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both:
Nice to meet you.
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- Ten singles took a leap
into the unknown
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in search of love.
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They married as
complete strangers.
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[cheers and applause]
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And in less than three weeks,
they'll have to decide
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whether to stay married
or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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Last time, our couples
delved deeper
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in hopes of learning more
about their spouse.
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Kirsten and Shaquille.
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- ♪ Push upon me ♪
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- Consummating this marriage.
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If it's gonna happen tonight,
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only Shaquille and I
will know about that.
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- ♪ Got me yearning ♪
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- Gina and Clint.
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- I'm more insecure
about, like,
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just not fulfilling
the things that I want in life.
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I mean, I'm 40 years old.
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You know, I'd like
to have a family.
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- I'm just thankful Clint
and I are on the same page.
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And at the end of the day,
we can relate
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in a sense of wanting
the same things out of life.
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- Jasmine and Airris.
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- The hardest thing
I've had to forgive--
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- I can't think of anything.
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- Saying you wanna
have these conversations.
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We're having a conversation.
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I'm trying to find, like,
what we have in common.
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- I think you overthink,
and I think she overthinks.
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You gotta get out your head.
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Get out of your comfort zone
to get what you want.
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- Nicole and Chris.
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- What worries you the most?
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- I'm a little worried that
one day I'll just wake up
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and the bubble will be burst.
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And this little happy life
we're living won't--
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won't be so happy anymore.
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♪ ♪
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- ♪ Your love, your love,
your love is my paradise ♪
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- And tonight, our couples
will share their roots
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and build an even stronger
bond with their partner.
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- That was the room for me
and my brother and my sister,
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and we had bunk beds.
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- Oh!
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- It definitely makes me feel
a little bit closer to Clay
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because it makes me feel like
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we can make
this marriage work.
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- As long as we, you know,
continue this marriage,
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you have to buy us a house.
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- I'm gonna have to buy it?
- Mm-hmm.
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- I was just, bro,
I'm out of here.
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Go on. Get up and go.
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- I'm scared about
his willingness
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to see this through
when it's so easy for him
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to, you know, cut and run.
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You wanna be married to them?
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- If you and I break up,
that will break my heart.
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- You are beautiful
inside and out.
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- ♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- This is
"Married at First Sight."
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- ♪ There's no other way ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ It's all or nothing ♪
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- ♪ This is home ♪
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♪ This is home ♪
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♪ When I'm with you ♪
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♪ As long as we're together ♪
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- Hello, honey.
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- What's up?
- Welcome.
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How are you doing today?
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- Oh, wow, this is nice.
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- Yeah, isn't it beautiful?
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Today I'm showing Shaquille
this beautiful home
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in Nashville.
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He was wanting to see what
I do on a day to day basis,
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so he gets to see me
in my element
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as a real estate agent.
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Welcome to the beautiful home.
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- ♪ Living it up ♪
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- Let's take a look.
Wait till you see this.
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This is gonna blow your mind.
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- I love tall ceilings,
like just--
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- Vaulted ceilings?
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Vaulted ceilings.
- Mm-hmm.
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You're learning some
terminology today!
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Now you in my world.
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- ♪ I'ma gonna see you
growing up ♪
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- So this is the living room
space, a beautiful kitchen.
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- To see that she has
a passion for what she does,
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I admired Kirsten even more.
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Like, wow, like, you're sexy.
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- We have
two bedrooms downstairs,
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and then you have four up.
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- You know, she can be
my realtor one day when
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we purchase our home together.
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- I could see us
living here for sure.
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Could you?
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- I definitely can,
but all I would hear
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is running through the house--
- The kids?
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- The kids running
through the house.
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Do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do!
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Upstairs, downstairs.
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- And then they're
gonna be inviting
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all their friends over.
- They're kids.
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- We're gonna have
a house full of kids.
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Everybody from
the neighborhood.
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- Go into the media room.
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We gonna have Friday night
with the kids.
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And, you know.
- Friday night movie night?
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- Movie night with the kids.
Invite your friends over.
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- That would be fun.
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I would love
everything about that.
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We can have game night.
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- Game nights or something.
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- That'd be really cool.
It would be.
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So we would have to look
into buying us a home.
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- Yeah. I would.
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I've been ready to buy a home,
but I just ain't never
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know what I wanted to do.
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- I'm definitely
feeling some chemistry
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today with Shaquille.
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- But who's to say we're
gonna have kids this year,
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or next year, or in five years?
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to be held as a married couple
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to evaluate what
we want out of life
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and what we need
to do to get there.
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- I love the fact
that you're talking about,
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like, seeing us living here
and the kids running around.
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Could you see yourself
buying a house soon?
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- I see it in the future.
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- It's definitely
something to think about.
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Because I wouldn't want us,
you know, staying in apartments
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and renting houses.
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That's like just
throwing money away.
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- Well, you're the realtor,
so you gotta--
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you gotta, you know,
tell me when the, you know,
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the market is right.
- Oh, it's right now.
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- Oh, well,
when we walk out of here
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we're not gonna
purchase a home tomorrow.
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- No, I know.
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We can wait till your lease
is coming to a near end.
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- That's like three months.
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- Right.
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- Gotta give it
the time, though.
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You know, just married.
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- Getting married.
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- And purchasing a home.
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And then like, kids?
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- And you know,
still paying for my degree.
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It's like--
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- I just wanna make sure
that I'm financially stable
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to afford
this lifestyle for us.
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- As long as we, you know,
continue this marriage,
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you have to get us the house.
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You have to buy us a house.
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- I would have to buy it?
- Mm-hmm.
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So I could say my husband
bought me a house.
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- So you don't wanna have
no parts
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in helping me buy the house?
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- I mean, I'll be on the deed.
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- How does that work?
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- Oh, it works every day
in marriages.
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- You've been married before?
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- In other people's
marriages I know about.
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- Oh.
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- Their husband bought
the house, the car.
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I mean, especially if
I'm pushing out kids.
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That's just some
good push gifts.
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- Hmm, you know, Shaquille,
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let's save to work towards
buying a house together.
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It was just a Shaquille, no,
you're gonna buy me a house.
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- I'm just stuck
on the buying--
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buying you a house.
- Us--us a house.
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- You said "you."
You said "buy my wife a house."
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- Yeah.
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This is--this is who I am.
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Keep thinking.
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Keep thinking.
Let's think at home.
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- Hi.
- Hi.
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- How are you?
- I'm good!
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How are you?
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- Girl.
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Girl. I'm good.
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Life's heaven.
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I got us some wine.
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- Ooh, let's go.
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- Thank you.
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- Married life.
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You know it well.
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- Yes.
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I do.
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It's--it's interesting
at the very beginning.
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- It's--it's been
a roller coaster.
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- It's been a lot?
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- Yeah.
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I mean, I think it's just
more so I'm not used
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to being so vulnerable
and saying my feelings.
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Because you know I'm
not confrontational,
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so I won't say how I feel
in my relationships
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just to avoid an argument or
avoid how it makes them feel
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or avoid just having
to really deal with it.
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So it's just been me trying
to navigate my feelings,
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and I just--
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I didn't think it
would be as hard.
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- No, usually when you start
a relationship you have
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those beginning butterflies
and everything is exciting.
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- And I mean, I was happy
when I saw him.
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I thought he was cute.
He's attractive.
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And I mean, attraction for me--
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all I need is cute.
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Like, my attraction
for a person is the way
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they treat me,
the way they make me feel.
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And so because we're
going through all of this,
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I was on this high of,
oh, my God,
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I'm so attracted to my husband.
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So now I'm at a place of,
that's dying
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and I'm losing that because
I'm not feeling secure.
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I'm not feeling wanted.
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He's not making me feel like--
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you know, the way I
wanna feel to--to be
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attracted to somebody.
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I feel like if we don't
find the common ground
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and start building
that it's gonna
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start fading faster for me.
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- And I don't wanna
see you at that point.
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- No, I don't wanna be there
either.
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- I want you to be excited.
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You've always dreamed
of being married.
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And take it day by day.
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It can still happen.
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Don't let yourself close off
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just because it's starting
to get hard.
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- I feel like me and Airris
are, like, well-matched
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from the things that I know.
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I feel like we're compatible.
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And I do feel like we can work.
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But he gonna have
to put in some more work.
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And I mean, I obviously gotta
put in some more work.
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But I need--
I need more from him.
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- ♪ I been wasting time
running from your love ♪
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- Nitro latte with hazelnut.
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- Nitro latte with hazelnut.
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- No whipped cream.
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- No whipped cream.
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- That's it.
- That's it.
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- Our couples have been married
for over five weeks now
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and have settled into
married life together.
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So we've asked our couples
to return to their roots
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and share some of the things
that have shaped them
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into the person they are today.
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- I think we should check out
my old stomping grounds
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and go by my hair school.
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- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah.
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- Understanding a person's past
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can often provide valuable
information about
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who they are in the present.
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And learning these things
about each other
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can have a major impact
on whether they decide
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to stay married
or get a divorce.
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♪ ♪
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- So we're going
to hometown Italy, huh?
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- The finest that
Nashville has to offer.
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They do have a lot of olives,
281
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but you know,
we're not gonna get it.
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This place reminds me
of this Italian deli
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back at home in New York,
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and that really--
when I think of being home
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and being comfortable
and happy,
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obviously food is involved.
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It was such a place of comfort
for me, good times and bad.
288
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It was always like,
let's go to the deli.
289
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And this is as close
as I can get to that feeling
290
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because I'm 900 miles away
from the original.
291
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I'm a little scared
to tell Chris,
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you know, a little bit more
about me, the inner child
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and all of what made me
who I am
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because you never know
what's gonna make someone
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feel differently about you,
and the last thing I want
296
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is for Chris
to look at me differently,
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especially with Decision Day
coming up.
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♪ ♪
299
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I had a decently
happy childhood.
300
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From the second I was born,
I always needed attention.
301
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I was just born that way.
302
00:11:34,208 --> 00:11:36,500
I mean, I wish
I had a reason why.
303
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I think it's a combination of
my parents being who they are
304
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and just, I got
a lot of attention.
305
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And then when
I was like 13, 14,
306
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I was going to a new school
because it was high school.
307
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And I was really, like,
figuring out how to not
308
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be a kid anymore, basically.
309
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And my parents, because they
were so trusting and loving,
310
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they didn't set
any ground rules.
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But I almost wish they had
really impressed that upon me
312
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because there was that period
where I was, like, lying a lot,
313
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cutting school,
staying out late.
314
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Lying to my parents
is, like, number one.
315
00:12:12,375 --> 00:12:14,750
I remember when, you know,
I went to Catholic school,
316
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and we would go to confession,
like, I would always
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start with, "I'm lying again.
I'm lying all the time"
318
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because I was so ashamed
of what I was doing
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without realizing I was ashamed
that I was just lying.
320
00:12:26,333 --> 00:12:28,167
I was just putting myself
in bad situations
321
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with bad people.
322
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And I let my grades fall,
because my friends would
323
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be like, let's skip class
and go, like,
324
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hang out in someone's basement.
325
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And I'd be like,
okay, that sounds great.
326
00:12:38,250 --> 00:12:40,875
Even though I didn't want to,
but I didn't want them
327
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to think that I wasn't cool
or worthy
328
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of their friendship.
329
00:12:45,042 --> 00:12:46,750
And I was just
putting on an act,
330
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basically, because I wanted
these people
331
00:12:48,833 --> 00:12:50,000
to like me even though
they weren't
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even worthy of my attention.
333
00:12:52,542 --> 00:12:54,458
♪ ♪
334
00:12:54,542 --> 00:12:56,542
- I don't know if I'd be able
to marry the woman
335
00:12:56,708 --> 00:12:58,958
that Nicole was
when she was younger.
336
00:12:59,083 --> 00:13:02,542
Because honestly, like, that
reminds me of a lot of some
337
00:13:02,667 --> 00:13:03,583
of my exes and what
I dealt with.
338
00:13:03,708 --> 00:13:06,292
And that's not what
I want in my life.
339
00:13:06,417 --> 00:13:07,333
♪ ♪
340
00:13:07,458 --> 00:13:10,833
- You need to know everything
about me in order
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to decide if I'm the right
person for you, quite frankly,
342
00:13:13,875 --> 00:13:15,833
because I don't want something
to come out
343
00:13:15,917 --> 00:13:19,542
in six or eight months
or any time after Decision Day
344
00:13:19,667 --> 00:13:22,125
and you're like, ooh, this
changes how I feel about her,
345
00:13:22,250 --> 00:13:25,167
and then we can't
come back from that.
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♪ ♪
347
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[upbeat music]
348
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♪ ♪
349
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- Oh, oh, got skills!
350
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Oh!
351
00:13:49,208 --> 00:13:51,208
- I've had so many different
life experiences growing up
352
00:13:51,375 --> 00:13:53,500
that really shaped
and molded me.
353
00:13:53,625 --> 00:13:55,500
- Is this bringing back
the mems?
354
00:13:55,625 --> 00:13:56,667
- Oh, yeah.
355
00:13:56,792 --> 00:13:59,958
Right back to the days
of me being a quasi-
356
00:14:00,042 --> 00:14:03,500
not-even-close
soccer aficionado.
357
00:14:03,583 --> 00:14:06,083
- With the pressure
of Decision Day coming up,
358
00:14:06,208 --> 00:14:08,000
I wanna, you know,
share some of the things
359
00:14:08,083 --> 00:14:09,667
that I've learned
in life with Gina
360
00:14:09,792 --> 00:14:11,750
and just shed a little light
as to why
361
00:14:11,875 --> 00:14:13,958
I am kind of the way I am.
362
00:14:14,083 --> 00:14:18,375
You got about 3'5" Clint Webb
363
00:14:18,542 --> 00:14:21,042
with a size 9 1/2 shoe,
probably, at the time.
364
00:14:21,208 --> 00:14:24,750
- [laughs]
How old were you?
365
00:14:24,875 --> 00:14:27,958
- I was probably
eight or nine years old?
366
00:14:28,042 --> 00:14:29,250
- So nine years old,
size 9 feet.
367
00:14:29,375 --> 00:14:32,000
- Yeah. Big feet.
368
00:14:32,083 --> 00:14:33,500
My parents used to
always say, oh,
369
00:14:33,625 --> 00:14:35,625
you don't even need water skis.
370
00:14:35,750 --> 00:14:37,917
Just use your feet.
371
00:14:38,042 --> 00:14:39,833
God, I was awkward
in trying to work
372
00:14:39,958 --> 00:14:42,833
a soccer ball with, like,
these big floppy feet.
373
00:14:42,917 --> 00:14:44,500
It was--
- Big flippers?
374
00:14:44,625 --> 00:14:46,083
- It was a hell of a challenge.
375
00:14:46,208 --> 00:14:48,042
And those kids that, like,
had that natural ability.
376
00:14:48,167 --> 00:14:48,708
- Yeah, it's, like,
frustrating for you
377
00:14:48,833 --> 00:14:49,667
when things don't come.
378
00:14:49,792 --> 00:14:51,208
- I was like, oh,
I hate your life.
379
00:14:51,333 --> 00:14:52,458
- Yeah.
380
00:14:52,542 --> 00:14:53,958
- Because I had to work
so hard to even
381
00:14:54,083 --> 00:14:55,833
get to a point of
where they started.
382
00:14:55,958 --> 00:14:57,958
- Yeah.
383
00:14:58,083 --> 00:14:59,333
- But yeah, soccer taught me
a lot about life, you know?
384
00:14:59,500 --> 00:15:01,750
I learned perseverance.
385
00:15:01,875 --> 00:15:02,417
And I learned persistence.
386
00:15:02,542 --> 00:15:04,958
- Stay steadfast.
387
00:15:05,042 --> 00:15:07,167
- Yeah.
Drive and motivation.
388
00:15:07,292 --> 00:15:08,292
Even when I hated it,
I wanted to get good.
389
00:15:08,417 --> 00:15:11,000
- Yeah.
390
00:15:11,125 --> 00:15:12,250
- I think it ignited that
competitive spirit in me.
391
00:15:12,375 --> 00:15:14,958
'Cause you realized, like,
you could try it
392
00:15:15,042 --> 00:15:16,583
and you actually,
like, succeeded.
393
00:15:16,708 --> 00:15:18,000
- Yeah.
394
00:15:18,167 --> 00:15:19,500
- That's a cool story.
395
00:15:19,667 --> 00:15:21,583
You know, a lot of kids
would be like, I hate soccer,
396
00:15:21,708 --> 00:15:24,167
I'm never playing again,
but I feel like you took it,
397
00:15:24,292 --> 00:15:28,500
practiced, let it resonate,
and took lessons from it.
398
00:15:28,583 --> 00:15:29,500
- Yeah, it's like when
we meet our biggest challenges
399
00:15:29,583 --> 00:15:33,333
in life, they seem
so daunting and ominous.
400
00:15:33,500 --> 00:15:36,000
And then when you
get past that time
401
00:15:36,125 --> 00:15:37,792
and you're out of that,
you're like,
402
00:15:37,917 --> 00:15:39,333
I learned so much from that.
403
00:15:39,417 --> 00:15:40,625
- Yeah.
404
00:15:40,708 --> 00:15:44,625
- I think Clint and I really
share that mentality of like,
405
00:15:44,708 --> 00:15:46,042
not giving up on things.
406
00:15:46,208 --> 00:15:47,042
And even throughout
our marriage
407
00:15:47,208 --> 00:15:48,333
he really does try
to, like, give his all
408
00:15:48,500 --> 00:15:50,458
and stay confident in it,
which is something
409
00:15:50,583 --> 00:15:52,458
that I find attractive.
410
00:15:52,542 --> 00:15:54,250
It definitely makes me feel
a little bit closer to Clint
411
00:15:54,375 --> 00:15:56,792
because it makes me feel like
412
00:15:56,917 --> 00:15:59,333
we can
make this marriage work.
413
00:15:59,458 --> 00:16:01,167
- Oh!
414
00:16:01,250 --> 00:16:02,375
- She shoots, she scores!
415
00:16:02,500 --> 00:16:04,375
- Scores!
416
00:16:04,500 --> 00:16:08,667
♪ ♪
417
00:16:08,750 --> 00:16:10,667
- ♪ Crème de la crème,
they know we arrived ♪
418
00:16:10,792 --> 00:16:12,667
♪ Doing our thing,
you see the design ♪
419
00:16:12,833 --> 00:16:14,583
♪ Straight to the front,
we don't wait in line ♪
420
00:16:14,708 --> 00:16:16,625
- So you're probably
wondering, what the heck
421
00:16:16,750 --> 00:16:18,167
are we doing in a card shop?
422
00:16:18,292 --> 00:16:20,667
But this was, like,
a pretty big part
423
00:16:20,792 --> 00:16:21,667
of my childhood growing up.
424
00:16:21,750 --> 00:16:25,167
- I wish I would have
collected something,
425
00:16:25,250 --> 00:16:26,792
like, when I was younger.
426
00:16:26,875 --> 00:16:28,542
But I didn't.
427
00:16:28,708 --> 00:16:29,583
- It seems lately that
Jasmine has been having
428
00:16:29,708 --> 00:16:32,250
a hard time, you know,
opening up to me,
429
00:16:32,375 --> 00:16:34,292
so I brought her to a card shop
430
00:16:34,375 --> 00:16:37,083
just to kinda share a part
of my childhood and my past,
431
00:16:37,208 --> 00:16:38,417
something that used
to be important to me.
432
00:16:38,542 --> 00:16:41,292
My past dating relationships,
433
00:16:41,375 --> 00:16:43,375
I just kind of leave
the surface level.
434
00:16:43,542 --> 00:16:45,667
But I'm trying
to show Jasmine that, like,
435
00:16:45,792 --> 00:16:48,958
you know, I'm willing to be
open and vulnerable with you.
436
00:16:49,083 --> 00:16:51,417
So in return, I'm hoping
by showing that side of me,
437
00:16:51,542 --> 00:16:53,042
you know, she'll feel
comfortable and safe enough
438
00:16:53,208 --> 00:16:54,000
to do the same with me.
439
00:16:54,167 --> 00:16:55,958
And ultimately,
I feel like that'll
440
00:16:56,042 --> 00:16:57,667
bring us closer together.
441
00:16:57,792 --> 00:17:00,292
A lot of my childhood,
I spent like, collecting cards.
442
00:17:00,417 --> 00:17:02,417
It's, like,
one of the few things I kept.
443
00:17:02,542 --> 00:17:05,250
Like,
no matter where we moved--
444
00:17:05,375 --> 00:17:07,750
like, I might lose some shoes
or some clothes.
445
00:17:07,875 --> 00:17:09,833
I never lost my cards.
446
00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:13,667
So like, a lot of these cards
are, like, over 30 years old.
447
00:17:13,792 --> 00:17:15,958
- What made you start
collecting cards?
448
00:17:16,042 --> 00:17:18,500
- So when I first moved here,
I didn't really know anybody.
449
00:17:18,625 --> 00:17:21,125
I was like a new kid at school.
450
00:17:21,250 --> 00:17:22,833
But this was, like,
one way I met, like,
451
00:17:22,958 --> 00:17:24,167
some of my first friends, like,
452
00:17:24,250 --> 00:17:25,667
when I first moved
to Nashville.
453
00:17:25,792 --> 00:17:27,583
- Was that an easy transition,
like, coming to Nashville?
454
00:17:27,708 --> 00:17:33,000
- I think, you know, just
growing up as an only child,
455
00:17:33,083 --> 00:17:36,000
it just made me independent.
456
00:17:36,083 --> 00:17:37,375
And also, like, moving a lot
457
00:17:37,542 --> 00:17:39,667
and always being
the new kid in class,
458
00:17:39,833 --> 00:17:43,167
it helped me adapt
to, like, any environment.
459
00:17:43,292 --> 00:17:46,833
It also--one thing
my therapist pointed out,
460
00:17:46,917 --> 00:17:49,958
like, moving around so much
and not staying still
461
00:17:50,083 --> 00:17:53,000
is like, I'll just up and go.
462
00:17:53,167 --> 00:17:55,667
Yeah, even in relationships,
like, romantic relationships.
463
00:17:55,750 --> 00:18:00,333
People who, like,
stay in relationships, like,
464
00:18:00,417 --> 00:18:02,000
they know them got
no business being in.
465
00:18:02,167 --> 00:18:05,667
Like, I'll just--
bro, I'm out of here.
466
00:18:05,792 --> 00:18:08,208
Like, whether it's
a relationship,
467
00:18:08,333 --> 00:18:10,000
whether it's a city.
468
00:18:10,125 --> 00:18:13,792
Like, I'll just boom,
get up and go.
469
00:18:13,917 --> 00:18:15,167
♪ ♪
470
00:18:15,250 --> 00:18:18,250
That's not good,
but it's just--
471
00:18:18,375 --> 00:18:20,792
but I feel like that's
something from my childhood
472
00:18:20,875 --> 00:18:24,000
that's I--or just growing up
that I feel, like, definitely
473
00:18:24,125 --> 00:18:27,000
has carried into adulthood.
474
00:18:27,125 --> 00:18:28,792
♪ ♪
475
00:18:28,875 --> 00:18:32,875
- Wow, Airris, I ain't
got nothing to say.
476
00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:34,750
I don't--
477
00:18:34,875 --> 00:18:36,833
I wanna open up
and go deeper with him,
478
00:18:36,917 --> 00:18:38,792
but I'm scared
about his willingness
479
00:18:38,875 --> 00:18:41,250
to see this through
when it's so easy for him to,
480
00:18:41,375 --> 00:18:41,792
you know, cut and run.
481
00:18:41,875 --> 00:18:47,833
♪ ♪
482
00:18:47,958 --> 00:18:50,708
- ♪ See you walking
like your feet go ♪
483
00:18:50,875 --> 00:18:52,167
♪ Loosen up,
your dress caught ♪
484
00:18:52,292 --> 00:18:57,125
♪ ♪
485
00:18:57,208 --> 00:18:58,875
- So this is the house
I lived in
486
00:18:59,042 --> 00:19:02,333
with my mom, my dad,
my sister, and brother
487
00:19:02,417 --> 00:19:05,417
before my parents split apart.
488
00:19:05,542 --> 00:19:06,625
My mom and dad lived
in that front room right there,
489
00:19:06,708 --> 00:19:09,583
and then
there's a room behind it.
490
00:19:09,708 --> 00:19:12,292
And that was the room for me
and my brother and my sister,
491
00:19:12,375 --> 00:19:13,417
and we had bunk beds.
492
00:19:13,542 --> 00:19:16,292
But this house,
it definitely represents,
493
00:19:16,375 --> 00:19:18,917
like, the great times
that we had together.
494
00:19:19,042 --> 00:19:23,208
And being a family, I just
remember those early mornings
495
00:19:23,333 --> 00:19:24,667
when my dad was
running off to work
496
00:19:24,792 --> 00:19:27,958
and being able to provide
for the family and run the shop
497
00:19:28,083 --> 00:19:32,167
and be able to buy me and my
brother and sister anything
498
00:19:32,333 --> 00:19:33,125
that we needed at the time.
499
00:19:33,250 --> 00:19:36,250
Like, we always had
big Christmases.
500
00:19:36,375 --> 00:19:41,000
But in the sense of happiness,
it also brings sadness to me.
501
00:19:41,125 --> 00:19:42,500
That's when they split apart.
502
00:19:42,667 --> 00:19:44,500
And it's like, oh, wow, like,
I thought we had
503
00:19:44,667 --> 00:19:46,333
this great life
and this great family,
504
00:19:46,500 --> 00:19:50,292
and now we are not
together anymore.
505
00:19:50,417 --> 00:19:52,833
♪ ♪
506
00:19:52,958 --> 00:19:55,417
- Do you remember, like,
when your parents split,
507
00:19:55,542 --> 00:19:56,875
like, that time frame?
508
00:19:57,042 --> 00:20:00,625
- I was eight years old
when my parents split.
509
00:20:00,708 --> 00:20:04,125
I was very upset because
I wanted my parents
510
00:20:04,208 --> 00:20:05,708
to stay together forever.
511
00:20:05,875 --> 00:20:07,625
And I'm just like, I wish
they could have found
512
00:20:07,750 --> 00:20:12,333
a way to work through things.
513
00:20:12,458 --> 00:20:16,292
But it really just shaped me
into who I am today.
514
00:20:16,417 --> 00:20:18,625
It taught me
how to be strong and how
515
00:20:18,708 --> 00:20:21,542
to deal with
different obstacles
516
00:20:21,708 --> 00:20:23,667
you may face in a marriage
and learn how to survive
517
00:20:23,792 --> 00:20:26,083
and learn how to be happy.
518
00:20:26,208 --> 00:20:27,583
And that's why I--
519
00:20:27,708 --> 00:20:29,500
like, I think about the past,
but I try to learn
520
00:20:29,667 --> 00:20:31,958
from the past
and move past that.
521
00:20:32,042 --> 00:20:34,500
- The past is always important
because you can never
522
00:20:34,625 --> 00:20:36,042
forget where you come from.
- That's true.
523
00:20:36,208 --> 00:20:37,667
- Like, you're providing--
524
00:20:37,750 --> 00:20:39,292
you know,
a family is an opportunity
525
00:20:39,417 --> 00:20:41,250
to create that safe space
like you did
526
00:20:41,375 --> 00:20:42,583
when you were here
at your home.
527
00:20:42,708 --> 00:20:44,000
- Yeah,
and speaking of providing,
528
00:20:44,167 --> 00:20:46,833
it kind of goes back to, like,
how my dad provided for us.
529
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:48,625
Like, he provided a home
for me and my mom
530
00:20:48,708 --> 00:20:51,667
and my sister and brother.
531
00:20:51,833 --> 00:20:53,417
Like, so, that's why sometimes
you may feel like I'm putting
532
00:20:53,542 --> 00:20:55,167
like, a lot of expectations
on you,
533
00:20:55,333 --> 00:20:56,917
but that's what
I see my dad as,
534
00:20:57,042 --> 00:20:58,542
and that's probably
why that's something
535
00:20:58,667 --> 00:21:00,333
that I want out of my husband.
536
00:21:00,500 --> 00:21:02,167
♪ ♪
537
00:21:02,333 --> 00:21:04,250
- I mean, as a man should be,
you know?
538
00:21:04,375 --> 00:21:06,667
He should always be
willing to provide,
539
00:21:06,833 --> 00:21:08,667
especially, like, without
being, like, forced to provide.
540
00:21:08,833 --> 00:21:11,375
Like, you should want that for
your family and your children
541
00:21:11,500 --> 00:21:13,042
and no one should have
to tell you, like,
542
00:21:13,167 --> 00:21:15,167
this is what you need to do.
543
00:21:15,292 --> 00:21:18,500
I understand, you know, that
this is supposed to happen,
544
00:21:18,625 --> 00:21:21,583
but allow me to make it happen
the way I know
545
00:21:21,708 --> 00:21:23,458
it can happen
without any matter of,
546
00:21:23,583 --> 00:21:25,333
like, forcing me to do it.
547
00:21:25,458 --> 00:21:26,625
- But like,
my dad's mindset, like,
548
00:21:26,708 --> 00:21:28,167
he knew what had to be done.
549
00:21:28,333 --> 00:21:30,667
Like, nothing had
to be told to him,
550
00:21:30,750 --> 00:21:33,167
or nothing had to be said
because he knew
551
00:21:33,333 --> 00:21:34,125
what he wanted out of life.
552
00:21:34,250 --> 00:21:36,000
♪ ♪
553
00:21:36,125 --> 00:21:39,208
I'm just still feeling a little
hesitant and a little nervous
554
00:21:39,375 --> 00:21:41,667
about introducing Shaquille
to my dad.
555
00:21:41,792 --> 00:21:43,750
My dad is just having
a tough time
556
00:21:43,875 --> 00:21:46,125
processing everything with us
starting off
557
00:21:46,250 --> 00:21:47,958
with marriage and not dating.
558
00:21:48,042 --> 00:21:50,917
So I definitely wanna know
that this is a solid marriage
559
00:21:51,042 --> 00:21:53,000
and Shaquille is gonna be here
for a lifetime
560
00:21:53,125 --> 00:21:54,958
before I bring him around
to meet my dad.
561
00:21:55,042 --> 00:21:59,000
So we'll see how it goes.
562
00:21:59,083 --> 00:22:01,500
- When I meet your dad,
I'm gonna be taking notes.
563
00:22:01,583 --> 00:22:03,500
Like, okay,
what do I need to do?
564
00:22:03,667 --> 00:22:05,333
Can you lay out
the blueprint for me?
565
00:22:05,458 --> 00:22:07,500
How does this supposed to go?
566
00:22:07,625 --> 00:22:10,167
Let me--help me understand,
you know, what you did.
567
00:22:10,292 --> 00:22:12,208
Kirsten is definitely
holding me to the standard
568
00:22:12,375 --> 00:22:14,042
of what her father was for her.
569
00:22:14,208 --> 00:22:15,375
But I've never met the guy,
so I don't even
570
00:22:15,542 --> 00:22:17,333
know of how to be like him.
571
00:22:17,458 --> 00:22:19,500
For me, it's kind of, like,
I need to have a conversation
572
00:22:19,625 --> 00:22:22,083
with her dad if I
wanna understand why
573
00:22:22,208 --> 00:22:24,958
you feel the way that you do.
574
00:22:25,083 --> 00:22:28,250
- When that day comes,
he'll definitely tell you
575
00:22:28,375 --> 00:22:29,458
everything you need to know.
576
00:22:29,583 --> 00:22:30,833
- Until that time comes,
you know--
577
00:22:30,958 --> 00:22:36,250
♪ ♪
578
00:22:36,375 --> 00:22:38,125
hing ♪
579
00:22:38,250 --> 00:22:39,542
[upbeat music]
580
00:22:39,708 --> 00:22:40,875
- ♪ My life is a red carpet ♪
581
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,958
♪ Making a scene
wherever I go ♪
582
00:22:43,083 --> 00:22:43,958
- Welcome to hair school.
583
00:22:44,083 --> 00:22:44,917
- Oh, after you.
584
00:22:45,042 --> 00:22:46,500
- [chuckles]
585
00:22:46,583 --> 00:22:47,583
This is where
the magic happens.
586
00:22:47,708 --> 00:22:50,875
Hair school, it was such
a big part of my past
587
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:52,750
'cause it really
changed my entire life.
588
00:22:52,875 --> 00:22:54,500
For me, I was a totally
different person
589
00:22:54,583 --> 00:22:56,125
when I went into hair school
than I am now.
590
00:22:56,208 --> 00:22:58,167
So it's important for me
to bring Clint back here
591
00:22:58,292 --> 00:23:01,667
for him to see like, where
it all started essentially.
592
00:23:01,750 --> 00:23:08,000
So this is, like,
the actual school portion,
593
00:23:08,125 --> 00:23:09,833
the classroom portion,
if you will.
594
00:23:09,958 --> 00:23:11,542
- Ah.
595
00:23:11,708 --> 00:23:15,000
- So it definitely was
a career change for me.
596
00:23:15,125 --> 00:23:16,500
I had already gone
through college.
597
00:23:16,625 --> 00:23:19,958
Like, ever since I was 14,
I was doing broadcasting
598
00:23:20,042 --> 00:23:22,000
and really thought that was
like, where the trajectory
599
00:23:22,125 --> 00:23:24,042
of my life was going.
600
00:23:24,167 --> 00:23:25,333
And so I never envisioned
what my life would be now.
601
00:23:25,458 --> 00:23:27,542
But this is, like,
where it started.
602
00:23:27,708 --> 00:23:30,125
Like, it started
with hair school
603
00:23:30,208 --> 00:23:33,500
and me just diving in and doing
something at the time
604
00:23:33,625 --> 00:23:35,542
that was just kind of
a crazy decision.
605
00:23:35,667 --> 00:23:37,542
I was like, all right,
I just I know that I don't
606
00:23:37,708 --> 00:23:39,333
wanna do broadcasting.
607
00:23:39,458 --> 00:23:42,167
And I've always had this
thought in the back of my mind
608
00:23:42,292 --> 00:23:43,500
since I was, like, 18.
609
00:23:43,583 --> 00:23:45,417
Like, maybe I wanna do hair.
610
00:23:45,542 --> 00:23:47,542
And so I had my bartending job.
611
00:23:47,667 --> 00:23:48,792
So it's not like
I was struggling financially.
612
00:23:48,917 --> 00:23:49,833
I was like,
might as well just--
613
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:51,042
- Yeah, just give it a shot.
614
00:23:51,167 --> 00:23:53,875
- It was way harder than I
thought it was gonna be,
615
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,500
but I'm glad I did it
because it's--
616
00:23:55,625 --> 00:23:56,375
I never would have
thought ten years--
617
00:23:56,500 --> 00:23:58,667
- It's changed your life.
618
00:23:58,792 --> 00:23:59,667
- Yeah, ten years
down the road, I'd be, like,
619
00:23:59,833 --> 00:24:01,667
owning my own company.
620
00:24:01,792 --> 00:24:03,667
And there's so much more
that I wanna do
621
00:24:03,750 --> 00:24:05,833
in terms of building
an entire, like,
622
00:24:05,958 --> 00:24:07,958
educational platform
and things like that.
623
00:24:08,042 --> 00:24:08,833
So who knows?
624
00:24:08,917 --> 00:24:10,625
Maybe I'll own
a hair school one day.
625
00:24:10,750 --> 00:24:12,000
- There you go.
626
00:24:12,125 --> 00:24:13,667
Something new that
I'm learning about Gina
627
00:24:13,833 --> 00:24:15,875
is, like, she's
definitely got some
628
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,292
risk-taking characteristics to
completely change professions.
629
00:24:19,417 --> 00:24:21,208
She's adaptable,
she's moldable,
630
00:24:21,333 --> 00:24:23,583
but she's able to make
that mental pivot,
631
00:24:23,708 --> 00:24:25,917
and she changed
the trajectory of her life.
632
00:24:26,042 --> 00:24:28,583
It reminds me of the
transition that I had to make
633
00:24:28,708 --> 00:24:31,833
from becoming a pilot
to going into tech.
634
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,417
So I've really
come to have more patience
635
00:24:34,542 --> 00:24:37,000
for her salon
and her business.
636
00:24:37,167 --> 00:24:39,083
You know, that's a heck
of an accomplishment.
637
00:24:39,208 --> 00:24:41,667
I think it's a
great story of, you know,
638
00:24:41,750 --> 00:24:44,458
being able to forge
through the adversity.
639
00:24:44,542 --> 00:24:47,667
Now you're the big chief.
640
00:24:47,750 --> 00:24:50,042
- One small decision of, like,
just taking the risk
641
00:24:50,208 --> 00:24:52,708
and doing it, like,
completely change my life.
642
00:24:52,833 --> 00:24:55,042
- Like marrying a stranger.
- Yeah.
643
00:24:55,167 --> 00:24:57,125
♪ ♪
644
00:24:57,208 --> 00:24:59,167
[giggles]
645
00:24:59,292 --> 00:25:02,583
- ♪ Babe, with you
I can relax ♪
646
00:25:02,708 --> 00:25:08,208
♪ Because I know
you've got my back ♪
647
00:25:08,333 --> 00:25:10,292
- With less than three weeks
before Decision Day,
648
00:25:10,375 --> 00:25:13,750
we've encouraged each person
to write a letter
649
00:25:13,875 --> 00:25:15,500
to their younger self
about a significant point
650
00:25:15,583 --> 00:25:17,792
in their life.
651
00:25:17,917 --> 00:25:19,208
- What you writing?
652
00:25:19,333 --> 00:25:20,375
- I will tell you
when I am done writing,
653
00:25:20,500 --> 00:25:25,000
Sir Nosy McNoserson.
654
00:25:25,167 --> 00:25:27,000
- It's important that
our couples learn
655
00:25:27,167 --> 00:25:29,125
how to be vulnerable
with one another
656
00:25:29,208 --> 00:25:30,333
before they have to make
one of the biggest decisions
657
00:25:30,458 --> 00:25:35,500
of their lives--whether to stay
married or get a divorce.
658
00:25:35,667 --> 00:25:37,500
♪ ♪
659
00:25:37,625 --> 00:25:39,333
- ♪ If you want everything ♪
660
00:25:39,500 --> 00:25:42,708
♪ You gotta do everything
to chase your dreams ♪
661
00:25:42,833 --> 00:25:44,125
♪ I don't think
you hear me, though ♪
662
00:25:44,250 --> 00:25:46,042
♪ ♪
663
00:25:46,208 --> 00:25:49,167
- I have finished
my assignment.
664
00:25:49,292 --> 00:25:50,792
- Yeah.
665
00:25:50,917 --> 00:25:52,917
- Do you want me
to read both notes?
666
00:25:53,042 --> 00:25:54,833
- Yeah.
You can read mine first.
667
00:25:54,958 --> 00:25:58,500
- "Dear younger me, you learned
so much over the years.
668
00:25:58,583 --> 00:26:00,375
"Don't be afraid to stand up
for what you believe in.
669
00:26:00,542 --> 00:26:05,208
"Please don't let anyone
walk over you no matter what.
670
00:26:05,333 --> 00:26:08,208
"Trust me, it's not worth it,
as it leads to you sacrificing
671
00:26:08,333 --> 00:26:10,958
"who you are as a person
for a while.
672
00:26:11,083 --> 00:26:11,792
"Talk with your dad
about the importance
673
00:26:11,875 --> 00:26:14,083
"of your relationship with him.
674
00:26:14,208 --> 00:26:15,667
"Have a true heart-to-heart
to build
675
00:26:15,792 --> 00:26:17,667
"a stronger relationship
earlier.
676
00:26:17,750 --> 00:26:19,500
"Please tell your mom how you
feel about the guy she dated.
677
00:26:19,667 --> 00:26:22,292
"He was such a bad guy for her.
678
00:26:22,417 --> 00:26:24,708
"And trust me, her life will
be better off without him
679
00:26:24,833 --> 00:26:26,667
and that heartache."
680
00:26:26,792 --> 00:26:28,833
- It broke my heart
to see my mom
681
00:26:28,958 --> 00:26:31,625
in a bad relationship
for so long.
682
00:26:31,708 --> 00:26:33,750
And he was just
a really bad guy.
683
00:26:33,875 --> 00:26:35,375
He was an alcoholic.
684
00:26:35,500 --> 00:26:37,333
He was verbally abusive.
685
00:26:37,500 --> 00:26:41,083
He like, came in drunk one day
and was, like,
686
00:26:41,208 --> 00:26:42,667
throwing stuff around
and breaking stuff.
687
00:26:42,792 --> 00:26:45,583
And he literally threatened
to kill the dog
688
00:26:45,708 --> 00:26:48,083
because it went
in someone else's yard.
689
00:26:48,208 --> 00:26:49,958
- Oh, my God!
- So it was pretty horrible.
690
00:26:50,083 --> 00:26:51,000
And it was one
of those things, like,
691
00:26:51,125 --> 00:26:53,333
I wish I would have
spoke up because I think
692
00:26:53,500 --> 00:26:54,292
she would have listened.
693
00:26:54,375 --> 00:26:55,917
I think she would
have at least took it.
694
00:26:56,042 --> 00:26:56,583
And you know,
sometimes it takes
695
00:26:56,708 --> 00:26:59,667
an external pair of eyes.
696
00:26:59,792 --> 00:27:01,167
And--
697
00:27:01,292 --> 00:27:02,667
- She might have had
those blinders on.
698
00:27:02,833 --> 00:27:04,917
- Exactly.
699
00:27:05,042 --> 00:27:07,208
- It actually seems like
Chris's mom and I
700
00:27:07,333 --> 00:27:08,500
are more similar
than I originally knew
701
00:27:08,583 --> 00:27:12,917
because it seems like we both
have the best intentions
702
00:27:13,042 --> 00:27:15,167
when it comes
to picking partners,
703
00:27:15,333 --> 00:27:17,583
but they aren't always
the best choices.
704
00:27:17,708 --> 00:27:19,750
And sharing all of
this information
705
00:27:19,875 --> 00:27:20,792
has definitely been heavy.
706
00:27:20,917 --> 00:27:23,125
But actually,
I'm a little relieved
707
00:27:23,208 --> 00:27:26,000
that he's shared with me
because it shows how strong
708
00:27:26,125 --> 00:27:28,000
our communication and bond is.
709
00:27:28,083 --> 00:27:29,958
And I'm so lucky and grateful
that I'm with someone
710
00:27:30,042 --> 00:27:31,667
who can do that for me.
711
00:27:31,750 --> 00:27:35,292
Obviously, I wrote it
with purple pen.
712
00:27:35,375 --> 00:27:36,958
- Obviously.
713
00:27:37,042 --> 00:27:40,000
- "Dear pre-teen Nicole,
I know you're going through
714
00:27:40,167 --> 00:27:40,833
"a lot of changes right now.
715
00:27:40,958 --> 00:27:43,375
"You stopped doing gymnastics.
716
00:27:43,500 --> 00:27:45,792
"Your body is changing, and
you're starting high school.
717
00:27:45,875 --> 00:27:47,375
"I know you're a smart girl,
718
00:27:47,542 --> 00:27:49,500
"but please trust me
when I say you do not
719
00:27:49,625 --> 00:27:51,042
"know best about everything.
720
00:27:51,208 --> 00:27:52,917
"People will come into
your life and try
721
00:27:53,042 --> 00:27:54,375
"to take advantage of you.
722
00:27:54,542 --> 00:27:56,958
I strongly"--all caps--
723
00:27:57,083 --> 00:27:59,667
"STRONGLY advise you
to be the smart girl
724
00:27:59,792 --> 00:28:02,333
"I know you are and not let
them take advantage of you.
725
00:28:02,417 --> 00:28:05,333
"One-man relationship,
friendship situation
726
00:28:05,500 --> 00:28:07,000
"does not define you.
727
00:28:07,125 --> 00:28:10,167
"I want you to enjoy all life
has to offer and not let
728
00:28:10,292 --> 00:28:12,250
"a poor start
to your 'adult life'
729
00:28:12,375 --> 00:28:15,417
"make you feel lesser than
and unworthy of love.
730
00:28:15,542 --> 00:28:18,375
"You will meet a wonderful man
in the future who will make
731
00:28:18,542 --> 00:28:20,125
"all of the bull[bleep]
worth it,
732
00:28:20,250 --> 00:28:22,167
"but you need to be open
and receptive in order
733
00:28:22,333 --> 00:28:23,167
"to give him your best self.
734
00:28:23,292 --> 00:28:25,292
"You are worthy
of love and respect
735
00:28:25,417 --> 00:28:27,208
"even though you might
not feel it all the time.
736
00:28:27,333 --> 00:28:29,333
"But trust me that you are.
737
00:28:29,500 --> 00:28:31,792
"PS, you grow up to be
a fabulous woman,
738
00:28:31,917 --> 00:28:33,833
so everything will work out."
739
00:28:33,958 --> 00:28:36,333
- Aw, why did you feel
not worthy
740
00:28:36,500 --> 00:28:38,083
of, like,
love and things like that?
741
00:28:38,208 --> 00:28:40,083
- It's that first relationship
I was in
742
00:28:40,208 --> 00:28:42,333
really burned me to my core.
743
00:28:42,417 --> 00:28:44,708
And I do still live
with that shame kind of.
744
00:28:44,875 --> 00:28:48,125
And because of that, you know,
I did so much protecting
745
00:28:48,208 --> 00:28:49,167
of my own heart in the past,
746
00:28:49,250 --> 00:28:53,167
and I think that blocked
me off from seeing
747
00:28:53,292 --> 00:28:54,333
what was really out there
for me.
748
00:28:54,458 --> 00:28:55,708
And now I came into this,
like, my heart is open.
749
00:28:55,833 --> 00:28:58,500
It's exposed.
750
00:28:58,667 --> 00:29:00,708
- I mean, are you worried about
your heart being broken now?
751
00:29:00,875 --> 00:29:03,083
- There's always a chance.
752
00:29:03,208 --> 00:29:05,042
Like, even if it's
not intentional,
753
00:29:05,167 --> 00:29:06,750
if you and I break up, even
if it's an amicable breakup,
754
00:29:06,875 --> 00:29:09,208
that will break my heart.
755
00:29:09,333 --> 00:29:11,292
I've only known Chris
for five weeks.
756
00:29:11,417 --> 00:29:14,250
And even if I know him
for 5 million weeks,
757
00:29:14,375 --> 00:29:16,333
I will never feel
100% confident
758
00:29:16,417 --> 00:29:19,125
that my heart won't get broken
because every day
759
00:29:19,250 --> 00:29:20,875
I like him a little more
760
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,000
and our relationship
grows a little more
761
00:29:22,125 --> 00:29:25,000
and that risk of heartbreak
goes a little more.
762
00:29:25,083 --> 00:29:27,458
So I don't know what
will happen in our future,
763
00:29:27,583 --> 00:29:30,417
but what I do know is,
the risk of heartbreak
764
00:29:30,542 --> 00:29:32,500
is nothing compared
to the happiness
765
00:29:32,583 --> 00:29:33,250
and joy I feel every day.
766
00:29:33,375 --> 00:29:36,000
So if heartbreak
is the end result,
767
00:29:36,125 --> 00:29:39,000
I'll take it if it means all of
these happy days before then.
768
00:29:39,083 --> 00:29:44,375
♪ ♪
769
00:29:44,542 --> 00:29:46,667
- ♪ Ooh, baby,
come back to me ♪
770
00:29:46,750 --> 00:29:48,333
[upbeat music]
771
00:29:48,458 --> 00:29:52,333
- Were you able to finish your
letter to your younger self?
772
00:29:52,417 --> 00:29:54,292
- Yeah, I don't know
if I'm gonna read it.
773
00:29:54,375 --> 00:29:56,333
- Why?
Because your handwriting?
774
00:29:56,500 --> 00:29:58,167
- Because of my handwriting.
775
00:29:58,292 --> 00:29:59,417
But I think I got it.
776
00:29:59,542 --> 00:30:04,708
"Dear Airris, the confusion
you feel at the age of 12
777
00:30:04,833 --> 00:30:06,708
"will not last forever.
778
00:30:06,833 --> 00:30:10,583
"You will not always feel
as alone as you do now.
779
00:30:10,708 --> 00:30:13,833
"I want you to know that
the world is so much bigger
780
00:30:13,917 --> 00:30:17,917
"than the city of Newport News
where you are currently living.
781
00:30:18,042 --> 00:30:19,500
"I cannot wait
until you are able
782
00:30:19,583 --> 00:30:22,083
"to travel and experience
different cultures
783
00:30:22,208 --> 00:30:24,583
"around the world abroad.
784
00:30:24,708 --> 00:30:27,917
"Continue to love your mother
because she is a superhero.
785
00:30:28,042 --> 00:30:31,292
"Forgive your father for
passing away and leaving you.
786
00:30:31,375 --> 00:30:34,625
"Cherish the moments
and memories that you two spent
787
00:30:34,708 --> 00:30:35,833
"and never forget them.
788
00:30:35,958 --> 00:30:40,292
"Word of advice, no one ever
tells little Black boys this,
789
00:30:40,375 --> 00:30:43,667
"but I want you
to know that it's
790
00:30:43,792 --> 00:30:45,625
"safe to talk about
your feelings
791
00:30:45,708 --> 00:30:48,458
"and express yourself even if
it comes across as weak.
792
00:30:48,583 --> 00:30:53,000
"It's actually one of the most
courageous things you can do.
793
00:30:53,125 --> 00:30:56,625
It's okay to just--to be you."
794
00:30:56,708 --> 00:30:59,375
I feel like a lot of boys,
especially Black boys,
795
00:30:59,500 --> 00:31:01,500
pivot in, like,
directions that aren't healthy
796
00:31:01,583 --> 00:31:04,167
because they're trying
to prove, you know,
797
00:31:04,250 --> 00:31:05,042
I'm this strong,
tough individual.
798
00:31:05,167 --> 00:31:07,333
Like, it might
be cool to, like,
799
00:31:07,458 --> 00:31:09,042
do mischievous things because
you're trying to,
800
00:31:09,208 --> 00:31:11,000
like, fit in.
801
00:31:11,125 --> 00:31:12,458
And like, that's masculine.
802
00:31:12,583 --> 00:31:16,500
And in the end, the smart guys,
they're gonna win.
803
00:31:16,583 --> 00:31:22,042
They like, grow up, get a
good job, make a lot of money.
804
00:31:22,167 --> 00:31:23,917
- Yeah.
805
00:31:24,042 --> 00:31:24,792
You know...
806
00:31:30,625 --> 00:31:33,958
"So to my nine-year-old self,
807
00:31:34,083 --> 00:31:37,375
"you are a young girl who feels
like she's on top of the world.
808
00:31:37,542 --> 00:31:40,750
"Life has been filled with
support, love, and happiness.
809
00:31:40,875 --> 00:31:43,667
"You're about to make the
biggest change of your life.
810
00:31:43,750 --> 00:31:46,333
"Understand the challenges
that you are about to face.
811
00:31:46,458 --> 00:31:48,833
"There will be people who
don't value your presence
812
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,667
"or your self-worth.
813
00:31:50,792 --> 00:31:53,333
"Be ready for what's to come
as it will come as a shock.
814
00:31:53,417 --> 00:31:56,000
"Don't let their actions
affect your outlook on life
815
00:31:56,125 --> 00:31:57,167
"and the person you are,
816
00:31:57,250 --> 00:32:00,333
but stick it out
because it will get better."
817
00:32:00,417 --> 00:32:02,792
Before I made the move
to Memphis
818
00:32:02,917 --> 00:32:04,500
from Murfreesboro, Tennessee,
I was literally probably
819
00:32:04,667 --> 00:32:09,000
in the best space that a
nine-year-old could ever be in.
820
00:32:09,125 --> 00:32:10,833
I had love from my family.
821
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:12,000
I had love from friends.
822
00:32:12,125 --> 00:32:13,167
I was at a great school.
823
00:32:13,292 --> 00:32:14,333
I had great teachers.
824
00:32:14,417 --> 00:32:18,167
That obviously changed
once we made our move
825
00:32:18,333 --> 00:32:20,083
and I got to my new school.
826
00:32:20,208 --> 00:32:23,875
I was immediately
too proper for Memphis.
827
00:32:24,042 --> 00:32:27,583
So the bullying started
as soon as I got there.
828
00:32:27,708 --> 00:32:29,417
And it didn't really end
probably until me
829
00:32:29,542 --> 00:32:31,500
going into high school.
830
00:32:31,667 --> 00:32:33,958
"There is a light
at the end of the tunnel,
831
00:32:34,042 --> 00:32:36,667
"and that life you always
dreamed of is there.
832
00:32:36,833 --> 00:32:39,125
"You will be the complete
opposite of the person
833
00:32:39,208 --> 00:32:40,667
"they tried to make you.
834
00:32:40,792 --> 00:32:42,917
"You will become that
free spirit you once were,
835
00:32:43,042 --> 00:32:45,875
"and you will be able to be
loved the way you love people.
836
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:48,250
"You will accomplish some
of your wildest dreams
837
00:32:48,375 --> 00:32:49,875
"and be able to work
in your passion.
838
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,917
Believe you can,
and you're halfway there."
839
00:32:53,042 --> 00:32:54,750
- I think that's pretty cool.
840
00:32:54,875 --> 00:32:56,000
And the fact that, like,
you know,
841
00:32:56,083 --> 00:32:58,875
you already mentor little girls
because they have, like,
842
00:32:59,042 --> 00:33:01,500
somebody like you to, like,
instill that confidence in them
843
00:33:01,667 --> 00:33:04,750
and, like,
kind of show them the way.
844
00:33:04,875 --> 00:33:06,500
- I'm very proud of myself
and the person I've become.
845
00:33:06,667 --> 00:33:09,042
- Jasmine expressed
that, you know,
846
00:33:09,167 --> 00:33:10,625
she wanted us to talk more,
get to know each other more.
847
00:33:10,750 --> 00:33:13,917
You know, I'm at a place where
I'm ready to just, like,
848
00:33:14,042 --> 00:33:16,875
be wide open and completely
open up, you know,
849
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:18,500
so I can finally
learn some things
850
00:33:18,583 --> 00:33:20,500
about her that I never knew.
851
00:33:20,583 --> 00:33:21,958
I'm just ready to,
you know, let it all out.
852
00:33:22,042 --> 00:33:25,042
I think that's the best way for
this marriage to have success.
853
00:33:25,167 --> 00:33:26,542
I think we kind of said
the same thing almost.
854
00:33:26,708 --> 00:33:31,833
It's like overall,
there were two great messages.
855
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,917
I think we should
copyright these letters
856
00:33:34,042 --> 00:33:34,917
and just sell them.
857
00:33:35,042 --> 00:33:37,292
- [laughs]
What?
858
00:33:37,375 --> 00:33:38,208
- I don't know.
859
00:33:38,333 --> 00:33:41,083
That's my interpretation of it.
860
00:33:41,208 --> 00:33:43,958
- Oh, my God.
861
00:33:44,042 --> 00:33:50,792
♪ ♪
862
00:33:52,875 --> 00:33:54,958
- Hey, y'all.
863
00:33:55,083 --> 00:33:56,292
both: Hi.
864
00:33:56,375 --> 00:33:57,750
- How y'all doing?
865
00:33:57,875 --> 00:33:59,125
- It's great to
finally meet you.
866
00:33:59,250 --> 00:34:01,042
- Good to meet you too.
867
00:34:01,167 --> 00:34:01,917
- I am a family man.
868
00:34:02,042 --> 00:34:05,125
That's something
that I definitely want
869
00:34:05,250 --> 00:34:06,792
in my marriage, is for the
families to come together,
870
00:34:06,875 --> 00:34:09,833
but she just haven't invited
me into that part of her life.
871
00:34:09,917 --> 00:34:12,792
So I want her to understand,
like, maybe Shaquille
872
00:34:12,875 --> 00:34:16,500
really wanna meet them
and be around them.
873
00:34:16,583 --> 00:34:18,667
So my godmother
and my godsister,
874
00:34:18,750 --> 00:34:20,000
Daphne and Destiny,
they traveled
875
00:34:20,125 --> 00:34:22,667
from Mississippi and Georgia
to be here with us today.
876
00:34:22,750 --> 00:34:25,292
- I have a few pictures
of our baby.
877
00:34:25,417 --> 00:34:26,125
- Are these pages
you picked out
878
00:34:26,250 --> 00:34:28,000
and Shaquille hasn't seen yet?
879
00:34:28,125 --> 00:34:30,542
- He does not know
what I picked out.
880
00:34:30,667 --> 00:34:32,458
No, I might be in a little
bit of trouble, but--
881
00:34:32,542 --> 00:34:34,583
- Uh-oh,
it's always young family,
882
00:34:34,708 --> 00:34:35,833
all these young people.
883
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,750
- So Shaq is the baby
of these two.
884
00:34:39,875 --> 00:34:44,167
However, Shaq probably
was always the one who was
885
00:34:44,333 --> 00:34:45,042
the oldest out of all of them.
886
00:34:45,208 --> 00:34:48,292
- Yeah.
- He was always the oldest.
887
00:34:48,417 --> 00:34:51,667
He was always telling everybody
else what needed to be done.
888
00:34:51,833 --> 00:34:53,625
He was always
about the business.
889
00:34:53,708 --> 00:34:55,542
Let's take care of this.
Let's take care of that.
890
00:34:55,667 --> 00:34:56,542
He still like that, though.
891
00:34:56,667 --> 00:34:58,667
Like, Mother's Day comes,
892
00:34:58,750 --> 00:35:00,167
and he sends us
these text messages.
893
00:35:00,292 --> 00:35:02,292
"We need to do something
for our aunts."
894
00:35:02,375 --> 00:35:04,708
- So you're, like,
the coordinator of the family.
895
00:35:04,875 --> 00:35:05,875
- This is my grandmother
and my grandfather.
896
00:35:06,042 --> 00:35:09,167
- My grandparents were
very special to us.
897
00:35:09,292 --> 00:35:11,083
Like, we used to do everything
at their house.
898
00:35:11,208 --> 00:35:13,292
And when they passed away,
we started seeing our family
899
00:35:13,375 --> 00:35:14,833
started taking a shift.
900
00:35:14,958 --> 00:35:15,917
Like, everybody started
doing their own thing,
901
00:35:16,042 --> 00:35:17,500
and then I was like, no.
- Yes.
902
00:35:17,583 --> 00:35:19,167
- That's not what's
gonna happen.
903
00:35:19,292 --> 00:35:20,250
We started--
- Shaq put everything together.
904
00:35:20,375 --> 00:35:22,333
- I was like--
- And he would put it together.
905
00:35:22,458 --> 00:35:23,708
- I was, like, Thanksgiving,
who cooking what?
906
00:35:23,833 --> 00:35:24,458
Who bringing what?
907
00:35:24,542 --> 00:35:26,292
What color we wearing?
908
00:35:26,417 --> 00:35:28,667
And then Christmas,
we started the tradition of--
909
00:35:28,750 --> 00:35:30,833
- No, you started
that tradition.
910
00:35:30,958 --> 00:35:31,833
For Christmas, we would
have a Christmas breakfast.
911
00:35:31,958 --> 00:35:34,625
- Okay.
- Yeah.
912
00:35:34,750 --> 00:35:36,417
We just try
to always build memories.
913
00:35:36,542 --> 00:35:40,333
Like, football games, we always
just would try to enjoy life.
914
00:35:40,458 --> 00:35:43,125
- I love that you keep
everybody, you know, together.
915
00:35:43,208 --> 00:35:45,250
- And he's always looked out
for me, no matter what.
916
00:35:45,375 --> 00:35:47,458
You know, from day one
since I was a baby,
917
00:35:47,542 --> 00:35:49,333
he's always been a big brother.
918
00:35:49,500 --> 00:35:50,458
- 'Cause Destiny wasn't even
born when we had the wreck.
919
00:35:50,542 --> 00:35:51,792
- Mm-mm. No.
920
00:35:51,875 --> 00:35:52,708
- When we had
the car accident--
921
00:35:52,875 --> 00:35:54,167
- Actually, I also think
we all got closer
922
00:35:54,250 --> 00:35:55,625
after that accident.
923
00:35:55,708 --> 00:35:56,792
All people kept saying is,
924
00:35:56,875 --> 00:35:57,792
the babies landed
in the street.
925
00:35:57,875 --> 00:35:59,500
I was like, all of them?
926
00:35:59,625 --> 00:36:01,667
And I'm like, yeah.
- That was true.
927
00:36:01,792 --> 00:36:03,000
My mom lost control of the car,
928
00:36:03,125 --> 00:36:04,167
and it landed up, like,
in a curve.
929
00:36:04,292 --> 00:36:05,417
- Yeah, she had
to swerve to keep
930
00:36:05,542 --> 00:36:06,292
somebody from hitting her.
931
00:36:06,375 --> 00:36:09,167
- We all got
thrown out the car.
932
00:36:09,292 --> 00:36:11,000
My brother and I were tangled
in a barbed wire fence.
933
00:36:11,167 --> 00:36:13,125
Kira was laying on
side of the road,
934
00:36:13,250 --> 00:36:15,500
and Precious was face down
in the middle of the road.
935
00:36:15,583 --> 00:36:17,083
And I woke up and all
I remember was blood.
936
00:36:17,208 --> 00:36:20,125
But it was just
traumatizing because it's
937
00:36:20,208 --> 00:36:21,542
like, they separated all of us.
938
00:36:21,667 --> 00:36:24,458
So I didn't see my siblings and
my mom for, like, two weeks.
939
00:36:24,583 --> 00:36:25,583
Like, they wouldn't tell us
nothing about each other.
940
00:36:25,708 --> 00:36:28,208
How's my mom doing?
They wouldn't say anything,
941
00:36:28,375 --> 00:36:30,792
and then one day, they brought
all of us together,
942
00:36:30,917 --> 00:36:32,417
and everybody was just
in the room crying.
943
00:36:32,542 --> 00:36:35,167
Like, everybody.
944
00:36:35,333 --> 00:36:36,083
- Hearing that he had
to go through that
945
00:36:36,208 --> 00:36:39,167
and seeing that
the man he is today,
946
00:36:39,333 --> 00:36:41,167
it goes to show me
how important
947
00:36:41,250 --> 00:36:43,417
family time really is
for Shaquille.
948
00:36:43,542 --> 00:36:45,708
I mean, he's always telling me
how much he misses his family,
949
00:36:45,833 --> 00:36:48,375
but he plays a big role
in his family.
950
00:36:48,500 --> 00:36:51,750
He is, like, the person that
holds the family together.
951
00:36:51,875 --> 00:36:53,083
And I love that
about Shaquille.
952
00:36:53,208 --> 00:36:59,875
With him always having things
to do, like, how does that,
953
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,750
I guess, like,
play into our marriage?
954
00:37:02,875 --> 00:37:04,917
- Just make sure
you show up, you know?
955
00:37:05,042 --> 00:37:07,333
You show up for him.
You show up to support him.
956
00:37:07,417 --> 00:37:09,500
You know, maybe just
being by his side
957
00:37:09,667 --> 00:37:10,708
is the most of what he needs.
958
00:37:10,875 --> 00:37:12,292
- Being present.
959
00:37:12,375 --> 00:37:15,583
He has a drive
that's out of this world.
960
00:37:15,708 --> 00:37:17,667
He'll have 5,000 things
going on.
961
00:37:17,833 --> 00:37:20,083
However, he'll need something,
which, if you're on his side,
962
00:37:20,208 --> 00:37:22,167
then you may be able
to take care
963
00:37:22,292 --> 00:37:23,708
of that something for him.
964
00:37:23,833 --> 00:37:25,208
Like, he's gonna
take care of you,
965
00:37:25,333 --> 00:37:27,667
so make sure
you take care of him.
966
00:37:27,750 --> 00:37:33,792
♪ ♪
967
00:37:33,875 --> 00:37:35,333
[upbeat music]
968
00:37:35,458 --> 00:37:37,000
♪ ♪
969
00:37:37,125 --> 00:37:39,333
- I am kind of mad because
I usually grate the cheese.
970
00:37:39,500 --> 00:37:41,500
And I got grated,
but I don't know that
971
00:37:41,625 --> 00:37:42,667
it's gonna hit the same.
972
00:37:42,792 --> 00:37:44,667
- Pre-grated? Mm.
- Mm-hmm.
973
00:37:44,792 --> 00:37:47,000
I don't think
it's gonna be as good.
974
00:37:47,167 --> 00:37:50,333
Clint knows that my business
is super important to me.
975
00:37:50,500 --> 00:37:54,500
So tonight, I'm having over for
dinner a few of my stylists.
976
00:37:54,625 --> 00:37:57,625
Hello.
all: Hi.
977
00:37:57,750 --> 00:37:59,000
- Hey.
978
00:37:59,083 --> 00:38:00,458
- She wants to say
hi to everyone.
979
00:38:00,583 --> 00:38:03,167
- Sam, Reyna, Jenn,
and then my friend Aubrey.
980
00:38:03,292 --> 00:38:03,917
- Well, welcome to our
little humble casa.
981
00:38:04,042 --> 00:38:06,417
- Yeah, this is gorgeous.
982
00:38:06,542 --> 00:38:08,417
- They've already
met Clint at the salon.
983
00:38:08,542 --> 00:38:11,292
But these girls, they are
like, a big part of my life.
984
00:38:11,417 --> 00:38:12,833
And so I'm just
excited for them to get
985
00:38:12,958 --> 00:38:15,875
to know Clint a little better.
986
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:19,667
- So what's life like
at the salon with Gina?
987
00:38:19,792 --> 00:38:21,167
- It's constant chaos,
988
00:38:21,292 --> 00:38:22,708
but we make light of,
like, everything.
989
00:38:22,833 --> 00:38:24,375
So--[giggles]
990
00:38:24,500 --> 00:38:27,333
We literally just joke around,
spit some drama.
991
00:38:27,458 --> 00:38:29,333
- It's like organized chaos--
- Spit some drama?
992
00:38:29,458 --> 00:38:31,417
- Organized chaos.
993
00:38:31,542 --> 00:38:33,625
- Gina is very busy,
and she's very educational.
994
00:38:33,750 --> 00:38:36,250
She always shows me
I'm doing this because of this.
995
00:38:36,375 --> 00:38:38,167
She's never just like,
oh, go do this.
996
00:38:38,292 --> 00:38:39,333
Like, there's always
a reason why.
997
00:38:39,500 --> 00:38:41,292
- Everyone's also like,
just, like,
998
00:38:41,417 --> 00:38:42,625
chiming in
and helping each other.
999
00:38:42,708 --> 00:38:44,208
- Yeah.
1000
00:38:44,375 --> 00:38:45,583
- As much as she feels
like she's unorganized,
1001
00:38:45,708 --> 00:38:48,125
she's very organized,
and she's very patient.
1002
00:38:48,208 --> 00:38:49,167
There's five people
asking her a question
1003
00:38:49,292 --> 00:38:51,500
all at the same time,
and she'll be like,
1004
00:38:51,583 --> 00:38:53,667
one, two, three, four,
go back to what she's doing.
1005
00:38:53,750 --> 00:38:55,208
[laughter]
1006
00:38:55,375 --> 00:38:57,833
So she's all over
the place always.
1007
00:38:57,958 --> 00:39:00,458
But yeah, I mean, just,
like, organization
1008
00:39:00,542 --> 00:39:03,417
and, like, just salon life
and co-worker life
1009
00:39:03,542 --> 00:39:05,167
is literally just,
like, insane.
1010
00:39:05,250 --> 00:39:07,167
It's, like, never been
in a better salon in my life.
1011
00:39:07,292 --> 00:39:09,292
- Well, that's nice to hear.
- Yeah.
1012
00:39:09,375 --> 00:39:12,375
I told her I'd be with her
for ten years at least.
1013
00:39:12,542 --> 00:39:15,625
- Gina's element is
the boss lady at the salon.
1014
00:39:15,708 --> 00:39:17,167
It's like, the girls love her.
1015
00:39:17,333 --> 00:39:18,708
And I get why Gina
says they're always
1016
00:39:18,875 --> 00:39:20,167
having fun in the salon.
1017
00:39:20,333 --> 00:39:21,458
Ah, that's
a great environment.
1018
00:39:21,583 --> 00:39:23,042
I absolutely love that.
1019
00:39:23,167 --> 00:39:23,917
And she should be proud,
and I'm proud that
1020
00:39:24,042 --> 00:39:25,500
she's accomplished this.
1021
00:39:25,583 --> 00:39:27,625
So what about y'all?
1022
00:39:27,708 --> 00:39:31,000
We're all married, coupled up,
we're single, mingling?
1023
00:39:31,167 --> 00:39:31,917
- Commitment issues.
1024
00:39:32,042 --> 00:39:33,875
- Commitment issues.
Okay. Yep.
1025
00:39:34,042 --> 00:39:36,375
- What about you?
1026
00:39:36,500 --> 00:39:37,750
- I'm married.
1027
00:39:37,875 --> 00:39:39,625
I'm a married man.
1028
00:39:39,708 --> 00:39:42,167
- We clearly--we clearly
don't have commitment issues.
1029
00:39:42,333 --> 00:39:44,667
- I'm committed
to a relationship,
1030
00:39:44,792 --> 00:39:47,458
and it all hinges
on how good this lasagna is.
1031
00:39:47,583 --> 00:39:48,667
- Oh.
- Oh.
1032
00:39:48,792 --> 00:39:49,542
Oh, you haven't had a bite yet.
1033
00:39:49,667 --> 00:39:52,500
- Oh, my God.
- Ring down the drain.
1034
00:39:52,625 --> 00:39:54,667
- Everybody quiet.
He's about to take a bite.
1035
00:39:54,750 --> 00:39:56,250
- Oh, all right.
1036
00:39:56,375 --> 00:39:58,708
- The moment of truth.
1037
00:39:58,875 --> 00:40:00,417
Ready? Hold your breath.
1038
00:40:00,542 --> 00:40:07,292
♪ ♪
1039
00:40:08,208 --> 00:40:09,500
[laughter]
1040
00:40:09,625 --> 00:40:16,167
♪ ♪
1041
00:40:17,750 --> 00:40:18,958
- Nervous?
1042
00:40:19,042 --> 00:40:20,875
- This is good.
This is solid.
1043
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:22,125
It is very, very tasty.
1044
00:40:22,208 --> 00:40:24,542
Our marriage has
been protected.
1045
00:40:24,708 --> 00:40:26,375
[laughter]
1046
00:40:26,542 --> 00:40:29,125
- ♪ If it ain't broke,
then don't fix it ♪
1047
00:40:29,250 --> 00:40:34,333
♪ Just roll in the moment
if it feels good ♪
1048
00:40:34,417 --> 00:40:36,167
- Are you taking me
to get my nails done?
1049
00:40:36,292 --> 00:40:38,667
- Um, close.
1050
00:40:38,792 --> 00:40:40,583
- Are we redecorating?
1051
00:40:40,708 --> 00:40:43,792
- Maybe. Maybe.
1052
00:40:43,917 --> 00:40:45,583
- Hi, how are you?
- Hello.
1053
00:40:47,375 --> 00:40:49,250
So yes, we're here
because of my dad
1054
00:40:49,375 --> 00:40:50,833
actually owns his own
painting business.
1055
00:40:50,958 --> 00:40:55,208
All of us, like, you know,
Chad, Nate, Brandon, me,
1056
00:40:55,375 --> 00:40:57,250
we all worked
for my dad at one point--
1057
00:40:57,375 --> 00:40:59,167
- Oh, nice.
- For his painting business.
1058
00:40:59,292 --> 00:41:02,000
Today, I want Nicole
to get a feel for, like,
1059
00:41:02,167 --> 00:41:04,833
how my childhood was
and how I was raised
1060
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:06,333
and kind of how I became
the man I am today,
1061
00:41:06,500 --> 00:41:09,167
because these are the last
few weeks before Decision Day,
1062
00:41:09,250 --> 00:41:11,833
and I think it's important
for her
1063
00:41:11,958 --> 00:41:13,625
to understand where I came from
1064
00:41:13,708 --> 00:41:16,417
and like, what I went through,
like, leading up to now
1065
00:41:16,542 --> 00:41:19,500
so that she can make
the right decision.
1066
00:41:19,667 --> 00:41:21,500
Growing up, like, it was tough.
1067
00:41:21,583 --> 00:41:25,250
Like, my mom and dad were
divorced since I can remember.
1068
00:41:25,375 --> 00:41:27,625
And my dad was involved
in our life,
1069
00:41:27,750 --> 00:41:30,500
but we pretty much saw him
like, every other weekend.
1070
00:41:30,625 --> 00:41:32,833
And I always looked forward
to seeing him and going
1071
00:41:32,958 --> 00:41:34,500
and spending time with him,
but, you know,
1072
00:41:34,625 --> 00:41:36,708
there was moments
where things were strained
1073
00:41:36,875 --> 00:41:38,500
because things that
he would say verbally to us.
1074
00:41:38,667 --> 00:41:41,917
And so I didn't really
have that person
1075
00:41:42,042 --> 00:41:44,083
to look up--that male role
model to, like, look up to.
1076
00:41:44,208 --> 00:41:46,417
It was just tough.
1077
00:41:46,542 --> 00:41:48,542
It sucked because, again,
I know that he really cares
1078
00:41:48,708 --> 00:41:50,750
and he loves us,
but it was really hard.
1079
00:41:50,875 --> 00:41:52,083
And I just didn't like it.
1080
00:41:52,208 --> 00:41:54,417
Like, I didn't like
working for my dad.
1081
00:41:54,542 --> 00:41:56,708
Like, he is a perfectionist
with his work.
1082
00:41:56,833 --> 00:41:58,667
And he would give us a certain
assignments and we'd do them.
1083
00:41:58,792 --> 00:42:01,125
And if it wasn't perfect, like,
he wouldn't be happy with it.
1084
00:42:01,208 --> 00:42:02,167
So it was just really hard
working for him.
1085
00:42:02,292 --> 00:42:05,208
But you know,
overall, like, again,
1086
00:42:05,375 --> 00:42:08,292
it was just tough, like,
he just wasn't
1087
00:42:08,375 --> 00:42:10,167
the best role model growing up.
1088
00:42:10,250 --> 00:42:11,208
Like, this whole
husband thing, like,
1089
00:42:11,333 --> 00:42:14,500
it is one of those things,
like, I had to learn
1090
00:42:14,625 --> 00:42:17,458
all that stuff kind of
from other influences
1091
00:42:17,542 --> 00:42:19,500
because, like, I didn't
really learn it from my dad.
1092
00:42:19,625 --> 00:42:21,792
And so I think it made me
realize the type
1093
00:42:21,875 --> 00:42:23,708
of man I didn't wanna be...
- Right.
1094
00:42:23,875 --> 00:42:26,417
- And the type of man
I did wanna be.
1095
00:42:26,542 --> 00:42:28,458
And that is somebody that,
like, my mom could be proud of.
1096
00:42:28,583 --> 00:42:29,958
- I know she's proud of you,
1097
00:42:30,083 --> 00:42:32,000
and I'm so appreciative
you're telling me this
1098
00:42:32,125 --> 00:42:33,292
because it really--
1099
00:42:33,417 --> 00:42:36,458
obviously, I know you're
an amazing person and husband,
1100
00:42:36,542 --> 00:42:39,333
but it's nice to know
kind of behind it.
1101
00:42:39,458 --> 00:42:41,875
And now I really know, like,
you're not just like this
1102
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,667
because you want to make
a good impression.
1103
00:42:43,792 --> 00:42:45,750
Like, this is who
you are to your core
1104
00:42:45,875 --> 00:42:48,542
because of how you grew up
and what you saw
1105
00:42:48,667 --> 00:42:51,833
and what you wish you had seen
from your dad or for your mom.
1106
00:42:51,917 --> 00:42:54,250
I'm definitely getting a better
sense of why Chris is always
1107
00:42:54,375 --> 00:42:57,792
so adamant about making people
feel happy
1108
00:42:57,875 --> 00:42:59,750
and special and loved,
1109
00:42:59,875 --> 00:43:02,833
and I think this is really
deep down rooted in his core,
1110
00:43:02,958 --> 00:43:06,500
and it isn't really relevant
unless you're trying
1111
00:43:06,583 --> 00:43:07,750
to build a lifetime
with someone.
1112
00:43:07,875 --> 00:43:12,500
So I so much so wanna be
his safe space,
1113
00:43:12,667 --> 00:43:13,625
and by him sharing this
with me,
1114
00:43:13,708 --> 00:43:16,000
it's proving that
I am his safe space,
1115
00:43:16,083 --> 00:43:19,083
and that's a great sign
for the future of our marriage.
1116
00:43:19,208 --> 00:43:21,667
- But me and him
have come a long way.
1117
00:43:21,792 --> 00:43:24,500
The biggest turning point
for me was with Kodah.
1118
00:43:24,667 --> 00:43:26,250
It was literally one
of the first times
1119
00:43:26,375 --> 00:43:28,375
where I needed someone
to really watch him.
1120
00:43:28,500 --> 00:43:30,833
And obviously Kodah is my baby.
1121
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:33,500
Like, Kodah is the first dog
I've had on my own.
1122
00:43:33,583 --> 00:43:37,083
And so he will always be
that one and only to me,
1123
00:43:37,208 --> 00:43:38,458
like, regardless.
1124
00:43:38,583 --> 00:43:40,500
And so I had
nobody else to ask.
1125
00:43:40,625 --> 00:43:42,917
And so then I had to ask him.
1126
00:43:43,042 --> 00:43:46,500
He was, right away, volunteered
for it, even met me halfway.
1127
00:43:46,583 --> 00:43:48,625
I think that's where
there was a big turning point,
1128
00:43:48,750 --> 00:43:51,000
not only in him
but our relationship with him.
1129
00:43:51,125 --> 00:43:52,250
- Yeah. That trust factor.
1130
00:43:52,375 --> 00:43:56,167
- I feel like
that was the moment when,
1131
00:43:56,292 --> 00:43:57,833
like, he started to love again.
1132
00:43:57,958 --> 00:44:00,083
And he really enjoyed
the companionship
1133
00:44:00,208 --> 00:44:01,833
that Kodah brought to him.
1134
00:44:01,917 --> 00:44:03,833
And, like, mine and his
relationship became stronger.
1135
00:44:03,917 --> 00:44:04,708
Like, you know,
he came to the wedding,
1136
00:44:04,875 --> 00:44:06,833
and then when
he was there with you...
1137
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,958
- How do you feel about me
calling you Mom and Dad?
1138
00:44:09,042 --> 00:44:09,833
- I love it.
1139
00:44:09,917 --> 00:44:11,417
- I have--
- As long as you feel--
1140
00:44:11,542 --> 00:44:12,833
- I have no problem at all.
1141
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:14,125
- As long as you feel
comfortable about it.
1142
00:44:14,208 --> 00:44:14,792
I love it. So I'm good.
1143
00:44:14,917 --> 00:44:16,750
- I love it too.
- All right.
1144
00:44:16,875 --> 00:44:18,917
- He obviously thought
the world of you.
1145
00:44:19,042 --> 00:44:21,542
He texted me something
that I've never
1146
00:44:21,667 --> 00:44:23,917
been texted before from him,
and that's just how much
1147
00:44:24,042 --> 00:44:27,833
he admired, like,
you and your responses
1148
00:44:27,917 --> 00:44:30,625
and really thought, like,
you're such a good person.
1149
00:44:30,708 --> 00:44:33,375
So, like, I think even
this process has brought us
1150
00:44:33,500 --> 00:44:37,667
even a little bit closer.
1151
00:44:37,833 --> 00:44:40,417
- My past definitely
gives me pause
1152
00:44:40,542 --> 00:44:44,333
whenever I meet
a genuinely nice person
1153
00:44:44,458 --> 00:44:47,000
because I've met
genuinely nice people before
1154
00:44:47,125 --> 00:44:51,083
who have turned out to not
actually be genuinely nice.
1155
00:44:51,208 --> 00:44:55,000
So even though Chris has given
me no reason to doubt him,
1156
00:44:55,083 --> 00:44:57,667
there's still
a little part of me inside,
1157
00:44:57,750 --> 00:45:01,000
even if it was subconscious,
that is always just waiting.
1158
00:45:01,125 --> 00:45:03,417
Like, that was just me
still holding on to the past.
1159
00:45:03,542 --> 00:45:07,417
And now there's not
a single part of my DNA,
1160
00:45:07,542 --> 00:45:10,542
anything in my core
that thinks differently.
1161
00:45:10,708 --> 00:45:13,292
This is our wedding day
color in case.
1162
00:45:13,375 --> 00:45:15,625
- Our wedding day color?
- 725.
1163
00:45:15,750 --> 00:45:17,250
- Oh.
[chuckles]
1164
00:45:17,375 --> 00:45:18,833
- Seaside Resort.
1165
00:45:18,917 --> 00:45:20,417
- I mean, if we retire
to Florida, I mean--
1166
00:45:20,542 --> 00:45:22,792
- I love that.
1167
00:45:22,917 --> 00:45:26,000
- ♪ You do something ♪
1168
00:45:26,125 --> 00:45:28,958
- ♪ To me, baby ♪
1169
00:45:29,042 --> 00:45:36,500
both: ♪ I always wanted you
to know ♪
1170
00:45:36,625 --> 00:45:39,458
- ♪ Right here, right now ♪
1171
00:45:39,542 --> 00:45:42,208
[upbeat music]
1172
00:45:42,333 --> 00:45:43,333
- Oh, yeah.
1173
00:45:43,500 --> 00:45:45,833
This is, uh...
- Who's ready for war?
1174
00:45:45,958 --> 00:45:47,708
[laughter]
1175
00:45:47,833 --> 00:45:50,167
- Today, I really wanted
to bring everybody together
1176
00:45:50,292 --> 00:45:51,167
because we're
going through this together.
1177
00:45:51,333 --> 00:45:53,500
Like, we all have
personal lives going on,
1178
00:45:53,667 --> 00:45:55,167
but we all got married
at first sight.
1179
00:45:55,333 --> 00:45:58,125
So it's good to get
to know a different couple
1180
00:45:58,250 --> 00:46:00,542
outside of just sitting down,
talking about our feelings.
1181
00:46:00,667 --> 00:46:03,208
Like, let's get active.
Let's have a good time.
1182
00:46:03,333 --> 00:46:04,167
- Y'all just can't watch us.
1183
00:46:04,333 --> 00:46:05,667
Go hide.
- Turn around.
1184
00:46:05,833 --> 00:46:12,333
- One, two, three, four,
1185
00:46:12,458 --> 00:46:17,250
five, six, seven,
1186
00:46:17,375 --> 00:46:21,208
eight, nine, ten.
1187
00:46:21,375 --> 00:46:22,417
All right.
1188
00:46:22,542 --> 00:46:24,500
♪ ♪
1189
00:46:24,667 --> 00:46:27,375
- Oh, no!
1190
00:46:27,500 --> 00:46:31,167
[laughter]
1191
00:46:31,292 --> 00:46:34,167
[indistinct chatter]
1192
00:46:34,292 --> 00:46:41,042
♪ ♪
1193
00:46:48,833 --> 00:46:51,000
- They gonna take
all your ammo.
1194
00:46:51,083 --> 00:46:54,125
♪ ♪
1195
00:46:54,208 --> 00:46:56,833
- Once Jasmine and I figured
out how to work these toys,
1196
00:46:56,958 --> 00:46:59,208
we started kicking
the boys' butt.
1197
00:46:59,333 --> 00:47:01,000
- Come out, come out,
wherever y'all are
1198
00:47:01,125 --> 00:47:03,333
because y'all don't
even have any more ammo.
1199
00:47:03,417 --> 00:47:04,125
- Come on.
1200
00:47:04,208 --> 00:47:08,625
- Oh, [bleep].
1201
00:47:08,708 --> 00:47:11,458
- Where you going?
- Oh, [bleep]!
1202
00:47:11,583 --> 00:47:16,083
♪ ♪
1203
00:47:16,208 --> 00:47:18,542
- [yells]
1204
00:47:18,667 --> 00:47:20,458
♪ ♪
1205
00:47:20,542 --> 00:47:23,458
- Oh, [bleep].
- All right, truce.
1206
00:47:23,583 --> 00:47:24,583
- Y'all tired of getting beat?
1207
00:47:24,708 --> 00:47:26,542
[laughter]
1208
00:47:26,667 --> 00:47:27,667
Now what?
1209
00:47:27,792 --> 00:47:30,167
Yeah, y'all really done now.
1210
00:47:30,333 --> 00:47:31,083
[laughter]
1211
00:47:31,208 --> 00:47:34,542
- Oh, man, that was fun.
1212
00:47:34,667 --> 00:47:37,000
- That was fun. I needed it.
1213
00:47:37,083 --> 00:47:40,250
- Let's go get some water.
- Let's go get some water.
1214
00:47:40,375 --> 00:47:41,833
- Where's the water?
1215
00:47:41,958 --> 00:47:43,000
- This is an experience
that, like,
1216
00:47:43,125 --> 00:47:46,333
nobody can understand but us.
1217
00:47:46,417 --> 00:47:49,083
So Jasmine and I can definitely
relate in so many ways.
1218
00:47:49,208 --> 00:47:52,000
So today, I really wanted
to have a female perspective
1219
00:47:52,083 --> 00:47:54,833
and apply it to my marriage.
1220
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:56,292
What's new?
So what's up with y'all?
1221
00:47:56,375 --> 00:47:57,667
How y'all doing?
1222
00:47:57,750 --> 00:48:01,208
- Me and Airris,
I feel like I feel better.
1223
00:48:01,333 --> 00:48:03,250
Airris had shared things
that I didn't know
1224
00:48:03,375 --> 00:48:04,708
that I wanted to know.
1225
00:48:04,875 --> 00:48:07,333
So I felt like
he was very vulnerable.
1226
00:48:07,417 --> 00:48:10,167
So I'm hopeful that, you know,
1227
00:48:10,292 --> 00:48:13,333
we can move
in a better direction.
1228
00:48:13,458 --> 00:48:14,750
- Do you feel like
y'all are growing together
1229
00:48:14,875 --> 00:48:16,500
and everything?
1230
00:48:16,583 --> 00:48:18,667
- Um, some days,
I'm like, okay, yeah,
1231
00:48:18,833 --> 00:48:20,500
we finna be married forever.
1232
00:48:20,625 --> 00:48:21,417
And then other days,
I'm, like, ah,
1233
00:48:21,542 --> 00:48:23,250
he counting down the days
to Decision Day.
1234
00:48:23,375 --> 00:48:25,750
Like, you know?
1235
00:48:25,875 --> 00:48:29,125
So I'm just trying to make sure
that no matter how he feels,
1236
00:48:29,250 --> 00:48:31,333
I'm staying true to my feelings
and not changing my feelings
1237
00:48:31,417 --> 00:48:32,167
because he feels
a certain type of way.
1238
00:48:32,333 --> 00:48:34,458
- You gotta stay
true to yourself.
1239
00:48:34,583 --> 00:48:36,000
- Yeah, I'm trying
to stay true to myself.
1240
00:48:36,167 --> 00:48:38,458
- But what does Jasmine want?
1241
00:48:38,542 --> 00:48:40,667
Jasmine need to hone in
on herself and say,
1242
00:48:40,792 --> 00:48:42,167
okay, this is what
I want out of this.
1243
00:48:42,333 --> 00:48:44,292
And as a Black woman,
as a Black queen,
1244
00:48:44,375 --> 00:48:47,167
you gotta be, like, hey,
you either gonna be my king.
1245
00:48:47,250 --> 00:48:49,167
We gonna sit on
this throne, or you know--
1246
00:48:49,292 --> 00:48:51,333
- Or your gonna fumble me.
1247
00:48:51,500 --> 00:48:52,792
And somebody else gonna
pick up the ball.
1248
00:48:52,917 --> 00:48:53,625
- And somebody gonna pick up.
1249
00:48:53,708 --> 00:48:55,792
So I would definitely say--
1250
00:48:55,875 --> 00:48:56,417
not trying to come on to you
or anything.
1251
00:48:56,542 --> 00:48:58,625
Like, I got my own wife.
1252
00:48:58,708 --> 00:49:00,833
- I don't think you're
trying to come on--[laughs]
1253
00:49:00,958 --> 00:49:02,500
- But like--like, you are
beautiful inside and out.
1254
00:49:02,625 --> 00:49:05,000
Just continue to be yourself.
1255
00:49:05,125 --> 00:49:06,667
But just saying, like--
- I know I'm a bad bitch.
1256
00:49:06,792 --> 00:49:07,667
- You know?
[laughter]
1257
00:49:07,792 --> 00:49:09,708
Just continue
to walk in your truth.
1258
00:49:09,833 --> 00:49:10,875
- Thank you.
- It's definitely for you.
1259
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:12,958
- I appreciate that.
1260
00:49:13,083 --> 00:49:15,625
- So what about
in y'all's house?
1261
00:49:15,708 --> 00:49:16,958
What's going on?
1262
00:49:17,042 --> 00:49:19,083
- Shaquille and I
are definitely making,
1263
00:49:19,208 --> 00:49:22,917
like, progress
in our marriage, you know?
1264
00:49:23,042 --> 00:49:25,625
Like, the attraction
is growing for me.
1265
00:49:25,750 --> 00:49:27,542
And he's so kind.
1266
00:49:27,667 --> 00:49:31,917
Like, he making sure, like,
if I need anything, he does it.
1267
00:49:32,042 --> 00:49:33,333
It gets a little tough
sometimes for Shaquille and I
1268
00:49:33,458 --> 00:49:37,833
when we communicate because
he would say one thing,
1269
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,750
and I'm saying
something similar
1270
00:49:39,875 --> 00:49:41,333
to whatever he's saying.
1271
00:49:41,500 --> 00:49:43,667
I'm like, Shaquille, like,
we're both honestly
1272
00:49:43,792 --> 00:49:46,167
almost on the same page.
1273
00:49:46,292 --> 00:49:47,458
But other than that,
like, we're doing well.
1274
00:49:47,542 --> 00:49:50,667
- I'm happy to hear that.
1275
00:49:50,792 --> 00:49:51,375
- How are you handling things?
1276
00:49:51,542 --> 00:49:56,167
- Um, it's day by day
1277
00:49:56,292 --> 00:49:58,667
because Kirsten have
so much expectations for me.
1278
00:49:58,750 --> 00:50:02,167
And it's, like, as a man--
- Expectations like...?
1279
00:50:02,292 --> 00:50:04,542
- She was showing me
a property that she's over,
1280
00:50:04,667 --> 00:50:06,500
and it was 2.9 million.
1281
00:50:06,583 --> 00:50:07,292
And she was like, yeah, because
you gotta buy me a house,
1282
00:50:07,375 --> 00:50:10,167
and you gotta buy me a car.
1283
00:50:10,333 --> 00:50:12,833
And I was like, whoa,
like, we just got married.
1284
00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:14,500
Like, we gotta get past
Decision Day.
1285
00:50:14,625 --> 00:50:16,375
And when I say things
like that, it's kind of like,
1286
00:50:16,542 --> 00:50:18,333
oh, shoot, like, this man
may not wanna be with me
1287
00:50:18,458 --> 00:50:21,083
and it kind of, like,
pushes her back.
1288
00:50:21,208 --> 00:50:22,958
- Yeah, I wouldn't say that.
- And I try not to.
1289
00:50:23,042 --> 00:50:24,500
But I'm like, you know--
1290
00:50:24,667 --> 00:50:26,958
I just wanna make sure that
we are planning for the future.
1291
00:50:27,042 --> 00:50:29,000
- Well, I think
she is if she's telling you
1292
00:50:29,125 --> 00:50:30,500
to look for y'all a house.
1293
00:50:30,625 --> 00:50:32,000
- Yeah, it's--but it's
so much expectation.
1294
00:50:32,125 --> 00:50:33,333
And I think I--
1295
00:50:33,458 --> 00:50:34,458
- Well, yeah, I mean,
2.9 million, that's--
1296
00:50:34,583 --> 00:50:36,083
- Yeah, I think--I think
the expectations
1297
00:50:36,208 --> 00:50:38,875
come from,
her dad was always the--
1298
00:50:39,042 --> 00:50:40,792
the bringing home
the bread in the house
1299
00:50:40,917 --> 00:50:42,042
and always being there, like--
1300
00:50:42,208 --> 00:50:45,125
- So have you been able to get
that insight from her dad?
1301
00:50:45,250 --> 00:50:46,792
- I haven't met her dad yet.
1302
00:50:46,875 --> 00:50:48,542
- You still haven't met him?
1303
00:50:48,708 --> 00:50:50,583
Does that bother you?
1304
00:50:50,708 --> 00:50:53,375
- Not really, but I always
had this imagination of,
1305
00:50:53,542 --> 00:50:56,208
you know, meeting--
- It doesn't bother you?
1306
00:50:56,333 --> 00:50:58,250
♪ ♪
1307
00:50:58,375 --> 00:51:05,125
- Okay, so it does.
- Okay.
1308
00:51:05,250 --> 00:51:08,333
- ♪ Yeah, I'm feeling you,
catching a vibe ♪
1309
00:51:08,458 --> 00:51:09,958
♪ Everything about you
drives me crazy ♪
1310
00:51:10,083 --> 00:51:13,125
♪ I'm feeling you,
catching a vibe ♪
1311
00:51:13,208 --> 00:51:14,583
- What do you wanna do
tonight?
1312
00:51:14,708 --> 00:51:16,333
- I was thinking maybe
we paint something.
1313
00:51:16,417 --> 00:51:17,000
- I'm down to try whatever.
1314
00:51:17,125 --> 00:51:19,500
- All right.
1315
00:51:19,667 --> 00:51:21,208
Got some paint in here.
1316
00:51:21,375 --> 00:51:22,875
It's been
an extremely heavy week.
1317
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,625
It's weighed so much
on both of us,
1318
00:51:25,708 --> 00:51:28,917
it's been so much stuff
to dive into with each other
1319
00:51:29,042 --> 00:51:31,500
that it's nice
to kind of end the week
1320
00:51:31,625 --> 00:51:33,333
on a fun note
with this painting.
1321
00:51:33,500 --> 00:51:34,833
- Would you still be attracted
to me if I had
1322
00:51:34,958 --> 00:51:37,833
a mustache face tattoo on?
1323
00:51:37,917 --> 00:51:40,042
- Um, do what you
gotta do, honey.
1324
00:51:40,208 --> 00:51:42,875
- Uh-huh. Uh-huh.
1325
00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:47,042
- You look like
a 1930s villain.
1326
00:51:47,167 --> 00:51:50,500
- Mwa-ha-ha-ha.
Let me twirl my mustache.
1327
00:51:50,667 --> 00:51:52,542
- You gotta work
on the laugh, though.
1328
00:51:52,667 --> 00:51:55,333
- Mwa-ha--it's really hard
because I can't move my mouth
1329
00:51:55,500 --> 00:51:56,875
too much, but I'll work on it.
1330
00:51:57,042 --> 00:51:58,833
But first I need a kiss.
1331
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:01,958
♪ ♪
1332
00:52:02,042 --> 00:52:04,292
[in French accent]
I like ze Chris a lot.
1333
00:52:04,375 --> 00:52:07,500
Eh, oh, mi amore Chris.
1334
00:52:07,625 --> 00:52:08,667
Now, I'm switching.
1335
00:52:08,750 --> 00:52:10,833
[in Italian accent] And I'm-a
switching-a languages.
1336
00:52:10,958 --> 00:52:11,333
Mi amore, Christopher.
1337
00:52:11,417 --> 00:52:13,833
We are painting.
1338
00:52:13,958 --> 00:52:15,500
It's like-a the Mona the Lisa.
1339
00:52:15,625 --> 00:52:17,750
Oh, ho-ho,
and I twirl my mustache.
1340
00:52:17,875 --> 00:52:19,708
Oh-ho, oh-ho.
1341
00:52:19,833 --> 00:52:20,208
[speaking normally]
I lost the plot a little bit.
1342
00:52:20,333 --> 00:52:24,083
[dog barking]
1343
00:52:24,208 --> 00:52:25,333
Yeah, that's getting wild.
1344
00:52:25,458 --> 00:52:27,625
Let me see what you got.
1345
00:52:27,750 --> 00:52:28,167
- Zero.
1346
00:52:28,292 --> 00:52:30,333
I used purple, see?
1347
00:52:30,458 --> 00:52:32,875
That's your favorite color.
1348
00:52:33,042 --> 00:52:34,667
07.
1349
00:52:34,792 --> 00:52:35,750
Put a little dash.
1350
00:52:35,875 --> 00:52:39,042
♪ ♪
1351
00:52:39,208 --> 00:52:40,708
Okay. Look at that.
1352
00:52:40,833 --> 00:52:41,833
- Yeah. I love it.
1353
00:52:41,958 --> 00:52:44,167
I mustache you a question.
1354
00:52:44,292 --> 00:52:47,417
Did you learn anything
about me that, like,
1355
00:52:47,542 --> 00:52:50,167
kind of changed your mind
about me or anything?
1356
00:52:50,292 --> 00:52:52,667
- Obviously, you went
through some stages
1357
00:52:52,750 --> 00:52:55,167
in your life and some things
that you're not
1358
00:52:55,250 --> 00:52:57,167
necessarily super proud of.
1359
00:52:57,333 --> 00:52:59,833
But you know, I don't know
if there's anything
1360
00:52:59,958 --> 00:53:02,000
you would change
about your life to this point.
1361
00:53:02,125 --> 00:53:04,375
But I think, you know,
you definitely
1362
00:53:04,500 --> 00:53:05,667
have done a lot of growing.
1363
00:53:05,792 --> 00:53:08,667
- Truthfully, I would live
my life exactly the same way
1364
00:53:08,792 --> 00:53:12,167
over again if it meant
being here now
1365
00:53:12,292 --> 00:53:15,042
drawing a fun painting
with my husband
1366
00:53:15,208 --> 00:53:16,667
on a Saturday night.
1367
00:53:16,750 --> 00:53:19,625
So for all of that,
I would not change it.
1368
00:53:19,708 --> 00:53:21,458
♪ ♪
1369
00:53:21,583 --> 00:53:23,583
[in French accent]
Oh-ho-ho, I am Pierre.
1370
00:53:23,708 --> 00:53:24,458
No, I have to work on it.
Can you help me?
1371
00:53:24,583 --> 00:53:26,625
Do you have a good
French accent?
1372
00:53:26,750 --> 00:53:28,417
- [in Italian accent]
It's-a me, Christopher,
1373
00:53:28,542 --> 00:53:31,167
doing a nice painting
with my wife-a.
1374
00:53:31,333 --> 00:53:32,500
- How would the old man
describe this painting?
1375
00:53:32,583 --> 00:53:35,917
- [as old man] Well, we have
a nice little dinosaur here.
1376
00:53:36,042 --> 00:53:36,583
Derby the Dino.
1377
00:53:36,708 --> 00:53:38,333
And then we have a pineapple.
1378
00:53:38,417 --> 00:53:40,667
'Cause that's what you like.
1379
00:53:40,750 --> 00:53:42,833
You like them pineapples.
I see you eyeing me.
1380
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:44,500
- This is such a me moment,
1381
00:53:44,625 --> 00:53:47,667
and I am so unapologetically
myself right now.
1382
00:53:47,792 --> 00:53:50,583
And the fact that
he doesn't judge me
1383
00:53:50,708 --> 00:53:53,667
and I'm not embarrassed
or afraid at all
1384
00:53:53,792 --> 00:53:55,500
that he'll think it's weird,
I think is amazing
1385
00:53:55,625 --> 00:53:57,792
because I've never
felt this way before.
1386
00:53:57,917 --> 00:53:59,667
- [as old man] And a sunshine
that looks like
1387
00:53:59,792 --> 00:54:00,292
it might be blind.
1388
00:54:00,375 --> 00:54:03,000
I'm not sure.
1389
00:54:03,167 --> 00:54:05,708
- This painting is
a cluster [bleep].
1390
00:54:05,833 --> 00:54:08,667
But it'll be nice
to have in our future home,
1391
00:54:08,792 --> 00:54:09,958
and we can look
at it in 20 years
1392
00:54:10,042 --> 00:54:12,750
and say, remember when we did
that really silly painting?
1393
00:54:12,875 --> 00:54:14,792
And it'll be something
we laugh at.
1394
00:54:14,917 --> 00:54:16,125
- I think you should
grow out a real mustache.
1395
00:54:16,250 --> 00:54:17,833
- Okay.
1396
00:54:17,917 --> 00:54:20,667
It would save me a lot of money
in waxing bills, so sure.
1397
00:54:20,750 --> 00:54:24,000
- ♪ You're all that
I want tonight ♪
1398
00:54:24,167 --> 00:54:25,667
♪ I wanna run ♪
1399
00:54:25,792 --> 00:54:29,458
♪ Believe me,
if you light my fire ♪
1400
00:54:29,583 --> 00:54:31,750
♪ You light my fire ♪
1401
00:54:31,875 --> 00:54:33,542
♪ ♪
1402
00:54:33,667 --> 00:54:36,542
- Long day.
- Long day.
1403
00:54:37,375 --> 00:54:39,917
I got this--
1404
00:54:40,042 --> 00:54:42,333
I got a letter that
my dad wrote my mom.
1405
00:54:42,417 --> 00:54:46,167
So like, sometimes
I'll just, like, reread it
1406
00:54:46,250 --> 00:54:49,958
'cause it's kind of cool, like,
hearing him tell his story.
1407
00:54:50,083 --> 00:54:52,667
I'm taking the lead on being
emotionally vulnerable.
1408
00:54:52,833 --> 00:54:55,292
It seems like Jasmine
really appreciates me
1409
00:54:55,375 --> 00:54:56,333
showing this side of me,
you know?
1410
00:54:56,500 --> 00:54:59,667
I think this particular letter,
1411
00:54:59,792 --> 00:55:01,000
maybe my mom
hadn't talked to him.
1412
00:55:01,125 --> 00:55:03,167
Could have been three months,
could have been five months,
1413
00:55:03,250 --> 00:55:03,958
eight months,
you know, I don't--
1414
00:55:04,042 --> 00:55:06,042
I don't know how long, but--
1415
00:55:08,958 --> 00:55:12,667
All right, so this letter is
dated before you was born--
1416
00:55:12,792 --> 00:55:14,417
- What?
- October 17, 1989.
1417
00:55:14,542 --> 00:55:16,375
- Oh, yeah, I wasn't born.
[giggles]
1418
00:55:16,542 --> 00:55:19,833
- It says,
"Dear Laurie, first of all,
1419
00:55:19,958 --> 00:55:23,083
"I want to say I still
love you both very much.
1420
00:55:23,208 --> 00:55:24,542
"I miss you guys,
and I want to say
1421
00:55:24,708 --> 00:55:27,250
"I'm sorry for anything
that I've done
1422
00:55:27,375 --> 00:55:29,583
"that caused us
to be apart for so long.
1423
00:55:29,708 --> 00:55:31,917
"Airris is a blessed child
to have a mother
1424
00:55:32,042 --> 00:55:34,000
"that truly loves him.
1425
00:55:34,125 --> 00:55:35,750
"I love him too, Laurie.
1426
00:55:35,875 --> 00:55:37,500
"It's time
that I show him that.
1427
00:55:37,625 --> 00:55:38,458
"I need my son to be
a part of my life
1428
00:55:38,583 --> 00:55:41,833
"so that I can be whole again.
1429
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:44,375
"I felt empty and miserable
without knowing where he was
1430
00:55:44,500 --> 00:55:46,833
"and what he was doing.
1431
00:55:46,958 --> 00:55:47,917
"And now I can say
with assurance
1432
00:55:48,042 --> 00:55:51,708
"that I handle responsibility
a lot better.
1433
00:55:51,875 --> 00:55:52,375
"Airris is a part
of that responsibility
1434
00:55:52,542 --> 00:55:54,542
"that I speak of.
1435
00:55:54,667 --> 00:55:58,167
"I am now in a better position
to take care of him.
1436
00:55:58,333 --> 00:56:00,000
"I'm looking forward
to seeing both
1437
00:56:00,125 --> 00:56:01,667
"my son and his lovely mother.
1438
00:56:01,792 --> 00:56:03,500
"That will make me
the happiest man alive.
1439
00:56:03,625 --> 00:56:05,083
"I love you both.
1440
00:56:05,208 --> 00:56:08,292
Sincerely yours,
Irving Williams."
1441
00:56:08,417 --> 00:56:10,333
- That was a sweet letter.
1442
00:56:10,458 --> 00:56:11,958
You just read it
from time to time?
1443
00:56:12,042 --> 00:56:13,792
- Mm-hmm.
1444
00:56:13,917 --> 00:56:14,792
Or have, like, a picture of it,
like, saved in my phone
1445
00:56:14,917 --> 00:56:18,583
so I can always, like,
read it if I need to.
1446
00:56:18,708 --> 00:56:21,833
- What are the things that
make you wanna read it?
1447
00:56:21,958 --> 00:56:23,875
- Anything.
It could be Father's Day.
1448
00:56:24,042 --> 00:56:26,458
I might drive by a park
and see a man
1449
00:56:26,583 --> 00:56:28,583
and his son playing catch.
1450
00:56:28,708 --> 00:56:30,750
It can be, like,
a multitude of things.
1451
00:56:30,875 --> 00:56:33,333
- That's a great representation
of just like,
1452
00:56:33,417 --> 00:56:35,708
showing his character
and that, you know,
1453
00:56:35,875 --> 00:56:37,833
he wanted to be a part
of your life,
1454
00:56:37,917 --> 00:56:40,000
that he was trying
to be better and he, like,
1455
00:56:40,125 --> 00:56:43,375
acknowledged, like, whatever it
was, you know, that happened.
1456
00:56:43,542 --> 00:56:45,042
But I feel like
writing that letter
1457
00:56:45,208 --> 00:56:47,792
just shows, like, he loved you.
1458
00:56:47,917 --> 00:56:51,125
It feels really good
that he opened up to me.
1459
00:56:51,250 --> 00:56:53,917
He was definitely being
more vulnerable and, you know,
1460
00:56:54,042 --> 00:56:55,750
digging deep
because I had told him
1461
00:56:55,875 --> 00:56:57,917
I wanted to have
deeper conversations.
1462
00:56:58,042 --> 00:56:59,000
So I felt like, you know,
1463
00:56:59,083 --> 00:57:02,083
he was making an effort,
you know, to do that.
1464
00:57:02,208 --> 00:57:05,875
I feel like it is putting us
in a different space of maybe
1465
00:57:06,042 --> 00:57:08,125
he is ready to put more
into the marriage.
1466
00:57:08,208 --> 00:57:09,792
So you know,
I'm hopeful that, you know,
1467
00:57:09,875 --> 00:57:11,917
we'll make it
on the other side of this.
1468
00:57:12,042 --> 00:57:15,833
- He used to always, like,
say that when I turned 16,
1469
00:57:15,958 --> 00:57:18,000
he was gonna buy me a Mercedes.
1470
00:57:18,167 --> 00:57:21,500
Hopefully, I'll have a son,
and I can buy him
1471
00:57:21,625 --> 00:57:23,875
a Mercedes when he turns 16--
- [giggles]
1472
00:57:24,000 --> 00:57:25,333
- So he can get all
the girls at school.
1473
00:57:25,458 --> 00:57:26,458
- Oh, 'cause he gonna
get the girls
1474
00:57:26,583 --> 00:57:27,333
'cause he drives a Mercedes?
1475
00:57:27,500 --> 00:57:28,917
- I mean,
he gonna look like me.
1476
00:57:29,042 --> 00:57:30,792
So they already
gonna be on him,
1477
00:57:30,917 --> 00:57:32,458
but then the Benz
is gonna, like...
1478
00:57:32,583 --> 00:57:35,208
- Oh, okay.
- Take them over the top.
1479
00:57:35,375 --> 00:57:38,833
- Great.
[laughing]
1480
00:57:38,917 --> 00:57:41,750
♪ ♪
1481
00:57:41,875 --> 00:57:43,417
nothing ♪
1482
00:57:43,542 --> 00:57:46,250
[upbeat music]
1483
00:57:46,375 --> 00:57:47,708
- Today was fun for, like, you
and Jasmine to be on the team
1484
00:57:47,833 --> 00:57:49,667
and me and him be a team,
like, going--
1485
00:57:49,833 --> 00:57:51,042
like, husbands going
against their wives,
1486
00:57:51,208 --> 00:57:53,000
wives going against
their husbands.
1487
00:57:53,125 --> 00:57:54,083
It really took us out
of our comfort zone and, like,
1488
00:57:54,208 --> 00:57:58,542
I'm glad we got to go out
with another couple
1489
00:57:58,708 --> 00:58:02,167
and, you know,
just see how they're doing.
1490
00:58:02,292 --> 00:58:03,583
That sounded good.
1491
00:58:03,708 --> 00:58:04,875
You 'bout to lick that plate.
1492
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:07,083
- The sound is always good.
1493
00:58:07,208 --> 00:58:09,833
So how did the talk
go with Jasmine?
1494
00:58:09,958 --> 00:58:12,792
- We were just talking
about their relationship
1495
00:58:12,917 --> 00:58:15,375
and, you know, how's it going,
1496
00:58:15,542 --> 00:58:17,292
and I definitely
tell them about like,
1497
00:58:17,375 --> 00:58:20,167
your expectations were
for me to buy you a house.
1498
00:58:20,250 --> 00:58:24,083
- I don't think those are
high expectations in my eyes.
1499
00:58:24,208 --> 00:58:26,792
I mean, I do wanna replace
my Mercedes with a Lamborghini.
1500
00:58:26,875 --> 00:58:29,708
I would love that.
1501
00:58:29,833 --> 00:58:31,667
- I can replace your Mercedes
with a Honda.
1502
00:58:31,792 --> 00:58:33,167
- [chuckles]
1503
00:58:33,292 --> 00:58:34,167
But that wouldn't
make you satisfied, huh?
1504
00:58:34,333 --> 00:58:35,667
- Nope.
1505
00:58:35,792 --> 00:58:38,958
- Or a Toyota
or any other brand?
1506
00:58:39,083 --> 00:58:40,375
So that's a high expectation?
1507
00:58:40,500 --> 00:58:42,292
- I'm joking with you.
1508
00:58:42,375 --> 00:58:43,500
- Kirsten, you not joking.
1509
00:58:43,583 --> 00:58:44,583
- I am!
1510
00:58:44,708 --> 00:58:46,667
About the car situation.
1511
00:58:46,792 --> 00:58:50,167
- About the car, about the
house, about everything.
1512
00:58:54,167 --> 00:58:57,167
- Okay.
You wanna be married to them?
1513
00:58:57,250 --> 00:58:59,625
- That's not what I said.
Don't blow my words.
1514
00:58:59,750 --> 00:59:01,542
Don't blow things out
of proportion and, you know,
1515
00:59:01,708 --> 00:59:03,667
get to acting crazy right now.
1516
00:59:03,833 --> 00:59:04,625
That's not what I said.
1517
00:59:04,708 --> 00:59:05,000
- That works
for their marriage.
1518
00:59:05,125 --> 00:59:07,500
- Yeah.
1519
00:59:07,625 --> 00:59:09,000
- And I'm happy for them
and proud for them,
1520
00:59:09,167 --> 00:59:11,542
but you can't compare
what they have going on
1521
00:59:11,708 --> 00:59:13,125
to what we have going on.
1522
00:59:13,208 --> 00:59:15,500
- We're not about
to turn this conversation
1523
00:59:15,625 --> 00:59:16,750
into this tonight.
1524
00:59:16,875 --> 00:59:18,333
- You're scared
to talk about it?
1525
00:59:18,417 --> 00:59:20,208
- No, why would I be scared
to talk about it?
1526
00:59:20,333 --> 00:59:21,042
We already had
this conversation before.
1527
00:59:21,167 --> 00:59:23,000
- Oh, okay.
1528
00:59:23,125 --> 00:59:24,167
So you don't wanna
talk about it?
1529
00:59:24,250 --> 00:59:25,333
- No.
1530
00:59:25,417 --> 00:59:26,708
- Okay, I do.
1531
00:59:26,833 --> 00:59:29,167
- It's okay.
1532
00:59:29,292 --> 00:59:31,417
- Can you chew first
before you talk, please?
1533
00:59:31,542 --> 00:59:32,542
- I'm covering my mouth.
1534
00:59:32,667 --> 00:59:35,208
- I still hear it.
1535
00:59:35,333 --> 00:59:36,500
- [swallows]
1536
00:59:36,583 --> 00:59:38,375
Can you hand me
a napkin, please?
1537
00:59:38,500 --> 00:59:40,417
- Okay.
1538
00:59:40,542 --> 00:59:41,625
Because you'd be
so quick to not
1539
00:59:41,708 --> 00:59:42,500
want to have conversations.
1540
00:59:42,625 --> 00:59:44,000
So I'm gonna have
the conversation.
1541
00:59:44,083 --> 00:59:46,167
- What's your conversation?
You already just said it.
1542
00:59:46,250 --> 00:59:47,500
You said not
comparing marriage.
1543
00:59:47,583 --> 00:59:49,250
- Look. Can I talk?
Can I talk?
1544
00:59:49,375 --> 00:59:51,833
- You are acting crazy.
Here you go acting crazy.
1545
00:59:51,958 --> 00:59:53,708
I'm not acting crazy
with you tonight.
1546
00:59:53,833 --> 00:59:55,667
Say all you wanna say.
1547
00:59:55,833 --> 00:59:57,500
Let's hear it.
1548
00:59:57,667 --> 01:00:00,167
- I think if you don't get
what you want, then you just--
1549
01:00:00,250 --> 01:00:03,083
you think is a failure,
or you think it's--
1550
01:00:03,208 --> 01:00:04,583
you're gonna feel
some type of way.
1551
01:00:04,708 --> 01:00:07,667
- You know,
I'm just joking with you.
1552
01:00:07,792 --> 01:00:09,000
- I remember you telling me,
like, Shaquille,
1553
01:00:09,125 --> 01:00:11,000
everything doesn't
have to be playful.
1554
01:00:11,125 --> 01:00:14,083
Like, from the get-go,
you got mad at me
1555
01:00:14,208 --> 01:00:16,583
because all I did was,
you know,
1556
01:00:16,708 --> 01:00:17,917
make jokes or make light
of the situation.
1557
01:00:18,042 --> 01:00:21,708
- They always talk about
how I feel like
1558
01:00:21,833 --> 01:00:22,750
you play and joke around a lot.
1559
01:00:22,875 --> 01:00:24,333
- You don't like
the sense of humor, though?
1560
01:00:24,500 --> 01:00:25,667
- A little sense of humor.
- What's a little?
1561
01:00:25,750 --> 01:00:27,292
- Like, it's a time
and place for everything.
1562
01:00:27,375 --> 01:00:28,208
- What's a little?
1563
01:00:28,375 --> 01:00:28,833
- You're going overboard,
then I'll be like,
1564
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,667
okay, Shaquille, enough.
1565
01:00:31,750 --> 01:00:33,708
♪ ♪
1566
01:00:33,875 --> 01:00:36,667
- I don't wanna joke around,
you know, buying a house
1567
01:00:36,792 --> 01:00:38,375
if that's not the expectation.
1568
01:00:38,500 --> 01:00:40,667
But when you said it,
I knew at that point, like,
1569
01:00:40,792 --> 01:00:42,542
okay, this is her expectation,
1570
01:00:42,667 --> 01:00:44,500
and this is what
she said she wanted.
1571
01:00:44,625 --> 01:00:50,583
- Shaquille, once we make it
to that level in our marriage,
1572
01:00:50,708 --> 01:00:52,167
we can talk about
finding the house
1573
01:00:52,250 --> 01:00:53,833
and whatever
we get approved for.
1574
01:00:53,958 --> 01:00:55,000
- The house for $3 million?
1575
01:00:55,125 --> 01:00:58,167
- No,
whatever we get approved for,
1576
01:00:58,292 --> 01:01:01,125
and whenever that time comes
is what we will look for.
1577
01:01:01,250 --> 01:01:02,583
- Yeah, but at that point,
when you said it,
1578
01:01:02,708 --> 01:01:04,583
it wasn't a we thing.
1579
01:01:04,708 --> 01:01:06,250
It had nothing to do
with Kirsten.
1580
01:01:06,375 --> 01:01:10,125
It was, Shaquille,
this is what you need to do.
1581
01:01:10,250 --> 01:01:12,708
And now, like, to hear now,
it's like, well,
1582
01:01:12,833 --> 01:01:14,625
I was just joking
in that manner
1583
01:01:14,708 --> 01:01:16,250
and you know,
what we need to do.
1584
01:01:16,375 --> 01:01:19,792
That wasn't the expectation
that you first said.
1585
01:01:19,917 --> 01:01:21,458
It wasn't.
1586
01:01:21,583 --> 01:01:23,708
- I don't understand why
Shaquille feels like
1587
01:01:23,875 --> 01:01:25,167
it's so much pressure
right now
1588
01:01:25,250 --> 01:01:26,250
because I just made
a little comment.
1589
01:01:26,375 --> 01:01:29,750
I just feel like
he's overreacting right now.
1590
01:01:29,875 --> 01:01:32,333
Pump the brakes, honey.
Calm down.
1591
01:01:32,458 --> 01:01:34,917
Shaquille, I don't want you
to overthink it,
1592
01:01:35,042 --> 01:01:36,208
and I don't want you
to put that kind of pressure
1593
01:01:36,375 --> 01:01:37,542
on yourself.
1594
01:01:37,667 --> 01:01:39,667
Like, we're gonna be fine--
1595
01:01:39,792 --> 01:01:40,750
just know that.
1596
01:01:40,875 --> 01:01:41,250
We're gonna be great.
1597
01:01:41,375 --> 01:01:47,375
♪ ♪
1598
01:01:47,542 --> 01:01:49,167
- There we go.
1599
01:01:49,333 --> 01:01:50,000
- Next time on
"Married at First Sight"...
1600
01:01:50,125 --> 01:01:52,042
- ♪ Let's get naughty ♪
1601
01:01:52,167 --> 01:01:55,167
- A whip.
- Are you trying to kidnap me?
1602
01:01:55,292 --> 01:01:57,708
It's getting
very hot and bothered.
1603
01:01:57,833 --> 01:02:00,333
- ♪ Everyone,
let's get naughty ♪
1604
01:02:00,417 --> 01:02:02,458
- Here's to getting...
- Physi-cal?
1605
01:02:02,583 --> 01:02:03,542
- Getting physi-cal.
1606
01:02:03,667 --> 01:02:05,542
- Do you feel like
you're getting your needs met?
1607
01:02:05,667 --> 01:02:06,792
- Um, no.
1608
01:02:06,917 --> 01:02:08,292
[music winds down]
1609
01:02:08,375 --> 01:02:09,167
I ain't trying
to be your friend.
1610
01:02:09,333 --> 01:02:10,583
I'm trying to be your wife.
1611
01:02:10,708 --> 01:02:12,875
- Do you think he's masculine?
1612
01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,125
- Um...
1613
01:02:15,208 --> 01:02:18,000
- There's not a sexual desire
on either of our parts.
1614
01:02:18,083 --> 01:02:19,917
- Do you all have
sexual desires
1615
01:02:20,042 --> 01:02:21,542
independent of one another?
- Yeah.
1616
01:02:21,667 --> 01:02:22,875
♪ ♪
1617
01:02:23,042 --> 01:02:24,667
- I'm not gonna beg you.
1618
01:02:24,833 --> 01:02:25,708
- I don't want you to beg me.
1619
01:02:25,875 --> 01:02:31,333
- I didn't realize
I had so many issues.
1620
01:02:31,417 --> 01:02:32,083
- I think I'm just
at a point where
1621
01:02:32,208 --> 01:02:34,333
I'm at my breaking point.
1622
01:02:34,458 --> 01:02:39,500
♪ ♪