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- Breathe.
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It's very risky to get
married at first sight.
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- Please stand.
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♪ ♪
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- Six weeks ago...
- Hi, husband!
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- Ten courageous individuals
risked it all to find love.
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- Nice to meet you.
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- They married as
complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheers and applause]
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- I am married.
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- How are you, my dear?
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Last time,
our couples identified
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questions they still had
about their spouses.
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- ♪ Get caught up
in the madness ♪
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- Rachel and Jose.
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- As a child growing up,
seeing my parents
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go through a divorce,
I do everything
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almost opposite than what I saw.
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- You have my trust.
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I want to be Jose's wife,
no matter what.
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- ♪ Steady lights ♪
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- Brett and Ryan.
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- I promise you, I'm gonna put
more effort into it.
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- Knowing him makes me think
that he's distracted somewhere.
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- Really?
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- Myrla and Gil.
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- Miss little Debbie Downer,
when you get like that,
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the problem for me is
if my mood starts to change
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because of it,
and I don't like that.
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I feel like you should
be considerate of other people
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around you
when you get like that.
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- Bao and Johnny.
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- I asked him about if--
Is he ready for marriage,
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is he committed,
and he kind of blew up.
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Yeah, he gets very defensive.
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- My conversations
with Bao are like,
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I said this, you said that.
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Yeah, it's very--
It feels very juvenile.
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- Michaela and Zack.
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- So we had a conversation
about Decision Day.
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As it stands, I would say
it's a no for both of us.
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- I understand it,
but I don't understand
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why should we sleep--
We should sleep
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in separate rooms right now,
I don't get it,
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that doesn't help anything,
that only hurts.
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Michaela doesn't want to sleep
in the same bed anymore
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so I'm just gonna
go home tonight.
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So she texts me
literally an hour later.
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"Since you've
left the apartment,
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"I'm going to go ahead
and move out fully
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tomorrow morning."
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- That is beyond childish.
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♪ ♪
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- And tonight,
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with only two weeks left
until Decision Day...
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[gunshot]
- [yelps]
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- Oh, my God!
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- The ranch retreat encourages
the couples to bond,
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have fun, and strengthen
their connection.
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- Hi, little babies--look,
they all come.
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- Hey, bud.
- Marriage with you
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was way more work
than I thought it would be.
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[dramatic music]
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- I can't--I can't--I can't!
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- I came here for love.
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I did not come
here to be disrespected.
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- You said in front
of Johnny and Bao
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how you don't have a problem
sleeping with me.
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I was like, "What?"
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- Ryan, are you saying
it's not healthy?
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Then get in the car with him
because he's [bleep] leaving.
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- He's a [bleep] adult,
like, what are we
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supposed to do,
lay under the car?
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♪ ♪
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- Get out!
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[glass shatters]
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[bleep] out!
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[soft music]
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- They were matched by experts.
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Then, after eight weeks,
they must
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make the decision
for themselves.
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♪ ♪
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- Do you want to stay married?
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- Or do you want
to get a divorce?
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- ♪ No holding back ♪
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♪ No holding back ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is "Married
At First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ I won't let you go ♪
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♪ I know just what,
just what I got ♪
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- I am hearing
that for our retreat,
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our little weekend away
as a bunch of couples,
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we're going to a ranch.
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So you know your girl doesn't
know what to bring to a ranch.
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- This is pretty much
back to my roots.
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Get me on a horse.
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- Oh, Lord.
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- Decision Day is two weeks
away and our couples are about
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to go on a ranch retreat
together where they can share
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what they've learned
about themselves
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and their marriages.
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- Did you pack
any western--do you
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own any western--I
thought you was from
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a ranch,
you never owned any western?
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- I was,
which is why I left the ranch.
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- Couples retreat is
an opportunity to re-examine
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their marriages,
work through any issues,
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and hopefully build a stronger
connection before Decision Day.
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[soft music]
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♪ ♪
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- Johnny and I are
not doing well on our
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marriage,
and it is very disappointing.
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♪ ♪
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- You excited for the road trip?
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- I am, I'm
looking forward to this.
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I think couples retreats are
important because sometimes
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you just need to get away,
and reconnect and
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reflect on where you're at
in your relationship.
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I'm looking forward to it,
mainly because
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I'm excited to reconnect
with all the other couples.
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♪ ♪
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In terms of reconnecting
with Johnny,
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eh, right now,
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honestly,
I'm not excited about that.
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[tense music]
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♪ ♪
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- Michaela moved out,
but since then,
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we kind of resolved
the situation.
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- Hey.
- Hey, where you at?
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- I am on my way,
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I had a appointment,
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but I'm ten minutes away.
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- All right. All right, bye.
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You know, we're just moving on.
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So the first time I've
seen Michaela since the fight
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is actually going
to be this morning.
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I just want her to tell me
that she's sorry,
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or that she, like, understands
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why she shouldn't
have done that.
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She did it to hurt me,
and that she's sorry for it.
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Sup?
- Hey.
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- How are you doing?
- Good, how are you?
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- Good, you all packed?
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- I'm all packed.
- All right.
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- Ready?
- Let's do it.
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- ♪ When we come together ♪
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- It's gonna be fun.
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- ♪ Come together, oh ♪
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♪ Come together ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ Come together ♪
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♪ It'll be all right ♪
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- I like--I like
the little baby cats,
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but not, like,
medium cats that just, like,
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knock over like porridge
and that's not even cool.
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- You know I used to have a cat?
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- The, like, sass.
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Then they'll get up,
look at you crazy.
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- Do you enjoy road trips?
- With good company, I do.
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Mm-hmm.
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- Smile, hubby.
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- I will take a picture
of myself and Hype.
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- Three years?
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- Jeez, so you do hear,
but you just keep talking?
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- Yeah, it's
a special gift of mine.
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- Okay, we're gonna work
on that, right?
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- Yes, baby.
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- Okay. [laughs]
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♪ ♪
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- Last night was pretty
interesting with your sister.
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We were talking about,
you know, like her perception
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of us at the beginning
and at the wedding,
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and on the honeymoon from,
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you know, whatever
you've told her to now.
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And then, like, essentially,
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how did we get
from there to here?
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And like, it seemed
like an abrupt switch.
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And she was like,
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"That makes me think that,
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you know,
he has a distraction."
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And she said something about
maybe somebody from the past.
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- Like, what does that--how
does that even come up?
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How does that end up in her
head after the conversation?
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Apparently I have--
I'm seeing someone else
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and I'm distracted.
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- It wasn't
a definitive statement.
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I think she
is interpreting things,
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and she said she wonders
if that's what it is.
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You know, we're not
having the best time
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communicating,
and that I feel like there's
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a lot of things
that I don't know
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that other people do know.
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About how you feel.
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- What do you think
I'm telling other people
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that I haven't told you?
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- Well, I heard that you said
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you were gonna have
a conversation with me
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about how you want
to just be friends.
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- I've told you,
if I don't have these feelings,
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it's obviou--if these
feelings don't develop--
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- You don't have to be
defensive, it's okay.
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- I'm not being defensive, but
we've had these conversations,
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like--
- Yeah, but it's a fact--
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- If I'm still not
developing them, like,
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I'm--how would it be
anything other than that?
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I mean, I don't know
that everything has to be said.
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I care about actions
way more than words.
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I pick up on actions way more
than words as well, possibly.
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So in my mind,
I don't feel the need
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to say all the things
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whenever I feel like my actions
have been doing that.
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- Yeah.
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- So even though we've talked,
I don't feel like
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me and Michaela
are on the same page
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with what went
down the night before.
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- This is nice, it's peaceful.
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- She seems over it,
but it takes me longer
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to get over things like that,
so we decided
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that the best thing to do
was just to stop
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before we got to the retreat
and talk about it
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so we can start off
the retreat on the right foot.
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- So I had a really good talk
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with my sisters
and your brothers.
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They kind of helped me
shift through,
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like, my emotions
and my thoughts.
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- So you're at
a better place right now?
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- I'm in a much better place
right now, yeah.
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- Got it.
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- Like, having
my own space, like,
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I needed that and I didn't know
how much I needed it, you know?
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Like...
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Sometimes you think, like,
we're handling stuff in a good
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way until I guess it's,
like, kind of like a build up.
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- You're in a better place, how?
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- Just being able
to know what--I can
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pinpoint, like,
what triggers me.
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So I know where that starts,
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and then I was able to hash out,
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like, you know,
how did you get there?
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You know,
there's all those details,
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and it's like
the finite details, too.
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A big thing for us is,
you know, trying
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to figure out how
to talk to each other.
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- Do you think that
communication issue is, like,
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is it something we can overcome?
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- I think it is.
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The argument that we had
earlier in the week was really
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a learning moment
because I realized how we need
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00:10:53,227 --> 00:10:55,987
to really talk,
and really explain,
256
00:10:56,072 --> 00:11:00,149
and really use our words
when something is bothering us,
257
00:11:00,234 --> 00:11:03,236
and explain what we would like
to see going forward.
258
00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:06,331
- Hi, hi, hello, hi!
259
00:11:06,415 --> 00:11:08,741
I don't know if I'm doing this,
though, hold on.
260
00:11:08,826 --> 00:11:10,669
Hi.
261
00:11:11,995 --> 00:11:13,588
Okay, let's chill out,
let's not get crazy.
262
00:11:13,747 --> 00:11:16,249
- Here, you have some more.
263
00:11:16,333 --> 00:11:19,135
- Okay, so what do you think
we do well in our relationship?
264
00:11:22,423 --> 00:11:26,017
- I don't know,
I think we have fun.
265
00:11:26,102 --> 00:11:30,012
Like, when we go out and we,
like, go do stuff,
266
00:11:30,106 --> 00:11:31,681
like, I think we
have a lot of fun.
267
00:11:31,765 --> 00:11:34,025
- That's the most fun to me.
- Yeah.
268
00:11:34,110 --> 00:11:36,102
- Hey, don't put your
hand too close to them,
269
00:11:36,186 --> 00:11:37,603
I don't trust them.
270
00:11:37,697 --> 00:11:39,823
- I know what the [bleep]
I'm doing, and I like goats.
271
00:11:41,108 --> 00:11:42,525
- Wait, I can definitely
see--hold up,
272
00:11:42,609 --> 00:11:44,277
stand--let me see, stand right
by him
273
00:11:44,361 --> 00:11:47,029
and then, like, do
like a little, like...
274
00:11:47,123 --> 00:11:50,366
Oh, my God, yo,
this is you, like,
275
00:11:50,459 --> 00:11:51,701
oh, my God--I can
definitely see it now,
276
00:11:51,785 --> 00:11:53,712
hold on one second.
No, no, no, no,
277
00:11:53,871 --> 00:11:55,463
you like--you take pictures
of me all the time.
278
00:11:55,622 --> 00:11:58,550
I'm really not surprised that
she is kind of in her element
279
00:11:58,634 --> 00:12:00,793
so it's kind of cool
to see this side of Michaela.
280
00:12:00,886 --> 00:12:03,555
- I want to give them more hay.
- You like the goat queen.
281
00:12:03,639 --> 00:12:04,973
Goat baby!
282
00:12:05,132 --> 00:12:06,558
I'm sorry, I'll be chill.
283
00:12:06,642 --> 00:12:10,729
[laughter]
284
00:12:10,888 --> 00:12:13,222
- Aw, look, he just
loves you, he likes you.
285
00:12:13,307 --> 00:12:16,317
- I am the goat queen.
I like goats.
286
00:12:16,402 --> 00:12:17,560
- Watch it,
I don't trust this dude.
287
00:12:17,653 --> 00:12:19,312
Hey, yo,
this is my wife, yo, chill.
288
00:12:19,396 --> 00:12:21,647
Damn.
- [laughs]
289
00:12:21,732 --> 00:12:24,242
- He said,
"Back the [bleep] up."
290
00:12:26,236 --> 00:12:29,155
So we are sleeping
in the same bed tonight.
291
00:12:29,239 --> 00:12:31,574
- Yeah, we'll stay
in the same bed tonight.
292
00:12:31,658 --> 00:12:34,419
- I'm looking forward to that.
- Why?
293
00:12:34,578 --> 00:12:35,920
- 'Cause it's gonna
be fun like it always is.
294
00:12:36,079 --> 00:12:38,006
- Ah, okay.
295
00:12:38,165 --> 00:12:40,008
- ♪ Tell me where you are ♪
296
00:12:40,092 --> 00:12:48,092
♪ Get ready for my heart ♪
297
00:12:48,926 --> 00:12:51,269
- ♪ Lookin' back
at all I had ♪
298
00:12:51,428 --> 00:12:56,691
♪ There's nothin'
that I miss ♪
299
00:12:56,776 --> 00:12:59,268
♪ Still, something gets
better when you're around ♪
300
00:12:59,353 --> 00:13:02,522
♪ When you're around ♪
301
00:13:02,606 --> 00:13:10,606
♪ ♪
302
00:13:10,697 --> 00:13:12,457
- This is a barn!
303
00:13:12,616 --> 00:13:13,792
- It looks very nice.
- I live for this.
304
00:13:19,623 --> 00:13:22,458
- Ah, [bleep], damn, all right!
- Okay!
305
00:13:22,543 --> 00:13:23,626
- I didn't see this coming,
306
00:13:23,710 --> 00:13:25,211
eh!
307
00:13:25,295 --> 00:13:27,296
- This is a farmhouse, yee-haw!
308
00:13:27,381 --> 00:13:28,881
- Yeah, this is--this is a--
309
00:13:28,974 --> 00:13:30,558
- Okay, I like this, they got
a little pool table action,
310
00:13:30,717 --> 00:13:31,801
they got some hats.
311
00:13:31,894 --> 00:13:33,052
Do we pick out a hat?
- Yeah.
312
00:13:33,145 --> 00:13:34,312
- Yeah, yee-haw!
313
00:13:36,974 --> 00:13:39,234
- My head too big for hats,
so I'm just gonna...
314
00:13:39,393 --> 00:13:42,946
- Wow, this is very nice.
315
00:13:44,323 --> 00:13:46,741
[knocking at door]
316
00:13:46,826 --> 00:13:49,077
- Hello!
317
00:13:49,236 --> 00:13:50,578
- Oh, my God. Ahhhh!
318
00:13:50,737 --> 00:13:53,081
- Yo, this is nice!
319
00:13:53,165 --> 00:13:56,325
- Finally away from the city,
away from work life.
320
00:13:56,410 --> 00:14:00,162
You know, it's gorgeous,
and I'm really looking forward
321
00:14:00,247 --> 00:14:03,007
to having a good time
with the other couples,
322
00:14:03,092 --> 00:14:06,511
but this time is really
time to spend with my husband.
323
00:14:06,595 --> 00:14:09,180
It is so nice!
- It is, isn't it?
324
00:14:09,265 --> 00:14:12,016
- I gotta focus on my marriage,
especially when it's working.
325
00:14:12,101 --> 00:14:14,677
- Oh, yeah--oh, yeah!
326
00:14:14,761 --> 00:14:16,429
- You good?
327
00:14:16,513 --> 00:14:19,098
- Not really, but okay.
328
00:14:19,191 --> 00:14:23,862
[door creaks]
329
00:14:24,021 --> 00:14:26,105
Ahh!
330
00:14:26,189 --> 00:14:28,274
Don't--don't play that, please.
331
00:14:28,358 --> 00:14:29,775
That's a lovely entrance.
332
00:14:29,860 --> 00:14:32,111
- Yo, what's up--what's up?
333
00:14:32,195 --> 00:14:35,281
- Hello, beautiful!
- Oh, I forgot my hat.
334
00:14:35,374 --> 00:14:36,875
- Welcome!
335
00:14:37,034 --> 00:14:38,284
- Hi, buddy!
336
00:14:38,368 --> 00:14:39,127
- What's his name,
I never met him?
337
00:14:39,286 --> 00:14:40,211
- Hype.
- Hype?
338
00:14:40,296 --> 00:14:42,038
- Yeah, Hype.
339
00:14:42,131 --> 00:14:44,883
- Hey, boo boo,
I know you're excited.
340
00:14:45,042 --> 00:14:46,375
- My sitter kind
of bailed on me, so...
341
00:14:46,460 --> 00:14:47,719
- Ah, damn.
342
00:14:47,803 --> 00:14:49,220
- Where'd y'all
put y'all's stuff?
343
00:14:49,379 --> 00:14:50,889
- Go pick a room--there's
rooms back there.
344
00:14:50,973 --> 00:14:53,975
- So this is like
a everybody dormitory thing.
345
00:14:54,059 --> 00:14:57,145
This is the very first time
that I've ever been forced
346
00:14:57,229 --> 00:14:59,472
to stay in the confines
with other humans.
347
00:14:59,556 --> 00:15:03,225
Wow, we have to share
restrooms, golly, man.
348
00:15:03,319 --> 00:15:05,561
Such close confines
with other humans.
349
00:15:05,646 --> 00:15:07,071
- Cheers to a great weekend!
350
00:15:07,156 --> 00:15:09,741
- Whoo!
- Yes!
351
00:15:11,911 --> 00:15:16,489
- What do you think
about the living quarters?
352
00:15:16,573 --> 00:15:18,750
- I would have preferred, like,
individual, separate cabins.
353
00:15:21,578 --> 00:15:23,087
- I mean, I like
this type of stuff, though.
354
00:15:23,246 --> 00:15:26,341
I mean, obviously,
I was--I would plan something
355
00:15:26,425 --> 00:15:28,668
like this with friends
so I'm used to this
356
00:15:28,752 --> 00:15:31,087
type of stuff,
it's cool with me.
357
00:15:31,171 --> 00:15:34,182
The difference between
my wife and I is that when I'm
358
00:15:34,266 --> 00:15:37,101
around people,
my mood completely changes.
359
00:15:37,260 --> 00:15:38,937
You know,
it's like I feed off of people,
360
00:15:39,096 --> 00:15:40,772
you know, and it actually
puts me in a better mood.
361
00:15:40,856 --> 00:15:43,182
- What up!
[shrieking]
362
00:15:43,266 --> 00:15:44,692
- Ahhh!
363
00:15:44,777 --> 00:15:46,611
- Yay!
364
00:15:48,113 --> 00:15:49,689
- The only thing that I could
possibly tell my wife
365
00:15:49,773 --> 00:15:51,115
to get her out of this funk
366
00:15:51,274 --> 00:15:52,525
is telling her
that we're staying
367
00:15:52,609 --> 00:15:55,453
at the Ritz Carlton
in a penthouse suite.
368
00:15:55,612 --> 00:16:01,450
Then she would
be so thrilled to go,
369
00:16:01,535 --> 00:16:04,712
she might even run there.
370
00:16:04,797 --> 00:16:07,215
- Have you guys picked where
you guys are sleeping yet?
371
00:16:07,374 --> 00:16:09,625
- Yes.
- We have picked.
372
00:16:09,718 --> 00:16:11,052
- Yeah,
so we haven't picked yet.
373
00:16:11,136 --> 00:16:12,128
- So you need
to go pick before...
374
00:16:12,212 --> 00:16:13,638
- Yeah, you better hurry up.
375
00:16:13,722 --> 00:16:15,047
- Before Ryan
and Brett get here.
376
00:16:15,132 --> 00:16:17,225
- Okay.
377
00:16:17,309 --> 00:16:21,137
- The thing that makes me
a little nervous is, I assume,
378
00:16:21,230 --> 00:16:25,316
each couple gets one room,
and one bed.
379
00:16:25,475 --> 00:16:28,069
Oh,
380
00:16:28,228 --> 00:16:29,654
all right, which one's taken?
381
00:16:29,738 --> 00:16:32,824
How do we know if it's taken?
- Uh, yeah, I don't know.
382
00:16:32,983 --> 00:16:36,902
- I think it's pretty much
expected that we're at
383
00:16:36,996 --> 00:16:39,238
a certain level
of comfort with our spouse,
384
00:16:39,331 --> 00:16:40,656
but for me,
385
00:16:40,741 --> 00:16:41,958
it's kind of gone backwards.
386
00:16:43,836 --> 00:16:46,754
Uh, this one.
- Okay, let's go with this one.
387
00:16:46,913 --> 00:16:48,497
- I'm gonna go grab our bags
and then throw them in here.
388
00:16:48,582 --> 00:16:49,915
- Okay.
389
00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:52,251
- Do we just put
a bunch of pillows between us?
390
00:16:52,335 --> 00:16:54,846
I don't know, not sure yet.
391
00:16:58,175 --> 00:17:02,687
Where am I sleeping exactly?
392
00:17:02,771 --> 00:17:05,440
- What kind of pasta
we have, rotini?
393
00:17:05,599 --> 00:17:06,849
- We do have rotini.
394
00:17:06,942 --> 00:17:08,267
- I can help you, that's easy.
395
00:17:08,351 --> 00:17:10,111
- Yeah, the guys can
help grill the chicken.
396
00:17:10,270 --> 00:17:12,772
- Okay.
- Yeah.
397
00:17:12,865 --> 00:17:15,116
- It's time to make
dinner for the whole group
398
00:17:15,275 --> 00:17:17,201
and I am head chef.
399
00:17:17,360 --> 00:17:18,536
- Let's get some
group effort out here.
400
00:17:18,620 --> 00:17:20,946
- Here, let me get this.
401
00:17:21,031 --> 00:17:22,615
- I'm feeling good
because everybody is
402
00:17:22,708 --> 00:17:23,699
offering to help.
403
00:17:23,792 --> 00:17:25,534
The men said they would grill.
404
00:17:25,619 --> 00:17:29,464
- ♪ I got just two
weeks to have me some fun ♪
405
00:17:29,623 --> 00:17:31,049
♪ Come on now, baby... ♪
406
00:17:33,376 --> 00:17:35,303
- No.
407
00:17:35,462 --> 00:17:38,714
- ♪ It's called a getaway ♪
408
00:17:38,799 --> 00:17:40,049
- Party's here, baby!
[cheers and applause]
409
00:17:40,133 --> 00:17:41,726
- What's up?
410
00:17:41,810 --> 00:17:43,978
- ♪ Well, it's a two for one,
get you some ♪
411
00:17:44,137 --> 00:17:45,888
♪ Hillbilly holiday ♪
412
00:17:45,981 --> 00:17:47,556
- Let's go, bro.
- Yes, sir.
413
00:17:47,649 --> 00:17:49,400
- ♪ What will
the neighbors say ♪
414
00:17:49,485 --> 00:17:51,811
♪ Hillbilly holiday ♪
415
00:17:51,895 --> 00:17:54,313
♪ ♪
416
00:17:54,397 --> 00:17:57,742
- Thank you, Bao!
- Thank you, Bao!
417
00:17:57,826 --> 00:17:59,819
- Thank you, Jose!
418
00:17:59,903 --> 00:18:01,245
- You know what?
We got here late--
419
00:18:01,404 --> 00:18:03,405
- The chicken.
[all speaking at once]
420
00:18:03,490 --> 00:18:06,158
- Teamwork--teamwork, guys.
421
00:18:06,243 --> 00:18:08,160
- So it's been a few
days since volleyball.
422
00:18:08,253 --> 00:18:10,246
Does anybody have anything
that's, like, been--
423
00:18:10,339 --> 00:18:11,589
- How have y'all been since?
424
00:18:11,673 --> 00:18:13,925
- We're getting a divorce.
425
00:18:15,585 --> 00:18:16,836
- I knew it!
426
00:18:16,929 --> 00:18:18,679
[laughter]
427
00:18:18,764 --> 00:18:20,348
- Why?
428
00:18:20,432 --> 00:18:21,590
- My husband's saying
he wants eight kids.
429
00:18:21,675 --> 00:18:24,009
- Okay, yo,
how do you feel about that?
430
00:18:24,094 --> 00:18:25,686
- I feel good about it.
431
00:18:25,771 --> 00:18:27,680
- Y'all better
start consummating.
432
00:18:27,764 --> 00:18:29,515
- I feel confident
in my situation.
433
00:18:29,608 --> 00:18:31,359
[laughter]
434
00:18:31,443 --> 00:18:33,361
- Anybody else?
435
00:18:33,445 --> 00:18:36,188
- So over the last
two days for me Michaela,
436
00:18:36,273 --> 00:18:37,615
it has definitely
been interesting,
437
00:18:37,699 --> 00:18:41,452
but I think we're in
a really good spot right now.
438
00:18:41,537 --> 00:18:43,621
I think we have a lot more
clarity on where we want to go.
439
00:18:43,705 --> 00:18:46,448
- And we're both, I think,
440
00:18:46,542 --> 00:18:49,043
in a much better headspace
with it all.
441
00:18:49,128 --> 00:18:52,964
So we're in a good--
Really good space.
442
00:18:54,875 --> 00:18:56,467
- How are you guys doing?
443
00:18:56,552 --> 00:18:59,303
- You know...
444
00:18:59,388 --> 00:19:01,764
- No, I don't.
445
00:19:06,979 --> 00:19:10,723
- Things have been bumpy.
- Okay, and that's okay!
446
00:19:10,807 --> 00:19:13,559
♪ ♪
447
00:19:13,652 --> 00:19:15,778
- I'm just kind of going
into it this weekend with a...
448
00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:24,662
Just being good to one another,
being nice,
449
00:19:24,821 --> 00:19:28,082
being positive,
trying to have fun.
450
00:19:28,167 --> 00:19:30,418
- Okay, good,
451
00:19:30,502 --> 00:19:33,588
best thing you can do.
- Yeah.
452
00:19:33,672 --> 00:19:35,006
- I mean,
don't think you're alone
453
00:19:35,090 --> 00:19:36,591
on that,
we got a lot of stuff we're
454
00:19:36,675 --> 00:19:38,843
working--we're dealing with,
too, so it's not just you.
455
00:19:38,927 --> 00:19:42,588
- My advice would be
to be, like...
456
00:19:42,681 --> 00:19:44,006
[clears throat]
457
00:19:44,099 --> 00:19:49,270
Just honest, and in some ways
458
00:19:49,354 --> 00:19:51,597
a little unapologetic
about your honesty.
459
00:19:51,690 --> 00:19:54,183
Sometimes it may hurt,
460
00:19:54,267 --> 00:19:57,019
sometimes it may--you may,
like, try to preserve
461
00:19:57,103 --> 00:19:58,437
the other person's feelings
462
00:19:58,521 --> 00:20:00,198
or think, like,
maybe I shouldn't say this,
463
00:20:00,282 --> 00:20:02,107
but I think just
getting it out there
464
00:20:02,201 --> 00:20:04,452
really does help, because
then you can take it in,
465
00:20:04,536 --> 00:20:06,946
process it,
and maybe you'll come back
466
00:20:07,030 --> 00:20:08,789
with more questions,
or maybe not, you know?
467
00:20:08,874 --> 00:20:10,708
Maybe you'll feel a certain way,
468
00:20:10,867 --> 00:20:14,203
but just, like, being
open and honest,
469
00:20:14,287 --> 00:20:15,955
like, really does help.
470
00:20:16,039 --> 00:20:16,881
- Like, if you have an issue
with something,
471
00:20:16,965 --> 00:20:18,132
just address it.
472
00:20:18,291 --> 00:20:20,801
- ♪ Rain, come on down ♪
473
00:20:20,961 --> 00:20:24,722
♪ Let it wash all away ♪
474
00:20:24,881 --> 00:20:31,145
♪ 'Cause tomorrow's
a different day ♪
475
00:20:31,230 --> 00:20:31,804
[insects chirping]
476
00:20:31,888 --> 00:20:32,888
- ♪ The days ♪
477
00:20:32,981 --> 00:20:35,391
♪ When I wish
we were together ♪
478
00:20:35,484 --> 00:20:38,060
♪ 'Cause in another life ♪
479
00:20:38,144 --> 00:20:41,146
♪ Oh, in another life
we would be forever ♪
480
00:20:41,231 --> 00:20:42,990
- What do you got, John?
- Be careful, Johnny.
481
00:20:43,149 --> 00:20:44,325
- This is for Brett.
482
00:20:44,484 --> 00:20:46,235
- What do you mean?
483
00:20:46,319 --> 00:20:48,153
- Brett, we know you've been
going through a hard time
484
00:20:48,238 --> 00:20:50,665
and we wanted to get you
a little something.
485
00:20:50,749 --> 00:20:52,333
- Aw!
486
00:20:52,492 --> 00:20:54,585
- Aw.
- It's so cute.
487
00:20:54,670 --> 00:20:57,329
- Look, a little cookie.
488
00:20:57,422 --> 00:20:59,757
- I know it's been a rough
time losing Baxter.
489
00:20:59,916 --> 00:21:04,178
- It has.
- And from all of us to you.
490
00:21:04,263 --> 00:21:05,671
- Thank you.
- They're cookies,
491
00:21:05,764 --> 00:21:08,432
they're human cookies,
they're not dog treats.
492
00:21:08,591 --> 00:21:09,934
We also got some of this.
- What is that?
493
00:21:10,093 --> 00:21:11,093
- Sparklers.
494
00:21:11,177 --> 00:21:12,770
- Sparklers!
- Sparklers!
495
00:21:12,854 --> 00:21:15,597
- Oh, man, that's awesome!
- Aww!
496
00:21:15,682 --> 00:21:18,609
- Brett's gone through a lot
in a very short period of time.
497
00:21:18,694 --> 00:21:23,531
I don't think she's had time
to really take it all in.
498
00:21:23,615 --> 00:21:25,950
She's working
with a struggling marriage.
499
00:21:26,109 --> 00:21:28,369
- You guys.
500
00:21:28,453 --> 00:21:30,121
- We wanted
to give her some time
501
00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:33,040
to memorialize
and honor Baxter's life.
502
00:21:33,199 --> 00:21:36,368
- Look, I know that,
503
00:21:36,453 --> 00:21:39,204
yeah, for you guys who don't
504
00:21:39,289 --> 00:21:42,207
even really know me that well,
or know me long,
505
00:21:42,292 --> 00:21:44,460
to, like,
506
00:21:44,553 --> 00:21:46,295
go out of your way to reach out,
507
00:21:46,379 --> 00:21:48,806
and go out of your way
to call me, and text me,
508
00:21:48,965 --> 00:21:50,808
and say that
you're thinking about me.
509
00:21:50,892 --> 00:21:56,388
I mean, it--it really
means a lot
510
00:21:56,473 --> 00:21:58,149
and I know you think
it probably doesn't help,
511
00:21:58,233 --> 00:22:00,234
or it just--it's such a small
gesture just to say,
512
00:22:00,393 --> 00:22:01,819
"Hey, how are you doing?"
513
00:22:01,903 --> 00:22:04,488
But, I mean, to me,
that's--that's
514
00:22:04,573 --> 00:22:06,398
what any of this is about,
you know,
515
00:22:06,491 --> 00:22:07,900
is making connections
516
00:22:07,984 --> 00:22:11,829
and feeling cared for
and feeling supported.
517
00:22:11,988 --> 00:22:14,415
And I have definitely
felt that way by you guys.
518
00:22:14,574 --> 00:22:16,575
And it means a lot.
519
00:22:16,659 --> 00:22:20,671
Yeah, I miss him a lot
and, just, thank you.
520
00:22:21,673 --> 00:22:23,832
- I can't imagine.
521
00:22:23,925 --> 00:22:25,417
- I really grew fond of Baxter.
522
00:22:25,510 --> 00:22:28,512
He was a great dog,
and my heart really goes
523
00:22:28,671 --> 00:22:30,506
out to Brett,
she loved that little guy,
524
00:22:30,590 --> 00:22:35,770
and I know losing him
right now is very hard on her.
525
00:22:35,929 --> 00:22:39,523
I just wish I could be a bigger
comfort to her right now.
526
00:22:39,682 --> 00:22:41,859
- And I'm really happy
that he got to
527
00:22:42,018 --> 00:22:43,852
meet and hang out
with Maisey because
528
00:22:43,937 --> 00:22:45,363
he didn't have any, like,
529
00:22:45,522 --> 00:22:48,032
pet siblings or any pet friends.
530
00:22:48,116 --> 00:22:50,201
It was just me and him so,
like, they ended up getting
531
00:22:50,360 --> 00:22:52,444
along really well and that
was really sweet to see.
532
00:22:52,529 --> 00:22:54,663
- Yeah.
533
00:22:56,032 --> 00:22:59,627
- He was just like
the best companion, you know,
534
00:22:59,786 --> 00:23:02,546
it was just awesome, so...
535
00:23:02,631 --> 00:23:04,048
- Now we can
light these sparklers!
536
00:23:04,132 --> 00:23:05,716
- Light it up, let's go!
537
00:23:05,875 --> 00:23:07,376
- I like it!
538
00:23:07,469 --> 00:23:08,969
- ♪ Like it's fate
or destiny ♪
539
00:23:09,129 --> 00:23:11,213
[indistinct chatter]
540
00:23:11,306 --> 00:23:14,383
♪ I hope you can count on me ♪
541
00:23:14,467 --> 00:23:16,635
- People who have pets
understand how hard it is.
542
00:23:16,728 --> 00:23:17,719
- For Baxter!
543
00:23:17,804 --> 00:23:19,146
- Yeah!
544
00:23:19,305 --> 00:23:21,565
- He's been everything to me.
545
00:23:21,650 --> 00:23:25,060
I mean, every life milestone
that I've experienced
546
00:23:25,153 --> 00:23:26,311
that I think is significant
547
00:23:26,405 --> 00:23:27,479
to, like, who I am,
548
00:23:27,572 --> 00:23:29,156
I've had him.
549
00:23:29,241 --> 00:23:32,493
- ♪ Watch me burn
through the dark ♪
550
00:23:32,652 --> 00:23:33,828
[indistinct chatter]
551
00:23:33,987 --> 00:23:37,739
♪ All it takes is a spark ♪
552
00:23:37,833 --> 00:23:40,501
♪ Watch me burn
through the dark ♪
553
00:23:40,660 --> 00:23:42,161
- To celebrating Baxter's life.
554
00:23:42,245 --> 00:23:44,997
All: Yay!
555
00:23:45,081 --> 00:23:47,249
- Baxter!
556
00:23:47,333 --> 00:23:48,592
- I'm gonna call it a night.
557
00:23:48,751 --> 00:23:50,344
- I'm not gonna lie,
man, I'm kind of tired, too,
558
00:23:50,503 --> 00:23:51,837
I'm kind of pooped.
559
00:23:51,930 --> 00:23:53,431
- Yeah, have a good night.
- Good night, y'all!
560
00:23:53,590 --> 00:23:55,174
- Good night.
- Good night, everybody.
561
00:23:55,258 --> 00:23:58,510
- See you in the morning.
562
00:23:58,603 --> 00:24:01,439
- It was a nice evening.
563
00:24:01,598 --> 00:24:03,357
- This is actually good,
I needed this.
564
00:24:03,442 --> 00:24:05,934
- ♪ Move a little
closer to me ♪
565
00:24:06,019 --> 00:24:07,686
♪ I know that you know
what I'm thinkin' ♪
566
00:24:07,770 --> 00:24:09,697
♪ When our bodies
have a chance to meet ♪
567
00:24:09,781 --> 00:24:12,283
♪ Would you move
a little closer to me ♪
568
00:24:12,367 --> 00:24:14,193
♪ Move a little closer to me ♪
569
00:24:14,277 --> 00:24:16,361
♪ ♪
570
00:24:16,446 --> 00:24:18,122
- Good night.
- Good night.
571
00:24:18,206 --> 00:24:21,625
[owl hooting]
572
00:24:21,710 --> 00:24:23,210
- I think we should
call it a night,
573
00:24:23,369 --> 00:24:24,879
the smoke's getting to my eyes.
574
00:24:24,963 --> 00:24:26,714
- Where are y'all
planning to sleep tonight?
575
00:24:26,873 --> 00:24:28,290
- That's a great question.
576
00:24:28,383 --> 00:24:30,626
I don't even know
what's in there.
577
00:24:30,710 --> 00:24:33,295
- The bedroom has one bed,
578
00:24:33,379 --> 00:24:34,638
so what are y'all--what are
y'all comfortable with?
579
00:24:34,797 --> 00:24:37,466
- I mean we can stay
in the same room.
580
00:24:37,559 --> 00:24:38,726
If Brett's okay with it, I'm--
581
00:24:38,885 --> 00:24:41,637
- I wasn't thinking that.
582
00:24:41,721 --> 00:24:43,647
- What do you mean?
- To stay in the same room.
583
00:24:45,150 --> 00:24:46,650
You can't just
throw bombs out like, yeah,
584
00:24:46,735 --> 00:24:47,902
we're gonna sleep
in the same room.
585
00:24:47,986 --> 00:24:50,229
- Okay.
- I don't know what
586
00:24:50,313 --> 00:24:51,230
"I don't have a problem sleeping
587
00:24:51,314 --> 00:24:52,656
in the room with Brett" means.
588
00:24:52,815 --> 00:24:54,983
If you wanna have a sleep over,
you want to sleep
589
00:24:55,076 --> 00:24:57,152
on the floor,
I can sleep in the bed.
590
00:24:57,237 --> 00:24:58,654
We can chit chat,
could have done that,
591
00:24:58,738 --> 00:25:00,331
but you have to say it.
592
00:25:03,076 --> 00:25:04,251
- There are six bedrooms.
593
00:25:04,336 --> 00:25:05,911
- Oh, there's six?
594
00:25:05,995 --> 00:25:07,246
- Mm-hmm.
595
00:25:07,339 --> 00:25:08,255
- So there's an extra.
596
00:25:08,414 --> 00:25:09,965
- Mm-hmm.
- Okay.
597
00:25:12,835 --> 00:25:14,428
- I'll sleep with you,
Johnny, if you want.
598
00:25:14,513 --> 00:25:17,181
- Wait, so the two guys are
gonna sleep in their own--
599
00:25:17,265 --> 00:25:19,341
In one room and then
the girls get their own rooms?
600
00:25:19,434 --> 00:25:21,101
- Yeah.
- Okay, let's do that.
601
00:25:21,186 --> 00:25:22,261
[both laughing]
- That's fine.
602
00:25:22,345 --> 00:25:23,187
- Okay.
603
00:25:24,847 --> 00:25:26,765
- Johnny and I are sleeping
in separate rooms
604
00:25:26,849 --> 00:25:30,277
because Johnny wants to work
on building
605
00:25:30,362 --> 00:25:32,112
the foundation of this marriage.
606
00:25:32,272 --> 00:25:34,281
So I am sucking it up
607
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:35,866
to make Johnny happy
608
00:25:36,025 --> 00:25:39,444
and do level one,
and I am not happy.
609
00:25:39,538 --> 00:25:41,038
- Good night!
610
00:25:41,122 --> 00:25:43,782
- Good night.
611
00:25:43,875 --> 00:25:48,453
- I am trying to make
the best of a weird situation.
612
00:25:48,547 --> 00:25:51,957
I'm trying to stay positive
and have a good time.
613
00:25:52,041 --> 00:25:53,125
My goal is actually to spend
614
00:25:53,209 --> 00:25:54,552
as little time as possible
with Bao
615
00:25:54,636 --> 00:25:55,886
during couples retreat
616
00:25:56,045 --> 00:25:59,807
and not get into any arguments.
617
00:25:59,891 --> 00:26:01,475
I don't want to argue
in front of the other couples,
618
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:02,467
I don't want
to bring down the mood
619
00:26:02,552 --> 00:26:04,303
of the couples retreat.
620
00:26:04,396 --> 00:26:07,222
You guys haven't decided
where you're at, or no?
621
00:26:07,315 --> 00:26:08,724
- She's shown where she's at.
622
00:26:08,808 --> 00:26:11,652
That's the only thing
that's bothering me is that I
623
00:26:11,811 --> 00:26:13,988
told Dr. Pepper I was gonna
put in more effort and then,
624
00:26:14,072 --> 00:26:15,573
simultaneously,
with me saying I'm gonna
625
00:26:15,732 --> 00:26:17,575
put in more effort,
she checks out.
626
00:26:17,734 --> 00:26:19,743
I wish I had been
more vocal about my
627
00:26:19,902 --> 00:26:22,913
expectations and hope
going into the weekend.
628
00:26:23,072 --> 00:26:24,248
I don't know that
that would have changed
629
00:26:24,407 --> 00:26:26,500
anything about our
sleeping arrangements,
630
00:26:26,585 --> 00:26:29,587
but it couldn't have hurt
just to be more open about it.
631
00:26:29,671 --> 00:26:31,913
- ♪ I'm full of self defeat ♪
632
00:26:32,007 --> 00:26:35,250
♪ My problems on repeat ♪
633
00:26:35,343 --> 00:26:38,095
♪ I need to find a break now ♪
634
00:26:38,179 --> 00:26:40,347
♪ Not another let down ♪
635
00:26:40,432 --> 00:26:42,516
- I feel like we're gonna
end up sleeping on that couch.
636
00:26:42,601 --> 00:26:45,853
- I think it's only fair
that we do rock paper scissors.
637
00:26:46,012 --> 00:26:47,855
- Best of one or best of three?
638
00:26:47,939 --> 00:26:49,690
Do best of one.
639
00:26:49,849 --> 00:26:50,941
- Best of one?
- Yep.
640
00:26:51,026 --> 00:26:53,602
- All right.
- I can handle that.
641
00:26:53,695 --> 00:26:56,271
- All right, yeah, here goes.
642
00:26:56,364 --> 00:26:58,690
Rock, paper, scissors, shoot.
643
00:26:58,775 --> 00:27:00,951
- Damn it!
[laughter]
644
00:27:02,621 --> 00:27:04,038
- Couch!
645
00:27:04,122 --> 00:27:05,280
Get out of here.
646
00:27:05,373 --> 00:27:07,616
- ♪ Keep digging deeper ♪
647
00:27:07,709 --> 00:27:11,953
♪ Soon I'm gonna find myself ♪
648
00:27:12,047 --> 00:27:14,873
♪ If I'm gonna get to heaven ♪
649
00:27:14,957 --> 00:27:17,292
♪ First I've gotta
live through hell ♪
650
00:27:17,377 --> 00:27:25,377
♪ ♪
651
00:27:25,810 --> 00:27:27,394
[upbeat music]
652
00:27:27,479 --> 00:27:29,221
- ♪ Who wants to party now,
yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
653
00:27:29,305 --> 00:27:30,731
- Ooh!
- Ooh-wee!
654
00:27:30,815 --> 00:27:32,816
- ♪ Who wants to have
a little fun ♪
655
00:27:32,975 --> 00:27:34,643
- There you go.
- Hey, I found it!
656
00:27:34,736 --> 00:27:36,395
- Y'all be stars,
we'll be stripes.
657
00:27:36,479 --> 00:27:38,489
- The loser takes a shot,
loser takes a shot,
658
00:27:38,573 --> 00:27:39,648
Rachel, how do
you feel about that?
659
00:27:39,741 --> 00:27:41,241
- Sure.
- All right, let's do it.
660
00:27:41,326 --> 00:27:42,901
- Babe, we're not gonna lose.
661
00:27:42,994 --> 00:27:46,405
♪ ♪
662
00:27:46,498 --> 00:27:49,074
- Come on!
663
00:27:49,158 --> 00:27:51,835
- Oh, nice.
664
00:27:51,994 --> 00:27:54,171
- All right, here we go.
- Don't push it in,
665
00:27:54,255 --> 00:27:56,581
if you make it,
it's gonna go in.
666
00:27:56,666 --> 00:27:58,166
Damn it!
667
00:27:58,251 --> 00:27:59,918
- I tried not to,
I didn't even touch it!
668
00:28:00,002 --> 00:28:02,096
Man, that's--she's got
a little competitive side.
669
00:28:02,180 --> 00:28:04,923
- I told you!
670
00:28:05,007 --> 00:28:07,175
- Here's this beautiful,
short, little, sweet,
671
00:28:07,260 --> 00:28:08,844
innocent, you know,
wonderful wife,
672
00:28:08,928 --> 00:28:10,262
but then she's got
that competitive side.
673
00:28:10,355 --> 00:28:12,431
- Catch all five.
674
00:28:12,515 --> 00:28:14,015
- I think it's sexy.
675
00:28:14,100 --> 00:28:16,026
- ♪ Go big or go home ♪
676
00:28:16,111 --> 00:28:18,603
[laughter]
677
00:28:18,688 --> 00:28:22,199
- Whoo!
678
00:28:22,283 --> 00:28:24,609
- I found the swarm, yeah.
679
00:28:24,694 --> 00:28:26,036
- Ah, babe!
680
00:28:26,121 --> 00:28:28,455
- Come on,
Michaela, you got this.
681
00:28:28,540 --> 00:28:30,457
Let's go, Michaela, let's go!
682
00:28:30,616 --> 00:28:33,043
- This is why I got married,
to have these fun and silly
683
00:28:33,202 --> 00:28:35,787
moments where it's just like,
let loose,
684
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,132
let's just hang out
and have a really good time.
685
00:28:38,216 --> 00:28:39,550
We're even, right?
686
00:28:39,634 --> 00:28:40,634
- Yeah, so you gotta make it,
Rachel,
687
00:28:40,719 --> 00:28:43,053
pressure on you, Rachel.
688
00:28:44,547 --> 00:28:45,964
- Damn.
689
00:28:46,048 --> 00:28:48,300
- So what kind of shot
are y'all gonna take?
690
00:28:48,384 --> 00:28:50,144
- Yeah!
691
00:28:50,303 --> 00:28:51,979
Good game, good game.
692
00:28:52,138 --> 00:28:53,221
- Good game, good game!
693
00:28:53,306 --> 00:28:54,857
- Yes, you did.
694
00:28:57,727 --> 00:29:00,896
- I--I did something,
I contributed.
695
00:29:00,980 --> 00:29:03,315
- We lost.
- You want a shot?
696
00:29:03,399 --> 00:29:05,743
♪ ♪
697
00:29:07,570 --> 00:29:10,414
- You don't have to take it all
in one hit.
698
00:29:13,326 --> 00:29:14,752
That's delicious.
699
00:29:14,911 --> 00:29:16,920
- We're gonna do tacos
for lunch, Michaela.
700
00:29:17,005 --> 00:29:18,839
- Guac is extra.
701
00:29:18,923 --> 00:29:20,758
[laughs]
702
00:29:22,927 --> 00:29:24,503
- When you sleep, do you
move a lot, or you stay still.
703
00:29:24,596 --> 00:29:27,756
- I move a lot, he does not,
like, I'm all over the place.
704
00:29:27,849 --> 00:29:29,349
- I go to sleep in one position,
705
00:29:29,509 --> 00:29:31,518
I wake up in the same position.
706
00:29:31,677 --> 00:29:35,439
She can go to sleep like this,
and wake up like Jordan symbol.
707
00:29:35,523 --> 00:29:38,183
I don't know what
she doing in her dreams,
708
00:29:38,267 --> 00:29:40,444
she thinks she's a kung fu
fighter or something.
709
00:29:40,528 --> 00:29:42,521
[laughter]
710
00:29:42,614 --> 00:29:44,948
♪ ♪
711
00:29:46,526 --> 00:29:48,619
- Sit right here.
- Hey, hey!
712
00:29:48,778 --> 00:29:49,694
- I just put
on a different dress 'cause
713
00:29:49,779 --> 00:29:51,205
it's hot as [bleep].
714
00:29:51,364 --> 00:29:53,949
- That is like a bomb burger
and it's, like double meat.
715
00:29:54,033 --> 00:29:55,867
I'm gonna burst open,
I had three tacos.
716
00:29:55,952 --> 00:29:57,452
- I did three tacos.
717
00:29:57,537 --> 00:29:58,870
- You had three tacos, too?
718
00:29:58,963 --> 00:30:00,622
- A little late lunch.
719
00:30:00,706 --> 00:30:02,624
- A local spot that I always
went to in high school.
720
00:30:02,708 --> 00:30:04,218
- Oh, so you grew up near here?
721
00:30:04,302 --> 00:30:06,211
- Yeah, I grew up
like 15 minutes from here.
722
00:30:06,304 --> 00:30:09,130
- So are there any
unanswered things that y'all
723
00:30:09,215 --> 00:30:11,391
feel like you need to get out,
questions?
724
00:30:11,476 --> 00:30:14,386
- For us, I think,
going back to last night dinner
725
00:30:14,470 --> 00:30:17,397
conversation about
the brute honesty and respect,
726
00:30:17,482 --> 00:30:19,975
I think me and Zack are
are in a "I don't care" area,
727
00:30:20,068 --> 00:30:23,061
and in that "I don't care" area,
728
00:30:23,145 --> 00:30:25,146
I swear to goodness,
we found the most--
729
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,158
Not only sarcasm, but love.
730
00:30:28,243 --> 00:30:31,662
We like each other and I
think we both--we both like
731
00:30:31,746 --> 00:30:33,997
a challenge,
and it's a bizarre feeling
732
00:30:34,082 --> 00:30:36,324
because I've never felt
anything like this, right?
733
00:30:36,409 --> 00:30:38,669
Like, I've never put
so much effort into
734
00:30:38,753 --> 00:30:40,587
making sure
somebody else was happy.
735
00:30:40,672 --> 00:30:42,589
- It sounds like your
husband's gotten to the point
736
00:30:42,674 --> 00:30:45,250
of compromising and really
meeting in the middle with you,
737
00:30:45,334 --> 00:30:48,169
which--which is different
from early on, it seemed.
738
00:30:48,263 --> 00:30:50,255
- Yes.
- I'm so happy for them,
739
00:30:50,339 --> 00:30:53,851
but also I can't help but feel
envious because that's not
740
00:30:53,935 --> 00:30:55,677
what's going
on with me and Johnny.
741
00:30:55,761 --> 00:31:01,099
- But--and it does take, like,
somebody wanting to also do it.
742
00:31:01,183 --> 00:31:02,517
- I think we're
actually in a good place,
743
00:31:02,602 --> 00:31:05,279
even though we
kind of had an issue,
744
00:31:05,363 --> 00:31:06,688
like, a couple days ago.
745
00:31:06,772 --> 00:31:09,357
So what happened,
Michaela moved out.
746
00:31:09,442 --> 00:31:11,943
That was like a very difficult
situation just because, like,
747
00:31:12,036 --> 00:31:13,778
I think, you know,
by us sleeping in the same bed,
748
00:31:13,872 --> 00:31:16,540
we've been like progressing,
and I think if we don't
749
00:31:16,624 --> 00:31:18,450
do that any more,
then we're taking a step back.
750
00:31:18,534 --> 00:31:20,201
So I'm essentially like,
well, okay, well if
751
00:31:20,286 --> 00:31:22,120
I'm not sleeping the same bed
with you, I just want to, like,
752
00:31:22,204 --> 00:31:23,630
go to my own bed,
in my apartment
753
00:31:23,715 --> 00:31:25,465
to get some comfort for once.
754
00:31:25,625 --> 00:31:27,459
And so she was like, "Whatever,
I don't really care."
755
00:31:27,543 --> 00:31:31,212
So I did that,
and she had a problem with me
756
00:31:31,297 --> 00:31:33,640
doing that,
and so that's why she left.
757
00:31:33,725 --> 00:31:35,216
- Do you think she want--
She wanted you to,
758
00:31:35,301 --> 00:31:37,394
you know, say,
fight a little bit more?
759
00:31:37,553 --> 00:31:38,729
- I think what
she wanted me to do
760
00:31:38,813 --> 00:31:40,480
was not leave
in the first place.
761
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:43,066
So my thing is, well then if
you just told me "don't leave,"
762
00:31:43,151 --> 00:31:45,226
I'm not gonna--I promise you,
I'm not gonna--
763
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:46,561
- He told her, and she said,
764
00:31:46,646 --> 00:31:49,156
"Okay, do whatever."
- Yeah.
765
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,159
- One thing I noticed about
Zack and I's relationship is,
766
00:31:52,243 --> 00:31:54,152
I don't know if you
guys have seen, like,
767
00:31:54,236 --> 00:31:56,821
Godzilla versus King Kong,
or those kind of movies where
768
00:31:56,906 --> 00:32:00,000
it's like--it's like a clash,
like, somebody has to win,
769
00:32:00,084 --> 00:32:03,503
nobody's going to submit,
and it is a ceasefire for us,
770
00:32:03,663 --> 00:32:06,081
somebody has to ceasefire,
and I think that's what we're
771
00:32:06,174 --> 00:32:08,675
learning right now
is who's gonna stop.
772
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:10,844
- What I'm observing
that you guys are able to get
773
00:32:10,929 --> 00:32:13,922
to that point of realness
and openness because you guys
774
00:32:14,006 --> 00:32:15,507
have something that Brett and I
775
00:32:15,591 --> 00:32:17,342
don't have in our relationships.
776
00:32:17,426 --> 00:32:18,769
You guys have trust.
777
00:32:18,928 --> 00:32:22,013
You have commitment
from your partner, you know?
778
00:32:22,098 --> 00:32:24,015
You might say something
that will hurt him,
779
00:32:24,100 --> 00:32:27,185
but you feel that he's there
and in it with you.
780
00:32:27,269 --> 00:32:31,448
- It takes two,
always, you know and a girl,
781
00:32:31,532 --> 00:32:34,201
in general,
can only take so much.
782
00:32:34,285 --> 00:32:37,621
You know, I've been in past
situations where I'm like,
783
00:32:37,780 --> 00:32:41,700
why am I so obsessed
with someone that is
784
00:32:41,793 --> 00:32:46,129
not giving me anything back,
like, won't text me back,
785
00:32:46,288 --> 00:32:49,967
won't do anything,
yet I think the world of them,
786
00:32:50,051 --> 00:32:54,045
like, I don't get it,
and it's just this, like,
787
00:32:54,138 --> 00:32:57,224
the rose colored glasses
kind of thing, you know?
788
00:32:57,308 --> 00:33:00,385
And thankfully, for me, it
took a disagreement to be like,
789
00:33:00,478 --> 00:33:02,137
"Okay."
790
00:33:02,230 --> 00:33:05,065
After our big argument,
you can call it,
791
00:33:05,149 --> 00:33:08,143
it made me just put
everything on the table.
792
00:33:08,227 --> 00:33:11,730
I was like, you--you're getting
to know polite Rachel who's not
793
00:33:11,814 --> 00:33:15,900
gonna call you out on anything,
but now any little thing,
794
00:33:15,985 --> 00:33:18,319
I'll point out
and he gets upset,
795
00:33:18,413 --> 00:33:20,071
and I'm okay that he gets upset.
796
00:33:20,156 --> 00:33:23,834
- At the beginning, I'm 100% me,
797
00:33:23,993 --> 00:33:26,670
not a question,
not a--not an insecurity,
798
00:33:26,829 --> 00:33:29,247
this is who I am,
take it or leave it.
799
00:33:29,331 --> 00:33:34,011
The minute that
that is rejected,
800
00:33:34,095 --> 00:33:36,254
I go away.
801
00:33:36,338 --> 00:33:38,515
- The last bit of hope I had
was coming into this weekend
802
00:33:38,674 --> 00:33:41,426
and I just needed anything
to change us completely,
803
00:33:41,510 --> 00:33:43,186
a change of scenery,
a change of everything.
804
00:33:43,345 --> 00:33:46,189
I need to just--I gotta try
something different,
805
00:33:46,274 --> 00:33:47,849
and that's why last night
I was being open
806
00:33:47,933 --> 00:33:49,601
to us staying in the same room,
807
00:33:49,685 --> 00:33:51,186
and she immediately said,
808
00:33:51,279 --> 00:33:52,687
"I'm not comfortable
with that."
809
00:33:52,772 --> 00:33:55,198
- Okay--hmm,
okay, hold on, let's see.
810
00:33:55,283 --> 00:33:58,869
So how is her not wanting
to sleep with you here
811
00:33:58,953 --> 00:34:00,445
different than you guys
not sleeping together
812
00:34:00,538 --> 00:34:01,946
at the apartment?
813
00:34:02,031 --> 00:34:05,366
- Um...
814
00:34:05,460 --> 00:34:08,119
That's a very great question.
815
00:34:08,212 --> 00:34:10,455
♪ ♪
816
00:34:10,548 --> 00:34:12,215
- Yeah.
817
00:34:14,635 --> 00:34:16,294
- Yeah, Bao and I
have that--have that problem.
818
00:34:16,378 --> 00:34:17,971
There's a difference
in perception on what's
819
00:34:18,130 --> 00:34:21,132
happening and that's where we
get in a lot of our arguments.
820
00:34:21,225 --> 00:34:23,477
I feel like I've also
learned a lot about myself.
821
00:34:23,636 --> 00:34:26,221
I've realized I'm a lot more
emotional than I thought I was.
822
00:34:26,305 --> 00:34:29,483
I thought I was like one
cool--cool customer, you know,
823
00:34:29,567 --> 00:34:33,070
even keel, and it turns out
a lot of stuff affects me.
824
00:34:33,154 --> 00:34:34,821
- I'm disappointed,
I'm disappointed
825
00:34:34,906 --> 00:34:37,232
in our marriage, but frankly,
826
00:34:37,316 --> 00:34:39,984
I can be very specific,
I'm disappointed in Johnny.
827
00:34:40,069 --> 00:34:43,154
I'm mad, I can't help it,
I'm mad, I'm irritated.
828
00:34:43,247 --> 00:34:45,749
- Yeah, and you have
every right to those feelings.
829
00:34:45,833 --> 00:34:48,827
- I've been very
patient in the face
830
00:34:48,911 --> 00:34:53,331
of meanness,
but I've had enough.
831
00:34:53,415 --> 00:34:56,510
I got married
because I wanted a husband,
832
00:34:56,594 --> 00:34:59,087
I wanted a life partner, I want
to start a family one day,
833
00:34:59,171 --> 00:35:00,597
I want this whole future.
834
00:35:00,681 --> 00:35:03,934
I replay our arguments
over and over just to try
835
00:35:04,018 --> 00:35:06,344
to think about what
am I--am I triggering him,
836
00:35:06,437 --> 00:35:09,106
am I saying something specific
that--is it my fault
837
00:35:09,190 --> 00:35:11,766
that he's blowing up
and overreacting
838
00:35:11,851 --> 00:35:13,527
and being a big drama queen?
839
00:35:13,611 --> 00:35:15,779
And then I realized something,
840
00:35:15,938 --> 00:35:18,281
which is kind of scary
and chilling.
841
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:22,035
My parents have been married
for 50 years,
842
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:23,954
and it's amazing,
but there was some [bleep]
843
00:35:24,038 --> 00:35:25,872
times back in the day,
and as a child,
844
00:35:25,957 --> 00:35:28,792
I remember when my dad was very
845
00:35:28,951 --> 00:35:32,203
verbally abusive to my mom
and it spiraled.
846
00:35:32,288 --> 00:35:34,706
There was a period
of time in my childhood
847
00:35:34,790 --> 00:35:36,466
where it was really dark.
848
00:35:36,551 --> 00:35:39,553
And I always imagined,
I'm never going to put up
849
00:35:39,712 --> 00:35:41,212
with this [bleep] one day,
850
00:35:41,305 --> 00:35:42,881
I'm going to marry a man who's
going to treat me right,
851
00:35:42,974 --> 00:35:44,307
and I will never
852
00:35:44,466 --> 00:35:46,467
allow myself
to be treated that way.
853
00:35:46,561 --> 00:35:49,971
But reflecting this past week,
854
00:35:50,055 --> 00:35:53,141
I realized that I did yield
855
00:35:53,225 --> 00:35:58,071
and back down so many times
when my young child self,
856
00:35:58,230 --> 00:35:59,480
from way back when,
857
00:35:59,574 --> 00:36:01,482
would have said
I would never do that.
858
00:36:01,576 --> 00:36:03,234
I did that in this marriage,
859
00:36:03,327 --> 00:36:05,662
I mean, it shocked me
when I realized that,
860
00:36:05,746 --> 00:36:08,582
that I just
kind of devalued myself.
861
00:36:08,666 --> 00:36:10,241
I can't do that anymore.
862
00:36:10,326 --> 00:36:11,910
- Same.
863
00:36:12,003 --> 00:36:14,746
- I came here for marriage,
I came here for love,
864
00:36:14,830 --> 00:36:17,007
I did not come here
to be disrespected by a man
865
00:36:17,166 --> 00:36:19,584
who's not worth my time,
at this point.
866
00:36:19,668 --> 00:36:21,336
- Yep.
867
00:36:21,429 --> 00:36:23,013
- ♪ Trying to find
the answers ♪
868
00:36:23,097 --> 00:36:29,761
♪ Trying to find
the answers ♪
869
00:36:29,854 --> 00:36:32,772
♪ ♪
870
00:36:32,932 --> 00:36:34,774
- Hey, there.
- Hi.
871
00:36:34,859 --> 00:36:37,435
- Howdy,
those are some pretty horses.
872
00:36:37,528 --> 00:36:39,946
- Thank you, this is
Ladybug and this is Mojo.
873
00:36:40,031 --> 00:36:41,773
- Mojo and Ladybug.
- I want Ladybug.
874
00:36:41,857 --> 00:36:42,774
- Yes, that's who you're riding.
875
00:36:42,858 --> 00:36:44,117
- Okay, thank you.
- Uh-huh.
876
00:36:44,202 --> 00:36:45,535
- I'll go ahead
and put you on Mojo first.
877
00:36:45,694 --> 00:36:47,454
- Okay,
do need to, like, pet him,
878
00:36:47,613 --> 00:36:49,113
do I need him to sniff me
first or something like that?
879
00:36:49,207 --> 00:36:50,698
- Yeah.
880
00:36:50,783 --> 00:36:52,283
- Hey buddy.
881
00:36:52,376 --> 00:36:54,953
- When I was little,
my mom is originally from
882
00:36:55,046 --> 00:36:57,297
Chiapas, Mexico,
and so it's like very rural,
883
00:36:57,456 --> 00:37:00,050
and we used to ride
horses when we went to visit,
884
00:37:00,209 --> 00:37:01,635
and so I've always
loved riding horses,
885
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:02,877
it's something
that I really enjoy.
886
00:37:02,962 --> 00:37:05,046
So it's something
that I'm familiar with,
887
00:37:05,130 --> 00:37:08,308
and so I'm excited to ride
horses with my husband today.
888
00:37:08,392 --> 00:37:10,802
- All right, so am I
just here and then getting on?
889
00:37:10,895 --> 00:37:12,553
- Yes sir.
890
00:37:12,638 --> 00:37:15,148
- All right.
891
00:37:15,233 --> 00:37:16,808
- There you go.
892
00:37:16,901 --> 00:37:19,152
Now you can go ahead
and just give her a kick.
893
00:37:19,311 --> 00:37:21,062
- Let's go, buddy.
894
00:37:21,155 --> 00:37:24,232
I feel like a whole cowboy,
895
00:37:24,316 --> 00:37:27,568
but a horse is a very strong
and powerful animal.
896
00:37:27,653 --> 00:37:31,739
I do have a healthy fear
of horses, but Myrla likes
897
00:37:31,824 --> 00:37:35,502
horseback riding, and so
I just got to suck it up.
898
00:37:35,586 --> 00:37:38,088
I'm not gonna
let fear control that.
899
00:37:38,172 --> 00:37:39,756
- Okay, tell Mojo to go.
900
00:37:39,915 --> 00:37:42,008
- Come on, Mojo.
- Why is she backing up?
901
00:37:42,167 --> 00:37:46,346
- Put your hands forward,
there you go, just like that.
902
00:37:46,430 --> 00:37:48,506
Good, now you
can just follow Mojo.
903
00:37:48,599 --> 00:37:50,091
She gets stubborn and
she likes to stand in
904
00:37:50,184 --> 00:37:51,768
this one spot in the arena.
905
00:37:51,852 --> 00:37:55,096
There you go.
906
00:37:55,189 --> 00:37:56,681
- Just roasting on the sun.
907
00:37:56,765 --> 00:37:58,525
I don't like being in the back
908
00:37:58,609 --> 00:37:59,859
'cause you're throwing me
all the dirt.
909
00:37:59,944 --> 00:38:03,280
- Well, your girl
should have walked.
910
00:38:03,439 --> 00:38:04,781
- I'm gonna need
a shower after this.
911
00:38:04,865 --> 00:38:08,535
Did you fart, Ladybug?
912
00:38:08,694 --> 00:38:10,620
I think she farted.
913
00:38:10,705 --> 00:38:13,364
- She will.
[laughter]
914
00:38:13,449 --> 00:38:14,624
- Lovely.
915
00:38:14,783 --> 00:38:17,127
- So when we go out there,
just make
916
00:38:17,286 --> 00:38:19,704
sure to have
a nice loose rein, okay?
917
00:38:19,788 --> 00:38:21,456
- And they'll do
pretty good with following?
918
00:38:21,549 --> 00:38:22,790
- Oh, yeah.
- Okay, good.
919
00:38:22,883 --> 00:38:23,967
- Are you nervous, husband?
920
00:38:24,126 --> 00:38:25,969
- Nah.
- You sound a little nervous.
921
00:38:26,128 --> 00:38:28,463
I want to go
on an actual trail, husband,
922
00:38:28,547 --> 00:38:30,307
I like it a little faster.
923
00:38:30,391 --> 00:38:32,559
- It's all good, I like my pace.
924
00:38:32,643 --> 00:38:33,968
- Are you scared?
925
00:38:34,053 --> 00:38:37,397
- No, no, no, no, I have
a healthy fear of horses.
926
00:38:37,556 --> 00:38:40,233
- Okay.
- Man...
927
00:38:40,392 --> 00:38:44,729
- ♪ 'Cause I might be the one
you're lookin' for ♪
928
00:38:44,822 --> 00:38:47,991
♪ Try me ♪
929
00:38:50,745 --> 00:38:53,747
- So they may speed up a little
bit walking up this hill, okay?
930
00:38:53,906 --> 00:38:57,158
Oh, yours is galloping.
931
00:38:57,242 --> 00:39:00,495
Mine is like, eh.
932
00:39:00,579 --> 00:39:01,996
- Good job, Mojo.
933
00:39:02,081 --> 00:39:04,341
- Good job, guys.
934
00:39:06,585 --> 00:39:08,178
- Howdy, ma'am.
935
00:39:08,337 --> 00:39:10,347
- Howdy.
936
00:39:10,431 --> 00:39:12,432
- Got the boots dirty,
937
00:39:12,591 --> 00:39:14,175
I feel official now.
938
00:39:14,268 --> 00:39:15,510
- That I don't like, but okay.
939
00:39:15,594 --> 00:39:17,937
- That was fun.
940
00:39:18,022 --> 00:39:20,106
- It was really short
but it was fun.
941
00:39:20,191 --> 00:39:22,609
I wish we could have
gone faster on a longer trail.
942
00:39:22,693 --> 00:39:24,694
- Are you ever satisfied
with anything?
943
00:39:27,689 --> 00:39:29,532
Myrla is very particular,
even when she's
944
00:39:29,691 --> 00:39:31,109
having fun,
she's not having fun.
945
00:39:31,193 --> 00:39:33,528
It gets under my skin
because she says
946
00:39:33,612 --> 00:39:35,696
she's open-minded
and she's willing to do stuff,
947
00:39:35,781 --> 00:39:37,532
but when it comes down
to actually doing it,
948
00:39:37,625 --> 00:39:39,450
she doesn't want to do it.
949
00:39:39,543 --> 00:39:41,461
- It was fun, but I wanted
to go on for longer.
950
00:39:41,545 --> 00:39:43,121
- Is there ever,
"It was fun, period"?
951
00:39:43,214 --> 00:39:45,048
- It was--
952
00:39:45,207 --> 00:39:47,133
- Ever, on anything?
- Yes, all the time.
953
00:39:47,218 --> 00:39:48,543
- No,
954
00:39:48,636 --> 00:39:50,711
you sound like you're a brat
955
00:39:50,805 --> 00:39:54,048
when you are not cooperative,
956
00:39:54,133 --> 00:39:58,719
being difficult at times,
when there's no need to be.
957
00:39:58,804 --> 00:40:00,138
- This was fun.
958
00:40:00,222 --> 00:40:02,982
- There you go.
- This was fun.
959
00:40:03,067 --> 00:40:04,234
- Do you feel okay
with me saying that?
960
00:40:04,318 --> 00:40:06,069
- Yeah, I receive it.
961
00:40:08,572 --> 00:40:10,490
It's definitely hard
for me to change overnight,
962
00:40:10,574 --> 00:40:11,732
you know,
blinking an eye, change.
963
00:40:11,826 --> 00:40:12,650
It's difficult for me to do.
964
00:40:12,743 --> 00:40:13,901
For me, it's
965
00:40:13,986 --> 00:40:15,153
good for him to communicate
966
00:40:15,237 --> 00:40:16,746
because I can't read his mind,
967
00:40:16,831 --> 00:40:18,581
and so if he doesn't tell me
what he's thinking or feeling,
968
00:40:18,740 --> 00:40:21,167
then I don't know
how to best react or act.
969
00:40:21,326 --> 00:40:23,420
So being married is definitely
an adjustment in that
970
00:40:23,504 --> 00:40:26,998
aspect that like, oh, you have
to be willing to compromise.
971
00:40:27,091 --> 00:40:28,833
So anytime that he tells me
something bothers him,
972
00:40:28,926 --> 00:40:31,169
I always tell him like,
noted, moving forward,
973
00:40:31,262 --> 00:40:33,346
like, it'll change,
and so for me, it's always
974
00:40:33,505 --> 00:40:35,932
helpful to know because
then I can change the behavior.
975
00:40:36,091 --> 00:40:37,767
- You understand
where I'm coming from?
976
00:40:37,852 --> 00:40:41,596
Okay. "I receive it."
977
00:40:41,689 --> 00:40:43,014
[laughs]
- You can't copy me.
978
00:40:43,107 --> 00:40:46,401
[laughing]
979
00:40:49,104 --> 00:40:52,782
♪ ♪
980
00:40:54,535 --> 00:40:55,785
- Is this good?
- This it?
981
00:40:55,944 --> 00:40:58,121
- This is it?
- Who wants to go first?
982
00:40:58,280 --> 00:40:59,864
- You!
- I don't want to go first.
983
00:40:59,948 --> 00:41:01,699
- You are going first.
- Yee-haw!
984
00:41:01,783 --> 00:41:02,959
- I kinda wanted
people who haven't done it
985
00:41:03,118 --> 00:41:04,535
before to go
first so they don't get, like,
986
00:41:04,620 --> 00:41:06,871
warmed up,
they just jump right in.
987
00:41:06,964 --> 00:41:10,041
[rock music]
988
00:41:10,134 --> 00:41:16,389
♪ ♪
989
00:41:16,548 --> 00:41:19,058
- I love to skeet shoot,
I'm happy to be in my element
990
00:41:19,143 --> 00:41:22,053
and get to enjoy that
with Brett.
991
00:41:22,137 --> 00:41:24,972
Hopefully we can find some
common ground here and bridge
992
00:41:25,057 --> 00:41:26,816
the divide that we have
between us right now.
993
00:41:28,235 --> 00:41:29,903
- Let's be safe and have fun.
994
00:41:30,062 --> 00:41:31,321
[gunshot cracks]
- Ooh!
995
00:41:31,405 --> 00:41:32,730
- [Bleep],
all right, that's loud.
996
00:41:32,823 --> 00:41:34,407
- It's supposed to switch over
to the other one.
997
00:41:34,492 --> 00:41:36,317
- I don't know if
this is--if this is--
998
00:41:36,410 --> 00:41:37,577
[gunshot cracks]
- Okay, all right.
999
00:41:37,661 --> 00:41:39,412
- Got it, now.
1000
00:41:39,497 --> 00:41:41,748
[gunshots crack]
1001
00:41:42,583 --> 00:41:43,917
- Somebody else is gonna
have to go, though, yeah.
1002
00:41:44,076 --> 00:41:45,576
- We're easing in.
1003
00:41:45,661 --> 00:41:46,744
- Yeah, I'm just gonna
watch for a little bit--
1004
00:41:46,837 --> 00:41:48,421
- Me too.
1005
00:41:48,506 --> 00:41:49,664
- At a safe distance and you
guys kind of do the thing.
1006
00:41:49,757 --> 00:41:51,341
- Yeah, yeah, that.
- I'll shoot another one.
1007
00:41:51,425 --> 00:41:53,343
[gunshots crack]
1008
00:41:53,502 --> 00:41:55,929
- I don't like
sudden loud noises so,
1009
00:41:56,013 --> 00:41:59,933
like, champagne bottles,
balloons.
1010
00:42:00,092 --> 00:42:02,176
It's like the anxiousness of,
like, waiting for that noise.
1011
00:42:02,261 --> 00:42:03,928
- Who's up?
1012
00:42:04,012 --> 00:42:06,272
- All right, Bao first.
1013
00:42:06,431 --> 00:42:08,107
- Where's the safety on this--
Oh, this is the safety.
1014
00:42:08,267 --> 00:42:09,433
- They should be the same.
1015
00:42:09,527 --> 00:42:11,611
- Safety.
1016
00:42:11,695 --> 00:42:13,530
Okay, it's not
gonna dislocate my shoulder?
1017
00:42:13,689 --> 00:42:15,657
- Careful, Bao.
- Your safety's still on.
1018
00:42:16,700 --> 00:42:18,368
- She's a badass.
1019
00:42:18,452 --> 00:42:19,953
- What am I shooting at?
1020
00:42:20,037 --> 00:42:21,862
- Just--just
get the feel for it first.
1021
00:42:21,947 --> 00:42:23,122
- Okay.
- Good luck!
1022
00:42:23,282 --> 00:42:24,832
- Just shoot into the air.
1023
00:42:26,618 --> 00:42:27,785
[gunshot cracks]
- Whoa!
1024
00:42:27,878 --> 00:42:29,295
[laughter]
1025
00:42:29,380 --> 00:42:30,380
- Okay, maybe
it does kick a little.
1026
00:42:30,464 --> 00:42:31,706
- Oh, you can feel it.
1027
00:42:31,790 --> 00:42:33,457
- You okay?
- Yeah.
1028
00:42:33,542 --> 00:42:35,802
- I'm here skeet shooting
for the first time.
1029
00:42:35,961 --> 00:42:39,722
I've always wanted to do it,
so this is my opportunity.
1030
00:42:39,881 --> 00:42:42,058
I'm gonna live it up,
I'm gonna enjoy it.
1031
00:42:42,142 --> 00:42:43,643
Oh, there's a bug on me.
1032
00:42:43,802 --> 00:42:46,312
- You got a gun, you shouldn't
be worried about a bug.
1033
00:42:46,397 --> 00:42:47,897
- It won't--okay.
1034
00:42:49,224 --> 00:42:51,985
- This is, like,
funny and frightening
1035
00:42:52,069 --> 00:42:53,561
at the same time.
1036
00:42:53,654 --> 00:42:54,729
My hands are getting clammy.
1037
00:42:54,822 --> 00:42:56,406
- Mine are, too,
honestly, Johnny.
1038
00:42:58,325 --> 00:42:59,734
- Oh, it's not going.
1039
00:42:59,818 --> 00:43:00,985
[gunshot cracks]
- Oh!
1040
00:43:01,078 --> 00:43:02,579
- Oh, my God.
1041
00:43:02,663 --> 00:43:04,071
- What happened?
1042
00:43:04,164 --> 00:43:05,489
- I'm gonna die here today.
1043
00:43:05,574 --> 00:43:07,250
- Okay, let me know when.
1044
00:43:07,334 --> 00:43:09,502
- Bao is
so adventurous and she's
1045
00:43:09,587 --> 00:43:11,421
willing to try anything
that's thrown in her path.
1046
00:43:11,505 --> 00:43:14,749
It was fun watching. Yeah.
1047
00:43:14,833 --> 00:43:17,051
- You good?
- Okay.
1048
00:43:19,013 --> 00:43:20,254
[gunshot cracks]
- Did not hit it.
1049
00:43:20,339 --> 00:43:22,340
- Oh.
- Do it again.
1050
00:43:22,433 --> 00:43:23,433
I wish there would
have been more people
1051
00:43:23,592 --> 00:43:26,519
shooting today
than just Bao and I.
1052
00:43:26,678 --> 00:43:28,771
I didn't see that coming.
1053
00:43:28,856 --> 00:43:31,432
Brett completely shut down,
I don't know what happened
1054
00:43:31,516 --> 00:43:34,268
there, but that was
a little disappointing.
1055
00:43:34,361 --> 00:43:37,614
I wanted this to be something
we both want and do together.
1056
00:43:37,773 --> 00:43:38,865
- Ryan, I thought
you did this before?
1057
00:43:39,024 --> 00:43:41,284
- I've done this a lot.
1058
00:43:41,443 --> 00:43:42,943
- Do you feel
a little disappointed
1059
00:43:43,037 --> 00:43:44,954
in how this has played out?
1060
00:43:45,113 --> 00:43:46,122
- I definitely do--
[gunshots crack]
1061
00:43:46,281 --> 00:43:48,616
And I think he does,
too, of course.
1062
00:43:48,700 --> 00:43:51,711
[gunshots crack]
- Nope.
1063
00:43:51,795 --> 00:43:54,038
- We dove into, like,
really deep conversations early
1064
00:43:54,131 --> 00:43:55,873
without being ready
for those conversations
1065
00:43:55,966 --> 00:43:57,375
and being equipped
with, like, the right tools
1066
00:43:57,459 --> 00:43:59,710
to have those conversations.
- Absolutely.
1067
00:43:59,803 --> 00:44:03,297
- It seems like the root
of a lot of our problems are
1068
00:44:03,382 --> 00:44:06,550
we don't trust each other,
we have bad communication.
1069
00:44:06,644 --> 00:44:10,221
- I feel like,
not exactly the same because I
1070
00:44:10,314 --> 00:44:13,641
feel like we're always civil,
I don't think we've
1071
00:44:13,725 --> 00:44:18,229
had the--the fighting
that you guys have had,
1072
00:44:18,322 --> 00:44:20,156
but we have the opposite
of that which is like a--
1073
00:44:20,240 --> 00:44:21,982
[gunshots crack]
1074
00:44:22,076 --> 00:44:25,495
- Which is, like,
no conversation.
1075
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:28,572
- Are you--are you at a point
where you think you need more
1076
00:44:28,666 --> 00:44:30,333
of that and that'll--that'll
resolve things?
1077
00:44:30,492 --> 00:44:34,420
- More fighting?
- No, more conversation.
1078
00:44:35,172 --> 00:44:36,339
- Definitely more conversation.
1079
00:44:36,423 --> 00:44:37,757
[gunshot cracks]
1080
00:44:37,841 --> 00:44:40,167
- What's your--I guess
what's the best case
1081
00:44:40,260 --> 00:44:41,678
scenario,
everything goes according
1082
00:44:41,837 --> 00:44:43,596
to the way
that you want it to go?
1083
00:44:43,681 --> 00:44:49,018
- That we are able to be
more honest with each other
1084
00:44:49,103 --> 00:44:51,688
and, like,
say how we really feel.
1085
00:44:51,847 --> 00:44:52,605
- That sounds
like a conversation
1086
00:44:52,764 --> 00:44:54,098
y'all should have.
1087
00:44:54,182 --> 00:44:58,528
- I think I tried to,
but he's not direct.
1088
00:44:58,687 --> 00:45:00,187
- So he's, like,
beating around the bush?
1089
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:01,781
- A little bit, a little bit.
1090
00:45:01,865 --> 00:45:05,693
[gunshots crack]
1091
00:45:05,777 --> 00:45:10,790
- Ugh!
- I can't hit it.
1092
00:45:10,874 --> 00:45:11,791
♪ I wanna run ♪
1093
00:45:11,950 --> 00:45:12,625
♪ Somewhere brand-new ♪
1094
00:45:12,710 --> 00:45:14,210
♪ Ooh, new ♪
1095
00:45:14,294 --> 00:45:16,787
♪ Oh ♪
1096
00:45:16,872 --> 00:45:17,964
♪ ♪
1097
00:45:18,048 --> 00:45:19,549
- What's up, Ryan?
1098
00:45:22,720 --> 00:45:25,805
- I guess I need to hear
from you, like, what you think
1099
00:45:25,889 --> 00:45:30,226
is the best plan of action
for us to do going forward.
1100
00:45:32,312 --> 00:45:35,639
I mean, why are you here,
why am I here?
1101
00:45:35,724 --> 00:45:37,150
- I mean, there's a part
of you that's just like,
1102
00:45:37,234 --> 00:45:38,568
let me just see.
1103
00:45:38,727 --> 00:45:39,977
Let me just see
if there's something different.
1104
00:45:40,070 --> 00:45:41,395
Let me just see if I feel
something different.
1105
00:45:41,488 --> 00:45:42,897
Let me see if he acts different
1106
00:45:42,990 --> 00:45:44,315
or if there's some type
of connection.
1107
00:45:44,399 --> 00:45:46,409
- Yeah.
1108
00:45:46,568 --> 00:45:49,320
- I mean, your actions say
you don't want to try,
1109
00:45:49,404 --> 00:45:51,998
your words are saying
you do want to try,
1110
00:45:52,157 --> 00:45:53,332
and they don't line up.
1111
00:45:53,417 --> 00:45:56,252
[tense music]
1112
00:45:56,411 --> 00:46:00,089
I mean, when you said
in front of Johnny and Bao
1113
00:46:00,248 --> 00:46:01,758
how you don't have a problem
sleeping with me
1114
00:46:01,842 --> 00:46:02,842
and you're gonna sleep--
We're gonna sleep
1115
00:46:02,926 --> 00:46:05,002
in the same room,
I was like, "What?"
1116
00:46:05,095 --> 00:46:07,346
♪ ♪
1117
00:46:07,431 --> 00:46:09,757
That didn't make sense to me.
1118
00:46:09,841 --> 00:46:11,842
We live in this apartment,
1119
00:46:11,927 --> 00:46:14,520
and we do not sleep
in the same bedroom.
1120
00:46:14,605 --> 00:46:16,439
And his reasoning
1121
00:46:16,523 --> 00:46:18,349
is all these things
about his sleep,
1122
00:46:18,442 --> 00:46:20,601
and there's no way
to not take that personally
1123
00:46:20,685 --> 00:46:26,023
when someone removes themselves
from your shared bedroom space.
1124
00:46:26,107 --> 00:46:29,702
So why on Earth would
I randomly just be like,
1125
00:46:29,861 --> 00:46:32,613
"Yeah, that seems chill, we're
gonna sleep in the same room"?
1126
00:46:32,706 --> 00:46:35,249
Why did you think
we were gonna do that?
1127
00:46:37,285 --> 00:46:40,037
- I don't know,
I went into this--I was
1128
00:46:40,121 --> 00:46:41,622
trying to be open about
this weekend and--
1129
00:46:41,715 --> 00:46:43,633
- But you
get how--how it's been,
1130
00:46:43,792 --> 00:46:45,543
and then just because
we're at this place,
1131
00:46:45,636 --> 00:46:47,428
we're gonna sleep in
the same room, all of a sudden?
1132
00:46:51,308 --> 00:46:53,300
- I was trying to be
an adult about it and,
1133
00:46:53,385 --> 00:46:55,645
clearly, that wasn't my
best option.
1134
00:46:55,804 --> 00:46:58,314
I can handle myself
in scenarios like that
1135
00:46:58,398 --> 00:47:00,066
to where I don't have
to make a scene about it,
1136
00:47:00,150 --> 00:47:02,643
and that's what we have now
is an absolute scene.
1137
00:47:02,736 --> 00:47:05,488
- We have an absolute scene,
you think?
1138
00:47:05,572 --> 00:47:06,897
- Well, yeah,
'cause--yeah, yeah we do.
1139
00:47:06,990 --> 00:47:08,566
- Why do you think that?
1140
00:47:08,650 --> 00:47:09,900
- I don't know how else--
You're gonna just---we're
1141
00:47:09,993 --> 00:47:11,661
having this conversation
right now because of it.
1142
00:47:16,491 --> 00:47:19,293
Yeah, I mean,
I don't know, I guess I...
1143
00:47:21,922 --> 00:47:28,594
Was looking for any time
to follow through
1144
00:47:28,679 --> 00:47:32,181
with what I said I was gonna do.
1145
00:47:34,259 --> 00:47:35,843
- You said that you
were looking forward
1146
00:47:35,927 --> 00:47:37,353
to being here
and being in your element.
1147
00:47:38,856 --> 00:47:43,609
- I said it could be
only positive for us,
1148
00:47:43,694 --> 00:47:48,281
and it was very quickly
the opposite of very positive.
1149
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:52,201
- You go negative so fast.
You think honesty is negative.
1150
00:47:54,195 --> 00:47:56,113
You say to call you out,
well, when I call you out,
1151
00:47:56,206 --> 00:47:59,041
this is what happens,
and that's the problem,
1152
00:47:59,126 --> 00:48:01,878
so I can't call you out
on your [bleep].
1153
00:48:07,208 --> 00:48:08,718
- Yeah.
1154
00:48:10,962 --> 00:48:14,390
- When someone
asks me for something,
1155
00:48:14,474 --> 00:48:17,977
or someone tells me
what their boundaries are,
1156
00:48:18,061 --> 00:48:22,899
I respect them to the point
of I ignore what I need.
1157
00:48:23,058 --> 00:48:26,560
So if you express to me
that you need patience,
1158
00:48:26,645 --> 00:48:29,572
if you express to me that
you need to sleep elsewhere,
1159
00:48:29,731 --> 00:48:32,483
I'm gonna give you that,
no holds barred,
1160
00:48:32,567 --> 00:48:35,411
you can have it all,
but what that does to me,
1161
00:48:35,495 --> 00:48:38,581
then, as a person,
eventually, is I break down.
1162
00:48:40,909 --> 00:48:42,910
And I broke.
1163
00:48:43,995 --> 00:48:46,672
I know that within my heart,
I was doing
1164
00:48:46,757 --> 00:48:50,834
everything under the sun to be
open, to have conversations,
1165
00:48:50,919 --> 00:48:54,430
to be sweet, to be what
I think a wife should be.
1166
00:48:56,174 --> 00:48:58,017
- And I acknowledge that
I wasn't a lot of those things.
1167
00:48:58,176 --> 00:49:00,102
- To give space, you know.
1168
00:49:01,846 --> 00:49:05,349
- If I would do anything
different, it would be to not
1169
00:49:05,433 --> 00:49:08,945
expect someone to take
my actions for what I
1170
00:49:09,029 --> 00:49:10,771
think they
should be perceived as,
1171
00:49:10,855 --> 00:49:14,441
because people
need different things.
1172
00:49:14,534 --> 00:49:16,285
I don't know what
the right thing to do is
1173
00:49:16,370 --> 00:49:18,454
at this point, as far as--
1174
00:49:18,613 --> 00:49:20,698
- The right thing to do
is what you feel.
1175
00:49:20,791 --> 00:49:24,702
- I'm still--I'm not
completely giving up on this,
1176
00:49:24,786 --> 00:49:27,538
I still know
what I want in life,
1177
00:49:27,631 --> 00:49:29,540
I know I want a wife,
none of that's changed.
1178
00:49:29,624 --> 00:49:32,459
They got me
an incredibly good person.
1179
00:49:32,544 --> 00:49:34,878
She's amazing in a lot of ways.
1180
00:49:34,963 --> 00:49:39,558
I'm just trying to stay
as open-minded as I--as I can,
1181
00:49:39,718 --> 00:49:42,645
and doing everything I can
for this marriage to work.
1182
00:49:44,305 --> 00:49:46,557
Yeah, we're
gonna go take a shot.
1183
00:49:46,641 --> 00:49:48,651
[laughs]
- You want to take a shot?
1184
00:49:48,735 --> 00:49:50,069
- [bleep] right,
we're taking a shot.
1185
00:49:50,228 --> 00:49:51,729
- Okay, let's do it.
1186
00:49:51,813 --> 00:49:54,573
♪ ♪
1187
00:49:54,658 --> 00:49:56,325
- ♪ Can't steal my love ♪
1188
00:49:56,410 --> 00:49:57,994
♪ I'm living my faith ♪
1189
00:49:58,153 --> 00:50:00,663
- ♪ Today feels like
a walk in the park ♪
1190
00:50:00,747 --> 00:50:03,249
♪ I got this blank canvas,
wonder where I should start ♪
1191
00:50:03,333 --> 00:50:05,501
♪ Before the lights go on
I live my life in a dark ♪
1192
00:50:05,660 --> 00:50:07,077
- Like, when you think
about marriage, like,
1193
00:50:07,162 --> 00:50:08,587
what is your idea?
1194
00:50:08,672 --> 00:50:11,340
- My idea of marriage
is it's just like a situation
1195
00:50:11,425 --> 00:50:13,676
in which I'm very,
very happy most of the time.
1196
00:50:13,835 --> 00:50:15,169
I understand
there's ups and downs,
1197
00:50:15,253 --> 00:50:17,430
I understand
there will be conflict,
1198
00:50:17,514 --> 00:50:20,099
but it's a situation in which
I'm happy a lot of the time.
1199
00:50:20,258 --> 00:50:22,426
That's--that's, simply put,
that's what I view marriage as.
1200
00:50:22,510 --> 00:50:24,103
- And that's the thing
that you need, right?
1201
00:50:24,187 --> 00:50:27,023
Like, you need a consistent,
like, feeling.
1202
00:50:27,107 --> 00:50:29,859
- From my perspective with us,
like, I don't know,
1203
00:50:29,943 --> 00:50:32,269
I feel like my feelings
have been consistent.
1204
00:50:32,353 --> 00:50:34,438
I think I've been pretty
consistent, though,
1205
00:50:34,522 --> 00:50:36,532
this whole relationship.
- Mm-hmm, you have.
1206
00:50:36,616 --> 00:50:38,776
- Whereas you,
I feel like it just fluctuates.
1207
00:50:38,860 --> 00:50:40,360
- Because I'm trying,
I think I'm the only
1208
00:50:40,454 --> 00:50:43,947
one trying to--to make
something better.
1209
00:50:44,032 --> 00:50:46,292
- Hold up, hold up.
- No, no, no, listen to me.
1210
00:50:46,376 --> 00:50:47,951
Week two, you shut down
this relationship,
1211
00:50:48,036 --> 00:50:49,453
and you'll admit it.
1212
00:50:49,537 --> 00:50:51,213
- Wait, hold up, sorry,
you said didn't try?
1213
00:50:51,298 --> 00:50:53,049
- If you've been
on a consistent feeling
1214
00:50:53,208 --> 00:50:55,217
since week two, how could you
have tried?
1215
00:50:55,302 --> 00:50:56,385
- If you don't know by now
1216
00:50:56,544 --> 00:50:57,970
how I felt,
or how I've done this,
1217
00:50:58,055 --> 00:50:59,379
or how much effort I've given,
then you just won't know.
1218
00:50:59,464 --> 00:51:01,724
- Again, back to, like,
1219
00:51:01,883 --> 00:51:03,225
what we talked about
last night, like,
1220
00:51:03,384 --> 00:51:05,227
we already know what's
happening with us,
1221
00:51:05,312 --> 00:51:06,887
we already do.
1222
00:51:06,971 --> 00:51:09,807
You and I have already decided
what the end goal is.
1223
00:51:09,891 --> 00:51:11,725
- Even though Michaela
and I talk through our issues
1224
00:51:11,810 --> 00:51:14,070
and things are feeling better
for us, last night we had
1225
00:51:14,229 --> 00:51:15,488
a conversation about how
neither of us
1226
00:51:15,647 --> 00:51:17,406
feels like ourselves,
1227
00:51:17,491 --> 00:51:19,316
and we decided that
the best thing for us
1228
00:51:19,409 --> 00:51:21,318
would be to get a divorce,
and then take a break,
1229
00:51:21,402 --> 00:51:22,820
come back together, and see
if there's something there.
1230
00:51:22,913 --> 00:51:24,988
♪ ♪
1231
00:51:25,082 --> 00:51:27,991
- Marriage is a lot more work
than we expected,
1232
00:51:28,085 --> 00:51:31,161
and perhaps we do have
a little bit more inner work
1233
00:51:31,254 --> 00:51:33,172
that we didn't expect.
1234
00:51:33,331 --> 00:51:36,092
- I don't agree with, like,
marriage is more work than I
1235
00:51:36,251 --> 00:51:38,761
thought it was going to be,
that's not true.
1236
00:51:38,845 --> 00:51:42,932
Marriage with you was
way more work than I thought
1237
00:51:43,091 --> 00:51:45,175
it would be,
that's a big difference.
1238
00:51:45,260 --> 00:51:46,760
- Okay.
1239
00:51:46,845 --> 00:51:49,680
- So I just want to make
sure that we're clear on that.
1240
00:51:49,773 --> 00:51:51,849
It's, like, I'm not like
this naive guy that's like,
1241
00:51:51,933 --> 00:51:53,684
"Oh, it's gonna be rainbows
and butterflies
1242
00:51:53,768 --> 00:51:55,111
all the time,
it's not gonna be hard work."
1243
00:51:55,195 --> 00:51:58,188
No, I understand marriage
is hard work, but when you say
1244
00:51:58,273 --> 00:52:01,534
like, it's harder work than
we expected, that's because
1245
00:52:01,618 --> 00:52:04,945
of our situation, not
because of marriage, the title.
1246
00:52:05,038 --> 00:52:10,376
- Yeah, so let me ask you this,
if marriage with me is so hard,
1247
00:52:10,460 --> 00:52:11,961
then why even continue
1248
00:52:12,045 --> 00:52:13,879
any kind of relationship
after this?
1249
00:52:14,038 --> 00:52:15,297
- If we got a divorce, right,
1250
00:52:15,382 --> 00:52:16,540
then we wouldn't be
married anymore,
1251
00:52:16,633 --> 00:52:18,384
so then we would
be in different circumstances,
1252
00:52:18,468 --> 00:52:20,636
so we'd see what happens then,
that's why.
1253
00:52:22,630 --> 00:52:24,974
- I can't, I can't,
I can't, I'm sorry,
1254
00:52:25,133 --> 00:52:28,811
[laughing]
I [bleep] can't, I can't!
1255
00:52:28,895 --> 00:52:31,638
Yo, like, I can't
make this [bleep] up!
1256
00:52:31,731 --> 00:52:33,566
He literally just said, like,
1257
00:52:33,650 --> 00:52:36,143
"Oh, it would be
the different circumstance."
1258
00:52:36,227 --> 00:52:38,478
- My issue is this reaction.
1259
00:52:38,563 --> 00:52:40,898
This has been my issue
since day one
1260
00:52:40,982 --> 00:52:43,325
and I'm literally, like,
there is no way this is
1261
00:52:43,410 --> 00:52:45,327
happening to me, like,
this cannot be real.
1262
00:52:45,412 --> 00:52:48,914
- So whether we're married
or not, why would we even
1263
00:52:48,999 --> 00:52:50,249
be in a relationship?
1264
00:52:50,333 --> 00:52:53,002
Because I am still me.
1265
00:52:53,086 --> 00:52:56,255
- Inner me is just like,
"Zack, why are you here?"
1266
00:52:56,339 --> 00:52:59,091
I'm starting to get mad.
1267
00:52:59,176 --> 00:53:03,012
- We get divorced, you think
you'd be happy after that?
1268
00:53:03,096 --> 00:53:05,923
- Yes, because we would not be
married anymore, so then we can
1269
00:53:06,016 --> 00:53:08,100
work on a relationship
outside of this process--
1270
00:53:08,185 --> 00:53:09,927
- So who--who--
1271
00:53:10,011 --> 00:53:12,262
- I'm sorry,
so not like--just hear me out.
1272
00:53:12,347 --> 00:53:13,606
- Okay.
1273
00:53:13,690 --> 00:53:14,848
- We talked about this
exact conversation.
1274
00:53:14,941 --> 00:53:16,516
- We did.
- What's changed now?
1275
00:53:16,601 --> 00:53:18,018
This is like--
- No, no, no!
1276
00:53:18,111 --> 00:53:19,695
- This is why my head hurts.
1277
00:53:19,854 --> 00:53:22,773
- No, no, no,
do you think that removing
1278
00:53:22,866 --> 00:53:26,535
marriage from that would
change the person that I am,
1279
00:53:26,620 --> 00:53:28,111
'cause that's the zenith
of it all.
1280
00:53:28,196 --> 00:53:29,788
- In this process--
1281
00:53:29,873 --> 00:53:32,625
- Are you ready for marriage?
1282
00:53:32,784 --> 00:53:34,534
Answer the question, yes or no.
- Yes, I'm ready for marriage.
1283
00:53:34,628 --> 00:53:36,712
- Are you ready
for marriage with me?
1284
00:53:39,540 --> 00:53:41,959
- In this process,
absolutely not.
1285
00:53:42,043 --> 00:53:46,463
- ♪ Where do you see
this going ♪
1286
00:53:46,547 --> 00:53:49,975
♪ Where do you see
your life heading ♪
1287
00:53:50,060 --> 00:53:52,469
- I've been ready for marriage
since I was 17 years old.
1288
00:53:52,562 --> 00:53:54,972
Was I ready to do this,
get married at first sight
1289
00:53:55,056 --> 00:53:57,391
to Michaela Iman Clark?
1290
00:53:57,475 --> 00:53:59,726
No.
1291
00:53:59,811 --> 00:54:01,820
I have no more energy,
I have no more time to spend--
1292
00:54:01,905 --> 00:54:04,156
- Then get up and go--
Then get up and go.
1293
00:54:04,241 --> 00:54:05,908
- Okay, thank you.
- All right.
1294
00:54:05,992 --> 00:54:07,243
- Like, I can't.
1295
00:54:07,402 --> 00:54:08,151
I wish I could,
but I can't give no more.
1296
00:54:08,236 --> 00:54:09,653
- Yeah, bye.
1297
00:54:09,746 --> 00:54:14,157
- ♪ I'm so done,
I'm so done chasing you ♪
1298
00:54:14,834 --> 00:54:17,244
♪ I'm so done, I'm so done
chasing you ♪
1299
00:54:17,328 --> 00:54:19,922
- Damn.
I can't stand this [bleep].
1300
00:54:20,006 --> 00:54:21,915
- ♪ I'm so done,
I'm so done chasing you ♪
1301
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:23,425
♪ I'm so done chasing ♪
1302
00:54:23,584 --> 00:54:31,584
♪ I'm so done, I'm so done
chasing ♪
1303
00:54:32,343 --> 00:54:33,343
- Are you okay?
1304
00:54:33,436 --> 00:54:35,595
What happened?
1305
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:40,109
- Last night, Zack literally
said that marriage--
1306
00:54:40,193 --> 00:54:45,272
He is not ready for marriage
and he needs to work on him,
1307
00:54:45,356 --> 00:54:47,190
and that's why
he's not ready for it.
1308
00:54:47,284 --> 00:54:49,609
- I thought you guys
were on the same page.
1309
00:54:49,694 --> 00:54:52,204
- We told everyone last night
that we were good.
1310
00:54:52,289 --> 00:54:55,365
We were, at that moment,
in a good space.
1311
00:54:55,458 --> 00:55:00,704
Honestly, looking back,
I feel like maybe Zack was
1312
00:55:00,797 --> 00:55:04,124
just putting up a front
because his behavior today
1313
00:55:04,208 --> 00:55:07,886
is different than what
we talked about before.
1314
00:55:07,971 --> 00:55:11,640
Now, just now,
he remixed the story,
1315
00:55:11,725 --> 00:55:15,218
and he was like, "No,
I'm ready for marriage,
1316
00:55:15,303 --> 00:55:17,637
but I'm not ready
for marriage with you."
1317
00:55:17,722 --> 00:55:20,390
♪ ♪
1318
00:55:20,483 --> 00:55:22,568
- I honestly, think your
egos are getting in the way.
1319
00:55:22,652 --> 00:55:25,154
- I think so.
1320
00:55:25,313 --> 00:55:26,813
- You know,
when love is in the picture,
1321
00:55:26,898 --> 00:55:28,815
I don't think you should
let that get in the way,
1322
00:55:28,900 --> 00:55:31,410
and I know you're feeling
like you need more,
1323
00:55:31,494 --> 00:55:33,320
and it's fair
for you to share that,
1324
00:55:33,404 --> 00:55:36,498
but I don't think you should
punish him for not being ready.
1325
00:55:38,159 --> 00:55:42,588
He might not be on your same
timeframe, but if he's already
1326
00:55:42,747 --> 00:55:45,332
at love, that's a lot farther
than a lot of us are.
1327
00:55:45,416 --> 00:55:46,508
- Yeah.
1328
00:55:48,503 --> 00:55:51,838
I do have abandonment issues,
and he knew this about me.
1329
00:55:51,923 --> 00:55:55,842
- Okay, so he is not
behaving the way you prefer,
1330
00:55:55,927 --> 00:55:57,427
but he is still
in the relationship, is he not?
1331
00:55:57,520 --> 00:55:59,104
- Yes.
1332
00:55:59,189 --> 00:56:01,357
- Okay, so why would
you push him away?
1333
00:56:01,441 --> 00:56:03,692
- ♪ No lies ♪
1334
00:56:03,851 --> 00:56:06,362
♪ We know this won't work,
love ♪
1335
00:56:06,446 --> 00:56:08,781
♪ Oh, no ♪
1336
00:56:08,865 --> 00:56:10,282
- It's--the easy thing
is to quit,
1337
00:56:10,367 --> 00:56:12,159
the harder
thing is to work at it.
1338
00:56:13,611 --> 00:56:15,120
- Yeah.
1339
00:56:15,205 --> 00:56:17,956
- ♪ All I ever
really wanted ♪
1340
00:56:18,116 --> 00:56:20,876
♪ Was you ♪
1341
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:22,294
- Thank you.
1342
00:56:24,956 --> 00:56:29,301
♪ ♪
1343
00:56:38,636 --> 00:56:40,729
- Can we play Up?
1344
00:56:40,814 --> 00:56:42,889
Bao helped me come to a place
where I'm ready to have
1345
00:56:42,974 --> 00:56:46,985
a conversation with Zack,
and so going forward
1346
00:56:47,070 --> 00:56:50,063
on the retreat, I do
want to continue to have fun,
1347
00:56:50,148 --> 00:56:54,159
and I'm going to stop
self-sabotaging, as she said,
1348
00:56:54,318 --> 00:56:57,746
and I'm really just gonna try
to be better as best as I can.
1349
00:56:57,831 --> 00:57:00,249
If we really love each other,
if the love is true,
1350
00:57:00,333 --> 00:57:02,826
then we should try to make
it work, I will 100% agree.
1351
00:57:02,919 --> 00:57:07,330
- Okay, we are going
to play a game, okay?
1352
00:57:07,424 --> 00:57:10,843
So I need everybody
to move into this area
1353
00:57:10,927 --> 00:57:12,836
and have a seat on this bench.
1354
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:16,098
Listen, I love being
in charge of the game
1355
00:57:16,257 --> 00:57:18,267
because it's kind
of like in my wheelhouse.
1356
00:57:18,351 --> 00:57:20,010
Y'all remember, like,
the high school yearbook, like,
1357
00:57:20,103 --> 00:57:22,429
most likely to succeed,
most likely to be a model,
1358
00:57:22,513 --> 00:57:25,357
most likely to whatever,
that's what we're doing.
1359
00:57:25,516 --> 00:57:27,443
- Okay, so no one wins?
1360
00:57:27,527 --> 00:57:29,352
- No one wins.
1361
00:57:29,437 --> 00:57:31,438
I know that not everybody's
in the best place in their
1362
00:57:31,522 --> 00:57:33,857
marriage and in their
relationships, but I think
1363
00:57:33,950 --> 00:57:36,276
with this group of people,
we're all just, like,
1364
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:37,944
willing to just make
fun of each other
1365
00:57:38,029 --> 00:57:39,788
and it's no hard feelings.
1366
00:57:39,873 --> 00:57:41,698
The game is called
1367
00:57:41,782 --> 00:57:45,702
Married At First Sight
Most Likely, okay?
1368
00:57:45,786 --> 00:57:47,713
- Got it, let's start.
1369
00:57:47,797 --> 00:57:49,631
- Who do y'all think
is the most likely
1370
00:57:49,716 --> 00:57:51,374
to have kids first?
1371
00:57:51,459 --> 00:57:54,052
- Oh. Oh.
- Oh, that's easy.
1372
00:57:54,212 --> 00:57:56,296
- I don't know.
1373
00:57:56,380 --> 00:57:58,715
[laughter]
1374
00:57:58,799 --> 00:58:01,218
- But you can't have kids,
you're a man.
1375
00:58:01,302 --> 00:58:02,886
- All right, three, two, one.
1376
00:58:02,970 --> 00:58:04,396
- Oh, my gosh.
- Ah!
1377
00:58:04,481 --> 00:58:07,224
- Oh, my God,
I think it's unanimous.
1378
00:58:07,308 --> 00:58:08,901
- Rachel, you even said "me."
1379
00:58:09,060 --> 00:58:11,487
- Wow, that was unanimous.
1380
00:58:11,571 --> 00:58:12,738
- So maybe thank you?
1381
00:58:12,822 --> 00:58:14,990
I don't know
how I feel about that.
1382
00:58:16,651 --> 00:58:18,994
- Most likely to end up
in rehab.
1383
00:58:19,078 --> 00:58:20,820
[laughter]
1384
00:58:20,905 --> 00:58:23,665
- There were some shady
questions in there.
1385
00:58:23,750 --> 00:58:26,076
Three, two, one, go.
1386
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:27,252
- I spelled it wrong, but...
1387
00:58:27,337 --> 00:58:28,662
- What the hell!
1388
00:58:28,746 --> 00:58:30,005
[laughter]
1389
00:58:30,089 --> 00:58:31,673
- Hey, what the hell?
1390
00:58:33,501 --> 00:58:35,669
[indistinct shouting]
1391
00:58:35,753 --> 00:58:38,004
- So it seems like Johnny was
the majority answer and I think
1392
00:58:38,089 --> 00:58:39,848
it was because yesterday
you did this little--[sniffs]
1393
00:58:39,933 --> 00:58:42,926
- Yeah--hey, yeah!
1394
00:58:43,844 --> 00:58:46,021
- I was joking,
I don't do drugs!
1395
00:58:49,100 --> 00:58:51,276
- Yeah, wow.
1396
00:58:51,361 --> 00:58:54,354
- Hey, look,
if everyone doesn't have
1397
00:58:54,438 --> 00:58:56,365
the same answer to this,
I'm walking out the door.
1398
00:58:57,525 --> 00:58:58,942
- That's a lot of pressure.
1399
00:58:59,035 --> 00:59:02,037
- No pressure, most likely
to leave a party early.
1400
00:59:02,121 --> 00:59:03,372
- Oh, that's easy.
1401
00:59:03,456 --> 00:59:04,623
- That's not easy.
1402
00:59:04,707 --> 00:59:05,958
- She wants to leave right now.
1403
00:59:06,042 --> 00:59:07,876
- Most likely
to leave a party early?
1404
00:59:07,961 --> 00:59:09,786
- Come on.
1405
00:59:09,870 --> 00:59:10,787
- You wanna start right here?
1406
00:59:10,871 --> 00:59:12,122
- Yeah, go ahead, Bao, Myrla.
1407
00:59:12,206 --> 00:59:14,374
- Myrla.
1408
00:59:14,458 --> 00:59:16,635
♪ ♪
1409
00:59:16,794 --> 00:59:19,054
- That is 1,000% accurate.
1410
00:59:19,138 --> 00:59:21,056
[laughter]
1411
00:59:21,140 --> 00:59:23,392
- Princesa!
1412
00:59:23,476 --> 00:59:26,469
- When I've had my quota,
like, I'm done, deuces.
1413
00:59:26,563 --> 00:59:28,722
- Next question!
1414
00:59:28,806 --> 00:59:32,317
Okay, most likely to be
a drama queen.
1415
00:59:32,476 --> 00:59:34,736
- Hold up.
- Come on.
1416
00:59:35,479 --> 00:59:37,656
- I think
this is gonna be difficult.
1417
00:59:37,740 --> 00:59:40,400
- Mirror, mirror on the wall,
1418
00:59:40,484 --> 00:59:42,911
who's the biggest drama
queen of all?
1419
00:59:47,325 --> 00:59:49,242
- Johnny.
1420
00:59:49,327 --> 00:59:54,164
[laughter]
1421
00:59:54,257 --> 00:59:56,091
- My husband!
1422
00:59:58,002 --> 01:00:00,503
- Oh, my...
1423
01:00:00,588 --> 01:00:03,515
- Put a crown and everything.
1424
01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:06,518
- I'm sorry,
I shouldn't be making fun.
1425
01:00:06,603 --> 01:00:07,853
- So last round.
1426
01:00:07,937 --> 01:00:09,021
- We're gonna make
up our own question.
1427
01:00:09,105 --> 01:00:10,689
- Yeah, you can make
your own question.
1428
01:00:11,691 --> 01:00:13,516
- Most likely to be petty.
1429
01:00:13,601 --> 01:00:15,101
- Why'd you look at me?
1430
01:00:15,186 --> 01:00:16,612
- I didn't.
1431
01:00:16,771 --> 01:00:19,281
- Most likely to be petty--
Oh, that's easy.
1432
01:00:22,443 --> 01:00:23,693
- Ooh, who wants to go first?
1433
01:00:23,778 --> 01:00:26,121
- I'll go,
I said Rachel or Ryan.
1434
01:00:26,205 --> 01:00:29,124
- Ooh, I said my wife.
1435
01:00:29,208 --> 01:00:31,701
- She acknowledges it.
1436
01:00:31,794 --> 01:00:34,296
- But I love her.
1437
01:00:34,380 --> 01:00:36,632
- I said Michaela.
1438
01:00:36,716 --> 01:00:38,124
- Michaela.
1439
01:00:38,209 --> 01:00:39,626
- Michaela.
1440
01:00:39,710 --> 01:00:42,712
- She seems like a very
vindictive and--
1441
01:00:42,797 --> 01:00:46,475
And thought out person, like,
I don't think she'll just--
1442
01:00:46,559 --> 01:00:49,061
If she's gonna get back at you,
I feel like she's
1443
01:00:49,145 --> 01:00:51,137
taking batteries
out the smoke alarm.
1444
01:00:51,222 --> 01:00:52,472
[laughter]
1445
01:00:52,556 --> 01:00:55,809
- That type of petty--
Petty, petty.
1446
01:00:55,893 --> 01:00:58,144
- [squeals]
1447
01:00:58,229 --> 01:01:00,563
- I'll take the [bleep]
baseboards.
1448
01:01:00,657 --> 01:01:01,823
- Ice cube tray.
1449
01:01:01,908 --> 01:01:02,982
- [bleep] with me
if you want to.
1450
01:01:03,067 --> 01:01:03,992
[laughter]
1451
01:01:05,403 --> 01:01:06,903
- She wanted a baseboard.
1452
01:01:06,987 --> 01:01:09,072
- I voted for Michaela
as being petty
1453
01:01:09,156 --> 01:01:10,573
because she actually is.
1454
01:01:10,667 --> 01:01:11,991
- Petty.
1455
01:01:12,076 --> 01:01:13,835
- You thought you wanted
dishwasher detergent.
1456
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:15,662
You got a little agitator.
1457
01:01:15,746 --> 01:01:17,664
Yeah, you thought that
you wanted that to spin.
1458
01:01:17,748 --> 01:01:19,424
- That was a great example
of how petty she is.
1459
01:01:19,509 --> 01:01:20,834
Like, to me,
that's category five,
1460
01:01:20,918 --> 01:01:22,836
and that's not what I want
in a marriage.
1461
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:29,476
♪ ♪
1462
01:01:31,679 --> 01:01:33,513
- So a very eventful day.
1463
01:01:33,606 --> 01:01:35,023
- I gotta check on my campfire.
1464
01:01:35,108 --> 01:01:36,692
- I'm tired.
1465
01:01:39,770 --> 01:01:43,198
♪ ♪
1466
01:01:43,282 --> 01:01:45,117
- Oh, we got a fire.
1467
01:01:45,201 --> 01:01:47,193
- Wanna sit and roll,
just chill?
1468
01:01:47,278 --> 01:01:52,332
♪ ♪
1469
01:02:11,728 --> 01:02:14,187
- So what'd you think of today?
1470
01:02:16,140 --> 01:02:17,482
- The conversation we
had earlier, it was just
1471
01:02:17,567 --> 01:02:19,225
kind of, like,
unacceptable for me.
1472
01:02:19,310 --> 01:02:20,560
- Okay.
1473
01:02:20,644 --> 01:02:21,737
- So I just can no longer
put myself in those
1474
01:02:21,896 --> 01:02:24,906
situations, that's not
who I am, so yeah.
1475
01:02:29,412 --> 01:02:31,738
- I understand out there
on the patio we were
1476
01:02:31,822 --> 01:02:33,907
talking and we're trying
to figure things out.
1477
01:02:33,991 --> 01:02:36,326
I had a long talk with Bao,
me and Bao, like,
1478
01:02:36,410 --> 01:02:37,911
we had a great conversation,
1479
01:02:38,004 --> 01:02:39,671
and I really connected with her.
1480
01:02:39,756 --> 01:02:41,590
We came back in and we
talked to the other couples,
1481
01:02:41,749 --> 01:02:43,759
it seemed like we were
having a great time.
1482
01:02:43,843 --> 01:02:46,085
- So my thing is, like,
I realized during that
1483
01:02:46,170 --> 01:02:47,587
conversation, like,
I've always thought this.
1484
01:02:47,671 --> 01:02:49,172
- During what conversation?
Be specific.
1485
01:02:49,256 --> 01:02:50,423
- The last one we had outside.
1486
01:02:50,508 --> 01:02:51,925
- Okay.
1487
01:02:52,009 --> 01:02:53,343
- I've always kind
of thought this, but like,
1488
01:02:53,427 --> 01:02:56,346
the things you were saying,
were just like--
1489
01:02:56,439 --> 01:02:58,064
It's like--it's like you're
two different Michaelas.
1490
01:03:00,851 --> 01:03:03,436
It's like you forget stuff
that we've talked about.
1491
01:03:03,521 --> 01:03:06,606
- So what's wrong now,
not going back to anything
1492
01:03:06,690 --> 01:03:09,034
because I haven't done
anything to you since.
1493
01:03:09,118 --> 01:03:10,693
- These conversations
don't help,
1494
01:03:10,778 --> 01:03:12,120
like, it's time to move
on--let's move on.
1495
01:03:12,205 --> 01:03:14,623
- That's what I'm saying,
like, you can literally,
1496
01:03:14,707 --> 01:03:16,616
like go home tonight.
1497
01:03:16,700 --> 01:03:21,046
[tense music]
1498
01:03:21,130 --> 01:03:23,957
- I honestly wish I would have
driven up here by myself
1499
01:03:24,041 --> 01:03:27,385
because I figured you'd
do [bleep] like this,
1500
01:03:27,470 --> 01:03:29,546
that way I wouldn't
have to, like,
1501
01:03:29,630 --> 01:03:31,047
figure out a way back home,
1502
01:03:31,140 --> 01:03:33,132
'cause I don't want
to ride back with you.
1503
01:03:33,217 --> 01:03:35,301
- Hold on, so wait,
so let me get this straight,
1504
01:03:35,386 --> 01:03:37,470
so you're not gonna ride
back with me tomorrow?
1505
01:03:37,555 --> 01:03:39,472
If that's the case,
I'm going to leave tonight.
1506
01:03:39,557 --> 01:03:40,565
- Good, bye.
1507
01:03:40,650 --> 01:03:41,566
- No, no,
I was making sure you're--
1508
01:03:41,725 --> 01:03:44,477
- Good, bye--bye.
1509
01:03:44,570 --> 01:03:45,987
- No, I came with you, I don't--
1510
01:03:46,146 --> 01:03:49,157
- Ah--go home now,
I'll find a way home.
1511
01:03:49,242 --> 01:03:50,742
- No, but we rode together,
I can't just, like, leave you.
1512
01:03:50,827 --> 01:03:52,661
- No, no,
I'm telling you right now,
1513
01:03:52,745 --> 01:03:56,322
I don't need you to take
me home, you can go, bye.
1514
01:03:56,407 --> 01:04:04,407
♪ ♪
1515
01:04:05,332 --> 01:04:06,165
I don't know what the [bleep]
1516
01:04:06,250 --> 01:04:07,509
happened tonight.
1517
01:04:07,593 --> 01:04:10,003
What did I do to you
to make you say you wanted
1518
01:04:10,087 --> 01:04:12,430
to, like, be done tonight?
1519
01:04:12,515 --> 01:04:14,424
- Just, like--
1520
01:04:14,508 --> 01:04:16,935
- Like, literally, we were
sitting out, there is literal
1521
01:04:17,019 --> 01:04:20,763
visual evidence of us cracking
up laughing during this.
1522
01:04:20,848 --> 01:04:22,682
- I know, so that must
mean I'm very serious when
1523
01:04:22,766 --> 01:04:24,183
I'm saying this right now.
1524
01:04:24,268 --> 01:04:25,944
- Yeah, that's why
I'm confused on why,
1525
01:04:26,103 --> 01:04:27,937
like, you come back here.
1526
01:04:28,022 --> 01:04:30,782
You come back here,
you're like, "I'll go home."
1527
01:04:30,941 --> 01:04:32,951
- You're telling me you don't
want to drive with me anymore,
1528
01:04:33,110 --> 01:04:37,447
so under that circumstance,
then I will leave tonight.
1529
01:04:37,540 --> 01:04:38,531
- But then you said,
"Well, I don't--I'm not--
1530
01:04:38,616 --> 01:04:40,116
I don't want to ride with you."
1531
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:41,376
So I was like, okay, well,
then if you have a ride back.
1532
01:04:41,460 --> 01:04:42,368
- I'm sorry,
I misunderstood, I thought
1533
01:04:42,461 --> 01:04:43,712
you were going home tonight.
1534
01:04:43,871 --> 01:04:44,880
- No, I'm not saying
I'm leaving tonight.
1535
01:04:45,039 --> 01:04:45,964
- Yeah, I can
ride with you back.
1536
01:04:46,048 --> 01:04:48,049
- You just said you wouldn't.
1537
01:04:48,208 --> 01:04:51,303
- So you--okay--so,
as I--no, no.
1538
01:04:51,462 --> 01:04:52,712
- I can't do this.
1539
01:04:52,796 --> 01:04:56,391
♪ ♪
1540
01:04:56,475 --> 01:05:00,645
- Actually, honestly speaking,
how about this--no, no,
1541
01:05:00,804 --> 01:05:02,898
honestly speaking, how about
this, I'll make it even easier.
1542
01:05:03,057 --> 01:05:05,233
Shut the [bleep] up
and let me talk.
1543
01:05:05,318 --> 01:05:06,476
How about this--how about this,
we'll make it
1544
01:05:06,560 --> 01:05:09,070
very [bleep] simple.
1545
01:05:09,229 --> 01:05:13,316
I will say it loud and clear:
you do not
1546
01:05:13,400 --> 01:05:15,234
have to worry about
taking me back home.
1547
01:05:15,328 --> 01:05:17,654
- What are you doing, dude?
1548
01:05:17,738 --> 01:05:21,249
- Hey sissy,
I am calling you to ask you if
1549
01:05:21,334 --> 01:05:23,493
you can pick me up
from Brenham, Texas tomorrow.
1550
01:05:23,586 --> 01:05:26,663
Zackary is having a problem;
I don't know what that
1551
01:05:26,747 --> 01:05:28,581
problem is,
we had a miscommunication--
1552
01:05:28,666 --> 01:05:30,083
Give me the phone, please.
1553
01:05:30,176 --> 01:05:31,250
- Who is this--is this Shareefa?
1554
01:05:31,335 --> 01:05:32,761
- It's Shareefa.
- What's happening?
1555
01:05:32,845 --> 01:05:35,004
- Okay, yeah,
so we had a conversation today,
1556
01:05:35,089 --> 01:05:37,682
it didn't, like, go to--it
wasn't the best conversation,
1557
01:05:37,767 --> 01:05:39,100
whatever, and I just realized,
1558
01:05:39,259 --> 01:05:42,178
like, I don't--like,
I can't, like,
1559
01:05:42,262 --> 01:05:44,522
I kind of reached my limit
with this whole conversations
1560
01:05:44,607 --> 01:05:46,265
and, you know, the same
thing over and over again.
1561
01:05:46,350 --> 01:05:48,610
But--but anyway,
Michaela will definitely
1562
01:05:48,694 --> 01:05:50,779
have a ride home,
I made that clear, but--
1563
01:05:50,863 --> 01:05:52,530
- And Shareefa,
that's the only reason
1564
01:05:52,690 --> 01:05:55,450
I called you; I only called you
to get a ride home.
1565
01:05:55,534 --> 01:05:56,618
- You understand ten minutes ago
1566
01:05:56,777 --> 01:05:57,702
you said you do want
to ride home with me
1567
01:05:57,787 --> 01:05:59,445
after I said all that stuff.
Please--
1568
01:05:59,530 --> 01:06:01,039
- When the [bleep] did I say
I wanted to ride home with you?
1569
01:06:01,123 --> 01:06:02,365
- Michaela...
1570
01:06:02,458 --> 01:06:05,460
♪ ♪
1571
01:06:05,619 --> 01:06:06,953
- Yeah, I can--I can
ride with you back.
1572
01:06:07,046 --> 01:06:08,254
I'm sorry, I misunderstood.
1573
01:06:10,958 --> 01:06:12,384
I rode here with you.
1574
01:06:12,468 --> 01:06:15,545
I do not need you to get home,
1575
01:06:15,629 --> 01:06:17,889
I don't, not one bit.
1576
01:06:17,974 --> 01:06:20,133
That is why I called my sister.
1577
01:06:20,217 --> 01:06:22,051
- Me leaving the couples retreat
1578
01:06:22,144 --> 01:06:24,137
is nothing more than me
just removing myself
1579
01:06:24,221 --> 01:06:26,564
from a situation
I don't want to be in.
1580
01:06:26,649 --> 01:06:28,808
You know, I'm looking
around just like thinking,
1581
01:06:28,892 --> 01:06:30,059
"How did I get here?"
1582
01:06:30,152 --> 01:06:33,146
Because, you know,
this is not what I wanted,
1583
01:06:33,230 --> 01:06:35,565
and this is not what I
expected marriage to be.
1584
01:06:35,658 --> 01:06:37,158
♪ ♪
1585
01:06:37,243 --> 01:06:39,327
- I definitely feel
miserable and I really
1586
01:06:39,486 --> 01:06:41,070
don't have nothing else to say.
1587
01:06:41,155 --> 01:06:43,748
I think I've tried everything
I could in this marriage
1588
01:06:43,907 --> 01:06:47,910
to work on us, myself,
but it's just not enough.
1589
01:06:48,004 --> 01:06:50,079
♪ ♪
1590
01:06:50,164 --> 01:06:52,582
- Like, I don't like who you
make--like, I don't like how
1591
01:06:52,666 --> 01:06:55,176
you make me feel
or, like, who I'm becoming.
1592
01:06:55,261 --> 01:06:57,754
I'm like,
I don't like myself right now,
1593
01:06:57,847 --> 01:07:01,007
and that's primarily
because of you, it sucks.
1594
01:07:01,091 --> 01:07:04,761
[tense music]
1595
01:07:04,854 --> 01:07:06,763
I have to trust my gut,
and my heart, and my mind,
1596
01:07:06,856 --> 01:07:09,024
I have to remove myself
from the situation.
1597
01:07:10,768 --> 01:07:12,610
- I don't want you to drive
out in the countryside,
1598
01:07:12,695 --> 01:07:14,854
it's not safe.
1599
01:07:14,938 --> 01:07:17,356
You're upset,
you're not thinking straight.
1600
01:07:17,441 --> 01:07:22,287
I think you should go to sleep,
take at least a nap,
1601
01:07:22,371 --> 01:07:24,706
wake up, and then go.
1602
01:07:24,790 --> 01:07:26,374
- Got it,
so you're saying I'm not
1603
01:07:26,533 --> 01:07:29,878
thinking straight,
what makes you say that?
1604
01:07:29,962 --> 01:07:33,882
- We're both tired,
it is now 10:30, 11:00 p.m.
1605
01:07:33,966 --> 01:07:39,971
All I'm saying is I, me,
I don't think you should.
1606
01:07:40,130 --> 01:07:41,798
You should go to sleep,
1607
01:07:41,891 --> 01:07:44,476
you can wake up in the morning,
and then go.
1608
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:47,062
- So I appreciate all that,
like, seriously, like,
1609
01:07:47,146 --> 01:07:49,806
thank you, that means a lot,
but I'm just, like,
1610
01:07:49,899 --> 01:07:54,310
I'm now finally just,
like, saying, like, enough.
1611
01:07:54,403 --> 01:07:55,904
Like, you know what I mean,
this is like--like as
1612
01:07:56,063 --> 01:07:57,396
soon as I get in my
car on the way home,
1613
01:07:57,481 --> 01:07:58,981
I'm like,
I will be unbelievably happy.
1614
01:07:59,075 --> 01:08:00,825
- So you do still plan
on going home tonight?
1615
01:08:00,984 --> 01:08:02,827
- Yes.
- Okay.
1616
01:08:02,912 --> 01:08:04,079
- Okay, so, what's up?
1617
01:08:04,163 --> 01:08:05,246
- But I want to ask you
to stay tonight.
1618
01:08:05,405 --> 01:08:06,572
- I know,
I hear you, I hear you.
1619
01:08:06,657 --> 01:08:09,000
- You don't have to sleep
in the room with me.
1620
01:08:09,159 --> 01:08:12,078
- This never was about that.
This never was about that.
1621
01:08:12,162 --> 01:08:14,005
Holy [bleep], Michaela,
1622
01:08:14,090 --> 01:08:15,423
this is, like, too much, dude,
1623
01:08:15,582 --> 01:08:16,758
this is, like,
too much, come on.
1624
01:08:16,842 --> 01:08:19,585
- Then go the [bleep] home.
- Thank you, damn.
1625
01:08:19,670 --> 01:08:21,429
- There he goes, [bleep].
1626
01:08:23,265 --> 01:08:28,177
Dumbass, leaving here
at 11:00, to do what?
1627
01:08:28,262 --> 01:08:30,513
Go to Houston?
The [bleep] is in Houston?
1628
01:08:30,597 --> 01:08:32,515
You can't sleep in that
bedroom right now?
1629
01:08:32,608 --> 01:08:34,442
- Mm-hmm.
1630
01:08:41,108 --> 01:08:43,868
- Maybe I'll go like that.
Remember that?
1631
01:08:43,953 --> 01:08:45,620
Kick it to the wall like this.
1632
01:08:45,779 --> 01:08:47,038
Remember not having
to start this?
1633
01:08:47,123 --> 01:08:49,031
- I'm just about to leave.
- Yeah.
1634
01:08:49,116 --> 01:08:54,203
- [indistinct muttering]
1635
01:08:54,288 --> 01:08:55,463
[door slams]
1636
01:08:55,548 --> 01:08:56,789
Please,
I'm just trying to leave,
1637
01:08:56,874 --> 01:08:57,790
now you're making it
harder for me to drive.
1638
01:08:57,883 --> 01:08:59,467
See, now you pushing on the bed.
1639
01:08:59,552 --> 01:09:02,545
- Go to [bleep] sleep,
go to sleep, go to sleep!
1640
01:09:02,638 --> 01:09:05,131
- I saw a side of Michaela
and a side of Zack
1641
01:09:05,215 --> 01:09:07,383
that I never expected to see.
1642
01:09:07,476 --> 01:09:11,729
- [indistinct]
1643
01:09:11,814 --> 01:09:14,891
I've not ever heard them
yell at each other,
1644
01:09:14,975 --> 01:09:20,238
and the whole scenario
was just shocking.
1645
01:09:23,409 --> 01:09:24,576
- I'm just, like, leaving.
1646
01:09:25,744 --> 01:09:27,745
- I know,
it's okay, though, guys.
1647
01:09:27,905 --> 01:09:29,488
[talking over each other]
1648
01:09:29,573 --> 01:09:30,582
- I feel like your mama
wouldn't let you
1649
01:09:30,666 --> 01:09:32,083
go this late, though.
1650
01:09:32,168 --> 01:09:33,918
- I'd just rather just
leave now, but I just wanted
1651
01:09:34,077 --> 01:09:36,078
to say goodbye and I'll
see y'all later, okay, cool?
1652
01:09:36,172 --> 01:09:37,747
- All right, brother,
make sure you hit us up.
1653
01:09:37,840 --> 01:09:39,257
- I will.
1654
01:09:39,416 --> 01:09:40,750
Okay, dude, stop, stop.
1655
01:09:40,843 --> 01:09:44,837
- No, no, no, you can
come with me, it's okay.
1656
01:09:44,930 --> 01:09:48,341
- God [bleep]
--I don't like--
1657
01:09:48,425 --> 01:09:49,434
Is there anything I can
do to let--
1658
01:09:49,518 --> 01:09:51,102
Like can I just leave?
1659
01:09:51,187 --> 01:09:54,180
I'm begging--can anyone--can
you just let me leave, please?
1660
01:09:54,264 --> 01:09:55,932
I can drive back,
guys, I promise you.
1661
01:09:56,016 --> 01:09:57,516
Please let me leave.
1662
01:09:57,601 --> 01:09:58,935
I'm not mad,
I'm gonna be very happy
1663
01:09:59,028 --> 01:10:01,270
on the way home.
Just let me--thank you, damn.
1664
01:10:01,355 --> 01:10:03,448
I will text you guys
immediately when I get home.
1665
01:10:05,451 --> 01:10:07,610
- You gonna ride back with him,
get in the [bleep] car, then.
1666
01:10:07,694 --> 01:10:09,028
- I will.
- Get in.
1667
01:10:09,112 --> 01:10:10,029
- I will.
- Then get in!
1668
01:10:10,113 --> 01:10:11,623
- Okay.
1669
01:10:11,782 --> 01:10:13,625
- Get in there right now,
he's getting in the car--Ryan,
1670
01:10:13,709 --> 01:10:15,534
if you're saying it's not
healthy, then get in the car
1671
01:10:15,619 --> 01:10:17,787
with him, 'cause he's
[bleep] leaving.
1672
01:10:17,880 --> 01:10:20,715
- There's nothing we
can do to make him not leave.
1673
01:10:20,799 --> 01:10:23,042
He's a [bleep] adult;
like, what are we
1674
01:10:23,126 --> 01:10:24,969
supposed to do,
like, lay under the car?
1675
01:10:25,054 --> 01:10:28,881
[tense music]
1676
01:10:29,892 --> 01:10:32,060
- We were talking to him
until that happened.
1677
01:10:35,564 --> 01:10:37,056
[bleep]
1678
01:10:37,140 --> 01:10:38,816
[tense music]
1679
01:10:38,901 --> 01:10:41,653
[crashing and banging]
1680
01:10:41,737 --> 01:10:42,895
- There's a reason he's leaving
1681
01:10:42,988 --> 01:10:44,146
and that's the [bleep] reason.
1682
01:10:44,231 --> 01:10:47,033
[crashing continues]
1683
01:11:03,008 --> 01:11:04,217
- Get out!
1684
01:11:04,593 --> 01:11:05,927
Get out!
1685
01:11:07,754 --> 01:11:13,092
[door slams]
1686
01:11:13,176 --> 01:11:20,066
[somber musc]
1687
01:11:22,278 --> 01:11:25,271
- Last night,
I woke up to Michaela coming
1688
01:11:25,355 --> 01:11:29,275
into my room and getting
into my bed really distraught.
1689
01:11:29,359 --> 01:11:32,453
She said that they were getting
ready for bed and Zack decided
1690
01:11:32,538 --> 01:11:34,956
he wanted to just leave
in the middle of the night.
1691
01:11:38,210 --> 01:11:40,211
Michaela tried to sleep,
but she couldn't,
1692
01:11:40,370 --> 01:11:42,880
so she called her sister.
1693
01:11:42,965 --> 01:11:45,883
Her sister came to pick her up
early this morning.
1694
01:11:45,968 --> 01:11:48,294
I'm feeling for both of them,
1695
01:11:48,378 --> 01:11:50,629
and I hope that
this upcoming week,
1696
01:11:50,714 --> 01:11:55,893
they are open
to listening to each other
1697
01:11:55,978 --> 01:12:00,473
and that Dr. Pepper
can help them.
1698
01:12:00,557 --> 01:12:04,226
♪ ♪
1699
01:12:04,311 --> 01:12:06,062
- With the retreat
coming to an end,
1700
01:12:06,146 --> 01:12:07,897
we hope the couples
have taken this time
1701
01:12:07,990 --> 01:12:10,325
to think about what they've
learned from their spouse,
1702
01:12:10,484 --> 01:12:11,901
as well as what they've learned
1703
01:12:11,994 --> 01:12:14,579
from the other couples,
because when they get back
1704
01:12:14,738 --> 01:12:17,832
to Houston, they'll have
less than two weeks to decide
1705
01:12:17,991 --> 01:12:21,243
whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
1706
01:12:21,328 --> 01:12:22,661
- Oh, the pancakes.
1707
01:12:22,746 --> 01:12:25,840
- ♪ So let's get
up while we can ♪
1708
01:12:26,583 --> 01:12:28,259
- Good morning.
1709
01:12:28,418 --> 01:12:29,844
- Coffee?
- Yes, sir.
1710
01:12:32,848 --> 01:12:34,849
- Good morning, guys.
1711
01:12:35,008 --> 01:12:36,425
- I'm counting--I'm counting,
two, four,
1712
01:12:36,510 --> 01:12:39,595
six, eight, where's our ten?
1713
01:12:39,688 --> 01:12:42,190
- There was nine for a while
and then we woke up to eight.
1714
01:12:42,274 --> 01:12:45,601
- You missed a--you missed
a moment last night.
1715
01:12:45,685 --> 01:12:47,779
- An eventful evening.
1716
01:12:47,863 --> 01:12:49,772
- Gil stayed up later than you.
1717
01:12:49,856 --> 01:12:52,867
- Yeah, that's saying a lot.
1718
01:12:53,026 --> 01:12:55,694
- It is, and Myrla--
Myrla stayed up too.
1719
01:12:55,779 --> 01:12:57,372
- That's because Myrla
had, like, eight smores.
1720
01:12:57,456 --> 01:13:00,124
[laughter]
1721
01:13:00,209 --> 01:13:01,793
- Can someone give me a recap?
1722
01:13:01,877 --> 01:13:04,545
- I don't know what sparked it,
but they had a pretty
1723
01:13:04,630 --> 01:13:09,291
lively conversation for,
it seemed like, a couple hours.
1724
01:13:09,376 --> 01:13:10,551
Bao and I tried
to, like, calm him down
1725
01:13:10,710 --> 01:13:12,044
to see if we could get him
into staying,
1726
01:13:12,137 --> 01:13:15,473
and--but, um, we
kind of had it a little
1727
01:13:15,557 --> 01:13:19,560
de-escalated to an extent
and then, yeah, Michaela came
1728
01:13:19,645 --> 01:13:23,231
out and started hollering
and, yeah, it was a lot.
1729
01:13:27,403 --> 01:13:28,644
I just don't know how
it goes from talking it out
1730
01:13:28,737 --> 01:13:30,071
to that much escalation.
1731
01:13:30,155 --> 01:13:32,815
- Mm-hmm. Tempers.
1732
01:13:32,899 --> 01:13:36,494
- It sounds like they were
getting ready for bed and Zack
1733
01:13:36,578 --> 01:13:38,070
said, "I'm leaving right now."
1734
01:13:38,155 --> 01:13:40,072
So he had made up his mind.
1735
01:13:40,157 --> 01:13:41,157
- Yeah, 'cause he
was quiet at dinner.
1736
01:13:41,241 --> 01:13:42,583
- He was.
1737
01:13:42,668 --> 01:13:44,502
- He was very quiet at dinner.
- He was stewing.
1738
01:13:44,586 --> 01:13:46,078
- It was fun.
- I loved it.
1739
01:13:46,163 --> 01:13:48,747
- I'm surprised about
how much I enjoyed it,
1740
01:13:48,832 --> 01:13:50,249
I've never shot
a big gun before in my life.
1741
01:13:50,333 --> 01:13:53,010
- I wasn't surprised
you enjoyed it.
1742
01:13:53,170 --> 01:13:54,595
- I thought he was just hungry.
1743
01:13:56,506 --> 01:13:58,757
- But yeah, I don't know.
1744
01:13:58,851 --> 01:14:00,342
At some point,
you can't keep separating
1745
01:14:00,427 --> 01:14:02,261
yourself from the situation.
1746
01:14:02,345 --> 01:14:03,679
- Yeah.
1747
01:14:03,763 --> 01:14:05,514
- He left recently,
according to Michaela,
1748
01:14:05,607 --> 01:14:08,517
he left recently because
she asked if he could please
1749
01:14:08,602 --> 01:14:10,352
sleep in the other bedroom
and he got upset and he left.
1750
01:14:10,437 --> 01:14:12,196
- That's right, he did--
He did tell us that,
1751
01:14:12,281 --> 01:14:14,773
so he was like, "If I'm gonna
sleep in another bedroom,
1752
01:14:14,858 --> 01:14:16,692
then I'd rather just sleep
at my house."
1753
01:14:16,776 --> 01:14:18,277
And then she was like,
1754
01:14:18,361 --> 01:14:20,946
"Do whatever,
do whatever you want."
1755
01:14:21,031 --> 01:14:23,541
So he gets his house
and then she got mad
1756
01:14:23,625 --> 01:14:25,293
because he went to his house.
1757
01:14:25,377 --> 01:14:27,211
And I'm like, "Well you
just said do whatever."
1758
01:14:27,296 --> 01:14:28,871
- She didn't tell me that part.
1759
01:14:28,955 --> 01:14:30,548
- I know women tend to say
that and they don't mean it--
1760
01:14:30,632 --> 01:14:31,966
- Men do too.
1761
01:14:32,125 --> 01:14:34,543
- But that's why you
got to say what you mean
1762
01:14:34,628 --> 01:14:35,377
and mean what you say.
1763
01:14:35,471 --> 01:14:36,879
- Facts.
1764
01:14:36,963 --> 01:14:38,055
- Some people will literally
just be like,
1765
01:14:38,140 --> 01:14:40,549
"All right, cool."
1766
01:14:40,634 --> 01:14:43,052
- The funny thing is I did
hear glass breaking last night,
1767
01:14:43,136 --> 01:14:45,229
but I thought y'all
were just partying.
1768
01:14:45,314 --> 01:14:47,148
- Yeah, there
was glass breaking.
1769
01:14:47,232 --> 01:14:49,808
- I don't know what broke,
but it wasn't glass.
1770
01:14:49,893 --> 01:14:52,320
- It was a wine glass.
I think she threw it.
1771
01:14:52,404 --> 01:14:54,480
- Yeah, I saw her,
I saw her through the window,
1772
01:14:54,564 --> 01:14:56,824
I was out here.
1773
01:14:59,569 --> 01:15:01,245
- And then there were eight.
1774
01:15:02,581 --> 01:15:03,748
- Damn, man.
1775
01:15:03,832 --> 01:15:04,749
- We kinda started with eight.
1776
01:15:04,908 --> 01:15:05,991
- We did start with eight.
1777
01:15:06,076 --> 01:15:07,001
That was a nice little
foreshadowing.
1778
01:15:07,160 --> 01:15:09,245
- That is true.
That is so weird.
1779
01:15:09,329 --> 01:15:11,506
- The honeymoon crew.
1780
01:15:11,590 --> 01:15:13,332
- Damn, man.
1781
01:15:13,416 --> 01:15:17,178
♪ ♪
1782
01:15:17,262 --> 01:15:18,930
- ♪ Just come with me ♪
1783
01:15:19,014 --> 01:15:20,339
♪ Just, just come with me ♪
1784
01:15:20,423 --> 01:15:22,758
♪ ♪
1785
01:15:22,842 --> 01:15:26,762
♪ I want you back ♪
1786
01:15:26,855 --> 01:15:29,273
- I think our little
adventure will be ending soon,
1787
01:15:29,358 --> 01:15:30,849
back to reality.
1788
01:15:30,934 --> 01:15:34,103
Time goes by so fast,
to think it's kind of go time,
1789
01:15:34,196 --> 01:15:36,948
it's not time to relax
on our relationship.
1790
01:15:39,276 --> 01:15:41,702
- ♪ Just come with me ♪
1791
01:15:41,787 --> 01:15:44,539
- Michaela and Zack leaving
the retreat altogether,
1792
01:15:44,698 --> 01:15:48,117
to see it blow up like that
last night,
1793
01:15:48,210 --> 01:15:49,952
I was very surprised.
1794
01:15:50,036 --> 01:15:53,047
- They've now, unfortunately,
missed out on a couple things.
1795
01:15:53,131 --> 01:15:55,457
You know, the honeymoon
was one of the big things
1796
01:15:55,551 --> 01:15:57,459
and missing this day
with us here on the farm is,
1797
01:15:57,553 --> 01:15:59,211
you know, a unique
experience and opportunity.
1798
01:15:59,296 --> 01:16:01,472
- Yeah, after
what happened last night,
1799
01:16:01,631 --> 01:16:03,465
I think if that was us,
1800
01:16:03,550 --> 01:16:08,563
if we got into another argument
like that dramatic, to me,
1801
01:16:08,647 --> 01:16:10,973
you know, it was like,
man, we're doing so good,
1802
01:16:11,057 --> 01:16:12,066
and here we are again,
1803
01:16:12,225 --> 01:16:14,235
a month later after it happened.
1804
01:16:14,319 --> 01:16:17,905
Like, that would definitely
make me question things so
1805
01:16:17,990 --> 01:16:20,575
it's hard not to think
back about what happened,
1806
01:16:20,659 --> 01:16:24,370
but I keep focusing on,
with you, I feel loved.
1807
01:16:27,332 --> 01:16:30,659
- We know that things are gonna
come up, and there may
1808
01:16:30,744 --> 01:16:32,328
be another blow up,
but at least, I think,
1809
01:16:32,412 --> 01:16:35,256
going into, hopefully,
issues that come up,
1810
01:16:35,340 --> 01:16:39,418
we can resolve those
based on how we resolved...
1811
01:16:39,502 --> 01:16:43,431
- Yeah, I think pettiness
can happen,
1812
01:16:43,515 --> 01:16:45,933
it just has to--we just
have to be careful to not
1813
01:16:46,092 --> 01:16:47,935
get it to the point
of being vindictive.
1814
01:16:48,020 --> 01:16:50,688
You know,
sometimes you need to hash
1815
01:16:50,772 --> 01:16:52,940
out anything and vent, you know?
1816
01:16:53,099 --> 01:16:55,943
We can disagree on some things,
but we've
1817
01:16:56,102 --> 01:16:58,103
really learned how
to talk to each other.
1818
01:16:58,196 --> 01:16:59,614
Like, that's what love is.
1819
01:16:59,698 --> 01:17:03,359
I'm just so rel--I'm super
happy we're where we're at,
1820
01:17:03,443 --> 01:17:06,621
how far we've come, you know,
but I can't help but think
1821
01:17:06,705 --> 01:17:08,789
in the beginning we were so
great and then something
1822
01:17:08,948 --> 01:17:12,117
crazy happened like that,
you know, so...
1823
01:17:12,202 --> 01:17:13,461
- We continue to keep learning
about each other
1824
01:17:13,545 --> 01:17:14,953
each and every single day.
- Mm-hmm.
1825
01:17:15,038 --> 01:17:18,207
- And we'll have to see
what happens
1826
01:17:18,291 --> 01:17:19,634
in the next couple of weeks.
1827
01:17:19,718 --> 01:17:20,885
There's a lot to think about,
a lot to process.
1828
01:17:21,044 --> 01:17:23,054
- ♪ Take it day by day ♪
1829
01:17:23,138 --> 01:17:28,884
♪ Day by day ♪
1830
01:17:28,968 --> 01:17:31,970
♪
1831
01:17:32,064 --> 01:17:33,147
- Say, "Bye, Barndominium."
1832
01:17:33,231 --> 01:17:34,807
- Bye, barn.
1833
01:17:34,891 --> 01:17:37,726
- Couples retreat is
wrapping up, so this also means
1834
01:17:37,811 --> 01:17:40,821
that there's only a couple
more weeks until Decision Day.
1835
01:17:40,906 --> 01:17:43,240
Things are going good
with my wife and I,
1836
01:17:43,400 --> 01:17:46,902
but the way she acts sometimes
can be a little bratty,
1837
01:17:46,995 --> 01:17:48,904
and these are things
that I need to consider
1838
01:17:48,997 --> 01:17:51,657
if this is something I want
for the rest of my life.
1839
01:17:51,741 --> 01:17:54,743
♪ ♪
1840
01:17:54,828 --> 01:17:56,662
- Bye, Bluebonnet.
1841
01:17:56,746 --> 01:17:58,747
- Bye, 12 Armadillos.
1842
01:17:58,840 --> 01:18:04,011
♪ ♪
1843
01:18:04,096 --> 01:18:07,682
- A little piece of me
is a little relieved that
1844
01:18:07,766 --> 01:18:13,846
there was other focus
last night other than us.
1845
01:18:13,930 --> 01:18:16,023
- Oh, other than you and me?
- Yeah.
1846
01:18:16,108 --> 01:18:18,350
- Michaela has a lot
going on in there,
1847
01:18:18,443 --> 01:18:22,271
and her feelings are valid,
1848
01:18:22,355 --> 01:18:23,355
and I can understand how
1849
01:18:23,448 --> 01:18:27,860
she would feel that it's unfair.
1850
01:18:27,944 --> 01:18:30,946
But at the same time,
I can also see what--
1851
01:18:31,039 --> 01:18:37,378
I mean, others can see
the--the escalation,
1852
01:18:37,462 --> 01:18:39,714
which isn't fair
for Zack, either.
1853
01:18:39,798 --> 01:18:41,966
- Yeah, zero--
Zero to a hundred.
1854
01:18:42,050 --> 01:18:44,460
- Yeah, but I know they're
both hurting and I feel
1855
01:18:44,544 --> 01:18:47,513
really bad about it.
1856
01:18:50,967 --> 01:18:52,309
- The Jersey Barnyard.
1857
01:18:56,973 --> 01:18:58,307
- This is cool.
1858
01:18:58,391 --> 01:19:00,901
- Ooh, look, a longhorn!
1859
01:19:01,060 --> 01:19:02,895
Wow!
1860
01:19:03,730 --> 01:19:06,490
- We are visiting
the Jersey Barnyard
1861
01:19:06,575 --> 01:19:08,984
today with the other couples.
1862
01:19:09,068 --> 01:19:10,819
I think it's exciting for
people who are from the city
1863
01:19:10,904 --> 01:19:13,822
and have never been to,
like, rural towns or ranches.
1864
01:19:13,907 --> 01:19:15,407
Go and be
with the goats and step
1865
01:19:15,492 --> 01:19:16,492
on little
pebbles of poop and like...
1866
01:19:16,585 --> 01:19:18,419
[goat bleats]
1867
01:19:18,503 --> 01:19:20,245
- Who's most ready to do things?
1868
01:19:20,330 --> 01:19:22,840
- Yeah, man!
- Yeah!
1869
01:19:22,924 --> 01:19:26,502
- I feel at one with nature.
I don't look like I do...
1870
01:19:26,586 --> 01:19:28,337
[laughs]
1871
01:19:28,430 --> 01:19:29,346
- Meh.
1872
01:19:29,431 --> 01:19:30,681
[goat bleats]
1873
01:19:30,766 --> 01:19:33,008
- Oh, this is one's so pretty.
1874
01:19:33,101 --> 01:19:34,927
- Yeah, right,
you just leave this on right?
1875
01:19:35,020 --> 01:19:36,929
- You can get it, good goat.
1876
01:19:37,013 --> 01:19:39,181
- This guy's aggressive.
- Yep.
1877
01:19:39,265 --> 01:19:42,351
- Everything is food, they
keep trying to eat Bao's dress.
1878
01:19:42,444 --> 01:19:44,028
- Hey, oh no!
1879
01:19:44,112 --> 01:19:45,613
- Bao's dress is so delicious.
1880
01:19:45,772 --> 01:19:48,532
- Oh, my god,
they want to eat me.
1881
01:19:48,617 --> 01:19:50,534
- Oh, you're so cute.
1882
01:19:54,790 --> 01:19:56,624
- Look at the donkey.
1883
01:19:56,708 --> 01:19:58,626
How do you get the pony
to come over?
1884
01:19:58,785 --> 01:20:00,211
- You don't know
how to call a pony?
1885
01:20:00,295 --> 01:20:03,464
- No.
- Yeah, me neither.
1886
01:20:03,548 --> 01:20:04,957
[smooching]
1887
01:20:05,050 --> 01:20:06,375
- That would be a good call.
1888
01:20:06,468 --> 01:20:11,555
- From here, you know,
the focus just should
1889
01:20:11,714 --> 01:20:14,558
be like how it was today.
1890
01:20:14,717 --> 01:20:16,811
- I think we will make
the most of this going forward.
1891
01:20:16,895 --> 01:20:18,720
I just can't
make excuses for not
1892
01:20:18,805 --> 01:20:20,981
having conversations,
whether it's for the right
1893
01:20:21,140 --> 01:20:24,726
intentions or not,
it's just timing.
1894
01:20:24,820 --> 01:20:27,062
There's never gonna be
perfect timing for them.
1895
01:20:27,146 --> 01:20:30,074
I feel like we can continue
to roll with how today was,
1896
01:20:30,158 --> 01:20:33,911
hopefully, and have as
much fun as we can with it.
1897
01:20:33,995 --> 01:20:36,989
This has been
one of the most relaxed days
1898
01:20:37,073 --> 01:20:39,074
I've had with Brett
in a long time,
1899
01:20:39,158 --> 01:20:41,919
and I'm pretty confident
that we'll keep that up
1900
01:20:42,003 --> 01:20:43,754
and just have fun with this
1901
01:20:43,839 --> 01:20:46,164
and enjoy it as much
as we can with each other,
1902
01:20:46,249 --> 01:20:49,668
and I think that's much
healthier than we have been.
1903
01:20:49,752 --> 01:20:52,179
- We're on the same page.
Look at that.
1904
01:20:54,340 --> 01:20:56,091
- You seem
like a natural out here.
1905
01:20:56,175 --> 01:20:57,593
- I love it.
1906
01:20:57,686 --> 01:20:59,177
- One thing I appreciate
about you this weekend
1907
01:20:59,262 --> 01:21:00,521
is you go for everything.
1908
01:21:00,680 --> 01:21:03,849
I mean, the skeet shooting,
doing this,
1909
01:21:03,942 --> 01:21:05,183
and you really enjoyed yourself.
1910
01:21:05,268 --> 01:21:06,935
You know how to have fun.
1911
01:21:07,020 --> 01:21:08,529
It was nice to see.
1912
01:21:08,688 --> 01:21:11,282
- It's nice embracing
the opportunities.
1913
01:21:11,366 --> 01:21:14,776
I'm learning something
about this whole experience,
1914
01:21:14,870 --> 01:21:17,529
is that there's always
something to appreciate.
1915
01:21:17,614 --> 01:21:20,541
There's always a positive side.
1916
01:21:20,625 --> 01:21:24,211
There's moments in our marriage
that have not
1917
01:21:24,296 --> 01:21:27,131
been the happiest,
but I'm still finding a lot
1918
01:21:27,215 --> 01:21:30,634
of opportunities to appreciate
the journey with you.
1919
01:21:30,793 --> 01:21:34,796
- I mean, obviously, we're
not lovey-dovey like the two
1920
01:21:34,881 --> 01:21:38,726
couples, but I think this
is what works for us right now.
1921
01:21:38,810 --> 01:21:41,061
- Mm-hmm..
1922
01:21:41,146 --> 01:21:44,556
I feel like level one
conversations are working
1923
01:21:44,641 --> 01:21:46,558
for us because we're
keeping it light hearted,
1924
01:21:46,651 --> 01:21:48,903
we're keeping it positive.
1925
01:21:49,062 --> 01:21:52,648
- I think that's the recipe
for success
1926
01:21:52,741 --> 01:21:54,650
going forward.
1927
01:21:54,734 --> 01:21:57,912
- I agree,
we are on the same page.
1928
01:21:57,996 --> 01:22:00,739
I feel like for the first
time in our marriage,
1929
01:22:00,823 --> 01:22:03,918
we're solidly on the same page.
1930
01:22:05,420 --> 01:22:09,331
This is a great weekend,
Johnny and I have not argued
1931
01:22:09,424 --> 01:22:11,917
once, largely because
we're not interacting.
1932
01:22:12,677 --> 01:22:15,837
I'm talking some [bleep] now.
1933
01:22:15,922 --> 01:22:18,349
So it's a win-win
for both of us.
1934
01:22:18,433 --> 01:22:19,892
Let's head out.
1935
01:22:22,938 --> 01:22:24,513
[goat bleats]
1936
01:22:24,606 --> 01:22:26,106
♪ ♪
1937
01:22:26,191 --> 01:22:27,849
- Next time on
"Married At First Sight"...
1938
01:22:27,943 --> 01:22:29,443
- Whoo!
1939
01:22:29,527 --> 01:22:31,362
With only two weeks left
until Decision Day...
1940
01:22:31,446 --> 01:22:33,188
- How does that feel
to share all of that?
1941
01:22:33,281 --> 01:22:34,690
- It feels good.
1942
01:22:34,774 --> 01:22:37,025
- Our couples will have
the opportunity to show
1943
01:22:37,118 --> 01:22:39,277
their roots as they
try to build an even
1944
01:22:39,362 --> 01:22:41,121
stronger bond with
their partner.
1945
01:22:41,280 --> 01:22:43,281
- It left me
feeling good at the end.
1946
01:22:43,366 --> 01:22:46,710
I feel better in the past week
than I have been a long time.
1947
01:22:46,795 --> 01:22:49,371
- I never brought anybody here.
1948
01:22:49,455 --> 01:22:51,382
- And I just want him to know,
I love you.
1949
01:22:51,466 --> 01:22:52,791
[dramatic music]
1950
01:22:52,875 --> 01:22:53,884
- I recently had a conversation
1951
01:22:53,969 --> 01:22:56,712
with Bao's best friend, Sarah.
1952
01:22:56,796 --> 01:22:59,139
Things that I would say
would be very damaging.
1953
01:22:59,224 --> 01:23:01,725
- Got a text from a friend
that showed
1954
01:23:01,810 --> 01:23:04,219
that you are on a dating app.
1955
01:23:04,312 --> 01:23:05,813
♪ ♪
1956
01:23:05,897 --> 01:23:10,067
- I'm gonna say something,
basically, I'm gonna regret.
1957
01:23:10,226 --> 01:23:12,894
- It was not, you know,
something I wanted to hear.
1958
01:23:12,988 --> 01:23:14,730
Trust has always been
a non-negotiable for me.
1959
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♪ ♪