- Breathe.
It's very risky to get married at first sight.
- ♪ I'm getting married ♪
- I've never been in love, but I'm ready
To be in love with this woman.
- Please stand.
♪ ♪
- Almost two weeks ago... - Hi, husband!
- Ten singles took a brave leap of faith
In order to find love.
- Nice to meet you, my soon-to-be wife.
- They married as complete strangers.
- You may kiss your bride.
[cheers and applause]
- I am married!
It feels great to say that.
♪ ♪
- Hi! - Home, sweet home.
- Last time, our couples moved in together as newlyweds.
♪ ♪
- I have a crush on him.
- What about you, ryan? Are you in like?
- I think we can get past that.
- Do get past what?
- He can see past the liking. - Past the liking.
- Like, we can get to, you know, love.
- That thing. - That thing.
- Have you guys consummated your marriage?
Both: Yeah.
- I'm glad you guys decided, "you know what, we're married."
- It's scary, because could this really happen this fast?
- Don't put on the brakes.
I mean, you want to have some brake pads.
[laughter]
- Zack, he left without informing me.
♪ ♪
- You leaving without her knowing it,
You see how that could have stirred up something?
- I promise you, like, you know, I have your back.
Whatever you need, like, I'll be there for you.
♪ ♪
- You get happy and excited,
You get very giddy, almost like a little kid.
I personally don't find it attractive.
- This is not bao's issue. - It is not. I agree.
- This is johnny's issue.
- I asked her straight up-- I was like,
"do you think you could go from now until decision day
Without giving me a kiss?"
She said, "probably." I will be 100% real with you.
If that happens, I'm going to ask for the divorce.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I wanna party tonight ♪
- Honey, I'm home.
- Tonight, with only six more weeks until decision day...
- Oh, that's so cute.
- I like it because you can hang it.
- Our couples start easing into domestic life together.
- How much you spend on groceries?
- I don't know.
- How do you now know that? - I don't have a budget.
- And... - Congratulations again.
- We'll finally get to see their friends and family
For the first time since their wedding.
All: Cheers.
I hope it's a book on relationships.
- It is a book on relationships.
- [laughs]
- "she comes first:
The thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman."
- I insist that he reads it.
- She may see a lot of stuff on, you know, social media,
And "I want this," and "I want this,"
And you want to keep up with the joneses,
And blah, blah, blah.
Our money's [bleep] going to waste.
- For me, personally, it's something
That I'm gonna have trouble dealing with
If, like, those outbursts keep happening.
- Had I known, like, then maybe I wouldn't have done it,
But [bleep], who knows if I would have done it still?
I didn't know that.
- We all thought we'd be having
Some type of differences in the beginning.
- Sure. - Yeah.
- But you gotta try. - Yeah.
- You know, you can't just say it's not gonna work.
- Maybe I came into this not being ready to be married,
And now she's married to me,
And now she's [bleep], because I'm [bleep].
♪ ♪
- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- This is "married at first sight."
- ♪ there's no other way ♪
♪ ♪
♪ it's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ when I'm waking up in the morning ♪
- ♪ hey now, hey now ♪
- ♪ I'm waking up in the morning ♪
♪ when I'm waking up in the morning ♪
- ♪ hey now, hey now ♪
- ♪ waking up in the morning ♪
♪ when I'm waking up in the morning ♪
- [whispering] so I'm being a little quiet
Because I wake up a lot earlier than my husband.
I now have to go to the gym in the mornings
Because I want to spend the afternoons with my husband.
- I'm not a morning person. - I know.
Johnny has to leave sooner.
- Very soon.
- So he needs to get out of bed now.
- Oh, god. - Like, right now.
Aw.
See? He's trying, y'all.
- We're getting some dog love right now.
- Yeah.
- We had to kind of separate them
So we could sleep last night.
- Our couples have been married for nearly two weeks.
- Hey, beautiful.
- I think my husband is stalking me
Because he popped up and surprised me
And, like, pulled up to the street.
- But now a new test begins as they begin to settle in
To their daily lives as husbands and wives.
- What's happening?
- To transition from single to married
May be easier for some than others.
But they're going to have to dig deeper,
Because in just over six weeks, our couples will have to decide
Whether they want to stay married or get a divorce.
♪ ♪
- ♪ you bring sunshine on rainy days ♪
♪ ♪
- Oh, it smells so good.
- I smell the-- do you smell the roses?
I smell the roses.
- I literally smell the roses. - Okay.
- Oh, it's so nice. Let's check these out.
- We have a housewarming party coming up,
And I want these plants that we choose today
To be a reflection of who we are as a married couple now.
Hopefully, we can water them together and kind of
Watch them blossom and grow, much like the marriage.
- Aw, that's so cute.
- I like it because you can hang it.
I'm actually looking forward
To selecting what I think is best for our garden.
I think she has ideas as well, too,
So I think we'll probably meet in the middle.
- Let's see what they have.
- I thought either, like, cilantro or, like, chiles.
- Yeah.
- 'cause then we could make, like, salsa
For, like, our guests that come over.
- So of course, jose had a plan of what we wanted.
Herbs for cooking.
What is this? - What is that?
- I don't know.
It's, like-- it's, like, this one.
- Maybe we keep looking.
- Oh, here's thyme.
Do you ever use that, like, on the salmon or chicken?
- We could. - Here's a maybe.
- But the texture's kind of crazy to me.
- Okay. Let me see. Okay, here we have kale.
Do you eat kale?
- How about buttered--look.
- Want to really try lettuce?
- Why not? - Okay. Let's do it.
- You want to? - I guess so. This one, maybe?
- Okay, that one looks okay. Yeah.
- Oh my god, it smells...
- It does. - Like real lettuce.
- Smells like--well, honey, it is real lettuce.
- I wouldn't say he's controlling.
He just likes doing things his way
Because he's planned it out.
And he's more of the master in the kitchen,
So I totally have no arguments on which plants to get.
- Does that look good? - Let me see.
- Does that look good? - Ah, it looks perfect.
- Does that look good? - I think it's perfect.
I think this is a really good step of, you know,
Keeping something alive, you know, before getting a pet.
- Are you gonna water it every day?
- I'm gonna set an alarm... - Yeah, I knew you were gonna--
- To make sure I water it every day.
- I knew you would. - Yeah, so I don't forget.
Someone gave me a succulent,
The easiest thing to take care of.
- Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Uh-huh.
- And it died on me.
- This is definitely gonna be an adventure, for sure.
- But you know what, I think this--
Because this plant--
These plants are more meaningful, and it's ours,
I will definitely take much, much better care of it.
- Are you sure? Do you promise?
- I promise.
[both laugh]
♪ ♪
- Mr. Freeman. It's been a minute, man.
- I know, I know.
My relationship with michaela, you know,
There's still some issues we need to work on,
And it hasn't been easy.
My energy has definitely kind of changed,
And I love hanging out with jeron always,
So it's good to kind of have him come to my new apartment
And to give me his advice.
- How has things been? How's the married life?
- Yeah, man, I mean,
It's been a very unique experience, man.
There's been highs and lows already.
- Could imagine.
- Everything was great initially, but, like, now,
Over the past couple days,
Like, I've seen some, like, red flags.
And so, I'm definitely nervous.
My biggest issue right now is,
I think the way michaela handles things
Is not something I'm accustomed to.
Like, so the first night we kind of came here,
It was definitely pretty hectic.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
So I woke up the next day, took bella to daycare.
It was 7:00 a.M., and she made it very clear to me
That she does not like being woken up.
- Zack?
- So, at the time, though, I didn't realize
That she was actually mad that
I just left without saying anything.
♪ ♪
And then apparently, she just, like,
Moves out of the whole place.
♪ ♪
Yeah, so, you know, after we met with pastor cal,
She left, and then we had a conversation on the phone,
You know, reconciling,
You know, our differences for that whole day, right?
So we talked about what happened
Throughout the whole day,
And, you know, how can we be better.
And I thought that conversation--
I thought that conversation went well.
And then she texted me, like, an hour later saying,
Like, "I'm not doing the housewarming.
My friends are not coming. I'm not doing it."
And I'm just like, "okay."
Like, that--I can't do this because, like, it's--
That's not how I handle stuff.
- I guess my take on it is,
Look, so, obviously, she's confrontational,
You're not a confrontational person,
But whenever you try to join, you know, two folks,
Whether they know each other, whether they're strangers,
There's going to be conflicts in that relationship.
That's just inherent... - Yeah.
- In joining two different people
From two different perspectives.
You know, reality doesn't always meet your expectations,
And I can tell you zack definitely has these,
You know, fairy-tale expectations.
But in a real, healthy relationship, you know,
Sometimes you gotta be a little more realistic
And a little more patient.
And I think that that's something
He's starting to realize.
Hopefully, they can figure that out together.
- My thing is, jeron, it's like,
If it's this early on
With very minor situations--
- 'cause it's gonna be much more serious.
- I know. That's what I'm saying.
That's what--that's--now, that why I'm so nervous,
Because, like, the reason why my past relationships,
You know, haven't worked out was because of the way,
You know, my girlfriends were.
They were very confrontational,
And you way they handled, you know, conflict,
Was just something I don't, like, like.
It's just, the loud, boisterous,
Make a scene-type stuff.
I just--that's just not me, and, like,
That's something I want to get away from
'cause that's not good in any relationship.
- Do you think-- in your opinion,
Do you think it's something
That she could potentially get away from?
- You know, I hope so,
But you know-- but at the same time, though,
It shouldn't feel bad,
And I'm not gonna feel bad that I don't want that.
- Yeah.
- If it's gonna be like this, man, I'm not--
Like, I'm just not gonna be able to do it.
♪ ♪
- ♪ money, money ♪
♪ I just can't get enough ♪
♪ money, money ♪
♪ I just can't give it up ♪
- How about we start with budget?
Like, the things that we have to pay on a monthly basis.
- Okay. - Finances/budget.
So, like, I'm gonna start with rent
'cause we both have rent.
- Exactly. - That's easy.
- Car note. - Rent. Car.
- Finances tends to always be a touchy suspect with people,
No matter if you make a lot of money
Or you make less money.
Insurance. - Mm-hmm.
- And for me, I'm more particular
Where my money goes.
So when it comes down to finances with me and my wife,
We really need to sit down and talk
About how we're going to divvy up our money.
And we need to set goals.
And having clear communication on how we're gonna budget
And how we're gonna spend our money,
And where our money is going to now, you know,
Gives us a good, clear understanding
Of where we might have some holes.
Oh, bills. Like, light bill.
- Oh, yeah. - Yeah, right?
You pay for wi-fi? - Yes.
- How much you spend on groceries?
- I don't have a budget for that.
- [laughs] oh, you don't--
Don't you eat the same things--
Like, you don't know how much you spend?
150 for me. $150 every three weeks.
- I don't know.
I generally don't think that's that--
- How do you not know that?
- 60. 110. 230.
- 230? - 290.
$350 I spent in one month on groceries.
- I'm curious, how much do the lashes cost?
- Irrelevant.
♪ ♪
- What about your shopping?
- Well, my shopping isn't a monthly thing.
I don't shop every month. - Yeah, but--
- I shop two or three times a year.
- What's your budget on that? - I don't have a budget for it.
- It's just whatever the card approves.
- My card approves...
- Everything. - A whole lot.
But I pay off my credit card every month.
I don't carry debt.
- Okay.
- So I definitely have boundaries
That encompass finances and, you know,
How hard I've worried to get to the position where I am,
I definitely don't want these boundaries to be an issue,
And I think, if they were to be an issue,
Then that would just be very problematic for a relationship.
- Let's get to the good stuff.
Bank accounts.
That's just one face id away.
♪ ♪
- Here's mine.
♪ ♪
- Okay. That's a good savings.
That's--that's a legit savings.
My savings is enrolled with my 401(k).
Me and my wife are on
Completely different tax brackets.
You know, I don't think it's a red flag for me, personally,
Because I know-- what I bring to the table,
I know it's sufficient for us.
The savings that I had from working
Various amounts of jobs, that money is not here.
- Where is that? - Back home in colombia.
- But you still have a savings. - Yeah.
- Even if it's not here, it's a savings.
- Yeah, correct.
- Like, you have an emergency, you can pull that money, right?
- Correct.
So how much it would be here? Or how much I sent?
- Yeah, how much you sent?
- You want me to show you how much I sent?
Okay, 'cause over there it's, like, a lot more.
- Yeah, how much you sent to the savings?
- Okay, so I've sent, over there--savings.
♪ ♪
- Okay. That's how much you sent.
- That's how much I've sent... - Okay.
- Since I was 22.
♪ ♪
Started off really slow when I was 22, though.
It picked up, like--
- Your retirement is a little slow too.
- Yeah.
♪ ♪
- I want to just make sure it makes sense for me.
- So what I'm thinking about is for us to buy a home here,
We can't touch your savings account.
- Correct.
♪ ♪
- So we need to start from scratch.
- Correct. Correct.
♪ ♪
- We're gonna have to wait a while to get a home.
♪ ♪
- ♪ it's all about you ♪
♪ and I can't stop that feeling ♪
♪ it's all about you ♪
♪ and I just can't stop dreaming ♪
- So pretty.
- Look at this view, though.
- Pick a treadmill. We got a couple to choose from.
♪ ♪
- Whew.
You're gonna need a lot of working out
Now that you're married. - [laughs]
I'm hoping that I still have time for it.
That would probably be a little bit of an issue.
- [chuckles]
- From the marriage to the honeymoon to the moving in
And the dogs meeting each other,
It's been a lot of kind of high-stress stuff going on,
And it's something that I'm gonna--
It's gonna be on my mind daily.
It's not anything that I just turn off.
♪ ♪
Fernando, he's been in a serious relationship
For a long time, and he's a new dad,
So he's got a lot going
That I hope to have going for me in the near future.
- Well, how's it going? - Good.
- Still just as excited about the whole thing
As you were on day one?
- Yeah, I mean, it's been a lot easier
Than I anticipated it being.
Nothing's been forced. Like, conversation's been easy.
Everything's been as easy as it can be.
- Yeah?
- So.
- How's it going? - It's going real good.
- How was the honeymoon?
- The honeymoon was awesome. - Okay.
What was your--ah! Favorite part?
- I mean, it was just spending time with ryan.
Like, everything was--
- Was there, like, any activity, though?
- Yeah, yeah. We did--
- That, like, you really enjoyed?
- Spa.
- Ooh. Yes.
- You know I'm, like, a-- I'm, like, a relax
On vacation kind of person.
- That's the best way to be.
- We're definitely different.
- In what ways?
- The first thing I saw was, not a big traveler.
I mean, she was terrified on that plane.
She comes across as very high-stress, high-anxiety,
And that is a concern of mine. - Yeah.
- I'm the complete opposite of that.
I find myself being even more carefree
Just to try to make light of the situation...
- Right. - For her sake.
Outside of the plane, there was some kayak anxiety in the keys.
Manatee! He's right under you.
- I don't like it. - Look, look, look.
- I can't. I don't like it.
- At least, like, look at it. - I looked at it!
Not a fan, not a fan, not a fan.
- It's right by you. Look down. - I can't.
- Look!
- I can see it in my peripheral vision.
- We'll have to work on that.
- Would I have picked that activity?
No. - No.
- Did I do it? Yes. Would I do it again? Maybe.
- You'll do it if he wants you do it.
- That's what I said.
- Yeah, you wouldn't do it on your own.
- No. - No.
But if somebody who you care about
Really wants you to do it,
You'll force yourself, and you'll do it.
- That's why I did it.
- And you'll do it with a smile on your face.
- I did it.
- Have you guys been intimate yet?
- We have not.
I mean, we're affectionate, to an extent.
That was all comfortable and easy.
And we've stayed in the same bed every night.
- So do you feel as though the attraction's there?
How'd you like seeing him shirtless on the beach?
I don't know, I'm just saying, you get to--
- Keep telling him he's like an action figure.
♪ ♪
In a kayak, on a paddleboard,
On a beach--it's "baywatch," you know?
- ♪ I like your t-shirt ♪
♪ would you mind if I take it off? ♪
♪ ♪
- So attraction's there. - Yes.
- Do you think he--has he said, like, he feels the same way?
- Yeah. - Okay.
- Mm-hmm. - That's good.
- I don't think that's a problem.
- Attraction is there. - Yeah.
And for me, it's been growing.
- Mm-hmm? - A lot.
- It is growing, and I hope that does continue to grow.
- Wow.
- 'cause she's an attractive woman.
There's just, there's so many things to consider.
I mean, it's a huge, huge thing.
- Yeah. - Like, this is my marriage.
- Right.
- There's a lot of positives about it.
I'm seeing more and more positives every day.
Arms are gonna be useless tomorrow.
- Well, you'll look sexy for your new wife.
- ♪ so I'm following my heart now ♪
♪ deeper than I've done ♪
♪ it's probably gonna hurt when I hit the bottom ♪
♪ but maybe it'll be worth it ♪
- And we have all this space to ourselves.
- It's a nice place. - You like it?
- It is. - It's nice, huh?
Going into the marriage,
I already had so many positive thoughts about johnny,
And he expressed the same.
But because we're diving in deep so quickly,
I feel like now we're having to learn
That we're both not perfect and we have our flaws
And we have our boundaries that we need to establish.
So you know my husband, johnny lam.
It's just so weird to say, actually.
Like, every day I wake up and he's next to me,
And I turn over, and I'm like, "I'm married to johnny lam."
- That is crazy.
- It's just so bizarre, you know?
- Yeah. - Like--like, I know him.
He knows me.
- I was worried that, in your head, you thought,
"I'm gonna marry a stranger."
- Yeah. - And then you saw johnny.
And I was just like,
"she's gonna have a moment of, like,
'this is not what I signed up for.'"
- Honestly, though, as soon as I saw him...
- Yeah.
- It was a shock moment, and a moment of,
Like, "oh my god."
You know, everything I know of him just spun immediately,
And I had a moment of doubt.
Just that second was just, like, "johnny, the party boy.
"johnny, the frat guy. Johnny, the bro. Johnny"--
Like, a lot of negativity in that moment,
Just because it's, like, wait, my expectation was,
I would be matched with someone I don't know
That's the perfect match for me.
But everything that I know of him, some of it is great,
But there's some disconnect here in my head.
So it's just like, "wait."
But every step towards the altar, I started thinking,
"I get it. It makes sense."
I mean, I'm so introverted.
He's so outgoing and extroverted and friendly.
I'm guarded. He's open.
There's some things there that I'm like,
I see the complementary pieces of it.
And then, on the honeymoon,
When we started having disagreements,
And we both kind of reacted differently--
He's a little dismissive.
Like, he just doesn't take a lot of stuff seriously.
- I think there's a lot of pressure.
- Definitely.
- Because, when you spend so long not thinking about
Another person's perspective--
He's been alone for how many years now?
- Eight. - Eight years.
He hasn't really dated anybody for a long time.
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. - Nothing serious.
So even though he wants to try, like,
It takes a little bit of time to--
- Yeah. - To get used to that, right?
To not think so selfishly.
- There's sometimes a disconnect
Between what he says he wants
And what he actually, like, demonstrates, in a way.
Like, he'll tell me he's still in it, he's not giving up.
- Right.
- But I can see when he gets deflated,
And it affects our communication.
- I see. - You know? He just shuts down.
And just a couple days ago,
He told me that he needs time apart
Because he still needs to process.
And I was like, "why do you do that?
You know, you're married now. It should be different."
And johnny was like, "it was the reset that I needed."
I'm like, "I didn't need no [bleep] reset, okay?"
- Some guys just withdraw.
Like, it's not because--
It's not that they're not into it.
- Mm-hmm. - It's not like they're trying.
It's just that they need a little bit of time
Just to withdraw and get their thoughts into things.
But that doesn't mean he's not committed, right?
I mean, especially if you haven't been with somebody
For eight years, it's tough.
- I mean, overall, I still think
That we were matched for the right reasons.
- Yeah. - I'm still super optimistic.
I'm not the one ducking and running.
- You think, if anyone ducks and runs, it'll be johnny?
- It would be johnny. Yeah.
- ♪ oh, oh ♪
♪ when we get free ♪
♪ we're eternity ♪
♪ let's hold on forever ♪
- It's so good to see you.
- Oh, my god.
- It's been so long. - So long.
- What's up, fellas?
- What up, what up? - Missed you guys.
- Hey. Missed you too, bro. Glad to have you back.
- Missed you too. - What up, man?
- Zack.
- What up, man? Long time no see.
- Johnny boy. - I'm feeling good.
Being able to hang out with the guys,
I always feel like this is like war,
And these guys are in the trenches with me,
So I'm really glad that we can hang out
And just talk about where we're at.
- Open and honest. - Open and honest.
- Two weeks. - Yeah!
- Open and honest. Hey.
- Salud, salud, salud, salud. - Come on, man.
- Absolutely.
- So what are you guys doing for your housewarming?
- I'm latino, man. We're going pura fiesta, man.
- [scoffs] - so, yeah, bro.
Really excited about it. It's gonna be kind of cool.
So it's, like, a mexican theme.
- Nice. - Y'all know I love brunch.
- Yes. - Uh-huh.
- And so I'm ordering from lucille's.
- Wow! - Ooh.
- That's why she was in the gym with me this morning,
So she can eat this food.
- That's why I was in the gym,
So I can eat the freaking mac and cheese
And the freaking croissant french toast.
- We were thinking just island-themed,
Because it was--
Well, why not?
'cause we kind of went to an island a little bit,
The florida keys, kind of, sort of.
It was like, okay, let's do island--
- Bao, you stop right there. We did not go to the islands.
But okay.
- It's not hawaii, but it was island-y.
- You're gonna like my deal.
I got some boudin coming from lake charles.
- Okay. - Hey!
- I got some frozen daiquiris coming.
Some real frozen daiquiris.
- Hey, but do you got the crawfish coming, though?
- No crawfish. - Aw.
- I got the more impressive charcuterie board
You've ever seen coming.
- Yes! - Cool, cool.
- Tough question. - Yeah.
- Married life-- what you expected?
Different than what you expected?
- I think the expectations were far beyond what I expected
In regards to just the chemistry,
The connection and all-- you know, I mean,
We really can't, honestly, keep our hands off each other.
- I was literally-- I was gonna interject.
So you didn't see it,
But they can't keep their hands off each other.
- Yeah, if she was here, they would have already kissed
Maybe, like, ten times.
- ♪ what's my favorite word? ♪
♪ always ♪
♪ all-all-all-always ♪
♪ always, always ♪
- That's we're talking about. - Yeah!
- You guys haven't-- - he feeds her. He feeds her.
- I do.
- What? - Bro.
- I do, man! I do, man!
- Well, he feeds her against her will, I think, right?
[laughter]
- Talk to us. Are you okay? Is your husband here?
Like, what's going on?
- My husband is here. He's clear of covid.
We're getting through it.
You know, sickness-- through sickness and health.
- Yeah.
- We kind of got that [bleep], like, next day.
- They were like, "we're gonna test it.
Right now." - but we're still here.
So--but things are-- things are okay.
Zack and I had an epic fight.
You never came back.
- I came back here at, like, 9:15.
- [bleep]. Nope.
I was not gone at 9:15. You are goddamn lying.
- Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
- You are goddamn [bleep] lying.
- [bleep].
- But I don't want to share what's happening
With me and zack, because I'm still in it
And still trying to figure it out.
How are you guys doing? How's everything?
- I'm good. Yeah.
- It's been a tough week, an adjustment, for sure.
- I will say it's been a long, tough week.
Like, you know, just the adjusting of, like, the times.
- The schedules and stuff.
- And the new home and the no food in the fridge yet.
- I think, to me, it feels a little hotel-ish still.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- 'cause you don't have all your stuff.
- Not that home feeling yet. Yeah.
- So, like, the home feeling isn't there.
- But as far as, like,
Being with ryan in the apartment, that's great.
Like, that's, like, the whole point, right?
- Yeah. - Is to...
- That's probably been the easiest, at least for me.
- That's the easiest part for me too.
- No scary habits.
Nothing--you know, no red flags or anything for me.
- Well, not yet. - Not yet.
[laughter]
- What about you?
- I think she's cool as hell.
Like-- - yeah.
- But it's still kind of, like, a dating/friend thing.
- Correct.
- And that's something that we're gonna have to work on.
- That's--I mean, I think, we're, like--
We're around there too. - Yeah.
- Mainly with her, because, like,
I still haven't even got a kiss.
- Really? - Yeah.
- Oh, damn. - Not on the lips or nothing.
- Dang. - I mean, on the cheek.
- Does that bother you, though?
Like, how do you feel about that?
- Still--nah, it's not bothering me yet.
- He's lying. - I think eventually it will.
It will--it's like one of those ingrown hairs
That, it's small, it starts off a little bit.
- So at which point, though, are you like,
"okay, this is-- I can't do this anymore"?
- I don't know. - You know what I mean?
- I don't know. That's a good question.
- 'cause you're gonna reach that point.
- I am; I just don't know when it's gonna be.
- Yeah. - Like, right now, it's cool.
- Have you met with cal yet? - Yeah.
Yeah. And he was surprised. - Yeah.
- He was like, "man, not even a peck?"
- Yeah. - And he was--she was like--
- I bet he grilled her.
- Yeah, he got on her. He got on her. So we'll see.
I mean, we talking about a future, so obviously...
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- There's something there. - Yeah.
- It's just, whenever she comes around and is ready.
- You know that ryan lost five bucks to me.
- What?
- 'cause we had a bet about you and gil having a kiss.
And y'all didn't, so I won.
'cause I said, "no, she's not going to."
- Wait, have you? Still not?
- Taking it slow. - Wow.
- I could not imagine not having
Kissed my husband at this point.
It's, like, living with someone
And being with someone all the time,
It does accelerate the feelings for me.
Yay or nay on if you guys have consummated your marriage yet?
- Nay.
- I don't feel like that's public information.
[laughter]
- Michaela's gonna get mad at me for saying this,
But yeah, we obviously have been intimate.
- You've been back for two days!
Through covid and everything? In a bubble?
- It was pre-covid. - Golly!
- It was pre-covid. - Had hazmat suits on?
- You know, we just kind of connect.
- You're married, so nothing against it.
- Absolutely, man. - Yeah.
- Hey, that's awesome, brother. - Yeah. Yeah.
She gonna be mad at me when she sees this [bleep].
What about you, johnny?
- It feels like we're friendly right now.
- Yeah.
- Like, almost like I'm dating a friend.
- You feel like you're friend-zoned?
- Does she feel like she's friend-zoned?
- She brought that up, actually.
She feels like she is making advances,
And I'm not reciprocating.
But it's because I kind of feel a little friendly right now.
- Let's hit in, I guess, multiple areas real quick.
So, you're attracted to her, right?
Yes or no?
♪ ♪
- Somewhat. - Yeah.
- You know? - What?
Like, what does that mean? Like--
- It's just she's not-- she's not my type.
- And that's okay.
But you have some attraction to her.
- Yeah. - Okay.
- Like, physically, I'm attracted to her, right?
Like, she's got the body type I like.
You know, she's cute. - Yeah.
- But type-wise--okay, so, let's dig into that.
Like, what you mean by type? - My personality type.
Like, I'm drawn to, like, a certain type of personality.
- We're on the same-- I got your back.
We're on the-- - that makes sense.
And that's okay.
So have you talked to her about this?
'cause I've had a conversation with my wife.
Was like, am I the type of guy
She would she would normally date?
She said no.
And I said, "if I knew somebody that knew of you,
"and they told me about you,
There's no way in the world I'd ever talk to you."
I told her straight up like that.
- I'm in the same boat with you.
- I told her the same thing. But I'm happy with her.
I just feel like johnny might be so used to a certain type
That he doesn't understand that what's good for him, you know,
And what he needs in the long run.
The experts obviously set them up for a reason.
They might have seen something that he's missing,
And bao might be what he's missing.
But he doesn't see it right now.
♪ ♪
- I feel like he has some commitment issues.
Johnny defaults to a checklist. - Yeah.
- So you know, he--
The first little conflict, he decides to go,
"okay, you know, dismiss that person.
"swipe, you know, right on someone else.
You can just keep moving on to the next date."
But at which point do you stop?
And he said the reason why is because he has--in his mind,
He has a checklist of what he needs for a wife.
And so he thought this process--
You know, that he'd get
The perfect person, because we'd be
So better matched and get more of those checks.
But then, you know, oh, we get in an agreement, ooh,
That's not what was in the checklist.
- The checklist goes out the window
When you're matched and married,
Because at that point, it's just, you have to accept.
- Mm-hmm. Nobody's perfect. - Yeah.
- You're never gonna find a perfect marriage,
And you're never gonna find a perfect mate.
- Oh, my gosh, yeah.
- We match couples that we believe have the qualities
To build a successful relationship.
But that doesn't mean that we expect couples
To be a perfect match.
We expect that there will be differences and struggles
That the couples will need to navigate
Because it's overcoming
These differences and struggles
That helps create a foundation for a successful marriage.
- But--and that's why I kind of raised the flag of, okay,
Where do we see that the experts
Kind of matched us, right?
Yeah, there might be a little, okay, give and take.
- Yeah.
- But that's in everything, right?
But you can grow together and break those boundaries.
But it's gonna take some time, though.
- You gotta be willing to be patient.
- That's it. - That's what you get.
- But see--but listen to us talk about this, though.
But what if it just doesn't work?
Like, you know what I mean? What if, like--
- No. It can.
You're right, that can be-- that can be the answer.
And always, it doesn't work. - Yeah.
I understand this is very hard,
Because I'm going through the same thing.
You know, he's kind of going through some inner turmoil.
But he's trying. He's willing.
And so the fact that he's open and honest about, you know,
His true feelings about his wife,
I really respect that, and I honestly love that.
- We all came into this with the same intentions--
Making this work.
We all thought we'd be having
Some type of differences in the beginning.
- Sure. - Yeah.
- But you gotta try. - Yeah.
- You know, you can't just say it's not gonna work.
- I thought I was ready when I agreed to get married.
But maybe I wasn't ready.
♪ ♪
That's hard to say.
♪ ♪
And now I'm married to bao. [laughs]
♪ ♪
And maybe I came into this not being ready to be married,
And now she's married to me.
And now she's [bleep]. [laughs]
Because I'm [bleep]. [laughs]
♪ ♪
- Hey, buddy, you good? - No.
- What's wrong, man? [indistinct]
What's wrong? You all right? Let's roll through it.
We all signed up for the same thing.
We're all here together.
Dude, you have my support, man. I understand.
Hey, cameras and everything can get overwhelming.
I get it, man.
Dude, we're in it for the same reason.
♪ ♪
- Are my expectations too high
For what I'm wanting out of this?
Are they unrealistic?
♪ ♪
Did I sign up for this to find, like, my perfect wife?
♪ ♪
And because she's not perfect, I'm kind of--like, I'm out?
♪ ♪
Whew. Hold on.
♪ ♪
[bleep]. [bleep].
♪ ♪
[sighs]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
- What up, buddy? I know you hungry.
You been good?
Honey, I'm home.
- He almost came into the room right now.
- But he didn't. - And he slobbered on me.
- But did he come into the room?
- Well, no, I had to stop him.
- As long as you stopped him.
- But he's slobbering on the floor.
I just thought you should know. - Oh, okay.
I'll try to come up with a mechanism
So he doesn't slobber.
So what's up?
How was--how was-- [gasps]
How was your--?
- I know you're not that excited, hush.
- I'm excited, 'cause ours was--ooh, ours was good.
- Really? I think ours was good.
- Yeah? - Like, it was fun.
'cause you know we love to be--like, girls are girls.
We love to be with the girls. - What did y'all talk about?
- And we haven't really had an opportunity.
- Did y'all-did y'all get--? - We talked about--
- Don't sugarcoat it. - We didn't do--
- Let's get to the deep stuff.
- We didn't get, like, details, details,
'cause, like, there's five of us.
Like, there's-- - okay.
- We could be there for 24 hours.
- No, I know. Okay.
So johnny and bao are having issues.
- Okay.
- A question we all asked each other was,
"are you attracted to your wife?"
We all asked everybody.
He said--it took johnny a long time.
He said, "somewhat."
And I was like, "no, no, no, no, no, no.
That's not an answer."
I was like, "I need a yes or a no."
Because I told him--I was like,
You can be physically attracted to somebody,
You can be emotionally attracted to somebody,
You can be spiritually attracted to somebody.
So I was like, "you gotta be happy.
Like, you can't settle.
- In life. - And just, you can't settle."
And so you know, how johnny was talking,
He sounded like he was settling.
Like, it seemed like he wasn't happy.
♪ ♪
You know, I like bao.
I feel good around her. I have no ill towards her.
But we don't see her behind closed doors
And what she's really talking to johnny about.
And the one thing I always say is that
You don't know somebody until you know them.
So a person can always seem a certain way,
But that doesn't mean you know who they are.
They can seem genuine, but that doesn't mean they're genuine.
- Are we gonna get to talk to your mom today?
- Yeah, she said she was available.
You excited?
You can finally say hi to my mom.
- Other than hearing her voice...
- Yeah.
- On a recording.
- I have a surprise for you.
I got in touch with your mom.
- So you had a wedding, and she didn't even come?
- And this is message from her. - I know.
♪ ♪
Myrla feria.
This is a big first.
Introducing my wife to my mom is big for me,
Because my mom is huge in my life.
I talk to my mom at least once a week,
And she will always be important to me,
So it's very important my wife and my mom get along.
[laughing]
- Bougie. - Ay.
- [laughs]
♪ ♪
- Absolutely.
- Amen.
[laughing]
♪ ♪
- We haven't kissed,
So it's good to hear things like that,
To know that my wife actually does like me,
And that we're moving in the right direction.
- That was nice. - There you go.
- I got to meet the mom, finally.
- Yes.
- So bougie--really? - [laughs]
- What does that mean? Define it for me.
- You're extra. - What's an example of extra?
- You always want examples. Extra. Look it up.
You want me to get you the urban dictionary of "extra"?
Too much.
- Like, too much of what? What?
- Everything.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I been hiding from you ♪
♪ trying to make myself invisible ♪
♪ I been hiding from you ♪
- At this point, there's been such a build-up of pressure
From, like, my romanticized image
Of what marriage is supposed to be
Versus what's been going on.
I feel like the other guys here are more in sync
With their wives than I feel with bao.
So I am still waiting for that deeper connection.
- ♪ I been hiding from you ♪
♪ trying to make myself invisible ♪
- How we feeling?
- I'm okay. I guess.
- You don't seem okay.
- I don't even know where to start.
♪ ♪
Um.
The guys' hangout was a lot of fun.
- Mm-hmm.
- But it kind of hit me
That I was feeling kind of confused
About what was wrong
With, like, our relationship...
♪ ♪
And more specifically, what's wrong with me.
Because I know
That you are totally into this
And totally into me,
And I'm trying to figure out
Why I'm just, like, focusing on all the negative things.
I had, like, a mini-meltdown of,
Like, "what am I even doing?"
Because it seems like right now,
We have these problems, and I'm facing them, but...
♪ ♪
What if, like, I went in for the right reasons,
But I wasn't ready?
♪ ♪
- It's very disappointing for me to hear,
Because I really feel like
I am putting a lot into this relationship.
And I have been wondering, is he ready for marriage?
Because I feel like, in my gut, he might not be.
So sad to know that what you worried about
Is a valid reality right now.
♪ ♪
- I just don't know.
♪ ♪
At this point, I really don't know.
♪ ♪
- I'm sorry that you feel that way.
- ♪ you cut me through my heart and soul ♪
I have so many thoughts.
♪ ♪
- Yeah.
We can sleep on it.
♪ ♪
Talk about it later.
♪ ♪
- Okay.
I'll try to sleep on it.
♪ ♪
But my mind's just gonna be spinning all night.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I'll be there for you ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ you and me, baby, got a story to tell ♪
♪ in my dreams ♪
- That's a lot of stuff. - It is a lot of stuff, huh?
- Very excited about eating every bit of that.
- Our newlyweds are about
To host their friends and family
For their very first party as a married couple.
- Ready? - Pull.
- This is a huge milestone, and there's a lot at stake.
They must figure out how their worlds are gonna fit together,
Because in just six weeks, they're gonna have to decide
Whether they want to stay married or get a divorce.
- What up? - Hey.
- Pops! What up? I love it.
- Hi. How are you? - Good to see you. Good.
- How's it going? - How you doing?
- What up? - How's it going?
- How's it going, dad?
- I'm excited for y'all to see this place.
It's amazing. - It looks beautiful.
- Oh, thanks. - Come on in. Oh, thank you.
- You brought gifts.
Y'all didn't have to. - I know.
- I'm really excited about having,
You know, some guests over.
For me, I'm excited to boast
About our marriage a little bit more.
- This is my friend elia. - Hi.
- Hi, elia. - Hi. How are you?
- Pleased to meet you. - What's up, brother?
You all right, man?
Want everyone to enjoy themselves,
Have a good time, celebrate our marriage.
My biggest hope in getting that first initial impression
From her friends
Is that I have some sort of acceptance,
Because I'm falling and falling faster
For this wonderful, amazing woman that I'm now married to.
- So how was the honeymoon?
- Man, honeymoon was great, man.
- It was a lot of fun.
As you can see, like, we're peeling here.
- We're kind of-- yeah, I'm peeling on my ears.
- We weren't on top of that sunscreen, I will say.
- Did you guys get along really well?
Any fights? - Oh yeah, absolutely.
- Of course. - No fights? Yeah?
- No fighting. - Oh, no, no, absolutely not.
- No fighting. - Absolutely not.
- No, no misunderstandings. - Right.
Right, right, right, right.
- We got along, like, right off the bat.
- It's so surreal.
I didn't understand that it was gonna be that--
- Like, quick? - Right.
- We just click.
- Did all your boxes get checked off?
For what you were looking for? - Absolutely.
I got everything I wanted. I couldn't be happier.
- Uh-huh. - Like, everything's great.
- Is there anything, like-- like, a difference of opinion?
You know, kind of, like, "um, we gotta talk about that"?
- You know, I think finances is one of the things
That we've kind of talked about--a little bit about.
Because, not to toot the horn, but,
You know, I have a house in pearland,
And I have everything, you know, taken care of,
And, you know, she likes to travel,
And she likes to do other things,
And she's, like, a yolo person.
- Yeah. - And that's single rachel.
- Like, single rachel.
[overlapping chatter]
- No, and that's not a problem, but--
- I'm taking him to europe, whether he likes it or not.
- I want to go too. - Okay, and here's the thing.
- We're going to Spain, period. - It's not a problem.
It's not a problem.
But 50% of marriages end in divorce
Because of finances, right?
And so you know, she may see a lot of stuff on, you know,
Social media, and "I want this" and "I want this"
And you want to keep up with the joneses,
And blah, blah, blah.
I don't want that to be anything kind of--so.
Let's have a joint account.
From there, let me pull all the bills out,
And then everything that's left...
[speaks spanish] we can take our travel trips.
We can do whatever we need to do.
And that's what we're pulling out of.
[speaks spanish]
It's, like, zero, then we're-- like, we're screwed.
- I've been about the separate accounts and stuff.
But this is--you know,
We want to handle this difference we have.
- You know, no one is right, no one is wrong.
It's just, try what works.
- There's not one right way. - Right way.
- Exactly. - Yeah, there is not.
- But in a perfect world, you bring two individuals
That have two accounts together.
You're now married.
- Yeah. - You have one account.
You know, that's it.
♪ ♪
- Finances. Oh, my god.
[both laugh]
Jose, he's such a saver kind of guy, like,
Every penny, every dime.
But if he's not willing to lighten up a little bit,
I think that's gonna be a big, big, big, problem.
- I have all my finances. - Every balance sheet.
- Everything. - Yeah.
- Right? And then how much.
And then the credit score, and then, like--
- By looking at that chart,
You got your stuff together, man.
- Bro. - So that's mean.
- [speaks spanish] for a hot minute, bro.
That's mean, man.
- They said he's been waiting for this for a hot minute.
- I knew that, hey, I was gonna be married.
I was gonna probably have kids.
So you know, I'm out, like, living the single life
And, you know, traveling and doing all this [bleep]
And partying with my boys and whatever...
- Yeah.
- All my money's [bleep] going to waste.
♪ ♪
- Jose's been planning--
Planning... [laughs]
To be married for a long time.
I felt finally ready to be married
Maybe a year ago, you know?
And I was in a place, as a single woman--
I loved where I was.
I loved what I did, I loved my life.
Full of memories and experiences.
And that was part of why I really want to get married,
'cause I want to share all that with someone.
- Let's go have some girl time.
- I'm having very strong feelings for my husband,
But him just being very dismissive
Towards something I'm really passionate about
Is kind of making me feel a little nervous
About our future.
Like, I'm scared I'm gonna be restricted.
He's scared I'm just gonna, like, blow all this money.
And I think he needs
To let loose a little bit on his finances.
- Right, so that's the thing, you gotta make sure
That he's not controlling it 110%, right?
- No, and I think--yeah.
- Because, you know, you're working too...
- Exactly. - And women need
To feel control in their relationships also.
You just don't want to give up all your control.
That's all I'm saying. - Mm-hmm.
- 'cause, you know, you just don't want to do that.
- ♪ when I know I got you ♪
♪ know I got you ♪
- ♪ it's not that I don't like you ♪
♪ ♪
♪ it's not that I don't care ♪
♪ but I'm on a grind ♪
♪ and I stay there all the time ♪
- It's gonna look like a lot of stuff.
But it's not a lot of stuff.
- Good job. - This will be all the drinks.
♪ ♪
Today, I'm hosting a housewarming party
With my wife.
Ha! That looks so cool.
Actually, I have been looking forward to this.
This is some--the world that is untapped for me.
A lot of my friends are already doing
These married couple hangouts, and I feel, like, so left out.
It's one of the things I actually look forward to
After being married,
Is to hang out with other married couples.
- Oh, no. - Tape?
- Glue. We could tape--
- I bought some double-sided tape.
- It's over here.
- But we've only had two weeks of being in a relationship,
And I'm not ready to say that she's my forever person.
I want it to be better.
I think the thing I'm really struggling with right now
Is that there's no spark.
And typically, the beginning of a relationship,
It usually starts with a spark,
And then the other stuff develops.
Here, I'm trying to develop the other stuff
Without a spark,
And it is kind of a struggle.
♪ ♪
- Hello. - Hello! Welcome!
- Hello, hello. - Hi.
- Hi.
- Serena, this is bao. - Serena.
- You haven't met her yet. - Nice to meet you. Hello.
- Nice to meet you.
- I don't know how I feel about my marriage right now.
- Here you go. - Yeah. That'd be good.
- Bao, would you like a drink?
- Sure. - What you want?
- Johnny and I still have a lot of talking to do.
We talked a little bit last night.
We still have more talking to do.
- Happy housewarming.
- Thank you. - Hey, there.
- Hey, scott. - Johnny.
- Pleasure to meet you, johnny.
- Yeah. - Awesome, awesome view, man.
- Yeah, thanks. Can I get y'all a drink?
- Water would be great.
♪ ♪
- I want to do this. Get it done.
♪ ♪
- And johnny, this is for you. Happy housewarming.
- Thank you. - Thank you so much.
- I didn't get a chance to get a wedding gift, so.
- Thank you, thank you. - Is it fragile. Can I--
- Yes. Very fragile.
- Can I open it? - Yeah, go ahead. Open it.
- Have y'all met? This is serena and brian.
- Oh, sorry, sorry. Anh and scott.
- Yeah, so brian's my cousin. He was at the wedding.
- Yes. - And serena's his wife.
- Awesome. - We're married for two weeks.
You guys are married for two months.
How long have you guys been married?
- Since 2015. - Oh.
- Six years.
- Six years. There we go.
- Here goes. I'm opening it.
- Let's see what you got. - Feels like a book.
- Oh, I hope it's a book.
Hope it's a book on relationships.
- It is a book on relationships.
- Spoiler alert.
[laughter]
All: Oh! - Yes! Yes!
- "she comes first:
The thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman."
- It's a good book. I insist that he reads it.
- And what is this-- what is this fruit here?
- Bro, you know what that is.
- Thank you. - Papaya?
- Looks like a papaya? - Oh, I don't eat papaya.
- Just looking out for you, bao.
- It's kind of strange that bao's friend
Gave her a sex book.
Maybe there's, like, hints on, you know, getting there.
Wherever "there" is.
♪ ♪
This place is amazing, right? - It is.
- How has your expectation of marriage been so far?
- Um, I would assume that normally,
When you get married, it's not this intense
In just a short period of time. It feels different.
But I feel reassured that I'm married to someone that I know.
Having that familiarity really does help.
I feel it would be harder if I were married to someone
That I had absolutely no background with.
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah.
- You know, but at the same time,
The other couples, they're kind of taking their time
Because they don't have any background.
So I think they're having, like,
Really, really petty fights,
Where we are having, like, more, like, deep--
You know, deep conversations and deep disagreements
And trying to figure those things out.
- So you feel like both of you are 100% in.
- I feel I'm 100% in. I feel like he's 90% in.
- How's it been going thus far?
Like, if you had to--if you had to put a probability percentage
On it, like, what are you-what are you feeling?
- Yeah. Um. It's really early.
So two weeks in, and even though we're married,
I feel like I'm treating it
As I'm going into a fresh relationship,
And I need to feel it out before I feel certain.
I want to fall in love at some point.
I'll be honest, I mean, I'm not there yet.
So probability, if I was, like, a sportsmaker, right?
Probably somewhere like 65. - Okay.
- What's the 35% that is keeping you from that?
- I feel like we need to get closer somehow,
And more intimate.
And that's the thing I'm trying to work on to build up
Before I can fall for her.
- Yeah. - Understood.
And that, you know, like, takes time, man.
That's all it is.
- Like, you said that you're a very open person,
Put everything out, but she's a big more guarded, right?
So it might just take, again,
A little more time for her to be able to open up.
- What are some tactics to make, like,
An introverted person that's usually pretty guarded
About sharing things about herself?
- From what I know about bao,
Bao's got a lot of love to give,
But you gotta accept all of it.
And I think, if you do that,
You'll get the most out of her as a person,
And it'll ultimately end up getting you guys to be closer.
Be all in. - Yeah.
- And I think if you're able to do that,
You'll unlock some pretty special things.
- He knows I'm all in. I'm all in.
I'm gonna work at whatever I can
To make the marriage work.
But I also need him to be 100% in too.
- Well, and she acknowledged that she wasn't
At that love point yet.
So maybe her saying that she's all in
Is just that she's willing to do the various things
That are necessary to, like, build that foundation
To eventually lead you guys to that stage...
- Yeah. - Where you are in love,
Which is what you're committed to doing as well, so.
- I'm committed just learning as much as possible
About her and figuring out, like,
If our relationship has the legs to go the distance.
- ♪ ooh, ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh ♪
♪ you're my therapy, yeah ♪
- ♪ I'm a whole damn package, would you lo ok at that ♪
♪ future so bright, never looking back ♪
♪ been lit since birth, pyromaniac ♪
[knock at door]
- Hello. - Hi.
- Hi!
- This is a little bit heavy. - Welcome in.
- Congratulations again. - Thank you.
Initially, I wanted to cancel the housewarming party,
Because it just felt weird, especially after the argument
That we had earlier in the week.
And so I didn't want to do it,
But I had a change of heart when I went to sleep,
And I said, "okay, you know what,
"let me not put a stop to everything,
And I'll go ahead and do this housewarming."
I'm so happy to have y'all.
And now, I'm gonna put y'all to work.
Y'all want to help me set up? Both: Yes.
- Okay. - Let's go.
- Once I saw my girls... [laughs]
That's all I needed.
It's been an interesting kind of start to our marriage.
You know, we've only been married two weeks.
- Yeah. - Right.
- So that's even more so of a--
We done gone through a lot in two weeks.
Like, I didn't know it was gonna be this intense.
Whew. I don't know, y'all.
I know I'm a strong person, but this [bleep] hard.
- You're strong.
I feel like if it was anybody
To do it, it would be you.
- Yeah. - Absolutely.
- But, you know, we are working through all those things,
You know, like learning each other,
Getting better at communicating,
And our communication styles.
- That's good.
You know, in every situation, let's grow.
- Yeah, and arguments have to happen.
- Yeah.
- Right? - Are you neat one?
- He is very clean.
- That's good. - So I really do like that.
He is a toothpaste crusher, though.
- Oh, that's a problem. - Oh, the middle?
The middle? - He crushes everything.
- I mean, we can teach him, right?
He's teachable, right? - Yeah.
But, you know, I'm not even trying to teach him.
He's okay.
- Aw, look at you, accepting him however he is.
- Yeah, however he is. - Okay.
So where's zack, to see all this work you've done?
- ♪ when the sky is folding ♪
- What's up, guys? - Hey.
- Hey, what's up, what's up, what's up?
- Good to see you again. Hello. How are you?
- You look nice.
- Thank you. You look nice too.
- This is very nice.
Thank you for putting this together.
- Well, you guys gotta get a drink...
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- So that we can cheers you guys, right?
- That's a good idea. That's a good idea.
- It's crazy that you guys are married.
I still can't believe it. - Yeah, I can't believe it.
- You can or you cannot? - No, I can't. No, I can't.
I can't believe it. - Oh, okay, yeah.
- Yeah, it hasn't really hit me 100% yet.
Michaela, she can get over things quickly.
But what she doesn't understand is that
The rash decisions, the causing the scene,
Just the unnecessary behaviors, this is a red flag,
Because I've dealt with this in the past,
And I just know, at this moment,
I don't know if we're gonna be able to resolve it.
So do you guys want to grab a room
And kind of talk privately for a second?
- Uh, let's.
I'm gonna ask you all difficult questions.
Are you ready? - Yeah. That's fine with me.
- Please don't be scared. I'm a good person.
- Nah. It's okay. It's all good.
Come on, let's go.
I do want to talk to janu and courtney
To kind of get their perspective
And give me more insight on michaela.
I've always wanted this,
And I should try my best to make this work.
- Congratulations. - Nice. Yes.
- To good health. I'm happy you're here.
- Thank you, guys. - We cheers one more time.
- Thank you, thank you, thank you.
- Yeah, and I'm happy you're part of the family.
So marriage life.
- It's definitely been an adjustment, both good and bad.
And so what really kind of took me over the top
Was saying, "hey, the housewarming's off,
And, you know, I'm not coming," or whatever.
- Yeah, we got that message. - Yeah.
- Yeah, and that was really--
That kind of sent me over the top.
It's a very difficult situation
Because I'm not used to those outbursts,
Like, out of the blue,
Because, again, I just don't know,
Like, what caused that and what happened,
And so that's what I want to ask you guys.
Like, you know, is this kind of usual for her?
And, like, how do you kind of get around this?
Because this, for me, personally, is something
That I'm gonna have trouble dealing with.
- Mm-hmm. - But I want to make this work.
And I don't know if I can if, like, this--
These things keep happening.
- I don't think it's a usual thing.
- Okay. - It's nothing that's usual.
It's nothing that's gonna continue to, like, happen.
Because once she's comfortable,
You won't have to worry about any of that.
She is the most, like, level-headed, like,
Sane person you'll ever meet. - Mm-hmm.
- But this whole situation, I know--
I mean, even for you,
It's probably super uncomfortable.
I think while she's out of this, like,
Comfort zone for her... - Yeah.
- I think you're gonna get
A couple sides that she's not typically.
- Right. - Until she gains that trust.
But that's also where she needs to start communicating
With you better in the moment.
- So how has it been this far with zack?
I know it's only been two weeks,
But a lot can happen in two weeks.
- I've noticed that we are both strong-willed
And strong-minded individuals,
And I'm a married woman,
And I do have to be considerate of other peoples' feelings.
Especially his. Especially his. - Right.
- He's such an amazing and beautiful man,
Inside and out, that I can't do these things--
These vindictive things, essentially--
And think that it's okay. - Right.
- Because I may lose my marriage,
And I don't want to.
I came here to be married...
- Exactly. - And to work through it.
And it's hard. It's hard for both of us.
And I think we both have to learn
What is and what is not okay. - Right, right.
How do you think the communication is thus far?
- It could be better. - It could be better?
- I think, on both of our ends.
On my end, I bite my tongue.
And I just do. - Right.
You'll bit your tongue, and then you'll react.
And that might be a drastic action sometimes.
- Yes. - Okay.
Zack historically has been used to relationships where,
You know, most people would kind of define them as toxic.
His partner sometimes wasn't that good at communicating.
Some of them were pretty immature.
So that's why communication is so big for him.
So you know, you sit down and you talk to him
About something, and you're upset, you know,
Handle it differently than most people would, right?
You know, it's okay to feel however you feel.
No one can invalidate your feelings.
If you're upset, you can be upset.
You can be angry.
When you talk to him, you know, be different.
Talk to him calmly. Tell him how you feel.
Tell him that you're upset, tell him you're angry,
And explain why, you know, and say it respectfully.
- I don't know if she's admitted to you, but I know
She's admitted to me things that she could do better.
She needs to be telling those to you if she hasn't already.
- We haven't had that conversation.
- Yeah, and I think-- I'm sure y'all will.
- This definitely comes down to communication.
And this is gonna translate into, like, parenting.
If you guys have kids,
You guys have to be on the same page, so.
- We're rooting for you. - I love you guys. Yeah.
- I mean, this conversation
Makes me feel a little bit better,
But again, obviously, it's gonna take some time
Because, you know, you guys mentioned, you know, kids.
Like, you know, there's gonna be--
We have to make big decisions with kids.
- Right. - That's the big thing.
- Right.
- Are we gonna be able to make those decisions
In a good manner?
♪ ♪
That's what I'm saying.
I'm just like, I don't know that now.
- Right. But you also don't know her.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
[doorbell rings]
- We have people. - Here! I'm so excited.
- Whose people is it? - What's the password?
- Popcorn. - Oh.
- Well, I already know who's friends it is.
- It's my friends. - Hi.
- Hi!
- Is that, like, a cookie cake thing?
- No, it's a million cookies. - It's better.
- We're having a housewarming party,
And I'm looking forward
To hopefully learning more about my wife.
And my expectation's right now that it starts feeling
More like a marriage and less like a friendship.
That is truly what I'm still anticipating happening.
Pass them down.
- Well, cheers, guys. - Yeah.
- Thank you so much for--
- Brett has a toast for everybody.
- I do? - Yeah.
- It's your turn. - No, I heard you had a toast.
- Ooh. Ooh. - Okay, that's fine.
- Always putting me on the spot.
Always. Okay.
So I want to thank you guys for coming.
It's super important to us to have, like,
People that love us and that we love being here.
And to supporting a very untraditional
But amazing thing in our lives.
And that's it.
All: Cheers. - Thank you.
I definitely think it's important that my spouse
Is not only just friendly and cordial with my friends,
But makes an effort to be friends with my friends,
Because of how important they are to me.
They're basically family.
- So everybody here's married. - Yes.
- I was just-- I, like, ring-checked.
- It's my first time.
- Band, band, band. - It's great.
- Bands on bands on bands on bands.
- It's great. - Yes.
- Welcome. Welcome to the club. - Happy to have you.
- I'm into that. We're grown.
- Rookies. - Super married.
- You're the rookies. - Super married.
- How long have you guys been married?
- So veteran married people. - I know, huh?
- I'm open for some advice on this.
- Happy wife, happy life.
♪ ♪
- I've heard that a few times. It's the weirdest thing.
- Unfortunately, it's actually true.
- That's why you can never--
- Remember, yours is sitting right here.
- I know. Now, you and my dad said it.
- Yeah, no, I know.
- Well, shall we commence with games, you all?
♪ ♪
- ♪ gonna play now, everybody shake now ♪
- If I listed you as my job reference,
What would you say about me?
And would it be true?
- Well, you skipped work two days ago.
[laughter]
So I'd say when you do show up, you absolutely show up.
But when you don't show up,
It's probably not 'cause you're sick.
- I didn't tell them I was sick,
Just for whoever's listening.
That was not the reason I gave.
- So brett, tell us about the one that got away.
- Actually, I don't have one,
Because I'm the one that got away.
- Yes, ma'am. - Bam.
- Snap, snap.
- It makes me feel really good to see them interacting,
Because these are people who I want to be around all the time.
Like, I want to be around him all the time,
But I also want to be around them all the time.
So if we can--
- I don't want to be around them all the time.
- Well, I understand.
- So I guess, what have you gathered thus far
That you think
You might want to know a little bit more about?
- I've gathered so much that I don't know
That I could just start naming things,
'cause literally our conversation is--
We have to, like, stop ourselves from talking.
- Yeah. - We talk way too much.
- Nonstop, right? - Which is not normal for me.
- He's so tender, you know, with his feelings.
Have you felt that you have to hold back
Some of what you want to say?
- I don't know if we've gotten to that tender place yet.
♪ ♪
But I can tell that it's there. I can tell that it's there.
- How would you suggest her pulling it out of him?
- Yeah. - Just be true. Be honest.
- Yeah. - Be you.
- Yeah.
- Be gentle. - Yeah.
- I mean, I think that really seeing each other
For who each other is and respecting that
And the things that don't necessarily line up
With what you expected... - Mm-hmm.
- Being able to say, "but I see this instead,"
Or, "it may come,"
Or, "maybe I didn't know I needed this, but it's there."
- You're basically saying everything
That I have said to pretty much everybody.
- Yeah.
- Because that's how it's been for me.
- Yeah, I mean, we were friends for a while.
And I think becoming friends first is just so valuable.
- Our friendship is the thing that means the most to me,
Because if you're not friends,
I think you don't have anything.
All the other stuff, that's all lust.
- Agreed. Yep.
- There's a place that we need to get past,
From, like, friend to relationship, marriage-wise.
I mean, hopefully we get there.
I mean, that's where we are now.
- But, like, for me, like, I definitely want to know more
Regarding, like, his feelings for me specifically.
- Yeah.
- I think at the time and place that brett and ryan
Are at, it's hard-- it's kind of, like--
- It's fresh. - Yeah, it's fresh.
It's like a cute chess game because you're still trying
To figure out what you can and cannot share.
I think if ryan is more open with how he feels,
She will feel reassured to be herself,
And she will open up more.
She just needs, like, the cliché term--
Like, if you water her, she will grow.
- We've let everything happen, like, just naturally,
And I think that's-- it is a slower process
Because we're pretty adamant
About that's how we want it to happen.
- That's the best part, I think,
Is that you're both coming at it from that mind space
Of, like, "we're committed."
- But again, we only have-- we have eight weeks, so.
- I know.
- It is a rush thing that we're trying not to rush.
- Yeah.
- And that's kind of where we are now.
- Yep.
- ♪ gonna stay strong ♪
♪ until the battle is won ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- ♪ even in the dark, we are never alone ♪
- You excited about the guests coming over?
- No. - Not excited?
- This is a lot for an introvert.
- I'm all into housewarming.
Like, I love going to housewarming parties.
- Oh, no. - I would throw one.
- If somebody invited me, I probably wouldn't go.
- Oh. - I would send them a gift.
- No, I would go, for sure.
- I'd be like, "here you go. Gift card."
My husband and I have been married for almost two weeks,
But I think there is just so much more to learn from him,
Every day or every opportunity or every activity that we do,
Just getting-- you know, learning,
Taking advice from individuals who have been
Through it--they've been married or divorced,
And they are willing to share the mistakes
That they've made to help us flourish in our marriage.
- Has there been a fight yet? - No.
- Not yet. - Are you surprised?
- He's very patient.
- I--actually, I didn't expect y'all to have any fights.
- Yeah, me neither. - Why not?
- Like, from what I know of gil...
- Right. Yeah.
- You are, like, the female version of him,
From what I can tell, right... - So far, yeah.
- In the short amount of time that we've known you.
- Oh!
- Minus-- - nice to know.
- As far as temperament is concerned.
- Oh, yes, temperament, for sure.
- There's nothing not to like about y'all.
- Right. - You know what I mean?
So you're like, "okay, so I don't like that dress..."
- I am pretty wonderful.
- And she'll be like, "well, get over it."
"all right, maybe she'll just wear the blue one--
I mean the pink one tomorrow instead."
I mean, that's just kind of how I see it going.
- Okay.
It's kind of been like that, pretty much.
It's pretty much been like that.
- What you mean, "okay"? What does "okay" mean?
- Oh, no, I like the dress.
[laughter]
Y'all haven't seen her closet, though.
- I think that's easy. - How's her closet?
Is it organized more than you? - No, this closet--no.
No, her closet is organized. Her closet is organized.
- Both of y'all are organized. - No, but, like...
- Well, no, he's no better.
- The amount of stuff in her closet,
Like, I can't keep up with that.
- I have a small closet, though.
- You mean here? - It looks like--
- No, no, no, no, no. - It's, like, 1/4 of that.
- I've never seen a hanger that's specifically made
To hold ten pairs of jeans on one hanger.
And she has, like, 15 of those hanging.
- It's three, sir.
There's three per hanger. He's being sarcastic.
- It's not three. - There are three.
- You have like seven trus on one hanger.
- See the first argument, guys.
- I'm sorry. I'll leave.
I didn't mean to instigate anything.
- My husband loves to joke around about my standards
And the things that I like.
He thinks that's funny.
- Adrienne, how many pair of jeans do you have?
- Nine?
- She got nine on one hanger.
- Oh, girl, it's okay.
- But, you know,
I love that we have that, like--
We're able to go back and forth and joke around about things.
And so you gotta have a little bit of fun.
- Looks delicious. - Eat away, guys.
- Yeah, y'all can start digging in.
Don't be shy now. Don't be shy. Just grab it.
- So hey, guys.
- It's a lot of food. What's up?
- So how you guys been, being married to a stranger,
Waking up next to a stranger,
Taking a shower next to a stranger, or whatever?
- We're not gonna go there. - Not there? Okay.
- Other than that, I think it's been good.
I think one thing that's--
I don't think it's been surprising.
But, like, it's been--it's felt very natural and normal.
Like, you wake up, and you have someone,
And you're living with them, and you're doing things,
And it's flowing, and it's easy.
- That's good.
- At which point does it stop being easy?
- Right. - No, I'm kidding.
- Yeah. I agree with my wife.
It's been surprisingly smooth,
Like, to get into a marriage with somebody you don't know,
And for it to kind of, like, click like it's clicked--
- That's good.
- I feel very comfortable with her.
I feel like I've known her for a while.
There's still plenty that I need to know
That I don't know about her, but for the most part,
It's like, I know enough that--to trust her.
- Mm-hmm.
♪ ♪
- The flow is beautiful. I do like it.
I like the energy around them.
He's the type of guy that if you give trust,
He gives you a lot more
Than what you're getting back, you know?
And I'm hoping that she doesn't
Take advantage of that, 'cause he's a good guy.
He's a good dude.
- We had a little homework from pastor cal.
- Oh, yeah. - Okay.
- So pastor cal came and spoke to us.
Had a little one-on-one therapy.
One of the homework that he gave us was--
You know, when he left, he was like,
"I want y'all to look at each other's bank accounts."
So we logged into our bank accounts,
We looked at our checkings,
We looked at each other's savings, and, yeah.
- Who got higher savings? - Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
- Oh, come on, now. - I knew that. I knew that.
- That's a vulnerable position to be in.
- I knew that.
- So you're okay with her
Maintaining that same kind of lifestyle?
- Okay, so that was another question we had.
Right? - Mm-hmm.
- And she was like, "you know, the one thing I'm not gonna do
Is change my lifestyle for anybody."
♪ ♪
And so I don't know,
I felt a certain type of way when she said that.
I guess the principle of it, that she was so adamant
About "I'm not changing for anybody."
- I think what you're trying to say is,
A little bit of a compromise.
- That's it. - It would be, like, nothing.
Like, if you getting together with somebody...
- That's all I'm saying.
- There has to be some movement
When you say, "no, there's nothing I'm gonna change."
- That is the part-- - it's the principle.
- It's the principle. - That's it.
- You shouldn't use "always" and "never."
- As soon as you say "never," you're like--
You kind of, like-- 'cause then you're gonna--
- Like, you not even considering it.
- No, not even.
- It's like, "no."
- So at the altar, you know, when you went for a kiss,
And I knew it was the first time.
Ever since then, have y'all kissed?
- Not yet. - No.
- Really? Not even a peck?
- And that's a wrap. - Not even a peck.
- Wow. - Just snuggles?
- That's interesting. - Snuggles.
- Yeah. - Good for you.
- So I'm guessing the experts are gonna tell you
Probably to start getting a little closer to each other.
- I don't think everybody needs to--
- He did ask.
You know, he asked her, you know,
"do you find him attractive?"
He asked me, also, do I find her attractive--
Do we find each other attractive?
- Do you? - Do you--yes. I do.
I do. Do you?
- Yes. - Okay. Yeah.
- Do you feel the chemistry? - Yes. But I did tell her--
- What'd you tell her? - I do have to bring this up.
- He's gonna get me a divorce. - Bring it up. What you got?
- I said, if-- I asked her--I was like,
"do you think we could go from here till decision day,"
Which is the last day,
"could you go without kissing me?"
And she said, "probably." she said yes.
And I was like, okay, well--
- Now, is this the pace you normally
Have gone at with former-- - good question.
- I mean, it usually takes me a little longer.
- Okay. And that's okay.
- But I looked at it, like,
"well, I feel like you conditioned yourself..."
- Right. Something that--
- Well, but that's also two months
Of someone she's not married to and living to...
- It's completely different.
- And spending all day, every day with.
- Exactly. - It's completely different.
- And so I feel like, you're not doing it on purpose,
You're just so used to that that now
That's the cookie cutter way
Of you going into every relationship.
- Right. Right. It's not natural.
- But this isn't the same cookie cutter.
Like, I'm a signature dish.
- Right. - This is completely different.
- Right. - You know what I'm saying?
And so it's one of those things,
That, like, do we really like each other?
♪ ♪
- Okay.
- 'cause I know she wants to be married.
I want to be married.
You know, is it beyond the idea of just being married?
Like, I've told her, like, "I know you want to be married,
But if I was just anybody else, you'd be happy also?"
- I mean--
- So it's like one of those things.
- It's the same-- if I wanted to be married,
I would just be married to anybody.
But I didn't want that.
Like, I came through this because I wanted someone
That had, like, the same values as me.
- You want a connection.
- Yeah. - Correct.
♪ ♪
- There's a difference between attraction,
That you're attracted to someone, and a connection.
You want both. - Yeah. Yeah.
- But a connection's deeper.
♪ ♪
- Come holler at me, though. - All right, let's do it.
- I'm gonna go have a chat with willie for a little bit.
- Oh, okay. - But then we'll be back.
- What you trying to take out of me?
- Everything. The tea.
- I'm a sealed box. [both laugh]
- How long y'all been friends now?
- Uh, ten years. - Okay.
So I'm assuming,
In those ten years, she's been in relationships,
You know, during that friendship.
- Yeah. Couple.
- Yeah, so like, I don't know--how would you say
She typically is when it comes down to, like,
Not just intimacy itself, but, like, just kissing?
- Yeah. - You know what I'm saying?
Like, do you think that that's--I mean, not think,
But have you seen that it takes her a while
To kind of get close to people in her past relationships?
Like, is it something that she--
- Uh, I can't really speak to that.
- Okay.
- I've never really seen her be, like,
Affectionate with a partner.
- So you haven't seen her, like, pda
With another--okay.
- I haven't. I can't say that I have.
And it's been, you know, eight--
- That's crazy.
- Eight, ten years. You know what I'm saying?
- That's wild.
♪ ♪
- She's--she does tend to move at a slow pace,
But I think what she's feeling is, like,
"why would I engage in this if I don't believe
"or I don't know or if there's uncertainty
That it won't last past the eight weeks?"
♪ ♪
- You guys have different ways of the way you--
Expenses and everything.
Do you believe that maybe that could be
An issue in the future?
'cause, I mean, he spends,
But it seems like you spend more.
♪ ♪
- He told me that he was not money-driven.
♪ ♪
Like, he says he does--like, money does not drive him.
I am the complete opposite.
Like, I am driven by money. We're talking about marriage.
We're talking about having a home.
We're talking about having a family.
That costs money.
- Right.
- So then we need to talk about savings.
How much are you gonna save every month,
Starting this month,
To make sure that we get to where we want to be,
So that we can-- 'cause I want to buy a home.
You know, we want to have a family.
I'm not gonna move into an apartment
Like the one he lives.
♪ ♪
No. Like, I'm not. I'm sorry. Like--
- Okay.
- I like certain things.
- Right.
- 'cause, like, that, for me, was a dealbreaker.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ so go ♪
♪ so go ♪
♪ ♪
♪ so go ♪
♪ ♪
♪ so go ♪
♪ ♪
- We made it. Two weeks. - Congrats.
I don't know, lately, I feel like I've been
Feeling a lot of things,
And today, I just felt good.
The housewarming just felt good overall.
And I think it's because, like,
Putting in the work, decorating,
And having people come in,
And they had a good time, there was food,
There were drinks that nobody drank, but it's fine.
- Like, I went in to the housewarming optimistic.
But still, like, not gonna lie,
It felt like I had a little bit of a cloud over me.
And I was overwhelmed.
You stepped in, got it done,
And I just feel like we work well together.
Even though there might still be some lingering emotions
That came from last night, we were able to put that aside
And focus on what needed to be done.
I have so much respect for you for being able to do that.
I know that you're sincere and are really trying
In this marriage, for it to work.
And it means a lot to me.
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- Thank you for saying that.
- It really assured me after that difficult night, that...
- Yeah. - You're still in it with me.
- As long as we can talk things out
And we're both listening, we're both understanding,
And we're both patient,
I think we can work through our problems.
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- I really believe that.
♪ ♪
It feels good hearing you say it too.
If both johnny and I say yes on decision day,
It would feel great.
I'm hopeful that we both grow together
For the remaining period,
And that we both are confident in saying yes on decision day.
- It feels like it's gonna be a lot smoother going forward.
- Mm-hmm.
- I feel like, for the first time,
We're kind of looking out into the horizon,
And it seems like it's-- like, no waves.
You know, it looks smooth.
- Oh, no, there's always gonna be waves.
- Why do you have to ruin my image like that?
- Waves are beautiful.
- [laughs]
- There might be big waves.
But we'll be stronger.
- I hope so.
♪ ♪
- Hubby.
- Wifey. - [chuckles]
- ♪ oh, I choose you ♪
♪ ♪
- So how do you think tonight went?
- I think tonight went well.
- I enjoyed courtney and janu. They were very sweet.
I definitely took a lot from that conversation.
- Okay.
- Just, like, learning how you are,
Like, in terms of--you know,
How you are as a person, right?
Like, how you kind of handle certain things.
But all very helpful things. What about you?
Have you learned anything from jeron about me?
- I did. - Like what?
- I learned you are--
And well, I already knew this--
But it's how genuine you are. - Mm-hmm.
- And I knew that, but it's, like,
I don't think that I understood fully
How caring and present you are.
- Mm-hmm. - And I took advantage of that.
- How--what do you mean you took advantage of that?
What do you mean? - With my behaviors.
I'm not used to being in a relationship,
Let alone marriage,
Where somebody is in it as much as I'm in it.
- Mm-hmm.
- And so my behaviors were to, I guess I can say, like, harm.
And I [bleep].
My reaction was an overreaction.
And I should not do that.
- Got it--like, how do you think I feel?
- That you feel hurt. I think you feel hurt.
I think you feel abandoned.
I think you feel like I'm not actually serious about this,
That I'm not here for you.
And all those feelings are valid but not true,
Because at the end of the day,
I do want this marriage to work.
- My biggest thing is, I understand
Why you were upset, but I don't understand, like,
How it can get to that point.
That's not something I'm good with,
'cause, you know, that's why my relationships
Haven't working out in the past.
Like, so I started to see that, and I'm just like,
"is this gonna be a repeat
Of what I've dealt with in the past?"
'cause, like, you know,
It hasn't worked out for a reason.
For me, personally, it's bigger than a communication thing,
It's how we handle the conflict again.
- Yeah, I know. And I [bleep].
- Yeah, so I'm just saying-- like, that's--
Again, it's not the communication.
It's how we handle it.
And that's something I don't know that we can change.
Like, I'm honestly scared to talk--
Like, tell you how I honestly feel right now,
Because I don't know if, like,
You'll blow up or, like, get mad.
- How do you honestly feel right now?
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- I didn't want to do this. I can't eat. Like--
- Mm-hmm. - I don't feel good.
Like, when I pulled up, like, I got anxiety.
I did not want to come in here. I felt horrible.
It was more anxiety than the wedding day.
I kid you not.
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- I don't know how to resolve what I did.
- I want you to understand that I'm not saying you were wrong.
- What I need to know is not even how I can make it right,
But how long is it gonna take before we are right?
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Do I need to continue to, like, try to make it right?
I don't understand. - You ain't gotta--
- You don't have to do [bleep] to reconcile the situation.
I don't know what we can do right now.
And to me, that's okay.
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- Zack, we're married.
- We don't have to have an answer
To every single problem immediately.
Why not, like, take a step back for a second?
Because we have a fundamental difference
In how we handle certain things,
That it's just--it's too big of a difference for me right now.
- I've apologized,
And I've admitted that I was [bleep] wrong.
- Okay, but this is-- this is my issue.
Like, so remember we talked to pastor cal
About the boundaries, about how we handle confrontation, right?
- Mm-hmm.
- That was after our whole argument, and we--
I thought we reconciled that.
And then what took me to the next level and over the top
Was you canceling the housewarming.
It's just, like, that came out of the blue.
You can't just, like, do that.
- Zack, I didn't know that. - Know what?
- That me trying to cancel the housewarming would affect you
In the way that it did.
I didn't [bleep] know that.
- Okay. - I'm not trying to cry now.
I didn't know that. - Mm-hmm.
- And had I known, like,
That it was gonna make you as mad as much as it did,
Then maybe I wouldn't have done it, but [bleep],
Who knows if I would have done it still?
Like, I didn't know that.
I don't know how to make you understand that
This is something new to me.
I'm not saying you're wrong. I'm not saying I'm right.
But I'm saying that I'm sorry.
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- ♪ we keep meeting on the down-low ♪
♪ swearing that they won't know ♪
- You don't have to have answers for everything, right?
Like, it's not-- like, I feel like
That's also part of marriage.
Like, figuring this [bleep] out.
And figuring this [bleep] out is also maybe just
Take some time away and, like,
Not have an answer immediately.
- But our marriage is so young.
- But I honestly-- I feel horrible right now.
And I can't fake it. And I'm sorry.
- ♪ just another reason to pretend ♪
- I'm definitely heartbroken because I came into this
Hoping to find the one, and to be done
With looking for her,
'cause I wanted this all my life.
So it's definitely hurtful.
So I'm definitely--
I'm not happy about where we are.
At the moment, I don't know if we'll be able to resolve this.
Are you staying here tonight? - Yes.
- I honestly don't want to. Like, I'm not--
- That's fine. - Yeah.
I don't--I don't want to.
After everything that's going on,
I just don't feel comfortable staying
In the apartment tonight.
It makes me just feel anxious
And just, like, uncomfortable in the situation
I don't want to be in.
- ♪ keep going in circles ♪
♪ ♪
♪ 'cause we keep going in circles ♪
♪ ♪
♪ telling ourselves that this should end ♪
♪ ♪
- Next time on "married at first sight"...
- Aww.
- We are definitely falling a little bit closer in love.
- You want any blueberries or anything?
'cause I'm about to crush these.
- No, I got them for you.
I definitely am feeling some warm and tingly feelings.
- I don't know, were you happy last night?
- All I can say right now is,
We're both really, really happy.
- I went out girls night. Alcohol was involved.
And it happened.
- For me to keep going in the path that we're going,
I want to know-- I want to feel wanted.
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- You act like as if I come out and I come in
And I just snapped at you.
- I don't know what you want me--want me to--
Like, I don't know what you want me to tell you, but--
- Acknowledge the [bleep] apology
And stop bringing it up.
- Yeah, but why do you need to say that?
- Take it how you want to.
This is where we've done things.
- [bleep] no.
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