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- Getting married
to a stranger is crazy.
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- Please stand.
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- Once upon a time,
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ten singles
took a brave leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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- Hi, I'm Lindsey.
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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[cheering and applause]
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- We got married, it's official.
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I got the ring on my hand.
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- Last time, our couples were
honeymooning in Puerto Rico.
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- ♪ It was a midnight
summer dream ♪
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- Noi and Steve.
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- He makes me
feel secure with him.
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He would do anything, I think,
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to make me feel safe and loved.
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- ♪ Locked in
like a pageant queen ♪
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- Jasmina and Michael.
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- ♪ Moving heads
like a movie scene ♪
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- We have had, like,
our ups and downs,
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so communication is
definitely something that
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we still need to work on
in this marriage.
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- Lindsey and Mark.
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- I feel so bad for my husband.
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He is currently being
browbeaten by his landlord,
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and he is busy with me
trying to get to know me.
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I'm a little bit of a mama bear.
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- Okay.
- I don't like what I've seen.
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- Okay.
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♪ ♪
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- Katina and Olajuwon.
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- I'm like 98% that we'll
be smooth when we go back,
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but there's a little
2% that's like--it worries me.
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[tense music]
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- Alyssa and Chris.
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- My thought was that
you could move into
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the apartment
for the first half.
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And then I could move in
in the second half.
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- That's not something
I'm interested in.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight, the honeymoon
is officially over,
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and real life is about to begin.
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- I never welcomed
a woman in my home
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like I'm doing with you.
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- This is Yoshi,
Jim, and Michael.
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- If we were just boyfriend
and girlfriend and not married,
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living in the same place,
you wouldn't tell me
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that you lived with
the opposite sex?
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You've been aggressive,
you've been yelling.
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- So why would yell at you--
- All right, so I'm a liar now.
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- What about this thing about
him requiring you to cook?
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- I don't deal with men who
speak to me disrespectfully.
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- This is something that I...
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- You won't compromise.
- No.
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- I'm so insulted
and offended by you.
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You're [bleep] clueless,
and it makes me so mad.
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- Alyssa has no interest
in being married to me.
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- I just feel like I worked
so hard to get here.
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- For me...
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[dramatic music]
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This is my Decision Day.
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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[mellow music]
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♪ ♪
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- So we're leaving Puerto Rico!
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- Whoo!
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- ♪ Girl, you got me
hangin' on a lie ♪
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- We are at the airport,
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and we're getting ready
to go home,
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and we feel very sad inside,
but you can't see.
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- But the good news is
we get to move in together.
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- Ugh, same.
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- You still happy?
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- Yeah, you?
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- Yeah.
- Okay.
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All right.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ I like hip-hop music ♪
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♪ You like
it 'cause you choose it ♪
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♪ Most DJs don't refuse it ♪
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- Oh my gosh, it's so cute!
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- Ooh, they want us
to make babies.
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- ♪ Hey, I like hip-hop
music ♪
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- We provided each couple
with a neutral apartment
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in the same complex to make sure
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they're entering this marriage
on equal grounds.
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♪ You like it
'cause you choose it ♪
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- Oh my God, it's so pretty.
- Ooh!
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- Because moving in together
is a big step
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for any relationship,
but especially our newlyweds.
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So in addition,
we the experts will be
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coming to help them
out along the way.
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- This is home.
- That's true.
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Look at that pool.
- I know.
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- Because before they know it,
they're going to have
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to make the biggest
decision of their lives,
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to stay married
or get a divorce.
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- I love it.
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- Yeah, it's nice.
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Can't believe this is our home.
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- ♪ I like hip-hop music ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Oh, you know
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what I would love?
- What?
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- To put your dirty
laundry in the wash.
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Do you want to give me the bag?
- What happened?
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- You wanna give me
the bag of your dirty laundry
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and I'll throw it in.
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- Yep.
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- Being together non-stop
for this whole week
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has been a lot,
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but at the same time,
I really appreciate
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the fact
that she's very nurturing
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and such a caregiver,
and the fact that, like,
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she's always
gonna be there for me.
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It's just something new
that I've never had before.
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- Oh, I should have gotten
you a water bottle at my house.
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I'm going to get you
one tomorrow so we can
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start the sustainability.
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- Oh boy.
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- You can have a Hydro Flask,
a Nalgene.
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I got 32 ounces,
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I got 24 ounces,
I got 12 ounces.
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I'll buy you a gallon
if you want a gallon.
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- Thank you.
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- To be honest, I just wanna
wash my face and go to bed.
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- Okay.
We have a big day tomorrow.
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We gotta go into my apartment
and get a few basic things.
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It's kind of a mess.
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- Okay, that makes sense.
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Okay, I'm getting
to the bathroom part.
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- I'm just hoping for
all the emotions of moving in
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and living together
won't be too much because
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she's a little much,
24 hours a day.
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But at least
I'll never get bored.
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[sighs]
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♪ ♪
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[laughter]
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- I didn't even laugh,
and you got that
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scary [bleep] laugh, here we go.
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- What?
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- You're supposed to be
relaxed at the nighttime.
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- It's way too hot.
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- Okay, sweetheart, stop movin',
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you're movin' too much.
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Can you stop movin'?
It's like 100 degrees in here.
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- Shh, your volume, here.
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Bring it down here, thank you.
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- Well, I mean,
you're moving around.
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You're, like,
trying to, like, go to bed.
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- Shh, shh...
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- [whispering]
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- Shh, shh...
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- You sound like
you're hyperventilatin'.
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It doesn't even sound normal.
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- I love that Mark
makes me laugh before bed.
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- Is this what you're gonna
do every night before bed?
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- I think him and I will laugh
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for the rest
of our lives together,
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and I'm really
looking forward to that.
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- Okay, okay,
we need to go to bed.
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We have a big day tomorrow.
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- Oh my God,
I'm not looking forward to it.
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♪ ♪
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- Uh-oh, now, this is
where the magic truly,
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truly, is gonna happen.
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Look, they even start you
off with a little tray.
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The experts must've heard you.
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- They got all the pots
and pans and stuff.
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- Oh man,
so you really got no excuse.
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When you goin' shopping?
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- For me personally,
living with my husband
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is going to be an adjustment.
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I've never
lived with a boy before.
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This is our home now.
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- So let's just act it out--
Go over there, right?
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Go near the--near the oven.
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I'm gonna sit right like this.
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- What am I acting out?
What am I saying,
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"Baby, want some breakfast?"
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Want some bacon or sausage?
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- I'm just tryin'
to get an image of this.
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- Do you
want some bacon or sausage?
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- This is a lifetime commitment
thing so, you know what I mean,
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I'm tryin' to get
a few visuals of this.
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Mm, mm, mm, mm.
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- I'm so used to going out
to eat and, like,
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doing what I want and just
feeding myself that way,
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but he's made it very clear
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that he wants home-cooked
meals consistently,
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every single day.
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He just keeps, literally,
drilling it in my mind.
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- I'm used to living
by myself so, like,
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for me in the morning,
it's easy for me to just
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grab peanut butter
and bread and just go.
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- Mm-hmm.
- But I have a wife now,
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so I know I can't do that.
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I'm gonna be all on your back.
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7:00--
- You're gonna be texting me
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like, "What are you
making when I get home?"
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- No I ain't doin' that,
I'm just going to expect--
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I'm just gonna open the door.
- A surprise?
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You're gonna expect a hot meal?
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- Mm-hmm.
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- I promise to put
my best foot forward
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when making sure
you're well-fed every day.
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- That's a good deal,
that's a good deal.
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- This is the most
pressure I've ever felt
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in a relationship,
This is a lot.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Yeah, I know
you're feelin' ♪
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- Is this bed
tall enough for you?
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- [chuckles]
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- Tall enough? Yeah,
I think--yeah.
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You know what,
after we're done packing,
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let's take some
of the pillows out...
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- We should test it out again.
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- See that my head
and toes can fit on both.
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- I'm just, like,
thinking of you now.
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There's a part of me
that's nervous about
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living with someone
that I barely know.
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I don't know how my husband
will want to live
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and, you know,
I don't know if my quirks
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will go well with his,
so it's always nerve wracking.
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- Okay.
- It looks like you fit so far.
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- My feet officially fit.
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- Let's check.
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- Are we good?
- You, like, barely fit.
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I mean, you can talk
about the person that you are,
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but day to day, like,
is that actually who you are?
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I think we're good.
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And then Sushi
can sleep right here.
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- Just snuggled up
right between us.
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- We'll never be able to cuddle.
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- Could we get him
a little foot--
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A little foot bed or something,
you know?
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Maybe--maybe...
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- No, he's gonna wanna
sleep right here next to me.
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- He'll wanna be right up and...
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- He might sleep on the pillow.
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- Like, he used to being
right in your face?
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- Mm-hmm.
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He'll probably sleep
on this pillow too.
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He may need his own pillow.
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- The good thing is
it's a fresh move in, right?
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So if there's any time
that he may need to make
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some adjustments,
this is like, you know,
252
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the start or something.
253
00:09:51,074 --> 00:09:52,982
Even if we built a little
something right here,
254
00:09:53,001 --> 00:09:54,667
maybe, he could just be
still right up in your face.
255
00:09:54,820 --> 00:09:56,669
- No, he needs to be on the bed.
256
00:09:56,763 --> 00:09:58,096
- It's gonna be tough.
257
00:09:58,247 --> 00:10:00,340
I don't think
the matchmakers mentioned this,
258
00:10:00,434 --> 00:10:03,918
but let me see what he looks
like and what he smells like.
259
00:10:04,012 --> 00:10:05,604
- He smells lovely.
260
00:10:07,441 --> 00:10:10,516
- ♪ I'm gonna go out,
I'm gonna be up late tonight ♪
261
00:10:10,669 --> 00:10:11,776
♪ Don't sleep now ♪
262
00:10:20,454 --> 00:10:21,769
- Alyssa has already
made the decision
263
00:10:21,863 --> 00:10:24,605
not to move into the apartment.
264
00:10:24,625 --> 00:10:27,125
For me, it's all or nothing.
265
00:10:27,352 --> 00:10:29,185
So I'm moving into the apartment
266
00:10:29,278 --> 00:10:31,688
because I had always planned to.
267
00:10:31,706 --> 00:10:34,374
I've packed so that I would be
moving into the apartment,
268
00:10:34,468 --> 00:10:36,784
and that's what I committed
to from the beginning.
269
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[edgy music]
270
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♪ ♪
271
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I'm stuck.
To this day,
272
00:10:46,538 --> 00:10:48,705
hearing through the grapevine,
occasionally,
273
00:10:48,798 --> 00:10:50,315
things that might be the reasons
274
00:10:50,466 --> 00:10:52,150
why she thinks
we're incompatible,
275
00:10:52,301 --> 00:10:56,562
from tattoos
to political views...
276
00:10:56,715 --> 00:10:59,140
- ♪ So who am I
playing games ♪
277
00:10:59,159 --> 00:11:00,717
- And these are all
someone told someone,
278
00:11:00,810 --> 00:11:02,402
and it eventually
kind of gets back to me,
279
00:11:02,554 --> 00:11:04,554
and I'm wondering
if it's even true or not.
280
00:11:04,572 --> 00:11:06,981
And she says
if I hear something,
281
00:11:07,075 --> 00:11:09,726
I should go to her and talk to
her and ask her about it.
282
00:11:09,819 --> 00:11:11,077
I don't know how to meet her.
283
00:11:11,229 --> 00:11:13,579
I don't even have
her phone number.
284
00:11:13,732 --> 00:11:16,399
- ♪ Said it makes it
dangerous... ♪
285
00:11:16,418 --> 00:11:17,842
- I'm gonna sit back.
286
00:11:18,069 --> 00:11:19,678
I'm gonna let her take
the lead on this one.
287
00:11:19,905 --> 00:11:22,238
And I'm here when
she's ready to let me know
288
00:11:22,257 --> 00:11:23,330
what's going on between us.
289
00:11:23,425 --> 00:11:25,183
- ♪ Between Mars and Venus ♪
290
00:11:27,020 --> 00:11:29,503
♪ All this questioning,
second guessing, boy ♪
291
00:11:29,597 --> 00:11:31,106
♪ Are you in this with me ♪
292
00:11:32,267 --> 00:11:33,525
- How are you feeling about us?
293
00:11:33,676 --> 00:11:35,026
Like, in the honeymoon
we seen a lot of each other.
294
00:11:35,253 --> 00:11:36,936
- Mm-hmm.
If we're living together,
295
00:11:37,088 --> 00:11:38,588
we're gonna see a lot
of each other as well.
296
00:11:38,681 --> 00:11:40,273
- Yeah.
- Are you worried about that?
297
00:11:40,367 --> 00:11:42,701
Are you nervous about that?
What are your thoughts?
298
00:11:42,928 --> 00:11:46,262
- Just like living
with a man every day...
299
00:11:46,281 --> 00:11:48,206
I mean, my current roommate
is a guy,
300
00:11:48,433 --> 00:11:50,375
so I'm used to living
with a man every day.
301
00:11:50,602 --> 00:11:53,211
The only difference is
we go to our own bedrooms.
302
00:11:53,438 --> 00:11:54,604
- Mm-hmm.
303
00:11:54,697 --> 00:11:56,030
- Yeah, well,
I mean, what about you?
304
00:11:56,124 --> 00:11:57,290
Have you
ever lived with a woman?
305
00:11:57,442 --> 00:11:58,624
I can't remember you
saying if you did or not.
306
00:11:58,777 --> 00:12:00,610
- No, never--never.
307
00:12:00,628 --> 00:12:02,971
That's new territory for me.
308
00:12:05,133 --> 00:12:06,373
- So you're staying here
tonight?
309
00:12:06,393 --> 00:12:09,135
- Yeah, I'll be here tonight.
310
00:12:09,287 --> 00:12:11,563
- Yeah.
311
00:12:11,714 --> 00:12:14,457
I need to find
a new doggy daycare.
312
00:12:14,476 --> 00:12:16,642
Like, you can't just
put your child into any school.
313
00:12:16,737 --> 00:12:18,311
- Right, right, right.
314
00:12:18,463 --> 00:12:22,482
- So I'll just be figuring out
Feeny's school situation,
315
00:12:22,634 --> 00:12:25,893
so I think it would be good
to have some time
316
00:12:25,912 --> 00:12:28,329
to myself,
get back in a normal routine...
317
00:12:30,250 --> 00:12:31,975
Instead of jumping,
like, right back into it
318
00:12:31,993 --> 00:12:34,160
without having a clear head.
319
00:12:34,312 --> 00:12:37,071
♪ ♪
320
00:12:37,090 --> 00:12:38,481
- I think you taking time away--
321
00:12:38,574 --> 00:12:40,258
I think it's just not healthy.
322
00:12:40,409 --> 00:12:42,335
It'll just be--
It's not--it's not a good way
323
00:12:42,429 --> 00:12:43,928
to start our marriage.
324
00:12:45,581 --> 00:12:47,915
Every time you have
some type of disagreement,
325
00:12:47,934 --> 00:12:51,085
I wouldn't want us to go
somewhere else to go to sleep.
326
00:12:51,104 --> 00:12:53,346
We wouldn't want this
to just be like a...
327
00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:56,441
something that we always do
when things get rough,
328
00:12:56,592 --> 00:13:00,186
because this is a marriage, and
we have to figure things out.
329
00:13:00,338 --> 00:13:02,005
- Me not moving in for
the first couple of days
330
00:13:02,023 --> 00:13:03,172
is not because I need space.
331
00:13:03,191 --> 00:13:06,009
It's to figure out
things with Feeny.
332
00:13:06,102 --> 00:13:07,786
But it's just good
that there's space.
333
00:13:08,013 --> 00:13:10,513
- I'm just hoping
when we do see each other
334
00:13:10,606 --> 00:13:13,699
that we start off
on a great foot.
335
00:13:13,852 --> 00:13:18,779
♪ ♪
336
00:13:18,799 --> 00:13:21,949
- This is not what
I envisioned day one
337
00:13:21,968 --> 00:13:24,469
back in Boston to look like
after getting married.
338
00:13:24,696 --> 00:13:26,971
I know that Feeny
is very important to her,
339
00:13:27,123 --> 00:13:29,215
but at the end the day,
I'm not sure if that's
340
00:13:29,367 --> 00:13:31,476
the real reason
all this is happening.
341
00:13:31,703 --> 00:13:33,144
- Keep the house clean.
- I'll try.
342
00:13:37,133 --> 00:13:38,724
- ♪ We ♪
♪ ♪
343
00:13:38,877 --> 00:13:42,061
♪ will never be the same ♪
344
00:13:42,155 --> 00:13:43,379
♪ ♪
345
00:13:43,398 --> 00:13:44,972
- Good morning.
346
00:13:45,066 --> 00:13:47,826
It's our first morning
waking up in our new apartment.
347
00:13:51,723 --> 00:13:53,164
- The time that our
couples spend together
348
00:13:53,316 --> 00:13:55,058
in the first days
after moving into
349
00:13:55,076 --> 00:13:57,410
their shared apartments
is extremely important.
350
00:13:57,562 --> 00:13:59,078
- I'm still really tired.
351
00:13:59,172 --> 00:14:00,413
[laughing]
352
00:14:00,565 --> 00:14:01,989
- This is a unique
window of time
353
00:14:02,083 --> 00:14:04,584
that reveals how they each
function in the real world.
354
00:14:04,678 --> 00:14:06,845
- I was knocked out
last night and he told me
355
00:14:07,072 --> 00:14:08,638
that I was talking
in my sleep so...
356
00:14:10,684 --> 00:14:12,592
- They will begin to see
each other's daily habits,
357
00:14:12,686 --> 00:14:15,019
their quirks, and exactly
what they need to do
358
00:14:15,171 --> 00:14:17,338
to blend their lives together
as husband and wife.
359
00:14:17,357 --> 00:14:19,190
[water running]
360
00:14:19,342 --> 00:14:21,693
- Huh, that's interesting.
361
00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:23,361
You move your head,
not the brush.
362
00:14:23,512 --> 00:14:24,604
You're all like, grrr!
363
00:14:24,698 --> 00:14:28,015
[laughing]
364
00:14:28,109 --> 00:14:32,929
Mark brushes his teeth like
Mark the Shark, go get 'em!
365
00:14:32,947 --> 00:14:34,780
[laughing]
366
00:14:34,933 --> 00:14:37,041
- It's not wrong,
it's just--it's different.
367
00:14:39,362 --> 00:14:41,362
- Couples who don't
move in together will face
368
00:14:41,381 --> 00:14:42,955
a much more
difficult road ahead.
369
00:14:43,108 --> 00:14:44,624
And the more time
they spend apart,
370
00:14:44,776 --> 00:14:46,867
the more difficult it will be
371
00:14:46,961 --> 00:14:48,794
to build a foundation
for a long-lasting marriage.
372
00:14:48,889 --> 00:14:51,538
But we can't force
anyone to do anything.
373
00:14:51,558 --> 00:14:53,707
We can only hope
that they realize
374
00:14:53,727 --> 00:14:55,894
that the distance hurts
more than it helps
375
00:14:56,045 --> 00:14:57,970
before it's too late.
376
00:14:58,123 --> 00:15:00,456
♪ ♪
377
00:15:00,549 --> 00:15:02,883
- ♪ I'm about to so yeah ♪
378
00:15:02,903 --> 00:15:05,570
♪ Know ya, tell you
what to... ♪
379
00:15:05,721 --> 00:15:07,071
- Welcome to my house.
380
00:15:07,298 --> 00:15:08,147
- I finally
get to see your home.
381
00:15:08,241 --> 00:15:09,890
- Yes, yes, yes.
382
00:15:09,910 --> 00:15:12,802
- Our couples have been
married for just over a week.
383
00:15:12,820 --> 00:15:13,745
- Hey!
- Hey.
384
00:15:13,896 --> 00:15:15,062
- How are ya?
385
00:15:15,081 --> 00:15:16,472
- They learned a lot
about each other
386
00:15:16,491 --> 00:15:17,916
during the honeymoon,
387
00:15:18,143 --> 00:15:20,752
but nobody knows better
than I do
388
00:15:20,979 --> 00:15:22,478
that visiting
their spouse's home
389
00:15:22,497 --> 00:15:24,589
could reveal so much more
390
00:15:24,816 --> 00:15:26,907
about the stranger
they just married.
391
00:15:26,927 --> 00:15:29,427
- ♪ Once upon a time
we thought we had it all ♪
392
00:15:29,578 --> 00:15:32,321
♪ We'd never grow old ♪
393
00:15:32,340 --> 00:15:33,765
♪ For sure ♪
394
00:15:34,768 --> 00:15:35,841
[knocking at door]
395
00:15:35,936 --> 00:15:37,584
- Who's that?
396
00:15:37,604 --> 00:15:39,086
Hi!
- Hey.
397
00:15:39,105 --> 00:15:40,438
- How's it going?
- It's going.
398
00:15:41,683 --> 00:15:43,182
- Come on in--oh...
399
00:15:43,276 --> 00:15:44,925
This is Sushi.
400
00:15:44,945 --> 00:15:47,445
It's so important that
my dog Sushi loves Steve,
401
00:15:47,672 --> 00:15:49,113
because if
they didn't get along,
402
00:15:49,340 --> 00:15:51,841
that would
get in the way of our marriage.
403
00:15:51,859 --> 00:15:56,345
So I'm hoping that they
fall in love at first sight.
404
00:15:56,364 --> 00:15:58,081
Sushi has like two,
three beds in here.
405
00:15:59,608 --> 00:16:02,293
So this is his bed, that's
his bed, this is also his bed.
406
00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,370
- And then the main bed too?
- Yeah.
407
00:16:04,522 --> 00:16:05,521
- It's pretty much his house?
408
00:16:05,540 --> 00:16:06,947
- It's Sushi's house.
409
00:16:07,041 --> 00:16:09,133
Do you want to hold sushi?
410
00:16:09,285 --> 00:16:10,635
- Yeah, sure.
- Okay.
411
00:16:10,786 --> 00:16:12,695
- Here, let me get comfortable.
412
00:16:12,714 --> 00:16:14,138
Hi, Sushi.
413
00:16:14,290 --> 00:16:15,974
- Be gentle, he's old.
414
00:16:17,477 --> 00:16:18,977
- Hi.
415
00:16:19,128 --> 00:16:21,646
[Sushi whines]
416
00:16:24,484 --> 00:16:27,059
- So, is this dog
currently house trained?
417
00:16:27,153 --> 00:16:28,711
- Yeah, he is.
418
00:16:28,730 --> 00:16:29,729
- Okay, so we shouldn't
expect the new apartment...
419
00:16:29,823 --> 00:16:30,971
- Oh, no.
420
00:16:30,991 --> 00:16:33,049
- Okay.
- No, definitely not.
421
00:16:33,067 --> 00:16:36,402
- 'Cause that is something
I have a hard time with.
422
00:16:36,554 --> 00:16:37,903
But...
- Oh! [laughs]
423
00:16:37,998 --> 00:16:39,831
- Not--not--you know,
I feel like I'll have to
424
00:16:39,982 --> 00:16:42,333
just get used to picking it up,
because my brother has a dog,
425
00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:44,485
and the last time
I just felt like...
426
00:16:44,579 --> 00:16:47,154
it was just really hard for me
to put the bag on the hand.
427
00:16:47,248 --> 00:16:49,915
- Well, he does poop, and we
do need to pick up his poop.
428
00:16:50,010 --> 00:16:51,509
- Yeah.
429
00:16:53,346 --> 00:16:55,829
Yeah, it makes me a bit
nauseous picking up the,
430
00:16:55,849 --> 00:16:57,757
you know,
picking up after a dog.
431
00:16:57,909 --> 00:17:00,351
I've watched my brother's dog,
and I had a hard time with it.
432
00:17:00,578 --> 00:17:02,428
It might just take
a little getting used to.
433
00:17:02,522 --> 00:17:04,856
Are you going to bring
all three beds for sushi,
434
00:17:05,007 --> 00:17:06,858
or are you going to give,
you know--
435
00:17:07,009 --> 00:17:09,176
Does he have a favorite?
436
00:17:09,195 --> 00:17:12,255
- Well, I'll bring
that bed for sushi,
437
00:17:12,348 --> 00:17:14,014
and then he'll sleep in our bed.
438
00:17:14,034 --> 00:17:16,259
[light music]
439
00:17:16,277 --> 00:17:19,019
And then he probably
will sleep on the couch too.
440
00:17:19,039 --> 00:17:21,205
- So what's the orange
bed's purpose then?
441
00:17:21,432 --> 00:17:23,357
- Just when
he wants his privacy.
442
00:17:23,376 --> 00:17:26,102
- Yeah, having
the option to have a bed,
443
00:17:26,120 --> 00:17:29,196
but not--but, yeah, okay.
444
00:17:29,290 --> 00:17:32,108
And you don't think--you don't
think if we put that bed
445
00:17:32,126 --> 00:17:34,052
close to our bed,
eventually he'll be like,
446
00:17:34,279 --> 00:17:35,628
you know what,
it's just more comfortable
447
00:17:35,780 --> 00:17:38,297
for everyone involved
if I just sleep here?
448
00:17:38,449 --> 00:17:40,391
- He just likes to be near me,
449
00:17:40,543 --> 00:17:42,468
and he'll want to sleep with us.
450
00:17:42,562 --> 00:17:44,136
♪ ♪
451
00:17:44,230 --> 00:17:45,563
- Gotcha.
452
00:17:47,475 --> 00:17:49,049
- Is that okay?
453
00:17:49,143 --> 00:17:50,793
- Um, it should be.
454
00:17:50,886 --> 00:17:52,904
Um, we'll find out shortly.
455
00:17:53,798 --> 00:17:57,742
♪ ♪
456
00:17:57,969 --> 00:17:59,744
- ♪ What are you
waiting for? ♪
457
00:17:59,971 --> 00:18:01,245
♪ Keep coming
back for more like ♪
458
00:18:01,397 --> 00:18:02,822
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
459
00:18:02,916 --> 00:18:07,585
♪ ♪
460
00:18:09,647 --> 00:18:11,255
- Are we touching things?
Do we need gloves?
461
00:18:11,407 --> 00:18:14,074
- No--no,
I'm not touching anything.
462
00:18:14,094 --> 00:18:16,836
I mean, I'm just gonna
go through clothes into a bag
463
00:18:16,988 --> 00:18:18,504
and throw sneakers into a bag,
and that's it.
464
00:18:18,598 --> 00:18:20,489
- I mean, technically,
unless you're using magical
465
00:18:20,508 --> 00:18:23,492
telekinetic powers to move
the things into the bag,
466
00:18:23,586 --> 00:18:25,085
I believe
there's hands involved.
467
00:18:25,179 --> 00:18:27,346
- I feel a little embarrassed
because there was like
468
00:18:27,498 --> 00:18:29,256
a bedbug situation
in my whole apartment.
469
00:18:29,350 --> 00:18:31,091
So it's kind of a mess.
470
00:18:31,185 --> 00:18:33,018
It was very clean and ready to
go prior to the wedding day,
471
00:18:33,113 --> 00:18:35,596
and then it's kind
of like all torn apart.
472
00:18:35,615 --> 00:18:38,282
So I'll feel better
once we leave this place,
473
00:18:38,509 --> 00:18:39,617
'cause it's kind of
a hot mess up there.
474
00:18:39,768 --> 00:18:40,860
Okay, you ready?
475
00:18:41,012 --> 00:18:44,013
- Ride or die.
- Okay. Okay.
476
00:18:44,106 --> 00:18:45,772
- If I get bed bug bites...
477
00:18:45,792 --> 00:18:48,793
oof, I'm gonna want so much
TLC from you.
478
00:18:48,944 --> 00:18:50,019
- Okay, done.
479
00:18:50,112 --> 00:18:52,130
- I will be very, very honest.
480
00:18:52,281 --> 00:18:54,023
Bed bugs are one of
my biggest fears
481
00:18:54,041 --> 00:18:55,949
because I have had them
from traveling,
482
00:18:56,043 --> 00:18:58,261
and it still haunts me.
483
00:19:01,957 --> 00:19:03,032
Thank you, thank you.
484
00:19:03,125 --> 00:19:05,718
- Yeah, so this is my apartment.
485
00:19:05,812 --> 00:19:07,461
[light music]
486
00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:10,631
Not how it usually is,
but typically I had a couch
487
00:19:10,725 --> 00:19:14,301
over here, and I would watch
movies at night over here.
488
00:19:14,395 --> 00:19:17,471
- The thought of possibly
bringing bugs into our new home
489
00:19:17,565 --> 00:19:19,139
is freaking me out.
490
00:19:19,233 --> 00:19:21,617
- And this is the kitchen.
491
00:19:22,811 --> 00:19:24,403
- I'm a little freaked out.
492
00:19:24,555 --> 00:19:26,664
- My Keurig, my Foreman Grill.
493
00:19:26,891 --> 00:19:28,240
- We're
getting rid of the Keurig.
494
00:19:28,334 --> 00:19:29,667
Too much plastic--it's not
good for the environment.
495
00:19:29,894 --> 00:19:31,151
- See,
I have all these dishes that,
496
00:19:31,245 --> 00:19:33,229
like, I never really use.
497
00:19:33,247 --> 00:19:35,398
I don't really use anything
but just one plate.
498
00:19:35,416 --> 00:19:38,325
This is from my parents' house,
so I kept the set
499
00:19:38,344 --> 00:19:39,902
and I just brought it up,
but I usually just use one
500
00:19:39,921 --> 00:19:41,253
and wash it and put it back.
501
00:19:41,347 --> 00:19:44,073
- All right, let me ask you,
does it spark joy?
502
00:19:44,091 --> 00:19:45,832
When you hold that, do you
feel good, do you love it?
503
00:19:45,852 --> 00:19:47,243
- No, no.
- Then get rid of it.
504
00:19:47,261 --> 00:19:48,352
Donate it, and we'll get you
something that does.
505
00:19:48,579 --> 00:19:50,596
- Okay, let me
show you the bedroom
506
00:19:50,690 --> 00:19:52,005
that doesn't look like
it used to look but...
507
00:19:52,099 --> 00:19:53,691
- Okay.
- Okay.
508
00:19:55,195 --> 00:19:56,819
So...
509
00:19:58,698 --> 00:20:03,684
Used to have big bed over
here and TV I haven't used.
510
00:20:03,703 --> 00:20:05,778
- All right, let's do this.
I'll hold it, you dump it.
511
00:20:05,930 --> 00:20:07,112
- Okay.
512
00:20:07,207 --> 00:20:08,539
- Boom.
513
00:20:10,117 --> 00:20:12,710
Let's bag it and double it.
514
00:20:14,288 --> 00:20:15,546
Are any of these pieces
of furniture valuable to you?
515
00:20:15,773 --> 00:20:17,215
- No.
- Then get rid of all of 'em.
516
00:20:17,366 --> 00:20:18,365
Like, get rid of all that.
517
00:20:18,459 --> 00:20:20,176
Was this your mom's?
518
00:20:21,612 --> 00:20:23,054
- Nope, that's all my--
That's all my baseballs
519
00:20:23,205 --> 00:20:24,113
from when I was a kid.
520
00:20:24,131 --> 00:20:25,448
- Wh--why?
521
00:20:25,466 --> 00:20:26,966
- I kept 'em.
- Why?
522
00:20:27,060 --> 00:20:28,059
- Because I did.
523
00:20:28,210 --> 00:20:29,393
- Do they bring you joy?
524
00:20:29,545 --> 00:20:31,303
- Yeah, it's my childhood.
525
00:20:31,397 --> 00:20:32,788
- Okay.
526
00:20:32,807 --> 00:20:36,125
- I feel like my life
was very organized
527
00:20:36,143 --> 00:20:37,735
prior to getting married,
528
00:20:37,962 --> 00:20:39,570
and then the situation
in my apartment
529
00:20:39,722 --> 00:20:41,647
happened while I was gone,
and I couldn't take care of it.
530
00:20:41,799 --> 00:20:43,557
It happened without my control.
531
00:20:43,651 --> 00:20:45,317
- I think these are done.
532
00:20:45,411 --> 00:20:46,744
What is this?
533
00:20:46,895 --> 00:20:49,080
- Those are "90210" CDs.
534
00:20:49,307 --> 00:20:50,748
- All right,
this is gonna be trash.
535
00:20:50,975 --> 00:20:53,659
- And now she's chucking bags
everywhere,
536
00:20:53,753 --> 00:20:58,089
so it's just a lot of things
that are not controlled.
537
00:20:58,240 --> 00:20:59,257
- These are your
sentimental stuff,
538
00:20:59,484 --> 00:21:01,500
so let's keep these
off the ground.
539
00:21:01,594 --> 00:21:03,094
- Okay.
540
00:21:04,822 --> 00:21:07,339
Jeez, I just told you
to be careful with that.
541
00:21:07,492 --> 00:21:08,582
- I know.
542
00:21:08,676 --> 00:21:10,326
- Like...
- I know!
543
00:21:10,344 --> 00:21:12,103
- Just leave 'em, just leave
'em, just leave 'em.
544
00:21:12,254 --> 00:21:14,421
I think that's always been
just a difficult thing for me
545
00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:17,608
is somebody trying to
do things for me
546
00:21:17,835 --> 00:21:19,668
without listening
to how I like them first.
547
00:21:19,762 --> 00:21:21,003
- All right, I'm out.
- Okay.
548
00:21:21,096 --> 00:21:22,855
- I got nothing to do here.
549
00:21:23,007 --> 00:21:24,356
- No.
550
00:21:24,509 --> 00:21:28,119
I'm an organized person,
so bagging up my watches
551
00:21:28,346 --> 00:21:30,771
and clothes and sneakers
in trash bags
552
00:21:30,865 --> 00:21:33,032
wasn't the way I wanted to
move out of my apartment.
553
00:21:33,184 --> 00:21:34,850
So I was like,
thank you for doing that,
554
00:21:34,943 --> 00:21:36,109
I don't like
that at all, though.
555
00:21:36,129 --> 00:21:37,686
But thank you.
556
00:21:37,705 --> 00:21:39,797
Why don't you take the keys?
I'll take the bags.
557
00:21:39,948 --> 00:21:42,374
There you go.
558
00:21:42,527 --> 00:21:44,951
That's--that's--
That's the door, it's open.
559
00:21:45,046 --> 00:21:46,545
- My bad.
- No problem.
560
00:21:46,697 --> 00:21:47,471
♪ ♪
561
00:21:51,311 --> 00:21:56,480
♪ ♪
562
00:21:58,392 --> 00:22:00,133
- For real, for real,
for real, come back, come back.
563
00:22:00,153 --> 00:22:01,727
I want you to really
get a visual of this.
564
00:22:01,879 --> 00:22:03,896
- Okay.
- Get a visual of this.
565
00:22:04,048 --> 00:22:05,656
Can you imagine yourself
holding your hand?
566
00:22:05,883 --> 00:22:07,158
- I'm doing it now.
- No, I'm saying,
567
00:22:07,385 --> 00:22:09,142
and doing this,
like, imagine, like,
568
00:22:09,236 --> 00:22:11,570
kids running out like, "Mama,
Daddy," can you imagine that?
569
00:22:11,722 --> 00:22:13,146
- Mm-hmm.
- 'Cause this is really where--
570
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:14,890
We're at that part of life now.
571
00:22:14,983 --> 00:22:17,317
So I want you
to really take this in.
572
00:22:17,411 --> 00:22:20,821
I never welcomed a woman in my
home like I'm doing with you.
573
00:22:20,915 --> 00:22:23,156
As in for real, for real.
574
00:22:23,176 --> 00:22:25,751
This is the first time my wife
is gonna see how I live.
575
00:22:25,903 --> 00:22:28,571
I'm not gonna lie,
I am nervous because
576
00:22:28,589 --> 00:22:31,757
my wife has a little more
swag than I do, I would say.
577
00:22:31,909 --> 00:22:33,592
Welcome to my crib.
This is my favorite part.
578
00:22:33,744 --> 00:22:35,186
That's how you know
579
00:22:35,413 --> 00:22:37,262
some character in here.
- With the little bottle.
580
00:22:37,415 --> 00:22:38,914
- With the little bottle.
That means you gonna
581
00:22:38,933 --> 00:22:40,173
be shooting out some babies.
582
00:22:40,193 --> 00:22:41,508
So I'm just thinking, dude,
583
00:22:41,527 --> 00:22:42,918
what happens if she
doesn't like my style
584
00:22:42,937 --> 00:22:45,104
or she thinks
this house is too manly?
585
00:22:45,198 --> 00:22:47,365
I don't know--I really
don't know--I don't know.
586
00:22:47,516 --> 00:22:51,093
But I'm hoping that my wife's
gonna wanna move in with me
587
00:22:51,186 --> 00:22:52,686
and actually come into my space
588
00:22:52,705 --> 00:22:54,855
and staying there
for a lifetime commitment.
589
00:22:54,949 --> 00:22:56,707
So this is the kitchen.
590
00:22:56,934 --> 00:22:59,284
Is this your type of
style of a kitchen?
591
00:22:59,437 --> 00:23:01,712
- Um...
592
00:23:01,864 --> 00:23:03,864
I would definitely
not have that there.
593
00:23:03,883 --> 00:23:05,866
Like that coffee thing,
I don't like that.
594
00:23:05,885 --> 00:23:07,443
- Why? I look at it every day.
595
00:23:07,461 --> 00:23:09,220
- Yeah, I just don't like the--
596
00:23:09,371 --> 00:23:11,113
- The design.
- The design, yeah.
597
00:23:11,206 --> 00:23:12,948
- You want a different theme?
- Yeah.
598
00:23:12,967 --> 00:23:14,783
- Even though I make
the best coffee in the country?
599
00:23:14,802 --> 00:23:17,895
- Yeah, but you don't
need to put it in the window.
600
00:23:18,046 --> 00:23:20,231
The curtains, they weren't,
like, youthful enough for me.
601
00:23:20,458 --> 00:23:23,792
It kind of gave me like
a little older, like,
602
00:23:23,886 --> 00:23:29,723
not his age vibe so, yeah,
they can go.
603
00:23:29,817 --> 00:23:31,892
- You're probably wondering,
where the hell's the gym at?
604
00:23:31,986 --> 00:23:34,227
- Yeah, where's the gym?
Show me.
605
00:23:34,247 --> 00:23:35,971
- Gotcha.
- You have a basement?
606
00:23:36,064 --> 00:23:38,732
- Yeah. We did this,
me and my brother.
607
00:23:38,751 --> 00:23:40,809
- Oh, wow, another TV.
608
00:23:40,903 --> 00:23:42,903
- This is
where I get my cardio on.
609
00:23:42,997 --> 00:23:45,831
This is how I get my strength
so I can pick you up at night.
610
00:23:45,983 --> 00:23:47,258
You know what I mean,
you know what I mean?
611
00:23:47,409 --> 00:23:48,651
You know what I mean?
Do I look good with it?
612
00:23:48,669 --> 00:23:50,002
Do I look good with it?
613
00:23:50,154 --> 00:23:51,745
So do you like my style,
the green,
614
00:23:51,764 --> 00:23:53,489
you know, you like this?
615
00:23:53,507 --> 00:23:55,599
[light music]
616
00:23:55,826 --> 00:23:58,251
- I could see myself
living here with him,
617
00:23:58,345 --> 00:24:02,606
but I would say his house is
a lot more like a bachelor pad.
618
00:24:02,758 --> 00:24:05,334
The equipment's fine,
I would change the color.
619
00:24:05,352 --> 00:24:08,446
So, you know, if I'm
going to be moving in here,
620
00:24:08,597 --> 00:24:10,614
we're gonna have to switch
a few things around.
621
00:24:11,617 --> 00:24:13,859
- If you had to grade my house
622
00:24:14,011 --> 00:24:16,120
on a scale of one to ten--
It's okay--it's okay.
623
00:24:16,271 --> 00:24:18,697
- Like, as a home
and everything,
624
00:24:18,849 --> 00:24:21,792
like, just it being
a cute home, a nice home,
625
00:24:21,944 --> 00:24:24,703
I'd say it's
like a--it's a eight.
626
00:24:24,797 --> 00:24:26,855
- I'll take that,
that's nice--I'll take that.
627
00:24:26,874 --> 00:24:31,135
- I'd say the decorations,
I'm gonna give you a five.
628
00:24:31,362 --> 00:24:32,803
- Why did I not get
a ten for downstairs
629
00:24:33,030 --> 00:24:35,455
on the main floor,
'cause of the coffee curtain?
630
00:24:35,475 --> 00:24:37,549
- Yeah, I would help
you paint the kitchen
631
00:24:37,702 --> 00:24:40,219
another color,
like a light gray.
632
00:24:40,371 --> 00:24:42,646
- No, absolutely not,
that doesn't even match.
633
00:24:42,798 --> 00:24:45,483
The granite is tan.
The floor's tan.
634
00:24:45,634 --> 00:24:47,133
- Then that would have
to change.
635
00:24:47,153 --> 00:24:49,153
In my head...
636
00:24:49,380 --> 00:24:50,654
- Do you know how much
that costs to change that?
637
00:24:50,806 --> 00:24:54,399
- I know, like, what,
like 50,000?
638
00:24:54,552 --> 00:24:56,385
- You just chill--you
just chill and enjoy--
639
00:24:56,403 --> 00:24:58,220
You just worry about
enjoying the place,
640
00:24:58,239 --> 00:24:59,663
don't worry
about changing [bleep].
641
00:24:59,890 --> 00:25:01,740
- I know that this is his house,
642
00:25:01,892 --> 00:25:03,167
but I don't know how he
expects me to live here
643
00:25:03,394 --> 00:25:05,002
if I can't make it my home too.
644
00:25:06,339 --> 00:25:07,654
[laughs]
645
00:25:07,673 --> 00:25:08,839
- I ain't change--
646
00:25:08,991 --> 00:25:12,251
You know
how expensive that would be?
647
00:25:12,403 --> 00:25:18,073
♪ ♪
648
00:25:18,092 --> 00:25:20,909
[knock on door]
649
00:25:20,928 --> 00:25:23,078
- Hey!
- Hey.
650
00:25:23,097 --> 00:25:24,522
- How are you?
- Welcome to my apartment.
651
00:25:24,749 --> 00:25:26,690
- Wow.
652
00:25:26,842 --> 00:25:29,026
With everything happening so
unexpectedly at my apartment,
653
00:25:29,253 --> 00:25:31,028
I'm really kind
of hoping that Lindsey's place
654
00:25:31,255 --> 00:25:34,014
is a little bit
more settling for me.
655
00:25:34,033 --> 00:25:36,925
Hopefully it's a big
enough space for the two of us
656
00:25:37,019 --> 00:25:40,329
to unwind and get situated.
657
00:25:41,932 --> 00:25:43,115
- These are my plants--would
you like to meet my plants?
658
00:25:43,209 --> 00:25:45,450
- Okay.
659
00:25:45,603 --> 00:25:47,603
- This is Yoshi.
- Yoshi.
660
00:25:47,621 --> 00:25:49,880
- Jim, Michael...
661
00:25:51,551 --> 00:25:53,509
This is Lindsey.
662
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,537
Named after yours truly.
663
00:25:57,631 --> 00:26:00,040
That's Fran.
- Fran.
664
00:26:00,059 --> 00:26:03,635
- She has new growth coming in,
she's coming in hot,
665
00:26:03,729 --> 00:26:05,563
look at that.
666
00:26:05,714 --> 00:26:06,897
[whispers]
You're doing so great.
667
00:26:08,809 --> 00:26:12,127
- Yep, this is Lindsey's place.
668
00:26:12,146 --> 00:26:14,071
- This has to come with us.
669
00:26:14,222 --> 00:26:15,981
- What's that?
670
00:26:16,133 --> 00:26:17,482
- In India--
671
00:26:17,635 --> 00:26:19,318
In many countries they
have squat toilets because
672
00:26:19,412 --> 00:26:22,487
the natural squat position
opens up your ass, right?
673
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,139
Your rectum?
674
00:26:24,158 --> 00:26:29,235
Just--
So you just squat on your pot,
675
00:26:29,255 --> 00:26:31,422
one size fits all.
676
00:26:31,573 --> 00:26:33,740
- Is that a box?
- Storage unit.
677
00:26:33,759 --> 00:26:35,092
The bed mattress goes up
678
00:26:35,243 --> 00:26:36,501
and there's bunch
of storage underneath.
679
00:26:36,654 --> 00:26:38,670
- The bed goes up,
like that way?
680
00:26:38,823 --> 00:26:40,097
- Yeah.
681
00:26:40,324 --> 00:26:43,767
- That looks like a stove
for like a four-year-old.
682
00:26:43,994 --> 00:26:45,494
It's like so tiny.
- I hate cooking.
683
00:26:45,512 --> 00:26:47,938
- This is definitely your place.
- Why?
684
00:26:48,090 --> 00:26:50,849
- It's--it's like
so Mother Earth.
685
00:26:50,943 --> 00:26:52,668
[both laughing]
686
00:26:52,686 --> 00:26:55,946
- Like--like I feel like you
come home, "Hey, guys!"
687
00:26:58,025 --> 00:27:01,360
You just start waterin' things,
cats runnin' everywhere.
688
00:27:01,454 --> 00:27:03,787
♪ ♪
689
00:27:04,014 --> 00:27:05,848
- Excuse me,
what's that face for?
690
00:27:05,866 --> 00:27:07,699
- [laughs]
- Excuse me.
691
00:27:07,852 --> 00:27:09,960
- This is, like,
definitely your apartment.
692
00:27:10,187 --> 00:27:12,020
- He keeps saying
it's so Lindsey,
693
00:27:12,114 --> 00:27:13,538
your house is so Lindsey,
694
00:27:13,691 --> 00:27:15,207
and I was like,
what does that even mean?
695
00:27:15,301 --> 00:27:17,876
Because I just found an
infested dilapidated place,
696
00:27:17,970 --> 00:27:21,213
and I'm cool with it so if he
judges me, he's such a dork.
697
00:27:21,365 --> 00:27:24,716
- Oh boy, this is
quite the little apartment.
698
00:27:24,810 --> 00:27:26,459
- Well, listen,
this is just one little room.
699
00:27:26,479 --> 00:27:29,054
We can get rid of the couch--
- This is the only room
700
00:27:29,148 --> 00:27:30,981
This is the only room.
701
00:27:31,133 --> 00:27:33,317
A bedroom doesn't count.
It's a bedroom.
702
00:27:33,544 --> 00:27:36,378
And it folds?
There's storage underneath.
703
00:27:36,397 --> 00:27:39,548
It's max occupado.
- Oh, man.
704
00:27:39,566 --> 00:27:42,901
I was really kind of hoping
that Lindsey's place
705
00:27:42,995 --> 00:27:44,811
would be a big enough space
for the two of us
706
00:27:44,830 --> 00:27:46,889
where we could go
after Decision Day,
707
00:27:46,907 --> 00:27:49,057
pending we stay married,
but this--
708
00:27:49,151 --> 00:27:50,075
This isn't gonna work out.
709
00:27:50,227 --> 00:27:51,243
No.
710
00:27:51,337 --> 00:27:53,729
♪ ♪
711
00:27:53,822 --> 00:27:56,173
- ♪ Shadows in the night ♪
712
00:27:56,324 --> 00:27:58,158
♪ Show me somethin' ♪
713
00:27:58,177 --> 00:28:00,085
♪ Paint a smile upon my face ♪
714
00:28:00,237 --> 00:28:01,570
♪ When you're gone ♪
715
00:28:01,588 --> 00:28:04,239
♪ I tell myself that I... ♪
716
00:28:04,258 --> 00:28:07,184
- Well, I like your space.
It's nice.
717
00:28:07,411 --> 00:28:10,336
It's just, it looks
like a single man's apartment.
718
00:28:10,431 --> 00:28:12,581
You have, like, a bunch
of gym equipment right there.
719
00:28:12,599 --> 00:28:14,082
- Up until about a week ago,
720
00:28:14,101 --> 00:28:17,586
it was a single man's
apartment, so...
721
00:28:17,604 --> 00:28:20,772
And I got my dumbbells
over here too.
722
00:28:20,925 --> 00:28:22,424
- Wow.
723
00:28:22,443 --> 00:28:23,683
This apartment
definitely screams
724
00:28:23,777 --> 00:28:25,610
that a single man lives here.
725
00:28:25,763 --> 00:28:27,520
He has gym equipment everywhere.
726
00:28:27,614 --> 00:28:30,040
He has nunchucks--[laughs]
727
00:28:32,619 --> 00:28:34,878
I mean, it's okay though.
728
00:28:35,105 --> 00:28:37,940
I really like him,
so it's okay that he has
729
00:28:38,033 --> 00:28:39,624
a lot of weird things
going on in here.
730
00:28:39,777 --> 00:28:45,130
But I think we can make
our apartment a lot less manly.
731
00:28:45,282 --> 00:28:47,950
- And I don't know
if you noticed, but...
732
00:28:48,043 --> 00:28:50,635
[clicks tongue]
- Oh, the LED lights.
733
00:28:50,788 --> 00:28:55,899
- But just to show you
what else it's capable of,
734
00:28:56,126 --> 00:28:59,127
we got some other settings
here like party mode.
735
00:28:59,146 --> 00:29:02,147
[party music]
736
00:29:02,241 --> 00:29:05,909
♪ ♪
737
00:29:06,061 --> 00:29:08,804
[laughter]
738
00:29:08,897 --> 00:29:10,655
I have color lights,
I have LED lights.
739
00:29:10,808 --> 00:29:12,474
- Are these in your bedroom too?
740
00:29:12,567 --> 00:29:13,917
- They're in the bedroom,
they're in the--
741
00:29:14,069 --> 00:29:15,401
- In your bathroom too?
- Kitchen. They're not
742
00:29:15,421 --> 00:29:16,736
in the bathroom and they're
not in the hallway, so...
743
00:29:16,756 --> 00:29:17,921
- That's good.
744
00:29:18,148 --> 00:29:20,148
My husband is obsessed
with LED lights.
745
00:29:20,167 --> 00:29:23,001
I learned that about him today.
746
00:29:23,153 --> 00:29:27,931
- So we have green, blue,
747
00:29:28,083 --> 00:29:30,008
and then if you want to get
like extra kinda--
748
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,343
- Whoa.
749
00:29:31,495 --> 00:29:34,420
He is lighting up
talking about his LED lights
750
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:35,588
like a little child.
751
00:29:35,608 --> 00:29:37,274
It's really cute,
but I don't know
752
00:29:37,501 --> 00:29:40,760
if I want the LED lights
in my apartment.
753
00:29:40,780 --> 00:29:43,355
- So I was thinking we
could do one or two things.
754
00:29:43,449 --> 00:29:46,450
We could either take all
the lights here and just fill
755
00:29:46,677 --> 00:29:49,678
the apartment up,
or we can just buy lights
756
00:29:49,696 --> 00:29:51,363
for every room
in our new apartment.
757
00:29:51,515 --> 00:29:53,698
- Um...
758
00:29:53,851 --> 00:29:55,125
♪ ♪
759
00:29:59,023 --> 00:30:00,446
♪ ♪
760
00:30:00,466 --> 00:30:02,040
- ♪ I know what we do
is all right ♪
761
00:30:02,134 --> 00:30:04,802
- Welcome.
762
00:30:04,953 --> 00:30:07,546
- Don't mind if I do.
763
00:30:07,698 --> 00:30:09,807
- When I told Michael
I was going to go back
764
00:30:10,034 --> 00:30:12,367
to my old apartment,
I told him that I was
765
00:30:12,386 --> 00:30:15,387
gonna go make sure that I have
everything set for my dog and,
766
00:30:15,539 --> 00:30:17,205
you know, finding
the new school for him.
767
00:30:17,299 --> 00:30:20,375
But it was more so
I just need to reset
768
00:30:20,394 --> 00:30:22,561
to be able to come back
to him with a clear head.
769
00:30:22,655 --> 00:30:25,638
And I feel like because we
did click on the wedding day,
770
00:30:25,658 --> 00:30:27,399
that we can
click like that again.
771
00:30:27,493 --> 00:30:30,902
So when I say that I'm
in a space to start over,
772
00:30:30,996 --> 00:30:32,571
I truly mean it.
773
00:30:32,723 --> 00:30:34,314
- All right, here's my room.
774
00:30:34,408 --> 00:30:37,075
[energetic music]
775
00:30:37,227 --> 00:30:41,897
♪ ♪
776
00:30:41,990 --> 00:30:44,249
- Who is that?
- Oh, ha ha!
777
00:30:44,343 --> 00:30:47,419
This was a painting
that a friend drew for me.
778
00:30:47,571 --> 00:30:49,404
This isn't anybody
in particular.
779
00:30:49,497 --> 00:30:50,997
- Oh.
- It was a birthday gift.
780
00:30:51,091 --> 00:30:53,851
- If you say so.
- Yeah.
781
00:30:54,078 --> 00:30:59,356
- Mike's room is very frat boy.
782
00:30:59,507 --> 00:31:02,675
You know, he got this big
poster of this naked woman
783
00:31:02,695 --> 00:31:04,586
so I'm like, you know,
do you got porn videos in here?
784
00:31:04,605 --> 00:31:05,678
What you got in--
785
00:31:05,698 --> 00:31:07,531
You know,
is there a kinky drawer?
786
00:31:07,682 --> 00:31:09,182
Okay, it's just clothes.
787
00:31:09,276 --> 00:31:10,534
- Yeah, nothin' exciting.
788
00:31:10,761 --> 00:31:14,020
- All right.
- It's just boring stuff.
789
00:31:14,039 --> 00:31:16,206
- Let me go
to your roommate's room,
790
00:31:16,433 --> 00:31:17,949
'cause you probably
hid stuff in there.
791
00:31:18,043 --> 00:31:21,044
[light music]
792
00:31:21,271 --> 00:31:22,546
Living room.
793
00:31:25,217 --> 00:31:26,866
You Like crystals?
794
00:31:26,886 --> 00:31:28,385
- That's not mine.
795
00:31:28,536 --> 00:31:31,463
- Whose little
golf thing is this?
796
00:31:31,557 --> 00:31:33,615
- My roommate.
797
00:31:33,708 --> 00:31:35,467
- How many roommates you have?
798
00:31:35,619 --> 00:31:37,119
- Two.
799
00:31:37,137 --> 00:31:39,045
- I don't see much of you.
800
00:31:39,064 --> 00:31:41,047
- Yeah, I feel like
I'm never really here.
801
00:31:41,141 --> 00:31:42,399
I'm like in and out.
802
00:31:42,626 --> 00:31:43,901
- Are you and your
roommates friends,
803
00:31:44,128 --> 00:31:45,644
or do you guys just,
like, separate.
804
00:31:45,738 --> 00:31:47,145
- Yeah, we're kinda--yeah,
we're friends, yeah.
805
00:31:47,297 --> 00:31:49,239
- Okay. Where is your roommate?
806
00:31:49,391 --> 00:31:51,816
- Somewhere here.
- Hmm.
807
00:31:51,911 --> 00:31:54,819
[light music]
808
00:31:54,972 --> 00:31:59,141
♪ ♪
809
00:31:59,234 --> 00:32:00,900
- I didn't know
you had a girl roommate.
810
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,811
- Yeah.
- Wow!
811
00:32:02,904 --> 00:32:06,164
Oh, secretive,
oh my God! You didn't--
812
00:32:06,316 --> 00:32:07,499
You never told me that.
813
00:32:07,651 --> 00:32:10,318
- I know, we haven't
really talked about it.
814
00:32:10,337 --> 00:32:13,263
- Kenny, who has the hat on,
this is my best friend.
815
00:32:13,490 --> 00:32:15,724
He's also my current
roommate as well.
816
00:32:16,994 --> 00:32:18,769
I've mentioned
I have a guy roommate,
817
00:32:18,996 --> 00:32:21,012
you would think that
that would be when you say,
818
00:32:21,165 --> 00:32:23,941
"Oh, you live with a guy, well,
I live with a girl," you just--
819
00:32:24,092 --> 00:32:25,275
- I live with a girl.
820
00:32:25,502 --> 00:32:28,612
- Oh, okay, well,
you never mentioned it.
821
00:32:28,763 --> 00:32:31,615
- It didn't come up.
I don't know.
822
00:32:31,766 --> 00:32:33,433
I didn't hide it
from you on purpose.
823
00:32:33,452 --> 00:32:36,119
- Oh, okay.
- No, I swear, I didn't.
824
00:32:36,346 --> 00:32:38,121
- Oh.
825
00:32:38,273 --> 00:32:41,458
I'm annoyed with Mike, I'm kind
of disappointed at this point.
826
00:32:41,685 --> 00:32:43,776
This is the first time
that I'm hearing about
827
00:32:43,870 --> 00:32:45,128
him having a female roommate.
828
00:32:45,355 --> 00:32:47,631
And if I didn't
see her walk out,
829
00:32:47,782 --> 00:32:51,042
when would he have told me
that he lives with a woman?
830
00:32:51,136 --> 00:32:52,877
And I personally
don't have a problem with it,
831
00:32:52,972 --> 00:32:57,957
but I'm trying to get over
our past conflicts.
832
00:32:57,977 --> 00:33:00,143
And I feel like it
doesn't help keeping
833
00:33:00,370 --> 00:33:03,647
the roommate situation
away from me.
834
00:33:03,798 --> 00:33:06,650
Okay, I think I've seen it all.
835
00:33:06,801 --> 00:33:10,061
[edgy music]
836
00:33:10,214 --> 00:33:14,899
♪ ♪
837
00:33:14,994 --> 00:33:16,809
- So you want to get some
of this stuff into the car
838
00:33:16,829 --> 00:33:18,811
so we can head back
to our place soon?
839
00:33:18,831 --> 00:33:21,223
- Now that our couples
are packing up their things,
840
00:33:21,241 --> 00:33:25,985
the fact that they are moving
in together becomes more real.
841
00:33:26,079 --> 00:33:29,339
- It has been a crazy morning.
Moving week is always stressful.
842
00:33:29,491 --> 00:33:31,750
Cats, apartment, move.
843
00:33:31,902 --> 00:33:33,010
- And we gotta do it in one day.
844
00:33:33,161 --> 00:33:35,086
- Hello there, pal.
- This is Feeny.
845
00:33:35,239 --> 00:33:37,739
- This is when it's really
going to sink in
846
00:33:37,832 --> 00:33:41,018
that this person
they barely know
847
00:33:41,245 --> 00:33:43,336
is now legally
their husband or wife.
848
00:33:43,355 --> 00:33:44,855
- Home sweet home.
849
00:33:45,082 --> 00:33:47,599
See, I kept it
nice and tidy for you.
850
00:33:47,751 --> 00:33:49,768
- Okay, where do you
want the dog bed to go?
851
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,361
- And that this is the beginning
852
00:33:51,513 --> 00:33:53,755
of the rest
of their lives together.
853
00:33:53,774 --> 00:33:57,367
- Ben and Jerry,
meet your fat long-lost brother.
854
00:34:01,523 --> 00:34:03,874
Boys, come on.
855
00:34:04,101 --> 00:34:07,377
- We have five cats now
between us
856
00:34:07,529 --> 00:34:09,046
and I've never put my animals
857
00:34:09,197 --> 00:34:10,772
in a room with other animals.
858
00:34:10,865 --> 00:34:12,549
- I would keep your distance.
859
00:34:12,700 --> 00:34:14,459
- So I'm nervous about how the
cats are 'cause that's like
860
00:34:14,553 --> 00:34:18,371
one of those situations where
the cats are like my kids.
861
00:34:18,465 --> 00:34:20,799
[cat meows]
- Be nice, Ben.
862
00:34:20,951 --> 00:34:23,042
[snarls]
Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey!
863
00:34:23,136 --> 00:34:27,230
- I'm like, kinda getting
nervous because her cats hiss.
864
00:34:27,382 --> 00:34:28,790
My cats don't do that.
865
00:34:28,883 --> 00:34:30,567
And if they don't get along,
866
00:34:30,718 --> 00:34:32,794
that's another thing
I can't control.
867
00:34:32,887 --> 00:34:35,313
Another thing that adds
to the pressure.
868
00:34:35,465 --> 00:34:41,561
♪ ♪
869
00:34:41,655 --> 00:34:43,580
- It'll be nice to see, um...
870
00:34:46,234 --> 00:34:47,918
See how we mesh livin' together.
871
00:34:48,069 --> 00:34:50,921
- Is that right?
- Yeah.
872
00:35:01,007 --> 00:35:03,433
- I have a question.
- Mm-hmm.
873
00:35:03,585 --> 00:35:05,585
- When we were
at your apartment,
874
00:35:05,604 --> 00:35:08,939
I don't know if
I didn't hear correctly,
875
00:35:09,166 --> 00:35:11,833
but I thought you said
you had a female roommate.
876
00:35:11,926 --> 00:35:14,427
- Did I say a, like one?
- Yeah, mm-hmm.
877
00:35:14,446 --> 00:35:15,779
- Well, that's not what I meant.
878
00:35:16,006 --> 00:35:17,021
- So you have
two female roommates?
879
00:35:17,174 --> 00:35:19,023
- Yeah.
880
00:35:19,176 --> 00:35:22,119
♪ ♪
881
00:35:22,270 --> 00:35:23,620
So what did you think,
882
00:35:23,847 --> 00:35:25,530
that I purposely didn't tell
you about that one?
883
00:35:25,624 --> 00:35:27,515
- Well, I mean, I didn't
know about the first one.
884
00:35:27,609 --> 00:35:30,610
If we were just
boyfriend and girlfriend
885
00:35:30,629 --> 00:35:33,112
and not married,
living in the same place,
886
00:35:33,206 --> 00:35:36,633
you wouldn't tell me that
you live with the opposite sex?
887
00:35:36,784 --> 00:35:39,694
- It would come up
when it comes up.
888
00:35:39,713 --> 00:35:40,804
- It's come up.
889
00:35:40,955 --> 00:35:42,380
Have you ever
lived with a woman?
890
00:35:42,532 --> 00:35:43,865
I can't remember you
saying if you did or not?
891
00:35:43,884 --> 00:35:45,308
- No, never.
892
00:35:45,460 --> 00:35:46,959
- So there's been opportunities.
893
00:35:46,979 --> 00:35:48,311
- But it wasn't because I didn't
894
00:35:48,538 --> 00:35:50,388
want to to tell you,
like I think you'd care.
895
00:35:50,482 --> 00:35:52,390
- The thing is,
it doesn't bother me that you
896
00:35:52,484 --> 00:35:54,042
live with women.
897
00:35:54,060 --> 00:35:56,653
I lived with men before.
I currently live with a man now.
898
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,380
It just bothers me
that you didn't think
899
00:35:58,473 --> 00:35:59,714
that was something important...
900
00:35:59,807 --> 00:36:02,217
- I get it.
- To tell me.
901
00:36:02,310 --> 00:36:04,644
And it's not just one,
it's two women.
902
00:36:04,663 --> 00:36:06,997
That's just--
Being in the same space
903
00:36:07,148 --> 00:36:08,740
with the opposite sex
is serious,
904
00:36:08,834 --> 00:36:11,817
so the fact that that didn't
come to your mind first
905
00:36:11,912 --> 00:36:15,230
it's why I'm like...
906
00:36:15,323 --> 00:36:17,657
- Okay, I did it,
but even if I didn't,
907
00:36:17,751 --> 00:36:19,234
what does that mean?
908
00:36:19,252 --> 00:36:21,085
Like, what would I be
trying to get away with?
909
00:36:21,238 --> 00:36:22,995
Like I currently
live with women.
910
00:36:23,089 --> 00:36:24,347
I don't think it makes me
911
00:36:24,499 --> 00:36:25,998
like I'm trying
to hide something.
912
00:36:26,018 --> 00:36:28,668
- Well, that's what it
seems like when there's been
913
00:36:28,687 --> 00:36:30,929
plenty of opportunities
to bring it up and you didn't.
914
00:36:31,081 --> 00:36:32,355
- I'll agree with you--
Bad judgement call.
915
00:36:32,582 --> 00:36:33,765
There were times
when I could have told you.
916
00:36:33,917 --> 00:36:35,917
I should have told you.
917
00:36:36,010 --> 00:36:39,196
But it wasn't
because I'm trying to get
918
00:36:39,423 --> 00:36:41,756
away with it
to get you not to know.
919
00:36:41,775 --> 00:36:44,201
You're looking at me like
920
00:36:44,428 --> 00:36:45,944
you don't know what the hell
I'm saying.
921
00:36:46,096 --> 00:36:47,704
- Nah, I hear you.
- But...
922
00:36:47,931 --> 00:36:49,855
- What you say
just don't make sense.
923
00:36:49,875 --> 00:36:52,617
[tense music]
924
00:36:52,769 --> 00:36:55,545
♪ ♪
925
00:36:59,292 --> 00:37:03,628
♪ ♪
926
00:37:03,780 --> 00:37:05,463
- I'm here in the cat palace,
927
00:37:05,557 --> 00:37:08,374
hanging on by a thread,
if I'm being honest.
928
00:37:08,393 --> 00:37:10,727
Mark's life has
pretty much blown up,
929
00:37:10,954 --> 00:37:13,788
even more so
in the last few days.
930
00:37:13,807 --> 00:37:16,975
My grandma's like 70 pounds,
which is very thin,
931
00:37:17,127 --> 00:37:19,552
so she's not doing that great.
932
00:37:19,646 --> 00:37:22,388
And that's a lot of work.
933
00:37:22,407 --> 00:37:29,654
And... his landlord
has been ridiculous.
934
00:37:29,748 --> 00:37:33,583
He's about to explode
from all of this stress,
935
00:37:33,810 --> 00:37:37,812
and I'm not sure
who Mark is right now.
936
00:37:37,831 --> 00:37:40,832
There's Mark the Shark,
MTS, Mark, Mark, Mark, Mark,
937
00:37:40,984 --> 00:37:43,260
you know.
938
00:37:43,487 --> 00:37:46,245
But...
939
00:37:46,339 --> 00:37:49,099
who he is off camera right now
is completely different.
940
00:37:49,326 --> 00:37:53,495
And he's so hot and cold,
on and off,
941
00:37:53,513 --> 00:37:57,682
and I don't think
he's actually aware of that.
942
00:37:57,776 --> 00:38:00,018
And...
943
00:38:00,112 --> 00:38:02,520
♪ ♪
944
00:38:02,614 --> 00:38:05,356
If I'm being honest,
it's driving me insane.
945
00:38:05,509 --> 00:38:12,864
♪ ♪
946
00:38:13,016 --> 00:38:14,582
- You're playing reds, right?
947
00:38:17,796 --> 00:38:18,962
- Oh, nice pull.
948
00:38:21,115 --> 00:38:23,300
- Hi!
- How are you?
949
00:38:23,527 --> 00:38:25,451
- Good, how are you?
- Good, good.
950
00:38:25,545 --> 00:38:27,119
Look at this feast.
951
00:38:27,139 --> 00:38:29,047
- I'm gonna lose my D4,
so get ready.
952
00:38:29,141 --> 00:38:31,366
- Nick is definitely
one of my best friends.
953
00:38:31,384 --> 00:38:32,958
He and I have known
each other for a long time.
954
00:38:33,053 --> 00:38:35,703
He's helped me get through
some really rough patches.
955
00:38:35,797 --> 00:38:39,131
He's a pretty straight shooter
and won't hesitate to be like,
956
00:38:39,151 --> 00:38:41,484
"Chris, you're being an idiot"
if he thinks I am.
957
00:38:41,711 --> 00:38:42,819
Or, "Chris,
you need to get the hell
958
00:38:43,046 --> 00:38:44,470
out of this,"
if he thinks I should.
959
00:38:44,489 --> 00:38:48,658
- So should we talk about
what's happened?
960
00:38:48,810 --> 00:38:50,643
- Yeah, what has happened?
961
00:38:50,662 --> 00:38:52,495
- I think I, like,
blacked out from, like,
962
00:38:52,722 --> 00:38:55,498
the time that
I saw him until, like,
963
00:38:55,725 --> 00:38:57,667
the time that
I actually got there.
964
00:38:57,819 --> 00:38:59,336
- Wow, I could see that, yeah.
- Like, I kinda, like, don't
965
00:38:59,487 --> 00:39:01,396
remember walking down.
966
00:39:01,414 --> 00:39:02,988
And then I--
967
00:39:03,008 --> 00:39:05,917
And then I saw him and I
was just like, that's not--
968
00:39:06,011 --> 00:39:10,513
Not what I envisioned,
you know, being there.
969
00:39:10,665 --> 00:39:12,590
What were your thoughts?
970
00:39:12,684 --> 00:39:15,927
- I was kind of, maybe,
expecting a cowboy.
971
00:39:16,021 --> 00:39:19,247
- Me too.
972
00:39:19,265 --> 00:39:21,507
- But he is cute.
973
00:39:21,526 --> 00:39:24,677
There's no doubt he's
a great guy, he's really nice.
974
00:39:24,771 --> 00:39:28,865
- But he's also not--you
haven't seen the way treats me.
975
00:39:29,016 --> 00:39:30,349
- No, but I'm just saying,
the way--
976
00:39:30,369 --> 00:39:31,926
I only met him,
you know, at the wedding
977
00:39:31,945 --> 00:39:35,538
and the morning after,
and he seemed like a good kid.
978
00:39:35,765 --> 00:39:36,873
- It's like,
you know, to hear this
979
00:39:37,100 --> 00:39:38,933
person that you
just married, like,
980
00:39:38,952 --> 00:39:42,212
likes to, like, debate
until the cows come home,
981
00:39:42,439 --> 00:39:44,530
and likes to,
like, argue their point.
982
00:39:44,624 --> 00:39:47,775
And then, you know, I started
learning things about him.
983
00:39:47,869 --> 00:39:49,127
And I was like,
wow, we are just,
984
00:39:49,279 --> 00:39:52,630
like, so different in every way.
985
00:39:52,724 --> 00:39:55,541
- She also tells me
that one of the reasons
986
00:39:55,635 --> 00:39:58,786
we're not compatible is because
I don't have the tattoo
987
00:39:58,805 --> 00:40:00,563
that her psychic said
that I'm supposed to have,
988
00:40:00,715 --> 00:40:03,382
which is of an eagle.
989
00:40:03,402 --> 00:40:04,976
- Please stop.
- I don't have an eagle--
990
00:40:05,128 --> 00:40:06,644
- Please stop.
- I don't have
991
00:40:06,796 --> 00:40:08,071
an eagle tattoo.
- Please stop.
992
00:40:08,298 --> 00:40:09,364
- Don't you
have an eagle tattoo?
993
00:40:09,816 --> 00:40:11,199
- Uh, no.
994
00:40:13,136 --> 00:40:14,819
- Maybe there's some
80-year-old war vet
995
00:40:14,913 --> 00:40:18,415
with an eagle tattoo
who might be her soulmate,
996
00:40:18,642 --> 00:40:20,992
but she can go ask
her psychic about that.
997
00:40:21,086 --> 00:40:23,494
I gotta be honest man,
if you went out on a date
998
00:40:23,647 --> 00:40:25,088
with someone and you were like,
999
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,999
"Hey, her regular psychic says
this," I'd probably be like,
1000
00:40:28,151 --> 00:40:30,593
"I don't think this
is the one for you, man."
1001
00:40:30,820 --> 00:40:33,913
- [laughs]
That's fair. That's fair.
1002
00:40:33,932 --> 00:40:36,599
- So what do you
think the core values are
1003
00:40:36,826 --> 00:40:39,919
that you guys
don't seem to have?
1004
00:40:39,938 --> 00:40:42,513
- I think, like,
one of the biggest things
1005
00:40:42,607 --> 00:40:46,258
for me is the lack
of respect for other people.
1006
00:40:46,278 --> 00:40:48,945
And, you know, one
of the other big things is he--
1007
00:40:49,172 --> 00:40:52,449
He posted on his
Instagram about, like,
1008
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,008
defunding the police.
1009
00:40:54,027 --> 00:40:56,769
And like, you know
the high regard that I have
1010
00:40:56,863 --> 00:40:59,772
for first responders and,
like, how much respect I have
1011
00:40:59,866 --> 00:41:04,035
for them and what they do,
and for somebody to post that
1012
00:41:04,129 --> 00:41:09,132
on social media is just,
like, very disturbing to me.
1013
00:41:09,283 --> 00:41:11,375
Like, what are you going to do
if you have to call the police?
1014
00:41:11,528 --> 00:41:14,286
You think they're gonna save you
when you say don't fund them?
1015
00:41:14,380 --> 00:41:17,198
- Right?
- Like...
1016
00:41:17,291 --> 00:41:18,958
- You're literally
my best friend
1017
00:41:18,977 --> 00:41:21,293
and you're literally
a police officer.
1018
00:41:21,313 --> 00:41:22,720
[laughs]
1019
00:41:22,814 --> 00:41:25,223
So--so...
1020
00:41:25,317 --> 00:41:27,650
I haven't had
the opportunity to talk about
1021
00:41:27,802 --> 00:41:29,152
what I really believe.
1022
00:41:29,303 --> 00:41:31,379
I think that there's
a real conversation to be had
1023
00:41:31,397 --> 00:41:32,805
in society.
1024
00:41:32,824 --> 00:41:34,824
The problem is,
I can't ever tell her
1025
00:41:34,976 --> 00:41:36,384
any of these things
and walk through
1026
00:41:36,402 --> 00:41:38,402
what I think is a reasonable
conversation around it,
1027
00:41:38,555 --> 00:41:39,996
even if she fundamentally
disagrees with it,
1028
00:41:40,223 --> 00:41:41,664
because this is what I heard
from someone
1029
00:41:41,816 --> 00:41:43,391
who heard from someone
1030
00:41:43,409 --> 00:41:44,167
that heard from her
that she wanted to talk to me.
1031
00:41:44,318 --> 00:41:46,060
- I'm wondering,
1032
00:41:46,079 --> 00:41:48,746
what would you need
to decide that you,
1033
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:51,916
indeed, wanted to stay
with him after Decision Day?
1034
00:41:52,068 --> 00:41:54,493
♪ ♪
1035
00:41:54,587 --> 00:41:57,922
- I think the bottom line is,
like, I need, like, trust,
1036
00:41:58,016 --> 00:42:02,093
honesty, respect,
and like, good communication.
1037
00:42:02,187 --> 00:42:04,262
And I don't feel like
we have that right now.
1038
00:42:04,414 --> 00:42:06,414
For me,
I need to start seeing it
1039
00:42:06,432 --> 00:42:09,917
actually happen
in order to feel any different.
1040
00:42:10,011 --> 00:42:11,419
- Well he needs
to prove himself.
1041
00:42:11,512 --> 00:42:14,272
- Yeah.
- And show you.
1042
00:42:14,366 --> 00:42:16,274
- Mm-hmm.
1043
00:42:16,426 --> 00:42:18,442
Right.
1044
00:42:18,595 --> 00:42:21,262
♪ ♪
1045
00:42:21,281 --> 00:42:26,450
- ♪ I was hopin'
you would chase me down ♪
1046
00:42:26,545 --> 00:42:28,861
♪ ♪
1047
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:30,772
- Our couples
are legally married,
1048
00:42:30,790 --> 00:42:33,699
but they've only known each
other for just over a week.
1049
00:42:33,718 --> 00:42:35,718
And in just seven weeks,
they'll have to make
1050
00:42:35,870 --> 00:42:38,462
the biggest
decision of their lives,
1051
00:42:38,557 --> 00:42:41,616
whether they'll stay married,
or get a divorce.
1052
00:42:41,634 --> 00:42:44,135
To help them make
a more informed decision,
1053
00:42:44,287 --> 00:42:46,971
I'm visiting each couple
to try and give them
1054
00:42:47,123 --> 00:42:49,807
the nudge they need
to accelerate their pace
1055
00:42:49,959 --> 00:42:51,309
of getting to know each other.
1056
00:42:51,403 --> 00:42:54,295
These couples need to dig
deeper to see
1057
00:42:54,314 --> 00:42:57,481
where their spouses stand on
important issues like children,
1058
00:42:57,576 --> 00:43:00,818
finances, responsibilities,
and life goals,
1059
00:43:00,912 --> 00:43:03,395
because the future
of their relationship
1060
00:43:03,415 --> 00:43:06,899
depends on the foundation
they are building right now.
1061
00:43:06,993 --> 00:43:08,251
[knocking at door]
1062
00:43:10,088 --> 00:43:12,647
- Comin'.
1063
00:43:12,740 --> 00:43:14,498
Come in, how are you doing?
1064
00:43:14,651 --> 00:43:16,667
- What's up?
How you doing--okay.
1065
00:43:16,820 --> 00:43:18,410
- I'm doin' good.
- It's good to see you, man.
1066
00:43:18,504 --> 00:43:19,503
- Good to see you as well.
1067
00:43:19,656 --> 00:43:21,005
- You're married.
- I am married.
1068
00:43:21,099 --> 00:43:22,748
- Yeah, ha ha ha.
1069
00:43:22,767 --> 00:43:24,726
- Hello!
- Hello.
1070
00:43:26,104 --> 00:43:28,921
How are you, my dear?
- Good, how are you?
1071
00:43:28,940 --> 00:43:31,107
- I'm awesome, I'm awesome.
Good to see you.
1072
00:43:31,258 --> 00:43:32,925
- Nice to see you too!
1073
00:43:32,944 --> 00:43:34,944
- Let's talk,
let's talk, let's talk.
1074
00:43:36,189 --> 00:43:38,948
So how's it going?
1075
00:43:40,768 --> 00:43:42,360
Okay, there you have it.
1076
00:43:42,454 --> 00:43:44,178
[laughter]
1077
00:43:44,197 --> 00:43:47,198
You just said a whole
volume right there, okay.
1078
00:43:47,350 --> 00:43:50,518
I want to start openly
and honestly, okay,
1079
00:43:50,536 --> 00:43:54,355
about where we are,
and about where we're going.
1080
00:43:54,448 --> 00:43:56,023
Your marriage started to spiral.
1081
00:43:56,042 --> 00:43:58,042
On the honeymoon.
1082
00:43:58,136 --> 00:44:02,305
I want to talk about
what the heck is the problem.
1083
00:44:02,532 --> 00:44:04,957
- A lot of the conflicts
we had, he chose to
1084
00:44:04,976 --> 00:44:06,458
talk to me a certain way that,
1085
00:44:06,552 --> 00:44:07,869
like, turned me off.
1086
00:44:07,962 --> 00:44:09,646
And when he brought them up
1087
00:44:09,873 --> 00:44:13,374
off-camera,
he was very aggressive.
1088
00:44:13,393 --> 00:44:15,559
And he was very loud,
and he had a tone,
1089
00:44:15,654 --> 00:44:18,212
and was very, just,
disrespectful in general.
1090
00:44:18,231 --> 00:44:19,730
I also know
1091
00:44:19,824 --> 00:44:21,306
that he's not at a ten
when he's talking to me
1092
00:44:21,326 --> 00:44:22,383
and that it can get worse.
- How do you know that?
1093
00:44:22,476 --> 00:44:23,976
- Wait, so you're saying that
1094
00:44:24,070 --> 00:44:26,829
he has the potential to explode
and go even ballistic?
1095
00:44:27,056 --> 00:44:28,480
- He did tell me
that that's a problem
1096
00:44:28,500 --> 00:44:30,408
that he has
had in past relationships.
1097
00:44:30,502 --> 00:44:33,411
And even his family
has said he can act that way.
1098
00:44:33,505 --> 00:44:36,673
- It's almost like because
I told her the fact that,
1099
00:44:36,900 --> 00:44:38,249
yes, this is something
I need to work on,
1100
00:44:38,401 --> 00:44:40,918
it almost backfired on me
because
1101
00:44:41,070 --> 00:44:42,828
now she's painting
a picture of who I am.
1102
00:44:42,922 --> 00:44:44,588
- Michael.
- Yes.
1103
00:44:44,683 --> 00:44:47,517
- Every single time
we have a conflict, you yell,
1104
00:44:47,744 --> 00:44:50,019
and there's no cameras
to show that side.
1105
00:44:50,246 --> 00:44:52,021
- I don't--I was not
yelling at you.
1106
00:44:53,358 --> 00:44:55,692
- Now, Michael.
We're not about to do this.
1107
00:44:55,919 --> 00:44:57,527
- I'm not, like--
- Here's the thing--
1108
00:44:57,754 --> 00:44:58,769
- Listen--wait, wait--
- Here's the thing.
1109
00:44:58,922 --> 00:44:59,845
Sorry--I'm sorry I cut you off.
1110
00:44:59,864 --> 00:45:02,657
[tense music]
1111
00:45:06,429 --> 00:45:07,595
- Michael.
1112
00:45:07,688 --> 00:45:08,854
- Yes.
- Every single time
1113
00:45:08,873 --> 00:45:10,614
we have a conflict, you yell,
1114
00:45:10,767 --> 00:45:12,767
and there's no cameras
to show that side.
1115
00:45:12,785 --> 00:45:15,712
- I don't--I was not
yelling at you.
1116
00:45:15,939 --> 00:45:18,606
- Now, Michael.
We're not about to do this.
1117
00:45:18,624 --> 00:45:20,216
- I'm not, like--
- Here's the thing--
1118
00:45:20,367 --> 00:45:21,366
- Listen--no, wait, wait--
- Here's the thing--
1119
00:45:21,386 --> 00:45:22,460
Sorry--I'm sorry to cut you off.
1120
00:45:22,554 --> 00:45:24,387
[dramatic sting]
1121
00:45:26,207 --> 00:45:27,965
If you want to say that
I was speaking in a tone
1122
00:45:28,117 --> 00:45:29,450
that you didn't appreciate,
I'll give you that.
1123
00:45:29,469 --> 00:45:31,452
If you want to say that
1124
00:45:31,545 --> 00:45:33,471
I was speaking in
a condescending tone,
1125
00:45:33,565 --> 00:45:35,064
I would give you that.
1126
00:45:35,216 --> 00:45:36,548
But if you're saying
that I was yelling at you,
1127
00:45:36,642 --> 00:45:38,550
that's just not true, Jas.
1128
00:45:38,570 --> 00:45:39,627
Like, why would I yell at you--
1129
00:45:39,645 --> 00:45:41,237
- All right, so I'm a liar now.
1130
00:45:41,464 --> 00:45:42,980
You've been aggressive,
you've been yelling,
1131
00:45:43,132 --> 00:45:44,966
and I'm trying not
to get to that point.
1132
00:45:44,984 --> 00:45:46,225
So I don't appreciate you
1133
00:45:46,244 --> 00:45:47,744
sitting right here
and saying that
1134
00:45:47,971 --> 00:45:49,895
you're not yelling
when you've agreed with me
1135
00:45:49,914 --> 00:45:51,748
that you have been aggressive
1136
00:45:51,899 --> 00:45:52,974
and your family agreed.
- I've never said that--
1137
00:45:52,992 --> 00:45:53,916
No, no, no, aggressive?
1138
00:45:54,068 --> 00:45:55,142
I've never used that word.
1139
00:45:55,161 --> 00:45:56,644
- Jasmina--
- Why would I lie about
1140
00:45:56,662 --> 00:45:57,828
that one piece?
- Hold on, Michael, Michael.
1141
00:45:57,981 --> 00:45:59,163
- I've been honest
about everything else.
1142
00:45:59,257 --> 00:46:00,664
- You wasn't honest
about your roommates.
1143
00:46:00,759 --> 00:46:02,500
- Here--okay, listen,
here's what we're gonna do.
1144
00:46:02,652 --> 00:46:03,909
Y'all gonna have to listen to me
1145
00:46:04,003 --> 00:46:05,503
because here's the thing.
1146
00:46:05,655 --> 00:46:09,006
I want to talk about
your communication.
1147
00:46:09,158 --> 00:46:12,435
Why it's not working, okay?
1148
00:46:12,586 --> 00:46:15,104
Honesty and transparency are key
1149
00:46:15,331 --> 00:46:17,681
when it comes to
communication in marriage.
1150
00:46:17,834 --> 00:46:19,442
You understand that,
don't you, Michael?
1151
00:46:19,669 --> 00:46:20,759
- Yeah.
1152
00:46:20,779 --> 00:46:22,779
- And so is forgiveness.
1153
00:46:23,006 --> 00:46:25,523
Jasmina, are you willing
to forgive and move on
1154
00:46:25,675 --> 00:46:27,933
so you can at least
see what the heck you have?
1155
00:46:28,027 --> 00:46:33,197
[tense music]
1156
00:46:33,349 --> 00:46:35,516
- Yeah.
- Okay.
1157
00:46:35,535 --> 00:46:38,610
Now I wanna talk to you
about talking at,
1158
00:46:38,630 --> 00:46:40,204
talking with, and talking to.
1159
00:46:40,298 --> 00:46:42,690
There's a difference.
1160
00:46:42,708 --> 00:46:44,859
When you talk at someone,
1161
00:46:44,877 --> 00:46:47,194
you talk to them like
they're a subordinate.
1162
00:46:47,213 --> 00:46:49,972
- Mm-hmm.
- Like they are of less value.
1163
00:46:50,124 --> 00:46:52,457
And I feel as though
that's how she was feeling
1164
00:46:52,477 --> 00:46:53,792
that you were talking at her.
1165
00:46:53,812 --> 00:46:55,794
Am I right, Jasmina?
- Yes.
1166
00:46:55,814 --> 00:46:58,039
- When you feel like
he's talking to you that way,
1167
00:46:58,132 --> 00:47:01,150
say to him,
"I am not your enemy."
1168
00:47:01,377 --> 00:47:03,135
Okay?
1169
00:47:03,154 --> 00:47:05,713
When she says that...
1170
00:47:05,731 --> 00:47:07,639
[quiet music]
1171
00:47:07,659 --> 00:47:10,234
Correct.
1172
00:47:10,386 --> 00:47:11,235
Does that make sense to you?
1173
00:47:11,387 --> 00:47:12,811
- Yeah--yes.
1174
00:47:12,905 --> 00:47:16,223
- 'Cause I need you to talk
to her like a wife, okay?
1175
00:47:16,242 --> 00:47:17,149
Are you
willing to say that to him?
1176
00:47:17,168 --> 00:47:19,577
- Yes.
1177
00:47:19,671 --> 00:47:20,670
- Okay, great.
1178
00:47:20,821 --> 00:47:25,675
- ♪ Believe it ♪
1179
00:47:30,256 --> 00:47:31,589
♪ ♪
1180
00:47:31,741 --> 00:47:33,999
- ♪ Can you feel it
like I feel it ♪
1181
00:47:34,018 --> 00:47:36,577
♪ Do you want me just as much
as I want you ♪
1182
00:47:36,670 --> 00:47:38,429
♪ Can you feel it
like I feel it ♪
1183
00:47:38,523 --> 00:47:40,339
[knocking at door]
1184
00:47:40,433 --> 00:47:41,673
- How's it going?
- Hey.
1185
00:47:41,693 --> 00:47:43,267
- S'up, brother?
- S'up, man?
1186
00:47:43,361 --> 00:47:44,585
What's up, what's up?
- How you doin', how you doin'?
1187
00:47:44,678 --> 00:47:45,769
- How you doing?
- Good, man, great.
1188
00:47:45,864 --> 00:47:47,179
- Great.
1189
00:47:47,198 --> 00:47:48,364
- Last time I saw you,
you weren't married.
1190
00:47:48,515 --> 00:47:50,774
- I know.
- Something smells good.
1191
00:47:50,927 --> 00:47:53,944
- I made some spaghetti
with some garlic bread.
1192
00:47:54,097 --> 00:47:55,930
- Good grief, girl,
you threw down, didn't you?
1193
00:47:56,023 --> 00:47:57,098
- [chuckles]
- [grunts]
1194
00:47:57,191 --> 00:47:59,691
- I tried.
You know it's his requirement.
1195
00:47:59,711 --> 00:48:00,951
- Yeah.
- Okay--oh, is it now?
1196
00:48:01,104 --> 00:48:01,952
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1197
00:48:02,046 --> 00:48:03,621
- Let's talk about this.
1198
00:48:03,773 --> 00:48:05,214
- Yeah.
- [chuckles]
1199
00:48:05,366 --> 00:48:06,607
- Oh, wow.
1200
00:48:06,626 --> 00:48:07,791
- Yeah, um...
- What is it--
1201
00:48:07,944 --> 00:48:09,385
'Cause I'm--I'm gonna be
straight with you,
1202
00:48:09,536 --> 00:48:12,129
That was not a deal breaker
when we talked to him.
1203
00:48:12,223 --> 00:48:13,890
- Really?
- No!
1204
00:48:14,117 --> 00:48:15,282
Dude...
1205
00:48:15,301 --> 00:48:16,951
- That's important--very
important to me.
1206
00:48:16,969 --> 00:48:18,285
[quirky music]
1207
00:48:18,379 --> 00:48:19,620
I'm telling you, like,
that's huge.
1208
00:48:19,639 --> 00:48:20,804
- Why is it huge?
1209
00:48:20,957 --> 00:48:22,231
Help me understand.
1210
00:48:22,383 --> 00:48:23,399
- Because I just--it's
something that,
1211
00:48:23,550 --> 00:48:24,959
you know, when I have like, uh,
1212
00:48:25,052 --> 00:48:26,551
a level from my wife
and I expect,
1213
00:48:26,571 --> 00:48:27,811
like, hey, you know, you cook.
1214
00:48:27,964 --> 00:48:29,739
Like, we talked about it.
1215
00:48:29,890 --> 00:48:30,981
- Here's my thing.
1216
00:48:31,134 --> 00:48:32,557
'Cause, look, like,
1217
00:48:32,577 --> 00:48:35,060
30, 40, 50 years ago, okay fine.
1218
00:48:35,079 --> 00:48:35,986
You know,
that was the way it was.
1219
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:37,471
- No.
1220
00:48:37,564 --> 00:48:38,397
- You know what I'm sayin',
but--but--
1221
00:48:38,416 --> 00:48:39,974
- No.
1222
00:48:39,992 --> 00:48:43,068
- I don't want you to be
stuck in a time warp.
1223
00:48:43,087 --> 00:48:44,311
It's like--it's like--
- No, no.
1224
00:48:44,405 --> 00:48:45,813
I know it sounds like it,
but no.
1225
00:48:45,906 --> 00:48:46,905
- Do you understand
what I'm sayin'?
1226
00:48:46,925 --> 00:48:48,257
- Yeah, yeah, no, no--
1227
00:48:48,484 --> 00:48:49,741
- And I don't want people
to look at Olajuwon
1228
00:48:49,761 --> 00:48:51,485
and say Olajuwon
is a neanderthal,
1229
00:48:51,578 --> 00:48:53,245
Olajuwon wants a woman
to stay pregnant,
1230
00:48:53,264 --> 00:48:56,766
barefoot, and in the kitchen
cooking and making his babies.
1231
00:48:56,993 --> 00:48:58,008
- No, no, no, absolutely not.
- Is that what
1232
00:48:58,161 --> 00:48:59,176
we're talkin' about here?
- Absolutely not.
1233
00:48:59,328 --> 00:49:00,585
No, no, 'cause I--I say
to her too, like,
1234
00:49:00,605 --> 00:49:01,512
"Hey, I'mma cook some nights.
1235
00:49:01,606 --> 00:49:02,754
Like, I make it clear,
1236
00:49:02,774 --> 00:49:04,165
like, I get up in the morning.
1237
00:49:04,258 --> 00:49:06,000
I make us breakfast
every morning.
1238
00:49:06,018 --> 00:49:07,443
Like, no, she knows that.
1239
00:49:07,670 --> 00:49:09,779
Absolutely.
- Okay, all right, all right.
1240
00:49:10,006 --> 00:49:13,174
Do you feel
he's communicating to you well?
1241
00:49:13,267 --> 00:49:15,859
- No, so me--well, me and him,
1242
00:49:16,012 --> 00:49:18,028
yes and no.
- Okay,
1243
00:49:18,181 --> 00:49:20,456
Okay, and don't worry about
throwing him under the bus.
1244
00:49:20,683 --> 00:49:22,032
- No, I'm not.
- Don't trip about that, okay?
1245
00:49:22,185 --> 00:49:24,018
Because--because when--look,
1246
00:49:24,036 --> 00:49:26,128
when I saw the video of
you guys riding the horses.
1247
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:29,298
- Just relax, the horse knows,
it's been trained.
1248
00:49:29,525 --> 00:49:30,633
You're not the first person
to ride it,
1249
00:49:30,860 --> 00:49:31,968
you're not gonna be the last,
it's okay.
1250
00:49:32,119 --> 00:49:33,377
- Okay.
- If the horse
1251
00:49:33,471 --> 00:49:34,545
wanted to throw you,
he would've threw you
1252
00:49:34,639 --> 00:49:35,638
all the way back there.
- Don't say that.
1253
00:49:35,865 --> 00:49:37,881
- You were real nervous
and real scared.
1254
00:49:38,034 --> 00:49:39,124
- Mm-hmm.
- And he was like, "No,
1255
00:49:39,218 --> 00:49:40,384
just come on, come on, come on.
1256
00:49:40,536 --> 00:49:41,535
Just come on, come
on, come on."
1257
00:49:41,628 --> 00:49:42,886
And I said, "I don't like
the way
1258
00:49:43,039 --> 00:49:44,538
dude talkin' to her,
man, what the heck?"
1259
00:49:44,557 --> 00:49:46,540
I want to make sure that you
feel like
1260
00:49:46,559 --> 00:49:47,891
you're being heard.
- Mm-hmm.
1261
00:49:48,044 --> 00:49:49,710
- Do you feel like your opinions
1262
00:49:49,803 --> 00:49:50,987
are valuable
in this relationship?
1263
00:49:53,474 --> 00:49:55,140
- Yeah, I do.
1264
00:49:55,159 --> 00:49:57,384
I would say that his execution
1265
00:49:57,478 --> 00:49:59,386
is hard, that's what I'll say.
- Right.
1266
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:00,888
- I told him, I'm like,
"I don't deal
1267
00:50:00,981 --> 00:50:04,074
with men who speak to me
disrespectfully,"
1268
00:50:04,168 --> 00:50:06,651
so I made that clear to him.
- Good, good.
1269
00:50:06,671 --> 00:50:07,837
You do value her, am I right?
1270
00:50:07,988 --> 00:50:09,913
- Oh, she knows-- you know that.
1271
00:50:10,008 --> 00:50:11,507
Absolutely, I don't--
- Yeah, I feel like you do.
1272
00:50:11,734 --> 00:50:14,010
- I make it clear to her
every day,
1273
00:50:14,161 --> 00:50:15,678
you don't gotta question that,
she knows.
1274
00:50:15,829 --> 00:50:17,404
- Okay, you guys
1275
00:50:17,423 --> 00:50:20,758
have, uh... been intimate?
1276
00:50:20,852 --> 00:50:23,335
[quirky music]
1277
00:50:23,354 --> 00:50:24,520
- No.
1278
00:50:24,671 --> 00:50:25,855
- You have not?
- We have not.
1279
00:50:26,082 --> 00:50:28,415
Mm-mm.
1280
00:50:28,509 --> 00:50:29,341
- I don't know if
it was something
1281
00:50:29,435 --> 00:50:31,009
that was mutually agreed on or?
1282
00:50:31,103 --> 00:50:33,029
- Yeah, somewhat.
1283
00:50:33,180 --> 00:50:34,196
Yeah, I guess.
1284
00:50:34,348 --> 00:50:36,532
[laughter]
1285
00:50:36,759 --> 00:50:38,016
- Somewhat.
1286
00:50:38,036 --> 00:50:40,185
- I don't believe that at all.
1287
00:50:40,279 --> 00:50:43,447
Is it--is it really mutual?
1288
00:50:43,599 --> 00:50:44,948
- Well,
I think it's my decision.
1289
00:50:45,101 --> 00:50:46,934
- It's your decision?
- Yeah, man, yeah.
1290
00:50:47,027 --> 00:50:49,528
- Wow, why?
- Um, you know what it is,
1291
00:50:49,547 --> 00:50:50,529
I think too far.
1292
00:50:50,548 --> 00:50:52,106
Like, say if, like, later on,
1293
00:50:52,124 --> 00:50:53,457
if--like, if we start falling
off--
1294
00:50:53,551 --> 00:50:55,217
What if it don't work?
1295
00:50:55,369 --> 00:50:56,535
I don't want to look like--
- What--but--but that is--
1296
00:50:56,554 --> 00:50:58,128
That's what I was talking about.
1297
00:50:58,222 --> 00:50:59,446
What if it doesn't work?
1298
00:50:59,465 --> 00:51:00,556
That's what
I was trying to get at.
1299
00:51:00,783 --> 00:51:02,449
- You have to question it.
- No, you don't.
1300
00:51:02,468 --> 00:51:03,967
If it's like--if you said
1301
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:05,469
that this is a long term,
1302
00:51:05,621 --> 00:51:06,545
lifelong thing.
- Yeah.
1303
00:51:06,564 --> 00:51:08,455
- If it is, then there is
1304
00:51:08,474 --> 00:51:10,715
no such thing as
"what if it don't work?"
1305
00:51:10,735 --> 00:51:12,476
- Right.
1306
00:51:12,570 --> 00:51:14,236
- Because the moment you start
entertaining those thoughts,
1307
00:51:14,463 --> 00:51:16,313
"What if it don't work?
What if it don't work?"
1308
00:51:16,465 --> 00:51:17,648
You are
killing the relationship.
1309
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:19,558
- Okay.
- Because you're saying--
1310
00:51:19,577 --> 00:51:20,801
You're giving yourself an out.
1311
00:51:20,820 --> 00:51:23,895
[quiet music]
1312
00:51:23,915 --> 00:51:25,806
But if you say to her,
1313
00:51:25,899 --> 00:51:27,141
you know, I'd rather not--
1314
00:51:27,234 --> 00:51:28,567
I'd rather get
to know each other,
1315
00:51:28,586 --> 00:51:30,086
she could take that as though
1316
00:51:30,237 --> 00:51:33,572
you don't find her
sexually attractive.
1317
00:51:33,666 --> 00:51:34,906
Have you ever felt that way?
1318
00:51:34,926 --> 00:51:36,667
- Yeah, a little bit.
1319
00:51:36,819 --> 00:51:37,593
- Yeah.
- Mm-hmm.
1320
00:51:37,820 --> 00:51:39,336
- Yeah.
1321
00:51:39,488 --> 00:51:41,913
How do you respond to that?
1322
00:51:42,007 --> 00:51:43,006
- I think it's just crazy.
1323
00:51:43,159 --> 00:51:44,433
[chuckles]
- Why?
1324
00:51:44,585 --> 00:51:45,826
- Because she's beautiful.
1325
00:51:45,845 --> 00:51:47,494
She knows that.
1326
00:51:47,588 --> 00:51:49,087
I grab her
more than she touches me.
1327
00:51:49,181 --> 00:51:50,922
Like, she pulls back, like--
1328
00:51:51,016 --> 00:51:53,016
- That might be because
she doesn't feel as though--
1329
00:51:53,169 --> 00:51:54,259
- Secure.
- Secure.
1330
00:51:54,278 --> 00:51:55,853
Yeah, she doesn't feel secure.
1331
00:51:55,947 --> 00:51:57,262
- But that's--and I explained
to her I'm like, "Hey" --
1332
00:51:57,281 --> 00:51:59,022
- Explaining it is one thing.
1333
00:51:59,175 --> 00:52:00,783
- Yeah, I'm talkin'.
1334
00:52:00,934 --> 00:52:02,009
[chuckles]
- And talk is cheap.
1335
00:52:02,027 --> 00:52:03,619
- I know.
1336
00:52:03,846 --> 00:52:04,787
- Okay, but I don't wanna just--
1337
00:52:05,014 --> 00:52:06,363
- Especially when
she wants somethin' else.
1338
00:52:06,515 --> 00:52:08,607
[music fades out]
1339
00:52:08,626 --> 00:52:11,185
Y'all ain't gotta do it.
Don't let me--I'm not tryin'
1340
00:52:11,278 --> 00:52:12,853
to push y'all into the bed.
[laughter]
1341
00:52:12,872 --> 00:52:14,446
All right, 'cause look,
I got my own thing.
1342
00:52:14,465 --> 00:52:16,023
Y'know, y'all do you.
1343
00:52:16,041 --> 00:52:18,859
But my thing is--
1344
00:52:18,878 --> 00:52:20,377
I'm just sayin',
I'm just sayin'.
1345
00:52:20,529 --> 00:52:22,546
- I love it, I love it.
- If you want to have sex
1346
00:52:22,698 --> 00:52:24,214
as a married couple,
1347
00:52:24,367 --> 00:52:25,699
have sex.
- Okay.
1348
00:52:25,792 --> 00:52:27,792
- [laughs]
- I hereby,
1349
00:52:27,887 --> 00:52:29,553
by the power invested in me,
1350
00:52:29,705 --> 00:52:31,963
declare that you are
1351
00:52:31,983 --> 00:52:33,724
man and wife.
1352
00:52:33,818 --> 00:52:36,043
You can be married
1353
00:52:36,136 --> 00:52:38,395
and do the stuff
that married people do.
1354
00:52:38,547 --> 00:52:40,138
- I know.
- Okay.
1355
00:52:40,158 --> 00:52:41,473
- You gotta be vulnerable now.
1356
00:52:41,492 --> 00:52:43,217
- You worry--worry about you.
1357
00:52:43,235 --> 00:52:45,052
- [laughs] I know, it's time.
1358
00:52:45,070 --> 00:52:45,995
Pastor Cal
gave me the green light.
1359
00:52:50,393 --> 00:52:51,483
- ♪ Back and forth we go ♪
[laughter]
1360
00:52:51,577 --> 00:52:54,244
♪ Up and down we're so ♪
1361
00:52:54,397 --> 00:53:00,992
♪ ♪
1362
00:53:01,012 --> 00:53:02,160
- Hi.
1363
00:53:02,180 --> 00:53:05,088
- Hey.
1364
00:53:05,241 --> 00:53:07,016
How are the cats doin'?
1365
00:53:07,167 --> 00:53:08,075
- Fine.
- Yeah?
1366
00:53:08,093 --> 00:53:09,910
- Yeah.
1367
00:53:09,929 --> 00:53:13,080
[tense music]
1368
00:53:13,098 --> 00:53:19,987
♪ ♪
1369
00:53:22,849 --> 00:53:24,533
- I'm having a really
hard time with you, Mark.
1370
00:53:24,685 --> 00:53:27,778
I feel like I'm getting
two different versions of you.
1371
00:53:27,930 --> 00:53:29,780
Since the honeymoon,
1372
00:53:29,932 --> 00:53:32,115
and your phone
started blowing up
1373
00:53:32,268 --> 00:53:33,767
from Denise and your roommate,
1374
00:53:33,786 --> 00:53:37,529
I've watched you completely
shift your demeanor.
1375
00:53:37,548 --> 00:53:38,789
And I've just been
saying to you, like,
1376
00:53:38,941 --> 00:53:40,382
"Mark, I can see that
you're overwhelmed,
1377
00:53:40,534 --> 00:53:42,885
you gotta let me know
what you need."
1378
00:53:43,036 --> 00:53:45,612
And I don't think you've taken
one second to acknowledge that.
1379
00:53:45,631 --> 00:53:47,631
And it's frustrating for me.
1380
00:53:47,783 --> 00:53:49,950
- I don't think
I have two sides, I mean.
1381
00:53:49,969 --> 00:53:52,135
- I'm just telling you,
I'm seeing, like,
1382
00:53:52,288 --> 00:53:54,212
all these red flags
and I'm diving into you.
1383
00:53:54,232 --> 00:53:55,956
They're big ones for me.
1384
00:53:55,975 --> 00:53:58,141
- I see red flags and I'm
just taking it day by day
1385
00:53:58,294 --> 00:53:59,735
because it's early.
1386
00:53:59,886 --> 00:54:01,462
[music fades out]
1387
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:02,887
- [groans]
1388
00:54:02,982 --> 00:54:04,073
I just need Pastor Cal.
1389
00:54:04,224 --> 00:54:06,967
I--honestly, I'm not--
1390
00:54:06,986 --> 00:54:09,987
I need a moment to think about
what I want to say
1391
00:54:10,139 --> 00:54:12,473
because I'm frustrated
with you right now.
1392
00:54:12,491 --> 00:54:16,418
[tense music]
1393
00:54:16,570 --> 00:54:18,479
I literally--
- It's--it's fine.
1394
00:54:18,497 --> 00:54:21,148
- I just need a moment, please,
because I'm just...
1395
00:54:21,166 --> 00:54:22,649
- What do you want me to do?
- I don't know.
1396
00:54:22,668 --> 00:54:24,260
- Usually when you take a
moment, you usually walk away.
1397
00:54:24,411 --> 00:54:26,262
- No, you do,
you walk off to the cats.
1398
00:54:26,413 --> 00:54:28,764
Just, like, gimme a second
where you just don't talk to me.
1399
00:54:28,915 --> 00:54:30,081
That's what I need.
1400
00:54:30,101 --> 00:54:31,600
- No problem.
- I just need a second.
1401
00:54:31,752 --> 00:54:33,435
- Okay, take as much time.
- Thank you.
1402
00:54:36,757 --> 00:54:39,500
[music fades out]
1403
00:54:39,518 --> 00:54:43,779
- ♪ Never had a feeling
like this before ♪
1404
00:54:43,930 --> 00:54:45,506
- What's going on?
1405
00:54:45,524 --> 00:54:47,524
- All right, all right!
1406
00:54:47,618 --> 00:54:49,118
Now look at you!
1407
00:54:49,269 --> 00:54:50,935
So tell me a little bit
about how this thing has been.
1408
00:54:50,955 --> 00:54:53,013
How's it--
How's married life, guys?
1409
00:54:53,032 --> 00:54:55,516
- I mean, I just feel like
we hit the ground running,
1410
00:54:55,534 --> 00:54:57,776
really, you know?
1411
00:54:57,795 --> 00:54:59,369
She walked down the aisle,
one of my friends
1412
00:54:59,522 --> 00:55:00,945
just gave me the thumbs up.
1413
00:55:00,965 --> 00:55:02,113
From that point, I was like,
"All right, we're good."
1414
00:55:02,207 --> 00:55:03,357
Then I saw her, I'm like,
1415
00:55:03,375 --> 00:55:04,358
"All right,
we're definitely good."
1416
00:55:04,376 --> 00:55:05,542
And then ever since then--
1417
00:55:05,694 --> 00:55:06,877
- She's--she's pretty cute,
wasn't she?
1418
00:55:07,029 --> 00:55:09,138
- Yeah, she's beautiful,
and then on top of it,
1419
00:55:09,289 --> 00:55:12,549
from introverted-extrovert,
to we like dancing to music,
1420
00:55:12,701 --> 00:55:14,217
and it's just like, every time
something comes up,
1421
00:55:14,370 --> 00:55:15,477
it's like, "Oh, one more thing
1422
00:55:15,629 --> 00:55:16,870
that we have in common,"
you know, so...
1423
00:55:16,889 --> 00:55:19,222
- Sounds very cool.
- Yeah, it's pretty wild.
1424
00:55:19,375 --> 00:55:20,707
You guys did a good job.
- Definitely got it right.
1425
00:55:20,726 --> 00:55:22,726
- Yeah.
- Good, good, good.
1426
00:55:22,878 --> 00:55:24,227
What are some of the things
1427
00:55:24,380 --> 00:55:25,821
that you guys have talked about
up to this point?
1428
00:55:25,972 --> 00:55:28,973
I know it's only been just
less than two weeks, but...
1429
00:55:28,993 --> 00:55:32,402
- We talked about how many
children we'd like to have.
1430
00:55:32,555 --> 00:55:34,054
- Okay.
- So we definitely are on
1431
00:55:34,073 --> 00:55:35,980
the same page
about having children,
1432
00:55:36,075 --> 00:55:37,315
but the number of children
1433
00:55:37,335 --> 00:55:38,892
is a little bit different.
- All right.
1434
00:55:38,911 --> 00:55:40,151
Let's talk--let's
talk a little bit about
1435
00:55:40,171 --> 00:55:42,153
this whole kid thing
'cause I--I know
1436
00:55:42,173 --> 00:55:44,414
that you want three kids.
- I want three kids, yeah.
1437
00:55:44,508 --> 00:55:45,749
- Okay, and you?
1438
00:55:45,901 --> 00:55:47,084
- So I went into this--
1439
00:55:47,236 --> 00:55:48,344
Or I've been in my head
1440
00:55:48,571 --> 00:55:51,162
thinking two kids is
pretty ideal for me.
1441
00:55:51,182 --> 00:55:53,423
I kind of approached
her and was like,
1442
00:55:53,576 --> 00:55:55,333
the number of children,
you know,
1443
00:55:55,353 --> 00:55:58,261
shouldn't we,
to a degree, play it by ear?
1444
00:55:58,414 --> 00:56:00,022
We can target three, but what if
1445
00:56:00,173 --> 00:56:01,748
we get to two and realize,
1446
00:56:01,767 --> 00:56:04,026
you know, whether it's
the amount of resources,
1447
00:56:04,177 --> 00:56:06,010
love, time, energy.
1448
00:56:06,030 --> 00:56:07,588
Oh, it makes sense
to stick with two.
1449
00:56:07,606 --> 00:56:11,015
And she just kind of was
looking at me like...
1450
00:56:11,035 --> 00:56:12,442
Dead set on three.
1451
00:56:12,595 --> 00:56:13,760
For me, it's also like,
1452
00:56:13,779 --> 00:56:15,037
I've worked in
special needs before.
1453
00:56:15,188 --> 00:56:16,780
If a child requires more--
1454
00:56:16,874 --> 00:56:19,616
Even more energy than we had
planned, we can't just--
1455
00:56:19,768 --> 00:56:21,602
Oh, we gotta do three
because we said so, right?
1456
00:56:21,620 --> 00:56:24,046
You know, like,
you just--we just don't know,
1457
00:56:24,197 --> 00:56:25,789
there's so many unknowns.
- What do you think about that?
1458
00:56:25,941 --> 00:56:27,532
Or--or are you still
set in stone
1459
00:56:27,551 --> 00:56:30,794
that it must be three?
1460
00:56:30,946 --> 00:56:32,537
- There's a lot of things
that I will budge on
1461
00:56:32,631 --> 00:56:36,374
and that I will compromise on,
but this is something that I...
1462
00:56:36,394 --> 00:56:38,285
- You won't compromise?
- No.
1463
00:56:38,303 --> 00:56:40,637
[dramatic sting]
1464
00:56:40,789 --> 00:56:41,897
- You will not compromise
1465
00:56:42,048 --> 00:56:43,306
on three children?
1466
00:56:43,459 --> 00:56:44,975
- No.
[chuckles]
1467
00:56:45,127 --> 00:56:47,569
- Are you serious?
- Yeah.
1468
00:56:47,721 --> 00:56:50,054
I can't do it.
- Okay, you--you--
1469
00:56:50,074 --> 00:56:51,890
Okay, we have to
delve into this, Noi.
1470
00:56:51,984 --> 00:56:53,575
You have to tell me more.
1471
00:56:53,727 --> 00:56:56,561
- Yeah, I grew up with, like,
three children in my family.
1472
00:56:56,580 --> 00:56:58,229
And, like, most of my cousins
and everyone
1473
00:56:58,249 --> 00:56:59,973
have three kids in their family.
1474
00:56:59,992 --> 00:57:01,808
And it's
just worked really well.
1475
00:57:01,827 --> 00:57:04,811
So in my mind,
the perfect image of a family
1476
00:57:04,830 --> 00:57:05,979
is three kids.
- Is three kids.
1477
00:57:05,998 --> 00:57:08,148
- Yeah.
- What if you,
1478
00:57:08,167 --> 00:57:11,242
as he said,
there's a special needs kid
1479
00:57:11,262 --> 00:57:13,912
who requires the energy
of three children?
1480
00:57:13,931 --> 00:57:15,505
What if it takes a while
to have children?
1481
00:57:15,658 --> 00:57:16,748
- Mm-hmm.
1482
00:57:16,842 --> 00:57:18,508
What if it's not possible?
1483
00:57:18,602 --> 00:57:21,161
[dramatic sting]
1484
00:57:21,254 --> 00:57:22,253
Do you understand
what I'm saying?
1485
00:57:22,273 --> 00:57:23,997
How does that factor in your--
1486
00:57:24,016 --> 00:57:25,999
In your hopes and dreams?
1487
00:57:26,018 --> 00:57:28,168
- I mean, I hadn't
thought about that, but...
1488
00:57:28,187 --> 00:57:29,445
- Yeah, well,
that's why this analytical dude
1489
00:57:29,596 --> 00:57:30,446
is here to help you out,
1490
00:57:30,597 --> 00:57:31,947
you know?
- Yeah.
1491
00:57:32,098 --> 00:57:33,949
Because I understand,
1492
00:57:34,100 --> 00:57:36,009
people have ideas,
1493
00:57:36,028 --> 00:57:38,512
people, you know, have desires,
1494
00:57:38,530 --> 00:57:41,682
but you have to always
allow for possibilities.
1495
00:57:41,700 --> 00:57:43,107
- Mm-hmm.
1496
00:57:43,127 --> 00:57:44,943
- Have you guys
talked about finances?
1497
00:57:44,962 --> 00:57:46,795
- Yeah,
when we initially brought up
1498
00:57:46,947 --> 00:57:48,538
this conversation,
we were talking about children
1499
00:57:48,691 --> 00:57:50,299
and I said,
"Well, children are expensive.
1500
00:57:50,450 --> 00:57:52,526
"And I know you want kids
and that's wonderful,
1501
00:57:52,544 --> 00:57:54,528
but kids cost money,
they're expensive."
1502
00:57:54,546 --> 00:57:57,214
So, you know, that got
us into the conversation
1503
00:57:57,366 --> 00:57:59,958
about finances and
where he was at right now.
1504
00:57:59,977 --> 00:58:02,536
Like, what do you,
like, do for work?
1505
00:58:02,554 --> 00:58:04,387
- I worked as a sales engineer.
1506
00:58:04,540 --> 00:58:05,481
- Oh, cool.
- So that's what I was doing
1507
00:58:05,632 --> 00:58:07,040
prior to December.
1508
00:58:07,059 --> 00:58:10,043
Around that time,
there was a round of layoffs.
1509
00:58:10,062 --> 00:58:11,302
- Mm.
- So since then,
1510
00:58:11,322 --> 00:58:14,156
I actually went on
this huge road trip.
1511
00:58:14,307 --> 00:58:16,399
And then I was gonna figure
out what I was doing next.
1512
00:58:16,552 --> 00:58:18,735
- It's a little scary for me.
1513
00:58:18,829 --> 00:58:20,829
If I'm being honest.
- Why--and it's scary because?
1514
00:58:21,056 --> 00:58:22,981
- It's scary for me because
I don't want
1515
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:24,574
to have to worry about money.
1516
00:58:24,727 --> 00:58:26,409
Yeah.
1517
00:58:26,562 --> 00:58:28,653
- That's because you grew up--
1518
00:58:28,672 --> 00:58:29,746
I think we talked about that.
1519
00:58:29,898 --> 00:58:31,340
- Mm-hmm.
- You--you--
1520
00:58:31,491 --> 00:58:32,674
You guys struggled.
1521
00:58:32,826 --> 00:58:34,735
- Yeah.
- Yeah, yeah.
1522
00:58:34,753 --> 00:58:37,404
And that--that's kind
of a sensitive thing for you.
1523
00:58:37,422 --> 00:58:39,998
That's why you work so hard.
1524
00:58:40,017 --> 00:58:43,334
- Yeah, and we
touched on it a little bit,
1525
00:58:43,354 --> 00:58:44,745
but I didn't--he doesn't know,
1526
00:58:44,763 --> 00:58:46,763
like, the full extent of,
like, how I grew up.
1527
00:58:46,915 --> 00:58:48,506
- Yeah.
1528
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:50,692
- Growing up without a lot
1529
00:58:50,844 --> 00:58:53,177
and in a refugee camp, I mean,
1530
00:58:53,197 --> 00:58:56,031
it impacts you
on such a deep level.
1531
00:58:56,182 --> 00:58:59,593
We didn't have running water,
I had two shirts.
1532
00:58:59,611 --> 00:59:01,928
And for a while, my parents
and my two siblings
1533
00:59:01,947 --> 00:59:05,023
and myself
struggled quite a bit.
1534
00:59:05,042 --> 00:59:06,433
I mean, to be honest, though,
1535
00:59:06,451 --> 00:59:08,877
I mean, it is a trigger
for me a little bit.
1536
00:59:09,029 --> 00:59:11,438
- I want you to do me a favor.
I want you to talk to him.
1537
00:59:11,456 --> 00:59:13,273
Okay, I know you're talking
to me, but let's--
1538
00:59:13,292 --> 00:59:14,624
Let's break the wall--
Break the barrier here.
1539
00:59:14,777 --> 00:59:16,126
Tell him about how you feel
1540
00:59:16,278 --> 00:59:20,447
about why this is important
as far as finances.
1541
00:59:20,465 --> 00:59:23,800
Talk to him, tell him why.
1542
00:59:23,952 --> 00:59:25,135
- I mean, it just scares me.
1543
00:59:25,229 --> 00:59:27,120
[quiet music]
1544
00:59:27,139 --> 00:59:28,880
That, like--
1545
00:59:28,899 --> 00:59:32,642
Like, I don't want my kids
to worry about money, you know?
1546
00:59:32,736 --> 00:59:35,312
And I don't want to have,
like, financial instability.
1547
00:59:35,464 --> 00:59:38,298
So it scares me a little bit.
1548
00:59:38,317 --> 00:59:39,966
- Those were really
tough times for you guys.
1549
00:59:39,985 --> 00:59:42,135
- Yeah.
1550
00:59:42,154 --> 00:59:46,139
[quiet music continues]
1551
00:59:46,158 --> 00:59:47,657
- Yeah.
1552
00:59:47,810 --> 00:59:49,993
[music fades out]
1553
00:59:50,145 --> 00:59:51,587
- You know, I've explained
the opportunities
1554
00:59:51,738 --> 00:59:54,648
that I currently have
with self-employment, you know,
1555
00:59:54,666 --> 00:59:57,926
from website design,
logo design and photography,
1556
00:59:58,078 --> 00:59:59,243
but I have options,
1557
00:59:59,263 --> 01:00:00,596
like, I have--you know,
as far as, like,
1558
01:00:00,747 --> 01:00:02,246
making money goes.
1559
01:00:02,266 --> 01:00:03,840
I'll always
be able to make money.
1560
01:00:03,934 --> 01:00:05,342
The next step is
1561
01:00:05,436 --> 01:00:07,828
getting back into my career
to just have a stable
1562
01:00:07,921 --> 01:00:09,587
steady source of income.
- Yeah.
1563
01:00:09,681 --> 01:00:11,923
- Like, I hear, you know,
1564
01:00:11,942 --> 01:00:13,516
all these things, but, you know.
1565
01:00:13,669 --> 01:00:16,503
- She doesn't have the luxury
1566
01:00:16,521 --> 01:00:18,429
of being as free-wheeling
1567
01:00:18,523 --> 01:00:20,282
as you are.
- Mm-hmm.
1568
01:00:20,433 --> 01:00:23,601
- Because she has that past
that's sort of pushing her.
1569
01:00:23,621 --> 01:00:26,196
So when you get
into a relationship
1570
01:00:26,348 --> 01:00:28,181
with someone with her history,
1571
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:32,869
she needs a plan.
1572
01:00:33,021 --> 01:00:34,796
She needs to know that this--
1573
01:00:34,948 --> 01:00:36,965
This great guy
that I've married,
1574
01:00:37,117 --> 01:00:39,117
he's going to provide.
1575
01:00:39,136 --> 01:00:42,638
- Now that I'm a married man,
I do
1576
01:00:42,789 --> 01:00:44,806
need to make sure
that my wife is happy
1577
01:00:44,958 --> 01:00:47,534
and feels secure
in our situation.
1578
01:00:47,552 --> 01:00:50,370
But if I start a new
full-time position,
1579
01:00:50,389 --> 01:00:52,055
at the end of the day,
would I really have
1580
01:00:52,207 --> 01:00:55,466
that much time and energy
to dream or create?
1581
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,727
That's everything to me.
1582
01:00:57,880 --> 01:00:59,637
So I don't know if
1583
01:00:59,657 --> 01:01:01,305
I'm willing
to make those sacrifices.
1584
01:01:01,325 --> 01:01:02,883
I don't know.
1585
01:01:02,901 --> 01:01:05,827
[tense music]
1586
01:01:09,741 --> 01:01:10,666
- ♪ I don't wanna love ♪
1587
01:01:10,817 --> 01:01:11,833
♪ I don't wanna love ♪
1588
01:01:11,985 --> 01:01:13,393
♪ I don't wanna love ♪
1589
01:01:13,486 --> 01:01:15,653
♪ I don't wanna love you ♪
1590
01:01:15,673 --> 01:01:18,231
[knocking at door]
1591
01:01:18,250 --> 01:01:19,733
♪ But I do ♪
1592
01:01:19,751 --> 01:01:21,401
- Push this in.
1593
01:01:21,494 --> 01:01:22,511
- Hey.
- Hey, what's up, Mark?
1594
01:01:22,662 --> 01:01:23,586
- How are you?
1595
01:01:23,681 --> 01:01:24,587
- How're you doing, man?
1596
01:01:24,682 --> 01:01:25,997
- I'm all right.
1597
01:01:26,016 --> 01:01:27,349
I'm okay. [laughs]
1598
01:01:27,500 --> 01:01:28,408
You're lookin' sharp.
1599
01:01:28,427 --> 01:01:29,576
Come on in.
1600
01:01:29,669 --> 01:01:31,186
- How you feelin'?
- Okay.
1601
01:01:31,337 --> 01:01:33,004
- All right,
all right, all right.
1602
01:01:33,023 --> 01:01:33,930
Is that her out there
on the balcony?
1603
01:01:34,082 --> 01:01:35,265
- Yeah.
1604
01:01:35,417 --> 01:01:36,507
She needed a--a minute.
1605
01:01:36,527 --> 01:01:37,526
- What's going on?
1606
01:01:37,677 --> 01:01:40,270
- It's been a bumpy patch.
1607
01:01:40,364 --> 01:01:42,013
- Oh, boy.
1608
01:01:42,032 --> 01:01:45,367
[quiet music]
1609
01:01:45,518 --> 01:01:47,427
Hey, Lindsey.
1610
01:01:47,520 --> 01:01:49,279
Sweetie, it's so--
- Hey, sorry.
1611
01:01:49,373 --> 01:01:50,521
- So close out there.
- I was doing my little--
1612
01:01:50,615 --> 01:01:51,873
A little meditation.
1613
01:01:52,100 --> 01:01:52,949
- That's okay,
I hate to interrupt you.
1614
01:01:53,043 --> 01:01:54,042
- Welcome to my home.
1615
01:01:54,194 --> 01:01:55,359
- Okay, well, let's sit down,
1616
01:01:55,454 --> 01:01:56,545
we can talk.
- Okay.
1617
01:01:56,772 --> 01:01:58,288
- Yeah, come on.
- Okay, I'll come in.
1618
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:01,699
- My communication
problem with Lindsey is
1619
01:02:01,793 --> 01:02:05,887
the way she says things,
it turns me off because it's--
1620
01:02:06,114 --> 01:02:08,372
It's like it's condescending,
I guess.
1621
01:02:08,392 --> 01:02:10,374
I know it's not meant to be
that way,
1622
01:02:10,394 --> 01:02:13,636
but it's just her impulse
reaction to something
1623
01:02:13,789 --> 01:02:15,397
and she just goes that route.
1624
01:02:15,624 --> 01:02:18,233
So I think
it's good to have, for us,
1625
01:02:18,384 --> 01:02:22,312
a healthy, professional mediator
1626
01:02:22,464 --> 01:02:25,407
to really listen
to our concerns.
1627
01:02:25,558 --> 01:02:26,967
And maybe if another individual
1628
01:02:26,985 --> 01:02:28,243
can add their two cents
1629
01:02:28,470 --> 01:02:30,804
to each of us,
maybe something will click.
1630
01:02:30,822 --> 01:02:32,897
- Talk to me,
tell me how things are going.
1631
01:02:32,991 --> 01:02:35,083
[music fades out]
1632
01:02:35,235 --> 01:02:36,476
- I was really open and honest
1633
01:02:36,569 --> 01:02:37,919
with you day one,
on the wedding night,
1634
01:02:38,146 --> 01:02:40,146
and we just laid
all our cards out there.
1635
01:02:40,165 --> 01:02:42,740
And I was like, I love this.
1636
01:02:42,834 --> 01:02:45,910
He's open, he's vulnerable,
we're gonna figure this out.
1637
01:02:46,004 --> 01:02:49,097
I still think this is meant
to be a beautiful marriage.
1638
01:02:49,324 --> 01:02:52,175
What I'm seeing
is you not giving me
1639
01:02:52,269 --> 01:02:54,327
the best version of you.
1640
01:02:54,346 --> 01:02:56,438
And you don't see that,
and that frustrates me.
1641
01:02:58,834 --> 01:03:00,942
I've literally just tried
to, like,
1642
01:03:01,169 --> 01:03:04,687
help you where I think
you need help.
1643
01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:08,008
- I get it.
So there's a lot going on here.
1644
01:03:08,026 --> 01:03:09,676
- I think that you're not
1645
01:03:09,769 --> 01:03:11,269
processing these changes well,
1646
01:03:11,288 --> 01:03:13,604
and you went from
1647
01:03:13,624 --> 01:03:16,107
sharing your fears
and concerns with me
1648
01:03:16,201 --> 01:03:18,368
and us having sex to you not
even wanting to hold my hand
1649
01:03:18,520 --> 01:03:19,795
or be affectionate with me.
1650
01:03:20,022 --> 01:03:21,688
Don't roll your eyes.
That's how I feel.
1651
01:03:21,781 --> 01:03:23,523
That's exactly what I'm feeling.
1652
01:03:23,616 --> 01:03:24,800
- Just let her get it all out.
- Okay.
1653
01:03:25,027 --> 01:03:26,209
- Please.
- And I'm telling you that,
1654
01:03:26,361 --> 01:03:28,452
and I'm telling you
my feelings are hurt
1655
01:03:28,472 --> 01:03:31,031
because you went from
all to nothing.
1656
01:03:31,049 --> 01:03:32,957
I'm so insulted
1657
01:03:33,051 --> 01:03:34,476
and offended by you.
1658
01:03:34,627 --> 01:03:36,886
I'm so mad right now.
1659
01:03:37,039 --> 01:03:38,872
I literally cannot talk to you.
1660
01:03:38,890 --> 01:03:40,707
I need to take a moment
1661
01:03:40,725 --> 01:03:42,466
because I'm furious
and you're [bleep] clueless,
1662
01:03:42,561 --> 01:03:45,378
and it makes me so mad.
1663
01:03:45,397 --> 01:03:46,655
Work on us.
1664
01:03:48,567 --> 01:03:51,234
- I'ma tell you something.
1665
01:03:51,328 --> 01:03:53,069
You're afraid.
1666
01:03:53,221 --> 01:03:54,387
- Of...
1667
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:56,314
- You're afraid
to say things to her.
1668
01:03:56,333 --> 01:03:57,982
- 'Cause I don't--
I just met her,
1669
01:03:58,076 --> 01:03:59,409
so when I don't know somebody,
1670
01:03:59,561 --> 01:04:01,169
I don't really speak up
at times.
1671
01:04:01,396 --> 01:04:03,487
- Yeah, I hear you.
- Get over it, man.
1672
01:04:03,507 --> 01:04:05,156
I'm here, just tell me.
- But that's great
1673
01:04:05,175 --> 01:04:07,067
that you feel that way--
That's how you feel.
1674
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:09,010
That's not how I work inside.
1675
01:04:09,237 --> 01:04:11,179
- Okay, let's talk about
how you work inside.
1676
01:04:11,331 --> 01:04:13,331
- Okay. So...
1677
01:04:13,425 --> 01:04:15,258
I meet you at the wedding,
1678
01:04:15,352 --> 01:04:17,911
and a lot of excitement,
1679
01:04:17,929 --> 01:04:21,857
different than what
I've ever seen in a girl.
1680
01:04:22,008 --> 01:04:24,267
And I'm kinda like,
"She's a lot."
1681
01:04:24,419 --> 01:04:26,102
But then we talk all night,
1682
01:04:26,254 --> 01:04:28,530
we let out everything that we
were maybe shy to talk about,
1683
01:04:28,757 --> 01:04:30,106
let it out.
1684
01:04:30,258 --> 01:04:32,759
We have an interim moment,
and it felt great.
1685
01:04:32,852 --> 01:04:36,020
And then...
the situation on the plane
1686
01:04:36,039 --> 01:04:37,597
threw me off.
1687
01:04:37,616 --> 01:04:39,616
Showed me a side of you
that I didn't like.
1688
01:04:39,710 --> 01:04:41,525
And then the honeymoon--
1689
01:04:41,545 --> 01:04:44,028
Another interim moment,
and I felt like...
1690
01:04:44,047 --> 01:04:45,547
it was just a different
connection I felt.
1691
01:04:47,217 --> 01:04:48,791
So I thought I'd be open
and honest with you
1692
01:04:48,886 --> 01:04:51,611
because...
1693
01:04:51,630 --> 01:04:53,221
[sighs]
1694
01:04:53,373 --> 01:04:56,116
- Take a sec.
You want some water?
1695
01:04:56,134 --> 01:04:57,967
- No. I need you to speak.
Go ahead, what is it?
1696
01:04:58,120 --> 01:04:59,561
- [sighs]
1697
01:04:59,712 --> 01:05:02,230
- It's okay.
- I respect her enough
1698
01:05:02,457 --> 01:05:04,624
to tell her
that I have to go slow.
1699
01:05:04,643 --> 01:05:07,460
♪ ♪
1700
01:05:07,553 --> 01:05:09,295
And I try to say that to her,
1701
01:05:09,314 --> 01:05:11,314
and then when--
1702
01:05:11,408 --> 01:05:14,317
[somber music]
1703
01:05:14,469 --> 01:05:18,580
♪ ♪
1704
01:05:18,731 --> 01:05:20,640
I didn't do that
to-to-to just do it.
1705
01:05:20,659 --> 01:05:22,308
I felt something that night.
1706
01:05:22,402 --> 01:05:23,901
- Yeah.
- But when it happened
1707
01:05:23,921 --> 01:05:25,478
the second time and third time,
I felt something was off
1708
01:05:25,497 --> 01:05:27,923
for both of us.
1709
01:05:28,074 --> 01:05:30,650
And sex is great, but...
1710
01:05:30,669 --> 01:05:33,653
if I don't feel myself,
I can't just do it.
1711
01:05:33,672 --> 01:05:36,097
♪ ♪
1712
01:05:36,324 --> 01:05:38,749
You coming with affection,
it's-its--
1713
01:05:38,769 --> 01:05:41,252
I appreciate it,
but sometimes it's too much.
1714
01:05:41,346 --> 01:05:42,829
When I'm already
bothered inside,
1715
01:05:42,922 --> 01:05:45,999
it's so much, it pushes me away.
1716
01:05:46,017 --> 01:05:48,777
At times I feel like
I'm not in my own skin.
1717
01:05:49,004 --> 01:05:51,947
I've seen you poke,
and it makes me uncomfortable,
1718
01:05:52,174 --> 01:05:54,449
so I don't poke you,
I just shut my mouth.
1719
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:56,267
- How does it feel
1720
01:05:56,286 --> 01:05:58,678
to hear him say he's afraid
to express things to you?
1721
01:05:58,697 --> 01:06:01,790
- Ugh... honestly,
1722
01:06:01,941 --> 01:06:04,608
it feels like I never gave him
a reason to feel that way.
1723
01:06:04,703 --> 01:06:06,628
- Lindsey, come on.
1724
01:06:06,779 --> 01:06:07,796
Come on, hon.
1725
01:06:10,025 --> 01:06:11,633
- Oh, God, let me define
the bull[bleep].
1726
01:06:11,860 --> 01:06:15,545
Let me think.
- Lindsey, sweetheart.
1727
01:06:15,697 --> 01:06:18,289
I see what he's saying.
- I don't even know
1728
01:06:18,308 --> 01:06:19,957
what he said--it was just
a run-on sentence.
1729
01:06:19,977 --> 01:06:23,219
[dramatic music]
1730
01:06:23,371 --> 01:06:25,647
♪ ♪
1731
01:06:29,561 --> 01:06:30,226
[tense music]
1732
01:06:30,378 --> 01:06:31,152
- Lindsey.
1733
01:06:31,304 --> 01:06:32,803
Come on. Come on, hon.
1734
01:06:32,823 --> 01:06:35,398
- Oh, God, let me define
the bull[bleep].
1735
01:06:35,550 --> 01:06:37,734
Let me think.
- Lindsey,
1736
01:06:37,886 --> 01:06:39,810
I see what he's saying.
- I don't even know
1737
01:06:39,830 --> 01:06:42,313
what he said--it was just
a run-on sentence.
1738
01:06:42,332 --> 01:06:45,074
[tense music]
1739
01:06:45,227 --> 01:06:46,576
♪ ♪
1740
01:06:46,728 --> 01:06:48,728
- Lindsey, this is what
I need you to hear.
1741
01:06:48,747 --> 01:06:51,064
You're very intelligent.
You're very sharp.
1742
01:06:51,157 --> 01:06:54,067
And you speak what you think,
1743
01:06:54,085 --> 01:06:57,237
and you speak what you feel
sometimes without filter.
1744
01:06:57,255 --> 01:06:58,680
- Absolutely.
- Okay?
1745
01:06:58,907 --> 01:07:04,335
Now, where you've worn that
as a badge of honor,
1746
01:07:04,429 --> 01:07:07,096
sometimes it's not.
1747
01:07:07,190 --> 01:07:08,839
- I agree with you.
- You agree with that, right?
1748
01:07:08,859 --> 01:07:10,750
- Absolutely.
- The no filter's
1749
01:07:10,769 --> 01:07:13,695
different than how I am--
It's not the same energy.
1750
01:07:13,846 --> 01:07:15,922
It's not bad.
It's very different.
1751
01:07:15,940 --> 01:07:17,590
- It's very different, yeah.
1752
01:07:17,683 --> 01:07:19,034
- There's nothing bad about you.
1753
01:07:19,261 --> 01:07:20,684
Everything comes from
a good place.
1754
01:07:20,704 --> 01:07:23,263
I've said that every day.
I said that on the honeymoon,
1755
01:07:23,356 --> 01:07:24,688
I said it every day.
- Hear that.
1756
01:07:24,708 --> 01:07:27,024
- It's how your filter
is not my filter,
1757
01:07:27,118 --> 01:07:30,027
and it's very awkward for me
sometimes in the situation,
1758
01:07:30,121 --> 01:07:32,547
'cause it's not how I go about
the way I present myself.
1759
01:07:32,698 --> 01:07:34,198
- We knew when we put you
together,
1760
01:07:34,292 --> 01:07:35,775
you both were a lot.
1761
01:07:35,794 --> 01:07:37,886
We knew that you were a lot.
1762
01:07:38,113 --> 01:07:39,888
But you needed somebody
who's a lot.
1763
01:07:40,039 --> 01:07:41,631
- Yeah, I was very clear
about that.
1764
01:07:41,783 --> 01:07:43,132
I said that.
- You were very clear about it.
1765
01:07:43,226 --> 01:07:45,134
- I was like, "I'm a lot.
I need a stable guy."
1766
01:07:45,228 --> 01:07:47,545
- If you had somebody
who was very weak and mousy,
1767
01:07:47,564 --> 01:07:49,213
you would have run
right over him.
1768
01:07:49,232 --> 01:07:51,048
- Absolutely.
- We knew that you were
1769
01:07:51,068 --> 01:07:54,143
Mark the Shark.
You were larger than life.
1770
01:07:54,296 --> 01:07:55,628
And you needed somebody
1771
01:07:55,721 --> 01:07:57,297
who was going to meet you
where you are.
1772
01:07:57,315 --> 01:07:59,074
You wanted somebody who was
going to be affectionate,
1773
01:07:59,301 --> 01:08:01,242
be emotional,
because you never felt
1774
01:08:01,469 --> 01:08:03,060
you never got that back
from women.
1775
01:08:03,080 --> 01:08:04,804
Hello!
- Yeah.
1776
01:08:04,823 --> 01:08:06,414
- This is what you both got.
1777
01:08:09,494 --> 01:08:12,145
- Be careful what you wish for.
- Hey, this is what you got.
1778
01:08:12,163 --> 01:08:13,479
This is what you asked for.
1779
01:08:13,498 --> 01:08:15,239
So now here's the question.
1780
01:08:15,258 --> 01:08:17,317
Because you're getting
what you asked for,
1781
01:08:17,410 --> 01:08:19,669
now how do we make this work?
1782
01:08:19,821 --> 01:08:21,988
♪ ♪
1783
01:08:22,006 --> 01:08:25,749
Mark, tell her what is it
that you need from her.
1784
01:08:25,844 --> 01:08:27,660
- I--
- Eyes up here.
1785
01:08:27,679 --> 01:08:30,513
- I need you to just...
1786
01:08:30,665 --> 01:08:32,515
sometimes let me
get through things
1787
01:08:32,667 --> 01:08:34,684
the way I normally
can get through things
1788
01:08:34,836 --> 01:08:36,945
without trying to do it for me.
1789
01:08:37,172 --> 01:08:39,355
If I need your help,
I know you're there.
1790
01:08:39,449 --> 01:08:41,858
I feel that it's difficult
for you to do that.
1791
01:08:41,952 --> 01:08:43,267
- You do have to let him
1792
01:08:43,286 --> 01:08:44,768
fix some things on his own.
- Absolutely.
1793
01:08:44,788 --> 01:08:47,029
I told him, for sure.
- And not take over his life.
1794
01:08:47,182 --> 01:08:48,957
But did you hear what he said
a moment ago?
1795
01:08:49,184 --> 01:08:51,626
He said, "I don't feel like
I'm in my own skin."
1796
01:08:51,777 --> 01:08:53,536
- I know, and I see that.
- Lindsey,
1797
01:08:53,688 --> 01:08:56,539
but you don't want that!
- No, and I see that.
1798
01:08:56,633 --> 01:08:58,782
I just want you to see that.
- You don't want your husband
1799
01:08:58,802 --> 01:09:02,028
to feel like he's being
smothered or being inhabited.
1800
01:09:02,121 --> 01:09:04,213
That he's being taken over by
1801
01:09:04,366 --> 01:09:05,789
by an alien!
- Also he's not in his own skin
1802
01:09:05,809 --> 01:09:07,867
because he's been plucked
out of his comfort
1803
01:09:07,960 --> 01:09:09,793
and put into this--
- No. Because--no,
1804
01:09:09,813 --> 01:09:11,813
he feels like he's not
in his own skin
1805
01:09:12,040 --> 01:09:14,816
because he feels as though
you are taking him over.
1806
01:09:15,043 --> 01:09:16,634
- Is that what you feel?
- Yeah, yeah.
1807
01:09:16,653 --> 01:09:17,894
- 'Cause I feel like
you're not in own skin
1808
01:09:18,046 --> 01:09:19,154
'cause you're in chaos.
- No! No!
1809
01:09:19,305 --> 01:09:20,638
- Listen to what
he's saying here.
1810
01:09:20,657 --> 01:09:23,883
Because you know you're a lot,
all right?
1811
01:09:23,976 --> 01:09:27,069
You have to give yourself
to him in doses.
1812
01:09:27,164 --> 01:09:30,331
He needs time to at least
process what you've done
1813
01:09:30,558 --> 01:09:33,059
or process,
and then you pull back,
1814
01:09:33,077 --> 01:09:37,172
let him process that,
then you can move forward.
1815
01:09:37,323 --> 01:09:38,631
What is it that you need
from him?
1816
01:09:41,069 --> 01:09:42,752
- You need to put gas
in your tank.
1817
01:09:42,904 --> 01:09:44,995
There's a difference between
pulling back
1818
01:09:45,015 --> 01:09:46,406
and pulling out,
and I'm telling you,
1819
01:09:46,499 --> 01:09:48,183
I feel like you've pulled out.
1820
01:09:48,334 --> 01:09:51,502
- Yeah, she needs to be
affirmed.
1821
01:09:51,596 --> 01:09:52,929
- Thank you. That's it.
1822
01:09:53,023 --> 01:09:54,096
- And she needs to know
that you're still in it.
1823
01:09:54,249 --> 01:09:56,933
- It's a marathon, not a sprint.
1824
01:09:57,085 --> 01:09:58,676
- It is, but understand,
marathon and sprint,
1825
01:09:58,695 --> 01:10:00,344
you both are at least running.
- Right.
1826
01:10:00,438 --> 01:10:01,921
Just at different speeds.
1827
01:10:02,014 --> 01:10:03,773
Okay? But you're both running.
1828
01:10:03,867 --> 01:10:05,533
- Right.
- Understand
1829
01:10:05,685 --> 01:10:07,184
that she's coming to you
1830
01:10:07,204 --> 01:10:09,204
from a very pure,
1831
01:10:09,355 --> 01:10:10,872
loving place.
1832
01:10:11,023 --> 01:10:13,433
- You can't hold yourself back
'cause you're afraid
1833
01:10:13,451 --> 01:10:16,211
of what I'm gonna react to.
1834
01:10:16,438 --> 01:10:18,604
You're not giving me
a fair chance at that point.
1835
01:10:18,623 --> 01:10:21,198
And you're not giving yourself
a fair chance, truly.
1836
01:10:21,218 --> 01:10:23,534
Give me the benefit
of the doubt.
1837
01:10:23,628 --> 01:10:25,220
- That's a benefit.
1838
01:10:25,447 --> 01:10:28,781
Our spouses are supposed to
benefit us.
1839
01:10:28,874 --> 01:10:31,559
You're saying
that she's a lot, okay?
1840
01:10:31,786 --> 01:10:33,636
And I'm not gonna lie.
She is a lot.
1841
01:10:33,788 --> 01:10:35,805
Accept the fact
that she's a lot.
1842
01:10:35,957 --> 01:10:39,809
- ♪ So you found me
deep in the water ♪
1843
01:10:39,903 --> 01:10:43,053
- Are you willing to deal with
the lot that she is?
1844
01:10:43,073 --> 01:10:45,298
- I went into this process
knowing that
1845
01:10:45,316 --> 01:10:47,650
I don't know the person,
but there's all the layers
1846
01:10:47,802 --> 01:10:50,561
I'm gonna peel back
and get to know them.
1847
01:10:50,655 --> 01:10:52,580
She has a lot to give,
1848
01:10:52,807 --> 01:10:55,733
and I appreciate her
being so supportive.
1849
01:10:55,827 --> 01:10:57,493
But I think the difficulty is
1850
01:10:57,645 --> 01:10:59,979
whether it's Cal or Pepper or V,
1851
01:11:00,072 --> 01:11:01,739
they're not living here
day-to-day.
1852
01:11:01,758 --> 01:11:04,484
There's a lot of time
that no one's around
1853
01:11:04,502 --> 01:11:06,744
and conversations get had
and things get said
1854
01:11:06,838 --> 01:11:08,746
that triggers me.
1855
01:11:08,765 --> 01:11:10,765
Then you're gonna keep on
taking losses
1856
01:11:10,916 --> 01:11:13,342
if you don't speak up and say
I'm tired of things.
1857
01:11:13,436 --> 01:11:15,252
Things need to change.
1858
01:11:15,346 --> 01:11:18,180
- ♪ Deep in the water ♪
1859
01:11:18,333 --> 01:11:22,259
♪ ♪
1860
01:11:22,279 --> 01:11:26,339
- ♪ Overflow ♪
1861
01:11:26,357 --> 01:11:29,675
♪ ♪
1862
01:11:29,694 --> 01:11:33,362
♪ Overflow ♪
1863
01:11:33,515 --> 01:11:36,866
♪ ♪
1864
01:11:36,960 --> 01:11:40,686
♪ Overflow ♪
1865
01:11:40,705 --> 01:11:41,854
- Hey, how are you?
- Good, how are you?
1866
01:11:41,873 --> 01:11:43,631
- Good.
1867
01:11:43,783 --> 01:11:45,282
- ♪ Overflow ♪
1868
01:11:45,376 --> 01:11:46,859
- How was the drive?
1869
01:11:46,878 --> 01:11:50,621
- Oh, well, traffic, but...
1870
01:11:50,715 --> 01:11:52,715
not too bad.
- Yeah.
1871
01:11:52,809 --> 01:11:54,383
Pastor Cal said he's probably
gonna be here soon,
1872
01:11:54,477 --> 01:11:57,036
so any minute, probably.
1873
01:11:57,055 --> 01:11:58,313
[knock on door]
1874
01:12:00,817 --> 01:12:02,817
Hi. How are you, sir?
1875
01:12:03,044 --> 01:12:05,044
- How you doing, buddy?
- Good to see you.
1876
01:12:05,137 --> 01:12:08,156
- How are you all?
- We're doing.
1877
01:12:08,383 --> 01:12:09,732
- Well, you're doing,
you're doing.
1878
01:12:09,826 --> 01:12:11,159
- [laughs]
1879
01:12:11,310 --> 01:12:13,811
- We want a little better
than that.
1880
01:12:13,830 --> 01:12:15,663
Hi, guys.
- Hi.
1881
01:12:15,815 --> 01:12:18,649
- Hi. How are you?
1882
01:12:18,668 --> 01:12:20,393
- I'm good.
Here's another question.
1883
01:12:20,411 --> 01:12:23,229
How are you?
1884
01:12:23,247 --> 01:12:25,565
- That's a good question.
- Oh, yeah, I know, I know.
1885
01:12:25,583 --> 01:12:28,568
I know there's been some...
some trouble in paradise.
1886
01:12:28,586 --> 01:12:30,828
Major, major, major issues.
1887
01:12:30,847 --> 01:12:33,239
Tell me your assessment
of everything that's going on
1888
01:12:33,257 --> 01:12:35,165
in your marriage right now.
1889
01:12:35,259 --> 01:12:36,592
- The big picture headline
1890
01:12:36,686 --> 01:12:39,002
is that...
1891
01:12:39,022 --> 01:12:42,690
Alyssa, I think,
from the wedding night,
1892
01:12:42,917 --> 01:12:45,585
she thinks, I think,
from the few days after,
1893
01:12:45,603 --> 01:12:48,529
has no interest
in being married to me.
1894
01:12:48,756 --> 01:12:50,256
She said that we're not
compatible,
1895
01:12:50,349 --> 01:12:52,182
she's used the phrase
"robbed, gypped,"
1896
01:12:52,202 --> 01:12:55,519
and it started the night
of the wedding.
1897
01:12:55,613 --> 01:12:57,020
- What about you, Alyssa?
1898
01:12:57,040 --> 01:13:00,266
When did you first feel
disappointed?
1899
01:13:00,284 --> 01:13:02,101
- Mm-hmm.
1900
01:13:02,194 --> 01:13:03,953
You know, when I first saw him,
1901
01:13:04,047 --> 01:13:05,955
I was like, okay, I don't
think that that's like
1902
01:13:06,107 --> 01:13:08,049
my physical type.
[sniffling]
1903
01:13:08,276 --> 01:13:10,551
I could have walked away
then, but I didn't.
1904
01:13:10,703 --> 01:13:13,279
Because, you know,
I was like, okay,
1905
01:13:13,372 --> 01:13:15,539
let's see why we were matched
1906
01:13:15,558 --> 01:13:18,451
and let's see what's,
you know, going on.
1907
01:13:18,544 --> 01:13:22,455
And then I think I started to
1908
01:13:22,548 --> 01:13:24,306
get a little bit like nervous
1909
01:13:24,459 --> 01:13:26,901
when I started, like,
hearing his friends
1910
01:13:27,128 --> 01:13:29,553
tell me things and like
things from his family.
1911
01:13:29,647 --> 01:13:32,723
And I think that was like
when I first started to be like
1912
01:13:32,817 --> 01:13:34,742
"Oh my God," like...
1913
01:13:34,969 --> 01:13:38,638
what did I get myself
into, kind of.
1914
01:13:38,656 --> 01:13:41,732
- Did you guys talk in depth
about these things?
1915
01:13:41,751 --> 01:13:44,401
- No, 'cause, like,
too many things kept happening.
1916
01:13:44,421 --> 01:13:46,754
I just felt
like I kept getting, like,
1917
01:13:46,906 --> 01:13:48,589
pushed down in the ocean
1918
01:13:48,741 --> 01:13:50,650
by, like, a cinder block
or something
1919
01:13:50,743 --> 01:13:52,001
and I like, could not get out.
1920
01:13:52,153 --> 01:13:53,002
- You couldn't swim.
You couldn't get out.
1921
01:13:53,154 --> 01:13:55,488
- I mean, I know that, like,
1922
01:13:55,506 --> 01:13:58,174
I came into today
1923
01:13:58,326 --> 01:14:00,843
wanting to try and work
on things
1924
01:14:00,995 --> 01:14:04,087
and see what we can do.
- Okay.
1925
01:14:04,182 --> 01:14:08,017
- Um, I felt like--and I hoped
that we could have gotten
1926
01:14:08,169 --> 01:14:10,169
to a place, and, like,
I saw glimmers of it,
1927
01:14:10,188 --> 01:14:12,354
like when we were
paddleboarding, like I said,
1928
01:14:12,507 --> 01:14:14,674
I felt like we had a good time,
1929
01:14:14,767 --> 01:14:15,783
and when we were playing tennis,
1930
01:14:16,010 --> 01:14:17,677
I felt like we had
this good thing going
1931
01:14:17,770 --> 01:14:19,361
and we could chat, and then--
1932
01:14:19,514 --> 01:14:21,956
- Alyssa, but I gotta--
Hold on, honey.
1933
01:14:22,107 --> 01:14:23,124
I gotta help you here,
1934
01:14:23,275 --> 01:14:24,292
because even
on the wedding night,
1935
01:14:24,519 --> 01:14:25,275
you didn't want to go
to the suite.
1936
01:14:25,295 --> 01:14:27,687
- No.
1937
01:14:27,705 --> 01:14:29,855
The "sharing the bed" thing
has just, like,
1938
01:14:29,874 --> 01:14:31,691
never been something
I've been comfortable with,
1939
01:14:31,709 --> 01:14:32,967
no matter who the person is.
1940
01:14:33,194 --> 01:14:34,802
- But you do know
that you were getting married.
1941
01:14:34,954 --> 01:14:35,970
- No, I know.
1942
01:14:36,121 --> 01:14:37,379
- You get married,
1943
01:14:37,532 --> 01:14:38,789
you go on your honeymoon,
1944
01:14:38,883 --> 01:14:40,791
and you move in together.
1945
01:14:40,810 --> 01:14:42,810
You don't go on a honeymoon
and then say, "Okay, fine,
1946
01:14:42,962 --> 01:14:44,537
"I'm gonna stay here four weeks,
1947
01:14:44,555 --> 01:14:46,481
"you stay there four weeks,
1948
01:14:46,708 --> 01:14:47,631
because we have
to get acclimated."
1949
01:14:47,725 --> 01:14:50,209
That's not marriage.
1950
01:14:50,228 --> 01:14:52,878
I mean, I'll quote
from his perspective.
1951
01:14:52,972 --> 01:14:54,655
You were already showing
a pattern
1952
01:14:54,807 --> 01:14:57,825
of not wanting to be around him.
1953
01:14:57,977 --> 01:14:59,735
- There are many reasons
1954
01:14:59,829 --> 01:15:03,164
why sharing this apartment
isn't ideal for me.
1955
01:15:03,391 --> 01:15:05,833
Number one, we both have
two big dogs.
1956
01:15:07,912 --> 01:15:09,245
- Yeah?
- Name is Lily.
1957
01:15:09,397 --> 01:15:10,505
- Lily?
1958
01:15:12,342 --> 01:15:13,799
- Do you know where, like,
she originally...
1959
01:15:20,165 --> 01:15:22,183
- Number two, I am allergic
to dogs,
1960
01:15:22,410 --> 01:15:25,261
which I'm not sure
if you know that or not.
1961
01:15:25,413 --> 01:15:28,097
I am not super allergic
to Penelope anymore
1962
01:15:28,249 --> 01:15:29,673
'cause I've been around her
for ten years.
1963
01:15:29,692 --> 01:15:31,751
New dogs.
A husky has a lot of hair,
1964
01:15:31,844 --> 01:15:34,436
so that would flare up for me.
1965
01:15:34,589 --> 01:15:36,680
♪ ♪
1966
01:15:36,699 --> 01:15:38,524
- Well--
1967
01:15:39,518 --> 01:15:41,351
- Okay, well, a husky
sheds a lot.
1968
01:15:41,371 --> 01:15:44,113
Um... I just...
1969
01:15:44,265 --> 01:15:47,208
Like, I have been trying
to look for things
1970
01:15:47,435 --> 01:15:50,286
and, like, try to look
for positives and--
1971
01:15:50,380 --> 01:15:52,529
- What have you found?
1972
01:15:52,623 --> 01:15:55,608
- Um, I really haven't.
1973
01:15:55,701 --> 01:15:57,109
- Well, because he found some.
1974
01:15:57,128 --> 01:16:00,629
Early on, he--his testimony
1975
01:16:00,782 --> 01:16:02,464
was that, "Hey, I see
why we were matched."
1976
01:16:02,617 --> 01:16:03,616
- Uh-huh.
1977
01:16:03,634 --> 01:16:04,708
- 'Cause you said initially
1978
01:16:04,727 --> 01:16:06,468
what about her?
1979
01:16:06,563 --> 01:16:08,045
- The word that I used over
and over and over again
1980
01:16:08,064 --> 01:16:09,138
was "impressive."
1981
01:16:09,290 --> 01:16:10,547
- Yeah.
- I always thought,
1982
01:16:10,641 --> 01:16:11,715
on paper, that we were...
1983
01:16:11,809 --> 01:16:12,716
- Yeah.
- Well, we did too.
1984
01:16:12,810 --> 01:16:14,293
- Compatible.
- We did too.
1985
01:16:14,386 --> 01:16:16,386
- I imagine you did.
[laughs]
1986
01:16:16,406 --> 01:16:19,131
- When we match you guys,
we honestly--
1987
01:16:19,224 --> 01:16:22,059
When we read, we went through
1988
01:16:22,153 --> 01:16:23,727
every possible document
1989
01:16:23,821 --> 01:16:24,653
that you guys prepared...
1990
01:16:24,806 --> 01:16:26,138
- Yeah.
1991
01:16:26,231 --> 01:16:27,640
- We did compatibility charts,
1992
01:16:27,658 --> 01:16:28,899
and, believe it or not,
1993
01:16:28,993 --> 01:16:30,901
you lined up.
- Mm-hmm.
1994
01:16:30,920 --> 01:16:33,662
I don't like the way things are
right now,
1995
01:16:33,756 --> 01:16:35,815
and I would like to see
how we can move forward.
1996
01:16:35,908 --> 01:16:37,258
- See how we can move forward.
1997
01:16:37,409 --> 01:16:38,593
Well, let's start by looking
at him
1998
01:16:38,744 --> 01:16:40,002
and telling him that--
1999
01:16:40,154 --> 01:16:41,262
Telling him what you just said,
basic--
2000
01:16:41,413 --> 01:16:43,005
- Okay.
- Just, yeah, talk to him.
2001
01:16:43,157 --> 01:16:45,825
- Um, I wanted
to come here today
2002
01:16:45,843 --> 01:16:49,511
because I don't like
the way things have been going,
2003
01:16:49,664 --> 01:16:52,773
and I don't like
how they got here,
2004
01:16:52,925 --> 01:16:57,260
and... I--like I said,
2005
01:16:57,280 --> 01:16:58,687
I've been in, like,
a better headspace
2006
01:16:58,840 --> 01:17:00,448
since I've gotten home,
2007
01:17:00,675 --> 01:17:02,617
and, like, I'm still working
towards that,
2008
01:17:02,844 --> 01:17:05,286
but, like, I'm getting
to that space.
2009
01:17:05,513 --> 01:17:08,364
And, yeah, I mean,
my purpose of coming here
2010
01:17:08,458 --> 01:17:14,019
today was to stop the pattern
that we were on
2011
01:17:14,113 --> 01:17:18,799
and figure out
how we can move forward
2012
01:17:19,026 --> 01:17:21,543
from this place
that we're in, I guess.
2013
01:17:21,696 --> 01:17:22,970
- Okay.
2014
01:17:23,197 --> 01:17:25,364
- How do you want
to respond to that?
2015
01:17:25,383 --> 01:17:28,050
- [sighs] Um...
2016
01:17:28,202 --> 01:17:31,720
♪ ♪
2017
01:17:31,873 --> 01:17:34,798
For me...
2018
01:17:34,892 --> 01:17:36,392
this is my decision right here.
2019
01:17:36,544 --> 01:17:39,987
♪ ♪
2020
01:17:43,885 --> 01:17:46,160
♪ ♪
2021
01:17:46,387 --> 01:17:47,403
- Uh, this is my decision
right here.
2022
01:17:47,497 --> 01:17:51,073
♪ ♪
2023
01:17:51,167 --> 01:17:53,075
- So wait, are you saying
you want a divorce?
2024
01:17:53,169 --> 01:17:59,489
♪ ♪
2025
01:17:59,583 --> 01:18:00,749
- I want a divorce.
2026
01:18:00,843 --> 01:18:04,236
♪ ♪
2027
01:18:04,329 --> 01:18:07,907
- Okay.
How you feel about that?
2028
01:18:07,925 --> 01:18:09,332
- [sniffs] Sorry.
2029
01:18:09,352 --> 01:18:10,409
- Yeah, it's okay.
2030
01:18:10,428 --> 01:18:11,760
It's okay.
2031
01:18:11,854 --> 01:18:15,764
♪ ♪
2032
01:18:15,858 --> 01:18:17,599
- Um...
2033
01:18:17,694 --> 01:18:21,696
I just feel like I worked
so hard to get here,
2034
01:18:21,847 --> 01:18:23,030
and, like, I never thought
2035
01:18:23,182 --> 01:18:24,924
this would be the outcome
for me.
2036
01:18:24,942 --> 01:18:26,850
- When you say "this,"
what are we talking about?
2037
01:18:26,869 --> 01:18:28,369
- I just, like--I guess
the situation
2038
01:18:28,520 --> 01:18:29,686
that I'm in right now:
2039
01:18:29,706 --> 01:18:33,356
like, the arguing
and the miscommunication
2040
01:18:33,451 --> 01:18:34,433
and, like, the disrespect
2041
01:18:34,452 --> 01:18:37,786
and, like, feeling alone.
2042
01:18:37,880 --> 01:18:41,048
Um... [sniffs]
2043
01:18:41,275 --> 01:18:43,342
- How do you want
to respond to that?
2044
01:18:44,554 --> 01:18:45,702
- It's tough.
2045
01:18:45,722 --> 01:18:47,112
- Speak what's on your heart,
though.
2046
01:18:47,131 --> 01:18:49,390
I need you to speak
completely open and honest.
2047
01:18:50,876 --> 01:18:54,286
- I... came into this
2048
01:18:54,379 --> 01:18:56,305
with a set of expectations.
2049
01:18:56,457 --> 01:18:59,291
For me,
2050
01:18:59,384 --> 01:19:02,461
it goes from taking it slow
2051
01:19:02,480 --> 01:19:04,888
to chasing somebody
who doesn't want to be chased.
2052
01:19:04,982 --> 01:19:06,799
- You're feeling--
2053
01:19:06,892 --> 01:19:10,135
And so you're feeling as though
she's checked out a while back.
2054
01:19:10,154 --> 01:19:12,246
- If I didn't wanna be here,
I wouldn't be here.
2055
01:19:12,397 --> 01:19:14,564
I had chances to leave
and go home,
2056
01:19:14,584 --> 01:19:17,400
and I didn't,
and I have told you that,
2057
01:19:17,420 --> 01:19:19,420
and I have--I mean,
everybody knows that.
2058
01:19:19,571 --> 01:19:20,980
Um, I--
- I think there are a lot
2059
01:19:21,073 --> 01:19:22,256
of reasons to still be here,
2060
01:19:22,483 --> 01:19:23,424
but I don't think marriage
is the one
2061
01:19:23,575 --> 01:19:24,833
that you're here for.
2062
01:19:24,986 --> 01:19:30,005
♪ ♪
2063
01:19:30,157 --> 01:19:32,415
- I have a problem with, like--
2064
01:19:32,510 --> 01:19:33,993
When you speak like that,
2065
01:19:34,086 --> 01:19:35,418
it seems like you
are insinuating
2066
01:19:35,438 --> 01:19:36,937
that I'm not here
for the right reasons.
2067
01:19:37,164 --> 01:19:40,107
Like, I didn't come here
to be on TV.
2068
01:19:40,334 --> 01:19:41,442
I came here
for the right reasons
2069
01:19:41,669 --> 01:19:43,093
and to be married,
so when you say
2070
01:19:43,112 --> 01:19:44,336
that I'm not here
for the right reasons,
2071
01:19:44,355 --> 01:19:46,096
it triggers me,
2072
01:19:46,115 --> 01:19:49,024
because it's not fair
and not accurate.
2073
01:19:49,176 --> 01:19:52,936
♪ ♪
2074
01:19:53,030 --> 01:19:54,437
- I always said that
2075
01:19:54,457 --> 01:19:56,031
the second-most important thing
to me,
2076
01:19:56,183 --> 01:19:57,866
the thing I want more
than anything else
2077
01:19:57,960 --> 01:19:59,293
that's second,
2078
01:19:59,520 --> 01:20:00,702
is a long, successful,
happy marriage
2079
01:20:00,855 --> 01:20:02,037
with whoever I get paired with.
2080
01:20:02,189 --> 01:20:04,632
The thing I want more than that
2081
01:20:04,859 --> 01:20:06,783
is that we are
just happy long-term.
2082
01:20:06,877 --> 01:20:08,210
- Mm-hmm.
- Right?
2083
01:20:08,362 --> 01:20:09,303
If it means happier
not married than married,
2084
01:20:09,454 --> 01:20:11,046
then that's what I want.
2085
01:20:11,140 --> 01:20:12,306
♪ ♪
2086
01:20:12,533 --> 01:20:14,550
And I feel like that's
where we are.
2087
01:20:14,644 --> 01:20:15,884
- Mm-hmm.
2088
01:20:15,978 --> 01:20:18,646
- Um...
2089
01:20:18,873 --> 01:20:20,556
it's not what either
of us wanted.
2090
01:20:20,650 --> 01:20:23,225
♪ ♪
2091
01:20:23,319 --> 01:20:27,212
- And I understand,
when there's deep hurt,
2092
01:20:27,231 --> 01:20:30,382
when there's pain,
when there is disappointment,
2093
01:20:30,401 --> 01:20:32,618
sometimes those things
are difficult to get over.
2094
01:20:34,479 --> 01:20:36,722
The road ends here.
Okay?
2095
01:20:36,740 --> 01:20:39,058
And I'm so sorry, 'cause this
is not what we wanted.
2096
01:20:39,151 --> 01:20:41,651
It's so not what we wanted.
2097
01:20:41,745 --> 01:20:43,078
- I appreciate it.
2098
01:20:43,172 --> 01:20:45,339
- Okay.
2099
01:20:47,068 --> 01:20:48,417
♪ ♪
2100
01:20:48,511 --> 01:20:51,161
[sighs]
2101
01:20:51,255 --> 01:20:55,407
- At no point have I felt
like Alyssa wants to be here.
2102
01:20:55,500 --> 01:20:57,926
I'm angry.
I'm disappointed.
2103
01:20:58,079 --> 01:20:59,428
I'm frustrated still.
2104
01:20:59,522 --> 01:21:02,857
But it's never been
about who I was matched with.
2105
01:21:03,084 --> 01:21:05,250
It's never been
about the process.
2106
01:21:05,269 --> 01:21:08,604
It's always been about
that the person that I married
2107
01:21:08,698 --> 01:21:11,924
didn't even wanna try
to be married to me
2108
01:21:12,017 --> 01:21:14,443
in the way that we say marriage.
2109
01:21:14,537 --> 01:21:17,262
♪ ♪
2110
01:21:17,356 --> 01:21:19,689
- Yeah, I mean, I don't think
2111
01:21:19,709 --> 01:21:21,375
there's really anything to say,
so...
2112
01:21:21,526 --> 01:21:22,951
- I wish you the best.
2113
01:21:23,045 --> 01:21:24,453
- Okay.
2114
01:21:24,605 --> 01:21:28,365
♪ ♪
2115
01:21:28,384 --> 01:21:31,051
I'm just sad
about the whole situation.
2116
01:21:31,278 --> 01:21:32,794
Does someone know
where my phone is?
2117
01:21:32,889 --> 01:21:37,950
♪ ♪
2118
01:21:37,968 --> 01:21:39,468
I don't know.
2119
01:21:39,562 --> 01:21:40,619
Like, I just have said it
from the beginning.
2120
01:21:40,638 --> 01:21:42,454
Like, I just want respect.
2121
01:21:42,473 --> 01:21:44,064
Like, I'm not a bad person,
2122
01:21:44,216 --> 01:21:45,307
and I'm a good person,
2123
01:21:45,459 --> 01:21:47,643
and...
2124
01:21:47,737 --> 01:21:49,552
it just upsets me that
he tries to make it
2125
01:21:49,572 --> 01:21:51,647
look otherwise.
2126
01:21:51,741 --> 01:21:54,408
♪ ♪
2127
01:21:56,971 --> 01:21:59,229
♪ ♪
2128
01:21:59,248 --> 01:22:01,582
- I don't believe in fate
or luck or destiny.
2129
01:22:01,809 --> 01:22:03,233
I don't.
I don't believe in soulmates.
2130
01:22:03,252 --> 01:22:04,660
I think that everything
takes work.
2131
01:22:04,812 --> 01:22:07,070
So I was ready to do
whatever I had to do,
2132
01:22:07,164 --> 01:22:09,331
and I know what I want,
2133
01:22:09,425 --> 01:22:10,740
I know what I need,
and I know what I like
2134
01:22:10,760 --> 01:22:12,484
more than I ever have
in my life.
2135
01:22:12,577 --> 01:22:15,003
I know what my strengths are.
I know what my weaknesses are.
2136
01:22:15,156 --> 01:22:17,080
So I don't know.
I don't know.
2137
01:22:17,099 --> 01:22:19,249
She's out there somewhere,
whoever I end up with next,
2138
01:22:19,268 --> 01:22:20,842
and I'm really, really excited
to meet her,
2139
01:22:20,995 --> 01:22:23,771
and I think that,
had I not done this,
2140
01:22:23,922 --> 01:22:26,440
that relationship, which I hope
lasts the rest of my life,
2141
01:22:26,591 --> 01:22:28,333
would not be
the amazing relationship
2142
01:22:28,427 --> 01:22:30,110
that I'm expecting it to be.
2143
01:22:30,262 --> 01:22:32,929
- From the chains
that are holding you down ♪
2144
01:22:33,023 --> 01:22:34,949
♪ Free from the chains ♪
2145
01:22:35,176 --> 01:22:37,600
♪ That keep your dreams
in the ground ♪
2146
01:22:37,695 --> 01:22:41,438
♪ Break free ♪
2147
01:22:41,457 --> 01:22:45,108
♪ Break free ♪
2148
01:22:45,202 --> 01:22:46,702
♪ Break free ♪
2149
01:22:46,796 --> 01:22:49,037
♪ ♪
2150
01:22:49,190 --> 01:22:51,039
- Hi!
- Come on in!
2151
01:22:51,133 --> 01:22:52,633
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight"...
2152
01:22:52,784 --> 01:22:53,801
- Cheers to our friends.
2153
01:22:53,952 --> 01:22:55,377
- We love our friends!
2154
01:22:55,471 --> 01:22:58,547
- With only six weeks left
until Decision Day,
2155
01:22:58,641 --> 01:23:00,716
our couples will see
their friends and family
2156
01:23:00,868 --> 01:23:03,368
for the first time
since the wedding.
2157
01:23:03,462 --> 01:23:04,294
- That's right.
That's correct!
2158
01:23:04,388 --> 01:23:05,220
- I was gonna say that!
2159
01:23:05,314 --> 01:23:06,313
♪ ♪
2160
01:23:06,465 --> 01:23:07,889
- Roller coaster!
- Yes!
2161
01:23:08,042 --> 01:23:09,650
- Really?
2162
01:23:09,877 --> 01:23:11,210
- You gave me
the silent treatment.
2163
01:23:11,228 --> 01:23:13,045
You ghosted me and walked
out of the apartment.
2164
01:23:13,138 --> 01:23:14,396
And I when I look
on social media,
2165
01:23:14,490 --> 01:23:17,658
you posted, "this
relationship's not working."
2166
01:23:17,809 --> 01:23:18,993
- When we're together,
2167
01:23:19,144 --> 01:23:20,160
it makes me feel uncomfortable
when you do that.
2168
01:23:20,387 --> 01:23:21,495
Don't do that.
- Okay, but you know what?
2169
01:23:21,722 --> 01:23:23,071
I don't like to brush things
under the rug.
2170
01:23:23,224 --> 01:23:24,164
- Okay, well, this is a team,
and if you can't get that,
2171
01:23:24,316 --> 01:23:25,574
this isn't gonna work.
2172
01:23:25,726 --> 01:23:26,725
♪ ♪
2173
01:23:26,744 --> 01:23:28,076
Oh, my God.
2174
01:23:28,229 --> 01:23:29,228
- That's what I thought.
Walk away.
2175
01:23:29,246 --> 01:23:30,229
- Okay.
- Call your mom.
2176
01:23:30,322 --> 01:23:31,338
See if she can let you in
tonight.
2177
01:23:31,490 --> 01:23:32,914
- Have another drink.
2178
01:23:33,009 --> 01:23:37,177
♪ ♪