- Ah, [bleep].
As long as I can remember, I've wanted to have a wife.
- [burps] Sorry.
Gotta get that last bit out before I become a lady.
- Just over two weeks ago,
ten singles took an audacious leap of faith
in order to find love.
- Michael. - How are you?
- They married as complete strangers.
[cheers and applause]
- Oh, my God.
I can't believe I'm somebody's wife.
- ♪ I keep spending every dollar ♪
- Last time, most of our couples
took another step closer as they shared time
with their friends and families.
- Hey.
♪ ♪
- Katina and Olajuwon.
- Like, when I have my little tantrums,
you have not slipped on me. - She's very patient.
- If he's acting hot and out of place, just keep calm.
- Let him take a moment and calm down.
- Jasmina and Michael.
- Honeymoon was a lot of ups and downs
but we decided to just, you know, start all over,
re-introduce ourself and not, like, hold anything
against each other. - Any grudges.
- Okay. We love a reset.
- Yeah. - Mm-hmm.
- Alyssa and Chris.
- When Pastor Cal came,
we landed on getting divorced.
[dramatic music]
- I know that I tried my best.
Um...
[sighs]
♪ ♪
- Noi and Steve.
- If you need time, by all means ask for it.
Communicate that to me.
You shouldn't post it and be like,
"This relationship's not working."
- Yeah, I probably shouldn't be sharing it with the public.
- Lindsey and Mark.
- You shouldn't have said that.
- I don't like to brush things under the rug.
I like to direct-- - Okay, well, this is a team
and if you can't get that, this isn't gonna work.
- I'm not a team for you when I put my [bleep]
hazmat suit on and give up a day of work?
- Okay, I'm good. I'm good. - You're asking about a team.
- I'm good. Have another drink.
I just can't-- I can't do this anymore.
♪ ♪
- ♪ So here I go ♪
- And tonight with just 5 1/2 weeks
until Decision Day,
our couples examine just what it will take
to fall in love.
- We're gonna do some squats. - Jasmina doesn't work out.
- We gonna go like this? - Mm-mm.
- No? That's not a sq--
- So her being a personal trainer is hilarious to me.
I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that.
- I'm gonna order the raw stuff for you.
- Wait, wait, wait, wait. You don't have to do that.
Oh. - Don't look at it.
Just eat it. - Wait a minute.
I think this thing should go back on the ocean.
- Do you think you are beginning to fall in love?
- So no, love is not on the table.
[dramatic music]
- Just because we're married,
it doesn't mean it's gonna work.
- You should know how to communicate
when we're in the same spot.
- Calm down. That's not a way to talk to me.
♪ ♪
- I'm telling you that I'm not satisfied.
- You say to me I say things that make you hurt
and you say stuff that annoys the [bleep]
out of me but you're not aware of it.
- Uh-uh. I'm done putting myself second.
Now I'm first. Now you gotta earn me.
- I can't settle with somebody
if I think they don't have a base on just being an adult.
- You know what? I need a break.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
[up-tempo rock with bagpipes]
♪ ♪
- I am at the supermarket.
I am getting ready to go food shopping for me and my husband.
I am used to just shopping for myself.
I'm not used to having to shop for a man
and especially someone who wants everything from scratch.
I go out to eat usually so it's definitely a transition for me.
Hopefully he's not on my back
when I get back that I didn't get enough stuff.
- With one couple already having chosen divorce,
our remaining four couples have been married
to each other for just over two weeks
and are fully submerged in married life
for better or worse.
- Hi, guys.
♪ ♪
I like my bacon really crispy.
- Between work, family, and friends
juggling everyday life with a brand-new spouse
can be a lot to get used to.
- So many cats.
- So I'm here trying to design this bandana for Feeny.
♪ ♪
That's how it came out. Not too bad.
- For most couples, love is already the bond
that holds them together as they navigate
through the challenges that come their way.
But for our couples, the process of building
and sustaining that critical connection begins now
because in just 5 1/2 weeks,
they're going to have to decide
whether they're going to stay married or get a divorce.
- ♪ We've been through it all ♪
♪ But I still got you ♪
- Couples that get married at first sight
are often surprised at the challenges they face
in their journey to lifelong love.
So we've encouraged all of our couples
to plan special dates to ignite a spark
that will hopefully lead them in the right direction
for a long and successful marriage.
[rhythmic pop music]
♪ ♪
- I woke up to an empty apartment
with just Sushi next to me and my wife is gone.
And I get a text from Noi saying,
"Meet me at the park by a sign."
♪ ♪
"Hi, Hubby. I've planned an adventure for you
"so get ready and give it a shot.
"Your next clue is hidden in a game that requires
two players to start in love."
Well, it's probably not baseball.
Uh, must be the tennis court.
♪ ♪
It looks like I'm on a treasure hunt to find my wife.
"These are colorful and near.
"Remember when we went to Ward's Berry Farm
"and you tucked one behind my ear?
♪ ♪
- How do I look? - There you go. It's great.
Probably the garden.
♪ ♪
- I appreciate Steve so much
and I see where I can make improvements
to help him feel more appreciated.
- "Your next clue is hidden in your favorite sport."
- So I set up the scavenger hunt
and I thought it'd be really cute
for me to incorporate some of our memories together.
- "On our wedding day, we said our 'I dos'
with a scenic view of this."
- Steve, do you take Noi to be your lawfully wedded wife?
- I do.
♪ ♪
- I just want him to know
that I am incredibly grateful for him.
- "This was one of the first photos we took together
"on our wedding day
"when we gathered with our families
to create our new family tree."
So maybe by the trees.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
"I will soon be found.
All you have to do is turn around."
♪ ♪
- Hello.
- I found your treasures.
- ♪ You make me wanna fly ♪
♪ I'm diving with my eyes closed ♪
- How was it?
- It was good. I found 'em. It took a little while.
♪ ♪
Is that what you were doing all morning?
- Yeah. [both laugh]
You found me. - I did.
Where have you been this whole time?
Over here somewhere, stashed away?
I'm happy that my wife put this together for me.
You know, I love adventures.
I love random things
and I love thoughtful gifts, essentially.
So it really makes me feel like I have a special wife
and it makes me feel connected with her,
especially after going through some challenges
and being reminded that we're doing well
and we're in a good place.
- Did you think that was cute?
- Well, I think everything you do is cute.
- ♪ You make me love you crazy ♪
[up-tempo music]
- ♪ You know what you do to me ♪
♪ Come and make a move on me ♪
♪ ♪
- [indistinct]
- Cool. Thanks.
- How was your day?
- Pretty good. Thanks.
- How were the cats today?
- I don't know. I wasn't home. - Oh.
Nobody's dead.
- That's always a good thing.
- I'm so irritated at Mark.
I really just need Mark to say,
"I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings"
or "I care about you."
And it's just irritating to me.
I'm just waiting for the next...
explosion.
[silverware clinking]
- How is it?
- Good.
[tense electronic music]
♪ ♪
[shaker grinding]
♪ ♪
[grinding continues]
♪ ♪
- So what'd you do all day?
- Work.
- Oh, yeah? - Yeah.
- How was that?
- Good.
[silverware clinking]
- You?
- It was good.
♪ ♪
We're not meshing well. We're not clicking.
We both have an ideal as to what we like and want.
And if we don't feel that we have it,
that causes tension.
♪ ♪
- Pretty good at bowling.
- You? Yeah. - You.
- No. - No?
- Not really. It's beginner's luck.
- [snorts]
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- Do you feel that you were out of line last night?
- No, I feel like any time we have a good time
and we're having fun,
you're just, like, so negative and such a Debbie Downer.
You are literally constantly like,
"You're not this, I'm not that, this isn't that, this is mine,
"I need this, I need--I, I, I.
You're not. You are. I'm not."
And I'm like, when are you gonna just start, you know,
giving me any affirmation or kindness?
Like, I'm trying to be supportive of you
and kind to you and I feel like
we have these great times and fun,
and then you go ahead and do something
and I'm like, "I don't even know who you are."
I don't know who to trust.
What you're showing me and then what you're giving me
are two completely different things.
Literally, I have no idea what's going on.
I am very upset with you.
- Same.
- I have, like, literally flipped my off switch on you.
- Okay.
I mean, I'm not trying to argue with you but--
- You're not trying to do anything with me.
- You're really positive.
I don't know how you can't see--
- 'Cause I feel like I've just absorbed
your toxic sludge for weeks now.
- Same. Same. - For weeks.
No, you're so negative.
- Me? - Yes.
And your life is in chaos and you're always complaining.
- It's really not.
- Mark, when are you gonna get some awareness about that?
- All right.
Okay.
♪ ♪
- I need Mark to, like,
come to his senses a little bit
and realize what he's doing and how it's affecting me.
He's so focused on how things are affecting him.
He's forgetting there's another person in this marriage now.
And I'm so concerned on how he's being affected
I've kind of put myself second.
And now I'm like, "Uh-uh, I'm done putting myself second.
Now I'm first. Now you gotta earn me."
And like, I don't know if you can.
You might be out of your league, buddy.
I'm telling you that I'm not satisfied.
- Okay. - Right now I'm very unhappy.
- Same. Same. Same. - Okay.
Can you just listen? You're always jumping in.
- Sure. Okay.
- I'm telling you... - Yeah.
- That I am still upset with you.
I thought we had a moment last night
where we were finally having fun.
- We did.
- And then I realized that's not Mark.
That's Mark on camera. - Oh, you--
- That isn't Mark.
- I--I-- - Who is it?
- Stop with the camera stuff.
- Who are you? - I know who I am.
- I don't. - Okay. Then you don't then.
- I don't. - You don't pay attention.
You're not aware. - I don't think you know
who you are. - You're not aware.
You're not aware of what you say
and I'm not aware sometimes of what I say
and that's the problem. - Mark--
- You say to me I say things that make you hurt
and you say stuff that annoys the [bleep] out of me
but you're not aware of it.
- Yeah, but Mark,
I'm sick of feeling like I'm bending over backwards
to be gracious to you and kind to you.
And I'm trying to be so empathetic of you.
This whole time, during all your bull[bleep],
I've been like, "I think Mark deserves this kindness
"because Mark seems like a really genuine and kind guy
"and I feel like he's going through a hard time.
And I want to be his wife and support him."
And I am so frustrated because I feel like
you are literally sabotaging yourself
and treating me poorly right now.
I feel unappreciated and uncared for.
Why am I here?
I'm not sure.
Why am I trying so hard for somebody
who's treating me not great right now?
What do you like about me?
♪ ♪
'Cause it doesn't seem like there's anything.
♪ ♪
- I feel unappreciated and uncared for.
Why am I here?
I'm not sure.
Why am I trying so hard for somebody
who's treating me not great right now?
What do you like about me?
♪ ♪
'Cause it doesn't seem like there's anything.
At all. - You want me to tell you?
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- I think you have an incredible, loving person
buried inside of you.
- That's insulting. That's a dig.
- It's not taking a dig. - That's a dig.
- It's not taking a dig.
I think you have this incredible love inside--
I said this is at the wedding to you and you were like,
"Huh. Interesting. You noticed that."
- Oh, it's just buried deep inside.
- I think you have this incredible love
inside of you that I think that sometimes it's hard to show.
I think you have a tough exterior.
- You don't think I've showed you
nothing but kindness and love?
- I think you have shown me your way that is--
Like, I think you have done nurturing things.
I think you take care of the cats.
I think you were there for my mom the first week.
I think you do a lot of good things.
There's nothing bad about you.
I've never said I don't like you.
I simply say
that we have a difficulty with our personalities
because you're not feeling love and affection from me.
I feel sometimes condescending tone
and talks and stuff like that.
And that's where we're mixing the signals.
That's where we're not getting to the next page.
I think that we both like each other
and we both see good things in each other
and it's just our communication skills.
And our communication together has to improve
for us to get to the next week.
- I think I just got put in a place
where it's not just the communication for me
and it's wearing on me and I gotta be honest with you.
I've got a lot less hope today than I have ever had before.
Like, I came right into the marriage at 100%
and you kept pulling back and pulling back and pulling back.
And now I'm at 1%.
You've really turned your nose up at the 99
and I don't wanna give it to you anymore.
- Well, 1% is better than zero.
♪ ♪
We can communicate better.
We can grow on that. - Mm.
- But if we can't understand each other,
then it's just not gonna work.
♪ ♪
- Okay, so we'll see.
- ♪ Karma goes around and around and around ♪
♪ And it's coming for you ♪
[bird chirps]
- ♪ What's this? ♪
♪ I got my dark eyes ♪
♪ Look here, now ♪
♪ I'm not nobody's wife ♪
- This is cute.
♪ ♪
Thank you.
- I set up a picnic for me, Jasmina, and Feeny
as a way to spend some more time with Jasmina,
get to know her a little better.
I also know how much Feeny means to Jasmina
so I wanted to see if I can, you know,
build a stronger bond with him to let her know that
if Feeny is important to her,
he's going to be important to me too.
- What's this? - I don't know. You tell me.
- So I'm automatically like, "Oh, my God, he got me a gift."
- Feeny, sit.
- Feeny, you got a toy.
[laughs]
It's gifts for Feeny.
Aww.
Which is honestly even better and it makes me very happy
to see that he's doing things for my dog
because Feeny is a very big part of my life.
Oh, my God. - [laughs]
Aw, this is so nice. - So put that on him.
Put that on him. Put that on. - Look.
- See if it fits. - It says "dog meets world."
This is so cute.
- So I know how much Feeny means to you
and it's important for me to have, you know,
a good relationship with Feeny as well
and for us to bond,
get him to listen to me. - [laughs]
- Let me see if I can do a command.
- You have to have a treat. - All right.
Okay. Ready? - All right, Feeny.
Don't embarrass me.
[clears throat] Paw.
[Feeny panting]
- [laughs] - [clears throat]
I gotta put some more bass in my voice.
Paw.
♪ ♪
What am I doing wrong?
- [laughs] - Feeny.
Feeny.
- Probably also let him see it, that you have it.
- See the treat? - Yes.
- Paw.
Paw.
Hah. Good paw. - [laughs]
Good boy.
Aww.
- One of the things I've been trying to figure out, right?
It's 'cause I remember back in the honeymoon,
both times where we had, like, issues with communication...
specifically how you felt like I was speaking to you...
- Mm-hmm. - Had to do with trying
to address things that I didn't like or appreciate or whatever.
So I'm trying to figure out what's the best way
to communicate to you in those moments?
- The best way to communicate to me
is to talk to me and both times,
you weren't talking to me. You were talking at me.
You were telling me what I needed to do
and you were using a tone.
- So let's-- - So the best way
is to have a conversation like this
not to raise your voice.
Say you need space, you need a breather,
you need to go into the other room and calm down
before we continue the conversation.
So it's not like what way do I need to talk to you,
it's just you just need to talk to me.
[plucky music]
- I feel like we both were speaking at a tone
that was higher than usually we'd speak.
Do you agree with that?
- I agree with that. - Yeah.
- But what I'm saying to you is you would have never
got that tone out of me if you didn't listen to me
when I asked you to not speak that way.
I wouldn't have went there if you didn't just hear my signs
and read the room that that's not a way to talk to me.
And that's just...
it's basic knowledge
on how to have a conversation with someone
and, you know, hear each other out.
- I'm asking you how do I communicate with you better
and you keep telling me that communication is normal,
you should know how to have a conversation with somebody.
That doesn't help us.
- That does-- Mike, how do you not know
how to have a basic conversation
and hear the other person talk?
- But basic is specific to how you were brought up,
how you speak to your friends or family
or the places that you've been in.
For me, the way I speak
and where I communicate with other people may be okay.
But if I'm with you and telling you,
"Help me communicate with you better,"
and all you say is, "You should know how to communicate,"
well, we're in the same spot.
I'm telling you to help me. - Calm down.
- I'm not--you see? You said "calm down."
I'm just speaking passionately. - Well, you can calm down.
You're saying, "I'm telling you to help me."
You can talk. - I'm not upset.
- Okay. It doesn't matter if you're not upset.
You're getting annoyed.
- And that's okay 'cause that's a human emotion.
I'm not a robot. - Okay.
But don't talk to me like that. Just relax.
You were getting annoyed.
It could have went to another place.
It's like, "No, we can just calm back down."
Okay. I see you're annoyed. Okay.
Let's both calm down and just talk.
- Yeah.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
I hear you.
♪ ♪
So today was supposed to be a positive day
so I didn't expect it to take a left turn.
We still have a lot of communication issues
and a lot of things that we need to address and unpack.
But it's gonna be a journey and I'm hoping that
this was a step in the right direction.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I can give you everything you could dream of ♪
♪ Keep you coming back ♪
♪ Keep you wanting my touch all day ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Don't hold it back ♪
♪ Say so ♪
- Thank you for helping me cut the plantains earlier.
- Yeah, no doubt. No doubt.
Were you surprised I helped you cut 'em?
- I was surprised.
You saw me struggling cutting it.
- Why was you surprised?
- You know, you were a little--
We were both upset with each other...
from last night to this morning, right?
- Yeah.
What is the definition of a wife to you?
I just want to know.
Maybe we have two different definitions.
♪ ♪
- I mean, it's someone who's a partner, your partner.
- Yeah.
- You know, I'm your support system.
But I don't like that question because I just--
You explained to me that you wanted me to cook more
and you felt like I wasn't cooking more
and I wasn't stepping up to the plate with my work duties.
- No, it is more than that.
It's just more than that, Katina.
Do you see when--
When we had our house warming? - Mm.
- Did you see how at the end of the night
when everybody was leaving and then I say,
"Hey, do you want to, like--let's clean up."
[clears throat] And you say...
"I only wanna clean half the floor."
Do you feel where I come from? Seriously.
As an adult when it's time to clean up
and you see your husband saying,
"Hey, let's clean" -- Because was I not cleaning?
- You--
- Could please not roll your eyes
because I'm trying to talk with you
and I'm not trying to talk at you.
- Okay. Sorry I rolled my eyes. Okay.
- So when it's time to clean up, right?
I said, "Hey, let's clean up," and I was cleaning
and you said, "I wanna clean half the floor."
- Mm-hmm.
- And I said, "Oh, let's clean the floor"
and you made a little babble about it
so I said, "You know what? You go to sleep."
Who sat out here and cleaned the floor for you?
♪ ♪
Where is my other half?
♪ ♪
When I say I want a wife,
I want somebody who's going to be whole like,
"Hey, my husband is stepping up
"and he wants to clean this together
"and I'm not gonna let him fall
and go to bed while he's sitting here cleaning."
♪ ♪
I came to this marriage for a wife,
not to help somebody grow as an individual.
You think it's just food but it's bigger than that.
You are my wife. I'm not your boyfriend.
I'm not your friend. I have a ring on my finger.
Understand what this means.
- I hear you. I do. - Okay. Okay.
♪ ♪
When I envisioned my marriage,
I did expect that obviously, you know,
every man wants a wife who's gonna do certain things,
which I am happy and ready to sign up for.
But I wasn't, I guess, expecting the fact
that I would not be meeting someone else's standards.
- When you don't put that much effort,
that [bleep] bothers me.
- I wasn't expecting this.
♪ ♪
- ♪ You could be the one to break my resolve ♪
♪ Solve these lonely nights and fights with myself ♪
♪ Try not to mingle ♪
♪ It's so hard staying single ♪
- Hey, we had another first. - Hmm.
- Our first ordered meal. - Oh. [laughs]
- Our first takeout. - This is our first takeout.
- I had in my head that once we moved in,
I was gonna cook at some point.
- Oh. - At some point.
- Continue, continue. - [laughs] What?
It just hasn't happened 'cause we keep getting takeout.
- Most often, first comes love and then comes marriage.
But for our couples who met at the altar as strangers,
they're still navigating through a lot
of first experiences together.
- How do you like your hamburgers?
- Like medium, medium well.
- Okay.
- And love may be slower to grow.
Love is unlikely to appear out of thin air.
So if you do romantic things,
if you're open and honest with your spouse,
then you have the hope of creating those feelings.
[doorbell rings]
- What's happening?
- What is this? It's a bottle.
- So to help them explore the potential for love,
we've given them some deeper topics to discuss.
[up-tempo music]
♪ ♪
[plucky music]
- Okay. [laughs]
- [laughs]
- Have you been in love before?
- I have been in love before-- I think once.
♪ ♪
- Okay. - Have you?
- Yeah, I feel like I've been in love several times.
- Hmm.
- Yeah. Great.
- Like, how many times?
Just curious. - I feel like all my--
So I've had five serious relationships
and I feel like, I don't know,
I feel like I loved each one of them.
♪ ♪
- Okay.
That was kind of interesting
only because I feel like he's been kind of hesitant
to even have that discussion with me.
Whereas, like, I've been pretty comfortable
in saying that to him.
One of the questions was "Do you feel like
you're falling in love with Steve?"
And I said that I feel like it's slowly happening.
[waves crashing]
- What do you think it takes for you to fall in love?
- I think really seeing how that person shows up for me,
like, in times where I'm having a hard time.
So when things aren't necessarily fun.
And when I see how my partner
shows up for me in those moments,
that's really how I know...
I guess, that I love them.
♪ ♪
- For me, I think it's more about, like...
♪ ♪
Feeling comfortable expressing it, right?
If I'm at a point where it's like,
"Oh, I want to say it or I feel it,"
and I'm close enough with somebody that, you know,
I have a strong enough connection
and I feel comfortable expressing it
then at that point, I feel like--
I mean, a lot has to happen to get there for sure.
You know, building trust and just building a bond.
But I think once I feel it and I feel like I'm ready
to say it that's when I'm--yeah.
- That when you know? - That's when I know.
That's what it takes for me. - Mm-hmm.
- Do you still feel like it's too soon for you
to talk about those things or you're not ready
or you're still, like, not ready?
- I think we're getting closer for sure.
I think we're uncovering what's necessary in this marriage.
- No, are you? I mean, like, I'm comfortable.
- Well, when I say "we," I mean, I'm included in that.
♪ ♪
- Okay. [both laugh]
Like, how do you feel though?
That was, like, my question.
- Yeah, I mean, I guess I'm sort of
saying the same thing here.
Like, we're coming a long way.
[tense music]
- I know I'm at the point in my life
where I'm just not afraid to--
Like, if I'm feeling...
I'm feeling like I'm falling in love
or I feel in love, like, I don't wanna wait
to tell the person that I'm with
how I really feel because I just feel like--
Like we don't really have time to waste, especially now.
♪ ♪
It's a little scary to think about the fact
that he is so nervous about saying it.
And I don't know why he's so apprehensive about it
because it seems like he has been comfortable
saying that to other people.
And I'm hoping that he will say it sooner than later
'cause I'm just concerned that if he keeps putting it off,
that, you know, he might start actually doubting
if he feels that way.
We've already made the big commitment
to each other, right?
- Yeah, we got married.
It's a pretty big commitment.
- So, like, what are we--
- There was a lot that needed to happen after that as well.
I mean, we're already watching one couple get a divorce.
Like, we need--
Like, just because we're married,
it doesn't mean it's gonna work.
We have to make it work.
We have to take the active steps
and put in the work to make it work.
And we have to want to do that.
So yes, we got married but that only goes so far.
It's a big step. It's an important one for sure,
but everything else that happens in between that
is really what is the most important.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
[emotional music]
- What do you think it takes for you to fall in love?
♪ ♪
- Devotion.
Just a commitment or straight loyalty.
♪ ♪
That's what it takes to fall in love.
- For me, I would say someone who supports me
and someone who's loyal,
understanding, who's patient.
And I'm big on, like, the person that I'm with
I want them to be my best friend.
Like, he's the first person I dial for, like, everything.
Nobody else.
♪ ♪
I do see the potential of me falling in love,
but I would say that we need to
still focus on this emotional connection.
I don't want to...
end up hurt.
And I don't want to be so vulnerable
that I ended up feeling like--
Making myself feel stupid, like, internally.
Like, "You should have been smarter than that."
I actually am more guarded than how I come off.
- Oh, I know you are.
Because you have no-- You're not--
Because you don't cry. - [laughs]
I do cry, but--
- When? - No, I'm saying--
- You didn't cry at the wedding.
You didn't cry at the honeymoon.
You leaned back. Your eyes was dry. When?
How much higher can I get? - [laughs]
I do cry but I do it in private.
- [laughs]
- I do. Like, you will--
Like, so my ex-boyfriend, right?
I used to cry all the time, all the time,
but it got to the point where he was--
He was, like, verbally abusive towards me.
[emotional music]
And when I would cry, he would be like,
"Oh, like you weak..." and, like, stuff.
And like, I just told myself
I would never cry these same tears ever again.
And ever since that relationship,
I just--I don't-- I just don't cry.
I just trained myself not to cry.
I don't know. I just am--
I guess I'm just kinda numb a little bit.
That's being honest with you. I'm just numb.
♪ ♪
- Don't let anybody dictate your future
or how you react to certain situations.
It's okay to cry. It is a human emotion.
If you don't cry, you're not human.
Everybody cries.
Hearing my wife say that she trained herself not to cry
says a lot.
One, that she's a strong, independent person,
but two, it tells me that also she's sheltered
and that could stop us expanding in our marriage.
- Do you think you are beginning to fall in love?
- I'll let you go first.
[sentimental music]
- I see the potential that you are someone
that I could fall in love with
but I like you-- - That's cool, baby.
You're falling in love.
I heard it. I heard it. I heard it.
[laughs]
- No, no. That's not what I said.
- I said there is potential... - I don't know. It's close.
- That it could happen. - Oh, you was close.
I thought you was about to say "love you."
Whoa. Whoa. - Mm-mm.
- [laughs]
- I ain't trying to scare you away.
♪ ♪
[laughs]
♪ ♪
What about you?
♪ ♪
- I say I like you. I definitely like you.
Falling in love is such a strong word to me.
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm not gonna say that.
[dramatic music]
So no, love is not on the table for me.
♪ ♪
- Mm-hmm. - And that's not a bad thing.
You're your own person. I'm my own person.
But I definitely like you. I definitely like you.
There's nothing wrong with that.
- Mm-hmm.
- I don't fall in love easily.
I don't know enough about my wife
to even say the word love.
The connection has to grow. Standards have to be met.
And we apply what we hear.
What the other one said that affects them.
I can't get over that.
Like, that has to be--
That's, like, literally has to be done
for any type of love of any of that to grow.
♪ ♪
- I think what will probably help you
is if I express myself more,
I think. - Yeah.
- If I'm less guarded with you. - Mm-hmm.
- And you know, also coming to the table with,
you know, these meals
and, you know, the cleaning and everything just showing you
that I'm taking this role as a wife seriously.
♪ ♪
- I have to see it to believe it.
I heard so many people, many women say things to me
and don't even take a step forward to what they say.
So I hope you take it serious.
I just gotta see it.
♪ ♪
- I got you.
- I hope so.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- How was your day?
♪ ♪
- [clears throat]
I didn't tell you.
Today's actually the anniversary
of my brother's passing.
- Oh. - Yeah.
[emotional music]
♪ ♪
So I went by the cemetery, showed my respects.
- I'm sorry. I didn't know that.
- Yeah.
It's okay. - How long has it been?
- It's been a minute. '99, '98.
- Did you go by yourself? - Yeah.
- I wish I would have known.
- Yeah. You was at work.
- Mike and I, we haven't really been speaking much in the house
since the picnic.
It's just, "Hey, how was your day?"
You know, type of conversations.
So I love the fact that
he just opened up to me about his brother.
So that makes me feel a little bit better
and connected to Michael.
What's the first question?
♪ ♪
- "Have you been in love before?"
♪ ♪
- Yes. I would say...
three times.
Three and a possible.
[both laugh]
- What about those relationships
made you feel like it was love?
- They just always just made me feel good about myself
and always treated me right and with respect
and we had a friendship first.
And I just knew it 'cause I would just be so giddy.
[laughs]
So what about you?
- I'ma say one and a possible. - [laughs] Okay.
- My possible is, like, high school.
Like, at that age, you don't even have an understanding.
Well, I didn't have an understanding
of what love really meant.
So that's my possible.
My other love, I would say other person I was in love
was my last relationship.
- How did you know you was in love?
- So I think because we had a foundation of friendship
kinda how you said. It's like I knew her.
I knew her triggers. I knew her past.
She knew my past so we really understood each other.
And I think that's what began, like,
the foundation of us being able to have,
you know, certain conversations
and me being able to be vulnerable.
♪ ♪
And it just grew from there.
- Yeah. Same. - Yeah.
♪ ♪
- What do you think it takes for you
to fall in love with someone?
- I have to be--
Be able to be vulnerable with somebody.
- Mm-hmm.
- I would say for me, it's never super-super easy
for me to be vulnerable with somebody
'cause, you know, as a man,
when you're vulnerable with somebody,
it can make you feel, like, weak.
So being able to have that comfortability with somebody
to where I'm not afraid to be vulnerable it's I would say
what propels me to fall in love with that person.
- Would you say you're vulnerable?
Right now.
- I don't think we've had conversations
that would show that.
[tense music]
- But what's stopping us from having those conversations
or what's stopping you from bringing up conversations
to be open, to be vulnerable,
to be comfortable? - Mm-hmm.
Um, I went into this saying
that I'm gonna be vulnerable day one.
- Okay.
- So this is new territory for me
'cause I would have-- I've never done that
to where I'm making a decision to be vulnerable
before I even am 100% comfortable with a person.
I have to make the decision for myself
that I'm going to be vulnerable day one.
- I'm hearing him but sometimes it's hard for me
to believe him when he says certain things
because it's like if that's the promise you made to yourself
then why haven't you taken those steps to be open
or be, you know, vulnerable?
♪ ♪
- [clears throat]
- ♪ I just wanna do something that I ain't never did ♪
♪ I just wanna ♪
[dynamic music]
♪ ♪
♪ I'll make it rain ♪
♪ ♪
- Is it too well done? Your--
♪ ♪
- Yes, but I'm still very grateful that you cooked.
- It's too chewy? - And I enjoy it.
- Is it too chewy? - It's like leather
but I am still very grateful you--
[clears throat] Hold on. - [chuckles]
♪ ♪
- I still appreciate that you cooked.
- Today, things are going pretty good.
It's been a really rough couple days,
but I think we had a breakthrough moment.
I was able to communicate things I think are going on
with Lindsey and I wanted to talk about it
so that she knows I understand her.
So I think if she knows I understand her,
we can communicate differently
to be able to have better days.
So I'm trying to be optimistic and positive.
All you can do is just stay present.
- Have you been in love?
- Yeah. - Yeah?
- Mm-hmm.
I had different versions of love.
Like, my high school sweetheart, young love.
♪ ♪
And then I had, like, my relationship that was like
my transition into adulthood where we went from living--
Like, being in college to living together.
- Did you think either of them you were gonna marry?
- The one I moved to New York for, yeah.
He was super, like, tuned-in and caring
and I think I was going through so much with my family
and he was really supportive.
- Yeah.
- But that... changed.
- It's tough to have this conversation with Lindsey
only because I think out the gate,
she was, like, all in, "I'm in love. I want love."
And I was, like, learning Lindsey.
I think it's just making her be way extra cautious
to take that leap.
But I think even if she did take that leap
and I said I was ready, she would have
some guards up still.
So I just don't know if I do get there
how she will be at that point.
- You didn't answer it. - Have I been in love?
- Mm-hmm. - I have.
Typically what will happen
is if someone was coming into the picture
and they're not-- They don't excite me,
I'll still-- I'll be reminded of that person
that I felt that feelings for
and it'll kinda, like, not rejuvenate but, like,
make me, like, try to get 'em back
'cause the next person that came in couldn't do it.
The last person is still--
I still held on to, like, feelings for them.
- That's concerning to me in the sense that, like,
you never really just move on from something.
- No, I-- - Move forward.
- I would never, like, go back to somebody else.
- But I think the way I looked at it
is like, let's say for example,
you had a boyfriend and it didn't work out.
You met someone else.
You realize, "Damn, that last guy was actually great
"because this is not what I wanted.
I had something really good."
- I would think, "Wow, they had a lot of great stuff.
"It wasn't the right person at the right time.
"Now I know what I liked in them
"and what I don't like in them
"and what I liked in this person.
I gotta go find the right one." - Mm.
I would never go back and recycle men.
Usually once I make the decision
that somebody is... wrong,
I know they're wrong.
If it didn't work out once, why would it work out twice?
♪ ♪
Obviously, it didn't work out for a reason.
Sounds to me like he dates other people who are worse
and so he wants to go back to something
that was comfortable and routine.
And his version of love is settling
for the good versus enjoying the moment.
Like, for Mark to feel love,
it's only after somebody pushes him away.
You also told me
that it takes you a long time to fall for somebody.
- It can, yeah.
- What do you think it takes for you to fall in love?
- Time. - Mm.
- If it's not like, out the gate,
then it takes time building a foundation.
Patience and time.
How about you?
- For me to fall in love with somebody,
they need to be present and consistent and show they care.
And so I think for me to fall in love...
I want, like, somebody who's consistently present,
who doesn't withdraw, who doesn't walk away,
who doesn't abandon a moment and shy from conflict.
Somebody who's always going to show up and stand up, you know?
♪ ♪
And I think when I don't get that from partners,
I'm very quickly checked out. - I bet.
I'm trying hard to not think about the first 2 1/2 weeks
and how I felt in this process with Lindsey
because I feel like if I think about that too much,
it will constantly be a negative
because she was here and I wasn't there yet.
And I think if I just think about that,
then I'll just keep on thinking I'll never get there.
So I'm trying to be optimistic and positive
that there's a possibility that I can develop things
if we're on the same communication
and try to stay in the present and get out of the past.
- Do you think you're beginning to fall in love?
- I think there's a possibility for it to happen.
I think it needs more time to develop
for me to say that that is a possibility.
You?
- Uh...
I think if you had asked me that a week--two weeks ago,
I would have said yes.
But I think the last, like, 11 days
has been really tough for me.
We've also been having these great movements
and moving forward and then...
you pull all the way back and out.
And I'm definitely not there with you.
- Mm-hmm.
[tense music]
It's not that I can't be there,
but I think I would need to see you make time for me
and choose to make me a priority.
In my vows I said I'm always gonna consider you first
because I respect you.
And...
I haven't really gotten any of that from you.
- ♪ Who do you think that you are? ♪
♪ You're not the only one ♪
- ♪ Snap a pic if you're looking so fine ♪
♪ Go out if you're feeling all right ♪
♪ Take the night with your friends ♪
♪ Leave your man on read ♪
- This is cute.
They got some cheese for us.
- Champagne for the pain.
[both laugh]
- It's good to see you guys.
- You too. Ready for some archery?
- Show you my precision game.
- Yeah.
- I can't wait. It should be a good time.
I haven't done this in a long time.
Try it out for me.
So can't wait to hang out with the boys
and have a good, good night.
- You guys ready to get on it? - Let's do it.
- All right.
[rhythmic electronic music]
♪ ♪
- Hello there.
I'm in a car on the way to a little girl's gathering.
♪ ♪
We're gonna go...
[laughs] That's fear laugh.
♪ ♪
- Do you talk to anybody else really?
- Noi will, like, DM me. - Yeah.
I don't have any issues with Lindsey.
I came into this knowing that, you know,
"Katina, you can't let somebody control your emotions
or your actions."
- Hello. Oh, gosh. - Hello.
- So be who you really are.
Be that kind of woman that you are in your heart and soul
and override your triggers.
So I'm excited to get up with the other girls
and just see how they're doing.
How's everybody getting along
with being in the real world with your husbands?
- Yeah. And I think it's just, like,
getting used to each other.
I mean, as much fun as we had, like, on our honeymoon,
I think now it's just like,
"Okay, I'm with this person 24/7."
It's getting real, you know?
Like, some of our quirks are getting to each other, I think.
- Like what did you say the other--
You posted something the other day and it hit home.
You were like, "When you marry somebody,
you marry their trauma."
- You marry their inner child. - Mm-hmm.
- And their belief systems. - Mm-hmm.
- So I think it's important to recognize that too.
It's like, these are all things that we're still learning
about our partners too, you know?
Like, we're not gonna get it right the first time.
Like, when you really step back and, like, look at it
like, "Yeah, we're married
and we made this commitment, but at the same time,
like, we don't really know each other.
- Yeah.
- So it's just gonna take time, you know?
- I hope they got the same perspective.
[all speaking at once]
- Like, I wonder what they're talking about.
- Precision, baby!
[arrow thuds] - Ahh!
[upbeat music] [laughter]
- Good shot. That was clean.
- Having a moment with the other guys is like
a breath of fresh air at times because--
Not that I don't like being around my wife 24/7/365.
[whistle blows]
♪ ♪
But sometimes it's just nice to just take some time away
and be with the guys.
- Guys, no! - Did he get--ah.
♪ ♪
- It seems like Mark is definitely
the best shooter, the sharpshooter.
♪ ♪
- Oh! - Oh!
[laughter]
- I grew up in a very competitive household
and with a lot of competitive friends,
so I go all out.
♪ ♪
- Got him. - Oh!
[whistle blows] Steve got him.
- Steve got me once pretty hard.
- [panting]
- I started to question our friendship after that shot.
- So how have things been, guys?
How's it going at home?
- I think it's more work than maybe I thought.
I figured, like,
I can get to know anyone pretty quickly and fast.
But I feel like it's, like, a lot of work
and figuring out personalities
I'm not used to and where the emotions are coming from.
[pensive music]
Just try to understand, like, where someone's feelings are
in our moments if we're not connecting,
like, "Where are these emotions coming from?"
And just digging as deep as I can
so we can get on the same page.
- It feels like we're so in sync on so many things
that when we're not in sync
it's kind of like, "What the hell happened?
Where did we get-- What happened?"
You know? - Mm-hmm.
Because you know, the honeymoon's over.
We're back in the real world.
People wanna get back to their routine.
- Yeah.
- Do you find that you are growing in intimacy
with your partner or kind of fading away?
- I'm, like, the light's been flickering on and off.
I'm like we're up, we're down, we're up, we're down.
So that's how literally
the last 48 hours have been like that.
♪ ♪
Our disconnect is, like, he needs someone who's able
to give him the same energy back verbally and also actions.
And just having someone calling out those things
that you're already thinking in your head,
you know, it's like someone holding a mirror
up to you a little bit.
And he's expressed it to me, like, multiple times
in, like, different ways where I feel like
at first maybe it wasn't, like, resonating
the way that he wanted to
or I wasn't changing as swiftly as he wanted to.
So these last couple of days
have definitely been more, like, eye-opening.
- It's tough to even be there
when you have somebody you feel like you kind of baby her.
That's how I truly feel. - Mm.
- What is the deeper thing?
Is it--do you feel like the effort level isn't the same?
- Yes. And then you can't talk about effort.
I mean, and she-- Yeah, it's really just effort.
- Is it effort? - And it's just life skills.
It's like, I don't go to sleep with my house dirty.
I mean, it's just not what you do.
Not talking about-- - Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Same.
- I can't always be there to help--
Like, to guide this.
I work overnights. I work during the day.
You're at home right now.
What are we gonna do when you go back to work downtown
and you have to drive that
or you have to take trolleys and trains?
Where am I...
where can I rely--where can I have my support from my wife?
My feelings are really high for Katina
so that's why I get so irritated
because in real--
If this--different situation, I would have walked away.
[dramatic music]
- Or you wouldn't be bothered.
- Yeah, I won't be bothered. Right.
'Cause you would just leave it and see--
[all speaking at once]
- I'm having a really tough time.
I'm learning to have more patience
but the time is really not on our side.
- Right, right.
- And since Pastor Cal came by,
I really haven't seen a difference.
- It sucks to see that he feels like, you know,
the effort isn't being reciprocated
and he just feels defeated.
Being that we're so early on,
I'm hoping that they can get through it
because I can just see the pain on his face.
- So what--I think what I'd be worried about
is if you're not telling her things that bother you
and it just going to bottle you up.
You know what I mean? I don't want that to be a case
where you're just like-- You know what I mean?
- Explosion. - Yeah, but it's tough.
- And then what if you're not happy?
At the end of the day, you gotta be happy, you know?
- Yeah, it's tough. It's truly tough.
♪ ♪
I don't know if I need to break a chair for her to understand
that I am being beat.
[tense emotional music]
♪ ♪
- At the end of the day, you gotta be happy, you know?
- Yeah, it's tough. It's truly tough.
And I don't know if I need to break a chair
for her to understand that I am being beat.
♪ ♪
- Do you, like, think you guys would move past this?
- It's tough. - Yeah.
- It's tough because-- It's really tough.
- Mm. - It's really tough.
- How about you guys?
- Yeah.
Communication has still been an issue with me and Jasmina.
And now the new problem we're having now is just trying to,
you know, connect on a deeper, deeper level.
Past, like, just the surface things
like having those conversations to, like,
really, really get to know each other.
I think me being vulnerable with her
is gonna only make her be more comfortable
opening up with me, you get what I'm saying?
- Hopefully moving forward we can have those open,
honest and, you know, vulnerable conversations
to get to the place where I eventually want us to be in.
So I can't have a spark for someone or feel intimacy
if we're not talking.
But we had the conversation on talking moving forward
so maybe the next time if you ask me
my answer may be different.
Just gonna have to see.
I'm always a hopeful person.
I feel like if I'm not hopeful,
it would just be me being in my head
or just thinking negatively
and nothing is gonna get accomplished
if I just have in my mind that he won't change.
If he sees that I'm hopeful, then he would want to try more.
But if he feels like I'm not hopeful,
it might make him not wanna try.
- And actually what you said kinda rung.
So me and Noi had a pretty big issue the other day.
Something that I thought was small, you know?
She was cooking our first meal.
I'd cooked, you know, six or seven at that time.
She has her gluten-free noodles.
I have my regular noodles.
And she just shut down on me hard.
She just goes, "I'm done cooking" and walked out.
I tried to text her.
I'm like, "Hey, everything all good? Can we talk?"
She's like, "I don't wanna talk."
Wake up the next morning.
I'm thinking it's, you know, like,
"Let's get back on track."
Not a word, right? So it's almost 24 hours.
I'm sitting up there, you know, like, bugging out.
Like, what did I really do that upset her so bad?
Why can't she talk to me?
So finally we ended up hashing it out.
Like, not screaming or anything like that
but just really letting each other know how we feel,
but it didn't take until I told her how much it hurt me.
Like, how much it really hurt me that she left me hanging.
I felt like she ghosted me and like, you know,
and till I showed her my pain.
And then at that point, she finally looked at me.
I'm like, that's what it takes, you know? Vulnerability.
- His voice was, like, cracking to the point
where he was just, like, so upset.
And like, in that moment I was like,
"Oh, my God, this man, like" --
- Loves you. - He loves me.
He hasn't said it. - No, they never will.
Not yet. - I know but it was like,
"Oh, my God, like, you were so devastated
by me being silent."
Like I was just like, "Oh, my gosh,
like, this man really loves me."
♪ ♪
I was like, "I don't ever want to be responsible
for hurting you in this way ever again."
And for me that was, like, an eye-opening moment.
Like, we are so deeply affected
by what we do to each other, you know?
And it was just like, I finally kind of saw that.
I mean, I think from the beginning,
we've always had, like, the strong connection,
but I really was like, "Oh, my gosh."
This was like a test of that connection.
Like, how do we still feel about each other
when something hard is going on?
And I saw it in that moment.
I was like, you didn't give up on me.
- Yeah.
- That's how you form intimacy I think.
- Mm-hmm.
- I think for me, us growing in our intimacy
will be when we connect
with communication better, just like all y'all.
You know, Mark is-- I think it's so obvious to me
how we can each learn from each other.
Like, when I hear each of you guys
talk about your partners, I'm like,
"Oh, that's my flaw. That's his flaw.
That's my struggle. That's his struggle."
Like, we're all going through the same things.
- Yeah. So this is normal. [laughs]
- I already asked everybody-- - Sounds like this is normal.
This is what I'm getting after leaving today.
Like, oh, like if we're all going through something
I'm like, "Sounds about right."
- Even though we're all going through our own conflicts
in our marriage, I think it's positive
because like, if you guys all were here saying,
"Oh, yeah, I'm in love.
"We're definitely gonna stay married
for the rest of eternity."
I would say they're gonna have a rude awakening,
you know what I mean?
But the fact that we're going through these struggles,
that means we're taking it serious.
That means we're really getting to know our wives.
If we can get to the other side of this,
we're gonna really know who we're married to.
- Marriage is difficult,
but it all depends on how bad you want it to work out
and if you can just be honest
with how you feel to your partner.
But I think if you want it to work,
then it has the opportunity to.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ All I wanna do is spend a little time alone with you ♪
♪ ♪
- Thank you. - Yeah.
♪ ♪
- Here's your menu. - Thank you.
- Tonight for Lindsey,
I'm taking her out to this fancy sushi place.
I know how much she likes sushi.
I thought it would be a nice thing for her
to have a nice dinner.
I wanna let her know that I pay attention
and I do appreciate her
and I think she's a good person.
So let's get some sushi.
- All right, so I'm gonna order the raw stuff for you.
- Wait, wait, wait. You don't have to do that.
You really don't have to do that.
I definitely want to do--
- You're definitely gonna try to eel
'cause it's, like, the chicken of fish.
It's so easy.
- Maybe we'll save the eel for, like,
another adventure day.
- Great. You'll try it? That sounds awesome.
I can't wait to give you some. Thank you.
♪ ♪
My element is going out for sushi 'cause I love it.
I could eat it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
So I'm really actually impressed and surprised
that he'd take me to a sushi restaurant
because it's not the texture he likes.
- Here's the pink lady roll for you.
- Oh, cool.
♪ ♪
- Thank you. - Of course. Enjoy.
- There's avocado. - Mm.
Soy paper. It's very good.
- Is it? - Mm-hmm.
- Are you chewing it?
- Yeah. Two, three bites.
[plucky music]
♪ ♪
[laughs]
Mark is a little kid and I love it.
He's a sweet little baby.
- This is the chef's choice. - Whoa.
- Sashimi and nigiri and a naruto roll.
- Thank you. - Of course. Enjoy.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- [laughs]
Wait a minute. This is a lot.
This is your-- This is your dinner.
I don't wanna take away from your hunger.
- Babe, just go. Put it in there. Half.
- Oh, oh.
- Don't look at it. Just eat it.
- Wait a minute. [laughs]
- [laughs]
- I think that this thing is very nice looking
and it doesn't belong in my body.
Oh. Ah. - [laughs]
♪ ♪
- Ah.
♪ ♪
Lindsey is the only girl I have ever attempted
as many new foods with in my life.
I think this thing should go back in the ocean
with the rest of its family,
that it got taken away from
and swim far, far away.
Was this a good choice for you?
- Yes. Thank you very much. - Okay.
I appreciate that you went into this with a stranger
with all the right intentions...
regardless of how he was going to be.
You went into it with everything.
Even every day being harder times.
♪ ♪
Times I'm not feeling a response.
♪ ♪
And you kept on doing nice things.
♪ ♪
And I apologize for all the times that you were hurt.
♪ ♪
And I will promise to not cause you pain.
♪ ♪
And to let you know
that I do notice everything that you do
and that you're too good of a person to ever get hurt.
And you're too good of a person
to feel that you're not appreciated.
And I want you to know that you are appreciated,
and that you are cared for,
and I don't want you to ever think otherwise.
- Thank you. - Yeah.
[emotional music]
- I feel the same way about you.
So I think you're worth it.
I feel like you do so much for somebody else,
you're never used to having somebody do things for you.
And I'm happy to do that. - Thank you.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I'm gonna rise up ♪
- [blows kiss]
If there wasn't sushi here, I'd kiss you.
- [laughs]
- ♪ I'm gonna rise, rise ♪
♪ Rise, rise, up ♪
♪ Oh, yeah ♪
- ♪ And I don't wanna fight ♪
♪ No, I don't wanna fight no more ♪
- ♪ Amen ♪
♪ A-a-amen ♪
- [laughing]
- Oh, how funny is this?
- This is funny.
- You like that? [laughs]
- What are we about to do right now?
- You know, you've been trying to get me to go to the gym.
- Yeah.
- You know I'm lazy. [laughs]
But I know the gym and working out
is something that you really like,
so we're gonna work out today. - Wow.
- We have three different stations based on things
that we need to work on in our relationship.
So communication.
- Interruptions.
- And you know, vulnerability.
♪ ♪
- This is a very nice gesture of her
'cause I know it took a lot of thought
and preparation to get this done.
So I can tell that she really cares
and is really trying to work on this marriage.
I see what you did there with the gym, the--
- You see that? The J?
You should bring this when you work with your clients.
- You gotta trademark that. That's fire.
You're gonna lead this training today?
- Mm-hmm. - Okay.
Let's get started. [both laugh]
- Hey. I'm Jasmina.
I'm gonna be your personal trainer for today.
- Nice to meet you. - Wow, that's a nice handshake.
You work out? - Nice and firm.
- You work out? - Little bit.
- Okay.
I can tell. Can I touch?
- Yes. [laughs]
- You got a wife?
- I'm not gonna answer that. [laughs]
All right. Where do we start?
All right, what do I do?
- Uh...
[rock music]
- I think it's--
- What is this workout?
- Just go like this.
[laughs]
- I know Jasmina doesn't work out.
So her being a personal trainer is hilarious to me
because I know she doesn't know
how to do certain workouts.
- We're gonna do some squats.
[lively music]
We're gonna go like... this.
- Mm-mm. - No, that's not it?
Next one.
♪ ♪
- I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that.
There's no--I'm not doing that. - [laughs]
- I probably wouldn't hire Jasmina as a personal trainer
but I still appreciate her effort.
- Open your legs and we're just holding hands.
Okay, fix this.
Are you flexible? - Nope.
- Same. [laughs]
Can you open your legs a little more or?
- Yeah. - Okay.
So this is...
- You can pull. - Us being open.
Hold on.
So let's talk about your past.
- Mm-hmm.
[emotional music]
And how it was growing up for you...
- Yeah. - As a child.
I know you said you lost your mom.
- Mm-hmm.
- Your dad. - Mm-hmm.
- Your grandmother. - Mm-hmm.
- And your brother. - Mm-hmm.
- So how was that for you?
- So my brother was probably the first harsh loss.
I was about what? Six, seven?
And...
he used to work late-- Work, like, late nights
in a fast food restaurant.
And he used to always come home at, like, 3:00 in the morning.
And he used to always just bring home, like, food for us.
I mean, if I was to give him an order
and we stay up late at night and, like,
wait for him to bring it to us, like, 3:00 in the morning.
One night, we heard, like,
a frantic knock at the door at 3:00 the morning
so we all get up and assume that it's him bringing,
you know, bringing the food and it's one of his friends
and he's just saying, "Vladymir got shot,
Vladymir got shot."
And I remember seeing him-- [clears throat]
♪ ♪
- It's okay. Take your time.
- Just on the pave--
[breathing shakily]
And, uh...
My aunt tried to...
[breathes shakily]
♪ ♪
- It's okay.
- [cries softly]
♪ ♪
She grabbed me and, you know, tried to take me out of there
'cause, you know, no kid wants to see that [bleep].
And my mom fainted.
♪ ♪
[sniffs]
♪ ♪
- It's okay.
♪ ♪
- [sniffs] Yeah, that's just--
That's just my first example of, like, grief
and, you know, losing somebody like that.
It just--I feel like it changed me
from that young age, you know what I'm saying?
And...
[sniffs]
It's like every--since then,
every three to four years, some [bleep] happen
where I just gotta deal with more grief.
And I think it just, you know,
over time just changed who I was,
you know what I'm saying?
It made me like a super, like...
♪ ♪
I don't want to say not emotional,
but--[clears throat] I've done a great job of...
putting my emotions in a box and dealing with it later.
- I'm very happy that he's finally, you know,
opening up and letting me in so I can understand him
a little bit more and understand
why he has some of the habits that he do
or he thinks the way he thinks.
And so I haven't lost a sibling but I know...
♪ ♪
[voice breaking] If I did, you know,
I would feel the same way he did.
So I'm very sad that he had to
go through all of that at a young age
and especially lose all those people
that were so close to him.
But I'm glad that he's able to open and share it with me.
Thank you for opening up. I know that took a lot.
I appreciate you for being open,
being honest about your feelings.
♪ ♪
What are you thinking?
- [clears throat]
That cry felt good.
[both chuckle]
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So, babe, are you excited?
You're gonna [bleep] your pants when you see what we're doing.
Bungee jumping.
- No! No! - I know that you're--
- Don't even tell me.
I'd rather jump out of a [bleep] plane than bungee jump.
You're crazy. I'm not doing it.
You like to, like, live on, like, "If I die, [bleep].
It was a [bleep] great life." - Yeah.
- Yeah, yeah. You [bleep] would, not me.
I wanna live.
Hey, if you like to jump-- - We're going to a fun park.
- A fun park.
- Yeah. - Okay.
- We're gonna go do some batting cages and go-karts.
- That's great. That I like.
It was such a relief. I thought she was gonna kill me
by throwing me over a bridge with some rope.
♪ ♪
- All right. Find the one that looks like
it's hit the least amount of heads.
When I went to go look at Mark's apartment, he told me
he had every baseball he had kept from his childhood.
Was this your mom's? - Where?
Nope. That's all my baseballs from when I was a kid.
- Why? - I kept 'em.
- Why? - Because I did.
- Does it bring you joy?
- Yeah, that's my childhood. - Okay.
So I knew he played baseball.
I don't think he realizes that, but I pay attention.
[up-tempo music]
Ooh!
♪ ♪
Ugh.
♪ ♪
- I played baseball from five years old
till I was a senior in high school.
And the fact that Lindsey remembered,
it's those little details about Lindsey
that I do appreciate
and I do care for
and that I have love for.
- What am I doing?
- Your back foot down and turn your hips when you swing.
[bat clinks] Nice.
♪ ♪
There you go.
♪ ♪
- ♪ See anything I dream, best believe I'm gonna get it ♪
♪ And if I don't succeed right away, I won't sweat it ♪
♪ 'Cause baby I been un-un-un-untouchable ♪
- Very nice.
Mark looks powerful.
I wish Mark could take some of that strength and power
and use it for me.
♪ ♪
- What are you doing?
♪ ♪
For me and Lindsey, one day at a time's healthy.
I don't think we need to literally think
about eight weeks or ten months or two years.
I think it's like we just went through
two days of goodness so one day at a time
of getting to know each other and not arguing
and being ourself.
- ♪ Lost in the moment ♪
♪ Here for the music ♪
♪ We're living this high ♪
♪ Dancing like nobody, nobody ♪
♪ Nobody, nobody's watching ♪
- Watch out! Watch out! Here he comes!
- I do enjoy spending time with Mark,
but I've only seen glimpses of the man I want.
I need to see it with consistency.
But I am hopeful.
I'm just gonna take it one day at a time and we'll see.
♪ ♪
[emotional music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ We stay up all night ♪
♪ ♪
♪ And talk until the sun rises ♪
- It's officially three weeks about an hour ago.
- So this is our one-month anniversary?
- No, it's three weeks. - Three weeks.
- It's usually four weeks. - We have one more to go.
- Yeah. [cork pops]
Jesus Christ.
[both laughing]
♪ ♪
I'm so glad you're safe.
That almost hit you in the brain.
[both laugh]
- Thanks for setting up this cute little ocean picnic.
It's so cute.
- Yeah, of course.
It's one way to celebrate three weeks.
- Yeah, you're still liking being married?
- Yeah. It's been going pretty well, you know?
What's your favorite memory of being married so far?
- Favorite memory.
Honeymoon was obviously really fun.
I liked the waterfall adventure.
♪ ♪
[screams]
[both laugh]
♪ ♪
Yeah, the wedding was obviously, like,
one of my favorite memories.
[whispers] What's your name? - My name is Steve Moy.
[laughter]
- Rhymes with my first name, Noi.
'Cause that's where I met you and your family.
So that'll always be a really special day.
- What's your favorite thing since being home?
- I think just seeing you every day.
I'm actually so used to being by myself
and, like, really enjoy my time by myself.
Even in, like, my past relationships,
I would need like a full day to myself.
And I haven't really felt that way with you.
So that's a good sign, I think.
I believe that Steve does see me on a soul level.
I think some things that he maybe doesn't understand
are how I handle different situations.
But even though he's trying to navigate through that,
he still sees me.
He's really comfortable to be around.
And his presence makes me feel at ease.
What's your favorite part?
- Favorite part of the wedding
I have to say it was the dancing.
You don't have to think about anything. Just move and dance,
and, you know, seeing you dance and all that.
I was just like, "All right, good.
We can, I don't know, just really enjoy that moment."
Honeymoon. Hmm.
I really did have fun at the waterfall.
I felt like it was pretty funny when the fish bit my toe.
- I'm not putting my ears in the water.
- Just do it. Just put your head into the water.
- Oh, okay.
Ahh! [laughs]
And one other thing I was thinking of--
That first picnic was on three days
and I wasn't really ready to verbalize it.
But I think now to bring it back here
and this picnic is on three weeks,
I'm finally ready to let you know that I love you.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Love, yeah, love ♪
- What? [both laugh]
You do?
- ♪ Love, yeah, love ♪
♪ It can save each one of us ♪
♪ This could be love ♪
- I don't know if you officially told me
but I'll take that as an official.
I mean, you said it in other ways
but you didn't tell me directly like that.
- ♪ This could be love ♪
- It's such a relief... [laughs]
That he has finally said it.
It means a lot to me that he would try to recreate
that moment during our honeymoon
because he knew that I was disappointed
by what he said or didn't say.
- It feels good to finally be able
to tell you that I love you. - I love you too.
[both chuckle]
♪ ♪
- ♪ This could be love ♪
- ♪ Hey, let's get it ♪
- ♪ Oh, yeah, yeah ♪
- ♪ Here we go, baby ♪ - ♪ Ooh ♪
[music intensifies]
♪ We got this place locked down tonight ♪
- Ooh, this is so pretty.
- Welcome, welcome.
- Hi. - Hello.
My name is Chef O. - Hello.
- And today, I'm gonna teach you guys
how to cook some of our favorites.
We have an appetizer. That's coconut shrimp.
We're gonna do a Thai basil rice with some salmon
that we have prepared for you guys.
And we're going to do a nice desert.
So I hope you guys are ready. - Yes, I'm ready.
- Yes. - Yes, yes.
- ♪ Oh, na, na, na, na ♪
She told me that she loves seafood, she likes salmon.
We haven't had salmon since we got married
and she keeps talking about
she wants to cook it, she wants to cook it.
So today, I want to show her that I'm gonna put
the same effort in as much as I want from her.
- No shortcuts. I'ma show you exactly how it's done, okay?
- You hear that, baby? No shortcuts.
- Yeah, I heard.
- In the kitchen, you can't start with shortcuts.
- I heard him. [both laugh]
- I want my wife to be on the same page as me.
Stop waiting for me to tell you something.
Just do it. That's effort.
- And now the key part now we gonna do
we gonna butterfly the shrimp.
So what I mean is we're going to
open it up just a little bit.
You're gonna take the knife and you're gonna open it up.
- You make it look so easy. - Yeah, that's true.
- You wanna try one?
♪ ♪
- I don't really enjoy cooking.
Like I will cook, but it's not something
that's, like, I love to do.
So the fact that he is like, "I'm gonna cook with you,"
I thought that was a good thing
that he's not sitting there like,
"All right, now let me see what you could do
'cause I've been telling you to do this."
- Two more. Two more.
- You're taking notes-- - You want another one?
- I got you.
I want you to have the best flavor you gonna taste.
- Okay.
- ♪ I can show you love, love, love, baby ♪
♪ Come and hold me, show me ♪
- Cheers to it.
- Cheers.
- Ooh.
- ♪ You said that you'll be there to hold me ♪
- Oh, man.
You cook like this you have three rings
on your finger for real.
- You guys ready for round two?
- Yes. I am. - I hope so.
[upbeat electronic music]
♪ ♪
- This is the sound you wanna hear.
- Mmm.
♪ ♪
- Come on, baby. Look at that.
I know turn you on just doing that little flicky flick.
- You know what-- [both laughs]
I know that cooking is the way to his heart
which he has told me, like, three or four times.
- Olajuwon loves a home-cooked meal.
I hope you're no stranger to the kitchen.
- So lets' just act it out. Go over there, right?
By the oven. I'ma sit right like this.
- What am I saying? Want some bacon or sausage?
- I'm just trying to get an image of this,
you know what I'm saying?
- You want some bacon or sausage?
- This is a lifetime commitment.
I have, like, a level for my wife and I expect like,
"Hey, you know, do you cook? Like, we talked about it.
- I'm gonna make sure that I do that for him
so it can be a yes on both ends on Decision Day.
[laughs]
♪ ♪
- This is the happiness I need within my food.
- Your reaction--you act like
I haven't fed you in a week or something.
- No disrespect.
You haven't fed me on this type of level since I met you.
♪ ♪
Oh, man.
I think Katina right now, from what I see,
I think she worked on herself independently as in, like,
"I don't want to go out to the clubs no more.
I don't wanna drink. I don't wanna be that woman."
But that doesn't mean that you are ready for marriage.
What do you think of this whole process and the food?
Is it something that is able to be done at home?
- The salmon,
I could definitely cook salmon for sure.
- I gotta have an answer for myself--
Is she enough woman for me as a wife?
- I do feel as though I am putting effort
but I can see the areas where you do put more than me.
- Like, you're still learning.
You're still learning.
And there's nothing wrong with that
'cause there's things in other fields I'm still learning.
♪ ♪
But when it comes to a marriage,
those are some of these things that are things
that I expect to be already there.
I'm trying to figure out if you have that base.
That's really what I'm trying to figure out right now.
I have achieved big things.
Again, I bought a home on my own. I paid off...
- Right. - My student loans.
I don't have these problems anymore.
- Mm-hmm.
- And you're still working on those things.
And there's nothing wrong-- You're bettering yourself.
But I'm trying to figure out what can my wife do
independently that I can say on a wife level,
I'm satisfied, do you get what I'm saying?
- I think I need to know what are you seeking
on a wife level that you feel like--
- Just basics.
Like, I felt like you didn't apply enough
to the house warming.
Because the food, your friends got.
Cool. You called them but you didn't grab it.
Your friends went and got it.
They brought that. I heard you--
- I would've done it.
- Would have, should have, could have.
But you didn't and you-- - I think you're being--
- As your husband-- As your husband,
that's why I stepped up and I said, you know what?
I'll handle the chicken.
- Everything that those girls did,
I told them to do all that.
I just physically did not do it
because I was at the apartment, we had to go shopping.
I did the decorations.
And then even when-- - Katina, let me stop you
'cause you're not even comfortable what you just said.
- I am co--
- I was with you when we did the shopping
and I was with you when-- Hold on--when we decorated.
She put effort into my house warming
because we went and got the stuff
but I absolutely believe that she can do more.
[tense music]
What I'm trying to say is that you try--
You say you orchestrated and made
this whole thing happen, correct?
- Yes.
- What part did you do on your own?
You work at home.
You did not physically get out of the house
and go get these things.
So well, hold on, hold.
So when we talk about a wife level,
this is what I look at because--
I'm telling you how I feel. - I know--
- I need to see where you are as a woman.
[music winds down]
♪ ♪
If you don't want to cook, what are you gonna do?
Are you gonna clean?
I can't settle with somebody
if I think they don't have a base on just being an adult
because they don't have enough life experience.
And that's the disconnection that I'm having with you.
That's how I've truly feel inside with me.
I care for you so much but it bothers me
because I don't know where you stand.
I have to see what you picked up.
What does my wife can-- Is she a fast learner?
I need to know who I'm married to.
[sirens blaring]
- You know what? I need a break. I do.
- That's what I'm saying. I get where it's coming from.
I hear what you're coming from. I really do.
I'm not saying you don't have it.
I'm not saying you don't have it, Katina,
but I have to be real with you at the same time.
As much as I'm loving you, I gotta be real with you.
I have to keep you grounded because I have to make sure
that I know when I say yes on Decision Day,
I know you could hold this [bleep] down.
Even if I break my leg,
I know you can get things done without me.
I can't say that about you right now.
- I don't really know what else to say other than,
like, I guess only time could tell 'cause--
- Yeah, only time could tell because really--
- I can't-- I'm not gonna sit here
and be like, I'm woman enough. Like I'm not doing that.
- No, you don't need to. You don't need to.
- I'm never gonna do that.
- But I'm not telling you to do that, Katina.
♪ ♪
- I wanted to be married so much.
♪ ♪
It just makes me feel bad.
♪ ♪
- Next time on "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ Ready, set, go ♪
[laughter]
- There you go. There you go. There you go.
- Come on, Olajuwon.
- What are you doing, yo?
- Mm. - [laughs]
- We should have sex in a public place.
[both laugh]
- If I'm being honest,
my vagina not getting wet for you.
[dramatic music]
- Something has to change because this isn't sustainable.
- I felt like, "Oh, he's really passionate.
He could probably handle me."
Doesn't look like it.
- It's just his tone.
Like, I feel like someone's beating up on me.
It just makes me feel like I'm not good enough.
♪ ♪