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- I'm ready.
Let's go. Let's go.
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- Holy [bleep].
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I've been dreaming about
this moment for my whole life.
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- Please stand.
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- Just over five weeks ago,
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10 singles took
a brave leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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- Hi.
[laughter]
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheers and applause]
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- I took a leap of faith,
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and I can't wait to grow
together with this person.
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- Last time,
our couples continued
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to learn more about each other
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as they dealt with the ups
and downs of daily life.
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[laughter]
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- "Even though we married
at first sight,
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"I'm still loving you
all day and all night,
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always
and for the rest of my life."
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- That was my first time
hearing him say
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that he was loving me
in a forever type of way.
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Feels good to hear him say that.
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- I'm comparing Bao
to the ideal person
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that I thought
I'd be married to,
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and I'm constantly
comparing her to that.
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- Now, Johnny,
that is a sabotage.
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That's impossible. No one
can live up to that standard!
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That person needs
to be destroyed.
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- Y'all ain't had
no disagreements,
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or no arguments, no nothing?
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- Disagreements?
The dog stuff.
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She's not a dog person.
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Well, fast forward, now...
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[upbeat music]
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- A complete 180.
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[bleep] damn.
- Bro, complete 180.
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- I'm still struggling
with this,
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and it sucks to have
that uncertainty and doubt.
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- If you don't want
to be with me,
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then please don't be with me.
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But, like, he needs to say it,
because it's frustrating
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to not just be told what it is
in black and white terms.
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♪ ♪
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- I've never been in a
relationship during the summer.
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It's scary--
- 'Cause you've been single,
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and then you just travel
or do whatever you want.
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- You could not
criticize me one bit,
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'cause I would be,
like, out the door.
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- So, there's a little bit
of trust issue there, of,
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is she gonna stay
in the marriage
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if it's not going her way?
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♪ ♪
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- [vocalizing]
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- Tonight...
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- Johnny.
- I got it.
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- With less than three weeks
left until Decision Day...
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- Go team!
Go team!
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- How are you, my dear?
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Dr. Pepper and I will sit down
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with each spouse,
individually...
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- Nice to see you again.
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- To find out
what unanswered questions
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still linger in their marriages.
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- I know it's going good,
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but it can derail at any moment.
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- I think I knew I would
be happy in marriage, but...
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♪ ♪
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- I'm gonna stay open to it.
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- I would be willing
to keep trying.
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- I want to be able
to trust my wife,
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but, you know, it's tough.
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- My husband has a temper.
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He can be vindictive.
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- Do you want this more
than you don't want it?
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- He's not happy.
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- I don't understand
why should we sleep--
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We should sleep
in separate rooms right now.
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I don't get--that doesn't help
anything; that only hurts.
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Nothing I ever do in life
is good enough.
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♪ ♪
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- Tonight's conversation,
all of that's lost right now.
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- If Johnny doesn't figure
this [bleep] out for himself,
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he's never gonna be happy.
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- For 15 years,
we could have dated.
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I wasn't attracted to you.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is "Married
at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ Time stops
fading in and out ♪
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♪ Will they sink
or will they swim? ♪
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♪ I think it's time
to decide ♪
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- So, this is what my wife does
on a normal day.
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Just laying in bed, being a bum.
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Say hello.
- Hello.
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- When you gonna stop
being a bum?
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- When I want to.
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- Is that gonna be anytime soon?
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- Probably not.
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- Our couples are now
fully immersed in married life,
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and they're finding out
about all the little things
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that irritate them
about their spouse.
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- So, concerns that I have--
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And granted, we live
a crazy, hectic life,
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but this is very alarming to me.
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- But they still have to learn
how to move past their issues
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and see things from
their partner's perspective.
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- Just a few minutes in.
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We got about a little
under a hour to go, so.
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- We're not doing an hour.
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- A little under an hour.
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- Oh, my God.
[laughter]
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- You see what
I gotta deal with, people?
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- Because in less
than three weeks,
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they'll have
to make the decision
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as to whether they'll
stay married or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Falling ♪
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Everybody, get it now ♪
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- ♪ Everybody, hold on ♪
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♪ Everybody's waiting, whoo ♪
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♪ Falling ♪
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- Everybody, get it now ♪
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- ♪ Falling ♪
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- What's up, man?
- Ryan.
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- You bring your own stick,
or you just casually playing?
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How are you?
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- Just waiting
for a worthy opponent, man.
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- I don't know
if that's me or not.
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What are you up to?
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How was your day?
How was y'all's day?
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I know y'all have
been busy this week.
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- Super busy.
You have too, actually.
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- You're getting what
you asked for, it sounds like.
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- Yeah.
[chuckles]
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I am getting what I asked for.
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The past few days
have been really fun.
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I asked Bao
to try doing things--
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Schedule dates, be open.
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And I do think
she is making an effort.
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Like, we went bowling
last night.
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You know, high-fiving and
kind of cheering each other on.
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Bao, we've played
two games so far.
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What have the results been?
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♪ ♪
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- Look, it's not about numbers.
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It's about having fun.
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- Oh, yeah.
Are you having fun?
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- Yes.
- [laughs] I'm having fun.
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- So much fun.
- I'm having fun.
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Let's go--let's go show them
the scoreboard real quick.
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- No, no, we don't need to
fixate on things like numbers.
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Numbers are irrelevant.
It's all about having fun.
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We don't need to see.
No, you don't need to see that.
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You don't need to see that!
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You don't need--
That's irrelevant.
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I'm not tall enough.
That's not fair!
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[laughter]
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- It felt natural--
Like a natural moment.
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Nothing felt forced.
- Yeah.
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I can't force it anymore.
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I tried forcing it
for a few weeks,
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and I wasn't--
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It wasn't real.
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♪ ♪
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- Does it make you sad, though?
- Yeah.
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She hasn't done anything wrong.
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I'm left feeling like
I did something wrong,
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even though I don't think
that I did anything wrong.
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- Man, I feel that
right now too.
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♪ ♪
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She feels like
I don't appreciate
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the things that she does.
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And I feel like
she's not doing anything
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that I'm asking her to do,
before this week.
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This week, she's actually
trying pretty hard.
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Almost trying too hard.
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- Yeah. No, I understand.
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I definitely get
the "trying too hard" thing.
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Just ignore all the issues,
and keep chugging along.
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[laughter]
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♪ ♪
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- Could you, at any point,
find yourself
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looking at all the things
you don't like
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and just be, like--focus
on just the positive stuff?
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- No. That's unrealistic.
You don't get to do that.
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- 'Cause I'm trying to do that,
and I'm wondering
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if that's, like--
- You can't.
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That's--I mean, I understand.
- A useful exercise.
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- That might be useful,
but it's not real.
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It's not how you go--
You can't go through life
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just disregarding the bad.
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♪ ♪
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- Ryan and I hang out a lot,
and I feel like
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he really understands
what I'm going through,
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I understand
what he's going through.
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But sometimes it feels like
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he is very negative
about this entire situation.
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It's not helpful.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm not trying to
discourage you in any regard.
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But, I don't know,
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I feel like if you're going
against what you're feeling,
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it's just
a no-win situation, but.
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- Maybe if I--if I start
showing my appreciation
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for her, we'll get
to a better place.
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'Cause I do--
I do sometimes feel like
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there's
some positive stuff here,
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despite all
the freaking red flags.
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- Yeah.
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You just gotta listen
to yourself, man.
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Whatever way
that tells you to go.
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♪ ♪
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- Hey.
- [gasps]
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- How's it going?
- Hello.
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- You have a good day?
- Yeah. Pretty good.
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How was your day?
- Oh, it was good. Yeah.
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- You hung out with Ryan, right?
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- I hung out with Ryan.
We played some pool.
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- Oh, you did?
- Ryan--Ryan's probably--
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We joked around about
this downstairs, actually.
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- Mm-hmm.
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- Ryan might be the last guy
I needed to talk to,
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'cause I'm a better place
in our relationship
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than Ryan's at.
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♪ ♪
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But just looking back,
I feel like
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the lack of foundation
in a few very important areas--
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Trust, communication,
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and having, like,
a solid friendship--
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Those three things,
to me, are lacking,
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and we wouldn't have
a lot of the arguments
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that we've had so far
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if those three things
were really strong.
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- Hmm.
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- Do you disagree?
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- I do.
- Okay.
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- Because, for me,
going into a marriage
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with the intention
of just pure friendship
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is counterintuitive
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to wanting emotional intimacy
and romance and all that stuff.
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♪ ♪
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When we first
got into big arguments,
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and then you felt like
the emotional intimacy
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was declining
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and, you know, you were
needing that spark again--
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- Mm-hmm.
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- We met with Dr. Viviana,
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and she was trying to give us
ideas on how to be more--
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You know, spice it up,
bring more intimacy in.
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And instead,
we're taking all of that out.
256
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- The thing is, like,
the physical part--
257
00:09:27,233 --> 00:09:28,733
- Why?
258
00:09:28,892 --> 00:09:30,977
- Is because I don't
feel anything from it.
259
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♪ ♪
260
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- Don't give me that BS.
261
00:09:34,824 --> 00:09:37,817
- I'm doing it
just to do the motions.
262
00:09:37,901 --> 00:09:39,244
- It's very frustrating,
263
00:09:39,403 --> 00:09:41,496
because I know there was a time
when there was a spark.
264
00:09:41,655 --> 00:09:44,833
- Whoa. Whoa!
[laughter]
265
00:09:44,917 --> 00:09:46,334
She has got a great ass.
266
00:09:46,493 --> 00:09:49,912
- Do you have any tension that
you want me to help release?
267
00:09:49,997 --> 00:09:51,423
- Uh...
268
00:09:51,507 --> 00:09:53,425
Yeah, let's say it's in my back.
269
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♪ ♪
270
00:09:58,255 --> 00:10:02,267
- I don't know if Johnny
sees the hypocrisy.
271
00:10:02,426 --> 00:10:07,013
- Like, to me,
I don't want to just have sex.
272
00:10:07,106 --> 00:10:09,015
I don't want to just kiss you
for the sake of kissing you.
273
00:10:09,108 --> 00:10:10,433
And that's why I said,
274
00:10:10,526 --> 00:10:11,776
let's take that out of this
right now,
275
00:10:11,861 --> 00:10:13,686
because I'm not there yet.
276
00:10:13,771 --> 00:10:15,363
For me, physical intimacy
277
00:10:15,522 --> 00:10:18,775
is a by-product
of emotional attachment.
278
00:10:18,868 --> 00:10:20,526
- Right, but you're saying
this is the approach
279
00:10:20,611 --> 00:10:22,037
that you feel will work for you.
280
00:10:22,196 --> 00:10:23,788
- For me.
That's all I can do.
281
00:10:23,873 --> 00:10:26,949
- Okay, but the marriage
consists of both of us.
282
00:10:27,034 --> 00:10:29,035
And I am feeling forced
283
00:10:29,119 --> 00:10:31,463
to just go with
what you feel works for you.
284
00:10:31,622 --> 00:10:33,956
♪ ♪
285
00:10:34,041 --> 00:10:37,302
- [sighs]
I don't know what to tell you.
286
00:10:37,461 --> 00:10:38,887
♪ ♪
287
00:10:38,971 --> 00:10:40,972
[sighs]
Oh, God.
288
00:10:41,131 --> 00:10:43,299
♪ ♪
289
00:10:43,384 --> 00:10:46,728
We don't have to do this.
290
00:10:46,812 --> 00:10:49,064
We really don't.
291
00:10:49,223 --> 00:10:50,649
- You need a break?
292
00:10:50,733 --> 00:10:52,901
- I just--I just need a little
minute real quick, because--
293
00:10:52,985 --> 00:10:54,903
- We're just talking.
- This is--this is--
294
00:10:55,062 --> 00:10:56,396
This is insane.
This is incredible.
295
00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,323
- Why--why are you blowing up?
- This is incredible.
296
00:10:58,482 --> 00:10:59,991
- Why are you blowing up?
We're just talking.
297
00:11:00,076 --> 00:11:02,151
- Hold on, hold on, hold on.
- We're just talking.
298
00:11:02,244 --> 00:11:03,486
Please tell me
why you are leaving.
299
00:11:03,579 --> 00:11:04,996
We are literally just talking.
300
00:11:05,155 --> 00:11:10,993
♪ ♪
301
00:11:11,087 --> 00:11:16,082
I feel that Johnny is not happy,
302
00:11:16,175 --> 00:11:18,343
because he doesn't want to be.
303
00:11:18,502 --> 00:11:20,586
Johnny does not want
to put in the work
304
00:11:20,671 --> 00:11:22,422
to make the marriage work.
305
00:11:22,506 --> 00:11:24,090
And I honestly feel
306
00:11:24,174 --> 00:11:27,176
that if Johnny doesn't figure
this [bleep] out for himself,
307
00:11:27,269 --> 00:11:31,773
he's never gonna be happy,
in any relationship.
308
00:11:31,932 --> 00:11:33,766
- I want to say so many things.
309
00:11:33,859 --> 00:11:36,185
- Then say them, please,
310
00:11:36,278 --> 00:11:37,445
so I understand
what you're thinking.
311
00:11:37,604 --> 00:11:39,355
- I want to say so many things.
Look. Look, Bao.
312
00:11:39,448 --> 00:11:41,491
- 'Cause I don't right now.
- Oh, God.
313
00:11:43,944 --> 00:11:46,946
My thinking behind this is,
314
00:11:47,039 --> 00:11:49,031
I feel like certain things
are lacking on the foundation.
315
00:11:49,116 --> 00:11:50,366
I want to build the foundation.
316
00:11:50,459 --> 00:11:51,784
And I feel like
this week has been off
317
00:11:51,869 --> 00:11:53,294
to a really good start.
318
00:11:53,379 --> 00:11:55,705
The dates we've been on have
been--felt very lighthearted.
319
00:11:55,789 --> 00:11:57,623
Literally, I'm just trying
to get to know you better.
320
00:11:57,708 --> 00:11:58,791
- Mm-hmm.
- And we're having fun.
321
00:11:58,876 --> 00:12:00,552
We're having
lighthearted conversations.
322
00:12:00,636 --> 00:12:02,387
We're have heart-to-hearts,
and it's making me
323
00:12:02,471 --> 00:12:03,880
feel stronger
about the relationship.
324
00:12:03,964 --> 00:12:06,549
Tonight's conversation,
325
00:12:06,642 --> 00:12:09,802
all of that's lost right now,
326
00:12:09,887 --> 00:12:11,554
because you're telling me
327
00:12:11,647 --> 00:12:13,565
strengthening the foundation's
not gonna work.
328
00:12:13,724 --> 00:12:14,724
- I didn't say that.
329
00:12:14,817 --> 00:12:17,393
I feel you can
strengthen a foundation
330
00:12:17,478 --> 00:12:19,729
by just going in and dating,
for example.
331
00:12:19,813 --> 00:12:21,230
- Right.
- Having the romance already.
332
00:12:21,315 --> 00:12:23,399
- You saying that you don't
want to work on friendship,
333
00:12:23,484 --> 00:12:25,076
when the friendship
has been working for me--
334
00:12:25,235 --> 00:12:26,736
- Yeah, friendship
has been working. I agree.
335
00:12:26,820 --> 00:12:29,238
Friendship has been
working for me too.
336
00:12:29,331 --> 00:12:31,324
But that's not marriage.
- It is--it is the soil
337
00:12:31,417 --> 00:12:34,243
of what I think something
beautiful can blossom out of.
338
00:12:34,328 --> 00:12:36,838
- We definitely both
went into this marriage
339
00:12:36,997 --> 00:12:40,333
with different approaches
and different expectations.
340
00:12:40,417 --> 00:12:43,261
For me, I just kind of feel
like we're trying to figure out
341
00:12:43,420 --> 00:12:46,264
how to make that work,
and I don't--
342
00:12:46,423 --> 00:12:48,433
There's some things
that I'm just at that point
343
00:12:48,592 --> 00:12:50,676
where I'm like, I don't know
if we can work through that.
344
00:12:50,761 --> 00:12:53,021
- ♪ There's always
something more ♪
345
00:12:53,105 --> 00:12:57,683
♪ Love's not always true ♪
346
00:12:57,768 --> 00:12:59,685
♪ ♪
347
00:12:59,779 --> 00:13:01,354
♪ We come like a ♪
348
00:13:01,447 --> 00:13:06,117
♪ Tidal wave ♪
349
00:13:06,276 --> 00:13:07,577
♪ ♪
350
00:13:11,532 --> 00:13:14,283
- ♪ And I pull up ♪
351
00:13:14,376 --> 00:13:17,119
♪ Give me the dream I adore ♪
352
00:13:17,204 --> 00:13:19,288
- I made steak and sweet
potatoes and asparagus.
353
00:13:19,373 --> 00:13:21,466
- Make sure y'all noticing
I'm putting ketchup
354
00:13:21,625 --> 00:13:24,210
on my sweet potatoes,
not on my steak.
355
00:13:24,294 --> 00:13:25,887
- He's putting it on his steak.
356
00:13:25,971 --> 00:13:28,047
- Absolutely not.
[laughter]
357
00:13:28,131 --> 00:13:30,216
- Today, Pastor Cal and I
are meeting
358
00:13:30,300 --> 00:13:32,051
with each spouse individually
359
00:13:32,135 --> 00:13:34,813
to help them figure out
what unanswered questions
360
00:13:34,972 --> 00:13:37,565
they might have
about their spouse.
361
00:13:37,724 --> 00:13:39,475
- Bao, what's going on?
362
00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:42,821
- I'm just tidying up
a little bit.
363
00:13:42,980 --> 00:13:44,989
- There are less
than three weeks left
364
00:13:45,074 --> 00:13:46,566
until Decision Day.
365
00:13:46,650 --> 00:13:49,068
We want to make sure
that they examine
366
00:13:49,152 --> 00:13:50,995
every relevant issue
367
00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:53,665
in order to decide whether
they want to stay married
368
00:13:53,824 --> 00:13:56,668
or whether they want
to get a divorce.
369
00:13:56,752 --> 00:13:59,003
- ♪ Nothing to lose,
everything to win ♪
370
00:13:59,088 --> 00:14:01,581
♪ Gonna do it my way,
then do it again ♪
371
00:14:01,665 --> 00:14:04,834
♪ ♪
372
00:14:04,927 --> 00:14:09,005
- Getting ready
to go see Pastor Cal.
373
00:14:09,098 --> 00:14:10,515
You know,
Pastor Cal's a cool dude.
374
00:14:10,599 --> 00:14:12,592
I like talking to him.
Very wise dude.
375
00:14:12,685 --> 00:14:14,435
But the most--the main reason
I like talking to him:
376
00:14:14,595 --> 00:14:15,937
he's very straightforward.
377
00:14:16,021 --> 00:14:18,690
He's very--
He's, like, "Cut the BS.
378
00:14:18,774 --> 00:14:22,268
Tell me how it is straight up,"
and I love that.
379
00:14:22,352 --> 00:14:23,436
Hey.
- How you doing, buddy?
380
00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:25,354
- I'm doing awesome.
- That's good, man.
381
00:14:25,439 --> 00:14:28,032
♪ ♪
382
00:14:28,117 --> 00:14:29,609
How's married life?
383
00:14:29,693 --> 00:14:30,869
- Now that
I finally got my kiss,
384
00:14:30,953 --> 00:14:32,945
I feel real good
about married life.
385
00:14:33,030 --> 00:14:35,373
- Aww, suki suki!
All right.
386
00:14:35,457 --> 00:14:37,199
[laughter]
387
00:14:37,284 --> 00:14:38,459
What do you feel are
some of the reasons
388
00:14:38,619 --> 00:14:40,119
that we matched you guys?
389
00:14:40,212 --> 00:14:43,205
- She's very caring.
She's very loving, right?
390
00:14:43,290 --> 00:14:45,884
And, you know, I'm a person--
And I'm very passionate.
391
00:14:45,968 --> 00:14:48,136
So, like,
we get along very well.
392
00:14:48,220 --> 00:14:50,889
And we're very honest.
393
00:14:51,048 --> 00:14:53,716
We don't sugarcoat anything.
It's direct.
394
00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:54,967
I'm not scared
to tell her anything.
395
00:14:55,052 --> 00:14:57,136
- Okay.
396
00:14:57,229 --> 00:15:00,973
Now, I know that, right now,
you guys are in a good place,
397
00:15:01,066 --> 00:15:04,977
but I want you to start
thinking about Decision Day,
398
00:15:05,070 --> 00:15:07,563
and not just about the fact
that it's going good now.
399
00:15:07,648 --> 00:15:09,574
You understand what I'm saying?
400
00:15:09,658 --> 00:15:11,659
And so, are there
any unanswered questions
401
00:15:11,744 --> 00:15:14,320
that can make you say no
on Decision Day?
402
00:15:14,404 --> 00:15:19,575
♪ ♪
403
00:15:19,660 --> 00:15:21,827
- Um... man.
404
00:15:21,921 --> 00:15:23,412
♪ ♪
405
00:15:23,505 --> 00:15:26,507
Sometimes she gets
in her little moods,
406
00:15:26,667 --> 00:15:28,501
and her demeanor changes.
407
00:15:28,594 --> 00:15:30,762
And then, she gets short,
and she gets very negative.
408
00:15:30,921 --> 00:15:33,339
She becomes a Debbie Downer.
- Debbie Downer.
409
00:15:33,432 --> 00:15:34,599
- Princesa.
410
00:15:34,683 --> 00:15:36,601
Aren't you paddleboarding?
411
00:15:36,685 --> 00:15:38,186
- No, because it's kind of cold.
412
00:15:38,345 --> 00:15:40,188
And falling off, no.
413
00:15:40,272 --> 00:15:42,106
Is this a bumpy road?
414
00:15:42,191 --> 00:15:43,358
- It's gonna be bumpy
taking off.
415
00:15:43,442 --> 00:15:45,360
- Oh, my God.
This is gonna be terrible.
416
00:15:45,519 --> 00:15:46,861
Like, I already know it.
417
00:15:46,946 --> 00:15:48,613
- Ooh!
418
00:15:48,697 --> 00:15:50,439
"Take a body shot."
419
00:15:50,532 --> 00:15:52,617
- Yeah, we're not gonna do that.
420
00:15:52,701 --> 00:15:54,110
- Why not?
421
00:15:54,194 --> 00:15:56,028
- I have never done body shots,
422
00:15:56,113 --> 00:15:57,705
and it's not something
that I would want to do.
423
00:15:57,790 --> 00:16:00,032
- Golly!
424
00:16:00,117 --> 00:16:01,960
- You feel like her negativity
or her tantrums--
425
00:16:02,044 --> 00:16:03,544
You feel like
any of that's too much for you,
426
00:16:03,629 --> 00:16:05,204
or that it will be
too much for you?
427
00:16:05,288 --> 00:16:11,544
♪ ♪
428
00:16:11,628 --> 00:16:12,628
- Yes.
429
00:16:12,713 --> 00:16:15,473
♪ ♪
430
00:16:15,557 --> 00:16:16,557
I've told her straight up.
431
00:16:16,717 --> 00:16:18,977
I'm like, "Look,
this is not gonna be--"
432
00:16:19,061 --> 00:16:20,302
- Right.
- "You know,
433
00:16:20,387 --> 00:16:22,146
we're not have this,"
you know what I'm saying?
434
00:16:22,231 --> 00:16:25,391
Like, "I'm not about to let
your negativity affect me."
435
00:16:25,475 --> 00:16:29,061
♪ ♪
436
00:16:29,146 --> 00:16:30,896
- In her previous
relationships, do you think
437
00:16:30,990 --> 00:16:33,324
people have given her her way
when she had tantrums?
438
00:16:33,409 --> 00:16:35,985
- Yes. For sure.
- Yeah.
439
00:16:36,069 --> 00:16:37,820
- 'Cause she's a alpha,
at the end of the day, so--
440
00:16:37,913 --> 00:16:39,238
- She'll run over you,
if you let her.
441
00:16:39,322 --> 00:16:40,823
- Yeah. Exactly.
She can.
442
00:16:40,907 --> 00:16:42,992
♪ ♪
443
00:16:43,076 --> 00:16:45,837
- I need you guys to have
that proactive conversation.
444
00:16:45,921 --> 00:16:50,332
Ask her, "Why is your reaction
the way it is?"
445
00:16:50,417 --> 00:16:53,344
'Cause negativity is like
a cancer to a relationship.
446
00:16:53,429 --> 00:16:55,921
That is a problem
that's affecting both of you.
447
00:16:56,015 --> 00:16:57,682
- Yeah. It can derail
at any moment, you know.
448
00:16:57,841 --> 00:16:58,841
- It could.
449
00:16:58,925 --> 00:17:03,771
♪ ♪
450
00:17:03,856 --> 00:17:06,524
- ♪ 6:00 a.m., she wakes up
just to do her makeup ♪
451
00:17:06,608 --> 00:17:08,601
♪ Every day,
she paints it on ♪
452
00:17:08,685 --> 00:17:11,029
♪ She don't wear enough,
though, now it's too much ♪
453
00:17:11,188 --> 00:17:12,989
♪ Oh, every day,
she gets it wrong ♪
454
00:17:17,286 --> 00:17:20,696
- I was a little nervous,
but now I'm feeling lovely
455
00:17:20,789 --> 00:17:23,115
after I've had 25¢ martinis.
456
00:17:23,208 --> 00:17:24,617
[music fades]
457
00:17:24,701 --> 00:17:27,211
♪ ♪
458
00:17:27,296 --> 00:17:30,381
- Oh! I was expecting you
to come from that way.
459
00:17:30,540 --> 00:17:32,875
- I was like,
oh, it's a long walk.
460
00:17:32,968 --> 00:17:34,126
- Yeah, I know.
I think you--
461
00:17:34,211 --> 00:17:36,295
Oh, well. Hi.
[laughter]
462
00:17:36,379 --> 00:17:38,389
♪ ♪
463
00:17:38,548 --> 00:17:42,718
- Oh, another day
in happy town here, guys.
464
00:17:42,803 --> 00:17:45,304
That is the mood right now.
Need I say more?
465
00:17:45,388 --> 00:17:50,142
♪ ♪
466
00:17:50,227 --> 00:17:51,894
- You're very smiley, Myrla.
467
00:17:51,978 --> 00:17:53,905
- [giggles shyly]
468
00:17:53,989 --> 00:17:56,899
- Now, I know you have been out
partying with your friends
469
00:17:56,992 --> 00:17:58,651
before you came here.
- I know!
470
00:17:58,735 --> 00:18:02,914
- And I want you to know
that you're not sober yet.
471
00:18:02,998 --> 00:18:05,074
But what I want
to talk to you about,
472
00:18:05,158 --> 00:18:07,168
of course, is your marriage.
473
00:18:07,252 --> 00:18:11,330
There are less than three weeks
left until Decision Day.
474
00:18:11,423 --> 00:18:16,585
What are the questions
that you would like to ask him
475
00:18:16,670 --> 00:18:18,170
in order to feel comfortable
476
00:18:18,255 --> 00:18:20,589
about saying yes
on Decision Day?
477
00:18:20,674 --> 00:18:22,508
♪ ♪
478
00:18:22,592 --> 00:18:24,927
- Um...
479
00:18:25,011 --> 00:18:27,939
I think, for me,
my question to him is,
480
00:18:28,023 --> 00:18:29,023
what do you need from me
481
00:18:29,182 --> 00:18:31,767
to make sure that
you're okay and happy?
482
00:18:31,852 --> 00:18:33,686
And if I'm not giving you
what you need, like,
483
00:18:33,770 --> 00:18:34,520
what do you need from me?
484
00:18:34,613 --> 00:18:37,106
What am I not doing enough of?
485
00:18:37,199 --> 00:18:39,775
Because I want this to work out.
486
00:18:39,860 --> 00:18:41,953
♪ ♪
487
00:18:42,112 --> 00:18:44,455
- Well, I know
you've got high standards,
488
00:18:44,614 --> 00:18:48,793
and you've earned them,
so I respect that.
489
00:18:48,877 --> 00:18:51,879
I have noticed that you're
a very critical human being.
490
00:18:52,038 --> 00:18:53,047
You know, a lot of this--
491
00:18:53,132 --> 00:18:56,217
- I am, Dr. Pepper.
[laughter]
492
00:18:56,301 --> 00:18:57,877
Our neighbors are
kind of close, though.
493
00:18:57,970 --> 00:18:58,886
You don't think?
494
00:18:58,971 --> 00:19:00,805
My pool is better
than that pool.
495
00:19:00,964 --> 00:19:02,723
Can you get in the water
from here, though?
496
00:19:02,808 --> 00:19:04,884
I just see, like, murky grass.
497
00:19:04,977 --> 00:19:06,727
You know what's missing?
498
00:19:06,812 --> 00:19:09,564
The sound of the ocean waves.
499
00:19:09,648 --> 00:19:11,807
Obviously, you've seen,
Dr. Pepper,
500
00:19:11,900 --> 00:19:15,736
there is, like,
this much filter to my--
501
00:19:15,896 --> 00:19:18,898
To the things that I say.
502
00:19:18,982 --> 00:19:21,817
Like, I can't bite my tongue
and not say things,
503
00:19:21,910 --> 00:19:24,996
because I'm so honest and blunt.
504
00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:26,581
- I get that,
505
00:19:26,665 --> 00:19:31,744
but I do think a constant rain
of criticism changes the mood.
506
00:19:31,828 --> 00:19:33,171
♪ ♪
507
00:19:33,255 --> 00:19:36,916
And that could become
a big problem in your marriage.
508
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:42,087
♪ ♪
509
00:19:42,181 --> 00:19:44,924
Do you feel grateful
that he's in your life?
510
00:19:45,008 --> 00:19:46,517
- I do.
511
00:19:46,676 --> 00:19:48,603
This morning, we woke up,
and I was like,
512
00:19:48,687 --> 00:19:52,190
"Man, I'm--you make me
so happy every day."
513
00:19:52,274 --> 00:19:53,691
It's just so amazing.
514
00:19:53,775 --> 00:19:58,863
Like, above and beyond what
I even expected was, like--
515
00:19:58,947 --> 00:20:01,690
You pray for things,
but you don't think that--
516
00:20:01,783 --> 00:20:03,117
You know, you never really think
517
00:20:03,202 --> 00:20:04,285
that these things will happen.
518
00:20:04,444 --> 00:20:07,705
Like, he's so thoughtful.
519
00:20:07,789 --> 00:20:11,709
And that's why I'm, like,
I made the choice to love you.
520
00:20:11,793 --> 00:20:13,127
So much good in his heart.
521
00:20:13,286 --> 00:20:15,213
I think everything that
I imagined a husband would be,
522
00:20:15,297 --> 00:20:18,216
he's just, like--like,
an extra step above that.
523
00:20:18,375 --> 00:20:20,459
I never thought
that would be possible.
524
00:20:20,543 --> 00:20:21,877
And because of that,
525
00:20:21,962 --> 00:20:24,880
I made the choice
to love my husband.
526
00:20:24,965 --> 00:20:28,884
♪ ♪
527
00:20:28,969 --> 00:20:34,390
I think I knew I would be happy
in marriage, but...
528
00:20:34,474 --> 00:20:36,817
I didn't think that, you know,
529
00:20:36,902 --> 00:20:41,146
I would get everything I wanted
and more in marriage.
530
00:20:41,231 --> 00:20:45,401
♪ ♪
531
00:20:45,494 --> 00:20:47,995
I'm very happy.
[giggles shyly]
532
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:49,830
- I love hearing that.
533
00:20:49,915 --> 00:20:52,500
But, of course, there are
two people in this marriage.
534
00:20:52,659 --> 00:20:55,494
And if you don't start working
on your negativity soon,
535
00:20:55,578 --> 00:20:57,171
you could lose him.
536
00:20:57,256 --> 00:20:59,081
And you don't want that
to happen.
537
00:20:59,165 --> 00:21:01,092
♪ ♪
538
00:21:04,930 --> 00:21:06,597
[upbeat music]
539
00:21:06,756 --> 00:21:07,682
♪ ♪
540
00:21:07,841 --> 00:21:10,351
- ♪ When we're apart ♪
541
00:21:10,435 --> 00:21:13,178
- Zack and I had
our moments already,
542
00:21:13,263 --> 00:21:16,190
and I don't think at this point
neither--either one of us
543
00:21:16,349 --> 00:21:19,694
are ignoring anything
in our marriage.
544
00:21:19,778 --> 00:21:23,188
I think we are both
paying full attention,
545
00:21:23,282 --> 00:21:25,449
because we want this marriage.
We want to be together.
546
00:21:25,534 --> 00:21:28,527
And so, I hope that he uses
this moment to be honest
547
00:21:28,620 --> 00:21:30,029
and truthful and open.
548
00:21:30,122 --> 00:21:32,448
So, here goes nothing.
549
00:21:32,532 --> 00:21:33,949
♪ ♪
550
00:21:34,042 --> 00:21:36,368
- How you doing?
- I'm great. Thank you.
551
00:21:36,461 --> 00:21:37,962
- Hey, Pastor Cal.
552
00:21:38,121 --> 00:21:39,213
- How are you, my dear?
- What's up?
553
00:21:39,372 --> 00:21:40,706
- Oh, my gosh.
Good to see you.
554
00:21:40,799 --> 00:21:42,124
- Good to see you too.
555
00:21:42,208 --> 00:21:44,385
♪ ♪
556
00:21:44,469 --> 00:21:45,803
- How have things been going?
557
00:21:45,887 --> 00:21:47,471
- Things have been
going a lot better.
558
00:21:47,630 --> 00:21:48,806
- Okay.
559
00:21:48,890 --> 00:21:50,808
- But it's like,
I have to take it step-by-step.
560
00:21:50,967 --> 00:21:53,394
We've only been one week in
of a good time.
561
00:21:53,553 --> 00:21:55,980
We had three, four weeks
of a bad time.
562
00:21:56,064 --> 00:21:57,898
So, it's still--
563
00:21:58,058 --> 00:21:59,558
- It's still new.
- Still new.
564
00:21:59,651 --> 00:22:01,319
- And that's fine.
565
00:22:01,478 --> 00:22:03,729
But you guys only have
three weeks to decide
566
00:22:03,822 --> 00:22:06,490
whether you're going to
stay married or get a divorce.
567
00:22:06,575 --> 00:22:09,994
And you have to know who this
person is that you're marrying.
568
00:22:10,153 --> 00:22:11,820
♪ ♪
569
00:22:11,913 --> 00:22:13,664
Why do you think
we matched you guys?
570
00:22:13,749 --> 00:22:17,335
- Uh, I can tell
we're both goofy.
571
00:22:17,419 --> 00:22:20,588
[chuckles]
We both like a challenge.
572
00:22:20,672 --> 00:22:23,507
We both are ambitious.
573
00:22:23,592 --> 00:22:25,751
We both are strong-headed.
574
00:22:25,844 --> 00:22:28,346
[chuckles]
575
00:22:28,505 --> 00:22:30,514
- So, what are some
of the questions that you have
576
00:22:30,673 --> 00:22:33,184
that maybe are unanswered
about Zack?
577
00:22:33,268 --> 00:22:35,603
Can you think of anything?
578
00:22:35,762 --> 00:22:38,180
- I guess what I'm wondering is
579
00:22:38,273 --> 00:22:40,274
the actual picture
of marriage he had.
580
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:41,266
- Mm.
581
00:22:41,351 --> 00:22:43,352
- What did that look like
for him?
582
00:22:43,445 --> 00:22:45,437
Because he says how badly
he wanted this marriage.
583
00:22:45,522 --> 00:22:46,864
- I remember. Yeah.
584
00:22:46,948 --> 00:22:48,273
- What did that look like?
585
00:22:48,367 --> 00:22:50,034
- That's an awesome question,
586
00:22:50,193 --> 00:22:53,695
because quite often,
we judge our marriages
587
00:22:53,789 --> 00:22:56,957
by this often
unrealistic picture
588
00:22:57,117 --> 00:22:59,368
of what we think
marriage ought to be.
589
00:22:59,461 --> 00:23:01,203
What are you expecting
from your relationship?
590
00:23:01,287 --> 00:23:03,956
And what do--
What do you want from him?
591
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,549
- I want him to be happy.
592
00:23:05,708 --> 00:23:07,960
- Why is that a request?
Tell me more about that.
593
00:23:08,044 --> 00:23:12,714
- Because if he's not happy,
it does--it kind of affects me,
594
00:23:12,799 --> 00:23:14,558
because I live with you.
You're my partner.
595
00:23:14,717 --> 00:23:16,635
And I don't need that happiness
coming from me.
596
00:23:16,719 --> 00:23:18,470
I don't want to be the source
of that happiness,
597
00:23:18,563 --> 00:23:20,981
because if I disappear,
you know, in any kind of way,
598
00:23:21,141 --> 00:23:24,318
I'd hate for you to be unhappy.
I want you to be happy, period.
599
00:23:24,477 --> 00:23:27,071
- Is it possible that maybe
600
00:23:27,230 --> 00:23:29,407
a lot of his happiness
can come from you?
601
00:23:29,491 --> 00:23:31,659
- That's just a lot
of responsibility,
602
00:23:31,743 --> 00:23:36,155
to be responsible for another
grown person's happiness.
603
00:23:36,239 --> 00:23:38,323
- Okay,
but this is your husband.
604
00:23:38,408 --> 00:23:40,584
- True.
- And you are his wife.
605
00:23:40,743 --> 00:23:42,744
And people have this idea
that all your happiness
606
00:23:42,829 --> 00:23:44,588
has to be self-generated.
607
00:23:44,747 --> 00:23:46,498
You know, "I need you
to be a happy person,
608
00:23:46,591 --> 00:23:48,417
"and I can be a happy person.
We can be happy together.
609
00:23:48,510 --> 00:23:51,178
And, hey!"
And that sounds good, right?
610
00:23:51,263 --> 00:23:53,431
I'm not responsible
for my wife's happiness.
611
00:23:53,590 --> 00:23:54,682
- Mm-hmm.
612
00:23:54,841 --> 00:23:56,925
- But for me to say
that I'm not contributing
613
00:23:57,018 --> 00:24:00,095
to her happiness--
No, that's crazy.
614
00:24:00,180 --> 00:24:02,848
♪ ♪
615
00:24:02,941 --> 00:24:04,933
- I think we're both
just taking it day-by-day,
616
00:24:05,026 --> 00:24:07,186
step-by-step,
and trying to get better.
617
00:24:07,279 --> 00:24:09,196
But, he's complicated.
618
00:24:09,281 --> 00:24:12,858
And he's--you know,
in whatever, you know,
619
00:24:12,951 --> 00:24:14,776
state of unhappiness he's in,
620
00:24:14,861 --> 00:24:17,621
or funk, or dissatisfaction,
or whatever,
621
00:24:17,706 --> 00:24:20,616
I'm not 100% sure
what's going on.
622
00:24:20,709 --> 00:24:23,702
I know happy Zack,
and I see not-so-happy Zack,
623
00:24:23,795 --> 00:24:26,038
and I want him to be happy.
624
00:24:26,131 --> 00:24:28,540
- What can be done
625
00:24:28,633 --> 00:24:32,970
to create a safe place
for happy Zack to return?
626
00:24:33,129 --> 00:24:34,221
- Mm-hmm.
627
00:24:34,306 --> 00:24:35,881
- I mean, is that something,
do you think,
628
00:24:35,965 --> 00:24:37,558
that you might want to know?
629
00:24:37,642 --> 00:24:39,134
Because, I mean, you were saying
630
00:24:39,227 --> 00:24:41,979
you want to know
how to get to happy Zack.
631
00:24:42,063 --> 00:24:44,389
- I want Zack to know
how to get to happy Zack.
632
00:24:44,483 --> 00:24:48,486
- Absolutely. But you have
to be a participating party.
633
00:24:48,570 --> 00:24:50,654
- Yes. Mm-hmm.
634
00:24:50,813 --> 00:24:52,898
- He can't get there without
you. I mean, you're married.
635
00:24:52,991 --> 00:24:55,067
Look, this is not about him
getting places on his own.
636
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,494
You gotta work like hell
637
00:24:56,578 --> 00:24:58,487
to make sure that it becomes
what you want it to be.
638
00:24:58,580 --> 00:25:00,581
And that ball is
in both of your courts.
639
00:25:00,740 --> 00:25:03,083
- Yeah.
- If you want to be
640
00:25:03,168 --> 00:25:06,170
long-term, married to Zack,
then you can be.
641
00:25:06,329 --> 00:25:08,163
♪ ♪
642
00:25:08,256 --> 00:25:10,508
Do you want this more
than you don't want it?
643
00:25:10,667 --> 00:25:14,670
♪ ♪
644
00:25:14,763 --> 00:25:16,514
- You know, we get told just,
you know,
645
00:25:16,598 --> 00:25:18,173
kind of what's going on.
- Mm-hmm.
646
00:25:18,266 --> 00:25:20,342
- But I don't get
to talk to you about it.
647
00:25:20,426 --> 00:25:21,685
- Yeah.
648
00:25:21,770 --> 00:25:24,012
- So, tell me what you think
of your marriage so far.
649
00:25:24,105 --> 00:25:26,440
- So, we started off
doing really good.
650
00:25:26,599 --> 00:25:28,192
And then, some things
have happened.
651
00:25:28,276 --> 00:25:30,528
Then, we kind of worked
through issues, and--
652
00:25:30,687 --> 00:25:32,938
To where we are today,
which is a good spot.
653
00:25:33,031 --> 00:25:35,524
But, to me, it seems like
it's, like, a choice, right?
654
00:25:35,608 --> 00:25:38,702
Like, if I apply these rules
or these methods,
655
00:25:38,787 --> 00:25:41,530
then, you know, this could
work out, no matter what.
656
00:25:41,614 --> 00:25:43,615
It's missing the element
of just, like,
657
00:25:43,700 --> 00:25:45,376
meant to be,
as opposed to, like,
658
00:25:45,535 --> 00:25:47,711
you're actively choosing
this marriage to work.
659
00:25:47,870 --> 00:25:49,204
♪ ♪
660
00:25:49,289 --> 00:25:51,540
That's why I go back and forth
between I'm happy now,
661
00:25:51,624 --> 00:25:55,294
but then hold on, am I, like,
really just convincing myself?
662
00:25:55,387 --> 00:25:57,796
I don't know. It's just--it's
a very difficult situation.
663
00:25:57,889 --> 00:26:00,641
- I understand. And I think
those are profound questions.
664
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,718
I really do.
I don't think--
665
00:26:02,802 --> 00:26:04,061
- Yeah.
- I have to tell you, honestly,
666
00:26:04,145 --> 00:26:07,731
from who I am--I don't think
things were meant to be.
667
00:26:07,890 --> 00:26:09,975
♪ ♪
668
00:26:10,059 --> 00:26:13,153
I think things
are opportunities.
669
00:26:13,313 --> 00:26:15,647
And so, what we did
is pick a woman
670
00:26:15,732 --> 00:26:17,908
that we think is
very good for you.
671
00:26:18,067 --> 00:26:19,743
- Mm-hmm.
- I mean,
672
00:26:19,828 --> 00:26:22,904
not only is she attractive
and successful and smart,
673
00:26:22,989 --> 00:26:25,073
she has a lot of heart.
- Yeah, no, I see all that.
674
00:26:25,166 --> 00:26:26,417
I definitely see
why we were matched.
675
00:26:26,501 --> 00:26:28,502
- And so, if you're lucky enough
676
00:26:28,661 --> 00:26:30,504
to get these raw materials--
- Mm-hmm.
677
00:26:30,663 --> 00:26:32,506
- You get this opportunity--
- Yeah.
678
00:26:32,665 --> 00:26:34,499
- Then, to get the traction
679
00:26:34,584 --> 00:26:37,595
to make them sing and grow
and be better.
680
00:26:37,754 --> 00:26:39,096
- Yeah.
681
00:26:39,255 --> 00:26:43,100
- So, what answers do you need
to say yes on Decision Day?
682
00:26:43,259 --> 00:26:44,426
♪ ♪
683
00:26:44,519 --> 00:26:46,520
- It is as simple
as just, like--
684
00:26:46,605 --> 00:26:47,596
The last week has been amazing,
685
00:26:47,689 --> 00:26:51,600
so just hanging out,
going on dates.
686
00:26:51,684 --> 00:26:54,936
If we can--if we can
continue that and this,
687
00:26:55,021 --> 00:26:57,364
then I think that's all I need.
688
00:26:57,523 --> 00:26:59,608
And if we keep this up,
then I am--
689
00:26:59,701 --> 00:27:02,611
I am optimistic for the future.
690
00:27:02,695 --> 00:27:05,030
- Well, I think
that's wonderful. I do.
691
00:27:05,114 --> 00:27:08,125
But there--but there are a few
things that I think we've seen
692
00:27:08,209 --> 00:27:11,128
that maybe you want to get
some direction on from her.
693
00:27:11,287 --> 00:27:12,954
- Yeah.
- You know, one of them
694
00:27:13,039 --> 00:27:18,960
was just maybe how you can
make her feel more secure,
695
00:27:19,054 --> 00:27:21,221
to bring the best out in her.
- Yeah.
696
00:27:21,306 --> 00:27:25,893
- Insecurity in relationship
never--never does good stuff.
697
00:27:26,052 --> 00:27:27,978
- That is very important to me,
698
00:27:28,063 --> 00:27:29,813
'cause I want her
to be herself, right?
699
00:27:29,972 --> 00:27:32,900
I don't want her
to be tiptoeing around
700
00:27:32,984 --> 00:27:34,818
who she really is,
just because she's scared
701
00:27:34,977 --> 00:27:37,062
that if she says something,
that I'm gonna,
702
00:27:37,155 --> 00:27:39,147
you know, change my mind
or something like that.
703
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,991
So, I'm definitely gonna
talk to her about that.
704
00:27:41,150 --> 00:27:43,077
♪ ♪
705
00:27:43,161 --> 00:27:44,995
- With any conversation,
706
00:27:45,154 --> 00:27:48,657
the first thing is to try
to avoid extreme terms.
707
00:27:48,741 --> 00:27:49,825
- Mm-hmm.
708
00:27:49,918 --> 00:27:52,411
- And always to ask questions.
709
00:27:52,504 --> 00:27:56,006
Questions are just always
the right thing to reach for.
710
00:27:56,091 --> 00:28:00,085
- Yeah. I'm thinking back to,
like, all of our disagreements,
711
00:28:00,178 --> 00:28:02,596
and I'm wondering if I--
712
00:28:02,681 --> 00:28:04,506
Did I always ask
the right questions?
713
00:28:04,599 --> 00:28:07,017
I don't think I did
all the time.
714
00:28:07,176 --> 00:28:10,270
♪ ♪
715
00:28:10,355 --> 00:28:13,357
And I'm getting sad,
because, like...
716
00:28:13,516 --> 00:28:20,364
♪ ♪
717
00:28:25,620 --> 00:28:27,204
What the?
[sobbing softly]
718
00:28:27,363 --> 00:28:29,540
♪ ♪
719
00:28:29,624 --> 00:28:33,368
Like, I realize...
720
00:28:33,453 --> 00:28:35,212
I'm--I'm a perfectionist,
721
00:28:35,371 --> 00:28:39,049
and so, like, nothing I ever do
in life is good enough.
722
00:28:39,208 --> 00:28:44,304
♪ ♪
723
00:28:44,464 --> 00:28:46,390
- Oh, Zack.
- And so--
724
00:28:46,549 --> 00:28:48,300
♪ ♪
725
00:28:48,384 --> 00:28:50,978
And so, I put that
on other people,
726
00:28:51,062 --> 00:28:55,482
including putting it
on my, like--
727
00:28:55,641 --> 00:28:58,068
My wife, and it's not fair.
728
00:28:58,227 --> 00:29:01,646
♪ ♪
729
00:29:01,731 --> 00:29:03,657
Like, Michaela's
an amazing person.
730
00:29:03,816 --> 00:29:06,660
Like, she's not
a bad person at all.
731
00:29:06,819 --> 00:29:08,236
It's just, like,
I have this [bleep] view
732
00:29:08,329 --> 00:29:09,821
that, like, things
have to be perfect,
733
00:29:09,914 --> 00:29:13,492
and, like, no matter what I do
in life, it's not good enough.
734
00:29:13,585 --> 00:29:15,243
I have to get away from that.
735
00:29:15,328 --> 00:29:17,746
♪ ♪
736
00:29:17,830 --> 00:29:20,007
But it's got me to where
I am today, but I don't know.
737
00:29:20,091 --> 00:29:22,426
Like, I can't have that mindset
in a relationship.
738
00:29:22,585 --> 00:29:23,761
I can't.
739
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:25,846
♪ ♪
740
00:29:25,930 --> 00:29:27,765
I can't.
It's just not gonna work.
741
00:29:27,924 --> 00:29:30,342
♪ ♪
742
00:29:30,426 --> 00:29:33,103
- It's a really great way
to undermine your happiness...
743
00:29:33,262 --> 00:29:34,596
- Yeah.
744
00:29:34,689 --> 00:29:38,609
- And someone else's happiness,
if only perfect will do.
745
00:29:38,768 --> 00:29:40,277
♪ ♪
746
00:29:40,361 --> 00:29:43,113
- I don't know.
I don't know.
747
00:29:43,272 --> 00:29:45,073
♪ ♪
748
00:29:49,028 --> 00:29:51,622
- ♪ People make mistakes,
we are human ♪
749
00:29:51,706 --> 00:29:54,374
♪ But, honey, it was fate
letting you in ♪
750
00:29:54,459 --> 00:29:55,951
♪ I'm facing
all the music now ♪
751
00:29:56,044 --> 00:29:59,797
- I just finished talking
to Dr. Pepper.
752
00:29:59,881 --> 00:30:02,633
And I'm excited
to see my husband,
753
00:30:02,792 --> 00:30:04,793
because he just finished
to Pastor Cal,
754
00:30:04,877 --> 00:30:08,547
and I think he's gonna, like,
tell my husband, like,
755
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,142
"Oh, you need to treat
your wife like a princess."
756
00:30:12,301 --> 00:30:14,970
But my husband already
treats me like a princess,
757
00:30:15,054 --> 00:30:16,730
so I'm really actually
curious to see
758
00:30:16,815 --> 00:30:18,557
what he talked about
with Pastor Cal.
759
00:30:18,641 --> 00:30:21,235
♪ ♪
760
00:30:21,319 --> 00:30:23,061
- What's up, baby?
761
00:30:23,145 --> 00:30:25,989
Right here.
[chair skids]
762
00:30:26,148 --> 00:30:27,399
Come on.
763
00:30:27,483 --> 00:30:28,567
- Oh, okay.
764
00:30:28,651 --> 00:30:31,570
♪ ♪
765
00:30:31,654 --> 00:30:32,821
- You good?
766
00:30:32,905 --> 00:30:34,915
♪ ♪
767
00:30:34,999 --> 00:30:37,584
Come on.
Have a seat.
768
00:30:37,743 --> 00:30:39,661
- What a gentleman.
769
00:30:39,745 --> 00:30:40,912
- There you go.
770
00:30:40,997 --> 00:30:43,674
♪ ♪
771
00:30:43,758 --> 00:30:45,676
[chuckles]
772
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:48,086
- Why are you laughing at me?
- 'Cause.
773
00:30:48,170 --> 00:30:50,922
♪ ♪
774
00:30:51,007 --> 00:30:52,599
How'd it go?
775
00:30:52,684 --> 00:30:54,426
- It was pretty easy.
776
00:30:54,519 --> 00:30:56,261
- Well, yeah, I didn't think
it was gonna be hard.
777
00:30:56,354 --> 00:30:58,096
- I know. I didn't think
it was gonna be hard either.
778
00:30:58,180 --> 00:30:59,848
I thought it was gonna
be boring, to be honest.
779
00:30:59,932 --> 00:31:01,692
- And was it?
- It actually was not boring.
780
00:31:01,851 --> 00:31:03,944
- Okay. So, there's
a couple questions,
781
00:31:04,028 --> 00:31:05,028
basically, I want to ask you.
782
00:31:05,113 --> 00:31:06,688
I want to see
how you respond to them.
783
00:31:06,772 --> 00:31:10,275
They all have
to relate towards, um,
784
00:31:10,368 --> 00:31:13,945
Miss Little Debbie Downer
that you can be sometimes.
785
00:31:14,030 --> 00:31:16,623
When you get like that,
786
00:31:16,708 --> 00:31:20,544
the problem for me is
787
00:31:20,703 --> 00:31:23,622
if my mood start to change
'cause of it.
788
00:31:23,715 --> 00:31:26,124
And I don't like that.
789
00:31:26,217 --> 00:31:31,379
So, I definitely want to know
why you've gotten like that.
790
00:31:31,464 --> 00:31:34,549
- A lot of times, it's because
of my introvert-ness.
791
00:31:34,634 --> 00:31:36,143
Like, I'm done with people,
792
00:31:36,227 --> 00:31:37,811
my husband's not done
with people.
793
00:31:37,896 --> 00:31:41,648
Or if I am in a situation where
I'm uncomfortable or not happy,
794
00:31:41,733 --> 00:31:43,975
that makes me moody and needy.
795
00:31:44,060 --> 00:31:46,811
♪ ♪
796
00:31:46,905 --> 00:31:51,658
- If that's the case,
when you're in your mood,
797
00:31:51,743 --> 00:31:57,322
what can I do to be a buffer?
798
00:31:57,406 --> 00:31:58,832
- What you already do, though.
799
00:31:58,917 --> 00:32:01,743
- Which is what?
- You make me laugh.
800
00:32:01,836 --> 00:32:04,162
You make me, like,
get off subject,
801
00:32:04,246 --> 00:32:05,923
and you take my mind off of it.
802
00:32:06,007 --> 00:32:08,166
And, to me,
that, like, is everything.
803
00:32:08,250 --> 00:32:09,676
- Okay.
804
00:32:09,761 --> 00:32:12,837
- Like, finding some, like,
source of, like, distraction.
805
00:32:12,922 --> 00:32:13,838
That's what.
806
00:32:13,923 --> 00:32:15,924
♪ ♪
807
00:32:16,008 --> 00:32:19,686
So, when I get in my moods,
808
00:32:19,771 --> 00:32:22,347
what would be helpful for you?
809
00:32:22,431 --> 00:32:23,690
Like, what can I do better?
810
00:32:23,775 --> 00:32:25,266
- Not to get in them.
811
00:32:25,351 --> 00:32:27,444
♪ ♪
812
00:32:27,603 --> 00:32:29,279
Case closed!
What are you talking about?
813
00:32:29,438 --> 00:32:31,022
- But what if I get in them?
- Okay.
814
00:32:31,107 --> 00:32:32,950
- And what's better?
815
00:32:33,034 --> 00:32:35,619
- I feel like
you should be considerate
816
00:32:35,703 --> 00:32:38,780
of other people around you
when you get like that.
817
00:32:38,864 --> 00:32:39,706
- Okay.
- Like, I understand
818
00:32:39,865 --> 00:32:42,534
you're upset, but...
819
00:32:42,627 --> 00:32:46,463
is it really that important
to be--to get like that?
820
00:32:46,547 --> 00:32:50,375
And if it is,
try not to affect others.
821
00:32:50,459 --> 00:32:52,886
♪ ♪
822
00:32:53,045 --> 00:32:55,463
Actually, you know what you can
do in that--at that moment?
823
00:32:55,556 --> 00:32:56,640
It would probably
help you out too.
824
00:32:56,799 --> 00:32:57,716
- Hmm?
825
00:32:57,800 --> 00:32:59,718
- Um, just be more affectionate.
826
00:32:59,811 --> 00:33:00,719
- Really?
827
00:33:00,812 --> 00:33:02,813
♪ ♪
828
00:33:02,897 --> 00:33:04,064
- 'Cause I think
that will get you--
829
00:33:04,148 --> 00:33:05,732
- More than what I am already?
- No, no, no.
830
00:33:05,817 --> 00:33:09,236
[sighs]
- [laughs]
831
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:10,821
- What are you talking about?
832
00:33:10,905 --> 00:33:13,064
Anyways, I feel like
833
00:33:13,149 --> 00:33:16,735
it's hard to be affectionate
when you're cranky.
834
00:33:16,828 --> 00:33:18,570
- Yeah, I don't think
it's hard to be affectionate
835
00:33:18,654 --> 00:33:19,821
when I'm cranky.
- No, no, no.
836
00:33:19,905 --> 00:33:21,656
'Cause you won't
be affectionate at that time,
837
00:33:21,749 --> 00:33:22,666
'cause you will be moody, right?
838
00:33:22,825 --> 00:33:23,742
- Mm.
839
00:33:23,826 --> 00:33:25,168
- So, if you
became affectionate,
840
00:33:25,253 --> 00:33:26,837
that'll get your mind off of it.
841
00:33:26,996 --> 00:33:28,505
- So, if I'm moody,
like, don't just stop
842
00:33:28,664 --> 00:33:30,507
being affectionate.
Like, be more affectionate.
843
00:33:30,666 --> 00:33:32,592
- Exactly. Just come over
and give me a hug.
844
00:33:32,677 --> 00:33:34,011
- Hmm.
845
00:33:34,095 --> 00:33:36,596
- 'Cause that'll completely
change your demeanor.
846
00:33:36,756 --> 00:33:39,424
You like that?
- Yeah.
847
00:33:39,508 --> 00:33:42,343
♪ ♪
848
00:33:42,428 --> 00:33:45,105
[laughter]
849
00:33:45,264 --> 00:33:46,773
- ♪ Just feeling good ♪
850
00:33:46,858 --> 00:33:48,525
♪ Now reach for the sun ♪
851
00:33:48,609 --> 00:33:50,685
♪ Can't be hard,
just one by one ♪
852
00:33:50,770 --> 00:33:54,022
- Just left my meeting
with Dr. Pepper.
853
00:33:54,106 --> 00:33:56,450
I'm pretty confident
that our marriage
854
00:33:56,609 --> 00:33:58,035
could weather anything.
855
00:33:58,119 --> 00:34:00,954
It's early on, so I still need
time to be able to say that,
856
00:34:01,113 --> 00:34:02,363
but I think we can.
857
00:34:02,448 --> 00:34:03,957
♪ ♪
858
00:34:04,116 --> 00:34:05,876
- ♪ Just feeling good ♪
859
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,536
- [sighs]
- You're right in the sun.
860
00:34:08,629 --> 00:34:09,880
- I know.
That's what I wanted.
861
00:34:09,964 --> 00:34:11,298
- I'm glad you picked that seat,
862
00:34:11,382 --> 00:34:13,124
'cause I would have asked you
to switch if I sat down.
863
00:34:13,217 --> 00:34:15,218
[laughter]
864
00:34:15,377 --> 00:34:16,878
So, how was your meeting
with Pastor Cal?
865
00:34:16,962 --> 00:34:18,296
- It was really good.
Really productive.
866
00:34:18,389 --> 00:34:19,806
I love talking to him.
867
00:34:19,891 --> 00:34:21,382
How was your meeting
with Dr. Pepper?
868
00:34:21,467 --> 00:34:22,642
- Same. It was really good.
- Yeah?
869
00:34:22,727 --> 00:34:24,895
- Add another moment
where I cried on the list.
870
00:34:24,979 --> 00:34:27,397
- Really? What happened?
- Yeah.
871
00:34:27,482 --> 00:34:29,474
You know, I realized why
a lot of my relationships
872
00:34:29,567 --> 00:34:31,810
don't work out is because,
like, I'm a perfectionist.
873
00:34:31,894 --> 00:34:35,146
Nothing I do in life,
I think, is good enough.
874
00:34:35,231 --> 00:34:37,908
And I kind of transfer
that over to, like, you,
875
00:34:37,992 --> 00:34:39,818
you know what I mean,
which doesn't help anything.
876
00:34:39,902 --> 00:34:42,412
And so, it was, like,
a breakthrough moment,
877
00:34:42,497 --> 00:34:44,322
because I learned a lot
about myself.
878
00:34:44,406 --> 00:34:46,166
Definitely learned a lot
about, like, how to make
879
00:34:46,250 --> 00:34:48,085
our relationship better.
880
00:34:48,169 --> 00:34:51,246
You know, having this
ideal person in my head--
881
00:34:51,330 --> 00:34:53,173
And I know no one
can ever live up to it,
882
00:34:53,332 --> 00:34:55,092
and I don't expect anyone to.
883
00:34:55,176 --> 00:34:57,844
But for some reason, like,
I'm still gonna try.
884
00:34:57,929 --> 00:34:59,838
I don't know, it's just weird.
885
00:34:59,931 --> 00:35:01,598
'Cause I think that's
how I am in, like, life--
886
00:35:01,682 --> 00:35:04,509
Like, with school, work.
887
00:35:04,593 --> 00:35:07,187
But if I don't make a change
and take this opportunity,
888
00:35:07,271 --> 00:35:09,264
then I can be alone
for a long time,
889
00:35:09,348 --> 00:35:11,182
and that's not what I want.
890
00:35:11,275 --> 00:35:14,361
What was one of the questions
you have to ask me?
891
00:35:14,445 --> 00:35:17,364
- I know you--you said
you wanted marriage.
892
00:35:17,448 --> 00:35:18,698
What did marriage
look like for you?
893
00:35:18,783 --> 00:35:21,368
What did being with your wife
look like for you?
894
00:35:21,452 --> 00:35:23,537
- I always go back
to this one image,
895
00:35:23,621 --> 00:35:25,956
where it's me and my wife
in our house,
896
00:35:26,115 --> 00:35:27,624
listening to music,
making breakfast,
897
00:35:27,708 --> 00:35:29,284
with our kids running around,
playing around.
898
00:35:29,377 --> 00:35:31,878
To me, that's what I envision.
899
00:35:31,963 --> 00:35:34,714
And, to me, that's
being ultimately happy.
900
00:35:34,874 --> 00:35:38,293
I built something with someone
that made me a better person,
901
00:35:38,377 --> 00:35:40,303
whom I made a better person,
902
00:35:40,388 --> 00:35:42,305
someone whom I love
unconditionally,
903
00:35:42,390 --> 00:35:43,298
and she love me back.
904
00:35:43,382 --> 00:35:44,808
So, when I think about marriage,
905
00:35:44,892 --> 00:35:47,719
it's something who just makes
me feel unbelievable happy.
906
00:35:47,803 --> 00:35:49,971
♪ ♪
907
00:35:50,064 --> 00:35:51,815
- When I think about marriage,
908
00:35:51,899 --> 00:35:53,141
the marriage that
I would want to be in,
909
00:35:53,225 --> 00:35:57,154
it's romantic, and that
we're, like, partners.
910
00:35:57,313 --> 00:36:01,232
Like, we both have
some type of goal in mind
911
00:36:01,325 --> 00:36:03,577
for our union.
912
00:36:03,661 --> 00:36:06,413
We're aiming for something,
something large.
913
00:36:06,497 --> 00:36:10,325
So, what do you think the goals
are for this marriage?
914
00:36:10,409 --> 00:36:12,335
- Continue to get
to know each other.
915
00:36:12,494 --> 00:36:13,828
Do things together.
Talk to each other.
916
00:36:13,913 --> 00:36:17,090
I think that it's
gonna help me get to
917
00:36:17,249 --> 00:36:18,833
where we both want to be,
918
00:36:18,918 --> 00:36:21,094
which is, we both see a future.
919
00:36:21,253 --> 00:36:25,089
- You know, I hear you.
920
00:36:25,174 --> 00:36:26,674
- Mm-hmm.
921
00:36:26,759 --> 00:36:31,679
- But I really do wish
that I could shake
922
00:36:31,764 --> 00:36:34,265
whatever this hesitation is
that's inside of me,
923
00:36:34,350 --> 00:36:37,694
you know, shake this guard
that I have up.
924
00:36:37,853 --> 00:36:39,103
- So, you still have
a guard up right now?
925
00:36:39,188 --> 00:36:39,946
- Mm-hmm.
926
00:36:40,031 --> 00:36:42,440
- I couldn't tell.
- Yeah.
927
00:36:42,524 --> 00:36:46,194
- Well, how can I make you feel
more secure in our marriage,
928
00:36:46,278 --> 00:36:48,613
meaning you know I won't
run away at the next conflict
929
00:36:48,697 --> 00:36:51,625
or next, whatever big thing?
930
00:36:51,709 --> 00:36:54,628
- I think your words and
your actions mean a lot to me.
931
00:36:54,787 --> 00:36:55,954
- Just that?
- Yeah.
932
00:36:56,038 --> 00:36:58,456
- Just being cognizant
of my words and actions?
933
00:36:58,540 --> 00:37:00,467
- Mm-hmm.
934
00:37:00,551 --> 00:37:04,295
I don't really know what words
you can--you can say.
935
00:37:04,380 --> 00:37:06,297
I just have this
overwhelming sense
936
00:37:06,382 --> 00:37:10,051
that, like, you're not really
937
00:37:10,135 --> 00:37:13,730
in the belief that this
would be a long-term thing.
938
00:37:13,814 --> 00:37:16,808
I can't honestly say
that I'm like,
939
00:37:16,901 --> 00:37:19,227
"Oh, well, our future
looks like this," you know?
940
00:37:19,311 --> 00:37:20,228
- Yeah.
941
00:37:20,321 --> 00:37:21,488
- I used to be able to say that,
942
00:37:21,572 --> 00:37:23,573
but now I'm just kind of,
like, eh, you know,
943
00:37:23,732 --> 00:37:26,993
'cause I don't feel like
you feel that way.
944
00:37:27,078 --> 00:37:28,319
I want to feel that way.
945
00:37:28,404 --> 00:37:31,081
I want to be able to talk
about future and kids
946
00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:33,250
and what we're--you know,
where we're gonna move
947
00:37:33,334 --> 00:37:34,325
in the next four weeks.
- Yeah.
948
00:37:34,410 --> 00:37:37,161
- What does that look like
for us?
949
00:37:37,246 --> 00:37:39,089
- I mean, my main goal is to--
950
00:37:39,173 --> 00:37:40,748
To do whatever I can
to make this work.
951
00:37:40,833 --> 00:37:42,509
- ♪ Unchain, oh, yeah ♪
952
00:37:42,593 --> 00:37:44,261
♪ Unchain my heart,
I said, unchain ♪
953
00:37:48,173 --> 00:37:51,092
- ♪ Look around
so you remember ♪
954
00:37:51,176 --> 00:37:54,688
♪ What your world was like
before we came ♪
955
00:37:54,772 --> 00:37:56,514
- So, Bao meets
with Pastor Cal today
956
00:37:56,598 --> 00:37:58,858
and I meet with Dr. Pepper.
957
00:37:58,943 --> 00:38:00,518
At this point,
I'm really not even worried
958
00:38:00,602 --> 00:38:02,279
about what Bao's gonna say.
959
00:38:02,438 --> 00:38:04,281
We had a really tough session
last week.
960
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:05,690
I wasn't ready
to talk to him then,
961
00:38:05,783 --> 00:38:08,118
but today I think I'm ready
to talk to Dr. Pepper,
962
00:38:08,202 --> 00:38:11,029
and she should be ready
to talk to Pastor Cal.
963
00:38:11,113 --> 00:38:14,374
♪ ♪
964
00:38:14,458 --> 00:38:16,209
- Hi.
- Hi.
965
00:38:16,294 --> 00:38:18,119
- Hi, Pastor Cal.
- Hi, Bao.
966
00:38:18,203 --> 00:38:20,288
How are you, hon?
- I'm good.
967
00:38:20,372 --> 00:38:23,207
- Dr. Pepper.
[sighs]
968
00:38:23,301 --> 00:38:25,218
- I'm glad to see you.
969
00:38:25,303 --> 00:38:27,554
- How are you?
- I'm good.
970
00:38:27,638 --> 00:38:29,630
I gather it's been
a little rough for you.
971
00:38:29,715 --> 00:38:32,550
- It has. Yeah.
972
00:38:32,643 --> 00:38:34,227
I feel like, with her,
973
00:38:34,312 --> 00:38:35,970
I'm somebody
that I don't want to be.
974
00:38:36,055 --> 00:38:38,898
♪ ♪
975
00:38:38,983 --> 00:38:40,141
I don't know anymore.
976
00:38:40,234 --> 00:38:41,318
Like, we have these arguments,
977
00:38:41,402 --> 00:38:43,144
and they're not
constructive arguments,
978
00:38:43,228 --> 00:38:45,730
because we don't argue well.
979
00:38:45,814 --> 00:38:47,565
- But isn't that something
we have to change?
980
00:38:47,649 --> 00:38:49,567
Isn't there something
we need to learn here?
981
00:38:49,651 --> 00:38:53,663
♪ ♪
982
00:38:53,822 --> 00:38:55,406
- Ooh.
983
00:38:55,491 --> 00:38:58,418
- I don't want you to feel that
984
00:38:58,502 --> 00:39:02,747
your best self didn't triumph
over the things you regret.
985
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,918
You've said things that
you need to apologize for,
986
00:39:07,011 --> 00:39:10,680
and learn a new way
of dealing with your anger
987
00:39:10,839 --> 00:39:13,841
or disappointment,
that you can be proud of.
988
00:39:13,926 --> 00:39:15,852
- Yeah.
989
00:39:15,936 --> 00:39:18,596
- You can say, "I'm angry.
I hate that.
990
00:39:18,689 --> 00:39:23,017
When you're like that,
I feel distant and unloving,"
991
00:39:23,102 --> 00:39:26,488
but not things that nobody
can grow from or change.
992
00:39:30,692 --> 00:39:35,029
- I want you guys to be able
to talk through differences,
993
00:39:35,114 --> 00:39:37,457
to not get to standstills.
994
00:39:37,541 --> 00:39:39,709
What can you together to fix it
995
00:39:39,794 --> 00:39:41,628
and try and be proud
of yourselves
996
00:39:41,712 --> 00:39:44,214
that you can do that?
997
00:39:44,298 --> 00:39:47,550
You need to be sure that you
are making the right decision
998
00:39:47,635 --> 00:39:49,127
on Decision Day.
999
00:39:49,211 --> 00:39:52,055
So, a question you might
want to ask her is,
1000
00:39:52,214 --> 00:39:56,467
"I'm thinking of these new ways
of communicating.
1001
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:58,970
Will you be willing
to work with me on them?"
1002
00:39:59,063 --> 00:40:01,806
♪ ♪
1003
00:40:01,890 --> 00:40:06,394
Put yourself in a circumstance
to be who you want to be.
1004
00:40:06,478 --> 00:40:07,645
- Whenever we have problems,
1005
00:40:07,729 --> 00:40:09,239
I don't try to fix the problems.
1006
00:40:09,398 --> 00:40:11,983
I try to fix what is
the source of the problems.
1007
00:40:12,067 --> 00:40:13,985
And I've felt like
the problems that we have are
1008
00:40:14,078 --> 00:40:16,320
trust, communication,
1009
00:40:16,405 --> 00:40:19,499
and we don't have
a foundation of friendship.
1010
00:40:19,583 --> 00:40:21,909
It feels like we're constantly
arguing about the truth,
1011
00:40:21,994 --> 00:40:26,506
and it's because
perception is reality.
1012
00:40:26,590 --> 00:40:29,500
I'm starting to feel like
we are living the same life,
1013
00:40:29,585 --> 00:40:33,754
but we're seeing things
completely differently.
1014
00:40:33,848 --> 00:40:36,766
- There is no truth
about perspective.
1015
00:40:36,851 --> 00:40:39,853
We do the best we can
with the information available.
1016
00:40:39,937 --> 00:40:41,762
We take in information
differently
1017
00:40:41,847 --> 00:40:44,182
and we think
we're speaking the truth,
1018
00:40:44,266 --> 00:40:46,517
but we're speaking
our perspective.
1019
00:40:46,610 --> 00:40:48,519
I think you guys have
to get away from winning,
1020
00:40:48,612 --> 00:40:50,188
keeping scores.
1021
00:40:50,272 --> 00:40:52,023
- Yeah.
1022
00:40:52,116 --> 00:40:55,118
- We still feel like
there's so much you guys have.
1023
00:40:55,202 --> 00:40:57,954
And if it's learning
how to talk to each other,
1024
00:40:58,113 --> 00:41:00,540
I still think there's room
for doing that.
1025
00:41:00,624 --> 00:41:02,450
- Yeah.
- I think the two of you
1026
00:41:02,543 --> 00:41:05,211
need structure
for your conversations,
1027
00:41:05,370 --> 00:41:09,874
and also for what is not
working, without getting mean.
1028
00:41:09,958 --> 00:41:13,377
♪ ♪
1029
00:41:13,462 --> 00:41:15,221
- I'm getting a lot from you--
A lot of ideas
1030
00:41:15,380 --> 00:41:17,298
that I want to implement.
1031
00:41:17,382 --> 00:41:19,267
I would love to do them,
and I just need to get...
1032
00:41:20,969 --> 00:41:23,471
- ♪ You can start again ♪
1033
00:41:23,555 --> 00:41:25,556
♪ You can start again, oh ♪
1034
00:41:25,641 --> 00:41:28,059
♪ ♪
1035
00:41:28,152 --> 00:41:29,903
- Today, Johnny and I
are meeting with the experts,
1036
00:41:30,062 --> 00:41:33,231
and I am feeling...
1037
00:41:33,315 --> 00:41:37,076
checked out of my marriage.
1038
00:41:37,161 --> 00:41:40,330
From my end, I just feel like
1039
00:41:40,414 --> 00:41:42,907
I married a man that was
not ready for marriage.
1040
00:41:42,991 --> 00:41:44,501
♪ ♪
1041
00:41:44,660 --> 00:41:47,253
And he cuts me down
every opportunity
1042
00:41:47,338 --> 00:41:52,509
and he doesn't appreciate Bao.
1043
00:41:52,593 --> 00:41:54,427
I'm done feeling unappreciated.
1044
00:41:54,512 --> 00:41:56,346
- Good to see you.
- Good to see you.
1045
00:41:56,430 --> 00:41:58,422
Thanks for meeting
with me today.
1046
00:41:58,516 --> 00:41:59,682
- Oh, absolutely.
1047
00:41:59,841 --> 00:42:01,434
How are you?
1048
00:42:01,593 --> 00:42:03,010
- [sighs] Could be better.
1049
00:42:03,095 --> 00:42:05,104
♪ ♪
1050
00:42:05,189 --> 00:42:08,266
- Well, you had
some ups and downs.
1051
00:42:08,350 --> 00:42:10,601
Let's just jump right in.
Where are you guys now?
1052
00:42:10,686 --> 00:42:12,612
♪ ♪
1053
00:42:12,771 --> 00:42:14,364
- Johnny wants to build
1054
00:42:14,448 --> 00:42:16,199
a foundation
for a stronger marriage.
1055
00:42:16,358 --> 00:42:18,535
I agree we should work
on the foundation.
1056
00:42:18,694 --> 00:42:19,953
But, in a way,
I have this impression
1057
00:42:20,112 --> 00:42:22,455
that it's more of an out.
1058
00:42:22,614 --> 00:42:26,450
And the more I talk with him,
and the arguments that we have,
1059
00:42:26,535 --> 00:42:31,047
I honestly feel like Johnny
is 80% already out the door,
1060
00:42:31,206 --> 00:42:34,208
and that his decision's
already been made.
1061
00:42:34,293 --> 00:42:35,960
♪ ♪
1062
00:42:36,044 --> 00:42:38,796
I feel cheated out
of a perfectly good marriage.
1063
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:41,299
This could be
a perfectly good marriage.
1064
00:42:41,383 --> 00:42:44,727
But I have a husband on paper,
and that's it.
1065
00:42:44,812 --> 00:42:46,646
- He's thrown quite a few darts
your way
1066
00:42:46,805 --> 00:42:50,391
and said
some pretty ugly things.
1067
00:42:50,475 --> 00:42:52,310
♪ ♪
1068
00:42:52,403 --> 00:42:55,738
- You get very giddy,
almost like a little kid.
1069
00:42:55,823 --> 00:42:57,156
I personally don't find it
attractive.
1070
00:42:57,241 --> 00:43:01,744
If this was a dating scenario,
1071
00:43:01,829 --> 00:43:03,237
this is where
we would end things.
1072
00:43:03,322 --> 00:43:05,081
I don't want my family
to get attached to her
1073
00:43:05,165 --> 00:43:06,499
and she to get attached
to my family,
1074
00:43:06,658 --> 00:43:09,335
if I don't even like her.
1075
00:43:09,420 --> 00:43:12,589
I wish I had been matched
with literally anyone else.
1076
00:43:12,673 --> 00:43:15,166
What I have in front of me
right now is not what I want.
1077
00:43:15,250 --> 00:43:19,846
♪ ♪
1078
00:43:19,930 --> 00:43:21,681
- I just don't know
why he feels like
1079
00:43:21,765 --> 00:43:23,424
he has to cut me down.
1080
00:43:23,508 --> 00:43:27,511
I can see the intent
of him being so malicious.
1081
00:43:27,596 --> 00:43:30,773
And I don't understand why you
would do that with your wife.
1082
00:43:30,858 --> 00:43:34,185
I'm here trying, and I get
cut down over and over.
1083
00:43:34,269 --> 00:43:37,605
♪ ♪
1084
00:43:37,689 --> 00:43:39,273
- And what are you feeling
right now?
1085
00:43:39,366 --> 00:43:40,691
- [emotionally] I'm frustrated.
1086
00:43:40,776 --> 00:43:44,028
♪ ♪
1087
00:43:44,112 --> 00:43:46,539
- Yeah.
1088
00:43:46,624 --> 00:43:50,710
- 'Cause I feel
I went into this...
1089
00:43:50,794 --> 00:43:52,703
for the right reasons.
1090
00:43:52,788 --> 00:43:53,704
♪ ♪
1091
00:43:53,797 --> 00:43:55,539
Thank you.
1092
00:43:55,633 --> 00:44:02,722
♪ ♪
1093
00:44:02,881 --> 00:44:05,475
I just don't think he's got the
emotional maturity right now
1094
00:44:05,634 --> 00:44:07,810
to be a caring,
loving husband and father.
1095
00:44:07,895 --> 00:44:09,220
- This is a tough one.
1096
00:44:09,304 --> 00:44:11,639
♪ ♪
1097
00:44:11,723 --> 00:44:14,058
- He's just given up.
He doesn't care.
1098
00:44:14,142 --> 00:44:18,813
♪ ♪
1099
00:44:18,897 --> 00:44:21,232
- You two have a lot
to work through and resolve
1100
00:44:21,316 --> 00:44:22,659
before Decision Day.
1101
00:44:22,743 --> 00:44:26,737
So, in order to help you,
I'd like you to ask him about
1102
00:44:26,830 --> 00:44:30,574
whether or not he felt
he was ready to be married.
1103
00:44:30,659 --> 00:44:33,002
♪ ♪
1104
00:44:33,087 --> 00:44:34,745
Do you guys ever
communicate effectively
1105
00:44:34,830 --> 00:44:36,497
without lashing out?
1106
00:44:36,590 --> 00:44:38,508
- When we're not digging deep,
1107
00:44:38,592 --> 00:44:40,418
I feel like we're connecting,
and we're okay.
1108
00:44:40,511 --> 00:44:45,682
- Is it possible then for you
guys to work at that level?
1109
00:44:45,841 --> 00:44:47,600
Let's just call it
level one of marriage,
1110
00:44:47,685 --> 00:44:49,343
'cause I assume
there's no intimacy now.
1111
00:44:49,436 --> 00:44:52,021
- No, there's nothing.
- Okay.
1112
00:44:52,106 --> 00:44:55,441
Let's stay at that level one.
Just play nice.
1113
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:57,935
- Mm-hmm.
- Don't go deep.
1114
00:44:58,019 --> 00:45:00,271
Let's have the light
conversations, and let's see
1115
00:45:00,355 --> 00:45:02,606
if he can surprise you
by going deep himself.
1116
00:45:02,691 --> 00:45:04,951
♪ ♪
1117
00:45:05,110 --> 00:45:07,453
- I really hate this, because
I've just never been a person
1118
00:45:07,612 --> 00:45:08,788
that cared for chit-chat.
1119
00:45:08,872 --> 00:45:11,374
And I know, early on,
1120
00:45:11,533 --> 00:45:14,210
that's how it should happen
and unfold,
1121
00:45:14,294 --> 00:45:15,628
but I've always been
the kind of person
1122
00:45:15,787 --> 00:45:17,621
to just dig right into it.
1123
00:45:17,706 --> 00:45:19,465
But I can't do that right now,
1124
00:45:19,550 --> 00:45:25,138
because anything deeper
cuts Johnny in some weird way.
1125
00:45:25,297 --> 00:45:29,392
- Is he willing to show up for
the marriage and not run away,
1126
00:45:29,551 --> 00:45:32,895
and not give up
at every sign of trouble?
1127
00:45:32,980 --> 00:45:34,555
If this works,
and your marriage turns around,
1128
00:45:34,648 --> 00:45:36,140
you'll look back on this
and you'll say,
1129
00:45:36,224 --> 00:45:37,975
"Oh, my God, I'm so glad
we went through that."
1130
00:45:38,068 --> 00:45:40,403
I've talked to so many couples
who have gone through
1131
00:45:40,562 --> 00:45:41,821
so much worse
than you're going through.
1132
00:45:41,905 --> 00:45:44,574
And they have actually
recovered and moved forward,
1133
00:45:44,733 --> 00:45:47,076
and now are living
incredible marriages,
1134
00:45:47,161 --> 00:45:50,997
because you build foundation
through adversity.
1135
00:45:51,081 --> 00:45:53,073
- ♪ And somewhere
down the road ♪
1136
00:45:53,167 --> 00:45:57,244
♪ We got lost in each other ♪
1137
00:45:57,329 --> 00:45:58,546
♪ Next thing, we're broken
and awoken up some place else ♪
1138
00:46:02,342 --> 00:46:04,919
- ♪ Call it an accident ♪
1139
00:46:05,012 --> 00:46:07,588
♪ But I know
we both came here ♪
1140
00:46:07,672 --> 00:46:10,516
♪ Just to pretend we wanted
to see each other ♪
1141
00:46:10,601 --> 00:46:11,425
♪ Standing there ♪
1142
00:46:11,510 --> 00:46:12,843
[laughter]
1143
00:46:12,928 --> 00:46:14,929
- How you doing?
- I'm awesome.
1144
00:46:15,013 --> 00:46:16,263
How are you?
- I'm okay.
1145
00:46:16,348 --> 00:46:17,523
- Okay. Okay. Okay.
- Yeah.
1146
00:46:17,608 --> 00:46:19,692
- I didn't get awesome,
but that's all right.
1147
00:46:19,777 --> 00:46:22,102
- I'm not awesome, you know?
- Yeah.
1148
00:46:22,187 --> 00:46:23,613
- I mean, there's
just a lot going on,
1149
00:46:23,697 --> 00:46:26,616
and, you know,
it hasn't been easy.
1150
00:46:26,775 --> 00:46:28,025
- Yeah. Let's talk about it.
- Yeah.
1151
00:46:28,118 --> 00:46:31,954
- So, tell me, is there
anything that could happen
1152
00:46:32,039 --> 00:46:33,956
where his behavior
could change enough
1153
00:46:34,115 --> 00:46:36,042
to get you to say yes
on Decision Day?
1154
00:46:36,126 --> 00:46:37,868
- I think, yeah.
I think there's definitely,
1155
00:46:37,953 --> 00:46:41,121
like--like, a small percentage
of a possibility of that.
1156
00:46:41,206 --> 00:46:45,468
If he was more willing or open,
1157
00:46:45,552 --> 00:46:48,963
I--I would be willing
to keep trying.
1158
00:46:49,047 --> 00:46:50,381
I really would.
- Yeah.
1159
00:46:50,465 --> 00:46:54,051
- Because the honeymoon
was just a different person.
1160
00:46:54,144 --> 00:46:58,222
- I truly am thankful
that I was matched with you.
1161
00:46:58,306 --> 00:46:59,473
I'm happy where we are.
1162
00:46:59,558 --> 00:47:02,393
I'm happy with the direction
we're trending.
1163
00:47:02,477 --> 00:47:04,228
We're not just--
- Yeah, like--
1164
00:47:04,312 --> 00:47:05,479
Both:
Going through the motions.
1165
00:47:05,572 --> 00:47:08,324
- Exactly. [bleep].
[laughter]
1166
00:47:08,408 --> 00:47:10,993
- I needed that.
1167
00:47:11,152 --> 00:47:13,153
Here we go.
1168
00:47:13,247 --> 00:47:14,655
Bring that back.
That was great.
1169
00:47:14,748 --> 00:47:16,999
- Yeah. Yeah.
- Like, it was so good.
1170
00:47:17,158 --> 00:47:21,087
But, I'm now shifting
how I feel about--
1171
00:47:21,171 --> 00:47:24,665
Is this what's gonna
make me happy forever?
1172
00:47:24,749 --> 00:47:30,263
Like, is he even capable
of giving me what I need?
1173
00:47:30,347 --> 00:47:32,590
- Right.
1174
00:47:32,674 --> 00:47:34,267
When couples get to that point,
1175
00:47:34,426 --> 00:47:37,344
strong decisions
have to be made.
1176
00:47:37,429 --> 00:47:41,348
Are you guys talking
about feelings and emotions?
1177
00:47:41,433 --> 00:47:43,934
So, there's--there's
no intimate communication.
1178
00:47:44,019 --> 00:47:46,770
- None.
1179
00:47:46,855 --> 00:47:49,440
- Ask him to give you a picture
1180
00:47:49,524 --> 00:47:52,526
of what he thought
his wife would have been.
1181
00:47:52,611 --> 00:47:53,953
- Mm-hmm.
1182
00:47:54,037 --> 00:47:56,864
- And let him know you're
not offended if it's not you.
1183
00:47:56,957 --> 00:47:57,874
- I know it's not me.
- Yeah.
1184
00:47:57,958 --> 00:47:59,450
But let--
Just let him know that.
1185
00:47:59,543 --> 00:48:01,201
- Uh-huh.
- Ask him.
1186
00:48:01,286 --> 00:48:02,461
"When did you give up
on this marriage?"
1187
00:48:02,546 --> 00:48:03,871
- Mm.
1188
00:48:03,955 --> 00:48:06,215
- "When did you know
this was not going to work?"
1189
00:48:06,300 --> 00:48:07,633
- Oh, I think
it was a long time ago.
1190
00:48:07,792 --> 00:48:10,044
- You might be surprised.
1191
00:48:10,128 --> 00:48:12,555
♪ ♪
1192
00:48:12,639 --> 00:48:16,383
I want you to make sure that
everything is out in the open,
1193
00:48:16,468 --> 00:48:18,969
that you both are putting forth
at least the effort
1194
00:48:19,062 --> 00:48:23,557
to communicate and find out
what the heck happened.
1195
00:48:23,642 --> 00:48:24,567
- Mm-hmm.
1196
00:48:24,726 --> 00:48:26,644
- Because at this point,
if your marriage
1197
00:48:26,737 --> 00:48:30,072
is on the rocks,
what the heck you got to lose?
1198
00:48:30,157 --> 00:48:31,148
Let's deal with these questions,
1199
00:48:31,241 --> 00:48:33,817
because I've seen couples
turn around.
1200
00:48:33,902 --> 00:48:35,161
♪ ♪
1201
00:48:35,245 --> 00:48:37,154
- ♪ All the way ♪
1202
00:48:37,238 --> 00:48:41,417
♪ ♪
1203
00:48:41,576 --> 00:48:43,494
- So, we have our meeting
with an expert,
1204
00:48:43,578 --> 00:48:46,246
in 30 minutes or so.
1205
00:48:46,331 --> 00:48:47,506
Not sure how it's gonna go.
1206
00:48:47,591 --> 00:48:52,920
I anticipate a little bit
of negativity, at least,
1207
00:48:53,013 --> 00:48:57,099
as far as how I've handled
this process
1208
00:48:57,258 --> 00:49:00,937
and if I've given everything
that I could.
1209
00:49:01,021 --> 00:49:04,014
I have to be open.
I have to be--
1210
00:49:04,099 --> 00:49:06,442
I have to be honest with them,
honest with myself.
1211
00:49:06,526 --> 00:49:08,185
Switched this up,
and they had to bring in
1212
00:49:08,269 --> 00:49:09,862
the big guns for me, I guess.
1213
00:49:10,021 --> 00:49:11,772
- Think that's me, huh?
1214
00:49:11,856 --> 00:49:13,857
Well, what I want to talk
to you about, of course,
1215
00:49:13,951 --> 00:49:15,192
is your marriage.
1216
00:49:15,276 --> 00:49:17,036
And of course, it's very clear
that your marriage
1217
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,372
has gone sideways.
1218
00:49:19,456 --> 00:49:22,533
When do you believe that
your connection with your wife
1219
00:49:22,626 --> 00:49:25,294
became imperiled?
1220
00:49:25,379 --> 00:49:28,464
- Probably Viviana's meeting
with us.
1221
00:49:28,548 --> 00:49:30,791
That was decently
uncomfortable for me,
1222
00:49:30,884 --> 00:49:32,543
and I'm sure for her, as well.
1223
00:49:32,627 --> 00:49:34,637
- Do you like her?
- I do like her.
1224
00:49:34,721 --> 00:49:35,972
But I have questions
1225
00:49:36,131 --> 00:49:37,556
that I need
to personally figure out.
1226
00:49:37,641 --> 00:49:39,466
I know her feelings,
and I know her emotions,
1227
00:49:39,551 --> 00:49:43,229
and I don't want her
to take that to another level--
1228
00:49:43,313 --> 00:49:44,722
- Okay.
- That I'm not 100% certain--
1229
00:49:44,815 --> 00:49:49,819
- It sounds like she's further
along towards liking you.
1230
00:49:49,903 --> 00:49:52,154
- That's how I perceive it.
- I hate saying that, but--
1231
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:54,314
- Is that true, though? Okay.
- I think that's fair, yeah.
1232
00:49:54,408 --> 00:49:56,817
That's when I started
being like, okay,
1233
00:49:56,901 --> 00:49:58,160
I'm gonna stay open to it,
1234
00:49:58,319 --> 00:50:01,071
but I can't keep fighting
everything that I'm feeling,
1235
00:50:01,164 --> 00:50:03,249
everything that's telling me
that this isn't working,
1236
00:50:03,333 --> 00:50:08,412
this isn't right for me,
and I assume for her, as well.
1237
00:50:08,505 --> 00:50:12,499
- So, tell me how you tried
to deal with the things
1238
00:50:12,584 --> 00:50:14,251
that you didn't like,
and then tell me
1239
00:50:14,335 --> 00:50:16,670
what you did to see
if you could change them.
1240
00:50:16,755 --> 00:50:18,014
- That's what's hard for me.
1241
00:50:18,098 --> 00:50:20,507
Like, I feel like communication
has been an issue.
1242
00:50:20,592 --> 00:50:23,594
And it's not a fun feeling
to think that most of
1243
00:50:23,678 --> 00:50:25,679
the conversations you need
to have are gonna come across
1244
00:50:25,764 --> 00:50:28,432
as not--not fun conversations
to have.
1245
00:50:28,516 --> 00:50:30,860
- So, let's stop there.
1246
00:50:30,944 --> 00:50:33,529
I think there's
been a pattern of:
1247
00:50:33,688 --> 00:50:35,939
there's something wrong,
I'm checking it in;
1248
00:50:36,024 --> 00:50:38,025
there's something wrong,
I'm checking it in;
1249
00:50:38,118 --> 00:50:40,369
but I'm not telling her.
- Mm-hmm.
1250
00:50:40,454 --> 00:50:43,113
- You have to vocalize
in marriage.
1251
00:50:43,206 --> 00:50:45,949
People aren't selected
for being mind-readers.
1252
00:50:46,034 --> 00:50:47,701
♪ ♪
1253
00:50:47,786 --> 00:50:50,954
If you don't feel you could
say something difficult
1254
00:50:51,039 --> 00:50:52,873
in a way that wasn't cruel,
1255
00:50:52,957 --> 00:50:54,625
then you have to figure out
1256
00:50:54,709 --> 00:50:56,794
how to say it in a way
that's constructive.
1257
00:50:56,887 --> 00:51:00,639
♪ ♪
1258
00:51:00,799 --> 00:51:04,060
Do you remember why you wanted
to be married at first sight?
1259
00:51:04,144 --> 00:51:06,145
- Yeah. I've always
had the same goal.
1260
00:51:06,229 --> 00:51:08,314
I want to find
that person for me.
1261
00:51:08,398 --> 00:51:09,398
I want to find the person that
1262
00:51:09,483 --> 00:51:12,985
you value their life more
than yours.
1263
00:51:13,144 --> 00:51:15,154
And that's never wavered.
1264
00:51:15,238 --> 00:51:20,818
- Well, no way to get closer
without dealing with feelings.
1265
00:51:20,911 --> 00:51:23,987
We can't go anywhere where
"I'm this" and "I'm that"
1266
00:51:24,081 --> 00:51:25,239
and that's it.
1267
00:51:25,323 --> 00:51:27,241
You gotta reach inside, deeper.
1268
00:51:27,334 --> 00:51:29,576
Ask her, you know, who she is.
1269
00:51:29,669 --> 00:51:32,505
See her in her best places.
1270
00:51:32,664 --> 00:51:35,582
And it seems to me--and I have
to be honest with you--
1271
00:51:35,675 --> 00:51:38,427
That that has not been done.
1272
00:51:38,586 --> 00:51:41,013
I doubt if you people
know each other yet.
1273
00:51:41,172 --> 00:51:42,756
Really know each other.
1274
00:51:42,841 --> 00:51:45,017
- Yeah.
1275
00:51:45,102 --> 00:51:46,343
- Let me see you try.
1276
00:51:46,427 --> 00:51:49,855
♪ ♪
1277
00:51:49,940 --> 00:51:53,359
So, the question is, can you
pull this out of where it is?
1278
00:51:53,443 --> 00:51:56,770
Sometimes, when things
go wrong, then people give up.
1279
00:51:56,855 --> 00:51:58,021
I don't want you to give up.
1280
00:51:58,106 --> 00:52:00,607
I want you to do things
that you never did,
1281
00:52:00,692 --> 00:52:03,443
that you really have to change,
for both of you.
1282
00:52:03,537 --> 00:52:07,781
- Yeah. No,
I--I--I promise you,
1283
00:52:07,874 --> 00:52:11,451
I'm gonna put more effort
into it.
1284
00:52:11,536 --> 00:52:12,878
And you're gonna see--
You're gonna see
1285
00:52:12,963 --> 00:52:14,380
more effort on my end.
1286
00:52:14,539 --> 00:52:15,873
- It ain't over till it's over.
1287
00:52:15,966 --> 00:52:17,633
♪ ♪
1288
00:52:17,792 --> 00:52:23,881
- ♪ I saw the words
float out ♪
1289
00:52:23,965 --> 00:52:27,551
- I just came out
of a very productive session
1290
00:52:27,635 --> 00:52:30,729
with Dr. Pepper,
and she's given me some ideas
1291
00:52:30,889 --> 00:52:34,233
on how to improve.
1292
00:52:34,317 --> 00:52:37,653
Where we're at is not working,
and if this could help,
1293
00:52:37,812 --> 00:52:39,980
I'm willing to answer
any and everything.
1294
00:52:40,073 --> 00:52:41,899
- I'm very curious, actually,
1295
00:52:41,992 --> 00:52:45,411
to find out what Johnny
discussed with Dr. Pepper.
1296
00:52:45,495 --> 00:52:46,996
According to Pastor Cal,
1297
00:52:47,155 --> 00:52:50,824
he really does feel
the onus is on Johnny
1298
00:52:50,909 --> 00:52:53,836
to deliver and save
this marriage at this point,
1299
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:57,089
and that I should just ask
level-one questions.
1300
00:52:57,174 --> 00:52:59,082
But it's hard for me.
1301
00:52:59,167 --> 00:53:01,510
♪ ♪
1302
00:53:01,595 --> 00:53:02,836
- How you feeling?
1303
00:53:02,921 --> 00:53:05,806
♪ ♪
1304
00:53:09,010 --> 00:53:12,855
♪ ♪
1305
00:53:13,014 --> 00:53:15,432
I'm not in, really,
any different state.
1306
00:53:15,516 --> 00:53:17,359
♪ ♪
1307
00:53:17,518 --> 00:53:20,696
How did your talk go
with Dr. Pepper?
1308
00:53:20,780 --> 00:53:22,272
- It was constructive.
1309
00:53:22,357 --> 00:53:24,033
I do want to start by saying
1310
00:53:24,117 --> 00:53:27,527
I have said some things
that I regret.
1311
00:53:27,612 --> 00:53:29,121
♪ ♪
1312
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:31,949
And I want to tell you that I'm
sorry for saying those things.
1313
00:53:32,033 --> 00:53:33,951
♪ ♪
1314
00:53:34,035 --> 00:53:35,702
- Thanks.
1315
00:53:35,795 --> 00:53:37,880
I want to accept his apology.
1316
00:53:37,964 --> 00:53:39,632
I want to be able
to forgive him,
1317
00:53:39,716 --> 00:53:43,052
but I don't know
how sincere his apology is.
1318
00:53:43,211 --> 00:53:45,054
- One of the things
that I told Dr. Pepper
1319
00:53:45,213 --> 00:53:48,131
I wanted to work on
was our communication.
1320
00:53:48,216 --> 00:53:51,894
What do you think? How can we
improve our communication?
1321
00:53:52,053 --> 00:53:55,397
- I want to be able
to talk about anything
1322
00:53:55,556 --> 00:53:59,059
that's on my mind
and not feel judged,
1323
00:53:59,143 --> 00:54:02,238
even if there are things
that you would disagree with.
1324
00:54:02,397 --> 00:54:05,991
I don't know why
our disagreements escalate.
1325
00:54:06,076 --> 00:54:09,736
Because when I think back
to the root of our arguments,
1326
00:54:09,821 --> 00:54:12,155
I don't think they're that big.
1327
00:54:12,240 --> 00:54:13,991
- Okay.
1328
00:54:14,075 --> 00:54:16,585
- And it would be helpful
and constructive to focus
1329
00:54:16,670 --> 00:54:20,914
on trying to see the other
person's perspective on things.
1330
00:54:20,999 --> 00:54:23,092
So, I think
that would be helpful--
1331
00:54:23,176 --> 00:54:25,919
- Okay.
- When we have disagreements.
1332
00:54:26,004 --> 00:54:28,672
I have questions
I have to ask you too.
1333
00:54:28,756 --> 00:54:29,932
- Hit me.
1334
00:54:30,091 --> 00:54:32,351
- Are you willing to fully
show up in this marriage
1335
00:54:32,510 --> 00:54:35,429
and not run away again?
1336
00:54:35,513 --> 00:54:38,348
- I haven't run away
from this relationship yet.
1337
00:54:38,433 --> 00:54:41,026
♪ ♪
1338
00:54:41,111 --> 00:54:43,779
I have taken a breather,
because I need to not escalate.
1339
00:54:43,863 --> 00:54:45,522
When it's starting
to get out of hand,
1340
00:54:45,615 --> 00:54:48,284
I take myself out,
'cause I don't want to explode.
1341
00:54:48,368 --> 00:54:51,445
'Cause I can
definitely get there.
1342
00:54:51,529 --> 00:54:52,788
Sometimes I just need time.
1343
00:54:52,872 --> 00:54:56,792
Otherwise, I'm gonna say
something that I don't mean,
1344
00:54:56,876 --> 00:54:59,044
in the heat of the moment.
And I just need time sometimes.
1345
00:54:59,129 --> 00:55:00,620
- And that's okay.
- Okay.
1346
00:55:00,705 --> 00:55:01,964
- What I'm not okay with is,
1347
00:55:02,123 --> 00:55:05,467
I don't want to see that
there's a pattern of leaving.
1348
00:55:05,626 --> 00:55:08,378
- Mm-hmm.
Just have one more question.
1349
00:55:08,471 --> 00:55:11,890
What can you do to be
more present in our marriage?
1350
00:55:12,050 --> 00:55:15,218
- I feel, since you asked me to
be more present, that I have.
1351
00:55:15,312 --> 00:55:20,149
But now, I feel like, for me,
I'm turning back around.
1352
00:55:20,233 --> 00:55:25,312
I do not want to be talked to
the way I have been before.
1353
00:55:25,396 --> 00:55:27,147
- Okay.
1354
00:55:27,231 --> 00:55:30,492
- And I do not want
to be treated that way.
1355
00:55:30,651 --> 00:55:35,489
And I deserve to be treated
with respect.
1356
00:55:35,582 --> 00:55:37,499
At one point, you had told me
1357
00:55:37,584 --> 00:55:39,668
you weren't sure
if you were ready for marriage.
1358
00:55:39,827 --> 00:55:43,163
Where are you at now
with that answer?
1359
00:55:43,247 --> 00:55:46,917
- [sighs]
I was ready to get married.
1360
00:55:47,001 --> 00:55:49,586
I was ready to just start
from a blank slate.
1361
00:55:49,670 --> 00:55:50,587
And instead, we knew each other.
1362
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:52,422
For 15 years,
we could have dated.
1363
00:55:52,507 --> 00:55:53,590
Why did we not date?
1364
00:55:53,674 --> 00:55:56,685
I keep talking about romance,
chemistry.
1365
00:55:56,770 --> 00:55:58,678
I came into this
knowing it was you.
1366
00:55:58,763 --> 00:56:02,107
That chemistry wasn't there
the first time.
1367
00:56:02,266 --> 00:56:03,934
I wasn't attracted to you.
1368
00:56:04,018 --> 00:56:08,864
♪ ♪
1369
00:56:08,948 --> 00:56:11,441
Otherwise, we would have gone
on a second date.
1370
00:56:11,526 --> 00:56:17,697
♪ ♪
1371
00:56:17,791 --> 00:56:20,450
- I don't know sometimes,
Johnny.
1372
00:56:20,535 --> 00:56:24,287
I cannot help but be skeptical
about your words.
1373
00:56:24,372 --> 00:56:29,885
♪ ♪
1374
00:56:29,969 --> 00:56:31,962
So, where do you think
we should go from here?
1375
00:56:32,046 --> 00:56:38,894
♪ ♪
1376
00:56:43,566 --> 00:56:46,476
[upbeat music]
1377
00:56:46,561 --> 00:56:47,811
♪ ♪
1378
00:56:47,895 --> 00:56:49,479
- ♪ It's a beautiful life ♪
1379
00:56:49,572 --> 00:56:51,990
♪ ♪
1380
00:56:52,075 --> 00:56:53,984
- Hey.
- Hi.
1381
00:56:54,077 --> 00:56:55,160
So good to see you again.
- How are you, pretty lady?
1382
00:56:55,245 --> 00:56:56,653
- Nice to see you, Jose.
1383
00:56:56,737 --> 00:56:58,238
- Likewise.
Good to see you.
1384
00:56:58,331 --> 00:57:00,407
- Oh, it's very good to see you.
1385
00:57:00,491 --> 00:57:02,251
I want to hear how you are.
1386
00:57:02,335 --> 00:57:05,003
- I think y'all did
a wonderful job.
1387
00:57:05,088 --> 00:57:07,747
I couldn't be any happier
right now.
1388
00:57:07,841 --> 00:57:09,166
You know, we work well together.
1389
00:57:09,250 --> 00:57:10,750
We are a great team.
1390
00:57:10,835 --> 00:57:13,762
We communicate,
I think, very well.
1391
00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:15,672
And we just have to continue
to keep growing together
1392
00:57:15,756 --> 00:57:17,433
and asking the right questions.
1393
00:57:17,517 --> 00:57:19,759
- Questions are always
your friend,
1394
00:57:19,844 --> 00:57:22,512
because then you get answers.
- Yes.
1395
00:57:22,597 --> 00:57:25,691
- And I do want to talk to you
about some of the questions
1396
00:57:25,775 --> 00:57:27,526
that I know you have,
1397
00:57:27,610 --> 00:57:31,697
and to give you some advice
on some of them.
1398
00:57:31,781 --> 00:57:34,274
- Yeah. So, coming
into this process,
1399
00:57:34,358 --> 00:57:37,611
for me, as a husband,
I wanted to be a provider
1400
00:57:37,695 --> 00:57:39,362
and be everything
that my wife wanted me to be.
1401
00:57:39,447 --> 00:57:40,873
I wanted to make sure
she was taken care of
1402
00:57:40,957 --> 00:57:42,282
and she had everything
she needed.
1403
00:57:42,375 --> 00:57:45,952
However, you know, I did ask
for an independent woman,
1404
00:57:46,037 --> 00:57:48,046
and she is that,
of an independent woman.
1405
00:57:48,206 --> 00:57:50,799
So, where is not getting enough
and where is getting too much?
1406
00:57:50,884 --> 00:57:53,210
And finding
that little soft spot,
1407
00:57:53,294 --> 00:57:56,379
without having her feel like
I'm being this controlling man?
1408
00:57:56,464 --> 00:57:58,548
♪ ♪
1409
00:57:58,633 --> 00:58:01,310
- Well, the fact is,
I think you personally do
1410
00:58:01,394 --> 00:58:03,053
have a tendency
to be controlling.
1411
00:58:03,137 --> 00:58:04,730
♪ ♪
1412
00:58:04,814 --> 00:58:06,556
'Cause you think
there's a right way,
1413
00:58:06,641 --> 00:58:09,226
and you've done it, you know?
1414
00:58:09,310 --> 00:58:13,063
And it may have been
serving you extremely well.
1415
00:58:13,156 --> 00:58:16,066
But she's gonna have
some things that she's used to,
1416
00:58:16,150 --> 00:58:18,401
that have made her feel secure.
1417
00:58:18,495 --> 00:58:20,403
And I think you have
to take that really seriously
1418
00:58:20,497 --> 00:58:21,663
and respect that.
1419
00:58:21,748 --> 00:58:22,998
See the world
1420
00:58:23,082 --> 00:58:25,083
as your partner would see it
through their eyes,
1421
00:58:25,168 --> 00:58:27,577
as opposed to
how you figured it all out.
1422
00:58:27,662 --> 00:58:29,746
♪ ♪
1423
00:58:29,830 --> 00:58:31,590
- So, that was one.
1424
00:58:31,674 --> 00:58:32,916
And then, two was,
1425
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,919
we had three incredible weeks
of a great run.
1426
00:58:36,003 --> 00:58:37,921
And then, it seemed like,
within three days,
1427
00:58:38,005 --> 00:58:39,589
we had, you know,
all these fireworks go off.
1428
00:58:39,674 --> 00:58:45,354
- So, tonight, my wife, Rachel,
calls me by another man's name.
1429
00:58:45,513 --> 00:58:47,856
I'm not very content.
I'm not happy.
1430
00:58:55,356 --> 00:58:57,449
- My husband locked me out
of the apartment.
1431
00:58:57,608 --> 00:59:00,202
[knocks loudly on door]
1432
00:59:00,286 --> 00:59:02,195
Everything last night,
1433
00:59:02,280 --> 00:59:06,458
the way you acted towards me,
the way you spoke to me,
1434
00:59:06,617 --> 00:59:07,951
I don't trust you at all.
1435
00:59:08,035 --> 00:59:09,369
- Same.
1436
00:59:09,453 --> 00:59:11,463
♪ ♪
1437
00:59:11,548 --> 00:59:14,716
I'm not happy with the way I
handled a lot of those things.
1438
00:59:14,875 --> 00:59:17,302
But what scares me
a little bit is that,
1439
00:59:17,387 --> 00:59:19,555
when things get rough,
she bounces.
1440
00:59:19,639 --> 00:59:22,799
- I don't feel that
you are remorseful at all.
1441
00:59:22,883 --> 00:59:24,393
- Okay.
1442
00:59:24,477 --> 00:59:29,472
- And, yeah.
I cannot be your wife.
1443
00:59:29,557 --> 00:59:34,736
Brace yourself, because you
could not criticize me one bit,
1444
00:59:34,821 --> 00:59:37,480
'cause I would be,
like, out the door.
1445
00:59:37,565 --> 00:59:38,907
- Wow.
1446
00:59:38,992 --> 00:59:41,326
I want to be able
to trust my wife.
1447
00:59:41,485 --> 00:59:44,571
But, you know, it's tough when
someone's almost rejecting you
1448
00:59:44,655 --> 00:59:45,655
or doesn't want to be there.
1449
00:59:45,740 --> 00:59:48,584
So, for me,
1450
00:59:48,668 --> 00:59:52,829
what could I do to make sure
my wife trusts me?
1451
00:59:52,922 --> 00:59:57,250
And how do I make her feel
that she doesn't have to leave?
1452
00:59:57,343 --> 00:59:59,002
I don't know these answers here.
1453
00:59:59,086 --> 01:00:01,096
♪ ♪
1454
01:00:01,255 --> 01:00:04,758
- What you have to do
is ask a question.
1455
01:00:04,851 --> 01:00:08,520
"How can we help
build a situation
1456
01:00:08,679 --> 01:00:13,266
where the trust can grow and
changes happen organically?"
1457
01:00:13,359 --> 01:00:15,769
Because trust isn't made
in a day.
1458
01:00:15,853 --> 01:00:19,022
Ask, "What you need from me,
1459
01:00:19,106 --> 01:00:23,026
so that you truly trust me
as a forever husband?"
1460
01:00:23,110 --> 01:00:25,037
- Okay.
1461
01:00:25,121 --> 01:00:28,290
- I mean, you know,
she's seen your anger.
1462
01:00:28,374 --> 01:00:30,208
That's not gonna help
build trust.
1463
01:00:30,368 --> 01:00:32,702
- ♪ This is the moment ♪
1464
01:00:32,787 --> 01:00:35,372
♪ Sometimes you gotta
bite the bullet ♪
1465
01:00:35,456 --> 01:00:37,633
♪ ♪
1466
01:00:37,792 --> 01:00:40,802
- How committed are you guys
to each other?
1467
01:00:40,887 --> 01:00:45,048
- I know, like, he is
the man for me, you know?
1468
01:00:45,132 --> 01:00:46,308
- Good.
1469
01:00:46,392 --> 01:00:49,969
- He's everything I asked for,
plus more. Yeah.
1470
01:00:50,054 --> 01:00:51,888
- Oh, my gosh.
That's so great. That's great.
1471
01:00:51,972 --> 01:00:53,807
So, do you have any questions
1472
01:00:53,900 --> 01:00:56,142
that you think
you might need answered
1473
01:00:56,235 --> 01:00:59,396
moving into that
big Decision Day?
1474
01:00:59,480 --> 01:01:01,657
♪ ♪
1475
01:01:01,741 --> 01:01:06,411
- I feel like it's still just
more of getting to know him.
1476
01:01:06,496 --> 01:01:08,905
Because he's
constantly showing me
1477
01:01:08,998 --> 01:01:14,002
I can be my true self
and actually feel loved by it.
1478
01:01:14,087 --> 01:01:17,414
But, am I doing everything
you need?
1479
01:01:17,498 --> 01:01:19,424
Because he--
1480
01:01:19,509 --> 01:01:23,178
I feel like sometimes he
doesn't express that as much.
1481
01:01:23,262 --> 01:01:25,430
And so, I'm just
going about my day,
1482
01:01:25,515 --> 01:01:27,599
hoping I'm hitting the target.
1483
01:01:27,684 --> 01:01:31,520
- Yeah. Everyone needs to know
that they're being cared for
1484
01:01:31,604 --> 01:01:33,847
the way
they want to be cared for.
1485
01:01:33,931 --> 01:01:35,691
'Cause what you could do--
- Uh-huh. Absolutely.
1486
01:01:35,850 --> 01:01:37,526
- Is just go along
and saying, "Okay, great.
1487
01:01:37,610 --> 01:01:38,601
"You know, I'm pouring into you,
1488
01:01:38,686 --> 01:01:40,278
"but I'm not getting
anything back.
1489
01:01:40,363 --> 01:01:42,698
But it's okay. I'll be fine.
I'll be fine."
1490
01:01:42,857 --> 01:01:45,200
And that starts
to build up resentment.
1491
01:01:45,359 --> 01:01:47,527
So, that is a conversation
you gotta have.
1492
01:01:47,611 --> 01:01:49,779
♪ ♪
1493
01:01:49,872 --> 01:01:52,040
- And another question
I need to ask my husband is
1494
01:01:52,125 --> 01:01:56,628
about the incident of,
you know, being locked out.
1495
01:01:56,713 --> 01:01:58,872
He says it's accidental.
1496
01:01:58,956 --> 01:02:00,716
I'm gonna take his word for it.
- Yeah.
1497
01:02:00,875 --> 01:02:04,553
- However, I let him know,
accident or not,
1498
01:02:04,637 --> 01:02:08,140
at the end of the day,
I was locked out, period.
1499
01:02:08,224 --> 01:02:12,144
So, I've seen
my husband has a temper.
1500
01:02:12,228 --> 01:02:15,138
He can be vindictive.
1501
01:02:15,231 --> 01:02:17,557
- That's something that
you guys have to talk about.
1502
01:02:17,641 --> 01:02:19,901
Find out what could be done
1503
01:02:20,060 --> 01:02:22,812
so that there won't be
another circumstance
1504
01:02:22,897 --> 01:02:26,575
where he feels the necessity
to shut you out.
1505
01:02:26,659 --> 01:02:28,160
'Cause that's what he was doing.
1506
01:02:28,244 --> 01:02:30,162
He was shutting you out
of his world.
1507
01:02:30,246 --> 01:02:33,749
And just for the record,
this is not your last argument.
1508
01:02:33,833 --> 01:02:37,919
- I know, but if this
ever happens again, no.
1509
01:02:38,004 --> 01:02:39,996
You know, that's not something
I signed up for.
1510
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:43,717
♪ ♪
1511
01:02:47,755 --> 01:02:49,756
- ♪ I can feel it
in my bones ♪
1512
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:52,350
♪ This light overcomes me ♪
1513
01:02:52,435 --> 01:02:54,928
♪ And it feels so right ♪
1514
01:02:55,021 --> 01:02:56,596
- I meant it when
I told Dr. Pepper
1515
01:02:56,680 --> 01:02:58,774
that I'm gonna make more
of an effort.
1516
01:02:58,858 --> 01:03:01,184
We're gonna have to have
some tough conversations.
1517
01:03:01,277 --> 01:03:03,770
But, yeah. It was a positive
overall conversation with her.
1518
01:03:03,863 --> 01:03:05,113
She gave me a little bit of hope
1519
01:03:05,272 --> 01:03:07,273
that this could still have
a chance, so we'll see.
1520
01:03:07,366 --> 01:03:08,858
- Oh, boy.
You made it.
1521
01:03:08,951 --> 01:03:10,693
- It was touch-and-go there
for--for a minute.
1522
01:03:10,787 --> 01:03:12,278
- You're alive.
1523
01:03:12,371 --> 01:03:14,531
- I wasn't sure that I wasn't
gonna get out of there alive.
1524
01:03:14,624 --> 01:03:19,294
She definitely made me think
about a lot of stuff.
1525
01:03:19,378 --> 01:03:21,538
She was questioning
my effort, and--
1526
01:03:21,622 --> 01:03:22,705
- Yeah.
1527
01:03:22,790 --> 01:03:25,634
- Communication, and...
1528
01:03:25,793 --> 01:03:27,877
conversations that
we have and hadn't had.
1529
01:03:27,962 --> 01:03:29,721
♪ ♪
1530
01:03:29,806 --> 01:03:31,798
I avoid saying things
1531
01:03:31,882 --> 01:03:33,967
that I know that
you're not gonna want to hear.
1532
01:03:34,051 --> 01:03:35,718
♪ ♪
1533
01:03:35,803 --> 01:03:37,646
- Yeah.
1534
01:03:37,805 --> 01:03:40,974
That's not always good for me,
you know?
1535
01:03:41,058 --> 01:03:45,654
And so, I don't want to be
a source of stress,
1536
01:03:45,813 --> 01:03:48,323
because that's not good
for anyone.
1537
01:03:48,407 --> 01:03:50,233
- Instead, we just stress
each other out internally.
1538
01:03:50,317 --> 01:03:51,317
- Yeah.
1539
01:03:51,402 --> 01:03:56,081
♪ ♪
1540
01:03:56,165 --> 01:03:57,240
- He didn't give you anything?
1541
01:03:57,324 --> 01:04:04,256
♪ ♪
1542
01:04:05,499 --> 01:04:08,176
- Ask him, "When did you
give up on this marriage?"
1543
01:04:08,335 --> 01:04:09,586
- Mm.
1544
01:04:09,670 --> 01:04:12,839
- "When did you know
this was not going to work?"
1545
01:04:12,923 --> 01:04:14,841
♪ ♪
1546
01:04:14,934 --> 01:04:19,178
- It was... mostly focused
on me.
1547
01:04:19,263 --> 01:04:20,605
He was just telling me,
you know, like,
1548
01:04:20,690 --> 01:04:25,193
what I need to do, as far as,
like, asking questions.
1549
01:04:25,278 --> 01:04:29,114
And, um...
1550
01:04:29,198 --> 01:04:30,615
I just feel, like,
very disconnected,
1551
01:04:30,700 --> 01:04:33,201
so it's hard for me to--
1552
01:04:33,286 --> 01:04:34,861
- So, going about things
the same way
1553
01:04:34,954 --> 01:04:38,290
are gonna make it get past that?
1554
01:04:38,374 --> 01:04:39,875
- No. I didn't say that.
1555
01:04:39,959 --> 01:04:43,461
But I do get to a point where,
like, I don't know what to do.
1556
01:04:43,546 --> 01:04:45,547
- That disconnect's gonna
get further and further away
1557
01:04:45,706 --> 01:04:48,541
if we don't find something
that can change
1558
01:04:48,634 --> 01:04:50,209
how we've been going about this.
1559
01:04:50,294 --> 01:04:52,971
Like, I need you
to call me out on [bleep].
1560
01:04:53,130 --> 01:04:55,465
Like, I'm open to that.
1561
01:04:55,549 --> 01:04:57,216
♪ ♪
1562
01:04:57,301 --> 01:05:00,562
- I don't know.
1563
01:05:00,646 --> 01:05:03,732
If you genuinely want
to keep trying,
1564
01:05:03,816 --> 01:05:07,152
I just need to know, either way.
1565
01:05:07,311 --> 01:05:08,486
I mean, never say never.
1566
01:05:08,646 --> 01:05:12,315
People can surprise you.
I think things can change.
1567
01:05:12,399 --> 01:05:15,985
I think the hope
isn't completely diminished.
1568
01:05:16,070 --> 01:05:19,414
But it's, like--
It's down there.
1569
01:05:19,498 --> 01:05:20,907
It's pretty low.
1570
01:05:20,991 --> 01:05:26,254
Again, it just all comes back
to talking to each other.
1571
01:05:26,339 --> 01:05:29,925
We just have to be honest,
period.
1572
01:05:30,084 --> 01:05:33,503
- ♪ You may run
for a long time ♪
1573
01:05:33,596 --> 01:05:35,597
♪ Run on ♪
1574
01:05:35,681 --> 01:05:38,099
- [exhales sharply]
1575
01:05:38,184 --> 01:05:39,768
- ♪ Tell me
how to live my life ♪
1576
01:05:39,852 --> 01:05:43,772
♪ If we can't be open ♪
1577
01:05:43,856 --> 01:05:46,274
- I just finished talking
to Pastor Cal,
1578
01:05:46,359 --> 01:05:48,026
and it went
really, really great.
1579
01:05:48,185 --> 01:05:51,863
And I just want to really
dig deep into Jose's triggers.
1580
01:05:52,022 --> 01:05:54,616
And we had a really big blowup.
1581
01:05:54,775 --> 01:05:58,361
Something must have
really bothered him
1582
01:05:58,445 --> 01:06:01,623
to get him to that point,
and I want to know what it was,
1583
01:06:01,707 --> 01:06:04,542
to make sure
to not hit those triggers.
1584
01:06:04,627 --> 01:06:07,212
And I think that would be
a great conversation to have.
1585
01:06:07,371 --> 01:06:11,541
It's gonna help make Decision
Day even that much easier.
1586
01:06:11,625 --> 01:06:12,467
♪ ♪
1587
01:06:14,962 --> 01:06:15,962
How'd it go?
1588
01:06:16,055 --> 01:06:17,630
- So, I think it went very well.
1589
01:06:17,723 --> 01:06:19,391
- Good.
- I think it went good.
1590
01:06:19,475 --> 01:06:21,977
You know, I briefed her
on the impeccable three weeks
1591
01:06:22,061 --> 01:06:23,979
that we had, and then,
of course, the breakdown.
1592
01:06:24,138 --> 01:06:27,640
And then, you know,
one of my questions was,
1593
01:06:27,725 --> 01:06:31,561
when things got tough,
my wife left.
1594
01:06:31,654 --> 01:06:35,907
So, how can I know
that's not gonna happen again?
1595
01:06:35,992 --> 01:06:38,827
- That's super valid,
because my instinct
1596
01:06:38,986 --> 01:06:42,822
when I get into an argument
is to bounce.
1597
01:06:42,906 --> 01:06:44,416
♪ ♪
1598
01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:47,252
But it took that fight
for me to realize
1599
01:06:47,336 --> 01:06:49,504
that single Rachel is gone,
you know,
1600
01:06:49,663 --> 01:06:52,915
and I am married to you,
and I now understand
1601
01:06:53,009 --> 01:06:57,754
we can have these tough
arguments and overcome it.
1602
01:06:57,847 --> 01:07:00,590
♪ ♪
1603
01:07:00,674 --> 01:07:04,761
But what were the triggers
to get you to that point
1604
01:07:04,854 --> 01:07:08,347
where it started to be
a very vindictive side of you?
1605
01:07:08,432 --> 01:07:11,100
♪ ♪
1606
01:07:11,193 --> 01:07:13,778
- You know, I think, for me,
I need time to cool off.
1607
01:07:13,863 --> 01:07:16,448
I need to tell you,
"I need to cool off."
1608
01:07:16,532 --> 01:07:18,357
Communicate it
versus just doing it,
1609
01:07:18,451 --> 01:07:20,943
because we both carry
a lot of pride.
1610
01:07:21,028 --> 01:07:24,372
- It has to be a compromise.
1611
01:07:24,457 --> 01:07:25,957
- Yes. Absolutely.
1612
01:07:26,116 --> 01:07:27,533
As a child, growing up,
1613
01:07:27,626 --> 01:07:29,702
seeing my parents
go through a divorce,
1614
01:07:29,787 --> 01:07:31,379
I didn't see the love,
and that's why, I think,
1615
01:07:31,464 --> 01:07:33,206
my approach has been
so different,
1616
01:07:33,299 --> 01:07:35,050
because I want to make sure that
1617
01:07:35,134 --> 01:07:37,794
I do everything almost opposite
than what I saw.
1618
01:07:37,878 --> 01:07:40,213
♪ ♪
1619
01:07:40,297 --> 01:07:42,048
- We are in a great place,
1620
01:07:42,141 --> 01:07:44,642
but there's always
more work to do.
1621
01:07:44,802 --> 01:07:47,896
I know there's a lot more
to uncover for my husband,
1622
01:07:47,980 --> 01:07:50,815
and I can't wait
to see what that is.
1623
01:07:50,900 --> 01:07:53,068
You have my trust.
1624
01:07:53,227 --> 01:07:57,396
I want to be Jose's wife,
no matter what.
1625
01:07:57,481 --> 01:08:00,566
- ♪ You are my sign, and just
know that I believe in you ♪
1626
01:08:00,651 --> 01:08:02,077
♪ ♪
1627
01:08:06,073 --> 01:08:08,333
- ♪ It's a bright,
bright summer day ♪
1628
01:08:08,417 --> 01:08:09,909
♪ Sun is smiling on my face ♪
1629
01:08:09,993 --> 01:08:12,328
♪ And it feels like
real love ♪
1630
01:08:12,421 --> 01:08:13,830
♪ Want me to ♪
1631
01:08:13,914 --> 01:08:15,248
- Hey!
- Hello! Hello, beautiful!
1632
01:08:15,332 --> 01:08:16,841
- Y'all are so bright
and colorful!
1633
01:08:16,926 --> 01:08:18,343
- Zack Attack.
How are you, man?
1634
01:08:18,427 --> 01:08:21,087
- How cute are you?
- Oh, you look ready.
1635
01:08:21,171 --> 01:08:23,506
- We are all together,
1636
01:08:23,590 --> 01:08:26,008
and we are playing
sand volleyball,
1637
01:08:26,102 --> 01:08:27,519
which is my favorite thing.
1638
01:08:27,678 --> 01:08:29,095
Shoes off.
Socks off, guys.
1639
01:08:29,179 --> 01:08:31,848
Hanging out in a group setting
is very helpful to me,
1640
01:08:31,941 --> 01:08:34,517
because I think I am
1641
01:08:34,601 --> 01:08:36,694
at a bit of a breaking point
in my marriage.
1642
01:08:36,854 --> 01:08:38,780
So, it's beneficial to hear
1643
01:08:38,939 --> 01:08:40,439
what the other couples
are going through,
1644
01:08:40,533 --> 01:08:41,950
and if they're going
through those things,
1645
01:08:42,109 --> 01:08:44,360
then that makes me feel
more confident and okay
1646
01:08:44,444 --> 01:08:47,613
with the fact that Ryan and I
are going through things too.
1647
01:08:47,698 --> 01:08:50,458
- I wish I had, like, a super
impressive, like, jump serve.
1648
01:08:50,617 --> 01:08:52,710
♪ ♪
1649
01:08:52,870 --> 01:08:54,295
- Michaela!
- Oh, what?
1650
01:08:54,380 --> 01:08:56,122
[laughter]
1651
01:08:56,206 --> 01:08:57,132
- What are you doing over here?
1652
01:08:57,291 --> 01:09:00,468
- I'ma be a cheerleader!
- That's you!
1653
01:09:00,627 --> 01:09:01,794
- Whoo-hoo!
1654
01:09:01,887 --> 01:09:03,888
[laughter]
1655
01:09:04,047 --> 01:09:06,474
- That's you.
- Be nice.
1656
01:09:06,633 --> 01:09:08,643
- That's a good hit.
- Yeah, that is a good hit.
1657
01:09:08,802 --> 01:09:11,062
- As me and my wife are
arriving at the courts,
1658
01:09:11,147 --> 01:09:13,723
I notice Johnny, with no Bao.
1659
01:09:13,807 --> 01:09:15,066
So, that kind of
tells me a little bit
1660
01:09:15,225 --> 01:09:18,060
how that's going on there.
1661
01:09:18,154 --> 01:09:21,156
- Ooh!
- Good shot, Johnny!
1662
01:09:21,315 --> 01:09:23,074
- Hey, reinforcements
have arrived!
1663
01:09:23,159 --> 01:09:24,567
- What's up, baby?
- What's up, what's up,
1664
01:09:24,651 --> 01:09:25,651
what's up, what's up, what's up?
1665
01:09:25,744 --> 01:09:26,828
- What up? What up? What up?
- Hi!
1666
01:09:26,987 --> 01:09:28,738
- Sorry, we're kind of--
We're kind of late.
1667
01:09:28,831 --> 01:09:31,157
- I thought we were
gonna do a group hug.
1668
01:09:31,250 --> 01:09:32,834
- What's happening, bro?
- [cheers]
1669
01:09:32,918 --> 01:09:35,912
[laughter]
Go, team! Go, team!
1670
01:09:36,005 --> 01:09:39,090
[cheers]
1671
01:09:39,175 --> 01:09:40,249
- Nice!
We got a cheerleader.
1672
01:09:40,342 --> 01:09:42,835
- Bao, I love it!
1673
01:09:42,928 --> 01:09:46,431
Yes! Yes, Bao! Yes, yes!
- Yes, Bao!
1674
01:09:46,515 --> 01:09:48,683
- W-I-N!
1675
01:09:48,842 --> 01:09:50,676
We all win!
1676
01:09:50,761 --> 01:09:53,188
W-I-N!
- Hi.
1677
01:09:53,347 --> 01:09:57,433
- Johnny's coming up to give me
a hug, and I'm surprised.
1678
01:09:57,517 --> 01:09:59,027
I don't know if it's the outfit.
1679
01:09:59,111 --> 01:10:02,197
I don't know if it's--Johnny
suddenly has a change of heart
1680
01:10:02,281 --> 01:10:03,531
and wants to be,
1681
01:10:03,690 --> 01:10:06,618
you know, more affectionate
in front of others.
1682
01:10:06,702 --> 01:10:08,277
I don't know what it is.
1683
01:10:08,370 --> 01:10:11,372
Yay!
[laughter]
1684
01:10:11,457 --> 01:10:14,042
I'm pretty sure it's the outfit.
1685
01:10:14,126 --> 01:10:15,701
- Go ahead.
Come on.
1686
01:10:15,794 --> 01:10:17,879
- ♪ My game's
a ball and chains ♪
1687
01:10:18,038 --> 01:10:19,130
- I got it.
1688
01:10:19,215 --> 01:10:21,216
- I got it, I got it,
I got it, I got it.
1689
01:10:21,300 --> 01:10:22,634
I got it!
[groans]
1690
01:10:22,718 --> 01:10:23,876
- Yay!
1691
01:10:23,969 --> 01:10:25,795
- ♪ And I can't lose ♪
1692
01:10:25,879 --> 01:10:28,473
- Johnny.
- I got it.
1693
01:10:28,632 --> 01:10:30,391
- Yay!
- Ooh, that should hurt.
1694
01:10:30,550 --> 01:10:31,809
♪ ♪
1695
01:10:31,894 --> 01:10:34,053
- ♪ She loves the adrenaline ♪
1696
01:10:34,137 --> 01:10:36,731
♪ My head is starting
to spin, yeah ♪
1697
01:10:36,815 --> 01:10:38,233
- I got it.
1698
01:10:38,392 --> 01:10:41,402
- ♪ She keeps winning,
she loves the adrenaline ♪
1699
01:10:41,487 --> 01:10:43,145
- That's game.
That's game.
1700
01:10:43,239 --> 01:10:44,981
Good game.
- Whoo!
1701
01:10:45,074 --> 01:10:47,483
- Good game, everyone.
1702
01:10:47,567 --> 01:10:52,080
- Girl, victory is great.
1703
01:10:52,239 --> 01:10:55,500
Bao, girl.
- Yes?
1704
01:10:55,584 --> 01:10:56,659
- Highlight of my day, this one.
1705
01:10:56,752 --> 01:10:59,254
- Spirit! Whoo!
[laughter]
1706
01:10:59,413 --> 01:11:01,005
♪ ♪
1707
01:11:01,090 --> 01:11:02,415
- You--I think you're the reason
1708
01:11:02,499 --> 01:11:04,425
why we all started winning.
- I know. Cheerleader.
1709
01:11:04,510 --> 01:11:06,419
- I just got so happy
when I saw her walk in.
1710
01:11:06,503 --> 01:11:08,087
- Yay!
- How has y'all's weeks been?
1711
01:11:08,180 --> 01:11:09,839
- Such a blur sometimes.
I'm like, what did we do?
1712
01:11:09,923 --> 01:11:10,848
- Right?
- Did y'all have
1713
01:11:11,008 --> 01:11:13,017
your expert visits?
- We did. Yeah.
1714
01:11:13,102 --> 01:11:14,927
- We did.
- Yeah, I got a curveball.
1715
01:11:15,012 --> 01:11:16,604
I thought, going up to it,
that I was meeting
1716
01:11:16,689 --> 01:11:19,691
with Cal again, and I've
been pretty open about,
1717
01:11:19,775 --> 01:11:21,100
Dr. Pepper scares me
a little bit.
1718
01:11:21,184 --> 01:11:22,518
And then, they threw in
Dr. Pepper at me.
1719
01:11:22,611 --> 01:11:24,854
- Oh, yeah?
- Ooh!
1720
01:11:24,947 --> 01:11:26,939
- I know we all had our
expert visits and everything.
1721
01:11:27,032 --> 01:11:29,867
- Oh, yeah.
- What did Pastor Cal say?
1722
01:11:29,952 --> 01:11:32,620
- I mean, he's kind of pissed.
He's kind of pissed.
1723
01:11:32,779 --> 01:11:34,789
- At what?
- Just at the situation.
1724
01:11:34,873 --> 01:11:40,211
Like, you know, that
it seems as though, you know,
1725
01:11:40,296 --> 01:11:43,965
Ryan hasn't really given--
Given it a fair chance.
1726
01:11:44,124 --> 01:11:45,374
- Mm-hmm.
1727
01:11:45,467 --> 01:11:47,293
- At least to the outside eye,
that's how it seems.
1728
01:11:47,386 --> 01:11:48,720
That's how it seems to me too.
1729
01:11:48,879 --> 01:11:52,056
- She said that it doesn't
look like I've made an effort.
1730
01:11:52,215 --> 01:11:53,641
And I told her--I was like,
1731
01:11:53,726 --> 01:11:55,560
I promise you, you'll see
more effort out of me.
1732
01:11:55,719 --> 01:11:57,386
I'm gonna be more present.
1733
01:11:57,471 --> 01:12:01,390
- I mean, he said
that he does want to try.
1734
01:12:01,483 --> 01:12:04,152
But, I don't know.
We're just, like, in a weird--
1735
01:12:04,311 --> 01:12:06,487
- Place.
- Like, a weird limbo, place.
1736
01:12:06,646 --> 01:12:08,156
- I feel like
I relate to you so much,
1737
01:12:08,315 --> 01:12:10,566
because I'm getting a lot
of what you're getting,
1738
01:12:10,659 --> 01:12:12,151
the similar situation,
1739
01:12:12,235 --> 01:12:15,738
except that the difference is
that Johnny's actually mean.
1740
01:12:15,831 --> 01:12:18,741
Johnny said one of the tools
he learned from Dr. Pepper
1741
01:12:18,834 --> 01:12:21,660
is that--one thing he can do
to help with his communication
1742
01:12:21,754 --> 01:12:24,413
is not to say negative,
definitive statements.
1743
01:12:24,506 --> 01:12:27,833
He literally did just that
in the same conversation,
1744
01:12:27,926 --> 01:12:30,336
after I asked him about--
Is he ready to marriage?
1745
01:12:30,429 --> 01:12:33,348
Is he committed?
And he kind of blew up.
1746
01:12:33,432 --> 01:12:36,175
- He blew up?
- Yeah. He gets very defensive.
1747
01:12:36,268 --> 01:12:38,519
- My conversations
with Bao are, like,
1748
01:12:38,678 --> 01:12:42,106
"I said this, you said that."
"You're a liar."
1749
01:12:42,265 --> 01:12:44,850
Like--
- It's like that?
1750
01:12:44,935 --> 01:12:47,528
- Yeah. It's very--
It feels very juvenile.
1751
01:12:47,613 --> 01:12:49,438
- At the end of the day, man,
you gotta be happy.
1752
01:12:49,523 --> 01:12:51,032
You gotta do what you feel
is best for you.
1753
01:12:51,116 --> 01:12:52,775
- That's the thing. I feel
like I haven't been happy
1754
01:12:52,868 --> 01:12:54,610
in a really long time.
1755
01:12:54,694 --> 01:12:57,538
I get little glimpses of joy
1756
01:12:57,623 --> 01:13:00,199
when we, like, plan dates
and we do stuff.
1757
01:13:00,292 --> 01:13:03,369
But every day--
The day-to-day stuff,
1758
01:13:03,462 --> 01:13:06,214
just living in the apartment
together--nothing.
1759
01:13:06,373 --> 01:13:10,385
♪ ♪
1760
01:13:10,469 --> 01:13:12,128
- I just don't--
He's so childish.
1761
01:13:12,212 --> 01:13:13,712
- I'm not speaking
for everybody,
1762
01:13:13,797 --> 01:13:19,477
but, like, I think some people
view this as a real marriage.
1763
01:13:19,636 --> 01:13:21,720
- Yeah.
- And some don't.
1764
01:13:21,805 --> 01:13:28,820
♪ ♪
1765
01:13:29,405 --> 01:13:30,646
- If we don't sleep
in the same bed--
1766
01:13:30,730 --> 01:13:32,148
- How does it hurt?
- It definitely hurts.
1767
01:13:32,232 --> 01:13:33,491
If we don't sleep
in the same bed--
1768
01:13:33,575 --> 01:13:35,985
- What's wrong with that?
What does it matter?
1769
01:13:36,078 --> 01:13:38,487
Are we enemies now?
1770
01:13:38,580 --> 01:13:41,073
- All right, so we get back
from the beach volleyball,
1771
01:13:41,166 --> 01:13:42,417
and I think we have a good time,
1772
01:13:42,576 --> 01:13:44,168
but now my wife wants
to sleep in a separate room.
1773
01:13:44,327 --> 01:13:45,494
Can you explain why?
- I do.
1774
01:13:45,579 --> 01:13:48,664
So, we had a conversation
about Decision Day,
1775
01:13:48,757 --> 01:13:52,001
and what our Decision Day
answers would potentially be,
1776
01:13:52,085 --> 01:13:53,669
which, as it stands,
as of today,
1777
01:13:53,753 --> 01:13:55,754
it's a no for both of us.
1778
01:13:55,848 --> 01:13:57,515
And because of that,
I'm just like, eh,
1779
01:13:57,674 --> 01:14:00,926
if Decision Day
is going to be a no,
1780
01:14:01,019 --> 01:14:02,687
why even sleep
in the same bedroom?
1781
01:14:02,771 --> 01:14:04,105
- Why are we
switching up anything?
1782
01:14:04,264 --> 01:14:06,098
- Then why were we talking
about it if it's not today?
1783
01:14:06,183 --> 01:14:08,684
Why were you asking me,
"If Decision Day was today,
1784
01:14:08,777 --> 01:14:11,437
if Decision Day was today..."
1785
01:14:11,530 --> 01:14:13,614
And you said your answer,
and I said my answer.
1786
01:14:13,699 --> 01:14:15,032
And then, we said, "Oh, okay."
Like, so--
1787
01:14:15,192 --> 01:14:17,285
- 'Cause I feel like every
day--every day, you switch up,
1788
01:14:17,369 --> 01:14:18,786
like, how you feel,
so I'm just like--
1789
01:14:18,871 --> 01:14:20,788
- And I said, I don't know.
And what's wrong with that?
1790
01:14:20,873 --> 01:14:22,198
I don't have to jump
to the conclusion.
1791
01:14:22,282 --> 01:14:23,624
I don't have to forecast.
1792
01:14:23,783 --> 01:14:26,452
I can literally--I literally
allow myself the opportunity
1793
01:14:26,545 --> 01:14:28,037
to change my mind
every [bleep] day,
1794
01:14:28,121 --> 01:14:30,631
especially in this situation.
- Right. I understand that.
1795
01:14:30,790 --> 01:14:32,467
But I don't understand
why should we sleep--
1796
01:14:32,626 --> 01:14:33,968
We should sleep
in separate rooms right now.
1797
01:14:34,127 --> 01:14:36,212
I don't get--that doesn't
help anything; that only hurts.
1798
01:14:36,305 --> 01:14:37,630
- I don't see why not.
1799
01:14:37,723 --> 01:14:40,308
How does it hurt?
Tell me how it hurts.
1800
01:14:40,467 --> 01:14:42,635
- Because, like, it's been
going great for us, so, like,
1801
01:14:42,719 --> 01:14:44,812
why--why are we switching--
Why are we switching it up now?
1802
01:14:44,971 --> 01:14:46,981
- If it's been going great,
why did we both say
1803
01:14:47,140 --> 01:14:49,975
Decision Day would be a no?
- Because we not there yet.
1804
01:14:50,068 --> 01:14:51,402
But it's--like,
do you not see, like--
1805
01:14:51,561 --> 01:14:52,561
- Then it's not going great!
1806
01:14:52,646 --> 01:14:54,230
- No, do you not see
a upward trend?
1807
01:14:54,314 --> 01:14:56,649
Like, what the [bleep]?
1808
01:14:56,742 --> 01:14:58,326
I'm literally saying,
I don't know now.
1809
01:14:58,410 --> 01:15:00,402
Like, I told the people--
The guys today--
1810
01:15:00,487 --> 01:15:02,079
I just said, "I don't know."
- You literally--
1811
01:15:02,164 --> 01:15:03,998
Today, you said no. You told
the guys you don't know.
1812
01:15:04,082 --> 01:15:05,574
- No. No. Michaela.
- And that's fine.
1813
01:15:05,659 --> 01:15:07,243
You can tell them
whatever the [bleep] you want.
1814
01:15:07,327 --> 01:15:08,661
But you told me no.
1815
01:15:08,754 --> 01:15:10,329
- We both said we would say no.
- Today.
1816
01:15:10,422 --> 01:15:12,831
- We both said
we would say no, correct?
1817
01:15:12,925 --> 01:15:14,425
- And I said I don't know,
'cause I don't want
1818
01:15:14,510 --> 01:15:16,010
to forecast.
- Oh, my [bleep] God.
1819
01:15:16,094 --> 01:15:18,337
- What--when you asked me--
- A'ight, I'm [bleep]--I'm out.
1820
01:15:18,421 --> 01:15:21,507
- Okay, so Zack wanted to end
his diary cam, which is fine.
1821
01:15:21,600 --> 01:15:23,259
But, we actually
had a conversation.
1822
01:15:23,343 --> 01:15:25,102
We sat right there
at that table.
1823
01:15:25,187 --> 01:15:28,097
And when asked, when pressed
about what my answer would be,
1824
01:15:28,181 --> 01:15:30,525
I said, "I don't know."
Today, he was like,
1825
01:15:30,684 --> 01:15:32,193
"What is your answer gonna be?"
And I said, I--
1826
01:15:32,352 --> 01:15:33,852
- Wait, wait, that's not
what happened, bro.
1827
01:15:33,946 --> 01:15:35,187
What the [bleep]
are talking about?
1828
01:15:35,280 --> 01:15:37,114
That's not what happened.
- I said, "I don't know."
1829
01:15:37,274 --> 01:15:38,357
That is genuinely my answer.
1830
01:15:38,441 --> 01:15:39,942
- Michaela, we both said
we'd say no today.
1831
01:15:40,026 --> 01:15:41,110
- If we're talking about today--
1832
01:15:41,203 --> 01:15:42,861
- We both said--we said--
- On Decision Day!
1833
01:15:42,946 --> 01:15:45,289
If today was Decision Day,
we would say no.
1834
01:15:45,448 --> 01:15:46,874
- Okay.
- Decision Day?
1835
01:15:46,959 --> 01:15:49,868
I don't know!
- Okay.
1836
01:15:49,953 --> 01:15:54,039
♪ ♪
1837
01:15:54,132 --> 01:15:57,134
- So, I just asked Zack
if we were good.
1838
01:15:57,219 --> 01:15:59,378
And he literally is ignoring me.
1839
01:15:59,471 --> 01:16:02,390
Like, he will not
talk to me now.
1840
01:16:02,474 --> 01:16:04,392
- Michaela doesn't want to
sleep in the same bed anymore,
1841
01:16:04,476 --> 01:16:05,643
so I'm just gonna
go home tonight.
1842
01:16:05,802 --> 01:16:08,721
I don't really want to be here,
1843
01:16:08,805 --> 01:16:10,690
and I don't think
I should have to be here.
1844
01:16:15,395 --> 01:16:18,147
♪ ♪
1845
01:16:18,240 --> 01:16:20,816
- ♪ Where I lay,
in an empty bed, beside me ♪
1846
01:16:20,900 --> 01:16:22,985
♪ ♪
1847
01:16:23,069 --> 01:16:25,654
♪ You're not here,
seems that I'm alone ♪
1848
01:16:25,739 --> 01:16:27,582
♪ ♪
1849
01:16:27,666 --> 01:16:29,408
- I haven't seen you
in so long, since the wedding.
1850
01:16:29,501 --> 01:16:31,335
- Yeah. Day after the wedding.
1851
01:16:31,420 --> 01:16:32,670
- Day after the wedding.
That's true.
1852
01:16:32,754 --> 01:16:34,663
I forgot about that.
I don't even remember that.
1853
01:16:34,748 --> 01:16:36,165
- It's been a long time.
- It has been so long.
1854
01:16:36,249 --> 01:16:37,508
But, it's only been,
1855
01:16:37,593 --> 01:16:38,834
I don't know,
like six weeks or so.
1856
01:16:38,918 --> 01:16:40,169
- Yeah.
1857
01:16:40,253 --> 01:16:41,679
- Um...
1858
01:16:41,838 --> 01:16:43,839
[sighs]
- [chuckles]
1859
01:16:43,932 --> 01:16:46,100
- So, look, I need help.
1860
01:16:48,520 --> 01:16:49,604
We're struggling a little bit.
1861
01:16:49,688 --> 01:16:52,681
- Yeah, I've heard a little bit.
1862
01:16:52,774 --> 01:16:54,775
- I've been wanting to talk
to Alexa for a long time,
1863
01:16:54,934 --> 01:16:59,280
because Ryan struggles
to express himself,
1864
01:16:59,439 --> 01:17:02,524
and I feel like
she knows him the best.
1865
01:17:02,618 --> 01:17:05,620
If I'm gonna talk to anybody
that can give me advice,
1866
01:17:05,704 --> 01:17:07,613
it would be her.
1867
01:17:07,706 --> 01:17:11,533
The hovering topic is,
I'm not his type,
1868
01:17:11,627 --> 01:17:13,628
to which I always say,
"You're not mine either."
1869
01:17:13,712 --> 01:17:15,713
- Mm-hmm.
- And that's okay, for me,
1870
01:17:15,797 --> 01:17:18,123
because I think there's
a lot of things on the surface
1871
01:17:18,208 --> 01:17:20,301
we don't have in common
when you look at us.
1872
01:17:20,385 --> 01:17:21,969
But I think there's
a lot of things underneath
1873
01:17:22,054 --> 01:17:23,295
that we do have in common.
- Mm-hmm.
1874
01:17:23,388 --> 01:17:24,546
- And I need to get to know him.
1875
01:17:24,631 --> 01:17:26,298
Like, I want to know
everything about him.
1876
01:17:26,391 --> 01:17:27,800
But it's like--
- Like pulling teeth.
1877
01:17:27,893 --> 01:17:30,052
- I don't know how to.
- Mm-hmm.
1878
01:17:30,136 --> 01:17:31,637
- I really don't know how to.
1879
01:17:31,730 --> 01:17:33,814
- Well, the advice
I can give you--
1880
01:17:33,973 --> 01:17:36,150
An introvert,
to Ryan being an introvert--
1881
01:17:36,309 --> 01:17:38,736
Is, when he's put on the spot--
- Mm-hmm.
1882
01:17:38,820 --> 01:17:40,479
- He's gonna probably tell you
1883
01:17:40,563 --> 01:17:41,814
what you want to hear,
or walk away.
1884
01:17:41,907 --> 01:17:43,816
- Mm-hmm.
I have felt like--
1885
01:17:43,900 --> 01:17:45,401
That he's just
not interested at all.
1886
01:17:45,485 --> 01:17:49,246
♪ ♪
1887
01:17:49,406 --> 01:17:51,165
- When did he flip on you?
1888
01:17:51,324 --> 01:17:53,334
'Cause I know
the wedding was really good.
1889
01:17:53,418 --> 01:17:54,993
I feel like our families
hit it off really well.
1890
01:17:55,087 --> 01:17:56,578
- Yeah!
- And when y'all were
1891
01:17:56,663 --> 01:17:58,005
on your honeymoon--
- Oh, yeah.
1892
01:17:58,090 --> 01:17:59,081
- We FaceTimed each other,
1893
01:17:59,174 --> 01:18:01,008
and everything was
still going great.
1894
01:18:01,093 --> 01:18:03,678
He said you guys never run out
of things to talk about.
1895
01:18:03,762 --> 01:18:04,929
You just lay in bed
and just talk.
1896
01:18:05,013 --> 01:18:06,088
- Mm-hmm. Totally.
1897
01:18:06,181 --> 01:18:08,507
When we got home,
1898
01:18:08,591 --> 01:18:10,175
back to Houston,
and we moved in,
1899
01:18:10,260 --> 01:18:13,187
I think it still felt like that
for maybe--
1900
01:18:13,346 --> 01:18:15,606
I don't know, maybe,
like, another week.
1901
01:18:15,691 --> 01:18:18,600
And then--and then, it didn't.
1902
01:18:18,685 --> 01:18:20,185
♪ ♪
1903
01:18:20,278 --> 01:18:22,613
- Which, what worries me is that
1904
01:18:22,698 --> 01:18:26,275
it was when he came back here
is when things shifted,
1905
01:18:26,359 --> 01:18:28,193
and it makes me wonder
if, maybe,
1906
01:18:28,286 --> 01:18:32,281
his head is focused on the past.
1907
01:18:32,365 --> 01:18:34,366
♪ ♪
1908
01:18:34,451 --> 01:18:37,211
Like, maybe being back here
1909
01:18:37,295 --> 01:18:42,124
maybe brings back feelings
of someone that he liked.
1910
01:18:42,217 --> 01:18:44,543
♪ ♪
1911
01:18:44,627 --> 01:18:47,722
Knowing him, and living
with him for so long,
1912
01:18:47,806 --> 01:18:50,224
makes me think that
he's distracted somewhere.
1913
01:18:50,308 --> 01:18:51,308
- Really?
- Yeah.
1914
01:18:51,393 --> 01:18:53,477
- ♪ We had some moments ♪
1915
01:18:53,636 --> 01:18:54,895
♪ We were up and down ♪
1916
01:18:55,054 --> 01:18:56,555
- I mean, that's--
That's where my head is.
1917
01:18:56,639 --> 01:18:58,640
- Yeah.
- Since it was such a flip,
1918
01:18:58,725 --> 01:19:01,810
it just makes me think,
if that wasn't out there,
1919
01:19:01,895 --> 01:19:04,989
this would still be a honeymoon.
1920
01:19:05,073 --> 01:19:07,983
- ♪ My heart's bleeding ♪
1921
01:19:08,067 --> 01:19:10,986
- I mean, I wonder.
1922
01:19:11,070 --> 01:19:14,823
♪ ♪
1923
01:19:14,916 --> 01:19:17,918
[line trilling]
1924
01:19:18,003 --> 01:19:20,078
- Hey, what's up, guys?
- What's up?
1925
01:19:20,172 --> 01:19:22,080
- Can you hear me?
- What's up?
1926
01:19:22,165 --> 01:19:23,415
- I know you were
expecting Michaela,
1927
01:19:23,508 --> 01:19:25,342
but she canceled last minute.
1928
01:19:25,427 --> 01:19:27,511
Has she reached out
to you at all, or no?
1929
01:19:27,596 --> 01:19:30,264
Both: No.
- No?
1930
01:19:30,348 --> 01:19:33,017
So, let me just
kind of give you,
1931
01:19:33,176 --> 01:19:35,102
like, the--what happened.
1932
01:19:35,187 --> 01:19:38,764
Yesterday, it was
a good day, right?
1933
01:19:38,848 --> 01:19:40,441
It has been
for the last two weeks.
1934
01:19:40,600 --> 01:19:41,942
You know, there have
been ups and downs,
1935
01:19:42,027 --> 01:19:43,944
but it seemed like
we've been on the same page.
1936
01:19:44,103 --> 01:19:45,613
And so, one thing
we talked about was,
1937
01:19:45,697 --> 01:19:49,608
if Decision Day were today,
what would we say?
1938
01:19:49,692 --> 01:19:51,786
And we both said
we would say no.
1939
01:19:51,870 --> 01:19:53,445
So, we get back
to the apartment,
1940
01:19:53,538 --> 01:19:55,623
and she's like, "Well, you know,
1941
01:19:55,707 --> 01:19:57,282
I want to sleep
in separate beds."
1942
01:19:57,375 --> 01:19:59,293
I'm like, "Okay, fine, whatever.
1943
01:19:59,452 --> 01:20:00,795
"If we're sleeping
in separate beds, like,
1944
01:20:00,879 --> 01:20:03,047
"then I want to go back
to my place tonight to sleep,
1945
01:20:03,131 --> 01:20:04,548
'cause I want to sleep
in a nice bed."
1946
01:20:04,707 --> 01:20:06,542
And she said she didn't care
if I went to my place tonight.
1947
01:20:06,626 --> 01:20:07,802
I was never saying--
1948
01:20:07,886 --> 01:20:09,628
- But you know she was lying.
- Yeah. Right.
1949
01:20:09,712 --> 01:20:11,213
- You know she was lying
when she said that.
1950
01:20:11,297 --> 01:20:14,141
- Right. But here's my thing:
then say that.
1951
01:20:14,300 --> 01:20:15,643
If you don't want me to go,
then say that.
1952
01:20:15,727 --> 01:20:17,895
So, she texted me
literally an hour later:
1953
01:20:17,979 --> 01:20:19,730
"Hey, since you left
the apartment,
1954
01:20:19,815 --> 01:20:21,473
"which is not
what I wanted at all
1955
01:20:21,558 --> 01:20:22,975
"when requesting separate beds,
1956
01:20:23,068 --> 01:20:25,477
I'm going to go ahead and move
out fully tomorrow morning."
1957
01:20:25,570 --> 01:20:26,979
So, she texted me that,
and I read it,
1958
01:20:27,063 --> 01:20:30,491
and I literally, like--
There's no way.
1959
01:20:30,575 --> 01:20:32,576
It's like,
there's no way, right?
1960
01:20:32,661 --> 01:20:34,486
And, you know, she moved out.
1961
01:20:34,571 --> 01:20:35,988
So, she packed out everything,
right?
1962
01:20:36,072 --> 01:20:37,573
So, I just realized,
like, she took,
1963
01:20:37,657 --> 01:20:40,325
like, the seasoning and [bleep].
1964
01:20:40,410 --> 01:20:41,252
- That's annoying.
- Yeah.
1965
01:20:41,411 --> 01:20:42,160
- That would annoy me.
1966
01:20:42,245 --> 01:20:43,337
- And I was like, damn, bro.
1967
01:20:43,421 --> 01:20:45,339
Like, that [bleep].
1968
01:20:45,498 --> 01:20:49,918
- You know what,
that is beyond childish.
1969
01:20:50,003 --> 01:20:53,422
It's beyond rude.
It's beyond disrespectful.
1970
01:20:53,506 --> 01:20:56,341
It seems like you've been
trying as hard as you can
1971
01:20:56,426 --> 01:20:58,519
for as long as you can,
and it seems like
1972
01:20:58,603 --> 01:21:01,930
she's not going--she's not--
She's not meeting you halfway.
1973
01:21:02,023 --> 01:21:03,524
- Look, and I'ma say--
1974
01:21:03,683 --> 01:21:06,018
I'ma say, look,
I know I'm not perfect.
1975
01:21:06,102 --> 01:21:07,778
I know I could be
doing things better, man.
1976
01:21:07,863 --> 01:21:11,106
But, no matter what people say,
I know I've been trying.
1977
01:21:11,190 --> 01:21:14,285
Like, I have never put this
much effort into something,
1978
01:21:14,369 --> 01:21:16,278
ever, in my life.
1979
01:21:16,371 --> 01:21:18,289
Seeing Michaela move out
for the second time
1980
01:21:18,448 --> 01:21:20,949
is definitely challenging.
1981
01:21:21,042 --> 01:21:22,701
I don't know if it's something
that I can overcome,
1982
01:21:22,785 --> 01:21:25,037
just because
1983
01:21:25,121 --> 01:21:28,048
this is the type of reaction
that I have trouble with.
1984
01:21:28,133 --> 01:21:31,376
Like, this is, like--this is
literally insanity for me.
1985
01:21:31,461 --> 01:21:34,471
And it's like,
I can only get mad at myself.
1986
01:21:34,631 --> 01:21:37,132
I'm not even mad at Michaela.
I'm just, like, mad at me,
1987
01:21:37,216 --> 01:21:38,800
'cause I'm sitting here
talking to you guys.
1988
01:21:38,885 --> 01:21:40,394
- Do you feel like
you got fooled or something?
1989
01:21:40,553 --> 01:21:41,896
- No. No. I just--
- Like, you been a fool?
1990
01:21:42,055 --> 01:21:45,641
- No. I mean, you--
I mean, you--maybe.
1991
01:21:45,725 --> 01:21:47,809
But I think, starting now, I'm
just gonna start doing [bleep]
1992
01:21:47,894 --> 01:21:49,486
that makes me happy.
1993
01:21:49,571 --> 01:21:51,730
But I've been--
I appreciate you guys
1994
01:21:51,814 --> 01:21:53,324
taking time to talk to me, man.
1995
01:21:53,408 --> 01:21:54,900
If Michaela reaches out,
let me know.
1996
01:21:54,984 --> 01:21:56,068
I doubt she will.
1997
01:21:56,152 --> 01:21:58,412
But anyway, thank you, guys.
I love you.
1998
01:21:58,496 --> 01:21:59,747
- All right.
- Hunt, get better.
1999
01:21:59,831 --> 01:22:01,582
Toliver, keep killing it
in school.
2000
01:22:01,741 --> 01:22:04,084
And I will talk to you guys
later, okay?
2001
01:22:04,243 --> 01:22:05,661
- Later.
- A'ight, bye. I love you. Bye.
2002
01:22:05,745 --> 01:22:08,088
♪ ♪
2003
01:22:08,173 --> 01:22:11,008
- ♪ Gems in the dark ♪
2004
01:22:11,092 --> 01:22:13,669
♪ Tear me apart ♪
2005
01:22:13,753 --> 01:22:16,922
♪ So kind of assess,
and try to profess ♪
2006
01:22:17,006 --> 01:22:19,683
♪ How did it get this far? ♪
2007
01:22:19,768 --> 01:22:22,686
♪ I know that
you think you bad ♪
2008
01:22:22,771 --> 01:22:25,105
♪ But, honey,
I'm not too mad ♪
2009
01:22:25,190 --> 01:22:26,848
♪ So why don't you,
why don't you ♪
2010
01:22:26,933 --> 01:22:30,185
♪ Why don't you quit playing
games and get out of my way? ♪
2011
01:22:30,269 --> 01:22:31,770
♪ ♪
2012
01:22:31,854 --> 01:22:34,439
♪ If we had not been drunk ♪
2013
01:22:34,524 --> 01:22:37,943
♪ ♪
2014
01:22:38,027 --> 01:22:41,363
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight,"
2015
01:22:41,456 --> 01:22:43,448
with just two weeks
until Decision Day...
2016
01:22:43,533 --> 01:22:44,875
- Whoo!
2017
01:22:44,960 --> 01:22:47,953
- The ranch retreat encourages
our couples to bond,
2018
01:22:48,037 --> 01:22:50,205
have fun, and strengthen
their connection.
2019
01:22:50,289 --> 01:22:52,216
- Ooh.
- Oh, no! Ahh!
2020
01:22:52,300 --> 01:22:53,384
- They just want to eat you.
2021
01:22:53,468 --> 01:22:55,219
Most likely to be petty.
2022
01:22:55,303 --> 01:22:56,378
- I said Michaela.
2023
01:22:56,471 --> 01:22:59,223
She taking batteries
out the smoke alarm.
2024
01:22:59,382 --> 01:23:00,557
- I think it's go-time.
2025
01:23:00,642 --> 01:23:03,885
It's not time to relax
on our relationship.
2026
01:23:03,970 --> 01:23:05,637
[gunshot]
2027
01:23:05,722 --> 01:23:07,064
- I'm gonna die here today.
2028
01:23:07,148 --> 01:23:09,391
- Getting matched with you
was way more work
2029
01:23:09,475 --> 01:23:10,308
than I thought it would be.
2030
01:23:10,393 --> 01:23:12,310
♪ ♪
2031
01:23:12,395 --> 01:23:15,072
- I can't! I can't! I can't!
2032
01:23:15,231 --> 01:23:16,240
- I came here for love.
2033
01:23:16,399 --> 01:23:19,076
I did not come here
to be disrespected.
2034
01:23:19,235 --> 01:23:20,736
- You say to call you out.
2035
01:23:20,820 --> 01:23:23,080
But when I call you out,
this is what happens.
2036
01:23:23,239 --> 01:23:26,575
- I would have preferred, like,
individual, separate cabins.
2037
01:23:26,668 --> 01:23:28,076
- This is like, then
what do you want? [bleep].
2038
01:23:28,161 --> 01:23:29,828
♪ ♪
2039
01:23:29,912 --> 01:23:31,839
- Get out!
2040
01:23:31,923 --> 01:23:32,998
[glass shatters]
2041
01:23:33,082 --> 01:23:34,508
[bleep]!
Get out!