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Dre: Back in the day,
you didn't know all that much
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about people around you --
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your co-workers, acquaintances, your mailman.
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Most people were strangers
who lived a life of mystery,
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because there was a thing
called privacy.
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But since the explosion
of social media,
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everyone knows everything
about everybody.
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And in these
politically divided times,
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this onslaught of social media
means
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we know everyone's thoughts
on every single issue.
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That can really change
your perception of a person.
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Take Bow's cousin Gary,
for example.
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I knew he lived
somewhere in L.A.
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and thought you should
go for it on fourth and 1.
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But social media introduced me
to a whole other side of Gary.
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That's where I found out he was
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BLM's newest, whitest ally.
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So, with George Floyd's murder
and the uprisings,
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I guess I shouldn't have been
surprised when this happened.
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[ Cellphone ringing ]
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Hey, Gary!
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I've been waiting
on this call, man.
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When is the fantasy draft?
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Gary: What are you talking
about football, man?
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Turn on the news.
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America doesn't care
about Black people, okay?
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We need to make a change ASAP,
and you need to help me.
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Gary: Hey, man,
I'm sorry to call again,
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but Bow isn't picking up,
and I just got to say
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this country isso behind.
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It feels like the '80s.
Or the '60s.
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Whichever decade
is the most racist.
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Call me back.
This is Gary.
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Yeah. Mm-hmm. This is
the sixth one that he left me.
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Mm-hmm.
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Bow, our relationshipisn't meant to handle this.
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The only timeI should see Gary cry is
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when they're reuniting a soldierwith a dog at halftime.
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Gary has been emotional
his entire life.
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He cried four times
during the movie "Face/Off."
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That's why I don't answer
any of his calls.
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Eh, ah, uh, Bow...
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I feel that White people arelosing their mind, all right?
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[ Chuckles ]
They've all
been reaching out
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because some meme told themto check on their Black friends.
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Oh, I know.
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I know, Dre.
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Hmm?
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Listen.[ Cellphone beeps ]
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Woman: [ Sobbing ]
What happened to Americ--
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[ Cellphone beeps ]Woman #2:
I just feel so terrible
about my own privilege.
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If you want to skip tennis --[ Cellphone beeps ]
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Woman #3:
I think my daughter needs a
Black hero right now, and I --
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Okay. Okay. Okay.
Enough.
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None of those people
are my friends.
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Not a one.
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And that last woman --
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she's just someone
who found my wallet in 2005.
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That's crazy.
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Bow, you know what?
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I feel that the people who arecalling are drowning in guilt
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and are lookingfor a Black life preserver.
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But I didn't expect that
from Gary!
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The best thing
that you can do here
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is pretend that this call
never happened.
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Mm.
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It's Gary. All right?
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So in a few weeks,
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when "The Great British
Bake Off" comes back on,
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he will forget
that Black lives ever mattered.
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Yeah,you're probably right.
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Mm-hmm.
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I'll delete them.
Yeah.
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Maybe it'll all go awayon its own,
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just like a jury summonsor a red light ticket.
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Pshh.[ Cellphone chimes ]
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Oh! Look at this.
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CVS is alerting us
that Black lives matter
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andthere is 20% off
of all Tussin.
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Oh.
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♪
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Babe, you are so sweet
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for helping me
with my psych homework.
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I don't mind at all.
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I feel like psychologistsare real doctors.
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I don't care
what my mom says.
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[ Toaster pops ]
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Oh, no.
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Jack, we have talked
about this.
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It is hot
when it comes out.
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No, no, no.
I-I chipped the icing.
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Well, it's still
gonna taste the same.
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It's not for me.
It's for Diane.
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She places a high value on the
aesthetic of the toaster pasty.
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Well, if she's
that particular,
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wouldn't it just be easier
for her to make it herself?
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[ Laughing ][ Laughing ]
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Junior, school your girl.
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She's clearly never been on the
business end of Diane's wrath.
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[ Exhales deeply ]
Mnh-mnh.
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Whoa, Junior.
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Your brother is acting out
this theory in my textbook.
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[ Toaster clicks ]Jack clearly has
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what the book calls
a fearful attachment.
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He will do anything
to make his twin sister happy.
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Wow.
That does make sense.
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You know, one time,
Diane got the flu,
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and Jack immediately
tried to register
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[ Toaster pops ]to be an organ donor.
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[ Inhales sharply ]
Ah.
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You know, Jack, just because
you love your sister
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doesn't mean you got to burn
your fingerprints off for her.
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If you ever want to talk
about ways
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to assert yourself
in your relationship
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and break free
from your fear of rejection,
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I'm here.
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I'll think about it.
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Whoa! Whoa!
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Jack,
you should feel lucky
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that Olivia has blessed you
with this knowledge.
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You know, some day, Mom is gonna
spend hundreds of dollars
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for you to get
this same kind of therapy.
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Good.
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Because I saw Grandma
changing for the pool once,
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and it really
messed me up.
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Ugh.
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[ Cellphone chiming ] Even though Bow told me
to ignore Gary,
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it didn't seem like he was
going to let me do that.
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Stevens: Hold everything.
Dre's got a problem.
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My money is on
bad credit score.
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Dre: No.
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Bow's White cousin Gary --
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he wants to talk to me
about race.
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How is that a problem
for you?
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Yeah, you talk so much
about race, Dre,
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I watch "American History X"
totally differently now.
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I don't talk about it
that much.
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[ Laughing ] What?![ Laughs ]
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You talk about race so much,
we basically owe you tuition.
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Dre, I thought Rodney King was
King of South L.A. real estate
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until I met you.
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Because of you, Dre,
I now have a relationship
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with my daughter's boyfriend,
Lamar.
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Your daughter has
a Black boyfriend?
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Yes, Dre,
she has a Black boyfriend.
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And because of you,
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I didn't assume that he wanted
fried chicken for dinner.
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Well, you know,
now that I think about it...
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Gary didn't call
just anyBlack friend.
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No, he did not.He called the...
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Yep.
...Black friend.
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You're damn right.
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You know, he needs me.
It's time I answer his call.
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Yeah.
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Feel that, Dre?
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What?
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Come on.
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That's progress.
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Thisis the dream
Rodney King was talking about.
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The guys were right.
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I had to take advantage
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of the opportunity
to build a better White man.
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Gary!
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Hey, man. Oh.
[ Exhales deeply ]
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Hey, thanks for being down
to talk.
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Hey. Well, you know what?
You picked the right person.
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I am excited
to be your race master.
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[ Inhales sharply ]
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Lesson number one --
let's lose the word "master."
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It gets weird real quick.
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Like a lot of White people,
it turned out Gary had a ton
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that he wanted
to get off his chest
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to his Black friend.
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I guess
just since the uprisings,
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I've felt very lost
and discouraged
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that I haven't done
my fair share
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of really trying to understand
the Black experience,
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and I just want
to do better.
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Mm.
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So, that...
is just the first step.
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Yeah.
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What if I were to give you
an opportunity
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to learn more
about the Black experience?
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Yes.
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Ask me anything.
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Anything?
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Yes. Anything.
No question is dumb.
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Great.
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Um...what is Bruno Mars?
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He's Black, right?
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That's...your question?
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I don't know, man!
I froze!
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This whole thing
feels like a setup.
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No, no, no.
It's -- It's not. Honestly.
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You're --
Gary, ask me anything, man.
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Just ask. Anything!
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If I'm singing alongto a rap song...
Mm-hmm.
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...and they say the N-word,
do I just go silent,
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or can I say..."ninja"?
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[ Exhales deeply,
chuckles ]
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Wh-- You almost
had me there, Gary.
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Uh...you know,
I-I-I think it's safe to say
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that you should never
sing along to a rap song.
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Ever.
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But what about Macklemore?
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Eh--
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You know what?
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Uh...
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let me break it down
to you.
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♪ Hit it Once Gary and I got going,
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something beautiful happened.
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[ Rob Base and DJ E-Z Rock's
"It Takes Two" plays ]
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♪
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♪ It takes two
to make a thing go right ♪
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♪ It takes two
to make it outta sight ♪
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♪
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♪ It takes two
to make a thing go right ♪
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♪ It takes two
to make it outta sight ♪
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♪ Hit it
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♪ I wanna rock right now
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♪ I'm Rob Base,
and I came to get down ♪
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♪ I'm not
internationally known ♪
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♪ But I'm known
to rock the microphone ♪
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All right.
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Let me ask you this.
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How many Black friends
do you have?
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♪ No, not a loser
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Not counting family members
and co-workers.
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♪ Ladies love me,
girls adore me ♪
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♪ I mean, even the ones
who never saw me ♪
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♪ Like the way that I rhyme
at a show ♪
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♪ The reason why, man,
I don't know ♪
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♪ So let's go, 'cause
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♪ It takes two
to make a thing go right ♪
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♪ It takes two
to make it outta sight ♪
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♪ It takes two, i-it takes two
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♪ I-It takes two to make a...
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So, that's how redlining
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prevented Black people
from even participating
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in the greatest accumulation
of wealth in American history?
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That's right.
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See, they didn't teach us that
in school.
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Ha!
They taught us
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that every American had
the same opportunity.
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Well, that's what
they wanted you to think.
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Because if Black people
were responsible
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for our own oppression,
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then that would make it easier
to reinforce the narrative
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of White success
and Black failure.
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And if our failure
was ourfault,
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then White people
wouldn't have any responsibility
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to make change.
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I hear you, man.
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And I got to say, I want to be
responsible, you know?
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I want to do something.
Okay.
256
00:09:30,286 --> 00:09:33,898
Well, these books can explain it
a whole lot better than I can.
257
00:09:33,942 --> 00:09:36,640
If you want to put in the work,
that's a great place to start.
258
00:09:36,684 --> 00:09:38,337
Thanks, man.
Can't wait to read.
259
00:09:38,381 --> 00:09:39,643
All right.
260
00:09:39,687 --> 00:09:41,819
Hey, good luck
on your journey, grasshopper.
261
00:09:41,863 --> 00:09:43,560
All right.
[ Chuckles ]
262
00:09:43,604 --> 00:09:44,692
Oh!
Uh, one more thing.
263
00:09:44,735 --> 00:09:45,780
Yeah?
264
00:09:45,823 --> 00:09:47,564
Is it weird
to like "Hamilton"?
265
00:09:47,608 --> 00:09:49,740
Our future's at stake,
Gary.
266
00:09:49,784 --> 00:09:51,786
We don't have time
for non-"Wiz" musicals.
267
00:09:51,829 --> 00:09:53,439
Right.
All right?
268
00:09:53,483 --> 00:09:56,399
Now, ease on down that road.
[ Laughs ]
269
00:09:56,442 --> 00:09:59,184
♪
270
00:09:59,228 --> 00:10:00,795
[ Exhales deeply ]
271
00:10:00,838 --> 00:10:02,753
Jack: Hey, Olivia.
272
00:10:02,797 --> 00:10:05,016
Once I started thinking
about what you said about Diane,
273
00:10:05,060 --> 00:10:06,104
it made a lot of sense.
274
00:10:06,148 --> 00:10:07,932
I came up with
a lot of grievances.
275
00:10:07,976 --> 00:10:09,717
And once I got going,
it didn't stop.
276
00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:11,109
Good job.Wait.
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
277
00:10:11,153 --> 00:10:13,938
All of this...
is about Diane?
278
00:10:13,982 --> 00:10:14,852
Mm-hmm.
279
00:10:14,896 --> 00:10:16,462
[ Chuckles ]
280
00:10:16,506 --> 00:10:18,073
You're not planning
on giving this to her, are you?
281
00:10:18,116 --> 00:10:20,249
No, no, no, no, no.
This is great progress, Jack.
282
00:10:20,292 --> 00:10:22,120
You've identified
your issues.
283
00:10:22,164 --> 00:10:23,513
Now you just
got to find the time
284
00:10:23,556 --> 00:10:25,384
where you can both
look each other in the eye
285
00:10:25,428 --> 00:10:26,951
and you tell her
what's bothering you.
286
00:10:26,995 --> 00:10:28,387
Good job.
287
00:10:28,431 --> 00:10:31,434
Ornow that you have gotten
your feelings
288
00:10:31,477 --> 00:10:33,828
out of your body
and onto this paper,
289
00:10:33,871 --> 00:10:35,656
you can burn it.
290
00:10:35,699 --> 00:10:39,572
That way,
no one ever gets to read it,
291
00:10:39,616 --> 00:10:43,402
and no one will ever punish you
for writing it.
292
00:10:43,446 --> 00:10:45,404
Ooh, that reminds me
of what she said
293
00:10:45,448 --> 00:10:47,189
when I tried to wear
that fedora.
294
00:10:47,232 --> 00:10:48,538
Let me see.
Wh--
295
00:10:48,581 --> 00:10:51,062
Be right back.
I need more paper.
296
00:10:51,106 --> 00:10:52,585
Wh--
297
00:10:52,629 --> 00:10:53,848
Isn't this great?
298
00:10:53,891 --> 00:10:56,633
Jack's gonna heal
his attachment issues.
299
00:10:56,677 --> 00:10:58,591
Oh, I feel really good
about this.
300
00:10:58,635 --> 00:10:59,941
[ Chuckles nervously ]
301
00:10:59,984 --> 00:11:03,292
H-Hey, babe, you know I --
I love when you feel good,
302
00:11:03,335 --> 00:11:05,773
but, um...
I feel like maybe
303
00:11:05,816 --> 00:11:08,732
you don't know Diane well enough
to give this kind of advice.
304
00:11:08,776 --> 00:11:09,733
You know?
305
00:11:09,777 --> 00:11:11,082
Oh, really?
306
00:11:11,126 --> 00:11:12,431
Um...
307
00:11:12,475 --> 00:11:13,998
I see what's going on here.
308
00:11:14,042 --> 00:11:15,739
You want to protect Jack,
309
00:11:15,783 --> 00:11:17,959
but you're also worried
about hurting myfeelings.
310
00:11:18,916 --> 00:11:20,831
Textbook anxious attachment.
311
00:11:20,875 --> 00:11:22,746
You have abandonment issues.
312
00:11:22,790 --> 00:11:24,705
What?
No, I don't.
313
00:11:24,748 --> 00:11:27,272
You're so terrified
you'll say or do
the wrong thing,
314
00:11:27,316 --> 00:11:28,752
you try to keep me happy,
315
00:11:28,796 --> 00:11:31,363
even if that means
not standing up for yourself.
316
00:11:31,407 --> 00:11:34,105
What?
Okay, that is ridiculous.
317
00:11:36,020 --> 00:11:37,674
Maybe "ridiculous"
is too harsh a word.
318
00:11:37,718 --> 00:11:38,762
What do you think?
319
00:11:38,806 --> 00:11:40,024
[ Smacks lips ]
320
00:11:40,068 --> 00:11:42,026
I am gonna get a book
out of this family.
321
00:11:42,070 --> 00:11:43,854
[ Chuckles ]
And I will buy it.
322
00:11:43,898 --> 00:11:44,725
[ Inhales sharply ]
323
00:11:46,596 --> 00:11:50,339
I had done it.
I had molded a squishy mind.
324
00:11:50,382 --> 00:11:55,083
And I knew that, thanks to me,
Gary was going to be an ally.
325
00:11:55,126 --> 00:11:57,563
You and Gary were up late
last night.
326
00:11:57,607 --> 00:11:58,956
[ Refrigerator door closes ]
327
00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,872
Your cousin and I had
an excellent conversation.
328
00:12:01,916 --> 00:12:03,569
Did ya?
Yes.
329
00:12:03,613 --> 00:12:07,182
I led a horse to water,
and I taught him how to fish.
330
00:12:07,225 --> 00:12:09,532
I am pretty sure
that you can't cure
331
00:12:09,575 --> 00:12:11,969
40 years of racist conditioning
in one night.
332
00:12:12,013 --> 00:12:14,798
Bow, Bow, Bow.
333
00:12:14,842 --> 00:12:17,670
This is just like the Magic Eye
all over again.
334
00:12:17,714 --> 00:12:18,584
No.
335
00:12:18,628 --> 00:12:20,282
Just because
you can't see it
336
00:12:20,325 --> 00:12:21,805
doesn't mean
it's not there.
337
00:12:21,849 --> 00:12:23,154
That was
a defective painting.
338
00:12:23,198 --> 00:12:24,852
Ha!
And you need to trust me.
339
00:12:24,895 --> 00:12:27,724
I grew up
in a mixed family.
340
00:12:27,768 --> 00:12:31,772
And my cousins and I had
these conversations about Reagan
341
00:12:31,815 --> 00:12:33,295
all those years ago,
342
00:12:33,338 --> 00:12:35,819
the same way
you're having them now.
343
00:12:35,863 --> 00:12:39,954
This is never ending,
and it is not yours to fix.
344
00:12:39,997 --> 00:12:41,607
I don't mind, Bow.
345
00:12:41,651 --> 00:12:42,957
It's what I do.
346
00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:44,001
It's w--
347
00:12:44,045 --> 00:12:45,089
Stevens.
348
00:12:45,133 --> 00:12:46,308
[ Sighs ]
Josh.
349
00:12:46,351 --> 00:12:47,700
Oh, my God.
350
00:12:47,744 --> 00:12:48,919
Gary.
351
00:12:48,963 --> 00:12:50,616
[ Chuckles ]
352
00:12:50,660 --> 00:12:52,880
Give me enough time,
and I can convert
353
00:12:52,923 --> 00:12:55,621
any AM radio host
in this country.
354
00:12:55,665 --> 00:12:56,709
Huh.
355
00:12:56,753 --> 00:12:57,754
Watch.
356
00:12:57,798 --> 00:13:00,104
♪
357
00:13:00,148 --> 00:13:04,021
I can't believe I was ever
attracted to this side of you!
358
00:13:05,109 --> 00:13:07,242
[ Cellphone rings ]
359
00:13:07,285 --> 00:13:09,635
Hey, Gary. My man.
What's up?
360
00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:11,681
Dre, we need to talk.
361
00:13:11,724 --> 00:13:13,117
Uh...
362
00:13:13,161 --> 00:13:15,772
Hey, d-does it have to be
right now?
363
00:13:15,816 --> 00:13:17,861
You know, I'm, uh,
I'm taking care of the baby.
364
00:13:17,905 --> 00:13:18,862
Can I please come over?
365
00:13:18,906 --> 00:13:21,038
Sure. Why not?
366
00:13:21,082 --> 00:13:23,127
Good, 'cause I'm outside right now.
367
00:13:23,171 --> 00:13:24,825
What?[ Door closes ]
368
00:13:24,868 --> 00:13:27,305
Did you know that right now,
as we speak,
369
00:13:27,349 --> 00:13:30,439
White gentrifiers are moving
into Black communities?
370
00:13:30,482 --> 00:13:32,484
Okay, and starting
their own charter schools,
371
00:13:32,528 --> 00:13:34,617
which takes away the funding
from the public schools
372
00:13:34,660 --> 00:13:36,358
that everybody else
has to go to?
373
00:13:36,401 --> 00:13:37,925
So that leaves
the Black schools
374
00:13:37,968 --> 00:13:39,883
completely understaffed
and underfunded.
375
00:13:39,927 --> 00:13:40,797
It's terrible.
376
00:13:40,841 --> 00:13:42,755
You are totally right,
Gary,
377
00:13:42,799 --> 00:13:44,366
and I agree with you.
378
00:13:44,409 --> 00:13:46,194
So, tell me this --
what's your plan?
379
00:13:46,237 --> 00:13:47,891
Ha.
I'm glad you asked.
380
00:13:47,935 --> 00:13:49,675
First of all,
I'm starting a parents' group.
381
00:13:49,719 --> 00:13:52,243
We're gonna write letters
and make calls every day
382
00:13:52,287 --> 00:13:53,897
to politicians.
Okay.
383
00:13:53,941 --> 00:13:56,465
And I think I can also organize
a Zoom fundraising concert
384
00:13:56,508 --> 00:13:58,554
with the bassist
from The Goo Goo Dolls.
385
00:13:58,597 --> 00:14:00,338
He's a friend
of a friend.
Okay.
386
00:14:00,382 --> 00:14:01,600
I don't know if --
Okay. Okay.
387
00:14:01,644 --> 00:14:04,255
Gary,
let me ask you this --
388
00:14:04,299 --> 00:14:06,823
are you putting your kids
in public school?
389
00:14:06,867 --> 00:14:09,173
Well, [clears throat]
great question.
390
00:14:09,217 --> 00:14:11,088
And we are considering it.
391
00:14:11,132 --> 00:14:12,524
I haven't talked to Jennifer
about it,
392
00:14:12,568 --> 00:14:13,917
but it is on the table.
393
00:14:13,961 --> 00:14:18,487
Are...you...sending your kids
to public school?
394
00:14:18,530 --> 00:14:20,097
I mean, I wish I could.
395
00:14:20,141 --> 00:14:21,838
The school
that we're zoned for,
396
00:14:21,882 --> 00:14:23,927
the -- the testing scores there
are not great, so --
397
00:14:23,971 --> 00:14:25,711
Okay. Gary, let me --
let me get this straight.
398
00:14:25,755 --> 00:14:28,236
So, you want to topple
the system...
Yes.
399
00:14:28,279 --> 00:14:31,152
...but you're not willing to do
the one thing that you cando?
400
00:14:31,195 --> 00:14:34,807
I hear ya, but why do my kids
have to be the guinea pigs?
401
00:14:34,851 --> 00:14:36,461
I mean, yourkids don't go
to public school.
402
00:14:36,505 --> 00:14:38,942
That's the whole thing!
403
00:14:38,986 --> 00:14:41,379
When White kids go
to these schools,
404
00:14:41,423 --> 00:14:43,642
they suddenly find
resources!
405
00:14:43,686 --> 00:14:46,558
But my Black kids going there
doesn't change a thing.
406
00:14:46,602 --> 00:14:48,734
So if you're not willing
to do that,
407
00:14:48,778 --> 00:14:51,128
you know, there's not much that
we really need to talk about.
408
00:14:52,390 --> 00:14:54,523
Hey, I'm just trying
to be an ally here.
409
00:14:54,566 --> 00:14:55,916
Okay.
Hey, look, Gary.
410
00:14:55,959 --> 00:14:58,005
You know, I really thought
this was a great idea,
411
00:14:58,048 --> 00:15:01,486
but I'm starting to feel like
this is just a big mistake.
412
00:15:01,530 --> 00:15:03,967
I'm sorry,
but I can't take you on.
413
00:15:04,011 --> 00:15:05,664
Okay? Bye.
414
00:15:05,708 --> 00:15:07,928
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa!
Look.
415
00:15:07,971 --> 00:15:11,670
I'm just a White man standing
in front of his Black cousin,
416
00:15:11,714 --> 00:15:14,891
asking him to solve racism --
together.
417
00:15:14,935 --> 00:15:16,458
I can't do it, Gary.
418
00:15:16,501 --> 00:15:17,938
Hey.
Lose my number, man.
419
00:15:17,981 --> 00:15:19,722
Wh-- Yeah.
420
00:15:19,765 --> 00:15:21,593
I understand what's going on.
This is part of the process.
421
00:15:25,467 --> 00:15:27,382
Hey.
Hey.
422
00:15:27,425 --> 00:15:29,514
What are you doing out here
by yourself?
423
00:15:29,558 --> 00:15:31,864
[ Gasps ] Oh, no.
424
00:15:31,908 --> 00:15:34,171
Did you find the Playboy
that your mom was in?
425
00:15:34,215 --> 00:15:36,043
I told you -- those pictures
she sent to Hugh Hefner
426
00:15:36,086 --> 00:15:38,306
were unsolicited.
427
00:15:38,349 --> 00:15:39,655
No.
428
00:15:39,698 --> 00:15:43,006
I had to drop Gary.
He got to be too much.
429
00:15:43,050 --> 00:15:44,181
[ Sighing ] Dre.
430
00:15:45,443 --> 00:15:48,359
Dre, Dre.
431
00:15:48,403 --> 00:15:51,058
Dre.
432
00:15:51,101 --> 00:15:55,497
Did he surprise you and do
exactly what I said he would?
433
00:15:55,540 --> 00:15:57,803
Thanks for
not rubbing it in.
434
00:15:57,847 --> 00:15:59,501
I knew
you would end up here
435
00:15:59,544 --> 00:16:02,330
because I have done this
so many times before, Dre,
436
00:16:02,373 --> 00:16:04,810
and I didn't want you to be
disappointed, the way I was.
437
00:16:04,854 --> 00:16:08,075
Gary wanted to jump in
and fix the entire system
438
00:16:08,118 --> 00:16:10,033
without owning his own part
in it.
439
00:16:11,295 --> 00:16:14,298
Sometimes I think it's easier
to post "Black lives matter"
440
00:16:14,342 --> 00:16:17,127
and shame your grandma online
than look in the mirror
441
00:16:17,171 --> 00:16:18,607
and realize
that you are complicit.
442
00:16:18,650 --> 00:16:19,956
Yes!
443
00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:23,177
What is it about this moment
that so many people
444
00:16:23,220 --> 00:16:26,397
are finally comfortable
saying Black lives matter?
445
00:16:27,616 --> 00:16:29,705
Where were they
for Aiyana Jones,
446
00:16:29,748 --> 00:16:33,491
Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown,
Sandra Bland?
447
00:16:33,535 --> 00:16:38,540
I think that after four years
of overt tiki torch racism,
448
00:16:38,583 --> 00:16:41,412
it's socially acceptable
for White people
449
00:16:41,456 --> 00:16:45,068
to finally fight
for the dignity of Black people.
450
00:16:45,112 --> 00:16:45,982
That's what scares me.
451
00:16:46,026 --> 00:16:47,288
I know.
452
00:16:47,331 --> 00:16:49,812
If they can flip a switch
and care,
453
00:16:49,855 --> 00:16:51,509
they can just as easily
flip a switch
454
00:16:51,553 --> 00:16:52,554
and go back
to notcaring.
455
00:16:52,597 --> 00:16:53,990
Agreed.
456
00:16:54,034 --> 00:16:55,513
And what are we supposed to say
next time we see Gary?
457
00:16:55,557 --> 00:16:57,428
Oh, my God. Dre.
458
00:16:57,472 --> 00:16:59,822
You still want
to engage him?
459
00:16:59,865 --> 00:17:01,954
He's the only oneof your family members
that I like, Bow.
460
00:17:01,998 --> 00:17:03,086
What?!
461
00:17:03,130 --> 00:17:04,131
I'm not ready
to let that go.
462
00:17:04,174 --> 00:17:05,697
Oh, my God.
463
00:17:05,741 --> 00:17:07,177
He goes for it
on fourth and 1
464
00:17:07,221 --> 00:17:09,005
no matter where he is
on the field!
465
00:17:09,049 --> 00:17:10,398
What's fourth and 1?
466
00:17:10,441 --> 00:17:12,139
See?
You wouldn't understand.
467
00:17:12,182 --> 00:17:15,142
Okay.
468
00:17:15,185 --> 00:17:17,970
When I win the Nobel Prize
for psychology,
469
00:17:18,014 --> 00:17:19,320
I'm gonna shout you out.
470
00:17:19,363 --> 00:17:20,538
You better.
471
00:17:20,582 --> 00:17:21,800
[ Chuckles ]
472
00:17:21,844 --> 00:17:22,801
Um...
473
00:17:22,845 --> 00:17:25,413
Oh, hey.
How'd it go with Diane?
474
00:17:25,456 --> 00:17:26,762
Oh, well, uh,
about that --
475
00:17:26,805 --> 00:17:29,112
Actually,
I've got to talk to you
476
00:17:29,156 --> 00:17:30,853
about
this psychology stuff.
477
00:17:30,896 --> 00:17:32,681
Okay.
478
00:17:32,724 --> 00:17:35,597
I don't think it's a good idea
for you to diagnose my family.
479
00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:39,818
Yeah, we have our problems,
but what family doesn't?
480
00:17:39,862 --> 00:17:41,994
Plus, if you would've tried this
on my grandma,
481
00:17:42,038 --> 00:17:43,692
she probably would've shot you
in your belly.
482
00:17:43,735 --> 00:17:45,172
She's done it before.
483
00:17:45,215 --> 00:17:47,522
Why didn't you say this
the other day?
484
00:17:47,565 --> 00:17:49,480
It's my usual MO
to squash my feelings
485
00:17:49,524 --> 00:17:51,265
to make other people
happy.
486
00:17:51,308 --> 00:17:55,530
But I love our relationship,
and because of that,
487
00:17:55,573 --> 00:17:58,098
it's important that I let you
know how I really feel.
488
00:17:58,141 --> 00:17:59,621
Ohh.
489
00:17:59,664 --> 00:18:01,101
I'm so sorry.
490
00:18:01,144 --> 00:18:02,754
I did it again.
491
00:18:02,798 --> 00:18:05,801
I'm always screwing something up
with my dumb psych major.
492
00:18:05,844 --> 00:18:06,889
No, baby.
493
00:18:06,932 --> 00:18:08,543
Even my own family
got tired of it.
494
00:18:09,761 --> 00:18:11,589
Honestly...
495
00:18:11,633 --> 00:18:13,156
I'm just trying
to impress you guys.
496
00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:14,549
Aww.
497
00:18:14,592 --> 00:18:15,985
You do impress me.
498
00:18:16,028 --> 00:18:18,161
♪
499
00:18:18,205 --> 00:18:19,554
Dre: Okay.
500
00:18:19,597 --> 00:18:21,121
Ah. All right.
501
00:18:21,164 --> 00:18:23,123
Well,
thank you for the beer.
502
00:18:23,166 --> 00:18:24,646
That's not all I did.
503
00:18:24,689 --> 00:18:27,214
I had a long talk
with Jennifer, and...
504
00:18:27,257 --> 00:18:29,041
it looks like we're not
gonna be sending our kids
505
00:18:29,085 --> 00:18:30,652
to public school
next year.
506
00:18:30,695 --> 00:18:32,741
And before you say anything,
I know, man --
507
00:18:32,784 --> 00:18:34,569
I'm a hypocrite.
Mm-hmm.
508
00:18:34,612 --> 00:18:38,007
But I just don't know if I can
make a huge sacrifice like that
509
00:18:38,050 --> 00:18:40,836
without knowing for sure
that it's gonna pay off.
510
00:18:40,879 --> 00:18:42,620
That's what a movement is --
511
00:18:42,664 --> 00:18:45,406
many people sacrificing
parts of their lives
512
00:18:45,449 --> 00:18:48,844
to move the needle,
even if the needle barely moves.
513
00:18:48,887 --> 00:18:52,674
Look, man, I know
your eyes are newly open
514
00:18:52,717 --> 00:18:55,198
to all of the injustice
in this country
515
00:18:55,242 --> 00:18:57,200
and you want to change
everything all at once.
516
00:18:57,244 --> 00:18:58,419
Yeah.
517
00:18:58,462 --> 00:19:00,377
But what matters
to memost
518
00:19:00,421 --> 00:19:06,122
is that in five days,
five months, five years,
519
00:19:06,166 --> 00:19:07,645
you're still doing the work.
520
00:19:09,343 --> 00:19:12,172
You're so right, man.
There's so much for me to learn.
521
00:19:12,215 --> 00:19:13,956
And there's just racism
everywhere.
522
00:19:13,999 --> 00:19:16,088
Got to just open my eyes
to it.
523
00:19:16,132 --> 00:19:17,525
Yep.
524
00:19:17,568 --> 00:19:19,483
Okay, let's go watch
Chiefs-Redskins.
525
00:19:20,963 --> 00:19:23,226
It's the Washington
Football Team.
526
00:19:23,270 --> 00:19:24,880
It is?
Yeah.
527
00:19:24,923 --> 00:19:28,231
And I don't know how the Chiefs
got out of changing their name.
528
00:19:28,275 --> 00:19:29,885
And, uh...
529
00:19:29,928 --> 00:19:31,582
I'm gonna get
some more beer.
530
00:19:31,626 --> 00:19:33,410
Oh, well, they only brew this
every three years.
531
00:19:33,454 --> 00:19:35,064
It's kind of special.
532
00:19:35,107 --> 00:19:37,022
Uh, maybe they should brew it
every fiveyears.
533
00:19:37,066 --> 00:19:38,459
Hey, did you read any...
534
00:19:38,502 --> 00:19:41,244
It's good that more people
are talking about things
535
00:19:41,288 --> 00:19:44,639
they wouldn't talk about
even just a few years ago.
536
00:19:44,682 --> 00:19:47,555
That doesn't mean
that the work is easy.
537
00:19:47,598 --> 00:19:50,688
But it shows we made progress,
and that's what's important.
538
00:19:53,735 --> 00:19:56,477
But then you smear it --Dre. Thank God you're here.
539
00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:57,782
Okay, Josh and I are having what
I can call a disagreement...
540
00:19:57,826 --> 00:19:59,131
Sure.
541
00:19:59,175 --> 00:20:01,525
...about what technically
constitutes blackface.
542
00:20:01,569 --> 00:20:03,353
What do you think?
543
00:20:03,397 --> 00:20:04,615
Are you serious?
544
00:20:04,659 --> 00:20:06,530
Oh, yes! Dre rant!
545
00:20:06,574 --> 00:20:07,923
I got some popcorn!
546
00:20:07,966 --> 00:20:08,663
Hold.
547
00:20:08,706 --> 00:20:09,664
And go.
548
00:20:09,707 --> 00:20:11,056
You know what?
549
00:20:11,100 --> 00:20:15,452
As a little treat,
I made my rant into a song.
550
00:20:15,496 --> 00:20:18,063
What? How could you
possibly have known what
we were gonna ask you?
551
00:20:18,107 --> 00:20:21,110
So, you find yourself
wanting to ask a Black person
552
00:20:21,153 --> 00:20:23,068
a question about race.
553
00:20:23,112 --> 00:20:24,287
Uh-huh.
Well...
554
00:20:24,331 --> 00:20:31,599
♪ What a friend we have
in Google ♪
555
00:20:31,642 --> 00:20:38,780
♪ All your questions
answered there ♪
556
00:20:38,823 --> 00:20:45,656
♪ What a privilege to Google
557
00:20:45,700 --> 00:20:52,315
♪ Instead of asking
your Black friends ♪
558
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:54,491
Hey, Dre, is it racist
if I make this song my --
559
00:20:54,535 --> 00:20:56,058
♪ Oh, what peace it is...
560
00:20:56,101 --> 00:20:58,234
You know what?
I'll just listen to the words.