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- Everything has a risk to it.
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But I feel like I should
just take the chance on love.
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- Where is she?
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- I ask that you please stand.
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- Almost two weeks ago,
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ten singles took
a giant leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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- Hi! Nice to meet you too.
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- Whoo!
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[cheers and applause]
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- Hey, he put a ring on it.
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I'm married.
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[upbeat music]
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- Last time,
our couples moved into
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their new homes together.
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- Ooh.
They want us to make babies.
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[both laugh]
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♪ ♪
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- Katina and Olajuwon.
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Do you feel he's
communicating to you well?
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- I will say
that his execution is hard.
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That's what I'll say.
I told him--I'm like,
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I don't deal with men who speak
to me disrespectfully.
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♪ ♪
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- Jasmina and Michael.
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- You've been aggressive.
You've been yelling.
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- When you feel like
he's talking to you that way,
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say to him,
"I am not your enemy."
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Are you willing to say
that to him?
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- Yes.
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- Lindsey and Mark.
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- I feel like I'm getting
two different versions of you.
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- I don't think
I have two sides.
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- I'm just telling you
I'm seeing, like,
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all these red flags
and I'm diving into you.
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I just feel like--
- I've seen red flags
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and I'm just taking it
day by day.
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[tense music]
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- Noi and Steve.
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She doesn't have the luxury
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of being
as freewheeling as you are.
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- Mm-hmm.
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- She needs to know that "this
great guy that I've married,
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he's gonna provide."
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♪ ♪
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Alyssa and Chris.
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- This is my Decision Day.
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- So are you saying
you want a divorce?
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- I want a divorce.
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- [sniffles]
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- The road ends here.
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I'm so sorry, 'cause
this is not what we want.
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- Like, I'm not a bad person
and I'm a good person.
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And it just upsets me
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that he tries
to make it look otherwise.
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[upbeat music]
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- And tonight,
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with only six weeks left
until Decision Day...
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- I'm about to sleep
good tonight.
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- [laughs]
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- Our couples start easing
into domestic life together...
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- How are you?
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- And will finally get to see
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their friends and family
together
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for the first time
since their wedding.
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- When he thinks he's right,
he thinks he's right.
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- That sounds just like you.
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- Who the [bleep]?
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- Am I the perfect dude?
No, I'm not.
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- 'Cause if he does
something bad,
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it's going down.
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- I'm choosing not
to work currently,
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'cause I'm trying to develop
myself further, develop us.
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- That makes me nervous.
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- You can't have intimacy
with somebody
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unless you've had conflict
with them first.
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Why do you keep
rolling your eyes?
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- I'm not trying to argue
with you on camera again.
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You know not to talk to me,
girl.
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Stay over there.
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- It's awkward when Lindsey has
to be outspoken to other people
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that I know is gonna
cause a fight.
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When we're together,
it makes me feel uncomfortable
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when you do that.
Don't do that.
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- Okay, but you know what,
I don't like to brush things
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under the rug.
- Have another drink.
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I just can't do this anymore.
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[dramatic music]
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ You'll see ♪
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♪ Much better next time ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Today I'm gonna make
some brown sugar bacon
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and eggs with some pepper jack,
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'cause my wife likes
a little spicy on it.
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- Mm-hmm, I like a kick.
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- Our couple have been married
for just under two weeks.
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- You want to try this?
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It has all things you eat in it.
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- What is it?
- A grape leaf.
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- Okay.
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- And now, as they settle
into daily life
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together as husband and wife,
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a whole new
set of challenges begin.
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- [laughs]
- It's really oily.
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No more of these games.
This isn't fun.
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♪ ♪
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- The transition
from single to married
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may be easier
for some than others.
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- So this is what
Steve got for Sushi.
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- It's a pooper scooper.
- It's a pooper scooper
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so you don't have
to touch the poop,
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'cause I guess
it grosses him out.
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- However, it takes dedication
and commitment from everyone,
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because in just over six weeks,
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our couples have to decide
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whether they want to
stay married or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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But for Alyssa and Chris,
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it's the start of single life
all over again.
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- ♪ Let time stand still ♪
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♪ For me and you ♪
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- I told Pastor Cal
that I want a divorce.
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The most important metric
in a successful marriage,
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I think, is just trying.
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The harder
you're willing to try,
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the more you can get past.
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And I just feel like
she had zero try in her.
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I want to be with somebody
who wants to be with me.
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- ♪ Let time stand still ♪
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- ♪ I know what's cooking ♪
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♪ When you're looking for me ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ A list of wrong decisions ♪
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♪ If I could find my way ♪
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- Hi.
- How's it going?
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You hungry?
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- Yeah. I could eat.
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- I can make some breakfast.
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Let me just put
some of this stuff away.
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- Okay.
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- How's everything
going at work?
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- It's busy.
- And are you on a team?
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- Yeah. Yeah.
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I work in talent acquisition,
so recruitment.
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- Did you have to play a lot of
catch-up after our honeymoon?
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- Yeah.
- Emails and whatnot?
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- I'm still catching up. Yeah.
- Yeah?
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- Yeah.
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- After finding out that Noi
isn't happy about
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the fact that I'm, you know,
in between jobs, not working,
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I definitely want to do
what I can
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to make sure she doesn't feel
uncomfortable
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or uncertain about us.
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Right now, my current picture
for myself isn't
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picking up a full-time job,
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but I still want to do my part
in terms of this marriage.
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- Mmm.
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- Good? You like it?
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- So good.
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- Who made the food
in your house?
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- Both my parents.
- Oh, yeah?
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- Yeah, they both cooked.
Mm-hmm.
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♪ ♪
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You excited
for the housewarming?
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- Yeah.
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Is there anything in mind
that you'd make if we did,
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like, a traditional Lao dish
or some Chinese food?
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- It'd be cool to make,
like, sticky rice
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and, like, papaya salad.
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We could also do, like, larb.
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What do you have in mind?
- I don't know.
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- Like, a signature, like,
Chinese dish?
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- Yeah, I'm not sure
about that yet.
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I feel like I'd have to give
that some thought.
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- Yeah.
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Food is such a big part
of the way that I grew up.
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Meal prepping
was always a big event.
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Family gatherings, we'd all
get together and cook together,
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and it was a real memorable
part of my childhood.
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So I'm excited to see
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the mix of both
of our cultures come together.
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- I did want to talk to you,
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because after talking
to Pastor Cal,
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I was a little caught off-guard.
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I didn't realize the severity
of how you felt about me
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being self-employed
and me doing--you know,
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living on my terms, to a degree.
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I didn't know you felt that way.
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- Yeah.
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But I'm thinking long-term.
I'm thinking about kids.
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And, like, that makes
me nervous, you know?
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- I guess that's the piece that
I wasn't aware of, you know?
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'Cause it's like, I'm fine.
I feel secure.
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I've, you know, worked really
hard to get to where I am.
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Just because I don't fit
a standard definition
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of employed by a company,
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it doesn't mean that
I don't take care of myself
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or take care
of my priorities, right?
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- Mm-hmm.
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- But I also want you
to recognize
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that I'm choosing
not to work currently
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'cause I'm trying to develop
myself further, develop us,
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and create
more opportunity for us.
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- But where do I fall into this?
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I'm now your wife.
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You know,
we need more of a plan.
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It can't be this idea
that you're just gonna do you.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm responsible for myself.
I have my savings.
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And when I need money,
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I can always have multiple
different sources to get it.
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I'm not just quitting my job
and figuring it out, right?
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♪ ♪
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I know when it comes to marriage
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that we need to be
on the same page here,
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and I'd love for you
to be supportive of it.
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But that can only happen
if you understand
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who I am and understand
what I'm trying to do.
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♪ ♪
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- I actually love the fact
that he is so passionate
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and he wants to live his life
on his own terms.
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But I don't know if I see
any action behind those words.
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And that's what scares me.
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I want him to have a game plan
of some sort.
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Like, I always worked, like,
my whole life.
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Like, I've never been
without a job ever.
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♪ ♪
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So for me,
it's just a little unnerving.
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♪ ♪
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[upbeat music]
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♪ ♪
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- I'm happy to see you, man.
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- Yeah, so am I.
- Seriously.
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- You're looking good.
- Think so?
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- Yeah. You not eating or you
working out too damn much?
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- I am working out a lot.
A lot, bro.
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Jeff never guides me
the wrong way.
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He's a mentor as much
as he's a friend.
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He's in a successful marriage.
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He has a beautiful son,
a beautiful wife.
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Anything he says, I know it's
from the heart and it's real.
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Yo, she reminds me of me
just in so many ways.
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It's crazy. Like--
- Chemistry is there.
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- Yeah, she has a wild side.
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She just doesn't--
She's more reserved with it
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because she's a lady.
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But she's definitely
a Dickerson.
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Also, forget that,
chemistry's there.
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But sex-wise, like,
Pastor Cal told me
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break the ice, change her life.
259
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[laughs]
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In other words,
that's what he told me.
261
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- That's probably
the perfect advice, dude.
262
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- Yeah, I know. But, you know,
I worry, bro. I worry.
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'Cause I think that if I do it,
I might change.
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Not change, but I will look
at this differently.
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Because I don't know her
on a full mental--
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- Like, I mean, I don't think
you necessarily have to.
267
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- Yeah, that's what
Pastor Cal was saying.
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He's saying, "Just flow
with it, dude. You're married."
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- Dude, this is the first person
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I've ever met you
nervous about...
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- I know.
272
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- Taking to bed,
you know what I mean? Like--
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- I know. [laughs] God.
274
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- One thing that's really
shocking to me is the fact
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that they haven't
consummated the marriage.
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I'm just surprised,
'cause he doesn't
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have a problem with women.
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I mean, I've known him
for ten years.
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The first woman that he's
actually had a mind block with
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and he's nervous about--
Maybe she is the one.
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So that's good.
Seems like you like her a lot.
282
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- Yeah, yeah.
It's--I have my ups and downs.
283
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- Do you have any red flags?
She giving any red flags?
284
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- The first time she went
to the store,
285
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she came back with,
like, bread and water.
286
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Nothing else.
287
00:11:08,560 --> 00:11:11,561
She was gone for two hours and
came back with just one bag.
288
00:11:11,579 --> 00:11:14,339
[laughs] So I questioned--
I'm like, man,
289
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does she not know
how to go grocery shopping?
290
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And her excuse was,
"I only go for one person.
291
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I never go for two,
so I don't know how to."
292
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- That's valid.
293
00:11:22,574 --> 00:11:23,998
- It's valid,
but I think it's bull.
294
00:11:24,092 --> 00:11:25,909
- Dude, think about when I had
my apartment in college, dude.
295
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We were ordering out every day.
296
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I ain't never bought groceries.
- Right. Right.
297
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And I gotta remember my wife
likes to food blog,
298
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so she likes to go out and try
new places and dress up.
299
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- Yeah.
She's just not used to it.
300
00:11:34,920 --> 00:11:36,010
- Yeah.
301
00:11:36,104 --> 00:11:37,086
- Don't overthink it,
you know what I mean?
302
00:11:37,180 --> 00:11:38,512
- Nah, yeah.
- I think you're playing
303
00:11:38,532 --> 00:11:40,423
too many, like, mind tricks
on yourself, and it's--
304
00:11:40,442 --> 00:11:41,199
- Yeah.
305
00:11:41,426 --> 00:11:42,425
- I think you're causing
yourself
306
00:11:42,518 --> 00:11:43,593
the most stress
out of everything.
307
00:11:43,611 --> 00:11:44,777
- Yeah. I think so too.
308
00:11:44,930 --> 00:11:45,853
- I'll be honest with you, like,
309
00:11:45,947 --> 00:11:48,039
you do kind of expect a lot.
- Yeah.
310
00:11:48,191 --> 00:11:50,450
- And I think maybe that
could be a flaw in yourself,
311
00:11:50,544 --> 00:11:51,935
that you just gotta understand
that people are people,
312
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you gotta take them
for who they are
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and just find the right one.
314
00:11:54,697 --> 00:11:56,697
But you have a beautiful woman
who cares about you.
315
00:11:56,791 --> 00:11:58,624
- Yeah.
She wants to make me happy.
316
00:11:58,777 --> 00:12:00,719
It's awesome, bro.
It really is awesome.
317
00:12:00,870 --> 00:12:01,886
It's awesome.
318
00:12:02,038 --> 00:12:03,613
It's just--like you said,
it's my own mind.
319
00:12:03,706 --> 00:12:06,040
My own mind game.
My own mind game.
320
00:12:06,134 --> 00:12:07,559
- Stop overthinking.
321
00:12:07,786 --> 00:12:09,469
♪ ♪
322
00:12:09,621 --> 00:12:10,787
[energetic rock music]
323
00:12:10,805 --> 00:12:12,455
- ♪ I gotta learn to keep
my mouth shut ♪
324
00:12:12,474 --> 00:12:14,899
♪ It's hard to bite my tongue
when I know you are the one ♪
325
00:12:15,126 --> 00:12:18,294
♪ And I, I gotta find
a new remedy ♪
326
00:12:18,313 --> 00:12:21,055
♪ Breaking down the walls is
the only way you get to me ♪
327
00:12:21,149 --> 00:12:23,967
- What do you like about
being married?
328
00:12:24,060 --> 00:12:25,468
- I think having someone
to come home to
329
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is probably my favorite thing.
330
00:12:27,748 --> 00:12:28,988
Like, we can go watch a movie.
331
00:12:29,082 --> 00:12:31,157
We can go sit on the couch.
We can do anything.
332
00:12:31,309 --> 00:12:32,584
I have someone
to do things with.
333
00:12:32,811 --> 00:12:33,901
- Yeah.
334
00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:36,403
- And I like that
she's always there for me.
335
00:12:36,498 --> 00:12:39,907
Like, she's already reached out
to, like, my mom's doctor
336
00:12:40,001 --> 00:12:41,000
to try to set up an appointment
337
00:12:41,094 --> 00:12:42,652
'cause she hasn't been
to an appointment
338
00:12:42,670 --> 00:12:43,595
in, like, a year.
339
00:12:43,822 --> 00:12:45,989
And I've never been
in a relationship
340
00:12:46,007 --> 00:12:48,491
where my significant other
really helped me
341
00:12:48,510 --> 00:12:50,602
with things
that were on my plate ever.
342
00:12:50,829 --> 00:12:52,161
♪ ♪
343
00:12:52,180 --> 00:12:55,665
- Yeah. You usually are, like,
head over heels, like,
344
00:12:55,683 --> 00:12:58,501
first person to say you love
the person, like,
345
00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:00,853
you're ready to get married,
like, right away.
346
00:13:01,006 --> 00:13:03,281
Do you feel like
it's that feeling already?
347
00:13:03,508 --> 00:13:05,341
♪ ♪
348
00:13:05,434 --> 00:13:09,345
- No. She's really caring.
She's really loving.
349
00:13:09,438 --> 00:13:12,439
But the first impression
was just so
350
00:13:12,534 --> 00:13:14,367
outside the box
of what I'm used to.
351
00:13:14,519 --> 00:13:16,702
It was a mix of we
have things in common,
352
00:13:16,855 --> 00:13:18,354
we have things in common,
whoa, whoa, whoa.
353
00:13:18,373 --> 00:13:20,114
So much in common.
And then the other side,
354
00:13:20,133 --> 00:13:22,025
it was like,
you're a little loud,
355
00:13:22,118 --> 00:13:24,527
and you say things
in a public setting
356
00:13:24,620 --> 00:13:26,696
that it almost
makes me uncomfortable.
357
00:13:26,714 --> 00:13:28,807
[quirky music]
358
00:13:28,958 --> 00:13:31,125
- I don't want to hurt you.
- I like it, actually.
359
00:13:31,144 --> 00:13:32,368
- Pull the skin towards you
a little bit.
360
00:13:32,387 --> 00:13:33,369
- Yeah.
361
00:13:33,462 --> 00:13:34,813
I want it to hurt a little.
[laughs]
362
00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:36,205
♪ ♪
363
00:13:36,299 --> 00:13:38,207
- Oh, you got your sneakers on?
- Yeah, bitch.
364
00:13:38,226 --> 00:13:39,484
We dropping off layers.
365
00:13:39,635 --> 00:13:40,893
In three hours, I'm not gonna
have any underwear.
366
00:13:41,046 --> 00:13:42,821
Good luck.
- [laughs]
367
00:13:43,048 --> 00:13:45,231
All right, never have I ever
had a finger in my [bleep].
368
00:13:45,325 --> 00:13:47,659
- Oh!
- What the [bleep]?
369
00:13:47,886 --> 00:13:49,160
- Mark?
370
00:13:49,387 --> 00:13:51,663
[indistinct chatter]
371
00:13:51,814 --> 00:13:54,982
- I'm more reserved in
public settings than she is.
372
00:13:55,001 --> 00:13:56,559
She's very comfortable
in her skin
373
00:13:56,652 --> 00:13:58,837
to say and do things
than I could do.
374
00:13:58,988 --> 00:14:01,005
- Does anything she do, like,
embarrass you, like,
375
00:14:01,232 --> 00:14:02,565
where you're, like--
376
00:14:02,584 --> 00:14:05,234
Like, turn your head like,
"I don't know you," like--
377
00:14:05,328 --> 00:14:07,494
- [laughs]
Well, like, on the plane,
378
00:14:07,514 --> 00:14:09,514
she was, like, busting balls.
379
00:14:09,665 --> 00:14:11,741
But the person
didn't take it lightly.
380
00:14:11,759 --> 00:14:13,667
And I'm sitting there,
I could, like, count the outs
381
00:14:13,687 --> 00:14:15,353
that he was giving her
on the conversation.
382
00:14:15,580 --> 00:14:16,762
- Yeah.
383
00:14:16,915 --> 00:14:18,172
- And on the third out,
he was just real upset.
384
00:14:18,266 --> 00:14:21,675
And I don't know
if she's really aware
385
00:14:21,769 --> 00:14:24,654
of how it's coming across
in general.
386
00:14:26,199 --> 00:14:28,032
It's always coming from
a good place, and I know that,
387
00:14:28,259 --> 00:14:30,201
and I think the people
that know her know that.
388
00:14:30,428 --> 00:14:33,613
But, like, all these little
moments don't help me grow.
389
00:14:33,707 --> 00:14:35,598
I want them to stop happening
390
00:14:35,617 --> 00:14:38,042
so I can see if I can
really connect with her.
391
00:14:38,194 --> 00:14:39,769
But I'm not there.
392
00:14:39,787 --> 00:14:43,381
So because I'm not there,
I kind of just--ugh,
393
00:14:43,608 --> 00:14:45,608
just kind of don't say anything.
394
00:14:45,627 --> 00:14:48,444
- I don't think Mark expected
to be the one
395
00:14:48,537 --> 00:14:51,280
that was kind of holding back
and uncomfortable
396
00:14:51,374 --> 00:14:53,282
and not ready
to kind of jump in,
397
00:14:53,301 --> 00:14:55,134
because that's the opposite
398
00:14:55,286 --> 00:14:57,620
of how his past relationships
have gone.
399
00:14:57,639 --> 00:15:00,381
It's going differently
than he thought, for sure.
400
00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,792
But he's gotta take
the leap of faith
401
00:15:02,810 --> 00:15:04,736
and say, "I'm gonna tell you
what I don't like,"
402
00:15:04,963 --> 00:15:07,238
and don't be scared of
how she's gonna react.
403
00:15:07,465 --> 00:15:09,056
♪ ♪
404
00:15:09,150 --> 00:15:10,149
- That's a turnoff for me.
405
00:15:10,243 --> 00:15:11,484
That's not what I want,
like, in a wife.
406
00:15:11,636 --> 00:15:12,802
So you need to cut that out.
407
00:15:12,820 --> 00:15:14,820
[intense music]
408
00:15:14,915 --> 00:15:16,563
Most situations in the past,
if I had this much difficulty,
409
00:15:16,583 --> 00:15:17,916
I'd just be out.
410
00:15:18,067 --> 00:15:20,752
- ♪ It's the dark side
of love ♪
411
00:15:24,591 --> 00:15:26,666
- ♪ Hey, look ♪
412
00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:28,742
♪ I know that they pree man
from the sidelines ♪
413
00:15:28,762 --> 00:15:30,670
♪ But if you wanna snap ♪
414
00:15:30,764 --> 00:15:32,597
[knock at door]
- [laughs]
415
00:15:32,748 --> 00:15:35,082
Hey, you.
- You knew it was me.
416
00:15:35,101 --> 00:15:37,843
- I knew. Nobody else.
- Nobody else knocks like that.
417
00:15:37,938 --> 00:15:39,345
How you doing?
- I'm good.
418
00:15:39,439 --> 00:15:40,830
Jeez, it's been forever.
419
00:15:40,848 --> 00:15:42,774
- I know, I know.
420
00:15:43,001 --> 00:15:46,169
Jasmina and I have had
a rocky start to our marriage.
421
00:15:46,262 --> 00:15:49,188
But Pastor Cal
definitely helped us
422
00:15:49,340 --> 00:15:51,282
start over on a new leaf.
423
00:15:51,509 --> 00:15:54,026
However, we're still figuring
out our communication.
424
00:15:54,179 --> 00:15:56,846
So I'm looking forward to
getting my sister's insight,
425
00:15:56,939 --> 00:15:58,514
'cause Claire
is not gonna hold back.
426
00:15:58,607 --> 00:16:00,349
She's gonna tell me
where I'm wrong
427
00:16:00,368 --> 00:16:01,775
and how I can improve.
428
00:16:01,795 --> 00:16:03,019
That's what I need right now.
429
00:16:03,037 --> 00:16:04,187
♪ ♪
430
00:16:04,205 --> 00:16:05,538
Every now and then,
I look at this like,
431
00:16:05,690 --> 00:16:07,873
"Hold up, what is--
This is a whole husband ring."
432
00:16:07,968 --> 00:16:09,950
- I'm telling you.
- Yeah.
433
00:16:09,970 --> 00:16:11,877
- I literally can't
get used to seeing it.
434
00:16:11,972 --> 00:16:14,455
[laughs] But I'm pretty sure
you got more going on than me.
435
00:16:14,474 --> 00:16:15,473
What's going on?
436
00:16:15,624 --> 00:16:16,808
- Can you see it on my face?
- Yeah.
437
00:16:17,035 --> 00:16:18,384
- I've been going like this
since I got here.
438
00:16:18,536 --> 00:16:20,369
- Yeah, right.
You been releasing tension
439
00:16:20,463 --> 00:16:21,646
since you walked in the door.
- Yeah.
440
00:16:21,797 --> 00:16:24,223
Oh, man, where do I start?
441
00:16:24,317 --> 00:16:25,632
Wedding was beautiful.
442
00:16:25,652 --> 00:16:27,893
Like, it was everything
that I imagined it to be.
443
00:16:28,046 --> 00:16:29,303
- Yeah, she was beautiful.
Family was beautiful.
444
00:16:29,322 --> 00:16:32,231
- She's beautiful.
Then we fly out to Puerto Rico.
445
00:16:32,383 --> 00:16:34,066
Energy's still good.
We're still flowing.
446
00:16:34,219 --> 00:16:35,493
Conversation's flowing.
447
00:16:35,644 --> 00:16:38,221
I'm like, "This feels really
normal. This feels great."
448
00:16:38,239 --> 00:16:40,890
So then we started
to have some conflict.
449
00:16:40,908 --> 00:16:42,667
♪ ♪
450
00:16:42,818 --> 00:16:44,894
Kind of just have to assume
there's gonna be conflict.
451
00:16:44,987 --> 00:16:46,562
But I think the way
we resolved it
452
00:16:46,655 --> 00:16:48,155
in the end--
- I don't agree with that.
453
00:16:48,249 --> 00:16:49,415
- What do you mean?
454
00:16:49,567 --> 00:16:51,417
- I don't think that there's
gonna be conflict
455
00:16:51,511 --> 00:16:52,826
because we all just met.
456
00:16:52,846 --> 00:16:53,903
- So you think, in our marriage,
457
00:16:53,996 --> 00:16:54,846
we're not gonna have conflict?
458
00:16:55,073 --> 00:16:56,572
♪ ♪
459
00:16:56,665 --> 00:16:58,182
I feel like since the wedding,
460
00:16:58,334 --> 00:17:01,577
there's been some type
of distance between us.
461
00:17:01,596 --> 00:17:03,504
I would have liked for us
462
00:17:03,598 --> 00:17:07,191
to have made
a little more progress.
463
00:17:07,343 --> 00:17:10,086
- I'm not gonna say,
"Oh, I'm sorry I cut you off,"
464
00:17:10,179 --> 00:17:11,754
'cause I don't feel
I cut you off.
465
00:17:11,847 --> 00:17:14,090
But I will say I'm sorry
that you feel that way.
466
00:17:14,183 --> 00:17:15,758
- So if the tables
were turned...
467
00:17:15,851 --> 00:17:17,184
- And you said sorry
you felt that way?
468
00:17:17,278 --> 00:17:19,370
- And I said that you--
"I'm sorry you feel that way,"
469
00:17:19,522 --> 00:17:20,780
you would be like, "Okay"?
470
00:17:20,874 --> 00:17:23,783
- You want me to apologize
to you how you want me to.
471
00:17:23,935 --> 00:17:25,209
I'm not going to do that.
472
00:17:25,436 --> 00:17:27,861
♪ ♪
473
00:17:27,881 --> 00:17:29,772
- After meeting with Pastor Cal,
474
00:17:29,865 --> 00:17:32,884
we decided
let's just start fresh.
475
00:17:33,035 --> 00:17:35,053
But we have a lot
to work through.
476
00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,798
- Yeah. But also understand
y'all don't know each other.
477
00:17:38,892 --> 00:17:40,299
She doesn't know you.
478
00:17:40,393 --> 00:17:42,042
- Yeah, 'cause I'm just a guy.
479
00:17:42,136 --> 00:17:43,061
- 'Cause you're just a guy
right now.
480
00:17:43,288 --> 00:17:44,228
- Yeah.
481
00:17:44,455 --> 00:17:45,379
- And for somebody who is
as strong as her,
482
00:17:45,473 --> 00:17:47,290
you gotta understand
she's vulnerable.
483
00:17:47,308 --> 00:17:48,715
- Mm-hmm.
484
00:17:48,810 --> 00:17:50,217
- She's being super open
in a way
485
00:17:50,236 --> 00:17:51,627
that she's never been
open before.
486
00:17:51,646 --> 00:17:54,480
So women like us,
when you feel too open,
487
00:17:54,574 --> 00:17:56,908
when you feel too vulnerable,
instantly you're like...
488
00:17:57,059 --> 00:17:59,410
- "Let me--let me"--yeah.
- "Let me protect this."
489
00:17:59,637 --> 00:18:01,061
And you don't know
who she dealt with before.
490
00:18:01,155 --> 00:18:02,413
You don't know
what her scars are like.
491
00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:03,806
♪ ♪
492
00:18:03,899 --> 00:18:06,309
- So what do I do?
Like, how do--
493
00:18:06,402 --> 00:18:08,144
What do I do
in the meantime, then?
494
00:18:08,237 --> 00:18:11,071
- She needs to trust
that you got this.
495
00:18:11,091 --> 00:18:13,073
- Yeah.
- And it's hard to do that
496
00:18:13,093 --> 00:18:14,908
with somebody
you don't know all the way.
497
00:18:15,002 --> 00:18:16,743
So don't be offended by her.
498
00:18:16,763 --> 00:18:18,412
Understand that she
is protecting herself
499
00:18:18,431 --> 00:18:20,990
and her space
the best way she knows how.
500
00:18:21,008 --> 00:18:22,658
- 'Cause she don't trust me
to do it.
501
00:18:22,751 --> 00:18:24,327
- Not yet.
She doesn't know you to do it.
502
00:18:24,345 --> 00:18:26,495
Not that she doesn't trust you.
She doesn't know that you can.
503
00:18:26,514 --> 00:18:27,772
- Mm-hmm.
504
00:18:27,999 --> 00:18:29,498
♪ ♪
505
00:18:29,592 --> 00:18:33,111
- ♪ 'Cause I know
you won't be ♪
506
00:18:33,338 --> 00:18:35,855
♪ ♪
507
00:18:35,949 --> 00:18:37,448
♪ Coming back ♪
508
00:18:37,675 --> 00:18:39,358
♪ ♪
509
00:18:39,452 --> 00:18:41,786
♪ Coming back ♪
510
00:18:42,013 --> 00:18:43,863
♪ ♪
511
00:18:44,015 --> 00:18:46,532
- Alyssa and Chris decided
to get a divorce
512
00:18:46,684 --> 00:18:48,868
after only ten days of marriage.
513
00:18:48,962 --> 00:18:50,853
- Hi.
514
00:18:50,946 --> 00:18:52,855
- And in addition to the hurt
515
00:18:52,948 --> 00:18:54,615
that comes along
with a marriage ending,
516
00:18:54,634 --> 00:18:57,026
they also have to break
the news to the loved ones
517
00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:58,711
that supported them
through this process,
518
00:18:58,863 --> 00:19:01,697
which can be equally as painful.
519
00:19:01,716 --> 00:19:03,307
[line ringing]
520
00:19:03,459 --> 00:19:05,792
- Hi.
- Hey, Mom. How are you?
521
00:19:05,812 --> 00:19:07,645
- Good. And you?
522
00:19:10,150 --> 00:19:14,986
- It is sad and disappointing
to be back here and single.
523
00:19:15,213 --> 00:19:16,320
♪ ♪
524
00:19:16,547 --> 00:19:18,639
Of all the people
that I have to tell
525
00:19:18,658 --> 00:19:22,718
that I'm getting divorced,
my mom is the hardest one
526
00:19:22,811 --> 00:19:24,978
because I don't know
if she looked forward
527
00:19:25,072 --> 00:19:26,722
to me getting married
more than I did,
528
00:19:26,741 --> 00:19:27,814
but she's certainly
looked forward to it
529
00:19:27,909 --> 00:19:29,316
longer than I have,
530
00:19:29,410 --> 00:19:31,169
because she's wanted me to get
married since I was little.
531
00:19:31,396 --> 00:19:32,745
I know I haven't really
given you an update,
532
00:19:32,897 --> 00:19:33,987
so I figured
I'd give you a call,
533
00:19:34,007 --> 00:19:35,339
sort of tell you everything
that's going on.
534
00:19:38,236 --> 00:19:41,404
After the wedding, things
kind of took a turn right away.
535
00:19:41,422 --> 00:19:42,847
[tense music]
536
00:19:42,998 --> 00:19:45,183
- Sorry for making you sit here.
537
00:19:45,410 --> 00:19:47,185
I was just trying
to get my thoughts together
538
00:19:47,412 --> 00:19:50,579
and figure out, like,
what was best to say.
539
00:19:50,673 --> 00:19:52,356
- I don't know what this is,
but...
540
00:19:52,583 --> 00:19:54,841
♪ ♪
541
00:19:54,936 --> 00:19:56,419
I'm sorry if I did anything.
542
00:19:56,437 --> 00:19:58,587
♪ ♪
543
00:19:58,681 --> 00:20:00,031
It sucked.
544
00:20:00,182 --> 00:20:03,609
And it didn't start great.
545
00:20:03,703 --> 00:20:05,778
So we go to Puerto Rico,
546
00:20:05,872 --> 00:20:09,189
and we're supposed to stay
in a honeymoon suite together.
547
00:20:09,283 --> 00:20:11,191
It's gigantic.
I'm willing to, like,
548
00:20:11,211 --> 00:20:14,027
sleep on the couch
on an entirely different floor,
549
00:20:14,047 --> 00:20:17,273
and she doesn't want
to stay in it with me.
550
00:20:17,366 --> 00:20:20,218
And every time we sit down
to talk about, like,
551
00:20:20,369 --> 00:20:23,295
the state of our relationship,
she left the conversation.
552
00:20:23,448 --> 00:20:24,463
I am at this point--
553
00:20:24,615 --> 00:20:25,890
- And I'm not gonna stand here
on camera
554
00:20:26,041 --> 00:20:26,724
if he's gonna say that.
- I--
555
00:20:26,951 --> 00:20:27,725
- Mm-mm.
556
00:20:27,952 --> 00:20:30,043
I mean,
I don't really like this.
557
00:20:30,137 --> 00:20:32,396
So I don't like
where this is going.
558
00:20:32,623 --> 00:20:33,547
♪ ♪
559
00:20:33,641 --> 00:20:35,958
So I'm gonna walk away
for a second.
560
00:20:36,051 --> 00:20:38,627
So I'm going to get up
from this conversation,
561
00:20:38,721 --> 00:20:41,146
because right now,
that is the time for me to go.
562
00:20:41,299 --> 00:20:42,723
So yeah, that is--
- Would you like to know
563
00:20:42,817 --> 00:20:44,467
what I'm gonna do
with the apartment?
564
00:20:44,485 --> 00:20:47,227
- That is--that is it.
Thank you so much.
565
00:20:47,321 --> 00:20:49,488
- "Robbed" is the word
she keeps using,
566
00:20:49,582 --> 00:20:51,974
because the experts didn't
give her the guy she wanted.
567
00:20:52,067 --> 00:20:54,977
- Yeah, it sounds to me
like you got robbed,
568
00:20:54,996 --> 00:20:57,813
and she wanted
her 15 minutes of fame.
569
00:20:57,832 --> 00:21:00,574
- Maybe. But she says
that she feels robbed
570
00:21:00,593 --> 00:21:02,576
'cause she didn't get
the guy she wanted.
571
00:21:02,670 --> 00:21:04,578
I feel robbed because no one
572
00:21:04,597 --> 00:21:06,489
was gonna get the guy
or girl they wanted.
573
00:21:06,582 --> 00:21:09,416
I just wanted somebody
who was willing to try.
574
00:21:09,435 --> 00:21:12,177
I'm pissed off
about how this went.
575
00:21:12,330 --> 00:21:14,513
Every day, I feel less
and less like she tried.
576
00:21:14,607 --> 00:21:16,607
It's just hard for me to think
577
00:21:16,759 --> 00:21:18,501
that somebody can come
into this process
578
00:21:18,519 --> 00:21:20,686
knowing everything
that is expected of them
579
00:21:20,780 --> 00:21:24,189
and still claim that somehow
it was worse for them
580
00:21:24,284 --> 00:21:25,841
than, what, 50 other couples
581
00:21:25,860 --> 00:21:28,286
that have gone through
this process?
582
00:21:28,437 --> 00:21:32,014
But we still, faster than
anybody in the history
583
00:21:32,107 --> 00:21:36,185
of this experiment,
I think, are done.
584
00:21:36,278 --> 00:21:38,779
- Yeah, she's looking
for reasons
585
00:21:38,798 --> 00:21:40,947
to get out of this
without looking bad.
586
00:21:40,967 --> 00:21:42,541
- And that's the thing is, like,
587
00:21:42,693 --> 00:21:45,194
I don't--I genuinely wonder
588
00:21:45,287 --> 00:21:46,787
if it was just
a purely physical thing
589
00:21:46,881 --> 00:21:48,547
and she couldn't get past that.
590
00:21:48,699 --> 00:21:50,624
- Sounds like that's what it is.
591
00:21:50,718 --> 00:21:53,369
- With Pastor Cal yesterday,
I said,
592
00:21:53,387 --> 00:21:57,315
"This is my Decision Day,
and I'm here to say
593
00:21:57,466 --> 00:22:00,376
what she won't--
That we should get a divorce."
594
00:22:00,394 --> 00:22:03,988
[dramatic music]
595
00:22:04,215 --> 00:22:06,807
I don't think she was ever
in this process, so...
596
00:22:06,901 --> 00:22:09,385
- If she's like that, I mean,
597
00:22:09,403 --> 00:22:12,071
she's probably
doing you a favor.
598
00:22:12,223 --> 00:22:14,073
- Yeah.
599
00:22:14,225 --> 00:22:16,392
- I mean, do you want
to spend decades
600
00:22:16,410 --> 00:22:18,836
with somebody that's like that?
601
00:22:19,063 --> 00:22:20,487
♪ ♪
602
00:22:20,506 --> 00:22:22,155
- No.
603
00:22:22,175 --> 00:22:24,567
The silver lining
is that I feel much better
604
00:22:24,585 --> 00:22:27,753
about who I am as a person,
having gone through it,
605
00:22:27,847 --> 00:22:31,164
and that I'm so ready
for the next person.
606
00:22:31,184 --> 00:22:32,999
But it's gonna take some time
for the frustration
607
00:22:33,094 --> 00:22:36,187
and disappointment
to move past it.
608
00:22:36,414 --> 00:22:39,748
You own it, you internalize it,
you move past it.
609
00:22:39,767 --> 00:22:41,100
♪ ♪
610
00:22:41,194 --> 00:22:43,435
- You just haven't met
your match yet. That's all.
611
00:22:43,529 --> 00:22:46,438
[somber music]
612
00:22:46,591 --> 00:22:50,593
♪ ♪
613
00:22:50,611 --> 00:22:51,702
[upbeat music]
614
00:22:51,929 --> 00:22:55,706
- ♪ We can be
as free as we feel ♪
615
00:22:55,933 --> 00:22:58,450
♪ Climb right into heaven,
baby ♪
616
00:22:58,603 --> 00:23:00,211
- Welcome to my--
- Your new abode.
617
00:23:00,362 --> 00:23:02,287
- My new home.
618
00:23:02,382 --> 00:23:03,697
- This is cute.
619
00:23:03,716 --> 00:23:05,049
- I know, right?
620
00:23:05,276 --> 00:23:06,533
♪ ♪
621
00:23:06,627 --> 00:23:07,885
Here you go.
- Thank you.
622
00:23:08,112 --> 00:23:09,369
- How have you been?
623
00:23:09,463 --> 00:23:13,057
- How have you been,
Mrs. Dickerson?
624
00:23:13,284 --> 00:23:14,967
- Oh, God, that sounds
so weird saying that.
625
00:23:15,061 --> 00:23:17,453
- Does it? Cheers.
- Cheers.
626
00:23:17,471 --> 00:23:19,230
I've been good.
627
00:23:19,457 --> 00:23:20,639
♪ ♪
628
00:23:20,733 --> 00:23:22,566
- Let's backtrack.
- Okay.
629
00:23:22,718 --> 00:23:25,294
- Wedding day.
First impression.
630
00:23:25,387 --> 00:23:27,980
- Okay, first impression,
I was so overwhelmed,
631
00:23:28,132 --> 00:23:29,648
and I'm like, "You cute."
632
00:23:29,742 --> 00:23:31,300
[laughs]
- Okay.
633
00:23:31,318 --> 00:23:32,726
- I'm like, "You cute."
634
00:23:32,820 --> 00:23:35,304
- Can we talk about the garter?
635
00:23:35,397 --> 00:23:37,823
- Oh, my gosh. That was a lot.
636
00:23:37,917 --> 00:23:39,583
[cheers and laughter]
637
00:23:39,810 --> 00:23:41,252
- Okay, Chippendale!
638
00:23:41,479 --> 00:23:43,754
[laughs]
639
00:23:43,906 --> 00:23:46,498
- Ahh!
- Whoo!
640
00:23:46,651 --> 00:23:47,925
- What'd you think
about the dance?
641
00:23:48,152 --> 00:23:49,334
♪ ♪
642
00:23:49,429 --> 00:23:51,429
- Um...
- [laughs]
643
00:23:51,580 --> 00:23:53,489
- A little bit much.
A little bit much.
644
00:23:53,507 --> 00:23:55,916
- It was cute.
It was cute, but it was a lot.
645
00:23:55,935 --> 00:23:58,010
But I still liked it.
- Okay.
646
00:23:58,162 --> 00:23:59,437
You had a good
first impression of him...
647
00:23:59,588 --> 00:24:00,996
- Mm-hmm.
- Nonetheless?
648
00:24:01,015 --> 00:24:04,183
- When I sat with him down
at the "sweetheart table" --
649
00:24:04,277 --> 00:24:06,610
That's what you call it?
650
00:24:06,762 --> 00:24:09,188
Like, just the conversation
with him there, like,
651
00:24:09,340 --> 00:24:10,339
he showed me in that moment
652
00:24:10,432 --> 00:24:13,342
that I don't need
to carry a conversation,
653
00:24:13,360 --> 00:24:16,120
that he's gonna always come up
with something to talk about.
654
00:24:16,347 --> 00:24:17,270
- Okay.
655
00:24:17,290 --> 00:24:18,697
- So that's what I like
about him.
656
00:24:18,849 --> 00:24:21,183
- He will--[laughs]
657
00:24:21,202 --> 00:24:23,127
The day that we actually sat
with him,
658
00:24:23,354 --> 00:24:24,870
the day after the wedding--
- He talks a lot?
659
00:24:25,022 --> 00:24:26,464
- Oh, my God.
- [laughs]
660
00:24:26,615 --> 00:24:28,023
- He was talking
a bunch of fluff.
661
00:24:28,116 --> 00:24:29,541
Like, we asked maybe
five questions
662
00:24:29,635 --> 00:24:31,026
and he went off on a tangent.
663
00:24:31,045 --> 00:24:32,544
So I didn't really know
how to take it.
664
00:24:32,697 --> 00:24:34,363
- I'm here
for the right reasons.
665
00:24:34,456 --> 00:24:36,790
I have put in so much effort.
666
00:24:36,884 --> 00:24:38,291
I mean, it's been three months.
667
00:24:38,385 --> 00:24:39,810
I'm not a bad-looking dude.
668
00:24:40,037 --> 00:24:42,146
I don't struggle
with the women category.
669
00:24:42,373 --> 00:24:44,297
I tell her all the time,
don't focus on the camera,
670
00:24:44,317 --> 00:24:45,983
all that production
and all that.
671
00:24:46,210 --> 00:24:47,634
Focus on us.
672
00:24:47,653 --> 00:24:50,879
- When you say all the time,
you just met her 12 hours ago.
673
00:24:50,898 --> 00:24:54,233
♪ ♪
674
00:24:54,327 --> 00:24:57,811
- He was just talking so much.
675
00:24:57,830 --> 00:24:59,888
It's almost like he didn't
want us to ask questions.
676
00:24:59,907 --> 00:25:01,240
[tense music]
677
00:25:01,334 --> 00:25:04,727
I mean, maybe he was nervous.
I'm sure he was tired.
678
00:25:04,820 --> 00:25:06,729
You guys just had,
like, a long day.
679
00:25:06,747 --> 00:25:08,230
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm gonna charge it to that.
680
00:25:08,249 --> 00:25:10,232
But he said something--
681
00:25:10,325 --> 00:25:11,658
And I'm sure you guys
spoke about it.
682
00:25:11,677 --> 00:25:13,177
He said you talked
about his past.
683
00:25:13,404 --> 00:25:14,512
- Mm-hmm.
684
00:25:14,739 --> 00:25:16,922
- You're the first Black girl
he's ever dated.
685
00:25:17,016 --> 00:25:19,591
- I have never been with
a African American woman.
686
00:25:19,744 --> 00:25:21,835
But our connection
feels so real.
687
00:25:21,854 --> 00:25:25,414
- Why haven't you ever dated
a Black woman?
688
00:25:25,432 --> 00:25:28,008
- Never found one that was
attracted to me, for real.
689
00:25:28,102 --> 00:25:30,027
- That was attracted to you?
- Yeah.
690
00:25:30,254 --> 00:25:32,012
♪ ♪
691
00:25:32,106 --> 00:25:33,255
I want to try something new.
692
00:25:33,274 --> 00:25:36,349
- Something new
is a minor change, right?
693
00:25:36,369 --> 00:25:37,368
- Right, right, right.
694
00:25:37,519 --> 00:25:39,778
- Getting married
is a final decision.
695
00:25:39,872 --> 00:25:41,521
The part of your life
696
00:25:41,541 --> 00:25:44,691
that was available to women,
it's dead now.
697
00:25:44,785 --> 00:25:46,602
- Right.
So it's something new.
698
00:25:46,620 --> 00:25:48,045
♪ ♪
699
00:25:48,272 --> 00:25:50,956
- So let me just say...
- Yeah.
700
00:25:51,108 --> 00:25:52,866
- I'm the first Black girl
that he's been
701
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,611
in a serious relationship with.
702
00:25:55,704 --> 00:25:57,888
You have to remember,
he's half Irish
703
00:25:58,115 --> 00:25:59,298
and he has a mohawk.
704
00:25:59,392 --> 00:26:01,225
- He looks Black.
705
00:26:01,376 --> 00:26:03,118
- I know.
- He's Black.
706
00:26:03,211 --> 00:26:04,803
- Me and you know that,
of course.
707
00:26:04,897 --> 00:26:06,397
- Does he?
- 100%.
708
00:26:06,624 --> 00:26:08,548
Yeah.
709
00:26:08,642 --> 00:26:11,977
- The fact that he hasn't
dated a Black woman ever,
710
00:26:12,071 --> 00:26:14,738
it makes me reluctant for her.
711
00:26:14,965 --> 00:26:18,133
It does. He looks Black.
He's a Black man.
712
00:26:18,152 --> 00:26:19,484
So it's a little alarming
that he's never
713
00:26:19,579 --> 00:26:20,744
dated a Black woman.
714
00:26:20,896 --> 00:26:23,563
But we'll see.
715
00:26:23,583 --> 00:26:26,658
I'm gonna give him
the benefit of the doubt.
716
00:26:26,811 --> 00:26:28,660
- It's really not
a concern for me.
717
00:26:28,813 --> 00:26:30,813
- It is a big deal.
718
00:26:30,831 --> 00:26:32,664
- I know, and I understand,
and I've had convers---
719
00:26:32,758 --> 00:26:33,757
- So I just want to make sure
you addressed it.
720
00:26:33,909 --> 00:26:35,317
That's it.
- Yeah, we did address it.
721
00:26:35,336 --> 00:26:36,743
- As long as you guys
have addressed it, that's fine.
722
00:26:36,762 --> 00:26:40,839
I'm saying that alarmed me
and put me on edge for you.
723
00:26:40,933 --> 00:26:42,841
- And it alarmed me--no, but--
- It put me on edge for you.
724
00:26:42,993 --> 00:26:44,159
- Girl, I'm the one married
to the man.
725
00:26:44,252 --> 00:26:46,252
- I know.
- Of course it alarmed me.
726
00:26:46,272 --> 00:26:48,163
- But you're, like,
saying it's good, so I just--
727
00:26:48,182 --> 00:26:50,666
- We are, because I've spent
two weeks with him now,
728
00:26:50,684 --> 00:26:51,850
so we've moved past that.
729
00:26:52,002 --> 00:26:53,593
- Okay.
730
00:26:53,687 --> 00:26:56,171
- Ariana's opinion
is important to me
731
00:26:56,264 --> 00:26:58,340
because I definitely know,
you know,
732
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,618
she wants to be protective
'cause she knows
733
00:27:00,845 --> 00:27:02,769
what I've been through,
like, dating-wise.
734
00:27:02,788 --> 00:27:06,531
But I really want her
to give him a chance
735
00:27:06,684 --> 00:27:09,609
and get to know him
for the person that I've met
736
00:27:09,629 --> 00:27:11,520
and that I've got
to spend time with
737
00:27:11,613 --> 00:27:13,464
and not who she saw
at the wedding.
738
00:27:13,691 --> 00:27:16,375
I see your concern,
but it's not a thing for me.
739
00:27:16,527 --> 00:27:18,302
- Okay.
- Or him.
740
00:27:18,529 --> 00:27:19,637
- Okay.
741
00:27:19,864 --> 00:27:22,030
♪ ♪
742
00:27:22,124 --> 00:27:24,141
That's me keeping
my eyes on him, okay?
743
00:27:24,368 --> 00:27:25,559
♪ ♪
744
00:27:29,464 --> 00:27:30,205
[upbeat electronic music]
745
00:27:30,224 --> 00:27:32,040
♪ ♪
746
00:27:32,134 --> 00:27:34,059
- ♪ Ooh, I like
to rendezvous ♪
747
00:27:34,153 --> 00:27:35,986
♪ Ain't no better duo,
that's me plus you ♪
748
00:27:36,138 --> 00:27:38,489
- We gotta start prepping.
- I know.
749
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:40,215
For this housewarming party
we're gonna throw?
750
00:27:40,234 --> 00:27:41,808
- Mm-hmm.
751
00:27:41,827 --> 00:27:43,402
- Are you excited to have it?
752
00:27:43,554 --> 00:27:44,828
- Yeah. I'm excited
to have friends over.
753
00:27:44,980 --> 00:27:46,388
- Yeah.
- I want to see how, like,
754
00:27:46,481 --> 00:27:47,998
my friends interact
with your friends.
755
00:27:48,225 --> 00:27:49,333
And we'll see whose friends
are funnier.
756
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:50,893
I think my friends
are gonna be funnier.
757
00:27:50,911 --> 00:27:53,412
- Yeah, we'll see.
We'll have to see.
758
00:27:53,506 --> 00:27:55,822
- It says cherry tomatoes,
but I don't see any there.
759
00:27:55,841 --> 00:27:57,323
- I don't either.
- Maybe they--
760
00:27:57,343 --> 00:27:59,251
- We might have to pick some.
- Oh, yeah.
761
00:27:59,403 --> 00:28:00,511
Actually, yeah, maybe
we can pick our own, then.
762
00:28:00,662 --> 00:28:02,070
- I think they're on the farm.
- That'll be fun--
763
00:28:02,164 --> 00:28:03,163
That'll be fun
to tell our guests
764
00:28:03,182 --> 00:28:05,165
we picked our own tomatoes.
- Yeah.
765
00:28:05,184 --> 00:28:07,851
- So we're having a taco night.
766
00:28:08,078 --> 00:28:12,022
And we're looking for shrimp
to make tacos.
767
00:28:12,249 --> 00:28:14,249
- And then some salmon as well.
- Yeah.
768
00:28:14,268 --> 00:28:16,026
Our housewarming is coming up,
769
00:28:16,253 --> 00:28:17,695
and it's very important
to me and Jasmina
770
00:28:17,922 --> 00:28:19,345
because we want to be able
to be like,
771
00:28:19,365 --> 00:28:20,513
"I can have fun
with this person."
772
00:28:20,533 --> 00:28:21,773
We haven't had that.
773
00:28:21,867 --> 00:28:23,108
It's like "Married at First
Sight" right there.
774
00:28:23,202 --> 00:28:24,609
- [laughs]
775
00:28:24,762 --> 00:28:27,946
- This is me right here
at the altar, heart pounding.
776
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,523
This is you coming down.
777
00:28:30,617 --> 00:28:31,950
- ♪ We gon' keep on ♪
778
00:28:32,044 --> 00:28:34,545
- [laughs]
779
00:28:34,696 --> 00:28:35,879
It's the start
of a new beginning.
780
00:28:36,031 --> 00:28:37,272
Turning over a new leaf.
781
00:28:37,291 --> 00:28:38,607
Thank you.
- Have a good one.
782
00:28:38,700 --> 00:28:39,717
- Thank you so much.
- You too.
783
00:28:39,868 --> 00:28:41,034
I'm excited.
784
00:28:41,128 --> 00:28:43,278
- ♪ Risin', risin' ♪
785
00:28:43,297 --> 00:28:44,388
♪ ♪
786
00:28:44,615 --> 00:28:46,706
- ♪ Hey, if you write it
in a letter ♪
787
00:28:46,726 --> 00:28:48,708
♪ I'll rip it up ♪
788
00:28:48,728 --> 00:28:51,211
♪ I'll rip it up ♪
789
00:28:51,230 --> 00:28:53,455
- It's from Iceland.
- So cute.
790
00:28:53,474 --> 00:28:54,639
- I know.
I wanted you to come so bad.
791
00:28:54,792 --> 00:28:56,400
You would have loved it.
- Oh, my God, I know.
792
00:28:56,551 --> 00:28:57,809
Well, we'll have
to go another time.
793
00:28:57,962 --> 00:28:58,977
- Yeah.
794
00:28:59,129 --> 00:29:02,072
- Maybe we can mix it
with a dog rescue.
795
00:29:02,224 --> 00:29:03,815
Kaitlyn is one
of my best friends.
796
00:29:03,968 --> 00:29:05,984
We rescue animals together.
797
00:29:06,136 --> 00:29:07,152
You know, unfortunately,
798
00:29:07,246 --> 00:29:08,746
she wasn't able to attend
the wedding
799
00:29:08,897 --> 00:29:10,472
'cause she was away.
800
00:29:10,491 --> 00:29:13,325
And, you know, she's a really
important person in my life.
801
00:29:13,477 --> 00:29:16,920
So I wanted her to sit down
and get to have
802
00:29:17,072 --> 00:29:19,831
a conversation with me about
everything that's transpired.
803
00:29:19,984 --> 00:29:23,652
- So tell me about Chris.
804
00:29:23,670 --> 00:29:26,989
- At first glance, he's not,
like, physically my type.
805
00:29:27,007 --> 00:29:29,916
- Mm-hmm.
- That's hard to move past.
806
00:29:29,935 --> 00:29:31,994
So I just kept trying
to push through
807
00:29:32,012 --> 00:29:33,495
and push through.
- Yeah.
808
00:29:33,514 --> 00:29:35,347
- And, you know, the things
that I did hear about him...
809
00:29:35,499 --> 00:29:36,422
- Oh, yeah.
- You know, like,
810
00:29:36,442 --> 00:29:37,941
weren't the best things,
and that's--
811
00:29:38,093 --> 00:29:39,668
- I know.
- That's hard.
812
00:29:39,686 --> 00:29:44,673
- It's kind of hard to imagine
that his own friends and family
813
00:29:44,766 --> 00:29:46,691
didn't paint him
in the best light.
814
00:29:46,786 --> 00:29:49,027
Or maybe--maybe they thought
they were telling you
815
00:29:49,179 --> 00:29:50,529
good things,
and they were just everything
816
00:29:50,681 --> 00:29:52,289
that you weren't looking for
in a partner.
817
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:55,942
- I mean,
I don't know if it's good
818
00:29:55,961 --> 00:29:58,520
to ever tell anyone's
significant other
819
00:29:58,539 --> 00:30:00,872
that they would pick work
before them. [laugh]
820
00:30:00,966 --> 00:30:04,209
- Anyone that's immersed
in their work in real estate,
821
00:30:04,303 --> 00:30:07,471
more often than not,
they're on their phones 24-7.
822
00:30:07,622 --> 00:30:10,957
You tend to kind of be
not a back seat, not secondary.
823
00:30:10,976 --> 00:30:13,793
It's just, they're so driven
and motivated
824
00:30:13,813 --> 00:30:16,054
that you kind of need
to grasp that.
825
00:30:16,148 --> 00:30:18,707
- I'm not sure if that would
sit well with anybody.
826
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:19,632
- All right, I'll give you that.
827
00:30:19,652 --> 00:30:22,210
- [laughs]
- Yeah.
828
00:30:22,229 --> 00:30:25,063
In the honeymoon,
did you guys ever get to have,
829
00:30:25,215 --> 00:30:29,234
like, any conversations,
deep conversations,
830
00:30:29,386 --> 00:30:31,995
like, what he wanted in life
versus what you wanted in life?
831
00:30:32,147 --> 00:30:34,239
- No.
We never got to have any...
832
00:30:34,391 --> 00:30:35,407
- Yeah.
833
00:30:35,559 --> 00:30:37,317
- Like, real conversations
with each other.
834
00:30:37,336 --> 00:30:39,670
You know,
it was a very small resort,
835
00:30:39,897 --> 00:30:43,415
and everyone knew
where I was at all times.
836
00:30:43,509 --> 00:30:45,233
And if he wanted to talk to me,
he, you know,
837
00:30:45,327 --> 00:30:47,469
could have very well found me.
- Yeah.
838
00:30:48,997 --> 00:30:51,164
- Can you tell him not to come
over here right now?
839
00:30:51,183 --> 00:30:52,516
- Yeah.
Can you go over there?
840
00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:55,760
- No, I do not want
to talk to him!
841
00:30:55,913 --> 00:30:57,187
I hate him!
842
00:30:57,339 --> 00:30:58,263
- So you have nothing to--
843
00:30:58,357 --> 00:30:59,690
You have nothing more
to say to him.
844
00:30:59,917 --> 00:31:01,341
- No.
845
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,344
- Are you feeling like
you're okay with your decision?
846
00:31:04,363 --> 00:31:06,196
- I mean, it wasn't my decision.
847
00:31:07,441 --> 00:31:08,866
- How did that all go down?
848
00:31:09,093 --> 00:31:11,443
- He was just kind of like,
"Well, today's
849
00:31:11,595 --> 00:31:14,854
the day I'm deciding,
and I want a divorce."
850
00:31:14,874 --> 00:31:19,376
And, you know, I spent
the last few days being like,
851
00:31:19,527 --> 00:31:21,378
"I want to start
with a clean slate.
852
00:31:21,529 --> 00:31:22,787
I want to move forward..."
- Yeah.
853
00:31:22,940 --> 00:31:27,217
- "And just see if we can be
on, like, better terms,"
854
00:31:27,369 --> 00:31:29,111
you know,
no matter what that meant.
855
00:31:29,129 --> 00:31:31,037
- Yeah. And he just wasn't--
856
00:31:31,056 --> 00:31:34,466
- He just, like,
didn't want any part of it.
857
00:31:34,618 --> 00:31:36,801
- Like, he wasn't putting
forward that effort?
858
00:31:36,954 --> 00:31:38,303
- Yeah, I didn't
feel any effort.
859
00:31:38,455 --> 00:31:40,789
♪ ♪
860
00:31:40,807 --> 00:31:44,292
- You know, I'm open
and want to just,
861
00:31:44,311 --> 00:31:49,055
like, remove a lot
of the stuff around us
862
00:31:49,074 --> 00:31:50,966
and just hang out.
863
00:31:51,059 --> 00:31:53,985
I don't think I did a great job
864
00:31:54,138 --> 00:31:56,988
of doing all I could
to get you to understand
865
00:31:57,141 --> 00:31:59,824
that I really do think
you're just a cool person.
866
00:31:59,977 --> 00:32:01,251
♪ ♪
867
00:32:01,403 --> 00:32:03,145
- I don't--
I don't feel comfortable
868
00:32:03,238 --> 00:32:04,421
moving into an apartment
together.
869
00:32:04,648 --> 00:32:07,666
- I get it.
870
00:32:07,818 --> 00:32:10,761
I want you to do
what you're comfortable with.
871
00:32:10,988 --> 00:32:13,246
- I mean,
I wish I could have met him,
872
00:32:13,265 --> 00:32:16,582
just to get my own impression.
873
00:32:16,677 --> 00:32:18,751
'Cause, you know, there's been
some times when I'm like,
874
00:32:18,845 --> 00:32:20,512
"Oh, you know, you're being
a little too hard on this guy."
875
00:32:20,664 --> 00:32:21,680
- Yeah.
876
00:32:21,832 --> 00:32:24,349
- But from what you've
told me about him,
877
00:32:24,501 --> 00:32:27,519
it does sound like the way
he handles himself
878
00:32:27,613 --> 00:32:30,855
is not the type of man
that you want to be with.
879
00:32:30,950 --> 00:32:32,449
- Yeah.
880
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:33,858
- What's next?
881
00:32:33,953 --> 00:32:36,178
- What's next?
882
00:32:36,196 --> 00:32:40,123
I think I'm probably gonna pack
up my bags and move to Texas.
883
00:32:40,350 --> 00:32:42,108
[laughs]
884
00:32:42,127 --> 00:32:43,868
I think I'll find
my cowboy there.
885
00:32:44,021 --> 00:32:46,630
But I will definitely
talk to my psychic
886
00:32:46,781 --> 00:32:48,707
before making any big decisions.
887
00:32:48,801 --> 00:32:50,801
♪ ♪
888
00:32:50,952 --> 00:32:52,194
- I think you're
the first person I know
889
00:32:52,287 --> 00:32:53,303
that's been married for 12 days.
890
00:32:53,455 --> 00:32:56,306
- I mean...
- [laughs]
891
00:32:56,533 --> 00:32:58,791
- Do I get a prize,
or what's happening?
892
00:32:58,885 --> 00:33:00,811
- ♪ Cinderella ♪
893
00:33:00,962 --> 00:33:04,314
♪ This ain't forever ♪
894
00:33:04,541 --> 00:33:06,483
♪ You're a diamond
kind of girl ♪
895
00:33:06,634 --> 00:33:08,652
♪ Always better
under pressure ♪
896
00:33:08,803 --> 00:33:11,154
both: Hi.
[laughter]
897
00:33:11,306 --> 00:33:12,823
- How are you?
- Good. How are you?
898
00:33:13,050 --> 00:33:14,324
- I'm good.
899
00:33:14,551 --> 00:33:18,478
- Pastor Cal has definitely
helped Mike and I start over
900
00:33:18,497 --> 00:33:21,556
in the sense of, you know,
not having tension build up.
901
00:33:21,649 --> 00:33:23,649
But I wouldn't say
it necessarily
902
00:33:23,744 --> 00:33:26,061
fixed our communication
903
00:33:26,154 --> 00:33:28,913
because we haven't
really talked.
904
00:33:29,066 --> 00:33:31,750
So I'm meeting up
with my good friend Sam.
905
00:33:31,902 --> 00:33:34,344
She's been with her fiancé
for about eight years now,
906
00:33:34,571 --> 00:33:36,588
so I think she would be
the best person
907
00:33:36,740 --> 00:33:38,849
to get advice from.
908
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,910
- Does it feel different,
like, just post-wedding?
909
00:33:41,928 --> 00:33:43,669
- Yes, it definitely does.
910
00:33:43,764 --> 00:33:46,339
- [laughs] So tell me about it.
911
00:33:46,433 --> 00:33:47,599
- The wedding was nice.
912
00:33:47,751 --> 00:33:49,026
It was so beautiful.
- Aww.
913
00:33:49,253 --> 00:33:50,676
- And, like, I found out
we had, like,
914
00:33:50,696 --> 00:33:53,030
so much in common.
915
00:33:53,181 --> 00:33:56,274
And then our honeymoon was
kind of when it took a turn.
916
00:33:56,426 --> 00:33:57,776
♪ ♪
917
00:33:57,928 --> 00:33:59,611
We had a difference of opinions,
918
00:33:59,705 --> 00:34:02,597
and he used a tone with me
that I didn't like.
919
00:34:02,690 --> 00:34:04,449
- Oh, no.
You don't like any tone.
920
00:34:04,601 --> 00:34:05,375
- I don't like no tone.
921
00:34:05,602 --> 00:34:07,210
Don't use no tone.
Just talk to me.
922
00:34:07,362 --> 00:34:10,047
And I was just like,
"Don't do that," you know?
923
00:34:10,274 --> 00:34:11,864
- Right.
924
00:34:11,884 --> 00:34:14,459
- Then I ended up
going to his place.
925
00:34:14,611 --> 00:34:15,868
- Okay.
926
00:34:15,888 --> 00:34:19,539
- And a bedroom door opened,
and a woman walks out.
927
00:34:19,558 --> 00:34:20,965
[tense music]
928
00:34:21,060 --> 00:34:23,285
So I was like,
929
00:34:23,303 --> 00:34:25,470
"I never knew
you lived with a woman."
930
00:34:25,622 --> 00:34:26,730
- Right.
931
00:34:26,881 --> 00:34:28,973
- And I don't care
that he lives with a woman.
932
00:34:29,126 --> 00:34:30,292
I lived with a man.
933
00:34:30,310 --> 00:34:31,568
- Yeah.
- It's just, like--
934
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:33,386
- Why wasn't he forthcoming
with that information?
935
00:34:33,405 --> 00:34:35,146
- Yeah, like,
why wouldn't you say it?
936
00:34:35,299 --> 00:34:38,241
So as far as trust goes
with Michael and I,
937
00:34:38,393 --> 00:34:39,242
it's not really there yet.
938
00:34:41,638 --> 00:34:43,655
- Maybe he thought that it
wouldn't look good
939
00:34:43,807 --> 00:34:45,657
but, like, not realizing
that it would look worse
940
00:34:45,751 --> 00:34:49,144
if he wasn't forthcoming
with that information.
941
00:34:49,237 --> 00:34:51,088
I really think
it just comes down
942
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:53,590
to having conversations
with each other.
943
00:34:53,817 --> 00:34:56,151
Communication just comes
from communicating,
944
00:34:56,169 --> 00:34:57,577
so the more you communicate,
945
00:34:57,596 --> 00:35:00,171
the better you get at
communicating with that person.
946
00:35:00,324 --> 00:35:02,582
With my fiancé, like,
he comes home and, like,
947
00:35:02,676 --> 00:35:06,919
immediately tells me what he
had for lunch in the afternoon.
948
00:35:06,939 --> 00:35:09,180
And, like, in my head,
I'm like, "Oh, I don't care."
949
00:35:09,274 --> 00:35:11,257
But I love to hear it,
950
00:35:11,276 --> 00:35:14,611
because I love that he wants
to tell me about this day.
951
00:35:14,762 --> 00:35:17,856
So just talk as much as you can.
952
00:35:18,008 --> 00:35:19,265
♪ ♪
953
00:35:19,284 --> 00:35:21,693
And more conflicts will arise.
954
00:35:21,845 --> 00:35:24,529
That's just part of having
a relationship with a person.
955
00:35:24,681 --> 00:35:28,441
So, like, maybe next time,
try something different.
956
00:35:28,535 --> 00:35:30,352
- But I think my thing is,
957
00:35:30,370 --> 00:35:32,612
when he thinks he's right,
he thinks he's right.
958
00:35:32,631 --> 00:35:34,780
- That's sounds just
like you, though.
959
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,524
- Who the [bleep]?
960
00:35:36,618 --> 00:35:38,209
That is not true!
- [laughs]
961
00:35:38,362 --> 00:35:40,862
- It is true.
I've known you for four years.
962
00:35:40,881 --> 00:35:43,198
- That's literally--
I can admit when I'm wrong.
963
00:35:43,216 --> 00:35:44,975
- You can,
but you don't do it often.
964
00:35:45,126 --> 00:35:46,977
- Yeah, because I'm
not wrong often.
965
00:35:47,128 --> 00:35:49,053
- [snorts]
966
00:35:49,206 --> 00:35:50,480
♪ ♪
967
00:35:54,394 --> 00:35:56,227
- ♪ If we don't try,
we'll never know ♪
968
00:35:56,380 --> 00:35:59,397
♪ Maybe we've found
our pot of gold ♪
969
00:35:59,491 --> 00:36:00,806
♪ Hang on ♪
970
00:36:00,826 --> 00:36:02,308
- I can't wait.
We're gonna have fun.
971
00:36:02,327 --> 00:36:04,310
I think our friends
are all gonna enjoy each other.
972
00:36:04,329 --> 00:36:05,904
- Our newlyweds
are about to bring
973
00:36:06,056 --> 00:36:07,389
their friends and family
together
974
00:36:07,407 --> 00:36:10,167
and host their very first party
as a married couple.
975
00:36:10,394 --> 00:36:12,502
- Looks like we're having
a Ring Pop party.
976
00:36:12,654 --> 00:36:14,004
- [laughs]
977
00:36:14,155 --> 00:36:15,413
- Everyone's getting
married tonight.
978
00:36:15,507 --> 00:36:17,990
- Successfully navigating
how to merge their two lives
979
00:36:18,010 --> 00:36:19,734
into one is a major step
980
00:36:19,827 --> 00:36:21,403
and is incredibly important
981
00:36:21,421 --> 00:36:23,571
for the longevity
of the marriage.
982
00:36:23,665 --> 00:36:25,015
- That's the best we could do.
983
00:36:25,166 --> 00:36:26,499
- Yeah, I think it looks right.
984
00:36:26,518 --> 00:36:28,834
- So although these parties
are meant to be fun,
985
00:36:28,854 --> 00:36:30,595
they're also a test
986
00:36:30,747 --> 00:36:32,689
and a means to get feedback
on their spouse,
987
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,674
so there's a lot at stake.
988
00:36:34,768 --> 00:36:37,919
- I don't see any contact
between that tape and the wall.
989
00:36:38,012 --> 00:36:40,179
Can you see what I see?
- No, no.
990
00:36:40,199 --> 00:36:42,515
- I'm really excited for
the housewarming party today.
991
00:36:42,609 --> 00:36:45,035
I love to host a party.
992
00:36:45,186 --> 00:36:46,352
- What happened
to the original dough?
993
00:36:46,371 --> 00:36:47,687
Is it in there?
994
00:36:47,706 --> 00:36:50,022
- I just hope we can loosen up
and have fun,
995
00:36:50,116 --> 00:36:53,859
because Mark has pulled so
much back since the honeymoon.
996
00:36:53,879 --> 00:36:56,104
And the minute we said we were
having a housewarming party,
997
00:36:56,122 --> 00:36:57,455
I was like, got the theme done.
998
00:36:57,607 --> 00:36:59,883
I chose pizza because
we all get to try
999
00:37:00,034 --> 00:37:02,293
each other's flavors,
each other's tastes.
1000
00:37:02,446 --> 00:37:04,203
And I know my man likes pizza.
1001
00:37:04,223 --> 00:37:05,964
[laughs]
1002
00:37:06,058 --> 00:37:08,283
- Oh!
- Hi.
1003
00:37:08,301 --> 00:37:09,801
- Oh, hey.
- How are you?
1004
00:37:09,895 --> 00:37:11,135
- How are you?
1005
00:37:11,230 --> 00:37:12,971
[rock music]
1006
00:37:13,065 --> 00:37:17,234
I think it's gonna go...
1007
00:37:17,461 --> 00:37:18,476
fun?
1008
00:37:18,570 --> 00:37:20,645
I mean, I don't know.
1009
00:37:20,739 --> 00:37:23,147
I think it'll be nice
to see our friends.
1010
00:37:23,300 --> 00:37:25,967
But you never know
what to expect from Lindsey.
1011
00:37:25,986 --> 00:37:27,469
We'll see.
1012
00:37:27,562 --> 00:37:29,637
- We're gonna play
Maher Madness today.
1013
00:37:29,656 --> 00:37:31,564
There are 21 points to win.
1014
00:37:31,583 --> 00:37:33,658
Right answer, one point.
1015
00:37:33,810 --> 00:37:35,067
♪ ♪
1016
00:37:35,087 --> 00:37:38,313
Wrong answer, minus one.
1017
00:37:38,331 --> 00:37:40,315
You don't answer, minus one!
1018
00:37:40,333 --> 00:37:42,484
♪ ♪
1019
00:37:42,502 --> 00:37:44,427
What popular ballroom dance
shocked many
1020
00:37:44,654 --> 00:37:47,580
when introduced
in the late 18th century?
1021
00:37:47,674 --> 00:37:49,248
- We're gonna go foxtrot.
1022
00:37:49,268 --> 00:37:50,750
[buzzer blares]
1023
00:37:50,844 --> 00:37:51,826
- That is not the answer.
1024
00:37:51,845 --> 00:37:52,936
Does anybody else
want to steal it?
1025
00:37:53,087 --> 00:37:55,013
- The waltz.
- That's right. That's right.
1026
00:37:55,107 --> 00:37:57,682
- I was gonna say that!
I was gonna say that!
1027
00:37:57,776 --> 00:37:59,334
- ♪ It's like dinner
with the thought police ♪
1028
00:37:59,352 --> 00:38:00,351
♪ Ahh ♪
1029
00:38:00,504 --> 00:38:02,261
- Bruce Lee.
1030
00:38:02,281 --> 00:38:04,355
- Chuck Norris?
- [laughs]
1031
00:38:04,449 --> 00:38:06,007
- Jackie Chan.
1032
00:38:06,100 --> 00:38:08,026
- Jackie Chan. That's the one.
1033
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:09,844
- Yeah! Whoo!
1034
00:38:09,863 --> 00:38:11,604
- Seeing Mark's friends
and my friends get along
1035
00:38:11,698 --> 00:38:13,031
is a dream come true.
1036
00:38:13,183 --> 00:38:14,440
You are the company you keep,
1037
00:38:14,534 --> 00:38:17,627
and the friends that
I've gotten to meet one-on-one,
1038
00:38:17,779 --> 00:38:19,445
they're just
really lovely people.
1039
00:38:19,464 --> 00:38:21,280
- You gonna teach Kelsey
how to pie?
1040
00:38:21,300 --> 00:38:22,632
Nice.
- Yeah.
1041
00:38:22,784 --> 00:38:23,949
- The idea is just
to kind of, like,
1042
00:38:23,969 --> 00:38:26,544
get it into a shape of a pie.
1043
00:38:26,696 --> 00:38:28,546
- Okay.
1044
00:38:28,698 --> 00:38:31,975
So are you guys adjusting
to now living together?
1045
00:38:32,126 --> 00:38:34,769
And the honeymoon's over.
Back to work.
1046
00:38:37,298 --> 00:38:40,317
- It's hard, because he's so
overwhelmed and stressed out.
1047
00:38:40,544 --> 00:38:42,377
And for us,
we hit this one little hiccup
1048
00:38:42,395 --> 00:38:44,062
for a couple days
where he was, like--
1049
00:38:44,214 --> 00:38:45,471
I could just see him bottling up
1050
00:38:45,490 --> 00:38:46,656
because of every little thing
1051
00:38:46,808 --> 00:38:48,140
and not telling me
what he needed.
1052
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:49,975
And I was like, "Dude, I'm not
a [bleep] mind reader.
1053
00:38:49,995 --> 00:38:51,811
Tell me what you need
so I can help you."
1054
00:38:51,830 --> 00:38:54,722
And I think Mark
really wanted this,
1055
00:38:54,816 --> 00:38:56,166
and he was really
prepared for it,
1056
00:38:56,317 --> 00:38:58,150
and then there was a moment
where he was like,
1057
00:38:58,170 --> 00:39:00,820
"Oh, my God, this is so much."
1058
00:39:00,839 --> 00:39:02,246
You know what I mean?
- Mm-hmm.
1059
00:39:02,399 --> 00:39:04,916
♪ ♪
1060
00:39:05,010 --> 00:39:09,662
- Give me some advice on how
to communicate to Lindsey
1061
00:39:09,756 --> 00:39:12,090
if I need her to, like...
1062
00:39:12,184 --> 00:39:13,666
change her tone
1063
00:39:13,685 --> 00:39:16,669
or not say things
in a public setting
1064
00:39:16,763 --> 00:39:18,355
that we're gonna go into.
1065
00:39:18,506 --> 00:39:20,023
- So talking to Lindsey
about how to reel it in.
1066
00:39:20,174 --> 00:39:21,358
- Yeah, like, if we're in public
1067
00:39:21,509 --> 00:39:24,510
and I can tell she's, like,
pissed at somebody.
1068
00:39:24,529 --> 00:39:26,029
- I mean, I think that
the biggest thing
1069
00:39:26,256 --> 00:39:27,589
is, you probably just need
to let her know
1070
00:39:27,682 --> 00:39:29,757
how--when that happens...
- Yeah.
1071
00:39:29,851 --> 00:39:31,701
- How it makes you feel.
- Yeah.
1072
00:39:31,928 --> 00:39:33,111
- 'Cause you definitely
don't want it to be like,
1073
00:39:33,205 --> 00:39:34,204
"You're doing it wrong."
1074
00:39:34,355 --> 00:39:36,097
And then, you know,
just be about it,
1075
00:39:36,190 --> 00:39:37,782
like, in all your communication.
1076
00:39:37,934 --> 00:39:39,434
That's the biggest thing.
1077
00:39:39,452 --> 00:39:40,952
♪ ♪
1078
00:39:41,104 --> 00:39:44,864
- Anything you want to tell me
about Mark that I should know?
1079
00:39:44,883 --> 00:39:47,217
- I feel like it's hard,
because normally,
1080
00:39:47,368 --> 00:39:50,294
if you weren't married
and you were just dating,
1081
00:39:50,447 --> 00:39:51,721
I'd be like,
"Lindsey, watch out.
1082
00:39:51,948 --> 00:39:54,224
"Like, Mark is gonna, like,
sleep over and then be like,
1083
00:39:54,375 --> 00:39:56,968
'Hey, let's move in, and hey,
let's be together forever.'"
1084
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:58,970
But you kind of already
got that.
1085
00:39:59,122 --> 00:40:00,230
- Yeah.
1086
00:40:00,381 --> 00:40:02,624
It seems to me,
from when I was talking to him
1087
00:40:02,717 --> 00:40:04,401
about his history, he's, like,
1088
00:40:04,552 --> 00:40:06,903
always been somebody's option
but nobody's choice.
1089
00:40:07,130 --> 00:40:08,129
- Mm.
1090
00:40:08,148 --> 00:40:10,314
- And, like,
I'm very ride-or-die too.
1091
00:40:10,467 --> 00:40:11,574
And I think what's hard
for Mark,
1092
00:40:11,726 --> 00:40:13,893
he's always worried about
taking care of others,
1093
00:40:13,912 --> 00:40:16,320
so the idea of somebody who
wants to help him is foreign.
1094
00:40:16,473 --> 00:40:17,321
- Yeah.
1095
00:40:17,474 --> 00:40:20,733
♪ ♪
1096
00:40:20,752 --> 00:40:21,976
- She's gonna be fiery
1097
00:40:21,995 --> 00:40:23,253
no matter what.
- Yeah.
1098
00:40:23,404 --> 00:40:24,812
- But you maybe can at least
let her know that, like,
1099
00:40:24,831 --> 00:40:25,830
"Hey, when we're in public,
1100
00:40:25,982 --> 00:40:27,165
like,
this is how it makes me feel."
1101
00:40:27,259 --> 00:40:30,668
- Yeah, it's hard,
because if we're in situations
1102
00:40:30,820 --> 00:40:32,170
where I want to say something,
I just don't,
1103
00:40:32,264 --> 00:40:34,747
'cause I don't--I feel like
I haven't got comfortable yet
1104
00:40:34,766 --> 00:40:37,600
with her to say things,
so I just don't say anything.
1105
00:40:37,752 --> 00:40:38,751
- The other thing, too,
is, like,
1106
00:40:38,770 --> 00:40:40,161
if you keep it bottled in...
- Yeah.
1107
00:40:40,254 --> 00:40:41,345
- Like, you're eventually
just gonna pop and get mad.
1108
00:40:41,498 --> 00:40:42,922
- Yeah.
1109
00:40:42,941 --> 00:40:44,757
- And then you'll say stuff
that, like, you might regret.
1110
00:40:44,776 --> 00:40:48,186
[tense music]
1111
00:40:48,338 --> 00:40:49,070
♪ ♪
1112
00:40:53,026 --> 00:40:54,342
♪ Yeah, I'm the OG ♪
1113
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:55,677
♪ I make it rain
at the party ♪
1114
00:40:55,770 --> 00:40:58,029
♪ OG, everybody here know me ♪
1115
00:40:58,181 --> 00:41:01,015
♪ ♪
1116
00:41:01,034 --> 00:41:02,517
- Did you grow up eating
chicken feet?
1117
00:41:02,610 --> 00:41:04,035
- Mm-hmm. Yeah.
- Yeah, me too.
1118
00:41:04,187 --> 00:41:06,037
At what point did you find out
it was weird to most people?
1119
00:41:06,189 --> 00:41:08,356
- Yeah, I was like, "You don't
sit around with your family
1120
00:41:08,449 --> 00:41:09,949
and eat chicken feet?"
- [laughs]
1121
00:41:10,043 --> 00:41:11,042
- Like, my friends--
1122
00:41:11,194 --> 00:41:12,376
- It just falls
right off the bone.
1123
00:41:12,471 --> 00:41:14,862
- Yeah. [laughs]
1124
00:41:14,956 --> 00:41:16,380
- Okay.
- How long will it take
1125
00:41:16,533 --> 00:41:18,475
to make yours--your food?
1126
00:41:18,626 --> 00:41:20,718
'Cause we--
Oh, it's already 2:00.
1127
00:41:20,870 --> 00:41:22,053
- It's 2:00.
1128
00:41:22,205 --> 00:41:25,148
Today we are having
our housewarming party.
1129
00:41:25,375 --> 00:41:27,391
Me and Noi
are both preparing some
1130
00:41:27,486 --> 00:41:31,212
homemade dishes
from both of our cultures.
1131
00:41:31,231 --> 00:41:33,490
We're excited
to have friends over.
1132
00:41:33,641 --> 00:41:36,901
We haven't had the opportunity
to merge our worlds yet,
1133
00:41:36,995 --> 00:41:40,388
so I'm really excited
to have my friends meet hers
1134
00:41:40,406 --> 00:41:44,316
and see who we are outside
of just me and her.
1135
00:41:44,410 --> 00:41:45,835
I think we pulled it off.
1136
00:41:45,987 --> 00:41:47,820
- [laughs]
1137
00:41:47,839 --> 00:41:49,321
Whew!
1138
00:41:49,341 --> 00:41:50,565
- Hi!
- Hello.
1139
00:41:50,583 --> 00:41:51,824
- Hey.
- Hi.
1140
00:41:51,918 --> 00:41:53,417
- Come on in.
- Hi!
1141
00:41:53,570 --> 00:41:55,086
- Good to see you. How are you?
1142
00:41:55,238 --> 00:41:56,829
- Hi.
- Hey, come in, come in.
1143
00:41:56,848 --> 00:41:58,589
- Congratulations.
1144
00:41:58,742 --> 00:42:00,925
- All the way from western Mass.
1145
00:42:01,077 --> 00:42:02,352
- I'm more nervous
than Steve is.
1146
00:42:02,579 --> 00:42:04,336
We did some cooking
for you guys, so...
1147
00:42:04,356 --> 00:42:06,022
- Ooh!
- This looks beautiful.
1148
00:42:06,249 --> 00:42:07,857
We're all starving,
so I'm excited.
1149
00:42:08,009 --> 00:42:09,359
- Perfect.
1150
00:42:09,510 --> 00:42:11,677
Knowing my friends, I know
that they're super protective,
1151
00:42:11,696 --> 00:42:13,846
so I'm a little bit concerned.
1152
00:42:13,865 --> 00:42:15,423
- One last piece too.
1153
00:42:15,516 --> 00:42:16,699
We also have some chicken wings.
1154
00:42:16,926 --> 00:42:19,018
All: Oh!
1155
00:42:19,037 --> 00:42:21,704
- They will ask him
some tough questions, I'm sure.
1156
00:42:21,856 --> 00:42:24,690
- So you guys don't know
each other two weeks ago.
1157
00:42:24,784 --> 00:42:27,043
Now you're married.
- Yeah.
1158
00:42:27,270 --> 00:42:28,936
- Tell me.
Like, looking at it all...
1159
00:42:29,030 --> 00:42:30,438
- Tell us.
- Like, that's crazy.
1160
00:42:30,456 --> 00:42:31,773
It's insane.
[laughter]
1161
00:42:31,791 --> 00:42:34,033
- Wait, what's crazy about it?
What do you mean?
1162
00:42:34,052 --> 00:42:35,459
- What did you think?
1163
00:42:35,612 --> 00:42:37,887
Did you picture, like,
Steve in your mind?
1164
00:42:38,039 --> 00:42:40,056
Or what was the person
who you thought
1165
00:42:40,207 --> 00:42:41,540
they'd pick out for you?
1166
00:42:41,634 --> 00:42:43,726
- Yeah, like, I really went
into this experience with,
1167
00:42:43,878 --> 00:42:45,803
like, an open mind,
an open heart.
1168
00:42:45,955 --> 00:42:48,064
So, like, I purposely
didn't try to envision
1169
00:42:48,291 --> 00:42:49,791
what he would look like
or what he did...
1170
00:42:49,809 --> 00:42:50,641
- Okay. That's smart, yeah.
1171
00:42:50,735 --> 00:42:51,793
- Or anything about him, really.
1172
00:42:51,811 --> 00:42:55,071
So I was really just open.
- Yeah.
1173
00:42:55,298 --> 00:42:57,556
- And then when I saw him,
like, at the ceremony,
1174
00:42:57,576 --> 00:42:59,300
I was just--
It was, like, instant relief.
1175
00:42:59,319 --> 00:43:00,818
I was like, "Oh!"
1176
00:43:00,970 --> 00:43:03,913
- Our wedding day, I expected
it to be some awkward moments.
1177
00:43:04,065 --> 00:43:05,081
- I thought so too.
1178
00:43:05,232 --> 00:43:06,324
- You know, it's like,
you're a stranger.
1179
00:43:06,476 --> 00:43:07,975
But it was just effortless.
1180
00:43:07,994 --> 00:43:12,496
- Well, I was so excited when
we got Noi's gift from Steve,
1181
00:43:12,649 --> 00:43:14,649
which is literally, like,
a journal scrapbook.
1182
00:43:14,667 --> 00:43:16,575
And then you got him
the same thing.
1183
00:43:16,595 --> 00:43:19,929
- We're like twins!
I bought him a book too!
1184
00:43:20,156 --> 00:43:21,580
- How does he know you
so well already?
1185
00:43:21,674 --> 00:43:23,658
- This is actually really eerie
1186
00:43:23,751 --> 00:43:25,602
that we bought each other
the same gift.
1187
00:43:25,753 --> 00:43:27,845
- It's very similar
to what I got her.
1188
00:43:27,939 --> 00:43:30,255
- Really? Oh, my.
1189
00:43:30,350 --> 00:43:33,517
- "A couple's memory journal."
It's literally what I got her.
1190
00:43:33,612 --> 00:43:35,686
- Yeah. So it was funny,
'cause when I got your gift,
1191
00:43:35,780 --> 00:43:38,689
it's the same exact size
as the gift that I got you.
1192
00:43:38,783 --> 00:43:41,008
So I was like, "Are they
giving me back my gift?
1193
00:43:41,102 --> 00:43:43,344
Did he not like it?"
[laughter]
1194
00:43:43,363 --> 00:43:44,512
- It said, "No, thank you."
1195
00:43:44,605 --> 00:43:46,105
- Returned.
- "No, thank you."
1196
00:43:46,124 --> 00:43:48,015
- "Return to sender.
Return to sender."
1197
00:43:48,034 --> 00:43:50,534
- "Try again."
[laughter]
1198
00:43:50,687 --> 00:43:53,704
- Is Sushi gonna be
a sibling anytime soon?
1199
00:43:53,857 --> 00:43:55,948
♪ ♪
1200
00:43:55,967 --> 00:43:58,192
- So we haven't
talked time frame.
1201
00:43:58,211 --> 00:43:59,193
- Yeah.
- We have had conversations
1202
00:43:59,212 --> 00:44:01,971
about number of children.
- Yeah.
1203
00:44:02,198 --> 00:44:03,306
- So how many siblings
is Sushi gonna have?
1204
00:44:03,457 --> 00:44:05,216
- I know how many Noi wants.
- I'm sure you do.
1205
00:44:05,368 --> 00:44:06,625
- How many kids do you want?
1206
00:44:06,645 --> 00:44:08,293
- It's not that crazy.
- I want three.
1207
00:44:08,313 --> 00:44:09,962
- No, no, that's not
the crazy part.
1208
00:44:09,981 --> 00:44:11,222
It's a hard three.
1209
00:44:11,316 --> 00:44:12,315
- A hard three?
1210
00:44:12,542 --> 00:44:14,058
Do you have, like,
two boys and a girl?
1211
00:44:14,210 --> 00:44:15,467
- What does hard three mean?
1212
00:44:15,561 --> 00:44:17,211
- Like, there's no two.
1213
00:44:17,304 --> 00:44:18,988
There's no one.
There's no four.
1214
00:44:19,140 --> 00:44:20,731
- Just three.
- Just three. Yeah.
1215
00:44:20,884 --> 00:44:23,308
There's a lot of things
that I will budge on
1216
00:44:23,403 --> 00:44:26,737
and that I will compromise on,
but this is something that I--
1217
00:44:26,890 --> 00:44:28,723
- You won't compromise on.
- No.
1218
00:44:28,741 --> 00:44:30,074
[tense music]
1219
00:44:30,226 --> 00:44:31,909
- You know, I originally came
into this wanting two,
1220
00:44:32,061 --> 00:44:33,744
but I'm open-minded to three.
1221
00:44:33,897 --> 00:44:34,837
- So then maybe you compromise.
1222
00:44:35,064 --> 00:44:37,248
- So three isn't really
a problem for me.
1223
00:44:37,342 --> 00:44:40,677
My problem is the flexibility
of open-mindedness.
1224
00:44:40,828 --> 00:44:42,069
It's, like,
the principle behind that.
1225
00:44:42,088 --> 00:44:44,088
- Yeah.
1226
00:44:44,182 --> 00:44:46,331
- Is there anything
you're not flexible about?
1227
00:44:46,351 --> 00:44:48,000
[laughter]
- I was just about to ask.
1228
00:44:48,019 --> 00:44:49,352
- Me?
- Yeah.
1229
00:44:49,503 --> 00:44:50,912
- Yeah, like,
what's your three kids?
1230
00:44:50,930 --> 00:44:52,689
- What's yours? Yeah,
what's your kids--your version?
1231
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,190
- Do I have a three kids?
- I don't know. I'm asking you.
1232
00:44:54,417 --> 00:44:55,674
- I mean,
you guys--you guys know me.
1233
00:44:55,694 --> 00:44:58,102
Like, I live my life pretty,
like, on the cuff, like,
1234
00:44:58,254 --> 00:44:59,420
whatever happens happens,
you know?
1235
00:44:59,439 --> 00:45:00,604
- Yeah.
- So, like, for me,
1236
00:45:00,757 --> 00:45:02,865
there's nothing--
Anything's possible for me.
1237
00:45:03,092 --> 00:45:05,109
I mean, if you see one,
let me know.
1238
00:45:05,261 --> 00:45:06,852
- We need to talk to you
about a lot of things...
1239
00:45:06,871 --> 00:45:07,945
- Yeah.
- Steve.
1240
00:45:08,039 --> 00:45:08,930
- Okay. Yeah.
1241
00:45:08,948 --> 00:45:10,114
- Let's go.
- All with love.
1242
00:45:10,266 --> 00:45:11,098
- Yeah. But, like--
1243
00:45:11,192 --> 00:45:12,357
- All with love.
- I hope so.
1244
00:45:12,377 --> 00:45:13,784
- Yeah, we can
all breathe through it.
1245
00:45:13,937 --> 00:45:15,102
- Yeah.
1246
00:45:15,121 --> 00:45:16,604
- My friends can be
pretty overwhelming.
1247
00:45:16,622 --> 00:45:18,789
I hope they'll be nice to him.
I'm sure they will be.
1248
00:45:18,942 --> 00:45:21,700
♪ ♪
1249
00:45:21,794 --> 00:45:23,794
- So, like, what does the
future look like for you guys?
1250
00:45:23,947 --> 00:45:26,113
Like, in your mind?
1251
00:45:26,132 --> 00:45:28,558
- Yeah, so it's not just
my mind at this point.
1252
00:45:28,785 --> 00:45:29,617
- Right.
1253
00:45:29,710 --> 00:45:31,118
- It's, you know, conversations.
1254
00:45:31,137 --> 00:45:33,896
But for both of us, I mean,
the kids one is a big one,
1255
00:45:34,123 --> 00:45:36,048
because--and it's not
the number of kids.
1256
00:45:36,067 --> 00:45:37,625
It's just having kids.
- Yeah.
1257
00:45:37,643 --> 00:45:41,295
- For me, getting married,
having a family, having a wife,
1258
00:45:41,314 --> 00:45:43,130
and having children
is really important.
1259
00:45:43,149 --> 00:45:44,556
- Mm-hmm.
1260
00:45:44,650 --> 00:45:48,469
- Okay, everything can't be
as great as you're making--
1261
00:45:48,488 --> 00:45:49,412
- Yeah.
1262
00:45:49,639 --> 00:45:52,397
- Like, there have
to be some issues.
1263
00:45:52,417 --> 00:45:54,733
- I have concerns.
1264
00:45:54,827 --> 00:45:56,994
Like, I've never been the type
of person where I'm like,
1265
00:45:57,088 --> 00:45:58,996
"Oh, I'm just gonna, like,
not work for a little bit,
1266
00:45:59,090 --> 00:46:00,664
and it'll be all gravy."
Like, I've never done that.
1267
00:46:00,817 --> 00:46:01,740
- Yeah.
1268
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:05,261
- So if I'm thinking long-term
and,
1269
00:46:05,488 --> 00:46:07,430
you know,
potentially having children
1270
00:46:07,657 --> 00:46:10,916
and, like, housing them
and feeding them,
1271
00:46:10,935 --> 00:46:12,676
it all becomes
really real, right?
1272
00:46:12,829 --> 00:46:13,995
- Yeah.
1273
00:46:14,013 --> 00:46:15,329
- Like, yeah, like,
everything's wonderful.
1274
00:46:15,348 --> 00:46:17,515
But, like, how are you
gonna show up for me?
1275
00:46:17,667 --> 00:46:19,183
♪ ♪
1276
00:46:19,277 --> 00:46:21,669
Like, I don't--
1277
00:46:21,687 --> 00:46:23,671
I don't know what
your plan is still.
1278
00:46:23,764 --> 00:46:25,172
- He does have a great
network...
1279
00:46:25,266 --> 00:46:26,674
- Mm-hmm.
- That he can tap into.
1280
00:46:26,692 --> 00:46:28,284
- Mm-hmm.
- The company I work for, like,
1281
00:46:28,435 --> 00:46:30,361
they are hiring sales engineers
all the time.
1282
00:46:30,513 --> 00:46:31,788
♪ ♪
1283
00:46:31,939 --> 00:46:34,849
- That's a little bit alarming,
to know that you have
1284
00:46:34,867 --> 00:46:37,685
a vast network,
people want to employ you,
1285
00:46:37,703 --> 00:46:43,299
but you're making a choice
not to be employed.
1286
00:46:43,450 --> 00:46:45,284
- One of the things that Noi
and I talked about a lot
1287
00:46:45,303 --> 00:46:46,710
beforehand is just, you know,
1288
00:46:46,863 --> 00:46:48,879
she comes
from an immigrant family,
1289
00:46:48,973 --> 00:46:51,290
and they have, like, really
struggled financially,
1290
00:46:51,384 --> 00:46:53,792
and she's worked so hard to be
in this place where she's at.
1291
00:46:53,812 --> 00:46:56,387
And I know that you had a job
1292
00:46:56,539 --> 00:46:59,649
and then decided to travel,
which is awesome.
1293
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:01,542
But I know that
she doesn't want to be, like,
1294
00:47:01,561 --> 00:47:04,469
primarily responsible
for finances.
1295
00:47:04,489 --> 00:47:07,882
Like, she's--I don't think
that is part of her grand plan,
1296
00:47:07,975 --> 00:47:10,067
that she would be
the primary breadwinner.
1297
00:47:10,219 --> 00:47:11,719
♪ ♪
1298
00:47:11,812 --> 00:47:13,996
- It'll never get to that point.
1299
00:47:14,148 --> 00:47:16,499
It's just a matter
of what do we want to plan.
1300
00:47:16,726 --> 00:47:18,909
Like, can we figure out
another way?
1301
00:47:19,003 --> 00:47:21,671
♪ ♪
1302
00:47:21,898 --> 00:47:23,822
It's hard when
the person you're with
1303
00:47:23,842 --> 00:47:25,416
doesn't believe in you
1304
00:47:25,568 --> 00:47:27,176
or has doubts about who you are
1305
00:47:27,328 --> 00:47:30,754
and possibly
may never accept you.
1306
00:47:30,907 --> 00:47:33,257
I want to be with somebody
who believes in me
1307
00:47:33,409 --> 00:47:35,409
and sees me for who I am.
1308
00:47:35,428 --> 00:47:37,411
You know,
I'm a very adventurous,
1309
00:47:37,430 --> 00:47:39,338
trustworthy person who,
you know,
1310
00:47:39,357 --> 00:47:40,839
can take care of all our needs
1311
00:47:40,933 --> 00:47:44,418
and still have the spontaneous
life that I'd imagined.
1312
00:47:44,437 --> 00:47:46,604
Otherwise,
it may not work for me.
1313
00:47:46,756 --> 00:47:48,030
♪ ♪
1314
00:47:52,095 --> 00:47:53,518
- ♪ Gonna have
one hell of a party ♪
1315
00:47:53,613 --> 00:47:55,946
♪ One hell of a night ♪
1316
00:47:56,040 --> 00:48:00,042
♪ Gonna get the best of
everything and do it right ♪
1317
00:48:00,269 --> 00:48:01,210
♪ ♪
1318
00:48:01,437 --> 00:48:03,771
♪ Gonna have one hell
of a party ♪
1319
00:48:03,864 --> 00:48:05,864
♪ Oh, yeah,
step over the line ♪
1320
00:48:05,958 --> 00:48:07,608
- That's a lot.
- I know.
1321
00:48:07,701 --> 00:48:09,034
- That's what it said
how much to put in there?
1322
00:48:09,053 --> 00:48:10,461
- Mm-hmm. Yeah.
- [bleep].
1323
00:48:10,613 --> 00:48:12,388
- We about
to sleep good tonight.
1324
00:48:12,539 --> 00:48:14,465
- [laughs] Okay.
1325
00:48:14,617 --> 00:48:15,725
- We playing games tonight?
1326
00:48:15,952 --> 00:48:17,618
How we gonna entertain
these people?
1327
00:48:17,637 --> 00:48:19,378
- I have BTS "Uno" cards.
1328
00:48:19,472 --> 00:48:21,213
[quirky music]
1329
00:48:21,307 --> 00:48:22,806
- The thing is,
let me warn you now,
1330
00:48:22,901 --> 00:48:24,291
I'm super competitive.
1331
00:48:24,385 --> 00:48:26,460
- So I gotta beat
that ass one time
1332
00:48:26,479 --> 00:48:28,571
so you know not to come
at me ever again.
1333
00:48:28,798 --> 00:48:31,632
[both laugh]
1334
00:48:31,725 --> 00:48:33,317
- Can you imagine
if we were setting up
1335
00:48:33,411 --> 00:48:36,228
for this housewarming--
If Pastor Cal never showed up,
1336
00:48:36,322 --> 00:48:38,397
how tense
this housewarming would be?
1337
00:48:38,416 --> 00:48:39,582
- Huh?
1338
00:48:39,809 --> 00:48:42,660
[both laugh]
1339
00:48:42,754 --> 00:48:46,163
I'm definitely glad
that we got over that hump
1340
00:48:46,257 --> 00:48:48,482
before our housewarming,
1341
00:48:48,575 --> 00:48:51,001
just because I don't know
how it would have been
1342
00:48:51,154 --> 00:48:52,653
when our family
and friends came.
1343
00:48:52,746 --> 00:48:54,079
You know, it's good for now.
1344
00:48:54,173 --> 00:48:55,247
It definitely could be better,
1345
00:48:55,341 --> 00:48:58,325
but I'm hopeful
that it'll get there.
1346
00:48:58,344 --> 00:49:00,010
- Oh!
- Hey.
1347
00:49:00,104 --> 00:49:01,270
- The party's here.
- Hey.
1348
00:49:01,497 --> 00:49:02,271
You know I had to come
with the wine.
1349
00:49:02,498 --> 00:49:04,014
- The party's here.
1350
00:49:04,108 --> 00:49:06,517
[laughter, indistinct chatter]
1351
00:49:06,669 --> 00:49:08,502
- Hey.
- How are you?
1352
00:49:08,521 --> 00:49:09,612
- Hello, hello.
1353
00:49:09,839 --> 00:49:11,263
All: Hello.
1354
00:49:11,282 --> 00:49:12,673
- Hi.
1355
00:49:12,692 --> 00:49:14,341
- Thank you guys for coming
to our housewarming.
1356
00:49:14,435 --> 00:49:15,284
- Thank you.
- Thank you for having us.
1357
00:49:15,436 --> 00:49:16,860
- Cheers.
Yeah, thank you.
1358
00:49:17,013 --> 00:49:18,028
- Ooh, ooh.
- I got it.
1359
00:49:18,122 --> 00:49:20,181
It's cool. Let's see.
1360
00:49:20,199 --> 00:49:22,274
♪ ♪
1361
00:49:22,293 --> 00:49:24,351
- Mmm.
1362
00:49:24,370 --> 00:49:26,278
What's the verdict?
What's the verdict?
1363
00:49:26,372 --> 00:49:28,130
- It's good.
- It's good?
1364
00:49:28,357 --> 00:49:29,799
- Giving you a 7.5.
1365
00:49:30,026 --> 00:49:31,041
- 7.5?
[laughter]
1366
00:49:31,194 --> 00:49:32,193
- Where's the rest of it?
1367
00:49:32,286 --> 00:49:33,618
- Where's the rest of it?
What I gotta do?
1368
00:49:33,638 --> 00:49:35,546
What'd I miss?
What's missing?
1369
00:49:35,698 --> 00:49:38,215
[laughs]
- It's the balance for me.
1370
00:49:38,367 --> 00:49:39,791
[laughter]
- What is it?
1371
00:49:39,885 --> 00:49:42,294
You want it to be stronger?
1372
00:49:42,388 --> 00:49:43,980
[laughter]
- And he was like,
1373
00:49:44,207 --> 00:49:45,648
"Should I pour the rest
of the bottle in here?"
1374
00:49:45,799 --> 00:49:47,149
And I'm like,
"No, people have work."
1375
00:49:47,376 --> 00:49:48,150
♪ ♪
1376
00:49:48,377 --> 00:49:49,710
- It's 5:00.
1377
00:49:49,803 --> 00:49:52,471
[laughter]
1378
00:49:52,490 --> 00:49:54,732
- Let's play--
Let's play charades.
1379
00:49:54,826 --> 00:49:56,383
- Oh.
- Oh, what?
1380
00:49:56,477 --> 00:49:58,385
- What is that, like, the--you
have to guess what I'm doing?
1381
00:49:58,404 --> 00:49:59,495
- Yeah. That's the only game
we can play.
1382
00:49:59,722 --> 00:50:02,647
I am very competitive
at everything that I do,
1383
00:50:02,742 --> 00:50:04,558
regardless of how big or small.
1384
00:50:04,651 --> 00:50:08,504
- When it comes to games,
this is my turf, okay?
1385
00:50:08,655 --> 00:50:10,247
You don't want none
of these problems.
1386
00:50:10,399 --> 00:50:12,341
- You want to play.
Start it off--charades.
1387
00:50:12,568 --> 00:50:13,342
- Damn.
1388
00:50:13,569 --> 00:50:16,253
[energetic music]
1389
00:50:16,405 --> 00:50:18,497
- He making pizza.
[bell dings]
1390
00:50:18,591 --> 00:50:21,091
- Damn!
- Ooh! I see the connection.
1391
00:50:21,244 --> 00:50:22,685
That's crazy about y'all.
1392
00:50:22,912 --> 00:50:24,020
♪ ♪
1393
00:50:24,247 --> 00:50:25,929
A gymnast?
- Yes!
1394
00:50:26,082 --> 00:50:28,265
[shouting, laughter]
1395
00:50:28,359 --> 00:50:29,767
- If you knew her,
1396
00:50:29,919 --> 00:50:32,010
you would know that
that's a cartwheel.
1397
00:50:32,030 --> 00:50:33,863
- Tina Turner.
[buzzer blares]
1398
00:50:34,090 --> 00:50:35,865
♪ ♪
1399
00:50:36,016 --> 00:50:38,275
- Roller coaster.
- Yes.
1400
00:50:38,427 --> 00:50:39,684
- Y'all are so good at this.
1401
00:50:39,704 --> 00:50:41,704
- Ahh!
1402
00:50:41,931 --> 00:50:44,782
It's all for fun.
Nobody's here for--
1403
00:50:44,934 --> 00:50:46,767
- Says Mr. Competitive.
1404
00:50:46,786 --> 00:50:47,859
- Says Mr. Competitive.
1405
00:50:47,879 --> 00:50:49,194
- All for fun.
1406
00:50:49,213 --> 00:50:50,362
We just happened to win.
1407
00:50:50,456 --> 00:50:52,364
We just happened to win in fun.
1408
00:50:52,458 --> 00:50:54,050
- I'ma be honest, I don't
think about winning or losing.
1409
00:50:54,277 --> 00:50:55,626
We just having fun,
you know what I'm saying?
1410
00:50:55,720 --> 00:50:56,960
- So don't think about--
1411
00:50:57,113 --> 00:50:59,722
Honestly, that's a really great
loser mentality.
1412
00:50:59,873 --> 00:51:02,283
- That's right,
loser mentality, bro. No way.
1413
00:51:02,376 --> 00:51:04,468
- I'm happy that Jasmina
wasn't turned off
1414
00:51:04,562 --> 00:51:05,561
by my competitiveness.
1415
00:51:05,712 --> 00:51:07,638
She actually
is able to match that.
1416
00:51:07,790 --> 00:51:09,957
We're finally on the same level.
1417
00:51:10,050 --> 00:51:13,310
- So how is, like,
the marriage going in general?
1418
00:51:13,462 --> 00:51:17,981
- It definitely started off
really good at the wedding.
1419
00:51:18,076 --> 00:51:21,726
And then honeymoon was
a lot of ups and downs.
1420
00:51:21,821 --> 00:51:24,080
Like, a lot of downs.
- Oh.
1421
00:51:24,231 --> 00:51:28,809
- But Pastor Cal actually
whipped us into shape
1422
00:51:28,828 --> 00:51:29,993
when he was here.
1423
00:51:30,146 --> 00:51:32,088
And, you know,
we decided to just, you know,
1424
00:51:32,315 --> 00:51:33,923
start all over,
reintroduce ourself,
1425
00:51:34,150 --> 00:51:35,574
and not, like, hold anything
against each other.
1426
00:51:35,593 --> 00:51:36,575
- No grudges.
1427
00:51:36,594 --> 00:51:39,244
- And it's been fine since then.
1428
00:51:39,263 --> 00:51:41,263
- Okay. We love a reset.
1429
00:51:41,490 --> 00:51:42,339
- Yeah.
- Mm-hmm.
1430
00:51:42,433 --> 00:51:44,158
- Well, Jasmina,
can I see the place?
1431
00:51:44,176 --> 00:51:46,160
- Of course.
- I want to see everything.
1432
00:51:46,178 --> 00:51:47,419
- Look how I decorated.
1433
00:51:47,438 --> 00:51:48,938
- Show me the bathroom.
I want to see all of it.
1434
00:51:49,089 --> 00:51:50,164
[laughter]
1435
00:51:50,257 --> 00:51:52,090
- The linen closet too?
- Everything.
1436
00:51:52,110 --> 00:51:53,000
- This is the bedroom.
1437
00:51:53,018 --> 00:51:54,835
- How cute!
- You like it?
1438
00:51:54,854 --> 00:51:56,428
- Yes, I'm a pillow person too.
1439
00:51:56,522 --> 00:51:57,947
- Are you?
- I have, like--
1440
00:51:58,174 --> 00:52:00,507
I'm telling you,
if not as much pillows, more.
1441
00:52:00,526 --> 00:52:02,025
- The first night,
he thought he was supposed
1442
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:03,101
to sleep with all these.
1443
00:52:03,195 --> 00:52:04,027
He literally just put his--
1444
00:52:04,122 --> 00:52:05,604
- How would he have slept on it?
1445
00:52:05,623 --> 00:52:08,182
- He literally left the pillows
here and just laid on it.
1446
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:10,126
And I was like, "You want to
move them? They're decorative."
1447
00:52:10,353 --> 00:52:11,685
♪ ♪
1448
00:52:11,704 --> 00:52:13,612
- Honestly, I thought it was
gonna be a little tense
1449
00:52:13,631 --> 00:52:15,022
when I got here.
1450
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:16,966
But just to see that they're
still joking and playing
1451
00:52:17,117 --> 00:52:19,284
and kind of back to, like,
1452
00:52:19,378 --> 00:52:21,470
the meat of things
is exciting to see
1453
00:52:21,622 --> 00:52:24,289
because I'm super hopeful
about their union in general.
1454
00:52:24,308 --> 00:52:25,883
- I like your brother.
- Mm-hmm.
1455
00:52:25,977 --> 00:52:26,976
- He's very sweet.
1456
00:52:27,127 --> 00:52:28,702
He's amazing.
- That's good to hear.
1457
00:52:28,795 --> 00:52:29,870
- You know,
he's such a gentleman.
1458
00:52:29,889 --> 00:52:31,105
He's very kind.
1459
00:52:32,558 --> 00:52:33,540
- No, I do like him.
1460
00:52:33,634 --> 00:52:34,708
- And I'm just like,
"Oh, my God."
1461
00:52:34,801 --> 00:52:36,226
- We have so much in common.
Like--
1462
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,154
- It's a hard way to feel,
and so just hearing him say it,
1463
00:52:38,305 --> 00:52:39,897
I'm just like, "Damn,
that's a hard way to feel."
1464
00:52:39,991 --> 00:52:42,216
- Yeah, and I hate
that I made him feel that way.
1465
00:52:42,234 --> 00:52:46,144
I just wasn't thinking about
just saying nice things
1466
00:52:46,164 --> 00:52:48,164
to someone that was, like,
just putting me
1467
00:52:48,391 --> 00:52:49,573
in a negative space.
- Right. And that's okay.
1468
00:52:49,725 --> 00:52:51,225
- 'Cause I was just very annoyed
1469
00:52:51,318 --> 00:52:54,228
with his behavior
during the honeymoon.
1470
00:52:54,246 --> 00:52:56,505
- I'm sure you guys have spoken
about, like,
1471
00:52:56,732 --> 00:52:58,232
what's been going on day-to-day.
1472
00:52:58,250 --> 00:52:59,733
- Mm-hmm.
1473
00:52:59,752 --> 00:53:02,344
- I think the one thing I think
I'm still struggling with
1474
00:53:02,496 --> 00:53:06,831
is trying to figure out, like,
what to do the next time
1475
00:53:06,851 --> 00:53:09,668
we have some type of conflict
and how to maneuver.
1476
00:53:09,687 --> 00:53:11,245
Like, how do I--
1477
00:53:11,338 --> 00:53:14,097
How do I, like,
get back in her space
1478
00:53:14,250 --> 00:53:17,935
without feeling like I'm doing
too much or being overbearing?
1479
00:53:18,087 --> 00:53:20,254
Do I just give her space?
1480
00:53:20,347 --> 00:53:22,589
Do I try to talk to her?
Do I stop--
1481
00:53:22,683 --> 00:53:24,182
You know, I don't know,
still, like, how to--
1482
00:53:24,202 --> 00:53:26,427
- I wouldn't say--
Don't default to, like,
1483
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:27,761
giving it space or time...
- Yeah.
1484
00:53:27,854 --> 00:53:28,704
- For her.
1485
00:53:28,931 --> 00:53:32,208
I would say
be patient and listen.
1486
00:53:32,435 --> 00:53:33,434
- Mm-hmm.
1487
00:53:33,527 --> 00:53:35,193
- Ask her, "Where did things
go wrong?"
1488
00:53:35,287 --> 00:53:37,213
- Yeah.
- "What exactly--what is it
1489
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:39,440
that I said that kind of
set you off?"
1490
00:53:39,458 --> 00:53:42,200
Instead of, "Well, but you did
this, and I did that."
1491
00:53:42,220 --> 00:53:43,460
- Right.
1492
00:53:43,612 --> 00:53:45,721
- Where was the first thing
that went left?
1493
00:53:45,948 --> 00:53:47,056
And work from there.
1494
00:53:47,283 --> 00:53:50,375
'Cause I feel like,
especially knowing Jasmina,
1495
00:53:50,394 --> 00:53:52,561
things can just build
and build and build.
1496
00:53:52,713 --> 00:53:55,639
And when I get mad at Jasmina
or we get into a issue,
1497
00:53:55,733 --> 00:53:58,734
we end up forgetting
whatever it is originally.
1498
00:53:58,961 --> 00:54:01,052
We're just now being petty
back and forth.
1499
00:54:01,146 --> 00:54:02,963
- Yeah.
- You know what I'm saying?
1500
00:54:03,056 --> 00:54:06,149
Like, so you just gotta
attack it at the core.
1501
00:54:06,302 --> 00:54:08,652
Because we can go
back and forth all day,
1502
00:54:08,804 --> 00:54:11,080
and she will go
back and forth all day with you
1503
00:54:11,231 --> 00:54:13,474
if you let it get there.
- Right, right.
1504
00:54:13,492 --> 00:54:15,567
- I personally think you guys--
1505
00:54:15,586 --> 00:54:17,753
You guys are literally--
They hit the nail with you.
1506
00:54:17,980 --> 00:54:18,829
- Mm-hmm.
1507
00:54:18,923 --> 00:54:20,330
- I tell people that
all the time.
1508
00:54:20,483 --> 00:54:22,499
You challenge him.
You tell him no.
1509
00:54:22,651 --> 00:54:25,002
- Oh, say that again.
- [laughs]
1510
00:54:25,154 --> 00:54:26,762
You know,
and then you stand on--
1511
00:54:26,989 --> 00:54:28,413
You stand your ground,
and that's important.
1512
00:54:28,507 --> 00:54:30,157
- Yeah.
- And it's important to him
1513
00:54:30,250 --> 00:54:31,492
to have a strong woman
next to him.
1514
00:54:31,585 --> 00:54:33,176
It's important for me
to see my brother
1515
00:54:33,329 --> 00:54:34,511
with a strong woman next to him.
1516
00:54:34,605 --> 00:54:37,589
You know what I'm saying?
So that's very refreshing.
1517
00:54:37,608 --> 00:54:38,849
It's one of those things
where, like,
1518
00:54:38,943 --> 00:54:39,924
if somebody bring his food
wrong in the restaurant,
1519
00:54:40,019 --> 00:54:40,925
you're gonna send it back.
- Mm-hmm.
1520
00:54:40,945 --> 00:54:42,519
- Whereas Michael would be like,
1521
00:54:42,671 --> 00:54:44,021
"It's okay. I'll just keep it."
- Yeah.
1522
00:54:44,173 --> 00:54:45,188
- You know?
- Yeah.
1523
00:54:45,341 --> 00:54:46,189
- The same way I'ma be like,
1524
00:54:46,342 --> 00:54:47,783
"No, it's not what
he asked for"...
1525
00:54:47,934 --> 00:54:49,118
- Exactly.
1526
00:54:49,345 --> 00:54:50,344
- You're probably gonna be
like--[clears throat]
1527
00:54:50,437 --> 00:54:51,695
"This is not
what he wanted," you know?
1528
00:54:51,847 --> 00:54:52,937
- And I knew
why we were matched.
1529
00:54:52,957 --> 00:54:55,032
Like, literally the first day
that we met,
1530
00:54:55,184 --> 00:54:57,184
we had everything in common.
1531
00:54:57,277 --> 00:54:59,461
So I think I just needed
to let my stubbornness go
1532
00:54:59,688 --> 00:55:01,538
and just, like,
get out of my head.
1533
00:55:01,632 --> 00:55:03,632
- It's trial and error
right now, and it's fine.
1534
00:55:03,784 --> 00:55:06,468
As long as you guys are like,
"You make a mistake,
1535
00:55:06,695 --> 00:55:08,362
we talk about it.
We're not going back there."
1536
00:55:08,380 --> 00:55:09,379
- Yeah.
- You know?
1537
00:55:09,532 --> 00:55:11,289
'Cause he--
Michael has a huge heart.
1538
00:55:11,383 --> 00:55:13,367
And, like, honestly,
1539
00:55:13,460 --> 00:55:14,977
it doesn't take a lot
to break it,
1540
00:55:15,204 --> 00:55:16,645
'cause when he's in it,
he's in it.
1541
00:55:16,797 --> 00:55:19,648
His heart is open and he's
giving everything he has.
1542
00:55:19,875 --> 00:55:21,041
- Yeah.
1543
00:55:21,060 --> 00:55:21,984
[tender music]
1544
00:55:26,048 --> 00:55:29,641
- ♪ Our love is on the rocks,
baby ♪
1545
00:55:29,735 --> 00:55:32,219
♪ Let's take a shot, baby ♪
1546
00:55:32,237 --> 00:55:34,145
- Baby, I'm home.
1547
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:35,998
- You're back. I can take this.
1548
00:55:36,149 --> 00:55:37,333
- I went a little bit more
than what--
1549
00:55:37,484 --> 00:55:38,559
- You got the chicken?
- Yeah.
1550
00:55:38,652 --> 00:55:40,410
I got a little more
than what was asked.
1551
00:55:40,504 --> 00:55:42,579
- What'd you get? How many
chicken pieces did you get?
1552
00:55:42,673 --> 00:55:45,065
- 50.
- 50?
1553
00:55:45,158 --> 00:55:46,900
- Yeah, we some big boys,
you know what I mean?
1554
00:55:46,919 --> 00:55:49,419
- That smells good.
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
1555
00:55:49,572 --> 00:55:50,512
♪ ♪
1556
00:55:50,739 --> 00:55:52,497
- I am excited
for the housewarming.
1557
00:55:52,591 --> 00:55:54,074
I haven't seen my friends
in so long.
1558
00:55:54,167 --> 00:55:57,578
Their first impression of
Olajuwon, it wasn't the best.
1559
00:55:57,596 --> 00:55:59,413
So I'm excited for them
1560
00:55:59,506 --> 00:56:01,431
to spend more time
with my husband
1561
00:56:01,525 --> 00:56:04,843
and get to know him
for the person that I've met
1562
00:56:04,862 --> 00:56:06,528
and that I've got
to spend time with,
1563
00:56:06,755 --> 00:56:09,089
because that's really
important to me.
1564
00:56:09,108 --> 00:56:10,107
♪ ♪
1565
00:56:10,201 --> 00:56:11,775
- Hello.
1566
00:56:11,927 --> 00:56:13,093
You left the door unlocked.
1567
00:56:13,186 --> 00:56:14,352
- [laughs]
1568
00:56:14,446 --> 00:56:15,704
What's going on?
- How you doing?
1569
00:56:15,931 --> 00:56:16,872
- Hey, Jeff.
1570
00:56:17,099 --> 00:56:18,765
- How you doing? How you doing?
- Good.
1571
00:56:18,859 --> 00:56:20,692
- Ooh, this looks good.
- Mm-hmm.
1572
00:56:20,786 --> 00:56:23,027
- You guys made the chicken?
- Mm-hmm.
1573
00:56:23,122 --> 00:56:24,863
- Oh, who did, you or him?
1574
00:56:24,957 --> 00:56:26,715
- I did. Of course, I did.
1575
00:56:26,942 --> 00:56:28,384
[music winds down]
1576
00:56:28,611 --> 00:56:29,885
- Hey, hey.
1577
00:56:30,036 --> 00:56:32,721
- My friends!
1578
00:56:32,873 --> 00:56:35,224
- ♪ Bring your friends ♪
1579
00:56:35,451 --> 00:56:36,541
- Hey. How you doing?
- Good. How are you?
1580
00:56:36,635 --> 00:56:38,118
[indistinct chatter]
1581
00:56:38,211 --> 00:56:39,561
- ♪ Bring your friends ♪
1582
00:56:39,788 --> 00:56:42,398
♪ ♪
1583
00:56:42,625 --> 00:56:44,566
- To the newlyweds.
1584
00:56:44,793 --> 00:56:46,810
- Cheers.
1585
00:56:46,962 --> 00:56:48,052
- Katina's my girl.
1586
00:56:48,072 --> 00:56:50,647
- Yep. I would say
you're the best friend.
1587
00:56:50,799 --> 00:56:52,983
- Stop it. I am.
- [laughs]
1588
00:56:53,135 --> 00:56:55,802
- But the day after the
wedding, when we met Olajuwon,
1589
00:56:55,821 --> 00:56:58,305
I was like,
"I don't like him."
1590
00:56:58,323 --> 00:57:00,807
So for me, I just want
to make sure that, like,
1591
00:57:00,826 --> 00:57:04,086
he is just as invested
in this process as she is.
1592
00:57:04,313 --> 00:57:06,905
♪ ♪
1593
00:57:06,999 --> 00:57:08,406
How's it living with a man?
1594
00:57:08,500 --> 00:57:09,833
You've never lived
with a man before.
1595
00:57:09,927 --> 00:57:13,429
- I will say, like, he has,
like, a large personality,
1596
00:57:13,656 --> 00:57:14,746
which--it's not something
that I can't, like,
1597
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:16,173
handle or deal with,
1598
00:57:16,325 --> 00:57:19,009
but he's definitely, like, whoo!
1599
00:57:19,161 --> 00:57:20,602
Like, you know?
- "Hi, I'm here!"
1600
00:57:20,829 --> 00:57:22,512
- So it is an adjustment...
- Yeah.
1601
00:57:22,606 --> 00:57:24,773
- Being married to somebody
who's always, like, on 1,000.
1602
00:57:24,925 --> 00:57:27,258
- Yep.
- Do you snore?
1603
00:57:27,278 --> 00:57:28,426
- No, he doesn't snore.
- No?
1604
00:57:28,446 --> 00:57:30,504
- I heard him--
- Do you snore, though?
1605
00:57:30,597 --> 00:57:32,522
- No. Oh, he heard me
talk in my sleep.
1606
00:57:32,675 --> 00:57:34,098
- I snore.
Talked in your sleep?
1607
00:57:34,193 --> 00:57:35,509
- Mm-hmm. He had to wake me up.
1608
00:57:35,602 --> 00:57:36,843
- What--who was you fighting,
sis?
1609
00:57:36,937 --> 00:57:38,028
We gotta go in your--
- I don't know.
1610
00:57:38,180 --> 00:57:40,122
But it's definitely--
This must have been
1611
00:57:40,273 --> 00:57:42,349
the night where he was
on my back about cooking.
1612
00:57:42,442 --> 00:57:44,293
- [laughs]
Oh, you had some words.
1613
00:57:44,520 --> 00:57:45,519
- Yeah.
1614
00:57:45,612 --> 00:57:46,778
She's like,
"Wait till I go to sleep."
1615
00:57:46,872 --> 00:57:47,963
- "Wait till I go to sleep."
1616
00:57:48,114 --> 00:57:49,781
- And then when I woke up,
he was like this.
1617
00:57:49,875 --> 00:57:51,133
[laughs]
- Right back to sleep.
1618
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:53,376
- Yeah.
1619
00:57:53,529 --> 00:57:55,453
- So how's Katina fitting
with your family,
1620
00:57:55,473 --> 00:57:57,622
the Dickersons?
- They good. You know why?
1621
00:57:57,716 --> 00:57:59,290
'Cause the Dickersons
like to party.
1622
00:57:59,310 --> 00:58:01,384
- Yeah.
- They like to drink.
1623
00:58:01,537 --> 00:58:02,869
My wife likes to drink.
1624
00:58:02,963 --> 00:58:04,871
Her personality
naturally fits in.
1625
00:58:04,965 --> 00:58:08,041
- How's the intimacy
with you guys?
1626
00:58:08,134 --> 00:58:11,653
- So we haven't been...
you know.
1627
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:12,804
♪ ♪
1628
00:58:12,823 --> 00:58:15,048
- We are grown, sis.
- No, I know.
1629
00:58:15,141 --> 00:58:17,993
But we haven't crossed
that water yet.
1630
00:58:18,220 --> 00:58:19,720
- Damn.
1631
00:58:19,813 --> 00:58:23,147
- We're really, like,
just focused on
1632
00:58:23,242 --> 00:58:25,501
having an emotional connection.
1633
00:58:25,728 --> 00:58:28,912
And I think, for him
specifically, he needs that,
1634
00:58:29,006 --> 00:58:31,732
like, more so than I do.
1635
00:58:31,825 --> 00:58:33,342
- But I also want you
to be happy.
1636
00:58:33,569 --> 00:58:36,828
♪ ♪
1637
00:58:36,922 --> 00:58:38,162
- I don't like that.
1638
00:58:38,182 --> 00:58:40,498
Because, like,
sex is so important to her.
1639
00:58:40,592 --> 00:58:43,410
- Yeah. This is her husband.
1640
00:58:43,428 --> 00:58:44,911
♪ ♪
1641
00:58:45,005 --> 00:58:48,431
- Olajuwon, have a seat
in our hot spot.
1642
00:58:48,526 --> 00:58:50,100
- You gonna give me all
his deepest, darkest secrets?
1643
00:58:50,194 --> 00:58:51,843
- Absolutely not.
1644
00:58:51,862 --> 00:58:53,195
I'll let him share those
with you.
1645
00:58:53,346 --> 00:58:54,679
- [laughs]
1646
00:58:54,698 --> 00:58:57,366
- So how's, like, the whole,
like, household stuff?
1647
00:58:57,593 --> 00:59:00,184
Like, just her being
what you envisioned as,
1648
00:59:00,279 --> 00:59:01,928
like, a wife in your eyes?
1649
00:59:01,947 --> 00:59:04,097
- Cleanliness, cooking.
1650
00:59:04,116 --> 00:59:05,857
I know cooking
was a big one for you.
1651
00:59:05,876 --> 00:59:08,769
- Yeah, that's really big.
She has effort.
1652
00:59:08,787 --> 00:59:11,605
♪ ♪
1653
00:59:11,698 --> 00:59:13,531
Am I the perfect dude?
No, I'm not.
1654
00:59:13,625 --> 00:59:16,443
You know what I'm saying? So...
1655
00:59:16,536 --> 00:59:18,128
- Make sure you don't put
that pressure
1656
00:59:18,222 --> 00:59:20,130
on her to do that.
- No, no.
1657
00:59:20,224 --> 00:59:21,223
- Because she is trying.
1658
00:59:21,450 --> 00:59:22,949
Best believe, like...
- I know she is.
1659
00:59:23,043 --> 00:59:24,117
- She really do want
to make you happy.
1660
00:59:24,136 --> 00:59:25,468
- Yeah. I know.
1661
00:59:25,563 --> 00:59:27,137
- So how y'all doing?
1662
00:59:27,289 --> 00:59:28,471
- We're doing good.
1663
00:59:28,624 --> 00:59:29,806
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
1664
00:59:29,900 --> 00:59:31,625
I feel like we get along good.
1665
00:59:31,643 --> 00:59:33,460
I feel like our connection
is strong.
1666
00:59:33,478 --> 00:59:34,570
- He praises you a lot.
1667
00:59:34,721 --> 00:59:36,313
And the way he keeps talking
about you, like,
1668
00:59:36,407 --> 00:59:38,298
"Dude, she's really catering.
1669
00:59:38,317 --> 00:59:40,075
"She's, like, always there.
She even pulls me aside
1670
00:59:40,302 --> 00:59:42,135
and, like, calms me down,
like, 'Yo, I'm here for you.'"
1671
00:59:42,228 --> 00:59:43,987
- Do you feel like
she's holding back?
1672
00:59:44,139 --> 00:59:45,155
- Yeah, she holds back.
1673
00:59:45,249 --> 00:59:47,157
But I told her before,
you gotta let loose.
1674
00:59:47,251 --> 00:59:48,809
Let your heart come out.
1675
00:59:48,902 --> 00:59:50,477
'Cause you see that
right from me.
1676
00:59:50,495 --> 00:59:52,979
Like, I am a strong,
opinionated person.
1677
00:59:53,073 --> 00:59:55,148
I am passionate when I say,
like--
1678
00:59:55,241 --> 00:59:56,983
And you go through
all my [bleep].
1679
00:59:57,077 --> 00:59:58,260
Like, when I have
my little tantrum,
1680
00:59:58,487 --> 01:00:00,745
you have not slipped on me.
- She's very patient.
1681
01:00:00,764 --> 01:00:02,598
- I see--I've seen him
when he's flustered.
1682
01:00:02,825 --> 01:00:05,249
I've seen him
when he catches the attitude.
1683
01:00:05,269 --> 01:00:06,660
That, I can deal with.
But, like--
1684
01:00:06,753 --> 01:00:07,769
- He can get hot really quick.
1685
01:00:07,921 --> 01:00:09,346
He has a short wick.
- Yeah, I seen that.
1686
01:00:09,498 --> 01:00:10,347
All I do when he gets like that,
1687
01:00:10,499 --> 01:00:11,832
I just "okay" him.
I say, "Okay."
1688
01:00:11,850 --> 01:00:15,335
- If he's acting hot and out
of place, just keep calm.
1689
01:00:15,354 --> 01:00:18,188
He may say it a lot more
aggressive than, like,
1690
01:00:18,340 --> 01:00:19,448
I guess, I would.
- Another person.
1691
01:00:19,599 --> 01:00:20,782
- I have a softer tongue,
you know what I mean?
1692
01:00:20,934 --> 01:00:22,784
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Like--
1693
01:00:23,011 --> 01:00:24,786
- So don't take it personal.
- Don't. Don't.
1694
01:00:24,938 --> 01:00:26,622
And realize he's gonna cool off.
1695
01:00:26,773 --> 01:00:27,697
- Let him take a moment
and calm down.
1696
01:00:27,791 --> 01:00:29,182
- Yeah, take a moment.
Take a breather.
1697
01:00:29,275 --> 01:00:30,533
- That's what I thought
the method should be,
1698
01:00:30,686 --> 01:00:32,461
but I just--you know,
you know him better than me.
1699
01:00:32,688 --> 01:00:35,522
- I think Katina is actually
really awesome.
1700
01:00:35,540 --> 01:00:37,782
It seems like
she's understanding him
1701
01:00:37,801 --> 01:00:39,042
and being patient with him.
1702
01:00:39,194 --> 01:00:40,377
- You're gonna need to have
that same patience
1703
01:00:40,529 --> 01:00:41,619
and grace with her.
1704
01:00:41,713 --> 01:00:42,954
And most importantly, like,
1705
01:00:43,048 --> 01:00:44,473
you can dish it,
she can take it,
1706
01:00:44,700 --> 01:00:48,034
but it's like, always remember
your delivery with everything.
1707
01:00:48,053 --> 01:00:49,703
- Oh, I know.
Pastor Cal said that,
1708
01:00:49,796 --> 01:00:50,962
and I was like,
"Yo, you know what's craziest?
1709
01:00:51,056 --> 01:00:52,372
"'Cause there's people
that have told me before,
1710
01:00:52,465 --> 01:00:54,149
"they're like, 'Dude,
I thought you was a [bleep]
1711
01:00:54,300 --> 01:00:55,392
"'talking to you
at the beginning,
1712
01:00:55,486 --> 01:00:57,560
"'but then I realized,
just hanging around you,
1713
01:00:57,655 --> 01:00:59,137
that's just who you are.
You don't mean no harm by it.'"
1714
01:00:59,231 --> 01:01:00,547
- Harm by it, yeah.
- Yeah.
1715
01:01:00,565 --> 01:01:01,398
- Like, "You would help
somebody in a heartbeat."
1716
01:01:01,550 --> 01:01:02,565
- Exactly. Your delivery.
1717
01:01:02,660 --> 01:01:03,808
- "Just how you talk
is just strong." Yeah.
1718
01:01:03,827 --> 01:01:05,568
- Yeah. You have to adjust.
Like, even--
1719
01:01:05,721 --> 01:01:07,053
- I feel like she knows me.
1720
01:01:07,072 --> 01:01:08,330
- Even the day after
the wedding, when we met, like,
1721
01:01:08,481 --> 01:01:11,574
that--there's still that
adjustment period of, like,
1722
01:01:11,727 --> 01:01:13,818
"Okay, I'm not single O
no more."
1723
01:01:13,912 --> 01:01:15,562
- No.
- "I gotta be married O.
1724
01:01:15,580 --> 01:01:17,673
I gotta consider her feelings."
1725
01:01:17,900 --> 01:01:18,674
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1726
01:01:18,901 --> 01:01:20,233
♪ ♪
1727
01:01:20,252 --> 01:01:22,419
- I was a little worried,
but I feel like he's so,
1728
01:01:22,571 --> 01:01:25,906
like, forthcoming
and so welcoming of her
1729
01:01:25,999 --> 01:01:27,516
that, like,
they're doing really well.
1730
01:01:27,743 --> 01:01:30,427
I really don't have much bad
to say about him.
1731
01:01:30,521 --> 01:01:34,247
But trust, if he does
something bad, it's going down.
1732
01:01:34,266 --> 01:01:36,099
- I want to cheers
to our friends coming
1733
01:01:36,251 --> 01:01:37,842
and having fun with us.
1734
01:01:37,861 --> 01:01:39,269
- Yeah. No, for real.
- Well done for us.
1735
01:01:39,421 --> 01:01:41,421
- It wouldn't work if we didn't
have the faith of y'all.
1736
01:01:41,514 --> 01:01:43,924
- ♪ It's so far, so good ♪
1737
01:01:43,942 --> 01:01:46,017
- You got some amazing friends.
1738
01:01:46,036 --> 01:01:47,777
- Aww.
1739
01:01:47,871 --> 01:01:50,764
- ♪ Do you mean it when you
say it like I do ♪
1740
01:01:50,857 --> 01:01:53,266
♪ Can you feel it
like I feel it ♪
1741
01:01:53,359 --> 01:01:56,269
- Tonight Noi offered
to cook me dinner
1742
01:01:56,288 --> 01:01:59,530
for the first time,
which I thought was nice.
1743
01:01:59,624 --> 01:02:01,608
I've been cooking dinner
a lot lately.
1744
01:02:01,626 --> 01:02:05,128
And so yeah,
I said, "Sounds good to me."
1745
01:02:05,280 --> 01:02:06,388
She has her gluten-free noodles.
1746
01:02:06,539 --> 01:02:08,448
I have my regular noodles.
1747
01:02:08,541 --> 01:02:10,633
So I threw, you know,
a pot of water on
1748
01:02:10,786 --> 01:02:12,561
and went to the bedroom.
1749
01:02:12,712 --> 01:02:15,138
Shortly after that,
I went just to check on--
1750
01:02:15,290 --> 01:02:17,307
See how things were going,
1751
01:02:17,401 --> 01:02:21,719
and I noticed that her noodles
were in her pan, in her pot,
1752
01:02:21,739 --> 01:02:23,238
but mine weren't yet.
1753
01:02:31,064 --> 01:02:34,082
I just think, you know,
probably on autopilot.
1754
01:02:34,309 --> 01:02:36,810
Like, the noodles are probably
almost done by now,
1755
01:02:36,903 --> 01:02:38,645
so I'm just gonna
go check on them.
1756
01:02:38,738 --> 01:02:43,316
I go out, and they're,
you know, almost,
1757
01:02:43,409 --> 01:02:45,668
at this point, boiling over,
like,
1758
01:02:45,763 --> 01:02:49,014
kind of getting to the point
where they are getting soggy.
1759
01:03:02,262 --> 01:03:05,096
And so I took the noodles out
and drained them.
1760
01:03:05,190 --> 01:03:07,857
She goes to the door.
She grabs Sushi.
1761
01:03:08,010 --> 01:03:12,287
She gets up and leaves and
doesn't say where she's going.
1762
01:03:14,699 --> 01:03:17,292
- And, you know,
I'm texting her.
1763
01:03:17,443 --> 01:03:19,519
I wait, like, a half an hour.
I text her again.
1764
01:03:19,612 --> 01:03:21,779
"Hey, babe, you know,
didn't mean to upset you.
1765
01:03:21,799 --> 01:03:23,632
Hope everything's okay."
1766
01:03:23,859 --> 01:03:26,026
And she--you know,
she didn't respond
1767
01:03:26,044 --> 01:03:28,970
and basically, like,
won't get on the phone with me.
1768
01:03:29,197 --> 01:03:30,288
♪ ♪
1769
01:03:30,307 --> 01:03:32,307
I don't understand
why she's so upset.
1770
01:03:36,146 --> 01:03:36,978
[upbeat music]
1771
01:03:37,205 --> 01:03:37,979
♪ ♪
1772
01:03:38,131 --> 01:03:40,482
- ♪ And you don't stop ♪
1773
01:03:40,633 --> 01:03:42,150
♪ And you don't quit ♪
1774
01:03:42,377 --> 01:03:43,467
♪ ♪
1775
01:03:43,562 --> 01:03:45,320
- 'Sup, beautiful?
- Hey.
1776
01:03:45,471 --> 01:03:47,638
- ♪ I'm the mastermind ♪
1777
01:03:47,658 --> 01:03:49,382
- You gonna help me
with these groceries?
1778
01:03:49,401 --> 01:03:51,051
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
1779
01:03:51,144 --> 01:03:52,902
But first,
I got a surprise for you.
1780
01:03:53,055 --> 01:03:54,888
- What? What is it?
1781
01:03:54,981 --> 01:03:57,165
- So, you know,
you kept saying that--
1782
01:03:57,392 --> 01:03:59,075
- Oh, you cut your hair?
- You kept saying that--
1783
01:03:59,227 --> 01:04:01,244
You know,
you said you wanted a man
1784
01:04:01,396 --> 01:04:03,171
that's close
to Michael B. Jordan
1785
01:04:03,398 --> 01:04:05,156
or something like that,
and the mohawk wasn't doing it.
1786
01:04:05,250 --> 01:04:07,342
You like it?
- I like it.
1787
01:04:07,493 --> 01:04:09,177
- Do you?
- Yeah. You look good.
1788
01:04:09,404 --> 01:04:10,679
- Aw, baby.
1789
01:04:10,906 --> 01:04:12,830
Mm, mm, mm.
1790
01:04:12,850 --> 01:04:15,666
- ♪ Can't live my life
waking up like this ♪
1791
01:04:15,686 --> 01:04:18,019
♪ Looking in the mirror,
feeling like [...] ♪
1792
01:04:18,171 --> 01:04:20,838
♪ I'm never hopeful ♪
1793
01:04:20,858 --> 01:04:23,433
♪ Always been a handful ♪
1794
01:04:23,585 --> 01:04:28,254
- My thing is, like, if this is
how you're gonna react to me
1795
01:04:28,273 --> 01:04:30,256
letting you know
about the pasta,
1796
01:04:30,350 --> 01:04:32,868
like, what happens
if we have children?
1797
01:04:33,019 --> 01:04:35,036
Noi spent the night
somewhere else last night,
1798
01:04:35,188 --> 01:04:37,931
and I've been trying
to call or text,
1799
01:04:37,949 --> 01:04:39,949
but she hasn't responded
this morning.
1800
01:04:40,102 --> 01:04:41,951
So I just don't know what to do.
1801
01:04:42,045 --> 01:04:43,712
I would even apologize
1802
01:04:43,863 --> 01:04:45,046
if she would just
reach out to me,
1803
01:04:45,198 --> 01:04:46,789
but she won't speak to me.
1804
01:04:46,884 --> 01:04:48,441
I don't know what to do.
1805
01:04:48,460 --> 01:04:51,277
I'm just gonna keep waiting,
maybe reach out to her again,
1806
01:04:51,371 --> 01:04:55,373
and hopefully we can work
through this.
1807
01:04:55,392 --> 01:04:57,617
- Leaving at the first sign
of a challenge
1808
01:04:57,710 --> 01:05:00,729
should never be an option
in any marriage.
1809
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:03,714
It is okay to take the time
or space for yourself,
1810
01:05:03,808 --> 01:05:05,959
but ignoring your spouse
entirely
1811
01:05:05,977 --> 01:05:08,737
is not just an unhealthy way
of dealing with issues.
1812
01:05:08,964 --> 01:05:11,389
It will also prevent you
from growing long-lasting,
1813
01:05:11,408 --> 01:05:13,575
healthy,
respectful relationships.
1814
01:05:13,802 --> 01:05:15,577
[emotional music]
1815
01:05:15,804 --> 01:05:19,080
- ♪ Baby, you and me,
we're all connected ♪
1816
01:05:19,307 --> 01:05:26,087
♪ ♪
1817
01:05:27,758 --> 01:05:29,758
- Hey.
- What's up?
1818
01:05:29,985 --> 01:05:34,245
♪ ♪
1819
01:05:34,264 --> 01:05:36,506
[collar jangles]
1820
01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:39,826
- So are you ready talk?
1821
01:05:39,844 --> 01:05:41,770
- I don't know.
1822
01:05:41,997 --> 01:05:44,105
Last night, I went back
to my own apartment,
1823
01:05:44,332 --> 01:05:46,257
and I haven't spoken to him yet,
1824
01:05:46,351 --> 01:05:48,926
because I'm still trying
to process
1825
01:05:48,946 --> 01:05:51,187
what I want to do
about the situation.
1826
01:05:51,281 --> 01:05:53,840
I know that we need
to have a conversation,
1827
01:05:53,933 --> 01:05:56,676
but I just don't want
to say anything
1828
01:05:56,695 --> 01:05:58,845
that I can't take back.
1829
01:05:58,863 --> 01:06:01,364
- You know, I didn't know what
was wrong when you walked out.
1830
01:06:01,458 --> 01:06:03,533
I had to guess that you
were upset about something,
1831
01:06:03,627 --> 01:06:06,777
and I put it together that
it was the whole cooking thing.
1832
01:06:06,797 --> 01:06:09,464
But for me, I basically
have gone a whole 24 hours
1833
01:06:09,615 --> 01:06:11,541
and I haven't even gotten
a chance
1834
01:06:11,693 --> 01:06:12,968
to really say how I feel.
1835
01:06:13,195 --> 01:06:15,195
♪ ♪
1836
01:06:15,288 --> 01:06:17,305
Can't really just
leave me hanging.
1837
01:06:17,457 --> 01:06:18,715
We're married.
1838
01:06:18,867 --> 01:06:21,125
This isn't like,
"Oh, you're upset,
1839
01:06:21,219 --> 01:06:23,536
I'm upset, I can walk out."
1840
01:06:23,629 --> 01:06:25,313
I mean, I woke up this morning
1841
01:06:25,540 --> 01:06:28,466
and I was expecting
at least a text or anything.
1842
01:06:28,485 --> 01:06:30,393
Instead, I just get
this social media post
1843
01:06:30,545 --> 01:06:32,821
that's kind of ambiguous,
1844
01:06:32,972 --> 01:06:34,656
but at the same time,
it seems pretty directed at me.
1845
01:06:34,807 --> 01:06:36,549
Like, was that--
1846
01:06:36,642 --> 01:06:38,326
Was that in reference
to what happened?
1847
01:06:38,553 --> 01:06:39,995
- Yeah.
1848
01:06:40,222 --> 01:06:42,071
♪ ♪
1849
01:06:42,224 --> 01:06:47,318
- I go on social media,
and it's just a quote.
1850
01:06:47,337 --> 01:06:50,730
"Learning to say, 'Nah,
this just isn't good enough, '
1851
01:06:50,823 --> 01:06:52,398
"will enhance your life greatly.
1852
01:06:52,492 --> 01:06:55,677
"You're allowed to say, 'This
is simply not enough for me.'
1853
01:06:55,904 --> 01:06:57,737
"You're allowed to have
a vision for yourself,
1854
01:06:57,756 --> 01:06:59,514
"your life, your relationships,
1855
01:06:59,741 --> 01:07:01,758
"and refuse to settle
for anything less.
1856
01:07:01,852 --> 01:07:04,352
Say no often."
1857
01:07:04,504 --> 01:07:05,836
- That was, like, the first time
1858
01:07:05,930 --> 01:07:07,856
that I had ever cooked for you,
1859
01:07:08,083 --> 01:07:09,691
so it was just really, like,
off-putting to me
1860
01:07:09,918 --> 01:07:12,360
that you would comment
on something like that
1861
01:07:12,512 --> 01:07:16,773
instead of just saying, like,
"Thank you for making me food."
1862
01:07:16,925 --> 01:07:19,108
It just came off
really rude to me.
1863
01:07:19,261 --> 01:07:21,202
And I don't think this is, like,
1864
01:07:21,429 --> 01:07:23,780
the first time comments
like that have been made,
1865
01:07:23,874 --> 01:07:27,283
so I think that's why
it really triggered me.
1866
01:07:27,377 --> 01:07:29,527
I shut down when I get upset,
1867
01:07:29,546 --> 01:07:33,197
and I don't like usually
talking about it right after
1868
01:07:33,216 --> 01:07:35,366
because, like,
I need to step away
1869
01:07:35,460 --> 01:07:38,386
to process how I'm feeling.
1870
01:07:38,613 --> 01:07:40,204
You would just prefer
that I handle conflict
1871
01:07:40,298 --> 01:07:41,705
the exact way that you do.
1872
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:44,225
And for me,
it's like, I'm not you.
1873
01:07:44,452 --> 01:07:46,377
♪ ♪
1874
01:07:46,471 --> 01:07:48,288
- There's healthy communication
1875
01:07:48,381 --> 01:07:49,789
and there's
unhealthy communication.
1876
01:07:49,882 --> 01:07:51,291
You gave me
the silent treatment.
1877
01:07:51,384 --> 01:07:53,068
You ghosted me and walked out
of the apartment.
1878
01:07:53,219 --> 01:07:55,570
That's not a healthy response
to what happened.
1879
01:07:55,797 --> 01:07:58,464
So yes, if you need time,
by all means, ask for it.
1880
01:07:58,483 --> 01:07:59,723
Communicate that to me.
1881
01:07:59,818 --> 01:08:01,984
Even better, if you can give me
the opportunity
1882
01:08:02,137 --> 01:08:03,469
to at least say something
1883
01:08:03,563 --> 01:08:05,154
so that I'm not just
sitting here like,
1884
01:08:05,307 --> 01:08:07,582
"Okay, she's mad,
but I can't speak to her,
1885
01:08:07,733 --> 01:08:09,918
"and I'm gonna wait
for 24 hours,
1886
01:08:10,069 --> 01:08:11,419
"and when I look on social media
1887
01:08:11,646 --> 01:08:12,812
"and know that she's talking
to her friends
1888
01:08:12,831 --> 01:08:14,147
"and letting everyone else know
1889
01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:15,498
that she's unhappy
in her marriage."
1890
01:08:15,650 --> 01:08:17,817
It's like, that's--
1891
01:08:17,910 --> 01:08:19,761
That's what you mean by space?
1892
01:08:19,912 --> 01:08:21,429
Like, no, that's not acceptable.
1893
01:08:23,249 --> 01:08:25,325
You shouldn't post it
and be like,
1894
01:08:25,418 --> 01:08:27,251
"This relationship's
not working."
1895
01:08:27,345 --> 01:08:30,163
I wonder why it's not working.
Because we haven't even talked.
1896
01:08:30,181 --> 01:08:31,848
I'm willing to apologize,
1897
01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:34,517
and I am sorry
for upsetting you.
1898
01:08:34,669 --> 01:08:36,336
But you know how many
of my family and friends
1899
01:08:36,429 --> 01:08:38,171
follow you right now?
Think about that.
1900
01:08:38,189 --> 01:08:39,930
They're gonna come to me
and be like, "What happened?"
1901
01:08:39,950 --> 01:08:42,099
And I'm gonna have to be like,
"Oh,
1902
01:08:42,119 --> 01:08:45,120
"I told her how to cook pasta.
1903
01:08:45,271 --> 01:08:48,030
And she's saying this
relationship's not enough."
1904
01:08:48,125 --> 01:08:50,683
Do you think it's acceptable?
Do you think it's okay?
1905
01:08:50,702 --> 01:08:53,444
- Yeah, I probably shouldn't be
sharing it with the public.
1906
01:08:53,538 --> 01:08:55,688
- Definitely not. Not probably.
1907
01:08:55,707 --> 01:08:57,373
Definitely not.
1908
01:08:57,467 --> 01:09:00,360
[tense music]
1909
01:09:00,378 --> 01:09:02,262
♪ ♪
1910
01:09:06,143 --> 01:09:09,202
- ♪ You could have given us
a try ♪
1911
01:09:09,220 --> 01:09:11,220
♪ Wouldn't it be nice ♪
1912
01:09:11,373 --> 01:09:13,890
- It's been a few days since
Alyssa and I landed on divorce.
1913
01:09:14,042 --> 01:09:19,545
So tonight we are meeting up
with everybody.
1914
01:09:19,564 --> 01:09:21,564
Believe we're going bowling.
1915
01:09:21,716 --> 01:09:24,975
And this is gonna be
the first time that we tell
1916
01:09:24,995 --> 01:09:27,887
all the couples that we're done,
1917
01:09:27,906 --> 01:09:29,313
that we're getting divorced.
1918
01:09:29,332 --> 01:09:31,574
So that should be fun.
1919
01:09:31,726 --> 01:09:34,243
- I'm excited to see
the rest of the couples.
1920
01:09:34,396 --> 01:09:36,838
I'm excited to see, you know,
how married life is going,
1921
01:09:36,989 --> 01:09:38,731
because, you know,
once you live with somebody,
1922
01:09:38,750 --> 01:09:40,249
that's when the real day one
starts.
1923
01:09:40,343 --> 01:09:42,752
- Talking like this cannot
be that comfortable.
1924
01:09:42,846 --> 01:09:44,495
Like, you just--
1925
01:09:44,514 --> 01:09:46,739
- [laughs]
- Like, move your hand.
1926
01:09:46,758 --> 01:09:48,925
[upbeat music]
1927
01:09:49,019 --> 01:09:50,910
[bowling pins clatter]
1928
01:09:50,929 --> 01:09:53,188
♪ ♪
1929
01:09:53,339 --> 01:09:54,672
- Anyone bowl
in a bowling league?
1930
01:09:54,766 --> 01:09:56,191
- [laughs]
- Yes.
1931
01:09:56,342 --> 01:09:58,267
- You bowl in a bowling league?
- You said yes real quick!
1932
01:09:58,361 --> 01:09:59,919
- Oh, wow!
- Yeah!
1933
01:09:59,938 --> 01:10:01,270
- Mark, have you?
1934
01:10:01,364 --> 01:10:02,697
- I got, like, trophies.
1935
01:10:02,924 --> 01:10:04,273
- Oh, so you're ready
for today, then.
1936
01:10:04,426 --> 01:10:06,350
- I mean, it's been a while.
1937
01:10:06,369 --> 01:10:11,447
- I'm still a little bit upset
about our disagreement.
1938
01:10:11,599 --> 01:10:15,435
I think it's hard in this
situation where we kind of
1939
01:10:15,528 --> 01:10:17,286
have to put on a good face.
1940
01:10:17,380 --> 01:10:20,197
- Everyone was looking at us
as this shining example.
1941
01:10:20,217 --> 01:10:22,625
But just like everyone else,
we have our problems.
1942
01:10:22,777 --> 01:10:24,368
We just don't talk about it
1943
01:10:24,387 --> 01:10:27,463
in front of the other couples
that much.
1944
01:10:27,615 --> 01:10:28,965
- Here we go, Mark.
1945
01:10:29,117 --> 01:10:30,892
- ♪ One, two, three, four ♪
1946
01:10:31,119 --> 01:10:33,636
♪ I'm in the love-making
business ♪
1947
01:10:33,788 --> 01:10:34,729
♪ ♪
1948
01:10:34,956 --> 01:10:37,473
♪ I'm in the love-making
business ♪
1949
01:10:37,625 --> 01:10:38,882
♪ ♪
1950
01:10:38,902 --> 01:10:40,810
♪ Give love, share love ♪
1951
01:10:40,962 --> 01:10:42,570
♪ Make love as you should ♪
1952
01:10:42,797 --> 01:10:43,980
♪ I'm in the love-making
business ♪
1953
01:10:44,132 --> 01:10:45,389
- Yeah!
1954
01:10:45,408 --> 01:10:47,650
- ♪ And business is good,
yeah ♪
1955
01:10:47,802 --> 01:10:49,727
♪ ♪
1956
01:10:49,821 --> 01:10:51,988
♪ Business is good ♪
1957
01:10:52,140 --> 01:10:55,065
♪ ♪
1958
01:10:55,085 --> 01:10:56,400
- I think I could play
in a league.
1959
01:10:56,419 --> 01:10:57,585
I think I might start that
as a hobby.
1960
01:10:58,738 --> 01:10:59,754
- Yeah.
- Okay.
1961
01:10:59,905 --> 01:11:01,238
- Would you come support me?
- Of course.
1962
01:11:01,258 --> 01:11:02,757
- Like, wear the pom-poms,
the jersey?
1963
01:11:02,908 --> 01:11:04,575
- Pom-poms?
[music winds down]
1964
01:11:04,594 --> 01:11:06,168
- Clearly, you've never been
a cheerleader.
1965
01:11:06,263 --> 01:11:07,837
- [laughs]
1966
01:11:07,931 --> 01:11:10,506
I'll have a sign.
1967
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:12,341
- Close enough.
1968
01:11:12,494 --> 01:11:14,176
- Where's Alyssa and Chris?
1969
01:11:14,329 --> 01:11:15,603
- Yeah, where are Alyssa
and Chris?
1970
01:11:15,830 --> 01:11:17,438
- Has anyone seen them?
I haven't seen them in a while.
1971
01:11:17,590 --> 01:11:18,664
- Not since the honeymoon.
1972
01:11:18,683 --> 01:11:21,017
- Oh, y'all,
I gotta get this reaction.
1973
01:11:21,169 --> 01:11:23,945
My sweet little baby had a taco
1974
01:11:24,096 --> 01:11:25,596
for the first time
the other day.
1975
01:11:25,690 --> 01:11:26,522
- Huh?
- First time?
1976
01:11:26,616 --> 01:11:27,598
- You don't eat tacos?
1977
01:11:27,617 --> 01:11:29,284
- He had never had
a taco before.
1978
01:11:29,511 --> 01:11:30,601
- You had never had
a taco in your life?
1979
01:11:30,620 --> 01:11:32,011
- Wait, what kind of taco?
- Like, a taco.
1980
01:11:32,030 --> 01:11:34,438
[quirky music]
1981
01:11:34,457 --> 01:11:36,182
- Mmm.
1982
01:11:36,200 --> 01:11:37,199
♪ ♪
1983
01:11:37,294 --> 01:11:39,127
This is so good.
1984
01:11:39,278 --> 01:11:41,945
- Look at your wife
introducing you to things.
1985
01:11:41,965 --> 01:11:43,781
- Oh, always. [chuckles]
1986
01:11:43,875 --> 01:11:45,449
Always. "Try this."
1987
01:11:45,468 --> 01:11:47,135
- I'm so glad we got it
on camera.
1988
01:11:47,286 --> 01:11:50,196
- But she tells me after
I put it in what it is.
1989
01:11:50,214 --> 01:11:51,973
- Did she blindfold you too?
1990
01:11:52,200 --> 01:11:53,699
- No, but it's like--
- I would, though.
1991
01:11:53,793 --> 01:11:55,034
Let's take it to the bedroom.
1992
01:11:55,053 --> 01:11:58,313
♪ ♪
1993
01:11:58,540 --> 01:12:00,964
- Lindsey's always
being inappropriate.
1994
01:12:00,984 --> 01:12:02,150
Like, read the room
1995
01:12:02,301 --> 01:12:04,060
and understand that,
like, nobody cares.
1996
01:12:04,212 --> 01:12:05,969
♪ ♪
1997
01:12:05,989 --> 01:12:08,397
- So how's everyone doing?
Do you like your apartments?
1998
01:12:08,550 --> 01:12:09,565
- I just want to say
1999
01:12:09,659 --> 01:12:11,492
this man never leaves
the toilet seat up,
2000
01:12:11,719 --> 01:12:14,220
and that was my biggest thing.
- Wow.
2001
01:12:14,238 --> 01:12:16,405
I don't know
what that feels like, girl.
2002
01:12:16,558 --> 01:12:17,573
- I gotta be honest,
2003
01:12:17,725 --> 01:12:20,409
you got, like,
30% toilet-seat-up action.
2004
01:12:20,503 --> 01:12:21,985
- No, I don't.
2005
01:12:22,005 --> 01:12:24,339
- Is it a matter of you want
to put the toilet seat down
2006
01:12:24,566 --> 01:12:26,674
because you just want
the sanitary flush
2007
01:12:26,901 --> 01:12:28,250
or because--
- All right, I'm gonna just
2008
01:12:28,403 --> 01:12:30,511
step in as the nurse
and the safety officer,
2009
01:12:30,738 --> 01:12:32,847
'cause I have a real bone
to pick with this.
2010
01:12:33,074 --> 01:12:34,331
- Wait, let him ask
his question, Lindsey.
2011
01:12:34,351 --> 01:12:35,350
- When the seat is up
and you flush,
2012
01:12:35,501 --> 01:12:36,834
bacteria sprays six feet
in the air...
2013
01:12:36,928 --> 01:12:38,244
- Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
2014
01:12:38,262 --> 01:12:39,912
- Over everything.
- You have to close the seat.
2015
01:12:39,931 --> 01:12:41,581
- Just let him ask
his question first
2016
01:12:41,599 --> 01:12:43,082
and get everybody's opinion.
2017
01:12:43,101 --> 01:12:44,767
[clears throat]
2018
01:12:44,919 --> 01:12:45,935
♪ ♪
2019
01:12:46,087 --> 01:12:47,362
Go ahead, Steve. sorry.
2020
01:12:47,589 --> 01:12:49,105
- So there's two--there's two
approaches to that, right?
2021
01:12:49,199 --> 01:12:51,032
One, the sanitary one, right?
And I get that.
2022
01:12:51,259 --> 01:12:54,202
But two, the other one
is putting it down
2023
01:12:54,353 --> 01:12:56,687
because a female is going to be
using it next,
2024
01:12:56,781 --> 01:12:58,539
versus a male using it.
2025
01:12:58,691 --> 01:13:01,024
- We just want to be able to go
and sit on the toilet
2026
01:13:01,044 --> 01:13:02,543
without having to worry
about the--
2027
01:13:02,770 --> 01:13:04,379
- Falling in.
- Falling in and having to
2028
01:13:04,530 --> 01:13:06,196
put the seat down.
Just extra work.
2029
01:13:06,216 --> 01:13:07,607
- Yeah, that's my main thing,
2030
01:13:07,625 --> 01:13:09,458
'cause I've fallen
into some toilets.
2031
01:13:09,611 --> 01:13:10,459
- Gotcha.
2032
01:13:10,612 --> 01:13:12,553
- My first thought
is poop spray.
2033
01:13:12,705 --> 01:13:14,389
Straight-up poop spray
in the air.
2034
01:13:14,540 --> 01:13:16,039
Mm, funky.
- Jeez.
2035
01:13:16,134 --> 01:13:17,466
- All right. Cool.
2036
01:13:17,560 --> 01:13:20,469
[tense music]
2037
01:13:20,622 --> 01:13:22,138
♪ ♪
2038
01:13:22,290 --> 01:13:25,233
- Oh, hey!
- Hi!
2039
01:13:25,460 --> 01:13:27,293
- What's happening?
- What up? What up? What up?
2040
01:13:27,386 --> 01:13:29,311
- Damn, this should
be interesting.
2041
01:13:29,406 --> 01:13:31,313
I can't wait to see
what has been happening
2042
01:13:31,408 --> 01:13:34,224
with Chris and Alyssa.
2043
01:13:34,244 --> 01:13:37,728
I feel like Alyssa hasn't
really given him a fair shot,
2044
01:13:37,822 --> 01:13:39,247
so I'm not exactly sure
2045
01:13:39,398 --> 01:13:42,141
how or if their relationship's
progressed.
2046
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:43,809
- Haven't seen you guys
in a while.
2047
01:13:43,828 --> 01:13:45,144
- I know.
2048
01:13:45,163 --> 01:13:46,646
- Well, you still got
your tan from Puerto Rico.
2049
01:13:46,664 --> 01:13:47,830
- Yeah.
2050
01:13:47,924 --> 01:13:50,166
- This'll be my color
all summer at this point.
2051
01:13:50,318 --> 01:13:52,818
It's not gonna be easy
to share with them
2052
01:13:52,837 --> 01:13:55,838
that we have landed on divorce.
2053
01:13:55,990 --> 01:13:58,340
Right? Nobody's rooting
for this to fail.
2054
01:13:58,493 --> 01:14:00,059
♪ ♪
2055
01:14:01,271 --> 01:14:03,345
- How was everybody's visit
with Pastor Cal?
2056
01:14:03,498 --> 01:14:05,665
♪ ♪
2057
01:14:05,683 --> 01:14:09,259
- I learned to not talk
at somebody,
2058
01:14:09,279 --> 01:14:11,187
to talk with somebody.
2059
01:14:11,339 --> 01:14:13,005
It's more of just having
respect.
2060
01:14:13,024 --> 01:14:14,782
That's your wife.
2061
01:14:14,934 --> 01:14:17,510
- Yes. He's gotten better,
but Pastor Cal told him
2062
01:14:17,603 --> 01:14:19,195
he needs to watch
the way he talks.
2063
01:14:19,347 --> 01:14:21,180
♪ ♪
2064
01:14:21,199 --> 01:14:22,848
And what about me?
Nothing.
2065
01:14:22,867 --> 01:14:24,792
He didn't have nothing
to say about me.
2066
01:14:24,944 --> 01:14:26,869
- All right,
well, that says a lot.
2067
01:14:27,021 --> 01:14:28,537
- 'Cause you're the best.
2068
01:14:28,690 --> 01:14:29,538
♪ ♪
2069
01:14:29,632 --> 01:14:32,041
- I am the best.
2070
01:14:32,135 --> 01:14:33,634
Believe it, girl.
2071
01:14:33,786 --> 01:14:36,212
[laughter]
2072
01:14:36,306 --> 01:14:37,972
- I love Katina and O.
2073
01:14:38,123 --> 01:14:41,976
I think that they are
just so great together.
2074
01:14:42,127 --> 01:14:44,370
- When you do this head thing,
it's so funny to me.
2075
01:14:44,388 --> 01:14:46,555
Yeah.
- Yep.
2076
01:14:46,708 --> 01:14:49,208
- They're really not funny,
but they find each other funny,
2077
01:14:49,227 --> 01:14:51,319
so that's all that matters.
2078
01:14:51,470 --> 01:14:53,395
- Mike and Jasmina,
how you feel?
2079
01:14:53,548 --> 01:14:56,899
- For us, Pastor Cal came
and ripped us a new [bleep]...
2080
01:14:57,051 --> 01:14:58,400
♪ ♪
2081
01:14:58,495 --> 01:15:02,163
And basically asked us to,
like, leave things in the past.
2082
01:15:02,314 --> 01:15:05,741
And since we did that,
it's been fine.
2083
01:15:05,835 --> 01:15:07,001
- That's great.
2084
01:15:08,671 --> 01:15:10,654
- I read somewhere
a long time ago
2085
01:15:10,673 --> 01:15:12,823
that you can't have intimacy
with somebody
2086
01:15:12,842 --> 01:15:15,176
unless you've had conflict
with them first
2087
01:15:15,327 --> 01:15:18,161
because when you have conflict
and you learn how to resolve it
2088
01:15:18,181 --> 01:15:19,922
and respect
each other's boundaries,
2089
01:15:20,074 --> 01:15:21,423
then you can have intimacy.
2090
01:15:21,576 --> 01:15:23,851
♪ ♪
2091
01:15:24,003 --> 01:15:25,911
Why do you keep
rolling your eyes?
2092
01:15:25,930 --> 01:15:27,263
- I'm not trying to argue
with you on camera again.
2093
01:15:27,415 --> 01:15:28,430
You know not to talk
to me, girl.
2094
01:15:28,525 --> 01:15:29,431
Stay over there.
2095
01:15:29,584 --> 01:15:31,083
♪ ♪
2096
01:15:31,176 --> 01:15:32,676
- Don't let them
get you amped up.
2097
01:15:32,695 --> 01:15:34,511
- We don't need
any arguments tonight.
2098
01:15:34,531 --> 01:15:36,922
- That's okay. We can move on.
2099
01:15:36,941 --> 01:15:39,258
- It's awkward when Lindsey
has to be outspoken
2100
01:15:39,277 --> 01:15:41,018
to other people that I know
is gonna cause a fight.
2101
01:15:41,037 --> 01:15:42,853
These things don't
need to happen.
2102
01:15:42,947 --> 01:15:45,765
It's super uncomfortable.
2103
01:15:45,783 --> 01:15:48,601
♪ ♪
2104
01:15:48,694 --> 01:15:51,028
- Chris, what about you guys?
2105
01:15:51,047 --> 01:15:53,122
- You or me?
- You.
2106
01:15:53,274 --> 01:15:54,364
- Okay.
2107
01:15:54,384 --> 01:15:57,293
When Pastor Cal came,
2108
01:15:57,445 --> 01:15:59,945
it was a tough conversation
for both of us.
2109
01:15:59,964 --> 01:16:02,890
♪ ♪
2110
01:16:03,042 --> 01:16:07,136
And we landed
on getting divorced.
2111
01:16:07,288 --> 01:16:08,729
♪ ♪
2112
01:16:12,643 --> 01:16:16,812
I think, at the end of the day,
us not being together,
2113
01:16:16,964 --> 01:16:19,632
I think, is what leads to
2114
01:16:19,725 --> 01:16:21,909
maximum happiness
for both of us.
2115
01:16:24,822 --> 01:16:26,806
♪ ♪
2116
01:16:26,824 --> 01:16:28,324
- I can't say
I didn't see it coming
2117
01:16:28,476 --> 01:16:30,734
because of the issues
that they were having.
2118
01:16:30,753 --> 01:16:33,070
But it is a bit
of a wake-up call.
2119
01:16:33,089 --> 01:16:34,814
You know, as me and my wife
2120
01:16:34,907 --> 01:16:36,999
are fresh off of a major issue
2121
01:16:37,151 --> 01:16:39,594
and then seeing this unfold
in front of us,
2122
01:16:39,821 --> 01:16:41,503
it's just sort of
a reality check,
2123
01:16:41,598 --> 01:16:44,657
knowing that this very well
could happen to us
2124
01:16:44,675 --> 01:16:47,751
if we don't tighten up
and work through our problems.
2125
01:16:47,770 --> 01:16:49,920
- I hate the situation
that we're in.
2126
01:16:49,939 --> 01:16:52,440
I wish it didn't happen.
2127
01:16:52,667 --> 01:16:54,333
But yeah, this was
super real for me,
2128
01:16:54,352 --> 01:16:56,277
so it's hard to talk about.
2129
01:16:58,522 --> 01:17:01,190
I know that I tried my best.
2130
01:17:01,342 --> 01:17:03,859
♪ ♪
2131
01:17:03,953 --> 01:17:05,861
[breathes deeply]
2132
01:17:06,013 --> 01:17:08,864
♪ ♪
2133
01:17:08,958 --> 01:17:10,532
[sniffles]
2134
01:17:10,685 --> 01:17:12,793
♪ ♪
2135
01:17:12,945 --> 01:17:15,537
I just wanted this really bad.
[sniffles]
2136
01:17:15,690 --> 01:17:19,375
♪ ♪
2137
01:17:19,527 --> 01:17:22,119
- Alyssa said that she put in
the same amount of effort.
2138
01:17:22,138 --> 01:17:23,620
I don't think she did.
2139
01:17:23,640 --> 01:17:25,622
I put in a lot of effort
into my marriage,
2140
01:17:25,642 --> 01:17:27,883
so for her to say she made
same effort as everybody else,
2141
01:17:27,977 --> 01:17:29,960
I don't agree with that.
2142
01:17:29,979 --> 01:17:31,628
Chris has put his heart
out there.
2143
01:17:31,722 --> 01:17:34,056
And I feel so bad for the man.
2144
01:17:34,208 --> 01:17:36,317
- I love all of you.
2145
01:17:36,468 --> 01:17:38,301
I want to see you
go four-for-four.
2146
01:17:38,321 --> 01:17:39,895
- Cheers to that.
2147
01:17:40,047 --> 01:17:41,714
All: Cheers.
2148
01:17:41,807 --> 01:17:43,491
- I mean, I'm surprised
that Alyssa
2149
01:17:43,642 --> 01:17:45,050
even came on the honeymoon
2150
01:17:45,069 --> 01:17:48,237
or stayed there that long,
because she was never in it.
2151
01:17:48,331 --> 01:17:51,223
But I guess the weather
was nicer in Puerto Rico
2152
01:17:51,316 --> 01:17:52,741
than it was here in Boston.
2153
01:17:52,835 --> 01:17:55,744
[dramatic music]
2154
01:17:55,897 --> 01:17:56,504
♪ ♪
2155
01:18:00,343 --> 01:18:03,252
[tense music]
2156
01:18:03,404 --> 01:18:04,920
♪ ♪
2157
01:18:05,014 --> 01:18:06,013
[bowling pins clatter]
2158
01:18:18,936 --> 01:18:21,420
- You shouldn't have said that.
Like, it's awkward.
2159
01:18:21,513 --> 01:18:22,345
I feel awkward when you do that.
2160
01:18:22,440 --> 01:18:24,106
- Okay, so you don't think
2161
01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:26,016
that this woman making eyes
and rolling her eyes--
2162
01:18:26,035 --> 01:18:27,593
- I think that given
your history,
2163
01:18:27,611 --> 01:18:29,203
you shouldn't say anything.
It's gonna cause an argument.
2164
01:18:29,430 --> 01:18:30,596
- Okay, but, Mark,
who are you here for?
2165
01:18:30,614 --> 01:18:31,688
- You.
That's why I said don't do it.
2166
01:18:31,708 --> 01:18:34,283
- Okay, what did I do
that upset you?
2167
01:18:34,377 --> 01:18:36,435
You literally watched
this woman act like a child
2168
01:18:36,528 --> 01:18:38,437
and roll her eyes
and guffaw at me.
2169
01:18:38,456 --> 01:18:39,455
- And then you had to jump in
and say,
2170
01:18:39,549 --> 01:18:40,864
"What are you rolling
your eyes for?"
2171
01:18:40,883 --> 01:18:42,274
- I said, yeah, "Why are you
rolling your eyes?"
2172
01:18:42,367 --> 01:18:43,718
- Right, but you know what
that's literally gonna do?
2173
01:18:43,869 --> 01:18:44,793
That tone is gonna piss her
off, and you pissed her off.
2174
01:18:44,946 --> 01:18:46,220
- I don't care.
- Okay.
2175
01:18:46,371 --> 01:18:47,463
- She was already pissed off,
based on her eye-rolling.
2176
01:18:47,615 --> 01:18:48,797
- But when I tell you
when we're together,
2177
01:18:48,950 --> 01:18:49,890
it makes me feel uncomfortable
when you do that.
2178
01:18:50,117 --> 01:18:51,208
Don't do that.
- Okay, but you know what,
2179
01:18:51,227 --> 01:18:52,393
I don't like to brush things
under the rug.
2180
01:18:52,544 --> 01:18:53,728
I like direct--
- Okay, well this is a team,
2181
01:18:53,879 --> 01:18:55,621
and if you can't get that,
this isn't gonna work.
2182
01:18:55,639 --> 01:18:57,547
- No, but you know what,
I'm being here for you
2183
01:18:57,567 --> 01:18:59,808
as a team during all your
[bleep] chaos.
2184
01:18:59,961 --> 01:19:01,810
♪ ♪
2185
01:19:01,904 --> 01:19:02,903
I'm not a team for you
2186
01:19:03,130 --> 01:19:04,905
when I put my [bleep]
hazmat suit on
2187
01:19:05,057 --> 01:19:06,556
and give up a day of work?
2188
01:19:06,576 --> 01:19:09,226
I'll hold it. You dump it.
- Okay.
2189
01:19:09,245 --> 01:19:10,652
- Oh.
2190
01:19:10,747 --> 01:19:12,062
What is this?
2191
01:19:12,081 --> 01:19:14,564
- Those are "90210" CDs.
2192
01:19:14,584 --> 01:19:16,233
- All right,
this is gonna be trash.
2193
01:19:16,252 --> 01:19:17,585
To help you move out
of your chaotic life?
2194
01:19:17,736 --> 01:19:19,086
- We're going in the past
right now.
2195
01:19:19,313 --> 01:19:20,737
- No, no, we're talking about
right now.
2196
01:19:20,757 --> 01:19:21,997
- Okay, I'm good. I'm good.
- You're asking about a team.
2197
01:19:22,149 --> 01:19:23,482
That's what I thought.
Walk away.
2198
01:19:23,501 --> 01:19:24,425
- Okay. Okay.
- Call your mom.
2199
01:19:24,576 --> 01:19:25,426
See if she can
let you in tonight.
2200
01:19:25,577 --> 01:19:27,002
- Have another drink.
2201
01:19:27,154 --> 01:19:29,154
♪ ♪
2202
01:19:29,173 --> 01:19:30,990
Oh, my God.
2203
01:19:31,008 --> 01:19:33,083
I just can't do this anymore.
2204
01:19:33,177 --> 01:19:35,344
[indistinct chatter]
2205
01:19:35,438 --> 01:19:38,755
♪ ♪
2206
01:19:38,775 --> 01:19:40,182
She can't let things
go sometimes.
2207
01:19:40,334 --> 01:19:42,943
She can't bury the hatchet
on something that happened.
2208
01:19:43,095 --> 01:19:45,428
She can't not speak up at times
2209
01:19:45,448 --> 01:19:47,597
when I feel like she should
walk away from things.
2210
01:19:47,691 --> 01:19:50,009
And I don't like this.
2211
01:19:50,102 --> 01:19:52,269
This isn't
what I want in a wife.
2212
01:19:52,288 --> 01:19:53,679
I can't fall in love with that.
2213
01:19:53,697 --> 01:19:55,864
♪ ♪
2214
01:19:55,958 --> 01:19:57,291
- Hey.
- Hey.
2215
01:20:01,280 --> 01:20:02,521
Super awkward.
2216
01:20:02,540 --> 01:20:03,798
You literally had to jump in
2217
01:20:03,949 --> 01:20:05,858
with someone that you had
an argument with prior to?
2218
01:20:05,876 --> 01:20:07,951
And I'm like, "You know
how it makes me feel."
2219
01:20:07,970 --> 01:20:09,786
Don't do that [bleep].
2220
01:20:09,806 --> 01:20:12,881
- It's a little bit of, like,
a impulse control thing.
2221
01:20:12,975 --> 01:20:13,974
- Yeah. Yeah.
2222
01:20:14,201 --> 01:20:15,551
- You gotta pick
and choose your battles.
2223
01:20:15,703 --> 01:20:16,626
- Yeah.
2224
01:20:16,646 --> 01:20:18,053
- And she picks
every one of them.
2225
01:20:18,205 --> 01:20:22,224
♪ ♪
2226
01:20:22,376 --> 01:20:23,317
- [sighs]
2227
01:20:51,013 --> 01:20:53,572
♪ ♪
2228
01:20:53,591 --> 01:20:55,850
- She gets like this
when she--I don't know,
2229
01:20:56,001 --> 01:20:56,925
she has a couple drinks,
I feel, too.
2230
01:20:57,078 --> 01:20:59,261
It heightens her confidence.
- Right.
2231
01:20:59,413 --> 01:21:00,412
- And I feel like
the whole group
2232
01:21:00,505 --> 01:21:01,580
could feel it the whole night.
2233
01:21:01,673 --> 01:21:02,764
Like, when she talked, I'm like,
2234
01:21:02,917 --> 01:21:04,099
"They're pissed 'cause
she won't shut up."
2235
01:21:04,251 --> 01:21:05,767
- Did you talk about this
with Pastor Cal at all?
2236
01:21:05,920 --> 01:21:06,935
- Yeah, Pastor Cal was like,
2237
01:21:07,088 --> 01:21:08,437
"Lindsey, your husband
can't talk to you.
2238
01:21:08,589 --> 01:21:09,771
He's afraid to talk to you."
2239
01:21:09,924 --> 01:21:11,848
And it's not that I'm afraid,
2240
01:21:11,868 --> 01:21:13,275
but I know
it's gonna cause a fight.
2241
01:21:13,427 --> 01:21:14,943
- Yeah.
2242
01:21:15,096 --> 01:21:17,872
- I feel like
I'm in this awkward situation
2243
01:21:18,023 --> 01:21:18,947
where I'm trying
to get to know her,
2244
01:21:19,100 --> 01:21:20,432
but we can't get
to know each other.
2245
01:21:20,525 --> 01:21:22,101
Like, I can't catch feelings.
2246
01:21:22,119 --> 01:21:23,952
I feel like, if she was like,
"I'm out," I'd be like, "okay."
2247
01:21:24,105 --> 01:21:29,008
♪ ♪
2248
01:21:51,482 --> 01:21:52,965
- I think she did--I think
she's done a great job
2249
01:21:52,983 --> 01:21:57,319
at trying to be very nurturing
in so many ways towards me.
2250
01:21:57,471 --> 01:22:00,247
But we just have
very different personalities.
2251
01:22:06,738 --> 01:22:07,813
What do you mean give them away?
2252
01:22:07,831 --> 01:22:09,548
- Is that her?
- Yeah.
2253
01:22:11,576 --> 01:22:12,718
- Oh, wow.
2254
01:22:45,186 --> 01:22:49,797
♪ ♪
2255
01:22:49,948 --> 01:22:51,707
[laughter]
2256
01:22:51,801 --> 01:22:54,117
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight"...
2257
01:22:54,136 --> 01:22:57,638
- ♪ You need a break
from your life ♪
2258
01:22:57,789 --> 01:22:59,531
- You work out?
- A little bit.
2259
01:22:59,624 --> 01:23:01,383
- I can tell. Can I touch?
- Yes.
2260
01:23:01,535 --> 01:23:02,625
- [smooches]
2261
01:23:02,645 --> 01:23:05,220
If there wasn't sushi here,
I'd kiss you.
2262
01:23:05,372 --> 01:23:08,207
- Do you think you are
beginning to fall in love?
2263
01:23:08,300 --> 01:23:09,891
- So no,
love is not on the table.
2264
01:23:09,986 --> 01:23:11,727
[dramatic music]
2265
01:23:11,879 --> 01:23:12,711
- Just because we're married,
2266
01:23:12,804 --> 01:23:15,063
it doesn't mean it's gonna work.
2267
01:23:15,216 --> 01:23:16,991
- I'm telling you to help me.
- Calm down.
2268
01:23:17,218 --> 01:23:19,568
- I didn't expect it
to take a left turn.
2269
01:23:19,720 --> 01:23:21,478
- You say to me I say things
that make you hurt,
2270
01:23:21,497 --> 01:23:22,904
and you say stuff that annoys
the [bleep] out of me.
2271
01:23:22,999 --> 01:23:24,498
- Okay, well--
- But you're not aware of it.
2272
01:23:24,649 --> 01:23:25,891
- Uh-uh. I'm done putting
myself second.
2273
01:23:25,909 --> 01:23:27,726
Now I'm first.
Now you gotta earn me.
2274
01:23:27,745 --> 01:23:29,244
- When we talk
about a wife level...
2275
01:23:29,338 --> 01:23:30,671
- I know, and I--
2276
01:23:30,898 --> 01:23:32,564
- I need to see
where you are as a woman.
2277
01:23:32,657 --> 01:23:34,341
- You know what, I need a break.
2278
01:23:34,493 --> 01:23:36,585
It just makes me feel bad.
2279
01:23:36,737 --> 01:23:39,179
♪ ♪