1 00:00:01,894 --> 00:00:02,893 - Whew! 2 00:00:02,986 --> 00:00:04,336 Taking a huge leap of faith. 3 00:00:04,563 --> 00:00:05,153 I'm finally going to marry a stranger. 4 00:00:05,172 --> 00:00:06,913 - Oh, [bleep]. 5 00:00:07,066 --> 00:00:07,914 I've been dreaming about this moment for my whole life. 6 00:00:08,009 --> 00:00:10,175 - Please stand. 7 00:00:10,402 --> 00:00:13,237 Two and a half weeks ago, ten singles 8 00:00:13,255 --> 00:00:16,406 Took a bold leap of faith in order to find love. 9 00:00:16,425 --> 00:00:18,258 - Hi. [laughs] 10 00:00:18,410 --> 00:00:21,020 - They married as complete strangers. 11 00:00:21,171 --> 00:00:23,096 - You may kiss your bride. 12 00:00:23,190 --> 00:00:26,358 [cheers and applause] 13 00:00:26,585 --> 00:00:28,027 - I took a leap of faith, and I can't wait 14 00:00:28,178 --> 00:00:29,511 To grow together with this person. 15 00:00:29,605 --> 00:00:31,104 [upbeat music] 16 00:00:31,198 --> 00:00:33,198 - Congratulations again. 17 00:00:33,425 --> 00:00:36,610 - Last time, our couples took another step closer 18 00:00:36,704 --> 00:00:39,112 As they spent time with their friends and families. 19 00:00:39,265 --> 00:00:40,539 - Cheers! 20 00:00:40,766 --> 00:00:42,599 - Brett and ryan. 21 00:00:42,692 --> 00:00:44,284 - But I definitely want to know more 22 00:00:44,378 --> 00:00:45,786 Regarding, like, his feelings for me specifically. 23 00:00:45,938 --> 00:00:47,379 - Yeah. 24 00:00:47,531 --> 00:00:49,106 - There's a place that we need to get past 25 00:00:49,124 --> 00:00:50,382 From, like, friend to relationship... 26 00:00:50,534 --> 00:00:52,551 - Yeah. - Marriage-wise. 27 00:00:52,702 --> 00:00:53,794 - ♪ here's where I'm spinning out my innermost thoughts ♪ 28 00:00:53,946 --> 00:00:55,703 - Bao and johnny. 29 00:00:55,723 --> 00:00:57,114 - I feel like, for the first time, 30 00:00:57,132 --> 00:00:59,058 We're kind of looking out into the horizon, 31 00:00:59,285 --> 00:01:01,226 And it seems like it's no waves. 32 00:01:01,378 --> 00:01:03,378 You know, it looks smooth. 33 00:01:03,397 --> 00:01:06,473 - ♪ can I get you beside me to be with me now? ♪ 34 00:01:06,625 --> 00:01:08,475 - Rachel and jose. 35 00:01:08,569 --> 00:01:10,385 - In a perfect world, you bring two individuals 36 00:01:10,404 --> 00:01:12,053 That have two accounts together. 37 00:01:12,147 --> 00:01:13,888 You're now married. 38 00:01:13,908 --> 00:01:16,224 You have one account. You know, that's it. 39 00:01:16,318 --> 00:01:17,910 - He's kind of making me feel 40 00:01:18,061 --> 00:01:20,061 A little nervous about our future. 41 00:01:20,155 --> 00:01:22,306 [dramatic music] 42 00:01:22,324 --> 00:01:23,974 - Myrla and gil. 43 00:01:23,992 --> 00:01:25,918 - She does tend to move at a slow pace, 44 00:01:26,069 --> 00:01:27,586 But I think what she's feeling is, 45 00:01:27,737 --> 00:01:30,089 "why would I engage in this if I don't believe 46 00:01:30,316 --> 00:01:31,757 That it won't last past the eight weeks?" 47 00:01:31,984 --> 00:01:33,166 ♪ ♪ 48 00:01:33,260 --> 00:01:35,502 - Michaela and zack. 49 00:01:35,596 --> 00:01:36,987 - For me, personally, 50 00:01:37,005 --> 00:01:38,322 It's bigger than a communication thing. 51 00:01:38,415 --> 00:01:40,006 And then what took me to the next level 52 00:01:40,101 --> 00:01:41,934 And over the top was you canceling the housewarming. 53 00:01:42,161 --> 00:01:44,419 - I'm not trying to cry now. I didn't know that. 54 00:01:44,513 --> 00:01:45,753 - I feel horrible right now. 55 00:01:45,773 --> 00:01:46,997 And I can't fake it. I'm sorry. 56 00:01:47,015 --> 00:01:50,016 ♪ ♪ 57 00:01:50,169 --> 00:01:52,669 - And tonight, just five and a half weeks 58 00:01:52,688 --> 00:01:53,837 Until decision day... 59 00:01:53,930 --> 00:01:54,855 - ♪ is it for real? ♪ 60 00:01:54,949 --> 00:01:56,022 - Thanks for helping me. 61 00:01:56,175 --> 00:01:57,841 - Our couples explore 62 00:01:57,860 --> 00:01:59,284 Exactly what it will take to fall in love. 63 00:01:59,511 --> 00:02:01,436 - Aww. 64 00:02:01,530 --> 00:02:03,956 - We are definitely falling a little bit closer in love 65 00:02:04,107 --> 00:02:05,699 As each and every single day progresses. 66 00:02:05,793 --> 00:02:07,626 - I could not have built this man better myself. 67 00:02:07,777 --> 00:02:10,111 - Aww, that's so sweet. - He's so phenomenal. 68 00:02:10,205 --> 00:02:13,023 - I am lucky you're my husband. 69 00:02:13,116 --> 00:02:15,525 - We're both here to find love forever. 70 00:02:15,544 --> 00:02:19,529 - I'm starting to feel some warm and tingly feelings. 71 00:02:19,623 --> 00:02:21,031 What's gonna make you fall in love? 72 00:02:21,049 --> 00:02:22,808 - [sighs] I really don't know. 73 00:02:23,035 --> 00:02:24,959 ♪ ♪ 74 00:02:24,979 --> 00:02:26,720 - You act like-- as if I come out, 75 00:02:26,872 --> 00:02:27,888 And I come in, and I just snapped at you. 76 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,648 But what doesn't happen 77 00:02:29,875 --> 00:02:31,558 Is zack doesn't say what the cause was. 78 00:02:31,652 --> 00:02:34,153 That's a problem. 79 00:02:34,304 --> 00:02:36,989 - Did it ever cross your mind, "he probably wouldn't like it"? 80 00:02:37,140 --> 00:02:39,658 I know this girl ain't for real right now. 81 00:02:39,809 --> 00:02:42,552 - I went out girls night. Alcohol was involved. 82 00:02:42,646 --> 00:02:45,572 Ran into someone that I knew from my past. 83 00:02:45,666 --> 00:02:47,332 - Okay. - And it happened. 84 00:02:47,559 --> 00:02:50,577 ♪ ♪ 85 00:02:50,671 --> 00:02:52,562 - ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 86 00:02:52,581 --> 00:02:54,673 - This is "married at first sight." 87 00:02:54,824 --> 00:02:58,568 - ♪ there's a world awaiting ♪ 88 00:02:58,662 --> 00:03:00,737 ♪ it's all or nothing ♪ 89 00:03:00,756 --> 00:03:02,239 [upbeat music] 90 00:03:02,332 --> 00:03:03,740 - ♪ step into my world ♪ 91 00:03:03,759 --> 00:03:04,758 ♪ ♪ 92 00:03:04,852 --> 00:03:06,910 ♪ and you'll see ♪ 93 00:03:06,929 --> 00:03:10,189 ♪ it may look easy, but it's not for the weak ♪ 94 00:03:10,416 --> 00:03:11,506 ♪ ♪ 95 00:03:11,525 --> 00:03:13,841 - Good morning 96 00:03:13,936 --> 00:03:16,844 From the cuero-feria household. 97 00:03:16,864 --> 00:03:19,514 - Feria-cuero. - Whatever. 98 00:03:19,533 --> 00:03:22,016 - Our five couples have been married to each other 99 00:03:22,036 --> 00:03:25,095 For nearly two weeks and are now fully immersed 100 00:03:25,188 --> 00:03:27,873 In married life, for better or worse. 101 00:03:28,100 --> 00:03:32,436 - Ooh, no! - And we're cooking breakfast. 102 00:03:32,529 --> 00:03:34,028 - What did I make that's very important? 103 00:03:34,048 --> 00:03:36,606 - She made us coffee. - Coffee. 104 00:03:36,625 --> 00:03:39,276 - Between work, family, and friends, 105 00:03:39,294 --> 00:03:41,445 Juggling it all with a brand new spouse 106 00:03:41,463 --> 00:03:43,613 Can be a lot to get used to. 107 00:03:43,707 --> 00:03:45,390 - Here you go, dear. - Thank you. 108 00:03:45,542 --> 00:03:46,950 - Here, take those blueberries over there too. 109 00:03:47,043 --> 00:03:49,286 - For most couples, love is already the glue 110 00:03:49,304 --> 00:03:51,638 That holds them together as they navigate 111 00:03:51,790 --> 00:03:53,640 Through the challenges that might come their way. 112 00:03:53,734 --> 00:03:56,568 But for our couples, the process of growing 113 00:03:56,795 --> 00:03:58,070 And nurturing that critical connection 114 00:03:58,297 --> 00:03:59,963 Begins now. 115 00:03:59,982 --> 00:04:04,634 ♪ ♪ 116 00:04:04,728 --> 00:04:05,969 - Keep talking about on honeymoon, 117 00:04:05,988 --> 00:04:07,804 How we were gonna play, like, connect 4 118 00:04:07,823 --> 00:04:11,250 And play bags or cornhole. We never got to. 119 00:04:11,477 --> 00:04:13,252 - I didn't want to do that to you, but... 120 00:04:13,403 --> 00:04:14,644 - Well, I didn't want to do that to you either, but... 121 00:04:14,738 --> 00:04:17,330 - You're about to learn. - Now's the time. 122 00:04:17,424 --> 00:04:23,153 I definitely am feeling some warm and tingly feelings. 123 00:04:23,246 --> 00:04:26,840 There's a romantic dream element 124 00:04:26,934 --> 00:04:28,992 To the situation for me. 125 00:04:29,011 --> 00:04:32,512 Welcome to game day. The game tournament. 126 00:04:32,606 --> 00:04:35,590 I am excited for our intimacy to progress. 127 00:04:35,609 --> 00:04:38,502 Ryan and I have figured out pretty much from day one 128 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:40,261 That we're both, like, competitive freaks, 129 00:04:40,355 --> 00:04:43,340 So this could be the catalyst 130 00:04:43,433 --> 00:04:44,783 To bringing us closer together. 131 00:04:47,288 --> 00:04:51,623 Every time you don't mess up and you pull a thing out 132 00:04:51,775 --> 00:04:54,034 And you get it on the top, 133 00:04:54,128 --> 00:04:56,295 I have a card for you to pick that you're gonna read. 134 00:04:56,446 --> 00:04:57,779 - Okay. - Are you ready? 135 00:04:57,873 --> 00:04:59,689 - Yep. - I'm gonna go first. 136 00:04:59,783 --> 00:05:00,465 - Go nuts. - Okay, I'm gonna go first. 137 00:05:00,692 --> 00:05:07,431 ♪ ♪ 138 00:05:09,793 --> 00:05:13,219 Okay, so you have to pick one of these. 139 00:05:13,314 --> 00:05:14,704 - But you don't have to do it? 140 00:05:14,798 --> 00:05:15,889 - No, I don't 'cause I made them. 141 00:05:16,041 --> 00:05:17,799 - Okay. 142 00:05:17,818 --> 00:05:20,301 - All of these cards are things that I like about you. 143 00:05:20,395 --> 00:05:24,047 - Come on, jose. - [laughs] 144 00:05:24,140 --> 00:05:25,324 - There's way too many things in there. 145 00:05:27,310 --> 00:05:30,478 Unapologetically yourself. That's very factual. 146 00:05:30,572 --> 00:05:32,480 - Yep. - That's a good start. 147 00:05:32,499 --> 00:05:33,406 - That's you. 148 00:05:33,559 --> 00:05:40,589 ♪ ♪ 149 00:05:41,508 --> 00:05:43,508 - How driven/work-minded you are. 150 00:05:43,735 --> 00:05:49,014 ♪ ♪ 151 00:05:49,165 --> 00:05:51,091 You always hold my hand. - Yeah. 152 00:05:51,243 --> 00:05:52,684 ♪ ♪ 153 00:05:52,911 --> 00:05:54,519 - You're not afraid to speak your mind. 154 00:05:54,746 --> 00:05:56,413 ♪ ♪ 155 00:05:56,506 --> 00:05:58,248 How open-minded you've been towards me 156 00:05:58,341 --> 00:06:00,266 And our match in this process. 157 00:06:00,419 --> 00:06:01,485 ♪ ♪ 158 00:06:04,198 --> 00:06:05,513 God, I'm a douchebag. 159 00:06:05,607 --> 00:06:08,274 [chuckles] - no! 160 00:06:08,369 --> 00:06:10,685 - It's incredibly frustrating not feeling 161 00:06:10,779 --> 00:06:12,112 Those sparks at this point. 162 00:06:12,264 --> 00:06:15,098 I'm still waiting for it. 163 00:06:15,191 --> 00:06:16,449 How levelheaded you are and calm. 164 00:06:16,543 --> 00:06:17,876 I have to be levelheaded 165 00:06:18,027 --> 00:06:19,044 'cause you're duh-duh-duh-duh-duh. 166 00:06:19,195 --> 00:06:20,879 I want it, 167 00:06:21,106 --> 00:06:24,699 But I'm used to falling in love incredibly fast. 168 00:06:24,718 --> 00:06:27,293 - You fall in love easy. 169 00:06:27,446 --> 00:06:29,036 - I can absolutely fall in love in eight weeks. 170 00:06:29,056 --> 00:06:31,297 That's not a-- - yeah, eight weeks? 171 00:06:31,450 --> 00:06:33,725 He's fallen in love in 24 hours, 172 00:06:33,877 --> 00:06:36,953 So eight weeks is nothing. 173 00:06:36,972 --> 00:06:39,714 - So I don't want to build her up 174 00:06:39,733 --> 00:06:42,717 With words and reciprocation 175 00:06:42,736 --> 00:06:45,052 If I don't know right now where my head's at, 176 00:06:45,147 --> 00:06:46,888 And that sucks 177 00:06:46,982 --> 00:06:49,633 Because I want this to work more than anything. 178 00:06:49,651 --> 00:06:51,651 [soft dramatic music] 179 00:06:51,803 --> 00:06:53,319 Yes, sir! 180 00:06:53,472 --> 00:06:56,322 ♪ ♪ 181 00:06:56,417 --> 00:06:58,324 [upbeat music] 182 00:06:58,419 --> 00:06:59,809 - ♪ tok, tok, tok, like the ticking of a clock ♪ 183 00:06:59,903 --> 00:07:01,645 ♪ I could go around, go around ♪ 184 00:07:01,738 --> 00:07:03,237 ♪ and we can get it kicking ♪ 185 00:07:03,257 --> 00:07:04,572 [knocking on door] [dog barks] 186 00:07:04,591 --> 00:07:06,240 - Hi, hype. 187 00:07:06,334 --> 00:07:08,260 - Hype, go sit. Shoo, shoo. 188 00:07:08,487 --> 00:07:09,502 There you go. - What a good dog. 189 00:07:09,655 --> 00:07:10,929 - Yeah. 190 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:12,338 - You had your housewarming here, right? 191 00:07:12,491 --> 00:07:13,339 - I did. - How was it? 192 00:07:13,434 --> 00:07:14,991 - It was a lot of fun. 193 00:07:15,084 --> 00:07:16,843 So this is what I really needed to know. 194 00:07:16,937 --> 00:07:19,104 How is jose in, like, social-- 195 00:07:19,331 --> 00:07:20,772 - Social settings? - You know what I mean? 196 00:07:20,999 --> 00:07:22,682 - 'cause you guys have not been in social settings before 197 00:07:22,834 --> 00:07:24,109 Other than the wedding. - Yeah. 198 00:07:24,260 --> 00:07:25,777 Two friends that weren't at the wedding that came. 199 00:07:26,004 --> 00:07:27,446 - Oh. 200 00:07:27,597 --> 00:07:29,114 - She's my closest-- one of my closest friends, 201 00:07:29,265 --> 00:07:30,523 And she has a good read on people. 202 00:07:30,617 --> 00:07:31,858 You know what I mean? 203 00:07:32,010 --> 00:07:33,193 So her opinion does matter to me. 204 00:07:33,287 --> 00:07:34,786 - It does matter to you. 205 00:07:34,938 --> 00:07:37,030 - And so we super clicked. 206 00:07:37,124 --> 00:07:38,682 Her boyfriend's like, "man, rachel, like, 207 00:07:38,700 --> 00:07:40,533 You got a good dude" and everything. 208 00:07:40,627 --> 00:07:42,852 I was like, "oh, good." like, I like hearing that. 209 00:07:42,946 --> 00:07:44,521 Like, I know I have a great guy, 210 00:07:44,614 --> 00:07:45,613 But it just feels nice to hear it. 211 00:07:45,632 --> 00:07:47,207 - Reassuring. 212 00:07:47,359 --> 00:07:49,859 - And so, with that, I was like, we're good. 213 00:07:49,953 --> 00:07:52,804 Like, he is... - That's who he is. 214 00:07:53,031 --> 00:07:54,547 - The well-rounded person that I wanted to be with. 215 00:07:54,641 --> 00:07:55,974 I wanted someone social. 216 00:07:56,125 --> 00:07:58,535 I want someone just kind, and just a gentleman. 217 00:07:58,553 --> 00:08:00,704 - That's awesome. 218 00:08:00,722 --> 00:08:03,130 - Yeah, we're just, like, in a really good spot, so... 219 00:08:03,150 --> 00:08:04,799 - Same for us. 220 00:08:04,818 --> 00:08:07,544 And then gil's at work today all day, so it's like 221 00:08:07,637 --> 00:08:10,714 I'm by myself all day. - Your ring. 222 00:08:10,807 --> 00:08:11,823 - 'cause, you know, we go the gym. 223 00:08:12,050 --> 00:08:13,550 - Uh-huh. 224 00:08:13,643 --> 00:08:14,642 - And then, like, it's uncomfortable 225 00:08:14,736 --> 00:08:15,994 When you wear it and, you know, 226 00:08:16,145 --> 00:08:17,162 You don't want to scratch it. - Uh-huh. 227 00:08:17,313 --> 00:08:18,646 - And he bought, like-- - wow! 228 00:08:18,740 --> 00:08:22,242 - On amazon. So it's, like, really-- 229 00:08:22,336 --> 00:08:23,835 - So he gave you a ring? 230 00:08:24,062 --> 00:08:27,063 - He gave me a plastic ring. That is so romantic. 231 00:08:27,082 --> 00:08:30,066 - That's romantic, myrla. 232 00:08:30,085 --> 00:08:31,084 That's sweet. - That's not romantic. 233 00:08:31,178 --> 00:08:32,585 - Yes, it is. 234 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:34,513 Gil is doing the little things 235 00:08:34,664 --> 00:08:37,331 That maybe she might not expect to be romantic, 236 00:08:37,425 --> 00:08:39,000 But they are, you know? 237 00:08:39,094 --> 00:08:40,852 And I think she thinks so too, 238 00:08:41,004 --> 00:08:42,746 But I don't know why she's not admitting 239 00:08:42,839 --> 00:08:45,598 That it is a really nice gesture from her husband. 240 00:08:45,692 --> 00:08:47,842 [laughter] 241 00:08:47,861 --> 00:08:49,936 We're married women now. 242 00:08:50,030 --> 00:08:54,533 Yeah, it feels good. I really like your ring. 243 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:58,185 - I told my husband that I want a cartier one... 244 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,113 And he said yes. - Was he half asleep? 245 00:09:00,265 --> 00:09:01,447 Did he just finish a 24-hour shift? 246 00:09:01,542 --> 00:09:02,374 - No, we had dinner-- 247 00:09:02,525 --> 00:09:04,209 [laughter] 248 00:09:04,436 --> 00:09:06,044 ♪ ♪ 249 00:09:06,271 --> 00:09:09,714 - ♪ how do we stop the rain from falling? ♪ 250 00:09:09,941 --> 00:09:12,625 ♪ ♪ 251 00:09:12,719 --> 00:09:15,554 ♪ and when do we admit that we're just pretending? ♪ 252 00:09:15,781 --> 00:09:18,223 ♪ ♪ 253 00:09:18,450 --> 00:09:20,116 ♪ we don't do a lot of things ♪ 254 00:09:20,135 --> 00:09:21,560 ♪ that we used to ♪ 255 00:09:21,711 --> 00:09:24,470 ♪ we've changed, we've changed ♪ 256 00:09:24,623 --> 00:09:26,472 ♪ ♪ 257 00:09:26,625 --> 00:09:28,641 - Hey, hey. - 'sup? 258 00:09:28,794 --> 00:09:29,626 This is my first time seeing michaela 259 00:09:29,644 --> 00:09:31,570 Since the housewarming. 260 00:09:31,797 --> 00:09:34,388 Right now, we're kind of in a rocky spot. 261 00:09:34,408 --> 00:09:37,984 I feel like I have to tiptoe around our relationship 262 00:09:38,136 --> 00:09:39,986 Just because every time we have a problem, 263 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:41,913 She tends to blow up. 264 00:09:42,065 --> 00:09:43,731 - I took all my [bleep] and I left 265 00:09:43,750 --> 00:09:47,477 Just because of what you did. You never came back. 266 00:09:47,570 --> 00:09:48,903 - I came back here at, like, 9:15. 267 00:09:48,997 --> 00:09:50,496 You were gone. - [bleep]. 268 00:09:50,591 --> 00:09:52,498 Nope, I was not gone at 9:15. You are [bleep] lying. 269 00:09:52,651 --> 00:09:53,925 - Okay, okay, okay, okay. 270 00:09:54,077 --> 00:09:56,094 - You are [bleep] [bleep] lying. 271 00:09:56,245 --> 00:09:57,762 - We had a conversation on the phone, 272 00:09:57,989 --> 00:09:59,505 And I thought that conversation went well, 273 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:02,917 And then she texted me, like, an hour later saying, like, 274 00:10:02,936 --> 00:10:04,269 "I'm not doing the housewarming. 275 00:10:04,496 --> 00:10:06,162 My friends are not coming. I'm not doing it." 276 00:10:06,181 --> 00:10:08,665 That's not how I handle stuff. Are you staying here tonight? 277 00:10:08,758 --> 00:10:10,275 - Yes. - I honestly don't want to. 278 00:10:10,426 --> 00:10:12,277 Like, I'm not-- - okay, and that's fine. 279 00:10:12,504 --> 00:10:14,261 - I can't fake it, and I'm sorry. 280 00:10:14,356 --> 00:10:17,115 [soft dramatic music] 281 00:10:17,342 --> 00:10:18,766 ♪ ♪ 282 00:10:18,860 --> 00:10:20,601 After the housewarming, you know, 283 00:10:20,695 --> 00:10:22,695 I told her that I'm going back to my apartment. 284 00:10:22,848 --> 00:10:24,697 And the next day, I called michaela 285 00:10:24,850 --> 00:10:27,867 To talk about, you know, like, how I was feeling. 286 00:10:28,019 --> 00:10:30,111 But, you know, I get a text message from her 287 00:10:30,130 --> 00:10:31,630 Just kind of being childish. 288 00:10:31,857 --> 00:10:33,798 She texted me, "if you want to talk to me, 289 00:10:33,950 --> 00:10:36,134 Use this number. Text preferable." 290 00:10:36,285 --> 00:10:38,044 Inferring that I can't call her anymore. 291 00:10:38,138 --> 00:10:41,139 And to be honest, I'm very frustrated, 292 00:10:41,366 --> 00:10:43,032 And I want her to know exactly how I'm feeling. 293 00:10:43,051 --> 00:10:47,128 ♪ ♪ 294 00:10:47,147 --> 00:10:49,130 I feel like the main difference between us 295 00:10:49,224 --> 00:10:50,707 Is the way we communicate, and, like, 296 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:52,466 Understanding of one another. - Mm-hmm. 297 00:10:52,486 --> 00:10:53,726 - Which you would agree, right? - I would agree, yes. 298 00:10:53,820 --> 00:10:56,045 - All right, cool. So from my perspective, 299 00:10:56,064 --> 00:10:57,881 It feels like I'm sitting under a tree 300 00:10:57,899 --> 00:11:00,566 Reading a book of my love life. 301 00:11:00,719 --> 00:11:02,719 I got to the chapter of I took the chance 302 00:11:02,812 --> 00:11:04,162 To be married at first sight, 303 00:11:04,313 --> 00:11:05,738 And I'm very excited to read this book. 304 00:11:05,891 --> 00:11:07,481 Then a bee comes along. 305 00:11:07,501 --> 00:11:08,667 I'm like, "okay, get away, bee. Get away." 306 00:11:08,818 --> 00:11:10,226 The bee goes away. 307 00:11:10,319 --> 00:11:12,153 I'm like, "hm, should I leave this tree? 308 00:11:12,172 --> 00:11:13,654 "'cause I don't like bees. But [bleep] it. 309 00:11:13,674 --> 00:11:15,231 "I'ma stay right here and keep reading this book. 310 00:11:15,324 --> 00:11:17,676 I love this book. I want to see where it ends." 311 00:11:17,827 --> 00:11:19,569 Then another bee comes along. Same situation. 312 00:11:19,587 --> 00:11:20,904 I'm like, "okay, [bleep] it, 313 00:11:20,997 --> 00:11:22,422 "I'm gonna continue to read this book, 314 00:11:22,516 --> 00:11:24,349 Because I really want to see where this book takes me." 315 00:11:24,576 --> 00:11:26,351 And then the third bee comes along and stings me. 316 00:11:26,578 --> 00:11:29,020 And so now I'm like, "well, [bleep], it's time 317 00:11:29,172 --> 00:11:30,096 "for me to get the [bleep] out from this tree, 318 00:11:30,248 --> 00:11:32,506 "because I want to read this book, 319 00:11:32,526 --> 00:11:34,584 "and I swear I'm trying to, under this tree, 320 00:11:34,677 --> 00:11:36,027 But, like, the bees won't let me." 321 00:11:36,254 --> 00:11:37,195 ♪ ♪ 322 00:11:39,682 --> 00:11:41,515 And so to translate that to our situation, 323 00:11:41,609 --> 00:11:43,593 The bees is the way you handle, 324 00:11:43,686 --> 00:11:45,111 Like, situations-- like, conflict. 325 00:11:45,205 --> 00:11:49,374 There's been three instances that have been the exact same. 326 00:11:49,601 --> 00:11:52,452 - And for each one, there's always been a cause. 327 00:11:52,604 --> 00:11:54,212 And what has-- who has caused it? 328 00:11:54,439 --> 00:11:55,621 You act like-- as if I come out and I come in 329 00:11:55,774 --> 00:11:57,106 And I just snapped at you... 330 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:58,699 - Okay. - For no reason. 331 00:11:58,719 --> 00:12:01,202 I acknowledge that I did all of these things, 332 00:12:01,296 --> 00:12:03,963 But what doesn't happen is zack doesn't say what the cause was. 333 00:12:04,115 --> 00:12:05,448 - Michaela-- - that's a problem. 334 00:12:05,467 --> 00:12:09,302 ♪ ♪ 335 00:12:09,454 --> 00:12:10,970 You keep getting stung under this tree. 336 00:12:11,122 --> 00:12:12,713 Where is the hive? Figure that out. 337 00:12:12,733 --> 00:12:14,807 'cause they're coming for you, 338 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:16,960 So obviously something's going on 339 00:12:16,978 --> 00:12:19,053 If they keep coming back to you. 340 00:12:19,147 --> 00:12:21,981 Figure what that is, not just, 341 00:12:22,133 --> 00:12:23,983 "now, I done got stung, and now I gotta go." 342 00:12:24,135 --> 00:12:25,744 ♪ ♪ 343 00:12:25,895 --> 00:12:29,563 You do realize, a, this is a new relationship. 344 00:12:29,583 --> 00:12:32,083 We don't know each other. We're learning each other. 345 00:12:32,310 --> 00:12:34,477 - But my thing is, like, michaela, like you said, 346 00:12:34,570 --> 00:12:36,329 Like, you know, it's a new relationship, 347 00:12:36,481 --> 00:12:38,906 But, like, that's a [bleep] excuse. 348 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:40,483 'cause this is-- I'm not--this is not-- 349 00:12:40,576 --> 00:12:42,594 This is bigger than a relationship. 350 00:12:42,745 --> 00:12:44,245 This is a fundamental difference 351 00:12:44,264 --> 00:12:45,913 On how we handle conflict. We could be best friends. 352 00:12:45,932 --> 00:12:46,931 We could be brothers and sisters. 353 00:12:47,083 --> 00:12:48,157 We could be boyfriend, girlfriend. 354 00:12:48,251 --> 00:12:49,583 We could be married, which we are. 355 00:12:49,603 --> 00:12:52,178 This is how we handle conflict. We are who we are. 356 00:12:52,272 --> 00:12:55,498 And what I'm saying is there's a fundamental difference 357 00:12:55,591 --> 00:12:59,185 On how we handle conflict, and...That-- 358 00:12:59,337 --> 00:13:01,170 ♪ ♪ 359 00:13:01,189 --> 00:13:02,855 I don't know, honestly, if I can ever get over that. 360 00:13:03,008 --> 00:13:04,407 ♪ ♪ 361 00:13:06,361 --> 00:13:09,195 [dramatic music] 362 00:13:09,347 --> 00:13:10,955 Us not being able 363 00:13:11,107 --> 00:13:12,698 To communicate effectively definitely hurts me. 364 00:13:12,851 --> 00:13:14,517 Like, I'm definitely heartbroken 365 00:13:14,536 --> 00:13:16,019 Because I came into this process hoping to find the one 366 00:13:16,112 --> 00:13:17,611 Because I wanted this all my life. 367 00:13:17,705 --> 00:13:20,023 I'm kind of sad that, you know, this may not be, 368 00:13:20,116 --> 00:13:22,116 Like, what I wanted it to be. 369 00:13:22,135 --> 00:13:23,968 I'm not happy about where we are. 370 00:13:24,195 --> 00:13:25,953 So do you have any comments, questions, 371 00:13:25,972 --> 00:13:28,306 Or concerns about how I feel, or, like, anything? 372 00:13:28,533 --> 00:13:32,143 ♪ ♪ 373 00:13:36,650 --> 00:13:37,874 - It's, like, "damn, 374 00:13:37,967 --> 00:13:38,966 Like, why won't this [bleep] work?" 375 00:13:39,060 --> 00:13:39,876 And then, like, to have this, like, 376 00:13:39,894 --> 00:13:40,985 All be happening right now, 377 00:13:41,212 --> 00:13:42,821 It's very-- it's very disheartening. 378 00:13:43,048 --> 00:13:47,733 ♪ ♪ 379 00:13:47,828 --> 00:13:49,385 - I agree with you. - So you agree with me. 380 00:13:49,404 --> 00:13:50,161 - I do. 381 00:13:52,390 --> 00:13:53,647 - And so the question is, 382 00:13:53,667 --> 00:13:55,408 Like, how can we fix it going forward? 383 00:13:55,560 --> 00:13:57,410 Because I don't know what I'm doing wrong. 384 00:13:57,562 --> 00:13:59,987 So, actually, can you tell me what I could be doing better, 385 00:14:00,081 --> 00:14:02,915 Or what I'm doing wrong, or, like, what I can work on? 386 00:14:03,009 --> 00:14:06,085 'cause I don't know what I'm doing wrong. 387 00:14:06,179 --> 00:14:07,595 - You can talk to me. 388 00:14:09,407 --> 00:14:13,426 ♪ ♪ 389 00:14:13,578 --> 00:14:15,745 That's what I need. 390 00:14:15,838 --> 00:14:16,929 Getting married at first sight, 391 00:14:17,082 --> 00:14:18,581 I wanted, you know, 392 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:21,434 To find someone who will be my forever. 393 00:14:21,586 --> 00:14:24,529 Zack is somebody who I would love 394 00:14:24,756 --> 00:14:27,757 To have a future with, and I want this to work, 395 00:14:27,775 --> 00:14:31,777 But I can't knowingly jump back in with both feet 396 00:14:31,930 --> 00:14:34,447 As I did before knowing that if I cause 397 00:14:34,599 --> 00:14:36,857 Any kind of infraction, minor or major, 398 00:14:36,877 --> 00:14:40,712 That it may be a "I don't know. 399 00:14:40,863 --> 00:14:42,213 I don't know about her" for him. 400 00:14:42,365 --> 00:14:45,032 I can't do that because, I mean, 401 00:14:45,051 --> 00:14:47,777 While I want to be married once and forever, 402 00:14:47,795 --> 00:14:51,464 I also have to know that my spouse has my back. 403 00:14:51,616 --> 00:14:52,798 - Do you think we'll get back 404 00:14:52,893 --> 00:14:54,309 To where we were? - I'm taking it day-by-day. 405 00:14:57,455 --> 00:14:58,479 - Do you want to get back to where we were? 406 00:15:00,233 --> 00:15:04,569 - It's just dependent on what happens. 407 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:08,072 My fear is, is that, even in these coming weeks 408 00:15:08,224 --> 00:15:09,741 That we get through 409 00:15:09,968 --> 00:15:12,726 And we get back to where we were, 410 00:15:12,746 --> 00:15:14,820 Then things come up against us, 411 00:15:14,915 --> 00:15:16,247 That we'll meet-- 412 00:15:16,474 --> 00:15:19,250 Will be met with the same result. 413 00:15:19,402 --> 00:15:23,980 - I'm willing to try everything in my power to make this work. 414 00:15:23,998 --> 00:15:26,073 So that's gonna be, you know, self-reflection. 415 00:15:26,092 --> 00:15:27,833 That's gonna be communicating more. 416 00:15:27,928 --> 00:15:30,153 You know, that's going to be just, you know, 417 00:15:30,171 --> 00:15:35,174 Doing what you need me to do to give you, like, 418 00:15:35,326 --> 00:15:37,084 The comfort you need to be able to want to make this work. 419 00:15:37,103 --> 00:15:40,329 I mean, that's what I am saying to you. 420 00:15:40,348 --> 00:15:43,107 [tender acoustic music] 421 00:15:43,334 --> 00:15:45,001 ♪ ♪ 422 00:15:45,019 --> 00:15:49,614 - I am willing to... Think before I act, 423 00:15:49,765 --> 00:15:53,693 To verbalize what I need 424 00:15:53,787 --> 00:15:55,119 And just say it 425 00:15:55,346 --> 00:15:57,530 Instead of internalizing my emotions, 426 00:15:57,682 --> 00:16:01,626 And to hear you out, 427 00:16:01,777 --> 00:16:03,853 And to really try to understand 428 00:16:03,871 --> 00:16:05,612 And follow up and make sure I understood 429 00:16:05,707 --> 00:16:07,114 What you're saying to me. 430 00:16:07,208 --> 00:16:10,693 - Mm-hmm. You promise? 431 00:16:10,786 --> 00:16:14,046 - Mm-hmm. - All right, cool, same. 432 00:16:14,199 --> 00:16:17,717 - ♪ everything will be all right ♪ 433 00:16:17,811 --> 00:16:20,645 [upbeat music] 434 00:16:20,872 --> 00:16:22,480 ♪ ♪ 435 00:16:22,631 --> 00:16:26,726 [electronic music] 436 00:16:26,878 --> 00:16:28,544 - ♪ side to side ♪ 437 00:16:28,563 --> 00:16:30,713 ♪ from the ceiling to the ground ♪ 438 00:16:30,806 --> 00:16:32,882 ♪ it's like you're shouting ♪ 439 00:16:32,900 --> 00:16:35,493 - Look at us, cooking our first meal together. 440 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:36,569 - [chuckles] 441 00:16:36,663 --> 00:16:38,404 ♪ ♪ 442 00:16:38,556 --> 00:16:40,147 I want to make sure 443 00:16:40,166 --> 00:16:42,816 That this meal goes off perfectly. 444 00:16:42,836 --> 00:16:44,669 I want everything to be right. 445 00:16:44,896 --> 00:16:46,320 That, and then we're gonna drizzle 446 00:16:46,414 --> 00:16:48,506 The avocado stuff on top. 447 00:16:48,733 --> 00:16:51,083 I know, I know. I'm ridiculous. 448 00:16:51,177 --> 00:16:53,327 I am very aware that johnny doesn't care, 449 00:16:53,346 --> 00:16:55,238 And he would be okay with eating dog food, 450 00:16:55,256 --> 00:16:57,757 But it's not okay to me 451 00:16:57,909 --> 00:16:59,500 To eat dog food on my first time 452 00:16:59,519 --> 00:17:01,427 To show him, like, I can cook. 453 00:17:01,579 --> 00:17:03,354 I can take care of you, 454 00:17:03,581 --> 00:17:05,598 But I can also do it very well. 455 00:17:05,750 --> 00:17:08,026 I want him to appreciate that. 456 00:17:10,755 --> 00:17:13,589 Thanks for helping me. 457 00:17:13,608 --> 00:17:15,033 You make a good sous chef. 458 00:17:17,186 --> 00:17:19,111 - Well, let's see how it tastes. 459 00:17:19,264 --> 00:17:21,539 - All right. Fingers crossed. 460 00:17:24,619 --> 00:17:27,436 [drumroll] 461 00:17:27,455 --> 00:17:31,774 - Yeah. Heck, yeah. 462 00:17:31,793 --> 00:17:35,369 - So I think we're doing decently well right now, 463 00:17:35,388 --> 00:17:38,798 But the other night, you said that you were starting 464 00:17:38,950 --> 00:17:41,284 To seemingly have doubt, 465 00:17:41,302 --> 00:17:43,043 And you weren't sure if you were ready. 466 00:17:43,137 --> 00:17:44,711 [soft dramatic music] 467 00:17:44,731 --> 00:17:46,138 How are you feeling today about it? 468 00:17:46,232 --> 00:17:48,291 ♪ ♪ 469 00:17:48,309 --> 00:17:50,976 - I guess I never expected it to be this hard. 470 00:17:51,071 --> 00:17:54,072 ♪ ♪ 471 00:17:54,223 --> 00:17:57,149 I thought we were gonna be really smooth sailing 472 00:17:57,302 --> 00:17:58,317 Until we hit a hardship. 473 00:17:58,411 --> 00:18:00,078 ♪ ♪ 474 00:18:00,305 --> 00:18:01,987 I didn't expect it to come so fast. 475 00:18:02,082 --> 00:18:05,416 ♪ ♪ 476 00:18:05,568 --> 00:18:06,751 And so when we encountered it... 477 00:18:06,978 --> 00:18:10,404 ♪ ♪ 478 00:18:10,423 --> 00:18:11,664 It scared me. 479 00:18:11,758 --> 00:18:14,074 ♪ ♪ 480 00:18:14,094 --> 00:18:16,485 I've never had to be afraid of something so early 481 00:18:16,504 --> 00:18:20,673 Where I'm not in love with somebody, you know, 482 00:18:20,825 --> 00:18:23,101 And I'm having to fight for it. 483 00:18:23,328 --> 00:18:27,271 ♪ ♪ 484 00:18:27,498 --> 00:18:31,258 - I was all-in from day one. Like, all-in. 485 00:18:31,277 --> 00:18:32,944 I told you I bought into the marriage. 486 00:18:33,171 --> 00:18:34,761 ♪ ♪ 487 00:18:34,781 --> 00:18:36,172 And when I said that, I meant it. 488 00:18:36,190 --> 00:18:38,174 I still do. 489 00:18:38,192 --> 00:18:39,842 I-- 490 00:18:39,861 --> 00:18:41,935 - Do you think I'm not looking at it that way? 491 00:18:41,955 --> 00:18:43,287 - I don't know. Because I feel like-- 492 00:18:43,439 --> 00:18:45,014 - You could ask me. 493 00:18:45,032 --> 00:18:47,183 - No, I mean, I feel like you waver a little bit. 494 00:18:47,201 --> 00:18:50,294 Like, I can see when you're shutting out. 495 00:18:50,521 --> 00:18:52,688 ♪ ♪ 496 00:18:52,707 --> 00:18:55,133 - Do you know everything there is to know about me? 497 00:18:55,284 --> 00:18:56,783 - No. - Do you know my heart? 498 00:18:56,803 --> 00:18:59,378 - No. I never said I did. 499 00:18:59,472 --> 00:19:01,455 ♪ ♪ 500 00:19:01,474 --> 00:19:02,548 But I can see when you're deflated. 501 00:19:02,642 --> 00:19:04,367 ♪ ♪ 502 00:19:04,385 --> 00:19:06,293 - Does deflated mean I'm running away? 503 00:19:06,312 --> 00:19:08,037 Like, I've decided I'm running away? 504 00:19:08,130 --> 00:19:11,223 - Sometimes I can't tell. - Ask me. 505 00:19:11,376 --> 00:19:14,801 - I do try to talk to you, but... 506 00:19:14,821 --> 00:19:17,713 - Do you? - You get really hotheaded. 507 00:19:17,732 --> 00:19:24,912 ♪ ♪ 508 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,724 - I wish you would just ask me more questions. 509 00:19:28,743 --> 00:19:31,560 Like... 510 00:19:31,579 --> 00:19:33,820 To understand how I feel in a moment, 511 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:36,065 Just ask me, like, "how are you feeling right now?" 512 00:19:36,083 --> 00:19:37,175 Literally, that's all you have to ask me. 513 00:19:37,326 --> 00:19:38,567 - How are you feeling right now? 514 00:19:38,586 --> 00:19:39,493 - I feel like you're being kind of judgy 515 00:19:39,587 --> 00:19:41,345 About me, you know? 516 00:19:41,572 --> 00:19:42,663 I feel like you're making assumptions 517 00:19:42,682 --> 00:19:43,756 About what you think is happening... 518 00:19:43,850 --> 00:19:45,424 - Mm-hmm. 519 00:19:45,576 --> 00:19:46,592 - Based on what you think you know about me, 520 00:19:46,744 --> 00:19:48,019 But we barely know each other. 521 00:19:48,246 --> 00:19:49,595 - You've literally told me you wanted 522 00:19:49,689 --> 00:19:51,838 To duck and run after arguing. - I have before. 523 00:19:51,933 --> 00:19:53,191 That's right. I have before. 524 00:19:53,418 --> 00:19:55,434 I said, "if this was a dating scenario"... 525 00:19:55,528 --> 00:19:57,528 ♪ ♪ 526 00:19:57,755 --> 00:19:59,255 "this is where we would end things." 527 00:19:59,348 --> 00:20:01,106 - But why do you need to say that? 528 00:20:01,201 --> 00:20:02,942 - Because I'm telling you exactly how I feel, 529 00:20:03,036 --> 00:20:04,944 So you understand, like, where my head is at. 530 00:20:05,038 --> 00:20:06,612 At this exact moment, 531 00:20:06,764 --> 00:20:07,947 I want you to know exactly how I'm feeling. 532 00:20:08,041 --> 00:20:09,523 Take it how you want. 533 00:20:09,617 --> 00:20:11,024 - Does it make me feel good? 534 00:20:11,118 --> 00:20:12,877 [bleep] no. It does not. 535 00:20:13,104 --> 00:20:15,271 ♪ ♪ 536 00:20:15,289 --> 00:20:16,697 - I thought we were just gonna have 537 00:20:16,716 --> 00:20:18,290 A great conversation and great night, 538 00:20:18,384 --> 00:20:20,867 But, of course, we ended up having the same arguments 539 00:20:20,962 --> 00:20:22,445 Over and over and over, 540 00:20:22,463 --> 00:20:25,448 And I don't know what our disconnect is here. 541 00:20:25,466 --> 00:20:28,375 Bao does fit a lot of the things I'm looking for, 542 00:20:28,394 --> 00:20:31,136 But there are a lot of red flags, 543 00:20:31,289 --> 00:20:33,064 And so I think that's why 544 00:20:33,291 --> 00:20:34,306 I'm having so much difficulty... 545 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,401 ♪ ♪ 546 00:20:37,553 --> 00:20:39,295 Putting us together 547 00:20:39,388 --> 00:20:41,072 And having it be, like, a rosy picture-- 548 00:20:41,299 --> 00:20:45,651 Is because I know those things exist, 549 00:20:45,745 --> 00:20:47,136 And I typically would not settle for that. 550 00:20:47,154 --> 00:20:50,731 ♪ ♪ 551 00:20:50,750 --> 00:20:54,827 I want to be emotionally... Connected. 552 00:20:54,921 --> 00:20:57,830 After the wedding day and our first day of honeymoon, 553 00:20:57,924 --> 00:20:59,498 Like, I didn't feel the initial, like, spark. 554 00:20:59,592 --> 00:21:03,168 ♪ ♪ 555 00:21:03,321 --> 00:21:06,005 But I'm looking for it. 556 00:21:06,099 --> 00:21:08,991 I'm looking for that to kindle into something like a fire. 557 00:21:09,010 --> 00:21:11,660 ♪ ♪ 558 00:21:11,754 --> 00:21:14,830 And I still believe that can happen. 559 00:21:14,849 --> 00:21:17,333 ♪ ♪ 560 00:21:17,351 --> 00:21:20,427 - ♪ wish I could write a song ♪ 561 00:21:20,521 --> 00:21:23,281 ♪ to love a little better ♪ 562 00:21:23,432 --> 00:21:24,189 - And that's where I'm at. 563 00:21:24,284 --> 00:21:26,525 ♪ ♪ 564 00:21:26,619 --> 00:21:30,270 I'm just gonna be here every day till I find it. 565 00:21:30,290 --> 00:21:36,352 - ♪ is this even real love? ♪ 566 00:21:36,370 --> 00:21:38,629 ♪ ooh, ooh ♪ 567 00:21:43,694 --> 00:21:45,469 - ♪ you are there when I sound the sirens ♪ 568 00:21:45,696 --> 00:21:48,864 ♪ you are there when I need your love ♪ 569 00:21:48,883 --> 00:21:51,867 - Getting legally married to a complete stranger 570 00:21:51,886 --> 00:21:53,811 Is a unique experience that requires 571 00:21:54,038 --> 00:21:55,646 A different approach to building 572 00:21:55,873 --> 00:21:58,131 A traditional foundation for love. 573 00:21:58,225 --> 00:22:01,152 This means that our couples need to find unique ways 574 00:22:01,303 --> 00:22:03,212 To create feelings. 575 00:22:03,230 --> 00:22:04,880 They're not just floating out there somewhere. 576 00:22:04,973 --> 00:22:06,973 They're created by action. 577 00:22:07,068 --> 00:22:10,310 Sometimes you have to come out of your normal behavior 578 00:22:10,330 --> 00:22:12,404 And do those things that are gonna create feelings 579 00:22:12,498 --> 00:22:15,391 Because often, our feelings follow our actions 580 00:22:15,409 --> 00:22:17,226 And not the other way around. 581 00:22:17,244 --> 00:22:20,004 For some, that will be easier than for others, 582 00:22:20,155 --> 00:22:22,673 But it is imperative to find that depth 583 00:22:22,825 --> 00:22:24,733 In their relationship 584 00:22:24,752 --> 00:22:27,086 If their marriage stands a chance of being successful. 585 00:22:27,180 --> 00:22:28,921 - So... 586 00:22:29,073 --> 00:22:31,574 [soft dramatic music] 587 00:22:31,592 --> 00:22:34,093 I was noticing that mine was like this, 588 00:22:34,245 --> 00:22:35,911 All nice and pretty. 589 00:22:36,004 --> 00:22:37,413 And when you left yours up there, 590 00:22:37,431 --> 00:22:39,415 It was like this. - [gasps] 591 00:22:39,433 --> 00:22:40,916 - No. - No! 592 00:22:41,009 --> 00:22:42,360 - We're gonna do it real. - No! 593 00:22:42,587 --> 00:22:45,696 - We're gonna do it real. - How dare you? 594 00:22:45,848 --> 00:22:47,773 - How do you not just squeeze from the bottom up? 595 00:22:47,867 --> 00:22:49,516 It's not that difficult. 596 00:22:49,535 --> 00:22:51,369 - 'cause I'm secretly a sociopath. 597 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:55,188 - Yeah, I-- - [laughs] 598 00:22:55,208 --> 00:22:56,265 - You want any blueberries or anything? 599 00:22:56,358 --> 00:22:57,708 'cause I'm about to crush these. 600 00:22:57,935 --> 00:23:00,603 - No, I got them for you. - How's your head? 601 00:23:00,696 --> 00:23:02,287 - Not good. - Not good? 602 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,049 - No. Can dogs have blueberries? 603 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:06,775 - Oh, yeah, they can have blueberries. 604 00:23:06,869 --> 00:23:08,535 - Does he heat it? - He just licks it. 605 00:23:08,554 --> 00:23:10,446 - He's licking it. Good job. 606 00:23:10,464 --> 00:23:12,965 [upbeat music] 607 00:23:13,117 --> 00:23:14,633 - Do you like my purse? 608 00:23:14,785 --> 00:23:15,709 - How many purses do you need, first of all? 609 00:23:15,728 --> 00:23:17,561 How many do you need? 610 00:23:17,713 --> 00:23:19,788 - There is no such thing as how many purses a woman needs. 611 00:23:19,807 --> 00:23:23,049 - How many do you need, and how many do you want? 612 00:23:23,069 --> 00:23:25,978 - I need plenty. - Okay, that is insane. 613 00:23:26,130 --> 00:23:27,129 - [chuckles] 614 00:23:27,148 --> 00:23:28,221 ♪ ♪ 615 00:23:28,315 --> 00:23:30,132 - So nice up here. 616 00:23:30,225 --> 00:23:31,300 - I think we really needed this. 617 00:23:31,318 --> 00:23:32,484 - Yeah, we did. 618 00:23:32,578 --> 00:23:33,819 [wind whooshing] 619 00:23:33,913 --> 00:23:36,655 ♪ ♪ 620 00:23:36,807 --> 00:23:38,974 - ♪ I love way it feels ♪ 621 00:23:39,067 --> 00:23:42,327 ♪ it's magic, it's magic ♪ 622 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,997 - We're here. - Hey, guys. 623 00:23:45,149 --> 00:23:46,665 How are y'all? - Hi! 624 00:23:46,817 --> 00:23:47,591 How are you? - How are you? 625 00:23:47,743 --> 00:23:48,759 - Hey, good. - Hi. 626 00:23:48,986 --> 00:23:49,927 - So you must be rachel. - Yes, I am. 627 00:23:50,154 --> 00:23:51,077 - Yes, we spoke a lot on the phone. 628 00:23:51,097 --> 00:23:52,504 - Yes, hi. - I'm other rachel. 629 00:23:52,598 --> 00:23:54,932 So any idea what we're doing? - I don't know. 630 00:23:55,159 --> 00:23:56,341 Driving in, it looked like, you know, 631 00:23:56,494 --> 00:23:58,343 We were skeet shooting or possibly, like, 632 00:23:58,496 --> 00:24:00,086 Horseback riding or something, so I don't know. 633 00:24:00,106 --> 00:24:01,830 - No, we're gonna do something a little bit more zen. 634 00:24:01,924 --> 00:24:03,499 We're gonna do some goat yoga... 635 00:24:03,592 --> 00:24:05,109 - Okay. - Houston-style today. 636 00:24:05,260 --> 00:24:08,170 And your lovely bride here did ask for all baby goats, 637 00:24:08,189 --> 00:24:09,280 So everything here is... - Oh, wonderful. 638 00:24:09,431 --> 00:24:10,764 - Two weeks and under. - I'm so excited. 639 00:24:10,783 --> 00:24:12,508 - Oh! - Oh my god! 640 00:24:12,526 --> 00:24:13,692 - So you have to be very, very gentle with them. 641 00:24:13,844 --> 00:24:15,453 - I will. 642 00:24:15,604 --> 00:24:16,620 - But if you want to come on and get your goat on, 643 00:24:16,847 --> 00:24:17,680 Let's do this. - Yes, I'm so excited! 644 00:24:17,773 --> 00:24:19,031 - Yeah, let's do it, awesome. 645 00:24:19,125 --> 00:24:21,850 - Experiences are what means the most to me. 646 00:24:21,869 --> 00:24:22,960 [upbeat music] 647 00:24:23,187 --> 00:24:25,521 Oh, my god! 648 00:24:25,539 --> 00:24:28,524 This is exactly what I had envisioned 649 00:24:28,542 --> 00:24:30,025 Marriage would look like. 650 00:24:30,118 --> 00:24:31,376 These are the little moments 651 00:24:31,471 --> 00:24:34,546 That I really look forward to with my husband. 652 00:24:34,699 --> 00:24:37,290 - So we're gonna get down into a nice child's pose. 653 00:24:37,384 --> 00:24:38,701 It's not a lot of weight, 654 00:24:38,794 --> 00:24:39,643 Like our big goats, but maybe it'll... 655 00:24:39,795 --> 00:24:41,220 - Ooh, interesting. 656 00:24:41,372 --> 00:24:42,646 - Help you fall further into that posture. 657 00:24:42,798 --> 00:24:44,297 [goats bleating] 658 00:24:44,317 --> 00:24:47,392 - Nice. - Aww. 659 00:24:47,545 --> 00:24:48,652 - Very good. 660 00:24:48,879 --> 00:24:50,229 When you're ready, inhaling it up. 661 00:24:50,323 --> 00:24:51,897 Let's walk those hands towards the right side. 662 00:24:51,991 --> 00:24:53,991 ♪ ♪ 663 00:24:54,142 --> 00:24:56,552 Five deep breaths. 664 00:24:56,645 --> 00:24:59,479 And I'll put some goats on your backs. 665 00:24:59,499 --> 00:25:01,499 This is their first day of work, 666 00:25:01,650 --> 00:25:04,059 So they're still in training. - Okay. 667 00:25:04,152 --> 00:25:05,652 - That's right, little babies. 668 00:25:05,671 --> 00:25:08,080 - They kind of give you, like, a weird back massage. 669 00:25:08,174 --> 00:25:09,990 - [laughs] 670 00:25:10,009 --> 00:25:11,567 - And then they'll jump from, like, person to person. 671 00:25:11,585 --> 00:25:13,085 ♪ ♪ 672 00:25:13,237 --> 00:25:14,086 - Aww. 673 00:25:14,180 --> 00:25:15,513 ♪ ♪ 674 00:25:15,664 --> 00:25:17,906 - ♪ I don't know ♪ 675 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,592 ♪ how you do what you do to me ♪ 676 00:25:20,686 --> 00:25:22,186 - [laughs] 677 00:25:22,413 --> 00:25:24,688 It's crazy how I've never been able 678 00:25:24,915 --> 00:25:27,266 To feel this comfortable and close 679 00:25:27,360 --> 00:25:29,693 To someone in such a short amount of time. 680 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:33,438 Oh, that was so awesome. - Very good, guys. 681 00:25:33,533 --> 00:25:35,941 ♪ ♪ 682 00:25:36,035 --> 00:25:38,427 - Thanks for having an open mind, you know? 683 00:25:38,445 --> 00:25:40,095 These are definitely--like, 684 00:25:40,114 --> 00:25:41,521 This is one of those things where you don't forget. 685 00:25:41,615 --> 00:25:43,098 - Right. This is-- 686 00:25:43,117 --> 00:25:44,208 - Like, "remember when we were with the goats?" 687 00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:45,692 - Yes, this is something 688 00:25:45,711 --> 00:25:47,436 That we will definitely always remember. 689 00:25:47,454 --> 00:25:49,046 - You know I'm all about, like, the memories. 690 00:25:49,273 --> 00:25:52,124 And I mean, look how precious they are. 691 00:25:52,218 --> 00:25:54,960 - They're so cute. This one's so well-behaved. 692 00:25:55,054 --> 00:25:56,945 ♪ ♪ 693 00:25:57,039 --> 00:25:58,556 Little man trying to go to sleep. 694 00:25:58,707 --> 00:26:00,799 It's kind of cool. 695 00:26:00,951 --> 00:26:03,543 - ♪ you got me, you got me, you got me, you got me ♪ 696 00:26:03,563 --> 00:26:05,563 - You know, I'm getting that little, 697 00:26:05,714 --> 00:26:08,566 Like, dad vibes here. 698 00:26:08,717 --> 00:26:10,475 - You know, we are definitely falling a little bit closer 699 00:26:10,570 --> 00:26:12,811 In love as each and every single day progresses. 700 00:26:12,905 --> 00:26:14,980 There's still so much to learn about each other, 701 00:26:15,132 --> 00:26:17,390 And we definitely have some disagreements, 702 00:26:17,484 --> 00:26:19,392 But, you know, all I want to do is spend time with my wife. 703 00:26:19,412 --> 00:26:21,637 I want him to pass out. Like, just knock out, man. 704 00:26:21,655 --> 00:26:22,988 - Whichever goat goes to sleep first... 705 00:26:23,140 --> 00:26:24,489 - Oh, yeah? 706 00:26:24,642 --> 00:26:26,141 - That's who's gonna be in charge 707 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,067 Of putting the kids to sleep. - Oh, my, this one's-- 708 00:26:27,161 --> 00:26:28,902 - The real kids to sleep. 709 00:26:28,921 --> 00:26:30,979 Jose's gonna make an excellent father, 710 00:26:30,998 --> 00:26:33,924 And just seeing him holding the goats, oh, like, 711 00:26:34,076 --> 00:26:36,576 My heart was melting. 712 00:26:36,596 --> 00:26:38,929 And I can definitely see myself 713 00:26:39,081 --> 00:26:40,172 Falling in love with jose. 714 00:26:40,324 --> 00:26:47,062 ♪ ♪ 715 00:26:48,941 --> 00:26:50,349 - How do you like-- 716 00:26:50,501 --> 00:26:52,276 - You don't want your beans in a little bowl? 717 00:26:52,427 --> 00:26:54,928 - No, I want them on the side. - Just like that? 718 00:26:55,022 --> 00:26:56,763 - Yeah. - Okay. 719 00:26:56,782 --> 00:26:58,616 - Traditionally, first comes love, 720 00:26:58,767 --> 00:27:00,843 And then comes marriage. 721 00:27:00,861 --> 00:27:03,454 But for our couples who met at the altar 722 00:27:03,681 --> 00:27:06,181 As strangers, they're still navigating 723 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,684 Through a lot of first experiences together, 724 00:27:08,702 --> 00:27:11,629 And love may be slower to grow. 725 00:27:11,856 --> 00:27:13,522 Honestly, if you want this feeling 726 00:27:13,540 --> 00:27:15,299 To just pop out of nothing, 727 00:27:15,450 --> 00:27:17,526 It really is unlikely to happen, 728 00:27:17,619 --> 00:27:19,970 But if you do romantic things, 729 00:27:20,122 --> 00:27:22,789 If you talk from your heart, if you tell this person things 730 00:27:22,808 --> 00:27:24,867 You haven't told anyone else, 731 00:27:24,885 --> 00:27:27,794 Then you have a hope of creating those feelings, 732 00:27:27,888 --> 00:27:30,038 As opposed to waiting that they drop out of the sky somehow. 733 00:27:30,057 --> 00:27:31,649 ♪ ♪ 734 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,300 - We have a messenger. It says, "gil and myrla." 735 00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:35,819 Why didn't they put my name first? 736 00:27:35,971 --> 00:27:37,303 - What? - [laughs] 737 00:27:37,323 --> 00:27:38,489 - Hold on, so let me get some water first. 738 00:27:38,716 --> 00:27:40,048 - What is it though? - I don't know yet. 739 00:27:40,142 --> 00:27:41,383 - Who's it from? - I don't know. 740 00:27:41,402 --> 00:27:42,660 Maybe it's from the experts. 741 00:27:42,887 --> 00:27:45,053 - Oh, yeah. - It does say "experts." 742 00:27:45,072 --> 00:27:47,906 - So to help them explore the potential for love, 743 00:27:48,058 --> 00:27:51,001 We've given them some deeper topics to discuss. 744 00:27:51,228 --> 00:27:52,670 - Okay. - See, you wanted questions. 745 00:27:52,821 --> 00:27:53,820 Now I have questions to ask you. 746 00:27:53,914 --> 00:27:55,397 - I did want questions. 747 00:27:55,416 --> 00:27:57,232 - What it's going to take for you to fall in love 748 00:27:57,325 --> 00:27:59,251 With your new spouse in the real world. 749 00:27:59,345 --> 00:28:00,678 - Wowzers. 750 00:28:00,829 --> 00:28:02,087 - Yeah, I'll start. 751 00:28:02,239 --> 00:28:04,239 How about every time you ask a question, 752 00:28:04,258 --> 00:28:06,684 You take a sip. - Okay. 753 00:28:06,835 --> 00:28:08,185 - Have you been in love before? 754 00:28:11,023 --> 00:28:13,265 - Yes. Have you? 755 00:28:13,417 --> 00:28:14,858 - I have. 756 00:28:15,085 --> 00:28:16,485 What do you think it takes for you to fall in love? 757 00:28:17,697 --> 00:28:18,529 - Hm. 758 00:28:20,866 --> 00:28:24,609 A lot, I would want to feel that the person 759 00:28:24,762 --> 00:28:27,446 That I'm falling in love with is 100% open 760 00:28:27,598 --> 00:28:30,449 And honest with me, and that we both accept 761 00:28:30,601 --> 00:28:32,601 Each other with all of our flaws. 762 00:28:32,694 --> 00:28:34,694 Like, I'm thinking unconditional love. 763 00:28:34,714 --> 00:28:35,879 - At the same time, there's gotta be 764 00:28:36,031 --> 00:28:39,049 That emotional attachment, 765 00:28:39,201 --> 00:28:41,552 The chemistry, the sparks, 766 00:28:41,779 --> 00:28:47,299 The can't wait to turn off the lights part. 767 00:28:47,393 --> 00:28:50,018 I'm hoping that's what we are working towards. 768 00:28:52,639 --> 00:28:54,189 - I feel we'll get there. 769 00:28:55,793 --> 00:28:58,643 Like, how we're going about romance right now, intimacy, 770 00:28:58,796 --> 00:29:00,796 Makes me feel like I'm back to middle school. 771 00:29:00,814 --> 00:29:03,315 [laughs] - great. 772 00:29:03,467 --> 00:29:05,075 Middle school is where I learned about sex. 773 00:29:05,227 --> 00:29:06,651 My parents never gave me the birds and the bees talk. 774 00:29:06,804 --> 00:29:09,304 - What? So how did you learn about sex? 775 00:29:09,397 --> 00:29:11,306 - Uh, through hentai. - [gasps] 776 00:29:11,325 --> 00:29:14,493 - [laughs] - no [bleep]! 777 00:29:14,645 --> 00:29:16,420 That's how you learned about sex? 778 00:29:18,424 --> 00:29:20,665 - [laughs] 779 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,485 It's cartoon porn, but I mean, back in the day, 780 00:29:23,504 --> 00:29:25,153 When I was a teenager, that was all I had. 781 00:29:25,172 --> 00:29:26,412 Yeah. [laughs] 782 00:29:26,432 --> 00:29:27,580 I had a pervy group of friends. 783 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:28,507 I don't even know how they got it. 784 00:29:28,601 --> 00:29:29,600 [laughter] 785 00:29:32,420 --> 00:29:33,678 'cause if it does, I'm down for anything at this point. 786 00:29:33,831 --> 00:29:35,680 - No, no. 787 00:29:35,833 --> 00:29:38,850 - I really love how he learned about sex. 788 00:29:39,003 --> 00:29:40,778 He's freaking adorable. 789 00:29:41,005 --> 00:29:44,189 I married the most dorky guy ever. 790 00:29:44,341 --> 00:29:46,283 Sometimes I'm just, like, so [bleep] annoyed 791 00:29:46,434 --> 00:29:48,268 How cute he can be, 792 00:29:48,287 --> 00:29:49,953 And that he brings this out in me. 793 00:29:50,105 --> 00:29:51,789 At the same time, 794 00:29:51,940 --> 00:29:54,366 I'm, like, actually really enjoying it, I suppose. 795 00:29:54,460 --> 00:29:55,793 - I'm gonna take a big gulp before I ask you this. 796 00:29:58,464 --> 00:29:59,688 All right. 797 00:29:59,781 --> 00:30:01,206 What will it take to fall in love, 798 00:30:01,358 --> 00:30:03,041 And what do you need from me 799 00:30:03,193 --> 00:30:06,119 Before you would be able to fall in love with me? 800 00:30:06,138 --> 00:30:09,031 [tender piano music] 801 00:30:09,049 --> 00:30:13,310 ♪ ♪ 802 00:30:13,537 --> 00:30:14,886 - I want to find more common ground. 803 00:30:14,980 --> 00:30:16,705 We have our differences, 804 00:30:16,723 --> 00:30:19,483 But I think we both could benefit from giving 805 00:30:19,710 --> 00:30:21,543 And learning to find that common ground, 806 00:30:21,562 --> 00:30:24,229 And I feel like us being on the same page more 807 00:30:24,381 --> 00:30:27,399 Will help a lot towards me falling in love. 808 00:30:27,551 --> 00:30:29,976 - Okay. - It's what I want. 809 00:30:29,995 --> 00:30:33,405 I am lucky you're my husband. 810 00:30:33,557 --> 00:30:39,670 ♪ ♪ 811 00:30:39,821 --> 00:30:41,730 What are you thinking? 812 00:30:41,823 --> 00:30:43,489 - You gotta stop saying [bleep] like that. 813 00:30:43,509 --> 00:30:46,418 - Why? 'cause it gets you in here? 814 00:30:46,570 --> 00:30:48,070 - Yeah. 815 00:30:48,088 --> 00:30:49,346 You want to kill this champagne and go to bed? 816 00:30:52,593 --> 00:30:55,427 [upbeat music] 817 00:30:55,579 --> 00:30:57,079 ♪ ♪ 818 00:30:57,097 --> 00:30:58,838 - [laughs] 819 00:30:58,932 --> 00:31:00,506 - Let's go. - Okay. 820 00:31:00,526 --> 00:31:04,010 - ♪ is it true ♪ 821 00:31:04,029 --> 00:31:06,104 ♪ come on, show me what you can do ♪ 822 00:31:06,256 --> 00:31:10,258 ♪ show me what you can do ♪ 823 00:31:10,277 --> 00:31:11,927 - We're gonna have to take off these mics. 824 00:31:11,945 --> 00:31:12,870 - Ah, damn it. 825 00:31:17,451 --> 00:31:18,283 - ♪ we're going in slow motion ♪ 826 00:31:18,435 --> 00:31:19,543 ♪ spiraling we go ♪ 827 00:31:19,770 --> 00:31:20,936 - You ready for this conversation? 828 00:31:20,954 --> 00:31:22,195 - Yeah. 829 00:31:22,289 --> 00:31:24,530 - Have you been in love before? 830 00:31:24,625 --> 00:31:27,275 - Well, I mean, my answer has always been I think so, 831 00:31:27,369 --> 00:31:31,054 But who knows? - You think so. 832 00:31:31,281 --> 00:31:33,281 - I'm pretty confident I was twice. 833 00:31:33,300 --> 00:31:35,634 - Twice. - Twice. 834 00:31:35,786 --> 00:31:37,811 - Yeah, twice for me also, but I'm certain. 835 00:31:39,790 --> 00:31:40,805 - So since you were so certain... 836 00:31:40,900 --> 00:31:42,215 - Mm-hmm. 837 00:31:42,234 --> 00:31:43,901 - That you were in love... - Yeah. 838 00:31:44,128 --> 00:31:47,812 - What does it take to get to that point? 839 00:31:47,907 --> 00:31:50,556 - Um... 840 00:31:50,576 --> 00:31:53,076 I think for me to fall in love, 841 00:31:53,303 --> 00:31:55,913 I have to feel, like, reciprocation. 842 00:31:56,064 --> 00:31:58,490 Like, I want to feel like I'm not there by myself, 843 00:31:58,642 --> 00:32:00,659 Or, like, it's mutual. 844 00:32:00,811 --> 00:32:02,568 The more mutual it is, 845 00:32:02,588 --> 00:32:03,921 Like, the more I'm ready to just, like, 846 00:32:04,072 --> 00:32:06,072 Open up and give it all. - Yeah. 847 00:32:06,091 --> 00:32:07,925 - So I think that's a huge part of it. 848 00:32:08,152 --> 00:32:11,411 And, for me, like, I'm definitely starting 849 00:32:11,505 --> 00:32:16,158 To, like, feel feelings that I want to feel for you. 850 00:32:16,176 --> 00:32:19,344 [soft dramatic music] 851 00:32:19,496 --> 00:32:22,272 I think I just want to just know more about how you feel. 852 00:32:22,499 --> 00:32:25,517 ♪ ♪ 853 00:32:25,669 --> 00:32:27,686 - I think we're still on the right path, 854 00:32:27,838 --> 00:32:30,447 But I just don't think 855 00:32:30,674 --> 00:32:33,951 That we're there yet, emotionally, physically. 856 00:32:36,847 --> 00:32:38,771 - Um, so with that being said, 857 00:32:38,791 --> 00:32:40,457 What's gonna make you fall in love? 858 00:32:40,684 --> 00:32:42,033 ♪ ♪ 859 00:32:42,127 --> 00:32:44,035 - [sighs] 860 00:32:44,188 --> 00:32:46,779 I really don't know 'cause I'm still waiting 861 00:32:46,873 --> 00:32:50,192 To feel things that are-- 862 00:32:50,210 --> 00:32:53,044 I mean, slower than I might have anticipated. 863 00:32:53,138 --> 00:32:55,530 ♪ ♪ 864 00:32:55,549 --> 00:32:58,624 But I will say that, in my past relationships, 865 00:32:58,719 --> 00:32:59,810 I waited too long. 866 00:33:00,037 --> 00:33:02,537 ♪ ♪ 867 00:33:02,630 --> 00:33:04,539 Like, I feel like the other person 868 00:33:04,632 --> 00:33:06,558 Maybe was more invested initially 869 00:33:06,710 --> 00:33:09,486 In most circumstances with me, 870 00:33:09,637 --> 00:33:12,155 And then I came around, like, too late at the end. 871 00:33:12,307 --> 00:33:14,716 - So by the time you came around 872 00:33:14,735 --> 00:33:17,327 To the feeling part, like, 873 00:33:17,554 --> 00:33:19,496 They, like, ran out of patience? 874 00:33:19,647 --> 00:33:22,833 - I think that's definitely been the case before. 875 00:33:23,060 --> 00:33:24,409 ♪ ♪ 876 00:33:24,561 --> 00:33:27,504 - The fact that he was in a situation 877 00:33:27,655 --> 00:33:30,415 Where he, you know, didn't open up soon enough, 878 00:33:30,509 --> 00:33:34,903 It definitely concerns me because it is gonna take him 879 00:33:34,921 --> 00:33:36,738 A lot more time than maybe I thought, 880 00:33:36,831 --> 00:33:39,090 And I have a lot of patience, but I'm not waiting forever. 881 00:33:39,184 --> 00:33:41,593 ♪ ♪ 882 00:33:41,745 --> 00:33:43,353 - It might have had a chance, 883 00:33:43,580 --> 00:33:46,097 But it was just the timing thing. 884 00:33:46,191 --> 00:33:47,766 - Mm. 885 00:33:47,860 --> 00:33:50,769 ♪ ♪ 886 00:33:50,863 --> 00:33:52,087 [upbeat music] 887 00:33:52,180 --> 00:33:54,197 - ♪ yeah, I know you feel it ♪ 888 00:33:54,424 --> 00:33:56,199 ♪ yeah, I know you feel it ♪ 889 00:33:56,426 --> 00:33:58,368 ♪ ♪ 890 00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:01,446 ♪ never felt this way before ♪ 891 00:34:01,540 --> 00:34:03,540 - Do we answer all these questions right now? 892 00:34:03,691 --> 00:34:06,025 - Yeah, we can do it. - Have you been in love before? 893 00:34:06,045 --> 00:34:07,878 Yes. - Yes. 894 00:34:08,029 --> 00:34:10,438 How did you know you were in love? 895 00:34:10,457 --> 00:34:13,441 - For me, you want to be with someone every day. 896 00:34:13,535 --> 00:34:15,293 You want to experience life with them. 897 00:34:15,445 --> 00:34:17,128 You think of having a family with them. 898 00:34:17,222 --> 00:34:19,222 - I want to say, kind of, like, no matter what they do, 899 00:34:19,374 --> 00:34:22,634 Like, you're there for them, but not blindly, obviously. 900 00:34:22,786 --> 00:34:24,061 - Yeah, not anything. 901 00:34:24,288 --> 00:34:26,212 - Not anything. It's not blind love. 902 00:34:26,306 --> 00:34:27,972 It's--you know, it's, you know, the right type of love, 903 00:34:28,125 --> 00:34:28,973 I guess you could say. 904 00:34:29,126 --> 00:34:31,217 [tender acoustic music] 905 00:34:31,311 --> 00:34:32,552 - What do you need from me 906 00:34:32,571 --> 00:34:34,554 Before you would be able to fall in love? 907 00:34:34,573 --> 00:34:36,556 I think I need you to be actionable. 908 00:34:36,650 --> 00:34:38,241 Like, I think I've shared this with you all the time. 909 00:34:38,468 --> 00:34:39,559 Like, you can say certain things, 910 00:34:39,653 --> 00:34:41,244 But unless I see it, 911 00:34:41,471 --> 00:34:43,305 That's what has more meaning for me. 912 00:34:43,323 --> 00:34:45,323 Like, you say you love chocolate chip cookies. 913 00:34:45,475 --> 00:34:48,067 I know for a fact you do 914 00:34:48,087 --> 00:34:50,495 'cause you eat those things every day, 915 00:34:50,647 --> 00:34:52,664 And you just bought two more dozen today. 916 00:34:52,816 --> 00:34:54,740 I'm starting to get a little concerned. 917 00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:56,093 - About my chocolate chip cookies? 918 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:57,594 - Let's talk about this. - I will-- 919 00:34:57,821 --> 00:34:59,321 - I love chocolate chip cookies too, 920 00:34:59,414 --> 00:35:00,430 But I like the keto ones, and you-- 921 00:35:00,582 --> 00:35:02,099 - Yeah, you like the fake stuff. 922 00:35:02,326 --> 00:35:03,658 - I will make healthier versions 923 00:35:03,677 --> 00:35:05,009 Of chocolate chip cookies. 924 00:35:05,104 --> 00:35:05,994 - You'll make fake chocolate chip cookies. 925 00:35:06,012 --> 00:35:07,771 - I don't call them fake. 926 00:35:07,922 --> 00:35:09,180 - They shouldn't even be called chocolate chip cookies. 927 00:35:09,333 --> 00:35:10,273 - I call them healthy. They're really good. 928 00:35:10,500 --> 00:35:12,000 - They should just be called cookies. 929 00:35:12,018 --> 00:35:13,276 - I'm gonna make some, and you can try them, 930 00:35:13,428 --> 00:35:14,444 And you can tell me whether or not they're good. 931 00:35:14,671 --> 00:35:15,687 - I feel like that's a trademark infringement 932 00:35:15,839 --> 00:35:16,838 By calling them chocolate chip cookies. 933 00:35:16,857 --> 00:35:18,356 - I know you will not like my version, 934 00:35:18,508 --> 00:35:19,357 But you can still try them. - I'll try it. 935 00:35:19,451 --> 00:35:21,192 - I know you will. 936 00:35:21,286 --> 00:35:23,194 [upbeat music] 937 00:35:23,288 --> 00:35:25,605 Do you think you are beginning to fall in love? 938 00:35:25,699 --> 00:35:28,366 [soft dramatic music] 939 00:35:28,460 --> 00:35:30,293 ♪ ♪ 940 00:35:30,445 --> 00:35:31,962 I don't know how I feel about that 941 00:35:32,189 --> 00:35:34,706 Because I feel like loving someone 942 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:36,524 Is a choice that I make, and I have to actively 943 00:35:36,618 --> 00:35:38,784 Make that choice to, like, love someone. 944 00:35:38,804 --> 00:35:40,303 - Isn't everything in life a choice? 945 00:35:40,530 --> 00:35:41,805 - Everything in life is a choice, 946 00:35:42,032 --> 00:35:42,881 But you know some people are like, 947 00:35:43,033 --> 00:35:44,549 "oh, my god, I fell in love." 948 00:35:44,643 --> 00:35:46,384 Like, "you fell in love, or you decided to fall in love? 949 00:35:46,478 --> 00:35:48,553 Like, you actually chose to love this person." 950 00:35:48,705 --> 00:35:49,980 - Okay, that's what you mean. 951 00:35:50,131 --> 00:35:51,873 - That's what I mean. - Okay. 952 00:35:51,892 --> 00:35:53,650 - I try to make sure that I'm levelheaded 953 00:35:53,877 --> 00:35:55,134 And not just leading through my heart, 954 00:35:55,154 --> 00:35:56,227 And making sure that it makes sense 955 00:35:56,380 --> 00:35:57,803 Because I don't really think 956 00:35:57,823 --> 00:35:59,472 That you can ever fully know someone. 957 00:35:59,566 --> 00:36:01,641 I honestly don't know how long it's gonna take me 958 00:36:01,660 --> 00:36:04,552 To be able to make that decision about love. 959 00:36:04,646 --> 00:36:05,996 - What's the question again? 960 00:36:06,147 --> 00:36:07,739 - Do you think you are beginning to fall in love? 961 00:36:07,891 --> 00:36:08,890 - Mm. 962 00:36:08,909 --> 00:36:10,909 ♪ ♪ 963 00:36:11,061 --> 00:36:14,078 I think I'm on the route to. 964 00:36:14,231 --> 00:36:15,897 My coordinates are straight. 965 00:36:15,916 --> 00:36:18,750 Like, I'm going the right direction towards it. 966 00:36:18,902 --> 00:36:21,011 I don't know how far or close I am to it, 967 00:36:21,238 --> 00:36:24,848 But I feel like living together 24-7 968 00:36:25,075 --> 00:36:26,683 That's either gonna make or break it 969 00:36:26,834 --> 00:36:27,926 Personally, eventually. - Tired of seeing me? 970 00:36:28,078 --> 00:36:29,835 - No, absolutely not. 971 00:36:29,855 --> 00:36:34,933 - ♪ don't you know you give me that feeling ♪ 972 00:36:35,027 --> 00:36:37,027 ♪ give me that feeling, give me that feeling ♪ 973 00:36:37,178 --> 00:36:38,678 ♪ give me that feeling ♪ 974 00:36:38,772 --> 00:36:40,255 - So what do you think 975 00:36:40,273 --> 00:36:44,534 It's gonna take for you to fall in love? 976 00:36:44,686 --> 00:36:47,429 - I might need a little bit more understanding. 977 00:36:47,447 --> 00:36:48,947 - Okay. 978 00:36:49,041 --> 00:36:50,932 - Maybe a little bit more listening to me. 979 00:36:50,951 --> 00:36:53,192 - Mm-hmm, I admit, I'm a guy, so, I mean, 980 00:36:53,212 --> 00:36:54,860 I'm not saying-- okay, that's a cop-out, 981 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,363 But, I mean, I used to listen very well 982 00:36:57,382 --> 00:36:58,548 Until I got married. Now, I'm like-- 983 00:36:58,700 --> 00:37:02,702 - [laughs] you used to listen. 984 00:37:02,796 --> 00:37:04,203 You used to work out. - I used to do all this stuff. 985 00:37:04,223 --> 00:37:06,297 - You used to do intermittent fasting. 986 00:37:06,391 --> 00:37:08,283 - Then I'm like--I got married. I'm, like, "whatever." 987 00:37:08,301 --> 00:37:09,968 - Have I just ruined your life? Oh, my god. 988 00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,619 - Well, no, it's not ruining. 989 00:37:11,713 --> 00:37:13,730 It's taking me to a different level 990 00:37:13,881 --> 00:37:15,306 That I haven't been at. - Change. 991 00:37:15,459 --> 00:37:16,808 - So, yes, definitely a change for sure. 992 00:37:16,902 --> 00:37:18,626 ♪ ♪ 993 00:37:18,720 --> 00:37:21,721 - So what can you actively be doing 994 00:37:21,740 --> 00:37:24,908 To fall in love in this relationship? 995 00:37:25,059 --> 00:37:26,985 - I mean, I think-- and not to toot my own horn, 996 00:37:27,137 --> 00:37:28,411 But I think everything I'm already doing. 997 00:37:28,563 --> 00:37:31,397 I mean, yes, it's only been two weeks, but, again, 998 00:37:31,416 --> 00:37:32,732 Things that I'm picking up on-- 999 00:37:32,751 --> 00:37:34,233 The positives, and what you like-- 1000 00:37:34,327 --> 00:37:35,752 Clearly, I'm gonna do those. 1001 00:37:35,903 --> 00:37:39,147 So I'm gonna show you by "listening" as well, 1002 00:37:39,165 --> 00:37:42,259 Which I gotta be more-- 1003 00:37:42,410 --> 00:37:45,670 - I definitely think there's some communication issues. 1004 00:37:45,764 --> 00:37:48,339 Like, you ask a question, and he's just thinking about 1005 00:37:48,492 --> 00:37:51,175 The next thing he's gonna say instead of listening to me. 1006 00:37:51,270 --> 00:37:53,678 I gotta make sure he's giving me eye contact. 1007 00:37:53,772 --> 00:37:55,663 I gotta make sure he's not looking at his phone. 1008 00:37:55,757 --> 00:37:57,665 I just-- I have strategies for it. 1009 00:37:57,684 --> 00:37:59,109 Okay, I was about to say. 1010 00:37:59,260 --> 00:38:01,594 - I'm gonna start listening more. 1011 00:38:01,613 --> 00:38:04,172 - That's fine. - I will. I will. I will. 1012 00:38:04,190 --> 00:38:05,598 - I will-- 1013 00:38:05,617 --> 00:38:07,117 - Okay, so that's not, like, my forte, 1014 00:38:07,344 --> 00:38:08,526 And that's not what I really, like-- 1015 00:38:08,620 --> 00:38:10,120 - And that's okay. - But I'm gonna get there. 1016 00:38:10,347 --> 00:38:11,621 - As long as you're acknowledging 1017 00:38:11,848 --> 00:38:13,031 And you work on it... - I'm trying. 1018 00:38:13,183 --> 00:38:14,440 - That's all I can ask for. That's okay. 1019 00:38:14,459 --> 00:38:16,034 - Maybe you tell me twice. How about that? 1020 00:38:16,186 --> 00:38:18,611 - Listen? - No, not to listen. 1021 00:38:18,630 --> 00:38:19,963 You tell me whatever you want me to do twice. 1022 00:38:20,114 --> 00:38:21,464 - Do? - Yeah. 1023 00:38:21,691 --> 00:38:22,966 - I just need you to listen. - Okay. 1024 00:38:23,193 --> 00:38:24,526 So maybe you say "listen" twice then. 1025 00:38:24,544 --> 00:38:25,951 ♪ ♪ 1026 00:38:25,971 --> 00:38:27,137 I'm gonna try. 1027 00:38:27,288 --> 00:38:28,471 I see that I talk a [bleep] ton, 1028 00:38:28,698 --> 00:38:29,789 And I need to listen a little more. 1029 00:38:29,883 --> 00:38:31,549 - And I love that. And--I do. 1030 00:38:31,643 --> 00:38:32,976 - And so that's why I'm like, "okay, cool." 1031 00:38:33,127 --> 00:38:34,369 - You can talk my ear off, and I won't complain. 1032 00:38:34,387 --> 00:38:36,371 I tell you right now I will not complain. 1033 00:38:36,464 --> 00:38:37,872 - I need that in writing though. 1034 00:38:37,891 --> 00:38:39,541 - You can get that in writing. - And probably in blood. 1035 00:38:39,559 --> 00:38:41,484 - But you have to listen too. - I'm trying! 1036 00:38:41,636 --> 00:38:42,560 - That's all I ask for. - It's a work-in-progress. 1037 00:38:42,654 --> 00:38:43,561 I'm working on it. 1038 00:38:43,655 --> 00:38:45,730 [quirky music] 1039 00:38:45,882 --> 00:38:47,473 I think I struggle with listening 1040 00:38:47,492 --> 00:38:51,644 Only because, again, like, I-- I mean, I hear you, 1041 00:38:51,663 --> 00:38:54,146 And I don't want to-- I mean, it's not a cop-out, 1042 00:38:54,166 --> 00:38:55,907 But I think, as a man, like, you know, 1043 00:38:56,059 --> 00:38:58,984 Kind of--I don't know. 1044 00:38:59,004 --> 00:39:02,154 We listen, but we don't hear. 1045 00:39:02,174 --> 00:39:03,898 So I hear you, but I'm not listening, 1046 00:39:03,917 --> 00:39:05,324 Because I'm maybe doing something else. 1047 00:39:05,418 --> 00:39:07,010 I think I may want to talk 1048 00:39:07,161 --> 00:39:09,161 A little bit more than I listen. 1049 00:39:09,181 --> 00:39:12,849 So have you ever been in love before? 1050 00:39:13,076 --> 00:39:17,912 - Yes, or so I thought, but it was a feeling 1051 00:39:17,931 --> 00:39:20,598 I had never felt before. It was an intense feeling. 1052 00:39:20,750 --> 00:39:22,341 - Sometimes you can say you're in love, 1053 00:39:22,361 --> 00:39:23,935 But the actions don't support that. 1054 00:39:24,087 --> 00:39:25,695 - Yeah. Oh, yeah. 1055 00:39:25,847 --> 00:39:27,605 - You know, and I think, for me, if I've ever been 1056 00:39:27,699 --> 00:39:30,925 In love before, I don't--I wouldn't say yes. 1057 00:39:31,018 --> 00:39:32,777 - You've never been in love before? 1058 00:39:32,929 --> 00:39:35,096 - It's been a strong like. It's been a very strong like. 1059 00:39:35,115 --> 00:39:37,207 But I--it just-- I mean, I don't know. 1060 00:39:37,358 --> 00:39:38,616 It's like they say, 1061 00:39:38,768 --> 00:39:40,043 You know-- like, when you know, you know. 1062 00:39:40,194 --> 00:39:41,603 - Yeah. And you didn't feel that. 1063 00:39:41,696 --> 00:39:42,954 - It just wasn't there for me. - Yeah. 1064 00:39:43,106 --> 00:39:44,105 - I mean, it was great and all. 1065 00:39:44,198 --> 00:39:45,940 It was a wonderful relationship, 1066 00:39:45,959 --> 00:39:47,291 But, unfortunately, I couldn't get past 1067 00:39:47,444 --> 00:39:49,535 The fact that she had kids. 1068 00:39:49,554 --> 00:39:51,388 For me, unfortunately, I did not want to be inserted. 1069 00:39:51,539 --> 00:39:53,114 I want everything my own 1070 00:39:53,207 --> 00:39:56,375 From the very beginning, scratch, and--no. 1071 00:39:56,395 --> 00:39:58,119 - So how long were y'all together? 1072 00:39:58,138 --> 00:39:59,637 - It was more than, like, four years. 1073 00:39:59,731 --> 00:40:02,290 ♪ ♪ 1074 00:40:02,383 --> 00:40:04,067 - Years? And you strongly liked them? 1075 00:40:04,218 --> 00:40:05,309 - But it--yes, but--yes. 1076 00:40:05,404 --> 00:40:07,311 ♪ ♪ 1077 00:40:07,406 --> 00:40:08,571 You know, it was a very, very, very strong like 1078 00:40:08,798 --> 00:40:10,073 Because we did everything together, 1079 00:40:10,224 --> 00:40:12,057 And it was so badass, and, you know, we had fun, 1080 00:40:12,077 --> 00:40:14,819 But I just--I could not see myself married to her, 1081 00:40:14,913 --> 00:40:17,396 Unfortunately, but, yeah, so that was that. 1082 00:40:17,490 --> 00:40:20,975 - I'm shocked that jose says he's never been in love. 1083 00:40:20,994 --> 00:40:23,978 He's been in relationships that have lasted years, 1084 00:40:24,071 --> 00:40:27,498 So I just can't imagine, you know, 1085 00:40:27,651 --> 00:40:29,241 How long is it gonna take jose 1086 00:40:29,261 --> 00:40:31,335 To actually fall in love with me? 1087 00:40:31,430 --> 00:40:32,837 ♪ ♪ 1088 00:40:32,931 --> 00:40:34,989 - So what do you-- 1089 00:40:35,008 --> 00:40:37,659 - Four years, really strong liking somebody. 1090 00:40:37,677 --> 00:40:39,327 - Yeah. Yes. 1091 00:40:39,345 --> 00:40:42,272 ♪ ♪ 1092 00:40:46,853 --> 00:40:48,778 - Every time I look at you ♪ 1093 00:40:48,930 --> 00:40:50,188 ♪ my heart flutters ♪ 1094 00:40:50,340 --> 00:40:51,448 - This is perfect. 1095 00:40:51,599 --> 00:40:52,782 - What do you mean it's perfect? 1096 00:40:53,009 --> 00:40:54,175 - Like, just, like, the whole-- - the place? 1097 00:40:54,194 --> 00:40:54,859 - Yeah, the place. Have you been here before? 1098 00:40:54,953 --> 00:40:56,010 - This place is awesome. 1099 00:40:56,103 --> 00:40:57,011 No, I've never even heard of it. 1100 00:40:57,030 --> 00:40:58,012 I haven't come to midtown in... 1101 00:40:58,031 --> 00:40:59,772 - Yeah. - A very long time. 1102 00:40:59,791 --> 00:41:02,033 But this is absolutely phenomenal. 1103 00:41:02,185 --> 00:41:04,018 - Last night, michaela and I made up, 1104 00:41:04,037 --> 00:41:05,277 And tonight, we just want to get out of the house, 1105 00:41:05,371 --> 00:41:06,704 And I think a change of scenery 1106 00:41:06,798 --> 00:41:08,539 Would definitely do us good. 1107 00:41:08,692 --> 00:41:11,192 - [bleep] give me a headache. I don't like sweet drinks. 1108 00:41:11,211 --> 00:41:12,785 We talked about this. Like, I'm a-- 1109 00:41:12,804 --> 00:41:16,455 - Yeah, I hate sweet drinks. - I'm a whiskey/bourbon girl. 1110 00:41:16,475 --> 00:41:17,865 - I'm gonna take it slow still, 1111 00:41:17,959 --> 00:41:19,792 And I want to make sure that we do this right, 1112 00:41:19,811 --> 00:41:21,794 Because I want to get back to where we were, 1113 00:41:21,813 --> 00:41:25,223 And I think going on dates often helps us build, you know, 1114 00:41:25,375 --> 00:41:28,300 Our connection and helps us set that foundation 1115 00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:31,729 That we can expand on. 1116 00:41:31,881 --> 00:41:33,639 Okay, so I guess the first question 1117 00:41:33,658 --> 00:41:35,307 Is "have you been in love before?" 1118 00:41:35,327 --> 00:41:36,734 - No. 1119 00:41:36,886 --> 00:41:38,720 - No? I have not either. 1120 00:41:38,738 --> 00:41:39,812 - Have you been in love? Okay. - No, I have not been in love. 1121 00:41:39,906 --> 00:41:40,997 Why haven't you been in love before? 1122 00:41:41,148 --> 00:41:43,057 - Um... [chuckles] 1123 00:41:43,076 --> 00:41:46,561 I think it's because the relationships 1124 00:41:46,654 --> 00:41:48,746 Where I thought it could go somewhere 1125 00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:52,008 Ended for some kind of genuine significant reason. 1126 00:41:52,159 --> 00:41:54,919 - Mm-hmm. - And that reason was... 1127 00:41:55,071 --> 00:41:56,921 - Wait, so, you could have fallen in love? 1128 00:41:57,015 --> 00:41:58,589 - I think so. 1129 00:41:58,742 --> 00:41:59,665 Yeah, I think I could have fallen in love twice. 1130 00:41:59,684 --> 00:42:01,518 - Interesting. - Yeah, but-- 1131 00:42:01,745 --> 00:42:04,354 - Because of the distance? Because they didn't live here? 1132 00:42:04,505 --> 00:42:06,505 - Because of life circumstances. 1133 00:42:06,525 --> 00:42:08,525 - Interesting, so I'm jealous 1134 00:42:08,676 --> 00:42:10,768 Because I've actually never thought I could be in love 1135 00:42:10,862 --> 00:42:13,254 With any of the women I've ever talked to, 1136 00:42:13,273 --> 00:42:15,439 And it's because, like, I have this-- 1137 00:42:15,592 --> 00:42:19,427 Or I had this ideal of, like, you know, my future wife, 1138 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,521 And, you know, my the one. 1139 00:42:22,615 --> 00:42:25,783 And, you know, if someone didn't meet-- 1140 00:42:25,935 --> 00:42:27,602 Or check all those boxes, then, like, I knew 1141 00:42:27,620 --> 00:42:28,953 It wouldn't-- it wasn't gonna work out. 1142 00:42:29,105 --> 00:42:30,104 Since then, I've definitely, 1143 00:42:30,197 --> 00:42:31,455 Like, stopped thinking like that 1144 00:42:31,608 --> 00:42:33,274 Because it's not beneficial to anyone involved. 1145 00:42:33,367 --> 00:42:35,610 But, you know-- - what was on that checklist? 1146 00:42:35,628 --> 00:42:37,295 [soft dramatic music] 1147 00:42:37,447 --> 00:42:38,446 - You know, looks, like, was up there for me. 1148 00:42:38,464 --> 00:42:39,797 - Mm-hmm. 1149 00:42:39,949 --> 00:42:41,057 - So, if I wasn't attracted to her, 1150 00:42:41,284 --> 00:42:43,042 Then it was never gonna work out. 1151 00:42:43,061 --> 00:42:46,637 Someone who's, like, ambitious and, you know, intelligent. 1152 00:42:46,790 --> 00:42:49,381 Can she be adaptable to different people? 1153 00:42:49,401 --> 00:42:51,401 Trust--like, if I think there's no, like-- 1154 00:42:51,628 --> 00:42:53,978 If I think she is dishonest or not loyal, 1155 00:42:54,130 --> 00:42:55,738 Then, like, that's also, 1156 00:42:55,965 --> 00:42:59,558 Like, you know, a box she needs to check. 1157 00:42:59,578 --> 00:43:02,486 You know, the way, like, people handle conflict, right? 1158 00:43:02,639 --> 00:43:06,231 You know, is she, like, mature in the way 1159 00:43:06,251 --> 00:43:08,142 She handles [bleep], or is she not? 1160 00:43:08,161 --> 00:43:10,420 ♪ ♪ 1161 00:43:10,571 --> 00:43:12,237 So, like, I think, when I fall in love, 1162 00:43:12,332 --> 00:43:13,739 That woman would check all those boxes, 1163 00:43:13,758 --> 00:43:15,074 You know what I mean? 1164 00:43:15,168 --> 00:43:16,909 - I'm listening to the checklist, 1165 00:43:16,928 --> 00:43:19,262 And it seems kind of stringent for me, and I'm like, "eh." 1166 00:43:19,413 --> 00:43:22,657 You know, do I really feel comfortable in my own sense, 1167 00:43:22,750 --> 00:43:26,085 To say, "okay, I think I can do, 1168 00:43:26,104 --> 00:43:27,586 "you know, one, two, and three. 1169 00:43:27,606 --> 00:43:28,830 "I don't know about four and five. 1170 00:43:28,848 --> 00:43:30,665 I don't know about that." 1171 00:43:30,758 --> 00:43:32,424 So--but I think it was a very good understanding 1172 00:43:32,444 --> 00:43:34,426 To see how he thinks, 1173 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,021 How he, you know, process things, 1174 00:43:37,173 --> 00:43:40,599 And whether or not I fit into that "tetris," 1175 00:43:40,693 --> 00:43:41,409 But we'll see. 1176 00:43:43,847 --> 00:43:47,957 - Okay, so, do you think you are beginning to fall in love? 1177 00:43:52,613 --> 00:43:54,038 - [chuckles] 1178 00:43:54,132 --> 00:43:56,858 That's a--yeah, that's a intense question. 1179 00:43:56,876 --> 00:44:00,285 I think, a couple of weeks ago, I was. 1180 00:44:00,380 --> 00:44:01,863 And so I was like, 1181 00:44:01,956 --> 00:44:03,455 "well, what is this feeling that I'm feeling?" 1182 00:44:03,475 --> 00:44:04,807 Right? 1183 00:44:05,034 --> 00:44:06,458 "let me figure out what this is. 1184 00:44:06,478 --> 00:44:10,037 What does it mean?" so then I was. 1185 00:44:10,056 --> 00:44:11,038 - Mm-hmm. 1186 00:44:11,057 --> 00:44:12,798 ♪ ♪ 1187 00:44:12,892 --> 00:44:14,392 - What about you? - Oh, but--hold up. 1188 00:44:14,486 --> 00:44:16,210 You said then you were, but what about now though? 1189 00:44:16,229 --> 00:44:18,137 ♪ ♪ 1190 00:44:18,231 --> 00:44:20,548 - Now, to be 100% honest... 1191 00:44:20,641 --> 00:44:22,733 - Yeah. - I am guarded. 1192 00:44:22,827 --> 00:44:24,719 - Why are you guarded? 1193 00:44:24,737 --> 00:44:26,721 - Uh, because of just the past couple of days. 1194 00:44:26,739 --> 00:44:27,997 - Mm-hmm. 1195 00:44:28,224 --> 00:44:29,073 - And I'm not going back to, like... 1196 00:44:29,167 --> 00:44:30,391 - Mm-hmm. - Talk about that. 1197 00:44:30,410 --> 00:44:31,834 - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 1198 00:44:31,986 --> 00:44:34,729 - But it just--it did help me take a step back, 1199 00:44:34,747 --> 00:44:36,321 And then it's let me just actually see 1200 00:44:36,341 --> 00:44:38,841 If this is a truly viable relationship for my future. 1201 00:44:39,068 --> 00:44:40,659 - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 1202 00:44:40,753 --> 00:44:44,071 - But I honestly do believe we're gonna get back to-- 1203 00:44:44,165 --> 00:44:45,406 We're gonna work on it together. 1204 00:44:45,425 --> 00:44:46,498 - Mm-hmm. 1205 00:44:46,592 --> 00:44:48,576 [tender music] 1206 00:44:48,594 --> 00:44:51,187 I think, for me, personally, you know, 1207 00:44:51,338 --> 00:44:53,672 I don't know if I'm beginning to fall in love, 1208 00:44:53,692 --> 00:44:55,507 But, [bleep], I hope this is the beginning. 1209 00:44:55,527 --> 00:44:56,842 You know what I mean? 1210 00:44:56,936 --> 00:44:58,436 When I lose interest, like, it's gone, 1211 00:44:58,588 --> 00:45:00,087 And I have never been able to get back from, like, that. 1212 00:45:00,106 --> 00:45:01,364 - Mm-hmm. 1213 00:45:01,515 --> 00:45:02,532 - But maybe with this situation, 1214 00:45:02,683 --> 00:45:04,200 I may look back at it and say... 1215 00:45:08,097 --> 00:45:09,205 So you know how I said, like, I want to work... 1216 00:45:09,432 --> 00:45:10,689 - Mm-hmm. - To get back to where we were? 1217 00:45:10,709 --> 00:45:11,949 Like, this is what I mean by that. 1218 00:45:12,101 --> 00:45:13,100 Like, doing stuff like this. 1219 00:45:13,119 --> 00:45:15,027 ♪ ♪ 1220 00:45:15,121 --> 00:45:16,212 You know, how I'm feeling tonight 1221 00:45:16,439 --> 00:45:17,772 And how tonight went is exactly 1222 00:45:17,865 --> 00:45:20,274 What I wanted to happen to get us back on track. 1223 00:45:20,367 --> 00:45:22,201 I think we're on the right path. 1224 00:45:22,220 --> 00:45:23,961 I'm into michaela. I want this to work. 1225 00:45:24,113 --> 00:45:26,130 And so I want to continue moving forward. 1226 00:45:26,282 --> 00:45:28,391 I want to keep having nights like these, days like these, 1227 00:45:28,618 --> 00:45:31,710 To kind of get us to, you know, to fall in love, right? 1228 00:45:31,804 --> 00:45:33,212 To being happily married. 1229 00:45:33,306 --> 00:45:35,806 So with everything that has happened, 1230 00:45:35,900 --> 00:45:37,975 I'm actually happy, you know, where we are, 1231 00:45:38,127 --> 00:45:41,462 And, you know, I wasn't feeling too happy, 1232 00:45:41,555 --> 00:45:43,814 You know, a couple days ago, 1233 00:45:43,908 --> 00:45:46,391 But I think right now, like, I'm definitely, like-- 1234 00:45:46,486 --> 00:45:47,910 I can definitely see a path forward. 1235 00:45:48,137 --> 00:45:50,471 I can say that. - This is good. 1236 00:45:50,490 --> 00:45:53,491 Like, today's good. - Yeah. 1237 00:45:53,643 --> 00:45:55,476 I'm happy. I'm happy as [bleep]. 1238 00:45:55,569 --> 00:45:58,070 - ♪ you know that you're quite the catch ♪ 1239 00:45:58,089 --> 00:46:01,482 ♪ you know that you're much more than that ♪ 1240 00:46:01,501 --> 00:46:03,408 ♪ ♪ 1241 00:46:03,503 --> 00:46:06,504 [upbeat music] 1242 00:46:06,656 --> 00:46:09,581 - I'm feeling optimistic. 1243 00:46:09,601 --> 00:46:12,101 As you can see, 1244 00:46:12,328 --> 00:46:15,679 The pillow barricade 1245 00:46:15,832 --> 00:46:18,775 Has disappeared between us. 1246 00:46:19,002 --> 00:46:20,610 I am now big spoon. 1247 00:46:20,837 --> 00:46:22,761 ♪ ♪ 1248 00:46:22,781 --> 00:46:27,525 He still has pillows in front. 1249 00:46:27,619 --> 00:46:31,603 But magically, 1250 00:46:31,623 --> 00:46:34,682 The pillows dividing us disappeared. 1251 00:46:34,775 --> 00:46:38,461 So I feel this is progress 1252 00:46:38,688 --> 00:46:40,588 In our relationship. 1253 00:46:42,283 --> 00:46:46,544 I'm worming my way into his heart... 1254 00:46:46,638 --> 00:46:48,029 Like a parasite. 1255 00:46:48,047 --> 00:46:51,532 ♪ ♪ 1256 00:46:51,551 --> 00:46:53,200 I told you I would do it. 1257 00:46:53,219 --> 00:46:55,394 ♪ ♪ 1258 00:47:00,134 --> 00:47:01,466 - ♪ you know just what I like ♪ 1259 00:47:01,486 --> 00:47:03,152 ♪ you make it feel all right ♪ 1260 00:47:03,304 --> 00:47:05,212 ♪ you knock it out of sight ♪ 1261 00:47:05,231 --> 00:47:06,989 - All of our couples got married at first sight 1262 00:47:07,141 --> 00:47:10,401 To find the person they could build a lifelong bond with 1263 00:47:10,553 --> 00:47:11,994 And ultimately fall in love. 1264 00:47:12,221 --> 00:47:15,981 - Babe, hey. - Hi, I brought food. 1265 00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,150 - But in order to create that feeling, 1266 00:47:18,169 --> 00:47:20,744 They must be willing to become completely vulnerable 1267 00:47:20,897 --> 00:47:22,079 With their spouses. 1268 00:47:22,231 --> 00:47:23,840 - How are you? - I want to try. 1269 00:47:23,991 --> 00:47:26,750 - So we're encouraging every one of our couples 1270 00:47:26,903 --> 00:47:29,070 To plan special dates for each other. 1271 00:47:29,088 --> 00:47:31,013 It's our hope that this will ignite that spark 1272 00:47:31,165 --> 00:47:34,517 That will ultimately lead to love and a forever marriage. 1273 00:47:34,744 --> 00:47:37,002 - I was working on a little something for us. 1274 00:47:37,021 --> 00:47:38,746 What is one thing that you don't have, 1275 00:47:38,764 --> 00:47:40,414 That you always wanted? 1276 00:47:40,507 --> 00:47:42,099 - One thing that I don't have... 1277 00:47:42,193 --> 00:47:44,585 - Yeah, think about it. - That I've always wanted. 1278 00:47:44,604 --> 00:47:46,921 - Always. - A porsche. 1279 00:47:47,014 --> 00:47:48,606 - A porsche! Okay, close. 1280 00:47:48,758 --> 00:47:50,349 - Just kidding. I got the husband, check. 1281 00:47:50,368 --> 00:47:52,259 - Let's go--aww. 1282 00:47:52,353 --> 00:47:53,202 All right, so I'll help you out. 1283 00:47:53,354 --> 00:47:54,871 - Oh, it's-- 1284 00:47:55,022 --> 00:47:57,540 - So one thing you've always wanted is coasters. 1285 00:47:57,767 --> 00:48:00,042 - Oh, my god, we desperately need coasters. 1286 00:48:00,269 --> 00:48:01,711 - So check this out. This is so cool, I think. 1287 00:48:01,938 --> 00:48:03,546 So, these are, like, scrabble pieces. 1288 00:48:03,697 --> 00:48:04,529 We'll create little... - Okay. 1289 00:48:04,624 --> 00:48:06,698 - Like, words or whatever. 1290 00:48:06,718 --> 00:48:08,459 The experts' cards got me kind of thinking, as well, 1291 00:48:08,611 --> 00:48:10,461 In regards to, like, love 1292 00:48:10,555 --> 00:48:12,704 And, you know, where we're at, and I was like, "okay, 1293 00:48:12,798 --> 00:48:14,206 This would be kind of cool that we could do together." 1294 00:48:14,225 --> 00:48:15,633 - I would have never thought of this. 1295 00:48:15,785 --> 00:48:17,968 I would have just moseyed on down to target 1296 00:48:18,121 --> 00:48:19,620 And bought coasters. [laughs] 1297 00:48:19,639 --> 00:48:26,402 ♪ ♪ 1298 00:48:28,389 --> 00:48:30,131 - "hubby and wifey." I love it. 1299 00:48:30,224 --> 00:48:32,149 - Okay, so, I hate to bring it up. 1300 00:48:32,243 --> 00:48:34,318 - Mm-hmm. 1301 00:48:34,470 --> 00:48:35,912 - The whole, like, you've never been in love thing was like, 1302 00:48:36,063 --> 00:48:37,821 "oh, interesting." 1303 00:48:37,916 --> 00:48:39,749 Was there anything I said that you were like, "huh"? 1304 00:48:39,900 --> 00:48:43,144 - Yeah. Catamaran, honeymoon. 1305 00:48:43,162 --> 00:48:45,663 ♪ ♪ 1306 00:48:45,757 --> 00:48:48,174 - Never have I ever... 1307 00:48:49,260 --> 00:48:50,575 - Oh! 1308 00:48:50,670 --> 00:48:53,988 - Damn, I married a cheater. 1309 00:48:54,006 --> 00:48:55,580 So you've cheated before. 1310 00:48:55,675 --> 00:48:59,101 - Oh. Yeah, I have. 1311 00:49:02,774 --> 00:49:04,589 I was kind of like, "huh, he hasn't asked about it." 1312 00:49:04,684 --> 00:49:06,000 I was like, "oh, well, I'm not gonna tell him about it." 1313 00:49:06,093 --> 00:49:07,426 - Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Mm-hmm. 1314 00:49:07,445 --> 00:49:10,187 - So... - Yeah, that's tonight, yep. 1315 00:49:10,281 --> 00:49:12,615 - It was with my eight-year relationship. 1316 00:49:12,766 --> 00:49:15,284 It happened on year two. - Okay. 1317 00:49:15,436 --> 00:49:18,603 - I went out, girls night. Alcohol was involved. 1318 00:49:18,623 --> 00:49:21,457 Ran into someone that I knew from my past. 1319 00:49:21,684 --> 00:49:23,033 - Okay. - And it happened, you know? 1320 00:49:23,127 --> 00:49:24,201 - Okay. 1321 00:49:24,353 --> 00:49:25,703 - And the very next day, 1322 00:49:25,855 --> 00:49:27,688 I had to tell my boyfriend what happened. 1323 00:49:27,781 --> 00:49:29,023 Of course, upset, and we broke up. 1324 00:49:29,041 --> 00:49:30,615 - And you were with him for eight years. 1325 00:49:30,635 --> 00:49:32,117 - Well, this happened on year two... 1326 00:49:32,136 --> 00:49:33,877 - Oh, okay. - And it continued, so... 1327 00:49:33,972 --> 00:49:35,379 - Oh, so he still, like, forgave you then. 1328 00:49:35,531 --> 00:49:37,198 - Thankfully, I was forgiven. 1329 00:49:37,216 --> 00:49:38,474 [soft dramatic music] 1330 00:49:38,625 --> 00:49:40,959 Since then, I learned very well. 1331 00:49:40,979 --> 00:49:43,721 Do not put yourself in situations 1332 00:49:43,815 --> 00:49:45,706 That could lead to that. 1333 00:49:45,725 --> 00:49:47,316 - So, you know, it's funny you say that 1334 00:49:47,543 --> 00:49:49,151 Because my brother-in-law always put it best to me. 1335 00:49:49,378 --> 00:49:51,395 "if you go to the barbershop enough, 1336 00:49:51,547 --> 00:49:53,547 You're gonna get a haircut." 1337 00:49:53,566 --> 00:49:55,232 Meaning if you put yourself in those types of situations... 1338 00:49:55,326 --> 00:49:57,051 - Yeah. 1339 00:49:57,069 --> 00:49:58,995 - Unfortunately, sometimes, those things will happen. 1340 00:50:01,057 --> 00:50:03,648 As we get closer to saying "I love you" 1341 00:50:03,743 --> 00:50:06,985 And talking about it, for me, before I can get there, 1342 00:50:07,005 --> 00:50:09,413 I need to know that, hey, am I gonna get cheated on? 1343 00:50:09,565 --> 00:50:10,731 I hate to say this, 1344 00:50:10,750 --> 00:50:12,824 But once a cheater, always a cheater. 1345 00:50:12,844 --> 00:50:14,176 But she's a different woman now, 1346 00:50:14,328 --> 00:50:16,237 I'm hoping. 1347 00:50:16,255 --> 00:50:18,922 And I can tell you that if it happened to me, 1348 00:50:19,075 --> 00:50:22,760 And my wife cheated on me, that I would not forgive her. 1349 00:50:22,854 --> 00:50:26,838 So let me ask you a tough, hot seat question. 1350 00:50:26,858 --> 00:50:28,098 - Okay. - Okay, so now we're married. 1351 00:50:28,192 --> 00:50:29,841 - Uh-huh. 1352 00:50:29,861 --> 00:50:31,435 - You have cheated before in the past unfortunately. 1353 00:50:31,529 --> 00:50:33,420 - Uh-huh. 1354 00:50:33,439 --> 00:50:36,032 - How can I be comfortable with this girls night 1355 00:50:36,259 --> 00:50:38,108 That you're maybe gonna have one day? 1356 00:50:38,202 --> 00:50:40,018 - Like, the bachelorette party? - Something. 1357 00:50:40,112 --> 00:50:41,520 And know that, hey, you know what, my wife's going out. 1358 00:50:41,539 --> 00:50:42,872 She's gonna have a good time, 1359 00:50:43,099 --> 00:50:45,190 But I don't have to worry about this. 1360 00:50:45,209 --> 00:50:47,768 - You honestly will just have to trust me. 1361 00:50:47,861 --> 00:50:49,787 - ♪ shadows in the dark ♪ 1362 00:50:49,939 --> 00:50:51,881 ♪ how did it get this far? ♪ 1363 00:50:52,108 --> 00:50:56,110 ♪ ♪ 1364 00:50:56,128 --> 00:50:58,128 - ♪ I didn't know, I didn't know ♪ 1365 00:50:58,281 --> 00:51:01,039 ♪ what you wanted ♪ 1366 00:51:01,059 --> 00:51:02,558 - I can tell you've been eating 1367 00:51:02,709 --> 00:51:04,134 Chocolate chip cookies, husband. 1368 00:51:04,287 --> 00:51:06,562 - You can tell what? 1369 00:51:06,789 --> 00:51:07,971 - You've been eating chocolate chip cookies. 1370 00:51:08,124 --> 00:51:09,065 - How can you tell? 1371 00:51:09,292 --> 00:51:12,793 - The bag looks a little emptier. 1372 00:51:12,812 --> 00:51:14,219 - Yes, I've been eating chocolate chip cookies 1373 00:51:14,238 --> 00:51:17,147 'cause they're in there to be eaten. 1374 00:51:17,241 --> 00:51:20,392 And they taste so, so good. - [whispers inaudibly] 1375 00:51:20,411 --> 00:51:24,729 - You gonna eat all of that? - I think so. 1376 00:51:24,749 --> 00:51:27,899 You see, the love for mac and cheese is deep 1377 00:51:27,919 --> 00:51:30,753 Just like your chocolate chip cookies. 1378 00:51:30,980 --> 00:51:32,496 - Well, that's a deep love, then. 1379 00:51:32,590 --> 00:51:34,665 [chuckles] 1380 00:51:34,817 --> 00:51:36,408 I got married at first sight 1381 00:51:36,427 --> 00:51:38,594 To fall in love and find that person 1382 00:51:38,821 --> 00:51:40,504 I want to spend the rest of my life with, 1383 00:51:40,656 --> 00:51:42,765 And I think that we're moving in the right direction. 1384 00:51:42,916 --> 00:51:45,250 You ready? - I was born ready. 1385 00:51:45,344 --> 00:51:48,846 - Oh, big talk. 1386 00:51:48,998 --> 00:51:51,014 But my wife believes a person 1387 00:51:51,167 --> 00:51:53,258 Chooses to fall in love with somebody. 1388 00:51:53,277 --> 00:51:55,778 They don't just magically fall in love. 1389 00:51:55,929 --> 00:51:59,340 And so it's one of those things where I don't believe 1390 00:51:59,358 --> 00:52:02,267 That she has made that decision yet, 1391 00:52:02,286 --> 00:52:04,603 So I want my actions to show her that, you know, 1392 00:52:04,622 --> 00:52:06,363 I'm in this for the long haul, 1393 00:52:06,515 --> 00:52:08,124 And I'm willing to do whatever it takes. 1394 00:52:10,186 --> 00:52:12,128 So before we go to bed, 1395 00:52:12,279 --> 00:52:13,778 How about I give you a foot rub? 1396 00:52:13,873 --> 00:52:15,780 - Okay. - Yeah? 1397 00:52:15,875 --> 00:52:17,374 You cool with that? - Sure. 1398 00:52:17,526 --> 00:52:18,801 - Why are you laughing? 1399 00:52:20,863 --> 00:52:24,140 - Because you're weird. That's why. 1400 00:52:24,291 --> 00:52:27,959 - Well, I will warn you, my hands are, like, magic. 1401 00:52:27,979 --> 00:52:30,980 So you ready for this romantic gesture? 1402 00:52:31,131 --> 00:52:32,222 - Sure thing, boss. 1403 00:52:32,316 --> 00:52:35,209 [upbeat music] 1404 00:52:35,227 --> 00:52:39,321 ♪ ♪ 1405 00:52:39,473 --> 00:52:41,231 - What type of pressure you like on your feet? 1406 00:52:41,325 --> 00:52:42,974 ♪ ♪ 1407 00:52:42,994 --> 00:52:44,660 - I don't know. Like, normal pressure. 1408 00:52:44,887 --> 00:52:47,496 - ♪ you can put a weight on me ♪ 1409 00:52:47,648 --> 00:52:49,740 ♪ I'll carry your love, girl ♪ 1410 00:52:49,834 --> 00:52:51,000 ♪ ♪ 1411 00:52:51,151 --> 00:52:52,576 ♪ whenever you feel low down ♪ 1412 00:52:52,670 --> 00:52:54,503 ♪ ♪ 1413 00:52:54,655 --> 00:52:56,413 ♪ when you're feeling heavy ♪ 1414 00:52:56,565 --> 00:52:58,841 - How's this feel? Good? 1415 00:52:58,992 --> 00:53:00,751 - I think, for me, it feels a lot better when I'm just, 1416 00:53:00,845 --> 00:53:04,087 Like, tired, you know? Like, if my feet hurt. 1417 00:53:04,240 --> 00:53:05,589 - Does your feet hurt right now? 1418 00:53:05,683 --> 00:53:06,998 - No. - Okay. 1419 00:53:07,018 --> 00:53:07,925 - 'cause, you know, I work from home. 1420 00:53:08,077 --> 00:53:10,019 [laughs] 1421 00:53:11,931 --> 00:53:14,506 If I had to rate my husband's foot massage, 1422 00:53:14,525 --> 00:53:16,841 I would say it's like a five-ish. 1423 00:53:16,861 --> 00:53:19,086 Okay, that's a little hard. - Is it? 1424 00:53:19,104 --> 00:53:20,103 - Yeah. - All right. 1425 00:53:20,198 --> 00:53:22,423 ♪ ♪ 1426 00:53:22,441 --> 00:53:23,848 - There's definitely room for improvement 1427 00:53:23,868 --> 00:53:25,684 When it comes to foot massages, 1428 00:53:25,703 --> 00:53:28,111 But not to the extent that I will say no. 1429 00:53:28,206 --> 00:53:30,280 ♪ ♪ 1430 00:53:30,374 --> 00:53:32,524 I would say that you're okay at massaging. 1431 00:53:32,543 --> 00:53:34,268 - Ah! 1432 00:53:34,286 --> 00:53:36,620 [laughter] 1433 00:53:36,714 --> 00:53:39,048 When it comes down to romance with my wife, 1434 00:53:39,275 --> 00:53:41,442 She's a very hard woman to please. 1435 00:53:41,460 --> 00:53:42,718 I'm okay? 1436 00:53:42,945 --> 00:53:44,386 - When you learn the pressure points-- 1437 00:53:44,613 --> 00:53:45,295 - Oh, you want the pressure points. 1438 00:53:45,389 --> 00:53:46,889 - Yeah. 1439 00:53:47,116 --> 00:53:48,873 - You want me to make you kind of, like, melt? 1440 00:53:48,968 --> 00:53:50,375 - That would be lovely. 1441 00:53:50,394 --> 00:53:53,395 - I bet you would. I want her to feel loved. 1442 00:53:53,622 --> 00:53:55,456 But she's very particular about things, 1443 00:53:55,474 --> 00:53:57,399 So for me to come up with something 1444 00:53:57,551 --> 00:54:00,477 That she actually loves, it's almost impossible. 1445 00:54:00,571 --> 00:54:02,738 ♪ ♪ 1446 00:54:02,965 --> 00:54:09,319 But I'm definitely not gonna give up. 1447 00:54:09,413 --> 00:54:10,637 [upbeat music] 1448 00:54:10,656 --> 00:54:12,139 ♪ ♪ 1449 00:54:12,232 --> 00:54:14,416 - ♪ you're my kind of people ♪ 1450 00:54:14,643 --> 00:54:16,901 - Your phone's, like, blinking or whatever. 1451 00:54:16,921 --> 00:54:18,996 [phone chimes] - what's that? 1452 00:54:19,090 --> 00:54:20,981 - So, jose... 1453 00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:22,574 - ♪ my kind of people ♪ 1454 00:54:22,668 --> 00:54:24,318 - Jose says, "hey, guys." 1455 00:54:24,336 --> 00:54:27,763 - Has invited all of us to a barbecue. 1456 00:54:27,914 --> 00:54:29,840 - Did you know that the barbecue 1457 00:54:29,992 --> 00:54:31,675 Was at his house? - Oh, he's gonna love it. 1458 00:54:31,827 --> 00:54:35,938 - Listen, he's going to be living his best life. 1459 00:54:36,089 --> 00:54:37,331 - "zack will be there," he says. 1460 00:54:37,424 --> 00:54:39,500 "omg, yay. So excited." 1461 00:54:39,518 --> 00:54:40,759 - So that means everybody's gonna be there. 1462 00:54:40,853 --> 00:54:42,761 I like when we're all together. 1463 00:54:42,780 --> 00:54:44,521 - I'll finally meet michaela. 1464 00:54:44,673 --> 00:54:46,356 - It'll be our first time all hanging out together. 1465 00:54:46,450 --> 00:54:47,932 I always forget about that. - We still got 24 hours. 1466 00:54:48,027 --> 00:54:50,193 She could leave twice in that span. 1467 00:54:50,288 --> 00:54:53,605 - Ryan, be positive. - I hope she's there. 1468 00:54:53,624 --> 00:54:56,016 - She will be. - [chuckles] 1469 00:54:56,035 --> 00:54:58,794 ♪ ♪ 1470 00:54:58,945 --> 00:55:01,538 - ♪ I still want to ♪ 1471 00:55:01,632 --> 00:55:04,191 ♪ make this last forever ♪ 1472 00:55:04,209 --> 00:55:05,876 ♪ ♪ 1473 00:55:06,028 --> 00:55:07,194 - Hey. 1474 00:55:07,212 --> 00:55:08,787 ♪ ♪ 1475 00:55:08,806 --> 00:55:10,547 - Hi, hubby. - Hey. 1476 00:55:10,641 --> 00:55:12,533 ♪ ♪ 1477 00:55:12,626 --> 00:55:14,201 - I have a surprise for you. 1478 00:55:14,219 --> 00:55:16,703 - You do? 1479 00:55:16,797 --> 00:55:18,705 - We have some beers... - Hey. 1480 00:55:18,799 --> 00:55:21,132 - We're gonna try. - All right. 1481 00:55:21,152 --> 00:55:22,876 - I think if we drink this all 1482 00:55:22,895 --> 00:55:24,061 Before dinner comes, we might be drunk. 1483 00:55:24,155 --> 00:55:25,896 - I don't know 1484 00:55:26,048 --> 00:55:27,064 If I could handle even, like, two of these. 1485 00:55:27,158 --> 00:55:29,658 - But we will try. - Okay. 1486 00:55:31,812 --> 00:55:33,220 - So I'll give you a little tour 1487 00:55:33,238 --> 00:55:35,664 Of the things to come. So there's that. 1488 00:55:35,891 --> 00:55:39,226 Fried chicken will be coming in a few minutes. 1489 00:55:39,244 --> 00:55:40,485 - Okay. 1490 00:55:40,504 --> 00:55:42,079 - We also have... 1491 00:55:42,173 --> 00:55:44,231 ♪ ♪ 1492 00:55:44,324 --> 00:55:46,175 - What is that? - We have darts. 1493 00:55:46,402 --> 00:55:47,901 - Okay. 1494 00:55:47,994 --> 00:55:50,420 - [laughs] - with guns. 1495 00:55:50,514 --> 00:55:52,739 - You said you like darts. - I do like darts. 1496 00:55:52,833 --> 00:55:54,332 - So-- - this feels dangerous. 1497 00:55:54,352 --> 00:55:55,517 - It makes me feel pretty good 1498 00:55:55,744 --> 00:55:57,260 To put all this together for johnny. 1499 00:55:57,355 --> 00:55:59,262 ♪ ♪ 1500 00:55:59,415 --> 00:56:01,264 I know that he's looking for sparks on the day-to-day, 1501 00:56:01,359 --> 00:56:04,526 So I decided to surprise him 1502 00:56:04,753 --> 00:56:06,253 With a little bar and game night. 1503 00:56:06,271 --> 00:56:08,864 ♪ ♪ 1504 00:56:09,091 --> 00:56:10,181 Thanks for bringing the bar home. 1505 00:56:10,275 --> 00:56:11,700 - You're welcome. 1506 00:56:11,927 --> 00:56:14,261 - This is my kind of Friday night, for real. 1507 00:56:14,279 --> 00:56:15,520 - I'm glad you like it. 1508 00:56:15,614 --> 00:56:16,763 - Like, I couldn't ask for much more. 1509 00:56:16,782 --> 00:56:18,765 - Mm-hmm. 1510 00:56:18,784 --> 00:56:20,709 This night is really important for my marriage with bao 1511 00:56:20,861 --> 00:56:22,711 Because this is the first time she's planned something 1512 00:56:22,938 --> 00:56:25,547 On her own that shows me how well she knows me. 1513 00:56:25,699 --> 00:56:29,109 And bao has chosen three things I love, 1514 00:56:29,128 --> 00:56:33,037 Which is fried chicken, beer, and bar games. 1515 00:56:33,132 --> 00:56:36,058 So she hit three for three on this one. 1516 00:56:36,285 --> 00:56:39,043 - I'm getting a little happy. Not gonna lie. 1517 00:56:39,138 --> 00:56:40,303 - Yeah? - A little bit. 1518 00:56:40,456 --> 00:56:41,288 - I like happy bao. 1519 00:56:41,381 --> 00:56:43,473 [laughter] 1520 00:56:43,567 --> 00:56:45,626 - Happy bao is dangerous bao. It's no good. 1521 00:56:45,644 --> 00:56:47,144 ♪ ♪ 1522 00:56:47,238 --> 00:56:49,888 No good comes from happy bao. 1523 00:56:49,907 --> 00:56:51,556 - I don't know. Were you happy last night? 1524 00:56:51,575 --> 00:56:52,408 - Yes. 1525 00:56:54,912 --> 00:56:58,989 Johnny and I may or may not have consummated the marriage. 1526 00:56:59,141 --> 00:57:01,992 May or may not have. 1527 00:57:02,144 --> 00:57:04,978 [surf rock music] 1528 00:57:04,997 --> 00:57:06,813 All I can say right now 1529 00:57:06,832 --> 00:57:08,315 Is we're both really, really happy. 1530 00:57:08,408 --> 00:57:09,316 [chuckles] 1531 00:57:09,334 --> 00:57:11,835 ♪ ♪ 1532 00:57:11,929 --> 00:57:13,762 - Yeah, it was-- [pops lips] 1533 00:57:13,989 --> 00:57:17,157 ♪ ♪ 1534 00:57:17,176 --> 00:57:20,661 - Really, really happy. 1535 00:57:20,679 --> 00:57:21,437 - I think we should make a little wager. 1536 00:57:21,664 --> 00:57:23,346 - Okay. 1537 00:57:23,499 --> 00:57:26,925 - If I win, we do whatever I want to do 1538 00:57:27,019 --> 00:57:29,260 In the bedroom tonight. 1539 00:57:29,354 --> 00:57:31,596 [quirky music] 1540 00:57:31,615 --> 00:57:34,675 But if I don't beat you, we do whatever you want to do. 1541 00:57:34,693 --> 00:57:38,120 ♪ ♪ 1542 00:57:38,347 --> 00:57:39,529 - Okay. 1543 00:57:39,682 --> 00:57:41,290 - Deal? - Deal. 1544 00:57:41,517 --> 00:57:42,708 - Okay. 1545 00:57:46,205 --> 00:57:48,705 [upbeat music] 1546 00:57:48,799 --> 00:57:52,209 - I gotta warn you... 1547 00:57:52,361 --> 00:57:54,361 I play on playstation, like, some shooting games. 1548 00:57:54,454 --> 00:57:56,863 [laughter] 1549 00:57:56,957 --> 00:58:00,142 - Hang on, hang on, hang on. 1550 00:58:00,293 --> 00:58:02,794 You're just--you're not talking yourself up, are you? 1551 00:58:02,813 --> 00:58:03,812 Oh, [bleep]. - Hey. 1552 00:58:06,150 --> 00:58:08,984 - [bleep] damn it. - Well, that's a three. 1553 00:58:09,211 --> 00:58:10,210 - Okay. 1554 00:58:10,229 --> 00:58:11,302 [energetic rock music] 1555 00:58:11,322 --> 00:58:13,897 - No pressure. Ooh. 1556 00:58:13,991 --> 00:58:14,881 That's a two. 1557 00:58:14,900 --> 00:58:17,976 ♪ ♪ 1558 00:58:17,995 --> 00:58:19,052 Oh, god. 1559 00:58:19,145 --> 00:58:20,554 [laughter] 1560 00:58:20,572 --> 00:58:25,483 ♪ ♪ 1561 00:58:25,503 --> 00:58:26,985 - [gasps] - [laughs] 1562 00:58:27,004 --> 00:58:28,152 Do one of these. 1563 00:58:28,172 --> 00:58:31,565 - Is this proper stance? Like-- 1564 00:58:31,583 --> 00:58:33,734 - No, I think this is proper stance. 1565 00:58:33,752 --> 00:58:36,086 - Like in the movies? Yeah. 1566 00:58:36,180 --> 00:58:37,904 - ♪ dangerous ♪ 1567 00:58:37,923 --> 00:58:40,741 ♪ ♪ 1568 00:58:40,759 --> 00:58:42,166 Oh, like--oh, we're gonna be badass? 1569 00:58:42,186 --> 00:58:43,243 Okay. 1570 00:58:43,262 --> 00:58:44,928 ♪ ♪ 1571 00:58:45,022 --> 00:58:48,023 - ♪ I gotta go now, let it flow now ♪ 1572 00:58:48,250 --> 00:58:50,359 ♪ inside my super hot machine I get the glow now ♪ 1573 00:58:50,510 --> 00:58:51,676 - [screams] 1574 00:58:51,770 --> 00:58:53,270 - This is the most fun 1575 00:58:53,422 --> 00:58:55,272 That I've had in this marriage so far, 1576 00:58:55,424 --> 00:58:58,441 And I really feel like, if we can keep this up, 1577 00:58:58,594 --> 00:59:01,853 We'll be on the path of falling in love. 1578 00:59:01,872 --> 00:59:05,098 In order for you to win, you have to hit red or better. 1579 00:59:05,117 --> 00:59:07,709 [soft dramatic music] 1580 00:59:07,936 --> 00:59:09,711 - Ah! - [laughs] 1581 00:59:09,938 --> 00:59:11,195 ♪ ♪ 1582 00:59:11,215 --> 00:59:14,532 - No! 1583 00:59:14,552 --> 00:59:17,627 - Guess we're gonna do what I want in bed tonight. 1584 00:59:17,780 --> 00:59:20,222 - I don't want to play video games in bed. 1585 00:59:20,449 --> 00:59:22,182 ♪ ♪ 1586 00:59:27,231 --> 00:59:29,790 - ♪ it's like you found a new way to love me ♪ 1587 00:59:29,808 --> 00:59:31,458 ♪ ooh, ooh ♪ 1588 00:59:31,476 --> 00:59:33,460 - Hubby, do you realize this is the first time 1589 00:59:33,478 --> 00:59:36,071 We're all gonna get together since the honeymoon, 1590 00:59:36,298 --> 00:59:39,633 And it'll finally be, like, all of us? 1591 00:59:39,651 --> 00:59:41,076 - That's why I'm so excited. - Yeah. 1592 00:59:41,227 --> 00:59:42,803 - 'cause everybody gets together. 1593 00:59:42,821 --> 00:59:45,229 - Today, we're having all the couples over 1594 00:59:45,249 --> 00:59:50,419 To jose's house to have our possibly annual barbecue. 1595 00:59:50,570 --> 00:59:53,146 Hi! - Hi! 1596 00:59:53,165 --> 00:59:54,423 - It's just crazy to think 1597 00:59:54,650 --> 00:59:57,150 That I'm hosting as a married woman 1598 00:59:57,243 --> 01:00:00,337 With my husband. It's crazy. 1599 01:00:00,431 --> 01:00:03,081 But I absolutely can see myself living here, 1600 01:00:03,100 --> 01:00:04,007 You know, in the future. 1601 01:00:04,159 --> 01:00:05,100 ♪ ♪ 1602 01:00:05,327 --> 01:00:06,935 - Hello! 1603 01:00:07,162 --> 01:00:09,771 - So I do not come to barbecues. 1604 01:00:09,923 --> 01:00:11,589 I think I've been to one barbecue in three years 1605 01:00:11,683 --> 01:00:12,774 That I've been in houston. 1606 01:00:13,001 --> 01:00:14,610 I don't like going to people's homes. 1607 01:00:14,837 --> 01:00:16,278 I'm just, like, not extroverted, 1608 01:00:16,429 --> 01:00:20,357 But very excited to see all five couples together, 1609 01:00:20,509 --> 01:00:22,451 But at the end of the day, I will not be coming back 1610 01:00:22,602 --> 01:00:24,694 To their house in the middle of nowhere. 1611 01:00:24,847 --> 01:00:27,939 ♪ ♪ 1612 01:00:28,033 --> 01:00:29,774 - Hey! What's up, man? 1613 01:00:29,868 --> 01:00:31,793 - Michaela and zack had a little bit of an incident, 1614 01:00:31,945 --> 01:00:33,629 So we didn't really get to, you know, talk with them, 1615 01:00:33,780 --> 01:00:35,464 Interact with them, but everyone's all here today, 1616 01:00:35,615 --> 01:00:36,798 And it's gonna be great. 1617 01:00:36,950 --> 01:00:37,966 How's the food? Is the food good? 1618 01:00:38,118 --> 01:00:39,192 - Thank you so much for having us. 1619 01:00:39,211 --> 01:00:40,193 These burgers are fire. - Are they? 1620 01:00:40,286 --> 01:00:41,452 - Yeah. - All right, awesome. 1621 01:00:41,472 --> 01:00:42,638 - Thank you for hosting. - Yeah, absolutely. 1622 01:00:42,789 --> 01:00:44,139 - Thank you for having us. 1623 01:00:44,290 --> 01:00:46,475 - So let me ask y'all a question. 1624 01:00:46,626 --> 01:00:49,978 I believe I'm gonna fall in love. 1625 01:00:50,205 --> 01:00:53,540 My wife believes falling in love is a choice. 1626 01:00:53,558 --> 01:00:58,302 So what can your spouse do to make you eventually 1627 01:00:58,397 --> 01:01:00,213 Fall in love with them? 1628 01:01:00,232 --> 01:01:03,733 Have you ever been in love? What do y'all think? 1629 01:01:03,827 --> 01:01:06,386 - The love card couldn't have come at a better time. 1630 01:01:06,405 --> 01:01:09,055 It felt like, right when it showed up at the door, 1631 01:01:09,149 --> 01:01:10,740 We needed to talk about this stuff. 1632 01:01:10,893 --> 01:01:12,650 - Mm-hmm. 1633 01:01:12,744 --> 01:01:14,169 - And it ended up being one of the most beautiful moments 1634 01:01:14,320 --> 01:01:18,006 Of our marriage so far. - Oh, wow, nice. 1635 01:01:18,233 --> 01:01:20,233 - Sparks flew for sure. - [chuckles] 1636 01:01:20,252 --> 01:01:22,160 - Sparks that I felt like we hadn't really had 1637 01:01:22,179 --> 01:01:23,737 Since the wedding night. 1638 01:01:23,830 --> 01:01:25,906 Like, it'd been a while. - Yeah. 1639 01:01:25,999 --> 01:01:27,182 - And, for us, it kind of, like, 1640 01:01:27,333 --> 01:01:29,759 Rekindled a little flame, and it was very nice. 1641 01:01:29,912 --> 01:01:30,668 - That's perfect. That's awesome. 1642 01:01:30,688 --> 01:01:32,579 - Wow. 1643 01:01:32,597 --> 01:01:35,081 - So, gil, have you gotten your first kiss yet or no? 1644 01:01:35,100 --> 01:01:36,917 - Aww, come on. - So... 1645 01:01:37,010 --> 01:01:39,586 - How dare you? - Short answer is no. 1646 01:01:39,604 --> 01:01:42,030 - Yeah. - Long answer is no. 1647 01:01:42,182 --> 01:01:43,699 [laughter] 1648 01:01:43,850 --> 01:01:45,701 So, all around, no. 1649 01:01:45,852 --> 01:01:50,539 Nah, but the affection has increased since we've spoken. 1650 01:01:50,766 --> 01:01:52,023 Like--you know, like, the cuddling, 1651 01:01:52,042 --> 01:01:53,616 Just the hugging. 1652 01:01:53,769 --> 01:01:55,711 You know, I was able to touch her shoulder. 1653 01:01:55,862 --> 01:01:57,437 [laughter] 1654 01:01:57,530 --> 01:02:00,364 - All right! A little bit of something. 1655 01:02:00,459 --> 01:02:02,884 - Shoulder action, y'all. 1656 01:02:03,036 --> 01:02:04,110 - Get a room. 1657 01:02:04,129 --> 01:02:06,888 [laughter] 1658 01:02:08,784 --> 01:02:10,726 - Being around the other couples 1659 01:02:10,877 --> 01:02:15,138 Does make me feel like me and ryan might be behind. 1660 01:02:15,290 --> 01:02:17,065 I try not to compare. 1661 01:02:17,292 --> 01:02:19,309 Everybody's relationship is different, 1662 01:02:19,403 --> 01:02:21,127 And I don't think anyone else's progress 1663 01:02:21,146 --> 01:02:23,129 Has any bearing on my own. 1664 01:02:23,148 --> 01:02:27,984 To me, it seems obvious that the others are having 1665 01:02:28,136 --> 01:02:31,580 A lot more intimacy and communication. 1666 01:02:31,731 --> 01:02:33,306 Like, that's pretty obvious to me. 1667 01:02:33,325 --> 01:02:35,475 - Has anyone dropped the, like, "love" word, 1668 01:02:35,568 --> 01:02:38,311 Like, "I love you" yet? - No. 1669 01:02:38,330 --> 01:02:40,071 - Okay, so if we had to put money on the first couple 1670 01:02:40,090 --> 01:02:41,239 To say "I love you," who would it-- 1671 01:02:41,333 --> 01:02:42,048 Who would that couple be? 1672 01:02:43,835 --> 01:02:45,151 Johnny and bao. - Yep. 1673 01:02:45,245 --> 01:02:47,245 - Hey. - Okay, let me up that. 1674 01:02:47,264 --> 01:02:50,248 Let's not only say the couple, but who in that couple. 1675 01:02:50,342 --> 01:02:51,508 - Okay. - Ooh, okay. 1676 01:02:51,660 --> 01:02:54,770 - So I would say myrla. - [gasps] 1677 01:02:54,921 --> 01:02:59,107 - My vote is jose. - Facts, facts. 1678 01:02:59,334 --> 01:03:00,776 - Johnny and bao, who do y'all think? 1679 01:03:01,003 --> 01:03:03,670 - I think I'ma go with gil actually. 1680 01:03:03,763 --> 01:03:05,113 - You gonna go with me? Okay. 1681 01:03:05,340 --> 01:03:07,265 - As soon as he feels it, he's gonna say it. 1682 01:03:07,284 --> 01:03:08,617 - I'm gonna go with bao. 1683 01:03:08,844 --> 01:03:11,177 I figure she has some kind of formula 1684 01:03:11,271 --> 01:03:12,603 Or spreadsheet that's gonna lead her-- 1685 01:03:12,623 --> 01:03:14,122 - Ooh, I love it. 1686 01:03:16,276 --> 01:03:17,517 - Okay, I'm gonna say you. 1687 01:03:17,536 --> 01:03:20,370 - Me? - Oh! 1688 01:03:20,522 --> 01:03:23,690 She put it on her own husband! I like it! 1689 01:03:23,708 --> 01:03:25,375 [laughter] 1690 01:03:25,527 --> 01:03:27,210 - I gotta go with johnny for the sake of time. 1691 01:03:27,362 --> 01:03:28,695 Let's go with my man. Go with my man johnny. 1692 01:03:28,713 --> 01:03:29,805 - No pressure. - No pressure. 1693 01:03:30,032 --> 01:03:32,365 - No pressure, johnny. No pressure. 1694 01:03:32,384 --> 01:03:34,217 - No pressure at all, honey. No pressure at all. 1695 01:03:34,369 --> 01:03:35,644 - Yeah, I think it's johnny. 1696 01:03:35,795 --> 01:03:36,978 [laughter] 1697 01:03:37,130 --> 01:03:39,372 - Dang, everybody. 1698 01:03:39,391 --> 01:03:40,982 [laughter] 1699 01:03:41,134 --> 01:03:42,484 - It's kind of flattering, I think. 1700 01:03:42,711 --> 01:03:45,395 I do not drop the "l" bomb lightly, 1701 01:03:45,489 --> 01:03:47,881 But I feel optimistic that bao and I's relationship 1702 01:03:47,899 --> 01:03:49,825 Has turned a corner, and it's on the right track. 1703 01:03:50,052 --> 01:03:51,718 [laughs] 1704 01:03:51,736 --> 01:03:53,829 - Y'all want to go get some refills? 1705 01:03:53,980 --> 01:03:54,979 - Yeah, yeah. 1706 01:03:55,073 --> 01:03:56,906 - Oh. - Yeah. 1707 01:03:57,000 --> 01:04:02,745 ♪ ♪ 1708 01:04:02,840 --> 01:04:05,748 - Cheers to falling in love sooner than later. 1709 01:04:05,843 --> 01:04:08,234 [laughter] 1710 01:04:08,328 --> 01:04:10,494 - Your room is so big. - I know. 1711 01:04:10,514 --> 01:04:11,179 - I know. This is actually really nice. 1712 01:04:11,331 --> 01:04:12,922 - It's roomy. 1713 01:04:13,016 --> 01:04:14,999 - How are you guys feeling about your marriages 1714 01:04:15,018 --> 01:04:17,001 Three weeks in now? - Everything's great. 1715 01:04:17,020 --> 01:04:18,687 Like, you know, but, just like everyone, 1716 01:04:18,914 --> 01:04:20,747 We have our little, like, down moments, 1717 01:04:20,765 --> 01:04:23,266 So, if you noticed, jose talks a lot. 1718 01:04:23,360 --> 01:04:24,508 - [laughs] 1719 01:04:24,603 --> 01:04:25,861 - It all kind of started, 1720 01:04:26,088 --> 01:04:27,362 I guess, you know, for me, what I wanted 1721 01:04:27,513 --> 01:04:29,272 Was just someone that I connect with, 1722 01:04:29,366 --> 01:04:31,758 Had the, you know, commonalities and similarities. 1723 01:04:31,851 --> 01:04:33,351 We enjoy doing the same things together, 1724 01:04:33,445 --> 01:04:35,095 And it kind of builds us. 1725 01:04:35,188 --> 01:04:36,872 You know, this is such a short process. 1726 01:04:37,023 --> 01:04:38,689 It's not a marathon. 1727 01:04:38,709 --> 01:04:39,949 Rather, it's a sprint now, you know what I'm saying? 1728 01:04:40,043 --> 01:04:42,210 So I think it's just kind of finding the things 1729 01:04:42,362 --> 01:04:44,120 That we both enjoy. 1730 01:04:44,272 --> 01:04:45,547 Even if it was, like, baseball games, right? 1731 01:04:45,698 --> 01:04:47,123 So she's, like, a huge sports fan. 1732 01:04:47,275 --> 01:04:49,442 If I don't know that you like green eggs and ham, 1733 01:04:49,461 --> 01:04:51,869 How the hell am I gonna know that that's what you want 1734 01:04:51,889 --> 01:04:52,795 For breakfast every single morning, right? 1735 01:04:52,948 --> 01:04:54,372 ♪ ♪ 1736 01:04:54,391 --> 01:04:56,057 - That's something he struggles with-- 1737 01:04:56,209 --> 01:04:59,895 Is listening, and it's caused, like, little issues. 1738 01:05:00,046 --> 01:05:01,804 But overall, everything's pretty great. 1739 01:05:01,957 --> 01:05:03,064 - Yeah. - You know? 1740 01:05:03,216 --> 01:05:04,882 I'm really happy. He's such a gentleman. 1741 01:05:04,902 --> 01:05:06,401 You know, he treats me so well, 1742 01:05:06,628 --> 01:05:08,811 And I do feel like that love word is, like, 1743 01:05:08,964 --> 01:05:10,313 On the tip of my tongue. - Aww. 1744 01:05:10,407 --> 01:05:13,466 - But I keep--like, "just wait, just wait." 1745 01:05:13,485 --> 01:05:15,226 But I think of what pastor cal says. 1746 01:05:15,245 --> 01:05:17,913 Like, "if you feel it, just, like, say it." 1747 01:05:18,140 --> 01:05:20,823 So it's coming soon, I think, yeah. 1748 01:05:20,976 --> 01:05:21,658 - That's good. I'm so happy for you guys. 1749 01:05:21,810 --> 01:05:23,084 - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 1750 01:05:23,311 --> 01:05:24,419 - You can see it too. - Aww, thanks. 1751 01:05:24,570 --> 01:05:25,754 - The two of you-- it's so obvious. 1752 01:05:25,981 --> 01:05:26,980 - Yeah, I know. Y'all are just glowing. 1753 01:05:27,073 --> 01:05:29,499 - Like, oh, my god, they need to stop. 1754 01:05:29,651 --> 01:05:32,594 Rachel and jose are just too much sometimes, 1755 01:05:32,821 --> 01:05:35,764 I swear to god. I've nicknamed them rosé. 1756 01:05:35,991 --> 01:05:38,158 Every time I see them, it's just, like, 1757 01:05:38,176 --> 01:05:41,177 Mwah, mwah, mwah, mwah. And I'm like, "oh, rosé." 1758 01:05:41,329 --> 01:05:43,772 ♪ ♪ 1759 01:05:43,923 --> 01:05:46,015 - [laughs] 1760 01:05:46,168 --> 01:05:49,185 Love them. Love that rosé. 1761 01:05:49,337 --> 01:05:53,523 - So zack and I went in so hard and so fast. 1762 01:05:53,675 --> 01:05:55,266 Like, when I tell you it was, 1763 01:05:55,285 --> 01:05:57,953 Like, almost love at first sight 1764 01:05:58,180 --> 01:05:59,621 'cause it was just like, "oh, my gosh." 1765 01:05:59,848 --> 01:06:02,791 Like, it was an insane kind of feeling. 1766 01:06:03,018 --> 01:06:04,459 - The first week, we were really fine. 1767 01:06:04,610 --> 01:06:05,685 Like, you know, I kept saying, like, y'all can move 1768 01:06:05,778 --> 01:06:07,370 Decision day up to today. - Damn! 1769 01:06:07,464 --> 01:06:08,779 - You know what I mean? Like--but it's just, like-- 1770 01:06:08,799 --> 01:06:09,965 - I wasn't ready for that. - No, but-- 1771 01:06:10,192 --> 01:06:11,024 - Boy, you would have been in trouble. 1772 01:06:11,117 --> 01:06:12,041 - I know, I know. But see-- 1773 01:06:12,194 --> 01:06:13,802 - But with that same intensity, 1774 01:06:13,953 --> 01:06:16,287 When we hit a low... 1775 01:06:16,306 --> 01:06:17,639 - Ooh. - Yeah. 1776 01:06:17,866 --> 01:06:19,290 - 'cause, you know, it's kind of, like, 1777 01:06:19,309 --> 01:06:20,642 Those rose-colored glasses get snatched off your face, 1778 01:06:20,869 --> 01:06:22,385 And now, you know, we're both kind of like, 1779 01:06:22,479 --> 01:06:23,645 "okay, let's figure this out. We can get there. 1780 01:06:23,796 --> 01:06:24,980 We can get there." 1781 01:06:25,207 --> 01:06:26,464 And it's like, we're both learning 1782 01:06:26,483 --> 01:06:28,725 How to be married 1783 01:06:28,877 --> 01:06:30,059 'cause we really like each other, 1784 01:06:30,212 --> 01:06:31,561 And we really want to be married. 1785 01:06:31,655 --> 01:06:33,822 It's hard. 1786 01:06:34,049 --> 01:06:35,898 I said it then, and I'll say it now. 1787 01:06:35,993 --> 01:06:37,808 I could not have built this man better myself. 1788 01:06:37,902 --> 01:06:39,719 - Aww, that's so sweet. 1789 01:06:39,738 --> 01:06:42,388 - He's so phenomenal. He really is. 1790 01:06:42,407 --> 01:06:43,832 - She's an amazing woman. I will always say this. 1791 01:06:44,059 --> 01:06:46,909 It's just the one thing that I've said repeatedly 1792 01:06:47,004 --> 01:06:49,320 Is a red flag for me is the-- you know, the blowups, 1793 01:06:49,339 --> 01:06:51,172 And the kind of--you know, the kneejerk reactions. 1794 01:06:51,324 --> 01:06:52,323 But I'm still hopeful. 1795 01:06:52,417 --> 01:06:53,991 - Do you think-- - yeah. 1796 01:06:54,085 --> 01:06:56,069 - What will happen will happen, and it will all work out. 1797 01:06:56,087 --> 01:06:58,013 - We definitely had our ups and downs for sure too. 1798 01:06:58,164 --> 01:07:02,183 So it's been intense for me and johnny because we realized 1799 01:07:02,410 --> 01:07:04,168 How much we didn't know about each other. 1800 01:07:04,262 --> 01:07:06,929 And so some of those things, it's like, we're so similar 1801 01:07:07,082 --> 01:07:09,098 In ways that can be kind of conflict-y. 1802 01:07:09,192 --> 01:07:11,251 - Yeah. 1803 01:07:11,269 --> 01:07:14,029 - Because both of us can be very dominant in relationships. 1804 01:07:14,180 --> 01:07:15,255 - There's all these, like, small things 1805 01:07:15,273 --> 01:07:16,439 That we don't match on, 1806 01:07:16,591 --> 01:07:17,940 But we match on, like, core values. 1807 01:07:18,093 --> 01:07:19,776 - Yeah. 1808 01:07:19,870 --> 01:07:24,522 - And I'm very much like-- if 97% is good, 3% is bad, 1809 01:07:24,541 --> 01:07:26,207 I focus and nitpick the [bleep] out of the three. 1810 01:07:26,359 --> 01:07:27,709 - I'm the same way. 1811 01:07:27,936 --> 01:07:29,102 - 'cause I feel like we've all--you know, 1812 01:07:29,195 --> 01:07:30,453 We've all been dating... - Yeah. 1813 01:07:30,547 --> 01:07:32,047 - And we haven't settled 1814 01:07:32,274 --> 01:07:33,289 Until this point-- up to this point. 1815 01:07:33,383 --> 01:07:34,774 Why should we settle? 1816 01:07:34,867 --> 01:07:36,793 And I'm looking for everything, right? 1817 01:07:36,945 --> 01:07:39,054 And I started feeling like... 1818 01:07:39,205 --> 01:07:41,964 Like I'm the problem, 1819 01:07:42,117 --> 01:07:44,726 And the past four or five days have been good. 1820 01:07:44,877 --> 01:07:46,061 Like, really good. 1821 01:07:46,212 --> 01:07:47,303 It feels like we turned a corner. 1822 01:07:47,455 --> 01:07:48,712 - You seem like you're in a better place. 1823 01:07:48,732 --> 01:07:50,214 - I know, and I'm hoping that we build on it. 1824 01:07:50,233 --> 01:07:51,457 Just keep having more good days. 1825 01:07:51,551 --> 01:07:53,551 - We had a tough conversation, 1826 01:07:53,570 --> 01:07:55,962 And a lot of things that I've been holding in came out, 1827 01:07:56,055 --> 01:07:57,739 And they needed to come out. 1828 01:07:57,890 --> 01:08:01,801 Told her about my past 1829 01:08:01,894 --> 01:08:03,745 And that maybe sometimes I did 1830 01:08:03,896 --> 01:08:05,988 Previously wait too long to get into that. 1831 01:08:06,083 --> 01:08:07,990 I told her that I was kind of feeling those doubts. 1832 01:08:08,143 --> 01:08:09,809 - Mm-hmm. 1833 01:08:09,828 --> 01:08:11,419 - This is just such-- this is 100% a feeling. 1834 01:08:11,571 --> 01:08:13,237 - Yeah, yeah. 1835 01:08:13,331 --> 01:08:14,255 - And you gotta have that spark that I need to feel... 1836 01:08:14,407 --> 01:08:15,648 - Yeah, yeah. 1837 01:08:15,741 --> 01:08:16,816 - And that's what I'm waiting on. 1838 01:08:16,909 --> 01:08:18,668 - I don't know what he likes about me. 1839 01:08:18,762 --> 01:08:20,653 I don't know anything. I don't even know if he does. 1840 01:08:20,746 --> 01:08:22,097 - Have you asked him that? - Yep. 1841 01:08:22,324 --> 01:08:23,823 He said he's waiting for a feeling 1842 01:08:23,842 --> 01:08:26,083 That he doesn't have. - Ugh. 1843 01:08:26,103 --> 01:08:28,269 - What do you think that feeling is? 1844 01:08:28,421 --> 01:08:32,832 - Butterflies or something. - That's-- 1845 01:08:32,851 --> 01:08:35,017 [chuckles] - why is-- 1846 01:08:35,170 --> 01:08:36,760 - Why can't that be a thing? 1847 01:08:36,780 --> 01:08:39,689 Like, why can't you just be enthralled with your wife, 1848 01:08:39,841 --> 01:08:42,433 And--I don't know. - Yeah. 1849 01:08:42,527 --> 01:08:44,193 - But I just don't know that I would ever get to that point. 1850 01:08:44,287 --> 01:08:47,455 And is that good enough? I don't want good enough. 1851 01:08:47,607 --> 01:08:50,867 - With this situation, this is not regular dating, 1852 01:08:50,961 --> 01:08:52,627 So I think there's a huge element where you do 1853 01:08:52,778 --> 01:08:56,464 Have to make a decision that I'm gonna try to get there. 1854 01:08:56,616 --> 01:08:57,799 - Mm-hmm. - Right. 1855 01:08:57,950 --> 01:08:59,709 - You can't just sit back and just expect. 1856 01:08:59,803 --> 01:09:01,136 You can't sit back and just wait for a feeling. 1857 01:09:01,363 --> 01:09:02,695 - Right. 1858 01:09:02,714 --> 01:09:03,954 - You have to actually do things... 1859 01:09:03,974 --> 01:09:05,140 - Right. - To create those feelings. 1860 01:09:05,291 --> 01:09:06,215 - And that's what you need to tell him. 1861 01:09:06,309 --> 01:09:07,475 That's exactly-- 1862 01:09:07,627 --> 01:09:08,701 - Did you tell him that part though? 1863 01:09:08,720 --> 01:09:09,886 - Everything you telling us right now 1864 01:09:10,038 --> 01:09:10,979 Is exactly what you need to be telling him. 1865 01:09:11,130 --> 01:09:12,205 - It's easier to tell my friends. 1866 01:09:12,298 --> 01:09:13,706 - What are you gonna do going forward? 1867 01:09:13,799 --> 01:09:15,466 Like, are you still gonna-- 1868 01:09:15,485 --> 01:09:16,559 - We're gonna have to have more conversations about it. 1869 01:09:16,653 --> 01:09:18,319 - Yeah. 1870 01:09:18,471 --> 01:09:20,046 - 'cause you need to know, are you wasting your time 1871 01:09:20,139 --> 01:09:21,047 Putting in the effort, or are you not? 1872 01:09:21,065 --> 01:09:22,715 - Right, right. 1873 01:09:22,734 --> 01:09:24,325 - Because if this feeling-- "what if I don't get 1874 01:09:24,477 --> 01:09:25,067 This feeling for two years from now?" 1875 01:09:25,220 --> 01:09:26,736 - Right. 1876 01:09:26,830 --> 01:09:28,070 - Like, who in the hell is waiting that long? 1877 01:09:28,165 --> 01:09:29,330 - Right, right. - Let's expedite this feeling. 1878 01:09:29,482 --> 01:09:30,223 - Right. - You know what I'm saying? 1879 01:09:30,241 --> 01:09:31,557 ♪ ♪ 1880 01:09:31,651 --> 01:09:36,654 - ♪ is this going anywhere? ♪ 1881 01:09:36,673 --> 01:09:38,006 ♪ I'm still walking in the dark ♪ 1882 01:09:42,754 --> 01:09:45,905 - ♪ all my life has led to this ♪ 1883 01:09:45,924 --> 01:09:48,499 - So this morning, it's really awkward 1884 01:09:48,593 --> 01:09:50,743 Because last night, 1885 01:09:50,836 --> 01:09:52,854 We're on the couch watching tv, 1886 01:09:53,081 --> 01:09:55,023 And it just felt like the right moment, 1887 01:09:55,174 --> 01:09:57,099 And I said it. 1888 01:09:57,252 --> 01:09:59,194 I said those three little words. 1889 01:09:59,345 --> 01:10:01,029 And he didn't say it back. 1890 01:10:01,256 --> 01:10:03,865 And now I'm just like, "I don't know what to do." 1891 01:10:04,092 --> 01:10:05,849 I'm just kidding. I did say "I love you," 1892 01:10:05,869 --> 01:10:07,869 And he said it back like I knew he would, 1893 01:10:08,020 --> 01:10:09,704 So we're good. - But no. 1894 01:10:09,855 --> 01:10:12,782 It wasn't instant. It was not instant. 1895 01:10:12,934 --> 01:10:14,709 It took a hot, little minute. 1896 01:10:14,860 --> 01:10:16,694 - I grabbed a knife, and I was like, "say it back." 1897 01:10:16,788 --> 01:10:18,955 - She did. She did. 1898 01:10:19,049 --> 01:10:22,442 She grabbed a knife-- 1899 01:10:22,460 --> 01:10:23,885 - A machete. 1900 01:10:24,112 --> 01:10:25,278 - Yeah, well, it was like a butter knife, 1901 01:10:25,296 --> 01:10:26,946 But it was still a knife. 1902 01:10:27,039 --> 01:10:28,706 I felt my life was threatened, 1903 01:10:28,725 --> 01:10:31,467 So I did tell her back that I loved her. 1904 01:10:31,561 --> 01:10:33,394 - I woke up this morning, and I still love him, 1905 01:10:33,546 --> 01:10:35,121 So that's a good sign. 1906 01:10:35,214 --> 01:10:36,806 - That is a great sign. - Yeah. 1907 01:10:36,900 --> 01:10:38,140 - And I love her too. 1908 01:10:38,235 --> 01:10:40,810 - Aww. Aww. 1909 01:10:40,962 --> 01:10:42,720 - ♪ I'm never giving up ♪ 1910 01:10:42,814 --> 01:10:45,723 ♪ and I'm never going down ♪ 1911 01:10:45,742 --> 01:10:48,225 ♪ I'm up on top, never stop ♪ 1912 01:10:48,319 --> 01:10:52,062 ♪ I'ma keep this crown ♪ 1913 01:10:52,156 --> 01:10:54,323 - Hello. - Hello, hello. 1914 01:10:54,476 --> 01:10:55,975 - What's up? How you doing? 1915 01:10:55,994 --> 01:10:58,586 - I'm good. How are you? 1916 01:10:58,738 --> 01:11:01,923 - Good, what's up? - Nothing much. 1917 01:11:02,074 --> 01:11:03,165 How was your work? Are you sweaty? 1918 01:11:03,318 --> 01:11:05,409 - I know. You know, it's fine. 1919 01:11:05,503 --> 01:11:10,098 So today I think it would be fun for us to cook together 1920 01:11:10,325 --> 01:11:11,915 'cause both of us, you know, eat out a lot. 1921 01:11:12,010 --> 01:11:13,326 So tonight, on zoom, 1922 01:11:13,344 --> 01:11:14,844 We're gonna hang out with a chef... 1923 01:11:14,996 --> 01:11:16,329 - Okay. 1924 01:11:16,422 --> 01:11:17,272 - Who's gonna walk us through a meal. 1925 01:11:17,499 --> 01:11:18,848 - Real talk? - Yeah, yeah, seriously. 1926 01:11:19,000 --> 01:11:21,501 So we're gonna do, like, a shrimp scampi. 1927 01:11:21,519 --> 01:11:22,685 - Ooh, I love shrimp scampi. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 1928 01:11:22,837 --> 01:11:25,113 So I got some ingredients here. 1929 01:11:25,340 --> 01:11:27,523 I find myself enjoying time with my wife 1930 01:11:27,675 --> 01:11:29,784 When we're doing things, you know, active things, 1931 01:11:29,935 --> 01:11:30,843 'cause I feel like that lets us 1932 01:11:30,936 --> 01:11:32,436 Know more about each other, 1933 01:11:32,455 --> 01:11:35,623 And so, I feel good. I think we're in a good space. 1934 01:11:37,276 --> 01:11:38,701 - Nice to meet you, kevin. 1935 01:11:38,853 --> 01:11:39,777 - So we're cooking shrimp scampi today. 1936 01:11:39,871 --> 01:11:40,703 - Yeah. - Yeah. 1937 01:11:40,797 --> 01:11:42,130 - Okay, cool. 1938 01:11:42,357 --> 01:11:42,964 - So how much cooking experience 1939 01:11:43,115 --> 01:11:45,691 Do you guys have? 1940 01:11:45,785 --> 01:11:48,544 - Um... - Not much experience at all. 1941 01:11:48,696 --> 01:11:50,212 [soft dramatic music] 1942 01:11:50,365 --> 01:11:51,639 So what's the first step? 1943 01:11:54,869 --> 01:11:56,385 - Yeah. - We got one pot. 1944 01:11:56,538 --> 01:11:57,870 - Okay, okay, okay, okay. 1945 01:11:57,889 --> 01:11:59,038 - We can do that. 1946 01:11:59,057 --> 01:12:00,373 ♪ ♪ 1947 01:12:00,466 --> 01:12:01,983 I filled it with water, but I'm not sure 1948 01:12:02,134 --> 01:12:03,943 If I filled it with too much water. 1949 01:12:06,881 --> 01:12:07,655 - Yeah. 1950 01:12:09,975 --> 01:12:11,659 - Yeah, yeah, she did. 1951 01:12:17,000 --> 01:12:19,149 - You can do prep work. You said you wanted-- 1952 01:12:19,169 --> 01:12:20,317 - You do the prep work. Nah, you do the prep work. 1953 01:12:20,337 --> 01:12:21,151 - Nah, nah, nah, it's too much pressure. 1954 01:12:21,171 --> 01:12:22,728 - Why? - You do it. 1955 01:12:22,747 --> 01:12:23,821 - Nah, you do prep work. - Okay, I'll do prep work. 1956 01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:24,822 I'll do prep work. 1957 01:12:24,841 --> 01:12:26,632 [upbeat music] 1958 01:12:29,904 --> 01:12:32,513 - Well, that would be the hope. 1959 01:12:32,665 --> 01:12:34,423 Apparently, I'm terrible at boiling water. 1960 01:12:34,576 --> 01:12:35,350 Who knew you can [bleep] it up? 1961 01:12:35,577 --> 01:12:36,425 [laughs] 1962 01:12:36,578 --> 01:12:38,911 ♪ ♪ 1963 01:12:38,930 --> 01:12:40,246 And then the seasoning, 1964 01:12:40,339 --> 01:12:42,190 How much do I-- how much do we do there? 1965 01:12:48,848 --> 01:12:50,439 - I trust whatever you want to do. 1966 01:12:50,592 --> 01:12:53,275 [soft dramatic music] 1967 01:12:53,428 --> 01:12:59,540 ♪ ♪ 1968 01:12:59,767 --> 01:13:01,024 I'm learning more about michaela, 1969 01:13:01,119 --> 01:13:03,044 And, specifically, 1970 01:13:03,195 --> 01:13:07,340 I learned that my wife is not the best seasoner. 1971 01:13:08,126 --> 01:13:09,458 You can keep at it, okay. 1972 01:13:09,552 --> 01:13:10,292 - I mean, I have to crush it. - Get it, get it. 1973 01:13:10,387 --> 01:13:11,886 - It's not that much. 1974 01:13:12,113 --> 01:13:13,462 - Nah, nah, nah, go on, get it, get it, get it. 1975 01:13:13,615 --> 01:13:15,131 I saw the way she was pouring the seasoning 1976 01:13:15,283 --> 01:13:16,724 Into the pot, into the pan, 1977 01:13:16,951 --> 01:13:19,042 And it was kind of heavy-handed. 1978 01:13:19,062 --> 01:13:21,229 This does definitely tell me that maybe, going forward, 1979 01:13:21,380 --> 01:13:22,713 I should probably handle the seasoning, 1980 01:13:22,732 --> 01:13:25,141 Or at least we can work on our seasoning together. 1981 01:13:25,293 --> 01:13:27,960 Hey, this cajun-- this is cajun shrimp scampi. 1982 01:13:27,979 --> 01:13:29,462 [bleep], like-- 1983 01:13:29,480 --> 01:13:31,964 [upbeat music] 1984 01:13:32,057 --> 01:13:33,799 Okay, you want to taste this? 1985 01:13:33,818 --> 01:13:35,893 - This is our first meal that we've ever cooked before. 1986 01:13:35,987 --> 01:13:37,470 - You want me to give a speech? - I can give a speech. 1987 01:13:37,488 --> 01:13:38,395 - You give a speech. - Okay. 1988 01:13:38,415 --> 01:13:41,641 - Make it quick. I'm hungry. 1989 01:13:41,659 --> 01:13:42,566 [chuckles] okay, all right, go ahead. 1990 01:13:42,585 --> 01:13:44,660 - Bruh. - [laughs] 1991 01:13:44,754 --> 01:13:48,147 - So I see how we operate in the kitchen together, 1992 01:13:48,240 --> 01:13:50,499 Our strengths and our weaknesses 1993 01:13:50,593 --> 01:13:55,096 On both ends, but I'm really excited to eat this. 1994 01:13:55,323 --> 01:13:56,431 - I agreed. Like, this is definitely fun. 1995 01:13:56,582 --> 01:13:57,990 And I see how you season things, 1996 01:13:58,009 --> 01:13:59,249 So I think we need to work on that, for sure. 1997 01:13:59,269 --> 01:14:00,843 That's one of your weaknesses. 1998 01:14:00,937 --> 01:14:03,086 - ♪ why you hiding out in plain sight? ♪ 1999 01:14:03,106 --> 01:14:04,513 - [laughs] no. 2000 01:14:04,666 --> 01:14:05,773 - ♪ in plain sight ♪ 2001 01:14:06,000 --> 01:14:08,167 - The future is looking brighter. 2002 01:14:08,186 --> 01:14:11,003 The end goal of this is that we stay married, right? 2003 01:14:11,096 --> 01:14:15,283 I will say every day is a step, 2004 01:14:15,434 --> 01:14:16,951 But the steps that we are taking 2005 01:14:17,102 --> 01:14:18,844 Are very, very good. 2006 01:14:18,863 --> 01:14:20,788 So I think this is very good. 2007 01:14:20,940 --> 01:14:22,364 This is very good for our relationship. 2008 01:14:22,459 --> 01:14:24,942 ♪ ♪ 2009 01:14:24,961 --> 01:14:27,110 - This is actually very spicy. - [chuckles] 2010 01:14:27,130 --> 01:14:28,278 - You laughing, but, like, it's like, 2011 01:14:28,372 --> 01:14:29,705 What the hell I'm eating? 2012 01:14:29,857 --> 01:14:31,373 - Bro, and I literally do not taste that spice. 2013 01:14:31,526 --> 01:14:32,633 I don't know what you're tasting. 2014 01:14:32,860 --> 01:14:34,135 - Michaela. 2015 01:14:34,362 --> 01:14:35,953 - I swear to god, I'm not there with you. 2016 01:14:35,972 --> 01:14:37,805 - How do you not taste the spiciness? 2017 01:14:38,032 --> 01:14:40,475 - So, I don't taste the spicy--I don't-- 2018 01:14:40,626 --> 01:14:42,143 [laughter] 2019 01:14:42,294 --> 01:14:43,311 - I don't-- [laughs] 2020 01:14:43,462 --> 01:14:45,480 [laughter] 2021 01:14:45,631 --> 01:14:47,815 - Oh, yeah, yeah, bet. Yeah, yeah, you don't taste it. 2022 01:14:47,967 --> 01:14:49,208 I get you. Yeah, for sure, for sure. 2023 01:14:49,227 --> 01:14:52,061 [quirky music] 2024 01:14:52,155 --> 01:14:53,470 ♪ ♪ 2025 01:14:53,490 --> 01:14:54,822 - First of all, 2026 01:14:54,974 --> 01:14:56,382 Water doesn't help with spiciness. 2027 01:14:56,475 --> 01:14:59,309 You drink some milk. - I hate milk, no. 2028 01:14:59,329 --> 01:15:00,402 [upbeat music] 2029 01:15:00,555 --> 01:15:01,645 - ♪ set the city on fire ♪ 2030 01:15:01,739 --> 01:15:04,056 ♪ light it up, up ♪ 2031 01:15:04,075 --> 01:15:07,059 ♪ set the city on fire, light it all up ♪ 2032 01:15:07,078 --> 01:15:10,396 ♪ ♪ 2033 01:15:10,414 --> 01:15:11,914 - Hi. What is this? 2034 01:15:12,066 --> 01:15:14,400 - Got a date night for you. 2035 01:15:14,493 --> 01:15:17,160 - Aw, awesome. What did you get up to? 2036 01:15:17,180 --> 01:15:18,829 [gasps] - come on. 2037 01:15:18,923 --> 01:15:21,757 - Sweet. - This is yours. 2038 01:15:21,909 --> 01:15:23,926 ♪ ♪ 2039 01:15:24,020 --> 01:15:25,353 [laughter] 2040 01:15:25,504 --> 01:15:26,912 - Awesome. 2041 01:15:26,931 --> 01:15:30,507 - The reason why we're doing a art night, 2042 01:15:30,527 --> 01:15:33,769 There has been a occurrence in our past 2043 01:15:33,921 --> 01:15:35,530 That I feel like I need to rectify. 2044 01:15:35,681 --> 01:15:37,514 - Do you not remember? 2045 01:15:37,534 --> 01:15:40,426 I know I still have-- I still have it on my phone. 2046 01:15:40,444 --> 01:15:42,537 "there's a new museum of fine arts." 2047 01:15:42,764 --> 01:15:44,705 And then I said, "I have dual membership, 2048 01:15:44,932 --> 01:15:46,432 "but have trouble finding people interested 2049 01:15:46,525 --> 01:15:48,042 In going to these things, so I went solo." 2050 01:15:48,193 --> 01:15:49,769 - I would totally go. 2051 01:15:49,787 --> 01:15:52,195 - And you said, "ha ha, I'd come with you." 2052 01:15:52,215 --> 01:15:54,790 And then you ghosted me. There's no response after that. 2053 01:15:54,942 --> 01:15:56,609 - There is no way that is accurate. 2054 01:15:56,627 --> 01:15:58,778 - You did not message me. 2055 01:15:58,871 --> 01:16:00,946 - It's something I'm not proud of, 2056 01:16:00,965 --> 01:16:04,116 And so, tonight, I would love to create 2057 01:16:04,209 --> 01:16:07,453 Our own little art exhibit here. 2058 01:16:07,471 --> 01:16:10,472 - I'm very surprised and pleased 2059 01:16:10,567 --> 01:16:13,067 Johnny came through with a redemption date. 2060 01:16:13,294 --> 01:16:14,235 - I feel like this will help the creativity flow. 2061 01:16:14,462 --> 01:16:16,312 - I think so. - Cheers to being artists. 2062 01:16:16,406 --> 01:16:18,480 - It's crazy. 2063 01:16:18,633 --> 01:16:22,392 Like, I'm married to my longstanding crush, 2064 01:16:22,486 --> 01:16:24,653 Actually, who ghosted me. 2065 01:16:24,747 --> 01:16:28,474 ♪ ♪ 2066 01:16:28,492 --> 01:16:30,476 - So far, I think we're matching pretty well. 2067 01:16:30,494 --> 01:16:31,660 - We're matching. 2068 01:16:31,813 --> 01:16:35,256 ♪ ♪ 2069 01:16:35,483 --> 01:16:38,926 You started the sun. - My sun is fatter. 2070 01:16:39,153 --> 01:16:41,320 - Are you channeling your bob ross? 2071 01:16:41,413 --> 01:16:44,432 - Yeah. - Oh, no, this is black. 2072 01:16:44,583 --> 01:16:47,009 You got me distracted, and I dipped into the black instead. 2073 01:16:47,161 --> 01:16:48,677 [laughs] 2074 01:16:48,830 --> 01:16:50,512 - That's okay. It doesn't have to be perfect. 2075 01:16:50,607 --> 01:16:53,566 - This is gonna be too dark. This is too dark. 2076 01:16:56,003 --> 01:16:57,094 Hmm. 2077 01:16:57,188 --> 01:16:58,687 [soft dramatic music] 2078 01:16:58,781 --> 01:17:01,357 More sand. 2079 01:17:01,509 --> 01:17:03,859 - Ugh. 2080 01:17:04,011 --> 01:17:05,453 Like, "bao, please relax." 2081 01:17:05,604 --> 01:17:10,124 Just... I don't know. 2082 01:17:10,275 --> 01:17:13,610 Got the lights flickering, got the prosecco flowing, 2083 01:17:13,704 --> 01:17:16,355 And it's discouraging when we have an opportunity like this. 2084 01:17:16,374 --> 01:17:17,690 I made a liquor run earlier. 2085 01:17:17,708 --> 01:17:19,634 There's extra bottles of champagne. 2086 01:17:19,861 --> 01:17:21,877 - Let me just try to figure this out, yeah. 2087 01:17:22,029 --> 01:17:23,545 ♪ ♪ 2088 01:17:23,640 --> 01:17:26,215 - She is still focused on painting it right. 2089 01:17:26,367 --> 01:17:27,549 ♪ ♪ 2090 01:17:27,702 --> 01:17:30,202 - Sad gray. Mm. 2091 01:17:30,221 --> 01:17:32,705 ♪ ♪ 2092 01:17:32,798 --> 01:17:35,057 - And we're not doing any flirtation. 2093 01:17:35,209 --> 01:17:36,892 There's no tension being built. 2094 01:17:37,044 --> 01:17:38,711 I'm just gonna wing it. 2095 01:17:38,729 --> 01:17:41,138 - No, don't do that. Oh, no. 2096 01:17:41,157 --> 01:17:43,807 - It has been winged. - Yours is too high. 2097 01:17:43,826 --> 01:17:47,403 - It just feels very... Task-oriented. 2098 01:17:47,555 --> 01:17:48,829 ♪ ♪ 2099 01:17:48,981 --> 01:17:50,647 Strictly business. 2100 01:17:50,741 --> 01:17:55,318 - Oh, shoot, oh, shoot. I need to get mine higher up. 2101 01:17:55,338 --> 01:17:57,487 Oh, no, it's too high. 2102 01:17:57,581 --> 01:17:58,914 - There's beauty in imperfection. 2103 01:17:59,066 --> 01:18:00,065 - No, there is not! 2104 01:18:00,084 --> 01:18:01,750 ♪ ♪ 2105 01:18:01,844 --> 01:18:04,570 - It's the same old bao. 2106 01:18:04,588 --> 01:18:08,908 But after two successful nights, 2107 01:18:08,926 --> 01:18:12,594 And romance coming from both of them, 2108 01:18:12,689 --> 01:18:15,356 Intimacy in the bedroom, 2109 01:18:15,507 --> 01:18:18,751 Fireworks, I'm gonna give it my all 2110 01:18:18,844 --> 01:18:22,530 Because anything feels possible. 2111 01:18:22,757 --> 01:18:24,514 - I've never done anything like this. 2112 01:18:24,534 --> 01:18:26,091 That is so cool. 2113 01:18:26,110 --> 01:18:28,369 - How's it look? - Not bad. 2114 01:18:28,520 --> 01:18:30,871 We made a masterpiece. 2115 01:18:31,023 --> 01:18:34,858 Just ignore that there's, like, a little mess up there. 2116 01:18:34,877 --> 01:18:39,880 [tender music] 2117 01:18:40,107 --> 01:18:43,609 ♪ ♪ 2118 01:18:43,627 --> 01:18:45,886 - ♪ I want to run ♪ 2119 01:18:46,113 --> 01:18:48,130 - Aw. 2120 01:18:48,282 --> 01:18:49,949 - Cute. 2121 01:18:49,967 --> 01:18:52,209 - The pink one matches my coat. - I like it. 2122 01:18:52,303 --> 01:18:54,119 So you've been here before? 2123 01:18:54,138 --> 01:18:55,804 - The first time that I came here 2124 01:18:55,898 --> 01:18:59,734 Was because this blogger that I follow posted her, 2125 01:18:59,961 --> 01:19:01,402 Like, taking a little selfie with a drink 2126 01:19:01,629 --> 01:19:03,979 Called chanel number 6, and I was like, 2127 01:19:04,073 --> 01:19:05,481 "oh, my god, I have to go there and have that drink." 2128 01:19:05,575 --> 01:19:07,074 - Just 'cause of the name. - Just 'cause of the drink. 2129 01:19:07,226 --> 01:19:08,743 - If it had a different name, would you get it? 2130 01:19:08,970 --> 01:19:10,411 - No. 2131 01:19:10,638 --> 01:19:11,804 - If it was called, like-- - I like fancy drinks. 2132 01:19:11,897 --> 01:19:13,080 - Was it-- - I like pretty drinks. 2133 01:19:13,307 --> 01:19:14,749 - What about if it was the same drink, but it was 2134 01:19:14,900 --> 01:19:18,160 Called knockoff number 4? - No. 2135 01:19:18,254 --> 01:19:19,661 - Man, you know how good that drink sounds--the knockoff? 2136 01:19:19,756 --> 01:19:20,829 - Have you--? No. 2137 01:19:20,923 --> 01:19:22,498 - "let me get two knockoffs." 2138 01:19:22,592 --> 01:19:24,741 - Who would--nobody would even name a drink knockoff, 2139 01:19:24,761 --> 01:19:26,594 First of all, husband. 2140 01:19:28,839 --> 01:19:31,173 Before I was married at first sight, 2141 01:19:31,267 --> 01:19:35,252 I always envisioned bringing my husband to a spot like this 2142 01:19:35,346 --> 01:19:37,271 Because I love to dress up, 2143 01:19:37,498 --> 01:19:39,348 And it's a really nice spot to come out 2144 01:19:39,442 --> 01:19:41,108 And, like, look cute together. 2145 01:19:41,335 --> 01:19:43,669 ♪ ♪ 2146 01:19:43,762 --> 01:19:45,020 Wait, you have to do a boomerang. 2147 01:19:45,172 --> 01:19:46,614 - What is the-- you and these boomerangs. 2148 01:19:46,841 --> 01:19:49,174 - I love boomerangs. We're gonna do it like this. 2149 01:19:49,268 --> 01:19:51,786 We're gonna cheers our dinner date. 2150 01:19:52,013 --> 01:19:53,695 - I'm all about cheering, but this boomerang stuff. 2151 01:19:53,790 --> 01:19:55,514 - But you have to smile 'cause you're gonna come out. 2152 01:19:55,533 --> 01:19:57,625 I just want to have a companion 2153 01:19:57,852 --> 01:20:00,202 To explore the city with and enjoy the city with, 2154 01:20:00,296 --> 01:20:03,113 So I feel really good. 2155 01:20:03,207 --> 01:20:05,357 So you would come to a spot like this? 2156 01:20:05,376 --> 01:20:06,859 Like, if I want to have dinner somewhere, 2157 01:20:06,952 --> 01:20:08,803 We could come to spots like this. 2158 01:20:08,954 --> 01:20:11,046 - Yes. Just depends on-- 2159 01:20:11,198 --> 01:20:12,531 - Why is it such a slow yes? 2160 01:20:12,624 --> 01:20:14,124 - Because it depends on how often. 2161 01:20:14,143 --> 01:20:16,051 I like the spot, 2162 01:20:16,145 --> 01:20:19,146 But this is way too bougie for my tastes. 2163 01:20:19,373 --> 01:20:20,873 - Really? - Yeah. 2164 01:20:20,891 --> 01:20:22,224 Like, I'm not a big fan of eating out. 2165 01:20:22,376 --> 01:20:25,820 ♪ ♪ 2166 01:20:26,047 --> 01:20:26,895 - You're not gonna take your wife on dates? 2167 01:20:27,048 --> 01:20:28,230 ♪ ♪ 2168 01:20:28,324 --> 01:20:29,639 Like, brunch. 2169 01:20:29,659 --> 01:20:32,827 I love to do brunch on the weekends. 2170 01:20:33,054 --> 01:20:34,811 - So you want to go to brunch every week, 2171 01:20:34,831 --> 01:20:37,480 And you want to have a dinner date... 2172 01:20:37,500 --> 01:20:38,648 - Twice a month. 2173 01:20:38,742 --> 01:20:42,152 - Twice a month. That's a lot. 2174 01:20:42,246 --> 01:20:44,246 [soft dramatic music] 2175 01:20:44,398 --> 01:20:46,340 - Remember there was a question that the experts gave us. 2176 01:20:46,567 --> 01:20:48,325 - Yes. 2177 01:20:48,344 --> 01:20:49,418 - I think it's like, "what do you need for your--" 2178 01:20:49,570 --> 01:20:51,236 - Significant other, your spouse? 2179 01:20:51,255 --> 01:20:53,663 - What do I need from you to, like--to make the choice 2180 01:20:53,757 --> 01:20:55,741 To, like, love someone? 2181 01:20:55,834 --> 01:20:57,576 So, for me, I would definitely 2182 01:20:57,669 --> 01:20:59,854 Want you to be my brunch husband. 2183 01:21:00,081 --> 01:21:01,338 ♪ ♪ 2184 01:21:01,432 --> 01:21:03,673 - Your brunch husband? - Yes. 2185 01:21:03,767 --> 01:21:06,009 For me, that's what I want. 2186 01:21:06,103 --> 01:21:08,420 - My quality time is different. 2187 01:21:08,439 --> 01:21:11,365 It's not about going out to dinners and stuff. 2188 01:21:11,592 --> 01:21:13,683 Like, I'm okay with going out here and there, 2189 01:21:13,777 --> 01:21:15,444 But I'd rather cook my food. 2190 01:21:15,596 --> 01:21:17,687 ♪ ♪ 2191 01:21:17,781 --> 01:21:19,598 Why did you pick this restaurant? 2192 01:21:19,617 --> 01:21:23,118 ♪ ♪ 2193 01:21:23,212 --> 01:21:26,046 - 'cause I had been here once, and they had a pretty drink. 2194 01:21:26,273 --> 01:21:29,032 - Did you think-- did it ever cross your mind 2195 01:21:29,126 --> 01:21:30,459 "he probably wouldn't like it"? 2196 01:21:30,611 --> 01:21:34,371 ♪ ♪ 2197 01:21:34,390 --> 01:21:37,374 Because, for me to keep going 2198 01:21:37,393 --> 01:21:39,301 In the path that we're going, 2199 01:21:39,395 --> 01:21:41,286 I need consistency 2200 01:21:41,380 --> 01:21:45,232 And just feeling wanted... 2201 01:21:45,459 --> 01:21:46,734 ♪ ♪ 2202 01:21:46,961 --> 01:21:49,294 Not feeling like you just want to be married 2203 01:21:49,388 --> 01:21:50,738 Because of the thought of being married. 2204 01:21:50,965 --> 01:21:52,222 ♪ ♪ 2205 01:21:52,241 --> 01:21:55,317 We're aiming for love. 2206 01:21:55,469 --> 01:21:57,152 You know, like, I don't want 2207 01:21:57,304 --> 01:21:58,746 To just be another-- 2208 01:21:58,897 --> 01:22:00,563 If I was just a silhouette here, 2209 01:22:00,658 --> 01:22:02,491 I don't want you to just be happy 2210 01:22:02,643 --> 01:22:03,992 Just 'cause you got a ring on your finger 2211 01:22:04,145 --> 01:22:05,310 And that silhouette has a ring on their finger. 2212 01:22:05,329 --> 01:22:07,237 ♪ ♪ 2213 01:22:07,331 --> 01:22:08,905 I want to know-- I want to feel wanted. 2214 01:22:08,925 --> 01:22:10,649 That's basically what I want. 2215 01:22:10,668 --> 01:22:13,502 ♪ ♪ 2216 01:22:13,596 --> 01:22:15,095 I don't want my wife 2217 01:22:15,322 --> 01:22:18,674 To just want to be married to any brunch partner. 2218 01:22:18,826 --> 01:22:20,676 I want to know that she really, 2219 01:22:20,828 --> 01:22:22,919 Truly wants to be with me because of who I am. 2220 01:22:23,013 --> 01:22:25,681 Right now, I'm a little unsure. 2221 01:22:25,833 --> 01:22:26,923 I mean, if this is what you really want, 2222 01:22:26,943 --> 01:22:28,091 Then show me this is what you really want. 2223 01:22:28,185 --> 01:22:30,945 [dramatic music] 2224 01:22:31,172 --> 01:22:33,447 ♪ ♪ 2225 01:22:33,674 --> 01:22:36,116 - I really want you to have brunch with me. 2226 01:22:36,343 --> 01:22:42,181 ♪ ♪ 2227 01:22:42,199 --> 01:22:44,124 [upbeat music] 2228 01:22:44,276 --> 01:22:45,867 - [laughs] 2229 01:22:45,962 --> 01:22:47,777 - Next time on "married at first sight"... 2230 01:22:47,797 --> 01:22:49,688 - Oh, heck yeah! 2231 01:22:49,707 --> 01:22:52,691 - With only five weeks left until decision day, 2232 01:22:52,784 --> 01:22:54,209 Our couples find that their trust 2233 01:22:54,361 --> 01:22:56,136 And boundaries are being pushed to the test. 2234 01:22:56,288 --> 01:22:57,379 - You should just be like, 2235 01:22:57,531 --> 01:22:59,214 "no, I'm not gonna divorce her." 2236 01:22:59,308 --> 01:23:01,883 - No, I still feel like I will ask for the divorce. 2237 01:23:01,978 --> 01:23:03,535 [dramatic music] 2238 01:23:03,554 --> 01:23:05,204 - What are you thinking over there? 2239 01:23:05,297 --> 01:23:06,705 - There's something not there. 2240 01:23:06,724 --> 01:23:08,649 ♪ ♪ 2241 01:23:08,876 --> 01:23:09,799 - I'm tired of that. 2242 01:23:09,893 --> 01:23:12,211 Stop, stop. I can't--[bleep]. 2243 01:23:12,229 --> 01:23:13,636 ♪ ♪ 2244 01:23:13,656 --> 01:23:15,881 - I did want to tell you about my infidelity. 2245 01:23:15,899 --> 01:23:18,158 ♪ ♪ 2246 01:23:18,385 --> 01:23:21,737 - Rachel, uh, calls me by another man's name. 2247 01:23:21,831 --> 01:23:24,406 - I cannot be your wife. 2248 01:23:24,500 --> 01:23:26,834 To getting locked out! 2249 01:23:26,985 --> 01:23:29,077 I do not love him anymore. 2250 01:23:29,230 --> 01:23:31,922 ♪ ♪