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{\an8}You two have agreed
that you'd like
to end your marriage tonight.
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{\an8}Someone's got to rip off
the band-aid.
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{\an8}[Shawn] Proud of you
for the courage to do this, man.
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{\an8}[Dr. Lisa Paz] Okay.
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[Courteney] I deserve more.
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- [Felipe] I want you.
- [Tori] You say you're into me,
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but I don't feel that,
like, really at all.
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You are unsure
if you want to give up
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having sex with lots of women.
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It is, like, emotional
manipulation and selfishness.
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[Nikki] In a marriage,
our shared account is there
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to finance our lifestyle.
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- Our lifestyle. Gotcha.
- Our.
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- To me,
it feels like a joint venture.
- Yeah.
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[Brunson] Board meetings,
we have the business plan.
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This sounds like
sexy talk right now.
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[laughter]
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{\an8}[Adam]
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{\an8}Come on. Do one with me.
Let's go. Lock in.
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- You got to come like down.
- [Marissa] My God.
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I've always been
all in or all out.
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Does your partner need to rise
to that level of intensity?
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He had a girlfriend who
was able to keep up with him.
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You know, I'm now the one
who can't keep up.
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I'm having a lot of anxiety.
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[dramatic music playing]
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{\an8}["Soular Energy"
by Pink Shark Music playing]
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{\an8}♪ I'm looking good tonight ♪
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{\an8}[both] Five, six,
cha-cha, slide.
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{\an8}[vocalizing] Three and four.
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[Shawn squeals]
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{\an8}- Drop!
- [Nikki shrieks]
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{\an8}Well done.
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{\an8}♪ Soular energy ♪
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[BelléJolie] I wanted
to bring some board games.
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- [Mecca] We haven't touched that
since you--
- We haven't touched that.
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Because you've been too busy
trying to touch something else.
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{\an8}[BelléJolie chuckles]
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{\an8}[Mecca] Some decisions
were made last night.
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{\an8}Some decisions were made.
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We're saying yes.
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- Cheers.
- Cheers.
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♪ I wanna get close
Phantom love go ghost, yeah ♪
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{\an8}- [computer ringing]
- [Devin] Hey, Grandma.
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{\an8}- [Caitlin] Hi.
- [Kim] Hey, buddy,
what you doing?
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{\an8}I'm here with my wife.
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{\an8}Hi, Caitlin.
Very nice to meet you.
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So nice.
I've heard so much about you.
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All positive things.
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So what was Devin like
when he was younger?
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He was involved
in the marching band.
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- [Caitlin] Aw.
- [Kim] Yeah.
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[Caitlin] [inaudible]
Oh, yeah, that's the life
of a showgirl right there.
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♪ Can you feel it, oh ♪
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♪ Can you feel it ♪
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{\an8}♪ Yeah ♪
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{\an8}[Cameron] Okay, any final tips
on meeting your aunts?
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- Should I say...
- [Michelle] Just be
your funny self.
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- ...pickleball, teaching.
- School.
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[Michelle] I'm taking Cam
to my aunt and uncle's house.
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I love my aunt.
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She helped raise me
every summer.
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When my mom was working,
she would take care of me.
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- [Rick] Hello.
- Hello.
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- Cameron. Nice to meet you.
- Rick.
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- Come on in.
- Good to see you.
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- [Linhco] Nice
to meet you, Cameron.
- How are you?
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She was one
of my biggest cheerleaders
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when it came to getting
married at first sight,
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and I just really want to
show her that it's working out.
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{\an8}[Cameron] It smells so good.
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{\an8}Oh, my gosh.
You know how to host.
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{\an8}[Michelle] I was going to
tell him on the way here,
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{\an8}but then decided
that you could tell him
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{\an8}about how she ran away
from home.
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- [Michelle laughs]
- Oh, yeah.
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We were high school sweethearts.
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I'm a product
of the Vietnam War,
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so my parents really wanted me
to marry a Vietnamese.
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I actually didn't go
to the prom with him.
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My mom set me up
with a 24-year-old Vietnamese
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- that was-- He was an engineer.
- Oh, my gosh.
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- [Michelle] 24?
- [Cameron] The prom?
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- [Michelle] He went to prom?
- Yeah.
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There was definitely some tough
times in our early relationship,
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and there was a point at home
where things just boiled over,
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- and so she just left.
- Wow.
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So for six months,
she didn't see her parents.
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At 18.
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Linhco and I
were talking about this,
how much time we had
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to sort of build
the relationship bank
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- and all these experiences.
- [Linhco] Yeah.
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So I'm curious,
putting you on the spot,
what's Michelle's superpower?
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What do you respect, admire
about her that you don't have?
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That, like, you know,
"Michelle, you complete me."
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[Cameron]
It's like her eternal optimism.
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Like, I tend to kind of,
like, look at, like,
"Oh, what could be better?
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- Like, oh, this isn't perfect."
- She is always happy.
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- But, yeah, she's always happy.
- Always happy.
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She's got the laugh.
She's got the smile.
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Yes. Yes, for sure.
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[Michelle] We feel
really good about each other,
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and we've been talking
about how to make this work
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even beyond Decision Day.
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You know,
it just feels really good.
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How do you keep it fun
after so many years?
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- Oh, my God, we love each other
more, I think...
- I chase her around.
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Oh, he does chase me around.
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Sometimes I'm like,
"Okay, too much."
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And he's like, "No, not enough."
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- [laughter]
- [Cameron] That's hilarious.
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- [Rick] You have to recognize
that it's work.
- [Cameron] Yeah.
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And the more
you commit yourself,
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the more you're invested
in the relationship, the be--
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You know, it's like
when you're giving,
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- then it comes back to you.
- [Cameron] Yeah.
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They have an amazing life,
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and maybe part of me is scared,
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you know,
commitment and everything.
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But when I see what they have,
that is what I want.
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- Did you tip your matchmaker?
- We need to give them a gift
or something, you know.
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- I know.
- Name your first child
after them.
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But we got a couple people
we got to name our kids after.
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We got a lot of debt to pay.
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["Sunrise"
by Charles Drew playing]
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♪ I would climb up every
Mountain just for you ♪
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♪ It's the first time ♪
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{\an8}- [Tori] Hi.
- How's everything?
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{\an8}- How are you?
- Good to see you.
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[Tori] You too.
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In the group session,
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Felipe's saying
that he is indecisive
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on if he wants to be
in a marriage.
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I want to give him the benefit
of the doubt in this,
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but what the fuck is going on?
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I do not have time
for these little boy games.
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{\an8}I went into this to marry a man
who knows what he wants.
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{\an8}- This is the first session
that we've had.
- Yeah.
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- I know.
- [Brunson] Which is wild.
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I'd love for us to unpack
the group coaching session.
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Things got heated.
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Also, there was a term that was
used, emotional manipulation.
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It's a very strong term,
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so I want to investigate
your perception of that.
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Yeah, he's saying
he really wants single life,
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and he really wants, you know,
to be with other people.
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And then saying also,
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"Oh, but I really,
really like you,
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and I could see
forever with you."
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I felt like by saying
he really liked me,
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I would still be hanging on.
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That just seems to me
emotionally manipulative.
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Do you believe he is saying that
with the intent
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of trying
to control your emotion?
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I think I feel
emotionally manipulated by it.
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I don't know if he's
necessarily intending that.
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Okay, so, Felipe, do you intend
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to control Tori's emotion?
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- [Felipe] No.
- That's what I suspect as well.
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From my standpoint,
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I don't feel as if Felipe
is emotionally controlling you.
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He's speaking his truth,
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and it's causing
confusion, right?
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- Can you see that?
- Yep.
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And the reason why
I wanted to do this at the top
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is because if we had discerned
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that it was
true emotional manipulation,
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like, you would be excused
from the project,
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that's how serious
emotional manipulation is.
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I do recognize the weight
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and the consequences
of what I'm doing.
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The consequence being
I could lose Tori.
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I'm afraid of that.
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Tori's obviously
way more indecisive about this
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because of my
indecisiveness, right?
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Like, she's going the other way.
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- Can we talk about that?
- [Tori] Yeah.
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I think
given the past two weeks,
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I've just started
to not really consciously,
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- but withdraw,
I think, emotionally.
- Yes. Yes.
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And Felipe,
what you're trying to do
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is you're trying
to close the distance.
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- Yes.
- [Tori] And I want to be fair,
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and I want to give
the opportunity for Felipe
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to show up and show
what he's actually feeling,
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because I think
sometimes what I hear is,
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"I want to,"
and it's not really "I will."
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Okay. My interpretation.
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- [Felipe] Yeah.
- You are definitively trying.
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But not definitively in.
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- Okay.
- What percentage of marriages
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go till death do us part?
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- 50%.
- Right.
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In any marriage, does any
partner know that definitively?
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That's a really good point. No.
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They don't.
What do they know, though?
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- Is how they're feeling
in the moment.
- Exactly.
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- They know exactly
how they feel in this moment.
- Yeah.
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So in this moment,
how do you feel?
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In this moment,
I want to be with Tori.
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That's-- In this moment,
I want to be with Tori.
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Yesterday,
I want to be with Tori.
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For the past,
ever since I met Tori,
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- I wanted to be with Tori.
- [Brunson] Right.
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So that reframe
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can help you
dramatically, right?
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Because all you have is today,
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and if you're blessed
to get tomorrow,
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and then you're so blessed
to get the next day,
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you will then have
three days of what?
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- Of all in.
- Of all in.
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Yeah. No, that was huge for me.
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Show her in that moment,
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because that's all you get.
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In this moment, I'm all in.
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This moment,
I want to be married to you.
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Only you, and that's it.
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I will say,
the first dinner party,
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you two looked to be
in a place of bliss,
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and that's where I'd love
to see you get back to,
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and I believe you two
can get back to that place.
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- I think we can.
- Yes. Yes.
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["We're All Alright"
by Nine One One]
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{\an8}♪ We took our time ♪
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{\an8}♪ Dancing through the weekend
Under the lights ♪
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{\an8}♪ Made of our favorite colors ♪
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{\an8}♪ Sleepin' in the night ♪
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♪ This almost got away ♪
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♪ I'm sure, at times ♪
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♪ If it were all right ♪
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- Oh, my God.
- Yeah, baby.
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- Oh, my God. Yes.
- Cheers, you guys. Enjoy.
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- Thank you so much.
- Thank you.
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It's, like, surreal to know
we have Decision Day coming up.
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I just remember when you,
like, walked down the aisle.
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♪ We're all right ♪
237
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I was like,
"Damn, she's kind of bad.
238
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- Low-key." [laughs]
- I liked that you kissed me
at the altar.
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Like, I immediately,
like, felt comfortable, and,
like, thought we were in this.
240
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Like we're full-sending it,
because I was like,
"This... just crazy."
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[Adam] I knew that I had
a crush on you in Cancun.
242
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When we were getting
the massages down on the beach,
243
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just, like, yapping, and
I was like, "Wow, she's so cool.
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- I like being around her."
- We were so happy back then.
245
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- What happened? What changed?
- I don't know.
246
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We for sure were in, like,
the honeymoon phase back then.
247
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[Adam] You think we're out
of the honeymoon phase?
248
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I mean,
getting called out in therapy
249
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like, really does,
like, shock your system,
250
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so I feel like
I'm maybe a little,
like, stronger, like, tougher.
251
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More resilient, if you will.
252
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Yeah, like, how can it not be?
253
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Like, we're getting,
like, cooked in therapy.
254
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Mm. I think so.
255
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[whimsical music playing]
256
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Has there been anything I've
done that's been, like, an ick?
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Eating, like, food
with your hands.
258
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I haven't done
too much of that, right?
259
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- [Marissa chuckles]
- Anything else
besides, like, food?
260
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I think what, like,
gives me the ick is, like,
your intensity for things.
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Today, it's pickleball.
Tomorrow, it's jet skiing.
262
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The next day,
it's something else.
263
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For longevity in relationships,
264
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it's like
a little bit of a turn-off.
265
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Really? It turns you off?
266
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Yeah, it takes the wind
out from my sails.
267
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- Really?
- Yeah.
268
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- What's yours?
- I feel like I don't really have
any real reservations.
269
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It's just like
that I feel like slight mismatch
270
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in, like, activity level,
I guess.
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Like, I think you're athletic,
272
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but, like, not using
your athletic ability
273
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or, like, testing
yourself athletically.
274
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- Yeah. Yeah.
- You know?
275
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Like sports.
276
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Sports is a crazy word
to even say.
277
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- Like, activities, like--
- Yeah.
278
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Adult women don't play sports.
279
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When we went jet skiing
and pickleballing
280
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and you looked like
you wanted to jump off
281
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any nearby elevated surface,
then I kind of knew.
282
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- I was like, "Wait."
- Yeah.
283
00:12:39,701 --> 00:12:42,244
Well, you're kind of hard
to play with on a team.
284
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- For me.
- Really?
285
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Do you think
we had good teamwork
286
00:12:45,206 --> 00:12:47,165
at our pickleball date?
287
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I think the stakes were high
and there was a lot of pressure.
288
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[Marissa laughs] Okay.
289
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I just feel like
it was clear to me
290
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that we had differences
in, like...
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our, like, expectations
292
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for like, our daily activities
in life, you know?
293
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Yeah, I could feel
your frustration after that.
294
00:13:05,418 --> 00:13:09,354
That's kind of a bummer,
you know, to each their own.
295
00:13:09,355 --> 00:13:12,024
But for me personally,
I was just like,
296
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"That's sad."
297
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[somber music playing]
298
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- Yeah.
- Yeah.
299
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I wouldn't say, like,
I like you less because of it.
300
00:13:22,535 --> 00:13:26,288
I definitely want it
to work out with Marissa
to be my, like, forever person.
301
00:13:26,289 --> 00:13:28,266
I've been looking for my wife
since I was 18,
302
00:13:28,433 --> 00:13:30,917
and I'm 110% still all in
on this process.
303
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But at the same time,
I'm a little worried.
304
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We clearly have a lot of work
and a lot more to figure out
about each other,
305
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in the last couple weeks here
before we make our big decision.
306
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What do you feel
you would need
307
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to say yes on Decision Day?
308
00:13:44,724 --> 00:13:48,477
I need to see that
you could meet me in the middle
309
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with some of this intensity,
310
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because it gives me pause.
311
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♪ They feel it now,
they feel it now ♪
312
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♪ The change is coming ♪
313
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{\an8}♪ Oh, yeah, it's a beautiful
day in the neighborhood ♪
314
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{\an8}- All right.
- I didn't know
this place existed.
315
00:14:13,252 --> 00:14:16,213
{\an8}Yeah.
I'm surprised I was able
to find something new.
316
00:14:16,214 --> 00:14:20,276
Wow, this is really cute.
317
00:14:20,443 --> 00:14:22,219
[Nikki] I'm really impressed
and pleased
318
00:14:22,220 --> 00:14:25,389
by the fact that you found
two of my favorite things.
319
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[Nikki] Wine and chocolate.
320
00:14:27,642 --> 00:14:29,285
- Oh, they're so lovely.
- [server] Right? So beautiful.
321
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[Shawn] Amazing.
322
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- Love it.
- How 'bout that?
323
00:14:33,981 --> 00:14:35,333
- Salud.
- Salud.
324
00:14:39,946 --> 00:14:43,657
- Did you just gargle?
- I learned it
at my little winery.
325
00:14:43,658 --> 00:14:45,367
- Oh, cool.
- They taught me
how to taste wine.
326
00:14:45,368 --> 00:14:47,244
- I love it.
- I got some skills.
327
00:14:47,245 --> 00:14:48,787
Let's have some fun
with this, right?
328
00:14:48,788 --> 00:14:52,040
Let's, like, instead
of just describing the wines
329
00:14:52,041 --> 00:14:53,583
and what they taste like,
330
00:14:53,584 --> 00:14:55,752
why don't you take something
from the description
331
00:14:55,753 --> 00:14:58,588
and then relate it
to something in your life,
332
00:14:58,589 --> 00:15:00,173
in the journey, or in the world.
333
00:15:00,174 --> 00:15:01,526
Let me take a sip first.
334
00:15:03,845 --> 00:15:05,595
This is like
a Peppermint Patty,
335
00:15:05,596 --> 00:15:07,681
which was my favorite candy
growing up.
336
00:15:07,682 --> 00:15:09,141
You liked Peppermint Patties?
337
00:15:09,142 --> 00:15:12,269
Yeah, I love Peppermint Patties.
They're so good.
338
00:15:12,270 --> 00:15:16,857
I lived on a block where we had
a candy store on the corner.
339
00:15:16,858 --> 00:15:17,958
It was like penny candy.
340
00:15:17,959 --> 00:15:19,836
- Oh, yes, penny candies. Yes.
- I'm dating myself.
341
00:15:20,002 --> 00:15:22,779
So I remember one time
I wanted so much candy,
342
00:15:22,780 --> 00:15:25,949
and this is the only time
in my life I did this.
343
00:15:25,950 --> 00:15:28,160
I decided to steal candy.
344
00:15:28,161 --> 00:15:29,470
[Nikki gasps] You stole it.
345
00:15:29,704 --> 00:15:31,830
And my mom was like,
"Where'd you get this candy?"
346
00:15:31,831 --> 00:15:33,457
And I was like,
"Well, I took it."
347
00:15:33,458 --> 00:15:35,083
My mom was like,
"No, we're not doing that."
348
00:15:35,084 --> 00:15:38,437
She goes, "You have to go down
to the store right now,
349
00:15:38,604 --> 00:15:41,381
apologize, pay for it,
give the candy back,
350
00:15:41,382 --> 00:15:44,301
and tell Mr. Whatever His Name
Is you will never do this
again."
351
00:15:44,302 --> 00:15:45,635
My mom didn't play those games.
352
00:15:45,636 --> 00:15:47,446
She does not play
those games, so.
353
00:15:47,613 --> 00:15:48,823
Talk about complexity.
354
00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:52,184
This is so nice.
355
00:15:52,185 --> 00:15:54,478
What does so nice
remind you of?
356
00:15:54,479 --> 00:15:57,439
- Girl Scout Cookies.
- Ooh, okay.
357
00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,065
What is your favorite
Girl Scout Cookie?
358
00:15:59,066 --> 00:16:00,567
The shortbread cookies.
Those are the only ones I eat.
359
00:16:00,568 --> 00:16:02,194
- 1,000%.
- All the other ones are trash.
360
00:16:02,195 --> 00:16:03,778
[Shawn laughs]
361
00:16:03,779 --> 00:16:05,489
[Nikki]
This is such a great date.
362
00:16:05,490 --> 00:16:07,574
It literally combines
two of my favorite things,
363
00:16:07,575 --> 00:16:09,326
which means he's been listening.
364
00:16:09,327 --> 00:16:10,803
A little Lady and The Tramp?
365
00:16:12,497 --> 00:16:14,915
- [both laughing]
- Here.
366
00:16:14,916 --> 00:16:16,017
All right.
367
00:16:18,085 --> 00:16:20,420
Mm. Wow, that's so good.
368
00:16:20,421 --> 00:16:23,673
I'm definitely looking forward
to more nights like this
with Shawn.
369
00:16:23,674 --> 00:16:25,717
It feels intimate.
370
00:16:25,718 --> 00:16:28,553
I do feel like
our connection has deepened.
371
00:16:28,554 --> 00:16:30,114
Like, trading stories
with one another.
372
00:16:30,281 --> 00:16:33,409
And I feel like that's a space
we need to play in more
373
00:16:33,576 --> 00:16:34,869
without, like, the heavy stuff,
374
00:16:35,002 --> 00:16:37,103
to just experience
this part of ourselves.
375
00:16:37,104 --> 00:16:40,458
It's like chef's kiss in terms
of dates we've had so far.
376
00:16:40,625 --> 00:16:42,877
- All right, let's move.
Let's go.
- Let's go.
377
00:16:43,694 --> 00:16:45,504
♪ I don't know ♪
378
00:16:46,531 --> 00:16:49,759
♪ If you know how far I'd go ♪
379
00:16:51,702 --> 00:16:55,056
♪ I picture us finding out ♪
380
00:16:56,332 --> 00:17:01,169
♪ What feelings are all about ♪
381
00:17:01,170 --> 00:17:02,420
[door shuts closed]
382
00:17:02,421 --> 00:17:03,856
[kissing sounds]
383
00:17:07,718 --> 00:17:09,695
♪ Anything can happen ♪
384
00:17:12,181 --> 00:17:15,326
♪ Oh, we are one ♪
385
00:17:16,227 --> 00:17:17,686
♪ With you ♪
386
00:17:17,687 --> 00:17:19,271
[Nikki] I'm not going to go
into specifics,
387
00:17:19,272 --> 00:17:23,984
but we did take a step
to explore more sexual intimacy.
388
00:17:23,985 --> 00:17:26,570
Not actual sex,
389
00:17:26,571 --> 00:17:30,740
but we did have
a physical encounter
390
00:17:30,741 --> 00:17:33,076
that was more
of a sexual flavor.
391
00:17:33,077 --> 00:17:34,911
Yes, we did. [laughs]
392
00:17:34,912 --> 00:17:37,390
♪ Anything can happen ♪
393
00:17:38,357 --> 00:17:40,834
We went way beyond
what we planned on doing,
394
00:17:40,835 --> 00:17:43,211
and lasted for way longer
than I thought.
395
00:17:43,212 --> 00:17:46,440
So it was a good advancement
in the right direction.
396
00:17:47,425 --> 00:17:49,443
♪ Anything can happen ♪
397
00:17:50,428 --> 00:17:52,071
♪ Oh-oh ♪
398
00:17:53,180 --> 00:17:55,807
♪ Anything can happen ♪
399
00:17:55,808 --> 00:17:57,451
♪ With you ♪
400
00:17:59,061 --> 00:18:01,372
[both chuckling]
401
00:18:03,441 --> 00:18:04,816
♪ With you ♪
402
00:18:04,817 --> 00:18:06,985
We are sexually compatible.
403
00:18:06,986 --> 00:18:08,862
Now it's really
about figuring out
404
00:18:08,863 --> 00:18:10,614
if we can build
the type of emotional connection
405
00:18:10,615 --> 00:18:13,199
that can grow into--
that can grow into
romantic love.
406
00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,970
That can grow into the love
that a marriage would require.
407
00:18:21,167 --> 00:18:22,792
{\an8}[both laughing]
408
00:18:22,793 --> 00:18:24,961
[upbeat music playing]
409
00:18:24,962 --> 00:18:27,815
♪ It's a five tackle,
It's a big mode ♪
410
00:18:29,016 --> 00:18:32,344
{\an8}Are you excited?
This is, like, my dad's
favorite restaurant.
411
00:18:32,345 --> 00:18:34,387
{\an8}I know, first time seeing him
since the wedding.
412
00:18:34,388 --> 00:18:36,348
{\an8}Ooh!
413
00:18:36,349 --> 00:18:37,575
{\an8}- Hey.
- Hi. Are you just--
414
00:18:37,742 --> 00:18:40,060
- Loving this, I bet.
- This is so good.
415
00:18:40,061 --> 00:18:41,561
- This is so good.
How's it going?
- Hello.
416
00:18:41,562 --> 00:18:42,854
I'm good, how are you doing?
417
00:18:42,855 --> 00:18:44,147
- Good to see you, bro.
- You too.
418
00:18:44,148 --> 00:18:46,024
What are you drinking?
Thank you.
419
00:18:46,025 --> 00:18:48,669
- Oh, it's just apple juice.
- Shut up.
420
00:18:48,803 --> 00:18:50,338
- Hi!
- [Caitlin] Hi!
421
00:18:50,538 --> 00:18:52,572
- Can I get you two
anything to drink started?
- You bet. Yes.
422
00:18:52,573 --> 00:18:53,948
♪ Little bit of this ♪
423
00:18:53,949 --> 00:18:55,408
- There you go.
- Perfect. Thank you.
424
00:18:55,409 --> 00:18:57,619
- You're welcome.
- Cheers, cheers, cheers.
425
00:18:57,620 --> 00:18:58,912
♪ Put it in the mix ♪
426
00:18:58,913 --> 00:19:00,664
There's that salad
for you.
427
00:19:00,665 --> 00:19:03,041
♪ G-I-M-M-E, gimme ♪
428
00:19:03,042 --> 00:19:05,251
♪ Gimme, gimme, gimme
Gimme that ♪
429
00:19:05,252 --> 00:19:07,545
I just like,
when I snuck that tater tot,
I was thinking to myself,
430
00:19:07,546 --> 00:19:09,839
I was going to be like,
"Oh, he didn't yell at me
for taking that tater tot."
431
00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:11,549
No, that's why I don't share,
because you don't share.
432
00:19:11,550 --> 00:19:14,427
- Yeah, I don't share.
- He is like a garbage disposal.
433
00:19:14,428 --> 00:19:16,680
He eats everything.
So it's like
I have to guard my food.
434
00:19:16,681 --> 00:19:18,932
It's like, "No,
you can't have some of this.
Like, I got to eat it."
435
00:19:18,933 --> 00:19:21,476
- You got a lot of calories
you got to put in there.
- [Caitlin] I know, I know.
436
00:19:21,477 --> 00:19:23,144
[Devin] What would you say
is one of the biggest things
437
00:19:23,145 --> 00:19:24,705
that I would need to know
about Caitlin?
438
00:19:24,839 --> 00:19:26,356
To like, really, like,
make this work.
439
00:19:26,357 --> 00:19:29,442
You got to be chill,
mentally in tune with her,
440
00:19:29,443 --> 00:19:32,946
but you also got to know
when you need to let her
kind of be Caitlin.
441
00:19:32,947 --> 00:19:36,908
You know, 'cause when
she's in a good mood,
it's always fun, right?
442
00:19:36,909 --> 00:19:40,453
But when she's in a bad mood,
or she's grumpy or pouty,
443
00:19:40,454 --> 00:19:42,163
say, "Hey, let's go.
444
00:19:42,164 --> 00:19:44,416
Let's go get a coffee.
Let's go for a walk."
445
00:19:44,417 --> 00:19:48,044
You know, don't let her
stay in that spot, you know?
446
00:19:48,045 --> 00:19:50,046
I don't want to quiet her voice.
Never.
447
00:19:50,047 --> 00:19:51,715
I would never do that,
because I know
she wouldn't let me.
448
00:19:51,716 --> 00:19:53,717
- Yeah.
- [laughs] You know what I mean?
449
00:19:53,718 --> 00:19:55,552
But like, it's like,
how do I navigate it
450
00:19:55,553 --> 00:19:57,512
to make sure that I can show up
the best way as well?
451
00:19:57,513 --> 00:20:01,474
He's almost so self-aware it's
painful, because, like, I love--
452
00:20:01,475 --> 00:20:03,893
- She loves the debate.
- [Caitlin] I love the debate.
453
00:20:03,894 --> 00:20:05,770
I love to get the point across,
454
00:20:05,771 --> 00:20:07,897
and oftentimes
he'll take my point from me,
because I'm like--
455
00:20:07,898 --> 00:20:10,400
[Devin] It's like,
"I already see what you're--
I already see it."
456
00:20:10,401 --> 00:20:12,318
And then he'll be like,
"I am doing this."
457
00:20:12,319 --> 00:20:16,030
And I'm like, "First off, like,
good job for admitting that.
458
00:20:16,031 --> 00:20:17,615
But second off,
well, there goes my point.
459
00:20:17,616 --> 00:20:19,117
Like, [muted] how do
I respond to this?"
460
00:20:19,118 --> 00:20:21,202
Like, I'm like,
"That's so annoying."
461
00:20:21,203 --> 00:20:22,437
But we're working on--
462
00:20:22,438 --> 00:20:24,581
I know I'm going to say this,
and you're going to be like,
463
00:20:24,582 --> 00:20:26,541
"Oh, my God. No. You? Never."
464
00:20:26,542 --> 00:20:30,378
But, like, I just, like,
don't need a lot from a partner
465
00:20:30,379 --> 00:20:32,380
in terms of like the day-to-day,
like, tedious stuff.
466
00:20:32,381 --> 00:20:34,257
Like, just leave me alone
and I can handle everything.
467
00:20:34,258 --> 00:20:36,009
That's how I like it.
468
00:20:36,010 --> 00:20:39,345
And he, you know,
wants me to, like, do,
like the things
469
00:20:39,346 --> 00:20:42,098
that normal people should do,
but, like, maybe
I just don't even think of.
470
00:20:42,099 --> 00:20:43,850
So we're working on me, like,
471
00:20:43,851 --> 00:20:45,310
telling him
I'm leaving the house.
472
00:20:45,311 --> 00:20:46,770
That's good. That's good.
473
00:20:46,771 --> 00:20:48,396
Or letting me know,
like, what's going on.
474
00:20:48,397 --> 00:20:50,523
And so I brought him a coffee
the other morning.
475
00:20:50,524 --> 00:20:53,151
- I'm, like, trying to be
more mindful.
- That's good. That's good.
476
00:20:53,152 --> 00:20:54,753
- It's making me feel like
you see me.
- [Jeff] Right.
477
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,114
You know, you've kind of been
on your own for a while.
478
00:20:58,115 --> 00:21:00,784
So-- and that's good.
You need to work on that.
479
00:21:00,785 --> 00:21:02,744
I will not argue that at all.
480
00:21:02,745 --> 00:21:05,079
And that's something
that I need to work on
is being more independent,
481
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,248
and not needing her
to be there for all the shit.
482
00:21:07,249 --> 00:21:09,959
Yeah. Successful marriage
is all about sacrifice.
483
00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:13,630
- 100%.
- You're going to go do things
you don't want to go do
484
00:21:13,631 --> 00:21:15,965
because she wants to go do it,
but you're going to go do it
485
00:21:15,966 --> 00:21:17,801
and you'll enjoy it
because it makes her happy.
486
00:21:17,802 --> 00:21:20,303
And the same way
with you, right?
487
00:21:20,304 --> 00:21:22,180
You know, like,
there's a lot of stuff, mom,
488
00:21:22,181 --> 00:21:24,224
we'll be going for a weekend
somewhere and we're in town.
489
00:21:24,225 --> 00:21:26,893
I know that she's going
to want to go through
490
00:21:26,894 --> 00:21:28,829
- a bunch of little...
- Shops.
491
00:21:28,963 --> 00:21:31,189
...boutiques and trinket stores
and everything.
492
00:21:31,190 --> 00:21:34,567
And I would literally rather
shoot myself in the head.
493
00:21:34,568 --> 00:21:38,780
But I go in there because
she loves doing it, right?
494
00:21:38,781 --> 00:21:41,908
And I get joy out of that.
You know? So--
495
00:21:41,909 --> 00:21:45,179
He did go to the Taylor Swift
movie with me last night.
496
00:21:46,180 --> 00:21:49,040
- Thanks, son.
- We're already doing it,
dawg. [laughs]
497
00:21:49,041 --> 00:21:51,376
- He liked it.
- [Jeff] That's good.
That's good.
498
00:21:51,377 --> 00:21:52,836
- That's totally good.
- He liked it.
499
00:21:52,837 --> 00:21:54,629
I'm glad you did.
I'm glad you did.
500
00:21:54,630 --> 00:21:57,465
- Yeah, I liked it, I promise.
- [Jeff] Yeah, yeah.
501
00:21:57,466 --> 00:22:00,885
I think Devin's
strength is his ability
to slip into any situation
502
00:22:00,886 --> 00:22:02,971
and just like,
he is just so good with people.
503
00:22:02,972 --> 00:22:05,807
So watching him
get along with my dad
is definitely a huge plus.
504
00:22:05,808 --> 00:22:07,350
It's, like, fun to watch.
505
00:22:07,351 --> 00:22:08,685
You're going into this,
506
00:22:08,686 --> 00:22:10,520
you're bringing
two personalities,
507
00:22:10,521 --> 00:22:12,522
two lives into an agreement,
508
00:22:12,523 --> 00:22:15,692
and you have got
to work together.
509
00:22:15,693 --> 00:22:17,735
When my dad speaks like he is,
510
00:22:17,736 --> 00:22:20,488
speaking with experience,
with wisdom.
511
00:22:20,489 --> 00:22:22,657
He really is an incredible
partner, an incredible father.
512
00:22:22,658 --> 00:22:25,368
You're going to have
disagreements all the time,
513
00:22:25,369 --> 00:22:28,162
but know that
you're not going to let
anything tear you guys apart.
514
00:22:28,163 --> 00:22:30,456
And so he's just affirming
everything I already thought,
515
00:22:30,457 --> 00:22:33,042
which is that
Devin's stepping into that role
and being an incredible partner.
516
00:22:33,043 --> 00:22:34,794
Yeah, it's good to see.
517
00:22:34,795 --> 00:22:38,732
♪ You got the kind of love
That couldn't save me ♪
518
00:22:42,094 --> 00:22:44,071
[gentle music playing]
519
00:22:46,599 --> 00:22:48,933
{\an8}- Hi.
- It's date night.
A special date.
520
00:22:48,934 --> 00:22:50,286
She doesn't know what it is.
521
00:22:50,486 --> 00:22:52,687
She needs to wear a bikini,
but also winter wear.
522
00:22:52,688 --> 00:22:54,647
With heels? And winter wear.
523
00:22:54,648 --> 00:22:56,524
- With heels.
- What?
524
00:22:56,525 --> 00:22:57,609
Can you guys guess what that is?
525
00:22:57,610 --> 00:23:00,421
♪ Standing on fear ♪
526
00:23:03,032 --> 00:23:05,116
♪ Come a little close tonight ♪
527
00:23:05,117 --> 00:23:07,052
♪ Talk dirty to me ♪
528
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,663
♪ Honey, your looks will tease
♪
529
00:23:10,664 --> 00:23:11,890
♪ Come part the seas ♪
530
00:23:12,057 --> 00:23:16,544
- Oh, my goodness.
- [groans] Oh, fuck yeah.
531
00:23:16,545 --> 00:23:18,630
[Tori]
In our conversation with Paul,
532
00:23:18,631 --> 00:23:21,966
it was really nice to hear
Felipe saying he's all in.
533
00:23:21,967 --> 00:23:24,636
I would love to see that
and feel that,
534
00:23:24,637 --> 00:23:27,597
and get back
to where that's strong again.
535
00:23:27,598 --> 00:23:31,225
I want nothing more than that.
So I'm really hopeful.
536
00:23:31,226 --> 00:23:33,061
♪ I see, I see, I see ♪
537
00:23:33,062 --> 00:23:35,813
{\an8}♪ Maybe attraction ♪
538
00:23:35,814 --> 00:23:38,608
{\an8}♪ Let's meet in passion ♪
539
00:23:38,609 --> 00:23:41,486
{\an8}♪ Yeah, yeah ♪
540
00:23:41,487 --> 00:23:44,072
Oh, my gosh. Baby.
541
00:23:44,073 --> 00:23:46,658
- Right?
- Thank you, baby.
542
00:23:46,659 --> 00:23:48,177
[Felipe]
This is awesome.
543
00:23:50,204 --> 00:23:52,348
♪ Baby don't fear ♪
544
00:23:55,751 --> 00:23:58,336
♪ Hips to your waist, uh-huh ♪
545
00:23:58,337 --> 00:24:01,047
♪ I just wanna taste, uh-huh ♪
546
00:24:01,048 --> 00:24:04,068
♪ Push it on me ♪
547
00:24:05,386 --> 00:24:08,680
♪ Don't need my fantasy ♪
548
00:24:08,681 --> 00:24:10,890
Oh, my God.
549
00:24:10,891 --> 00:24:12,517
Baby.
550
00:24:12,518 --> 00:24:14,536
Oh, my gosh.
551
00:24:14,870 --> 00:24:17,689
- [Felipe] To us.
- Thank you.
552
00:24:17,690 --> 00:24:21,043
We're doing better,
and continuing to do so.
553
00:24:22,111 --> 00:24:23,337
- Cheers.
- Cheers.
554
00:24:26,699 --> 00:24:28,616
Paul's chat,
555
00:24:28,617 --> 00:24:31,285
I feel like there was a point
556
00:24:31,286 --> 00:24:34,139
where you, like, exhaled almost.
557
00:24:35,874 --> 00:24:38,084
I was feeling all in
in the moment,
558
00:24:38,085 --> 00:24:40,670
but I just kept thinking...
559
00:24:40,671 --> 00:24:42,547
we'll just live
in the fucking moment.
560
00:24:42,548 --> 00:24:45,734
And in the moment,
I'm choosing you, babe.
561
00:24:46,468 --> 00:24:49,029
You said
you don't want to overwhelm me.
562
00:24:50,597 --> 00:24:52,157
I think with emotion?
563
00:24:53,267 --> 00:24:55,577
I was thinking
complete opposite.
564
00:24:57,312 --> 00:25:00,231
I think for me
to feel, like, safe,
565
00:25:00,232 --> 00:25:02,459
for me to hear it, how you feel.
566
00:25:03,402 --> 00:25:05,236
I see.
567
00:25:05,237 --> 00:25:08,406
Yeah. It's very easy
for me to do. I don't know.
568
00:25:08,407 --> 00:25:10,491
I still have
that same spark, you know,
569
00:25:10,492 --> 00:25:13,095
that I had since
the first moment I saw you.
570
00:25:13,262 --> 00:25:14,722
Mm...
571
00:25:15,422 --> 00:25:19,101
I mean, that was--
I'll never forget that moment.
572
00:25:20,961 --> 00:25:23,880
- Oh.
- You looked stunning.
573
00:25:23,881 --> 00:25:25,465
Thank you.
574
00:25:25,466 --> 00:25:28,092
We both were attracted
to each other.
575
00:25:28,093 --> 00:25:30,261
Yeah. Well, obviously
that helped, but...
576
00:25:30,262 --> 00:25:32,388
- That did help.
- [both laughing]
577
00:25:32,389 --> 00:25:34,474
But then also in talking
and stuff, there was, like--
578
00:25:34,475 --> 00:25:36,768
There was a comfort level there.
Like, that was instant.
579
00:25:36,769 --> 00:25:38,519
Yeah.
580
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,940
So, I want us
to kind of just look
581
00:25:42,941 --> 00:25:45,002
at kind of how
it started a little bit.
582
00:25:48,155 --> 00:25:49,298
Look at this.
583
00:25:50,699 --> 00:25:54,077
[gasps] Oh, my God. [laughs]
584
00:25:54,078 --> 00:25:55,369
["Gold" by Black Match playing]
585
00:25:55,370 --> 00:25:58,998
- Oh, my God, baby.
- Isn't that awesome?
586
00:25:58,999 --> 00:26:00,374
Oh, my God.
587
00:26:00,375 --> 00:26:02,627
♪ Come here ♪
588
00:26:02,628 --> 00:26:04,128
Oh.
589
00:26:04,129 --> 00:26:06,464
♪ Ride along
And we'll see where we ♪
590
00:26:06,465 --> 00:26:07,965
Wow.
591
00:26:07,966 --> 00:26:10,802
♪ Used to go ♪
592
00:26:10,803 --> 00:26:13,221
This is so cute.
593
00:26:13,222 --> 00:26:14,889
[Felipe] It's super cute.
I mean, look at us.
594
00:26:14,890 --> 00:26:17,159
It's so cute.
595
00:26:18,310 --> 00:26:20,204
- Yeah.
- Gonna put it right here.
596
00:26:20,979 --> 00:26:23,481
- Baby.
- Right?
597
00:26:23,482 --> 00:26:25,167
How cute is that?
598
00:26:26,527 --> 00:26:28,170
I love it.
599
00:26:28,370 --> 00:26:30,196
♪ Remember the heartache... ♪
600
00:26:30,197 --> 00:26:33,175
- Thank you.
- You're welcome.
601
00:26:37,329 --> 00:26:39,163
Not the best time for me
to put prosciutto in my mouth,
602
00:26:39,164 --> 00:26:41,725
because I wanted to kiss you.
603
00:26:42,226 --> 00:26:44,001
♪ Underneath
all the pain and hurt ♪
604
00:26:44,002 --> 00:26:45,521
I didn't think it through.
605
00:26:46,922 --> 00:26:48,232
♪ It's gone ♪
606
00:26:54,346 --> 00:26:56,365
♪ It's gone ♪
607
00:27:02,437 --> 00:27:03,896
[upbeat music playing]
608
00:27:03,897 --> 00:27:05,207
{\an8}♪ Never, never, never stop ♪
609
00:27:05,407 --> 00:27:06,899
{\an8}♪ Me and you, we got a lot ♪
610
00:27:06,900 --> 00:27:08,442
{\an8}♪ Gold jewels, just so raw ♪
611
00:27:08,443 --> 00:27:10,194
{\an8}♪ Touch my body,
Make it hot, start ♪
612
00:27:10,195 --> 00:27:16,176
{\an8}Shawn is running late at work
for tonight's couple's dinner.
613
00:27:16,343 --> 00:27:19,287
But he should be here very soon.
614
00:27:19,288 --> 00:27:23,541
I hope he likes my dress choice.
What do you think?
615
00:27:23,542 --> 00:27:25,394
♪ Poppin' bottles
like the 4th of July ♪
616
00:27:25,561 --> 00:27:28,230
♪ Blast off like fireworks,
flying back to my place ♪
617
00:27:28,430 --> 00:27:31,191
It's dinner time. Group dinner.
618
00:27:31,358 --> 00:27:34,468
These are the fits.
619
00:27:34,469 --> 00:27:38,181
{\an8}He has a splash of red,
which I love that he did that.
620
00:27:38,182 --> 00:27:41,392
And then I'm also
his splash of red as well.
621
00:27:41,393 --> 00:27:44,061
Preppy boy meets Moana.
622
00:27:44,062 --> 00:27:45,980
{\an8}- Island gal.
- Island gyal.
623
00:27:45,981 --> 00:27:47,899
{\an8}- [imitating accent] Bad thing.
- Okay, don't start.
624
00:27:47,900 --> 00:27:49,400
You dun know, eh?
625
00:27:49,401 --> 00:27:51,903
Dutty wine 'pon de cocky.
626
00:27:51,904 --> 00:27:53,237
Yeah?
627
00:27:53,238 --> 00:27:54,572
♪ Let it let it let it drop ♪
628
00:27:54,573 --> 00:27:56,049
♪ I'm in need of
What you got ♪
629
00:27:56,250 --> 00:27:57,575
♪ Take my picture
Last a while ♪
630
00:27:57,576 --> 00:27:59,243
♪ Catch me in my draw ♪
631
00:27:59,244 --> 00:28:01,746
- Is this the last group dinner?
- Yeah.
632
00:28:01,747 --> 00:28:04,457
{\an8}I don't see it
with a lot of these couples.
633
00:28:04,458 --> 00:28:08,419
{\an8}If you just want to, like,
bullshit us, spare us.
634
00:28:08,420 --> 00:28:09,962
{\an8}That's basically
what I'm going to say.
635
00:28:09,963 --> 00:28:11,964
I'm going to be like,
"If you don't want to speak
636
00:28:11,965 --> 00:28:14,592
your truth, that's up to you,
but you're going to look back
637
00:28:14,593 --> 00:28:19,931
and regret that you didn't
speak your full, honest truth.
638
00:28:19,932 --> 00:28:21,682
Yeah.
639
00:28:21,683 --> 00:28:24,936
[upbeat music playing]
640
00:28:24,937 --> 00:28:30,626
♪ I, I can't lie ♪
641
00:28:32,444 --> 00:28:34,445
♪ I love the way I look ♪
642
00:28:34,446 --> 00:28:35,780
♪ Yeah, I love the way ♪
643
00:28:35,781 --> 00:28:37,406
{\an8}You think we're
the first ones in?
644
00:28:37,407 --> 00:28:40,284
{\an8}- I think so.
- Dang. That's pretty crazy.
645
00:28:40,285 --> 00:28:42,286
{\an8}♪ I can't lie ♪
646
00:28:42,287 --> 00:28:44,914
- Thank you.
- Absolutely.
647
00:28:44,915 --> 00:28:47,917
{\an8}- It's our final dinner party.
- [Brunson] I cannot wait.
648
00:28:47,918 --> 00:28:50,586
{\an8}I have high hopes to
see what comes out tonight.
649
00:28:50,587 --> 00:28:52,272
My gut is telling me there's
650
00:28:52,439 --> 00:28:54,316
going to be
some drama with everyone.
651
00:28:54,516 --> 00:28:56,801
To a better group
dinner than the last one.
652
00:28:56,802 --> 00:28:59,178
- I think we'll be good.
- I think so, too.
653
00:28:59,179 --> 00:29:01,180
♪ Gonna fight the wild days
In a different lane ♪
654
00:29:01,181 --> 00:29:03,325
{\an8}♪ Now I'm focused on the things
I need to be a better one ♪
655
00:29:03,458 --> 00:29:05,184
- Hey, yo.
- Hi!
656
00:29:05,185 --> 00:29:06,519
- My favorite.
- What's up, dude?
657
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:08,372
- How's everything?
- We're matching.
658
00:29:08,872 --> 00:29:10,898
{\an8}I'm excited to see
all the other couples.
659
00:29:10,899 --> 00:29:12,108
{\an8}I know, I can't wait.
660
00:29:12,109 --> 00:29:14,443
- [Adam] Yo.
- Hi!
661
00:29:14,444 --> 00:29:16,821
[Devin] The vibes
themselves are here. What up?
662
00:29:16,822 --> 00:29:19,031
You guys look so good.
663
00:29:19,032 --> 00:29:21,117
- Yellow is your color, my girl.
- You look beautiful. Thank you.
664
00:29:21,118 --> 00:29:22,535
Oh, my God.
665
00:29:22,536 --> 00:29:24,036
Adam definitely
wants to make a statement.
666
00:29:24,037 --> 00:29:25,371
I agree.
667
00:29:25,372 --> 00:29:26,414
You guys excited
for the Couples Retreat
668
00:29:26,415 --> 00:29:28,124
- this weekend?
- Mm-hmm.
669
00:29:28,125 --> 00:29:31,335
I think it's going to be
a big sleepover.
It's gonna be lit.
670
00:29:31,336 --> 00:29:33,921
{\an8}- Yo.
- Hello! Hello!
671
00:29:33,922 --> 00:29:36,674
{\an8}[Caitlin] Oh, the shoes
match the dress.
I love it.
672
00:29:36,675 --> 00:29:38,276
[Marissa] Look at you guys. Hi!
673
00:29:38,443 --> 00:29:40,011
[Dr. Paz]
Would you look at these two?
674
00:29:40,012 --> 00:29:41,345
For me, they look connected
675
00:29:41,346 --> 00:29:43,264
and like
they are growing together
676
00:29:43,265 --> 00:29:44,491
more and more each day.
677
00:29:44,658 --> 00:29:46,642
What's the vibes
for the group dinner?
678
00:29:46,643 --> 00:29:48,269
Are we pumped? Are we excited?
679
00:29:48,270 --> 00:29:49,687
[Marissa] It's going
to be weird not having
680
00:29:49,688 --> 00:29:51,188
Nick and Courteney
with us at dinner.
681
00:29:51,189 --> 00:29:53,024
- I know.
- [Marissa] I'm sad.
682
00:29:53,025 --> 00:29:54,251
We're down to six couples.
683
00:29:54,418 --> 00:29:57,028
- I know.
- It was really shocking.
684
00:29:57,029 --> 00:29:58,529
For sure.
685
00:29:58,530 --> 00:30:00,031
I've never watched
someone break up before.
686
00:30:00,032 --> 00:30:01,449
- Yeah.
- IRL.
687
00:30:01,450 --> 00:30:02,950
Did you guys
hear about Felipe and Tori?
688
00:30:02,951 --> 00:30:04,386
- No.
- [Adam] Really?
689
00:30:04,519 --> 00:30:06,888
- [BelléJolie] No, you stop it.
- You're joking.
690
00:30:08,248 --> 00:30:10,875
{\an8}[Marissa] Oh, my goodness!
691
00:30:10,876 --> 00:30:13,586
- [Adam] Heyo!
- Hello, my people!
692
00:30:13,587 --> 00:30:16,881
Tori has been taken on a ride
these past couple of weeks.
693
00:30:16,882 --> 00:30:19,592
I think Felipe
wants to be ready.
694
00:30:19,593 --> 00:30:21,594
If he could
push a button that said,
695
00:30:21,595 --> 00:30:24,364
"You can wholly feel ready,"
I think he wants to want it.
696
00:30:24,531 --> 00:30:26,408
But you know what? I have hope.
697
00:30:26,608 --> 00:30:28,309
How are you guys feeling?
698
00:30:28,310 --> 00:30:30,811
Felipe and I are
doing a lot better.
699
00:30:30,812 --> 00:30:34,291
{\an8}- Okay.
- Last time,
when we got home that night...
700
00:30:35,692 --> 00:30:36,901
And I was like--
701
00:30:36,902 --> 00:30:38,420
Oh, my God.
He better be begging.
702
00:30:38,587 --> 00:30:40,338
[Tori] I was like, "I don't know
what to do with this."
703
00:30:40,505 --> 00:30:42,865
Felipe, did you make up
with Paul?
704
00:30:42,866 --> 00:30:45,242
- Oh, we made up.
- You made up?
Okay, good, good.
705
00:30:45,243 --> 00:30:47,578
He was actually very helpful.
He said that I was
being disrespectful to him.
706
00:30:47,579 --> 00:30:49,747
- Was I being disrespectful?
- Well, I mean, you said...
707
00:30:49,748 --> 00:30:52,267
You were just cooked, bro,
to be honest.
708
00:30:53,085 --> 00:30:54,561
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
709
00:30:55,395 --> 00:30:56,921
{\an8}Going into
the group dinner tonight,
710
00:30:56,922 --> 00:30:58,756
{\an8}oh, man, I feel
like we are actually
711
00:30:58,757 --> 00:31:02,635
{\an8}in the best place we've been
in this entire experience.
712
00:31:02,636 --> 00:31:05,096
What up, what up,
what up, what up?
713
00:31:05,097 --> 00:31:07,973
- Hello!
- Wow!
714
00:31:07,974 --> 00:31:09,225
- Hey!
- Wow!
715
00:31:09,226 --> 00:31:11,685
[overlapping speaking]
716
00:31:11,686 --> 00:31:15,314
- There she is!
- Oh, my God, Nikki!
717
00:31:15,315 --> 00:31:17,459
Nothing like
the saga of Nikki and Shawn.
718
00:31:17,659 --> 00:31:18,984
[Brunson] They look like
they like each other.
719
00:31:18,985 --> 00:31:21,338
They're kind of working.
This is good.
720
00:31:21,505 --> 00:31:22,947
[Dr. Paz] Yeah,
I'm not mad at that tonight.
721
00:31:22,948 --> 00:31:25,199
Wait, who's
in the hot seat tonight?
I'm done.
722
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,452
If you guys come at me,
I'm going to fight
all of you guys at the table.
723
00:31:28,453 --> 00:31:29,954
I mean, it might be you guys.
724
00:31:29,955 --> 00:31:31,414
Yeah, maybe Felipe.
725
00:31:31,415 --> 00:31:32,665
He feels like
he got cooked last night,
726
00:31:32,666 --> 00:31:34,959
so he's like,
"Not us, we got cooked."
727
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,752
I'm sorry, Tori, if he talks
one more time about wanting to
728
00:31:36,753 --> 00:31:38,003
sleep with a million women,
I'm going to tell him
729
00:31:38,004 --> 00:31:39,815
to shut the fuck up.
730
00:31:43,176 --> 00:31:44,528
{\an8}[Marissa] Oh, here she goes.
731
00:31:44,694 --> 00:31:46,345
Let's go, baby.
732
00:31:46,346 --> 00:31:48,490
Woo!
733
00:31:48,657 --> 00:31:50,575
- All right, yeah!
- [Mecca] Game time!
734
00:31:50,709 --> 00:31:52,560
There you go.
735
00:31:52,561 --> 00:31:54,854
Okay, guys,
it's officially dinner time,
736
00:31:54,855 --> 00:31:57,481
which means it's time to gossip.
737
00:31:57,482 --> 00:32:00,067
- Oh, yes! Let's go.
- Let's go.
738
00:32:00,068 --> 00:32:03,195
{\an8}I think because Michelle
doesn't have any drama
739
00:32:03,196 --> 00:32:06,866
{\an8}in her relationship,
she needs the group
to bring her drama.
740
00:32:06,867 --> 00:32:08,909
{\an8}And not only that, isn't it easy
741
00:32:08,910 --> 00:32:11,096
{\an8}to be the initiator
of the drama and the gossip
742
00:32:11,329 --> 00:32:13,497
{\an8}when you're standing
on solid ground?
743
00:32:13,498 --> 00:32:15,124
- Yes.
- Oh, Lord.
744
00:32:15,125 --> 00:32:16,959
{\an8}I don't know
if I'm ready for this.
745
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,086
{\an8}Oh, Lord.
Why are you not ready?
746
00:32:19,087 --> 00:32:20,754
{\an8}[Devin] I don't know
if I'm ready for this.
747
00:32:20,755 --> 00:32:22,089
[Caitlin]
What are you going to do?
748
00:32:22,090 --> 00:32:24,091
- Oh, same side as last time.
- Over there?
749
00:32:24,092 --> 00:32:26,051
- [Mecca] That's you, that's me.
- [BelléJolie] Okay.
750
00:32:26,052 --> 00:32:27,261
{\an8}[Felipe] Hello, Nikki.
751
00:32:27,262 --> 00:32:29,597
{\an8}- Hello, Felipe.
- [Felipe] Oh.
752
00:32:29,598 --> 00:32:32,141
{\an8}- Are you ready, kids?
- How's everybody doing?
753
00:32:32,142 --> 00:32:34,619
{\an8}- [Nikki] Good! Great!
- We had a really good week,
754
00:32:34,820 --> 00:32:36,937
{\an8}and we had
a lot of conversations
755
00:32:36,938 --> 00:32:39,499
{\an8}about what it would
take to get to a, "Hell yes."
756
00:32:39,666 --> 00:32:42,610
It's just such
a short amount of time to know
757
00:32:42,611 --> 00:32:45,630
if compromise is going to work.
758
00:32:45,764 --> 00:32:47,823
{\an8}Yeah. I was working
on being less intense
759
00:32:47,824 --> 00:32:49,492
{\an8}and focusing
on doing what she really likes,
760
00:32:49,493 --> 00:32:52,637
{\an8}which is relaxing
and doing quality time.
761
00:32:52,771 --> 00:32:55,122
{\an8}So realistically,
what would it take
762
00:32:55,123 --> 00:32:56,957
{\an8}both of you guys
to get to a, "Hell yes?"
763
00:32:56,958 --> 00:32:59,543
{\an8}I think for her,
I would need to be, like
764
00:32:59,544 --> 00:33:01,712
{\an8}more down
to be a little less intense,
765
00:33:01,713 --> 00:33:04,131
not playing pickleball
four or five hours a day,
766
00:33:04,132 --> 00:33:07,760
not pushing myself at a crazy
extreme level all the time.
767
00:33:07,761 --> 00:33:09,595
And then for me,
it would be her kind of meeting
768
00:33:09,596 --> 00:33:11,889
me in the middle,
maybe working out
with me a couple days a week.
769
00:33:11,890 --> 00:33:13,974
So yeah,
just compromise on both ends.
770
00:33:13,975 --> 00:33:15,768
Would you be happy
with her like that?
771
00:33:15,769 --> 00:33:17,520
I feel like it's tough
to tell in just like a week,
772
00:33:17,521 --> 00:33:21,500
but yeah, we're going to
give it our best shot
and try and see.
773
00:33:22,367 --> 00:33:24,818
The intensity level
is definitely hard
774
00:33:24,819 --> 00:33:26,820
on my anxiety and way of living,
775
00:33:26,821 --> 00:33:29,323
and it's something
that I'm happy for him
776
00:33:29,324 --> 00:33:31,408
to continue on being so intense.
777
00:33:31,409 --> 00:33:33,702
But when you're married
to someone and you constantly
778
00:33:33,703 --> 00:33:38,123
have to be pushing yourself
to the next level
every single day,
779
00:33:38,124 --> 00:33:41,335
I'm like, "Okay, can we have
like, a little break?"
780
00:33:41,336 --> 00:33:45,839
So I like to have balance,
and I think that's something
781
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,883
I would like to see
more from him.
782
00:33:47,884 --> 00:33:50,261
- This is good.
- [Dr. Paz] Yeah, it is good.
783
00:33:50,262 --> 00:33:53,639
She's opening up,
and she's owning her truth.
784
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:55,099
Yeah, that's what
we've asked of her.
785
00:33:55,100 --> 00:33:57,351
- I have a question
I'm curious about.
- Please.
786
00:33:57,352 --> 00:34:01,313
Why is it so important
to you that you share hobbies?
787
00:34:01,314 --> 00:34:03,232
I've had a relationship
where like, I went to
788
00:34:03,233 --> 00:34:04,668
the gym every day
with my girlfriend,
789
00:34:04,834 --> 00:34:06,694
and we played
a bunch of sports together
790
00:34:06,695 --> 00:34:08,862
and stuff,
and that's just honestly where
791
00:34:08,863 --> 00:34:11,031
I'm having the most fun
and just vibing to the max,
792
00:34:11,032 --> 00:34:13,033
and getting to do that
with my person
793
00:34:13,034 --> 00:34:14,844
is just ideal for me,
it's optimal.
794
00:34:15,245 --> 00:34:16,745
The successful relationships
that I've witnessed in my life,
795
00:34:16,746 --> 00:34:18,455
some of them have
similar hobbies,
796
00:34:18,456 --> 00:34:19,915
but I can't think of
a single one
797
00:34:19,916 --> 00:34:21,709
where they're super aligned
on everything.
798
00:34:21,710 --> 00:34:24,020
Should have met
my ex-girlfriend, I guess.
799
00:34:26,047 --> 00:34:28,650
Well, that's a crazy comment.
[chuckles nervously]
800
00:34:29,117 --> 00:34:31,343
I have a problem
when we compare to exes,
801
00:34:31,344 --> 00:34:34,305
because they're
your ex for a reason.
802
00:34:34,306 --> 00:34:35,407
She's more ready.
803
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,058
He's still wanting to
play his games,
804
00:34:38,059 --> 00:34:41,371
and it's going to make her
feel less than.
805
00:34:41,538 --> 00:34:44,231
Question. Do your parents
talk like you do?
806
00:34:44,232 --> 00:34:45,774
Oh, wow.
807
00:34:45,775 --> 00:34:47,026
- [Adam] Not at all, no.
- Not at all?
808
00:34:47,027 --> 00:34:49,528
{\an8}So I'm curious,
and I don't think
809
00:34:49,529 --> 00:34:51,739
{\an8}there's anything wrong with you,
to start with that.
810
00:34:51,740 --> 00:34:54,199
- That's crazy.
- [Mecca] Yes, he does.
811
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:55,409
I'm so proud of you.
812
00:34:55,410 --> 00:34:57,411
- That's crazy.
- I think you are
813
00:34:57,412 --> 00:34:59,788
who you created yourself to be,
814
00:34:59,789 --> 00:35:01,766
but a lot of
times when people use words
815
00:35:01,900 --> 00:35:03,917
like vibes, like ripping it,
816
00:35:03,918 --> 00:35:06,253
cooked, they're simplifying it
into one word,
817
00:35:06,254 --> 00:35:09,089
because they don't have
the vocabulary or emotional
intelligence
818
00:35:09,090 --> 00:35:10,674
to describe
what they're actually feeling.
819
00:35:10,675 --> 00:35:12,134
Really? So you're calling me
low IQ?
820
00:35:12,135 --> 00:35:14,219
No, no, no.
I'm not calling you that.
821
00:35:14,220 --> 00:35:16,305
I'm just saying this
is my experience with people.
822
00:35:16,306 --> 00:35:18,557
- I would love to do
an IQ test. Honestly.
- [Shawn] No, no, no.
823
00:35:18,558 --> 00:35:20,559
Not IQ. EQ.
824
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:22,311
- It's different.
- You said IQ.
825
00:35:22,312 --> 00:35:24,104
I said
low emotional intelligence.
That's what I said.
826
00:35:24,105 --> 00:35:25,457
You said vocabulary, though,
that's a little bit...
827
00:35:25,590 --> 00:35:27,232
[Shawn] Okay. So.
So, the question is...
828
00:35:27,233 --> 00:35:30,027
- Taking it to him.
- [Brunson exhaling]
829
00:35:30,028 --> 00:35:32,279
If I have friends
who are using words
830
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,531
to shortcut
their actual emotions,
831
00:35:34,532 --> 00:35:36,950
I would make them say, tell me
what you're really feeling.
832
00:35:36,951 --> 00:35:38,928
Vibes can't be
describing of everything.
833
00:35:39,496 --> 00:35:42,373
I'm sure
you're a genius academically.
834
00:35:42,374 --> 00:35:44,458
The question is,
did you create a character
835
00:35:44,459 --> 00:35:46,627
around something that you're
protecting yourself from
836
00:35:46,628 --> 00:35:47,878
that keeps you
from just being able
837
00:35:47,879 --> 00:35:49,421
to articulate
your emotions accurately
838
00:35:49,422 --> 00:35:51,924
and to really
go into being the real person?
839
00:35:51,925 --> 00:35:54,301
Because I don't think
in 20 years, if you become
like your parents are,
840
00:35:54,302 --> 00:35:55,862
you're going to be
talking like this.
841
00:35:56,763 --> 00:36:00,683
I felt like I was listening
to my father talk to me
right there.
842
00:36:00,684 --> 00:36:01,975
Right.
843
00:36:01,976 --> 00:36:03,828
I feel like
I do have a robust vocab.
844
00:36:04,029 --> 00:36:05,979
I just prefer
to use these words.
845
00:36:05,980 --> 00:36:07,731
Like I feel like
they're the optimal way,
846
00:36:07,732 --> 00:36:09,709
in a lot of instances,
to describe how
847
00:36:09,876 --> 00:36:11,443
I'm feeling or, like,
what I'm doing.
848
00:36:11,444 --> 00:36:14,381
And it's like, how I communicate
with all my friends.
849
00:36:14,814 --> 00:36:17,074
I would never speak
to anyone else
850
00:36:17,075 --> 00:36:18,826
like this unless they had
said something to me,
851
00:36:18,827 --> 00:36:21,161
and I've only been
incredibly nice to him
this whole time.
852
00:36:21,162 --> 00:36:22,871
So I'm shocked. To call out
853
00:36:22,872 --> 00:36:24,748
my emotional intelligence,
when his relationship
854
00:36:24,749 --> 00:36:27,000
is in absolute shambles,
is ridiculous.
855
00:36:27,001 --> 00:36:28,460
They were fighting
over such like, basic shit
856
00:36:28,461 --> 00:36:31,588
for their age, is absolutely
fucking childish,
857
00:36:31,589 --> 00:36:34,508
and even embarrassing to be
like, acquainted with them.
858
00:36:34,509 --> 00:36:37,886
♪ I didn't, I didn't come here
♪
859
00:36:37,887 --> 00:36:42,075
♪ To make friends ♪
860
00:36:45,770 --> 00:36:48,039
[tense music playing]
861
00:36:49,007 --> 00:36:51,024
Marissa, do you feel like
you can tell what
862
00:36:51,025 --> 00:36:52,568
Adam is feeling
most of the time?
863
00:36:52,569 --> 00:36:54,879
{\an8}Over this experience,
I've understood a lot more
864
00:36:55,046 --> 00:36:57,197
{\an8}about, like, what he means,
what he says and he can,
865
00:36:57,198 --> 00:36:59,283
{\an8}like, articulate himself
very well.
866
00:36:59,284 --> 00:37:01,201
{\an8}- I don't think
that even needs to be said.
- Thank you.
867
00:37:01,202 --> 00:37:03,078
{\an8}Okay. Cool.
868
00:37:03,079 --> 00:37:04,621
- Shawn meant well in this.
- I agree.
869
00:37:04,622 --> 00:37:09,710
{\an8}But what he did, unfortunately,
is he shamed Adam.
870
00:37:09,711 --> 00:37:12,379
{\an8}What he's trying to say is,
"Hey, Adam, we want to learn
871
00:37:12,380 --> 00:37:14,757
{\an8}the next layer of you.
Can you lay off vibes?"
872
00:37:14,758 --> 00:37:16,133
{\an8}Say that.
873
00:37:16,134 --> 00:37:17,843
{\an8}All right, let's move on.
874
00:37:17,844 --> 00:37:19,678
{\an8}So I was having
like a really shitty day
875
00:37:19,679 --> 00:37:21,555
{\an8}the other day, just overwhelmed,
876
00:37:21,556 --> 00:37:25,392
{\an8}felt awful,
and I felt guilty
for feeling bad.
877
00:37:25,393 --> 00:37:26,995
You know, because I'm like,
"Oh, I should be
878
00:37:27,162 --> 00:37:29,664
happy all the time
because I'm with Michelle."
879
00:37:29,831 --> 00:37:32,149
But in the spirit of honesty,
I was honest with her,
880
00:37:32,150 --> 00:37:38,113
and she not only took care of me
by like literally taking
stuff off my plate that day,
881
00:37:38,114 --> 00:37:41,450
but she didn't judge me
and she just got my back.
882
00:37:41,451 --> 00:37:44,119
- So cute.
- I think you two
are like... [smooches]
883
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,848
{\an8}Creme de la creme. Amazing.
884
00:37:47,015 --> 00:37:48,624
- Killed it.
- Hell yeah.
885
00:37:48,625 --> 00:37:50,292
Yeah, good job, Matchmakers.
886
00:37:50,293 --> 00:37:53,128
- [Michelle laughing]
- This is beautiful.
887
00:37:53,129 --> 00:37:57,257
I mean, Cameron
is just representing love.
888
00:37:57,258 --> 00:38:00,677
- Yes.
- He doesn't want to say it,
but he's saying it.
889
00:38:00,678 --> 00:38:01,905
- He's saying it.
- Yes.
890
00:38:02,071 --> 00:38:05,307
{\an8}- You guys are up.
- Nice, nice, nice.
891
00:38:05,308 --> 00:38:07,226
{\an8}I'm tired of him.
I'm just kidding.
892
00:38:07,227 --> 00:38:09,645
{\an8}- I'm kidding.
- She's not tired of me.
893
00:38:09,646 --> 00:38:11,438
{\an8}She can't get
enough of me is what it is.
894
00:38:11,439 --> 00:38:14,525
{\an8}Oh, please. Whatever.
895
00:38:14,526 --> 00:38:17,003
{\an8}But the connection
and the bond is like, forever
896
00:38:17,137 --> 00:38:19,822
{\an8}getting deeper
and deeper and stronger,
897
00:38:19,823 --> 00:38:21,990
{\an8}which is
honestly surprising to me.
898
00:38:21,991 --> 00:38:23,784
I didn't see it coming.
899
00:38:23,785 --> 00:38:26,119
- I don't know
how you feel, Belle, but...
- Me either.
900
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:31,017
I think things are
very comfortable right now.
In a good way. In a good way.
901
00:38:31,151 --> 00:38:33,168
Have you said
the L word to each other?
902
00:38:33,169 --> 00:38:35,420
- [both] No.
- We have love for each other.
903
00:38:35,421 --> 00:38:37,982
- We know that that is there.
- But we are not in love.
904
00:38:38,149 --> 00:38:39,341
How long do you think
you would need to be married
905
00:38:39,342 --> 00:38:41,343
to know
whether you love someone?
906
00:38:41,344 --> 00:38:42,970
It's hard for me to put a time
907
00:38:42,971 --> 00:38:45,514
on things like that, honestly,
908
00:38:45,515 --> 00:38:48,350
because I feel like it's just
when I feel it,
I feel it.
909
00:38:48,351 --> 00:38:51,103
You know, it could be tomorrow.
I don't know.
910
00:38:51,104 --> 00:38:54,398
There's a lot of pressure
around the saying it part,
911
00:38:54,399 --> 00:38:56,149
but when you look at everything
912
00:38:56,150 --> 00:38:57,693
that you're doing,
you're basically saying that.
913
00:38:57,694 --> 00:38:59,778
- You're loving each other.
- [Mecca] There you go.
914
00:38:59,779 --> 00:39:03,049
- Then that's your answer.
- There's your answer. Yeah.
915
00:39:03,850 --> 00:39:07,536
This past weekend, we made
a very important
916
00:39:07,537 --> 00:39:09,705
collective decision
between the two of us,
917
00:39:09,706 --> 00:39:13,500
that we're going to go into
Decision Day saying yes.
918
00:39:13,501 --> 00:39:15,853
- Wow.
- You did?
919
00:39:16,838 --> 00:39:19,065
{\an8}- [all cheering]
- [Caitlin] Stop!
920
00:39:20,508 --> 00:39:21,800
I love this.
921
00:39:21,801 --> 00:39:24,011
For us, I thought I was
so far away from a yes
922
00:39:24,012 --> 00:39:27,699
two, three weeks ago, and I'm
like so much closer
to a possible yes.
923
00:39:27,999 --> 00:39:30,309
Like, we have the best times,
924
00:39:30,310 --> 00:39:32,728
like at the hot tub,
and just listening to music,
925
00:39:32,729 --> 00:39:36,315
and, you know,
vibing on the terrace
or whatever.
926
00:39:36,316 --> 00:39:39,085
- Can't use that word.
- Okay, you're right.
927
00:39:39,219 --> 00:39:42,321
'Cause it's not--
it's not conveying my emotions.
928
00:39:42,322 --> 00:39:44,907
But I think there's
still, like, some growth
929
00:39:44,908 --> 00:39:46,658
in terms of our family dynamics.
930
00:39:46,659 --> 00:39:48,261
We're having some of
the conversations now
that we probably
931
00:39:48,428 --> 00:39:50,078
should have been having
week one, to be honest with you.
932
00:39:50,079 --> 00:39:51,788
You guys obviously
really were struggling
933
00:39:51,789 --> 00:39:54,333
the first nine or ten days,
and then it felt like
934
00:39:54,334 --> 00:39:57,085
all of a sudden, like overnight,
you guys went to therapy
935
00:39:57,086 --> 00:39:58,378
or whatever, and came up
with some strategies,
936
00:39:58,379 --> 00:39:59,689
and now
we're doing perfect, right?
937
00:39:59,889 --> 00:40:01,423
- Not perfect.
- [Nikki] Not perfect.
938
00:40:01,424 --> 00:40:03,067
Doing-- but suddenly like,
doing really well, right?
939
00:40:03,234 --> 00:40:04,676
And I just
don't know if I buy it.
940
00:40:04,677 --> 00:40:06,553
Right now
you guys are sitting
16 feet apart.
941
00:40:06,554 --> 00:40:09,014
We have two partitions
in here that are--
942
00:40:09,015 --> 00:40:10,432
I mean, how convenient.
943
00:40:10,433 --> 00:40:12,434
But, like, at the same time
I just don't know
944
00:40:12,435 --> 00:40:13,560
if I believe it.
945
00:40:13,561 --> 00:40:15,187
I just haven't seen
intimacy, love,
946
00:40:15,188 --> 00:40:16,897
any sort of
connection between you guys.
947
00:40:16,898 --> 00:40:19,566
Yeah, because what you've been
exposed to is all you know.
948
00:40:19,567 --> 00:40:23,362
Yeah, if I'm honest,
I'm not getting romantic vibes
949
00:40:23,363 --> 00:40:24,821
between the two of you.
950
00:40:24,822 --> 00:40:26,657
Nikki, I'll let you speak,
951
00:40:26,658 --> 00:40:29,242
but just based off of
your body language,
952
00:40:29,243 --> 00:40:32,663
I'm not getting the sense
that he's your person.
953
00:40:32,664 --> 00:40:35,207
I know it's kind of been,
like, the pendulum
954
00:40:35,208 --> 00:40:36,750
is swinging to the other side,
955
00:40:36,751 --> 00:40:39,878
but all this healthy stuff
that we're practicing,
956
00:40:39,879 --> 00:40:42,422
now it's actually
just accelerating
957
00:40:42,423 --> 00:40:46,426
our ability
to connect with one another.
958
00:40:46,427 --> 00:40:48,637
Not going to share any details,
but we did reach a threshold
959
00:40:48,638 --> 00:40:51,640
with the physical intimacy
piece, and it was very nice.
960
00:40:51,641 --> 00:40:53,725
- Whoo.
- Spicy.
961
00:40:53,726 --> 00:40:59,022
So, I think it's possible
the sparks are flying now.
962
00:40:59,023 --> 00:41:00,482
Not going to lie.
963
00:41:00,483 --> 00:41:02,126
Don't see
the physical attraction
to Shawn.
964
00:41:02,293 --> 00:41:04,361
I'm growing
in my physical attraction.
965
00:41:04,362 --> 00:41:06,321
- That's different than,
like, looking--
- Oh, I know,
966
00:41:06,322 --> 00:41:09,300
because I wasn't attracted
to Bellé when we first met.
967
00:41:10,118 --> 00:41:12,494
So a similar journey.
968
00:41:12,495 --> 00:41:15,348
- Ooh, that's devastating.
- Agreed.
969
00:41:31,514 --> 00:41:34,266
{\an8}[Shawn] ...and because of that
popping and on and popping
970
00:41:34,267 --> 00:41:38,413
{\an8}within six weeks
of getting to know someone
that to me is not a journey...
971
00:41:43,735 --> 00:41:47,404
This is already haunting us,
the whole experience.
972
00:41:47,405 --> 00:41:50,157
Why are you even
saying that right now?
973
00:41:50,158 --> 00:41:52,993
"She's pretty, but is she
pretty enough for me?"
974
00:41:52,994 --> 00:41:57,956
No. That's the comment that
I'm going to have to regulate.
975
00:41:57,957 --> 00:42:02,753
He doesn't really think about
how to say things.
976
00:42:02,754 --> 00:42:05,922
Him and Felipe kind of
have that same little issue.
977
00:42:05,923 --> 00:42:07,507
It just was a slap in the face.
978
00:42:07,508 --> 00:42:09,926
It was
beyond disrespectful to me.
979
00:42:09,927 --> 00:42:12,387
All right, I've been
very interested
in what's going on
980
00:42:12,388 --> 00:42:14,222
with you two, and
I want to hear some updates.
981
00:42:14,223 --> 00:42:15,474
{\an8}This week has been great,
982
00:42:15,475 --> 00:42:17,476
{\an8}and I think we can keep
the ball rolling.
983
00:42:17,477 --> 00:42:19,019
{\an8}We understand that
there's still other things
984
00:42:19,020 --> 00:42:20,562
{\an8}that we need to kind of
touch on,
985
00:42:20,563 --> 00:42:22,248
{\an8}but I think it's heading
in the right direction.
986
00:42:22,448 --> 00:42:23,482
What are the things
that y'all need to touch on?
987
00:42:23,483 --> 00:42:25,275
I think the biggest thing
that we talked about
988
00:42:25,276 --> 00:42:26,735
was bringing romance
back into it,
989
00:42:26,736 --> 00:42:28,904
and for me,
I've pretty much pulled back
990
00:42:28,905 --> 00:42:31,907
any type of physical
intimacy since Cancun.
991
00:42:31,908 --> 00:42:33,492
I want to make sure
that whatever's happening,
992
00:42:33,493 --> 00:42:35,744
I feel confident
and safe emotionally.
993
00:42:35,745 --> 00:42:38,580
Is that something you want to
try to advance and move forward?
994
00:42:38,581 --> 00:42:41,124
Yeah. You know, I do agree,
to help progress
995
00:42:41,125 --> 00:42:43,269
and grow closer
is super important.
996
00:42:45,046 --> 00:42:46,922
Do you feel hopeful, Dev?
997
00:42:46,923 --> 00:42:48,715
I do, but we have to
see what that looks like.
998
00:42:48,716 --> 00:42:51,093
You can't go into a marriage
and commit and be like,
999
00:42:51,094 --> 00:42:53,845
"Yes, this is exactly what
I want," when you don't even
know what half of it looks like.
1000
00:42:53,846 --> 00:42:57,241
So on Decision Day, if nothing
advances there, it's a no.
1001
00:42:57,408 --> 00:43:00,227
Be careful
with that answer, Devin.
1002
00:43:00,228 --> 00:43:03,063
- Yeah, but I mean...
- I mean, I wouldn't stay
married to someone
1003
00:43:03,064 --> 00:43:05,524
without having sex
with them first.
1004
00:43:05,525 --> 00:43:08,443
Would anybody here stay married
to someone you hadn't hooked up
with yet?
1005
00:43:08,444 --> 00:43:10,213
Are you even ready
to get married?
1006
00:43:10,379 --> 00:43:11,571
We'll get to me
in a second, buddy.
1007
00:43:11,572 --> 00:43:12,906
- Thank you so much.
- We will.
1008
00:43:12,907 --> 00:43:14,866
- Oh God, right, right.
- My God.
1009
00:43:14,867 --> 00:43:16,910
Speaking for myself,
I probably would not
1010
00:43:16,911 --> 00:43:18,912
get married to someone
I haven't hooked up with.
1011
00:43:18,913 --> 00:43:21,540
Well, I want to know,
would anybody stay married
1012
00:43:21,541 --> 00:43:23,041
to someone
you didn't hook up with?
1013
00:43:23,042 --> 00:43:24,292
Seriously.
1014
00:43:24,293 --> 00:43:27,254
- No.
- No.
1015
00:43:27,255 --> 00:43:28,463
- Anybody?
- There's degrees.
1016
00:43:28,464 --> 00:43:30,215
Depends, yeah,
if we're vibing. Yeah.
1017
00:43:30,216 --> 00:43:31,484
- Okay.
- [Caitlin] I'm sorry.
1018
00:43:31,617 --> 00:43:33,468
That is a really childish answer
to be like,
1019
00:43:33,469 --> 00:43:35,095
"No, I'm not going
to stay married to you
if we haven't fucked."
1020
00:43:35,096 --> 00:43:36,513
That's crazy because...
1021
00:43:36,514 --> 00:43:37,740
- It's deeper than that.
- It is.
1022
00:43:37,940 --> 00:43:39,808
- And honestly, I'm sorry.
- Like, bigger picture.
1023
00:43:39,809 --> 00:43:42,060
We're all adults and have
probably been around the block.
1024
00:43:42,061 --> 00:43:45,981
I feel confident
in my personal ability,
maybe Devin's ability.
1025
00:43:45,982 --> 00:43:47,291
I'm not worried about that.
I don't care.
1026
00:43:47,458 --> 00:43:48,775
So to you, it doesn't matter?
1027
00:43:48,776 --> 00:43:50,503
I wouldn't
say it doesn't matter,
1028
00:43:50,636 --> 00:43:52,004
but I'm not going to be like,
"That's my deal breaker."
1029
00:43:52,205 --> 00:43:55,323
Would you stay with someone
that you have an inadequate
1030
00:43:55,324 --> 00:43:56,908
physically romantic life with?
1031
00:43:56,909 --> 00:43:58,493
You know, sex is
a very important thing,
1032
00:43:58,494 --> 00:43:59,995
and it's something
that you can work on,
1033
00:43:59,996 --> 00:44:02,330
but if people don't like
doing what you like to do,
1034
00:44:02,331 --> 00:44:04,499
that can be a big roadblock.
1035
00:44:04,500 --> 00:44:06,084
- Great answer.
- It would make you go
1036
00:44:06,085 --> 00:44:08,253
look for it somewhere else,
which is not healthy.
1037
00:44:08,254 --> 00:44:09,671
Oh, I hate that answer.
1038
00:44:09,672 --> 00:44:11,840
That is not anything
that I would ever do.
1039
00:44:11,841 --> 00:44:13,758
I meant that as
an overall statement.
1040
00:44:13,759 --> 00:44:16,529
That's an insane thing
to throw out there, but okay.
1041
00:44:16,729 --> 00:44:19,014
Why would you be upset
with him for saying that?
1042
00:44:19,015 --> 00:44:21,099
- That attitude is piss poor.
- That was my bad.
1043
00:44:21,100 --> 00:44:22,517
But if you got it
in that area...
1044
00:44:22,518 --> 00:44:24,477
But it's not about
if you got it or not.
1045
00:44:24,478 --> 00:44:26,271
It's about that mentality,
especially when you've been,
1046
00:44:26,272 --> 00:44:27,689
like, cheated on
several times in the past.
1047
00:44:27,690 --> 00:44:29,524
If you've never been
in that situation,
1048
00:44:29,525 --> 00:44:31,985
I'm envious, but, like,
hearing that comment is nuts.
1049
00:44:31,986 --> 00:44:33,528
[Mecca] Heard you. Heard you.
1050
00:44:33,529 --> 00:44:35,488
- That's not what
I meant by that.
- No, I know.
1051
00:44:35,489 --> 00:44:37,741
I was talking about in general.
1052
00:44:37,742 --> 00:44:40,368
- I'm talking to Mecca, though.
- Oh shit.
1053
00:44:40,369 --> 00:44:42,388
[dramatic music playing]
1054
00:44:50,004 --> 00:44:52,005
[tense music]
1055
00:44:52,006 --> 00:44:53,882
I'm sorry for my comment.
1056
00:44:53,883 --> 00:44:55,467
{\an8}- Thank you.
I appreciate your apology.
- It was not saying--
1057
00:44:55,468 --> 00:44:57,010
{\an8}It's not saying
anything that I would do.
1058
00:44:57,011 --> 00:44:59,971
{\an8}But like in general,
if you look at other marriages
1059
00:44:59,972 --> 00:45:02,057
{\an8}- and other things like that...
- I think you just stop it
at sorry.
1060
00:45:02,058 --> 00:45:04,017
{\an8}I don't think
we need to justify the comment.
1061
00:45:04,018 --> 00:45:06,728
{\an8}No one wants anyone to cheat,
but he's making a fair point,
1062
00:45:06,729 --> 00:45:09,356
{\an8}and I think she's reacting
to the wrong piece of the point.
1063
00:45:09,357 --> 00:45:10,333
{\an8}She's burying the headline.
1064
00:45:10,499 --> 00:45:12,192
{\an8}He's just saying intimacy is
1065
00:45:12,193 --> 00:45:14,694
{\an8}a part of a relationship,
and if there is none,
1066
00:45:14,695 --> 00:45:17,113
{\an8}people will go
and find that void elsewhere.
1067
00:45:17,114 --> 00:45:20,551
{\an8}I think she's hearing it as
"Oh, this is a license
to cheat."
1068
00:45:20,751 --> 00:45:22,678
That's not
really what he's saying.
1069
00:45:25,039 --> 00:45:26,140
Yeah. Anybody else?
1070
00:45:26,941 --> 00:45:29,042
{\an8}- Amazing.
- So if the physical connection
1071
00:45:29,043 --> 00:45:30,961
{\an8}doesn't happen,
are you saying yes or no?
1072
00:45:30,962 --> 00:45:33,213
{\an8}Oh, okay.
1073
00:45:33,214 --> 00:45:35,882
{\an8}- I'm not forcing her
to make a decision...
- [Felipe] No one's saying--
1074
00:45:35,883 --> 00:45:38,551
{\an8}- No one's saying that.
- ...to actually
get to that point.
1075
00:45:38,552 --> 00:45:40,387
{\an8}Okay, so it still can be a yes
for you.
1076
00:45:40,388 --> 00:45:42,323
{\an8}- Yes, if we don't
have sex...
- Okay, that was my question.
1077
00:45:42,490 --> 00:45:44,224
{\an8}...in ten days,
there's other things
that we can focus on
1078
00:45:44,225 --> 00:45:46,643
{\an8}that can make me feel
more comfortable to say yes.
1079
00:45:46,644 --> 00:45:49,479
{\an8}- That was all I was asking, bro.
- Fuck you, Felipe.
1080
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:51,749
{\an8}[laughter]
1081
00:45:54,568 --> 00:45:56,236
{\an8}You recovered your fumble there.
Good job.
1082
00:45:56,237 --> 00:45:59,298
{\an8}- Like, shit.
- He's like,
"I nailed that one."
1083
00:45:59,665 --> 00:46:01,950
{\an8}All right. You guys are up.
1084
00:46:01,951 --> 00:46:04,720
{\an8}Um, cool. So...
1085
00:46:06,747 --> 00:46:11,334
{\an8}Yeah, so obviously, guys,
I got absolutely obliterated,
1086
00:46:11,335 --> 00:46:14,754
{\an8}cooked, torched, crucified
at that group session.
1087
00:46:14,755 --> 00:46:16,840
{\an8}However, we had
a therapy session
1088
00:46:16,841 --> 00:46:19,485
{\an8}with Paul, and it just clicked
in my head.
1089
00:46:19,652 --> 00:46:20,885
{\an8}It's not that
I wasn't certain about Tori.
1090
00:46:20,886 --> 00:46:22,387
{\an8}I think
Tori's fucking incredible.
1091
00:46:22,388 --> 00:46:23,763
{\an8}I was just not certain
1092
00:46:23,764 --> 00:46:26,433
{\an8}about the future
that I wanted, right?
1093
00:46:26,434 --> 00:46:29,561
{\an8}But if I just
think about my feelings,
1094
00:46:29,562 --> 00:46:34,691
{\an8}I only wanted to be with
Tori literally
since I've met her.
1095
00:46:34,692 --> 00:46:40,965
And it's been so much better
since I realized that.
1096
00:46:41,866 --> 00:46:44,051
I am committed to Tori.
1097
00:46:44,869 --> 00:46:49,015
Today. Tonight. All right.
1098
00:46:49,790 --> 00:46:51,249
Said, said.
1099
00:46:51,250 --> 00:46:52,876
[Adam] Yeah, hold up.
We got to get this straight.
1100
00:46:52,877 --> 00:46:54,711
You're suddenly saying
you went to therapy,
1101
00:46:54,712 --> 00:46:56,129
and had a realization
1102
00:46:56,130 --> 00:46:57,606
that you just want to be
with Tori every day?
1103
00:46:57,773 --> 00:46:59,382
Well, I've been
wanting to be with Tori.
1104
00:46:59,383 --> 00:47:01,610
- So you were choosing
Tori every day?
- I was.
1105
00:47:01,777 --> 00:47:03,136
Because it sounded like
you were struggling
1106
00:47:03,137 --> 00:47:05,513
between choosing Tori,
and choosing
1107
00:47:05,514 --> 00:47:07,992
God knows
how many girls you were with.
1108
00:47:09,185 --> 00:47:11,186
Yeah, I just kept thinking about
1109
00:47:11,187 --> 00:47:13,438
it not working out,
and not wanting to
1110
00:47:13,439 --> 00:47:15,315
just tell Tori
all my positive feelings
1111
00:47:15,316 --> 00:47:18,568
and then be like,
"No, I don't want to do this."
1112
00:47:18,569 --> 00:47:20,820
- No, no, no, no.
I don't-- no, no.
- No, no.
1113
00:47:20,821 --> 00:47:24,115
- I don't get that at all.
- [Adam] No, no, no, no, no.
1114
00:47:24,116 --> 00:47:26,117
Tori, you're here
for a husband, right?
1115
00:47:26,118 --> 00:47:27,869
- Yeah.
- You're absolutely beautiful.
1116
00:47:27,870 --> 00:47:29,329
You have an amazing job.
You have a lot going for you.
1117
00:47:29,330 --> 00:47:31,498
And you have
this quote-unquote "husband,"
1118
00:47:31,499 --> 00:47:33,917
this clown over here,
1119
00:47:33,918 --> 00:47:36,169
week after week,
saying he can't decide
1120
00:47:36,170 --> 00:47:38,606
- if he wants to be
single or be with you.
- Yeah. Yeah.
1121
00:47:38,773 --> 00:47:42,425
How are you still here
letting him yap like that?
1122
00:47:42,426 --> 00:47:44,427
I would be done. I'd be like...
1123
00:47:44,428 --> 00:47:46,179
There is a breaking point,
for sure, and I was getting
pretty close.
1124
00:47:46,180 --> 00:47:49,224
She was getting very close.
We were almost done.
1125
00:47:49,225 --> 00:47:51,434
I mean, I could tell
we were building distance.
1126
00:47:51,435 --> 00:47:54,145
When I was talking, I wasn't
talking like I was married.
1127
00:47:54,146 --> 00:47:57,708
I wasn't talking like
I had a wife next to me.
1128
00:47:57,842 --> 00:48:00,610
We needed Paul
for me to truly understand
1129
00:48:00,611 --> 00:48:03,571
- what I was doing and how
I was making Tori feel.
- Mmm.
1130
00:48:03,572 --> 00:48:05,240
Okay, so you go to therapy
for 30 minutes
1131
00:48:05,241 --> 00:48:07,200
and learn how to, like,
control what you say
1132
00:48:07,201 --> 00:48:09,595
and suddenly, like,
everything changes.
1133
00:48:09,762 --> 00:48:10,971
We know where your head was at.
1134
00:48:11,172 --> 00:48:12,556
The thing about sleeping around
with other women,
1135
00:48:12,723 --> 00:48:14,457
the last thing
I mentioned after being
1136
00:48:14,458 --> 00:48:16,084
pressed on it four
or five times, was the fact
1137
00:48:16,085 --> 00:48:18,336
that you can do
whatever you want, right?
1138
00:48:18,337 --> 00:48:19,921
I remember
it a little differently, but...
1139
00:48:19,922 --> 00:48:21,756
The mistake is not
saying what you said.
1140
00:48:21,757 --> 00:48:24,050
It's not telling her
in private beforehand.
1141
00:48:24,051 --> 00:48:25,760
It's displaying it
in front of everyone.
1142
00:48:25,761 --> 00:48:26,737
No, no, no, neither of these
is the important part...
1143
00:48:26,937 --> 00:48:28,388
That's what I said.
1144
00:48:28,389 --> 00:48:30,491
The important part,
do you still feel that way?
1145
00:48:30,724 --> 00:48:34,662
We're asking, like,
did your indecisiveness
about her change?
1146
00:48:34,829 --> 00:48:36,312
Right now,
I want to be with Tori.
1147
00:48:36,313 --> 00:48:37,748
I want to be
monogamous with Tori.
1148
00:48:37,948 --> 00:48:39,250
What about tomorrow?
What about in five minutes?
1149
00:48:39,383 --> 00:48:40,733
I don't know
what's going to happen a week,
1150
00:48:40,734 --> 00:48:42,878
a month, a year from now, okay?
1151
00:48:44,864 --> 00:48:48,074
[Marissa]
I would never stand for that
if I ever heard those words.
1152
00:48:48,075 --> 00:48:50,368
- Gone. Absolutely gone.
- Honestly, Tori,
1153
00:48:50,369 --> 00:48:53,430
it feels like he signed up
for dating at first sight.
1154
00:48:53,631 --> 00:48:56,916
Are you ready to be married
to someone like this?
1155
00:48:56,917 --> 00:48:58,769
It's a great question.
1156
00:49:00,671 --> 00:49:04,424
Hard no. I'm not good with it.
1157
00:49:04,425 --> 00:49:06,134
You need
to decide or not decide,
1158
00:49:06,135 --> 00:49:08,737
and wherever
that goes is fine, but, like,
1159
00:49:08,904 --> 00:49:11,514
I'm not going to be good
with wishy-washy or gray area
1160
00:49:11,515 --> 00:49:14,767
or indecisiveness or
not knowing what you want.
1161
00:49:14,768 --> 00:49:16,269
It's just not attractive.
1162
00:49:16,270 --> 00:49:19,397
There you go, Tori,
finally taking a position
1163
00:49:19,398 --> 00:49:22,734
and not just letting
Felipe call the shots.
1164
00:49:22,735 --> 00:49:24,360
Felipe, if
today were Decision Day,
1165
00:49:24,361 --> 00:49:27,322
- what would be your decision?
- My feeling's yes.
1166
00:49:27,323 --> 00:49:29,282
But could it be
something different tomorrow?
1167
00:49:29,283 --> 00:49:30,676
Next week?
1168
00:49:30,843 --> 00:49:33,119
The emotions
and feelings that you have
1169
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:37,207
towards your wife
right now are fleeting.
1170
00:49:37,208 --> 00:49:40,793
I would have liked
just maybe a little bit
more defense of me.
1171
00:49:40,794 --> 00:49:44,422
Everyone's coming at me
and I didn't hear, like,
a single time,
1172
00:49:44,423 --> 00:49:47,592
"Felipe has actually
changed a little bit."
That would have been nice.
1173
00:49:47,593 --> 00:49:50,970
And being partnered is defending
your partner a little bit,
1174
00:49:50,971 --> 00:49:55,034
especially when you see that
what they're saying is not true.
1175
00:50:00,648 --> 00:50:02,333
I just believe...
1176
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:07,237
honestly, this side of the table
should not be married.
1177
00:50:07,238 --> 00:50:08,756
- [Shawn] The whole side?
- [Cameron] Yep.
1178
00:50:08,923 --> 00:50:13,743
I don't think they... them...
and them.
1179
00:50:13,744 --> 00:50:14,803
That's what I would say.
1180
00:50:14,970 --> 00:50:17,598
[dramatic music]
1181
00:50:20,709 --> 00:50:23,127
{\an8}- [Adam] Road trip.
- [Marissa] Yay!
1182
00:50:23,128 --> 00:50:25,380
I'm so excited about
the couples retreat
1183
00:50:25,381 --> 00:50:30,218
because nothing bonds you
like all being in a house
together for a couple days.
1184
00:50:30,219 --> 00:50:32,738
Do you think we'll all be, like,
buddies at the couples retreat?
1185
00:50:32,905 --> 00:50:34,681
I'm ready to
throw the fuck down.
1186
00:50:34,682 --> 00:50:35,866
[woman screams]
1187
00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:37,600
[Caitlin] I'm so excited.
1188
00:50:37,601 --> 00:50:39,227
[Michelle] This is so nice.
1189
00:50:39,228 --> 00:50:41,271
Now we're gonna really see
what these couples are like.
1190
00:50:41,272 --> 00:50:43,690
- Is Belle your dream girl?
- No.
1191
00:50:43,691 --> 00:50:45,024
So what are you
doing here, then?
1192
00:50:45,025 --> 00:50:46,734
He was just like,
"You're pretty,
1193
00:50:46,735 --> 00:50:50,280
- but are you
pretty enough for me? No."
- Hey, wait--
1194
00:50:50,281 --> 00:50:52,323
- [Michelle] What?
- You just get fake boobs.
1195
00:50:52,324 --> 00:50:53,866
- You're not into that?
- She might be
against that, though.
1196
00:50:53,867 --> 00:50:56,452
Are you fucking kidding us?
1197
00:50:56,453 --> 00:50:58,538
[BelléJolie]
I'm gonna be honest,
this man is on thin ice.
1198
00:50:58,539 --> 00:51:02,709
I'm thinking about how Belle is
outside of this process.
1199
00:51:02,710 --> 00:51:06,421
And Belle wouldn't put up
with half of the stuff
she's putting up with now.
1200
00:51:06,422 --> 00:51:08,899
[tearfully]
I don't know what he's doing.
1201
00:51:11,969 --> 00:51:14,387
[Devin] Most likely to opt
for a swap if you could.
1202
00:51:14,388 --> 00:51:16,472
Caitlin!
1203
00:51:16,473 --> 00:51:19,058
I don't like games
that are meant to stir the pot.
1204
00:51:19,059 --> 00:51:23,896
Most likely
to never be ready for marriage.
1205
00:51:23,897 --> 00:51:28,568
[all] Felipe!
1206
00:51:28,569 --> 00:51:32,030
He's almost enjoying
being deemed a womanizer.
1207
00:51:32,031 --> 00:51:34,407
Everyone else's
perception of you--
1208
00:51:34,408 --> 00:51:36,951
But who gives a shit about
everyone else's perception?
1209
00:51:36,952 --> 00:51:38,328
That's what I'm trying to say.
1210
00:51:38,329 --> 00:51:40,931
What matters
to me is your perception.
1211
00:51:44,752 --> 00:51:45,918
{\an8}["Treat Me Right"
by LANI playing]
1212
00:51:45,919 --> 00:51:47,754
{\an8}♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
1213
00:51:47,755 --> 00:51:50,131
{\an8}♪ Keep it under cover ♪
1214
00:51:50,132 --> 00:51:51,966
{\an8}♪ Now, you got a soft side ♪
1215
00:51:51,967 --> 00:51:53,968
{\an8}♪ I'm gonna take a bite ♪
1216
00:51:53,969 --> 00:51:56,596
{\an8}♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
1217
00:51:56,597 --> 00:51:58,389
{\an8}♪ Lost in each other ♪
1218
00:51:58,390 --> 00:52:00,725
{\an8}♪ Bring it to the light side ♪
1219
00:52:00,726 --> 00:52:02,411
{\an8}♪ You can treat me right ♪