- Marrying a stranger is insane.
- I'm doing it. - Do it.
- Seven weeks ago, 10 singles took
a bold leap of faith in order to find love.
- You're gorgeous. - Thank you. You're gorgeous.
- They married as complete strangers.
- You may kiss your bride.
[cheering]
- Oh yeah, this is love at first sight.
I got exactly what I wanted.
- ♪ Tough love ♪
- Whoo! - This is my house.
- Last time, our five couples explored each other's past.
- That's actually the apartment where my dad was shot.
- In the hopes that their futures would become
clearer before Decision Day.
- ♪ I didn't see, I don't see ♪
- Michaela and Zack.
- So just agree for me that you will have
one conversation at least before Decision Day.
- I promise you that and I wanna do that.
- Yes, ma'am, I can do that. - Thank you.
- Rachel and Jose.
- You staying at-- At an ex's house.
- You know, I never want you to feel
that I'm keeping anything from you.
- The guards will definitely be up, you know,
but I'm taking it at face value and I'm trusting her.
- Myrla and Gil.
- I'm not gonna enable certain things.
- Like what? - Shopping.
- If I've been living this lifestyle,
I've saved quite a bit, as you can see.
And we continue to talk about things
and we come to a fact like, actually, I'm not gonna change,
you're not gonna change, like, this isn't gonna work out.
- Bao and Johnny.
- I'm still here.
If you wanna have talks, I'm open to them.
- It's always blame Johnny game.
- I feel like I have to walk on eggshells.
- I definitely do not have an appetite to finish this.
- Brett and Ryan.
- Got a text from a friend that showed
that you are on a dating app.
And matched with someone that I know.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- I love that!
- And tonight, with only one week left
until Decision Day...
- I trust that you're not gonna let someone
treat you like a doormat.
- Our couples will have the chance to talk
with their closest family and friends
before making the biggest decision of their lives.
- Again, let me know.
- I can see a world
where I could be happy with you as my husband.
- There are feelings there.
- She's in this for the right reason.
She is an amazing woman.
Who knows what the future holds.
- He's like, will you spend the night?
And I'm like--
- Did you spend the night?
[dramatic music]
- Your negativity at times is a big deal for me.
There's a lot at stake.
Do I wanna be with you
for the rest of my life?
- That argument to me is gonna mean the end.
I did see a side of Jose that I know I could not live with.
- But it just takes one person to end the marriage.
♪ ♪
- They were matched by experts.
Then, after eight weeks,
they must make the decision for themselves.
- Do you wanna stay married?
- Or do you want to get a divorce?
- ♪ No holding back, no holding back ♪
♪ ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married At First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Ooh, I'm gonna love tonight ♪
♪ Never before ♪
- That's Michaela in that car right there.
Hey, Michaela, hey! Hey, put the window down.
Excuse me, ma'am.
See, that's Michaela. I told y'all.
- Decision Day is less than a week away,
and it's time for our couples to dig deep
and really think about whether or not they can spend
the rest of their lives with a spouse
they met as a stranger just seven weeks ago.
- Your vows mentioned, "Today we become a family.
I promise to dedicate myself to your happiness."
- That is making cookies.
- My happiness involves eating cookies.
So yes, you are embracing my happiness.
- Would you take a bullet for me?
- Ooh.
I mean,
I would have to say yes. - Oh, good, cause I would too.
- You would? - Yes, I would.
- Where?
- You know in the movies where they're about to shoot the man
and then the girl goes like this.
- You'd do that? - Yeah, I would.
- You would? - Uh-huh.
- Aw. - And then hopefully--
- That's amazing.
- They are legally bound in a real marriage,
and the only options are to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's the right time, never feel better ♪
♪ It's high time we enjoy the weather ♪
♪ All my girls got our plans all together ♪
- So where's the wife at? - At work.
- Did you have to ask for permission?
- No, she--not at this point.
It's always good to keep the people in my
very close circle in the loop, especially in this last week.
I think it's safe to say Brett and I
are not on the best of terms right now
because of the other night.
I feel bad and apologetic, and it sucks, honestly.
'Cause this is says something that I've wanted for so long,
and it's tough to fathom starting completely over again.
- I still can't believe
you actually just got married to a complete stranger.
- I don't think anybody can believe it.
- Do you regret it? - No, I don't regret it at all.
Definitely some positives.
- Sounds like there might be some negatives as well then.
- Yeah.
- I mean, that's marriage. - And Brett and I have had fun.
But I mean, that's kind of the extent of it.
- So are you optimistic that though it wasn't
maybe your ideal type of a match or mate,
did you kind of wanna give it a go just cause you know,
you've dated around and things haven't worked out in the past?
Try something, maybe?
- Yeah, but it's--we say things didn't work out in the past.
I could pinpoint in every relationship, like,
why it didn't work out.
It's instances within that relationship
that happened that caused issues.
Um...
- But why did you cause those issues?
- Do what?
- Just kidding.
- A lot of times it was me.
Damn it.
- Well, yeah, I mean, let's be honest,
you're not the best communicator.
- Yeah. Yeah. - Being vocal,
using, you know, explaining your feelings, and...
- Yeah.
- You know, Ryan's one of those guys that
sometimes he does have trouble expressing his emotions
and I know in a partner
he needs someone that will keep him motivated
and call him out on his--his BS.
- Get some water? - Yes, please.
It seems like he might be leaning one way
but you don't make a rash decision
and just end a marriage.
You really have to think things through and you know,
I'm hopeful that he'll make the right decision.
- I hate being the reason
that I'm feeling like this isn't working.
♪ ♪
- Why would you feel like you were the reason?
That had to stem from something she did, said.
- Yeah. - Or...
- We were finally getting to a place
where we were having more honest conversations
and opening up to each other.
A better point, higher than we've been in a long time.
And then she found out through one of her friends
that I had redownloaded a dating app.
I knew it wasn't right.
I just definitely could have been more respectful
to her, and, yeah.
I wish I could--I wish that would have never happened.
It's--it's definitely been hard, and it is a huge letdown
because again, I did this for a reason.
I--I wanted this to work more than anything.
- Do you think there's anything that can make this work?
Or are you thinking it's a no, or?
- It's just, it's-- It's hard to say, man.
I mean, at the end of the day,
what's gonna get me to the goal sooner
of having that life, that family?
Is it gonna be fighting through this,
pushing through this, whether it seems bleak or not,
or completely starting over?
And I guess that's kind of where I am.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I know we're so much stronger ♪
both: Hi, sister.
- Hey. - Hey, sister.
- ♪ So watch the salt of foam by the sea ♪
- Come on in. - All right.
- Right now, I really do have to think about what it means
for me to say, "Yes, I wanna stay married,"
versus what it means for me to say,
"No, I don't wanna stay married," on Decision Day.
And it can be hard for me to bring up, like, bad things.
But I know that my sister is-- She's team Zackaela.
She wants us to make it. She wants us to survive.
So being able to get her wise advice
and be honest with me always, always helps me.
A lot has happened since we last spoke.
Zack did something that I really didn't like,
and that he's done before, and which is leave.
- Hopefully one day we can have a conversation,
but today is not that day.
♪ ♪
I tried my best.
♪ ♪
- As I'm sitting down, I'm drinking water,
but it sounds like I should be drinking tea.
- You know... [chuckles]
He thinks I'm just this combative person who, you know,
snaps off, off the rim. Just like a--that's how I am.
So we have this meeting hoping that Dr. Pepper can help us.
And one thing that she asked him was,
you know, based on the negatives,
like is it just this one thing,
like her reactions when you are in conflict?
Or is it more? And he's like, "It's that one."
But there's a bunch of positives. He's like, "Yeah."
And she goes to me and she's like,
"Michaela, you know, there's problem, right?"
I'm like, "Absolutely."
You know, like that's a problem for me.
It's--it's, you know, I wanna have kids one day.
Like, I need to work on this, and I wanna get rid of it.
And so Dr. Pepper makes us do this task
where we have to hold hands
and say that we'll talk to each other,
that we'll speak to each other, at least before Decision Day.
- Okay. - He puts his hand out.
He's excited.
- Oh, wow, okay. - So I give him my hand.
We make a promise that we are going to,
you know, talk before Decision Day.
He says, "Yeah."
And we leave, and I mentioned that I was hungry.
And he was like, "You're hungry? Wanna go eat?"
- Oh, so you decide to go? Oh.
- It was the first time that I felt like we talked
and understood what the other person was saying.
- Mm.
- While we were there still, he's like,
"Will you spend the night?" And I'm like--
- [laughs]
Wait a minute, okay, okay, okay, Okay.
- Yeah, back that up. - So you say he says what now?
- "Are you going to spend the night?"
- And what do you do? - I ignore him.
All right, probably one of those.
- Oh, okay, so did you spend the night?
- I packed the bag. [laughs]
- I said, did you spend the night?
- [laughs] I did.
- Oh. It's your husband, girl. Try to work it out.
- So I did spend the night. - Okay.
So how did that feel to be back with Zack
by yourselves, no Dr. Pepper, no production crew?
So what was that like for you guys?
- It felt like normal.
- Okay, so where are the frames at now?
Where are we at? What's going on?
- So as it stands right now, sis, I don't know.
Things went--and this has all been within a week's time--
From, you know, my husband just not talking to me whatsoever,
to come ask me to spend the night and then being like,
"Hey, you know what?
Let's have these conversations,"
and kind of trying to figure it out.
- But now it's Decision Day time.
- It's Decision Day time.
I have some hard thinking to do,
some long thinking to do.
I really have to kind of really think
about my ultimate Decision Day.
- Okay.
- I don't know if Zack is leading her on.
I don't know if Zack is leading himself on.
I don't know that Zack exactly knows what Zack wants.
And so I think he also needs to have a sit down with himself
and really figure out what he feels
and how he wants to express it.
Good luck. - Thank you, sis.
- You got dessert? - No.
- Mm. [laughter]
- This was a wack dinner.
[laughter] - How rude.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Make up your mind ♪
♪ Don't take so long ♪
- Thank you so much for having lunch with me.
- Oh, my gosh, this is exciting.
How're you feeling that Decision Day is so close?
- Uh, I don't know.
It's really crazy because it feels like there's--
It's up and down, up and down, over and over.
- Yeah.
I just can't believe, like, how you guys went from wedding day.
- I know. - You were on cloud nine.
But it's been just steadily getting worse from there.
- Yeah.
Um, we've had a lot of really big fights.
- But you felt like you tried
to de-escalate situations, right?
Like you weren't always like I'm gonna--
- I do. I mean, I do. - Fight to the end or anything?
- Yeah, and I guess my way, my method of doing it
doesn't work for him either.
What's really hard for Johnny is that he's been kind of taken
to the fire many a-times with the experts,
his family, his friends.
We've all told him that, you know, he can work on this.
And asking him to like really try.
- But any reasonable adult, if you got the same feedback
from everybody that loves you and knows you well.
Would maybe take that to heart. - Yeah
You know what's really disappointing though,
is the only dissenting opinion that he got
that validated his feelings
was from my best friend. From Sarah.
- Oh. Yeah.
- Like the one person I thought
would be, like, standing up for me,
would give him more insight into who I am,
ended up commiserating with him.
Sarah basically portrayed me as a man-eater. She said that.
- Why would she do that? What is the reasoning?
There's--why would you be so negative to your best friend?
Like, it's so weird.
- I have not been my best self
in some relationships in the past.
- All of us have. - Yeah.
- None of us are perfect. - Yeah. That's the thing...
- Why would you dwell on the worst parts of you?
- Yeah. I don't know.
I feel like I got a double whammy.
I've been betrayed by my husband
and my best friend of 20 years.
- Yeah. - And now I'm just like, well,
I already felt pretty bad about my marriage
but now I just feel bad about everything.
- About life. - Thanks.
- I'm 100% disappointed for Bao.
She had so much hope in the beginning.
And now I think it's taken a really bad turn.
I haven't seen her so negative in a long time.
And she's usually very upbeat,
and that side has totally gotten shut down.
I mean, it sounds like the mountain of cons
is outweighing the pros.
- I certainly didn't get everything I wanted.
- I mean, do you guys like have fun together
or does he make you laugh?
- We've had a lot of good times.
There's definitely a lot of positive
and then looking back I know,
I'll still feel like there's a lot of good.
- If I win,
we do whatever I wanna do in the bedroom tonight.
- Okay. - Deal?
- Deal. You're just--
You're not talking yourself up, are you--
Oh, [bleep]. - Hey.
Let's do this. Let's do this.
♪ ♪
- Oh, my God! - We made it.
- We did it!
Now, we've played two games so far.
What have the results been?
- Look, it's not about numbers. It's about having fun.
- Are you having fun? - Yes.
- I just wish that you guys
would figure out how to communicate better.
- That, we still haven't figured that out.
And this far in, and just days from Decision Day,
we still haven't figured that out.
- What if he says yes and he's like, "I'm gonna change"?
Is there space in your heart for forgiveness?
- Yeah.
If he actually did something like that.
- Yeah.
- I feel for the first time in my marriage
that I need a reset.
So if Johnny commits his all and is showing me
that he wants to really try and fight for this marriage,
there's maybe a chance.
- Decision Day is like a point in time,
but like, literally, if you stay married,
every day going forward is Decision Day.
- That's a good point.
[emotional music]
Yeah, I definitely have a lot to think about.
- Yes, you do. And a short time to do it in.
- Yep.
- ♪ Like glass smashing back to sand ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ The dancer ♪
♪ We're dancing all over the world ♪
♪ The world ♪
[upbeat music]
- Thank you.
♪ ♪
These drinks are so fun. I love it.
- ♪ The world ♪
- So, how's it going? - It's going really good.
I feel very comfortable, very like willing to share anything.
You know, Jose makes me truly feel loved
and taken care of and just nurtured.
And he really is just this sweet soul.
Like, I see it.
- So are we staying married, or...
- It's like a really big decision,
and I have to weigh my pros and cons.
And I will say there's a lot of pros.
We really do have a lot in common.
And to me, it's been very rare
to find something like that in the past.
He is pretty consistent with his behavior.
But, you know, of course there are some cons.
One is the whole like, listening thing.
- Maybe you tell me twice, how about that?
- Listen? - No, not to listen,
you tell me whatever you want me to do twice.
- Do. - Yeah, yeah.
- I just need you to listen. - I'm gonna try.
- Like will I be able to put up with that forever?
[chuckles] You know?
And we've had our upsets.
You know, we had this huge--
- Yeah. - Blow out basically, and--
- He got a little verbally aggressive, right?
- Yeah.
- You know, when we had that disagreement,
it took a while for, like, me to get an apology.
So I'm kind of curious as to
when that next time's gonna come, when I'm gonna wait,
am I gonna wait for an apology?
Or will he be like, "No, I'm sorry."
- I think there's a disconnect there with him,
with him not being so readily able to say I'm sorry to you.
Just keep his [bleep] accountable.
What you do today sets precedent
for what happens tomorrow.
If you let him off today,
who's to say he's gonna think it's okay?
- Yeah. And his way of showing
that he was ready to grow from it
was him making these note cards.
- What's written on these note cards?
- "I promise to actively listen more."
"I promise to be less controlling
and let you be the independent woman you are always."
"I promise to always check on my wife
morning, noon, and night."
That sounds controlling, but maybe it isn't.
[laughter]
- Okay, so one note card is the locking.
"I promise never to, like, deadbolt the lock."
- Okay, good.
♪ ♪
You wanna be a good person, you act like a good person.
I mean, you don't need cards to not lock your wife
out of the apartment.
The note cards are trash.
- I will say sometimes I feel like I am being a little naive
of really thinking it will never happen again.
♪ ♪
Staying married or getting a divorce
is definitely life altering.
And I've not always made right decisions
about men in the past,
but I hope I make the right decision this time.
- I trust that you're not gonna let someone
treat you like a doormat.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I got the money ♪
- Oh, my God!
- ♪ I'm looking for a man to share with ♪
♪ If you're him, holler ♪
- So how's married life? - It's been really good.
- Yeah? - I caught me a good one.
- Okay, but there's nothing like a red flag
like his patience when he's upset.
- He's very patient. Like, I get moody.
- Right. - And so he can take so much,
but after a certain point, he's like...
- All right.
- But I really benefit from somebody who's patient.
I'm a handful.
- Okay, so I know that, so do I need to ask, Decision Day?
What?
- For me, really the only con has been finances.
We had to share our finances with each other.
Like, he was fine with it.
He's like, "Here, this is my checking account.
"This is whatever, whatever, whatever."
And I was like, "You don't have a savings?"
- Oh.
- There's a drastic difference in our incomes. He's not--
- But he just started being a firefighter, right?
- Yeah, that's another thing.
You know, like, I wanted somebody
who had an established career.
Who, like, was-- Knew what they wanted,
like, has established, you know, was in a place
where, like, "Okay, let's travel. Let's have kids.
Let's do this." - Right.
- Well, with him, it's like hit pause.
Let's go back to being 25
and we're just starting our careers from scratch.
- Right. - And it sucks.
- Well, finances can come.
- So, like, I didn't wanna have to change my lifestyle.
So, like, if we wanna have a home--if we wanna buy a home,
and if we wanna have a family, so like we need to save.
And that's one of the things,
like how long is it gonna take to save?
The money doesn't drive him. Like, he can live in a box.
And he's okay with it. Like literally.
- He's humble. - Very simple.
- He sounds very humble.
- Very humble, which is 100% okay.
- Right.
- But I'm not gonna live like that.
[dramatic music]
We are in different places in life when it comes
to finances and career and aspirations and drive.
So I have to think about,
can I really do this for life, like forever?
He cannot live at the lifestyle I want to live.
- Right. - That's a problem.
- Yeah.
- ♪ Forever that we thought ♪
♪ Fade into the past ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Oh, man.
♪ ♪
Man, appreciate you coming, bro.
- Oh, for sure.
- I know that was a little commute, man.
- A little traffic.
- Yeah.
We finish how we kind of started, man.
I know there's the whole process,
and how we talked about it before.
And you're like, "Dude, doing this is crazy." You know?
- Are you feeling anymore, I guess, pressure
or just patient more, right now?
- The pressure's, yeah, is definitely there.
Um, you know, 'cause what goes along with that
is the expectation.
Is she gonna be, am I gonna be what she wants, right?
So there's, there's, there's two sides of the coin there.
- I still think this is all crazy.
- Yeah, man. Absolutely. Hell, yeah, it is.
It's definitely been a hell of a ride.
You know, for me, I think there's a lot of questions
that I've already have the answers to,
but there's, uh--there's some things
that I still don't have answers to.
You know, I have my pros, I have my cons.
And so, you know, a lot of the pros
are just basically, she's a sports fan.
Great teammates, you know, I'll cook, she'll clean.
You know, it's a very great tandem.
There's a lot that we're still learning,
there's little disagreements that we still have, but those--
You know, we overcome those, like, very quickly.
At this point, it's very, very good.
It's a little thing she does, the details.
She's like, "Oh, hey, well, you know,
you don't have a lunch, I got it for you."
It's little things like that. So you know, it's reciprocal.
And it's good, man. It's really good.
- What would be say, you know, three reasons
why you wouldn't stay?
- It's just her being faithful with--for me, being, you know,
primarily number one reason for me to say no.
Communication would be number two.
You know, we had some issues early on and so she was like,
"You know what, I'm out of here."
You called me by a different man's name.
- And I immediately apologized, but you locked me out.
I don't feel that you are remorseful at all,
and I cannot be your wife.
- And it was like, okay.
I was like, "Wow, okay, that quick."
And so, you know, for me, I wanted a team player.
I wanted someone that's gonna be a partner,
someone that's gonna be in for it for the long haul.
So the question came up of, you know, "Hey, that night,
unfortunately, you know, where did you sleep?"
So she was like, "Well, I slept at an ex's house."
Like, okay.
- So yeah, that's pretty big
because, you know, y'all were...
y'all were trying to build something.
And for her to kind of go back to her past,
it's kind of big for me.
- And clearly, I mean, when she told me,
I wasn't the most happiest and joyous about hearing that news.
But she did, you know, give me the confirmation of,
hey, you know, nothing happened and X, Y, and Z.
And so, you know, I rode with that.
But, you know, it's all I can go with off of,
you know, right now at this point in time.
- You know, I want the best for you, honestly.
So yeah, keep your eyes open.
But you just got to make the right decision for yourself.
This is a big decision.
- Oh, yeah. Sure.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Do you believe in me? ♪
♪ It's so easy ♪
- Cheers to being married. - Yeah, man.
- Yeah, cheers.
Decision Day is a few days away.
And talking to Sarah is messing with my head.
It's got me thinking totally different
about what is going on.
And I wanna make sure I'm making the right decision.
These guys know me really well,
and I just wanna get, like, an outside opinion.
I'm trying to focus on the positives,
but if there's something that they can offer
to help me save this marriage, I wanna hear it.
You know, it's going. We're in the homestretch here.
We got Decision Day coming up next week.
- Looking forward to it? - No, not really.
♪ ♪
- That means you're not enjoying
the marriage life so far?
I'd say at least?
I mean, so tell us
where you think it all started going south.
- Mm. [chuckles]
Where it started going south was probably,
probably even the honeymoon.
- Really?
- Just started seeing, like, flags
that kind of irked me at the time.
But then, as the weeks went on, and it kept happening,
and I kept seeing more and more of things
that I thought I didn't like,
I started distancing myself a little.
When you get happy and excited, it feels like you get
very giddy, almost like a little kid.
I personally don't find it attractive.
I feel like that was not-- Like in this group setting,
that's not her in private.
She said in there that she cooks gourmet meals for us.
- But no? - No.
She hasn't that a [bleep] lie.
If your 100% was my 100%,
I feel like I'm putting 150% into this.
I've tried to be into her a lot.
And there are moments where I feel like I am.
I can be, in moments.
You know, she took me to her place
that she grew up for a childhood.
- Yeah.
- And she went through some,
some tough [bleep] growing up.
But it made me understand her a little better.
Made me wanna kind of like take care of her.
We had like our first kind of deeper,
meaningful conversation we had in like three weeks.
- Wow.
- We went a little bit deeper than normal.
It was strange.
We're being good to one another.
And I felt something.
I don't know what it was I felt.
- You gotta figure that out for your Decision Day.
- Physically, he looks distraught.
And it's kind of sad to see him in the state
in a period that he should be happiest.
- I think he has his vision of what he wants,
but I think it's gonna be unlikely to check
every single box.
So he's gonna continue to learn
what we call the deal breakers in the conversation
and what are the ones he can kind of live with
and resolve with his partner.
- There are certain things that I'm starting
to feel conflicted inside about.
I'm starting to become somebody that I don't--
I don't understand. - But don't--
That doesn't mean you should be walking away from it, though.
You know, I mean, you're becoming a new guy,
but what if that guy is for the better?
- Yeah. Who you were, you've been single.
- Yeah.
- Maybe you need to give a little on certain qualities
that you'd like about yourself. Compromise.
- Maybe.
- So you're saying there's still a chance?
- [chuckles]
That's a rough question.
Oh...
At this point these guys could, like,
talk me into buying a timeshare and I would say yes.
The things about Bao
that I know are true about her personality haven't changed,
but we are having better moments.
And those things definitely impact me.
They tell me that there's some more thinking
that needs to happen here before Decision Day.
- I'm not trying to necessarily trying to convince you
to change your mind but you know,
you're trying to make a judgement off of two months,
pretty much 90% of the time being on the cameras.
- I think that there might be some pros about Bao
that might really help with some of these negatives
that you're seeing right now.
What's the rush of making a decision now
versus allowing a little bit more time?
- ♪ What's keeping me from loving you? ♪
- Don't make a rash decision because you're unhappy
right now, because time may heal wounds.
- ♪ What's keeping me from loving you? ♪
♪ ♪
♪ What's keeping me from loving you? ♪
- ♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
♪ We're loving on higher ground ♪
♪ Never falls apart, kingdom to my heart ♪
♪ Always so regal ♪
- It's crazy how much has happened in seven weeks.
- I know, dog. Like, what?
[laughter]
- So, like, a good year. - I've learned a lot.
- This is marriage extreme. - For real.
I'm not gonna lie, man, the whole experience
on Saturday night was very traumatizing to me.
- I was about to say have you ever been in that situation?
- Never, dog.
Never to the extent that that was.
- Oh. What happened?
- At the couples retreat,
I had a conversation with Mikayla.
It was like an argument,
but it wasn't anything serious.
I seriously just say something that
we talked about the night before, nothing bad.
These conversations don't help. Like, it's time to move on.
Let's move on. - I know.
That's what I'm saying.
Like, you can literally--like, you can literally,
like, go home tonight.
[dramatic music]
Bye.
- No, I came to you, I don't want--
- Ah-ah! Go home now.
♪ ♪
Get out! Get out.
[glass shatters]
[bleep] out.
- At that moment, I realized, like,
this is no longer what I wanna be a part of
because, like, I've had enough.
I'm just tired of it getting like this, man,
'cause this is out of my comfort zone.
- 'Cause it keeps happening. - Yeah.
It's just like, I'm just tired of it,
and, like, I feel like anything I can say
can set that off at any moment,
so I'm just like, okay.
- It's reverting back to what you don't want.
- Yeah, exactly.
I don't know what else I can do.
- Does she ever apologize?
- I don't think she did.
But what made me feel good about our conversation
after Dr. Pepper's meeting, I told her, like,
what could I have done differently to avoid that?
And she's like you know, not much.
It was more on her than me.
- So she owned up. - Yeah, she owned up to that.
- That's kind of big.
- Which is all I needed because I was going crazy asking like--
- Is it me? - Yeah.
In your 27 years of living,
you never caused this sort of madness from someone else.
- Yeah, what happening here? I got you.
- And so I will say this though,
like, her actions has definitely shown me
that she's in this for the right reasons,
she's an amazing woman.
- But do you think because of this experience,
now she's ready?
- It took a process like this and a guy like me
for her to realize that what she does is not okay.
Her other ex's didn't hold her accountable for that.
And this process, you know, requires you to focus
on yourself and see what you can work on.
- Yeah. - So then like I said,
you know, "I got stuff to work on, too, and..."
- Out of all the couples, I think Zack and Michaela
would be the two that would throw the biggest surprise
because they're so hot and cold.
At that last minute, you don't know what could happen.
- So after the couple's retreat,
I didn't really talk to Michaela,
but speaking with Dr. Pepper
kind of made me feel a little bit better.
So we are at least are on speaking terms.
So I think there's gonna be good.
- How did the Dr. Pepper meeting go with her?
- She realized that her reactions
are a serious problem.
And that she, you know, she needs help with them.
- The thing is your one and only deal breaker
is the one thing-- - Yeah.
- That she had. - Like, one deal breaker.
- She's an amazing girl, bro. It's just, man.
- So have y'all spoke after? - Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So yes, after Dr. Pepper, we got lunch right after.
And we were kind of more candid about certain things,
and it was a good conversation.
- Okay. - It was pretty good.
I don't think the last eight weeks have worked,
but who knows what the future holds.
- I mean, that's, that's fair enough.
- ♪ I feel the doubt kicking in ♪
♪ Oh ♪
[contemplative music]
♪ ♪
- It's hard. Ryan and I have not spoken.
And I guess the night that he left my apartment
after this dating app conversation,
I think he came back here and got all his stuff.
Because when I got back here, eventually,
a day or two later,
all his stuff was gone. The coffeemaker, all of it.
I'm still trying to process this situation
and what happened.
[phone rings]
Hello?
- Hello.
- What's up?
- How are you?
- I'm good. I'm just I'm packing up all my crap.
- How's it going? - Um, it's going.
The thing that offends me is that he can't
take responsibility for himself when you tell him things.
And it's just such an analogy for, like,
the way that he operates.
It's like, it's almost like
he didn't seem surprised that I knew about it.
- Or he didn't care. - Or that.
- That you found out.
- I was 1,000,000% like,
actually really ready to do this.
And I think no matter who it was gonna be for me,
I would have handled it the same way.
Like, I'm trying my hardest, like every single day,
all day long.
It's like the only thing on my mind is like,
figure out how to get in there.
Like, figure out how to connect with this person,
figure out how we can mesh our lives
and our personalities and all of that.
I don't think he knew that he was gonna have to do that.
I don't think he realized that it would be hard.
I don't think he realized that it wasn't gonna be
this instant, like, ready-made situation.
And then he didn't do anything about it when it wasn't.
He was just like, well, not what I ordered.
- You didn't get what you ordered either.
- Thank you.
To have things kind of play out the way that they have
and turn out the way that they have,
disappointing is the main emotion there.
I'm not angry.
A little sometimes angry.
It's disappointment.
You're like, it didn't need to go down like that.
- It's been a different set of rules.
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Running wild through the city streets ♪
♪ I never thought you'd let go of me ♪
♪ ♪
- Cute little spot. - Nice. I like it.
- Over the past eight weeks, I definitely feel like
I've been on a roller coaster of emotions.
But I just can't forget the first moment I saw Jose.
[romantic music]
- So gorgeous. - Thank you.
I'm anxious about Decision Day.
And despite how well things are going,
there's still so much that I don't know about Jose.
And I wanna make the best decision for myself
before I change my life forever.
How are you feeling?
- I feel good, I feel very confident about,
you know, where my head's at.
I think, you know, going through this process
the most telling or growing part for me
is that I didn't listen, I didn't communicate
as good as I thought I did.
And I see that there is--
There is a lot more that I clearly need to work on.
- Yeah. I mean, that's really my only fear
is us having another huge argument
where that argument to me is gonna mean the end.
And it would be so sad to just end it because, again,
we struggle with communicating
when we don't agree on some things, so...
♪ ♪
- Yeah, I hear you saying all this, and I can't help
but to think also, if I was...
to be back single again
and--and-- 'cause my life was boring.
I went from home to work. Work, home, worked out,
you know, I didn't really-- You know, I live in the suburbs
so I don't really go out and party.
I blame social media for, you know,
singles that are single and there's commitment issues
because they wanna continue to go traveling and YOLO
and live this best life and all this other stuff.
- I will have to disagree with you on the whole Instagram
and traveling and YOLO-ing.
I would like to continue doing that--
- I know, my wife does that. - With my husband,
With my husband, you know, it's not about like,
stop doing all the things you did as you're single.
- Right.
- It's to continue doing those things
that you had fun doing while you were single,
but now with your forever partner.
To me, ideally, it would be
one really big trip every other year,
which I'm talking about 9-10 hour flights
across the world.
I really wanna go to Switzerland,
and I really wanna go to Thailand.
And I wanna go to these exotic places,
but I understand money is a thing.
♪ ♪
- You know, I've said it before that, you know,
my upbringing, we didn't have very much money, you know.
But we did what we could you know.
You know, travel,
whether that be a quick road trip to San Antonio,
or go to Fredericksburg, you know, which we're gonna do.
Or, you know, go to Vegas together for the first time,
and, you know, although they're not a lot,
and they're not, you know this over the top, you know...
- Yeah. - Trips.
- I will say, I don't consider that like a trip.
♪ ♪
I wouldn't put that in our category
of our trip of the year.
♪ ♪
When it comes to domestic travel yeah,
I would love to go to a new city--
- I definitely wanna go skiing. I definitely wanna go skiing.
I enjoy skiing. I love skiing. I love it.
- I'm okay with skiing every year.
But, again, that will not be our trip of the year.
♪ ♪
- Yeah. It just--I don't know.
- Here we go again. He's not listening.
This is why I feel so strongly
about being my independent self.
Traveling to Europe does not interest him at all.
And he's just crushed a part of me.
- ♪ 'Cause I don't need to make the same mistakes ♪
♪ ♪
We just can't come up with the final resolution.
♪ ♪
And I don't know what to do.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Am I dreaming ♪
♪ Wide awake ♪
♪ Something like this ♪
- All right. You ready to get this going?
- We have the whole arcade to ourselves?
- I know.
These past seven weeks has been a journey in itself
and we've learned a lot from each other.
But you can't learn everything that you need to know
about somebody that you wanna stay married to
for the rest of your life.
Feeling all right?
- I'm not a Catholic anymore, but--[laughs]
- Do you want, uh, the little helpers?
- I would like the little helper.
- To start off?
- I don't think they have them here.
- I'm sure they have them cause they have kids that come here.
They gotta have them.
- This is the part where I fall.
- [laughs]
♪ ♪
- All right, I think I'm ready.
- I hope nobody's laughing at me.
- ♪ Don't wanna hear you talk, won't need that answer ♪
- [laughs]
- Let me see. You're gone go on a lap?
- Are you gonna try to make me fall?
- I'm not gonna touch you. I'm gonna touch you.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Shake it up when you move that body ♪
♪ Come and meet me on the dancefloor ♪
- I'll go backwards.
- Oh, you wanna show off. - No, I'm just saying. [laughs]
♪ Oh, boy, you got me, got me losing my mind ♪
- Oh. [laughs] - Come this way.
- I'm trying to like find myself.
- You wanna skate with held hands?
- You better not make me fall.
Like, this is everything.
Spending time like this with my husband,
it makes me feel like this could be my forever right now.
Is this a workout?
Am I burning calories right now?
- You're burning calories every time you complain.
- ♪ Love wins ♪
So Decision Day is-- It's closer than we think.
And deciding to stay together is--it's a big move.
We got married, so we got the hard part out of the way
but--or, actually, we got the easy part.
- No, the easy part out of the way.
- Yeah, so the hard part is the continuance of it.
- Getting to be with this fabulous woman
for the rest of your life.
♪ ♪
- It's easy to say no to that. [laughter]
'Cause beauty fades.
It's a lot at stake.
Do I wanna be with you for the rest of my life?
The finance stuff is a big deal for me.
The--your negativity, at times, is a big deal for me.
Sometimes I feel like you--
You kind of [bleep] people that aren't where you're at.
This is how I see because of the stuff you say,
the stuff that you do is like, you think you made out of gold?
- I don't think that's-- I hear you.
- Okay.
- And I disagree.
- You know that that word that comes after spoiled is brat.
And sometimes, that's how you act.
- I don't think--
- So for me, it doesn't sit well with me
because I've worked hard for what I have, you know?
And, you know, we didn't--
I didn't come up rich or anything like that.
I definitely don't wanna be married to a brat.
You know, I understand she--
That she has made a living, a comfortable living,
and she is happy where she's at.
Like you have to live in a mid-rise or high rise.
I don't have to. I can go back.
- I don't have to, I want to and I can.
- Okay. I don't care about them.
I don't want her to be spoiled,
I don't want her to just expect that at all times.
She has to understand that the finer things in life
that she loves,
I really don't care about as much.
The person that got you to where you're at now
is, like, you're losing that person.
- I think that is all my motivation every day.
Where I came from is my motivation.
And I share where I came from with everyone.
Because, for me, that's my motivation.
And so that doesn't mean I forget where I came from.
♪ ♪
- I'm not money motivated, so that doesn't drive me.
So that's where we differ.
- I've worked really hard to get to where I am.
And, you know, I came from very humble beginnings.
And I enjoy the life that I live.
And I know it might frustrate him at times.
But I don't know that I thought
that it would be this big of a deal,
and I'm starting to see like, man, like even though
it's one thing, it's really important to him.
And if I say, "It's not my thing, I don't wanna do that.
I don't wanna change my lifestyle."
Then what? Does that mean that's it?
♪ ♪
So, yeah, I don't know. It's something to think about.
- So these are things that I have to consider
because I want somebody that I can not only enjoy with--
Enjoy the life that they made for themselves,
but also enjoy the little moments in life
that doesn't have to do with expensive gifts
or expensive trips.
Sometimes that's not what life--
You can't always have that in life.
And for some people, I guess they can.
But if that's the only way they can enjoy life,
then that's not the person I wanna be with.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Every night ♪
♪ ♪
♪ All of the time ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Be mine ♪
- Oh. - Hey, hey.
- Hello, beautiful. [laughter]
- Hello beautiful. - Hi, what's up, man?
- Ryan and I haven't seen each other
since the dating app situation, but it is what it is.
You know, let's just have a good time, I guess,
try to make the most of, you know,
the time that we do have left because at the end of the day,
we are supposed to be in this together.
- I like your pants, Johnny. - You like what?
- I like your pants. - Thank you.
- I've never seen you wear pants.
- I know. - You're always in shorts.
- Johnny doesn't wear pants. - You're always in shorts.
- This is the last time we're coming together
before Decision Day.
And it could possibly be
for the last time as spouses.
- I kind of wanna play with that one.
- And it's such a bittersweet end
because, you know, obviously
we all really came into this wanting to be married.
But in a couple of days,
we have to make the biggest decision in our life
and that is that whether or not we're gonna stay together.
It's a big deal.
- Hey. - What the hell was that?
- It's called a miscue,
it happens to everyone.
Men more often than women. - Dang, Bao.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- I'm, you know, intrigued and curious
to just pick people's brains,
see how they're feeling and, more importantly,
see how they feel about staying married
or getting a divorce.
So what's up, how's everybody feeling?
[tense music]
- Feeling great.
♪ ♪
- Rachel asked me, "What would the reasons be
that you wouldn't stay married to me?"
I said, "Well, you know, effort, communication, right?"
So things like that.
But if I don't see the marriage prolonging,
you know, it's been a great journey.
We've learned a lot about each other.
So it's been good.
- I mean, not to put anyone else on the spot,
but, I mean, what are y'all's reasons to say no?
- I guess mine would be, um,
if wifey just continues to live like she's single.
- Well...
- It's a lot of things that she said
even before we even got married,
she said she wasn't gonna change certain things
about herself no matter what.
So--and I feel like
that's a selfish way to go into a marriage
without knowing who you're gonna marry.
So I feel like if she's not willing to change
for the right reasons, that would make me say no.
- I feel like Myrla should get a rebuttal there.
[laughter]
- Husband makes me like stop shopping altogether,
I think that would cause me too.
- But on the shop-- On the shopping, no.
I love your shoes by the way.
Like, those are badass. - They're everything.
Yeah. - I have to say.
Those are kind of sexy.
- Next. - [laughs]
- Yeah, um,
I think the general reason to say yes on Decision Day
is that you have mutual feelings,
you have a connection, you have chemistry, you have respect.
And the reason to say no is you don't have any of that.
And that's my mentality going into Decision Day.
- I went through this whole thing
just trusting my feelings,
waiting for feelings, expecting feelings,
and I'm gonna continue to do that.
I've been very honest to myself about everything.
And I'm gonna just, I'm gonna keep doing that.
- I mean, we all grown.
You should know what you really want.
And so whether it's to stay or not to say,
there's another person involved,
and you got to consider them as well.
The best thing you can do for them
is tell them exactly what you want.
Johnny? [laughter]
- Hey. - My man.
- You got it, baby. - Come on, coach.
- Um,
the way that I would say yes on Decision Day,
is if I saw some potential,
might as well give it a shot.
Yes or no on Decision Day,
just keep hanging out and see what happens.
Might be surprised.
- You never know.
- It really does take two people
to start the marriage, to sustain the marriage.
But it just takes one person to end the marriage.
And for me going into this, I came in 100%.
I was looking for my forever. I was hoping to fall in love.
I was hoping this is it.
And when I committed to doing this,
it took a lot for me because I'm just not--
I'm not somebody that takes big risks.
I'm not somebody that puts myself out there.
I got matched with Johnny, and he challenged me.
And in many ways he challenged me to be a better person.
And so Decision Day, while it might seem arbitrary,
I feel like it's not, because saying no
is really an announcement that someone's out.
And I don't think I could get over that.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- I don't think I view Decision Day like Bao.
A yes for me on Decision Day means it's worked for me.
This means over the last eight weeks,
I was happy and I want to continue.
If I say no, that means it just didn't work for me.
You know, just because you say yes on Decision Day
doesn't mean it's gonna work out.
And just because you say no,
it doesn't mean it's gonna work out.
- Can I ask you a question then on that?
If you were thinking no, for example,
but you intend to continue to see where this goes after,
why can't it be a yes
and then decide no concretely after you've given it a chance?
- Right. Because like I said, if I were to say yes,
then that is me saying
this last eight weeks have been great.
This has worked out for me, I've been happy,
and I'm ready to go.
That's what that means to me.
A yes may not mean that for you guys, but if I say yes,
that means this eight weeks have been great, I'm happy,
and let's continue.
- It's--it's different for me. I mean, for it to be a no,
I really don't think, emotionally,
I can come back from that.
If it's a yes and it ends up being a no later, fine.
But a yes to me is like, all right,
it might be [bleep] right now, but we can work on it.
And I see potential in this, and it--
And let's just see where it goes.
I reflect on the possibility that I might say yes,
and Johnny says no, and that's it for me.
For me a no is like, I'm done with this.
I would be checked out.
- So if Johnny says like, "I just had to say no
"because where I'm at mentally,
physically, it's just like, I need to get back to myself,"
whatever reason, he says, right, but he's like,
"But I promise you, Bao, like I do wanna work on us.
"And I'm willing to do whatever it takes
to see how we can kind of make this work later on."
So you would still say--
- Then it's a yes without saying it.
- Then you would say yes.
I mean, Zack's a smart guy.
I would never discount his intelligence.
But I still don't understand Zack's line of logic.
I can't help but feel like he's thinking
about walking into Decision Day
and signaling to the world,
"Hey, I'm divorced, I'm single.
But Michaela, let's work on our love on the side."
Like, that doesn't make any sense to me.
- If I may, Bao, because Zack and I had this conversation
about what I thought a no meant.
And, yes, a "no" to me was a rejection,
and that rejection equaled humiliation to me.
And that's why I didn't want a no,
and that's why I didn't wanna understand his no.
And at this point, it's like, you know,
with talking with my sisters
and talking with the experts and talking with everybody.
It's like, okay, well, if he just says no, whatever.
But I completely understand that shut-down, Bao,
because I am-- Why I don't wanna go there,
I teeter on that, right?
I kind of--it's like, I don't wanna shut down,
and--but it will take even though getting a no,
it's, you know, it's a thing.
It's like, it will take me
seeing that effort to not just say,
okay, well, it came to fruition what I thought was an answer.
- Sure, sure. - So I hear what you guys
are saying about we continue to be married
even after Decision Day.
I don't give a [bleep] about the legality of the marriage.
I don't care that there's a certificate
that says we're married.
- Yeah.
- My--what I cared about
is that we made a decision, we got married,
we had witnesses and our families became one.
And on Decision Day, the question is,
do you want to stay married? Or do you want a divorce?
And if the answer is a divorce, okay, that's it for me.
♪ ♪
- Bao is making it very, very clear
that a no on Decision Day means the end of this marriage,
no matter what.
- ♪ All I ever wanted was a little attention from you ♪
- It's very absolute.
And it's not the way that I'm thinking about it.
But I hear her.
- ♪ All I ever wanted was a little bit ♪
- And based on that, I have a lot to think about.
- ♪ All I ever wanted was a little attention from you ♪
♪ But you were chasing waterfalls ♪
♪ How'd that work for you, how'd that work for you ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ I'll go, never slow ♪
♪ Got it going on ♪
♪ I'll go, never slow, Got it going on ♪
- To the last outing for us. - Yes.
- Before Decision Day. - But not the last.
- To a great experience--
- Hey.
We all say yes to each other. - Yes.
[laughter]
All: [laughing and talking]
- I love us! - I love us!
- I got married at first sight because I was hoping
that I would find my forever person.
But I've gained a lot more than a husband and a marriage.
I've gained some beautiful friendships that I want
to treasure and cherish for the rest of my life.
- So everybody, you know, speaking for themselves,
do--have you learned something about yourself
that you didn't know, before coming into this?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- One of the main things is that I set out
to have like a really, really, really open mind.
And then when I was faced with that, I did it.
And I wasn't sure that I would be able to and I did.
- For me, it's just in the past to me an argument
equals a breakup, you know?
And I had a severe argument with someone,
and I decided not to break up with the person.
And I continued, and it worked out even for the better.
- Going into this marriage,
I feel like I embodied a lot more patience
than I thought I could give myself credit for.
And I've tried really hard
to work on being more kind in this relationship
than I have in past relationships.
- Um, one thing I've learned about myself
throughout this entire process
is I always thought I was like the real calm, cool, chill,
even-keel kinda--kind of guy. - Oh, I did too.
- And going through this process,
I've realized I'm an emotional wreck.
[laughter]
- Johnny! - Hey, but that's important.
That's extremely important to know that.
- Being faced with like real hardship,
which I've always run from in the past.
Being forced to like stay and rough it and experience it
and encounter like emotions you never felt before
and like immediately talk about it.
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah, I would piggyback off of Johnny.
Like, you know, I thought I was cool, calm and collected.
I've honestly cried more times during this whole process
than I have my entire 27 years of living.
And then, you know, I definitely thought
my critical reasoning skills were top notch,
but um, you know, kind of going through this process
and with Michaela, specifically, you know,
I've learned like thinking a different way,
and I think it's a good way so.
- Wow. - That's thanks to Michaela.
- All right. - Yeah.
- The one thing I would say that I learned about myself
during this process is that
Um, I'm able to be vulnerable with somebody to an extent.
I never--I've never been vulnerable with somebody,
I've always wanted to, to kind of feel free
and so I feel like, you know,
going through this, it's possible.
I feel like it's possible for anybody.
It's just, you've gotta find the right person.
But you also have to be able to, you know,
give them that trust, you know what I'm saying?
And then, you know,
it might bite you in the butt, but you can't think of that.
You've just got to let it happen,
and then go from there though.
- I maybe really feel like starting any relationship
you can't go in not expecting to get hurt.
- Yeah, if you put yourself out there,
you have to expect that it's not gonna be reciprocal,
and maybe you might get hurt. - I may happen.
[poignant music]
- ♪ To tell you what I feel about you ♪
♪ Taking my moment with you ♪
♪ With you ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ Back and forth we go ♪
♪ Up and down, we're so ♪
♪ Back and forth we go ♪
♪ Up and down and when will it stop? ♪
[line ringing]
♪ ♪
[both speaking Spanish]
- My mom always been somebody to give good advice
when it comes down to women,
and so the fact that I can ask her about my wife
and not a girlfriend,
I feel very good about what my mom always has to say
'cause she's not always on my side.
The only downside about the advice my mom has given me
is that Decision Day is like a couple of days away,
you know, and so we don't really have time.
So one of those things is, do I really wanna continue
this journey to see if time really does help?
I came into this experience wanting to be married
and I came--I came in also wanting to leave married.
But if my wife doesn't change,
we might just not make it.
All I can do is keep doing what I'm doing,
being true to myself and we'll see what happens.
- Ciao.
- ♪ There's a king with me in the middle, oh, yeah ♪
- ♪ So what? I messed it up ♪
♪ I said too much, I pushed my luck ♪
♪ So what? Scream to loud ♪
♪ I fooled around and let you down ♪
♪ Ain't no shade ♪
♪ Watch me do my walk of fame ♪
♪ Gonna do my walk, gonna do my walk ♪
- Hey. - Hey.
- Hi. You look nice.
- Thank you. - Shiny.
- I told you it was bringing it.
- You did. Wow. Head to toe.
- Yep.
- If my jaw could drop to the floor, it would.
She looks great.
Very nice. - All sparkles.
- Okay, yeah, you look great.
- Thank you. You look nice too.
- Thank you.
- This is nice. You reserved this for us?
- Sure. - So sweet of you.
- Coming into this intimate one-on-one dinner,
it's really important for me to hear what Bao says tonight
because I wanna know
where her head's at going into Decision Day.
But at the same time, it's tough to think about
because I'm torn. I'm on the fence.
And I don't know what I'm gonna say.
We're getting to the end here.
- I know. - How do you think it's going?
- It's been interesting.
An experience. There's been a lot of ups.
And, yeah, there's been some downs,
but nothing like, "Oh, my God, this is it,
this is a deal breaker, I'm done."
You know, I try to focus more on the positives.
I have enjoyed having someone to hang out with,
someone I actually share a bed with.
It's nice.
How are you feeling about Decision Day?
- I met with two of my groomsmen,
and we kind of talked things through about Decision Day.
And they encouraged me to still explore this.
And I think that's a good idea.
But I'm curious to know what you think.
- For me, I can see a world
where I could be happy with you as my husband.
[emotional music]
I shared with you that my parents went through a lot.
- I was really glad you shared that with me
because it gave me this deeper insight...
♪ ♪
To who you were and why, you know, you are who you are.
♪ ♪
The conversation that I had with Sarah
is still in the back of my head.
But this is my marriage.
And, right now, our time is limited.
And if I'm going in with any reservations, any doubts,
I'm not gonna get to know my wife as well
as I can for Decision Day.
So I think I need to go in
with an open mind and no walls.
- This is nothing, it's a drop in the ocean
compared to what I've seen.
So I can see being happy with you.
I can see the possibility of us growing together.
I do feel, throughout this process and marriage,
I feel like we missed out on a lot,
over 15 years not getting to know each other.
♪ ♪
But I'm learning now. - Me too.
I'm learning a lot about you also.
- ♪ You're strong and, and firm ♪
♪ Take my hand ♪
♪ I won't let you down ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ I feel it coming up ♪
♪ I'm addicted to your touch ♪
♪ Love is rushing through my blood ♪
♪ So don't stop ♪
♪ ♪
- This is the last night
our couples will spend together before Decision Day.
- Ready to head to bed?
- I just need to brush my teeth.
- So they must take these final moments together
to search for any last clues
as to whether or not their futures include one another.
♪ ♪
- Yeah, as far as it's been a great journey
it's been it's been good.
Don't know what lies ahead, but we'll see.
How do you feel?
- We are gonna have to be apart tomorrow for Decision Day.
And I think you being in your house
and me being in my apartment without any distractions,
without anything clouding my judgement,
and it's gonna be very telling on
what I decided on Decision Day.
But I don't know
until I actually sleep in my bed alone how I'll feel.
It's important that we have that feeling of
is this what we want, you know?
So we can really make a solid decision on Decision Day.
This could possibly be the last night
in the same bed with Jose,
and that makes me feel really sad.
But I did see a side of Jose
that I know I could not live with.
- There are some things that, clearly, if I could,
I would take them back, couple of regrets,
couple go-backs for sure.
- But he has grown a lot.
He's shown me what an amazing husband he is.
Oh, ah! [laughs]
Oh. Oh this is cool.
I woke up this morning,
and I still love him, so that's a good sign.
- That is a great sign. - Yeah.
- And I love her too. - Aww.
And so like I have a lot to think about.
Just know that, you know,
no matter what happens on Decision Day,
you were great part of my life.
- ♪ Who's gonna love you? Who's gonna love you? ♪
♪ ♪
♪ It should be, it should be me ♪
- ♪ I'ma, I'ma steal every heart ♪
♪ I'ma, I'ma steal every heart around ♪
♪ I'ma, I'ma steal every heart ♪
♪ Watch me go, watch me go ♪
♪ I'ma steal every heart around ♪
- How are you feeling? - I feel fabulous.
- You feel fabulous? It's like bittersweet for me.
Last night sleeping together.
- You are gonna miss me? - Uh...
[tender music]
- Decision Day is a couple of days from now.
So I need to decide if I wanna continue this journey or not.
So there's still some things to process.
For me divorce is something I take very serious,
that's not something I tend to play with.
But there are also doubts that that hold me back,
so I can't for sure say 100% sure
that I know what I'm gonna do.
It's been interesting to say the least. Some good.
- Entertaining. - A little bit of bad,
sprinkles of bad, and no ugly for sure.
So I feel like, with you,
it's been easy to be vulnerable,
with you just talk about things.
You know, talk about my struggles
and not feel like I'm being judged.
And so I thank you for that.
- I mean, I can't say like of course the last seven
to eight weeks have been like, a ride.
- With that being said, being that this is our last night,
how do you feel about spending the day apart tomorrow?
- I think I feel weird.
'Cause it's only been eight weeks,
but you just get so used to being next to someone
and waking up, it's gonna be like emptiness.
- Yeah, it'll be different. This is kind of become a habit.
- What do you want me to know?
- [chuckles]
- Okay. - About this whole experience.
- Just know that with whatever decision...
- You make, I'm gonna respect it.
- When I was a little girl, my hopes and dreams
were to get married one day,
and this is nothing like I imagined.
It definitely differs with what my vision is,
you know, for a relationship.
So I don't know if I want to stay married on Decision Day.
One of the biggest challenges is that we're both driven
by different things, and I'm going this way
and he's going this way when it comes to life goals.
And that's what I'm most concerned about.
So I don't know. No idea.
- Turn your light off, and then I'll turn mine off.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Is that enough to something beautiful? ♪
- That's your cor--you see? - Oh, okay.
- All right, light's coming off.
- ♪ Is that enough to something beautiful? ♪
- And...
♪ ♪
- ♪ This is our life, this is our day ♪
♪ This is our moment, yeah, let's make it last forever ♪
- It's our last night here in the apartment, huh?
- Yeah. We've come a long way.
- Yep. Cheers. - Cheers.
- Oh, that's strong. Did you need it to be strong?
'Cause it's our last night?
- It's sweet. Sure, water it down with vodka.
Remember the day that we moved in?
Seems like an eternity ago.
- I know. It does feel like a long time.
We've been through quite a journey together.
- Yeah.
- But I hope we can look back and, you know,
laugh about the good times and some of the...
- Oh, yeah, I mean, I look around the apartment
and I still see a lot of great things.
Great memories. - Mm-hmm.
- The easels, our painting. - The bar night.
We used it one time. The easels one time.
[light-hearted music]
♪ ♪
Okay. Shall we head to bed?
- Yeah. Let's call it a night. - Yeah.
- Long day tomorrow. - Okay. Thanks for the tea.
♪ ♪
It's almost Decision Day,
and I don't know what to expect.
We both have a lot to think about.
I came into this,
I came in because I wanted to find the love of my life.
I at one point said I was the luckiest woman
to be married to Johnny Lam.
I don't know what my decision is.
It's a lot to think about.
And I already overthink everything,
so [bleep] gets to my head.
♪ Don't know ♪
♪ I don't know ♪
♪ If I could live without you ♪
- Oh, boy.
- ♪ Baby, you and me, we're all connected ♪
♪ ♪
- No matter what happens,
I trust myself to make the right decision.
We've shared so many things throughout these eight weeks.
There are feelings there,
amid all the doom and gloom and cloudy days.
There have been points where I felt
that Bao could potentially be my forever person.
They're little moments, but is there enough to say
I wanna continue staying married to Bao?
[sighs]
- ♪ And I don't know ♪
♪ If I could live without you ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Different but the same ♪
♪ ♪
♪ If I could live without you ♪
♪ ♪
♪ I don't know if I could live without you ♪
[upbeat music]
- ♪ I wanted nothing more than this ♪
♪ ♪
- It's the last day before Decision Day,
and our couples are feeling the pressure
of making the biggest decision of their lives.
- You get to leave. - It's gonna be very sad.
- You think so?
- I don't think it's gonna be sad.
- Okay, well, I'm glad to know how you feel.
- In order to clearly reflect on the last eight weeks
of their marriage, our couples will spend
the last night before Decision Day alone.
- I won't. - Bye, babe.
- Will they choose to commit to their spouse and stay married?
Or will they go their own way and get a divorce?
[acoustic guitar music]
- How are you?
- ♪ Say what you want to say ♪
- I'm okay. How are you?
- Okay.
- ♪ 'Cause the silence is killing me ♪
- I'm just here to grab a few things.
Fill my little bag up.
- Anything left here to take?
- Honestly, I got most of my stuff
out of the apartment a couple of days ago.
But I know that I need to apologize to Brett
about the dating app 'cause I do feel bad about it.
And I don't want that to be on her mind
going into Decision Day at all.
It's better to just face the issues right away
and not let them linger.
So what have you been up to the last few days?
- Um...
- We've briefly texted a little bit.
- Yeah, I mean just, nothing. I mean nothing
that you haven't been doing going to work and coming home.
I mean, getting a little bit of rest.
- We've definitely had our ups and downs,
but worst is obviously me
feeling necessary to leave the other night.
- When we were at my apartment it didn't really like end
on a super great note you know, after you left.
- I feel really dumb over it, for one.
I personally feel stupid about it.
I feel bad for making you feel that way.
And like you said,
disrespected and all that.
It wasn't anything I intended.
It sucks that it happened
and I've nobody to blame for it.
Definitely nothing you did.
- Well, I know that.
- I never intended on...
purposely upsetting you or hurting you or...
- I appreciate that.
[dramatic music]
- I hope I'm able to sleep tonight, honestly.
I think very highly of Brett,
and it was great to clear the air in person with Brett.
And regardless if it works out for us in the end,
it doesn't change what I feel about her
and hopefully the same for her.
I'm glad we got to talk a little bit
before the big day.
- It'll be fine. We'll get through it.
- ♪ Every dog has his day ♪
- Again, let me know if you need anything.
- Will do.
- Thank you for-- For not hating me.
- No problem, anytime.
- ♪ Gotta find the words to say something ♪
♪ Gonna make a change ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ Whoa, whoa ♪
♪ Ah ♪
- Eight weeks ago, I married a stranger,
and tomorrow I decide if I'm gonna be with that person
for the rest of my life.
- Going into Decision Day,
I'm not going to anticipate anything,
I'm not gonna apply an emotion to it.
- I'm looking forward to tomorrow
because it's the start of our new life essentially.
- I was going in this whole situation blindly.
Now I'm going into this situation now with thoughts.
- I'm not gonna lie, I mean there is,
there's some nerves for sure.
She could say yes, she could say no.
[dramatic music]
- A lot of my reflection is on myself.
The things that I know I need in a relationship.
- Just knowing that I had someone in my corner
someone who had my back.
That means more to me than I think that she knows.
- I believe wifey is probably not even thinking
about Decision Day tomorrow.
She's probably just trying to get an outfit together,
make sure everything looks good.
My gut is telling me one thing,
there shouldn't be any regrets.
- There is a little bit of uncertainty for me
about what Johnny will say tomorrow.
- There is a really, really, really small voice
inside my head that's saying like,
"Hey, man, what's--what's the harm in saying yes here?"
And then at the same time,
is saying yes on Decision Day being untrue to myself?
[rock music]
♪ ♪
- Here we go. D Day.
- Next time on "Married At First Sight"...
- It can really go either way.
- Our couples will have to make
the biggest decision of their lives:
to stay married or get a divorce.
- Why did you do that? - You know...
- This is a character flaw.
- Coming into today, I thought I was sure.
- Oh, my God.
- I actually see today as a beginning for us.
- So we consummated the marriage already.
[dramatic music]
- I didn't say everything that was on my mind.
- It felt really different.
- We do not align in what we want.
- When [bleep] hits the fan,
she's gonna go ahead and bounce.
- Outside of my mom,
you are the most amazing woman that I know.
- What the heck was that?
- ♪ But I can't hide ♪
- So the time has come.
- ♪ Whoa, yeah ♪
- Do you wanna stay married?
Or do you want to get a divorce?
[dramatic music]
- My heart's beating out of my chest.
♪ ♪