You two have agreed that you'd like to end your marriage tonight.
Someone's got to rip off the band-aid.
[Shawn] Proud of you for the courage to do this, man.
[Dr. Lisa Paz] Okay.
[Courteney] I deserve more.
- [Felipe] I want you. - [Tori] You say you're into me,
but I don't feel that, like, really at all.
You are unsure if you want to give up
having sex with lots of women.
It is, like, emotional manipulation and selfishness.
[Nikki] In a marriage, our shared account is there
to finance our lifestyle.
- Our lifestyle. Gotcha. - Our.
- To me, it feels like a joint venture. - Yeah.
[Brunson] Board meetings, we have the business plan.
This sounds like sexy talk right now.
[laughter]
[Adam]
Come on. Do one with me. Let's go. Lock in.
- You got to come like down. - [Marissa] My God.
I've always been all in or all out.
Does your partner need to rise to that level of intensity?
He had a girlfriend who was able to keep up with him.
You know, I'm now the one who can't keep up.
I'm having a lot of anxiety.
[dramatic music playing]
["Soular Energy" by Pink Shark Music playing]
♪ I'm looking good tonight ♪
[both] Five, six, cha-cha, slide.
[vocalizing] Three and four.
[Shawn squeals]
- Drop! - [Nikki shrieks]
Well done.
♪ Soular energy ♪
[BelléJolie] I wanted to bring some board games.
- [Mecca] We haven't touched that since you-- - We haven't touched that.
Because you've been too busy trying to touch something else.
[BelléJolie chuckles]
[Mecca] Some decisions were made last night.
Some decisions were made.
We're saying yes.
- Cheers. - Cheers.
♪ I wanna get close Phantom love go ghost, yeah ♪
- [computer ringing] - [Devin] Hey, Grandma.
- [Caitlin] Hi. - [Kim] Hey, buddy, what you doing?
I'm here with my wife.
Hi, Caitlin. Very nice to meet you.
So nice. I've heard so much about you.
All positive things.
So what was Devin like when he was younger?
He was involved in the marching band.
- [Caitlin] Aw. - [Kim] Yeah.
[Caitlin] [inaudible] Oh, yeah, that's the life of a showgirl right there.
♪ Can you feel it, oh ♪
♪ Can you feel it ♪
♪ Yeah ♪
[Cameron] Okay, any final tips on meeting your aunts?
- Should I say... - [Michelle] Just be your funny self.
- ...pickleball, teaching. - School.
[Michelle] I'm taking Cam to my aunt and uncle's house.
I love my aunt.
She helped raise me every summer.
When my mom was working, she would take care of me.
- [Rick] Hello. - Hello.
- Cameron. Nice to meet you. - Rick.
- Come on in. - Good to see you.
- [Linhco] Nice to meet you, Cameron. - How are you?
She was one of my biggest cheerleaders
when it came to getting married at first sight,
and I just really want to show her that it's working out.
[Cameron] It smells so good.
Oh, my gosh. You know how to host.
[Michelle] I was going to tell him on the way here,
but then decided that you could tell him
about how she ran away from home.
- [Michelle laughs] - Oh, yeah.
We were high school sweethearts.
I'm a product of the Vietnam War,
so my parents really wanted me to marry a Vietnamese.
I actually didn't go to the prom with him.
My mom set me up with a 24-year-old Vietnamese
- that was-- He was an engineer. - Oh, my gosh.
- [Michelle] 24? - [Cameron] The prom?
- [Michelle] He went to prom? - Yeah.
There was definitely some tough times in our early relationship,
and there was a point at home where things just boiled over,
- and so she just left. - Wow.
So for six months, she didn't see her parents.
At 18.
Linhco and I were talking about this, how much time we had
to sort of build the relationship bank
- and all these experiences. - [Linhco] Yeah.
So I'm curious, putting you on the spot, what's Michelle's superpower?
What do you respect, admire about her that you don't have?
That, like, you know, "Michelle, you complete me."
[Cameron] It's like her eternal optimism.
Like, I tend to kind of, like, look at, like, "Oh, what could be better?
- Like, oh, this isn't perfect." - She is always happy.
- But, yeah, she's always happy. - Always happy.
She's got the laugh. She's got the smile.
Yes. Yes, for sure.
[Michelle] We feel really good about each other,
and we've been talking about how to make this work
even beyond Decision Day.
You know, it just feels really good.
How do you keep it fun after so many years?
- Oh, my God, we love each other more, I think... - I chase her around.
Oh, he does chase me around.
Sometimes I'm like, "Okay, too much."
And he's like, "No, not enough."
- [laughter] - [Cameron] That's hilarious.
- [Rick] You have to recognize that it's work. - [Cameron] Yeah.
And the more you commit yourself,
the more you're invested in the relationship, the be--
You know, it's like when you're giving,
- then it comes back to you. - [Cameron] Yeah.
They have an amazing life,
and maybe part of me is scared,
you know, commitment and everything.
But when I see what they have, that is what I want.
- Did you tip your matchmaker? - We need to give them a gift or something, you know.
- I know. - Name your first child after them.
But we got a couple people we got to name our kids after.
We got a lot of debt to pay.
["Sunrise" by Charles Drew playing]
♪ I would climb up every Mountain just for you ♪
♪ It's the first time ♪
- [Tori] Hi. - How's everything?
- How are you? - Good to see you.
[Tori] You too.
In the group session,
Felipe's saying that he is indecisive
on if he wants to be in a marriage.
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt in this,
but what the fuck is going on?
I do not have time for these little boy games.
I went into this to marry a man who knows what he wants.
- This is the first session that we've had. - Yeah.
- I know. - [Brunson] Which is wild.
I'd love for us to unpack the group coaching session.
Things got heated.
Also, there was a term that was used, emotional manipulation.
It's a very strong term,
so I want to investigate your perception of that.
Yeah, he's saying he really wants single life,
and he really wants, you know, to be with other people.
And then saying also,
"Oh, but I really, really like you,
and I could see forever with you."
I felt like by saying he really liked me,
I would still be hanging on.
That just seems to me emotionally manipulative.
Do you believe he is saying that with the intent
of trying to control your emotion?
I think I feel emotionally manipulated by it.
I don't know if he's necessarily intending that.
Okay, so, Felipe, do you intend
to control Tori's emotion?
- [Felipe] No. - That's what I suspect as well.
From my standpoint,
I don't feel as if Felipe is emotionally controlling you.
He's speaking his truth,
and it's causing confusion, right?
- Can you see that? - Yep.
And the reason why I wanted to do this at the top
is because if we had discerned
that it was true emotional manipulation,
like, you would be excused from the project,
that's how serious emotional manipulation is.
I do recognize the weight
and the consequences of what I'm doing.
The consequence being I could lose Tori.
I'm afraid of that.
Tori's obviously way more indecisive about this
because of my indecisiveness, right?
Like, she's going the other way.
- Can we talk about that? - [Tori] Yeah.
I think given the past two weeks,
I've just started to not really consciously,
- but withdraw, I think, emotionally. - Yes. Yes.
And Felipe, what you're trying to do
is you're trying to close the distance.
- Yes. - [Tori] And I want to be fair,
and I want to give the opportunity for Felipe
to show up and show what he's actually feeling,
because I think sometimes what I hear is,
"I want to," and it's not really "I will."
Okay. My interpretation.
- [Felipe] Yeah. - You are definitively trying.
But not definitively in.
- Okay. - What percentage of marriages
go till death do us part?
- 50%. - Right.
In any marriage, does any partner know that definitively?
That's a really good point. No.
They don't. What do they know, though?
- Is how they're feeling in the moment. - Exactly.
- They know exactly how they feel in this moment. - Yeah.
So in this moment, how do you feel?
In this moment, I want to be with Tori.
That's-- In this moment, I want to be with Tori.
Yesterday, I want to be with Tori.
For the past, ever since I met Tori,
- I wanted to be with Tori. - [Brunson] Right.
So that reframe
can help you dramatically, right?
Because all you have is today,
and if you're blessed to get tomorrow,
and then you're so blessed to get the next day,
you will then have three days of what?
- Of all in. - Of all in.
Yeah. No, that was huge for me.
Show her in that moment,
because that's all you get.
In this moment, I'm all in.
This moment, I want to be married to you.
Only you, and that's it.
I will say, the first dinner party,
you two looked to be in a place of bliss,
and that's where I'd love to see you get back to,
and I believe you two can get back to that place.
- I think we can. - Yes. Yes.
["We're All Alright" by Nine One One]
♪ We took our time ♪
♪ Dancing through the weekend Under the lights ♪
♪ Made of our favorite colors ♪
♪ Sleepin' in the night ♪
♪ This almost got away ♪
♪ I'm sure, at times ♪
♪ If it were all right ♪
- Oh, my God. - Yeah, baby.
- Oh, my God. Yes. - Cheers, you guys. Enjoy.
- Thank you so much. - Thank you.
It's, like, surreal to know we have Decision Day coming up.
I just remember when you, like, walked down the aisle.
♪ We're all right ♪
I was like, "Damn, she's kind of bad.
- Low-key." [laughs] - I liked that you kissed me at the altar.
Like, I immediately, like, felt comfortable, and, like, thought we were in this.
Like we're full-sending it, because I was like, "This... just crazy."
[Adam] I knew that I had a crush on you in Cancun.
When we were getting the massages down on the beach,
just, like, yapping, and I was like, "Wow, she's so cool.
- I like being around her." - We were so happy back then.
- What happened? What changed? - I don't know.
We for sure were in, like, the honeymoon phase back then.
[Adam] You think we're out of the honeymoon phase?
I mean, getting called out in therapy
like, really does, like, shock your system,
so I feel like I'm maybe a little, like, stronger, like, tougher.
More resilient, if you will.
Yeah, like, how can it not be?
Like, we're getting, like, cooked in therapy.
Mm. I think so.
[whimsical music playing]
Has there been anything I've done that's been, like, an ick?
Eating, like, food with your hands.
I haven't done too much of that, right?
- [Marissa chuckles] - Anything else besides, like, food?
I think what, like, gives me the ick is, like, your intensity for things.
Today, it's pickleball. Tomorrow, it's jet skiing.
The next day, it's something else.
For longevity in relationships,
it's like a little bit of a turn-off.
Really? It turns you off?
Yeah, it takes the wind out from my sails.
- Really? - Yeah.
- What's yours? - I feel like I don't really have any real reservations.
It's just like that I feel like slight mismatch
in, like, activity level, I guess.
Like, I think you're athletic,
but, like, not using your athletic ability
or, like, testing yourself athletically.
- Yeah. Yeah. - You know?
Like sports.
Sports is a crazy word to even say.
- Like, activities, like-- - Yeah.
Adult women don't play sports.
When we went jet skiing and pickleballing
and you looked like you wanted to jump off
any nearby elevated surface, then I kind of knew.
- I was like, "Wait." - Yeah.
Well, you're kind of hard to play with on a team.
- For me. - Really?
Do you think we had good teamwork
at our pickleball date?
I think the stakes were high and there was a lot of pressure.
[Marissa laughs] Okay.
I just feel like it was clear to me
that we had differences in, like...
our, like, expectations
for like, our daily activities in life, you know?
Yeah, I could feel your frustration after that.
That's kind of a bummer, you know, to each their own.
But for me personally, I was just like,
"That's sad."
[somber music playing]
- Yeah. - Yeah.
I wouldn't say, like, I like you less because of it.
I definitely want it to work out with Marissa to be my, like, forever person.
I've been looking for my wife since I was 18,
and I'm 110% still all in on this process.
But at the same time, I'm a little worried.
We clearly have a lot of work and a lot more to figure out about each other,
in the last couple weeks here before we make our big decision.
What do you feel you would need
to say yes on Decision Day?
I need to see that you could meet me in the middle
with some of this intensity,
because it gives me pause.
♪ They feel it now, they feel it now ♪
♪ The change is coming ♪
♪ Oh, yeah, it's a beautiful day in the neighborhood ♪
- All right. - I didn't know this place existed.
Yeah. I'm surprised I was able to find something new.
Wow, this is really cute.
[Nikki] I'm really impressed and pleased
by the fact that you found two of my favorite things.
[Nikki] Wine and chocolate.
- Oh, they're so lovely. - [server] Right? So beautiful.
[Shawn] Amazing.
- Love it. - How 'bout that?
- Salud. - Salud.
- Did you just gargle? - I learned it at my little winery.
- Oh, cool. - They taught me how to taste wine.
- I love it. - I got some skills.
Let's have some fun with this, right?
Let's, like, instead of just describing the wines
and what they taste like,
why don't you take something from the description
and then relate it to something in your life,
in the journey, or in the world.
Let me take a sip first.
This is like a Peppermint Patty,
which was my favorite candy growing up.
You liked Peppermint Patties?
Yeah, I love Peppermint Patties. They're so good.
I lived on a block where we had a candy store on the corner.
It was like penny candy.
- Oh, yes, penny candies. Yes. - I'm dating myself.
So I remember one time I wanted so much candy,
and this is the only time in my life I did this.
I decided to steal candy.
[Nikki gasps] You stole it.
And my mom was like, "Where'd you get this candy?"
And I was like, "Well, I took it."
My mom was like, "No, we're not doing that."
She goes, "You have to go down to the store right now,
apologize, pay for it, give the candy back,
and tell Mr. Whatever His Name Is you will never do this again."
My mom didn't play those games.
She does not play those games, so.
Talk about complexity.
This is so nice.
What does so nice remind you of?
- Girl Scout Cookies. - Ooh, okay.
What is your favorite Girl Scout Cookie?
The shortbread cookies. Those are the only ones I eat.
- 1,000%. - All the other ones are trash.
[Shawn laughs]
[Nikki] This is such a great date.
It literally combines two of my favorite things,
which means he's been listening.
A little Lady and The Tramp?
- [both laughing] - Here.
All right.
Mm. Wow, that's so good.
I'm definitely looking forward to more nights like this with Shawn.
It feels intimate.
I do feel like our connection has deepened.
Like, trading stories with one another.
And I feel like that's a space we need to play in more
without, like, the heavy stuff,
to just experience this part of ourselves.
It's like chef's kiss in terms of dates we've had so far.
- All right, let's move. Let's go. - Let's go.
♪ I don't know ♪
♪ If you know how far I'd go ♪
♪ I picture us finding out ♪
♪ What feelings are all about ♪
[door shuts closed]
[kissing sounds]
♪ Anything can happen ♪
♪ Oh, we are one ♪
♪ With you ♪
[Nikki] I'm not going to go into specifics,
but we did take a step to explore more sexual intimacy.
Not actual sex,
but we did have a physical encounter
that was more of a sexual flavor.
Yes, we did. [laughs]
♪ Anything can happen ♪
We went way beyond what we planned on doing,
and lasted for way longer than I thought.
So it was a good advancement in the right direction.
♪ Anything can happen ♪
♪ Oh-oh ♪
♪ Anything can happen ♪
♪ With you ♪
[both chuckling]
♪ With you ♪
We are sexually compatible.
Now it's really about figuring out
if we can build the type of emotional connection
that can grow into-- that can grow into romantic love.
That can grow into the love that a marriage would require.
[both laughing]
[upbeat music playing]
♪ It's a five tackle, It's a big mode ♪
Are you excited? This is, like, my dad's favorite restaurant.
I know, first time seeing him since the wedding.
Ooh!
- Hey. - Hi. Are you just--
- Loving this, I bet. - This is so good.
How's it going? - Hello.
I'm good, how are you doing?
- Good to see you, bro. - You too.
What are you drinking? Thank you.
- Oh, it's just apple juice. - Shut up.
- Hi! - [Caitlin] Hi!
- Can I get you two anything to drink started? - You bet. Yes.
♪ Little bit of this ♪
- There you go. - Perfect. Thank you.
- You're welcome. - Cheers, cheers, cheers.
♪ Put it in the mix ♪
There's that salad for you.
♪ G-I-M-M-E, gimme ♪
♪ Gimme, gimme, gimme Gimme that ♪
I just like, when I snuck that tater tot, I was thinking to myself,
I was going to be like, "Oh, he didn't yell at me for taking that tater tot."
No, that's why I don't share, because you don't share.
- Yeah, I don't share. - He is like a garbage disposal.
He eats everything. So it's like I have to guard my food.
It's like, "No, you can't have some of this. Like, I got to eat it."
- You got a lot of calories you got to put in there. - [Caitlin] I know, I know.
[Devin] What would you say is one of the biggest things
that I would need to know about Caitlin?
To like, really, like, make this work.
You got to be chill, mentally in tune with her,
but you also got to know when you need to let her kind of be Caitlin.
You know, 'cause when she's in a good mood, it's always fun, right?
But when she's in a bad mood, or she's grumpy or pouty,
say, "Hey, let's go.
Let's go get a coffee. Let's go for a walk."
You know, don't let her stay in that spot, you know?
I don't want to quiet her voice. Never.
I would never do that, because I know she wouldn't let me.
- Yeah. - [laughs] You know what I mean?
But like, it's like, how do I navigate it
to make sure that I can show up the best way as well?
He's almost so self-aware it's painful, because, like, I love--
- She loves the debate. - [Caitlin] I love the debate.
I love to get the point across,
and oftentimes he'll take my point from me, because I'm like--
[Devin] It's like, "I already see what you're-- I already see it."
And then he'll be like, "I am doing this."
And I'm like, "First off, like, good job for admitting that.
But second off, well, there goes my point.
Like, [muted] how do I respond to this?"
Like, I'm like, "That's so annoying."
But we're working on--
I know I'm going to say this, and you're going to be like,
"Oh, my God. No. You? Never."
But, like, I just, like, don't need a lot from a partner
in terms of like the day-to-day, like, tedious stuff.
Like, just leave me alone and I can handle everything.
That's how I like it.
And he, you know, wants me to, like, do, like the things
that normal people should do, but, like, maybe I just don't even think of.
So we're working on me, like,
telling him I'm leaving the house.
That's good. That's good.
Or letting me know, like, what's going on.
And so I brought him a coffee the other morning.
- I'm, like, trying to be more mindful. - That's good. That's good.
- It's making me feel like you see me. - [Jeff] Right.
You know, you've kind of been on your own for a while.
So-- and that's good. You need to work on that.
I will not argue that at all.
And that's something that I need to work on is being more independent,
and not needing her to be there for all the shit.
Yeah. Successful marriage is all about sacrifice.
- 100%. - You're going to go do things you don't want to go do
because she wants to go do it, but you're going to go do it
and you'll enjoy it because it makes her happy.
And the same way with you, right?
You know, like, there's a lot of stuff, mom,
we'll be going for a weekend somewhere and we're in town.
I know that she's going to want to go through
- a bunch of little... - Shops.
...boutiques and trinket stores and everything.
And I would literally rather shoot myself in the head.
But I go in there because she loves doing it, right?
And I get joy out of that. You know? So--
He did go to the Taylor Swift movie with me last night.
- Thanks, son. - We're already doing it, dawg. [laughs]
- He liked it. - [Jeff] That's good. That's good.
- That's totally good. - He liked it.
I'm glad you did. I'm glad you did.
- Yeah, I liked it, I promise. - [Jeff] Yeah, yeah.
I think Devin's strength is his ability to slip into any situation
and just like, he is just so good with people.
So watching him get along with my dad is definitely a huge plus.
It's, like, fun to watch.
You're going into this,
you're bringing two personalities,
two lives into an agreement,
and you have got to work together.
When my dad speaks like he is,
speaking with experience, with wisdom.
He really is an incredible partner, an incredible father.
You're going to have disagreements all the time,
but know that you're not going to let anything tear you guys apart.
And so he's just affirming everything I already thought,
which is that Devin's stepping into that role and being an incredible partner.
Yeah, it's good to see.
♪ You got the kind of love That couldn't save me ♪
[gentle music playing]
- Hi. - It's date night. A special date.
She doesn't know what it is.
She needs to wear a bikini, but also winter wear.
With heels? And winter wear.
- With heels. - What?
Can you guys guess what that is?
♪ Standing on fear ♪
♪ Come a little close tonight ♪
♪ Talk dirty to me ♪
♪ Honey, your looks will tease ♪
♪ Come part the seas ♪
- Oh, my goodness. - [groans] Oh, fuck yeah.
[Tori] In our conversation with Paul,
it was really nice to hear Felipe saying he's all in.
I would love to see that and feel that,
and get back to where that's strong again.
I want nothing more than that. So I'm really hopeful.
♪ I see, I see, I see ♪
♪ Maybe attraction ♪
♪ Let's meet in passion ♪
♪ Yeah, yeah ♪
Oh, my gosh. Baby.
- Right? - Thank you, baby.
[Felipe] This is awesome.
♪ Baby don't fear ♪
♪ Hips to your waist, uh-huh ♪
♪ I just wanna taste, uh-huh ♪
♪ Push it on me ♪
♪ Don't need my fantasy ♪
Oh, my God.
Baby.
Oh, my gosh.
- [Felipe] To us. - Thank you.
We're doing better, and continuing to do so.
- Cheers. - Cheers.
Paul's chat,
I feel like there was a point
where you, like, exhaled almost.
I was feeling all in in the moment,
but I just kept thinking...
we'll just live in the fucking moment.
And in the moment, I'm choosing you, babe.
You said you don't want to overwhelm me.
I think with emotion?
I was thinking complete opposite.
I think for me to feel, like, safe,
for me to hear it, how you feel.
I see.
Yeah. It's very easy for me to do. I don't know.
I still have that same spark, you know,
that I had since the first moment I saw you.
Mm...
I mean, that was-- I'll never forget that moment.
- Oh. - You looked stunning.
Thank you.
We both were attracted to each other.
Yeah. Well, obviously that helped, but...
- That did help. - [both laughing]
But then also in talking and stuff, there was, like--
There was a comfort level there. Like, that was instant.
Yeah.
So, I want us to kind of just look
at kind of how it started a little bit.
Look at this.
[gasps] Oh, my God. [laughs]
["Gold" by Black Match playing]
- Oh, my God, baby. - Isn't that awesome?
Oh, my God.
♪ Come here ♪
Oh.
♪ Ride along And we'll see where we ♪
Wow.
♪ Used to go ♪
This is so cute.
[Felipe] It's super cute. I mean, look at us.
It's so cute.
- Yeah. - Gonna put it right here.
- Baby. - Right?
How cute is that?
I love it.
♪ Remember the heartache... ♪
- Thank you. - You're welcome.
Not the best time for me to put prosciutto in my mouth,
because I wanted to kiss you.
♪ Underneath all the pain and hurt ♪
I didn't think it through.
♪ It's gone ♪
[upbeat music playing]
♪ Never, never, never stop ♪
♪ Me and you, we got a lot ♪
♪ Gold jewels, just so raw ♪
♪ Touch my body, Make it hot, start ♪
Shawn is running late at work for tonight's couple's dinner.
But he should be here very soon.
I hope he likes my dress choice. What do you think?
♪ Poppin' bottles like the 4th of July ♪
♪ Blast off like fireworks, flying back to my place ♪
It's dinner time. Group dinner.
These are the fits.
He has a splash of red, which I love that he did that.
And then I'm also his splash of red as well.
Preppy boy meets Moana.
- Island gal. - Island gyal.
- [imitating accent] Bad thing. - Okay, don't start.
You dun know, eh?
Dutty wine 'pon de cocky.
Yeah?
♪ Let it let it let it drop ♪
♪ I'm in need of What you got ♪
♪ Take my picture Last a while ♪
♪ Catch me in my draw ♪
- Is this the last group dinner? - Yeah.
I don't see it with a lot of these couples.
If you just want to, like, bullshit us, spare us.
That's basically what I'm going to say.
I'm going to be like, "If you don't want to speak
your truth, that's up to you, but you're going to look back
and regret that you didn't speak your full, honest truth.
Yeah.
[upbeat music playing]
♪ I, I can't lie ♪
♪ I love the way I look ♪
♪ Yeah, I love the way ♪
You think we're the first ones in?
- I think so. - Dang. That's pretty crazy.
♪ I can't lie ♪
- Thank you. - Absolutely.
- It's our final dinner party. - [Brunson] I cannot wait.
I have high hopes to see what comes out tonight.
My gut is telling me there's
going to be some drama with everyone.
To a better group dinner than the last one.
- I think we'll be good. - I think so, too.
♪ Gonna fight the wild days In a different lane ♪
♪ Now I'm focused on the things I need to be a better one ♪
- Hey, yo. - Hi!
- My favorite. - What's up, dude?
- How's everything? - We're matching.
I'm excited to see all the other couples.
I know, I can't wait.
- [Adam] Yo. - Hi!
[Devin] The vibes themselves are here. What up?
You guys look so good.
- Yellow is your color, my girl. - You look beautiful. Thank you.
Oh, my God.
Adam definitely wants to make a statement.
I agree.
You guys excited for the Couples Retreat
- this weekend? - Mm-hmm.
I think it's going to be a big sleepover. It's gonna be lit.
- Yo. - Hello! Hello!
[Caitlin] Oh, the shoes match the dress. I love it.
[Marissa] Look at you guys. Hi!
[Dr. Paz] Would you look at these two?
For me, they look connected
and like they are growing together
more and more each day.
What's the vibes for the group dinner?
Are we pumped? Are we excited?
[Marissa] It's going to be weird not having
Nick and Courteney with us at dinner.
- I know. - [Marissa] I'm sad.
We're down to six couples.
- I know. - It was really shocking.
For sure.
I've never watched someone break up before.
- Yeah. - IRL.
Did you guys hear about Felipe and Tori?
- No. - [Adam] Really?
- [BelléJolie] No, you stop it. - You're joking.
[Marissa] Oh, my goodness!
- [Adam] Heyo! - Hello, my people!
Tori has been taken on a ride these past couple of weeks.
I think Felipe wants to be ready.
If he could push a button that said,
"You can wholly feel ready," I think he wants to want it.
But you know what? I have hope.
How are you guys feeling?
Felipe and I are doing a lot better.
- Okay. - Last time, when we got home that night...
And I was like--
Oh, my God. He better be begging.
[Tori] I was like, "I don't know what to do with this."
Felipe, did you make up with Paul?
- Oh, we made up. - You made up? Okay, good, good.
He was actually very helpful. He said that I was being disrespectful to him.
- Was I being disrespectful? - Well, I mean, you said...
You were just cooked, bro, to be honest.
- Thank you. - Yeah.
Going into the group dinner tonight,
oh, man, I feel like we are actually
in the best place we've been in this entire experience.
What up, what up, what up, what up?
- Hello! - Wow!
- Hey! - Wow!
[overlapping speaking]
- There she is! - Oh, my God, Nikki!
Nothing like the saga of Nikki and Shawn.
[Brunson] They look like they like each other.
They're kind of working. This is good.
[Dr. Paz] Yeah, I'm not mad at that tonight.
Wait, who's in the hot seat tonight? I'm done.
If you guys come at me, I'm going to fight all of you guys at the table.
I mean, it might be you guys.
Yeah, maybe Felipe.
He feels like he got cooked last night,
so he's like, "Not us, we got cooked."
I'm sorry, Tori, if he talks one more time about wanting to
sleep with a million women, I'm going to tell him
to shut the fuck up.
[Marissa] Oh, here she goes.
Let's go, baby.
Woo!
- All right, yeah! - [Mecca] Game time!
There you go.
Okay, guys, it's officially dinner time,
which means it's time to gossip.
- Oh, yes! Let's go. - Let's go.
I think because Michelle doesn't have any drama
in her relationship, she needs the group to bring her drama.
And not only that, isn't it easy
to be the initiator of the drama and the gossip
when you're standing on solid ground?
- Yes. - Oh, Lord.
I don't know if I'm ready for this.
Oh, Lord. Why are you not ready?
[Devin] I don't know if I'm ready for this.
[Caitlin] What are you going to do?
- Oh, same side as last time. - Over there?
- [Mecca] That's you, that's me. - [BelléJolie] Okay.
[Felipe] Hello, Nikki.
- Hello, Felipe. - [Felipe] Oh.
- Are you ready, kids? - How's everybody doing?
- [Nikki] Good! Great! - We had a really good week,
and we had a lot of conversations
about what it would take to get to a, "Hell yes."
It's just such a short amount of time to know
if compromise is going to work.
Yeah. I was working on being less intense
and focusing on doing what she really likes,
which is relaxing and doing quality time.
So realistically, what would it take
both of you guys to get to a, "Hell yes?"
I think for her, I would need to be, like
more down to be a little less intense,
not playing pickleball four or five hours a day,
not pushing myself at a crazy extreme level all the time.
And then for me, it would be her kind of meeting
me in the middle, maybe working out with me a couple days a week.
So yeah, just compromise on both ends.
Would you be happy with her like that?
I feel like it's tough to tell in just like a week,
but yeah, we're going to give it our best shot and try and see.
The intensity level is definitely hard
on my anxiety and way of living,
and it's something that I'm happy for him
to continue on being so intense.
But when you're married to someone and you constantly
have to be pushing yourself to the next level every single day,
I'm like, "Okay, can we have like, a little break?"
So I like to have balance, and I think that's something
I would like to see more from him.
- This is good. - [Dr. Paz] Yeah, it is good.
She's opening up, and she's owning her truth.
Yeah, that's what we've asked of her.
- I have a question I'm curious about. - Please.
Why is it so important to you that you share hobbies?
I've had a relationship where like, I went to
the gym every day with my girlfriend,
and we played a bunch of sports together
and stuff, and that's just honestly where
I'm having the most fun and just vibing to the max,
and getting to do that with my person
is just ideal for me, it's optimal.
The successful relationships that I've witnessed in my life,
some of them have similar hobbies,
but I can't think of a single one
where they're super aligned on everything.
Should have met my ex-girlfriend, I guess.
Well, that's a crazy comment. [chuckles nervously]
I have a problem when we compare to exes,
because they're your ex for a reason.
She's more ready.
He's still wanting to play his games,
and it's going to make her feel less than.
Question. Do your parents talk like you do?
Oh, wow.
- [Adam] Not at all, no. - Not at all?
So I'm curious, and I don't think
there's anything wrong with you, to start with that.
- That's crazy. - [Mecca] Yes, he does.
I'm so proud of you.
- That's crazy. - I think you are
who you created yourself to be,
but a lot of times when people use words
like vibes, like ripping it,
cooked, they're simplifying it into one word,
because they don't have the vocabulary or emotional intelligence
to describe what they're actually feeling.
Really? So you're calling me low IQ?
No, no, no. I'm not calling you that.
I'm just saying this is my experience with people.
- I would love to do an IQ test. Honestly. - [Shawn] No, no, no.
Not IQ. EQ.
- It's different. - You said IQ.
I said low emotional intelligence. That's what I said.
You said vocabulary, though, that's a little bit...
[Shawn] Okay. So. So, the question is...
- Taking it to him. - [Brunson exhaling]
If I have friends who are using words
to shortcut their actual emotions,
I would make them say, tell me what you're really feeling.
Vibes can't be describing of everything.
I'm sure you're a genius academically.
The question is, did you create a character
around something that you're protecting yourself from
that keeps you from just being able
to articulate your emotions accurately
and to really go into being the real person?
Because I don't think in 20 years, if you become like your parents are,
you're going to be talking like this.
I felt like I was listening to my father talk to me right there.
Right.
I feel like I do have a robust vocab.
I just prefer to use these words.
Like I feel like they're the optimal way,
in a lot of instances, to describe how
I'm feeling or, like, what I'm doing.
And it's like, how I communicate with all my friends.
I would never speak to anyone else
like this unless they had said something to me,
and I've only been incredibly nice to him this whole time.
So I'm shocked. To call out
my emotional intelligence, when his relationship
is in absolute shambles, is ridiculous.
They were fighting over such like, basic shit
for their age, is absolutely fucking childish,
and even embarrassing to be like, acquainted with them.
♪ I didn't, I didn't come here ♪
♪ To make friends ♪
[tense music playing]
Marissa, do you feel like you can tell what
Adam is feeling most of the time?
Over this experience, I've understood a lot more
about, like, what he means, what he says and he can,
like, articulate himself very well.
- I don't think that even needs to be said. - Thank you.
Okay. Cool.
- Shawn meant well in this. - I agree.
But what he did, unfortunately, is he shamed Adam.
What he's trying to say is, "Hey, Adam, we want to learn
the next layer of you. Can you lay off vibes?"
Say that.
All right, let's move on.
So I was having like a really shitty day
the other day, just overwhelmed,
felt awful, and I felt guilty for feeling bad.
You know, because I'm like, "Oh, I should be
happy all the time because I'm with Michelle."
But in the spirit of honesty, I was honest with her,
and she not only took care of me by like literally taking stuff off my plate that day,
but she didn't judge me and she just got my back.
- So cute. - I think you two are like... [smooches]
Creme de la creme. Amazing.
- Killed it. - Hell yeah.
Yeah, good job, Matchmakers.
- [Michelle laughing] - This is beautiful.
I mean, Cameron is just representing love.
- Yes. - He doesn't want to say it, but he's saying it.
- He's saying it. - Yes.
- You guys are up. - Nice, nice, nice.
I'm tired of him. I'm just kidding.
- I'm kidding. - She's not tired of me.
She can't get enough of me is what it is.
Oh, please. Whatever.
But the connection and the bond is like, forever
getting deeper and deeper and stronger,
which is honestly surprising to me.
I didn't see it coming.
- I don't know how you feel, Belle, but... - Me either.
I think things are very comfortable right now. In a good way. In a good way.
Have you said the L word to each other?
- [both] No. - We have love for each other.
- We know that that is there. - But we are not in love.
How long do you think you would need to be married
to know whether you love someone?
It's hard for me to put a time
on things like that, honestly,
because I feel like it's just when I feel it, I feel it.
You know, it could be tomorrow. I don't know.
There's a lot of pressure around the saying it part,
but when you look at everything
that you're doing, you're basically saying that.
- You're loving each other. - [Mecca] There you go.
- Then that's your answer. - There's your answer. Yeah.
This past weekend, we made a very important
collective decision between the two of us,
that we're going to go into Decision Day saying yes.
- Wow. - You did?
- [all cheering] - [Caitlin] Stop!
I love this.
For us, I thought I was so far away from a yes
two, three weeks ago, and I'm like so much closer to a possible yes.
Like, we have the best times,
like at the hot tub, and just listening to music,
and, you know, vibing on the terrace or whatever.
- Can't use that word. - Okay, you're right.
'Cause it's not-- it's not conveying my emotions.
But I think there's still, like, some growth
in terms of our family dynamics.
We're having some of the conversations now that we probably
should have been having week one, to be honest with you.
You guys obviously really were struggling
the first nine or ten days, and then it felt like
all of a sudden, like overnight, you guys went to therapy
or whatever, and came up with some strategies,
and now we're doing perfect, right?
- Not perfect. - [Nikki] Not perfect.
Doing-- but suddenly like, doing really well, right?
And I just don't know if I buy it.
Right now you guys are sitting 16 feet apart.
We have two partitions in here that are--
I mean, how convenient.
But, like, at the same time I just don't know
if I believe it.
I just haven't seen intimacy, love,
any sort of connection between you guys.
Yeah, because what you've been exposed to is all you know.
Yeah, if I'm honest, I'm not getting romantic vibes
between the two of you.
Nikki, I'll let you speak,
but just based off of your body language,
I'm not getting the sense that he's your person.
I know it's kind of been, like, the pendulum
is swinging to the other side,
but all this healthy stuff that we're practicing,
now it's actually just accelerating
our ability to connect with one another.
Not going to share any details, but we did reach a threshold
with the physical intimacy piece, and it was very nice.
- Whoo. - Spicy.
So, I think it's possible the sparks are flying now.
Not going to lie.
Don't see the physical attraction to Shawn.
I'm growing in my physical attraction.
- That's different than, like, looking-- - Oh, I know,
because I wasn't attracted to Bellé when we first met.
So a similar journey.
- Ooh, that's devastating. - Agreed.
[Shawn] ...and because of that popping and on and popping
within six weeks of getting to know someone that to me is not a journey...
This is already haunting us, the whole experience.
Why are you even saying that right now?
"She's pretty, but is she pretty enough for me?"
No. That's the comment that I'm going to have to regulate.
He doesn't really think about how to say things.
Him and Felipe kind of have that same little issue.
It just was a slap in the face.
It was beyond disrespectful to me.
All right, I've been very interested in what's going on
with you two, and I want to hear some updates.
This week has been great,
and I think we can keep the ball rolling.
We understand that there's still other things
that we need to kind of touch on,
but I think it's heading in the right direction.
What are the things that y'all need to touch on?
I think the biggest thing that we talked about
was bringing romance back into it,
and for me, I've pretty much pulled back
any type of physical intimacy since Cancun.
I want to make sure that whatever's happening,
I feel confident and safe emotionally.
Is that something you want to try to advance and move forward?
Yeah. You know, I do agree, to help progress
and grow closer is super important.
Do you feel hopeful, Dev?
I do, but we have to see what that looks like.
You can't go into a marriage and commit and be like,
"Yes, this is exactly what I want," when you don't even know what half of it looks like.
So on Decision Day, if nothing advances there, it's a no.
Be careful with that answer, Devin.
- Yeah, but I mean... - I mean, I wouldn't stay married to someone
without having sex with them first.
Would anybody here stay married to someone you hadn't hooked up with yet?
Are you even ready to get married?
We'll get to me in a second, buddy.
- Thank you so much. - We will.
- Oh God, right, right. - My God.
Speaking for myself, I probably would not
get married to someone I haven't hooked up with.
Well, I want to know, would anybody stay married
to someone you didn't hook up with?
Seriously.
- No. - No.
- Anybody? - There's degrees.
Depends, yeah, if we're vibing. Yeah.
- Okay. - [Caitlin] I'm sorry.
That is a really childish answer to be like,
"No, I'm not going to stay married to you if we haven't fucked."
That's crazy because...
- It's deeper than that. - It is.
- And honestly, I'm sorry. - Like, bigger picture.
We're all adults and have probably been around the block.
I feel confident in my personal ability, maybe Devin's ability.
I'm not worried about that. I don't care.
So to you, it doesn't matter?
I wouldn't say it doesn't matter,
but I'm not going to be like, "That's my deal breaker."
Would you stay with someone that you have an inadequate
physically romantic life with?
You know, sex is a very important thing,
and it's something that you can work on,
but if people don't like doing what you like to do,
that can be a big roadblock.
- Great answer. - It would make you go
look for it somewhere else, which is not healthy.
Oh, I hate that answer.
That is not anything that I would ever do.
I meant that as an overall statement.
That's an insane thing to throw out there, but okay.
Why would you be upset with him for saying that?
- That attitude is piss poor. - That was my bad.
But if you got it in that area...
But it's not about if you got it or not.
It's about that mentality, especially when you've been,
like, cheated on several times in the past.
If you've never been in that situation,
I'm envious, but, like, hearing that comment is nuts.
[Mecca] Heard you. Heard you.
- That's not what I meant by that. - No, I know.
I was talking about in general.
- I'm talking to Mecca, though. - Oh shit.
[dramatic music playing]
[tense music]
I'm sorry for my comment.
- Thank you. I appreciate your apology. - It was not saying--
It's not saying anything that I would do.
But like in general, if you look at other marriages
- and other things like that... - I think you just stop it at sorry.
I don't think we need to justify the comment.
No one wants anyone to cheat, but he's making a fair point,
and I think she's reacting to the wrong piece of the point.
She's burying the headline.
He's just saying intimacy is
a part of a relationship, and if there is none,
people will go and find that void elsewhere.
I think she's hearing it as "Oh, this is a license to cheat."
That's not really what he's saying.
Yeah. Anybody else?
- Amazing. - So if the physical connection
doesn't happen, are you saying yes or no?
Oh, okay.
- I'm not forcing her to make a decision... - [Felipe] No one's saying--
- No one's saying that. - ...to actually get to that point.
Okay, so it still can be a yes for you.
- Yes, if we don't have sex... - Okay, that was my question.
...in ten days, there's other things that we can focus on
that can make me feel more comfortable to say yes.
- That was all I was asking, bro. - Fuck you, Felipe.
[laughter]
You recovered your fumble there. Good job.
- Like, shit. - He's like, "I nailed that one."
All right. You guys are up.
Um, cool. So...
Yeah, so obviously, guys, I got absolutely obliterated,
cooked, torched, crucified at that group session.
However, we had a therapy session
with Paul, and it just clicked in my head.
It's not that I wasn't certain about Tori.
I think Tori's fucking incredible.
I was just not certain
about the future that I wanted, right?
But if I just think about my feelings,
I only wanted to be with Tori literally since I've met her.
And it's been so much better since I realized that.
I am committed to Tori.
Today. Tonight. All right.
Said, said.
[Adam] Yeah, hold up. We got to get this straight.
You're suddenly saying you went to therapy,
and had a realization
that you just want to be with Tori every day?
Well, I've been wanting to be with Tori.
- So you were choosing Tori every day? - I was.
Because it sounded like you were struggling
between choosing Tori, and choosing
God knows how many girls you were with.
Yeah, I just kept thinking about
it not working out, and not wanting to
just tell Tori all my positive feelings
and then be like, "No, I don't want to do this."
- No, no, no, no. I don't-- no, no. - No, no.
- I don't get that at all. - [Adam] No, no, no, no, no.
Tori, you're here for a husband, right?
- Yeah. - You're absolutely beautiful.
You have an amazing job. You have a lot going for you.
And you have this quote-unquote "husband,"
this clown over here,
week after week, saying he can't decide
- if he wants to be single or be with you. - Yeah. Yeah.
How are you still here letting him yap like that?
I would be done. I'd be like...
There is a breaking point, for sure, and I was getting pretty close.
She was getting very close. We were almost done.
I mean, I could tell we were building distance.
When I was talking, I wasn't talking like I was married.
I wasn't talking like I had a wife next to me.
We needed Paul for me to truly understand
- what I was doing and how I was making Tori feel. - Mmm.
Okay, so you go to therapy for 30 minutes
and learn how to, like, control what you say
and suddenly, like, everything changes.
We know where your head was at.
The thing about sleeping around with other women,
the last thing I mentioned after being
pressed on it four or five times, was the fact
that you can do whatever you want, right?
I remember it a little differently, but...
The mistake is not saying what you said.
It's not telling her in private beforehand.
It's displaying it in front of everyone.
No, no, no, neither of these is the important part...
That's what I said.
The important part, do you still feel that way?
We're asking, like, did your indecisiveness about her change?
Right now, I want to be with Tori.
I want to be monogamous with Tori.
What about tomorrow? What about in five minutes?
I don't know what's going to happen a week,
a month, a year from now, okay?
[Marissa] I would never stand for that if I ever heard those words.
- Gone. Absolutely gone. - Honestly, Tori,
it feels like he signed up for dating at first sight.
Are you ready to be married to someone like this?
It's a great question.
Hard no. I'm not good with it.
You need to decide or not decide,
and wherever that goes is fine, but, like,
I'm not going to be good with wishy-washy or gray area
or indecisiveness or not knowing what you want.
It's just not attractive.
There you go, Tori, finally taking a position
and not just letting Felipe call the shots.
Felipe, if today were Decision Day,
- what would be your decision? - My feeling's yes.
But could it be something different tomorrow?
Next week?
The emotions and feelings that you have
towards your wife right now are fleeting.
I would have liked just maybe a little bit more defense of me.
Everyone's coming at me and I didn't hear, like, a single time,
"Felipe has actually changed a little bit." That would have been nice.
And being partnered is defending your partner a little bit,
especially when you see that what they're saying is not true.
I just believe...
honestly, this side of the table should not be married.
- [Shawn] The whole side? - [Cameron] Yep.
I don't think they... them... and them.
That's what I would say.
[dramatic music]
- [Adam] Road trip. - [Marissa] Yay!
I'm so excited about the couples retreat
because nothing bonds you like all being in a house together for a couple days.
Do you think we'll all be, like, buddies at the couples retreat?
I'm ready to throw the fuck down.
[woman screams]
[Caitlin] I'm so excited.
[Michelle] This is so nice.
Now we're gonna really see what these couples are like.
- Is Belle your dream girl? - No.
So what are you doing here, then?
He was just like, "You're pretty,
- but are you pretty enough for me? No." - Hey, wait--
- [Michelle] What? - You just get fake boobs.
- You're not into that? - She might be against that, though.
Are you fucking kidding us?
[BelléJolie] I'm gonna be honest, this man is on thin ice.
I'm thinking about how Belle is outside of this process.
And Belle wouldn't put up with half of the stuff she's putting up with now.
[tearfully] I don't know what he's doing.
[Devin] Most likely to opt for a swap if you could.
Caitlin!
I don't like games that are meant to stir the pot.
Most likely to never be ready for marriage.
[all] Felipe!
He's almost enjoying being deemed a womanizer.
Everyone else's perception of you--
But who gives a shit about everyone else's perception?
That's what I'm trying to say.
What matters to me is your perception.
["Treat Me Right" by LANI playing]
♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
♪ Keep it under cover ♪
♪ Now, you got a soft side ♪
♪ I'm gonna take a bite ♪
♪ Enemies to lovers ♪
♪ Lost in each other ♪
♪ Bring it to the light side ♪
♪ You can treat me right ♪