[upbeat music]
- Four newlywed couples took a daring leap
of faith to find love.
They married complete strangers.
♪
- ♪ There's nowhere else I'd rather be ♪
- Last time, the honeymoons continued in Mexico.
- What is this? - Oh, thank you!
- We've spent so much time talking about ways
of showing affection.
- Yeah.
- I decided to go back to basics.
- That was so, so sweet.
I will not cry, but that was sweet.
♪
- I sometimes am a little too sarcastic,
and I'm used to speaking my mind
and not having any repercussions
on anyone but myself.
But I really want to be more cognizant of, like,
the effects it has on us together.
- Yeah, I appreciate that.
- I was raised Jewish, but I'm personally agnostic.
- We might have differences in those areas.
- I feel like, by us building a foundation on all
of the other aspects of our relationship,
we will be able to get through a lot.
- I agree 100%.
- There's nothing I can do. - Yeah.
- I don't know what more I can say to really explain it,
but I can't move past this.
- I'm sorry to hear that.
[dramatic music]
- [crying]
- ♪ Going home
- Tonight, our couples return home to Denver...
- You ready to see our new apartment?
- And move in together...
- Hello!
- As real life is about to begin.
- There we go!
- Giddyap, cowboy! - You look good.
- Gee, I didn't know this about you.
- If you'd just ask.
- We do live pretty close to each other,
so I was just thinking we'd, like, move
back into our normal spots.
- What would probably make more sense
is to move into my place while we wait
to maybe buy something.
[dramatic music]
- I just need you to tell me if you're physically
attracted to me or not.
- I just can't do it.
- I didn't ever really anticipate, like,
a lot of what's happening.
- There is no romance within me anymore.
♪
- Do you want a divorce?
♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way
[Louise Dowd's "All or Nothing"]
♪ It's all or nothing
- [singing in Spanish]
[upbeat music]
- ♪ You look so fine, you're a... ♪
[singing in Spanish]
♪ All mine
[singing in Spanish]
♪ You look so fine
- [singing in Spanish]
- Are we, um--
- Ready to bounce?
- Missing one or two?
- I'm excited to go home, but I also, like, wish we had
a little bit more time here.
But I think we're both very excited to go home and, like,
just get into a little bit of normalcy,
and figure out, like, how our life is actually
gonna start merging together.
- What up? - Hello!
- Hey, darling!
- 'Cause this is not gonna be an easy, smooth-sailing
ride for any of us.
- How you doing?
- Been better. - Yeah?
- If I'm being honest. - Aw.
- But I love that you're being honest.
- Love that I'm being honest. - No, for real.
- What's up, guys? - Hello.
- Hi. - Hey.
- Oh, sorry.
Let me move some of these bags around.
- Sure, thank you.
- Lauren's not wearing her ring.
And I know Orion is wearing his,
so I'm a little confused.
- Yeah. both: Fingers crossed.
- Though, that it's not the--
- Jinx.
- In sync.
- I'm excited to move in and, like, just start combining
some stuff, slowly and surely,
stock up our fridge this weekend.
- And as couples, we all get to see what
our day-to-day life is like.
- Yeah.
- So what are you guys gonna do?
- I don't know. We'll figure it out.
We're having irreconcilable differences.
- No, I would say that we're just dealing with topics
we've never really dealt with before,
and so it can get really murky.
- I think we have different perspectives of what happened.
- Yeah, so I think we're trying to see eye to eye first,
before you know, we start, I guess,
you know, letting that out.
- We respect that.
Whenever you're ready, we're here for you.
- I don't feel like Orion has been
able to afford me the same grace that I've given him.
I'm sure that's for his--
because of his own internal struggles,
but it does feel a little unfair.
Like, OK, there are some things that I
could have done better, things that I could have said better.
I don't know, it just feels very up and down
in this marriage already.
It's like, I can't really keep up
with all the altercations that happen,
because the honeymoon was a lot.
- Should we go catch that plane?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Let's get it. - This way.
- Can you hold my empty glass?
- Gladly. - OK.
[soft music]
♪
- ♪ Give it time, time, time
- So we are heading back to Denver.
I can't wait to see my family, my dog.
I've been missing that a lot.
- And I'm looking forward to moving in with my new wife
in our new apartment.
- Yeah, it's gonna be an adjustment,
but we're looking forward to it.
- How are you feeling? - Really tired.
I'm exhausted, so--
It's been a long [bleep] week.
- I'm excited to go back to Denver.
- Get us out of this... - See our friends.
- Humidity. - See our new apartment.
- We want dryness.
- We want a cold, dry environment.
- See you all in snowy Colorado.
♪
- ♪ Everything is all right now ♪
- Are we excited or are we excited?
- We're excited!
- Ready to see our new apartment.
♪
That's really nice... - Home sweet home.
- If I can remember the code.
- Ooh!
- Whoa!
This is nice.
[upbeat music]
- [bleep]
Look at our view of Union Station!
- Damn! - Wow!
- Whoa.
- We provided each couple with a neutral living space
to begin their married life, free from the distraction
of their old single life.
- Are you pro TV in the bedroom or anti TV in the bedroom?
- I don't have a TV in my bedroom.
- Neither do I.
- Anti TV in the bedroom.
It's been established.
♪
- Ooh, we've got a candle.
Oh, my God, and it's my favorite scent.
Amber and vanilla.
Bathroom.
I love organized bathrooms.
Nice, clean bed, so we can cuddle.
I really love the plan, and the decor, and this blanket.
Have you felt this blanket?
- Oh, it's nice.
- I know.
- OK.
So--
- Now I think we just need to like fill in the blanks
with random stuff.
- Yeah.
- Like, some cleaning stuff, laundry stuff, comfy clothes,
because that's all I really wear.
This is the first time we've both ever lived with someone
that, like, isn't a roommate.
So are you nervous at all?
Excited? - I am excited.
I feel like we have, like, a mutual respect, and, like,
know how to live with other people.
- Yeah, I feel the same, and I just feel like I would
rather you tell me, like--
like, I'd rather you say, like, oh, this is kind of bothering
me, instead of, like, tomorrow, versus, like, even just
a few days because you feel like you can't bring that up,
because it's been a day.
And I think, for us, something to think about too is, like,
if we're angry, like, it's an easy thing
to do to just leave this place and like
go back to our other ones.
If you need a minute, sure, but I think
it will be better if we, like, stay trapped here to,
like, work things out.
- Yeah.
So you're gonna work here.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, I think I'll probably, like, if I have a morning call,
take that here, if that's OK.
- Yeah.
- And then take that, make some breakfast,
and then head to my house because I don't want
to be in traffic either, so--
- Yeah.
- But, tonight, yeah, I definitely want to go back,
tidy up the house, and then my work week is crazy.
So maybe we should, like, reconvene in, like,
a few days before moving into our new place.
[tense music]
- Yeah.
I'm just, like, caught off guard.
I'm just like, OK, if you think that's best, sure,
but we're still trying to get to know each other.
Like, I wanted to move in together with him,
and I thought he felt the same.
♪
It's been a long week.
But it was so fun, so much fun.
- We spent every day, 24/7, the last week together,
you know, and I was, like, starting to notice,
like, I was getting drained.
And I've gotta take a step back and just digest how I
feel before we move in together.
All right, this is where we part ways for a bit.
♪
- ♪ Real love comes out after dark ♪
- Oh, this looks like a cozy bed right here.
Oh, and it is! - Is that a queen?
- Oh, it is a cozy bed.
- Which side do you want?
- Well, because I know you go up to the bathroom
a lot more than I do-- see, I don't know.
This is hard because I also wake up earlier, so it
could be easy for me to just--
- But you get up once, whereas I get up many times.
- So which would you prefer?
- I would always prefer to sleep on the side--
- OK. - That's that side.
- Then, yeah, that works. - But I don't have to.
- No.
Marriage is about compromise, right?
- Mm.
Did you read that in a book somewhere?
[laughter]
This is definitely the beginning
of a new chapter in the book that is our marriage.
- I feel like I should put my Pjs on
because I am just like, I need
to get out of this outfit.
- And I'm hoping, going forward,
as we get into our routines, that we can kind of just
continue to be more of ourselves.
- What do you think?
I'm excited.
These shorts are so short.
Sorry.
- Do you want them a little shorter?
- No, no, please, please.
Yeah, I mean, I think this is a really beautiful space.
I mean, I know we were both really nervous about this,
and I still am.
I mean, again, I have not lived with another--
- Well, you just did for the last week.
- Yeah, I know.
It's just the unknown that I'm scared about, like,
the unknown of navigating how to,
you know, wake up and not wake you up,
and the cooking, and cleaning.
Like, all those sorts of things,
like, I don't know how to do that with another person.
Also, like, you know, when you're dating someone,
and in a fight or something, you can leave.
But, here, it's like, this is where we're at.
- Yeah, I'd say
I'm probably less nervous than you.
- Well, you've also lived with a partner.
- Yeah, the situation that I was in was more difficult
because her family lived in the house.
So, the kitchen, I wasn't just sharing with my girlfriend.
Like, I was sharing with her siblings and her parents.
Like, that's why I have very little fears and worries
about us doing this.
You'd have to be very different than who I think you are
for you to get on my nerves.
I'm not worried about you annoying me, at the moment.
But I am worried because, you know,
you haven't lived with a partner.
You know, what are the things that I'm
going to do to annoy you?
- And there will probably be things, you know...
- Sure. - That come up.
I just need to be transparent, like, hey,
that bothers me, and I will be.
- Yeah.
I'm more inclined, like, naturally,
to just see how bad it gets.
- Hmm. That's not good.
- No, I like to see--
- That's a terrible way to do things.
- I like to see where the limit is, sometimes.
- I feel like that's not being preventative,
and that's not helpful.
- No, but I like to--
- Well, can we not do that, so that--
- OK, OK.
- All we have to do is be open to communicate.
If something is bothering us, just say it.
- I think we'll know very soon how
we are going to work together in terms of living together.
It's gonna go one way or the other--
- Make or break. - And we're gonna find out.
- Right. - Yeah.
♪
- I'm a fan of our digs.
How do you feel? - I like it.
- After telling me that he cannot see us moving forward
in the marriage, on the plane ride back,
my husband had a flip of his emotions,
and we discussed that he would like
to try to do a full reset.
♪
You know, he kind of drags me this way,
then drags me that way, so I'm trying to be hopeful
that my husband is able to forgive me,
as I have forgiven him.
But, honestly, I don't know at this point.
[instrumental music playing]
Do you feel like you actually can do a full reset?
Because you went from, I can't move forward in this marriage,
and I'm unmoving, to, I want a full reset.
- You know, talking with the experts,
it seems like that is what needs to happen,
which is kind of why I want to take, you know, the night,
or a couple of days, or whatever we're
comfortable with, just to just be away from everything,
think about it, you know, and just really come back
together with a clear mind.
- Yeah, I think that could be helpful for us.
Because I actually do like you. I do care about you.
Like, there are genuine feelings that have grown,
and I don't want us to be stuck in Cancun.
- Yeah, that is--
I mean, you know, it's definitely the goal--
- That's the goal.
- To work out of that, you know,
because it's easy to say that, you know,
we just leave it there--
- That's why I'm, like--
- But we also have to take the right steps
to actually leave it there.
- Right.
- But, you know what, also, there's definitely
things working for us to support the things
that we're trying to get back to.
And so, yeah, so, yeah, I really do feel hopeful.
I still want to try a reset, you know,
but we do need to take some space from each other.
All right, wifey.
I will--I'll talk to you soon.
Yeah?
- See ya.
- See ya!
We just need time to think, so that, when we do take
this big step, you know, in living together,
you know, we're two feet in, not just one.
- See you later, house.
Maybe.
♪
[upbeat music]
♪
- So, I know we only, like, just moved in, and haven't
really figured out what we needed,
but it definitely seems like there are some things
missing that we should bring.
Plants, number one. - Real plants.
Our plants. - Yeah.
- Board games. - Oh, yeah.
- N64 has to come.
- Which one?
- Yours because the one at my house is garbage.
- OK, so I'll bring my N64.
So you have a roommate right now.
- Mm-hmm.
- How do you guys split up chores?
- I think we mostly just like take care of our own messes,
and then kind of, like, help out every once in a while,
although I pretty much take out all the trash and recycling.
- That makes sense.
Are you very clean?
- I'm definitely clean.
I'd say, like, kitchen and bathroom cleanliness
are very important to me.
- Same.
We'll probably have growing pains and difficulties.
I think living with anyone is hard, even your best
friend, your parents.
But, for me, because I'm feeling drawn to connect
with Austin deeper, I'm looking forward
to just, like, unfiltered time, focusing on each other,
and doing a deep dive, rather than, like, a little tread
in the shallow pool.
We're gonna rock this. - This is gonna be easy.
- I love this.
[knocking]
[laughter]
We're just gonna play this back,
and just be like, ha-ha!
Suckers!
Didn't know what they were getting themselves into.
- ♪ Every day the sun rises
♪ Only like the good surprises ♪
- Good morning.
Today is my first day waking up without Brennan.
It's really sad, but also so tired
last night that I literally put on the TV
and immediately fell asleep.
So, today, I'm getting my life together.
Can't wait, but also can't wait, but it needs to happen,
because then I'm going to start slowly getting
reorganized to move in and hopefully
see Brennan later tonight.
- Our first night in our apartment is over.
It is now the morning.
- Yep.
We slept.
[yawning]
- Baby dinosaur!
♪
- Mm.
Looks like someone left some dirty dishes out!
- Sorry.
I'll get to it. I'm sorry.
I was gonna do 'em.
- I'm just saying, if it was the other way around,
I would have gotten yelled at.
- Oh, OK. It's three, three dishes.
Maybe four.
I will clean that up, though.
♪
- We obviously haven't moved in together,
so I'm really looking forward just to see
how Brennan lived before we got married.
[knock at door]
I'm very much hoping that this brings us together
to hopefully move things forward
and makes us excited to move in with each other.
both: Hello. - Welcome.
- Oh, my gosh. It's so clean.
Is this a shoes-off environment?
- Uh, sure.
- OK.
Let's do a tour.
Like the green couch.
This is nice.
- Yeah, it's a record player.
I really like the bar cart.
I like this plant too.
♪
Tried to do live plants, my roommate and I,
and then they died.
- Hmm.
- Is this is your office? - Mm-hmm.
So this is where I spend most of my time.
- What's that car? Is that a Ferrari?
- Yeah. - This is a really nice desk.
- Thank you. Thank you.
- This makes me want to expand mine.
- Mm-hmm.
Yeah, it's nice.
- I can just feel a little sense of awkwardness.
He's, like, just not his usual self.
So it creates kind of a confusing atmosphere.
- And then, here, we have the bedroom.
- Oh, it's so nice.
- Yeah.
I've got everything we need, which is the TV.
- Yeah, I have to watch, like, two hours.
Just, like, can't just go to bed right away.
- Mm.
♪
Here we have the kitchen.
- I think, when the kitchen's clean, that says a lot.
- Yep.
♪
- And I really am impressed with this middle
living room situation.
And it looks, like, less boyish than I imagined.
How do you, like, envision the living situation?
- Yeah, it's been nice having some time to myself.
So we will reevaluate in a few days,
we actually want to move in.
- I'm starting to get the sense
that he might have shut off completely,
and, like, what the [bleep]?
Like, something is off. Like, what happened?
- Yeah.
♪
[upbeat music]
♪
- Hello. - Hello!
- How are you? - How's it going?
- I am really excited to see Cameron's living space,
and I think that it'll be pretty similar to him
as a person, but I might be surprised.
I don't know.
This is nice!
It's very homey, very cozy.
- It's warm.
- I was surprised.
You were like, I don't have anything,
and I feel like you have lots of things.
- Maybe it's just spread out.
- You've got a lot of your bike--
- Yeah, this is just my little workstation right here.
- OK.
- And then a kitchen. - Right.
Oh, you like rice cakes too!
- Oh, yeah.
- This is, like, my favorite snack.
I eat this with, like, almond butter.
- So I put honey on it.
- OK.
Have you tried--so, this peanut butter, and bananas--
- Oh, do you want to try Vegemite?
- Can I just smell it first?
- Oh, yeah, mate. That's a little bit--
- [gags]
That's terrible!
- [laughing] You have to try it!
Vegemite is a fermented yeast product.
In New Zealand and Australia, we grow up on the stuff.
I like that Clare's a good sport.
She's up for anything, and I think we both have
a sense of adventure.
But it is an acquired taste.
- OK, I'll try a sliver, like, the tiniest--
oof.
- That's gonna-- it tastes like beer.
- Ugh.
It's terrible. That's bad.
Bad, bad, bad.
It's OK. We're fine, ooh.
- That's delicious!
- Gross. I would never eat that.
I do like rice cakes, though, but, ew.
- So-- - I need water.
- You need water?
How about a sparkling water?
- Yeah, anything.
- Why don't you help yourself? - Sorry.
Anyway--
can you open it?
These nails.
Ooh, and the aftertaste.
- That's the best part. - It's really gross.
- That with cheese is amazing.
- This is very--
I feel like this makes sense for your personality.
- OK.
- [laughs] So--I like it, though.
♪
Insect trap.
Have you got, like, insects down here?
- Spiders, yeah. - Oh, Lord, OK.
- Do you want to see the spiders?
- Oh, no!
Cameron, why? - What?
- You did not need to bring that up like that.
- What? - Come on!
- They'll get you.
- Yeah, I will not be staying here ever, it's safe to say.
Spiders, I don't care for.
I was not expecting that.
He grabbed it like it was his pets, which was a little
like, ooh.
Like, are you friends with the spiders?
I'm confused.
But there's traps everywhere, so he's
got a lot of spider friends.
What do we have here?
Oh, these are all races you've done.
- Yeah, Pikes Peak.
- Wow.
- And these are other mountain bike races.
- That's very impressive.
- Again, most of these knots are
from my mountaineering days.
And then I just kept some of the stuff
because I did search and rescue.
- Oh, that's very cool.
See, I didn't know this about you.
You learn new things every day.
- Yep, well, you know, if you'd just ask.
- Well, I've asked about your hobbies.
Like, you just have never told me that you used to do this.
It's gonna be really nice to be in a neutral space
with Cameron because that strips
away all of, like, the things we bring into our own spaces.
And that way, we can create a space together.
And we can each bring the things that we appreciate,
but also, like, make it ours.
Like, it's a clean slate.
We have the opportunity to do that as a couple.
- Let's get out of here.
- Yeah, for real, honestly.
I don't like that I'm barefoot in this situation.
I feel in danger.
Stop!
Ooh!
I'm feeling itchy all of a sudden.
- ♪ Hey, Cinderella
♪ This ain't forever
- This is Mr. Lenny!
- Looks like Lenny is a small package.
- Right.
- And he's not a yappy dog because I
think you were scared of that.
- Well, I guess we'll find out.
- [laughs] - Lenny!
- Len-man. Lenny, what do you think?
But he really isn't paying much attention to you.
That's just because he doesn't know you yet.
- I'm invisible.
- [laughs]
- So this is my place.
Yeah, no, this is the bike.
- Can I look at it? - Yeah.
I mean, it's a nice bike, but it's got its--
it needs a little pump.
[laughs] This cannot be normal.
- Yeah, that's what they call a "flat tire."
- Yeah, and if you rode on this--
well, also, this doesn't fit me, because it's,
like, way too tall.
- They're both flat.
- Yeah, the seat doesn't go down any lower, so that's--
- Yeah, the frame is too large for you.
- Right, right.
Lenny, you're being a good boy.
Do you want to just sit for a second?
- Yeah.
- Do you want water or anything?
- I'm OK. - OK.
- Hey, Lenny.
Is that--
- You are invisible!
- Lenny is a little standoffish.
I hope he'll warm to me.
I am a dog person, provided they're not super annoying.
- [laughs]
He doesn't like you!
- Maybe Lenny's just not a people person.
[laughs]
Do you have, like, a routine?
Like, do you take him out at the same time every day?
- Yeah, like, we'll go out right when I wake up.
But outside of our apartment, it's, like, not
a very good dog place, you know?
- No. It's a concrete jungle.
- Right?
So that's what I'm a little worried about.
Because here, it's like we can go a lot of different trails,
different paths.
But as far as, like, Lenny's, like, responsibilities
and stuff, I don't want to put that on you.
So maybe my sister can watch him.
- I mean, yeah, we'll just have to--
we'll just have to see.
- We'll figure it out, which is fine.
- Yeah. - OK.
- So what do you need to bring?
- A few clothes, maybe, like, some pictures,
maybe some of my books.
♪
- Catholic, huh?
- Mm-hmm, yes.
- Are you Catholic?
- So, yeah, no, I've told you this.
So I was raised Catholic.
- Well, you said you were faithful.
You didn't say you were Catholic.
- Right, so when I was younger, it didn't really--
like, I would go to church, but I wasn't, like,
fully connected to it.
And then, I told you, I lost my brother.
That's when my faith really started to, like,
come into play.
I think, you know, when you lose somebody,
that changes everything.
And so then I tried to connect to my religion,
like, my roots and how I was raised.
- I'm open to being with anyone from any religion,
and I'm looking forward to seeing how Clare and I
can build a life together.
Yeah, I have not perused those books.
Maybe I'll have to look.
- Well, I know you're not religious at all.
- No. - That's OK with me.
I am open to hear the way that you view
the world and all of that.
I'm just letting you know that I am faithful.
Obviously, we're gonna have to talk about that.
- Yeah, yeah, maybe move-in day
is not the day to talk about it.
- Yeah.
- ♪ What you stopping for
♪ What are you loving for
♪ All we say is yeah, yeah, yeah ♪
- Are you excited to see my place?
- I'm excited to see your place.
- Heck yeah.
- The suspense. [laughter]
- My place is, like, you know, a little messy.
And I have, like, a bunch of garage
shelving in it because my garage is
being demolished and rebuilt.
- Do you like your place?
- Eh, enough.
- I don't think there would be anything that would really
turn me off that I would see inside,
unless there's, like, snakes all over the place,
or, like, a murder room.
That would be scary.
Wow! Look at how cute!
Did you build this yourself?
- This is 100 years old.
- You're 100 years old? - It was repainted.
♪
- Wow! - Wow!
Look at how cute!
Look at how big!
Look at all this space.
What do you do with all this space?
- Activities.
- Like, look at this.
You could fit a whole other table here.
- You could. - You made these?
- Yeah. Made these little boxes.
- Cute. You made this?
- Used these from old candles.
- Cute. - Drilled holes in them.
- He's a handy guy.
- Just quick, easy stuff.
Should we bring more plants, or no?
- This one's wild.
- Yeah.
- That one's not real.
- Nope. Not real.
- Wow. - Wow.
- So, this is normally what's in the garage.
- Yeah.
- I think I knew how many hats you had.
- Just wait.
More is coming.
- I want this one. - Cowboy hat?
Go for it.
- There we go. - Giddyap, cowboy.
- You look good. - Thanks.
She's a cowgirl.
Go check out the bathing quarters.
[laughter]
[door creaking]
Looks nice.
Yeah, clean bathroom.
Good standards. - Yeah.
- How often do you wash your towels?
- When necessary.
- Cool.
I wash everything once a week. - Do you really?
- Mm-hmm. - Yeah.
I just, like, don't love doing laundry
as much as you, apparently.
- She loves it.
- I only do it, like, once a month.
[laughter]
- All of your laundry?
- Mm-hmm.
Maybe. I don't know.
I don't keep a schedule.
- OK. No, no, no, it's good.
It's good. Round low, aim high.
But I feel like--
I like a lot about your house.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
I like how it's not just, like, a cookie-cutter house.
Like, I like a little bit of character in my houses.
I like some old, creaky floors.
- Yeah.
- I like a lot of windows, and you've got that.
And I like--
- I mean, I know this is, like, a long ways down the line.
I mean, I guess, like, what I was originally thinking was,
after decision day, even if things are, like,
still going really well, I mean, we do live
pretty close to each other.
So I was just thinking we'd, like, move back
into our normal spots while we, like, finished up our leases,
and then sorted out what we're gonna do after that.
- My lease is month by month, so I'm flexible.
- I mean, I live with a roommate, obviously,
and you live by yourself.
So I don't know why you'd want to move in here.
♪
- But I feel like what would probably make more sense
is, once your lease is up, to move into my place,
while we wait to maybe buy something.
- That would make sense.
Yeah.
For sure. Do you have a garage?
- We'll work on it.
♪
- At this point, I honestly never know
what to say to my husband
because after our, you know,
day of calling out the D word,
and after talking to Pastor Cal,
he reached out to me via text.
And he does not want to continue the marriage,
but he wants to continue the process,
which I guess I'm confused, because I thought
the process was a marriage.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do with that at this point.
At this point, I am feeling a little bit
emotionally distressed, emotionally overwhelmed.
And at this point, who knows what's gonna happen, y'all.
♪
- ♪ And I always hit the bottle ♪
♪ Drown my sorrow when you leave me ♪
- Nice and cool.
[soft music]
Pastor Cal is coming to our place tonight,
which is good timing because I feel like Brennan
has been closed off since coming back
from the honeymoon.
- Ready for this?
- I'm ready.
That's nice. - You like it?
- Mm-hmm. - We're matching sweaters.
- Yeah.
Brennan's not really showing or expressing much emotion.
How was your day?
- Swamped.
- There's a lot going through my head.
I feel like there's been a lot going on, like, all week,
but I'm just really trying to give him
what he needs in order to get us back to where
I know we were before.
But I personally could use, like, someone
to help figure this out.
[knock at door]
Go get it.
- I was gonna to ask who it was, but I had a feeling.
- What's up, man? - What's going on, buddy?
- How you doing, man? - Good, man, you?
- I'm good. How are you?
- Good, man. - Hello!
How are you?
- Oh, my God, we're matching today!
- I know, right? Good to see you.
- Good to see you. - OK.
This looks really nice and put together,
not lived in, right?
- Correct.
♪
- Let's jump right in and talk about that.
What is going on?
- Like, it's just been so go, go, go.
We both have crazy work weeks.
- Yeah, we had the wedding, we had the honeymoon, and then,
all of a sudden, we come back, and we were like,
oh, [bleep], like, we've got the real
world to come back to.
So we were just like, let's take a minute,
gather ourselves.
- We just didn't see the need to, like, rush it.
- Do you feel invested in the marriage?
♪
- I feel invested in the marriage, yes.
- Do you feel like you're getting back
what you're putting in?
- I do.
- You gave me a very musical "do."
- I do. - And that's--no.
No, no, no, your first reaction.
- I just feel like there is a lot to figure out.
And I think we're
in different spots as of now.
- OK, OK, stop for a second.
I don't--this is not--
I don't want you guys to be politically correct.
- No.
- I don't want you guys to pull punches.
I don't want you guys to even worry
about whether or not the other person will be offended.
- No, yeah, I'm literally speaking what's,
like, coming to my mind, yeah.
- Serious, OK.
- Like, I like him. I'm attracted to him.
And I felt like he really liked me in the beginning,
but then I started feeling, like, unsure,
and, like, I'm trying to understand how to,
like, move forward with that.
- Do you want to speak to that?
- Yeah, I think, you know,
during the honeymoon and the wedding,
like, you're kind of just, like, overcome with all
this adrenaline and everything, and you really don't
know how you feel.
You're just, like, going with the flow,
and riding, and riding, and riding.
And then, like, it just hit me, like,
a few days later, where I was just like, something's off,
like, between us.
And when I, like, look back at how,
like, we were interacting everything, like,
all that was good.
But, like, I didn't, like, feel that,
like, romantic connection.
And over time, with the honeymoon,
it got less and less.
I don't know, like, what to do about it.
Like, here I have, like, the most amazing girl.
And, like, we're aligned on everything,
and I, like, don't know what's wrong.
♪
I just--I don't feel any type of,
like, romance right now.
I'm not saying the door is closed.
I'm just saying-- - Sure, sure, sure.
You're saying, right now, you don't feel that.
- Yeah. - How do you feel about that?
- I just, like--
I really do believe there is something here.
And like I feel like, yeah, I've done my best
to be very open and honest.
But I need some more, like, emotions in order
to figure out, like, how to progress.
- Tell me, what feeling do you want?
Tell me what you're looking for.
- I'm looking to, like, just gravitate towards her,
and want to, like, touch her, and, like,
do the things that, like, a romantic partner should do.
And I'm just not able to do that because I
don't feel like I can do it.
- So you don't want to touch her?
- I mean, that's a pretty [bleep] way to say it,
but yeah.
I mean, just not there.
- OK, but have you pushed yourself to see?
- Yeah.
The whole honeymoon, it's all I was trying to do.
- So during the honeymoon, you didn't feel it either?
♪
- I try, and then I'm like, I don't feel anything.
OK.
Like, I want to touch her leg.
I'm touching her leg. - OK.
But have you ever wanted to? - Yeah.
- You have wanted to? - Yeah.
- When? - I don't know.
Whenever we have, like, good moments between us.
- So, when you have good-- OK, OK.
When you have good moments between you,
you do feel like being affectionate?
- Yeah.
But it hasn't gotten me anywhere in terms
of how I want to feel.
♪
- The difference here is that, because you're married,
you've given yourself a goal, you know, this is how
I should be feeling, right?
I want you to kind of erase that and start
building your norm here.
This is a completely different situation from anything
you've ever experienced.
And so your emotional closeness is going to come differently.
Your intimacy is going to come differently.
Does that make sense? - Mm-hmm.
- It's sort of like you're digging a hole for yourself,
and it becomes self-sabotaging.
How can I ask this?
Is there anything about her that--
that you are not attracted to?
- We're not doing that.
- We're not doing that?
I'm asking you this because I'm trying to get deeper.
- Yeah.
- You're very careful, and almost--
I'm going to use the word "fearful"--
to pull back and get too deep in your emotions.
Tell me if I'm right or wrong here.
- No, I think, when you're on TV, you always
want to be mindful of how you come across.
I open up when I feel a sense of comfort,
and this is very new for me.
- OK.
What do you like about her?
- I like how spontaneous she is, how bubbly she is,
how energetic you are, how fun you are to be around,
how open-minded you are.
And I love that we have the same food interests.
- That's important.
- Good, good, good. I appreciate that.
Emily, your parents have been married forever.
- Ever, yeah. - And your parents--
- Same. - Same.
I will guarantee you that, if you talk to them,
they will tell you, they don't always good about--
we don't always feel good about each other,
but we're here because of something much deeper.
And that's what we're trying to do here.
Going forward, what do you think are some of the things
that you could do?
- I want to move in together.
♪
I want to see if that changes anything.
And take it a day at a time.
- And what you're going to find, honestly,
is that moving in together is actually
going to go a long way.
It honestly is.
And I want you to just trust me on this one, OK?
Just being in the same space is going to help.
- I agree.
I don't know what I can change to help the situation,
but I think, like, today, just talking about feelings
is, like, a huge step.
Because the only way, like, I think
we can figure this out is continuing
to open up about emotions, which I know is hard, but--
- Yeah, it's tough. It's tough.
- It's really, I think, the only way, like,
we can really figure this out.
- ♪ One deep breath
♪ One big step
♪ Closer to dream
- ♪ Can we make this last forever ♪
♪ You and me together
♪ End this night, your hand in mine ♪
- Are we gonna sit here?
- Yeah, if you'd like to sit here.
- OK, thank you.
So anything happening since I saw you last?
- No. - No, nothing.
Life's been the same, you know?
- Oh, I got married.
- No kidding! - Yeah.
- Believe it or not... - Congratulations.
- Yeah. - Me too.
- OK, ooh!
- Yeah.
So, you know, married life is going well.
- It's different. - It's definitely different.
I think it's been a huge time of transition.
And we're just trying to, like, navigate that together.
- So tell me a little bit about some of the things
that you'd like some support on or some guidance on.
- Yeah.
- I can go. - Yeah.
- I think the thing that Clare and I maybe struggled
with the most during the honeymoon
was trying to build a comfortable space
for physical intimacy.
- I agree with that.
It was hard for me to express my love
and affection, whatever.
But, realistically, in my past, that hasn't
been something that I've done.
You know, for me, it's, like, if that emotional side is not
there, then I can't give myself to someone physically,
if, emotionally, I feel like there's a block there.
I am moving at a turtle pace, and I am sorry.
- No, but just even vocalizing, you know, what you just did,
it means a lot.
- Yeah.
- There's so many little things that can be done in that area,
and that could be holding his hands, touching his shoulder,
stroking his back, just things that,
when you're feeling warm, to show it physically that way.
- Yeah.
- I think it's really great
that he feels that way about you.
You know, I think you want to be desired.
- Right.
- But maybe showing him a little more
in affectionate ways.
- I mean, I think holding hands feels comfy,
or, like, you know--
I mean, does it for you? - Yeah, yeah.
- Or do I need to ask you, like, is this comfortable?
- No, I'm--
- I think he's good to go. - Yeah.
- I think that whole conversation pretty much--
- I'm just saying! - Yeah.
No, this does not feel weird to me.
So, yeah, I'll make sure that I'm displaying
more visible affection.
- Yeah, I think that's really good.
So there's a couple other things I want to cover.
Well, let's talk about religion
because I know that you come to it from different traditions.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
I was raised Christian.
I was actually kicked out of church when I was ten.
I spoke out against something that needed to be spoken
out against, as a ten-year-old.
I had to rediscover
what life meant to me.
And for me personally, the best tools I could give my children
is the understanding that the world
is gray, many shades of gray.
And I feel that religion does not
prepare my children adequately for the world
that they are facing.
- I totally respect. Don't agree, but I do respect.
- I also think that families can contain
people who don't agree.
But my sense of is there shared values about, you know,
what's respectful, and what's humane,
and how do you want to live an ethical life,
and those kinds of things, they can be expressed
in lots of different ways.
- Yeah, I really appreciate you saying that.
That's, I think, really helpful for us.
- We're still finding out that there's a lot
we don't know about each other.
But I'm glad that we're going slow
and that we're taking the time to get to know each other.
- Well, I think you guys have come a long way.
- I think so too.
- ♪ And I'm standing here on top of the world ♪
♪ Can't believe that I've never been here before ♪
[soft music]
- ♪ All alone
♪ I wouldn't want it any other way ♪
- What did you think about what Pastor Cal said?
- I agreed with a lot.
And a lot of what he said is what I have
been analyzing and thinking.
♪
- Yeah.
- Specifically the self-sabotaging, that's what
I think you're doing.
- Oh, OK. - Mm-hmm.
Like, I just need you to--like,
you don't have to tell me, like, why not, but, like,
I just need you to tell me if you're physically
attracted to me or not.
Because I think that's a big, important piece of this.
And, like, you won't answer it directly.
- Because I just don't think that's nice.
- But, like, that's, like, a piece of this for me
to understand to, like, figure out.
♪
- I hear you.
I'm just also trying to protect you, so--
♪
- Don't think you're gonna hurt my feelings.
You're hurting my feelings when you
just don't tell me everything.
- I just can't.
♪
I would never want someone to tell me that in any capacity,
so I just can't do it.
♪
- So you just answered that question by, like,
not answering the question.
- No, I don't-- I'm just not saying anything.
♪
- I know, like, this isn't a reflection on me.
And, like, I feel like I've always been really confident,
and, like, I know this.
But it still just sucks to, like, deal with.
It's just, like, I didn't ever really anticipate,
like, a lot of what's happening, like,
in this scenario with this.
♪
That doesn't mean I'm gonna stop trying.
I just really need to see what he does after today.
- I'm still here, right, so, like, not 100% there,
but I'm still willing to try.
♪
- ♪ Come so far
♪ And look at where we are
♪ Gonna lead the way
- Aw! - Good to see you!
- So what's up, guys?
Look at you guys, looking all married!
- We are.
- Pretty rad.
- You're all snuggly and everything.
- Oh, yeah.
- So how long did it take you to actually
become close physically?
Because, like, this seems so natural.
- Yeah, pretty instantaneous.
- Have you consummated the marriage?
♪
- The short answer is no.
- No, yeah. - Not yet.
- OK.
- I just, you know, want to connect and bond
on, like, other things before taking that, like, step.
I just need more time.
I've always been that way.
- There's a desire there. - Yeah.
- For both of you, OK.
And not that we want to--
look, the only reason we ask is that it's just
another barometer to measure, you, know your intimacy level.
- Yeah. - And how you're getting along.
And have you talked about children?
- Yeah.
- I have always been OK not having biological children.
But if my partner really wanted biological children,
I would also be happy to do that,
and, like, go on that adventure with my partner.
- Yeah.
Like, I also want to have a family.
But one thing we wanted to ask you,
actually, was kind of, because we talked about religion,
and we definitely have some differing opinions about that.
- What is at the core of your faith?
- I guess, like, it is based on, like, God's love,
you know, really, like, caring for everyone
that, like, is in your life.
Like, it's really based on love.
- It's based on love.
Tell me, what is the basis of your spirituality,
your spiritual journey.
- Kindness, and understanding, and--
and love.
- Is it any different from what he said?
- No.
[laughter]
- And that kind of belief, I felt, was enough.
- In my experience, I don't often meet Christians
who don't want to change my mind.
- Rebecca, meet Austin. OK?
- Yeah.
- Because, for most people, we tend to attach, you know,
as a Christian, well, look, if you
don't believe the way I believe,
you're going to burn in hell.
And I think, a lot of times, we forget that,
if you actually
are living out the positive spirituality that you're
living, and it's moral, and it's good, and it's gentle,
and it's peaceful, then it's OK, you know.
Because you should never let anybody think and make
you feel as though you're doomed.
- Yeah.
- Do you understand what I'm saying?
Why are you getting emotional?
- Because that has been a lot of--
like, especially being raised Jewish,
like, Christians just typically think,
because you haven't accepted Jesus into your heart,
that, like, you're to hell.
And, like, I've heard that, like, from close friends.
And it's hard, because it's like,
I don't think I'm going to hell.
- Yeah.
- And so, when I found out that I was paired with--
- Yeah, it scared the crap out of you, didn't it?
- Yeah.
- I mean, he obviously cares a lot about you.
- I know. I know.
- If he did not care deeply for you,
he wouldn't be here, comforting you.
- Yeah. No, he's a good egg.
- Yeah, do you think this woman's compatible to you?
- Yeah, absolutely.
Yeah, the values were, like, very similar.
- The labels are the problem.
- The labels is--yeah.
I mean, it's something that, like, we are going--
that, like, I'm going to have to work on,
and, like, I'm not saying that I can't, like, overcome it.
I just haven't had time to really, like, dive into it.
And, like, I understand, and, like, absorbing everything
you're saying, and I do agree with it.
- Yeah, do you feel like you're growing,
you're still in like with each other, or where--
- Yeah, yeah.
- Yeah, I've got a crush on him.
- You have a crush on him? - Yeah.
- Can you see love in the future?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- I already have told him that, like, I love him as a person.
- Yeah, no, I feel the same way.
Like, she's an amazing person, and we do say
that to each other frequently.
- But you're falling short of "I love you."
- Yeah, well, because we're not in love yet.
- And how do you know that?
- I--
- I still don't even know how many speeding tickets he got.
You've gotta know that before you're in love with someone.
- Yeah, that's never been a requirement.
How do you know you're not in love?
- I don't know.
And like, I just feel like you know when you know, you know?
- Yeah.
- I think you guys have already planted the seeds,
and you're already growing in love.
And expressing it is the big thing.
- Yeah.
- I think you guys are really on a good track.
- ♪ Feeling good, good
- ♪ Is it love, is it love
[soft music]
♪
♪ Is it love, is it love
- Hey, come on in.
I was completely blindsided with Orion
texting me to get a divorce.
- Hello, hi! - Hi, how are you?
- Being with him has been very inconsistent,
so I'm definitely going into the meeting with Dr. Pia
hoping that we can at least be honest with each other,
but I don't know if he's able to see
the good in this marriage.
♪
- I am grateful that you all both have decided
to meet with me tonight.
When was the last time that the two of you
spoke to one another, or even saw each other in person?
- A few texting here and there.
We actually tried to meet up before all of this.
It just didn't work out with timing and things like that.
- I don't really think there was a lot
of effort put into meeting up.
He reached out and asked to meet up.
I gave him my availability, and that was that.
- Does that mean there was no response after you
gave your availability?
- No, there wasn't.
The next response was telling me that he wanted a divorce.
- OK.
What are you feeling right now, Orion?
- I am not looking to hurt her with this.
You know, honestly, I thought that it would give us both
a chance to heal from this.
Because, at this point, I don't know what would help.
♪
- What I would hate is for there
to be a missed opportunity for the two of you
to have a repair.
- I do still want to be here.
I do still feel like my husband and I can make this work.
But I don't feel like he wants to.
You came back to me and said you want to do a reset,
I don't hold this against you, we can move through this.
And then the next day it's, you don't want to continue
the marriage, even though you literally
sent me a text saying you want to focus on the future.
Like, some things you just say,
I don't think it's your intention,
but it just confuses me so much to the point
where I'm just like, OK.
♪
- I did want to focus on the future,
and, you know, that wasn't necessarily
specific to me or to us.
It was just the future as a whole.
- OK, you came in already with your mind made up of, like,
mm, there really isn't much that's gonna, like,
sway your decision.
You came in here, like, I want a divorce.
That's what's gonna happen.
Is that fair to say?
- I wouldn't-- yes, it is fair to say.
♪
There is chemistry between us.
But with that being said, it is hard
because a lot of things cut really deep.
And after the honeymoon and everything that has happened,
I am really just feeling heartbroken.
♪
And, you know, wanting to be open to this,
I do, but I know we're not able to constructively
get past or talk about things because of how you react.
When something comes up, or something is being
talked about, something is overheard,
it does go from 0 to 100.
- I think that's fair to say, but it's also unfair
to act like my reaction was just a reaction.
If there's a reaction, there's an act.
♪
- When we're feeling anxious, when we're
feeling uncomfortable, we go into protective mode.
Both of you react in ways that perhaps are not productive
when feeling defensive.
It takes time to develop that skill,
especially in a new relationship.
And you have not had enough time
to get to know one another.
What I am asking of both of you is to extend even more grace
to one another, to truly start fresh,
start over, let go
of what happened on the honeymoon.
It is not a characterization of who you are at your core.
♪
Lauren, do you truly forgive him?
- Yeah.
I feel like I've expressed that multiple times.
- What about for you?
- Um--
I'm not sure. I'm not sure.
♪
- I'm having a hard time understanding
the rigidity behind your unwillingness
to provide grace.
- Um...
♪
- Do you just not want to be with me?
Is that, like, an overarching feeling,
like, I just don't want to be with Lauren?
You can be honest.
You're not gonna hurt my feelings.
♪
- Do you just not want to be with me?
- It's just, with everything that happened,
everything that took place,
I lost all romantic interest.
♪
- Orion, how does control show up in your life for you?
- Well, I'm not trying to control what's happening
by calling for a divorce.
- You are.
♪
You feel uncomfortable, so your part of control
is to remove yourself from it.
I do feel confident that a repair is possible,
but you are protecting yourself.
That's a certain level of vulnerability
that you have closed off right now.
- OK.
- There is no such thing as a perfect marriage,
whether y'all are married to each other or anybody else.
There's going to be many uncomfortable moments.
And I really don't want to see you
all give up on one another.
Is there any chance that the two of you
can be open to working through this together,
or is there this resolute of, this is my Decision Day,
and the decision is to divorce?
♪
- It feels so horrible that I've put you
in the predicament to lose romantic attraction to me
because, through this, I have maintained
my romantic attraction to you.
But if you don't feel like you have it in you to do it, like,
I don't want to twist your arm.
I don't want to force you to stay with me.
- You know, there is no doubt that there
is chemistry between us.
And when we are, you know, avoiding the big topics,
or trying to navigate around them, yes,
I mean, everything is great.
But there is no romance within me anymore.
After the honeymoon, taking time,
and just this conversation, and where I'm feeling,
and where I'm at,
I want to continue to follow through
with wanting a divorce.
♪
- Anything that you'd like to say to him, Lauren?
- No. It would be a waste.
- Do you want a divorce?
- It doesn't matter what I want.
- It does matter what you want.
Can you share with Orion what it is that you want?
♪
- I can only speak for myself.
I knew what marriage looked like,
and that there would be obstacles.
And marriage requires a lot of forgiveness, a lot of grace.
And I'm just thinking that I can't wait to be in a marriage
with someone who wants to try as hard as I do.
That's what I'm thinking.
♪
- That's fair.
♪
- I hope you're OK, and I wish you the best.
- This whole thing is stupid.
Both of us were robbed because of his unforgivingness,
and that's annoying.
- Thank you. - You're very welcome.
- Thank you for coming. - Absolutely.
- Because this could have went totally different if we would
have gave it two more weeks.
I understand, [bleep] happened, but when does [bleep]
not happen in relationships?
- ♪ I really tried to be my best for you ♪
[soft music]
♪ I just kept on falling
♪ I loved you without caution ♪
♪
♪ And you dropped me
♪ Like I meant nothing at all ♪
- I feel like there's a lot of things
I could have done differently.
But, you know, I was very excited and hoping that--
oh, excuse me-- and hoping that I would find a life partner.
There is absolutely no regrets in this for me,
nothing about this, nothing about Lauren.
She feels very different than I do in all of this.
You know, my biggest fear was hurting her,
but I think I did that anyways.
But I do truly believe that this is the best course.
♪
- ♪ I really tried to be my best for you ♪
♪
- Next time on "Married at First Sight"...
- ♪ One time for the pretty little thing ♪
♪ In the back of the club
♪ Getting the thing to bang
♪ Two times for the DJ with some hip-hop ♪
♪ 'Cause the party don't stop till the break of dawn ♪
- Our couples will get to see their friends
and family for the first time since the wedding.
- Hey.
This is totally rad!
- How's the sex life?
You guys getting it in on the reg here?
- I think it's just up to him.
- That is a hurdle that, like, will take time to jump over.
- So how is your relationship with your father?
Does he know you're on this?
- No. - [gasps]
- What would you like to tell a man who's on his death bed?
- That really threw me for a loop.
- Me too. - Whoa!
- You knew that you were gonna get married,
and you were gonna move in with them,
and it was gonna be, like, intensive.
- I'm still here. - By a string.
- I've met you guys for an hour, and you guys are
coming at me like it's nobody's business.
- Excuse me, you're married to one of my best friends,
so who are you?
Why are you here?
- I'm, like, at a loss actually.
[dramatic music]
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