
00:39:22,919 --> 00:39:24,694
♪ ♪
1006
00:39:24,846 --> 00:39:26,846
- I still appreciate
that you cooked.
1007
00:39:26,865 --> 00:39:29,257
- Today, things are going
pretty good.
1008
00:39:29,350 --> 00:39:33,277
It's been a really rough
couple days,
1009
00:39:33,430 --> 00:39:36,280
but I think we had
a breakthrough moment.
1010
00:39:36,375 --> 00:39:39,450
I was able to communicate
things I think are going on
1011
00:39:39,603 --> 00:39:41,711
with Lindsey and I wanted
to talk about it
1012
00:39:41,938 --> 00:39:43,454
so that she knows
I understand her.
1013
00:39:43,607 --> 00:39:45,607
So I think if she knows
I understand her,
1014
00:39:45,625 --> 00:39:47,050
we can communicate differently
1015
00:39:47,201 --> 00:39:49,460
to be able to have better days.
1016
00:39:49,613 --> 00:39:51,554
So I'm trying to be optimistic
and positive.
1017
00:39:51,781 --> 00:39:54,206
All you can do
is just stay present.
1018
00:39:54,226 --> 00:39:56,300
- Have you been in love?
1019
00:39:56,453 --> 00:39:57,969
- Yeah.
- Yeah?
1020
00:39:58,121 --> 00:39:59,804
- Mm-hmm.
1021
00:39:59,956 --> 00:40:02,473
I had different
versions of love.
1022
00:40:02,626 --> 00:40:05,476
Like, my high school
sweetheart, young love.
1023
00:40:05,570 --> 00:40:07,629
♪ ♪
1024
00:40:07,647 --> 00:40:10,648
And then I had, like,
my relationship that was like
1025
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:13,410
my transition into adulthood
where we went from living--
1026
00:40:13,637 --> 00:40:16,137
Like, being in college
to living together.
1027
00:40:16,156 --> 00:40:18,473
- Did you think either of them
you were gonna marry?
1028
00:40:18,566 --> 00:40:20,475
- The one I moved
to New York for, yeah.
1029
00:40:20,493 --> 00:40:24,904
He was super, like,
tuned-in and caring
1030
00:40:24,923 --> 00:40:26,906
and I think I was going through
so much with my family
1031
00:40:26,925 --> 00:40:29,333
and he was really supportive.
1032
00:40:29,486 --> 00:40:30,409
- Yeah.
1033
00:40:30,429 --> 00:40:33,504
- But that... changed.
1034
00:40:33,598 --> 00:40:35,098
- It's tough to have
this conversation with Lindsey
1035
00:40:35,249 --> 00:40:36,507
only because I think
out the gate,
1036
00:40:36,601 --> 00:40:39,827
she was, like, all in,
"I'm in love. I want love."
1037
00:40:39,846 --> 00:40:41,345
And I was, like,
learning Lindsey.
1038
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:44,423
I think it's just making her
be way extra cautious
1039
00:40:44,517 --> 00:40:46,109
to take that leap.
1040
00:40:46,260 --> 00:40:47,444
But I think even
if she did take that leap
1041
00:40:47,595 --> 00:40:48,761
and I said I was ready,
she would have
1042
00:40:48,855 --> 00:40:50,505
some guards up still.
1043
00:40:50,523 --> 00:40:52,765
So I just don't know
if I do get there
1044
00:40:52,784 --> 00:40:55,285
how she will be at that point.
1045
00:40:55,436 --> 00:40:57,028
- You didn't answer it.
- Have I been in love?
1046
00:40:57,180 --> 00:40:58,513
- Mm-hmm.
- I have.
1047
00:40:58,531 --> 00:41:00,014
Typically what will happen
1048
00:41:00,033 --> 00:41:01,849
is if someone was coming
into the picture
1049
00:41:01,943 --> 00:41:04,869
and they're not--
They don't excite me,
1050
00:41:05,021 --> 00:41:07,112
I'll still--
I'll be reminded of that person
1051
00:41:07,132 --> 00:41:08,465
that I felt that feelings for
1052
00:41:08,616 --> 00:41:10,967
and it'll kinda, like,
not rejuvenate but, like,
1053
00:41:11,118 --> 00:41:14,378
make me, like,
try to get 'em back
1054
00:41:14,473 --> 00:41:17,307
'cause the next person
that came in couldn't do it.
1055
00:41:17,458 --> 00:41:19,124
The last person is still--
1056
00:41:19,144 --> 00:41:21,978
I still held on to, like,
feelings for them.
1057
00:41:22,129 --> 00:41:24,555
- That's concerning to me
in the sense that, like,
1058
00:41:24,649 --> 00:41:27,208
you never really just
move on from something.
1059
00:41:27,227 --> 00:41:28,985
- No, I--
- Move forward.
1060
00:41:29,136 --> 00:41:31,988
- I would never, like,
go back to somebody else.
1061
00:41:32,215 --> 00:41:33,305
- But I think the way
I looked at it
1062
00:41:33,399 --> 00:41:34,899
is like, let's say for example,
1063
00:41:35,051 --> 00:41:36,642
you had a boyfriend
and it didn't work out.
1064
00:41:36,661 --> 00:41:38,143
You met someone else.
1065
00:41:38,163 --> 00:41:39,996
You realize, "Damn, that
last guy was actually great
1066
00:41:40,147 --> 00:41:41,814
"because this is not
what I wanted.
1067
00:41:41,833 --> 00:41:43,482
I had something really good."
1068
00:41:43,502 --> 00:41:46,002
- I would think, "Wow, they had
a lot of great stuff.
1069
00:41:46,153 --> 00:41:48,229
"It wasn't the right person
at the right time.
1070
00:41:48,322 --> 00:41:49,655
"Now I know what I liked in them
1071
00:41:49,674 --> 00:41:50,840
"and what I don't like in them
1072
00:41:50,992 --> 00:41:52,066
"and what I liked
in this person.
1073
00:41:52,159 --> 00:41:53,901
I gotta go find the right one."
- Mm.
1074
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,572
I would never go back
and recycle men.
1075
00:41:57,665 --> 00:41:59,073
Usually once I make the decision
1076
00:41:59,092 --> 00:42:03,261
that somebody is... wrong,
1077
00:42:03,355 --> 00:42:05,263
I know they're wrong.
1078
00:42:05,415 --> 00:42:07,431
If it didn't work out once,
why would it work out twice?
1079
00:42:07,526 --> 00:42:08,933
♪ ♪
1080
00:42:09,085 --> 00:42:11,769
Obviously, it didn't work out
for a reason.
1081
00:42:11,921 --> 00:42:14,589
Sounds to me like he dates
other people who are worse
1082
00:42:14,682 --> 00:42:16,090
and so he wants to go back
to something
1083
00:42:16,183 --> 00:42:17,925
that was comfortable
and routine.
1084
00:42:18,019 --> 00:42:20,111
And his version of love
is settling
1085
00:42:20,263 --> 00:42:23,598
for the good
versus enjoying the moment.
1086
00:42:23,616 --> 00:42:25,600
Like, for Mark to feel love,
1087
00:42:25,618 --> 00:42:28,619
it's only after somebody
pushes him away.
1088
00:42:28,713 --> 00:42:30,454
You also told me
1089
00:42:30,549 --> 00:42:32,774
that it takes you a long time
to fall for somebody.
1090
00:42:32,792 --> 00:42:34,292
- It can, yeah.
1091
00:42:34,386 --> 00:42:36,869
- What do you think it takes
for you to fall in love?
1092
00:42:36,888 --> 00:42:39,055
- Time.
- Mm.
1093
00:42:39,206 --> 00:42:42,617
- If it's not like,
out the gate,
1094
00:42:42,635 --> 00:42:45,520
then it takes time
building a foundation.
1095
00:42:46,731 --> 00:42:48,731
Patience and time.
1096
00:42:48,883 --> 00:42:51,125
How about you?
1097
00:42:51,144 --> 00:42:53,477
- For me to fall in love
with somebody,
1098
00:42:53,630 --> 00:42:57,740
they need to be present and
consistent and show they care.
1099
00:42:57,967 --> 00:43:04,563
And so I think for me
to fall in love...
1100
00:43:04,583 --> 00:43:08,326
I want, like, somebody
who's consistently present,
1101
00:43:08,478 --> 00:43:10,920
who doesn't withdraw,
who doesn't walk away,
1102
00:43:11,072 --> 00:43:15,091
who doesn't abandon a moment
and shy from conflict.
1103
00:43:15,242 --> 00:43:18,669
Somebody who's always going to
show up and stand up, you know?
1104
00:43:18,822 --> 00:43:20,930
♪ ♪
1105
00:43:21,082 --> 00:43:23,157
And I think when I don't
get that from partners,
1106
00:43:23,176 --> 00:43:26,010
I'm very quickly checked out.
- I bet.
1107
00:43:26,162 --> 00:43:30,181
I'm trying hard to not think
about the first 2 1/2 weeks
1108
00:43:30,333 --> 00:43:34,001
and how I felt in this process
with Lindsey
1109
00:43:34,020 --> 00:43:36,337
because I feel like
if I think about that too much,
1110
00:43:36,430 --> 00:43:38,356
it will constantly be a negative
1111
00:43:38,508 --> 00:43:41,342
because she was here
and I wasn't there yet.
1112
00:43:41,361 --> 00:43:43,769
And I think if I
just think about that,
1113
00:43:43,863 --> 00:43:45,955
then I'll just keep on thinking
I'll never get there.
1114
00:43:46,182 --> 00:43:48,866
So I'm trying to be optimistic
and positive
1115
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:51,961
that there's a possibility
that I can develop things
1116
00:43:52,113 --> 00:43:53,946
if we're on
the same communication
1117
00:43:53,965 --> 00:43:56,799
and try to stay in the present
and get out of the past.
1118
00:43:56,951 --> 00:43:59,135
- Do you think you're beginning
to fall in love?
1119
00:44:01,197 --> 00:44:03,806
- I think there's a possibility
for it to happen.
1120
00:44:04,033 --> 00:44:05,642
I think it needs more time
to develop
1121
00:44:05,869 --> 00:44:08,978
for me to say that
that is a possibility.
1122
00:44:09,205 --> 00:44:10,938
You?
1123
00:44:13,985 --> 00:44:15,943
- Uh...
1124
00:44:17,547 --> 00:44:19,972
I think if you had asked me
that a week--two weeks ago,
1125
00:44:19,991 --> 00:44:22,049
I would have said yes.
1126
00:44:22,068 --> 00:44:24,810
But I think the last, like,
11 days
1127
00:44:24,829 --> 00:44:26,570
has been really tough for me.
1128
00:44:26,723 --> 00:44:29,148
We've also been having
these great movements
1129
00:44:29,167 --> 00:44:32,168
and moving forward and then...
1130
00:44:32,319 --> 00:44:34,228
you pull all the way
back and out.
1131
00:44:34,321 --> 00:44:36,247
And I'm definitely not
there with you.
1132
00:44:36,341 --> 00:44:37,748
- Mm-hmm.
1133
00:44:37,842 --> 00:44:40,159
[tense music]
1134
00:44:40,253 --> 00:44:42,327
It's not that I can't be there,
1135
00:44:42,347 --> 00:44:46,015
but I think I would need
to see you make time for me
1136
00:44:46,167 --> 00:44:48,592
and choose
to make me a priority.
1137
00:44:48,687 --> 00:44:52,838
In my vows I said I'm always
gonna consider you first
1138
00:44:52,857 --> 00:44:54,598
because I respect you.
1139
00:44:54,751 --> 00:44:57,527
And...
1140
00:44:57,678 --> 00:45:00,697
I haven't really gotten
any of that from you.
1141
00:45:00,924 --> 00:45:02,757
- ♪ Who do you think
that you are? ♪
1142
00:45:02,775 --> 00:45:04,659
♪ You're not the only one ♪
1143
00:45:08,856 --> 00:45:11,432
- ♪ Snap a pic if you're
looking so fine ♪
1144
00:45:11,451 --> 00:45:12,542
♪ Go out if you're
feeling all right ♪
1145
00:45:12,769 --> 00:45:13,768
♪ Take the night
with your friends ♪
1146
00:45:13,861 --> 00:45:15,102
♪ Leave your man on read ♪
1147
00:45:15,121 --> 00:45:16,287
- This is cute.
1148
00:45:16,439 --> 00:45:18,197
They got some cheese for us.
1149
00:45:18,291 --> 00:45:19,774
- Champagne for the pain.
1150
00:45:19,792 --> 00:45:21,792
[both laugh]
1151
00:45:21,945 --> 00:45:22,885
- It's good to see you guys.
1152
00:45:23,037 --> 00:45:24,445
- You too.
Ready for some archery?
1153
00:45:24,538 --> 00:45:26,113
- Show you my precision game.
1154
00:45:26,132 --> 00:45:27,465
- Yeah.
1155
00:45:27,617 --> 00:45:28,558
- I can't wait.
It should be a good time.
1156
00:45:28,785 --> 00:45:29,708
I haven't done this
in a long time.
1157
00:45:29,728 --> 00:45:31,469
Try it out for me.
1158
00:45:31,621 --> 00:45:33,137
So can't wait to hang out
with the boys
1159
00:45:33,289 --> 00:45:34,622
and have a good, good night.
1160
00:45:34,640 --> 00:45:35,732
- You guys ready to get on it?
- Let's do it.
1161
00:45:35,959 --> 00:45:37,458
- All right.
1162
00:45:37,551 --> 00:45:40,144
[rhythmic electronic music]
1163
00:45:40,296 --> 00:45:43,981
♪ ♪
1164
00:45:44,075 --> 00:45:45,891
- Hello there.
1165
00:45:45,910 --> 00:45:48,803
I'm in a car on the way
to a little girl's gathering.
1166
00:45:48,821 --> 00:45:50,229
♪ ♪
1167
00:45:50,248 --> 00:45:52,707
We're gonna go...
1168
00:45:56,996 --> 00:46:00,164
[laughs]
That's fear laugh.
1169
00:46:00,316 --> 00:46:02,483
♪ ♪
1170
00:46:02,576 --> 00:46:04,743
- Do you talk to anybody else
really?
1171
00:46:04,763 --> 00:46:07,430
- Noi will, like, DM me.
- Yeah.
1172
00:46:09,492 --> 00:46:10,674
- Yeah.
1173
00:46:10,827 --> 00:46:12,101
I don't have any issues
with Lindsey.
1174
00:46:12,328 --> 00:46:15,087
I came into this knowing that,
you know,
1175
00:46:15,181 --> 00:46:18,924
"Katina, you can't let
somebody control your emotions
1176
00:46:19,018 --> 00:46:20,668
or your actions."
1177
00:46:20,686 --> 00:46:22,837
- Hello. Oh, gosh.
- Hello.
1178
00:46:22,855 --> 00:46:25,097
- So be who you really are.
1179
00:46:25,116 --> 00:46:28,843
Be that kind of woman that
you are in your heart and soul
1180
00:46:28,861 --> 00:46:32,196
and override your triggers.
1181
00:46:32,290 --> 00:46:35,107
So I'm excited to get up
with the other girls
1182
00:46:35,126 --> 00:46:36,851
and just see how they're doing.
1183
00:46:36,944 --> 00:46:39,020
How's everybody getting along
1184
00:46:39,038 --> 00:46:42,632
with being in the real world
with your husbands?
1185
00:46:42,859 --> 00:46:44,191
- Yeah.
And I think it's just, like,
1186
00:46:44,210 --> 00:46:45,635
getting used to each other.
1187
00:46:45,786 --> 00:46:49,380
I mean, as much fun as we had,
like, on our honeymoon,
1188
00:46:49,532 --> 00:46:51,123
I think now it's just like,
1189
00:46:51,142 --> 00:46:53,534
"Okay,
I'm with this person 24/7."
1190
00:46:53,553 --> 00:46:56,370
It's getting real, you know?
1191
00:46:56,389 --> 00:47:00,483
Like, some of our quirks are
getting to each other, I think.
1192
00:47:00,710 --> 00:47:02,059
- Like what did you say
the other--
1193
00:47:02,153 --> 00:47:03,711
You posted something
the other day and it hit home.
1194
00:47:03,804 --> 00:47:04,987
You were like,
"When you marry somebody,
1195
00:47:05,139 --> 00:47:07,214
you marry their trauma."
1196
00:47:07,233 --> 00:47:09,826
- You marry their inner child.
- Mm-hmm.
1197
00:47:10,053 --> 00:47:12,236
- And their belief systems.
- Mm-hmm.
1198
00:47:12,330 --> 00:47:14,479
- So I think it's important
to recognize that too.
1199
00:47:14,574 --> 00:47:17,074
It's like, these are all things
that we're still learning
1200
00:47:17,226 --> 00:47:18,984
about our partners too,
you know?
1201
00:47:19,003 --> 00:47:22,654
Like, we're not gonna get it
right the first time.
1202
00:47:22,674 --> 00:47:24,899
Like, when you really step back
and, like, look at it
1203
00:47:24,917 --> 00:47:26,417
like, "Yeah, we're married
1204
00:47:26,511 --> 00:47:28,327
and we made this commitment,
but at the same time,
1205
00:47:28,346 --> 00:47:30,087
like, we don't really know
each other.
1206
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:31,422
- Yeah.
1207
00:47:31,574 --> 00:47:33,832
- So it's just gonna take time,
you know?
1208
00:47:33,852 --> 00:47:35,259
- I hope they got
the same perspective.
1209
00:47:35,353 --> 00:47:36,668
[all speaking at once]
1210
00:47:36,688 --> 00:47:38,170
- Like, I wonder
what they're talking about.
1211
00:47:38,189 --> 00:47:40,172
- Precision, baby!
1212
00:47:40,266 --> 00:47:41,749
[arrow thuds]
- Ahh!
1213
00:47:41,842 --> 00:47:44,752
[upbeat music]
[laughter]
1214
00:47:44,770 --> 00:47:47,922
- Good shot. That was clean.
1215
00:47:47,940 --> 00:47:50,107
- Having a moment with
the other guys is like
1216
00:47:50,259 --> 00:47:52,760
a breath of fresh air at times
because--
1217
00:47:52,778 --> 00:47:56,280
Not that I don't like
being around my wife 24/7/365.
1218
00:47:56,374 --> 00:47:57,781
[whistle blows]
1219
00:47:57,934 --> 00:48:00,359
♪ ♪
1220
00:48:00,453 --> 00:48:03,287
But sometimes it's just nice
to just take some time away
1221
00:48:03,439 --> 00:48:05,289
and be with the guys.
1222
00:48:05,441 --> 00:48:07,958
- Guys, no!
- Did he get--ah.
1223
00:48:08,111 --> 00:48:14,891
♪ ♪
1224
00:48:17,378 --> 00:48:19,395
- It seems like Mark
is definitely
1225
00:48:19,546 --> 00:48:21,122
the best shooter,
the sharpshooter.
1226
00:48:21,140 --> 00:48:22,214
♪ ♪
1227
00:48:22,233 --> 00:48:23,974
- Oh!
- Oh!
1228
00:48:24,068 --> 00:48:25,626
[laughter]
1229
00:48:25,645 --> 00:48:28,220
- I grew up in a very
competitive household
1230
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:29,888
and with a lot of competitive
friends,
1231
00:48:29,908 --> 00:48:31,315
so I go all out.
1232
00:48:31,467 --> 00:48:34,726
♪ ♪
1233
00:48:34,820 --> 00:48:36,078
- Got him.
- Oh!
1234
00:48:36,230 --> 00:48:37,972
[whistle blows]
Steve got him.
1235
00:48:38,065 --> 00:48:39,749
- Steve got me once pretty hard.
1236
00:48:39,976 --> 00:48:42,234
- [panting]
1237
00:48:42,328 --> 00:48:44,979
- I started to question
our friendship after that shot.
1238
00:48:45,072 --> 00:48:47,072
- So how have things been, guys?
1239
00:48:47,166 --> 00:48:48,549
How's it going at home?
1240
00:48:49,986 --> 00:48:53,578
- I think it's more work
than maybe I thought.
1241
00:48:53,598 --> 00:48:56,006
I figured, like,
1242
00:48:56,159 --> 00:48:58,601
I can get to know anyone
pretty quickly and fast.
1243
00:48:58,828 --> 00:49:00,661
But I feel like
it's, like, a lot of work
1244
00:49:00,754 --> 00:49:02,421
and figuring out personalities
1245
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:06,333
I'm not used to and where
the emotions are coming from.
1246
00:49:06,352 --> 00:49:07,944
[pensive music]
1247
00:49:08,095 --> 00:49:11,447
Just try to understand, like,
where someone's feelings are
1248
00:49:11,674 --> 00:49:13,691
in our moments
if we're not connecting,
1249
00:49:13,785 --> 00:49:16,435
like, "Where are these emotions
coming from?"
1250
00:49:16,529 --> 00:49:18,937
And just digging
as deep as I can
1251
00:49:19,031 --> 00:49:20,864
so we can get on the same page.
1252
00:49:20,959 --> 00:49:23,701
- It feels like we're so
in sync on so many things
1253
00:49:23,853 --> 00:49:25,186
that when we're not in sync
1254
00:49:25,204 --> 00:49:26,611
it's kind of like,
"What the hell happened?
1255
00:49:26,631 --> 00:49:27,779
Where did we get--
What happened?"
1256
00:49:27,873 --> 00:49:28,631
You know?
- Mm-hmm.
1257
00:49:31,636 --> 00:49:33,527
Because you know,
the honeymoon's over.
1258
00:49:33,620 --> 00:49:34,786
We're back in the real world.
1259
00:49:34,806 --> 00:49:36,213
People wanna get back
to their routine.
1260
00:49:36,365 --> 00:49:37,548
- Yeah.
1261
00:49:37,642 --> 00:49:41,143
- Do you find that you are
growing in intimacy
1262
00:49:41,370 --> 00:49:44,221
with your partner
or kind of fading away?
1263
00:49:44,315 --> 00:49:46,965
- I'm, like, the light's
been flickering on and off.
1264
00:49:46,985 --> 00:49:49,134
I'm like we're up, we're down,
we're up, we're down.
1265
00:49:49,228 --> 00:49:50,486
So that's how literally
1266
00:49:50,713 --> 00:49:52,379
the last 48 hours
have been like that.
1267
00:49:52,398 --> 00:49:54,064
♪ ♪
1268
00:49:54,158 --> 00:49:57,142
Our disconnect is, like,
he needs someone who's able
1269
00:49:57,236 --> 00:50:02,239
to give him the same energy
back verbally and also actions.
1270
00:50:02,333 --> 00:50:07,652
And just having someone
calling out those things
1271
00:50:07,672 --> 00:50:10,080
that you're already
thinking in your head,
1272
00:50:10,233 --> 00:50:11,732
you know, it's like someone
holding a mirror
1273
00:50:11,751 --> 00:50:13,234
up to you a little bit.
1274
00:50:13,252 --> 00:50:15,494
And he's expressed it to me,
like, multiple times
1275
00:50:15,513 --> 00:50:17,162
in, like, different ways
where I feel like
1276
00:50:17,181 --> 00:50:19,164
at first maybe it wasn't,
like, resonating
1277
00:50:19,258 --> 00:50:22,351
the way that he wanted to
1278
00:50:22,578 --> 00:50:25,262
or I wasn't changing
as swiftly as he wanted to.
1279
00:50:25,414 --> 00:50:27,172
So these last couple of days
1280
00:50:27,191 --> 00:50:31,919
have definitely been
more, like, eye-opening.
1281
00:50:32,012 --> 00:50:34,030
- It's tough to even be there
1282
00:50:34,181 --> 00:50:37,107
when you have somebody you
feel like you kind of baby her.
1283
00:50:37,260 --> 00:50:39,260
That's how I truly feel.
- Mm.
1284
00:50:39,278 --> 00:50:40,852
- What is the deeper thing?
1285
00:50:40,946 --> 00:50:42,279
Is it--do you feel like the
effort level isn't the same?
1286
00:50:42,431 --> 00:50:44,431
- Yes. And then you can't talk
about effort.
1287
00:50:44,450 --> 00:50:46,433
I mean, and she--
Yeah, it's really just effort.
1288
00:50:46,452 --> 00:50:48,711
- Is it effort?
- And it's just life skills.
1289
00:50:48,862 --> 00:50:53,049
It's like, I don't go to sleep
with my house dirty.
1290
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:54,717
I mean, it's just not
what you do.
1291
00:50:54,944 --> 00:50:56,460
Not talking about--
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
1292
00:50:56,612 --> 00:50:57,887
- Same.
1293
00:50:58,114 --> 00:51:00,705
- I can't always be
there to help--
1294
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:02,892
Like, to guide this.
1295
00:51:03,119 --> 00:51:04,802
I work overnights.
I work during the day.
1296
00:51:04,954 --> 00:51:06,954
You're at home right now.
1297
00:51:06,972 --> 00:51:09,881
What are we gonna do when
you go back to work downtown
1298
00:51:09,975 --> 00:51:11,141
and you have to drive that
1299
00:51:11,294 --> 00:51:13,644
or you have to take trolleys
and trains?
1300
00:51:13,738 --> 00:51:16,388
Where am I...
1301
00:51:16,482 --> 00:51:20,467
where can I rely--where can I
have my support from my wife?
1302
00:51:20,561 --> 00:51:22,486
My feelings are really high
for Katina
1303
00:51:22,638 --> 00:51:24,563
so that's why I get so irritated
1304
00:51:24,582 --> 00:51:26,898
because in real--
1305
00:51:26,918 --> 00:51:29,234
If this--different situation,
I would have walked away.
1306
00:51:29,253 --> 00:51:30,978
[dramatic music]
1307
00:51:31,071 --> 00:51:32,254
- Or you wouldn't be bothered.
1308
00:51:32,406 --> 00:51:33,831
- Yeah, I won't be bothered.
Right.
1309
00:51:33,983 --> 00:51:35,332
'Cause you would just
leave it and see--
1310
00:51:35,426 --> 00:51:37,593
[all speaking at once]
1311
00:51:37,744 --> 00:51:39,595
- I'm having a really tough
time.
1312
00:51:39,746 --> 00:51:41,263
I'm learning to have
more patience
1313
00:51:41,490 --> 00:51:43,248
but the time is really
not on our side.
1314
00:51:43,267 --> 00:51:44,675
- Right, right.
1315
00:51:44,827 --> 00:51:46,936
- And since Pastor Cal came by,
1316
00:51:47,163 --> 00:51:50,013
I really haven't seen
a difference.
1317
00:51:50,166 --> 00:51:52,924
- It sucks to see that
he feels like, you know,
1318
00:51:52,944 --> 00:51:55,169
the effort isn't being
reciprocated
1319
00:51:55,262 --> 00:51:57,020
and he just feels defeated.
1320
00:51:57,173 --> 00:51:58,781
Being that we're so early on,
1321
00:51:59,008 --> 00:52:00,858
I'm hoping that
they can get through it
1322
00:52:01,010 --> 00:52:03,026
because I can just see
the pain on his face.
1323
00:52:03,179 --> 00:52:05,454
- So what--I think what
I'd be worried about
1324
00:52:05,606 --> 00:52:09,458
is if you're not telling her
things that bother you
1325
00:52:09,610 --> 00:52:11,518
and it just going
to bottle you up.
1326
00:52:11,537 --> 00:52:13,036
You know what I mean?
I don't want that to be a case
1327
00:52:13,189 --> 00:52:14,296
where you're just like--
You know what I mean?
1328
00:52:14,523 --> 00:52:16,632
- Explosion.
- Yeah, but it's tough.
1329
00:52:16,859 --> 00:52:18,283
- And then what
if you're not happy?
1330
00:52:18,302 --> 00:52:19,468
At the end of the day,
you gotta be happy, you know?
1331
00:52:19,695 --> 00:52:21,879
- Yeah, it's tough.
It's truly tough.
1332
00:52:22,031 --> 00:52:24,031
♪ ♪
1333
00:52:24,049 --> 00:52:26,550
I don't know if I need to break
a chair for her to understand
1334
00:52:26,644 --> 00:52:28,218
that I am being beat.
1335
00:52:28,371 --> 00:52:31,205
[tense emotional music]
1336
00:52:31,223 --> 00:52:32,773
♪ ♪
1337
00:52:37,155 --> 00:52:38,879
- At the end of the day,
you gotta be happy, you know?
1338
00:52:38,898 --> 00:52:40,489
- Yeah, it's tough.
It's truly tough.
1339
00:52:40,716 --> 00:52:43,400
And I don't know if I need
to break a chair
1340
00:52:43,494 --> 00:52:45,402
for her to understand
that I am being beat.
1341
00:52:45,496 --> 00:52:48,222
♪ ♪
1342
00:52:48,240 --> 00:52:52,001
- Do you, like, think
you guys would move past this?
1343
00:52:52,152 --> 00:52:53,335
- It's tough.
- Yeah.
1344
00:52:53,562 --> 00:52:55,487
- It's tough because--
It's really tough.
1345
00:52:55,506 --> 00:52:56,988
- Mm.
- It's really tough.
1346
00:52:57,008 --> 00:52:58,248
- How about you guys?
1347
00:52:58,401 --> 00:53:00,659
- Yeah.
1348
00:53:00,678 --> 00:53:04,162
Communication has still been
an issue with me and Jasmina.
1349
00:53:04,256 --> 00:53:07,516
And now the new problem we're
having now is just trying to,
1350
00:53:07,743 --> 00:53:10,244
you know, connect
on a deeper, deeper level.
1351
00:53:10,262 --> 00:53:11,687
Past, like,
just the surface things
1352
00:53:11,914 --> 00:53:14,023
like having those conversations
to, like,
1353
00:53:14,174 --> 00:53:15,191
really, really
get to know each other.
1354
00:53:15,342 --> 00:53:17,509
I think me being
vulnerable with her
1355
00:53:17,528 --> 00:53:19,695
is gonna only make
her be more comfortable
1356
00:53:19,922 --> 00:53:22,031
opening up with me,
you get what I'm saying?
1357
00:53:22,182 --> 00:53:25,108
- Hopefully moving forward
we can have those open,
1358
00:53:25,261 --> 00:53:27,444
honest and, you know,
vulnerable conversations
1359
00:53:27,596 --> 00:53:30,280
to get to the place where
I eventually want us to be in.
1360
00:53:30,374 --> 00:53:32,282
So I can't have a spark
for someone or feel intimacy
1361
00:53:32,376 --> 00:53:34,192
if we're not talking.
1362
00:53:34,212 --> 00:53:36,937
But we had the conversation
on talking moving forward
1363
00:53:36,956 --> 00:53:39,440
so maybe the next time
if you ask me
1364
00:53:39,458 --> 00:53:41,942
my answer may be different.
1365
00:53:41,961 --> 00:53:43,201
Just gonna have to see.
1366
00:53:43,221 --> 00:53:45,203
I'm always a hopeful person.
1367
00:53:45,297 --> 00:53:46,722
I feel like if I'm not hopeful,
1368
00:53:46,873 --> 00:53:48,615
it would just be me
being in my head
1369
00:53:48,634 --> 00:53:49,892
or just thinking negatively
1370
00:53:50,043 --> 00:53:51,710
and nothing is gonna
get accomplished
1371
00:53:51,729 --> 00:53:53,712
if I just have in my mind
that he won't change.
1372
00:53:53,806 --> 00:53:57,233
If he sees that I'm hopeful,
then he would want to try more.
1373
00:53:57,460 --> 00:53:58,959
But if he feels like
I'm not hopeful,
1374
00:53:59,052 --> 00:54:01,070
it might make him not wanna try.
1375
00:54:01,297 --> 00:54:03,405
- And actually what you said
kinda rung.
1376
00:54:03,632 --> 00:54:06,558
So me and Noi had a pretty
big issue the other day.
1377
00:54:06,577 --> 00:54:07,892
Something that I thought
was small, you know?
1378
00:54:07,987 --> 00:54:09,486
She was cooking our first meal.
1379
00:54:09,638 --> 00:54:11,321
I'd cooked, you know,
six or seven at that time.
1380
00:54:11,474 --> 00:54:12,897
She has her gluten-free noodles.
1381
00:54:12,992 --> 00:54:14,041
I have my regular noodles.
1382
00:54:23,744 --> 00:54:27,004
And she just shut down
on me hard.
1383
00:54:27,156 --> 00:54:29,223
She just goes, "I'm done
cooking" and walked out.
1384
00:54:31,160 --> 00:54:32,509
I tried to text her.
1385
00:54:32,603 --> 00:54:33,769
I'm like, "Hey, everything
all good? Can we talk?"
1386
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:34,919
She's like,
"I don't wanna talk."
1387
00:54:35,014 --> 00:54:36,272
Wake up the next morning.
1388
00:54:36,423 --> 00:54:37,589
I'm thinking
it's, you know, like,
1389
00:54:37,683 --> 00:54:38,941
"Let's get back on track."
1390
00:54:39,168 --> 00:54:42,019
Not a word, right?
So it's almost 24 hours.
1391
00:54:42,113 --> 00:54:44,021
I'm sitting up there, you know,
like, bugging out.
1392
00:54:44,173 --> 00:54:47,265
Like, what did I really do
that upset her so bad?
1393
00:54:47,359 --> 00:54:49,009
Why can't she talk to me?
1394
00:54:49,102 --> 00:54:51,120
So finally we ended up
hashing it out.
1395
00:54:51,347 --> 00:54:52,679
Like, not screaming
or anything like that
1396
00:54:52,698 --> 00:54:55,273
but just really letting
each other know how we feel,
1397
00:54:55,293 --> 00:54:59,444
but it didn't take until
I told her how much it hurt me.
1398
00:54:59,463 --> 00:55:03,799
Like, how much it really hurt
me that she left me hanging.
1399
00:55:03,950 --> 00:55:05,784
I felt like she ghosted me
and like, you know,
1400
00:55:05,803 --> 00:55:07,469
and till I showed her my pain.
1401
00:55:07,696 --> 00:55:09,621
And then at that point,
she finally looked at me.
1402
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:11,882
I'm like, that's what it takes,
you know? Vulnerability.
1403
00:55:12,034 --> 00:55:14,959
- His voice was, like,
cracking to the point
1404
00:55:14,979 --> 00:55:17,479
where he was just, like,
so upset.
1405
00:55:17,706 --> 00:55:19,039
And like, in that moment
I was like,
1406
00:55:19,132 --> 00:55:20,799
"Oh, my God, this man, like" --
1407
00:55:20,818 --> 00:55:22,726
- Loves you.
- He loves me.
1408
00:55:22,878 --> 00:55:25,546
He hasn't said it.
- No, they never will.
1409
00:55:25,639 --> 00:55:27,064
Not yet.
- I know but it was like,
1410
00:55:27,216 --> 00:55:30,642
"Oh, my God, like,
you were so devastated
1411
00:55:30,736 --> 00:55:32,553
by me being silent."
1412
00:55:32,571 --> 00:55:34,555
Like I was just like,
"Oh, my gosh,
1413
00:55:34,648 --> 00:55:36,239
like, this man really
loves me."
1414
00:55:36,392 --> 00:55:37,741
♪ ♪
1415
00:55:37,893 --> 00:55:40,227
I was like, "I don't ever want
to be responsible
1416
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:42,504
for hurting you
in this way ever again."
1417
00:55:42,731 --> 00:55:44,322
And for me that was, like,
an eye-opening moment.
1418
00:55:44,416 --> 00:55:47,676
Like, we are so deeply affected
1419
00:55:47,903 --> 00:55:51,013
by what we do to each other,
you know?
1420
00:55:51,164 --> 00:55:53,407
And it was just like,
I finally kind of saw that.
1421
00:55:53,425 --> 00:55:54,850
I mean,
I think from the beginning,
1422
00:55:55,001 --> 00:55:56,518
we've always had, like,
the strong connection,
1423
00:55:56,745 --> 00:55:57,853
but I really was like,
"Oh, my gosh."
1424
00:55:58,080 --> 00:55:59,355
This was like a test
of that connection.
1425
00:55:59,582 --> 00:56:02,191
Like, how do we still feel
about each other
1426
00:56:02,342 --> 00:56:03,917
when something hard is going on?
1427
00:56:03,936 --> 00:56:05,419
And I saw it in that moment.
1428
00:56:05,437 --> 00:56:07,104
I was like,
you didn't give up on me.
1429
00:56:07,256 --> 00:56:08,364
- Yeah.
1430
00:56:08,515 --> 00:56:09,272
- That's how you form intimacy
I think.
1431
00:56:09,367 --> 00:56:10,774
- Mm-hmm.
1432
00:56:10,926 --> 00:56:13,351
- I think for me, us growing
in our intimacy
1433
00:56:13,445 --> 00:56:16,205
will be when we connect
1434
00:56:16,356 --> 00:56:18,874
with communication better,
just like all y'all.
1435
00:56:19,025 --> 00:56:22,269
You know, Mark is--
I think it's so obvious to me
1436
00:56:22,287 --> 00:56:24,362
how we can each learn
from each other.
1437
00:56:24,382 --> 00:56:26,106
Like, when I hear
each of you guys
1438
00:56:26,199 --> 00:56:27,383
talk about your partners,
I'm like,
1439
00:56:27,534 --> 00:56:29,385
"Oh, that's my flaw.
That's his flaw.
1440
00:56:29,612 --> 00:56:31,461
That's my struggle.
That's his struggle."
1441
00:56:31,614 --> 00:56:33,113
Like, we're all going through
the same things.
1442
00:56:33,206 --> 00:56:36,116
- Yeah. So this is normal.
[laughs]
1443
00:56:36,135 --> 00:56:38,543
- I already asked everybody--
- Sounds like this is normal.
1444
00:56:38,562 --> 00:56:40,545
This is what I'm getting
after leaving today.
1445
00:56:40,564 --> 00:56:43,790
Like, oh, like if we're all
going through something
1446
00:56:43,809 --> 00:56:46,384
I'm like, "Sounds about right."
1447
00:56:46,404 --> 00:56:47,794
- Even though we're all going
through our own conflicts
1448
00:56:47,813 --> 00:56:49,405
in our marriage,
I think it's positive
1449
00:56:49,556 --> 00:56:52,557
because like, if you guys
all were here saying,
1450
00:56:52,651 --> 00:56:53,909
"Oh, yeah, I'm in love.
1451
00:56:54,060 --> 00:56:56,245
"We're definitely
gonna stay married
1452
00:56:56,396 --> 00:56:57,988
for the rest of eternity."
1453
00:56:58,082 --> 00:56:59,990
I would say they're gonna
have a rude awakening,
1454
00:57:00,084 --> 00:57:01,658
you know what I mean?
1455
00:57:01,752 --> 00:57:02,918
But the fact that we're going
through these struggles,
1456
00:57:03,069 --> 00:57:04,494
that means
we're taking it serious.
1457
00:57:04,588 --> 00:57:07,256
That means we're really
getting to know our wives.
1458
00:57:07,407 --> 00:57:09,591
If we can get to
the other side of this,
1459
00:57:09,743 --> 00:57:12,152
we're gonna really know
who we're married to.
1460
00:57:12,171 --> 00:57:14,245
- Marriage is difficult,
1461
00:57:14,265 --> 00:57:17,415
but it all depends on how bad
you want it to work out
1462
00:57:17,509 --> 00:57:19,660
and if you can just be honest
1463
00:57:19,678 --> 00:57:21,495
with how you feel
to your partner.
1464
00:57:21,513 --> 00:57:22,587
But I think if you want it
to work,
1465
00:57:22,681 --> 00:57:24,347
then it has the opportunity to.
1466
00:57:24,442 --> 00:57:27,443
♪ ♪
1467
00:57:31,857 --> 00:57:33,690
[upbeat music]
1468
00:57:33,842 --> 00:57:34,450
- ♪ All I wanna do is spend
a little time alone with you ♪
1469
00:57:34,677 --> 00:57:37,844
♪ ♪
1470
00:57:37,863 --> 00:57:39,455
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
1471
00:57:39,682 --> 00:57:40,864
♪ ♪
1472
00:57:41,016 --> 00:57:42,941
- Here's your menu.
- Thank you.
1473
00:57:43,035 --> 00:57:44,460
- Tonight for Lindsey,
1474
00:57:44,687 --> 00:57:46,870
I'm taking her out
to this fancy sushi place.
1475
00:57:47,022 --> 00:57:48,538
I know how much she likes sushi.
1476
00:57:48,632 --> 00:57:50,357
I thought it would be
a nice thing for her
1477
00:57:50,375 --> 00:57:51,708
to have a nice dinner.
1478
00:57:51,860 --> 00:57:53,860
I wanna let her know that
I pay attention
1479
00:57:53,879 --> 00:57:55,137
and I do appreciate her
1480
00:57:55,364 --> 00:57:57,047
and I think she's a good person.
1481
00:57:57,141 --> 00:58:00,309
So let's get some sushi.
1482
00:58:00,460 --> 00:58:03,720
- All right, so I'm gonna order
the raw stuff for you.
1483
00:58:03,814 --> 00:58:06,297
- Wait, wait, wait.
You don't have to do that.
1484
00:58:06,391 --> 00:58:07,799
You really don't
have to do that.
1485
00:58:07,893 --> 00:58:09,042
I definitely want to do--
1486
00:58:09,135 --> 00:58:10,210
- You're definitely
gonna try to eel
1487
00:58:10,303 --> 00:58:12,804
'cause it's, like,
the chicken of fish.
1488
00:58:12,823 --> 00:58:13,989
It's so easy.
1489
00:58:14,216 --> 00:58:16,233
- Maybe we'll save the eel
for, like,
1490
00:58:16,327 --> 00:58:18,885
another adventure day.
1491
00:58:18,904 --> 00:58:20,887
- Great. You'll try it?
That sounds awesome.
1492
00:58:20,981 --> 00:58:23,223
I can't wait to give you some.
Thank you.
1493
00:58:23,242 --> 00:58:24,833
♪ ♪
1494
00:58:24,985 --> 00:58:28,003
My element is going out
for sushi 'cause I love it.
1495
00:58:28,230 --> 00:58:29,579
I could eat it for breakfast,
lunch, and dinner.
1496
00:58:29,673 --> 00:58:32,399
So I'm really actually
impressed and surprised
1497
00:58:32,492 --> 00:58:34,176
that he'd take me
to a sushi restaurant
1498
00:58:34,403 --> 00:58:36,661
because it's not
the texture he likes.
1499
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:38,180
- Here's the pink lady roll
for you.
1500
00:58:38,407 --> 00:58:39,573
- Oh, cool.
1501
00:58:39,591 --> 00:58:40,907
♪ ♪
1502
00:58:41,001 --> 00:58:42,759
- Thank you.
- Of course. Enjoy.
1503
00:58:42,911 --> 00:58:44,186
- There's avocado.
- Mm.
1504
00:58:44,337 --> 00:58:46,355
Soy paper. It's very good.
1505
00:58:46,506 --> 00:58:47,430
- Is it?
- Mm-hmm.
1506
00:58:47,525 --> 00:58:48,749
- Are you chewing it?
1507
00:58:48,767 --> 00:58:51,251
- Yeah. Two, three bites.
1508
00:58:51,270 --> 00:58:53,920
[plucky music]
1509
00:58:53,939 --> 00:59:00,536
♪ ♪
1510
00:59:01,539 --> 00:59:03,597
[laughs]
1511
00:59:03,690 --> 00:59:06,190
Mark is a little kid
and I love it.
1512
00:59:06,285 --> 00:59:08,544
He's a sweet little baby.
1513
00:59:08,771 --> 00:59:12,606
- This is the chef's choice.
- Whoa.
1514
00:59:12,699 --> 00:59:16,552
- Sashimi and nigiri
and a naruto roll.
1515
00:59:16,779 --> 00:59:18,445
- Thank you.
- Of course. Enjoy.
1516
00:59:18,463 --> 00:59:19,721
- Okay.
1517
00:59:19,948 --> 00:59:21,965
♪ ♪
1518
00:59:22,059 --> 00:59:23,784
- [laughs]
1519
00:59:23,877 --> 00:59:25,786
Wait a minute. This is a lot.
1520
00:59:25,879 --> 00:59:27,621
This is your--
This is your dinner.
1521
00:59:27,639 --> 00:59:29,213
I don't wanna take away
from your hunger.
1522
00:59:29,308 --> 00:59:32,067
- Babe, just go.
Put it in there. Half.
1523
00:59:32,294 --> 00:59:33,310
- Oh, oh.
1524
00:59:33,462 --> 00:59:34,886
- Don't look at it.
Just eat it.
1525
00:59:34,980 --> 00:59:37,647
- Wait a minute. [laughs]
1526
00:59:37,741 --> 00:59:39,074
- [laughs]
1527
00:59:39,301 --> 00:59:43,303
- I think that this thing
is very nice looking
1528
00:59:43,396 --> 00:59:46,323
and it doesn't belong
in my body.
1529
00:59:46,417 --> 00:59:48,975
Oh. Ah.
- [laughs]
1530
00:59:48,994 --> 00:59:52,236
♪ ♪
1531
00:59:52,256 --> 00:59:53,480
- Ah.
1532
00:59:53,498 --> 00:59:56,425
♪ ♪
1533
00:59:56,652 --> 01:00:01,655
Lindsey is the only girl
I have ever attempted
1534
01:00:01,748 --> 01:00:05,826
as many new foods with
in my life.
1535
01:00:05,919 --> 01:00:08,845
I think this thing
should go back in the ocean
1536
01:00:08,997 --> 01:00:10,347
with the rest of its family,
1537
01:00:10,499 --> 01:00:11,756
that it got taken away from
1538
01:00:11,850 --> 01:00:14,425
and swim far, far away.
1539
01:00:14,519 --> 01:00:17,279
Was this a good choice for you?
1540
01:00:17,506 --> 01:00:19,931
- Yes. Thank you very much.
- Okay.
1541
01:00:19,950 --> 01:00:26,847
I appreciate that you went
into this with a stranger
1542
01:00:26,940 --> 01:00:30,684
with all the right intentions...
1543
01:00:30,777 --> 01:00:35,446
regardless of
how he was going to be.
1544
01:00:35,540 --> 01:00:39,426
You went into it
with everything.
1545
01:00:40,787 --> 01:00:45,198
Even every day
being harder times.
1546
01:00:45,217 --> 01:00:46,791
♪ ♪
1547
01:00:46,810 --> 01:00:48,644
Times I'm not feeling
a response.
1548
01:00:48,871 --> 01:00:50,628
♪ ♪
1549
01:00:50,648 --> 01:00:54,374
And you kept on
doing nice things.
1550
01:00:54,393 --> 01:00:55,892
♪ ♪
1551
01:00:55,986 --> 01:01:00,046
And I apologize for all
the times that you were hurt.
1552
01:01:00,065 --> 01:01:02,399
♪ ♪
1553
01:01:02,551 --> 01:01:09,055
And I will promise
to not cause you pain.
1554
01:01:09,074 --> 01:01:11,315
♪ ♪
1555
01:01:11,410 --> 01:01:14,836
And to let you know
1556
01:01:15,063 --> 01:01:18,231
that I do notice
everything that you do
1557
01:01:18,250 --> 01:01:21,993
and that you're too good
of a person to ever get hurt.
1558
01:01:22,087 --> 01:01:23,345
And you're too good of a person
1559
01:01:23,572 --> 01:01:27,407
to feel that
you're not appreciated.
1560
01:01:27,500 --> 01:01:31,261
And I want you to know
that you are appreciated,
1561
01:01:31,413 --> 01:01:33,188
and that you are cared for,
1562
01:01:33,415 --> 01:01:35,081
and I don't want you
to ever think otherwise.
1563
01:01:35,100 --> 01:01:37,008
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
1564
01:01:37,102 --> 01:01:39,102
[emotional music]
1565
01:01:39,254 --> 01:01:41,604
- I feel the same way about you.
1566
01:01:41,757 --> 01:01:43,089
So I think you're worth it.
1567
01:01:43,108 --> 01:01:44,866
I feel like you do so much
for somebody else,
1568
01:01:45,093 --> 01:01:48,203
you're never used to having
somebody do things for you.
1569
01:01:48,430 --> 01:01:50,096
And I'm happy to do that.
- Thank you.
1570
01:01:50,115 --> 01:01:51,206
♪ ♪
1571
01:01:51,357 --> 01:01:53,191
- ♪ I'm gonna rise up ♪
1572
01:01:53,210 --> 01:01:54,525
- [blows kiss]
1573
01:01:54,545 --> 01:01:56,119
If there wasn't sushi here,
I'd kiss you.
1574
01:01:56,213 --> 01:01:57,270
- [laughs]
1575
01:01:57,363 --> 01:01:59,622
- ♪ I'm gonna rise, rise ♪
1576
01:01:59,717 --> 01:02:01,624
♪ Rise, rise, up ♪
1577
01:02:01,719 --> 01:02:02,968
♪ Oh, yeah ♪
1578
01:02:07,207 --> 01:02:08,965
- ♪ And I don't wanna fight ♪
1579
01:02:09,117 --> 01:02:09,725
♪ No, I don't wanna fight
no more ♪
1580
01:02:09,876 --> 01:02:12,118
- ♪ Amen ♪
1581
01:02:12,137 --> 01:02:13,562
♪ A-a-amen ♪
1582
01:02:13,789 --> 01:02:16,565
- [laughing]
1583
01:02:18,569 --> 01:02:20,068
- Oh, how funny is this?
1584
01:02:20,220 --> 01:02:21,795
- This is funny.
1585
01:02:21,813 --> 01:02:24,072
- You like that?
[laughs]
1586
01:02:24,224 --> 01:02:25,815
- What are we about
to do right now?
1587
01:02:25,968 --> 01:02:27,984
- You know, you've been trying
to get me to go to the gym.
1588
01:02:28,136 --> 01:02:29,560
- Yeah.
1589
01:02:29,580 --> 01:02:31,913
- You know I'm lazy.
[laughs]
1590
01:02:32,065 --> 01:02:33,974
But I know the gym
and working out
1591
01:02:34,067 --> 01:02:35,308
is something that
you really like,
1592
01:02:35,327 --> 01:02:37,494
so we're gonna work out today.
- Wow.
1593
01:02:37,588 --> 01:02:40,997
- We have three different
stations based on things
1594
01:02:41,149 --> 01:02:42,907
that we need to work on
in our relationship.
1595
01:02:43,001 --> 01:02:44,334
So communication.
1596
01:02:44,428 --> 01:02:45,485
- Interruptions.
1597
01:02:45,578 --> 01:02:47,670
- And you know, vulnerability.
1598
01:02:47,823 --> 01:02:49,172
♪ ♪
1599
01:02:49,324 --> 01:02:50,657
- This is a very nice gesture
of her
1600
01:02:50,675 --> 01:02:52,492
'cause I know it took
a lot of thought
1601
01:02:52,511 --> 01:02:53,843
and preparation
to get this done.
1602
01:02:53,996 --> 01:02:55,512
So I can tell that
she really cares
1603
01:02:55,664 --> 01:02:57,105
and is really trying to work
on this marriage.
1604
01:02:57,332 --> 01:02:59,349
I see what you did there
with the gym, the--
1605
01:02:59,443 --> 01:03:01,592
- You see that? The J?
1606
01:03:01,612 --> 01:03:03,169
You should bring this when
you work with your clients.
1607
01:03:03,188 --> 01:03:05,005
- You gotta trademark that.
That's fire.
1608
01:03:05,023 --> 01:03:07,524
You're gonna lead
this training today?
1609
01:03:07,676 --> 01:03:08,784
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay.
1610
01:03:08,935 --> 01:03:10,101
Let's get started.
[both laugh]
1611
01:03:10,195 --> 01:03:11,861
- Hey. I'm Jasmina.
1612
01:03:12,014 --> 01:03:13,346
I'm gonna be your
personal trainer for today.
1613
01:03:13,365 --> 01:03:14,772
- Nice to meet you.
- Wow, that's a nice handshake.
1614
01:03:14,866 --> 01:03:15,957
You work out?
- Nice and firm.
1615
01:03:16,109 --> 01:03:17,033
- You work out?
- Little bit.
1616
01:03:17,185 --> 01:03:18,852
- Okay.
1617
01:03:18,870 --> 01:03:20,278
I can tell.
Can I touch?
1618
01:03:20,372 --> 01:03:21,521
- Yes. [laughs]
1619
01:03:21,540 --> 01:03:23,298
- You got a wife?
1620
01:03:23,449 --> 01:03:25,783
- I'm not gonna answer that.
[laughs]
1621
01:03:25,803 --> 01:03:27,210
All right. Where do we start?
1622
01:03:27,304 --> 01:03:28,711
All right, what do I do?
1623
01:03:28,864 --> 01:03:30,621
- Uh...
1624
01:03:30,641 --> 01:03:32,891
[rock music]
1625
01:03:34,794 --> 01:03:36,202
- I think it's--
1626
01:03:36,221 --> 01:03:37,720
- What is this workout?
1627
01:03:37,873 --> 01:03:39,889
- Just go like this.
1628
01:03:39,983 --> 01:03:41,299
[laughs]
1629
01:03:41,318 --> 01:03:43,226
- I know Jasmina
doesn't work out.
1630
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:46,062
So her being a personal trainer
is hilarious to me
1631
01:03:46,214 --> 01:03:47,972
because I know she doesn't know
1632
01:03:47,991 --> 01:03:49,140
how to do certain workouts.
1633
01:03:49,159 --> 01:03:50,641
- We're gonna do some squats.
1634
01:03:50,735 --> 01:03:53,386
[lively music]
1635
01:03:53,405 --> 01:03:55,722
We're gonna go like... this.
1636
01:03:55,815 --> 01:03:57,499
- Mm-mm.
- No, that's not it?
1637
01:03:57,726 --> 01:03:59,242
Next one.
1638
01:03:59,394 --> 01:04:00,818
♪ ♪
1639
01:04:00,838 --> 01:04:03,988
- I'm not doing that.
I'm not doing that.
1640
01:04:04,007 --> 01:04:07,250
There's no--I'm not doing that.
- [laughs]
1641
01:04:07,344 --> 01:04:10,070
- I probably wouldn't hire
Jasmina as a personal trainer
1642
01:04:10,163 --> 01:04:12,088
but I still appreciate
her effort.
1643
01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:15,475
- Open your legs
and we're just holding hands.
1644
01:04:16,854 --> 01:04:18,836
Okay, fix this.
1645
01:04:18,930 --> 01:04:21,264
Are you flexible?
- Nope.
1646
01:04:21,358 --> 01:04:23,583
- Same. [laughs]
1647
01:04:23,676 --> 01:04:24,934
Can you open your legs
a little more or?
1648
01:04:25,087 --> 01:04:27,529
- Yeah.
- Okay.
1649
01:04:27,680 --> 01:04:28,846
So this is...
1650
01:04:28,866 --> 01:04:30,365
- You can pull.
- Us being open.
1651
01:04:30,592 --> 01:04:31,682
Hold on.
1652
01:04:31,702 --> 01:04:35,203
So let's talk about your past.
1653
01:04:35,430 --> 01:04:36,613
- Mm-hmm.
1654
01:04:36,765 --> 01:04:38,431
[emotional music]
1655
01:04:38,450 --> 01:04:41,376
And how it was
growing up for you...
1656
01:04:41,527 --> 01:04:43,545
- Yeah.
- As a child.
1657
01:04:43,696 --> 01:04:46,456
I know you said
you lost your mom.
1658
01:04:46,608 --> 01:04:47,774
- Mm-hmm.
1659
01:04:47,792 --> 01:04:49,367
- Your dad.
- Mm-hmm.
1660
01:04:49,461 --> 01:04:50,868
- Your grandmother.
- Mm-hmm.
1661
01:04:50,962 --> 01:04:52,370
- And your brother.
- Mm-hmm.
1662
01:04:52,464 --> 01:04:54,705
- So how was that for you?
1663
01:04:54,725 --> 01:04:59,543
- So my brother was probably
the first harsh loss.
1664
01:04:59,638 --> 01:05:01,471
I was about what? Six, seven?
1665
01:05:01,623 --> 01:05:03,064
And...
1666
01:05:05,385 --> 01:05:08,719
he used to work late--
Work, like, late nights
1667
01:05:08,813 --> 01:05:10,630
in a fast food restaurant.
1668
01:05:10,723 --> 01:05:13,983
And he used to always come home
at, like, 3:00 in the morning.
1669
01:05:14,077 --> 01:05:17,245
And he used to always just
bring home, like, food for us.
1670
01:05:17,397 --> 01:05:18,638
I mean, if I was to give him
an order
1671
01:05:18,731 --> 01:05:20,156
and we stay up late at night
and, like,
1672
01:05:20,250 --> 01:05:21,750
wait for him to bring it to us,
like, 3:00 in the morning.
1673
01:05:21,901 --> 01:05:23,251
One night, we heard, like,
1674
01:05:23,478 --> 01:05:25,311
a frantic knock at the door
at 3:00 the morning
1675
01:05:25,330 --> 01:05:28,406
so we all get up and assume
that it's him bringing,
1676
01:05:28,500 --> 01:05:32,335
you know, bringing the food
and it's one of his friends
1677
01:05:32,429 --> 01:05:34,078
and he's just saying,
"Vladymir got shot,
1678
01:05:34,172 --> 01:05:35,838
Vladymir got shot."
1679
01:05:35,991 --> 01:05:38,934
And I remember seeing him--
[clears throat]
1680
01:05:39,161 --> 01:05:45,231
♪ ♪
1681
01:05:47,185 --> 01:05:49,527
- It's okay. Take your time.
1682
01:05:51,006 --> 01:05:52,689
- Just on the pave--
1683
01:05:52,841 --> 01:05:54,950
[breathing shakily]
1684
01:05:55,101 --> 01:05:56,910
And, uh...
1685
01:06:02,017 --> 01:06:04,608
My aunt tried to...
1686
01:06:04,628 --> 01:06:06,703
[breathes shakily]
1687
01:06:06,855 --> 01:06:08,964
♪ ♪
1688
01:06:09,191 --> 01:06:11,282
- It's okay.
1689
01:06:11,301 --> 01:06:13,468
- [cries softly]
1690
01:06:13,695 --> 01:06:15,361
♪ ♪
1691
01:06:15,380 --> 01:06:19,641
She grabbed me and, you know,
tried to take me out of there
1692
01:06:19,868 --> 01:06:22,885
'cause, you know, no kid
wants to see that [bleep].
1693
01:06:23,038 --> 01:06:25,555
And my mom fainted.
1694
01:06:25,707 --> 01:06:28,316
♪ ♪
1695
01:06:28,543 --> 01:06:30,560
[sniffs]
1696
01:06:30,712 --> 01:06:35,323
♪ ♪
1697
01:06:35,550 --> 01:06:37,158
- It's okay.
1698
01:06:37,385 --> 01:06:40,161
♪ ♪
1699
01:06:40,313 --> 01:06:42,330
- [sniffs] Yeah, that's just--
1700
01:06:42,557 --> 01:06:44,648
That's just my first example
of, like, grief
1701
01:06:44,668 --> 01:06:47,002
and, you know, losing
somebody like that.
1702
01:06:47,153 --> 01:06:48,578
It just--I feel like it
changed me
1703
01:06:48,730 --> 01:06:50,672
from that young age,
you know what I'm saying?
1704
01:06:50,899 --> 01:06:53,008
And...
1705
01:06:53,235 --> 01:06:54,567
[sniffs]
1706
01:06:54,586 --> 01:06:57,512
It's like every--since then,
1707
01:06:57,663 --> 01:06:59,514
every three to four years,
some [bleep] happen
1708
01:06:59,741 --> 01:07:01,999
where I just gotta
deal with more grief.
1709
01:07:02,019 --> 01:07:03,351
And I think it just, you know,
1710
01:07:03,578 --> 01:07:05,078
over time just changed
who I was,
1711
01:07:05,096 --> 01:07:06,913
you know what I'm saying?
1712
01:07:07,006 --> 01:07:09,432
It made me like a super, like...
1713
01:07:09,584 --> 01:07:11,693
♪ ♪
1714
01:07:11,844 --> 01:07:13,194
I don't want to say
not emotional,
1715
01:07:13,421 --> 01:07:17,515
but--[clears throat]
I've done a great job of...
1716
01:07:17,534 --> 01:07:20,851
putting my emotions in a box
and dealing with it later.
1717
01:07:20,871 --> 01:07:24,614
- I'm very happy
that he's finally, you know,
1718
01:07:24,708 --> 01:07:27,042
opening up and letting me in
so I can understand him
1719
01:07:27,193 --> 01:07:28,935
a little bit more and understand
1720
01:07:28,953 --> 01:07:31,938
why he has some of the habits
that he do
1721
01:07:32,031 --> 01:07:33,214
or he thinks the way he thinks.
1722
01:07:33,366 --> 01:07:36,551
And so I haven't lost a sibling
but I know...
1723
01:07:36,778 --> 01:07:39,387
♪ ♪
1724
01:07:39,539 --> 01:07:41,389
[voice breaking]
If I did, you know,
1725
01:07:41,616 --> 01:07:42,706
I would feel
the same way he did.
1726
01:07:42,726 --> 01:07:46,786
So I'm very sad that he had to
1727
01:07:46,805 --> 01:07:48,454
go through all of that
at a young age
1728
01:07:48,548 --> 01:07:51,291
and especially lose
all those people
1729
01:07:51,384 --> 01:07:53,142
that were so close to him.
1730
01:07:53,236 --> 01:07:56,404
But I'm glad that he's able
to open and share it with me.
1731
01:07:56,631 --> 01:07:59,966
Thank you for opening up.
I know that took a lot.
1732
01:08:00,059 --> 01:08:01,651
I appreciate you for being open,
1733
01:08:01,803 --> 01:08:03,745
being honest
about your feelings.
1734
01:08:03,972 --> 01:08:06,989
♪ ♪
1735
01:08:07,084 --> 01:08:09,309
What are you thinking?
1736
01:08:09,327 --> 01:08:11,661
- [clears throat]
1737
01:08:11,813 --> 01:08:13,404
That cry felt good.
1738
01:08:13,423 --> 01:08:14,089
[both chuckle]
1739
01:08:18,261 --> 01:08:20,837
[upbeat music]
1740
01:08:20,989 --> 01:08:22,913
♪ ♪
1741
01:08:23,007 --> 01:08:24,599
- So, babe, are you excited?
1742
01:08:24,750 --> 01:08:26,659
You're gonna [bleep] your pants
when you see what we're doing.
1743
01:08:26,678 --> 01:08:28,828
Bungee jumping.
1744
01:08:28,921 --> 01:08:30,179
- No! No!
- I know that you're--
1745
01:08:30,273 --> 01:08:32,014
- Don't even tell me.
1746
01:08:32,109 --> 01:08:33,591
I'd rather jump out of a
[bleep] plane than bungee jump.
1747
01:08:33,685 --> 01:08:35,426
You're crazy. I'm not doing it.
1748
01:08:35,520 --> 01:08:37,503
You like to, like, live on,
like, "If I die, [bleep].
1749
01:08:37,597 --> 01:08:39,355
It was a [bleep] great life."
- Yeah.
1750
01:08:39,507 --> 01:08:41,691
- Yeah, yeah.
You [bleep] would, not me.
1751
01:08:41,785 --> 01:08:43,934
I wanna live.
1752
01:08:43,954 --> 01:08:46,270
Hey, if you like to jump--
- We're going to a fun park.
1753
01:08:46,289 --> 01:08:47,363
- A fun park.
1754
01:08:47,515 --> 01:08:49,365
- Yeah.
- Okay.
1755
01:08:49,459 --> 01:08:51,942
- We're gonna go do some
batting cages and go-karts.
1756
01:08:52,036 --> 01:08:55,279
- That's great. That I like.
1757
01:08:55,298 --> 01:08:58,040
It was such a relief.
I thought she was gonna kill me
1758
01:08:58,193 --> 01:09:00,635
by throwing me
over a bridge with some rope.
1759
01:09:00,862 --> 01:09:02,637
♪ ♪
1760
01:09:02,864 --> 01:09:03,880
- All right.
Find the one that looks like
1761
01:09:04,032 --> 01:09:06,032
it's hit the least
amount of heads.
1762
01:09:06,050 --> 01:09:08,384
When I went to go look at
Mark's apartment, he told me
1763
01:09:08,536 --> 01:09:11,295
he had every baseball he had
kept from his childhood.
1764
01:09:11,314 --> 01:09:14,298
Was this your mom's?
- Where?
1765
01:09:14,392 --> 01:09:16,800
Nope. That's all my baseballs
from when I was a kid.
1766
01:09:16,895 --> 01:09:19,228
- Why?
- I kept 'em.
1767
01:09:19,381 --> 01:09:20,897
- Why?
- Because I did.
1768
01:09:20,991 --> 01:09:22,490
- Does it bring you joy?
1769
01:09:22,717 --> 01:09:25,476
- Yeah, that's my childhood.
- Okay.
1770
01:09:25,570 --> 01:09:27,387
So I knew he played baseball.
1771
01:09:27,405 --> 01:09:29,906
I don't think he realizes that,
but I pay attention.
1772
01:09:30,000 --> 01:09:31,224
[up-tempo music]
1773
01:09:31,242 --> 01:09:32,333
Ooh!
1774
01:09:32,560 --> 01:09:33,726
♪ ♪
1775
01:09:33,745 --> 01:09:34,744
Ugh.
1776
01:09:34,896 --> 01:09:37,580
♪ ♪
1777
01:09:37,732 --> 01:09:40,233
- I played baseball
from five years old
1778
01:09:40,326 --> 01:09:41,734
till I was a senior
in high school.
1779
01:09:41,827 --> 01:09:43,419
And the fact
that Lindsey remembered,
1780
01:09:43,571 --> 01:09:45,588
it's those little details
about Lindsey
1781
01:09:45,682 --> 01:09:47,423
that I do appreciate
1782
01:09:47,575 --> 01:09:49,333
and I do care for
1783
01:09:49,427 --> 01:09:52,169
and that I have love for.
1784
01:09:52,189 --> 01:09:53,930
- What am I doing?
1785
01:09:54,082 --> 01:09:56,432
- Your back foot down and turn
your hips when you swing.
1786
01:09:56,526 --> 01:09:57,767
[bat clinks]
Nice.
1787
01:09:57,919 --> 01:10:01,604
♪ ♪
1788
01:10:01,698 --> 01:10:02,939
There you go.
1789
01:10:03,091 --> 01:10:07,593
♪ ♪
1790
01:10:07,612 --> 01:10:10,763
- ♪ See anything I dream, best
believe I'm gonna get it ♪
1791
01:10:10,782 --> 01:10:13,282
♪ And if I don't succeed
right away, I won't sweat it ♪
1792
01:10:13,376 --> 01:10:16,377
♪ 'Cause baby I been
un-un-un-untouchable ♪
1793
01:10:16,604 --> 01:10:17,620
- Very nice.
1794
01:10:17,714 --> 01:10:19,455
Mark looks powerful.
1795
01:10:19,549 --> 01:10:21,699
I wish Mark could take some
of that strength and power
1796
01:10:21,718 --> 01:10:24,627
and use it for me.
1797
01:10:24,779 --> 01:10:25,628
♪ ♪
1798
01:10:25,722 --> 01:10:26,963
- What are you doing?
1799
01:10:27,115 --> 01:10:28,614
♪ ♪
1800
01:10:28,633 --> 01:10:31,559
For me and Lindsey,
one day at a time's healthy.
1801
01:10:31,786 --> 01:10:33,135
I don't think we need
to literally think
1802
01:10:33,288 --> 01:10:35,045
about eight weeks
or ten months or two years.
1803
01:10:35,065 --> 01:10:36,472
I think it's like
we just went through
1804
01:10:36,624 --> 01:10:38,716
two days of goodness
so one day at a time
1805
01:10:38,735 --> 01:10:39,976
of getting to know each other
and not arguing
1806
01:10:40,128 --> 01:10:41,903
and being ourself.
1807
01:10:42,054 --> 01:10:43,404
- ♪ Lost in the moment ♪
1808
01:10:43,556 --> 01:10:45,222
♪ Here for the music ♪
1809
01:10:45,242 --> 01:10:46,407
♪ We're living this high ♪
1810
01:10:46,634 --> 01:10:48,910
♪ Dancing like nobody,
nobody ♪
1811
01:10:49,061 --> 01:10:50,970
♪ Nobody, nobody's watching ♪
1812
01:10:51,063 --> 01:10:53,081
- Watch out! Watch out!
Here he comes!
1813
01:10:53,308 --> 01:10:55,065
- I do enjoy spending time
with Mark,
1814
01:10:55,085 --> 01:10:57,810
but I've only seen glimpses
of the man I want.
1815
01:10:57,829 --> 01:10:59,829
I need to see it
with consistency.
1816
01:10:59,981 --> 01:11:01,739
But I am hopeful.
1817
01:11:01,833 --> 01:11:04,667
I'm just gonna take it one day
at a time and we'll see.
1818
01:11:04,819 --> 01:11:09,505
♪ ♪
1819
01:11:09,657 --> 01:11:12,508
[emotional music]
1820
01:11:12,660 --> 01:11:14,251
♪ ♪
1821
01:11:14,271 --> 01:11:16,512
- ♪ We stay up all night ♪
1822
01:11:16,664 --> 01:11:18,439
♪ ♪
1823
01:11:18,591 --> 01:11:21,609
♪ And talk until
the sun rises ♪
1824
01:11:21,836 --> 01:11:25,004
- It's officially three weeks
about an hour ago.
1825
01:11:25,023 --> 01:11:26,839
- So this is our
one-month anniversary?
1826
01:11:26,932 --> 01:11:28,265
- No, it's three weeks.
- Three weeks.
1827
01:11:28,285 --> 01:11:29,675
- It's usually four weeks.
- We have one more to go.
1828
01:11:29,694 --> 01:11:31,268
- Yeah.
[cork pops]
1829
01:11:31,288 --> 01:11:33,513
Jesus Christ.
1830
01:11:33,531 --> 01:11:36,365
[both laughing]
1831
01:11:36,518 --> 01:11:39,368
♪ ♪
1832
01:11:39,462 --> 01:11:40,962
I'm so glad you're safe.
1833
01:11:41,113 --> 01:11:42,297
That almost hit you
in the brain.
1834
01:11:42,524 --> 01:11:43,589
[both laugh]
1835
01:11:45,468 --> 01:11:47,969
- Thanks for setting up
this cute little ocean picnic.
1836
01:11:48,120 --> 01:11:49,453
It's so cute.
1837
01:11:49,472 --> 01:11:51,197
- Yeah, of course.
1838
01:11:51,215 --> 01:11:53,308
It's one way to celebrate
three weeks.
1839
01:11:53,535 --> 01:11:56,644
- Yeah, you're still liking
being married?
1840
01:11:56,796 --> 01:11:58,796
- Yeah. It's been going
pretty well, you know?
1841
01:11:58,815 --> 01:12:03,634
What's your favorite memory
of being married so far?
1842
01:12:03,653 --> 01:12:05,211
- Favorite memory.
1843
01:12:05,229 --> 01:12:07,713
Honeymoon was obviously
really fun.
1844
01:12:07,807 --> 01:12:09,732
I liked the waterfall adventure.
1845
01:12:09,884 --> 01:12:10,825
♪ ♪
1846
01:12:11,052 --> 01:12:11,826
[screams]
1847
01:12:12,053 --> 01:12:14,070
[both laugh]
1848
01:12:14,222 --> 01:12:15,888
♪ ♪
1849
01:12:15,907 --> 01:12:17,815
Yeah, the wedding
was obviously, like,
1850
01:12:17,909 --> 01:12:19,316
one of my favorite memories.
1851
01:12:19,410 --> 01:12:21,502
[whispers] What's your name?
- My name is Steve Moy.
1852
01:12:21,654 --> 01:12:24,063
[laughter]
1853
01:12:24,156 --> 01:12:26,341
- Rhymes with my first name,
Noi.
1854
01:12:26,568 --> 01:12:29,085
'Cause that's where I met you
and your family.
1855
01:12:29,179 --> 01:12:31,087
So that'll always be
a really special day.
1856
01:12:31,239 --> 01:12:32,738
- What's your favorite thing
since being home?
1857
01:12:32,832 --> 01:12:34,240
- I think just seeing you
every day.
1858
01:12:34,333 --> 01:12:36,667
I'm actually so used
to being by myself
1859
01:12:36,686 --> 01:12:38,744
and, like, really enjoy
my time by myself.
1860
01:12:38,763 --> 01:12:41,581
Even in, like,
my past relationships,
1861
01:12:41,674 --> 01:12:43,858
I would need like
a full day to myself.
1862
01:12:44,085 --> 01:12:46,677
And I haven't really felt
that way with you.
1863
01:12:46,771 --> 01:12:48,529
So that's a good sign, I think.
1864
01:12:48,756 --> 01:12:54,702
I believe that Steve
does see me on a soul level.
1865
01:12:54,854 --> 01:12:58,431
I think some things that
he maybe doesn't understand
1866
01:12:58,449 --> 01:13:01,283
are how I handle
different situations.
1867
01:13:01,378 --> 01:13:04,120
But even though he's trying
to navigate through that,
1868
01:13:04,214 --> 01:13:07,773
he still sees me.
1869
01:13:07,792 --> 01:13:09,942
He's really comfortable
to be around.
1870
01:13:09,961 --> 01:13:14,447
And his presence
makes me feel at ease.
1871
01:13:14,540 --> 01:13:16,206
What's your favorite part?
1872
01:13:16,226 --> 01:13:17,725
- Favorite part of the wedding
1873
01:13:17,877 --> 01:13:19,710
I have to say
it was the dancing.
1874
01:13:19,804 --> 01:13:21,971
You don't have to think about
anything. Just move and dance,
1875
01:13:22,123 --> 01:13:23,898
and, you know,
seeing you dance and all that.
1876
01:13:24,049 --> 01:13:25,549
I was just like,
"All right, good.
1877
01:13:25,568 --> 01:13:28,127
We can, I don't know,
just really enjoy that moment."
1878
01:13:28,146 --> 01:13:30,796
Honeymoon. Hmm.
1879
01:13:30,890 --> 01:13:32,815
I really did have fun
at the waterfall.
1880
01:13:32,967 --> 01:13:35,801
I felt like it was pretty funny
when the fish bit my toe.
1881
01:13:35,895 --> 01:13:37,060
- I'm not putting my ears
in the water.
1882
01:13:37,155 --> 01:13:38,246
- Just do it. Just put
your head into the water.
1883
01:13:38,473 --> 01:13:39,730
- Oh, okay.
1884
01:13:39,749 --> 01:13:40,915
Ahh! [laughs]
1885
01:13:43,903 --> 01:13:46,812
And one other thing I was
thinking of--
1886
01:13:46,906 --> 01:13:48,981
That first picnic
was on three days
1887
01:13:49,074 --> 01:13:53,486
and I wasn't really ready
to verbalize it.
1888
01:13:53,579 --> 01:13:57,765
But I think now
to bring it back here
1889
01:13:57,917 --> 01:14:00,083
and this picnic is
on three weeks,
1890
01:14:00,103 --> 01:14:03,829
I'm finally ready to
let you know that I love you.
1891
01:14:03,848 --> 01:14:05,440
[upbeat music]
1892
01:14:05,591 --> 01:14:08,668
- ♪ Love, yeah, love ♪
1893
01:14:08,686 --> 01:14:12,113
- What?
[both laugh]
1894
01:14:12,340 --> 01:14:13,614
You do?
1895
01:14:13,766 --> 01:14:17,118
- ♪ Love, yeah, love ♪
1896
01:14:17,269 --> 01:14:20,788
♪ It can save each one of us ♪
1897
01:14:20,940 --> 01:14:23,583
♪ This could be love ♪
1898
01:14:27,112 --> 01:14:29,021
- I don't know
if you officially told me
1899
01:14:29,114 --> 01:14:31,524
but I'll take that
as an official.
1900
01:14:31,617 --> 01:14:33,283
I mean, you said it
in other ways
1901
01:14:33,303 --> 01:14:35,636
but you didn't tell me
directly like that.
1902
01:14:35,788 --> 01:14:38,197
- ♪ This could be love ♪
1903
01:14:38,290 --> 01:14:41,625
- It's such a relief...
[laughs]
1904
01:14:41,719 --> 01:14:44,962
That he has finally said it.
1905
01:14:44,981 --> 01:14:47,982
It means a lot to me
that he would try to recreate
1906
01:14:48,209 --> 01:14:50,392
that moment during our honeymoon
1907
01:14:50,545 --> 01:14:52,803
because he knew
that I was disappointed
1908
01:14:52,822 --> 01:14:55,548
by what he said or didn't say.
1909
01:14:55,641 --> 01:14:57,566
- It feels good to finally
be able
1910
01:14:57,719 --> 01:15:00,310
to tell you that I love you.
- I love you too.
1911
01:15:00,330 --> 01:15:01,737
[both chuckle]
1912
01:15:01,889 --> 01:15:03,723
♪ ♪
1913
01:15:03,816 --> 01:15:05,249
- ♪ This could be love ♪
1914
01:15:09,488 --> 01:15:10,896
- ♪ Hey, let's get it ♪
1915
01:15:10,915 --> 01:15:13,007
- ♪ Oh, yeah, yeah ♪
1916
01:15:13,234 --> 01:15:16,177
- ♪ Here we go, baby ♪
- ♪ Ooh ♪
1917
01:15:16,328 --> 01:15:17,753
[music intensifies]
1918
01:15:17,847 --> 01:15:20,422
♪ We got this place
locked down tonight ♪
1919
01:15:20,575 --> 01:15:23,166
- Ooh, this is so pretty.
1920
01:15:23,261 --> 01:15:24,744
- Welcome, welcome.
1921
01:15:24,762 --> 01:15:26,245
- Hi.
- Hello.
1922
01:15:26,264 --> 01:15:28,689
My name is Chef O.
- Hello.
1923
01:15:28,841 --> 01:15:30,507
- And today,
I'm gonna teach you guys
1924
01:15:30,527 --> 01:15:32,918
how to cook
some of our favorites.
1925
01:15:32,937 --> 01:15:35,771
We have an appetizer.
That's coconut shrimp.
1926
01:15:35,865 --> 01:15:38,699
We're gonna do a Thai
basil rice with some salmon
1927
01:15:38,926 --> 01:15:40,034
that we have prepared
for you guys.
1928
01:15:40,261 --> 01:15:42,278
And we're going to do
a nice desert.
1929
01:15:42,372 --> 01:15:44,113
So I hope you guys are ready.
- Yes, I'm ready.
1930
01:15:44,207 --> 01:15:45,431
- Yes.
- Yes, yes.
1931
01:15:45,449 --> 01:15:47,524
- ♪ Oh, na, na, na, na ♪
1932
01:15:47,544 --> 01:15:49,952
She told me that she loves
seafood, she likes salmon.
1933
01:15:50,046 --> 01:15:51,604
We haven't had salmon
since we got married
1934
01:15:51,697 --> 01:15:52,863
and she keeps talking about
1935
01:15:52,882 --> 01:15:54,607
she wants to cook it,
she wants to cook it.
1936
01:15:54,625 --> 01:15:57,051
So today, I want to show her
that I'm gonna put
1937
01:15:57,202 --> 01:15:59,220
the same effort in as much
as I want from her.
1938
01:15:59,371 --> 01:16:02,056
- No shortcuts. I'ma show you
exactly how it's done, okay?
1939
01:16:02,283 --> 01:16:03,874
- You hear that, baby?
No shortcuts.
1940
01:16:03,968 --> 01:16:05,451
No shortcuts.
- Yeah, I heard.
1941
01:16:05,469 --> 01:16:06,619
- In the kitchen,
you can't start with shortcuts.
1942
01:16:06,712 --> 01:16:08,396
- I heard him.
[both laugh]
1943
01:16:08,623 --> 01:16:10,973
- I want my wife to be
on the same page as me.
1944
01:16:11,067 --> 01:16:12,291
Stop waiting for me
to tell you something.
1945
01:16:12,310 --> 01:16:14,235
Just do it. That's effort.
1946
01:16:15,738 --> 01:16:17,463
- And now the key part now
we gonna do
1947
01:16:17,556 --> 01:16:18,964
we gonna butterfly the shrimp.
1948
01:16:19,058 --> 01:16:20,132
So what I mean is we're going to
1949
01:16:20,225 --> 01:16:21,725
open it up just a little bit.
1950
01:16:21,819 --> 01:16:24,412
You're gonna take the knife
and you're gonna open it up.
1951
01:16:24,639 --> 01:16:27,564
- You make it look so easy.
- Yeah, that's true.
1952
01:16:27,658 --> 01:16:28,808
- You wanna try one?
1953
01:16:28,826 --> 01:16:29,992
♪ ♪
1954
01:16:30,144 --> 01:16:31,660
- I don't really enjoy cooking.
1955
01:16:31,813 --> 01:16:33,813
Like I will cook,
but it's not something
1956
01:16:33,906 --> 01:16:36,239
that's, like, I love to do.
1957
01:16:36,259 --> 01:16:39,260
So the fact that he is like,
"I'm gonna cook with you,"
1958
01:16:39,411 --> 01:16:40,820
I thought that was a good thing
1959
01:16:40,913 --> 01:16:42,004
that he's not sitting there
like,
1960
01:16:42,156 --> 01:16:43,264
"All right, now let me see
what you could do
1961
01:16:43,491 --> 01:16:45,007
'cause I've been
telling you to do this."
1962
01:16:45,101 --> 01:16:46,659
- Two more. Two more.
1963
01:16:46,677 --> 01:16:48,327
- You're taking notes--
- You want another one?
1964
01:16:48,346 --> 01:16:49,845
- I got you.
1965
01:16:49,939 --> 01:16:51,330
I want you to have the
best flavor you gonna taste.
1966
01:16:51,349 --> 01:16:52,998
- Okay.
1967
01:16:53,017 --> 01:16:55,109
- ♪ I can show you love,
love, love, baby ♪
1968
01:16:55,260 --> 01:16:58,003
♪ Come and hold me, show me ♪
1969
01:16:58,022 --> 01:16:59,521
- Cheers to it.
1970
01:16:59,674 --> 01:17:00,597
- Cheers.
1971
01:17:00,617 --> 01:17:02,358
- Ooh.
1972
01:17:02,452 --> 01:17:06,028
- ♪ You said that you'll be
there to hold me ♪
1973
01:17:06,122 --> 01:17:07,346
- Oh, man.
1974
01:17:07,439 --> 01:17:08,956
You cook like this
you have three rings
1975
01:17:09,108 --> 01:17:11,367
on your finger for real.
1976
01:17:11,519 --> 01:17:12,368
- You guys ready for round two?
1977
01:17:12,520 --> 01:17:14,687
- Yes. I am.
- I hope so.
1978
01:17:14,705 --> 01:17:17,539
[upbeat electronic music]
1979
01:17:17,692 --> 01:17:23,804
♪ ♪
1980
01:17:24,031 --> 01:17:25,288
- This is the sound
you wanna hear.
1981
01:17:25,308 --> 01:17:26,365
- Mmm.
1982
01:17:26,384 --> 01:17:29,034
♪ ♪
1983
01:17:29,128 --> 01:17:30,478
- Come on, baby. Look at that.
1984
01:17:30,629 --> 01:17:33,296
I know turn you on just doing
that little flicky flick.
1985
01:17:33,316 --> 01:17:35,557
- You know what-- [both laughs]
1986
01:17:35,652 --> 01:17:37,893
I know that cooking
is the way to his heart
1987
01:17:37,987 --> 01:17:40,154
which he has told me,
like, three or four times.
1988
01:17:40,381 --> 01:17:42,398
- Olajuwon loves a home-cooked
meal.
1989
01:17:42,550 --> 01:17:44,659
I hope you're no stranger
to the kitchen.
1990
01:17:44,810 --> 01:17:46,160
- So lets' just act it out.
Go over there, right?
1991
01:17:46,387 --> 01:17:47,995
By the oven.
I'ma sit right like this.
1992
01:17:48,222 --> 01:17:49,813
- What am I saying?
Want some bacon or sausage?
1993
01:17:49,832 --> 01:17:50,723
- I'm just trying to get
an image of this,
1994
01:17:50,741 --> 01:17:51,832
you know what I'm saying?
1995
01:17:51,984 --> 01:17:52,908
- You want some bacon
or sausage?
1996
01:17:53,060 --> 01:17:54,410
- This is a lifetime commitment.
1997
01:17:54,504 --> 01:17:57,079
I have, like, a level
for my wife and I expect like,
1998
01:17:57,173 --> 01:17:59,899
"Hey, you know, do you cook?
Like, we talked about it.
1999
01:17:59,917 --> 01:18:03,085
- I'm gonna make sure
that I do that for him
2000
01:18:03,179 --> 01:18:06,847
so it can be a yes on both ends
on Decision Day.
2001
01:18:08,851 --> 01:18:11,093
[laughs]
2002
01:18:11,245 --> 01:18:13,095
♪ ♪
2003
01:18:13,189 --> 01:18:16,081
- This is the happiness I need
within my food.
2004
01:18:16,175 --> 01:18:17,692
- Your reaction--you act like
2005
01:18:17,919 --> 01:18:20,269
I haven't fed you
in a week or something.
2006
01:18:20,363 --> 01:18:22,012
- No disrespect.
2007
01:18:22,031 --> 01:18:24,440
You haven't fed me on this
type of level since I met you.
2008
01:18:24,592 --> 01:18:26,608
♪ ♪
2009
01:18:26,761 --> 01:18:28,093
Oh, man.
2010
01:18:28,187 --> 01:18:31,521
I think Katina right now,
from what I see,
2011
01:18:31,615 --> 01:18:34,375
I think she worked on herself
independently as in, like,
2012
01:18:34,602 --> 01:18:36,026
"I don't want to go out
to the clubs no more.
2013
01:18:36,045 --> 01:18:38,195
I don't wanna drink.
I don't wanna be that woman."
2014
01:18:38,214 --> 01:18:41,607
But that doesn't mean that
you are ready for marriage.
2015
01:18:41,625 --> 01:18:44,276
What do you think of this
whole process and the food?
2016
01:18:44,295 --> 01:18:47,537
Is it something that
is able to be done at home?
2017
01:18:47,557 --> 01:18:48,889
- The salmon,
2018
01:18:49,116 --> 01:18:51,041
I could definitely
cook salmon for sure.
2019
01:18:51,060 --> 01:18:52,560
- I gotta have an answer
for myself--
2020
01:18:52,787 --> 01:18:56,731
Is she enough woman
for me as a wife?
2021
01:18:56,958 --> 01:18:59,549
- I do feel as though
I am putting effort
2022
01:18:59,569 --> 01:19:04,296
but I can see the areas
where you do put more than me.
2023
01:19:04,389 --> 01:19:06,148
- Like, you're still learning.
2024
01:19:06,242 --> 01:19:08,467
You're still learning.
2025
01:19:08,560 --> 01:19:10,560
And there's nothing wrong
with that
2026
01:19:10,580 --> 01:19:13,472
'cause there's things in other
fields I'm still learning.
2027
01:19:13,491 --> 01:19:14,749
♪ ♪
2028
01:19:14,900 --> 01:19:17,326
But when it comes to a marriage,
2029
01:19:17,420 --> 01:19:19,402
those are some of these things
that are things
2030
01:19:19,422 --> 01:19:21,163
that I expect
to be already there.
2031
01:19:21,315 --> 01:19:23,983
I'm trying to figure out
if you have that base.
2032
01:19:24,001 --> 01:19:26,001
That's really what I'm trying
to figure out right now.
2033
01:19:26,153 --> 01:19:28,170
I have achieved big things.
2034
01:19:28,322 --> 01:19:30,823
Again, I bought a home
on my own. I paid off...
2035
01:19:30,916 --> 01:19:32,099
- Right.
- My student loans.
2036
01:19:32,326 --> 01:19:33,325
I don't have
these problems anymore.
2037
01:19:33,344 --> 01:19:34,660
- Mm-hmm.
2038
01:19:34,678 --> 01:19:36,086
- And you're still working
on those things.
2039
01:19:36,105 --> 01:19:38,163
And there's nothing wrong--
You're bettering yourself.
2040
01:19:38,182 --> 01:19:41,517
But I'm trying to figure out
what can my wife do
2041
01:19:41,669 --> 01:19:45,613
independently that I can say
on a wife level,
2042
01:19:45,840 --> 01:19:48,783
I'm satisfied,
do you get what I'm saying?
2043
01:19:49,010 --> 01:19:51,452
- I think I need to know
what are you seeking
2044
01:19:51,679 --> 01:19:53,529
on a wife level
that you feel like--
2045
01:19:53,623 --> 01:19:54,863
- Just basics.
2046
01:19:55,016 --> 01:19:56,957
Like, I felt like
you didn't apply enough
2047
01:19:57,109 --> 01:19:59,293
to the house warming.
2048
01:19:59,444 --> 01:20:01,036
Because the food,
your friends got.
2049
01:20:01,130 --> 01:20:02,855
Cool. You called them
but you didn't grab it.
2050
01:20:02,948 --> 01:20:04,131
Your friends went and got it.
2051
01:20:04,283 --> 01:20:06,041
They brought that.
I heard you--
2052
01:20:06,135 --> 01:20:07,526
- I would've done it.
2053
01:20:07,619 --> 01:20:08,877
- Would have, should have,
could have.
2054
01:20:09,030 --> 01:20:10,638
But you didn't and you--
- I think you're being--
2055
01:20:10,789 --> 01:20:12,122
- As your husband--
As your husband,
2056
01:20:12,141 --> 01:20:13,641
that's why I stepped up
and I said, you know what?
2057
01:20:13,792 --> 01:20:15,142
I'll handle the chicken.
2058
01:20:15,294 --> 01:20:16,718
- Everything that those
girls did,
2059
01:20:16,871 --> 01:20:18,795
I told them to do all that.
2060
01:20:18,889 --> 01:20:21,131
I just physically did not do it
2061
01:20:21,150 --> 01:20:24,151
because I was at the apartment,
we had to go shopping.
2062
01:20:24,303 --> 01:20:25,894
I did the decorations.
2063
01:20:26,047 --> 01:20:27,822
And then even when--
- Katina, let me stop you
2064
01:20:27,973 --> 01:20:29,381
'cause you're not even
comfortable what you just said.
2065
01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:30,732
- I am co--
2066
01:20:30,885 --> 01:20:32,384
- I was with you when
we did the shopping
2067
01:20:32,403 --> 01:20:34,887
and I was with you when--
Hold on--when we decorated.
2068
01:20:34,980 --> 01:20:36,497
She put effort into
my house warming
2069
01:20:36,724 --> 01:20:38,557
because we went
and got the stuff
2070
01:20:38,576 --> 01:20:40,576
but I absolutely believe
that she can do more.
2071
01:20:40,670 --> 01:20:42,152
[tense music]
2072
01:20:42,171 --> 01:20:44,746
What I'm trying to say
is that you try--
2073
01:20:44,899 --> 01:20:46,081
You say you orchestrated
and made
2074
01:20:46,233 --> 01:20:47,749
this whole thing happen,
correct?
2075
01:20:47,902 --> 01:20:48,992
- Yes.
2076
01:20:49,011 --> 01:20:51,570
- What part did you do
on your own?
2077
01:20:51,589 --> 01:20:52,847
You work at home.
2078
01:20:53,074 --> 01:20:54,682
You did not physically
get out of the house
2079
01:20:54,833 --> 01:20:56,499
and go get these things.
2080
01:20:56,594 --> 01:20:58,018
So well, hold on, hold.
2081
01:20:58,245 --> 01:21:00,688
So when we talk about
a wife level,
2082
01:21:00,839 --> 01:21:03,415
this is what I look at because--
2083
01:21:03,508 --> 01:21:05,084
I'm telling you how I feel.
- I know--
2084
01:21:05,102 --> 01:21:07,344
- I need to see
where you are as a woman.
2085
01:21:07,438 --> 01:21:08,921
[music winds down]
2086
01:21:08,939 --> 01:21:11,031
♪ ♪
2087
01:21:11,258 --> 01:21:13,016
If you don't want to cook,
what are you gonna do?
2088
01:21:13,110 --> 01:21:15,427
Are you gonna clean?
2089
01:21:15,446 --> 01:21:17,020
I can't settle with somebody
2090
01:21:17,114 --> 01:21:20,766
if I think they don't have
a base on just being an adult
2091
01:21:20,784 --> 01:21:22,935
because they don't have
enough life experience.
2092
01:21:22,953 --> 01:21:25,379
And that's the disconnection
that I'm having with you.
2093
01:21:25,606 --> 01:21:27,773
That's how I've truly feel
inside with me.
2094
01:21:27,866 --> 01:21:30,885
I care for you so much
but it bothers me
2095
01:21:31,036 --> 01:21:32,553
because I don't know
where you stand.
2096
01:21:32,704 --> 01:21:34,296
I have to see
what you picked up.
2097
01:21:34,390 --> 01:21:36,539
What does my wife can--
Is she a fast learner?
2098
01:21:36,559 --> 01:21:38,967
I need to know
who I'm married to.
2099
01:21:39,061 --> 01:21:42,062
[sirens blaring]
2100
01:21:42,289 --> 01:21:44,064
- You know what?
I need a break. I do.
2101
01:21:44,216 --> 01:21:46,308
- That's what I'm saying.
I get where it's coming from.
2102
01:21:46,460 --> 01:21:47,793
I hear what you're coming from.
I really do.
2103
01:21:47,886 --> 01:21:49,403
I'm not saying
you don't have it.
2104
01:21:49,630 --> 01:21:51,071
I'm not saying
you don't have it, Katina,
2105
01:21:51,298 --> 01:21:53,390
but I have to be real with you
at the same time.
2106
01:21:53,409 --> 01:21:56,059
As much as I'm loving you,
I gotta be real with you.
2107
01:21:56,153 --> 01:21:58,913
I have to keep you grounded
because I have to make sure
2108
01:21:59,140 --> 01:22:01,640
that I know when
I say yes on Decision Day,
2109
01:22:01,659 --> 01:22:03,659
I know you could hold
this [bleep] down.
2110
01:22:03,811 --> 01:22:04,977
Even if I break my leg,
2111
01:22:05,070 --> 01:22:07,254
I know you can get things
done without me.
2112
01:22:07,406 --> 01:22:09,406
I can't say that
about you right now.
2113
01:22:09,425 --> 01:22:12,167
- I don't really know
what else to say other than,
2114
01:22:12,319 --> 01:22:15,671
like, I guess only time
could tell 'cause--
2115
01:22:15,823 --> 01:22:17,264
- Yeah, only time could tell
because really--
2116
01:22:17,416 --> 01:22:18,915
- I can't--
I'm not gonna sit here
2117
01:22:18,935 --> 01:22:20,826
and be like, I'm woman enough.
Like I'm not doing that.
2118
01:22:20,844 --> 01:22:22,085
- No, you don't need to.
You don't need to.
2119
01:22:22,179 --> 01:22:23,512
- I'm never gonna do that.
2120
01:22:23,664 --> 01:22:24,997
- But I'm not telling you
to do that, Katina.
2121
01:22:25,015 --> 01:22:31,946
♪ ♪
2122
01:22:39,513 --> 01:22:41,863
- I wanted to be
married so much.
2123
01:22:42,016 --> 01:22:47,461
♪ ♪
2124
01:22:47,612 --> 01:22:49,463
It just makes me feel bad.
2125
01:22:52,209 --> 01:22:54,635
♪ ♪
2126
01:22:56,530 --> 01:22:58,714
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight."
2127
01:22:58,866 --> 01:22:59,881
- ♪ Ready, set, go ♪
2128
01:22:59,976 --> 01:23:01,383
[laughter]
2129
01:23:01,535 --> 01:23:03,293
- There you go. There you go.
There you go.
2130
01:23:03,387 --> 01:23:04,961
- Come on, Olajuwon.
2131
01:23:05,055 --> 01:23:06,963
- What are you doing, yo?
2132
01:23:07,057 --> 01:23:09,466
- Mm.
- [laughs]
2133
01:23:09,485 --> 01:23:13,378
- We should have sex
in a public place.
2134
01:23:13,397 --> 01:23:14,321
[both laugh]
2135
01:23:14,473 --> 01:23:15,823
- If I'm being honest,
2136
01:23:15,974 --> 01:23:17,307
my vagina not
getting wet for you.
2137
01:23:17,326 --> 01:23:19,142
[dramatic music]
2138
01:23:19,236 --> 01:23:22,162
- Something has to change
because this isn't sustainable.
2139
01:23:22,389 --> 01:23:24,223
- I felt like,
"Oh, he's really passionate.
2140
01:23:24,316 --> 01:23:25,907
He could probably handle me."
2141
01:23:26,002 --> 01:23:27,668
Doesn't look like it.
2142
01:23:27,819 --> 01:23:29,561
- It's just his tone.
2143
01:23:29,580 --> 01:23:31,580
Like, I feel like someone's
beating up on me.
2144
01:23:31,674 --> 01:23:33,915
It just makes me feel like
I'm not good enough.
2145
01:23:34,068 --> 01:23:38,804
♪ ♪