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[cheers and applause]

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- Eight singles took a leap
into the great unknown

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in search of love.

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They married
as total strangers.

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[cheers and applause]

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[upbeat music]

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Last time,
our couples delved deeper

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in order to learn more
about their spouse.

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Becca and Austin.

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- You have been a very
pleasant surprise for us.

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- Blow us away.
Like, wow.

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- Certainly enjoyed
getting to know you.

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- Out of all the ways
that this could go,

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this is the best-case scenario.

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Yeah.

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- Clare and Cameron.

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- I'm going to need a procedure
done on my heart.

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- You know,
we talk and I check in

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and I'm trying to be
as supportive as I can.

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- Yeah.

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- But I just feel like we're
very much distant right now.

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- Emily and Brennan.

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Like, it's OK to just--

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I don't know what the [bleep]

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is going to get through
to him at this rate.

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[tense music]

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- Chloe and Michael.

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- I know I'm going to like him.

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I can feel it
with every fiber of my being.

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- I really want to seize
that opportunity

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to get her excited,
to get her happy.

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Wanted to really kind of,

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you know,
reflect my commitment.

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- And tonight...

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- ♪ Good energy, energy
- [laughs]

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- [yelps]
- Nice.

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- I haven't had a relationship

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that moves this slowly
or, like, a relationship

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where I don't feel, like,

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as desired as I have
in past relationships.

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And it's been difficult.

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- Going to Boulder hospital
for an operation.

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- Tomorrow is the big day.

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I can't believe it.

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- You know, doing this again,

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obviously, I know

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what the worst-case scenario
kind of feels like.

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I definitely acknowledge
that I'm a little more anxious.

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- The intent of this
was to talk

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about how we're going
to move forward,

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not to talk about the past.

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I thought we were
on the same page of what

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we wanted to accomplish today.

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- Brennan, do you trust Emily?

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- Um...

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♪

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[upbeat music]

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- ♪ It's all or nothing

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- This is
"Married at First Sight."

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- ♪ There's no other way

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♪ It's all or nothing

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[upbeat music]

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♪

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- Good morning.

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It is the morning after
wedding dress shopping,

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and holy smokes.
[laughs]

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It is all starting
to set in now.

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I'm feeling really excited
and really hopeful

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and so really, really,
really overwhelmed.

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I can't believe the big day
is just a few short days away.

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So I'm going to go
and spend the day

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doing all the bride shopping
that I can squeeze into today.

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I'm just really excited for--

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for the wedding.

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- ♪ Yeah,
you're turning me off ♪

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♪ Turn me off, turn me off

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♪ Make me doubt,
make me doubt all my love ♪

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- Actually, signed us up
for a sexy naked people

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figurines
terrarium-building class.

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- Whoa.
- A little surprise.

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It's back this way.

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You want to do it?
- Yeah.

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- Cool.
- Build a terrarium?

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- Yeah.
- Yeah, let's go.

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- Becca and I both love plants,
but the fun little

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not-safe-for-work figurines
are for Becca

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because she is,
to quote Lindsay

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from our wedding, a sex vixen.

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- ♪ It's time to be me

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♪ Got luck in my breeze,
love in my pocket ♪

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- I am doing little sexy people

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in the corners...
- In the corners?

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- And then having the plants
kind of divide them up.

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- So everyone can watch.
- [laughs]

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What were you going to do?

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- Give them an oasis where they
can do what they need to do.

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- All right.
- But I love yours.

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Just, like, put them
in the window.

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- To each his own
sexy terrarium.

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- For sure.

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I'm choosing him,
and he's going

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to rail her against the moss.

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- [laughs]

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Love it.

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- Remember how important
foreplay is.

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Have you ever had sex
on a bed of moss?

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- [laughs]

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Describe a bed of, like--

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- Any moss at all.

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- Have to be a big--

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I mean, I've had sex outside.

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- Nice. Good for you.
- [laughs]

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- Happy for you.

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- I mean, what are you,
like, into?

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- I am very sex positive.

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So I'm open to trying
new things, typically.

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But, like, typically, I just
enjoy what my partner enjoys.

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- Yeah.

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It's like how I go
about it as well.

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- Yeah.

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- You know what, fingers.

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Fingers are great.

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- [snorts]
They are.

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Do you like to use fingers?
[both laugh]

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- I do.
I typically use this motion.

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[both laugh]

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- Is the dirt lube?
- [laughs]

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- Just nice and dry.

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Rub it up on there.

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In your ideal marriage,
how often does sex happen?

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- I don't know, maybe, like,
once a day or, you know,

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once every two days.

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[quirky music]

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I feel like that's--
is that normal?

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- Yeah.
- Is it?

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- I would agree with that.
- Yeah?

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- Yeah.
- You sure?

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- If more happens,

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then nobody's ever
going to complain.

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- Yeah.

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- Austin and I don't really
have these conversations.

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So anything I get to learn
about Austin sexually, I like.

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That feels right.

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Yep, that's it.

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She's done.

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And it makes me hopeful

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that that will progress
into something.

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- What about,
you know, like, pegging?

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That seems to have come up.
- You want me to peg you?

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[laughing]
OK.

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- Actually, you know what,
I retract the question.

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- What?
- [laughs]

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[steady music]

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- ♪ I got a brand-new heart

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♪

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- Going to Boulder hospital
for an operation.

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Some forms of A fibrillation
and other heart arrhythmias,

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you can kind of get by
with just medication,

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whereas this one,
unfortunately,

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you know, I really just
don't have a choice.

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I have to get the procedure.

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The flutter is obviously,
you know, something that is

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very limiting and distracting.

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I have no need to contact Clare
at this moment.

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Just got to get it done.

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Let's go to the hospital.

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[tense music]

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♪

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- You know, I wasn't
in the perfect headspace

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to talk last night,
but I feel much better now.

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So how do you feel
about last night?

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What's going on in your mind?

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- Mm...I don't know.

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I'll go back
to what I said last night.

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I assume that you're
really not about to faint.

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And I, like, snapped
in some sort of way,

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but that was not me
trying to, like, attack you

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or put you on the spot.

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I think it's just,
I guess, disappointing

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when you can't
answer questions.

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I'm just saying, like, it feels
like there's lack of effort.

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It just feels like, to me, like
you're already shutting down,

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and maybe why I snapped
because we were trying to have,

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like, a reset,
and how sometimes,

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actions like that make me

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just feel bad.

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♪

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- Yeah.

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You know, last night,
I understand

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where you didn't feel
supported.

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Like, I understand
it's lack of effort.

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Like, I was trying to do right
by you,

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and in return, I messed it up.

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Like, I'm not trying
to hurt you.

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Like, I'm sorry
if I'm hurting you.

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Definitely going to work on,
you know,

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the way I'm coming across
and my delivery.

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Definitely something
I want to keep in mind

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and be better at.

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- Yeah, I appreciate that

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and that you were open
to just having

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a civil conversation about it.

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I really think it's, like,
the only way,

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like, we can move forward

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is if we work on it.

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- Yeah.

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Cheers to working on it.

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- His apologies
are appreciated,

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but I don't think he realizes
that doesn't mean anything

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if he keeps acting
the way he is

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and keeps putting in
the minimal effort,

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considering this has all been
on his terms.

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- So in spirit of the reset,
Dr. Pepper asked us to write

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a note to our younger selves.

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Are you ready to go do that?

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- OK.

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[upbeat music]

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♪

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Whoa, that was therapeutic.

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My hand hurts.
I was on a roll.

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- Want to go first
because you're on a roll?

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- Sure.

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"Dear high school Emily,

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"I know everything seems hard
right now,

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"so I'm here to say
keep doing you

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"and working hard
because that is

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"what's going to get you here.

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"Dad--oh, man, does he
drive you really insane,

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"make you mad, angry,
and makes you cry a lot.

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"It's mostly around
sports and soccer,

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"but know that although
he has pushed you a lot,

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"and at times too hard,
this will be so important--

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"important to who you are
as a person down the road.

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"And without his passion
and dedication to you,

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"your motivation, your drive,
just overall success

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"would not be the same.

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"Soccer--it's been
your life to date,

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"but please remember that it
doesn't define who you are

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"or that it's all
you are good at.

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"You are better at a lot more

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"than you give yourself
credit for,

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"and you will be
so happy and proud

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of where you end up."

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The end.

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- Nice.
Feel good reading it?

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- Yeah.

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Really work
on my handwriting, though.

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- All right.

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"Dear Brennan,
you're probably feeling

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"a lot of pressure right now.

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"You're a teenager
going through school

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"and always thinking
about the future.

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"Even at your age, that was
always on the forefront

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"of our minds
because we like to have a plan

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"and know exactly
where we're heading.

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"You've always been
a risk-taker.

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"Don't worry about
letting anyone down.

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"It's OK to make mistakes.

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"The people that matter
aren't going anywhere.

260
00:11:03,417 --> 00:11:05,167
"Mom and Dad love you
very much.

261
00:11:05,250 --> 00:11:07,167
"They have a funny way
of showing it sometimes,

262
00:11:07,208 --> 00:11:09,625
"but at the end of the day,
they are always here for you.

263
00:11:09,708 --> 00:11:11,083
"Don't be in a rush to grow up,

264
00:11:11,167 --> 00:11:13,208
"because if you blink,
it's all over

265
00:11:13,292 --> 00:11:14,375
"and your childhood is done.

266
00:11:14,500 --> 00:11:16,250
"Be proud of who you are

267
00:11:16,333 --> 00:11:18,333
and everything will all be OK."

268
00:11:18,375 --> 00:11:21,833
- I love that.

269
00:11:21,875 --> 00:11:24,833
Who did you, like, lean on
for advice at that age?

270
00:11:24,917 --> 00:11:27,417
- My friend's dad
was my mentor.

271
00:11:27,542 --> 00:11:28,958
He was the real estate guy
that I started

272
00:11:29,042 --> 00:11:31,333
working with when I was 13.

273
00:11:31,417 --> 00:11:34,583
You know, everyone was playing
around, you know, hanging out.

274
00:11:34,708 --> 00:11:35,958
I was sitting there
picking his brain.

275
00:11:36,042 --> 00:11:37,667
I was 13 and he was like,
"What are you doing?

276
00:11:37,750 --> 00:11:39,000
Don't you want to hang out
with kids your age?"

277
00:11:39,083 --> 00:11:40,458
And I'm like,
"I'm good right here.

278
00:11:40,542 --> 00:11:41,708
I just like
picking your brain."

279
00:11:41,792 --> 00:11:43,375
- It's so interesting.

280
00:11:43,458 --> 00:11:45,417
I was nowhere near that.

281
00:11:45,542 --> 00:11:46,917
I wish I was.

282
00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,375
- Yeah, I wouldn't say I was

283
00:11:48,458 --> 00:11:50,708
very common
at such a young age.

284
00:11:50,792 --> 00:11:53,083
And that's where half
the advice is just, you know,

285
00:11:53,208 --> 00:11:54,792
it's important
to just take a step back

286
00:11:54,875 --> 00:11:56,333
and realize you're a kid.

287
00:11:56,458 --> 00:11:59,792
And I put so much pressure
on myself to grow up quick.

288
00:11:59,875 --> 00:12:02,333
And I didn't have to do that.

289
00:12:02,375 --> 00:12:04,250
I could have enjoyed life,
I think, a little bit more.

290
00:12:04,333 --> 00:12:06,583
And I don't regret anything,
but yeah,

291
00:12:06,667 --> 00:12:08,750
I could have enjoyed
just a bit more.

292
00:12:08,833 --> 00:12:11,542
- It's always progress
and growth for Brennan

293
00:12:11,667 --> 00:12:13,458
when he does open up.

294
00:12:13,542 --> 00:12:18,708
And I'm getting a sense
of why he is the way that he is

295
00:12:18,792 --> 00:12:22,917
in ways that have been
challenging for him

296
00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:25,167
and for us to move forward.

297
00:12:25,292 --> 00:12:28,167
- ♪ I know
you're worth the fight ♪

298
00:12:28,250 --> 00:12:30,833
- Really getting
the full picture here.

299
00:12:30,875 --> 00:12:34,250
- ♪ Oh, oh, 'cause I know
it's worth the fight ♪

300
00:12:39,667 --> 00:12:41,042
[soft dramatic music]

301
00:12:41,042 --> 00:12:42,708
♪

302
00:12:42,833 --> 00:12:44,875
- Cameron, he--

303
00:12:44,958 --> 00:12:46,917
I talked with him,
and he let me know

304
00:12:47,042 --> 00:12:49,417
that, like, he's doing OK.

305
00:12:49,500 --> 00:12:51,875
So I'm feeling super relieved.

306
00:12:51,958 --> 00:12:55,000
You know, thinking about him,
it was weighing on me a lot.

307
00:12:55,042 --> 00:12:57,500
And it was affecting me
because I was super concerned,

308
00:12:57,583 --> 00:13:01,500
super worried, as I tend to do.

309
00:13:01,542 --> 00:13:04,250
And, you know, I asked
how he wants me to support him

310
00:13:04,375 --> 00:13:06,250
during the surgery,
and he was like, "You know,

311
00:13:06,375 --> 00:13:08,208
because you do tend
to worry a little bit"--

312
00:13:08,292 --> 00:13:10,750
and I was like,
"OK, you're right"--

313
00:13:10,833 --> 00:13:12,333
"why don't you maybe
just hang back

314
00:13:12,375 --> 00:13:14,500
for the surgery part,"
which I think is a good call,

315
00:13:14,625 --> 00:13:16,917
and I totally respect that.

316
00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:18,000
You know, I just want
to give him

317
00:13:18,042 --> 00:13:19,500
the time that he needs
right now

318
00:13:19,542 --> 00:13:21,500
and just let him know
that I care about him so much

319
00:13:21,583 --> 00:13:23,208
and that he has so much support

320
00:13:23,292 --> 00:13:27,667
and show him that he means
a lot to me.

321
00:13:27,750 --> 00:13:33,042
- ♪ Flew through the rainbow
and didn't realize ♪

322
00:13:33,125 --> 00:13:36,042
♪ I want to get day drunk
with you ♪

323
00:13:36,125 --> 00:13:39,167
♪ Not cry, there's so much

324
00:13:39,208 --> 00:13:40,917
♪

325
00:13:41,042 --> 00:13:42,333
- You used these before?

326
00:13:42,375 --> 00:13:44,250
- Not these.
- Yeah.

327
00:13:44,375 --> 00:13:45,500
- Find out real quick.

328
00:13:45,542 --> 00:13:46,625
Press and go.

329
00:13:46,708 --> 00:13:48,458
[clicking]

330
00:13:48,542 --> 00:13:50,958
- Oh, beautiful.
Look at us.

331
00:13:51,042 --> 00:13:51,750
- The boys are
grilling right now.

332
00:13:51,833 --> 00:13:53,125
- I know.

333
00:13:53,208 --> 00:13:54,333
This is going to be
my little station.

334
00:13:54,417 --> 00:13:56,000
- What'd you bring, Em?
Some treats for us?

335
00:13:56,125 --> 00:13:58,167
- My bag of tricks.
- Oh, my gosh, we love that.

336
00:13:58,208 --> 00:14:01,000
- So I just went for it,
you know?

337
00:14:01,042 --> 00:14:03,833
White wine, tequila,
no chasers, no water,

338
00:14:03,917 --> 00:14:06,833
some marshmallows
and s'mores stuff.

339
00:14:06,875 --> 00:14:08,167
- Yay.
- Love that.

340
00:14:08,250 --> 00:14:09,583
- Are there skewers
for the marshmallows?

341
00:14:09,708 --> 00:14:11,458
- There are bamboo sticks.
- Wow.

342
00:14:11,542 --> 00:14:13,167
Fire hazard, but I love it.

343
00:14:13,292 --> 00:14:14,583
- So how are you girls doing?
- I don't know.

344
00:14:14,708 --> 00:14:15,833
Are any of us doing well?

345
00:14:15,833 --> 00:14:17,208
- Good.

346
00:14:17,292 --> 00:14:19,375
Physically, mentally,
emotionally.

347
00:14:19,500 --> 00:14:21,375
- We are--
- We're here.

348
00:14:21,500 --> 00:14:22,833
- That is very true.

349
00:14:22,917 --> 00:14:25,583
- A lot has--a lot has
changed for us, man.

350
00:14:25,708 --> 00:14:27,083
- How so?
What's going on?

351
00:14:27,208 --> 00:14:29,042
- Well, for one,
we kind of, like, reset,

352
00:14:29,125 --> 00:14:31,208
like, the whole expectation.

353
00:14:31,292 --> 00:14:34,750
Just, you know, trying to take
the pressure off and, you know,

354
00:14:34,833 --> 00:14:37,292
just enjoy each other,
which has been

355
00:14:37,375 --> 00:14:39,958
an interesting adjustment,
to say the least.

356
00:14:40,042 --> 00:14:42,083
- Is it a good adjustment?

357
00:14:42,208 --> 00:14:45,000
- I think it has been
for me, at least.

358
00:14:45,083 --> 00:14:48,708
I'm trying to work through it
with Emily,

359
00:14:48,792 --> 00:14:50,333
which has been
a bit of a challenge.

360
00:14:50,458 --> 00:14:53,375
But I think we are in
a much better place.

361
00:14:53,500 --> 00:14:54,833
- I think part of our issue is,
we keep,

362
00:14:54,917 --> 00:14:56,208
like, having intense talks.

363
00:14:56,292 --> 00:14:57,833
It's hard for us to, like, hear

364
00:14:57,917 --> 00:14:59,000
and say the stuff we're saying.

365
00:14:59,042 --> 00:15:00,875
- You guys are
both, like, reactive.

366
00:15:00,958 --> 00:15:02,042
You say what you mean
in that moment.

367
00:15:02,125 --> 00:15:03,625
Is that what you mean?

368
00:15:03,708 --> 00:15:05,417
- I think we just have
different

369
00:15:05,500 --> 00:15:06,500
communication styles.

370
00:15:06,542 --> 00:15:08,792
- Yeah. Yeah, which is hard.

371
00:15:08,875 --> 00:15:11,167
- Like, I haven't had
my proudest moments.

372
00:15:11,208 --> 00:15:13,167
I almost did lose it
for a sec this weekend.

373
00:15:13,208 --> 00:15:14,250
- Yeah, but you're a human.

374
00:15:14,333 --> 00:15:16,750
- I think
we talked everything out

375
00:15:16,833 --> 00:15:18,917
and wanted to, like,
just move on.

376
00:15:19,042 --> 00:15:20,667
Me losing patience,
we need to go back

377
00:15:20,750 --> 00:15:22,667
to, like, stay
in the positives.

378
00:15:22,750 --> 00:15:24,292
You know, like,
I can be better.

379
00:15:24,375 --> 00:15:28,792
And I think we'll be able
to persevere.

380
00:15:28,875 --> 00:15:30,708
- Everything that you do
is, like, to better

381
00:15:30,792 --> 00:15:33,833
your relationship and, like,
to understand Brennan better.

382
00:15:33,875 --> 00:15:36,042
And, like,
there's not, like, a minute

383
00:15:36,042 --> 00:15:38,042
that goes by that I don't think
that you're trying.

384
00:15:38,042 --> 00:15:40,792
And I just think you need,
like, the biggest kudos.

385
00:15:40,875 --> 00:15:43,000
- Have to stay positive.
- Yeah.

386
00:15:43,083 --> 00:15:45,542
- Because that's who I am.
I'm an optimist.

387
00:15:45,625 --> 00:15:49,958
I go back to being positive,
fun, and taking it day by day.

388
00:15:50,042 --> 00:15:51,125
- Minute by minute.
- Riding the wave.

389
00:15:51,208 --> 00:15:52,458
- Minute by minute.
- Ride, ride, ride.

390
00:15:52,542 --> 00:15:54,000
- Ride, ride, ride
the wave, wave, wave.

391
00:15:54,042 --> 00:15:56,375
- Yeah, what's nice
about this reset is,

392
00:15:56,458 --> 00:15:59,125
it's, like, critical that
we don't have, like, any plans.

393
00:15:59,208 --> 00:16:02,125
We're just taking it literally,
like, week by week, day by day.

394
00:16:02,208 --> 00:16:04,250
Because it was either that
or divorce.

395
00:16:04,375 --> 00:16:05,833
But we're not giving up,
you know?

396
00:16:05,875 --> 00:16:07,375
- Yeah.

397
00:16:07,458 --> 00:16:09,125
- So, you know, we're doing
everything we can.

398
00:16:09,208 --> 00:16:10,625
- And you are still,
like, on good terms

399
00:16:10,708 --> 00:16:13,167
and both want to, like,
carry forward like this?

400
00:16:13,250 --> 00:16:14,875
- Yeah, we're in
a good place now, I think.

401
00:16:14,958 --> 00:16:16,167
- Yeah.
- You know, I truly--

402
00:16:16,250 --> 00:16:17,500
I truly want to believe that,
you know?

403
00:16:17,625 --> 00:16:18,708
- Yeah.
- So...

404
00:16:18,833 --> 00:16:19,958
- Who ever thought
that none of us

405
00:16:20,042 --> 00:16:21,000
would be getting laid
right now?

406
00:16:21,083 --> 00:16:22,333
- Literally so sad.

407
00:16:22,417 --> 00:16:24,167
- A month and a half
into marriage.

408
00:16:24,250 --> 00:16:25,750
- Yeah.

409
00:16:25,750 --> 00:16:27,083
Well, I've see you guys kiss.
- I'm imagining it's hot.

410
00:16:27,167 --> 00:16:28,417
- I thought you guys
were, like--yeah,

411
00:16:28,500 --> 00:16:29,500
I'm like, very lovey-dovey.
- Oh, yeah.

412
00:16:29,625 --> 00:16:30,792
We make out.

413
00:16:30,875 --> 00:16:32,833
- Farther than all of us.

414
00:16:32,917 --> 00:16:36,542
- In the race of intimacy,
I am crushing it.

415
00:16:36,667 --> 00:16:37,792
- You guys are adorable.

416
00:16:37,875 --> 00:16:38,833
- Things are
progressing wonderfully.

417
00:16:38,917 --> 00:16:40,250
- We love that.

418
00:16:40,333 --> 00:16:46,250
- I just like them
to go further faster.

419
00:16:46,250 --> 00:16:48,375
- With Becca, the one thing is,

420
00:16:48,458 --> 00:16:50,833
she is a little more
sexually driven

421
00:16:50,917 --> 00:16:52,167
than I am, like, this early on.

422
00:16:52,250 --> 00:16:54,083
- Yeah.

423
00:16:54,167 --> 00:16:55,500
Do you feel like you've made
progress in that area?

424
00:16:55,583 --> 00:16:57,167
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

425
00:16:57,208 --> 00:17:00,833
It's stuff I have to be,
like, more conscious about

426
00:17:00,958 --> 00:17:02,125
and, like, actively try.

427
00:17:02,208 --> 00:17:03,750
You know, like,
that's how problems work.

428
00:17:03,833 --> 00:17:06,042
You have a problem, you have
to [bleep] think about it.

429
00:17:06,125 --> 00:17:09,750
- You get in your head
very easily thinking about it.

430
00:17:09,875 --> 00:17:11,625
- Dude, that's the thing,
is, like,

431
00:17:11,708 --> 00:17:14,417
it, like, started out
as, like, a little thing.

432
00:17:14,500 --> 00:17:16,667
It just, like, grew
and grew and grew

433
00:17:16,750 --> 00:17:20,083
because, like, you got to talk
about it, like, constantly

434
00:17:20,167 --> 00:17:21,833
over and over again.

435
00:17:21,917 --> 00:17:23,000
It's like,
the pressure comes in.

436
00:17:23,083 --> 00:17:24,375
Like, you start
thinking about it.

437
00:17:24,375 --> 00:17:27,125
Like, it's really
[bleep] get in your head.

438
00:17:27,208 --> 00:17:29,250
So the problem isn't,
like, the problem itself

439
00:17:29,333 --> 00:17:31,292
but, like, what has,
like, come out

440
00:17:31,375 --> 00:17:37,042
of the [bleep] problem,
which is annoying.

441
00:17:37,042 --> 00:17:38,458
- Yeah.

442
00:17:38,542 --> 00:17:39,917
- We're working through it,
you know?

443
00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:42,042
Like, baby steps.

444
00:17:42,167 --> 00:17:44,000
- Your attitude is
literally, like--

445
00:17:44,042 --> 00:17:45,208
I admire it.
[car horn honking]

446
00:17:45,333 --> 00:17:46,542
Because I think
sometimes I can be

447
00:17:46,625 --> 00:17:48,917
really negative
about this process

448
00:17:49,042 --> 00:17:51,458
and where we're at and--OK.
[laughs]

449
00:17:51,542 --> 00:17:54,667
And, you know,
Cameron's been having,

450
00:17:54,750 --> 00:17:56,333
like, some health concerns.

451
00:17:56,417 --> 00:17:58,750
He is experiencing,
like, heart flutter,

452
00:17:58,833 --> 00:18:00,833
which is very serious.

453
00:18:00,917 --> 00:18:02,542
Cameron went into surgery.

454
00:18:02,625 --> 00:18:04,042
And I talked with him.

455
00:18:04,125 --> 00:18:06,875
And he let me know that,
like, he's doing OK.

456
00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:10,458
It's been really worrisome
for me.

457
00:18:10,542 --> 00:18:12,292
And I'm not--
the more I talk about it,

458
00:18:12,292 --> 00:18:14,333
like, I will get emotional,
and so--

459
00:18:14,417 --> 00:18:16,417
but the main thing is,
yeah, that he's OK

460
00:18:16,500 --> 00:18:18,167
and that I'm strong for him.

461
00:18:18,292 --> 00:18:22,500
And I'm realizing, like,
I was meant to be in his life

462
00:18:22,542 --> 00:18:24,500
to support him
and be there for him

463
00:18:24,542 --> 00:18:26,667
and be whatever it is
that he needs me to be

464
00:18:26,750 --> 00:18:30,083
in these moments,
because that's all I can do.

465
00:18:30,167 --> 00:18:32,333
- As someone
who has been taken care of

466
00:18:32,417 --> 00:18:37,083
by people that are loved,
like, you are doing him the--

467
00:18:37,167 --> 00:18:39,208
you're giving him
the biggest gift.

468
00:18:39,292 --> 00:18:41,625
- He is appreciating it
whether he's saying it

469
00:18:41,625 --> 00:18:43,333
or not, like, from afar.

470
00:18:43,375 --> 00:18:44,583
- Thank you for saying that
'cause I need to know those--

471
00:18:44,667 --> 00:18:46,333
- And there's people
who aren't even able to, like--

472
00:18:46,375 --> 00:18:47,708
some people, like,
back away in these situations.

473
00:18:47,833 --> 00:18:49,375
- Yeah. Oh, yeah.
- Oh, no.

474
00:18:49,375 --> 00:18:51,583
- I mean, as someone
who's recovered from surgery

475
00:18:51,708 --> 00:18:53,833
so many times,
I've lost friends.

476
00:18:53,875 --> 00:18:55,167
- We're dealing
with hard things.

477
00:18:55,208 --> 00:18:56,375
All we can do is
lift each other up.

478
00:18:56,458 --> 00:18:58,708
And that's all I will ever
continue to do.

479
00:18:58,792 --> 00:19:00,958
When you say your vows, like,
"In sickness and in health,"

480
00:19:00,958 --> 00:19:04,083
like, you don't say it thinking
that it's going to be a thing.

481
00:19:04,208 --> 00:19:06,333
Even if we're at a spot
where we don't know

482
00:19:06,375 --> 00:19:08,417
what's happening--like,
there's just so many unknowns--

483
00:19:08,500 --> 00:19:10,083
I'm going to stay true
to those vows.

484
00:19:10,208 --> 00:19:11,792
I'm going to make sure
that I live that out

485
00:19:11,875 --> 00:19:14,375
and be as supportive as I can.

486
00:19:14,500 --> 00:19:17,917
But I don't want to hurt him
any more than I already have.

487
00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:21,542
- ♪ My heart can't take

488
00:19:21,542 --> 00:19:26,125
♪ Anymore damage,
anymore damage ♪

489
00:19:30,042 --> 00:19:32,375
[steady music]

490
00:19:32,458 --> 00:19:34,375
- Have you shot pool before?

491
00:19:34,375 --> 00:19:36,542
- You know...
- Good try. Good try.

492
00:19:36,625 --> 00:19:37,625
- I agree. You got this.
- It's like a few balls

493
00:19:37,708 --> 00:19:38,958
want to have me.

494
00:19:39,042 --> 00:19:40,167
- I believe in you.

495
00:19:40,250 --> 00:19:42,333
- So--
- She's put me--

496
00:19:42,417 --> 00:19:44,083
- Oh, my God,
that was embarrassing.

497
00:19:44,167 --> 00:19:45,625
[laughter]
- [bleep].

498
00:19:45,708 --> 00:19:47,792
- She touched it twice.
That's cheating.

499
00:19:47,875 --> 00:19:49,042
[laughter]
- [gasps]

500
00:19:49,125 --> 00:19:52,333
- Whee.
- Michael.

501
00:19:52,375 --> 00:19:54,750
- What is on your head?

502
00:19:54,875 --> 00:19:58,750
- Look, look, I had to get
one more run out of this crown

503
00:19:58,833 --> 00:20:00,000
before I retire.

504
00:20:00,042 --> 00:20:01,750
- Wow.
- Oh, my God.

505
00:20:01,875 --> 00:20:03,208
- Mike with the crown.

506
00:20:03,292 --> 00:20:05,125
- Wait, can we hug? Hi.

507
00:20:05,250 --> 00:20:07,375
Good to see you.
- Nice seeing you guys again.

508
00:20:07,458 --> 00:20:09,833
- I don't think
you have to retire.

509
00:20:09,875 --> 00:20:11,583
- Hello.
Good to see you again.

510
00:20:11,708 --> 00:20:13,500
- You as well.
- It's been a long time.

511
00:20:13,500 --> 00:20:15,000
- I know.

512
00:20:15,083 --> 00:20:17,250
- Looking sharp as always.

513
00:20:17,333 --> 00:20:19,042
- I try.
- How are we doing?

514
00:20:19,125 --> 00:20:20,542
- All right.

515
00:20:20,667 --> 00:20:22,417
- I'm here to give you
a nice, cute little update

516
00:20:22,500 --> 00:20:25,250
on my situation,
if you'll indulge me.

517
00:20:25,333 --> 00:20:27,583
So I did have an opportunity
to speak with the experts.

518
00:20:27,667 --> 00:20:30,083
And they asked me
if I would be open

519
00:20:30,083 --> 00:20:31,583
to potentially being
re-matched,

520
00:20:31,667 --> 00:20:34,375
not knowing
if they'd be able to or not.

521
00:20:34,458 --> 00:20:35,833
So I said I would be.

522
00:20:35,875 --> 00:20:37,500
Met up with my friends.

523
00:20:37,542 --> 00:20:39,417
And your girl
Dr. Pepper dropped in on us.

524
00:20:39,542 --> 00:20:41,500
- That's how she does it.
That's how she does it.

525
00:20:41,583 --> 00:20:43,375
- So she dropped in
to let me know

526
00:20:43,458 --> 00:20:46,167
that they were able
to re-match me.

527
00:20:46,208 --> 00:20:47,500
- Wow.
- Yay!

528
00:20:47,583 --> 00:20:49,083
- Yay!
- That's exciting.

529
00:20:49,208 --> 00:20:51,125
- You deserve that.
- It is exciting.

530
00:20:51,208 --> 00:20:52,542
I'm excited.
I'm looking forward to it.

531
00:20:52,667 --> 00:20:55,375
I mean, I'll be honest,
I'm trying to imagine--

532
00:20:55,458 --> 00:20:57,417
you know, like,
I'll have to address the fact

533
00:20:57,500 --> 00:20:59,500
that this is my second
go-around at this.

534
00:20:59,542 --> 00:21:01,125
- You did nothing wrong.
- Right.

535
00:21:01,208 --> 00:21:02,500
- Like, you should go
into it being like,

536
00:21:02,625 --> 00:21:04,417
"This is how badly
I wanted this.

537
00:21:04,500 --> 00:21:06,167
Like, this is how badly"--
- You're committed that much.

538
00:21:06,250 --> 00:21:07,333
- And not only that, but, like,

539
00:21:07,417 --> 00:21:09,333
it's bringing you
this new wife, right?

540
00:21:09,458 --> 00:21:11,542
So, like, you should speak
about it in that way,

541
00:21:11,667 --> 00:21:13,500
that, like, you are thankful
that that happened

542
00:21:13,583 --> 00:21:14,875
to bring you to this point.

543
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,792
- Turn it into a positive.
- Yeah. And it shows--

544
00:21:16,875 --> 00:21:18,208
- "If that didn't happen,
I wouldn't have met you and"--

545
00:21:18,333 --> 00:21:19,667
- Exactly.
- I think that's a great point

546
00:21:19,708 --> 00:21:21,125
because one of the things
that I feel like

547
00:21:21,208 --> 00:21:23,167
I would want to communicate
is, like,

548
00:21:23,208 --> 00:21:25,000
you're not receiving,
like, a broken man.

549
00:21:25,167 --> 00:21:28,333
- It takes a lot for someone
to, like, go about this again,

550
00:21:28,417 --> 00:21:29,708
and I think
she's going to respect that.

551
00:21:29,833 --> 00:21:31,625
- And also the minute
that she comes to us,

552
00:21:31,708 --> 00:21:33,708
if she has any, like--
- Got to back me up.

553
00:21:33,792 --> 00:21:35,750
I'm going to need you guys.
I'm going to need you guys.

554
00:21:35,875 --> 00:21:37,708
- But, like, we saw how you
dealt with that afterwards,

555
00:21:37,833 --> 00:21:39,042
and it was so beautiful.

556
00:21:39,167 --> 00:21:40,625
And, like, if we can
convey that to her

557
00:21:40,708 --> 00:21:42,917
so that she knows that,
you know, you will carry that

558
00:21:43,042 --> 00:21:44,458
into your relationship
with her.

559
00:21:44,542 --> 00:21:46,417
- Right, and how badly
you wanted marriage

560
00:21:46,542 --> 00:21:48,417
that you were willing
to, you know,

561
00:21:48,500 --> 00:21:50,667
make it through
a really hard experience,

562
00:21:50,750 --> 00:21:53,000
right, And talk about it
with us and also be like,

563
00:21:53,083 --> 00:21:54,417
"Yeah, I'm still devoted
to that

564
00:21:54,542 --> 00:21:56,500
and that is still
my number one goal."

565
00:21:56,583 --> 00:21:58,333
- And you want even more.
- Right.

566
00:21:58,417 --> 00:21:59,792
- I mean, you got a taste
of it, and now you--

567
00:21:59,792 --> 00:22:01,333
- Nothing but good things
will come

568
00:22:01,417 --> 00:22:02,792
from you telling her that.

569
00:22:02,875 --> 00:22:04,167
- Yeah.

570
00:22:04,292 --> 00:22:06,083
- Timing is everything.
- Yeah.

571
00:22:06,167 --> 00:22:07,375
- Wait, I'm so excited
for you, though.

572
00:22:07,458 --> 00:22:08,958
- Well, thank you.

573
00:22:09,042 --> 00:22:12,083
But yeah, so things are moving
at quite the quick pace.

574
00:22:12,167 --> 00:22:16,208
The wedding is on Saturday,
and I would be very honored

575
00:22:16,333 --> 00:22:18,208
if you guys would be
in attendance

576
00:22:18,333 --> 00:22:21,125
to support me
and my future wife.

577
00:22:21,208 --> 00:22:22,917
- Aww.
- Wow.

578
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:24,833
- We're going to be
out of [bleep] town.

579
00:22:24,917 --> 00:22:26,542
[laughs]
- Yeah.

580
00:22:26,625 --> 00:22:28,125
- We have to go
visit his grandma.

581
00:22:28,208 --> 00:22:29,792
- Well, we'll be there,
for sure.

582
00:22:29,875 --> 00:22:31,625
- All right, perfect.
- That's going to be amazing.

583
00:22:31,708 --> 00:22:33,667
- We're so happy for you.
- Thank you.

584
00:22:33,792 --> 00:22:35,542
- It'll be good, man.
- We don't know that.

585
00:22:35,625 --> 00:22:38,083
We don't know this new girl.

586
00:22:38,167 --> 00:22:39,458
I'm just kidding.
[laughter]

587
00:22:39,542 --> 00:22:41,167
- My risk management.

588
00:22:41,208 --> 00:22:42,500
The worst.
- It'll be great.

589
00:22:42,583 --> 00:22:43,542
Literally, don't be nervous.
It'll be great.

590
00:22:43,625 --> 00:22:44,583
Yeah.
- I'll do my best.

591
00:22:44,667 --> 00:22:45,750
- We got you.
- Be great.

592
00:22:45,833 --> 00:22:47,500
- We got you.
We're excited for you.

593
00:22:47,542 --> 00:22:49,042
- Can't wait to see
what the future holds for you.

594
00:22:49,125 --> 00:22:51,500
- Cheers to wife 2.0.

595
00:22:51,583 --> 00:22:52,958
- I've got a good feeling
about you.

596
00:22:53,042 --> 00:22:54,333
I feel like--
- I do too.

597
00:22:54,417 --> 00:22:56,167
- I feel like
you're going to really hit it

598
00:22:56,208 --> 00:22:57,167
out of the park this time.

599
00:22:57,208 --> 00:22:58,250
- Second time's the charm.

600
00:22:58,375 --> 00:22:59,167
- Putting pressure on me.

601
00:22:59,250 --> 00:23:00,625
[laughter]

602
00:23:00,708 --> 00:23:03,083
- ♪ No, the game ain't over

603
00:23:03,208 --> 00:23:06,000
[upbeat music]

604
00:23:06,125 --> 00:23:08,208
♪

605
00:23:08,333 --> 00:23:10,542
[phone ringing]

606
00:23:10,708 --> 00:23:12,167
- Well, what's up, my boy?
Looking fresh.

607
00:23:12,167 --> 00:23:13,375
- What's up?

608
00:23:13,500 --> 00:23:16,208
- I know we talk
pretty much every day.

609
00:23:16,292 --> 00:23:18,500
So you kind of know
what's been going on.

610
00:23:18,583 --> 00:23:21,208
So I was just hoping to get
a little advice

611
00:23:21,292 --> 00:23:23,667
from the master of marriage
himself.

612
00:23:23,750 --> 00:23:26,000
My best friend, Richie,
knows me better than anyone.

613
00:23:26,042 --> 00:23:28,417
So we have a lot of trust
with one another.

614
00:23:28,500 --> 00:23:30,333
So he can speak as freely
as he wants

615
00:23:30,458 --> 00:23:32,792
without me having to worry
if he's holding back.

616
00:23:32,875 --> 00:23:35,500
Even though Emily and I
are in a better place,

617
00:23:35,625 --> 00:23:38,000
I just want his honesty.

618
00:23:38,083 --> 00:23:39,833
So I feel like he can give
the best advice

619
00:23:39,958 --> 00:23:41,958
about how to keep
the momentum going.

620
00:23:42,042 --> 00:23:43,833
♪

621
00:23:43,958 --> 00:23:45,500
- How's it been going?

622
00:23:45,583 --> 00:23:47,333
- It's been challenging,
you know.

623
00:23:47,375 --> 00:23:50,292
I'm not used to not having
a romantic element

624
00:23:50,375 --> 00:23:52,333
in my relationship.

625
00:23:52,375 --> 00:23:53,875
But, like, we get along
really well,

626
00:23:53,958 --> 00:23:56,833
and we have a lot of fun
together, so...

627
00:23:56,958 --> 00:23:58,708
- What do
the experts recommend

628
00:23:58,833 --> 00:24:01,708
about how you can
move past that?

629
00:24:01,792 --> 00:24:03,250
- They're recommending
that we just continue

630
00:24:03,333 --> 00:24:05,500
to get deeper and focus

631
00:24:05,583 --> 00:24:09,000
on the emotional connection.

632
00:24:09,083 --> 00:24:10,667
- That's good.

633
00:24:10,792 --> 00:24:13,250
But also, I think actions
speak louder than words

634
00:24:13,333 --> 00:24:14,833
as far
as romantic connections go.

635
00:24:14,875 --> 00:24:16,458
- Right.

636
00:24:16,542 --> 00:24:18,792
I've been making an effort
to, like, try to hug more

637
00:24:18,875 --> 00:24:21,042
and see if that,
like, helps anything.

638
00:24:21,167 --> 00:24:23,417
We're doing, I think,
all the little things

639
00:24:23,500 --> 00:24:25,458
that expand
on the emotional connection.

640
00:24:25,458 --> 00:24:27,500
Like, I definitely feel
closer to her.

641
00:24:27,583 --> 00:24:29,333
- I don't know, I think
you can get stuck in your head

642
00:24:29,417 --> 00:24:31,000
sometimes about things.

643
00:24:31,042 --> 00:24:34,708
You know, if your roommate
leaves something out

644
00:24:34,792 --> 00:24:36,500
and you'll just be
pissed at the roommate.

645
00:24:36,583 --> 00:24:37,708
It's happened
with relationships

646
00:24:37,792 --> 00:24:39,208
in the past, you know?

647
00:24:39,333 --> 00:24:40,958
There could be one little
thing that bothers you.

648
00:24:40,958 --> 00:24:42,292
And that one little thing
will trump

649
00:24:42,375 --> 00:24:44,042
any other connection you have.

650
00:24:44,125 --> 00:24:46,167
And once that thought
gets in your brain,

651
00:24:46,208 --> 00:24:48,792
like, I think it's hard for
you to maybe snap out of it.

652
00:24:48,875 --> 00:24:50,500
So I worry that in your head,

653
00:24:50,542 --> 00:24:52,083
you said there's no
romantic connection,

654
00:24:52,208 --> 00:24:53,583
and now you're kind of--

655
00:24:53,667 --> 00:24:55,000
I don't want you
to close your doors

656
00:24:55,083 --> 00:24:56,833
to the opportunity
that it could happen.

657
00:24:56,917 --> 00:24:58,500
The only way
you're going to get there

658
00:24:58,542 --> 00:24:59,833
is if you try to do things
outside of what

659
00:24:59,917 --> 00:25:02,000
you're told you have to do.

660
00:25:02,083 --> 00:25:03,875
- Last week, we were
having lunch together,

661
00:25:04,042 --> 00:25:05,333
having dinner together.

662
00:25:05,417 --> 00:25:08,667
Does that, like, make you
feel comfortable

663
00:25:08,750 --> 00:25:11,958
that I am giving it my all
and doing things differently?

664
00:25:12,042 --> 00:25:13,875
- I could get lunch with my
friend, you know what I mean?

665
00:25:13,958 --> 00:25:15,625
Like, I don't know,
I'm not trying

666
00:25:15,708 --> 00:25:17,583
to have a romantic
relationship with, like, you,

667
00:25:17,667 --> 00:25:19,125
you know what I mean?

668
00:25:19,208 --> 00:25:21,125
I don't know, I just feel
like, be flirtatious,

669
00:25:21,125 --> 00:25:24,292
be fun, be easygoing.

670
00:25:24,375 --> 00:25:26,458
Don't make
these things chores.

671
00:25:26,542 --> 00:25:27,750
In your head, do you think,

672
00:25:27,833 --> 00:25:29,333
"I'm doing everything
perfectly

673
00:25:29,458 --> 00:25:30,542
"and there's nothing
I can do differently.

674
00:25:30,667 --> 00:25:31,833
It's just
kind of not there yet"?

675
00:25:31,875 --> 00:25:33,167
Or is there something
that you think

676
00:25:33,250 --> 00:25:34,625
you can try to improve on?

677
00:25:34,708 --> 00:25:36,667
- I don't think
I'm doing everything perfect.

678
00:25:36,750 --> 00:25:40,375
Like, I think I can definitely
be better, like, with my words

679
00:25:40,458 --> 00:25:42,792
and expressing myself better.

680
00:25:42,875 --> 00:25:44,333
- I mean, it sounds like
you get along pretty well

681
00:25:44,417 --> 00:25:46,500
as friends,
which, being friends is

682
00:25:46,542 --> 00:25:48,000
an important part
of a relationship

683
00:25:48,083 --> 00:25:50,583
for the foundation,
but it's important,

684
00:25:50,667 --> 00:25:52,000
like I know
with my relationship,

685
00:25:52,042 --> 00:25:54,292
that you have to make time
for each other.

686
00:25:54,375 --> 00:25:57,958
Make sure you're asking her
how her day was,

687
00:25:58,042 --> 00:26:00,417
make sure
you're giving her hugs.

688
00:26:00,542 --> 00:26:01,958
I just think
that you're getting

689
00:26:02,042 --> 00:26:04,875
too stuck in the motions
of adapting to,

690
00:26:04,958 --> 00:26:06,875
"This is what life should be."

691
00:26:06,958 --> 00:26:10,667
And I think that's why
maybe you're not there yet.

692
00:26:10,750 --> 00:26:13,875
- I kind of feel
a little stuck right now,

693
00:26:13,875 --> 00:26:16,500
but we're going to try to talk
about more serious stuff

694
00:26:16,542 --> 00:26:18,750
this week
to see if that can help,

695
00:26:18,833 --> 00:26:20,750
like, expand
the emotional connection.

696
00:26:20,833 --> 00:26:23,250
Like, unpack more family stuff.
- Yeah.

697
00:26:23,333 --> 00:26:24,833
I think those conversations
can definitely help.

698
00:26:24,917 --> 00:26:26,833
Because once you get
to know somebody

699
00:26:26,917 --> 00:26:29,417
on such a deeper level,
I feel like the connection

700
00:26:29,500 --> 00:26:30,667
could get stronger,
which could lead

701
00:26:30,750 --> 00:26:32,458
to more romantic connection.

702
00:26:32,458 --> 00:26:34,000
Do you think
there is a possibility

703
00:26:34,083 --> 00:26:37,833
that there is a chance
it does click at some point?

704
00:26:37,875 --> 00:26:39,583
- That it does click?
- Yeah.

705
00:26:39,667 --> 00:26:42,042
- Emily is, like, one
of the most wonderful humans

706
00:26:42,167 --> 00:26:43,083
I've ever met.

707
00:26:43,167 --> 00:26:46,292
Like, she's very caring,
she's very giving,

708
00:26:46,375 --> 00:26:48,833
and she's very just sweet.

709
00:26:48,875 --> 00:26:50,667
I think, you know,
she's amazing.

710
00:26:50,750 --> 00:26:54,208
So I'm hoping
the romance part will come.

711
00:26:54,333 --> 00:26:57,625
- ♪ I won't back down

712
00:26:57,708 --> 00:27:01,375
[upbeat music]

713
00:27:01,500 --> 00:27:03,292
- I have a question.

714
00:27:03,375 --> 00:27:04,333
- What is your question?

715
00:27:04,375 --> 00:27:05,333
- This is my microphone.

716
00:27:05,417 --> 00:27:06,417
- I see that.

717
00:27:06,542 --> 00:27:09,667
- Why are you nervous tonight?

718
00:27:09,750 --> 00:27:13,667
- You know, I feel like
before a big game,

719
00:27:13,750 --> 00:27:16,375
a little nerves
are to be expected.

720
00:27:16,375 --> 00:27:17,917
- What game
are we playing here?

721
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,875
- The big game is
the meeting with the experts.

722
00:27:19,958 --> 00:27:22,042
Those are always the big games.

723
00:27:22,125 --> 00:27:24,292
- What about Dr. P
makes you nervous?

724
00:27:24,375 --> 00:27:26,000
- Um...

725
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:27,750
- I know sex isn't
your favorite topic to cover

726
00:27:27,833 --> 00:27:29,417
on national television.

727
00:27:29,542 --> 00:27:31,833
- Yeah, that's right too.

728
00:27:31,875 --> 00:27:33,917
- Could that be part of what's
contributing to your nerves?

729
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,000
- Yeah, that makes sense.
[chuckles]

730
00:27:37,083 --> 00:27:41,667
Like, obviously, we move
at different paces.

731
00:27:41,667 --> 00:27:45,167
And that can cause...

732
00:27:45,250 --> 00:27:46,833
grinding.

733
00:27:46,917 --> 00:27:48,583
Maybe that's not
the right word.

734
00:27:48,667 --> 00:27:50,292
- [laughing]
- Friction?

735
00:27:50,375 --> 00:27:54,625
Or--and, you know,
just might be nice to tell

736
00:27:54,708 --> 00:27:57,542
the doctor about, like--

737
00:27:57,667 --> 00:28:00,333
it'll be good to talk
with you about--

738
00:28:00,458 --> 00:28:02,417
and Pia about that.

739
00:28:02,500 --> 00:28:05,083
What are you going to ask her?

740
00:28:05,083 --> 00:28:08,500
- I kind of just want
to hear her thoughts.

741
00:28:08,583 --> 00:28:14,500
I also just want to ask her,
like, how do I stay patient?

742
00:28:14,583 --> 00:28:17,667
[soft music]

743
00:28:17,708 --> 00:28:20,417
And also
how to make you comfortable.

744
00:28:20,500 --> 00:28:22,833
- I think you're doing a good
job making me comfortable.

745
00:28:22,875 --> 00:28:25,500
- Does the pre-pickle help?

746
00:28:25,625 --> 00:28:27,542
- No. No, it doesn't.

747
00:28:27,542 --> 00:28:29,625
[laughs]

748
00:28:29,708 --> 00:28:32,375
[knock at door]

749
00:28:32,500 --> 00:28:33,417
You ready to do this?

750
00:28:33,417 --> 00:28:34,375
- Mm-hmm.

751
00:28:34,375 --> 00:28:35,333
- Great.

752
00:28:35,375 --> 00:28:37,958
♪

753
00:28:38,042 --> 00:28:39,708
- ♪ Sometimes
you're misunderstood ♪

754
00:28:39,875 --> 00:28:41,333
♪ When your intentions
are good ♪

755
00:28:41,458 --> 00:28:43,500
♪ You feel like screaming,
but no one hears you ♪

756
00:28:43,625 --> 00:28:44,667
- Hello.
- Hello.

757
00:28:44,792 --> 00:28:45,750
- Welcome to our home.

758
00:28:45,833 --> 00:28:46,750
You look so cute.

759
00:28:46,833 --> 00:28:48,167
- Thank you.

760
00:28:48,250 --> 00:28:49,500
Good to see you.
- Hey.

761
00:28:49,583 --> 00:28:51,333
- Good to see you as well.

762
00:28:51,375 --> 00:28:53,167
All right.
- Yeah. Follow us.

763
00:28:53,250 --> 00:28:55,583
- Follow y'all.

764
00:28:55,667 --> 00:28:57,792
Right. Sit here? OK.
- Yeah.

765
00:28:57,875 --> 00:29:00,083
That's yours.

766
00:29:00,167 --> 00:29:02,333
Post up here.

767
00:29:02,375 --> 00:29:05,042
- So tell me, how have things
been since we last met?

768
00:29:05,125 --> 00:29:07,333
- Um...

769
00:29:07,375 --> 00:29:09,000
- It's been good.
- Yeah.

770
00:29:09,125 --> 00:29:11,083
Yeah.
They've been good, for sure.

771
00:29:11,167 --> 00:29:13,167
- I know the last time
that we talked,

772
00:29:13,208 --> 00:29:15,917
intimacy was something
that we were working toward

773
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:19,875
improving upon
and gaining more comfort.

774
00:29:19,958 --> 00:29:22,292
And I know we said, OK,

775
00:29:22,375 --> 00:29:24,208
we're not going to talk about
intercourse right now,

776
00:29:24,333 --> 00:29:25,667
but that doesn't mean
that other things

777
00:29:25,750 --> 00:29:27,125
are off the table.

778
00:29:27,208 --> 00:29:29,542
And I'm curious, like,
how has that been?

779
00:29:29,667 --> 00:29:32,000
- Hmm...

780
00:29:32,042 --> 00:29:37,208
say it's been a little slower
than anticipated.

781
00:29:37,292 --> 00:29:39,333
I just feel like
the time has flown by,

782
00:29:39,375 --> 00:29:43,000
and we haven't really,
like, progressed that much.

783
00:29:43,042 --> 00:29:44,542
- Yeah.

784
00:29:44,625 --> 00:29:48,750
- Which I feel bad about,
and it's, like, mostly on me.

785
00:29:48,833 --> 00:29:50,667
- I appreciate you owning that.

786
00:29:50,708 --> 00:29:53,708
Can we maybe talk about
what's the barrier?

787
00:29:53,833 --> 00:29:56,167
- I mean, I typically just like
to move slow.

788
00:29:56,250 --> 00:29:57,833
And there's been a couple
of times when we have been,

789
00:29:57,917 --> 00:29:59,958
but it hasn't been--

790
00:30:00,042 --> 00:30:03,875
it hasn't gone exceedingly far,
right?

791
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,500
- You said there's a couple
times where we have been.

792
00:30:05,542 --> 00:30:06,708
Have been...

793
00:30:06,792 --> 00:30:09,500
- Like, intimate and, like,

794
00:30:09,583 --> 00:30:10,750
rolled around in bed and...

795
00:30:10,833 --> 00:30:12,375
- OK.
- Had fun.

796
00:30:12,500 --> 00:30:13,708
- How was that?

797
00:30:13,792 --> 00:30:15,042
- It's great when it happens.

798
00:30:15,125 --> 00:30:17,042
I think that's something
that, like,

799
00:30:17,125 --> 00:30:19,333
has been, like, surprisingly
difficult for me,

800
00:30:19,417 --> 00:30:21,250
because, like, I haven't had
a relationship

801
00:30:21,375 --> 00:30:24,417
that moves this slowly,

802
00:30:24,500 --> 00:30:27,333
or, like, a relationship
where I don't feel, like,

803
00:30:27,417 --> 00:30:30,500
as desired as I have
in past relationships.

804
00:30:30,542 --> 00:30:32,167
And it's been difficult.
- Hmm.

805
00:30:32,250 --> 00:30:33,750
- Well, and that's
what I want to squash,

806
00:30:33,833 --> 00:30:36,292
is, like, that she feels
a lack of desire,

807
00:30:36,375 --> 00:30:38,000
because, like,
the desire is there.

808
00:30:38,125 --> 00:30:41,500
I just, like, tend to move
slower than most.

809
00:30:41,583 --> 00:30:44,333
- When you hear him say, like,
"No, I absolutely desire you.

810
00:30:44,417 --> 00:30:47,167
I just need more time,"
what comes up for you?

811
00:30:47,250 --> 00:30:50,708
- It feels hard
because, like, I desire him.

812
00:30:50,792 --> 00:30:53,292
And for me,
it's hard to understand

813
00:30:53,375 --> 00:30:56,958
how he could desire me and then
also not want to show it.

814
00:30:57,042 --> 00:30:59,208
- Yeah. No, I know.
- I think he's hot.

815
00:30:59,292 --> 00:31:00,958
- You're ready.
- Oh, yeah.

816
00:31:01,042 --> 00:31:02,333
- Yeah.
- I mean, even just ready

817
00:31:02,375 --> 00:31:04,958
for, like, a longer make-out
every now and then.

818
00:31:05,042 --> 00:31:07,333
Like, I don't need, like--

819
00:31:07,417 --> 00:31:08,708
- But we do that.

820
00:31:08,792 --> 00:31:10,250
And we've, like,
been doing it more,

821
00:31:10,333 --> 00:31:13,000
and granted it hasn't been
that much recently, but--

822
00:31:13,083 --> 00:31:15,833
- So, OK, I mean, your wife is
saying she thinks you're hot.

823
00:31:15,917 --> 00:31:19,083
She is so ready
and willing to do whatever.

824
00:31:19,167 --> 00:31:20,500
Well, those are my words,
not yours.

825
00:31:20,500 --> 00:31:21,667
She's waiting.

826
00:31:21,708 --> 00:31:23,250
She's ready.
- Yeah.

827
00:31:23,333 --> 00:31:25,750
- And I'm curious,
what might be holding you back

828
00:31:25,875 --> 00:31:28,292
from taking things
a little bit further?

829
00:31:28,375 --> 00:31:29,583
- I don't know.

830
00:31:29,667 --> 00:31:30,792
Because, yeah,
we definitely have,

831
00:31:30,875 --> 00:31:32,083
like, an emotional connection.
- Mm-hmm.

832
00:31:32,083 --> 00:31:33,875
- The first part of this,

833
00:31:33,958 --> 00:31:36,000
it was just, like,
wanting to wait

834
00:31:36,083 --> 00:31:38,000
till, like, I was more ready.

835
00:31:38,083 --> 00:31:40,583
And then, like, we started
talking about it.

836
00:31:40,667 --> 00:31:43,375
And then it seemed like that's
all we did was talk about it.

837
00:31:43,458 --> 00:31:45,083
I think, like, the pressure,
like, kind of built

838
00:31:45,208 --> 00:31:48,167
and, like, get more
in my head about it.

839
00:31:48,292 --> 00:31:49,542
And now I'm, like,
questioning myself.

840
00:31:49,625 --> 00:31:53,167
Because a spotlight has been
shone on this, like,

841
00:31:53,208 --> 00:31:54,792
now I'm in my head about it.

842
00:31:54,875 --> 00:31:56,167
- Which is hard
because I don't want to--

843
00:31:56,250 --> 00:31:58,167
like, that's
what it has felt like,

844
00:31:58,250 --> 00:32:00,375
is that--like, a favor to me.

845
00:32:00,500 --> 00:32:02,042
- Mm-hmm.

846
00:32:02,125 --> 00:32:03,333
- And I don't want it
to come off that way.

847
00:32:03,500 --> 00:32:06,500
But now I feel like no matter
what I, like, try to do,

848
00:32:06,542 --> 00:32:08,333
like, it feels like--
it feels like it's tainted

849
00:32:08,417 --> 00:32:10,250
or something.

850
00:32:10,333 --> 00:32:12,208
- That--I appreciate the way
that you're explaining this

851
00:32:12,292 --> 00:32:14,333
because now it's registering
to me a little bit better

852
00:32:14,417 --> 00:32:16,333
where it's like, there's been
so much of a spotlight.

853
00:32:16,417 --> 00:32:17,917
There's all this
pressure around, like,

854
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,042
OK, we're waiting for Austin
to be ready to have sex.

855
00:32:20,042 --> 00:32:22,167
And so that's, like you said,
putting you

856
00:32:22,208 --> 00:32:24,000
in your head of, like,
"OK, well, now I'm

857
00:32:24,042 --> 00:32:25,333
"very conscious of when
I'm going to make a move,

858
00:32:25,375 --> 00:32:26,417
when I'm not going
to make a move."

859
00:32:26,500 --> 00:32:27,917
Like, almost like
this hypervigilance.

860
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,417
- Yeah, yeah.
- And it sounds like

861
00:32:29,542 --> 00:32:31,417
it's perhaps, like, taking away
the excitement

862
00:32:31,500 --> 00:32:32,708
or any kind of excitement
that there could be.

863
00:32:32,708 --> 00:32:34,333
- Yeah.

864
00:32:34,375 --> 00:32:35,958
- So I want to help you
with this challenge, right?

865
00:32:36,042 --> 00:32:38,292
Like, when you all
have fooled around,

866
00:32:38,375 --> 00:32:41,708
was there something that made
you stop taking it further?

867
00:32:41,792 --> 00:32:42,917
Like, what were you
thinking about?

868
00:32:43,042 --> 00:32:44,125
- I think it's all in my head.

869
00:32:44,208 --> 00:32:46,083
And I think
I just need to, like--

870
00:32:46,167 --> 00:32:47,375
- Get out of your head?
- Get out of my head.

871
00:32:47,375 --> 00:32:48,333
- Mm-hmm.

872
00:32:48,375 --> 00:32:50,333
So I think
what I'm hearing is that

873
00:32:50,417 --> 00:32:52,625
perhaps a little bit more
of the foreplay is missing.

874
00:32:52,708 --> 00:32:55,125
And I'm curious if that
might be

875
00:32:55,208 --> 00:32:56,458
part of the barrier for you,
where it's like,

876
00:32:56,542 --> 00:32:58,083
I'm supposed to turn this on,
turn it off, right?

877
00:32:58,083 --> 00:33:00,250
Like, more of a foreplay
leading up to it.

878
00:33:00,333 --> 00:33:03,250
And foreplay doesn't have
to be physical, right?

879
00:33:03,333 --> 00:33:05,000
Is there a way
in which we can increase,

880
00:33:05,125 --> 00:33:06,667
like, your intimate
conversations

881
00:33:06,750 --> 00:33:08,042
throughout the day?

882
00:33:08,125 --> 00:33:09,333
So I hear you
where it's like, OK,

883
00:33:09,417 --> 00:33:11,833
we're not going to put down
like, "9:30 PM,

884
00:33:11,917 --> 00:33:13,500
we're going to be
intimate together," right?

885
00:33:13,583 --> 00:33:16,542
But more so of like,
"OK, tonight's the night."

886
00:33:16,625 --> 00:33:20,000
What does foreplay look like
to both of you?

887
00:33:20,125 --> 00:33:22,125
- I'm a firm believer,
like, you--

888
00:33:22,208 --> 00:33:25,167
that, like, foreplay doesn't
have to be sexual in any way.

889
00:33:25,250 --> 00:33:28,042
Like, it can literally be,
like, how you look at someone,

890
00:33:28,125 --> 00:33:31,250
like, how you text them, like,
how you touch their back.

891
00:33:31,250 --> 00:33:35,333
Like, it can be, like,
everyday things.

892
00:33:35,417 --> 00:33:37,000
Yeah, not even physical
in any way.

893
00:33:37,042 --> 00:33:38,542
- Mm-hmm.
- That's all new for me.

894
00:33:38,625 --> 00:33:40,625
- Ah. OK.

895
00:33:40,708 --> 00:33:43,917
So being that that's kind of,
like, where your mind is,

896
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:45,833
would you feel
comfortable initiating

897
00:33:45,958 --> 00:33:47,458
the foreplay earlier?

898
00:33:47,542 --> 00:33:49,875
- I think so,
but then this is what--

899
00:33:49,958 --> 00:33:51,875
I don't want him
to feel pressure.

900
00:33:51,958 --> 00:33:53,833
Because I feel like
that's what he's felt.

901
00:33:53,917 --> 00:33:56,167
He's expressed
that he's felt that before.

902
00:33:56,250 --> 00:33:57,667
- Yeah.
- If Becca sends you a text,

903
00:33:57,708 --> 00:33:59,333
like, while you're at work
and it's like, "Oh, my gosh,

904
00:33:59,375 --> 00:34:01,250
I can't wait to see you naked
tonight," or something,

905
00:34:01,333 --> 00:34:03,000
just whatever she might say,

906
00:34:03,125 --> 00:34:07,000
would that bring apart
a feeling of pressure for you?

907
00:34:07,083 --> 00:34:10,167
- I don't know.
We can try it.

908
00:34:10,250 --> 00:34:11,417
- Yeah, because I'm wondering
if it's like,

909
00:34:11,500 --> 00:34:13,167
we're talking around it
but not, like,

910
00:34:13,250 --> 00:34:14,833
doing it, essentially, right?

911
00:34:14,917 --> 00:34:18,000
And so if it was less of,
like, "Well, what might we do?

912
00:34:18,042 --> 00:34:19,208
"Or what might this be like?

913
00:34:19,292 --> 00:34:20,792
Or what's your turn-ons
and turn-offs?"

914
00:34:20,875 --> 00:34:22,667
And just get to it.
- Yeah.

915
00:34:22,750 --> 00:34:26,583
- So we're going to work
on removing expectations.

916
00:34:26,667 --> 00:34:30,375
Just removing the expectation
that anything needs

917
00:34:30,458 --> 00:34:32,083
to happen in a particular way.

918
00:34:32,167 --> 00:34:33,792
You all really care
about each other.

919
00:34:33,792 --> 00:34:35,250
You like each other.

920
00:34:35,375 --> 00:34:37,167
Y'all go together.
You're married, right?

921
00:34:37,292 --> 00:34:39,625
Like, this is serious.
This is real.

922
00:34:39,708 --> 00:34:42,000
I can tell that you all have
this connection.

923
00:34:42,125 --> 00:34:45,083
And there is, on both ends,
a desire for things

924
00:34:45,167 --> 00:34:46,875
to move forward a bit, right?

925
00:34:46,958 --> 00:34:49,792
And so can we go into it with,
"We're just going to explore

926
00:34:49,875 --> 00:34:51,292
each other's bodies"?
- Yeah.

927
00:34:51,375 --> 00:34:54,042
- "We're going to explore
our sexual chemistry,"

928
00:34:54,125 --> 00:34:57,208
create your own
sexual experience together.

929
00:34:57,333 --> 00:34:59,042
So let's just, like,
put a pin here.

930
00:34:59,125 --> 00:35:00,833
- Yeah.
- And y'all finish it together.

931
00:35:00,917 --> 00:35:02,833
OK. No pressure.
[laughs]

932
00:35:02,917 --> 00:35:05,167
- ♪ I don't know what it is,
but I keep dreaming ♪

933
00:35:05,250 --> 00:35:07,583
♪ I keep dreaming
'bout you, babe ♪

934
00:35:12,042 --> 00:35:13,625
- ♪ You know
that I got you on my mind ♪

935
00:35:13,625 --> 00:35:16,333
♪ I just really want
to get to know you ♪

936
00:35:16,417 --> 00:35:19,833
- All right,
we are one day away.

937
00:35:19,958 --> 00:35:21,708
Still not nervous,
but definitely

938
00:35:21,708 --> 00:35:23,917
a little bit more anxious.

939
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,833
You know, doing this again,
obviously,

940
00:35:26,875 --> 00:35:29,542
I know what the worst-case
scenario kind of feels like.

941
00:35:29,625 --> 00:35:33,667
So there's I think a little bit
of a reckoning there.

942
00:35:33,708 --> 00:35:37,500
But, you know, overall,
I feel confident

943
00:35:37,542 --> 00:35:39,375
that I'll be able
to remain optimistic.

944
00:35:39,500 --> 00:35:41,167
But I definitely acknowledge

945
00:35:41,250 --> 00:35:42,708
that I'm a little bit
more anxious.

946
00:35:42,833 --> 00:35:46,500
[upbeat music]

947
00:35:46,625 --> 00:35:51,250
- So here we are
getting our wedding nails done.

948
00:35:51,333 --> 00:35:53,208
Tomorrow is the big day!

949
00:35:53,375 --> 00:35:55,167
I can't believe it.

950
00:35:55,208 --> 00:36:00,000
I have got my bridesmaid,
Brandi, and my mom in tow.

951
00:36:00,083 --> 00:36:02,625
Here they are.
Here we go. Here we go.

952
00:36:02,708 --> 00:36:04,625
There we are!

953
00:36:04,708 --> 00:36:06,583
And there's Mom.

954
00:36:06,583 --> 00:36:08,500
We are doing all the things
to be beautiful

955
00:36:08,500 --> 00:36:10,083
for the big day tomorrow.

956
00:36:10,167 --> 00:36:11,000
We can't believe it's here.

957
00:36:11,083 --> 00:36:12,958
This is so fun.

958
00:36:13,042 --> 00:36:14,917
Here we go.

959
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,875
- ♪ I'm floating like a dream
through the city lights ♪

960
00:36:17,958 --> 00:36:22,000
♪

961
00:36:22,042 --> 00:36:24,250
- Ah, indoor turf.

962
00:36:24,333 --> 00:36:25,833
- Is this what you
normally played on?

963
00:36:25,917 --> 00:36:27,333
- Definitely not.

964
00:36:27,417 --> 00:36:29,500
I feel like they're
so different, outdoor-indoor,

965
00:36:29,583 --> 00:36:31,208
but indoor is
always really fun.

966
00:36:31,292 --> 00:36:32,542
- Watch this. Ready?

967
00:36:32,625 --> 00:36:33,667
Do you think
I can hit it from here?

968
00:36:33,708 --> 00:36:34,958
To that?

969
00:36:35,042 --> 00:36:36,083
- Go for it.

970
00:36:36,167 --> 00:36:38,792
[intense music]

971
00:36:38,875 --> 00:36:41,042
- Oh!
- So much power.

972
00:36:41,125 --> 00:36:42,917
♪

973
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:44,417
Oh.

974
00:36:44,500 --> 00:36:46,042
But I made it, I guess.

975
00:36:46,125 --> 00:36:48,542
♪

976
00:36:48,667 --> 00:36:51,792
That was, like, basically
my whole childhood growing up.

977
00:36:51,875 --> 00:36:54,250
- Yeah?
- Very competitive.

978
00:36:54,333 --> 00:36:56,208
It's basically how I spent
my weeks and weekends.

979
00:36:56,292 --> 00:36:57,583
- Uh-huh.

980
00:36:57,708 --> 00:36:59,875
- And then I played
in high school,

981
00:36:59,958 --> 00:37:03,500
played on a couple
premier teams.

982
00:37:03,542 --> 00:37:05,625
I was pretty good.
- How often did you play?

983
00:37:05,708 --> 00:37:07,250
- Three days a week,
and I would travel, like,

984
00:37:07,250 --> 00:37:09,333
out of the state every weekend
for a game.

985
00:37:09,417 --> 00:37:11,750
- Hmm.
- I was the captain.

986
00:37:11,833 --> 00:37:12,917
- Oh, wow.

987
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:14,750
- Soccer was big at our school.

988
00:37:14,833 --> 00:37:16,250
- That's awesome.

989
00:37:16,333 --> 00:37:18,042
- Should we play, like,
a one-on-one situation?

990
00:37:18,125 --> 00:37:19,083
- Yeah, let's do it.

991
00:37:19,167 --> 00:37:20,792
[upbeat music]

992
00:37:20,875 --> 00:37:22,292
OK.

993
00:37:22,375 --> 00:37:24,500
Oh, dude!
[laughs]

994
00:37:24,542 --> 00:37:25,833
I'll keep it inside the bounds.
Hold on.

995
00:37:25,917 --> 00:37:29,083
- Whoopie!
- [laughs]

996
00:37:29,208 --> 00:37:31,292
What--oh, no, you can't!

997
00:37:31,375 --> 00:37:33,833
- Whee!
- Whoa! Nice.

998
00:37:33,917 --> 00:37:35,875
♪

999
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:37,792
Ooh. Boop!

1000
00:37:37,875 --> 00:37:39,042
Oh, no!

1001
00:37:39,125 --> 00:37:40,958
Wide open.

1002
00:37:41,042 --> 00:37:43,042
- Wish I had
all my foot skills.

1003
00:37:43,167 --> 00:37:45,833
- Ooh. Ooh.

1004
00:37:45,917 --> 00:37:46,917
Nice.
- Ah!

1005
00:37:47,042 --> 00:37:48,333
- Good shot.

1006
00:37:48,417 --> 00:37:49,625
I'm impressed
with Emily's soccer skills.

1007
00:37:49,708 --> 00:37:51,500
She busted a good move on me.

1008
00:37:51,625 --> 00:37:55,375
And all the little moments
of having a good time together

1009
00:37:55,458 --> 00:37:57,208
and bouncing back
really goes a long way.

1010
00:37:57,292 --> 00:37:58,917
So it just feels really good.

1011
00:37:58,917 --> 00:38:00,250
- [sighs]

1012
00:38:00,333 --> 00:38:03,042
- That was fun.
- That was fun.

1013
00:38:03,125 --> 00:38:04,500
- Kicked my butt.

1014
00:38:04,583 --> 00:38:06,250
- I started at being the worst
and somehow made

1015
00:38:06,333 --> 00:38:08,250
my way up to, like, the best.

1016
00:38:08,333 --> 00:38:10,833
And I think
that's me wanting that.

1017
00:38:10,917 --> 00:38:12,375
My dad definitely pushed me.

1018
00:38:12,458 --> 00:38:14,167
On the state team,
my dad coached.

1019
00:38:14,208 --> 00:38:16,000
Played goalie there
for a hot sec.

1020
00:38:16,042 --> 00:38:17,833
And then, I don't know,
I just got, like, really fast

1021
00:38:17,917 --> 00:38:19,167
and, like, good.

1022
00:38:19,292 --> 00:38:21,500
It was, like,
a lot of practice.

1023
00:38:21,583 --> 00:38:23,375
- I could definitely relate
to that.

1024
00:38:23,375 --> 00:38:25,125
When I, like, started
playing soccer and baseball,

1025
00:38:25,208 --> 00:38:29,833
like, I was very bad and then
kind of came into my own.

1026
00:38:29,917 --> 00:38:31,500
And it, like, clicked for me.
- Mm-hmm.

1027
00:38:31,583 --> 00:38:32,833
- When I was, like, 13,
I was like,

1028
00:38:32,875 --> 00:38:34,583
"Oh, wait, I can do this,"

1029
00:38:34,708 --> 00:38:38,125
and vowed never to be
the worst again.

1030
00:38:38,208 --> 00:38:39,542
- Yeah.

1031
00:38:39,625 --> 00:38:42,500
My dad would buy me,
like, VHS tapes.

1032
00:38:42,625 --> 00:38:44,792
Bought me all this [bleep]
to, like, play out in the yard

1033
00:38:44,875 --> 00:38:48,333
and made me do, like,
speed clinics, soccer camps

1034
00:38:48,417 --> 00:38:49,875
that I didn't want to do.

1035
00:38:49,958 --> 00:38:51,583
Sometimes I feel like
it took away from me,

1036
00:38:51,708 --> 00:38:53,000
like, loving the sport
because it was

1037
00:38:53,042 --> 00:38:55,667
just so much all the time.

1038
00:38:55,792 --> 00:38:59,042
- Yeah, sometimes I wish I had,
like, an extra push, though.

1039
00:38:59,125 --> 00:39:00,167
I like being coached.

1040
00:39:00,292 --> 00:39:01,500
I like getting better.

1041
00:39:01,583 --> 00:39:03,375
And when you do it
all by yourself,

1042
00:39:03,500 --> 00:39:04,750
it kind of slows that,
you know?

1043
00:39:04,833 --> 00:39:06,542
- Yeah.
- And I think if I had,

1044
00:39:06,625 --> 00:39:09,417
like, a coach
pushing me to be better,

1045
00:39:09,542 --> 00:39:10,958
you know, I probably
would have got better

1046
00:39:11,042 --> 00:39:13,958
and maybe would have made
my high school teams.

1047
00:39:14,042 --> 00:39:15,875
- There were just times where
I think when I was younger,

1048
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,333
I didn't see, like,
why my dad was pushing me

1049
00:39:18,417 --> 00:39:19,875
as hard as he did.
He would, like, yell at me.

1050
00:39:19,958 --> 00:39:21,500
He's like, "You don't
understand how good you are."

1051
00:39:21,542 --> 00:39:22,667
And, like, I don't know
why it was.

1052
00:39:22,750 --> 00:39:24,125
It was really hard
for me to, like, think

1053
00:39:24,208 --> 00:39:25,958
I was really good at something.

1054
00:39:26,042 --> 00:39:28,708
I think it was also hard
with, like, the highs and lows

1055
00:39:28,792 --> 00:39:32,792
of, like, being pushed so hard,
getting yelled at,

1056
00:39:32,875 --> 00:39:35,833
but then, like, getting, like,
all, like, the praise.

1057
00:39:35,875 --> 00:39:38,458
Like, it was just--it was
a lot, I think, to handle

1058
00:39:38,542 --> 00:39:40,750
when you're, like,
growing up like that.

1059
00:39:40,833 --> 00:39:42,500
- Do you think
that was, like, refreshing

1060
00:39:42,500 --> 00:39:43,833
that your dad believed in you
so much?

1061
00:39:43,917 --> 00:39:45,333
- Yeah.

1062
00:39:45,417 --> 00:39:47,000
- Do you think
that, like, helped boost

1063
00:39:47,083 --> 00:39:49,167
your confidence later on?

1064
00:39:49,250 --> 00:39:50,500
- Yeah.

1065
00:39:50,542 --> 00:39:51,500
I think that's where
I got a lot

1066
00:39:51,583 --> 00:39:54,542
of, like, my leadership skills.

1067
00:39:54,625 --> 00:39:57,375
- Definitely doesn't surprise
me that you were captain.

1068
00:39:57,458 --> 00:39:59,458
You know, I feel like you're
very charismatic

1069
00:39:59,542 --> 00:40:04,167
and strong and caring

1070
00:40:04,250 --> 00:40:07,500
and like to take charge
in situations.

1071
00:40:07,625 --> 00:40:10,458
So I think that speaks
to a good leader

1072
00:40:10,542 --> 00:40:11,667
and a good captain.

1073
00:40:11,750 --> 00:40:13,667
- Wasn't always easy, but yeah.

1074
00:40:13,708 --> 00:40:17,625
It's a lot of highs and lows,
I guess.

1075
00:40:17,708 --> 00:40:18,833
- Yeah.

1076
00:40:18,958 --> 00:40:20,625
- I think, like,
the commitment to something--

1077
00:40:20,708 --> 00:40:22,375
because it got harder
as you got older.

1078
00:40:22,500 --> 00:40:23,917
Like, I never--like, I didn't
always want to go to--

1079
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:25,500
I always had to drive far
for practice,

1080
00:40:25,625 --> 00:40:27,000
drive far for the games.

1081
00:40:27,125 --> 00:40:31,167
But I don't give up on stuff
for my teams.

1082
00:40:31,208 --> 00:40:33,000
- Yeah.

1083
00:40:33,083 --> 00:40:34,000
- Or my people.

1084
00:40:34,083 --> 00:40:36,042
- Yeah.

1085
00:40:36,125 --> 00:40:39,375
- ♪ You've got to get lost
if you want to be found ♪

1086
00:40:39,458 --> 00:40:41,417
♪ If you wanna be found

1087
00:40:45,333 --> 00:40:46,708
[upbeat music]

1088
00:40:46,708 --> 00:40:52,000
♪

1089
00:40:52,042 --> 00:40:53,667
- They're happy?

1090
00:40:53,750 --> 00:40:56,333
- I think they would be happier
with one more friend.

1091
00:40:56,375 --> 00:40:58,250
- Yeah.
I say the more the merrier.

1092
00:40:58,333 --> 00:41:00,708
[knock at door]

1093
00:41:00,833 --> 00:41:03,417
Ooh. I wonder what that is.

1094
00:41:03,500 --> 00:41:04,833
- Aggressive knock.

1095
00:41:10,292 --> 00:41:13,000
Oh-ho-ho!

1096
00:41:13,042 --> 00:41:14,583
- What you making noises about
over there?

1097
00:41:14,667 --> 00:41:18,000
- It's like the Easter Bunny
but Dr. Pia.

1098
00:41:18,083 --> 00:41:20,292
As a Jew, this is exciting.

1099
00:41:20,375 --> 00:41:23,375
♪

1100
00:41:23,458 --> 00:41:24,875
- Ah, yes.

1101
00:41:24,958 --> 00:41:28,083
- Isn't this what was
in your Easter basket?

1102
00:41:28,208 --> 00:41:30,708
Did you have a vibrator
in your Easter basket?

1103
00:41:30,833 --> 00:41:32,167
- Did not.

1104
00:41:32,250 --> 00:41:34,708
- How about these?
- That's new.

1105
00:41:34,708 --> 00:41:37,792
Um...
[laughs]

1106
00:41:37,875 --> 00:41:39,292
[quirky music]

1107
00:41:39,375 --> 00:41:41,333
Chocolate fruit?

1108
00:41:41,375 --> 00:41:43,750
- Soy massage candle.

1109
00:41:43,875 --> 00:41:45,917
♪

1110
00:41:46,042 --> 00:41:47,583
- Ooh.

1111
00:41:47,667 --> 00:41:50,917
- Smells like sex.
- [laughs]

1112
00:41:51,042 --> 00:41:53,042
- OK.

1113
00:41:53,125 --> 00:41:54,958
"To enhance trust,
you and your partner will do

1114
00:41:55,042 --> 00:41:58,167
"a blindfold obstacle course
around the home.

1115
00:41:58,250 --> 00:42:00,500
"After each obstacle
is cleared,

1116
00:42:00,667 --> 00:42:02,000
"the one leading should reveal

1117
00:42:02,083 --> 00:42:04,333
something intimate
about themselves."

1118
00:42:04,417 --> 00:42:07,042
All right.
- Sounds good.

1119
00:42:07,125 --> 00:42:08,417
Are there any more--

1120
00:42:08,500 --> 00:42:10,458
- Let's turn this place
into a jungle gym.

1121
00:42:10,542 --> 00:42:13,208
- ♪ As long as I'm here
on this Earth ♪

1122
00:42:13,333 --> 00:42:15,833
[upbeat music]

1123
00:42:15,917 --> 00:42:18,750
♪ You don't have to worry
'bout nothing ♪

1124
00:42:18,833 --> 00:42:24,042
♪ But me loving you,
loving you ♪

1125
00:42:24,125 --> 00:42:26,625
♪ Nothing but me

1126
00:42:26,708 --> 00:42:29,333
- All right, you know.

1127
00:42:29,417 --> 00:42:30,583
I think it's good.

1128
00:42:30,708 --> 00:42:33,333
Need more furniture.

1129
00:42:33,417 --> 00:42:35,333
All right, Becca.

1130
00:42:35,417 --> 00:42:37,583
I guess I got to come
and blindfold you.

1131
00:42:37,708 --> 00:42:39,375
- Bring me the blindfold.

1132
00:42:39,500 --> 00:42:42,042
- I'm coming.
I'm coming.

1133
00:42:42,042 --> 00:42:43,750
You're going to want
to take those off.

1134
00:42:43,833 --> 00:42:45,042
- [laughing]
These?

1135
00:42:45,125 --> 00:42:47,542
Oh, God.

1136
00:42:47,667 --> 00:42:48,875
You have a hair right there.

1137
00:42:48,958 --> 00:42:50,333
- Thank you.

1138
00:42:50,417 --> 00:42:51,417
- OK, I'll see you
on the other side.

1139
00:42:51,500 --> 00:42:53,375
- Yes, you will.

1140
00:42:53,500 --> 00:42:55,042
Come with me.

1141
00:42:55,125 --> 00:42:57,292
There we go.
Come on, keep coming.

1142
00:42:57,375 --> 00:42:58,625
A couple more big steps.

1143
00:42:58,708 --> 00:43:00,125
You're doing--
you're doing great.

1144
00:43:00,208 --> 00:43:02,667
- My eyes are my best feature,
and now you can't see them.

1145
00:43:02,750 --> 00:43:04,875
- All right.
- I already know there's one.

1146
00:43:04,958 --> 00:43:07,125
- [laughs]
Yes. All right, now stop.

1147
00:43:07,208 --> 00:43:11,000
Now, pick one leg up.

1148
00:43:11,083 --> 00:43:12,167
Higher.

1149
00:43:12,250 --> 00:43:14,000
Wait, pick your other leg up.

1150
00:43:14,042 --> 00:43:16,083
OK, yeah, that's good.
You're doing great.

1151
00:43:16,167 --> 00:43:19,458
- At the same time?
- All right, now step down.

1152
00:43:19,542 --> 00:43:20,833
Intimate.

1153
00:43:20,958 --> 00:43:24,250
Uh...

1154
00:43:24,333 --> 00:43:26,958
my feet are ticklish.

1155
00:43:27,042 --> 00:43:28,958
[both laugh]

1156
00:43:29,042 --> 00:43:31,958
All right, turn 30 degrees
to your right.

1157
00:43:32,042 --> 00:43:34,500
Just keep going a little more.

1158
00:43:34,625 --> 00:43:37,333
There you go.
Now walk three steps forward.

1159
00:43:37,375 --> 00:43:38,542
- How big steps?

1160
00:43:38,625 --> 00:43:41,500
- Bigger.

1161
00:43:41,542 --> 00:43:42,917
A little more.

1162
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:43,833
All right.

1163
00:43:43,875 --> 00:43:46,500
Now, put your hands down.

1164
00:43:46,542 --> 00:43:49,000
To the ground.

1165
00:43:49,167 --> 00:43:50,292
- Like a table?
Oh.

1166
00:43:50,375 --> 00:43:52,000
- There you go.

1167
00:43:52,042 --> 00:43:53,292
- OK.
- You gotta crawl over it.

1168
00:43:53,375 --> 00:43:57,625
- [laughs]

1169
00:43:57,708 --> 00:44:01,542
See you later, basket.
- [laughs]

1170
00:44:01,625 --> 00:44:03,375
Oh, another intimate thing.

1171
00:44:06,917 --> 00:44:10,833
I really like it
when you talk dirty.

1172
00:44:10,917 --> 00:44:12,083
- All right.
- Cool.

1173
00:44:12,083 --> 00:44:13,500
All right, stand.

1174
00:44:13,583 --> 00:44:16,125
♪

1175
00:44:16,208 --> 00:44:17,125
There we go.

1176
00:44:17,208 --> 00:44:18,333
Walk straight.

1177
00:44:18,417 --> 00:44:20,125
- Really?
- Yeah.

1178
00:44:20,208 --> 00:44:22,750
All right, now get
on your hands and knees.

1179
00:44:22,833 --> 00:44:25,833
[both laugh]
- Yes, master.

1180
00:44:25,917 --> 00:44:29,333
♪

1181
00:44:29,375 --> 00:44:31,208
- All right.
[laughs]

1182
00:44:31,292 --> 00:44:34,000
Crawl forward a little bit.
- Are you gonna ride me?

1183
00:44:34,083 --> 00:44:35,333
Which direction?
- Straight.

1184
00:44:35,417 --> 00:44:36,708
Just keep going straight.
- Into the window?

1185
00:44:36,792 --> 00:44:38,500
- I'll tell you when to pivot.

1186
00:44:38,583 --> 00:44:40,208
- That's the window.
- Keep going.

1187
00:44:40,292 --> 00:44:42,208
- I'm--is there
something above me?

1188
00:44:42,292 --> 00:44:43,333
- Yes, there will be.

1189
00:44:43,333 --> 00:44:45,625
Come on, you got this.

1190
00:44:45,708 --> 00:44:47,667
Keep coming.
Keep coming.

1191
00:44:47,792 --> 00:44:49,833
There we go.
There we go.

1192
00:44:49,917 --> 00:44:51,333
Killer.

1193
00:44:51,417 --> 00:44:53,000
You can stand now.

1194
00:44:53,083 --> 00:44:56,667
OK, intimate.
Intimate.

1195
00:44:56,750 --> 00:44:58,833
- [whispering]
Say something about my boobs.

1196
00:44:58,833 --> 00:45:00,417
- Does that count as intimate?

1197
00:45:00,542 --> 00:45:02,292
I mean--
- My boobs?

1198
00:45:02,375 --> 00:45:05,042
[both laugh]
That's pretty [bleep] intimate.

1199
00:45:05,167 --> 00:45:06,792
- Fair enough.
You have great [bleep].

1200
00:45:06,875 --> 00:45:09,375
[both laugh]
- OK.

1201
00:45:09,458 --> 00:45:12,833
And it was unprompted.
- [laughs]

1202
00:45:12,875 --> 00:45:15,000
Just come to me. Just run.
Just go for it.

1203
00:45:15,083 --> 00:45:17,125
- Honey. Honey.
- Come on.

1204
00:45:17,208 --> 00:45:19,833
- I am respecting the fact
that Austin

1205
00:45:19,958 --> 00:45:22,833
doesn't have the same
comfort level as I do.

1206
00:45:22,917 --> 00:45:25,000
But I'm definitely
feeling hopeful

1207
00:45:25,125 --> 00:45:29,333
and feeling like
if I just be patient,

1208
00:45:29,375 --> 00:45:31,542
good things will come.

1209
00:45:31,625 --> 00:45:34,000
- Come on, come on,
come on, come on.

1210
00:45:34,125 --> 00:45:36,833
Keep coming.
You're doing so good.

1211
00:45:36,917 --> 00:45:39,958
Oh.
- [laughs]

1212
00:45:40,042 --> 00:45:41,667
♪

1213
00:45:41,750 --> 00:45:43,708
We should do this every day.

1214
00:45:47,458 --> 00:45:49,000
- ♪ It's my time
and I'm taking my shot ♪

1215
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,167
♪ Oh

1216
00:45:50,250 --> 00:45:52,167
♪ Unafraid to give it
all that I've got ♪

1217
00:45:52,208 --> 00:45:54,167
- Hello. How are you?
- Good. How are you?

1218
00:45:54,208 --> 00:45:56,208
- Good. Oh, thank you.
- Thank you.

1219
00:45:56,292 --> 00:45:58,500
- I have a very aggressive
fabric moment happening, but...

1220
00:45:58,542 --> 00:45:59,667
- OK.
- You know.

1221
00:45:59,750 --> 00:46:01,375
- It smells really good
in here.

1222
00:46:01,458 --> 00:46:02,708
- Like garlic or candles?

1223
00:46:02,875 --> 00:46:04,000
- No, the candle smells good.
- Oh.

1224
00:46:04,125 --> 00:46:05,708
Smelled like garlic
for a while.

1225
00:46:05,833 --> 00:46:07,667
- All right, so we meet again.

1226
00:46:07,792 --> 00:46:08,667
- We do.

1227
00:46:08,792 --> 00:46:10,458
- OK.

1228
00:46:10,542 --> 00:46:12,375
So how are y'all feeling?

1229
00:46:12,458 --> 00:46:13,917
- Good.
- Yeah?

1230
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,458
So I hear that a lot has
happened and not happened

1231
00:46:16,583 --> 00:46:18,000
since I was last here, so--

1232
00:46:18,083 --> 00:46:19,208
- That's a great way
of putting it.

1233
00:46:19,292 --> 00:46:21,000
- I want to check in
and fill me in.

1234
00:46:21,042 --> 00:46:22,583
I want to hear from y'all.

1235
00:46:22,667 --> 00:46:23,750
- I feel good.

1236
00:46:23,833 --> 00:46:25,083
I feel like
we're in a good place,

1237
00:46:25,167 --> 00:46:26,958
having fun and just getting
to know each other

1238
00:46:27,042 --> 00:46:29,750
with a lot less pressure
involved, so...

1239
00:46:29,833 --> 00:46:31,667
- Yeah?
What about for you, Emily?

1240
00:46:31,708 --> 00:46:33,500
- I feel like the last talk
you were here

1241
00:46:33,542 --> 00:46:36,042
is when, like, everything
went, like, backwards again.

1242
00:46:36,125 --> 00:46:38,667
And then I feel like
there was more pushback

1243
00:46:38,750 --> 00:46:40,375
from your recommendations.

1244
00:46:40,458 --> 00:46:42,500
He was focusing on, like,
a few of the negatives.

1245
00:46:42,583 --> 00:46:44,167
- Hmm.

1246
00:46:44,208 --> 00:46:46,000
- I know we agreed
to do Pia's exercises,

1247
00:46:46,083 --> 00:46:49,167
but the touching one seemed
a little odd to me

1248
00:46:49,208 --> 00:46:53,958
to, like, force each other
to, like, touch.

1249
00:46:54,042 --> 00:46:56,583
- Would it feel productive
to talk about that now?

1250
00:46:56,667 --> 00:46:58,042
- I don't think so.

1251
00:46:58,125 --> 00:46:59,708
I just don't know
where this is coming from.

1252
00:46:59,833 --> 00:47:01,083
We had, like, such a good day
playing soccer.

1253
00:47:01,167 --> 00:47:03,000
So I think
we're in a good place now

1254
00:47:03,083 --> 00:47:05,667
and moving forward and not
really dwelling on the past

1255
00:47:05,750 --> 00:47:06,958
like we agreed.

1256
00:47:07,042 --> 00:47:08,000
- I know, but I feel like
it's important

1257
00:47:08,083 --> 00:47:09,292
because she was here last time

1258
00:47:09,375 --> 00:47:11,625
and now we're here
to, like, help understand

1259
00:47:11,708 --> 00:47:14,125
why nothing happened
and why we're here.

1260
00:47:14,208 --> 00:47:17,000
- We did do a version
of the touching exercise.

1261
00:47:17,083 --> 00:47:19,667
We said we would hug more
because that was better for us.

1262
00:47:19,750 --> 00:47:21,542
- OK.

1263
00:47:21,625 --> 00:47:23,292
- So we didn't do
an extreme amount of hugging,

1264
00:47:23,375 --> 00:47:26,083
but I think it was a little bit
more than normal.

1265
00:47:26,208 --> 00:47:29,417
- Yeah, but that was also
kind of, like, his rules.

1266
00:47:29,542 --> 00:47:32,042
[tense music]

1267
00:47:32,167 --> 00:47:34,125
- Yeah, so I'm just going
to say, like,

1268
00:47:34,208 --> 00:47:36,833
hearing that is just
really, really frustrating.

1269
00:47:36,917 --> 00:47:39,708
- Hearing what piece?
- The it's my idea.

1270
00:47:39,833 --> 00:47:41,167
It's my this, it's my that.

1271
00:47:41,292 --> 00:47:42,833
She--I tell her,
"What do you want to do?"

1272
00:47:42,917 --> 00:47:43,875
She says,
"Come up with something."

1273
00:47:43,958 --> 00:47:45,083
I come up with something.

1274
00:47:45,167 --> 00:47:46,750
She goes--I go, "Do you agree?"

1275
00:47:46,833 --> 00:47:48,208
"Yes, I agree."
"Do you like the idea?"

1276
00:47:48,292 --> 00:47:49,750
"Yes, let's do that."
"Perfect."

1277
00:47:49,875 --> 00:47:51,250
It's also because she said

1278
00:47:51,333 --> 00:47:53,292
we didn't do the exercises
at all.

1279
00:47:53,375 --> 00:47:55,333
So there was nothing,
and I'm just like--

1280
00:47:55,417 --> 00:47:57,083
- Well, the exercise
wasn't to hug.

1281
00:47:57,167 --> 00:47:58,708
So no, you didn't do
the exercise.

1282
00:47:58,792 --> 00:48:00,542
♪

1283
00:48:00,625 --> 00:48:03,708
Why do you think that happened?

1284
00:48:03,792 --> 00:48:05,542
From your perspective.

1285
00:48:05,625 --> 00:48:07,250
- Because he doesn't want to.

1286
00:48:07,333 --> 00:48:09,625
- Right.
Do you know why he doesn't?

1287
00:48:09,708 --> 00:48:12,250
♪

1288
00:48:12,333 --> 00:48:13,958
Why don't you ask?
- I feel like--

1289
00:48:14,042 --> 00:48:15,958
- [sighs]
- Hold on. What?

1290
00:48:16,042 --> 00:48:17,167
What is that about?

1291
00:48:17,292 --> 00:48:18,875
- Can we please,
like, shift gears

1292
00:48:18,958 --> 00:48:20,542
and talk about
something positive?

1293
00:48:20,667 --> 00:48:22,208
Because this is not.

1294
00:48:22,292 --> 00:48:23,500
And I'm sorry,
it's just not going to be

1295
00:48:23,583 --> 00:48:24,958
productive at this point.

1296
00:48:24,958 --> 00:48:27,000
Like, do you feel like
we're making progress?

1297
00:48:27,042 --> 00:48:27,958
- I don't know
where she's going.

1298
00:48:28,042 --> 00:48:29,583
So no, I don't know.

1299
00:48:29,667 --> 00:48:31,333
- She's asking you to ask me

1300
00:48:31,458 --> 00:48:33,042
the question you already know
the answer to.

1301
00:48:33,125 --> 00:48:35,333
- She just said
she doesn't know the answer.

1302
00:48:35,375 --> 00:48:38,792
So I'm noticing
a lot of pushback from you.

1303
00:48:38,875 --> 00:48:41,500
- Mm.

1304
00:48:41,583 --> 00:48:43,292
- And I'm not sure why that is.

1305
00:48:43,375 --> 00:48:45,125
So I'm going
to ask you directly.

1306
00:48:45,208 --> 00:48:47,458
Every time I am asking
a question of her,

1307
00:48:47,542 --> 00:48:49,042
you jump in and you say,

1308
00:48:49,125 --> 00:48:50,542
"This is not
where I want it to go.

1309
00:48:50,625 --> 00:48:52,458
This doesn't feel productive."
What is happening for you?

1310
00:48:52,542 --> 00:48:53,667
- Every time?

1311
00:48:53,750 --> 00:48:56,042
- More than not.
- OK.

1312
00:48:56,125 --> 00:48:58,750
- I'm experiencing it
as being pretty defensive.

1313
00:48:58,875 --> 00:49:00,208
- OK.

1314
00:49:00,333 --> 00:49:02,000
The intent of this
was to talk about

1315
00:49:02,042 --> 00:49:03,667
how we're going
to move forward,

1316
00:49:03,708 --> 00:49:07,333
not to talk about the past.

1317
00:49:07,458 --> 00:49:10,042
And I thought
we were on the same page

1318
00:49:10,125 --> 00:49:12,083
of what we wanted to accomplish
today.

1319
00:49:12,167 --> 00:49:13,833
- I'm hearing
two different versions.

1320
00:49:13,875 --> 00:49:15,125
I'm hearing from you,
"Everything is fine.

1321
00:49:15,250 --> 00:49:16,167
"Everything was great.
We worked through it.

1322
00:49:16,250 --> 00:49:17,333
"We talked about it.
I don't know

1323
00:49:17,375 --> 00:49:19,208
why this is happening,
what's going on."

1324
00:49:19,292 --> 00:49:21,667
I'm hearing from you that,
"Wait a minute,

1325
00:49:21,750 --> 00:49:23,250
"that's not
what my experience was.

1326
00:49:23,333 --> 00:49:25,208
I would like to have
more information."

1327
00:49:25,292 --> 00:49:27,750
It almost sounds like
you're holding back

1328
00:49:27,833 --> 00:49:29,958
from what
you truly are feeling,

1329
00:49:30,042 --> 00:49:31,333
what you want to say.

1330
00:49:31,375 --> 00:49:33,042
You're questioning yourself.

1331
00:49:33,167 --> 00:49:34,667
And I don't know if that's
because of my presence.

1332
00:49:34,750 --> 00:49:35,792
I don't know
if that's the dynamics

1333
00:49:35,875 --> 00:49:37,500
between the two of you.

1334
00:49:37,583 --> 00:49:41,167
I don't know what's going on,
so I'm trying to gain clarity.

1335
00:49:41,208 --> 00:49:43,833
- Yeah, sometimes I feel,

1336
00:49:43,917 --> 00:49:45,833
although I'm very open
and honest,

1337
00:49:45,875 --> 00:49:50,042
that sometimes,

1338
00:49:50,125 --> 00:49:56,042
if I say things
that don't align,

1339
00:49:56,125 --> 00:49:58,000
are good to hear, that yeah,

1340
00:49:58,083 --> 00:50:00,542
I feel like...

1341
00:50:00,625 --> 00:50:04,292
defensive comments, actions.

1342
00:50:04,375 --> 00:50:07,375
Brennan is a little reactive
off camera,

1343
00:50:07,458 --> 00:50:11,667
which isn't seen
because it's not

1344
00:50:11,750 --> 00:50:13,042
what he wants people to see.

1345
00:50:13,125 --> 00:50:15,542
I think that side of him
and just any sort

1346
00:50:15,625 --> 00:50:18,667
of negative connotation
around him, his actions,

1347
00:50:18,792 --> 00:50:21,708
his behavior are
all things he tries

1348
00:50:21,833 --> 00:50:25,125
to avoid being seen at all.

1349
00:50:25,208 --> 00:50:27,333
- I'm almost getting this idea
of, like, you being like--

1350
00:50:27,458 --> 00:50:30,167
saying yes
to what he's presenting,

1351
00:50:30,292 --> 00:50:33,500
even if it's not
what you truly want.

1352
00:50:33,542 --> 00:50:35,625
- Yeah, I would agree.

1353
00:50:35,708 --> 00:50:39,500
I feel like for a lot
of the turn of post-honeymoon,

1354
00:50:39,583 --> 00:50:42,875
that's been needed in order
to keep things, like, afloat

1355
00:50:42,958 --> 00:50:44,667
in a very delicate situation.

1356
00:50:44,708 --> 00:50:46,042
- OK.
- But that being said,

1357
00:50:46,167 --> 00:50:48,792
it doesn't mean I haven't
stuck up for myself

1358
00:50:48,875 --> 00:50:51,500
when I felt like
I haven't been spoken to

1359
00:50:51,500 --> 00:50:52,875
or treated well.

1360
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,167
But yeah, sometimes I--

1361
00:50:55,208 --> 00:50:56,500
it's easier to say yes.

1362
00:50:56,583 --> 00:50:58,333
♪

1363
00:50:58,458 --> 00:50:59,917
Yeah, I just wanted
to make sure

1364
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:02,000
that I'm thinking
about how I want

1365
00:51:02,083 --> 00:51:05,417
to address him

1366
00:51:05,542 --> 00:51:08,583
and make sure I'm, like, calm
before doing so.

1367
00:51:08,667 --> 00:51:11,042
- OK. OK.

1368
00:51:11,167 --> 00:51:14,125
Any comments that you have?

1369
00:51:14,208 --> 00:51:16,542
- She always speaks her mind,
and I have no idea

1370
00:51:16,667 --> 00:51:19,792
where this is coming from,
to be honest.

1371
00:51:19,792 --> 00:51:21,292
She tells me something
and goes,

1372
00:51:21,375 --> 00:51:22,833
"I don't know why I was
nervous to tell you that.

1373
00:51:22,917 --> 00:51:25,167
Like, you reacted greatly."

1374
00:51:25,292 --> 00:51:27,000
Then we come into this.

1375
00:51:27,083 --> 00:51:29,125
And she tells you,

1376
00:51:29,208 --> 00:51:30,667
"You know, I'm just nervous
to tell him things

1377
00:51:30,708 --> 00:51:32,167
because I'm worried about how
he's going to react."

1378
00:51:32,250 --> 00:51:33,667
- It's literally the same thing
that you just said.

1379
00:51:33,750 --> 00:51:35,542
- Yeah, but--OK.

1380
00:51:35,625 --> 00:51:37,917
♪

1381
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,958
- Do you think
you're being defensive?

1382
00:51:41,042 --> 00:51:46,208
- I think when someone comes
at you in a way that's unfair,

1383
00:51:46,292 --> 00:51:48,667
you're allowed
to defend yourself.

1384
00:51:48,708 --> 00:51:50,542
Had I known she wanted
to talk about this--

1385
00:51:50,667 --> 00:51:52,583
- That's not, like--
I'm answering her questions.

1386
00:51:52,667 --> 00:51:54,083
- OK.
- Right.

1387
00:51:54,208 --> 00:51:56,167
So I want to take
the blame for that.

1388
00:51:56,250 --> 00:51:58,292
Like, I am asking
these questions.

1389
00:51:58,375 --> 00:52:00,417
It is me sort of guiding
this conversation.

1390
00:52:00,500 --> 00:52:02,042
- We've given enough context.

1391
00:52:02,125 --> 00:52:03,958
And now I think--
- In your opinion.

1392
00:52:04,042 --> 00:52:05,167
- In my opinion, yes.

1393
00:52:05,250 --> 00:52:06,500
- Does her opinion matter?

1394
00:52:06,542 --> 00:52:07,542
- Of course.

1395
00:52:07,625 --> 00:52:09,167
- OK.

1396
00:52:09,292 --> 00:52:12,417
So she feels like there's
more context to be given.

1397
00:52:12,500 --> 00:52:15,667
I also want to ask of you,
Brennan, in your friendships,

1398
00:52:15,750 --> 00:52:18,375
do you talk about
difficult things?

1399
00:52:18,500 --> 00:52:20,000
- Yeah, all the time.
- OK.

1400
00:52:20,083 --> 00:52:21,208
Do you allow your friends

1401
00:52:21,292 --> 00:52:23,125
to maybe challenge you
or push you?

1402
00:52:23,208 --> 00:52:24,958
- Yeah, all the time.
- OK.

1403
00:52:25,042 --> 00:52:29,833
Do you feel comfortable with
Emily to be able to do that?

1404
00:52:29,917 --> 00:52:31,125
- I don't know.

1405
00:52:31,208 --> 00:52:34,042
- What are you feeling
right now?

1406
00:52:34,125 --> 00:52:36,500
- Just blindsided.

1407
00:52:36,542 --> 00:52:39,333
I thought
we were in a good place.

1408
00:52:39,417 --> 00:52:42,042
- Brennan, do you trust Emily?

1409
00:52:42,208 --> 00:52:43,667
- Um...

1410
00:52:43,667 --> 00:52:46,792
♪

1411
00:52:50,917 --> 00:52:55,583
♪

1412
00:52:55,708 --> 00:52:57,667
- Um...

1413
00:52:57,708 --> 00:53:00,292
I think

1414
00:53:00,375 --> 00:53:02,875
we are rebuilding trust
right now.

1415
00:53:02,958 --> 00:53:05,250
♪

1416
00:53:05,250 --> 00:53:10,208
- What do you need from her
in order to rebuild trust?

1417
00:53:10,292 --> 00:53:12,250
- What did I do
to break the trust?

1418
00:53:12,375 --> 00:53:16,167
- Hold on. Hold on.
Let him say that part first.

1419
00:53:16,208 --> 00:53:18,375
- When we say
we're going to do things,

1420
00:53:18,458 --> 00:53:20,042
then we actually do them.

1421
00:53:20,125 --> 00:53:21,500
- Can you be specific?

1422
00:53:21,583 --> 00:53:25,292
- Like, her plan was
to go into this--

1423
00:53:25,375 --> 00:53:26,750
I understand she asked.

1424
00:53:26,875 --> 00:53:28,333
I get all that.

1425
00:53:28,417 --> 00:53:32,500
But we didn't have
to dive so deeply into it.

1426
00:53:32,542 --> 00:53:35,042
- So trust for you,
as you've just outlined it,

1427
00:53:35,167 --> 00:53:38,458
is, like, consistency
and knowing that, like,

1428
00:53:38,458 --> 00:53:40,042
if someone says
they're going to do something,

1429
00:53:40,125 --> 00:53:43,000
they're going to do it,
that they stick to it?

1430
00:53:43,083 --> 00:53:45,750
- Yup.
- How, then, in that scenario

1431
00:53:45,833 --> 00:53:48,792
can we make room for someone
to change their mind?

1432
00:53:48,875 --> 00:53:50,667
Like, how would that
best be expressed?

1433
00:53:50,792 --> 00:53:52,458
- Communication.
- Yeah.

1434
00:53:55,167 --> 00:53:57,417
How can she communicate
to you in a way

1435
00:53:57,542 --> 00:53:59,250
that doesn't put you
on the defensive

1436
00:53:59,333 --> 00:54:02,083
or that doesn't frustrate you
or anger you?

1437
00:54:02,167 --> 00:54:05,042
- By saying,
"Hey, so we said this."

1438
00:54:05,125 --> 00:54:06,708
- Mm-hmm.
- "We agreed on this,

1439
00:54:06,708 --> 00:54:09,375
but now I'm thinking,"
duh-duh-duh-duh.

1440
00:54:09,458 --> 00:54:12,542
Just start from the very
beginning and go--it's just--

1441
00:54:12,625 --> 00:54:14,167
- OK, that's helpful to hear

1442
00:54:14,292 --> 00:54:15,833
because when I heard you
say that, you're saying,

1443
00:54:15,917 --> 00:54:18,750
"I need her to first
validate and acknowledge

1444
00:54:18,833 --> 00:54:21,167
what did happen."

1445
00:54:21,292 --> 00:54:23,167
- Yes.

1446
00:54:23,208 --> 00:54:24,667
- Can you speak to that?

1447
00:54:24,750 --> 00:54:26,417
- What do you mean?

1448
00:54:26,500 --> 00:54:29,042
- He's saying,
what's challenging for him is,

1449
00:54:29,125 --> 00:54:32,917
he feels like you're not first
validating and acknowledging

1450
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:36,167
the effort that he's put forth
or the changes that he's made

1451
00:54:36,208 --> 00:54:38,250
or the things that you all
have agreed upon,

1452
00:54:38,333 --> 00:54:40,667
that you're leading
with what isn't going right

1453
00:54:40,708 --> 00:54:43,333
or what isn't working or what
you'd like to be different.

1454
00:54:43,458 --> 00:54:44,875
And that's putting him
on the defense

1455
00:54:44,958 --> 00:54:50,000
because he feels like you're
discrediting his perspective.

1456
00:54:50,083 --> 00:54:51,625
- Yeah. And that's hard for me.

1457
00:54:51,708 --> 00:54:53,375
I feel like I've gone
above and beyond

1458
00:54:53,500 --> 00:54:56,625
for him to not feel that way.

1459
00:54:56,708 --> 00:54:58,958
- I think that you all are
having a parallel process

1460
00:54:59,042 --> 00:55:01,417
of experiencing the same thing,

1461
00:55:01,500 --> 00:55:03,500
although the context
might be different.

1462
00:55:03,583 --> 00:55:05,500
And so it's hard
for the two of you

1463
00:55:05,583 --> 00:55:08,167
to get each other's perspective

1464
00:55:08,250 --> 00:55:10,208
because you both are
on the defense.

1465
00:55:10,208 --> 00:55:13,083
♪

1466
00:55:13,208 --> 00:55:16,417
- I'm trying to, like, be
constructive, but, like--

1467
00:55:16,500 --> 00:55:18,333
- Can you tell him
how you're feeling right now?

1468
00:55:18,375 --> 00:55:21,333
- Yeah, I'm just sad because
I don't know what to do.

1469
00:55:21,417 --> 00:55:24,292
I'm just trying to, like,
be honest in ways

1470
00:55:24,375 --> 00:55:27,958
that we can, like,
move forward.

1471
00:55:28,042 --> 00:55:29,792
I do care about you.

1472
00:55:29,792 --> 00:55:31,292
And, like, I know this is
something we can work through

1473
00:55:31,375 --> 00:55:33,583
if you're open to it.

1474
00:55:33,583 --> 00:55:36,333
- I care about you too.

1475
00:55:36,375 --> 00:55:38,542
And I'm sad too.

1476
00:55:38,542 --> 00:55:40,208
Like, this is not
the relationship

1477
00:55:40,292 --> 00:55:44,542
you and I both wanted,
deserve, all of that.

1478
00:55:44,542 --> 00:55:46,500
And we're just--
we're trying to make it work

1479
00:55:46,583 --> 00:55:48,583
the best way we know how.

1480
00:55:48,708 --> 00:55:52,875
- I just feel like, like,
we could be doing better.

1481
00:55:52,958 --> 00:55:56,167
And that's why
I'm trying to be honest.

1482
00:55:56,250 --> 00:55:59,167
♪

1483
00:55:59,292 --> 00:56:00,500
- You mentioned, Brennan, like,

1484
00:56:00,583 --> 00:56:03,583
this isn't what
either of you wanted.

1485
00:56:03,667 --> 00:56:06,208
Do you feel like
change is possible?

1486
00:56:06,292 --> 00:56:08,667
- Yeah.
We have great days.

1487
00:56:08,708 --> 00:56:11,917
- Can you share with him
the qualities that you desire

1488
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:14,125
in a healthy friendship?

1489
00:56:14,208 --> 00:56:17,542
- Caring, kindness,
trustworthiness,

1490
00:56:17,542 --> 00:56:20,583
respect, and hard work.

1491
00:56:20,708 --> 00:56:23,375
- Are there things
that you need from him

1492
00:56:23,458 --> 00:56:26,500
in order to gain what you just
listed you need?

1493
00:56:26,583 --> 00:56:30,375
- Continue to be open and aware
and open to feedback.

1494
00:56:30,458 --> 00:56:32,167
- I want to ask
the same thing of you, Brennan,

1495
00:56:32,292 --> 00:56:33,208
that I asked of her.

1496
00:56:33,292 --> 00:56:34,458
- Same.

1497
00:56:34,542 --> 00:56:38,583
Respect, loyalty, honesty,

1498
00:56:38,667 --> 00:56:41,875
communication, and respect.

1499
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:43,583
- What needs to happen for--
when I leave

1500
00:56:43,667 --> 00:56:45,458
out of here tonight--

1501
00:56:45,542 --> 00:56:49,125
for the two of you
to shift your focus

1502
00:56:49,208 --> 00:56:52,833
to continuing to build
the trust in the relationship?

1503
00:56:52,917 --> 00:56:55,292
- I think I need clearer
expectations of what that is.

1504
00:56:55,375 --> 00:56:56,583
- OK.

1505
00:56:56,708 --> 00:56:57,667
- Because, like,
I didn't even know

1506
00:56:57,792 --> 00:56:59,958
I've broken your trust to date,
so...

1507
00:57:00,042 --> 00:57:03,000
- I just don't want
to dwell on the past.

1508
00:57:03,083 --> 00:57:05,583
And, you know, if there's
things you want to do,

1509
00:57:05,667 --> 00:57:07,417
please voice them.

1510
00:57:07,500 --> 00:57:09,542
If there's things
you disagree with, tell me.

1511
00:57:09,625 --> 00:57:13,625
And, you know,
just being in the moment.

1512
00:57:13,708 --> 00:57:18,292
♪

1513
00:57:18,375 --> 00:57:20,500
- I can do that.
- Upwards and onwards.

1514
00:57:20,583 --> 00:57:23,542
- ♪ Oh-oh-oh-oh

1515
00:57:27,833 --> 00:57:31,667
- ♪ Magic in the air
got me on another way ♪

1516
00:57:31,750 --> 00:57:33,875
♪ Keep up with me
if you dare ♪

1517
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:35,917
♪ Get this money,
set the pace ♪

1518
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:37,375
♪ I'm on a roll

1519
00:57:37,458 --> 00:57:39,250
♪ Already know
which way to go ♪

1520
00:57:39,375 --> 00:57:41,583
- I clearly see that, like,

1521
00:57:41,667 --> 00:57:44,375
our intimacy is
affecting Becca.

1522
00:57:44,500 --> 00:57:47,250
And I do want to make
the necessary steps

1523
00:57:47,333 --> 00:57:50,000
to get us to a better place.

1524
00:57:50,125 --> 00:57:52,500
But I'm not still totally clear

1525
00:57:52,500 --> 00:57:56,083
on what non-sexual
or non-physical foreplay is.

1526
00:57:56,167 --> 00:57:58,000
These look like boobs.

1527
00:57:58,042 --> 00:57:59,667
Kind of.

1528
00:57:59,708 --> 00:58:02,167
Is this just like getting
yourself in the right mood?

1529
00:58:02,167 --> 00:58:04,208
Ooh!

1530
00:58:04,292 --> 00:58:06,875
Look at the honey,

1531
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,458
bringing back one milkshake
for the two of us.

1532
00:58:09,542 --> 00:58:13,042
- [laughs]

1533
00:58:13,167 --> 00:58:14,875
- Why are you laughing?

1534
00:58:14,958 --> 00:58:18,667
[both laugh]

1535
00:58:18,750 --> 00:58:21,333
I have a little surprise.

1536
00:58:21,417 --> 00:58:24,833
Some dessert for you
in the bedroom.

1537
00:58:24,917 --> 00:58:27,667
- Wow, honey.
[both laugh]

1538
00:58:27,750 --> 00:58:30,375
♪

1539
00:58:30,458 --> 00:58:32,167
Wow, it's hot in here.
[laughs]

1540
00:58:32,208 --> 00:58:34,375
- Well, we are--

1541
00:58:34,458 --> 00:58:35,917
- Temperature-wise.

1542
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:37,708
Look at all the candles.
- Many, many flowers.

1543
00:58:37,792 --> 00:58:40,000
Yes, I tried to shape

1544
00:58:40,083 --> 00:58:42,208
the ones on the dressers
like boobs.

1545
00:58:42,292 --> 00:58:44,000
- [laughs]
- Just for you.

1546
00:58:44,042 --> 00:58:46,417
[laughs]

1547
00:58:46,500 --> 00:58:48,208
- I don't totally see
the boob shape,

1548
00:58:48,292 --> 00:58:49,875
but I appreciate it.

1549
00:58:49,958 --> 00:58:51,083
- You know,
it's a soft attempt.

1550
00:58:51,208 --> 00:58:52,583
- Polaroids all over the place.

1551
00:58:52,667 --> 00:58:54,667
- I did.
- So cute, honey.

1552
00:58:54,708 --> 00:58:59,458
- Hopefully you'd feel
the intimacy

1553
00:58:59,542 --> 00:59:01,000
of our wedding day.

1554
00:59:01,083 --> 00:59:03,208
- [laughs]

1555
00:59:03,292 --> 00:59:07,500
I would say that I initiate
deep, connective intimacy

1556
00:59:07,583 --> 00:59:08,958
99% of the time.

1557
00:59:09,042 --> 00:59:12,833
So the passenger seat
is a new place for me.

1558
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:16,125
I don't typically sit here,
but I'm happy to be here,

1559
00:59:16,208 --> 00:59:18,333
ready to see what the views
look like from this seat.

1560
00:59:18,417 --> 00:59:21,667
Yeah, warming it up.

1561
00:59:21,792 --> 00:59:23,250
- You want to play
sexy truth or dare?

1562
00:59:23,375 --> 00:59:24,583
- Let's do this.

1563
00:59:24,667 --> 00:59:27,458
- [laughs]

1564
00:59:27,542 --> 00:59:30,792
Just one.
[both laugh]

1565
00:59:33,542 --> 00:59:35,000
Is this the truth or dare?

1566
00:59:35,083 --> 00:59:37,583
- What's your absolute
favorite part of my body?

1567
00:59:37,708 --> 00:59:38,875
- I mean,
I love your pink hair.

1568
00:59:38,958 --> 00:59:40,208
- Hmm?

1569
00:59:40,292 --> 00:59:41,417
- I love your eyes.
- Hmm.

1570
00:59:41,500 --> 00:59:43,125
- And your lips.
- Hmm.

1571
00:59:43,208 --> 00:59:44,292
- But boobs take the cake.

1572
00:59:44,375 --> 00:59:47,333
[both laugh]

1573
00:59:47,375 --> 00:59:50,042
♪

1574
00:59:50,125 --> 00:59:52,500
Your smile and your laugh
are pretty good too.

1575
00:59:52,542 --> 00:59:54,083
Ooh, I like this.

1576
00:59:54,208 --> 00:59:55,500
If you could have sex with me
anywhere in public,

1577
00:59:55,583 --> 00:59:57,667
where would it be?
- Mm.

1578
00:59:57,750 --> 01:00:00,333
I mean, we haven't, like,
done much traveling yet,

1579
01:00:00,458 --> 01:00:03,083
but, like, on a balcony
somewhere where we're staying

1580
01:00:03,167 --> 01:00:06,333
would be very nice.

1581
01:00:06,417 --> 01:00:09,333
[laughing]

1582
01:00:09,375 --> 01:00:12,667
♪

1583
01:00:12,750 --> 01:00:15,167
Sure we can go to--
it's a little cold,

1584
01:00:15,208 --> 01:00:17,500
but, like, maybe
when it's a little warmer.

1585
01:00:17,625 --> 01:00:20,375
- We'll just set up
a campfire of candles.

1586
01:00:20,500 --> 01:00:21,708
- Perfect.

1587
01:00:21,708 --> 01:00:23,708
You set it up
in the wrong spot.

1588
01:00:23,708 --> 01:00:27,542
- I did.
I [bleep] up.

1589
01:00:27,667 --> 01:00:30,333
- What do you think is
your very best sex move?

1590
01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:32,542
What would you name it?

1591
01:00:32,625 --> 01:00:34,542
- Well, I shouldn't say
that one.

1592
01:00:34,625 --> 01:00:37,125
[both laugh]

1593
01:00:37,208 --> 01:00:39,167
- OK.

1594
01:00:39,250 --> 01:00:40,625
- Oh, man, I got a lot of--

1595
01:00:40,708 --> 01:00:42,625
- You got a lot of moves?

1596
01:00:42,708 --> 01:00:44,833
I think, like, you should know

1597
01:00:44,917 --> 01:00:48,750
that, like, this, to me, like,
what we're doing is foreplay.

1598
01:00:48,833 --> 01:00:50,625
And, like, joking around,
like, that to me is--

1599
01:00:50,708 --> 01:00:52,875
- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah.

1600
01:00:52,958 --> 01:00:55,042
- You want to do
the other thing now?

1601
01:00:55,125 --> 01:00:56,792
The play?

1602
01:00:56,875 --> 01:00:58,750
The play?
- Oh, you want to do--

1603
01:01:00,375 --> 01:01:03,167
Yeah.
[both laugh]

1604
01:01:03,292 --> 01:01:05,375
- OK.

1605
01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:07,167
- [laughing]
Wait, are you serious?

1606
01:01:07,292 --> 01:01:14,042
♪

1607
01:01:15,417 --> 01:01:17,542
- Oh, you took my move!

1608
01:01:17,625 --> 01:01:20,500
- Wait, what would you call it?

1609
01:01:20,583 --> 01:01:23,292
- The Get In Here.
[both laugh]

1610
01:01:23,375 --> 01:01:27,708
- ♪ Boy, you got me all up
in my feelings all day ♪

1611
01:01:27,792 --> 01:01:29,833
♪ And you got my heart

1612
01:01:29,875 --> 01:01:33,750
♪ Never thought that I would
let down my guard, yeah ♪

1613
01:01:33,833 --> 01:01:36,083
♪ And I want you to know

1614
01:01:36,167 --> 01:01:38,500
♪ That I never plan
on letting you go ♪

1615
01:01:38,542 --> 01:01:40,375
♪ So lay it down on me

1616
01:01:40,458 --> 01:01:41,833
♪ I can't get enough

1617
01:01:41,917 --> 01:01:43,458
♪ Lay it down on me

1618
01:01:43,542 --> 01:01:44,875
♪ Lay it down on me

1619
01:01:44,958 --> 01:01:46,458
♪ I can't get enough

1620
01:01:46,542 --> 01:01:47,792
♪ Lay it down on me

1621
01:01:47,875 --> 01:01:49,417
♪ I can't get enough

1622
01:01:49,500 --> 01:01:53,250
♪ I can't get enough of you

1623
01:01:53,375 --> 01:01:55,167
- ♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh

1624
01:01:55,250 --> 01:01:57,792
Next time
on "Married at First Sight"...

1625
01:01:57,875 --> 01:01:59,500
- To Chloe's wedding.

1626
01:01:59,542 --> 01:02:01,000
- Oh!
- Whoo!

1627
01:02:01,083 --> 01:02:02,000
- Oh.

1628
01:02:02,083 --> 01:02:04,125
- Cheers to your day.
- Mm-hmm.

1629
01:02:04,208 --> 01:02:06,792
- Chloe and Michael are
about to meet each other

1630
01:02:06,875 --> 01:02:09,167
for the very first time.

1631
01:02:09,250 --> 01:02:11,542
- My first wedding felt like
the biggest personal failure

1632
01:02:11,625 --> 01:02:13,083
that I've ever experienced.

1633
01:02:13,167 --> 01:02:18,250
And having to face that
again is super scary.

1634
01:02:18,333 --> 01:02:19,875
- I'm so scared.

1635
01:02:19,958 --> 01:02:23,875
Oh, I wasn't expecting
to feel this way right now.

1636
01:02:23,875 --> 01:02:26,417
It just hit me like
a ton of bricks.

1637
01:02:26,500 --> 01:02:28,167
It's affecting me now.

1638
01:02:28,250 --> 01:02:31,333
There's always the possibility
that he's not my person,

1639
01:02:31,375 --> 01:02:34,292
and I'm not feeling
very good about that.

1640
01:02:34,375 --> 01:02:35,542
- All rise.

1641
01:02:35,667 --> 01:02:39,208
[dramatic music]

1642
01:02:39,333 --> 01:02:41,417
- What if she doesn't like
what she sees?

1643
01:02:41,542 --> 01:02:43,417
♪

1644
01:02:43,500 --> 01:02:46,042
You know, she may not want
to do this anymore.

1645
01:02:46,125 --> 01:02:47,875
♪

1646
01:02:47,958 --> 01:02:50,167
I don't know how you can
not be scared of that.

1647
01:02:50,250 --> 01:02:54,750
♪