1 00:00:20,047 --> 00:00:25,047 Provided by explosiveskull https://twitter.com/kaboomskull 2 00:01:18,444 --> 00:01:19,879 Sorry, I'm nervous. 3 00:01:19,912 --> 00:01:21,915 It's okay. No rush. 4 00:01:23,382 --> 00:01:25,184 Let's talk boundaries. 5 00:01:25,216 --> 00:01:27,486 I'm up for anything. No boundaries for me. 6 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:29,188 What? 7 00:01:32,358 --> 00:01:35,761 Did you talk about your boundaries before this? 8 00:01:35,793 --> 00:01:37,896 Well, sort of. Maybe... not really. 9 00:01:37,930 --> 00:01:43,302 Well, um, is there anything you don't want Juna to do? 10 00:01:43,334 --> 00:01:45,838 I don't know. I didn't really think about that. 11 00:01:46,671 --> 00:01:47,873 What about you, Juna? 12 00:01:47,906 --> 00:01:50,976 Is there anything you don't want Kali to do? 13 00:01:51,609 --> 00:01:52,879 Um... 14 00:01:53,311 --> 00:01:55,780 No. 15 00:01:55,813 --> 00:01:57,516 What if she ignores you? 16 00:02:00,852 --> 00:02:02,155 That depends. 17 00:02:04,156 --> 00:02:10,096 So, you're okay, if she pays no attention to you whatsoever? 18 00:02:10,695 --> 00:02:11,730 Oh. 19 00:02:11,764 --> 00:02:13,399 I didn't say that. 20 00:02:13,431 --> 00:02:16,067 You know, the most important thing is to listen. 21 00:02:16,100 --> 00:02:19,572 So, if something doesn't feel right, then speak up. 22 00:03:37,782 --> 00:03:39,718 Maybe we could have dinner next time. 23 00:03:39,752 --> 00:03:41,287 Only if I get to eat off you two. 24 00:03:41,319 --> 00:03:44,389 Oh, my God. You never want to eat off of me. 25 00:03:45,556 --> 00:03:46,425 Okay. 26 00:03:48,661 --> 00:03:51,296 - Thank you. - Oh, wait. Three... 27 00:04:05,877 --> 00:04:06,945 I move in the way 28 00:04:06,979 --> 00:04:08,648 I know how to make myself come, 29 00:04:08,681 --> 00:04:10,116 and when I'm close, 30 00:04:10,149 --> 00:04:13,618 I pull Kali's hair and kiss her with abandon. 31 00:04:13,651 --> 00:04:17,188 I'm in ecstasy as my climax erases all thought, 32 00:04:17,221 --> 00:04:21,526 and I'm fully present with this couple I hardly know. 33 00:04:25,396 --> 00:04:28,867 It's strange, though, for the first time in ten years, 34 00:04:28,901 --> 00:04:32,538 in the end, I feel... nothing. 35 00:04:33,706 --> 00:04:35,040 Hmm. 36 00:04:36,408 --> 00:04:37,310 No. 37 00:04:38,343 --> 00:04:41,913 In the end, I'm still amazed 38 00:04:41,947 --> 00:04:43,949 that three people can come together 39 00:04:43,982 --> 00:04:47,620 in mutual desire and not fall apart. 40 00:05:02,201 --> 00:05:03,136 Nice. 41 00:05:09,507 --> 00:05:12,177 Hey, you're Veronica Willow right? 42 00:05:12,211 --> 00:05:14,180 - Veronica Williams. - Yeah. Do I know you? 43 00:05:14,213 --> 00:05:16,949 - I'm a super fan of your blog. - Oh, cool. 44 00:05:16,982 --> 00:05:19,785 Yeah. Sex with intention, I love that! 45 00:05:19,817 --> 00:05:22,921 - Thank you. - It's, like, about love and connection, right? 46 00:05:22,954 --> 00:05:24,656 Exactly, yeah. 47 00:05:24,689 --> 00:05:26,625 I can't believe I'm standing here talking to you. 48 00:05:26,658 --> 00:05:28,628 This is nuts. Right in front of my building. 49 00:05:30,062 --> 00:05:31,697 Can I take a selfie real quick? 50 00:05:31,730 --> 00:05:33,566 - Uh, sure. - Just real quick. 51 00:05:33,598 --> 00:05:34,899 - Get that for me. - Okay. 52 00:05:34,932 --> 00:05:36,569 - Thanks. I got short thumbs. - Okay. 53 00:05:36,601 --> 00:05:38,137 Yeah, I'll put that right on my Instagram. 54 00:05:38,170 --> 00:05:39,672 - Okay, nice to meet you. - I got, like, 38 followers. 55 00:05:39,704 --> 00:05:44,043 Hey, I'm so curious about that polyamory stuff. 56 00:05:44,076 --> 00:05:45,511 Yeah, a lot of people are. It's... 57 00:05:45,543 --> 00:05:47,012 It's wild, right? 58 00:05:48,379 --> 00:05:49,314 Yeah. 59 00:05:49,348 --> 00:05:50,983 Yeah, cool. If you have any questions, 60 00:05:51,016 --> 00:05:52,785 just leave a comment and I'll respond. 61 00:05:52,817 --> 00:05:54,486 I got to say, 62 00:05:54,519 --> 00:05:56,955 you are so gorgeous... 63 00:05:56,988 --> 00:05:58,858 Like, right here right now. Are you... 64 00:05:58,891 --> 00:06:00,225 - I mean... - Thank you. 65 00:06:00,259 --> 00:06:03,795 You ever think about doing porn or, you know? 66 00:06:05,396 --> 00:06:06,331 No. 67 00:06:06,798 --> 00:06:08,100 No. Have you? 68 00:06:09,802 --> 00:06:10,770 Watch out. 69 00:06:18,677 --> 00:06:20,046 And, up. 70 00:06:21,579 --> 00:06:25,250 And Swan Dive down. 71 00:06:25,283 --> 00:06:29,055 If you're warmed up, go ahead to the Upward-Facing Dog. 72 00:06:31,523 --> 00:06:32,658 And, breathe. 73 00:06:32,690 --> 00:06:36,094 From here, reach forward with the right hand, 74 00:06:36,127 --> 00:06:37,829 reverse the Warrior. 75 00:06:39,730 --> 00:06:41,266 And Warrior Two. 76 00:06:42,701 --> 00:06:47,473 From here, let's take a side-angle pose, elbow on the knee, 77 00:06:47,505 --> 00:06:51,376 hand to the ground, or take it behind. 78 00:06:51,410 --> 00:06:54,380 Just extend the energy through your fingers. 79 00:06:56,882 --> 00:06:59,084 See our chemistry, baby. 80 00:06:59,117 --> 00:07:00,720 And Warrior Two. 81 00:07:06,324 --> 00:07:08,694 Relax the shoulders. 82 00:07:08,726 --> 00:07:12,697 - It's a fucking horse penis. - Seriously. 83 00:07:21,639 --> 00:07:23,776 Come to Chemistry with me on Saturday. 84 00:07:25,444 --> 00:07:27,780 Babe, you know how I feel about that. 85 00:07:27,812 --> 00:07:29,548 Well, hello, ladies. 86 00:07:29,581 --> 00:07:31,550 - Hi. - Can I help you with anything today? 87 00:07:31,583 --> 00:07:34,620 Looking for something to dominate my wayward girlfriend with. 88 00:07:34,653 --> 00:07:38,724 Okay, well, this is a beginner's crop. 89 00:07:38,757 --> 00:07:40,059 It's very lightweight. 90 00:07:40,091 --> 00:07:44,262 But, if you're looking for something a little bit more intense, 91 00:07:44,696 --> 00:07:45,765 check this one. 92 00:07:48,300 --> 00:07:49,901 Uh, thank you. We are just browsing. 93 00:07:49,935 --> 00:07:52,571 Ah, okay. Well, let me know if there's anything else I can do to help. 94 00:07:52,603 --> 00:07:53,538 Thank you. 95 00:07:54,973 --> 00:07:56,675 - It's intense. - Mm. 96 00:07:57,843 --> 00:08:00,012 - I don't know. - I can handle it. 97 00:08:00,045 --> 00:08:02,081 Yeah, I'm sure you could. 98 00:08:02,113 --> 00:08:05,150 But, you don't want me to go to Chemistry. 99 00:08:07,252 --> 00:08:10,422 No, it's cool... 100 00:08:10,454 --> 00:08:12,358 as long as you respect the boundaries. 101 00:08:13,692 --> 00:08:14,759 Of course. 102 00:08:16,961 --> 00:08:18,764 Of course. Who do you think I am? 103 00:08:24,036 --> 00:08:25,170 You like that? 104 00:08:28,807 --> 00:08:32,311 You know, there are so many hot, sexy women 105 00:08:32,344 --> 00:08:36,482 who would love to play with us at Chemistry. 106 00:08:36,514 --> 00:08:38,783 I'm gonna tie you up, so you can't move. 107 00:08:39,250 --> 00:08:40,418 Fuck you so hard 108 00:08:40,451 --> 00:08:42,388 you won't think of anyone else but me. 109 00:08:51,697 --> 00:08:53,798 Many of you have asked me, 110 00:08:53,831 --> 00:08:57,235 "Is true love a reason to be monogamous?" 111 00:08:57,269 --> 00:08:59,804 Well, I can only speak for myself. 112 00:09:00,905 --> 00:09:04,075 There's no such thing as happily ever after. 113 00:09:04,109 --> 00:09:07,513 There's no such thing as "the one". 114 00:09:07,546 --> 00:09:10,015 But, if I can find a little bit of "the one", 115 00:09:10,048 --> 00:09:12,484 in each person I fall for, 116 00:09:12,517 --> 00:09:15,688 and they see a little bit of "the one" in me, 117 00:09:15,721 --> 00:09:18,524 what could be more romantic than that? 118 00:09:18,557 --> 00:09:20,927 Move your right arm a little that way. 119 00:09:22,027 --> 00:09:22,995 A little more. 120 00:09:28,332 --> 00:09:29,568 How's your mother? 121 00:09:30,501 --> 00:09:32,203 She's doing better. 122 00:09:32,236 --> 00:09:35,274 I think I'm going to visit her for spring break. 123 00:09:35,307 --> 00:09:37,342 My cousin has a new tour company in Tulum. 124 00:09:38,309 --> 00:09:39,611 Can make some extra money. 125 00:09:41,379 --> 00:09:43,548 What about your classes? 126 00:09:43,581 --> 00:09:45,583 Just for a few weeks. Don't worry, 127 00:09:45,616 --> 00:09:46,651 I'll be back. 128 00:09:48,820 --> 00:09:51,824 Come to Chemistry with me this Saturday. 129 00:09:51,856 --> 00:09:54,759 I wish I could, but I work the late shift. 130 00:09:56,061 --> 00:09:57,663 I need a break. 131 00:10:02,734 --> 00:10:03,636 Hmm. 132 00:11:03,628 --> 00:11:06,666 - Veronica. - Hey, Tai. 133 00:11:08,466 --> 00:11:10,668 Love the last blog post. 134 00:11:10,701 --> 00:11:12,870 - Thank you. - Thank you. 135 00:11:12,903 --> 00:11:14,038 This one's on us. 136 00:11:14,072 --> 00:11:15,841 - Thank you! - Enjoy. 137 00:11:25,283 --> 00:11:27,485 - You, look at you. - What's happening? 138 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:33,591 - Actually, I'm corporate Caesar. - Oh, yeah. Nice. 139 00:11:36,260 --> 00:11:40,598 Each party holds a possibility of forgetting, 140 00:11:40,631 --> 00:11:43,702 of losing and finding myself. 141 00:11:44,668 --> 00:11:46,538 Time and ego dissolve 142 00:11:46,571 --> 00:11:48,440 in the fantasy of costume, 143 00:11:48,472 --> 00:11:51,209 the anonymity of disguise, 144 00:11:51,243 --> 00:11:53,646 the spectacle of burlesque. 145 00:11:55,279 --> 00:11:57,182 It doesn't matter where we come from 146 00:11:57,215 --> 00:11:59,718 or what we do for a living. 147 00:11:59,750 --> 00:12:03,154 Past mistakes and future dreams are irrelevant. 148 00:12:04,589 --> 00:12:08,660 Here, we are all animals, alive and wanting, 149 00:12:08,692 --> 00:12:10,962 connected by the need to survive, 150 00:12:10,995 --> 00:12:13,631 seeking more or less the same thing. 151 00:12:16,333 --> 00:12:19,203 I long to forget my experience 152 00:12:19,236 --> 00:12:21,639 and find my innocent self, 153 00:12:21,673 --> 00:12:25,677 through another's wide, hungry eyes. 154 00:12:25,710 --> 00:12:28,312 Are you ready for a show? 155 00:12:28,346 --> 00:12:32,985 I said, are you ready for a show to wet your appetite? 156 00:13:06,317 --> 00:13:07,620 Oh! 157 00:13:08,419 --> 00:13:09,954 I am so sorry. 158 00:13:13,091 --> 00:13:15,661 - I didn't mean to... - Why don't you lick it off? 159 00:13:16,260 --> 00:13:17,829 Excuse me? 160 00:13:17,863 --> 00:13:19,164 The mess you made on her boots. 161 00:13:19,197 --> 00:13:20,331 Why don't you lick it off? 162 00:13:20,365 --> 00:13:21,933 The couple, they bumped into... 163 00:13:21,966 --> 00:13:24,502 - Sure, sure. Yes, right. - It wasn't my fault. 164 00:13:24,535 --> 00:13:27,806 - It's okay. - I'm just playing. 165 00:13:29,173 --> 00:13:30,274 Sure, you are. 166 00:13:33,711 --> 00:13:35,480 - See you later? - Mm-hmm. 167 00:13:43,087 --> 00:13:43,988 I'll just... 168 00:14:04,643 --> 00:14:06,511 Have you been to Chemistry before? 169 00:14:06,543 --> 00:14:07,879 No. 170 00:14:07,913 --> 00:14:10,649 My friend didn't tell me it was this kind of party... 171 00:14:10,682 --> 00:14:12,149 What? Really? 172 00:14:12,182 --> 00:14:14,385 ...where people have sex. 173 00:14:14,418 --> 00:14:16,621 So, who's your friend? 174 00:14:16,654 --> 00:14:20,024 Oh, over there, with the blue suit. 175 00:14:20,057 --> 00:14:22,727 That's Benton. He's my friend, too. 176 00:14:23,427 --> 00:14:24,629 - Really? - Yeah. 177 00:14:24,663 --> 00:14:27,066 - Wow. What a small world. - Yeah. 178 00:14:30,501 --> 00:14:33,705 - I'm Veronica. - Daniel. 179 00:14:41,679 --> 00:14:44,616 Oh, so, um, you're married? 180 00:14:45,049 --> 00:14:45,984 Yes. 181 00:14:47,085 --> 00:14:48,921 - Is she here? - No. 182 00:14:50,221 --> 00:14:51,322 What's your agreement? 183 00:14:51,355 --> 00:14:52,924 What do you mean, "agreement"? 184 00:14:54,725 --> 00:14:57,562 - Veronica. - Hello. 185 00:14:58,263 --> 00:15:00,032 Well, have fun. 186 00:15:00,065 --> 00:15:01,066 You, too. 187 00:15:01,099 --> 00:15:03,869 Maybe next time you can bring your spouse. 188 00:15:54,184 --> 00:15:57,288 Babe, Dexter was too ridiculous today. Look. 189 00:15:58,655 --> 00:16:00,758 What did he do now? 190 00:16:00,792 --> 00:16:02,661 - I totally caught this... - Oh, no. 191 00:16:03,794 --> 00:16:06,998 - Why is he always doing that? - Aww. 192 00:16:07,032 --> 00:16:09,401 Oh wait, watch this. He's so cute. 193 00:16:10,434 --> 00:16:11,769 No, no. 194 00:16:12,937 --> 00:16:15,941 Do you think that's funny? 195 00:16:15,974 --> 00:16:18,911 That's not funny. He just broke that glass. 196 00:16:19,644 --> 00:16:22,080 Did you say anything to him? 197 00:16:22,113 --> 00:16:24,349 Well, I tried to. 198 00:16:24,381 --> 00:16:26,650 Yeah, right. No, you didn't. 199 00:16:26,683 --> 00:16:28,187 Oh, Dexter. 200 00:16:31,623 --> 00:16:34,026 Come on in. 201 00:16:46,538 --> 00:16:47,773 Hey. 202 00:16:56,047 --> 00:16:58,582 Hi. Hi. 203 00:17:25,042 --> 00:17:28,913 We have a studio for $1,500 in Flatbush. 204 00:17:28,946 --> 00:17:30,048 Does that interest you? 205 00:17:31,816 --> 00:17:32,750 We have... 206 00:17:32,784 --> 00:17:34,486 Excuse me. 207 00:17:36,921 --> 00:17:38,523 Burr Real Estate, Daniel speaking. 208 00:17:38,556 --> 00:17:42,360 Hi, Daniel, it's Veronica from Chemistry. 209 00:17:42,393 --> 00:17:45,230 Benton gave me your number. 210 00:17:46,131 --> 00:17:47,932 Yeah, from work. 211 00:17:47,965 --> 00:17:51,869 I was wondering if you would like to go to dinner with me. 212 00:17:54,771 --> 00:17:57,509 A date? No, not really. I... 213 00:17:57,541 --> 00:18:01,278 Well, maybe he told you that I'm a blogger 214 00:18:01,311 --> 00:18:04,849 and I blog about sex and relationships. 215 00:18:04,883 --> 00:18:06,852 And, yeah, you're interesting to me, 216 00:18:06,884 --> 00:18:09,821 and I've been looking for new subjects. 217 00:18:11,489 --> 00:18:15,727 Well, I don't meet that many monogamous people at Chemistry. 218 00:18:15,759 --> 00:18:19,397 And, so, I'm curious, uh, what it was like for you. 219 00:18:23,401 --> 00:18:25,437 Yeah, well, no pressure, and it's up to you. 220 00:18:33,778 --> 00:18:35,247 You're going to love this place. 221 00:18:35,279 --> 00:18:36,147 I know the chef. 222 00:18:36,181 --> 00:18:38,250 He sources everything from local farms. 223 00:18:38,282 --> 00:18:40,184 Yeah. So, everything is organic 224 00:18:40,218 --> 00:18:42,187 and you can really taste the difference. 225 00:18:42,220 --> 00:18:45,524 Oh, his pork belly with truffle oil is to die for. 226 00:18:45,557 --> 00:18:47,959 - Mmm. - Yes. 227 00:18:47,991 --> 00:18:51,163 So, did you enjoy the rest of the party? 228 00:18:52,696 --> 00:18:54,331 Yes. 229 00:18:54,365 --> 00:18:58,135 I didn't do anything, but it was interesting to watch. 230 00:18:58,169 --> 00:18:59,070 Uh-huh. 231 00:18:59,103 --> 00:19:00,705 First time for everything, right? 232 00:19:00,738 --> 00:19:02,507 Right. 233 00:19:02,539 --> 00:19:04,142 - Yeah. - Yeah. 234 00:19:04,174 --> 00:19:08,712 Um, what do you think about super spicy food? 235 00:19:08,746 --> 00:19:11,783 I love it. I mean, I'm Korean, so yeah. 236 00:19:11,816 --> 00:19:15,319 Well, me, I can only handle a little spice. 237 00:19:15,353 --> 00:19:18,423 I'm... ginger. 238 00:19:18,455 --> 00:19:19,256 Ginger's my favorite. 239 00:19:19,289 --> 00:19:21,326 Ginger's my favorite spice also. 240 00:19:21,358 --> 00:19:22,059 - Really? - Yes. 241 00:19:22,093 --> 00:19:24,028 - Wow. - It's so versatile. 242 00:19:24,061 --> 00:19:26,464 It is. It is. It's so versatile. 243 00:19:26,897 --> 00:19:28,366 - Yeah. - Yeah. 244 00:19:35,673 --> 00:19:36,840 ...it just doesn't help 245 00:19:36,874 --> 00:19:38,643 not knowing anyone like that. 246 00:19:38,675 --> 00:19:40,878 Yeah, well, ask away 247 00:19:40,912 --> 00:19:47,085 'cause I'm open to answering all questions. 248 00:19:47,117 --> 00:19:50,355 I usually ask people to take their shoes off inside. 249 00:19:50,387 --> 00:19:51,222 Right. Yeah, me, too. 250 00:19:51,256 --> 00:19:53,358 - If that's okay. - I do the same thing. 251 00:19:53,391 --> 00:19:55,026 You don't know what you're stepping on outside. 252 00:19:55,058 --> 00:19:56,728 - Yeah, exactly. - Yeah. 253 00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:58,395 - Yeah. - Yeah. 254 00:19:59,596 --> 00:20:02,067 So, this is my place. I'm gonna turn the light on. 255 00:20:03,067 --> 00:20:04,603 - Wow. - This is my place. 256 00:20:04,635 --> 00:20:05,604 - It's beautiful. - Welcome. 257 00:20:05,636 --> 00:20:06,605 Ah, there's a cat. 258 00:20:06,637 --> 00:20:07,672 - This is Lulu. - This is Lulu. 259 00:20:07,704 --> 00:20:09,974 - Yeah. - You're so beautiful. 260 00:20:12,710 --> 00:20:14,179 Mm, wow, okay. 261 00:20:17,749 --> 00:20:19,317 - Hi. - Hey. 262 00:20:21,019 --> 00:20:22,921 Yeah, take this off. 263 00:20:24,855 --> 00:20:25,923 Yeah. 264 00:20:35,199 --> 00:20:38,937 Um, can we just do it somewhere else? 265 00:20:38,970 --> 00:20:40,005 Oh, yeah, yeah, sure. 266 00:20:40,038 --> 00:20:42,274 - This is kind of awkward. - Yeah. 267 00:20:44,174 --> 00:20:45,243 Okay. 268 00:20:46,443 --> 00:20:47,912 It's just... 269 00:20:47,944 --> 00:20:49,013 Okay. 270 00:20:49,547 --> 00:20:50,914 - Turn. - Yeah. 271 00:20:50,948 --> 00:20:52,451 Yeah. 272 00:21:15,173 --> 00:21:16,840 Oh, my God. 273 00:21:16,874 --> 00:21:19,477 - I'm gonna come. - Oh, yeah, come. 274 00:21:55,246 --> 00:21:58,517 Aww. You're so pretty. Hey. 275 00:21:59,483 --> 00:22:01,019 So cute. 276 00:22:01,051 --> 00:22:03,320 - Lulu? - Yeah, she likes you. 277 00:22:03,354 --> 00:22:05,690 Yeah? Hey. 278 00:22:07,959 --> 00:22:09,193 Do you have a cat? 279 00:22:09,926 --> 00:22:11,995 Yes. We have a cat. 280 00:22:12,028 --> 00:22:12,997 Dexter. 281 00:22:13,029 --> 00:22:14,465 - Aww. - Yeah. 282 00:22:20,904 --> 00:22:22,206 I... 283 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,675 I usually don't do this. 284 00:22:25,675 --> 00:22:27,044 Oh, me neither. 285 00:22:27,077 --> 00:22:31,182 I usually don't sleep with married people unless they are poly. 286 00:22:34,986 --> 00:22:36,355 Would you like some water? 287 00:22:36,854 --> 00:22:37,788 Uh, no. 288 00:22:42,426 --> 00:22:44,061 Are you going to tell your wife? 289 00:22:45,997 --> 00:22:47,099 No. 290 00:22:50,968 --> 00:22:52,437 Well, I have to tell my girlfriend. 291 00:22:53,904 --> 00:22:56,173 I thought you can do whatever you want. 292 00:22:56,207 --> 00:22:57,909 No, no. We have agreements. 293 00:23:07,451 --> 00:23:08,619 I have to go. 294 00:23:21,531 --> 00:23:22,533 Okay. 295 00:23:23,468 --> 00:23:24,603 Bye. 296 00:23:32,175 --> 00:23:33,644 That fucking Pedro. 297 00:23:33,678 --> 00:23:34,813 It wasn't Pedro. 298 00:23:34,846 --> 00:23:36,181 You could have checked in. 299 00:23:36,213 --> 00:23:38,081 I know. I know. I'm sorry. 300 00:23:38,115 --> 00:23:40,785 - I got carried away. - Look, we have a relationship. 301 00:23:40,817 --> 00:23:42,086 Yes. 302 00:23:42,118 --> 00:23:44,254 Yes. I'm sorry. There wasn't a convenient time. 303 00:23:44,288 --> 00:23:46,825 - Did you enjoy it? - Joanne, please. 304 00:23:46,857 --> 00:23:48,393 Did you enjoy it? 305 00:23:50,060 --> 00:23:51,695 I love you. 306 00:23:51,729 --> 00:23:53,097 I fucking love you. 307 00:23:53,463 --> 00:23:54,365 I did poly. 308 00:23:54,798 --> 00:23:56,100 For you. 309 00:23:56,567 --> 00:23:57,868 Hey, everyone. 310 00:23:57,902 --> 00:24:00,270 This is my bisexual girlfriend. 311 00:24:00,304 --> 00:24:02,073 - Stop. - She only wants to be with me 312 00:24:02,105 --> 00:24:04,209 if she can be with guys, too. 313 00:24:04,241 --> 00:24:06,577 You always had someone else in the back of your life. 314 00:24:06,611 --> 00:24:08,546 - You don't care about me or anyone. - No. 315 00:24:08,578 --> 00:24:09,547 - No. - No. 316 00:24:09,579 --> 00:24:11,215 Hey, hey! 317 00:24:11,249 --> 00:24:13,750 What the hell! 318 00:24:13,784 --> 00:24:16,153 What the fuck! What's wrong with you? 319 00:24:47,984 --> 00:24:51,423 Relationship agreements are like allergies. 320 00:24:52,222 --> 00:24:54,192 There's no obvious reason 321 00:24:54,224 --> 00:24:55,926 why one person has a violent reaction 322 00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:59,963 if her husband holds another woman's hand in a movie theater, 323 00:24:59,997 --> 00:25:02,734 while another, like my ex-girlfriend, 324 00:25:02,767 --> 00:25:05,670 explodes when I have sex with someone else 325 00:25:05,702 --> 00:25:07,571 in our apartment. 326 00:25:07,605 --> 00:25:11,375 Polyamory makes me feel like I'm above cheating 327 00:25:11,409 --> 00:25:14,345 because I make my own rules and agreements. 328 00:25:14,377 --> 00:25:17,147 But when I break my rules, 329 00:25:17,181 --> 00:25:19,250 there's no one else to blame. 330 00:25:20,651 --> 00:25:25,089 Joanne was never totally comfortable with my lifestyle. 331 00:25:25,122 --> 00:25:26,958 I needed to end my relationship with her, 332 00:25:26,990 --> 00:25:29,727 but I didn't know when or how. 333 00:25:29,759 --> 00:25:32,430 Along came someone to do it for me. 334 00:25:48,846 --> 00:25:49,913 Red's my color. 335 00:25:49,946 --> 00:25:51,615 Oh... 336 00:25:53,351 --> 00:25:55,420 - You do that. - Mm. 337 00:25:56,220 --> 00:25:58,423 Oh, wait, wait. 338 00:25:58,455 --> 00:26:00,023 I am a delicate flower. 339 00:26:00,057 --> 00:26:01,326 Oh, my... 340 00:26:04,461 --> 00:26:06,396 I read your story, preciosa, 341 00:26:06,430 --> 00:26:09,734 it made me cringe, it made me laugh, 342 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:11,903 it made me want more. 343 00:26:13,237 --> 00:26:14,773 My apology. 344 00:26:16,207 --> 00:26:17,241 Close. 345 00:26:23,346 --> 00:26:27,518 Yeah, well, my followers don't want art, 346 00:26:27,550 --> 00:26:31,688 - they want smut. - So what? 347 00:26:31,721 --> 00:26:33,791 Do what you want, don't care what they think. 348 00:26:34,759 --> 00:26:36,661 That was actually... 349 00:26:36,693 --> 00:26:38,997 Oh, God, I look like my mother. 350 00:26:47,505 --> 00:26:49,607 Have you always been polygamous? 351 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:53,478 Well, it was always in me, 352 00:26:53,510 --> 00:26:56,714 but my first love was blissfully monogamous. 353 00:26:58,281 --> 00:27:00,150 We were so young and in love. 354 00:27:00,183 --> 00:27:02,720 It didn't feel like monogamy, you know. 355 00:27:02,752 --> 00:27:03,788 Yeah. 356 00:27:04,989 --> 00:27:06,024 But it ended, 357 00:27:06,057 --> 00:27:10,362 and monogamy hasn't appealed to me since then. 358 00:27:15,566 --> 00:27:17,669 You know, I feel weird saying this, 359 00:27:17,701 --> 00:27:20,904 but after you and I had sex, 360 00:27:20,938 --> 00:27:24,042 I went home and had sex with my wife. 361 00:27:24,741 --> 00:27:25,442 Oh! 362 00:27:25,476 --> 00:27:27,712 We hadn't had sex in months. 363 00:27:27,744 --> 00:27:29,279 You're welcome? 364 00:27:29,313 --> 00:27:32,817 You inspired me. 365 00:27:37,387 --> 00:27:39,390 Are you sure it wasn't guilt? 366 00:27:41,325 --> 00:27:44,194 I did feel guilty at first. 367 00:27:44,228 --> 00:27:46,431 But then, I felt more attracted to her. 368 00:27:49,666 --> 00:27:50,868 I, uh... 369 00:27:52,635 --> 00:27:55,138 I would love to keep seeing you. 370 00:27:55,172 --> 00:27:58,375 The hope that it will bring something back to my marriage. 371 00:28:00,544 --> 00:28:02,847 Does this mean you'll go to a sex party with me? 372 00:28:03,547 --> 00:28:05,783 I mean, you and your wife. 373 00:28:05,816 --> 00:28:08,452 Oh, I don't know. 374 00:28:13,590 --> 00:28:16,093 So, babe, uh... 375 00:28:16,126 --> 00:28:17,194 Baby, what do you... 376 00:28:17,228 --> 00:28:19,297 How do you feel about going to a party 377 00:28:19,329 --> 00:28:21,698 that is actually a sex party, 378 00:28:21,731 --> 00:28:24,402 but, um... 379 00:28:24,434 --> 00:28:26,870 It's like a sex party, but no pressure. 380 00:28:26,903 --> 00:28:29,606 We could just kind of drink and chill out and make friends. 381 00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,642 You want me to go to an orgy? 382 00:28:31,674 --> 00:28:33,644 Well, it's not just a bunch of people fucking, 383 00:28:33,676 --> 00:28:35,045 it's an actual party, you know. 384 00:28:35,078 --> 00:28:38,281 They have separate rooms for mingling, drinks, food. 385 00:28:38,315 --> 00:28:40,250 It's a really cool, like, situation. 386 00:28:40,284 --> 00:28:41,152 No. 387 00:28:43,586 --> 00:28:45,189 Look, we don't have to do anything, 388 00:28:45,221 --> 00:28:46,990 we could watch, you know... 389 00:28:47,023 --> 00:28:50,828 Babe, in therapy, you said you'd try new things. 390 00:28:55,199 --> 00:28:58,436 Look, if you want to see other people, then go ahead. 391 00:29:01,771 --> 00:29:02,773 Are you sure? 392 00:29:03,807 --> 00:29:05,375 No, but... 393 00:29:05,409 --> 00:29:06,945 maybe it's the best thing. 394 00:29:10,181 --> 00:29:13,817 Look, I'll let you know if anything happens or I meet someone. 395 00:29:13,851 --> 00:29:16,020 - I don't want to hide anything from you. - No. 396 00:29:16,053 --> 00:29:16,988 Please don't. 397 00:29:20,057 --> 00:29:21,025 Okay. 398 00:29:38,409 --> 00:29:41,513 Wow, you look amazing. 399 00:29:42,112 --> 00:29:43,047 Thank you. 400 00:29:43,713 --> 00:29:44,782 Ah. Oh... 401 00:29:45,782 --> 00:29:46,650 tada. 402 00:29:47,817 --> 00:29:49,319 - You like it? - It's beautiful. 403 00:29:49,353 --> 00:29:50,488 Thank you. 404 00:29:51,654 --> 00:29:54,558 Golden rule is "ask before you touch". 405 00:29:54,592 --> 00:29:56,127 - Okay. - Just remember that. 406 00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:57,394 Hi. 407 00:29:57,428 --> 00:29:59,130 No pressure, okay? 408 00:29:59,163 --> 00:30:00,164 No expectations. 409 00:30:01,298 --> 00:30:02,967 You don't have to do anything... 410 00:30:04,300 --> 00:30:05,903 not even with me. 411 00:30:12,776 --> 00:30:15,145 Hello, sir. I remember you. 412 00:30:15,179 --> 00:30:16,913 Yeah, I remember you, too. 413 00:30:16,946 --> 00:30:18,015 Do you want a drink? 414 00:30:19,282 --> 00:30:20,917 - Come on, let's get a drink. - Yeah. 415 00:30:20,951 --> 00:30:23,254 Check it out. Amazing. So, um... 416 00:30:26,589 --> 00:30:28,025 May I kiss you? 417 00:30:30,693 --> 00:30:32,896 Is it 11:00 already? 418 00:30:32,930 --> 00:30:35,432 She's fine. We'll see her later. 419 00:30:35,465 --> 00:30:37,567 - Okay. - She's doing her serving shift. 420 00:30:37,601 --> 00:30:39,604 Oh, okay. 421 00:30:53,549 --> 00:30:55,854 - Fancy meeting you here. - Hello. 422 00:31:02,459 --> 00:31:03,693 Hi. 423 00:31:03,727 --> 00:31:05,730 Oh, look who I found? 424 00:31:05,762 --> 00:31:08,398 Hi, good to see you. 425 00:31:08,432 --> 00:31:10,567 Will you come and play with us? 426 00:31:10,601 --> 00:31:13,137 Well, I'm here with a date tonight. 427 00:31:13,170 --> 00:31:16,541 - Well, have fun. - We'll try. 428 00:31:17,173 --> 00:31:19,644 You will. 429 00:31:19,676 --> 00:31:21,645 What do you call this? What is that? 430 00:31:21,679 --> 00:31:24,749 Maybe later... 431 00:31:24,781 --> 00:31:26,016 Excuse me. 432 00:31:27,151 --> 00:31:30,221 That maybe gives her permission to keep trying. 433 00:31:30,253 --> 00:31:31,655 What do you want? 434 00:31:33,390 --> 00:31:34,825 I want you. 435 00:31:34,857 --> 00:31:36,693 I want to be with you. 436 00:31:37,861 --> 00:31:39,597 And maybe your friend over there. 437 00:31:45,068 --> 00:31:46,069 Good answer. 438 00:32:00,250 --> 00:32:01,184 Just like that. 439 00:32:40,391 --> 00:32:41,926 What's happening? 440 00:33:49,460 --> 00:33:51,162 - Thank you. - Mm-hmm. 441 00:33:52,762 --> 00:33:55,032 Thank you. 442 00:33:57,968 --> 00:34:01,072 Well, that's a lot of firsts for one night. 443 00:34:01,605 --> 00:34:03,039 Congratulations. 444 00:34:03,073 --> 00:34:04,809 - Thank you. - You're a natural. 445 00:34:04,842 --> 00:34:06,076 - Yeah? - Yeah. 446 00:34:06,109 --> 00:34:08,878 I didn't think, uh, I would like seeing you 447 00:34:08,911 --> 00:34:12,382 with someone else, but it actually felt really open. 448 00:34:12,416 --> 00:34:13,484 I felt happy for you. 449 00:34:13,516 --> 00:34:14,951 That's compersion. 450 00:34:14,985 --> 00:34:16,820 - Compersion? - Mm-hmm. 451 00:34:16,853 --> 00:34:18,355 It's the opposite of jealousy. 452 00:34:19,155 --> 00:34:20,891 Oh, does that mean I'm poly now? 453 00:34:21,358 --> 00:34:23,227 - No. - Ah. 454 00:34:23,260 --> 00:34:25,797 Going to a sex party doesn't make you a poly. 455 00:34:26,963 --> 00:34:30,467 Besides, you haven't seen me with another guy yet. 456 00:34:30,501 --> 00:34:32,570 Okay. One step at a time. 457 00:34:36,273 --> 00:34:37,307 Hmm. 458 00:34:45,282 --> 00:34:46,484 Want to come over? 459 00:34:48,117 --> 00:34:49,085 Uh... 460 00:34:49,119 --> 00:34:53,257 I told Kristen that I'm coming home. 461 00:34:54,824 --> 00:34:57,594 Coming home from what? 462 00:34:57,628 --> 00:35:00,131 You know, out drinking with the guys. 463 00:35:00,164 --> 00:35:01,999 One of them got really drunk, 464 00:35:02,032 --> 00:35:05,269 - you know, one of those things. - Yeah, yeah. 465 00:35:06,036 --> 00:35:08,438 Well, I'll just call a car. 466 00:35:08,472 --> 00:35:09,974 Yeah. I'll wait until... 467 00:35:10,007 --> 00:35:11,876 You know, with you until the car comes. 468 00:35:12,675 --> 00:35:13,943 No, no, that's okay. 469 00:35:13,976 --> 00:35:15,679 - You sure? - Yeah. 470 00:35:15,711 --> 00:35:17,248 We'll talk. 471 00:35:20,617 --> 00:35:23,187 - Get home safe. - Thanks. 472 00:35:36,432 --> 00:35:39,836 Last night, Daddy and I went out to dinner at the club 473 00:35:39,869 --> 00:35:41,605 and we ran into some old friends. 474 00:35:41,637 --> 00:35:44,208 Do you remember Ashley Van Houten? 475 00:35:45,641 --> 00:35:46,710 Vaguely. 476 00:35:46,742 --> 00:35:48,011 She just finished grad school 477 00:35:48,045 --> 00:35:49,313 and is moving to New York. 478 00:35:49,346 --> 00:35:51,215 If you could show her around... 479 00:35:53,115 --> 00:35:54,184 Uh... 480 00:35:54,918 --> 00:35:56,720 I don't know. 481 00:35:56,753 --> 00:35:58,989 Ashley and I aren't into the same things. 482 00:35:59,021 --> 00:36:01,025 Well, it's up to you. 483 00:36:01,925 --> 00:36:03,227 How's your writing? 484 00:36:04,228 --> 00:36:05,061 Uh, good. 485 00:36:05,094 --> 00:36:07,230 I am very busy with my blog. 486 00:36:07,264 --> 00:36:10,434 Um, I have a lot of fans, so. 487 00:36:10,467 --> 00:36:13,304 I'm glad you found people who like It. 488 00:36:13,336 --> 00:36:15,773 I tried reading it once, but I had to stop. 489 00:36:15,806 --> 00:36:18,409 Something about a Mexican guy. 490 00:36:18,442 --> 00:36:22,913 I didn't mind it so much, but your father... 491 00:36:22,945 --> 00:36:26,317 Really, do you have to be so detailed? 492 00:36:26,349 --> 00:36:29,118 Why don't you write children books? 493 00:36:29,152 --> 00:36:32,789 I don't know, why don't you join the Peace Corps? 494 00:36:32,822 --> 00:36:35,826 I'm not gonna live in a hut. Thank you. 495 00:36:35,858 --> 00:36:37,427 Of course the card is good. 496 00:36:37,460 --> 00:36:39,062 Sorry, I'll be off this call in a second. 497 00:36:39,096 --> 00:36:40,630 It's my daughter. 498 00:36:45,768 --> 00:36:48,205 - Okay, bye. - Bye. 499 00:36:58,347 --> 00:37:00,717 Oh, yeah, that was when I was 12, 500 00:37:00,751 --> 00:37:02,786 I took my uncle's money 501 00:37:02,818 --> 00:37:04,320 and I went to the bodega 502 00:37:04,353 --> 00:37:06,990 and just bought my first dirty magazine. 503 00:37:08,025 --> 00:37:09,226 - What? - Yeah. 504 00:37:09,259 --> 00:37:11,661 - You were 12? - Yeah. 505 00:37:11,695 --> 00:37:13,163 - Twelve. - Wow! 506 00:37:13,195 --> 00:37:17,735 Wow, You've always had it in you, you naughty boy. 507 00:37:17,768 --> 00:37:19,470 Yeah, maybe, maybe. 508 00:37:19,503 --> 00:37:20,671 Oh, wait, hold on. 509 00:37:24,474 --> 00:37:25,343 Hi. 510 00:37:26,909 --> 00:37:29,245 What? No, I paid that bill. 511 00:37:29,278 --> 00:37:30,347 All right. 512 00:37:30,380 --> 00:37:32,082 Oh, okay. Well, I'm sorry they're harassing you. 513 00:37:32,114 --> 00:37:33,416 I'll take care of it. 514 00:37:34,483 --> 00:37:36,353 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Go on. 515 00:37:37,353 --> 00:37:40,590 Soy milk, quinoa. Uh-huh, anything else? 516 00:37:41,557 --> 00:37:42,358 No? 517 00:37:42,391 --> 00:37:44,094 All right. Yep, I got it. Cool. 518 00:37:44,126 --> 00:37:45,962 See you later. Bye. 519 00:37:47,797 --> 00:37:50,500 Did you have to take that call? 520 00:37:50,534 --> 00:37:54,405 Well, we share expenses and an apartment, so... 521 00:39:14,851 --> 00:39:16,253 This is my mother's. 522 00:39:55,257 --> 00:39:58,194 I wanna join you in Mexico. 523 00:39:59,362 --> 00:40:01,597 I could study Spanish. 524 00:40:01,630 --> 00:40:03,933 We could make some art together. 525 00:40:03,967 --> 00:40:07,003 I wish I could, but I'll be pretty busy with work. 526 00:40:07,036 --> 00:40:09,272 My mother, Victoria... 527 00:40:33,563 --> 00:40:34,565 It's okay. 528 00:40:46,141 --> 00:40:47,910 When Pedro and I first met, 529 00:40:47,943 --> 00:40:49,512 he said, 530 00:40:49,545 --> 00:40:53,516 "When I love someone the first thing I give them is freedom." 531 00:40:53,550 --> 00:40:56,854 Without him, I still have freedom, but what of it? 532 00:40:58,021 --> 00:40:59,923 The advantage of polyamory 533 00:40:59,956 --> 00:41:02,059 is if one relationship falls apart, 534 00:41:02,092 --> 00:41:04,161 you're not left stranded. 535 00:41:04,193 --> 00:41:05,728 Heartbreak insurance means 536 00:41:05,762 --> 00:41:08,798 you can always be comforted in the arms of another. 537 00:41:09,900 --> 00:41:11,335 But then, you go to a party 538 00:41:11,367 --> 00:41:14,103 and you find yourself alone, 539 00:41:14,137 --> 00:41:16,673 dying a little with each stranger's touch. 540 00:41:32,655 --> 00:41:33,757 Fuck. 541 00:41:40,496 --> 00:41:42,199 - Veronica? - Hi, Daniel. 542 00:41:42,231 --> 00:41:44,233 Um, yeah. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 543 00:41:44,266 --> 00:41:46,168 I'm sorry it's so late... 544 00:41:46,202 --> 00:41:47,504 What's going on? 545 00:41:47,536 --> 00:41:52,542 I was at this party and I was, uh, walking back. 546 00:41:52,576 --> 00:41:55,746 And, I mean, it was a weird party, I had to leave. 547 00:41:55,778 --> 00:41:58,248 And now, I don't know where the fuck I am, 548 00:41:58,280 --> 00:42:00,750 - and my phone's about to die. - Oh, no. 549 00:42:01,518 --> 00:42:03,853 It doesn't feel safe. 550 00:42:03,887 --> 00:42:06,023 Do you want to come over? 551 00:42:06,056 --> 00:42:07,724 I'm house sitting for a friend. 552 00:42:07,757 --> 00:42:10,092 - Kirsten's not here. - Are you sure? 553 00:42:10,126 --> 00:42:11,828 Yeah. Yeah. I'll come get you. 554 00:42:11,860 --> 00:42:15,431 Just wait there. Drop a pin and I'll come get you. 555 00:42:15,465 --> 00:42:16,300 Okay. 556 00:42:16,333 --> 00:42:17,501 Let me get you some tea. 557 00:42:17,534 --> 00:42:20,871 I think he has chamomile over here. 558 00:42:21,637 --> 00:42:24,307 Okay, so... 559 00:42:25,208 --> 00:42:26,343 Put... 560 00:42:40,923 --> 00:42:41,858 Here. 561 00:42:42,925 --> 00:42:44,027 Take this apricot. 562 00:42:44,059 --> 00:42:46,063 Just feel your breath, okay? 563 00:42:46,096 --> 00:42:49,432 I know it seems like you can't breathe, but you can. 564 00:43:22,931 --> 00:43:24,267 Here you go. 565 00:43:32,108 --> 00:43:33,844 I think, um... 566 00:43:35,010 --> 00:43:36,447 I think it's passing. 567 00:43:38,181 --> 00:43:39,548 Wow. 568 00:43:39,581 --> 00:43:40,951 Look at this. Come on. 569 00:43:47,990 --> 00:43:49,293 They're brother and sister. 570 00:44:13,182 --> 00:44:14,684 Tada, what do you think? 571 00:44:15,918 --> 00:44:19,121 I need to hire you as my personal chef. 572 00:44:19,155 --> 00:44:20,990 You are a goddess. 573 00:44:21,690 --> 00:44:22,558 All right. 574 00:44:23,059 --> 00:44:25,663 Um... dig in. 575 00:44:27,197 --> 00:44:29,333 Hey, hey, hey. 576 00:44:30,500 --> 00:44:32,536 Hmm. 577 00:44:32,568 --> 00:44:35,706 What's up, girl? Hey, girl! 578 00:44:35,739 --> 00:44:37,875 - Aww, she needs a playmate. - What? 579 00:44:39,175 --> 00:44:40,477 You should get another cat. 580 00:44:41,344 --> 00:44:43,480 Yeah, but we have a special bond. 581 00:44:43,512 --> 00:44:45,682 I don't want to lose that to another kitty. 582 00:44:48,952 --> 00:44:50,054 That won't go away. 583 00:44:51,186 --> 00:44:52,655 It'll never go away. 584 00:44:52,688 --> 00:44:55,525 Right, cutie? 585 00:44:55,824 --> 00:44:56,726 Bye. 586 00:45:02,197 --> 00:45:03,900 Did you wash me off you? 587 00:45:05,300 --> 00:45:08,105 Hmm, good question. Let's check. 588 00:45:12,275 --> 00:45:13,577 Can you tell me? 589 00:45:19,916 --> 00:45:20,784 Hey. 590 00:45:23,253 --> 00:45:24,755 Where have you been? 591 00:45:24,788 --> 00:45:27,557 Uh, I had showings all day in Harlem. 592 00:45:29,492 --> 00:45:31,695 I asked you to do laundry three days ago. 593 00:45:32,394 --> 00:45:35,498 Well, I was busy selling... 594 00:45:35,532 --> 00:45:38,702 trying to sell apartments, so. 595 00:45:40,836 --> 00:45:42,940 You can at least pretend like you still live here. 596 00:45:48,177 --> 00:45:50,279 I don't know. It's like I've been saying this for months, 597 00:45:50,313 --> 00:45:51,782 but where are my needs? 598 00:45:51,815 --> 00:45:53,215 I mean, they're not being met. 599 00:45:53,248 --> 00:45:54,984 It's not that hard to meet them. 600 00:45:55,018 --> 00:45:57,686 I'm doing the best I can. 601 00:45:57,719 --> 00:46:00,623 I mean, we haven't had sex for months, 602 00:46:00,657 --> 00:46:01,958 - which sucks. - Yeah. 603 00:46:01,990 --> 00:46:04,393 And then, he wants to go to culinary school 604 00:46:04,427 --> 00:46:06,797 and we barely paid rent last month. 605 00:46:06,829 --> 00:46:10,599 I rented a lot of shitty apartments so you could pursue your dream. 606 00:46:10,632 --> 00:46:12,468 You know that, right? 607 00:46:12,501 --> 00:46:15,072 I get it. You're having a midlife crisis. 608 00:46:17,407 --> 00:46:19,242 What... But why should... 609 00:46:19,275 --> 00:46:22,311 Okay. 610 00:46:22,344 --> 00:46:24,113 Why should I give up everything 611 00:46:24,146 --> 00:46:27,016 so you can just keep struggling? 612 00:46:28,284 --> 00:46:29,586 I don't understand. 613 00:46:51,673 --> 00:46:54,777 Hey, how are you? I've been thinking about you. 614 00:46:54,811 --> 00:46:56,513 Not so well. 615 00:46:56,545 --> 00:46:58,414 Oh. 616 00:46:58,447 --> 00:46:59,748 What's been going on? 617 00:46:59,782 --> 00:47:02,519 Kirsten and I are getting a divorce. 618 00:47:04,853 --> 00:47:05,922 Wow. 619 00:47:07,123 --> 00:47:10,126 Feel like my soul has been ripped out of me. 620 00:47:11,226 --> 00:47:13,896 Oh, yeah, that's understandable. 621 00:47:13,929 --> 00:47:15,865 We were together for 12 years. 622 00:47:16,766 --> 00:47:18,869 I don't know how to be now. 623 00:47:18,902 --> 00:47:21,771 Like, who am I without her, you know? 624 00:47:23,806 --> 00:47:25,775 Well, you're still you. 625 00:47:27,376 --> 00:47:28,744 I guess. 626 00:47:28,777 --> 00:47:31,247 - Who is that? - It's my mom. 627 00:47:32,481 --> 00:47:34,250 I think you... 628 00:47:34,284 --> 00:47:37,988 You need to take sometime to rediscover yourself, 629 00:47:38,021 --> 00:47:42,225 and, um, maybe get out of town for a little while. 630 00:47:42,257 --> 00:47:44,493 You know, my parents, they live in Connecticut, 631 00:47:44,527 --> 00:47:46,028 so, um, 632 00:47:46,061 --> 00:47:48,030 - maybe you and I could... - Oh. 633 00:47:53,503 --> 00:47:55,238 - Sorry, is this a bad... - Yeah... 634 00:47:57,172 --> 00:47:58,407 I'm so sorry. 635 00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,576 Is this a bad time? Do you want me to... 636 00:48:03,646 --> 00:48:04,914 I'm so sorry, I'll call you back. 637 00:48:05,414 --> 00:48:07,250 Okay. Bye. 638 00:49:36,972 --> 00:49:38,108 Hi, Dad. 639 00:49:40,809 --> 00:49:42,679 - Hi, sweetheart. - Mm, hi. 640 00:49:44,414 --> 00:49:45,382 Hi. 641 00:49:47,884 --> 00:49:50,186 This chicken is fabulous. 642 00:49:50,219 --> 00:49:51,354 What is that, sage? 643 00:49:51,387 --> 00:49:53,390 Yes, I thought I'd try something a little adventurous 644 00:49:53,422 --> 00:49:55,891 since we're having a chef dining with us tonight. 645 00:49:55,925 --> 00:49:58,327 Oh, no. Chef-in-training. 646 00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:00,063 Yeah. Oh, mm. 647 00:50:00,096 --> 00:50:02,831 So, Daniel, what's your background? 648 00:50:02,864 --> 00:50:04,567 Where are you from, Daniel? 649 00:50:04,599 --> 00:50:07,269 Uh, Queens, yeah, New York. 650 00:50:07,302 --> 00:50:10,339 But where are you really from, where, you know, originally? 651 00:50:10,373 --> 00:50:11,441 My family is from Korea, 652 00:50:11,474 --> 00:50:14,210 but I'm from Queens, born and raised. 653 00:50:14,242 --> 00:50:15,445 Got you. Yeah. 654 00:50:16,112 --> 00:50:16,980 Yeah. 655 00:50:17,547 --> 00:50:18,715 Welcome. 656 00:50:21,384 --> 00:50:25,387 So, Luke, Veronica tells me you work in finance. 657 00:50:25,420 --> 00:50:28,123 Hedge funds. You invest? 658 00:50:28,157 --> 00:50:31,327 Oh, I would like to, but I don't have anything to invest, 659 00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:33,963 - you know. - You don't need a lot. Start small... 660 00:50:33,996 --> 00:50:36,666 - Very smart. - ...try new emerging markets. 661 00:50:36,699 --> 00:50:37,934 Performance is the key now, 662 00:50:37,967 --> 00:50:40,403 even more so than liquidity or transparency. 663 00:50:40,436 --> 00:50:42,005 It's on the up and up again now. 664 00:50:42,038 --> 00:50:44,574 After '08, we had to sell a boat... 665 00:50:44,606 --> 00:50:46,710 - Yes. - ...downsize to two cars... 666 00:50:48,043 --> 00:50:50,045 Anyway, what are you up to these days? 667 00:50:50,079 --> 00:50:52,649 So many projects, I can't keep up. 668 00:50:52,681 --> 00:50:54,716 - Um... - There's your lust blog. 669 00:50:54,750 --> 00:50:56,552 Is it like Dan Savage? 670 00:50:56,585 --> 00:50:58,288 I listened to his podcast once, 671 00:50:58,320 --> 00:50:59,855 He sounded really gay. 672 00:50:59,889 --> 00:51:01,124 Not to change the subject, 673 00:51:01,157 --> 00:51:03,293 we're so happy Veronica finally settled down. 674 00:51:03,326 --> 00:51:05,795 - We were concerned... - What do you mean "concerned?" 675 00:51:05,827 --> 00:51:08,197 Well, you know, about your "roommate situation". 676 00:51:09,231 --> 00:51:12,601 Well, Joanne was never my roommate, Mom. 677 00:51:12,635 --> 00:51:14,403 Why didn't you tell us? 678 00:51:14,436 --> 00:51:17,739 I don't know. I just didn't think that you wanted to... 679 00:51:17,773 --> 00:51:18,842 Besides, it doesn't matter now 680 00:51:18,875 --> 00:51:20,811 'cause you're with Daniel. 681 00:51:22,010 --> 00:51:24,213 Yes. Well, just because I'm with a man now 682 00:51:24,246 --> 00:51:25,848 doesn't mean I'm heteronormative. 683 00:51:25,882 --> 00:51:27,083 Where do get these words? 684 00:51:27,115 --> 00:51:28,384 Oh, come on. Now, I'm insulted. 685 00:51:28,416 --> 00:51:31,353 What I mean is, we're not a conventional couple. 686 00:51:31,387 --> 00:51:33,623 I mean, sometimes we... 687 00:51:33,655 --> 00:51:35,958 - What? - ...do things with other people. 688 00:51:35,992 --> 00:51:39,229 Wait a minute. Are you saying you're swingers now? 689 00:51:39,262 --> 00:51:42,030 Oh, my God! I saw a show about that. 690 00:51:42,063 --> 00:51:44,134 It's not exactly swinging. 691 00:51:44,166 --> 00:51:47,971 Swinging is related, but it's more like open relationships, 692 00:51:48,003 --> 00:51:49,005 you know, consensual. 693 00:51:49,038 --> 00:51:50,539 What, are you polygamous or... 694 00:51:50,572 --> 00:51:52,574 No, we're polyamorous. 695 00:51:52,608 --> 00:51:54,344 - What? - Um... 696 00:51:54,376 --> 00:51:57,246 "Poly" coming from the Greek meaning "many," 697 00:51:57,280 --> 00:52:01,284 and "amory" or "amorous" meaning "love." 698 00:52:01,317 --> 00:52:02,117 Yeah. 699 00:52:02,150 --> 00:52:04,820 - Oh. - So, it means many loves. 700 00:52:04,853 --> 00:52:06,956 - Yeah. - Beautiful. 701 00:52:08,657 --> 00:52:11,460 You know, your mom and I were invited to a key party once. 702 00:52:11,494 --> 00:52:14,864 - What? - We didn't go, of course. 703 00:52:14,896 --> 00:52:16,965 Why not? Why not? 704 00:52:16,998 --> 00:52:19,168 Please, let's not even discuss it. 705 00:52:19,202 --> 00:52:21,404 - We're having dessert, right, Janet? - Yeah. 706 00:52:21,436 --> 00:52:22,371 Yeah, there'll be dessert. 707 00:52:22,405 --> 00:52:24,807 - Please, eat up more if you can. - Okay. 708 00:52:25,474 --> 00:52:27,177 Yeah. 709 00:53:30,072 --> 00:53:32,576 - Hi, how are you, beautiful? - Hey! 710 00:53:33,976 --> 00:53:35,744 - What's up, man? - Yeah. Thank you. 711 00:53:35,777 --> 00:53:38,480 - This is your first time at Polly Cocktails? - Yes. 712 00:53:42,985 --> 00:53:45,521 I think I've seen most of you naked. 713 00:53:45,554 --> 00:53:46,556 Who's getting naked? 714 00:53:46,588 --> 00:53:47,923 Uh-uh. Not that kinda party. 715 00:53:47,956 --> 00:53:49,259 Veronica already told me well in advance. 716 00:53:49,291 --> 00:53:51,393 Daniel is an amazing cook. 717 00:53:51,427 --> 00:53:53,262 Ooh! 718 00:53:53,295 --> 00:53:55,564 - Don't be modest. - I'm not being modest. 719 00:53:55,597 --> 00:53:59,335 So, what have you been up to? Any new projects? 720 00:53:59,367 --> 00:54:02,404 - Actually, have a seat. - Yes. 721 00:54:02,438 --> 00:54:04,507 You know, I love you two together. 722 00:54:05,740 --> 00:54:08,076 - I'm glad you came. - Me, too. 723 00:54:08,110 --> 00:54:10,246 I'd love to see more of you. 724 00:54:10,278 --> 00:54:12,081 - Yeah. You're right. - Yeah. 725 00:54:12,114 --> 00:54:14,516 - Both of you, together. - Me, too. 726 00:54:14,550 --> 00:54:16,653 - Actually, I'm working on a documentary. - Yeah? 727 00:54:16,686 --> 00:54:18,421 Yeah. About poly. 728 00:54:18,454 --> 00:54:22,225 And I was thinking of you as a possible subject. 729 00:54:23,125 --> 00:54:24,427 Me? 730 00:54:24,460 --> 00:54:27,797 Well, I wonder why. I don't know anything about poly. 731 00:54:27,829 --> 00:54:30,500 Ah, come on, girl. 732 00:54:31,434 --> 00:54:35,238 - You're so gorgeous. - You're so gorgeous. 733 00:54:35,271 --> 00:54:38,475 - Oh, yeah, hi. Daniel. - I'm Jasmine. 734 00:54:39,307 --> 00:54:41,177 - Hi. - Hi. 735 00:54:44,045 --> 00:54:45,547 - Hi. - Hi. 736 00:54:46,916 --> 00:54:48,918 When couples talk about sharing, 737 00:54:48,951 --> 00:54:53,655 it usually doesn't include sex and romantic love with other people. 738 00:54:53,688 --> 00:54:59,161 Anything that threatens to upset the paradigm of two is risky. 739 00:54:59,195 --> 00:55:03,199 But, mutually adding a third person to a relationship 740 00:55:03,231 --> 00:55:07,804 has the power to expand the intimacy of sharing. 741 00:55:07,836 --> 00:55:12,041 Beyond the pleasure and variety polyamory brings, 742 00:55:12,074 --> 00:55:13,909 it is enlightening to see my partner 743 00:55:13,943 --> 00:55:17,480 through the desiring eyes of someone else. 744 00:55:17,512 --> 00:55:21,183 When Maya laughs at Daniel's jokes, I laugh, too, 745 00:55:21,217 --> 00:55:24,287 as if hearing them for the first time. 746 00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,691 I see myself in her wanting him 747 00:55:28,490 --> 00:55:30,525 and I want her more. 748 00:55:30,559 --> 00:55:34,130 Her desire reminds me how desirable he is 749 00:55:34,163 --> 00:55:36,599 and I desire him more. 750 00:55:36,632 --> 00:55:42,771 For the first time, I believe that three might be better than two. 751 00:55:42,804 --> 00:55:44,172 - Shall we get dessert? - Yes. 752 00:55:44,206 --> 00:55:45,875 Mm. Let's ask for dessert. 753 00:55:45,907 --> 00:55:47,143 Hi. 754 00:55:47,909 --> 00:55:49,478 Let's just ask for a check. 755 00:55:49,512 --> 00:55:50,380 I'll be right back. 756 00:55:52,882 --> 00:55:55,650 - Daniel. - Kirsten, hey. 757 00:55:55,684 --> 00:55:57,086 What are you doing here? 758 00:55:57,119 --> 00:55:59,389 I'm just here with some friends. 759 00:55:59,422 --> 00:56:02,257 You don't have to put on that act for my benefit anymore. 760 00:56:02,291 --> 00:56:05,161 Well, you didn't want to know, so. 761 00:56:05,193 --> 00:56:06,862 I'm taking care of the check. 762 00:56:06,896 --> 00:56:08,297 Oh, good. Good. 763 00:56:08,329 --> 00:56:10,432 - Hi, I'm Maya. - Kirsten. 764 00:56:10,465 --> 00:56:11,400 Nice to meet you. 765 00:56:11,434 --> 00:56:13,669 - And this is Veronica. - Hi. 766 00:56:13,702 --> 00:56:15,105 I know. 767 00:56:16,838 --> 00:56:17,840 We were the perfect couple 768 00:56:17,873 --> 00:56:19,041 and we just couldn't make it work. 769 00:56:19,074 --> 00:56:21,144 How are you gonna do any better? 770 00:56:22,177 --> 00:56:23,712 Well, we're not a couple. 771 00:56:23,746 --> 00:56:26,282 We're... a triad. 772 00:56:28,083 --> 00:56:29,719 It was nice meeting you. 773 00:56:42,530 --> 00:56:43,799 Ooh. 774 00:56:48,838 --> 00:56:52,242 - What's your safe word? - Kitten. 775 00:56:56,077 --> 00:56:57,346 Kneel. 776 00:58:22,831 --> 00:58:25,168 So, you saw Maya on Saturday? 777 00:58:25,900 --> 00:58:28,003 Yeah. Uh, I went to her place. 778 00:58:28,036 --> 00:58:30,372 So, we were gonna go out to eat, 779 00:58:30,405 --> 00:58:34,110 but I was really horny, so I kissed her 780 00:58:34,143 --> 00:58:36,679 and kinda nudged her onto the bed. 781 00:58:37,146 --> 00:58:39,181 Mmm. 782 00:58:39,213 --> 00:58:44,119 So, you, uh... before dinner? 783 00:58:44,152 --> 00:58:48,223 Yeah, yeah. We had sex before dinner. 784 00:58:48,257 --> 00:58:50,126 - Yeah. - Oh. 785 00:58:50,159 --> 00:58:52,894 Then we went to a Mexican restaurant and we talked a lot. 786 00:58:52,927 --> 00:58:55,196 I didn't think we would have so much in common. 787 00:58:55,230 --> 00:58:57,233 Um, did you know she's divorced? 788 00:58:58,266 --> 00:59:00,802 No. No, I didn't know that. 789 00:59:02,070 --> 00:59:03,438 Talked a lot about you. 790 00:59:03,472 --> 00:59:05,641 I told you to be present. 791 00:59:05,673 --> 00:59:06,976 I was present. 792 00:59:07,009 --> 00:59:09,545 I talked about you because... 793 00:59:09,577 --> 00:59:11,646 you're an important part of my life. 794 00:59:11,679 --> 00:59:13,114 Aww. 795 00:59:13,148 --> 00:59:15,550 Well, okay. That's good. 796 00:59:15,583 --> 00:59:17,385 Yeah, I know. 797 00:59:17,418 --> 00:59:19,187 Yeah, and then we went back to her place 798 00:59:19,221 --> 00:59:21,690 and, um, we fucked again. 799 00:59:22,791 --> 00:59:24,260 And, uh... 800 00:59:26,128 --> 00:59:27,564 Was it good? 801 00:59:28,329 --> 00:59:29,898 - Yeah. - Mm-hmm. 802 00:59:29,931 --> 00:59:30,932 Yeah. 803 00:59:30,965 --> 00:59:33,536 And by then, it was like 3:00 in the morning, 804 00:59:33,568 --> 00:59:35,737 and she said I could sleepover if it was too late. 805 00:59:36,137 --> 00:59:37,440 So... 806 00:59:38,474 --> 00:59:41,344 That wasn't part of our agreement. 807 00:59:41,376 --> 00:59:45,914 It was so late... you know. 808 00:59:45,947 --> 00:59:48,717 I did leave early in the morning, though. Come on. 809 00:59:51,686 --> 00:59:53,188 Okay. 810 00:59:53,222 --> 00:59:54,957 Yeah. I mean, that's fine. 811 00:59:54,989 --> 00:59:56,192 - Right? - Yeah. 812 00:59:56,224 --> 00:59:57,993 - Yeah. - Yeah. 813 01:00:18,646 --> 01:00:20,682 - They look so happy. - I know. 814 01:00:20,715 --> 01:00:22,317 Do you know how long they've been together? 815 01:00:22,351 --> 01:00:25,421 - It's their 20th anniversary. - Wow. 816 01:00:25,454 --> 01:00:27,123 That is so romantic. 817 01:00:27,155 --> 01:00:29,257 I wanna cry. That is so beautiful. 818 01:00:29,291 --> 01:00:31,193 - Hello, hello. - Hi! 819 01:00:31,226 --> 01:00:33,596 Veronica, you remember our boyfriend Ted. 820 01:00:33,628 --> 01:00:34,697 Of course. 821 01:00:34,730 --> 01:00:37,333 - We go way back. - Ah, yeah. 822 01:00:39,434 --> 01:00:41,871 So, how do you balance it, the three of you? 823 01:00:42,403 --> 01:00:44,407 It balances itself. 824 01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:47,309 We communicate, trust each other. 825 01:00:47,342 --> 01:00:48,978 I'm the luckiest man in the world. 826 01:00:49,010 --> 01:00:52,914 Well, with two gorgeous partners, of course you are. 827 01:00:56,918 --> 01:00:58,453 There's my man. 828 01:01:01,190 --> 01:01:03,291 Honey, are you jealous? 829 01:01:03,324 --> 01:01:06,561 - No. - It's okay to feel jealous. 830 01:01:06,594 --> 01:01:09,497 I know, I know. But I'm not. 831 01:01:09,530 --> 01:01:11,000 Maybe you need to be more bold, 832 01:01:11,032 --> 01:01:13,868 you know, if you want to move on the scales. 833 01:01:13,902 --> 01:01:17,974 - Tip the scales. - Yes, tip the scales. 834 01:01:35,289 --> 01:01:37,960 You know, it's so nice to finally have a real date with you. 835 01:01:39,393 --> 01:01:41,730 Thank you for the opportunity. 836 01:01:49,704 --> 01:01:52,574 Wow. The Healthy Hedonist. 837 01:01:52,608 --> 01:01:54,977 What inspired you to put those two things together? 838 01:01:56,311 --> 01:02:02,084 Um, well, you know how you get high 839 01:02:02,117 --> 01:02:05,921 and have hours of wild sex... 840 01:02:05,954 --> 01:02:08,758 - Mm-hmm. - ...but then next day you do nothing, 841 01:02:08,791 --> 01:02:11,994 you do nothing but cleanse and fast 842 01:02:12,027 --> 01:02:14,396 and squeeze out the toxins 843 01:02:14,429 --> 01:02:16,965 through yoga and meditation. 844 01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:19,135 Mm. 845 01:02:20,668 --> 01:02:21,569 Sort of. 846 01:02:21,603 --> 01:02:23,539 Sounds kind of extreme, though. 847 01:02:25,306 --> 01:02:28,176 I hear what you're saying. 848 01:02:28,210 --> 01:02:29,978 But it's all about balance. 849 01:02:32,213 --> 01:02:34,182 Yeah. 850 01:02:34,215 --> 01:02:37,318 Living into your pleasure. 851 01:02:37,351 --> 01:02:40,522 I don't know, just being present with what you're actually... 852 01:02:40,556 --> 01:02:44,059 Sorry. Just give me one moment. 853 01:02:51,065 --> 01:02:53,769 You know poly people, they're always checking in. 854 01:02:54,402 --> 01:02:55,570 Yeah. 855 01:02:58,407 --> 01:03:00,976 I'm actually working on a book, too. 856 01:03:01,009 --> 01:03:02,510 - Yeah? - Yeah. 857 01:03:02,543 --> 01:03:05,446 - Well, what's it about? - Well, it's a novel... 858 01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:08,550 - Uh-hmm. - ...and, um, 859 01:03:08,583 --> 01:03:14,123 it's about... love and lust 860 01:03:14,155 --> 01:03:15,690 and... 861 01:03:16,657 --> 01:03:20,596 Stuff? 862 01:03:20,628 --> 01:03:22,464 Yeah, you know. 863 01:03:23,164 --> 01:03:24,666 Good for you. Good for you. 864 01:03:24,699 --> 01:03:26,335 It's about a lot of things. 865 01:03:26,367 --> 01:03:29,371 - Yeah. - Good, good, good. 866 01:03:35,911 --> 01:03:39,014 Do you want to eat the food before it gets cold? 867 01:03:39,715 --> 01:03:41,250 Isn't that what we're doing? 868 01:03:41,282 --> 01:03:43,351 Oh. Mmm. 869 01:03:51,559 --> 01:03:52,927 Okay. Okay. 870 01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:53,862 Food. 871 01:03:53,896 --> 01:03:55,131 Yeah, food. 872 01:03:55,898 --> 01:03:57,166 Oh, yeah. 873 01:04:18,052 --> 01:04:19,121 You're putting that up? 874 01:04:20,021 --> 01:04:22,090 Yeah, yeah. It's a good spot for it, 875 01:04:22,123 --> 01:04:24,659 so why not, right? 876 01:04:24,693 --> 01:04:27,263 Well, I mean, look at it, Daniel. 877 01:04:27,295 --> 01:04:29,965 It's a very... sensual, 878 01:04:30,532 --> 01:04:32,167 - intimate photo. - Mm. 879 01:04:32,199 --> 01:04:34,002 And it's not small. 880 01:04:36,605 --> 01:04:38,708 Yeah. Okay. 881 01:04:39,875 --> 01:04:41,309 It might give her the wrong idea 882 01:04:41,342 --> 01:04:42,443 if she comes over here 883 01:04:42,476 --> 01:04:44,245 and she sees that, you know. 884 01:04:44,278 --> 01:04:47,016 Uh, what wrong idea? I don't... 885 01:04:47,048 --> 01:04:49,652 There are no photos like that of me up here. 886 01:04:49,684 --> 01:04:52,855 I'm gonna have to... you know, 887 01:04:52,887 --> 01:04:55,423 get some photos like that... at least one. 888 01:04:55,456 --> 01:04:56,925 Come on, it's just a gift, all right? 889 01:04:56,958 --> 01:04:58,426 Maya is a generous person. 890 01:04:58,460 --> 01:04:59,595 Don't you like her? 891 01:04:59,628 --> 01:05:01,396 Of course I do, she's my friend. 892 01:05:01,429 --> 01:05:03,097 I don't want to see her get hurt. 893 01:05:09,338 --> 01:05:12,641 - Hey, David. - Pizza delivery. 894 01:05:12,673 --> 01:05:14,309 I'll ring you in now, okay? 895 01:05:20,983 --> 01:05:23,619 Uh, yeah. 896 01:05:23,652 --> 01:05:25,854 Did you know that strawberries 897 01:05:25,887 --> 01:05:29,325 are from Brittany, France, originally? 898 01:05:29,358 --> 01:05:31,527 - Really? - I did not know that. 899 01:05:31,559 --> 01:05:32,594 Yeah. 900 01:05:32,626 --> 01:05:34,362 Can I play a song for you guys? 901 01:05:34,396 --> 01:05:35,764 - Yeah. - Yeah, sure. 902 01:05:35,797 --> 01:05:38,199 - Over there, you can plug it in. - Okay. 903 01:05:39,534 --> 01:05:40,936 Isn't he sexy? 904 01:05:41,436 --> 01:05:42,738 - Yeah. - Yeah. 905 01:05:46,974 --> 01:05:48,076 Mm-hmm. 906 01:05:57,885 --> 01:05:59,288 Oh. 907 01:06:02,224 --> 01:06:03,392 Oh. 908 01:06:14,735 --> 01:06:16,705 Mmm. 909 01:06:31,585 --> 01:06:33,188 Oh, yeah. 910 01:06:52,340 --> 01:06:55,711 I just wanna watch, okay? 911 01:07:09,157 --> 01:07:11,360 Do you want me to keep going? 912 01:07:11,393 --> 01:07:13,494 Um... 913 01:07:13,527 --> 01:07:16,397 He just needs some time, I think. 914 01:07:16,431 --> 01:07:18,266 You just need some time, right? 915 01:07:20,235 --> 01:07:21,336 Yeah? 916 01:07:21,769 --> 01:07:23,405 - Uh... - Yeah? 917 01:07:24,739 --> 01:07:26,041 You know, 918 01:07:26,074 --> 01:07:29,110 I don't think this is a good time. Sorry, I just... 919 01:07:39,353 --> 01:07:42,424 - He's never been with a guy before. - Mm. 920 01:07:43,824 --> 01:07:46,360 It really turns me on to see you with a man. 921 01:07:46,393 --> 01:07:47,829 You understand that, right? 922 01:07:47,862 --> 01:07:50,498 Yeah. But I felt like you were pressuring me. 923 01:07:51,599 --> 01:07:52,967 Well, you were really enjoying it 924 01:07:53,001 --> 01:07:55,171 before you got all in your head about it. 925 01:07:56,505 --> 01:08:00,910 - Uh, what about your friend Jasmine? - What about her? 926 01:08:02,309 --> 01:08:03,177 She's hot. 927 01:08:03,210 --> 01:08:06,080 So, maybe we could, uh, you know... 928 01:08:06,114 --> 01:08:08,750 Jasmine isn't taking on any new lovers. 929 01:08:08,782 --> 01:08:10,219 Well, she's not the only option. 930 01:08:10,251 --> 01:08:12,487 Well, neither are you. 931 01:08:21,429 --> 01:08:24,333 David just invited me over to continue, 932 01:08:24,365 --> 01:08:25,835 if it's okay with you. 933 01:08:28,603 --> 01:08:29,704 Sure. 934 01:08:29,738 --> 01:08:31,307 You have my blessing. 935 01:08:32,640 --> 01:08:33,808 Okay. 936 01:09:29,863 --> 01:09:33,368 I don't know. I just need a little break. 937 01:09:34,034 --> 01:09:35,837 Just a little break. 938 01:09:44,546 --> 01:09:45,948 You okay? 939 01:10:11,573 --> 01:10:13,041 Nice space. 940 01:10:13,073 --> 01:10:15,409 - Yeah. - Wow. 941 01:10:15,443 --> 01:10:19,480 So, we got an HBO writer just down the hall. 942 01:10:20,414 --> 01:10:23,851 That's Spike Lee's assistant's office, yeah. 943 01:10:23,885 --> 01:10:26,021 Oh, these are the Barrys! 944 01:10:26,054 --> 01:10:28,155 Barry R, Barry S. 945 01:10:28,189 --> 01:10:30,626 You want to put a camera on me and my partners? 946 01:10:31,893 --> 01:10:33,494 We can work out the approach. 947 01:10:34,328 --> 01:10:37,198 How true to life do you want it? 948 01:10:37,231 --> 01:10:40,034 As true as you want it to be. 949 01:10:40,068 --> 01:10:43,238 You already have the following with your blog, 950 01:10:43,270 --> 01:10:46,175 this is gonna take you on a whole other level. 951 01:10:47,309 --> 01:10:51,413 Think about it, hmm? 952 01:10:51,445 --> 01:10:53,715 Although I had reservations at first, 953 01:10:53,747 --> 01:10:57,152 I can't edit what I do or say like I do here. 954 01:10:57,185 --> 01:10:59,354 My lovers gave me their consent. 955 01:10:59,386 --> 01:11:04,125 And besides, how could I refuse to expand and inspire? 956 01:11:04,158 --> 01:11:06,360 So, I'm going on camera! 957 01:11:06,394 --> 01:11:09,530 And I can't wait to tell you all about it. 958 01:11:10,864 --> 01:11:12,934 What's your ideal poly relationship 959 01:11:12,966 --> 01:11:14,369 or relationships? 960 01:11:15,837 --> 01:11:18,240 Well, since I'm bisexual, 961 01:11:18,273 --> 01:11:21,610 I used to think that, ideally, 962 01:11:21,643 --> 01:11:24,078 I wanted one male partner 963 01:11:24,112 --> 01:11:26,047 and one female partner, 964 01:11:26,081 --> 01:11:28,216 and those relationships would be equal. 965 01:11:28,248 --> 01:11:33,121 Um, but now, well, more recently, I've been feeling like 966 01:11:33,154 --> 01:11:36,992 I ideally want a primary relationship, 967 01:11:37,024 --> 01:11:39,126 um, regardless of gender. 968 01:11:39,159 --> 01:11:42,630 And that, with that person, 969 01:11:42,663 --> 01:11:43,965 I would share, 970 01:11:43,997 --> 01:11:46,967 well, we would share, um, 971 01:11:47,001 --> 01:11:50,838 you know, exploring with other people. 972 01:11:50,872 --> 01:11:54,543 And, um, because... 973 01:11:55,676 --> 01:11:57,445 you know, I think it's important 974 01:11:57,479 --> 01:12:04,686 to have a solid foundation with someone. 975 01:12:04,719 --> 01:12:09,056 And it just seems easier to have that with one person, 976 01:12:09,090 --> 01:12:13,828 um, and then to... 977 01:12:13,862 --> 01:12:16,898 you know, and then build from there, 978 01:12:16,930 --> 01:12:18,799 yeah, like a house. 979 01:12:18,832 --> 01:12:20,067 You know, you have the foundation 980 01:12:20,100 --> 01:12:22,304 and then you want to add the extensions later. 981 01:12:24,271 --> 01:12:25,407 Yeah. 982 01:12:40,255 --> 01:12:42,690 What's the most challenging part of being poly? 983 01:12:45,092 --> 01:12:48,997 You know, I was wondering if you... 984 01:12:49,029 --> 01:12:52,733 The next time, before you see Daniel... 985 01:12:52,766 --> 01:12:55,636 - Mm-hmm. - Um, 986 01:12:55,670 --> 01:12:58,440 can you check in with me? 987 01:13:06,046 --> 01:13:07,782 Daniel is so... 988 01:13:10,885 --> 01:13:13,155 Okay. 989 01:13:14,756 --> 01:13:16,325 I have to admit, 990 01:13:17,225 --> 01:13:18,693 the first time, 991 01:13:18,725 --> 01:13:21,796 it was just the pleasure of being with someone 992 01:13:21,829 --> 01:13:24,500 who intimately knows you. 993 01:13:25,966 --> 01:13:28,436 - Huh. - Hmm, what? 994 01:13:30,070 --> 01:13:33,274 Hmm, that, um... 995 01:13:34,042 --> 01:13:36,378 - You are so beautiful. - Okay. 996 01:13:38,179 --> 01:13:40,282 I mean, is that a yes to checking in? 997 01:13:40,314 --> 01:13:42,350 You know, Daniel is... 998 01:13:44,618 --> 01:13:46,121 Yeah, he's amazing. 999 01:13:46,154 --> 01:13:47,556 He's something. 1000 01:13:49,657 --> 01:13:51,493 I wasn't going to say anything before, 1001 01:13:51,525 --> 01:13:53,127 but he is... 1002 01:13:53,161 --> 01:13:55,063 I don't think he's ready for this. 1003 01:13:55,095 --> 01:13:56,497 And I know you guys have a relationship, 1004 01:13:56,530 --> 01:13:59,234 I want to respect those boundaries, 1005 01:13:59,266 --> 01:14:01,936 and I know he's your primary partner, I get that. 1006 01:14:01,970 --> 01:14:06,440 I have come to peace with that, I've settled with that, 1007 01:14:06,474 --> 01:14:09,110 - I'm fine with that. - Uh-huh. 1008 01:14:14,248 --> 01:14:16,150 You understand? You see it, right? 1009 01:14:16,984 --> 01:14:18,353 Um... 1010 01:14:18,386 --> 01:14:21,123 He has this, like, baby in a candy store kinda thing. 1011 01:14:21,956 --> 01:14:24,493 - Yeah. - It's kinda scary. 1012 01:14:28,762 --> 01:14:29,930 That doesn't scare me. 1013 01:14:29,963 --> 01:14:31,567 - No? - No. 1014 01:14:34,769 --> 01:14:36,171 You know, 1015 01:14:36,203 --> 01:14:38,472 my lover Chris is supposed to come over later, 1016 01:14:38,506 --> 01:14:40,242 and I haven't seen him in a few months. 1017 01:14:40,274 --> 01:14:44,879 So, I just want to conserve my energy. 1018 01:14:46,547 --> 01:14:48,949 Yeah, I've been touring so many different places. 1019 01:14:48,983 --> 01:14:50,652 - Yeah. - Busy, busy, busy. 1020 01:14:50,685 --> 01:14:53,054 - So, you understand, right? - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 1021 01:14:53,087 --> 01:14:55,190 Yeah, so, you want me to go? 1022 01:14:55,222 --> 01:14:56,457 Thank you. 1023 01:14:56,957 --> 01:14:57,893 Um... 1024 01:14:58,626 --> 01:15:00,061 Okay. 1025 01:15:00,094 --> 01:15:02,764 - Are you... You're okay? - Yeah, okay. 1026 01:15:02,796 --> 01:15:04,064 - You sure? - Yeah. 1027 01:15:04,097 --> 01:15:06,301 Okay. You don't have to go right now. 1028 01:16:21,309 --> 01:16:22,444 Do you mind? 1029 01:16:39,159 --> 01:16:40,528 Do you know how? 1030 01:16:41,194 --> 01:16:43,631 - Here. - Uh, no idea. 1031 01:16:44,599 --> 01:16:46,034 Okay. Put your arm... Wait. 1032 01:16:46,067 --> 01:16:47,668 Put your arm through there. 1033 01:16:48,802 --> 01:16:50,037 Um... 1034 01:16:53,173 --> 01:16:54,908 No. 1035 01:16:54,942 --> 01:16:56,811 Put your arm through this one. 1036 01:16:57,377 --> 01:16:59,014 Put your head through. 1037 01:17:02,250 --> 01:17:03,551 Yeah. 1038 01:17:05,118 --> 01:17:06,587 Uh... 1039 01:17:12,859 --> 01:17:13,929 There. 1040 01:17:17,731 --> 01:17:18,899 Yeah. 1041 01:17:20,534 --> 01:17:22,470 - Hey. - Hey, welcome. 1042 01:17:24,471 --> 01:17:27,274 Oh, ho-ho! 1043 01:17:27,307 --> 01:17:28,643 - Look at you! - You like it? 1044 01:17:28,676 --> 01:17:31,780 Lookin' like a sexy, Asian Satan. 1045 01:17:31,813 --> 01:17:34,582 I like that. I'm getting nervous, man. 1046 01:17:34,614 --> 01:17:37,851 It's a big night. It's a big night! 1047 01:17:40,787 --> 01:17:44,425 - Hey, you guys look great. - You look great. 1048 01:17:46,359 --> 01:17:48,829 Okay, everyone. Why don't we go around, 1049 01:17:48,863 --> 01:17:51,231 say your names and a little bit about yourself? 1050 01:17:51,265 --> 01:17:53,435 - So, who's starting? - I will. 1051 01:17:53,900 --> 01:17:55,737 Hi. I'm Jasmine. 1052 01:17:55,770 --> 01:17:58,339 I lost my virginity in a threesome 1053 01:17:58,372 --> 01:18:01,109 and it was amazing! 1054 01:18:01,141 --> 01:18:04,046 I was like, "I don't wanna be a nun anymore." 1055 01:18:06,814 --> 01:18:09,150 The journey to get to where I... 1056 01:18:09,182 --> 01:18:11,853 where I am now. Oh, I'm nervous. 1057 01:18:14,020 --> 01:18:16,824 Oh, Maya. Hi, I'm Maya. Maya's my name. 1058 01:18:16,858 --> 01:18:18,560 Um, 1059 01:18:18,592 --> 01:18:21,863 I feel really grateful that I got to choose this life. 1060 01:18:21,895 --> 01:18:25,634 You know, whether I have one lover or five. 1061 01:18:32,472 --> 01:18:34,708 I had no idea this world existed, 1062 01:18:34,742 --> 01:18:36,811 but I met Veronica and she opened me up. 1063 01:18:36,844 --> 01:18:39,814 She helped me discover that ethical non-monogamy 1064 01:18:39,846 --> 01:18:43,317 isn't just about swapping partners or free love, 1065 01:18:43,350 --> 01:18:48,255 it's female driven, generous and inclusive. 1066 01:18:48,288 --> 01:18:51,091 All right, you're up, girl. Come on, now. 1067 01:18:51,125 --> 01:18:53,595 Hi, I'm Veronica. 1068 01:18:54,729 --> 01:18:56,530 I don't know why I'm here. 1069 01:18:56,564 --> 01:18:59,400 She's a funny one. 1070 01:18:59,432 --> 01:19:01,802 No matter how careful you are, 1071 01:19:01,836 --> 01:19:04,472 someone always ends up getting hurt. 1072 01:19:06,106 --> 01:19:07,576 Ay, Veronica. 1073 01:19:11,311 --> 01:19:14,282 I'm Teddy. I'm polyamorous, 1074 01:19:14,314 --> 01:19:15,783 and It works for me. 1075 01:19:19,220 --> 01:19:21,556 Hey, why didn't you acknowledge me? 1076 01:19:21,588 --> 01:19:23,057 I'm here as your partner. 1077 01:19:39,707 --> 01:19:40,742 May I? 1078 01:19:51,786 --> 01:19:53,855 Oh! 1079 01:20:16,210 --> 01:20:17,813 One. 1080 01:20:19,747 --> 01:20:20,949 Two. 1081 01:20:23,083 --> 01:20:24,552 Three. 1082 01:20:25,519 --> 01:20:26,655 Four. 1083 01:20:28,421 --> 01:20:29,823 Five. 1084 01:20:29,856 --> 01:20:32,226 Six, seven, eight... 1085 01:20:32,260 --> 01:20:34,195 Okay, red. 1086 01:20:37,765 --> 01:20:40,568 - Nine, ten, eleven. - Red! Red! Hey! 1087 01:20:40,600 --> 01:20:42,069 Hey, hey, hey. 1088 01:20:44,404 --> 01:20:45,606 What's wrong with you? 1089 01:20:45,640 --> 01:20:47,508 What the hell was that all about? 1090 01:20:47,541 --> 01:20:50,045 - We were playing. - That was not playing. 1091 01:22:22,235 --> 01:22:23,337 Hey. 1092 01:22:24,471 --> 01:22:28,009 Oh. You still got your... 1093 01:22:28,042 --> 01:22:29,210 Oh, yeah, yeah. 1094 01:22:29,243 --> 01:22:31,479 - ...smoky eyes. - Just haven't had any time 1095 01:22:31,511 --> 01:22:34,481 to get rid of it, so. 1096 01:22:34,515 --> 01:22:36,517 What is this place? 1097 01:22:36,550 --> 01:22:38,353 It was late and I needed to be alone, 1098 01:22:38,386 --> 01:22:40,254 so Benton hooked me up. 1099 01:22:40,287 --> 01:22:43,992 Yeah, it's unrented, so he said I could crash here. 1100 01:22:48,194 --> 01:22:49,063 Mm-hmm. 1101 01:22:50,698 --> 01:22:52,066 Oh, are you hungry? 1102 01:22:52,099 --> 01:22:53,634 I just ordered this. 1103 01:22:53,667 --> 01:22:56,504 - No. - Oh, I meant this. 1104 01:22:56,537 --> 01:22:59,574 Oh, no. Um, where's the bathroom? 1105 01:22:59,606 --> 01:23:02,344 Ah, it's the first door to your right. 1106 01:23:17,425 --> 01:23:19,060 You said you needed to be alone. 1107 01:23:24,832 --> 01:23:27,235 Yes... 1108 01:23:27,268 --> 01:23:29,337 but I met someone else. 1109 01:23:30,503 --> 01:23:31,672 At Chemistry? 1110 01:23:32,372 --> 01:23:34,574 Uh, no, after. She's sweet. 1111 01:23:34,608 --> 01:23:37,311 I've never been with a sex worker before. 1112 01:23:47,621 --> 01:23:49,190 You paid her for sex? 1113 01:23:49,689 --> 01:23:51,024 Yeah, she's smart. 1114 01:23:51,057 --> 01:23:53,694 She's working her way through college. 1115 01:23:58,666 --> 01:24:00,435 I have nothing against sex workers, 1116 01:24:00,467 --> 01:24:02,235 but what the fuck, Daniel? 1117 01:24:02,269 --> 01:24:04,806 What? You never said it was out of bounds. 1118 01:24:06,539 --> 01:24:08,408 So, this is my fault now? 1119 01:24:08,442 --> 01:24:11,412 I give you freedom and this is what you do with it. 1120 01:24:11,444 --> 01:24:13,113 Well, I finally have freedom, 1121 01:24:13,146 --> 01:24:15,882 - and now you want to take it away. - No. 1122 01:24:15,916 --> 01:24:17,784 Yeah, that's what you're doing right now. 1123 01:24:17,818 --> 01:24:19,087 No! 1124 01:24:19,119 --> 01:24:21,788 But monogamy is obsolete, okay? You know that. 1125 01:24:21,822 --> 01:24:24,192 No, I never, I never said that. I never said that. 1126 01:24:24,225 --> 01:24:26,494 You're not saying that, but that's what you're doing, okay? 1127 01:24:26,527 --> 01:24:27,694 Monogamy is obsolete. 1128 01:24:27,728 --> 01:24:29,364 - Polyamory is the future. - What? 1129 01:24:30,597 --> 01:24:32,966 This, this is not poly. 1130 01:24:33,000 --> 01:24:35,002 This... There are no boundaries here. 1131 01:24:35,034 --> 01:24:36,104 Where are the boundaries? 1132 01:24:36,136 --> 01:24:37,871 Boundaries? What about compersion? 1133 01:24:37,904 --> 01:24:40,173 - What... What... - Compersion? Fuck compersion! 1134 01:24:40,207 --> 01:24:42,276 - What you did to Maya... - Maya? 1135 01:24:42,309 --> 01:24:44,846 Maya. What I did to Maya was not cool, 1136 01:24:44,878 --> 01:24:46,847 - but, but that... - Mm-hmm. 1137 01:24:46,881 --> 01:24:49,917 Look, she was not being my friend, okay? 1138 01:24:49,949 --> 01:24:54,755 And that has nothing to do with you and me right now. 1139 01:24:56,157 --> 01:24:57,257 I love you. 1140 01:24:59,126 --> 01:25:00,128 I do, too. 1141 01:25:12,573 --> 01:25:13,775 Okay. 1142 01:25:16,143 --> 01:25:17,078 Hey... 1143 01:25:20,314 --> 01:25:23,118 - I'm sorry. Just look... - Don't touch me! 1144 01:25:40,167 --> 01:25:43,738 Look, I can give you threesomes and parties 1145 01:25:43,770 --> 01:25:45,005 and... 1146 01:25:46,673 --> 01:25:48,810 we can do things together. 1147 01:25:49,510 --> 01:25:50,945 We can have all of that 1148 01:25:50,978 --> 01:25:54,349 if you could just... love me. 1149 01:26:44,965 --> 01:26:47,635 Yeah, I mean, for me... 1150 01:26:47,667 --> 01:26:50,070 like, with all my poly experience, 1151 01:26:50,104 --> 01:26:54,576 I've never... let go of... 1152 01:26:56,810 --> 01:26:59,180 my romantic view of love. 1153 01:27:00,079 --> 01:27:02,917 Is it possible to love... 1154 01:27:02,949 --> 01:27:05,051 like, openly, totally openly 1155 01:27:05,085 --> 01:27:07,654 and with vulnerability 1156 01:27:07,688 --> 01:27:10,391 and with abandon... 1157 01:27:11,692 --> 01:27:14,162 when you have multiple lovers, I... 1158 01:27:15,762 --> 01:27:17,163 sometimes I think, yes, of course, 1159 01:27:17,197 --> 01:27:21,301 but other times, I'm not so sure. 1160 01:27:22,670 --> 01:27:27,108 Which is why I think polyamory is just as fucked up as monogamy. 1161 01:27:35,349 --> 01:27:38,086 You are the most engaging... 1162 01:31:10,796 --> 01:31:12,165 - Hi. - Hey. 1163 01:31:15,735 --> 01:31:16,770 How are you? 1164 01:31:17,136 --> 01:31:18,238 Good. 1165 01:31:19,907 --> 01:31:21,375 Mmm, Daniel, 1166 01:31:22,408 --> 01:31:24,978 I've never been disappointed in your cooking. 1167 01:31:25,011 --> 01:31:26,279 There you go. 1168 01:31:28,515 --> 01:31:29,850 - So, how's the... - ...book? 1169 01:31:29,882 --> 01:31:31,351 Killin' it. 1170 01:31:34,121 --> 01:31:35,690 Book is going well. 1171 01:31:37,123 --> 01:31:39,193 Yeah, it's, um... 1172 01:31:40,159 --> 01:31:42,395 I realized sometimes it... 1173 01:31:43,095 --> 01:31:44,331 it... 1174 01:31:45,032 --> 01:31:46,233 A story needs separation 1175 01:31:46,265 --> 01:31:48,301 from the thing that inspired it... 1176 01:31:49,970 --> 01:31:51,838 to start to really make sense. 1177 01:31:57,677 --> 01:31:58,578 Yeah. 1178 01:32:00,581 --> 01:32:02,382 Do you still go to parties? 1179 01:32:03,750 --> 01:32:05,118 Oh, not as often. 1180 01:32:05,152 --> 01:32:08,221 Um, I'm dating someone now, actually. 1181 01:32:11,958 --> 01:32:13,226 Do I know her? 1182 01:32:14,461 --> 01:32:15,529 No. 1183 01:32:15,561 --> 01:32:17,765 But I think you'd like her, though. 1184 01:32:19,231 --> 01:32:20,667 How's it working out? 1185 01:32:22,735 --> 01:32:23,970 We're really happy. 1186 01:32:24,904 --> 01:32:25,773 Uh... 1187 01:32:25,805 --> 01:32:28,708 Yeah. I go to the city when I can, 1188 01:32:28,742 --> 01:32:31,679 and she comes up here a couple of times. 1189 01:32:34,247 --> 01:32:35,349 Hmm. 1190 01:33:03,909 --> 01:33:05,445 You have someone. 1191 01:33:07,948 --> 01:33:10,250 Yes, but she's married. 1192 01:33:10,283 --> 01:33:11,852 And it'll never go beyond what we... 1193 01:33:11,885 --> 01:33:13,119 You... 1194 01:33:13,153 --> 01:33:15,957 you were married when we met, remember? 1195 01:33:24,096 --> 01:33:26,367 Would you ever... 1196 01:33:26,399 --> 01:33:29,269 ...under the right circumstances, 1197 01:33:31,171 --> 01:33:34,307 want to try again with me? 1198 01:33:35,007 --> 01:33:36,610 What circumstances? 1199 01:33:38,110 --> 01:33:41,815 You and I were never really a couple, Daniel. We... 1200 01:33:43,917 --> 01:33:47,354 There was always something or someone... 1201 01:33:47,386 --> 01:33:48,822 between us. 1202 01:33:51,057 --> 01:33:52,827 Besides, um... 1203 01:33:54,427 --> 01:33:56,296 I'm seeing someone, too. 1204 01:33:58,364 --> 01:34:00,501 She's a writer from New York, 1205 01:34:03,737 --> 01:34:04,805 loves cats. 1206 01:35:11,220 --> 01:35:16,220 Provided by explosiveskull https://twitter.com/kaboomskull