Previously, on Married to Medicine.
- I think Eugene may be right. - What?
When he said Botox can only be done by pretty people.
[laughter]
- We bought a building. - A building.
A building.
We had to just cash out 401Ks and everything.
Everything cost money. Every single thing.
- It isn't right. - Yeah.
I basically am working like two full-time jobs.
You can't keep no secrets from me.
If I had to learn about my son being arrested on social media,
what else is out there?
Hey Toya, leave my ----ing kids name out of your mouth!
How could we leave your kids out of our mouths
when you dog our whole ----ing family?
I know a lot about your family I've never said, Toya.
I got a lot of secrets on her ass
and you don't want me to drop them. I got some doozies.
That bitch making me act crazy.
Right, so stop it.
[theme music]
Am I gonna get some grandkids?
To be honest, I don't want you to get this the wrong way,
but like, I like a lot of girls.
You know?
No.
Get you one good one, like your momma.
[bell dings]
Did you pick up your iron tablets?
I did, yesterday.
Okay, start taking those.
They do tend to constipate you.
Mm-hmm.
Um, you'll be full of sh--, but don't worry about that.
[laughter]
You see these lips.
He's gonna be excited too.
He's gonna be like, okay.
What'd he say last week?
He asked when I can use them.
- When you can use them? - Mm-hmm.
And what did you say, did you follow your post instructions?
I did. I told him you have to wait.
Alright. Don't be messing up my work, now.
[funky music]
Hey, girl, hey!
Ah, ah, wait a minute.
You like it? You know we '70s babies, baby.
We are, but we ain't gotta tell nobody.
- Yes, we do. - Cause we don't look it.
Yes, well we, we are re-defining what it looks like.
This hair is everything.
Is that everything? I'm telling you, look, let's do it.
- I love it. - So first and foremost,
I'm thinking either a red carpet or should I do a purple carpet?
Um, back in the day, they didn't do a carpet,
they did a soul train line.
But yeah, but no, no.
At Player's Ball, they had a carpet, baby.
Look at this beautiful space.
Hello, ladies, how are you?
Hello! Good to see you again.
This is the last year of my 40s.
I'm a '70s baby, so I really wanna do a '70s party,
and I chose the theme, "Player's Ball."
- You remember the movie Casino? - Yes.
Okay. Remember it was set in the '70s?
Yes.
So this is kind of like a hybrid of that.
I want it to be lots of activities.
I want people to come in in their '70s best.
Their furs and their suits and their amazing clothes.
Let's just have a good time.
That's really what it's about.
I just want this to be an opportunity
for us to just have fun.
Like I said in my invitation.
You been invited to Dr. Contessa's Player's Ball.
[laughter]
This is so cute.
This is going to be my first
birthday party ever.
Throwing it for yourself?
I waited almost 50 years to throw myself a party.
Or have someone throw me a party and it didn't happen.
I don't know if I should be sad or happy.
These husbands definitely need to do more, excluding Eugene.
So what I'm thinking, is we have a super long runway
and the dance floor will be here.
Right here in the middle and the stage will be there.
Would that be like 150-200 people?
Four decades of life, so 200.
I would love to stay, like, under $40,000, though.
What? That's your budget?
- That's too little? - That's too high.
I think Contessa needs to take the 40K and finish her
office that she's working on, okay?
It's my party and I can do what I wanna do.
I ain't gotta answer to you.
I think this is gonna be great,
but I don't want you having drama at your party.
Like it should be positive energy.
Oh, I agree. I feel like the outfits
would make people have positive energy.
- That's not true.
[laughs]
You have very low expectations of others.
What group of friends are you talking about?
So you're not inviting our current group?
I'm inviting everybody.
Last time I saw Heavenly, she was crazy, okay?
Let's talk about the stuff that you bring to the table.
I know a lot about your family I've never said, Toya.
Hope her energy is good.
Because that energy that she had the other day, it was stank.
I wanna think that our group is gonna be able to put
all their differences aside to celebrate me,
for the one time in my life I've asked them to do that.
- No resting bitch faces. - Exactly, that's so annoying.
Don't come in critiquing everything.
Yeah, just come here to have a good time. It's gonna be so fun.
Thank you so much for helping me.
You just gave me a moment, I just thought back like...
wasn't everybody high back then?
They were. [laughter]
[upbeat music]
- What's up? - What's happening?
What, you down getting something to eat?
Yep.
As long as you don't eat my food.
I won't eat your food anyway.
But you do it all the time.
What you got to say about that?
Absolutely nothing.
[laughing]
Why? Because you do eat my food all the time.
Well, this is the thing with the leftovers.
Don't wanna assume, like, oh, there's the refrigerator,
this my girl and everything is ours.
I'm eating your leftovers.
Then what am I gonna eat?
I don't wanna have a whole hour conversation about food.
It's you that's talking about it!
Guess what? I have a healthy appetite.
You want it 15 times a day? Feed me.
Well, he just shut my damn mouth.
[laughter]
I think you need to just take your shot,
because your hormones are already like...
Does the shot make me have like mood swings, like rage?
Yes.
No, not rage. I find myself crying a lot.
[crying] I have tried with you.
I don't even know what is the problem?
That's not me being enraged.
King and I are trying to get pregnant.
Any chance there's gonna be a baby Quad coming?
We're hoping.
You talked about IVF, any updates?
Yes. I am in the process, for sure.
We have a friend who basically got pregnant at 46
with triplets.
And I said, "Wait a minute, where's this doctor?"
And she's like, oh, this doctor is in Ghana.
When I heard that, I just felt like this is where I need to be.
I appreciate your grace in this.
Okay.
And your understanding.
Jackie had agreed to be my doctor state side.
She is responsible for all of my lab tracings.
I have nothing but good news for you.
Your pap is normal, mammogram is normal,
all your tests have been normal.
We've now had two egg retrievals.
Alright, I'm just checking in.
I'm getting ready for my surgery
to have the eggs removed.
I pray that all goes well.
I spent my whole life trying to dodge this bullet.
It's not a bullet. It's a blessing.
It's a blessing... in disguise.
I'll just be happy if we can just get another,
what do you think, like four? How about you?
- Six. - Six?
So I don't have to go through this again.
I don't want to either.
You think I wanna stick myself?
I'm dreading going back there now.
You finish your food, I'm gonna go ahead and go back here
and get prepping.
Get your shot going so I can get ready
for this next 24 hours of hell.
Sticking yourself a couple of times a day, every single day,
it's exhausting and tiring.
But despite all the side effects,
it still will be well worth it to me to become a mom.
Big bad tough Miss Quad is scared of a little needle.
I'm not scared of the needle.
I just don't like other people doing it.
If we get the results that we're seeking,
it'll definitely be worth it.
If not... I coulda bought another car.
Let me smell your breath.
It smells like fish!
Go brush your teeth for real.
Babe, you're knocking me out.
Cause you got a problem, you're projecting it on me.
[exhales sharply]
You better stop.
[laughter]
I need CPR.
Toya: Coming up.
You did good on this party.
I love all the parties that you men throw.
Look at how sexist y'all are
because even in the midst of the party that I threw
for my goddamn self, y'all are talking to me about my husband.
[upbeat music]
Hey birthday, girl.
- Ma'am. - Perfect timing.
Ma'am. I dressed to work.
Making me look bad, working in an evening gown.
Lemme tell you why. I said let me get myself...
like maybe get into the party mode.
And then the universe will feel it.
- You know what I'm saying? - I love that, you're fabulous.
Today is the day! It's my birthday party!
- Where are we going? - Right in here.
- Right here? To the left? - Yes.
I have been working my ass off.
- This is so pretty! - Isn't this fabulous?
[upbeat music]
So good!
Yeah, baby! Is that fire?
- No, this is beautiful. - She is so awesome.
- You are so awesome. - You did a good job.
Do you see the record? It has my name on it!
What?!
It would be so great if Scott was like,
"What can I do to help?"
It just doesn't connect for him that way.
Hey, I do need help.
Didn't you say you was bringing home ice cream?
He's a smart guy. He's book smart.
He ain't got no common sense, but he book smart.
I'm just playing. [laughter]
Can I give you one piece of advice?
Please.
Cause how long you been married?
10 years.
Don't ever say, "I got this."
Like, no you don't have to, that's too much.
Because once you do that, you kind of create this like,
oh, okay.
Alright, I'm gonna talk to Scott.
I'll be like, alright, Scott.
You gonna have to step up your underwear, huh?
Cause they say panties for girls, so step your drawers up.
Imma tell him.
[upbeat music]
Are you excited about the party?
I am, girl, but I don't know what to expect.
Well, just expect the unexpected, because...
[laughter]
Did you grow up in the '70s?
- No. - Oh, okay.
[laughter]
[upbeat music]
Bringing it all together.
Okay, so you got bell bottoms.
Yes, honey, boom, boom, boom. Look at my shoes.
It looks like we were back in the '70s, right?
No. Jimmy Choo? No, baby.
I like the way people dressed in the '70s,
I think that they should bring the '70s fashion back.
The platform shoe, the makeup,
the Afrocentricity of it all.
Now, I was young in the '70s,
but I do recall it was free love, honey.
We were very free sexually back in the day,
but so was herpes and hepatitis, so, you know.
We paid for the freedom.
I got a waist trainer just in case, baby.
Okay, look at that.
All I need... this what you doing?
That's cute.
[upbeat music]
Ooh, alright. Sookie Sookie, now.
When I think of the '70s, I think of disco,
with a little bump action.
Well, you got the hoes tonight, Curtis, you ready?
Let's go get it.
That afro, I do not miss that.
I'm glad that era is gone.
[upbeat music]
This looks beautiful. Look at that.
[laughs]
Back in the '70s, people wore a lot of sequins.
They was wearing the shades.
The '70s for me was baby food, diapers, daycare.
Huh? What?
The '70s. I was born in 1977.
- I was a child. - Oh.
[upbeat music]
Thank you, honey. Give me a little bit more, how about that?
[camera clicking]
When I think about the '70s... a lot of drugs.
Oh, whoa!
Hey, that's what you see on YouTube.
Hi!
[upbeat music]
[camera clicking]
I really like the '70s style.
My Go-go boots.
My wig was wigging.
Don't be scared to touch me. [laughing]
Hey, you know my reputation, now.
[laughing]
I grew up during the '70s, but I was young.
I wasn't, you know, I wasn't out on the dating scene yet.
I'm not that old. Talk to Curtis.
Where your hands at?
[music abruptly stops]
[crowd chatter]
You know, it's my fault.
I shoulda got him a pimp outfit, but I felt like, you know what?
- He pimp enough for me. - I wouldn't have worn that.
Pimpin'!
This is about as pimpin' as I'm gonna get.
I like your shirt.
It's a costume party, dude.
Like you just don't get it, do you?
[screaming]
Hard 12, hard 8, hard 6, all on.
Oh, you gambling, gambling.
I used to, I don't gamble no more,
I gave it up a long time ago.
- You gave it up to the Lord. - To the Lord.
I spoke to Contessa. Do you know how much she spent?
No.
- 40 grand. - That's a lot.
Yeah.
If this is the first time she's throwing a party...
Everybody keep saying that.
Just cause it's your first party, you gotta spend 40 grand.
$40,000 where? Where is it?
But I ain't spending 40 grand.
When my son's about to graduate in two, three years. No.
I didn't spend it on Michael, but I sure...
Miles and Michael, I sure spend five on their party.
I could see five.
The most Simone has ever spent on a party
is $5,000, baby.
Miles and Michael's graduation. Won't need no damn balloons.
Won't need no step and repeat,
Won't need no photographer,
won't need all that.
When she told me earlier, I said, girl, you realise
you could've had a little wedding?
My wedding was $75,000.
Yeah. - In what year?
Shut your mouth. [laughter]
Nice, Foxy Brown.
Right here, guys.
Goddess. Ladies.
Okay, we're ready? Y'all ready?
Relax, babe, we're here to be enjoying ourselves. Just relax.
I got your back.
Don't you dare be trying to take no credit for anything.
Scott did not plan this party.
We're gonna have fun.
This player knows what she likes and she knows what she wants.
- Don't be copping out. - And everything that I do,
she gonna reject. Okay? So, boom!
Hello, hello, party people in the place to be.
Can I have your attention please?
All you pimps and players in here,
I want you to make a lot of noise
and give a round of applause to...
my homegirl, Contessa. Make some noise for Contessa.
[upbeat music]
[cheering]
Go, girl!
[camera clicking]
Hello, everybody! Hey, guys!
Oh, my God, you look amazing!
- Thank you, thank you. - You're as pretty as can be.
- Happy birthday. - You're almost as pretty as me.
Thank you.
My party today is the party of my dreams.
Hey!
But the price of this party was definitely a bit excessive.
[upbeat music]
Look at you gorgeous.
Could've cut the cake price in half,
could've cut the food budget in half.
And we would've had it in my living room.
Y'all look amazing.
Maybe the best thing for you to have done
is to stay out of my way.
That's right. I believe--
It turned out exactly the way I wanted it.
I believe that.
[upbeat music]
You made your entrance by your damn self.
Yeah, my whole family came here! I love you!
We dancin'. Come on, come on.
I haven't seen you since I started letting my hair
grow out.
What's happenin'?
You looking good, Scott.
Boy, bye. You know you had nothing to do with this party.
[laughing]
I think that was shade. That was a little shade.
They're trying. They're trying. They're trying.
No, no. I love all the parties that you men throw.
Shade.
Cause all we gotta do is cut a check.
Coming up.
You ----ing complain all the ----ing time
about your husband!
What kind of friends focus on the negative?
These, bitch!
Ooh, okay, girl.
[upbeat music]
I think that was shade. That was a little shade.
They're trying. They're trying. They're trying.
No, no. All... I love all the parties that you men throw.
Shade.
Cause all you gotta do is cut a check.
I went and picked up the cupcakes today, goddamn it.
[laughter]
Do you think I care what these heckling hens are saying
about me not throwing a party for my wife?
[laughter] No.
[upbeat music]
This era here, got [bleep] up.
Yeah, really [bleep] up.
Bend down, when we bent over for our men, right?
- We'd bend over backwards. - Oh, okay.
[laughing]
There's a reason why people of my age can keep a man
and the younger people cannot.
They don't wanna do that no more.
These young girls, they don't wanna do that.
You know Heavenly ain't cooking every meal for her man
nor is she bringing Damon's slippers to sit...
Girl, get you a life.
But I'd bend over backwards for mine.
[sipping]
If he was a good man, I ain't got no problem with that.
Bend it over, buss it open wide.
[upbeat music]
I'll go talk on the mic and bring you out.
I have two outfits, and if I'm gonna change,
he needs to change into something else.
Hello!
What's happening? You changed clothes?
Just once, just once. Just a little something situation.
- My gift to you. - Boy... stop.
Little something, little something.
Gene, how you been, man? - I'm good. I'm good.
We missed you at the thing the other night.
Yeah, I--
You working out of town and stuff?
Yeah. I've been, I've been working out of town.
I go out of town, I work and then I come back.
I just got back yesterday.
I'm working at five different hospitals right now.
They're all at least two hours away,
but every hospital, the nurses after the first day are like,
"Can you work here all the time?"
Wait, wait, only the nurses? What about the patients?
- No, the-- - Only the nurses are saying?
I wanna see the nurses.
I just wanna see the nurses, man.
You wanna confirm this?
You feeding into that bull.
Some of these nurses are actually men.
Are they? - Yes.
What his name? - Alright. Paul.
So then Paul went up to you and said,
- "Man, I want you to stay." - Yes.
Nurses know how you behave and who they wanna work with.
Cool guy. He actually knows Curtis.
- Okay. - So there's proof.
Mm-hm.
Everybody, eyes over here.
Well everybody, I'd like to thank every...
each and every one of you for coming out tonight.
Scott is talking.
I don't know if she's told you guys,
but this is her first major birthday party
in her whole life.
[cheering]
And I also will tell you that she did a lot
to get this party going.
She said she did a lot. She did everything, she said.
She's a strong force in our household.
I celebrate her for it.
And I'm gonna share one more thing with you.
A long time ago, before my mother passed,
me and my mother, we would watch movies together.
And she said, "Contessa remind me of Rose."
She's like, "Rose would jump back on the boat for your ass.
Just like she did on... on the Titanic."
Why do women have to go through such a struggle...
to earn their position with a man?
[bubbles]
I'm going down. Always Rose, though, but I'm going down.
Like... why?
Alright. Please dance, have a good time
and thank you guys for coming out.
There's food outside, there's food inside, enjoy yourselves.
Thank you guys for showing up for me.
[upbeat music]
[cheering]
- Hey! - Hey! How y'all doing?
Why are you in prom gear and we're in '70s apparel?
Because it's my party.
Somebody needs to be able to tell the difference between
y'all and me. I mean, I'm just saying.
- Correct! You're right. - Whose party is it?
Whose party is it, right?
Did you have a good time tonight?
I had a good time, I did.
Did you want your husband to throw it or were you okay?
I just said, this is my last year of my 40's,
and I'm not going to leave my 40's
and this first half of my like, life with any regrets.
And I think I had a vision in my head.
I think... I don't know if it would've been
what I was expecting if somebody else planned it for me.
Like what if he did something like in the backyard?
I really wanted to be somewhere
where people could get drinks and get food--
But why not just tell him that and then have him do it?
I told him. I mean, I've been waiting, he know me.
It's been 20 years.
Don't y'all believe that from the beginning
of the relationship we teach the man how to think?
That's so true, Simone.
So if you're... if the bar of expectation is low...
they can jump right over that and they don't move the bar,
we have to move the bar.
My first mother's day, Cecil didn't have a card for me
and I'm like, I got this little sucker over here sucking on me
and you don't have a card?
Marriage is about teamwork.
It is about supporting one another.
But sometimes, I feel taken for granted.
Why we gotta re-evaluate our marriages
after this amazing party right now,
what is happening right now?
No, re-evaluating our marriages is major.
He knows, he knows that I handle sh--.
I handle sh-- and that's what he was probably waiting for,
me to handle it and ultimately I did.
You gotta go home and live with that man.
You gotta go and lay in the same bed
that he sleeps in.
So I get why you're taking up for him.
You don't want that smoke at home.
I had a great party, I was very happy.
I learned my lesson with Contessa,
I am not touching her marriage, baby.
I'm running for state representative
and I just need to be quiet.
Look at how sexist y'all are
because even in the midst of the party that I threw
for my goddamn self, y'all talking to me about my husband.
Y'all came in on my goddamn birthday talking to me about...
Happy birthday, still.
You were sitting in the best party you've ever attended
and you gonna asking me why Scott didn't do it.
You better do the flip, baby, you better flip that sh--.
This is my party.
Because I am the best planner for my birthday party, okay?
My party was epic. Game changer.
Yes, come on! Yes! Yes!
Yes, come on! You better come on! Yes!
Coming up.
If I'm dead before he finishes law school, then what?
- That can happen. - I'm done talking about this.
You are so ----ing entitled. I am done!
[upbeat music]
Bro, back up. Back up. Back up. Back up.
Okay, I'm gonna get the plates.
[upbeat music]
I ordered them some graduation thank you cards.
I'm old school.
A written thank you note will always be nice.
I need... this.
This.
Pow!
[shakes cocktail shaker]
Ooh! I'm not gonna lie, that looks good as hell.
[upbeat music]
What up, boys? Haircuts. Haircuts.
Smelling good.
Haircuts.
You wanna fix some food?
- Food? We got the food. - We got y'all.
- Come on, sit down. - Look at y'all.
This is so sweet.
This is our celebration to y'all.
We had our graduation party, this y'all graduation party.
We've been waiting for them to get their degrees.
We knew they could do it.
It's impressive.
They definitely took different routes to get there.
He had a gap year.
Malia Obama she did a gap year in Europe.
Miles took his gap year in school.
Involuntarily.
[shrieks]
Do you want me to help you? - Help me do what?
Help you make your bed. - You're not funny.
Now, it's time to pay bills, baby.
Bills, bills, bills. [laughing]
This is a surprise, brother. You got some food.
Yep, yep.
Ooh, this... - That's good.
Piping hot.
So how does it feel to have one less thing off the plate?
Nothing. It feels like nothing.
So we talked about... in high school, right?
I got the Jeep, the Jeep was cool,
but now we're starting to teeter towards Jeep not being so cool.
So now it's like--
Oh, really, what makes a Jeep not so cool?
No, it's cool, but it's just like, I'm tired of seeing it.
I know you tired of seeing it.
Tired.
What we do have to look at though,
is your financial situation to see if...
you could afford to make any payments.
I put some numbers... I did some figures for you.
Hold on one second while I get my iPad.
I just wanna say before you go,
make sure whatever you bring out on that iPad
is not gonna cause me to pick up your pasta off your plate
and feed it to the dogs.
Yeah. It might.
Once Miles and Michael told me that they were gonna be
graduating this year, all I've been able to think about
is moving forward financially.
Basically, what I did was just calculate...
the Chase bill for last year, month by month.
January--
Mama, can I stop you right there?
Why does this have to be negative?
It doesn't, it doesn't, it doesn't.
It's factual information.
Michael spent over $60,000 by himself on this card.
The Chase bill--
If I were you and I wanted a car,
I wouldn't be arguing with the person you're asking
to buy the car.
But that's me.
This needs to be shared, so that he has a clear understanding
about the value of money.
About the value of just swiping a mother----ing credit card.
So have you been thinking about where you wanna go
to law school, how you gonna finance your education?
I do have a mother who...
makes pretty good money.
I don't feel like I should be
footing the bill for anything
other than the roof over your head, that sort of a thing.
So when you start talking about law school,
graduate school and so forth,
if you're not getting any support, right?
If no one's helping you to do that
and it sounds like, based on what your mom is saying,
that's what would be the ideal situation.
So the only one here at the table
with an actual graduate doctorate degree... is me.
And how I did it, was I got scholarship money and loans.
Your mom wasn't able to do
the things for you that you are able to do for us.
[slurping]
[dramatic music]
What about all the rich white kids?
Their parents pay for their way to do everything
and then they get out of college debt-free and are millionaires.
So what about all the white people who pay for their kids
to go to school, be debt-free and they still ain't doing sh--?
Now, Michael's point is still a valid one.
We are blessed.
We are in a situation where we can help.
Who here at the table gives a [bleep]
about how hard I'm working,
instead of being able to move towards retirement?
Me.
He said that he thinks every day about how he can,
what he can do to be able to give back to you.
- That's what he said. - I understand--
But then don't--
If I'm dead before he finishes law school, then what?
That can happen because God might take you away.
I'm done talking about this.
Oh, I don't care.
Be done.
I get tired of being the lone man out.
It's always three against one.
- I'm jumping in. - I said do not ----ing jump in.
- You can't speak for me-- - Well, after you--
Cause you don't think like me!
After you speak I'm gonna speak.
You don't think like me, you don't support me on [bleep]!
Where did that come from?
The bottom line is you are so ----ing entitled,
is what this revealed to me.
I'm done! I'm done!
I don't owe you a mother----ing thing from here!
[dramatic music]
[bleep] you!
I have given you everything I have to give!
[upbeat music]
[laughing]
Mommy time tonight?
You wanna just rest?
- Rest? - Yes.
- And wake up in the morning-- - That's not... uh-uh.
And, and, and get your, get your day started off right.
And then in the morning you gonna be... I'm late.
[laughing]
[upbeat music]
Trying to reverse the big back?
[laughter]
You trying to say my back big? - It's not big, just wide.
I'm small in the waist and cute in the face.
With the big back?
[laughing]
[upbeat music]
Or maybe rotate it over. No.
Oh, that's probably a good idea. See? Teamwork.
That's what I'm saying, let me be your team right now.
You going in the opposite direction.
No.
[upbeat music]
- Come on in. - I must be the first to arrive.
- You are. - Okay.
I'm gonna have a blueberry margarita.
Blueberry margarita?
- Hey, how are you? - Good.
- Hey, missy. - Hey.
Drinking already? - Girl, yes. Cute bag.
When you start drinking? - Yesterday.
Praise God. Can I get a Dirty Shirley?
So how you been? You look cute today.
Girl, we had a family dinner
that went all the way left.
Got an attitude cause I'm not gonna pay
for law school.
I never said I was paying for law school, dude.
I don't think you should.
Me and him were going back and forth.
Cecil was silent, boo.
I get tired of being the bad cop all by myself all the time.
I understand, boo.
I just need a break from the people that...
last night went more... I just need a break.
[upbeat music]
- Hey, ladies. - Hey, how are you?
- How you doing? - You did that. You did that.
Thank you.
I have a card for you. Happy birthday.
- I'm doing good, thank you. - How old are you now?
- I'm 42. - You look amazing.
- I don't look it, do I? - You do not.
It's my birthday. We gonna have some food.
We gonna have some drinks. Let's turn up a little bit.
My hubby surprised me. He was like,
invite your friends and I'm gonna pay for y'all to eat,
drink and have a good night.
So your husband did this for you?
Yes. He did.
But Contessa's husband did not do it for her.
So do you think you should tone it down
a little bit in front of people?
I can't tone it down,
cause my man is my man.
[laughter]
I mean, I got a good man, so.
- Happy birthday! - Thank you!
- Happy birthday, babe. - Good, welcome.
- Happy birthday, hello. - Thank you. I love it.
[kissing]
Come sit down.
What's up? Where the party at?
Oh hell no.
Where the [bleep] party?
Hey! I can't bend down because my sh-- short.
Oh, sh--.
[laughing] Ooh, hey, thang.
- Hi! - Hi, girls!
- So cute! - Hey y'all!
[laughter]
Everybody look good.
Don't feel underdressed. Y'all look just fine.
Look at Jackie's face.
This brand name beyotch is always gonna have
something to say if you're not wearing Gucci, Prada, Fendi,
or something. Girl, you better get yourself some Zara.
Some of us professional women--
Uh, we all professionals.
Have more places to go than to the party.
So are you saying that the women
that walked in aren't professional?
I'm just talking about you.
[laughing] Ohh!
If professional means being you, I wanna be me.
I don't wanna be you.
That's all I'm saying.
Bartender, this sh-- starting already.
The shade has already started.
They ain't even sang Happy Birthday yet.
Well we done took over, it's Brandi's day, okay?
So, look. So first off, let's get some shots.
Her man paying for this so he said that I can have
all the shots I wanted, that's what he said.
He did. He said you could have all the shots.
I love this. At Contessa's party
I feel like we all didn't get a chance to really like kick it.
To me that's the only negative about having a party.
We don't get to spend any quality time with everybody.
That's why the next day I did a brunch.
I said, "If I didn't get a chance to hug you,
please come to my house." And I literally cooked from like,
10 o'clock in the morning--
You cooked after your party?
- Until 9 o'clock. - Where was Scott the next day?
- He can cook. - He was outside smoking cigars.
Scott ain't planning sh--, but...
Scott must've been exhausted after Contessa's party.
- You did good on this party. - I tried.
After wearing that wig and that pimp coat, he was tired.
I enjoy taking care of people.
I know, but somebody needs to take care of you at some point.
I do agree. I do.
I think paying for that party
was Scotty taking care of me.
Alright, I'm gonna bring it back to me
for a second cause it is my birthday.
Not for a second, for the night.
My husband and my kids on the phone, so, one.
Wait, hold on.
Y'all this is my husband. All of my kids.
Hi!
Hi, how are you? So they wanted to say thank you.
- Alright. - Thank you.
Thank you, baby, I love you.
- Alright, thank you. Bye. - Thank you.
Why is she thanking him so much?
Is this like a really expensive restaurant?
Like, was this a lot of money?
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday, Brandi, this is an amazing dinner party.
I think you should eat before the food starts getting cold.
Yes, somebody say a prayer.
Can we pray to God or do we have to pray for your husband
for thanking him for the food?
[dramatic music]
[laughing]
You in your feelings, but it's okay.
We thanking these husbands a lot.
These husbands get a lot of credit for some basic sh--.
Contessa's retaliating cause she's feeling a way
that Scott has never planned a birthday party for her.
We in a strip mall, I mean... Not a plaza.
She's still upset about that party.
Here's the thing, my... my husband paid for this.
He paid for everybody to come and have a good night.
My husband is amazing, so I give my husband props
and I'll tell anybody.
So I'm sorry Contessa if that's a problem for you
or anyone else, but--
I think y'all the ones with the problem.
Did you hear my husband complain one minute about how much money
that was spent?
No. I don't think, but I don't think--
The only thing that my husband did not do was plan it.
But I'll be honest, if he would've did this
as my first birthday party, I would've been underwhelmed.
[dramatic music]
This is not a birthday party, in my opinion.
Whoa, whoa, whoa, let's bring this back.
Let's bring this back.
It's not a comparison.
That was a party, this is not a party. This is a dinner.
This is getting out of hand.
[dramatic music]
[upbeat music]
Did you hear my husband complain one minute
about how much money I was spending?
But I'll be honest, if he would've did this
as my first birthday party, I would've been underwhelmed.
Whoa, whoa, whoa, let's bring this back.
Let's bring this back. Because this is getting out of hand.
This is not a party. This is a dinner.
This is a dinner, right.
Brandi spent zero, my husband paid for it.
I brought some money just in case.
- Y'all... ooh. - Money for what?
Girl, put your stuff back.
You brought all your birthday money?
I mean we got a joint bank account, I got access.
Get your coin purse, put it back.
Baby, the shade is real, baby.
The shade's very real.
Why you throwing money on the table?
If I'm not mistaken,
at your party, you said
you wanted somebody to do something nice for you.
He knows this is a big deal,
I doubt he's gonna come in here and didn't have
anything planned for you.
I hope not.
Here you go. It might not be from Scott,
but you getting wined and dined with a nice meal.
Be grateful. Really?
Contessa was upset.
What was I upset about?
About Scott not throwing a party for you.
And I don't know why you forgot.
Me saying I'm throwing a party for myself.
The question becomes, what is this paternalistic world
that some man has to throw some sh-- for me?
I make just as much money as him.
Not only does Contessa complain about Scott to her friends.
So he's cheating, is that what's--
I don't know what nobody is
ever doing.
And then she switches her story.
She get mad if you remember what she said the day before.
Keep your opinions about my spouse
to your goddamn mother----ing self.
Now I've learned to just accept it.
Stay up out of Contessa's sh-- if you know better.
Why ----ing focus on the negative?
What kind of friends focus on the negative?
- These, bitch. - Ooh. Okay, girl.
All we're saying at the end of the day,
is that you ----ing complain all the ----ing time
about your husband.
You complain all the time about your husband,
And it's ----ing not right, bitch.
Now can we move on? Where the [bleep] is the cake?
- This is overstimulating. - This is hot. Whoo!
Wow! [laughing]
This might be normal behavior for everybody.
I think this is what I'm learning.
And eventually, probably, y'all hug and laugh.
I ain't even did sh--, I'm tired of y'all.
It always comes back to this.
Y'all get me all hot...
Until next time.
So do you think...
that there is ever a time where...
where maybe you are frustrated, maybe you do--
- We all are. - Hey, be quiet.
- Oh, sorry. I'm sorry. - Be quiet.
We've been married for 20 years
and if I spent all of my time focusing on the negatives,
I would be like many of my
girlfriends out here who are single.
And maybe at 30 years...
he's gonna do some of those things that I've asked for.
I've been married 29. He's not gonna do anything.
Right. [laughing]
Dang!
I was like, please enlighten her.
So yes, it would be great if he would sometimes buy me
a Rolls-Royce, but I like the ring better.
Some people here married and don't even wanna be damn married
no damn more.
I don't know how I got in it.
All I know is, I can go in my safe and I see,
I have a wedding ring too.
Marriage ain't just all of that.
Difference is, I have a wedding ring and a Rolls-Royce.
And I don't have a headache.
Now clock that, tea.
Well Quad, who here doesn't wanna be married anymore,
other than me?
[dramatic music]
What? Yes, you do, yes you do.
You have no idea.
Don't say that, don't say that. Don't say that, Simone.
Next time, on Married to Medicine.
People file for divorce for all kind of sh-- nowadays.
I fussed my boy out. He left.
I don't even know where the [bleep] he is.
Dr. Jackie wanna see you.
- Nice to meet you. - Look how he smiles.
You probably delivered him.
You forgot your shirt off with--
Bro, I love the house,
but I'm a little bit uncomfortable.
Why they naked men?
Don't ----ing cuss at me!
But the ladies next to you took it personal too.
[bleep] them bitches!