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- Marrying a stranger
is insane.
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- I'm doing it.
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I would love
to know what love is
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And fall in love with this man
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Who's gonna be at
the other end of that aisle.
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- Please stand.
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Over three weeks ago,
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Ten singles took
a brave leap of faith
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In order to find love.
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- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheers and applause]
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- Oh, yeah,
this is love at first sight.
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I got exactly what I wanted.
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[upbeat music]
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- [shouts]
- last time,
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Our couples explored
what it would take
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To fall in love
in the real world.
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- Aww.
[goat bleats]
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- Last night,
I did say "I love you,"
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And he said it back,
like I knew he would.
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- It took a hot little minute.
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- I grabbed a knife,
and I was like, "say it back."
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- I felt my life
was threatened,
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So I did tell her back
that I loved her.
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- Aww.
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- You know how I said,
like, I want to work
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To get back to where we were?
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Like, this is what
I mean by that.
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Like, doing stuff like this.
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I want to keep having nights
like these, days like these,
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To kind of us to--
you know, to fall in love.
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I'm happy,
I'm happy as [bleep].
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- ♪ we are golden,
yes, we are ♪
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- I am lucky you're my husband.
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Johnny and I may or may not
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Have consummated the marriage.
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May or may not have.
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- It was, uh...
[explosion]
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- I'm definitely starting
to, like, feel, like,
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Feelings that I want
to feel for you.
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I just want to just know more
about how you feel.
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- I'm still waiting
to feel things
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That are slower than
I might have anticipated.
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♪ ♪
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- For me to keep going
in the path that we're going,
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I need consistency
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And not feeling like
you just want to be married
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Because of the thought
of being married.
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I want to feel wanted.
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- ♪ won't you move
a little close to me ♪
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- And tonight, with less than
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Five weeks
until decision day...
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- Love you too much.
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- Our couples must explore
ways to go deeper...
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- What I need from you
is your continued patience.
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- In order to form
a foundation
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Of trust and intimacy
in their marriages
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Before they have to make
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The biggest decision
of their lives.
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- I am just feeling
all around happy right now.
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- I did want to share
that I got my first kiss.
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- Hey, man.
- Hey!
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We should drink to that.
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- I'm not saying that
your emotions aren't valid.
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- I just wanted this so bad,
and, like,
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I'm not trying to hurt anyone,
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I'm not trying
to beat down on anyone.
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- But I've been in
a lot of situations where
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The other person isn't sure.
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♪ ♪
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If you don't feel it,
you don't feel it.
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♪ ♪
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- My husband locked me
out of the apartment.
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To getting locked out!
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I don't trust you at all.
- Same.
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- I cannot be your wife.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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[upbeat music]
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♪ ♪
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- Good morning.
- Good morning.
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The food smell woke me up.
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- Try that.
- This?
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- Yeah.
- Is it good?
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- I usually put an egg in it,
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But I figured
I won't do that to her.
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- It has now been
over three weeks
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Since our couples met
and married at first sight,
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And only two weeks since
they moved in together
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As husband and wife.
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- Can I tell you a secret?
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Yesterday,
after you went to work,
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I went back to sleep.
- I knew you did.
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I knew you did.
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See you tonight.
- Okay, bye.
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- Love you too much.
- Have a good day.
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- As they continue to form
their new lives together,
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It's important
to strengthen their connection
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By delving into deeper levels
of trust and intimacy
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In their marriage.
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- Morning yoga session.
First trial.
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[chill hip-hop music]
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♪ ♪
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- Reaching new levels
of togetherness
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In this accelerated process
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Often requires vulnerability,
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Which can be raw and intense.
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But giving this process
everything they've got
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May be the difference
between staying married
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And getting a divorce.
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- Oh, these are my shoes.
Aren't these so cute?
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Look, I like these too.
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- Oh my gosh,
if it isn't purses and shoes.
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- Those are fire, aren't they?
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- No.
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[both chuckle]
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[exciting upbeat music]
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ well, see, my vision,
I made winning my mission ♪
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♪ from the very beginning ♪
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♪ in my flesh
I felt this feeling ♪
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♪ I been reliving the moment ♪
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♪ a champion has arisen ♪
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♪ we gonna holla because ♪
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♪ shout it out, shout it out ♪
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♪ you fools about
to bear witness ♪
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♪ we are the victors ♪
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- What up, man?
- How you been?
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You already got the wraps on?
- Yeah, yeah, I know.
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- All right, here we go.
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- Yeah, it's been
a long week, bro.
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Been a long week.
- Yeah? It's been a long week?
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- Yeah, man.
A lot has happened to us.
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- Do you feel like things are
moving in the right direction?
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And do you think that she's
been making conscious efforts?
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- Yeah,
specifically last night.
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So, after dinner,
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We were gonna have,
like, a movie night
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At the new apartment.
- Mm-hmm.
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- But I wanted to go back
to my apartment,
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Just to get, like, my apple tv,
so we can watch
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One of the movies
that she wanted to watch.
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When I got back
to my apartment,
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I was like,
hmm, it's already late.
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Let me call michaela
and tell her, "hey,
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"I'm gonna sleep at my place.
Let's just, like,
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Do movie night, you know,
tomorrow--another day."
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So even though she was upset
about that moment,
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She handled it
in a really good way.
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Like, she called me again,
after we hung up.
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She said, "hey, zack,
I just want to let you know
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"that, like, you know,
I was looking forward to it,
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And that hurt me."
and then, you know,
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I talked her through,
you know, my reasoning.
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- Right, so when she,
like, expressed, like,
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How she felt about it, I guess,
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So she was, like, calm,
and she didn't really,
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Like, blow up about it?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, yeah.
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It was a cool conversion.
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Just exactly what I wanted,
you know.
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So I think we're making
progress, I mean, all around.
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Everything is going
really well right now.
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Michaela's making efforts.
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I told her some of my
boundaries, some of my issues,
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And she's definitely
making efforts,
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And you can see that,
and I really appreciate it.
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I'm happy.
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- ♪ 'cause I'm
a born fighter ♪
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♪ oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
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♪ oh, oh, oh ♪
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♪ I'm a born fighter ♪
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- ♪ take my words
right from my mouth ♪
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♪ kiss me, love me,
shout it out ♪
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♪ let me be your only girl ♪
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- Hi!
- Hello!
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- Maisey, no.
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- Each marriage,
for our five couples,
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Is uniquely different
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And comes with its own set
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Of strengths and challenges.
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- Hi!
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- Trust and intimacy
are the cornerstone
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Of any successful,
long-lasting relationship.
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And these couples
have to make a decision
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About their marriages
in just over four weeks,
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So it's important
for them to dig deep
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And build trust
in an accelerated way.
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It's so good to see you.
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- Oh, my god,
it's so good to see you.
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It's been so long.
I mean, it's not been
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That long,
but it's been long enough.
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- Let's start with
how, like, things are going
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With your connection right now.
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What's going on,
like, affection-wise?
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What's happening?
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- I like how affectionate
he is.
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He's the most affectionate man
that I've ever been with.
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- Do you consider yourself
very affectionate?
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- I am very touchy and...
- Yes.
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- Stuff like that.
- Yes.
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- But we've only been
affectionate to a point.
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- Correct.
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- Have y'all seen
each other naked?
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- [laughs] no.
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- What's the deal?
'cause both of you
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Are pretty sexual people.
- Very.
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- And if you're getting along
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And you've gotten to the point
where you like one another...
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- I definitely like him.
- You definitely like him?
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Do you like her?
- I do like her.
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But I have questions
that I need
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To personally figure out.
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I know her feelings
and I know her emotions,
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And I don't want
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Her to take that
to another level
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That I'm not 100% certain.
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- It sounds like
she's further along
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Towards liking you.
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Is that--is that
what I'm hearing?
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Like, she's got more feelings
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For you than you have for her?
- That's how I perceive it.
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- I hate saying that,
but I think...
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- Is that true, though?
- That's fair, yeah.
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- Okay.
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Has it always been
that way, though?
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I don't know that I was--
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- No, I feel like we started
so incredibly,
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But I kinda hit a spot,
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And I've been stuck
at this spot.
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And I mean, you've--I'm sure
you've picked up on that.
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- "picked up on it?"
you haven't told her
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That you hit a spot?
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- Didn't know.
- Okay.
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So why have you struggled
with sharing this with her?
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- 'cause I keep thinking that
it's gonna--it's gonna come,
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It's gonna come,
it's gonna come.
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Like, she's awesome.
She's incredibly attractive.
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But I'm just waiting
for that feeling that I'm like,
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"yes, yes, yes."
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- Are we talking about, like,
we're waiting for you
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To feel, like,
sexually attracted to her?
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Are you saying you're waiting
for, like, butterflies?
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What is that feeling?
- Yeah, I want the butterflies.
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I want to be speechless.
I want my breath taken away,
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And the butterflies are exactly
what I've been waiting to feel.
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[somber music]
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- What are you thinking
over there?
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♪ ♪
253
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I can't help but think you're
somewhere else right now.
254
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- I just feel like...
255
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♪ ♪
256
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I've been in a lot of--
257
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♪ ♪
258
00:10:08,333 --> 00:10:12,018
That I've been in
a lot of situations where
259
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The other person isn't sure.
260
00:10:13,688 --> 00:10:16,673
♪ ♪
261
00:10:16,766 --> 00:10:20,434
- Sure about what, though?
- About me.
262
00:10:20,528 --> 00:10:23,604
There's something not there.
263
00:10:23,624 --> 00:10:25,365
They don't know.
264
00:10:25,459 --> 00:10:26,699
"you're great, but..."
265
00:10:26,793 --> 00:10:27,959
"you're amazing, but..."
266
00:10:28,111 --> 00:10:29,794
It's too familiar.
267
00:10:30,021 --> 00:10:32,113
♪ ♪
268
00:10:32,132 --> 00:10:35,300
And I didn't want that
to be this.
269
00:10:35,527 --> 00:10:37,785
♪ ♪
270
00:10:37,804 --> 00:10:39,954
- I haven't said
271
00:10:39,973 --> 00:10:42,456
A negative thing about you
through all this.
272
00:10:42,550 --> 00:10:46,052
I'm just waiting on that piece.
273
00:10:46,204 --> 00:10:47,962
♪ ♪
274
00:10:47,981 --> 00:10:50,315
- If you don't feel it,
you don't feel it.
275
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♪ ♪
276
00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,386
[gentle music]
277
00:11:03,405 --> 00:11:07,457
♪ ♪
278
00:11:10,228 --> 00:11:13,821
- I so want to help y'all
get to a different place,
279
00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:15,581
Because I know it's possible.
280
00:11:15,676 --> 00:11:18,492
Can we break down these
feelings a little bit more?
281
00:11:18,586 --> 00:11:20,161
I know it's
probably uncomfortable,
282
00:11:20,255 --> 00:11:22,071
But I'm just really hoping
283
00:11:22,090 --> 00:11:23,756
That it helps you
to get some clarity,
284
00:11:23,909 --> 00:11:25,925
Because I can tell this is--
285
00:11:26,077 --> 00:11:28,594
This is hurting you,
286
00:11:28,747 --> 00:11:30,021
But it's hurting him
in a different way,
287
00:11:30,173 --> 00:11:32,673
And I'm afraid that if
we don't break it down,
288
00:11:32,693 --> 00:11:34,175
He's going to continue
to have a wall up
289
00:11:34,269 --> 00:11:36,920
To protect you.
- Yeah.
290
00:11:36,938 --> 00:11:38,922
- And things just won't
get off the ground.
291
00:11:38,940 --> 00:11:41,257
And if you would prefer
292
00:11:41,350 --> 00:11:43,517
That I have this conversation
with him alone...
293
00:11:43,537 --> 00:11:45,261
- I would--I would like that.
294
00:11:45,354 --> 00:11:47,263
- We'd do that.
So if that's something
295
00:11:47,356 --> 00:11:48,373
You'd like to do,
let's do that.
296
00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,099
- Yeah.
- Okay?
297
00:11:50,118 --> 00:11:53,603
Okay, so I'm gonna
ask you to depart.
298
00:11:53,621 --> 00:11:57,549
♪ ♪
299
00:11:57,776 --> 00:12:00,051
- Now I'm instantly feeling
like that's making it worse.
300
00:12:00,278 --> 00:12:02,036
♪ ♪
301
00:12:02,055 --> 00:12:03,796
- We'll figure it out.
302
00:12:03,890 --> 00:12:05,615
Figure it out.
303
00:12:05,633 --> 00:12:07,058
♪ ♪
304
00:12:07,210 --> 00:12:09,728
[quietly] what's going on?
305
00:12:09,879 --> 00:12:12,897
- It's a type thing that's--
that I'm stuck at.
306
00:12:13,124 --> 00:12:15,216
It's a blend of that,
and she is
307
00:12:15,235 --> 00:12:17,885
More high-anxiety, high-stress,
than I am.
308
00:12:17,904 --> 00:12:20,313
I'm very...
- Even-keeled.
309
00:12:20,465 --> 00:12:22,148
- Even-keeled,
and I've even found myself
310
00:12:22,242 --> 00:12:24,150
Having to be more so,
311
00:12:24,302 --> 00:12:26,652
Just because I'm trying to
calm everything down so much.
312
00:12:26,805 --> 00:12:28,580
- Okay,
let's just jump in there.
313
00:12:28,731 --> 00:12:32,642
If you're looking for something
that's drastically different,
314
00:12:32,660 --> 00:12:34,827
Really think about why.
315
00:12:34,980 --> 00:12:36,070
- Yeah.
316
00:12:36,164 --> 00:12:38,815
- What is it that you think
317
00:12:38,833 --> 00:12:40,908
Would make a marriage
that you could be, like,
318
00:12:41,002 --> 00:12:42,576
Truly invested in
319
00:12:42,596 --> 00:12:45,838
If she looked like your type?
320
00:12:45,932 --> 00:12:48,600
- I hate saying that it's the
feeling that I'm waiting on,
321
00:12:48,751 --> 00:12:50,994
Because it truly is just
322
00:12:51,012 --> 00:12:53,587
That feeling of coming home
and being like,
323
00:12:53,607 --> 00:12:54,831
"I can't wait to just
324
00:12:54,924 --> 00:12:55,999
"put my wife against the wall
325
00:12:56,017 --> 00:12:57,350
And make out with my wife."
326
00:12:57,444 --> 00:12:59,778
Like, I want that feeling,
and I'm not getting it.
327
00:12:59,929 --> 00:13:02,447
Like, I want to feel that.
328
00:13:02,598 --> 00:13:04,616
And I don't know
how to get there.
329
00:13:04,767 --> 00:13:06,267
- I mean, I'm speaking
330
00:13:06,286 --> 00:13:09,345
For a lot of the married people
out there:
331
00:13:09,364 --> 00:13:13,107
That's kind of hollywood stuff.
332
00:13:13,201 --> 00:13:16,961
I mean, it's a fantasy.
333
00:13:17,113 --> 00:13:20,781
So if you're going
to try to build
334
00:13:20,801 --> 00:13:23,134
A long-term marriage
over something
335
00:13:23,286 --> 00:13:26,195
That probably only happens,
like, on birthdays
336
00:13:26,289 --> 00:13:27,713
Or if you drank
a little too much
337
00:13:27,808 --> 00:13:28,973
Or if you're on vacation
338
00:13:29,125 --> 00:13:31,309
And there's no cares
in the world,
339
00:13:31,536 --> 00:13:34,479
I don't know,
you'll probably end up single.
340
00:13:34,706 --> 00:13:36,889
- [exhales]
341
00:13:37,042 --> 00:13:41,069
♪ ♪
342
00:13:43,231 --> 00:13:46,157
[upbeat music]
343
00:13:46,384 --> 00:13:50,811
♪ ♪
344
00:13:50,831 --> 00:13:52,813
- Hello, beautiful.
- Hello, aww.
345
00:13:52,833 --> 00:13:54,057
- How are you?
346
00:13:54,075 --> 00:13:55,816
- I'm doing well.
347
00:13:55,910 --> 00:13:57,001
- How you doing?
- Hi.
348
00:13:57,153 --> 00:13:58,002
- What's up,
what's up, what's up?
349
00:13:58,154 --> 00:14:00,229
How you doing?
Long time no see.
350
00:14:00,248 --> 00:14:01,747
- I'm so glad to see
you're doing better.
351
00:14:01,900 --> 00:14:02,841
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
352
00:14:03,068 --> 00:14:05,902
Welcome to our apartment.
- Yes, thank you.
353
00:14:05,995 --> 00:14:08,162
Y'all have definitely
moved in...Ish.
354
00:14:08,181 --> 00:14:10,073
- Yeah, kind of, yeah.
- I will say it doesn't look...
355
00:14:10,091 --> 00:14:11,424
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- As full as some
356
00:14:11,518 --> 00:14:13,743
Of the other apartments,
but maybe that's a good thing.
357
00:14:13,836 --> 00:14:15,169
That could be
just a style thing.
358
00:14:15,188 --> 00:14:16,095
- It is, yes.
359
00:14:16,247 --> 00:14:17,914
- All right.
360
00:14:17,932 --> 00:14:20,841
So where are you tonight?
361
00:14:20,861 --> 00:14:23,269
I obviously, I'm--
I'm privy to a lot,
362
00:14:23,363 --> 00:14:26,089
And I'm here to talk to you
about trust and intimacy
363
00:14:26,107 --> 00:14:28,682
'cause it's super important
for a marriage.
364
00:14:28,702 --> 00:14:30,034
Where are y'all?
365
00:14:30,261 --> 00:14:31,944
What's going on
with your trust levels?
366
00:14:32,097 --> 00:14:34,038
- I think my trust level is
367
00:14:34,265 --> 00:14:37,266
At a 50%.
368
00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:39,936
- Hold on.
Sorry, wait.
369
00:14:40,029 --> 00:14:42,547
So, your trust level's at 50%?
- Yeah.
370
00:14:42,698 --> 00:14:44,865
- Why? Like, why?
'cause I don't--
371
00:14:44,885 --> 00:14:46,109
- I think my feelings my hurt.
372
00:14:46,127 --> 00:14:47,368
Not "I think."
my feelings were hurt.
373
00:14:47,387 --> 00:14:48,945
- Oh, last night?
- Yeah, with the movie night.
374
00:14:49,038 --> 00:14:52,465
And, like, 'cause a few times,
375
00:14:52,559 --> 00:14:55,134
Like, I've--you said you were
gonna to do something,
376
00:14:55,286 --> 00:14:57,044
Or we were--that we were
gonna do something...
377
00:14:57,063 --> 00:14:58,379
- Yeah, I know what you mean.
378
00:14:58,473 --> 00:15:00,231
- And then it didn't happen.
379
00:15:00,458 --> 00:15:02,458
It feels like a lot
380
00:15:02,551 --> 00:15:07,146
To kinda be essentially
blown off.
381
00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:08,464
- Interesting.
382
00:15:08,483 --> 00:15:10,057
I don't think we're good at,
383
00:15:10,151 --> 00:15:11,300
Like, you know, understanding--
384
00:15:11,394 --> 00:15:12,802
Understanding one another.
385
00:15:12,820 --> 00:15:15,079
You know, we're not
good with at all.
386
00:15:15,231 --> 00:15:18,324
- What about for you?
Where's your trust level?
387
00:15:18,476 --> 00:15:20,234
- Well, I guess it depends
on how you define trust.
388
00:15:20,253 --> 00:15:22,328
Like, if michaela tells me
something that she's doing,
389
00:15:22,422 --> 00:15:23,829
I believe her.
390
00:15:23,924 --> 00:15:25,314
But because, you know,
391
00:15:25,408 --> 00:15:27,241
You have done things
I don't like.
392
00:15:27,260 --> 00:15:30,762
I mean, I don't know
if I trust her not to blow up.
393
00:15:30,989 --> 00:15:33,339
Like, every situation
that we've experienced
394
00:15:33,491 --> 00:15:35,825
That was negative
has permanently--
395
00:15:35,843 --> 00:15:38,678
- It's permanent?
396
00:15:38,772 --> 00:15:40,329
- And that's the unfair stuff,
397
00:15:40,423 --> 00:15:41,422
Like the stuff that--
- I can't--
398
00:15:41,516 --> 00:15:42,756
- And that's why
I'm kinda like, "eh,"
399
00:15:42,850 --> 00:15:44,000
Because it's almost like...
400
00:15:45,019 --> 00:15:47,687
I can forgive and forget
and try to move past it,
401
00:15:47,839 --> 00:15:49,430
But then if I do something
for him,
402
00:15:49,449 --> 00:15:51,765
It's like, he holds on to it.
403
00:15:51,859 --> 00:15:53,192
- You had a right to feel upset
404
00:15:53,286 --> 00:15:55,027
That I left in the morning
without telling you "bye."
405
00:15:55,121 --> 00:15:57,438
My only issue is
406
00:15:57,532 --> 00:15:59,940
The way that you
handle the situations
407
00:15:59,960 --> 00:16:02,185
Is what I have an issue with.
408
00:16:02,203 --> 00:16:04,278
That has scarred me, and I--
409
00:16:04,372 --> 00:16:06,297
It's the knee-jerk reaction.
410
00:16:06,524 --> 00:16:08,282
Unfortunately, like,
you can blame me for it.
411
00:16:08,301 --> 00:16:10,284
I can't help how I'm feeling.
412
00:16:10,303 --> 00:16:12,286
Like, that has scarred me.
- Mm-hmm.
413
00:16:12,380 --> 00:16:15,881
- To say, "oh, this is a scar,"
414
00:16:16,034 --> 00:16:18,292
Or "this is the way
that I now see you,"
415
00:16:18,386 --> 00:16:20,369
Or even if you were to say,
416
00:16:20,463 --> 00:16:22,388
"well, I'm never changing
anything again,"
417
00:16:22,482 --> 00:16:25,316
It shows a lack of commitment,
because you're saying,
418
00:16:25,468 --> 00:16:27,543
"look, this doesn't work
for me,
419
00:16:27,636 --> 00:16:29,970
So sorry, we're done."
like, permanent damage.
420
00:16:29,990 --> 00:16:31,972
- And the things that I did,
I literally--
421
00:16:31,992 --> 00:16:35,901
I sincerely apologized
for those things.
422
00:16:36,054 --> 00:16:37,903
And so it sucks,
because it's like,
423
00:16:37,998 --> 00:16:41,482
He's saying it scars him,
and it's a terrible feeling.
424
00:16:41,576 --> 00:16:43,075
And it's like, "gosh, like,
425
00:16:43,169 --> 00:16:45,895
"is this really a relationship
we should have then?
426
00:16:45,913 --> 00:16:48,339
If you feel so uncomfortable
with me?"
427
00:16:48,491 --> 00:16:50,066
'cause I don't--
I don't want to scar him.
428
00:16:50,084 --> 00:16:51,917
I don't want to hurt him.
He's a great man.
429
00:16:52,012 --> 00:16:53,177
- I'm not saying the way
430
00:16:53,329 --> 00:16:55,087
She handles stuff
is right or wrong.
431
00:16:55,181 --> 00:16:57,907
I'm not saying the way I do
things is right or wrong.
432
00:16:58,000 --> 00:16:59,909
There's just a difference.
433
00:16:59,927 --> 00:17:01,502
♪ ♪
434
00:17:01,596 --> 00:17:04,171
- What's is the difference?
435
00:17:04,190 --> 00:17:05,581
- It's how we handle
the situation.
436
00:17:05,674 --> 00:17:07,583
It's, like, I just don't--
437
00:17:07,676 --> 00:17:10,677
I don't do
the knee-jerk reaction.
438
00:17:10,772 --> 00:17:13,272
- And that's the thing. Like,
he keeps bringing it up as if--
439
00:17:13,424 --> 00:17:15,033
- Because that's the only thing
that's the issue with me.
440
00:17:15,184 --> 00:17:16,425
That's the only thing
that's the problem with me.
441
00:17:16,444 --> 00:17:17,535
- He keeps bringing it up as if
442
00:17:17,686 --> 00:17:19,445
We haven't gone
through counseling
443
00:17:19,597 --> 00:17:22,206
And talked
about how it's not okay.
444
00:17:22,358 --> 00:17:26,102
I have not--have I done
any knee-jerk reactions since?
445
00:17:26,120 --> 00:17:28,212
- This is not--
to me, in my mind--
446
00:17:28,439 --> 00:17:29,288
Like, help me understand this,
dr. Viviana.
447
00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:30,606
- Yeah, I'd love to.
448
00:17:30,625 --> 00:17:32,866
- These are not mess-ups to me.
449
00:17:32,886 --> 00:17:35,219
There--there have been
no mess-ups so far.
450
00:17:35,446 --> 00:17:36,962
No mess-ups.
451
00:17:37,115 --> 00:17:38,389
- Now I'm giving you
the skeptical look.
452
00:17:38,616 --> 00:17:39,373
- I have never said
she made a mistake.
453
00:17:39,392 --> 00:17:40,616
- Then what have I done?
454
00:17:40,709 --> 00:17:42,060
- That sounds like
a lie, though.
455
00:17:42,211 --> 00:17:43,877
- Then what have I done?
- You have done an action
456
00:17:43,897 --> 00:17:45,121
That I do not like.
- What is that action?
457
00:17:45,139 --> 00:17:46,122
Label the action.
458
00:17:46,215 --> 00:17:48,140
- She's knee-jerk-reactioned.
459
00:17:48,234 --> 00:17:49,975
She's been explosive.
- That I don't like.
460
00:17:50,128 --> 00:17:51,402
When'd I ever say
that was wrong?
461
00:17:51,554 --> 00:17:53,629
I never said that, michaela.
- But it is wrong.
462
00:17:53,722 --> 00:17:55,481
- Thank you!
Like, he keeps saying,
463
00:17:55,575 --> 00:17:57,983
Like, he's not--he keeps
saying it and trying to say,
464
00:17:58,136 --> 00:17:59,635
"it's not-it's not
a mistake, it's not--"
465
00:17:59,654 --> 00:18:02,488
- I could tell you it's wrong.
Why can't you say it?
466
00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:04,990
- And I can say it's wrong,
because I apologized for it.
467
00:18:05,085 --> 00:18:09,478
- I think it is a fundamental
character, like, trait.
468
00:18:09,497 --> 00:18:12,423
[dramatic music]
469
00:18:12,650 --> 00:18:13,649
♪ ♪
470
00:18:13,742 --> 00:18:15,409
- You think it's
fundamentally me.
471
00:18:15,428 --> 00:18:18,321
You think it's me, and that
I can never learn from it.
472
00:18:18,339 --> 00:18:23,175
- You believe she is
the knee-jerk reaction.
473
00:18:23,328 --> 00:18:24,894
- Mm-hmm.
474
00:18:28,499 --> 00:18:32,092
- I think her feelings
and her past experiences
475
00:18:32,186 --> 00:18:34,337
Have led her
to do that sort of thing.
476
00:18:34,430 --> 00:18:36,021
But what I'm noticing is that
477
00:18:36,174 --> 00:18:38,691
You don't want to label her
as "wrong" or "bad."
478
00:18:38,843 --> 00:18:40,192
- No, 'cause who am I--
who am I to do that?
479
00:18:40,286 --> 00:18:41,360
- Well, let me tell you.
480
00:18:41,512 --> 00:18:43,512
I think I know who you are.
481
00:18:43,606 --> 00:18:46,031
You actually care about her.
- Right.
482
00:18:46,184 --> 00:18:47,291
- You don't want her
to feel badly about herself.
483
00:18:47,443 --> 00:18:48,942
- Exactly.
484
00:18:49,036 --> 00:18:50,128
- Just like you wouldn't
want her to make
485
00:18:50,355 --> 00:18:52,188
You feel badly about yourself.
- Right.
486
00:18:52,206 --> 00:18:54,206
- I don't think it's about
you being scarred.
487
00:18:54,359 --> 00:18:56,134
I think that might not
be the right word.
488
00:18:56,361 --> 00:18:59,453
I think it's
"I'm--I've lost trust."
489
00:18:59,547 --> 00:19:02,381
Because scars don't go away.
490
00:19:02,533 --> 00:19:07,219
But trust can go away
and be built back.
491
00:19:07,372 --> 00:19:08,537
- Right.
I understand that.
492
00:19:08,631 --> 00:19:10,039
But from my perspective
right now,
493
00:19:10,057 --> 00:19:11,465
Sitting down right now,
494
00:19:11,559 --> 00:19:13,209
I think this cannot go away.
495
00:19:13,227 --> 00:19:16,154
♪ ♪
496
00:19:16,381 --> 00:19:17,971
There's nothing
I can do about that.
497
00:19:18,065 --> 00:19:18,898
Like, it's not like
I asked for this.
498
00:19:19,050 --> 00:19:21,550
♪ ♪
499
00:19:21,644 --> 00:19:23,995
- Dr. Viviana,
like, hearing that
500
00:19:24,222 --> 00:19:27,239
Does not make me feel
secure in this marriage.
501
00:19:27,333 --> 00:19:29,167
I'm just so beaten down.
502
00:19:29,394 --> 00:19:31,485
How do I not take--
internalize those things?
503
00:19:31,579 --> 00:19:33,487
You hold me to these things
504
00:19:33,581 --> 00:19:35,398
And say "it scarred me,
505
00:19:35,416 --> 00:19:36,916
And that's fundamentally
who you are,"
506
00:19:37,010 --> 00:19:38,492
When I'm learning.
507
00:19:38,511 --> 00:19:40,236
But yet, you still think
508
00:19:40,329 --> 00:19:43,072
That this is who I am
and who I will always be.
509
00:19:43,090 --> 00:19:48,186
♪ ♪
510
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:55,434
- Have you been
perfect in this marriage?
511
00:19:55,586 --> 00:19:57,528
- No.
- Why are you
512
00:19:57,755 --> 00:20:01,090
Kind of almost
expecting her to be?
513
00:20:01,108 --> 00:20:04,760
♪ ♪
514
00:20:04,853 --> 00:20:08,689
Neither one of you is perfect.
515
00:20:08,708 --> 00:20:11,358
Can y'all give each other
more cushion,
516
00:20:11,452 --> 00:20:14,770
And benefit of the doubt,
517
00:20:14,789 --> 00:20:18,031
As you're learning what works
and what doesn't work?
518
00:20:18,125 --> 00:20:20,384
- Mm-hmm.
- Mm-hmm.
519
00:20:20,536 --> 00:20:22,202
- I think
it's important for you
520
00:20:22,296 --> 00:20:24,780
To continue to have boundaries,
521
00:20:24,799 --> 00:20:27,391
And then allow your partner
522
00:20:27,543 --> 00:20:29,452
To figure out
523
00:20:29,545 --> 00:20:31,211
Where she is
with those boundaries.
524
00:20:31,305 --> 00:20:33,622
Same thing for you.
525
00:20:33,716 --> 00:20:37,384
Proactively sharing
"this is a trigger for me.
526
00:20:37,478 --> 00:20:39,553
"now that I've told you,
you are aware.
527
00:20:39,572 --> 00:20:41,630
But I'm not
expecting perfection."
528
00:20:41,724 --> 00:20:43,557
That's where intimacy grows.
529
00:20:43,576 --> 00:20:45,651
When you say
"I know this about me."
530
00:20:45,803 --> 00:20:47,653
"let's figure this
out together.
531
00:20:47,747 --> 00:20:51,640
"and if it doesn't work out,
at least we tried.
532
00:20:51,734 --> 00:20:53,251
Then we can feel
better about it."
533
00:20:56,314 --> 00:20:58,314
I would love to hear
534
00:20:58,332 --> 00:21:00,649
That you're keeping up
with the struggle.
535
00:21:00,743 --> 00:21:02,501
Right, together?
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
536
00:21:02,653 --> 00:21:04,336
- And if y'all
need anything,
537
00:21:04,430 --> 00:21:06,430
You can call us, facetime,
do all that good stuff.
538
00:21:06,582 --> 00:21:07,581
- Mm-hmm, thank you.
539
00:21:07,675 --> 00:21:09,158
- Thank you.
- Okay?
540
00:21:09,251 --> 00:21:10,601
- Thank you so much,
dr. Viviana.
541
00:21:10,753 --> 00:21:12,511
- Thank you so much.
Oh, it's so good to see you.
542
00:21:12,663 --> 00:21:14,680
- Thank you.
- Thank you.
543
00:21:14,774 --> 00:21:16,348
- Thank you.
All right, I'll let myself out.
544
00:21:16,501 --> 00:21:17,591
- All right, thank you.
545
00:21:17,610 --> 00:21:18,517
- Bye.
- Bye.
546
00:21:18,611 --> 00:21:24,615
♪ ♪
547
00:21:31,124 --> 00:21:34,959
- [quietly] damn.
548
00:21:35,186 --> 00:21:36,127
[bleep].
549
00:21:42,135 --> 00:21:43,526
- How you feeling?
550
00:21:43,544 --> 00:21:46,378
- [stammering]
I just don't know, like--
551
00:21:46,531 --> 00:21:49,122
Like, what I have done to
552
00:21:49,216 --> 00:21:50,474
Help get us to this point.
553
00:21:50,701 --> 00:21:53,126
I just, I can't process it,
I don't know.
554
00:21:53,146 --> 00:21:55,646
[tense music]
555
00:21:55,873 --> 00:21:59,224
- I am not blaming you
for anything.
556
00:21:59,377 --> 00:22:00,376
- No, 'cause, like,
you said, like, you know,
557
00:22:00,394 --> 00:22:01,301
You felt like
you getting beat down.
558
00:22:01,321 --> 00:22:03,654
And I'm like--
559
00:22:03,806 --> 00:22:05,806
Like, what? Like, what--
how am I beating you down?
560
00:22:05,900 --> 00:22:07,900
Like--like, what am I doing?
561
00:22:07,994 --> 00:22:10,553
- If I say that I feel like
I'm getting beat down,
562
00:22:10,571 --> 00:22:14,165
It's because you use what I did
563
00:22:14,316 --> 00:22:17,168
To say that
it's fundamentally me,
564
00:22:17,319 --> 00:22:20,654
And that I can never grow.
565
00:22:20,673 --> 00:22:22,823
So that's when
I feel beat down,
566
00:22:22,842 --> 00:22:24,508
'cause it's like,
"but I'm trying to grow.
567
00:22:24,735 --> 00:22:26,235
I'm trying to learn,
I'm trying to do better."
568
00:22:26,253 --> 00:22:28,754
♪ ♪
569
00:22:28,906 --> 00:22:30,348
- [sobs]
570
00:22:30,499 --> 00:22:35,761
I just wanted this so bad,
and, like--
571
00:22:35,913 --> 00:22:37,521
I don't know
what else I can do.
572
00:22:37,673 --> 00:22:40,599
I just don't know.
Like, I'm just being myself.
573
00:22:40,693 --> 00:22:42,601
Like, I'm not--
574
00:22:42,753 --> 00:22:43,694
I'm not trying to hurt anyone.
575
00:22:43,846 --> 00:22:45,345
I'm not try to
beat down anyone.
576
00:22:45,365 --> 00:22:46,847
Like, I'm--I didn't--
577
00:22:46,866 --> 00:22:48,849
I didn't do this and do that.
- Zack.
578
00:22:48,868 --> 00:22:50,684
- Like, I'm tired of that.
Like, stop, stop.
579
00:22:50,778 --> 00:22:53,371
I can't--I'm just--
580
00:22:53,522 --> 00:22:55,598
I don't want to hurt anyone.
I didn't--
581
00:22:55,616 --> 00:22:57,875
- Zack.
582
00:22:58,026 --> 00:23:00,285
- I feel horrible,
like, this is--
583
00:23:00,438 --> 00:23:03,714
- Zack, can I tell you
that I'm not hurt?
584
00:23:03,866 --> 00:23:05,290
- It doesn't matter--
it just--it doesn't matter.
585
00:23:05,385 --> 00:23:07,033
I feel this way.
586
00:23:07,053 --> 00:23:09,111
It's just, like, [bleep]
it just never works out, man.
587
00:23:09,130 --> 00:23:12,464
Like, you won't get it.
Like, you don't get it.
588
00:23:12,617 --> 00:23:13,540
You won't get it.
This is, like--
589
00:23:13,634 --> 00:23:15,041
- Zack, we're in
the marriage together.
590
00:23:15,061 --> 00:23:16,727
- No, but--I get that,
but we're two different people.
591
00:23:16,879 --> 00:23:18,044
Like, at the end of the day,
we're two different people,
592
00:23:18,139 --> 00:23:19,563
And, like, you don't know
how I feel about this.
593
00:23:19,715 --> 00:23:20,806
Like, you don't know,
like, how bad I wanted this.
594
00:23:20,900 --> 00:23:21,640
Like, you don't know!
595
00:23:21,734 --> 00:23:26,404
♪ ♪
596
00:23:26,631 --> 00:23:27,479
[exhales]
597
00:23:27,632 --> 00:23:30,223
♪ ♪
598
00:23:30,317 --> 00:23:32,468
So I am heartbroken.
599
00:23:32,486 --> 00:23:36,414
- ♪ salty and sour,
I don't taste it anymore ♪
600
00:23:36,641 --> 00:23:39,417
- I can't keep talking
about this [bleep].
601
00:23:39,644 --> 00:23:40,993
I can't keep, like--
602
00:23:41,087 --> 00:23:44,830
Like, trying to figure out,
like, what happened here.
603
00:23:44,924 --> 00:23:45,756
Then how could you have
done things differently?
604
00:23:45,908 --> 00:23:47,833
I just can't.
605
00:23:47,985 --> 00:23:50,744
It's killing me.
It's literally killing me.
606
00:23:50,763 --> 00:23:52,579
This is dead-ass, like,
I kid you not,
607
00:23:52,673 --> 00:23:53,931
This is [bleep] killing me.
608
00:23:54,082 --> 00:23:55,991
Like, I just can't--
I can't do it.
609
00:23:56,010 --> 00:23:57,751
I can't do this right now.
I just can't.
610
00:23:57,770 --> 00:23:59,103
I don't need
none of this [bleep].
611
00:23:59,330 --> 00:24:01,513
♪ ♪
612
00:24:01,666 --> 00:24:03,590
I just don't--I can't.
613
00:24:03,609 --> 00:24:04,683
[bleep].
614
00:24:04,777 --> 00:24:06,777
♪ ♪
615
00:24:06,929 --> 00:24:10,673
- [bleep] tired,
[bleep] [bleep]
- ♪ find a home ♪
616
00:24:10,691 --> 00:24:13,692
♪ rest your bones ♪
617
00:24:13,844 --> 00:24:19,272
♪ let it fade away ♪
618
00:24:19,366 --> 00:24:24,203
♪ let it fade away ♪
619
00:24:24,355 --> 00:24:28,281
♪ ♪
620
00:24:28,301 --> 00:24:31,635
- Okay.
While you open up one...
621
00:24:31,862 --> 00:24:32,953
- Let me open it.
- I'm gonna go ahead and--
622
00:24:33,047 --> 00:24:34,029
- Let me open up this,
you open up that, no?
623
00:24:34,048 --> 00:24:35,698
[cork pops]
- oh, okay.
624
00:24:35,716 --> 00:24:36,865
Very nice.
625
00:24:36,959 --> 00:24:38,625
- In addition to dr. Viviana
626
00:24:38,719 --> 00:24:40,293
Meeting with the couples
in person,
627
00:24:40,387 --> 00:24:41,461
We have sent the couples
628
00:24:41,481 --> 00:24:43,463
Exercises to help them discuss
629
00:24:43,483 --> 00:24:45,374
The big and small things
630
00:24:45,467 --> 00:24:48,060
That couples
often avoid discussing.
631
00:24:48,212 --> 00:24:51,322
- "is there anything you have
been embarrassed to tell me?"
632
00:24:51,549 --> 00:24:53,657
- Well, I was embarrassed
to tell you
633
00:24:53,809 --> 00:24:55,493
About my infidelity.
634
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:57,328
♪ ♪
635
00:24:57,479 --> 00:24:59,722
That needed to be known.
636
00:24:59,815 --> 00:25:01,056
'cause, you know,
you hear the term
637
00:25:01,149 --> 00:25:02,891
"once a cheater,
always a cheater."
638
00:25:02,910 --> 00:25:05,002
And that sucks.
639
00:25:05,229 --> 00:25:09,507
- Honest communication is
the key to building trust
640
00:25:09,658 --> 00:25:12,901
And intimacy that results
in a healthy marriage.
641
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:14,661
- But, so, yes,
you have grown from it, right?
642
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,422
- Oh, for sure.
643
00:25:17,575 --> 00:25:19,074
- All right, this is different.
644
00:25:19,093 --> 00:25:22,761
"over the last five years,
how have you changed?"
645
00:25:22,913 --> 00:25:24,838
- Over the last five years,
646
00:25:24,857 --> 00:25:28,433
I have become
more understanding,
647
00:25:28,528 --> 00:25:30,435
More patient.
648
00:25:30,588 --> 00:25:32,012
- You was
less patient than this?
649
00:25:32,106 --> 00:25:34,439
- Mm-hmm.
- Whoo!
650
00:25:34,592 --> 00:25:37,760
♪ ♪
651
00:25:37,778 --> 00:25:40,779
[upbeat music]
652
00:25:40,931 --> 00:25:44,024
- Let's take a look.
- Okay.
653
00:25:44,118 --> 00:25:45,525
- How you want to do this?
654
00:25:45,545 --> 00:25:47,119
- I guess it's
I ask a question,
655
00:25:47,271 --> 00:25:48,712
You ask a question,
just back and forth.
656
00:25:48,864 --> 00:25:50,381
- All right.
657
00:25:50,608 --> 00:25:51,940
Here's the first question.
It's a good one.
658
00:25:52,034 --> 00:25:52,883
"what is
your biggest insecurity
659
00:25:53,035 --> 00:25:54,610
About yourself? Why?"
660
00:25:54,703 --> 00:25:56,369
- I have insecurities,
thinking, like,
661
00:25:56,463 --> 00:25:57,871
I need to be able to do it all,
662
00:25:57,890 --> 00:25:59,631
And if I can't,
I'm not good enough.
663
00:25:59,725 --> 00:26:03,635
It's just, it's not--
it's not healthy sometimes.
664
00:26:03,788 --> 00:26:06,046
What is your biggest
insecurity?
665
00:26:06,065 --> 00:26:08,123
- Maybe not, like,
666
00:26:08,142 --> 00:26:11,460
Living a purposeful life.
667
00:26:11,478 --> 00:26:12,736
Feel like my whole life
668
00:26:12,963 --> 00:26:14,479
I've done a lot of things
that are very safe.
669
00:26:14,632 --> 00:26:16,131
♪ ♪
670
00:26:16,224 --> 00:26:19,059
Getting married
to a stranger was
671
00:26:19,078 --> 00:26:21,470
The biggest risk
I've taken in my life.
672
00:26:21,563 --> 00:26:23,822
And it was proven
to be worth it.
673
00:26:23,916 --> 00:26:27,659
♪ ♪
674
00:26:27,753 --> 00:26:30,070
- "what is your biggest event
675
00:26:30,164 --> 00:26:31,755
"that has happened in your life
676
00:26:31,907 --> 00:26:35,500
That made you feel embarrassed
or shame, and why?"
677
00:26:35,653 --> 00:26:37,094
♪ ♪
678
00:26:37,245 --> 00:26:40,413
I grew up really poor.
679
00:26:40,433 --> 00:26:41,824
My family didn't
have very much.
680
00:26:41,842 --> 00:26:44,493
And, like, in the morning,
681
00:26:44,586 --> 00:26:45,936
We would take
the bus to school.
682
00:26:46,088 --> 00:26:49,607
And then on--in the afternoon,
we'd take the bus back.
683
00:26:49,834 --> 00:26:52,425
When the bus comes
to drop off the kiddos
684
00:26:52,519 --> 00:26:53,927
In my neighborhood,
685
00:26:53,946 --> 00:26:57,005
I would walk past
my actual house,
686
00:26:57,024 --> 00:26:58,932
Because I would never want
the kids to know
687
00:26:58,951 --> 00:27:00,951
Where I actually lived,
because I had
688
00:27:01,103 --> 00:27:02,953
This source of embarrassment
and shame of, like,
689
00:27:03,180 --> 00:27:05,456
Where I actually, truly lived.
- Mm.
690
00:27:05,607 --> 00:27:06,790
- My childhood home
was just this,
691
00:27:07,017 --> 00:27:09,609
Like, dilapidated little--
little trailer.
692
00:27:09,629 --> 00:27:12,704
And I never felt comfortable
inviting friends over.
693
00:27:12,857 --> 00:27:15,023
That was embarrassment.
694
00:27:15,117 --> 00:27:16,800
- You didn't have any, um--
695
00:27:17,027 --> 00:27:18,026
Any neighbors that you
went to school with,
696
00:27:18,120 --> 00:27:20,137
That kind of could--
- I did.
697
00:27:20,288 --> 00:27:22,698
- Kind of, you could confide in
and kind of share?
698
00:27:22,716 --> 00:27:24,216
- Well, they were--
they were my closest friends
699
00:27:24,310 --> 00:27:26,385
In the beginning, but then
that was another thing.
700
00:27:26,537 --> 00:27:28,871
Like, um,
701
00:27:28,889 --> 00:27:30,706
My dad wasn't
in a good place back then,
702
00:27:30,799 --> 00:27:33,392
And so he started
developing a reputation.
703
00:27:33,544 --> 00:27:34,726
♪ ♪
704
00:27:34,879 --> 00:27:36,895
And there were
neighborhood girls
705
00:27:37,047 --> 00:27:38,972
That became, like,
my bestest childhood friends,
706
00:27:38,991 --> 00:27:41,975
But their moms
didn't feel like my dad
707
00:27:41,994 --> 00:27:44,219
Was a good influence
on their dads.
708
00:27:44,238 --> 00:27:45,570
- Like, he would go drinking
with them, or what?
709
00:27:45,723 --> 00:27:46,980
- Mm-hmm.
- Oh, okay.
710
00:27:47,074 --> 00:27:49,166
- He was a big instigator.
711
00:27:49,317 --> 00:27:51,151
So the girls
who were my friends
712
00:27:51,245 --> 00:27:53,170
Would come to my house and say,
713
00:27:53,321 --> 00:27:56,248
"oh, my mom doesn't want me
to hang out with you anymore,
714
00:27:56,342 --> 00:27:58,676
Because, you know,
your dad's the local drunk."
715
00:27:58,903 --> 00:28:00,903
♪ ♪
716
00:28:00,996 --> 00:28:02,012
And it would bring me
great shame.
717
00:28:02,239 --> 00:28:05,331
♪ ♪
718
00:28:05,426 --> 00:28:08,093
- The fact that she's willing
to put herself out there,
719
00:28:08,245 --> 00:28:10,854
Tell me all these secrets that
she's not telling anyone else,
720
00:28:11,081 --> 00:28:12,597
And being
really vulnerable with me,
721
00:28:12,750 --> 00:28:14,266
It really feels like
we're building trust
722
00:28:14,418 --> 00:28:16,026
And commitment to one another.
723
00:28:16,178 --> 00:28:18,011
I feel like
that's what love is,
724
00:28:18,030 --> 00:28:20,346
Is just being that person,
that rock,
725
00:28:20,366 --> 00:28:23,108
That consistent force
in your life
726
00:28:23,260 --> 00:28:24,593
That you can depend on.
727
00:28:24,686 --> 00:28:26,111
And I want to be that for bao.
728
00:28:26,205 --> 00:28:29,614
- Give me a hug,
give me a hug, give me a hug.
729
00:28:29,767 --> 00:28:34,503
♪ ♪
730
00:28:39,109 --> 00:28:40,609
- ♪ I think you've started
something ♪
731
00:28:40,702 --> 00:28:42,219
♪ now that push
has come to shove ♪
732
00:28:42,446 --> 00:28:43,779
♪ I guess it's over now
so grab your stuff... ♪
733
00:28:43,872 --> 00:28:45,872
- I'm nervous.
- What?
734
00:28:45,966 --> 00:28:47,616
Why are you nervous?
735
00:28:47,709 --> 00:28:48,951
- You know,
you're the professional.
736
00:28:48,969 --> 00:28:50,469
- Gosh, I am thrilled!
- Okay, good.
737
00:28:50,563 --> 00:28:52,229
- I'm so thrilled.
738
00:28:52,380 --> 00:28:54,289
Y'all, I've been keeping
in touch with everything.
739
00:28:54,308 --> 00:28:56,216
And I'm, like,
constantly welling up
740
00:28:56,235 --> 00:28:58,293
With tears of happiness.
- Good.
741
00:28:58,312 --> 00:29:00,645
We're so happy, yeah.
- It's--yeah.
742
00:29:00,740 --> 00:29:02,239
- I'm so impressed with y'all.
743
00:29:02,390 --> 00:29:04,816
- Good.
- I mean, I kinda knew, but--
744
00:29:04,969 --> 00:29:06,969
[all laugh]
- of course you did.
745
00:29:06,987 --> 00:29:08,153
- Oh, my gosh, so tell me
what it's been like.
746
00:29:08,305 --> 00:29:11,582
Let's talk
about sex real quick.
747
00:29:11,809 --> 00:29:13,976
- The highlight
of your physical connection.
748
00:29:13,994 --> 00:29:15,711
What's really going well?
749
00:29:17,757 --> 00:29:19,498
- So--
750
00:29:19,650 --> 00:29:20,924
- What's your favorite part?
751
00:29:21,151 --> 00:29:23,743
Is it the actual act
of intercourse?
752
00:29:23,763 --> 00:29:25,912
Is it--are y'all
really experiencing
753
00:29:25,931 --> 00:29:27,322
Each other's bodies
in different ways?
754
00:29:27,415 --> 00:29:29,157
Is it massages?
Is it the kissing?
755
00:29:29,176 --> 00:29:30,993
Like, what is it?
756
00:29:31,011 --> 00:29:32,919
♪ ♪
757
00:29:32,938 --> 00:29:35,013
- I'm all red.
- [chuckles]
758
00:29:35,165 --> 00:29:38,091
♪ ♪
759
00:29:38,110 --> 00:29:41,520
- I think the answer for her
is the intercourse, yes?
760
00:29:41,614 --> 00:29:43,005
- Yes, it's--it's great.
761
00:29:43,023 --> 00:29:45,265
♪ ♪
762
00:29:45,284 --> 00:29:47,100
- Okay, great.
763
00:29:47,119 --> 00:29:48,844
- It's a different element
to the marriage
764
00:29:48,862 --> 00:29:50,362
That is just the cherry on top,
765
00:29:50,514 --> 00:29:52,956
That brings the connection
that much stronger and closer.
766
00:29:53,183 --> 00:29:54,850
♪ ♪
767
00:29:54,943 --> 00:29:56,852
- So two thumbs up
in the bedroom?
768
00:29:56,945 --> 00:29:58,462
- Yes.
- Oh, absolutely.
769
00:29:58,613 --> 00:30:00,038
We can say yes.
- Great.
770
00:30:00,190 --> 00:30:01,206
Where are y'all
when it comes to, like,
771
00:30:01,358 --> 00:30:03,542
Trusting each other?
772
00:30:03,694 --> 00:30:05,636
- I mean, I'm in full trust.
773
00:30:05,787 --> 00:30:07,879
Like--like, everything
that comes out of his mouth,
774
00:30:07,973 --> 00:30:09,640
His actions, I feel it's
775
00:30:09,867 --> 00:30:12,701
Completely genuine,
100% honest.
776
00:30:12,719 --> 00:30:14,386
Like, everything he says,
I'm like, yeah.
777
00:30:14,538 --> 00:30:16,204
Like, we're just always
on the same page.
778
00:30:16,223 --> 00:30:19,041
It's insane.
- Okay.
779
00:30:19,059 --> 00:30:21,710
- You know, incredible.
Like, right away, he's like,
780
00:30:21,728 --> 00:30:23,654
"this is the passcode
to my phone."
781
00:30:23,881 --> 00:30:25,638
Will I ever--
I don't need to go through it,
782
00:30:25,732 --> 00:30:27,716
Because there's trust there.
783
00:30:27,734 --> 00:30:30,235
But just the willingness
to be so open.
784
00:30:30,387 --> 00:30:31,903
- Do you have her passcode?
785
00:30:32,056 --> 00:30:34,056
- I know of it, yes.
- Yeah.
786
00:30:34,149 --> 00:30:37,225
- So you feel full trust.
How about you?
787
00:30:37,244 --> 00:30:38,335
How are you feeling with that?
- I definitely do.
788
00:30:38,486 --> 00:30:40,671
There's a lot of things
that she says,
789
00:30:40,898 --> 00:30:43,915
And then, her actions
back it up as well, too.
790
00:30:44,068 --> 00:30:46,326
- I'm just so happy.
791
00:30:46,345 --> 00:30:48,737
- I'm really, really impressed
792
00:30:48,830 --> 00:30:50,681
With how you're handling
all of this.
793
00:30:50,908 --> 00:30:52,332
There's no reason to think
you can't get through
794
00:30:52,351 --> 00:30:54,076
Some of the--the rougher times
795
00:30:54,169 --> 00:30:55,835
That are obviously
gonna happen, right?
796
00:30:55,929 --> 00:30:57,337
I mean, I hope y'all realize
797
00:30:57,356 --> 00:30:58,914
That it's not always
gonna be a honeymoon.
798
00:30:59,007 --> 00:31:00,173
- Of course.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
799
00:31:00,192 --> 00:31:01,750
- You're gonna have
challenges that come up.
800
00:31:01,843 --> 00:31:03,101
You're gonna
have disagreements.
801
00:31:03,195 --> 00:31:05,103
How you handle it
really is about the two of you
802
00:31:05,255 --> 00:31:06,846
Figuring out what your style is
803
00:31:06,940 --> 00:31:08,757
As a couple.
- Yeah.
804
00:31:08,775 --> 00:31:11,259
- I really, really want you
to continue to be honest,
805
00:31:11,278 --> 00:31:13,428
Authentic, raw.
806
00:31:13,447 --> 00:31:15,113
This is the chance
for the two of you
807
00:31:15,265 --> 00:31:18,024
To solidify this marriage.
- Right.
808
00:31:18,118 --> 00:31:19,192
- Yeah.
- Okay?
809
00:31:19,286 --> 00:31:20,936
And every exercise we give you,
810
00:31:20,954 --> 00:31:22,954
Every trial and tribulation
you go through,
811
00:31:23,048 --> 00:31:24,864
Is going to help you do that.
812
00:31:24,958 --> 00:31:27,125
So just keep doing
what you're doing.
813
00:31:27,277 --> 00:31:30,946
♪ ♪
814
00:31:30,964 --> 00:31:34,040
- It has been a wild ride
815
00:31:34,134 --> 00:31:35,967
This week.
- Girl. [chuckles]
816
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:37,469
- Oh, thank you so much
817
00:31:37,621 --> 00:31:38,729
For meeting up with me.
- Whoo, I know.
818
00:31:38,956 --> 00:31:40,138
Cheers.
819
00:31:40,290 --> 00:31:42,232
Thanks for having coffee
with me.
820
00:31:42,459 --> 00:31:44,884
- How have you been?
- I mean, I feel like
821
00:31:44,978 --> 00:31:46,461
I've definitely been better.
- Yeah.
822
00:31:46,554 --> 00:31:48,054
- Dr. Viviana came
and talked to us.
823
00:31:48,148 --> 00:31:49,722
And then ever since then,
824
00:31:49,742 --> 00:31:51,057
You know,
ryan hasn't been here.
825
00:31:51,151 --> 00:31:52,242
- Where has he been?
826
00:31:52,394 --> 00:31:53,726
- At his house.
- Oh.
827
00:31:53,746 --> 00:31:55,913
- Like, I don't know.
828
00:31:56,064 --> 00:31:57,322
Like, I just feel like
829
00:31:57,474 --> 00:31:58,731
Things are just weird
right now.
830
00:31:58,825 --> 00:32:01,251
There's nothing that he does
831
00:32:01,403 --> 00:32:04,146
That lets me know he cares
832
00:32:04,164 --> 00:32:06,423
Or that he even
likes me as a girl.
833
00:32:06,650 --> 00:32:11,153
- Do you think the visit
with dr. Viviana helped?
834
00:32:11,171 --> 00:32:12,671
- I don't know.
835
00:32:12,765 --> 00:32:14,097
Enough about me, man.
836
00:32:14,324 --> 00:32:16,341
How--how are
you and zack doing?
837
00:32:16,493 --> 00:32:21,438
- After dr. Viviana's visit,
it just spiraled.
838
00:32:21,665 --> 00:32:23,756
At that point,
honestly, I just--
839
00:32:23,776 --> 00:32:25,016
I was just--I was like,
"I don't know what to do."
840
00:32:25,169 --> 00:32:26,184
- Yeah.
- It was weird,
841
00:32:26,336 --> 00:32:27,169
Because it hurt my feelings,
842
00:32:27,262 --> 00:32:29,354
But it was also enlightening.
843
00:32:29,448 --> 00:32:31,431
And we sat down.
844
00:32:31,450 --> 00:32:33,116
We talked about what happened.
845
00:32:33,268 --> 00:32:35,694
And so we are definitely
846
00:32:35,846 --> 00:32:37,362
Trying to do better.
847
00:32:37,514 --> 00:32:39,939
And marriage is work.
Marriage is hard work.
848
00:32:39,959 --> 00:32:41,291
- Mm-hmm.
- It's not dating.
849
00:32:41,443 --> 00:32:44,186
- If this was somebody
that I was just dating...
850
00:32:44,204 --> 00:32:45,520
- Yeah.
851
00:32:45,613 --> 00:32:47,447
- I would say,
"you don't like me.
852
00:32:47,466 --> 00:32:49,374
"I'm wasting my time.
853
00:32:49,526 --> 00:32:51,193
Goodbye."
- yeah.
854
00:32:51,211 --> 00:32:53,361
- So...
855
00:32:53,380 --> 00:32:56,047
[upbeat music]
856
00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:59,384
- ♪ she kissed me like
summer afternoon ♪
857
00:32:59,536 --> 00:33:02,220
♪ 'cause she kissed me like
summer and I'll fall for you ♪
858
00:33:02,372 --> 00:33:04,297
- This is so lovely.
859
00:33:04,316 --> 00:33:05,315
- Would you want
something to drink?
860
00:33:05,467 --> 00:33:07,150
- No, I'm good, thank you.
861
00:33:07,302 --> 00:33:09,060
- So fair warning.
862
00:33:09,213 --> 00:33:11,822
She's, um, nervous.
863
00:33:12,049 --> 00:33:14,140
- 'cause I'm here to talk
about trust and intimacy?
864
00:33:14,159 --> 00:33:15,550
- Yes.
865
00:33:15,569 --> 00:33:17,327
- Well, do y'all want to dig in
866
00:33:17,479 --> 00:33:19,387
With first letting me know
867
00:33:19,406 --> 00:33:21,072
How you're feeling overall?
868
00:33:21,166 --> 00:33:23,816
How would you rate your level
of emotional intimacy
869
00:33:23,910 --> 00:33:25,335
Between the two of you?
870
00:33:25,487 --> 00:33:26,895
- Ten being the best
and one being
871
00:33:26,988 --> 00:33:27,337
Not so good?
- Sure, that works.
872
00:33:27,564 --> 00:33:29,006
- Okay.
873
00:33:29,233 --> 00:33:30,990
- I would say where I am
right now, like a seven.
874
00:33:31,084 --> 00:33:32,509
Like, I feel good.
And--
875
00:33:32,736 --> 00:33:34,344
- That's great.
- But we're still, like--
876
00:33:34,496 --> 00:33:36,254
You know, there's still
so much more to know.
877
00:33:36,406 --> 00:33:37,830
So I think, just right now,
where I am.
878
00:33:37,850 --> 00:33:39,499
- Yeah, okay.
879
00:33:39,593 --> 00:33:41,167
- I would say an eight.
880
00:33:41,186 --> 00:33:44,246
I feel like we've grown a lot
881
00:33:44,264 --> 00:33:46,097
In a very short period.
882
00:33:46,191 --> 00:33:47,858
- I love to hear that.
883
00:33:48,009 --> 00:33:51,010
Okay, then tell me
about your physical intimacy
884
00:33:51,104 --> 00:33:52,254
And how you would rate that
885
00:33:52,347 --> 00:33:53,846
For where you are
in your marriage.
886
00:33:53,866 --> 00:33:55,440
- I would say the same for me.
887
00:33:55,534 --> 00:33:58,593
Like--
- really?
888
00:33:58,686 --> 00:34:01,354
- I think so.
- Okay, interesting.
889
00:34:01,373 --> 00:34:03,189
So seven?
- But I'm a person
890
00:34:03,283 --> 00:34:04,432
That takes it slow.
891
00:34:04,451 --> 00:34:06,209
- What were you thinking
she would say?
892
00:34:06,436 --> 00:34:08,119
- Lower.
893
00:34:08,213 --> 00:34:09,529
- I'm satisfied with what
I have right now with you.
894
00:34:09,548 --> 00:34:11,122
- Okay.
- Because it's something
895
00:34:11,275 --> 00:34:13,275
That I feel comfortable with,
and it's--
896
00:34:13,368 --> 00:34:16,219
I'm enjoying that.
- Okay.
897
00:34:16,371 --> 00:34:18,037
So one out of ten,
easy for me.
898
00:34:18,057 --> 00:34:20,949
Five.
899
00:34:21,042 --> 00:34:23,118
- Okay.
[all chuckle]
900
00:34:23,136 --> 00:34:24,953
Okay, that's still not bad.
901
00:34:24,971 --> 00:34:27,622
- No, it's--
it's right in the middle.
902
00:34:27,715 --> 00:34:28,881
- It's good.
- It could be better.
903
00:34:28,975 --> 00:34:30,141
- You wish it was more?
904
00:34:30,294 --> 00:34:33,144
- I definitely wish
it was more.
905
00:34:33,297 --> 00:34:36,464
- So where are you
on that road?
906
00:34:36,483 --> 00:34:39,058
Last I heard, you two
hadn't kissed on the lips.
907
00:34:39,078 --> 00:34:40,468
Has anything changed?
908
00:34:40,487 --> 00:34:42,137
- No, not yet.
- No.
909
00:34:42,155 --> 00:34:44,230
♪ ♪
910
00:34:44,249 --> 00:34:45,916
Sometimes I kiss her
on the cheek,
911
00:34:46,067 --> 00:34:47,400
And I'll kiss her
on the forehead.
912
00:34:47,419 --> 00:34:49,569
Maybe hugging here and there,
but that's about it.
913
00:34:49,588 --> 00:34:50,979
I even talked to her.
914
00:34:50,997 --> 00:34:52,330
I was like,
"so what about a peck?"
915
00:34:52,482 --> 00:34:54,482
She was like, "no."
916
00:34:54,501 --> 00:34:56,927
Because--
- so what do you do instead?
917
00:34:57,078 --> 00:34:58,244
- Nothing.
I just say "bye" and leave.
918
00:34:58,263 --> 00:34:59,930
- Oh.
919
00:35:00,081 --> 00:35:01,247
- I don't want to,
like, tease myself,
920
00:35:01,341 --> 00:35:03,249
So I'll just leave.
921
00:35:03,268 --> 00:35:05,251
It's one of those things
where, okay,
922
00:35:05,270 --> 00:35:07,437
If I make the first move,
and if she's like,
923
00:35:07,664 --> 00:35:09,497
"no, I'm not ready,"
I'm like, "all right, cool."
924
00:35:09,516 --> 00:35:11,108
I make the first move again,
"no, I'm not ready."
925
00:35:11,259 --> 00:35:14,260
Like, if I keep doing that,
I'm gonna be like,
926
00:35:14,354 --> 00:35:16,171
"all right, she's not into me."
927
00:35:16,264 --> 00:35:17,188
And that's gonna--
- it's rejection.
928
00:35:17,341 --> 00:35:18,340
- And that's gonna
push me back.
929
00:35:18,358 --> 00:35:21,176
[tense music]
930
00:35:21,269 --> 00:35:22,619
And then when she's ready,
931
00:35:22,846 --> 00:35:26,123
I'm not gonna be really
feeling it anymore.
932
00:35:26,274 --> 00:35:28,441
I feel like kissing and sex
for you is the same thing.
933
00:35:28,460 --> 00:35:31,035
- It is.
934
00:35:31,130 --> 00:35:33,446
- Like, it's that important.
- For me, it feels--yes.
935
00:35:33,465 --> 00:35:35,206
- Okay.
- I don't be just,
936
00:35:35,359 --> 00:35:36,449
You know,
kissing random strangers.
937
00:35:36,468 --> 00:35:37,617
- No, what I'm--
938
00:35:37,711 --> 00:35:38,802
I'm not random.
939
00:35:39,029 --> 00:35:40,712
♪ ♪
940
00:35:40,806 --> 00:35:42,955
- What emotions would you
need to be feeling
941
00:35:42,975 --> 00:35:46,885
In order to kiss on the lips?
942
00:35:46,979 --> 00:35:48,219
- I like to take my time
943
00:35:48,372 --> 00:35:49,629
And get emotionally,
spiritually,
944
00:35:49,648 --> 00:35:51,631
Mentally connected to someone
945
00:35:51,650 --> 00:35:55,301
Before the next level
of intimacy begins.
946
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,654
For me, a kiss is
a very intimate thing.
947
00:35:57,805 --> 00:35:59,214
I've been in
a previous relationship
948
00:35:59,232 --> 00:36:00,323
Where I was cheated on,
949
00:36:00,550 --> 00:36:03,493
And I was truly miserable
and unhappy.
950
00:36:03,645 --> 00:36:07,722
And so being able to trust
is difficult for me.
951
00:36:07,741 --> 00:36:10,074
- You want to connect
on other levels.
952
00:36:10,227 --> 00:36:12,985
So have we not connected
on those other levels yet?
953
00:36:13,079 --> 00:36:14,153
- I think we are connecting.
954
00:36:14,247 --> 00:36:15,563
I mean, that's what I think.
- Okay.
955
00:36:15,582 --> 00:36:19,250
- Maybe you think
something different.
956
00:36:19,344 --> 00:36:22,086
- The reason why I say that is
because you can't tell me
957
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:23,996
That you want to be with me,
you like me,
958
00:36:24,016 --> 00:36:25,515
You want to have kids with me,
959
00:36:25,667 --> 00:36:28,334
And not kiss me.
960
00:36:28,353 --> 00:36:29,519
Your words hold no substance.
961
00:36:29,746 --> 00:36:31,596
♪ ♪
962
00:36:31,748 --> 00:36:35,007
- I do remember hearing
that you've said,
963
00:36:35,027 --> 00:36:37,677
You know, if you don't
get a kiss by decision day,
964
00:36:37,696 --> 00:36:39,679
That's gonna be
really challenging for you
965
00:36:39,698 --> 00:36:42,424
To be able to then
decide to stay married.
966
00:36:42,442 --> 00:36:43,516
How are you feeling
about that now?
967
00:36:43,610 --> 00:36:45,035
And maybe you can let her know.
968
00:36:45,262 --> 00:36:47,019
- I still feel like,
969
00:36:47,039 --> 00:36:49,447
If that happens,
970
00:36:49,599 --> 00:36:50,932
I will ask for the divorce.
971
00:36:50,951 --> 00:36:52,525
♪ ♪
972
00:36:52,544 --> 00:36:56,362
But this shouldn't be a thing.
973
00:36:56,456 --> 00:36:58,773
Like, we shouldn't be sitting
here talking about this.
974
00:36:58,792 --> 00:37:01,459
- Well, especially
'cause, look at y'all.
975
00:37:01,611 --> 00:37:03,461
- Right?
So, that--
976
00:37:03,613 --> 00:37:05,613
I mean, when I think about it,
it's like,
977
00:37:05,632 --> 00:37:07,390
"ugh, why is this a thing?"
978
00:37:07,542 --> 00:37:09,300
- Myrla, how do you feel
about what he's saying,
979
00:37:09,394 --> 00:37:11,210
And what he has said?
980
00:37:11,230 --> 00:37:13,638
- I feel okay.
981
00:37:13,790 --> 00:37:16,048
- That's her. That's her.
- I genuinely feel, like, okay.
982
00:37:16,068 --> 00:37:18,460
I mean, it's not something
that I'm worried about.
983
00:37:18,478 --> 00:37:20,403
We're not gonna get
a divorce, so--
984
00:37:20,555 --> 00:37:23,389
You should just be like,
"no, I'm not gonna divorce her.
985
00:37:23,408 --> 00:37:24,241
That's not even an option."
- no, I'm not gonna say that.
986
00:37:24,392 --> 00:37:25,650
- But you should say that.
987
00:37:25,802 --> 00:37:27,986
That shouldn't even be
an option.
988
00:37:28,138 --> 00:37:29,304
- No.
- Why not?
989
00:37:29,322 --> 00:37:31,564
- Because that's how I feel.
990
00:37:31,658 --> 00:37:34,066
Just because you don't feel
like we gonna get a divorce
991
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:35,326
Doesn't mean that's how I feel.
992
00:37:35,479 --> 00:37:37,145
- Okay.
- So I'm laying it out.
993
00:37:37,163 --> 00:37:39,071
I was like, if--a kiss.
994
00:37:39,165 --> 00:37:41,165
That's it.
Right there.
995
00:37:41,318 --> 00:37:43,075
That's how you get a divorce.
- So let's say I kiss you.
996
00:37:43,169 --> 00:37:44,094
- We won't get a divorce.
997
00:37:44,245 --> 00:37:45,153
- We're not gonna
get a divorce.
998
00:37:45,171 --> 00:37:47,079
- That's it.
- Okay.
999
00:37:47,173 --> 00:37:48,172
- Deal!
- Simple as that.
1000
00:37:48,325 --> 00:37:49,157
- It's as simple as that.
1001
00:37:49,175 --> 00:37:50,433
- Simple as that.
1002
00:37:50,660 --> 00:37:52,660
I mean, that's as simple
as it's gonna get.
1003
00:37:52,679 --> 00:37:55,179
To me, that means
she's gonna kiss me, right?
1004
00:37:55,274 --> 00:37:57,607
- Eventually.
1005
00:37:57,834 --> 00:37:59,834
But it's just, like,
I think there's so much more
1006
00:37:59,927 --> 00:38:01,352
That's gonna come
that's gonna even, like,
1007
00:38:01,446 --> 00:38:03,171
Get us to that level.
1008
00:38:03,264 --> 00:38:05,264
I want to make sure
that I have, like,
1009
00:38:05,358 --> 00:38:08,343
Genuine feelings
to make the next move.
1010
00:38:08,361 --> 00:38:10,287
So we'll see how that goes.
1011
00:38:10,438 --> 00:38:14,532
- ♪ kiss me, baby,
just kiss me, baby ♪
1012
00:38:14,626 --> 00:38:19,354
♪ 'cause everything's
going down again ♪
1013
00:38:19,372 --> 00:38:21,047
♪ ♪
1014
00:38:25,695 --> 00:38:28,379
- ♪ when you
lift me up higher ♪
1015
00:38:28,532 --> 00:38:30,715
♪ wrapped in your arms,
you make everything lighter ♪
1016
00:38:30,867 --> 00:38:33,476
♪ I used to run
but I found the truth ♪
1017
00:38:33,628 --> 00:38:36,054
♪ yeah, I know ♪
1018
00:38:36,206 --> 00:38:40,299
♪ I gotta be closer to you ♪
1019
00:38:40,319 --> 00:38:41,709
- Oh, my gosh, y'all.
1020
00:38:41,803 --> 00:38:42,877
I feel like I want
to know everything,
1021
00:38:42,896 --> 00:38:44,154
But I kind of already
know everything.
1022
00:38:44,305 --> 00:38:46,156
- Oh, god.
1023
00:38:46,383 --> 00:38:47,732
- You know, we are
kept in the loop quite a bit.
1024
00:38:47,884 --> 00:38:51,235
And I have been so impressed
1025
00:38:51,388 --> 00:38:53,571
With how y'all
have been handling
1026
00:38:53,723 --> 00:38:55,498
All of this.
It's a lot.
1027
00:38:55,650 --> 00:38:57,483
And I wonder,
have you put each other
1028
00:38:57,502 --> 00:39:00,503
Through any tests?
1029
00:39:00,655 --> 00:39:02,172
And what have you learned?
1030
00:39:02,399 --> 00:39:04,156
- Have you?
1031
00:39:04,250 --> 00:39:05,567
- I feel like I put you through
1032
00:39:05,660 --> 00:39:06,918
Little tests all the time.
- Really?
1033
00:39:07,070 --> 00:39:08,252
Mm.
1034
00:39:08,405 --> 00:39:11,072
- Actually,
we did one just now.
1035
00:39:11,091 --> 00:39:13,165
We were making the bed.
1036
00:39:13,259 --> 00:39:15,685
And I feel like I made the bed.
1037
00:39:15,912 --> 00:39:17,020
- He did.
- 'cause we were supposed to
1038
00:39:17,171 --> 00:39:18,580
Make the bed together, but
1039
00:39:18,673 --> 00:39:20,023
She's more just,
like, directing me.
1040
00:39:20,174 --> 00:39:21,691
- [laughs]
1041
00:39:21,918 --> 00:39:23,585
- As she's putting on makeup,
and I'm just like,
1042
00:39:23,678 --> 00:39:25,195
"all right, I guess
I'm doing this by myself."
1043
00:39:26,773 --> 00:39:28,106
- If you could just get
a head start on the sheets,
1044
00:39:28,258 --> 00:39:29,757
I'll help you in a sec.
1045
00:39:29,851 --> 00:39:31,684
- I don't know if
you have a special way
1046
00:39:31,703 --> 00:39:33,352
Of doing the sheets.
- My method is
1047
00:39:33,446 --> 00:39:35,354
Just tuck it all in.
- Okay.
1048
00:39:35,374 --> 00:39:37,356
- Some of those are already--
1049
00:39:37,450 --> 00:39:38,766
I think these two down here
1050
00:39:38,860 --> 00:39:40,543
Might already have
pillowcases on them.
1051
00:39:44,716 --> 00:39:46,198
- What grade would you
give her on that?
1052
00:39:46,292 --> 00:39:47,717
- Maybe like a 2.5.
1053
00:39:47,869 --> 00:39:49,444
[both laugh]
- ooh.
1054
00:39:49,462 --> 00:39:51,370
Okay.
- Yikes.
1055
00:39:51,390 --> 00:39:52,705
- I like doing stuff together.
1056
00:39:52,724 --> 00:39:54,057
Like, when we cooked together,
1057
00:39:54,208 --> 00:39:55,617
That was a test.
- Mm-hmm.
1058
00:39:55,635 --> 00:39:56,893
- I thought that
was really good.
1059
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,712
We split the tasks,
and you kinda made sure
1060
00:39:59,731 --> 00:40:02,214
I was doing things the way
it should have been done.
1061
00:40:02,234 --> 00:40:03,400
That was like a ten.
- Yay.
1062
00:40:03,551 --> 00:40:04,901
- I like cooking together
a lot.
1063
00:40:05,052 --> 00:40:06,794
- You know, he told me later,
after the fact,
1064
00:40:06,888 --> 00:40:08,571
When we were cooking together,
1065
00:40:08,723 --> 00:40:10,314
Apparently when I was
1066
00:40:10,467 --> 00:40:12,391
Putting the salmon
into the oven,
1067
00:40:12,485 --> 00:40:14,152
That he was checking me out.
1068
00:40:14,304 --> 00:40:17,305
♪ ♪
1069
00:40:17,323 --> 00:40:19,565
- Ooh, so sexy!
1070
00:40:19,659 --> 00:40:21,418
Put that salmon in the oven!
1071
00:40:21,569 --> 00:40:22,919
- And he's like,
he's apparently
1072
00:40:23,146 --> 00:40:24,662
Checking me out,
but I had no idea.
1073
00:40:24,814 --> 00:40:25,922
- I'm always looking
for an opportunity.
1074
00:40:26,073 --> 00:40:27,331
- I'm always
missing these things.
1075
00:40:27,484 --> 00:40:28,758
- What do you miss?
1076
00:40:28,910 --> 00:40:31,744
- I feel like
I'm not very good
1077
00:40:31,763 --> 00:40:35,490
About reading signals
for romance at all.
1078
00:40:35,508 --> 00:40:38,435
Things didn't really
get spicy until
1079
00:40:38,586 --> 00:40:40,178
We got that little
homework assignment,
1080
00:40:40,272 --> 00:40:41,846
When you, the experts,
1081
00:40:41,998 --> 00:40:43,681
Gave us the bottle
of champagne,
1082
00:40:43,833 --> 00:40:45,942
And then a card
full of love questions,
1083
00:40:46,169 --> 00:40:47,685
And talking about love...
- That's a good recipe.
1084
00:40:47,837 --> 00:40:49,003
- Got things pretty heated.
1085
00:40:49,022 --> 00:40:50,505
- So what are y'all saying?
1086
00:40:50,523 --> 00:40:52,690
"it got spicy."
what does that mean?
1087
00:40:52,784 --> 00:40:55,768
- We had sex. [laughs]
1088
00:40:55,787 --> 00:40:58,455
- Okay, and it seems
like it went well.
1089
00:40:58,606 --> 00:41:00,348
Was it satisfying?
1090
00:41:00,366 --> 00:41:03,442
It's your first time.
It's gotta be kind of awkward.
1091
00:41:03,462 --> 00:41:04,794
- I felt like it was intense.
1092
00:41:04,946 --> 00:41:05,945
- Oh.
- Yeah.
1093
00:41:05,964 --> 00:41:07,205
- It was pretty intense.
- It was.
1094
00:41:07,357 --> 00:41:10,300
- It was surprising
and intense.
1095
00:41:10,451 --> 00:41:11,468
- In a good way?
1096
00:41:11,619 --> 00:41:13,953
- In a good way, yes.
- Okay.
1097
00:41:14,047 --> 00:41:18,624
You said that you were used to,
and enjoy, vanilla sex.
1098
00:41:18,643 --> 00:41:20,477
Was it pretty vanilla?
1099
00:41:20,704 --> 00:41:21,552
- Yeah.
1100
00:41:21,646 --> 00:41:23,646
So far, yeah.
1101
00:41:25,391 --> 00:41:28,876
- But I feel like
1102
00:41:28,895 --> 00:41:31,713
There's definitely room for us
to have more variety.
1103
00:41:31,731 --> 00:41:34,807
♪ ♪
1104
00:41:34,826 --> 00:41:36,400
You know, we're just starting.
1105
00:41:36,495 --> 00:41:39,662
Probably most of the time,
early on, it is mostly vanilla.
1106
00:41:39,814 --> 00:41:40,997
- I feel like
the first few times,
1107
00:41:41,224 --> 00:41:43,649
It's just kind of the raw--
the moment.
1108
00:41:43,668 --> 00:41:47,745
And almost feels like...
1109
00:41:47,897 --> 00:41:49,506
Lust, a little bit.
1110
00:41:49,733 --> 00:41:51,399
Like, I just--
I've been waiting for this,
1111
00:41:51,417 --> 00:41:53,401
And it's happening now,
1112
00:41:53,419 --> 00:41:55,512
And I'm not even
really thinking about
1113
00:41:55,663 --> 00:41:57,739
Anything other than, like,
1114
00:41:57,757 --> 00:42:00,350
Being in there.
1115
00:42:00,577 --> 00:42:01,926
- Okay.
1116
00:42:02,078 --> 00:42:03,427
- So...
[both laughing]
1117
00:42:03,580 --> 00:42:05,413
- I heard you just say
"the first few times."
1118
00:42:05,431 --> 00:42:06,672
Has it been more than once?
1119
00:42:06,691 --> 00:42:07,915
- Maybe.
1120
00:42:07,934 --> 00:42:11,677
♪ ♪
1121
00:42:11,696 --> 00:42:13,363
- Okay, okay.
1122
00:42:13,514 --> 00:42:15,273
- [laughs]
1123
00:42:15,425 --> 00:42:17,016
- Look at his face.
1124
00:42:17,035 --> 00:42:19,184
You're married, you're happy,
1125
00:42:19,204 --> 00:42:22,597
You're growing in intimacy,
you're communicating well.
1126
00:42:22,690 --> 00:42:24,448
Is there any reason
why you wouldn't
1127
00:42:24,601 --> 00:42:26,434
Be having sex more often?
1128
00:42:26,452 --> 00:42:27,693
- I mean, I think we should.
1129
00:42:27,787 --> 00:42:30,438
And ideally, if we could,
1130
00:42:30,456 --> 00:42:32,790
On a daily basis,
or every other day,
1131
00:42:32,884 --> 00:42:35,385
It would be nice.
1132
00:42:35,612 --> 00:42:36,794
- Okay.
1133
00:42:36,946 --> 00:42:38,963
I agree.
- No objections?
1134
00:42:39,115 --> 00:42:40,782
- I'm not saying no.
1135
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,709
♪ ♪
1136
00:42:43,803 --> 00:42:45,953
- ♪ no place I'd rather be ♪
1137
00:42:46,047 --> 00:42:49,399
♪ with you, it's heaven
in your arms, oh ♪
1138
00:42:49,626 --> 00:42:52,960
♪ with you,
I never feel alone, no ♪
1139
00:42:53,054 --> 00:42:56,722
- Oh, my gosh, this is so cute.
- It is.
1140
00:42:56,816 --> 00:42:58,649
- Oh, how nice.
1141
00:42:58,802 --> 00:42:59,967
- ♪ there's no place
I'd rather be ♪
1142
00:43:00,061 --> 00:43:04,472
♪ ha, ha, ha, ha,
ha, ha, ha, oh ♪
1143
00:43:04,490 --> 00:43:07,399
♪ there's nowhere
I'd rather be ♪
1144
00:43:07,419 --> 00:43:10,645
- Yeah, so this is
my family friend's house.
1145
00:43:10,663 --> 00:43:12,830
And I know how much you like
swimming and, you know,
1146
00:43:12,982 --> 00:43:14,573
We didn't get to do it
for our honeymoon,
1147
00:43:14,593 --> 00:43:16,926
So I wanted to give us
an opportunity now.
1148
00:43:17,078 --> 00:43:19,003
- Awesome.
Thank you, so sweet.
1149
00:43:19,097 --> 00:43:22,506
- Michaela and I have
kinda got off the rails
1150
00:43:22,601 --> 00:43:24,601
For the last couple days,
and I didn't envision
1151
00:43:24,828 --> 00:43:26,769
Running into so many
roadblocks early on.
1152
00:43:26,996 --> 00:43:28,846
I honestly had
a pretty rosy view of marriage
1153
00:43:28,998 --> 00:43:30,348
Before coming into this.
1154
00:43:30,500 --> 00:43:33,000
You want to get in?
- Yeah, let's do it.
1155
00:43:33,019 --> 00:43:34,426
- Now that I'm
actually married,
1156
00:43:34,446 --> 00:43:36,003
It's not everything
that I expected.
1157
00:43:36,022 --> 00:43:37,429
But I'm still
willing to, like,
1158
00:43:37,449 --> 00:43:38,840
Fight for our relationship.
1159
00:43:38,858 --> 00:43:40,524
♪ ♪
1160
00:43:40,677 --> 00:43:42,526
Ooh, dang, it's really warm.
1161
00:43:42,679 --> 00:43:45,455
- Oh, you ready! [laughs]
1162
00:43:45,682 --> 00:43:46,864
- I thought it was
gonna be kind of cold.
1163
00:43:47,016 --> 00:43:47,790
This is really warm.
1164
00:43:47,942 --> 00:43:49,684
- Oh, heck yeah.
1165
00:43:49,702 --> 00:43:52,036
- Yay.
- Oh, yes, oh.
1166
00:43:52,188 --> 00:43:53,871
- All right,
let me see you swim.
1167
00:43:54,023 --> 00:43:55,798
- I know how
to doggy paddle really well.
1168
00:43:56,025 --> 00:43:58,301
- Michaela.
1169
00:43:58,528 --> 00:43:59,710
[both laugh]
1170
00:43:59,804 --> 00:44:01,804
You look so--what's the word?
1171
00:44:02,031 --> 00:44:03,122
Awkward when you do this,
though.
1172
00:44:03,216 --> 00:44:04,307
It's cute, though.
It's cute.
1173
00:44:04,458 --> 00:44:06,959
I got it.
- [laughs]
1174
00:44:06,978 --> 00:44:07,793
- Would you save me
if I drowned?
1175
00:44:07,812 --> 00:44:09,537
- I would try.
1176
00:44:09,630 --> 00:44:11,038
- You would try?
- I would, I would try.
1177
00:44:11,132 --> 00:44:12,815
So I'm a very strong swimmer,
1178
00:44:12,967 --> 00:44:14,633
Because, like,
my dad taught me.
1179
00:44:14,653 --> 00:44:15,877
We were in galveston,
1180
00:44:15,895 --> 00:44:17,561
And he basically made me, like,
1181
00:44:17,714 --> 00:44:19,547
Swim against the current.
1182
00:44:19,565 --> 00:44:21,491
The qualities
that my dad had--
1183
00:44:21,718 --> 00:44:25,903
He was kind, open,
intuitive, and strong.
1184
00:44:25,997 --> 00:44:27,555
Those are the kind of things
1185
00:44:27,648 --> 00:44:30,057
That I'm looking for
with my husband.
1186
00:44:30,076 --> 00:44:34,245
I can see those things
with zackary.
1187
00:44:34,397 --> 00:44:36,731
Zack is a good person,
he's a very good person.
1188
00:44:36,749 --> 00:44:38,841
I really do like his openness,
1189
00:44:39,068 --> 00:44:41,736
That he's willing to discover.
He really is.
1190
00:44:41,754 --> 00:44:43,754
My plan with zack,
moving forward,
1191
00:44:43,907 --> 00:44:46,590
Is really just to take it
one day at a time.
1192
00:44:46,743 --> 00:44:49,168
And I'm willing
to move forward,
1193
00:44:49,187 --> 00:44:50,520
And whatever the future
looks like.
1194
00:44:52,432 --> 00:44:55,024
[upbeat music]
1195
00:45:03,259 --> 00:45:04,926
"there are a few questions
to start you off
1196
00:45:05,019 --> 00:45:06,852
"that will help build
and strengthen your bond.
1197
00:45:06,946 --> 00:45:08,279
"there are some blank cards
1198
00:45:08,431 --> 00:45:10,264
For each of you to fill out
with your own questions."
1199
00:45:10,357 --> 00:45:11,857
We have to write down
seven questions
1200
00:45:11,951 --> 00:45:14,043
That we want to ask each other.
1201
00:45:14,270 --> 00:45:15,953
What color you want?
- That pink one right there.
1202
00:45:16,047 --> 00:45:19,549
Thank you.
- Okay.
1203
00:45:19,700 --> 00:45:20,866
- I'm not gonna write
in cursive,
1204
00:45:20,885 --> 00:45:21,700
'cause I know
you can't read that.
1205
00:45:21,720 --> 00:45:24,203
- Shut up, I can too!
1206
00:45:24,222 --> 00:45:27,056
I am going to continue
to show up for the marriage
1207
00:45:27,283 --> 00:45:28,207
And show up
for our relationship
1208
00:45:28,301 --> 00:45:29,800
And show up for him as a wife,
1209
00:45:29,953 --> 00:45:31,802
Because if I start
stepping back,
1210
00:45:31,955 --> 00:45:33,471
He may follow
that type of lead.
1211
00:45:33,623 --> 00:45:35,565
♪ ♪
1212
00:45:35,716 --> 00:45:38,901
- "what was the first thing
about me that attracted you?"
1213
00:45:39,128 --> 00:45:40,886
- Your face.
1214
00:45:40,905 --> 00:45:42,221
- Aww.
1215
00:45:42,240 --> 00:45:44,982
"I'm sorry for..."
1216
00:45:45,134 --> 00:45:49,804
- I am sorry for...
1217
00:45:49,822 --> 00:45:51,305
My knee-jerk reactions.
1218
00:45:51,398 --> 00:45:54,917
Not being able
to express myself
1219
00:45:55,069 --> 00:45:57,144
Sooner rather than later.
- Mm.
1220
00:45:57,163 --> 00:46:00,256
♪ ♪
1221
00:46:00,407 --> 00:46:03,667
If you could change one thing
about me, what would it be?
1222
00:46:03,820 --> 00:46:05,319
- The amount of time
you hold on
1223
00:46:05,412 --> 00:46:09,991
To things that you didn't like.
- Mm.
1224
00:46:10,084 --> 00:46:10,749
So you think
I hold on to grudges?
1225
00:46:10,769 --> 00:46:14,103
- Yes.
1226
00:46:14,255 --> 00:46:16,939
[chuckles]
1227
00:46:17,166 --> 00:46:18,682
- All right.
1228
00:46:18,777 --> 00:46:20,851
"what do you miss most
about me right now?"
1229
00:46:21,004 --> 00:46:23,762
- I miss the happy person
you were.
1230
00:46:23,856 --> 00:46:25,840
I hope that you can get back
1231
00:46:25,858 --> 00:46:28,676
To that person at 100%.
1232
00:46:28,694 --> 00:46:30,177
- I will, I will.
1233
00:46:30,196 --> 00:46:31,195
I will.
1234
00:46:31,347 --> 00:46:32,455
Oh.
1235
00:46:32,682 --> 00:46:39,128
♪ ♪
1236
00:46:41,966 --> 00:46:44,041
Okay.
1237
00:46:44,193 --> 00:46:46,952
- Okay, "the thing
I need the most from you
1238
00:46:47,046 --> 00:46:49,121
In this marriage is..."
1239
00:46:49,140 --> 00:46:51,365
- Understanding.
1240
00:46:51,384 --> 00:46:54,143
And I mean understanding
of where I'm coming from
1241
00:46:54,370 --> 00:46:56,037
When we have disagreements
or arguments,
1242
00:46:56,055 --> 00:46:58,314
Just 'cause I feel like
1243
00:46:58,541 --> 00:47:00,650
It's best to be
on the same page.
1244
00:47:00,877 --> 00:47:02,652
Us not being on the same page
has kinda hurt us,
1245
00:47:02,879 --> 00:47:04,562
So just making sure
that you kind of understand
1246
00:47:04,656 --> 00:47:06,656
Where I'm coming from.
1247
00:47:06,807 --> 00:47:07,565
But I can already tell
you're working on that,
1248
00:47:07,659 --> 00:47:10,142
So I appreciate that.
1249
00:47:10,236 --> 00:47:12,161
- "do you like me for me?"
1250
00:47:12,313 --> 00:47:14,646
- Yes, I like you for you.
1251
00:47:14,666 --> 00:47:16,891
Do you doubt that?
1252
00:47:16,984 --> 00:47:18,576
- I don't know
what you think sometimes.
1253
00:47:18,728 --> 00:47:20,319
- Okay.
1254
00:47:20,338 --> 00:47:22,821
So you don't know if
I like you or not, right now?
1255
00:47:22,841 --> 00:47:24,340
- I don't know what you think.
1256
00:47:24,491 --> 00:47:26,992
- So did you know
what I thought
1257
00:47:27,011 --> 00:47:28,327
When we first met?
1258
00:47:28,346 --> 00:47:29,679
Like, you knew
I liked you then?
1259
00:47:29,830 --> 00:47:31,238
- Yeah.
- But now you're unsure?
1260
00:47:31,257 --> 00:47:33,516
- Yes.
- Mm.
1261
00:47:33,667 --> 00:47:34,909
I'm telling you right now,
1262
00:47:34,927 --> 00:47:36,168
Like I told you then,
I do like you.
1263
00:47:36,262 --> 00:47:38,020
I like you for you.
1264
00:47:38,247 --> 00:47:44,418
♪ ♪
1265
00:47:44,437 --> 00:47:47,697
-" do you honestly see
our future together?"
1266
00:47:47,924 --> 00:47:49,256
♪ ♪
1267
00:47:49,275 --> 00:47:53,427
- Um...
1268
00:47:53,446 --> 00:47:56,430
Right now, it is, like,
1269
00:47:56,449 --> 00:47:58,023
I can't see, like, a future.
1270
00:47:58,117 --> 00:48:00,525
It is doubtful.
1271
00:48:00,545 --> 00:48:02,953
- ♪ I always thought
that this would last ♪
1272
00:48:03,106 --> 00:48:07,458
- But I am holding out hope.
1273
00:48:07,552 --> 00:48:10,887
- So I see a future,
but he's not sure.
1274
00:48:11,038 --> 00:48:15,040
It puts an uneven balance
on us.
1275
00:48:15,134 --> 00:48:17,801
For me, it's
a helpless kind of state.
1276
00:48:17,896 --> 00:48:20,897
- ♪ I always thought
you'd be there ♪
1277
00:48:21,048 --> 00:48:24,066
♪ how do we
move on from here? ♪
1278
00:48:28,814 --> 00:48:32,241
- ♪ careful what
you wish for ♪
1279
00:48:32,393 --> 00:48:39,306
♪ careful what you wish for ♪
1280
00:48:39,325 --> 00:48:42,752
♪ isn't it wonderful ♪
1281
00:48:42,979 --> 00:48:46,664
♪ getting everything
I asked for ♪
1282
00:48:46,758 --> 00:48:50,242
♪ so very damn wonderful ♪
1283
00:48:50,336 --> 00:48:53,988
♪ living the dream ♪
1284
00:48:54,081 --> 00:48:57,058
♪ careful what you wish for ♪
1285
00:48:58,494 --> 00:49:01,103
- Maisey! Come here.
1286
00:49:01,330 --> 00:49:03,606
- ♪ careful what
you wish for ♪
1287
00:49:03,833 --> 00:49:06,500
- Hi.
1288
00:49:06,519 --> 00:49:08,519
I made some salmon
and some green beans
1289
00:49:08,671 --> 00:49:10,688
And some quinoa
that's not gonna be good,
1290
00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:12,506
So--
- it looks fine.
1291
00:49:12,599 --> 00:49:14,266
- I mean, I have
lots of different feelings.
1292
00:49:14,285 --> 00:49:15,934
There is an element to this
where I do feel,
1293
00:49:15,954 --> 00:49:19,622
Like, rejected.
So it's hard to see
1294
00:49:19,849 --> 00:49:22,625
More of the optimism
1295
00:49:22,852 --> 00:49:24,185
Sort of side to it.
1296
00:49:24,203 --> 00:49:25,519
- Hey, you got all the skin off
that one, though.
1297
00:49:25,538 --> 00:49:27,037
That's difficult.
- I know.
1298
00:49:27,131 --> 00:49:29,966
I am nervous, 'cause
it's hard to be vulnerable
1299
00:49:30,117 --> 00:49:33,877
If you don't necessarily feel
the same from the other person.
1300
00:49:34,030 --> 00:49:35,196
You want to sit here?
1301
00:49:35,214 --> 00:49:36,788
- That's my spot.
- Okay.
1302
00:49:36,808 --> 00:49:37,974
But I don't give up.
1303
00:49:38,125 --> 00:49:39,049
I'm not a giver-upper.
1304
00:49:39,143 --> 00:49:40,367
That's who I am.
1305
00:49:40,461 --> 00:49:42,369
And I feel like
we, as a couple,
1306
00:49:42,463 --> 00:49:44,205
Deserve to be honest
with each other.
1307
00:49:44,223 --> 00:49:46,557
So if I have to be
the one to kind of, like,
1308
00:49:46,651 --> 00:49:48,985
Force it a little bit--
that's not my nature at all,
1309
00:49:49,136 --> 00:49:51,153
But I feel like that's the role
I'm kinda gonna have to take.
1310
00:49:53,216 --> 00:49:56,066
Earlier, me and michaela
got some coffee.
1311
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:57,976
We went and hung out in the--
I call it the penthouse.
1312
00:49:57,996 --> 00:49:59,495
You know, the--the top floor.
- Yeah.
1313
00:49:59,646 --> 00:50:00,663
I haven't talked
to zack at all.
1314
00:50:00,814 --> 00:50:01,998
- You haven't?
1315
00:50:02,149 --> 00:50:02,999
- I haven't talked
to the guys much
1316
00:50:03,150 --> 00:50:04,816
The last couple days.
1317
00:50:04,836 --> 00:50:06,335
- You've been in your own zone.
1318
00:50:06,487 --> 00:50:08,671
Haven't you?
1319
00:50:08,898 --> 00:50:10,080
- Yeah.
1320
00:50:10,233 --> 00:50:13,676
I just think
that I need a reset,
1321
00:50:13,827 --> 00:50:17,329
And that reset
1322
00:50:17,348 --> 00:50:18,830
Is probably more beneficial--
1323
00:50:18,924 --> 00:50:20,165
It's probably more realistic
1324
00:50:20,259 --> 00:50:22,184
At my house, at this point.
1325
00:50:22,336 --> 00:50:26,338
I do want
to take that time and just
1326
00:50:26,357 --> 00:50:29,341
Kind of reflect on everything.
1327
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:32,010
I needed to take a few nights
1328
00:50:32,030 --> 00:50:33,771
Just to see how
I felt after that.
1329
00:50:33,865 --> 00:50:35,606
- That's the question at hand.
1330
00:50:35,758 --> 00:50:38,092
You feel the same?
You feel better?
1331
00:50:38,185 --> 00:50:40,611
You feel--
- I feel better.
1332
00:50:40,705 --> 00:50:42,872
I think we still have a lot
to talk about, obviously.
1333
00:50:43,023 --> 00:50:45,524
- Yeah, duh.
1334
00:50:45,543 --> 00:50:48,102
- And a lot to still decide on.
1335
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:51,605
But I definitely feel better.
- That's good.
1336
00:50:51,624 --> 00:50:52,940
- I don't know
how much that's saying.
1337
00:50:52,958 --> 00:50:54,717
- It's better than saying
you feel worse.
1338
00:50:54,944 --> 00:50:56,052
- Yeah.
1339
00:50:56,279 --> 00:50:58,203
I just feel like I was
so shut down
1340
00:50:58,297 --> 00:51:00,038
And, like, defeated.
1341
00:51:00,058 --> 00:51:02,299
And I don't feel
defeated anymore.
1342
00:51:02,393 --> 00:51:04,952
I'm more open about it
than I was at the time.
1343
00:51:04,970 --> 00:51:07,121
And it was good for me.
1344
00:51:07,139 --> 00:51:08,397
'cause I was completely
just shut down.
1345
00:51:08,624 --> 00:51:10,066
- Yeah.
1346
00:51:10,293 --> 00:51:12,976
- But, um...
1347
00:51:13,129 --> 00:51:15,404
If you sense me shutting down,
1348
00:51:15,556 --> 00:51:16,964
Call me out on my [bleep].
1349
00:51:16,982 --> 00:51:18,223
- Okay.
1350
00:51:18,317 --> 00:51:19,391
- Don't make any more effort
1351
00:51:19,410 --> 00:51:20,910
Because I'm being
a certain way.
1352
00:51:21,061 --> 00:51:22,636
I just want you to be like,
"what's wrong with you?"
1353
00:51:22,729 --> 00:51:24,896
- Sure, but, like,
is there anything
1354
00:51:24,990 --> 00:51:26,140
You think that you can do?
1355
00:51:26,233 --> 00:51:27,899
- Yeah, no, of course I do.
1356
00:51:27,993 --> 00:51:29,159
And that's what
I needed to go home
1357
00:51:29,312 --> 00:51:30,994
And think about: What I can do.
1358
00:51:31,147 --> 00:51:32,479
I need to be more vocal.
1359
00:51:32,498 --> 00:51:34,590
And I know that's
something very easy to say.
1360
00:51:34,741 --> 00:51:38,168
But I got to truly do it.
- Bingo.
1361
00:51:38,262 --> 00:51:40,154
- I'm at a way better place
now than I was.
1362
00:51:40,172 --> 00:51:42,080
But that's just in regards
1363
00:51:42,100 --> 00:51:45,008
To me being open
about how I feel.
1364
00:51:45,161 --> 00:51:47,344
I don't typically fight
a lot for relationships,
1365
00:51:47,496 --> 00:51:49,496
Especially ones
that I have doubts about.
1366
00:51:49,515 --> 00:51:51,273
And I still don't have
those feelings
1367
00:51:51,425 --> 00:51:52,942
That I know that I need.
1368
00:51:53,169 --> 00:51:55,336
But I don't want
to go back to dating.
1369
00:51:55,354 --> 00:51:57,521
I've casually dated a lot.
1370
00:51:57,615 --> 00:51:59,949
I want my marriage to work.
1371
00:52:00,100 --> 00:52:03,177
So yeah, I'm still
looking forward and hopeful
1372
00:52:03,195 --> 00:52:05,679
That feeling that
I'm lacking shows up.
1373
00:52:05,698 --> 00:52:09,792
- But, like, you feel, like,
ready to, like, continue?
1374
00:52:10,019 --> 00:52:11,185
- Yeah, absolutely.
1375
00:52:11,278 --> 00:52:13,354
- ♪ your love is a risk ♪
1376
00:52:13,447 --> 00:52:15,965
♪ one that I wanna take ♪
1377
00:52:16,116 --> 00:52:18,041
♪ love is a risk ♪
1378
00:52:18,194 --> 00:52:20,210
♪ one that I wanna take ♪
1379
00:52:20,304 --> 00:52:22,212
♪ with you ♪
1380
00:52:22,306 --> 00:52:25,048
[upbeat music]
1381
00:52:25,143 --> 00:52:27,050
♪ ♪
1382
00:52:27,203 --> 00:52:28,460
- Oh, we got a package.
1383
00:52:28,554 --> 00:52:31,054
- A package that I would like?
1384
00:52:31,207 --> 00:52:34,150
I love sharpies.
- Can you hold on?
1385
00:52:34,301 --> 00:52:35,484
Do you have add?
1386
00:52:35,636 --> 00:52:36,819
- A little bit.
- Focus.
1387
00:52:36,970 --> 00:52:39,046
- [chuckles]
1388
00:52:39,139 --> 00:52:40,305
- All right,
I'ma let you do that,
1389
00:52:40,324 --> 00:52:41,157
And then let me know
when you're ready.
1390
00:52:41,308 --> 00:52:42,658
- Okay, I'm ready now.
1391
00:52:42,885 --> 00:52:44,142
- I'm very excited
about doing an activity
1392
00:52:44,162 --> 00:52:46,236
That dr. Viviana
suggested for us.
1393
00:52:46,330 --> 00:52:47,404
And I know it's gonna be
something to kinda
1394
00:52:47,498 --> 00:52:49,498
Get us a little loose,
1395
00:52:49,725 --> 00:52:52,317
That could possibly lead
into some more intimacy.
1396
00:52:52,336 --> 00:52:55,153
- Ooh, jackpot.
1397
00:52:55,173 --> 00:52:56,505
There's macarons in here.
- Eat them.
1398
00:52:56,657 --> 00:52:58,232
- Do you want some almonds?
- No.
1399
00:52:58,250 --> 00:52:59,991
- Strawberries?
- I don't want any of that.
1400
00:53:00,085 --> 00:53:03,420
So I am excited
to see what's ahead.
1401
00:53:03,572 --> 00:53:05,088
Here we go.
1402
00:53:05,241 --> 00:53:06,348
This is what we're doing.
1403
00:53:06,575 --> 00:53:08,258
Basically,
these are the five senses.
1404
00:53:08,411 --> 00:53:10,335
I think each card
is gonna touch on
1405
00:53:10,429 --> 00:53:11,854
Each one of those senses.
1406
00:53:12,005 --> 00:53:13,580
So first one.
1407
00:53:13,599 --> 00:53:15,599
Ooh.
1408
00:53:15,693 --> 00:53:18,677
"taste.
Take a body shot."
1409
00:53:18,696 --> 00:53:20,529
- Yeah, we're not
gonna do that.
1410
00:53:20,681 --> 00:53:22,439
- Why not?
1411
00:53:22,591 --> 00:53:24,608
- I have never done body shots,
1412
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:26,610
And it's not something
that I would want to do.
1413
00:53:26,762 --> 00:53:28,445
- All right, well, I'll still
leave it there, just in case.
1414
00:53:28,597 --> 00:53:31,040
♪ ♪
1415
00:53:31,191 --> 00:53:32,208
Oh, I like this one.
1416
00:53:32,359 --> 00:53:34,043
"blindfold--"
1417
00:53:34,194 --> 00:53:36,119
- I'm not blindfolding
with my lashes.
1418
00:53:36,272 --> 00:53:38,697
- Golly!
1419
00:53:38,791 --> 00:53:40,774
This is like pulling teeth.
1420
00:53:40,793 --> 00:53:42,626
But I'm definitely
not gonna give up.
1421
00:53:42,720 --> 00:53:44,278
We're physically attracted
to one another.
1422
00:53:44,371 --> 00:53:46,037
We have tons of chemistry.
1423
00:53:46,131 --> 00:53:48,465
Show me how you'd like me
1424
00:53:48,559 --> 00:53:52,469
To initiate sex.
1425
00:53:52,563 --> 00:53:53,712
That's out the window.
1426
00:53:53,731 --> 00:53:56,290
- Facts.
1427
00:53:56,308 --> 00:53:59,626
- But I want her to relax
and let her guard down
1428
00:53:59,645 --> 00:54:01,645
And just focus on us right now,
1429
00:54:01,739 --> 00:54:03,239
And, you know, do the exercise
1430
00:54:03,466 --> 00:54:05,223
For what it's worth.
Give it a chance.
1431
00:54:05,243 --> 00:54:07,801
"find a comfortable
cuddle position.
1432
00:54:07,894 --> 00:54:10,137
"sync your breath
for three minutes.
1433
00:54:10,155 --> 00:54:11,638
"and then describe how you feel
1434
00:54:11,657 --> 00:54:13,474
And what feelings came up."
1435
00:54:13,492 --> 00:54:17,068
All right.
So all right.
1436
00:54:17,162 --> 00:54:19,255
- So, how do I--
you mean just like this?
1437
00:54:19,482 --> 00:54:21,315
- Like, yeah.
Come up on me some more.
1438
00:54:21,408 --> 00:54:23,166
There you go.
Like that.
1439
00:54:23,319 --> 00:54:24,409
It's a cuddle position.
1440
00:54:24,503 --> 00:54:25,486
All right?
- Cuddle position.
1441
00:54:25,579 --> 00:54:26,911
- So I can feel you inhaling.
1442
00:54:26,931 --> 00:54:28,931
So I'ma--I'ma follow yours.
- Let me see, hold on.
1443
00:54:29,158 --> 00:54:34,678
♪ ♪
1444
00:54:34,830 --> 00:54:38,181
- ♪ I reach out for you,
out for you ♪
1445
00:54:38,334 --> 00:54:42,503
♪ you consume me, hold me,
wrap yourself around me ♪
1446
00:54:42,596 --> 00:54:43,762
- It feels good
to take deep breaths
1447
00:54:43,856 --> 00:54:45,506
In sync with my husband.
1448
00:54:45,524 --> 00:54:47,098
I'm most uncomfortable
when it comes
1449
00:54:47,192 --> 00:54:48,600
To physical intimacy.
1450
00:54:48,694 --> 00:54:50,511
But I love to cuddle.
1451
00:54:50,529 --> 00:54:52,513
And I think
that's more intimate to me,
1452
00:54:52,606 --> 00:54:55,440
Or more meaningful
for me, emotionally.
1453
00:54:55,459 --> 00:54:57,701
A heart.
1454
00:54:57,795 --> 00:55:00,537
- So how do you feel?
- I feel more relaxed.
1455
00:55:00,631 --> 00:55:03,281
- Do you?
All right.
1456
00:55:03,301 --> 00:55:05,634
"touch foreheads,
and tell each other
1457
00:55:05,786 --> 00:55:07,636
"what I love
about being with you,
1458
00:55:07,863 --> 00:55:10,472
What I need,
what I am challenged by."
1459
00:55:10,624 --> 00:55:11,974
All right.
1460
00:55:12,125 --> 00:55:13,809
Face each other.
1461
00:55:14,036 --> 00:55:15,702
- Can't really see your eyes
this way though.
1462
00:55:15,721 --> 00:55:17,371
- Well, it's 'cause
you're looking down.
1463
00:55:17,389 --> 00:55:19,206
You don't have to look down.
1464
00:55:19,299 --> 00:55:20,390
Like that,
like we about to kiss.
1465
00:55:20,543 --> 00:55:22,151
Like this.
- But now your nose--
1466
00:55:22,302 --> 00:55:25,487
Our noses are in the way.
- Like that. Like that.
1467
00:55:25,639 --> 00:55:27,823
- What I love
about being with you
1468
00:55:27,974 --> 00:55:30,141
Is waking up
next to you every morning.
1469
00:55:30,235 --> 00:55:32,811
What I need from you is
1470
00:55:32,830 --> 00:55:34,646
Your continued patience.
1471
00:55:34,665 --> 00:55:37,407
And what I'm challenged by
every day is your patience.
1472
00:55:37,560 --> 00:55:39,560
- Okay.
1473
00:55:39,578 --> 00:55:41,003
Okay, I like it.
- [laughs]
1474
00:55:41,230 --> 00:55:42,338
- Okay.
1475
00:55:42,489 --> 00:55:46,491
What I love
about being with you
1476
00:55:46,585 --> 00:55:48,493
Is your compassion.
1477
00:55:48,587 --> 00:55:51,421
- Aww, that's so sweet.
1478
00:55:51,515 --> 00:55:56,743
- What I need is desire.
1479
00:55:56,762 --> 00:55:58,854
And then, it's gonna tie
into this one.
1480
00:55:59,005 --> 00:56:03,750
What I'm challenged by
is your lack of intimacy.
1481
00:56:03,769 --> 00:56:05,510
- All intimacy?
1482
00:56:05,529 --> 00:56:06,603
- I didn't say
your lack of sex,
1483
00:56:06,697 --> 00:56:08,422
You know what I mean?
1484
00:56:08,515 --> 00:56:09,365
You know what I mean?
- Yeah.
1485
00:56:09,516 --> 00:56:11,775
- Yeah.
- I hear you.
1486
00:56:11,927 --> 00:56:13,852
I mean, it feels good
to do these exercises,
1487
00:56:13,871 --> 00:56:16,430
Because I continue to learn
what his needs are,
1488
00:56:16,448 --> 00:56:18,432
And I feel like
we're making strides
1489
00:56:18,525 --> 00:56:19,708
Emotionally with each other.
1490
00:56:24,623 --> 00:56:27,198
- Yes, I feel closer to
1491
00:56:27,292 --> 00:56:28,792
Giving my husband a peck.
1492
00:56:28,886 --> 00:56:30,777
Stay tuned, it'll happen soon.
1493
00:56:30,796 --> 00:56:33,630
[upbeat music]
1494
00:56:33,724 --> 00:56:38,560
♪ ♪
1495
00:56:39,622 --> 00:56:43,214
♪ ♪
1496
00:56:43,234 --> 00:56:45,475
- So tonight, um,
1497
00:56:45,628 --> 00:56:50,739
Has not been, um, a good night.
1498
00:56:50,891 --> 00:56:53,650
This evening, we were upstairs
at the clubhouse,
1499
00:56:53,744 --> 00:56:56,653
Just relaxing.
1500
00:56:56,747 --> 00:56:59,564
And rachel, uh,
1501
00:56:59,658 --> 00:57:01,083
Calls me by another man's name.
1502
00:57:01,310 --> 00:57:03,902
♪ ♪
1503
00:57:03,996 --> 00:57:07,256
So I'm not very content.
I'm not happy.
1504
00:58:04,206 --> 00:58:05,555
- ♪ but it's still
you in my dreams ♪
1505
00:58:05,649 --> 00:58:07,040
♪ you that I see ♪
1506
00:58:07,133 --> 00:58:09,651
- Going in-in.
- Going in-in.
1507
00:58:09,878 --> 00:58:10,877
Hi.
1508
00:58:10,896 --> 00:58:12,654
- Hi.
- Hello.
1509
00:58:12,881 --> 00:58:14,214
Did they tell you
what to expect?
1510
00:58:14,233 --> 00:58:15,382
- No.
- Uh-uh.
1511
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:16,658
- Oh, awesome, well, we are
1512
00:58:16,810 --> 00:58:18,643
Tantric sex instructors.
1513
00:58:18,737 --> 00:58:20,812
We have been teaching tantra
1514
00:58:20,906 --> 00:58:22,572
For twenty-something years,
1515
00:58:22,725 --> 00:58:26,502
And we'd love to share some
secrets of intimacy with you
1516
00:58:26,653 --> 00:58:29,062
That can help propel
your relationship.
1517
00:58:29,081 --> 00:58:30,397
- Bring it.
- Bring it.
1518
00:58:30,490 --> 00:58:32,082
- All right, wonderful.
- Good answer.
1519
00:58:32,234 --> 00:58:33,900
- Let's sit.
- Oh, you're gonna love it.
1520
00:58:33,919 --> 00:58:35,511
- When one partner
in a marriage is feeling
1521
00:58:35,738 --> 00:58:37,404
More attraction
than the other,
1522
00:58:37,497 --> 00:58:38,830
Sometimes it can help
to push them
1523
00:58:38,849 --> 00:58:40,665
Out of their comfort zones.
1524
00:58:40,684 --> 00:58:42,667
So we've encouraged
brett and ryan
1525
00:58:42,761 --> 00:58:44,836
To take this
tantric yoga class,
1526
00:58:44,855 --> 00:58:46,747
Which just might
help them to open up
1527
00:58:46,765 --> 00:58:48,765
In more ways than one.
1528
00:58:48,917 --> 00:58:51,026
- What is your intention
for today?
1529
00:58:51,177 --> 00:58:54,087
- I mean, I think
the intention is
1530
00:58:54,180 --> 00:58:56,590
Better communication.
- Yeah.
1531
00:58:56,608 --> 00:58:59,426
- Any kind of advice on how to,
1532
00:58:59,444 --> 00:59:00,610
You know,
create more connection
1533
00:59:00,704 --> 00:59:03,096
And be physically closer
1534
00:59:03,115 --> 00:59:05,098
Is something
I'm definitely gonna listen to.
1535
00:59:05,117 --> 00:59:07,951
- So the first sense
that we're going to explore
1536
00:59:08,045 --> 00:59:09,378
Is the sense of sound.
1537
00:59:09,605 --> 00:59:11,529
[moans]
1538
00:59:11,549 --> 00:59:12,714
[laughs]
- your turn, brett.
1539
00:59:12,941 --> 00:59:14,550
- No thanks.
1540
00:59:16,628 --> 00:59:18,536
[bell jingling]
1541
00:59:18,630 --> 00:59:21,723
[beads rushing]
1542
00:59:21,875 --> 00:59:24,634
- And now you can
tease the lip.
1543
00:59:24,787 --> 00:59:25,394
- You're not supposed
to let me bite it.
1544
00:59:25,545 --> 00:59:26,544
- Have it.
1545
00:59:26,564 --> 00:59:27,954
I mean--
1546
00:59:27,973 --> 00:59:33,977
♪ ♪
1547
00:59:34,129 --> 00:59:35,462
- Now we're gonna do touch.
1548
00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:42,244
♪ ♪
1549
00:59:49,753 --> 00:59:51,812
Now you want to share
1550
00:59:51,905 --> 00:59:55,907
What you like best
about your partner.
1551
00:59:55,926 --> 00:59:57,150
- I think the first thing
I told you
1552
00:59:57,169 --> 00:59:59,077
At the altar was your eyes.
1553
00:59:59,171 --> 01:00:01,004
Your eyes are incredible.
1554
01:00:01,098 --> 01:00:02,598
And you're a good person,
and that's what I asked for.
1555
01:00:02,749 --> 01:00:04,324
I asked for a good person.
1556
01:00:04,343 --> 01:00:06,509
- I like...
1557
01:00:06,662 --> 01:00:08,604
Your beard.
1558
01:00:08,755 --> 01:00:10,588
[chuckles]
1559
01:00:10,608 --> 01:00:12,682
I kept making jokes, because
1560
01:00:12,776 --> 01:00:13,775
I feel a little uncomfortable.
1561
01:00:13,927 --> 01:00:15,611
You're very manly.
1562
01:00:15,762 --> 01:00:17,354
The last time I was
intimate with anybody
1563
01:00:17,506 --> 01:00:18,672
Was two years ago.
1564
01:00:18,765 --> 01:00:20,023
We're just
not there yet, you know?
1565
01:00:20,117 --> 01:00:22,008
So that's the part
that makes it uncomfortable.
1566
01:00:22,027 --> 01:00:24,453
It's not my feelings about
the subject matter or him.
1567
01:00:24,680 --> 01:00:27,030
♪ ♪
1568
01:00:27,182 --> 01:00:30,684
- I want this to progress.
I want this to--
1569
01:00:30,702 --> 01:00:32,461
Everything I said
that I'm waiting on,
1570
01:00:32,612 --> 01:00:34,037
I want it to happen, I do.
1571
01:00:34,189 --> 01:00:35,613
- Same.
1572
01:00:35,633 --> 01:00:38,191
I want to be your best friend.
1573
01:00:38,284 --> 01:00:42,879
I want you to trust me
to communicate,
1574
01:00:43,031 --> 01:00:45,031
Tell me stuff, good and bad.
1575
01:00:45,050 --> 01:00:46,975
- Yeah.
1576
01:00:47,127 --> 01:00:49,794
- I really do crave
emotional connections
1577
01:00:49,888 --> 01:00:52,147
And vulnerability
from someone,
1578
01:00:52,298 --> 01:00:54,875
And that's something
that makes me feel understood
1579
01:00:54,968 --> 01:00:56,801
And makes me
like someone more.
1580
01:00:56,895 --> 01:01:00,046
And it feels like this is
a step in the right direction.
1581
01:01:00,140 --> 01:01:01,548
- ♪ never give up,
never give up ♪
1582
01:01:01,641 --> 01:01:04,660
- Are you melting?
- Yeah.
1583
01:01:04,887 --> 01:01:08,722
- ♪ till we're making
our way tonight ♪
1584
01:01:08,740 --> 01:01:11,500
[gentle music]
1585
01:01:11,727 --> 01:01:18,423
♪ ♪
1586
01:01:20,585 --> 01:01:22,919
- So how was your day today?
1587
01:01:23,013 --> 01:01:26,072
[tense music]
1588
01:01:26,091 --> 01:01:27,757
♪ ♪
1589
01:01:27,851 --> 01:01:29,667
- Everything last night,
1590
01:01:29,687 --> 01:01:31,836
The way you acted towards me,
1591
01:01:31,855 --> 01:01:34,581
The way you spoke to me,
1592
01:01:34,599 --> 01:01:39,085
The way you expressed that--
how you weren't happy was okay?
1593
01:01:39,104 --> 01:01:41,196
- I told you that.
I told you I wasn't happy.
1594
01:01:41,347 --> 01:01:45,108
- The way you expressed
that you were not happy,
1595
01:01:45,260 --> 01:01:47,018
The way you did it,
1596
01:01:47,037 --> 01:01:49,446
Was that okay?
1597
01:01:49,598 --> 01:01:51,614
- Apparently not.
- There's no way.
1598
01:01:51,767 --> 01:01:54,267
My mom and my dad
raised me better than that,
1599
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:56,545
To let a man
talk to me that way.
1600
01:01:56,772 --> 01:01:59,122
- Okay.
1601
01:01:59,274 --> 01:02:00,549
- I don't trust you at all.
1602
01:02:00,776 --> 01:02:03,126
- Same.
1603
01:02:03,278 --> 01:02:05,946
I'm just saying you called me
by a different man's name.
1604
01:02:05,964 --> 01:02:08,539
- And I immediately apologized.
1605
01:02:08,559 --> 01:02:10,800
And it was a sincere apology.
1606
01:02:10,894 --> 01:02:12,561
But you locked me out.
1607
01:02:16,734 --> 01:02:19,960
[pounding on door]
1608
01:02:20,053 --> 01:02:22,571
- You disappear,
I don't know what you're doing.
1609
01:02:22,798 --> 01:02:23,964
So I waited for--
- I was here with brittaney.
1610
01:02:23,982 --> 01:02:25,982
- Uh-huh.
- I walked her out.
1611
01:02:26,134 --> 01:02:27,984
We spoke some more.
1612
01:02:28,136 --> 01:02:30,804
I didn't take anything with me.
1613
01:02:30,822 --> 01:02:32,897
You had gone to bed.
- Mm-hmm.
1614
01:02:32,916 --> 01:02:34,824
- I come back,
1615
01:02:34,918 --> 01:02:36,826
And it's dead-bolted.
1616
01:02:36,979 --> 01:02:38,828
And so, I'm banging
1617
01:02:38,922 --> 01:02:40,663
On myrla's door.
1618
01:02:40,758 --> 01:02:42,090
[pounding on door]
1619
01:02:42,317 --> 01:02:43,833
[dog barks]
1620
01:02:43,927 --> 01:02:46,577
I'm banging on brett's door.
1621
01:02:46,597 --> 01:02:48,096
[pounding on door]
1622
01:02:48,323 --> 01:02:50,006
I'm banging
on everybody's door.
1623
01:02:50,100 --> 01:02:52,492
I'm calling all my friends
in the middle of the night
1624
01:02:52,511 --> 01:02:55,996
To tell them that my husband
locked me out of the apartment.
1625
01:02:56,089 --> 01:02:57,255
- You know I lock the door
every night.
1626
01:02:57,274 --> 01:02:58,848
I secure my property
before I go to sleep.
1627
01:02:59,001 --> 01:03:00,609
- Without your wife home?
1628
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:01,835
- I don't know
where you were at
1629
01:03:01,853 --> 01:03:02,944
Or what you were doing.
- Then ask.
1630
01:03:03,096 --> 01:03:06,189
- Like, you just took off.
- Then ask.
1631
01:03:06,341 --> 01:03:07,841
I feel like you don't care.
1632
01:03:07,859 --> 01:03:10,010
♪ ♪
1633
01:03:10,028 --> 01:03:12,103
- I don't know.
1634
01:03:12,197 --> 01:03:13,622
I really don't know, seriously.
1635
01:03:13,849 --> 01:03:19,035
♪ ♪
1636
01:03:19,187 --> 01:03:20,854
- I feel like I hit a wall.
1637
01:03:20,947 --> 01:03:22,205
I feel like
I'm talking to a wall.
1638
01:03:22,299 --> 01:03:23,706
He doesn't care.
1639
01:03:23,859 --> 01:03:25,283
I don't feel that you are
1640
01:03:25,302 --> 01:03:27,710
Remorseful at all.
- Okay.
1641
01:03:27,863 --> 01:03:29,638
- I don't feel that
you're apologetic at all.
1642
01:03:29,865 --> 01:03:31,531
- Okay.
1643
01:03:31,550 --> 01:03:33,791
- And yeah,
1644
01:03:33,811 --> 01:03:35,644
I cannot be your wife.
1645
01:03:35,871 --> 01:03:37,604
♪ ♪
1646
01:03:42,377 --> 01:03:43,301
- Okay.
1647
01:03:43,320 --> 01:03:45,153
Makes sense.
Good.
1648
01:03:45,380 --> 01:03:46,880
Awesome.
1649
01:03:46,898 --> 01:03:49,640
Sounds good.
1650
01:03:49,660 --> 01:03:51,067
Okay.
1651
01:03:51,219 --> 01:03:53,887
- So I'm gonna go
pack my things.
1652
01:03:53,905 --> 01:03:56,832
- Okay.
1653
01:03:56,983 --> 01:03:58,166
All right.
- I'm gonna do that.
1654
01:03:58,318 --> 01:04:01,244
- I will help you
if you need any help.
1655
01:04:01,396 --> 01:04:03,171
I think there's some boxes
in the closet as well.
1656
01:04:03,323 --> 01:04:04,673
- Yeah, okay.
1657
01:04:04,900 --> 01:04:11,638
♪ ♪
1658
01:04:14,351 --> 01:04:16,000
- Are we done?
1659
01:04:16,019 --> 01:04:17,686
Why do I gotta sit here?
I mean.
1660
01:04:19,081 --> 01:04:20,930
- I'm good.
1661
01:04:21,083 --> 01:04:22,858
It's not my choice.
1662
01:04:23,009 --> 01:04:24,751
- You don't want to fight
for your marriage, though?
1663
01:04:24,844 --> 01:04:26,102
- She already gave up,
so there's--
1664
01:04:26,196 --> 01:04:27,863
I'm not gonna--again,
I'm not gonna convince her.
1665
01:04:28,014 --> 01:04:29,698
If she comes back--
if she circles back and says,
1666
01:04:29,849 --> 01:04:31,774
"oh, well, maybe I was
premature with my decision,"
1667
01:04:31,927 --> 01:04:32,942
Then, okay,
we'll talk about it.
1668
01:04:33,095 --> 01:04:34,427
But as far as right now
is concerned, no.
1669
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:36,538
You made the decision, okay.
Roll.
1670
01:04:45,365 --> 01:04:48,366
- Me giving up
with things left unsaid
1671
01:04:48,460 --> 01:04:50,627
Is something typical for me.
1672
01:04:50,779 --> 01:04:52,946
And I always
go back and regret.
1673
01:04:52,964 --> 01:04:54,705
"why didn't I say this?
1674
01:04:54,799 --> 01:04:56,299
Why didn't I let him
know this?"
1675
01:04:56,393 --> 01:04:58,785
And there's something
I was holding on to
1676
01:04:58,803 --> 01:05:00,562
That I felt was just
necessary to share.
1677
01:05:09,222 --> 01:05:11,131
Okay, so--
1678
01:05:11,149 --> 01:05:13,724
And I would like you to
give me eye contact
1679
01:05:13,818 --> 01:05:15,818
When I speak, just so I can
1680
01:05:15,971 --> 01:05:17,913
See if you are listening.
- Okay.
1681
01:05:18,140 --> 01:05:20,140
- Because I don't want you
to think that
1682
01:05:20,158 --> 01:05:23,326
Because of one argument
last night, it's, like,
1683
01:05:23,420 --> 01:05:25,311
"damn, she ran for the hills."
1684
01:05:25,330 --> 01:05:28,406
It has been a build-up.
1685
01:05:28,500 --> 01:05:30,483
I wrote this two weeks ago,
1686
01:05:30,576 --> 01:05:34,412
And I would really like you
to listen to this.
1687
01:05:34,431 --> 01:05:37,840
"you are my priority.
But so am I.
1688
01:05:37,993 --> 01:05:40,493
"I am also my own priority.
1689
01:05:40,586 --> 01:05:42,328
"I thought my future
was gonna be
1690
01:05:42,422 --> 01:05:44,422
"a planning process
with my husband,
1691
01:05:44,441 --> 01:05:46,332
"yet I married someone
1692
01:05:46,351 --> 01:05:49,760
That has it all
planned out for me."
1693
01:05:49,780 --> 01:05:51,112
We had a communication
1694
01:05:51,339 --> 01:05:54,598
About, "what are we gonna do
after decision day?"
1695
01:05:54,693 --> 01:05:59,195
And you want me to immediately
move into your house.
1696
01:05:59,347 --> 01:06:02,182
And it's been
the bank accounts.
1697
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:05,018
And it's like,
are you gonna get another car?
1698
01:06:05,036 --> 01:06:07,537
"so I really thought
there was nothing
1699
01:06:07,689 --> 01:06:10,281
"we couldn't work through,
but I'm starting to feel
1700
01:06:10,300 --> 01:06:11,967
"you are a little controlling,
1701
01:06:12,194 --> 01:06:14,377
And that's my deal-breaker."
- okay.
1702
01:06:14,529 --> 01:06:17,788
- "now I feel like you're not
willing to compromise with me,
1703
01:06:17,882 --> 01:06:20,383
"because I don't fit
your perfect mold
1704
01:06:20,477 --> 01:06:22,143
Of what you wanted in a wife."
1705
01:06:22,370 --> 01:06:28,374
♪ ♪
1706
01:06:28,393 --> 01:06:30,043
- So I got a question.
- Yes.
1707
01:06:30,061 --> 01:06:31,820
- So I feel kind of,
like, betrayed.
1708
01:06:32,047 --> 01:06:33,822
I'm like, well,
where was all this before?
1709
01:06:34,049 --> 01:06:35,381
Like, everything was
all puppies and rainbows
1710
01:06:35,475 --> 01:06:37,492
For a whole month.
You kept this story
1711
01:06:37,719 --> 01:06:39,477
That you had in there
a secret the whole time.
1712
01:06:39,496 --> 01:06:40,829
This is the first time
I'm hearing about it
1713
01:06:41,056 --> 01:06:42,146
When you're like,
you had this all bundled up,
1714
01:06:42,165 --> 01:06:43,389
And then you were just, like,
1715
01:06:43,408 --> 01:06:44,833
"well, I'm just gonna
tell him today."
1716
01:06:44,984 --> 01:06:47,335
Help me understand
how you think that's right.
1717
01:06:47,562 --> 01:06:50,897
By not communicating there,
it's like, I don't--
1718
01:06:50,915 --> 01:06:53,842
I'm just not seeing it.
1719
01:06:54,069 --> 01:06:57,904
- I'm very willing to be, like,
"I should have told you."
1720
01:06:57,922 --> 01:07:00,256
I could have handled it better.
1721
01:07:00,408 --> 01:07:03,910
I can admit when you are right
and I'm wrong.
1722
01:07:03,928 --> 01:07:05,595
You cannot.
1723
01:07:05,747 --> 01:07:10,099
You have not taken
accountability in any of this.
1724
01:07:10,252 --> 01:07:12,176
And if you have,
please tell me what it is,
1725
01:07:12,270 --> 01:07:14,103
Because it has been lost on me.
1726
01:07:14,256 --> 01:07:17,014
♪ ♪
1727
01:07:17,034 --> 01:07:19,926
- So accountability for what?
1728
01:07:20,019 --> 01:07:21,036
- Why we're struggling
right now.
1729
01:07:21,187 --> 01:07:24,097
Your wife, who--
1730
01:07:24,115 --> 01:07:26,115
- Oh, you mean
the wife that gave up?
1731
01:07:26,268 --> 01:07:28,117
- Exactly,
your wife that is giving up--
1732
01:07:28,270 --> 01:07:30,045
- That didn't communicate
with me
1733
01:07:30,272 --> 01:07:32,939
About these things
that actually, like--
1734
01:07:33,032 --> 01:07:34,883
- Whatever you want
to take it as,
1735
01:07:35,110 --> 01:07:36,109
It wasn't one--
- that's exactly what it is.
1736
01:07:36,202 --> 01:07:37,385
That's factual.
- It wasn't one-sided.
1737
01:07:37,612 --> 01:07:39,445
- That's factual.
- You have part in this too,
1738
01:07:39,464 --> 01:07:41,372
Of me wanting to give up.
1739
01:07:41,391 --> 01:07:42,799
- I don't want to convince you
1740
01:07:42,893 --> 01:07:43,874
To want to be in this marriage
1741
01:07:43,894 --> 01:07:45,894
If you don't want to be in it.
1742
01:07:46,121 --> 01:07:47,395
I don't want to paint
this beautiful picture
1743
01:07:47,547 --> 01:07:49,122
And say,
"oh, my god, I'm sorry.
1744
01:07:49,140 --> 01:07:50,065
It'll never happen, baby.
Blah, blah."
1745
01:07:50,292 --> 01:07:51,474
And even though
I do feel that way,
1746
01:07:51,568 --> 01:07:53,401
And I want to say that--
- why wouldn't you say that?
1747
01:07:53,553 --> 01:07:54,977
- That's what--
that's what I just said.
1748
01:07:55,130 --> 01:07:57,072
- That would make me
feel great.
1749
01:07:57,299 --> 01:07:59,148
- I know that.
- You should say that.
1750
01:07:59,301 --> 01:08:00,316
- I don't want you to think
1751
01:08:00,468 --> 01:08:01,910
That I'm saying it
just because,
1752
01:08:02,137 --> 01:08:03,303
And then it's gonna continue
to keep persisting.
1753
01:08:03,321 --> 01:08:04,895
- It's make--
it's making it worse,
1754
01:08:04,915 --> 01:08:05,972
You not saying it.
1755
01:08:05,990 --> 01:08:10,251
♪ ♪
1756
01:08:15,425 --> 01:08:17,092
- ♪ give me love ♪
1757
01:08:17,243 --> 01:08:19,928
♪ everybody wants love ♪
1758
01:08:20,079 --> 01:08:21,930
♪ send me back ♪
1759
01:08:22,157 --> 01:08:25,491
[knocking on door]
- there's a basket.
1760
01:08:25,585 --> 01:08:28,085
Oh, my god.
What the heck?
1761
01:08:28,105 --> 01:08:30,254
This looks like
there's a costume in here.
1762
01:08:30,348 --> 01:08:32,423
Oh, my god.
[both laughing]
1763
01:08:32,442 --> 01:08:34,109
What?
1764
01:08:34,260 --> 01:08:36,945
Uh-oh, what is this?
- Oh, man.
1765
01:08:38,264 --> 01:08:39,948
- Oh, boy.
1766
01:08:40,099 --> 01:08:41,116
- Would you like
to do the honors?
1767
01:08:43,453 --> 01:08:45,345
- [chuckles] okay.
1768
01:08:45,363 --> 01:08:48,456
I am just feeling
all-around happy right now.
1769
01:08:48,608 --> 01:08:51,534
- What do you think?
- [laughs]
1770
01:08:51,628 --> 01:08:52,943
Wait! Oh, no, the back
1771
01:08:53,037 --> 01:08:54,462
Is gonna be totally open.
1772
01:08:54,689 --> 01:08:57,190
I'm feeling emotionally
and physically connected
1773
01:08:57,283 --> 01:08:59,968
With my husband.
I'm digging it all.
1774
01:09:00,119 --> 01:09:02,879
Your heart rate
seems to be elevated.
1775
01:09:03,031 --> 01:09:04,697
I'm looking forward to
1776
01:09:04,790 --> 01:09:05,882
These little homework
assignments.
1777
01:09:06,034 --> 01:09:08,143
It's the sexy dice.
1778
01:09:08,370 --> 01:09:11,462
Because I know johnny
and I are a pair.
1779
01:09:11,556 --> 01:09:13,706
We're all-in, and we're ready.
1780
01:09:13,799 --> 01:09:16,058
Oh.
- Is your hair okay like this?
1781
01:09:16,153 --> 01:09:17,318
- Yeah, it's fine.
1782
01:09:17,470 --> 01:09:18,544
I can't see anything.
1783
01:09:18,563 --> 01:09:22,215
[dice clattering]
1784
01:09:22,233 --> 01:09:26,719
♪ ♪
1785
01:09:26,738 --> 01:09:31,332
- ♪ you know you don't
have to say it twice ♪
1786
01:09:31,484 --> 01:09:34,243
♪ we feeling all right ♪
1787
01:09:34,396 --> 01:09:36,504
- Nice.
- ♪ maybe tonight ♪
1788
01:09:36,656 --> 01:09:40,249
♪ we'll find our place ♪
1789
01:09:40,343 --> 01:09:41,992
- Ah.
1790
01:09:42,012 --> 01:09:44,328
I'm getting some bonuses here.
1791
01:09:44,347 --> 01:09:46,572
[both chuckle]
1792
01:09:46,591 --> 01:09:48,257
I like, I like, I like.
1793
01:09:48,410 --> 01:09:50,501
- Does blowing neck
do anything for you?
1794
01:09:50,595 --> 01:09:52,412
- Yeah, followed
with the kisses.
1795
01:09:52,430 --> 01:09:53,337
- Don't even tell me
what it is, just do it.
1796
01:09:53,356 --> 01:09:54,263
- Okay, okay.
1797
01:09:54,357 --> 01:09:55,415
Okay, don't freak out.
1798
01:09:55,433 --> 01:09:57,750
[dice clattering]
1799
01:09:57,843 --> 01:10:00,269
[laughs]
- don't tell me, just do it.
1800
01:10:00,422 --> 01:10:04,774
- [laughing]
oh, my god. Oh, no.
1801
01:10:04,868 --> 01:10:07,017
I'm gonna have to guide you,
'cause location.
1802
01:10:07,037 --> 01:10:09,370
Sit down slowly.
1803
01:10:09,522 --> 01:10:10,688
Okay.
- Okay.
1804
01:10:10,707 --> 01:10:12,114
- I think you should probably
1805
01:10:12,209 --> 01:10:15,043
Lie down with the rug.
1806
01:10:15,194 --> 01:10:17,378
- Oh!
- Oh, are you--oh, sorry.
1807
01:10:17,530 --> 01:10:19,272
All right.
1808
01:10:19,290 --> 01:10:20,531
♪ ♪
1809
01:10:20,550 --> 01:10:22,291
[laughs]
1810
01:10:22,444 --> 01:10:25,611
- Whoa, where is this going?
1811
01:10:25,630 --> 01:10:27,538
I like.
I like this.
1812
01:10:27,557 --> 01:10:29,039
Let me know
if you need any help.
1813
01:10:29,059 --> 01:10:30,783
- No, it's just--that's it.
- Oh, okay, all right.
1814
01:10:30,802 --> 01:10:35,621
- That's good, that's good.
[both laugh]
1815
01:10:35,640 --> 01:10:41,143
- Oh, my god!
- [laughs]
1816
01:10:41,238 --> 01:10:43,387
That's, um, that was it.
1817
01:10:43,406 --> 01:10:44,647
- Oh, that's it?
1818
01:10:44,799 --> 01:10:46,724
That was cool, I guess.
1819
01:10:46,743 --> 01:10:49,226
I feel like I've got to do
a little shopping tonight
1820
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:52,638
And replace the body parts dice
1821
01:10:52,657 --> 01:10:55,308
With, like, a little more
rated-r dice,
1822
01:10:55,326 --> 01:10:57,310
And when I will tell her
we're gonna play it again,
1823
01:10:57,403 --> 01:10:58,235
And roll it,
and she'll be like,
1824
01:10:58,255 --> 01:11:00,004
"whoa, what is this?"
1825
01:11:01,833 --> 01:11:03,424
[dice clattering]
1826
01:11:03,651 --> 01:11:08,671
♪ ♪
1827
01:11:08,823 --> 01:11:13,083
- Huh? Ah! [laughs]
1828
01:11:13,103 --> 01:11:14,176
Okay, I'm liking this already.
1829
01:11:14,329 --> 01:11:21,276
♪ ♪
1830
01:11:22,504 --> 01:11:25,671
Is this still on the dice?
- Maybe.
1831
01:11:25,690 --> 01:11:30,676
♪ ♪
1832
01:11:30,695 --> 01:11:32,678
This is where
I'm supposed to kiss.
1833
01:11:32,697 --> 01:11:34,622
- I'm digging it.
1834
01:11:34,774 --> 01:11:38,275
- ♪ take me back
to the nights we shared ♪
1835
01:11:38,295 --> 01:11:43,205
♪ sneaking out
thinking we weren't scared ♪
1836
01:11:43,358 --> 01:11:47,618
♪ spending time
with the lights turned low ♪
1837
01:11:47,637 --> 01:11:49,453
♪ you're the only thing ♪
1838
01:11:49,547 --> 01:11:54,884
♪ I've ever known ♪
1839
01:11:54,978 --> 01:11:57,386
- I should go invest in
the raunchier version of this.
1840
01:11:57,480 --> 01:12:00,631
- Mm.
- [chuckles]
1841
01:12:00,725 --> 01:12:03,634
- ♪ we'll take them
down, down, one at a time ♪
1842
01:12:03,653 --> 01:12:05,803
♪ no, they ain't
never giving up ♪
1843
01:12:05,822 --> 01:12:07,730
- Rachel, where--
where are you bringing us?
1844
01:12:07,882 --> 01:12:09,382
- ♪ never stop
so put your hands up ♪
1845
01:12:09,400 --> 01:12:11,717
- I think we have some
aggression we need to release.
1846
01:12:11,736 --> 01:12:14,495
- Oh, here.
- Some more than others, maybe.
1847
01:12:14,647 --> 01:12:17,498
So today we are going to
1848
01:12:17,650 --> 01:12:19,817
Smash things.
- [gasps]
1849
01:12:19,911 --> 01:12:21,169
- [laughs]
- oh, my god.
1850
01:12:21,396 --> 01:12:24,730
♪ ♪
1851
01:12:24,749 --> 01:12:25,748
- What up, what up, what up?
1852
01:12:25,842 --> 01:12:27,508
- What's up, gil?
1853
01:12:27,660 --> 01:12:29,177
- [bleep].
1854
01:12:29,328 --> 01:12:30,511
- You're not supposed to talk
during a swing.
1855
01:12:30,663 --> 01:12:32,905
- What up?
1856
01:12:32,924 --> 01:12:35,257
- Welcome to amateur hour, man.
1857
01:12:35,410 --> 01:12:37,518
- Are you good at this?
- Absolutely not.
1858
01:12:37,670 --> 01:12:39,670
- Dude, want to step up?
1859
01:12:39,689 --> 01:12:41,171
- No, no, no.
Go ahead, go ahead.
1860
01:12:41,191 --> 01:12:42,840
I'm gonna take some--
I'm gonna take some lessons.
1861
01:12:42,859 --> 01:12:44,266
I don't even think I'm gonna
be able to hit the ball.
1862
01:12:44,361 --> 01:12:45,434
- Yeah, it's actually more fun
1863
01:12:45,587 --> 01:12:47,511
Than I thought it was gonna be.
1864
01:12:47,530 --> 01:12:49,530
- [laughs]
- I'm glad I got good reflexes.
1865
01:12:49,682 --> 01:12:51,032
- That's the second time
johnny almost hit me, yo.
1866
01:12:51,259 --> 01:12:53,426
♪ ♪
1867
01:12:53,519 --> 01:12:55,444
- My man out there
looking like jack nicklaus.
1868
01:12:55,597 --> 01:12:57,430
- I know.
Damn, yo.
1869
01:12:57,523 --> 01:12:58,931
- How am I supposed
to hold this?
1870
01:12:59,024 --> 01:13:00,266
- Yeah, ryan,
come teach us, man.
1871
01:13:00,284 --> 01:13:01,117
Like, come on.
- Yeah, why don't you
1872
01:13:01,269 --> 01:13:02,543
Show us how to actually--
1873
01:13:02,695 --> 01:13:03,953
- I just had to take
the wrapping off this one.
1874
01:13:04,047 --> 01:13:05,696
I haven't hit it yet.
That's way too high, though.
1875
01:13:05,790 --> 01:13:07,607
- Fellas, fellas, fellas.
1876
01:13:07,625 --> 01:13:09,550
- You want to make a v.
- What up, what up, what up?
1877
01:13:09,702 --> 01:13:10,793
- Jose don't need lessons.
1878
01:13:10,945 --> 01:13:12,628
Jose knows already.
- Nah, man.
1879
01:13:12,780 --> 01:13:17,558
♪ ♪
1880
01:13:17,785 --> 01:13:19,710
- Oh, [bleep].
- Did you almost hit me?
1881
01:13:19,804 --> 01:13:21,287
- ♪ across the plains ♪
1882
01:13:21,380 --> 01:13:23,305
♪ down the whole way ♪
- oh.
1883
01:13:23,458 --> 01:13:25,291
- ♪ better run for cover ♪
- [bleep].
1884
01:13:25,309 --> 01:13:26,626
- ♪ get out of the way ♪
- damn it.
1885
01:13:26,644 --> 01:13:33,408
♪ ♪
1886
01:13:36,746 --> 01:13:38,471
- Look how beautiful.
1887
01:13:38,564 --> 01:13:40,640
- Oh, my god.
- We get to destroy everything.
1888
01:13:40,658 --> 01:13:43,233
- Wait, wait,
I want to throw that glass
1889
01:13:43,253 --> 01:13:44,401
At the wall so bad.
- Aww.
1890
01:13:44,495 --> 01:13:45,586
- I really wish michaela
was here too.
1891
01:13:45,813 --> 01:13:47,329
- I know.
1892
01:13:47,424 --> 01:13:48,906
- Sucks not having
all the girls together.
1893
01:13:49,000 --> 01:13:51,000
Unfortunately, michaela,
she's not feeling good today,
1894
01:13:51,152 --> 01:13:53,319
So she's not gonna join us
at the rage room.
1895
01:13:53,337 --> 01:13:54,987
You know, it feels like
a piece is missing.
1896
01:13:55,006 --> 01:13:57,581
- How do I look, guys?
How do I look?
1897
01:13:57,600 --> 01:13:59,583
- You look like a sexy
construction worker.
1898
01:13:59,677 --> 01:14:01,510
- Oh, my lord.
- Look at you.
1899
01:14:01,663 --> 01:14:03,438
- The last couple of days
have been
1900
01:14:03,589 --> 01:14:06,423
Very emotionally
stressful for me.
1901
01:14:06,517 --> 01:14:08,834
I'm a very trusting person
1902
01:14:08,853 --> 01:14:11,595
Until I have a reason
not to trust a person,
1903
01:14:11,614 --> 01:14:14,431
And now I have many reasons
not to trust jose.
1904
01:14:14,525 --> 01:14:16,525
We've reached
a breaking point.
1905
01:14:16,678 --> 01:14:19,603
And so I have
a lot to think about.
1906
01:14:19,622 --> 01:14:22,682
But right now, I'm ready to
just get some frustration out.
1907
01:14:22,775 --> 01:14:24,792
Here's to getting locked out!
1908
01:14:24,944 --> 01:14:28,204
[smashing]
1909
01:14:28,356 --> 01:14:30,706
- ♪ I gotta go now,
I gotta go now ♪
1910
01:14:30,858 --> 01:14:31,874
- Whoo!
1911
01:14:31,968 --> 01:14:34,451
[glass shattering]
1912
01:14:34,471 --> 01:14:35,803
- Ahh!
1913
01:14:35,955 --> 01:14:38,214
- ♪ I can't stop now ♪
1914
01:14:38,308 --> 01:14:39,865
- Die!
1915
01:14:39,884 --> 01:14:42,626
- [laughs]
[smashing]
1916
01:14:42,645 --> 01:14:44,645
- [screaming]
1917
01:14:44,797 --> 01:14:47,373
- [laughs]
1918
01:14:47,391 --> 01:14:49,466
Bao, she's like
a silent, deadly...
1919
01:14:49,486 --> 01:14:51,635
- I'ma smash!
1920
01:14:51,729 --> 01:14:54,897
- Sledgehammer-wielding maniac.
1921
01:14:54,991 --> 01:14:57,825
[glass shattering]
1922
01:14:57,977 --> 01:15:00,995
- ♪ I can't stop now,
I can't stop now ♪
1923
01:15:01,146 --> 01:15:05,482
♪ I can't stop now,
stop now, stop now ♪
1924
01:15:05,576 --> 01:15:07,560
- Yeah, that's just not how
1925
01:15:07,653 --> 01:15:09,578
I choose to do
fun things in life.
1926
01:15:09,731 --> 01:15:10,913
- I just want to share that
1927
01:15:11,065 --> 01:15:12,673
I got my first kiss.
1928
01:15:12,825 --> 01:15:14,416
- Hey, man.
- Hey!
1929
01:15:14,511 --> 01:15:15,826
We should drink to that!
1930
01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:17,903
- I gotta ask, how was it?
1931
01:15:17,997 --> 01:15:20,014
- Surprising.
It came out of nowhere,
1932
01:15:20,165 --> 01:15:21,590
'cause I thought
she was coming for a hug,
1933
01:15:21,684 --> 01:15:24,260
And then she kissed me
on the lips, and I was like,
1934
01:15:24,412 --> 01:15:25,669
"you sure you wanted
to do that?
1935
01:15:25,688 --> 01:15:28,764
Like, did you miss my cheeks?"
1936
01:15:28,916 --> 01:15:31,100
Oh!
1937
01:15:31,252 --> 01:15:32,509
- Was it, like,
one peck and then done?
1938
01:15:32,603 --> 01:15:33,677
Or was it, like,
a little peck and then--
1939
01:15:33,696 --> 01:15:36,088
- No, it was a peck,
it was a peck.
1940
01:15:36,107 --> 01:15:37,514
And then--and then I was like--
1941
01:15:37,534 --> 01:15:38,758
I asked her, "you sure
1942
01:15:38,851 --> 01:15:40,368
That's what you wanted to do?"
- uh-huh.
1943
01:15:40,519 --> 01:15:42,519
- And then she kissed me again.
- Hey!
1944
01:15:42,539 --> 01:15:44,096
You got two kisses.
- Nice, nice.
1945
01:15:44,189 --> 01:15:47,357
- So you have kissed!
Oh, my god!
1946
01:15:47,377 --> 01:15:48,934
Was there something
that sparked the kiss?
1947
01:15:48,953 --> 01:15:50,286
- It was just, like,
our usual conversation,
1948
01:15:50,380 --> 01:15:51,287
We were just talking.
1949
01:15:51,439 --> 01:15:52,772
- You initiated it?
1950
01:15:52,865 --> 01:15:53,939
- I had to.
That was, like, the thing.
1951
01:15:53,958 --> 01:15:55,032
He was like,
"I'm not even gonna try."
1952
01:15:55,126 --> 01:15:56,867
- That's so cute.
1953
01:15:56,886 --> 01:15:58,944
- My heart, I needed
some warmth in my heart.
1954
01:15:59,038 --> 01:16:00,871
- Me too!
- And that warmed up my heart.
1955
01:16:00,965 --> 01:16:02,539
- Two days ago.
- Come here!
1956
01:16:02,559 --> 01:16:04,708
- [all speaking at once]
1957
01:16:04,802 --> 01:16:07,787
- Oh, my god!
- Oh, my god.
1958
01:16:07,880 --> 01:16:09,622
- My husband is truly amazing.
1959
01:16:09,640 --> 01:16:11,624
He is so patient.
1960
01:16:11,642 --> 01:16:12,808
He got his first kiss
1961
01:16:12,960 --> 01:16:14,794
When it felt good for me
and comfortable,
1962
01:16:14,812 --> 01:16:17,054
And I love it, I love it.
1963
01:16:17,073 --> 01:16:18,798
I needed somebody
who was patient.
1964
01:16:18,816 --> 01:16:21,892
Thank you, jesus.
1965
01:16:21,911 --> 01:16:23,727
- Yeah, man.
So past couple nights
1966
01:16:23,746 --> 01:16:25,413
Has been--
it's been pretty crazy.
1967
01:16:25,564 --> 01:16:27,081
- Why is that?
1968
01:16:27,232 --> 01:16:28,808
- Last night, my wife
was like, "you know what?
1969
01:16:28,826 --> 01:16:30,084
Like, I don't think
I can do this no more."
1970
01:16:30,311 --> 01:16:31,252
She was like,
"I want to get a divorce."
1971
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:33,479
♪ ♪
1972
01:16:33,572 --> 01:16:34,905
Like, okay, so--
- what?
1973
01:16:34,924 --> 01:16:36,424
- Wait, seriously?
- What?
1974
01:16:36,651 --> 01:16:37,166
- Yeah, yeah, I swear.
I can't make this up.
1975
01:16:37,318 --> 01:16:39,001
- Whoo!
- Yeah.
1976
01:16:39,095 --> 01:16:40,744
So I was like, okay.
And I was trying to understand,
1977
01:16:40,763 --> 01:16:43,489
Right, so where--her mindset.
1978
01:16:43,582 --> 01:16:45,266
So, if I can back up
a little bit,
1979
01:16:45,417 --> 01:16:47,602
It started, like, midweek.
1980
01:16:47,829 --> 01:16:48,844
You know, we were
at the clubhouse, whatever.
1981
01:16:48,996 --> 01:16:50,512
She called me
by a different man's name,
1982
01:16:50,607 --> 01:16:53,849
And I was like, "ooh, I don't
know about that, right?"
1983
01:16:54,001 --> 01:16:55,776
Maybe I over--
overreacted, I don't know.
1984
01:16:55,928 --> 01:16:57,853
So it gets, like,
a little heated,
1985
01:16:57,947 --> 01:17:00,689
And I go take a leak.
1986
01:17:00,842 --> 01:17:03,509
I come back outside,
and then she's gone.
1987
01:17:03,602 --> 01:17:05,027
So I go,
I lock the apartment door.
1988
01:17:05,121 --> 01:17:06,695
I go to sleep.
1989
01:17:06,848 --> 01:17:07,847
And of course,
I gotta work the next day.
1990
01:17:07,940 --> 01:17:10,015
So apparently, I lock her out.
1991
01:17:10,034 --> 01:17:13,702
♪ ♪
1992
01:17:13,855 --> 01:17:15,537
- I understand locking
the doors and all,
1993
01:17:15,632 --> 01:17:17,189
But not when your wife--
1994
01:17:17,208 --> 01:17:19,375
When you know your wife's
not at the house.
1995
01:17:19,469 --> 01:17:20,801
Did you hit her up
1996
01:17:20,953 --> 01:17:23,045
To see if she was
gonna come back?
1997
01:17:23,197 --> 01:17:26,474
- No, I did not.
But it wasn't intentional.
1998
01:17:26,701 --> 01:17:29,810
- He "accidentally"
1999
01:17:29,962 --> 01:17:31,203
Locked the dead bolt.
2000
01:17:31,222 --> 01:17:34,148
- There are
definitely some holes--
2001
01:17:34,299 --> 01:17:36,892
Just things that
I don't think I would do.
2002
01:17:37,044 --> 01:17:38,819
- I don't know if I necessarily
believe that all the way.
2003
01:17:38,971 --> 01:17:41,063
Maybe he was just frustrated
and just did it out of spite.
2004
01:17:41,157 --> 01:17:43,991
- I've never accidentally
locked the dead bolt.
2005
01:17:44,143 --> 01:17:46,719
- So she says
she wants a divorce.
2006
01:17:46,812 --> 01:17:48,996
Like, how can it go
from being so good
2007
01:17:49,148 --> 01:17:51,223
To now "I want a divorce?"
2008
01:17:51,242 --> 01:17:53,058
I'm pretty sure
there's some details
2009
01:17:53,077 --> 01:17:55,986
That we're not getting
in this story.
2010
01:17:56,005 --> 01:17:57,913
Y'all argue over her
calling you a different name,
2011
01:17:58,065 --> 01:17:59,915
And now she's like,
2012
01:18:00,067 --> 01:18:01,008
"nah, let's get a divorce."
2013
01:18:01,160 --> 01:18:03,919
Like, something's missing.
2014
01:18:04,071 --> 01:18:06,013
♪ ♪
2015
01:18:06,165 --> 01:18:07,664
- ♪ not okay ♪
2016
01:18:07,684 --> 01:18:09,767
- ♪ okay ♪
2017
01:18:14,098 --> 01:18:15,172
[tense music]
2018
01:18:15,266 --> 01:18:16,357
- You know, y'all argue over
2019
01:18:16,584 --> 01:18:17,266
Her calling you
a different name,
2020
01:18:17,418 --> 01:18:18,434
And now she's like,
2021
01:18:18,586 --> 01:18:19,360
"nah, let's get a divorce."
2022
01:18:19,511 --> 01:18:21,362
Like, something's missing.
2023
01:18:21,589 --> 01:18:22,679
- What I'm hearing,
2024
01:18:22,699 --> 01:18:23,605
The only thing
that she has done
2025
01:18:23,758 --> 01:18:24,848
In this whole situation
2026
01:18:24,867 --> 01:18:26,275
Was call you
by another man's name,
2027
01:18:26,369 --> 01:18:27,535
And then she wasn't
at the apartment, right?
2028
01:18:27,686 --> 01:18:29,111
- Right.
- So what was the straw
2029
01:18:29,263 --> 01:18:30,538
That broke the camel's back?
2030
01:18:30,765 --> 01:18:32,114
Like, why did she--
like, why did she say done?
2031
01:18:32,266 --> 01:18:33,449
'cause for someone
to say done--
2032
01:18:33,543 --> 01:18:35,692
- Yeah, there's gotta be more.
- That's serious.
2033
01:18:35,712 --> 01:18:38,546
- Okay, so that, I don't want
to say I--I don't know,
2034
01:18:38,697 --> 01:18:39,621
But I don't
completely understand
2035
01:18:39,774 --> 01:18:41,941
Where that's coming from.
2036
01:18:41,959 --> 01:18:46,369
- I feel my husband
doesn't even care for me.
2037
01:18:46,389 --> 01:18:49,372
Technically, legally,
we're married,
2038
01:18:49,392 --> 01:18:51,300
But emotionally,
we are not married.
2039
01:18:51,394 --> 01:18:52,876
♪ ♪
2040
01:18:52,895 --> 01:18:55,212
When I finally confronted him,
2041
01:18:55,231 --> 01:18:57,623
He didn't care
he locked me out.
2042
01:18:57,716 --> 01:19:00,217
It felt like talking
to a little child,
2043
01:19:00,236 --> 01:19:02,644
Talking to a wall.
2044
01:19:02,797 --> 01:19:04,387
I'm like,
I tell him straight up,
2045
01:19:04,407 --> 01:19:06,648
"I'm not hearing
what I need to hear."
2046
01:19:06,743 --> 01:19:08,300
And he's like,
"well, I don't want to tell you
2047
01:19:08,319 --> 01:19:09,744
What you want to hear."
2048
01:19:09,971 --> 01:19:11,320
- Like, take husband and wife
out of it,
2049
01:19:11,472 --> 01:19:12,972
That's human decency.
2050
01:19:12,990 --> 01:19:15,324
- And I'm telling you,
it's that body language,
2051
01:19:15,476 --> 01:19:17,084
The unresponsiveness,
2052
01:19:17,311 --> 01:19:20,329
Deflecting blame
and pinning it back on me.
2053
01:19:20,481 --> 01:19:22,739
- I just--I just
feel like he's--
2054
01:19:22,833 --> 01:19:24,425
It's showing that his ego
2055
01:19:24,652 --> 01:19:26,835
Is super, super vulnerable
and sensitive.
2056
01:19:26,988 --> 01:19:28,654
- He was very upset
2057
01:19:28,747 --> 01:19:31,490
With the mistake in the name.
2058
01:19:31,509 --> 01:19:34,326
- He results into,
like, retaliation tactics.
2059
01:19:34,345 --> 01:19:35,661
- Just felt very vindictive.
2060
01:19:35,679 --> 01:19:36,662
- Yeah.
- Oh, yeah.
2061
01:19:36,680 --> 01:19:37,997
- Mm-hmm.
- Big time.
2062
01:19:38,015 --> 01:19:39,498
- You call me
by another man's name,
2063
01:19:39,517 --> 01:19:42,501
Then you take off.
Like, you know, so, I don't--
2064
01:19:42,520 --> 01:19:44,670
I don't know that I actually,
like, trust her.
2065
01:19:44,688 --> 01:19:46,763
♪ ♪
2066
01:19:46,857 --> 01:19:48,857
And unfortunately, I don't know
if y'all remember--
2067
01:19:49,010 --> 01:19:50,600
We were on the catamaran
back on honeymoon,
2068
01:19:50,694 --> 01:19:52,528
And she did confess that, "hey,
2069
01:19:52,622 --> 01:19:54,863
I cheated once--
you know, once upon a time."
2070
01:19:55,016 --> 01:19:57,124
- Never have I ever cheated.
2071
01:19:57,276 --> 01:19:59,293
- [laughs]
2072
01:19:59,444 --> 01:20:02,371
- Oh!
- Uh-huh.
2073
01:20:02,523 --> 01:20:03,798
- Damn, I married a cheater.
2074
01:20:04,025 --> 01:20:05,299
- What else has she done
to make you believe
2075
01:20:05,450 --> 01:20:07,543
She's sleeping around?
2076
01:20:07,637 --> 01:20:09,528
- Well, not--I wouldn't say
sleeping around.
2077
01:20:09,547 --> 01:20:11,305
But if you call me
by a different name,
2078
01:20:11,456 --> 01:20:12,865
And then you disappear
one night--
2079
01:20:12,883 --> 01:20:13,882
- Has she ever called you
another name before?
2080
01:20:14,035 --> 01:20:15,217
Or this was the first time?
2081
01:20:15,369 --> 01:20:16,459
- Nah, this the first time.
2082
01:20:16,479 --> 01:20:17,870
- I gotta say,
it's gonna come out.
2083
01:20:17,888 --> 01:20:21,223
♪ ♪
2084
01:20:21,375 --> 01:20:24,877
She called you johnny.
2085
01:20:24,895 --> 01:20:26,395
I don't know how you
take that to, like,
2086
01:20:26,547 --> 01:20:27,880
Maybe she's sleeping around.
2087
01:20:27,898 --> 01:20:29,715
Like, she called you johnny.
- Johnny?
2088
01:20:29,808 --> 01:20:30,991
- I'm pretty sure
it's this johnny.
2089
01:20:31,143 --> 01:20:32,642
"johnny," "jose,"
it's very familiar "j", right?
2090
01:20:32,662 --> 01:20:33,977
- Yeah, "j" names.
2091
01:20:33,996 --> 01:20:35,387
- And we're always
talking about each other,
2092
01:20:35,406 --> 01:20:36,889
Always with each other, so--
- exactly.
2093
01:20:36,907 --> 01:20:39,834
♪ ♪
2094
01:20:40,061 --> 01:20:41,836
- I honestly
don't feel for him,
2095
01:20:42,063 --> 01:20:44,004
'cause in my mind,
he kind of caused it.
2096
01:20:44,231 --> 01:20:46,489
But I also think that
he can come out of it.
2097
01:20:46,509 --> 01:20:47,900
And I think it could
still work.
2098
01:20:47,993 --> 01:20:49,918
But he has to change
his thinking
2099
01:20:50,071 --> 01:20:52,513
About their relationship
right now.
2100
01:20:52,740 --> 01:20:54,256
- As of right now,
where y'all at?
2101
01:20:54,408 --> 01:20:55,516
Like, right this moment.
2102
01:20:55,743 --> 01:20:56,851
- You still love her?
- Oh, yeah.
2103
01:20:57,078 --> 01:20:58,501
I even sent her a text
before I got here.
2104
01:20:58,521 --> 01:21:00,020
I was like, "hey, I know
you don't want to hear this.
2105
01:21:00,172 --> 01:21:02,581
But I miss you and I love you."
- yeah, and she--
2106
01:21:02,600 --> 01:21:05,584
Does she still feel
the same way about you?
2107
01:21:05,677 --> 01:21:07,920
- I do not love him anymore.
2108
01:21:07,938 --> 01:21:10,013
♪ ♪
2109
01:21:10,032 --> 01:21:11,532
- He broke
a major boundary, though.
2110
01:21:11,759 --> 01:21:13,442
That's, like, mm-mm.
- Now I'm in
2111
01:21:13,594 --> 01:21:15,594
Totally unmarked territory.
2112
01:21:15,687 --> 01:21:18,263
Like, could I regain trust?
2113
01:21:18,357 --> 01:21:22,859
Can I love again,
the same person?
2114
01:21:22,953 --> 01:21:25,938
- ♪ am I losing my sanity? ♪
2115
01:21:26,031 --> 01:21:29,625
♪ I'm over my head ♪
- I had no idea.
2116
01:21:29,719 --> 01:21:31,777
- ♪ I'm a prisoner here ♪
2117
01:21:31,870 --> 01:21:35,280
♪ they'll never let me leave ♪
2118
01:21:35,299 --> 01:21:37,874
♪ ♪
2119
01:21:37,894 --> 01:21:39,468
- [screaming]
2120
01:21:39,620 --> 01:21:40,877
- Still to come this season,
2121
01:21:40,897 --> 01:21:42,971
On "married at first sight."
2122
01:21:43,065 --> 01:21:45,065
- ♪ you walked in
and blew the roof off ♪
2123
01:21:45,217 --> 01:21:47,568
- "I'm still loving you
all day and all night,
2124
01:21:47,795 --> 01:21:48,477
Always and
for the rest of my life."
2125
01:21:48,571 --> 01:21:50,571
- Hey!
2126
01:21:50,722 --> 01:21:52,798
- You're so cute.
Aren't we fun?
2127
01:21:52,816 --> 01:21:55,300
- I believe that I'm falling
in love with her.
2128
01:21:55,394 --> 01:21:56,468
- I was weak.
- Yeah.
2129
01:21:56,487 --> 01:21:59,471
Quite weak, I will say.
2130
01:21:59,490 --> 01:22:00,989
- Got a text from a friend
2131
01:22:01,142 --> 01:22:03,584
That you are on a dating app
2132
01:22:03,811 --> 01:22:05,477
And matched with someone
that I know.
2133
01:22:05,496 --> 01:22:06,979
Decision day is coming up,
2134
01:22:06,997 --> 01:22:08,814
And things are
coming to a head.
2135
01:22:08,832 --> 01:22:10,240
♪ ♪
2136
01:22:10,334 --> 01:22:12,651
- Is there anyone else
2137
01:22:12,670 --> 01:22:14,486
That you have
some kind of affinity for?
2138
01:22:14,505 --> 01:22:15,504
♪ ♪
2139
01:22:15,656 --> 01:22:17,990
- Is there someone else?
2140
01:22:18,008 --> 01:22:19,416
- I'm here, willing to do
2141
01:22:19,510 --> 01:22:21,009
All this stuff for this person,
2142
01:22:21,162 --> 01:22:23,495
And this person
doesn't even care for me.
2143
01:22:23,514 --> 01:22:25,255
- I feel like
you're a brat at times.
2144
01:22:25,349 --> 01:22:26,589
- I'm not going anywhere.
2145
01:22:26,684 --> 01:22:28,667
I made a promise,
2146
01:22:28,686 --> 01:22:31,445
And I intend to see
it through fully.
2147
01:22:31,596 --> 01:22:33,763
- This is a joke.
- You're a joke.
2148
01:22:33,783 --> 01:22:35,507
- I [bleep] up, okay.
2149
01:22:35,526 --> 01:22:35,950
So what the [bleep]
you want me to do?
2150
01:22:36,101 --> 01:22:37,526
- Get out!
2151
01:22:37,678 --> 01:22:41,789
Get out!
2152
01:22:41,940 --> 01:22:44,700
- ♪ this is
the time of our lives ♪
2153
01:22:44,852 --> 01:22:46,518
- Marriage isn't easy.
2154
01:22:46,537 --> 01:22:48,020
- We all, you know,
have ups and downs.
2155
01:22:48,038 --> 01:22:49,612
- But we're growing
as a couple.
2156
01:22:49,632 --> 01:22:52,466
- I'm not gonna give up hope.
2157
01:22:52,693 --> 01:22:53,542
- It's time for you
to make a decision.
2158
01:22:53,636 --> 01:22:54,951
♪ ♪
2159
01:22:54,971 --> 01:22:57,029
- Do you want to stay married?
2160
01:22:57,122 --> 01:22:59,622
- Or do you want
to get a divorce?
2161
01:22:59,642 --> 01:23:00,866
- Oh, my god.
2162
01:23:00,884 --> 01:23:03,869
♪ ♪
2163
01:23:03,962 --> 01:23:07,272
- ♪ this is
the time of our lives ♪