- Oh, my God,
I'm getting married to a complete stranger.
- Let's go.
- Six weeks ago, ten courageous individuals
risked it all to find love.
- Pleased to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
- They married as complete strangers.
- You may kiss your bride. [cheers and applause]
- I'm feeling great, I'm a married man.
[upbeat music]
- Last time,
our five couples went on a retreat with the hopes
of growing closer before that all-important Decision Day.
[gunshot] - [yelps]
- I'm gonna die here today.
- Bao and Johnny.
- I feel like level one conversations
are working for us.
- I think that's--that's the recipe for success.
- Rachel and Jose.
- I'm super happy where we're at.
We just got to keep in mind everything that we've learned,
you know, and what we want our end goal to be,
you know, so we can make the right decision.
- Myrla and Gil.
- I wish we could have gone faster on longer trail.
- Are you ever satisfied with anything?
Do you feel okay with me saying that?
- I receive it. - "I receive it."
- You can't copy me. - [laughs]
- Brett and Ryan.
- I just can't make excuses for not having conversations,
whether it's for the right intentions or not.
- Mm-hmm.
- There's never gonna be perfect timing for 'em.
- Mm-hmm.
- Michaela and Zack.
- I don't want to ride back with you.
- If that's the case, I'm going to leave tonight.
- Good, bye.
He's getting in the car.
Ryan, if you're saying it's not helping,
then get in the car with him 'cause he's [bleep]ing leaving.
- He's a [bleep]ing adult.
Like, what are we supposed to do, lay under the car?
- Get out! [glass shatters]
[door slams]
[upbeat music] - Whoo!
- And tonight,
with only two weeks left until Decision Day...
- I've never brought anybody here.
- Our couples will have the opportunity
to show their roots as they try to build
an even stronger bond with their partner.
- "I know you always want a glimpse
"into the future and to know that you'll end up happy,
"well, spoiler alert, you will. You'll discover what
means the most to you in this world, love."
- I feel better in the past week
than I have in a long time.
- I just want him to know I love you.
- I do want to see if you feel that
you have told each other secrets that are hard to tell.
- I'm gonna say something, basically, I'm going to regret.
There's something I haven't told Jose about
the night he locked me out.
[dramatic music]
- I recently had a conversation with Bao's best friend, Sarah.
♪ ♪
- I got a text from a friend that showed
that you are on a dating app.
♪ ♪
- They were matched by experts,
then, after eight weeks,
they must make the decision for themselves.
- Do you want to stay married?
♪ ♪
- Or do you want to get a divorce?
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married At First Sight."
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- I don't know about you, but I'm ready
to head back to the city.
♪ ♪
- Are we almost there? Are we there yet?
- These are some country-ass back roads.
♪ ♪
- Home, sweet, home.
- The Couples Retreat has come to an end and our couples
are now returning home to Houston.
- [sighs]
- And with Decision Day approaching fast...
- That was our trip to rekindle.
- They only have two weeks left
to address any lingering questions or concerns
before making the most
important decision of their lives,
whether to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- It's as we left it.
♪ ♪
I'm feeling pretty good overall about this trip,
but in terms of reconnecting with Johnny, largely,
we didn't interact much at all throughout the weekend.
How do you feel the weekend went?
- Um, it was good.
- Yeah. - It was a lot of fun.
- Mm-hmm.
- I'm gonna go shower. - Okay.
- ♪ It's so quiet here ♪
- I know we agreed to be on level one,
but I connect on a deeper level
and that is fulfilling for me.
[indistinct]
I've had level three conversations on an airplane
with a total stranger that were more exciting than level one
conversation with my husband.
I don't want that. [scoffs]
- ♪ Can you get closer ♪
♪ ♪
- Oh no, you're so dying. Oh, no.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Would you be open ♪
- Okay, perk back up.
- ♪ Would you be open to a change of mind ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ I didn't know, I didn't know ♪
♪ What you wanted ♪
♪ But I need to know, I need to know ♪
♪ Yeah it haunts me ♪
- I haven't spoken to Michaela since the Couples Retreat.
Hopefully, today, I can get some more
clarity with Dr. Pepper and I actually requested
that our conversations with Dr. Pepper be separate.
♪ ♪
- So just so y'all know,
Zackary has not talked to me since he jetted off.
I've reached out to him and I've said nothing but,
basically, I love you, and I want us to work this out,
and we can get through this, and radio silent.
I mean, radio silent as if he didn't abandon me.
[scoffs] It's wild.
♪ ♪
- I got you some tea.
- Thank you very much, all right.
♪ ♪
So I gather
to say that it hasn't been easy is an understatement.
- Mm-hmm. Yeah, this has not been easy.
- Have you spoken to Michaela? - No.
- Or texted her, been texted to since then?
- I have not spoken with Michaela,
but she has been texting me nonstop.
It's been like a whole ordeal.
So the Couples Retreat, we have a conversation
and, essentially, I was explaining my thought
process behind getting a divorce
and still possibly dating,
which we were on the same page with this the night before,
like, we were in a really good spot.
And that's where she, like, got upset.
If we got a divorce, right,
then we wouldn't be married anymore,
so then we would be in different circumstances
so we can see what happens then. That's why.
[dramatic music]
- I can't, I can't, I can't! I'm sorry, [bleep]!
♪ ♪
- And that was-- In that exact moment,
I realized I am no longer doing this with Michaela.
- Honestly, I know you've been through
an enormous amount of emotions, and I feel bad for you that
it's been that hard, I really do.
I do want to see where there's some learnings possible.
- Right.
- And to question you on some stuff.
- I understand that, like, I'm not perfect,
and I actually called my ex-girlfriends to ask them
how am I in conflict, how do I handle conflict?
They pretty much all said the same thing,
which is not surprising.
You try to avoid it and you never like when
scenes are caused, like, big, explosive moments.
So my actions should not be causing
the reaction from Michaela.
- Let me try and help you. - Yeah.
- What I'd like to do is have you two hear each other
with rules you both agree on,
and listen to each other's feelings,
and stop it if any of the ground rules are broken.
[soft dramatic music]
- I'm not there yet, I can't--I just can't.
- Well, before you make that absolute decision,
let me plead my case a little bit, okay?
What we haven't done is with me in the middle.
- Okay, that's true. - What if we triangulate that?
You talk to me, I explain it to her,
she talks to me, I explain it to you.
- I'm--I'm down, I agree.
- It's really important for Michaela and Zack
to be able to discuss what happened together.
Come on in, please sit down.
They are still married.
They need to understand what happened, why it happened,
and each of them have a chance to say how it affected them.
So why don't you tell me how you've been feeling and what
you'd like Zack to understand about where you're at.
- Zack left me.
- When was that? Are you talking about at the retreat?
- Yes ma'am, and I said please don't leave,
please, and he still left.
As you know, abandonment is one of my biggest triggers.
[dramatic music]
And with him knowing that I
have these issues with abandonment
and that that was a fear state for me, like, him leaving--
Him leaving, like, Zack, can you please, like, not do that?
And then he does it in such a big and explosive way.
That was hard-- That was hard on me.
♪ ♪
And even with that, I decided,
okay, something got us there.
I don't want to do that anymore ever again.
And we both need time to think and manage our feelings and,
you know, figure out where we are.
I reached out to him and I told him--I said, "Zack, I love you,
"I understand we have challenges,
but I don't want-- I don't want to lose you."
No response.
And it's heartbreaking because
it's like, I've tried, and I've tried, and I've tried.
At this point, it's like, I've--
I've thrown a Hail Mary and...
♪ ♪
There's nothing else I can do.
- So Zack,
what Michaela's saying is that
she is in love with you.
Her perspective is she did ask you not to leave,
you left,
which was extremely difficult for her.
I think that is the core of what she was saying.
What's your response to that?
- So you're not going to ride back with me tomorrow?
If that's the case, then I'm going to leave tonight.
- Good, bye.
- No, no, I was making sure you--
- Good, bye. - No, I came with you, I--
- Ah-ah! Go home now. Bye.
♪ ♪
- I cannot say anything right now.
I can just listen right now.
- Okay.
- My interaction with Zack is that he's found a lot of these
past weeks very traumatic
and that part of it is what he feels
are the explosiveness of your reactions, getting up,
yelling, using a lot of language,
high drama.
- Honestly, Dr. Pepper, Zack tries to paint me out to be
this crazy, inconsistent person.
He really does.
He says that I have these reactions, he has no--
He has no evidence of me reacting in a bad way to him.
[music fades]
- So Zack--
- Before...
- Sorry?
- Before you get into that, I've reached my limit.
Hopefully one day we can have a conversation,
but today is not that day.
I tried my best. I have to leave. Thank you.
♪ ♪
- ♪ When you go downstream ♪
♪ Clench your fists and breathe ♪
♪ Will you even make a sound ♪
♪ When it all comes out ♪
- [sighs]
This is a prime example of how he literally
always abandons me. Prime example.
Even when there's somebody who is non-threatening,
you still leave a situation.
So is it really me?
What confuses me about that, Dr. Pepper, is he says that
I overreact, you're this way, you react this way, you don't,
you know, that you do these explosive things.
- Do you think you don't?
- I think I can.
- There's been some ugly scenes.
- Mm-hmm.
- What do you regret that, if you could rerun them
and do them differently, what would they be?
- The scene that I regret is having a panic attack
watching him drive off even though I couldn't help that.
- Please let me leave.
I'm not mad, I'm gonna be very happy on the way home,
just let me--thank you, damn.
[tense music]
[crashing]
- Get out--get out!
[door slams]
I felt...
[soft dramatic music]
So scared, so abandoned,
so terrified,
so traumatized, so mad,
and I haven't had--
Have not had that kind of feeling since my dad died.
♪ ♪
I was so afraid...
of him leaving.
In my head, him leaving, him getting on the road,
that equaled death to me.
And I didn't see what could we could have talked
about inside of that bedroom that would make
him get inside that car and leave.
- Well, the realities of that situation was there's a lot
of explosion on both sides, but at this point,
Zack, he cannot cope with the mismatch
on how the two of you emotionally react.
♪ ♪
I really, really want you to work
on the reactions you have.
I know that your loss of your father is tragic
and I also know that that triggered a lot of those
feelings and sent you in a panic that you regret,
but I think you have to work
on not projecting that loss
on other issues in a given relationship
so you don't desert what you mostly want,
you know? - Mm-hmm.
- Does that sound like a good idea?
- That sounds like a good idea, yeah.
- Okay.
[upbeat music]
- You sure you don't want to drive?
- I'm positive.
- My cousin actually lived in here
and that boy had to sleep with a gun under his pillow.
- Oh!
- Are you a neighborhood kid,
you were always out on the street?
- I was, yeah.
- Every couple is on their own unique marriage journey,
but with less than two weeks left until Decision Day,
it's our job as experts to help their relationships progress.
- This is where you grew up?
- This is where I lived up 'til, like, a few years ago.
- This week, we've asked our couples
to return to their roots and share some of their
childhood experiences with their spouse.
- You look so different.
- We've also encouraged each person
to write a letter to their younger self
at a significant point in their life.
The goal is to build more emotional intimacy
by revealing something vulnerable about themselves,
and learning about their past
will help them answer some of the questions
they still have about their present and their future.
- I brought some-- Some childhood photos.
- What? [laughs] - [laughs]
That was a little Jeep that me and my cousins all shared.
So Andy's one of the cousins that lived down the street,
he's the guy at my wedding that gave the speech.
- Mm-hmm.
- And here we are again. This is my grandma.
- Mm-hmm.
- And my great grandma, my cousins,
we all grew up together.
We spent, at a minimum, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday together.
[chuckles] All of us as babies.
- Oh, my God, this is adorable.
Oh.
- Picture of me, my mom and dad, my sister.
- Oh, wow. Any memories of your dad here?
- Some. Uh...
actually, a lot of those memories were not--not happy.
I have daddy issues. I admit it.
And I mean, some of these things that I've got
are because I had
a parent actually get removed from the picture.
Not having a dad in the house to just show you everything,
like how to be a man, how to be a husband,
it was very difficult.
Maybe I have certain deficiencies
that are stemming from that.
My dad inadvertently shaped me
without being that involved in my childhood.
I've written my little letter to myself.
If you hang on to this, I'll read it to you.
- Okay, sure.
- S'up kiddo? I write to you from the future.
Should I start with the bad news?
Well, you're not a bajillionaire and sorry,
hoverboards and lightsabers aren't a thing just yet.
Good news, you're happy, healthy,
and you find yourself surrounded by a lot
of incredible people who care about you.
It wasn't easy getting to this point, though.
Boy, I remember these days. You were not a happy kid.
Sadness, jealousy, anger, not only are
those paths to the dark side,
it's just no way to live, amigo.
You may never have the coolest toy car or superhero action
figure in your hands, stylish clothes on your back,
or newest kicks on your feet, but you do have a
devoted mother, giving up her own personal
dreams and ambitions, to ensure she can provide
for you and your sister the life she never got to have.
Love and appreciate her for this,
don't hate that you can't have
all the things you want right now.
Ooh, all right.
Forgive your father.
When you see other kids playing ball at
the park with their dads...
♪ ♪
Family dinners when you go out to eat,
his absence is his choice, but it isn't his fault.
Not all marriages work out.
End of the day, don't sweat about not belonging
to a typical family of dad, mom, 2.5 kids
'cause I'll tell you what: you have something even better,
a village, and someday you'll look back and realize you're
a product of all the people
who committed their time and love
touching your life.
And man, that guy-- That guy has everything.
- That's awesome, how does that feel to share all of that?
- It feels good. - Yeah?
- What do you feel was like the breaking point for your mom,
where she's like, I've had enough, this is the final...
- I don't know. - Final straw.
- If it were up to my dad, they'd still be married today.
- Yeah?
- My dad did this one last-ditch effort of
flying me, my sister, and my mom out to LA.
He had found this one nice, little house
in a little LA suburb.
And he said, "I'm going to buy this house for us.
Can we start over?" - Mm-hmm.
- But my mom didn't want to.
She told my dad never to come back again.
[soft dramatic music]
And he has not been back to Texas.
- ♪ I'm praying for an angel to come ♪
♪ I'm waiting for a star to fall ♪
- There's definitely a lot of shame associated with getting
divorced--that just doesn't happen in Asian households.
But I am so proud of my mom for doing it
because she deserved better, but just viewing my parents'
relationship and how my dad eats every day,
every meal by himself, that is a lonely life,
but that's not the life that I want.
I do want a life partner and I really feel like
I should be happily married and, for whatever reason,
I'm not, and I want to be.
♪ ♪
Man, I want that so bad.
- Well, thank you so much for sharing all this with me.
It means a lot and it gives me a better idea
of how you became who you are now.
♪ ♪
- ♪ You know the damage is done ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- All right, so these two apartments
were the worst apartments.
Your car would get broken into every other day.
- Look, they're hanging all their clothes
outside like in the village.
- It feels a little weird being back here because it's
been about 22 years since I've been here.
Anytime we share our childhood memories,
it opens the door to who we are,
and this is what I'm doing today with my wife
so she can kind of see who I am or how I am the way I am.
I used to get into fights mostly in there, mainly because
we used to play basketball, you know, a shopping cart?
We used to flip it over and hang it on a gate
and that's what we'd hoop at. - Okay.
- And so obviously, kids, we used to get into fights
over basketball games or just people, you know,
people talking noise, bullying.
I hung out with a pretty rough crowd.
I was doing stuff with my friends that,
mm, looking back on it,
I don't think we should have been doing that stuff.
[laughter]
But, um, it's cool, it's cool.
And so that is my apartment.
Well, that's where I grew up, and that's
actually the apartment where my dad was shot.
If you walk in the apartment, as soon as you open
the door, it's the living room, right,
and there was a couch on the right hand side.
Well, I was sleeping on that couch
when they kicked in the door.
So literally, they kicked in the door
and they walked right past me.
And they hit that corner and then my dad opened the door,
and when he opened the door, he saw the guys.
He saw them and then he closed the door, and then he
put us back to the door
and the guy shot at the door.
Like, it was like six or seven bullets and like,
one of them hit my dad in the neck.
And then he ran off, so that's when I called 911.
I remember being in the back of the ambulance,
but I don't--it was so much commotion going on.
I remember the medics, you know, stopping--
Stopping the bleed, wrapping him up,
and we was just hauling. And um...
I was sitting there in the waiting room
and then like, maybe 20 minutes,
the doctor came and told me, you know, your dad passed.
And I was like, okay.
I didn't know--I didn't know how to react to that,
like, I was kind of like-- - Well, you were young, so...
- I was like, "Okay," like it didn't even hit me.
It didn't hit me for like two weeks.
- Although we both lost our fathers, you know, losing your
father when you're young, you still need your father to be
around and a role model,
and I know how traumatic it was for me
so I appreciate him sharing that specific experience.
It is really nice to see where your roots are, like,
where you grew up, and where, like, life molded you.
- I've told people the story of my dad passing away,
but I've never brought anybody here.
Never, like, you're the very first person.
We all have experiences in our past that
might be challenging to talk to someone with.
But, you know, one of the reasons why I
decided I wanted to be married at first sight is so I
could find somebody that
I could be able to talk to, and feel
comfortable with, and have those tough conversations and
hope that they can empathize with me and be there for me.
Damn, I always wonder about how my life would have been
if he was still alive.
Like, it would have been different, for sure.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Turn on it loud ♪
♪ Turn on it loud ♪
♪ Make amends, it's gonna be all right ♪
- So this is it, this is my house.
So this evening, I'm bringing Rachel here
to one of my childhood homes.
This is where I grew up, you know, this is part of my life.
Things have definitely changed,
it looks a lot different,
the trees are a lot larger, but years ago, my parents had
the vision of, "Hey, we're gonna build a house together,"
and what I want to share with my wife, now,
in our marriage, is what I saw, and that's teamwork.
You know, I think the whole reason why
my parents moved here is because
the Pearland school district was good and so they're like,
you know, we're gonna move to Pearland,
and you're gonna go to, you know, go to school and get
good grades, and be in sports and stay out of trouble.
It was significant enough for us
to know that, oh, our parents want us to succeed.
Fast forward, my sister-- We both have degrees,
we're both very educated and, I mean,
they sacrificed a lot, too, to build this house.
- I didn't know that it was built, you know,
from the ground up so I mean, this house is
kind of a reflection of your parents' taste.
Even though both our parents are separated and divorced,
we both experienced a good, wholesome family times and we
know what--when it's good, what it looks like,
what it should look like, so at least we had that to look back.
So no, I really appreciate you bringing me here.
- So you want to go inside?
- Oh yeah, yeah. - Let's go check it out.
[upbeat music]
I remember my sister wanted to go to take these.
- Oh, my gosh.
- These little glamour shots--of course,
I didn't have a beard either, so...
- You were starting to, you know, peach fuzz.
- Yeah, I got a little peach fuzz.
Got a little peach fuzz, yeah.
- Oh, my God, you looked so cool.
How old were you there?
- I have my ears pierced then so I don't know,
I guess I was like...
- You had your ears pierced?
- Yeah, matter of fact, you know the story about that?
I did it myself in this house. - [sighs]
- I was in-- I was in third, fourth grade.
I pierced it with a needle here.
It was funny because I did it
and then one of the neighborhood kids
tried to do it too, and he couldn't.
- Oh, no. - Yeah.
- Oh, yeah, yeah, so...
- That was a thing. - So yeah, I guess like...
- The parts that I'm enjoying the most is really seeing
the pictures and, you know, which pictures made the frames.
I always feel, you know if a picture is framed,
it must mean something more than, you know,
all your other pictures,
and I love behind every picture he is sharing a story.
So what were, like, typical meals during the week?
- So you know, we weren't like super well off, of course,
mind you, we just built this house so we didn't have much
money right? So we ate rice and beans like
every single day because we were not very well off.
It's like hey, you can get a bunch
of rice and a bunch of beans for,
like, pretty cheap, and you can eat that all week.
- Eating rice and beans made you feel like, oh, this is what
we have to eat because maybe there's not enough money?
I never saw rice and beans as, like, not having money thing,
it was just like, oh,
we're being really Hispanic right now.
You know, like, this is what, you know,
my culture eats and that's okay.
Something that I found just a little surprising is
he felt he didn't have a lot growing up because
I've always viewed it
if you have a house-house, that's having a lot, you know?
So it gets me wondering, what is he comparing this to?
What does it look to have everything,
you know, that you want?
♪ ♪
- ♪ I can't sleep at night, no ♪
♪ Waiting for the background of my mind to quiet ♪
♪ ♪
- Hey. - Hey.
- What's going on? Where are we at?
- This is where I grew up.
- All right.
- Yeah, it's different now
'cause there's no house or anything on it,
but I still remember everything like it was yesterday.
Most of the people in my life do not know the depths
of where I came from because so much about my childhood
brought me grief and shame and hurt.
I haven't been back in years.
Part of me doesn't feel like
Johnny deserves to hear any of it,
but I feel there's enough of a foundation for us to be
vulnerable and it's important for my husband
to understand that I'm multi-layered and these layers,
they grew from my childhood.
That tree right there with the little rope,
that was my favorite tree.
It was right in front of the trailer I grew up in.
The trailer was to the left.
- Wish I could see it.
- Yeah, well, I actually have pictures.
It was 50 years old already when my dad bought it.
It was in pretty bad shape.
That's the front, that's the porch.
We used to hide under here.
This is the tree, that big tree I said I like.
This property had pear trees,
peach trees, all kinds of trees,
and we had so much fruit that I would just hock it out
into the street, like, I just found [bleep] to do.
We used to have the biggest bonfires.
I used to build
a big straw hut for my, like, generic Barbies
and I put them in there and I'd set the whole thing on fire.
[laughs] - What?
- A lot of mischief because, again,
when you grow up on two acres and have no friends,
that's what it is.
So I wrote a long letter to my little self.
Dear little [indistinct] Bao, you don't yet know
who you are, but I do.
A lot of what you hate about yourself and feel
shame for now will shape you into a stronger,
braver, more compassionate woman.
[soft dramatic music]
♪ ♪
Your parents are doing the best they can.
♪ ♪
[sniffles]
Your father lost everything, he lost his older brother,
and many friends in the war.
Your father is struggling with PTSD
and no one in your family and community at the time
is equipped to manage it, and certainly not your mother.
[crying]
- You okay?
♪ ♪
- Please try to understand that he is hurting
as much as you are.
Your mother's your hero.
One day, you will see a lot of her in you.
I promise you that there is light beyond these dark times
and you will make yourself and your family
very happy and proud.
Love, bigger [indistinct] Bao.
[chuckles]
[sniffles]
- Come here.
[crying]
♪ ♪
When Bao started sharing with me about her parents,
something clicked in my head
because I tried to empathize with that, I started thinking,
am I like either of my parents?
Yeah.
- [sobbing] - Thanks for sharing it.
Just viewing my parents' relationship and seeing how
unhappy they were has made me feel like
it's okay to get divorced.
I have walked away from relationships very easily
because I saw that it's okay to leave,
and that shouldn't be the case.
There's something wrong here, I'm expecting too much,
and that's not fair.
It's not fair to, like, this marriage,
it's just not fair to Bao.
I didn't try to make it work.
- I've never shared this with anybody.
None of my relationships
that nearly led to marriage,
I never shared it.
I never shared it because I was ashamed,
but I honestly feel like my mom--my mom was the glue.
Like, if she didn't just grit and bear it,
I don't know where we would be now.
I mean, maybe we would have been better
and hindsight's 20/20, maybe if they had split.
I can't say because-- I look at what they have
now and it's--it's wonderful.
They're stronger now. It's all I've ever wanted.
♪ ♪
But they went through some real [bleep] to get there.
We all did.
- For her to have been around her parents who went through
this sort of hardship, and they're still together
after 50 years now,
I think that really speaks volumes as to how
Bao views marriage, and it kind of makes sense now,
the way that she's committed to the marriage 100%,
and it gives me hope.
Thanks for sharing this with me.
Sharing this part of your past, even though it's difficult,
it does give me insight into who you are
and where you came from.
♪ ♪
- It's a little different from what you played, huh?
- I didn't play sand volleyball.
I decided to bring my husband to volleyball because
I loved volleyball and I was athletic in high school,
so I wanted to kind of show him a little into younger me.
You should have worn shorts.
- I 100% should've worn shorts.
I wasn't prepared.
- And that I still fit into my jersey,
except now I have muscle. [laughs]
- I've never played one to one.
- It's easy, you serve, and then you run up
to receive whatever I give you.
- That's a lot of work.
♪ ♪
- There we go. - [chuckles]
- You could've got that. - That doesn't count.
- You could've got that.
- ♪ Would you light a fire ♪
♪ Would you lose it all ♪
♪ Would you light a fire ♪
[laughter]
- I wanna hit that backside so bad.
♪ ♪
- Oh, Jesus.
[laughter]
- Let's go, let's go!
Loser buys drink!
♪ ♪
- You made me fall.
Rematch.
- Good job.
- I would not be here today if it were not for how I grew up,
the communities,
the environment of where we grew up molds us
into who we are today, and so I think it's important
for him to understand this is why I am who I am today.
- So you had fun, baby? - Yes.
I miss playing volleyball.
Everybody takes a different path and it's a different
motivation because my husband also grew up poor
and so--but that molded him to be something different, right,
it drove him to do something different.
- I miss playing volleyball too, I mean, I didn't play
competitive like you out here in a jersey and everything.
- This is my high school senior jersey, it has my name on it.
This is the first time that I've worn this since my
senior year, this was 16 years ago.
You that old lady with her old high school jersey.
- I'm not old. - And it fits like it.
What did your mom think about you playing sports?
- She encouraged it, you know, I mean,
we didn't have a car growing up, the challenge of like,
remember, like you-- - Getting to--
- Getting to and from practice was tough and getting to games.
- Do you think that that translated somehow now into
your life, the way you play sports to now?
Like, in any aspect, like work, or...
- I mean, I definitely think, like, in the being organized,
being responsible, being independent,
working with others, all those things are,
like, who I am now, and that molded me, like,
at a very young age, like, I needed to be in sports, like...
you had to have all your stuff together, like,
you have to be ready to go to practice, you know,
you had to kind of do that on your own because
it's not like my mom was gonna hold my hand and
do it, like, you know, she couldn't.
Like, I had to go and figure out
how to do those things on my own
and communicate those things to my mom.
So really, it was like a motivation to do better and so
I think when I look back,
not just me, like, I see my brother,
and I see my sister, and then I see my little sister,
and I think all the things that we've accomplished,
considering where we came from,
it's like--like, we worked hard,
like, we did good.
Like, we're making my mom proud and that makes me happy
because I know my mom struggled and went through a lot
in her life so that we could be where we are today.
I moved around a lot, but there was--
For me there was one home that I had, like,
this is my first home that I can recollect.
- Let's see this infamous house.
- This is my little casita.
♪ ♪
It was so tiny, like, it was just one room and it
had, like, a tin or aluminum roof, four windows,
and we were all jam packed in there.
- All right, you were living in a mansion, I see you.
[chuckles]
- So you see why I wanted, like, I like high rises
and pretty homes, 'cause this is where I grew up.
- No, that's not the reason why people should like
high rises and--that doesn't justify anything, I mean...
- For me, not for others.
- I completely--I completely see how that's motivation.
I believe that the person she's become now is
completely different from the person that she was.
She works hard for what she has
and she has no shame in who she is.
And so I love that about her, just her drive.
You want to go back there and build your house,
would you want to retire in Roma...
Build your-- - I'm sorry, what?
- But um, sometimes it feels like she forgets where she
came from and I want her to stay true to that
and I don't want her to forget that.
♪ ♪
- ♪ You got me like ♪
♪ Hell yeah ♪
- ♪ Hell yeah ♪ - ♪ Boy, you got me like ♪
[knocking on door]
- Our guest is here. - We got someone at the door.
- With less than two weeks left before Decision Day,
I think it's especially important for our couples
to open up about things they're ashamed of
and to be vulnerable
with one another about both the present and the past.
Understanding someone's past can often provide valuable
information about who they are in the present.
Learning these things about each other will have a major
impact on whether they decide to stay married
or get a divorce.
I can't help but read your signs.
- [laughs] - Oh, yes.
- I promise to actively listen more.
I promise to be less controlling and let
you be the independent woman you are always.
I promise to always check on my wife, morning, noon, and night.
That sounds controlling, but maybe it isn't.
[laughter]
You can let me know.
I don't see any from you up here, Rachel.
- Well I didn't do anything wrong.
[laughter] - So you're the perfect wife?
- She is the perfect one.
- Okay, well let's check in on that.
- The only one that she does have up here
is actually a little personal sign to--
- Something that I need to do or work on, but I'm sure
there are things and we can definitely talk about that.
- So I think it's important to know that we're not
always going to be perfect and the marriage isn't going
to always be perfect, but you can learn from it,
rise above it, and keep getting better.
You know, my job here is to take a look first at,
you know, those things that create a profound relationship.
You know, the vulnerabilities you've shared,
working to build and maintain trust,
those things that are kind of the foundational level
of being married.
So let's take a look at how well you've done.
Rachel, looking into what Jose's triggers are,
what are the things that are his points of vulnerability
that you--you now know, and what happened after that?
- I've learned that when it comes to triggers,
it's definitely making him talk or communicate when
he's not ready to.
I found out that was the trigger,
I found out what happens when you don't give him space.
He was like, "Look, if I get past this point,
I'm gonna say something, basically, I'm gonna regret.
And I believed him and I'm like, okay, like,
I don't want to find out, you know,
and so I learned, yeah, definitely give him space,
give him time,
and not immediately go into this feeling of rejection.
This is why I was avoiding giving him that space
because I didn't want to feel that rejection
of "he's mad and he doesn't want to talk to me,
like, he must not want to be with me anymore."
And now, I'm like, you know, if he needs his space,
we just watch TV, and then he's like,
"I didn't like how you did this today."
And I'm like, "oh, wow." It showed me that it works.
- So that sounds really great, I mean, that's the kind
of growth that you want in a relationship where
you start to learn from each other.
Now, how do I not be overbearing and do too
much for my wife, have you found out?
- Yeah, so I think it was just
us having just the conversation,
and how much should I be doing, and where do I scale back?
It was it was things like, you know,
early on, even on the honeymoon, you know,
she addressed, she didn't want to be fed.
And I was doing it only because I wanted to give
her whatever I had.
- And for me, it was like, take it down a little bit so I
can meet you there too, you know, because it
was very much of like, just sit here and I'll do
everything and I'm like, "Oh no, I don't like that."
- Well, he said he wanted a modern woman,
but he forgot that he was a traditional guy.
[laughter]
So there's had to be a little growth there?
- Yeah, absolutely.
And yes, I did want an independent
woman, and I got that, and we're actually doing it
together and we've found a little bit of a happy medium.
- So he's trusting your opinion more, he's listening more?
- Mm-hmm, yes.
- So I think you guys are doing extremely well
and building it well.
I do want to see if you feel that you have
told each other secrets that are hard to tell
because I think one
thing that makes a real marriage profound is
you--you show some of the mistakes you've made,
or the things you've done, you're not so sure that
the other person would accept, and they do.
Do you feel that you have shared
what you need to share to feel like you're honest?
♪ ♪
- I think for us, we really just laid all the cards out.
♪ ♪
- There's something I haven't told Jose
about the night he locked me out...
[dramatic music]
And I'm nervous about how he's going to take it.
You know, there's that phrase, once a cheater,
always a cheater, and I'm wondering,
is he going to have trust issues because of my past?
But I know I have to tell him soon.
- ♪ I can't sleep at night, no ♪
♪ Waiting for the background ♪
♪ Of my mind to quiet down ♪
- So Zackary and I, we had a meeting with Dr. Pepper,
and he walked out of that meeting.
And I thought we were done. Like, I thought that was it.
Apparently it's not. That night, Zackary
called me asking me for a closure meeting.
I've no idea what Zack is going into this meeting
thinking, so we're gonna see how it goes.
- I'm glad that this meeting is taking place, I think
it's in both your interests, and I only have two rules.
One is that it always stays civil, and secondly,
that you don't interrupt so everybody gets to feel
like they have been able to express themselves fully.
I'm trying to get your goals fulfilled.
Tell me what your goals are for this meeting.
- Right, so essentially, my goals with Michaela are
to essentially--to talk about how we've gotten to this
point and, you know, what lessons we can take from
this to kind of better ourselves going forward.
And if there's anything we could have done differently,
you could say anything, it's not gonna hurt my feelings.
- Zack, I fought for this,
and my passion may have
been misconstrued,
but I was giving it my all.
[soft dramatic music]
And--
And Dr. Pepper, I have to talk to you about this.
You know about my text messages,
and he didn't reply to any of them
or my phone calls and I get it,
people need space. That was me trying.
For Zackary, there was no coming back,
and I understood that,
and I accepted that, and I accept it now.
- I think you would agree that I put in as much effort
and willingness as you did, and I don't want that to ever be
lost--I never want you to look back at this and think like,
you know, Zack just never gave me a chance
or Zack just didn't want me because that wasn't the case.
- Did you two give each other enough affirmations?
Did you tell him how great he was at this or that?
Did you tell her how much you admire, like her,
or thought, you know, this--that was
particularly smart or interesting,
did you guys give that kind of back and forth?
- Yeah, absolutely, I know I did.
I know she definitely did, so yes.
Our conversations are mostly positive,
we're not always arguing, so yeah, I would definitely
say we gave each other affirmations most of the time.
- So am I reading this right that it was mostly positives,
but these blow-ups ruined it for you?
If I could extract this out
of the relationship, would the marriage be good?
- Correct, like I keep saying, Michaela is an amazing person,
she's the most thoughtful woman I've ever met in my life,
and this is worth the sacrifice and fight,
it's just, we, like-- We did talk about this
throughout the whole process,
we did talk about how we can fix it,
and it seems like nothing was working.
- Well, if it was an easy fix, it would have already happened.
- Right, true. Yeah, that's true.
- So we're talking about tougher stuff and the question
is, if you could--if you really want to work with Michaela
on this really big problem, agree to work on this
issue together, because I think you have
some knowledge, Zack, of some of the things that
might have helped more, honestly,
that's my perspective.
- Right, I understand that perspective.
My thing is, I just want us to be able to be
in the best position possible, divorced or not divorced.
- I think I just need to reiterate,
divorce means something to you that's different for her.
♪ ♪
- Then I would say yes on Decision Day
if that makes Michaela feel comfortable enough
just to talk to me again,
and have a conversation to see if we can work on this because
one phrase, "I want a divorce" or "I want to stay married,"
will not dictate our relationship in the future.
- If he said yes, would you be willing to work on it?
♪ ♪
I mean, this is a very painful moment for you right now.
- So one thing,
getting a yes on Decision Day from him,
I honestly think it would have to come from him.
Not from a place of, "Can you just talk to me,
can you--'cause, for me personally,
I've got the information that I needed during our meeting.
Honestly, Dr. Pepper, that was a big thing for me.
I found closure, and I don't really have
anything much else to say.
♪ ♪
- Okay, well, I think she's in the position
you were the other day. - Yeah, I know.
- Is there anything else you want to say?
- Well, like I said, my door's open,
I'm willing to talk to you, um, whenever, like--like, please,
I definitely want to and I would love to at some point,
it could be today, tomorrow, a year from now, whatever,
but just know that I am willing to do that.
♪ ♪
- Can you look at him and just say--
- If she looks at me, she gonna start laughing.
- Well, come on, be brave.
Do me a favor.
My husband actually taught this to me.
Put one of your hands out, each of you,
and hold the other person's hand.
Just do it
and say that you will agree to talk to each other
further, how about that?
Is that a big one? - [chuckles]
- That would be great. - One hand, you can do this.
- You don't have to touch me. Don't touch me, don't touch me.
- Put on your big girl clothes and you look gorgeous.
Come on, you can hold his hand, okay?
Okay, because what he taught me about that is that reminds us
we're human together, and that the problems
are real, and the problems are problems,
but we're two good people trying our best.
So just agree for me that you will have one conversation
at least before Decision Day about your feelings.
Whatever you decide, whatever you do,
it's up to you of course.
- I promise you that and I want to do that.
- Yes, ma'am, I can do that.
- Okay, thank you.
- So when do you wanna do that? After this? I'm down.
- [laughing]
- You laughing, I know you wanna do it, like,
you're not fooling no one, Michaela.
Lets do this--let's go somewhere after this.
- [laughs] You see where I get confused?
- No, no, no, it's not about confusion, I just would love
to, like, talk to you
because I want to resolve our situation,
and I feel like it'll be very beneficial to both of us so
that's why I'm excited and would love to do it,
but anyway, it's up to you whenever you want to do that.
I do want to talk to Michaela and I do want to see
if this is something we can fix.
I don't know this is gonna work,
but it's a chance I'm willing to take.
I'm gonna keep trying.
- ♪ I'm running ♪
♪ You and I both know it's not the end ♪
♪ 'Cause it's me and you ♪
♪ No falling out ♪
♪ You and I ♪
♪ You and me ♪
- ♪ We be out there, we be making millions ♪
♪ We go out t
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- Hi there. - It's just you again.
- I rang you like three times. [laughter]
Welcome to our humble abode.
- How are you? - I'm good.
- The comedian in our relationship.
- Oh, good.
- I like to give hugs, are you a hugger?
Things have been going good with Myrla,
but I'm excited to be able to share some
thoughts with Dr. Pepper.
We got water, we got champagne, we got wine,
we got vodka, we got tequila--
- I'll take all of those. [laughter]
- And also give us some tips on how to better
improve the small things in working towards
getting to that goal that we both want.
- So it's great to see you guys,
my mission is always to help individuals and couples.
So Gil, you have called her a negative Nancy.
- Yes.
- So how does she get rid of that label, what would she
be acting like for you to not think of her that way?
[soft dramatic music]
- Um, more optimism, you know, more open mindedness
about things because most of the time she goes into things
kind of negative, but then nine times out of ten she enjoys it.
- So do you think you can sort of stifle yourself
some of the time? - I mean, I do.
- Do you, do you think you can stifle yourself?
- I think I can.
- What are the things that you have to contend
with that she should know about to be able to help you?
- [chuckles] Ah.
- My venting. - Her? [chuckles]
It has to do with her mood. [laughter]
Because I try so hard not for her to get like that
and then when she gets like that, it kind of ruins whatever
we're doing, and so it's easy to go into the dark.
[laughter]
It's easy to fall into the dark side.
- When we communicate with each other, we're,
like, respectful, we don't put each other down,
we're not vindictive, or any of those things,
it's just like being kind and respectful to each other.
- People that love each other--
Oh, sorry, people that are married--
- My husband loves me. - [laughs]
That eventually will love each other,
shouldn't talk to each other that way.
- I can't help notice this little word "love"
jockeying around here.
- He threw it out. [indistinct] Dr. Pepper.
- So has the "love" word been explored?
- No.
- That's because he
just doesn't want to admit that he loves me.
- Have you told him you love him?
- Yeah, have you?
- I have not. - Okay.
- Don't you guys know? Normally people know these things.
- So she says that she's--
What's the phrase?
- Ay. - I've accepted.
- I have made the choice to love my husband.
Yes, I heard you.
- So that means you love him?
- That's what I'm saying. What's that mean?
- It just means that every day we grow closer together,
and then love will come and grow.
- Basically, it's not an answer.
- It doesn't sound like buddy behavior.
- Correct. - Hey, buddy.
- It doesn't--it does not. [laughter]
But for me, it's-- I've prematurely said
it before in the past and I didn't love that person,
and so I don't want to do that mistake again,
you know, it's something that I've thought about it.
You know, I've pondered it,
I've been in a car and driving, like, "I think I love her."
And so but I want to make sure that I actually mean it,
I wouldn't say it to just anybody.
♪ ♪
- I like the fact that you have integrity about that,
which is terrific.
So this one's kind of a tougher one.
How much will you have to save
to prepare for a house and kids?
So you're looking at kids and a house, that's real money.
- Mm-hmm.
- Did you have to agree on how much because you make
more money than him-- How do you work that out?
- Did we put a number?
- I don't think we put a number.
For us we talked about, like, a certain percentage--
- A down payment for a house--
- 20% down for a down payment.
- And then for the kid, her main concern is
enough money to where we can afford a nanny.
- I think we talked about like making enough to where we
feel comfortable to, like,
be able to make a mortgage payment,
and be able to take trips, and like be able to comfortably
do all those things simultaneously.
- But, I'm not gonna enable certain things.
- Like what?
- Shopping as crazy as you do.
- Why not, though?
- Because that's not conducive to a marriage.
- Well, how is it affecting you for me to go shopping?
- You say you want to save up for this, that, and the other--
- But I have--that's my-- That's always my biggest push.
Like, if I've been living this lifestyle,
I've saved quite a bit as you can see--
- But if we can save--okay, let's say we keep going--
- So you want me to just save that much more, okay?
- Yeah, let me give you an example, you like examples.
Let's say you stay saving like you're saving,
and we get there in six years, but--
- I don't think we'll get there in six years
with the way I save.
- Can us please be hypothetical?
Let's say we get there
in three years, but we could get there
in a year and a half, wouldn't that be better?
- But at the cost of, like...
- Of shopping? - Of joy.
- I think I'm willing to budge on some things,
but I just think in general, like, the way that I live
is drastically different from how he would like to live.
If we continue to talk about things and we come
to a fact like, actually, I'm not gonna change,
you're not going to change, like,
this isn't gonna work out,
and something could potentially happen
before Decision Day that could alter our
decisions for that future that we could or could not have.
I think--I even think of my most recent relationship,
if I was--like, if I wanted something,
they were like, "Okay, let's do it."
It wasn't like, "no."
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- You sure you don't wanna drive?
- I'm positive, we're gonna go two miles an hour.
- Brett, at this point, knows that I'm kind of more
country then anybody that she's dated, so she is picking
up on the extent of that, I guess, more and more.
- Oh, [bleep] damn.
♪ ♪
You know what, it's no big deal, it's totally cool.
♪ ♪
- Hold on. - Oh, [bleep], go ahead.
- I'm gonna brake it the whole--I'm gonna brake
it the whole way down, it's not gonna be bad.
- Okay, okay.
- I just gotta stay out of the ruts.
- Okay.
- We made it past the sketchy part.
- Okay.
Woo!
♪ ♪
Thank God.
Oh, my boobs.
There's something about, like, when Ryan's,
like, in his element.
This is cool.
- You gonna put the worm on?
- I've never done that before.
That he's a lot more enjoyable,
like, a lot more open.
- Now, press it in and hold it.
- [bleep], okay. - It'll still be fine.
Look at that, that was probably better than--better than mine.
There's not a ton of things that my dad and I do together,
or did together growing up, but this is always one of them.
My childhood, he was either working or at his
brother's working on a race car.
They had like three different race cars
so it was always-- It was just a money pit,
a time wasting pit, and it caused
a lot of drama in our household fighting about
those cars, so I just hated them.
- Mm.
You know, my parents, I mean, they get along so well.
I know there's always a lot going on behind
the scenes that kids don't know about,
but I really had like a very, like, idyllic childhood.
- Yeah, 'cause what I was gonna say, when I was young,
I don't know that I really cared to think about marriage
because I don't think I really knew
what a good, healthy marriage was.
- Yeah.
- But yeah, going into this,
I mean, you think you know what to expect but,
I mean, we both know how to date and how
to be in relationships, but I don't know that
we knew exactly what was going to be different
than that, what we're familiar with.
- My thoughts on marriage before this, and now,
are the same, you know, it's like, you know, something I
really believe in that I've always believed in, something
that I think, you know,
requires a lot from both people.
- Yeah.
- The thing that is always going to be the most
enjoyable is when people let you in and when you
can express yourself with somebody and be vulnerable.
- ♪ When I'm with you ♪
♪ When I'm with you ♪
♪ ♪
- Hearing more about his family life and just, like,
those little anecdotes and those memories are the most
important that make you who you are so any morsel
of information that he gives me, helps me feel comfortable
to continue to grow things, um, yeah.
To ten-year-old Brett.
Oh, I know you're scared right now,
and really unsure of yourself and your place in the world,
but I'm here to tell you that you're
going to figure it all out one day.
I know you always want a glimpse into the future
and to know that
you'll end up happy, well, spoiler alert, you will.
Through your friendships, you'll discover what
means the most to you in this world, love.
Friends are family and it's okay to lean on them
and ask for help when you need it.
Through your quest for love, you may feel unworthy.
Our world is gonna try and harden your heart,
you are way more resilient than you think.
In every moment of heartache,
when you feel like you won't survive, you do,
and not everyone is deserving of your heart, okay?
Try to remember that.
So I leave you with this, don't let boys make you sad,
the right one will make you smile a lot.
You are beautiful inside and out,
your kind heart is everything, you will make an impact
on this world, the forever love you so
desire will come to you.
And I know how much you beg your parents for a puppy,
just wait a little bit more
because you'll find one that was worth waiting for.
[both chuckling]
- Yours is better than mine.
Mine is literally all over the place.
- All right, you ready for this?
- Okay, Ryan, where to begin, man?
You have made some very questionable decisions
in your 35 years, but it's truly gotten you
to this incredible blessed life that you live today.
Family, you have a solid one, spend time with all
of them as much as you can.
Unapologetically, be yourself, you're going to meet some
unforgettable people in your life, high school will be fun,
college will be more fun, pace yourself, please,
like, I'm begging you.
2019, there are no words for 2019.
You're going to be more unconsolably hurt
than you can ever imagine.
Andrew was one of my best friends and he was taken
in a freak work accident way, way, way too soon.
Every day is--it's never gonna be something
that's--that's not on my mind,
but every day we just keep going.
To this day you live with this, express it, tell them
they feel it too, you'll all make it through it
with each other.
- Seeing Ryan get emotional about the tragedy with his
friend Andrew, it makes me proud of him that he can, like,
go to that place because
it does make me feel closer to Ryan.
And really, that's what I wanted this whole time.
♪ ♪
- On a lighter note, you married a stranger.
[laughter]
- I was like, okay, I can't do this anymore, "The end."
- Very good.
- But, it is definitely a weird feeling, writing that,
but it was--it left me feeling good at the end.
- Me, too.
- I don't know for certainty where the marriage stands right
now, but me speaking for myself, like, I feel good,
I feel better in the past week than I have in a long time.
- ♪ Can you feel it ♪
♪ All around and deep, deep down ♪
♪ Deep, deep down ♪
♪ ♪
- Welcome. - Thank you.
So even though it wasn't long since I saw
you last, in Married At First Sight time,
that's an eternity because everything is so
packed with experiences and changes and all that.
We do get reports, all of us, all the experts,
but that's just a synopsis.
So what has happened
since the unanswered questions you both had?
I don't know how you're feeling, I don't know what you
said to each other, catch me up a little bit.
- Johnny and I talked and both agree that
we will work on level one.
- Level one is good morning? I mean, what is level one?
- Level one, just nothing that could escalate?
- What are you trying to accomplish
with each other now?
[soft dramatic music]
Do you think you've learned everything you can learn?
♪ ♪
- I can answer that one.
I don't think I've learned everything that I can learn,
but I've learned everything that--that I want to learn.
[dramatic notes]
I recently had a conversation with Bao's best friend, Sarah.
She's in the market for a car so we were talking about cars,
and then she goes, "By the way, how's
the relationship going, how's your marriage going?"
And I said, "Well, it's not going well,
and this is how I feel right now."
And the more I talk, the more she's like,
"Oh, actually, this totally makes sense."
This is what, I understand, Bao is like in relationships.
[dramatic music]
Sarah has told me, straight up, she would never date Bao,
and on top of that,
she would never allow any of her friends to date Bao
because she is a controlling person
that tries to break you down, and then get you to the point
where you have no choice but to lean on her,
and then she rebuilds you in the exact image that she wants.
In the past, this is what she's done.
And actually, that was a pretty big turning point for me.
It made me want to not try at all.
♪ ♪
- Sure, I have made my mistakes in past relationships,
but none of that is relevant right now.
I really wish you had told me that you were planning to talk
with Sarah, and I feel like--betrayed on both sides.
♪ ♪
This is what I'm always afraid of, though, you know?
Like, I don't have that many solid female friends.
Sarah is that one that I thought I could count on.
[sniffles]
She hasn't seen how patient I've been,
she hasn't seen how I've been communicating.
I am trying to be accountable for what I'm doing wrong.
- [sighs] That's your opinion, right?
- But what she's saying, and I think it's fair for you
to think about it, is, okay, maybe this person saw Bao
in a different relationship, maybe two
different relationships, and those are things that Bao
has tried not to do,
and doesn't think she's doing in this one.
And you may think, okay, no, she is.
So the question is,
what did her friend
give you that you felt validated by,
because I think the very least she deserves is
the right to counter all of that.
And, if you don't do this in front of me, fine,
but I think it would be very useful to Bao for you to go
through the conversation with Sarah, about what you said,
and what she agreed, what she told you, and what you found
ratified your feelings, maybe even why you
believe her as an ultimate authority,
because you sure did believe her.
- [groans]
- I know you don't want to do the emotional work,
but I feel there's some
taking in each other's perceptions and feelings
that might be healing.
I think you owe each other that.
♪ ♪
- I would agree.
- ♪ Remember it's not always how it seems ♪
♪ I want to do all the things that we said we do ♪
♪ Be the one for you ♪
♪ Will you let me through, since it's up to you? ♪
[soft dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- Last night, I brought up a touchy subject,
and now I'm just sensing some weird tension between us
and we need to address the elephant in the room.
We've been up, you know, till four in the morning,
just talking about everything.
And in order to move forward, you know, I did have to tell
him that I did reach out to an ex-boyfriend,
and he answered the phone, and he was the one that
picked me up, and that's where I was that night,
the night he locked me out.
[tense music]
- Yeah, so saying that you stayed at an ex's house...
♪ ♪
Being clear, it was not, uh,
you know, something I wanted to hear.
Trust has always been a non-negotiable for me
in a relationship because my dad did cheat on my mother,
and so when she came out and said, "Oh, hey, by the way,
I stayed at my ex's house," I was like, okay.
- I knew I had to tell you,
I just didn't know when the right time would be.
I wanted to make sure I wasn't telling you to make
you jealous or to make you mad.
I don't want either of us to be blindsided
by anything and just always have complete honesty.
Like, you say, you know, causes of divorce are financial,
like, to me, what I've seen the most
from other people is being unfaithful.
♪ ♪
I want to make sure my husband never feels even slight
suspicion, you know, that I'm being unfaithful,
and I don't want to feel that from you.
- Yeah, I'd hope that you wouldn't do that
because you're married now.
When you were dating, it was possibly something that
was a little different, now that you're married, um,
it's a more serious situation than just dating, right?
There are things about Rachel's past that worry me,
but in a marriage, when you trust someone,
you trust someone.
The guards will definitely be up, you know,
but I'm taking it at face value and
I'm trusting her.
- You know, I never want you to feel
that I'm keeping anything from you or nothing,
just pure transparency and honesty.
- ♪ Oh, it feels like demons come break my bones ♪
♪ If you got reasons, tell me lies ♪
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- So coming out of that talk with Dr. Pepper, I feel
like it would benefit both of us to talk about some things.
- Yeah.
- What do you think about it, about our session?
- Uh, it was good one.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- I really hate dragging Sarah into this because I feel
like she had--when she spoke with me about this stuff,
I feel like she had good intentions,
she felt like I was distressed, and she just wanted to validate
so that someone understood what I was going through.
- There's a reason why
I haven't shared anything with Sarah
because I know she's not going to give me the best advice.
She doesn't tell me there's positives in this,
maybe you should look at it from this angle,
it's always like, "Let's move on."
- Yeah.
- And that's why I don't tell her because I'm married,
and I want to commit, and I want to do what I
can to make it better, she doesn't give me that advice.
Instead, it's just negative and move on,
cut your losses, move on.
I don't think, in any way, that that was actually
a good idea for either of you to talk, and...
- Yeah, but...
- Utterly, utterly disappointed
and betrayed that that happened.
- Okay.
- That was the worst person you could probably have
talked to at the time, and it also disappoints
me from a best friend perspective because I know
I wouldn't have done that to her.
♪ ♪
What did you and Sarah talk about?
- She asked if I'd given you, like,
if I'd taken time to understand you,
and she asked me, like, can you wake up to this
and go to sleep with this for the rest of your life?
And I said no.
And when a relationship has gotten to that point,
we need to just walk away.
♪ ♪
I don't want to do any more harm than I already have.
So I'm done talking
because the things that I would say would be very damaging.
♪ ♪
- Okay.
♪ ♪
I'm still here, if you want to have talks, I'm open to them.
Once again, ball in your court, Johnny.
♪ ♪
- Do you see, like, this is why I feel like
it's always blame Johnny game?
The way that you just phrased that,
you're still here, you're still trying.
- I feel like I have to walk on egg shells.
- I definitely do not have an appetite to finish this.
- I guess I'll drink this one and eat your food.
The rest of the champagne bottle is mine.
- You can have it. Good night.
- Good?
♪ ♪
- Back to yoga pants.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Welcome back. - Yeah.
- Maisey hasn't been here, right? Crazy.
- Be free.
♪ ♪
- I forgot about your wall. - Forgot about it?
That's the best part about my apartment.
Um, well, I had a good time.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
I was really excited to show you these.
- What you got?
Maisey, do you want to come and see?
- But, um, not feeling too much like talking about
my childhood and going through pictures together.
Got a text from a friend, like ten minutes ago...
[soft dramatic music]
That...
♪ ♪
Showed that you are on a dating app...
♪ ♪
And matched with someone that I know.
- [sighs]
[downbeat music]
- I did download it today, then it's not active right now.
I can show you it's not active right now.
- Well, you matched with someone today.
- Uh, I don't know.
[soft tense music]
- Got like one week left, man, couldn't have waited?
Waited a week to jump back in there?
- I wasn't even jumping back in there.
I mean, I can show you that I didn't talk to anybody.
♪ ♪
- I mean, she said that y'all matched today, so...
I think he's afraid of being honest in a relationship.
I do think there's a factor of, like,
wanting to be with a person.
You obviously are going to take more steps towards
that and try harder, but I can only go off
of what I see, and to me, honesty, not his strong suit.
No.
I don't think that's right. - Yeah, no, I agree.
- It doesn't line up with the things that
you say and--about respect.
So if it's about respect, that ain't it.
- [sighs]
- Respect is a big deal and you made that very clear.
- I'm sorry, that that came up that way.
I mean, I would like to show you that I didn't
talk to anybody or that it's not even active, but...
- Yeah, I don't see how that's gonna help.
You obviously downloaded it for a reason.
- I'll get out of here.
- Okay, all right.
♪ ♪
- I mean, I don't care if she sees it,
but I'm gonna show you that it's been disabled on my phone.
- None of us know how to be married because we don't
really know what marriage is and we've never been married.
But the difference between Ryan and I is I know
what it takes to be in a relationship.
I know what it takes to have one, and I approach this
with that mindset, but Ryan, he didn't start it off that way.
- ♪ Let it burn, oh ♪ [notification chimes]
- Oh, this mother[bleep]er just texted me his, uh--
That doesn't matter. That doesn't matter at all.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Hey ♪
♪ ♪
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- With only one week left until Decision Day...
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important decision of their lives.
- I can't see being happy with you.
- There are feelings there.
- She's in this for the right reasons.
She's an amazing woman. Who knows what the future holds?
- He's like, "Will you spend the night," and I'm like...
- Did you spend the night?
- I did. - Oh!
- There's a drastic difference in our incomes.
- You kind of [bleep] people that aren't where you're at.
- That argument to me is gonna mean the end.
- It does take two people to sustain the marriage.
♪ ♪
It just takes one person to end the marriage.