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- You don't understand, like,
how much I've wanted this.
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- Getting married
to a stranger is
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A chance I'm
definitely willing to take.
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- Oh, [bleep].
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I've been dreaming about
this moment for my whole life.
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- Please stand.
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- Just over one month ago,
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Ten singles took
a brave leap of faith
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In order to find love.
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- Hi.
[laughs]
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheers and applause]
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- Yesterday I was single,
and today I am married.
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It is crazy.
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- ♪ let's make some waves ♪
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- Last time,
our couple celebrated
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Their one month anniversary
as husbands and wives.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ go with the flow ♪
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- Rachel and jose.
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- I can say you look a lot--a
hell of a lot cuter like that.
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You look sexy.
I love it.
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- I'm just playing
and having a great time,
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Fully in love
with my husband again.
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It's--it feels great.
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Stop!
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- ♪ make some waves, baby ♪
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- Myrla and gil.
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- Somebody's trying
to be romantic
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And burn down the place
at the same time.
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- [laughs]
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Firefighter. I just remembered.
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- Seeing these roses, seeing
the setup, the champagne,
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The candles, reassures me
that my wife is
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The right person for me.
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♪ ♪
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- Michaela and zack.
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- Cheers to you,
because if it weren't for you,
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We would not be here.
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I want you to understand, like,
how much, like, you mean to me.
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Cheers.
- Cheers.
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- Brett and ryan.
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- It's just crazy
that we had no idea
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What was ahead of us, though.
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- I know.
How do you feel?
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- I was hopeful that feelings
were gonna come.
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But now we're a month in,
and they're lesser now
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Than they were the first night.
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- Bao and johnny.
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- So I meal prep, I cook,
I do gourmet meals, I bake.
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I do all these things
in the house.
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- She hasn't.
That's a [bleep] lie.
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- That's not true at all.
Like, why are you saying that?
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That's not--that's not honest.
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- ♪ gone until we kiss... ♪
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- And tonight,
with less than four weeks left
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Until decision day,
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Our couples confront
the reality of what a lifetime
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With their spouse
would actually entail.
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- Even though we married
at first sight,
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I'm still in love
with you all day
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And all night, always,
and for the rest of my life.
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- Ey!
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- Everybody has
a breaking point.
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Decision day is coming up,
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And things
are coming to a head.
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[dramatic music]
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- I'm still struggling
with this.
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- Like, if you don't
wanna be with me,
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Then please don't be with me.
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♪ ♪
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- I am consistently
thinking about you.
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- Like, you are not consistent
at all.
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- I like new apartments.
- You like everything new.
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She says she won't change
her lifestyle for anybody.
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- That's big.
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- You could not
criticize me one bit,
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'cause I would be, like,
out the door.
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- Wow.
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- I can tell when someone's
attention is divided.
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Is there anyone else
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That you have some kind
of affinity for?
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- Is there someone else?
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♪ ♪
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[upbeat music]
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ ooh-hoo ♪
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♪ what have you got to lose? ♪
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♪ what have you got to lose? ♪
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♪ I'm gonna take it from you ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Good morning.
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- Good night.
- [laughs]
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- Good morning.
- Good morning.
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- I'd kiss you,
but my breath stinks.
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- Ooh, yeah.
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- No kisses, just good morning.
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- These are all
of my beautiful flowers
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From everyone with
their condolences about baxter.
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Baxter, who is that?
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- I have no clue, mom.
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- You have a dad.
You're his new dad.
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- Shoot.
- [laughs]
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Had to put baxter down.
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Obviously, that was
incredibly hard for me.
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- I care a lot about this girl.
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But yeah, we've had
a lot of ups and downs as well
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And we're still kind of
in limbo with everything.
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- It's a struggle.
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There has been a shift,
you know, between ryan and I
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Because things
aren't progressing,
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And it's definitely been tough.
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- After reaching the one month
milestone in their marriages,
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Our couples are settling
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Into their everyday
domestic lives together.
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- My wife is dressed really
nicely in her natural hair,
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No fake eyelashes,
and just looking bomb.
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Ten out of ten.
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- Look at my lashes everywhere.
How embarrassing.
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- Merging their lives together
means having to adapt
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To their partner's routines,
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Habits,
and personal preferences.
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How well our couples can adjust
to their spouse's way of living
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Makes all the difference
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Because in less
than four weeks,
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They'll have to make
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The biggest decision
of their lives,
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Whether to stay married
or get a divorce.
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[tense music]
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- Morning.
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Yesterday was difficult.
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- I wanted it so bad.
Square peg, round hole.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm feeling deflated,
but at the same time,
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I'm feeling
that this is fixable.
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I gotta make the best
of the situation.
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So if that's what I do,
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I need to woman up
and romance my husband.
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And I guess that's
what I'm gonna have to do.
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So I'm gonna try
to wrap my mind around that,
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And...I have
to woo my husband now.
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- ♪ our own love story ♪
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♪ yeah, story, yeah, oh ♪
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♪ our own love story ♪
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♪ yeah, story, yeah, oh ♪
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♪ our own love story ♪
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- It's a little cold in here.
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Can you make me one of my own?
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- You can make one
of your own, yeah.
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- I want some with just
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Peanut butter--with
the peanut butter stuff.
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- You can make it
however you want.
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So my lease is up
in about three weeks.
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- Mm-hmm.
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- And I don't think
I'm gonna renew it.
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- No, I think
you should renew it.
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- Yeah?
All right, I'll renew it.
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That's cool.
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So apartment shopping, we need
to do that before decision day.
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So I went and got two prices
for the apartments here.
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I don't know where I'll put
the floor plans at, though.
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- Having a husband
that I can share space with
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Is something that
I've always wanted for myself.
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We're talking about a future.
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We're talking
about building a home.
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We're talking
about where we're gonna live.
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I mean, we're talking
about everything,
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As in, like, this is the
marriage that we want for life.
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And so it truly is a dream
come true and more.
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♪ ♪
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- One was, I think,
1,100 square foot
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And the other one
was, like, 1,000.
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- That's pretty big, actually.
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- Yeah, the smaller one
of the two is just higher.
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- Mm, like how high?
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- I don't know.
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Honestly, I'm not a huge fan
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Of mid-rise
and high-rise apartments.
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I don't like
building apartments.
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I'm not a fan of elevators,
I'm not a fan
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Of freaking parking garages,
loopty-loopty loops.
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I hate that.
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I definitely don't care
about no concierge.
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That's extremely bougie.
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I don't need no door guy.
I can open my own doors.
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♪ ♪
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What are your wants
in an apartment?
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- I like new apartments.
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- You like everything new.
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You remind me of that person
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That just wants
the latest and greatest.
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- I think I want a new phone.
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- [laughs]
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- I've had this one
for two years.
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- What's wrong with that phone?
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Can you call?
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Can you text?
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What's wrong with that phone?
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- Just a new one, I want one.
- You hear that?
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She likes any and everything
to be new.
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And it worries me a little bit
that she might get tired
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Of me, too,
when I'm not new to her.
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♪ ♪
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What's gonna be the difference?
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- The camera.
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I'd rather get--
- [laughing]
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- ♪ everything feels
so right now, baby ♪
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♪ everything feels
so right now ♪
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♪ ♪
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- I'm gonna make breakfast.
- Okay.
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- If you want,
you can wash these dishes.
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- Yeah, I was thinking
about it.
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- Are you cooking with that pan
or that pan?
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- Yeah, every pan.
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- Oh, you're cooking
with all of them.
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- I need them all.
- Oh, okay.
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- Last week, rachel and I
were not at a good place.
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- I will move forward
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When I feel I get the sorry
that I deserve.
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[tense music]
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- What I've learned throughout
that whole process
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Is that clearly,
you know, this is a marriage.
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This takes a lot of work.
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But I'm willing to do anything
I can to try to make it work
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Because this is exactly
everything I've asked for
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In a woman and in a marriage.
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♪ ♪
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- I'm just so impatient
when it comes to cooking.
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I think that's why
I don't like cooking.
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- So you get impatient
when it comes to cooking
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Because you want it, like, now?
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- Yeah, that's why I buy,
like, microwave stuff,
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Because it's fast.
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- So you like eggs
in the microwave?
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- No, not that I like it.
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I'm not gonna wake up
30 minutes earlier
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To make fresh eggs
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When I could just quickly
make eggs in the microwave.
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♪ ♪
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Mm-hmm.
- [snorts]
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- Okay, all right.
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We're getting ready here.
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♪ ♪
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That's it, finally made 'em.
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- It didn't take that long.
- To me, it did.
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Four weeks ago,
I didn't even know
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A man like jose could exist.
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We've definitely
had some issues,
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But, like,
I feel 1,000 times better.
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I felt like
I voiced my thoughts,
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And I felt like he listened.
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00:10:01,768 --> 00:10:04,752
And knowing that we got
past that argument really
258
00:10:04,846 --> 00:10:08,514
Makes me feel good about what
our future's gonna look like.
259
00:10:08,609 --> 00:10:11,017
- This is really good.
260
00:10:11,169 --> 00:10:13,002
- It is really good.
261
00:10:13,096 --> 00:10:15,004
- So first time
playing baseball,
262
00:10:15,023 --> 00:10:16,281
First time making chilaquiles
with someone.
263
00:10:16,508 --> 00:10:18,099
- I'm telling you,
it's all about first with you.
264
00:10:18,193 --> 00:10:19,359
- That's good.
- I'm liking it.
265
00:10:19,511 --> 00:10:20,768
- Good.
266
00:10:20,862 --> 00:10:23,104
- I can't wait
to do a lot of firsts.
267
00:10:23,123 --> 00:10:25,365
- What is a first for you
that you're looking forward to
268
00:10:25,517 --> 00:10:27,274
As we continue these firsts?
269
00:10:27,294 --> 00:10:29,535
- Well, my first--
- other than the baseball game.
270
00:10:29,630 --> 00:10:34,691
- My first trip to europe
with an actual, like, partner,
271
00:10:34,784 --> 00:10:37,210
And not a friend,
not my mom, you know,
272
00:10:37,362 --> 00:10:42,790
Actually someone,
that would mean a lot to me.
273
00:10:42,809 --> 00:10:48,629
- I know for me, like,
I want a road trip to texas,
274
00:10:48,649 --> 00:10:51,557
'cause, you know,
texas is huge.
275
00:10:51,652 --> 00:10:53,818
San antonio, of course, I used
to live there, so I love it.
276
00:10:53,970 --> 00:10:55,803
And then when you get out
to the "hill country,"
277
00:10:55,822 --> 00:10:57,638
It's definitely hilly,
278
00:10:57,732 --> 00:11:00,825
And it just--it's different
than city living over here.
279
00:11:01,052 --> 00:11:03,828
♪ ♪
280
00:11:04,055 --> 00:11:07,724
- His travel and my travel
are not the same.
281
00:11:07,742 --> 00:11:10,835
He says he likes traveling,
and I said I like traveling,
282
00:11:11,062 --> 00:11:14,155
But our definitions
of traveling don't match.
283
00:11:14,174 --> 00:11:15,674
I don't know.
284
00:11:15,901 --> 00:11:17,567
I'm sure we just
keep doing our thing,
285
00:11:17,585 --> 00:11:18,843
And it's gonna be like,
286
00:11:18,995 --> 00:11:20,011
"oh, this is my first time
doing this.
287
00:11:20,163 --> 00:11:20,845
This is my first time
doing that."
288
00:11:21,072 --> 00:11:22,681
- Mm-hmm.
289
00:11:24,426 --> 00:11:27,185
[upbeat music]
290
00:11:27,412 --> 00:11:31,581
♪ ♪
291
00:11:31,599 --> 00:11:32,765
- What's this dish
that we're making?
292
00:11:32,859 --> 00:11:34,751
- Uh, bolognese.
293
00:11:34,769 --> 00:11:36,269
- Zucchini noodle bolognese.
- Mm-hmm.
294
00:11:36,421 --> 00:11:37,921
- All right.
295
00:11:37,939 --> 00:11:44,703
♪ ♪
296
00:11:46,873 --> 00:11:48,873
- It asked for crushed tomatoes
but I like whole tomatoes,
297
00:11:49,025 --> 00:11:50,375
So we're gonna have a bunch
of whole tomatoes.
298
00:11:50,526 --> 00:11:52,602
- Oh, deviating
from the recipe.
299
00:11:52,695 --> 00:11:55,362
- I know.
- That's so unlike you.
300
00:11:55,382 --> 00:11:57,457
[soft music]
301
00:11:57,609 --> 00:12:01,702
I am feeling 50-50 about the
relationship at this point.
302
00:12:01,722 --> 00:12:03,446
It's a struggle just because
she's saying some things
303
00:12:03,465 --> 00:12:05,223
That are just
straight up not true.
304
00:12:05,374 --> 00:12:08,451
I haven't really talked
to bao about it yet.
305
00:12:08,470 --> 00:12:12,638
But I feel like this week
I need to just be 100% focused
306
00:12:12,791 --> 00:12:16,142
On trying to do things together
to see if anything pops up.
307
00:12:16,294 --> 00:12:17,794
♪ ♪
308
00:12:17,812 --> 00:12:19,553
What are some activities
you prefer to do
309
00:12:19,647 --> 00:12:21,981
With someone and not alone?
310
00:12:22,133 --> 00:12:25,726
- Actually,
I like doing chores.
311
00:12:25,746 --> 00:12:27,804
Uh, let's see.
312
00:12:27,822 --> 00:12:30,490
I mean, I like doing bedroom
activities with a partner
313
00:12:30,584 --> 00:12:33,326
And not by myself.
314
00:12:33,478 --> 00:12:37,571
I have a happy chore
for myself.
315
00:12:37,591 --> 00:12:41,651
That's something I haven't
really shared with anybody.
316
00:12:41,669 --> 00:12:43,669
It's just there for me,
317
00:12:43,764 --> 00:12:47,006
But I do like the idea
of one day sharing that chore.
318
00:12:47,158 --> 00:12:48,341
- Are you thinking
about bringing something
319
00:12:48,435 --> 00:12:49,917
From the drawer here?
320
00:12:49,936 --> 00:12:51,252
- It's one of those things
where I'm like,
321
00:12:51,346 --> 00:12:53,605
I wouldn't want
to assume anything.
322
00:12:53,756 --> 00:12:55,440
- I wouldn't mind.
323
00:12:55,591 --> 00:12:57,591
- Johnny shared with me
that he likes women
324
00:12:57,685 --> 00:12:59,335
That are flirty.
325
00:12:59,354 --> 00:13:04,616
I am not a very flirty person,
but I'm doing it largely
326
00:13:04,843 --> 00:13:07,434
Because I know
that makes him happy,
327
00:13:07,529 --> 00:13:09,862
And I hope he sees that
and appreciates that about me.
328
00:13:09,956 --> 00:13:11,364
[laughs]
329
00:13:11,516 --> 00:13:14,200
Drink your prosecco!
330
00:13:14,352 --> 00:13:17,203
You're just causing trouble.
331
00:13:17,297 --> 00:13:18,871
- After every ingredient
that goes in we have to--
332
00:13:18,965 --> 00:13:20,465
- Drink?
333
00:13:20,692 --> 00:13:22,692
- I think it's part
of the recipe, I think.
334
00:13:22,785 --> 00:13:24,027
- Are you sure
that it's not some kind
335
00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:26,546
Of a new drinking game
you just created?
336
00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:29,290
- You know what's a drinking
game that we could play?
337
00:13:29,384 --> 00:13:31,810
- Hmm?
- Truth or sip.
338
00:13:32,037 --> 00:13:34,387
- Truth or sip, huh?
While we're cooking?
339
00:13:34,539 --> 00:13:35,888
- Yeah.
- Okay.
340
00:13:36,041 --> 00:13:37,206
- Ask me something.
341
00:13:37,225 --> 00:13:38,558
If I don't wanna answer,
I have to drink.
342
00:13:38,652 --> 00:13:40,985
- Okay, what's, uh...
343
00:13:41,212 --> 00:13:43,563
What's gonna be your decision
on decision day?
344
00:13:43,657 --> 00:13:45,472
[laughing]
345
00:13:45,492 --> 00:13:47,900
- Right to it, all right.
- [laughs]
346
00:13:47,994 --> 00:13:50,403
- Yeah, all right.
All right, I'm gonna...
347
00:13:50,497 --> 00:13:52,146
- [laughs]
348
00:13:52,165 --> 00:13:55,224
Damn it!
349
00:13:55,318 --> 00:13:57,076
- What's your decision
on decision day
350
00:13:57,228 --> 00:13:58,169
If it was tomorrow?
351
00:13:58,396 --> 00:13:59,896
- Um...
352
00:13:59,914 --> 00:14:01,414
I'd still wanna be married.
353
00:14:01,566 --> 00:14:02,899
- Yeah?
- Mm-hmm.
354
00:14:02,917 --> 00:14:04,750
- How do you--how do you
already know?
355
00:14:04,845 --> 00:14:08,847
- Because I ended just about
every one of my relationships.
356
00:14:08,998 --> 00:14:11,574
So I told myself
going into this process
357
00:14:11,593 --> 00:14:13,834
That something's
gotta change about me,
358
00:14:13,854 --> 00:14:17,430
And I've decided
I'm not quitting.
359
00:14:17,582 --> 00:14:19,340
I'm putting my all into it,
360
00:14:19,359 --> 00:14:24,253
And I will have no regrets
no matter what happens.
361
00:14:24,272 --> 00:14:26,531
I feel like I've grown a lot
being with you,
362
00:14:26,682 --> 00:14:29,942
And I really want
to explore this.
363
00:14:30,036 --> 00:14:33,279
So I don't see any reason
why I would say no right now.
364
00:14:33,431 --> 00:14:36,282
- I like that attitude.
365
00:14:36,434 --> 00:14:40,103
Saying no on decision day would
feel like I failed in some way.
366
00:14:40,121 --> 00:14:43,773
But I've experienced highs
and lows and fights with bao.
367
00:14:43,791 --> 00:14:45,532
So I'm still trying
to find out
368
00:14:45,627 --> 00:14:47,201
If I can fall in love
with her,
369
00:14:47,295 --> 00:14:48,720
And we still got
a long way to go.
370
00:14:48,947 --> 00:14:51,038
♪ ♪
371
00:14:51,057 --> 00:14:53,466
What do you want to cheers to?
372
00:14:53,618 --> 00:14:55,118
Cheers to something.
373
00:14:55,136 --> 00:14:56,969
- To yes on decision day.
374
00:14:57,063 --> 00:14:59,138
[both laughing]
375
00:14:59,290 --> 00:15:01,641
- To yes on decision day.
376
00:15:01,793 --> 00:15:08,573
♪ ♪
377
00:15:11,394 --> 00:15:13,986
- I know.
I recognize every effort.
378
00:15:14,139 --> 00:15:15,821
- Good.
- I see it.
379
00:15:15,974 --> 00:15:20,877
♪ ♪
380
00:15:24,832 --> 00:15:25,757
[upbeat music]
381
00:15:25,984 --> 00:15:29,669
♪ ♪
382
00:15:29,763 --> 00:15:31,763
- Hi, guys.
- Hi!
383
00:15:31,914 --> 00:15:33,247
- Welcome
to main street soccer.
384
00:15:33,341 --> 00:15:34,599
Uh, first things first,
385
00:15:34,826 --> 00:15:36,601
I'ma just need you guys
to do a waiver.
386
00:15:36,752 --> 00:15:38,511
- Okay.
Are you excited, zack?
387
00:15:38,663 --> 00:15:40,179
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah?
388
00:15:40,331 --> 00:15:41,606
- I don't know how this
is gonna go, though.
389
00:15:41,833 --> 00:15:44,016
I don't wanna hurt you.
Sounds kinda dangerous.
390
00:15:44,110 --> 00:15:45,351
- That's the whole point
of the waiver, basically.
391
00:15:45,445 --> 00:15:47,853
- Yeah.
- [laughs]
392
00:15:47,948 --> 00:15:49,930
- I'm looking forward
to doing this with michaela
393
00:15:50,024 --> 00:15:51,691
Because we've talked
about working out together,
394
00:15:51,785 --> 00:15:53,600
And that's something
that she wants to do.
395
00:15:53,620 --> 00:15:54,768
I know that she wanted
to hit me
396
00:15:54,862 --> 00:15:55,861
And make me fall on the ground,
397
00:15:56,014 --> 00:15:57,121
But I don't think
she's going to.
398
00:15:57,348 --> 00:15:59,457
- I'ma go easy.
- All right, thank you.
399
00:15:59,608 --> 00:16:01,608
- Each of you will stand
on one side,
400
00:16:01,703 --> 00:16:03,035
And then you guys are basically
just gonna run at each other...
401
00:16:03,188 --> 00:16:04,445
- Okay.
- Okay.
402
00:16:04,539 --> 00:16:05,871
- And meet in the middle.
403
00:16:06,024 --> 00:16:07,690
Whoever bounces back further
404
00:16:07,709 --> 00:16:09,542
Is basically the loser
of the round.
405
00:16:09,694 --> 00:16:12,195
- Okay.
- Let's go.
406
00:16:12,213 --> 00:16:15,364
- I'm nervous!
Michaela, don't go hard!
407
00:16:15,383 --> 00:16:18,884
[both laughing]
408
00:16:19,037 --> 00:16:21,462
- Bubble ball is really fun.
409
00:16:21,556 --> 00:16:23,464
I looked up techniques.
410
00:16:23,558 --> 00:16:26,559
The strategy,
run and launch myself
411
00:16:26,711 --> 00:16:30,563
And be kinda as erratic
as possible, so I failed.
412
00:16:30,657 --> 00:16:31,897
Oh, my technique didn't work!
413
00:16:31,992 --> 00:16:34,158
- All right.
[laughs]
414
00:16:38,406 --> 00:16:42,725
[upbeat music]
415
00:16:42,818 --> 00:16:46,337
- ♪ go, go, go,
come on and give it to me ♪
416
00:16:46,489 --> 00:16:50,249
♪ all you got, so deep in it ♪
417
00:16:50,401 --> 00:16:52,844
♪ I can't get enough of
your love 'cause I love you ♪
418
00:16:52,995 --> 00:16:55,829
♪ it's true ♪
419
00:16:55,849 --> 00:16:58,591
- What do we do?
- Let's see.
420
00:16:58,743 --> 00:17:01,502
If you score then--
421
00:17:01,596 --> 00:17:02,912
- You gotta do a dance move,
422
00:17:03,005 --> 00:17:04,263
A serious dance move
in this thing.
423
00:17:04,415 --> 00:17:05,857
- Okay.
424
00:17:06,084 --> 00:17:07,692
- And if I don't then
I do a dance move, okay?
425
00:17:07,919 --> 00:17:09,101
- Okay.
- All right, you ready?
426
00:17:09,254 --> 00:17:12,271
- Yeah.
- Okay.
427
00:17:12,365 --> 00:17:14,681
- Ah!
Oh, [bleep].
428
00:17:14,701 --> 00:17:17,035
Trying to take me out, homie?
429
00:17:17,262 --> 00:17:18,870
- Chill, chill, chill.
- Trying to take me out?
430
00:17:19,097 --> 00:17:21,264
- Don't play with me, girl.
Don't play with me.
431
00:17:21,282 --> 00:17:23,357
- What's the dance?
Can you pick the dance?
432
00:17:23,451 --> 00:17:25,284
- Give me, like,
a little dougie.
433
00:17:25,436 --> 00:17:27,286
- How you gon'--you can't
do a dougie in this!
434
00:17:27,438 --> 00:17:28,546
- Figure it out, let's see.
435
00:17:28,773 --> 00:17:30,048
- Let's see.
436
00:17:30,275 --> 00:17:32,050
- Go.
437
00:17:32,277 --> 00:17:34,886
Oh my god, michaela.
438
00:17:35,037 --> 00:17:36,946
Wait.
- I'm dougie-ing.
439
00:17:37,039 --> 00:17:38,964
- No, that's horrible, yo.
440
00:17:39,117 --> 00:17:41,133
Okay.
- [laughs]
441
00:17:41,286 --> 00:17:43,636
- Was actually not that bad.
442
00:17:43,730 --> 00:17:45,563
That was not that bad.
443
00:17:45,790 --> 00:17:46,789
- Oh, my gosh, okay.
444
00:17:46,808 --> 00:17:48,791
Ah!
445
00:17:48,810 --> 00:17:52,886
♪ ♪
446
00:17:52,906 --> 00:17:55,981
Okay.
How'd you like my dougie?
447
00:17:56,076 --> 00:17:59,318
- I kinda wanna see you dougie,
like, in real life
448
00:17:59,470 --> 00:18:01,562
'cause that was pretty bad,
but I wanna give you credit.
449
00:18:01,581 --> 00:18:03,639
- All I had to show
you was my knees, man.
450
00:18:03,658 --> 00:18:05,157
And I was trying to dougie
with my knees.
451
00:18:05,310 --> 00:18:06,400
That's what that swirl was.
452
00:18:06,494 --> 00:18:09,145
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, I hear you.
453
00:18:09,238 --> 00:18:10,663
- That's what I was trying
to do, see?
454
00:18:10,815 --> 00:18:15,835
♪ ♪
455
00:18:15,929 --> 00:18:19,097
So when did you feel
the happiest in our marriage?
456
00:18:19,324 --> 00:18:20,765
- Let me think about that.
Do you have an answer?
457
00:18:23,511 --> 00:18:25,770
- That morning that I first
saw you again, move-in day.
458
00:18:25,997 --> 00:18:26,771
- Mm-hmm.
459
00:18:26,998 --> 00:18:29,423
♪ ♪
460
00:18:29,517 --> 00:18:31,183
[both laughing]
461
00:18:31,277 --> 00:18:34,278
- Hi, wife, what's up?
462
00:18:34,505 --> 00:18:36,856
Hi, oh, my goodness,
I missed you so much.
463
00:18:36,950 --> 00:18:39,508
Hi.
- Hi.
464
00:18:39,602 --> 00:18:41,935
- I would say my happiest time
465
00:18:41,955 --> 00:18:43,937
Was when--it was
at our wedding.
466
00:18:43,957 --> 00:18:46,273
I was, like,
dancing in front of you.
467
00:18:46,292 --> 00:18:48,942
My friends came behind me,
and then you started crying.
468
00:18:48,962 --> 00:18:55,800
♪ ♪
469
00:19:01,215 --> 00:19:02,765
- I did not see that coming.
470
00:19:04,218 --> 00:19:05,701
That was a very special moment.
471
00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:07,370
- Yeah.
- That was awesome.
472
00:19:08,314 --> 00:19:09,814
- But I don't know
how we can recreate that.
473
00:19:09,965 --> 00:19:11,632
- You could always
buy me a house.
474
00:19:11,726 --> 00:19:13,985
- Nope.
- I tried. [laughs]
475
00:19:14,212 --> 00:19:15,653
- No, ma'am.
You could buy me a house.
476
00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:17,380
- No.
477
00:19:17,473 --> 00:19:20,474
- [laughs]
478
00:19:20,568 --> 00:19:22,493
- I got married at first sight
479
00:19:22,645 --> 00:19:24,553
To have somebody
to kid around with,
480
00:19:24,647 --> 00:19:29,000
To have fun,
and enjoy life together.
481
00:19:29,151 --> 00:19:31,894
We are working on taking it
one day at a time,
482
00:19:31,913 --> 00:19:34,154
And I'm hoping
that our marriage
483
00:19:34,248 --> 00:19:35,822
Can keep getting better.
484
00:19:35,917 --> 00:19:37,583
I want it to last forever.
485
00:19:37,677 --> 00:19:40,160
Yeah.
486
00:19:40,180 --> 00:19:42,071
Thank you, shawty.
I'ma grab these waters.
487
00:19:42,164 --> 00:19:44,073
- Would you do this again?
- Heck yeah.
488
00:19:44,091 --> 00:19:46,091
I'ma go work out some,
but heck yeah.
489
00:19:46,244 --> 00:19:47,167
- You think
that would help any?
490
00:19:47,187 --> 00:19:48,928
- I think so.
- You sure?
491
00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:50,521
- As long
as you don't bulldoze me.
492
00:19:50,673 --> 00:19:52,581
- I wasn't bulldozing you.
- Whatever.
493
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:57,253
♪ ♪
494
00:19:57,271 --> 00:19:59,363
- Let's try the fruits
of our labor.
495
00:19:59,515 --> 00:20:01,699
- Okay, I hope it's good.
I'm sorry if it's not.
496
00:20:01,926 --> 00:20:04,017
But there's salt and pepper
here if you need it.
497
00:20:04,037 --> 00:20:05,369
- Bon appétit.
498
00:20:05,596 --> 00:20:12,335
♪ ♪
499
00:20:19,126 --> 00:20:21,219
This is good.
- You like it?
500
00:20:21,446 --> 00:20:22,887
- The flavor's good.
I can taste the bacon.
501
00:20:23,114 --> 00:20:24,555
- Mm-hmm.
502
00:20:24,782 --> 00:20:27,450
- I can taste turkey.
I think this is a success.
503
00:20:27,543 --> 00:20:30,636
- You like it.
I'm glad.
504
00:20:30,730 --> 00:20:34,640
- You ready to ask me
the next truth or sip question?
505
00:20:34,734 --> 00:20:36,141
- No, you need to now.
506
00:20:36,294 --> 00:20:37,960
I feel like I asked
a super probey one.
507
00:20:38,053 --> 00:20:40,312
- Let's bring it full circle.
- Mm-hmm.
508
00:20:40,406 --> 00:20:43,074
- In this relationship,
do you feel like you're 100%?
509
00:20:43,225 --> 00:20:44,558
- I am.
- Putting 100% effort?
510
00:20:44,652 --> 00:20:47,078
- I am.
- How so?
511
00:20:47,305 --> 00:20:49,247
- I feel like I'm doing
everything I can, yeah.
512
00:20:49,398 --> 00:20:52,475
- Everything?
- Yeah.
513
00:20:52,493 --> 00:20:55,311
- If your 100% was my 100%,
514
00:20:55,329 --> 00:20:57,738
I feel like
I'm putting 150% into this.
515
00:20:57,832 --> 00:20:59,315
[dramatic music]
516
00:20:59,408 --> 00:21:01,817
Planning dates, being flirty,
517
00:21:01,910 --> 00:21:03,910
Giving us opportunities
to be flirty,
518
00:21:04,005 --> 00:21:07,431
Date nights, gifts,
all that stuff.
519
00:21:07,658 --> 00:21:09,008
- I don't think
you're giving me credit
520
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:10,326
For everything I'm doing.
521
00:21:10,419 --> 00:21:11,510
- No, I'm trying to figure out,
like,
522
00:21:11,604 --> 00:21:13,104
When have you tried--
523
00:21:13,331 --> 00:21:15,273
When have you tried
in this relationship?
524
00:21:15,500 --> 00:21:18,091
- All of the stuff
that I'm doing is trying.
525
00:21:18,111 --> 00:21:20,519
I'm not doing a big gesture
like you are,
526
00:21:20,613 --> 00:21:23,263
But on the day-to-day
of taking care of things,
527
00:21:23,283 --> 00:21:24,949
I'm doing that just as--
528
00:21:25,100 --> 00:21:26,692
- Do you think
I'm not doing it?
529
00:21:26,786 --> 00:21:29,287
- I'm not saying you're not,
but that's how I show I care.
530
00:21:29,438 --> 00:21:30,788
On the day-to-day,
531
00:21:30,939 --> 00:21:32,606
I'm tidying up
and organizing...
532
00:21:32,625 --> 00:21:34,775
- I am too.
- The kitchen and stuff.
533
00:21:34,869 --> 00:21:36,294
Yeah, but I don't have to fold
your clothes and do the organ--
534
00:21:36,521 --> 00:21:38,020
- You don't.
535
00:21:38,039 --> 00:21:39,613
- Neat it and put it away
and everything,
536
00:21:39,632 --> 00:21:42,300
But I am consistently
thinking about you,
537
00:21:42,451 --> 00:21:45,118
Consistently doing things
in this relationship.
538
00:21:45,138 --> 00:21:47,471
- I feel like you are not
consistent at all.
539
00:21:47,698 --> 00:21:49,532
♪ ♪
540
00:21:49,550 --> 00:21:50,883
- I don't think
you're appreciating
541
00:21:50,977 --> 00:21:52,885
The things that I do.
542
00:21:52,979 --> 00:21:55,538
I think you need more grand
gestures than what I'm doing.
543
00:21:55,556 --> 00:21:57,222
- I don't.
I just need everyday gestures.
544
00:21:57,317 --> 00:21:59,317
You know, like you, like,
poke me in the morning
545
00:21:59,468 --> 00:22:00,818
And be like,
"hey, let's go for a run,"
546
00:22:01,045 --> 00:22:02,711
Because last time we did it,
we had a good time.
547
00:22:02,805 --> 00:22:04,989
Like, if when we wake up,
if you wanna do yoga,
548
00:22:05,216 --> 00:22:08,326
I want you to invite me
to yoga, you know?
549
00:22:08,477 --> 00:22:11,478
I want my wife
to take the initiative.
550
00:22:11,497 --> 00:22:13,497
- Realistically, how much time
551
00:22:13,724 --> 00:22:14,907
Do we really
have time together?
552
00:22:15,001 --> 00:22:16,408
- We have plenty,
553
00:22:16,502 --> 00:22:17,910
And you know what you do
with your free time?
554
00:22:18,062 --> 00:22:21,505
You, like, keep busy
doing stuff without me.
555
00:22:21,657 --> 00:22:23,507
I just want to do stuff
with my wife.
556
00:22:23,734 --> 00:22:25,084
- I'm doing stuff with you
every single time.
557
00:22:25,178 --> 00:22:26,177
- What are you doing with me?
558
00:22:26,404 --> 00:22:27,903
- Every single time
you've initiated,
559
00:22:27,922 --> 00:22:29,254
Have I not been
a willing companion?
560
00:22:29,407 --> 00:22:30,514
- I know, but the thing is,
561
00:22:30,666 --> 00:22:32,424
I want you
to initiate things with me,
562
00:22:32,518 --> 00:22:34,910
Like, things that you wanna do
that you know I wanna do,
563
00:22:35,003 --> 00:22:37,021
I want you to initiate
finally so that
564
00:22:37,248 --> 00:22:39,023
I'm not always the one
initiating, you know?
565
00:22:39,250 --> 00:22:40,858
- [sighs]
566
00:22:41,085 --> 00:22:43,527
Let me tell you,
I have no idea, no idea.
567
00:22:43,754 --> 00:22:46,422
♪ ♪
568
00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:49,700
But he is my husband.
569
00:22:49,927 --> 00:22:53,854
And so I wanna support him
however I can.
570
00:22:53,873 --> 00:22:55,188
I can do that.
571
00:22:55,282 --> 00:22:57,041
- Yes, that's
what I'm looking for.
572
00:22:57,268 --> 00:22:59,359
- I can, but, like,
I'm frustrated right now
573
00:22:59,379 --> 00:23:01,103
Because you're bringing out
a lot of stuff
574
00:23:01,122 --> 00:23:02,362
That you need this,
and that you need this,
575
00:23:02,382 --> 00:23:04,123
And that you need this of me.
576
00:23:04,217 --> 00:23:05,774
- Those are very basic things.
577
00:23:05,868 --> 00:23:07,701
- Give me credit
for stuff that I do.
578
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:09,461
You clearly don't.
579
00:23:09,555 --> 00:23:11,222
- I don't.
580
00:23:11,449 --> 00:23:12,372
- Instead, you know
what you do?
581
00:23:12,392 --> 00:23:13,391
You complain about me.
582
00:23:16,378 --> 00:23:17,728
- Why are you getting mad?
583
00:23:17,955 --> 00:23:24,693
♪ ♪
584
00:23:37,992 --> 00:23:40,901
I really want johnny
to be less negative.
585
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,495
I want johnny to see the good
in the relationship.
586
00:23:43,648 --> 00:23:45,664
His 100% is different
from my 100%.
587
00:23:45,758 --> 00:23:47,332
That should be okay.
588
00:23:47,427 --> 00:23:49,668
He asked me to put 100% in.
[johnny screams]
589
00:23:49,762 --> 00:23:51,153
- [bleep]!
590
00:23:51,172 --> 00:23:52,430
[dramatic music]
591
00:23:52,581 --> 00:23:54,673
[bleep] [bleep]!
592
00:23:54,825 --> 00:23:57,101
♪ ♪
593
00:23:57,328 --> 00:23:58,769
[door slams]
594
00:23:58,996 --> 00:24:05,734
♪ ♪
595
00:24:08,448 --> 00:24:09,864
What's wrong?
596
00:24:18,699 --> 00:24:20,291
♪ ♪
597
00:24:20,518 --> 00:24:23,276
I mean, do you call
that conversation
598
00:24:23,296 --> 00:24:25,129
We just had at
the dinner table compatible?
599
00:24:25,356 --> 00:24:27,372
- I wouldn't say
it wasn't compatible.
600
00:24:27,467 --> 00:24:29,300
We had a disagreement.
601
00:24:29,451 --> 00:24:30,617
We're still figuring
ourselves out
602
00:24:30,636 --> 00:24:32,377
And understanding each other.
603
00:24:32,472 --> 00:24:34,638
I don't think either of us
understands each other yet.
604
00:24:34,865 --> 00:24:36,865
♪ ♪
605
00:24:36,884 --> 00:24:38,959
- Just like, why are we
so different
606
00:24:38,978 --> 00:24:41,553
In the way that we,
like, approach things?
607
00:24:41,647 --> 00:24:44,815
- It's not me against you.
I'm still married to you.
608
00:24:44,967 --> 00:24:47,209
I'm literally
still holding your arm.
609
00:24:47,228 --> 00:24:48,802
I'm still here for you.
610
00:24:48,896 --> 00:24:50,546
I'm not going anywhere.
611
00:24:50,564 --> 00:24:54,158
♪ ♪
612
00:24:57,738 --> 00:25:00,164
- ♪ I fell in love
with all the lies ♪
613
00:25:00,315 --> 00:25:03,408
♪ painted pictures
in my mind ♪
614
00:25:03,561 --> 00:25:06,395
♪ of the person
that I needed ♪
615
00:25:06,413 --> 00:25:10,232
♪ to escape this hell
of mine ♪
616
00:25:10,325 --> 00:25:12,751
- In a weird way,
I get the feeling like
617
00:25:12,845 --> 00:25:15,179
I have to be the stronger one.
618
00:25:15,330 --> 00:25:17,163
I don't mind that.
619
00:25:17,183 --> 00:25:20,409
It just sucks because
I don't think he understands
620
00:25:20,502 --> 00:25:22,911
And appreciates that about me.
621
00:25:23,005 --> 00:25:26,357
- ♪ wouldn't it be nice ♪
622
00:25:26,584 --> 00:25:28,025
♪ if I didn't fall
for your disguise ♪
623
00:25:31,939 --> 00:25:33,197
[upbeat music]
624
00:25:33,424 --> 00:25:34,606
- ♪ between a rock
and a hard place ♪
625
00:25:34,700 --> 00:25:35,607
♪ 'cause I want love
but I want it my way ♪
626
00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:37,851
♪ and I got too much to lose ♪
627
00:25:37,870 --> 00:25:40,262
♪ don't wanna... ♪
628
00:25:40,281 --> 00:25:41,764
- I would have brought
my gloves had I known
629
00:25:41,857 --> 00:25:43,707
We were gonna go this hard.
- [laughs]
630
00:25:43,859 --> 00:25:45,434
- Ooh, you wanna sit here?
631
00:25:45,527 --> 00:25:48,695
- Yeah.
- I'm gonna sit here.
632
00:25:48,789 --> 00:25:51,440
[groans]
yeah.
633
00:25:51,458 --> 00:25:53,458
- Nailed it.
- Cheers.
634
00:25:53,611 --> 00:25:55,294
- Clink.
635
00:25:55,446 --> 00:25:56,795
- I miss your face.
636
00:25:56,947 --> 00:25:59,281
- I miss your face.
What's new?
637
00:25:59,300 --> 00:26:01,041
- Dude, we watched
the wedding video.
638
00:26:01,060 --> 00:26:03,802
- You did?
- Yeah.
639
00:26:03,954 --> 00:26:05,545
- What did you think?
640
00:26:05,565 --> 00:26:07,306
- It was really, really cute.
641
00:26:07,458 --> 00:26:08,624
- How did ryan react?
642
00:26:08,717 --> 00:26:10,383
- He was just like--
he enjoyed it.
643
00:26:10,403 --> 00:26:11,902
Like, I think he liked
watching it,
644
00:26:12,129 --> 00:26:13,070
But I think we liked
watching it
645
00:26:13,221 --> 00:26:14,554
For different reasons,
you know?
646
00:26:14,574 --> 00:26:16,815
Like, I was very, like--
647
00:26:16,909 --> 00:26:18,224
- Sentimental?
648
00:26:18,244 --> 00:26:23,581
- Yeah, but it's--it didn't--
649
00:26:23,808 --> 00:26:25,398
- It didn't resonate with him
in the same way?
650
00:26:25,492 --> 00:26:27,734
- No, not at all.
651
00:26:27,753 --> 00:26:29,569
[soft music]
652
00:26:29,589 --> 00:26:31,163
- Do you think
that this marriage is, like,
653
00:26:31,257 --> 00:26:32,923
Resonating for you
654
00:26:33,075 --> 00:26:34,316
In the same way that--like
when you watch the video...
655
00:26:34,335 --> 00:26:36,168
- With the video?
- You were like, "mm."
656
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:37,836
- No.
657
00:26:37,930 --> 00:26:40,005
- Real life is not the same
as the video.
658
00:26:40,099 --> 00:26:44,918
- No, it was, though.
Something happened.
659
00:26:44,937 --> 00:26:46,920
- What happened?
660
00:26:47,014 --> 00:26:49,940
- Things are just different.
661
00:26:50,092 --> 00:26:54,094
Ryan seems not into it,
kind of checked out,
662
00:26:54,188 --> 00:26:56,780
And it was different
at the beginning.
663
00:26:57,007 --> 00:26:58,690
You know,
it's been a hard few days
664
00:26:58,784 --> 00:27:01,343
Between the baxter situation
665
00:27:01,436 --> 00:27:05,013
And then looking at how it was
to how it is now,
666
00:27:05,032 --> 00:27:07,199
It's been really hard
for me to process.
667
00:27:07,293 --> 00:27:08,867
♪ ♪
668
00:27:08,961 --> 00:27:12,521
- So how is everything going?
669
00:27:12,614 --> 00:27:16,616
- I don't know.
It's tough to say.
670
00:27:16,636 --> 00:27:20,212
I wanted this beautiful story
with brett,
671
00:27:20,364 --> 00:27:22,881
And I wanted this marriage
to work,
672
00:27:23,033 --> 00:27:25,792
But it's just not happening.
673
00:27:25,811 --> 00:27:30,722
- So one thing that pastor cal
told me was, you know,
674
00:27:30,875 --> 00:27:33,133
I had kind of already made
a decision about mine
675
00:27:33,152 --> 00:27:35,043
That it wasn't gonna work.
- Yeah.
676
00:27:35,062 --> 00:27:36,378
- Do you think you're doing
the same thing,
677
00:27:36,397 --> 00:27:37,396
And do you think
that's affecting
678
00:27:37,490 --> 00:27:39,657
How you view it going forward?
679
00:27:39,808 --> 00:27:42,326
- I don't think so.
Man, I don't know.
680
00:27:42,477 --> 00:27:45,904
- Hmm, okay.
681
00:27:46,056 --> 00:27:48,724
How does she think
the marriage is going?
682
00:27:48,817 --> 00:27:50,392
- She has to know
at this point.
683
00:27:50,485 --> 00:27:52,911
I mean--
- yeah, okay, so hold on.
684
00:27:53,063 --> 00:27:55,172
You say she has to know,
but does she know?
685
00:27:55,399 --> 00:27:57,341
I feel like in this situation,
you have to be very direct
686
00:27:57,568 --> 00:27:59,401
Because you don't want her
to think,
687
00:27:59,420 --> 00:28:01,904
You know, she actually
does think everything's okay.
688
00:28:01,922 --> 00:28:06,408
♪ ♪
689
00:28:06,427 --> 00:28:09,002
- My perception is that there's
a point where he stopped...
690
00:28:09,021 --> 00:28:10,670
- Just innately--
691
00:28:10,690 --> 00:28:13,265
- Having that open feeling
and started having, like,
692
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,009
The doubts to a point
where it's, like, affecting,
693
00:28:16,103 --> 00:28:18,103
Like, how we interact
with each other.
694
00:28:18,197 --> 00:28:19,679
- Yeah, okay.
695
00:28:19,773 --> 00:28:23,016
- And for me,
those doubts that I had,
696
00:28:23,035 --> 00:28:24,201
I got over that really early.
697
00:28:24,428 --> 00:28:26,595
- Yeah.
698
00:28:26,688 --> 00:28:28,597
I knew that you would
do that no matter what.
699
00:28:28,615 --> 00:28:31,691
Like, it might be, like,
a sticker shock,
700
00:28:31,785 --> 00:28:33,602
But you're not
a superficial person,
701
00:28:33,620 --> 00:28:34,953
And you're not a person
702
00:28:35,105 --> 00:28:36,714
That's specifically
looking at the physical.
703
00:28:36,941 --> 00:28:39,791
Like, you are looking for
an actual emotional connection.
704
00:28:39,944 --> 00:28:41,610
- But I don't think
it's just physical for him.
705
00:28:41,703 --> 00:28:42,627
I don't think it's just--
- no?
706
00:28:42,780 --> 00:28:44,963
- No.
707
00:28:45,115 --> 00:28:48,800
I feel like ryan is struggling
and he's pulling away,
708
00:28:48,953 --> 00:28:52,712
And it's kind of like the worst
feeling that I can have
709
00:28:52,806 --> 00:28:56,216
Because I really do crave
emotional connections
710
00:28:56,310 --> 00:28:58,627
And vulnerability
from someone.
711
00:28:58,645 --> 00:29:01,572
I think that's one of the
reasons why I'm still trying
712
00:29:01,723 --> 00:29:04,800
Is because I know
that that moment is worth it.
713
00:29:04,893 --> 00:29:07,227
We have similar
communication styles,
714
00:29:07,321 --> 00:29:08,637
Which is avoiding things.
715
00:29:08,655 --> 00:29:10,230
- Mm-hmm.
716
00:29:10,249 --> 00:29:12,157
- I wanna have
conversations--like,
717
00:29:12,309 --> 00:29:13,809
There's a lot
that I understand,
718
00:29:13,902 --> 00:29:15,735
But there's a lot
that I am trying to understand
719
00:29:15,755 --> 00:29:18,313
That I don't
currently understand.
720
00:29:18,332 --> 00:29:19,831
But I don't think
721
00:29:19,984 --> 00:29:23,835
He wants to have
these conversations with me.
722
00:29:23,929 --> 00:29:26,930
- You need communication.
That's a foundational element.
723
00:29:27,157 --> 00:29:30,100
- ♪ all we ever do
is start again ♪
724
00:29:30,252 --> 00:29:32,936
- Listen, man, you can't
just put it on the front.
725
00:29:33,163 --> 00:29:36,348
Like, we're real people
in a real relationship.
726
00:29:36,500 --> 00:29:38,258
So, like, it's best
727
00:29:38,277 --> 00:29:40,002
If you just tell her
exactly how you feel.
728
00:29:40,020 --> 00:29:43,522
♪ ♪
729
00:29:43,674 --> 00:29:46,266
- I don't know, man.
It's just tough, man.
730
00:29:46,285 --> 00:29:48,193
- I don't envy your situation.
731
00:29:48,345 --> 00:29:51,789
- ♪ I'm so tired
of playing games with you ♪
732
00:29:52,016 --> 00:29:53,624
- I don't know, man.
733
00:29:53,775 --> 00:29:56,609
- ♪ we keep going in circles ♪
734
00:29:56,703 --> 00:29:58,186
- Again this was a stranger.
735
00:29:58,205 --> 00:29:59,871
It's normal to be like,
736
00:30:00,024 --> 00:30:01,614
"I don't really know
how to approach you
737
00:30:01,634 --> 00:30:03,116
Because I don't know you
like that."
738
00:30:03,210 --> 00:30:06,528
But what's key is,
739
00:30:06,621 --> 00:30:10,974
Are you putting forth an effort
to understand?
740
00:30:11,201 --> 00:30:12,717
It's risky,
741
00:30:12,870 --> 00:30:16,204
But sometimes it pays off
in folds.
742
00:30:16,223 --> 00:30:17,722
- I mean, there's a million
things I could do
743
00:30:17,875 --> 00:30:20,150
To show someone that I care.
744
00:30:20,377 --> 00:30:26,048
But I feel like
my hope is waning.
745
00:30:26,141 --> 00:30:26,990
- ♪ we keep going in circles ♪
746
00:30:27,142 --> 00:30:28,826
- We'll see.
747
00:30:28,977 --> 00:30:31,570
Everybody has
a breaking point.
748
00:30:31,722 --> 00:30:34,239
- ♪ 'cause we keep going
in circles ♪
749
00:30:34,333 --> 00:30:35,165
♪ ♪
750
00:30:43,083 --> 00:30:46,326
- ♪ lately I've been thinking
all these foolish things ♪
751
00:30:46,345 --> 00:30:49,254
♪ like wondering
if it was ever real ♪
752
00:30:49,348 --> 00:30:53,425
- Guess who did not stay
at the apartment last night.
753
00:30:53,519 --> 00:30:57,503
- After our argument,
754
00:30:57,598 --> 00:31:01,024
It felt like it was a good time
755
00:31:01,176 --> 00:31:04,528
To be apart
so that we didn't continue
756
00:31:04,755 --> 00:31:09,515
To say things
that hurt each other.
757
00:31:09,535 --> 00:31:14,520
- He said that my 100%
is his 150%.
758
00:31:14,540 --> 00:31:17,190
But it feels like for me
like I'm putting in more effort
759
00:31:17,284 --> 00:31:18,876
Because I'm still here.
760
00:31:19,103 --> 00:31:21,269
He says he is,
but he ducks and runs.
761
00:31:21,288 --> 00:31:24,106
[dramatic music]
762
00:31:24,199 --> 00:31:26,942
- We're not in a good place
right now.
763
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,869
And I'm bringing her
to this family barbeque
764
00:31:29,889 --> 00:31:32,447
For my uncle frank's birthday.
765
00:31:32,540 --> 00:31:34,057
- Are you excited
about tomorrow?
766
00:31:34,284 --> 00:31:36,468
- Seeing your family
at the crawfish boil.
767
00:31:36,562 --> 00:31:38,061
- Seeing all of them
for the first time since--
768
00:31:38,288 --> 00:31:40,213
- Oh, shoot,
I need--I was supposed
769
00:31:40,232 --> 00:31:42,715
To memorize
their names in mandarin.
770
00:31:42,735 --> 00:31:45,402
So my feeling right now
is I have to put on a smile
771
00:31:45,629 --> 00:31:48,906
For the rest of the day
to see his family.
772
00:31:49,133 --> 00:31:51,650
I need to memorize
everybody's names.
773
00:31:51,802 --> 00:31:54,970
[listing names in mandarin]
774
00:31:54,988 --> 00:31:56,896
I'm looking forward
to seeing his family,
775
00:31:56,990 --> 00:32:00,142
And I really hope that
they can give me some insight
776
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:02,827
Because I really want
this marriage to work.
777
00:32:02,922 --> 00:32:06,089
♪ ♪
778
00:32:06,241 --> 00:32:11,153
- ♪ I'll make the move ♪
779
00:32:11,171 --> 00:32:15,507
♪ I'll make the move,
ah, ah, ah ♪
780
00:32:15,601 --> 00:32:18,418
- Even though it's true
that our couples have to go
781
00:32:18,437 --> 00:32:20,495
At hyper speed
through their marriage,
782
00:32:20,514 --> 00:32:22,255
The fact is, after a month,
783
00:32:22,274 --> 00:32:24,107
They're gonna have
certain routines,
784
00:32:24,259 --> 00:32:26,668
And it's important for them to
know they can shake that up.
785
00:32:26,687 --> 00:32:30,005
What marriage should not
seem like is like a grind.
786
00:32:30,023 --> 00:32:32,932
You have to fight for your
marriage by making it fun,
787
00:32:33,026 --> 00:32:35,860
Interesting, new, and feel like
788
00:32:36,013 --> 00:32:38,104
Each of you is contributing
to that goal.
789
00:32:38,198 --> 00:32:39,514
- Hi.
- How's it going guys?
790
00:32:39,533 --> 00:32:40,699
- Hi!
- Hi!
791
00:32:40,851 --> 00:32:41,850
- How y'all doing?
- How are you?
792
00:32:41,943 --> 00:32:42,960
- We're good.
- Good, man.
793
00:32:43,187 --> 00:32:43,794
- I'm josh.
- Hi, nice to meet you.
794
00:32:43,945 --> 00:32:45,537
- Josh, I'm brett.
795
00:32:45,689 --> 00:32:47,297
We're at some ninja gym.
796
00:32:47,449 --> 00:32:49,541
This is for sure something
797
00:32:49,693 --> 00:32:51,468
That someone like
ryan would wanna do.
798
00:32:51,619 --> 00:32:53,712
This is definitely
his element.
799
00:32:53,864 --> 00:32:57,623
So I planned this because
being here is showing him
800
00:32:57,643 --> 00:32:59,959
That I am trying,
801
00:32:59,979 --> 00:33:03,629
And I'm doing my best
to help us try to move forward.
802
00:33:03,649 --> 00:33:05,207
- When you run the wall,
803
00:33:05,225 --> 00:33:06,984
First goal is
to run up to the ring
804
00:33:07,211 --> 00:33:08,986
And then from the ring,
pull yourself up.
805
00:33:09,137 --> 00:33:11,546
And if you can't from here,
you go all the way to the top.
806
00:33:11,565 --> 00:33:13,139
- Oh, no!
- Oh, okay.
807
00:33:13,158 --> 00:33:15,808
- That's not gonna happen.
- Okay!
808
00:33:15,902 --> 00:33:19,554
I'm hoping that, like,
him kinda getting to let loose
809
00:33:19,573 --> 00:33:22,073
And hopefully us, like,
doing something together
810
00:33:22,226 --> 00:33:25,076
That's active and fun
will help our situation.
811
00:33:25,170 --> 00:33:26,670
We'll see.
812
00:33:26,897 --> 00:33:28,563
- I'm, like, nervous right now,
I don't know why.
813
00:33:28,656 --> 00:33:29,898
- Don't be nervous, bro.
- I am nervous.
814
00:33:29,991 --> 00:33:32,067
- You got it.
- Don't run hard.
815
00:33:32,085 --> 00:33:34,177
- ♪ show 'em what you got
show 'em what you got ♪
816
00:33:34,329 --> 00:33:36,254
- All right.
- Perfect.
817
00:33:36,406 --> 00:33:37,922
- ♪ why not how 'em
what you got ♪
818
00:33:38,017 --> 00:33:40,742
- Well, that was easy,
or you made it look easy.
819
00:33:40,761 --> 00:33:43,854
- Just gonna go easy into it.
There you go.
820
00:33:44,005 --> 00:33:46,523
- Get it, get it!
[laughs]
821
00:33:46,674 --> 00:33:48,416
- ♪ show it off
for the camera ♪
822
00:33:48,435 --> 00:33:50,935
♪ ♪
823
00:33:51,088 --> 00:33:52,696
- I ain't climbing up there.
- You gotta climb up there.
824
00:33:52,847 --> 00:33:54,364
- No, I'm not going
to be able to.
825
00:33:54,591 --> 00:33:57,517
- I can just grab the ring,
and that's about it.
826
00:33:57,536 --> 00:34:00,203
- Babe, you got it.
- You do crossfit.
827
00:34:00,355 --> 00:34:03,281
- Good, keep pulling,
keep pulling, there you go.
828
00:34:03,375 --> 00:34:05,267
You can even stand
on the ring if you need to.
829
00:34:05,285 --> 00:34:06,785
- Come on, come on.
- There you go.
830
00:34:06,937 --> 00:34:09,713
Yeah!
831
00:34:09,864 --> 00:34:11,956
- I did it!
[laughing]
832
00:34:12,109 --> 00:34:15,126
- Good job, baby.
- Good job, rach.
833
00:34:15,279 --> 00:34:16,887
- Brett, you got this, girl,
you got this.
834
00:34:17,114 --> 00:34:18,555
- You got it.
- Seriously, you got it.
835
00:34:18,706 --> 00:34:21,783
- You're an athlete, girl.
836
00:34:21,802 --> 00:34:23,876
- All right, pull yourself up.
- There you go!
837
00:34:23,896 --> 00:34:26,454
- Good.
Come on, come on, come on.
838
00:34:26,548 --> 00:34:27,622
You got it, come on, come on.
839
00:34:27,641 --> 00:34:29,140
- You got it, you got it,
you got it!
840
00:34:29,293 --> 00:34:31,401
- Come on!
- Yes, you can!
841
00:34:31,553 --> 00:34:32,811
- Oh, no!
- Do it!
842
00:34:32,963 --> 00:34:34,071
- I can't.
- Yes, you can!
843
00:34:34,222 --> 00:34:36,648
- You can just slide.
844
00:34:36,742 --> 00:34:38,391
- I know I wasn't gonna be able
to pull myself up.
845
00:34:38,410 --> 00:34:40,744
Dang it!
846
00:34:40,971 --> 00:34:43,638
- I love it here.
I'm super happy right now.
847
00:34:43,657 --> 00:34:46,324
My goal in our relationship
is to be able to do
848
00:34:46,476 --> 00:34:48,752
And enjoy stuff like this
on a regular basis.
849
00:34:48,903 --> 00:34:52,314
So I'm glad that brett planned
this for us to do together.
850
00:34:52,332 --> 00:34:54,649
- Okay, so what we're gonna do,
we're gonna have a relay race.
851
00:34:54,742 --> 00:34:59,654
Up and over, through to here.
852
00:34:59,673 --> 00:35:00,931
Girls, you're gonna
touch the wall,
853
00:35:01,082 --> 00:35:02,340
And you're gonna run back.
854
00:35:02,492 --> 00:35:07,086
You guys are gonna
take these...
855
00:35:07,180 --> 00:35:09,106
And then back over.
856
00:35:09,257 --> 00:35:11,516
- Oh, my god.
- Okay, y'all ready?
857
00:35:11,668 --> 00:35:12,925
- I feel like I'm on a hurdle.
858
00:35:12,945 --> 00:35:14,185
- One of y'all fall
and it's done.
859
00:35:14,279 --> 00:35:15,854
- Okay, ready?
860
00:35:16,006 --> 00:35:20,008
Three, two, one, go!
861
00:35:20,101 --> 00:35:22,344
Oh, that's one way to do it.
862
00:35:22,362 --> 00:35:25,196
Come on, come on, touch, go!
863
00:35:25,290 --> 00:35:26,772
You got it, you got it,
you got it, got it!
864
00:35:26,792 --> 00:35:27,958
- High knees, high knees,
high knees!
865
00:35:28,185 --> 00:35:29,868
- Come on!
You gotta be quick, girl.
866
00:35:29,962 --> 00:35:31,536
♪ ♪
867
00:35:31,630 --> 00:35:33,521
- Come on!
868
00:35:33,540 --> 00:35:35,799
- Go, rach, get your knees up,
get your knees up.
869
00:35:36,026 --> 00:35:37,375
Get your knees up!
- Hurry, hurry, hurry!
870
00:35:37,527 --> 00:35:38,951
- Oh, I'm gonna get your ass.
871
00:35:39,045 --> 00:35:41,196
- Come on, oh, come on!
872
00:35:41,214 --> 00:35:45,367
Come on, come on!
873
00:35:45,385 --> 00:35:47,202
- That was fun.
- That was.
874
00:35:47,295 --> 00:35:49,537
- That was a good effort.
That was good.
875
00:35:49,631 --> 00:35:51,648
I love this [bleep].
- Me, too.
876
00:35:51,799 --> 00:35:53,650
Ryan is having fun,
877
00:35:53,877 --> 00:35:56,211
And I don't know
if it's helping our marriage,
878
00:35:56,304 --> 00:35:59,322
But I hope it is
because if it's not,
879
00:35:59,474 --> 00:36:01,900
Then I'm, like, totally out
of ideas at this point.
880
00:36:02,052 --> 00:36:03,735
Like, mm.
881
00:36:03,887 --> 00:36:05,570
Ahh!
882
00:36:05,722 --> 00:36:07,831
- Go, ryan!
- Got it.
883
00:36:08,058 --> 00:36:09,815
- You could be the next
ultimate warrior.
884
00:36:09,835 --> 00:36:12,243
Yeah, our guy!
885
00:36:12,396 --> 00:36:14,004
- My guy.
886
00:36:14,231 --> 00:36:15,839
- ♪ I'm looking
for a good love ♪
887
00:36:15,990 --> 00:36:18,991
♪ oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
888
00:36:19,011 --> 00:36:21,678
♪ oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
889
00:36:21,905 --> 00:36:24,848
- Hey, sissy, how are you?
- How are you?
890
00:36:25,075 --> 00:36:27,333
- You got married
and got mia on me.
891
00:36:27,427 --> 00:36:29,577
So how has it been?
892
00:36:29,671 --> 00:36:32,672
- It has been--it's been good.
893
00:36:32,691 --> 00:36:35,600
It's been an experience.
- Okay.
894
00:36:35,694 --> 00:36:39,604
- Being married really
does--it challenges you.
895
00:36:39,756 --> 00:36:41,531
Like, I think
when we first met,
896
00:36:41,683 --> 00:36:44,943
We were sunshine
and butterflies, right?
897
00:36:45,095 --> 00:36:47,595
It's all, "oh my gosh, oh--"
898
00:36:47,614 --> 00:36:51,208
And then, you know,
we hit a downturn, he and I.
899
00:36:51,359 --> 00:36:55,212
He would do something or say
something, and I would react.
900
00:36:55,439 --> 00:36:57,029
And then he'd be like,
"I don't like--"
901
00:36:57,123 --> 00:36:58,715
- He'd take it personally.
902
00:36:58,866 --> 00:37:00,199
- Yeah, like, "I don't like
the way you reacted."
903
00:37:00,219 --> 00:37:02,961
I've learned that I have
to stop doing things
904
00:37:03,055 --> 00:37:05,037
In protection of myself.
905
00:37:05,057 --> 00:37:06,781
So I would just do things
that aren't really conducive,
906
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,283
And then there's no repair.
907
00:37:08,301 --> 00:37:10,227
And I've learned for him, like,
908
00:37:10,378 --> 00:37:12,287
When he, you know,
has a moment,
909
00:37:12,305 --> 00:37:14,564
Like, he may not wanna talk,
910
00:37:14,716 --> 00:37:18,626
Like, to give him that grace
and let him know that,
911
00:37:18,645 --> 00:37:20,219
"hey, I do wanna talk about it,
though, whenever you're ready."
912
00:37:20,313 --> 00:37:21,296
You know?
- Okay.
913
00:37:21,314 --> 00:37:23,573
- And not to, like, push.
914
00:37:23,725 --> 00:37:25,316
And he does,
and he'll come back around
915
00:37:25,410 --> 00:37:27,226
And he'll tell me what it was,
and it's like, "okay."
916
00:37:27,246 --> 00:37:29,153
- And so you're learning
to reciprocate that
917
00:37:29,248 --> 00:37:31,081
And talk about how you feel
and that you speak
918
00:37:31,308 --> 00:37:32,898
Your feelings
and not just act them out?
919
00:37:32,993 --> 00:37:33,750
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
920
00:37:36,830 --> 00:37:40,815
- [laughing]
921
00:37:40,834 --> 00:37:43,093
- We're definitely learning
each other, and I noticed
922
00:37:43,244 --> 00:37:46,004
That he now feels
comfortable enough
923
00:37:46,098 --> 00:37:49,081
Talking to me the way
I need to be talked to.
924
00:37:49,175 --> 00:37:51,009
[laughs]
- okay.
925
00:37:51,103 --> 00:37:54,178
- You know, at first
he would be kind of gentle
926
00:37:54,331 --> 00:37:58,441
And a little, like, to me,
elusive, and so I'm just like,
927
00:37:58,593 --> 00:38:01,352
"okay, well, this is
the message I got," you know?
928
00:38:01,505 --> 00:38:03,613
- And now, it's kind of like,
929
00:38:03,765 --> 00:38:05,282
"michaela, this happens.
Don't do this."
930
00:38:05,509 --> 00:38:07,342
[laughs]
931
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:08,510
Okay.
- And you can understand that.
932
00:38:08,528 --> 00:38:09,844
- And I can understand that.
933
00:38:09,937 --> 00:38:11,529
That's the kind
of language that I need.
934
00:38:11,681 --> 00:38:13,123
It's like, "okay,
let's figure each other out.
935
00:38:13,274 --> 00:38:14,607
"let's talk some more.
936
00:38:14,626 --> 00:38:16,126
Let's into that groove
of things."
937
00:38:16,353 --> 00:38:18,202
And now we're there
and it's like, "yeah."
938
00:38:18,297 --> 00:38:20,446
You know, I touch him.
I give him forehead kisses.
939
00:38:20,465 --> 00:38:22,373
Like, you know,
like we're getting better.
940
00:38:22,526 --> 00:38:25,043
- Aw, look at my sister.
Are we having babies?
941
00:38:25,195 --> 00:38:27,045
♪ ♪
942
00:38:27,139 --> 00:38:29,139
- Babies?
943
00:38:29,290 --> 00:38:30,698
- I'm an aunty,
I gotta know this stuff.
944
00:38:30,717 --> 00:38:32,458
I mean, I'm just jumping in.
945
00:38:32,552 --> 00:38:34,960
Do what you wanna do with this
conversation, I'm just saying.
946
00:38:35,055 --> 00:38:36,629
I'm looking forward to the
future--it sounds good to me.
947
00:38:36,648 --> 00:38:38,222
- That was quite a jump.
948
00:38:38,375 --> 00:38:39,874
- You got married
at first sight.
949
00:38:39,893 --> 00:38:41,709
You might as well talk
about babies second sight.
950
00:38:41,803 --> 00:38:44,212
- Touché. Second sight.
[laughs]
951
00:38:44,305 --> 00:38:46,047
Hey, I see you a second time.
952
00:38:46,066 --> 00:38:47,732
Ready to do this?
953
00:38:47,884 --> 00:38:50,051
- Michaela used to
bottle up her feelings
954
00:38:50,144 --> 00:38:52,053
But then act out in emotion.
955
00:38:52,146 --> 00:38:53,979
And I'm sure some
of that trailed itself
956
00:38:53,999 --> 00:38:55,498
Into her marriage.
957
00:38:55,725 --> 00:38:58,484
But now I think she's grown
by leaps and bounds.
958
00:38:58,578 --> 00:39:01,062
She's gotten more mature
in the last couple of weeks.
959
00:39:01,081 --> 00:39:03,989
She's gotten more vulnerable.
She's gotten more expressive.
960
00:39:04,009 --> 00:39:05,233
And that's something
that I didn't know
961
00:39:05,251 --> 00:39:06,676
My sister was capable of.
962
00:39:06,828 --> 00:39:09,253
So you still in deep like?
963
00:39:09,406 --> 00:39:12,849
Feeling a little lovely,
or what are we doing?
964
00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:16,335
- You know, I do love him.
965
00:39:16,355 --> 00:39:18,413
- Oh.
- I do.
966
00:39:18,506 --> 00:39:20,415
- We love zack.
- We love zack.
967
00:39:20,433 --> 00:39:23,342
And you know, I don't--
968
00:39:23,362 --> 00:39:25,587
- What does that feel like
miss "I've never been in love."
969
00:39:25,605 --> 00:39:26,863
- I'm learning to be better,
970
00:39:27,090 --> 00:39:29,107
Better in my marriage,
but I'm learning
971
00:39:29,201 --> 00:39:32,093
To be better in, like,
my overall relationships.
972
00:39:32,112 --> 00:39:33,945
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
973
00:39:34,039 --> 00:39:36,598
- Like, the way my brain has
just, like, grown,
974
00:39:36,691 --> 00:39:38,208
It's like the grinch's heart.
975
00:39:38,435 --> 00:39:40,101
You know,
when he, like, finds the gifts,
976
00:39:40,194 --> 00:39:41,378
And he's, like,
holding them up.
977
00:39:41,529 --> 00:39:42,937
- That sounds about right.
978
00:39:42,956 --> 00:39:48,943
[both laughing]
979
00:39:48,962 --> 00:39:49,636
♪ ♪
980
00:39:54,041 --> 00:39:55,633
- ♪ oh, na, na, na, na ♪
981
00:39:55,727 --> 00:39:57,785
♪ na, na, na, na ♪
982
00:39:57,804 --> 00:40:01,064
- Oh, my god.
- What?
983
00:40:01,215 --> 00:40:03,124
- Why your lashes
looking crazy?
984
00:40:03,143 --> 00:40:05,627
- They're gonna be
done tomorrow.
985
00:40:05,645 --> 00:40:07,904
- Oh, my god, you're not
wearing your eyes today.
986
00:40:08,131 --> 00:40:10,815
[laughs]
987
00:40:10,967 --> 00:40:13,151
- Are you in your new place?
988
00:40:13,245 --> 00:40:15,245
- It's so pretty.
989
00:40:15,472 --> 00:40:17,822
- How has it been living
with a frugal person?
990
00:40:17,916 --> 00:40:19,657
- It's been really good.
991
00:40:19,809 --> 00:40:21,918
Like, I think he's frugal
in the right areas.
992
00:40:22,069 --> 00:40:25,329
And, like, the other areas,
like he just doesn't care.
993
00:40:25,424 --> 00:40:27,757
- Does it make you, like,
wanna change your spending?
994
00:40:27,909 --> 00:40:31,335
- No, not one bit.
995
00:40:31,430 --> 00:40:35,990
My husband went and looked
for apartments yesterday.
996
00:40:36,009 --> 00:40:38,435
- And you trust him choosing
a place for you guys to stay?
997
00:40:38,662 --> 00:40:40,845
- Yes, because he knows
how I am.
998
00:40:40,997 --> 00:40:42,847
You know how he says, like,
999
00:40:42,941 --> 00:40:46,000
The places that I live have
to be, like, super nice?
1000
00:40:46,019 --> 00:40:47,852
- Yeah.
1001
00:40:48,004 --> 00:40:51,114
- Girl, he said that these
were, like, on another level.
1002
00:40:51,341 --> 00:40:52,857
He said the gym had,
like, those mirrors
1003
00:40:53,009 --> 00:40:54,433
That have those workouts,
1004
00:40:54,453 --> 00:40:55,860
The people that work you out
on the mirror.
1005
00:40:55,954 --> 00:40:57,954
- Oh, cool.
1006
00:40:58,105 --> 00:41:00,865
- He said it had, like,
an acre amenity space,
1007
00:41:00,959 --> 00:41:04,627
Like, huge open space
with, like, a big, giant pool,
1008
00:41:04,779 --> 00:41:07,130
Like, barbecue, like,
play area and all these things.
1009
00:41:07,281 --> 00:41:08,706
Has a theater.
1010
00:41:08,858 --> 00:41:10,541
- You love spending money.
1011
00:41:10,694 --> 00:41:12,135
- You sound like my husband.
1012
00:41:12,362 --> 00:41:13,970
- [laughs]
1013
00:41:14,121 --> 00:41:17,198
Don't change him now
because you're bougie.
1014
00:41:17,217 --> 00:41:18,958
- A little bit,
1015
00:41:18,977 --> 00:41:20,201
I think he's already bougie
on his own
1016
00:41:20,220 --> 00:41:21,052
'cause he really likes
the nice apartment
1017
00:41:21,146 --> 00:41:22,036
That he looked at first.
1018
00:41:22,055 --> 00:41:24,205
- Okay.
1019
00:41:24,298 --> 00:41:26,149
- Ooh, hype is slobbering.
See?
1020
00:41:26,376 --> 00:41:27,317
That is exactly
why I don't want a dog.
1021
00:41:27,544 --> 00:41:28,985
Oh, my lord.
1022
00:41:29,136 --> 00:41:32,046
Oh, my god, the slobber
is touching the floor.
1023
00:41:32,065 --> 00:41:33,881
That is so gross.
1024
00:41:33,975 --> 00:41:35,825
I see the piece
of slobber on the floor.
1025
00:41:36,052 --> 00:41:40,145
Hype, what are you eating,
dude?
1026
00:41:40,165 --> 00:41:41,998
Definitely,
I need to wipe his face.
1027
00:41:42,149 --> 00:41:43,124
Anyways...
1028
00:41:45,245 --> 00:41:47,411
I was worried about that,
seriously.
1029
00:41:47,506 --> 00:41:49,154
- I knew you would be.
1030
00:41:49,174 --> 00:41:52,008
- But regardless--
- but regardless.
1031
00:41:52,159 --> 00:41:55,828
So I think for me, I knew
that if focus on the negative,
1032
00:41:55,847 --> 00:41:57,329
Like the things
that I didn't get,
1033
00:41:57,349 --> 00:41:59,574
Then I would, like,
go down a hole,
1034
00:41:59,592 --> 00:42:01,759
Like an endless hole
of nothingness.
1035
00:42:01,911 --> 00:42:03,745
But if I focus on the positive,
1036
00:42:03,763 --> 00:42:05,355
Like, I knew
there was a lot of good in him,
1037
00:42:05,506 --> 00:42:07,690
'cause just from meeting him
and the things he was sharing
1038
00:42:07,842 --> 00:42:10,342
And, like, as--day by day,
as I got to know him better,
1039
00:42:10,362 --> 00:42:12,195
I was like, "oh, my god,
like this is like even more
1040
00:42:12,346 --> 00:42:13,921
Than I would've--like,
what I could have imagined."
1041
00:42:13,940 --> 00:42:16,924
And I will say, like,
he is so patient.
1042
00:42:16,943 --> 00:42:18,684
And I don't even know that
I stress patience,
1043
00:42:18,703 --> 00:42:19,702
Like, enough.
1044
00:42:19,854 --> 00:42:21,612
- And you got it.
1045
00:42:21,765 --> 00:42:23,540
So if you guys had an argument
1046
00:42:23,691 --> 00:42:26,934
About something, like, real,
how would that be?
1047
00:42:26,953 --> 00:42:28,360
- If we have something
that we disagree upon,
1048
00:42:28,380 --> 00:42:29,771
I think we're just
gonna communicate
1049
00:42:29,789 --> 00:42:31,381
With each other about it.
1050
00:42:31,608 --> 00:42:33,124
- And so do you notice
when he's, like,
1051
00:42:33,276 --> 00:42:35,126
Not happy about something?
1052
00:42:35,220 --> 00:42:37,870
- When he's really tired,
when he's really exhausted,
1053
00:42:37,964 --> 00:42:40,131
He gets quieter, which is rare.
1054
00:42:40,283 --> 00:42:41,465
I think the other thing
is, like,
1055
00:42:41,618 --> 00:42:44,561
He's so social, and I'm not.
1056
00:42:44,712 --> 00:42:46,454
- Oh, yeah.
1057
00:42:46,547 --> 00:42:48,898
- So, like, he likes to go
to people's houses.
1058
00:42:49,125 --> 00:42:50,474
I don't.
1059
00:42:50,627 --> 00:42:52,126
The other day, he was like,
1060
00:42:52,145 --> 00:42:54,053
"oh, I really wanna go
to my friend's house.
1061
00:42:54,072 --> 00:42:55,129
Like, he just bought
a new house."
1062
00:42:55,222 --> 00:42:56,739
And I was like, "oh, cool.
1063
00:42:56,966 --> 00:42:58,241
Well, can we just meet him
at a bar or at a restaurant?"
1064
00:42:58,392 --> 00:43:01,152
He's like, "why on earth
would we meet him at a bar
1065
00:43:01,246 --> 00:43:03,079
Or restaurant when we can go
to their house?"
1066
00:43:03,230 --> 00:43:04,138
- Why would you meet him
at a bar or restaurant?
1067
00:43:04,157 --> 00:43:06,307
It's not "the myrla show."
1068
00:43:06,326 --> 00:43:08,901
So you have
to meet his friends,
1069
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:10,753
And then they will know you.
1070
00:43:10,980 --> 00:43:12,163
'cause you also
don't want them
1071
00:43:12,315 --> 00:43:14,665
To think you're
a, you know, b.
1072
00:43:14,818 --> 00:43:16,426
- Well, I don't really care.
1073
00:43:16,653 --> 00:43:18,820
- It does matter!
1074
00:43:18,838 --> 00:43:20,988
You're his wife,
not his girlfriend.
1075
00:43:21,007 --> 00:43:23,248
- I will say hi to them.
Hi, nice to meet you.
1076
00:43:23,268 --> 00:43:24,267
- They're gonna think
you're a b.
1077
00:43:24,418 --> 00:43:26,251
- [laughs]
1078
00:43:26,271 --> 00:43:29,330
[upbeat music]
1079
00:43:29,349 --> 00:43:31,849
♪ ♪
1080
00:43:31,943 --> 00:43:33,926
- Uncle, happy birthday.
1081
00:43:33,945 --> 00:43:35,353
- Thank you, thank you,
thank you.
1082
00:43:35,505 --> 00:43:37,280
- It's cake time.
Let's go.
1083
00:43:37,431 --> 00:43:39,264
Bao and I have, like,
some unresolved stuff
1084
00:43:39,359 --> 00:43:40,766
That we need to talk through.
1085
00:43:40,785 --> 00:43:42,176
But today's just all
about celebrating
1086
00:43:42,195 --> 00:43:43,861
Uncle frank's birthday,
1087
00:43:43,955 --> 00:43:45,371
Being with people
I care about, people I love.
1088
00:43:50,703 --> 00:43:51,777
- I've always wanted
to bring my wife
1089
00:43:51,796 --> 00:43:52,962
To family functions like this.
1090
00:43:55,282 --> 00:43:57,116
- Oh, boy.
1091
00:43:58,303 --> 00:44:01,286
- Husband called to tell me
that he doesn't want me to go
1092
00:44:01,306 --> 00:44:03,381
To his family barbeque today.
1093
00:44:03,475 --> 00:44:05,624
[dramatic music]
1094
00:44:05,644 --> 00:44:08,202
My husband clearly does not
want to be in a marriage,
1095
00:44:08,295 --> 00:44:12,540
Because that's what you do
as husband and wife.
1096
00:44:12,558 --> 00:44:15,968
You suck it up,
and you go to the barbeque.
1097
00:44:16,062 --> 00:44:18,562
As wife, I am pissed right now.
1098
00:44:18,715 --> 00:44:21,215
♪ ♪
1099
00:44:21,234 --> 00:44:23,217
- Bao and I need to work
on ourselves first
1100
00:44:23,236 --> 00:44:25,978
Before I bring her
to a family event.
1101
00:44:26,072 --> 00:44:29,148
I'm asking her to show me--
like, put a little more effort,
1102
00:44:29,167 --> 00:44:31,575
Show me her effort in trying
to build this romance,
1103
00:44:31,728 --> 00:44:32,894
Build this relationship.
1104
00:44:32,912 --> 00:44:35,654
- And what did she say?
1105
00:44:35,674 --> 00:44:36,989
- That's when
we had the argument.
1106
00:44:37,008 --> 00:44:38,157
She says
she's already doing it.
1107
00:44:38,176 --> 00:44:40,176
- Oh.
1108
00:44:40,327 --> 00:44:43,179
- Clearly she's not if I'm not
feeling like she's doing it.
1109
00:44:43,330 --> 00:44:45,330
So she says, like, the things
that she's doing to show--
1110
00:44:45,350 --> 00:44:47,258
To be romantic
is doing things for me,
1111
00:44:47,352 --> 00:44:49,334
Like doing my laundry.
1112
00:44:49,429 --> 00:44:51,245
Like, I do my own laundry fine,
1113
00:44:51,264 --> 00:44:52,838
But she does it,
and she wants credit for that.
1114
00:44:52,857 --> 00:44:54,190
She says keeping the fridge
stocked with vegetables
1115
00:44:54,341 --> 00:44:55,858
And groceries, like--
1116
00:44:56,010 --> 00:44:58,361
- No, that's thoughtful.
That's thoughtful of her.
1117
00:44:58,512 --> 00:45:01,605
- It's thoughtful, but it's not
building romance for me.
1118
00:45:01,700 --> 00:45:04,183
I wanna feel, like, that
high school romance feeling.
1119
00:45:04,202 --> 00:45:06,260
- Yeah, but...
1120
00:45:06,279 --> 00:45:07,945
- You're not
in high school anymore.
1121
00:45:08,039 --> 00:45:10,873
Hate to tell you that.
1122
00:45:11,025 --> 00:45:13,284
- I mean, you're never gonna
agree on the same thing,
1123
00:45:13,378 --> 00:45:15,694
But at least you need
to at least sit back
1124
00:45:15,714 --> 00:45:18,047
And see the other person's
viewpoint.
1125
00:45:18,199 --> 00:45:20,274
- I'm at the point where I feel
like if it never changes,
1126
00:45:20,367 --> 00:45:23,368
I'm just not
interested anymore.
1127
00:45:23,463 --> 00:45:26,222
- She's also trying to make an
alteration to herself, right?
1128
00:45:26,373 --> 00:45:28,783
Something that she's
used to doing.
1129
00:45:28,801 --> 00:45:31,118
And so that kind
of takes time, like, you know?
1130
00:45:31,137 --> 00:45:34,564
- Mm-hmm.
What is she doing right now?
1131
00:45:34,715 --> 00:45:36,457
- Probably sitting in bed
texting.
1132
00:45:36,476 --> 00:45:39,643
- Mm-hmm.
1133
00:45:39,738 --> 00:45:41,979
- I just spent some time
1134
00:45:42,073 --> 00:45:44,648
Meal prepping all this stuff
for us to eat later
1135
00:45:44,801 --> 00:45:46,058
For the rest of the week.
1136
00:45:46,077 --> 00:45:48,486
Is it gonna be appreciated? No.
1137
00:45:48,580 --> 00:45:51,639
This is the kind of stuff
that I do that my husband is
1138
00:45:51,657 --> 00:45:54,399
Saying that this
is the baseline for him.
1139
00:45:54,419 --> 00:45:56,827
This is baseline effort
for my hubby.
1140
00:45:56,921 --> 00:45:59,255
I'm an administrative director
at a cancer institute.
1141
00:45:59,406 --> 00:46:03,593
I am not just sitting around
with nothing to do
1142
00:46:03,744 --> 00:46:06,837
So that I have all this time
to do all of this.
1143
00:46:06,931 --> 00:46:11,750
I do not understand where
johnny's head is right now.
1144
00:46:11,770 --> 00:46:15,162
It's not in the marriage,
that's for sure.
1145
00:46:15,181 --> 00:46:18,441
♪ ♪
1146
00:46:18,668 --> 00:46:20,334
- How is it so far?
1147
00:46:20,353 --> 00:46:23,337
- I mean, yeah,
not what I expected,
1148
00:46:23,356 --> 00:46:25,840
But I'm making the best of it,
I guess.
1149
00:46:25,858 --> 00:46:27,358
I'm still trying.
1150
00:46:27,452 --> 00:46:29,527
- Don't expect.
1151
00:46:29,621 --> 00:46:32,013
I mean, if you come
into any relationship
1152
00:46:32,031 --> 00:46:35,032
Without any expectation,
that may come out better.
1153
00:46:35,126 --> 00:46:36,700
- I do have very high
expectations for the person
1154
00:46:36,795 --> 00:46:39,854
That I marry, and she is not
meeting them right now.
1155
00:46:39,872 --> 00:46:41,522
♪ ♪
1156
00:46:41,615 --> 00:46:43,357
I don't like
the way she thinks,
1157
00:46:43,376 --> 00:46:44,801
The way she communicates.
1158
00:46:44,952 --> 00:46:47,862
- So is that because
that expectation is there?
1159
00:46:47,955 --> 00:46:49,788
- I expect--
I wanna be married
1160
00:46:49,808 --> 00:46:52,308
To somebody whose personality
is compatible with me.
1161
00:46:52,535 --> 00:46:54,702
And so far,
the more I learn about bao,
1162
00:46:54,720 --> 00:46:57,980
The less I like about her.
1163
00:46:58,207 --> 00:47:02,151
- I came into a marriage
to feel appreciated and loved
1164
00:47:02,303 --> 00:47:07,048
And cared for,
but right now, this is [bleep].
1165
00:47:07,066 --> 00:47:10,142
And my husband is negative
and critical
1166
00:47:10,161 --> 00:47:14,163
Of what I think could be
a perfectly great marriage.
1167
00:47:14,315 --> 00:47:16,148
I don't know.
1168
00:47:16,167 --> 00:47:18,225
I don't know
what to do right now.
1169
00:47:18,244 --> 00:47:20,394
♪ ♪
1170
00:47:20,413 --> 00:47:23,172
- Must be something there,
because we saw you
1171
00:47:23,399 --> 00:47:24,582
On your day one like,
"oh, wow."
1172
00:47:24,734 --> 00:47:26,250
- Day one was perfect.
1173
00:47:26,344 --> 00:47:27,844
- Yeah, and this girl
and this guy, to me,
1174
00:47:27,995 --> 00:47:29,737
I mean, it's like
a perfect match.
1175
00:47:29,755 --> 00:47:31,848
That's how I see.
1176
00:47:31,999 --> 00:47:34,592
- She matches me in some areas
that are important.
1177
00:47:34,686 --> 00:47:36,185
- That's right.
1178
00:47:36,412 --> 00:47:37,411
I mean, I know that
you want the romantic part.
1179
00:47:37,430 --> 00:47:38,579
- I do.
1180
00:47:38,598 --> 00:47:39,930
- But in reality,
1181
00:47:40,083 --> 00:47:43,025
Romantic is nice to have,
you know,
1182
00:47:43,252 --> 00:47:45,086
But as a daily thing,
it's not--
1183
00:47:45,104 --> 00:47:47,012
- I need it all, aki.
- You need it all.
1184
00:47:47,031 --> 00:47:48,347
- Like, I've been single
for this long
1185
00:47:48,366 --> 00:47:50,533
'cause I haven't
settled for less.
1186
00:47:50,684 --> 00:47:54,428
- I really want you to make
this a successful marriage.
1187
00:47:54,447 --> 00:47:55,854
- Mm-hmm.
1188
00:47:55,874 --> 00:47:58,933
- And we want you
to really settle down,
1189
00:47:58,951 --> 00:48:01,268
Have a wife,
have kids, have family.
1190
00:48:01,287 --> 00:48:03,362
- But do you want me to have
just anyone be my wife,
1191
00:48:03,381 --> 00:48:04,863
Or do you want her
to be the wife?
1192
00:48:04,883 --> 00:48:07,717
- No, I want you to be happy.
1193
00:48:07,944 --> 00:48:09,276
- Right now, I'm not sure
about her, though.
1194
00:48:09,295 --> 00:48:11,128
- Mm-hmm.
1195
00:48:11,222 --> 00:48:13,723
- I can't see her as my wife.
1196
00:48:13,874 --> 00:48:20,788
[soft music]
1197
00:48:20,806 --> 00:48:24,141
- ♪ better there for me
get better there for me ♪
1198
00:48:24,293 --> 00:48:26,143
- Ahh!
1199
00:48:26,237 --> 00:48:27,904
Look at it, it's so gorgeous.
1200
00:48:28,131 --> 00:48:31,298
- Our couples took
a giant leap of faith,
1201
00:48:31,317 --> 00:48:33,075
But not just to be married
for eight weeks.
1202
00:48:33,302 --> 00:48:36,245
- Oh, yes!
[laughs]
1203
00:48:36,472 --> 00:48:38,730
- The goal is to be married
for a lifetime,
1204
00:48:38,750 --> 00:48:41,492
Which is why we match them
with someone who can satisfy
1205
00:48:41,586 --> 00:48:44,662
Their emotional, intellectual,
and physical needs.
1206
00:48:44,814 --> 00:48:46,664
- All right.
- Ooh.
1207
00:48:46,816 --> 00:48:48,332
- It's not looking too good.
1208
00:48:48,484 --> 00:48:50,075
I think it's time
to say goodbye.
1209
00:48:50,169 --> 00:48:51,502
- Yeah, I think so too.
1210
00:48:51,654 --> 00:48:52,911
- Are we gonna wanna--
1211
00:48:52,931 --> 00:48:54,413
- Yeah, definitely,
we're gonna try again.
1212
00:48:54,432 --> 00:48:56,173
These are gonna come
in the form of plastic plants
1213
00:48:56,325 --> 00:48:57,992
Where they don't die
and they just look nice.
1214
00:48:58,010 --> 00:48:59,160
No maintenance.
1215
00:48:59,253 --> 00:49:00,844
- Low maintenance
like wifey here.
1216
00:49:00,997 --> 00:49:02,846
- Yes, yes.
1217
00:49:02,941 --> 00:49:05,683
- In order to truly build
a lifelong marriage,
1218
00:49:05,835 --> 00:49:08,018
It's important that they
really put in the effort
1219
00:49:08,171 --> 00:49:10,262
To create room
for this relationship to grow,
1220
00:49:10,356 --> 00:49:12,264
Because in less
than three weeks,
1221
00:49:12,358 --> 00:49:14,599
They're gonna have to decide
whether they wanna stay married
1222
00:49:14,619 --> 00:49:16,193
Or get a divorce.
1223
00:49:16,287 --> 00:49:19,346
- ♪ baby I just might,
just might ♪
1224
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:21,015
♪ oh, I just might,
just might ♪
1225
00:49:21,033 --> 00:49:24,609
♪ baby, I just might ♪
1226
00:49:24,704 --> 00:49:27,112
- Hey.
- Hello.
1227
00:49:27,131 --> 00:49:29,190
- What's up?
- How are you?
1228
00:49:29,208 --> 00:49:31,283
- Good, how are you?
- Good.
1229
00:49:31,302 --> 00:49:34,361
- Coffee, thank you.
Good to see you.
1230
00:49:34,455 --> 00:49:36,305
- Yeah, it's been
a couple of weeks.
1231
00:49:36,532 --> 00:49:38,882
It's been a lot,
married to somebody
1232
00:49:38,977 --> 00:49:42,386
Who is very different
from what I'm accustomed to.
1233
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:43,980
- Let's talk.
1234
00:49:44,207 --> 00:49:45,706
- Yeah, we got
a lot to talk about.
1235
00:49:45,799 --> 00:49:49,801
I am so conflicted
on so many things right now,
1236
00:49:49,895 --> 00:49:51,988
And that's not
a normal thing for me.
1237
00:49:52,139 --> 00:49:56,383
I'm usually very direct,
very much have my life in order
1238
00:49:56,477 --> 00:49:58,569
And know exactly
what's happening.
1239
00:49:58,721 --> 00:50:00,663
And I don't know
what's happening right now.
1240
00:50:00,890 --> 00:50:04,074
And it's just
a lot of confusion.
1241
00:50:04,227 --> 00:50:06,894
- Well, how is it going?
How's living with a woman?
1242
00:50:06,987 --> 00:50:08,729
- I mean, a little different
1243
00:50:08,748 --> 00:50:11,232
Than when
you lived with me, I guess,
1244
00:50:11,325 --> 00:50:14,493
A little more
attentiveness required.
1245
00:50:14,587 --> 00:50:18,163
- Compared to living with me,
is she cleaner, dirtier?
1246
00:50:18,257 --> 00:50:19,590
- I don't know.
1247
00:50:19,684 --> 00:50:21,091
When we went to the honeymoon,
1248
00:50:21,244 --> 00:50:24,169
Her bathroom was chaos,
absolute chaos.
1249
00:50:24,188 --> 00:50:25,763
But I was like,
1250
00:50:25,915 --> 00:50:28,249
"okay, we're living
out of suitcases, I get it."
1251
00:50:28,267 --> 00:50:30,084
But I'm starting
to see it again.
1252
00:50:30,102 --> 00:50:32,253
I'm starting to see
the extra bedroom, like--
1253
00:50:32,346 --> 00:50:34,346
- Turning into a closet?
- Yeah.
1254
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:37,591
This is very alarming to me.
1255
00:50:37,610 --> 00:50:40,611
Like, what happens
if we stay together,
1256
00:50:40,763 --> 00:50:43,539
And this is the [bleep]
that I get to worry about, man?
1257
00:50:43,766 --> 00:50:46,116
Like...
1258
00:50:46,210 --> 00:50:49,620
I don't know,
and she eventually last night
1259
00:50:49,772 --> 00:50:51,213
Put her clothes
in the washing machine,
1260
00:50:51,365 --> 00:50:53,031
And it's
almost lunchtime today.
1261
00:50:53,051 --> 00:50:54,625
I'm like, "are your clothes
still in the washing machine?"
1262
00:50:54,777 --> 00:50:56,368
She was like, "yeah,
I'll put them in the dryer."
1263
00:50:56,387 --> 00:50:58,445
But then I bet
I go back to the apartment,
1264
00:50:58,464 --> 00:51:01,873
I bet they're still
in the washing machine.
1265
00:51:01,893 --> 00:51:07,121
- If you had this beautiful
victoria's secret model
1266
00:51:07,139 --> 00:51:09,065
In front of you, and she was
leaving her dishes in the sink,
1267
00:51:09,292 --> 00:51:10,882
Would it bother you?
1268
00:51:10,902 --> 00:51:13,385
- I'd probably do the dishes
with a smile.
1269
00:51:13,404 --> 00:51:16,980
- [laughs] oh, my god.
- No.
1270
00:51:17,075 --> 00:51:20,225
- Have you told her that
the cleanliness is an issue?
1271
00:51:20,244 --> 00:51:23,895
- No, I'm struggling
to be open about this.
1272
00:51:23,989 --> 00:51:25,581
I know I need to talk
to brett,
1273
00:51:25,808 --> 00:51:27,991
But it is uncomfortable
for me.
1274
00:51:28,086 --> 00:51:31,662
It probably has a lot to do
with how I was raised.
1275
00:51:31,814 --> 00:51:33,147
My family is great,
1276
00:51:33,240 --> 00:51:35,833
But there was never
a lot of depth
1277
00:51:35,985 --> 00:51:39,987
As far as emotional
conversations or like,
1278
00:51:40,005 --> 00:51:41,505
"what are you feeling?"
1279
00:51:41,599 --> 00:51:44,082
I have upset her with
some things that I've said,
1280
00:51:44,102 --> 00:51:46,251
So I'm kind of like,
"is it even worth bringing up?"
1281
00:51:46,270 --> 00:51:49,105
That it might be why
I've been single for so long.
1282
00:51:49,332 --> 00:51:50,589
- Mm-hmm.
1283
00:51:50,683 --> 00:51:52,499
I think that ryan
has not transitioned
1284
00:51:52,518 --> 00:51:54,276
Into married life at all.
1285
00:51:54,428 --> 00:51:56,595
I was hoping when I would
meet up with him today
1286
00:51:56,614 --> 00:51:59,615
That I would see more of a
progression in the relationship
1287
00:51:59,842 --> 00:52:02,176
And being able to communicate
in a relationship,
1288
00:52:02,194 --> 00:52:05,346
And I don't see
that has gotten any better.
1289
00:52:05,364 --> 00:52:07,698
What do you think
they matched you on?
1290
00:52:07,850 --> 00:52:11,276
- I mean, they matched us
on overall things.
1291
00:52:11,370 --> 00:52:13,520
Over everything else,
I said, I want a good person.
1292
00:52:13,614 --> 00:52:15,372
And she is that.
She's a good person.
1293
00:52:15,524 --> 00:52:18,192
She's competitive.
She's easy to talk to.
1294
00:52:18,210 --> 00:52:19,877
She is.
1295
00:52:20,029 --> 00:52:21,303
She does openly communicate,
1296
00:52:21,530 --> 00:52:24,031
But she gets worked up
over things.
1297
00:52:24,049 --> 00:52:26,200
And I'm just, like,
very even-keeled.
1298
00:52:26,218 --> 00:52:27,868
- Yeah.
1299
00:52:27,887 --> 00:52:29,794
- And I've found myself
even being more calm
1300
00:52:29,889 --> 00:52:31,814
Just to try to, like,
balance her out.
1301
00:52:32,041 --> 00:52:33,207
- Yeah.
1302
00:52:33,225 --> 00:52:35,467
- I mean, it's wearing
on me every day.
1303
00:52:35,486 --> 00:52:36,986
- You shouldn't change yourself
1304
00:52:37,213 --> 00:52:39,046
Because you're worried
about hurting her.
1305
00:52:39,139 --> 00:52:41,899
- She's not gonna wanna
hear 90% of the things
1306
00:52:42,051 --> 00:52:43,642
That I wanna be open about.
1307
00:52:43,661 --> 00:52:47,404
- I would want someone to be
open with me, honest with me,
1308
00:52:47,556 --> 00:52:50,891
And I know you're trying
to guard her heart.
1309
00:52:50,910 --> 00:52:55,153
But I think you might be doing
more damage than good.
1310
00:52:55,247 --> 00:52:57,339
[dramatic music]
1311
00:53:01,253 --> 00:53:03,237
- ♪ we're going
in slow motion ♪
1312
00:53:03,255 --> 00:53:05,756
♪ spiraling we go ♪
1313
00:53:05,850 --> 00:53:08,517
♪ lost grip of emotion
jumping down below ♪
1314
00:53:08,669 --> 00:53:10,835
- Wanna hang these?
- I do wanna hang those.
1315
00:53:10,855 --> 00:53:12,095
- Using your gift you got me?
1316
00:53:12,190 --> 00:53:13,838
- Yeah, let's get it.
1317
00:53:13,933 --> 00:53:15,674
[quirky music]
1318
00:53:15,693 --> 00:53:17,584
- I'm not gonna do it, though,
1319
00:53:17,678 --> 00:53:18,527
'cause I'm still not good
at this stuff.
1320
00:53:18,679 --> 00:53:19,920
- Come on, I'll teach you.
1321
00:53:19,939 --> 00:53:21,588
- I got married at first sight
1322
00:53:21,607 --> 00:53:24,700
Because I've wanted a wife
to do activities with,
1323
00:53:24,927 --> 00:53:26,777
To cook together,
to clean together,
1324
00:53:26,929 --> 00:53:28,595
To sit down
and watch a movie together.
1325
00:53:28,689 --> 00:53:30,873
And even though
we've had conflict,
1326
00:53:31,100 --> 00:53:33,375
This is exactly
how I hoped it will be.
1327
00:53:33,602 --> 00:53:35,619
You know, just chilling,
drinking, having fun.
1328
00:53:35,771 --> 00:53:37,271
- This looks great.
1329
00:53:37,289 --> 00:53:39,273
That looks great, babe,
I really do love it.
1330
00:53:39,291 --> 00:53:41,866
- All right, you wanna do
our scrapbooking?
1331
00:53:41,886 --> 00:53:43,961
- Yeah.
- Let's start right--
1332
00:53:44,055 --> 00:53:45,779
- Let's start on this page.
Let's start on the third page.
1333
00:53:45,872 --> 00:53:47,798
- Okay.
- Okay, baby.
1334
00:53:47,950 --> 00:53:49,541
- Before we start, how many
pictures per thing?
1335
00:53:49,635 --> 00:53:51,618
Like, we're gonna change it up,
1336
00:53:51,712 --> 00:53:53,287
Or are we gonna keep it,
like, the same...
1337
00:53:53,380 --> 00:53:55,456
- Let's be inspired, babe.
- Okay.
1338
00:53:55,474 --> 00:53:57,474
- So, like, this
is a really good one.
1339
00:53:57,626 --> 00:53:59,050
- It's not one of my favorites,
but okay.
1340
00:53:59,070 --> 00:54:00,143
- You a hater.
1341
00:54:00,238 --> 00:54:02,145
Like sticker-wise,
1342
00:54:02,240 --> 00:54:04,465
We could use--wait,
I have some pink ones.
1343
00:54:04,483 --> 00:54:05,908
Where did the pink ones go?
Got it.
1344
00:54:06,135 --> 00:54:07,892
- Women really think
about this stuff.
1345
00:54:07,987 --> 00:54:10,562
- I would just throw random
pictures in this [bleep].
1346
00:54:10,656 --> 00:54:13,082
- Like, "we're good to go."
1347
00:54:13,233 --> 00:54:15,659
- When you see these pictures,
what do you, like, think about?
1348
00:54:15,811 --> 00:54:18,254
- I think, like, it does
bring back memory,
1349
00:54:18,405 --> 00:54:19,922
'cause I don't remember
hugging you like that.
1350
00:54:20,073 --> 00:54:21,072
- I don't either.
- But...
1351
00:54:21,092 --> 00:54:23,150
- Wow.
1352
00:54:23,168 --> 00:54:25,652
- I love it because it shows
how comfortable I was with you.
1353
00:54:25,746 --> 00:54:30,749
- Yeah, it's crazy.
Okay.
1354
00:54:30,768 --> 00:54:32,601
- Oh, that came together
nicely.
1355
00:54:32,753 --> 00:54:33,918
- Yeah, good job, zack.
Okay, that's my page.
1356
00:54:34,013 --> 00:54:35,662
- Okay, look at you, I see you.
1357
00:54:35,681 --> 00:54:36,513
- Your page is kind of boring,
not gonna lie to you.
1358
00:54:36,607 --> 00:54:37,514
It's kinda boring.
1359
00:54:37,666 --> 00:54:39,108
- First of all, sir,
1360
00:54:39,335 --> 00:54:41,685
You put two stickers
on mine and call it boring.
1361
00:54:41,779 --> 00:54:43,504
- Hey, you should've
taken ownership of your page.
1362
00:54:43,522 --> 00:54:44,613
- You a hater.
I'm gonna write on mine.
1363
00:54:44,765 --> 00:54:46,006
I'm gonna write two poems.
1364
00:54:46,099 --> 00:54:47,508
- Freestyle right now,
give me one.
1365
00:54:47,601 --> 00:54:49,934
- Nah.
- Give me a four-line, come on.
1366
00:54:49,954 --> 00:54:51,787
- Here, I'm gonna give you
a piece of paper.
1367
00:54:51,938 --> 00:54:53,680
We're gonna do a poem
with our names.
1368
00:54:53,699 --> 00:54:55,198
- Huh, mine's gonna be funny,
and it's gonna rhyme.
1369
00:54:55,351 --> 00:54:57,609
Yours gonna be lame.
1370
00:54:57,703 --> 00:55:00,445
- Mine is gonna be sweet, okay?
1371
00:55:00,464 --> 00:55:04,541
Our first diy project is fun.
It's funny.
1372
00:55:04,693 --> 00:55:06,117
- I might need a whole page.
1373
00:55:06,211 --> 00:55:07,861
- You gonna need
a whole page?
1374
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:10,139
I only have eight letters
in my name.
1375
00:55:10,366 --> 00:55:12,123
There's these little things
I'm learning
1376
00:55:12,217 --> 00:55:14,384
From our experiences together
1377
00:55:14,537 --> 00:55:16,461
That really, like,
kinda hone in
1378
00:55:16,555 --> 00:55:18,147
That we're both ready for this.
1379
00:55:18,374 --> 00:55:20,816
Even though
we've have ups and downs,
1380
00:55:21,043 --> 00:55:24,044
I am still in awe
that I'm really married,
1381
00:55:24,063 --> 00:55:25,896
That I really have a husband,
1382
00:55:26,048 --> 00:55:28,215
That I have a husband
that I'm proud of,
1383
00:55:28,233 --> 00:55:30,717
So I think as long
as we do the work
1384
00:55:30,736 --> 00:55:32,977
And we do our best
to get better together,
1385
00:55:33,072 --> 00:55:35,647
Then we'll be okay.
1386
00:55:35,741 --> 00:55:37,074
Okay, so I'll read you mine.
- Okay.
1387
00:55:37,168 --> 00:55:40,243
- So, "z is for zealous.
1388
00:55:40,396 --> 00:55:45,082
"may you never stop aiming
for more you, me, us.
1389
00:55:45,234 --> 00:55:48,510
"a is for ambitious.
1390
00:55:48,662 --> 00:55:51,421
"your drive means
the world to me.
1391
00:55:51,574 --> 00:55:53,349
"c is for charming.
1392
00:55:53,576 --> 00:55:56,835
"every time I hear you speak,
I smile.
1393
00:55:56,854 --> 00:55:59,521
"h is for handsome
because I love your face.
1394
00:55:59,673 --> 00:56:03,417
"your second a is because
you're above all others,
1395
00:56:03,435 --> 00:56:05,419
"is where you land on my heart.
1396
00:56:05,437 --> 00:56:07,938
"r is for ready because
in order to do this process,
1397
00:56:08,032 --> 00:56:09,773
"you have to be.
1398
00:56:09,925 --> 00:56:12,016
"and y is for youthful,
1399
00:56:12,036 --> 00:56:14,519
And I pray we never
lose our inner child."
1400
00:56:14,613 --> 00:56:18,040
- Oh, that was really good.
1401
00:56:18,267 --> 00:56:20,525
I was kind of going
more, like, the joke route.
1402
00:56:20,544 --> 00:56:22,953
Um...So,
1403
00:56:23,047 --> 00:56:27,791
"m, my first and only wife
in our most treacherous fights,
1404
00:56:27,885 --> 00:56:31,220
"cherishing you at every sight,
how you always try to bite
1405
00:56:31,447 --> 00:56:32,963
Any part of my body,
even though it ain't right."
1406
00:56:33,057 --> 00:56:35,465
- [laughs]
1407
00:56:35,618 --> 00:56:39,061
- "even though we married
at first sight,
1408
00:56:39,288 --> 00:56:42,789
"I'm still loving you
all day and all night
1409
00:56:42,808 --> 00:56:44,641
Always and for the rest
of my life."
1410
00:56:44,735 --> 00:56:48,629
[soft music]
1411
00:56:48,722 --> 00:56:50,631
- I like that.
- Okay.
1412
00:56:50,649 --> 00:56:53,892
- I think his poem
is thoughtful and sweet,
1413
00:56:53,911 --> 00:56:56,970
And that was my first time
hearing him say
1414
00:56:56,989 --> 00:56:58,655
That he was loving me
in a forever type of way.
1415
00:56:58,807 --> 00:57:00,565
Feels good
to hear him say that.
1416
00:57:00,659 --> 00:57:04,327
- ♪ we owe it to ourselves ♪
1417
00:57:04,422 --> 00:57:09,149
♪ can we dive back into love,
love, love, love ♪
1418
00:57:09,242 --> 00:57:10,984
- I like your poem
better than mine.
1419
00:57:11,077 --> 00:57:12,261
- I like your poem
better than mine.
1420
00:57:12,488 --> 00:57:13,987
- Thank you.
1421
00:57:14,006 --> 00:57:16,098
♪ ♪
1422
00:57:16,325 --> 00:57:21,178
- ♪ show me the other side
of love ♪
1423
00:57:21,330 --> 00:57:24,848
♪ give me a reason
I should trust ♪
1424
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:29,093
♪ show me
there's so much more to us ♪
1425
00:57:29,113 --> 00:57:30,779
- Hi, guys.
1426
00:57:31,006 --> 00:57:33,615
- Pastor cal, hello.
- Hi, pastor cal.
1427
00:57:33,767 --> 00:57:36,026
Thank you for taking time
to meet with us.
1428
00:57:36,178 --> 00:57:37,936
- Absolutely, absolutely.
1429
00:57:38,030 --> 00:57:42,791
Johnny, you look a little sad.
1430
00:57:42,943 --> 00:57:45,368
- There's a lot going on
in johnny's head right now.
1431
00:57:45,521 --> 00:57:47,779
It's very obvious that he's got
some emotional turmoil.
1432
00:57:47,873 --> 00:57:49,798
I need pastor cal
1433
00:57:50,025 --> 00:57:53,618
To make some sense of this
for johnny and for me.
1434
00:57:53,637 --> 00:57:56,880
- What is making you so sad?
1435
00:57:56,974 --> 00:57:58,456
What is it?
1436
00:57:58,550 --> 00:58:01,310
[tense music]
1437
00:58:01,537 --> 00:58:05,981
♪ ♪
1438
00:58:06,208 --> 00:58:09,876
- I'm sad because...
1439
00:58:09,895 --> 00:58:16,474
♪ ♪
1440
00:58:16,494 --> 00:58:18,719
- I need you to talk to me.
1441
00:58:18,737 --> 00:58:23,147
What's bringing this emotion
that you're feeling?
1442
00:58:23,242 --> 00:58:28,395
- I'm sad because I feel...
1443
00:58:28,413 --> 00:58:33,233
Like I'm married to someone
that is not right for me.
1444
00:58:33,252 --> 00:58:35,326
♪ ♪
1445
00:58:35,420 --> 00:58:37,571
- Okay, tell me more.
1446
00:58:37,589 --> 00:58:40,015
- The other day,
I wasn't ready for her
1447
00:58:40,166 --> 00:58:42,259
To hang out
with my family again.
1448
00:58:42,353 --> 00:58:44,077
It's because I don't want my
family to get attached to her,
1449
00:58:44,096 --> 00:58:45,746
And she to get attached
to my family
1450
00:58:45,764 --> 00:58:48,023
If I don't even like her.
1451
00:58:48,250 --> 00:58:49,841
- Okay, now we're
getting somewhere.
1452
00:58:49,935 --> 00:58:51,026
Why don't you like her?
1453
00:58:51,253 --> 00:58:54,938
- She's not genuine.
1454
00:58:55,090 --> 00:58:59,776
- What is the side of me that
you're saying is not genuine?
1455
00:58:59,870 --> 00:59:02,095
Because I need to know that
as your wife.
1456
00:59:02,114 --> 00:59:05,023
- The thing that I'm saying
is that you're presenting
1457
00:59:05,117 --> 00:59:09,193
A certain version of yourself
to whoever we're with,
1458
00:59:09,213 --> 00:59:12,789
And sometimes that involves
saying things
1459
00:59:12,883 --> 00:59:15,458
That I feel like are not true.
1460
00:59:15,611 --> 00:59:18,053
- Like what, for example?
I need specifics.
1461
00:59:18,204 --> 00:59:20,872
- Yep, I can do that,
and this just happened,
1462
00:59:20,891 --> 00:59:22,724
Like, in front of the rest
of the couples,
1463
00:59:22,951 --> 00:59:25,727
Is you said you've been
trying really hard,
1464
00:59:25,879 --> 00:59:28,063
And you've been cooking
gourmet meals for us.
1465
00:59:28,290 --> 00:59:30,807
- I'm giving it my all.
I meal prep, I cook,
1466
00:59:30,959 --> 00:59:32,292
I do gourmet meals, I bake,
1467
00:59:32,311 --> 00:59:35,053
I do all these things
in the house.
1468
00:59:35,147 --> 00:59:36,630
- She hasn't!
That's a [bleep] lie.
1469
00:59:36,648 --> 00:59:38,632
That's not true at all.
1470
00:59:38,650 --> 00:59:40,576
Like, why are you saying that?
That's not--that's not honest.
1471
00:59:40,803 --> 00:59:42,135
- I have.
1472
00:59:42,228 --> 00:59:45,563
- We're cooking gourmet meals
together.
1473
00:59:45,583 --> 00:59:48,992
When have you cooked
a gourmet meal for us?
1474
00:59:49,086 --> 00:59:50,644
- We cook them together.
1475
00:59:50,662 --> 00:59:53,088
Have I had time
to cook separately?
1476
00:59:53,315 --> 00:59:54,831
No, I have not.
- There's always an excuse.
1477
00:59:54,925 --> 00:59:57,075
Like, you--I feel like you're
constantly giving me excuses
1478
00:59:57,169 --> 00:59:58,652
On why you haven't done things.
1479
00:59:58,745 --> 01:00:00,429
And all I'm asking
for you to do is
1480
01:00:00,580 --> 01:00:04,582
To do things,
literally anything.
1481
01:00:04,676 --> 01:00:06,250
- We cooked
the salmon meal together.
1482
01:00:06,270 --> 01:00:07,994
I did the bolognese recently.
1483
01:00:08,013 --> 01:00:09,679
I meal prepped
both of those things.
1484
01:00:09,832 --> 01:00:11,273
I also meal prepped
our hawaiian thing.
1485
01:00:11,424 --> 01:00:12,515
I feel like I have
to actually list out
1486
01:00:12,610 --> 01:00:14,184
Every single thing I do.
1487
01:00:14,278 --> 01:00:17,279
But I am actually doing
all those things, am I not?
1488
01:00:17,506 --> 01:00:19,673
- Yeah, johnny, is she--
is that the truth or no?
1489
01:00:19,691 --> 01:00:21,007
Is that a lie?
1490
01:00:21,026 --> 01:00:25,954
♪ ♪
1491
01:00:26,181 --> 01:00:27,105
- I feel like bao's
trying to take credit
1492
01:00:27,199 --> 01:00:30,125
For stuff that I think is...
1493
01:00:30,352 --> 01:00:31,960
- Baseline.
1494
01:00:32,187 --> 01:00:33,277
- Johnny, did she
do those things or not?
1495
01:00:33,372 --> 01:00:35,372
- We did those things together.
1496
01:00:35,524 --> 01:00:38,041
♪ ♪
1497
01:00:38,135 --> 01:00:40,118
- Johnny, here's the thing.
I'm gonna be straight.
1498
01:00:40,212 --> 01:00:42,620
I don't think
you're being fair.
1499
01:00:42,714 --> 01:00:44,714
I feel like you're saying
she's making excuses.
1500
01:00:44,867 --> 01:00:47,125
I hear you making excuses.
1501
01:00:47,219 --> 01:00:48,535
And you're trying
to find a way
1502
01:00:48,628 --> 01:00:50,461
To discredit
your relationship.
1503
01:00:50,481 --> 01:00:53,390
Are you sorry you signed up
for this process?
1504
01:00:53,542 --> 01:00:55,709
♪ ♪
1505
01:00:55,727 --> 01:01:00,322
Okay, is there anyone else
1506
01:01:00,549 --> 01:01:03,641
That you have some kind
of affinity for
1507
01:01:03,735 --> 01:01:05,402
Outside of bao?
1508
01:01:05,554 --> 01:01:11,224
♪ ♪
1509
01:01:11,317 --> 01:01:13,059
- I never even
asked that question,
1510
01:01:13,078 --> 01:01:15,420
But I never assumed
there was anyone.
1511
01:01:17,991 --> 01:01:20,342
- I'ma tell you
why I'm asking this.
1512
01:01:20,569 --> 01:01:22,994
Because in all my years
of counseling people,
1513
01:01:23,088 --> 01:01:25,347
I can tell when someone's
attention is divided.
1514
01:01:25,574 --> 01:01:28,332
♪ ♪
1515
01:01:28,427 --> 01:01:30,352
And I can tell when someone is
1516
01:01:30,579 --> 01:01:34,505
Trying to sort of sabotage
a situation.
1517
01:01:34,599 --> 01:01:36,507
I need you
to be honest with me.
1518
01:01:36,601 --> 01:01:39,436
Is that the case?
1519
01:01:39,530 --> 01:01:43,256
- What I know at this point
is that there have been points
1520
01:01:43,349 --> 01:01:45,608
In this process
where I feel like I wish
1521
01:01:45,703 --> 01:01:47,369
I had been matched
with literally anyone else.
1522
01:01:47,596 --> 01:01:51,448
♪ ♪
1523
01:01:51,600 --> 01:01:52,857
Because--
1524
01:01:52,951 --> 01:01:55,359
- Now, not only is that mean--
1525
01:01:55,454 --> 01:01:58,362
- You've said
a lot of mean things.
1526
01:01:58,382 --> 01:02:00,716
You're not answering
the question.
1527
01:02:00,943 --> 01:02:02,718
- Johnny, johnny,
you're not, though.
1528
01:02:02,945 --> 01:02:04,778
Johnny, you're not.
- Is there someone else?
1529
01:02:04,796 --> 01:02:05,721
♪ ♪
1530
01:02:10,227 --> 01:02:12,118
[tense music]
1531
01:02:12,137 --> 01:02:13,711
♪ ♪
1532
01:02:13,805 --> 01:02:15,546
- You're not answering
the question.
1533
01:02:15,566 --> 01:02:17,457
- Johnny, johnny,
you're not, though.
1534
01:02:17,476 --> 01:02:20,794
Johnny, you're not.
- Is there someone else?
1535
01:02:20,812 --> 01:02:22,812
- Johnny, come on, dude.
1536
01:02:22,906 --> 01:02:27,300
♪ ♪
1537
01:02:27,319 --> 01:02:30,728
Johnny.
1538
01:02:30,748 --> 01:02:32,414
- There's no one else,
but I just know that
1539
01:02:32,641 --> 01:02:35,809
What I have in front of me
right now is not what I want.
1540
01:02:35,827 --> 01:02:38,236
♪ ♪
1541
01:02:38,255 --> 01:02:40,571
- Okay, but, johnny,
I asked you that question
1542
01:02:40,665 --> 01:02:42,816
Not to put you on the spot
about anyone competing
1543
01:02:42,834 --> 01:02:44,909
Because it sounded
like someone else has
1544
01:02:45,003 --> 01:02:46,595
Piqued your interest,
and you're trying to find
1545
01:02:46,822 --> 01:02:48,579
A way to discredit
your relationship.
1546
01:02:48,673 --> 01:02:50,673
I just want to rule that out.
1547
01:02:50,768 --> 01:02:54,511
- Yeah, I'm comparing bao
to the ideal person
1548
01:02:54,605 --> 01:02:56,104
That I thought I'd married to.
1549
01:02:56,331 --> 01:02:59,332
And I'm constantly
comparing her to that.
1550
01:02:59,351 --> 01:03:02,852
- Now, johnny,
that is a sabotage.
1551
01:03:03,005 --> 01:03:04,279
That's impossible.
1552
01:03:04,506 --> 01:03:05,763
No one can live up
to that standard.
1553
01:03:05,857 --> 01:03:08,008
That person needs
to be destroyed.
1554
01:03:08,101 --> 01:03:11,602
She does not exist, okay?
1555
01:03:11,696 --> 01:03:13,346
Have a funeral for her.
1556
01:03:13,439 --> 01:03:14,956
[laughter]
1557
01:03:15,183 --> 01:03:16,458
Okay?
1558
01:03:16,685 --> 01:03:19,294
- Okay.
1559
01:03:19,445 --> 01:03:20,703
- There is no perfect woman,
johnny.
1560
01:03:20,798 --> 01:03:22,780
You've been looking for her.
1561
01:03:22,874 --> 01:03:25,692
Now, we found someone who's
imperfectly perfect for you.
1562
01:03:25,710 --> 01:03:28,194
Why did we choose her for you?
1563
01:03:28,213 --> 01:03:30,472
This woman is sitting here
listening to all
1564
01:03:30,623 --> 01:03:32,808
That you're giving her,
and she's taking it.
1565
01:03:33,035 --> 01:03:35,310
That's who she is.
1566
01:03:35,461 --> 01:03:38,888
She's strong.
She's confident.
1567
01:03:38,982 --> 01:03:41,374
And she doesn't quit easily.
1568
01:03:41,393 --> 01:03:43,043
That's what you need.
1569
01:03:43,061 --> 01:03:46,229
And she will be
an incredible wife to you.
1570
01:03:46,381 --> 01:03:47,881
But if you don't
want her to be,
1571
01:03:47,899 --> 01:03:51,809
No one will be
an incredible wife.
1572
01:03:51,829 --> 01:03:55,646
I think you will make bao
an incredible husband.
1573
01:03:55,740 --> 01:03:57,407
I think you get
in your own head,
1574
01:03:57,501 --> 01:04:00,243
And you get in your own way.
1575
01:04:00,395 --> 01:04:02,504
Ball's in your court, man.
1576
01:04:02,731 --> 01:04:04,898
Bao, are you okay?
1577
01:04:04,916 --> 01:04:06,824
♪ ♪
1578
01:04:06,844 --> 01:04:08,492
No, you're not.
1579
01:04:08,512 --> 01:04:11,513
What are you feeling
right now?
1580
01:04:11,740 --> 01:04:13,923
- I just appreciate
you saying that.
1581
01:04:14,076 --> 01:04:17,018
That's all.
1582
01:04:17,245 --> 01:04:19,003
- Johnny, tell me
1583
01:04:19,022 --> 01:04:21,189
That you're going
to push through these emotions
1584
01:04:21,341 --> 01:04:22,840
And find the beauty
in this woman,
1585
01:04:22,934 --> 01:04:24,526
That you're gonna
give it a shot.
1586
01:04:24,677 --> 01:04:28,254
- I am going to push through
this and give this a shot.
1587
01:04:28,273 --> 01:04:30,440
- Okay, now I need you to turn
to her and tell her that.
1588
01:04:30,534 --> 01:04:35,445
[soft music]
1589
01:04:35,539 --> 01:04:38,264
- We're going through, like,
a hard time right now,
1590
01:04:38,283 --> 01:04:40,617
And I feel discouraged,
1591
01:04:40,769 --> 01:04:45,363
But I want to work on this,
1592
01:04:45,382 --> 01:04:47,957
And I want to find the beauty
1593
01:04:48,051 --> 01:04:51,369
That could be here between us.
1594
01:04:51,388 --> 01:04:54,797
And I'm gonna commit to it,
and I'm not going to run away.
1595
01:04:54,950 --> 01:04:58,134
I'm not going to continue
to be negative.
1596
01:04:58,228 --> 01:05:04,290
I just want to appreciate
the things that we do have
1597
01:05:04,384 --> 01:05:07,068
And focus on what could be.
1598
01:05:07,295 --> 01:05:09,979
♪ ♪
1599
01:05:10,132 --> 01:05:11,814
- Thank you.
1600
01:05:11,967 --> 01:05:16,727
- ♪ this is your heart
to break ♪
1601
01:05:16,747 --> 01:05:22,584
♪ this is your soul
to take ♪
1602
01:05:22,735 --> 01:05:27,071
♪ this is your move ♪
1603
01:05:27,165 --> 01:05:29,332
[upbeat music]
1604
01:05:29,484 --> 01:05:31,075
- ♪ I've been working
like crazy ♪
1605
01:05:31,094 --> 01:05:33,319
♪ with everything lately,
all I can say is ♪
1606
01:05:33,338 --> 01:05:35,597
♪ I wanna get away
with you ♪
1607
01:05:35,748 --> 01:05:37,840
♪ oh, with you ♪
1608
01:05:37,935 --> 01:05:43,087
♪ ♪
1609
01:05:43,106 --> 01:05:45,423
- Nice little drive.
- Yes.
1610
01:05:45,442 --> 01:05:49,002
- I love how it's so pretty
and quiet out.
1611
01:05:49,095 --> 01:05:51,762
- I'm super excited 'cause I've
never really been to a winery,
1612
01:05:51,856 --> 01:05:53,931
And now I get to experience
this with my husband.
1613
01:05:54,025 --> 01:05:55,842
[wind blowing]
- oh!
1614
01:05:55,860 --> 01:05:58,695
I'm gonna marilyn monroe
everyone here.
1615
01:05:58,847 --> 01:06:00,604
We've had a lot of firsts,
1616
01:06:00,699 --> 01:06:03,199
Even from the honeymoon
until now,
1617
01:06:03,293 --> 01:06:05,443
We've--a lot of things
that I've never done before,
1618
01:06:05,537 --> 01:06:07,278
I've gotten to do
with my husband.
1619
01:06:07,372 --> 01:06:09,205
And, you know,
1620
01:06:09,299 --> 01:06:11,115
That's something that's
definitely important to me.
1621
01:06:11,134 --> 01:06:13,451
And I'm just excited.
1622
01:06:13,470 --> 01:06:14,952
- I'm gonna give you
happy trails,
1623
01:06:15,046 --> 01:06:16,454
Which is one
of our sweet rieslings.
1624
01:06:16,548 --> 01:06:19,123
- Gonna make me happy?
- Well, that's--
1625
01:06:19,217 --> 01:06:22,368
- Kurt, come on, I need you
to work with me here, sir.
1626
01:06:22,462 --> 01:06:24,628
- I don't know
if it's guaranteed.
1627
01:06:24,648 --> 01:06:26,130
- What do you wanna start with?
1628
01:06:26,224 --> 01:06:27,890
You wanna start
with this one first?
1629
01:06:28,043 --> 01:06:32,228
- Okay, cheers to our first
little wine tasting of many.
1630
01:06:32,322 --> 01:06:35,732
♪ ♪
1631
01:06:35,884 --> 01:06:38,234
- Oh, this is good.
This is really good.
1632
01:06:38,328 --> 01:06:40,996
♪ ♪
1633
01:06:41,147 --> 01:06:43,723
- I could drink this
with, like, pizza.
1634
01:06:43,742 --> 01:06:45,333
- I can--
1635
01:06:45,485 --> 01:06:47,076
- Do you really know
what you're doing,
1636
01:06:47,229 --> 01:06:48,561
Or are you just acting like
you know what you're doing?
1637
01:06:48,580 --> 01:06:49,912
- No, I'm just swirling
and smelling.
1638
01:06:50,065 --> 01:06:51,489
I wanna make sure--
1639
01:06:51,583 --> 01:06:53,758
- Just 'cause you saw it
in the movies...
1640
01:06:56,254 --> 01:06:57,679
- You know what I was thinking?
1641
01:06:57,906 --> 01:06:59,497
Basically,
we're in a really good place,
1642
01:06:59,516 --> 01:07:03,243
Like, very good.
1643
01:07:03,336 --> 01:07:06,095
- I'm gonna continue keep
saying it but, you know,
1644
01:07:06,189 --> 01:07:08,005
I'm a man of detail
in the little things.
1645
01:07:08,025 --> 01:07:11,251
And so for me it's, you know,
you're showing me more
1646
01:07:11,269 --> 01:07:14,195
By the little things that
don't really cost anything.
1647
01:07:14,422 --> 01:07:16,089
You like making me breakfast,
or my coffee,
1648
01:07:16,107 --> 01:07:18,682
Or, you know, whatever.
1649
01:07:18,702 --> 01:07:21,261
You know, I love that, it's--
1650
01:07:21,354 --> 01:07:24,097
- But once the experiment
portion of this is over,
1651
01:07:24,115 --> 01:07:26,099
I do feel it's gonna be
1652
01:07:26,117 --> 01:07:28,376
A little bit
of starting over again.
1653
01:07:28,603 --> 01:07:30,027
- But I think that what
you're trying to say is
1654
01:07:30,121 --> 01:07:33,030
It's gonna be
a new enhanced level.
1655
01:07:33,050 --> 01:07:35,533
So...
1656
01:07:35,552 --> 01:07:38,369
- But you do realize you get
to go back to your home.
1657
01:07:38,388 --> 01:07:40,371
I don't get to go back
to my home.
1658
01:07:40,390 --> 01:07:44,951
So you realize it's gonna
be a bigger change for me.
1659
01:07:44,969 --> 01:07:46,953
You know,
it's not like this is over,
1660
01:07:46,971 --> 01:07:49,789
And I go back to my life.
1661
01:07:49,808 --> 01:07:52,883
And I've never been
in a relationship
1662
01:07:52,977 --> 01:07:54,885
During the summer.
1663
01:07:54,905 --> 01:07:56,237
- 'cause you've been single.
- It's scary.
1664
01:07:56,464 --> 01:07:57,572
- And then you just travel
or do whatever you want.
1665
01:07:57,799 --> 01:07:59,407
- Yeah.
- Okay.
1666
01:07:59,559 --> 01:08:01,559
- I don't think I've ever
dated someone
1667
01:08:01,578 --> 01:08:04,637
That was in the school system
that had a whole summer off.
1668
01:08:04,656 --> 01:08:07,082
♪ ♪
1669
01:08:07,233 --> 01:08:09,475
- Summer rachel is coming.
1670
01:08:09,494 --> 01:08:13,479
Summer rachel,
she's got a lot of free time.
1671
01:08:13,573 --> 01:08:15,148
- Okay.
- She gets bored easily.
1672
01:08:15,241 --> 01:08:18,835
If I'm just in your house,
like, all day long,
1673
01:08:18,929 --> 01:08:21,671
Doing nothing while
you're at work kind of thing,
1674
01:08:21,823 --> 01:08:23,656
And it's like that
for the entire summer,
1675
01:08:23,675 --> 01:08:27,084
Brace yourself.
1676
01:08:27,104 --> 01:08:28,995
- Define "brace yourself,"
like, I don't--
1677
01:08:29,088 --> 01:08:31,514
So you're saying,
expect something or get ready,
1678
01:08:31,666 --> 01:08:32,849
But I don't know
what I'm getting ready for.
1679
01:08:32,943 --> 01:08:34,350
- If you sense a shift in me,
1680
01:08:34,502 --> 01:08:36,519
I'm gonna be in a really
bad mood sometime,
1681
01:08:36,613 --> 01:08:39,597
And you're just gonna catch me
at that wrong time,
1682
01:08:39,616 --> 01:08:43,025
And you're not gonna like it.
1683
01:08:43,178 --> 01:08:45,436
I'm just going off
past experiences
1684
01:08:45,455 --> 01:08:47,789
And what could possibly happen.
1685
01:08:48,016 --> 01:08:50,183
You could not criticize me
one bit,
1686
01:08:50,276 --> 01:08:52,776
'cause I would be,
like, out the door.
1687
01:08:52,796 --> 01:08:54,520
- Wow.
1688
01:08:54,614 --> 01:08:56,798
Hearing that my wife
may be bored,
1689
01:08:57,025 --> 01:08:58,800
You know, as I'm at work,
you know,
1690
01:08:59,027 --> 01:09:01,210
It's a little bit
of a concern, yes.
1691
01:09:01,363 --> 01:09:03,287
What's kind of concerning
about it is that,
1692
01:09:03,381 --> 01:09:05,789
Early on,
she showed some habits
1693
01:09:05,809 --> 01:09:07,458
Of when things get rough,
she bounces.
1694
01:09:07,552 --> 01:09:09,202
I'm glad I didn't date you,
1695
01:09:09,220 --> 01:09:10,553
And I just jumped into marriage
with you
1696
01:09:10,647 --> 01:09:12,388
'cause I don't know
if I would have survived.
1697
01:09:12,540 --> 01:09:13,706
So there's a little bit
of trust issue there of,
1698
01:09:13,725 --> 01:09:15,633
Is she gonna stay
in the marriage
1699
01:09:15,727 --> 01:09:17,635
If it's not going her way?
1700
01:09:17,654 --> 01:09:19,803
And if that were to happen,
1701
01:09:19,823 --> 01:09:21,547
I would be crushed.
1702
01:09:21,566 --> 01:09:22,991
♪ ♪
1703
01:09:23,218 --> 01:09:25,051
- I'm just saying...
1704
01:09:25,144 --> 01:09:26,552
- Brace myself, wonderful.
1705
01:09:26,571 --> 01:09:29,956
♪ ♪
1706
01:09:34,396 --> 01:09:36,671
- ♪ I know what we do
is hard, right ♪
1707
01:09:36,898 --> 01:09:39,732
♪ but we gotta make it
to the top, right ♪
1708
01:09:39,751 --> 01:09:42,159
♪ so until they catch me
at the stoplight ♪
1709
01:09:42,253 --> 01:09:45,421
- Yo.
- Welcome back to the h.
1710
01:09:45,515 --> 01:09:47,498
- Yes, sir, appreciate you.
How's it been?
1711
01:09:47,517 --> 01:09:49,575
- Good, real good.
1712
01:09:49,594 --> 01:09:51,244
- Uh-huh.
1713
01:09:51,262 --> 01:09:54,171
- I haven't seen christian
since the wedding,
1714
01:09:54,191 --> 01:09:57,192
And a lot has happened
in four weeks.
1715
01:09:57,419 --> 01:10:00,361
So it's a lot that I need
to cover with him.
1716
01:10:00,588 --> 01:10:02,012
- So how is married life
treating you, man?
1717
01:10:02,032 --> 01:10:04,257
- It's good.
I didn't renew my lease.
1718
01:10:04,275 --> 01:10:05,608
So that should tell you
a little bit
1719
01:10:05,702 --> 01:10:06,684
Of how things are going.
1720
01:10:06,778 --> 01:10:09,037
I'm diving in.
- Mm.
1721
01:10:09,188 --> 01:10:10,596
- Hello.
- Hey, how is it going?
1722
01:10:10,615 --> 01:10:11,931
- How is it going?
- I hope you enjoy it.
1723
01:10:12,024 --> 01:10:13,266
- Thank you.
- Thank you, ladies.
1724
01:10:13,359 --> 01:10:14,116
- Anything else?
- Thank you, thank you.
1725
01:10:14,211 --> 01:10:15,693
- No.
1726
01:10:15,712 --> 01:10:16,711
- So being that y'all
been together
1727
01:10:16,862 --> 01:10:18,454
For a month
and some change now...
1728
01:10:18,606 --> 01:10:20,048
- Correct.
- Any concerns?
1729
01:10:20,275 --> 01:10:22,275
Anything that's
throwing flares at you,
1730
01:10:22,293 --> 01:10:24,460
Red, yellow, orange, green?
1731
01:10:24,612 --> 01:10:26,888
- She loves bougie life.
1732
01:10:27,039 --> 01:10:29,632
She's--she's a princess,
that's what I call her.
1733
01:10:29,784 --> 01:10:31,133
I call her princesa.
1734
01:10:31,286 --> 01:10:33,043
Yeah, she pampers
herself nicely.
1735
01:10:33,063 --> 01:10:34,620
You know,
she's your girly-girl,
1736
01:10:34,714 --> 01:10:36,639
Your typical girly-girl
that makes good bank,
1737
01:10:36,733 --> 01:10:38,474
So therefore she can afford
all this stuff, right?
1738
01:10:38,626 --> 01:10:40,293
- She deserves it, yeah.
1739
01:10:40,386 --> 01:10:42,795
- Yeah, but I think
the biggest thing with her
1740
01:10:42,888 --> 01:10:44,739
Is sometimes her attitude.
1741
01:10:44,890 --> 01:10:47,391
Like, if she doesn't
have it her way,
1742
01:10:47,410 --> 01:10:49,635
Exactly how she wants it,
she could pout a little bit.
1743
01:10:49,654 --> 01:10:52,747
She can have, like,
a little tantrum.
1744
01:10:52,974 --> 01:10:55,416
And the only thing that kind of
took me back a little bit
1745
01:10:55,568 --> 01:10:57,252
Is when she says she won't
change her lifestyle
1746
01:10:57,403 --> 01:10:59,479
For anybody.
1747
01:10:59,497 --> 01:11:04,000
So when she said that,
I was like, "ugh, okay."
1748
01:11:04,094 --> 01:11:06,427
Like, it's a little selfish,
you know what I mean?
1749
01:11:06,579 --> 01:11:08,154
- That's big.
1750
01:11:08,172 --> 01:11:09,913
♪ ♪
1751
01:11:10,008 --> 01:11:12,508
- Did y'all consummate?
1752
01:11:12,602 --> 01:11:13,584
[both laughing]
1753
01:11:13,603 --> 01:11:15,270
- Nah.
1754
01:11:15,497 --> 01:11:16,253
- Like, y'all finally
getting to that level yet?
1755
01:11:16,273 --> 01:11:18,106
- Nah, actually--
1756
01:11:18,257 --> 01:11:19,181
- How was the chemistry?
How was the vibe with you?
1757
01:11:19,334 --> 01:11:20,591
- Chemistry was good.
1758
01:11:20,610 --> 01:11:23,093
She gives me all type
of affection.
1759
01:11:23,113 --> 01:11:24,520
We haven't consummated
our marriage yet,
1760
01:11:24,672 --> 01:11:26,597
But that's nothing.
1761
01:11:26,616 --> 01:11:28,024
That's like--
- no risk to it, huh?
1762
01:11:28,118 --> 01:11:29,358
- At all, at all.
1763
01:11:29,511 --> 01:11:31,677
I have zero doubts.
1764
01:11:31,696 --> 01:11:35,865
♪ ♪
1765
01:11:35,959 --> 01:11:38,701
- Y'all had no disagreements,
or no arguments, or nothing?
1766
01:11:38,853 --> 01:11:42,522
- Disagreements, the dog stuff.
She's not a dog person.
1767
01:11:42,540 --> 01:11:44,707
So I told her, "hey, you know,
I do work the 24-hour shifts.
1768
01:11:44,859 --> 01:11:46,692
I need somebody
to walk my dogs."
1769
01:11:46,711 --> 01:11:48,786
And she's like, "what were you
doing before you got married?"
1770
01:11:48,805 --> 01:11:50,788
I was like,
"I had a dog walker."
1771
01:11:50,807 --> 01:11:54,033
She was like, "well, why can't
you keep the dog walker?"
1772
01:11:54,052 --> 01:11:56,293
I was like,
"'cause you got two able legs."
1773
01:11:56,387 --> 01:11:59,055
- No.
- She was like, "no."
1774
01:11:59,207 --> 01:12:01,557
Fast forward now...
1775
01:12:01,651 --> 01:12:03,651
- Going, hype, going.
1776
01:12:03,803 --> 01:12:06,228
Wait, wait, wait.
I have to put my hoodie, hype.
1777
01:12:06,381 --> 01:12:09,973
- ♪ excuse me, ladies, there's
a dog in the building ♪
1778
01:12:09,993 --> 01:12:11,826
♪ there's a dog
in the building ♪
1779
01:12:12,053 --> 01:12:13,977
♪ there's a dog
in the building, oh ♪
1780
01:12:14,072 --> 01:12:16,831
♪ there's a dog
in the building ♪
1781
01:12:17,058 --> 01:12:18,724
- This girl wants me
to get a dog for her.
1782
01:12:18,743 --> 01:12:20,242
- A complete 180.
1783
01:12:20,395 --> 01:12:21,911
- Bro, complete 180.
1784
01:12:22,063 --> 01:12:24,747
- That's what's up.
1785
01:12:24,841 --> 01:12:28,676
[soft music]
1786
01:12:28,903 --> 01:12:31,404
- ♪ wake me up
and tell me it's not real ♪
1787
01:12:31,422 --> 01:12:33,739
♪ that I've got something
to believe in ♪
1788
01:12:33,758 --> 01:12:37,935
♪ say you'll never let me go,
say you'll never let me go ♪
1789
01:12:41,191 --> 01:12:43,340
- Hello.
1790
01:12:43,360 --> 01:12:45,026
- Just over here brushing out
yellow hair.
1791
01:12:45,177 --> 01:12:47,862
- Hi. Maisey.
1792
01:12:48,013 --> 01:12:49,847
- At least I know how she--
- it looks better.
1793
01:12:49,941 --> 01:12:52,608
- It looks still pretty yellow.
1794
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:54,276
- I know, she matches my shoes.
1795
01:12:54,429 --> 01:12:55,686
- You wore shoes to match her.
1796
01:12:55,705 --> 01:12:58,614
- I did. Oh, why?
1797
01:12:58,766 --> 01:13:01,024
- But they were so good.
1798
01:13:01,044 --> 01:13:03,269
Brett has had
a really tough week,
1799
01:13:03,362 --> 01:13:04,879
And to make it even worse,
1800
01:13:05,106 --> 01:13:08,124
My dog ate some
of her condolence flowers.
1801
01:13:08,276 --> 01:13:11,961
♪ ♪
1802
01:13:12,055 --> 01:13:14,055
- Maisey, I can't even look
at you with this yellow face.
1803
01:13:14,282 --> 01:13:15,965
Why?
1804
01:13:16,059 --> 01:13:17,133
- I literally might take her
to get shaven tomorrow.
1805
01:13:17,285 --> 01:13:19,285
- I literally cannot do it.
1806
01:13:19,378 --> 01:13:21,454
- I know I need
to talk to brett
1807
01:13:21,472 --> 01:13:25,141
And tell her the truth
about how I'm feeling.
1808
01:13:25,293 --> 01:13:27,810
I'm really struggling
with going forward
1809
01:13:27,904 --> 01:13:31,480
In this marriage,
and I can't force it anymore.
1810
01:13:31,633 --> 01:13:33,633
But it sucks
letting people down.
1811
01:13:33,651 --> 01:13:36,135
[groans]
I'm so tired.
1812
01:13:36,154 --> 01:13:37,637
- Me, too.
1813
01:13:37,655 --> 01:13:40,990
- I obviously haven't
been sleeping,
1814
01:13:41,142 --> 01:13:42,583
And sleeping out here
is not helping that.
1815
01:13:42,810 --> 01:13:45,569
- It's not?
1816
01:13:45,663 --> 01:13:48,589
- There's too much going on,
and I just don't sleep.
1817
01:13:48,741 --> 01:13:50,650
- I mean, I don't know
if you think I'm in there
1818
01:13:50,743 --> 01:13:52,242
Sleeping like a dream,
'cause I'm not.
1819
01:13:52,336 --> 01:13:54,178
- Yeah, I know. I know.
1820
01:14:00,252 --> 01:14:05,164
I got--we gotta do something,
'cause it's killing me.
1821
01:14:05,183 --> 01:14:08,258
♪ ♪
1822
01:14:08,278 --> 01:14:09,852
I haven't wanted to go
to the other bedroom
1823
01:14:10,004 --> 01:14:14,282
Because I felt like this,
to you,
1824
01:14:14,433 --> 01:14:16,342
Is easier than just
totally separate bedrooms.
1825
01:14:16,360 --> 01:14:20,863
[tense music]
1826
01:14:21,015 --> 01:14:22,123
I'm still struggling with this,
1827
01:14:22,274 --> 01:14:25,126
And it sucks
1828
01:14:25,353 --> 01:14:28,588
To have that uncertainty
and doubt.
1829
01:14:31,116 --> 01:14:34,193
It's not something
that you can force.
1830
01:14:34,212 --> 01:14:39,198
You can't pretend
and make something happen...
1831
01:14:39,291 --> 01:14:42,034
- No, but you are open to it--
- whether you wanted to or not.
1832
01:14:42,053 --> 01:14:45,462
♪ ♪
1833
01:14:45,482 --> 01:14:47,464
I feel like I was
incredibly open to it.
1834
01:14:47,484 --> 01:14:52,878
Then I just was fighting
with myself
1835
01:14:52,972 --> 01:14:55,715
About, you're not even--
this isn't you.
1836
01:14:55,733 --> 01:14:57,992
- Mm-hmm.
1837
01:14:58,219 --> 01:14:59,235
- I feel like I'm such
a motivated person
1838
01:14:59,329 --> 01:15:00,886
In relationships,
1839
01:15:00,980 --> 01:15:06,334
And, like, nothing
has just naturally happened,
1840
01:15:06,485 --> 01:15:09,504
And it sucks.
1841
01:15:09,655 --> 01:15:13,232
And that's by
no fault of yours.
1842
01:15:13,251 --> 01:15:14,400
- Yeah.
1843
01:15:14,418 --> 01:15:17,419
♪ ♪
1844
01:15:17,514 --> 01:15:20,497
Things are coming
to a head between he and I.
1845
01:15:20,517 --> 01:15:23,351
I feel like ryan's trying
to tell me something,
1846
01:15:23,578 --> 01:15:26,354
But it seems like he
doesn't wanna talk about it.
1847
01:15:26,505 --> 01:15:29,172
Just spit it out, because
we need to talk in circles
1848
01:15:29,267 --> 01:15:32,193
Or try to sugarcoat it.
1849
01:15:32,344 --> 01:15:34,770
- It's just tough.
1850
01:15:34,864 --> 01:15:36,179
I know her past.
1851
01:15:36,199 --> 01:15:38,181
I know that she's been
in this situation
1852
01:15:38,201 --> 01:15:40,684
Before where she's
the one trying, trying, trying,
1853
01:15:40,703 --> 01:15:42,537
And it's not being
given back to her.
1854
01:15:42,688 --> 01:15:45,431
I don't know if I can do that
to her again.
1855
01:15:45,449 --> 01:15:48,358
♪ ♪
1856
01:15:48,378 --> 01:15:50,670
I feel like there's no way...
1857
01:15:54,625 --> 01:16:00,037
And I just--nothing good
is gonna come
1858
01:16:00,056 --> 01:16:03,799
From me not sleeping
in any scenario in life.
1859
01:16:03,893 --> 01:16:05,542
So if I don't get sleep,
1860
01:16:05,562 --> 01:16:11,566
I'm just gonna be
a not fun, productive,
1861
01:16:11,793 --> 01:16:14,569
Progressive person
to be around,
1862
01:16:14,720 --> 01:16:16,887
Much less be married to.
1863
01:16:16,906 --> 01:16:20,057
And until I can get that sleep,
1864
01:16:20,076 --> 01:16:23,485
You're gonna highly dislike me.
1865
01:16:23,638 --> 01:16:26,581
- You go in there.
I go in there.
1866
01:16:26,732 --> 01:16:28,140
All my stuff's in there.
1867
01:16:28,233 --> 01:16:29,992
- You can have--
that comforter's better
1868
01:16:30,144 --> 01:16:31,493
If you want that comforter.
1869
01:16:31,646 --> 01:16:35,089
♪ ♪
1870
01:16:35,240 --> 01:16:38,092
- You know, whatever.
1871
01:16:38,319 --> 01:16:40,002
Like, if you don't
wanna be with me,
1872
01:16:40,154 --> 01:16:41,654
Then please don't be with me.
1873
01:16:41,672 --> 01:16:44,156
But I feel like
he needs to say it
1874
01:16:44,249 --> 01:16:46,842
Because it's frustrating
to not just be told
1875
01:16:46,994 --> 01:16:48,828
What it is
in black and white terms.
1876
01:16:48,846 --> 01:16:55,693
♪ ♪
1877
01:17:09,684 --> 01:17:12,518
- ♪ life is a curse
and a blessing ♪
1878
01:17:12,536 --> 01:17:14,687
♪ all the stars are meant
to form a line ♪
1879
01:17:14,705 --> 01:17:16,538
♪ ♪
1880
01:17:16,691 --> 01:17:18,874
♪ that's when it gets
a bit messy ♪
1881
01:17:19,026 --> 01:17:20,542
- How are you?
- I'm all right.
1882
01:17:20,695 --> 01:17:24,639
♪ ♪
1883
01:17:24,866 --> 01:17:27,290
- I wanna talk,
but I don't wanna make you talk
1884
01:17:27,385 --> 01:17:29,793
If you don't feel
comfortable talking.
1885
01:17:29,887 --> 01:17:31,646
- I'm okay.
- Yeah?
1886
01:17:31,797 --> 01:17:33,055
- Yeah, I've been
wanting to talk.
1887
01:17:33,207 --> 01:17:36,709
- Okay, let's talk.
1888
01:17:36,802 --> 01:17:39,545
- Mentally,
I am just really tired,
1889
01:17:39,563 --> 01:17:42,156
And there's a lot
of unresolved stuff,
1890
01:17:42,307 --> 01:17:44,566
So it stresses me out that
we haven't talked about it.
1891
01:17:44,719 --> 01:17:47,236
We haven't resolved it yet.
1892
01:17:47,330 --> 01:17:49,330
Tonight, I'm hoping that
we can have a conversation
1893
01:17:49,557 --> 01:17:51,999
About those issues without
it becoming an argument.
1894
01:17:52,151 --> 01:17:53,559
Cool if we talk in bed?
- Yeah.
1895
01:17:53,577 --> 01:17:55,318
- All right.
1896
01:17:55,338 --> 01:17:57,838
There's been such a build up
of tension, conflict,
1897
01:17:57,990 --> 01:18:01,750
And this is not
how I wanna be in a marriage.
1898
01:18:01,903 --> 01:18:04,753
♪ ♪
1899
01:18:04,906 --> 01:18:07,740
Where are you at right now?
1900
01:18:07,758 --> 01:18:09,666
- Definitely not happy.
1901
01:18:09,686 --> 01:18:12,186
- Mm-hmm, yeah.
1902
01:18:12,337 --> 01:18:14,171
I gotta tell you, I wasn't
ready to talk to pastor cal.
1903
01:18:14,265 --> 01:18:16,415
I wasn't ready for you
to see my family
1904
01:18:16,434 --> 01:18:19,084
Because after the argument
that we had,
1905
01:18:19,103 --> 01:18:21,086
I really just needed to talk,
the two of us.
1906
01:18:21,105 --> 01:18:24,940
And that's why I asked you
1907
01:18:25,092 --> 01:18:27,017
Not to come to the barbeque
1908
01:18:27,111 --> 01:18:28,703
Because we needed
to talk before that.
1909
01:18:28,930 --> 01:18:30,596
And we needed to talk
before pastor cal.
1910
01:18:30,689 --> 01:18:32,522
'cause there's some things
1911
01:18:32,542 --> 01:18:36,359
That I said there
that were just raw
1912
01:18:36,454 --> 01:18:40,381
And that looking back I regret.
1913
01:18:40,532 --> 01:18:42,216
She's not genuine.
1914
01:18:42,367 --> 01:18:45,035
There have been points in this
process where I feel like
1915
01:18:45,054 --> 01:18:47,296
I wish I had been matched
with literally anyone else.
1916
01:18:47,448 --> 01:18:49,372
- Not only is that mean--
1917
01:18:49,392 --> 01:18:50,891
- You've said a lot
of mean things.
1918
01:18:54,063 --> 01:18:56,121
- I know you said it was raw,
1919
01:18:56,140 --> 01:18:59,066
Everything that was coming out
with pastor cal.
1920
01:18:59,293 --> 01:19:01,736
But it feels so unfair
sometimes.
1921
01:19:01,963 --> 01:19:06,223
Why am I being told, like,
I'm a two-faced crazy person?
1922
01:19:06,242 --> 01:19:07,891
I don't feel I am.
1923
01:19:07,910 --> 01:19:10,302
I really feel like
I've gone all in.
1924
01:19:10,395 --> 01:19:12,154
I've been as honest
as I possibly can,
1925
01:19:12,306 --> 01:19:13,973
As vulnerable as I possibly can
1926
01:19:13,991 --> 01:19:15,975
And I feel like
that characterization of me
1927
01:19:16,068 --> 01:19:18,310
Is very unkind and unfair.
1928
01:19:18,403 --> 01:19:19,812
- But I'm trying to tell you
the why behind it.
1929
01:19:19,830 --> 01:19:21,814
- I know.
1930
01:19:21,832 --> 01:19:25,818
I feel I've exhibited
a lot of patience,
1931
01:19:25,836 --> 01:19:27,744
Much more than most women
at this point.
1932
01:19:27,764 --> 01:19:30,431
Somebody has
to be the adult here,
1933
01:19:30,582 --> 01:19:34,176
And I know marriage
should have its ups and downs.
1934
01:19:34,270 --> 01:19:36,495
My parents have been married
for 50 plus years,
1935
01:19:36,514 --> 01:19:38,272
And they've gone
through [bleep] and back.
1936
01:19:38,423 --> 01:19:41,776
Like, they have been tested,
and I know that.
1937
01:19:41,927 --> 01:19:46,355
But it's another thing
to live it.
1938
01:19:46,507 --> 01:19:50,284
- The thing that really
put me over the edge
1939
01:19:50,511 --> 01:19:54,121
Is the two of us have two
different recollections
1940
01:19:54,273 --> 01:19:57,107
Of the truth
of what is going on.
1941
01:19:57,126 --> 01:19:59,776
And, of course,
1942
01:19:59,796 --> 01:20:02,037
Like, my version of "the truth"
1943
01:20:02,131 --> 01:20:06,025
Is me just--it's--I feel like
I'm crying out for help.
1944
01:20:06,043 --> 01:20:08,135
I'm just saying like,
"this is what I need,
1945
01:20:08,287 --> 01:20:12,364
And this is what I really feel
is missing between us."
1946
01:20:12,457 --> 01:20:14,475
Your version of truth is like,
"well, no, I'm doing everything
1947
01:20:14,626 --> 01:20:17,553
"that you're saying
I'm not doing.
1948
01:20:17,647 --> 01:20:21,464
Like, I am the person that
is not being appreciated here."
1949
01:20:21,484 --> 01:20:23,392
- I never said
that what you're saying
1950
01:20:23,544 --> 01:20:25,986
I'm not doing I'm not doing.
1951
01:20:26,213 --> 01:20:28,547
Like, I am not
initiating enough.
1952
01:20:28,566 --> 01:20:30,640
I said I would.
I leaned into that.
1953
01:20:30,660 --> 01:20:33,719
I didn't shy from that,
but I do feel
1954
01:20:33,737 --> 01:20:36,055
Like what I'm doing
is not being appreciated.
1955
01:20:36,073 --> 01:20:38,073
- I do appreciate
that you do the house chores
1956
01:20:38,167 --> 01:20:39,834
And prep meals for me,
1957
01:20:40,061 --> 01:20:41,743
Pick up stuff for me,
and you think of me
1958
01:20:41,896 --> 01:20:44,321
Whenever you're out and about.
1959
01:20:44,340 --> 01:20:47,007
Those things I do appreciate.
1960
01:20:47,234 --> 01:20:49,159
I want you to realize, though,
that I think
1961
01:20:49,178 --> 01:20:50,845
The ways that we show our love
1962
01:20:51,072 --> 01:20:52,571
To one another
look completely different.
1963
01:20:52,590 --> 01:20:54,181
- Mm-hmm.
1964
01:20:54,333 --> 01:20:56,833
- It's because for me,
when you're baking stuff,
1965
01:20:56,853 --> 01:20:58,501
That's not for me.
1966
01:20:58,521 --> 01:20:59,761
- I know.
I'm learning this now.
1967
01:20:59,856 --> 01:21:01,856
- Like, when you bake,
1968
01:21:02,007 --> 01:21:05,267
I think more it's you're doing
something that you enjoy doing.
1969
01:21:05,361 --> 01:21:07,844
And you know I don't eat
that stuff usually.
1970
01:21:07,864 --> 01:21:10,030
When you brought it over,
I eat it because you made it.
1971
01:21:10,182 --> 01:21:14,109
- I don't know you yet, johnny.
I don't know you yet.
1972
01:21:14,261 --> 01:21:18,205
You don't know me yet.
1973
01:21:18,357 --> 01:21:23,193
But I do agree that we seem
to have a misunderstanding
1974
01:21:23,212 --> 01:21:27,289
In reading each other's effort.
1975
01:21:27,383 --> 01:21:31,034
- What's the next step for us?
1976
01:21:31,053 --> 01:21:35,055
- I do think we should
talk more on a daily basis.
1977
01:21:35,207 --> 01:21:38,041
- Can you commit to do
everyday things together?
1978
01:21:38,060 --> 01:21:39,785
- Yes.
1979
01:21:39,878 --> 01:21:40,969
I'm gonna try
to wake up earlier
1980
01:21:41,122 --> 01:21:43,564
And have coffee with you.
1981
01:21:43,791 --> 01:21:46,567
- It's a relief to kinda
figure out a path forward.
1982
01:21:46,718 --> 01:21:49,311
There are plenty
of good things to build on.
1983
01:21:49,463 --> 01:21:53,723
- ♪ one thing
that I know for sure ♪
1984
01:21:53,817 --> 01:21:55,968
- I do wanna do a date for you.
1985
01:21:55,986 --> 01:21:57,894
- I appreciate you trying.
1986
01:21:57,988 --> 01:22:00,305
- I'm doing what I can.
1987
01:22:00,399 --> 01:22:01,640
- I really need
to just let her know
1988
01:22:01,733 --> 01:22:03,492
I appreciate her
for those things.
1989
01:22:03,644 --> 01:22:05,419
I'm committed to focus
on the positives
1990
01:22:05,646 --> 01:22:07,254
And see if there's enough
positive out there
1991
01:22:07,481 --> 01:22:08,422
That can potentially
put me down the path
1992
01:22:08,649 --> 01:22:10,090
Of falling in love.
1993
01:22:10,242 --> 01:22:12,593
- Whatever it takes.
1994
01:22:12,820 --> 01:22:16,672
I burped. I'm sorry.
1995
01:22:16,766 --> 01:22:19,341
- ♪ your love, your love,
your love comes first ♪
1996
01:22:19,435 --> 01:22:21,435
[laughs]
1997
01:22:21,586 --> 01:22:23,328
- ♪ love comes first ♪
1998
01:22:23,347 --> 01:22:25,272
♪ ♪
1999
01:22:25,424 --> 01:22:27,332
♪ oh ♪
2000
01:22:27,351 --> 01:22:30,093
♪ ♪
2001
01:22:30,187 --> 01:22:33,855
- ♪ your love, your love,
your love comes first ♪
2002
01:22:33,950 --> 01:22:36,116
- Go, team! Go, team!
2003
01:22:36,268 --> 01:22:38,786
- Next time on
"married at first sight"...
2004
01:22:38,937 --> 01:22:40,621
With less than three weeks
left until decision day...
2005
01:22:40,772 --> 01:22:41,938
- Glad to see you.
2006
01:22:42,032 --> 01:22:43,515
- Dr. Pepper and I will speak
2007
01:22:43,534 --> 01:22:45,534
To each
of the spouses individually
2008
01:22:45,628 --> 01:22:48,611
To take a real and honest
look at their marriage.
2009
01:22:48,631 --> 01:22:51,114
- I know you have been out
partying with your friends.
2010
01:22:51,133 --> 01:22:53,208
[both laughing]
2011
01:22:53,360 --> 01:22:54,876
- It can derail at any moment.
2012
01:22:55,029 --> 01:22:57,120
- I think you personally do
have a tendency
2013
01:22:57,139 --> 01:22:59,139
To be controlling.
2014
01:22:59,366 --> 01:23:02,625
- My husband has a temper.
He can be vindictive.
2015
01:23:02,720 --> 01:23:04,294
- I feel like with her,
2016
01:23:04,313 --> 01:23:06,205
I'm somebody
that I don't want to be.
2017
01:23:06,298 --> 01:23:07,556
- It ain't over
until it's over.
2018
01:23:07,708 --> 01:23:08,983
- I'm gonna stay open to it.
2019
01:23:09,210 --> 01:23:11,819
I know I'm gonna make
more of an effort.
2020
01:23:11,970 --> 01:23:14,989
- Do you want this more
than you don't want it?
2021
01:23:15,140 --> 01:23:16,639
- It's like,
I have this [bleep] view
2022
01:23:16,659 --> 01:23:18,141
That, like,
things have to be perfect,
2023
01:23:18,235 --> 01:23:20,068
And, like, no matter what I do,
2024
01:23:20,221 --> 01:23:21,887
Life is not good enough.
2025
01:23:21,905 --> 01:23:24,331
- I knew I would be happy
in marriage, but...
2026
01:23:24,558 --> 01:23:26,725
- His decision's
already been made.
2027
01:23:26,744 --> 01:23:28,227
- For 15 years,
we could have dated.
2028
01:23:28,245 --> 01:23:29,561
I wasn't attracted to you.
2029
01:23:29,580 --> 01:23:34,341
♪ ♪