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[narrator] Previously on
Sister Wives.
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Today's Christmas Day and we're all
gathering up to have Christmas together.
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[Kody] Does everybody see
where their stocking is?
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[Christine] It's hard for
the girls to respect their Dad
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when they see he has favorites.
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With Kody and I right now our
relationship is pretty strained.
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Do I still choose
plural marriage?
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You know, it'd be really easy.
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It's easy to walk away.
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[Meri] When Kody and I
were doing really, really poorly
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I considered all options.
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- Tell me more, Christine--
- I'm not going to--
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About this feeling
about moving to Utah.
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What I hoped polygamy to be
when I was younger
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ended up being something
very different.
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Well, this is not a safe conversation
anymore. I'm sorry, it's just not.
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I'm not gonna talk to you.
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[Christine] I used to be, anything
you want, anything you say.
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I use to be that wife.
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And I'm not anymore.
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[Kody] It's early January
so we just got over Christmas.
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And we've all been,
kind of, quarantined.
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Or, COVID careful for Christmas.
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Robyn called us all up
and said, Ari has demanded
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that the whole family come
and celebrate her on her birthday.
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[Kody] We've been able to
get the family, they can test.
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So, we're able to get together
for the... The whole family.
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The whole family's able
to get together
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for this birthday party
for Ariella.
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[Christine] We're gonna go celebrate
Ariella's birthday at Robyn's house.
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So we all went and COVID tested.
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It's disgusting.
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The COVID tests are disgusting.
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[groaning]
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It's a drive thru,
you have to do it yourself.
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[sneezes]
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[Christine] It's disgusting. You
have to shove it up your nose.
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And swirl it around.
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Uh! The thought of it.
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-[Christine] Oh, a tissue. Thank you.
-Thank you so much.
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[Christine] I think having the
COVID test will make it so it's easier
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for us to hang out.
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Will it just
smooth everything over?
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No.
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There's a lot of frustration.
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That has happened with
how Kody's been with COVID.
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And how rigid he's been
with COVID.
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That's really exhausting and exasperating
for a lot of the family members.
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So, just because
we can get COVID tests
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and hang out, doesn't
mean that fixes everything.
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[Robyn] She's turning five.
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Everybody's tested so that we
can get together for her birthday,
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and I'm so happy
they're doing that.
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[Ariella screaming]
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Like, everybody's up close
and personal, there's no masks.
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There's no distancing.
This is awesome.
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[Robyn] Oh, my God!
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I'm really happy
that it's Ariella's birthday.
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I'm glad that everybody
is gathering here for her.
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Cause it's attention
I want her to have.
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[Meri] Tell us what day
is today.
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[Kody] But I'm still
a little bit gun-shy
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from all this criticism
from my older kids,
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about my management of COVID.
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You've got rules
and regulations for work,
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why can't we have that
for a family staying health?
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Cause we're a family. Why don't we
just verbalize it and trust each other?
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Oh, therein lies the problem.
Right there.
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It made me so upset the
disrespect that I was getting
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that it pretty much
ruined my holiday season.
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[happy birthday being sung]
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Maybe some of this is resulting
from me not being at Isabelle's surgery.
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Um, the requirements that I had
everybody make for Christmas.
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Um, the fact that I've been away
from Janelle's house quite a bit.
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[happy birthday continues]
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[Kody] I'm having this
experience with Ariella here.
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My job is to protect her.
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And my older kids
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have to start realizing that my
world doesn't revolve around them
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once they're adults.
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My obligation
is to my minor children.
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And then my obligation
is to those children
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who decide they're gonna
keep my rules, and go to school,
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I can help them out
anyway that I can.
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[Janelle] We have never,
with all of our kids,
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pushed them out the door
when they turned 18.
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He wants his kids to come home but now
all of a sudden when it doesn't suit him.
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We need to push them out
the door at 18.
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I've done
everything I can for them.
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I'm like, that doesn't even
compute for me.
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There's adult children
at Robyn's house.
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That aren't being pushed out.
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Because they're obeying
the rules.
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[Ariella] Thank you!
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[Kody] Some of the kids
are supporting me
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and some of the kids
are not supporting me.
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And sometimes it feels like it's
based upon what the mothers are doing.
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I've got one mother
who has basically
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said to her children,
we're all gonna do this.
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We're gonna support Dad.
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And we're gonna be
careful about what we do.
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And here's the rules.
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You abide by Dad's rules.
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Or you'll have to figure out
some other living arrangement.
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All right, Ariella, babe.
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You're my sweetie.
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And I love you so much.
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And you're so compassionate.
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And so good at being bossy.
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I think you're
just really sweet,
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and that's the reason
I call you my sweetie.
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Cheers to my sweetie.
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[Janelle] So what's happening
here is, we toast the birthday person.
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It's a way to celebrate the
person who's having the birthday.
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To Ariella,
for being the only woman
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to ever greet me at the door
with, "Wow! You're handsome."
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[everyone laughing]
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To the little girl who always knows
how to make someone feel special,
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- I love you.
- Aww!
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The toasting is like up there,
with one of the best things ever.
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It's just great.
It's always great.
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- You're a very, very sweet person.
- You feel red.
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Oh, I am red, it's hot.
Oh, God.
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- [boy] Are you blushing?
- [Kody] Easy, easy there.
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I don't even know
what's going on here.
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She is not [chuckles].
She is not shy.
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- [boy] She's just blushing.
- [girl] She's blushing.
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- Will you get me something, please?
- [girl] That was so mean.
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[Christine] I'm 48 years old.
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You'd think I'd be over
blushing, for goodness sakes.
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Thank you, honey. That's
exactly what I was hoping for.
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[Christine] Sometimes
you just blush.
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And if you mention that I'm
red, I'm gonna get redder.
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And what I love about you most is
that you take care of people so well.
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No, I don't have a sunburn! I
just blush for some reason, okay.
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Gosh, it's embarrassing.
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- [boy] Cheers.
- Cheers!
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[Christine] Thank you Ari,
I feel very special.
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[Robyn] The party was great
and I know Ari loved it.
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And it was so nice
to see everybody together.
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Everybody! There's grape,
chocolate, grape, chocolate.
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[Kody] She's going around and
she is the family's social lubricant.
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She's making the experience
easy.
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[Robyn] She makes these
by herself.
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[Christine] Now that we've
figured out how to get together,
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I think that we should just hang
out, like, once a month or so,
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just like we did before COVID.
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[Janelle] Okay,
so we had Christmas,
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now we're doing Ari's birthday,
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we're talking about Kody's
birthday in another week.
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I'm like, okay, the saliva testing
and everything, this is good.
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We're moving forward.
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[Robyn] We've had a lot of
time away from each other.
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It's making me very hopeful
for the future.
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[heavy sigh]
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So, over the weekend we
had a birthday party for Ariella.
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And the whole family tested
and was able to get together.
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And, kinda have this time
together was actually really cool.
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And, um, Ari was so happy that
her family was there for her birthday.
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Well, after that, the next day I got
a call from my childcare provider,
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my nanny and tutor for the kids.
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And she said that
her husband and her
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were testing positive for COVID.
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It was...
It's really scary.
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Uh! We got everybody together.
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If it would have just been me
and my kids
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doing Ari's birthday party,
at our house,
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the only point of exposure
we would've had to worry about
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was whether or not
Kody was going somewhere.
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And that's why he's done
what he's done.
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And...
But we got everybody together.
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And right now there's a
possibility that we all have COVID.
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Uh! And it's because
we got together.
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And I don't wanna...
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I don't want this to make us all go,
okay, well we can't do this anymore.
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The first thing that happened when
Robyn told me this is I'm like, holy cow!
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She... She's been
doing everything right.
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How did she get exposed
to COVID?
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I'm going,
this virus is just scary.
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She was so sad,
she was so upset.
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And she's... They don't
know for sure where they got it.
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Last time the nanny was over
at our house was Thursday.
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We had the party on Saturday.
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Um, I found out that her
husband tested positive on Sunday.
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And then I found out that
she tested positive on Tuesday.
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This just validates Kody that
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you know, maybe getting together
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is a little bit too much
of a risk.
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I don't know.
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It's just really, really hard
and frustrating and um...
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I'm just praying
that we're okay.
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Can you guys tell me
what we're doing today?
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We're getting a COVID test.
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Oh.
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I know logically
I haven't done anything wrong.
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But it's still something
that makes me feel bad.
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Kody actually called us and told
us that Robyn's nanny got COVID.
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I'm just gonna be honest with
you, and I know it's partially evil
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but I just chuckled a
little bit at the irony of it.
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[Kody] Hey, Ariella.
Hey, Sol.
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Can you guys tell me
what we're doing today?
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Oh.
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We're getting tested today because
our nanny, she came down with COVID.
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We haven't had any symptoms
so far.
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So, we just...
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We're hoping that means
everything is okay.
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Ari do you wanna tell us
what we're doing today?
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[snoring]
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Oh.
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So we just barely had
Ariella's birthday party
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and we could be exposed
to this virus.
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And we are at the fairgrounds of
our county where we're doing the test.
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We're gonna go get a COVID test.
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- Uh!
- Uh.
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I don't know, there's a
part of me that just feels bad
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that it is coming
from my household.
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It's so disappointing to me
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because I worked so damn hard.
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We've scheduled a test and
now we're gonna go get a test.
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And I guess in a couple days
we'll get results
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and we'll see
if the family has COVID,
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not just us
but the whole family.
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[Kody] The whole family
has to test.
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After Ariella's birthday
was over,
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Kody actually called us
and told us
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that Robyn's nanny got COVID.
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I'm just gonna be
honest with you,
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I know it's partially evil,
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but I just chuckle a
little bit at the irony of it.
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I feel mostly bad for the nanny,
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she's gotta just
feel devastated.
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- [man] How many you got in here?
- [Kody] Uh...
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- Six.
- Six.
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[man] Oh, man.
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There's some irony here.
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I'm sorry, I have to
just say there's irony.
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I've kept safe and I don't
keep all of Kody's rules.
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- [man] That's all of them?
- That's all of them.
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[Kody] They're all scheduled
at the same time, too.
240
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- [man] That's fine.
- All right.
241
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We've all been exposed
to COVID now.
242
00:13:21,902 --> 00:13:25,136
So I find it just absolutely ironic
that it's come through the nanny,
243
00:13:25,138 --> 00:13:27,172
and nothing wrong
with what she's done,
244
00:13:27,174 --> 00:13:30,942
I feel so bad for her,
that's just gotta be tough.
245
00:13:30,944 --> 00:13:33,044
Um, but yeah,
we're all now exposed.
246
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[man] You guys done this before?
247
00:13:35,549 --> 00:13:36,481
- No.
- No.
248
00:13:36,483 --> 00:13:38,049
[man] I'll explain.
249
00:13:38,051 --> 00:13:40,652
[Kody] We're literally supposed
to drool down these straws
250
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into the vial.
251
00:13:42,189 --> 00:13:44,088
Hand that to Breanna.
252
00:13:44,090 --> 00:13:47,659
Take the lid off the vial, take the
straw out and sort of spit into the straw
253
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so it hits into the vial.
254
00:13:49,296 --> 00:13:52,130
[Meri] In the past week,
I have taken two COVID tests.
255
00:13:52,132 --> 00:13:53,865
One of them was the...
256
00:13:53,867 --> 00:13:57,202
the brain root canal
257
00:13:57,204 --> 00:13:59,671
where they shove
the thing up your nose.
258
00:13:59,673 --> 00:14:01,072
That was not very comfortable.
259
00:14:01,074 --> 00:14:02,807
Okay, Ari.
260
00:14:02,809 --> 00:14:04,242
I'm gonna need you
to take your mask off
261
00:14:04,244 --> 00:14:06,311
and I need you to sort of
spit into that straw.
262
00:14:06,313 --> 00:14:09,480
The other one
was the saliva test
263
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where you gotta spit
into a... little vial.
264
00:14:15,088 --> 00:14:16,888
And that was kind of nasty.
265
00:14:16,890 --> 00:14:18,356
If I have to do it again,
266
00:14:18,358 --> 00:14:21,226
it's definitely going to be
the brain root canal.
267
00:14:21,228 --> 00:14:24,629
Okay, I know, it doesn't really
go up into your brain, but...
268
00:14:26,365 --> 00:14:28,099
I think I prefer that
than the spitting.
269
00:14:28,101 --> 00:14:30,034
[giggling] Just saying.
270
00:14:30,703 --> 00:14:32,337
It's gross, isn't it?
271
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[Robyn] We got little kids we're
trying to work through really fast.
272
00:14:35,408 --> 00:14:37,709
We got little kids
we're trying to work through.
273
00:14:37,711 --> 00:14:39,577
- [man] Take you guys' time, there's no rush.
- All right.
274
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- [Robyn] Okay.
- [slurping noise]
275
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Oh, I just sucked!
276
00:14:42,716 --> 00:14:44,148
Oh! I'm gonna vomit.
277
00:14:44,150 --> 00:14:45,116
[laughs]
278
00:14:45,118 --> 00:14:46,818
Oh, man.
279
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You're sitting there spitting,
paying attention to the kids
280
00:14:48,855 --> 00:14:50,388
and you sort of lose your focus.
281
00:14:50,390 --> 00:14:53,324
And I sort of sucked back up
with the straw
282
00:14:53,326 --> 00:14:56,394
'cause, I mean, like, a
straw is designed for sucking,
283
00:14:56,396 --> 00:14:58,162
not for blowing, right?
284
00:14:58,164 --> 00:14:59,363
Oh!
285
00:14:59,365 --> 00:15:00,899
And I suck it back up
and little bit and I'm like...
286
00:15:00,901 --> 00:15:02,867
"Ah! Oh, gosh!"
287
00:15:02,869 --> 00:15:05,003
It was... I mean, like...
288
00:15:05,005 --> 00:15:06,971
the gag reflex is so high.
289
00:15:06,973 --> 00:15:10,942
And since I just did that
I'm really suspicious
290
00:15:10,944 --> 00:15:13,678
that Sol and Ari will do it like
crazy because they're just little.
291
00:15:14,980 --> 00:15:16,447
Ah, man.
292
00:15:16,449 --> 00:15:18,650
Oh, it's just a gross process.
293
00:15:19,451 --> 00:15:21,185
[Robyn] Spit, spit, spit.
Spit some more.
294
00:15:21,187 --> 00:15:23,021
[Christine] I'm just gonna
tell you, to be honest,
295
00:15:23,023 --> 00:15:25,189
I'm glad it wasn't me
or one of my kids
296
00:15:25,191 --> 00:15:27,091
that infected everybody.
297
00:15:27,093 --> 00:15:29,827
'Cause then it would be,
like, pointing fingers
298
00:15:29,829 --> 00:15:32,797
and, "See? I told you not to
travel and you did anyway..."
299
00:15:32,799 --> 00:15:35,199
And honestly, Kody would
just feel more vindicated
300
00:15:35,201 --> 00:15:37,936
if it ended up being one of us
that got everybody sick.
301
00:15:38,437 --> 00:15:39,938
So...
302
00:15:40,839 --> 00:15:42,307
that's terrible
to even say, but...
303
00:15:44,710 --> 00:15:45,977
It's a spitting competition.
304
00:15:45,979 --> 00:15:47,879
Spit some more. Good girl.
305
00:15:47,881 --> 00:15:49,814
- One more.
- There you go, keep going.
306
00:15:49,816 --> 00:15:53,017
I'm afraid now that the people
who finally got to the point
307
00:15:53,019 --> 00:15:55,253
where it was safe
for the family to get together
308
00:15:55,255 --> 00:15:57,455
will kind of, like, retrench.
309
00:15:57,457 --> 00:16:01,359
"No, no more family stuff!"
Because obviously we're risky.
310
00:16:02,161 --> 00:16:03,361
We're done.
311
00:16:03,363 --> 00:16:04,896
This is everything
Kody's been worried about
312
00:16:04,898 --> 00:16:07,065
and someone got COVID and...
313
00:16:07,067 --> 00:16:10,435
this is gonna put enough
of a fear factor into the family
314
00:16:10,437 --> 00:16:12,136
that we're not gonna
hang out again.
315
00:16:12,138 --> 00:16:13,705
We're not.
316
00:16:13,707 --> 00:16:16,474
Okay, this is her lid, I don't
want anybody touching that lid.
317
00:16:16,476 --> 00:16:18,142
Mama, is that enough?
318
00:16:18,144 --> 00:16:19,344
I don't know, hold on.
319
00:16:19,346 --> 00:16:20,678
Spit all over it.
320
00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:23,915
I don't want to stop
getting together,
321
00:16:23,917 --> 00:16:28,686
but if somebody gets sick when
they're following these extreme protocols,
322
00:16:28,688 --> 00:16:33,024
I don't know that getting
together is a possibility.
323
00:16:33,026 --> 00:16:35,093
I just don't know
how to play this.
324
00:16:35,461 --> 00:16:36,527
There's mine.
325
00:16:36,962 --> 00:16:38,262
Done.
326
00:16:38,264 --> 00:16:42,233
I know, logically, I haven't
done anything wrong
327
00:16:42,235 --> 00:16:46,104
but it's still something
that makes me feel bad.
328
00:16:46,106 --> 00:16:47,238
- Thank you!
- Thank you very much.
329
00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:49,507
- [woman] Have a great day.
- Thanks. You, too.
330
00:16:49,509 --> 00:16:53,111
[Christine] I think that this is going to
make it so we don't hang out anymore.
331
00:16:53,113 --> 00:16:54,278
But to be honest with you,
332
00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:58,016
things are bad
between Kody and I.
333
00:16:58,417 --> 00:16:59,817
They're just bad.
334
00:16:59,819 --> 00:17:04,288
And getting together,
honestly was really difficult.
335
00:17:04,290 --> 00:17:06,891
I loved being there for Ari,
it was wonderful.
336
00:17:06,893 --> 00:17:08,393
I loved that my kids
got together.
337
00:17:09,228 --> 00:17:10,628
But it was really hard for me.
338
00:17:11,397 --> 00:17:12,363
Hand them to me.
339
00:17:12,365 --> 00:17:14,031
All right, that wasn't so bad,
was it?
340
00:17:16,001 --> 00:17:19,270
[Christine] It's really hard to see
Kody have functioning relationships.
341
00:17:19,272 --> 00:17:22,440
And I don't need to see that.
342
00:17:22,442 --> 00:17:24,008
I really don't.
343
00:17:24,010 --> 00:17:26,511
It doesn't do
any of us any good.
344
00:17:26,513 --> 00:17:30,048
I mean, the girls talk about how
he's different when I'm not around.
345
00:17:30,050 --> 00:17:31,883
So it's like...
346
00:17:31,885 --> 00:17:35,553
well, it may probably be easier if I
wasn't there around everybody else, too.
347
00:17:39,992 --> 00:17:41,893
What, so he gets to have
an intimate marriage
348
00:17:41,895 --> 00:17:44,095
with other wives,
but not with me?
349
00:17:44,097 --> 00:17:46,697
And I'm, what, gonna have
nothing for the rest of my life?
350
00:17:46,699 --> 00:17:48,066
I'm not...
351
00:17:48,967 --> 00:17:50,435
okay with that.
352
00:17:50,437 --> 00:17:54,072
She said, "I don't want you
staying in my room anymore."
353
00:17:54,074 --> 00:17:56,207
She's like, "My room is
a special place to me
354
00:17:56,209 --> 00:17:58,176
and nothing special
happens there for us."
355
00:17:58,178 --> 00:18:00,011
I don't know if this is a phase
356
00:18:00,013 --> 00:18:01,712
or if this is just an awakening.
357
00:18:19,364 --> 00:18:20,398
[Christine sighs]
358
00:18:21,433 --> 00:18:22,600
Mmm.
359
00:18:24,269 --> 00:18:26,170
There's a fine balance
between...
360
00:18:26,805 --> 00:18:27,839
[sighs]
361
00:18:27,841 --> 00:18:30,408
saying too much
and saying enough
362
00:18:30,410 --> 00:18:33,411
and feeling like
you have a voice.
363
00:18:33,812 --> 00:18:34,946
And...
364
00:18:36,381 --> 00:18:39,016
I haven't known how much to say.
365
00:18:40,018 --> 00:18:41,085
[sighs]
366
00:18:42,221 --> 00:18:43,454
Anyway.
367
00:18:45,090 --> 00:18:46,991
We finished... Last week...
368
00:18:48,127 --> 00:18:49,627
we finished putting in my door.
369
00:18:54,166 --> 00:18:56,868
- Do you want a ladder?
- Hmm.
370
00:18:56,870 --> 00:18:58,269
[grunts] You know what?
371
00:18:58,271 --> 00:19:00,671
I think the stairs are
gonna be enough, Christine.
372
00:19:00,673 --> 00:19:02,440
- Cool.
- Okay...
373
00:19:03,442 --> 00:19:05,576
We have a bedroom that's a loft
374
00:19:05,578 --> 00:19:07,945
and part of it is where I work
375
00:19:07,947 --> 00:19:09,113
and my office and stuff,
376
00:19:09,115 --> 00:19:13,217
and so it's separated
and stuff by a wall.
377
00:19:13,219 --> 00:19:14,352
I don't know the answer here.
378
00:19:14,354 --> 00:19:15,920
[Christine] All right. Well,
let me get on that side.
379
00:19:15,922 --> 00:19:18,990
Here, how about
if we trade places
380
00:19:18,992 --> 00:19:20,825
and I hold up the door and
you look at it from this angle
381
00:19:20,827 --> 00:19:22,326
and see what you see then.
382
00:19:22,328 --> 00:19:25,229
[Kody] Yeah, it's not about that
angle, it's about the threshold.
383
00:19:27,132 --> 00:19:28,432
[exhales]
384
00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,435
So we put on the door, and
the whole time we're finishing...
385
00:19:31,437 --> 00:19:32,570
Oh, God.
386
00:19:34,306 --> 00:19:35,973
[sighs]
387
00:19:37,209 --> 00:19:38,843
The whole time
we're putting in the door,
388
00:19:38,845 --> 00:19:40,211
he keeps talking about the cat.
389
00:19:40,213 --> 00:19:42,947
And he's like, I don't want the
cat to get into your inventory.
390
00:19:42,949 --> 00:19:44,849
This is all about,
it's to keep the cat out."
391
00:19:44,851 --> 00:19:46,417
Over and over and over
about the cat.
392
00:19:46,419 --> 00:19:48,886
And it's true, I don't want
the cat up in my room.
393
00:19:48,888 --> 00:19:50,388
After we were done,
we came upstairs
394
00:19:50,390 --> 00:19:53,891
and he's sitting
in the office area
395
00:19:53,893 --> 00:19:55,960
and I said, "Okay,
I need to know.
396
00:19:56,929 --> 00:19:59,330
Is the door just about the cat?
397
00:19:59,332 --> 00:20:03,367
And it's not about us having
an intimate side of our marriage."
398
00:20:04,069 --> 00:20:06,003
And he goes,
399
00:20:06,005 --> 00:20:07,705
"I'm not really interested
in that anymore."
400
00:20:14,112 --> 00:20:15,546
I really wasn't...
401
00:20:17,983 --> 00:20:19,217
Sorry, the kids are downstairs.
402
00:20:19,219 --> 00:20:20,418
[distant thuds]
403
00:20:20,420 --> 00:20:22,353
Anyways, like,
"I really, I'm not interested
404
00:20:22,355 --> 00:20:24,355
in having an intimate
marriage anymore.
405
00:20:25,123 --> 00:20:27,225
I don't like your behavior.
406
00:20:27,227 --> 00:20:30,161
We'll see if you can be a
good sister wife," and all this.
407
00:20:30,163 --> 00:20:33,598
And I'm like, "Okay, so you don't
want us to have an intimate marriage?"
408
00:20:34,366 --> 00:20:35,700
And he goes, "No."
409
00:20:35,702 --> 00:20:37,468
And I'm like,
"That's not enough for me.
410
00:20:37,470 --> 00:20:39,003
I can't not have
an intimate marriage."
411
00:20:39,005 --> 00:20:41,272
And he goes, "People do it
all the time.
412
00:20:42,407 --> 00:20:45,009
I know couples that don't
have intimate marriages."
413
00:20:46,545 --> 00:20:49,247
And... that was it.
414
00:20:49,249 --> 00:20:51,282
And then... [sighs]
415
00:20:51,284 --> 00:20:52,383
I don't even remember.
416
00:20:52,385 --> 00:20:55,119
We talked a little bit longer
but then I just...
417
00:20:55,121 --> 00:20:57,888
I went to bed alone
and he stayed working.
418
00:20:57,890 --> 00:21:00,958
And this morning was so awkward.
419
00:21:02,461 --> 00:21:03,694
And he just went downstairs,
420
00:21:03,696 --> 00:21:05,463
made himself breakfast and left.
421
00:21:08,166 --> 00:21:09,367
And, what? It's over?
422
00:21:12,070 --> 00:21:14,171
I don't know,
I don't know what to do.
423
00:21:14,940 --> 00:21:16,040
[sighs wearily]
424
00:21:16,042 --> 00:21:19,377
I have no interest
in having a marriage...
425
00:21:19,379 --> 00:21:21,078
What, so he gets to have
an intimate marriage
426
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,481
with other wives
but not with me?
427
00:21:23,483 --> 00:21:26,517
And I'm, what, gonna have
nothing for the rest of my life?
428
00:21:28,287 --> 00:21:29,387
I don't know what to do.
429
00:21:30,455 --> 00:21:31,722
I'm heartbroken.
430
00:21:33,025 --> 00:21:35,092
My heart's shattered,
to be honest with you.
431
00:21:37,796 --> 00:21:39,163
When we went out
for our anniversary,
432
00:21:39,165 --> 00:21:40,631
we went out for our anniversary
433
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,101
and we came home
and just fell asleep, and I...
434
00:21:45,170 --> 00:21:46,637
I've known,
of course I've known,
435
00:21:46,639 --> 00:21:48,539
it's not that I'm dumb.
436
00:21:48,541 --> 00:21:52,176
And he said a while ago that he
wasn't attracted to me or anything.
437
00:21:52,344 --> 00:21:54,679
So... [sighs]
438
00:21:54,681 --> 00:21:57,248
I just thought that maybe
it would get better...
439
00:21:58,717 --> 00:22:00,184
But it's over.
440
00:22:00,186 --> 00:22:02,186
The intimate part
of our marriage is over.
441
00:22:03,255 --> 00:22:05,089
And, to be honest...
442
00:22:06,091 --> 00:22:07,658
[sighs]
443
00:22:07,660 --> 00:22:11,929
I'm not okay with that.
444
00:22:11,931 --> 00:22:15,032
I'm not okay with staying in a
marriage where there's no intimacy.
445
00:22:15,034 --> 00:22:16,100
That's not a real marriage.
446
00:22:16,102 --> 00:22:18,703
I'm not interested
in a half marriage,
447
00:22:18,705 --> 00:22:21,138
or a partial marriage,
or whatever we have.
448
00:22:21,940 --> 00:22:23,541
And... I don't know.
449
00:22:25,944 --> 00:22:27,044
[sucks teeth]
450
00:22:27,046 --> 00:22:29,113
What, it's all based
on my behavior?
451
00:22:29,948 --> 00:22:31,048
[scoffs]
452
00:22:31,817 --> 00:22:33,117
[sighs wearily]
453
00:22:53,305 --> 00:22:55,473
So, I just got out
of Christine's house.
454
00:22:55,475 --> 00:22:57,108
Well, I wasn't in the house,
I was in the backyard
455
00:22:57,110 --> 00:22:59,377
visiting with Truely and Ysabel.
456
00:22:59,379 --> 00:23:02,079
And when I was wrapping up
Christine was like,
457
00:23:02,081 --> 00:23:03,981
"Hey, I need to talk to you
458
00:23:03,983 --> 00:23:05,049
so can we have
a little visit?"
459
00:23:05,051 --> 00:23:06,183
And I'm like, "Sure."
460
00:23:07,052 --> 00:23:09,954
And she drops a bomb on me.
461
00:23:09,956 --> 00:23:12,456
Now I gotta admit
this isn't totally unexpected
462
00:23:12,891 --> 00:23:16,293
because honestly, she...
463
00:23:16,295 --> 00:23:20,731
hell, we've had serious troubles
in our marriage for 12 years.
464
00:23:23,335 --> 00:23:25,202
[Christine] I've reached
a point where
465
00:23:25,204 --> 00:23:26,404
almost every day is hard.
466
00:23:26,406 --> 00:23:27,905
Almost every day is hard.
467
00:23:27,907 --> 00:23:31,542
It's just hard to see
a silver lining every day.
468
00:23:31,544 --> 00:23:33,978
[Kody] When you don't have
trust, you don't have intimacy.
469
00:23:33,980 --> 00:23:38,349
And what became apparent to
Christine was the lack of intimacy.
470
00:23:38,351 --> 00:23:39,450
I'm miserable.
471
00:23:39,452 --> 00:23:41,085
I'm jealous as can be.
472
00:23:41,087 --> 00:23:43,387
I didn't know that I would be
a jealous person.
473
00:23:43,389 --> 00:23:45,990
And I am so jealous.
474
00:23:46,458 --> 00:23:47,725
Why are you not looking at me?
475
00:23:47,727 --> 00:23:49,059
I don't know. I don't know.
476
00:23:49,061 --> 00:23:50,227
I just... Whatever.
477
00:23:50,229 --> 00:23:52,930
Okay, I'll make the orders
and everybody else do it.
478
00:23:52,932 --> 00:23:54,432
Well, that's kind of
how we have to do it.
479
00:23:54,434 --> 00:23:55,466
Then you'll have
somebody to blame.
480
00:23:55,468 --> 00:23:57,168
'Cause if we disagree,
you'll just get mad.
481
00:23:57,170 --> 00:23:58,536
'Cause you guys don't like it
when you're blamed.
482
00:23:58,538 --> 00:24:00,604
No, I've been yelled at
for four days.
483
00:24:00,606 --> 00:24:02,273
You haven't been yelled at.
484
00:24:02,874 --> 00:24:04,575
Crybaby.
485
00:24:04,577 --> 00:24:07,211
I felt like I was
cutting you off too harshly.
486
00:24:07,213 --> 00:24:08,813
I was like,
"No, that'll never happen,
487
00:24:08,815 --> 00:24:10,214
we're not moving
back to Utah."
488
00:24:11,016 --> 00:24:15,085
And I feel bad, and I
wanna say I'm sorry.
489
00:24:15,087 --> 00:24:17,054
[Christine] I don't believe
him that he's sorry.
490
00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:20,591
[Kody sighs] Okay...
491
00:24:23,094 --> 00:24:24,695
I'm not gonna talk to you.
492
00:24:29,968 --> 00:24:31,669
Meri, I can't do marriage
with Kody anymore.
493
00:24:31,671 --> 00:24:33,137
I don't wanna...
494
00:24:33,139 --> 00:24:34,338
Just look at the mountain.
495
00:24:34,340 --> 00:24:36,040
[crying] I don't wanna
do it anymore.
496
00:24:39,845 --> 00:24:43,147
She said, "I don't want you
to stay in my room anymore."
497
00:24:43,149 --> 00:24:45,416
She's like, "My room is
a special place to me
498
00:24:45,418 --> 00:24:47,318
and nothing special
happens there for us."
499
00:24:48,386 --> 00:24:49,420
I'm like...
500
00:24:50,922 --> 00:24:52,189
"Okay.
501
00:24:52,257 --> 00:24:54,258
I know a lot of people have
marriages that are like this.
502
00:24:54,260 --> 00:24:55,626
Romance-free marriage."
503
00:24:56,895 --> 00:24:58,095
Um...
504
00:24:59,965 --> 00:25:01,265
She says, "Not for me.
505
00:25:01,267 --> 00:25:03,300
So I don't want you in my room.
506
00:25:03,702 --> 00:25:05,069
Go ahead and go on out.
507
00:25:05,136 --> 00:25:09,073
You can come visit the kids, but
don't plan on staying in my room."
508
00:25:10,408 --> 00:25:12,476
So, I don't know
what this really means.
509
00:25:12,478 --> 00:25:14,712
I don't know if this is a phase
510
00:25:14,714 --> 00:25:16,313
or if this is just an awakening.
511
00:25:17,048 --> 00:25:18,315
[snorts]
512
00:25:19,484 --> 00:25:22,319
The reason I wonder if
this is a phase with Christine
513
00:25:22,321 --> 00:25:24,321
or something else
514
00:25:24,323 --> 00:25:28,859
is because she's been telling
wives and adult children
515
00:25:28,861 --> 00:25:30,861
that she's wanted
to leave me for years.
516
00:25:30,863 --> 00:25:34,365
She tells me nothing special
happens in her room.
517
00:25:34,367 --> 00:25:37,468
Well, that's because
she's murdered our intimacy
518
00:25:38,036 --> 00:25:39,370
with betrayal.
519
00:25:40,071 --> 00:25:41,405
And the betrayal is the fact
520
00:25:41,407 --> 00:25:43,207
that I keep hearing
from other people
521
00:25:43,209 --> 00:25:44,975
that she's threatening to leave.
522
00:25:44,977 --> 00:25:47,077
And so I'm wondering
if that's just gonna pass.
523
00:25:47,079 --> 00:25:49,480
But the only thing
I can speculate on
524
00:25:49,482 --> 00:25:52,216
is the fact that
I don't feel intimate
525
00:25:52,218 --> 00:25:53,717
because I've been betrayed,
526
00:25:53,719 --> 00:25:56,487
because I'm constantly
hearing this thing.
527
00:25:56,489 --> 00:25:59,690
Every experience
that we've had this year,
528
00:25:59,692 --> 00:26:01,959
for years even,
has been an awakening.
529
00:26:02,561 --> 00:26:04,395
And I guess
I'm sitting here just...
530
00:26:05,030 --> 00:26:06,430
sort of dumbfounded.
531
00:26:06,432 --> 00:26:08,198
Why am I surprised?
532
00:26:10,869 --> 00:26:12,036
[Kody] And here we go.
533
00:26:12,437 --> 00:26:13,671
There's the house.
534
00:26:13,673 --> 00:26:16,106
- Wow.
- [girl] That's a big house.
535
00:26:16,641 --> 00:26:18,342
[Christine] I mean, bottom line,
536
00:26:18,344 --> 00:26:22,313
I think the biggest reason why I don't
really want to live all in one big house,
537
00:26:22,315 --> 00:26:26,850
I just like who I am more now.
538
00:26:26,852 --> 00:26:29,286
And everybody else is for it
and I'm the odd one out,
539
00:26:29,288 --> 00:26:30,487
I'm just gonna speak louder.
540
00:26:32,057 --> 00:26:33,223
I'm not gonna do it.
541
00:26:34,092 --> 00:26:35,158
I'm not.
542
00:26:36,494 --> 00:26:39,363
But I don't know right now
how serious to take her.
543
00:26:41,199 --> 00:26:43,267
I just don't know
how serious to take her
544
00:26:43,269 --> 00:26:45,102
when she says,
"Don't stay in my place,
545
00:26:45,104 --> 00:26:47,037
don't stay in my room
anymore."
546
00:26:47,039 --> 00:26:48,472
I don't even know
how to interpret that.
547
00:26:48,474 --> 00:26:50,574
I just... I just
basically said, "Okay.
548
00:26:51,109 --> 00:26:52,676
All right, uh..."
549
00:26:52,678 --> 00:26:55,179
Well, I wanted to think about it
550
00:26:55,181 --> 00:26:57,948
before I discussed it
any further with her.
551
00:26:58,950 --> 00:27:00,651
I'm shocked and dumbfounded,
552
00:27:00,653 --> 00:27:04,355
I gotta admit that while I'm
shocked, I shouldn't be surprised.
553
00:27:05,090 --> 00:27:07,891
It's weird. I just...
554
00:27:07,893 --> 00:27:10,227
Right now, right this moment,
I just don't know what to think.
555
00:27:13,832 --> 00:27:15,299
It is so heartbreaking
556
00:27:15,301 --> 00:27:17,901
to have his stuff everywhere.
557
00:27:17,903 --> 00:27:20,337
So I just decided
to pack up his stuff.
558
00:27:20,339 --> 00:27:22,373
And I put it all in the garage.
559
00:27:22,375 --> 00:27:23,607
[Kody] Something weird's
going on.
560
00:27:24,275 --> 00:27:25,509
"Kody's books."
561
00:27:26,444 --> 00:27:27,678
"Kody's books."
562
00:27:28,913 --> 00:27:30,047
"Kody's clothes."
563
00:27:30,049 --> 00:27:32,149
I guess I've been
moved out of the house.
564
00:27:46,364 --> 00:27:48,332
[Robyn] Everybody came over
for Ari's birthday.
565
00:27:48,334 --> 00:27:51,135
And then right after
we were all together
566
00:27:51,137 --> 00:27:53,971
I found out that my nanny
567
00:27:54,873 --> 00:27:57,174
had tested positive for COVID.
568
00:27:57,176 --> 00:27:59,076
I told everybody
and I just said,
569
00:27:59,078 --> 00:28:02,713
"Everybody needs to test
because this is a possibility."
570
00:28:02,715 --> 00:28:05,149
And now we're just waiting
for the results.
571
00:28:14,559 --> 00:28:16,060
[clears throat]
572
00:28:17,495 --> 00:28:19,263
So, good news.
573
00:28:19,265 --> 00:28:20,898
Our tests came back negative,
574
00:28:20,900 --> 00:28:22,232
the whole family.
575
00:28:22,234 --> 00:28:24,168
The whole family's tests
came back negative.
576
00:28:24,170 --> 00:28:25,703
Um...
577
00:28:25,705 --> 00:28:27,805
[sighs] I'm just so relieved.
578
00:28:27,807 --> 00:28:31,041
It was scary,
it was a scary few days
579
00:28:31,043 --> 00:28:33,377
of just, like, wondering
whether or not we all had COVID,
580
00:28:33,379 --> 00:28:34,945
or at least some of us.
581
00:28:34,947 --> 00:28:37,047
I don't know,
it was just really scary.
582
00:28:37,049 --> 00:28:40,217
And I just feel like we're super,
super lucky our tests are negative
583
00:28:40,219 --> 00:28:42,152
and I'm just so grateful.
584
00:28:42,154 --> 00:28:44,054
And...
585
00:28:44,056 --> 00:28:48,425
um, I guess we just need to be
really diligent about being careful.
586
00:28:48,427 --> 00:28:51,995
And... yeah.
587
00:28:51,997 --> 00:28:54,698
We're lucky, we're blessed.
God's taking care of us.
588
00:29:01,372 --> 00:29:04,942
We've been planning Mykelti's
baby shower for months now.
589
00:29:04,944 --> 00:29:07,311
So we went
to St. George, Utah,
590
00:29:07,313 --> 00:29:08,679
where the baby shower is.
591
00:29:08,681 --> 00:29:11,615
And it's... it's kinda nice
to get away right now.
592
00:29:11,617 --> 00:29:15,986
Mine and Kody's relationship could
use a little bit of... distance right now.
593
00:29:15,988 --> 00:29:18,689
But more than anything,
I'm just really excited
594
00:29:18,691 --> 00:29:21,125
to be in St. George
for Mykelti and support her.
595
00:29:21,993 --> 00:29:23,127
Hello!
596
00:29:23,129 --> 00:29:24,294
[posh voice] Hello!
597
00:29:24,296 --> 00:29:25,529
Hello, lovelies!
598
00:29:25,964 --> 00:29:27,364
Your gift's there.
599
00:29:28,299 --> 00:29:30,000
[Christine] We wanted
to make it accommodating
600
00:29:30,002 --> 00:29:34,204
so everybody in the family could come
to the baby shower if they wanted to.
601
00:29:34,206 --> 00:29:36,273
But they're not gonna make it.
602
00:29:36,275 --> 00:29:38,542
It's just gonna be me
and my girls that are going.
603
00:29:38,544 --> 00:29:40,344
And Aspyn'll come down
for it too.
604
00:29:40,979 --> 00:29:42,713
I was just saying...
605
00:29:45,784 --> 00:29:47,684
- [laughs]
- You need a garbage bag?
606
00:29:47,686 --> 00:29:50,220
I know to some people,
my view on COVID,
607
00:29:50,222 --> 00:29:52,256
and certainly some
of my kids' view on COVID,
608
00:29:52,258 --> 00:29:54,291
is very lax
to some people's standards.
609
00:29:54,293 --> 00:29:56,493
To Kody's,
to be honest with you.
610
00:29:56,495 --> 00:29:59,797
But we followed
all of the CDC regulations,
611
00:29:59,799 --> 00:30:04,034
we followed the party
regulations with this outdoor party...
612
00:30:04,036 --> 00:30:06,470
To me, I'm being
completely responsible.
613
00:30:06,472 --> 00:30:07,905
Guess what?
614
00:30:07,907 --> 00:30:09,439
None of my kids and I
have gotten COVID.
615
00:30:09,441 --> 00:30:12,543
So, we're not being
irresponsible at all.
616
00:30:13,678 --> 00:30:16,313
All right, now we have
another game, it's bingo.
617
00:30:16,315 --> 00:30:18,415
There's bingo cards
on every table.
618
00:30:20,985 --> 00:30:24,888
Yeah, home life is...
stressful right now.
619
00:30:24,890 --> 00:30:30,327
It's hard to be home,
it's hard to be around Kody.
620
00:30:30,329 --> 00:30:34,164
It's nice to get away
sometimes, it really honestly is.
621
00:30:34,166 --> 00:30:38,202
Gwendlyn and Ysabel both know
that things are hard,
622
00:30:38,204 --> 00:30:41,672
but Truely doesn't really
clock anything is different.
623
00:30:41,674 --> 00:30:43,640
I mean, for her,
624
00:30:43,642 --> 00:30:46,276
Kody's around just as
much as he was before.
625
00:30:46,278 --> 00:30:50,113
She hasn't even asked why he's
not around or anything like that.
626
00:30:50,949 --> 00:30:51,949
Thank you for coming!
627
00:30:51,951 --> 00:30:53,250
Whoo!
628
00:30:55,820 --> 00:30:57,187
I feel like I'm
in a transitionary
629
00:30:57,189 --> 00:31:00,824
kind of a space right now.
630
00:31:00,826 --> 00:31:02,426
Like, I don't know
what my future looks like.
631
00:31:02,428 --> 00:31:04,261
I don't know
what anything looks like.
632
00:31:04,263 --> 00:31:07,064
I don't wanna stay
in Flagstaff anymore,
633
00:31:07,066 --> 00:31:09,066
and I wanna go.
634
00:31:10,802 --> 00:31:14,338
I asked Kody not to stay
in my room anymore
635
00:31:14,340 --> 00:31:17,708
and not to sleep in my bed
anymore a few weeks ago.
636
00:31:17,710 --> 00:31:20,310
And he was shocked, he's like,
637
00:31:20,312 --> 00:31:22,212
"Okay, let's talk
about this later."
638
00:31:22,214 --> 00:31:23,647
And I said, "No."
639
00:31:24,015 --> 00:31:25,115
Um...
640
00:31:25,183 --> 00:31:28,685
"You're really not welcome
in my bedroom anymore."
641
00:31:28,687 --> 00:31:29,987
I just told him that flat-out.
642
00:31:29,989 --> 00:31:32,055
I'm like, "You don't
wanna be there."
643
00:31:32,057 --> 00:31:33,824
So I just said, "I don't
want you to stay in there."
644
00:31:33,826 --> 00:31:35,425
And he's like, "Well,
we'll discuss it later."
645
00:31:35,427 --> 00:31:39,096
And I'm like, "No. No,
there's no discussing it later.
646
00:31:39,098 --> 00:31:40,163
This is a final
647
00:31:40,165 --> 00:31:42,566
'I don't want you
in my bed'."
648
00:31:44,869 --> 00:31:48,171
And then I got to thinking
about what it would look like
649
00:31:48,173 --> 00:31:51,475
if he came back
to pack up all of his stuff.
650
00:31:51,477 --> 00:31:53,877
So that would mean that every
time he's over at my house, what,
651
00:31:53,879 --> 00:31:55,245
he's gonna be packing
652
00:31:55,247 --> 00:31:57,381
and not spending time
with the girls?
653
00:31:57,383 --> 00:31:59,917
So I just decided
to pack up his stuff.
654
00:31:59,919 --> 00:32:01,585
And I put it all in the garage.
655
00:32:06,124 --> 00:32:07,991
It is so heartbreaking
656
00:32:07,993 --> 00:32:10,594
to have his stuff everywhere
657
00:32:12,230 --> 00:32:15,198
and know that he doesn't
want me, he doesn't love me.
658
00:32:17,669 --> 00:32:20,037
He says he'll take care of me.
Anyway...
659
00:32:20,338 --> 00:32:21,571
He's not. He doesn't.
660
00:32:23,441 --> 00:32:26,343
And I promised myself
our last anniversary...
661
00:32:28,846 --> 00:32:30,781
It ended so sad.
662
00:32:30,783 --> 00:32:32,883
You know, I just told myself
I wouldn't do it again.
663
00:32:32,885 --> 00:32:34,651
I wouldn't have another
anniversary with him.
664
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,355
So I guess what
I want to do is...
665
00:32:39,023 --> 00:32:40,190
[exhales]
666
00:32:40,725 --> 00:32:42,025
Keep it nebulous
667
00:32:42,860 --> 00:32:46,964
and "normal" looking
as long as possible.
668
00:32:55,940 --> 00:32:57,341
I don't know what
to tell my kids.
669
00:33:03,247 --> 00:33:04,381
[crying]
670
00:33:06,985 --> 00:33:08,518
What did I do so wrong?
671
00:33:12,523 --> 00:33:14,658
I've always wanted
672
00:33:15,393 --> 00:33:18,495
romantic marriage and...
673
00:33:20,898 --> 00:33:25,002
it's been so hard
for so long.
674
00:33:30,408 --> 00:33:33,276
I feel like I don't have a
choice but to throw his stuff out.
675
00:33:33,945 --> 00:33:35,112
'Cause I can't...
676
00:33:35,114 --> 00:33:38,315
It's too heartbreaking
to be around his stuff.
677
00:33:38,317 --> 00:33:42,252
And it's too heartbreaking
to be around him,
678
00:33:42,254 --> 00:33:47,391
and watch him
with Robyn and Janelle
679
00:33:47,393 --> 00:33:49,493
and the kids and...
680
00:33:51,095 --> 00:33:52,262
[crying]
681
00:33:59,103 --> 00:34:00,971
I have to pack up his stuff...
682
00:34:02,373 --> 00:34:04,941
because it's too
heartbreaking to have it around.
683
00:34:07,178 --> 00:34:09,946
Anyway, this is it. [chuckles]
684
00:34:09,948 --> 00:34:11,148
The last of his stuff.
685
00:34:14,485 --> 00:34:15,585
God.
686
00:34:18,189 --> 00:34:19,556
This is hell.
687
00:34:20,124 --> 00:34:21,958
I don't know what to do.
688
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,327
I don't wanna live in Flagstaff
any more, I wanna move.
689
00:34:27,198 --> 00:34:28,398
I wanna go somewhere...
690
00:34:30,201 --> 00:34:32,602
where people wanna
be around us.
691
00:34:34,038 --> 00:34:35,505
Anyway. God.
692
00:34:36,007 --> 00:34:37,140
It's hard.
693
00:34:38,276 --> 00:34:40,243
Next time he comes over,
694
00:34:41,045 --> 00:34:44,047
he's gonna see
that his stuff isn't here,
695
00:34:44,049 --> 00:34:47,851
and that it's all empty, and
all of his boxes in the garage.
696
00:34:47,853 --> 00:34:49,386
And then,
I guess he'll find out.
697
00:34:59,130 --> 00:35:02,666
So last week, Garrison
started feeling really crappy.
698
00:35:02,668 --> 00:35:04,101
And then, the next day,
Gabe did.
699
00:35:04,103 --> 00:35:08,672
So they both went and got tested
for COVID, uh, five days ago or so.
700
00:35:08,674 --> 00:35:11,308
And a couple days later, it
came back that they were positive.
701
00:35:16,881 --> 00:35:20,317
So I'm in the car and I'm waiting for
Savannah to come out. [clears throat]
702
00:35:21,152 --> 00:35:23,253
We, uh, have to go do
our tests today
703
00:35:23,255 --> 00:35:24,988
'cause it's been
the right amount of days
704
00:35:24,990 --> 00:35:29,192
since Gabriel test... Gabriel
and Garrison tested positive.
705
00:35:29,194 --> 00:35:30,393
Savannah and I
are still feeling fine.
706
00:35:30,395 --> 00:35:32,095
I... I've picked up
a little bit of a cough today,
707
00:35:32,097 --> 00:35:34,197
but I don't feel like
it's COVID.
708
00:35:34,199 --> 00:35:38,502
It's just one of those
real productive things.
709
00:35:38,504 --> 00:35:41,171
Anyway, I'm not too worried
about it.
710
00:35:41,173 --> 00:35:44,107
But, uh, I guess...
711
00:35:45,209 --> 00:35:46,710
I guess we'll see.
712
00:35:46,712 --> 00:35:49,479
And so... I mean, Savannah
and I have kept our distance.
713
00:35:49,481 --> 00:35:54,251
We've been... I've been taking every
immune booster thing I can think of.
714
00:35:54,253 --> 00:35:55,919
I'm hoping I've escaped it.
715
00:35:55,921 --> 00:35:57,587
But, we'll know soon I guess.
716
00:36:12,103 --> 00:36:13,970
[Kody] Okay.
717
00:36:13,972 --> 00:36:16,106
The weirdest thing
just happened.
718
00:36:16,108 --> 00:36:21,011
I came out to the garage while
I was at Christine's house.
719
00:36:21,013 --> 00:36:23,680
And something weird is going on.
720
00:36:24,148 --> 00:36:25,415
Kody's books.
721
00:36:26,250 --> 00:36:27,617
Kody's books.
722
00:36:28,586 --> 00:36:29,953
Kody's clothes.
723
00:36:31,322 --> 00:36:32,355
Kody's clothes.
724
00:36:33,891 --> 00:36:34,991
Uh.
725
00:36:35,860 --> 00:36:37,561
I guess I've been moved out
of the house.
726
00:36:39,163 --> 00:36:40,730
Personally, I don't know what
to think about this.
727
00:36:41,098 --> 00:36:42,265
[chuckles]
728
00:36:44,168 --> 00:36:46,203
This is not something
we discussed.
729
00:36:54,412 --> 00:36:57,047
I'm having a hard time not
being a little frustrated by this.
730
00:37:07,124 --> 00:37:08,959
[Kody] So I came over
to Christine's again.
731
00:37:08,961 --> 00:37:13,363
And I noticed more, uh...
More boxes.
732
00:37:13,365 --> 00:37:17,234
Kody's nightstand. Kody's clothes
from dresser. Kody's bathroom stuff.
733
00:37:22,139 --> 00:37:24,074
I guess it's time for me
to talk to her about it.
734
00:37:24,942 --> 00:37:27,844
One, two, three, four, five,
735
00:37:27,846 --> 00:37:29,980
six, seven, eight, nine.
736
00:37:31,515 --> 00:37:33,350
Kody's dresser. Fragile.
737
00:37:33,352 --> 00:37:36,553
So I have been moved
out of my house.
738
00:37:36,555 --> 00:37:38,088
[clears throat]
739
00:37:42,893 --> 00:37:44,160
Now that we're here,
740
00:37:44,162 --> 00:37:46,429
and now that Kody's
not sleeping here anymore,
741
00:37:46,431 --> 00:37:48,131
I feel like I can take a breath.
742
00:37:48,799 --> 00:37:50,667
And get myself grounded.
743
00:37:51,402 --> 00:37:54,304
And get my head in a good place.
744
00:37:55,172 --> 00:37:56,273
And...
745
00:37:57,208 --> 00:38:00,243
just rest for a bit.
746
00:38:00,245 --> 00:38:02,445
And just settle
for a bit here...
747
00:38:03,281 --> 00:38:04,414
independent.
748
00:38:08,519 --> 00:38:10,053
I don't know how
I feel about this.
749
00:38:13,324 --> 00:38:14,557
Oh, there's another box.
750
00:38:16,527 --> 00:38:17,560
Jeez.
751
00:38:22,333 --> 00:38:23,600
Huh.
752
00:38:27,938 --> 00:38:30,040
I don't wanna take any of it
even out of here yet 'cause...
753
00:38:31,108 --> 00:38:32,309
Um...
754
00:38:33,210 --> 00:38:35,578
I honestly didn't know
she was this serious.
755
00:38:38,916 --> 00:38:42,485
I've had times past where
she's said something.
756
00:38:43,421 --> 00:38:45,355
I didn't feel like
she was serious.
757
00:38:45,357 --> 00:38:47,957
I don't know. I don't know
what it all means.
758
00:38:47,959 --> 00:38:49,459
I don't know what
the future looks like.
759
00:38:49,461 --> 00:38:52,028
I don't know what tomorrow
looks like.
760
00:38:52,030 --> 00:38:53,363
I don't know what
next week looks like.
761
00:38:53,365 --> 00:38:54,397
I don't know, I...
762
00:38:54,399 --> 00:38:56,232
There's so many uncertainties.
763
00:38:57,702 --> 00:39:00,870
Look, uh, Kody will come over
and he'll spend time with the kids.
764
00:39:00,872 --> 00:39:02,706
And then, he'll leave
and go somewhere else.
765
00:39:02,708 --> 00:39:04,174
And he won't sleep here
any more.
766
00:39:05,976 --> 00:39:09,212
Um, I think I need to talk to
her about how serious she is...
767
00:39:10,314 --> 00:39:14,017
Um, before I really decide
how I feel.
768
00:39:14,019 --> 00:39:15,385
Because if I decide...
769
00:39:16,253 --> 00:39:18,021
I mean, honestly, I'm...
770
00:39:19,523 --> 00:39:21,124
Thinking about it
a little bit, I'm...
771
00:39:22,927 --> 00:39:24,027
not angry.
772
00:39:24,495 --> 00:39:26,329
It appears to be a game.
773
00:39:26,331 --> 00:39:28,198
But it might not be,
I don't know.
774
00:39:29,333 --> 00:39:32,235
Throwing my clothes out. Taking
my stuff out. Taking everything.
775
00:39:32,970 --> 00:39:34,204
My clothes from the dresser.
776
00:39:35,673 --> 00:39:36,973
My books.
777
00:39:36,975 --> 00:39:38,074
Looks like a lot of books.
778
00:39:38,076 --> 00:39:39,242
I didn't know I read that much.
779
00:39:39,443 --> 00:39:40,944
My nightstand.
780
00:39:42,513 --> 00:39:44,547
Room stuff,
and then fragile stuff.
781
00:39:47,351 --> 00:39:48,451
Um...
782
00:39:51,989 --> 00:39:52,989
I don't know why.
783
00:39:52,991 --> 00:39:54,090
Uh...
784
00:39:54,392 --> 00:39:55,492
But I'm...
785
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:57,494
ambivalent.
786
00:39:57,496 --> 00:39:58,595
I...
787
00:40:01,332 --> 00:40:03,099
Uh, almost don't care.
788
00:40:05,903 --> 00:40:07,670
You can leave marriage
in our church.
789
00:40:09,974 --> 00:40:14,077
If it's a marriage like mine and Kody
had, where it's just a spiritual marriage,
790
00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:17,714
then they release
you spiritually.
791
00:40:17,716 --> 00:40:20,049
And they...
You go through them.
792
00:40:20,051 --> 00:40:24,387
As far as I'm concerned,
that's just between me and God.
793
00:40:27,324 --> 00:40:31,561
I think I'm more afraid
of what karmic value this has.
794
00:40:31,563 --> 00:40:34,464
The idea of divorce
seems tragic.
795
00:40:34,466 --> 00:40:37,467
Seems terrible on my faith.
796
00:40:37,469 --> 00:40:42,038
My belief system is kind
of anti-divorce, I suppose.
797
00:40:44,175 --> 00:40:45,475
I guess that's hypocritical.
798
00:40:48,846 --> 00:40:50,313
But I'm not bothered by this.
799
00:40:51,515 --> 00:40:53,082
Maybe it's just
my initial reaction.
800
00:40:53,084 --> 00:40:54,551
I should be bothered
by it, right?
801
00:40:58,155 --> 00:41:00,256
One first thought I have
is this is my house.
802
00:41:00,258 --> 00:41:01,424
This is my stuff.
803
00:41:02,393 --> 00:41:03,960
We never discussed this.
804
00:41:05,329 --> 00:41:06,596
Second thought I have is...
805
00:41:08,799 --> 00:41:09,933
relief.
806
00:41:12,870 --> 00:41:16,139
Some kind of relief
from the burden
807
00:41:16,974 --> 00:41:20,176
and the woe
of a loveless marriage.
808
00:41:25,816 --> 00:41:27,951
And the fear of the culpability
809
00:41:28,419 --> 00:41:30,053
for my behalf here
and my actions,
810
00:41:30,055 --> 00:41:33,056
and things that I've done wrong
in this that have led to this point.
811
00:41:40,431 --> 00:41:42,432
I'm not really talking
about how I really feel.
812
00:41:46,136 --> 00:41:47,704
Because I don't know what
that is right now.
813
00:41:50,307 --> 00:41:52,942
[host] Next time, on
Sister Wives: One on One.
814
00:41:52,944 --> 00:41:56,045
I'm sitting down with each one
of the Browns individually
815
00:41:56,047 --> 00:41:58,548
to talk about the biggest
events of this season.
816
00:41:58,550 --> 00:42:00,383
You emotionally have
abandoned them.
817
00:42:00,385 --> 00:42:01,951
I take offense to that word.
818
00:42:01,953 --> 00:42:03,820
- Emotionally--
- When Meri had an affair...
819
00:42:03,822 --> 00:42:06,756
If he wants to give up,
he can give up.
820
00:42:06,758 --> 00:42:08,958
I have been moved
out of my house.
821
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,727
What? So he gets to have
an intimate marriage
822
00:42:10,729 --> 00:42:12,395
with other wives
but not with me?
823
00:42:12,397 --> 00:42:15,331
I never said no, that we weren't
going to be intimate again.
824
00:42:15,333 --> 00:42:16,933
Where are you and Kody
right now?
825
00:42:16,935 --> 00:42:18,401
Kody and I are divorced.
826
00:42:18,403 --> 00:42:22,705
I don't see why giving up is an
option when you haven't actually tried.
827
00:42:22,707 --> 00:42:25,675
She made a choice that she was
never gonna have a functioning marriage.
828
00:42:25,677 --> 00:42:28,077
Did she ever hear you say
I don't want you to leave?
829
00:42:28,079 --> 00:42:29,245
No.
830
00:42:30,247 --> 00:42:31,347
The hardest time of my life.