[dramatic music]
- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
- Ten singles took an incredible leap of faith
in order to find love.
They married as complete strangers.
[cheers and applause]
And in just over two weeks,
they will have to decide
whether to stay married or get a divorce.
- ♪ Everything is brighter ♪
- Last time, our couples dug deep into each other's pasts
in the hopes of better understanding
their future together.
- She shoots. She scores.
- Scores.
- Gina and Clint.
- Soccer taught me a lot about life.
- Yeah.
- You know, I learned perseverance, drive--
- Stay in it. - --and motivation.
Even when I hated it, I wanted to get good.
- Yeah.
Clint and I really share that mentality of, like,
not giving up on things, and he really does
try to, like, give his all.
And it makes me feel like we can make this marriage work.
- ♪ From you ♪
- Jasmine and Airris.
- I feel like moving around so much, like,
whether it's a relationship, whether it's a city, like,
I'll just, boom, get up and go,
but I feel like that's something from
my childhood that I feel like definitely
has carried into adulthood.
♪ ♪
- Nicole and Chris.
- [cackles]
Let me twirl my "moo-stache."
- You gotta work on the laugh, though.
- The fact that he doesn't judge me
and I'm not embarrassed or afraid at all that he'll think
it's weird I think is amazing,
because I've never felt this way before.
- Kirsten and Shaquille.
So--
- OK, you want to be married to them?
- Shaquille, I don't want you to overthink it,
and I don't want you to put that kind of pressure
on yourself.
We're gonna-- we're gonna be great.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Let's get it ♪
♪ Let's go ♪
- Oh.
- And tonight our couples must explore intimacy
in order to form a greater foundation of trust
in their marriage.
- Who knows?
We might Amazon a damn sex chair after all this.
- I might have one. - Damn, Gina.
- [laughs]
- Do you have control?
- No, I don't have any control.
Each activity, step by step, is drawing us closer.
- Do you feel like you're getting your needs met?
- Um, no.
I ain't trying to be your friend.
I'm trying to be your wife.
- I'm not gonna beg you.
- I don't want you to keep feeling like this.
♪ ♪
- I didn't realize I had so many issues.
I say them out loud.
I'm like, wow, you are really [bleep] up.
- I think I'm just at a point where
I'm at my breaking point.
♪ ♪
- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- This is "Married at First Sight."
- ♪ There's no other way ♪
♪ It's all or nothing ♪
- ♪ I'm floating like a dream through the city lights ♪
♪ ♪
- Good morning. - Good morning.
- Lookit, she looks beautiful, even in the mornings.
- Mm. Thank you, sweetheart.
- No makeup needed.
No makeup necessary.
- Down, whisper,
up, shake, shake.
- He's whispering. - Still whispering.
- [laughs] - Shake.
Yeah, pound.
- Shaquille is so exhausted, and he's all packed up,
because he has to go to Memphis to work and to do
some workshops and recruit all these students for fall 2023.
Is that right?
- I don't really know, like, emotionally and mentally,
like, my headspace, honestly.
I have been so, like,
open and optimistic about everything
in this process.
I'm really trying to not start to put all these guards up,
but I definitely have guards up now.
I'm concerned, but I'm hopeful.
So although I'm not in a space that I want to be in,
I'm hopeful that by the end of this I can be in that space,
and so can Airris.
We both, you know, deserve to be happy.
- ♪ Chasing my destiny ♪
- So my-- my mom told me about this thing she got in her
house that she really likes, and I thought it'd be
fun if we could try it.
- Yeah.
- But we have to install it.
- OK.
- Come on, I'll show you.
- All right.
- It's a surprise.
- I mean, in a sense, yes, I--
I pictured this for married life,
in the-- in the sense that we got home projects that we're
gonna work on together.
And we want to be able to include--
include each other.
We don't want to have to get to a point
where it's like she's gonna do her thing,
I'm gonna do my thing.
We want to be involved with each other in everything
that we do.
- So this is what we have to install.
- OK, a bidet.
- It's a bidet.
- All right.
- Have you ever used a bidet?
- No, I have not.
- I think bidets are really cool.
I mean, you got a nice, clean tushy,
and Chris has never used one.
And we unexpectedly get intimate sometimes.
So it would be nice to always have a fresh tushy
if you haven't just freshly showered.
- See, I'm not afraid to use instructions because--
- Well, that's good because if we install this wrong,
imagine it goes up the wrong hole.
♪ ♪
No, we're having fun.
Let me have fun with my toilet.
♪ ♪
- There we go.
And I think we're done.
- All right, now why don't you get out so I can use it?
- All right, sounds good.
- Testing, testing the bidet.
Putting it on rear cleaning mode, and, ah, OK.
- I thought you used one of these before.
You sound like a beginner.
- Yeah, but not with my husband listening.
- Do you feel like this is another level of intimacy?
- This is really intimate.
You're listening to me clean my tushy right now.
Ooh.
- I am.
She's a tough New Yorker.
She can handle a little water up her butt, but me,
I don't know; wish me luck.
- Good luck, babe.
You got this.
Clean that tushy.
And make sure to start off with the first level,
because you don't want to come in hot.
- Ah!
[laughs]
It's not just a little spray.
It's literally right up and in it.
I feel so violated.
Oh, that was intense.
- That was intimate and supportive and teamwork,
and honestly, it turned me on a little bit that you
could put something together-- - Thanks.
- --and you were willing to do something
silly to make me happy.
- Anything for a clean tushy for you, honey.
- Thank you, baby.
- I feel like the toilet made me its bitch.
[laughs] Like, I'm not even joking.
- ♪ I'm feeling good ♪
♪ Yeah ♪
[knock at door]
- Hello. - Hey, hey, how are you?
- Hi, I'm Dr. Pia.
Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
Shaquille.
- We're bringing Dr. Pia back to help
our couples with trust and intimacy in their marriage.
Pia has been brought up to speed on everything.
She's here to help our couples find out how they can
create better intimacy but also to learn how they can
connect on a visceral level.
Because with just over two weeks left until Decision Day,
it can be the difference between staying
married and getting a divorce.
♪ ♪
[knocking at door]
- Hello. - Hi.
- I'm Dr. Pia.
Nice to meet you. - I'm Clint.
Nice to meet you.
- Oh. - Oh, who's this?
- This is Hank.
- Hi, Hank.
- Come on in. - Hi, Hank.
- Easy, bud.
How's it going? - Good.
How about you guys? - Good.
- Hi, Hank.
Well, how have things been going?
- Yeah, good. - Good, yeah.
- Yeah, yeah.
- OK, what's been making it good?
- Jeez, our communication is excellent.
We're growing in our relationship.
You know, we just get along really well, so--
- OK, do you agree, Gina?
- I do, yeah.
I mean, from a marriage standpoint,
not-- we're not really--
we don't feel married, but things are going well
in the regard of, like, getting to know one another
and building that, like, friendship foundation,
I guess.
- OK, why do you think you guys don't feel, like, connected
like a married couple?
- Well, we've got--
we've got a physical barrier.
- There's just no real, like, draw to flirt,
or hold hands, or kiss, or any of that.
- What typically creates that draw for you?
- Honestly, I'm not sure.
I feel like I've typically just been aligned with someone
and it's just easily been there.
I've never really, like, sat down and thought about it.
- What about for you, Clint?
- Yeah, I mean, typically, the way it happens
is just when I see somebody, I'm just like,
there's that unquantified part to it where I'm like,
I want to be sexually, like, attracted and want to move
forward in that capacity, so--
- Do you all have sexual desires
independent of one another?
- Yeah.
- OK, what was that reaction that you just had?
- No, I did.
That was just a very confident reaction.
Yeah. - OK.
- I mean, yeah, for sure.
- OK, and how are you fulfilling that?
- Fulfilling our sexual desires?
- Mm-hmm.
- I mean, obviously on our own.
[laughter]
- OK.
- It's an independent exercise at this moment.
- Uh-huh.
Do you all talk about it?
- No, because we're-- we don't have any
sexual desire for one another.
So I feel like that'd be pretty awkward to talk about that.
- How do y'all think you're gonna
foster this sexual desire?
- I mean, I was hoping that it would happen more organically.
- Everything takes work, everything.
Every relationship is different.
So even though sometimes there might have been, like,
instant sexual chemistry with someone else,
if you're making this decision to be married, right,
do we not have to put forth similar effort into
the intimate side of things?
In order for something to grow, you have to water it.
- But we are watering it. - Right.
How? How are you allowing intimacy--
- We're spending time-- yeah, we're covering all the other
bases of the intimacy.
- But you're not talking about intimacy.
You're not talking about sex.
That doesn't sound like watering it to me at all.
- Oh, yeah, that just grosses me out to talk about that.
- OK.
- Yeah.
- So there is some discomfort that there is
around intimacy and sex then.
- No, not necessarily.
I just don't--
I don't have the desire to talk about sex and intimacy
with someone that I don't have the desire
to talk to about it.
I don't know.
- How do you think the marriage is
gonna last without having sex?
- I don't-- I don't know if it is gonna last.
- OK, what do you think?
- Yeah, I mean--
- I mean, I think he agrees with that.
- Well, let him talk.
- I mean, the sexual component has to be there in a marriage.
So yeah, it's a challenge for us.
- Mm-hmm.
Something that's important with intimacy and sex in general
is the context.
And I'm curious if we can discuss what
might be other contextual factors that might
help spark desire or arousal.
Like, could it be mood?
Could it be, OK, I just got out of the shower
and put on some really good-smelling lotion?
- I'm a big scent guy.
- OK.
- So you know, I've got the whole plethora of colognes,
and so that's something that,
you know, I'm very much attracted to, you know, like,
a sexy scent.
- What would you define as, like, a sexy scent?
- Oh god, just like-- like--
- I'm like, where's your cologne at?
- --like, rich vanilla.
- OK, so, like, vanilla, not floral, but yeah, like--
- Yeah. - OK.
- Yeah. - I would say similar things.
I mean, definitely smell.
Like, I love a good cologne.
- Mm-hmm.
- Music, for sure, but just for, like, attraction,
I would say definitely, like, style, too.
Like, typically, like, a little bit
of swag, those types of things have been attractive for me.
- OK, do you feel like Clint has swag?
- I don't know that Clint has swag.
- OK.
- Interesting.
- OK, what do you make of that?
- Interesting.
Oh, I mean, I've been quantified as,
like, the king of swag, so-- - Oh, OK.
- Really?
- That's like-- yeah.
- OK.
- This is just my loungewear.
- This is your loungewear.
- It's fine, but if I got to dial that needle up,
I've got the apparel to do it.
- OK.
- Yeah, Senor Swag is actually my title.
- All right, so let's work on setting up the context.
So for example, could you see yourself getting the house
smelling of vanilla and spice and playing, like,
a good playlist that would generally get you in the mood
without the expectation of it leading to sex?
- Yeah, I mean, I can do that.
- OK.
- But I don't know if it's gonna get us in the mood.
- I just said without the expectation.
- I know, but still-- no, I get what the end result is.
- Oh my god.
- Don't worry about the end result. Like, this is--
- I'm worried about the end result.
- And this is what's gonna be the downfall.
- That's the whole problem is the end result.
- Yes. - That's the problem.
We've got to get the focus off of the end result
because you're putting additional pressure
on to being intimate.
- OK.
- So when people come into my office
and they have these concerns, what do I do?
I assign them homework to do just that.
- Mm-hmm
- And so it's not like, go home and just have sex.
We take baby steps into it because you
do have to feel comfortable.
- Sure.
- Because the idea behind the exercise
is to take away the pressure and to take away expectations.
And it's hard to do that because we can get distracted
by our thoughts, the thoughts that y'all are having
of, like, not attracted, not happening,
we're not there yet, or, like, all the reasons why not to.
And so if we have your focus go on to the sensation of what
you're feeling in terms of touch, and, you know,
it doesn't have to be, like, in an erogenous zone.
I wouldn't even recommend that, OK?
It could be, like, on the arm and just
seeing what touch is like.
- Yeah, fair enough.
- Fair enough.
- Clint and I haven't really talked
about our physical attraction at all
really since the honeymoon.
So it definitely puts the pressure on again
for us to have to step into something that
feels uncomfortable for us.
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Hi, I'm Jasmine. - Nice to meet you.
I'm Dr. Pia.
- Nice to meet you. - Hi, how you doing?
- Hi. Dr. Pia.
Nice to meet you. - Airris.
- Nice to meet you.
Where are we go-- oh, here?
- We're right here.
- All right, cool. - Over here.
All right, well, how have things been going?
- It's probably not like either one of us,
you know, had envisioned before coming into this,
but, you know, that's part of the risk you take,
you know, signing up to marry a complete stranger.
- Right.
Is it something you feel like can change?
- That's why we're both still here today, you know?
I guess if we felt like it was inevitable,
we would have told them we ready for Decision Day
and got up out of here.
- OK, do you feel like you're getting your needs met?
- Um, no.
With, you know, having him, who's not really
sexually attracted to me, we don't really
have any physical touch.
So it's kind of like that's something
in a relationship I'm used to getting
and something that I actually need.
- Mm-hmm. - So--
- Do you guys feel like there's a friendship here?
- Yes. - Yes.
- OK, you said that pretty quickly.
- Yeah, he friend-zoned me on the honeymoon.
- OK, so that sounds like there's
a negative connotation.
- I ain't trying to be your friend.
I'm trying to be your wife.
It's like, when you see me, like, are you happy to see me?
Like, you gonna hug me? - Mm.
- You gonna-- like--
like, I can't tell you the last time I hugged him.
- You don't even want to hug her?
- Yes, I do, but, like, I guess the longer it
goes without being done, like, the more
awkward that it feels.
All the other things are cool, but, like, this--
it's such, like, a big issue, and we got to get around this.
- Part of being intimate is having
great conversation, good conversation,
talking for a long period of time.
- Yeah.
- That's not happening now with the two of you?
- Like, we talk, you know, but it's not like, man,
that conversation me and Jasmine had last Tuesday,
it really hit.
Like, it's not like, you know, I don't think we've had
any of those, like, type of moments.
- Mm-hmm.
Jasmine, do you feel like you're holding back from him?
- No.
- No?
Do you feel like you're forthcoming with him?
- Yeah.
- OK.
- I mean, probably in the beginning of this,
I was probably a lot more open, but I feel like I have started
to get a little guarded.
But I don't feel like I'm, like, holding
back from conversation, no.
- OK, do you feel like you're holding
back from, like, volunteering information to him or--
- I think so.
Yeah, I think that would be a more--
- I'm getting the sense that you're, like,
being agreeable with him, like, not trying to stir the pot too
much, and, like, holding back from what
it is that, like, you want or that you
like, like, trying to just kind of, like, keep the peace.
I see you shaking your head.
Is that how you're experiencing her?
- No, I agree. - OK.
- That I'm being agreeable?
- Sometimes if someone ask you something, like,
it's not your real, full feeling.
Like, you just-- after we talked to Dr. Pepper
about, like, you know, diving deep, having a conversation,
we did the exercise where we pulled
the questions out of the jar.
And then, like, the next day,
we were on the couch for, like, two hours just chilling.
I was asking typical, like, first-date questions, like,
but it was just to spark the conversation.
But I'm probing, and I'm asking questions,
but I wasn't receiving any, like, questions or feedback.
♪ ♪
- He gets very sarcastic.
He gets very like--
makes me feel like-- like he don't want to be there.
He don't.
So I really just felt like he was just
asking these questions to pass the time.
I didn't really feel like when I was answering,
he really cared what I was saying.
Like, it was just kind of like, let me ask you these questions
to make the time pass.
- When she calls you out, how did you feel about that, her,
like, challenging you then in that way?
- Oh, I love it.
- This is what's gonna turn him on.
- Oh my gosh.
- I got his number.
I got his number.
He needs you--
- Oh my word.
- --to initiate and take more of the charge.
What is the "oh my word" about?
- I just-- I guess I wasn't expecting that.
- Mm-hmm, so calling you out in the moment
when you're being uninviting?
- Right, anything, yeah.
- OK, I can try.
- OK, because we've got to, like, spark some sort
of interest, chemistry here.
- ♪ Love is a game ♪
♪ Since ever, the same ♪
♪ ♪
- All right, well, cheers.
- Cheers to getting--
- "Physi-cal."
- --getting "physi-cal."
- [laughs] So uncomfortable.
- You don't think I have swag?
My dress style is not swag?
- I don't know that it screams swag.
- Yeah, but I--
I can dial it up.
Like, you've seen me dial it up.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah, you wore a nice suit on your--
- Yeah, and the couples thing.
I had my French cuffs and my blazer.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- You don't think that was swagged up?
You thought that was terrible?
She's like, it was absolutely the worst.
- I don't want to make you feel bad.
- You're like-- immediately, you're like--
do you think Clint has swag? No.
She didn't even finish the question.
- [laughs] Was that as offensive as the honeymoon
comment you made?
- Probably worse.
I can't get over it now.
- I'm sorry.
- Can you believe that--
- Listen, we're gonna have to get you just,
like, a swagged-out haircut.
I think that's the first step.
We can't do it yet.
- Oh, now my hair isn't swag enough for you?
- No, you definitely don't have a swag haircut.
We can work on it.
- [bleep].
- You can't expect to have a swag haircut
if you cut it by yourself.
- True.
- You've just been trimming it for eight years.
You need, like, a good haircut.
Whether or not we stay married, you'll thank me for that.
So what are you thinking about this exercise?
- Who the hell knows?
You know, I don't like to ever say,
like, I've got all the answers, and they're
obviously professionals.
- Mm-hmm.
I don't know that curating our R&B playlist
and lighting a candle is gonna make us want to bang
in the next three weeks, but we'll
definitely go for it.
- But she also said, like, don't
have a preconceived outcome.
- Gitchy, gitchy, gitchy.
Get him.
So you think this is actually gonna work?
- I know-- I don't know.
I'm not one to say yes or no.
Just I'm trying to be like, nope,
I don't have my expectation of saying that's not gonna work.
It might.
I don't-- I don't know. - OK.
- I'm not a sex counselor or doctor.
So who knows?
We might Amazon a damn sex chair after all this.
- [laughs]
- Like, a swing.
- I might have one.
You don't know.
- Hot damn.
- [laughs]
- Damn, Gina.
Got that "buy one, get one" swing.
- At least you make me laugh, you know?
- Hey, at least you laugh at me.
[gentle music]
♪ ♪
- Hello, honey.
How are you?
- I'm good, well-rested.
- Oh, why are you so well-rested?
- Because I didn't have to wake up early
for once in my life.
- How's everything going?
How is the recruiting and everything going?
- It's been good.
The president, she was really happy with the setup.
So this was really a productive trip.
- I just wish that I could be there and support him
in these moments, and I wish that we
were together right now.
It's so important for me to be there for Shaquille.
So I can't wait to his next event.
I do look forward to attending that.
And I really hope that that makes him happy.
And I hope that I get to see him in his element.
I was a little sad when I went to bed the other night
and you wasn't here, but you'll be back tomorrow.
So I can't wait.
- I'll be back.
- Well, what time are you leaving in the morning
to come back to Nashville?
- I haven't decided on the time,
but I know I got to wake up early.
- Yeah, you do.
You need to set your alarm now, probably for about 5:00.
- 4:00, 5:00, one of them.
I haven't decided what time I want to wake up yet.
- OK.
Well, all right, honey, call me later.
Bye.
- Bye.
♪ ♪
[computer trilling]
♪ ♪
- Shaquille?
I was just trying to blow you a kiss,
and you didn't blow me a kiss back, that's all.
- I didn't know you was trying to blow me a kiss--
- Because you hung up on me. - --to blow you one back.
- Yeah, I know.
That's why I called you back, but I have to go.
Talk to you later.
Call me later, OK?
- All right, will do.
- OK, have a good day.
Bye.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I love the taste of your kiss ♪
♪ I love the feel of your lips ♪
- Hello, welcome.
- Hi, nice to meet you.
- Hi, I'm Nicole. - Dr. Pia.
Nice to meet you. - Welcome.
- How are you? - This is my husband, Chris.
- Chris. - Hi, Chris, nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you. - Firm handshake.
- Oh, thank you. - Welcome to our home.
- Thank you. - Shall we go sit down?
- Sure.
- Do you want anything to drink?
Can I get you anything? - I think I'm OK.
Thank you. - OK, great.
You know what? I'm just gonna put that here.
Welcome. - I like the dinosaurs here.
What's the story behind that?
- Just into dinosaurs, and Chris
doesn't think it's weird.
So now they grace our home.
- OK, and I understand that you all
have a really good connection, a lot of great chemistry.
Things have been going swimmingly
in the relationship.
Sounds like trust feels strong.
- Mm-hmm. - Is that right?
- Yes. - Yeah, very strong.
- Yeah, well, I'm glad that you feel so comfortable with one
another and that's created the groundwork
for some really good trust, which is
a great foundation and a necessary foundation
for a marriage.
And so I understand that you all have been
intimate with one another. - Yes.
- You all have had sex.
- Yep.
- We did not have sex on our honeymoon,
because we felt like we had such
a strong emotional connection, and we
didn't want sex to cloud that.
- Mm-hmm.
- So we were waiting until we both felt ready.
- Has sex negatively impacted emotions
in previous relationships?
- Like, I've had relationships where, like, that's all,
like, they wanted.
Like, it was just all about that, didn't really
care about what you had to say, didn't really
care about who you were.
It was just like that's what the relationship was
all about, and that's what we didn't want.
So like, we wanted to make sure that we kind of built
that emotional connection first and then--
because we knew the physical aspect was already there.
We just, you know, chose to wait.
- OK.
- And I have a similar dating history
where I've had relationships that were clouded by sex,
but in a little bit of a different way.
I would call it hate sex, honestly, for lack of a better
term, where I didn't even really like the guy,
but I was like, I want to feel wanted.
- Yeah.
- So I'm just gonna do this.
And even though the sex is good,
like, I don't feel good about it after,
because this person isn't that important to me.
But after every time with us, I feel really good about myself
and about what we've just done, and there's no shame attached.
There's no regret attached.
- Good.
Mm-hmm, OK, how's the foreplay?
- Not as much as I personally would like,
but it's like we do enough foreplay to get excited
and then the final act.
There could be more foreplay.
I don't know why I'm stretching this out.
- Yeah, there could be.
- Would you call yourself, like, a people pleaser?
- Usually, yes.
- Yeah.
- But in this relationship not really.
- Well, the reason I'm asking that is because I
know that this is not--
I'm not suggesting this is similar to past relationships.
But when you said you were having sex
even when you didn't want to in past relationships,
I'm wondering, are you depriving yourself of foreplay
and saying that it's OK just because it's not happening
and not wanting to, like, rock the boat?
Like, you've got this healthy relationship
with this man who cares a great deal about you
and is very respectful of you.
And we can use this as, like, a safe place,
that you are safe with him and it
is OK to explore with him because he's
not gonna use it against you.
He's not trying to harm you.
What's it like knowing that he's a safe space?
- It's amazing.
I mean, there's-- there's no other word to describe it,
but--
- Mm-hmm.
Is there sadness coming up?
- It-- it's more of I didn't realize I had so many issues
until we talk about all of these things
and I say them out loud.
I'm like, wow, you are really [bleep] up, so--
- No. - Stop that.
- It's just--
- No, no, we're gonna pause.
You are not [bleep] up.
Let's not talk about you in that way, OK?
It's not that you have all these issues.
Things have happened to you.
- Things that I have let happen.
I have to take responsibility for a lot of my actions
and recognize that people didn't treat me any way
that I didn't allow them to.
And now I'm a very strong, confident woman.
And thankfully, I have the world's nicest man
to be married to, but there's so many
things that I need to work on.
And I just-- I'm realizing them as they're coming up.
- He's willing to have these conversations with you.
He's not your past.
- I know that. - And so the more that you can lean
into being vulnerable with him, that's where the passion
is gonna come from.
Because now you're opening yourself up in a way
that you weren't before.
And you're gonna be able to experience things that you
weren't experiencing before.
- This is a feeling that I'm not used to.
I thought we were gonna meet with Dr. Pia
and she was gonna come spew some, like,
here's how to make your sex life better.
Like, OK, great, thank you, I know what I'm doing.
I have a very happy husband.
But she really more so got to the root
of why I feel the way I do about sex in general
and what's kind of blocking me from feeling better.
- My hope for you is that you're able to reduce
the self-deprecating talk about yourself,
because what you're describing is
not who I see in front of me.
And it certainly doesn't seem like this
is who he sees, either.
You're not a burden.
You're not a problem.
You're not a ball of issues.
You're the woman that he is so happy
that he was matched with.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Dream on ♪
♪ In the dark, the sun is rising on and on
♪ ♪
- Dang.
- What?
- They done turned cutting peppers in the beef.
- [laughs]
- Now that, like, I have a new definition of intimacy,
you know, thanks to Dr. Pia, you know,
I can see where she's coming from.
You know, she's not asking for anything crazy,
but there's still some areas where I can improve.
You know, hopefully, that spark can, you know,
come with the little bit of time we have left.
Oh, yeah, so I talked to your sister--
- Mm-hmm.
- --Emi.
- You did?
- Straight out of M town.
- [laughs] - The world-renowned.
- No one wants to feel like they have to woo you for you
to love them.
She shouldn't have to do nothing for you to love her,
because you signed up to be married and do that.
So it's like, in your brain, I want to challenge you,
like, how can I make this girl comfortable
even though I'm uncomfortable at the same time?
- But one thing I learned, she was telling me--
I guess, like, she was like, I need to give you some
of the things that maybe, like, you guys didn't see
in your parents growing up.
- My dad's very nonchalant.
Like, I mean, we've had private conversations.
Like, my dad never was like, I love you,
but I never questioned if my dad loved me,
because they showed the love.
That's why I'm not really big on words.
I'm really big on actions.
- Mm-hmm.
- Well, she had told me she asked you about wedding day,
and you told her you only clapped
for me on wedding day because Pastor Cal told you to.
- When I met with Pastor Cal, he was like, you know, what--
what if-- what if your wife asked for, like,
somebody tall and she don't-- you know,
she's not attracted to you?
He's like, no matter what, make her
feel, like, safe and confident in that moment.
He was like, even if you're not there--
he was like, he's like, trust me, it's gonna, like,
save you in the long run.
I was like, let me be a husband and calm
my wife down in this moment.
- So let me calm my wife down and lie to her?
- I mean, you started breathing and you didn't faint.
That would have been embarrassing if you--
- So it was calm my wife down and lie to her?
- I mean, what was I supposed to do?
- I feel like, to me, my husband
should be smitten by me.
He should want to be around me.
He should want to talk to me.
He should want to check in on me.
He should want to hold my hand.
He should want to hug me.
He shouldn't want to do those things
because they told him those are the things
he should be doing.
I feel like all those things should come natural.
So I don't feel like Airris is all in.
I feel like he might be one big toe in,
and the rest of his body is, like, out the door.
So that doesn't put me in a good space.
♪ ♪
- ♪ I feel the heat as you lay by my side ♪
♪ The planet is guiding me home ♪
♪ ♪
- ♪ Up in the morning, grinding ♪
♪ Ain't no time for sleeping ♪
[knock at door]
- Hello. - Hey, hey, how are you?
- Hi. Dr. Pia.
Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
Shaquille.
I'm happy to be home, happy to be on my sofa,
happy to see my wife.
And I think what the future holds for Kirsten and I
as we get closer to Decision Day is making sure that we
both feel appreciated and wanted and needed to continue
this marriage and just my biggest
supporter along this journey.
- Well, how have things been going?
- You know, things have been going great.
- What's been making it go great?
- I would say the quality time, for sure.
Like, that's definitely, you know,
what I needed from him is that quality time for us
to continue to build our marriage
and to get to know each other on different levels.
So for me, I feel like everything is going well.
- Do you agree, Shaquille, with her assessment
that things are going great?
- I would definitely say it's been rocky.
- That's, like, polar opposites.
- Well, I'm saying--
I'm saying-- - We've had our days.
- --yeah, we've had our days.
It's been more good days than bad.
But all it is, is, for me, it's really
learning about each other.
Like, I didn't know her.
She didn't know me.
You know, I got a-- you know, she got her real estate
business going on.
I got school and work.
So honestly, with me, it's really on my end,
really trying to find out how to balance it all.
- It's hard, but I'm just used to always having control.
And it's so hard for me to not always be in control.
- So, you know, in a marriage, it's important to recognize,
like, you can't just be in control, either one of
you, right?
Like, you both have to relinquish some control
and accept each other's influence.
Do you feel comfortable allowing your husband to take
care of you or care for you?
- I do. - Yeah.
- I do feel comfortable.
I'm feeling more comfortable day by day.
- Mm-hmm.
- It's just all so new for me.
- Yeah, I mean, it does take time to build trust,
and you are in a very unique situation
where the relationship is accelerated.
Have you all talked much about what
attracts you to one another?
- No, but I find him attractive when he's, like--
for example, when we had to get our clothes and move,
like, him moving boxes, that was attractive,
the smallest things.
- What was it about the act of moving boxes
that you found attractive?
- Like, he's using his muscles, making sure,
you know, all of my things and his things are taken care of.
Like, it was just him being masculine.
- Masculine.
How do you define masculinity?
- Honestly, just getting the job done.
Like, just making for sure he's taking care of business.
- Do you think he's masculine?
- Um.
♪ ♪
He is.
- There was a long pause.
♪ ♪
- I guess because I don't know.
Like, my dad, he's very masculine.
Like, he's very hands on, tough man, provider, business owner.
- You mentioned--
I feel like you accentuated the word "tough" when
you were describing your dad.
- Mm-hmm.
- Do you feel like Shaquille is tough?
- I feel like he can be.
I haven't really gotten to see that tough side of him
just yet, so--
- What side do you feel like you have seen?
- The kind, genuine, pleasing side of him.
- Can that be masculine?
- Um...
I think that definitely helps me feel more
secure and comfortable in the relationship
versus, like, safe and protected.
- So are you saying that you don't quite feel safe
and protected?
- That's a tough question.
I feel like Shaquille would definitely, like, protect me
if something was to happen.
- So what made it a tough question?
- Just because I haven't seen him in that--
in that form before, and I don't fully, you know,
feel it just yet.
- So, Shaquille, I appreciate you,
like, being quiet and listening to her,
but I also want to know, what's your reaction
to hearing all of this?
- Oh god.
- Um, do you not think I'm tough?
Do you not think I'm, like, this person, you know?
- Mm-hmm.
- Does something have to happen for you to even feel that?
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, do somebody to have to rob us at a gas station or--
- God forbid.
- --try to jack your car or something for me to have
to stand up, or your food not right at a restaurant for me
to, you know, just get mad?
- Mm-hmm.
- And I'm not the person to get, like, frustrated and mad,
but I think she wants to mimic her dad in the ways,
you know, of being, you know, masculine, and, you know,
dominant, you know, like, being a man.
- Did he get that right, that you're wanting your husband
to be like your dad?
- Not-- not necessarily like my dad,
but maybe have some of those same traits in common.
- For me, it's a thing like, do you not see me trying?
Like, do you not see me, like, putting forth
the effort to be this person?
♪ ♪
I've just been feeling like since day one
I've been just having to prove myself,
you know, as a husband, as a man, as her spouse.
Like, I just consistently feel like I've
been having to prove myself.
And it always is a lot.
And she always saying, like, I don't want to change you
or anything like that, but you still have these expectations
of me, you know?
And it's kind of like, damn.
Like, whew.
It just-- it takes a mental toll on you.
♪ ♪
- My only concern is you changing yourself to meet
her expectations, because over time,
that's gonna cause resentment, right,
because you're not being your true, authentic self.
And I'm curious, for you, if those things don't change,
if you don't see him becoming more
of your definition of masculine,
will the marriage succeed?
- Well, I don't--
I don't want him to try to become something he's not,
you know, and I always tell him to be yourself.
Like, I do feel like if he's meeting
other needs and expectations of mine, like,
that matters a lot.
♪ ♪
- OK.
- ♪ I'm hoping this forever whoa-oh ♪
♪ This feels like, whoa-oh, love ♪
- Hi, doggies.
- Hi, puppies.
Look at this.
- Guys, did you get us a magic chest?
- A treasure chest.
I bet you it's from one of the experts.
- Nicole and Chris already have a great foundation
for trust and intimacy in the short time
they've been together.
But in any marriage, you don't want
to wait till things get bland before you spice things up.
So we're encouraging them to explore
outside of their comfort zone
and have a little fun along the way.
- All right.
♪ ♪
- Let's see what's in this thing.
- It's a bidet.
No.
Oh.
- Let's see.
- Massage candle.
I feel like I like that in theory,
but what if we do it too soon and then we burn each other?
Pineapple-flavored massage oil.
We could get out of these so easily.
Ha, for chumps.
- Yeah, I don't know about handcuffs.
- Warming lubricant?
I feel like that is rash city.
Sex bondage, a whip.
I don't think so.
- No?
Leather. [laughs]
- Self-love is something I need to work on,
and I'm working on that
while also learning to love my husband,
while also learning to be married
and do all of these things.
So I feel like it'd be more beneficial for me
to work on those mental elements
and really be comfortable with who I am,
what I'm doing before I start jumping
in and enhancing something that's already good enough.
I do want to try things with you.
I do want to explore.
And even if we hate everything new we're trying,
I want to at least try it and see.
- Yeah.
- Maybe we'll find something we love.
- Yeah, I mean, I'm open to it,
but it's not one of those things like--
I'm not-- I don't need it.
Yeah, I mean, obviously, I want to make sure
that you're always satisfied. I care more about--
- I know you do.
- --you being pleased than me.
- And I-- it is one of the things
I appreciate most about you.
Maybe we will need to incorporate a little more
foreplay and maybe we get, you know, some sort of toy,
or lube, or I don't know what it's gonna be.
But I would feel comfortable if today was Decision Day saying
yes based on the sex life we already have,
even if that was it for the rest of our lives,
knowing it will get better and, you know,
we'll enhance it with things and whatever.
But-- - Yeah.
- --the way it is now, if that was it for life,
I'd be like, OK.
- My priority is more making sure that, you know, 1,000%,
we say yes on Decision Day, and that we're both on the same
page, and that we're both feeling that we're equally
putting into the relationship, which-- which I do
right now and everything else.
So I think that's-- that's more important
to me than having sex.
- I agree.
I'm glad we're always on the same page.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Breathe with me ♪
♪ ♪
- Did you notice last night that this exercise
is called just the tip?
- Is it really?
How appropriate.
I'm very comfortable talking about sex.
I have no qualms or inhibitions to talk about sex.
I mean, it's-- it's a human reaction.
It's-- it's what makes us human.
It's part of what makes us human
and to, like, have that sexual desire and that,
God, animalistic ability almost,
I think is-- it's unbelievable.
It's amazing.
- Hank, can you please close your ears for these questions?
"What's a safe word?"
Never needed one.
- Porcupine.
- I think it would be stop, don't do that again.
- It's got to be fun, though.
Tres leches.
- [laughs] Are you making a safe
word for if we did have sex?
It would be that?
- Yeah.
Sending nudes?
- I'm all right with it.
How do you feel about sending nudes?
- Oh, all for it. - You do?
- Yeah.
- You send dick pics?
- I don't send dick pics. I send nudes.
- Well, what would a nude-- well, yeah.
- The whole thing. - Just, like, abs?
- You know, like--
- No, you've done that?
- Of course, landscape, portrait, 3-D.
- Is this with, like, girls that you've date-- like,
anyone or, like, do you have to be in, like,
a serious relationship?
- Yeah.
- Well, that's a genuine question.
I've, like, kind of been involved with guys that I'm
not, like, in a serious, committed relationship,
and I've sent nudes before.
- Yeah, no, this is-- yeah, this is serious relationships.
- You only send them if you're, like, committed?
- Yeah.
- What is a must for you during sex?
- For the other partner to climax.
- OK, amazing.
- What is your favorite position?
- Mm.
This is getting to be too much.
- Tres leches?
- Yes, tres-- my safe word.
Well, I guess it would depend on--
[knock at door]
--if the door knocks or not, yeah.
- Saved by the-- - Get them!
- OK, OK. - Get them!
- OK.
- It's all the toys for the buddies.
- OK, no, it's definitely--
- He's gonna think it is, probably.
- It's definitely toys.
I don't think for the buddy, though.
Get back, get back.
- Well, we'll let us decide if they're going to Hank or not.
I'm trying to stay open-minded to what Dr. Pia is assigning.
We are committed and really trying
whatever we can to see if we can build
that intimate relationship.
- "Clint and Gina, I think it would be great for the two
"of you to practice a modified version
of sensate-focused therapy."
- But I don't know if I'll be able to complete
these exercises.
I'm definitely someone that has to process.
I think I can, like, catch the defense
quick if I'm feeling a little bit awkward or
uncomfortable, so--
♪ ♪
[laughs]
--we're going to do all of them.
- Yeah, we got to do all of them.
- This guy?
I mean, obviously, this will feel good.
Are you like, nope?
Doesn't do it like the feather?
- No, it's good.
I think it would-- you gotta do it-- yeah,
you gotta do it on the back.
- Yeah.
- I think that they want you to do that.
- You're like, it's OK.
You can do this for an hour.
- I think they want you to do that for 15 minute--
yeah, keep and more pressure.
- Listen, my shoulders are the ones that
have been working all day.
- Mine, too, sailing.
- OK, so there's that.
- Yeah, oh, the brush.
- We might not get through 15 minutes, but we'll try.
Wait, do we do back-- - I think so.
- --on that?
- Oh, that feels good.
- Better than the other thing?
- I think so. - Really?
- Yeah.
- Why haven't I thought of having this before?
- That's a good idea.
- Oh, yeah.
- Right?
No, I'll get to you.
- Oh, OK.
[laughs]
- Oh, yeah, comb the arm hair.
There's so much.
- [laughs] A little werewolf.
[laughs]
- All right, your turn. - OK.
- Give me some skin.
- [sighs] Love the feather.
- OK. - OK.
- Device one.
I'm gonna do it in the same--
- Don't light that on fire.
- --I'm gonna do it in the same order.
That was good for it.
- Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah, I love massages.
That one's gonna end up actually beating
out the feather, I think.
- OK. - OK.
- This one's gonna be more difficult because you got--
- Because I got too many things going on.
- --thing on.
I think I'm just gonna go straight skin
because it feels good over the shirt,
but your shirt is different. - Yeah
- You've got, like, ridges.
- Who knew a hairbrush would do that?
- Yeah.
- I like it.
- Yeah, it probably exfoliates a little bit, too.
So what's the winner?
- For sexual context, probably the feathers.
- Yeah.
- Well, this isn't as awkward as I thought it was gonna be.
- Yeah.
Yeah, I think we built on, you know,
more of that physicality aspect,
you know, something that's been missing.
So it's slowly, you know, bringing us
into that comfortability of, like,
touch is OK, right, if it's got good intentions
and goodwill behind it. - Baby--
- That's right.
- --steps.
♪ ♪
- ♪ But can you do me this way? ♪
♪ ♪
♪ I'm really trying to think straight ♪
♪ Wham bam, thank you, ma'am ♪
- You can't see?
- No, I cannot.
- Dr. Pia gave Kirsten and I an assignment.
- What you're both gonna do is pick out items
that you would find sexy, and you're gonna be blindfolded
and have to lead each other.
And I'm hopeful that once you find the items,
you'll feel comfortable using them.
- It's the opportunity to let the--
trust the person.
And I think that will open up another level of vulnerability
for her.
No, I'm over here. - [laughs] I'm not.
I'm not. I'm not.
I'm about to take this-- ooh, I'm
about to take this blindfold off, because you're playing.
- Come here.
- No.
- What?
- Because you're gonna tell me to come all
the way over there, and then you're
gonna move somewhere else.
- So you're saying you don't trust me?
That's what it is? - I do trust you.
I'm listening to you, but you're not-- you directing me
to different places. - I'm directing.
I said, listen to my voice, listen to the instructions.
- OK.
- I want to clean my clothes.
What do I do?
- Wash your clothes.
- OK, that's the first clue.
- So it's in the washer?
Does that make sense?
Don't try to run pass me, Shaquille.
I'm not about to run into anything.
- Walk straight.
- Shaquille, I--
I'm nervous.
That was a good clue.
Let's see if it's in here.
♪ ♪
What is this, a jump rope or something?
A rope?
What about it?
Am I putting these together?
- So if I was to--
♪ ♪
- Why are you tying me up?
Are you trying to kidnap me?
Oh goodness, this is kind of hard,
but I like the rope around me.
- Do you have control?
- No, I don't have any control.
- Right.
So sometimes you have to let me take control.
- You have control right now.
It's getting very hot and bothered.
I really like allowing our bodies and our voices
to lead us into whatever we're about to do.
- Just play with it with your fingers.
- What is this, some lube?
- Mm-hmm.
- Some lubricant?
- Liquid lubricant.
- Oh my god.
Is it bubble bath or something?
- This is great bath soap.
- Is this another little toy?
I feel like I'm transforming, honestly.
Like, he can lead me.
Like, I can listen to this man.
I feel like that is kind of what our trust is building
upon is, like, me unraveling myself from being in control
a lot of time and allowing myself to trust you,
so that was--
- That's why I got the rope because you always--
you always want control.
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, no, not this time.
I still think we got some things we can work through,
you know, in our marriage, you know, as far as some things,
like, we both want and, like, compromising and everything.
But I know it's gonna take some time.
- What are some of the things you think we have to work on?
- Just, like, communication and everything.
- Yeah.
- Like, even though I was gone for a few days, it was like,
I know, like, we both could have communicated better.
Let's schedule a time to talk to check in other than letting
the whole day go by.
- I mean, and, for me, I knew what you were,
you know, in Memphis for.
- Really-- really and truthfully, I just--
I just really wanted you there.
- The fact that you're telling me this right now
and you never said that while you were there, if you would
have said that while you were there,
if you really wanted me--
- No, you already had-- you had already planned things.
And Shaquille is out.
Let me-- let me go run the streets.
♪ ♪
She said the next work event, I'm coming to support you.
And we talked about going to Memphis, her and I.
And in that moment, I was packing my clothes.
Kirsten said, you know, I'm just not gonna go.
I have this set up, and I have this event.
I was like, well, when did all of this happen?
And it was another eye-opener for me,
like, to say, like, so you made plans without me when we
already had plans established.
- Right now, it sounds like you really wanted me to be there.
But when you told me at first, it never sounds like you
really want me to be there.
- But if I tell you I want you to do something,
that's my expectation.
Why does I-- why do I have to keep
reiterating that I want you to do something
if we talked about it?
I'm not gonna beg you.
- I don't want you to beg me.
But like, when you're sitting here, saying,
Kirsten, I really wish you were there
and I really had wanted you to come, like, that just
makes me feel terrible.
- Can you imagine how I feel then?
- I don't want you to keep feeling like this,
like that I don't want to be there, I don't want to support
you, because I do, OK?
- I hear you.
- All right.
- I said I hear you.
- No, I said OK.
I said all right.
♪ ♪
Come on.
- Happy is a stretch.
I would definitely say I'm grateful
and I'm overjoyed to be in this marriage.
I haven't got to that happy place where I feel like she
honestly, truly supports me and things
that I love to do in my life.
♪ ♪
Get out my face.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- If I can make contact-- that's gonna be the hardest.
- Oh, yeah, for sure.
- I'm not worried about the power.
- I haven't hit or held a bat since, ooh, probably 20 years,
since I was 11.
We used to live across the street from a baseball field,
and I played Little League.
And since then, I haven't been back.
So it feels great to bring me back to my childhood.
- We've got the pitching machine set up out here today.
It'll probably be at about 60-ish miles an hour.
We'll see if we can crank it up.
- That's not bad.
- Airris, he wants a hundred. He wants a hundred.
- I do not want a hundred. - A hundred?
All right, well, we'll see how we can do there.
- Right on. - Sweet.
- Let's do it.
- Let's do it, Airris.
- I was known more for my field play, but we'll see.
♪ ♪
That's a single right there.
- There you go.
♪ ♪
- Oh, that's a good hit right there.
♪ ♪
Oh. - Hey.
- There we go. - Hey.
♪ ♪
- Yeah, put those Daisy Dukes into it.
- [laughs]
- ♪ Superstar ♪
- Here we go.
♪ ♪
- Oh.
- That first one does come fast at you.
- Here we go, that golf swing.
Ooh, there you go.
- I'm feeling that breeze.
Appreciate it, bruh.
Can you lower it to, like, 20? - [laughs]
- These are all crazy.
- Throw it underhand to him, maybe.
- Oh, that's way too slow.
- [laughs] - Come on, Clint.
- Throw his back out. - Oh, speed it up.
- Strive for that greatness. - It's too slow.
- Slowing it out.
♪ ♪
- There we go. - There's a nice hit.
- All right. - That's a double.
- He found his groove.
♪ ♪
- Hey. - Hello.
- Hi.
- This is so cute in here.
- These other women make me feel so comfortable,
and I love hanging out with them.
But we haven't really gotten together in a while,
so today we're making cocktails.
The last time we all got together,
we were with our husbands, and you don't get the real tea
when husbands are around.
- Well, hello.
How are you today? - I'm doing well.
How y'all doing? - Good.
- We're doing great.
- My name is Freddie.
I'm the chief cocktail officer here at Liquor Lab.
We're gonna jump into our first cocktail.
Espresso martinis fans? - Yes.
- Oh, yes. - One or two of us?
Cool.
We're gonna make an espresso martini.
So typically, we'd make this drink with vodka.
So we call this one black lightning.
In that little ramekin in front of you,
you have your cold-brew coffee.
Just go ahead and add that to your mixed drinks.
It's actually cold-brew concentrate.
- The glass? - That's a funny-looking glass.
- Yeah. - Oh, mothertrucker.
- Oh, no.
- Oh, Gina.
- Now, listen, I did bartend for about 13 years of my life.
I know that's, like, giving away my age.
But my bartending was more in, like, high volume.
So we were working with plastic cups,
just throwing out beers, things like that.
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- Now we have the Goldilocks moment.
This is very important.
Take a sip and understand that you can adjust it.
You can fix it if you want.
You have a little more of that demerara sugar
syrup, that round enough, if you want to-- if it's
too kind of strong.
- I like mine.
- I feel very good about what I've done here today.
- OK, this is waking me up right now.
- [laughs]
- I'm pretty pumped. I'm ready.
- Yeah, I'm pretty pumped up. - All right, cool.
I'm gonna leave you with your cocktail, let you enjoy.
- OK, thank you. - Well, thanks, Freddie.
- Yes, thank you so much.
- We have a lot to catch up on, I feel like.
- Yes.
- You said difficult. Why so difficult?
- What are we catching up on?
- Oh my gosh, we haven't seen each other since our one-month
anniversary dinner. - Yes, our one month.
- Yeah.
- How's everybody's weeks been?
- Y'all had some sex talks this week?
Dr. Pia visit y'all?
- Yeah, I mean, it's no secret about us.
- You're hitting home runs.
- I was about to say, you--
- Right.
- I mean, the conversation was good.
But it was just about Nicole has
some, like, self-worth issues.
- I really need to do a lot of personal work.
Because, you know, it just came to light that I
have all this work to do.
And there's really not much he can do in terms of helping,
because it is so internal.
But I need him to-- you know, if he sees me looking upset,
instead of saying, like, when you're ready to talk about it,
I need him to be like, talk to me,
because I feel like, I hate to say it,
but he's almost too respectful.
Like, he sees me getting upset, and it's like, I'm here
for you when you're ready.
But I'll never be ready if I'm given the option.
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- I would say we doing out of ten, seven, eight.
We're doing good. - OK. OK.
- But it's kind of like-- it's like little, nitpicky things.
- Little things, yeah.
- It's like the only thing that I asked for in the beginning
was support.
- Yeah.
- Like, support me in my job, support me in school.
But it's like, we getting further with intimacy
and chemistry and just kind of like, you know,
started kissing and everything, especially, like,
before bed and everything.
- Since we're at a baseball stadium, what would you say?
What, you're on first base?
[laughter]
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- Second base, trying to get the third, you know?
Yeah. - OK.
- First base?
Like, where are we at?
- Yeah, like, are we exploring?
Do we know what we're working with, at least?
- We're working up to-- we're working up to it.
- Because it sounds like you've been building up the intimacy.
And I really respect that you're
waiting until you guys are fully ready,
but it sounds like we're ready.
We're just waiting for the right moment
where we feel ready.
- You want him to-- like, you want him to take control.
- I definitely want Shaquille to-- yeah,
I definitely want Shaquille to take the lead and to initiate
everything and to, you know, get me aroused
and in the mood.
- And you're not gonna turn him down.
- If he doesn't--
- She's not gonna turn him down.
She's not gonna turn him down.
- Y'all are so funny.
I'm glad y'all are getting a lot of laughs out
of this and a lot of ideas.
- Shaq, can you hear me?
Shaq.
Tell him to initiate.
- She's ready to risk it all.
- Oh my gosh, y'all are hilarious.
- Oh, man, I mean, with baseball analogies,
I'd say we're not even in the dugout, man.
We're not even in the stadium.
- You guys are waiting in line to get in?
- Yeah.
- Same.
- Yeah, it's-- it's-- it's an interesting place
to be in because I'm just--
I'm a sexual dude, and that's how I connect on another level
with somebody, you know? - Yeah.
- So I'm trying to work through, like, you know,
intimacy exercises, you know?
And I'm trying to keep an open mind.
I'm not trying to have a predetermined outcome.
- Right.
- Just like, I'm gonna try it and see
if it changes my outlook on things,
changes my perspective. - Yeah.
- We have to start building some sort of intimacy just
to figure out if we can sustain any type of healthy marriage.
Like, at the end of the day, we're not quitters,
and we're trying so hard.
And I'm like, I just want it to be there.
- Right.
- Dr. Pia visited us, but I feel like she already
knew we wasn't having sex.
So we didn't even talk about sex.
- Oh, yeah? What'd you talk about then?
- We just talked about, like, other ways to be intimate,
like, besides, like, sex.
I've had situations in the past where,
like, I've grown to like people past the physical.
So I'm trying to find, like, other ways that--
that I can be turned on, and I just haven't gotten there yet.
- Even when we've, like, had conversations, like,
with the experts, he's like, yeah, like,
I'm gonna be more intentional.
And I'm gonna do this, and I'm gonna do that.
And I want this to work.
But I feel like after it's acknowledged,
there's no change.
- Have y'all had that conversation?
- No, because I don't have the conversations
that need to be had.
Because I'm just very--
I don't know.
I just brush things under the rug.
And that's something I'm learning about myself--
- Mm-hmm.
- --and trying to grow from.
- And I do that sometimes, too.
- Just because I feel like I'm more worried about what
the answer is gonna be.
- Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
- You can cry.
This is a safe space, so please know that.
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- I think I'm just at a point where
I'm at my breaking point.
- Yeah.
- I understand that, because I know how bad you
want to be married, you know?
And I know how bad you want things to work out
and you want to be a wife.
So I can understand how difficult this can be for you.
And I'm sorry.
- My heart is breaking for Jasmine.
I mean, she is a wonderful, beautiful person
inside and out.
And she went into this with the most open mind,
wanting to be a wife, ready to be a wife.
And she is an incredible wife.
And it just breaks my heart that she's not getting
what she needs in return.
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- I'm about to cry again.
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Emotionally, I just don't know what I have
left to give at this point.
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[upbeat music]
- Next time on "Married at First Sight..."
- Kirsten and I have consummated our marriage.
[cheers and applause]
- With less than two weeks until Decision Day,
we welcome guest expert DeVon Franklin.
- How are you doing? DeVon.
- All right.
- And sit down with the couples to confront the truth.
- I appreciate you probably more than you know.
- I do love you.
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- Oh.
- In my relationships, I just brush things under the rug.
- Whatever we sweep under the emotional rug,
it doesn't go anywhere.
♪ ♪
- I want you to be there. I need you to be there.
It's not a want no more. It's a need.
- Do you feel supported in the marriage?
♪ ♪
- No.
- If this isn't something you're willing to do,
there's the door.
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- I'm over it.
I'm done.
Literally, I'm trying to dance with you.
I'm your wife.
But you don't want to dance with your wife.
Instead, you want to go dance with the instructor.
I'm [bleep] done.
- Do you see a possibility for this marriage?
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