1 00:00:01,545 --> 00:00:05,512 Pops: The success of a Black man can be measured in many ways -- 2 00:00:05,512 --> 00:00:06,722 grip strength, 3 00:00:06,722 --> 00:00:08,643 growing a beard that connects, 4 00:00:08,643 --> 00:00:11,565 and providing for and protecting your family, 5 00:00:11,565 --> 00:00:14,028 which has never been easy in this country. 6 00:00:14,028 --> 00:00:16,407 From the time we got here, a man's family 7 00:00:16,407 --> 00:00:18,411 could be separated and sold. 8 00:00:18,411 --> 00:00:21,167 You could be harassed, driven off your land. 9 00:00:21,167 --> 00:00:23,839 ♪ Yeah ♪ Dignity was never guaranteed, 10 00:00:23,839 --> 00:00:26,469 and Lord knows the world didn't make it easy on me. 11 00:00:26,469 --> 00:00:28,641 But I did okay. 12 00:00:28,641 --> 00:00:29,977 Because I believe the truest measure 13 00:00:29,977 --> 00:00:31,312 of a Black man's success 14 00:00:31,312 --> 00:00:33,609 comes from the success of his own children. 15 00:00:33,609 --> 00:00:35,697 My son has it all, 16 00:00:35,697 --> 00:00:38,159 and I like to think I'm responsible 17 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:39,538 for at least most of it. 18 00:00:39,538 --> 00:00:41,499 ♪ Everything, everything ♪ 19 00:00:41,499 --> 00:00:44,631 Uh. Hey, Pops. 20 00:00:44,631 --> 00:00:47,136 You know when they say "Casual Fridays," 21 00:00:47,136 --> 00:00:49,473 they don't mean that casual. 22 00:00:49,473 --> 00:00:50,518 I'm taking a sick day. 23 00:00:50,518 --> 00:00:52,313 You're sick? Oh, regular sick, 24 00:00:52,313 --> 00:00:55,820 or slide my meals under the door for the next 10 days sick? 25 00:00:55,820 --> 00:00:57,741 I'm not actually sick, Pops. 26 00:00:57,741 --> 00:00:59,828 But if you don't use your days, they go to waste. 27 00:00:59,828 --> 00:01:00,997 [ Television turns on ] 28 00:01:00,997 --> 00:01:03,001 Huh. [ Sighs ] 29 00:01:03,001 --> 00:01:05,255 [ Sports announcer speaking indistinctly ] 30 00:01:05,255 --> 00:01:06,884 O.J. 31 00:01:06,884 --> 00:01:07,969 "O." 32 00:01:07,969 --> 00:01:09,640 Olivia. 33 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:11,392 [ Sighs ] 34 00:01:11,392 --> 00:01:12,562 Hmm. [ Refrigerator door closes ] 35 00:01:13,689 --> 00:01:14,775 Hey, Pops. 36 00:01:14,775 --> 00:01:15,902 Mm-hmm. 37 00:01:15,902 --> 00:01:17,237 Aw, hell. 38 00:01:17,237 --> 00:01:20,452 We got one mid-life crisis and one love-sick chump. 39 00:01:20,452 --> 00:01:22,498 Looks like my work is never done. 40 00:01:22,498 --> 00:01:23,876 That's it. 41 00:01:23,876 --> 00:01:25,546 Grab enough underwear to get through the weekend 42 00:01:25,546 --> 00:01:28,468 and your alcoholic beverage of choice. 43 00:01:28,468 --> 00:01:30,263 We're taking a man trip. 44 00:01:30,263 --> 00:01:31,975 ♪♪ 45 00:01:36,902 --> 00:01:38,363 ♪♪ 46 00:01:38,363 --> 00:01:40,242 Alright. You all about ready to go? 47 00:01:40,242 --> 00:01:41,244 Mm-hmm. Yeah, we're just finishing up 48 00:01:41,244 --> 00:01:42,496 these sandwiches real quick. 49 00:01:42,496 --> 00:01:43,541 How many do you think we need? 50 00:01:43,541 --> 00:01:44,668 Well, let me see how many you got. 51 00:01:44,668 --> 00:01:47,131 We got one, two -- Uh-huh. Two. 52 00:01:47,131 --> 00:01:51,723 $20 worth of prosciutto just gone, but okay. 53 00:01:51,723 --> 00:01:53,017 This ain't no picnic. 54 00:01:53,017 --> 00:01:55,147 We're gonna live off the land. 55 00:01:55,147 --> 00:01:58,278 Look, sometimes we men have to go back to basics -- 56 00:01:58,278 --> 00:02:02,369 fresh air, hunt your own food, build your own fire. 57 00:02:02,369 --> 00:02:04,541 So I'm taking you two to a little cabin I know. 58 00:02:04,541 --> 00:02:05,710 Come on, we got to go. 59 00:02:05,710 --> 00:02:08,047 We don't want to be on motorcycles when it's dark. 60 00:02:08,047 --> 00:02:09,926 Motorcycles? Pops. 61 00:02:09,926 --> 00:02:11,137 That sounds a little dangerous. 62 00:02:11,137 --> 00:02:13,684 No, it's a lot dangerous, and that's the point. 63 00:02:13,684 --> 00:02:15,730 By the time we return, 64 00:02:15,730 --> 00:02:19,320 our senses will be honed to a razor-sharp point. 65 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,073 Man trip! 66 00:02:21,073 --> 00:02:22,535 Yeah! Yeah! 67 00:02:22,535 --> 00:02:23,537 Man trip! 68 00:02:23,537 --> 00:02:25,415 Grab your gear while you can! 69 00:02:25,415 --> 00:02:28,129 You're leaving with ten fingers and ten toes. 70 00:02:28,129 --> 00:02:30,217 Can't guarantee you're coming back the same way. 71 00:02:30,217 --> 00:02:33,223 [ DMX's "Ruff Ryders' Anthem" plays ] 72 00:02:33,223 --> 00:02:35,268 ♪♪ 73 00:02:35,268 --> 00:02:36,688 ♪ Uh ♪ 74 00:02:36,688 --> 00:02:39,736 ♪♪ 75 00:02:39,736 --> 00:02:41,573 ♪ Something new ♪ 76 00:02:41,573 --> 00:02:44,913 This is, uh, probably a good time to tell you guys 77 00:02:44,913 --> 00:02:47,710 I don't know how to ride a motorcycle. 78 00:02:49,296 --> 00:02:54,599 ♪ Stop, drop, shut 'em down, open up shop ♪ 79 00:02:54,599 --> 00:02:57,229 ♪ Oh, no ♪ 80 00:02:57,229 --> 00:02:59,568 ♪ That's how Ruff Ryders roll ♪ 81 00:02:59,568 --> 00:03:02,114 So, I organized my college list 82 00:03:02,114 --> 00:03:04,243 by rank, state, and weather. [ Gasps ] 83 00:03:04,243 --> 00:03:05,203 You know, you can just say, 84 00:03:05,203 --> 00:03:06,957 "Mom, I don't want to go to Brown." 85 00:03:06,957 --> 00:03:08,961 I can take it. I don't want to go to Brown. 86 00:03:08,961 --> 00:03:10,463 Oh. 87 00:03:10,463 --> 00:03:12,802 Hey, Jack. Where's your college list? 88 00:03:12,802 --> 00:03:14,388 Uh, just cut and paste my name 89 00:03:14,388 --> 00:03:15,808 onto Diane's list. We'll be good. 90 00:03:15,808 --> 00:03:17,477 Uh, that's not how it goes, friend. 91 00:03:17,477 --> 00:03:19,858 But I'm sure we can look at my top colleges 92 00:03:19,858 --> 00:03:22,446 and find community colleges within a five-mile radius. 93 00:03:22,446 --> 00:03:23,448 That works for me, too. 94 00:03:23,448 --> 00:03:25,995 Ah, you know, 95 00:03:25,995 --> 00:03:28,542 you guys don't have to go to the same school. 96 00:03:28,542 --> 00:03:30,337 [ Laughs ] What? 97 00:03:30,337 --> 00:03:31,715 Yo, Mom's got jokes. Yeah. 98 00:03:31,715 --> 00:03:33,677 No, no, I'm not joking. I know you guys are used to 99 00:03:33,677 --> 00:03:36,140 doing everything together, but I think college 100 00:03:36,140 --> 00:03:39,063 is an opportunity for you guys to see 101 00:03:39,063 --> 00:03:41,317 what it's like without each other. 102 00:03:41,317 --> 00:03:42,904 Yeah, no, I don't know, Mom. 103 00:03:42,904 --> 00:03:44,406 It just, uh -- It might be easier 104 00:03:44,406 --> 00:03:45,660 if we just go to the same school. 105 00:03:45,660 --> 00:03:46,870 Yeah. Maybe. 106 00:03:46,870 --> 00:03:48,164 Um, okay, so maybe I can go to, 107 00:03:48,164 --> 00:03:49,751 uh, Spellman. That looks good. 108 00:03:49,751 --> 00:03:51,379 That's an all-women's school, so... 109 00:03:51,379 --> 00:03:53,007 I am not mad at that. Y-- Oh. 110 00:03:53,007 --> 00:03:54,886 I'm gonna go apply right now. 111 00:03:54,886 --> 00:03:56,389 [ Clears throat ] 112 00:03:56,389 --> 00:03:58,769 After a motorcycle ride where I found out 113 00:03:58,769 --> 00:04:02,735 being that close to the ground gives my grandson anxiety, 114 00:04:02,735 --> 00:04:04,739 we were finally here. 115 00:04:04,739 --> 00:04:07,035 Junior: Ah, nature. 116 00:04:07,035 --> 00:04:10,125 It might be great just to leave it all behind, you know? 117 00:04:10,125 --> 00:04:12,505 Just a man in the woods finding himself. 118 00:04:12,505 --> 00:04:14,509 [ Gasps ] Ooh, ooh! 119 00:04:14,509 --> 00:04:16,638 Take a picture of me chopping wood. 120 00:04:16,638 --> 00:04:19,059 I'm-a post it on Instagram to flex on Olivia. 121 00:04:19,059 --> 00:04:21,188 Yeah. I got you. 122 00:04:23,317 --> 00:04:24,529 [ Phone thuds ] 123 00:04:24,529 --> 00:04:26,365 I should have seen that coming after the sandwiches. 124 00:04:26,365 --> 00:04:28,662 You need to get over that girl, Junior. 125 00:04:28,662 --> 00:04:30,750 I'm helping you. You know what? 126 00:04:30,750 --> 00:04:32,210 You're right. 127 00:04:32,210 --> 00:04:35,509 I have tried everything else. 128 00:04:36,553 --> 00:04:38,306 [ Grunts ] 129 00:04:38,306 --> 00:04:39,726 Let me get at that axe. 130 00:04:39,726 --> 00:04:41,730 That's it, son. 131 00:04:41,730 --> 00:04:43,399 [ Grunts ] Mm-hmm. 132 00:04:43,399 --> 00:04:45,571 Wow, that was amazing! 133 00:04:45,571 --> 00:04:47,825 Can an axe solve all my problems in life? 134 00:04:47,825 --> 00:04:49,954 Hey, Pops, while he works on the fire, 135 00:04:49,954 --> 00:04:51,165 I got a question for you. Uh-huh. 136 00:04:51,165 --> 00:04:52,960 What's stocked in this cabin, huh? 137 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:54,798 We got steak? Wild-caught salmon? 138 00:04:54,798 --> 00:04:56,175 [ Gasps ] 139 00:04:56,175 --> 00:04:58,387 Did your boy field-dress a deer from last spring? 140 00:04:58,387 --> 00:04:59,974 No, no, there's nothing in there. 141 00:04:59,974 --> 00:05:01,477 The only things that we eat 142 00:05:01,477 --> 00:05:03,941 are what we can hunt and fish and forage. 143 00:05:03,941 --> 00:05:05,653 What? That's part of the fun. 144 00:05:05,653 --> 00:05:06,905 Fun?! 145 00:05:06,905 --> 00:05:09,201 See, that's what your problem is, Dre. 146 00:05:09,201 --> 00:05:10,996 You focus on the wrong things. 147 00:05:10,996 --> 00:05:13,836 Like back home, you're worried about the "work-life balance" 148 00:05:13,836 --> 00:05:15,171 or missed e-mails. 149 00:05:15,171 --> 00:05:18,804 Out here, boy, one wrong move and you wake up dead. 150 00:05:18,804 --> 00:05:21,893 So we have no dinner plans. 151 00:05:21,893 --> 00:05:23,981 No, we don't. [ Laughs ] 152 00:05:23,981 --> 00:05:26,443 Now, maybe I was being a little hard on them, 153 00:05:26,443 --> 00:05:29,158 but my son and grandson needed a swift kick in the ass 154 00:05:29,158 --> 00:05:31,245 to realize life wasn't as hard 155 00:05:31,245 --> 00:05:32,582 as they made it out to be. 156 00:05:32,582 --> 00:05:35,671 You know, Junior is doing a lot better than I thought. 157 00:05:36,840 --> 00:05:39,386 I'll admit, I'm feeling a lot better, too. 158 00:05:39,386 --> 00:05:40,639 See? I told you. 159 00:05:40,639 --> 00:05:42,852 It's the cool mountain air. 160 00:05:42,852 --> 00:05:44,188 I'm feeling it, Pops. 161 00:05:44,188 --> 00:05:47,695 Hey, does the beer get colder up here? [ Laughs ] 162 00:05:47,695 --> 00:05:50,450 Because this is the best beer that I've ever had. 163 00:05:50,450 --> 00:05:53,206 Is this an IPA? Because I think I'm an IPA guy now. 164 00:05:53,206 --> 00:05:56,045 See? All you needed was to get away from everything. 165 00:05:56,045 --> 00:05:57,673 Don't get caught up in the news 166 00:05:57,673 --> 00:05:59,468 or what folks around you are doing. 167 00:05:59,468 --> 00:06:01,932 Hmm. See, as a man, 168 00:06:01,932 --> 00:06:04,311 the way to fix things has always been the same. 169 00:06:04,311 --> 00:06:06,357 You're right. You know, I can't wait 170 00:06:06,357 --> 00:06:08,402 to get a couple of swings of that old axe. 171 00:06:08,402 --> 00:06:10,824 Oh, it'll be good for you. Go ahead. 172 00:06:10,824 --> 00:06:14,248 -Check on it. -[ Sighs ] 173 00:06:14,248 --> 00:06:15,709 Junior: [ Sobbing ] 174 00:06:15,709 --> 00:06:18,464 Oh, God. 175 00:06:18,464 --> 00:06:20,051 I think he's crying. 176 00:06:20,051 --> 00:06:21,053 ♪♪ 177 00:06:21,053 --> 00:06:22,640 Is it out of effort? 178 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:24,142 I doubt it. 179 00:06:24,142 --> 00:06:26,523 [ Crying ] 180 00:06:26,523 --> 00:06:27,942 ♪♪ 181 00:06:27,942 --> 00:06:31,031 Dammit, this boy is out here crying on our man trip. 182 00:06:34,622 --> 00:06:36,083 [ Crying ] 183 00:06:36,083 --> 00:06:37,503 Oh, Pops, I wonder what's going on out there. 184 00:06:37,503 --> 00:06:39,047 Maybe he's got some wood chips in his eyes. 185 00:06:39,047 --> 00:06:40,341 I don't think so. 186 00:06:40,341 --> 00:06:41,886 Your boy is soft. 187 00:06:41,886 --> 00:06:44,057 Look, I'm not saying that you're failing as a father, 188 00:06:44,057 --> 00:06:45,226 but I'm not not saying it either. 189 00:06:45,226 --> 00:06:47,523 Hey. Look, you need to handle this 190 00:06:47,523 --> 00:06:50,863 because this trip starts when the waterworks stop. 191 00:06:50,863 --> 00:06:52,073 Mm. 192 00:06:52,073 --> 00:06:53,325 [ Crying continues ] 193 00:06:53,325 --> 00:06:56,916 You know, I thought about it, and you were right, Mom. 194 00:06:56,916 --> 00:06:59,379 Thank you. About what now? 195 00:06:59,379 --> 00:07:00,591 About colleges. 196 00:07:00,591 --> 00:07:02,052 I finished my list... Ah. Ooh. 197 00:07:02,052 --> 00:07:04,222 ...and, uh, I don't want to get ahead of myself, 198 00:07:04,222 --> 00:07:06,268 but I think I'd be happy with any of these. 199 00:07:06,268 --> 00:07:08,355 Unbelievable. This is great. 200 00:07:08,355 --> 00:07:10,193 And what -- And what -- what are your top picks, babe? 201 00:07:10,193 --> 00:07:12,238 Um... University of Michigan? 202 00:07:12,238 --> 00:07:13,575 Mm-hmm. Where did that come from? 203 00:07:13,575 --> 00:07:15,788 Uh, they're the Wolverines, Diane. 204 00:07:15,788 --> 00:07:17,123 I think they've figured out the hand claws 205 00:07:17,123 --> 00:07:19,837 in the comic books, so it's at least worth a try. 206 00:07:19,837 --> 00:07:21,966 Yeah, yeah. Well, okay. 207 00:07:21,966 --> 00:07:23,845 That is a really good start. It is? 208 00:07:23,845 --> 00:07:26,810 Jack, yes, and, uh, just keep working on it. 209 00:07:26,810 --> 00:07:28,312 Okay, I will. Okay, yeah. 210 00:07:28,312 --> 00:07:30,274 Alright. Alright. 211 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,114 What is this? 212 00:07:33,114 --> 00:07:34,116 [ Sighs ] 213 00:07:34,116 --> 00:07:35,744 Diane, look, 214 00:07:35,744 --> 00:07:38,542 we've been a combo meal for all our lives, right? 215 00:07:38,542 --> 00:07:41,840 Maybe it's time we go à la carte? 216 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:43,342 Wow. 217 00:07:43,342 --> 00:07:47,726 The one time anything Mom said sinks in, this is it? 218 00:07:47,726 --> 00:07:49,146 This? 219 00:07:49,146 --> 00:07:50,356 Okay. 220 00:07:50,356 --> 00:07:54,364 Look, what we have has been going pretty well. 221 00:07:54,364 --> 00:07:55,909 Mm-hmm. Why mess with that? 222 00:07:55,909 --> 00:07:57,580 Because I can handle it. 223 00:07:57,580 --> 00:07:59,457 And I decided to become a snake guy 224 00:07:59,457 --> 00:08:02,005 to make myself stand out on my college application. 225 00:08:02,005 --> 00:08:02,965 [ Sighs ] 226 00:08:02,965 --> 00:08:06,598 ♪♪ 227 00:08:06,598 --> 00:08:08,184 Hey, Junior. 228 00:08:09,645 --> 00:08:11,440 Come on, man. [ Chuckles ] 229 00:08:13,027 --> 00:08:15,489 You can't cry on a man trip. 230 00:08:15,489 --> 00:08:17,745 I'm not crying. [ Sniffles ] Yeah. 231 00:08:18,580 --> 00:08:20,041 Hey, man, you lost your girlfriend. 232 00:08:20,041 --> 00:08:21,961 Don't lose your dignity, okay? 233 00:08:21,961 --> 00:08:24,090 Okay. I thought I was gonna come out here 234 00:08:24,090 --> 00:08:26,470 into the middle of nowhere and chop wood 235 00:08:26,470 --> 00:08:28,975 and it was gonna fix everything, but it didn't. 236 00:08:28,975 --> 00:08:30,394 Alright? I still feel horrible. 237 00:08:30,394 --> 00:08:31,731 So what? 238 00:08:31,731 --> 00:08:33,234 You're a Black man. 239 00:08:33,234 --> 00:08:35,739 Suck it up and play through. 240 00:08:35,739 --> 00:08:39,037 Alright, we don't get to cry in public. 241 00:08:39,037 --> 00:08:40,582 That's not what we get to do. 242 00:08:40,582 --> 00:08:42,920 You have to have thicker skin. 243 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:44,632 I know, I-I know. 244 00:08:44,632 --> 00:08:46,260 Do you, son? 245 00:08:46,260 --> 00:08:47,513 Because this seems like a lesson 246 00:08:47,513 --> 00:08:50,059 that I've been trying to teach you your entire life. 247 00:08:50,059 --> 00:08:51,103 ♪♪ 248 00:08:51,103 --> 00:08:52,690 What? 249 00:08:52,690 --> 00:08:53,733 [ Gasps ] 250 00:08:53,733 --> 00:08:56,488 ♪♪ 251 00:08:56,488 --> 00:08:59,119 I'm so hard on you, son, because the world is hard, 252 00:08:59,119 --> 00:09:00,998 and I feel like if you can handle me, 253 00:09:00,998 --> 00:09:02,835 then you can handle it. 254 00:09:02,835 --> 00:09:07,970 It's my job to make sure you are armored with what you need. 255 00:09:07,970 --> 00:09:10,308 But do I always have to keep my walls up? 256 00:09:10,308 --> 00:09:11,476 What if I'm sad? 257 00:09:11,476 --> 00:09:13,565 We don't get to be sad, son. 258 00:09:13,565 --> 00:09:14,609 What if I'm scared? 259 00:09:14,609 --> 00:09:16,194 We don't get to be scared either, 260 00:09:16,194 --> 00:09:17,823 and we can't believe in trust 261 00:09:17,823 --> 00:09:20,912 because we never get the benefit of the doubt. 262 00:09:20,912 --> 00:09:23,500 Look, I've heard my entire life 263 00:09:23,500 --> 00:09:25,087 how there are a million reasons 264 00:09:25,087 --> 00:09:27,760 I can't show vulnerability to the world. 265 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:30,891 But the world isn't out here chopping wood. 266 00:09:30,891 --> 00:09:34,439 Right? Right now it's just you and me. 267 00:09:34,439 --> 00:09:36,401 So why can't I be vulnerable out here? 268 00:09:36,401 --> 00:09:39,449 [ Birds chirping ] 269 00:09:47,758 --> 00:09:49,595 I don't know. 270 00:09:51,223 --> 00:09:54,522 Alright. I want to try something. 271 00:09:54,522 --> 00:09:56,483 Come on. 272 00:09:58,153 --> 00:10:01,744 I've read that the most vulnerable thing you can do 273 00:10:01,744 --> 00:10:04,625 is look into somebody's eyes without breaking eye contact. 274 00:10:09,467 --> 00:10:11,138 Dad... 275 00:10:13,183 --> 00:10:14,895 ...do you see me? 276 00:10:16,148 --> 00:10:18,903 Yes, I see you, son. 277 00:10:18,903 --> 00:10:19,947 No. 278 00:10:21,993 --> 00:10:26,376 Do...you see...me? 279 00:10:28,130 --> 00:10:34,476 ♪♪ 280 00:10:34,476 --> 00:10:40,822 ♪♪ 281 00:10:40,822 --> 00:10:42,785 [ Gasps ] 282 00:10:42,785 --> 00:10:49,047 ♪♪ 283 00:10:49,047 --> 00:10:50,801 [ Voice breaking ] I'm sorry, son. 284 00:10:50,801 --> 00:10:53,598 ♪♪ 285 00:10:53,598 --> 00:10:55,434 I'm sorry. 286 00:10:56,394 --> 00:10:58,817 Oh, damn. 287 00:10:58,817 --> 00:11:00,821 Now, that ain't on the list of none of the things 288 00:11:00,821 --> 00:11:03,408 we're allowed to cry about. 289 00:11:03,408 --> 00:11:06,414 I brought my son and grandson out to the woods 290 00:11:06,414 --> 00:11:09,755 to connect them back to what makes them men. 291 00:11:09,755 --> 00:11:11,091 But I was failing. 292 00:11:12,301 --> 00:11:13,555 You know, when I was with Olivia, 293 00:11:13,555 --> 00:11:15,224 I just felt like I was killing it. 294 00:11:15,224 --> 00:11:16,644 We moved in together. 295 00:11:16,644 --> 00:11:18,480 We talked about marriage, kids. 296 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:19,817 I felt like a real grown-up. 297 00:11:19,817 --> 00:11:21,863 Ah, you were doing alright. 298 00:11:21,863 --> 00:11:23,282 Yeah, kind of. 299 00:11:23,282 --> 00:11:26,956 When she left, I really realized I had stalled. 300 00:11:26,956 --> 00:11:28,751 I'd already moved back in three times. 301 00:11:28,751 --> 00:11:30,254 Hey, son. 302 00:11:31,339 --> 00:11:32,759 I stalled, too. 303 00:11:32,759 --> 00:11:34,555 Thinking that the most important thing 304 00:11:34,555 --> 00:11:36,517 was getting the same opportunities 305 00:11:36,517 --> 00:11:39,063 as my White counterparts. 306 00:11:39,063 --> 00:11:41,736 But it didn't make me feel any better. 307 00:11:41,736 --> 00:11:43,990 And, you know, I don't know what the future holds, 308 00:11:43,990 --> 00:11:45,367 and that terrifies me, 309 00:11:45,367 --> 00:11:47,664 and I've never told that to anybody. 310 00:11:47,664 --> 00:11:49,208 I'm really glad you told me. 311 00:11:49,208 --> 00:11:52,340 Yeah, you told him, you told me, 312 00:11:52,340 --> 00:11:54,260 you told every damn woodland creature 313 00:11:54,260 --> 00:11:55,597 in the Sierra Nevada. 314 00:11:55,597 --> 00:11:57,517 And if you two don't be quiet, 315 00:11:57,517 --> 00:11:59,772 we're going to bed without any dinner tonight. 316 00:11:59,772 --> 00:12:02,068 Pops, we found something way better than food. 317 00:12:02,068 --> 00:12:03,487 We found each other. 318 00:12:03,487 --> 00:12:05,157 Oh. Now I know 319 00:12:05,157 --> 00:12:08,330 who's been watching all those White girl movies on Netflix. 320 00:12:08,330 --> 00:12:10,669 [ Laughs ] Pops. 321 00:12:10,669 --> 00:12:13,841 Pops, let's try something. 322 00:12:13,841 --> 00:12:15,052 Alright, they say 323 00:12:15,052 --> 00:12:17,933 the most vulnerable and intimate thing you can do 324 00:12:17,933 --> 00:12:21,481 is look into someone's eyes without looking away. 325 00:12:21,481 --> 00:12:24,237 Son, waiting and exhaling 326 00:12:24,237 --> 00:12:26,241 is for the two of you, not for me. 327 00:12:26,241 --> 00:12:28,495 Hey, Pops. [ Sighs ] 328 00:12:28,495 --> 00:12:30,040 That's what I thought. 329 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,796 I thought the same thing before it brought us together. 330 00:12:32,796 --> 00:12:34,007 Mm. Alright? 331 00:12:34,007 --> 00:12:38,265 And now, I've never felt so free. 332 00:12:38,265 --> 00:12:39,434 So, come on, Pops, let's do it. 333 00:12:39,434 --> 00:12:41,689 [ Sighs ] Come on, man, look at me. 334 00:12:47,576 --> 00:12:49,162 Do you see me, Pops? 335 00:12:49,162 --> 00:12:51,082 [ Birds chirping ] 336 00:12:57,554 --> 00:13:00,727 Oh, hell, no, I do not like this. 337 00:13:00,727 --> 00:13:02,606 Nope. Hey. 338 00:13:02,606 --> 00:13:08,492 ♪♪ 339 00:13:08,492 --> 00:13:10,914 You do know how to get back to the cabin from here, right? 340 00:13:10,914 --> 00:13:13,753 Yeah, son, uh, just, uh... 341 00:13:13,753 --> 00:13:15,632 check that tree for some moss. [ Sniffles ] 342 00:13:19,013 --> 00:13:21,811 [ Crickets chirping ] 343 00:13:22,771 --> 00:13:25,819 [ Owl hoots ] 344 00:13:27,113 --> 00:13:28,448 [ Sighs ] 345 00:13:28,448 --> 00:13:31,329 You finish your "Red Table Talk"? 346 00:13:31,329 --> 00:13:34,168 We just came out to sit around the fire for a little bit. 347 00:13:34,168 --> 00:13:37,592 You know, warm up. We'll keep quiet. 348 00:13:37,592 --> 00:13:40,180 Oh, no, no. It's alright. 349 00:13:43,061 --> 00:13:45,148 You know, I... 350 00:13:45,148 --> 00:13:48,739 I only saw my Dad cry one time. 351 00:13:48,739 --> 00:13:51,745 It was at his brother's funeral. 352 00:13:51,745 --> 00:13:54,250 At the end of the service, he broke down sobbing. 353 00:13:56,379 --> 00:13:58,551 He was the strongest man I'd ever known. 354 00:14:00,597 --> 00:14:03,226 Seeing him like that, boy... 355 00:14:03,226 --> 00:14:05,397 [ Whistles ] 356 00:14:05,397 --> 00:14:07,777 It really shook me. 357 00:14:07,777 --> 00:14:09,573 Hey. 358 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:12,746 Pops, I had no idea. 359 00:14:18,465 --> 00:14:21,847 When I looked into your eyes back there, 360 00:14:21,847 --> 00:14:23,726 that shook me, too. 361 00:14:24,853 --> 00:14:27,232 And I didn't like it. 362 00:14:27,232 --> 00:14:28,527 I didn't make that much eye contact 363 00:14:28,527 --> 00:14:29,821 with your mother at the wedding. 364 00:14:32,619 --> 00:14:36,000 But I looked into your eyes, son, and I could see... 365 00:14:42,346 --> 00:14:44,141 Pops. [ Sniffles ] 366 00:14:44,141 --> 00:14:46,145 It's okay. 367 00:14:47,314 --> 00:14:48,776 I could see how much you've forgiven me 368 00:14:48,776 --> 00:14:50,487 for all the mistakes I've made. I... 369 00:14:50,487 --> 00:14:54,203 Pops, hey, man. No, no, let me finish now. 370 00:14:54,203 --> 00:14:58,211 That you could open your home to me, share that with me 371 00:14:58,211 --> 00:15:01,384 when I wasn't there for you the way I should have been... 372 00:15:03,556 --> 00:15:05,475 Man, I don't deserve it. 373 00:15:06,687 --> 00:15:09,735 We were happy that you were there. 374 00:15:09,735 --> 00:15:12,448 I appreciate you saying that, son, I do. 375 00:15:12,448 --> 00:15:14,326 [ Breathes deeply ] 376 00:15:14,326 --> 00:15:17,709 But it doesn't take away the shame that I feel, though. 377 00:15:25,015 --> 00:15:27,311 Wow, Pops, um... 378 00:15:28,856 --> 00:15:29,858 ...I don't know if you've ever been 379 00:15:29,858 --> 00:15:32,154 that vulnerable with any of us. 380 00:15:33,657 --> 00:15:34,910 That's huge. 381 00:15:36,747 --> 00:15:38,333 Thank you, Pops. 382 00:15:38,333 --> 00:15:40,462 ♪♪ 383 00:15:40,462 --> 00:15:43,677 You...saying that 384 00:15:43,677 --> 00:15:46,474 has given me something I didn't even know I needed. 385 00:15:46,474 --> 00:15:48,646 ♪♪ 386 00:15:48,646 --> 00:15:50,983 I wish we came to the woods a lot sooner. 387 00:15:50,983 --> 00:15:52,779 It's definitely cheaper than therapy. 388 00:15:52,779 --> 00:15:55,785 [ Light laughter ] 389 00:15:55,785 --> 00:15:59,250 ♪♪ 390 00:15:59,250 --> 00:16:00,878 [ Breathes deeply ] 391 00:16:00,878 --> 00:16:05,428 Well, I was gonna sneak off, but, um, 392 00:16:05,428 --> 00:16:07,642 usually when I come out here and I don't catch anything to eat, 393 00:16:07,642 --> 00:16:09,938 there's this diner I go to. 394 00:16:09,938 --> 00:16:11,900 Yeah. What? 395 00:16:11,900 --> 00:16:13,779 Y'all coming? Oh. 396 00:16:13,779 --> 00:16:15,198 Hell yeah, I'm starving. 397 00:16:15,198 --> 00:16:20,333 ♪♪ 398 00:16:20,333 --> 00:16:22,212 Why'd you tell Jack he'd be fine without me? 399 00:16:23,883 --> 00:16:25,343 Because he will be. 400 00:16:25,343 --> 00:16:27,849 You have no evidence to support that theory. 401 00:16:29,686 --> 00:16:31,565 Oh, come sit down. 402 00:16:33,611 --> 00:16:35,740 Did I ever tell you about when you and Jack 403 00:16:35,740 --> 00:16:37,201 learned how to walk? 404 00:16:37,201 --> 00:16:38,203 Yeah. Mm-hmm. 405 00:16:38,203 --> 00:16:39,956 A million times. 406 00:16:39,956 --> 00:16:42,962 I walked first, so Jack would sit in the middle of the floor 407 00:16:42,962 --> 00:16:44,674 and make me bring him stuff from all over the house. 408 00:16:44,674 --> 00:16:46,344 Mm-hmm. Well, part of that's true. 409 00:16:46,344 --> 00:16:48,223 But actually, 410 00:16:48,223 --> 00:16:50,227 Jack was the first one who learned how to walk, 411 00:16:50,227 --> 00:16:51,730 and he just thought it was funny 412 00:16:51,730 --> 00:16:53,107 when you brought him stuff. 413 00:16:54,443 --> 00:16:55,445 So he tricked me? 414 00:16:55,445 --> 00:16:56,907 [ Chuckling ] No. He didn't trick you. 415 00:16:56,907 --> 00:16:59,788 He just liked it better when you guys did stuff together. 416 00:16:59,788 --> 00:17:01,415 That's why I'm not worried. 417 00:17:01,415 --> 00:17:03,796 I'll be lucky if Junior and Zoey 418 00:17:03,796 --> 00:17:04,965 come home for the same holidays, 419 00:17:04,965 --> 00:17:07,010 but with you and Jack, 420 00:17:07,010 --> 00:17:09,098 you're never gonna miss a chance to see each other. 421 00:17:14,441 --> 00:17:15,653 Hey. 422 00:17:15,653 --> 00:17:17,114 I know you're scared 423 00:17:17,114 --> 00:17:18,324 because you two haven't been apart 424 00:17:18,324 --> 00:17:20,705 for longer than a day or two in your whole life. 425 00:17:22,207 --> 00:17:24,253 But I promise you 426 00:17:24,253 --> 00:17:26,800 that if you guys go to different schools, 427 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:29,889 nothing is gonna break the connection that you have. 428 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:32,854 Thanks, Mom. 429 00:17:32,854 --> 00:17:35,317 You're welcome. 430 00:17:35,317 --> 00:17:37,195 You know he thinks Morehouse is gonna teach him 431 00:17:37,195 --> 00:17:38,489 how to build big houses. 432 00:17:38,489 --> 00:17:42,624 Yeah. Uh, we still have to look out for him. 433 00:17:42,624 --> 00:17:44,251 Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. 434 00:17:44,251 --> 00:17:46,882 Junior: Hey, Pops, what made you start coming out here anyway? 435 00:17:46,882 --> 00:17:48,927 Well, growing up in Detroit, 436 00:17:48,927 --> 00:17:50,347 didn't get a lot of opportunities 437 00:17:50,347 --> 00:17:51,933 to kind of be on my own. Mm. 438 00:17:51,933 --> 00:17:54,355 [ Scoffs ] Eight people live in my house. 439 00:17:54,355 --> 00:17:56,233 I know the feeling. Mm-hmm. 440 00:17:56,233 --> 00:17:58,237 And when I found this place, 441 00:17:58,237 --> 00:18:00,743 it became my spot to come and do that. 442 00:18:00,743 --> 00:18:02,747 It is nice. Makes everything slow down. 443 00:18:02,747 --> 00:18:04,668 Mm-hmm. Alright, guys, let's get going. 444 00:18:04,668 --> 00:18:06,672 Alright. Hey, hey. 445 00:18:06,672 --> 00:18:08,466 Come here. Come on. 446 00:18:08,466 --> 00:18:09,511 Mm-hmm. Come here. 447 00:18:09,511 --> 00:18:11,347 Alright. 448 00:18:11,347 --> 00:18:13,351 ♪♪ 449 00:18:13,351 --> 00:18:15,815 Mm, mm, mm. 450 00:18:15,815 --> 00:18:18,612 ♪♪ 451 00:18:18,612 --> 00:18:20,407 Let's not wait another 50 years 452 00:18:20,407 --> 00:18:21,910 to have these conversations, huh? 453 00:18:21,910 --> 00:18:22,912 ♪♪ 454 00:18:22,912 --> 00:18:24,164 How about next year? 455 00:18:24,164 --> 00:18:25,584 I'm in. 456 00:18:25,584 --> 00:18:30,803 ♪♪ 457 00:18:30,803 --> 00:18:32,974 I love you, son. 458 00:18:32,974 --> 00:18:34,476 I love you, too, Pops. 459 00:18:34,476 --> 00:18:36,063 ♪♪ 460 00:18:36,063 --> 00:18:37,482 I love you, son. 461 00:18:37,482 --> 00:18:39,445 I love you, too, Dad. 462 00:18:39,445 --> 00:18:41,658 And I love you, too, Junior. 463 00:18:41,658 --> 00:18:45,331 But, uh, y'all better not tell Ruby about this place. 464 00:18:45,331 --> 00:18:46,877 Yeah, I wouldn't. 465 00:18:46,877 --> 00:18:48,337 You'd better not tell your mama. 466 00:18:48,337 --> 00:18:51,678 I won't. And for God's sakes, please, 467 00:18:51,678 --> 00:18:52,805 nobody tell Diane. 468 00:18:52,805 --> 00:18:55,143 Oh! She'll ruin it for everybody. 469 00:18:55,143 --> 00:18:56,145 Hell no! 470 00:18:56,145 --> 00:18:57,523 [ Laughter ] 471 00:18:57,523 --> 00:18:59,109 [ Indistinct conversation ] 472 00:18:59,109 --> 00:19:03,619 Pops: The success of a Black man can be measured in many ways, 473 00:19:03,619 --> 00:19:06,165 but the most important one is the love you feel 474 00:19:06,165 --> 00:19:07,543 from your family. 475 00:19:07,543 --> 00:19:09,213 ♪♪ 476 00:19:09,213 --> 00:19:12,469 I'd had to put up walls my entire life... 477 00:19:12,469 --> 00:19:14,389 [ Engines revving ] 478 00:19:15,183 --> 00:19:16,937 Junior: Man trip! 479 00:19:16,937 --> 00:19:19,483 But I am not going to do that anymore. 480 00:19:26,665 --> 00:19:28,292 Hey. 481 00:19:28,292 --> 00:19:31,131 Oh, uh, hey. 482 00:19:31,131 --> 00:19:32,467 Both: I wanted to apologize. 483 00:19:32,467 --> 00:19:33,846 Jinx! You owe me a soda! 484 00:19:33,846 --> 00:19:36,560 [ Both laugh ] 485 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:41,151 It's...weird thinking about not seeing you every day. 486 00:19:41,151 --> 00:19:43,030 That's why I'm trying not to. 487 00:19:43,030 --> 00:19:44,408 Why did you put that in my head? 488 00:19:44,408 --> 00:19:46,245 It's gonna be okay. 489 00:19:46,245 --> 00:19:47,915 I mean, it's not like we're leaving tomorrow. 490 00:19:47,915 --> 00:19:49,376 Yeah, not even close. 491 00:19:49,376 --> 00:19:51,631 Besides, every time I try to think two weeks ahead, 492 00:19:51,631 --> 00:19:53,467 my brain starts to hurt, so... I know. 493 00:19:53,467 --> 00:19:57,350 Yeah. But you know what I like to think about? 494 00:19:57,350 --> 00:20:00,064 All the chances we have to hang out before then. 495 00:20:00,064 --> 00:20:01,400 Huh. 496 00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:02,987 You care if I read in here? 497 00:20:02,987 --> 00:20:05,826 Uh, make yourself at home. 498 00:20:05,826 --> 00:20:06,995 Mm. 499 00:20:08,665 --> 00:20:10,920 [ Bruno Mars' "Count on Me" plays ] 500 00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:13,592 ♪ Uh-huh-huh ♪ 501 00:20:13,592 --> 00:20:17,474 ♪ If you ever find yourself stuck in the middle of the sea ♪ 502 00:20:17,474 --> 00:20:19,019 ♪♪ 503 00:20:19,019 --> 00:20:24,321 ♪ I'll sail the world to find you ♪ 504 00:20:24,321 --> 00:20:27,620 ♪ If you ever find yourself lost in the dark and you can't see ♪ 505 00:20:27,620 --> 00:20:29,749 This is what they're coming to see. 506 00:20:29,749 --> 00:20:35,301 ♪ I'll be the light to guide you ♪ 507 00:20:35,301 --> 00:20:36,888 ♪♪ 508 00:20:36,888 --> 00:20:40,729 ♪ We'll find out what we're made of ♪ 509 00:20:40,729 --> 00:20:45,656 ♪ When we are called to help our friends in need ♪ 510 00:20:45,656 --> 00:20:51,125 ♪ You can count on me like one, two, three ♪ 511 00:20:51,125 --> 00:20:54,047 ♪ I'll be there ♪ 512 00:20:54,047 --> 00:20:56,553 ♪ And I know when I need it ♪ 513 00:20:56,553 --> 00:21:01,855 ♪ I can count on you like four, three, two ♪ 514 00:21:01,855 --> 00:21:04,694 ♪ And you'll be there ♪ 515 00:21:04,694 --> 00:21:09,119 ♪ 'Cause that's what friends are supposed to do, oh, yeah ♪ 516 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,958 ♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh ♪ 517 00:21:11,958 --> 00:21:15,632 ♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh ♪ 518 00:21:15,632 --> 00:21:21,143 ♪ You can count on me 'cause I can count on you ♪ 519 00:21:21,143 --> 00:21:24,274 ♪♪ 520 00:21:56,338 --> 00:21:58,134 Hey. 521 00:21:58,134 --> 00:22:01,014 Oh, uh, hey. 522 00:22:01,014 --> 00:22:02,350 Both: I wanted to apologize. 523 00:22:02,350 --> 00:22:03,728 Jinx! You owe me a soda! 524 00:22:03,728 --> 00:22:06,400 [ Both laugh ] 525 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:11,034 It's...weird thinking about not seeing you every day. 526 00:22:11,034 --> 00:22:12,913 That's why I'm trying not to. 527 00:22:12,913 --> 00:22:14,291 Why did you put that in my head? 528 00:22:14,291 --> 00:22:16,128 It's gonna be okay. 529 00:22:16,128 --> 00:22:17,756 I mean, it's not like we're leaving tomorrow. 530 00:22:17,756 --> 00:22:19,217 Yeah, not even close. 531 00:22:19,217 --> 00:22:21,388 Besides, every time I try to think two weeks ahead, 532 00:22:21,388 --> 00:22:23,267 my brain starts to hurt, so... I know. 533 00:22:23,267 --> 00:22:27,150 Yeah. But you know what I like to think about? 534 00:22:27,150 --> 00:22:29,864 All the chances we have to hang out before then. 535 00:22:29,864 --> 00:22:31,200 Huh. 536 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:32,745 You care if I read in here? 537 00:22:32,745 --> 00:22:35,626 Uh, make yourself at home. 538 00:22:35,626 --> 00:22:36,794 Mm. 539 00:22:38,506 --> 00:22:40,761 [ Bruno Mars' "Count on Me" plays ] 540 00:22:40,761 --> 00:22:43,474 ♪ Uh-huh-huh ♪ 541 00:22:43,474 --> 00:22:47,315 ♪ If you ever find yourself stuck in the middle of the sea ♪ 542 00:22:47,315 --> 00:22:48,902 ♪♪ 543 00:22:48,902 --> 00:22:54,162 ♪ I'll sail the world to find you ♪ 544 00:22:54,162 --> 00:22:57,503 ♪ If you ever find yourself lost in the dark and you can't see ♪ 545 00:22:57,503 --> 00:22:59,590 This is what they're coming to see. 546 00:22:59,590 --> 00:23:05,101 ♪ I'll be the light to guide you ♪ 547 00:23:05,101 --> 00:23:06,688 ♪♪ 548 00:23:06,688 --> 00:23:10,486 ♪ We'll find out what we're made of ♪ 549 00:23:10,486 --> 00:23:15,454 ♪ When we are called to help our friends in need ♪ 550 00:23:15,454 --> 00:23:20,966 ♪ You can count on me like one, two, three ♪ 551 00:23:20,966 --> 00:23:23,888 ♪ I'll be there ♪ 552 00:23:23,888 --> 00:23:26,435 ♪ And I know when I need it ♪ 553 00:23:26,435 --> 00:23:31,738 ♪ I can count on you like four, three, two ♪ 554 00:23:31,738 --> 00:23:34,577 ♪ And you'll be there ♪ 555 00:23:34,577 --> 00:23:39,002 ♪ 'Cause that's what friends are supposed to do, oh, yeah ♪ 556 00:23:39,002 --> 00:23:41,799 ♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh ♪ 557 00:23:41,799 --> 00:23:45,431 ♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh, ooh ♪ 558 00:23:45,431 --> 00:23:50,942 ♪ You can count on me 'cause I can count on you ♪ 559 00:23:50,942 --> 00:23:54,074 ♪♪