1 00:00:08,660 --> 00:00:10,053 [phone ringing] 2 00:00:10,097 --> 00:00:11,315 Hey, Christy, what's up? 3 00:00:11,359 --> 00:00:13,448 Hey, Mom, I'm going to the smoothie place 4 00:00:13,491 --> 00:00:15,493 because I've had a day that requires a smoothie. 5 00:00:15,537 --> 00:00:16,712 Want one? 6 00:00:16,755 --> 00:00:18,453 Yeah. But I bet my day was worse. 7 00:00:18,496 --> 00:00:21,586 Not possible. My boss gave me a contract to proof 8 00:00:21,630 --> 00:00:24,894 and I dropped it in a toilet. 9 00:00:25,938 --> 00:00:29,464 Post-flush, but... still. 10 00:00:29,507 --> 00:00:31,379 Well, I had a three-hour fight with my husband 11 00:00:31,422 --> 00:00:35,122 with no angry silences, so it's really like a six-hour fight. 12 00:00:35,165 --> 00:00:37,167 Is this a new fight or an extension 13 00:00:37,211 --> 00:00:39,169 of the one you were having last night? 14 00:00:39,213 --> 00:00:41,911 New one, but with subtle echoes of the last one. 15 00:00:41,954 --> 00:00:43,478 Same theme: he doesn't listen to me. 16 00:00:43,521 --> 00:00:45,132 I literally feel like a ghost. 17 00:00:45,175 --> 00:00:48,570 Oh, my God. What if you are a ghost? 18 00:00:48,613 --> 00:00:50,963 What if you and I had this difficult relationship 19 00:00:51,007 --> 00:00:52,356 and I thought we had worked it all out, 20 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,054 but it was just your ghost? 21 00:00:54,097 --> 00:00:57,231 Bam. Nobody sees that coming. 22 00:00:57,274 --> 00:00:59,233 I asked him to meet me for lunch and he said "okay," 23 00:00:59,276 --> 00:01:00,669 but then he went to the gym. 24 00:01:00,712 --> 00:01:02,366 I spent a half an hour sitting on a hard bench 25 00:01:02,410 --> 00:01:04,325 reading the Sonoma Acorn. 26 00:01:04,368 --> 00:01:06,588 By the way, Barbara Feldman Real Estate 27 00:01:06,631 --> 00:01:09,330 is going out of business. End of an era. 28 00:01:11,810 --> 00:01:15,118 Hey, Mom, can we have this conversation over a couple 29 00:01:15,162 --> 00:01:18,295 of smoothies that are really just fruity milkshakes? 30 00:01:19,514 --> 00:01:21,255 Yeah, but put a vitamin boost in mine 31 00:01:21,298 --> 00:01:22,778 so I think it's healthy. 32 00:01:22,821 --> 00:01:24,780 Okay, you got...[crunch] 33 00:01:24,823 --> 00:01:26,390 Oh, no. Oh, no. 34 00:01:26,434 --> 00:01:27,826 Oh, no, oh, no, oh, no. 35 00:01:27,870 --> 00:01:29,045 What's wrong? 36 00:01:29,089 --> 00:01:30,394 Smoothies are canceled. 37 00:01:40,317 --> 00:01:42,319 [mumbling softly] 38 00:02:02,122 --> 00:02:03,297 [tires screech] 39 00:02:19,356 --> 00:02:21,358 ♪ 40 00:02:31,803 --> 00:02:33,370 [coughs] 41 00:02:35,503 --> 00:02:37,853 [phone rings] 42 00:02:37,896 --> 00:02:39,071 Hi, babe. 43 00:02:39,115 --> 00:02:40,247 ADAM: Hey, where are you? 44 00:02:40,290 --> 00:02:41,987 I thought we'd take Gus to the park. 45 00:02:42,031 --> 00:02:43,772 Honey, it's Tuesday at 10:00. 46 00:02:43,815 --> 00:02:45,208 Oh, yeah, meeting. 47 00:02:45,252 --> 00:02:47,384 Hi, alcoholics!Nope. 48 00:02:47,428 --> 00:02:49,169 Not a meeting. What am I thinking? 49 00:02:49,212 --> 00:02:51,214 Uh, you're at coffee with the ladies. Uh... 50 00:02:51,258 --> 00:02:53,216 Hi, ladies!I'm at therapy, 51 00:02:53,260 --> 00:02:55,262 which you knew because an hour ago when you said, 52 00:02:55,305 --> 00:02:57,307 "What you got going on today?" I said... 53 00:02:57,351 --> 00:02:58,569 You said therapy. I listen. 54 00:02:58,613 --> 00:03:01,616 Hi, Trevor. It's not true. I'm a great guy. 55 00:03:03,052 --> 00:03:04,184 We'll discuss this later, 56 00:03:04,227 --> 00:03:06,229 once Trevor tells me how I feel. 57 00:03:06,273 --> 00:03:07,752 I don't tell you how you feel. 58 00:03:07,796 --> 00:03:09,319 Which is another way you're letting me down. 59 00:03:12,148 --> 00:03:15,891 Anyway, I got so irritated the other night, and-- 60 00:03:15,934 --> 00:03:19,111 I'm not proud of this-- I threw a potato at him. 61 00:03:20,330 --> 00:03:23,551 A fingerling. I'm not an animal. 62 00:03:23,594 --> 00:03:25,335 Would you say the level of conflict in your marriage 63 00:03:25,379 --> 00:03:26,902 has escalated recently? 64 00:03:26,945 --> 00:03:28,686 Well, Adam and I are newlyweds. 65 00:03:28,730 --> 00:03:30,297 You know what they say. 66 00:03:30,340 --> 00:03:32,212 What do they say? "It's been three months, 67 00:03:32,255 --> 00:03:35,345 let loose the tiny potatoes"? 68 00:03:35,389 --> 00:03:38,435 You seem edgy. Everything all right? 69 00:03:38,479 --> 00:03:39,915 We're not here to talk about me. 70 00:03:39,958 --> 00:03:42,657 That is the dumbest rule. You and I are friends. 71 00:03:42,700 --> 00:03:44,528 We are not friends. 72 00:03:44,572 --> 00:03:47,749 We have been hanging out every Tuesday for eight months. 73 00:03:47,792 --> 00:03:50,404 We are not hanging out. 74 00:03:50,447 --> 00:03:52,667 I am helping you navigate your life. 75 00:03:52,710 --> 00:03:55,539 Exactly. That's what friends do, Trev. 76 00:03:55,583 --> 00:03:58,107 Oh, come on, tell me one random thing about yourself. 77 00:03:58,150 --> 00:04:00,152 Like, that's not your real nose, right? 78 00:04:01,806 --> 00:04:04,766 I will not share anything about my personal life with you. 79 00:04:04,809 --> 00:04:05,941 What if I...No. 80 00:04:05,984 --> 00:04:07,334 You may not guess things and then try 81 00:04:07,377 --> 00:04:09,640 and read my facial expressions. 82 00:04:09,684 --> 00:04:12,643 Sure, 'cause your new nose is unreadable. 83 00:04:15,472 --> 00:04:17,082 Well, our time's almost up 84 00:04:17,126 --> 00:04:18,649 and there's something I'd like to talk to you about. 85 00:04:18,693 --> 00:04:20,651 Is it the health issues you're having? 86 00:04:22,218 --> 00:04:23,959 I've been seeing you pro bono, 87 00:04:24,002 --> 00:04:27,049 and I think it's time we discuss you paying a modest fee. 88 00:04:27,092 --> 00:04:28,398 Aha. Financial problems. 89 00:04:28,442 --> 00:04:30,879 Yes, Bonnie, I'm broke. 90 00:04:30,922 --> 00:04:34,274 That's why I'm asking you for $35 a week. 91 00:04:35,449 --> 00:04:38,278 $25, and you can't spend it on lattes. 92 00:04:38,321 --> 00:04:41,455 $35, and I can spend it on whatever I want. 93 00:04:41,498 --> 00:04:43,457 Fine, but you have to tell me how you spend it. 94 00:04:43,500 --> 00:04:44,458 I will not. 95 00:04:51,334 --> 00:04:53,293 Deal. 96 00:04:53,336 --> 00:04:55,382 Sorry. I had to play hardball. 97 00:04:58,646 --> 00:05:00,474 Hypothetical question. 98 00:05:00,517 --> 00:05:04,173 If you hit a parked car and there's no damage, 99 00:05:04,216 --> 00:05:05,348 would you leave a note? 100 00:05:05,392 --> 00:05:07,045 You wouldn't, right? You wouldn't. 101 00:05:08,743 --> 00:05:09,874 Well, what would it say-- 102 00:05:09,918 --> 00:05:12,355 "Sorry for doing nothing to your car"? 103 00:05:12,399 --> 00:05:13,574 Agreed. 104 00:05:13,617 --> 00:05:15,358 [chuckles] 105 00:05:15,402 --> 00:05:18,361 Completely unrelated hypothetical question. 106 00:05:18,405 --> 00:05:21,321 Does this look like damage to you? 107 00:05:22,626 --> 00:05:25,237 I don't think you know what "hypothetical" means. 108 00:05:25,281 --> 00:05:28,458 Yeah, or "damage," because this bumper 109 00:05:28,502 --> 00:05:30,591 has a scuff, a dent and a scrape. 110 00:05:30,634 --> 00:05:33,420 She couldn't have done it, she was with me the whole time. 111 00:05:35,857 --> 00:05:38,381 Tammy, I don't need an alibi. 112 00:05:38,425 --> 00:05:39,948 Trust me, you do. 113 00:05:39,991 --> 00:05:42,254 We were watching Dirty Dancing. It's your favorite movie. 114 00:05:42,298 --> 00:05:45,519 I'd never seen it before, but I was utterly charmed. 115 00:05:45,562 --> 00:05:48,086 We ordered medium cheese pizzas and then talked about 116 00:05:48,130 --> 00:05:51,568 how amazing it must have been to be Jewish in the '60s. 117 00:05:51,612 --> 00:05:53,353 I'll more be more convincing tomorrow 118 00:05:53,396 --> 00:05:55,616 'cause almost all of that happened to me yesterday. 119 00:05:55,659 --> 00:05:57,487 So you didn't leave a note? 120 00:05:57,531 --> 00:05:58,401 I did leave a note. 121 00:05:58,445 --> 00:06:00,229 Oh, good. 122 00:06:01,273 --> 00:06:02,579 Then I drove back and took it. 123 00:06:02,623 --> 00:06:04,189 [all groaning] 124 00:06:04,233 --> 00:06:07,584 Classic Plunkett move. We almost do the right thing. 125 00:06:07,628 --> 00:06:09,412 I just panicked. 126 00:06:09,456 --> 00:06:11,458 But now I feel awful. 127 00:06:11,501 --> 00:06:13,285 I've been having nightmares. 128 00:06:13,329 --> 00:06:14,417 Last night I dreamt 129 00:06:14,461 --> 00:06:17,986 I backed into the car and it exploded. 130 00:06:18,029 --> 00:06:20,597 Then it turned out George Clooney was inside 131 00:06:20,641 --> 00:06:24,166 and we ended up making out. 132 00:06:25,733 --> 00:06:29,693 And I felt bad, because I respect his wife so much. 133 00:06:32,566 --> 00:06:34,568 Did you leave her a note? 134 00:06:36,439 --> 00:06:39,486 Sweetie, I think you need to make amends to these people. 135 00:06:39,529 --> 00:06:42,314 Oh, I really wish I could, 136 00:06:42,358 --> 00:06:46,188 but there's just no way to track them down, so.... 137 00:06:46,231 --> 00:06:49,060 move on, live my life. 138 00:06:50,540 --> 00:06:53,195 Well, there was a license plate in that little picture you took. 139 00:06:53,238 --> 00:06:55,327 I mean, I could ask Andy to abuse his access, 140 00:06:55,371 --> 00:06:57,504 run the numbers and get you an address. 141 00:06:57,547 --> 00:06:59,114 It's against the rules, but he likes 142 00:06:59,157 --> 00:07:01,246 showing off policey stuff for me. 143 00:07:05,642 --> 00:07:08,819 Thanks Jill. Super helpful. 144 00:07:08,863 --> 00:07:10,604 Okay. Should we get the check? 145 00:07:10,647 --> 00:07:12,257 I'm having marital problems. 146 00:07:12,301 --> 00:07:14,608 I guess not. 147 00:07:14,651 --> 00:07:16,958 Do you guys think Adam and I fight too much? 148 00:07:17,001 --> 00:07:19,003 Oh, yeah, way too much. Yeah.It's out of control. 149 00:07:19,047 --> 00:07:20,570 Hey. I'm sorry. Only interested in hearing 150 00:07:20,614 --> 00:07:22,093 from people who've been married. 151 00:07:22,137 --> 00:07:23,617 I've been married. 152 00:07:23,660 --> 00:07:25,836 ALL: What? 153 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,578 I was 22. A guy promised me $3,000 154 00:07:28,622 --> 00:07:30,841 to marry him for a green card, so I did. 155 00:07:32,364 --> 00:07:35,150 Next morning I found out he was broke and from Iowa. 156 00:07:36,368 --> 00:07:37,848 But how often did you fight? 157 00:07:37,892 --> 00:07:39,894 Just the once. 158 00:07:47,075 --> 00:07:48,250 Hello. 159 00:07:48,293 --> 00:07:50,252 Hi. Are you George Huang? 160 00:07:50,295 --> 00:07:51,862 No, that's my dad. 161 00:07:51,906 --> 00:07:53,298 Is he here? 162 00:07:53,342 --> 00:07:55,518 I accidentally hit his car a few days ago 163 00:07:55,562 --> 00:07:57,520 and wanted to apologize. 164 00:07:57,564 --> 00:07:59,130 He probably didn't even notice. 165 00:07:59,174 --> 00:08:01,524 Oh, he definitely noticed. 166 00:08:01,568 --> 00:08:03,526 It's all he's talked about for the last two days. 167 00:08:03,570 --> 00:08:06,486 If I were you, I'd run. 168 00:08:06,529 --> 00:08:07,661 GEORGE: Who is it? 169 00:08:07,704 --> 00:08:09,967 Don't buy anything. 170 00:08:10,011 --> 00:08:13,536 Hi. Uh, I'm the one who hit your car. 171 00:08:13,580 --> 00:08:16,539 Betty, it's the criminal who hit our car. 172 00:08:16,583 --> 00:08:19,455 BETTY: What kind of person doesn't leave a note? 173 00:08:19,499 --> 00:08:20,978 Betty, I did leave a note. 174 00:08:21,022 --> 00:08:23,764 Then I went back and took it. 175 00:08:23,807 --> 00:08:25,983 Why do I keep telling people that? 176 00:08:26,027 --> 00:08:28,029 [speaking Mandarin] 177 00:08:31,423 --> 00:08:33,556 Are you gonna translate for me? 178 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,384 I don't think you want me to. 179 00:08:37,647 --> 00:08:40,258 Like, every little problem Adam and I have 180 00:08:40,302 --> 00:08:41,608 turns into a fight. 181 00:08:41,651 --> 00:08:43,653 Maybe it's me. 182 00:08:43,697 --> 00:08:46,526 Maybe I'm too broken to be in a partnership with someone. 183 00:08:49,093 --> 00:08:52,053 Hey, for 35 bucks, I expect words. 184 00:08:52,096 --> 00:08:53,489 Shrink it up. 185 00:08:53,533 --> 00:08:54,795 What if I were to give you some tools 186 00:08:54,838 --> 00:08:56,274 to communicate with Adam better? 187 00:08:56,318 --> 00:08:58,363 Well, now we're talking. That sounds like value. 188 00:08:58,407 --> 00:08:59,582 Lay 'em on me. 189 00:08:59,626 --> 00:09:01,062 What I would suggest 190 00:09:01,105 --> 00:09:04,152 is when things get heated, uh, try some physical contact. 191 00:09:04,195 --> 00:09:06,023 You want me to hit him? 192 00:09:08,330 --> 00:09:11,899 I mean, you know, granted, he won't see it coming. 193 00:09:11,942 --> 00:09:14,902 I want you to give him a gentle touch in order to maintain 194 00:09:14,945 --> 00:09:16,904 a loving connection during conflict. 195 00:09:16,947 --> 00:09:20,342 In our case, gentle touch frequently leads to sex. 196 00:09:20,385 --> 00:09:22,300 But maybe that's what you're going for. 197 00:09:22,344 --> 00:09:24,955 Sex is not a resolution for conflict. 198 00:09:24,999 --> 00:09:27,001 Then you're not doing it right. 199 00:09:32,659 --> 00:09:36,097 Also, we've noticed you have some impulse control issues. 200 00:09:36,140 --> 00:09:38,839 What if you and Adam try to count to two 201 00:09:38,882 --> 00:09:41,145 before saying anything during an argument? 202 00:09:41,189 --> 00:09:43,626 That's stupid. 203 00:09:43,670 --> 00:09:45,628 Now, if you had counted to two just then, 204 00:09:45,672 --> 00:09:48,675 you might've said something more constructive. 205 00:09:48,718 --> 00:09:50,677 One, two. 206 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,070 Nope, still stupid. 207 00:09:54,463 --> 00:09:56,508 Okay. Sadly, we're out of time. 208 00:09:56,552 --> 00:09:58,075 See you next week. [clears throat] 209 00:09:58,119 --> 00:09:59,903 Okay. Great. 210 00:09:59,947 --> 00:10:02,297 Ooh. [scoffs] 211 00:10:02,340 --> 00:10:04,342 Almost forgot. 212 00:10:21,533 --> 00:10:23,535 Ooh. 213 00:10:31,021 --> 00:10:32,632 [mutters] 214 00:10:59,397 --> 00:11:00,572 That's a Life Saver. 215 00:11:00,616 --> 00:11:02,183 You're a Life Saver. 216 00:11:05,708 --> 00:11:07,101 ADAM [calls]: Hey![door closes] 217 00:11:07,144 --> 00:11:09,756 Hey! I'm in here. 218 00:11:09,799 --> 00:11:12,149 I hope you're hungry, 'cause I've been ma... 219 00:11:12,193 --> 00:11:13,150 What's that? 220 00:11:13,194 --> 00:11:14,151 Fried chicken. 221 00:11:14,195 --> 00:11:15,762 I was starving on the way home. 222 00:11:15,805 --> 00:11:17,328 I saved you the legs. 223 00:11:17,372 --> 00:11:19,504 Adam, I specifically told you this morning 224 00:11:19,548 --> 00:11:20,984 that I was making dinner. 225 00:11:21,028 --> 00:11:23,204 Why can't you ev... 226 00:11:26,033 --> 00:11:28,470 One, two. 227 00:11:28,513 --> 00:11:30,037 You see, my love, 228 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,039 I made salmon for us. 229 00:11:35,216 --> 00:11:36,652 Why are you counting? 230 00:11:36,696 --> 00:11:38,045 It's a tool Trevor gave me. 231 00:11:38,088 --> 00:11:39,960 You count to two so you don't say things in anger. 232 00:11:40,003 --> 00:11:42,789 I'm paying now, so this is the elite stuff. 233 00:11:42,832 --> 00:11:44,573 You're paying now? You didn't tell me that. 234 00:11:44,616 --> 00:11:45,705 Yes, I did! 235 00:11:45,748 --> 00:11:47,315 One, two. Yes, I did. 236 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:55,366 Okay, what's this?[sighs] 237 00:11:55,410 --> 00:11:57,064 The other tool he gave me. 238 00:11:57,107 --> 00:11:59,196 it's supposed to make us feel connected. 239 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:00,763 Your hand smells like fish. And by the way, 240 00:12:00,807 --> 00:12:02,286 I've told you a dozen times I hate salmon. 241 00:12:02,330 --> 00:12:03,984 I hate the way you say "ma-ture," 242 00:12:04,027 --> 00:12:06,421 but you got to hit the hard "T," don'tcha? 243 00:12:08,162 --> 00:12:10,773 And touch me back. One, two. 244 00:12:10,817 --> 00:12:12,775 One, two. The point is, you don't listen to me. 245 00:12:12,819 --> 00:12:14,081 One, two, three. You don't listen to me, either. 246 00:12:14,124 --> 00:12:15,430 I never said "three"! 247 00:12:15,473 --> 00:12:18,215 You don't even listen to how many numbers to use! 248 00:12:22,263 --> 00:12:23,786 Kind of pulling my hair a little bit. 249 00:12:23,830 --> 00:12:25,179 I kind of know! 250 00:12:30,837 --> 00:12:32,142 Let me guess. 251 00:12:32,186 --> 00:12:33,927 You watched Flashdance last night? 252 00:12:33,970 --> 00:12:35,493 What. 253 00:12:35,537 --> 00:12:36,799 A. 254 00:12:36,843 --> 00:12:38,061 Feeling. 255 00:12:40,890 --> 00:12:42,849 I spent two hours on the movie 256 00:12:42,892 --> 00:12:44,328 and two hours cutting the necklines 257 00:12:44,372 --> 00:12:46,069 out of all my sweatshirts. 258 00:12:46,113 --> 00:12:49,420 And some of mine before I took the scissors away. 259 00:12:49,464 --> 00:12:51,422 Why are you suddenly watching all the movies 260 00:12:51,466 --> 00:12:53,207 I loved in the third grade? 261 00:12:53,250 --> 00:12:54,338 'Cause I never saw 'em. 262 00:12:55,383 --> 00:12:57,646 'Cause you were poor? 263 00:12:57,689 --> 00:13:00,083 'Cause I was drunk. 264 00:13:00,127 --> 00:13:02,433 It's amazing how much pop culture you miss out on 265 00:13:02,477 --> 00:13:04,174 when you're loaded all the time. 266 00:13:04,218 --> 00:13:06,524 I know. For years I thought Ellen DeGeneres 267 00:13:06,568 --> 00:13:08,657 and David Spade were the same person. 268 00:13:10,528 --> 00:13:12,052 [phone chimes] 269 00:13:12,095 --> 00:13:13,488 Oh, my God. 270 00:13:13,531 --> 00:13:15,316 I just got asked out. 271 00:13:15,359 --> 00:13:16,665 Say yes. Say yes. 272 00:13:16,708 --> 00:13:18,710 Even if it's a wrong number. 273 00:13:18,754 --> 00:13:21,017 It's the son of the couple whose car I hit. 274 00:13:21,061 --> 00:13:22,149 I paid for their bumper, 275 00:13:22,192 --> 00:13:24,238 and now he wants to have coffee with me. 276 00:13:24,281 --> 00:13:26,240 Look at that-- the universe is rewarding you 277 00:13:26,283 --> 00:13:27,937 for doing the right thing. 278 00:13:29,286 --> 00:13:30,810 Well, be careful-- you don't even know this guy. 279 00:13:30,853 --> 00:13:32,028 He could be a serial killer. 280 00:13:32,072 --> 00:13:34,770 Or just want to kill you and be done. 281 00:13:36,728 --> 00:13:39,122 I say pack your Mace, roll the dice. 282 00:13:39,166 --> 00:13:40,776 Thanks, Mom. 283 00:13:47,304 --> 00:13:49,567 TREVOR: Yeah, go ahead, Sandra, pack your bag! 284 00:13:49,611 --> 00:13:51,874 It didn't scare me last time you did it, 285 00:13:51,918 --> 00:13:53,136 and it doesn't scare me now! 286 00:13:53,180 --> 00:13:55,269 SANDRA: I am not trying to scare you! 287 00:13:55,312 --> 00:13:58,228 I am trying to get away from your toxic narcissism! 288 00:13:58,272 --> 00:14:01,797 TREVOR: We have been having the same fight for 16 years! 289 00:14:01,841 --> 00:14:03,581 Nothing is ever good enough for you! 290 00:14:03,625 --> 00:14:04,974 SANDRA: I am so done with you! 291 00:14:13,504 --> 00:14:14,636 Bonnie? 292 00:14:18,205 --> 00:14:19,597 Hello. 293 00:14:28,824 --> 00:14:30,565 Hi! Kevin! 294 00:14:30,608 --> 00:14:31,653 Hey! 295 00:14:31,696 --> 00:14:33,437 I-I'll be right there. 296 00:14:33,481 --> 00:14:35,918 Great. I'll get us a table. 297 00:14:35,962 --> 00:14:37,398 [chuckles] 298 00:14:40,662 --> 00:14:42,359 [crunch] 299 00:14:42,403 --> 00:14:44,361 Oh, no, no, no! 300 00:14:44,405 --> 00:14:45,362 [groans] 301 00:14:47,495 --> 00:14:48,583 Damn it. 302 00:14:48,626 --> 00:14:50,411 I'm gonna be alone forever! 303 00:15:01,901 --> 00:15:03,685 Sorry about that. 304 00:15:04,729 --> 00:15:06,296 No worries. 305 00:15:06,340 --> 00:15:08,995 I lost track of the time. 306 00:15:10,039 --> 00:15:11,301 Are you okay? 307 00:15:11,345 --> 00:15:13,434 As always, we're not here to talk about me. 308 00:15:15,088 --> 00:15:18,134 So, were you able to utilize the tools with Adam? 309 00:15:18,178 --> 00:15:19,614 We tried. 310 00:15:19,657 --> 00:15:21,616 If anything, they made the fight bigger. 311 00:15:21,659 --> 00:15:23,618 Maybe that's why you don't use them 312 00:15:23,661 --> 00:15:26,012 when you fight with your wife. 313 00:15:28,753 --> 00:15:31,278 I know this is asking a lot, but I'd really like you to try 314 00:15:31,321 --> 00:15:33,149 and forget what you witnessed earlier. 315 00:15:33,193 --> 00:15:34,542 Sure. Forgotten. 316 00:15:34,585 --> 00:15:37,284 Anyway, we tried physical touch, we tried counting. 317 00:15:37,327 --> 00:15:39,329 It just led to me throwing more potatoes, 318 00:15:39,373 --> 00:15:41,331 and this time it wasn't the little ones-- 319 00:15:41,375 --> 00:15:43,072 they were mashed and covered in hot butter. 320 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:45,988 Well... 321 00:15:46,032 --> 00:15:48,164 some fights are too big for the tools. 322 00:15:48,208 --> 00:15:50,427 Sometimes the rupture between the two of you 323 00:15:50,471 --> 00:15:54,127 is so deep and so wide you can't even hear each other. 324 00:15:54,170 --> 00:15:56,216 You try and you try, and you... 325 00:15:56,259 --> 00:15:59,523 you want to put everything back in the box, but you just can't. 326 00:15:59,567 --> 00:16:01,438 That sounds very painful. 327 00:16:02,744 --> 00:16:05,312 Sometimes I wake up, I don't even know how to breathe. 328 00:16:06,617 --> 00:16:09,490 Wait. What did you just do? 329 00:16:10,665 --> 00:16:12,884 I created a safe space without judgment. 330 00:16:14,060 --> 00:16:16,323 I'm not sure I like this. 331 00:16:16,366 --> 00:16:19,413 That's okay. Just live with the feeling for a moment. 332 00:16:20,457 --> 00:16:21,850 I don't know. 333 00:16:21,893 --> 00:16:23,895 I feel like I've worked my ass off. 334 00:16:23,939 --> 00:16:25,549 I've given her a great life, but... 335 00:16:25,593 --> 00:16:27,377 yet nothing is ever good enough. 336 00:16:27,421 --> 00:16:29,292 Why are you making this all about yourself? 337 00:16:29,336 --> 00:16:31,294 I don't think I am. 338 00:16:31,338 --> 00:16:33,383 You have to remember, her inner life 339 00:16:33,427 --> 00:16:35,037 is totally separate from you. 340 00:16:35,081 --> 00:16:37,735 Isn't it possible she has needs that aren't being met 341 00:16:37,779 --> 00:16:40,042 that have nothing to do with you? 342 00:16:41,391 --> 00:16:42,262 Huh. 343 00:16:42,305 --> 00:16:44,307 That's something to think about. 344 00:16:44,351 --> 00:16:46,309 It is, isn't it? 345 00:16:49,747 --> 00:16:51,706 Well, obviously, today went off the rails. 346 00:16:51,749 --> 00:16:53,795 I'm not gonna charge you for this week. 347 00:16:53,838 --> 00:16:57,016 Of course not. But I am gonna charge you. 348 00:16:59,061 --> 00:17:00,541 Thirty-five dollars. 349 00:17:01,977 --> 00:17:03,239 I'm not kidding. 350 00:17:09,811 --> 00:17:11,595 You. 351 00:17:11,639 --> 00:17:14,033 Hi. I'm not sure why I keep choosing to do it this way, 352 00:17:14,076 --> 00:17:15,382 but here's a note and a check. 353 00:17:17,775 --> 00:17:20,300 MAN [on TV]: ...razing or totally damaging 354 00:17:20,343 --> 00:17:21,518 30 homes, triggering... 355 00:17:21,562 --> 00:17:22,563 Hey. 356 00:17:22,606 --> 00:17:24,826 [turns off TV]Hey. 357 00:17:25,914 --> 00:17:27,481 I know you were just in therapy. 358 00:17:27,524 --> 00:17:29,091 I know you're in charge of dinner. 359 00:17:29,135 --> 00:17:31,746 I'm just sitting here being mature. 360 00:17:36,185 --> 00:17:37,665 How are you? 361 00:17:37,708 --> 00:17:39,449 I'm fine. 362 00:17:39,493 --> 00:17:42,713 Don't just say fine. I'm really asking how you are. 363 00:17:42,757 --> 00:17:45,673 Oh, God, is this another therapy tool? 364 00:17:45,716 --> 00:17:47,631 What's next? 365 00:17:47,675 --> 00:17:49,720 Are we gonna talk to each other with puppets? 366 00:17:49,764 --> 00:17:51,157 His puppets are for kids, 367 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:53,159 and I'm not allowed to play with them 368 00:17:53,202 --> 00:17:55,204 since I left them in funny positions. 369 00:17:56,423 --> 00:18:00,122 This is just me realizing I want you to listen to me, 370 00:18:00,166 --> 00:18:02,646 but I don't always stop to listen to you. 371 00:18:02,690 --> 00:18:04,083 So... 372 00:18:04,126 --> 00:18:06,346 do you have stuff on your mind? 373 00:18:07,521 --> 00:18:09,610 Yeah, I got tons of stuff on my mind. 374 00:18:09,653 --> 00:18:11,133 Like what? 375 00:18:11,177 --> 00:18:14,136 Well, the big topic in here these days is death. 376 00:18:14,180 --> 00:18:15,529 Oh. 377 00:18:15,572 --> 00:18:17,400 Mine or yours? 378 00:18:18,532 --> 00:18:20,360 Definitely mine. 379 00:18:21,578 --> 00:18:24,407 You know... 380 00:18:24,451 --> 00:18:28,107 getting married kind of gave me a future... 381 00:18:28,150 --> 00:18:31,414 and people that I need to... take care of, 382 00:18:31,458 --> 00:18:33,155 and my last birthday, 383 00:18:33,199 --> 00:18:36,202 I-I turned the same age as my dad was when he died, 384 00:18:36,245 --> 00:18:38,552 so yeah, I'm thinking about dying. 385 00:18:38,595 --> 00:18:39,901 How often? 386 00:18:39,944 --> 00:18:42,904 Oh, you know, three, four hundred times a day. 387 00:18:44,210 --> 00:18:46,212 Honey, that's pretty often. 388 00:18:46,255 --> 00:18:49,432 I take breaks and... worry about earthquakes. 389 00:18:52,218 --> 00:18:53,915 Okay, I'm gonna touch you now, 390 00:18:53,958 --> 00:18:55,612 and it's not a therapy thing. 391 00:18:56,657 --> 00:18:58,702 It's an "I love you" thing. 392 00:19:04,665 --> 00:19:06,580 You know you don't have to worry about me. 393 00:19:06,623 --> 00:19:08,059 I can take care of myself. 394 00:19:08,103 --> 00:19:10,279 I know that. 395 00:19:10,323 --> 00:19:12,542 It still doesn't help. 396 00:19:15,284 --> 00:19:17,286 Did you feel that? 397 00:19:22,291 --> 00:19:24,511 Jill, thanks so much for hosting. 398 00:19:24,554 --> 00:19:26,252 Oh, this is gonna be so fun. 399 00:19:26,295 --> 00:19:29,080 FootlooseKevin Bacon is my favorite Kevin Bacon. 400 00:19:29,124 --> 00:19:31,431 This is way nicer than Marjorie's. 401 00:19:31,474 --> 00:19:33,041 The screen's bigger than a postage stamp, 402 00:19:33,084 --> 00:19:34,608 and we don't have to fight the cats 403 00:19:34,651 --> 00:19:36,653 for couch space or popcorn. 404 00:19:36,697 --> 00:19:38,264 Yes, it's wonderful. 405 00:19:38,307 --> 00:19:39,874 Mm.Thank you, Jill. 406 00:19:39,917 --> 00:19:42,093 And it smells so clean. Okay. 407 00:19:42,137 --> 00:19:43,791 Okay. 408 00:19:43,834 --> 00:19:45,793 I got Milk Duds... 409 00:19:45,836 --> 00:19:47,229 and Whoppers. 410 00:19:47,273 --> 00:19:48,796 I had Reese's Pieces, but... 411 00:19:48,839 --> 00:19:51,625 it's a long walk from the kitchen. 412 00:19:51,668 --> 00:19:52,930 It's just nicer in every way. 413 00:19:52,974 --> 00:19:54,584 Stop it! 414 00:19:55,585 --> 00:19:57,587 All right, starting the movie. 415 00:19:59,546 --> 00:20:02,244 Since when do you wear glasses? 416 00:20:02,288 --> 00:20:06,205 I just found out I need them. You know, for movies. 417 00:20:06,248 --> 00:20:08,381 Maybe a little bit for driving. 418 00:20:08,424 --> 00:20:10,252 What'd you do, hit another car? 419 00:20:10,296 --> 00:20:11,993 Hope so. That's how she meets men. 420 00:20:12,036 --> 00:20:14,691 [laughter] 421 00:20:14,735 --> 00:20:16,693 Movie's starting.[gasps] 422 00:20:16,737 --> 00:20:18,739 ["Footloose" by Kenny Loggins playing] 423 00:20:20,871 --> 00:20:22,090 What are you doing? 424 00:20:22,133 --> 00:20:24,135 Oh, I'm gonna dance for the entire movie, 425 00:20:24,179 --> 00:20:26,573 'cause the people in this town can't. 426 00:20:26,616 --> 00:20:28,575 Captioning sponsored by CBS 427 00:20:28,618 --> 00:20:30,577 and WARNER BROS. TELEVISION 428 00:20:30,620 --> 00:20:32,579 and TOYOTA. 429 00:20:37,279 --> 00:20:40,239 Captioned by Media Access Group at WGBH access.wgbh.org