1 00:00:01,653 --> 00:00:04,004 Dre: When my parents got back together, 2 00:00:04,047 --> 00:00:05,614 I was certain it would mean the end 3 00:00:05,657 --> 00:00:07,572 of my relationship with Pops. 4 00:00:07,616 --> 00:00:10,575 Yet, somehow, our bond got stronger. 5 00:00:10,619 --> 00:00:13,883 We started spending time together in ways we never had, 6 00:00:13,926 --> 00:00:15,885 really getting to understand 7 00:00:15,928 --> 00:00:19,062 each other as two grown Black men. 8 00:00:19,106 --> 00:00:21,630 Most shocking is that I actually trust 9 00:00:21,673 --> 00:00:23,414 my Pops with my life. 10 00:00:23,458 --> 00:00:25,808 He's a man I can go to with anything. 11 00:00:25,851 --> 00:00:28,202 Even things I wouldn't bring up to my mom. 12 00:00:29,638 --> 00:00:34,077 Your daddy says you can't sneeze without leaking a little bit. 13 00:00:34,121 --> 00:00:38,690 -What? -This -- tighten it right up. 14 00:00:38,734 --> 00:00:42,085 Oh...my... God. 15 00:00:42,129 --> 00:00:44,435 My Pops is a snitch! 16 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:46,176 ♪ 17 00:00:46,220 --> 00:00:48,178 --Captions by VITAC-- 18 00:00:48,222 --> 00:00:51,181 Brought to you by: Ford, Built Ford Proud 19 00:00:51,225 --> 00:00:53,314 I have a buddy who's an excellent urologist. 20 00:00:53,357 --> 00:00:55,272 I don't need no damn urologist. 21 00:00:55,316 --> 00:00:57,100 You're missing the important part of the story. 22 00:00:57,144 --> 00:00:59,059 I had a conversation with my father -- 23 00:00:59,102 --> 00:01:03,106 an intimate conversation about aging and manhood -- 24 00:01:03,150 --> 00:01:04,499 and he violated my trust. 25 00:01:04,542 --> 00:01:05,978 Mm. And also, 26 00:01:06,022 --> 00:01:07,458 no way you have a buddy. 27 00:01:07,502 --> 00:01:09,199 You're right. He's just my urologist. 28 00:01:09,243 --> 00:01:11,158 Dre, you've been avoiding it your whole life, 29 00:01:11,201 --> 00:01:13,551 but it's time to tape up your fists and fight your father. 30 00:01:13,595 --> 00:01:15,945 What? I don't like the fact that your pops is -- 31 00:01:15,988 --> 00:01:18,165 respectfully, Dre -- running his mouth. 32 00:01:18,208 --> 00:01:20,297 -Mm. -He knows some fairly intimate 33 00:01:20,341 --> 00:01:22,691 details about me, on account that we share 34 00:01:22,734 --> 00:01:24,823 both a barber and a chicken joint. 35 00:01:24,867 --> 00:01:26,999 Nobody cares about your weird little secrets, Charlie. 36 00:01:27,043 --> 00:01:28,436 [ High-pitched voice ] Mm... 37 00:01:28,479 --> 00:01:31,003 I'm lucky it's just about this stupid medication. 38 00:01:31,047 --> 00:01:33,484 What if I was really going through something, huh?[ Normal voice ] Mm-hmm. 39 00:01:33,528 --> 00:01:37,271 What if I told him I was thinking about leaving my wife? 40 00:01:37,314 --> 00:01:38,794 [ Gasps ] Are you? 41 00:01:38,837 --> 00:01:40,143 Of course not! Oh. 42 00:01:40,187 --> 00:01:42,406 But if I told my stool pigeon father, 43 00:01:42,450 --> 00:01:44,713 he would tell my mama, and then my mama would tell Bow. 44 00:01:44,756 --> 00:01:46,018 Then, all of a sudden, I come home, 45 00:01:46,062 --> 00:01:47,629 and all of Bow's things are packed. 46 00:01:47,672 --> 00:01:49,979 That is a violation. 47 00:01:50,022 --> 00:01:51,850 Is it really, Dre? 48 00:01:51,894 --> 00:01:53,809 Don't you tell your mother everything? 49 00:01:53,852 --> 00:01:56,464 I go to my mother with emotional things. 50 00:01:56,507 --> 00:01:59,597 And then I go to my father with the man-to-man things. 51 00:01:59,641 --> 00:02:02,557 I don't need those two things mixing. 52 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,429 You made the foolish mistake of trusting a man in love. 53 00:02:05,473 --> 00:02:08,171 Never trust a man in love, and you can trust me on that 54 00:02:08,215 --> 00:02:10,042 'cause I've never, ever been loved. 55 00:02:10,086 --> 00:02:12,349 Dre, the bottom line -- You cannot tell your father 56 00:02:12,393 --> 00:02:14,177 anything ever again. 57 00:02:14,221 --> 00:02:17,441 We are finally in a good place. 58 00:02:17,485 --> 00:02:19,095 You know what? 59 00:02:19,139 --> 00:02:20,618 I just need to talk to him about keeping 60 00:02:20,662 --> 00:02:22,533 the things we talk about between us. 61 00:02:22,577 --> 00:02:26,276 That being said, I am working from home today. 62 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:28,104 Alright. Be safe. 63 00:02:28,148 --> 00:02:30,324 I'm gonna work from home today, too. 64 00:02:30,367 --> 00:02:31,803 Whoa, whoa, whoa, Charlie. You know the rule. 65 00:02:31,847 --> 00:02:34,806 Only one Black guy can be out of the office at a time. 66 00:02:34,850 --> 00:02:37,287 Just in case one of those kids comes by trying to sell us 67 00:02:37,331 --> 00:02:38,897 chocolates for his basketball team. 68 00:02:41,117 --> 00:02:43,685 Follow me. [ Laughs ] 69 00:02:43,728 --> 00:02:45,208 Ah. Ta-da! 70 00:02:45,252 --> 00:02:46,253 What?! 71 00:02:46,296 --> 00:02:49,212 We decided to get a brand-new car 72 00:02:49,256 --> 00:02:52,824 because we have some brand-newly permitted drivers! 73 00:02:52,868 --> 00:02:54,913 Okay! She cute! 74 00:02:54,957 --> 00:02:55,958 Where's Jack's? 75 00:02:56,001 --> 00:02:57,177 Oh, no. 76 00:02:57,220 --> 00:02:58,656 This car is for both of you. 77 00:02:58,700 --> 00:03:00,397 You guys shared a womb. 78 00:03:00,441 --> 00:03:01,833 You can share a car. 79 00:03:01,877 --> 00:03:03,226 -Okay, okay. -Mm-hmm. 80 00:03:03,270 --> 00:03:04,923 I can -- I can live with that, 'cause you know what? 81 00:03:04,967 --> 00:03:06,925 Mm?[ Sniffs ] I smell freedom. 82 00:03:06,969 --> 00:03:08,188 Ooh, I smell it, too. Mm. 83 00:03:08,231 --> 00:03:10,233 I feel the wind flying through my braids. 84 00:03:10,277 --> 00:03:12,583 Mm. The percussion of rubber meets road. 85 00:03:12,627 --> 00:03:13,845 Mm. Mm. 86 00:03:13,889 --> 00:03:16,196 The erratic sounds of the law at my heels. 87 00:03:16,239 --> 00:03:17,240 Mm. 88 00:03:17,284 --> 00:03:18,241 But they can't get me. 89 00:03:18,285 --> 00:03:19,721 Mnh-mnh. What -- 90 00:03:19,764 --> 00:03:21,113 -They'll never get me. -Mnh-mnh. 91 00:03:21,157 --> 00:03:22,593 -What are you talking about? -Oh, nothing. 92 00:03:22,637 --> 00:03:24,421 Come on, Jack. Let's go check it out. 93 00:03:26,380 --> 00:03:29,426 Can you believe they're 15 already? 94 00:03:29,470 --> 00:03:32,037 Feels like just yesterday I was changing their diapers. 95 00:03:32,081 --> 00:03:33,648 I don't think you did that. 96 00:03:33,691 --> 00:03:35,519 Hey, can I make one little request? 97 00:03:35,563 --> 00:03:36,999 Whatever you do... Hmm? 98 00:03:37,042 --> 00:03:39,654 ...do not let Dad teach them to drive. 99 00:03:39,697 --> 00:03:41,046 [ Tires screech ] Dre: What the hell are you doing?! 100 00:03:41,090 --> 00:03:41,786 Junior: I thought I had it! 101 00:03:41,830 --> 00:03:43,092 Back up! Back up! 102 00:03:43,135 --> 00:03:43,919 [ Horn honking ] Don't back up! 103 00:03:43,962 --> 00:03:45,529 Aah! 104 00:03:45,573 --> 00:03:48,402 Those scars will never heal. 105 00:03:48,445 --> 00:03:50,230 I had no idea how traumatized you were. 106 00:03:50,273 --> 00:03:51,883 Why have you never told me this? 107 00:03:51,927 --> 00:03:54,451 I don't know. I guess it's just some big American tradition 108 00:03:54,495 --> 00:03:56,845 that everyone experiences, you know? 109 00:03:56,888 --> 00:03:58,281 Dad teaches kid to drive. 110 00:03:58,325 --> 00:04:00,065 Dad traumatizes kid. 111 00:04:00,109 --> 00:04:01,589 Kid eventually learns to drive 112 00:04:01,632 --> 00:04:02,851 without having a panic attack. 113 00:04:02,894 --> 00:04:04,331 Mnh, mnh, mnh. 114 00:04:04,374 --> 00:04:07,986 Leave it to your father to take a meaningful milestone 115 00:04:08,030 --> 00:04:10,467 and turn it into an opportunity to scar his children. 116 00:04:10,511 --> 00:04:12,600 Why is it always the dad that gets 117 00:04:12,643 --> 00:04:14,254 to teach the kids -to drive, huh? -Mnh-mnh. 118 00:04:14,297 --> 00:04:15,733 You know what? 119 00:04:15,777 --> 00:04:19,215 Maybe I should teach Jack and Diane to drive. 120 00:04:19,259 --> 00:04:20,912 That is brilliant. Hmm. 121 00:04:20,956 --> 00:04:22,914 You are way kinder and more patient than Dad. 122 00:04:22,958 --> 00:04:24,438 Yes, I am. I am. 123 00:04:24,481 --> 00:04:25,613 Hey, guys! 124 00:04:25,656 --> 00:04:27,919 I am ending the toxic tradition 125 00:04:27,963 --> 00:04:30,879 of angry dads teaching their kids to drive! 126 00:04:30,922 --> 00:04:32,402 It's Mom's turn. 127 00:04:32,446 --> 00:04:35,100 Wow, they will never know the gift you've given them. 128 00:04:35,144 --> 00:04:36,754 But I'll know. Oh. 129 00:04:38,495 --> 00:04:41,150 Oh, look at you being all generous with the pour. 130 00:04:41,193 --> 00:04:42,456 Mm-hmm. 131 00:04:42,499 --> 00:04:44,153 Well, what's on your mind, son? 132 00:04:44,196 --> 00:04:46,590 I know you ain't liquoring me up for nothin'. 133 00:04:46,634 --> 00:04:49,114 Okay, Pops. 134 00:04:49,158 --> 00:04:51,856 I just never thought that this would happen. 135 00:04:51,900 --> 00:04:53,467 What, you becoming the kind of guy that wears, 136 00:04:53,510 --> 00:04:55,120 uh, pants that stop at his ankles? 137 00:04:55,164 --> 00:04:57,645 No, Pops. I'm talking about us... 138 00:04:57,688 --> 00:05:01,344 getting to a place where we can have man-to-man conversations. 139 00:05:01,388 --> 00:05:03,607 But they come with the understanding 140 00:05:03,651 --> 00:05:07,089 that they stay "man-to-man." 141 00:05:07,132 --> 00:05:08,656 What are you talking about? 142 00:05:08,699 --> 00:05:11,398 I'm talking about you telling Mama about my leaky plumbing. 143 00:05:11,441 --> 00:05:13,574 Pops, some things should stay a secret, man. 144 00:05:13,617 --> 00:05:15,924 Some things should stay between us. 145 00:05:15,967 --> 00:05:18,100 Yeah, you right, son. Okay. 146 00:05:18,143 --> 00:05:20,058 I guess I just got loose with the mouth. 147 00:05:20,102 --> 00:05:21,059 Say no more. 148 00:05:21,103 --> 00:05:22,322 [ Glasses clink ] 149 00:05:22,365 --> 00:05:24,236 Really? We -- We good? 150 00:05:24,280 --> 00:05:26,543 Yeah, we good. 151 00:05:26,587 --> 00:05:27,892 I'm really proud of you 152 00:05:27,936 --> 00:05:30,808 that you came to me like a man about this. 153 00:05:30,852 --> 00:05:32,375 We have come a long way, son. 154 00:05:32,419 --> 00:05:34,203 Mm-hmm. 155 00:05:34,246 --> 00:05:36,118 Mm. 156 00:05:36,161 --> 00:05:38,250 Now, what we gonna do about that? 157 00:05:38,294 --> 00:05:41,993 Well... I got a really nice bottle of scotch 158 00:05:42,037 --> 00:05:44,256 that I've been hiding in the garage. 159 00:05:44,300 --> 00:05:46,389 I believe you have a half a bottle hiding back there. 160 00:05:46,433 --> 00:05:48,173 What? You need to learn to hide your liquor 161 00:05:48,217 --> 00:05:49,653 like you don't want me to find it. 162 00:05:49,697 --> 00:05:51,351 [ Chuckles ] 163 00:05:51,394 --> 00:05:53,396 Okay, I'll be back with that half bottle. 164 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:55,267 Order restored. 165 00:05:55,311 --> 00:05:57,182 I could trust both my Moms and Pops 166 00:05:57,226 --> 00:05:59,228 to keep my business to themselves. 167 00:05:59,271 --> 00:06:01,404 He said, "Some things need to stay between us." 168 00:06:01,448 --> 00:06:02,753 Mm-hmm. 169 00:06:02,797 --> 00:06:04,494 I said, "Okay." 170 00:06:04,538 --> 00:06:07,715 I'm gonna keep his trust 'cause he was so embarrassed, Ruby. 171 00:06:07,758 --> 00:06:10,370 You know, Dre doesn't do well with embarrassment. Mnh-mnh. 172 00:06:10,413 --> 00:06:12,850 I found him in Junior's room crying like a baby 173 00:06:12,894 --> 00:06:14,286 when that boy moved out. Mm. 174 00:06:14,330 --> 00:06:15,462 He made me swear 175 00:06:15,505 --> 00:06:17,420 I wouldn't tell a soul. 176 00:06:17,464 --> 00:06:18,595 [ Both laugh ] 177 00:06:18,639 --> 00:06:20,336 Dre: Et tu, Mama? 178 00:06:20,380 --> 00:06:22,904 Judas! 179 00:06:22,947 --> 00:06:24,862 Lady Judas! 180 00:06:24,906 --> 00:06:26,821 There he goes. 181 00:06:26,864 --> 00:06:28,953 Getting that Kerry Washington lip. 182 00:06:28,997 --> 00:06:31,173 Mmmm... 183 00:06:31,216 --> 00:06:32,914 Ah. [ Chuckles ] 184 00:06:35,873 --> 00:06:37,658 This is unreal, Bow. 185 00:06:37,701 --> 00:06:39,529 I caught my parents gossiping about me. 186 00:06:39,573 --> 00:06:41,444 This is not how it's supposed to be! 187 00:06:41,488 --> 00:06:43,577 Dre, we gossip about our children all the time. 188 00:06:43,620 --> 00:06:46,275 Our last text thread was about Jack's mustache. 189 00:06:46,318 --> 00:06:47,711 It's called parenting. 190 00:06:47,755 --> 00:06:49,321 I don't need to be parented, Bow. 191 00:06:49,365 --> 00:06:50,845 I'm a grown-ass man. 192 00:06:50,888 --> 00:06:52,499 Okay, well, I'm gonna need you to get over it, 193 00:06:52,542 --> 00:06:54,762 because I am taking a MasterClass. 194 00:06:54,805 --> 00:06:57,808 RuPaul is teaching me how to make money from fracking. 195 00:06:57,852 --> 00:06:59,549 Unh-unh. No. What? Okay. 196 00:06:59,593 --> 00:07:01,203 I will not get past this. 197 00:07:01,246 --> 00:07:02,552 It's a violation. 198 00:07:02,596 --> 00:07:04,293 I am sure that your parents 199 00:07:04,336 --> 00:07:06,382 have been talking about you like this your whole life. 200 00:07:06,426 --> 00:07:07,688 Unh-unh. No. 201 00:07:07,731 --> 00:07:09,733 They weren't, alright? 202 00:07:09,777 --> 00:07:11,431 Growing up, they hated each other. 203 00:07:11,474 --> 00:07:13,302 I knew they would never compare notes, 204 00:07:13,345 --> 00:07:15,478 so I could share whatever I wanted with my mom. 205 00:07:15,522 --> 00:07:19,047 Now my mom is married to my Pops, and I can't trust her. 206 00:07:19,090 --> 00:07:20,440 She's probably just sharing with her husband. 207 00:07:20,483 --> 00:07:21,484 You don't get it. 208 00:07:21,528 --> 00:07:23,573 My mother is my confidant, 209 00:07:23,617 --> 00:07:25,227 my rock, my counselor. 210 00:07:25,270 --> 00:07:28,143 If I can't talk to her, who can I talk to? 211 00:07:28,186 --> 00:07:30,798 Who are you talking to right now? 212 00:07:30,841 --> 00:07:33,365 Okay, okay, okay. 213 00:07:33,409 --> 00:07:38,109 Listen, you can't control what your parents talk about. 214 00:07:38,153 --> 00:07:40,329 The only thing you have control over, Dre, 215 00:07:40,372 --> 00:07:43,201 is what you tell them. 216 00:07:43,245 --> 00:07:44,638 So I think it's time you set 217 00:07:44,681 --> 00:07:46,030 some boundaries with your mother. 218 00:07:46,074 --> 00:07:47,336 Give me your hand, sweetheart. Come here. 219 00:07:47,379 --> 00:07:49,599 I know this is hard. I know. 220 00:07:49,643 --> 00:07:52,036 You need to set some boundaries -with your mom. -Okay. 221 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,648 You need to set some boundaries with your mother. 222 00:07:54,691 --> 00:07:56,563 Okay, Bow, I heard you. 223 00:07:56,606 --> 00:07:58,913 Yeah, I know. It just felt really nice to say it again. 224 00:07:58,956 --> 00:08:01,350 [ Sighs ] 225 00:08:01,393 --> 00:08:03,265 -You're right. -I'm always right. 226 00:08:03,308 --> 00:08:05,485 If I set some boundaries with my mom, she'll get mad, 227 00:08:05,528 --> 00:08:07,399 and then she'll realize the consequences 228 00:08:07,443 --> 00:08:08,966 of betraying my trust. 229 00:08:09,010 --> 00:08:10,620 Yes! No! 230 00:08:10,664 --> 00:08:11,882 That is not what I said! Yes! 231 00:08:11,926 --> 00:08:13,623 Oh, it doesn't matter what you said, Bow. 232 00:08:13,667 --> 00:08:14,842 It's what I'm gonna do. 233 00:08:14,885 --> 00:08:17,714 I think you're still too mad. 234 00:08:17,758 --> 00:08:19,716 Good point. 235 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:21,718 I'll talk to her tomorrow. 236 00:08:21,762 --> 00:08:25,330 ♪ 237 00:08:25,374 --> 00:08:27,332 You need to know that this 238 00:08:27,376 --> 00:08:29,726 is not your father's -driving school. -Okay. 239 00:08:29,770 --> 00:08:30,988 Is that why you have a shirt 240 00:08:31,032 --> 00:08:32,599 that says "Rainbow Johnson's Driving School"? 241 00:08:32,642 --> 00:08:33,730 [ Laughs ] Yes. 242 00:08:33,774 --> 00:08:35,079 How'd you get that so fast? 243 00:08:35,123 --> 00:08:36,820 I've got a guy. 244 00:08:36,864 --> 00:08:38,126 Alright. [ Clears throat ] 245 00:08:38,169 --> 00:08:41,433 Diane, as the driver, what do you do to start? 246 00:08:41,477 --> 00:08:42,913 Address mirrors. Start engine. 247 00:08:42,957 --> 00:08:44,611 Hands at 10:00 and 2:00. 248 00:08:44,654 --> 00:08:46,395 One lap around. Stay alert. 249 00:08:46,438 --> 00:08:48,658 Then park safely next to the strategically placed 250 00:08:48,702 --> 00:08:49,833 safety trash cans. 251 00:08:49,877 --> 00:08:51,574 Okay. Girl, you ready. 252 00:08:51,618 --> 00:08:52,880 Yes. [ Laughs ] 253 00:08:52,923 --> 00:08:55,273 Okay, listen, you're gonna make mistakes, alright? 254 00:08:55,317 --> 00:08:57,145 You're gonna get frustrated, but I am here to guide you. 255 00:08:57,188 --> 00:08:58,625 Okay. And, also, 256 00:08:58,668 --> 00:09:00,235 we're gonna have a little bit of fun.[ Engine starts ] 257 00:09:00,278 --> 00:09:02,454 'Cause this is your first time, 'cause... 258 00:09:02,498 --> 00:09:03,455 [ Clears throat ] 259 00:09:03,499 --> 00:09:05,675 Have you driven before? 260 00:09:05,719 --> 00:09:06,850 Not that you can prove. 261 00:09:06,894 --> 00:09:09,636 [ Chuckles ] Okay. Slow down. 262 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:12,856 So I set a boundary trap for my mama 263 00:09:12,900 --> 00:09:15,293 and waited for her to take the cheese. 264 00:09:15,337 --> 00:09:17,034 Oh. Damn. 265 00:09:17,078 --> 00:09:18,340 Damn, damn. 266 00:09:18,383 --> 00:09:19,950 What's wrong? 267 00:09:19,994 --> 00:09:21,299 It's nothing. 268 00:09:21,343 --> 00:09:23,171 Well, I can tell it's not nothing, 269 00:09:23,214 --> 00:09:25,129 'cause your brow is all scrunched up 270 00:09:25,173 --> 00:09:26,870 and you look like you ate too many Dodger Dogs. 271 00:09:26,914 --> 00:09:28,959 -What's wrong? -Ah, you're right. 272 00:09:29,003 --> 00:09:32,223 Nobody knows me like you, Mama. 273 00:09:32,267 --> 00:09:33,921 Something happened at work today. 274 00:09:33,964 --> 00:09:35,749 -It was exciting. -Mm. 275 00:09:35,792 --> 00:09:37,838 Yeah, and at the same time, so scary. 276 00:09:37,881 --> 00:09:40,580 It... 277 00:09:40,623 --> 00:09:42,669 You know what, Mama? 278 00:09:42,712 --> 00:09:45,280 Given where we are, I don't think it's appropriate 279 00:09:45,323 --> 00:09:49,676 for me to continue to discuss personal matters with you. 280 00:09:49,719 --> 00:09:53,201 Boy, why are you talking to me like you HR at the Post Office 281 00:09:53,244 --> 00:09:54,768 telling me I can't read people's mail? 282 00:09:54,811 --> 00:09:56,726 You're right. What am I doing? 283 00:09:56,770 --> 00:09:58,772 -You are my mama! -Hello! 284 00:09:58,815 --> 00:10:01,165 Stevens came to me with a briefcase with a lock on it, 285 00:10:01,209 --> 00:10:03,385 and then he opened it up, and I saw what was inside, Mama, 286 00:10:03,428 --> 00:10:05,169 and it -- 287 00:10:05,213 --> 00:10:06,910 Oh, my. No. 288 00:10:06,954 --> 00:10:08,695 I can't tell you, Mama. I-I-I can't. 289 00:10:08,738 --> 00:10:10,000 What was it? What was it? 290 00:10:10,044 --> 00:10:11,001 Was it -- -Was it -- Was it drugs? -Mnh-mnh. 291 00:10:11,045 --> 00:10:12,002 Money? Mnh-mnh. 292 00:10:12,046 --> 00:10:13,308 Drug money? No. 293 00:10:13,351 --> 00:10:16,137 Boy, if you can't tell me, draw me a picture. 294 00:10:16,180 --> 00:10:17,617 Ma, I can't. 295 00:10:17,660 --> 00:10:19,053 Why the hell not?! 296 00:10:19,096 --> 00:10:20,707 What's wrong with you?! 297 00:10:20,750 --> 00:10:25,189 I am drawing a boundary with you, Mama. 298 00:10:25,233 --> 00:10:27,148 Boundary? 299 00:10:27,191 --> 00:10:28,497 Mm. 300 00:10:28,540 --> 00:10:31,935 Boundary? With me? 301 00:10:31,979 --> 00:10:34,459 Who are you gonna share with? 302 00:10:34,503 --> 00:10:37,941 Who are you gonna talk your struggles out with? 303 00:10:37,985 --> 00:10:41,162 My wife. 304 00:10:41,205 --> 00:10:43,381 Uh-huh. 305 00:10:43,425 --> 00:10:44,687 She put you up to this? 306 00:10:44,731 --> 00:10:46,297 No, Mama. 307 00:10:46,341 --> 00:10:49,039 Bow could never come up with an idea like this. 308 00:10:49,083 --> 00:10:50,388 -Can't come up with no idea. -Okay. 309 00:10:50,432 --> 00:10:52,782 But... 310 00:10:52,826 --> 00:10:56,917 I am going to need you to respect my boundary. 311 00:10:58,962 --> 00:11:00,311 Okay, baby. 312 00:11:00,355 --> 00:11:01,661 Thank you. 313 00:11:01,704 --> 00:11:03,445 If that's what you want. 314 00:11:03,488 --> 00:11:05,577 God, I'm feeling so sick. 315 00:11:05,621 --> 00:11:07,275 Black Jesus, help me. 316 00:11:07,318 --> 00:11:09,103 -Mama, you okay? -No, I'm feeling sick! 317 00:11:09,146 --> 00:11:10,234 What's wrong? What's wrong, Mama? 318 00:11:10,278 --> 00:11:11,932 Just all of a sudden. 319 00:11:11,975 --> 00:11:13,368 I'm gonna go lay down. Okay. 320 00:11:13,411 --> 00:11:15,065 Oh, God! 321 00:11:15,109 --> 00:11:16,719 Oh, my God! 322 00:11:16,763 --> 00:11:18,634 Take me to the King! 323 00:11:18,678 --> 00:11:20,070 I'm ready, Jesus! 324 00:11:20,114 --> 00:11:22,638 It was tough, but I had to teach my mom 325 00:11:22,682 --> 00:11:24,858 there were consequences to snitching. 326 00:11:24,901 --> 00:11:28,165 Meanwhile, Bow was in the midst of teaching our kids 327 00:11:28,209 --> 00:11:30,298 something they needed to survive. 328 00:11:30,341 --> 00:11:31,995 You know, I've done some thinking. 329 00:11:32,039 --> 00:11:33,605 -Oh, my God. -In today's climate, 330 00:11:33,649 --> 00:11:35,042 I'm not sure if I need to learn how to drive. 331 00:11:35,085 --> 00:11:37,784 [ Chuckles ] Okay, Jack. 332 00:11:39,481 --> 00:11:41,613 You're serious? I'm dead-ass. 333 00:11:41,657 --> 00:11:43,050 You see these hands? 334 00:11:43,093 --> 00:11:45,879 These were meant for texting while someone else drives. 335 00:11:45,922 --> 00:11:47,619 Okay, well, driving is still 336 00:11:47,663 --> 00:11:49,839 a very important skill to learn, Jack. 337 00:11:49,883 --> 00:11:53,103 Mm-hmm. What if somebody that you love gets hurt? 338 00:11:53,147 --> 00:11:54,844 Call an ambulance. 339 00:11:54,888 --> 00:11:56,672 Okay, what if you're very hungry, and you -- 340 00:11:56,716 --> 00:11:58,543 Order delivery. 341 00:11:58,587 --> 00:12:02,852 What if you want a peaceful and scenic -- 342 00:12:02,896 --> 00:12:04,680 Walk. It's better for my health. 343 00:12:04,724 --> 00:12:05,855 And the environment. 344 00:12:05,899 --> 00:12:08,205 [ Clapping ] 345 00:12:08,249 --> 00:12:09,337 Nicely done. Mm-hmm. 346 00:12:09,380 --> 00:12:14,255 Okay, but what if...someone, a.k.a. me, 347 00:12:14,298 --> 00:12:18,389 gives you $20 to park this car in the garage? 348 00:12:18,433 --> 00:12:19,564 Then what you gonna do? 349 00:12:19,608 --> 00:12:21,610 -Then I get that money. -Ye-- What? 350 00:12:21,653 --> 00:12:23,177 Okay. [ Chuckles ] 351 00:12:23,220 --> 00:12:24,526 Are you gonna get in the car? 352 00:12:24,569 --> 00:12:25,962 Mnh-mnh. 353 00:12:26,006 --> 00:12:28,008 What's happening?[ Engine starts ] 354 00:12:30,271 --> 00:12:31,489 Oh. 355 00:12:31,533 --> 00:12:34,188 ♪ 356 00:12:34,231 --> 00:12:35,755 [ Car beeps ] 357 00:12:35,798 --> 00:12:37,060 -Boom. -Wow. 358 00:12:37,104 --> 00:12:38,540 Car parked. Uh-huh. 359 00:12:38,583 --> 00:12:40,324 -Pay up. -Oh, I'm sorry, sweetheart. 360 00:12:40,368 --> 00:12:41,586 I don't have $20 on me. 361 00:12:41,630 --> 00:12:44,111 ♪ 362 00:12:44,154 --> 00:12:46,200 Andre Johnson. Yeah? 363 00:12:46,243 --> 00:12:47,723 What the hell is wrong with you, boy? 364 00:12:47,767 --> 00:12:49,029 Look what you've done to your mama. 365 00:12:49,072 --> 00:12:51,683 I had to triple up on my iron pills 366 00:12:51,727 --> 00:12:53,555 just to get through the afternoon. 367 00:12:53,598 --> 00:12:55,426 You see what you've done?[ Moans ] 368 00:12:55,470 --> 00:12:58,560 Now you are going to open your heart 369 00:12:58,603 --> 00:13:01,606 and tell your mother all your secrets. 370 00:13:01,650 --> 00:13:03,870 I am not about to apologize to you two 371 00:13:03,913 --> 00:13:05,436 for setting up a boundary. 372 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:07,699 Yeah, when the two of you won't apologize to me 373 00:13:07,743 --> 00:13:09,179 for talking about me behind my back. 374 00:13:09,223 --> 00:13:11,094 So boom, boundary. 375 00:13:11,138 --> 00:13:13,270 Now, you listen to me. 376 00:13:13,314 --> 00:13:17,144 Are you really willing to throw away how close we are 377 00:13:17,187 --> 00:13:18,928 just because he and I are together now? 378 00:13:18,972 --> 00:13:20,321 We're just talking a little bit. 379 00:13:20,364 --> 00:13:22,627 Mama. 380 00:13:22,671 --> 00:13:24,760 For the longest time, it was just me and you, 381 00:13:24,804 --> 00:13:27,763 and I would tell you things. 382 00:13:27,807 --> 00:13:30,548 -Delicate things. -Yeah. 383 00:13:30,592 --> 00:13:32,855 And you would share with me all about the mess, 384 00:13:32,899 --> 00:13:34,509 about the raggedy stuff that Pops would do. 385 00:13:34,552 --> 00:13:36,032 Now we can't do that. 386 00:13:36,076 --> 00:13:38,034 Hey. You two been talking about me? 387 00:13:38,078 --> 00:13:39,427 Eh, what she been telling you, son? 388 00:13:39,470 --> 00:13:40,994 I know you didn't pay for my books in college. 389 00:13:41,037 --> 00:13:42,038 Ruby. 390 00:13:42,082 --> 00:13:43,300 Can't believe you. 391 00:13:43,344 --> 00:13:44,562 That was supposed to be between me and you. 392 00:13:44,606 --> 00:13:45,825 Well, he's my son! 393 00:13:45,868 --> 00:13:47,217 Oh, well, he's my son, too. 394 00:13:47,261 --> 00:13:49,829 How would you feel if I told him the only reason 395 00:13:49,872 --> 00:13:51,874 that you missed his 45th birthday party 396 00:13:51,918 --> 00:13:53,745 was to get a thigh lift? 397 00:13:53,789 --> 00:13:55,269 -Ooh. -What? 398 00:13:55,312 --> 00:13:58,881 I swear to God, Earl, if you want to play like that, 399 00:13:58,925 --> 00:14:01,841 I got something for that ass! 400 00:14:01,884 --> 00:14:03,843 Oh, what you got, little loose-mouth snitch? 401 00:14:03,886 --> 00:14:05,670 Okay, guys, maybe you're taking it a little bit too far. 402 00:14:05,714 --> 00:14:08,369 -Can we just calm down? -Okay, okay, okay. 403 00:14:08,412 --> 00:14:10,545 What if I told him that the only reason 404 00:14:10,588 --> 00:14:12,895 you came to his middle school graduation 405 00:14:12,939 --> 00:14:18,292 was to get at that donkey-bootied crossing guard? 406 00:14:18,335 --> 00:14:20,120 Miss Freeman? 407 00:14:20,163 --> 00:14:22,557 I can't believe you, Ruby. 408 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:25,386 Well, believe it, Negro! 409 00:14:25,429 --> 00:14:27,779 What do you do when you've started a mega-fight 410 00:14:27,823 --> 00:14:31,044 between your parents, who have a history of petty violence? 411 00:14:31,087 --> 00:14:32,828 -Ain't nothing wrong with me! -I thought we was... 412 00:14:32,872 --> 00:14:34,177 You back out and run away. 413 00:14:34,221 --> 00:14:35,744 -We back together. We fine. -No, you think... 414 00:14:38,399 --> 00:14:39,617 Dre? Yeah? 415 00:14:39,661 --> 00:14:41,924 Hey, it's after 9:00. 416 00:14:41,968 --> 00:14:43,883 I don't hear Barry White coming from the guest apartment. 417 00:14:43,926 --> 00:14:45,710 Mm. Your parents okay? 418 00:14:45,754 --> 00:14:50,063 I think I may have started the biggest fight between them 419 00:14:50,106 --> 00:14:51,934 since they've gotten back together. 420 00:14:51,978 --> 00:14:53,936 And by "may have"... 421 00:14:53,980 --> 00:14:55,155 that's what I did. 422 00:14:55,198 --> 00:14:56,765 Oh. 423 00:14:56,808 --> 00:14:58,245 Well, I guess it's good we didn't get rid 424 00:14:58,288 --> 00:14:59,507 of the arson insurance on the house. 425 00:14:59,550 --> 00:15:00,987 Mm. 426 00:15:01,030 --> 00:15:03,337 [ Chuckles ] But I don't understand. 427 00:15:03,380 --> 00:15:04,816 Were you trying to break them up? 428 00:15:04,860 --> 00:15:06,862 It's not that. 429 00:15:06,906 --> 00:15:09,473 It's just that my parents being together, 430 00:15:09,517 --> 00:15:10,779 I feel like I have no secrets. 431 00:15:10,822 --> 00:15:12,041 Mm. 432 00:15:12,085 --> 00:15:13,869 You know, my relationship with my mom 433 00:15:13,913 --> 00:15:16,567 and my relationship with my dad are now one. 434 00:15:16,611 --> 00:15:19,048 It's two against one. 435 00:15:19,092 --> 00:15:21,703 And with them together... 436 00:15:21,746 --> 00:15:23,400 they've seen all my mess. 437 00:15:23,444 --> 00:15:26,621 [ Laughs ] 438 00:15:26,664 --> 00:15:28,579 Are you seriously laughing at this? 439 00:15:28,623 --> 00:15:30,016 I'm sorry. 440 00:15:30,059 --> 00:15:34,063 Dre, what you're describing is -- 441 00:15:34,107 --> 00:15:35,717 is a normal close-knit family. 442 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:38,981 Nah. Sweetheart, it's normal. 443 00:15:39,025 --> 00:15:40,896 It's normal to have everybody in your business. 444 00:15:40,940 --> 00:15:42,289 Mm. 445 00:15:42,332 --> 00:15:44,987 And it's normal for it to get uncomfortable. 446 00:15:45,031 --> 00:15:48,208 It's a small price to pay for having parents 447 00:15:48,251 --> 00:15:50,645 that truly see the big picture of you. 448 00:15:50,688 --> 00:15:53,082 Hm. I'm starting to see their big picture, too, 449 00:15:53,126 --> 00:15:54,562 whether I like it or not. 450 00:15:54,605 --> 00:15:57,173 -They have very full lives. -Yeah. 451 00:15:57,217 --> 00:15:59,219 And, you know, when they're not having sex 452 00:15:59,262 --> 00:16:00,960 with the window open... Mm. 453 00:16:01,003 --> 00:16:03,049 -...they're talking about you. -Mm-hmm. 454 00:16:03,092 --> 00:16:05,225 Because they love you. 455 00:16:05,268 --> 00:16:06,878 I don't think it's worth giving up that relationship 456 00:16:06,922 --> 00:16:08,532 over this, Dre. 457 00:16:08,576 --> 00:16:09,577 [ Sighs ] 458 00:16:09,620 --> 00:16:12,362 Maybe you're right. 459 00:16:12,406 --> 00:16:13,537 I'll go talk to them. 460 00:16:13,581 --> 00:16:17,280 Just...knock first. 461 00:16:17,324 --> 00:16:18,281 Like, loudly. 462 00:16:18,325 --> 00:16:19,282 [ Shudders ] 463 00:16:19,326 --> 00:16:21,806 ♪ 464 00:16:21,850 --> 00:16:24,461 Oh, hey! 465 00:16:24,505 --> 00:16:28,204 Jack, okay, so it is a new day... 466 00:16:28,248 --> 00:16:29,684 Yes....and I was thinking, 467 00:16:29,727 --> 00:16:32,817 what if we have a driving lesson, 468 00:16:32,861 --> 00:16:34,341 but after... 469 00:16:34,384 --> 00:16:36,430 Mm-hmm....I buy you... 470 00:16:36,473 --> 00:16:38,084 your own... 471 00:16:38,127 --> 00:16:39,302 brand-new car? 472 00:16:39,346 --> 00:16:41,348 Huh? 473 00:16:41,391 --> 00:16:43,045 No, thank you. I'm good. 474 00:16:43,089 --> 00:16:45,917 Only thing I'm planning on doing today is drinking this Ensure. 475 00:16:45,961 --> 00:16:47,528 It's good for active seniors, 476 00:16:47,571 --> 00:16:49,791 but I think it should be good for active freshmen, too. 477 00:16:49,834 --> 00:16:51,575 Oof. Bottoms up. 478 00:16:51,619 --> 00:16:53,708 Bottoms up? What? 479 00:16:53,751 --> 00:16:55,057 I don't get it. 480 00:16:55,101 --> 00:16:56,754 -Perplexed. -For as long as I can remember, 481 00:16:56,798 --> 00:16:58,321 it's been Jack's dream 482 00:16:58,365 --> 00:17:00,584 to drive to the Grand Canyon so he could pee in it. 483 00:17:00,628 --> 00:17:03,370 And now he's turning down a brand-new car? 484 00:17:03,413 --> 00:17:05,241 Why is he throwing his dreams away? 485 00:17:05,285 --> 00:17:07,069 Have you ever considered the possibility 486 00:17:07,113 --> 00:17:08,070 that Jack is a weirdo? 487 00:17:08,114 --> 00:17:09,463 I'm serious. 488 00:17:09,506 --> 00:17:11,726 Learning to drive is a rite of passage. 489 00:17:11,769 --> 00:17:14,250 I am offering my son the keys to freedom, 490 00:17:14,294 --> 00:17:16,078 and he's throwing them back in my face. 491 00:17:16,122 --> 00:17:18,950 Well, you know, that freedom is exciting, 492 00:17:18,994 --> 00:17:21,040 but at the same time, it is really scary. 493 00:17:21,083 --> 00:17:23,825 I remember everybody telling me how much I was gonna love 494 00:17:23,868 --> 00:17:25,870 the freedom of college, but when I got there, 495 00:17:25,914 --> 00:17:27,959 I was actually super-overwhelmed. 496 00:17:28,003 --> 00:17:29,439 You know, some people just aren't ready 497 00:17:29,483 --> 00:17:31,702 for the rites of passage when you think they should be. 498 00:17:31,746 --> 00:17:34,401 You're right. What do I do? 499 00:17:34,444 --> 00:17:35,880 If you were Dad, you would drive him 500 00:17:35,924 --> 00:17:37,317 out into the middle of the desert 501 00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:39,797 and then fake a heart attack and then force him 502 00:17:39,841 --> 00:17:41,843 to drive you all the way home, and then when you got there, 503 00:17:41,886 --> 00:17:43,366 you would say, "See? I told you. 504 00:17:43,410 --> 00:17:45,412 I knew you could drive. Why are you crying? 505 00:17:45,455 --> 00:17:47,457 Let's go get some chili cheese fries. 506 00:17:47,501 --> 00:17:48,632 Huh?" 507 00:17:48,676 --> 00:17:50,591 [ Breathing heavily ] 508 00:17:50,634 --> 00:17:52,680 Did your dad do that to you? 509 00:17:52,723 --> 00:17:55,117 All I'm saying is that whatever you do, 510 00:17:55,161 --> 00:17:57,380 I know you will handle it better than Dad. 511 00:17:57,424 --> 00:17:58,903 [ Scoffs ] Well, that's a given. 512 00:17:58,947 --> 00:18:00,383 Obviously. [ Laughs ] 513 00:18:00,427 --> 00:18:05,910 ♪ 514 00:18:05,954 --> 00:18:07,521 [ Knock on door ] 515 00:18:07,564 --> 00:18:11,568 Well, you guys seem to have calmed down. 516 00:18:11,612 --> 00:18:13,092 We've officially moved into 517 00:18:13,135 --> 00:18:15,224 the silent treatment portion of the evening. 518 00:18:15,268 --> 00:18:18,009 New tactics you learn once you're married. 519 00:18:18,053 --> 00:18:22,797 Mm. Look, this is all my fault. 520 00:18:22,840 --> 00:18:24,146 You guys would not be fighting 521 00:18:24,190 --> 00:18:25,930 if I wasn't trying to protect myself 522 00:18:25,974 --> 00:18:27,628 from what's ultimately a good thing -- 523 00:18:27,671 --> 00:18:29,847 us being close. 524 00:18:29,891 --> 00:18:34,939 Well, I appreciate your apology... 525 00:18:34,983 --> 00:18:37,290 but I've got to own some of it. 526 00:18:37,333 --> 00:18:39,727 I never should have shared all that mess 527 00:18:39,770 --> 00:18:42,599 about your Pops when you were growing up. 528 00:18:42,643 --> 00:18:47,517 Now, it made us close, but I should have had a... 529 00:18:47,561 --> 00:18:48,997 boun... 530 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:51,260 Go ahead, baby. You can say it. 531 00:18:51,304 --> 00:18:52,740 Boundary. Mm. 532 00:18:52,783 --> 00:18:54,394 Mm! 533 00:18:54,437 --> 00:18:56,222 I appreciate that, Mama. 534 00:18:56,265 --> 00:18:59,312 The thing you gotta understand is, son, 535 00:18:59,355 --> 00:19:04,447 your mama and I restarted our friendship talking about...you. 536 00:19:04,491 --> 00:19:05,753 That's right. 537 00:19:05,796 --> 00:19:08,451 And I love talking to my husband about my kids, 538 00:19:08,495 --> 00:19:10,366 and you ain't gonna take that away from me, Dre. 539 00:19:10,410 --> 00:19:12,194 So we'll just exercise 540 00:19:12,238 --> 00:19:14,501 a little bit more discretion from here on in. 541 00:19:14,544 --> 00:19:16,938 No more talking about the times -when you boo-booed on yourself. -Mm. 542 00:19:16,981 --> 00:19:18,983 Hmm. Thanks. 543 00:19:19,027 --> 00:19:20,681 [ Chuckles ] 544 00:19:20,724 --> 00:19:22,987 Hey, so, uh... 545 00:19:23,031 --> 00:19:25,642 what do y'all say about Rhonda? 546 00:19:25,686 --> 00:19:27,557 Ooh, child. Mm... 547 00:19:27,601 --> 00:19:29,646 Ha-hey! 548 00:19:29,690 --> 00:19:31,300 You got somewhere to be after this? 549 00:19:31,344 --> 00:19:33,694 Look here. Let me fix you a drink. 550 00:19:33,737 --> 00:19:34,695 [ Laughs ] Okay. 551 00:19:34,738 --> 00:19:36,523 Now, your sister... Mm-hmm. 552 00:19:36,566 --> 00:19:41,049 ...used to be involved with something called VEXXEUS. 553 00:19:41,092 --> 00:19:43,051 -Uh-huh. Uh-huh. -The sex cult? 554 00:19:43,094 --> 00:19:45,401 It's also a Ponzi scheme. 555 00:19:45,445 --> 00:19:46,750 [ Chuckles ] Yeah. 556 00:19:49,231 --> 00:19:52,191 So, Jack wasn't ready to drive, but he still wanted to stunt. 557 00:19:52,234 --> 00:19:55,237 What it do, shorty? You like all-wheel drive? 558 00:19:55,281 --> 00:19:56,543 Hey, what's up, girl? 559 00:19:56,586 --> 00:19:59,546 Whata gwan, fine gyal? 'Sup? 560 00:19:59,589 --> 00:20:01,461 You going to the In-N-Out on Lankershim? 561 00:20:01,504 --> 00:20:03,767 [ Chuckles ] Funny. Me too. 562 00:20:03,811 --> 00:20:05,204 Oh, what's that? 563 00:20:05,247 --> 00:20:06,596 Do I share this car with my sister? 564 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:08,207 [ Scoffs ] Hell no. 565 00:20:08,250 --> 00:20:10,165 I got the pink slip in the glove, baby. 566 00:20:10,209 --> 00:20:11,732 Hey, your friends want a ride? 567 00:20:11,775 --> 00:20:13,429 I've got room for all of them. 568 00:20:13,473 --> 00:20:14,604 Oh. Sorry. 569 00:20:14,648 --> 00:20:16,127 Your brother's gonna have to walk. 570 00:20:16,171 --> 00:20:18,086 Oh. Oh, yeah. I-I know I look good in -- 571 00:20:18,129 --> 00:20:21,655 And...blackmail![ Camera beeps ] 572 00:20:21,698 --> 00:20:23,265 When will I learn? 573 00:20:23,309 --> 00:20:25,311 ♪