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[dramatic music]
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- Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
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- Ten singles took
an incredible leap of faith
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in order to find love.
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They married
as complete strangers.
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[cheers and applause]
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And in just over
two weeks,
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they will have to decide
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whether to stay married
or get a divorce.
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- ♪ Everything is brighter ♪
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- Last time, our couples dug
deep into each other's pasts
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in the hopes of
better understanding
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their future together.
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- She shoots.
She scores.
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- Scores.
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- Gina and Clint.
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- Soccer taught me
a lot about life.
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- Yeah.
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- You know, I learned
perseverance, drive--
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- Stay in it.
- --and motivation.
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Even when I hated it,
I wanted to get good.
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- Yeah.
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Clint and I really share
that mentality of, like,
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not giving up on things,
and he really does
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try to, like, give his all.
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And it makes me feel like we
can make this marriage work.
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- ♪ From you ♪
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- Jasmine and Airris.
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- I feel like moving
around so much, like,
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whether it's a relationship,
whether it's a city, like,
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I'll just,
boom, get up and go,
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but I feel like
that's something from
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my childhood that I
feel like definitely
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has carried into adulthood.
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♪ ♪
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- Nicole and Chris.
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- [cackles]
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Let me twirl my "moo-stache."
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- You gotta work on
the laugh, though.
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- The fact that he
doesn't judge me
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and I'm not embarrassed or
afraid at all that he'll think
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it's weird
I think is amazing,
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because I've never felt
this way before.
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- Kirsten and Shaquille.
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So--
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- OK, you want to be
married to them?
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- Shaquille, I don't
want you to overthink it,
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and I don't want you to
put that kind of pressure
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on yourself.
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We're gonna-- we're
gonna be great.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Let's get it ♪
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♪ Let's go ♪
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- Oh.
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- And tonight our couples
must explore intimacy
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in order to form a greater
foundation of trust
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in their marriage.
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- Who knows?
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We might Amazon a damn
sex chair after all this.
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- I might have one.
- Damn, Gina.
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- [laughs]
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- Do you have control?
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- No, I don't have any control.
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Each activity, step by step,
is drawing us closer.
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- Do you feel like you're
getting your needs met?
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- Um, no.
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I ain't trying to be
your friend.
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I'm trying to be your wife.
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- I'm not gonna beg you.
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- I don't want you
to keep feeling like this.
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♪ ♪
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- I didn't realize
I had so many issues.
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I say them out loud.
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I'm like, wow,
you are really [bleep] up.
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- I think I'm just
at a point where
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I'm at my breaking point.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ I'm floating like a dream
through the city lights ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Good morning.
- Good morning.
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- Lookit, she looks beautiful,
even in the mornings.
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- Mm.
Thank you, sweetheart.
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- No makeup needed.
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No makeup necessary.
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- Down, whisper,
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up, shake, shake.
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- He's whispering.
- Still whispering.
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- [laughs]
- Shake.
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Yeah, pound.
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- Shaquille is so exhausted,
and he's all packed up,
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because he has to go to
Memphis to work and to do
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some workshops and recruit all
these students for fall 2023.
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Is that right?
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- I don't really know, like,
emotionally and mentally,
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like, my headspace, honestly.
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I have been so, like,
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open and optimistic
about everything
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in this process.
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I'm really trying to not start
to put all these guards up,
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but I definitely
have guards up now.
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I'm concerned, but I'm hopeful.
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So although I'm not in a
space that I want to be in,
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I'm hopeful that by the end of
this I can be in that space,
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and so can Airris.
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We both, you know,
deserve to be happy.
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- ♪ Chasing my destiny ♪
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- So my-- my mom told me about
this thing she got in her
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house that she really
likes, and I thought it'd be
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fun if we could try it.
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- Yeah.
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- But we have to install it.
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- OK.
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- Come on, I'll show you.
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- All right.
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- It's a surprise.
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- I mean, in a sense, yes, I--
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I pictured this
for married life,
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in the-- in the sense that we
got home projects that we're
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gonna work on together.
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And we want to be
able to include--
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include each other.
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We don't want to have
to get to a point
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where it's like she's
gonna do her thing,
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I'm gonna do my thing.
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We want to be involved with
each other in everything
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that we do.
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- So this is what
we have to install.
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- OK, a bidet.
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- It's a bidet.
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- All right.
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- Have you ever used a bidet?
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- No, I have not.
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- I think bidets
are really cool.
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I mean, you got
a nice, clean tushy,
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and Chris has never used one.
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And we unexpectedly
get intimate sometimes.
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So it would be nice to
always have a fresh tushy
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if you haven't just
freshly showered.
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- See, I'm not afraid to
use instructions because--
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- Well, that's good because
if we install this wrong,
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imagine it goes
up the wrong hole.
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No, we're having fun.
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Let me have fun with my toilet.
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♪ ♪
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- There we go.
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And I think we're done.
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- All right, now why don't
you get out so I can use it?
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- All right, sounds good.
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- Testing, testing the bidet.
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Putting it on rear
cleaning mode, and, ah, OK.
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- I thought you used
one of these before.
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You sound like a beginner.
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- Yeah, but not with
my husband listening.
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- Do you feel like this is
another level of intimacy?
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- This is really intimate.
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You're listening to me
clean my tushy right now.
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Ooh.
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- I am.
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She's a tough New Yorker.
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She can handle a little
water up her butt, but me,
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I don't know;
wish me luck.
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- Good luck, babe.
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You got this.
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Clean that tushy.
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And make sure to start
off with the first level,
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because you don't
want to come in hot.
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- Ah!
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[laughs]
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It's not
just a little spray.
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It's literally
right up and in it.
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I feel so violated.
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Oh, that was intense.
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- That was intimate and
supportive and teamwork,
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and honestly, it turned me on
a little bit that you
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could put something together--
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- --and you were
willing to do something
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silly to make me happy.
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- Anything for a clean
tushy for you, honey.
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- Thank you, baby.
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- I feel like the toilet
made me its bitch.
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[laughs]
Like, I'm not even joking.
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- ♪ I'm feeling good ♪
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♪ Yeah ♪
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[knock at door]
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- Hello.
- Hey, hey, how are you?
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- Hi, I'm Dr. Pia.
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Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
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Shaquille.
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- We're bringing
Dr. Pia back to help
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our couples with trust
and intimacy in their marriage.
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Pia has been brought up
to speed on everything.
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She's here to help our couples
find out how they can
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create better intimacy
but also to learn how they can
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connect on a visceral level.
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Because with just over two
weeks left until Decision Day,
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it can be the difference
between staying
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married and getting a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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[knocking at door]
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- Hello.
- Hi.
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- Hi.
- I'm Dr. Pia.
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Nice to meet you.
- I'm Clint.
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Nice to meet you.
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- Oh.
- Oh, who's this?
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- This is Hank.
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- Hi, Hank.
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- Come on in.
- Hi, Hank.
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- Easy, bud.
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How's it going?
- Good.
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How about you guys?
- Good.
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- Good.
- Hi, Hank.
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Well, how have
things been going?
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- Yeah, good.
- Good, yeah.
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- Yeah, yeah.
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- OK, what's been
making it good?
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- Jeez, our communication
is excellent.
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We're growing
in our relationship.
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You know, we just get
along really well, so--
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- OK, do you agree, Gina?
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- I do, yeah.
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I mean, from a
marriage standpoint,
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not-- we're not really--
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we don't feel married,
but things are going well
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in the regard of, like,
getting to know one another
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and building that, like,
friendship foundation,
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I guess.
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- OK, why do you think you guys
don't feel, like, connected
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like a married couple?
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- Well, we've got--
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we've got a physical barrier.
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- There's just no real,
like, draw to flirt,
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or hold hands,
or kiss, or any of that.
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- What typically creates
that draw for you?
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- Honestly, I'm not sure.
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I feel like I've typically
just been aligned with someone
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and it's just
easily been there.
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I've never really, like,
sat down and thought about it.
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- What about for you, Clint?
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- Yeah, I mean, typically,
the way it happens
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is just when I see
somebody, I'm just like,
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there's that unquantified
part to it where I'm like,
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I want to be sexually, like,
attracted and want to move
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forward in that capacity, so--
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- Do you all have
sexual desires
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independent of one another?
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- Yeah.
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- OK, what was that
reaction that you just had?
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- No, I did.
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That was just a very
confident reaction.
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Yeah.
- OK.
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- I mean, yeah, for sure.
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- OK, and how are
you fulfilling that?
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- Fulfilling our
sexual desires?
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- Mm-hmm.
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- I mean, obviously on our own.
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[laughter]
262
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- OK.
263
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- It's an independent
exercise at this moment.
264
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- Uh-huh.
265
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Do you all talk about it?
266
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- No, because we're--
we don't have any
267
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sexual desire for one another.
268
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So I feel like that'd be pretty
awkward to talk about that.
269
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- How do y'all
think you're gonna
270
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foster this sexual desire?
271
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- I mean, I was hoping that it
would happen more organically.
272
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- Everything takes
work, everything.
273
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Every relationship
is different.
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So even though sometimes
there might have been, like,
275
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instant sexual chemistry
with someone else,
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if you're making this
decision to be married, right,
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do we not have to put
forth similar effort into
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the intimate side of things?
279
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In order for something to
grow, you have to water it.
280
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- But we are watering it.
- Right.
281
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How?
How are you allowing intimacy--
282
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- We're spending time-- yeah,
we're covering all the other
283
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bases of the intimacy.
284
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- But you're not
talking about intimacy.
285
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You're not talking about sex.
286
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That doesn't sound like
watering it to me at all.
287
00:09:51,417 --> 00:09:53,833
- Oh, yeah, that just grosses
me out to talk about that.
288
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- OK.
289
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- Yeah.
290
00:09:56,500 --> 00:09:57,708
- So there is some
discomfort that there is
291
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around intimacy and sex then.
292
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- No, not necessarily.
293
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I just don't--
294
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I don't have the desire to
talk about sex and intimacy
295
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with someone that I
don't have the desire
296
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to talk to about it.
297
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I don't know.
298
00:10:10,083 --> 00:10:11,292
- How do you think
the marriage is
299
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gonna last without having sex?
300
00:10:13,542 --> 00:10:16,292
- I don't-- I don't know
if it is gonna last.
301
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- OK, what do you think?
302
00:10:17,708 --> 00:10:19,000
- Yeah, I mean--
303
00:10:19,125 --> 00:10:21,167
- I mean, I think
he agrees with that.
304
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- Well, let him talk.
305
00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:27,167
- I mean, the sexual component
has to be there in a marriage.
306
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So yeah,
it's a challenge for us.
307
00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:31,833
- Mm-hmm.
308
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Something that's important with
intimacy and sex in general
309
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is the context.
310
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And I'm curious
if we can discuss what
311
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might be other contextual
factors that might
312
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help spark desire or arousal.
313
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Like, could it be mood?
314
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Could it be, OK, I just
got out of the shower
315
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and put on some really
good-smelling lotion?
316
00:10:49,542 --> 00:10:50,958
- I'm a big scent guy.
317
00:10:51,042 --> 00:10:52,833
- OK.
318
00:10:52,958 --> 00:10:56,417
- So you know, I've got the
whole plethora of colognes,
319
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and so that's
something that,
320
00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:01,042
you know, I'm very much
attracted to, you know, like,
321
00:11:01,208 --> 00:11:02,542
a sexy scent.
322
00:11:02,708 --> 00:11:04,250
- What would you define
as, like, a sexy scent?
323
00:11:04,375 --> 00:11:05,667
- Oh god, just like-- like--
324
00:11:05,792 --> 00:11:06,792
- I'm like,
where's your cologne at?
325
00:11:06,875 --> 00:11:08,875
- --like, rich vanilla.
326
00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:11,167
- OK, so, like, vanilla,
not floral, but yeah, like--
327
00:11:11,250 --> 00:11:12,542
- Yeah.
- OK.
328
00:11:12,667 --> 00:11:13,750
- Yeah.
- I would say similar things.
329
00:11:13,875 --> 00:11:14,917
I mean, definitely smell.
330
00:11:15,042 --> 00:11:16,500
Like, I love a good cologne.
331
00:11:16,583 --> 00:11:18,250
- Mm-hmm.
332
00:11:18,375 --> 00:11:20,958
- Music, for sure,
but just for, like, attraction,
333
00:11:21,083 --> 00:11:23,083
I would say definitely,
like, style, too.
334
00:11:23,208 --> 00:11:25,000
Like, typically,
like, a little bit
335
00:11:25,167 --> 00:11:27,667
of swag, those types of things
have been attractive for me.
336
00:11:27,792 --> 00:11:29,667
- OK, do you feel
like Clint has swag?
337
00:11:29,792 --> 00:11:31,167
- I don't know that
Clint has swag.
338
00:11:31,292 --> 00:11:33,333
- OK.
339
00:11:33,500 --> 00:11:34,500
- Interesting.
340
00:11:34,667 --> 00:11:35,958
- OK, what do you make of that?
341
00:11:36,083 --> 00:11:37,667
- Interesting.
342
00:11:37,792 --> 00:11:40,000
Oh, I mean, I've been
quantified as,
343
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like, the king of swag, so--
- Oh, OK.
344
00:11:41,375 --> 00:11:42,333
- Really?
345
00:11:42,500 --> 00:11:43,500
- That's like-- yeah.
346
00:11:43,625 --> 00:11:44,667
- OK.
347
00:11:44,750 --> 00:11:45,750
- This is just my loungewear.
348
00:11:45,875 --> 00:11:47,583
- This is your loungewear.
349
00:11:47,708 --> 00:11:48,792
- It's fine, but if I got
to dial that needle up,
350
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I've got the apparel to do it.
351
00:11:50,375 --> 00:11:51,917
- OK.
352
00:11:52,042 --> 00:11:54,458
- Yeah, Senor Swag
is actually my title.
353
00:11:54,583 --> 00:11:58,167
- All right, so let's work
on setting up the context.
354
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So for example, could you see
yourself getting the house
355
00:12:02,292 --> 00:12:06,500
smelling of vanilla
and spice and playing, like,
356
00:12:06,625 --> 00:12:09,875
a good playlist that would
generally get you in the mood
357
00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:14,000
without the expectation
of it leading to sex?
358
00:12:14,083 --> 00:12:15,917
- Yeah, I mean, I can do that.
359
00:12:16,042 --> 00:12:17,708
- OK.
360
00:12:17,833 --> 00:12:19,583
- But I don't know if it's
gonna get us in the mood.
361
00:12:19,708 --> 00:12:22,458
- I just said without
the expectation.
362
00:12:22,583 --> 00:12:25,500
- I know, but still-- no, I
get what the end result is.
363
00:12:25,667 --> 00:12:27,292
- Oh my god.
364
00:12:27,375 --> 00:12:28,708
- Don't worry about the
end result. Like, this is--
365
00:12:28,833 --> 00:12:30,250
- I'm worried about
the end result.
366
00:12:30,375 --> 00:12:31,917
- And this is what's
gonna be the downfall.
367
00:12:32,042 --> 00:12:33,333
- That's the whole
problem is the end result.
368
00:12:33,458 --> 00:12:34,875
- Yes.
- That's the problem.
369
00:12:35,042 --> 00:12:36,583
We've got to get the focus
off of the end result
370
00:12:36,708 --> 00:12:38,250
because you're putting
additional pressure
371
00:12:38,375 --> 00:12:39,292
on to being intimate.
372
00:12:39,417 --> 00:12:40,667
- OK.
373
00:12:40,750 --> 00:12:42,167
- So when people
come into my office
374
00:12:42,333 --> 00:12:43,708
and they have these
concerns, what do I do?
375
00:12:43,875 --> 00:12:45,417
I assign them homework
to do just that.
376
00:12:45,542 --> 00:12:47,125
- Mm-hmm
377
00:12:47,208 --> 00:12:48,667
- And so it's not like,
go home and just have sex.
378
00:12:48,792 --> 00:12:50,000
We take baby steps
into it because you
379
00:12:50,125 --> 00:12:51,125
do have to feel comfortable.
380
00:12:51,250 --> 00:12:52,667
- Sure.
381
00:12:52,792 --> 00:12:54,333
- Because the idea
behind the exercise
382
00:12:54,500 --> 00:12:57,875
is to take away the pressure
and to take away expectations.
383
00:12:58,042 --> 00:13:00,292
And it's hard to do that
because we can get distracted
384
00:13:00,375 --> 00:13:02,042
by our thoughts, the thoughts
that y'all are having
385
00:13:02,167 --> 00:13:04,083
of, like, not attracted,
not happening,
386
00:13:04,208 --> 00:13:07,083
we're not there yet, or, like,
all the reasons why not to.
387
00:13:07,208 --> 00:13:12,333
And so if we have your focus
go on to the sensation of what
388
00:13:12,458 --> 00:13:15,125
you're feeling in terms
of touch, and, you know,
389
00:13:15,250 --> 00:13:17,500
it doesn't have to be,
like, in an erogenous zone.
390
00:13:17,625 --> 00:13:19,833
I wouldn't even
recommend that, OK?
391
00:13:19,958 --> 00:13:22,417
It could be, like,
on the arm and just
392
00:13:22,542 --> 00:13:23,833
seeing what touch is like.
393
00:13:23,958 --> 00:13:25,042
- Yeah, fair enough.
394
00:13:25,208 --> 00:13:26,500
- Fair enough.
395
00:13:26,625 --> 00:13:28,000
- Clint and I
haven't really talked
396
00:13:28,125 --> 00:13:31,708
about our physical
attraction at all
397
00:13:31,875 --> 00:13:33,375
really since the honeymoon.
398
00:13:33,500 --> 00:13:36,625
So it definitely puts
the pressure on again
399
00:13:36,750 --> 00:13:39,000
for us to have to step
into something that
400
00:13:39,125 --> 00:13:41,167
feels uncomfortable for us.
401
00:13:41,292 --> 00:13:44,167
♪ ♪
402
00:13:47,917 --> 00:13:50,792
[upbeat music]
403
00:13:50,875 --> 00:13:52,542
♪ ♪
404
00:13:52,708 --> 00:13:54,042
- Hi, I'm Jasmine.
- Nice to meet you.
405
00:13:54,208 --> 00:13:55,625
I'm Dr. Pia.
406
00:13:55,708 --> 00:13:56,375
- Nice to meet you.
- Hi, how you doing?
407
00:13:56,542 --> 00:13:57,667
- Hi.
Dr. Pia.
408
00:13:57,792 --> 00:13:58,667
Nice to meet you.
- Airris.
409
00:13:58,792 --> 00:13:59,833
- Nice to meet you.
410
00:13:59,917 --> 00:14:00,750
Where are we go-- oh, here?
411
00:14:00,875 --> 00:14:02,000
- We're right here.
412
00:14:02,083 --> 00:14:03,750
- All right, cool.
- Over here.
413
00:14:03,875 --> 00:14:10,292
All right, well,
how have things been going?
414
00:14:10,417 --> 00:14:12,000
- It's probably not
like either one of us,
415
00:14:12,125 --> 00:14:14,167
you know, had envisioned
before coming into this,
416
00:14:14,292 --> 00:14:16,875
but, you know, that's
part of the risk you take,
417
00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,000
you know, signing up to
marry a complete stranger.
418
00:14:19,125 --> 00:14:20,667
- Right.
419
00:14:20,792 --> 00:14:23,500
Is it something you
feel like can change?
420
00:14:23,625 --> 00:14:26,083
- That's why we're both
still here today, you know?
421
00:14:26,208 --> 00:14:28,417
I guess if we felt
like it was inevitable,
422
00:14:28,542 --> 00:14:30,875
we would have told them
we ready for Decision Day
423
00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:32,458
and got up out of here.
424
00:14:32,583 --> 00:14:35,500
- OK, do you feel like you're
getting your needs met?
425
00:14:35,625 --> 00:14:38,167
- Um, no.
426
00:14:38,292 --> 00:14:41,292
With, you know,
having him, who's not really
427
00:14:41,375 --> 00:14:43,417
sexually attracted
to me, we don't really
428
00:14:43,542 --> 00:14:44,833
have any physical touch.
429
00:14:44,958 --> 00:14:46,667
So it's kind of like
that's something
430
00:14:46,833 --> 00:14:48,125
in a relationship
I'm used to getting
431
00:14:48,250 --> 00:14:49,500
and something
that I actually need.
432
00:14:49,625 --> 00:14:51,167
- Mm-hmm.
- So--
433
00:14:51,250 --> 00:14:52,833
- Do you guys feel like
there's a friendship here?
434
00:14:52,958 --> 00:14:54,167
- Yes.
- Yes.
435
00:14:54,250 --> 00:14:55,917
- OK, you said that
pretty quickly.
436
00:14:56,042 --> 00:14:59,000
- Yeah, he friend-zoned
me on the honeymoon.
437
00:14:59,167 --> 00:15:01,083
- OK, so that
sounds like there's
438
00:15:01,208 --> 00:15:02,583
a negative connotation.
439
00:15:02,708 --> 00:15:03,625
- I ain't trying
to be your friend.
440
00:15:03,708 --> 00:15:05,500
I'm trying to be your wife.
441
00:15:05,625 --> 00:15:07,542
It's like, when you see me,
like, are you happy to see me?
442
00:15:07,667 --> 00:15:08,833
Like, you gonna hug me?
- Mm.
443
00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:10,500
- You gonna-- like--
444
00:15:10,667 --> 00:15:12,167
like, I can't tell you the
last time I hugged him.
445
00:15:12,292 --> 00:15:13,875
- You don't even
want to hug her?
446
00:15:14,042 --> 00:15:16,042
- Yes, I do, but, like,
I guess the longer it
447
00:15:16,208 --> 00:15:18,542
goes without being
done, like, the more
448
00:15:18,708 --> 00:15:20,833
awkward that it feels.
449
00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:23,292
All the other things are
cool, but, like, this--
450
00:15:23,417 --> 00:15:28,792
it's such, like, a big issue,
and we got to get around this.
451
00:15:28,917 --> 00:15:30,917
- Part of being
intimate is having
452
00:15:31,042 --> 00:15:32,833
great conversation,
good conversation,
453
00:15:32,917 --> 00:15:34,500
talking for a long
period of time.
454
00:15:34,625 --> 00:15:36,083
- Yeah.
455
00:15:36,208 --> 00:15:38,167
- That's not happening
now with the two of you?
456
00:15:38,250 --> 00:15:41,000
- Like, we talk, you know,
but it's not like, man,
457
00:15:41,083 --> 00:15:43,208
that conversation me and
Jasmine had last Tuesday,
458
00:15:43,375 --> 00:15:44,667
it really hit.
459
00:15:44,792 --> 00:15:46,167
Like, it's not like, you know,
I don't think we've had
460
00:15:46,333 --> 00:15:47,833
any of those, like,
type of moments.
461
00:15:47,917 --> 00:15:49,667
- Mm-hmm.
462
00:15:49,792 --> 00:15:52,125
Jasmine, do you feel like
you're holding back from him?
463
00:15:52,208 --> 00:15:53,125
- No.
464
00:15:53,208 --> 00:15:54,500
- No?
465
00:15:54,625 --> 00:15:57,333
Do you feel like you're
forthcoming with him?
466
00:15:57,458 --> 00:15:58,250
- Yeah.
467
00:15:58,375 --> 00:16:00,000
- OK.
468
00:16:00,125 --> 00:16:01,750
- I mean, probably in
the beginning of this,
469
00:16:01,875 --> 00:16:06,667
I was probably a lot more open,
but I feel like I have started
470
00:16:06,792 --> 00:16:08,167
to get a little guarded.
471
00:16:08,250 --> 00:16:10,208
But I don't feel like
I'm, like, holding
472
00:16:10,333 --> 00:16:11,833
back from conversation, no.
473
00:16:11,917 --> 00:16:14,292
- OK, do you feel
like you're holding
474
00:16:14,417 --> 00:16:16,458
back from, like, volunteering
information to him or--
475
00:16:16,542 --> 00:16:17,833
- I think so.
476
00:16:17,958 --> 00:16:19,417
Yeah, I think that
would be a more--
477
00:16:19,542 --> 00:16:21,750
- I'm getting the sense
that you're, like,
478
00:16:21,875 --> 00:16:25,000
being agreeable with him, like,
not trying to stir the pot too
479
00:16:25,083 --> 00:16:26,375
much, and, like,
holding back from what
480
00:16:26,500 --> 00:16:28,333
it is that, like,
you want or that you
481
00:16:28,417 --> 00:16:31,500
like, like, trying to just
kind of, like, keep the peace.
482
00:16:31,625 --> 00:16:32,875
I see you shaking your head.
483
00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:34,458
Is that how you're
experiencing her?
484
00:16:34,542 --> 00:16:35,833
- No, I agree.
- OK.
485
00:16:35,958 --> 00:16:37,333
- That I'm being agreeable?
486
00:16:37,417 --> 00:16:39,167
- Sometimes if someone
ask you something, like,
487
00:16:39,250 --> 00:16:42,333
it's not your
real, full feeling.
488
00:16:42,417 --> 00:16:45,333
Like, you just-- after
we talked to Dr. Pepper
489
00:16:45,458 --> 00:16:47,875
about, like, you know, diving
deep, having a conversation,
490
00:16:48,042 --> 00:16:50,292
we did the exercise
where we pulled
491
00:16:50,417 --> 00:16:51,958
the questions out of the jar.
492
00:16:52,042 --> 00:16:54,000
And then, like,
the next day,
493
00:16:54,125 --> 00:16:58,583
we were on the couch for, like,
two hours just chilling.
494
00:16:58,708 --> 00:17:02,333
I was asking typical, like,
first-date questions, like,
495
00:17:02,458 --> 00:17:04,292
but it was just
to spark the conversation.
496
00:17:04,375 --> 00:17:06,583
But I'm probing,
and I'm asking questions,
497
00:17:06,708 --> 00:17:09,667
but I wasn't receiving any,
like, questions or feedback.
498
00:17:09,792 --> 00:17:12,750
♪ ♪
499
00:17:12,875 --> 00:17:14,000
- He gets very sarcastic.
500
00:17:14,083 --> 00:17:15,708
He gets very like--
501
00:17:15,833 --> 00:17:17,875
makes me feel like-- like
he don't want to be there.
502
00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:19,333
He don't.
503
00:17:19,417 --> 00:17:20,875
So I really just
felt like he was just
504
00:17:21,042 --> 00:17:22,500
asking these questions
to pass the time.
505
00:17:22,625 --> 00:17:24,292
I didn't really feel like
when I was answering,
506
00:17:24,417 --> 00:17:26,292
he really cared
what I was saying.
507
00:17:26,417 --> 00:17:28,708
Like, it was just kind of like,
let me ask you these questions
508
00:17:28,875 --> 00:17:30,708
to make the time pass.
509
00:17:30,833 --> 00:17:32,917
- When she calls you out, how
did you feel about that, her,
510
00:17:33,042 --> 00:17:35,750
like, challenging
you then in that way?
511
00:17:35,875 --> 00:17:37,333
- Oh, I love it.
512
00:17:37,458 --> 00:17:38,958
- This is what's
gonna turn him on.
513
00:17:39,042 --> 00:17:39,958
- Oh my gosh.
514
00:17:40,083 --> 00:17:40,917
- I got his number.
515
00:17:41,042 --> 00:17:41,958
I got his number.
516
00:17:42,083 --> 00:17:43,083
He needs you--
517
00:17:43,208 --> 00:17:44,625
- Oh my word.
518
00:17:44,750 --> 00:17:46,167
- --to initiate and
take more of the charge.
519
00:17:46,292 --> 00:17:47,958
What is the "oh my word" about?
520
00:17:48,083 --> 00:17:50,000
- I just-- I guess I
wasn't expecting that.
521
00:17:50,125 --> 00:17:51,833
- Mm-hmm, so calling
you out in the moment
522
00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:54,167
when you're being uninviting?
523
00:17:54,292 --> 00:17:56,042
- Right, anything, yeah.
524
00:17:56,167 --> 00:17:59,208
- OK, I can try.
525
00:17:59,375 --> 00:18:02,042
- OK, because we've got
to, like, spark some sort
526
00:18:02,167 --> 00:18:04,083
of interest, chemistry here.
527
00:18:04,208 --> 00:18:06,125
- ♪ Love is a game ♪
528
00:18:06,208 --> 00:18:08,458
♪ Since ever, the same ♪
529
00:18:08,583 --> 00:18:11,208
♪ ♪
530
00:18:11,375 --> 00:18:12,875
- All right, well, cheers.
531
00:18:13,042 --> 00:18:14,458
- Cheers to getting--
532
00:18:14,583 --> 00:18:15,583
- "Physi-cal."
533
00:18:15,708 --> 00:18:17,000
- --getting "physi-cal."
534
00:18:17,125 --> 00:18:21,042
- [laughs] So uncomfortable.
535
00:18:21,167 --> 00:18:23,625
- You don't think I have swag?
536
00:18:23,708 --> 00:18:25,500
My dress style is not swag?
537
00:18:25,625 --> 00:18:27,083
- I don't know that
it screams swag.
538
00:18:27,208 --> 00:18:28,083
- Yeah, but I--
539
00:18:28,208 --> 00:18:29,375
I can dial it up.
540
00:18:29,542 --> 00:18:31,167
Like, you've seen
me dial it up.
541
00:18:31,333 --> 00:18:33,333
- Yeah, yeah, yeah,
you wore a nice suit on your--
542
00:18:33,458 --> 00:18:35,000
- Yeah, and the couples thing.
543
00:18:35,167 --> 00:18:36,625
I had my French
cuffs and my blazer.
544
00:18:36,750 --> 00:18:38,042
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
545
00:18:38,208 --> 00:18:39,333
- You don't think
that was swagged up?
546
00:18:39,458 --> 00:18:41,292
You thought that was terrible?
547
00:18:41,375 --> 00:18:42,875
She's like, it was
absolutely the worst.
548
00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:44,667
- I don't want to
make you feel bad.
549
00:18:44,792 --> 00:18:47,167
- You're like--
immediately, you're like--
550
00:18:47,292 --> 00:18:49,042
do you think Clint has swag?
No.
551
00:18:49,208 --> 00:18:50,708
She didn't even
finish the question.
552
00:18:50,833 --> 00:18:55,083
- [laughs] Was that as
offensive as the honeymoon
553
00:18:55,208 --> 00:18:56,083
comment you made?
554
00:18:56,208 --> 00:18:57,167
- Probably worse.
555
00:18:57,333 --> 00:18:59,542
I can't get over it now.
556
00:18:59,667 --> 00:19:00,958
- I'm sorry.
557
00:19:01,042 --> 00:19:03,458
- Can you believe that--
558
00:19:03,583 --> 00:19:05,333
- Listen, we're gonna
have to get you just,
559
00:19:05,417 --> 00:19:06,375
like, a swagged-out haircut.
560
00:19:06,542 --> 00:19:07,833
I think that's the first step.
561
00:19:07,917 --> 00:19:09,458
We can't do it yet.
562
00:19:09,583 --> 00:19:11,167
- Oh, now my hair isn't
swag enough for you?
563
00:19:11,292 --> 00:19:12,667
- No, you definitely
don't have a swag haircut.
564
00:19:12,792 --> 00:19:13,875
We can work on it.
565
00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:15,500
- [bleep].
566
00:19:15,583 --> 00:19:16,875
- You can't expect to
have a swag haircut
567
00:19:17,042 --> 00:19:18,500
if you cut it by yourself.
568
00:19:18,667 --> 00:19:20,208
- True.
569
00:19:20,333 --> 00:19:21,292
- You've just been trimming
it for eight years.
570
00:19:21,375 --> 00:19:23,500
You need, like, a good haircut.
571
00:19:23,583 --> 00:19:29,042
Whether or not we stay married,
you'll thank me for that.
572
00:19:29,208 --> 00:19:32,083
So what are you thinking
about this exercise?
573
00:19:32,208 --> 00:19:33,500
- Who the hell knows?
574
00:19:33,583 --> 00:19:35,458
You know, I don't
like to ever say,
575
00:19:35,583 --> 00:19:37,667
like, I've got all the
answers, and they're
576
00:19:37,833 --> 00:19:39,417
obviously professionals.
577
00:19:39,542 --> 00:19:40,708
- Mm-hmm.
578
00:19:40,833 --> 00:19:43,833
I don't know that
curating our R&B playlist
579
00:19:43,917 --> 00:19:46,000
and lighting a candle
is gonna make us want to bang
580
00:19:46,167 --> 00:19:47,292
in the next
three weeks, but we'll
581
00:19:47,375 --> 00:19:49,417
definitely go for it.
582
00:19:49,542 --> 00:19:50,750
- But she also
said, like, don't
583
00:19:50,875 --> 00:19:53,125
have a preconceived outcome.
584
00:19:53,208 --> 00:19:54,417
- Gitchy, gitchy, gitchy.
585
00:19:54,542 --> 00:19:56,000
Get him.
586
00:19:56,083 --> 00:19:57,083
So you think this is
actually gonna work?
587
00:19:57,208 --> 00:19:58,333
- I know-- I don't know.
588
00:19:58,417 --> 00:19:59,833
I'm not one to say yes or no.
589
00:19:59,958 --> 00:20:01,667
Just I'm trying
to be like, nope,
590
00:20:01,833 --> 00:20:04,792
I don't have my expectation of
saying that's not gonna work.
591
00:20:04,875 --> 00:20:06,042
It might.
592
00:20:06,167 --> 00:20:07,917
I don't-- I don't know.
- OK.
593
00:20:08,042 --> 00:20:12,917
- I'm not a sex
counselor or doctor.
594
00:20:13,042 --> 00:20:14,500
So who knows?
595
00:20:14,625 --> 00:20:17,083
We might Amazon a damn
sex chair after all this.
596
00:20:17,208 --> 00:20:18,500
- [laughs]
597
00:20:18,583 --> 00:20:19,583
- Like, a swing.
598
00:20:19,708 --> 00:20:20,625
- I might have one.
599
00:20:20,750 --> 00:20:21,583
You don't know.
600
00:20:21,708 --> 00:20:22,583
- Hot damn.
601
00:20:22,708 --> 00:20:23,708
- [laughs]
602
00:20:23,833 --> 00:20:26,333
- Damn, Gina.
603
00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:29,333
Got that "buy one,
get one" swing.
604
00:20:29,417 --> 00:20:31,542
- At least you make
me laugh, you know?
605
00:20:31,667 --> 00:20:33,458
- Hey, at least
you laugh at me.
606
00:20:37,208 --> 00:20:40,000
[gentle music]
607
00:20:40,125 --> 00:20:44,958
♪ ♪
608
00:20:48,042 --> 00:20:49,042
- Hello, honey.
609
00:20:49,167 --> 00:20:50,250
How are you?
610
00:20:50,375 --> 00:20:53,167
- I'm good, well-rested.
611
00:20:53,250 --> 00:20:55,542
- Oh,
why are you so well-rested?
612
00:20:55,667 --> 00:20:56,792
- Because I didn't have to
wake up early
613
00:20:56,875 --> 00:20:59,333
for once in my life.
614
00:20:59,500 --> 00:21:01,125
- How's everything going?
615
00:21:01,208 --> 00:21:04,000
How is the recruiting
and everything going?
616
00:21:04,125 --> 00:21:05,917
- It's been good.
617
00:21:06,042 --> 00:21:09,125
The president, she was
really happy with the setup.
618
00:21:09,208 --> 00:21:13,333
So this was really
a productive trip.
619
00:21:13,458 --> 00:21:16,333
- I just wish that I could
be there and support him
620
00:21:16,417 --> 00:21:18,833
in these moments,
and I wish that we
621
00:21:18,958 --> 00:21:20,792
were together right now.
622
00:21:20,875 --> 00:21:23,208
It's so important for me
to be there for Shaquille.
623
00:21:23,333 --> 00:21:25,417
So I can't wait
to his next event.
624
00:21:25,542 --> 00:21:27,250
I do look forward
to attending that.
625
00:21:27,375 --> 00:21:29,333
And I really hope that
that makes him happy.
626
00:21:29,458 --> 00:21:32,000
And I hope that I get
to see him in his element.
627
00:21:32,125 --> 00:21:34,583
I was a little sad when I
went to bed the other night
628
00:21:34,708 --> 00:21:39,042
and you wasn't here,
but you'll be back tomorrow.
629
00:21:39,167 --> 00:21:40,292
So I can't wait.
630
00:21:40,375 --> 00:21:41,875
- I'll be back.
631
00:21:42,042 --> 00:21:43,333
- Well, what time are you
leaving in the morning
632
00:21:43,417 --> 00:21:46,042
to come back to Nashville?
633
00:21:46,208 --> 00:21:47,417
- I haven't decided
on the time,
634
00:21:47,542 --> 00:21:49,125
but I know I got
to wake up early.
635
00:21:49,208 --> 00:21:51,000
- Yeah, you do.
636
00:21:51,083 --> 00:21:55,542
You need to set your alarm now,
probably for about 5:00.
637
00:21:55,667 --> 00:21:57,500
- 4:00, 5:00, one of them.
638
00:21:57,625 --> 00:21:59,500
I haven't decided what
time I want to wake up yet.
639
00:21:59,583 --> 00:22:00,708
- OK.
640
00:22:00,833 --> 00:22:03,792
Well, all right,
honey, call me later.
641
00:22:03,917 --> 00:22:05,708
Bye.
642
00:22:05,833 --> 00:22:08,542
- Bye.
643
00:22:08,667 --> 00:22:10,333
♪ ♪
644
00:22:10,458 --> 00:22:13,292
[computer trilling]
645
00:22:13,375 --> 00:22:15,000
♪ ♪
646
00:22:15,125 --> 00:22:16,500
- Shaquille?
647
00:22:16,583 --> 00:22:18,167
I was just trying
to blow you a kiss,
648
00:22:18,292 --> 00:22:21,417
and you didn't blow me
a kiss back, that's all.
649
00:22:21,542 --> 00:22:23,042
- I didn't know you was
trying to blow me a kiss--
650
00:22:23,167 --> 00:22:24,167
- Because you hung up on me.
- --to blow you one back.
651
00:22:24,250 --> 00:22:25,792
- Yeah, I know.
652
00:22:25,875 --> 00:22:28,000
That's why I called you
back, but I have to go.
653
00:22:28,167 --> 00:22:29,167
Talk to you later.
654
00:22:29,292 --> 00:22:30,792
Call me later, OK?
655
00:22:30,875 --> 00:22:31,708
- All right, will do.
656
00:22:31,875 --> 00:22:34,083
- OK, have a good day.
657
00:22:34,208 --> 00:22:35,167
Bye.
658
00:22:35,250 --> 00:22:38,833
♪ ♪
659
00:22:38,917 --> 00:22:41,250
- ♪ I love
the taste of your kiss ♪
660
00:22:41,375 --> 00:22:44,917
♪ I love the feel
of your lips ♪
661
00:22:45,042 --> 00:22:46,208
- Hello, welcome.
662
00:22:46,333 --> 00:22:47,500
- Hi, nice to meet you.
663
00:22:47,625 --> 00:22:49,167
- Hi, I'm Nicole.
- Dr. Pia.
664
00:22:49,292 --> 00:22:50,750
Nice to meet you.
- Welcome.
665
00:22:50,875 --> 00:22:52,167
- How are you?
- This is my husband, Chris.
666
00:22:52,292 --> 00:22:53,583
- Chris.
- Hi, Chris, nice to meet you.
667
00:22:53,708 --> 00:22:55,167
- Nice to meet you.
- Firm handshake.
668
00:22:55,292 --> 00:22:56,500
- Oh, thank you.
- Welcome to our home.
669
00:22:56,583 --> 00:22:57,333
- Thank you.
- Shall we go sit down?
670
00:22:57,417 --> 00:22:58,500
- Sure.
671
00:22:58,625 --> 00:22:59,917
- Do you want
anything to drink?
672
00:23:00,042 --> 00:23:01,167
Can I get you anything?
- I think I'm OK.
673
00:23:01,250 --> 00:23:02,667
Thank you.
- OK, great.
674
00:23:02,792 --> 00:23:03,708
You know what?
I'm just gonna put that here.
675
00:23:03,833 --> 00:23:05,542
Welcome.
- I like the dinosaurs here.
676
00:23:05,667 --> 00:23:07,625
What's the story behind that?
677
00:23:07,750 --> 00:23:10,458
- Just into dinosaurs,
and Chris
678
00:23:10,583 --> 00:23:11,542
doesn't think it's weird.
679
00:23:11,667 --> 00:23:13,708
So now they grace our home.
680
00:23:13,833 --> 00:23:16,000
- OK, and I understand
that you all
681
00:23:16,125 --> 00:23:19,250
have a really good connection,
a lot of great chemistry.
682
00:23:19,375 --> 00:23:20,542
Things have been
going swimmingly
683
00:23:20,667 --> 00:23:22,000
in the relationship.
684
00:23:22,125 --> 00:23:23,292
Sounds like trust feels strong.
685
00:23:23,375 --> 00:23:25,000
- Mm-hmm.
- Is that right?
686
00:23:25,125 --> 00:23:26,875
- Yes.
- Yeah, very strong.
687
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:28,417
- Yeah, well, I'm glad that you
feel so comfortable with one
688
00:23:28,542 --> 00:23:30,167
another and that's
created the groundwork
689
00:23:30,250 --> 00:23:31,667
for some really
good trust, which is
690
00:23:31,750 --> 00:23:34,125
a great foundation and
a necessary foundation
691
00:23:34,208 --> 00:23:35,667
for a marriage.
692
00:23:35,750 --> 00:23:38,083
And so I understand
that you all have been
693
00:23:38,208 --> 00:23:39,250
intimate with one another.
- Yes.
694
00:23:39,375 --> 00:23:40,250
- You all have had sex.
695
00:23:40,375 --> 00:23:41,750
- Yep.
696
00:23:41,875 --> 00:23:43,250
- We did not have
sex on our honeymoon,
697
00:23:43,375 --> 00:23:45,375
because we felt
like we had such
698
00:23:45,500 --> 00:23:47,000
a strong emotional
connection, and we
699
00:23:47,167 --> 00:23:48,333
didn't want sex to cloud that.
700
00:23:48,458 --> 00:23:50,000
- Mm-hmm.
701
00:23:50,125 --> 00:23:51,625
- So we were waiting
until we both felt ready.
702
00:23:51,750 --> 00:23:54,458
- Has sex negatively
impacted emotions
703
00:23:54,542 --> 00:23:56,500
in previous relationships?
704
00:23:56,625 --> 00:23:58,500
- Like, I've had relationships
where, like, that's all,
705
00:23:58,625 --> 00:24:00,333
like, they wanted.
706
00:24:00,500 --> 00:24:01,833
Like, it was just all
about that, didn't really
707
00:24:01,958 --> 00:24:03,042
care about what you had
to say, didn't really
708
00:24:03,167 --> 00:24:04,750
care about who you were.
709
00:24:04,875 --> 00:24:06,417
It was just like that's
what the relationship was
710
00:24:06,542 --> 00:24:08,167
all about, and that's
what we didn't want.
711
00:24:08,292 --> 00:24:10,583
So like, we wanted to make
sure that we kind of built
712
00:24:10,708 --> 00:24:12,583
that emotional connection
first and then--
713
00:24:12,708 --> 00:24:14,458
because we knew the physical
aspect was already there.
714
00:24:14,583 --> 00:24:15,833
We just, you know,
chose to wait.
715
00:24:15,958 --> 00:24:17,333
- OK.
716
00:24:17,417 --> 00:24:19,083
- And I have a
similar dating history
717
00:24:19,208 --> 00:24:22,750
where I've had relationships
that were clouded by sex,
718
00:24:22,875 --> 00:24:24,667
but in a little bit
of a different way.
719
00:24:24,833 --> 00:24:26,667
I would call it hate sex,
honestly, for lack of a better
720
00:24:26,750 --> 00:24:29,333
term, where I didn't
even really like the guy,
721
00:24:29,458 --> 00:24:31,333
but I was like,
I want to feel wanted.
722
00:24:31,417 --> 00:24:32,458
- Yeah.
723
00:24:32,583 --> 00:24:34,208
- So I'm just gonna do this.
724
00:24:34,375 --> 00:24:36,375
And even though
the sex is good,
725
00:24:36,500 --> 00:24:37,875
like, I don't feel
good about it after,
726
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:40,792
because this person isn't
that important to me.
727
00:24:40,875 --> 00:24:44,375
But after every time with us,
I feel really good about myself
728
00:24:44,542 --> 00:24:47,167
and about what we've just done,
and there's no shame attached.
729
00:24:47,292 --> 00:24:48,833
There's no regret attached.
730
00:24:48,917 --> 00:24:49,792
- Good.
731
00:24:49,875 --> 00:24:53,625
Mm-hmm, OK, how's the foreplay?
732
00:24:53,708 --> 00:24:57,792
- Not as much as I
personally would like,
733
00:24:57,917 --> 00:25:00,625
but it's like we do enough
foreplay to get excited
734
00:25:00,708 --> 00:25:03,792
and then the final act.
735
00:25:03,917 --> 00:25:05,375
There could be more foreplay.
736
00:25:05,542 --> 00:25:06,333
I don't know why I'm
stretching this out.
737
00:25:06,500 --> 00:25:07,958
- Yeah, there could be.
738
00:25:08,083 --> 00:25:09,458
- Would you call yourself,
like, a people pleaser?
739
00:25:09,542 --> 00:25:10,792
- Usually, yes.
740
00:25:10,875 --> 00:25:12,208
- Yeah.
741
00:25:12,333 --> 00:25:13,875
- But in this
relationship not really.
742
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:16,208
- Well, the reason I'm
asking that is because I
743
00:25:16,375 --> 00:25:18,000
know that this is not--
744
00:25:18,167 --> 00:25:19,833
I'm not suggesting this is
similar to past relationships.
745
00:25:19,958 --> 00:25:21,708
But when you said
you were having sex
746
00:25:21,833 --> 00:25:23,583
even when you didn't want
to in past relationships,
747
00:25:23,708 --> 00:25:25,958
I'm wondering, are you
depriving yourself of foreplay
748
00:25:26,042 --> 00:25:28,667
and saying that it's OK just
because it's not happening
749
00:25:28,833 --> 00:25:30,833
and not wanting to,
like, rock the boat?
750
00:25:30,958 --> 00:25:32,833
Like, you've got this
healthy relationship
751
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:34,708
with this man who cares
a great deal about you
752
00:25:34,833 --> 00:25:36,583
and is very respectful of you.
753
00:25:36,708 --> 00:25:40,417
And we can use this as, like,
a safe place,
754
00:25:40,542 --> 00:25:42,000
that you are safe
with him and it
755
00:25:42,125 --> 00:25:43,833
is OK to explore
with him because he's
756
00:25:43,958 --> 00:25:45,375
not gonna use it against you.
757
00:25:45,500 --> 00:25:47,542
He's not trying to harm you.
758
00:25:47,667 --> 00:25:51,667
What's it like knowing
that he's a safe space?
759
00:25:51,750 --> 00:25:54,000
- It's amazing.
760
00:25:54,125 --> 00:25:56,667
I mean, there's-- there's no
other word to describe it,
761
00:25:56,792 --> 00:25:58,500
but--
762
00:25:58,583 --> 00:25:59,833
- Mm-hmm.
763
00:25:59,958 --> 00:26:02,667
Is there sadness coming up?
764
00:26:02,792 --> 00:26:09,000
- It-- it's more of I didn't
realize I had so many issues
765
00:26:09,167 --> 00:26:11,208
until we talk about
all of these things
766
00:26:11,375 --> 00:26:13,500
and I say them out loud.
767
00:26:13,583 --> 00:26:16,000
I'm like, wow, you are
really [bleep] up, so--
768
00:26:16,125 --> 00:26:17,500
- No.
- Stop that.
769
00:26:17,667 --> 00:26:18,667
- It's just--
770
00:26:18,750 --> 00:26:19,583
- No, no, we're gonna pause.
771
00:26:19,708 --> 00:26:21,333
You are not [bleep] up.
772
00:26:21,500 --> 00:26:24,792
Let's not talk about
you in that way, OK?
773
00:26:24,875 --> 00:26:26,833
It's not that you
have all these issues.
774
00:26:26,958 --> 00:26:30,167
Things have happened to you.
775
00:26:30,333 --> 00:26:31,708
- Things that I
have let happen.
776
00:26:31,833 --> 00:26:34,167
I have to take responsibility
for a lot of my actions
777
00:26:34,292 --> 00:26:39,167
and recognize that people
didn't treat me any way
778
00:26:39,292 --> 00:26:41,000
that I didn't allow them to.
779
00:26:41,167 --> 00:26:43,792
And now I'm a very strong,
confident woman.
780
00:26:43,917 --> 00:26:48,000
And thankfully,
I have the world's nicest man
781
00:26:48,167 --> 00:26:51,500
to be married to,
but there's so many
782
00:26:51,625 --> 00:26:55,083
things that I need to work on.
783
00:26:55,208 --> 00:27:00,000
And I just-- I'm realizing
them as they're coming up.
784
00:27:00,083 --> 00:27:03,042
- He's willing to have these
conversations with you.
785
00:27:03,208 --> 00:27:04,333
He's not your past.
786
00:27:04,417 --> 00:27:06,167
- I know that.
- And so the more
that you can lean
787
00:27:06,292 --> 00:27:09,083
into being vulnerable with
him, that's where the passion
788
00:27:09,208 --> 00:27:10,750
is gonna come from.
789
00:27:10,875 --> 00:27:13,500
Because now you're opening
yourself up in a way
790
00:27:13,625 --> 00:27:15,250
that you weren't before.
791
00:27:15,375 --> 00:27:17,500
And you're gonna be able to
experience things that you
792
00:27:17,583 --> 00:27:21,250
weren't experiencing before.
793
00:27:21,375 --> 00:27:24,125
- This is a feeling
that I'm not used to.
794
00:27:24,208 --> 00:27:26,375
I thought we were
gonna meet with Dr. Pia
795
00:27:26,500 --> 00:27:28,917
and she was gonna
come spew some, like,
796
00:27:29,042 --> 00:27:30,750
here's how to make
your sex life better.
797
00:27:30,875 --> 00:27:33,167
Like, OK, great, thank you,
I know what I'm doing.
798
00:27:33,292 --> 00:27:34,583
I have a very happy husband.
799
00:27:34,708 --> 00:27:39,125
But she really more
so got to the root
800
00:27:39,250 --> 00:27:43,292
of why I feel the way
I do about sex in general
801
00:27:43,375 --> 00:27:47,125
and what's kind of blocking
me from feeling better.
802
00:27:47,250 --> 00:27:51,417
- My hope for you is that
you're able to reduce
803
00:27:51,542 --> 00:27:54,667
the self-deprecating
talk about yourself,
804
00:27:54,792 --> 00:27:56,500
because what you're
describing is
805
00:27:56,667 --> 00:27:58,375
not who I see in front of me.
806
00:27:58,500 --> 00:27:59,792
And it certainly
doesn't seem like this
807
00:27:59,875 --> 00:28:01,167
is who he sees, either.
808
00:28:01,292 --> 00:28:02,250
You're not a burden.
809
00:28:02,375 --> 00:28:03,292
You're not a problem.
810
00:28:03,417 --> 00:28:04,667
You're not a ball of issues.
811
00:28:04,792 --> 00:28:06,500
You're the woman
that he is so happy
812
00:28:06,667 --> 00:28:08,167
that he was matched with.
813
00:28:08,333 --> 00:28:13,292
♪ ♪
814
00:28:17,167 --> 00:28:18,667
- ♪ Dream on ♪
815
00:28:18,792 --> 00:28:22,208
♪ In the dark,
the sun is rising on and on
816
00:28:22,333 --> 00:28:23,500
♪ ♪
817
00:28:23,625 --> 00:28:24,958
- Dang.
818
00:28:25,042 --> 00:28:26,625
- What?
819
00:28:26,750 --> 00:28:30,333
- They done turned cutting
peppers in the beef.
820
00:28:30,500 --> 00:28:34,333
- [laughs]
821
00:28:34,458 --> 00:28:38,042
- Now that, like, I have
a new definition of intimacy,
822
00:28:38,167 --> 00:28:40,625
you know,
thanks to Dr. Pia, you know,
823
00:28:40,708 --> 00:28:42,167
I can see where
she's coming from.
824
00:28:42,333 --> 00:28:44,333
You know, she's not
asking for anything crazy,
825
00:28:44,458 --> 00:28:47,667
but there's still some
areas where I can improve.
826
00:28:47,750 --> 00:28:50,333
You know, hopefully,
that spark can, you know,
827
00:28:50,417 --> 00:28:52,792
come with the little bit
of time we have left.
828
00:28:52,917 --> 00:28:54,292
Oh, yeah, so I talked
to your sister--
829
00:28:54,375 --> 00:28:55,667
- Mm-hmm.
830
00:28:55,750 --> 00:28:56,667
- --Emi.
831
00:28:56,792 --> 00:28:57,875
- You did?
832
00:28:58,000 --> 00:28:59,458
- Straight out of M town.
833
00:28:59,583 --> 00:29:02,125
- [laughs]
- The world-renowned.
834
00:29:02,208 --> 00:29:04,333
- No one wants to feel like
they have to woo you for you
835
00:29:04,417 --> 00:29:06,125
to love them.
836
00:29:06,250 --> 00:29:07,792
She shouldn't have to do
nothing for you to love her,
837
00:29:07,875 --> 00:29:11,125
because you signed up to
be married and do that.
838
00:29:11,208 --> 00:29:13,833
So it's like, in your brain,
I want to challenge you,
839
00:29:13,958 --> 00:29:16,333
like, how can I make
this girl comfortable
840
00:29:16,458 --> 00:29:18,833
even though I'm uncomfortable
at the same time?
841
00:29:18,958 --> 00:29:22,125
- But one thing I learned,
she was telling me--
842
00:29:22,208 --> 00:29:24,667
I guess, like, she was like,
I need to give you some
843
00:29:24,792 --> 00:29:26,667
of the things that maybe,
like, you guys didn't see
844
00:29:26,792 --> 00:29:28,000
in your parents growing up.
845
00:29:28,125 --> 00:29:30,333
- My dad's very nonchalant.
846
00:29:30,500 --> 00:29:32,208
Like, I mean, we've had
private conversations.
847
00:29:32,333 --> 00:29:35,833
Like, my dad never was like,
I love you,
848
00:29:35,958 --> 00:29:38,583
but I never questioned
if my dad loved me,
849
00:29:38,708 --> 00:29:40,875
because they showed the love.
850
00:29:41,042 --> 00:29:43,292
That's why I'm not
really big on words.
851
00:29:43,375 --> 00:29:44,333
I'm really big on actions.
852
00:29:44,417 --> 00:29:46,167
- Mm-hmm.
853
00:29:46,292 --> 00:29:48,500
- Well, she had told me she
asked you about wedding day,
854
00:29:48,625 --> 00:29:51,208
and you told her
you only clapped
855
00:29:51,333 --> 00:29:54,125
for me on wedding day because
Pastor Cal told you to.
856
00:29:54,250 --> 00:29:57,042
- When I met with Pastor Cal,
he was like, you know, what--
857
00:29:57,167 --> 00:29:59,000
what if-- what if your
wife asked for, like,
858
00:29:59,125 --> 00:30:00,500
somebody tall and
she don't-- you know,
859
00:30:00,667 --> 00:30:01,958
she's not attracted to you?
860
00:30:02,042 --> 00:30:03,667
He's like, no matter
what, make her
861
00:30:03,750 --> 00:30:05,667
feel, like, safe and
confident in that moment.
862
00:30:05,792 --> 00:30:08,000
He was like, even if
you're not there--
863
00:30:08,125 --> 00:30:10,625
he was like, he's like,
trust me, it's gonna, like,
864
00:30:10,750 --> 00:30:12,583
save you in the long run.
865
00:30:12,708 --> 00:30:15,833
I was like, let me
be a husband and calm
866
00:30:15,958 --> 00:30:18,167
my wife down in this moment.
867
00:30:18,250 --> 00:30:22,167
- So let me calm my wife
down and lie to her?
868
00:30:22,292 --> 00:30:24,792
- I mean, you started
breathing and you didn't faint.
869
00:30:24,875 --> 00:30:26,250
That would have been
embarrassing if you--
870
00:30:26,375 --> 00:30:29,208
- So it was calm my wife
down and lie to her?
871
00:30:29,333 --> 00:30:31,042
- I mean, what was
I supposed to do?
872
00:30:31,167 --> 00:30:34,000
- I feel like,
to me, my husband
873
00:30:34,125 --> 00:30:35,542
should be smitten by me.
874
00:30:35,667 --> 00:30:37,667
He should want to be around me.
875
00:30:37,833 --> 00:30:39,000
He should want to talk to me.
876
00:30:39,083 --> 00:30:40,625
He should want to
check in on me.
877
00:30:40,708 --> 00:30:41,583
He should want to hold my hand.
878
00:30:41,708 --> 00:30:43,083
He should want to hug me.
879
00:30:43,208 --> 00:30:45,000
He shouldn't want
to do those things
880
00:30:45,083 --> 00:30:46,000
because they told him
those are the things
881
00:30:46,125 --> 00:30:47,958
he should be doing.
882
00:30:48,042 --> 00:30:49,917
I feel like all those
things should come natural.
883
00:30:50,042 --> 00:30:53,708
So I don't feel like
Airris is all in.
884
00:30:53,875 --> 00:30:55,500
I feel like he might
be one big toe in,
885
00:30:55,625 --> 00:30:57,667
and the rest of his body is,
like, out the door.
886
00:30:57,750 --> 00:31:00,792
So that doesn't
put me in a good space.
887
00:31:00,917 --> 00:31:04,083
♪ ♪
888
00:31:04,208 --> 00:31:06,917
- ♪ I feel the
heat as you lay by my side ♪
889
00:31:07,042 --> 00:31:09,667
♪ The planet
is guiding me home ♪
890
00:31:09,750 --> 00:31:14,042
♪ ♪
891
00:31:14,208 --> 00:31:16,708
- ♪ Up in the morning,
grinding ♪
892
00:31:16,833 --> 00:31:18,625
♪ Ain't no time for sleeping ♪
893
00:31:18,708 --> 00:31:21,583
[knock at door]
894
00:31:21,708 --> 00:31:22,833
- Hello.
- Hey, hey, how are you?
895
00:31:22,958 --> 00:31:24,667
- Hi.
Dr. Pia.
896
00:31:24,792 --> 00:31:26,292
Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
897
00:31:26,417 --> 00:31:27,833
Shaquille.
898
00:31:27,958 --> 00:31:28,958
I'm happy to be home,
happy to be on my sofa,
899
00:31:29,042 --> 00:31:30,875
happy to see my wife.
900
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:33,042
And I think what the future
holds for Kirsten and I
901
00:31:33,167 --> 00:31:35,667
as we get closer to Decision
Day is making sure that we
902
00:31:35,750 --> 00:31:42,000
both feel appreciated and
wanted and needed to continue
903
00:31:42,167 --> 00:31:44,500
this marriage
and just my biggest
904
00:31:44,625 --> 00:31:46,000
supporter along this journey.
905
00:31:46,125 --> 00:31:48,833
- Well,
how have things been going?
906
00:31:48,917 --> 00:31:50,667
- You know,
things have been going great.
907
00:31:50,750 --> 00:31:53,125
- What's been
making it go great?
908
00:31:53,208 --> 00:31:56,958
- I would say
the quality time, for sure.
909
00:31:57,083 --> 00:31:58,500
Like,
that's definitely, you know,
910
00:31:58,667 --> 00:32:01,583
what I needed from him is
that quality time for us
911
00:32:01,708 --> 00:32:03,208
to continue to
build our marriage
912
00:32:03,333 --> 00:32:05,917
and to get to know each
other on different levels.
913
00:32:06,042 --> 00:32:09,375
So for me, I feel like
everything is going well.
914
00:32:09,542 --> 00:32:11,500
- Do you agree, Shaquille,
with her assessment
915
00:32:11,625 --> 00:32:13,708
that things are going great?
916
00:32:13,833 --> 00:32:16,625
- I would definitely
say it's been rocky.
917
00:32:16,708 --> 00:32:18,000
- That's, like,
polar opposites.
918
00:32:18,167 --> 00:32:19,333
- Well, I'm saying--
919
00:32:19,500 --> 00:32:20,667
I'm saying--
- We've had our days.
920
00:32:20,792 --> 00:32:22,125
- --yeah, we've had our days.
921
00:32:22,208 --> 00:32:24,833
It's been more
good days than bad.
922
00:32:24,958 --> 00:32:26,667
But all it is, is,
for me, it's really
923
00:32:26,792 --> 00:32:27,833
learning about each other.
924
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,875
Like, I didn't know her.
925
00:32:30,042 --> 00:32:31,667
She didn't know me.
926
00:32:31,792 --> 00:32:33,542
You know, I got a-- you
know, she got her real estate
927
00:32:33,667 --> 00:32:34,583
business going on.
928
00:32:34,708 --> 00:32:36,167
I got school and work.
929
00:32:36,292 --> 00:32:38,833
So honestly, with me,
it's really on my end,
930
00:32:38,958 --> 00:32:41,542
really trying to find out
how to balance it all.
931
00:32:41,667 --> 00:32:45,458
- It's hard, but I'm just
used to always having control.
932
00:32:45,542 --> 00:32:49,500
And it's so hard for me
to not always be in control.
933
00:32:49,625 --> 00:32:52,625
- So, you know, in a marriage,
it's important to recognize,
934
00:32:52,708 --> 00:32:54,500
like, you can't just be in
control, either one of
935
00:32:54,625 --> 00:32:56,000
you, right?
936
00:32:56,167 --> 00:32:57,375
Like, you both have to
relinquish some control
937
00:32:57,500 --> 00:32:59,625
and accept each
other's influence.
938
00:32:59,708 --> 00:33:03,833
Do you feel comfortable
allowing your husband to take
939
00:33:03,958 --> 00:33:05,375
care of you or care for you?
940
00:33:05,542 --> 00:33:06,792
- I do.
- Yeah.
941
00:33:06,875 --> 00:33:08,083
- I do feel comfortable.
942
00:33:08,208 --> 00:33:09,792
I'm feeling more
comfortable day by day.
943
00:33:09,875 --> 00:33:11,042
- Mm-hmm.
944
00:33:11,167 --> 00:33:12,625
- It's just all so new for me.
945
00:33:12,708 --> 00:33:15,000
- Yeah, I mean, it does
take time to build trust,
946
00:33:15,125 --> 00:33:17,875
and you are in
a very unique situation
947
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,250
where the relationship
is accelerated.
948
00:33:20,375 --> 00:33:22,625
Have you all talked
much about what
949
00:33:22,708 --> 00:33:26,667
attracts you to one another?
950
00:33:26,792 --> 00:33:31,500
- No, but I find him
attractive when he's, like--
951
00:33:31,625 --> 00:33:34,333
for example, when we had to
get our clothes and move,
952
00:33:34,458 --> 00:33:37,917
like, him moving boxes,
that was attractive,
953
00:33:38,042 --> 00:33:40,625
the smallest things.
954
00:33:40,708 --> 00:33:43,000
- What was it about
the act of moving boxes
955
00:33:43,125 --> 00:33:44,625
that you found attractive?
956
00:33:44,708 --> 00:33:46,875
- Like, he's using his
muscles, making sure,
957
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:51,167
you know, all of my things and
his things are taken care of.
958
00:33:51,333 --> 00:33:53,500
Like, it was just
him being masculine.
959
00:33:53,667 --> 00:33:54,792
- Masculine.
960
00:33:54,917 --> 00:33:56,750
How do you define masculinity?
961
00:33:56,875 --> 00:33:58,667
- Honestly,
just getting the job done.
962
00:33:58,750 --> 00:34:01,667
Like, just making for sure
he's taking care of business.
963
00:34:01,792 --> 00:34:03,625
- Do you think he's masculine?
964
00:34:03,708 --> 00:34:05,667
- Um.
965
00:34:08,417 --> 00:34:11,792
♪ ♪
966
00:34:11,917 --> 00:34:13,458
He is.
967
00:34:13,542 --> 00:34:15,125
He is.
968
00:34:15,250 --> 00:34:17,833
- There was a long pause.
969
00:34:17,958 --> 00:34:21,500
♪ ♪
970
00:34:25,292 --> 00:34:28,500
- I guess because I don't know.
971
00:34:28,625 --> 00:34:30,542
Like, my dad,
he's very masculine.
972
00:34:30,708 --> 00:34:37,167
Like, he's very hands on, tough
man, provider, business owner.
973
00:34:37,250 --> 00:34:39,083
- You mentioned--
974
00:34:39,208 --> 00:34:40,333
I feel like you accentuated
the word "tough" when
975
00:34:40,458 --> 00:34:41,500
you were describing your dad.
976
00:34:41,583 --> 00:34:42,917
- Mm-hmm.
977
00:34:43,042 --> 00:34:44,750
- Do you feel like
Shaquille is tough?
978
00:34:44,875 --> 00:34:46,542
- I feel like he can be.
979
00:34:46,708 --> 00:34:48,875
I haven't really gotten to
see that tough side of him
980
00:34:49,042 --> 00:34:50,417
just yet, so--
981
00:34:50,542 --> 00:34:53,250
- What side do you feel
like you have seen?
982
00:34:53,375 --> 00:34:59,000
- The kind, genuine,
pleasing side of him.
983
00:34:59,167 --> 00:35:01,000
- Can that be masculine?
984
00:35:01,167 --> 00:35:03,250
- Um...
985
00:35:03,375 --> 00:35:06,333
I think that definitely
helps me feel more
986
00:35:06,417 --> 00:35:09,500
secure and comfortable
in the relationship
987
00:35:09,625 --> 00:35:14,333
versus, like,
safe and protected.
988
00:35:14,458 --> 00:35:18,375
- So are you saying that
you don't quite feel safe
989
00:35:18,542 --> 00:35:19,750
and protected?
990
00:35:19,875 --> 00:35:23,333
- That's a tough question.
991
00:35:23,417 --> 00:35:25,167
I feel like Shaquille would
definitely, like, protect me
992
00:35:25,292 --> 00:35:26,833
if something was to happen.
993
00:35:26,958 --> 00:35:28,542
- So what made it
a tough question?
994
00:35:28,708 --> 00:35:32,125
- Just because I haven't
seen him in that--
995
00:35:32,208 --> 00:35:36,458
in that form before,
and I don't fully, you know,
996
00:35:36,542 --> 00:35:38,208
feel it just yet.
997
00:35:38,333 --> 00:35:40,000
- So, Shaquille,
I appreciate you,
998
00:35:40,125 --> 00:35:42,625
like, being quiet
and listening to her,
999
00:35:42,708 --> 00:35:44,917
but I also want to know,
what's your reaction
1000
00:35:45,042 --> 00:35:45,833
to hearing all of this?
1001
00:35:45,917 --> 00:35:47,250
- Oh god.
1002
00:35:47,375 --> 00:35:50,458
- Um, do you not
think I'm tough?
1003
00:35:50,542 --> 00:35:53,375
Do you not think I'm, like,
this person, you know?
1004
00:35:53,500 --> 00:35:54,958
- Mm-hmm.
1005
00:35:55,042 --> 00:35:57,542
- Does something have to happen
for you to even feel that?
1006
00:35:57,667 --> 00:35:59,458
- Mm-hmm.
1007
00:35:59,542 --> 00:36:00,667
- Like, do somebody to have to
rob us at a gas station or--
1008
00:36:00,833 --> 00:36:02,333
- God forbid.
1009
00:36:02,500 --> 00:36:04,292
- --try to jack your car
or something for me to have
1010
00:36:04,375 --> 00:36:07,292
to stand up, or your food not
right at a restaurant for me
1011
00:36:07,417 --> 00:36:08,542
to, you know, just get mad?
1012
00:36:08,667 --> 00:36:10,500
- Mm-hmm.
1013
00:36:10,625 --> 00:36:12,333
- And I'm not the person to
get, like, frustrated and mad,
1014
00:36:12,458 --> 00:36:16,667
but I think she wants to
mimic her dad in the ways,
1015
00:36:16,750 --> 00:36:21,333
you know, of being, you know,
masculine, and, you know,
1016
00:36:21,458 --> 00:36:25,667
dominant, you know,
like, being a man.
1017
00:36:25,792 --> 00:36:28,625
- Did he get that right, that
you're wanting your husband
1018
00:36:28,750 --> 00:36:30,167
to be like your dad?
1019
00:36:30,292 --> 00:36:32,625
- Not-- not necessarily
like my dad,
1020
00:36:32,708 --> 00:36:35,500
but maybe have some of
those same traits in common.
1021
00:36:35,625 --> 00:36:38,667
- For me, it's a thing like,
do you not see me trying?
1022
00:36:38,792 --> 00:36:40,750
Like, do you not see me, like,
putting forth
1023
00:36:40,875 --> 00:36:43,125
the effort to be this person?
1024
00:36:43,250 --> 00:36:45,375
♪ ♪
1025
00:36:45,500 --> 00:36:47,333
I've just been feeling
like since day one
1026
00:36:47,458 --> 00:36:48,833
I've been just having
to prove myself,
1027
00:36:48,958 --> 00:36:54,042
you know, as a husband,
as a man, as her spouse.
1028
00:36:54,208 --> 00:36:56,500
Like, I just consistently
feel like I've
1029
00:36:56,583 --> 00:36:58,167
been having to prove myself.
1030
00:36:58,333 --> 00:37:01,667
And it always is a lot.
1031
00:37:01,792 --> 00:37:03,625
And she always saying, like,
I don't want to change you
1032
00:37:03,708 --> 00:37:06,458
or anything like that, but you
still have these expectations
1033
00:37:06,583 --> 00:37:07,500
of me, you know?
1034
00:37:07,583 --> 00:37:08,667
And it's kind of like, damn.
1035
00:37:08,792 --> 00:37:11,500
Like, whew.
1036
00:37:11,667 --> 00:37:13,875
It just-- it takes a
mental toll on you.
1037
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,917
♪ ♪
1038
00:37:16,042 --> 00:37:20,125
- My only concern is
you changing yourself to meet
1039
00:37:20,208 --> 00:37:23,083
her expectations,
because over time,
1040
00:37:23,208 --> 00:37:24,500
that's gonna cause resentment,
right,
1041
00:37:24,667 --> 00:37:27,625
because you're not being
your true, authentic self.
1042
00:37:27,750 --> 00:37:32,500
And I'm curious, for you,
if those things don't change,
1043
00:37:32,667 --> 00:37:34,292
if you don't see
him becoming more
1044
00:37:34,375 --> 00:37:37,083
of your definition
of masculine,
1045
00:37:37,208 --> 00:37:38,333
will the marriage succeed?
1046
00:37:38,458 --> 00:37:40,333
- Well, I don't--
1047
00:37:40,458 --> 00:37:42,792
I don't want him to try to
become something he's not,
1048
00:37:42,875 --> 00:37:45,667
you know, and I always
tell him to be yourself.
1049
00:37:45,750 --> 00:37:48,167
Like, I do feel
like if he's meeting
1050
00:37:48,333 --> 00:37:51,917
other needs
and expectations of mine, like,
1051
00:37:52,042 --> 00:37:52,833
that matters a lot.
1052
00:37:52,958 --> 00:37:55,750
♪ ♪
1053
00:37:55,875 --> 00:37:58,500
- OK.
1054
00:37:58,583 --> 00:38:02,292
- ♪ I'm hoping this forever
whoa-oh ♪
1055
00:38:02,375 --> 00:38:06,667
♪ This feels like,
whoa-oh, love ♪
1056
00:38:06,833 --> 00:38:07,917
- Hi, doggies.
1057
00:38:08,042 --> 00:38:09,667
- Hi, puppies.
1058
00:38:09,833 --> 00:38:11,167
Look at this.
1059
00:38:11,333 --> 00:38:12,208
- Guys, did you get
us a magic chest?
1060
00:38:12,333 --> 00:38:13,750
- A treasure chest.
1061
00:38:13,875 --> 00:38:16,208
I bet you it's from
one of the experts.
1062
00:38:16,375 --> 00:38:18,708
- Nicole and Chris already
have a great foundation
1063
00:38:18,833 --> 00:38:21,167
for trust and intimacy
in the short time
1064
00:38:21,292 --> 00:38:22,625
they've been together.
1065
00:38:22,708 --> 00:38:24,583
But in any marriage,
you don't want
1066
00:38:24,708 --> 00:38:27,708
to wait till things get bland
before you spice things up.
1067
00:38:27,875 --> 00:38:30,167
So we're encouraging
them to explore
1068
00:38:30,292 --> 00:38:32,542
outside of their
comfort zone
1069
00:38:32,667 --> 00:38:34,625
and have a little fun
along the way.
1070
00:38:34,708 --> 00:38:36,667
- All right.
1071
00:38:36,792 --> 00:38:38,250
♪ ♪
1072
00:38:38,375 --> 00:38:40,167
- Let's see what's
in this thing.
1073
00:38:40,250 --> 00:38:41,417
- It's a bidet.
1074
00:38:41,542 --> 00:38:42,417
No.
1075
00:38:42,542 --> 00:38:43,625
Oh.
1076
00:38:43,708 --> 00:38:46,333
- Let's see.
1077
00:38:46,417 --> 00:38:47,625
- Massage candle.
1078
00:38:47,750 --> 00:38:49,667
I feel like I like
that in theory,
1079
00:38:49,792 --> 00:38:53,167
but what if we do it too soon
and then we burn each other?
1080
00:38:53,292 --> 00:38:57,208
Pineapple-flavored massage oil.
1081
00:38:57,333 --> 00:38:58,750
We could get out
of these so easily.
1082
00:38:58,875 --> 00:39:00,208
Ha, for chumps.
1083
00:39:00,333 --> 00:39:01,500
- Yeah, I don't know
about handcuffs.
1084
00:39:01,625 --> 00:39:02,625
- Warming lubricant?
1085
00:39:02,750 --> 00:39:05,875
I feel like that is rash city.
1086
00:39:06,042 --> 00:39:08,083
Sex bondage, a whip.
1087
00:39:08,208 --> 00:39:09,000
I don't think so.
1088
00:39:09,125 --> 00:39:10,667
- No?
1089
00:39:10,750 --> 00:39:13,500
Leather.
[laughs]
1090
00:39:13,667 --> 00:39:16,333
- Self-love is something
I need to work on,
1091
00:39:16,417 --> 00:39:18,500
and I'm working on that
1092
00:39:18,583 --> 00:39:20,167
while also learning
to love my husband,
1093
00:39:20,292 --> 00:39:21,583
while also learning
to be married
1094
00:39:21,708 --> 00:39:23,292
and do all of these things.
1095
00:39:23,417 --> 00:39:25,958
So I feel like it'd be
more beneficial for me
1096
00:39:26,083 --> 00:39:28,417
to work on those
mental elements
1097
00:39:28,542 --> 00:39:31,375
and really be comfortable
with who I am,
1098
00:39:31,542 --> 00:39:33,583
what I'm doing before
I start jumping
1099
00:39:33,708 --> 00:39:36,458
in and enhancing something
that's already good enough.
1100
00:39:38,042 --> 00:39:39,375
I do want to try
things with you.
1101
00:39:39,500 --> 00:39:41,250
I do want to explore.
1102
00:39:41,375 --> 00:39:43,167
And even if we hate
everything new we're trying,
1103
00:39:43,250 --> 00:39:44,000
I want to at least
try it and see.
1104
00:39:44,167 --> 00:39:45,500
- Yeah.
1105
00:39:45,667 --> 00:39:47,167
- Maybe we'll find
something we love.
1106
00:39:47,250 --> 00:39:49,208
- Yeah, I mean,
I'm open to it,
1107
00:39:49,333 --> 00:39:50,833
but it's not one
of those things like--
1108
00:39:50,958 --> 00:39:52,417
I'm not-- I don't need it.
1109
00:39:52,542 --> 00:39:54,000
Yeah, I mean, obviously,
I want to make sure
1110
00:39:54,083 --> 00:39:55,917
that you're always satisfied.
I care more about--
1111
00:39:56,042 --> 00:39:57,125
- I know you do.
1112
00:39:57,250 --> 00:39:58,417
- --you being pleased than me.
1113
00:39:58,542 --> 00:40:00,000
- And I-- it is
one of the things
1114
00:40:00,125 --> 00:40:01,667
I appreciate most about you.
1115
00:40:01,792 --> 00:40:04,000
Maybe we will need to
incorporate a little more
1116
00:40:04,167 --> 00:40:08,625
foreplay and maybe we get,
you know, some sort of toy,
1117
00:40:08,708 --> 00:40:10,958
or lube, or I don't
know what it's gonna be.
1118
00:40:11,042 --> 00:40:13,792
But I would feel comfortable if
today was Decision Day saying
1119
00:40:13,875 --> 00:40:15,833
yes based on the sex
life we already have,
1120
00:40:15,917 --> 00:40:17,917
even if that was it for
the rest of our lives,
1121
00:40:18,042 --> 00:40:20,833
knowing it will get
better and, you know,
1122
00:40:20,958 --> 00:40:23,125
we'll enhance it with
things and whatever.
1123
00:40:23,250 --> 00:40:24,708
But--
- Yeah.
1124
00:40:24,833 --> 00:40:25,958
- --the way it is now,
if that was it for life,
1125
00:40:26,083 --> 00:40:27,750
I'd be like, OK.
1126
00:40:27,875 --> 00:40:32,042
- My priority is more making
sure that, you know, 1,000%,
1127
00:40:32,208 --> 00:40:35,000
we say yes on Decision Day,
and that we're both on the same
1128
00:40:35,167 --> 00:40:38,333
page, and that we're both
feeling that we're equally
1129
00:40:38,458 --> 00:40:40,000
putting into the relationship,
which-- which I do
1130
00:40:40,083 --> 00:40:41,500
right now and everything else.
1131
00:40:41,625 --> 00:40:43,083
So I think that's--
that's more important
1132
00:40:43,208 --> 00:40:45,667
to me than having sex.
1133
00:40:45,792 --> 00:40:47,167
- I agree.
1134
00:40:47,333 --> 00:40:48,833
I'm glad we're always
on the same page.
1135
00:40:48,958 --> 00:40:52,458
♪ ♪
1136
00:40:52,542 --> 00:40:56,667
- ♪ Breathe with me ♪
1137
00:40:56,792 --> 00:40:58,792
♪ ♪
1138
00:40:58,875 --> 00:41:01,000
- Did you notice last
night that this exercise
1139
00:41:01,083 --> 00:41:02,458
is called just the tip?
1140
00:41:02,542 --> 00:41:03,750
- Is it really?
1141
00:41:03,875 --> 00:41:05,833
How appropriate.
1142
00:41:05,958 --> 00:41:07,792
I'm very comfortable
talking about sex.
1143
00:41:07,917 --> 00:41:10,583
I have no qualms or
inhibitions to talk about sex.
1144
00:41:10,708 --> 00:41:13,417
I mean, it's-- it's
a human reaction.
1145
00:41:13,542 --> 00:41:15,333
It's-- it's what
makes us human.
1146
00:41:15,500 --> 00:41:16,750
It's part of what
makes us human
1147
00:41:16,875 --> 00:41:19,708
and to, like, have that
sexual desire and that,
1148
00:41:19,875 --> 00:41:22,333
God, animalistic
ability almost,
1149
00:41:22,458 --> 00:41:23,875
I think is--
it's unbelievable.
1150
00:41:24,042 --> 00:41:25,083
It's amazing.
1151
00:41:26,708 --> 00:41:30,042
- Hank, can you please close
your ears for these questions?
1152
00:41:30,167 --> 00:41:31,083
"What's a safe word?"
1153
00:41:31,208 --> 00:41:33,083
Never needed one.
1154
00:41:33,208 --> 00:41:34,750
- Porcupine.
1155
00:41:34,875 --> 00:41:38,625
- I think it would be stop,
don't do that again.
1156
00:41:38,750 --> 00:41:40,500
- It's got to be fun, though.
1157
00:41:40,625 --> 00:41:41,792
Tres leches.
1158
00:41:41,875 --> 00:41:44,000
- [laughs]
Are you making a safe
1159
00:41:44,125 --> 00:41:45,583
word for if we did have sex?
1160
00:41:45,708 --> 00:41:46,792
It would be that?
1161
00:41:46,875 --> 00:41:48,292
- Yeah.
1162
00:41:48,417 --> 00:41:49,667
Sending nudes?
1163
00:41:49,792 --> 00:41:50,958
- I'm all right with it.
1164
00:41:51,083 --> 00:41:53,500
How do you feel
about sending nudes?
1165
00:41:53,583 --> 00:41:54,458
- Oh, all for it.
- You do?
1166
00:41:54,542 --> 00:41:55,542
- Yeah.
1167
00:41:55,667 --> 00:41:56,875
- You send dick pics?
1168
00:41:57,042 --> 00:41:58,500
- I don't send dick pics.
I send nudes.
1169
00:41:58,667 --> 00:41:59,875
- Well, what would
a nude-- well, yeah.
1170
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:01,000
- The whole thing.
- Just, like, abs?
1171
00:42:01,125 --> 00:42:02,042
- You know, like--
1172
00:42:02,167 --> 00:42:03,667
- No, you've done that?
1173
00:42:03,792 --> 00:42:08,000
- Of course, landscape,
portrait, 3-D.
1174
00:42:08,083 --> 00:42:10,000
- Is this with, like, girls
that you've date-- like,
1175
00:42:10,125 --> 00:42:11,625
anyone or, like,
do you have to be in, like,
1176
00:42:11,750 --> 00:42:12,792
a serious relationship?
1177
00:42:12,917 --> 00:42:13,958
- Yeah.
1178
00:42:14,042 --> 00:42:16,458
- Well,
that's a genuine question.
1179
00:42:16,583 --> 00:42:18,125
I've, like, kind of been
involved with guys that I'm
1180
00:42:18,250 --> 00:42:20,667
not, like, in a serious,
committed relationship,
1181
00:42:20,792 --> 00:42:22,708
and I've sent nudes before.
1182
00:42:22,833 --> 00:42:24,083
- Yeah, no, this is-- yeah,
this is serious relationships.
1183
00:42:24,208 --> 00:42:25,500
- You only send them if
you're, like, committed?
1184
00:42:25,583 --> 00:42:26,833
- Yeah.
1185
00:42:26,917 --> 00:42:30,667
- What is a must
for you during sex?
1186
00:42:30,792 --> 00:42:33,333
- For the other
partner to climax.
1187
00:42:33,500 --> 00:42:36,500
- OK, amazing.
1188
00:42:36,583 --> 00:42:39,083
- What is your
favorite position?
1189
00:42:39,208 --> 00:42:40,375
- Mm.
1190
00:42:40,542 --> 00:42:44,333
This is getting to be too much.
1191
00:42:44,500 --> 00:42:45,542
- Tres leches?
1192
00:42:45,667 --> 00:42:49,417
- Yes, tres-- my safe word.
1193
00:42:49,542 --> 00:42:51,000
Well, I guess it
would depend on--
1194
00:42:51,125 --> 00:42:52,458
[knock at door]
1195
00:42:52,542 --> 00:42:53,667
--if the door
knocks or not, yeah.
1196
00:42:53,833 --> 00:42:55,542
- Saved by the--
- Get them!
1197
00:42:55,708 --> 00:42:57,125
- OK, OK.
- Get them!
1198
00:42:57,208 --> 00:42:58,625
- OK.
1199
00:42:58,708 --> 00:43:00,333
- It's all the toys
for the buddies.
1200
00:43:00,458 --> 00:43:01,708
- OK, no, it's definitely--
1201
00:43:01,875 --> 00:43:02,583
- He's gonna think
it is, probably.
1202
00:43:02,708 --> 00:43:04,000
- It's definitely toys.
1203
00:43:04,125 --> 00:43:05,083
I don't think for
the buddy, though.
1204
00:43:05,208 --> 00:43:07,042
Get back, get back.
1205
00:43:07,167 --> 00:43:08,958
- Well, we'll let us decide if
they're going to Hank or not.
1206
00:43:09,042 --> 00:43:12,708
I'm trying to stay open-minded
to what Dr. Pia is assigning.
1207
00:43:12,833 --> 00:43:15,500
We are committed
and really trying
1208
00:43:15,625 --> 00:43:17,792
whatever we can to
see if we can build
1209
00:43:17,875 --> 00:43:19,833
that intimate relationship.
1210
00:43:19,958 --> 00:43:22,833
- "Clint and Gina, I think
it would be great for the two
1211
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,292
"of you to practice
a modified version
1212
00:43:25,375 --> 00:43:28,167
of sensate-focused therapy."
1213
00:43:28,292 --> 00:43:31,125
- But I don't know if
I'll be able to complete
1214
00:43:31,250 --> 00:43:32,833
these exercises.
1215
00:43:32,958 --> 00:43:34,958
I'm definitely someone
that has to process.
1216
00:43:35,042 --> 00:43:36,750
I think I can, like,
catch the defense
1217
00:43:36,875 --> 00:43:39,375
quick if I'm feeling a little
bit awkward or
1218
00:43:39,500 --> 00:43:41,500
uncomfortable, so--
1219
00:43:41,583 --> 00:43:43,167
♪ ♪
1220
00:43:43,250 --> 00:43:45,458
[laughs]
1221
00:43:45,583 --> 00:43:46,667
--we're going to
do all of them.
1222
00:43:46,750 --> 00:43:48,250
- Yeah, we got to
do all of them.
1223
00:43:48,375 --> 00:43:49,750
- This guy?
1224
00:43:49,875 --> 00:43:53,167
I mean, obviously,
this will feel good.
1225
00:43:53,250 --> 00:43:55,500
Are you like, nope?
1226
00:43:55,625 --> 00:43:56,542
Doesn't do it like the feather?
1227
00:43:56,708 --> 00:43:58,750
- No, it's good.
1228
00:43:58,875 --> 00:44:00,208
I think it would-- you
gotta do it-- yeah,
1229
00:44:00,333 --> 00:44:01,333
you gotta do it on the back.
1230
00:44:01,417 --> 00:44:02,833
- Yeah.
1231
00:44:02,917 --> 00:44:03,708
- I think that they
want you to do that.
1232
00:44:03,875 --> 00:44:04,875
- You're like, it's OK.
1233
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:06,667
You can do this for an hour.
1234
00:44:06,750 --> 00:44:07,667
- I think they want you
to do that for 15 minute--
1235
00:44:07,792 --> 00:44:10,083
yeah, keep and more pressure.
1236
00:44:10,208 --> 00:44:12,167
- Listen, my shoulders
are the ones that
1237
00:44:12,250 --> 00:44:14,333
have been working all day.
1238
00:44:14,458 --> 00:44:16,750
- Mine, too, sailing.
1239
00:44:16,875 --> 00:44:18,125
- OK, so there's that.
1240
00:44:18,208 --> 00:44:20,375
- Yeah, oh, the brush.
1241
00:44:20,542 --> 00:44:22,750
- We might not get through
15 minutes, but we'll try.
1242
00:44:22,875 --> 00:44:24,250
Wait, do we do back--
- I think so.
1243
00:44:24,375 --> 00:44:25,292
- --on that?
1244
00:44:25,375 --> 00:44:26,500
- Oh, that feels good.
1245
00:44:26,583 --> 00:44:27,875
- Better than the other thing?
1246
00:44:28,042 --> 00:44:29,917
- I think so.
- Really?
1247
00:44:30,042 --> 00:44:31,333
- Yeah.
1248
00:44:31,417 --> 00:44:32,667
- Why haven't I thought
of having this before?
1249
00:44:32,792 --> 00:44:34,000
- That's a good idea.
1250
00:44:34,167 --> 00:44:35,167
- Oh, yeah.
1251
00:44:35,292 --> 00:44:36,333
- Right?
1252
00:44:36,417 --> 00:44:37,333
No, I'll get to you.
1253
00:44:37,417 --> 00:44:39,167
- Oh, OK.
1254
00:44:39,292 --> 00:44:43,667
[laughs]
1255
00:44:43,833 --> 00:44:45,958
- Oh, yeah, comb the arm hair.
1256
00:44:46,042 --> 00:44:47,500
There's so much.
1257
00:44:47,667 --> 00:44:51,000
- [laughs]
A little werewolf.
1258
00:44:51,083 --> 00:44:52,667
[laughs]
1259
00:44:52,750 --> 00:44:54,500
- All right, your turn.
- OK.
1260
00:44:54,583 --> 00:44:56,500
- Give me some skin.
1261
00:44:56,583 --> 00:45:03,417
- [sighs] Love the feather.
1262
00:45:03,542 --> 00:45:05,333
- OK.
- OK.
1263
00:45:05,417 --> 00:45:06,500
- Device one.
1264
00:45:06,625 --> 00:45:07,583
I'm gonna do it in the same--
1265
00:45:07,708 --> 00:45:09,042
- Don't light that on fire.
1266
00:45:09,167 --> 00:45:10,583
- --I'm gonna do it
in the same order.
1267
00:45:10,708 --> 00:45:11,500
That was good for it.
1268
00:45:11,625 --> 00:45:14,458
- Oh, yeah.
1269
00:45:14,542 --> 00:45:18,042
Oh, yeah, I love massages.
1270
00:45:18,167 --> 00:45:19,667
That one's gonna end
up actually beating
1271
00:45:19,833 --> 00:45:21,125
out the feather, I think.
1272
00:45:21,250 --> 00:45:23,958
- OK.
- OK.
1273
00:45:24,042 --> 00:45:26,167
- This one's gonna be more
difficult because you got--
1274
00:45:26,292 --> 00:45:27,500
- Because I got too
many things going on.
1275
00:45:27,667 --> 00:45:28,875
- --thing on.
1276
00:45:29,042 --> 00:45:30,500
I think I'm just
gonna go straight skin
1277
00:45:30,583 --> 00:45:31,625
because it feels
good over the shirt,
1278
00:45:31,708 --> 00:45:33,333
but your shirt is different.
- Yeah
1279
00:45:33,417 --> 00:45:35,000
- You've got, like, ridges.
1280
00:45:35,167 --> 00:45:37,667
- Who knew a hairbrush
would do that?
1281
00:45:37,750 --> 00:45:38,667
- Yeah.
1282
00:45:38,792 --> 00:45:40,375
- I like it.
1283
00:45:40,500 --> 00:45:43,708
- Yeah, it probably
exfoliates a little bit, too.
1284
00:45:43,833 --> 00:45:46,167
So what's the winner?
1285
00:45:46,292 --> 00:45:49,500
- For sexual context,
probably the feathers.
1286
00:45:49,625 --> 00:45:51,417
- Yeah.
1287
00:45:51,542 --> 00:45:53,667
- Well, this isn't as awkward
as I thought it was gonna be.
1288
00:45:53,792 --> 00:45:55,000
- Yeah.
1289
00:45:55,125 --> 00:45:57,792
Yeah, I think we
built on, you know,
1290
00:45:57,875 --> 00:46:00,208
more of that
physicality aspect,
1291
00:46:00,333 --> 00:46:01,917
you know, something
that's been missing.
1292
00:46:02,042 --> 00:46:05,583
So it's slowly,
you know, bringing us
1293
00:46:05,708 --> 00:46:08,000
into that comfortability
of, like,
1294
00:46:08,125 --> 00:46:11,708
touch is OK, right,
if it's got good intentions
1295
00:46:11,833 --> 00:46:13,250
and goodwill behind it.
- Baby--
1296
00:46:13,375 --> 00:46:14,167
- That's right.
1297
00:46:14,292 --> 00:46:15,667
- --steps.
1298
00:46:15,792 --> 00:46:17,875
♪ ♪
1299
00:46:21,667 --> 00:46:24,125
- ♪ But can you do me
this way? ♪
1300
00:46:24,208 --> 00:46:25,667
♪ ♪
1301
00:46:25,792 --> 00:46:28,083
♪ I'm really trying
to think straight ♪
1302
00:46:28,208 --> 00:46:30,750
♪ Wham bam, thank you, ma'am ♪
1303
00:46:30,875 --> 00:46:31,792
- You can't see?
1304
00:46:31,875 --> 00:46:33,750
- No, I cannot.
1305
00:46:33,875 --> 00:46:36,667
- Dr. Pia gave Kirsten
and I an assignment.
1306
00:46:36,792 --> 00:46:39,042
- What you're both gonna
do is pick out items
1307
00:46:39,208 --> 00:46:43,500
that you would find sexy,
and you're gonna be blindfolded
1308
00:46:43,625 --> 00:46:45,000
and have to lead each other.
1309
00:46:45,125 --> 00:46:47,667
And I'm hopeful that
once you find the items,
1310
00:46:47,750 --> 00:46:49,542
you'll feel
comfortable using them.
1311
00:46:49,667 --> 00:46:51,417
- It's the opportunity
to let the--
1312
00:46:51,542 --> 00:46:53,417
trust the person.
1313
00:46:53,542 --> 00:46:55,333
And I think that will open up
another level of vulnerability
1314
00:46:55,458 --> 00:46:57,583
for her.
1315
00:46:57,708 --> 00:46:59,125
No, I'm over here.
- [laughs] I'm not.
1316
00:46:59,250 --> 00:47:01,125
I'm not.
I'm not.
1317
00:47:01,250 --> 00:47:03,125
I'm about to take
this-- ooh, I'm
1318
00:47:03,250 --> 00:47:07,333
about to take this blindfold
off, because you're playing.
1319
00:47:07,458 --> 00:47:08,333
- Come here.
1320
00:47:08,458 --> 00:47:09,542
- No.
1321
00:47:09,667 --> 00:47:11,125
- What?
1322
00:47:11,250 --> 00:47:12,542
- Because you're gonna
tell me to come all
1323
00:47:12,667 --> 00:47:13,583
the way over there,
and then you're
1324
00:47:13,708 --> 00:47:15,000
gonna move somewhere else.
1325
00:47:15,125 --> 00:47:16,625
- So you're saying
you don't trust me?
1326
00:47:16,708 --> 00:47:18,417
That's what it is?
- I do trust you.
1327
00:47:18,542 --> 00:47:19,583
I'm listening to you, but
you're not-- you directing me
1328
00:47:19,708 --> 00:47:21,042
to different places.
- I'm directing.
1329
00:47:21,208 --> 00:47:23,083
I said, listen to my voice,
listen to the instructions.
1330
00:47:23,208 --> 00:47:24,042
- OK.
1331
00:47:24,167 --> 00:47:28,375
- I want to clean my clothes.
1332
00:47:28,542 --> 00:47:29,750
What do I do?
1333
00:47:29,875 --> 00:47:30,958
- Wash your clothes.
1334
00:47:31,083 --> 00:47:32,750
- OK, that's the first clue.
1335
00:47:32,875 --> 00:47:35,250
- So it's in the washer?
1336
00:47:35,375 --> 00:47:38,000
Does that make sense?
1337
00:47:38,125 --> 00:47:41,167
Don't try to run
pass me, Shaquille.
1338
00:47:41,292 --> 00:47:43,208
I'm not about to
run into anything.
1339
00:47:43,333 --> 00:47:47,375
- Walk straight.
1340
00:47:47,542 --> 00:47:48,333
- Shaquille, I--
1341
00:47:48,500 --> 00:47:50,833
I'm nervous.
1342
00:47:50,958 --> 00:47:51,833
That was a good clue.
1343
00:47:51,958 --> 00:47:53,792
Let's see if it's in here.
1344
00:47:53,875 --> 00:47:56,042
♪ ♪
1345
00:47:56,167 --> 00:47:59,042
What is this,
a jump rope or something?
1346
00:47:59,167 --> 00:48:00,375
A rope?
1347
00:48:00,542 --> 00:48:02,667
What about it?
1348
00:48:02,792 --> 00:48:04,833
Am I putting these together?
1349
00:48:04,958 --> 00:48:08,375
- So if I was to--
1350
00:48:08,500 --> 00:48:12,000
♪ ♪
1351
00:48:12,125 --> 00:48:15,583
- Why are you tying me up?
1352
00:48:15,708 --> 00:48:17,292
Are you trying to kidnap me?
1353
00:48:17,417 --> 00:48:18,875
Oh goodness,
this is kind of hard,
1354
00:48:19,042 --> 00:48:22,000
but I like the rope around me.
1355
00:48:22,125 --> 00:48:24,000
- Do you have control?
1356
00:48:24,125 --> 00:48:25,375
- No, I don't have any control.
1357
00:48:25,542 --> 00:48:26,917
- Right.
1358
00:48:27,042 --> 00:48:28,583
So sometimes you have
to let me take control.
1359
00:48:28,708 --> 00:48:30,208
- You have control right now.
1360
00:48:30,375 --> 00:48:32,792
It's getting very
hot and bothered.
1361
00:48:32,917 --> 00:48:36,375
I really like allowing
our bodies and our voices
1362
00:48:36,500 --> 00:48:39,917
to lead us into whatever
we're about to do.
1363
00:48:40,042 --> 00:48:43,625
- Just play with it
with your fingers.
1364
00:48:43,750 --> 00:48:44,500
- What is this, some lube?
1365
00:48:44,667 --> 00:48:45,625
- Mm-hmm.
1366
00:48:45,750 --> 00:48:46,833
- Some lubricant?
1367
00:48:46,958 --> 00:48:47,667
- Liquid lubricant.
1368
00:48:47,833 --> 00:48:48,875
- Oh my god.
1369
00:48:49,042 --> 00:48:50,833
Is it bubble bath or something?
1370
00:48:50,917 --> 00:48:52,167
- This is great bath soap.
1371
00:48:52,250 --> 00:48:54,125
- Is this another little toy?
1372
00:48:54,208 --> 00:48:56,458
I feel like I'm
transforming, honestly.
1373
00:48:56,542 --> 00:48:58,000
Like, he can lead me.
1374
00:48:58,167 --> 00:49:01,500
Like, I can listen to this man.
1375
00:49:01,667 --> 00:49:05,000
I feel like that is kind of
what our trust is building
1376
00:49:05,125 --> 00:49:10,500
upon is, like, me unraveling
myself from being in control
1377
00:49:10,625 --> 00:49:12,750
a lot of time and allowing
myself to trust you,
1378
00:49:12,875 --> 00:49:14,375
so that was--
1379
00:49:14,500 --> 00:49:16,500
- That's why I got the
rope because you always--
1380
00:49:16,625 --> 00:49:18,208
you always want control.
1381
00:49:18,333 --> 00:49:19,125
- Mm-hmm.
1382
00:49:19,208 --> 00:49:21,083
- Like, no, not this time.
1383
00:49:21,208 --> 00:49:23,000
I still think we got some
things we can work through,
1384
00:49:23,167 --> 00:49:25,667
you know, in our marriage, you
know, as far as some things,
1385
00:49:25,833 --> 00:49:28,708
like, we both want and, like,
compromising and everything.
1386
00:49:28,833 --> 00:49:30,625
But I know it's
gonna take some time.
1387
00:49:30,708 --> 00:49:33,833
- What are some of the things
you think we have to work on?
1388
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:35,542
- Just, like,
communication and everything.
1389
00:49:35,667 --> 00:49:37,458
- Yeah.
1390
00:49:37,542 --> 00:49:39,333
- Like, even though I was gone
for a few days, it was like,
1391
00:49:39,458 --> 00:49:42,750
I know, like, we both could
have communicated better.
1392
00:49:42,875 --> 00:49:46,625
Let's schedule a time to talk
to check in other than letting
1393
00:49:46,750 --> 00:49:48,208
the whole day go by.
1394
00:49:48,333 --> 00:49:50,833
- I mean, and, for me,
I knew what you were,
1395
00:49:50,917 --> 00:49:53,500
you know, in Memphis for.
1396
00:49:53,583 --> 00:49:54,917
- Really-- really and
truthfully, I just--
1397
00:49:55,042 --> 00:49:58,167
I just really wanted you there.
1398
00:49:58,250 --> 00:50:01,583
- The fact that you're
telling me this right now
1399
00:50:01,708 --> 00:50:04,250
and you never said that while
you were there, if you would
1400
00:50:04,375 --> 00:50:05,667
have said that while
you were there,
1401
00:50:05,750 --> 00:50:07,458
if you really wanted me--
1402
00:50:07,583 --> 00:50:08,667
- No, you already had-- you
had already planned things.
1403
00:50:08,833 --> 00:50:10,000
And Shaquille is out.
1404
00:50:10,125 --> 00:50:12,625
Let me-- let me go
run the streets.
1405
00:50:12,750 --> 00:50:15,583
♪ ♪
1406
00:50:15,708 --> 00:50:17,875
She said the next work event,
I'm coming to support you.
1407
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,708
And we talked about going
to Memphis, her and I.
1408
00:50:20,833 --> 00:50:24,167
And in that moment,
I was packing my clothes.
1409
00:50:24,333 --> 00:50:25,958
Kirsten said, you know,
I'm just not gonna go.
1410
00:50:26,083 --> 00:50:28,042
I have this set up,
and I have this event.
1411
00:50:28,167 --> 00:50:30,167
I was like, well,
when did all of this happen?
1412
00:50:30,250 --> 00:50:33,333
And it was another
eye-opener for me,
1413
00:50:33,458 --> 00:50:36,250
like, to say, like, so you
made plans without me when we
1414
00:50:36,375 --> 00:50:38,333
already had plans established.
1415
00:50:38,417 --> 00:50:41,167
- Right now, it sounds like you
really wanted me to be there.
1416
00:50:41,250 --> 00:50:44,625
But when you told me at first,
it never sounds like you
1417
00:50:44,750 --> 00:50:46,167
really want me to be there.
1418
00:50:46,333 --> 00:50:48,583
- But if I tell you
I want you to do something,
1419
00:50:48,708 --> 00:50:50,667
that's my expectation.
1420
00:50:50,750 --> 00:50:52,958
Why does I-- why
do I have to keep
1421
00:50:53,083 --> 00:50:55,542
reiterating that I want
you to do something
1422
00:50:55,708 --> 00:50:56,542
if we talked about it?
1423
00:50:56,708 --> 00:50:58,250
I'm not gonna beg you.
1424
00:50:58,375 --> 00:51:00,083
- I don't want you to beg me.
1425
00:51:00,208 --> 00:51:01,833
But like, when you're
sitting here, saying,
1426
00:51:01,958 --> 00:51:04,000
Kirsten, I really
wish you were there
1427
00:51:04,083 --> 00:51:06,792
and I really had wanted you
to come, like, that just
1428
00:51:06,875 --> 00:51:08,333
makes me feel terrible.
1429
00:51:08,500 --> 00:51:11,333
- Can you imagine
how I feel then?
1430
00:51:11,458 --> 00:51:15,250
- I don't want you to
keep feeling like this,
1431
00:51:15,375 --> 00:51:17,750
like that I don't want to be
there, I don't want to support
1432
00:51:17,875 --> 00:51:21,042
you, because I do, OK?
1433
00:51:21,167 --> 00:51:22,875
- I hear you.
1434
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:24,667
- All right.
1435
00:51:24,833 --> 00:51:25,750
- I said I hear you.
1436
00:51:25,875 --> 00:51:27,083
- No, I said OK.
1437
00:51:27,208 --> 00:51:28,583
I said all right.
1438
00:51:28,708 --> 00:51:30,792
♪ ♪
1439
00:51:30,875 --> 00:51:34,333
Come on.
1440
00:51:37,292 --> 00:51:40,708
- Happy is a stretch.
1441
00:51:40,875 --> 00:51:44,292
I would definitely
say I'm grateful
1442
00:51:44,375 --> 00:51:47,708
and I'm overjoyed
to be in this marriage.
1443
00:51:47,833 --> 00:51:51,125
I haven't got to that happy
place where I feel like she
1444
00:51:51,208 --> 00:51:53,667
honestly, truly
supports me and things
1445
00:51:53,792 --> 00:51:55,333
that I love to do in my life.
1446
00:51:55,458 --> 00:52:00,542
♪ ♪
1447
00:52:00,667 --> 00:52:02,583
Get out my face.
1448
00:52:06,292 --> 00:52:09,375
[upbeat music]
1449
00:52:09,500 --> 00:52:13,792
♪ ♪
1450
00:52:13,875 --> 00:52:15,625
- If I can make contact--
that's gonna be the hardest.
1451
00:52:15,708 --> 00:52:17,000
- Oh, yeah, for sure.
1452
00:52:17,167 --> 00:52:18,708
- I'm not worried
about the power.
1453
00:52:18,833 --> 00:52:22,083
- I haven't hit or held a bat
since, ooh, probably 20 years,
1454
00:52:22,208 --> 00:52:24,208
since I was 11.
1455
00:52:24,375 --> 00:52:26,333
We used to live across the
street from a baseball field,
1456
00:52:26,458 --> 00:52:27,875
and I played Little League.
1457
00:52:28,042 --> 00:52:29,542
And since then,
I haven't been back.
1458
00:52:29,667 --> 00:52:32,625
So it feels great to bring
me back to my childhood.
1459
00:52:32,750 --> 00:52:35,417
- We've got the pitching
machine set up out here today.
1460
00:52:35,542 --> 00:52:38,417
It'll probably be at about
60-ish miles an hour.
1461
00:52:38,542 --> 00:52:39,542
We'll see if we
can crank it up.
1462
00:52:39,708 --> 00:52:41,250
- That's not bad.
1463
00:52:41,375 --> 00:52:42,625
- Airris, he wants a hundred.
He wants a hundred.
1464
00:52:42,708 --> 00:52:44,333
- I do not want a hundred.
- A hundred?
1465
00:52:44,458 --> 00:52:45,250
All right, well,
we'll see how we can do there.
1466
00:52:45,375 --> 00:52:46,583
- Right on.
- Sweet.
1467
00:52:46,708 --> 00:52:48,167
- Let's do it.
1468
00:52:48,292 --> 00:52:49,917
- Let's do it, Airris.
1469
00:52:50,042 --> 00:52:51,667
- I was known more for
my field play, but we'll see.
1470
00:52:51,833 --> 00:52:58,667
♪ ♪
1471
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:00,917
That's a single right there.
1472
00:53:01,042 --> 00:53:03,458
- There you go.
1473
00:53:03,583 --> 00:53:07,958
♪ ♪
1474
00:53:08,083 --> 00:53:10,125
- Oh, that's a good hit
right there.
1475
00:53:10,250 --> 00:53:12,208
♪ ♪
1476
00:53:12,333 --> 00:53:13,750
Oh.
- Hey.
1477
00:53:13,875 --> 00:53:14,833
- There we go.
- Hey.
1478
00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:18,417
♪ ♪
1479
00:53:18,542 --> 00:53:20,542
- Yeah, put those
Daisy Dukes into it.
1480
00:53:20,667 --> 00:53:21,917
- [laughs]
1481
00:53:22,042 --> 00:53:23,708
- ♪ Superstar ♪
1482
00:53:23,833 --> 00:53:25,458
- Here we go.
1483
00:53:25,583 --> 00:53:29,000
♪ ♪
1484
00:53:29,125 --> 00:53:30,708
- Oh.
1485
00:53:30,833 --> 00:53:34,167
- That first one does
come fast at you.
1486
00:53:34,292 --> 00:53:36,667
- Here we go, that golf swing.
1487
00:53:36,792 --> 00:53:37,917
Ooh, there you go.
1488
00:53:38,042 --> 00:53:38,833
- I'm feeling that breeze.
1489
00:53:38,958 --> 00:53:41,292
Appreciate it, bruh.
1490
00:53:41,375 --> 00:53:42,833
Can you lower it to, like, 20?
- [laughs]
1491
00:53:42,958 --> 00:53:44,208
- These are all crazy.
1492
00:53:44,333 --> 00:53:47,083
- Throw it underhand
to him, maybe.
1493
00:53:47,208 --> 00:53:50,167
- Oh, that's way too slow.
1494
00:53:50,292 --> 00:53:51,750
- [laughs]
- Come on, Clint.
1495
00:53:51,875 --> 00:53:53,542
- Throw his back out.
- Oh, speed it up.
1496
00:53:53,708 --> 00:53:54,875
- Strive for that greatness.
- It's too slow.
1497
00:53:55,042 --> 00:53:56,500
- Slowing it out.
1498
00:53:56,583 --> 00:53:58,292
♪ ♪
1499
00:53:58,417 --> 00:53:59,958
- There we go.
- There's a nice hit.
1500
00:54:00,083 --> 00:54:01,167
- All right.
- That's a double.
1501
00:54:01,333 --> 00:54:03,000
- He found his groove.
1502
00:54:03,083 --> 00:54:07,750
♪ ♪
1503
00:54:07,875 --> 00:54:09,083
- Hey.
- Hello.
1504
00:54:09,208 --> 00:54:10,208
- Hi.
1505
00:54:10,375 --> 00:54:12,292
- This is so cute in here.
1506
00:54:12,375 --> 00:54:14,500
- These other women make
me feel so comfortable,
1507
00:54:14,625 --> 00:54:16,292
and I love hanging
out with them.
1508
00:54:16,417 --> 00:54:18,292
But we haven't really
gotten together in a while,
1509
00:54:18,417 --> 00:54:20,667
so today we're
making cocktails.
1510
00:54:20,833 --> 00:54:22,542
The last time
we all got together,
1511
00:54:22,667 --> 00:54:26,792
we were with our husbands,
and you don't get the real tea
1512
00:54:26,875 --> 00:54:27,750
when husbands are around.
1513
00:54:27,875 --> 00:54:29,167
- Well, hello.
1514
00:54:29,292 --> 00:54:30,208
How are you today?
- I'm doing well.
1515
00:54:30,375 --> 00:54:31,333
How y'all doing?
- Good.
1516
00:54:31,417 --> 00:54:32,292
- We're doing great.
1517
00:54:32,375 --> 00:54:34,333
- My name is Freddie.
1518
00:54:34,500 --> 00:54:36,167
I'm the chief cocktail
officer here at Liquor Lab.
1519
00:54:36,292 --> 00:54:39,250
We're gonna jump into
our first cocktail.
1520
00:54:39,375 --> 00:54:40,542
Espresso martinis fans?
- Yes.
1521
00:54:40,708 --> 00:54:41,583
- Oh, yes.
- One or two of us?
1522
00:54:41,708 --> 00:54:43,000
Cool.
1523
00:54:43,125 --> 00:54:44,542
We're gonna make
an espresso martini.
1524
00:54:44,667 --> 00:54:47,167
So typically, we'd make
this drink with vodka.
1525
00:54:47,292 --> 00:54:48,542
So we call this one
black lightning.
1526
00:54:48,708 --> 00:54:50,208
In that little ramekin
in front of you,
1527
00:54:50,333 --> 00:54:52,417
you have your cold-brew coffee.
1528
00:54:52,542 --> 00:54:55,042
Just go ahead and add
that to your mixed drinks.
1529
00:54:55,208 --> 00:54:56,500
It's actually
cold-brew concentrate.
1530
00:54:56,625 --> 00:54:57,958
- The glass?
- That's a funny-looking glass.
1531
00:54:58,042 --> 00:54:59,500
- Yeah.
- Oh, mothertrucker.
1532
00:54:59,583 --> 00:55:00,625
- Oh, no.
1533
00:55:00,708 --> 00:55:02,500
- Oh, Gina.
1534
00:55:02,625 --> 00:55:05,875
- Now, listen, I did bartend
for about 13 years of my life.
1535
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:08,292
I know that's, like,
giving away my age.
1536
00:55:08,375 --> 00:55:11,250
But my bartending was more
in, like, high volume.
1537
00:55:11,375 --> 00:55:13,250
So we were working
with plastic cups,
1538
00:55:13,375 --> 00:55:15,542
just throwing out beers,
things like that.
1539
00:55:15,667 --> 00:55:17,167
♪ ♪
1540
00:55:17,333 --> 00:55:18,417
- Now we have
the Goldilocks moment.
1541
00:55:18,542 --> 00:55:20,250
This is very important.
1542
00:55:20,375 --> 00:55:22,333
Take a sip and understand
that you can adjust it.
1543
00:55:22,458 --> 00:55:24,167
You can fix it if you want.
1544
00:55:24,292 --> 00:55:26,208
You have a little more
of that demerara sugar
1545
00:55:26,375 --> 00:55:27,875
syrup, that round enough,
if you want to-- if it's
1546
00:55:28,042 --> 00:55:29,833
too kind of strong.
1547
00:55:29,917 --> 00:55:31,458
- I like mine.
1548
00:55:31,542 --> 00:55:33,333
- I feel very good about
what I've done here today.
1549
00:55:33,500 --> 00:55:35,000
- OK, this is waking
me up right now.
1550
00:55:35,083 --> 00:55:36,333
- [laughs]
1551
00:55:36,500 --> 00:55:38,000
- I'm pretty pumped.
I'm ready.
1552
00:55:38,125 --> 00:55:39,792
- Yeah, I'm pretty pumped up.
- All right, cool.
1553
00:55:39,917 --> 00:55:41,208
I'm gonna leave you with
your cocktail, let you enjoy.
1554
00:55:41,375 --> 00:55:42,292
- OK, thank you.
- Well, thanks, Freddie.
1555
00:55:42,417 --> 00:55:44,833
- Yes, thank you so much.
1556
00:55:44,917 --> 00:55:46,792
- We have a lot to catch
up on, I feel like.
1557
00:55:46,875 --> 00:55:48,333
- Yes.
1558
00:55:48,500 --> 00:55:49,500
- You said difficult.
Why so difficult?
1559
00:55:49,625 --> 00:55:51,583
- What are we catching up on?
1560
00:55:51,708 --> 00:55:53,167
- Oh my gosh, we haven't seen
each other since our one-month
1561
00:55:53,250 --> 00:55:54,042
anniversary dinner.
- Yes, our one month.
1562
00:55:54,167 --> 00:55:55,542
- Yeah.
1563
00:55:55,667 --> 00:55:57,125
- How's everybody's weeks been?
1564
00:55:57,208 --> 00:55:58,500
- Y'all had some
sex talks this week?
1565
00:55:58,625 --> 00:56:00,167
Dr. Pia visit y'all?
1566
00:56:00,292 --> 00:56:01,333
- Yeah, I mean,
it's no secret about us.
1567
00:56:01,458 --> 00:56:02,333
- You're hitting home runs.
1568
00:56:02,458 --> 00:56:03,625
- I was about to say, you--
1569
00:56:03,708 --> 00:56:05,042
- Right.
1570
00:56:05,167 --> 00:56:06,125
- I mean,
the conversation was good.
1571
00:56:06,208 --> 00:56:08,125
But it was just
about Nicole has
1572
00:56:08,250 --> 00:56:11,458
some, like, self-worth issues.
1573
00:56:11,583 --> 00:56:14,000
- I really need to do
a lot of personal work.
1574
00:56:14,125 --> 00:56:16,917
Because, you know,
it just came to light that I
1575
00:56:17,042 --> 00:56:18,792
have all this work to do.
1576
00:56:18,875 --> 00:56:21,208
And there's really not much
he can do in terms of helping,
1577
00:56:21,375 --> 00:56:23,542
because it is so internal.
1578
00:56:23,667 --> 00:56:26,458
But I need him to-- you know,
if he sees me looking upset,
1579
00:56:26,583 --> 00:56:28,500
instead of saying, like, when
you're ready to talk about it,
1580
00:56:28,625 --> 00:56:30,583
I need him to be like,
talk to me,
1581
00:56:30,708 --> 00:56:33,042
because I feel like,
I hate to say it,
1582
00:56:33,167 --> 00:56:34,708
but he's almost too respectful.
1583
00:56:34,875 --> 00:56:36,500
Like, he sees me getting
upset, and it's like, I'm here
1584
00:56:36,625 --> 00:56:38,250
for you when you're ready.
1585
00:56:38,375 --> 00:56:41,167
But I'll never be ready
if I'm given the option.
1586
00:56:41,333 --> 00:56:44,708
♪ ♪
1587
00:56:44,875 --> 00:56:50,042
- I would say we doing
out of ten, seven, eight.
1588
00:56:50,167 --> 00:56:51,875
We're doing good.
- OK. OK.
1589
00:56:52,042 --> 00:56:53,042
- But it's kind of like-- it's
like little, nitpicky things.
1590
00:56:53,208 --> 00:56:54,875
- Little things, yeah.
1591
00:56:55,042 --> 00:56:56,792
- It's like the only thing that
I asked for in the beginning
1592
00:56:56,875 --> 00:56:57,833
was support.
1593
00:56:57,917 --> 00:56:59,458
- Yeah.
1594
00:56:59,542 --> 00:57:01,708
- Like, support me in my
job, support me in school.
1595
00:57:01,833 --> 00:57:03,708
But it's like, we getting
further with intimacy
1596
00:57:03,875 --> 00:57:05,625
and chemistry and just
kind of like, you know,
1597
00:57:05,750 --> 00:57:08,000
started kissing and
everything, especially, like,
1598
00:57:08,125 --> 00:57:09,750
before bed and everything.
1599
00:57:09,875 --> 00:57:11,625
- Since we're at a baseball
stadium, what would you say?
1600
00:57:11,708 --> 00:57:13,333
What, you're on first base?
1601
00:57:13,500 --> 00:57:14,958
[laughter]
1602
00:57:15,083 --> 00:57:17,042
♪ ♪
1603
00:57:20,875 --> 00:57:22,333
♪ ♪
1604
00:57:22,458 --> 00:57:24,125
- Second base, trying to
get the third, you know?
1605
00:57:24,208 --> 00:57:25,708
Yeah.
- OK.
1606
00:57:25,875 --> 00:57:26,583
- First base?
1607
00:57:26,708 --> 00:57:27,750
Like, where are we at?
1608
00:57:27,875 --> 00:57:29,500
- Yeah, like, are we exploring?
1609
00:57:29,583 --> 00:57:31,500
Do we know what we're
working with, at least?
1610
00:57:31,625 --> 00:57:34,000
- We're working up to--
we're working up to it.
1611
00:57:34,083 --> 00:57:36,792
- Because it sounds like you've
been building up the intimacy.
1612
00:57:36,875 --> 00:57:38,542
And I really
respect that you're
1613
00:57:38,667 --> 00:57:40,167
waiting until you
guys are fully ready,
1614
00:57:40,292 --> 00:57:41,667
but it sounds like we're ready.
1615
00:57:41,792 --> 00:57:43,583
We're just waiting
for the right moment
1616
00:57:43,708 --> 00:57:45,625
where we feel ready.
1617
00:57:45,708 --> 00:57:47,208
- You want him to-- like,
you want him to take control.
1618
00:57:47,375 --> 00:57:49,042
- I definitely want
Shaquille to-- yeah,
1619
00:57:49,167 --> 00:57:51,375
I definitely want Shaquille to
take the lead and to initiate
1620
00:57:51,542 --> 00:57:53,250
everything and to, you know,
get me aroused
1621
00:57:53,375 --> 00:57:54,625
and in the mood.
1622
00:57:54,708 --> 00:57:55,875
- And you're not
gonna turn him down.
1623
00:57:56,042 --> 00:57:57,583
- If he doesn't--
1624
00:57:57,708 --> 00:57:59,042
- She's not gonna
turn him down.
1625
00:57:59,208 --> 00:58:01,042
She's not gonna turn him down.
1626
00:58:01,167 --> 00:58:02,667
- Y'all are so funny.
1627
00:58:02,750 --> 00:58:04,625
I'm glad y'all are getting
a lot of laughs out
1628
00:58:04,750 --> 00:58:06,500
of this and a lot of ideas.
1629
00:58:06,625 --> 00:58:07,708
- Shaq, can you hear me?
1630
00:58:07,875 --> 00:58:08,542
Shaq.
1631
00:58:08,708 --> 00:58:10,708
Tell him to initiate.
1632
00:58:10,833 --> 00:58:12,792
- She's ready to risk it all.
1633
00:58:12,917 --> 00:58:16,500
- Oh my gosh,
y'all are hilarious.
1634
00:58:16,667 --> 00:58:18,667
- Oh, man, I mean,
with baseball analogies,
1635
00:58:18,792 --> 00:58:20,333
I'd say we're not even
in the dugout, man.
1636
00:58:20,417 --> 00:58:22,500
We're not even in the stadium.
1637
00:58:22,583 --> 00:58:23,875
- You guys are waiting
in line to get in?
1638
00:58:24,000 --> 00:58:25,125
- Yeah.
1639
00:58:25,208 --> 00:58:26,750
- Same.
1640
00:58:26,875 --> 00:58:29,667
- Yeah, it's-- it's--
it's an interesting place
1641
00:58:29,750 --> 00:58:31,708
to be in because I'm just--
1642
00:58:31,833 --> 00:58:34,750
I'm a sexual dude, and that's
how I connect on another level
1643
00:58:34,875 --> 00:58:36,375
with somebody, you know?
- Yeah.
1644
00:58:36,500 --> 00:58:37,792
- So I'm trying to work
through, like, you know,
1645
00:58:37,917 --> 00:58:39,875
intimacy exercises, you know?
1646
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:41,583
And I'm trying
to keep an open mind.
1647
00:58:41,708 --> 00:58:42,958
I'm not trying to have
a predetermined outcome.
1648
00:58:43,042 --> 00:58:44,375
- Right.
1649
00:58:44,500 --> 00:58:45,667
- Just like,
I'm gonna try it and see
1650
00:58:45,792 --> 00:58:46,958
if it changes my outlook
on things,
1651
00:58:47,042 --> 00:58:48,625
changes my perspective.
- Yeah.
1652
00:58:48,750 --> 00:58:51,750
- We have to start building
some sort of intimacy just
1653
00:58:51,875 --> 00:58:56,042
to figure out if we can sustain
any type of healthy marriage.
1654
00:58:56,167 --> 00:58:58,083
Like, at the end of the
day, we're not quitters,
1655
00:58:58,208 --> 00:58:59,542
and we're trying so hard.
1656
00:58:59,708 --> 00:59:00,333
And I'm like, I just
want it to be there.
1657
00:59:00,458 --> 00:59:02,125
- Right.
1658
00:59:02,250 --> 00:59:04,167
- Dr. Pia visited us,
but I feel like she already
1659
00:59:04,250 --> 00:59:05,542
knew we wasn't having sex.
1660
00:59:05,708 --> 00:59:06,958
So we didn't even
talk about sex.
1661
00:59:07,083 --> 00:59:08,875
- Oh, yeah?
What'd you talk about then?
1662
00:59:09,042 --> 00:59:10,417
- We just talked about, like,
other ways to be intimate,
1663
00:59:10,542 --> 00:59:12,042
like, besides, like, sex.
1664
00:59:12,167 --> 00:59:13,917
I've had situations
in the past where,
1665
00:59:14,042 --> 00:59:16,833
like, I've grown to like
people past the physical.
1666
00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:19,917
So I'm trying to find,
like, other ways that--
1667
00:59:20,042 --> 00:59:24,500
that I can be turned on, and I
just haven't gotten there yet.
1668
00:59:24,583 --> 00:59:25,917
- Even when we've, like,
had conversations, like,
1669
00:59:26,042 --> 00:59:29,833
with the experts,
he's like, yeah, like,
1670
00:59:29,917 --> 00:59:31,875
I'm gonna be more intentional.
1671
00:59:32,000 --> 00:59:33,708
And I'm gonna do this,
and I'm gonna do that.
1672
00:59:33,833 --> 00:59:35,458
And I want this to work.
1673
00:59:35,583 --> 00:59:38,667
But I feel like after
it's acknowledged,
1674
00:59:38,792 --> 00:59:41,292
there's no change.
1675
00:59:41,417 --> 00:59:42,792
- Have y'all had
that conversation?
1676
00:59:42,917 --> 00:59:44,292
- No, because I don't
have the conversations
1677
00:59:44,417 --> 00:59:45,250
that need to be had.
1678
00:59:45,375 --> 00:59:46,375
Because I'm just very--
1679
00:59:46,542 --> 00:59:47,750
I don't know.
1680
00:59:47,875 --> 00:59:49,583
I just brush things
under the rug.
1681
00:59:49,708 --> 00:59:51,208
And that's something I'm
learning about myself--
1682
00:59:51,333 --> 00:59:52,458
- Mm-hmm.
1683
00:59:52,542 --> 00:59:53,542
- --and trying to grow from.
1684
00:59:53,708 --> 00:59:55,333
- And I do that sometimes, too.
1685
00:59:55,458 --> 00:59:58,000
- Just because I feel like
I'm more worried about what
1686
00:59:58,167 --> 00:59:59,125
the answer is gonna be.
1687
00:59:59,208 --> 01:00:00,125
- Mm-hmm.
1688
01:00:00,208 --> 01:00:01,208
- Yeah.
1689
01:00:04,250 --> 01:00:05,667
- You can cry.
1690
01:00:05,792 --> 01:00:07,833
This is a safe space,
so please know that.
1691
01:00:07,958 --> 01:00:14,792
♪ ♪
1692
01:00:14,875 --> 01:00:16,542
- I think I'm just
at a point where
1693
01:00:16,667 --> 01:00:17,500
I'm at my breaking point.
1694
01:00:17,625 --> 01:00:19,167
- Yeah.
1695
01:00:19,292 --> 01:00:21,333
- I understand that,
because I know how bad you
1696
01:00:21,417 --> 01:00:22,958
want to be married, you know?
1697
01:00:23,083 --> 01:00:25,333
And I know how bad you
want things to work out
1698
01:00:25,458 --> 01:00:27,125
and you want to be a wife.
1699
01:00:27,250 --> 01:00:29,000
So I can understand how
difficult this can be for you.
1700
01:00:29,167 --> 01:00:30,917
And I'm sorry.
1701
01:00:31,042 --> 01:00:32,833
- My heart is
breaking for Jasmine.
1702
01:00:32,958 --> 01:00:35,167
I mean, she is a wonderful,
beautiful person
1703
01:00:35,292 --> 01:00:36,667
inside and out.
1704
01:00:36,833 --> 01:00:40,042
And she went into this
with the most open mind,
1705
01:00:40,208 --> 01:00:43,333
wanting to be a wife,
ready to be a wife.
1706
01:00:43,417 --> 01:00:45,167
And she is an incredible wife.
1707
01:00:45,250 --> 01:00:46,750
And it just breaks my heart
that she's not getting
1708
01:00:46,875 --> 01:00:49,000
what she needs in return.
1709
01:00:49,125 --> 01:00:50,083
♪ ♪
1710
01:00:50,208 --> 01:00:52,542
- I'm about to cry again.
1711
01:00:52,667 --> 01:00:58,208
♪ ♪
1712
01:00:58,375 --> 01:01:00,500
Emotionally, I just
don't know what I have
1713
01:01:00,667 --> 01:01:02,458
left to give at this point.
1714
01:01:02,542 --> 01:01:08,000
♪ ♪
1715
01:01:08,083 --> 01:01:10,000
[upbeat music]
1716
01:01:10,125 --> 01:01:12,292
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight..."
1717
01:01:12,375 --> 01:01:14,833
- Kirsten and I have
consummated our marriage.
1718
01:01:14,958 --> 01:01:16,708
[cheers and applause]
1719
01:01:16,875 --> 01:01:18,458
- With less than two
weeks until Decision Day,
1720
01:01:18,542 --> 01:01:20,708
we welcome guest
expert DeVon Franklin.
1721
01:01:20,833 --> 01:01:22,000
- How are you doing?
DeVon.
1722
01:01:22,167 --> 01:01:23,875
- All right.
1723
01:01:24,042 --> 01:01:26,667
- And sit down with the
couples to confront the truth.
1724
01:01:26,792 --> 01:01:28,458
- I appreciate you probably
more than you know.
1725
01:01:28,583 --> 01:01:29,500
- I do love you.
1726
01:01:29,583 --> 01:01:31,333
♪ ♪
1727
01:01:31,458 --> 01:01:33,250
- Oh.
1728
01:01:33,375 --> 01:01:35,833
- In my relationships, I just
brush things under the rug.
1729
01:01:35,958 --> 01:01:37,375
- Whatever we sweep
under the emotional rug,
1730
01:01:37,542 --> 01:01:38,333
it doesn't go anywhere.
1731
01:01:38,458 --> 01:01:40,667
♪ ♪
1732
01:01:40,792 --> 01:01:42,625
- I want you to be there.
I need you to be there.
1733
01:01:42,708 --> 01:01:44,583
It's not a want no more.
It's a need.
1734
01:01:44,708 --> 01:01:45,625
- Do you feel supported
in the marriage?
1735
01:01:45,708 --> 01:01:46,583
♪ ♪
1736
01:01:46,708 --> 01:01:48,792
- No.
1737
01:01:48,917 --> 01:01:51,167
- If this isn't something
you're willing to do,
1738
01:01:51,250 --> 01:01:52,667
there's the door.
1739
01:01:52,750 --> 01:01:53,625
♪ ♪
1740
01:01:53,750 --> 01:01:55,208
- I'm over it.
1741
01:01:55,333 --> 01:01:56,875
I'm done.
1742
01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:57,667
Literally, I'm trying
to dance with you.
1743
01:01:57,792 --> 01:01:59,167
I'm your wife.
1744
01:01:59,292 --> 01:02:00,625
But you don't want to
dance with your wife.
1745
01:02:00,750 --> 01:02:03,125
Instead, you want to go
dance with the instructor.
1746
01:02:03,250 --> 01:02:06,000
I'm [bleep] done.
1747
01:02:06,167 --> 01:02:08,375
- Do you see a possibility
for this marriage?
1748
01:02:08,500 --> 01:02:13,833
♪ ♪