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- Breathe.
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It's very risky
to get married at first sight.
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- ♪ I'm getting married ♪
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- I've never been in love,
but I'm ready
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To be in love with this woman.
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- Please stand.
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♪ ♪
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- Almost two weeks ago...
- Hi, husband!
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- Ten singles
took a brave leap of faith
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In order to find love.
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- Nice to meet you,
my soon-to-be wife.
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- They married
as complete strangers.
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- You may kiss your bride.
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[cheers and applause]
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- I am married!
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It feels great to say that.
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♪ ♪
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- Hi!
- Home, sweet home.
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- Last time, our couples moved
in together as newlyweds.
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♪ ♪
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- I have a crush on him.
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- What about you, ryan?
Are you in like?
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- I think we can get past that.
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- Do get past what?
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- He can see past the liking.
- Past the liking.
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- Like, we can get to,
you know, love.
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- That thing.
- That thing.
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- Have you guys consummated
your marriage?
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Both:
Yeah.
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- I'm glad you guys decided,
"you know what, we're married."
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- It's scary, because could
this really happen this fast?
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- Don't put on the brakes.
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I mean, you want
to have some brake pads.
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[laughter]
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- Zack, he left
without informing me.
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♪ ♪
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- You leaving
without her knowing it,
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You see how that could have
stirred up something?
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- I promise you, like,
you know, I have your back.
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Whatever you need, like,
I'll be there for you.
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♪ ♪
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- You get happy and excited,
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You get very giddy,
almost like a little kid.
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I personally don't
find it attractive.
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- This is not bao's issue.
- It is not. I agree.
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- This is johnny's issue.
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- I asked her straight up--
I was like,
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"do you think you could go
from now until decision day
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Without giving me a kiss?"
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She said, "probably."
I will be 100% real with you.
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If that happens, I'm going
to ask for the divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ I wanna party tonight ♪
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- Honey, I'm home.
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- Tonight, with only six more
weeks until decision day...
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- Oh, that's so cute.
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- I like it because
you can hang it.
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- Our couples start easing
into domestic life together.
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- How much you spend
on groceries?
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- I don't know.
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- How do you now know that?
- I don't have a budget.
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- And...
- Congratulations again.
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- We'll finally get to see
their friends and family
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For the first time
since their wedding.
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All:
Cheers.
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I hope it's a book
on relationships.
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- It is a book
on relationships.
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- [laughs]
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- "she comes first:
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The thinking man's guide
to pleasuring a woman."
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- I insist that he reads it.
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- She may see a lot of stuff
on, you know, social media,
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And "I want this,"
and "I want this,"
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And you want to keep up
with the joneses,
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And blah, blah, blah.
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Our money's
[bleep] going to waste.
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- For me, personally,
it's something
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That I'm gonna have trouble
dealing with
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If, like,
those outbursts keep happening.
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- Had I known, like, then
maybe I wouldn't have done it,
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But [bleep], who knows
if I would have done it still?
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I didn't know that.
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- We all thought we'd be having
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Some type of differences
in the beginning.
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- Sure.
- Yeah.
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- But you gotta try.
- Yeah.
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- You know, you can't just say
it's not gonna work.
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- Maybe I came into this
not being ready to be married,
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And now she's married to me,
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And now she's [bleep],
because I'm [bleep].
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"married at first sight."
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- ♪ there's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ it's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ when I'm waking up
in the morning ♪
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- ♪ hey now, hey now ♪
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- ♪ I'm waking up
in the morning ♪
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♪ when I'm waking up
in the morning ♪
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- ♪ hey now, hey now ♪
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- ♪ waking up in the morning ♪
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♪ when I'm waking up
in the morning ♪
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- [whispering]
so I'm being a little quiet
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Because I wake up a lot earlier
than my husband.
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I now have to go to the gym
in the mornings
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Because I want to spend
the afternoons with my husband.
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- I'm not a morning person.
- I know.
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Johnny has to leave sooner.
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- Very soon.
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- So he needs to get
out of bed now.
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- Oh, god.
- Like, right now.
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Aw.
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See? He's trying, y'all.
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- We're getting some dog love
right now.
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- Yeah.
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- We had to kind of
separate them
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So we could sleep last night.
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- Our couples have been married
for nearly two weeks.
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- Hey, beautiful.
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- I think my husband
is stalking me
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Because he popped up
and surprised me
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And, like,
pulled up to the street.
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- But now a new test begins
as they begin to settle in
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To their daily lives
as husbands and wives.
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- What's happening?
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- To transition
from single to married
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May be easier for some
than others.
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But they're going to
have to dig deeper,
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Because in just over six weeks,
our couples will have to decide
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Whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ you bring sunshine
on rainy days ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Oh, it smells so good.
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- I smell the--
do you smell the roses?
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I smell the roses.
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- I literally smell the roses.
- Okay.
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- Oh, it's so nice.
Let's check these out.
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- We have a housewarming party
coming up,
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And I want these plants
that we choose today
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To be a reflection of who
we are as a married couple now.
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Hopefully, we can water them
together and kind of
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Watch them blossom and grow,
much like the marriage.
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- Aw, that's so cute.
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- I like it because
you can hang it.
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I'm actually looking forward
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To selecting what I think
is best for our garden.
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I think she has ideas
as well, too,
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So I think we'll probably meet
in the middle.
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- Let's see what they have.
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- I thought either, like,
cilantro or, like, chiles.
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- Yeah.
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- 'cause then we could make,
like, salsa
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For, like, our guests
that come over.
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- So of course, jose had a plan
of what we wanted.
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Herbs for cooking.
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What is this?
- What is that?
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- I don't know.
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It's, like--
it's, like, this one.
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- Maybe we keep looking.
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- Oh, here's thyme.
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Do you ever use that, like,
on the salmon or chicken?
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- We could.
- Here's a maybe.
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- But the texture's
kind of crazy to me.
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- Okay. Let me see.
Okay, here we have kale.
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Do you eat kale?
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- How about buttered--look.
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- Want to really try lettuce?
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- Why not?
- Okay. Let's do it.
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- You want to?
- I guess so. This one, maybe?
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- Okay, that one looks okay.
Yeah.
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- Oh my god, it smells...
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- It does.
- Like real lettuce.
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- Smells like--well, honey,
it is real lettuce.
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- I wouldn't say
he's controlling.
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He just likes doing things
his way
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Because he's planned it out.
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And he's more of the master
in the kitchen,
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So I totally have no arguments
on which plants to get.
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- Does that look good?
- Let me see.
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- Does that look good?
- Ah, it looks perfect.
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- Does that look good?
- I think it's perfect.
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I think this is a really good
step of, you know,
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Keeping something alive,
you know, before getting a pet.
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- Are you gonna water it
every day?
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- I'm gonna set an alarm...
- Yeah, I knew you were gonna--
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- To make sure I water
it every day.
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- I knew you would.
- Yeah, so I don't forget.
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Someone gave me a succulent,
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The easiest thing
to take care of.
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- Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Uh-huh.
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- And it died on me.
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- This is definitely gonna be
an adventure, for sure.
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- But you know what,
I think this--
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Because this plant--
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These plants are more
meaningful, and it's ours,
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I will definitely take much,
much better care of it.
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- Are you sure? Do you promise?
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- I promise.
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[both laugh]
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♪ ♪
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- Mr. Freeman.
It's been a minute, man.
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- I know, I know.
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My relationship with michaela,
you know,
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There's still some issues
we need to work on,
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And it hasn't been easy.
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My energy has definitely
kind of changed,
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And I love hanging out
with jeron always,
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So it's good to kind of have
him come to my new apartment
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And to give me his advice.
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- How has things been?
How's the married life?
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- Yeah, man, I mean,
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It's been a very
unique experience, man.
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There's been highs
and lows already.
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- Could imagine.
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- Everything was great
initially, but, like, now,
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Over the past couple days,
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Like, I've seen some,
like, red flags.
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And so, I'm definitely nervous.
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My biggest issue right now is,
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I think the way
michaela handles things
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Is not something
I'm accustomed to.
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Like, so the first night
we kind of came here,
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It was definitely
pretty hectic.
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No, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no.
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So I woke up the next day,
took bella to daycare.
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It was 7:00 a.M., and she
made it very clear to me
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That she does not like
being woken up.
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- Zack?
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- So, at the time, though,
I didn't realize
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That she was actually mad that
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I just left
without saying anything.
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♪ ♪
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And then apparently,
she just, like,
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Moves out of the whole place.
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♪ ♪
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Yeah, so, you know,
after we met with pastor cal,
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She left, and then we had
a conversation on the phone,
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You know, reconciling,
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You know, our differences
for that whole day, right?
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So we talked about
what happened
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Throughout the whole day,
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And, you know,
how can we be better.
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And I thought
that conversation--
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I thought that conversation
went well.
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And then she texted me,
like, an hour later saying,
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Like, "I'm not doing
the housewarming.
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My friends are not coming.
I'm not doing it."
250
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And I'm just like, "okay."
251
00:08:54,868 --> 00:08:57,184
Like, that--I can't do this
because, like, it's--
252
00:08:57,204 --> 00:08:59,095
That's not how I handle stuff.
253
00:08:59,114 --> 00:09:01,522
- I guess my take on it is,
254
00:09:01,542 --> 00:09:03,433
Look, so, obviously,
she's confrontational,
255
00:09:03,526 --> 00:09:05,359
You're not
a confrontational person,
256
00:09:05,379 --> 00:09:06,786
But whenever you try to join,
you know, two folks,
257
00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,031
Whether they know each other,
whether they're strangers,
258
00:09:10,125 --> 00:09:11,958
There's going to be conflicts
in that relationship.
259
00:09:12,110 --> 00:09:13,443
That's just inherent...
- Yeah.
260
00:09:13,536 --> 00:09:14,611
- In joining
two different people
261
00:09:14,704 --> 00:09:16,037
From two different
perspectives.
262
00:09:16,131 --> 00:09:18,131
You know, reality doesn't
always meet your expectations,
263
00:09:18,283 --> 00:09:20,116
And I can tell you
zack definitely has these,
264
00:09:20,135 --> 00:09:21,560
You know,
fairy-tale expectations.
265
00:09:21,711 --> 00:09:24,563
But in a real,
healthy relationship, you know,
266
00:09:24,714 --> 00:09:25,955
Sometimes you gotta be
a little more realistic
267
00:09:26,049 --> 00:09:27,381
And a little more patient.
268
00:09:27,475 --> 00:09:28,975
And I think that
that's something
269
00:09:29,127 --> 00:09:30,293
He's starting to realize.
270
00:09:30,312 --> 00:09:31,795
Hopefully, they can
figure that out together.
271
00:09:31,888 --> 00:09:34,055
- My thing is, jeron,
it's like,
272
00:09:34,074 --> 00:09:35,815
If it's this early on
273
00:09:35,967 --> 00:09:37,742
With very minor situations--
274
00:09:37,969 --> 00:09:38,985
- 'cause it's gonna be
much more serious.
275
00:09:39,137 --> 00:09:40,579
- I know.
That's what I'm saying.
276
00:09:40,730 --> 00:09:41,988
That's what--that's--now,
that why I'm so nervous,
277
00:09:42,082 --> 00:09:43,807
Because, like, the reason
why my past relationships,
278
00:09:43,825 --> 00:09:46,067
You know, haven't worked out
was because of the way,
279
00:09:46,086 --> 00:09:47,902
You know, my girlfriends were.
280
00:09:47,996 --> 00:09:49,495
They were very confrontational,
281
00:09:49,648 --> 00:09:50,755
And you way they handled,
you know, conflict,
282
00:09:50,907 --> 00:09:53,258
Was just something
I don't, like, like.
283
00:09:53,485 --> 00:09:56,502
It's just,
the loud, boisterous,
284
00:09:56,597 --> 00:09:58,154
Make a scene-type stuff.
285
00:09:58,247 --> 00:09:59,322
I just--that's just not me,
and, like,
286
00:09:59,341 --> 00:10:01,266
That's something
I want to get away from
287
00:10:01,493 --> 00:10:03,084
'cause that's not good
in any relationship.
288
00:10:03,178 --> 00:10:04,160
- Do you think--
in your opinion,
289
00:10:04,179 --> 00:10:05,678
Do you think it's something
290
00:10:05,831 --> 00:10:07,088
That she could potentially
get away from?
291
00:10:07,107 --> 00:10:08,773
- You know, I hope so,
292
00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:09,682
But you know--
but at the same time, though,
293
00:10:09,776 --> 00:10:11,759
It shouldn't feel bad,
294
00:10:11,778 --> 00:10:12,611
And I'm not gonna feel bad
that I don't want that.
295
00:10:12,838 --> 00:10:14,520
- Yeah.
296
00:10:14,673 --> 00:10:15,855
- If it's gonna be like this,
man, I'm not--
297
00:10:15,949 --> 00:10:18,675
Like, I'm just not
gonna be able to do it.
298
00:10:18,693 --> 00:10:23,029
♪ ♪
299
00:10:23,123 --> 00:10:25,106
- ♪ money, money ♪
300
00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:27,033
♪ I just can't get enough ♪
301
00:10:27,127 --> 00:10:29,276
♪ money, money ♪
302
00:10:29,371 --> 00:10:31,129
♪ I just can't give it up ♪
303
00:10:31,356 --> 00:10:32,631
- How about we start
with budget?
304
00:10:32,858 --> 00:10:35,282
Like, the things that we have
to pay on a monthly basis.
305
00:10:35,302 --> 00:10:38,637
- Okay.
- Finances/budget.
306
00:10:38,864 --> 00:10:39,863
So, like,
I'm gonna start with rent
307
00:10:39,881 --> 00:10:41,288
'cause we both have rent.
308
00:10:41,383 --> 00:10:42,456
- Exactly.
- That's easy.
309
00:10:42,550 --> 00:10:44,868
- Car note.
- Rent. Car.
310
00:10:44,886 --> 00:10:48,204
- Finances tends to always be
a touchy suspect with people,
311
00:10:48,223 --> 00:10:48,888
No matter if you make
a lot of money
312
00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:50,890
Or you make less money.
313
00:10:50,984 --> 00:10:53,376
Insurance.
- Mm-hmm.
314
00:10:53,469 --> 00:10:54,227
- And for me,
I'm more particular
315
00:10:54,321 --> 00:10:55,879
Where my money goes.
316
00:10:55,897 --> 00:10:58,715
So when it comes down to
finances with me and my wife,
317
00:10:58,733 --> 00:11:00,566
We really need to sit down
and talk
318
00:11:00,719 --> 00:11:03,310
About how we're going
to divvy up our money.
319
00:11:03,405 --> 00:11:05,479
And we need to set goals.
320
00:11:05,499 --> 00:11:07,390
And having clear communication
on how we're gonna budget
321
00:11:07,483 --> 00:11:08,892
And how we're gonna
spend our money,
322
00:11:08,985 --> 00:11:11,060
And where our money
is going to now, you know,
323
00:11:11,154 --> 00:11:13,396
Gives us a good,
clear understanding
324
00:11:13,489 --> 00:11:15,398
Of where we might
have some holes.
325
00:11:15,417 --> 00:11:17,583
Oh, bills. Like, light bill.
326
00:11:17,678 --> 00:11:19,326
- Oh, yeah.
- Yeah, right?
327
00:11:19,421 --> 00:11:21,346
You pay for wi-fi?
- Yes.
328
00:11:21,497 --> 00:11:22,405
- How much you spend
on groceries?
329
00:11:22,498 --> 00:11:23,998
- I don't have a budget
for that.
330
00:11:24,017 --> 00:11:25,833
- [laughs]
oh, you don't--
331
00:11:25,927 --> 00:11:27,352
Don't you eat the same things--
332
00:11:27,579 --> 00:11:28,502
Like, you don't know
how much you spend?
333
00:11:28,596 --> 00:11:31,748
150 for me.
$150 every three weeks.
334
00:11:31,766 --> 00:11:32,857
- I don't know.
335
00:11:33,009 --> 00:11:34,267
I generally don't think
that's that--
336
00:11:34,419 --> 00:11:36,753
- How do you not know that?
337
00:11:36,771 --> 00:11:40,256
- 60. 110. 230.
338
00:11:40,275 --> 00:11:41,866
- 230?
- 290.
339
00:11:42,018 --> 00:11:46,279
$350 I spent
in one month on groceries.
340
00:11:46,431 --> 00:11:48,114
- I'm curious, how much
do the lashes cost?
341
00:11:48,208 --> 00:11:49,766
- Irrelevant.
342
00:11:49,784 --> 00:11:52,435
♪ ♪
343
00:11:52,454 --> 00:11:55,455
- What about your shopping?
344
00:11:55,549 --> 00:11:56,622
- Well, my shopping
isn't a monthly thing.
345
00:11:56,775 --> 00:11:58,775
I don't shop every month.
- Yeah, but--
346
00:11:58,793 --> 00:12:00,385
- I shop two or three
times a year.
347
00:12:00,536 --> 00:12:02,721
- What's your budget on that?
- I don't have a budget for it.
348
00:12:02,872 --> 00:12:04,964
- It's just whatever
the card approves.
349
00:12:05,058 --> 00:12:07,208
- My card approves...
350
00:12:07,302 --> 00:12:08,801
- Everything.
- A whole lot.
351
00:12:08,954 --> 00:12:10,136
But I pay off my credit card
every month.
352
00:12:10,288 --> 00:12:11,062
I don't carry debt.
353
00:12:11,289 --> 00:12:12,789
- Okay.
354
00:12:12,882 --> 00:12:14,381
- So I definitely
have boundaries
355
00:12:14,476 --> 00:12:17,293
That encompass finances and,
you know,
356
00:12:17,312 --> 00:12:19,128
How hard I've worried to get
to the position where I am,
357
00:12:19,147 --> 00:12:21,906
I definitely don't want these
boundaries to be an issue,
358
00:12:22,133 --> 00:12:24,801
And I think,
if they were to be an issue,
359
00:12:24,819 --> 00:12:27,394
Then that would just be very
problematic for a relationship.
360
00:12:27,414 --> 00:12:29,822
- Let's get to the good stuff.
361
00:12:29,916 --> 00:12:32,399
Bank accounts.
362
00:12:32,419 --> 00:12:35,979
That's just one face id away.
363
00:12:35,997 --> 00:12:38,590
♪ ♪
364
00:12:38,741 --> 00:12:39,073
- Here's mine.
365
00:12:39,092 --> 00:12:43,836
♪ ♪
366
00:12:43,930 --> 00:12:46,914
- Okay. That's a good savings.
367
00:12:47,008 --> 00:12:49,826
That's--that's a legit savings.
368
00:12:49,919 --> 00:12:52,845
My savings is enrolled
with my 401(k).
369
00:12:52,939 --> 00:12:55,273
Me and my wife are on
370
00:12:55,424 --> 00:12:56,775
Completely different
tax brackets.
371
00:12:57,002 --> 00:12:59,002
You know, I don't think it's
a red flag for me, personally,
372
00:12:59,020 --> 00:13:02,930
Because I know--
what I bring to the table,
373
00:13:02,949 --> 00:13:06,509
I know it's sufficient for us.
374
00:13:06,602 --> 00:13:07,952
The savings that I had
from working
375
00:13:08,104 --> 00:13:11,939
Various amounts of jobs,
that money is not here.
376
00:13:12,033 --> 00:13:14,959
- Where is that?
- Back home in colombia.
377
00:13:17,522 --> 00:13:18,521
- But you still have a savings.
- Yeah.
378
00:13:18,614 --> 00:13:19,280
- Even if it's not here,
it's a savings.
379
00:13:19,299 --> 00:13:21,800
- Yeah, correct.
380
00:13:21,951 --> 00:13:22,283
- Like, you have an emergency,
you can pull that money, right?
381
00:13:22,377 --> 00:13:24,952
- Correct.
382
00:13:24,971 --> 00:13:25,970
So how much it would be here?
Or how much I sent?
383
00:13:26,122 --> 00:13:27,697
- Yeah, how much you sent?
384
00:13:27,790 --> 00:13:29,307
- You want me to show you
how much I sent?
385
00:13:29,534 --> 00:13:30,700
Okay, 'cause over there
it's, like, a lot more.
386
00:13:30,718 --> 00:13:32,126
- Yeah, how much you sent
to the savings?
387
00:13:32,145 --> 00:13:34,646
- Okay, so I've sent,
over there--savings.
388
00:13:34,873 --> 00:13:37,056
♪ ♪
389
00:13:37,208 --> 00:13:39,317
- Okay.
That's how much you sent.
390
00:13:39,468 --> 00:13:40,801
- That's how much I've sent...
- Okay.
391
00:13:40,895 --> 00:13:42,061
- Since I was 22.
392
00:13:42,213 --> 00:13:45,990
♪ ♪
393
00:13:46,142 --> 00:13:49,068
Started off really slow
when I was 22, though.
394
00:13:49,220 --> 00:13:50,720
It picked up, like--
395
00:13:50,813 --> 00:13:51,904
- Your retirement
is a little slow too.
396
00:13:52,057 --> 00:13:52,997
- Yeah.
397
00:13:53,224 --> 00:13:57,076
♪ ♪
398
00:13:57,228 --> 00:13:58,911
- I want to just make sure
it makes sense for me.
399
00:13:59,005 --> 00:14:01,005
- So what I'm thinking about
is for us to buy a home here,
400
00:14:01,232 --> 00:14:03,508
We can't touch
your savings account.
401
00:14:03,659 --> 00:14:05,009
- Correct.
402
00:14:05,236 --> 00:14:06,085
♪ ♪
403
00:14:06,179 --> 00:14:08,421
- So we need
to start from scratch.
404
00:14:08,573 --> 00:14:10,014
- Correct. Correct.
405
00:14:10,241 --> 00:14:13,518
♪ ♪
406
00:14:13,745 --> 00:14:14,853
- We're gonna have to wait
a while to get a home.
407
00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:17,272
♪ ♪
408
00:14:22,678 --> 00:14:24,011
- ♪ it's all about you ♪
409
00:14:24,030 --> 00:14:26,089
♪ and I can't
stop that feeling ♪
410
00:14:26,107 --> 00:14:27,699
♪ it's all about you ♪
411
00:14:27,926 --> 00:14:28,274
♪ and I just
can't stop dreaming ♪
412
00:14:28,426 --> 00:14:30,093
- So pretty.
413
00:14:30,111 --> 00:14:32,778
- Look at this view, though.
414
00:14:32,873 --> 00:14:35,615
- Pick a treadmill.
We got a couple to choose from.
415
00:14:35,709 --> 00:14:40,119
♪ ♪
416
00:14:40,271 --> 00:14:43,864
- Whew.
417
00:14:43,884 --> 00:14:44,865
You're gonna need a lot
of working out
418
00:14:44,885 --> 00:14:46,959
Now that you're married.
- [laughs]
419
00:14:47,112 --> 00:14:48,553
I'm hoping that I still
have time for it.
420
00:14:48,704 --> 00:14:50,722
That would probably be
a little bit of an issue.
421
00:14:50,949 --> 00:14:52,706
- [chuckles]
422
00:14:52,726 --> 00:14:54,800
- From the marriage to the
honeymoon to the moving in
423
00:14:54,953 --> 00:14:56,285
And the dogs
meeting each other,
424
00:14:56,379 --> 00:15:00,957
It's been a lot of kind of
high-stress stuff going on,
425
00:15:00,975 --> 00:15:01,974
And it's something
that I'm gonna--
426
00:15:02,127 --> 00:15:03,976
It's gonna be
on my mind daily.
427
00:15:04,070 --> 00:15:05,294
It's not anything
that I just turn off.
428
00:15:05,313 --> 00:15:06,479
♪ ♪
429
00:15:06,631 --> 00:15:09,574
Fernando, he's been
in a serious relationship
430
00:15:09,801 --> 00:15:11,225
For a long time,
and he's a new dad,
431
00:15:11,319 --> 00:15:13,227
So he's got a lot going
432
00:15:13,321 --> 00:15:17,156
That I hope to have going
for me in the near future.
433
00:15:17,308 --> 00:15:20,752
- Well, how's it going?
- Good.
434
00:15:20,903 --> 00:15:22,236
- Still just as excited
about the whole thing
435
00:15:22,330 --> 00:15:24,571
As you were on day one?
436
00:15:24,591 --> 00:15:25,815
- Yeah, I mean,
it's been a lot easier
437
00:15:25,833 --> 00:15:27,241
Than I anticipated it being.
438
00:15:27,260 --> 00:15:31,578
Nothing's been forced.
Like, conversation's been easy.
439
00:15:31,598 --> 00:15:33,172
Everything's been as easy
as it can be.
440
00:15:33,266 --> 00:15:35,082
- Yeah?
441
00:15:35,101 --> 00:15:36,826
- So.
442
00:15:36,844 --> 00:15:38,436
- How's it going?
- It's going real good.
443
00:15:38,587 --> 00:15:40,087
- How was the honeymoon?
444
00:15:40,106 --> 00:15:41,180
- The honeymoon was awesome.
- Okay.
445
00:15:41,332 --> 00:15:43,332
What was your--ah!
Favorite part?
446
00:15:43,351 --> 00:15:45,092
- I mean, it was just
spending time with ryan.
447
00:15:45,111 --> 00:15:46,836
Like, everything was--
448
00:15:46,854 --> 00:15:47,761
- Was there, like,
any activity, though?
449
00:15:47,781 --> 00:15:49,430
- Yeah, yeah. We did--
450
00:15:49,449 --> 00:15:50,097
- That, like,
you really enjoyed?
451
00:15:50,116 --> 00:15:51,340
- Spa.
452
00:15:51,359 --> 00:15:53,600
- Ooh. Yes.
453
00:15:53,620 --> 00:15:55,011
- You know I'm, like, a--
I'm, like, a relax
454
00:15:55,029 --> 00:15:56,679
On vacation kind of person.
455
00:15:56,698 --> 00:15:58,105
- That's the best way to be.
456
00:15:58,124 --> 00:16:00,349
- We're definitely different.
457
00:16:00,368 --> 00:16:01,684
- In what ways?
458
00:16:01,703 --> 00:16:04,611
- The first thing I saw was,
not a big traveler.
459
00:16:04,631 --> 00:16:08,024
I mean, she was terrified
on that plane.
460
00:16:08,042 --> 00:16:10,784
She comes across as very
high-stress, high-anxiety,
461
00:16:10,804 --> 00:16:12,470
And that is a concern of mine.
- Yeah.
462
00:16:12,697 --> 00:16:14,621
- I'm the complete
opposite of that.
463
00:16:14,641 --> 00:16:17,717
I find myself
being even more carefree
464
00:16:17,869 --> 00:16:18,534
Just to try to make light
of the situation...
465
00:16:18,627 --> 00:16:21,204
- Right.
- For her sake.
466
00:16:21,297 --> 00:16:25,374
Outside of the plane, there was
some kayak anxiety in the keys.
467
00:16:25,468 --> 00:16:28,486
Manatee! He's right under you.
468
00:16:28,637 --> 00:16:29,545
- I don't like it.
- Look, look, look.
469
00:16:29,564 --> 00:16:31,047
- I can't. I don't like it.
470
00:16:31,065 --> 00:16:33,049
- At least, like, look at it.
- I looked at it!
471
00:16:33,142 --> 00:16:34,567
Not a fan, not a fan,
not a fan.
472
00:16:34,719 --> 00:16:35,067
- It's right by you. Look down.
- I can't.
473
00:16:35,161 --> 00:16:36,828
- Look!
474
00:16:37,055 --> 00:16:38,479
- I can see it
in my peripheral vision.
475
00:16:38,498 --> 00:16:39,497
- We'll have to work on that.
476
00:16:39,648 --> 00:16:41,482
- Would I have
picked that activity?
477
00:16:41,501 --> 00:16:43,392
No.
- No.
478
00:16:43,411 --> 00:16:45,986
- Did I do it? Yes.
Would I do it again? Maybe.
479
00:16:46,006 --> 00:16:46,653
- You'll do it
if he wants you do it.
480
00:16:46,748 --> 00:16:49,156
- That's what I said.
481
00:16:49,175 --> 00:16:49,674
- Yeah, you wouldn't do it
on your own.
482
00:16:49,825 --> 00:16:51,342
- No.
- No.
483
00:16:51,494 --> 00:16:53,402
But if somebody
who you care about
484
00:16:53,421 --> 00:16:54,828
Really wants you to do it,
485
00:16:54,848 --> 00:16:55,662
You'll force yourself,
and you'll do it.
486
00:16:55,682 --> 00:16:56,922
- That's why I did it.
487
00:16:57,075 --> 00:16:57,423
- And you'll do it with a smile
on your face.
488
00:16:57,575 --> 00:16:59,350
- I did it.
489
00:16:59,502 --> 00:17:00,167
- Have you guys been
intimate yet?
490
00:17:00,186 --> 00:17:01,927
- We have not.
491
00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,080
I mean, we're affectionate,
to an extent.
492
00:17:04,173 --> 00:17:06,006
That was all comfortable
and easy.
493
00:17:06,026 --> 00:17:08,768
And we've stayed
in the same bed every night.
494
00:17:08,862 --> 00:17:12,421
- So do you feel as though
the attraction's there?
495
00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:15,199
How'd you like seeing him
shirtless on the beach?
496
00:17:15,426 --> 00:17:18,094
I don't know, I'm just saying,
you get to--
497
00:17:18,112 --> 00:17:19,945
- Keep telling him he's like
an action figure.
498
00:17:20,098 --> 00:17:21,522
♪ ♪
499
00:17:21,616 --> 00:17:23,690
In a kayak, on a paddleboard,
500
00:17:23,710 --> 00:17:26,269
On a beach--it's "baywatch,"
you know?
501
00:17:26,362 --> 00:17:29,047
- ♪ I like your t-shirt ♪
502
00:17:29,274 --> 00:17:30,606
♪ would you mind
if I take it off? ♪
503
00:17:30,625 --> 00:17:32,366
♪ ♪
504
00:17:32,460 --> 00:17:36,279
- So attraction's there.
- Yes.
505
00:17:36,297 --> 00:17:39,206
- Do you think he--has he said,
like, he feels the same way?
506
00:17:39,300 --> 00:17:40,541
- Yeah.
- Okay.
507
00:17:40,635 --> 00:17:41,617
- Mm-hmm.
- That's good.
508
00:17:41,636 --> 00:17:43,895
- I don't think
that's a problem.
509
00:17:44,046 --> 00:17:45,546
- Attraction is there.
- Yeah.
510
00:17:45,565 --> 00:17:47,714
And for me, it's been growing.
511
00:17:47,734 --> 00:17:49,642
- Mm-hmm?
- A lot.
512
00:17:49,794 --> 00:17:51,235
- It is growing, and I hope
that does continue to grow.
513
00:17:51,462 --> 00:17:53,571
- Wow.
514
00:17:53,722 --> 00:17:56,148
- 'cause she's
an attractive woman.
515
00:17:56,242 --> 00:17:58,651
There's just, there's
so many things to consider.
516
00:17:58,803 --> 00:18:00,394
I mean, it's a huge,
huge thing.
517
00:18:00,413 --> 00:18:02,229
- Yeah.
- Like, this is my marriage.
518
00:18:02,248 --> 00:18:03,748
- Right.
519
00:18:03,975 --> 00:18:05,566
- There's a lot of positives
about it.
520
00:18:05,585 --> 00:18:09,478
I'm seeing more and more
positives every day.
521
00:18:09,572 --> 00:18:12,998
Arms are gonna be
useless tomorrow.
522
00:18:13,151 --> 00:18:14,884
- Well, you'll look sexy
for your new wife.
523
00:18:18,264 --> 00:18:20,323
- ♪ so I'm following
my heart now ♪
524
00:18:20,416 --> 00:18:22,416
♪ deeper than I've done ♪
525
00:18:22,435 --> 00:18:24,493
♪ it's probably gonna hurt
when I hit the bottom ♪
526
00:18:24,587 --> 00:18:28,088
♪ but maybe it'll be
worth it ♪
527
00:18:28,108 --> 00:18:29,756
- And we have all this space
to ourselves.
528
00:18:29,776 --> 00:18:31,609
- It's a nice place.
- You like it?
529
00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:32,351
- It is.
- It's nice, huh?
530
00:18:32,445 --> 00:18:35,262
Going into the marriage,
531
00:18:35,281 --> 00:18:37,615
I already had so many
positive thoughts about johnny,
532
00:18:37,766 --> 00:18:40,025
And he expressed the same.
533
00:18:40,120 --> 00:18:42,361
But because we're diving
in deep so quickly,
534
00:18:42,513 --> 00:18:45,272
I feel like now
we're having to learn
535
00:18:45,291 --> 00:18:47,683
That we're both not perfect
and we have our flaws
536
00:18:47,702 --> 00:18:50,277
And we have our boundaries
that we need to establish.
537
00:18:50,296 --> 00:18:53,923
So you know my husband,
johnny lam.
538
00:18:56,361 --> 00:18:57,526
It's just so weird
to say, actually.
539
00:18:57,545 --> 00:19:01,622
Like, every day I wake up
and he's next to me,
540
00:19:01,641 --> 00:19:02,381
And I turn over, and I'm like,
"I'm married to johnny lam."
541
00:19:02,475 --> 00:19:04,642
- That is crazy.
542
00:19:04,793 --> 00:19:05,718
- It's just so bizarre,
you know?
543
00:19:05,870 --> 00:19:07,536
- Yeah.
- Like--like, I know him.
544
00:19:07,555 --> 00:19:08,795
He knows me.
545
00:19:08,890 --> 00:19:11,798
- I was worried that,
in your head, you thought,
546
00:19:11,818 --> 00:19:12,875
"I'm gonna marry a stranger."
547
00:19:12,894 --> 00:19:15,227
- Yeah.
- And then you saw johnny.
548
00:19:15,380 --> 00:19:16,637
And I was just like,
549
00:19:16,656 --> 00:19:17,655
"she's gonna have
a moment of, like,
550
00:19:17,882 --> 00:19:19,231
'this is not what
I signed up for.'"
551
00:19:19,384 --> 00:19:20,232
- Honestly, though,
as soon as I saw him...
552
00:19:20,326 --> 00:19:22,160
- Yeah.
553
00:19:22,387 --> 00:19:23,477
- It was a shock moment,
and a moment of,
554
00:19:23,496 --> 00:19:25,404
Like, "oh my god."
555
00:19:25,498 --> 00:19:30,559
You know, everything I know
of him just spun immediately,
556
00:19:30,578 --> 00:19:32,503
And I had a moment of doubt.
557
00:19:32,655 --> 00:19:35,339
Just that second was just,
like, "johnny, the party boy.
558
00:19:35,566 --> 00:19:39,585
"johnny, the frat guy.
Johnny, the bro. Johnny"--
559
00:19:39,737 --> 00:19:41,995
Like, a lot of negativity
in that moment,
560
00:19:42,015 --> 00:19:43,664
Just because it's, like, wait,
my expectation was,
561
00:19:43,683 --> 00:19:45,165
I would be matched
with someone I don't know
562
00:19:45,185 --> 00:19:47,334
That's the perfect match
for me.
563
00:19:47,353 --> 00:19:49,503
But everything that I know
of him, some of it is great,
564
00:19:49,522 --> 00:19:51,355
But there's some disconnect
here in my head.
565
00:19:51,507 --> 00:19:54,099
So it's just like, "wait."
566
00:19:54,194 --> 00:19:56,752
But every step towards
the altar, I started thinking,
567
00:19:56,771 --> 00:19:59,588
"I get it. It makes sense."
568
00:19:59,607 --> 00:20:02,091
I mean, I'm so introverted.
569
00:20:02,109 --> 00:20:04,351
He's so outgoing
and extroverted and friendly.
570
00:20:04,445 --> 00:20:06,353
I'm guarded. He's open.
571
00:20:06,372 --> 00:20:07,854
There's some things there
that I'm like,
572
00:20:07,874 --> 00:20:09,932
I see the complementary
pieces of it.
573
00:20:09,951 --> 00:20:11,692
And then, on the honeymoon,
574
00:20:11,711 --> 00:20:12,935
When we started
having disagreements,
575
00:20:12,954 --> 00:20:15,938
And we both kind of reacted
differently--
576
00:20:15,957 --> 00:20:18,290
He's a little dismissive.
577
00:20:18,384 --> 00:20:20,701
Like, he just doesn't take
a lot of stuff seriously.
578
00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:21,702
- I think there's
a lot of pressure.
579
00:20:21,721 --> 00:20:23,888
- Definitely.
580
00:20:24,039 --> 00:20:25,614
- Because, when you spend
so long not thinking about
581
00:20:25,708 --> 00:20:26,782
Another person's perspective--
582
00:20:26,875 --> 00:20:30,043
He's been alone
for how many years now?
583
00:20:30,137 --> 00:20:31,954
- Eight.
- Eight years.
584
00:20:31,973 --> 00:20:33,564
He hasn't really dated anybody
for a long time.
585
00:20:33,791 --> 00:20:35,882
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
- Nothing serious.
586
00:20:35,902 --> 00:20:37,568
So even though
he wants to try, like,
587
00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:39,904
It takes
a little bit of time to--
588
00:20:40,055 --> 00:20:41,630
- Yeah.
- To get used to that, right?
589
00:20:41,649 --> 00:20:43,983
To not think so selfishly.
590
00:20:44,135 --> 00:20:45,892
- There's sometimes
a disconnect
591
00:20:45,912 --> 00:20:47,303
Between what he says he wants
592
00:20:47,396 --> 00:20:51,749
And what he actually,
like, demonstrates, in a way.
593
00:20:51,900 --> 00:20:53,251
Like, he'll tell me he's still
in it, he's not giving up.
594
00:20:53,478 --> 00:20:55,068
- Right.
595
00:20:55,088 --> 00:20:57,146
- But I can see
when he gets deflated,
596
00:20:57,239 --> 00:20:58,314
And it affects
our communication.
597
00:20:58,332 --> 00:21:01,150
- I see.
- You know? He just shuts down.
598
00:21:01,168 --> 00:21:02,593
And just a couple days ago,
599
00:21:02,820 --> 00:21:05,912
He told me that
he needs time apart
600
00:21:05,932 --> 00:21:08,081
Because he still needs
to process.
601
00:21:08,101 --> 00:21:10,083
And I was like,
"why do you do that?
602
00:21:10,103 --> 00:21:12,085
You know, you're married now.
It should be different."
603
00:21:12,105 --> 00:21:13,512
And johnny was like, "it was
the reset that I needed."
604
00:21:13,606 --> 00:21:18,667
I'm like, "I didn't need
no [bleep] reset, okay?"
605
00:21:18,686 --> 00:21:19,777
- Some guys just withdraw.
606
00:21:19,928 --> 00:21:22,113
Like, it's not because--
607
00:21:22,264 --> 00:21:23,355
It's not that
they're not into it.
608
00:21:23,508 --> 00:21:24,931
- Mm-hmm.
- It's not like they're trying.
609
00:21:24,951 --> 00:21:26,692
It's just that they need
a little bit of time
610
00:21:26,786 --> 00:21:30,121
Just to withdraw and get
their thoughts into things.
611
00:21:30,348 --> 00:21:32,606
But that doesn't mean
he's not committed, right?
612
00:21:32,625 --> 00:21:34,016
I mean, especially if you
haven't been with somebody
613
00:21:34,035 --> 00:21:36,368
For eight years, it's tough.
614
00:21:36,521 --> 00:21:37,611
- I mean, overall,
I still think
615
00:21:37,630 --> 00:21:39,279
That we were matched
for the right reasons.
616
00:21:39,299 --> 00:21:42,449
- Yeah.
- I'm still super optimistic.
617
00:21:42,468 --> 00:21:44,785
I'm not the one
ducking and running.
618
00:21:44,804 --> 00:21:47,530
- You think, if anyone ducks
and runs, it'll be johnny?
619
00:21:47,548 --> 00:21:49,548
- It would be johnny. Yeah.
620
00:21:49,642 --> 00:21:51,309
- ♪ oh, oh ♪
621
00:21:56,223 --> 00:21:57,315
♪ when we get free ♪
622
00:21:57,466 --> 00:21:59,299
♪ we're eternity ♪
623
00:21:59,319 --> 00:22:01,134
♪ let's hold on forever ♪
624
00:22:01,228 --> 00:22:02,803
- It's so good to see you.
625
00:22:02,822 --> 00:22:03,729
- Oh, my god.
626
00:22:03,881 --> 00:22:05,898
- It's been so long.
- So long.
627
00:22:06,050 --> 00:22:07,474
- What's up, fellas?
628
00:22:07,493 --> 00:22:08,809
- What up, what up?
- Missed you guys.
629
00:22:08,903 --> 00:22:10,069
- Hey. Missed you too, bro.
Glad to have you back.
630
00:22:10,221 --> 00:22:11,236
- Missed you too.
- What up, man?
631
00:22:11,389 --> 00:22:12,571
- Zack.
632
00:22:12,723 --> 00:22:14,332
- What up, man?
Long time no see.
633
00:22:14,483 --> 00:22:16,817
- Johnny boy.
- I'm feeling good.
634
00:22:16,836 --> 00:22:17,818
Being able to hang out
with the guys,
635
00:22:17,912 --> 00:22:20,245
I always feel like
this is like war,
636
00:22:20,398 --> 00:22:21,505
And these guys are
in the trenches with me,
637
00:22:21,732 --> 00:22:23,490
So I'm really glad
that we can hang out
638
00:22:23,509 --> 00:22:24,991
And just talk about
where we're at.
639
00:22:25,011 --> 00:22:26,159
- Open and honest.
- Open and honest.
640
00:22:26,253 --> 00:22:26,844
- Two weeks.
- Yeah!
641
00:22:27,071 --> 00:22:29,180
- Open and honest. Hey.
642
00:22:29,331 --> 00:22:30,589
- Salud, salud, salud, salud.
- Come on, man.
643
00:22:30,683 --> 00:22:31,998
- Absolutely.
644
00:22:32,093 --> 00:22:35,019
- So what are you guys
doing for your housewarming?
645
00:22:35,246 --> 00:22:38,080
- I'm latino, man.
We're going pura fiesta, man.
646
00:22:38,099 --> 00:22:39,598
- [scoffs]
- so, yeah, bro.
647
00:22:39,692 --> 00:22:41,842
Really excited about it.
It's gonna be kind of cool.
648
00:22:41,936 --> 00:22:43,844
So it's, like, a mexican theme.
649
00:22:43,863 --> 00:22:44,845
- Nice.
- Y'all know I love brunch.
650
00:22:44,864 --> 00:22:46,364
- Yes.
- Uh-huh.
651
00:22:46,515 --> 00:22:47,848
- And so I'm ordering
from lucille's.
652
00:22:47,867 --> 00:22:49,683
- Wow!
- Ooh.
653
00:22:49,702 --> 00:22:50,759
- That's why she was in the gym
with me this morning,
654
00:22:50,778 --> 00:22:52,185
So she can eat this food.
655
00:22:52,205 --> 00:22:53,353
- That's why I was in the gym,
656
00:22:53,373 --> 00:22:54,855
So I can eat
the freaking mac and cheese
657
00:22:54,874 --> 00:22:56,040
And the freaking
croissant french toast.
658
00:22:56,191 --> 00:22:57,375
- We were thinking just
island-themed,
659
00:22:57,526 --> 00:22:57,950
Because it was--
660
00:22:58,102 --> 00:23:00,044
Well, why not?
661
00:23:00,271 --> 00:23:01,270
'cause we kind of went
to an island a little bit,
662
00:23:01,363 --> 00:23:02,213
The florida keys,
kind of, sort of.
663
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:03,864
It was like, okay,
let's do island--
664
00:23:03,883 --> 00:23:05,624
- Bao, you stop right there.
We did not go to the islands.
665
00:23:05,776 --> 00:23:07,367
But okay.
666
00:23:07,387 --> 00:23:09,612
- It's not hawaii,
but it was island-y.
667
00:23:09,630 --> 00:23:11,222
- You're gonna like my deal.
668
00:23:11,449 --> 00:23:12,539
I got some boudin
coming from lake charles.
669
00:23:12,558 --> 00:23:14,541
- Okay.
- Hey!
670
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,452
- I got some frozen daiquiris
coming.
671
00:23:16,470 --> 00:23:18,211
Some real frozen daiquiris.
672
00:23:18,231 --> 00:23:19,212
- Hey, but do you got
the crawfish coming, though?
673
00:23:19,306 --> 00:23:20,881
- No crawfish.
- Aw.
674
00:23:20,900 --> 00:23:22,066
- I got the more
impressive charcuterie board
675
00:23:22,217 --> 00:23:23,550
You've ever seen coming.
676
00:23:23,644 --> 00:23:24,793
- Yes!
- Cool, cool.
677
00:23:24,812 --> 00:23:25,978
- Tough question.
- Yeah.
678
00:23:26,130 --> 00:23:27,721
- Married life--
what you expected?
679
00:23:27,740 --> 00:23:29,740
Different than what
you expected?
680
00:23:32,561 --> 00:23:33,652
- I think the expectations were
far beyond what I expected
681
00:23:33,804 --> 00:23:36,062
In regards
to just the chemistry,
682
00:23:36,082 --> 00:23:38,398
The connection and all--
you know, I mean,
683
00:23:38,492 --> 00:23:40,584
We really can't, honestly,
keep our hands off each other.
684
00:23:40,811 --> 00:23:42,903
- I was literally--
I was gonna interject.
685
00:23:42,922 --> 00:23:44,163
So you didn't see it,
686
00:23:44,257 --> 00:23:46,239
But they can't keep
their hands off each other.
687
00:23:46,259 --> 00:23:47,240
- Yeah, if she was here,
they would have already kissed
688
00:23:47,334 --> 00:23:49,485
Maybe, like, ten times.
689
00:23:49,578 --> 00:23:50,502
- ♪ what's my favorite word? ♪
690
00:23:50,596 --> 00:23:52,596
♪ always ♪
691
00:23:52,748 --> 00:23:54,673
♪ all-all-all-always ♪
692
00:23:54,767 --> 00:23:57,083
♪ always, always ♪
693
00:23:57,103 --> 00:24:00,587
♪ always, always ♪
694
00:24:00,606 --> 00:24:02,181
- That's we're talking about.
- Yeah!
695
00:24:02,275 --> 00:24:02,681
- You guys haven't--
- he feeds her. He feeds her.
696
00:24:02,833 --> 00:24:04,925
- I do.
697
00:24:04,944 --> 00:24:06,092
- What?
- Bro.
698
00:24:06,187 --> 00:24:07,519
- I do, man! I do, man!
699
00:24:07,672 --> 00:24:09,521
- Well, he feeds her against
her will, I think, right?
700
00:24:09,615 --> 00:24:10,931
[laughter]
701
00:24:11,025 --> 00:24:14,118
- Talk to us. Are you okay?
Is your husband here?
702
00:24:14,269 --> 00:24:15,360
Like, what's going on?
703
00:24:15,513 --> 00:24:19,606
- My husband is here.
He's clear of covid.
704
00:24:19,700 --> 00:24:22,534
We're getting through it.
705
00:24:22,687 --> 00:24:23,368
You know, sickness--
through sickness and health.
706
00:24:23,521 --> 00:24:24,853
- Yeah.
707
00:24:24,872 --> 00:24:26,446
- We kind of got that [bleep],
like, next day.
708
00:24:26,466 --> 00:24:27,465
- They were like,
"we're gonna test it.
709
00:24:27,616 --> 00:24:28,966
Right now."
- but we're still here.
710
00:24:29,193 --> 00:24:31,710
So--but things are--
things are okay.
711
00:24:31,862 --> 00:24:35,789
Zack and I had an epic fight.
712
00:24:35,883 --> 00:24:38,625
You never came back.
713
00:24:38,644 --> 00:24:39,885
- I came back here
at, like, 9:15.
714
00:24:39,979 --> 00:24:41,145
- [bleep]. Nope.
715
00:24:41,372 --> 00:24:42,646
I was not gone at 9:15.
You are goddamn lying.
716
00:24:42,873 --> 00:24:45,040
- Okay, okay, okay,
okay, okay, okay.
717
00:24:45,133 --> 00:24:45,649
- You are goddamn
[bleep] lying.
718
00:24:45,801 --> 00:24:48,560
- [bleep].
719
00:24:48,654 --> 00:24:50,062
- But I don't want to share
what's happening
720
00:24:50,214 --> 00:24:51,880
With me and zack,
because I'm still in it
721
00:24:51,974 --> 00:24:53,899
And still trying
to figure it out.
722
00:24:54,051 --> 00:24:55,400
How are you guys doing?
How's everything?
723
00:24:55,495 --> 00:24:56,735
- I'm good. Yeah.
724
00:24:56,887 --> 00:24:57,978
- It's been a tough week,
an adjustment, for sure.
725
00:24:57,997 --> 00:25:01,056
- I will say it's been a long,
tough week.
726
00:25:01,075 --> 00:25:02,391
Like, you know, just the
adjusting of, like, the times.
727
00:25:02,409 --> 00:25:04,076
- The schedules and stuff.
728
00:25:04,170 --> 00:25:06,411
- And the new home and
the no food in the fridge yet.
729
00:25:06,506 --> 00:25:07,654
- I think, to me, it feels
a little hotel-ish still.
730
00:25:07,748 --> 00:25:09,398
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
731
00:25:09,416 --> 00:25:10,508
- 'cause you don't have
all your stuff.
732
00:25:10,659 --> 00:25:11,675
- Not that home feeling yet.
Yeah.
733
00:25:11,827 --> 00:25:13,177
- So, like, the home
feeling isn't there.
734
00:25:13,328 --> 00:25:15,346
- But as far as, like,
735
00:25:15,573 --> 00:25:16,755
Being with ryan
in the apartment, that's great.
736
00:25:16,849 --> 00:25:18,590
Like, that's, like,
the whole point, right?
737
00:25:18,684 --> 00:25:20,500
- Yeah.
- Is to...
738
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:21,519
- That's probably been
the easiest, at least for me.
739
00:25:21,746 --> 00:25:22,186
- That's the
easiest part for me too.
740
00:25:22,337 --> 00:25:24,580
- No scary habits.
741
00:25:24,598 --> 00:25:25,748
Nothing--you know, no red flags
or anything for me.
742
00:25:25,766 --> 00:25:26,932
- Well, not yet.
- Not yet.
743
00:25:27,026 --> 00:25:27,766
[laughter]
744
00:25:27,860 --> 00:25:30,419
- What about you?
745
00:25:30,512 --> 00:25:31,086
- I think she's cool as hell.
746
00:25:31,105 --> 00:25:33,513
Like--
- yeah.
747
00:25:33,533 --> 00:25:34,940
- But it's still kind of, like,
a dating/friend thing.
748
00:25:35,034 --> 00:25:36,867
- Correct.
749
00:25:37,019 --> 00:25:39,094
- And that's something that
we're gonna have to work on.
750
00:25:39,113 --> 00:25:40,279
- That's--I mean, I think,
we're, like--
751
00:25:40,431 --> 00:25:42,097
We're around there too.
- Yeah.
752
00:25:42,190 --> 00:25:43,265
- Mainly with her,
because, like,
753
00:25:43,358 --> 00:25:44,024
I still haven't
even got a kiss.
754
00:25:44,118 --> 00:25:45,692
- Really?
- Yeah.
755
00:25:45,711 --> 00:25:47,936
- Oh, damn.
- Not on the lips or nothing.
756
00:25:48,030 --> 00:25:48,862
- Dang.
- I mean, on the cheek.
757
00:25:48,956 --> 00:25:50,105
- Does that bother you, though?
758
00:25:50,124 --> 00:25:51,364
Like, how do you
feel about that?
759
00:25:51,384 --> 00:25:52,608
- Still--nah, it's not
bothering me yet.
760
00:25:52,701 --> 00:25:54,626
- He's lying.
- I think eventually it will.
761
00:25:54,779 --> 00:25:56,612
It will--it's like
one of those ingrown hairs
762
00:25:56,630 --> 00:25:58,222
That, it's small,
it starts off a little bit.
763
00:25:58,449 --> 00:25:59,390
- So at which point, though,
are you like,
764
00:25:59,541 --> 00:26:00,783
"okay, this is--
I can't do this anymore"?
765
00:26:00,801 --> 00:26:01,950
- I don't know.
- You know what I mean?
766
00:26:01,969 --> 00:26:03,376
- I don't know.
That's a good question.
767
00:26:03,396 --> 00:26:04,620
- 'cause you're gonna
reach that point.
768
00:26:04,713 --> 00:26:05,896
- I am; I just don't know
when it's gonna be.
769
00:26:06,048 --> 00:26:07,547
- Yeah.
- Like, right now, it's cool.
770
00:26:07,567 --> 00:26:09,215
- Have you met with cal yet?
- Yeah.
771
00:26:09,235 --> 00:26:12,052
Yeah. And he was surprised.
- Yeah.
772
00:26:12,071 --> 00:26:13,386
- He was like,
"man, not even a peck?"
773
00:26:13,406 --> 00:26:14,387
- Yeah.
- And he was--she was like--
774
00:26:14,481 --> 00:26:16,648
- I bet he grilled her.
775
00:26:16,742 --> 00:26:19,559
- Yeah, he got on her.
He got on her. So we'll see.
776
00:26:19,579 --> 00:26:20,244
I mean, we talking
about a future, so obviously...
777
00:26:20,395 --> 00:26:21,912
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
778
00:26:22,064 --> 00:26:23,488
- There's something there.
- Yeah.
779
00:26:23,583 --> 00:26:25,583
- It's just, whenever she
comes around and is ready.
780
00:26:25,810 --> 00:26:26,992
- You know that ryan
lost five bucks to me.
781
00:26:27,086 --> 00:26:29,569
- What?
782
00:26:29,589 --> 00:26:32,314
- 'cause we had a bet about you
and gil having a kiss.
783
00:26:32,333 --> 00:26:33,332
And y'all didn't, so I won.
784
00:26:33,426 --> 00:26:35,818
'cause I said,
"no, she's not going to."
785
00:26:35,836 --> 00:26:37,428
- Wait, have you? Still not?
786
00:26:37,579 --> 00:26:39,504
- Taking it slow.
- Wow.
787
00:26:39,657 --> 00:26:40,914
- I could not imagine
not having
788
00:26:40,933 --> 00:26:41,915
Kissed my husband
at this point.
789
00:26:42,009 --> 00:26:45,752
It's, like, living with someone
790
00:26:45,771 --> 00:26:47,420
And being with someone
all the time,
791
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,682
It does accelerate
the feelings for me.
792
00:26:50,835 --> 00:26:53,760
Yay or nay on if you guys have
consummated your marriage yet?
793
00:26:53,779 --> 00:26:56,614
- Nay.
794
00:26:56,765 --> 00:26:57,615
- I don't feel like
that's public information.
795
00:26:57,766 --> 00:26:59,950
[laughter]
796
00:27:00,177 --> 00:27:02,268
- Michaela's gonna get mad
at me for saying this,
797
00:27:02,288 --> 00:27:03,195
But yeah, we obviously
have been intimate.
798
00:27:03,289 --> 00:27:04,955
- You've been back
for two days!
799
00:27:05,182 --> 00:27:08,684
Through covid and everything?
In a bubble?
800
00:27:08,777 --> 00:27:11,462
- It was pre-covid.
- Golly!
801
00:27:11,689 --> 00:27:14,298
- It was pre-covid.
- Had hazmat suits on?
802
00:27:14,525 --> 00:27:16,282
- You know,
we just kind of connect.
803
00:27:16,302 --> 00:27:17,192
- You're married,
so nothing against it.
804
00:27:17,285 --> 00:27:18,451
- Absolutely, man.
- Yeah.
805
00:27:18,545 --> 00:27:20,379
- Hey, that's awesome, brother.
- Yeah. Yeah.
806
00:27:20,473 --> 00:27:22,455
She gonna be mad at me
when she sees this [bleep].
807
00:27:22,549 --> 00:27:23,474
What about you, johnny?
808
00:27:28,038 --> 00:27:31,890
- It feels like
we're friendly right now.
809
00:27:31,984 --> 00:27:33,651
- Yeah.
810
00:27:33,878 --> 00:27:35,468
- Like, almost like
I'm dating a friend.
811
00:27:35,488 --> 00:27:37,821
- You feel like
you're friend-zoned?
812
00:27:38,048 --> 00:27:40,716
- Does she feel like
she's friend-zoned?
813
00:27:40,809 --> 00:27:42,308
- She brought that up,
actually.
814
00:27:42,328 --> 00:27:45,496
She feels like
she is making advances,
815
00:27:45,647 --> 00:27:47,981
And I'm not reciprocating.
816
00:27:48,075 --> 00:27:52,744
But it's because I kind of feel
a little friendly right now.
817
00:27:52,897 --> 00:27:54,654
- Let's hit in, I guess,
multiple areas real quick.
818
00:27:54,674 --> 00:27:55,005
So, you're attracted
to her, right?
819
00:27:55,232 --> 00:27:55,747
Yes or no?
820
00:27:55,900 --> 00:27:59,826
♪ ♪
821
00:27:59,920 --> 00:28:01,236
- Somewhat.
- Yeah.
822
00:28:01,255 --> 00:28:02,237
- You know?
- What?
823
00:28:02,256 --> 00:28:04,589
Like, what does that mean?
Like--
824
00:28:04,742 --> 00:28:05,849
- It's just she's not--
she's not my type.
825
00:28:06,001 --> 00:28:07,500
- And that's okay.
826
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:08,334
But you have
some attraction to her.
827
00:28:08,429 --> 00:28:09,745
- Yeah.
- Okay.
828
00:28:09,763 --> 00:28:11,337
- Like, physically,
I'm attracted to her, right?
829
00:28:11,357 --> 00:28:12,356
Like, she's got the body type
I like.
830
00:28:12,507 --> 00:28:14,692
You know, she's cute.
- Yeah.
831
00:28:14,843 --> 00:28:16,935
- But type-wise--okay, so,
let's dig into that.
832
00:28:17,029 --> 00:28:19,512
Like, what you mean by type?
- My personality type.
833
00:28:19,532 --> 00:28:21,699
Like, I'm drawn to, like,
a certain type of personality.
834
00:28:21,926 --> 00:28:22,849
- We're on the same--
I got your back.
835
00:28:22,868 --> 00:28:23,425
We're on the--
- that makes sense.
836
00:28:23,444 --> 00:28:25,351
And that's okay.
837
00:28:25,371 --> 00:28:27,112
So have you talked
to her about this?
838
00:28:27,264 --> 00:28:29,689
'cause I've had a conversation
with my wife.
839
00:28:29,709 --> 00:28:31,024
Was like, am I the type of guy
840
00:28:31,043 --> 00:28:31,950
She would she would
normally date?
841
00:28:32,102 --> 00:28:34,603
She said no.
842
00:28:34,621 --> 00:28:37,439
And I said, "if I knew somebody
that knew of you,
843
00:28:37,458 --> 00:28:38,957
"and they told me about you,
844
00:28:39,051 --> 00:28:41,126
There's no way in the world
I'd ever talk to you."
845
00:28:41,278 --> 00:28:42,219
I told her
straight up like that.
846
00:28:42,370 --> 00:28:43,946
- I'm in the same boat
with you.
847
00:28:43,964 --> 00:28:46,039
- I told her the same thing.
But I'm happy with her.
848
00:28:46,058 --> 00:28:50,728
I just feel like johnny might
be so used to a certain type
849
00:28:50,879 --> 00:28:53,622
That he doesn't understand that
what's good for him, you know,
850
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,958
And what he needs
in the long run.
851
00:28:55,976 --> 00:28:58,143
The experts obviously
set them up for a reason.
852
00:28:58,295 --> 00:29:01,405
They might have seen something
that he's missing,
853
00:29:01,556 --> 00:29:03,223
And bao might be
what he's missing.
854
00:29:03,242 --> 00:29:04,649
But he doesn't
see it right now.
855
00:29:04,802 --> 00:29:05,984
♪ ♪
856
00:29:06,136 --> 00:29:09,638
- I feel like he has
some commitment issues.
857
00:29:09,656 --> 00:29:11,415
Johnny defaults to a checklist.
- Yeah.
858
00:29:11,566 --> 00:29:13,566
- So you know, he--
859
00:29:13,586 --> 00:29:15,753
The first little conflict,
he decides to go,
860
00:29:15,980 --> 00:29:17,737
"okay, you know,
dismiss that person.
861
00:29:17,757 --> 00:29:19,590
"swipe, you know,
right on someone else.
862
00:29:19,741 --> 00:29:21,574
You can just keep moving on
to the next date."
863
00:29:21,668 --> 00:29:23,409
But at which point do you stop?
864
00:29:23,429 --> 00:29:25,670
And he said the reason why is
because he has--in his mind,
865
00:29:25,765 --> 00:29:28,081
He has a checklist
of what he needs for a wife.
866
00:29:28,100 --> 00:29:29,174
And so he thought
this process--
867
00:29:29,326 --> 00:29:30,750
You know, that he'd get
868
00:29:30,770 --> 00:29:32,494
The perfect person,
because we'd be
869
00:29:32,513 --> 00:29:34,921
So better matched
and get more of those checks.
870
00:29:34,940 --> 00:29:36,089
But then, you know, oh, we get
in an agreement, ooh,
871
00:29:36,108 --> 00:29:39,259
That's not
what was in the checklist.
872
00:29:39,278 --> 00:29:40,519
- The checklist
goes out the window
873
00:29:40,671 --> 00:29:42,170
When you're
matched and married,
874
00:29:42,189 --> 00:29:45,932
Because at that point,
it's just, you have to accept.
875
00:29:45,951 --> 00:29:47,676
- Mm-hmm. Nobody's perfect.
- Yeah.
876
00:29:47,694 --> 00:29:49,011
- You're never gonna find
a perfect marriage,
877
00:29:49,029 --> 00:29:50,120
And you're never
gonna find a perfect mate.
878
00:29:50,272 --> 00:29:52,364
- Oh, my gosh, yeah.
879
00:29:52,516 --> 00:29:54,699
- We match couples that
we believe have the qualities
880
00:29:54,852 --> 00:29:57,686
To build
a successful relationship.
881
00:29:57,704 --> 00:29:59,354
But that doesn't mean
that we expect couples
882
00:29:59,373 --> 00:30:01,948
To be a perfect match.
883
00:30:01,967 --> 00:30:04,450
We expect that there will be
differences and struggles
884
00:30:04,470 --> 00:30:06,119
That the couples will need
to navigate
885
00:30:06,213 --> 00:30:07,805
Because it's overcoming
886
00:30:08,032 --> 00:30:09,306
These differences
and struggles
887
00:30:09,533 --> 00:30:13,126
That helps create a foundation
for a successful marriage.
888
00:30:13,220 --> 00:30:15,203
- But--and that's why I kind of
raised the flag of, okay,
889
00:30:15,297 --> 00:30:15,979
Where do we see
that the experts
890
00:30:16,131 --> 00:30:18,798
Kind of matched us, right?
891
00:30:18,818 --> 00:30:20,892
Yeah, there might be a little,
okay, give and take.
892
00:30:20,986 --> 00:30:22,635
- Yeah.
893
00:30:22,655 --> 00:30:24,062
- But that's in everything,
right?
894
00:30:24,156 --> 00:30:28,826
But you can grow together
and break those boundaries.
895
00:30:28,977 --> 00:30:29,976
But it's gonna take
some time, though.
896
00:30:29,995 --> 00:30:31,311
- You gotta be willing
to be patient.
897
00:30:31,330 --> 00:30:32,721
- That's it.
- That's what you get.
898
00:30:32,739 --> 00:30:35,499
- But see--but listen to us
talk about this, though.
899
00:30:35,650 --> 00:30:37,075
But what if it just
doesn't work?
900
00:30:37,169 --> 00:30:38,151
Like, you know what I mean?
What if, like--
901
00:30:38,170 --> 00:30:40,228
- No. It can.
902
00:30:40,247 --> 00:30:41,821
You're right, that can be--
that can be the answer.
903
00:30:41,841 --> 00:30:43,507
And always, it doesn't work.
- Yeah.
904
00:30:43,658 --> 00:30:44,900
I understand
this is very hard,
905
00:30:44,918 --> 00:30:46,659
Because I'm going through
the same thing.
906
00:30:46,753 --> 00:30:48,587
You know, he's kind of going
through some inner turmoil.
907
00:30:48,739 --> 00:30:50,180
But he's trying. He's willing.
908
00:30:50,332 --> 00:30:52,757
And so the fact that he's open
and honest about, you know,
909
00:30:52,910 --> 00:30:54,092
His true feelings
about his wife,
910
00:30:54,186 --> 00:30:57,003
I really respect that,
and I honestly love that.
911
00:30:57,022 --> 00:30:58,413
- We all came into this
with the same intentions--
912
00:30:58,432 --> 00:30:59,672
Making this work.
913
00:30:59,692 --> 00:31:01,007
We all thought we'd be having
914
00:31:01,026 --> 00:31:02,175
Some type of differences
in the beginning.
915
00:31:02,269 --> 00:31:03,602
- Sure.
- Yeah.
916
00:31:03,754 --> 00:31:05,678
- But you gotta try.
- Yeah.
917
00:31:05,698 --> 00:31:08,181
- You know, you can't just say
it's not gonna work.
918
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:12,703
- I thought I was ready
when I agreed to get married.
919
00:31:25,292 --> 00:31:27,442
But maybe I wasn't ready.
920
00:31:27,461 --> 00:31:29,052
♪ ♪
921
00:31:29,204 --> 00:31:30,128
That's hard to say.
922
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:37,728
♪ ♪
923
00:31:41,625 --> 00:31:43,458
And now I'm married to bao.
[laughs]
924
00:31:43,477 --> 00:31:47,720
♪ ♪
925
00:31:47,814 --> 00:31:49,631
And maybe I came into this
not being ready to be married,
926
00:31:49,724 --> 00:31:51,224
And now she's married to me.
927
00:31:51,318 --> 00:31:54,636
And now she's [bleep].
[laughs]
928
00:31:54,729 --> 00:31:56,321
Because I'm [bleep].
[laughs]
929
00:31:56,473 --> 00:32:03,211
♪ ♪
930
00:32:08,576 --> 00:32:10,168
- Hey, buddy, you good?
- No.
931
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,338
- What's wrong, man?
[indistinct]
932
00:32:13,432 --> 00:32:16,767
What's wrong? You all right?
Let's roll through it.
933
00:32:16,994 --> 00:32:17,583
We all signed up
for the same thing.
934
00:32:17,603 --> 00:32:19,603
We're all here together.
935
00:32:19,754 --> 00:32:21,012
Dude, you have my support, man.
I understand.
936
00:32:21,165 --> 00:32:22,514
Hey, cameras and everything
can get overwhelming.
937
00:32:22,608 --> 00:32:24,090
I get it, man.
938
00:32:24,109 --> 00:32:26,168
Dude, we're in it
for the same reason.
939
00:32:26,186 --> 00:32:27,927
♪ ♪
940
00:32:27,947 --> 00:32:31,022
- Are my expectations too high
941
00:32:31,175 --> 00:32:32,190
For what I'm wanting
out of this?
942
00:32:32,284 --> 00:32:34,859
Are they unrealistic?
943
00:32:35,012 --> 00:32:37,103
♪ ♪
944
00:32:37,197 --> 00:32:39,864
Did I sign up for this to find,
like, my perfect wife?
945
00:32:40,017 --> 00:32:42,442
♪ ♪
946
00:32:42,461 --> 00:32:46,871
And because she's not perfect,
I'm kind of--like, I'm out?
947
00:32:47,024 --> 00:32:48,206
♪ ♪
948
00:32:48,300 --> 00:32:50,525
Whew. Hold on.
949
00:32:50,544 --> 00:32:52,210
♪ ♪
950
00:32:52,304 --> 00:32:55,046
[bleep]. [bleep].
951
00:32:55,199 --> 00:32:58,216
♪ ♪
952
00:32:58,368 --> 00:32:59,384
[sighs]
953
00:32:59,478 --> 00:33:00,978
♪ ♪
954
00:33:05,726 --> 00:33:07,317
[upbeat music]
955
00:33:07,469 --> 00:33:10,988
- What up, buddy?
I know you hungry.
956
00:33:11,139 --> 00:33:12,322
You been good?
957
00:33:12,474 --> 00:33:14,491
Honey, I'm home.
958
00:33:14,718 --> 00:33:16,809
- He almost came
into the room right now.
959
00:33:16,829 --> 00:33:18,829
- But he didn't.
- And he slobbered on me.
960
00:33:18,980 --> 00:33:19,738
- But did he come
into the room?
961
00:33:19,890 --> 00:33:21,556
- Well, no, I had to stop him.
962
00:33:21,649 --> 00:33:22,574
- As long as you stopped him.
963
00:33:22,668 --> 00:33:24,409
- But he's slobbering
on the floor.
964
00:33:24,503 --> 00:33:25,985
I just thought you should know.
- Oh, okay.
965
00:33:26,005 --> 00:33:28,580
I'll try to come up
with a mechanism
966
00:33:28,674 --> 00:33:30,156
So he doesn't slobber.
967
00:33:30,175 --> 00:33:32,417
So what's up?
968
00:33:32,569 --> 00:33:35,086
How was--how was--
[gasps]
969
00:33:35,180 --> 00:33:36,680
How was your--?
970
00:33:36,907 --> 00:33:38,089
- I know you're not
that excited, hush.
971
00:33:38,242 --> 00:33:42,019
- I'm excited, 'cause ours
was--ooh, ours was good.
972
00:33:42,170 --> 00:33:43,762
- Really?
I think ours was good.
973
00:33:43,914 --> 00:33:45,338
- Yeah?
- Like, it was fun.
974
00:33:45,357 --> 00:33:47,340
'cause you know we love
to be--like, girls are girls.
975
00:33:47,359 --> 00:33:49,100
We love to be with the girls.
- What did y'all talk about?
976
00:33:49,253 --> 00:33:50,919
- And we haven't really had
an opportunity.
977
00:33:50,937 --> 00:33:52,845
- Did y'all-did y'all get--?
- We talked about--
978
00:33:52,865 --> 00:33:53,755
- Don't sugarcoat it.
- We didn't do--
979
00:33:53,774 --> 00:33:55,681
- Let's get to the deep stuff.
980
00:33:55,701 --> 00:33:57,534
- We didn't get, like,
details, details,
981
00:33:57,685 --> 00:33:58,443
'cause, like,
there's five of us.
982
00:33:58,595 --> 00:33:59,870
Like, there's--
- okay.
983
00:34:00,021 --> 00:34:01,854
- We could be there
for 24 hours.
984
00:34:01,948 --> 00:34:03,689
- No, I know. Okay.
985
00:34:03,709 --> 00:34:07,269
So johnny and bao
are having issues.
986
00:34:07,287 --> 00:34:08,937
- Okay.
987
00:34:08,955 --> 00:34:11,106
- A question we all asked
each other was,
988
00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:12,274
"are you attracted
to your wife?"
989
00:34:12,292 --> 00:34:13,291
We all asked everybody.
990
00:34:13,443 --> 00:34:17,203
He said--it took johnny
a long time.
991
00:34:17,297 --> 00:34:18,722
He said, "somewhat."
992
00:34:18,873 --> 00:34:19,389
And I was like,
"no, no, no, no, no, no.
993
00:34:19,616 --> 00:34:21,616
That's not an answer."
994
00:34:21,635 --> 00:34:23,134
I was like,
"I need a yes or a no."
995
00:34:23,287 --> 00:34:24,803
Because I told him--I was like,
996
00:34:24,897 --> 00:34:26,471
You can be physically
attracted to somebody,
997
00:34:26,565 --> 00:34:27,731
You can be emotionally
attracted to somebody,
998
00:34:27,882 --> 00:34:29,900
You can be spiritually
attracted to somebody.
999
00:34:30,051 --> 00:34:31,384
So I was like,
"you gotta be happy.
1000
00:34:31,478 --> 00:34:32,903
Like, you can't settle.
1001
00:34:33,130 --> 00:34:34,071
- In life.
- And just, you can't settle."
1002
00:34:34,222 --> 00:34:36,239
And so you know,
how johnny was talking,
1003
00:34:36,391 --> 00:34:38,224
He sounded like
he was settling.
1004
00:34:38,243 --> 00:34:39,301
Like, it seemed like
he wasn't happy.
1005
00:34:39,319 --> 00:34:41,486
♪ ♪
1006
00:34:41,580 --> 00:34:43,321
You know, I like bao.
1007
00:34:43,415 --> 00:34:45,248
I feel good around her.
I have no ill towards her.
1008
00:34:45,475 --> 00:34:47,492
But we don't see her
behind closed doors
1009
00:34:47,644 --> 00:34:50,921
And what she's really
talking to johnny about.
1010
00:34:51,072 --> 00:34:53,164
And the one thing I always say
is that
1011
00:34:53,317 --> 00:34:55,092
You don't know somebody
until you know them.
1012
00:34:55,243 --> 00:34:57,335
So a person can always
seem a certain way,
1013
00:34:57,487 --> 00:34:59,429
But that doesn't mean
you know who they are.
1014
00:34:59,581 --> 00:35:03,508
They can seem genuine, but that
doesn't mean they're genuine.
1015
00:35:03,602 --> 00:35:06,436
- Are we gonna get to talk
to your mom today?
1016
00:35:06,588 --> 00:35:10,332
- Yeah, she said
she was available.
1017
00:35:10,350 --> 00:35:12,684
You excited?
1018
00:35:12,836 --> 00:35:13,610
You can finally
say hi to my mom.
1019
00:35:13,837 --> 00:35:14,352
- Other than hearing
her voice...
1020
00:35:14,504 --> 00:35:17,096
- Yeah.
1021
00:35:17,116 --> 00:35:19,674
- On a recording.
1022
00:35:19,693 --> 00:35:22,344
- I have a surprise for you.
1023
00:35:22,437 --> 00:35:23,620
I got in touch with your mom.
1024
00:35:23,771 --> 00:35:25,847
- So you had a wedding,
and she didn't even come?
1025
00:35:25,866 --> 00:35:26,790
- And this is message from her.
- I know.
1026
00:35:41,214 --> 00:35:42,305
♪ ♪
1027
00:35:44,868 --> 00:35:46,935
Myrla feria.
1028
00:35:52,467 --> 00:35:54,058
This is a big first.
1029
00:35:54,153 --> 00:35:57,821
Introducing my wife to my mom
is big for me,
1030
00:35:57,972 --> 00:35:58,155
Because my mom
is huge in my life.
1031
00:36:03,553 --> 00:36:05,403
I talk to my mom
at least once a week,
1032
00:36:05,555 --> 00:36:08,223
And she will always
be important to me,
1033
00:36:08,241 --> 00:36:10,959
So it's very important my wife
and my mom get along.
1034
00:36:19,845 --> 00:36:21,344
[laughing]
1035
00:36:35,694 --> 00:36:36,434
- Bougie.
- Ay.
1036
00:36:36,528 --> 00:36:39,029
- [laughs]
1037
00:36:50,209 --> 00:36:52,542
♪ ♪
1038
00:36:59,384 --> 00:37:00,717
- Absolutely.
1039
00:37:02,629 --> 00:37:03,511
- Amen.
1040
00:37:05,390 --> 00:37:08,725
[laughing]
1041
00:37:11,455 --> 00:37:14,731
♪ ♪
1042
00:37:27,579 --> 00:37:30,062
- We haven't kissed,
1043
00:37:30,082 --> 00:37:32,249
So it's good
to hear things like that,
1044
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,809
To know that my wife
actually does like me,
1045
00:37:34,828 --> 00:37:35,252
And that we're moving
in the right direction.
1046
00:37:39,073 --> 00:37:40,999
- That was nice.
- There you go.
1047
00:37:41,151 --> 00:37:41,407
- I got to meet
the mom, finally.
1048
00:37:41,426 --> 00:37:44,076
- Yes.
1049
00:37:44,096 --> 00:37:47,931
- So bougie--really?
- [laughs]
1050
00:37:48,082 --> 00:37:49,674
- What does that mean?
Define it for me.
1051
00:37:49,768 --> 00:37:51,676
- You're extra.
- What's an example of extra?
1052
00:37:51,770 --> 00:37:55,421
- You always want examples.
Extra. Look it up.
1053
00:37:55,515 --> 00:37:56,347
You want me to get you the
urban dictionary of "extra"?
1054
00:37:56,500 --> 00:37:58,608
Too much.
1055
00:37:58,760 --> 00:37:59,517
- Like, too much of what?
What?
1056
00:37:59,611 --> 00:38:01,169
- Everything.
1057
00:38:01,187 --> 00:38:08,026
♪ ♪
1058
00:38:08,178 --> 00:38:10,512
- ♪ I been hiding from you ♪
1059
00:38:10,605 --> 00:38:14,849
♪ trying to make myself
invisible ♪
1060
00:38:14,942 --> 00:38:16,851
♪ I been hiding from you ♪
1061
00:38:16,870 --> 00:38:19,796
- At this point, there's been
such a build-up of pressure
1062
00:38:19,947 --> 00:38:21,781
From, like,
my romanticized image
1063
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:23,525
Of what marriage
is supposed to be
1064
00:38:23,618 --> 00:38:24,950
Versus what's been going on.
1065
00:38:24,970 --> 00:38:27,953
I feel like the other guys
here are more in sync
1066
00:38:27,973 --> 00:38:30,289
With their wives
than I feel with bao.
1067
00:38:30,309 --> 00:38:34,552
So I am still waiting
for that deeper connection.
1068
00:38:34,704 --> 00:38:37,872
- ♪ I been hiding from you ♪
1069
00:38:37,965 --> 00:38:40,708
♪ trying to make myself
invisible ♪
1070
00:38:40,727 --> 00:38:42,468
- How we feeling?
1071
00:38:42,562 --> 00:38:46,156
- I'm okay. I guess.
1072
00:38:46,307 --> 00:38:47,490
- You don't seem okay.
1073
00:38:54,574 --> 00:38:57,225
- I don't even know
where to start.
1074
00:38:57,243 --> 00:39:00,003
♪ ♪
1075
00:39:00,230 --> 00:39:01,746
Um.
1076
00:39:01,898 --> 00:39:03,081
The guys' hangout
was a lot of fun.
1077
00:39:03,233 --> 00:39:04,323
- Mm-hmm.
1078
00:39:04,417 --> 00:39:08,086
- But it kind of hit me
1079
00:39:08,238 --> 00:39:11,756
That I was feeling
kind of confused
1080
00:39:11,908 --> 00:39:16,094
About what was wrong
1081
00:39:16,246 --> 00:39:19,597
With, like, our relationship...
1082
00:39:19,749 --> 00:39:20,915
♪ ♪
1083
00:39:20,934 --> 00:39:24,527
And more specifically,
what's wrong with me.
1084
00:39:24,679 --> 00:39:28,256
Because I know
1085
00:39:28,349 --> 00:39:31,943
That you are totally into this
1086
00:39:32,095 --> 00:39:34,762
And totally into me,
1087
00:39:34,856 --> 00:39:38,041
And I'm trying to figure out
1088
00:39:38,192 --> 00:39:41,936
Why I'm just, like, focusing
on all the negative things.
1089
00:39:42,029 --> 00:39:45,273
I had, like,
a mini-meltdown of,
1090
00:39:45,366 --> 00:39:48,126
Like, "what am I even doing?"
1091
00:39:48,278 --> 00:39:51,279
Because it seems like
right now,
1092
00:39:51,297 --> 00:39:53,631
We have these problems,
and I'm facing them, but...
1093
00:39:53,783 --> 00:39:59,804
♪ ♪
1094
00:39:59,956 --> 00:40:03,641
What if, like, I went in
for the right reasons,
1095
00:40:03,793 --> 00:40:05,309
But I wasn't ready?
1096
00:40:05,404 --> 00:40:07,737
♪ ♪
1097
00:40:09,633 --> 00:40:11,633
♪ ♪
1098
00:40:11,651 --> 00:40:13,058
- It's very disappointing
for me to hear,
1099
00:40:13,153 --> 00:40:14,244
Because I really feel like
1100
00:40:14,395 --> 00:40:16,654
I am putting a lot
into this relationship.
1101
00:40:16,806 --> 00:40:20,900
And I have been wondering,
is he ready for marriage?
1102
00:40:20,919 --> 00:40:23,661
Because I feel like,
in my gut, he might not be.
1103
00:40:23,755 --> 00:40:27,832
So sad to know that
what you worried about
1104
00:40:27,984 --> 00:40:30,501
Is a valid reality right now.
1105
00:40:30,654 --> 00:40:34,580
♪ ♪
1106
00:40:34,674 --> 00:40:36,674
- I just don't know.
1107
00:40:36,826 --> 00:40:38,601
♪ ♪
1108
00:40:38,828 --> 00:40:41,329
At this point,
I really don't know.
1109
00:40:41,347 --> 00:40:43,106
♪ ♪
1110
00:40:43,257 --> 00:40:45,833
- I'm sorry that you feel
that way.
1111
00:40:45,852 --> 00:40:48,761
- ♪ you cut me
through my heart and soul ♪
1112
00:40:48,780 --> 00:40:50,855
I have so many thoughts.
1113
00:40:51,007 --> 00:40:52,356
♪ ♪
1114
00:40:52,509 --> 00:40:54,099
- Yeah.
1115
00:40:54,194 --> 00:40:55,693
We can sleep on it.
1116
00:40:55,845 --> 00:40:56,602
♪ ♪
1117
00:40:56,696 --> 00:40:59,180
Talk about it later.
1118
00:40:59,199 --> 00:41:01,365
♪ ♪
1119
00:41:01,518 --> 00:41:03,201
- Okay.
1120
00:41:03,295 --> 00:41:05,520
I'll try to sleep on it.
1121
00:41:05,538 --> 00:41:07,705
♪ ♪
1122
00:41:07,857 --> 00:41:09,540
But my mind's just gonna be
spinning all night.
1123
00:41:09,693 --> 00:41:11,876
♪ ♪
1124
00:41:12,028 --> 00:41:16,547
- ♪ I'll be there for you ♪
1125
00:41:16,700 --> 00:41:19,476
♪ ♪
1126
00:41:24,708 --> 00:41:26,465
- ♪ you and me, baby,
got a story to tell ♪
1127
00:41:26,485 --> 00:41:28,651
♪ in my dreams ♪
1128
00:41:28,803 --> 00:41:30,044
- That's a lot of stuff.
- It is a lot of stuff, huh?
1129
00:41:30,063 --> 00:41:33,381
- Very excited about eating
every bit of that.
1130
00:41:33,399 --> 00:41:35,049
- Our newlyweds are about
1131
00:41:35,068 --> 00:41:36,734
To host their friends
and family
1132
00:41:36,828 --> 00:41:39,829
For their very first party
as a married couple.
1133
00:41:39,981 --> 00:41:42,648
- Ready?
- Pull.
1134
00:41:42,742 --> 00:41:45,059
- This is a huge milestone,
and there's a lot at stake.
1135
00:41:45,078 --> 00:41:48,746
They must figure out how their
worlds are gonna fit together,
1136
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:52,567
Because in just six weeks,
they're gonna have to decide
1137
00:41:52,585 --> 00:41:55,086
Whether they want to stay
married or get a divorce.
1138
00:41:55,238 --> 00:41:56,420
- What up?
- Hey.
1139
00:41:56,573 --> 00:41:58,756
- Pops! What up? I love it.
1140
00:41:58,908 --> 00:42:02,167
- Hi. How are you?
- Good to see you. Good.
1141
00:42:02,187 --> 00:42:03,411
- How's it going?
- How you doing?
1142
00:42:03,504 --> 00:42:04,095
- What up?
- How's it going?
1143
00:42:04,247 --> 00:42:06,338
- How's it going, dad?
1144
00:42:06,358 --> 00:42:07,415
- I'm excited for y'all
to see this place.
1145
00:42:07,508 --> 00:42:09,359
It's amazing.
- It looks beautiful.
1146
00:42:09,586 --> 00:42:10,175
- Oh, thanks.
- Come on in. Oh, thank you.
1147
00:42:10,270 --> 00:42:11,419
- You brought gifts.
1148
00:42:11,512 --> 00:42:13,087
Y'all didn't have to.
- I know.
1149
00:42:13,180 --> 00:42:14,438
- I'm really excited
about having,
1150
00:42:14,591 --> 00:42:15,590
You know, some guests over.
1151
00:42:15,608 --> 00:42:17,867
For me, I'm excited to boast
1152
00:42:18,094 --> 00:42:20,203
About our marriage
a little bit more.
1153
00:42:20,354 --> 00:42:22,096
- This is my friend elia.
- Hi.
1154
00:42:22,189 --> 00:42:23,355
- Hi, elia.
- Hi. How are you?
1155
00:42:23,375 --> 00:42:24,707
- Pleased to meet you.
- What's up, brother?
1156
00:42:24,859 --> 00:42:26,543
You all right, man?
1157
00:42:26,694 --> 00:42:27,860
Want everyone
to enjoy themselves,
1158
00:42:27,879 --> 00:42:29,862
Have a good time,
celebrate our marriage.
1159
00:42:29,956 --> 00:42:32,774
My biggest hope in getting
that first initial impression
1160
00:42:32,792 --> 00:42:35,385
From her friends
1161
00:42:35,612 --> 00:42:37,461
Is that I have
some sort of acceptance,
1162
00:42:37,614 --> 00:42:39,463
Because I'm falling
and falling faster
1163
00:42:39,558 --> 00:42:42,300
For this wonderful, amazing
woman that I'm now married to.
1164
00:42:42,452 --> 00:42:43,893
- So how was the honeymoon?
1165
00:42:44,045 --> 00:42:45,061
- Man, honeymoon was great,
man.
1166
00:42:45,212 --> 00:42:46,304
- It was a lot of fun.
1167
00:42:46,456 --> 00:42:47,805
As you can see, like,
we're peeling here.
1168
00:42:47,899 --> 00:42:51,642
- We're kind of--
yeah, I'm peeling on my ears.
1169
00:42:51,736 --> 00:42:53,069
- We weren't on top
of that sunscreen, I will say.
1170
00:42:53,220 --> 00:42:54,571
- Did you guys get along
really well?
1171
00:42:54,798 --> 00:42:55,963
Any fights?
- Oh yeah, absolutely.
1172
00:42:56,057 --> 00:42:57,632
- Of course.
- No fights? Yeah?
1173
00:42:57,650 --> 00:42:59,300
- No fighting.
- Oh, no, no, absolutely not.
1174
00:42:59,393 --> 00:43:00,243
- No fighting.
- Absolutely not.
1175
00:43:00,470 --> 00:43:02,303
- No, no misunderstandings.
- Right.
1176
00:43:02,322 --> 00:43:03,805
Right, right, right, right.
1177
00:43:03,823 --> 00:43:05,230
- We got along, like,
right off the bat.
1178
00:43:05,325 --> 00:43:07,475
- It's so surreal.
1179
00:43:07,493 --> 00:43:09,068
I didn't understand
that it was gonna be that--
1180
00:43:09,162 --> 00:43:10,828
- Like, quick?
- Right.
1181
00:43:10,922 --> 00:43:12,422
- We just click.
1182
00:43:12,573 --> 00:43:14,982
- Did all your boxes
get checked off?
1183
00:43:15,001 --> 00:43:16,500
For what you were looking for?
- Absolutely.
1184
00:43:16,653 --> 00:43:18,595
I got everything I wanted.
I couldn't be happier.
1185
00:43:18,822 --> 00:43:20,245
- Uh-huh.
- Like, everything's great.
1186
00:43:20,265 --> 00:43:22,932
- Is there anything, like--
like, a difference of opinion?
1187
00:43:23,084 --> 00:43:27,345
You know, kind of, like,
"um, we gotta talk about that"?
1188
00:43:27,497 --> 00:43:28,754
- You know, I think finances
is one of the things
1189
00:43:28,773 --> 00:43:30,589
That we've kind of talked
about--a little bit about.
1190
00:43:30,609 --> 00:43:32,609
Because, not to toot the horn,
but,
1191
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,185
You know, I have a house
in pearland,
1192
00:43:34,279 --> 00:43:35,945
And I have everything,
you know, taken care of,
1193
00:43:36,172 --> 00:43:37,113
And, you know,
she likes to travel,
1194
00:43:37,340 --> 00:43:38,172
And she likes to do
other things,
1195
00:43:38,191 --> 00:43:39,190
And she's, like, a yolo person.
1196
00:43:39,342 --> 00:43:41,284
- Yeah.
- And that's single rachel.
1197
00:43:41,435 --> 00:43:42,693
- Like, single rachel.
1198
00:43:42,787 --> 00:43:45,771
[overlapping chatter]
1199
00:43:45,790 --> 00:43:47,198
- No, and that's not a problem,
but--
1200
00:43:47,292 --> 00:43:49,792
- I'm taking him to europe,
whether he likes it or not.
1201
00:43:49,944 --> 00:43:51,777
- I want to go too.
- Okay, and here's the thing.
1202
00:43:51,796 --> 00:43:53,112
- We're going to Spain, period.
- It's not a problem.
1203
00:43:53,206 --> 00:43:54,130
It's not a problem.
1204
00:43:54,281 --> 00:43:56,357
But 50% of marriages
end in divorce
1205
00:43:56,376 --> 00:43:57,950
Because of finances, right?
1206
00:43:58,044 --> 00:44:01,362
And so you know, she may see
a lot of stuff on, you know,
1207
00:44:01,381 --> 00:44:03,139
Social media, and "I want this"
and "I want this"
1208
00:44:03,366 --> 00:44:03,956
And you want to keep up
with the joneses,
1209
00:44:03,975 --> 00:44:05,549
And blah, blah, blah.
1210
00:44:05,644 --> 00:44:07,368
I don't want that
to be anything kind of--so.
1211
00:44:07,461 --> 00:44:09,628
Let's have a joint account.
1212
00:44:09,648 --> 00:44:11,463
From there, let me pull
all the bills out,
1213
00:44:11,483 --> 00:44:12,723
And then everything
that's left...
1214
00:44:12,817 --> 00:44:14,725
[speaks spanish]
we can take our travel trips.
1215
00:44:14,878 --> 00:44:16,135
We can do whatever
we need to do.
1216
00:44:16,154 --> 00:44:18,637
And that's what
we're pulling out of.
1217
00:44:18,657 --> 00:44:20,398
[speaks spanish]
1218
00:44:20,492 --> 00:44:22,400
It's, like, zero, then we're--
like, we're screwed.
1219
00:44:22,494 --> 00:44:23,734
- I've been about the
separate accounts and stuff.
1220
00:44:23,828 --> 00:44:26,387
But this is--you know,
1221
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:27,980
We want to handle
this difference we have.
1222
00:44:27,999 --> 00:44:31,650
- You know, no one is right,
no one is wrong.
1223
00:44:31,744 --> 00:44:34,578
It's just, try what works.
1224
00:44:34,731 --> 00:44:35,913
- There's not one right way.
- Right way.
1225
00:44:36,065 --> 00:44:37,840
- Exactly.
- Yeah, there is not.
1226
00:44:38,067 --> 00:44:40,902
- But in a perfect world,
you bring two individuals
1227
00:44:40,995 --> 00:44:44,163
That have two accounts
together.
1228
00:44:44,257 --> 00:44:45,682
You're now married.
1229
00:44:45,833 --> 00:44:47,350
- Yeah.
- You have one account.
1230
00:44:47,501 --> 00:44:48,926
You know, that's it.
1231
00:44:49,020 --> 00:44:53,839
♪ ♪
1232
00:44:53,933 --> 00:44:54,765
- Finances. Oh, my god.
1233
00:44:54,918 --> 00:44:57,101
[both laugh]
1234
00:44:57,253 --> 00:45:00,104
Jose, he's such a saver
kind of guy, like,
1235
00:45:00,256 --> 00:45:02,031
Every penny, every dime.
1236
00:45:02,183 --> 00:45:04,926
But if he's not willing
to lighten up a little bit,
1237
00:45:04,944 --> 00:45:08,446
I think that's gonna be
a big, big, big, problem.
1238
00:45:08,540 --> 00:45:10,598
- I have all my finances.
- Every balance sheet.
1239
00:45:10,616 --> 00:45:11,766
- Everything.
- Yeah.
1240
00:45:11,784 --> 00:45:13,710
- Right?
And then how much.
1241
00:45:13,937 --> 00:45:17,121
And then the credit score,
and then, like--
1242
00:45:17,273 --> 00:45:19,290
- By looking at that chart,
1243
00:45:19,442 --> 00:45:21,050
You got your stuff
together, man.
1244
00:45:21,202 --> 00:45:22,777
- Bro.
- So that's mean.
1245
00:45:22,795 --> 00:45:23,368
- [speaks spanish]
for a hot minute, bro.
1246
00:45:23,388 --> 00:45:25,204
That's mean, man.
1247
00:45:25,298 --> 00:45:26,948
- They said he's been waiting
for this for a hot minute.
1248
00:45:26,966 --> 00:45:28,632
- I knew that, hey,
I was gonna be married.
1249
00:45:28,785 --> 00:45:30,634
I was gonna probably have kids.
1250
00:45:30,729 --> 00:45:32,787
So you know, I'm out, like,
living the single life
1251
00:45:32,805 --> 00:45:34,564
And, you know, traveling
and doing all this [bleep]
1252
00:45:34,791 --> 00:45:35,973
And partying with my boys
and whatever...
1253
00:45:36,125 --> 00:45:37,625
- Yeah.
1254
00:45:37,718 --> 00:45:38,050
- All my money's [bleep]
going to waste.
1255
00:45:38,069 --> 00:45:40,311
♪ ♪
1256
00:45:40,405 --> 00:45:42,387
- Jose's been planning--
1257
00:45:42,407 --> 00:45:43,798
Planning...
[laughs]
1258
00:45:43,816 --> 00:45:45,575
To be married for a long time.
1259
00:45:45,802 --> 00:45:47,985
I felt finally ready
to be married
1260
00:45:48,137 --> 00:45:50,395
Maybe a year ago, you know?
1261
00:45:50,415 --> 00:45:52,898
And I was in a place,
as a single woman--
1262
00:45:52,917 --> 00:45:54,900
I loved where I was.
1263
00:45:54,919 --> 00:45:57,144
I loved what I did,
I loved my life.
1264
00:45:57,163 --> 00:45:59,738
Full of memories
and experiences.
1265
00:45:59,832 --> 00:46:02,149
And that was part of why
I really want to get married,
1266
00:46:02,168 --> 00:46:04,335
'cause I want to share
all that with someone.
1267
00:46:04,487 --> 00:46:05,577
- Let's go have some girl time.
1268
00:46:05,671 --> 00:46:09,248
- I'm having very strong
feelings for my husband,
1269
00:46:09,267 --> 00:46:11,842
But him just being
very dismissive
1270
00:46:11,936 --> 00:46:13,494
Towards something
I'm really passionate about
1271
00:46:13,587 --> 00:46:14,920
Is kind of making me feel
a little nervous
1272
00:46:15,014 --> 00:46:17,331
About our future.
1273
00:46:17,350 --> 00:46:19,091
Like, I'm scared
I'm gonna be restricted.
1274
00:46:19,110 --> 00:46:22,261
He's scared I'm just gonna,
like, blow all this money.
1275
00:46:22,355 --> 00:46:23,446
And I think he needs
1276
00:46:23,597 --> 00:46:25,189
To let loose
a little bit on his finances.
1277
00:46:25,283 --> 00:46:27,950
- Right, so that's the thing,
you gotta make sure
1278
00:46:28,177 --> 00:46:30,027
That he's not
controlling it 110%, right?
1279
00:46:30,121 --> 00:46:31,788
- No, and I think--yeah.
1280
00:46:32,015 --> 00:46:33,014
- Because, you know,
you're working too...
1281
00:46:33,032 --> 00:46:34,698
- Exactly.
- And women need
1282
00:46:34,851 --> 00:46:38,185
To feel control
in their relationships also.
1283
00:46:38,204 --> 00:46:40,187
You just don't want
to give up all your control.
1284
00:46:40,281 --> 00:46:41,613
That's all I'm saying.
- Mm-hmm.
1285
00:46:41,633 --> 00:46:43,282
- 'cause, you know,
you just don't want to do that.
1286
00:46:43,376 --> 00:46:44,783
- ♪ when I know I got you ♪
1287
00:46:44,803 --> 00:46:45,802
♪ know I got you ♪
1288
00:46:50,475 --> 00:46:52,216
- ♪ it's not that
I don't like you ♪
1289
00:46:52,310 --> 00:46:54,293
♪ ♪
1290
00:46:54,312 --> 00:46:56,979
♪ it's not that I don't care ♪
1291
00:46:57,131 --> 00:46:59,206
♪ but I'm on a grind ♪
1292
00:46:59,225 --> 00:47:02,043
♪ and I stay there
all the time ♪
1293
00:47:02,136 --> 00:47:04,545
- It's gonna look like
a lot of stuff.
1294
00:47:04,638 --> 00:47:07,139
But it's not a lot of stuff.
1295
00:47:07,158 --> 00:47:08,049
- Good job.
- This will be all the drinks.
1296
00:47:08,067 --> 00:47:10,642
♪ ♪
1297
00:47:10,662 --> 00:47:11,902
Today, I'm hosting
a housewarming party
1298
00:47:11,996 --> 00:47:13,070
With my wife.
1299
00:47:13,222 --> 00:47:16,907
Ha! That looks so cool.
1300
00:47:17,001 --> 00:47:18,409
Actually, I have been
looking forward to this.
1301
00:47:18,503 --> 00:47:20,670
This is some--the world
that is untapped for me.
1302
00:47:20,897 --> 00:47:22,413
A lot of my friends
are already doing
1303
00:47:22,565 --> 00:47:25,566
These married couple hangouts,
and I feel, like, so left out.
1304
00:47:25,585 --> 00:47:26,992
It's one of the things
I actually look forward to
1305
00:47:27,086 --> 00:47:28,660
After being married,
1306
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:29,494
Is to hang out
with other married couples.
1307
00:47:29,589 --> 00:47:31,330
- Oh, no.
- Tape?
1308
00:47:31,424 --> 00:47:32,682
- Glue. We could tape--
1309
00:47:32,909 --> 00:47:33,908
- I bought some
double-sided tape.
1310
00:47:33,926 --> 00:47:35,500
- It's over here.
1311
00:47:35,595 --> 00:47:38,079
- But we've only had two weeks
of being in a relationship,
1312
00:47:38,097 --> 00:47:40,581
And I'm not ready to say
that she's my forever person.
1313
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:42,674
I want it to be better.
1314
00:47:42,694 --> 00:47:43,767
I think the thing I'm really
struggling with right now
1315
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:47,029
Is that there's no spark.
1316
00:47:47,181 --> 00:47:49,181
And typically, the beginning
of a relationship,
1317
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:51,367
It usually starts
with a spark,
1318
00:47:51,594 --> 00:47:53,260
And then the other stuff
develops.
1319
00:47:53,279 --> 00:47:54,929
Here, I'm trying
to develop the other stuff
1320
00:47:54,947 --> 00:47:56,430
Without a spark,
1321
00:47:56,449 --> 00:47:58,933
And it is kind of a struggle.
1322
00:47:58,951 --> 00:48:01,210
♪ ♪
1323
00:48:01,362 --> 00:48:04,029
- Hello.
- Hello! Welcome!
1324
00:48:04,123 --> 00:48:05,956
- Hello, hello.
- Hi.
1325
00:48:06,050 --> 00:48:07,274
- Hi.
- Hi.
1326
00:48:07,368 --> 00:48:09,110
- Serena, this is bao.
- Serena.
1327
00:48:09,128 --> 00:48:09,777
- You haven't met her yet.
- Nice to meet you. Hello.
1328
00:48:09,795 --> 00:48:11,779
- Nice to meet you.
1329
00:48:11,797 --> 00:48:13,781
- I don't know how I feel
about my marriage right now.
1330
00:48:13,874 --> 00:48:15,132
- Here you go.
- Yeah. That'd be good.
1331
00:48:15,284 --> 00:48:16,392
- Bao, would you like a drink?
1332
00:48:16,543 --> 00:48:17,785
- Sure.
- What you want?
1333
00:48:17,878 --> 00:48:19,896
- Johnny and I still have
a lot of talking to do.
1334
00:48:20,047 --> 00:48:20,971
We talked a little bit
last night.
1335
00:48:21,124 --> 00:48:22,732
We still have
more talking to do.
1336
00:48:22,883 --> 00:48:24,216
- Happy housewarming.
1337
00:48:24,235 --> 00:48:25,568
- Thank you.
- Hey, there.
1338
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:26,810
- Hey, scott.
- Johnny.
1339
00:48:26,963 --> 00:48:28,462
- Pleasure to meet you, johnny.
1340
00:48:28,555 --> 00:48:29,739
- Yeah.
- Awesome, awesome view, man.
1341
00:48:29,890 --> 00:48:31,223
- Yeah, thanks.
Can I get y'all a drink?
1342
00:48:31,317 --> 00:48:32,983
- Water would be great.
1343
00:48:33,136 --> 00:48:34,744
♪ ♪
1344
00:48:36,489 --> 00:48:38,414
♪ ♪
1345
00:48:38,565 --> 00:48:40,324
- I want to do this.
Get it done.
1346
00:48:40,476 --> 00:48:42,734
♪ ♪
1347
00:48:42,754 --> 00:48:44,328
- And johnny, this is for you.
Happy housewarming.
1348
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:45,737
- Thank you.
- Thank you so much.
1349
00:48:45,757 --> 00:48:48,999
- I didn't get a chance
to get a wedding gift, so.
1350
00:48:49,093 --> 00:48:50,409
- Thank you, thank you.
- Is it fragile. Can I--
1351
00:48:50,503 --> 00:48:51,576
- Yes. Very fragile.
1352
00:48:51,671 --> 00:48:53,763
- Can I open it?
- Yeah, go ahead. Open it.
1353
00:48:53,990 --> 00:48:55,431
- Have y'all met?
This is serena and brian.
1354
00:48:55,582 --> 00:48:57,249
- Oh, sorry, sorry.
Anh and scott.
1355
00:48:57,268 --> 00:48:59,176
- Yeah, so brian's my cousin.
He was at the wedding.
1356
00:48:59,328 --> 00:49:00,937
- Yes.
- And serena's his wife.
1357
00:49:01,164 --> 00:49:02,939
- Awesome.
- We're married for two weeks.
1358
00:49:03,166 --> 00:49:04,273
You guys are married
for two months.
1359
00:49:04,500 --> 00:49:05,257
How long have you guys
been married?
1360
00:49:05,351 --> 00:49:06,183
- Since 2015.
- Oh.
1361
00:49:06,335 --> 00:49:08,002
- Six years.
1362
00:49:08,020 --> 00:49:09,003
- Six years.
- Six years. There we go.
1363
00:49:09,021 --> 00:49:10,854
- Here goes. I'm opening it.
1364
00:49:11,007 --> 00:49:12,431
- Let's see what you got.
- Feels like a book.
1365
00:49:12,525 --> 00:49:13,783
- Oh, I hope it's a book.
1366
00:49:13,934 --> 00:49:15,434
Hope it's a book
on relationships.
1367
00:49:15,453 --> 00:49:17,453
- It is a book
on relationships.
1368
00:49:17,604 --> 00:49:18,179
- Spoiler alert.
1369
00:49:18,197 --> 00:49:21,273
[laughter]
1370
00:49:21,292 --> 00:49:23,608
All: Oh!
- Yes! Yes!
1371
00:49:23,703 --> 00:49:24,868
- "she comes first:
1372
00:49:24,963 --> 00:49:28,022
The thinking man's guide
to pleasuring a woman."
1373
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:31,634
- It's a good book.
I insist that he reads it.
1374
00:49:31,861 --> 00:49:33,360
- And what is this--
what is this fruit here?
1375
00:49:33,454 --> 00:49:35,287
- Bro, you know what that is.
1376
00:49:35,381 --> 00:49:36,621
- Thank you.
- Papaya?
1377
00:49:36,641 --> 00:49:39,717
- Looks like a papaya?
- Oh, I don't eat papaya.
1378
00:49:39,869 --> 00:49:41,477
- Just looking out
for you, bao.
1379
00:49:41,628 --> 00:49:42,627
- It's kind of strange
that bao's friend
1380
00:49:42,722 --> 00:49:45,873
Gave her a sex book.
1381
00:49:45,891 --> 00:49:49,059
Maybe there's, like, hints on,
you know, getting there.
1382
00:49:49,212 --> 00:49:51,228
Wherever "there" is.
1383
00:49:51,380 --> 00:49:53,881
♪ ♪
1384
00:49:53,899 --> 00:49:55,324
This place is amazing, right?
- It is.
1385
00:49:55,551 --> 00:49:58,661
- How has your expectation
of marriage been so far?
1386
00:49:58,812 --> 00:50:01,238
- Um, I would assume
that normally,
1387
00:50:01,390 --> 00:50:02,647
When you get married,
it's not this intense
1388
00:50:02,742 --> 00:50:05,334
In just a short period of time.
It feels different.
1389
00:50:05,486 --> 00:50:10,506
But I feel reassured that I'm
married to someone that I know.
1390
00:50:10,733 --> 00:50:12,900
Having that familiarity
really does help.
1391
00:50:12,918 --> 00:50:14,251
I feel it would be harder
if I were married to someone
1392
00:50:14,403 --> 00:50:16,679
That I had
absolutely no background with.
1393
00:50:16,830 --> 00:50:18,014
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
1394
00:50:18,241 --> 00:50:19,907
- You know,
but at the same time,
1395
00:50:19,925 --> 00:50:22,518
The other couples, they're kind
of taking their time
1396
00:50:22,745 --> 00:50:24,520
Because they don't have
any background.
1397
00:50:24,671 --> 00:50:26,580
So I think they're having,
like,
1398
00:50:26,673 --> 00:50:29,767
Really, really petty fights,
1399
00:50:29,861 --> 00:50:32,528
Where we are having, like,
more, like, deep--
1400
00:50:32,679 --> 00:50:35,089
You know, deep conversations
and deep disagreements
1401
00:50:35,107 --> 00:50:36,866
And trying to figure
those things out.
1402
00:50:37,093 --> 00:50:38,442
- So you feel like
both of you are 100% in.
1403
00:50:38,594 --> 00:50:42,946
- I feel I'm 100% in.
I feel like he's 90% in.
1404
00:50:43,099 --> 00:50:44,765
- How's it been going thus far?
1405
00:50:44,858 --> 00:50:47,785
Like, if you had to--if you had
to put a probability percentage
1406
00:50:47,879 --> 00:50:49,286
On it, like, what are
you-what are you feeling?
1407
00:50:49,438 --> 00:50:51,288
- Yeah. Um. It's really early.
1408
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:55,442
So two weeks in,
and even though we're married,
1409
00:50:55,536 --> 00:50:57,111
I feel like I'm treating it
1410
00:50:57,204 --> 00:50:59,221
As I'm going into
a fresh relationship,
1411
00:50:59,373 --> 00:51:02,558
And I need to feel it out
before I feel certain.
1412
00:51:02,785 --> 00:51:04,042
I want to fall in love
at some point.
1413
00:51:04,062 --> 00:51:06,120
I'll be honest, I mean,
I'm not there yet.
1414
00:51:06,138 --> 00:51:09,214
So probability, if I was,
like, a sportsmaker, right?
1415
00:51:09,233 --> 00:51:11,642
Probably somewhere like 65.
- Okay.
1416
00:51:11,794 --> 00:51:17,314
- What's the 35%
that is keeping you from that?
1417
00:51:17,466 --> 00:51:19,391
- I feel like we need to get
closer somehow,
1418
00:51:19,410 --> 00:51:21,393
And more intimate.
1419
00:51:21,412 --> 00:51:24,747
And that's the thing I'm trying
to work on to build up
1420
00:51:24,898 --> 00:51:26,231
Before I can fall for her.
1421
00:51:26,325 --> 00:51:27,899
- Yeah.
- Understood.
1422
00:51:27,919 --> 00:51:29,401
And that, you know,
like, takes time, man.
1423
00:51:29,420 --> 00:51:31,312
That's all it is.
1424
00:51:31,330 --> 00:51:32,813
- Like, you said that you're
a very open person,
1425
00:51:32,832 --> 00:51:34,481
Put everything out, but she's
a big more guarded, right?
1426
00:51:34,575 --> 00:51:35,758
So it might just take, again,
1427
00:51:35,909 --> 00:51:37,909
A little more time for her
to be able to open up.
1428
00:51:37,929 --> 00:51:39,653
- What are some tactics
to make, like,
1429
00:51:39,672 --> 00:51:41,263
An introverted person
that's usually pretty guarded
1430
00:51:41,415 --> 00:51:43,415
About sharing things
about herself?
1431
00:51:43,434 --> 00:51:45,917
- From what I know about bao,
1432
00:51:45,937 --> 00:51:48,345
Bao's got a lot of love
to give,
1433
00:51:48,497 --> 00:51:50,497
But you gotta accept all of it.
1434
00:51:50,516 --> 00:51:52,349
And I think, if you do that,
1435
00:51:52,501 --> 00:51:55,427
You'll get the most out of her
as a person,
1436
00:51:55,446 --> 00:51:59,431
And it'll ultimately end up
getting you guys to be closer.
1437
00:51:59,450 --> 00:52:00,950
Be all in.
- Yeah.
1438
00:52:01,177 --> 00:52:04,102
- And I think
if you're able to do that,
1439
00:52:04,122 --> 00:52:06,122
You'll unlock
some pretty special things.
1440
00:52:06,273 --> 00:52:08,773
- He knows I'm all in.
I'm all in.
1441
00:52:08,793 --> 00:52:10,684
I'm gonna work
at whatever I can
1442
00:52:10,703 --> 00:52:13,020
To make the marriage work.
1443
00:52:13,113 --> 00:52:15,706
But I also need him
to be 100% in too.
1444
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:16,523
- Well, and she acknowledged
that she wasn't
1445
00:52:16,617 --> 00:52:19,026
At that love point yet.
1446
00:52:19,044 --> 00:52:21,137
So maybe her saying
that she's all in
1447
00:52:21,364 --> 00:52:23,455
Is just that she's willing
to do the various things
1448
00:52:23,474 --> 00:52:25,307
That are necessary to,
like, build that foundation
1449
00:52:25,534 --> 00:52:27,292
To eventually lead you guys
to that stage...
1450
00:52:27,311 --> 00:52:29,461
- Yeah.
- Where you are in love,
1451
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:31,221
Which is what you're committed
to doing as well, so.
1452
00:52:31,315 --> 00:52:32,982
- I'm committed just learning
as much as possible
1453
00:52:33,133 --> 00:52:34,541
About her
and figuring out, like,
1454
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,060
If our relationship has
the legs to go the distance.
1455
00:52:37,213 --> 00:52:38,729
- ♪ ooh, ooh, ooh-ooh-ooh ♪
1456
00:52:38,881 --> 00:52:39,989
♪ you're my therapy, yeah ♪
1457
00:52:44,904 --> 00:52:46,403
- ♪ I'm a whole damn package,
would you lo ok at that ♪
1458
00:52:46,497 --> 00:52:48,555
♪ future so bright,
never looking back ♪
1459
00:52:48,574 --> 00:52:50,224
♪ been lit since birth,
pyromaniac ♪
1460
00:52:50,242 --> 00:52:51,483
[knock at door]
1461
00:52:51,502 --> 00:52:53,243
- Hello.
- Hi.
1462
00:52:53,396 --> 00:52:54,561
- Hi!
1463
00:52:54,580 --> 00:52:57,840
- This is a little bit heavy.
- Welcome in.
1464
00:52:58,067 --> 00:53:00,751
- Congratulations again.
- Thank you.
1465
00:53:00,903 --> 00:53:03,662
Initially, I wanted to cancel
the housewarming party,
1466
00:53:03,756 --> 00:53:05,906
Because it just felt weird,
especially after the argument
1467
00:53:05,925 --> 00:53:07,332
That we had earlier
in the week.
1468
00:53:07,426 --> 00:53:09,685
And so I didn't want to do it,
1469
00:53:09,836 --> 00:53:11,912
But I had a change of heart
when I went to sleep,
1470
00:53:12,005 --> 00:53:13,338
And I said,
"okay, you know what,
1471
00:53:13,357 --> 00:53:15,599
"let me not
put a stop to everything,
1472
00:53:15,751 --> 00:53:17,751
And I'll go ahead
and do this housewarming."
1473
00:53:17,770 --> 00:53:19,862
I'm so happy to have y'all.
1474
00:53:20,013 --> 00:53:21,030
And now,
I'm gonna put y'all to work.
1475
00:53:21,181 --> 00:53:22,589
Y'all want to help me set up?
Both: Yes.
1476
00:53:22,608 --> 00:53:24,107
- Okay.
- Let's go.
1477
00:53:24,260 --> 00:53:26,685
- Once I saw my girls...
[laughs]
1478
00:53:26,779 --> 00:53:29,446
That's all I needed.
1479
00:53:29,540 --> 00:53:33,934
It's been an interesting
kind of start to our marriage.
1480
00:53:33,953 --> 00:53:34,526
You know, we've only
been married two weeks.
1481
00:53:34,545 --> 00:53:36,770
- Yeah.
- Right.
1482
00:53:36,789 --> 00:53:38,439
- So that's even more so of a--
1483
00:53:38,457 --> 00:53:40,958
We done gone through a lot
in two weeks.
1484
00:53:41,052 --> 00:53:42,534
Like, I didn't know
it was gonna be this intense.
1485
00:53:42,628 --> 00:53:43,944
Whew. I don't know, y'all.
1486
00:53:44,037 --> 00:53:46,129
I know I'm a strong person,
but this [bleep] hard.
1487
00:53:46,224 --> 00:53:47,130
- You're strong.
1488
00:53:47,283 --> 00:53:47,890
I feel like if it was anybody
1489
00:53:48,041 --> 00:53:49,391
To do it, it would be you.
1490
00:53:49,543 --> 00:53:51,227
- Yeah.
- Absolutely.
1491
00:53:51,378 --> 00:53:54,137
- But, you know, we are working
through all those things,
1492
00:53:54,290 --> 00:53:55,456
You know,
like learning each other,
1493
00:53:55,549 --> 00:53:57,624
Getting better
at communicating,
1494
00:53:57,718 --> 00:53:59,884
And our communication styles.
1495
00:53:59,904 --> 00:54:01,128
- That's good.
1496
00:54:01,146 --> 00:54:02,554
You know, in every situation,
let's grow.
1497
00:54:02,573 --> 00:54:05,132
- Yeah, and arguments
have to happen.
1498
00:54:05,150 --> 00:54:06,224
- Yeah.
1499
00:54:06,244 --> 00:54:07,392
- Right?
- Are you neat one?
1500
00:54:07,486 --> 00:54:08,577
- He is very clean.
1501
00:54:08,729 --> 00:54:10,804
- That's good.
- So I really do like that.
1502
00:54:10,823 --> 00:54:12,248
He is a toothpaste crusher,
though.
1503
00:54:12,475 --> 00:54:14,083
- Oh, that's a problem.
- Oh, the middle?
1504
00:54:14,310 --> 00:54:15,251
The middle?
- He crushes everything.
1505
00:54:15,478 --> 00:54:16,310
- I mean, we can teach him,
right?
1506
00:54:16,403 --> 00:54:17,828
He's teachable, right?
- Yeah.
1507
00:54:17,922 --> 00:54:18,495
But, you know, I'm not
even trying to teach him.
1508
00:54:18,589 --> 00:54:20,481
He's okay.
1509
00:54:20,499 --> 00:54:21,815
- Aw, look at you,
accepting him however he is.
1510
00:54:21,908 --> 00:54:24,167
- Yeah, however he is.
- Okay.
1511
00:54:24,262 --> 00:54:26,595
So where's zack, to see
all this work you've done?
1512
00:54:26,747 --> 00:54:30,157
- ♪ when the sky is folding ♪
1513
00:54:30,175 --> 00:54:31,174
- What's up, guys?
- Hey.
1514
00:54:31,269 --> 00:54:33,084
- Hey, what's up, what's up,
what's up?
1515
00:54:33,104 --> 00:54:34,511
- Good to see you again.
Hello. How are you?
1516
00:54:34,605 --> 00:54:35,996
- You look nice.
1517
00:54:36,089 --> 00:54:36,605
- Thank you.
You look nice too.
1518
00:54:36,757 --> 00:54:37,940
- This is very nice.
1519
00:54:38,167 --> 00:54:39,275
Thank you
for putting this together.
1520
00:54:39,426 --> 00:54:40,258
- Well, you guys
gotta get a drink...
1521
00:54:40,278 --> 00:54:41,277
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
1522
00:54:41,504 --> 00:54:42,778
- So that we can cheers
you guys, right?
1523
00:54:43,005 --> 00:54:44,095
- That's a good idea.
That's a good idea.
1524
00:54:44,115 --> 00:54:45,447
- It's crazy that you guys
are married.
1525
00:54:45,599 --> 00:54:47,524
I still can't believe it.
- Yeah, I can't believe it.
1526
00:54:47,618 --> 00:54:49,118
- You can or you cannot?
- No, I can't. No, I can't.
1527
00:54:49,345 --> 00:54:50,286
I can't believe it.
- Oh, okay, yeah.
1528
00:54:50,513 --> 00:54:52,955
- Yeah, it hasn't really hit me
100% yet.
1529
00:54:53,182 --> 00:54:54,531
Michaela, she can get
over things quickly.
1530
00:54:54,683 --> 00:54:57,034
But what she
doesn't understand is that
1531
00:54:57,128 --> 00:54:59,536
The rash decisions,
the causing the scene,
1532
00:54:59,630 --> 00:55:02,539
Just the unnecessary behaviors,
this is a red flag,
1533
00:55:02,633 --> 00:55:05,208
Because I've dealt
with this in the past,
1534
00:55:05,361 --> 00:55:07,377
And I just know,
at this moment,
1535
00:55:07,471 --> 00:55:08,529
I don't know if we're gonna
be able to resolve it.
1536
00:55:08,547 --> 00:55:09,788
So do you guys
want to grab a room
1537
00:55:09,807 --> 00:55:10,213
And kind of talk
privately for a second?
1538
00:55:10,308 --> 00:55:11,698
- Uh, let's.
1539
00:55:11,792 --> 00:55:13,124
I'm gonna ask you
all difficult questions.
1540
00:55:13,144 --> 00:55:14,459
Are you ready?
- Yeah. That's fine with me.
1541
00:55:14,478 --> 00:55:15,385
- Please don't be scared.
I'm a good person.
1542
00:55:15,538 --> 00:55:16,036
- Nah. It's okay.
It's all good.
1543
00:55:16,129 --> 00:55:18,221
Come on, let's go.
1544
00:55:18,374 --> 00:55:19,373
I do want to talk
to janu and courtney
1545
00:55:19,391 --> 00:55:20,816
To kind of
get their perspective
1546
00:55:20,967 --> 00:55:22,133
And give me more insight
on michaela.
1547
00:55:22,227 --> 00:55:23,727
I've always wanted this,
1548
00:55:23,879 --> 00:55:27,881
And I should try my best
to make this work.
1549
00:55:27,974 --> 00:55:29,049
- Congratulations.
- Nice. Yes.
1550
00:55:29,068 --> 00:55:31,068
- To good health.
I'm happy you're here.
1551
00:55:31,220 --> 00:55:32,310
- Thank you, guys.
- We cheers one more time.
1552
00:55:32,330 --> 00:55:33,645
- Thank you, thank you,
thank you.
1553
00:55:33,664 --> 00:55:34,163
- Yeah, and I'm happy
you're part of the family.
1554
00:55:34,314 --> 00:55:36,332
So marriage life.
1555
00:55:36,483 --> 00:55:40,336
- It's definitely been an
adjustment, both good and bad.
1556
00:55:40,487 --> 00:55:42,338
And so what really kind of
took me over the top
1557
00:55:42,565 --> 00:55:44,064
Was saying,
"hey, the housewarming's off,
1558
00:55:44,083 --> 00:55:45,841
And, you know, I'm not coming,"
or whatever.
1559
00:55:46,068 --> 00:55:47,751
- Yeah, we got that message.
- Yeah.
1560
00:55:47,903 --> 00:55:49,845
- Yeah, and that was really--
1561
00:55:50,072 --> 00:55:51,088
That kind of sent me
over the top.
1562
00:55:51,240 --> 00:55:52,255
It's a very difficult situation
1563
00:55:52,408 --> 00:55:52,923
Because I'm not used
to those outbursts,
1564
00:55:53,017 --> 00:55:54,074
Like, out of the blue,
1565
00:55:54,093 --> 00:55:56,243
Because, again,
I just don't know,
1566
00:55:56,261 --> 00:55:58,020
Like, what caused that
and what happened,
1567
00:55:58,171 --> 00:56:00,080
And so that's what I want
to ask you guys.
1568
00:56:00,099 --> 00:56:02,099
Like, you know,
is this kind of usual for her?
1569
00:56:02,193 --> 00:56:03,600
And, like, how do you
kind of get around this?
1570
00:56:03,752 --> 00:56:05,194
Because this, for me,
personally, is something
1571
00:56:05,421 --> 00:56:06,362
That I'm gonna have trouble
dealing with.
1572
00:56:06,589 --> 00:56:07,529
- Mm-hmm.
- But I want to make this work.
1573
00:56:07,681 --> 00:56:09,923
And I don't know
if I can if, like, this--
1574
00:56:09,942 --> 00:56:11,367
These things keep happening.
1575
00:56:11,594 --> 00:56:13,035
- I don't think
it's a usual thing.
1576
00:56:13,262 --> 00:56:14,444
- Okay.
- It's nothing that's usual.
1577
00:56:14,538 --> 00:56:16,113
It's nothing that's gonna
continue to, like, happen.
1578
00:56:16,265 --> 00:56:17,689
Because once she's comfortable,
1579
00:56:17,708 --> 00:56:18,932
You won't have to worry
about any of that.
1580
00:56:18,951 --> 00:56:21,101
She is the most, like,
level-headed, like,
1581
00:56:21,194 --> 00:56:23,212
Sane person you'll ever meet.
- Mm-hmm.
1582
00:56:23,363 --> 00:56:24,713
- But this whole situation,
I know--
1583
00:56:24,865 --> 00:56:26,048
I mean, even for you,
1584
00:56:26,275 --> 00:56:27,216
It's probably
super uncomfortable.
1585
00:56:27,367 --> 00:56:29,793
I think while she's out
of this, like,
1586
00:56:29,945 --> 00:56:31,720
Comfort zone for her...
- Yeah.
1587
00:56:31,872 --> 00:56:34,114
- I think you're gonna get
1588
00:56:34,207 --> 00:56:35,724
A couple sides
that she's not typically.
1589
00:56:35,951 --> 00:56:38,710
- Right.
- Until she gains that trust.
1590
00:56:38,804 --> 00:56:39,786
But that's also where she needs
to start communicating
1591
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:42,973
With you better in the moment.
1592
00:56:43,125 --> 00:56:45,142
- So how has it been this far
with zack?
1593
00:56:45,294 --> 00:56:46,402
I know it's only been
two weeks,
1594
00:56:46,629 --> 00:56:48,478
But a lot can happen
in two weeks.
1595
00:56:48,572 --> 00:56:50,313
- I've noticed that
we are both strong-willed
1596
00:56:50,466 --> 00:56:52,574
And strong-minded individuals,
1597
00:56:52,726 --> 00:56:54,726
And I'm a married woman,
1598
00:56:54,820 --> 00:56:57,228
And I do have to be considerate
of other peoples' feelings.
1599
00:56:57,248 --> 00:56:58,989
Especially his. Especially his.
- Right.
1600
00:56:59,141 --> 00:57:01,141
- He's such an amazing
and beautiful man,
1601
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:04,253
Inside and out,
that I can't do these things--
1602
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:06,738
These vindictive things,
essentially--
1603
00:57:06,757 --> 00:57:08,331
And think that it's okay.
- Right.
1604
00:57:08,484 --> 00:57:09,073
- Because I may lose
my marriage,
1605
00:57:09,168 --> 00:57:10,484
And I don't want to.
1606
00:57:10,502 --> 00:57:12,761
I came here to be married...
1607
00:57:12,913 --> 00:57:15,322
- Exactly.
- And to work through it.
1608
00:57:15,415 --> 00:57:16,765
And it's hard.
It's hard for both of us.
1609
00:57:16,992 --> 00:57:19,493
And I think we both
have to learn
1610
00:57:19,511 --> 00:57:21,678
What is and what is not okay.
- Right, right.
1611
00:57:21,772 --> 00:57:24,681
How do you think
the communication is thus far?
1612
00:57:24,833 --> 00:57:26,667
- It could be better.
- It could be better?
1613
00:57:26,685 --> 00:57:28,685
- I think, on both of our ends.
1614
00:57:28,837 --> 00:57:29,686
On my end, I bite my tongue.
1615
00:57:29,838 --> 00:57:32,673
And I just do.
- Right.
1616
00:57:32,691 --> 00:57:34,024
You'll bit your tongue,
and then you'll react.
1617
00:57:34,118 --> 00:57:36,601
And that might be
a drastic action sometimes.
1618
00:57:36,620 --> 00:57:38,603
- Yes.
- Okay.
1619
00:57:38,697 --> 00:57:41,790
Zack historically has been used
to relationships where,
1620
00:57:41,942 --> 00:57:44,776
You know, most people would
kind of define them as toxic.
1621
00:57:44,870 --> 00:57:48,188
His partner sometimes wasn't
that good at communicating.
1622
00:57:48,281 --> 00:57:50,299
Some of them were
pretty immature.
1623
00:57:50,450 --> 00:57:52,693
So that's why communication
is so big for him.
1624
00:57:52,711 --> 00:57:54,544
So you know, you sit down
and you talk to him
1625
00:57:54,697 --> 00:57:56,379
About something,
and you're upset, you know,
1626
00:57:56,474 --> 00:57:57,864
Handle it differently
than most people would, right?
1627
00:57:57,883 --> 00:58:00,309
You know, it's okay
to feel however you feel.
1628
00:58:00,536 --> 00:58:01,960
No one can invalidate
your feelings.
1629
00:58:01,979 --> 00:58:03,127
If you're upset,
you can be upset.
1630
00:58:03,147 --> 00:58:05,205
You can be angry.
1631
00:58:05,224 --> 00:58:07,298
When you talk to him,
you know, be different.
1632
00:58:07,318 --> 00:58:09,559
Talk to him calmly.
Tell him how you feel.
1633
00:58:09,653 --> 00:58:11,378
Tell him that you're upset,
tell him you're angry,
1634
00:58:11,396 --> 00:58:13,972
And explain why, you know,
and say it respectfully.
1635
00:58:13,991 --> 00:58:15,382
- I don't know if she's
admitted to you, but I know
1636
00:58:15,475 --> 00:58:17,976
She's admitted to me things
that she could do better.
1637
00:58:18,070 --> 00:58:20,996
She needs to be telling those
to you if she hasn't already.
1638
00:58:21,147 --> 00:58:22,647
- We haven't had
that conversation.
1639
00:58:22,666 --> 00:58:24,407
- Yeah, and I think--
I'm sure y'all will.
1640
00:58:24,502 --> 00:58:27,410
- This definitely comes down
to communication.
1641
00:58:27,505 --> 00:58:29,004
And this is gonna translate
into, like, parenting.
1642
00:58:29,155 --> 00:58:30,655
If you guys have kids,
1643
00:58:30,674 --> 00:58:32,249
You guys have to be
on the same page, so.
1644
00:58:32,401 --> 00:58:34,084
- We're rooting for you.
- I love you guys. Yeah.
1645
00:58:34,236 --> 00:58:35,493
- I mean, this conversation
1646
00:58:35,513 --> 00:58:36,753
Makes me feel
a little bit better,
1647
00:58:36,905 --> 00:58:38,180
But again, obviously,
it's gonna take some time
1648
00:58:38,331 --> 00:58:42,017
Because, you know, you guys
mentioned, you know, kids.
1649
00:58:42,244 --> 00:58:44,686
Like, you know,
there's gonna be--
1650
00:58:44,838 --> 00:58:46,021
We have to make
big decisions with kids.
1651
00:58:46,172 --> 00:58:46,838
- Right.
- That's the big thing.
1652
00:58:46,857 --> 00:58:48,765
- Right.
1653
00:58:48,859 --> 00:58:50,008
- Are we gonna be able
to make those decisions
1654
00:58:50,027 --> 00:58:51,935
In a good manner?
1655
00:58:52,029 --> 00:58:53,937
♪ ♪
1656
00:58:54,089 --> 00:58:55,364
That's what I'm saying.
1657
00:58:55,591 --> 00:58:56,532
I'm just like,
I don't know that now.
1658
00:58:56,683 --> 00:58:57,440
- Right.
But you also don't know her.
1659
00:58:57,593 --> 00:58:58,534
♪ ♪
1660
00:59:04,708 --> 00:59:06,190
[upbeat music]
1661
00:59:06,210 --> 00:59:08,118
[doorbell rings]
1662
00:59:08,270 --> 00:59:10,287
- We have people.
- Here! I'm so excited.
1663
00:59:10,439 --> 00:59:12,697
- Whose people is it?
- What's the password?
1664
00:59:12,791 --> 00:59:14,550
- Popcorn.
- Oh.
1665
00:59:14,777 --> 00:59:15,700
- Well, I already know
who's friends it is.
1666
00:59:15,794 --> 00:59:16,701
- It's my friends.
- Hi.
1667
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:18,612
- Hi!
1668
00:59:18,705 --> 00:59:20,130
- Is that, like,
a cookie cake thing?
1669
00:59:20,282 --> 00:59:21,281
- No, it's a million cookies.
- It's better.
1670
00:59:21,374 --> 00:59:23,466
- We're having a
housewarming party,
1671
00:59:23,619 --> 00:59:25,060
And I'm looking forward
1672
00:59:25,287 --> 00:59:27,637
To hopefully
learning more about my wife.
1673
00:59:27,790 --> 00:59:30,473
And my expectation's right now
that it starts feeling
1674
00:59:30,568 --> 00:59:31,900
More like a marriage
and less like a friendship.
1675
00:59:32,127 --> 00:59:36,220
That is truly what I'm still
anticipating happening.
1676
00:59:36,315 --> 00:59:37,889
Pass them down.
1677
00:59:37,908 --> 00:59:38,723
- Well, cheers, guys.
- Yeah.
1678
00:59:38,817 --> 00:59:40,634
- Thank you so much for--
1679
00:59:40,727 --> 00:59:41,243
- Brett has a toast
for everybody.
1680
00:59:41,394 --> 00:59:43,078
- I do?
- Yeah.
1681
00:59:43,229 --> 00:59:44,137
- It's your turn.
- No, I heard you had a toast.
1682
00:59:44,230 --> 00:59:46,473
- Ooh. Ooh.
- Okay, that's fine.
1683
00:59:46,566 --> 00:59:47,490
- Always putting me
on the spot.
1684
00:59:47,585 --> 00:59:48,809
Always. Okay.
1685
00:59:48,827 --> 00:59:52,087
So I want to thank you guys
for coming.
1686
00:59:52,314 --> 00:59:53,830
It's super important
to us to have, like,
1687
00:59:53,982 --> 00:59:56,908
People that love us
and that we love being here.
1688
00:59:57,002 --> 01:00:00,987
And to supporting
a very untraditional
1689
01:00:01,006 --> 01:00:02,764
But amazing thing in our lives.
1690
01:00:02,916 --> 01:00:04,916
And that's it.
1691
01:00:05,010 --> 01:00:08,086
All: Cheers.
- Thank you.
1692
01:00:08,180 --> 01:00:12,833
I definitely think
it's important that my spouse
1693
01:00:12,851 --> 01:00:16,186
Is not only just friendly
and cordial with my friends,
1694
01:00:16,280 --> 01:00:18,947
But makes an effort
to be friends with my friends,
1695
01:00:19,099 --> 01:00:20,023
Because of how important
they are to me.
1696
01:00:20,175 --> 01:00:22,342
They're basically family.
1697
01:00:22,361 --> 01:00:24,344
- So everybody here's married.
- Yes.
1698
01:00:24,363 --> 01:00:25,011
- I was just--
I, like, ring-checked.
1699
01:00:25,105 --> 01:00:27,347
- It's my first time.
1700
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:28,531
- Band, band, band.
- It's great.
1701
01:00:28,684 --> 01:00:29,516
- Bands on bands
on bands on bands.
1702
01:00:29,534 --> 01:00:31,034
- It's great.
- Yes.
1703
01:00:31,128 --> 01:00:32,777
- Welcome. Welcome to the club.
- Happy to have you.
1704
01:00:32,796 --> 01:00:34,037
- I'm into that. We're grown.
1705
01:00:34,189 --> 01:00:35,613
- Rookies.
- Super married.
1706
01:00:35,707 --> 01:00:36,706
- You're the rookies.
- Super married.
1707
01:00:36,859 --> 01:00:38,282
- How long have you guys
been married?
1708
01:00:38,302 --> 01:00:40,210
- So veteran married people.
- I know, huh?
1709
01:00:40,362 --> 01:00:41,711
- I'm open for some advice
on this.
1710
01:00:41,864 --> 01:00:43,530
- Happy wife, happy life.
1711
01:00:43,548 --> 01:00:45,882
♪ ♪
1712
01:00:45,976 --> 01:00:48,201
- I've heard that a few times.
It's the weirdest thing.
1713
01:00:48,294 --> 01:00:49,536
- Unfortunately,
it's actually true.
1714
01:00:49,554 --> 01:00:51,146
- That's why you can never--
1715
01:00:51,373 --> 01:00:52,296
- Remember, yours is
sitting right here.
1716
01:00:52,391 --> 01:00:53,798
- I know.
Now, you and my dad said it.
1717
01:00:53,892 --> 01:00:57,152
- Yeah, no, I know.
1718
01:00:57,379 --> 01:00:59,713
- Well, shall we commence
with games, you all?
1719
01:00:59,731 --> 01:01:04,384
♪ ♪
1720
01:01:04,477 --> 01:01:06,811
- ♪ gonna play now,
everybody shake now ♪
1721
01:01:06,905 --> 01:01:09,055
- If I listed you
as my job reference,
1722
01:01:09,074 --> 01:01:09,739
What would you say about me?
1723
01:01:09,833 --> 01:01:12,650
And would it be true?
1724
01:01:12,744 --> 01:01:13,894
- Well, you skipped work
two days ago.
1725
01:01:13,987 --> 01:01:15,337
[laughter]
1726
01:01:15,488 --> 01:01:17,989
So I'd say when you do show up,
you absolutely show up.
1727
01:01:18,083 --> 01:01:20,400
But when you don't show up,
1728
01:01:20,419 --> 01:01:23,086
It's probably not
'cause you're sick.
1729
01:01:23,238 --> 01:01:24,328
- I didn't tell them
I was sick,
1730
01:01:24,348 --> 01:01:26,330
Just for whoever's listening.
1731
01:01:26,425 --> 01:01:29,518
That was not the reason I gave.
1732
01:01:29,745 --> 01:01:31,502
- So brett, tell us
about the one that got away.
1733
01:01:31,522 --> 01:01:34,247
- Actually, I don't have one,
1734
01:01:34,340 --> 01:01:35,415
Because I'm the one
that got away.
1735
01:01:35,434 --> 01:01:36,766
- Yes, ma'am.
- Bam.
1736
01:01:36,860 --> 01:01:38,268
- Snap, snap.
1737
01:01:38,362 --> 01:01:41,345
- It makes me feel really good
to see them interacting,
1738
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:42,939
Because these are people who I
want to be around all the time.
1739
01:01:43,091 --> 01:01:44,866
Like, I want to be around him
all the time,
1740
01:01:45,018 --> 01:01:47,110
But I also want to be
around them all the time.
1741
01:01:47,204 --> 01:01:48,870
So if we can--
1742
01:01:49,097 --> 01:01:50,188
- I don't want to be
around them all the time.
1743
01:01:50,207 --> 01:01:51,948
- Well, I understand.
1744
01:01:52,100 --> 01:01:55,043
- So I guess, what have you
gathered thus far
1745
01:01:55,195 --> 01:01:56,360
That you think
1746
01:01:56,380 --> 01:01:58,605
You might want to know
a little bit more about?
1747
01:01:58,623 --> 01:02:00,716
- I've gathered so much
that I don't know
1748
01:02:00,867 --> 01:02:02,200
That I could just start
naming things,
1749
01:02:02,294 --> 01:02:04,720
'cause literally
our conversation is--
1750
01:02:04,947 --> 01:02:06,296
We have to, like,
stop ourselves from talking.
1751
01:02:06,448 --> 01:02:07,614
- Yeah.
- We talk way too much.
1752
01:02:07,707 --> 01:02:09,891
- Nonstop, right?
- Which is not normal for me.
1753
01:02:10,043 --> 01:02:13,729
- He's so tender, you know,
with his feelings.
1754
01:02:13,956 --> 01:02:17,215
Have you felt that
you have to hold back
1755
01:02:17,234 --> 01:02:19,717
Some of what you want to say?
1756
01:02:19,737 --> 01:02:20,961
- I don't know if we've gotten
to that tender place yet.
1757
01:02:20,979 --> 01:02:23,296
♪ ♪
1758
01:02:23,315 --> 01:02:27,817
But I can tell that it's there.
I can tell that it's there.
1759
01:02:27,911 --> 01:02:29,636
- How would you suggest her
pulling it out of him?
1760
01:02:29,729 --> 01:02:31,062
- Yeah.
- Just be true. Be honest.
1761
01:02:31,156 --> 01:02:32,080
- Yeah.
- Be you.
1762
01:02:32,307 --> 01:02:33,974
- Yeah.
1763
01:02:33,992 --> 01:02:35,417
- Be gentle.
- Yeah.
1764
01:02:35,644 --> 01:02:37,919
- I mean, I think that
really seeing each other
1765
01:02:38,146 --> 01:02:40,997
For who each other is
and respecting that
1766
01:02:41,149 --> 01:02:45,668
And the things
that don't necessarily line up
1767
01:02:45,821 --> 01:02:48,263
With what you expected...
- Mm-hmm.
1768
01:02:48,490 --> 01:02:51,007
- Being able to say,
"but I see this instead,"
1769
01:02:51,101 --> 01:02:53,009
Or, "it may come,"
1770
01:02:53,103 --> 01:02:56,496
Or, "maybe I didn't know
I needed this, but it's there."
1771
01:02:56,589 --> 01:02:57,664
- You're basically saying
everything
1772
01:02:57,757 --> 01:02:58,774
That I have said
to pretty much everybody.
1773
01:02:59,001 --> 01:03:00,424
- Yeah.
1774
01:03:00,519 --> 01:03:02,519
- Because that's how
it's been for me.
1775
01:03:02,671 --> 01:03:05,855
- Yeah, I mean, we were friends
for a while.
1776
01:03:05,949 --> 01:03:08,617
And I think becoming friends
first is just so valuable.
1777
01:03:08,844 --> 01:03:10,601
- Our friendship is the thing
that means the most to me,
1778
01:03:10,621 --> 01:03:14,122
Because if you're not friends,
1779
01:03:14,274 --> 01:03:15,682
I think you don't
have anything.
1780
01:03:15,775 --> 01:03:16,625
All the other stuff,
that's all lust.
1781
01:03:16,776 --> 01:03:17,942
- Agreed. Yep.
1782
01:03:17,961 --> 01:03:20,462
- There's a place that we need
to get past,
1783
01:03:20,613 --> 01:03:23,114
From, like, friend
to relationship, marriage-wise.
1784
01:03:23,208 --> 01:03:25,191
I mean, hopefully we get there.
1785
01:03:25,285 --> 01:03:26,635
I mean, that's where
we are now.
1786
01:03:26,786 --> 01:03:30,472
- But, like, for me, like,
I definitely want to know more
1787
01:03:30,623 --> 01:03:32,549
Regarding, like, his feelings
for me specifically.
1788
01:03:32,701 --> 01:03:34,868
- Yeah.
1789
01:03:34,886 --> 01:03:37,554
- I think at the time
and place that brett and ryan
1790
01:03:37,706 --> 01:03:39,873
Are at, it's hard--
it's kind of, like--
1791
01:03:39,966 --> 01:03:41,465
- It's fresh.
- Yeah, it's fresh.
1792
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:43,819
It's like a cute chess game
because you're still trying
1793
01:03:44,046 --> 01:03:46,062
To figure out
what you can and cannot share.
1794
01:03:46,156 --> 01:03:48,990
I think if ryan is more open
with how he feels,
1795
01:03:49,142 --> 01:03:51,051
She will feel reassured
to be herself,
1796
01:03:51,144 --> 01:03:52,719
And she will open up more.
1797
01:03:52,812 --> 01:03:55,664
She just needs, like,
the cliché term--
1798
01:03:55,815 --> 01:03:57,648
Like, if you water her,
she will grow.
1799
01:03:57,742 --> 01:03:59,909
- We've let everything happen,
like, just naturally,
1800
01:04:00,003 --> 01:04:02,579
And I think that's--
it is a slower process
1801
01:04:02,731 --> 01:04:04,564
Because we're pretty adamant
1802
01:04:04,583 --> 01:04:06,174
About that's how we want
it to happen.
1803
01:04:06,326 --> 01:04:08,068
- That's the best part,
I think,
1804
01:04:08,086 --> 01:04:09,160
Is that you're both coming
at it from that mind space
1805
01:04:09,254 --> 01:04:11,680
Of, like, "we're committed."
1806
01:04:11,831 --> 01:04:12,514
- But again, we only have--
we have eight weeks, so.
1807
01:04:12,741 --> 01:04:14,757
- I know.
1808
01:04:14,852 --> 01:04:15,851
- It is a rush thing
that we're trying not to rush.
1809
01:04:16,078 --> 01:04:17,835
- Yeah.
1810
01:04:17,929 --> 01:04:19,003
- And that's kind of
where we are now.
1811
01:04:19,022 --> 01:04:20,355
- Yep.
1812
01:04:20,506 --> 01:04:22,673
- ♪ gonna stay strong ♪
1813
01:04:22,767 --> 01:04:25,861
♪ until the battle is won ♪
1814
01:04:30,442 --> 01:04:31,925
[upbeat music]
1815
01:04:31,943 --> 01:04:35,261
♪ ♪
1816
01:04:35,280 --> 01:04:39,523
- ♪ even in the dark,
we are never alone ♪
1817
01:04:39,543 --> 01:04:43,603
- You excited about the guests
coming over?
1818
01:04:43,622 --> 01:04:45,455
- No.
- Not excited?
1819
01:04:45,607 --> 01:04:47,123
- This is a lot
for an introvert.
1820
01:04:47,275 --> 01:04:49,384
- I'm all into housewarming.
1821
01:04:49,611 --> 01:04:50,777
Like, I love going
to housewarming parties.
1822
01:04:50,795 --> 01:04:52,036
- Oh, no.
- I would throw one.
1823
01:04:52,130 --> 01:04:53,555
- If somebody invited me,
I probably wouldn't go.
1824
01:04:53,782 --> 01:04:54,631
- Oh.
- I would send them a gift.
1825
01:04:54,783 --> 01:04:55,724
- No, I would go, for sure.
1826
01:04:55,875 --> 01:04:57,800
- I'd be like,
"here you go. Gift card."
1827
01:04:57,953 --> 01:05:00,228
My husband and I have been
married for almost two weeks,
1828
01:05:00,380 --> 01:05:03,306
But I think there is just
so much more to learn from him,
1829
01:05:03,458 --> 01:05:07,551
Every day or every opportunity
or every activity that we do,
1830
01:05:07,571 --> 01:05:09,963
Just getting--
you know, learning,
1831
01:05:09,981 --> 01:05:11,814
Taking advice
from individuals who have been
1832
01:05:11,909 --> 01:05:13,816
Through it--they've been
married or divorced,
1833
01:05:13,911 --> 01:05:15,652
And they are willing
to share the mistakes
1834
01:05:15,746 --> 01:05:18,747
That they've made to help us
flourish in our marriage.
1835
01:05:18,974 --> 01:05:20,974
- Has there been a fight yet?
- No.
1836
01:05:21,067 --> 01:05:21,641
- Not yet.
- Are you surprised?
1837
01:05:21,734 --> 01:05:24,235
- He's very patient.
1838
01:05:24,254 --> 01:05:25,979
- I--actually, I didn't expect
y'all to have any fights.
1839
01:05:26,072 --> 01:05:27,571
- Yeah, me neither.
- Why not?
1840
01:05:27,591 --> 01:05:29,332
- Like, from what
I know of gil...
1841
01:05:29,426 --> 01:05:30,500
- Right. Yeah.
1842
01:05:30,594 --> 01:05:33,153
- You are, like,
the female version of him,
1843
01:05:33,171 --> 01:05:35,004
From what I can tell, right...
- So far, yeah.
1844
01:05:35,098 --> 01:05:35,913
- In the short amount of time
that we've known you.
1845
01:05:35,933 --> 01:05:37,157
- Oh!
1846
01:05:37,175 --> 01:05:38,749
- Minus--
- nice to know.
1847
01:05:38,769 --> 01:05:39,935
- As far as temperament
is concerned.
1848
01:05:40,086 --> 01:05:41,252
- Oh, yes, temperament,
for sure.
1849
01:05:41,271 --> 01:05:42,829
- There's nothing not
to like about y'all.
1850
01:05:42,922 --> 01:05:44,255
- Right.
- You know what I mean?
1851
01:05:44,274 --> 01:05:45,256
So you're like, "okay, so
I don't like that dress..."
1852
01:05:45,275 --> 01:05:47,609
- I am pretty wonderful.
1853
01:05:47,836 --> 01:05:49,018
- And she'll be like,
"well, get over it."
1854
01:05:49,112 --> 01:05:50,594
"all right, maybe she'll just
wear the blue one--
1855
01:05:50,614 --> 01:05:51,854
I mean the pink one
tomorrow instead."
1856
01:05:51,949 --> 01:05:53,840
I mean, that's just kind of
how I see it going.
1857
01:05:53,858 --> 01:05:55,008
- Okay.
1858
01:05:55,026 --> 01:05:56,509
It's kind of been
like that, pretty much.
1859
01:05:56,602 --> 01:05:58,027
It's pretty much
been like that.
1860
01:05:58,121 --> 01:06:00,346
- What you mean, "okay"?
What does "okay" mean?
1861
01:06:00,365 --> 01:06:01,197
- Oh, no, I like the dress.
1862
01:06:01,291 --> 01:06:04,108
[laughter]
1863
01:06:04,127 --> 01:06:05,351
Y'all haven't seen
her closet, though.
1864
01:06:05,370 --> 01:06:07,187
- I think that's easy.
- How's her closet?
1865
01:06:07,205 --> 01:06:09,205
Is it organized more than you?
- No, this closet--no.
1866
01:06:09,299 --> 01:06:11,357
No, her closet is organized.
Her closet is organized.
1867
01:06:11,376 --> 01:06:12,859
- Both of y'all are organized.
- No, but, like...
1868
01:06:12,952 --> 01:06:14,469
- Well, no, he's no better.
1869
01:06:14,696 --> 01:06:16,863
- The amount of stuff
in her closet,
1870
01:06:16,881 --> 01:06:17,973
Like, I can't
keep up with that.
1871
01:06:18,124 --> 01:06:19,623
- I have a small closet,
though.
1872
01:06:19,643 --> 01:06:20,976
- You mean here?
- It looks like--
1873
01:06:21,203 --> 01:06:23,203
- No, no, no, no, no.
- It's, like, 1/4 of that.
1874
01:06:23,221 --> 01:06:27,056
- I've never seen a hanger
that's specifically made
1875
01:06:27,209 --> 01:06:30,634
To hold ten pairs of jeans
on one hanger.
1876
01:06:30,654 --> 01:06:31,802
And she has, like,
15 of those hanging.
1877
01:06:31,822 --> 01:06:33,563
- It's three, sir.
1878
01:06:33,657 --> 01:06:35,323
There's three per hanger.
He's being sarcastic.
1879
01:06:35,475 --> 01:06:37,066
- It's not three.
- There are three.
1880
01:06:37,219 --> 01:06:39,552
- You have like seven trus
on one hanger.
1881
01:06:39,571 --> 01:06:41,496
- See the first argument, guys.
1882
01:06:41,647 --> 01:06:42,646
- I'm sorry. I'll leave.
1883
01:06:42,666 --> 01:06:45,074
I didn't mean
to instigate anything.
1884
01:06:45,168 --> 01:06:49,820
- My husband loves to joke
around about my standards
1885
01:06:49,840 --> 01:06:51,414
And the things that I like.
1886
01:06:51,566 --> 01:06:53,082
He thinks that's funny.
1887
01:06:53,176 --> 01:06:54,083
- Adrienne, how many pair
of jeans do you have?
1888
01:06:54,236 --> 01:06:55,585
- Nine?
1889
01:06:55,737 --> 01:06:56,327
- She got nine on one hanger.
1890
01:06:56,346 --> 01:06:58,421
- Oh, girl, it's okay.
1891
01:06:58,515 --> 01:07:00,256
- But, you know,
1892
01:07:00,408 --> 01:07:01,908
I love that
we have that, like--
1893
01:07:02,001 --> 01:07:04,835
We're able to go back and forth
and joke around about things.
1894
01:07:04,855 --> 01:07:06,354
And so you gotta have
a little bit of fun.
1895
01:07:06,506 --> 01:07:07,856
- Looks delicious.
- Eat away, guys.
1896
01:07:08,083 --> 01:07:09,265
- Yeah, y'all can start
digging in.
1897
01:07:09,417 --> 01:07:11,417
Don't be shy now.
Don't be shy. Just grab it.
1898
01:07:11,436 --> 01:07:12,919
- So hey, guys.
1899
01:07:13,012 --> 01:07:14,420
- It's a lot of food.
What's up?
1900
01:07:14,439 --> 01:07:16,939
- So how you guys been,
being married to a stranger,
1901
01:07:17,092 --> 01:07:18,424
Waking up next to a stranger,
1902
01:07:18,443 --> 01:07:21,928
Taking a shower next
to a stranger, or whatever?
1903
01:07:21,946 --> 01:07:24,021
- We're not gonna go there.
- Not there? Okay.
1904
01:07:24,041 --> 01:07:26,190
- Other than that,
I think it's been good.
1905
01:07:26,284 --> 01:07:27,542
I think one thing that's--
1906
01:07:27,769 --> 01:07:29,360
I don't think
it's been surprising.
1907
01:07:29,454 --> 01:07:32,955
But, like, it's been--it's felt
very natural and normal.
1908
01:07:33,108 --> 01:07:34,716
Like, you wake up,
and you have someone,
1909
01:07:34,867 --> 01:07:35,775
And you're living with them,
and you're doing things,
1910
01:07:35,794 --> 01:07:36,292
And it's flowing,
and it's easy.
1911
01:07:36,386 --> 01:07:38,553
- That's good.
1912
01:07:38,780 --> 01:07:40,113
- At which point does it
stop being easy?
1913
01:07:40,131 --> 01:07:41,447
- Right.
- No, I'm kidding.
1914
01:07:41,541 --> 01:07:45,042
- Yeah. I agree with my wife.
1915
01:07:45,062 --> 01:07:47,303
It's been surprisingly smooth,
1916
01:07:47,397 --> 01:07:50,473
Like, to get into a marriage
with somebody you don't know,
1917
01:07:50,567 --> 01:07:53,068
And for it to kind of, like,
click like it's clicked--
1918
01:07:53,219 --> 01:07:54,127
- That's good.
1919
01:07:54,220 --> 01:07:55,886
- I feel very comfortable
with her.
1920
01:07:55,906 --> 01:07:57,797
I feel like I've known her
for a while.
1921
01:07:57,890 --> 01:07:59,407
There's still plenty that
I need to know
1922
01:07:59,559 --> 01:08:02,226
That I don't know about her,
but for the most part,
1923
01:08:02,245 --> 01:08:04,153
It's like, I know enough
that--to trust her.
1924
01:08:04,306 --> 01:08:05,988
- Mm-hmm.
1925
01:08:06,141 --> 01:08:07,415
♪ ♪
1926
01:08:07,642 --> 01:08:09,233
- The flow is beautiful.
I do like it.
1927
01:08:09,252 --> 01:08:10,493
I like the energy around them.
1928
01:08:10,645 --> 01:08:12,328
He's the type of guy
that if you give trust,
1929
01:08:12,480 --> 01:08:14,831
He gives you a lot more
1930
01:08:14,983 --> 01:08:16,649
Than what you're getting back,
you know?
1931
01:08:16,742 --> 01:08:18,167
And I'm hoping
that she doesn't
1932
01:08:18,320 --> 01:08:18,742
Take advantage of that,
'cause he's a good guy.
1933
01:08:18,837 --> 01:08:22,097
He's a good dude.
1934
01:08:22,324 --> 01:08:25,249
- We had a little homework
from pastor cal.
1935
01:08:25,343 --> 01:08:26,601
- Oh, yeah.
- Okay.
1936
01:08:26,752 --> 01:08:29,011
- So pastor cal came
and spoke to us.
1937
01:08:29,164 --> 01:08:31,922
Had a little
one-on-one therapy.
1938
01:08:31,942 --> 01:08:33,775
One of the homework
that he gave us was--
1939
01:08:34,002 --> 01:08:35,426
You know, when he left,
he was like,
1940
01:08:35,520 --> 01:08:39,948
"I want y'all to look
at each other's bank accounts."
1941
01:08:40,175 --> 01:08:42,692
So we logged
into our bank accounts,
1942
01:08:42,844 --> 01:08:44,360
We looked at our checkings,
1943
01:08:44,512 --> 01:08:47,196
We looked at each other's
savings, and, yeah.
1944
01:08:47,290 --> 01:08:49,198
- Who got higher savings?
- Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey.
1945
01:08:49,351 --> 01:08:51,017
- Oh, come on, now.
- I knew that. I knew that.
1946
01:08:51,110 --> 01:08:52,368
- That's a vulnerable position
to be in.
1947
01:08:52,462 --> 01:08:53,277
- I knew that.
1948
01:08:53,371 --> 01:08:55,688
- So you're okay with her
1949
01:08:55,707 --> 01:08:57,206
Maintaining
that same kind of lifestyle?
1950
01:08:57,359 --> 01:08:58,782
- Okay, so that was
another question we had.
1951
01:08:58,802 --> 01:09:00,860
Right?
- Mm-hmm.
1952
01:09:00,879 --> 01:09:02,637
- And she was like, "you know,
the one thing I'm not gonna do
1953
01:09:02,864 --> 01:09:05,214
Is change my lifestyle
for anybody."
1954
01:09:05,308 --> 01:09:10,812
♪ ♪
1955
01:09:10,963 --> 01:09:12,981
And so I don't know,
1956
01:09:13,208 --> 01:09:14,707
I felt a certain type of way
when she said that.
1957
01:09:14,726 --> 01:09:16,467
I guess the principle of it,
that she was so adamant
1958
01:09:16,486 --> 01:09:20,046
About
"I'm not changing for anybody."
1959
01:09:20,139 --> 01:09:21,138
- I think what you're
trying to say is,
1960
01:09:21,158 --> 01:09:22,824
A little bit of a compromise.
1961
01:09:23,051 --> 01:09:24,141
- That's it.
- It would be, like, nothing.
1962
01:09:24,235 --> 01:09:25,401
Like, if you getting together
with somebody...
1963
01:09:25,495 --> 01:09:26,569
- That's all I'm saying.
1964
01:09:26,721 --> 01:09:28,054
- There has to be some movement
1965
01:09:28,072 --> 01:09:31,815
When you say, "no, there's
nothing I'm gonna change."
1966
01:09:31,835 --> 01:09:32,816
- That is the part--
- it's the principle.
1967
01:09:32,911 --> 01:09:34,911
- It's the principle.
- That's it.
1968
01:09:35,063 --> 01:09:36,412
- You shouldn't use "always"
and "never."
1969
01:09:36,564 --> 01:09:38,006
- As soon as you say "never,"
you're like--
1970
01:09:38,157 --> 01:09:39,507
You kind of, like--
'cause then you're gonna--
1971
01:09:39,734 --> 01:09:41,417
- Like, you not
even considering it.
1972
01:09:41,511 --> 01:09:43,827
- No, not even.
1973
01:09:43,922 --> 01:09:45,513
- It's like, "no."
1974
01:09:48,018 --> 01:09:50,518
- So at the altar, you know,
when you went for a kiss,
1975
01:09:50,670 --> 01:09:51,577
And I knew it was
the first time.
1976
01:09:51,671 --> 01:09:54,430
Ever since then,
have y'all kissed?
1977
01:09:54,582 --> 01:09:55,673
- Not yet.
- No.
1978
01:09:55,767 --> 01:09:56,840
- Really? Not even a peck?
1979
01:09:56,860 --> 01:09:57,525
- And that's a wrap.
- Not even a peck.
1980
01:09:57,677 --> 01:09:59,677
- Wow.
- Just snuggles?
1981
01:09:59,696 --> 01:10:00,586
- That's interesting.
- Snuggles.
1982
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:01,863
- Yeah.
- Good for you.
1983
01:10:02,014 --> 01:10:03,531
- So I'm guessing the experts
are gonna tell you
1984
01:10:03,683 --> 01:10:06,868
Probably to start getting
a little closer to each other.
1985
01:10:07,095 --> 01:10:07,443
- I don't think
everybody needs to--
1986
01:10:07,537 --> 01:10:09,779
- He did ask.
1987
01:10:09,931 --> 01:10:10,947
You know, he asked her,
you know,
1988
01:10:11,099 --> 01:10:12,598
"do you find him attractive?"
1989
01:10:12,617 --> 01:10:13,541
He asked me, also,
do I find her attractive--
1990
01:10:13,693 --> 01:10:15,693
Do we find each other
attractive?
1991
01:10:15,787 --> 01:10:17,712
- Do you?
- Do you--yes. I do.
1992
01:10:17,863 --> 01:10:19,863
I do. Do you?
1993
01:10:19,958 --> 01:10:21,441
- Yes.
- Okay. Yeah.
1994
01:10:21,459 --> 01:10:24,201
- Do you feel the chemistry?
- Yes. But I did tell her--
1995
01:10:24,221 --> 01:10:26,295
- What'd you tell her?
- I do have to bring this up.
1996
01:10:26,389 --> 01:10:27,722
- He's gonna get me a divorce.
- Bring it up. What you got?
1997
01:10:27,949 --> 01:10:30,225
- I said, if--
I asked her--I was like,
1998
01:10:30,376 --> 01:10:33,377
"do you think we could go
from here till decision day,"
1999
01:10:33,396 --> 01:10:35,730
Which is the last day,
2000
01:10:35,957 --> 01:10:36,898
"could you go
without kissing me?"
2001
01:10:37,049 --> 01:10:39,809
And she said, "probably."
she said yes.
2002
01:10:39,961 --> 01:10:41,569
And I was like, okay, well--
2003
01:10:41,796 --> 01:10:43,238
- Now, is this the pace
you normally
2004
01:10:43,465 --> 01:10:44,814
Have gone at with former--
- good question.
2005
01:10:44,908 --> 01:10:45,740
- I mean, it usually takes me
a little longer.
2006
01:10:45,891 --> 01:10:46,574
- Okay. And that's okay.
2007
01:10:46,726 --> 01:10:49,302
- But I looked at it, like,
2008
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:51,562
"well, I feel like
you conditioned yourself..."
2009
01:10:51,656 --> 01:10:52,580
- Right. Something that--
2010
01:10:52,732 --> 01:10:55,141
- Well, but that's also
two months
2011
01:10:55,159 --> 01:10:56,476
Of someone she's not
married to and living to...
2012
01:10:56,494 --> 01:10:58,144
- It's completely different.
2013
01:10:58,162 --> 01:10:59,403
- And spending all day,
every day with.
2014
01:10:59,422 --> 01:11:01,405
- Exactly.
- It's completely different.
2015
01:11:01,424 --> 01:11:02,757
- And so I feel like,
you're not doing it on purpose,
2016
01:11:02,908 --> 01:11:04,650
You're just so used to that
that now
2017
01:11:04,669 --> 01:11:06,261
That's the cookie cutter way
2018
01:11:06,488 --> 01:11:07,820
Of you going
into every relationship.
2019
01:11:07,913 --> 01:11:09,155
- Right. Right.
It's not natural.
2020
01:11:09,248 --> 01:11:11,324
- But this isn't
the same cookie cutter.
2021
01:11:11,342 --> 01:11:13,250
Like, I'm a signature dish.
2022
01:11:13,270 --> 01:11:14,251
- Right.
- This is completely different.
2023
01:11:14,345 --> 01:11:15,603
- Right.
- You know what I'm saying?
2024
01:11:18,257 --> 01:11:19,923
And so it's one
of those things,
2025
01:11:19,943 --> 01:11:20,516
That, like,
do we really like each other?
2026
01:11:20,610 --> 01:11:24,520
♪ ♪
2027
01:11:24,672 --> 01:11:26,339
- Okay.
2028
01:11:26,432 --> 01:11:27,115
- 'cause I know she wants
to be married.
2029
01:11:27,266 --> 01:11:29,266
I want to be married.
2030
01:11:29,286 --> 01:11:31,602
You know, is it beyond the idea
of just being married?
2031
01:11:31,621 --> 01:11:35,773
Like, I've told her, like,
"I know you want to be married,
2032
01:11:35,867 --> 01:11:38,701
But if I was just anybody else,
you'd be happy also?"
2033
01:11:38,795 --> 01:11:40,202
- I mean--
2034
01:11:40,355 --> 01:11:41,871
- So it's like one
of those things.
2035
01:11:42,023 --> 01:11:43,464
- It's the same--
if I wanted to be married,
2036
01:11:43,691 --> 01:11:47,710
I would just be married
to anybody.
2037
01:11:47,862 --> 01:11:49,028
But I didn't want that.
2038
01:11:49,121 --> 01:11:51,789
Like, I came through this
because I wanted someone
2039
01:11:51,808 --> 01:11:53,049
That had, like,
the same values as me.
2040
01:11:53,143 --> 01:11:53,866
- You want a connection.
2041
01:11:53,885 --> 01:11:55,384
- Yeah.
- Correct.
2042
01:11:55,478 --> 01:11:58,295
♪ ♪
2043
01:11:58,315 --> 01:11:59,797
- There's a difference
between attraction,
2044
01:11:59,816 --> 01:12:03,967
That you're attracted
to someone, and a connection.
2045
01:12:04,062 --> 01:12:05,878
You want both.
- Yeah. Yeah.
2046
01:12:05,897 --> 01:12:07,563
- But a connection's deeper.
2047
01:12:07,657 --> 01:12:10,450
♪ ♪
2048
01:12:12,829 --> 01:12:16,831
- Come holler at me, though.
- All right, let's do it.
2049
01:12:16,982 --> 01:12:19,000
- I'm gonna go have a chat
with willie for a little bit.
2050
01:12:19,227 --> 01:12:21,002
- Oh, okay.
- But then we'll be back.
2051
01:12:21,153 --> 01:12:22,503
- What you trying
to take out of me?
2052
01:12:22,655 --> 01:12:24,339
- Everything. The tea.
2053
01:12:24,490 --> 01:12:27,157
- I'm a sealed box.
[both laugh]
2054
01:12:27,177 --> 01:12:28,734
- How long y'all
been friends now?
2055
01:12:28,753 --> 01:12:31,253
- Uh, ten years.
- Okay.
2056
01:12:31,348 --> 01:12:33,089
So I'm assuming,
2057
01:12:33,241 --> 01:12:35,183
In those ten years,
she's been in relationships,
2058
01:12:35,334 --> 01:12:35,758
You know,
during that friendship.
2059
01:12:35,852 --> 01:12:38,427
- Yeah. Couple.
2060
01:12:38,521 --> 01:12:40,504
- Yeah, so like,
I don't know--how would you say
2061
01:12:40,523 --> 01:12:43,099
She typically is
when it comes down to, like,
2062
01:12:43,193 --> 01:12:45,360
Not just intimacy itself,
but, like, just kissing?
2063
01:12:45,587 --> 01:12:46,844
- Yeah.
- You know what I'm saying?
2064
01:12:46,863 --> 01:12:48,696
Like, do you think that
that's--I mean, not think,
2065
01:12:48,923 --> 01:12:51,682
But have you seen that
it takes her a while
2066
01:12:51,776 --> 01:12:55,536
To kind of get close to people
in her past relationships?
2067
01:12:55,688 --> 01:12:59,040
Like, is it something
that she--
2068
01:12:59,191 --> 01:13:00,616
- Uh, I can't really speak
to that.
2069
01:13:00,768 --> 01:13:01,767
- Okay.
2070
01:13:01,786 --> 01:13:05,121
- I've never really seen her
be, like,
2071
01:13:05,273 --> 01:13:07,215
Affectionate with a partner.
2072
01:13:07,366 --> 01:13:08,866
- So you haven't seen her,
like, pda
2073
01:13:08,960 --> 01:13:11,052
With another--okay.
2074
01:13:11,203 --> 01:13:12,220
- I haven't.
I can't say that I have.
2075
01:13:12,371 --> 01:13:13,129
And it's been,
you know, eight--
2076
01:13:13,223 --> 01:13:15,114
- That's crazy.
2077
01:13:15,133 --> 01:13:15,873
- Eight, ten years.
You know what I'm saying?
2078
01:13:15,892 --> 01:13:16,632
- That's wild.
2079
01:13:16,784 --> 01:13:18,726
♪ ♪
2080
01:13:18,878 --> 01:13:21,787
- She's--she does tend to move
at a slow pace,
2081
01:13:21,881 --> 01:13:26,292
But I think what
she's feeling is, like,
2082
01:13:26,310 --> 01:13:27,568
"why would I engage in this
if I don't believe
2083
01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:30,571
"or I don't know
or if there's uncertainty
2084
01:13:30,798 --> 01:13:32,481
That it won't last past
the eight weeks?"
2085
01:13:32,575 --> 01:13:37,486
♪ ♪
2086
01:13:37,580 --> 01:13:40,581
- You guys have different ways
of the way you--
2087
01:13:40,733 --> 01:13:42,083
Expenses and everything.
2088
01:13:42,310 --> 01:13:43,142
Do you believe
that maybe that could be
2089
01:13:43,161 --> 01:13:44,585
An issue in the future?
2090
01:13:44,737 --> 01:13:46,587
'cause, I mean, he spends,
2091
01:13:46,739 --> 01:13:49,331
But it seems like
you spend more.
2092
01:13:49,484 --> 01:13:52,743
♪ ♪
2093
01:13:52,762 --> 01:13:53,669
- He told me that he was not
money-driven.
2094
01:13:53,821 --> 01:13:56,505
♪ ♪
2095
01:13:56,599 --> 01:13:59,175
Like, he says he does--like,
money does not drive him.
2096
01:13:59,327 --> 01:14:00,843
I am the complete opposite.
2097
01:14:00,937 --> 01:14:03,604
Like, I am driven by money.
We're talking about marriage.
2098
01:14:03,831 --> 01:14:06,441
We're talking about
having a home.
2099
01:14:06,592 --> 01:14:08,592
We're talking about having
a family.
2100
01:14:08,611 --> 01:14:09,760
That costs money.
2101
01:14:09,779 --> 01:14:11,504
- Right.
2102
01:14:11,597 --> 01:14:13,281
- So then we need to talk
about savings.
2103
01:14:13,508 --> 01:14:15,599
How much are you gonna save
every month,
2104
01:14:15,693 --> 01:14:17,526
Starting this month,
2105
01:14:17,620 --> 01:14:20,270
To make sure that we get
to where we want to be,
2106
01:14:20,290 --> 01:14:22,123
So that we can--
'cause I want to buy a home.
2107
01:14:22,274 --> 01:14:24,125
You know,
we want to have a family.
2108
01:14:24,276 --> 01:14:24,867
I'm not gonna move
into an apartment
2109
01:14:25,019 --> 01:14:26,869
Like the one he lives.
2110
01:14:26,963 --> 01:14:29,630
♪ ♪
2111
01:14:29,782 --> 01:14:33,709
No. Like, I'm not.
I'm sorry. Like--
2112
01:14:33,861 --> 01:14:36,137
- Okay.
2113
01:14:36,288 --> 01:14:37,805
- I like certain things.
2114
01:14:38,032 --> 01:14:39,882
- Right.
2115
01:14:40,034 --> 01:14:42,477
- 'cause, like, that, for me,
was a dealbreaker.
2116
01:14:47,817 --> 01:14:49,208
[upbeat music]
2117
01:14:49,227 --> 01:14:50,485
- ♪ so go ♪
2118
01:14:50,636 --> 01:14:51,544
♪ so go ♪
2119
01:14:51,562 --> 01:14:52,653
♪ ♪
2120
01:14:52,805 --> 01:14:53,729
♪ so go ♪
2121
01:14:53,881 --> 01:14:55,490
♪ ♪
2122
01:14:55,641 --> 01:14:56,565
♪ so go ♪
2123
01:14:56,718 --> 01:14:58,826
♪ ♪
2124
01:14:58,978 --> 01:15:01,162
- We made it. Two weeks.
- Congrats.
2125
01:15:04,334 --> 01:15:07,150
I don't know, lately,
I feel like I've been
2126
01:15:07,170 --> 01:15:07,985
Feeling a lot of things,
2127
01:15:08,004 --> 01:15:11,506
And today, I just felt good.
2128
01:15:11,657 --> 01:15:12,915
The housewarming
just felt good overall.
2129
01:15:13,067 --> 01:15:14,233
And I think it's because, like,
2130
01:15:14,326 --> 01:15:15,009
Putting in the work,
decorating,
2131
01:15:15,160 --> 01:15:16,177
And having people come in,
2132
01:15:16,328 --> 01:15:19,922
And they had a good time,
there was food,
2133
01:15:20,016 --> 01:15:22,517
There were drinks that
nobody drank, but it's fine.
2134
01:15:22,744 --> 01:15:23,834
- Like, I went in
to the housewarming optimistic.
2135
01:15:23,928 --> 01:15:26,837
But still, like, not gonna lie,
2136
01:15:26,856 --> 01:15:29,098
It felt like I had a little bit
of a cloud over me.
2137
01:15:29,192 --> 01:15:31,250
And I was overwhelmed.
2138
01:15:31,343 --> 01:15:33,677
You stepped in, got it done,
2139
01:15:33,696 --> 01:15:35,863
And I just feel like
we work well together.
2140
01:15:36,015 --> 01:15:39,850
Even though there might still
be some lingering emotions
2141
01:15:39,944 --> 01:15:43,037
That came from last night,
we were able to put that aside
2142
01:15:43,264 --> 01:15:44,855
And focus on
what needed to be done.
2143
01:15:44,949 --> 01:15:47,933
I have so much respect for you
for being able to do that.
2144
01:15:47,952 --> 01:15:51,045
I know that you're sincere
and are really trying
2145
01:15:51,196 --> 01:15:53,196
In this marriage,
for it to work.
2146
01:15:53,291 --> 01:15:55,608
And it means a lot to me.
2147
01:15:55,626 --> 01:15:58,127
♪ ♪
2148
01:15:58,279 --> 01:15:59,887
- Thank you for saying that.
2149
01:16:00,039 --> 01:16:06,118
- It really assured me after
that difficult night, that...
2150
01:16:06,211 --> 01:16:07,728
- Yeah.
- You're still in it with me.
2151
01:16:07,955 --> 01:16:09,897
- As long as we can
talk things out
2152
01:16:10,124 --> 01:16:14,960
And we're both listening,
we're both understanding,
2153
01:16:14,979 --> 01:16:17,721
And we're both patient,
2154
01:16:17,740 --> 01:16:19,632
I think we can work
through our problems.
2155
01:16:19,650 --> 01:16:20,724
♪ ♪
2156
01:16:20,743 --> 01:16:22,635
- I really believe that.
2157
01:16:22,653 --> 01:16:24,637
♪ ♪
2158
01:16:24,730 --> 01:16:27,489
It feels good
hearing you say it too.
2159
01:16:27,642 --> 01:16:31,085
If both johnny and I
say yes on decision day,
2160
01:16:31,236 --> 01:16:32,253
It would feel great.
2161
01:16:32,404 --> 01:16:35,497
I'm hopeful that we both
grow together
2162
01:16:35,650 --> 01:16:37,074
For the remaining period,
2163
01:16:37,168 --> 01:16:42,746
And that we both are confident
in saying yes on decision day.
2164
01:16:42,840 --> 01:16:45,341
- It feels like it's gonna be
a lot smoother going forward.
2165
01:16:45,493 --> 01:16:46,416
- Mm-hmm.
2166
01:16:46,436 --> 01:16:48,494
- I feel like,
for the first time,
2167
01:16:48,512 --> 01:16:50,438
We're kind of looking out
into the horizon,
2168
01:16:50,589 --> 01:16:52,665
And it seems like it's--
like, no waves.
2169
01:16:52,683 --> 01:16:54,275
You know, it looks smooth.
2170
01:16:54,426 --> 01:16:56,018
- Oh, no, there's
always gonna be waves.
2171
01:16:56,170 --> 01:16:58,762
- Why do you have to ruin
my image like that?
2172
01:16:58,781 --> 01:16:59,688
- Waves are beautiful.
2173
01:16:59,782 --> 01:17:02,508
- [laughs]
2174
01:17:02,601 --> 01:17:03,767
- There might be big waves.
2175
01:17:03,786 --> 01:17:05,953
But we'll be stronger.
2176
01:17:06,180 --> 01:17:07,680
- I hope so.
2177
01:17:07,698 --> 01:17:14,295
♪ ♪
2178
01:17:20,803 --> 01:17:22,136
- Hubby.
2179
01:17:22,287 --> 01:17:23,971
- Wifey.
- [chuckles]
2180
01:17:24,123 --> 01:17:26,532
- ♪ oh, I choose you ♪
2181
01:17:26,550 --> 01:17:32,813
♪ ♪
2182
01:17:33,040 --> 01:17:34,206
- So how do you think
tonight went?
2183
01:17:34,299 --> 01:17:36,709
- I think tonight went well.
2184
01:17:36,727 --> 01:17:40,212
- I enjoyed courtney and janu.
They were very sweet.
2185
01:17:40,231 --> 01:17:41,063
I definitely took a lot
from that conversation.
2186
01:17:41,215 --> 01:17:42,657
- Okay.
2187
01:17:42,884 --> 01:17:43,883
- Just, like,
learning how you are,
2188
01:17:43,976 --> 01:17:48,237
Like, in terms of--you know,
2189
01:17:48,389 --> 01:17:49,479
How you are as a person, right?
2190
01:17:49,573 --> 01:17:52,391
Like, how you kind of
handle certain things.
2191
01:17:52,410 --> 01:17:54,576
But all very helpful things.
What about you?
2192
01:17:54,671 --> 01:17:55,836
Have you learned anything
from jeron about me?
2193
01:17:55,988 --> 01:17:57,338
- I did.
- Like what?
2194
01:17:57,489 --> 01:17:59,656
- I learned you are--
2195
01:17:59,676 --> 01:18:01,175
And well,
I already knew this--
2196
01:18:01,326 --> 01:18:02,251
But it's how genuine you are.
- Mm-hmm.
2197
01:18:02,403 --> 01:18:05,162
- And I knew that,
but it's, like,
2198
01:18:05,181 --> 01:18:06,255
I don't think
that I understood fully
2199
01:18:06,407 --> 01:18:08,849
How caring and present you are.
2200
01:18:09,076 --> 01:18:11,577
- Mm-hmm.
- And I took advantage of that.
2201
01:18:11,595 --> 01:18:12,745
- How--what do you mean
you took advantage of that?
2202
01:18:12,763 --> 01:18:15,080
What do you mean?
- With my behaviors.
2203
01:18:15,099 --> 01:18:16,932
I'm not used to being
in a relationship,
2204
01:18:17,084 --> 01:18:19,768
Let alone marriage,
2205
01:18:19,862 --> 01:18:21,921
Where somebody is in it
as much as I'm in it.
2206
01:18:21,939 --> 01:18:24,014
- Mm-hmm.
2207
01:18:24,108 --> 01:18:28,610
- And so my behaviors were to,
I guess I can say, like, harm.
2208
01:18:28,705 --> 01:18:29,778
And I [bleep].
2209
01:18:29,931 --> 01:18:32,022
My reaction
was an overreaction.
2210
01:18:32,116 --> 01:18:34,542
And I should not do that.
2211
01:18:34,693 --> 01:18:36,452
- Got it--like,
how do you think I feel?
2212
01:18:36,546 --> 01:18:38,287
- That you feel hurt.
I think you feel hurt.
2213
01:18:38,439 --> 01:18:40,697
I think you feel abandoned.
2214
01:18:40,717 --> 01:18:44,218
I think you feel like I'm not
actually serious about this,
2215
01:18:44,369 --> 01:18:46,795
That I'm not here for you.
2216
01:18:46,889 --> 01:18:49,615
And all those feelings
are valid but not true,
2217
01:18:49,708 --> 01:18:50,874
Because at the end of the day,
2218
01:18:50,893 --> 01:18:52,059
I do want
this marriage to work.
2219
01:18:54,379 --> 01:18:55,637
- My biggest thing is,
I understand
2220
01:18:55,790 --> 01:18:57,122
Why you were upset,
but I don't understand, like,
2221
01:18:57,216 --> 01:18:59,400
How it can get to that point.
2222
01:18:59,551 --> 01:19:00,717
That's not something
I'm good with,
2223
01:19:00,737 --> 01:19:02,294
'cause, you know,
that's why my relationships
2224
01:19:02,387 --> 01:19:03,571
Haven't working out
in the past.
2225
01:19:03,798 --> 01:19:05,406
Like, so I started to see that,
and I'm just like,
2226
01:19:05,557 --> 01:19:06,632
"is this gonna be a repeat
2227
01:19:06,650 --> 01:19:08,391
Of what I've dealt with
in the past?"
2228
01:19:08,486 --> 01:19:09,744
'cause, like, you know,
2229
01:19:09,895 --> 01:19:11,394
It hasn't worked out
for a reason.
2230
01:19:11,414 --> 01:19:14,564
For me, personally, it's bigger
than a communication thing,
2231
01:19:14,584 --> 01:19:16,642
It's how we handle
the conflict again.
2232
01:19:16,735 --> 01:19:18,494
- Yeah, I know. And I [bleep].
2233
01:19:18,646 --> 01:19:19,754
- Yeah, so I'm just saying--
like, that's--
2234
01:19:19,905 --> 01:19:20,996
Again,
it's not the communication.
2235
01:19:21,090 --> 01:19:22,757
It's how we handle it.
2236
01:19:22,908 --> 01:19:25,501
And that's something I don't
know that we can change.
2237
01:19:25,653 --> 01:19:27,503
Like, I'm honestly scared
to talk--
2238
01:19:27,597 --> 01:19:28,654
Like, tell you how
I honestly feel right now,
2239
01:19:28,747 --> 01:19:30,322
Because I don't know if, like,
2240
01:19:30,415 --> 01:19:31,599
You'll blow up
or, like, get mad.
2241
01:19:31,826 --> 01:19:32,658
- How do you honestly feel
right now?
2242
01:19:32,676 --> 01:19:37,162
♪ ♪
2243
01:19:37,181 --> 01:19:40,182
- I didn't want to do this.
I can't eat. Like--
2244
01:19:40,334 --> 01:19:41,424
- Mm-hmm.
- I don't feel good.
2245
01:19:41,519 --> 01:19:43,185
Like, when I pulled up, like,
I got anxiety.
2246
01:19:43,279 --> 01:19:47,764
I did not want to come in here.
I felt horrible.
2247
01:19:47,784 --> 01:19:49,858
It was more anxiety
than the wedding day.
2248
01:19:49,952 --> 01:19:51,193
I kid you not.
2249
01:19:51,345 --> 01:19:53,103
♪ ♪
2250
01:19:53,122 --> 01:19:55,105
- I don't know how to resolve
what I did.
2251
01:19:55,199 --> 01:19:57,774
- I want you to understand that
I'm not saying you were wrong.
2252
01:19:57,794 --> 01:20:00,035
- What I need to know is not
even how I can make it right,
2253
01:20:00,129 --> 01:20:03,689
But how long is it gonna take
before we are right?
2254
01:20:03,707 --> 01:20:05,190
♪ ♪
2255
01:20:05,209 --> 01:20:07,709
Do I need to continue to,
like, try to make it right?
2256
01:20:07,862 --> 01:20:09,953
I don't understand.
- You ain't gotta--
2257
01:20:09,972 --> 01:20:12,531
- You don't have to do [bleep]
to reconcile the situation.
2258
01:20:12,550 --> 01:20:13,532
I don't know
what we can do right now.
2259
01:20:13,551 --> 01:20:14,883
And to me, that's okay.
2260
01:20:15,036 --> 01:20:16,644
♪ ♪
2261
01:20:19,148 --> 01:20:21,223
- Zack, we're married.
2262
01:20:21,375 --> 01:20:22,483
- We don't
have to have an answer
2263
01:20:22,710 --> 01:20:24,726
To every single problem
immediately.
2264
01:20:24,821 --> 01:20:26,987
Why not, like, take a step
back for a second?
2265
01:20:27,139 --> 01:20:29,139
Because we have
a fundamental difference
2266
01:20:29,158 --> 01:20:30,658
In how we handle
certain things,
2267
01:20:30,885 --> 01:20:31,992
That it's just--it's too big of
a difference for me right now.
2268
01:20:32,144 --> 01:20:34,887
- I've apologized,
2269
01:20:34,905 --> 01:20:36,664
And I've admitted
that I was [bleep] wrong.
2270
01:20:36,815 --> 01:20:37,832
- Okay, but this is--
this is my issue.
2271
01:20:37,983 --> 01:20:40,225
Like, so remember
we talked to pastor cal
2272
01:20:40,319 --> 01:20:41,226
About the boundaries, about how
we handle confrontation, right?
2273
01:20:41,245 --> 01:20:42,411
- Mm-hmm.
2274
01:20:42,563 --> 01:20:44,730
- That was after our whole
argument, and we--
2275
01:20:44,823 --> 01:20:46,323
I thought we reconciled that.
2276
01:20:46,342 --> 01:20:48,250
And then what took me to
the next level and over the top
2277
01:20:48,402 --> 01:20:49,418
Was you canceling
the housewarming.
2278
01:20:49,570 --> 01:20:51,236
It's just, like,
that came out of the blue.
2279
01:20:51,330 --> 01:20:53,347
You can't just, like, do that.
2280
01:20:53,574 --> 01:20:55,165
- Zack, I didn't know that.
- Know what?
2281
01:20:55,259 --> 01:20:57,834
- That me trying to cancel the
housewarming would affect you
2282
01:20:57,928 --> 01:20:58,668
In the way that it did.
2283
01:20:58,762 --> 01:21:00,521
I didn't [bleep] know that.
2284
01:21:00,748 --> 01:21:02,431
- Okay.
- I'm not trying to cry now.
2285
01:21:02,583 --> 01:21:05,008
I didn't know that.
- Mm-hmm.
2286
01:21:05,027 --> 01:21:07,769
- And had I known, like,
2287
01:21:07,864 --> 01:21:10,030
That it was gonna make you
as mad as much as it did,
2288
01:21:10,257 --> 01:21:11,198
Then maybe I wouldn't
have done it, but [bleep],
2289
01:21:11,350 --> 01:21:13,350
Who knows
if I would have done it still?
2290
01:21:13,444 --> 01:21:16,095
Like, I didn't know that.
2291
01:21:16,113 --> 01:21:18,263
I don't know how to make you
understand that
2292
01:21:18,282 --> 01:21:21,433
This is something new to me.
2293
01:21:21,452 --> 01:21:23,026
I'm not saying you're wrong.
I'm not saying I'm right.
2294
01:21:23,045 --> 01:21:25,954
But I'm saying that I'm sorry.
2295
01:21:26,107 --> 01:21:29,717
♪ ♪
2296
01:21:29,944 --> 01:21:31,719
- ♪ we keep meeting
on the down-low ♪
2297
01:21:31,946 --> 01:21:33,779
♪ swearing that
they won't know ♪
2298
01:21:33,797 --> 01:21:34,889
- You don't have to have
answers for everything, right?
2299
01:21:35,040 --> 01:21:36,281
Like, it's not--
like, I feel like
2300
01:21:36,375 --> 01:21:37,449
That's also part of marriage.
2301
01:21:37,542 --> 01:21:40,060
Like, figuring
this [bleep] out.
2302
01:21:40,287 --> 01:21:42,304
And figuring this [bleep] out
is also maybe just
2303
01:21:42,456 --> 01:21:44,473
Take some time away and, like,
2304
01:21:44,625 --> 01:21:46,141
Not have an answer immediately.
2305
01:21:46,293 --> 01:21:47,976
- But our marriage is so young.
2306
01:21:48,070 --> 01:21:50,738
- But I honestly--
I feel horrible right now.
2307
01:21:50,889 --> 01:21:52,814
And I can't fake it.
And I'm sorry.
2308
01:21:52,967 --> 01:21:55,225
- ♪ just another reason
to pretend ♪
2309
01:21:55,319 --> 01:21:56,818
- I'm definitely heartbroken
because I came into this
2310
01:21:56,971 --> 01:21:58,395
Hoping to find the one,
and to be done
2311
01:21:58,489 --> 01:21:59,805
With looking for her,
2312
01:21:59,898 --> 01:22:00,639
'cause I wanted this
all my life.
2313
01:22:00,732 --> 01:22:02,232
So it's definitely hurtful.
2314
01:22:02,326 --> 01:22:03,918
So I'm definitely--
2315
01:22:04,069 --> 01:22:06,145
I'm not happy
about where we are.
2316
01:22:06,238 --> 01:22:08,923
At the moment, I don't know if
we'll be able to resolve this.
2317
01:22:09,150 --> 01:22:10,240
Are you staying here tonight?
- Yes.
2318
01:22:10,334 --> 01:22:13,076
- I honestly don't want to.
Like, I'm not--
2319
01:22:13,170 --> 01:22:14,244
- That's fine.
- Yeah.
2320
01:22:14,338 --> 01:22:16,155
I don't--I don't want to.
2321
01:22:16,248 --> 01:22:18,581
After everything
that's going on,
2322
01:22:18,601 --> 01:22:19,675
I just don't
feel comfortable staying
2323
01:22:19,827 --> 01:22:20,826
In the apartment tonight.
2324
01:22:20,919 --> 01:22:22,177
It makes me just feel anxious
2325
01:22:22,329 --> 01:22:24,104
And just, like, uncomfortable
in the situation
2326
01:22:24,256 --> 01:22:26,181
I don't want to be in.
2327
01:22:26,333 --> 01:22:28,000
- ♪ keep going in circles ♪
2328
01:22:28,018 --> 01:22:31,278
♪ ♪
2329
01:22:31,505 --> 01:22:34,356
♪ 'cause we keep going
in circles ♪
2330
01:22:34,508 --> 01:22:37,342
♪ ♪
2331
01:22:37,361 --> 01:22:40,195
♪ telling ourselves
that this should end ♪
2332
01:22:40,347 --> 01:22:42,197
♪ ♪
2333
01:22:42,291 --> 01:22:43,198
- Next time on
"married at first sight"...
2334
01:22:43,350 --> 01:22:46,276
- Aww.
2335
01:22:46,370 --> 01:22:47,369
- We are definitely falling
a little bit closer in love.
2336
01:22:47,463 --> 01:22:49,521
- You want any blueberries
or anything?
2337
01:22:49,614 --> 01:22:50,355
'cause I'm about
to crush these.
2338
01:22:50,374 --> 01:22:51,707
- No, I got them for you.
2339
01:22:51,801 --> 01:22:56,286
I definitely am feeling
some warm and tingly feelings.
2340
01:22:56,305 --> 01:22:58,530
- I don't know,
were you happy last night?
2341
01:22:58,623 --> 01:23:00,532
- All I can say right now is,
2342
01:23:00,625 --> 01:23:02,384
We're both really,
really happy.
2343
01:23:02,478 --> 01:23:05,220
- I went out girls night.
Alcohol was involved.
2344
01:23:05,314 --> 01:23:08,390
And it happened.
2345
01:23:08,484 --> 01:23:12,711
- For me to keep going
in the path that we're going,
2346
01:23:12,730 --> 01:23:14,229
I want to know--
I want to feel wanted.
2347
01:23:14,381 --> 01:23:15,397
♪ ♪
2348
01:23:15,491 --> 01:23:17,883
- You act like as if
I come out and I come in
2349
01:23:17,901 --> 01:23:19,735
And I just snapped at you.
2350
01:23:19,829 --> 01:23:21,236
- I don't know what you
want me--want me to--
2351
01:23:21,388 --> 01:23:22,496
Like, I don't know what you
want me to tell you, but--
2352
01:23:22,647 --> 01:23:23,646
- Acknowledge
the [bleep] apology
2353
01:23:23,666 --> 01:23:26,558
And stop bringing it up.
2354
01:23:26,651 --> 01:23:28,168
- Yeah, but why do you
need to say that?
2355
01:23:28,320 --> 01:23:29,895
- Take it how you want to.
2356
01:23:29,988 --> 01:23:31,413
This is where
we've done things.
2357
01:23:31,507 --> 01:23:33,065
- [bleep] no.
2358
01:23:33,083 --> 01:23:36,343
♪ ♪