- Marrying a stranger is insane.
- I'm doing it.
I would love to know what love is
And fall in love with this man
Who's gonna be at the other end of that aisle.
- Please stand.
Over three weeks ago,
Ten singles took a brave leap of faith
In order to find love.
- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
- They married as complete strangers.
- You may kiss your bride.
[cheers and applause]
- Oh, yeah, this is love at first sight.
I got exactly what I wanted.
[upbeat music]
- [shouts] - last time,
Our couples explored what it would take
To fall in love in the real world.
- Aww. [goat bleats]
- Last night, I did say "I love you,"
And he said it back, like I knew he would.
- It took a hot little minute.
- I grabbed a knife, and I was like, "say it back."
- I felt my life was threatened,
So I did tell her back that I loved her.
- Aww.
- You know how I said, like, I want to work
To get back to where we were?
Like, this is what I mean by that.
Like, doing stuff like this.
I want to keep having nights like these, days like these,
To kind of us to-- you know, to fall in love.
I'm happy, I'm happy as [bleep].
- ♪ we are golden, yes, we are ♪
- I am lucky you're my husband.
Johnny and I may or may not
Have consummated the marriage.
May or may not have.
- It was, uh... [explosion]
- I'm definitely starting to, like, feel, like,
Feelings that I want to feel for you.
I just want to just know more about how you feel.
- I'm still waiting to feel things
That are slower than I might have anticipated.
♪ ♪
- For me to keep going in the path that we're going,
I need consistency
And not feeling like you just want to be married
Because of the thought of being married.
I want to feel wanted.
- ♪ won't you move a little close to me ♪
- And tonight, with less than
Five weeks until decision day...
- Love you too much.
- Our couples must explore ways to go deeper...
- What I need from you is your continued patience.
- In order to form a foundation
Of trust and intimacy in their marriages
Before they have to make
The biggest decision of their lives.
- I am just feeling all around happy right now.
- I did want to share that I got my first kiss.
- Hey, man. - Hey!
We should drink to that.
- I'm not saying that your emotions aren't valid.
- I just wanted this so bad, and, like,
I'm not trying to hurt anyone,
I'm not trying to beat down on anyone.
- But I've been in a lot of situations where
The other person isn't sure.
♪ ♪
If you don't feel it, you don't feel it.
♪ ♪
- My husband locked me out of the apartment.
To getting locked out!
I don't trust you at all. - Same.
- I cannot be your wife.
♪ ♪
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Good morning. - Good morning.
The food smell woke me up.
- Try that. - This?
- Yeah. - Is it good?
- I usually put an egg in it,
But I figured I won't do that to her.
- It has now been over three weeks
Since our couples met and married at first sight,
And only two weeks since they moved in together
As husband and wife.
- Can I tell you a secret?
Yesterday, after you went to work,
I went back to sleep. - I knew you did.
I knew you did.
See you tonight. - Okay, bye.
- Love you too much. - Have a good day.
- As they continue to form their new lives together,
It's important to strengthen their connection
By delving into deeper levels of trust and intimacy
In their marriage.
- Morning yoga session. First trial.
[chill hip-hop music]
♪ ♪
- Reaching new levels of togetherness
In this accelerated process
Often requires vulnerability,
Which can be raw and intense.
But giving this process everything they've got
May be the difference between staying married
And getting a divorce.
- Oh, these are my shoes. Aren't these so cute?
Look, I like these too.
- Oh my gosh, if it isn't purses and shoes.
- Those are fire, aren't they?
- No.
[both chuckle]
[exciting upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ well, see, my vision, I made winning my mission ♪
♪ from the very beginning ♪
♪ in my flesh I felt this feeling ♪
♪ I been reliving the moment ♪
♪ a champion has arisen ♪
♪ we gonna holla because ♪
♪ shout it out, shout it out ♪
♪ you fools about to bear witness ♪
♪ we are the victors ♪
- What up, man? - How you been?
You already got the wraps on? - Yeah, yeah, I know.
- All right, here we go.
- Yeah, it's been a long week, bro.
Been a long week. - Yeah? It's been a long week?
- Yeah, man. A lot has happened to us.
- Do you feel like things are moving in the right direction?
And do you think that she's been making conscious efforts?
- Yeah, specifically last night.
So, after dinner,
We were gonna have, like, a movie night
At the new apartment. - Mm-hmm.
- But I wanted to go back to my apartment,
Just to get, like, my apple tv, so we can watch
One of the movies that she wanted to watch.
When I got back to my apartment,
I was like, hmm, it's already late.
Let me call michaela and tell her, "hey,
"I'm gonna sleep at my place. Let's just, like,
Do movie night, you know, tomorrow--another day."
So even though she was upset about that moment,
She handled it in a really good way.
Like, she called me again, after we hung up.
She said, "hey, zack, I just want to let you know
"that, like, you know, I was looking forward to it,
And that hurt me." and then, you know,
I talked her through, you know, my reasoning.
- Right, so when she, like, expressed, like,
How she felt about it, I guess,
So she was, like, calm, and she didn't really,
Like, blow up about it? - Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, yeah.
It was a cool conversion.
Just exactly what I wanted, you know.
So I think we're making progress, I mean, all around.
Everything is going really well right now.
Michaela's making efforts.
I told her some of my boundaries, some of my issues,
And she's definitely making efforts,
And you can see that, and I really appreciate it.
I'm happy.
- ♪ 'cause I'm a born fighter ♪
♪ oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ I'm a born fighter ♪
- ♪ take my words right from my mouth ♪
♪ kiss me, love me, shout it out ♪
♪ let me be your only girl ♪
- Hi! - Hello!
- Maisey, no.
- Each marriage, for our five couples,
Is uniquely different
And comes with its own set
Of strengths and challenges.
- Hi!
- Trust and intimacy are the cornerstone
Of any successful, long-lasting relationship.
And these couples have to make a decision
About their marriages in just over four weeks,
So it's important for them to dig deep
And build trust in an accelerated way.
It's so good to see you.
- Oh, my god, it's so good to see you.
It's been so long. I mean, it's not been
That long, but it's been long enough.
- Let's start with how, like, things are going
With your connection right now.
What's going on, like, affection-wise?
What's happening?
- I like how affectionate he is.
He's the most affectionate man that I've ever been with.
- Do you consider yourself very affectionate?
- I am very touchy and... - Yes.
- Stuff like that. - Yes.
- But we've only been affectionate to a point.
- Correct.
- Have y'all seen each other naked?
- [laughs] no.
- What's the deal? 'cause both of you
Are pretty sexual people. - Very.
- And if you're getting along
And you've gotten to the point where you like one another...
- I definitely like him. - You definitely like him?
Do you like her? - I do like her.
But I have questions that I need
To personally figure out.
I know her feelings and I know her emotions,
And I don't want
Her to take that to another level
That I'm not 100% certain.
- It sounds like she's further along
Towards liking you.
Is that--is that what I'm hearing?
Like, she's got more feelings
For you than you have for her? - That's how I perceive it.
- I hate saying that, but I think...
- Is that true, though? - That's fair, yeah.
- Okay.
Has it always been that way, though?
I don't know that I was--
- No, I feel like we started so incredibly,
But I kinda hit a spot,
And I've been stuck at this spot.
And I mean, you've--I'm sure you've picked up on that.
- "picked up on it?" you haven't told her
That you hit a spot?
- Didn't know. - Okay.
So why have you struggled with sharing this with her?
- 'cause I keep thinking that it's gonna--it's gonna come,
It's gonna come, it's gonna come.
Like, she's awesome. She's incredibly attractive.
But I'm just waiting for that feeling that I'm like,
"yes, yes, yes."
- Are we talking about, like, we're waiting for you
To feel, like, sexually attracted to her?
Are you saying you're waiting for, like, butterflies?
What is that feeling? - Yeah, I want the butterflies.
I want to be speechless. I want my breath taken away,
And the butterflies are exactly what I've been waiting to feel.
[somber music]
- What are you thinking over there?
♪ ♪
I can't help but think you're somewhere else right now.
- I just feel like...
♪ ♪
I've been in a lot of--
♪ ♪
That I've been in a lot of situations where
The other person isn't sure.
♪ ♪
- Sure about what, though? - About me.
There's something not there.
They don't know.
"you're great, but..."
"you're amazing, but..."
It's too familiar.
♪ ♪
And I didn't want that to be this.
♪ ♪
- I haven't said
A negative thing about you through all this.
I'm just waiting on that piece.
♪ ♪
- If you don't feel it, you don't feel it.
♪ ♪
[gentle music]
♪ ♪
- I so want to help y'all get to a different place,
Because I know it's possible.
Can we break down these feelings a little bit more?
I know it's probably uncomfortable,
But I'm just really hoping
That it helps you to get some clarity,
Because I can tell this is--
This is hurting you,
But it's hurting him in a different way,
And I'm afraid that if we don't break it down,
He's going to continue to have a wall up
To protect you. - Yeah.
- And things just won't get off the ground.
And if you would prefer
That I have this conversation with him alone...
- I would--I would like that.
- We'd do that. So if that's something
You'd like to do, let's do that.
- Yeah. - Okay?
Okay, so I'm gonna ask you to depart.
♪ ♪
- Now I'm instantly feeling like that's making it worse.
♪ ♪
- We'll figure it out.
Figure it out.
♪ ♪
[quietly] what's going on?
- It's a type thing that's-- that I'm stuck at.
It's a blend of that, and she is
More high-anxiety, high-stress, than I am.
I'm very... - Even-keeled.
- Even-keeled, and I've even found myself
Having to be more so,
Just because I'm trying to calm everything down so much.
- Okay, let's just jump in there.
If you're looking for something that's drastically different,
Really think about why.
- Yeah.
- What is it that you think
Would make a marriage that you could be, like,
Truly invested in
If she looked like your type?
- I hate saying that it's the feeling that I'm waiting on,
Because it truly is just
That feeling of coming home and being like,
"I can't wait to just
"put my wife against the wall
And make out with my wife."
Like, I want that feeling, and I'm not getting it.
Like, I want to feel that.
And I don't know how to get there.
- I mean, I'm speaking
For a lot of the married people out there:
That's kind of hollywood stuff.
I mean, it's a fantasy.
So if you're going to try to build
A long-term marriage over something
That probably only happens, like, on birthdays
Or if you drank a little too much
Or if you're on vacation
And there's no cares in the world,
I don't know, you'll probably end up single.
- [exhales]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Hello, beautiful. - Hello, aww.
- How are you?
- I'm doing well.
- How you doing? - Hi.
- What's up, what's up, what's up?
How you doing? Long time no see.
- I'm so glad to see you're doing better.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Welcome to our apartment. - Yes, thank you.
Y'all have definitely moved in...Ish.
- Yeah, kind of, yeah. - I will say it doesn't look...
- Yeah, yeah, yeah. - As full as some
Of the other apartments, but maybe that's a good thing.
That could be just a style thing.
- It is, yes.
- All right.
So where are you tonight?
I obviously, I'm-- I'm privy to a lot,
And I'm here to talk to you about trust and intimacy
'cause it's super important for a marriage.
Where are y'all?
What's going on with your trust levels?
- I think my trust level is
At a 50%.
- Hold on. Sorry, wait.
So, your trust level's at 50%? - Yeah.
- Why? Like, why? 'cause I don't--
- I think my feelings my hurt.
Not "I think." my feelings were hurt.
- Oh, last night? - Yeah, with the movie night.
And, like, 'cause a few times,
Like, I've--you said you were gonna to do something,
Or we were--that we were gonna do something...
- Yeah, I know what you mean.
- And then it didn't happen.
It feels like a lot
To kinda be essentially blown off.
- Interesting.
I don't think we're good at,
Like, you know, understanding--
Understanding one another.
You know, we're not good with at all.
- What about for you? Where's your trust level?
- Well, I guess it depends on how you define trust.
Like, if michaela tells me something that she's doing,
I believe her.
But because, you know,
You have done things I don't like.
I mean, I don't know if I trust her not to blow up.
Like, every situation that we've experienced
That was negative has permanently--
- It's permanent?
- And that's the unfair stuff,
Like the stuff that-- - I can't--
- And that's why I'm kinda like, "eh,"
Because it's almost like...
I can forgive and forget and try to move past it,
But then if I do something for him,
It's like, he holds on to it.
- You had a right to feel upset
That I left in the morning without telling you "bye."
My only issue is
The way that you handle the situations
Is what I have an issue with.
That has scarred me, and I--
It's the knee-jerk reaction.
Unfortunately, like, you can blame me for it.
I can't help how I'm feeling.
Like, that has scarred me. - Mm-hmm.
- To say, "oh, this is a scar,"
Or "this is the way that I now see you,"
Or even if you were to say,
"well, I'm never changing anything again,"
It shows a lack of commitment, because you're saying,
"look, this doesn't work for me,
So sorry, we're done." like, permanent damage.
- And the things that I did, I literally--
I sincerely apologized for those things.
And so it sucks, because it's like,
He's saying it scars him, and it's a terrible feeling.
And it's like, "gosh, like,
"is this really a relationship we should have then?
If you feel so uncomfortable with me?"
'cause I don't-- I don't want to scar him.
I don't want to hurt him. He's a great man.
- I'm not saying the way
She handles stuff is right or wrong.
I'm not saying the way I do things is right or wrong.
There's just a difference.
♪ ♪
- What's is the difference?
- It's how we handle the situation.
It's, like, I just don't--
I don't do the knee-jerk reaction.
- And that's the thing. Like, he keeps bringing it up as if--
- Because that's the only thing that's the issue with me.
That's the only thing that's the problem with me.
- He keeps bringing it up as if
We haven't gone through counseling
And talked about how it's not okay.
I have not--have I done any knee-jerk reactions since?
- This is not-- to me, in my mind--
Like, help me understand this, dr. Viviana.
- Yeah, I'd love to.
- These are not mess-ups to me.
There--there have been no mess-ups so far.
No mess-ups.
- Now I'm giving you the skeptical look.
- I have never said she made a mistake.
- Then what have I done?
- That sounds like a lie, though.
- Then what have I done? - You have done an action
That I do not like. - What is that action?
Label the action.
- She's knee-jerk-reactioned.
She's been explosive. - That I don't like.
When'd I ever say that was wrong?
I never said that, michaela. - But it is wrong.
- Thank you! Like, he keeps saying,
Like, he's not--he keeps saying it and trying to say,
"it's not-it's not a mistake, it's not--"
- I could tell you it's wrong. Why can't you say it?
- And I can say it's wrong, because I apologized for it.
- I think it is a fundamental character, like, trait.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- You think it's fundamentally me.
You think it's me, and that I can never learn from it.
- You believe she is the knee-jerk reaction.
- Mm-hmm.
- I think her feelings and her past experiences
Have led her to do that sort of thing.
But what I'm noticing is that
You don't want to label her as "wrong" or "bad."
- No, 'cause who am I-- who am I to do that?
- Well, let me tell you.
I think I know who you are.
You actually care about her. - Right.
- You don't want her to feel badly about herself.
- Exactly.
- Just like you wouldn't want her to make
You feel badly about yourself. - Right.
- I don't think it's about you being scarred.
I think that might not be the right word.
I think it's "I'm--I've lost trust."
Because scars don't go away.
But trust can go away and be built back.
- Right. I understand that.
But from my perspective right now,
Sitting down right now,
I think this cannot go away.
♪ ♪
There's nothing I can do about that.
Like, it's not like I asked for this.
♪ ♪
- Dr. Viviana, like, hearing that
Does not make me feel secure in this marriage.
I'm just so beaten down.
How do I not take-- internalize those things?
You hold me to these things
And say "it scarred me,
And that's fundamentally who you are,"
When I'm learning.
But yet, you still think
That this is who I am and who I will always be.
♪ ♪
- Have you been perfect in this marriage?
- No. - Why are you
Kind of almost expecting her to be?
♪ ♪
Neither one of you is perfect.
Can y'all give each other more cushion,
And benefit of the doubt,
As you're learning what works and what doesn't work?
- Mm-hmm. - Mm-hmm.
- I think it's important for you
To continue to have boundaries,
And then allow your partner
To figure out
Where she is with those boundaries.
Same thing for you.
Proactively sharing "this is a trigger for me.
"now that I've told you, you are aware.
But I'm not expecting perfection."
That's where intimacy grows.
When you say "I know this about me."
"let's figure this out together.
"and if it doesn't work out, at least we tried.
Then we can feel better about it."
I would love to hear
That you're keeping up with the struggle.
Right, together? - Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- And if y'all need anything,
You can call us, facetime, do all that good stuff.
- Mm-hmm, thank you.
- Thank you. - Okay?
- Thank you so much, dr. Viviana.
- Thank you so much. Oh, it's so good to see you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
All right, I'll let myself out.
- All right, thank you.
- Bye. - Bye.
♪ ♪
- [quietly] damn.
[bleep].
- How you feeling?
- [stammering] I just don't know, like--
Like, what I have done to
Help get us to this point.
I just, I can't process it, I don't know.
[tense music]
- I am not blaming you for anything.
- No, 'cause, like, you said, like, you know,
You felt like you getting beat down.
And I'm like--
Like, what? Like, what-- how am I beating you down?
Like--like, what am I doing?
- If I say that I feel like I'm getting beat down,
It's because you use what I did
To say that it's fundamentally me,
And that I can never grow.
So that's when I feel beat down,
'cause it's like, "but I'm trying to grow.
I'm trying to learn, I'm trying to do better."
♪ ♪
- [sobs]
I just wanted this so bad, and, like--
I don't know what else I can do.
I just don't know. Like, I'm just being myself.
Like, I'm not--
I'm not trying to hurt anyone.
I'm not try to beat down anyone.
Like, I'm--I didn't--
I didn't do this and do that. - Zack.
- Like, I'm tired of that. Like, stop, stop.
I can't--I'm just--
I don't want to hurt anyone. I didn't--
- Zack.
- I feel horrible, like, this is--
- Zack, can I tell you that I'm not hurt?
- It doesn't matter-- it just--it doesn't matter.
I feel this way.
It's just, like, [bleep] it just never works out, man.
Like, you won't get it. Like, you don't get it.
You won't get it. This is, like--
- Zack, we're in the marriage together.
- No, but--I get that, but we're two different people.
Like, at the end of the day, we're two different people,
And, like, you don't know how I feel about this.
Like, you don't know, like, how bad I wanted this.
Like, you don't know!
♪ ♪
[exhales]
♪ ♪
So I am heartbroken.
- ♪ salty and sour, I don't taste it anymore ♪
- I can't keep talking about this [bleep].
I can't keep, like--
Like, trying to figure out, like, what happened here.
Then how could you have done things differently?
I just can't.
It's killing me. It's literally killing me.
This is dead-ass, like, I kid you not,
This is [bleep] killing me.
Like, I just can't-- I can't do it.
I can't do this right now. I just can't.
I don't need none of this [bleep].
♪ ♪
I just don't--I can't.
[bleep].
♪ ♪
- [bleep] tired, [bleep] [bleep] - ♪ find a home ♪
♪ rest your bones ♪
♪ let it fade away ♪
♪ ♪
- Okay. While you open up one...
- Let me open it. - I'm gonna go ahead and--
- Let me open up this, you open up that, no?
[cork pops] - oh, okay.
Very nice.
- In addition to dr. Viviana
Meeting with the couples in person,
We have sent the couples
Exercises to help them discuss
The big and small things
That couples often avoid discussing.
- "is there anything you have been embarrassed to tell me?"
- Well, I was embarrassed to tell you
About my infidelity.
♪ ♪
That needed to be known.
'cause, you know, you hear the term
"once a cheater, always a cheater."
And that sucks.
- Honest communication is the key to building trust
And intimacy that results in a healthy marriage.
- But, so, yes, you have grown from it, right?
- Oh, for sure.
- All right, this is different.
"over the last five years, how have you changed?"
- Over the last five years,
I have become more understanding,
More patient.
- You was less patient than this?
- Mm-hmm. - Whoo!
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- Let's take a look. - Okay.
- How you want to do this?
- I guess it's I ask a question,
You ask a question, just back and forth.
- All right.
Here's the first question. It's a good one.
"what is your biggest insecurity
About yourself? Why?"
- I have insecurities, thinking, like,
I need to be able to do it all,
And if I can't, I'm not good enough.
It's just, it's not-- it's not healthy sometimes.
What is your biggest insecurity?
- Maybe not, like,
Living a purposeful life.
Feel like my whole life
I've done a lot of things that are very safe.
♪ ♪
Getting married to a stranger was
The biggest risk I've taken in my life.
And it was proven to be worth it.
♪ ♪
- "what is your biggest event
"that has happened in your life
That made you feel embarrassed or shame, and why?"
♪ ♪
I grew up really poor.
My family didn't have very much.
And, like, in the morning,
We would take the bus to school.
And then on--in the afternoon, we'd take the bus back.
When the bus comes to drop off the kiddos
In my neighborhood,
I would walk past my actual house,
Because I would never want the kids to know
Where I actually lived, because I had
This source of embarrassment and shame of, like,
Where I actually, truly lived. - Mm.
- My childhood home was just this,
Like, dilapidated little-- little trailer.
And I never felt comfortable inviting friends over.
That was embarrassment.
- You didn't have any, um--
Any neighbors that you went to school with,
That kind of could-- - I did.
- Kind of, you could confide in and kind of share?
- Well, they were-- they were my closest friends
In the beginning, but then that was another thing.
Like, um,
My dad wasn't in a good place back then,
And so he started developing a reputation.
♪ ♪
And there were neighborhood girls
That became, like, my bestest childhood friends,
But their moms didn't feel like my dad
Was a good influence on their dads.
- Like, he would go drinking with them, or what?
- Mm-hmm. - Oh, okay.
- He was a big instigator.
So the girls who were my friends
Would come to my house and say,
"oh, my mom doesn't want me to hang out with you anymore,
Because, you know, your dad's the local drunk."
♪ ♪
And it would bring me great shame.
♪ ♪
- The fact that she's willing to put herself out there,
Tell me all these secrets that she's not telling anyone else,
And being really vulnerable with me,
It really feels like we're building trust
And commitment to one another.
I feel like that's what love is,
Is just being that person, that rock,
That consistent force in your life
That you can depend on.
And I want to be that for bao.
- Give me a hug, give me a hug, give me a hug.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I think you've started something ♪
♪ now that push has come to shove ♪
♪ I guess it's over now so grab your stuff... ♪
- I'm nervous. - What?
Why are you nervous?
- You know, you're the professional.
- Gosh, I am thrilled! - Okay, good.
- I'm so thrilled.
Y'all, I've been keeping in touch with everything.
And I'm, like, constantly welling up
With tears of happiness. - Good.
We're so happy, yeah. - It's--yeah.
- I'm so impressed with y'all.
- Good. - I mean, I kinda knew, but--
[all laugh] - of course you did.
- Oh, my gosh, so tell me what it's been like.
Let's talk about sex real quick.
- The highlight of your physical connection.
What's really going well?
- So--
- What's your favorite part?
Is it the actual act of intercourse?
Is it--are y'all really experiencing
Each other's bodies in different ways?
Is it massages? Is it the kissing?
Like, what is it?
♪ ♪
- I'm all red. - [chuckles]
♪ ♪
- I think the answer for her is the intercourse, yes?
- Yes, it's--it's great.
♪ ♪
- Okay, great.
- It's a different element to the marriage
That is just the cherry on top,
That brings the connection that much stronger and closer.
♪ ♪
- So two thumbs up in the bedroom?
- Yes. - Oh, absolutely.
We can say yes. - Great.
Where are y'all when it comes to, like,
Trusting each other?
- I mean, I'm in full trust.
Like--like, everything that comes out of his mouth,
His actions, I feel it's
Completely genuine, 100% honest.
Like, everything he says, I'm like, yeah.
Like, we're just always on the same page.
It's insane. - Okay.
- You know, incredible. Like, right away, he's like,
"this is the passcode to my phone."
Will I ever-- I don't need to go through it,
Because there's trust there.
But just the willingness to be so open.
- Do you have her passcode?
- I know of it, yes. - Yeah.
- So you feel full trust. How about you?
How are you feeling with that? - I definitely do.
There's a lot of things that she says,
And then, her actions back it up as well, too.
- I'm just so happy.
- I'm really, really impressed
With how you're handling all of this.
There's no reason to think you can't get through
Some of the--the rougher times
That are obviously gonna happen, right?
I mean, I hope y'all realize
That it's not always gonna be a honeymoon.
- Of course. - Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- You're gonna have challenges that come up.
You're gonna have disagreements.
How you handle it really is about the two of you
Figuring out what your style is
As a couple. - Yeah.
- I really, really want you to continue to be honest,
Authentic, raw.
This is the chance for the two of you
To solidify this marriage. - Right.
- Yeah. - Okay?
And every exercise we give you,
Every trial and tribulation you go through,
Is going to help you do that.
So just keep doing what you're doing.
♪ ♪
- It has been a wild ride
This week. - Girl. [chuckles]
- Oh, thank you so much
For meeting up with me. - Whoo, I know.
Cheers.
Thanks for having coffee with me.
- How have you been? - I mean, I feel like
I've definitely been better. - Yeah.
- Dr. Viviana came and talked to us.
And then ever since then,
You know, ryan hasn't been here.
- Where has he been?
- At his house. - Oh.
- Like, I don't know.
Like, I just feel like
Things are just weird right now.
There's nothing that he does
That lets me know he cares
Or that he even likes me as a girl.
- Do you think the visit with dr. Viviana helped?
- I don't know.
Enough about me, man.
How--how are you and zack doing?
- After dr. Viviana's visit, it just spiraled.
At that point, honestly, I just--
I was just--I was like, "I don't know what to do."
- Yeah. - It was weird,
Because it hurt my feelings,
But it was also enlightening.
And we sat down.
We talked about what happened.
And so we are definitely
Trying to do better.
And marriage is work. Marriage is hard work.
- Mm-hmm. - It's not dating.
- If this was somebody that I was just dating...
- Yeah.
- I would say, "you don't like me.
"I'm wasting my time.
Goodbye." - yeah.
- So...
[upbeat music]
- ♪ she kissed me like summer afternoon ♪
♪ 'cause she kissed me like summer and I'll fall for you ♪
- This is so lovely.
- Would you want something to drink?
- No, I'm good, thank you.
- So fair warning.
She's, um, nervous.
- 'cause I'm here to talk about trust and intimacy?
- Yes.
- Well, do y'all want to dig in
With first letting me know
How you're feeling overall?
How would you rate your level of emotional intimacy
Between the two of you?
- Ten being the best and one being
Not so good? - Sure, that works.
- Okay.
- I would say where I am right now, like a seven.
Like, I feel good. And--
- That's great. - But we're still, like--
You know, there's still so much more to know.
So I think, just right now, where I am.
- Yeah, okay.
- I would say an eight.
I feel like we've grown a lot
In a very short period.
- I love to hear that.
Okay, then tell me about your physical intimacy
And how you would rate that
For where you are in your marriage.
- I would say the same for me.
Like-- - really?
- I think so. - Okay, interesting.
So seven? - But I'm a person
That takes it slow.
- What were you thinking she would say?
- Lower.
- I'm satisfied with what I have right now with you.
- Okay. - Because it's something
That I feel comfortable with, and it's--
I'm enjoying that. - Okay.
So one out of ten, easy for me.
Five.
- Okay. [all chuckle]
Okay, that's still not bad.
- No, it's-- it's right in the middle.
- It's good. - It could be better.
- You wish it was more?
- I definitely wish it was more.
- So where are you on that road?
Last I heard, you two hadn't kissed on the lips.
Has anything changed?
- No, not yet. - No.
♪ ♪
Sometimes I kiss her on the cheek,
And I'll kiss her on the forehead.
Maybe hugging here and there, but that's about it.
I even talked to her.
I was like, "so what about a peck?"
She was like, "no."
Because-- - so what do you do instead?
- Nothing. I just say "bye" and leave.
- Oh.
- I don't want to, like, tease myself,
So I'll just leave.
It's one of those things where, okay,
If I make the first move, and if she's like,
"no, I'm not ready," I'm like, "all right, cool."
I make the first move again, "no, I'm not ready."
Like, if I keep doing that, I'm gonna be like,
"all right, she's not into me."
And that's gonna-- - it's rejection.
- And that's gonna push me back.
[tense music]
And then when she's ready,
I'm not gonna be really feeling it anymore.
I feel like kissing and sex for you is the same thing.
- It is.
- Like, it's that important. - For me, it feels--yes.
- Okay. - I don't be just,
You know, kissing random strangers.
- No, what I'm--
I'm not random.
♪ ♪
- What emotions would you need to be feeling
In order to kiss on the lips?
- I like to take my time
And get emotionally, spiritually,
Mentally connected to someone
Before the next level of intimacy begins.
For me, a kiss is a very intimate thing.
I've been in a previous relationship
Where I was cheated on,
And I was truly miserable and unhappy.
And so being able to trust is difficult for me.
- You want to connect on other levels.
So have we not connected on those other levels yet?
- I think we are connecting.
I mean, that's what I think. - Okay.
- Maybe you think something different.
- The reason why I say that is because you can't tell me
That you want to be with me, you like me,
You want to have kids with me,
And not kiss me.
Your words hold no substance.
♪ ♪
- I do remember hearing that you've said,
You know, if you don't get a kiss by decision day,
That's gonna be really challenging for you
To be able to then decide to stay married.
How are you feeling about that now?
And maybe you can let her know.
- I still feel like,
If that happens,
I will ask for the divorce.
♪ ♪
But this shouldn't be a thing.
Like, we shouldn't be sitting here talking about this.
- Well, especially 'cause, look at y'all.
- Right? So, that--
I mean, when I think about it, it's like,
"ugh, why is this a thing?"
- Myrla, how do you feel about what he's saying,
And what he has said?
- I feel okay.
- That's her. That's her. - I genuinely feel, like, okay.
I mean, it's not something that I'm worried about.
We're not gonna get a divorce, so--
You should just be like, "no, I'm not gonna divorce her.
That's not even an option." - no, I'm not gonna say that.
- But you should say that.
That shouldn't even be an option.
- No. - Why not?
- Because that's how I feel.
Just because you don't feel like we gonna get a divorce
Doesn't mean that's how I feel.
- Okay. - So I'm laying it out.
I was like, if--a kiss.
That's it. Right there.
That's how you get a divorce. - So let's say I kiss you.
- We won't get a divorce.
- We're not gonna get a divorce.
- That's it. - Okay.
- Deal! - Simple as that.
- It's as simple as that.
- Simple as that.
I mean, that's as simple as it's gonna get.
To me, that means she's gonna kiss me, right?
- Eventually.
But it's just, like, I think there's so much more
That's gonna come that's gonna even, like,
Get us to that level.
I want to make sure that I have, like,
Genuine feelings to make the next move.
So we'll see how that goes.
- ♪ kiss me, baby, just kiss me, baby ♪
♪ 'cause everything's going down again ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ when you lift me up higher ♪
♪ wrapped in your arms, you make everything lighter ♪
♪ I used to run but I found the truth ♪
♪ yeah, I know ♪
♪ I gotta be closer to you ♪
- Oh, my gosh, y'all.
I feel like I want to know everything,
But I kind of already know everything.
- Oh, god.
- You know, we are kept in the loop quite a bit.
And I have been so impressed
With how y'all have been handling
All of this. It's a lot.
And I wonder, have you put each other
Through any tests?
And what have you learned?
- Have you?
- I feel like I put you through
Little tests all the time. - Really?
Mm.
- Actually, we did one just now.
We were making the bed.
And I feel like I made the bed.
- He did. - 'cause we were supposed to
Make the bed together, but
She's more just, like, directing me.
- [laughs]
- As she's putting on makeup, and I'm just like,
"all right, I guess I'm doing this by myself."
- If you could just get a head start on the sheets,
I'll help you in a sec.
- I don't know if you have a special way
Of doing the sheets. - My method is
Just tuck it all in. - Okay.
- Some of those are already--
I think these two down here
Might already have pillowcases on them.
- What grade would you give her on that?
- Maybe like a 2.5.
[both laugh] - ooh.
Okay. - Yikes.
- I like doing stuff together.
Like, when we cooked together,
That was a test. - Mm-hmm.
- I thought that was really good.
We split the tasks, and you kinda made sure
I was doing things the way it should have been done.
That was like a ten. - Yay.
- I like cooking together a lot.
- You know, he told me later, after the fact,
When we were cooking together,
Apparently when I was
Putting the salmon into the oven,
That he was checking me out.
♪ ♪
- Ooh, so sexy!
Put that salmon in the oven!
- And he's like, he's apparently
Checking me out, but I had no idea.
- I'm always looking for an opportunity.
- I'm always missing these things.
- What do you miss?
- I feel like I'm not very good
About reading signals for romance at all.
Things didn't really get spicy until
We got that little homework assignment,
When you, the experts,
Gave us the bottle of champagne,
And then a card full of love questions,
And talking about love... - That's a good recipe.
- Got things pretty heated.
- So what are y'all saying?
"it got spicy." what does that mean?
- We had sex. [laughs]
- Okay, and it seems like it went well.
Was it satisfying?
It's your first time. It's gotta be kind of awkward.
- I felt like it was intense.
- Oh. - Yeah.
- It was pretty intense. - It was.
- It was surprising and intense.
- In a good way?
- In a good way, yes. - Okay.
You said that you were used to, and enjoy, vanilla sex.
Was it pretty vanilla?
- Yeah.
So far, yeah.
- But I feel like
There's definitely room for us to have more variety.
♪ ♪
You know, we're just starting.
Probably most of the time, early on, it is mostly vanilla.
- I feel like the first few times,
It's just kind of the raw-- the moment.
And almost feels like...
Lust, a little bit.
Like, I just-- I've been waiting for this,
And it's happening now,
And I'm not even really thinking about
Anything other than, like,
Being in there.
- Okay.
- So... [both laughing]
- I heard you just say "the first few times."
Has it been more than once?
- Maybe.
♪ ♪
- Okay, okay.
- [laughs]
- Look at his face.
You're married, you're happy,
You're growing in intimacy, you're communicating well.
Is there any reason why you wouldn't
Be having sex more often?
- I mean, I think we should.
And ideally, if we could,
On a daily basis, or every other day,
It would be nice.
- Okay.
I agree. - No objections?
- I'm not saying no.
♪ ♪
- ♪ no place I'd rather be ♪
♪ with you, it's heaven in your arms, oh ♪
♪ with you, I never feel alone, no ♪
- Oh, my gosh, this is so cute. - It is.
- Oh, how nice.
- ♪ there's no place I'd rather be ♪
♪ ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, oh ♪
♪ there's nowhere I'd rather be ♪
- Yeah, so this is my family friend's house.
And I know how much you like swimming and, you know,
We didn't get to do it for our honeymoon,
So I wanted to give us an opportunity now.
- Awesome. Thank you, so sweet.
- Michaela and I have kinda got off the rails
For the last couple days, and I didn't envision
Running into so many roadblocks early on.
I honestly had a pretty rosy view of marriage
Before coming into this.
You want to get in? - Yeah, let's do it.
- Now that I'm actually married,
It's not everything that I expected.
But I'm still willing to, like,
Fight for our relationship.
♪ ♪
Ooh, dang, it's really warm.
- Oh, you ready! [laughs]
- I thought it was gonna be kind of cold.
This is really warm.
- Oh, heck yeah.
- Yay. - Oh, yes, oh.
- All right, let me see you swim.
- I know how to doggy paddle really well.
- Michaela.
[both laugh]
You look so--what's the word?
Awkward when you do this, though.
It's cute, though. It's cute.
I got it. - [laughs]
- Would you save me if I drowned?
- I would try.
- You would try? - I would, I would try.
So I'm a very strong swimmer,
Because, like, my dad taught me.
We were in galveston,
And he basically made me, like,
Swim against the current.
The qualities that my dad had--
He was kind, open, intuitive, and strong.
Those are the kind of things
That I'm looking for with my husband.
I can see those things with zackary.
Zack is a good person, he's a very good person.
I really do like his openness,
That he's willing to discover. He really is.
My plan with zack, moving forward,
Is really just to take it one day at a time.
And I'm willing to move forward,
And whatever the future looks like.
[upbeat music]
"there are a few questions to start you off
"that will help build and strengthen your bond.
"there are some blank cards
For each of you to fill out with your own questions."
We have to write down seven questions
That we want to ask each other.
What color you want? - That pink one right there.
Thank you. - Okay.
- I'm not gonna write in cursive,
'cause I know you can't read that.
- Shut up, I can too!
I am going to continue to show up for the marriage
And show up for our relationship
And show up for him as a wife,
Because if I start stepping back,
He may follow that type of lead.
♪ ♪
- "what was the first thing about me that attracted you?"
- Your face.
- Aww.
"I'm sorry for..."
- I am sorry for...
My knee-jerk reactions.
Not being able to express myself
Sooner rather than later. - Mm.
♪ ♪
If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?
- The amount of time you hold on
To things that you didn't like. - Mm.
So you think I hold on to grudges?
- Yes.
[chuckles]
- All right.
"what do you miss most about me right now?"
- I miss the happy person you were.
I hope that you can get back
To that person at 100%.
- I will, I will.
I will.
Oh.
♪ ♪
Okay.
- Okay, "the thing I need the most from you
In this marriage is..."
- Understanding.
And I mean understanding of where I'm coming from
When we have disagreements or arguments,
Just 'cause I feel like
It's best to be on the same page.
Us not being on the same page has kinda hurt us,
So just making sure that you kind of understand
Where I'm coming from.
But I can already tell you're working on that,
So I appreciate that.
- "do you like me for me?"
- Yes, I like you for you.
Do you doubt that?
- I don't know what you think sometimes.
- Okay.
So you don't know if I like you or not, right now?
- I don't know what you think.
- So did you know what I thought
When we first met?
Like, you knew I liked you then?
- Yeah. - But now you're unsure?
- Yes. - Mm.
I'm telling you right now,
Like I told you then, I do like you.
I like you for you.
♪ ♪
-" do you honestly see our future together?"
♪ ♪
- Um...
Right now, it is, like,
I can't see, like, a future.
It is doubtful.
- ♪ I always thought that this would last ♪
- But I am holding out hope.
- So I see a future, but he's not sure.
It puts an uneven balance on us.
For me, it's a helpless kind of state.
- ♪ I always thought you'd be there ♪
♪ how do we move on from here? ♪
- ♪ careful what you wish for ♪
♪ careful what you wish for ♪
♪ isn't it wonderful ♪
♪ getting everything I asked for ♪
♪ so very damn wonderful ♪
♪ living the dream ♪
♪ careful what you wish for ♪
- Maisey! Come here.
- ♪ careful what you wish for ♪
- Hi.
I made some salmon and some green beans
And some quinoa that's not gonna be good,
So-- - it looks fine.
- I mean, I have lots of different feelings.
There is an element to this where I do feel,
Like, rejected. So it's hard to see
More of the optimism
Sort of side to it.
- Hey, you got all the skin off that one, though.
That's difficult. - I know.
I am nervous, 'cause it's hard to be vulnerable
If you don't necessarily feel the same from the other person.
You want to sit here?
- That's my spot. - Okay.
But I don't give up.
I'm not a giver-upper.
That's who I am.
And I feel like we, as a couple,
Deserve to be honest with each other.
So if I have to be the one to kind of, like,
Force it a little bit-- that's not my nature at all,
But I feel like that's the role I'm kinda gonna have to take.
Earlier, me and michaela got some coffee.
We went and hung out in the-- I call it the penthouse.
You know, the--the top floor. - Yeah.
I haven't talked to zack at all.
- You haven't?
- I haven't talked to the guys much
The last couple days.
- You've been in your own zone.
Haven't you?
- Yeah.
I just think that I need a reset,
And that reset
Is probably more beneficial--
It's probably more realistic
At my house, at this point.
I do want to take that time and just
Kind of reflect on everything.
I needed to take a few nights
Just to see how I felt after that.
- That's the question at hand.
You feel the same? You feel better?
You feel-- - I feel better.
I think we still have a lot to talk about, obviously.
- Yeah, duh.
- And a lot to still decide on.
But I definitely feel better. - That's good.
- I don't know how much that's saying.
- It's better than saying you feel worse.
- Yeah.
I just feel like I was so shut down
And, like, defeated.
And I don't feel defeated anymore.
I'm more open about it than I was at the time.
And it was good for me.
'cause I was completely just shut down.
- Yeah.
- But, um...
If you sense me shutting down,
Call me out on my [bleep].
- Okay.
- Don't make any more effort
Because I'm being a certain way.
I just want you to be like, "what's wrong with you?"
- Sure, but, like, is there anything
You think that you can do?
- Yeah, no, of course I do.
And that's what I needed to go home
And think about: What I can do.
I need to be more vocal.
And I know that's something very easy to say.
But I got to truly do it. - Bingo.
- I'm at a way better place now than I was.
But that's just in regards
To me being open about how I feel.
I don't typically fight a lot for relationships,
Especially ones that I have doubts about.
And I still don't have those feelings
That I know that I need.
But I don't want to go back to dating.
I've casually dated a lot.
I want my marriage to work.
So yeah, I'm still looking forward and hopeful
That feeling that I'm lacking shows up.
- But, like, you feel, like, ready to, like, continue?
- Yeah, absolutely.
- ♪ your love is a risk ♪
♪ one that I wanna take ♪
♪ love is a risk ♪
♪ one that I wanna take ♪
♪ with you ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Oh, we got a package.
- A package that I would like?
I love sharpies. - Can you hold on?
Do you have add?
- A little bit. - Focus.
- [chuckles]
- All right, I'ma let you do that,
And then let me know when you're ready.
- Okay, I'm ready now.
- I'm very excited about doing an activity
That dr. Viviana suggested for us.
And I know it's gonna be something to kinda
Get us a little loose,
That could possibly lead into some more intimacy.
- Ooh, jackpot.
There's macarons in here. - Eat them.
- Do you want some almonds? - No.
- Strawberries? - I don't want any of that.
So I am excited to see what's ahead.
Here we go.
This is what we're doing.
Basically, these are the five senses.
I think each card is gonna touch on
Each one of those senses.
So first one.
Ooh.
"taste. Take a body shot."
- Yeah, we're not gonna do that.
- Why not?
- I have never done body shots,
And it's not something that I would want to do.
- All right, well, I'll still leave it there, just in case.
♪ ♪
Oh, I like this one.
"blindfold--"
- I'm not blindfolding with my lashes.
- Golly!
This is like pulling teeth.
But I'm definitely not gonna give up.
We're physically attracted to one another.
We have tons of chemistry.
Show me how you'd like me
To initiate sex.
That's out the window.
- Facts.
- But I want her to relax and let her guard down
And just focus on us right now,
And, you know, do the exercise
For what it's worth. Give it a chance.
"find a comfortable cuddle position.
"sync your breath for three minutes.
"and then describe how you feel
And what feelings came up."
All right. So all right.
- So, how do I-- you mean just like this?
- Like, yeah. Come up on me some more.
There you go. Like that.
It's a cuddle position.
All right? - Cuddle position.
- So I can feel you inhaling.
So I'ma--I'ma follow yours. - Let me see, hold on.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I reach out for you, out for you ♪
♪ you consume me, hold me, wrap yourself around me ♪
- It feels good to take deep breaths
In sync with my husband.
I'm most uncomfortable when it comes
To physical intimacy.
But I love to cuddle.
And I think that's more intimate to me,
Or more meaningful for me, emotionally.
A heart.
- So how do you feel? - I feel more relaxed.
- Do you? All right.
"touch foreheads, and tell each other
"what I love about being with you,
What I need, what I am challenged by."
All right.
Face each other.
- Can't really see your eyes this way though.
- Well, it's 'cause you're looking down.
You don't have to look down.
Like that, like we about to kiss.
Like this. - But now your nose--
Our noses are in the way. - Like that. Like that.
- What I love about being with you
Is waking up next to you every morning.
What I need from you is
Your continued patience.
And what I'm challenged by every day is your patience.
- Okay.
Okay, I like it. - [laughs]
- Okay.
What I love about being with you
Is your compassion.
- Aww, that's so sweet.
- What I need is desire.
And then, it's gonna tie into this one.
What I'm challenged by is your lack of intimacy.
- All intimacy?
- I didn't say your lack of sex,
You know what I mean?
- Yeah.
- I hear you.
I mean, it feels good to do these exercises,
Because I continue to learn what his needs are,
And I feel like we're making strides
Emotionally with each other.
- Yes, I feel closer to
Giving my husband a peck.
Stay tuned, it'll happen soon.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So tonight, um,
Has not been, um, a good night.
This evening, we were upstairs at the clubhouse,
Just relaxing.
And rachel, uh,
Calls me by another man's name.
♪ ♪
So I'm not very content. I'm not happy.
- ♪ but it's still you in my dreams ♪
♪ you that I see ♪
- Going in-in. - Going in-in.
Hi.
- Hi. - Hello.
Did they tell you what to expect?
- No. - Uh-uh.
- Oh, awesome, well, we are
Tantric sex instructors.
We have been teaching tantra
For twenty-something years,
And we'd love to share some secrets of intimacy with you
That can help propel your relationship.
- Bring it. - Bring it.
- All right, wonderful. - Good answer.
- Let's sit. - Oh, you're gonna love it.
- When one partner in a marriage is feeling
More attraction than the other,
Sometimes it can help to push them
Out of their comfort zones.
So we've encouraged brett and ryan
To take this tantric yoga class,
Which just might help them to open up
In more ways than one.
- What is your intention for today?
- I mean, I think the intention is
Better communication. - Yeah.
- Any kind of advice on how to,
You know, create more connection
And be physically closer
Is something I'm definitely gonna listen to.
- So the first sense that we're going to explore
Is the sense of sound.
[moans]
[laughs] - your turn, brett.
- No thanks.
[bell jingling]
[beads rushing]
- And now you can tease the lip.
- You're not supposed to let me bite it.
- Have it.
I mean--
♪ ♪
- Now we're gonna do touch.
♪ ♪
Now you want to share
What you like best about your partner.
- I think the first thing I told you
At the altar was your eyes.
Your eyes are incredible.
And you're a good person, and that's what I asked for.
I asked for a good person.
- I like...
Your beard.
[chuckles]
I kept making jokes, because
I feel a little uncomfortable.
You're very manly.
The last time I was intimate with anybody
Was two years ago.
We're just not there yet, you know?
So that's the part that makes it uncomfortable.
It's not my feelings about the subject matter or him.
♪ ♪
- I want this to progress. I want this to--
Everything I said that I'm waiting on,
I want it to happen, I do.
- Same.
I want to be your best friend.
I want you to trust me to communicate,
Tell me stuff, good and bad.
- Yeah.
- I really do crave emotional connections
And vulnerability from someone,
And that's something that makes me feel understood
And makes me like someone more.
And it feels like this is a step in the right direction.
- ♪ never give up, never give up ♪
- Are you melting? - Yeah.
- ♪ till we're making our way tonight ♪
[gentle music]
♪ ♪
- So how was your day today?
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- Everything last night,
The way you acted towards me,
The way you spoke to me,
The way you expressed that-- how you weren't happy was okay?
- I told you that. I told you I wasn't happy.
- The way you expressed that you were not happy,
The way you did it,
Was that okay?
- Apparently not. - There's no way.
My mom and my dad raised me better than that,
To let a man talk to me that way.
- Okay.
- I don't trust you at all.
- Same.
I'm just saying you called me by a different man's name.
- And I immediately apologized.
And it was a sincere apology.
But you locked me out.
[pounding on door]
- You disappear, I don't know what you're doing.
So I waited for-- - I was here with brittaney.
- Uh-huh. - I walked her out.
We spoke some more.
I didn't take anything with me.
You had gone to bed. - Mm-hmm.
- I come back,
And it's dead-bolted.
And so, I'm banging
On myrla's door.
[pounding on door]
[dog barks]
I'm banging on brett's door.
[pounding on door]
I'm banging on everybody's door.
I'm calling all my friends in the middle of the night
To tell them that my husband locked me out of the apartment.
- You know I lock the door every night.
I secure my property before I go to sleep.
- Without your wife home?
- I don't know where you were at
Or what you were doing. - Then ask.
- Like, you just took off. - Then ask.
I feel like you don't care.
♪ ♪
- I don't know.
I really don't know, seriously.
♪ ♪
- I feel like I hit a wall.
I feel like I'm talking to a wall.
He doesn't care.
I don't feel that you are
Remorseful at all. - Okay.
- I don't feel that you're apologetic at all.
- Okay.
- And yeah,
I cannot be your wife.
♪ ♪
- Okay.
Makes sense. Good.
Awesome.
Sounds good.
Okay.
- So I'm gonna go pack my things.
- Okay.
All right. - I'm gonna do that.
- I will help you if you need any help.
I think there's some boxes in the closet as well.
- Yeah, okay.
♪ ♪
- Are we done?
Why do I gotta sit here? I mean.
- I'm good.
It's not my choice.
- You don't want to fight for your marriage, though?
- She already gave up, so there's--
I'm not gonna--again, I'm not gonna convince her.
If she comes back-- if she circles back and says,
"oh, well, maybe I was premature with my decision,"
Then, okay, we'll talk about it.
But as far as right now is concerned, no.
You made the decision, okay. Roll.
- Me giving up with things left unsaid
Is something typical for me.
And I always go back and regret.
"why didn't I say this?
Why didn't I let him know this?"
And there's something I was holding on to
That I felt was just necessary to share.
Okay, so--
And I would like you to give me eye contact
When I speak, just so I can
See if you are listening. - Okay.
- Because I don't want you to think that
Because of one argument last night, it's, like,
"damn, she ran for the hills."
It has been a build-up.
I wrote this two weeks ago,
And I would really like you to listen to this.
"you are my priority. But so am I.
"I am also my own priority.
"I thought my future was gonna be
"a planning process with my husband,
"yet I married someone
That has it all planned out for me."
We had a communication
About, "what are we gonna do after decision day?"
And you want me to immediately move into your house.
And it's been the bank accounts.
And it's like, are you gonna get another car?
"so I really thought there was nothing
"we couldn't work through, but I'm starting to feel
"you are a little controlling,
And that's my deal-breaker." - okay.
- "now I feel like you're not willing to compromise with me,
"because I don't fit your perfect mold
Of what you wanted in a wife."
♪ ♪
- So I got a question. - Yes.
- So I feel kind of, like, betrayed.
I'm like, well, where was all this before?
Like, everything was all puppies and rainbows
For a whole month. You kept this story
That you had in there a secret the whole time.
This is the first time I'm hearing about it
When you're like, you had this all bundled up,
And then you were just, like,
"well, I'm just gonna tell him today."
Help me understand how you think that's right.
By not communicating there, it's like, I don't--
I'm just not seeing it.
- I'm very willing to be, like, "I should have told you."
I could have handled it better.
I can admit when you are right and I'm wrong.
You cannot.
You have not taken accountability in any of this.
And if you have, please tell me what it is,
Because it has been lost on me.
♪ ♪
- So accountability for what?
- Why we're struggling right now.
Your wife, who--
- Oh, you mean the wife that gave up?
- Exactly, your wife that is giving up--
- That didn't communicate with me
About these things that actually, like--
- Whatever you want to take it as,
It wasn't one-- - that's exactly what it is.
That's factual. - It wasn't one-sided.
- That's factual. - You have part in this too,
Of me wanting to give up.
- I don't want to convince you
To want to be in this marriage
If you don't want to be in it.
I don't want to paint this beautiful picture
And say, "oh, my god, I'm sorry.
It'll never happen, baby. Blah, blah."
And even though I do feel that way,
And I want to say that-- - why wouldn't you say that?
- That's what-- that's what I just said.
- That would make me feel great.
- I know that. - You should say that.
- I don't want you to think
That I'm saying it just because,
And then it's gonna continue to keep persisting.
- It's make-- it's making it worse,
You not saying it.
♪ ♪
- ♪ give me love ♪
♪ everybody wants love ♪
♪ send me back ♪
[knocking on door] - there's a basket.
Oh, my god. What the heck?
This looks like there's a costume in here.
Oh, my god. [both laughing]
What?
Uh-oh, what is this? - Oh, man.
- Oh, boy.
- Would you like to do the honors?
- [chuckles] okay.
I am just feeling all-around happy right now.
- What do you think? - [laughs]
Wait! Oh, no, the back
Is gonna be totally open.
I'm feeling emotionally and physically connected
With my husband. I'm digging it all.
Your heart rate seems to be elevated.
I'm looking forward to
These little homework assignments.
It's the sexy dice.
Because I know johnny and I are a pair.
We're all-in, and we're ready.
Oh. - Is your hair okay like this?
- Yeah, it's fine.
I can't see anything.
[dice clattering]
♪ ♪
- ♪ you know you don't have to say it twice ♪
♪ we feeling all right ♪
- Nice. - ♪ maybe tonight ♪
♪ we'll find our place ♪
- Ah.
I'm getting some bonuses here.
[both chuckle]
I like, I like, I like.
- Does blowing neck do anything for you?
- Yeah, followed with the kisses.
- Don't even tell me what it is, just do it.
- Okay, okay.
Okay, don't freak out.
[dice clattering]
[laughs] - don't tell me, just do it.
- [laughing] oh, my god. Oh, no.
I'm gonna have to guide you, 'cause location.
Sit down slowly.
Okay. - Okay.
- I think you should probably
Lie down with the rug.
- Oh! - Oh, are you--oh, sorry.
All right.
♪ ♪
[laughs]
- Whoa, where is this going?
I like. I like this.
Let me know if you need any help.
- No, it's just--that's it. - Oh, okay, all right.
- That's good, that's good. [both laugh]
- Oh, my god! - [laughs]
That's, um, that was it.
- Oh, that's it?
That was cool, I guess.
I feel like I've got to do a little shopping tonight
And replace the body parts dice
With, like, a little more rated-r dice,
And when I will tell her we're gonna play it again,
And roll it, and she'll be like,
"whoa, what is this?"
[dice clattering]
♪ ♪
- Huh? Ah! [laughs]
Okay, I'm liking this already.
♪ ♪
Is this still on the dice? - Maybe.
♪ ♪
This is where I'm supposed to kiss.
- I'm digging it.
- ♪ take me back to the nights we shared ♪
♪ sneaking out thinking we weren't scared ♪
♪ spending time with the lights turned low ♪
♪ you're the only thing ♪
♪ I've ever known ♪
- I should go invest in the raunchier version of this.
- Mm. - [chuckles]
- ♪ we'll take them down, down, one at a time ♪
♪ no, they ain't never giving up ♪
- Rachel, where-- where are you bringing us?
- ♪ never stop so put your hands up ♪
- I think we have some aggression we need to release.
- Oh, here. - Some more than others, maybe.
So today we are going to
Smash things. - [gasps]
- [laughs] - oh, my god.
♪ ♪
- What up, what up, what up?
- What's up, gil?
- [bleep].
- You're not supposed to talk during a swing.
- What up?
- Welcome to amateur hour, man.
- Are you good at this? - Absolutely not.
- Dude, want to step up?
- No, no, no. Go ahead, go ahead.
I'm gonna take some-- I'm gonna take some lessons.
I don't even think I'm gonna be able to hit the ball.
- Yeah, it's actually more fun
Than I thought it was gonna be.
- [laughs] - I'm glad I got good reflexes.
- That's the second time johnny almost hit me, yo.
♪ ♪
- My man out there looking like jack nicklaus.
- I know. Damn, yo.
- How am I supposed to hold this?
- Yeah, ryan, come teach us, man.
Like, come on. - Yeah, why don't you
Show us how to actually--
- I just had to take the wrapping off this one.
I haven't hit it yet. That's way too high, though.
- Fellas, fellas, fellas.
- You want to make a v. - What up, what up, what up?
- Jose don't need lessons.
Jose knows already. - Nah, man.
♪ ♪
- Oh, [bleep]. - Did you almost hit me?
- ♪ across the plains ♪
♪ down the whole way ♪ - oh.
- ♪ better run for cover ♪ - [bleep].
- ♪ get out of the way ♪ - damn it.
♪ ♪
- Look how beautiful.
- Oh, my god. - We get to destroy everything.
- Wait, wait, I want to throw that glass
At the wall so bad. - Aww.
- I really wish michaela was here too.
- I know.
- Sucks not having all the girls together.
Unfortunately, michaela, she's not feeling good today,
So she's not gonna join us at the rage room.
You know, it feels like a piece is missing.
- How do I look, guys? How do I look?
- You look like a sexy construction worker.
- Oh, my lord. - Look at you.
- The last couple of days have been
Very emotionally stressful for me.
I'm a very trusting person
Until I have a reason not to trust a person,
And now I have many reasons not to trust jose.
We've reached a breaking point.
And so I have a lot to think about.
But right now, I'm ready to just get some frustration out.
Here's to getting locked out!
[smashing]
- ♪ I gotta go now, I gotta go now ♪
- Whoo!
[glass shattering]
- Ahh!
- ♪ I can't stop now ♪
- Die!
- [laughs] [smashing]
- [screaming]
- [laughs]
Bao, she's like a silent, deadly...
- I'ma smash!
- Sledgehammer-wielding maniac.
[glass shattering]
- ♪ I can't stop now, I can't stop now ♪
♪ I can't stop now, stop now, stop now ♪
- Yeah, that's just not how
I choose to do fun things in life.
- I just want to share that
I got my first kiss.
- Hey, man. - Hey!
We should drink to that!
- I gotta ask, how was it?
- Surprising. It came out of nowhere,
'cause I thought she was coming for a hug,
And then she kissed me on the lips, and I was like,
"you sure you wanted to do that?
Like, did you miss my cheeks?"
Oh!
- Was it, like, one peck and then done?
Or was it, like, a little peck and then--
- No, it was a peck, it was a peck.
And then--and then I was like--
I asked her, "you sure
That's what you wanted to do?" - uh-huh.
- And then she kissed me again. - Hey!
You got two kisses. - Nice, nice.
- So you have kissed! Oh, my god!
Was there something that sparked the kiss?
- It was just, like, our usual conversation,
We were just talking.
- You initiated it?
- I had to. That was, like, the thing.
He was like, "I'm not even gonna try."
- That's so cute.
- My heart, I needed some warmth in my heart.
- Me too! - And that warmed up my heart.
- Two days ago. - Come here!
- [all speaking at once]
- Oh, my god! - Oh, my god.
- My husband is truly amazing.
He is so patient.
He got his first kiss
When it felt good for me and comfortable,
And I love it, I love it.
I needed somebody who was patient.
Thank you, jesus.
- Yeah, man. So past couple nights
Has been-- it's been pretty crazy.
- Why is that?
- Last night, my wife was like, "you know what?
Like, I don't think I can do this no more."
She was like, "I want to get a divorce."
♪ ♪
Like, okay, so-- - what?
- Wait, seriously? - What?
- Yeah, yeah, I swear. I can't make this up.
- Whoo! - Yeah.
So I was like, okay. And I was trying to understand,
Right, so where--her mindset.
So, if I can back up a little bit,
It started, like, midweek.
You know, we were at the clubhouse, whatever.
She called me by a different man's name,
And I was like, "ooh, I don't know about that, right?"
Maybe I over-- overreacted, I don't know.
So it gets, like, a little heated,
And I go take a leak.
I come back outside, and then she's gone.
So I go, I lock the apartment door.
I go to sleep.
And of course, I gotta work the next day.
So apparently, I lock her out.
♪ ♪
- I understand locking the doors and all,
But not when your wife--
When you know your wife's not at the house.
Did you hit her up
To see if she was gonna come back?
- No, I did not. But it wasn't intentional.
- He "accidentally"
Locked the dead bolt.
- There are definitely some holes--
Just things that I don't think I would do.
- I don't know if I necessarily believe that all the way.
Maybe he was just frustrated and just did it out of spite.
- I've never accidentally locked the dead bolt.
- So she says she wants a divorce.
Like, how can it go from being so good
To now "I want a divorce?"
I'm pretty sure there's some details
That we're not getting in this story.
Y'all argue over her calling you a different name,
And now she's like,
"nah, let's get a divorce."
Like, something's missing.
♪ ♪
- ♪ not okay ♪
- ♪ okay ♪
[tense music]
- You know, y'all argue over
Her calling you a different name,
And now she's like,
"nah, let's get a divorce."
Like, something's missing.
- What I'm hearing,
The only thing that she has done
In this whole situation
Was call you by another man's name,
And then she wasn't at the apartment, right?
- Right. - So what was the straw
That broke the camel's back?
Like, why did she-- like, why did she say done?
'cause for someone to say done--
- Yeah, there's gotta be more. - That's serious.
- Okay, so that, I don't want to say I--I don't know,
But I don't completely understand
Where that's coming from.
- I feel my husband doesn't even care for me.
Technically, legally, we're married,
But emotionally, we are not married.
♪ ♪
When I finally confronted him,
He didn't care he locked me out.
It felt like talking to a little child,
Talking to a wall.
I'm like, I tell him straight up,
"I'm not hearing what I need to hear."
And he's like, "well, I don't want to tell you
What you want to hear."
- Like, take husband and wife out of it,
That's human decency.
- And I'm telling you, it's that body language,
The unresponsiveness,
Deflecting blame and pinning it back on me.
- I just--I just feel like he's--
It's showing that his ego
Is super, super vulnerable and sensitive.
- He was very upset
With the mistake in the name.
- He results into, like, retaliation tactics.
- Just felt very vindictive.
- Yeah. - Oh, yeah.
- Mm-hmm. - Big time.
- You call me by another man's name,
Then you take off. Like, you know, so, I don't--
I don't know that I actually, like, trust her.
♪ ♪
And unfortunately, I don't know if y'all remember--
We were on the catamaran back on honeymoon,
And she did confess that, "hey,
I cheated once-- you know, once upon a time."
- Never have I ever cheated.
- [laughs]
- Oh! - Uh-huh.
- Damn, I married a cheater.
- What else has she done to make you believe
She's sleeping around?
- Well, not--I wouldn't say sleeping around.
But if you call me by a different name,
And then you disappear one night--
- Has she ever called you another name before?
Or this was the first time?
- Nah, this the first time.
- I gotta say, it's gonna come out.
♪ ♪
She called you johnny.
I don't know how you take that to, like,
Maybe she's sleeping around.
Like, she called you johnny. - Johnny?
- I'm pretty sure it's this johnny.
"johnny," "jose," it's very familiar "j", right?
- Yeah, "j" names.
- And we're always talking about each other,
Always with each other, so-- - exactly.
♪ ♪
- I honestly don't feel for him,
'cause in my mind, he kind of caused it.
But I also think that he can come out of it.
And I think it could still work.
But he has to change his thinking
About their relationship right now.
- As of right now, where y'all at?
Like, right this moment.
- You still love her? - Oh, yeah.
I even sent her a text before I got here.
I was like, "hey, I know you don't want to hear this.
But I miss you and I love you." - yeah, and she--
Does she still feel the same way about you?
- I do not love him anymore.
♪ ♪
- He broke a major boundary, though.
That's, like, mm-mm. - Now I'm in
Totally unmarked territory.
Like, could I regain trust?
Can I love again, the same person?
- ♪ am I losing my sanity? ♪
♪ I'm over my head ♪ - I had no idea.
- ♪ I'm a prisoner here ♪
♪ they'll never let me leave ♪
♪ ♪
- [screaming]
- Still to come this season,
On "married at first sight."
- ♪ you walked in and blew the roof off ♪
- "I'm still loving you all day and all night,
Always and for the rest of my life."
- Hey!
- You're so cute. Aren't we fun?
- I believe that I'm falling in love with her.
- I was weak. - Yeah.
Quite weak, I will say.
- Got a text from a friend
That you are on a dating app
And matched with someone that I know.
Decision day is coming up,
And things are coming to a head.
♪ ♪
- Is there anyone else
That you have some kind of affinity for?
♪ ♪
- Is there someone else?
- I'm here, willing to do
All this stuff for this person,
And this person doesn't even care for me.
- I feel like you're a brat at times.
- I'm not going anywhere.
I made a promise,
And I intend to see it through fully.
- This is a joke. - You're a joke.
- I [bleep] up, okay.
So what the [bleep] you want me to do?
- Get out!
Get out!
- ♪ this is the time of our lives ♪
- Marriage isn't easy.
- We all, you know, have ups and downs.
- But we're growing as a couple.
- I'm not gonna give up hope.
- It's time for you to make a decision.
♪ ♪
- Do you want to stay married?
- Or do you want to get a divorce?
- Oh, my god.
♪ ♪
- ♪ this is the time of our lives ♪