Previously on "90 Day Fiancé."
Sweetie!
Baby!
It has been eight long months, but I am finally here
with my baby!
He doesn't know what he likes until he sees it.
I invested $250 to buy this rock.
There's free rocks all over the place.
This will help you.
We'll clean the atmosphere here.
Ah!
- Edward, finally. - Hey, hi.
I am super anxious.
My parents' approval means the world to me.
There are a lot of red flags.
And unless you're oblivious, you understand that there are.
So far, your relationship has been in the tropics,
in lovely hotels.
But reality is a whole different ballgame.
My daughter is an extremely strong woman,
How are you feeling? I mean, you feel better?
Are you still upset with me or?
Get the off my tailgate!
I want you to figure your out with each other.
If he has such a problem with my American culture, then maybe
he should have been with a Turkish woman.
- Hello! - Hi.
I'm not gonna be shied away from my fiancée's party,
Why are you here?
Catie and I have had conversations about what
she really wants.
Jesus.
Mm-hmm.
Hmm.
No, no.
Well, how do you open it?
What do you mean? It is supposed to open. It's a gate.
Yeah, but if we have to get out, like, what if you have
to get out of this? - We going that way.
What if the landscapers have to come in
with their lawn mowers and come in this way?
The door doesn't open that way.
It's alright-- what does it look like on the other side?
- Is it nice like this? - Do you wanna-- oh, yeah.
- Well. - Oh, I'm gonna go see.
The last few days, a lot of concerns have come
into my brain. Yes, I'm excited.
OK, that's a given.
We're excited to be together in person.
But I started thinking, "What if he's not prepared?
What if I'm gonna take on another child in my life?"
So it's been like a roller coaster of emotions
every single day.
Ooh!
You'll be OK. Come on.
Get used to it.
One of the things that I really need Edward to step up
with is just being a man, being a strong man in my life,
and start doing things on his own without me holding
his hand through every step of the way.
- Edward. - What?
What in the hell is this?
- So... - What is this?
- Molding from my living room? - Yeah.
How did you do this? Did you go like this?
- Pff! - Uh... yeah.
- Did you? - Yeah.
Oh, my God.
Like, look at it from, like, this far away.
- OK. - Like, when people drive up this road and they see
my pathetic fence, it looks so, like, trashy.
I appreciate that you tried to fix the fence,
but all my neighbors gonna be like, "Look at how...
like, poor she keeps her house."
- Make sense? - Yeah, but I do.
I care about people's opinions, especially when it comes
to things that represent me.
I get it that you had to have a fast fix.
But let's be real.
What exactly possessed you to use broken molding that
you found somewhere in my house with rusty nails
so that it stays intact?
- They-- these-- - I care!
It doesn't matter if they don't pay their bills.
I pay your bills.
And I want the house to look a good way.
- Just say "Yes, honey." - Yes, baby.
Thank you.
- Secondly... - OK.
This...
looks like a disaster.
I need this cleaned up, like, immediately.
Like, not-- not tomorrow, not,
like, you know, like, in an hour.
Like, I need it completely clean now, because I'm,
like, mortified that this is on the side of my house,
and everybody that walks by and drives by sees, like,
"Oh, there's the white trash house."
OK.
Thank you.
- Can I help you? - No.
That's all. I'm gonna go and, like...
This is-- no, no, no.
Jesus.
♪ I'm leaving today ♪
♪ Baby don't test me, I'll never stay ♪
♪ Raising my head ♪
♪ Walking out slow, won't see me again ♪
I think so.
♪ I got fire in my heart ♪
♪ Got a feeling in my soul ♪
♪ Thought I'd fade out in the dark ♪
♪ But I don't ♪
I feel like I'm the problem.
The last time we spoke, you asked me to not be a part
of your life anymore. - Yeah.
I'm not interested in people who aren't bringing anything
to me, you know?
I don't-- I don't really understand,
like, when we were all hanging out,
I thought it was all quite friendly, and then everything
kinda went downhill, and I felt like a bit of collateral.
Catie and I did some things that were inappropriate.
But it's-- Catie's hard to say no to.
I can't help but judge anyone who would go through with
something knowing me and knowing us.
Like, it's...
I guess I really don't know you, and I don't know the us,
but I made quite a big mistake.
Yeah.
I hurt you, and I want to apologize.
Ryan, to his credit, did apologize.
I think that was the kind of minimum expectation.
But on the other hand...
Is-- is it just another apology?
'Cause that's-- that's just.
I'm not down for that kind of attitude.
I-- I appreciate you recognizing it,
but I'm also thinking that, like, when we were in Berlin,
like, you guys did whatever you did, and then, you know,
I got an apology after that, and then it happened
a couple more times.
I wanna be able to trust who you're hanging out with.
I wanna be able to trust people that are gonna
be around me.
Catie and I have discussed what our relationship is
- in terms of just being friends. - Yeah.
I feel like we're just, like, chill friends now.
But I understand that that's difficult.
I don't want to control you. I want you to live your life,
but I also don't want you to make stupid decisions.
Yeah.
This whole thing is just a bit of a waste of my time,
but, you know, hearing what you've got to say is,
I appreciate that. - Yeah.
I mean, I can totally respect
that you're not interested in a friendship.
- Right? - It does, yeah.
Yeah, Catie?
Do you think I can make out with everyone I know?
- I think... - I think that's a bad idea.
We're getting married soon,
and I'm starting to feel just in my gut that-- that she's
not ready for, that she doesn't want it right now.
Well, I think we're here for a party, so...
Let's go.
Yeah.
We have less than 90 days before we get married now,
and so I think that Catie, if she's ever going to make
a show of commitment, now is--
now is the time, honey.
OK.
Good shot.
Yeah, no, it's lovely.
It's practice for the wedding, like mingling and circulating.
Right.
I-- I think I did.
OK, OK.
Catie, you're--
You're being crazy.
Why are you being crazy? Just chill.
I'm giving Catie a lot of slack.
And already it feels a little bit like that's being thrown
in my face. - Is this your table?
- Probably. - Sit.
It makes every conversation that we've had pointless.
It makes our relationship feel very unserious.
I thought we were past this, but clearly we're not.
Catie...
Stop.
This is bull.
Babe, you can't eat this.
Bacon is the best type of pork.
Oh, don't be so dramatic.
Hey, hey, ma.
♪ Ah, here come trouble, but you can't look away ♪
♪ Oh, preacher tried to tell you now ♪
♪ Mm, a bat's in his blood and it runs through his veins ♪
- Hi, baby. - Hi.
Oh, my God.
♪ Wanna live and die young ♪
♪ A perfect love, bad boy... ♪
Bye,.
♪ So good, you can't stop ♪
♪ Everybody loves an outlaw ♪
We fight probably daily about being clean.
It's not big fights, but that's majority of what
our fights are about.
His culture, like, they clean every day, all day
long, and I'm just a messy person.
Yeah.
No.
She's lying.
I called around just to find you a bidet.
It's-- it's not common here in America
for toilets to have bidets.
- Yeah, I know. - Yeah...
I mean, you're not wrong, honestly.
Since the white trash bash, life's been, you know,
a little tense with the whole Brandon situation,
but we're with each other, you're here in America,
and why not have water shooting up in your butthole to make
you feel like home, you know?
Yes.
Can you hand me my sandwich, babe?
Thank you.
Babe, babe!
- Babe! - Mm?
You can't eat this.
Oh, don't be so dramatic.
Mm.
How was it? You want another bite?
No, baby.
Yeah, bacon is the best type of pork.
Mm-hmm.
You know, we're really close to where the accident happened.
- Like, we're gonna-- - Really?
Yeah, we're pretty much gonna pass right by it, almost.
You wanna see where it happened?
Yeah.
About a year ago, I was in a major car accident
with my best friend Mikayla, her mom, and Mikayla's son,
and we were hit head-on by a distracted driver.
We were all hospitalized for well over a week.
I unfortunately had to have a bowel surgery where I lost
about three feet of my intestines.
Obviously, Ras couldn't be there physically for me,
and that was hard on me
that he couldn't be there physically, but I think it was
even harder on him.
He struggled a lot mentally, I think, feeling like,
you know, like, how would you feel if the person you love
was in a horrific accident...
and you are stuck? You can't be by their side.
I haven't been here since the accident happened.
Yeah, like, I avoid it.
I-- I don't...
Yeah, I don't wanna come at all.
So this would be... the first time.
- OK? - Yeah.
- Right here. - Here?
Yeah.
- We were coming down this way. - Yeah.
Ooh, just where, like, that truck is right there?
Yeah.
She went, like, right into our lane.
You can see, like, how fast people are going.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, I know.
I know.
It's OK.
I love you.
I don't really care to be here much longer.
- So can we go? - Yeah.
OK.
I love you.
OK, let's go.
Sweetie, come help me figure out what to wear.
What you got?
How do you think about this?
Mm-mm, that's too hot. Sweetie, them long sleeves.
What-- wha's the temperature outside, you gonna pass out.
It look good, but you might need to wear it at,
like, nighttime or when it cool down a little bit.
And that'll kinda match what I'm putting on.
I got, like, a tan dress.
Does Maxwell have a good sense of fashion?
You gonna get me hurt right here on this one.
I still have it ingrained in my head, that blue suit that
you wore to meet me. - No, no, the blue--
- The blue? - Not a suit.
The senator.
You-- you sold it alright. It-- it was just a bad choice.
And the shoes just, like, topped it off.
In the States, we be saying people look country.
- He look real country. - Yeah.
It looks good, but it's-- it's too hot.
Just do the brown pants and then the flip flops.
Yeah, I do.
You never complain about what I got to wear.
A what?
A cha-cha-cha-cha-cha, what?
Close your mouth.
- Go get ready, please. - Don't rush me.
You're gonna wear those sandals, right?
OK.
Hmm?
Nothing, just trying to get my makeup finished up
so we can go.
Did they say anything else to you in private?
Or they haven't said anything yet?
The eye thing, you didn't even try to explain it to them.
Alright.
Come on, you-- you was--
- For real. - You was rushing me, so come on. Let's go.
It was a lot going on at dinner last night.
I feel like they were attacking me, 'cause they were
definitely not hearing me out when I was trying to tell them
about the skincare, you know, how we need to be
watchful about his eye condition.
Just they were not being open-minded.
You know, throughout the whole time, I've suggested all these
things to make Maxwell a better person, to look better,
and he has been on board.
So I was just a little bit shocked that he, you know,
just didn't really have my back, it's very kind of upsetting.
Hello, Ma. Hello, Dad.
- Hey, Ma. - Hey.
How are you?
Good morning, sir. Good morning, ma'am.
Good morning, sir, good morning, good morning, ma'am.
- Oh, to the market. - We wanna go to the market...
Eh?
Bye.
You think she mad at me?
Have you called Nicole about getting her stuff out
of the shed?
I'm enjoying, like, poking at them and starting arguments
because I feel like he's not being truthful.
I've done told her a dozen times.
'Cause you let her walk all over you.
♪ He walks in the bar looking Hollywood hot ♪
♪ Knocking you over like a barrel full of buckshot ♪
- Where are you? - OK, love.
♪ The bottom's up, somebody buy her a drink ♪
♪ Girl, take that booty to the bank ♪
Yeah, it's good.
- Allison. - Hm?
- Tastes good. - Good?
Yeah.
Yeah, it's real good.
Yeah, I like.
We have to go get some groceries.
We're out of bananas and stuff, so we're gonna meet Allison
at the grocery here in a little bit.
Mm-hmm.
But yeah, the smoothie in the morning, I like it a lot.
Babe, I don't drink beer in the morning anyway.
If I was drinking beer...
I can have fun with you, babe. What do you mean no more fun?
It's definitely been an adjustment
since Anabelle's arrived.
I mean, my friends are still, like, texting and calling,
"Hey, the game's on, we're drinking."
But I just tell them, "Hey, I'm watching the game here
and drinking a smoothie Anabelle just made me."
Alrighty.
I mean, I know it's only been a few weeks, but I'm already
feeling like I've lost weight and feel better and...
What are you talking about? No.
Yeah, no, but I-- babe, look.
I mean, look, my stomach.
- It's just, it's-- it's been two weeks. - - My belt.
- It's been only two weeks, OK? - My pants fall down.
No, you sit back here. No, no.
- I'm telling you. - No, still.
- No. - I-- I can feel it.
Alright, well, we're gonna
get batteries for the scale, and I'll prove it.
OK.
So you haven't seen Allison since the nail salon.
I kind of feel bad, 'cause she asked me to go
to lunch, you know, I think like yesterday when I was
too busy at work, but.
Maybe. That's what I'm saying.
She probably thinks that, but it was, I mean,
legitimately, I was working.
It just seems like we've been super busy, you know?
Yeah.
Ever since we did the spa day with the girls,
Anabelle and Allison, they seem like they bonded
a little more.
Their relationship's gotten better.
So I'm pretty happy to see them getting along so well,
'cause it worried me in the beginning that it would
ever work out like this.
There's Allison.
Is Allison?
Yeah, she's right beside us here.
What I didn't expect was Allison and I relationship
to suffer a little bit.
I don't know if Allison's like, you know, resentful since we're
not spending as much time together, but I do know Allison
doesn't like to play second fiddle to anybody.
Oops.
Allison and the kids, should be here.
Oh, yeah, there they are.
Hey, guys. Bubba.
- Cruze. - Cruze.
- Give me a hug. - Cruze.
Look, say hi to Pop-pop.
- Hello, how are you? - Hello, hi, neighbor.
Hey, bud. You got your own buggy?
What are you guys doing?
Since y'all are here, we thought we'd come do
some shopping. Oh, yum-yums.
- Hey, can I get-- - What are y'all shopping for, Anabelle?
- Chicken adobo. - I love chicken adobo.
You're gonna have me over whenever you make that, right?
- Yeah, we're gonna make for everybody. - - Yeah.
Maybe.
We don't know what night yet. We'll let you know, though.
OK.
I think that we need that for babe, that stuff, the...
- Green pepper? - The red pepper.
- Oh, did you get celery? - We have cabbage.
I heard there's a little fight, Dad,
with you and Anabelle.
Something about you cheating or something?
What's that about, Dad?
I mean, y'all talked about it. Why are you bringing it up?
'Cause I haven't heard about it.
Anabelle told me at the spa.
I mean, are you guys doing OK?
That's kind of a big deal,
especially for Anabelle just getting here and...
Yeah, I mean, we're doing really good, actually.
I mean, we got-- we got through all that crap.
Right?
But no, everything's good.
Do you need green onions for your stuff or not?
Yeah, sure.
Have you called Nicole about getting her stuff out
of the shed?
Oh... no.
I haven't-- I haven't had time to deal with that either.
If you're wanting Nicole out of the picture, I'd start...
Well, I hadn't thought about it.
...prioritizing that.
I forgot about it, babe.
My ex-wife, Nicole, was recently moving,
and she reached out, asked for help getting
her a storage unit.
Well, you know, I happen to have a place on my property,
so instead of helping her try to find one or pay for one,
I was like, "You can just use one on my property."
But I thought it would be long gone before Anabelle got here,
and, you know, it just kinda slipped my mind, honestly.
And then when Allison brought it up, I'm like,
"Oh, yeah, it's there, crap," you know, now it looks like
I've been trying to hide something.
I'd tell her, "Come get it, or I'm getting rid of it."
I'll just send her a text.
I said, "Hey, you need to get the stuff out of my building
"today, or I'm gonna be getting rid of it.
Call me."
- You need to actually mean that. - Alright, I mean, I will.
I mean, that's-- I've done told her a dozen times,
so it's not like that that--
'Cause you let her walk all over you.
I mean, obviously, we know how Nicole does sometimes,
and it just sounds like she's...
putting it off.
I mean, she tells me she doesn't have a way to get
it, she doesn't have a truck, doesn't have anybody to help
her, blah, blah, blah, but I mean...
And you listen to all her excuses.
This has always been on her. You protect her for no reason.
Well, I'm still, I mean, I'm gonna run into her.
So I mean, I wanna stay halfway cordial with her.
- Still love Nicole? - Yeah.
No, baby, of course I don't still love Nicole.
There's nothing going on with me and Nicole,
and there's no love.
It's just, I-- I mean, I'm gonna run into her and stuff.
Thank you.
Well, so I need to--
Because she needs to know these things.
Well, you're not gonna do it.
Oh, my God, guys. You saw my apartment.
Like, instead of couch, we have a bed.
Thomas and I, we are super disconnected.
I love him, but I love myself more.
I don't wanna come here and live like a-- a homeless.
One day I will be like, "You know what?
off," and go back to Brazil, really.
♪ The sun rising ♪
♪ In the morning sky ♪
You see this?
What is the memory that you think about when
you see this? Like a spoon?
Bad-- bad investment.
My first thought is this was a bad investment.
♪ Liberate me from the everyday ♪
- Sometimes I cry. - OK.
Because I am manifesting so bad and so with--
so much intention.
You're just saying you're thinking really hard about
stuff and it's coming true?
Yeah, because I'm paying the bills.
So when you're spending money on this stuff, that's less
money we have to pay the bills.
You don't pay bills with $0.90, Thomas.
- So come on, you are being-- - It adds up.
- You've been miserable, really. - It adds up.
It adds up.
I mean, look at this.
There's a whole pile of stuff that's been arriving all week.
What is this stuff?
I gave Paula a credit card, I trusted her to be sensible
with it, and I feel like she's abusing my trust a little bit.
What-- what do you think is in here?
If you had to guess, what do you think this is?
I think it... um, I don't remember.
Jesus... are you kidding me?
Did you really buy this?
This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever seen.
A tiny couch? Why are you smiling?
Oh, my God. It's so beautiful.
If we get to keep this couch instead of getting
a real couch, I'll be happy.
That's the deal I'll make for this.
No.
Oh, my God, Thomas. Look at that.
How much money did you spend on this?
- It was on-- on clearance. - It was not on clearance.
You're lying to me.
...because it's-- it-- it is not about money.
I think he's don't wanna commit with this...
with me. I don't know.
Like, I don't feel like I'm welcome.
Any money that you can save,
I'll consider buying maybe a piece of furniture.
- Tomilho. - Mm?
I'm leaving, I'm going to the neighbor's house, OK?
Tell them I said hi.
OK, ciao.
I have two neighbors, Felix and Anderson.
The first time that I met them, the doorman from my building
said, "Hey, there's another Brazilian living here."
And they are so adorable, and we became friends,
and we are building a very cool friendship.
- Surprise! - Hello!
- Hi, amor. - Hi, how are you? Nice seeing you.
I'm fine. How about you?
Welcome. Everything good.
Wow, it smells so good here. What you guys are doing?
- Oh, really? - Yes.
Thank you. Thank you.
Awesome.
- Virgo is, you know. - Yes.
Virgo house, but it doesn't work with me because Thomas is
also Virgo. - He is?
- Yeah. - He is, yeah.
Oh, my goodness.
Come in.
- Oh, my God, guys. It's so nice here. - Yeah, thank you.
Thank you. Thank you.
Wow, it's amazing, guys, my God.
You saw my apartment.
Like, instead of couch, we have a bed.
And also, instead of table like this, a dinner table,
we have a camping table that he bought.
- Camping table? - Yeah!
And we eat sitting in a yoga blocks.
It's, like, very embarrassing, the position.
I am like this and, you know, eating in a tiny table.
So see something like this. I love it.
- I'm sorry to vent. - No, it's fine.
- You're fine. - You guys are so nice to me because, you know, it's hard
to process the feeling.
In Brazil, I worked so hard, and I don't wanna come here
and live like a homeless, you know?
It's-- it looks like I'm camping
inside my old apartment.
Got it.
OK.
I was married before, many, many years ago.
I got divorced because I know what I want in my life
and mainly I know what I don't want.
Thomas and I, we are super disconnected.
I love him, but I love myself more and I don't need to be
begging for something so usual and normal for me.
I don't wanna live, like, a refugee inside
my own apartment.
If he don't be more open to talk about this and make any
progress, one day I will be, like, pissed, and I'll say,
"OK, you know what? off."
And go back to Brazil, really.
- Is it? - Mm-hmm.
The first time I met them, like, I'm calling them
"Mom" and "Dad."
And so why didn't he tell me to greet them a certain way
the first time?
Now, this is the second time we're hanging out, and now all
of a sudden there's something new.
That's crazy to me. I've seen you.
I've already spoken, I'm like, "Enough-- enough already."
Sweetie, that's not true.
- Yes. - That's not biblical.
Had the visa got approved, you would have already been
in the US and you wouldn't have been worried
how they felt, correct?
All of a sudden, you're worried.
Right, but--
They should have been worried about that the first time
I came and the second time I came, not the third.
Say what now?
You oughta be ashamed of yourself.
That you make decisions for yourself.
No, you don't.
Sweetie, she would only say "No" if it was a reason.
Like being abusive or cheating.
No, they might just have a misunderstanding.
I don't know. Just a misunderstanding.
Sweetie, quit yelling in my ear.
Oh, OK. You keep on.
This is absolutely not the man I fell in love with.
Never has Maxwell raised his voice at me like this.
And it's very disappointing that not only is he questioning
the relationship, but to me, it's as if he's
questioning God, like, our whole relationship is built on God.
So the fact that he's let his family come in and caused him
to waiver in what he believes, it's very hurtful.
And it really never crossed my mind
that I could be going home single.
♪ Stuck in a daze, drifting away ♪
♪ From all of the things I wanted to say ♪
♪ It's hard to think but this is the reality ♪
♪ Now ♪
Yeah.
Yeah, I know. Me too.
I'm glad we're all still here.
No.
Come on.
Bidet.
Yeah, bidet.
We'll see what the price is and everything and see how,
you know, what we're gonna be looking at.
Uh...
Tell me!
I know. I know it's hard for you.
Yeah.
I just, you know, we have a wedding coming up.
I think, you know, sometimes I just get really stressed out
about money, and you know that.
Ras doesn't really have any experience living on his own,
and paying a mortgage because, in his culture, it's normal
to still be living at home, you know, well in your 20s.
- OK, ready? - Yeah.
You know, I really don't think he understands the amount
of money I pay every month to keep a roof over our heads.
And now I have an extra mouth to feed
and an extra butthole to clean.
Ooh.
- Wow. - Oh, my God.
We can't afford anything in here.
- Wow, very fancy. - I like.
Yeah.
- Hi. - Hi.
- Good morning. - Good morning.
- I'm Heather. - Mallorie, nice to meet you.
- Very nice to meet you. - Rasit.
- Hi, nice to meet you, Rasit. - Nice to meet you, too.
- So what are you guys in for? - He's from Turkey, and...
- Uh, nice. - Everyone in Turkey has a bidet.
- Has a bidet. - They do, they do, yeah.
- Yeah, OK. - So yeah, so that's what we're looking for.
Alright, so we have a few different options that we can
show you for you guys.
- This one is fantastic. - OK, perfect.
So we can just kind of
show you a little features about it.
- OK. - - First of all, it's got a very nice warm seat
for your bum. - Oh, my God.
- It has a rear wash. - OK.
It has a front wash, females.
Got it, oh, wow.
You can feel it's got a pretty powerful...
- Oh! - Right?
If we have some stubborn things that we need to take care of,
- we've got a little pulsating action going on. - - Yes, this is--
- Right? - Wow.
I like, this is how much?
So this one's gonna run about $1,100.
That's a lot, wow.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
If, you know, price might be
- a little part of the equation... - Yeah, yeah.
...this one is going to be in that $800 price range.
It's gonna do its thing.
Ah.
Stop, behave!
- Hey, no judging here, no judging here. - Behave.
We have a working one in our showroom that I want you
to use before you leave, OK? - OK, OK.
Yes, yes. Would you like to try it?
- Yeah, I'd love to try it. - OK.
Oh, my God!
And I'll let you go in and do the honors.
Yeah.
Oh, my God!
Yeah.
Does it feel good?
- You want more? - Give me, give me more.
Oh!
Your golden throne opens up as you walk in.
Mm-hmm.
Oh, what?
- Come on. - Alright.
You don't need to be sitting on the toilet all day long.
Lord have mercy.
It's expensive, and let's be realistic.
His ass ain't worth that much money.
You don't need it.
You want it. There's a difference.
OK.
Maybe we need to also look at, like, cheaper ones.
Do we really need something so fancy?
- Yes, baby. - It's not a necessity, though.
- No, baby. - - You can use toilet paper.
- I want. - I know you want.
But you're not the one paying for it.
$800 is a lot of money.
- I need you to understand that this is not a priority. - Come on.
But...
- Really. - No, I'm not.
I did get an insurance settlement
from the car accident.
It's not like I'm some multimillionaire.
I wish.
But in my mind, that money doesn't exist.
That money is in a brokerage account
that I can barely access for a reason.
Because if I would have easy access to that money,
I would spend it.
Honestly.
Any-- any normal person would.
And it really irritates me and gets under my skin that
he thinks this is just money that we can blow
on stupid.
I'm not touching that money unless there's an emergency.
We don't have easy access to it.
Watch that finger.
I'm not paying $800
for something that my hand can do.
That's my money, and I want to be able to build a future
for myself on it.
And if he's in that future, then great.
But if things don't work out between us,
I don't wanna be broke with no money...
and no man. Like, damn.
It's a bidet.
I hate to be the one to tell you,
but the last four years,
like, y'all have been engaged,
and they've also been hanging out.
I've heard him, like, tell her, like, he-- he loves her.
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
♪ Well, you can take me just where you want to ♪
♪ Down to the coast or somewhere, I don't know ♪
Thomas!
♪ I just wanna go with you somewhere ♪
♪ Don't care where, I just wanna be there ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
♪ I just wanna, just wanna be there ♪
Sure.
Whew, that was a lot, I love it.
You want some water? You wanna get ice cream?
Very vegan.
♪ Take me down to the ocean ♪
♪ Take me anywhere the sun shines ♪
♪ I just wanna, just wanna be there ♪
Mm-hmm.
I'm just licking.
Mm.
Since the argument with Thomas a few days ago, we had a little
bit of progress.
He gave me a little bit closet, but I still have the feeling
that I'm a guest in his life because everything for Thomas
is his way or no way.
And this is scary.
I just arrived here, and I just wanna figure out my life.
We got a lot of stuff to figure out now that
we're living under the same roof.
I 100% wanna support you, but we gotta be a team.
OK...
Mm-hmm?
I don't really get the sense that Paula really appreciates
everything that I've done.
First of all, I got her here, and that's not just
buying a flight.
That's doing the paperwork and all the fees that come
along with it.
I got her a credit card.
I've already done a lot,
and none of it just seems to be enough.
I don't wanna fight. I don't wanna--
Yeah, but you have way more stuff in Brazil.
I know you have five closets in Brazil, and you use
every single one of them. - You always wanna--
And when I visited you, you gave me five hangers.
- Because-- - You gave me five hangers, and you gave me one drawer.
Yeah, but-- but you have--
You have-- those closets are full.
OK, what is your point?
My point is that your closets in Brazil are full,
and your closet here is still empty.
When it's full, we'll talk about it.
Fill it up first.
I-- I'm just saying, fill up the closet.
If you have that much stuff, let me see it full.
Wait, whoa, whoa, OK, hold on a second, go back to Brazil?
- Stop. - Come on, come on.
- One second, real quick. - You always try--
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Allison seemed a little bit upset.
Why are you upset?
- Yes. - OK.
Babe, I don't know.
- Huh? - - I-- I don't know what's in here,
but I'll tell you in just a second.
Whoops.
OK.
I assume so.
Or one of her kids, babe. I don't know.
I'll call her in a little bit. I told you.
OK, I'll go out here and call her, and I'll be right back.
I'll see if she'll answer.
Hello?
I was wanting you to get this stuff out of this building.
What about the table and stuff?
Alright, well, I'll get it taken care of.
Alright, bye.
I got a hold of her.
So the couch, I'm just gonna take a few pictures from it,
upload them, put it on the internet,
and I'm gonna try sell it.
No, I'll send it to her through
Cash App or something.
I mean, I'm getting what you want done.
You want that empty. And I mean, helping her...
Well, if you call it helping, it's getting...
I will-- I'll deal with it.
I'll get it taken care of, OK?
Just calm down.
- Hey, Allison? - Oh, hey, yes, what you doing?
Yeah, sure.
Everything OK?
Yeah.
I hate to be the one to tell you, but the last four years,
like, y'all have been engaged and they've also been
hanging out, you know?
Mm-hmm.
I mean, I know, like, she goes out on the boat
with him sometimes and they text sometimes, and I mean,
he invites her to the bar sometimes.
Yeah, it's because he would turn the camera to what
- he wanted you to see. - Oh, mm-hmm.
I'd even ask my dad.
I'd be like, "What are you doing, you have a fiancée,
like, why are you doing that?"
As much as I hate the fact that she's taking my dad away
from me, I do feel bad for Anabelle.
So I'm telling her the entire truth
'cause she deserves the truth.
...but it was like living double lives.
Like, you're engaged in the Philippines,
but you're acting single in America.
If I figured out that I was being lied to by a man that had
been engaged to me for four years, yeah, see ya.
I haven't seen them actually kiss or hold hands or anything,
but he would talk about her body and smack her butt.
I've heard him, like, tell her, like, he-- he loves her.
Yeah, I mean, he says, "I love you,"
like, "I'll always love you."
Yeah, at some point, you've gotta put your foot down.
What I find difficult is
figuring out what's OCD and what's...
her being dramatic, 'cause sometimes
they look similar.
Catie does need tough love.
He's just kind of letting Catie roll over him.
At-- at some point, he does need
to stick up for himself.
Catie!
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
I'm excited to show you New York, because, like,
even the drive-in is very cool, 'cause you'll
see the skylight.
Like, not, you know, like, the, the...
The way?
No, like, all the buildings and stuff.
It's gonna be really cool for you.
♪ Hey ♪
♪ You ♪
- First road trip together? - Yes.
Good.
Want a-- want a Graham cracker?
Uh, no. I don't think so.
Have you ever had a Graham cracker?
- No? - No, no, sounds good.
- Let me try. - No.
Now, no?
Well, I'm-- I'm eating this one, take one of these.
OK.
- Mm, this is very good. - Mm-hmm.
Like, you're gonna be off on your own when I'm working.
- So like, do you have money? - - Well--
Um...
Did you put it in your wallet?
- You don't have a wallet? - No.
So what do you keep all your things in?
Um...
Do you have a credit card, at least?
Like, how are you gonna pay for things
when I'm not with you?
You don't have any cash!
You forgot it at home.
You have to think about these things, my love.
What the hell are you thinking?
How would you expect to be in a big city all alone
with no money, no identification?
I'm at work all day.
I'm not able to, like, be there to help you.
I don't think Edward is a planner.
I think he kinda just flies by the seat of his pants.
And what's most concerning for me is that
I don't want to always have to worry
"Is Edward prepared for this scenario?
Is Edward prepared for this trip?"
You know, it's annoying to me,
and I don't wanna have another child.
I feel really bad about my behavior over the last couple
of days because I feel like I've been kind of cold
to you and like, you don't really deserve that.
You're in a new country, you're experiencing new things.
But these last few days have not been easy for me.
I think one of the challenges with us is that we just live
very, very, very different lifestyles in every aspect. - Yeah.
You've really just seen me in Pennsylvania
dealing with the children,
which is essentially a full-time job.
But, like, in New York, I'm also running a company.
...but I think the biggest thing
that I'm hoping that you can do
is really figure out how to be self-sufficient.
You know? Like, I-- I just--
I don't have...
the bandwidth to-- to take on one more thing
to take care of, you know?
- Like... - Say what you want.
I've been really open with you, so you need to be open
with me, too.
- All the time. - OK, that-- I'm gonna stop you.
I didn't choose to get married to Michael and then
get divorced-- that was my-- not my intention.
The way that I had thought my life was gonna be was that
I would have a complete family with two parents, two incomes.
And when we got divorced, like my whole life flipped
upside down, and I had to, like, make sacrifices and I chose
to have kids, yes.
And I will never regret that decision and, like,
the responsibility of the kids I'm never gonna complain about.
But I'm not--
You-- but you said, like, "You chose this life."
I get that, but these last couple days,
I do feel a little bit, like...
Overwhelmed, because I'm trying to settle in and trying
to figure out how the I'm gonna do everything
that I do now and take on more expenses and another person
to care for in my life.
not-- not--
I don't think that Edward understands what my frustration
is and how much pressure is on my shoulders.
I've been upfront and honest with him, and his response has
kinda just been, "OK, well, we'll figure it out."
But that is not an appropriate response to me telling him that
I don't know if this arrangement is gonna work out.
If Edward doesn't start taking my concerns seriously,
I'm gonna really start...
wondering if I'm making the right decision.
It's like I have to make a decision if this is the right
path for me, and this is a big leap of faith.
Ashia is 38, and she could have been married years ago.
Yeah, yeah.
Sweetie, get up out this car.
Quit using the word "Behave."
I'm not a child.
No, no, you treat me like a child.
Yeah.
Ah.
That's pretty. That's nice.
- Which is pretty? - That green.
- I like that color. - That green?
- Mm-hmm. - Let's see.
I feel like things are a little bit tense right now
between me and Maxwell.
So I'm super excited to go to the market.
I just think this is gonna be a great opportunity for us
to get away from everybody.
And then I can get a little retail therapy,
'cause I love to shop.
And I definitely want, like, a few little
African outfits, you know.
And I've never been to the market in Africa.
Maxwell does not like shopping.
So it's kinda, like, a little treat, I guess,
because ordinarily he-- he wants no part
of those markets.
Alright now.
You like it?
Yeah.
- 25? - Yeah.
I feel like in the US, like, the price is the price.
Like, I wouldn't be asking for a discount, I guess,
unless something is damaged.
To me, like, I'm looking at this-- this top,
and it's very intricate. It's a really nice garment.
So like, I'm almost ashamed that he's convincing
these people to lower this price.
But, you know, I'm-- I'm kinda liking
how Maxwell going back and forth,
trying to give me what I want,
give me these good prices.
That look a little sexy on him.
Sweetie, try to get something for your mom.
What about a purse? Would she like a purse?
OK.
Alright.
I like that.
You don't have one in the back?
- Thank you. - Thank you.
Thank you.
OK.
Thank you.
It was good.
Yeah, it was good.
She just want his skin smoother, that's all.
She just want his skin to look better.
- Yes, that's right. - Yeah.
Ha-wa-wa-wa-wa.
I don't think Ashia, just because she make money,
I don't think that she'll try to push Maxwell around.
- I don't think she'll do that to him. - OK, OK, OK.
Because to me, she could have found someone that really have
money if she wanted it. - OK.
Ashia is 38, and she could have been married years ago.
Is it a problem if a person is too old?
- What is too old to get married? - Yeah, yeah, it's, yeah...
Yeah.
No, Catie.
I am done with this bull.
I'm not gonna get married if I don't know that
her head's in the right space.
Josh.
Hey, there.
Mm-hmm, alright, how are you feeling, buddy?
Just a bit surprised, maybe a little
bit disappointed. I don't know.
What's your take on what she's doing right now?
I think it-- it-- it's up,
but it's just complicated.
I think that...
I'm putting it on myself to be patient and tolerant,
trusting that underneath all the rubbish
and all the silliness, Catie is actually the person
I think she is.
You-- in my head, you know, I try to wrap around,
like, what it would be like to be in your position.
And... I'd be furious.
I'd be yanking her out of the bar.
I'd be like, "No, we're going home.
We're gonna have a talk right now."
I mean, I am looking for reasons to excuse her
because otherwise, what-- what have I done?
Like, I've come here for-- for what?
I-- I know that you're-- you're trying to be accepting,
but, like, it's OK to be mad.
What I find difficult is
figuring out what's OCD and what's...
her being dramatic, 'cause sometimes
- they look similar. - Yeah, OK.
You know, there-- there's just times
where I worry about you, right?
When it comes to how Catie's acting on a night like tonight,
you know, you-- you deserve to be respected as an individual
and more as her fiancé. Like, you guys are engaged.
You guys are planning on being married.
Like, you know, at some point, you gotta put your foot down.
Josh is...
processing the whole situation
in a way that I-- I can't fully comprehend.
I think it's because he's more worried
about the blowback from expressing himself than--
than the act of doing it.
I don't know, there's just something about her,
just, like, she's so good at winning people's hearts,
- despite what she does. - Yeah.
And what-- that's kind of the issue, right?
Is she has that charm,
and if-- if you're always rolling over...
she might just, like, continue going on with,
you know, how she's living just...
because she thinks that's acceptable, right?
What does that say about your relationship as a whole
if you're married and she's,
you know, still doing that a year from now?
Yeah, I think you're right.
Like, get it done before you're married, right?
Catie does need tough love. She needs a firm hand.
She needs, you know, I-- I think Josh, to be a manly man,
he's just kind of letting Catie roll over him.
At-- at some point,
he does need to stick up for himself.
- What are you doing? - - No, oh, wait, no, I'm--
No, Catie.
No, uh-uh.
You have a fiancé.
I think Catie is a bit too drunk now.
I think it might be time to call it.
This is... she's tonguing my palm.
Come on, let's go home, babe.
I am done with this bull.
This-- this is not the right start for...
any sort of a marriage that I want a part of.
I need to have a conversation with Catie and say
I'm not gonna get married...
if I don't know that her head's in the right space.
You're in a committed relationship, Catie.
Next time on "90 Day Fiancé."
It's not that hard to get around New York, but you have
to pay attention.
♪ Only in New York ♪
Wow.
I-- I don't know what you want from me.
Just, like, we'll go shopping.
That's fine. Like, I don't care.
It is not about go shopping.
I'm hurt.
I'm not asking for a furniture, I'm asking for a knowledge...
I'm struggling.
I want you to want me 100% with no doubt.
Mm-hmm.
You know I'm not disrespecting your family.
You're not disrespecting...
Hush.
It's nice to meet you.
If I was 21 years old, you would have never been here.
I wanted to just go over some of the bills.
Yeah, this is just from this month.
The money issue is a big thing in our relationship,
and in the future, it could get even worse,
and-- and that terrifies me.
Just to protect myself, do you know what a prenup is?
OK, whatever, enjoy your shop.