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- ♪ Life's a beach, so let's
party till the sunrise ♪
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- I got married at first sight
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because I was ready
for that forever love.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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- I've been dreaming of being
a husband all my life,
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and now it's actually here.
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- Eight weeks ago,
the experts chose ten singles
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in Houston, Texas, to be
married at first sight.
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[dramatic music]
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Now the time has finally come
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for them to choose each other
or choose divorce.
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- It could really go either way.
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[laughs dryly]
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- This one decision
has the power to impact
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the rest of their lives
for better or for worse.
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- I don't understand
how a respectful, good guy
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starts a dating app.
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- I didn't say everything
that was on my mind
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because I was afraid
it was just gonna get louder.
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- When [bleep] hits the fan,
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if she's gonna go ahead
and bounce.
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- I had a lot of hope, because
it felt really different.
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- Everything we've been through,
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all of it was worth it.
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- We actually consummated
the marriage already.
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[music slows and stops]
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[dramatic music]
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- The way he argued scared me,
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and I was like, "Ooh,
this is a character flaw."
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♪ ♪
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- We do not align
in what we want.
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♪ ♪
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- Just say whatever it is
you're feeling.
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- Yeah.
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- I was so happy to, like--
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To have the opportunity
to meet someone like her.
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♪ ♪
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- So the time has come.
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♪ ♪
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- Do you want to stay married?
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♪ ♪
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Or do you want to get a divorce?
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♪ ♪
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- [sighs] My heart's beating
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out of my chest.
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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[mellow pop music]
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ I, I wanna go ♪
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- I just woke up.
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Today's the big day.
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- Today is Decision Day.
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- I'm gonna be honest, um,
I slept horribly.
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I guess
'cause wifey wasn't in bed,
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and I got used
to sleeping with her.
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- ♪ We don't need ♪
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- We hope this night away
has given our couples
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the time to reflect
on how far they've come
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over the last eight weeks
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and whether or not they want
their journey forward
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to include one another.
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- I decided to just kind of
clear my head and everything.
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It's a beautiful day.
Go for a run, just to see,
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you know, exactly what decision
am I gonna make today.
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- I'm just really hoping
that Michaela says
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whatever her heart feels
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and that she makes
the best decision for herself,
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'cause I know
that's what I'm gonna do.
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- I'm feeling really good
about my answer.
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Um, I'm now nervous at all.
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Um, I'm just ready
to let it be known
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and let it be clear
what I'm thinking, um,
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and move forward
into the future.
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- Just thinking I just
gotta be--gotta be real,
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gotta be honest
with the experts, with Bao.
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Because, um,
it could really go either way.
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[laughs dryly]
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- So here we go.
D-Day, it's here.
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- ♪ Nothin' we won't
overcome ♪
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♪ Like a battle
we already won ♪
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- Choosing whether
to stay married
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could be the most
important decision
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they ever have to make
in their lives.
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- ♪ 'Cause I'm a superpower,
I was born for this ♪
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- Tonight,
after eight weeks together,
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our couples will decide
once and for all
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whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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- ♪ Superpower, it's time
to raise the stakes ♪
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♪ Superpower,
we'll get whatever it takes ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- Gil and Myrla may seem like
opposites from the outside,
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but when it comes
to their goals and values,
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they couldn't be more alike.
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Myrla was looking for a strong
man that she can depend on,
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and we felt that Gil,
a natural protector,
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is her match.
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But they have very
different ideas about finances,
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with Gil's more
down-to-earth lifestyle
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and Myrla's upscale tastes
clashing at times.
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[slow electronic music]
- ♪ One more time ♪
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- My husband is a charmer.
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- I'm like,
"Ooh, she's stylin'!"
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You gotta be confident to wear
a rockin' dress like that.
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- He has a kind heart,
dedicating his life
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to make sure others are well.
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I'm very easy to please.
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- Hmm?
Excuse me?
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- Are you saying
I'm high-maintenance?
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- Absolutely.
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- I never have to guess
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about how he's feeling.
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- You sound like you're a brat,
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when there's no need to be.
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- My husband and I have very,
very different ideas
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about what to spend money on.
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- And she was like, "You know,
the one thing I'm not gonna do
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is change my lifestyle
for anybody."
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- I worry that my husband
might not be able to enjoy
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the finer things in life.
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What I need from you
is your continued patience,
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and what I'm challenged by
every day is your patience.
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- Okay.
- So much good in his heart.
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I think everything that
I imagined a husband would be,
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he's just, like--
Like, an extra step above that.
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He's optimistic, always looking
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at the bright side of life.
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- It hasn't felt forced.
It feels right.
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And when things go right,
everything else is, like, easy.
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- ♪ For the airplane ♪
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- He's selfless and caring,
never shying away
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from a moment
to make me feel special.
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- There you go.
- Aww, this is so pretty!
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- Yes!
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- ♪ We're all here ♪
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- The very first thought
I have as I watch my wife
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walking down the aisle
is how gorgeous she looks.
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You look gorgeous.
- Thank you.
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- Myrla is one of a kind.
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- I'm just a touchy person.
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- Do you believe
you've been touchy with me?
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- I am not like that
on day one with people.
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- ♪ We are the young
and the reckless ♪
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- I don't want a dog, 'cause
I don't want to walk them.
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- She started a little
negative with her mindset
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and slowly came around.
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This little Debbie Downer
that you can be sometimes.
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But we found
that a warm hug helps her
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to feel better
and brings her joy.
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- Has there been a kiss?
- No--cheek.
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[both smooch]
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Fast-forward now--
- A complete 180.
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- Bro, complete 180.
- [bleep]damn.
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- I got my first kiss.
- Hey, man.
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- Hey!
We should drink to that!
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- I love her kisses
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and her soft,
full, pillowy lips.
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Ooh!
- You asked
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for chocolate chip cookies.
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- That is amazing!
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But Myrla, she's a princess.
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- We all know that I'm a little
bit of glitz and glamour.
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- You need glitz and glamour.
Yeah, for sure.
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What's the most expensive pair
you have in here?
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- Like, $1,000.
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- A big concern of mine
is if she is willing
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to change her mindset.
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Your negativity at times
is a big deal for me.
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The finance stuff
is a big deal for me.
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There's--
There's a lot at stake.
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Do I want to be with you
for the rest of my life?
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[dramatic music]
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♪ ♪
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[tense music]
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- Oh, fancy.
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- Hello.
- Ooh.
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- Yes!
- How cute is this!
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- Work it, girl!
- [chuckles]
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- I'm moments away
from giving my decision,
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and based off the last
few weeks,
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I'm pretty sure
on which way I want to go.
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- Hello!
- Hi there.
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- This is definitely one
of the biggest decisions
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that I'm about to make
in my life.
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- It looks really nice, hon.
- Thank you.
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- I like.
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But look at his shoes.
They're really nice too.
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- [scoffs]
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- Whether it goes good
or not so good,
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I'm prepared for what's next.
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♪ ♪
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- Tell me,
how do you feel this week?
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I mean, this is Decision Day.
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- I've felt good.
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I've felt very--
Pretty confident.
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If I don't know by now,
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then I'm never gonna know.
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- How would you answer that,
Myrla?
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- I have felt
pretty confident, yes.
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Um...
- Okay.
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- Just like I did
on my wedding day.
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- Speaking of wedding day,
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let's talk a little bit about
how it started things off.
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- It was terrible.
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[dramatic music]
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I never really wanted
a wedding, though, you know?
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It was a really long day.
I think I expected--
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- Oh, so you were serious.
It was--it was terrible?
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- Oh, yeah, it was terrible.
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- Oh, okay, okay.
- Um--
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- I thought she was joking.
- I did too.
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- No, I am totally serious.
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- What was so terrible?
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- I just didn't like any of it.
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It was too much.
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I don't like meeting new people.
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- I'm like, then why did you
get married at first sight?
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- That's actually a--
- That's what my husband said.
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'Cause I wanted a husband,
so it was worth
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the sacrifice of doing that.
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- I had a great time.
I--it was good.
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Met my wife and her peoples,
her family and her friends.
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It was a--I had fun.
I enjoyed it.
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- Did it matter at all--
Because of course,
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especially in this situation,
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people are very concerned
about first impressions,
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and, "What's my partner
gonna think about me?"
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- Nope, I don't care.
- You didn't care.
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You were just, like--
- I mean, it is who I am.
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Like, he might as well get it
on day one.
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- So let's talk about
how the two of you have grown
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in emotional
and physical intimacy
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over the course
of this marriage.
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Like, where were you
at the beginning,
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and how has it grown into more?
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- I mean, I think, for me,
obviously, like,
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I wanted to take things slow,
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because I wanted to know
who he is as a person.
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And I definitely think, when
you get physical too quickly,
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then that can kind of
blur other things.
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But I think, as we saw, like,
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it did not take too much for me
to start being affectionate.
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And so I think, for me,
that's gone from, like,
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0 to, I want to say, 100
in the course of eight weeks.
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- I want to say, like, 45.
- [scoffs]
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- And then once you hit 45,
it went to 100.
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- Oh, okay.
- But it didn't go
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from 0 to 100.
253
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- In eight weeks?
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- It didn't go 0 to 100.
255
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- Like, it went 0
the first week, like, 10%--
256
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- 0 the second week,
0 the third week.
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[laughter]
- Really?
258
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- And then--
- Go back and see that!
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- So--and then after that,
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yeah, I would say
you had a little more--
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- Sped up, made up for all--
- Yeah.
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- Okay.
- So are we saying
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that we have progressed
through the entire spectrum
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of affectionate
and sexual behavior?
265
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Or are we just stuck on an
enormous amount of smooching?
266
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- No, we have not
consummated the marriage yet.
267
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But I w--
- Look at your smile.
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Okay, you cannot lie.
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- So-- [laughter]
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So we actually, um,
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consummated the marriage
already.
272
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It did happen maybe,
like, two--two weeks ago.
273
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And yeah, so it was--
- Aww.
274
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That's wonderful.
- It's been good.
275
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- Well, first,
appreciate your honesty.
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- Yeah, thank you.
- Yeah, that's awesome.
277
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- And secondly, we're
interested because that's one
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of those things we hope will
come naturally and feel good
279
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because the way your
relationship's progressing,
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and yeah, okay, great, you know.
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We'll move on.
- Move on.
282
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- I have a question.
283
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Is that your wedding ring?
284
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- No.
I don't like my--
285
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Did you see my wedding ring?
286
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It's ugly!
287
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- Myrla, I'm seeing a theme.
- [laughs]
288
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- [laughing] Okay?
289
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So, Gil,
you had mentioned one time
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that she's somewhat
of a Negative Nancy.
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- Mm-hmm.
- Tell--tell me a little bit
292
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more about that, 'cause I know
that kind of bothers you.
293
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- So that does,
because I'm a very optimistic
294
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and kind of, like,
fun-loving type of person.
295
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So sometimes,
in certain situations,
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if it's not going to her liking,
297
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um, her mood can change.
298
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Your moodiness, uh,
puts me in a bad place.
299
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It doesn't make me feel good,
'cause I become negative,
300
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and so-- and I don't like that.
301
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I don't like being mad.
I don't like being dismissive.
302
00:12:02,805 --> 00:12:05,298
I just don't like that--
That energy.
303
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It drains me, and so I just
don't like being like that.
304
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It brings me down.
305
00:12:09,970 --> 00:12:11,146
- I hear you.
Like, I know that's something
306
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that I need to work on,
so it's not, like,
307
00:12:12,732 --> 00:12:14,640
"Oh, my God, I can't believe
he's saying this to me."
308
00:12:14,734 --> 00:12:16,151
I don't even think
that was the first time--
309
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When you said it to me,
I was like,
310
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"Hmm, I didn't think
about that."
311
00:12:20,481 --> 00:12:22,398
So, like--
- What about your feelings
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when you talk
about money with him
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and you have different visions
of what's enough
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or what's gonna be, um, the way
you handle money together?
315
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'Cause I know there's been a
lot of back-and-forth on that.
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- I think, for me,
when we talk about finances
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and, like, the future,
it worries me.
318
00:12:40,426 --> 00:12:43,336
- Well, okay, so the biggest
difference between us
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when it comes down to that
is she's money-driven
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and I'm not.
321
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I'm more driven about passion,
about what I like to do.
322
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So if I like to do it,
I'll continue doing it.
323
00:12:51,512 --> 00:12:53,772
And I'm not really concerned
about how much it pays.
324
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But she wants to earn the most
that she can
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as fast as she can.
326
00:12:59,853 --> 00:13:01,112
Like, the difference
between me and her is she wants
327
00:13:01,271 --> 00:13:02,614
to be a millionaire.
328
00:13:02,773 --> 00:13:04,783
I would be content
with being a thousandaire.
329
00:13:04,867 --> 00:13:07,193
Like, couple hundred thousands,
and I'm happy.
330
00:13:07,286 --> 00:13:09,862
[tense music]
331
00:13:09,947 --> 00:13:11,447
♪ ♪
332
00:13:11,540 --> 00:13:13,541
- It worries me,
because we do not align
333
00:13:13,700 --> 00:13:17,119
in what we want for our family.
334
00:13:17,204 --> 00:13:20,381
And so, like, my whole life,
I've been working towards this,
335
00:13:20,541 --> 00:13:21,716
and I continue
to work towards this,
336
00:13:21,801 --> 00:13:22,875
and for someone to just be like,
337
00:13:22,968 --> 00:13:25,795
"That's not gonna work,"
338
00:13:25,879 --> 00:13:28,214
I feel worried.
339
00:13:28,307 --> 00:13:31,717
- We really thought,
with the amount of commitment
340
00:13:31,802 --> 00:13:34,387
and love that you're both
capable of giving--
341
00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:37,398
We really did think this would
be something that you would
342
00:13:37,483 --> 00:13:42,061
both choose love,
happiness, family, values,
343
00:13:42,145 --> 00:13:46,065
shared life
over the discrepancy of pay.
344
00:13:46,158 --> 00:13:47,408
Were we wrong?
345
00:13:47,568 --> 00:13:48,910
- I think you were wrong.
346
00:13:49,069 --> 00:13:51,246
[dramatic music]
347
00:13:55,334 --> 00:13:58,503
How we live and choose to live
our life is very different.
348
00:13:58,587 --> 00:14:00,246
I like the finer things in life.
349
00:14:00,330 --> 00:14:01,840
I like amenities
and nice things.
350
00:14:01,924 --> 00:14:03,591
He does not.
351
00:14:03,676 --> 00:14:05,167
- He doesn't like them
or he doesn't care as much--
352
00:14:05,261 --> 00:14:06,502
- No, he doesn't like 'em,
353
00:14:06,595 --> 00:14:07,420
and he doesn't care
about them either.
354
00:14:07,504 --> 00:14:10,339
If he had a choice,
355
00:14:10,424 --> 00:14:12,350
he would go and live,
like, in a box, like.
356
00:14:12,434 --> 00:14:15,270
- No,
that's absolutely not right.
357
00:14:15,354 --> 00:14:16,762
- Yeah.
See, you guys are not
358
00:14:16,847 --> 00:14:17,930
as dissimilar as you think.
359
00:14:18,023 --> 00:14:19,023
- Okay.
- Come on!
360
00:14:19,108 --> 00:14:20,525
No!
- Okay, okay.
361
00:14:20,609 --> 00:14:21,767
- I'm not trying to live
in a shack.
362
00:14:21,852 --> 00:14:23,027
What are you talking about?
363
00:14:23,112 --> 00:14:24,103
No, if it's the same--
- You said,
364
00:14:24,187 --> 00:14:25,196
"I would be happy in a box."
365
00:14:25,281 --> 00:14:26,531
- I would be.
366
00:14:26,615 --> 00:14:27,690
Like, I have no issues.
- And--
367
00:14:27,774 --> 00:14:29,191
- But that doesn't mean
368
00:14:29,276 --> 00:14:31,119
that's what I shoot for
is what I'm saying.
369
00:14:31,203 --> 00:14:34,789
- Okay.
- I still want a nice home,
370
00:14:34,874 --> 00:14:37,125
especially for my wife
and my kids.
371
00:14:37,209 --> 00:14:39,201
- Our definitions
of "nice" differ too.
372
00:14:39,286 --> 00:14:40,870
- Yeah, there is--
When it comes down
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to specific things,
we don't have--we differ.
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00:14:43,624 --> 00:14:45,207
I don't want concierge.
375
00:14:45,301 --> 00:14:46,626
- But if they're there,
they're there.
376
00:14:46,710 --> 00:14:47,877
- I am a doorman.
- It's a nice--
377
00:14:47,961 --> 00:14:49,804
- I am concierge.
You know what I'm saying?
378
00:14:49,963 --> 00:14:52,390
- You're not a doorman
and a concierge.
379
00:14:52,474 --> 00:14:54,392
- I'm the trash guy.
380
00:14:54,476 --> 00:14:57,896
I do all of that,
so therefore I don't need that.
381
00:14:57,980 --> 00:15:00,064
- We don't need it,
but it's nice if it's there.
382
00:15:00,223 --> 00:15:03,985
- There's a sense of
self-sufficiency that he has
383
00:15:04,069 --> 00:15:05,737
that you're willing
to pay a premium for.
384
00:15:05,821 --> 00:15:07,488
- Exactly.
385
00:15:07,573 --> 00:15:10,483
- But the desire for more
is there
386
00:15:10,567 --> 00:15:14,412
for both of you for sure.
387
00:15:14,496 --> 00:15:17,406
All right, guys, well,
it's come to that time.
388
00:15:17,491 --> 00:15:21,327
[tense music]
389
00:15:21,411 --> 00:15:23,913
Do you want to stay married,
390
00:15:24,006 --> 00:15:25,915
or do you want to get a divorce?
391
00:15:25,999 --> 00:15:30,252
♪ ♪
392
00:15:30,337 --> 00:15:31,837
- Um...
393
00:15:31,922 --> 00:15:36,175
♪ ♪
394
00:15:36,268 --> 00:15:37,426
Um...
395
00:15:37,511 --> 00:15:39,437
♪ ♪
396
00:15:39,596 --> 00:15:43,274
I really enjoy just
being with you every day
397
00:15:43,433 --> 00:15:46,686
and being, like, the first
person that I get to talk to.
398
00:15:46,770 --> 00:15:48,270
I think that, for me,
has been my biggest--
399
00:15:48,355 --> 00:15:51,199
Like, I'm genuinely happy
being with you every day.
400
00:15:51,283 --> 00:15:54,035
And when I get moody
and frustrated, like,
401
00:15:54,119 --> 00:15:57,121
I don't feel like you've ever
held that against me.
402
00:15:57,206 --> 00:15:59,615
And so, for me, the things
that you do every day to me
403
00:15:59,700 --> 00:16:02,043
are showing commitment
to me as a wife
404
00:16:02,202 --> 00:16:04,629
and then us as a marriage.
405
00:16:04,788 --> 00:16:07,039
So I think,
based on the past eight weeks,
406
00:16:07,132 --> 00:16:10,218
if I had to do this over again,
of course I would,
407
00:16:10,302 --> 00:16:11,886
and I would just change,
you know, a bunch of things.
408
00:16:12,045 --> 00:16:15,214
[music slows and stops]
409
00:16:15,298 --> 00:16:17,475
But I actually did not think
410
00:16:17,559 --> 00:16:18,968
that someone could be
this amazing as a husband.
411
00:16:19,052 --> 00:16:20,728
[tender music]
412
00:16:20,887 --> 00:16:23,973
And so for that reason,
413
00:16:24,057 --> 00:16:25,975
I don't know what I want
to do--no, I'm kidding.
414
00:16:26,059 --> 00:16:27,893
I want to stay married
to my husband.
415
00:16:27,978 --> 00:16:31,814
♪ ♪
416
00:16:31,898 --> 00:16:34,158
- Gil, it's time to decide
whether you want
417
00:16:34,243 --> 00:16:37,903
to stay married
or you want to get a divorce.
418
00:16:37,997 --> 00:16:39,321
- All right.
Well--
419
00:16:39,406 --> 00:16:42,166
- Dun, dun, dun.
- [laughs]
420
00:16:42,325 --> 00:16:48,423
Um, these last few weeks--
Several weeks
421
00:16:48,507 --> 00:16:51,926
have been a growing experience
for me.
422
00:16:52,011 --> 00:16:55,921
I've--I've enjoyed this--
These past eight weeks, um,
423
00:16:56,015 --> 00:16:59,267
but, um, we're two different
people when it comes down to,
424
00:16:59,426 --> 00:17:01,343
like, our drive for life.
425
00:17:01,428 --> 00:17:03,596
[tense music]
426
00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,691
You're, um, driven by money,
427
00:17:06,850 --> 00:17:10,186
but that's never been
a thought process of mine.
428
00:17:10,279 --> 00:17:14,940
And also, I feel
like your moodiness affects me.
429
00:17:15,025 --> 00:17:16,859
♪ ♪
430
00:17:16,952 --> 00:17:19,445
Obviously,
I don't want you like that,
431
00:17:19,538 --> 00:17:22,540
not just because it affects me,
but it affects you,
432
00:17:22,699 --> 00:17:25,960
and if you're not happy,
then nobody's happy.
433
00:17:26,045 --> 00:17:32,216
So I guess we differ
in that aspect of some things.
434
00:17:32,301 --> 00:17:35,294
But I can sit here and tell you
that I'm in love with you.
435
00:17:35,378 --> 00:17:37,463
♪ ♪
436
00:17:37,556 --> 00:17:41,300
I, um-- [laughter]
437
00:17:41,393 --> 00:17:44,136
[anticipatory music]
438
00:17:44,221 --> 00:17:48,399
I love your passion.
I respect your hustle.
439
00:17:48,484 --> 00:17:49,642
Like,
you're passionate about it,
440
00:17:49,726 --> 00:17:51,894
and you go full-force.
441
00:17:51,978 --> 00:17:55,239
And I wanted somebody, like,
to test me, to push me.
442
00:17:55,398 --> 00:17:57,492
Well, I feel like, with you,
that's, uh--
443
00:17:57,651 --> 00:18:00,328
Oh, that's gonna
be an everyday thing.
444
00:18:00,412 --> 00:18:02,497
But in a good way.
445
00:18:02,581 --> 00:18:06,501
So with that being said,
um, I want to stay married.
446
00:18:06,585 --> 00:18:07,660
- Aw.
447
00:18:07,753 --> 00:18:09,504
[upbeat music]
448
00:18:09,588 --> 00:18:11,330
- Congratulations!
449
00:18:11,423 --> 00:18:12,507
- Thank you.
- Yes!
450
00:18:12,591 --> 00:18:14,675
- Congratulations.
- Oh, you got me.
451
00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:17,086
You got me good.
452
00:18:17,170 --> 00:18:19,672
- I feel really relieved.
Like, oh, thank God.
453
00:18:19,756 --> 00:18:22,100
I'm definitely excited
to continue to experience life
454
00:18:22,184 --> 00:18:24,519
as I grow in love
with my husband.
455
00:18:24,678 --> 00:18:26,178
- Let it fly!
Whoo!
456
00:18:26,271 --> 00:18:27,188
- Ah!
- Oh!
457
00:18:27,272 --> 00:18:29,181
- Hey!
458
00:18:29,274 --> 00:18:32,601
- Now it's just regular life,
one that we can enjoy
459
00:18:32,686 --> 00:18:35,363
at our own pace
and build from there.
460
00:18:35,447 --> 00:18:36,614
- And we can talk about kids.
461
00:18:36,698 --> 00:18:38,274
- Thank you very much.
- Uh-huh.
462
00:18:38,358 --> 00:18:39,700
- Two to three years from now.
- What?
463
00:18:39,785 --> 00:18:41,619
No.
It could be a year and a half.
464
00:18:41,703 --> 00:18:43,704
- [laughs]
465
00:18:43,789 --> 00:18:47,783
- You have been such an example
for so many people
466
00:18:47,868 --> 00:18:51,629
of what can happen when you
are committed to marriage
467
00:18:51,713 --> 00:18:54,039
and committed
to growing in love.
468
00:18:54,124 --> 00:18:54,966
So here's to your marriage!
- Here, here.
469
00:18:55,125 --> 00:18:56,208
- Cheers.
- Cheers!
470
00:18:56,301 --> 00:18:57,385
- Thank you very much.
471
00:18:57,469 --> 00:19:00,796
- So many more years!
- Yay!
472
00:19:00,881 --> 00:19:03,632
[light hip-hop music]
473
00:19:03,717 --> 00:19:05,301
♪ ♪
474
00:19:05,394 --> 00:19:07,395
- ♪ Yeah,
I was on the fringes ♪
475
00:19:07,479 --> 00:19:09,397
♪ Our love always hingin' ♪
476
00:19:09,481 --> 00:19:11,140
- Bao and Johnny's story
started off
477
00:19:11,224 --> 00:19:13,568
with a fairy-tale wedding
and a familiarity
478
00:19:13,727 --> 00:19:15,311
that gave their marriage
a great start.
479
00:19:15,395 --> 00:19:17,396
♪ ♪
480
00:19:17,489 --> 00:19:20,491
When the honeymoon was over
and real life settled in,
481
00:19:20,576 --> 00:19:23,485
Bao was all in,
but Johnny seemingly folded
482
00:19:23,570 --> 00:19:26,080
at the first sign of difficulty.
483
00:19:26,165 --> 00:19:28,166
Bao and Johnny were matched
because they both have
484
00:19:28,325 --> 00:19:31,669
high standards and a devotion
to family that we hoped
485
00:19:31,828 --> 00:19:33,662
would help them
to create a strong bond.
486
00:19:33,747 --> 00:19:36,749
♪ ♪
487
00:19:36,842 --> 00:19:38,259
[light music]
488
00:19:38,343 --> 00:19:40,511
- I got married at first sight
489
00:19:40,670 --> 00:19:43,255
to start a life
with my forever person.
490
00:19:43,340 --> 00:19:46,508
Oh, my God!
[both laughing]
491
00:19:46,593 --> 00:19:50,021
Hi, Johnny.
- Nice to meet you again.
492
00:19:50,180 --> 00:19:52,607
- But instead
of marrying a stranger,
493
00:19:52,766 --> 00:19:55,601
I married Johnny Lam.
494
00:19:55,694 --> 00:19:57,820
[cheers and applause]
495
00:19:59,940 --> 00:20:01,440
♪ ♪
496
00:20:01,524 --> 00:20:04,118
Johnny's cute, driven,
and successful.
497
00:20:04,277 --> 00:20:05,703
- I would love to retire at 40.
498
00:20:05,862 --> 00:20:09,198
- I can totally see already
why we were matched.
499
00:20:09,282 --> 00:20:11,784
Johnny is the life of the party.
500
00:20:11,877 --> 00:20:13,794
- Give it up!
501
00:20:13,879 --> 00:20:15,129
- Who do y'all think is gonna
502
00:20:15,214 --> 00:20:16,705
be the first couple
to consummate?
503
00:20:16,790 --> 00:20:19,634
- Bao and Johnny.
504
00:20:19,718 --> 00:20:21,552
- He makes me feel comfortable
in group settings...
505
00:20:21,711 --> 00:20:23,963
I want to win that bet, like.
[laughter]
506
00:20:24,047 --> 00:20:26,307
When otherwise,
I would feel anxious.
507
00:20:26,391 --> 00:20:29,727
- It's just been me--
My rules, my way.
508
00:20:29,886 --> 00:20:31,729
And I--I gotta say,
I'm a little bit particular
509
00:20:31,813 --> 00:20:33,397
about how I like things.
510
00:20:33,556 --> 00:20:34,640
- Like, I don't think
I'll ever get to the point
511
00:20:34,724 --> 00:20:36,475
of showering three times a day.
512
00:20:36,568 --> 00:20:37,985
- I'm expressing to you
that this is my preference.
513
00:20:38,070 --> 00:20:39,979
I would love it if you're clean.
514
00:20:40,063 --> 00:20:42,907
- He has unrealistic standards
of me.
515
00:20:43,066 --> 00:20:45,484
- When you get happy
and excited,
516
00:20:45,568 --> 00:20:48,570
you get very giddy,
almost like a little kid.
517
00:20:48,655 --> 00:20:50,414
- [laughing]
518
00:20:50,573 --> 00:20:51,907
- I personally don't
find it attractive.
519
00:20:51,992 --> 00:20:53,492
- He has sabotaged this marriage
520
00:20:53,585 --> 00:20:55,577
by looking for any way out.
521
00:20:55,662 --> 00:20:58,664
- But what if, like, I went in
for the right reasons
522
00:20:58,748 --> 00:20:59,924
but I wasn't ready?
523
00:21:00,008 --> 00:21:02,418
I'm conflicted about us.
524
00:21:02,511 --> 00:21:04,753
- Johnny is running away from me
525
00:21:04,838 --> 00:21:07,339
because he sees the potential
for happiness
526
00:21:07,432 --> 00:21:09,600
and is afraid of being hurt.
527
00:21:09,759 --> 00:21:12,687
- If this was a dating scenario,
528
00:21:12,771 --> 00:21:14,188
this is where
we would end things.
529
00:21:14,273 --> 00:21:16,440
- But why do you need
to say that?
530
00:21:16,525 --> 00:21:18,767
Every time I thought it was
the end for Johnny and I,
531
00:21:18,860 --> 00:21:21,612
something pulled us
back together.
532
00:21:21,771 --> 00:21:25,024
Maybe there's a reason
our paths crossed again.
533
00:21:25,117 --> 00:21:28,202
- I feel like, at some point,
we're gonna grow to find out
534
00:21:28,361 --> 00:21:30,121
we have so much in common
535
00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:34,283
and that we do actually
complement one another.
536
00:21:34,367 --> 00:21:35,543
I took a leap of faith
to find love.
537
00:21:35,627 --> 00:21:37,044
With this ring, I wed you, Bao.
538
00:21:37,203 --> 00:21:38,713
Bao is cute and quirky.
539
00:21:38,797 --> 00:21:41,299
- [laughing] I am so awkward.
540
00:21:41,383 --> 00:21:43,625
- Bao is an independent,
strong-willed woman.
541
00:21:43,710 --> 00:21:46,053
- Why are you on this bed?
542
00:21:46,138 --> 00:21:47,638
- I was hoping we'd stay
in the same bed.
543
00:21:47,723 --> 00:21:49,223
And I find that very attractive.
544
00:21:49,308 --> 00:21:51,633
Oh, my God, here goes.
- She's a badass.
545
00:21:51,718 --> 00:21:53,302
- She was always ready
to try new things.
546
00:21:53,386 --> 00:21:54,470
[gun fires]
- Whoo!
547
00:21:54,563 --> 00:21:55,721
[laughing]
- [screams]
548
00:21:55,805 --> 00:21:59,483
- Oh, God!
- Oh, my God!
549
00:21:59,642 --> 00:22:02,978
- But she hides
certain aspects of herself...
550
00:22:03,063 --> 00:22:04,739
I feel like it's nothing
to be ashamed of,
551
00:22:04,823 --> 00:22:06,982
because so many people snore.
552
00:22:07,067 --> 00:22:09,493
Because she's uncomfortable,
ashamed.
553
00:22:09,578 --> 00:22:13,155
All I can say is that
I am 100% committed to you.
554
00:22:13,239 --> 00:22:16,658
- Then touch me more.
Touch me more.
555
00:22:16,743 --> 00:22:18,836
Touch me more.
- Bao's lack of maturity
556
00:22:18,995 --> 00:22:20,421
was a turnoff
from the very beginning.
557
00:22:20,505 --> 00:22:24,258
- I'm worming my way
into his heart.
558
00:22:24,343 --> 00:22:26,594
I am consistently
thinking about you
559
00:22:26,753 --> 00:22:27,928
and this relationship--
560
00:22:28,013 --> 00:22:29,764
- I feel like you are not
consistent at all.
561
00:22:29,848 --> 00:22:31,265
It's hard to have meaningful
conversations with her
562
00:22:31,424 --> 00:22:32,933
without getting into a fight.
563
00:22:33,018 --> 00:22:35,511
I wish I had been matched
with literally anyone else.
564
00:22:35,595 --> 00:22:37,271
- You've said a lot
of mean things.
565
00:22:37,356 --> 00:22:41,016
I do not want to be talked to
566
00:22:41,101 --> 00:22:43,185
the way I have been before.
- Okay.
567
00:22:43,278 --> 00:22:44,945
This marriage has been very,
very difficult,
568
00:22:45,105 --> 00:22:46,530
and we're both to blame.
569
00:22:46,615 --> 00:22:48,440
- So where do you think
we should go from here?
570
00:22:48,525 --> 00:22:52,027
- ♪ Don't stop, keep on ♪
571
00:22:52,112 --> 00:22:54,613
♪ Don't stop, just run ♪
572
00:22:54,697 --> 00:22:56,865
- It takes two people to keep
a marriage from falling apart.
573
00:22:56,950 --> 00:22:59,535
- I'm still here.
You want to have talks,
574
00:22:59,619 --> 00:23:01,712
I'm open to them.
575
00:23:01,797 --> 00:23:06,050
- ♪ The rain's the only way
to clear the clouds ♪
576
00:23:06,134 --> 00:23:09,387
♪ I'm soaking ♪
577
00:23:09,471 --> 00:23:11,389
- Maybe I was married to Bao
for a reason,
578
00:23:11,548 --> 00:23:13,966
and maybe it's worth more time
to find out why.
579
00:23:14,059 --> 00:23:15,976
- Ball in your court, Johnny.
580
00:23:16,061 --> 00:23:18,062
- ♪ Always ♪
581
00:23:20,399 --> 00:23:23,392
[dramatic music]
582
00:23:23,476 --> 00:23:25,144
♪ ♪
583
00:23:25,237 --> 00:23:26,645
- Hi, Johnny.
Come on in.
584
00:23:26,738 --> 00:23:29,231
- Hi.
- Hey, guys.
585
00:23:29,315 --> 00:23:30,825
I'm moments away
from making my decision,
586
00:23:30,984 --> 00:23:33,160
and I'm not 100% decided.
587
00:23:33,245 --> 00:23:35,237
- Looking very spiffy.
- Thank you.
588
00:23:35,330 --> 00:23:37,406
And I'm feeling
a little bit nervous.
589
00:23:37,490 --> 00:23:39,417
♪ ♪
590
00:23:39,501 --> 00:23:41,001
- Whoo!
- Hi.
591
00:23:41,161 --> 00:23:42,077
- Hi.
- Lady in red.
592
00:23:42,170 --> 00:23:44,422
- You look great.
- Hello.
593
00:23:44,506 --> 00:23:46,590
- I think the story
of me and Bao is kind of
594
00:23:46,675 --> 00:23:52,680
looks good on paper
but, in practice, not great.
595
00:23:52,764 --> 00:23:56,258
- I always think you look
great, but that is your color.
596
00:23:56,342 --> 00:23:59,103
- Yeah, it is, it is.
- It really is.
597
00:23:59,262 --> 00:24:01,263
- Two months ago,
I said, "I do"...
598
00:24:01,347 --> 00:24:03,265
♪ ♪
599
00:24:03,349 --> 00:24:05,184
And today I could be
saying, "Goodbye."
600
00:24:05,268 --> 00:24:06,902
♪ ♪
601
00:24:11,867 --> 00:24:14,118
- So here we are,
finally Decision Day.
602
00:24:14,277 --> 00:24:16,528
♪ ♪
603
00:24:16,621 --> 00:24:18,122
Let me ask you,
604
00:24:18,281 --> 00:24:22,126
if you were gonna talk
about this experience,
605
00:24:22,285 --> 00:24:24,879
what would you say
were the best moments?
606
00:24:24,963 --> 00:24:27,882
- Um,
607
00:24:27,966 --> 00:24:30,292
in many ways, when I look back,
608
00:24:30,385 --> 00:24:33,212
I felt there were
more highs than lows.
609
00:24:33,296 --> 00:24:36,056
Obviously,
the wedding was amazing.
610
00:24:36,141 --> 00:24:37,641
- Can't beat it.
611
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,312
- Our one-month,
we both defied death together.
612
00:24:41,396 --> 00:24:43,138
- That's a big one.
- Big one!
613
00:24:43,231 --> 00:24:45,974
- We certainly did that.
Yeah, it was fun.
614
00:24:46,059 --> 00:24:50,488
Um, I remember I was beaming
that day.
615
00:24:50,647 --> 00:24:53,908
Absolutely beaming that day.
It was a great day.
616
00:24:53,992 --> 00:24:56,827
- Um, the things that make me
feel warm and fuzzy
617
00:24:56,912 --> 00:24:58,904
about being married to you
618
00:24:58,988 --> 00:25:01,323
have always been
the smaller stuff,
619
00:25:01,416 --> 00:25:04,076
the unplanned, the day-to-day,
620
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:08,672
where I get a sneak peek
of what it would be like
621
00:25:08,831 --> 00:25:11,842
to be married to you
after all this is done.
622
00:25:11,927 --> 00:25:14,503
Those are the moments
I live for.
623
00:25:14,596 --> 00:25:16,597
Those are, like,
the moments that I feel
624
00:25:16,681 --> 00:25:21,018
give me hope sometimes that--
625
00:25:21,177 --> 00:25:23,103
[sighs]
626
00:25:23,188 --> 00:25:26,431
If we had more of those moments,
627
00:25:26,516 --> 00:25:28,025
that's when I'm happiest.
628
00:25:29,861 --> 00:25:32,196
- Those were lovely
to listen to.
629
00:25:32,355 --> 00:25:35,857
What would you say
was the biggest challenge?
630
00:25:35,942 --> 00:25:37,201
- The biggest challenge--
631
00:25:37,360 --> 00:25:40,037
Knowing how
to communicate effectively.
632
00:25:40,196 --> 00:25:43,115
Just trying to figure out
what is going wrong
633
00:25:43,208 --> 00:25:46,952
in our disagreements.
634
00:25:47,036 --> 00:25:51,123
- For me, how to not run.
635
00:25:51,207 --> 00:25:53,801
In the past, when I've thought
that things were getting rough
636
00:25:53,885 --> 00:25:57,638
or it wasn't for me,
it was very easy to just say,
637
00:25:57,797 --> 00:25:59,631
"This is not for me,"
and walk away.
638
00:25:59,716 --> 00:26:02,476
In this case, we're here.
639
00:26:02,561 --> 00:26:04,395
Old me wouldn't have
made it through that.
640
00:26:04,554 --> 00:26:06,814
- Bao, do you agree
with what Johnny is saying?
641
00:26:10,235 --> 00:26:11,652
- No, I don't.
642
00:26:11,811 --> 00:26:13,228
[dramatic music]
643
00:26:13,313 --> 00:26:16,064
Um, I do feel, in many ways,
644
00:26:16,149 --> 00:26:20,652
that you've been running
from the marriage.
645
00:26:20,745 --> 00:26:24,248
He shared with me that
if not for signing up for this,
646
00:26:24,332 --> 00:26:27,418
he would have walked
in the first week.
647
00:26:27,577 --> 00:26:30,412
♪ ♪
648
00:26:30,496 --> 00:26:34,592
And it bothered me, because
I feel like I'm kind of silent.
649
00:26:34,676 --> 00:26:36,010
Like, I'm not saying
what's on my mind.
650
00:26:36,169 --> 00:26:37,669
[tense music]
651
00:26:37,754 --> 00:26:39,763
In some weird way, I feel
like there's been moments
652
00:26:39,922 --> 00:26:41,757
in my marriage that I feel
like I've lost my voice,
653
00:26:41,850 --> 00:26:44,101
and that's just
not who I identify as.
654
00:26:44,260 --> 00:26:47,021
- Can you track
where things go sideways,
655
00:26:47,105 --> 00:26:50,015
where you feel you can't talk?
656
00:26:50,099 --> 00:26:53,018
- Yeah.
Um, it feels
657
00:26:53,111 --> 00:26:56,521
like every argument we've had
where it got really heated,
658
00:26:56,615 --> 00:26:59,950
I've felt like I didn't say
everything that was on my mind
659
00:27:00,109 --> 00:27:03,037
because I was afraid
it was just gonna get louder
660
00:27:03,121 --> 00:27:04,455
and angrier,
and I don't want that.
661
00:27:04,614 --> 00:27:07,616
♪ ♪
662
00:27:07,700 --> 00:27:09,117
- I mean, one,
I'm really sorry that you f--
663
00:27:09,210 --> 00:27:11,629
You feel
that you couldn't speak up.
664
00:27:11,713 --> 00:27:12,796
- Yeah.
- But I've always felt
665
00:27:12,881 --> 00:27:17,134
that our arguments
have not escalated.
666
00:27:17,218 --> 00:27:18,960
Because I start
the conversation at this tone.
667
00:27:19,054 --> 00:27:21,472
At most, it might get to,
like, this tone.
668
00:27:21,556 --> 00:27:22,798
But I'm not--
I never yell at you.
669
00:27:22,882 --> 00:27:24,642
♪ ♪
670
00:27:24,801 --> 00:27:28,470
Most of our conversations,
I'm listening most of the time
671
00:27:28,554 --> 00:27:29,388
to whatever you want to say.
672
00:27:29,472 --> 00:27:32,057
♪ ♪
673
00:27:32,150 --> 00:27:33,734
- I feel like we have
different recollections of...
674
00:27:33,893 --> 00:27:34,810
- Right.
- Our arguments.
675
00:27:34,903 --> 00:27:36,978
- I don't think we understand
676
00:27:37,063 --> 00:27:42,743
how you trigger each other
into unsolvable arguments.
677
00:27:42,902 --> 00:27:47,164
- Yes.
- I wish you could explain it.
678
00:27:47,248 --> 00:27:50,501
- She's so dead set
on one person being right,
679
00:27:50,585 --> 00:27:51,493
and there needs
to be blame on someone
680
00:27:51,586 --> 00:27:54,004
for why something went wrong.
681
00:27:54,163 --> 00:27:58,676
And I can only say, "Yeah,
it was my bad," so much.
682
00:27:58,835 --> 00:28:00,085
I don't want to be married
to someone where I always have
683
00:28:00,178 --> 00:28:01,503
to say it is my fault.
684
00:28:01,596 --> 00:28:05,599
It's always me.
I can, but I mean,
685
00:28:05,684 --> 00:28:07,017
I don't want to.
686
00:28:07,176 --> 00:28:10,104
♪ ♪
687
00:28:10,188 --> 00:28:13,932
- Okay, but is there
anything you could say
688
00:28:14,025 --> 00:28:19,271
about the incident with her
friend, when you were looking
689
00:28:19,364 --> 00:28:23,442
for information or confirmation
of how you were feeling?
690
00:28:23,526 --> 00:28:28,613
Is there anything you could say
about that now?
691
00:28:28,707 --> 00:28:30,708
- Bao, I am very sorry
692
00:28:30,867 --> 00:28:33,785
that Sarah and I talked
about our marriage.
693
00:28:33,870 --> 00:28:35,379
♪ ♪
694
00:28:35,538 --> 00:28:37,131
I, uh, was going
through a rough time,
695
00:28:37,215 --> 00:28:40,551
and I was feeling distraught,
696
00:28:40,635 --> 00:28:43,303
and it felt like she was
the only person that understood
697
00:28:43,463 --> 00:28:46,223
why I was feeling these things.
698
00:28:46,382 --> 00:28:48,967
- When it all happened
and all came forward,
699
00:28:49,060 --> 00:28:50,561
I was pretty devastated,
700
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,638
'cause I was already down
about our marriage.
701
00:28:53,732 --> 00:28:56,650
Made things worse.
702
00:28:56,735 --> 00:29:00,320
I felt so betrayed by my
husband and my best friend.
703
00:29:00,405 --> 00:29:02,156
The one person
in the whole village
704
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:06,994
that's gonna say I'm crazy,
you went with that person.
705
00:29:07,153 --> 00:29:10,989
- No, you are not crazy,
and I needed that at the time.
706
00:29:11,082 --> 00:29:16,077
I think that's why I clung on
to it so closely to myself.
707
00:29:16,171 --> 00:29:19,173
But I understand
she is your best friend
708
00:29:19,257 --> 00:29:22,334
and there are boundaries here.
709
00:29:22,427 --> 00:29:25,095
Our marriage, things that
happen within our marriage,
710
00:29:25,180 --> 00:29:28,348
we should try to resolve that
between us first.
711
00:29:28,433 --> 00:29:30,592
And if I wanted to talk to her
about those things,
712
00:29:30,685 --> 00:29:32,677
I should have sought
your permission.
713
00:29:32,762 --> 00:29:34,021
I am--I am sorry about that.
714
00:29:34,105 --> 00:29:38,016
I wish I had
approached it a different way.
715
00:29:38,109 --> 00:29:42,187
- We--we're looking here, and
we're seeing two attractive,
716
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,699
intelligent people who,
we believed at the beginning,
717
00:29:45,858 --> 00:29:48,777
had all
the necessary ingredients--
718
00:29:48,870 --> 00:29:50,111
Am I right?
- Mm-hmm, yes.
719
00:29:50,196 --> 00:29:52,531
- To make this
not just a good couple
720
00:29:52,615 --> 00:29:56,794
but a great couple that could
accomplish incredible things.
721
00:29:56,953 --> 00:29:59,213
But it seems
as though the same problems
722
00:29:59,297 --> 00:30:01,465
you were finding in your dating,
723
00:30:01,624 --> 00:30:03,625
you've brought
into the marriage.
724
00:30:03,718 --> 00:30:07,638
- Hmm.
That's a good point.
725
00:30:07,797 --> 00:30:11,883
- Well, the time has come
to make a decision.
726
00:30:11,976 --> 00:30:15,637
[dramatic music]
727
00:30:15,730 --> 00:30:21,318
Do you want to stay married, or
do you want to get a divorce?
728
00:30:21,477 --> 00:30:28,242
♪ ♪
729
00:30:29,569 --> 00:30:32,830
- This is a difficult decision.
730
00:30:32,989 --> 00:30:35,249
♪ ♪
731
00:30:35,408 --> 00:30:38,752
We--we've gone
through so many lows.
732
00:30:38,837 --> 00:30:41,580
So many lows.
733
00:30:41,673 --> 00:30:45,166
Oh, my God.
[laughs]
734
00:30:45,251 --> 00:30:47,010
- Say whatever it is
you're feeling.
735
00:30:47,169 --> 00:30:49,012
♪ ♪
736
00:30:49,171 --> 00:30:50,338
- Yeah.
737
00:30:50,423 --> 00:30:55,018
♪ ♪
738
00:30:55,103 --> 00:30:56,761
I'm a yes.
739
00:30:56,846 --> 00:31:00,107
[uplifting music]
740
00:31:00,191 --> 00:31:01,692
Let's see what happens
without the cameras,
741
00:31:01,851 --> 00:31:04,019
without the lights,
without the crew,
742
00:31:04,103 --> 00:31:06,104
do whatever counseling
we need to do.
743
00:31:06,188 --> 00:31:09,774
♪ ♪
744
00:31:09,859 --> 00:31:11,034
- Thank you, Johnny.
745
00:31:11,193 --> 00:31:12,360
- [sighs]
746
00:31:12,453 --> 00:31:14,162
My heart's beating
out of my chest.
747
00:31:16,291 --> 00:31:19,376
- Bao, do you want
to stay married,
748
00:31:19,460 --> 00:31:21,461
or do you want to get a divorce?
749
00:31:24,624 --> 00:31:25,624
[tense music]
750
00:31:25,708 --> 00:31:27,959
- [breathes shakily]
751
00:31:28,044 --> 00:31:29,386
♪ ♪
752
00:31:29,545 --> 00:31:30,721
- [sighs]
753
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:33,640
♪ ♪
754
00:31:33,725 --> 00:31:36,310
I thought this decision was--
755
00:31:36,394 --> 00:31:38,970
I was sure coming into today.
756
00:31:39,055 --> 00:31:41,231
♪ ♪
757
00:31:41,316 --> 00:31:43,483
But I didn't anticipate
how hard it would be.
758
00:31:43,643 --> 00:31:46,904
[dramatic music]
759
00:31:47,063 --> 00:31:50,908
♪ ♪
760
00:31:54,737 --> 00:32:01,251
♪ ♪
761
00:32:05,924 --> 00:32:08,083
My answer is no.
762
00:32:08,167 --> 00:32:10,168
I want a divorce.
763
00:32:10,261 --> 00:32:12,930
[somber music]
764
00:32:13,014 --> 00:32:17,759
Because I came into this
for commitment and support,
765
00:32:17,843 --> 00:32:20,845
and I don't feel I got it.
766
00:32:20,930 --> 00:32:25,275
And I'm so unhappy,
and so much that I--
767
00:32:25,434 --> 00:32:28,687
♪ ♪
768
00:32:28,780 --> 00:32:34,534
I can't trust that that will
change here right now.
769
00:32:34,694 --> 00:32:36,861
- [whispering] Yeah.
770
00:32:36,955 --> 00:32:40,791
Okay.
Okay.
771
00:32:40,950 --> 00:32:43,785
- Johnny, how you feeling?
- Uh...
772
00:32:43,869 --> 00:32:46,621
♪ ♪
773
00:32:46,706 --> 00:32:51,218
It--it's just, I thought,
what's the--
774
00:32:51,377 --> 00:32:53,720
The harm in trying?
775
00:32:53,805 --> 00:32:55,639
Um...
776
00:32:55,798 --> 00:32:57,557
♪ ♪
777
00:32:57,642 --> 00:33:00,719
- ♪ See, my life without you
ain't the same ♪
778
00:33:00,812 --> 00:33:02,896
- There's nothing wrong
with what you said.
779
00:33:02,981 --> 00:33:04,472
- Yeah.
- So I don't want you to feel
780
00:33:04,565 --> 00:33:06,566
as though you made a mistake
by saying,
781
00:33:06,726 --> 00:33:09,310
"I want to stay married."
782
00:33:09,395 --> 00:33:11,738
- I'm so sad for each
of your disappointment.
783
00:33:11,823 --> 00:33:15,150
I can see both of you look
kind of defeated,
784
00:33:15,234 --> 00:33:17,577
and we hope that's not
a continuing feeling,
785
00:33:17,737 --> 00:33:20,998
'cause we want you to be happy.
786
00:33:21,082 --> 00:33:22,499
- You'll learn, and you'll grow,
787
00:33:22,658 --> 00:33:24,743
and you'll be better,
absolutely.
788
00:33:24,827 --> 00:33:26,494
- When we talked
about the good moments--
789
00:33:26,579 --> 00:33:29,006
She's seen good moments,
I've seen good moments.
790
00:33:29,090 --> 00:33:31,833
Why wouldn't she give it a shot?
791
00:33:31,917 --> 00:33:35,837
- ♪ Said you were searching,
but it's all for naught ♪
792
00:33:35,930 --> 00:33:37,672
- [whispering] Thank you.
793
00:33:37,757 --> 00:33:40,517
- I mean, was--was
the marriage really that bad?
794
00:33:40,676 --> 00:33:43,428
That hurts.
795
00:33:43,512 --> 00:33:45,513
- ♪ Said you would,
said you would ♪
796
00:33:45,598 --> 00:33:47,348
- Okay.
797
00:33:47,433 --> 00:33:49,693
- Johnny, take care
of yourself, please.
798
00:33:49,777 --> 00:33:51,603
- Thanks, Dr. Pepper.
799
00:33:51,687 --> 00:33:53,864
- It doesn't add up to me
that suddenly, on Decision Day,
800
00:33:54,023 --> 00:33:56,199
that he would want
to work on it now
801
00:33:56,284 --> 00:33:58,943
if he hasn't been working on it
for the past three weeks.
802
00:33:59,037 --> 00:34:00,954
♪ ♪
803
00:34:01,039 --> 00:34:02,947
And that's why I have to say no,
804
00:34:03,041 --> 00:34:05,125
'cause I don't trust anything
that Johnny says.
805
00:34:05,209 --> 00:34:07,118
It's just too little, too late.
806
00:34:07,203 --> 00:34:09,713
- Oh, man.
[sighs]
807
00:34:12,291 --> 00:34:14,209
[upbeat music]
808
00:34:14,293 --> 00:34:19,056
- ♪ You're so typical ♪
809
00:34:19,140 --> 00:34:22,809
♪ You're so typical ♪
810
00:34:22,894 --> 00:34:24,561
- Brett and Ryan were matched
811
00:34:24,645 --> 00:34:28,056
because Ryan's adventurous side
complements Brett's fun
812
00:34:28,140 --> 00:34:30,058
and outgoing personality.
813
00:34:30,142 --> 00:34:33,653
Brett and Ryan have
very different dating pasts,
814
00:34:33,813 --> 00:34:36,064
but they realized that
they had to shake things up
815
00:34:36,148 --> 00:34:39,317
because what they were doing
wasn't working.
816
00:34:39,401 --> 00:34:41,402
While they started out strong,
817
00:34:41,487 --> 00:34:44,239
Ryan never got the butterflies
that he was hoping for
818
00:34:44,323 --> 00:34:46,825
and struggled to communicate
with Brett.
819
00:34:46,918 --> 00:34:49,160
♪ ♪
820
00:34:49,245 --> 00:34:50,253
- Hi.
821
00:34:50,338 --> 00:34:51,496
- ♪ Just come with me ♪
822
00:34:51,580 --> 00:34:53,090
- I've dated a lot of women,
823
00:34:53,174 --> 00:34:55,166
but I've never come across
a girl like Brett.
824
00:34:55,251 --> 00:34:57,168
Your eyes are incredible.
825
00:34:57,261 --> 00:34:58,595
And you're a good person,
and that's what I asked for.
826
00:34:58,754 --> 00:35:00,755
Brett is extremely
compassionate.
827
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:04,926
I truly am thankful
that I was matched with you.
828
00:35:05,010 --> 00:35:08,263
- ♪ I want you back ♪
829
00:35:08,347 --> 00:35:10,181
- Brett and I have fun
and get along great,
830
00:35:10,266 --> 00:35:12,692
but I didn't get married
for a roommate.
831
00:35:12,777 --> 00:35:14,269
I know it's
a difficult subject, but I am
832
00:35:14,353 --> 00:35:16,187
a pretty sexual person.
833
00:35:16,272 --> 00:35:17,605
[music slows and stops]
834
00:35:17,690 --> 00:35:19,524
Brett and I have
a lot of differences.
835
00:35:19,617 --> 00:35:21,034
- Whoo!
Scared me.
836
00:35:21,119 --> 00:35:22,443
- She doesn't like the country.
837
00:35:22,528 --> 00:35:25,947
She's not as outdoorsy as--
As I am.
838
00:35:26,031 --> 00:35:27,457
Manatee!
You look down.
839
00:35:27,542 --> 00:35:28,708
- I can't, I already--
- Look!
840
00:35:28,793 --> 00:35:29,868
- I can see it
in my peripheral vision.
841
00:35:29,961 --> 00:35:31,619
♪ ♪
842
00:35:31,712 --> 00:35:33,621
- We'll have to work on that.
843
00:35:33,706 --> 00:35:35,549
We just don't see things
the same way.
844
00:35:35,708 --> 00:35:37,041
- I voted this, you voted that.
845
00:35:37,135 --> 00:35:38,802
- 'Cause we're voting
for different things.
846
00:35:38,886 --> 00:35:42,305
I wanted a picture-perfect
marriage, and this isn't it.
847
00:35:42,464 --> 00:35:44,716
But for as long
as I can remember now,
848
00:35:44,809 --> 00:35:46,301
I've wanted to be a father
and a husband,
849
00:35:46,394 --> 00:35:48,562
and it's gonna take work.
850
00:35:48,646 --> 00:35:50,397
I think she's genuinely a person
851
00:35:50,481 --> 00:35:52,649
that just appreciates effort,
852
00:35:52,733 --> 00:35:56,561
and I've never been scared
of the commitment.
853
00:35:56,645 --> 00:35:57,979
- [screams] [laughs]
854
00:35:58,063 --> 00:35:59,731
No!
855
00:35:59,824 --> 00:36:01,491
♪ ♪
856
00:36:01,576 --> 00:36:04,569
I got married to commit 100%
to my husband.
857
00:36:04,662 --> 00:36:07,572
Cheers to continuing
to get to know each other
858
00:36:07,665 --> 00:36:11,576
and also to all the love notes
I'm gonna write you.
859
00:36:11,660 --> 00:36:14,087
- And maybe babies.
- And maybe babies.
860
00:36:14,246 --> 00:36:15,922
I was ready to make my
marriage work no matter what.
861
00:36:16,007 --> 00:36:17,916
You've been amazing
this whole time, so--
862
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,334
- You're falling in like
with me right now.
863
00:36:19,418 --> 00:36:21,178
- Right, exactly.
864
00:36:21,262 --> 00:36:23,171
Ryan is the consummate
Southern gentleman.
865
00:36:23,255 --> 00:36:25,599
He's handsome,
successful, and funny.
866
00:36:25,683 --> 00:36:27,517
- How do you feel about him?
- I have a crush on him.
867
00:36:27,602 --> 00:36:30,020
I have a crush on you.
868
00:36:30,104 --> 00:36:31,846
I know I'm not his type,
but marriage is more
869
00:36:31,939 --> 00:36:33,681
than being someone's type.
870
00:36:33,766 --> 00:36:35,192
- I know her feelings,
and I know her emotions,
871
00:36:35,276 --> 00:36:37,527
and I don't want her
to take that
872
00:36:37,612 --> 00:36:39,112
to another level...
873
00:36:39,197 --> 00:36:40,947
- Okay.
- That I'm not 100% certain--
874
00:36:41,106 --> 00:36:44,951
- It sounds like she's further
along towards liking you.
875
00:36:45,110 --> 00:36:47,278
- I think that's fair, yeah.
- Is that true, then? Okay.
876
00:36:47,363 --> 00:36:49,447
- I think we're still
on the right path,
877
00:36:49,540 --> 00:36:52,542
but I just don't think
that we're there yet
878
00:36:52,627 --> 00:36:54,452
emotionally, physically.
879
00:36:54,545 --> 00:36:56,871
- It's hard to believe Ryan.
He tells me one thing,
880
00:36:56,956 --> 00:36:59,207
and then I hear something
different from everybody else.
881
00:36:59,300 --> 00:37:02,302
Well, I heard that you said you
were gonna have a conversation
882
00:37:02,386 --> 00:37:05,222
with me about how you want
to just be friends, and--
883
00:37:05,306 --> 00:37:06,973
- I've told you, if these
feelings don't develop--
884
00:37:07,058 --> 00:37:08,383
- You don't have
to be defensive.
885
00:37:08,467 --> 00:37:09,309
I never thought
it would be so hard
886
00:37:09,393 --> 00:37:10,894
for Ryan to be honest with me.
887
00:37:10,978 --> 00:37:12,479
Got a text from a friend
888
00:37:12,563 --> 00:37:17,725
that showed that you are
on a dating app.
889
00:37:17,810 --> 00:37:19,644
There's a lot of good
in our marriage,
890
00:37:19,728 --> 00:37:22,230
but I don't think he's willing
to give our marriage a chance.
891
00:37:22,314 --> 00:37:24,148
If you don't feel it,
you don't feel it.
892
00:37:24,233 --> 00:37:25,659
If we agreed to try harder,
893
00:37:25,743 --> 00:37:27,485
I wonder
if we could make it work.
894
00:37:27,578 --> 00:37:30,330
Marriage before this
and now are the same, you know,
895
00:37:30,489 --> 00:37:32,916
something I really believe in,
that I've always believed in,
896
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:37,161
something that I think requires
a lot from both people.
897
00:37:37,255 --> 00:37:38,830
- Yeah.
898
00:37:38,914 --> 00:37:41,499
- ♪ I'd like one more time ♪
899
00:37:41,592 --> 00:37:43,093
♪ To me, he said ♪
900
00:37:43,177 --> 00:37:48,339
♪ I'll be here until the end ♪
901
00:37:48,432 --> 00:37:52,510
♪ ♪
902
00:37:52,603 --> 00:37:55,013
[mellow music]
903
00:37:55,097 --> 00:37:56,189
- Hello.
- Hi there.
904
00:37:56,348 --> 00:37:58,933
- Hey!
- Hey!
905
00:37:59,018 --> 00:38:00,527
I get all three of you!
- What's up, sweetie?
906
00:38:00,686 --> 00:38:02,028
- Hi.
- Mm, good to see you.
907
00:38:02,113 --> 00:38:03,613
- You too.
- You look great.
908
00:38:03,698 --> 00:38:04,856
- Very cool. Very cool dress.
- Hi, how are you?
909
00:38:04,940 --> 00:38:06,700
- Hi.
- How are you?
910
00:38:06,784 --> 00:38:08,368
It's been so long.
- Yeah.
911
00:38:08,452 --> 00:38:09,786
- Y'all look awesome.
- Have a seat.
912
00:38:09,870 --> 00:38:11,612
- Oh, look at you!
You can--you put us to shame.
913
00:38:11,697 --> 00:38:13,448
- [sighs]
914
00:38:13,532 --> 00:38:14,708
I was more nervous
for those doors to open.
915
00:38:14,792 --> 00:38:16,784
I don't know why.
- Than what?
916
00:38:16,877 --> 00:38:18,461
- Than the wedding doors.
All: Oh.
917
00:38:18,546 --> 00:38:19,537
[laughter]
918
00:38:19,630 --> 00:38:22,549
[tense music]
919
00:38:22,708 --> 00:38:24,459
- Hello.
- How are y'all?
920
00:38:24,543 --> 00:38:26,544
- There he is.
- Good to see you, Cal.
921
00:38:26,637 --> 00:38:27,462
- What's up, gentleman?
How you doing, man?
922
00:38:27,555 --> 00:38:29,297
- Good.
- Have a seat.
923
00:38:29,390 --> 00:38:30,974
- Oh, man.
It doesn't matter how ready
924
00:38:31,133 --> 00:38:33,226
you are for this,
it's nerve-racking.
925
00:38:33,385 --> 00:38:34,894
- How you doing?
- Good.
926
00:38:34,979 --> 00:38:36,721
- Yeah?
- We'll see after.
927
00:38:36,805 --> 00:38:39,316
[laughs]
928
00:38:39,475 --> 00:38:41,309
- It's good
to see you guys here.
929
00:38:41,402 --> 00:38:42,485
Leading up to today, I know
930
00:38:42,570 --> 00:38:44,145
that it's been
kind of stressful.
931
00:38:44,229 --> 00:38:47,482
This has been an up-and-down
type of situation.
932
00:38:47,566 --> 00:38:50,234
But what has been the best part
of your marriage?
933
00:38:50,328 --> 00:38:52,570
[mellow music]
934
00:38:52,654 --> 00:38:54,655
- There were definite
obvious things on--
935
00:38:54,740 --> 00:38:56,574
On why we were matched.
936
00:38:56,667 --> 00:38:58,835
Just our conversation,
our competitiveness,
937
00:38:58,994 --> 00:39:00,837
our--just our banter
back and forth.
938
00:39:00,996 --> 00:39:04,749
Um, we are very quick-witted
with each other
939
00:39:04,833 --> 00:39:08,178
as far as--
We can bounce certain things
940
00:39:08,337 --> 00:39:11,181
off of each other
real effortlessly.
941
00:39:11,265 --> 00:39:13,350
She's so friendly, and--and
just, she's an awesome girl.
942
00:39:13,509 --> 00:39:16,344
♪ ♪
943
00:39:16,428 --> 00:39:18,938
- I think that his ability
to take care of people
944
00:39:19,023 --> 00:39:21,099
and give is definitely there.
945
00:39:21,192 --> 00:39:23,935
I think that those are really
good qualities that he has.
946
00:39:24,019 --> 00:39:26,020
There were little moments that,
you know,
947
00:39:26,113 --> 00:39:27,688
I would catch myself, like,
948
00:39:27,773 --> 00:39:30,867
maybe he's driving,
and I'm just like, "Okay."
949
00:39:31,026 --> 00:39:32,619
You know, I was like,
"Mm, maybe."
950
00:39:32,703 --> 00:39:34,779
Um, we do have a good time
together.
951
00:39:34,863 --> 00:39:38,533
Like, my highlights are, like,
the times where we're, like,
952
00:39:38,626 --> 00:39:40,460
listening to music and,
you know,
953
00:39:40,544 --> 00:39:42,203
being competitive, of course.
954
00:39:42,296 --> 00:39:43,788
- We--we do have fun together.
955
00:39:43,881 --> 00:39:46,383
[tender music]
956
00:39:48,219 --> 00:39:49,969
- I respect the conversation
we're having,
957
00:39:50,054 --> 00:39:53,714
and I know you want
to be a good guy.
958
00:39:53,808 --> 00:39:55,558
I do have one thing I need to--
959
00:39:55,643 --> 00:39:58,228
To deal with with you.
960
00:39:58,312 --> 00:40:01,472
I don't understand
how a respectful and good guy
961
00:40:01,557 --> 00:40:03,316
starts a dating app
962
00:40:03,401 --> 00:40:06,394
before the marriage
is actually over.
963
00:40:06,478 --> 00:40:08,980
[dramatic music]
964
00:40:09,073 --> 00:40:11,408
♪ ♪
965
00:40:15,237 --> 00:40:17,738
♪ ♪
966
00:40:17,823 --> 00:40:19,574
What were you thinking?
967
00:40:19,658 --> 00:40:24,921
- Uh, we--we talked
about that significantly,
968
00:40:25,005 --> 00:40:27,841
and I'm forever apologetic
969
00:40:27,925 --> 00:40:31,752
that you had to get
that message from your friend.
970
00:40:31,837 --> 00:40:34,338
♪ ♪
971
00:40:34,423 --> 00:40:37,925
I hope that you genuinely
believe me when I--
972
00:40:38,010 --> 00:40:41,012
I say that that wasn't
my intentions at all.
973
00:40:41,105 --> 00:40:43,106
♪ ♪
974
00:40:43,265 --> 00:40:45,433
I never meant for--
For that to happen.
975
00:40:45,517 --> 00:40:47,935
♪ ♪
976
00:40:48,020 --> 00:40:49,863
- But it didn't happen.
You did it.
977
00:40:50,022 --> 00:40:51,105
- Yeah, yeah, I did it.
978
00:40:51,190 --> 00:40:53,032
[dramatic music]
979
00:40:53,117 --> 00:40:54,192
- Why did you do that?
980
00:40:54,276 --> 00:40:58,362
♪ ♪
981
00:40:58,447 --> 00:40:59,697
- Uh...
982
00:40:59,781 --> 00:41:01,624
♪ ♪
983
00:41:01,709 --> 00:41:04,961
We--we had an initial
connection.
984
00:41:05,045 --> 00:41:06,871
I obviously lost it
along the way,
985
00:41:06,955 --> 00:41:10,041
but we--
We had momentum day one.
986
00:41:10,125 --> 00:41:12,135
And I hate saying "type," but,
987
00:41:12,294 --> 00:41:14,212
I mean, I'm 35, I--
I do have a type.
988
00:41:14,296 --> 00:41:18,224
♪ ♪
989
00:41:18,309 --> 00:41:20,477
- We can assume that you've
had plenty of your type,
990
00:41:20,561 --> 00:41:23,554
but the connection
still didn't deepen.
991
00:41:23,647 --> 00:41:25,648
So I would urge you to think
if it's your type
992
00:41:25,733 --> 00:41:27,225
that's the issue
993
00:41:27,318 --> 00:41:30,645
or if that's just an easy out
for this one.
994
00:41:30,729 --> 00:41:34,741
- I definitely would not agree
that I was looking for an out.
995
00:41:34,900 --> 00:41:36,910
I wanted to come out of this
married more than anything,
996
00:41:36,994 --> 00:41:41,155
and I can look you right
in the eye and tell you that.
997
00:41:41,240 --> 00:41:45,502
What it comes to is I was
fighting my lack of feelings
998
00:41:45,586 --> 00:41:48,663
and--and keeping her feelings
under consideration.
999
00:41:48,756 --> 00:41:50,081
- I mean, if we're being honest,
1000
00:41:50,165 --> 00:41:52,333
it's like,
I'm waiting for a feeling too.
1001
00:41:52,426 --> 00:41:53,834
But you don't just sit and wait,
1002
00:41:53,919 --> 00:41:55,094
because that doesn't happen.
1003
00:41:55,179 --> 00:41:57,088
You have to create it.
1004
00:41:57,172 --> 00:41:58,848
And eventually
it will naturally be that,
1005
00:41:58,933 --> 00:42:01,259
but you--
You have to do something.
1006
00:42:01,352 --> 00:42:03,686
So yeah, I definitely
think we have different
1007
00:42:03,845 --> 00:42:05,680
kind of mentality
on how that works.
1008
00:42:05,764 --> 00:42:08,024
- So my question to you is,
1009
00:42:08,108 --> 00:42:11,528
was there anything
she could have done
1010
00:42:11,687 --> 00:42:13,187
that would have made
a difference?
1011
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:15,356
She's a supportive woman.
- Yep.
1012
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,700
- She is funny as crap.
1013
00:42:17,785 --> 00:42:20,036
She is outgoing.
1014
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:25,208
She is a ride-or-die
chick forever.
1015
00:42:25,292 --> 00:42:26,534
- I didn't know if she was
1016
00:42:26,618 --> 00:42:27,451
taking her earrings off
to fight me.
1017
00:42:27,536 --> 00:42:29,036
- No, I'm just--
- No.
1018
00:42:29,121 --> 00:42:31,539
No, no.
She's--she's compassionate.
1019
00:42:31,623 --> 00:42:33,049
She's empathetic.
1020
00:42:33,208 --> 00:42:34,208
And I know,
but she's got her issues.
1021
00:42:34,293 --> 00:42:35,885
She's got her challenges.
1022
00:42:35,970 --> 00:42:41,048
But as far as wife material--
She's wife material.
1023
00:42:41,133 --> 00:42:44,135
- Brett, do you think
Ryan was ready to be married?
1024
00:42:44,219 --> 00:42:45,219
- No.
1025
00:42:45,304 --> 00:42:46,563
[tense music]
1026
00:42:46,647 --> 00:42:48,139
I think, really deep down,
1027
00:42:48,223 --> 00:42:50,641
we really do want
the same things out of life.
1028
00:42:50,734 --> 00:42:52,977
Like, I know that we both
really want to be, like,
1029
00:42:53,070 --> 00:42:55,563
husband-wife, have kids.
1030
00:42:55,647 --> 00:42:57,315
I think
that's why we were matched.
1031
00:42:57,408 --> 00:42:58,983
♪ ♪
1032
00:42:59,067 --> 00:43:00,901
- What would you say right now
1033
00:43:00,986 --> 00:43:03,663
you would do differently?
1034
00:43:03,747 --> 00:43:05,915
- I wish that I would have
verbalized things
1035
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:07,750
and not had you wondering,
1036
00:43:07,909 --> 00:43:10,670
questioning
where I was mentally.
1037
00:43:10,754 --> 00:43:13,581
I absolutely could have done
a much better job of that.
1038
00:43:13,665 --> 00:43:15,925
I definitely tiptoed around
1039
00:43:16,084 --> 00:43:18,169
a lot of
uncomfortable conversations.
1040
00:43:18,253 --> 00:43:24,508
- I just think
that I would have spoken up.
1041
00:43:24,602 --> 00:43:26,344
Like, "Give it to me straight,"
a lot sooner.
1042
00:43:26,437 --> 00:43:30,273
♪ ♪
1043
00:43:30,357 --> 00:43:33,184
- We are here on Decision Day,
so the time has come
1044
00:43:33,268 --> 00:43:36,029
for you guys to make a decision.
1045
00:43:36,113 --> 00:43:39,449
[anticipatory music]
1046
00:43:39,533 --> 00:43:42,702
- Hmm.
Um,
1047
00:43:42,786 --> 00:43:48,115
this, like, day has been,
like, looming over our heads,
1048
00:43:48,208 --> 00:43:50,701
like, literally from day one.
1049
00:43:50,786 --> 00:43:53,296
At the very beginning,
I had a lot of hope,
1050
00:43:53,380 --> 00:43:57,291
because
it felt really different,
1051
00:43:57,376 --> 00:44:02,388
but we never really, like,
got on the same page.
1052
00:44:02,473 --> 00:44:09,053
And, um, I think that we can
have a good friendship,
1053
00:44:09,137 --> 00:44:13,557
but that is what it is,
and so I want to get a divorce.
1054
00:44:13,642 --> 00:44:14,901
♪ ♪
1055
00:44:15,060 --> 00:44:16,477
- [exhales heavily]
1056
00:44:16,561 --> 00:44:18,562
♪ ♪
1057
00:44:18,656 --> 00:44:20,406
- Okay.
1058
00:44:20,565 --> 00:44:21,982
I--yeah, I agree with you.
1059
00:44:22,067 --> 00:44:24,068
I--I want to get a divorce.
1060
00:44:24,152 --> 00:44:26,329
♪ ♪
1061
00:44:29,833 --> 00:44:32,326
- Well, how do you feel?
1062
00:44:32,411 --> 00:44:33,920
[tense music]
1063
00:44:34,004 --> 00:44:34,912
- I feel okay.
1064
00:44:35,005 --> 00:44:37,006
♪ ♪
1065
00:44:37,165 --> 00:44:39,834
- Well, guess you didn't
come here to fail.
1066
00:44:39,927 --> 00:44:42,753
Um, and the end of a marriage
1067
00:44:42,838 --> 00:44:45,348
is likely to be thought of
as a failure.
1068
00:44:45,432 --> 00:44:47,850
- Yeah.
- We hope it's a new platform
1069
00:44:47,935 --> 00:44:49,593
upon which
to build a stronger life.
1070
00:44:49,678 --> 00:44:52,689
♪ ♪
1071
00:44:54,358 --> 00:44:56,693
[rock music]
1072
00:44:56,777 --> 00:45:00,521
- ♪ How could I be so wrong ♪
1073
00:45:00,605 --> 00:45:02,782
♪ ♪
1074
00:45:02,866 --> 00:45:05,359
- It's a relief, I'm sure,
for both of us.
1075
00:45:05,444 --> 00:45:08,371
And I know that I'm coming
out of this a better,
1076
00:45:08,455 --> 00:45:12,041
more well-rounded person and--
And future husband, ideally.
1077
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:15,795
And yeah, uh,
I'm sure she's taken a lot
1078
00:45:15,879 --> 00:45:17,213
of great things
out of it as well.
1079
00:45:19,458 --> 00:45:21,217
- Thank you.
1080
00:45:21,376 --> 00:45:23,794
- Thank you.
I appreciate everything.
1081
00:45:23,879 --> 00:45:25,212
♪ ♪
1082
00:45:25,305 --> 00:45:26,889
- I think the road to getting
1083
00:45:27,048 --> 00:45:28,382
to this decision
was not easy for me.
1084
00:45:28,475 --> 00:45:30,801
I really beat myself up
about feeling
1085
00:45:30,886 --> 00:45:33,387
like I'm giving up on something.
1086
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:35,064
But I have to look out
for myself,
1087
00:45:35,149 --> 00:45:37,725
and I have to put my happiness
somewhere in the equation.
1088
00:45:37,809 --> 00:45:40,153
It can't be just about him
and what he needs.
1089
00:45:40,237 --> 00:45:44,148
Yeah, this is the end
of a marriage story,
1090
00:45:44,241 --> 00:45:46,817
but it is not the end
of my belief in marriage,
1091
00:45:46,902 --> 00:45:49,912
and it's not the end
of my quest to find love,
1092
00:45:49,997 --> 00:45:50,997
You know what I mean?
1093
00:45:51,081 --> 00:45:53,583
I just might let it come to me
1094
00:45:53,742 --> 00:45:55,418
and not take such drastic steps.
1095
00:45:55,502 --> 00:45:57,077
But to me,
the risk was worth it.
1096
00:45:57,162 --> 00:46:00,882
♪ ♪
1097
00:46:05,086 --> 00:46:06,596
♪ ♪
1098
00:46:06,755 --> 00:46:09,507
- ♪ As time goes,
clouds pass ♪
1099
00:46:09,591 --> 00:46:12,602
♪ This strength
is running out fast ♪
1100
00:46:12,761 --> 00:46:14,437
♪ Premonitions
while reminiscing ♪
1101
00:46:14,596 --> 00:46:15,938
♪ Wishing it could
be different ♪
1102
00:46:16,023 --> 00:46:18,858
- Michaela and Zack had
a powerful chemistry
1103
00:46:18,942 --> 00:46:22,019
from the moment they first
saw each other.
1104
00:46:22,112 --> 00:46:24,522
They were matched because
of their incredible ambition
1105
00:46:24,615 --> 00:46:27,191
and their shared desire
to build both a family
1106
00:46:27,284 --> 00:46:29,777
and a lasting legacy.
1107
00:46:29,870 --> 00:46:31,954
But over the course
of eight weeks,
1108
00:46:32,113 --> 00:46:36,116
they've struggled with
Michaela's explosive outbursts
1109
00:46:36,201 --> 00:46:38,619
and Zack's leaving
at the first sign of trouble.
1110
00:46:38,703 --> 00:46:40,788
♪ ♪
1111
00:46:40,872 --> 00:46:42,790
- Nice to meet you!
- Nice to meet you.
1112
00:46:42,883 --> 00:46:44,124
- You're gorgeous!
- Oh, thank you.
1113
00:46:44,209 --> 00:46:46,052
You're gorgeous.
- [laughs]
1114
00:46:46,136 --> 00:46:49,639
The moment in saw Zack,
it was love at first sight.
1115
00:46:49,723 --> 00:46:50,973
Are you nervous?
- Yeah.
1116
00:46:51,132 --> 00:46:52,975
- I got you.
1117
00:46:53,060 --> 00:46:54,385
- ♪ Beauty and grace ♪
1118
00:46:54,478 --> 00:46:56,646
- Zack is charming.
1119
00:46:56,805 --> 00:46:58,138
- So you're just,
like, a great person
1120
00:46:58,232 --> 00:47:00,650
just all around,
and I'm very, very happy.
1121
00:47:00,809 --> 00:47:05,488
- ♪ This is your heart
to break ♪
1122
00:47:05,647 --> 00:47:07,064
- Zack is caring.
1123
00:47:07,157 --> 00:47:08,983
[gasps]
- Hi!
1124
00:47:09,067 --> 00:47:11,327
Oh, my goodness,
I missed you so much.
1125
00:47:11,411 --> 00:47:14,247
- He makes me laugh when it's
the last thing I want to do.
1126
00:47:14,406 --> 00:47:16,657
[both laughing]
1127
00:47:16,741 --> 00:47:17,667
And I love that about him.
1128
00:47:22,664 --> 00:47:24,298
I--I personally, like,
I'm not gonna be by you.
1129
00:47:25,592 --> 00:47:26,676
- Well, I'm sorry.
I know, but I'd rather you--
1130
00:47:28,086 --> 00:47:29,587
- I know, but I'd rather you be
1131
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:31,472
on your honeymoon by yourself
than you have COVID.
1132
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:36,185
Our chemistry was so intense
in the beginning.
1133
00:47:36,344 --> 00:47:40,014
- ♪ Brave-hearted,
brave-hearted, brave-hearted ♪
1134
00:47:40,098 --> 00:47:41,941
- But our flame
dried out quickly.
1135
00:47:42,100 --> 00:47:43,109
- For me, personally,
this is bigger
1136
00:47:43,268 --> 00:47:44,527
than a communication thing.
1137
00:47:44,686 --> 00:47:46,103
It's how we handled it,
and that's something
1138
00:47:46,187 --> 00:47:48,439
I don't know that we can change.
1139
00:47:48,532 --> 00:47:51,275
- Zack doesn't believe I'm
capable of changing things.
1140
00:47:51,368 --> 00:47:53,619
He does an infraction,
and I can forgive and forget
1141
00:47:53,704 --> 00:47:56,113
and try to move past it,
but then if I do something,
1142
00:47:56,197 --> 00:47:59,125
for him, it's like, he--
He holds on to it.
1143
00:47:59,284 --> 00:48:02,536
- ♪ Brave-hearted,
brave-hearted, brave-hearted ♪
1144
00:48:02,629 --> 00:48:05,873
- Do you honestly
see our future together?
1145
00:48:05,957 --> 00:48:07,124
I can't imagine life
without him,
1146
00:48:07,217 --> 00:48:08,301
but I might have to.
1147
00:48:08,460 --> 00:48:10,044
- Right now, it is doubtful,
1148
00:48:10,137 --> 00:48:12,880
but I am holding out hope.
1149
00:48:12,964 --> 00:48:15,382
- ♪ Brave-hearted ♪
1150
00:48:15,475 --> 00:48:18,227
- So I am very happy and--
1151
00:48:18,312 --> 00:48:20,554
- Why are you happy?
- [laughs]
1152
00:48:20,639 --> 00:48:22,139
[tender music]
1153
00:48:22,223 --> 00:48:24,066
- I admire so many things
about Michaela.
1154
00:48:24,151 --> 00:48:26,903
Did anything happen?
- [laughs]
1155
00:48:26,987 --> 00:48:29,480
- ♪ It's precious,
these days ♪
1156
00:48:29,573 --> 00:48:32,575
- Michaela is smart, driven,
ambitious, and resilient.
1157
00:48:32,659 --> 00:48:34,234
She has a smile
that can brighten any day...
1158
00:48:34,319 --> 00:48:36,153
[both laughing]
1159
00:48:36,237 --> 00:48:37,246
And a laugh you can't
help but join.
1160
00:48:37,405 --> 00:48:39,657
- [laughing]
1161
00:48:39,741 --> 00:48:40,908
- She's really the most
thoughtful person
1162
00:48:40,992 --> 00:48:42,585
I've ever met in my life.
1163
00:48:42,669 --> 00:48:44,662
- I already love Zack,
and I've told him that.
1164
00:48:44,746 --> 00:48:47,590
♪ ♪
1165
00:48:47,674 --> 00:48:49,750
- Michaela and I have
similar core values
1166
00:48:49,843 --> 00:48:50,834
but fundamental differences.
1167
00:48:50,928 --> 00:48:52,836
- You do realize,
1168
00:48:52,930 --> 00:48:54,347
A, this is a new relationship.
1169
00:48:54,506 --> 00:48:55,848
We don't know each other.
1170
00:48:55,933 --> 00:48:57,016
- This is bigger
than a relationship.
1171
00:48:57,100 --> 00:48:57,934
This is a fundamental difference
1172
00:48:58,018 --> 00:48:58,851
on how we handle conflict.
1173
00:48:58,936 --> 00:49:01,595
We are who we are.
1174
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:03,931
Differences that might be
too big to move on from.
1175
00:49:04,024 --> 00:49:05,933
Her explosive reactions
have put us
1176
00:49:06,017 --> 00:49:07,526
on an endless
emotional roller coaster.
1177
00:49:07,686 --> 00:49:09,353
I'm going to leave tonight.
- Good.
1178
00:49:09,437 --> 00:49:12,439
Bye.
Go home now.
1179
00:49:12,524 --> 00:49:14,108
- It's been difficult letting go
1180
00:49:14,192 --> 00:49:15,192
of what I thought
marriage would be.
1181
00:49:15,285 --> 00:49:18,362
[dramatic pop music]
1182
00:49:18,446 --> 00:49:20,373
Michaela loves me.
1183
00:49:20,457 --> 00:49:22,449
I only wish I could be sure
that I could love her too.
1184
00:49:22,534 --> 00:49:24,627
- [screaming] Get out!
1185
00:49:24,711 --> 00:49:26,879
[glass shatters]
[bleep]. Get out!
1186
00:49:27,038 --> 00:49:29,757
[dramatic tone]
1187
00:49:32,210 --> 00:49:34,804
[tense music]
1188
00:49:34,963 --> 00:49:36,055
♪ ♪
1189
00:49:36,214 --> 00:49:38,307
Hi.
- Don't you look amazing?
1190
00:49:38,392 --> 00:49:39,892
- Thank you.
- Oh, my goodness!
1191
00:49:40,051 --> 00:49:41,310
- How are you?
- Look at you!
1192
00:49:41,469 --> 00:49:42,970
Oh, my gosh!
1193
00:49:43,063 --> 00:49:46,557
- Today is Decision Day,
and if I had
1194
00:49:46,650 --> 00:49:49,068
to sum up the last eight weeks
in one word--roller coaster.
1195
00:49:49,227 --> 00:49:51,737
- How you doing?
- I'm happy
1196
00:49:51,896 --> 00:49:53,313
that we made it here,
1197
00:49:53,407 --> 00:49:55,065
but it's been
a very long journey.
1198
00:49:55,150 --> 00:49:57,651
♪ ♪
1199
00:49:57,736 --> 00:50:00,070
- You have a great smile on,
but I know this has not
1200
00:50:00,163 --> 00:50:03,073
been the easiest eight weeks
of your life.
1201
00:50:03,158 --> 00:50:05,418
So how are you feeling
right now?
1202
00:50:05,502 --> 00:50:07,745
- Relieved.
Like, I made it here.
1203
00:50:07,838 --> 00:50:09,171
[laughs]
1204
00:50:09,256 --> 00:50:11,749
- I feel really good.
- Okay.
1205
00:50:11,833 --> 00:50:13,584
Well, what--what I'd like you
to start with
1206
00:50:13,668 --> 00:50:16,512
is what your version
of the marriage was like.
1207
00:50:18,423 --> 00:50:24,520
- Um,
my version of the marriage was
1208
00:50:24,679 --> 00:50:28,274
just a really big
learning lesson for myself.
1209
00:50:28,433 --> 00:50:32,186
It had some really
beautiful moments.
1210
00:50:32,270 --> 00:50:36,282
It also had some
really crazy moments.
1211
00:50:36,366 --> 00:50:41,028
But all in all, I'm happy
that all of them happened,
1212
00:50:41,112 --> 00:50:45,783
because I had
so many lessons learned.
1213
00:50:45,876 --> 00:50:47,126
- What about the good times
for you, Zack?
1214
00:50:47,285 --> 00:50:48,702
What were they?
1215
00:50:48,795 --> 00:50:49,462
What are the positives?
- I just, like--
1216
00:50:49,621 --> 00:50:51,464
Hold on, I just--
1217
00:50:51,623 --> 00:50:54,216
[dramatic music]
1218
00:50:58,713 --> 00:51:00,130
- Is this to the good times
or your decision?
1219
00:51:00,223 --> 00:51:01,474
- Oh, this is not my decision.
1220
00:51:01,558 --> 00:51:02,892
This is, like, the good--
This is...
1221
00:51:02,976 --> 00:51:04,468
- Great.
- What this is.
1222
00:51:04,552 --> 00:51:05,978
Like, this is the marriage.
- Good times, okay.
1223
00:51:06,063 --> 00:51:07,805
- Yeah, nah.
- I'm just like, "Whoa!"
1224
00:51:07,889 --> 00:51:09,807
Okay, yeah.
- Yeah, no, it's not--yeah.
1225
00:51:09,891 --> 00:51:12,068
Um,
1226
00:51:12,152 --> 00:51:14,728
honestly, Michaela,
I hope you never look back
1227
00:51:14,813 --> 00:51:17,156
at the time we spent together
with remorse.
1228
00:51:17,315 --> 00:51:19,233
You made me a better man,
1229
00:51:19,317 --> 00:51:22,244
and for this,
I am forever grateful.
1230
00:51:22,403 --> 00:51:24,914
I actually see today
as the beginning for us--
1231
00:51:25,073 --> 00:51:27,666
The beginning of something new
and--and something better.
1232
00:51:27,751 --> 00:51:30,836
You know, everything we've
been through, every fight,
1233
00:51:30,921 --> 00:51:36,500
argument, leave-out,
laugh, cry, hurricane,
1234
00:51:36,584 --> 00:51:39,920
meal together--
All of it was worth it,
1235
00:51:40,013 --> 00:51:41,514
and I wouldn't change
a single thing,
1236
00:51:41,598 --> 00:51:43,090
and I hope you wouldn't either.
1237
00:51:43,174 --> 00:51:44,517
[tender music]
1238
00:51:44,676 --> 00:51:47,761
And thank you for loving me,
1239
00:51:47,854 --> 00:51:49,012
and I can honestly say
I love you too.
1240
00:51:49,106 --> 00:51:52,775
♪ ♪
1241
00:51:52,859 --> 00:51:54,351
Thank you.
1242
00:51:54,444 --> 00:51:56,529
♪ ♪
1243
00:51:56,613 --> 00:51:58,689
- Wow.
1244
00:51:58,773 --> 00:52:00,574
Can I get some tissue?
1245
00:52:05,372 --> 00:52:06,413
Thank you.
1246
00:52:08,116 --> 00:52:12,619
It's been a journey.
1247
00:52:12,712 --> 00:52:16,290
To hear that come from him
really means a lot.
1248
00:52:16,374 --> 00:52:18,801
- What does that tell you
about Zack?
1249
00:52:18,885 --> 00:52:21,554
- [sighs] That he really cares.
1250
00:52:21,638 --> 00:52:24,140
[dramatic music]
1251
00:52:24,224 --> 00:52:30,137
And that he has emotions and,
you know, thoughts and feelings
1252
00:52:30,221 --> 00:52:32,389
that he may not be able
to express to me...
1253
00:52:32,473 --> 00:52:36,560
[sniffles]
In the immediate but that he--
1254
00:52:36,653 --> 00:52:38,904
Like I told him before,
he's always present.
1255
00:52:38,989 --> 00:52:40,731
He's always thinking.
1256
00:52:40,824 --> 00:52:42,324
♪ ♪
1257
00:52:42,483 --> 00:52:43,650
He does that thing
when he thinks.
1258
00:52:43,743 --> 00:52:47,487
[laughter]
1259
00:52:47,581 --> 00:52:48,998
- Zack, what are you feeling
right now?
1260
00:52:50,491 --> 00:52:53,169
- I'm honestly just happy...
1261
00:52:53,328 --> 00:52:56,172
like...
1262
00:52:56,256 --> 00:52:57,923
and very thankful.
1263
00:52:58,082 --> 00:53:00,334
[tender music]
1264
00:53:00,418 --> 00:53:04,004
♪ ♪
1265
00:53:04,088 --> 00:53:05,014
Hold on, give me a second.
1266
00:53:05,173 --> 00:53:07,257
[bleep].
[sniffles]
1267
00:53:07,342 --> 00:53:12,679
I just remember, like,
when I first met you guys,
1268
00:53:12,764 --> 00:53:14,190
like, walking into the rooms...
1269
00:53:14,349 --> 00:53:20,946
♪ ♪
1270
00:53:22,273 --> 00:53:25,025
I was so happy to, like--
1271
00:53:25,109 --> 00:53:29,112
♪ ♪
1272
00:53:29,197 --> 00:53:30,948
To have the opportunity
to meet someone like her.
1273
00:53:31,041 --> 00:53:32,950
♪ ♪
1274
00:53:33,043 --> 00:53:34,543
And you guys did that.
1275
00:53:34,628 --> 00:53:37,213
[sniffling]
1276
00:53:37,372 --> 00:53:39,381
[sighs]
Because--
1277
00:53:39,540 --> 00:53:41,375
♪ ♪
1278
00:53:41,459 --> 00:53:42,793
'Cause outside of my mom,
1279
00:53:42,886 --> 00:53:45,379
you are the most amazing woman
that I know.
1280
00:53:45,463 --> 00:53:50,884
♪ ♪
1281
00:53:50,977 --> 00:53:53,136
- Anyone who's been
following your love story,
1282
00:53:53,221 --> 00:53:58,642
as the three of us have,
would say, "Wait a minute.
1283
00:53:58,726 --> 00:54:02,312
These people are,
like, gushing."
1284
00:54:02,405 --> 00:54:05,157
That, compared to what
the journey has looked like,
1285
00:54:05,316 --> 00:54:06,492
looks really different.
1286
00:54:06,576 --> 00:54:08,661
Can you share with me
and with us
1287
00:54:08,745 --> 00:54:11,497
how that makes sense for you?
1288
00:54:11,656 --> 00:54:13,907
- For me, it's always actions
speak louder than words,
1289
00:54:13,992 --> 00:54:17,411
and so the fact
that she's still willing
1290
00:54:17,504 --> 00:54:19,913
to do stuff
or have conversations
1291
00:54:20,006 --> 00:54:22,165
and say these things--
Like, you must love me.
1292
00:54:22,250 --> 00:54:23,509
- Talk to each other about this.
1293
00:54:23,593 --> 00:54:24,343
- Yeah, like--
Like, you know what I mean?
1294
00:54:24,427 --> 00:54:25,919
Like, you--you must--
1295
00:54:26,004 --> 00:54:27,930
You must love me,
unless you're crazy.
1296
00:54:28,014 --> 00:54:29,765
- [laughing]
- Or both.
1297
00:54:29,924 --> 00:54:32,685
- It might be both, yeah.
[laughter]
1298
00:54:32,769 --> 00:54:35,012
No, but you know what I mean?
Like, so that's why--
1299
00:54:35,096 --> 00:54:37,690
'Cause I--
Then I--I was skeptical.
1300
00:54:37,774 --> 00:54:40,100
I really was.
'Cause, you know, sometimes,
1301
00:54:40,193 --> 00:54:42,519
like, maybe the actions
don't match the words.
1302
00:54:42,603 --> 00:54:46,606
That's why I was skeptical.
But they do.
1303
00:54:46,691 --> 00:54:48,200
♪ ♪
1304
00:54:48,285 --> 00:54:51,278
- I think, after our sit-downs,
1305
00:54:51,371 --> 00:54:55,198
that Zack and I really
put into practice
1306
00:54:55,283 --> 00:54:58,711
how to talk to each other
and how to listen.
1307
00:54:58,795 --> 00:55:03,457
I think another thing
that we learned to overcome
1308
00:55:03,541 --> 00:55:07,210
is just the cease-fire.
1309
00:55:07,295 --> 00:55:11,640
This really showed me that
that Hurricane Kate business,
1310
00:55:11,725 --> 00:55:14,476
that knee-jerk reaction
business, it's not okay.
1311
00:55:14,561 --> 00:55:20,149
It's something that I look back
and I regret,
1312
00:55:20,308 --> 00:55:23,894
and I'm gonna work very hard
to not happen again.
1313
00:55:23,987 --> 00:55:26,822
♪ ♪
1314
00:55:26,906 --> 00:55:27,906
- Okay.
- Okay, well,
1315
00:55:28,066 --> 00:55:30,233
the time has come.
1316
00:55:30,318 --> 00:55:32,903
[anticipatory music]
1317
00:55:32,987 --> 00:55:35,331
Do you want to stay married,
1318
00:55:35,415 --> 00:55:37,741
or do you want to get a divorce?
1319
00:55:37,834 --> 00:55:43,088
♪ ♪
1320
00:55:43,247 --> 00:55:45,591
- I want to stay married.
1321
00:55:45,675 --> 00:55:48,752
[tender music]
1322
00:55:48,836 --> 00:55:52,672
I want to see what the future
looks like for us.
1323
00:55:52,757 --> 00:55:56,185
♪ ♪
1324
00:55:56,344 --> 00:56:00,180
- Zack, do you want
to stay married,
1325
00:56:00,273 --> 00:56:01,607
or do you want to get a divorce?
1326
00:56:01,691 --> 00:56:04,193
[tense music]
1327
00:56:04,352 --> 00:56:11,116
♪ ♪
1328
00:56:11,201 --> 00:56:13,610
- I--
1329
00:56:13,703 --> 00:56:15,204
♪ ♪
1330
00:56:19,125 --> 00:56:24,546
♪ ♪
1331
00:56:27,458 --> 00:56:28,542
- I want to get a divorce.
1332
00:56:28,626 --> 00:56:34,473
♪ ♪
1333
00:56:34,632 --> 00:56:38,394
But it's not a bad thing.
1334
00:56:38,553 --> 00:56:40,554
When I say I want
to get a divorce,
1335
00:56:40,638 --> 00:56:42,981
I want to divorce
the last eight weeks
1336
00:56:43,141 --> 00:56:44,650
that we've experienced.
1337
00:56:44,734 --> 00:56:47,144
But I am willing
to see where this goes.
1338
00:56:47,237 --> 00:56:49,813
[somber music]
1339
00:56:49,897 --> 00:56:51,565
- Don't know how
to interpret this.
1340
00:56:51,649 --> 00:56:53,984
It's--I mean,
you've got a rejection
1341
00:56:54,068 --> 00:56:55,986
of what you've been through,
1342
00:56:56,070 --> 00:56:59,990
and yet you are making plans
to try and still be together
1343
00:57:00,074 --> 00:57:02,167
and work things out, right?
1344
00:57:02,252 --> 00:57:03,252
- I don't know
what we're gonna do.
1345
00:57:03,336 --> 00:57:05,412
It's not--
It's not that easy for us
1346
00:57:05,496 --> 00:57:06,913
to say this is what we're gonna
do, we're gonna live together,
1347
00:57:06,998 --> 00:57:08,248
we're gonna work on this,
this, and that.
1348
00:57:08,332 --> 00:57:11,418
- Zack, um, I have always
been a fan of yours.
1349
00:57:11,511 --> 00:57:13,429
I think you're a good guy.
1350
00:57:13,513 --> 00:57:18,016
Um, I don't believe you're
communicating this in a way
1351
00:57:18,176 --> 00:57:21,103
that's palatable to her.
- Mm-mm.
1352
00:57:21,187 --> 00:57:23,346
- And I think that you're
putting a nail in the coffin,
1353
00:57:23,431 --> 00:57:25,190
and you don't even realize it.
1354
00:57:25,275 --> 00:57:26,525
- That's what's
so mind-boggling to me
1355
00:57:26,684 --> 00:57:27,934
about this whole thing.
1356
00:57:28,019 --> 00:57:29,603
- I don't know why
it's mind-boggling.
1357
00:57:29,696 --> 00:57:34,032
All your wife wanted was
to know whether
1358
00:57:34,117 --> 00:57:38,287
or not you want to be married
to her after today.
1359
00:57:38,446 --> 00:57:42,624
Understanding that the past,
you want a divorce from it,
1360
00:57:42,709 --> 00:57:46,545
but going forward, do you want
to be married to this woman?
1361
00:57:50,133 --> 00:57:52,125
- Do you want to stay married
to me going forward?
1362
00:57:52,218 --> 00:57:53,543
Yes or no?
1363
00:57:53,636 --> 00:57:56,296
[dramatic music]
1364
00:57:56,380 --> 00:58:00,217
♪ ♪
1365
00:58:00,310 --> 00:58:01,968
- No.
1366
00:58:02,053 --> 00:58:08,225
♪ ♪
1367
00:58:08,318 --> 00:58:13,405
Because that means to me
I'm not divorcing the past.
1368
00:58:13,564 --> 00:58:15,065
I am not rejecting you.
1369
00:58:15,149 --> 00:58:17,075
I'm not gonna change
my actions towards you.
1370
00:58:17,160 --> 00:58:18,410
I still want to see
where this goes.
1371
00:58:18,495 --> 00:58:19,736
That--none of that is changing.
1372
00:58:19,820 --> 00:58:21,154
But I have to say
I want a divorce.
1373
00:58:21,239 --> 00:58:24,658
♪ ♪
1374
00:58:24,742 --> 00:58:27,661
[somber music]
1375
00:58:27,745 --> 00:58:29,663
♪ ♪
1376
00:58:29,747 --> 00:58:34,084
- To hear you say, "I don't
want to remain married to you,"
1377
00:58:34,168 --> 00:58:36,836
it--it is-- it's kind of, like,
1378
00:58:36,930 --> 00:58:39,422
"Oh, okay, well, what--
Well, wait a minute."
1379
00:58:39,516 --> 00:58:40,766
That doesn't make sense to me.
1380
00:58:40,850 --> 00:58:41,925
That doesn't give me
encouragement.
1381
00:58:42,009 --> 00:58:43,927
♪ ♪
1382
00:58:44,011 --> 00:58:45,011
- I guess
I'm being selfish here.
1383
00:58:45,096 --> 00:58:46,513
It's more...
1384
00:58:46,597 --> 00:58:48,431
♪ ♪
1385
00:58:48,516 --> 00:58:50,350
for me to feel better mentally.
1386
00:58:50,434 --> 00:58:53,103
♪ ♪
1387
00:58:53,196 --> 00:58:54,854
- I hope you understand the
impact of what you're saying.
1388
00:58:54,939 --> 00:58:57,783
You said no.
1389
00:58:57,867 --> 00:59:00,527
- Because if I say no--
- No is no.
1390
00:59:00,620 --> 00:59:02,612
- But I ca--okay.
- No, no, no.
1391
00:59:02,697 --> 00:59:03,780
Here's the deal.
Yes or no?
1392
00:59:03,864 --> 00:59:05,624
You could say, "Yes, but...
1393
00:59:05,783 --> 00:59:08,034
I don't want the past anymore."
1394
00:59:08,119 --> 00:59:09,619
"No" is pretty definitive.
1395
00:59:09,712 --> 00:59:11,797
There's no,
"No, but I want to hang out."
1396
00:59:11,881 --> 00:59:14,040
- "No, but I wish
I felt differently."
1397
00:59:14,125 --> 00:59:14,883
- Yeah, "No, but" --
- It's still a no.
1398
00:59:14,968 --> 00:59:16,209
- Yeah.
"No, but,"
1399
00:59:16,302 --> 00:59:18,554
and, "Yes, but,"
are completely different.
1400
00:59:18,638 --> 00:59:21,715
"Yes, but," you can understand.
Am I correct?
1401
00:59:21,799 --> 00:59:24,142
- So would you rather me
say no and then be done?
1402
00:59:24,227 --> 00:59:25,310
Like, so I'm saying--
- You did say no.
1403
00:59:25,395 --> 00:59:26,562
- That's not our call.
That's your call.
1404
00:59:26,721 --> 00:59:28,063
- I'm saying, like,
what do I say, then?
1405
00:59:28,222 --> 00:59:29,306
- No, no, you gave your answer.
- Yeah.
1406
00:59:29,390 --> 00:59:30,640
- Okay.
- Yeah, that's your call.
1407
00:59:30,725 --> 00:59:32,475
I think what she needs here
1408
00:59:32,569 --> 00:59:35,312
is some closure going forward.
1409
00:59:35,405 --> 00:59:37,647
[tense music]
1410
00:59:37,732 --> 00:59:39,658
- I do want to stay married
1411
00:59:39,742 --> 00:59:42,661
to see what the future
looks like as married people.
1412
00:59:42,820 --> 00:59:43,745
Right?
- Mm.
1413
00:59:43,830 --> 00:59:46,406
- But while I hear
1414
00:59:46,490 --> 00:59:48,750
all those beautiful things
from you, Zack--
1415
00:59:48,835 --> 00:59:53,163
I really do--I also hear
1416
00:59:53,256 --> 00:59:57,083
that when we get up
and walk out of here,
1417
00:59:57,168 --> 00:59:59,419
you're a man who wants
a divorce from his wife,
1418
00:59:59,503 --> 01:00:00,670
and I'm a woman
who wanted to continue
1419
01:00:00,763 --> 01:00:01,921
to fight for a marriage.
1420
01:00:02,006 --> 01:00:04,600
♪ ♪
1421
01:00:04,684 --> 01:00:06,426
- Yeah.
- And that's it. Okay.
1422
01:00:06,510 --> 01:00:10,022
[somber music]
1423
01:00:10,181 --> 01:00:12,098
- You know, I thought
we were on the same page.
1424
01:00:12,183 --> 01:00:13,683
I thought she understood
where I was coming from,
1425
01:00:13,768 --> 01:00:16,361
but it seemed like she must
have forgotten what I meant.
1426
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:20,523
But I said what I said.
1427
01:00:20,608 --> 01:00:23,109
I said what I said.
1428
01:00:23,194 --> 01:00:26,029
♪ ♪
1429
01:00:26,122 --> 01:00:28,123
- I would have been
more comforted if he said
1430
01:00:28,207 --> 01:00:29,949
that he wanted to stay married,
1431
01:00:30,034 --> 01:00:31,877
and I think I would have had
a little bit more encouragement
1432
01:00:31,961 --> 01:00:33,962
to do--
Start over at the beginning.
1433
01:00:34,047 --> 01:00:35,622
Okay.
[sniffles]
1434
01:00:35,706 --> 01:00:37,290
But now I literally have
no encouragement at all.
1435
01:00:37,375 --> 01:00:39,468
What's the point of, like,
doing stuff going forward?
1436
01:00:39,627 --> 01:00:41,637
What's a new beginning?
Want to date now?
1437
01:00:41,721 --> 01:00:44,306
We're single now?
And it does change the dynamic.
1438
01:00:44,390 --> 01:00:47,467
And that's stupid to me.
And I'm not doing that.
1439
01:00:47,551 --> 01:00:50,053
♪ ♪
1440
01:00:50,137 --> 01:00:53,065
We're so proud of you girl, and
who you are becoming. Don't stop.
1441
01:00:53,149 --> 01:00:54,224
I won't, thank you.
- You're welcome.
1442
01:00:54,317 --> 01:00:55,233
Yes, sir.
Thank you.
1443
01:00:55,393 --> 01:00:57,486
Thank you guys.
Bye.
1444
01:00:57,570 --> 01:00:59,321
- ♪ Lock it in ♪
1445
01:00:59,405 --> 01:01:05,243
♪ Throw the keys away ♪
1446
01:01:05,403 --> 01:01:07,746
- What the heck was that?
1447
01:01:07,830 --> 01:01:08,988
- You want to be the good guy
1448
01:01:09,082 --> 01:01:10,323
who's like,
"But we're still friends."
1449
01:01:10,416 --> 01:01:12,826
Everybody wants that.
Hardly anybody gets it.
1450
01:01:12,910 --> 01:01:14,160
- But that's why I told him--
I said,
1451
01:01:14,245 --> 01:01:15,245
"So when you leave here,
you're gonna be single."
1452
01:01:15,338 --> 01:01:17,247
"No."
Yes, you are, buddy,
1453
01:01:17,331 --> 01:01:19,666
because she's gonna be done.
1454
01:01:19,750 --> 01:01:23,428
♪ ♪
1455
01:01:23,513 --> 01:01:24,596
[mellow music]
1456
01:01:24,755 --> 01:01:26,515
- ♪ You almost there ♪
1457
01:01:26,599 --> 01:01:28,258
♪ You got this ♪
1458
01:01:28,342 --> 01:01:34,347
♪ ♪
1459
01:01:34,432 --> 01:01:38,276
♪ I know you been running
all your life ♪
1460
01:01:38,361 --> 01:01:42,272
- Rachel and Jose are driven,
independent people.
1461
01:01:42,356 --> 01:01:44,950
Right from the start, we have
loved watching them get closer
1462
01:01:45,034 --> 01:01:47,360
and deepen their bond
of marriage.
1463
01:01:47,445 --> 01:01:50,113
But they had
to learn a few hard lessons
1464
01:01:50,197 --> 01:01:52,866
about trust along the way.
1465
01:01:52,950 --> 01:01:55,377
They were matched because
we felt that Rachel could help
1466
01:01:55,536 --> 01:01:58,380
Jose let loose,
and we thought that Jose could
1467
01:01:58,464 --> 01:02:00,882
help Rachel plan for the future.
1468
01:02:01,041 --> 01:02:02,634
We hoped that these two
could bring out
1469
01:02:02,793 --> 01:02:04,720
the best in each other.
1470
01:02:04,804 --> 01:02:07,714
But has Jose really
shown Rachel that he can
1471
01:02:07,798 --> 01:02:10,726
be the supportive partner
that she needs
1472
01:02:10,810 --> 01:02:13,562
to feel confident in herself
and their marriage?
1473
01:02:13,646 --> 01:02:15,722
- ♪ Hold tight ♪
1474
01:02:15,806 --> 01:02:17,474
[tender music]
1475
01:02:17,567 --> 01:02:19,317
- I'm Rachel.
- I'm Jose.
1476
01:02:19,402 --> 01:02:20,226
- Jose.
- Nice to meet you, Rachel.
1477
01:02:20,311 --> 01:02:21,570
- Nice to meet you too.
1478
01:02:21,729 --> 01:02:24,072
- I adore so many things
about Rachel.
1479
01:02:24,157 --> 01:02:26,149
You are so gorgeous.
- Thank you.
1480
01:02:26,233 --> 01:02:30,236
- ♪ Sometimes it's hard
to bear the weight of lies ♪
1481
01:02:30,329 --> 01:02:32,489
- Rachel is the wife
I've always prayed for.
1482
01:02:32,582 --> 01:02:35,074
It just feels right.
Like, it feels right.
1483
01:02:35,168 --> 01:02:36,251
I feel like a married man.
1484
01:02:36,335 --> 01:02:37,085
I feel like a happy married man.
1485
01:02:37,244 --> 01:02:39,421
- Aww.
1486
01:02:39,505 --> 01:02:41,256
- Rachel's kind
and cares about my feelings.
1487
01:02:41,340 --> 01:02:42,665
- Surprise, we're going fishing.
1488
01:02:42,759 --> 01:02:44,509
[laughs]
- No, what?
1489
01:02:44,594 --> 01:02:46,085
Go--beautiful.
- That was horrible.
1490
01:02:46,170 --> 01:02:48,263
♪ ♪
1491
01:02:48,347 --> 01:02:50,590
- I love
that Rachel likes sports
1492
01:02:50,674 --> 01:02:52,684
and we can enjoy
sporting events together.
1493
01:02:52,843 --> 01:02:53,852
- Bow-chicka-wow.
- I love it.
1494
01:02:54,011 --> 01:02:55,845
I love it.
- [laughs]
1495
01:02:55,938 --> 01:02:57,347
We're going to Japan.
1496
01:02:57,440 --> 01:02:59,265
- That's--
- Uh-huh.
1497
01:02:59,358 --> 01:03:00,942
- Okay.
- Can you be that spontaneous?
1498
01:03:01,027 --> 01:03:03,019
- Yeah, no.
1499
01:03:03,103 --> 01:03:06,189
Rachel needs to work on being
more financially savvy.
1500
01:03:06,273 --> 01:03:08,617
The biggest thing for me--
It's, okay, we're now married.
1501
01:03:08,701 --> 01:03:12,204
Financially, we're no longer
in this two separate accounts.
1502
01:03:12,288 --> 01:03:13,955
We're gonna have
this joint account.
1503
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:16,199
There are things about
Rachel's past that worry me.
1504
01:03:16,292 --> 01:03:18,618
- Uh, never have I ever...
1505
01:03:18,702 --> 01:03:20,370
- ♪ Something tells me
I'll be fine ♪
1506
01:03:20,454 --> 01:03:23,131
[laughter]
- Oh!
1507
01:03:23,290 --> 01:03:24,883
- Trust hasn't been easy for us,
1508
01:03:25,042 --> 01:03:26,134
but we're working on it.
1509
01:03:26,219 --> 01:03:28,386
- Uh-huh.
- How can I be comfortable
1510
01:03:28,546 --> 01:03:30,463
with this girls' night and know
1511
01:03:30,548 --> 01:03:31,556
that I don't have to worry
about this?
1512
01:03:31,641 --> 01:03:33,892
- You honestly will just
have to trust me.
1513
01:03:33,976 --> 01:03:38,304
- ♪ I'll be happy alone ♪
1514
01:03:38,389 --> 01:03:40,065
- Rachel helps me
be a better man.
1515
01:03:40,149 --> 01:03:43,485
I'm gonna start listening more!
- And that's okay.
1516
01:03:43,569 --> 01:03:44,894
- But I'm gonna get there.
- As long as you acknowledge
1517
01:03:44,979 --> 01:03:46,321
and you work on it...
1518
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:47,656
- I'm trying.
- That's all I can ask for.
1519
01:03:47,815 --> 01:03:49,491
- I envisioned
the perfect marriage,
1520
01:03:49,575 --> 01:03:51,317
the perfect wife.
1521
01:03:51,410 --> 01:03:53,495
Mm, maybe we keep looking.
1522
01:03:53,579 --> 01:03:58,825
But I'm realizing nothing can
be perfect, and that's okay.
1523
01:03:58,909 --> 01:04:00,001
If Rachel today said, you know,
1524
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:02,170
she wanted a divorce,
um, it'd be tough.
1525
01:04:02,255 --> 01:04:03,746
It'd be tough to come back
from this one, for sure.
1526
01:04:03,840 --> 01:04:05,423
[atmospheric music]
1527
01:04:05,508 --> 01:04:07,333
So me and wife just got married.
1528
01:04:07,418 --> 01:04:09,335
- I'm so happy.
1529
01:04:09,428 --> 01:04:12,505
- No, I--I am happy.
- [laughs]
1530
01:04:12,598 --> 01:04:15,174
I love so many things
about Jose.
1531
01:04:15,259 --> 01:04:16,268
- I don't know
that there's anything
1532
01:04:16,427 --> 01:04:17,435
I wouldn't do with you.
1533
01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:19,012
I'd jump out a plane for you.
1534
01:04:19,096 --> 01:04:20,680
I mean, I'm already married
to you, so yes.
1535
01:04:20,764 --> 01:04:22,348
- Aww, that's so sweet.
- I mean, I'm good.
1536
01:04:22,441 --> 01:04:24,109
- ♪ It's only
for the argument ♪
1537
01:04:24,193 --> 01:04:26,686
♪ I'm a lover, not a fighter ♪
1538
01:04:26,770 --> 01:04:28,521
♪ When we're together,
life is brighter ♪
1539
01:04:28,614 --> 01:04:30,189
- I want to grab one.
I got it.
1540
01:04:30,283 --> 01:04:31,283
- Yeah!
- I got it, I got it!
1541
01:04:31,442 --> 01:04:32,275
- Okay.
- I got it!
1542
01:04:32,368 --> 01:04:34,035
I feel good.
I feel proud.
1543
01:04:34,120 --> 01:04:36,446
And again, it's you just, like,
boosting my confidence
1544
01:04:36,530 --> 01:04:38,364
instead of shutting me down.
1545
01:04:38,449 --> 01:04:42,952
My dream-dream trip
right now is Switzerland.
1546
01:04:43,045 --> 01:04:44,796
- I think the biggest thing
that just comes to mind
1547
01:04:44,955 --> 01:04:46,298
is it's a lot of money.
1548
01:04:46,382 --> 01:04:48,800
[dramatic music]
1549
01:04:48,885 --> 01:04:51,887
- I love Jose, but he can
be a little controlling.
1550
01:04:52,046 --> 01:04:56,382
- You want to get
to something like this.
1551
01:04:56,467 --> 01:04:58,801
♪ ♪
1552
01:04:58,886 --> 01:05:01,387
- ♪ Learn to play along ♪
1553
01:05:01,472 --> 01:05:05,483
- I came in this looking for
the husband that I deserve.
1554
01:05:05,643 --> 01:05:08,153
- I'm just saying, you called
me by a different man's name.
1555
01:05:08,312 --> 01:05:10,480
- And I immediately apologized.
1556
01:05:10,573 --> 01:05:12,824
But you locked me out.
1557
01:05:12,909 --> 01:05:14,901
Getting locked out!
[laughter]
1558
01:05:14,985 --> 01:05:17,829
♪ ♪
1559
01:05:17,914 --> 01:05:20,990
My heart's in love,
but my head has some doubts.
1560
01:05:21,075 --> 01:05:23,576
Is this what we want?
1561
01:05:23,661 --> 01:05:29,582
♪ ♪
1562
01:05:29,667 --> 01:05:31,343
[tense music]
1563
01:05:31,427 --> 01:05:32,510
- Hey!
1564
01:05:32,670 --> 01:05:34,346
- Hi.
- Hi!
1565
01:05:34,430 --> 01:05:36,255
This decision is life-altering.
1566
01:05:36,340 --> 01:05:39,100
♪ ♪
1567
01:05:39,259 --> 01:05:41,102
The main reason I got married
at first sight
1568
01:05:41,187 --> 01:05:43,930
was I wanted to be
with one person
1569
01:05:44,014 --> 01:05:46,015
and just grow old
with the person,
1570
01:05:46,108 --> 01:05:47,684
but a person that fit my life.
1571
01:05:47,777 --> 01:05:50,436
My fear going into this
is just not knowing
1572
01:05:50,521 --> 01:05:53,523
if Jose is the best husband
for me.
1573
01:05:53,616 --> 01:05:54,449
♪ ♪
1574
01:05:59,113 --> 01:06:00,947
- You looks great.
You look good and married.
1575
01:06:01,031 --> 01:06:02,874
- Yes.
- You really, really do.
1576
01:06:02,959 --> 01:06:03,959
- Thank you, sir.
- [laughs]
1577
01:06:04,043 --> 01:06:06,378
So it's Decision Day,
1578
01:06:06,462 --> 01:06:09,205
and we just wanted to take
some time and talk to you
1579
01:06:09,289 --> 01:06:13,885
and find out how things have
been over the last eight weeks.
1580
01:06:14,044 --> 01:06:16,388
- [sighs] Just, it's been a--
1581
01:06:16,472 --> 01:06:18,473
It's been a whirlwind, right?
1582
01:06:18,557 --> 01:06:21,309
'Cause it's so quick,
and it's so much coming at you.
1583
01:06:21,394 --> 01:06:24,053
We've had ups and downs,
but we have
1584
01:06:24,146 --> 01:06:25,814
a lot of commonalities,
a lot of similarities,
1585
01:06:25,898 --> 01:06:27,807
and that's what I asked for
being married at first sight.
1586
01:06:27,900 --> 01:06:30,068
I wanted someone
that I could go and enjoy
1587
01:06:30,152 --> 01:06:32,812
doing the common things
that not only I like to do
1588
01:06:32,905 --> 01:06:34,647
but then she did as well too.
1589
01:06:34,732 --> 01:06:36,149
- Yeah.
In the beginning,
1590
01:06:36,233 --> 01:06:38,735
it was so perfect, like,
could not be more perfect.
1591
01:06:38,819 --> 01:06:40,903
And then, you know, our--
1592
01:06:40,988 --> 01:06:43,406
Our big argument happened
and everything.
1593
01:06:43,499 --> 01:06:45,658
The day after,
I was kind of like, "I'm done."
1594
01:06:45,743 --> 01:06:48,661
[tense music]
1595
01:06:48,754 --> 01:06:51,164
It was just too much at once,
1596
01:06:51,248 --> 01:06:52,582
and it just went, pssh.
1597
01:06:52,675 --> 01:06:54,333
♪ ♪
1598
01:06:54,418 --> 01:06:57,262
- I mean, we have to talk
about the dead bolt.
1599
01:06:57,346 --> 01:06:59,672
What was that whole experience
like for you emotionally?
1600
01:06:59,757 --> 01:07:01,266
♪ ♪
1601
01:07:01,350 --> 01:07:04,436
- It was just the way he argued
scared me,
1602
01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:06,688
and I was like,
"Ooh, if this is--
1603
01:07:06,772 --> 01:07:08,431
This is a character flaw."
1604
01:07:08,515 --> 01:07:10,933
♪ ♪
1605
01:07:11,018 --> 01:07:13,686
- Clearly,
my actions did not serve
1606
01:07:13,779 --> 01:07:16,189
this marriage appropriately.
1607
01:07:16,282 --> 01:07:17,949
But it's tough
when someone says,
1608
01:07:18,034 --> 01:07:19,701
"I want to throw in
the white towel."
1609
01:07:19,860 --> 01:07:21,611
And--and I think that, uh--
I mean, again,
1610
01:07:21,695 --> 01:07:24,039
we've learned so much from that.
1611
01:07:24,198 --> 01:07:26,616
- The beauty here is that you--
You discussed it.
1612
01:07:26,709 --> 01:07:27,700
- Yeah.
1613
01:07:27,785 --> 01:07:29,711
[tender music]
1614
01:07:29,870 --> 01:07:32,630
- You dealt with it.
You put it to rest.
1615
01:07:32,715 --> 01:07:37,385
And you valued her more
than you valued being right.
1616
01:07:37,470 --> 01:07:39,295
- I'm--I'm gonna be honest,
I was definitely hurt.
1617
01:07:39,379 --> 01:07:41,556
I was upset.
1618
01:07:41,640 --> 01:07:43,716
- Trust has been an issue
in your past.
1619
01:07:43,809 --> 01:07:45,718
- Right.
- It's even been an issue,
1620
01:07:45,803 --> 01:07:47,970
at least initially,
in this marriage.
1621
01:07:48,055 --> 01:07:51,149
- Mm-hmm.
- Do you fully trust your wife?
1622
01:07:51,233 --> 01:07:52,817
[tense music]
1623
01:07:52,976 --> 01:07:56,479
- Um, you know, I mean,
1624
01:07:56,572 --> 01:07:59,982
it's very tough, 'cause,
you know, I'm just concerned
1625
01:08:00,076 --> 01:08:01,242
when [bleep] hits the fan,
she's gonna go ahead
1626
01:08:01,401 --> 01:08:02,652
and bounce.
1627
01:08:02,745 --> 01:08:06,405
♪ ♪
1628
01:08:06,490 --> 01:08:08,908
- I mean, it's a lot different
when you're with someone
1629
01:08:08,992 --> 01:08:11,327
you really want to be with.
1630
01:08:11,411 --> 01:08:13,079
♪ ♪
1631
01:08:13,163 --> 01:08:14,506
- Okay.
So the time has come
1632
01:08:14,590 --> 01:08:15,840
for you to decide.
1633
01:08:15,925 --> 01:08:17,342
[anticipatory music]
1634
01:08:17,501 --> 01:08:19,761
You two are about to make
1635
01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:23,172
one of the biggest decisions
of your lives.
1636
01:08:23,257 --> 01:08:26,425
♪ ♪
1637
01:08:26,510 --> 01:08:27,677
Do you want to stay married?
1638
01:08:27,770 --> 01:08:30,096
♪ ♪
1639
01:08:30,189 --> 01:08:32,849
Or do you want to get a divorce?
1640
01:08:32,933 --> 01:08:39,447
♪ ♪
1641
01:08:42,451 --> 01:08:44,953
- Um,
1642
01:08:45,112 --> 01:08:46,529
you know, I really
care about you, right?
1643
01:08:46,613 --> 01:08:50,625
I mean, you show me
each and every single day
1644
01:08:50,709 --> 01:08:52,794
how much you value me.
1645
01:08:52,953 --> 01:08:55,872
And, you know,
makes me feel so special
1646
01:08:55,956 --> 01:08:59,134
when you do little things for
me that I don't even ask for.
1647
01:08:59,218 --> 01:09:01,136
It's been a quick process.
1648
01:09:01,295 --> 01:09:02,295
There's been a lot
of different elements,
1649
01:09:02,388 --> 01:09:03,713
but I think that what we have,
1650
01:09:03,797 --> 01:09:07,717
from a foundation perspective,
is far beyond
1651
01:09:07,801 --> 01:09:10,303
anything that I could
ever have expected
1652
01:09:10,396 --> 01:09:11,563
in being married at first sight.
1653
01:09:11,647 --> 01:09:13,982
[soft guitar music]
1654
01:09:14,141 --> 01:09:17,059
But we went
through some hard times.
1655
01:09:17,144 --> 01:09:21,156
But, um, you know,
we worked through it.
1656
01:09:21,240 --> 01:09:24,242
And each and every single day
that we grow and live together,
1657
01:09:24,326 --> 01:09:27,069
you show me
how important I am to you.
1658
01:09:27,163 --> 01:09:30,907
♪ ♪
1659
01:09:30,991 --> 01:09:35,077
And so for that reason, um...
1660
01:09:35,171 --> 01:09:38,756
♪ ♪
1661
01:09:38,841 --> 01:09:40,175
I would like to stay married.
1662
01:09:43,170 --> 01:09:44,420
You're just a wonderful woman,
1663
01:09:44,504 --> 01:09:46,589
and I couldn't be married
to anyone better.
1664
01:09:46,673 --> 01:09:48,758
- All right, Rachel.
1665
01:09:48,851 --> 01:09:53,512
Tell your husband,
do you want to stay married,
1666
01:09:53,606 --> 01:09:55,181
or do you want to get a divorce?
1667
01:09:55,265 --> 01:09:57,275
[tense music]
1668
01:09:57,359 --> 01:09:58,684
- Through this whole experience,
1669
01:09:58,777 --> 01:10:01,437
you know, we went through a lot.
1670
01:10:01,521 --> 01:10:03,022
♪ ♪
1671
01:10:03,106 --> 01:10:05,617
And we chose to be married,
1672
01:10:05,701 --> 01:10:09,946
but we didn't choose
who exactly we got married to.
1673
01:10:10,039 --> 01:10:12,040
♪ ♪
1674
01:10:12,124 --> 01:10:16,369
And this whole marriage,
1675
01:10:16,462 --> 01:10:19,372
everything seemed so perfect,
1676
01:10:19,456 --> 01:10:23,793
and then, you know, we both
learned it's not perfect.
1677
01:10:23,877 --> 01:10:26,888
♪ ♪
1678
01:10:27,047 --> 01:10:28,547
But...
1679
01:10:28,632 --> 01:10:32,802
♪ ♪
1680
01:10:32,886 --> 01:10:35,980
Of course I choose
to stay married to you.
1681
01:10:36,139 --> 01:10:37,482
[uplifting music]
1682
01:10:37,566 --> 01:10:42,654
- ♪ I choose you ♪
1683
01:10:42,738 --> 01:10:45,982
- You know, we have still a lot
of learning and growing.
1684
01:10:46,066 --> 01:10:50,245
And I'm, like,
very privileged right now to
1685
01:10:50,329 --> 01:10:52,497
actually get to say
1686
01:10:52,581 --> 01:10:55,667
that I choose to be married
to you, Jose.
1687
01:10:55,826 --> 01:10:58,160
- Yay!
- [laughs]
1688
01:10:58,254 --> 01:11:00,997
- Aww.
- Yes!
1689
01:11:01,081 --> 01:11:03,091
♪ ♪
1690
01:11:03,175 --> 01:11:05,093
- Celebration time.
- Congratulations!
1691
01:11:05,177 --> 01:11:06,919
- Well done.
Yes.
1692
01:11:07,012 --> 01:11:08,346
- I feel relieved.
I feel good.
1693
01:11:08,430 --> 01:11:11,015
Uh, it was a toss-up there,
I don't know.
1694
01:11:11,174 --> 01:11:12,508
It was--
You know, I didn't know.
1695
01:11:12,601 --> 01:11:13,843
I was--I was nervous.
1696
01:11:13,927 --> 01:11:15,603
I didn't know.
[laughs]
1697
01:11:15,688 --> 01:11:17,179
- Here's to you guys.
1698
01:11:17,264 --> 01:11:18,940
Here's to being married
at first sight.
1699
01:11:19,099 --> 01:11:20,683
[cheers]
1700
01:11:20,776 --> 01:11:22,601
- That's really awesome.
1701
01:11:22,686 --> 01:11:24,186
- It's a huge sense of relief.
1702
01:11:24,271 --> 01:11:28,107
You know, we came in
extremely blind to what--
1703
01:11:28,191 --> 01:11:30,192
You know, what could happen.
1704
01:11:30,277 --> 01:11:32,945
We put ourselves out there,
hit it off,
1705
01:11:33,030 --> 01:11:36,949
we made this connection,
and even our bad days
1706
01:11:37,034 --> 01:11:40,119
turned out to be things
that were really helpful
1707
01:11:40,203 --> 01:11:42,547
for our marriage,
and now we're here,
1708
01:11:42,631 --> 01:11:45,458
you know,
saying yes on Decision Day,
1709
01:11:45,551 --> 01:11:48,219
and it's still a little unknown.
1710
01:11:48,378 --> 01:11:53,215
I feel confident, because I
have a good partner by my side.
1711
01:11:53,309 --> 01:11:56,477
- Congratulations for this day
and for a lifetime.
1712
01:11:56,562 --> 01:11:57,645
- Yes.
Thank you guys.
1713
01:11:57,804 --> 01:12:00,723
All: Cheers.
1714
01:12:00,816 --> 01:12:04,485
- ♪ Even after all the fights,
I still choose you ♪
1715
01:12:11,327 --> 01:12:13,411
♪ They can see
what they want to see ♪
1716
01:12:13,495 --> 01:12:15,663
- I'm really gonna miss this.
1717
01:12:15,748 --> 01:12:18,082
There's a lot about
this whole journey
1718
01:12:18,241 --> 01:12:20,076
that I'm definitely gonna miss,
1719
01:12:20,160 --> 01:12:23,245
and I'm gonna have
a lot of fond memories.
1720
01:12:23,330 --> 01:12:26,916
One of the simple things
that I'm gonna miss
1721
01:12:27,000 --> 01:12:31,596
is just having coffee
out here with Johnny.
1722
01:12:31,680 --> 01:12:34,849
- Decision Day was very
interesting for Zackary and I.
1723
01:12:35,008 --> 01:12:38,427
We're kind of
in a marriage purgatory.
1724
01:12:38,512 --> 01:12:39,937
I'm willing and open to see
1725
01:12:40,022 --> 01:12:42,765
what the future
looks like, but...
1726
01:12:42,849 --> 01:12:46,018
I'm here, I'm in it, and just...
1727
01:12:46,103 --> 01:12:48,270
you know, yeah.
1728
01:12:48,355 --> 01:12:52,691
- I like to get dolled up
for my casual walks.
1729
01:12:52,785 --> 01:12:55,536
- That's not true.
She's lying.
1730
01:12:55,621 --> 01:12:58,706
- We're walking Hypey.
1731
01:12:58,865 --> 01:13:01,292
- All right.
1732
01:13:01,451 --> 01:13:04,045
- Trying to think of a time
that I needed a drink more.
1733
01:13:04,129 --> 01:13:06,622
- What's up, guys?
- Hello, hello.
1734
01:13:06,715 --> 01:13:07,790
- Y'all made it.
1735
01:13:07,883 --> 01:13:09,884
- How are you?
1736
01:13:09,968 --> 01:13:11,627
- I'm feeling curious.
1737
01:13:11,720 --> 01:13:13,721
I want to see how everyone's
Decision Day went.
1738
01:13:13,806 --> 01:13:14,713
- Hear! Hear!
- Cheers, everybody.
1739
01:13:14,798 --> 01:13:16,641
All: Cheers!
1740
01:13:16,800 --> 01:13:19,727
- If they were as much
of a roller coaster as mine.
1741
01:13:19,886 --> 01:13:23,898
I want to know who said yes
and who said no.
1742
01:13:23,982 --> 01:13:26,484
I would love to hear about
Jose and Rachel's Decision Day.
1743
01:13:26,568 --> 01:13:28,903
- Oh, me too.
- Yup, yup, yup, definitely.
1744
01:13:28,987 --> 01:13:32,565
- I decided to say yes
and stay married to Rachel.
1745
01:13:32,649 --> 01:13:35,326
We had, you know, a great
journey, a lot of learning.
1746
01:13:35,411 --> 01:13:36,411
I thought I was
a great communicator.
1747
01:13:36,495 --> 01:13:37,903
I thought I was
a great listener.
1748
01:13:37,988 --> 01:13:39,914
Turns out that I'm really not.
Right?
1749
01:13:39,998 --> 01:13:41,833
- You're all right, man.
You're all right.
1750
01:13:41,917 --> 01:13:42,992
You're all right.
1751
01:13:43,076 --> 01:13:45,744
- So...
- I had to say yes,
1752
01:13:45,829 --> 01:13:47,496
'cause I Ubered there,
and I needed a ride back.
1753
01:13:47,589 --> 01:13:48,998
[laughter]
1754
01:13:49,082 --> 01:13:51,008
- She did.
She did.
1755
01:13:51,093 --> 01:13:52,260
- I want to know when y'all
are gonna change
1756
01:13:52,344 --> 01:13:53,586
y'all's last names.
1757
01:13:53,679 --> 01:13:57,181
- We now go by Rosé, so...
- Yes!
1758
01:13:57,266 --> 01:14:00,426
- Jose and Rachel
are now just Rosé,
1759
01:14:00,519 --> 01:14:02,678
and Rosé can't be separated.
1760
01:14:02,762 --> 01:14:05,773
And we all knew
this was gonna happen.
1761
01:14:05,858 --> 01:14:09,277
Come on.
They've been so lovey-dovey.
1762
01:14:09,361 --> 01:14:11,770
- What about you guys?
1763
01:14:11,855 --> 01:14:18,194
- After a long,
thought-out process,
1764
01:14:18,278 --> 01:14:22,039
it's a tax break
when you stay married, so...
1765
01:14:22,199 --> 01:14:24,533
I decided to stay married.
1766
01:14:24,626 --> 01:14:27,462
- I said yes too.
I think I'm most excited about
1767
01:14:27,546 --> 01:14:29,371
getting our new apartment
together,
1768
01:14:29,456 --> 01:14:33,801
and then we can start, like,
decorating, building a home.
1769
01:14:33,886 --> 01:14:35,127
So I'm excited about that.
1770
01:14:35,212 --> 01:14:36,888
- Oh, also, one more reveal.
1771
01:14:36,972 --> 01:14:39,140
[dramatic music]
1772
01:14:39,299 --> 01:14:41,058
We already consummated
our marriage.
1773
01:14:41,143 --> 01:14:42,968
[upbeat music]
1774
01:14:43,053 --> 01:14:44,220
- Oh!
- Mm!
1775
01:14:44,304 --> 01:14:45,480
- Oh!
1776
01:14:45,564 --> 01:14:47,223
- Yeah.
So we did it.
1777
01:14:47,316 --> 01:14:49,308
[laughter]
1778
01:14:49,392 --> 01:14:53,237
- Gil and Myrla,
they crossed that finish line.
1779
01:14:53,322 --> 01:14:56,073
You know, you don't
always have to be
1780
01:14:56,158 --> 01:15:00,319
the biggest, the strongest,
jump off to the fastest start
1781
01:15:00,403 --> 01:15:03,322
to actually finish and win
the race successfully.
1782
01:15:03,406 --> 01:15:05,666
- Anybody else?
1783
01:15:05,751 --> 01:15:08,669
- You know, it's--it's not
going where we wanted it to go,
1784
01:15:08,754 --> 01:15:12,173
and so I said, you know,
1785
01:15:12,332 --> 01:15:16,928
that I would rather
not stay married.
1786
01:15:17,012 --> 01:15:19,764
- As disappointing as it is
for the end result for us,
1787
01:15:19,848 --> 01:15:22,683
I said--I said no.
1788
01:15:22,842 --> 01:15:23,842
- I feel like, in the beginning,
1789
01:15:23,936 --> 01:15:25,678
Brett and Ryan really did
like each other,
1790
01:15:25,762 --> 01:15:28,105
but Ryan wasn't real.
1791
01:15:28,190 --> 01:15:32,268
If you are saying
one thing to her
1792
01:15:32,352 --> 01:15:35,771
and then doing another, like,
now you look like the bad guy.
1793
01:15:35,864 --> 01:15:38,950
- No regrets.
1794
01:15:39,034 --> 01:15:41,944
[somber music]
1795
01:15:42,028 --> 01:15:44,205
♪ ♪
1796
01:15:44,289 --> 01:15:48,876
- So with my answer,
as we're talking
1797
01:15:48,961 --> 01:15:50,953
to the experts,
and they're like,
1798
01:15:51,046 --> 01:15:52,880
"Okay, ultimately,
do you want to stay married,
1799
01:15:52,965 --> 01:15:55,383
or do you want
to get a divorce?"
1800
01:15:55,467 --> 01:15:59,637
I said stay married.
1801
01:15:59,721 --> 01:16:03,558
Because ultimately,
I-I-I do want to stay with him.
1802
01:16:03,642 --> 01:16:05,977
- I'm not gonna lie.
1803
01:16:06,136 --> 01:16:08,387
Decision Day was the worst day
out of the whole eight weeks,
1804
01:16:08,471 --> 01:16:11,974
but I still intend to get
to know you and hang out.
1805
01:16:12,067 --> 01:16:14,318
So no matter what I said
1806
01:16:14,477 --> 01:16:16,320
and no matter what she said,
in my mind, we're still gonna--
1807
01:16:16,405 --> 01:16:17,488
- You knew what you were
gonna do after.
1808
01:16:17,573 --> 01:16:18,906
- Yeah, we're still doing it.
1809
01:16:19,065 --> 01:16:20,908
So, like, it doesn't
really matter.
1810
01:16:20,993 --> 01:16:23,736
- The question is very clear:
do you want to stay married,
1811
01:16:23,820 --> 01:16:25,580
or do you want a divorce?
1812
01:16:25,664 --> 01:16:29,325
Not divorce, continue to date.
What is the intent?
1813
01:16:29,418 --> 01:16:32,244
Are you trying to have
your cake and eat it too?
1814
01:16:32,329 --> 01:16:35,339
- So what if she just starts--
Completely cuts you off?
1815
01:16:35,424 --> 01:16:37,082
- Then that's--then
I understand that.
1816
01:16:37,167 --> 01:16:38,009
Then that's life.
- Okay.
1817
01:16:38,168 --> 01:16:39,427
- Yeah.
- You respect that.
1818
01:16:39,586 --> 01:16:41,012
- I respect that.
Of course I respect that.
1819
01:16:41,096 --> 01:16:42,504
- I was just curious to see
how you would feel about--
1820
01:16:42,589 --> 01:16:43,839
Like, would you be
in feelings about it...
1821
01:16:43,923 --> 01:16:47,092
- No.
- Or something, because...
1822
01:16:47,177 --> 01:16:49,261
[laughter]
1823
01:16:49,346 --> 01:16:51,272
I mean, 'cause I would think,
if I told my wife,
1824
01:16:51,431 --> 01:16:53,441
"You know what, I'm gonna
say no on Decision Day,
1825
01:16:53,525 --> 01:16:56,018
but I want us
to completely talk,"
1826
01:16:56,111 --> 01:16:57,853
or if she said that to me,
I'd be like, "Nah."
1827
01:16:57,937 --> 01:16:59,271
- Same.
1828
01:16:59,364 --> 01:17:01,866
- Our relationship
is our relationship.
1829
01:17:02,025 --> 01:17:04,193
We have beautiful moments.
1830
01:17:04,277 --> 01:17:07,788
And he does need to get away
from this kind of situation
1831
01:17:07,873 --> 01:17:09,707
for us to really flourish.
1832
01:17:09,791 --> 01:17:11,876
And I respected that,
1833
01:17:11,960 --> 01:17:14,295
once I came down
off of my, "Huh?"
1834
01:17:14,454 --> 01:17:16,130
- Yeah.
- "What the hell was that?"
1835
01:17:16,289 --> 01:17:18,299
- Whatever makes you happy,
you do that.
1836
01:17:18,383 --> 01:17:21,636
It does matter if we're all
confused and we got whiplash
1837
01:17:21,795 --> 01:17:23,471
and we don't know
what the hell's going on.
1838
01:17:23,555 --> 01:17:24,963
Who cares?
1839
01:17:25,057 --> 01:17:26,891
You know what I mean?
- Mm-hmm.
1840
01:17:26,975 --> 01:17:28,967
- If she has a smile on her
face and you're good,
1841
01:17:29,061 --> 01:17:31,220
that's all--
That's all I need to know.
1842
01:17:31,304 --> 01:17:34,306
♪ ♪
1843
01:17:34,391 --> 01:17:37,976
- I went into Decision Day
with "no" on my mind.
1844
01:17:38,061 --> 01:17:41,822
And stepping into the room,
1845
01:17:41,981 --> 01:17:43,649
everything just goes
into overdrive.
1846
01:17:43,733 --> 01:17:45,567
Everything that had gone on
over the past eight weeks
1847
01:17:45,652 --> 01:17:48,245
started swimming in my head.
1848
01:17:48,330 --> 01:17:50,748
And sitting down with
the experts and talking it out,
1849
01:17:50,832 --> 01:17:54,243
I figured,
what is the harm in saying yes?
1850
01:17:54,336 --> 01:17:58,831
♪ ♪
1851
01:17:58,915 --> 01:18:01,667
- I came in with a decision
1852
01:18:01,751 --> 01:18:05,096
that I had made over
lots of lots of reflection.
1853
01:18:05,255 --> 01:18:08,674
There were definitely
a lot of good times to recount.
1854
01:18:08,758 --> 01:18:10,768
♪ ♪
1855
01:18:10,852 --> 01:18:14,689
But ultimately,
I said I wanted a divorce,
1856
01:18:14,773 --> 01:18:17,266
because I felt,
in all sincerity,
1857
01:18:17,350 --> 01:18:19,601
that I haven't really been
in a marriage.
1858
01:18:19,686 --> 01:18:23,197
♪ ♪
1859
01:18:23,281 --> 01:18:26,024
- So after you heard
his answer, did--in your mind,
1860
01:18:26,118 --> 01:18:28,944
did you kind of, like, hesitate?
1861
01:18:29,028 --> 01:18:30,955
- It's just too little,
too late.
1862
01:18:31,039 --> 01:18:33,290
If there was a, like, sincere
conviction before, maybe.
1863
01:18:33,375 --> 01:18:36,118
But it's just too late.
Can't.
1864
01:18:36,202 --> 01:18:39,880
♪ ♪
1865
01:18:39,965 --> 01:18:42,791
- It is surprising to me that
Johnny and Bao didn't work.
1866
01:18:42,884 --> 01:18:46,295
On paper, they were
the most logical couple,
1867
01:18:46,379 --> 01:18:47,888
as far as they're both
1868
01:18:48,047 --> 01:18:49,882
successful, intellectual people,
1869
01:18:49,966 --> 01:18:51,550
and I thought
they both kind of had
1870
01:18:51,634 --> 01:18:53,894
the funny, nerdy quality
to them.
1871
01:18:53,979 --> 01:18:57,231
And it sucks, 'cause there's
so many good things there.
1872
01:18:57,390 --> 01:18:58,899
- No, but none of chose this,
right?
1873
01:18:58,984 --> 01:19:00,317
We signed up for this.
1874
01:19:00,402 --> 01:19:01,902
We didn't choose
our significant other.
1875
01:19:02,061 --> 01:19:04,146
We'd been put in
a very difficult situation,
1876
01:19:04,230 --> 01:19:06,991
and we're coming out of it
stronger, I hope.
1877
01:19:07,075 --> 01:19:08,659
So that's what I'm--I'm
walking out of this feeling
1878
01:19:08,744 --> 01:19:10,494
really confident
about the future.
1879
01:19:10,579 --> 01:19:15,249
Whoever I end up with,
they're getting a tested guy.
1880
01:19:15,333 --> 01:19:16,742
[laughter]
1881
01:19:16,826 --> 01:19:20,245
♪ ♪
1882
01:19:20,330 --> 01:19:23,415
- Certainly.
Very tested.
1883
01:19:23,508 --> 01:19:26,335
What a journey this has been.
1884
01:19:26,419 --> 01:19:28,679
When I came into this,
1885
01:19:28,838 --> 01:19:32,016
I came in because I wanted
to find the love of my life.
1886
01:19:32,175 --> 01:19:33,768
I've grown a lot.
1887
01:19:33,927 --> 01:19:36,103
I've learned a lot
about friendship,
1888
01:19:36,262 --> 01:19:38,606
what it means to show up
as a good friend
1889
01:19:38,690 --> 01:19:40,775
and as a good wife.
1890
01:19:40,859 --> 01:19:45,780
And I am so grateful.
1891
01:19:45,864 --> 01:19:49,450
I've met and gotten to know
so many wonderful people.
1892
01:19:49,534 --> 01:19:54,279
And...
[sighs]
1893
01:19:54,364 --> 01:19:57,199
My heart is full.
1894
01:19:57,283 --> 01:20:02,713
♪ ♪
1895
01:20:02,798 --> 01:20:06,875
- Not gonna get emotional,
but I feel like we're a family.
1896
01:20:06,968 --> 01:20:08,719
- Yeah.
1897
01:20:08,804 --> 01:20:12,881
- And that is something
that just means so much to me.
1898
01:20:12,966 --> 01:20:15,559
- We share this bond.
Nobody else shares it.
1899
01:20:15,644 --> 01:20:18,312
And, you know,
I don't know what's next,
1900
01:20:18,396 --> 01:20:20,722
but we know that
we'll all be there.
1901
01:20:20,807 --> 01:20:22,316
If babies come in the future,
1902
01:20:22,475 --> 01:20:24,476
I'm pretty sure
a few of us will be here.
1903
01:20:24,569 --> 01:20:28,489
- If I ain't the godmommy...
[laughter]
1904
01:20:28,573 --> 01:20:30,732
- So if I can think back
to talking to the experts
1905
01:20:30,817 --> 01:20:32,150
and telling them basically
what I wanted,
1906
01:20:32,244 --> 01:20:34,069
they definitely listened.
1907
01:20:34,162 --> 01:20:36,330
- I'm just so grateful
for the whole experience.
1908
01:20:36,414 --> 01:20:38,156
Everything has been a highlight.
1909
01:20:38,241 --> 01:20:39,750
I'm just happy to have been
part of this family.
1910
01:20:39,909 --> 01:20:42,327
Yay!
Both: Same, same.
1911
01:20:42,412 --> 01:20:44,672
[laughter]
1912
01:20:44,756 --> 01:20:46,257
- And if this is what
you truly want,
1913
01:20:46,341 --> 01:20:48,250
in being not only married
but married at first sight,
1914
01:20:48,334 --> 01:20:50,419
you got to put in a lot of work.
1915
01:20:50,512 --> 01:20:52,096
And I got everything
that I wanted in a wife.
1916
01:20:52,255 --> 01:20:55,516
I'm so happy.
So, so happy.
1917
01:20:55,675 --> 01:20:57,843
- Here's to the rest
of our lives.
1918
01:20:57,927 --> 01:20:59,761
All: Cheers.
1919
01:20:59,855 --> 01:21:02,264
- ♪ We got the love,
we got the love ♪
1920
01:21:02,348 --> 01:21:04,182
♪ ♪
1921
01:21:04,267 --> 01:21:08,186
♪ We got the love ♪
1922
01:21:08,271 --> 01:21:10,856
- Next time on "Married at
First Sight: Houston Reunion."
1923
01:21:10,940 --> 01:21:12,616
[dramatic music]
1924
01:21:12,701 --> 01:21:15,953
The entire Houston cast is here,
1925
01:21:16,037 --> 01:21:17,788
and you won't believe
what has happened
1926
01:21:17,873 --> 01:21:19,781
since cameras went away.
1927
01:21:19,866 --> 01:21:20,875
Are you still in love with her?
1928
01:21:20,959 --> 01:21:22,877
- Uh...
- Say it.
1929
01:21:23,036 --> 01:21:25,537
- Are you okay?
- Did Zack play you?
1930
01:21:25,630 --> 01:21:27,456
- Yeah.
I completely got played.
1931
01:21:27,540 --> 01:21:30,542
- The couples are back to tell
their side of the story.
1932
01:21:30,627 --> 01:21:32,052
- Brett, you met someone?
1933
01:21:32,137 --> 01:21:34,046
- There's facts,
and there's rumors.
1934
01:21:34,139 --> 01:21:35,389
- I don't understand
what the issue is.
1935
01:21:35,473 --> 01:21:37,474
- You don't care,
and you never cared about me.
1936
01:21:37,559 --> 01:21:39,551
- We'll uncover the truth
of the past.
1937
01:21:39,636 --> 01:21:41,979
Would you say it distracted you
from your marriage?
1938
01:21:42,063 --> 01:21:44,565
- I didn't shed one teardrop
this whole experience,
1939
01:21:44,649 --> 01:21:47,643
and I can't even
control myself right now.
1940
01:21:47,727 --> 01:21:50,821
- And explore the hope
of the future.
1941
01:21:50,906 --> 01:21:53,908
You and Johnny are just BFFs?
1942
01:21:54,067 --> 01:21:56,076
- Me and Zack wouldn't
be bad either.
1943
01:21:56,235 --> 01:21:58,162
- It's easier to now
move forward.
1944
01:21:58,246 --> 01:21:59,821
- This is the
1945
01:21:59,906 --> 01:22:02,324
"Married at First Sight:
Houston Reunion."
1946
01:22:02,417 --> 01:22:04,743
- I'm not participating
in this [bleep] anymore.
1947
01:22:04,827 --> 01:22:09,590
♪ ♪