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- Marrying a stranger is insane.
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- I'm doing it.
- Do it.
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- Seven weeks ago,
10 singles took
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a bold leap of faith
in order to find love.
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- You're gorgeous.
- Thank you. You're gorgeous.
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheering]
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- Oh yeah, this is love
at first sight.
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I got exactly what I wanted.
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- ♪ Tough love ♪
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- Whoo!
- This is my house.
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- Last time, our five couples
explored each other's past.
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- That's actually the apartment
where my dad was shot.
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- In the hopes that
their futures would become
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clearer before Decision Day.
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- ♪ I didn't see,
I don't see ♪
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- Michaela and Zack.
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- So just agree for me
that you will have
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one conversation
at least before Decision Day.
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- I promise you that
and I wanna do that.
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- Yes, ma'am, I can do that.
- Thank you.
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- Rachel and Jose.
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- You staying at--
At an ex's house.
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- You know,
I never want you to feel
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that I'm keeping
anything from you.
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- The guards will definitely
be up, you know,
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but I'm taking it at face
value and I'm trusting her.
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- Myrla and Gil.
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- I'm not gonna enable
certain things.
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- Like what?
- Shopping.
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- If I've been living
this lifestyle,
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I've saved quite a bit,
as you can see.
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And we continue
to talk about things
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and we come to a fact like,
actually, I'm not gonna change,
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you're not gonna change, like,
this isn't gonna work out.
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- Bao and Johnny.
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- I'm still here.
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If you wanna have talks,
I'm open to them.
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- It's always blame Johnny game.
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- I feel like I have
to walk on eggshells.
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- I definitely do not have
an appetite to finish this.
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- Brett and Ryan.
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- Got a text from a friend
that showed
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that you are on a dating app.
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And matched with someone
that I know.
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[dramatic music]
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♪ ♪
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- I love that!
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- And tonight,
with only one week left
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until Decision Day...
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- I trust that you're not
gonna let someone
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treat you like a doormat.
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- Our couples will have
the chance to talk
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with their closest family
and friends
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before making the biggest
decision of their lives.
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- Again, let me know.
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- I can see a world
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where I could be happy
with you as my husband.
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- There are feelings there.
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- She's in this
for the right reason.
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She is an amazing woman.
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Who knows what the future holds.
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- He's like,
will you spend the night?
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And I'm like--
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- Did you spend the night?
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[dramatic music]
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- Your negativity at times
is a big deal for me.
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There's a lot at stake.
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Do I wanna be with you
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for the rest of my life?
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- That argument to me
is gonna mean the end.
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I did see a side of Jose that
I know I could not live with.
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- But it just takes one person
to end the marriage.
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♪ ♪
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- They were matched by experts.
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Then, after eight weeks,
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they must make the decision
for themselves.
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- Do you wanna stay married?
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- Or do you want
to get a divorce?
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- ♪ No holding back,
no holding back ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married At First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ Ooh, I'm gonna love
tonight ♪
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♪ Never before ♪
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- That's Michaela in that car
right there.
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Hey, Michaela, hey!
Hey, put the window down.
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Excuse me, ma'am.
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See, that's Michaela.
I told y'all.
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- Decision Day is less
than a week away,
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and it's time
for our couples to dig deep
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and really think about
whether or not they can spend
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the rest of their lives
with a spouse
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they met as a stranger
just seven weeks ago.
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- Your vows mentioned,
"Today we become a family.
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I promise to dedicate myself
to your happiness."
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- That is making cookies.
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- My happiness involves
eating cookies.
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So yes, you are embracing
my happiness.
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- Would you take
a bullet for me?
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- Ooh.
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I mean,
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I would have to say yes.
- Oh, good, cause I would too.
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- You would?
- Yes, I would.
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- Where?
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- You know in the movies where
they're about to shoot the man
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and then the girl
goes like this.
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- You'd do that?
- Yeah, I would.
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- You would?
- Uh-huh.
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- Aw.
- And then hopefully--
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- That's amazing.
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- They are legally bound
in a real marriage,
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and the only options are to
stay married or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's the right time,
never feel better ♪
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♪ It's high time
we enjoy the weather ♪
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♪ All my girls got
our plans all together ♪
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- So where's the wife at?
- At work.
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- Did you have to ask
for permission?
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- No, she--not at this point.
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It's always good
to keep the people in my
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very close circle in the loop,
especially in this last week.
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I think it's safe to say
Brett and I
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are not on
the best of terms right now
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because of the other night.
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I feel bad and apologetic,
and it sucks, honestly.
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'Cause this is says something
that I've wanted for so long,
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and it's tough to fathom
starting completely over again.
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- I still can't believe
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you actually just got married
to a complete stranger.
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- I don't think anybody
can believe it.
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- Do you regret it?
- No, I don't regret it at all.
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Definitely some positives.
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- Sounds like there might be
some negatives as well then.
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- Yeah.
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- I mean, that's marriage.
- And Brett and I have had fun.
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But I mean, that's kind
of the extent of it.
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- So are you optimistic
that though it wasn't
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maybe your ideal
type of a match or mate,
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did you kind of wanna give it
a go just cause you know,
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you've dated around and things
haven't worked out in the past?
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Try something, maybe?
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- Yeah, but it's--we say things
didn't work out in the past.
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I could pinpoint
in every relationship, like,
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why it didn't work out.
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It's instances within
that relationship
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that happened
that caused issues.
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Um...
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- But why did you
cause those issues?
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- Do what?
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- Just kidding.
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- A lot of times it was me.
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Damn it.
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- Well, yeah, I mean,
let's be honest,
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you're not
the best communicator.
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- Yeah. Yeah.
- Being vocal,
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using, you know, explaining
your feelings, and...
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- Yeah.
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- You know,
Ryan's one of those guys that
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sometimes he does have trouble
expressing his emotions
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and I know in a partner
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he needs someone
that will keep him motivated
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and call him out on his--his BS.
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- Get some water?
- Yes, please.
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It seems like he might be
leaning one way
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but you don't make
a rash decision
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and just end a marriage.
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You really have to think
things through and you know,
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I'm hopeful that he'll make
the right decision.
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- I hate being the reason
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that I'm feeling
like this isn't working.
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- Why would you feel like
you were the reason?
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That had to stem
from something she did, said.
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- Yeah.
- Or...
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- We were finally
getting to a place
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where we were having
more honest conversations
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and opening up to each other.
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A better point, higher
than we've been in a long time.
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And then she found out
through one of her friends
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that I had redownloaded
a dating app.
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I knew it wasn't right.
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I just definitely
could have been more respectful
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to her, and, yeah.
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I wish I could--I wish
that would have never happened.
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It's--it's definitely been
hard, and it is a huge letdown
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because again,
I did this for a reason.
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I--I wanted this
to work more than anything.
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- Do you think there's anything
that can make this work?
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Or are you thinking
it's a no, or?
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- It's just, it's--
It's hard to say, man.
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I mean, at the end of the day,
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what's gonna get me
to the goal sooner
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of having that life,
that family?
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Is it gonna be fighting
through this,
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pushing through this,
whether it seems bleak or not,
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or completely starting over?
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And I guess
that's kind of where I am.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ I know
we're so much stronger ♪
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both: Hi, sister.
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- Hey.
- Hey, sister.
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- ♪ So watch the salt
of foam by the sea ♪
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- Come on in.
- All right.
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- Right now, I really do have
to think about what it means
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for me to say,
"Yes, I wanna stay married,"
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versus what it means
for me to say,
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"No, I don't wanna stay
married," on Decision Day.
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And it can be hard for me
to bring up, like, bad things.
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But I know that my sister is--
She's team Zackaela.
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She wants us to make it.
She wants us to survive.
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So being able to get
her wise advice
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and be honest with me
always, always helps me.
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A lot has happened
since we last spoke.
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Zack did something
that I really didn't like,
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and that he's done before,
and which is leave.
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- Hopefully one day
we can have a conversation,
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but today is not that day.
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♪ ♪
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I tried my best.
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♪ ♪
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- As I'm sitting down,
I'm drinking water,
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but it sounds like
I should be drinking tea.
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- You know...
[chuckles]
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He thinks I'm just this
combative person who, you know,
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snaps off, off the rim.
Just like a--that's how I am.
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So we have this meeting hoping
that Dr. Pepper can help us.
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And one thing
that she asked him was,
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you know,
based on the negatives,
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like is it just this one thing,
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like her reactions
when you are in conflict?
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Or is it more?
And he's like, "It's that one."
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But there's a bunch of
positives. He's like, "Yeah."
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And she goes to me
and she's like,
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"Michaela, you know,
there's problem, right?"
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I'm like, "Absolutely."
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You know,
like that's a problem for me.
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It's--it's, you know,
I wanna have kids one day.
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Like, I need to work on this,
and I wanna get rid of it.
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And so Dr. Pepper
makes us do this task
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where we have to hold hands
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and say that we'll talk
to each other,
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that we'll speak to each other,
at least before Decision Day.
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- Okay.
- He puts his hand out.
250
00:10:52,902 --> 00:10:54,152
He's excited.
251
00:10:54,311 --> 00:10:55,987
- Oh, wow, okay.
- So I give him my hand.
252
00:10:56,072 --> 00:10:58,648
We make a promise
that we are going to,
253
00:10:58,741 --> 00:11:00,066
you know,
talk before Decision Day.
254
00:11:00,159 --> 00:11:01,660
He says, "Yeah."
255
00:11:01,819 --> 00:11:05,830
And we leave, and I mentioned
that I was hungry.
256
00:11:05,989 --> 00:11:10,502
And he was like,
"You're hungry? Wanna go eat?"
257
00:11:10,586 --> 00:11:13,004
- Oh, so you decide to go?
Oh.
258
00:11:13,089 --> 00:11:17,342
- It was the first time
that I felt like we talked
259
00:11:17,501 --> 00:11:20,586
and understood what
the other person was saying.
260
00:11:20,680 --> 00:11:22,004
- Mm.
261
00:11:22,098 --> 00:11:23,923
- While we were there still,
he's like,
262
00:11:24,016 --> 00:11:26,351
"Will you spend the night?"
And I'm like--
263
00:11:26,435 --> 00:11:28,344
- [laughs]
264
00:11:28,437 --> 00:11:30,772
Wait a minute,
okay, okay, okay, Okay.
265
00:11:30,931 --> 00:11:37,019
- Yeah, back that up.
- So you say he says what now?
266
00:11:37,104 --> 00:11:40,356
- "Are you going to
spend the night?"
267
00:11:40,449 --> 00:11:44,869
- And what do you do?
- I ignore him.
268
00:11:45,028 --> 00:11:46,279
All right,
probably one of those.
269
00:11:46,363 --> 00:11:49,282
- Oh, okay,
so did you spend the night?
270
00:11:49,375 --> 00:11:52,335
- I packed the bag.
[laughs]
271
00:11:56,132 --> 00:11:57,298
- I said,
did you spend the night?
272
00:11:57,458 --> 00:12:00,552
- [laughs] I did.
273
00:12:00,636 --> 00:12:04,380
- Oh. It's your husband, girl.
Try to work it out.
274
00:12:04,465 --> 00:12:06,799
- So I did spend the night.
- Okay.
275
00:12:06,884 --> 00:12:09,728
So how did that feel
to be back with Zack
276
00:12:09,812 --> 00:12:12,889
by yourselves, no Dr. Pepper,
no production crew?
277
00:12:12,973 --> 00:12:14,482
So what was that like
for you guys?
278
00:12:14,567 --> 00:12:16,893
- It felt like normal.
279
00:12:16,986 --> 00:12:19,654
- Okay, so where are
the frames at now?
280
00:12:19,813 --> 00:12:21,147
Where are we at?
What's going on?
281
00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:26,486
- So as it stands right now,
sis, I don't know.
282
00:12:26,579 --> 00:12:30,582
Things went--and this has all
been within a week's time--
283
00:12:30,666 --> 00:12:37,505
From, you know, my husband just
not talking to me whatsoever,
284
00:12:37,590 --> 00:12:39,832
to come ask me to spend
the night and then being like,
285
00:12:39,917 --> 00:12:41,250
"Hey, you know what?
286
00:12:41,343 --> 00:12:42,418
Let's have these conversations,"
287
00:12:42,511 --> 00:12:45,338
and kind of trying
to figure it out.
288
00:12:45,422 --> 00:12:46,506
- But now it's
Decision Day time.
289
00:12:46,590 --> 00:12:48,433
- It's Decision Day time.
290
00:12:48,517 --> 00:12:49,926
I have some hard thinking to do,
291
00:12:50,010 --> 00:12:51,594
some long thinking to do.
292
00:12:51,687 --> 00:12:53,855
I really have to kind of
really think
293
00:12:54,014 --> 00:12:55,181
about my ultimate Decision Day.
294
00:12:55,265 --> 00:12:57,183
- Okay.
295
00:12:57,267 --> 00:13:00,445
- I don't know if Zack
is leading her on.
296
00:13:00,604 --> 00:13:03,105
I don't know if Zack
is leading himself on.
297
00:13:03,190 --> 00:13:07,276
I don't know that Zack
exactly knows what Zack wants.
298
00:13:07,361 --> 00:13:09,120
And so I think he also needs
to have a sit down with himself
299
00:13:09,279 --> 00:13:10,538
and really figure out
what he feels
300
00:13:10,697 --> 00:13:12,281
and how he wants to express it.
301
00:13:12,374 --> 00:13:13,875
Good luck.
- Thank you, sis.
302
00:13:14,034 --> 00:13:14,793
- You got dessert?
- No.
303
00:13:14,952 --> 00:13:18,955
- Mm.
[laughter]
304
00:13:19,039 --> 00:13:20,131
- This was a wack dinner.
305
00:13:20,216 --> 00:13:22,926
[laughter]
- How rude.
306
00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:28,798
[upbeat music]
307
00:13:28,891 --> 00:13:31,467
- ♪ Make up your mind ♪
308
00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:35,063
♪ Don't take so long ♪
309
00:13:35,147 --> 00:13:36,639
- Thank you so much
for having lunch with me.
310
00:13:36,723 --> 00:13:38,817
- Oh, my gosh, this is exciting.
311
00:13:38,976 --> 00:13:41,486
How're you feeling
that Decision Day is so close?
312
00:13:41,645 --> 00:13:43,154
- Uh, I don't know.
313
00:13:43,313 --> 00:13:45,824
It's really crazy
because it feels like there's--
314
00:13:45,983 --> 00:13:47,233
It's up and down,
up and down, over and over.
315
00:13:47,317 --> 00:13:49,402
- Yeah.
316
00:13:49,486 --> 00:13:51,654
I just can't believe, like, how
you guys went from wedding day.
317
00:13:51,747 --> 00:13:54,156
- I know.
- You were on cloud nine.
318
00:13:54,241 --> 00:13:57,326
But it's been just steadily
getting worse from there.
319
00:13:57,411 --> 00:13:58,837
- Yeah.
320
00:13:58,996 --> 00:14:03,258
Um, we've had a lot
of really big fights.
321
00:14:03,342 --> 00:14:04,584
- But you felt like you tried
322
00:14:04,668 --> 00:14:06,010
to de-escalate
situations, right?
323
00:14:06,095 --> 00:14:07,762
Like you weren't always
like I'm gonna--
324
00:14:07,847 --> 00:14:10,256
- I do. I mean, I do.
- Fight to the end or anything?
325
00:14:10,349 --> 00:14:12,433
- Yeah, and I guess my way,
my method of doing it
326
00:14:12,593 --> 00:14:15,270
doesn't work for him either.
327
00:14:15,429 --> 00:14:19,858
What's really hard for Johnny
is that he's been kind of taken
328
00:14:19,942 --> 00:14:22,935
to the fire many a-times
with the experts,
329
00:14:23,028 --> 00:14:25,113
his family, his friends.
330
00:14:25,272 --> 00:14:28,024
We've all told him that,
you know, he can work on this.
331
00:14:28,117 --> 00:14:30,869
And asking him
to like really try.
332
00:14:31,028 --> 00:14:33,779
- But any reasonable adult,
if you got the same feedback
333
00:14:33,873 --> 00:14:37,375
from everybody that loves you
and knows you well.
334
00:14:37,459 --> 00:14:40,211
Would maybe take that to heart.
- Yeah
335
00:14:40,370 --> 00:14:41,787
You know what's really
disappointing though,
336
00:14:41,881 --> 00:14:44,123
is the only dissenting opinion
that he got
337
00:14:44,207 --> 00:14:46,301
that validated his feelings
338
00:14:46,385 --> 00:14:48,052
was from my best friend.
From Sarah.
339
00:14:48,211 --> 00:14:49,470
- Oh. Yeah.
340
00:14:49,630 --> 00:14:51,222
- Like the one person I thought
341
00:14:51,381 --> 00:14:53,057
would be, like,
standing up for me,
342
00:14:53,216 --> 00:14:56,561
would give him more insight
into who I am,
343
00:14:56,645 --> 00:14:59,480
ended up commiserating with him.
344
00:14:59,565 --> 00:15:03,976
Sarah basically portrayed me
as a man-eater. She said that.
345
00:15:04,061 --> 00:15:06,479
- Why would she do that?
What is the reasoning?
346
00:15:06,572 --> 00:15:10,483
There's--why would you be so
negative to your best friend?
347
00:15:10,567 --> 00:15:12,160
Like, it's so weird.
348
00:15:12,244 --> 00:15:14,570
- I have not been my best self
349
00:15:14,663 --> 00:15:16,322
in some relationships
in the past.
350
00:15:16,406 --> 00:15:18,240
- All of us have.
- Yeah.
351
00:15:18,325 --> 00:15:21,586
- None of us are perfect.
- Yeah. That's the thing...
352
00:15:21,745 --> 00:15:23,838
- Why would you dwell
on the worst parts of you?
353
00:15:23,923 --> 00:15:25,748
- Yeah. I don't know.
354
00:15:25,841 --> 00:15:27,917
I feel like
I got a double whammy.
355
00:15:28,010 --> 00:15:30,086
I've been betrayed by my husband
356
00:15:30,170 --> 00:15:33,598
and my best friend of 20 years.
357
00:15:33,682 --> 00:15:35,675
- Yeah.
- And now I'm just like, well,
358
00:15:35,759 --> 00:15:37,268
I already felt pretty bad
about my marriage
359
00:15:37,427 --> 00:15:39,187
but now I just feel bad
about everything.
360
00:15:39,346 --> 00:15:41,263
- About life.
- Thanks.
361
00:15:41,357 --> 00:15:43,358
- I'm 100% disappointed for Bao.
362
00:15:43,517 --> 00:15:45,685
She had so much hope
in the beginning.
363
00:15:45,769 --> 00:15:48,446
And now I think it's taken
a really bad turn.
364
00:15:48,530 --> 00:15:52,525
I haven't seen her so negative
in a long time.
365
00:15:52,618 --> 00:15:55,027
And she's usually very upbeat,
366
00:15:55,112 --> 00:15:58,456
and that side has totally
gotten shut down.
367
00:15:58,615 --> 00:16:01,867
I mean, it sounds
like the mountain of cons
368
00:16:01,961 --> 00:16:05,630
is outweighing the pros.
369
00:16:05,789 --> 00:16:08,800
- I certainly didn't get
everything I wanted.
370
00:16:08,959 --> 00:16:10,134
- I mean, do you guys
like have fun together
371
00:16:10,219 --> 00:16:11,803
or does he make you laugh?
372
00:16:11,887 --> 00:16:13,796
- We've had a lot of good times.
373
00:16:13,889 --> 00:16:14,880
There's definitely
a lot of positive
374
00:16:14,974 --> 00:16:16,557
and then looking back I know,
375
00:16:16,642 --> 00:16:17,976
I'll still feel like
there's a lot of good.
376
00:16:18,135 --> 00:16:19,978
- If I win,
377
00:16:20,137 --> 00:16:23,064
we do whatever I wanna do
in the bedroom tonight.
378
00:16:23,223 --> 00:16:24,056
- Okay.
- Deal?
379
00:16:24,149 --> 00:16:25,725
- Deal. You're just--
380
00:16:25,809 --> 00:16:27,226
You're not talking yourself up,
are you--
381
00:16:27,319 --> 00:16:28,736
Oh, [bleep].
- Hey.
382
00:16:28,895 --> 00:16:30,730
Let's do this.
Let's do this.
383
00:16:30,814 --> 00:16:32,573
♪ ♪
384
00:16:32,733 --> 00:16:34,492
- Oh, my God!
- We made it.
385
00:16:34,651 --> 00:16:35,735
- We did it!
386
00:16:35,819 --> 00:16:37,578
Now, we've played
two games so far.
387
00:16:37,738 --> 00:16:39,572
What have the results been?
388
00:16:39,665 --> 00:16:43,159
- Look, it's not about numbers.
It's about having fun.
389
00:16:43,243 --> 00:16:46,921
- Are you having fun?
- Yes.
390
00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:48,339
- I just wish that you guys
391
00:16:48,498 --> 00:16:51,333
would figure out
how to communicate better.
392
00:16:51,427 --> 00:16:54,012
- That, we still haven't
figured that out.
393
00:16:54,171 --> 00:16:55,930
And this far in, and just days
from Decision Day,
394
00:16:56,015 --> 00:16:58,099
we still haven't
figured that out.
395
00:16:58,183 --> 00:17:01,269
- What if he says yes and
he's like, "I'm gonna change"?
396
00:17:01,353 --> 00:17:05,514
Is there space in your heart
for forgiveness?
397
00:17:05,599 --> 00:17:07,025
- Yeah.
398
00:17:07,109 --> 00:17:09,351
If he actually did something
like that.
399
00:17:09,436 --> 00:17:11,270
- Yeah.
400
00:17:11,363 --> 00:17:12,772
- I feel for the first time
in my marriage
401
00:17:12,856 --> 00:17:15,366
that I need a reset.
402
00:17:15,525 --> 00:17:21,113
So if Johnny commits his all
and is showing me
403
00:17:21,198 --> 00:17:24,700
that he wants to really try
and fight for this marriage,
404
00:17:24,785 --> 00:17:26,202
there's maybe a chance.
405
00:17:26,286 --> 00:17:28,379
- Decision Day is like
a point in time,
406
00:17:28,538 --> 00:17:32,050
but like, literally,
if you stay married,
407
00:17:32,134 --> 00:17:34,302
every day going forward
is Decision Day.
408
00:17:34,386 --> 00:17:36,137
- That's a good point.
409
00:17:36,296 --> 00:17:38,631
[emotional music]
410
00:17:38,724 --> 00:17:42,218
Yeah, I definitely have
a lot to think about.
411
00:17:42,302 --> 00:17:44,395
- Yes, you do.
And a short time to do it in.
412
00:17:44,554 --> 00:17:46,147
- Yep.
413
00:17:46,231 --> 00:17:49,475
- ♪ Like glass smashing
back to sand ♪
414
00:17:49,559 --> 00:17:53,237
♪ ♪
415
00:17:53,322 --> 00:17:55,147
- ♪ The dancer ♪
416
00:17:55,232 --> 00:17:58,651
♪ We're dancing
all over the world ♪
417
00:17:58,744 --> 00:18:00,995
♪ The world ♪
418
00:18:01,154 --> 00:18:02,822
[upbeat music]
419
00:18:02,906 --> 00:18:04,073
- Thank you.
420
00:18:04,157 --> 00:18:06,742
♪ ♪
421
00:18:06,835 --> 00:18:08,661
These drinks are so fun.
I love it.
422
00:18:08,754 --> 00:18:12,248
- ♪ The world ♪
423
00:18:12,341 --> 00:18:15,760
- So, how's it going?
- It's going really good.
424
00:18:15,844 --> 00:18:20,765
I feel very comfortable, very
like willing to share anything.
425
00:18:20,849 --> 00:18:24,593
You know, Jose makes me
truly feel loved
426
00:18:24,686 --> 00:18:26,929
and taken care of
and just nurtured.
427
00:18:27,013 --> 00:18:29,524
And he really is just
this sweet soul.
428
00:18:29,683 --> 00:18:31,275
Like, I see it.
429
00:18:31,360 --> 00:18:36,105
- So are
we staying married, or...
430
00:18:36,198 --> 00:18:38,607
- It's like
a really big decision,
431
00:18:38,692 --> 00:18:41,443
and I have to weigh
my pros and cons.
432
00:18:41,528 --> 00:18:43,704
And I will say
there's a lot of pros.
433
00:18:43,789 --> 00:18:45,531
We really do have
a lot in common.
434
00:18:45,624 --> 00:18:47,125
And to me, it's been very rare
435
00:18:47,284 --> 00:18:49,869
to find something like that
in the past.
436
00:18:49,962 --> 00:18:54,540
He is pretty consistent
with his behavior.
437
00:18:54,633 --> 00:18:57,552
But, you know, of course
there are some cons.
438
00:18:57,711 --> 00:19:01,722
One is the whole like,
listening thing.
439
00:19:01,807 --> 00:19:03,966
- Maybe you tell me twice,
how about that?
440
00:19:04,050 --> 00:19:06,385
- Listen?
- No, not to listen,
441
00:19:06,478 --> 00:19:07,553
you tell me whatever
you want me to do twice.
442
00:19:07,637 --> 00:19:09,147
- Do.
- Yeah, yeah.
443
00:19:09,306 --> 00:19:11,149
- I just need you to listen.
- I'm gonna try.
444
00:19:11,233 --> 00:19:16,729
- Like will I be able
to put up with that forever?
445
00:19:16,813 --> 00:19:19,315
[chuckles] You know?
446
00:19:19,399 --> 00:19:23,077
And we've had our upsets.
447
00:19:23,236 --> 00:19:25,154
You know, we had this huge--
448
00:19:25,238 --> 00:19:27,239
- Yeah.
- Blow out basically, and--
449
00:19:27,324 --> 00:19:28,741
- He got a little
verbally aggressive, right?
450
00:19:28,825 --> 00:19:29,750
- Yeah.
451
00:19:47,010 --> 00:19:49,020
- You know,
when we had that disagreement,
452
00:19:49,179 --> 00:19:53,107
it took a while for, like,
me to get an apology.
453
00:19:53,266 --> 00:19:55,776
So I'm kind of curious as to
454
00:19:55,861 --> 00:19:58,279
when that next time's gonna
come, when I'm gonna wait,
455
00:19:58,438 --> 00:19:59,855
am I gonna wait for an apology?
456
00:19:59,948 --> 00:20:02,700
Or will he be like,
"No, I'm sorry."
457
00:20:02,784 --> 00:20:04,860
- I think there's a disconnect
there with him,
458
00:20:04,945 --> 00:20:08,697
with him not being so readily
able to say I'm sorry to you.
459
00:20:08,790 --> 00:20:11,709
Just keep his [bleep]
accountable.
460
00:20:11,793 --> 00:20:13,377
What you do today sets precedent
461
00:20:13,462 --> 00:20:14,536
for what happens tomorrow.
462
00:20:14,621 --> 00:20:16,380
If you let him off today,
463
00:20:16,539 --> 00:20:17,632
who's to say
he's gonna think it's okay?
464
00:20:17,716 --> 00:20:20,292
- Yeah. And his way of showing
465
00:20:20,377 --> 00:20:23,638
that he was ready
to grow from it
466
00:20:23,722 --> 00:20:25,547
was him making these note cards.
467
00:20:25,641 --> 00:20:26,974
- What's written
on these note cards?
468
00:20:27,133 --> 00:20:29,977
- "I promise
to actively listen more."
469
00:20:30,136 --> 00:20:32,146
"I promise to be
less controlling
470
00:20:32,305 --> 00:20:34,390
and let you be the independent
woman you are always."
471
00:20:34,483 --> 00:20:36,067
"I promise to always check on
my wife
472
00:20:36,151 --> 00:20:38,152
morning, noon, and night."
473
00:20:38,237 --> 00:20:40,145
That sounds controlling,
but maybe it isn't.
474
00:20:40,239 --> 00:20:42,406
[laughter]
475
00:20:42,491 --> 00:20:44,575
- Okay, so one note card
is the locking.
476
00:20:44,660 --> 00:20:47,820
"I promise never to, like,
deadbolt the lock."
477
00:20:47,913 --> 00:20:49,822
- Okay, good.
478
00:20:49,906 --> 00:20:52,500
♪ ♪
479
00:20:52,659 --> 00:20:55,419
You wanna be a good person,
you act like a good person.
480
00:20:55,504 --> 00:20:57,672
I mean, you don't need cards
to not lock your wife
481
00:20:57,756 --> 00:20:58,831
out of the apartment.
482
00:20:58,915 --> 00:21:01,917
The note cards are trash.
483
00:21:02,002 --> 00:21:05,254
- I will say sometimes I feel
like I am being a little naive
484
00:21:05,347 --> 00:21:08,257
of really thinking
it will never happen again.
485
00:21:08,341 --> 00:21:11,427
♪ ♪
486
00:21:11,511 --> 00:21:13,521
Staying married
or getting a divorce
487
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,349
is definitely life altering.
488
00:21:17,434 --> 00:21:19,935
And I've not always made
right decisions
489
00:21:20,020 --> 00:21:21,937
about men in the past,
490
00:21:22,022 --> 00:21:24,407
but I hope I make the right
decision this time.
491
00:21:26,276 --> 00:21:27,860
- I trust that you're not gonna
let someone
492
00:21:27,944 --> 00:21:29,111
treat you like a doormat.
493
00:21:29,195 --> 00:21:32,081
♪ ♪
494
00:21:36,712 --> 00:21:37,878
- ♪ I got the money ♪
495
00:21:37,963 --> 00:21:42,041
- Oh, my God!
496
00:21:42,125 --> 00:21:44,793
- ♪ I'm looking for a man
to share with ♪
497
00:21:44,886 --> 00:21:47,546
♪ If you're him, holler ♪
498
00:21:47,639 --> 00:21:50,966
- So how's married life?
- It's been really good.
499
00:21:51,059 --> 00:21:52,468
- Yeah?
- I caught me a good one.
500
00:21:52,552 --> 00:21:55,479
- Okay, but there's nothing
like a red flag
501
00:21:55,564 --> 00:21:57,398
like his patience
when he's upset.
502
00:21:57,482 --> 00:22:00,309
- He's very patient.
Like, I get moody.
503
00:22:00,393 --> 00:22:02,737
- Right.
- And so he can take so much,
504
00:22:02,821 --> 00:22:04,480
but after a certain point,
he's like...
505
00:22:04,564 --> 00:22:06,398
- All right.
506
00:22:06,491 --> 00:22:08,909
- But I really benefit
from somebody who's patient.
507
00:22:08,994 --> 00:22:12,663
I'm a handful.
508
00:22:12,748 --> 00:22:18,919
- Okay, so I know that, so do
I need to ask, Decision Day?
509
00:22:19,004 --> 00:22:20,662
What?
510
00:22:20,747 --> 00:22:23,591
- For me, really the only con
has been finances.
511
00:22:23,675 --> 00:22:25,501
We had to share our finances
with each other.
512
00:22:25,585 --> 00:22:26,919
Like, he was fine with it.
513
00:22:27,003 --> 00:22:28,095
He's like, "Here,
this is my checking account.
514
00:22:28,180 --> 00:22:29,755
"This is whatever,
whatever, whatever."
515
00:22:29,839 --> 00:22:31,932
And I was like,
"You don't have a savings?"
516
00:22:32,017 --> 00:22:34,268
- Oh.
517
00:22:34,427 --> 00:22:37,096
- There's a drastic difference
in our incomes. He's not--
518
00:22:37,189 --> 00:22:39,431
- But he just started
being a firefighter, right?
519
00:22:39,516 --> 00:22:40,775
- Yeah, that's another thing.
520
00:22:40,934 --> 00:22:41,850
You know, like, I wanted
somebody
521
00:22:41,943 --> 00:22:43,027
who had an established career.
522
00:22:43,186 --> 00:22:45,270
Who, like, was--
Knew what they wanted,
523
00:22:45,355 --> 00:22:47,356
like, has established,
you know, was in a place
524
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,358
where, like, "Okay, let's
travel. Let's have kids.
525
00:22:49,442 --> 00:22:50,618
Let's do this."
- Right.
526
00:22:50,702 --> 00:22:51,786
- Well, with him,
it's like hit pause.
527
00:22:51,945 --> 00:22:54,113
Let's go back to being 25
528
00:22:54,197 --> 00:22:56,207
and we're just starting
our careers from scratch.
529
00:22:56,291 --> 00:22:57,541
- Right.
- And it sucks.
530
00:22:59,285 --> 00:23:01,212
- Well, finances can come.
531
00:23:01,296 --> 00:23:04,298
- So, like, I didn't wanna
have to change my lifestyle.
532
00:23:04,383 --> 00:23:06,458
So, like, if we wanna have
a home--if we wanna buy a home,
533
00:23:06,551 --> 00:23:08,969
and if we wanna have a family,
so like we need to save.
534
00:23:09,054 --> 00:23:10,388
And that's one of the things,
535
00:23:10,547 --> 00:23:11,964
like how long is it
gonna take to save?
536
00:23:12,048 --> 00:23:14,383
The money doesn't drive him.
Like, he can live in a box.
537
00:23:14,476 --> 00:23:16,051
And he's okay with it.
Like literally.
538
00:23:16,136 --> 00:23:17,228
- He's humble.
- Very simple.
539
00:23:17,312 --> 00:23:18,562
- He sounds very humble.
540
00:23:18,647 --> 00:23:20,305
- Very humble,
which is 100% okay.
541
00:23:20,390 --> 00:23:22,066
- Right.
542
00:23:22,225 --> 00:23:22,891
- But I'm not gonna
live like that.
543
00:23:22,976 --> 00:23:24,893
[dramatic music]
544
00:23:24,978 --> 00:23:26,895
We are in different
places in life when it comes
545
00:23:26,980 --> 00:23:29,398
to finances and career
and aspirations and drive.
546
00:23:29,482 --> 00:23:31,409
So I have to think about,
547
00:23:31,493 --> 00:23:34,403
can I really do this
for life, like forever?
548
00:23:34,487 --> 00:23:35,821
He cannot live at
the lifestyle I want to live.
549
00:23:35,905 --> 00:23:38,323
- Right.
- That's a problem.
550
00:23:38,408 --> 00:23:39,908
- Yeah.
551
00:23:40,001 --> 00:23:40,918
- ♪ Forever that we thought ♪
552
00:23:41,002 --> 00:23:42,828
♪ Fade into the past ♪
553
00:23:42,921 --> 00:23:45,831
[upbeat music]
554
00:23:45,924 --> 00:23:47,925
♪ ♪
555
00:23:48,009 --> 00:23:49,334
- Oh, man.
556
00:23:49,428 --> 00:23:53,422
♪ ♪
557
00:23:53,515 --> 00:23:54,756
Man, appreciate you coming, bro.
558
00:23:54,841 --> 00:23:56,100
- Oh, for sure.
559
00:23:56,184 --> 00:23:57,509
- I know that was
a little commute, man.
560
00:23:57,594 --> 00:23:58,927
- A little traffic.
561
00:23:59,012 --> 00:24:00,262
- Yeah.
562
00:24:00,346 --> 00:24:02,181
We finish how we kind
of started, man.
563
00:24:02,265 --> 00:24:03,599
I know
there's the whole process,
564
00:24:03,692 --> 00:24:05,192
and how we talked
about it before.
565
00:24:05,351 --> 00:24:07,027
And you're like, "Dude,
doing this is crazy." You know?
566
00:24:07,112 --> 00:24:10,439
- Are you feeling anymore,
I guess, pressure
567
00:24:10,532 --> 00:24:12,941
or just patient more, right now?
568
00:24:13,026 --> 00:24:14,860
- The pressure's, yeah,
is definitely there.
569
00:24:14,953 --> 00:24:17,705
Um, you know, 'cause what goes
along with that
570
00:24:17,864 --> 00:24:20,365
is the expectation.
571
00:24:20,459 --> 00:24:23,202
Is she gonna be, am I gonna be
what she wants, right?
572
00:24:23,286 --> 00:24:25,796
So there's, there's, there's
two sides of the coin there.
573
00:24:25,955 --> 00:24:27,631
- I still think
this is all crazy.
574
00:24:27,790 --> 00:24:30,384
- Yeah, man. Absolutely.
Hell, yeah, it is.
575
00:24:30,469 --> 00:24:32,219
It's definitely
been a hell of a ride.
576
00:24:32,304 --> 00:24:35,055
You know, for me, I think
there's a lot of questions
577
00:24:35,140 --> 00:24:37,641
that I've already have
the answers to,
578
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:39,059
but there's, uh--there's some
things
579
00:24:39,144 --> 00:24:40,719
that I still don't have
answers to.
580
00:24:40,803 --> 00:24:42,313
You know, I have my pros,
I have my cons.
581
00:24:42,397 --> 00:24:44,056
And so, you know,
a lot of the pros
582
00:24:44,140 --> 00:24:46,558
are just basically,
she's a sports fan.
583
00:24:46,643 --> 00:24:48,393
Great teammates, you know,
I'll cook, she'll clean.
584
00:24:48,478 --> 00:24:50,312
You know,
it's a very great tandem.
585
00:24:50,396 --> 00:24:51,906
There's a lot
that we're still learning,
586
00:24:52,065 --> 00:24:54,566
there's little disagreements
that we still have, but those--
587
00:24:54,651 --> 00:24:56,494
You know, we overcome those,
like, very quickly.
588
00:24:56,653 --> 00:24:58,746
At this point,
it's very, very good.
589
00:24:58,830 --> 00:25:00,915
It's a little thing she does,
the details.
590
00:25:00,999 --> 00:25:02,666
She's like, "Oh, hey,
well, you know,
591
00:25:02,825 --> 00:25:04,585
you don't have a lunch,
I got it for you."
592
00:25:04,744 --> 00:25:07,421
It's little things like that.
So you know, it's reciprocal.
593
00:25:07,506 --> 00:25:10,499
And it's good, man.
It's really good.
594
00:25:10,583 --> 00:25:12,009
- What would be say, you know,
three reasons
595
00:25:12,093 --> 00:25:15,587
why you wouldn't stay?
596
00:25:15,672 --> 00:25:18,840
- It's just her being faithful
with--for me, being, you know,
597
00:25:18,925 --> 00:25:23,187
primarily number one reason
for me to say no.
598
00:25:23,271 --> 00:25:26,440
Communication would be
number two.
599
00:25:26,525 --> 00:25:29,360
You know, we had some issues
early on and so she was like,
600
00:25:29,444 --> 00:25:30,694
"You know what,
I'm out of here."
601
00:25:30,853 --> 00:25:33,197
You called me
by a different man's name.
602
00:25:33,281 --> 00:25:36,942
- And I immediately apologized,
but you locked me out.
603
00:25:37,026 --> 00:25:40,454
I don't feel that you
are remorseful at all,
604
00:25:40,613 --> 00:25:44,041
and I cannot be your wife.
605
00:25:44,125 --> 00:25:45,292
- And it was like, okay.
606
00:25:45,377 --> 00:25:48,203
I was like,
"Wow, okay, that quick."
607
00:25:48,288 --> 00:25:50,881
And so, you know, for me,
I wanted a team player.
608
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:52,624
I wanted someone
that's gonna be a partner,
609
00:25:52,717 --> 00:25:54,960
someone that's gonna be in
for it for the long haul.
610
00:25:55,044 --> 00:25:57,296
So the question came up
of, you know, "Hey, that night,
611
00:25:57,389 --> 00:26:01,800
unfortunately, you know,
where did you sleep?"
612
00:26:01,893 --> 00:26:05,304
So she was like, "Well,
I slept at an ex's house."
613
00:26:05,388 --> 00:26:07,556
Like, okay.
614
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:09,308
- So yeah, that's pretty big
615
00:26:09,392 --> 00:26:12,570
because, you know, y'all were...
616
00:26:12,729 --> 00:26:14,655
y'all were trying to build
something.
617
00:26:14,739 --> 00:26:17,649
And for her to kind of go back
to her past,
618
00:26:17,742 --> 00:26:19,901
it's kind of big for me.
619
00:26:19,995 --> 00:26:23,414
- And clearly, I mean,
when she told me,
620
00:26:23,498 --> 00:26:27,826
I wasn't the most happiest and
joyous about hearing that news.
621
00:26:27,919 --> 00:26:30,579
But she did, you know,
give me the confirmation of,
622
00:26:30,663 --> 00:26:32,923
hey, you know, nothing happened
and X, Y, and Z.
623
00:26:33,008 --> 00:26:34,833
And so, you know,
I rode with that.
624
00:26:34,926 --> 00:26:37,928
But, you know,
it's all I can go with off of,
625
00:26:38,087 --> 00:26:41,432
you know, right now
at this point in time.
626
00:26:41,516 --> 00:26:43,342
- You know, I want the best
for you, honestly.
627
00:26:43,426 --> 00:26:45,269
So yeah, keep your eyes open.
628
00:26:45,353 --> 00:26:49,014
But you just got to make the
right decision for yourself.
629
00:26:49,098 --> 00:26:50,432
This is a big decision.
630
00:26:50,516 --> 00:26:52,017
- Oh, yeah. Sure.
631
00:26:52,110 --> 00:26:54,936
[dramatic music]
632
00:26:55,021 --> 00:26:56,772
♪ ♪
633
00:26:56,856 --> 00:26:59,691
[upbeat music]
634
00:26:59,784 --> 00:27:01,035
♪ ♪
635
00:27:01,194 --> 00:27:04,038
- ♪ Do you believe in me? ♪
636
00:27:04,122 --> 00:27:05,873
♪ It's so easy ♪
637
00:27:05,957 --> 00:27:08,033
- Cheers to being married.
- Yeah, man.
638
00:27:08,126 --> 00:27:09,618
- Yeah, cheers.
639
00:27:09,702 --> 00:27:11,203
Decision Day is a few days away.
640
00:27:11,296 --> 00:27:13,622
And talking to Sarah
is messing with my head.
641
00:27:13,706 --> 00:27:16,216
It's got me thinking
totally different
642
00:27:16,376 --> 00:27:18,710
about what is going on.
643
00:27:18,795 --> 00:27:20,721
And I wanna make sure
I'm making the right decision.
644
00:27:20,805 --> 00:27:22,547
These guys know me really well,
645
00:27:22,641 --> 00:27:24,642
and I just wanna get,
like, an outside opinion.
646
00:27:24,801 --> 00:27:26,218
I'm trying to focus
on the positives,
647
00:27:26,311 --> 00:27:28,220
but if there's something
that they can offer
648
00:27:28,304 --> 00:27:30,972
to help me save this marriage,
I wanna hear it.
649
00:27:31,057 --> 00:27:33,984
You know, it's going.
We're in the homestretch here.
650
00:27:34,143 --> 00:27:35,644
We got Decision Day
coming up next week.
651
00:27:35,737 --> 00:27:38,230
- Looking forward to it?
- No, not really.
652
00:27:38,314 --> 00:27:39,898
♪ ♪
653
00:27:39,982 --> 00:27:41,408
- That means you're not enjoying
654
00:27:41,567 --> 00:27:43,318
the marriage life so far?
655
00:27:43,403 --> 00:27:45,162
I'd say at least?
656
00:27:45,246 --> 00:27:46,738
I mean, so tell us
657
00:27:46,823 --> 00:27:48,999
where you think it
all started going south.
658
00:27:49,084 --> 00:27:52,252
- Mm. [chuckles]
659
00:27:52,337 --> 00:27:55,997
Where it started going south
was probably,
660
00:27:56,082 --> 00:27:57,749
probably even the honeymoon.
661
00:27:57,834 --> 00:27:59,343
- Really?
662
00:27:59,427 --> 00:28:01,011
- Just started seeing,
like, flags
663
00:28:01,170 --> 00:28:02,596
that kind of irked me
at the time.
664
00:28:02,755 --> 00:28:04,673
But then, as the weeks went on,
and it kept happening,
665
00:28:04,757 --> 00:28:06,425
and I kept seeing more
and more of things
666
00:28:06,509 --> 00:28:08,018
that I thought I didn't like,
667
00:28:08,177 --> 00:28:10,354
I started distancing myself
a little.
668
00:28:10,438 --> 00:28:13,691
When you get happy and excited,
it feels like you get
669
00:28:13,850 --> 00:28:16,852
very giddy,
almost like a little kid.
670
00:28:16,945 --> 00:28:18,612
I personally don't
find it attractive.
671
00:28:18,771 --> 00:28:21,865
I feel like that was not--
Like in this group setting,
672
00:28:21,950 --> 00:28:23,784
that's not her in private.
673
00:28:23,868 --> 00:28:28,372
She said in there that
she cooks gourmet meals for us.
674
00:28:28,456 --> 00:28:30,198
- But no?
- No.
675
00:28:30,291 --> 00:28:31,959
She hasn't that a [bleep] lie.
676
00:28:32,118 --> 00:28:34,536
If your 100% was my 100%,
677
00:28:34,620 --> 00:28:38,540
I feel like
I'm putting 150% into this.
678
00:28:38,633 --> 00:28:41,218
I've tried to be into her a lot.
679
00:28:41,302 --> 00:28:43,053
And there are moments
where I feel like I am.
680
00:28:43,138 --> 00:28:44,888
I can be, in moments.
681
00:28:45,047 --> 00:28:46,465
You know, she took me
to her place
682
00:28:46,549 --> 00:28:48,467
that she grew up
for a childhood.
683
00:28:48,551 --> 00:28:49,718
- Yeah.
684
00:28:49,802 --> 00:28:50,802
- And she went through some,
685
00:28:50,887 --> 00:28:52,637
some tough [bleep] growing up.
686
00:28:52,731 --> 00:28:54,556
But it made me understand
her a little better.
687
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:58,986
Made me wanna kind of
like take care of her.
688
00:28:59,070 --> 00:29:02,147
We had like our first
kind of deeper,
689
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:03,982
meaningful conversation
we had in like three weeks.
690
00:29:04,066 --> 00:29:05,576
- Wow.
691
00:29:05,735 --> 00:29:08,236
- We went a little bit
deeper than normal.
692
00:29:08,321 --> 00:29:11,248
It was strange.
693
00:29:11,332 --> 00:29:14,835
We're being good to one another.
694
00:29:14,919 --> 00:29:16,411
And I felt something.
695
00:29:16,504 --> 00:29:19,164
I don't know what it was I felt.
696
00:29:19,257 --> 00:29:21,884
- You gotta figure that out
for your Decision Day.
697
00:29:26,181 --> 00:29:28,673
- Physically,
he looks distraught.
698
00:29:28,767 --> 00:29:31,760
And it's kind of sad
to see him in the state
699
00:29:31,844 --> 00:29:33,512
in a period
that he should be happiest.
700
00:29:33,596 --> 00:29:37,441
- I think he has his vision
of what he wants,
701
00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:41,028
but I think it's gonna
be unlikely to check
702
00:29:41,187 --> 00:29:42,613
every single box.
703
00:29:42,697 --> 00:29:44,189
So he's gonna continue to learn
704
00:29:44,282 --> 00:29:46,691
what we call the deal breakers
in the conversation
705
00:29:46,785 --> 00:29:49,110
and what are the ones he can
kind of live with
706
00:29:49,204 --> 00:29:52,873
and resolve with his partner.
707
00:29:52,957 --> 00:29:54,783
- There are certain things
that I'm starting
708
00:29:54,876 --> 00:29:56,868
to feel conflicted inside about.
709
00:29:56,961 --> 00:29:58,962
I'm starting to become somebody
that I don't--
710
00:29:59,121 --> 00:30:02,216
I don't understand.
- But don't--
711
00:30:02,375 --> 00:30:04,384
That doesn't mean you should be
walking away from it, though.
712
00:30:04,469 --> 00:30:06,720
You know, I mean,
you're becoming a new guy,
713
00:30:06,805 --> 00:30:09,139
but what if that guy
is for the better?
714
00:30:09,298 --> 00:30:10,215
- Yeah. Who you were,
you've been single.
715
00:30:10,308 --> 00:30:11,967
- Yeah.
716
00:30:12,051 --> 00:30:15,220
- Maybe you need to give
a little on certain qualities
717
00:30:15,313 --> 00:30:18,723
that you'd like about yourself.
Compromise.
718
00:30:18,808 --> 00:30:20,317
- Maybe.
719
00:30:20,476 --> 00:30:21,819
- So you're saying
there's still a chance?
720
00:30:21,978 --> 00:30:23,320
- [chuckles]
721
00:30:23,404 --> 00:30:24,154
That's a rough question.
722
00:30:26,825 --> 00:30:30,068
Oh...
723
00:30:30,152 --> 00:30:31,903
At this point
these guys could, like,
724
00:30:31,996 --> 00:30:34,998
talk me into buying a timeshare
and I would say yes.
725
00:30:35,083 --> 00:30:37,417
The things about Bao
726
00:30:37,502 --> 00:30:41,672
that I know are true about her
personality haven't changed,
727
00:30:41,756 --> 00:30:45,417
but we are having
better moments.
728
00:30:45,501 --> 00:30:47,177
And those things
definitely impact me.
729
00:30:47,336 --> 00:30:49,671
They tell me that
there's some more thinking
730
00:30:49,755 --> 00:30:52,432
that needs to happen here
before Decision Day.
731
00:30:52,517 --> 00:30:54,017
- I'm not trying to necessarily
trying to convince you
732
00:30:54,102 --> 00:30:56,261
to change your mind
but you know,
733
00:30:56,354 --> 00:31:00,023
you're trying to make
a judgement off of two months,
734
00:31:00,108 --> 00:31:02,767
pretty much 90% of the time
being on the cameras.
735
00:31:02,861 --> 00:31:06,947
- I think that there might be
some pros about Bao
736
00:31:07,031 --> 00:31:10,117
that might really help
with some of these negatives
737
00:31:10,201 --> 00:31:11,618
that you're seeing right now.
738
00:31:11,703 --> 00:31:14,613
What's the rush of making
a decision now
739
00:31:14,697 --> 00:31:17,282
versus allowing
a little bit more time?
740
00:31:17,375 --> 00:31:21,712
- ♪ What's keeping me
from loving you? ♪
741
00:31:21,796 --> 00:31:24,047
- Don't make a rash decision
because you're unhappy
742
00:31:24,206 --> 00:31:27,384
right now,
because time may heal wounds.
743
00:31:27,468 --> 00:31:29,628
- ♪ What's keeping me
from loving you? ♪
744
00:31:29,712 --> 00:31:32,714
♪ ♪
745
00:31:32,798 --> 00:31:36,393
♪ What's keeping me
from loving you? ♪
746
00:31:40,815 --> 00:31:42,733
- ♪ We're loving on
higher ground ♪
747
00:31:42,892 --> 00:31:45,235
♪ We're loving
on higher ground ♪
748
00:31:45,394 --> 00:31:49,064
♪ Never falls apart,
kingdom to my heart ♪
749
00:31:49,148 --> 00:31:51,408
♪ Always so regal ♪
750
00:31:51,492 --> 00:31:54,077
- It's crazy how much
has happened in seven weeks.
751
00:31:54,162 --> 00:31:56,079
- I know, dog. Like, what?
752
00:31:56,164 --> 00:31:58,248
[laughter]
753
00:31:58,407 --> 00:32:01,326
- So, like, a good year.
- I've learned a lot.
754
00:32:01,410 --> 00:32:03,495
- This is marriage extreme.
- For real.
755
00:32:03,579 --> 00:32:05,255
I'm not gonna lie, man,
the whole experience
756
00:32:05,414 --> 00:32:07,332
on Saturday night
was very traumatizing to me.
757
00:32:07,425 --> 00:32:08,425
- I was about to say have you
ever been in that situation?
758
00:32:08,509 --> 00:32:09,760
- Never, dog.
759
00:32:09,844 --> 00:32:11,261
Never to the extent
that that was.
760
00:32:11,420 --> 00:32:13,755
- Oh. What happened?
761
00:32:13,839 --> 00:32:15,015
- At the couples retreat,
762
00:32:15,099 --> 00:32:15,840
I had a conversation
with Mikayla.
763
00:32:15,934 --> 00:32:16,925
It was like an argument,
764
00:32:17,009 --> 00:32:18,268
but it wasn't anything serious.
765
00:32:18,353 --> 00:32:19,678
I seriously just say
something that
766
00:32:19,762 --> 00:32:21,355
we talked about the night
before, nothing bad.
767
00:32:21,514 --> 00:32:22,940
These conversations don't help.
Like, it's time to move on.
768
00:32:23,024 --> 00:32:24,182
Let's move on.
- I know.
769
00:32:24,266 --> 00:32:25,609
That's what I'm saying.
770
00:32:25,768 --> 00:32:26,685
Like, you can literally--like,
you can literally,
771
00:32:26,778 --> 00:32:28,603
like, go home tonight.
772
00:32:28,688 --> 00:32:29,521
[dramatic music]
773
00:32:29,605 --> 00:32:31,106
Bye.
774
00:32:31,199 --> 00:32:32,190
- No, I came to you,
I don't want--
775
00:32:32,283 --> 00:32:34,284
- Ah-ah! Go home now.
776
00:32:34,443 --> 00:32:41,124
♪ ♪
777
00:32:42,535 --> 00:32:45,870
Get out! Get out.
778
00:32:45,964 --> 00:32:47,038
[glass shatters]
779
00:32:47,123 --> 00:32:48,456
[bleep] out.
780
00:32:48,549 --> 00:32:50,542
- At that moment,
I realized, like,
781
00:32:50,635 --> 00:32:51,718
this is no longer what I wanna
be a part of
782
00:32:51,877 --> 00:32:53,461
because, like, I've had enough.
783
00:32:53,546 --> 00:32:54,629
I'm just tired of it
getting like this, man,
784
00:32:54,722 --> 00:32:55,889
'cause this is
out of my comfort zone.
785
00:32:56,048 --> 00:32:57,132
- 'Cause it keeps happening.
- Yeah.
786
00:32:57,225 --> 00:32:58,717
It's just like,
I'm just tired of it,
787
00:32:58,801 --> 00:32:59,634
and, like,
I feel like anything I can say
788
00:32:59,719 --> 00:33:00,719
can set that off at any moment,
789
00:33:00,803 --> 00:33:02,220
so I'm just like, okay.
790
00:33:02,313 --> 00:33:03,730
- It's reverting back
to what you don't want.
791
00:33:03,815 --> 00:33:04,898
- Yeah, exactly.
792
00:33:04,983 --> 00:33:05,816
I don't know what else I can do.
793
00:33:05,900 --> 00:33:08,560
- Does she ever apologize?
794
00:33:08,653 --> 00:33:09,987
- I don't think she did.
795
00:33:10,146 --> 00:33:11,321
But what made me feel good
about our conversation
796
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,991
after Dr. Pepper's meeting,
I told her, like,
797
00:33:14,150 --> 00:33:15,492
what could I have done
differently to avoid that?
798
00:33:15,576 --> 00:33:17,744
And she's like you know,
not much.
799
00:33:17,903 --> 00:33:19,329
It was more on her than me.
800
00:33:19,488 --> 00:33:20,238
- So she owned up.
- Yeah, she owned up to that.
801
00:33:20,331 --> 00:33:22,582
- That's kind of big.
802
00:33:22,742 --> 00:33:24,826
- Which is all I needed because
I was going crazy asking like--
803
00:33:24,910 --> 00:33:26,253
- Is it me?
- Yeah.
804
00:33:26,412 --> 00:33:27,912
In your 27 years of living,
805
00:33:27,997 --> 00:33:29,664
you never caused this sort
of madness from someone else.
806
00:33:29,757 --> 00:33:31,341
- Yeah, what happening here?
I got you.
807
00:33:31,426 --> 00:33:32,926
- And so I will say this though,
808
00:33:33,011 --> 00:33:34,177
like, her actions has
definitely shown me
809
00:33:34,336 --> 00:33:35,754
that she's in this
for the right reasons,
810
00:33:35,838 --> 00:33:37,505
she's an amazing woman.
811
00:33:37,598 --> 00:33:40,934
- But do you think because
of this experience,
812
00:33:41,019 --> 00:33:42,519
now she's ready?
813
00:33:42,603 --> 00:33:45,355
- It took a process like this
and a guy like me
814
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,608
for her to realize
that what she does is not okay.
815
00:33:48,768 --> 00:33:51,278
Her other ex's didn't
hold her accountable for that.
816
00:33:51,362 --> 00:33:53,447
And this process, you know,
requires you to focus
817
00:33:53,531 --> 00:33:54,856
on yourself
and see what you can work on.
818
00:33:54,949 --> 00:33:56,199
- Yeah.
- So then like I said,
819
00:33:56,358 --> 00:33:59,202
you know, "I got stuff
to work on, too, and..."
820
00:33:59,361 --> 00:34:02,614
- Out of all the couples,
I think Zack and Michaela
821
00:34:02,707 --> 00:34:06,543
would be the two that would
throw the biggest surprise
822
00:34:06,627 --> 00:34:08,962
because they're so hot and cold.
823
00:34:09,047 --> 00:34:11,965
At that last minute, you don't
know what could happen.
824
00:34:12,050 --> 00:34:13,958
- So after the couple's retreat,
825
00:34:14,043 --> 00:34:16,303
I didn't really talk
to Michaela,
826
00:34:16,462 --> 00:34:17,796
but speaking with Dr. Pepper
827
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:18,963
kind of made me feel
a little bit better.
828
00:34:19,048 --> 00:34:21,224
So we are at least
are on speaking terms.
829
00:34:21,383 --> 00:34:22,726
So I think
there's gonna be good.
830
00:34:22,885 --> 00:34:26,730
- How did the Dr. Pepper
meeting go with her?
831
00:34:26,889 --> 00:34:29,149
- She realized
that her reactions
832
00:34:29,233 --> 00:34:31,068
are a serious problem.
833
00:34:31,227 --> 00:34:32,736
And that she, you know,
she needs help with them.
834
00:34:32,895 --> 00:34:35,655
- The thing is your one and
only deal breaker
835
00:34:35,740 --> 00:34:37,148
is the one thing--
- Yeah.
836
00:34:37,233 --> 00:34:41,236
- That she had.
- Like, one deal breaker.
837
00:34:41,329 --> 00:34:44,915
- She's an amazing girl, bro.
It's just, man.
838
00:34:45,074 --> 00:34:46,917
- So have y'all spoke after?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
839
00:34:47,076 --> 00:34:50,003
So yes, after Dr. Pepper,
we got lunch right after.
840
00:34:50,088 --> 00:34:52,172
And we were kind of more candid
about certain things,
841
00:34:52,331 --> 00:34:53,414
and it was a good conversation.
842
00:34:53,508 --> 00:34:55,425
- Okay.
- It was pretty good.
843
00:34:55,584 --> 00:34:57,085
I don't think the last
eight weeks have worked,
844
00:34:57,169 --> 00:34:58,678
but who knows
what the future holds.
845
00:34:58,838 --> 00:35:01,589
- I mean, that's,
that's fair enough.
846
00:35:01,674 --> 00:35:04,843
- ♪ I feel the doubt
kicking in ♪
847
00:35:04,936 --> 00:35:07,262
♪ Oh ♪
848
00:35:07,346 --> 00:35:10,014
[contemplative music]
849
00:35:10,099 --> 00:35:13,434
♪ ♪
850
00:35:13,519 --> 00:35:16,279
- It's hard.
Ryan and I have not spoken.
851
00:35:16,364 --> 00:35:19,858
And I guess the night
that he left my apartment
852
00:35:19,942 --> 00:35:22,277
after this dating
app conversation,
853
00:35:22,370 --> 00:35:24,445
I think he came back here
and got all his stuff.
854
00:35:24,539 --> 00:35:26,030
Because when I got back here,
eventually,
855
00:35:26,124 --> 00:35:27,782
a day or two later,
856
00:35:27,867 --> 00:35:31,536
all his stuff was gone.
The coffeemaker, all of it.
857
00:35:31,629 --> 00:35:35,465
I'm still trying to process
this situation
858
00:35:35,624 --> 00:35:37,134
and what happened.
859
00:35:37,218 --> 00:35:40,303
[phone rings]
860
00:35:44,976 --> 00:35:46,634
Hello?
861
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,644
- Hello.
862
00:35:47,803 --> 00:35:48,970
- What's up?
863
00:35:49,054 --> 00:35:50,480
- How are you?
864
00:35:50,639 --> 00:35:53,984
- I'm good. I'm just
I'm packing up all my crap.
865
00:35:54,143 --> 00:35:58,146
- How's it going?
- Um, it's going.
866
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:03,076
The thing that offends me
is that he can't
867
00:36:03,235 --> 00:36:07,238
take responsibility for himself
when you tell him things.
868
00:36:07,323 --> 00:36:08,582
And it's just
such an analogy for, like,
869
00:36:08,741 --> 00:36:10,750
the way that he operates.
870
00:36:10,910 --> 00:36:12,169
It's like, it's almost like
871
00:36:12,328 --> 00:36:14,996
he didn't seem surprised
that I knew about it.
872
00:36:15,089 --> 00:36:18,833
- Or he didn't care.
- Or that.
873
00:36:18,918 --> 00:36:20,468
- That you found out.
874
00:36:22,013 --> 00:36:25,599
- I was 1,000,000% like,
875
00:36:25,683 --> 00:36:27,592
actually really ready
to do this.
876
00:36:27,685 --> 00:36:32,347
And I think no matter
who it was gonna be for me,
877
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,191
I would have handled it
the same way.
878
00:36:34,275 --> 00:36:36,359
Like, I'm trying my hardest,
like every single day,
879
00:36:36,444 --> 00:36:37,777
all day long.
880
00:36:37,862 --> 00:36:39,779
It's like the only thing
on my mind is like,
881
00:36:39,939 --> 00:36:41,364
figure out how to get in there.
882
00:36:41,523 --> 00:36:43,024
Like, figure out how to connect
with this person,
883
00:36:43,117 --> 00:36:45,526
figure out
how we can mesh our lives
884
00:36:45,611 --> 00:36:47,537
and our personalities
and all of that.
885
00:36:47,696 --> 00:36:50,707
I don't think he knew that
he was gonna have to do that.
886
00:36:50,791 --> 00:36:53,543
I don't think he realized
that it would be hard.
887
00:36:53,702 --> 00:36:55,453
I don't think he realized
that it wasn't gonna be
888
00:36:55,546 --> 00:36:59,207
this instant,
like, ready-made situation.
889
00:36:59,291 --> 00:37:01,718
And then he didn't do anything
about it when it wasn't.
890
00:37:01,877 --> 00:37:04,462
He was just like,
well, not what I ordered.
891
00:37:04,546 --> 00:37:05,964
- You didn't get
what you ordered either.
892
00:37:06,048 --> 00:37:07,966
- Thank you.
893
00:37:08,059 --> 00:37:11,886
To have things kind of play
out the way that they have
894
00:37:11,971 --> 00:37:14,064
and turn out
the way that they have,
895
00:37:14,223 --> 00:37:17,141
disappointing
is the main emotion there.
896
00:37:17,235 --> 00:37:19,894
I'm not angry.
897
00:37:19,979 --> 00:37:21,646
A little sometimes angry.
898
00:37:21,739 --> 00:37:23,907
It's disappointment.
899
00:37:23,991 --> 00:37:27,151
You're like, it didn't need
to go down like that.
900
00:37:27,236 --> 00:37:29,746
- It's been a different
set of rules.
901
00:37:29,905 --> 00:37:31,581
- Yeah.
902
00:37:31,740 --> 00:37:34,376
♪ ♪
903
00:37:38,339 --> 00:37:42,250
- ♪ Running wild
through the city streets ♪
904
00:37:42,334 --> 00:37:45,503
♪ I never thought
you'd let go of me ♪
905
00:37:45,587 --> 00:37:48,923
♪ ♪
906
00:37:49,016 --> 00:37:52,677
- Cute little spot.
- Nice. I like it.
907
00:37:52,770 --> 00:37:55,522
- Over the past eight weeks,
I definitely feel like
908
00:37:55,606 --> 00:37:58,850
I've been on
a roller coaster of emotions.
909
00:37:58,943 --> 00:38:03,196
But I just can't forget
the first moment I saw Jose.
910
00:38:03,355 --> 00:38:07,200
[romantic music]
911
00:38:07,285 --> 00:38:09,610
- So gorgeous.
- Thank you.
912
00:38:09,695 --> 00:38:13,039
I'm anxious about Decision Day.
913
00:38:13,124 --> 00:38:16,617
And despite how well
things are going,
914
00:38:16,702 --> 00:38:19,454
there's still so much
that I don't know about Jose.
915
00:38:19,547 --> 00:38:22,966
And I wanna make
the best decision for myself
916
00:38:23,050 --> 00:38:27,211
before I change my life forever.
917
00:38:27,296 --> 00:38:29,380
How are you feeling?
918
00:38:29,473 --> 00:38:31,891
- I feel good,
I feel very confident about,
919
00:38:31,976 --> 00:38:33,718
you know, where my head's at.
920
00:38:33,802 --> 00:38:35,470
I think, you know,
going through this process
921
00:38:35,554 --> 00:38:38,222
the most telling
or growing part for me
922
00:38:38,316 --> 00:38:41,067
is that I didn't listen,
I didn't communicate
923
00:38:41,226 --> 00:38:42,477
as good as I thought I did.
924
00:38:42,561 --> 00:38:44,145
And I see that there is--
925
00:38:44,229 --> 00:38:47,073
There is a lot more
that I clearly need to work on.
926
00:38:47,158 --> 00:38:50,493
- Yeah. I mean,
that's really my only fear
927
00:38:50,578 --> 00:38:54,238
is us having
another huge argument
928
00:38:54,332 --> 00:38:57,158
where that argument to me
is gonna mean the end.
929
00:38:57,242 --> 00:39:01,662
And it would be so sad
to just end it because, again,
930
00:39:01,756 --> 00:39:04,248
we struggle with communicating
931
00:39:04,342 --> 00:39:06,417
when we don't agree
on some things, so...
932
00:39:06,502 --> 00:39:08,678
♪ ♪
933
00:39:08,763 --> 00:39:12,173
- Yeah, I hear you saying
all this, and I can't help
934
00:39:12,266 --> 00:39:15,510
but to think also, if I was...
935
00:39:15,594 --> 00:39:17,345
to be back single again
936
00:39:17,429 --> 00:39:19,022
and--and--
'cause my life was boring.
937
00:39:19,181 --> 00:39:24,185
I went from home to work.
Work, home, worked out,
938
00:39:24,269 --> 00:39:26,196
you know, I didn't really--
You know, I live in the suburbs
939
00:39:26,355 --> 00:39:27,855
so I don't really go out
and party.
940
00:39:27,948 --> 00:39:31,034
I blame social media
for, you know,
941
00:39:31,118 --> 00:39:33,444
singles that are single
and there's commitment issues
942
00:39:33,537 --> 00:39:36,706
because they wanna continue
to go traveling and YOLO
943
00:39:36,865 --> 00:39:39,283
and live this best life
and all this other stuff.
944
00:39:39,368 --> 00:39:42,962
- I will have to disagree
with you on the whole Instagram
945
00:39:43,122 --> 00:39:44,714
and traveling and YOLO-ing.
946
00:39:44,799 --> 00:39:46,958
I would like to continue
doing that--
947
00:39:47,051 --> 00:39:48,385
- I know, my wife does that.
- With my husband,
948
00:39:48,469 --> 00:39:51,888
With my husband, you know,
it's not about like,
949
00:39:52,047 --> 00:39:53,723
stop doing all the things
you did as you're single.
950
00:39:53,882 --> 00:39:55,225
- Right.
951
00:39:55,384 --> 00:39:56,893
- It's to continue
doing those things
952
00:39:57,052 --> 00:39:59,646
that you had fun doing
while you were single,
953
00:39:59,730 --> 00:40:03,483
but now with your
forever partner.
954
00:40:03,642 --> 00:40:07,228
To me, ideally, it would be
955
00:40:07,312 --> 00:40:12,409
one really big trip
every other year,
956
00:40:12,568 --> 00:40:16,070
which I'm talking about
9-10 hour flights
957
00:40:16,155 --> 00:40:17,580
across the world.
958
00:40:17,739 --> 00:40:20,166
I really wanna go
to Switzerland,
959
00:40:20,251 --> 00:40:22,743
and I really wanna go
to Thailand.
960
00:40:22,837 --> 00:40:25,746
And I wanna go
to these exotic places,
961
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:29,500
but I understand
money is a thing.
962
00:40:29,585 --> 00:40:31,594
♪ ♪
963
00:40:31,753 --> 00:40:34,514
- You know, I've said it before
that, you know,
964
00:40:34,673 --> 00:40:38,101
my upbringing, we didn't have
very much money, you know.
965
00:40:38,185 --> 00:40:41,521
But we did what we could
you know.
966
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:43,106
You know, travel,
967
00:40:43,265 --> 00:40:44,941
whether that be a quick
road trip to San Antonio,
968
00:40:45,025 --> 00:40:47,268
or go to Fredericksburg,
you know, which we're gonna do.
969
00:40:47,352 --> 00:40:49,353
Or, you know, go to Vegas
together for the first time,
970
00:40:49,447 --> 00:40:52,356
and, you know,
although they're not a lot,
971
00:40:52,450 --> 00:40:54,701
and they're not, you know
this over the top, you know...
972
00:40:54,785 --> 00:40:56,527
- Yeah.
- Trips.
973
00:40:56,620 --> 00:40:59,530
- I will say, I don't consider
that like a trip.
974
00:40:59,615 --> 00:41:01,616
♪ ♪
975
00:41:01,700 --> 00:41:04,035
I wouldn't put that
in our category
976
00:41:04,128 --> 00:41:05,703
of our trip of the year.
977
00:41:05,787 --> 00:41:09,457
♪ ♪
978
00:41:09,541 --> 00:41:11,292
When it comes
to domestic travel yeah,
979
00:41:11,385 --> 00:41:12,969
I would love
to go to a new city--
980
00:41:13,053 --> 00:41:15,379
- I definitely wanna go skiing.
I definitely wanna go skiing.
981
00:41:15,464 --> 00:41:17,298
I enjoy skiing.
I love skiing. I love it.
982
00:41:17,391 --> 00:41:19,976
- I'm okay with skiing
every year.
983
00:41:20,060 --> 00:41:22,303
But, again, that will not be
our trip of the year.
984
00:41:22,387 --> 00:41:25,064
♪ ♪
985
00:41:25,149 --> 00:41:27,892
- Yeah. It just--I don't know.
986
00:41:27,976 --> 00:41:32,396
- Here we go again.
He's not listening.
987
00:41:32,490 --> 00:41:34,824
This is why I feel so strongly
988
00:41:34,983 --> 00:41:37,994
about being my independent self.
989
00:41:38,078 --> 00:41:41,322
Traveling to Europe
does not interest him at all.
990
00:41:41,406 --> 00:41:45,001
And he's just crushed
a part of me.
991
00:41:45,085 --> 00:41:47,003
- ♪ 'Cause I don't need
to make the same mistakes ♪
992
00:41:47,162 --> 00:41:49,506
♪ ♪
993
00:41:49,665 --> 00:41:52,750
We just can't come up
with the final resolution.
994
00:41:52,834 --> 00:41:54,260
♪ ♪
995
00:41:54,345 --> 00:41:55,678
And I don't know what to do.
996
00:41:55,837 --> 00:42:01,935
♪ ♪
997
00:42:02,094 --> 00:42:04,929
[upbeat music]
998
00:42:05,013 --> 00:42:07,682
♪ ♪
999
00:42:07,766 --> 00:42:09,025
- ♪ Am I dreaming ♪
1000
00:42:09,109 --> 00:42:10,360
♪ Wide awake ♪
1001
00:42:10,444 --> 00:42:12,853
♪ Something like this ♪
1002
00:42:12,938 --> 00:42:14,438
- All right.
You ready to get this going?
1003
00:42:14,523 --> 00:42:15,273
- We have the whole arcade
to ourselves?
1004
00:42:15,357 --> 00:42:17,033
- I know.
1005
00:42:17,117 --> 00:42:20,537
These past seven weeks
has been a journey in itself
1006
00:42:20,621 --> 00:42:22,697
and we've learned a lot
from each other.
1007
00:42:22,781 --> 00:42:26,701
But you can't learn everything
that you need to know
1008
00:42:26,794 --> 00:42:27,877
about somebody that you wanna
stay married to
1009
00:42:27,962 --> 00:42:29,045
for the rest of your life.
1010
00:42:29,129 --> 00:42:30,880
Feeling all right?
1011
00:42:31,039 --> 00:42:32,873
- I'm not a Catholic anymore,
but--[laughs]
1012
00:42:32,967 --> 00:42:35,626
- Do you want, uh,
the little helpers?
1013
00:42:35,711 --> 00:42:36,544
- I would like
the little helper.
1014
00:42:36,628 --> 00:42:37,971
- To start off?
1015
00:42:38,130 --> 00:42:39,714
- I don't think
they have them here.
1016
00:42:39,807 --> 00:42:41,307
- I'm sure they have them cause
they have kids that come here.
1017
00:42:41,392 --> 00:42:42,550
They gotta have them.
1018
00:42:42,643 --> 00:42:43,467
- This is the part where I fall.
1019
00:42:43,561 --> 00:42:44,727
- [laughs]
1020
00:42:44,886 --> 00:42:46,479
♪ ♪
1021
00:42:46,638 --> 00:42:47,897
- All right, I think I'm ready.
1022
00:42:48,056 --> 00:42:50,141
- I hope nobody's
laughing at me.
1023
00:42:50,225 --> 00:42:51,401
- ♪ Don't wanna hear you talk,
won't need that answer ♪
1024
00:42:51,485 --> 00:42:53,486
- [laughs]
1025
00:42:53,645 --> 00:42:55,071
- Let me see.
You're gone go on a lap?
1026
00:42:55,155 --> 00:42:56,647
- Are you gonna try
to make me fall?
1027
00:42:56,740 --> 00:42:58,241
- I'm not gonna touch you.
I'm gonna touch you.
1028
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:59,576
- Okay.
1029
00:42:59,735 --> 00:43:01,569
♪ ♪
1030
00:43:01,653 --> 00:43:03,904
- ♪ Shake it up
when you move that body ♪
1031
00:43:03,989 --> 00:43:05,323
♪ Come and meet me
on the dancefloor ♪
1032
00:43:05,407 --> 00:43:07,000
- I'll go backwards.
1033
00:43:07,159 --> 00:43:10,670
- Oh, you wanna show off.
- No, I'm just saying. [laughs]
1034
00:43:10,754 --> 00:43:15,008
♪ Oh, boy, you got me,
got me losing my mind ♪
1035
00:43:15,167 --> 00:43:19,086
- Oh. [laughs]
- Come this way.
1036
00:43:19,171 --> 00:43:21,756
- I'm trying to
like find myself.
1037
00:43:21,849 --> 00:43:24,175
- You wanna skate
with held hands?
1038
00:43:24,268 --> 00:43:26,185
- You better not make me fall.
1039
00:43:26,345 --> 00:43:27,678
Like, this is everything.
1040
00:43:27,763 --> 00:43:30,514
Spending time like this
with my husband,
1041
00:43:30,599 --> 00:43:35,186
it makes me feel like this
could be my forever right now.
1042
00:43:35,279 --> 00:43:36,520
Is this a workout?
1043
00:43:36,605 --> 00:43:38,281
Am I burning calories right now?
1044
00:43:38,365 --> 00:43:40,858
- You're burning calories
every time you complain.
1045
00:43:40,951 --> 00:43:42,360
- ♪ Love wins ♪
1046
00:43:42,453 --> 00:43:46,456
So Decision Day is--
It's closer than we think.
1047
00:43:46,540 --> 00:43:52,620
And deciding to stay together
is--it's a big move.
1048
00:43:52,704 --> 00:43:54,538
We got married, so we got
the hard part out of the way
1049
00:43:54,623 --> 00:43:56,466
but--or, actually,
we got the easy part.
1050
00:43:56,625 --> 00:43:58,209
- No, the easy part
out of the way.
1051
00:43:58,302 --> 00:44:00,970
- Yeah, so the hard part
is the continuance of it.
1052
00:44:01,055 --> 00:44:02,805
- Getting to be with this
fabulous woman
1053
00:44:02,890 --> 00:44:04,140
for the rest of your life.
1054
00:44:04,299 --> 00:44:06,717
♪ ♪
1055
00:44:06,802 --> 00:44:11,389
- It's easy to say no to that.
[laughter]
1056
00:44:11,473 --> 00:44:13,983
'Cause beauty fades.
1057
00:44:14,142 --> 00:44:15,893
It's a lot at stake.
1058
00:44:15,977 --> 00:44:18,821
Do I wanna be with you
for the rest of my life?
1059
00:44:18,906 --> 00:44:21,565
The finance stuff
is a big deal for me.
1060
00:44:21,659 --> 00:44:26,079
The--your negativity, at times,
is a big deal for me.
1061
00:44:26,238 --> 00:44:27,997
Sometimes I feel like you--
1062
00:44:28,082 --> 00:44:32,669
You kind of [bleep] people
that aren't where you're at.
1063
00:44:32,753 --> 00:44:36,330
This is how I see
because of the stuff you say,
1064
00:44:36,423 --> 00:44:40,334
the stuff that you do is like,
you think you made out of gold?
1065
00:44:40,427 --> 00:44:42,503
- I don't think that's--
I hear you.
1066
00:44:42,587 --> 00:44:43,763
- Okay.
1067
00:44:43,922 --> 00:44:45,756
- And I disagree.
1068
00:44:45,849 --> 00:44:49,435
- You know that that word that
comes after spoiled is brat.
1069
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,438
And sometimes,
that's how you act.
1070
00:44:52,597 --> 00:44:54,432
- I don't think--
1071
00:44:54,516 --> 00:44:56,859
- So for me,
it doesn't sit well with me
1072
00:44:57,018 --> 00:44:59,445
because I've worked hard
for what I have, you know?
1073
00:44:59,604 --> 00:45:01,197
And, you know, we didn't--
1074
00:45:01,356 --> 00:45:03,533
I didn't come up rich
or anything like that.
1075
00:45:03,617 --> 00:45:05,618
I definitely don't wanna be
married to a brat.
1076
00:45:05,777 --> 00:45:07,370
You know, I understand she--
1077
00:45:07,454 --> 00:45:09,956
That she has made a living,
a comfortable living,
1078
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:12,375
and she is happy where she's at.
1079
00:45:12,459 --> 00:45:14,794
Like you have to live
in a mid-rise or high rise.
1080
00:45:14,953 --> 00:45:17,204
I don't have to. I can go back.
1081
00:45:17,297 --> 00:45:19,549
- I don't have to,
I want to and I can.
1082
00:45:19,633 --> 00:45:22,460
- Okay.
I don't care about them.
1083
00:45:22,544 --> 00:45:24,387
I don't want her to be spoiled,
1084
00:45:24,471 --> 00:45:27,631
I don't want her to just
expect that at all times.
1085
00:45:27,716 --> 00:45:30,384
She has to understand
that the finer things in life
1086
00:45:30,469 --> 00:45:32,052
that she loves,
1087
00:45:32,146 --> 00:45:34,397
I really don't care
about as much.
1088
00:45:34,481 --> 00:45:36,390
The person that got you
to where you're at now
1089
00:45:36,483 --> 00:45:37,975
is, like,
you're losing that person.
1090
00:45:38,059 --> 00:45:39,902
- I think that is all
my motivation every day.
1091
00:45:40,061 --> 00:45:42,155
Where I came from
is my motivation.
1092
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,231
And I share where I came
from with everyone.
1093
00:45:44,316 --> 00:45:46,150
Because, for me,
that's my motivation.
1094
00:45:46,243 --> 00:45:47,744
And so that doesn't mean
I forget where I came from.
1095
00:45:47,903 --> 00:45:51,489
♪ ♪
1096
00:45:51,582 --> 00:45:54,584
- I'm not money motivated,
so that doesn't drive me.
1097
00:45:54,668 --> 00:45:56,911
So that's where we differ.
1098
00:45:56,995 --> 00:45:59,163
- I've worked really hard
to get to where I am.
1099
00:45:59,256 --> 00:46:01,090
And, you know, I came
from very humble beginnings.
1100
00:46:01,249 --> 00:46:03,083
And I enjoy the life
that I live.
1101
00:46:03,177 --> 00:46:05,753
And I know it might
frustrate him at times.
1102
00:46:05,846 --> 00:46:08,255
But I don't know that I thought
1103
00:46:08,348 --> 00:46:11,509
that it would be
this big of a deal,
1104
00:46:11,602 --> 00:46:13,603
and I'm starting to see like,
man, like even though
1105
00:46:13,687 --> 00:46:17,023
it's one thing,
it's really important to him.
1106
00:46:17,182 --> 00:46:20,100
And if I say, "It's not my
thing, I don't wanna do that.
1107
00:46:20,185 --> 00:46:22,111
I don't wanna
change my lifestyle."
1108
00:46:22,196 --> 00:46:23,771
Then what?
Does that mean that's it?
1109
00:46:23,855 --> 00:46:26,365
♪ ♪
1110
00:46:26,450 --> 00:46:31,621
So, yeah, I don't know.
It's something to think about.
1111
00:46:31,705 --> 00:46:33,956
- So these are things
that I have to consider
1112
00:46:34,115 --> 00:46:39,286
because I want somebody that
I can not only enjoy with--
1113
00:46:39,379 --> 00:46:40,704
Enjoy the life that they made
for themselves,
1114
00:46:40,789 --> 00:46:42,632
but also enjoy
the little moments in life
1115
00:46:42,791 --> 00:46:44,801
that doesn't have to do
with expensive gifts
1116
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:46,886
or expensive trips.
1117
00:46:46,970 --> 00:46:48,805
Sometimes that's not what life--
1118
00:46:48,964 --> 00:46:50,139
You can't always
have that in life.
1119
00:46:50,298 --> 00:46:52,466
And for some people,
I guess they can.
1120
00:46:52,559 --> 00:46:54,385
But if that's the only way
they can enjoy life,
1121
00:46:54,469 --> 00:46:55,636
then that's not the person
I wanna be with.
1122
00:46:55,720 --> 00:46:59,315
♪ ♪
1123
00:47:03,237 --> 00:47:04,320
- ♪ Every night ♪
1124
00:47:04,479 --> 00:47:05,571
♪ ♪
1125
00:47:05,730 --> 00:47:07,323
♪ All of the time ♪
1126
00:47:07,482 --> 00:47:08,908
♪ ♪
1127
00:47:08,992 --> 00:47:12,570
♪ Be mine ♪
1128
00:47:12,654 --> 00:47:15,832
- Oh.
- Hey, hey.
1129
00:47:15,916 --> 00:47:19,910
- Hello, beautiful.
[laughter]
1130
00:47:19,995 --> 00:47:22,839
- Hello beautiful.
- Hi, what's up, man?
1131
00:47:22,923 --> 00:47:24,674
- Ryan and I haven't
seen each other
1132
00:47:24,758 --> 00:47:28,594
since the dating app situation,
but it is what it is.
1133
00:47:28,753 --> 00:47:32,006
You know, let's just have
a good time, I guess,
1134
00:47:32,090 --> 00:47:34,425
try to make
the most of, you know,
1135
00:47:34,509 --> 00:47:36,510
the time that we do have left
because at the end of the day,
1136
00:47:36,595 --> 00:47:38,187
we are supposed to be
in this together.
1137
00:47:40,357 --> 00:47:41,858
- I like your pants, Johnny.
- You like what?
1138
00:47:41,942 --> 00:47:43,776
- I like your pants.
- Thank you.
1139
00:47:43,861 --> 00:47:45,361
- I've never seen you
wear pants.
1140
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:47,697
- I know.
- You're always in shorts.
1141
00:47:47,781 --> 00:47:50,608
- Johnny doesn't wear pants.
- You're always in shorts.
1142
00:47:50,692 --> 00:47:52,943
- This is the last time
we're coming together
1143
00:47:53,028 --> 00:47:53,953
before Decision Day.
1144
00:47:54,112 --> 00:47:55,121
And it could possibly be
1145
00:47:55,205 --> 00:47:59,199
for the last time as spouses.
1146
00:47:59,284 --> 00:48:01,127
- I kind of wanna play
with that one.
1147
00:48:01,211 --> 00:48:03,621
- And it's such a bittersweet
end
1148
00:48:03,714 --> 00:48:05,631
because, you know, obviously
1149
00:48:05,790 --> 00:48:08,542
we all really came into this
wanting to be married.
1150
00:48:08,627 --> 00:48:10,469
But in a couple of days,
1151
00:48:10,629 --> 00:48:13,055
we have to make the biggest
decision in our life
1152
00:48:13,140 --> 00:48:15,799
and that is that whether or
not we're gonna stay together.
1153
00:48:15,893 --> 00:48:17,560
It's a big deal.
1154
00:48:17,644 --> 00:48:21,722
- Hey.
- What the hell was that?
1155
00:48:21,806 --> 00:48:23,724
- It's called a miscue,
1156
00:48:23,808 --> 00:48:25,234
it happens to everyone.
1157
00:48:25,319 --> 00:48:27,895
Men more often than women.
- Dang, Bao.
1158
00:48:27,979 --> 00:48:30,898
[upbeat music]
1159
00:48:30,982 --> 00:48:34,243
♪ ♪
1160
00:48:34,402 --> 00:48:37,663
- I'm, you know,
intrigued and curious
1161
00:48:37,748 --> 00:48:39,740
to just pick people's brains,
1162
00:48:39,833 --> 00:48:42,076
see how they're feeling
and, more importantly,
1163
00:48:42,169 --> 00:48:45,004
see how they feel
about staying married
1164
00:48:45,088 --> 00:48:46,413
or getting a divorce.
1165
00:48:46,498 --> 00:48:47,915
So what's up,
how's everybody feeling?
1166
00:48:47,999 --> 00:48:52,002
[tense music]
1167
00:48:52,095 --> 00:48:53,587
- Feeling great.
1168
00:48:53,672 --> 00:48:56,006
♪ ♪
1169
00:48:56,099 --> 00:48:59,093
- Rachel asked me,
"What would the reasons be
1170
00:48:59,177 --> 00:49:01,428
that you wouldn't
stay married to me?"
1171
00:49:01,513 --> 00:49:04,774
I said, "Well, you know,
effort, communication, right?"
1172
00:49:04,933 --> 00:49:06,275
So things like that.
1173
00:49:06,434 --> 00:49:11,197
But if I don't see
the marriage prolonging,
1174
00:49:11,281 --> 00:49:13,699
you know,
it's been a great journey.
1175
00:49:13,858 --> 00:49:15,284
We've learned a lot
about each other.
1176
00:49:15,369 --> 00:49:19,038
So it's been good.
1177
00:49:19,122 --> 00:49:21,031
- I mean, not to put
anyone else on the spot,
1178
00:49:21,116 --> 00:49:25,035
but, I mean, what are
y'all's reasons to say no?
1179
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:28,539
- I guess mine would be, um,
1180
00:49:28,632 --> 00:49:33,636
if wifey just continues
to live like she's single.
1181
00:49:33,795 --> 00:49:35,054
- Well...
1182
00:49:35,213 --> 00:49:36,547
- It's a lot of things
that she said
1183
00:49:36,631 --> 00:49:38,465
even before we even got married,
1184
00:49:38,558 --> 00:49:40,718
she said she wasn't gonna
change certain things
1185
00:49:40,811 --> 00:49:42,311
about herself no matter what.
1186
00:49:42,470 --> 00:49:43,887
So--and I feel like
1187
00:49:43,981 --> 00:49:46,315
that's a selfish way
to go into a marriage
1188
00:49:46,474 --> 00:49:47,984
without knowing
who you're gonna marry.
1189
00:49:48,143 --> 00:49:51,562
So I feel like
if she's not willing to change
1190
00:49:51,646 --> 00:49:54,824
for the right reasons,
that would make me say no.
1191
00:49:54,908 --> 00:49:56,659
- I feel like Myrla
should get a rebuttal there.
1192
00:49:56,743 --> 00:49:58,569
[laughter]
1193
00:49:58,653 --> 00:50:00,663
- Husband makes me like stop
shopping altogether,
1194
00:50:00,747 --> 00:50:02,164
I think that would cause me too.
1195
00:50:02,323 --> 00:50:05,084
- But on the shop--
On the shopping, no.
1196
00:50:05,168 --> 00:50:06,660
I love your shoes by the way.
1197
00:50:06,753 --> 00:50:07,995
Like, those are badass.
- They're everything.
1198
00:50:08,079 --> 00:50:08,996
Yeah.
- I have to say.
1199
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:11,415
Those are kind of sexy.
1200
00:50:11,508 --> 00:50:14,677
- Next.
- [laughs]
1201
00:50:14,761 --> 00:50:16,503
- Yeah, um,
1202
00:50:16,588 --> 00:50:19,506
I think the general reason
to say yes on Decision Day
1203
00:50:19,591 --> 00:50:22,101
is that you have
mutual feelings,
1204
00:50:22,260 --> 00:50:25,604
you have a connection, you have
chemistry, you have respect.
1205
00:50:25,689 --> 00:50:28,024
And the reason to say no
is you don't have any of that.
1206
00:50:28,108 --> 00:50:31,861
And that's my mentality
going into Decision Day.
1207
00:50:32,020 --> 00:50:33,195
- I went through this
whole thing
1208
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:36,106
just trusting my feelings,
1209
00:50:36,191 --> 00:50:37,950
waiting for feelings,
expecting feelings,
1210
00:50:38,035 --> 00:50:40,119
and I'm gonna continue
to do that.
1211
00:50:40,203 --> 00:50:46,033
I've been very honest
to myself about everything.
1212
00:50:46,126 --> 00:50:49,536
And I'm gonna just,
I'm gonna keep doing that.
1213
00:50:49,621 --> 00:50:51,038
- I mean, we all grown.
1214
00:50:51,131 --> 00:50:52,798
You should know
what you really want.
1215
00:50:52,883 --> 00:50:55,217
And so whether it's to stay
or not to say,
1216
00:50:55,302 --> 00:50:57,044
there's another person involved,
1217
00:50:57,128 --> 00:50:58,888
and you got
to consider them as well.
1218
00:50:58,972 --> 00:51:00,214
The best thing you can do
for them
1219
00:51:00,307 --> 00:51:01,474
is tell them
exactly what you want.
1220
00:51:01,558 --> 00:51:04,134
Johnny?
[laughter]
1221
00:51:04,227 --> 00:51:05,478
- Hey.
- My man.
1222
00:51:05,637 --> 00:51:08,972
- You got it, baby.
- Come on, coach.
1223
00:51:09,057 --> 00:51:10,649
- Um,
1224
00:51:10,734 --> 00:51:14,144
the way that I would say
yes on Decision Day,
1225
00:51:14,229 --> 00:51:20,159
is if I saw some potential,
1226
00:51:20,243 --> 00:51:22,578
might as well give it a shot.
1227
00:51:22,662 --> 00:51:24,413
Yes or no on Decision Day,
1228
00:51:24,572 --> 00:51:28,158
just keep hanging out
and see what happens.
1229
00:51:28,243 --> 00:51:31,170
Might be surprised.
1230
00:51:31,254 --> 00:51:32,755
- You never know.
1231
00:51:32,839 --> 00:51:35,082
- It really does take two people
1232
00:51:35,166 --> 00:51:39,428
to start the marriage,
to sustain the marriage.
1233
00:51:39,513 --> 00:51:41,931
But it just takes one person
to end the marriage.
1234
00:51:42,090 --> 00:51:47,520
And for me going into this,
I came in 100%.
1235
00:51:47,679 --> 00:51:50,681
I was looking for my forever.
I was hoping to fall in love.
1236
00:51:50,774 --> 00:51:51,941
I was hoping this is it.
1237
00:51:52,100 --> 00:51:54,527
And when I committed
to doing this,
1238
00:51:54,611 --> 00:51:58,364
it took a lot for me
because I'm just not--
1239
00:51:58,523 --> 00:52:00,357
I'm not somebody
that takes big risks.
1240
00:52:00,450 --> 00:52:04,361
I'm not somebody
that puts myself out there.
1241
00:52:04,445 --> 00:52:07,456
I got matched with Johnny,
and he challenged me.
1242
00:52:07,541 --> 00:52:12,378
And in many ways he challenged
me to be a better person.
1243
00:52:12,462 --> 00:52:16,623
And so Decision Day,
while it might seem arbitrary,
1244
00:52:16,716 --> 00:52:20,127
I feel like it's not,
because saying no
1245
00:52:20,211 --> 00:52:25,132
is really an announcement
that someone's out.
1246
00:52:25,216 --> 00:52:27,226
And I don't think
I could get over that.
1247
00:52:27,385 --> 00:52:30,304
[dramatic music]
1248
00:52:30,388 --> 00:52:34,558
♪ ♪
1249
00:52:34,651 --> 00:52:39,405
- I don't think I view
Decision Day like Bao.
1250
00:52:39,489 --> 00:52:42,324
A yes for me on Decision Day
means it's worked for me.
1251
00:52:42,409 --> 00:52:44,243
This means over
the last eight weeks,
1252
00:52:44,402 --> 00:52:47,079
I was happy
and I want to continue.
1253
00:52:47,238 --> 00:52:51,083
If I say no, that means
it just didn't work for me.
1254
00:52:51,168 --> 00:52:52,743
You know, just because
you say yes on Decision Day
1255
00:52:52,827 --> 00:52:54,077
doesn't mean
it's gonna work out.
1256
00:52:54,162 --> 00:52:55,588
And just because you say no,
1257
00:52:55,747 --> 00:52:57,673
it doesn't mean
it's gonna work out.
1258
00:52:57,832 --> 00:52:59,842
- Can I ask you a question
then on that?
1259
00:53:00,001 --> 00:53:03,921
If you were thinking no,
for example,
1260
00:53:04,005 --> 00:53:06,932
but you intend to continue
to see where this goes after,
1261
00:53:07,017 --> 00:53:09,018
why can't it be a yes
1262
00:53:09,102 --> 00:53:11,937
and then decide no concretely
after you've given it a chance?
1263
00:53:12,096 --> 00:53:15,274
- Right. Because like I said,
if I were to say yes,
1264
00:53:15,358 --> 00:53:16,609
then that is me saying
1265
00:53:16,768 --> 00:53:18,110
this last eight weeks
have been great.
1266
00:53:18,195 --> 00:53:19,770
This has worked out for me,
I've been happy,
1267
00:53:19,854 --> 00:53:22,281
and I'm ready to go.
1268
00:53:22,365 --> 00:53:23,866
That's what that means to me.
1269
00:53:24,025 --> 00:53:26,944
A yes may not mean that
for you guys, but if I say yes,
1270
00:53:27,028 --> 00:53:29,947
that means this eight weeks
have been great, I'm happy,
1271
00:53:30,031 --> 00:53:32,374
and let's continue.
1272
00:53:32,533 --> 00:53:36,295
- It's--it's different for me.
I mean, for it to be a no,
1273
00:53:36,379 --> 00:53:37,713
I really don't think,
emotionally,
1274
00:53:37,797 --> 00:53:39,539
I can come back from that.
1275
00:53:39,624 --> 00:53:42,459
If it's a yes and it ends up
being a no later, fine.
1276
00:53:42,543 --> 00:53:44,378
But a yes to me is like,
all right,
1277
00:53:44,462 --> 00:53:46,713
it might be [bleep] right now,
but we can work on it.
1278
00:53:46,798 --> 00:53:49,225
And I see potential
in this, and it--
1279
00:53:49,384 --> 00:53:51,143
And let's just see
where it goes.
1280
00:53:51,228 --> 00:53:54,638
I reflect on the possibility
that I might say yes,
1281
00:53:54,722 --> 00:53:57,140
and Johnny says no,
and that's it for me.
1282
00:53:57,225 --> 00:53:59,985
For me a no is like,
I'm done with this.
1283
00:54:00,144 --> 00:54:01,728
I would be checked out.
1284
00:54:01,821 --> 00:54:06,325
- So if Johnny says like,
"I just had to say no
1285
00:54:06,409 --> 00:54:08,986
"because where I'm at mentally,
1286
00:54:09,079 --> 00:54:11,247
physically, it's just like,
I need to get back to myself,"
1287
00:54:11,406 --> 00:54:13,666
whatever reason,
he says, right, but he's like,
1288
00:54:13,750 --> 00:54:16,752
"But I promise you, Bao,
like I do wanna work on us.
1289
00:54:16,836 --> 00:54:18,170
"And I'm willing to do
whatever it takes
1290
00:54:18,255 --> 00:54:20,339
to see how we can kind of make
this work later on."
1291
00:54:20,423 --> 00:54:21,581
So you would still say--
1292
00:54:21,675 --> 00:54:22,675
- Then it's a yes
without saying it.
1293
00:54:22,834 --> 00:54:23,834
- Then you would say yes.
1294
00:54:23,918 --> 00:54:26,837
I mean, Zack's a smart guy.
1295
00:54:26,930 --> 00:54:29,348
I would never discount
his intelligence.
1296
00:54:29,432 --> 00:54:33,269
But I still don't understand
Zack's line of logic.
1297
00:54:33,428 --> 00:54:35,020
I can't help but feel
like he's thinking
1298
00:54:35,179 --> 00:54:37,356
about walking into Decision Day
1299
00:54:37,440 --> 00:54:40,017
and signaling to the world,
1300
00:54:40,101 --> 00:54:42,945
"Hey, I'm divorced, I'm single.
1301
00:54:43,029 --> 00:54:46,606
But Michaela, let's work
on our love on the side."
1302
00:54:46,700 --> 00:54:49,526
Like, that doesn't make
any sense to me.
1303
00:54:49,610 --> 00:54:52,955
- If I may, Bao, because Zack
and I had this conversation
1304
00:54:53,039 --> 00:54:54,781
about what I thought a no meant.
1305
00:54:54,866 --> 00:54:58,618
And, yes, a "no" to me
was a rejection,
1306
00:54:58,703 --> 00:55:02,289
and that rejection
equaled humiliation to me.
1307
00:55:02,382 --> 00:55:04,207
And that's why
I didn't want a no,
1308
00:55:04,292 --> 00:55:06,468
and that's why I didn't wanna
understand his no.
1309
00:55:06,553 --> 00:55:08,378
And at this point,
it's like, you know,
1310
00:55:08,463 --> 00:55:10,213
with talking with my sisters
1311
00:55:10,298 --> 00:55:12,132
and talking with the experts
and talking with everybody.
1312
00:55:12,216 --> 00:55:16,219
It's like, okay, well,
if he just says no, whatever.
1313
00:55:16,304 --> 00:55:18,230
But I completely understand
that shut-down, Bao,
1314
00:55:18,315 --> 00:55:21,725
because I am--
Why I don't wanna go there,
1315
00:55:21,818 --> 00:55:23,393
I teeter on that, right?
1316
00:55:23,486 --> 00:55:25,645
I kind of--it's like,
I don't wanna shut down,
1317
00:55:25,739 --> 00:55:28,240
and--but it will take
even though getting a no,
1318
00:55:28,325 --> 00:55:30,150
it's, you know, it's a thing.
1319
00:55:30,243 --> 00:55:32,069
It's like, it will take me
1320
00:55:32,153 --> 00:55:35,331
seeing that effort
to not just say,
1321
00:55:35,415 --> 00:55:38,158
okay, well, it came to fruition
what I thought was an answer.
1322
00:55:38,251 --> 00:55:39,826
- Sure, sure.
- So I hear what you guys
1323
00:55:39,919 --> 00:55:41,754
are saying about
we continue to be married
1324
00:55:41,838 --> 00:55:43,914
even after Decision Day.
1325
00:55:43,998 --> 00:55:47,009
I don't give a [bleep] about
the legality of the marriage.
1326
00:55:47,093 --> 00:55:48,427
I don't care
that there's a certificate
1327
00:55:48,511 --> 00:55:50,012
that says we're married.
1328
00:55:50,171 --> 00:55:51,254
- Yeah.
1329
00:55:51,339 --> 00:55:52,923
- My--what I cared about
1330
00:55:53,016 --> 00:55:56,435
is that we made a decision,
we got married,
1331
00:55:56,519 --> 00:55:58,604
we had witnesses
and our families became one.
1332
00:55:58,688 --> 00:56:01,181
And on Decision Day,
the question is,
1333
00:56:01,265 --> 00:56:03,525
do you want to stay married?
Or do you want a divorce?
1334
00:56:03,684 --> 00:56:08,438
And if the answer is a divorce,
okay, that's it for me.
1335
00:56:08,531 --> 00:56:13,619
♪ ♪
1336
00:56:13,778 --> 00:56:15,445
- Bao is making it very,
very clear
1337
00:56:15,530 --> 00:56:18,031
that a no on Decision Day
means the end of this marriage,
1338
00:56:18,116 --> 00:56:20,200
no matter what.
1339
00:56:20,284 --> 00:56:22,127
- ♪ All I ever wanted was
a little attention from you ♪
1340
00:56:22,286 --> 00:56:24,037
- It's very absolute.
1341
00:56:24,122 --> 00:56:25,705
And it's not the way
that I'm thinking about it.
1342
00:56:25,790 --> 00:56:29,385
But I hear her.
1343
00:56:29,469 --> 00:56:32,221
- ♪ All I ever wanted was
a little bit ♪
1344
00:56:32,305 --> 00:56:37,551
- And based on that,
I have a lot to think about.
1345
00:56:37,635 --> 00:56:40,145
- ♪ All I ever wanted was
a little attention from you ♪
1346
00:56:40,230 --> 00:56:42,139
♪ But you were chasing
waterfalls ♪
1347
00:56:42,223 --> 00:56:46,026
♪ How'd that work for you,
how'd that work for you ♪
1348
00:56:49,814 --> 00:56:51,648
[upbeat music]
1349
00:56:51,732 --> 00:56:53,066
- ♪ I'll go, never slow ♪
1350
00:56:53,151 --> 00:56:55,402
♪ Got it going on ♪
1351
00:56:55,486 --> 00:56:58,572
♪ I'll go, never slow,
Got it going on ♪
1352
00:56:58,665 --> 00:57:01,083
- To the last outing for us.
- Yes.
1353
00:57:01,242 --> 00:57:03,243
- Before Decision Day.
- But not the last.
1354
00:57:03,327 --> 00:57:04,920
- But not the last.
- To a great experience--
1355
00:57:05,079 --> 00:57:06,338
- Hey.
1356
00:57:06,423 --> 00:57:08,665
We all say yes to each other.
- Yes.
1357
00:57:08,758 --> 00:57:10,917
[laughter]
1358
00:57:11,010 --> 00:57:13,753
All: [laughing and talking]
1359
00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:15,848
- I love us!
- I love us!
1360
00:57:15,932 --> 00:57:17,924
- I got married at first sight
because I was hoping
1361
00:57:18,017 --> 00:57:21,344
that I would find
my forever person.
1362
00:57:21,429 --> 00:57:24,356
But I've gained a lot more
than a husband and a marriage.
1363
00:57:24,441 --> 00:57:27,601
I've gained some beautiful
friendships that I want
1364
00:57:27,685 --> 00:57:32,105
to treasure and cherish
for the rest of my life.
1365
00:57:32,190 --> 00:57:35,442
- So everybody, you know,
speaking for themselves,
1366
00:57:35,526 --> 00:57:37,360
do--have you learned something
about yourself
1367
00:57:37,454 --> 00:57:39,288
that you didn't know,
before coming into this?
1368
00:57:39,372 --> 00:57:40,947
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
1369
00:57:41,032 --> 00:57:43,783
- One of the main things
is that I set out
1370
00:57:43,868 --> 00:57:47,037
to have like a really,
really, really open mind.
1371
00:57:47,130 --> 00:57:50,716
And then when I was faced
with that, I did it.
1372
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:54,470
And I wasn't sure that
I would be able to and I did.
1373
00:57:54,554 --> 00:57:57,464
- For me, it's just in the past
to me an argument
1374
00:57:57,557 --> 00:58:00,050
equals a breakup, you know?
1375
00:58:00,134 --> 00:58:03,720
And I had a severe argument
with someone,
1376
00:58:03,813 --> 00:58:06,890
and I decided not to break up
with the person.
1377
00:58:06,983 --> 00:58:12,237
And I continued, and it worked
out even for the better.
1378
00:58:12,396 --> 00:58:13,655
- Going into this marriage,
1379
00:58:13,814 --> 00:58:18,068
I feel like I embodied
a lot more patience
1380
00:58:18,161 --> 00:58:20,654
than I thought I could
give myself credit for.
1381
00:58:20,747 --> 00:58:24,991
And I've tried really hard
1382
00:58:25,076 --> 00:58:27,994
to work on being more kind
in this relationship
1383
00:58:28,087 --> 00:58:32,666
than I have
in past relationships.
1384
00:58:32,750 --> 00:58:35,418
- Um, one thing I've learned
about myself
1385
00:58:35,503 --> 00:58:37,420
throughout this entire process
1386
00:58:37,505 --> 00:58:40,924
is I always thought I was like
the real calm, cool, chill,
1387
00:58:41,017 --> 00:58:46,188
even-keel kinda--kind of guy.
- Oh, I did too.
1388
00:58:46,347 --> 00:58:47,847
- And going through
this process,
1389
00:58:47,932 --> 00:58:50,517
I've realized
I'm an emotional wreck.
1390
00:58:50,601 --> 00:58:52,110
[laughter]
1391
00:58:52,195 --> 00:58:54,354
- Johnny!
- Hey, but that's important.
1392
00:58:54,438 --> 00:58:57,023
That's extremely important
to know that.
1393
00:58:57,108 --> 00:58:59,451
- Being faced with
like real hardship,
1394
00:58:59,536 --> 00:59:04,456
which I've always
run from in the past.
1395
00:59:04,615 --> 00:59:07,960
Being forced to like stay
and rough it and experience it
1396
00:59:08,044 --> 00:59:10,954
and encounter like emotions
you never felt before
1397
00:59:11,038 --> 00:59:11,880
and like
immediately talk about it.
1398
00:59:12,039 --> 00:59:13,707
- Mm-hmm.
1399
00:59:13,791 --> 00:59:15,551
- Yeah, I would
piggyback off of Johnny.
1400
00:59:15,635 --> 00:59:18,804
Like, you know, I thought
I was cool, calm and collected.
1401
00:59:18,963 --> 00:59:21,631
I've honestly cried more times
during this whole process
1402
00:59:21,716 --> 00:59:25,561
than I have my entire
27 years of living.
1403
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:27,637
And then, you know,
I definitely thought
1404
00:59:27,730 --> 00:59:29,982
my critical reasoning skills
were top notch,
1405
00:59:30,066 --> 00:59:31,733
but um, you know, kind of
going through this process
1406
00:59:31,892 --> 00:59:35,571
and with Michaela,
specifically, you know,
1407
00:59:35,730 --> 00:59:37,489
I've learned like thinking
a different way,
1408
00:59:37,574 --> 00:59:38,907
and I think it's a good way so.
1409
00:59:39,066 --> 00:59:40,492
- Wow.
- That's thanks to Michaela.
1410
00:59:40,651 --> 00:59:43,662
- All right.
- Yeah.
1411
00:59:43,821 --> 00:59:46,999
- The one thing I would say
that I learned about myself
1412
00:59:47,158 --> 00:59:49,159
during this process is that
1413
00:59:49,252 --> 00:59:55,165
Um, I'm able to be vulnerable
with somebody to an extent.
1414
00:59:55,258 --> 00:59:57,834
I never--I've never been
vulnerable with somebody,
1415
00:59:57,918 --> 01:00:00,846
I've always wanted to,
to kind of feel free
1416
01:00:00,930 --> 01:00:02,431
and so I feel like, you know,
1417
01:00:02,590 --> 01:00:05,434
going through this,
it's possible.
1418
01:00:05,593 --> 01:00:07,510
I feel like it's possible
for anybody.
1419
01:00:07,604 --> 01:00:09,763
It's just, you've gotta find
the right person.
1420
01:00:09,856 --> 01:00:14,684
But you also have
to be able to, you know,
1421
01:00:14,777 --> 01:00:16,361
give them that trust,
you know what I'm saying?
1422
01:00:16,520 --> 01:00:18,188
And then, you know,
1423
01:00:18,272 --> 01:00:21,691
it might bite you in the butt,
but you can't think of that.
1424
01:00:21,776 --> 01:00:23,109
You've just got
to let it happen,
1425
01:00:23,202 --> 01:00:25,362
and then go from there though.
1426
01:00:25,455 --> 01:00:27,364
- I maybe really feel like
starting any relationship
1427
01:00:27,448 --> 01:00:30,950
you can't go in
not expecting to get hurt.
1428
01:00:31,035 --> 01:00:33,036
- Yeah,
if you put yourself out there,
1429
01:00:33,129 --> 01:00:35,372
you have to expect that
it's not gonna be reciprocal,
1430
01:00:35,465 --> 01:00:36,956
and maybe you might get hurt.
- I may happen.
1431
01:00:37,041 --> 01:00:39,134
[poignant music]
1432
01:00:39,293 --> 01:00:42,387
- ♪ To tell you
what I feel about you ♪
1433
01:00:42,472 --> 01:00:47,726
♪ Taking my moment
with you ♪
1434
01:00:47,885 --> 01:00:50,387
♪ With you ♪
1435
01:00:50,480 --> 01:00:53,640
♪ ♪
1436
01:00:53,733 --> 01:00:56,559
- ♪ Back and forth we go ♪
1437
01:00:56,644 --> 01:00:58,978
♪ Up and down, we're so ♪
1438
01:00:59,072 --> 01:01:02,658
♪ Back and forth we go ♪
1439
01:01:02,817 --> 01:01:05,068
♪ Up and down
and when will it stop? ♪
1440
01:01:05,161 --> 01:01:07,320
[line ringing]
1441
01:01:07,405 --> 01:01:10,332
♪ ♪
1442
01:01:14,912 --> 01:01:17,589
[both speaking Spanish]
1443
01:01:22,679 --> 01:01:24,262
- My mom always been somebody
to give good advice
1444
01:01:24,422 --> 01:01:26,014
when it comes down to women,
1445
01:01:26,099 --> 01:01:29,184
and so the fact that I can
ask her about my wife
1446
01:01:29,268 --> 01:01:30,844
and not a girlfriend,
1447
01:01:30,928 --> 01:01:33,772
I feel very good about
what my mom always has to say
1448
01:01:33,856 --> 01:01:34,523
'cause she's not always
on my side.
1449
01:03:45,729 --> 01:03:48,490
The only downside about
the advice my mom has given me
1450
01:03:48,574 --> 01:03:51,493
is that Decision Day is like
a couple of days away,
1451
01:03:51,652 --> 01:03:54,070
you know, and so
we don't really have time.
1452
01:03:54,163 --> 01:03:57,332
So one of those things is,
do I really wanna continue
1453
01:03:57,491 --> 01:04:01,670
this journey to see
if time really does help?
1454
01:04:18,855 --> 01:04:21,773
I came into this experience
wanting to be married
1455
01:04:21,858 --> 01:04:24,851
and I came--I came in also
wanting to leave married.
1456
01:04:24,944 --> 01:04:28,187
But if my wife doesn't change,
1457
01:04:28,281 --> 01:04:32,609
we might just not make it.
1458
01:04:32,702 --> 01:04:34,870
All I can do is keep doing
what I'm doing,
1459
01:04:35,029 --> 01:04:38,039
being true to myself
and we'll see what happens.
1460
01:04:41,377 --> 01:04:43,378
- Ciao.
1461
01:04:43,462 --> 01:04:44,462
- ♪ There's a king with
me in the middle, oh, yeah ♪
1462
01:04:48,467 --> 01:04:50,293
- ♪ So what?
I messed it up ♪
1463
01:04:50,386 --> 01:04:52,053
♪ I said too much,
I pushed my luck ♪
1464
01:04:52,138 --> 01:04:54,139
♪ So what?
Scream to loud ♪
1465
01:04:54,223 --> 01:04:56,224
♪ I fooled around
and let you down ♪
1466
01:04:56,309 --> 01:04:58,226
♪ Ain't no shade ♪
1467
01:04:58,385 --> 01:05:01,971
♪ Watch me do
my walk of fame ♪
1468
01:05:02,056 --> 01:05:04,557
♪ Gonna do my walk,
gonna do my walk ♪
1469
01:05:04,642 --> 01:05:06,818
- Hey.
- Hey.
1470
01:05:06,977 --> 01:05:09,237
- Hi. You look nice.
1471
01:05:09,322 --> 01:05:11,406
- Thank you.
- Shiny.
1472
01:05:11,490 --> 01:05:13,566
- I told you it was bringing it.
1473
01:05:13,651 --> 01:05:15,327
- You did. Wow. Head to toe.
1474
01:05:15,411 --> 01:05:17,320
- Yep.
1475
01:05:17,413 --> 01:05:19,656
- If my jaw could drop
to the floor, it would.
1476
01:05:19,749 --> 01:05:20,740
She looks great.
1477
01:05:20,833 --> 01:05:23,409
Very nice.
- All sparkles.
1478
01:05:23,502 --> 01:05:24,744
- Okay, yeah, you look great.
1479
01:05:24,828 --> 01:05:26,079
- Thank you. You look nice too.
1480
01:05:26,163 --> 01:05:27,422
- Thank you.
1481
01:05:27,581 --> 01:05:30,675
- This is nice.
You reserved this for us?
1482
01:05:30,760 --> 01:05:33,595
- Sure.
- So sweet of you.
1483
01:05:33,679 --> 01:05:37,015
- Coming into this intimate
one-on-one dinner,
1484
01:05:37,099 --> 01:05:40,685
it's really important for me
to hear what Bao says tonight
1485
01:05:40,844 --> 01:05:42,354
because I wanna know
1486
01:05:42,438 --> 01:05:44,847
where her head's at
going into Decision Day.
1487
01:05:44,941 --> 01:05:46,683
But at the same time,
it's tough to think about
1488
01:05:46,767 --> 01:05:48,777
because I'm torn.
I'm on the fence.
1489
01:05:48,861 --> 01:05:50,520
And I don't know
what I'm gonna say.
1490
01:05:50,604 --> 01:05:53,198
We're getting to the end here.
1491
01:05:53,282 --> 01:05:55,692
- I know.
- How do you think it's going?
1492
01:05:55,785 --> 01:05:57,777
- It's been interesting.
1493
01:05:57,861 --> 01:06:03,199
An experience.
There's been a lot of ups.
1494
01:06:03,283 --> 01:06:05,618
And, yeah,
there's been some downs,
1495
01:06:05,711 --> 01:06:07,629
but nothing like,
"Oh, my God, this is it,
1496
01:06:07,713 --> 01:06:09,789
this is a deal breaker,
I'm done."
1497
01:06:09,873 --> 01:06:14,711
You know, I try to focus
more on the positives.
1498
01:06:14,804 --> 01:06:17,305
I have enjoyed having someone
to hang out with,
1499
01:06:17,464 --> 01:06:19,716
someone I actually
share a bed with.
1500
01:06:19,809 --> 01:06:23,803
It's nice.
1501
01:06:23,887 --> 01:06:28,891
How are you feeling
about Decision Day?
1502
01:06:28,976 --> 01:06:30,727
- I met with two
of my groomsmen,
1503
01:06:30,811 --> 01:06:35,898
and we kind of talked things
through about Decision Day.
1504
01:06:35,983 --> 01:06:40,245
And they encouraged me
to still explore this.
1505
01:06:40,404 --> 01:06:42,822
And I think that's a good idea.
1506
01:06:42,906 --> 01:06:46,826
But I'm curious to know
what you think.
1507
01:06:46,910 --> 01:06:49,245
- For me, I can see a world
1508
01:06:49,338 --> 01:06:52,424
where I could be happy
with you as my husband.
1509
01:06:52,583 --> 01:06:55,593
[emotional music]
1510
01:06:55,678 --> 01:06:59,255
I shared with you that
my parents went through a lot.
1511
01:06:59,339 --> 01:07:01,007
- I was really glad
you shared that with me
1512
01:07:01,091 --> 01:07:04,761
because it gave me
this deeper insight...
1513
01:07:04,845 --> 01:07:08,931
♪ ♪
1514
01:07:09,025 --> 01:07:13,853
To who you were and why,
you know, you are who you are.
1515
01:07:13,937 --> 01:07:16,439
♪ ♪
1516
01:07:16,523 --> 01:07:18,858
The conversation
that I had with Sarah
1517
01:07:18,951 --> 01:07:20,118
is still in the back of my head.
1518
01:07:20,277 --> 01:07:22,287
But this is my marriage.
1519
01:07:22,371 --> 01:07:25,123
And, right now,
our time is limited.
1520
01:07:25,282 --> 01:07:29,702
And if I'm going in with
any reservations, any doubts,
1521
01:07:29,787 --> 01:07:32,705
I'm not gonna get to know
my wife as well
1522
01:07:32,790 --> 01:07:34,707
as I can for Decision Day.
1523
01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:36,375
So I think I need to go in
1524
01:07:36,460 --> 01:07:39,012
with an open mind and no walls.
1525
01:07:41,381 --> 01:07:43,466
- This is nothing,
it's a drop in the ocean
1526
01:07:43,550 --> 01:07:45,393
compared to what I've seen.
1527
01:07:45,478 --> 01:07:49,472
So I can see
being happy with you.
1528
01:07:49,556 --> 01:07:53,059
I can see the possibility
of us growing together.
1529
01:07:53,143 --> 01:07:56,562
I do feel, throughout
this process and marriage,
1530
01:07:56,655 --> 01:07:58,573
I feel like we missed out
on a lot,
1531
01:07:58,657 --> 01:08:01,317
over 15 years
not getting to know each other.
1532
01:08:01,410 --> 01:08:04,237
♪ ♪
1533
01:08:04,330 --> 01:08:08,917
But I'm learning now.
- Me too.
1534
01:08:09,001 --> 01:08:10,576
I'm learning a lot
about you also.
1535
01:08:10,661 --> 01:08:16,174
- ♪ You're strong
and, and firm ♪
1536
01:08:16,333 --> 01:08:17,675
♪ Take my hand ♪
1537
01:08:17,835 --> 01:08:21,254
♪ I won't let you down ♪
1538
01:08:21,338 --> 01:08:25,258
♪ ♪
1539
01:08:25,351 --> 01:08:27,426
- ♪ I feel it coming up ♪
1540
01:08:27,520 --> 01:08:30,188
♪ I'm addicted to your touch ♪
1541
01:08:30,272 --> 01:08:31,523
♪ Love is rushing
through my blood ♪
1542
01:08:31,607 --> 01:08:32,515
♪ So don't stop ♪
1543
01:08:32,608 --> 01:08:37,028
♪ ♪
1544
01:08:37,113 --> 01:08:38,938
- This is the last night
1545
01:08:39,022 --> 01:08:41,199
our couples will spend together
before Decision Day.
1546
01:08:41,358 --> 01:08:42,441
- Ready to head to bed?
1547
01:08:42,535 --> 01:08:44,110
- I just need to brush my teeth.
1548
01:08:44,194 --> 01:08:46,195
- So they must take
these final moments together
1549
01:08:46,280 --> 01:08:48,373
to search for any last clues
1550
01:08:48,457 --> 01:08:51,617
as to whether or not their
futures include one another.
1551
01:08:51,702 --> 01:08:54,203
♪ ♪
1552
01:08:54,288 --> 01:08:55,621
- Yeah, as far as it's been
a great journey
1553
01:08:55,706 --> 01:08:58,299
it's been it's been good.
1554
01:08:58,458 --> 01:09:00,635
Don't know what lies ahead,
but we'll see.
1555
01:09:00,719 --> 01:09:02,470
How do you feel?
1556
01:09:02,555 --> 01:09:07,142
- We are gonna have to be apart
tomorrow for Decision Day.
1557
01:09:07,301 --> 01:09:09,802
And I think you being
in your house
1558
01:09:09,887 --> 01:09:13,306
and me being in my apartment
without any distractions,
1559
01:09:13,390 --> 01:09:16,392
without anything
clouding my judgement,
1560
01:09:16,476 --> 01:09:18,060
and it's gonna be
very telling on
1561
01:09:18,145 --> 01:09:20,229
what I decided on Decision Day.
1562
01:09:20,322 --> 01:09:21,906
But I don't know
1563
01:09:21,991 --> 01:09:26,736
until I actually sleep
in my bed alone how I'll feel.
1564
01:09:26,829 --> 01:09:30,156
It's important that we have
that feeling of
1565
01:09:30,249 --> 01:09:32,750
is this what we want, you know?
1566
01:09:32,910 --> 01:09:37,079
So we can really make a solid
decision on Decision Day.
1567
01:09:37,164 --> 01:09:38,998
This could possibly be
the last night
1568
01:09:39,082 --> 01:09:40,842
in the same bed with Jose,
1569
01:09:41,001 --> 01:09:44,837
and that makes me
feel really sad.
1570
01:09:44,922 --> 01:09:47,182
But I did see a side of Jose
1571
01:09:47,266 --> 01:09:50,268
that I know
I could not live with.
1572
01:09:50,352 --> 01:09:54,189
- There are some things
that, clearly, if I could,
1573
01:09:54,348 --> 01:09:57,266
I would take them back,
couple of regrets,
1574
01:09:57,351 --> 01:09:59,018
couple go-backs for sure.
1575
01:09:59,102 --> 01:10:00,937
- But he has grown a lot.
1576
01:10:01,021 --> 01:10:03,781
He's shown me what
an amazing husband he is.
1577
01:10:03,941 --> 01:10:06,451
Oh, ah!
[laughs]
1578
01:10:06,610 --> 01:10:11,447
Oh. Oh this is cool.
1579
01:10:11,531 --> 01:10:12,949
I woke up this morning,
1580
01:10:13,033 --> 01:10:15,210
and I still love him,
so that's a good sign.
1581
01:10:15,294 --> 01:10:16,619
- That is a great sign.
- Yeah.
1582
01:10:16,703 --> 01:10:19,705
- And I love her too.
- Aww.
1583
01:10:19,790 --> 01:10:22,133
And so like I have
a lot to think about.
1584
01:10:22,292 --> 01:10:23,551
Just know that, you know,
1585
01:10:23,710 --> 01:10:26,471
no matter what happens
on Decision Day,
1586
01:10:26,630 --> 01:10:31,384
you were great part of my life.
1587
01:10:31,468 --> 01:10:33,135
- ♪ Who's gonna love you?
Who's gonna love you? ♪
1588
01:10:33,229 --> 01:10:35,563
♪ ♪
1589
01:10:35,722 --> 01:10:36,564
♪ It should be,
it should be me ♪
1590
01:10:41,645 --> 01:10:44,480
- ♪ I'ma, I'ma steal
every heart ♪
1591
01:10:44,573 --> 01:10:48,076
♪ I'ma, I'ma steal
every heart around ♪
1592
01:10:48,160 --> 01:10:51,746
♪ I'ma, I'ma steal
every heart ♪
1593
01:10:51,905 --> 01:10:55,491
♪ Watch me go,
watch me go ♪
1594
01:10:55,575 --> 01:10:58,661
♪ I'ma steal
every heart around ♪
1595
01:10:58,745 --> 01:11:02,164
- How are you feeling?
- I feel fabulous.
1596
01:11:02,258 --> 01:11:05,918
- You feel fabulous?
It's like bittersweet for me.
1597
01:11:06,011 --> 01:11:07,753
Last night sleeping together.
1598
01:11:07,846 --> 01:11:11,007
- You are gonna miss me?
- Uh...
1599
01:11:11,100 --> 01:11:12,925
[tender music]
1600
01:11:13,010 --> 01:11:15,594
- Decision Day
is a couple of days from now.
1601
01:11:15,679 --> 01:11:19,598
So I need to decide if I wanna
continue this journey or not.
1602
01:11:19,692 --> 01:11:22,268
So there's still
some things to process.
1603
01:11:22,352 --> 01:11:24,854
For me divorce is something
I take very serious,
1604
01:11:24,938 --> 01:11:27,189
that's not something
I tend to play with.
1605
01:11:27,283 --> 01:11:30,443
But there are also doubts
that that hold me back,
1606
01:11:30,527 --> 01:11:32,954
so I can't
for sure say 100% sure
1607
01:11:33,038 --> 01:11:36,791
that I know what I'm gonna do.
1608
01:11:36,875 --> 01:11:40,878
It's been interesting
to say the least. Some good.
1609
01:11:40,963 --> 01:11:42,955
- Entertaining.
- A little bit of bad,
1610
01:11:43,048 --> 01:11:45,550
sprinkles of bad,
and no ugly for sure.
1611
01:11:45,709 --> 01:11:47,126
So I feel like, with you,
1612
01:11:47,219 --> 01:11:49,128
it's been easy to be vulnerable,
1613
01:11:49,221 --> 01:11:51,714
with you just talk about things.
1614
01:11:51,798 --> 01:11:55,143
You know,
talk about my struggles
1615
01:11:55,227 --> 01:11:58,471
and not feel like
I'm being judged.
1616
01:11:58,555 --> 01:12:02,391
And so I thank you for that.
1617
01:12:02,484 --> 01:12:05,903
- I mean, I can't say
like of course the last seven
1618
01:12:05,988 --> 01:12:09,282
to eight weeks
have been like, a ride.
1619
01:12:16,749 --> 01:12:19,584
- With that being said, being
that this is our last night,
1620
01:12:19,743 --> 01:12:23,579
how do you feel about spending
the day apart tomorrow?
1621
01:12:23,663 --> 01:12:27,008
- I think I feel weird.
1622
01:12:27,092 --> 01:12:28,417
'Cause it's only been
eight weeks,
1623
01:12:28,502 --> 01:12:30,252
but you just get so used
to being next to someone
1624
01:12:30,346 --> 01:12:33,264
and waking up,
it's gonna be like emptiness.
1625
01:12:33,423 --> 01:12:37,852
- Yeah, it'll be different.
This is kind of become a habit.
1626
01:12:40,189 --> 01:12:41,347
- What do you want me to know?
1627
01:12:41,431 --> 01:12:42,690
- [chuckles]
1628
01:12:47,863 --> 01:12:50,189
- Okay.
- About this whole experience.
1629
01:12:50,282 --> 01:12:53,701
- Just know that
with whatever decision...
1630
01:12:55,621 --> 01:13:00,291
- You make,
I'm gonna respect it.
1631
01:13:00,376 --> 01:13:02,368
- When I was a little girl,
my hopes and dreams
1632
01:13:02,461 --> 01:13:03,878
were to get married one day,
1633
01:13:03,962 --> 01:13:05,713
and this is nothing
like I imagined.
1634
01:13:05,798 --> 01:13:09,542
It definitely differs
with what my vision is,
1635
01:13:09,635 --> 01:13:11,293
you know, for a relationship.
1636
01:13:11,387 --> 01:13:15,973
So I don't know if I want to
stay married on Decision Day.
1637
01:13:16,133 --> 01:13:18,309
One of the biggest challenges
is that we're both driven
1638
01:13:18,394 --> 01:13:20,719
by different things,
and I'm going this way
1639
01:13:20,804 --> 01:13:22,638
and he's going this way
when it comes to life goals.
1640
01:13:22,722 --> 01:13:24,056
And that's what
I'm most concerned about.
1641
01:13:24,141 --> 01:13:28,811
So I don't know. No idea.
1642
01:13:28,904 --> 01:13:33,065
- Turn your light off,
and then I'll turn mine off.
1643
01:13:33,150 --> 01:13:35,484
[upbeat music]
1644
01:13:35,577 --> 01:13:37,912
- ♪ Is that enough
to something beautiful? ♪
1645
01:13:43,827 --> 01:13:46,662
- That's your cor--you see?
- Oh, okay.
1646
01:13:46,746 --> 01:13:48,506
- All right, light's coming off.
1647
01:13:48,590 --> 01:13:49,173
- ♪ Is that enough
to something beautiful? ♪
1648
01:13:49,258 --> 01:13:52,835
- And...
1649
01:13:52,928 --> 01:13:56,505
♪ ♪
1650
01:13:56,590 --> 01:13:59,100
- ♪ This is our life,
this is our day ♪
1651
01:13:59,184 --> 01:14:04,346
♪ This is our moment, yeah,
let's make it last forever ♪
1652
01:14:04,431 --> 01:14:07,692
- It's our last night here
in the apartment, huh?
1653
01:14:07,776 --> 01:14:09,527
- Yeah. We've come a long way.
1654
01:14:09,686 --> 01:14:13,865
- Yep. Cheers.
- Cheers.
1655
01:14:13,949 --> 01:14:18,527
- Oh, that's strong.
Did you need it to be strong?
1656
01:14:18,612 --> 01:14:20,279
'Cause it's our last night?
1657
01:14:20,363 --> 01:14:25,451
- It's sweet.
Sure, water it down with vodka.
1658
01:14:25,544 --> 01:14:27,953
Remember the day
that we moved in?
1659
01:14:28,038 --> 01:14:29,714
Seems like an eternity ago.
1660
01:14:29,798 --> 01:14:32,884
- I know.
It does feel like a long time.
1661
01:14:32,968 --> 01:14:35,044
We've been through
quite a journey together.
1662
01:14:35,128 --> 01:14:37,046
- Yeah.
1663
01:14:37,139 --> 01:14:39,465
- But I hope we can look back
and, you know,
1664
01:14:39,549 --> 01:14:42,801
laugh about the good times
and some of the...
1665
01:14:42,886 --> 01:14:44,562
- Oh, yeah, I mean,
I look around the apartment
1666
01:14:44,646 --> 01:14:46,472
and I still see
a lot of great things.
1667
01:14:46,556 --> 01:14:47,899
Great memories.
- Mm-hmm.
1668
01:14:47,983 --> 01:14:52,394
- The easels, our painting.
- The bar night.
1669
01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:56,240
We used it one time.
The easels one time.
1670
01:14:56,399 --> 01:14:58,817
[light-hearted music]
1671
01:14:58,902 --> 01:15:04,323
♪ ♪
1672
01:15:04,407 --> 01:15:07,660
Okay. Shall we head to bed?
1673
01:15:07,753 --> 01:15:09,662
- Yeah. Let's call it a night.
- Yeah.
1674
01:15:09,746 --> 01:15:12,081
- Long day tomorrow.
- Okay. Thanks for the tea.
1675
01:15:12,165 --> 01:15:18,337
♪ ♪
1676
01:15:18,430 --> 01:15:20,681
It's almost Decision Day,
1677
01:15:20,766 --> 01:15:23,518
and I don't know what to expect.
1678
01:15:23,602 --> 01:15:26,604
We both have a lot
to think about.
1679
01:15:26,763 --> 01:15:29,607
I came into this,
1680
01:15:29,691 --> 01:15:32,768
I came in because I wanted
to find the love of my life.
1681
01:15:32,861 --> 01:15:35,187
I at one point said
I was the luckiest woman
1682
01:15:35,280 --> 01:15:36,948
to be married to Johnny Lam.
1683
01:15:37,032 --> 01:15:39,283
I don't know
what my decision is.
1684
01:15:39,442 --> 01:15:42,036
It's a lot to think about.
1685
01:15:42,195 --> 01:15:44,280
And I already overthink
everything,
1686
01:15:44,364 --> 01:15:46,290
so [bleep] gets to my head.
1687
01:15:46,375 --> 01:15:48,042
♪ Don't know ♪
1688
01:15:48,126 --> 01:15:50,962
♪ I don't know ♪
1689
01:15:51,046 --> 01:15:54,873
♪ If I could live
without you ♪
1690
01:15:54,958 --> 01:15:56,875
- Oh, boy.
1691
01:15:56,960 --> 01:15:59,378
- ♪ Baby, you and me,
we're all connected ♪
1692
01:15:59,462 --> 01:16:02,214
♪ ♪
1693
01:16:02,307 --> 01:16:03,891
- No matter what happens,
1694
01:16:04,050 --> 01:16:05,059
I trust myself
to make the right decision.
1695
01:16:08,730 --> 01:16:13,651
We've shared so many things
throughout these eight weeks.
1696
01:16:13,810 --> 01:16:15,403
There are feelings there,
1697
01:16:15,487 --> 01:16:18,739
amid all the doom and gloom
and cloudy days.
1698
01:16:18,824 --> 01:16:20,232
There have been points
where I felt
1699
01:16:20,317 --> 01:16:23,819
that Bao could potentially be
my forever person.
1700
01:16:23,912 --> 01:16:28,657
They're little moments,
but is there enough to say
1701
01:16:28,742 --> 01:16:30,242
I wanna continue
staying married to Bao?
1702
01:16:30,327 --> 01:16:31,919
[sighs]
1703
01:16:32,004 --> 01:16:34,589
- ♪ And I don't know ♪
1704
01:16:34,748 --> 01:16:37,666
♪ If I could live
without you ♪
1705
01:16:37,759 --> 01:16:40,252
♪ ♪
1706
01:16:40,345 --> 01:16:43,172
♪ Different but the same ♪
1707
01:16:43,265 --> 01:16:45,591
♪ ♪
1708
01:16:45,675 --> 01:16:49,762
♪ If I could live
without you ♪
1709
01:16:49,846 --> 01:16:52,014
♪ ♪
1710
01:16:52,107 --> 01:16:57,278
♪ I don't know
if I could live without you ♪
1711
01:17:01,191 --> 01:17:03,359
[upbeat music]
1712
01:17:03,452 --> 01:17:05,361
- ♪ I wanted nothing
more than this ♪
1713
01:17:05,445 --> 01:17:06,862
♪ ♪
1714
01:17:06,946 --> 01:17:09,448
- It's the last day before
Decision Day,
1715
01:17:09,532 --> 01:17:11,200
and our couples are feeling
the pressure
1716
01:17:11,293 --> 01:17:14,036
of making the biggest decision
of their lives.
1717
01:17:14,120 --> 01:17:17,039
- You get to leave.
- It's gonna be very sad.
1718
01:17:17,132 --> 01:17:18,633
- You think so?
1719
01:17:18,717 --> 01:17:20,376
- I don't think
it's gonna be sad.
1720
01:17:20,469 --> 01:17:22,887
- Okay, well,
I'm glad to know how you feel.
1721
01:17:23,046 --> 01:17:25,214
- In order to clearly reflect
on the last eight weeks
1722
01:17:25,298 --> 01:17:26,965
of their marriage,
our couples will spend
1723
01:17:27,050 --> 01:17:29,935
the last night
before Decision Day alone.
1724
01:17:35,892 --> 01:17:38,143
- I won't.
- Bye, babe.
1725
01:17:38,228 --> 01:17:41,480
- Will they choose to commit to
their spouse and stay married?
1726
01:17:41,564 --> 01:17:44,408
Or will they go their own way
and get a divorce?
1727
01:17:44,567 --> 01:17:48,245
[acoustic guitar music]
1728
01:17:48,330 --> 01:17:49,655
- How are you?
1729
01:17:49,748 --> 01:17:54,243
- ♪ Say what you want to say ♪
1730
01:17:54,336 --> 01:17:56,161
- I'm okay. How are you?
1731
01:17:56,246 --> 01:17:58,089
- Okay.
1732
01:17:58,173 --> 01:18:04,336
- ♪ 'Cause the silence
is killing me ♪
1733
01:18:04,429 --> 01:18:06,255
- I'm just here to grab
a few things.
1734
01:18:06,348 --> 01:18:08,507
Fill my little bag up.
1735
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:09,975
- Anything left here to take?
1736
01:18:11,687 --> 01:18:13,854
- Honestly,
I got most of my stuff
1737
01:18:13,939 --> 01:18:16,023
out of the apartment
a couple of days ago.
1738
01:18:16,182 --> 01:18:19,610
But I know that I need
to apologize to Brett
1739
01:18:19,695 --> 01:18:22,438
about the dating app
'cause I do feel bad about it.
1740
01:18:22,522 --> 01:18:25,274
And I don't want that
to be on her mind
1741
01:18:25,358 --> 01:18:27,109
going into Decision Day at all.
1742
01:18:27,202 --> 01:18:31,122
It's better to just face
the issues right away
1743
01:18:31,206 --> 01:18:34,616
and not let them linger.
1744
01:18:34,710 --> 01:18:38,537
So what have you been up
to the last few days?
1745
01:18:38,621 --> 01:18:40,214
- Um...
1746
01:18:40,373 --> 01:18:41,957
- We've briefly texted
a little bit.
1747
01:18:42,050 --> 01:18:44,301
- Yeah, I mean just, nothing.
I mean nothing
1748
01:18:44,386 --> 01:18:46,971
that you haven't been doing
going to work and coming home.
1749
01:18:47,055 --> 01:18:48,556
I mean, getting
a little bit of rest.
1750
01:18:51,551 --> 01:18:53,969
- We've definitely had
our ups and downs,
1751
01:18:54,053 --> 01:18:56,897
but worst is obviously me
1752
01:18:57,056 --> 01:19:02,069
feeling necessary
to leave the other night.
1753
01:19:02,154 --> 01:19:04,405
- When we were at my apartment
it didn't really like end
1754
01:19:04,489 --> 01:19:08,826
on a super great note
you know, after you left.
1755
01:19:08,910 --> 01:19:14,239
- I feel really dumb over it,
for one.
1756
01:19:14,332 --> 01:19:16,083
I personally feel
stupid about it.
1757
01:19:16,168 --> 01:19:20,421
I feel bad for making you feel
that way.
1758
01:19:20,505 --> 01:19:22,173
And like you said,
1759
01:19:22,332 --> 01:19:25,083
disrespected and all that.
1760
01:19:25,177 --> 01:19:27,678
It wasn't anything I intended.
1761
01:19:27,837 --> 01:19:29,421
It sucks that it happened
1762
01:19:29,514 --> 01:19:31,924
and I've nobody to blame for it.
1763
01:19:32,008 --> 01:19:33,768
Definitely nothing you did.
1764
01:19:33,852 --> 01:19:36,771
- Well, I know that.
1765
01:19:36,855 --> 01:19:42,184
- I never intended on...
1766
01:19:42,268 --> 01:19:44,945
purposely upsetting you
or hurting you or...
1767
01:19:45,030 --> 01:19:47,189
- I appreciate that.
1768
01:19:47,282 --> 01:19:52,027
[dramatic music]
1769
01:19:52,111 --> 01:19:54,279
- I hope I'm able
to sleep tonight, honestly.
1770
01:19:54,364 --> 01:19:56,365
I think very highly of Brett,
1771
01:19:56,449 --> 01:19:58,951
and it was great to clear
the air in person with Brett.
1772
01:19:59,035 --> 01:20:00,953
And regardless if it works
out for us in the end,
1773
01:20:01,046 --> 01:20:03,288
it doesn't change
what I feel about her
1774
01:20:03,373 --> 01:20:06,634
and hopefully the same for her.
1775
01:20:06,793 --> 01:20:08,544
I'm glad we got
to talk a little bit
1776
01:20:08,628 --> 01:20:10,137
before the big day.
1777
01:20:10,296 --> 01:20:13,715
- It'll be fine.
We'll get through it.
1778
01:20:13,800 --> 01:20:18,395
- ♪ Every dog has his day ♪
1779
01:20:18,480 --> 01:20:20,222
- Again, let me know
if you need anything.
1780
01:20:20,315 --> 01:20:21,565
- Will do.
1781
01:20:21,650 --> 01:20:23,651
- Thank you for--
For not hating me.
1782
01:20:23,735 --> 01:20:25,561
- No problem, anytime.
1783
01:20:25,645 --> 01:20:31,158
- ♪ Gotta find the words
to say something ♪
1784
01:20:31,243 --> 01:20:33,569
♪ Gonna make a change ♪
1785
01:20:33,653 --> 01:20:35,788
♪ ♪
1786
01:20:39,242 --> 01:20:42,670
- ♪ Whoa, whoa ♪
1787
01:20:42,754 --> 01:20:46,331
♪ Ah ♪
1788
01:20:46,416 --> 01:20:49,084
- Eight weeks ago,
I married a stranger,
1789
01:20:49,177 --> 01:20:51,512
and tomorrow I decide if I'm
gonna be with that person
1790
01:20:51,596 --> 01:20:52,596
for the rest of my life.
1791
01:20:52,755 --> 01:20:54,932
- Going into Decision Day,
1792
01:20:55,016 --> 01:20:57,434
I'm not going
to anticipate anything,
1793
01:20:57,519 --> 01:20:59,520
I'm not gonna apply
an emotion to it.
1794
01:20:59,604 --> 01:21:01,597
- I'm looking forward
to tomorrow
1795
01:21:01,690 --> 01:21:04,099
because it's the start
of our new life essentially.
1796
01:21:04,183 --> 01:21:08,103
- I was going in this
whole situation blindly.
1797
01:21:08,196 --> 01:21:12,199
Now I'm going into this
situation now with thoughts.
1798
01:21:12,284 --> 01:21:16,361
- I'm not gonna lie,
I mean there is,
1799
01:21:16,454 --> 01:21:17,872
there's some nerves for sure.
1800
01:21:17,956 --> 01:21:19,531
She could say yes,
she could say no.
1801
01:21:19,616 --> 01:21:22,200
[dramatic music]
1802
01:21:22,285 --> 01:21:24,786
- A lot of my reflection
is on myself.
1803
01:21:24,880 --> 01:21:28,123
The things that I know
I need in a relationship.
1804
01:21:28,207 --> 01:21:31,218
- Just knowing that I had
someone in my corner
1805
01:21:31,303 --> 01:21:32,887
someone who had my back.
1806
01:21:32,971 --> 01:21:36,465
That means more to me
than I think that she knows.
1807
01:21:36,558 --> 01:21:39,301
- I believe wifey is probably
not even thinking
1808
01:21:39,385 --> 01:21:41,136
about Decision Day tomorrow.
1809
01:21:41,229 --> 01:21:43,564
She's probably just trying
to get an outfit together,
1810
01:21:43,723 --> 01:21:45,482
make sure everything looks good.
1811
01:21:45,567 --> 01:21:47,809
My gut is telling me one thing,
1812
01:21:47,894 --> 01:21:53,649
there shouldn't be any regrets.
1813
01:21:53,742 --> 01:21:56,410
- There is a little bit
of uncertainty for me
1814
01:21:56,494 --> 01:21:59,655
about what Johnny will say
tomorrow.
1815
01:21:59,748 --> 01:22:05,252
- There is a really, really,
really small voice
1816
01:22:05,337 --> 01:22:08,005
inside my head
that's saying like,
1817
01:22:08,089 --> 01:22:10,424
"Hey, man, what's--what's
the harm in saying yes here?"
1818
01:22:10,508 --> 01:22:12,176
And then at the same time,
1819
01:22:12,260 --> 01:22:18,006
is saying yes on Decision Day
being untrue to myself?
1820
01:22:18,099 --> 01:22:20,926
[rock music]
1821
01:22:21,010 --> 01:22:28,100
♪ ♪
1822
01:22:28,360 --> 01:22:30,611
- Here we go. D Day.
1823
01:22:30,695 --> 01:22:32,771
- Next time on
"Married At First Sight"...
1824
01:22:32,864 --> 01:22:34,281
- It can really go either way.
1825
01:22:34,440 --> 01:22:36,274
- Our couples will have to make
1826
01:22:36,368 --> 01:22:39,370
the biggest decision
of their lives:
1827
01:22:39,454 --> 01:22:43,207
to stay married
or get a divorce.
1828
01:22:43,291 --> 01:22:45,117
- Why did you do that?
- You know...
1829
01:22:45,201 --> 01:22:47,711
- This is a character flaw.
1830
01:22:47,796 --> 01:22:49,964
- Coming into today,
I thought I was sure.
1831
01:22:50,048 --> 01:22:52,040
- Oh, my God.
1832
01:22:52,133 --> 01:22:53,968
- I actually see today
as a beginning for us.
1833
01:22:54,127 --> 01:22:56,461
- So we consummated
the marriage already.
1834
01:22:56,546 --> 01:22:58,880
[dramatic music]
1835
01:22:58,965 --> 01:23:01,466
- I didn't say everything
that was on my mind.
1836
01:23:01,551 --> 01:23:04,469
- It felt really different.
1837
01:23:04,562 --> 01:23:07,556
- We do not align
in what we want.
1838
01:23:07,640 --> 01:23:09,057
- When [bleep] hits the fan,
1839
01:23:09,142 --> 01:23:10,734
she's gonna go ahead and bounce.
1840
01:23:10,893 --> 01:23:12,394
- Outside of my mom,
1841
01:23:12,478 --> 01:23:15,906
you are the most amazing woman
that I know.
1842
01:23:16,065 --> 01:23:17,482
- What the heck was that?
1843
01:23:17,567 --> 01:23:20,235
- ♪ But I can't hide ♪
1844
01:23:20,319 --> 01:23:21,245
- So the time has come.
1845
01:23:21,329 --> 01:23:23,655
- ♪ Whoa, yeah ♪
1846
01:23:23,740 --> 01:23:26,000
- Do you wanna stay married?
1847
01:23:26,084 --> 01:23:28,076
Or do you want to get a divorce?
1848
01:23:28,169 --> 01:23:31,505
[dramatic music]
1849
01:23:31,589 --> 01:23:33,665
- My heart's beating
out of my chest.
1850
01:23:33,750 --> 01:23:36,969
♪ ♪