1 00:00:02,202 --> 00:00:04,269 [narrator] Previously on Sister Wives. 2 00:00:04,271 --> 00:00:08,040 Today's Christmas Day and we're all gathering up to have Christmas together. 3 00:00:08,042 --> 00:00:10,275 [Kody] Does everybody see where their stocking is? 4 00:00:10,277 --> 00:00:12,811 [Christine] It's hard for the girls to respect their Dad 5 00:00:12,813 --> 00:00:15,514 when they see he has favorites. 6 00:00:19,686 --> 00:00:23,555 With Kody and I right now our relationship is pretty strained. 7 00:00:24,691 --> 00:00:26,392 Do I still choose plural marriage? 8 00:00:27,460 --> 00:00:29,194 You know, it'd be really easy. 9 00:00:29,196 --> 00:00:31,397 It's easy to walk away. 10 00:00:34,934 --> 00:00:39,271 [Meri] When Kody and I were doing really, really poorly 11 00:00:39,273 --> 00:00:41,940 I considered all options. 12 00:00:41,942 --> 00:00:44,143 - Tell me more, Christine-- - I'm not going to-- 13 00:00:44,145 --> 00:00:46,378 About this feeling about moving to Utah. 14 00:00:46,380 --> 00:00:49,948 What I hoped polygamy to be when I was younger 15 00:00:49,950 --> 00:00:52,017 ended up being something very different. 16 00:00:52,019 --> 00:00:55,521 Well, this is not a safe conversation anymore. I'm sorry, it's just not. 17 00:00:56,156 --> 00:00:58,390 I'm not gonna talk to you. 18 00:00:58,392 --> 00:01:02,261 [Christine] I used to be, anything you want, anything you say. 19 00:01:02,263 --> 00:01:03,495 I use to be that wife. 20 00:01:03,863 --> 00:01:05,330 And I'm not anymore. 21 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:43,402 [Kody] It's early January so we just got over Christmas. 22 00:01:43,404 --> 00:01:45,671 And we've all been, kind of, quarantined. 23 00:01:45,673 --> 00:01:48,674 Or, COVID careful for Christmas. 24 00:01:51,878 --> 00:01:55,848 Robyn called us all up and said, Ari has demanded 25 00:01:55,850 --> 00:01:59,551 that the whole family come and celebrate her on her birthday. 26 00:02:01,888 --> 00:02:04,056 [Kody] We've been able to get the family, they can test. 27 00:02:04,058 --> 00:02:07,292 So, we're able to get together for the... The whole family. 28 00:02:07,294 --> 00:02:08,560 The whole family's able to get together 29 00:02:08,562 --> 00:02:10,329 for this birthday party for Ariella. 30 00:02:15,068 --> 00:02:17,669 [Christine] We're gonna go celebrate Ariella's birthday at Robyn's house. 31 00:02:17,671 --> 00:02:19,338 So we all went and COVID tested. 32 00:02:19,340 --> 00:02:21,006 It's disgusting. 33 00:02:21,008 --> 00:02:23,075 The COVID tests are disgusting. 34 00:02:23,343 --> 00:02:24,342 [groaning] 35 00:02:26,079 --> 00:02:28,680 It's a drive thru, you have to do it yourself. 36 00:02:28,682 --> 00:02:30,449 [sneezes] 37 00:02:30,451 --> 00:02:32,951 [Christine] It's disgusting. You have to shove it up your nose. 38 00:02:32,953 --> 00:02:34,319 And swirl it around. 39 00:02:34,321 --> 00:02:35,821 Uh! The thought of it. 40 00:02:35,823 --> 00:02:39,124 -[Christine] Oh, a tissue. Thank you. -Thank you so much. 41 00:02:40,727 --> 00:02:44,930 [Christine] I think having the COVID test will make it so it's easier 42 00:02:44,932 --> 00:02:46,698 for us to hang out. 43 00:02:46,700 --> 00:02:48,700 Will it just smooth everything over? 44 00:02:49,068 --> 00:02:50,002 No. 45 00:02:50,004 --> 00:02:52,204 There's a lot of frustration. 46 00:02:52,206 --> 00:02:56,108 That has happened with how Kody's been with COVID. 47 00:02:56,110 --> 00:02:58,377 And how rigid he's been with COVID. 48 00:02:58,379 --> 00:03:02,381 That's really exhausting and exasperating for a lot of the family members. 49 00:03:03,049 --> 00:03:04,883 So, just because we can get COVID tests 50 00:03:04,885 --> 00:03:07,085 and hang out, doesn't mean that fixes everything. 51 00:03:12,392 --> 00:03:13,725 [Robyn] She's turning five. 52 00:03:13,793 --> 00:03:17,095 Everybody's tested so that we can get together for her birthday, 53 00:03:17,097 --> 00:03:19,698 and I'm so happy they're doing that. 54 00:03:22,268 --> 00:03:23,535 [Ariella screaming] 55 00:03:23,770 --> 00:03:26,205 Like, everybody's up close and personal, there's no masks. 56 00:03:26,207 --> 00:03:28,574 There's no distancing. This is awesome. 57 00:03:30,476 --> 00:03:32,578 [Robyn] Oh, my God! 58 00:03:32,580 --> 00:03:34,913 I'm really happy that it's Ariella's birthday. 59 00:03:34,915 --> 00:03:37,316 I'm glad that everybody is gathering here for her. 60 00:03:37,318 --> 00:03:40,185 Cause it's attention I want her to have. 61 00:03:40,187 --> 00:03:42,120 [Meri] Tell us what day is today. 62 00:03:43,122 --> 00:03:46,058 [Kody] But I'm still a little bit gun-shy 63 00:03:46,060 --> 00:03:50,195 from all this criticism from my older kids, 64 00:03:50,197 --> 00:03:53,298 about my management of COVID. 65 00:03:53,300 --> 00:03:55,234 You've got rules and regulations for work, 66 00:03:55,236 --> 00:03:57,803 why can't we have that for a family staying health? 67 00:03:57,805 --> 00:04:01,840 Cause we're a family. Why don't we just verbalize it and trust each other? 68 00:04:01,842 --> 00:04:05,177 Oh, therein lies the problem. Right there. 69 00:04:05,179 --> 00:04:08,880 It made me so upset the disrespect that I was getting 70 00:04:08,882 --> 00:04:12,951 that it pretty much ruined my holiday season. 71 00:04:12,953 --> 00:04:14,620 [happy birthday being sung] 72 00:04:20,093 --> 00:04:26,732 Maybe some of this is resulting from me not being at Isabelle's surgery. 73 00:04:28,101 --> 00:04:32,904 Um, the requirements that I had everybody make for Christmas. 74 00:04:32,906 --> 00:04:36,308 Um, the fact that I've been away from Janelle's house quite a bit. 75 00:04:36,976 --> 00:04:38,410 [happy birthday continues] 76 00:04:42,949 --> 00:04:45,083 [Kody] I'm having this experience with Ariella here. 77 00:04:45,585 --> 00:04:47,452 My job is to protect her. 78 00:04:48,121 --> 00:04:50,255 And my older kids 79 00:04:50,257 --> 00:04:54,893 have to start realizing that my world doesn't revolve around them 80 00:04:54,895 --> 00:04:56,862 once they're adults. 81 00:04:56,864 --> 00:05:00,399 My obligation is to my minor children. 82 00:05:00,401 --> 00:05:03,101 And then my obligation is to those children 83 00:05:03,103 --> 00:05:06,938 who decide they're gonna keep my rules, and go to school, 84 00:05:06,940 --> 00:05:08,607 I can help them out anyway that I can. 85 00:05:13,346 --> 00:05:15,981 [Janelle] We have never, with all of our kids, 86 00:05:15,983 --> 00:05:18,850 pushed them out the door when they turned 18. 87 00:05:18,852 --> 00:05:22,688 He wants his kids to come home but now all of a sudden when it doesn't suit him. 88 00:05:22,690 --> 00:05:24,222 We need to push them out the door at 18. 89 00:05:24,224 --> 00:05:25,757 I've done everything I can for them. 90 00:05:25,759 --> 00:05:28,226 I'm like, that doesn't even compute for me. 91 00:05:28,228 --> 00:05:30,262 There's adult children at Robyn's house. 92 00:05:32,131 --> 00:05:33,999 That aren't being pushed out. 93 00:05:34,001 --> 00:05:35,867 Because they're obeying the rules. 94 00:05:35,869 --> 00:05:37,269 [Ariella] Thank you! 95 00:05:38,705 --> 00:05:40,072 [Kody] Some of the kids are supporting me 96 00:05:40,074 --> 00:05:42,174 and some of the kids are not supporting me. 97 00:05:42,176 --> 00:05:46,278 And sometimes it feels like it's based upon what the mothers are doing. 98 00:05:46,280 --> 00:05:48,347 I've got one mother who has basically 99 00:05:48,349 --> 00:05:50,382 said to her children, we're all gonna do this. 100 00:05:50,384 --> 00:05:52,250 We're gonna support Dad. 101 00:05:52,252 --> 00:05:54,319 And we're gonna be careful about what we do. 102 00:05:54,321 --> 00:05:55,854 And here's the rules. 103 00:05:55,856 --> 00:05:57,122 You abide by Dad's rules. 104 00:05:57,124 --> 00:06:00,292 Or you'll have to figure out some other living arrangement. 105 00:06:00,993 --> 00:06:02,394 All right, Ariella, babe. 106 00:06:03,029 --> 00:06:04,963 You're my sweetie. 107 00:06:05,465 --> 00:06:07,332 And I love you so much. 108 00:06:07,900 --> 00:06:10,235 And you're so compassionate. 109 00:06:10,237 --> 00:06:13,071 And so good at being bossy. 110 00:06:13,073 --> 00:06:15,374 I think you're just really sweet, 111 00:06:15,376 --> 00:06:17,275 and that's the reason I call you my sweetie. 112 00:06:17,277 --> 00:06:19,611 Cheers to my sweetie. 113 00:06:21,781 --> 00:06:25,016 [Janelle] So what's happening here is, we toast the birthday person. 114 00:06:25,018 --> 00:06:28,120 It's a way to celebrate the person who's having the birthday. 115 00:06:28,122 --> 00:06:32,691 To Ariella, for being the only woman 116 00:06:32,693 --> 00:06:36,228 to ever greet me at the door with, "Wow! You're handsome." 117 00:06:36,230 --> 00:06:37,696 [everyone laughing] 118 00:06:39,365 --> 00:06:42,701 To the little girl who always knows how to make someone feel special, 119 00:06:42,703 --> 00:06:44,136 - I love you. - Aww! 120 00:06:44,138 --> 00:06:47,139 The toasting is like up there, with one of the best things ever. 121 00:06:47,141 --> 00:06:49,574 It's just great. It's always great. 122 00:06:49,576 --> 00:06:52,310 - You're a very, very sweet person. - You feel red. 123 00:06:52,312 --> 00:06:54,246 Oh, I am red, it's hot. Oh, God. 124 00:06:54,248 --> 00:06:57,249 - [boy] Are you blushing? - [Kody] Easy, easy there. 125 00:06:57,950 --> 00:06:59,885 I don't even know what's going on here. 126 00:06:59,887 --> 00:07:02,654 She is not [chuckles]. She is not shy. 127 00:07:02,656 --> 00:07:06,324 - [boy] She's just blushing. - [girl] She's blushing. 128 00:07:06,326 --> 00:07:09,094 - Will you get me something, please? - [girl] That was so mean. 129 00:07:09,096 --> 00:07:11,696 [Christine] I'm 48 years old. 130 00:07:11,698 --> 00:07:15,066 You'd think I'd be over blushing, for goodness sakes. 131 00:07:15,068 --> 00:07:18,970 Thank you, honey. That's exactly what I was hoping for. 132 00:07:18,972 --> 00:07:20,172 [Christine] Sometimes you just blush. 133 00:07:20,174 --> 00:07:24,209 And if you mention that I'm red, I'm gonna get redder. 134 00:07:24,211 --> 00:07:28,246 And what I love about you most is that you take care of people so well. 135 00:07:30,316 --> 00:07:33,552 No, I don't have a sunburn! I just blush for some reason, okay. 136 00:07:33,554 --> 00:07:35,420 Gosh, it's embarrassing. 137 00:07:35,422 --> 00:07:38,356 - [boy] Cheers. - Cheers! 138 00:07:41,194 --> 00:07:44,062 [Christine] Thank you Ari, I feel very special. 139 00:07:44,064 --> 00:07:46,698 [Robyn] The party was great and I know Ari loved it. 140 00:07:46,700 --> 00:07:48,967 And it was so nice to see everybody together. 141 00:07:48,969 --> 00:07:53,472 Everybody! There's grape, chocolate, grape, chocolate. 142 00:07:53,474 --> 00:07:58,877 [Kody] She's going around and she is the family's social lubricant. 143 00:07:58,879 --> 00:08:00,912 She's making the experience easy. 144 00:08:00,914 --> 00:08:03,882 [Robyn] She makes these by herself. 145 00:08:03,884 --> 00:08:06,384 [Christine] Now that we've figured out how to get together, 146 00:08:06,386 --> 00:08:09,020 I think that we should just hang out, like, once a month or so, 147 00:08:09,022 --> 00:08:10,489 just like we did before COVID. 148 00:08:12,225 --> 00:08:13,091 [Janelle] Okay, so we had Christmas, 149 00:08:13,093 --> 00:08:14,359 now we're doing Ari's birthday, 150 00:08:14,426 --> 00:08:16,895 we're talking about Kody's birthday in another week. 151 00:08:16,897 --> 00:08:20,665 I'm like, okay, the saliva testing and everything, this is good. 152 00:08:20,667 --> 00:08:21,966 We're moving forward. 153 00:08:23,970 --> 00:08:27,105 [Robyn] We've had a lot of time away from each other. 154 00:08:27,107 --> 00:08:29,441 It's making me very hopeful for the future. 155 00:08:43,990 --> 00:08:45,256 [heavy sigh] 156 00:08:49,829 --> 00:08:54,332 So, over the weekend we had a birthday party for Ariella. 157 00:08:54,334 --> 00:08:58,003 And the whole family tested and was able to get together. 158 00:08:58,005 --> 00:09:01,907 And, kinda have this time together was actually really cool. 159 00:09:01,909 --> 00:09:06,344 And, um, Ari was so happy that her family was there for her birthday. 160 00:09:06,346 --> 00:09:11,149 Well, after that, the next day I got a call from my childcare provider, 161 00:09:11,151 --> 00:09:14,252 my nanny and tutor for the kids. 162 00:09:14,254 --> 00:09:19,190 And she said that her husband and her 163 00:09:19,859 --> 00:09:22,093 were testing positive for COVID. 164 00:09:22,695 --> 00:09:24,563 It was... It's really scary. 165 00:09:25,698 --> 00:09:28,867 Uh! We got everybody together. 166 00:09:28,869 --> 00:09:30,936 If it would have just been me and my kids 167 00:09:30,938 --> 00:09:33,772 doing Ari's birthday party, at our house, 168 00:09:33,774 --> 00:09:36,041 the only point of exposure we would've had to worry about 169 00:09:36,043 --> 00:09:38,243 was whether or not Kody was going somewhere. 170 00:09:38,245 --> 00:09:40,378 And that's why he's done what he's done. 171 00:09:41,414 --> 00:09:44,950 And... But we got everybody together. 172 00:09:44,952 --> 00:09:49,588 And right now there's a possibility that we all have COVID. 173 00:09:49,590 --> 00:09:52,157 Uh! And it's because we got together. 174 00:09:52,159 --> 00:09:54,192 And I don't wanna... 175 00:09:54,194 --> 00:09:59,297 I don't want this to make us all go, okay, well we can't do this anymore. 176 00:10:03,703 --> 00:10:07,472 The first thing that happened when Robyn told me this is I'm like, holy cow! 177 00:10:07,474 --> 00:10:11,142 She... She's been doing everything right. 178 00:10:11,144 --> 00:10:13,445 How did she get exposed to COVID? 179 00:10:13,447 --> 00:10:16,848 I'm going, this virus is just scary. 180 00:10:16,850 --> 00:10:19,684 She was so sad, she was so upset. 181 00:10:19,686 --> 00:10:23,989 And she's... They don't know for sure where they got it. 182 00:10:23,991 --> 00:10:27,058 Last time the nanny was over at our house was Thursday. 183 00:10:27,060 --> 00:10:29,327 We had the party on Saturday. 184 00:10:29,329 --> 00:10:34,966 Um, I found out that her husband tested positive on Sunday. 185 00:10:34,968 --> 00:10:38,003 And then I found out that she tested positive on Tuesday. 186 00:10:38,005 --> 00:10:40,705 This just validates Kody that 187 00:10:42,508 --> 00:10:44,709 you know, maybe getting together 188 00:10:44,711 --> 00:10:46,177 is a little bit too much of a risk. 189 00:10:46,179 --> 00:10:47,379 I don't know. 190 00:10:47,381 --> 00:10:51,249 It's just really, really hard and frustrating and um... 191 00:10:56,989 --> 00:10:59,991 I'm just praying that we're okay. 192 00:11:09,001 --> 00:11:11,002 Can you guys tell me what we're doing today? 193 00:11:11,004 --> 00:11:13,071 We're getting a COVID test. 194 00:11:13,372 --> 00:11:14,339 Oh. 195 00:11:14,406 --> 00:11:17,909 I know logically I haven't done anything wrong. 196 00:11:17,911 --> 00:11:22,647 But it's still something that makes me feel bad. 197 00:11:22,649 --> 00:11:27,452 Kody actually called us and told us that Robyn's nanny got COVID. 198 00:11:27,454 --> 00:11:30,822 I'm just gonna be honest with you, and I know it's partially evil 199 00:11:30,824 --> 00:11:33,191 but I just chuckled a little bit at the irony of it. 200 00:11:42,134 --> 00:11:44,235 [Kody] Hey, Ariella. Hey, Sol. 201 00:11:44,237 --> 00:11:46,037 Can you guys tell me what we're doing today? 202 00:11:48,774 --> 00:11:50,241 Oh. 203 00:11:50,243 --> 00:11:53,511 We're getting tested today because our nanny, she came down with COVID. 204 00:11:53,513 --> 00:11:56,014 We haven't had any symptoms so far. 205 00:11:56,016 --> 00:11:57,982 So, we just... 206 00:11:57,984 --> 00:12:00,118 We're hoping that means everything is okay. 207 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:01,986 Ari do you wanna tell us what we're doing today? 208 00:12:02,955 --> 00:12:03,988 [snoring] 209 00:12:04,056 --> 00:12:05,290 Oh. 210 00:12:05,292 --> 00:12:07,826 So we just barely had Ariella's birthday party 211 00:12:07,828 --> 00:12:11,463 and we could be exposed to this virus. 212 00:12:11,465 --> 00:12:16,668 And we are at the fairgrounds of our county where we're doing the test. 213 00:12:16,670 --> 00:12:19,037 We're gonna go get a COVID test. 214 00:12:20,005 --> 00:12:22,607 - Uh! - Uh. 215 00:12:22,609 --> 00:12:24,909 I don't know, there's a part of me that just feels bad 216 00:12:24,911 --> 00:12:28,880 that it is coming from my household. 217 00:12:28,882 --> 00:12:30,415 It's so disappointing to me 218 00:12:30,417 --> 00:12:33,351 because I worked so damn hard. 219 00:12:33,353 --> 00:12:37,989 We've scheduled a test and now we're gonna go get a test. 220 00:12:37,991 --> 00:12:39,858 And I guess in a couple days we'll get results 221 00:12:39,860 --> 00:12:41,926 and we'll see if the family has COVID, 222 00:12:41,928 --> 00:12:44,529 not just us but the whole family. 223 00:12:44,531 --> 00:12:47,332 [Kody] The whole family has to test. 224 00:12:47,334 --> 00:12:49,033 After Ariella's birthday was over, 225 00:12:49,035 --> 00:12:51,035 Kody actually called us and told us 226 00:12:51,037 --> 00:12:53,404 that Robyn's nanny got COVID. 227 00:12:53,406 --> 00:12:55,273 I'm just gonna be honest with you, 228 00:12:55,275 --> 00:12:57,041 I know it's partially evil, 229 00:12:57,043 --> 00:12:59,177 but I just chuckle a little bit at the irony of it. 230 00:12:59,179 --> 00:13:00,812 I feel mostly bad for the nanny, 231 00:13:00,814 --> 00:13:02,680 she's gotta just feel devastated. 232 00:13:02,682 --> 00:13:04,516 - [man] How many you got in here? - [Kody] Uh... 233 00:13:04,518 --> 00:13:05,550 - Six. - Six. 234 00:13:05,552 --> 00:13:06,417 [man] Oh, man. 235 00:13:06,419 --> 00:13:07,886 There's some irony here. 236 00:13:07,888 --> 00:13:10,421 I'm sorry, I have to just say there's irony. 237 00:13:10,423 --> 00:13:13,958 I've kept safe and I don't keep all of Kody's rules. 238 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:16,127 - [man] That's all of them? - That's all of them. 239 00:13:16,129 --> 00:13:18,062 [Kody] They're all scheduled at the same time, too. 240 00:13:18,064 --> 00:13:19,998 - [man] That's fine. - All right. 241 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:21,900 We've all been exposed to COVID now. 242 00:13:21,902 --> 00:13:25,136 So I find it just absolutely ironic that it's come through the nanny, 243 00:13:25,138 --> 00:13:27,172 and nothing wrong with what she's done, 244 00:13:27,174 --> 00:13:30,942 I feel so bad for her, that's just gotta be tough. 245 00:13:30,944 --> 00:13:33,044 Um, but yeah, we're all now exposed. 246 00:13:34,346 --> 00:13:35,547 [man] You guys done this before? 247 00:13:35,549 --> 00:13:36,481 - No. - No. 248 00:13:36,483 --> 00:13:38,049 [man] I'll explain. 249 00:13:38,051 --> 00:13:40,652 [Kody] We're literally supposed to drool down these straws 250 00:13:41,253 --> 00:13:42,187 into the vial. 251 00:13:42,189 --> 00:13:44,088 Hand that to Breanna. 252 00:13:44,090 --> 00:13:47,659 Take the lid off the vial, take the straw out and sort of spit into the straw 253 00:13:47,661 --> 00:13:49,294 so it hits into the vial. 254 00:13:49,296 --> 00:13:52,130 [Meri] In the past week, I have taken two COVID tests. 255 00:13:52,132 --> 00:13:53,865 One of them was the... 256 00:13:53,867 --> 00:13:57,202 the brain root canal 257 00:13:57,204 --> 00:13:59,671 where they shove the thing up your nose. 258 00:13:59,673 --> 00:14:01,072 That was not very comfortable. 259 00:14:01,074 --> 00:14:02,807 Okay, Ari. 260 00:14:02,809 --> 00:14:04,242 I'm gonna need you to take your mask off 261 00:14:04,244 --> 00:14:06,311 and I need you to sort of spit into that straw. 262 00:14:06,313 --> 00:14:09,480 The other one was the saliva test 263 00:14:09,482 --> 00:14:15,086 where you gotta spit into a... little vial. 264 00:14:15,088 --> 00:14:16,888 And that was kind of nasty. 265 00:14:16,890 --> 00:14:18,356 If I have to do it again, 266 00:14:18,358 --> 00:14:21,226 it's definitely going to be the brain root canal. 267 00:14:21,228 --> 00:14:24,629 Okay, I know, it doesn't really go up into your brain, but... 268 00:14:26,365 --> 00:14:28,099 I think I prefer that than the spitting. 269 00:14:28,101 --> 00:14:30,034 [giggling] Just saying. 270 00:14:30,703 --> 00:14:32,337 It's gross, isn't it? 271 00:14:32,339 --> 00:14:35,406 [Robyn] We got little kids we're trying to work through really fast. 272 00:14:35,408 --> 00:14:37,709 We got little kids we're trying to work through. 273 00:14:37,711 --> 00:14:39,577 - [man] Take you guys' time, there's no rush. - All right. 274 00:14:39,579 --> 00:14:41,312 - [Robyn] Okay. - [slurping noise] 275 00:14:41,314 --> 00:14:42,714 Oh, I just sucked! 276 00:14:42,716 --> 00:14:44,148 Oh! I'm gonna vomit. 277 00:14:44,150 --> 00:14:45,116 [laughs] 278 00:14:45,118 --> 00:14:46,818 Oh, man. 279 00:14:46,820 --> 00:14:48,853 You're sitting there spitting, paying attention to the kids 280 00:14:48,855 --> 00:14:50,388 and you sort of lose your focus. 281 00:14:50,390 --> 00:14:53,324 And I sort of sucked back up with the straw 282 00:14:53,326 --> 00:14:56,394 'cause, I mean, like, a straw is designed for sucking, 283 00:14:56,396 --> 00:14:58,162 not for blowing, right? 284 00:14:58,164 --> 00:14:59,363 Oh! 285 00:14:59,365 --> 00:15:00,899 And I suck it back up and little bit and I'm like... 286 00:15:00,901 --> 00:15:02,867 "Ah! Oh, gosh!" 287 00:15:02,869 --> 00:15:05,003 It was... I mean, like... 288 00:15:05,005 --> 00:15:06,971 the gag reflex is so high. 289 00:15:06,973 --> 00:15:10,942 And since I just did that I'm really suspicious 290 00:15:10,944 --> 00:15:13,678 that Sol and Ari will do it like crazy because they're just little. 291 00:15:14,980 --> 00:15:16,447 Ah, man. 292 00:15:16,449 --> 00:15:18,650 Oh, it's just a gross process. 293 00:15:19,451 --> 00:15:21,185 [Robyn] Spit, spit, spit. Spit some more. 294 00:15:21,187 --> 00:15:23,021 [Christine] I'm just gonna tell you, to be honest, 295 00:15:23,023 --> 00:15:25,189 I'm glad it wasn't me or one of my kids 296 00:15:25,191 --> 00:15:27,091 that infected everybody. 297 00:15:27,093 --> 00:15:29,827 'Cause then it would be, like, pointing fingers 298 00:15:29,829 --> 00:15:32,797 and, "See? I told you not to travel and you did anyway..." 299 00:15:32,799 --> 00:15:35,199 And honestly, Kody would just feel more vindicated 300 00:15:35,201 --> 00:15:37,936 if it ended up being one of us that got everybody sick. 301 00:15:38,437 --> 00:15:39,938 So... 302 00:15:40,839 --> 00:15:42,307 that's terrible to even say, but... 303 00:15:44,710 --> 00:15:45,977 It's a spitting competition. 304 00:15:45,979 --> 00:15:47,879 Spit some more. Good girl. 305 00:15:47,881 --> 00:15:49,814 - One more. - There you go, keep going. 306 00:15:49,816 --> 00:15:53,017 I'm afraid now that the people who finally got to the point 307 00:15:53,019 --> 00:15:55,253 where it was safe for the family to get together 308 00:15:55,255 --> 00:15:57,455 will kind of, like, retrench. 309 00:15:57,457 --> 00:16:01,359 "No, no more family stuff!" Because obviously we're risky. 310 00:16:02,161 --> 00:16:03,361 We're done. 311 00:16:03,363 --> 00:16:04,896 This is everything Kody's been worried about 312 00:16:04,898 --> 00:16:07,065 and someone got COVID and... 313 00:16:07,067 --> 00:16:10,435 this is gonna put enough of a fear factor into the family 314 00:16:10,437 --> 00:16:12,136 that we're not gonna hang out again. 315 00:16:12,138 --> 00:16:13,705 We're not. 316 00:16:13,707 --> 00:16:16,474 Okay, this is her lid, I don't want anybody touching that lid. 317 00:16:16,476 --> 00:16:18,142 Mama, is that enough? 318 00:16:18,144 --> 00:16:19,344 I don't know, hold on. 319 00:16:19,346 --> 00:16:20,678 Spit all over it. 320 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:23,915 I don't want to stop getting together, 321 00:16:23,917 --> 00:16:28,686 but if somebody gets sick when they're following these extreme protocols, 322 00:16:28,688 --> 00:16:33,024 I don't know that getting together is a possibility. 323 00:16:33,026 --> 00:16:35,093 I just don't know how to play this. 324 00:16:35,461 --> 00:16:36,527 There's mine. 325 00:16:36,962 --> 00:16:38,262 Done. 326 00:16:38,264 --> 00:16:42,233 I know, logically, I haven't done anything wrong 327 00:16:42,235 --> 00:16:46,104 but it's still something that makes me feel bad. 328 00:16:46,106 --> 00:16:47,238 - Thank you! - Thank you very much. 329 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:49,507 - [woman] Have a great day. - Thanks. You, too. 330 00:16:49,509 --> 00:16:53,111 [Christine] I think that this is going to make it so we don't hang out anymore. 331 00:16:53,113 --> 00:16:54,278 But to be honest with you, 332 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:58,016 things are bad between Kody and I. 333 00:16:58,417 --> 00:16:59,817 They're just bad. 334 00:16:59,819 --> 00:17:04,288 And getting together, honestly was really difficult. 335 00:17:04,290 --> 00:17:06,891 I loved being there for Ari, it was wonderful. 336 00:17:06,893 --> 00:17:08,393 I loved that my kids got together. 337 00:17:09,228 --> 00:17:10,628 But it was really hard for me. 338 00:17:11,397 --> 00:17:12,363 Hand them to me. 339 00:17:12,365 --> 00:17:14,031 All right, that wasn't so bad, was it? 340 00:17:16,001 --> 00:17:19,270 [Christine] It's really hard to see Kody have functioning relationships. 341 00:17:19,272 --> 00:17:22,440 And I don't need to see that. 342 00:17:22,442 --> 00:17:24,008 I really don't. 343 00:17:24,010 --> 00:17:26,511 It doesn't do any of us any good. 344 00:17:26,513 --> 00:17:30,048 I mean, the girls talk about how he's different when I'm not around. 345 00:17:30,050 --> 00:17:31,883 So it's like... 346 00:17:31,885 --> 00:17:35,553 well, it may probably be easier if I wasn't there around everybody else, too. 347 00:17:39,992 --> 00:17:41,893 What, so he gets to have an intimate marriage 348 00:17:41,895 --> 00:17:44,095 with other wives, but not with me? 349 00:17:44,097 --> 00:17:46,697 And I'm, what, gonna have nothing for the rest of my life? 350 00:17:46,699 --> 00:17:48,066 I'm not... 351 00:17:48,967 --> 00:17:50,435 okay with that. 352 00:17:50,437 --> 00:17:54,072 She said, "I don't want you staying in my room anymore." 353 00:17:54,074 --> 00:17:56,207 She's like, "My room is a special place to me 354 00:17:56,209 --> 00:17:58,176 and nothing special happens there for us." 355 00:17:58,178 --> 00:18:00,011 I don't know if this is a phase 356 00:18:00,013 --> 00:18:01,712 or if this is just an awakening. 357 00:18:19,364 --> 00:18:20,398 [Christine sighs] 358 00:18:21,433 --> 00:18:22,600 Mmm. 359 00:18:24,269 --> 00:18:26,170 There's a fine balance between... 360 00:18:26,805 --> 00:18:27,839 [sighs] 361 00:18:27,841 --> 00:18:30,408 saying too much and saying enough 362 00:18:30,410 --> 00:18:33,411 and feeling like you have a voice. 363 00:18:33,812 --> 00:18:34,946 And... 364 00:18:36,381 --> 00:18:39,016 I haven't known how much to say. 365 00:18:40,018 --> 00:18:41,085 [sighs] 366 00:18:42,221 --> 00:18:43,454 Anyway. 367 00:18:45,090 --> 00:18:46,991 We finished... Last week... 368 00:18:48,127 --> 00:18:49,627 we finished putting in my door. 369 00:18:54,166 --> 00:18:56,868 - Do you want a ladder? - Hmm. 370 00:18:56,870 --> 00:18:58,269 [grunts] You know what? 371 00:18:58,271 --> 00:19:00,671 I think the stairs are gonna be enough, Christine. 372 00:19:00,673 --> 00:19:02,440 - Cool. - Okay... 373 00:19:03,442 --> 00:19:05,576 We have a bedroom that's a loft 374 00:19:05,578 --> 00:19:07,945 and part of it is where I work 375 00:19:07,947 --> 00:19:09,113 and my office and stuff, 376 00:19:09,115 --> 00:19:13,217 and so it's separated and stuff by a wall. 377 00:19:13,219 --> 00:19:14,352 I don't know the answer here. 378 00:19:14,354 --> 00:19:15,920 [Christine] All right. Well, let me get on that side. 379 00:19:15,922 --> 00:19:18,990 Here, how about if we trade places 380 00:19:18,992 --> 00:19:20,825 and I hold up the door and you look at it from this angle 381 00:19:20,827 --> 00:19:22,326 and see what you see then. 382 00:19:22,328 --> 00:19:25,229 [Kody] Yeah, it's not about that angle, it's about the threshold. 383 00:19:27,132 --> 00:19:28,432 [exhales] 384 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,435 So we put on the door, and the whole time we're finishing... 385 00:19:31,437 --> 00:19:32,570 Oh, God. 386 00:19:34,306 --> 00:19:35,973 [sighs] 387 00:19:37,209 --> 00:19:38,843 The whole time we're putting in the door, 388 00:19:38,845 --> 00:19:40,211 he keeps talking about the cat. 389 00:19:40,213 --> 00:19:42,947 And he's like, I don't want the cat to get into your inventory. 390 00:19:42,949 --> 00:19:44,849 This is all about, it's to keep the cat out." 391 00:19:44,851 --> 00:19:46,417 Over and over and over about the cat. 392 00:19:46,419 --> 00:19:48,886 And it's true, I don't want the cat up in my room. 393 00:19:48,888 --> 00:19:50,388 After we were done, we came upstairs 394 00:19:50,390 --> 00:19:53,891 and he's sitting in the office area 395 00:19:53,893 --> 00:19:55,960 and I said, "Okay, I need to know. 396 00:19:56,929 --> 00:19:59,330 Is the door just about the cat? 397 00:19:59,332 --> 00:20:03,367 And it's not about us having an intimate side of our marriage." 398 00:20:04,069 --> 00:20:06,003 And he goes, 399 00:20:06,005 --> 00:20:07,705 "I'm not really interested in that anymore." 400 00:20:14,112 --> 00:20:15,546 I really wasn't... 401 00:20:17,983 --> 00:20:19,217 Sorry, the kids are downstairs. 402 00:20:19,219 --> 00:20:20,418 [distant thuds] 403 00:20:20,420 --> 00:20:22,353 Anyways, like, "I really, I'm not interested 404 00:20:22,355 --> 00:20:24,355 in having an intimate marriage anymore. 405 00:20:25,123 --> 00:20:27,225 I don't like your behavior. 406 00:20:27,227 --> 00:20:30,161 We'll see if you can be a good sister wife," and all this. 407 00:20:30,163 --> 00:20:33,598 And I'm like, "Okay, so you don't want us to have an intimate marriage?" 408 00:20:34,366 --> 00:20:35,700 And he goes, "No." 409 00:20:35,702 --> 00:20:37,468 And I'm like, "That's not enough for me. 410 00:20:37,470 --> 00:20:39,003 I can't not have an intimate marriage." 411 00:20:39,005 --> 00:20:41,272 And he goes, "People do it all the time. 412 00:20:42,407 --> 00:20:45,009 I know couples that don't have intimate marriages." 413 00:20:46,545 --> 00:20:49,247 And... that was it. 414 00:20:49,249 --> 00:20:51,282 And then... [sighs] 415 00:20:51,284 --> 00:20:52,383 I don't even remember. 416 00:20:52,385 --> 00:20:55,119 We talked a little bit longer but then I just... 417 00:20:55,121 --> 00:20:57,888 I went to bed alone and he stayed working. 418 00:20:57,890 --> 00:21:00,958 And this morning was so awkward. 419 00:21:02,461 --> 00:21:03,694 And he just went downstairs, 420 00:21:03,696 --> 00:21:05,463 made himself breakfast and left. 421 00:21:08,166 --> 00:21:09,367 And, what? It's over? 422 00:21:12,070 --> 00:21:14,171 I don't know, I don't know what to do. 423 00:21:14,940 --> 00:21:16,040 [sighs wearily] 424 00:21:16,042 --> 00:21:19,377 I have no interest in having a marriage... 425 00:21:19,379 --> 00:21:21,078 What, so he gets to have an intimate marriage 426 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,481 with other wives but not with me? 427 00:21:23,483 --> 00:21:26,517 And I'm, what, gonna have nothing for the rest of my life? 428 00:21:28,287 --> 00:21:29,387 I don't know what to do. 429 00:21:30,455 --> 00:21:31,722 I'm heartbroken. 430 00:21:33,025 --> 00:21:35,092 My heart's shattered, to be honest with you. 431 00:21:37,796 --> 00:21:39,163 When we went out for our anniversary, 432 00:21:39,165 --> 00:21:40,631 we went out for our anniversary 433 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,101 and we came home and just fell asleep, and I... 434 00:21:45,170 --> 00:21:46,637 I've known, of course I've known, 435 00:21:46,639 --> 00:21:48,539 it's not that I'm dumb. 436 00:21:48,541 --> 00:21:52,176 And he said a while ago that he wasn't attracted to me or anything. 437 00:21:52,344 --> 00:21:54,679 So... [sighs] 438 00:21:54,681 --> 00:21:57,248 I just thought that maybe it would get better... 439 00:21:58,717 --> 00:22:00,184 But it's over. 440 00:22:00,186 --> 00:22:02,186 The intimate part of our marriage is over. 441 00:22:03,255 --> 00:22:05,089 And, to be honest... 442 00:22:06,091 --> 00:22:07,658 [sighs] 443 00:22:07,660 --> 00:22:11,929 I'm not okay with that. 444 00:22:11,931 --> 00:22:15,032 I'm not okay with staying in a marriage where there's no intimacy. 445 00:22:15,034 --> 00:22:16,100 That's not a real marriage. 446 00:22:16,102 --> 00:22:18,703 I'm not interested in a half marriage, 447 00:22:18,705 --> 00:22:21,138 or a partial marriage, or whatever we have. 448 00:22:21,940 --> 00:22:23,541 And... I don't know. 449 00:22:25,944 --> 00:22:27,044 [sucks teeth] 450 00:22:27,046 --> 00:22:29,113 What, it's all based on my behavior? 451 00:22:29,948 --> 00:22:31,048 [scoffs] 452 00:22:31,817 --> 00:22:33,117 [sighs wearily] 453 00:22:53,305 --> 00:22:55,473 So, I just got out of Christine's house. 454 00:22:55,475 --> 00:22:57,108 Well, I wasn't in the house, I was in the backyard 455 00:22:57,110 --> 00:22:59,377 visiting with Truely and Ysabel. 456 00:22:59,379 --> 00:23:02,079 And when I was wrapping up Christine was like, 457 00:23:02,081 --> 00:23:03,981 "Hey, I need to talk to you 458 00:23:03,983 --> 00:23:05,049 so can we have a little visit?" 459 00:23:05,051 --> 00:23:06,183 And I'm like, "Sure." 460 00:23:07,052 --> 00:23:09,954 And she drops a bomb on me. 461 00:23:09,956 --> 00:23:12,456 Now I gotta admit this isn't totally unexpected 462 00:23:12,891 --> 00:23:16,293 because honestly, she... 463 00:23:16,295 --> 00:23:20,731 hell, we've had serious troubles in our marriage for 12 years. 464 00:23:23,335 --> 00:23:25,202 [Christine] I've reached a point where 465 00:23:25,204 --> 00:23:26,404 almost every day is hard. 466 00:23:26,406 --> 00:23:27,905 Almost every day is hard. 467 00:23:27,907 --> 00:23:31,542 It's just hard to see a silver lining every day. 468 00:23:31,544 --> 00:23:33,978 [Kody] When you don't have trust, you don't have intimacy. 469 00:23:33,980 --> 00:23:38,349 And what became apparent to Christine was the lack of intimacy. 470 00:23:38,351 --> 00:23:39,450 I'm miserable. 471 00:23:39,452 --> 00:23:41,085 I'm jealous as can be. 472 00:23:41,087 --> 00:23:43,387 I didn't know that I would be a jealous person. 473 00:23:43,389 --> 00:23:45,990 And I am so jealous. 474 00:23:46,458 --> 00:23:47,725 Why are you not looking at me? 475 00:23:47,727 --> 00:23:49,059 I don't know. I don't know. 476 00:23:49,061 --> 00:23:50,227 I just... Whatever. 477 00:23:50,229 --> 00:23:52,930 Okay, I'll make the orders and everybody else do it. 478 00:23:52,932 --> 00:23:54,432 Well, that's kind of how we have to do it. 479 00:23:54,434 --> 00:23:55,466 Then you'll have somebody to blame. 480 00:23:55,468 --> 00:23:57,168 'Cause if we disagree, you'll just get mad. 481 00:23:57,170 --> 00:23:58,536 'Cause you guys don't like it when you're blamed. 482 00:23:58,538 --> 00:24:00,604 No, I've been yelled at for four days. 483 00:24:00,606 --> 00:24:02,273 You haven't been yelled at. 484 00:24:02,874 --> 00:24:04,575 Crybaby. 485 00:24:04,577 --> 00:24:07,211 I felt like I was cutting you off too harshly. 486 00:24:07,213 --> 00:24:08,813 I was like, "No, that'll never happen, 487 00:24:08,815 --> 00:24:10,214 we're not moving back to Utah." 488 00:24:11,016 --> 00:24:15,085 And I feel bad, and I wanna say I'm sorry. 489 00:24:15,087 --> 00:24:17,054 [Christine] I don't believe him that he's sorry. 490 00:24:19,458 --> 00:24:20,591 [Kody sighs] Okay... 491 00:24:23,094 --> 00:24:24,695 I'm not gonna talk to you. 492 00:24:29,968 --> 00:24:31,669 Meri, I can't do marriage with Kody anymore. 493 00:24:31,671 --> 00:24:33,137 I don't wanna... 494 00:24:33,139 --> 00:24:34,338 Just look at the mountain. 495 00:24:34,340 --> 00:24:36,040 [crying] I don't wanna do it anymore. 496 00:24:39,845 --> 00:24:43,147 She said, "I don't want you to stay in my room anymore." 497 00:24:43,149 --> 00:24:45,416 She's like, "My room is a special place to me 498 00:24:45,418 --> 00:24:47,318 and nothing special happens there for us." 499 00:24:48,386 --> 00:24:49,420 I'm like... 500 00:24:50,922 --> 00:24:52,189 "Okay. 501 00:24:52,257 --> 00:24:54,258 I know a lot of people have marriages that are like this. 502 00:24:54,260 --> 00:24:55,626 Romance-free marriage." 503 00:24:56,895 --> 00:24:58,095 Um... 504 00:24:59,965 --> 00:25:01,265 She says, "Not for me. 505 00:25:01,267 --> 00:25:03,300 So I don't want you in my room. 506 00:25:03,702 --> 00:25:05,069 Go ahead and go on out. 507 00:25:05,136 --> 00:25:09,073 You can come visit the kids, but don't plan on staying in my room." 508 00:25:10,408 --> 00:25:12,476 So, I don't know what this really means. 509 00:25:12,478 --> 00:25:14,712 I don't know if this is a phase 510 00:25:14,714 --> 00:25:16,313 or if this is just an awakening. 511 00:25:17,048 --> 00:25:18,315 [snorts] 512 00:25:19,484 --> 00:25:22,319 The reason I wonder if this is a phase with Christine 513 00:25:22,321 --> 00:25:24,321 or something else 514 00:25:24,323 --> 00:25:28,859 is because she's been telling wives and adult children 515 00:25:28,861 --> 00:25:30,861 that she's wanted to leave me for years. 516 00:25:30,863 --> 00:25:34,365 She tells me nothing special happens in her room. 517 00:25:34,367 --> 00:25:37,468 Well, that's because she's murdered our intimacy 518 00:25:38,036 --> 00:25:39,370 with betrayal. 519 00:25:40,071 --> 00:25:41,405 And the betrayal is the fact 520 00:25:41,407 --> 00:25:43,207 that I keep hearing from other people 521 00:25:43,209 --> 00:25:44,975 that she's threatening to leave. 522 00:25:44,977 --> 00:25:47,077 And so I'm wondering if that's just gonna pass. 523 00:25:47,079 --> 00:25:49,480 But the only thing I can speculate on 524 00:25:49,482 --> 00:25:52,216 is the fact that I don't feel intimate 525 00:25:52,218 --> 00:25:53,717 because I've been betrayed, 526 00:25:53,719 --> 00:25:56,487 because I'm constantly hearing this thing. 527 00:25:56,489 --> 00:25:59,690 Every experience that we've had this year, 528 00:25:59,692 --> 00:26:01,959 for years even, has been an awakening. 529 00:26:02,561 --> 00:26:04,395 And I guess I'm sitting here just... 530 00:26:05,030 --> 00:26:06,430 sort of dumbfounded. 531 00:26:06,432 --> 00:26:08,198 Why am I surprised? 532 00:26:10,869 --> 00:26:12,036 [Kody] And here we go. 533 00:26:12,437 --> 00:26:13,671 There's the house. 534 00:26:13,673 --> 00:26:16,106 - Wow. - [girl] That's a big house. 535 00:26:16,641 --> 00:26:18,342 [Christine] I mean, bottom line, 536 00:26:18,344 --> 00:26:22,313 I think the biggest reason why I don't really want to live all in one big house, 537 00:26:22,315 --> 00:26:26,850 I just like who I am more now. 538 00:26:26,852 --> 00:26:29,286 And everybody else is for it and I'm the odd one out, 539 00:26:29,288 --> 00:26:30,487 I'm just gonna speak louder. 540 00:26:32,057 --> 00:26:33,223 I'm not gonna do it. 541 00:26:34,092 --> 00:26:35,158 I'm not. 542 00:26:36,494 --> 00:26:39,363 But I don't know right now how serious to take her. 543 00:26:41,199 --> 00:26:43,267 I just don't know how serious to take her 544 00:26:43,269 --> 00:26:45,102 when she says, "Don't stay in my place, 545 00:26:45,104 --> 00:26:47,037 don't stay in my room anymore." 546 00:26:47,039 --> 00:26:48,472 I don't even know how to interpret that. 547 00:26:48,474 --> 00:26:50,574 I just... I just basically said, "Okay. 548 00:26:51,109 --> 00:26:52,676 All right, uh..." 549 00:26:52,678 --> 00:26:55,179 Well, I wanted to think about it 550 00:26:55,181 --> 00:26:57,948 before I discussed it any further with her. 551 00:26:58,950 --> 00:27:00,651 I'm shocked and dumbfounded, 552 00:27:00,653 --> 00:27:04,355 I gotta admit that while I'm shocked, I shouldn't be surprised. 553 00:27:05,090 --> 00:27:07,891 It's weird. I just... 554 00:27:07,893 --> 00:27:10,227 Right now, right this moment, I just don't know what to think. 555 00:27:13,832 --> 00:27:15,299 It is so heartbreaking 556 00:27:15,301 --> 00:27:17,901 to have his stuff everywhere. 557 00:27:17,903 --> 00:27:20,337 So I just decided to pack up his stuff. 558 00:27:20,339 --> 00:27:22,373 And I put it all in the garage. 559 00:27:22,375 --> 00:27:23,607 [Kody] Something weird's going on. 560 00:27:24,275 --> 00:27:25,509 "Kody's books." 561 00:27:26,444 --> 00:27:27,678 "Kody's books." 562 00:27:28,913 --> 00:27:30,047 "Kody's clothes." 563 00:27:30,049 --> 00:27:32,149 I guess I've been moved out of the house. 564 00:27:46,364 --> 00:27:48,332 [Robyn] Everybody came over for Ari's birthday. 565 00:27:48,334 --> 00:27:51,135 And then right after we were all together 566 00:27:51,137 --> 00:27:53,971 I found out that my nanny 567 00:27:54,873 --> 00:27:57,174 had tested positive for COVID. 568 00:27:57,176 --> 00:27:59,076 I told everybody and I just said, 569 00:27:59,078 --> 00:28:02,713 "Everybody needs to test because this is a possibility." 570 00:28:02,715 --> 00:28:05,149 And now we're just waiting for the results. 571 00:28:14,559 --> 00:28:16,060 [clears throat] 572 00:28:17,495 --> 00:28:19,263 So, good news. 573 00:28:19,265 --> 00:28:20,898 Our tests came back negative, 574 00:28:20,900 --> 00:28:22,232 the whole family. 575 00:28:22,234 --> 00:28:24,168 The whole family's tests came back negative. 576 00:28:24,170 --> 00:28:25,703 Um... 577 00:28:25,705 --> 00:28:27,805 [sighs] I'm just so relieved. 578 00:28:27,807 --> 00:28:31,041 It was scary, it was a scary few days 579 00:28:31,043 --> 00:28:33,377 of just, like, wondering whether or not we all had COVID, 580 00:28:33,379 --> 00:28:34,945 or at least some of us. 581 00:28:34,947 --> 00:28:37,047 I don't know, it was just really scary. 582 00:28:37,049 --> 00:28:40,217 And I just feel like we're super, super lucky our tests are negative 583 00:28:40,219 --> 00:28:42,152 and I'm just so grateful. 584 00:28:42,154 --> 00:28:44,054 And... 585 00:28:44,056 --> 00:28:48,425 um, I guess we just need to be really diligent about being careful. 586 00:28:48,427 --> 00:28:51,995 And... yeah. 587 00:28:51,997 --> 00:28:54,698 We're lucky, we're blessed. God's taking care of us. 588 00:29:01,372 --> 00:29:04,942 We've been planning Mykelti's baby shower for months now. 589 00:29:04,944 --> 00:29:07,311 So we went to St. George, Utah, 590 00:29:07,313 --> 00:29:08,679 where the baby shower is. 591 00:29:08,681 --> 00:29:11,615 And it's... it's kinda nice to get away right now. 592 00:29:11,617 --> 00:29:15,986 Mine and Kody's relationship could use a little bit of... distance right now. 593 00:29:15,988 --> 00:29:18,689 But more than anything, I'm just really excited 594 00:29:18,691 --> 00:29:21,125 to be in St. George for Mykelti and support her. 595 00:29:21,993 --> 00:29:23,127 Hello! 596 00:29:23,129 --> 00:29:24,294 [posh voice] Hello! 597 00:29:24,296 --> 00:29:25,529 Hello, lovelies! 598 00:29:25,964 --> 00:29:27,364 Your gift's there. 599 00:29:28,299 --> 00:29:30,000 [Christine] We wanted to make it accommodating 600 00:29:30,002 --> 00:29:34,204 so everybody in the family could come to the baby shower if they wanted to. 601 00:29:34,206 --> 00:29:36,273 But they're not gonna make it. 602 00:29:36,275 --> 00:29:38,542 It's just gonna be me and my girls that are going. 603 00:29:38,544 --> 00:29:40,344 And Aspyn'll come down for it too. 604 00:29:40,979 --> 00:29:42,713 I was just saying... 605 00:29:45,784 --> 00:29:47,684 - [laughs] - You need a garbage bag? 606 00:29:47,686 --> 00:29:50,220 I know to some people, my view on COVID, 607 00:29:50,222 --> 00:29:52,256 and certainly some of my kids' view on COVID, 608 00:29:52,258 --> 00:29:54,291 is very lax to some people's standards. 609 00:29:54,293 --> 00:29:56,493 To Kody's, to be honest with you. 610 00:29:56,495 --> 00:29:59,797 But we followed all of the CDC regulations, 611 00:29:59,799 --> 00:30:04,034 we followed the party regulations with this outdoor party... 612 00:30:04,036 --> 00:30:06,470 To me, I'm being completely responsible. 613 00:30:06,472 --> 00:30:07,905 Guess what? 614 00:30:07,907 --> 00:30:09,439 None of my kids and I have gotten COVID. 615 00:30:09,441 --> 00:30:12,543 So, we're not being irresponsible at all. 616 00:30:13,678 --> 00:30:16,313 All right, now we have another game, it's bingo. 617 00:30:16,315 --> 00:30:18,415 There's bingo cards on every table. 618 00:30:20,985 --> 00:30:24,888 Yeah, home life is... stressful right now. 619 00:30:24,890 --> 00:30:30,327 It's hard to be home, it's hard to be around Kody. 620 00:30:30,329 --> 00:30:34,164 It's nice to get away sometimes, it really honestly is. 621 00:30:34,166 --> 00:30:38,202 Gwendlyn and Ysabel both know that things are hard, 622 00:30:38,204 --> 00:30:41,672 but Truely doesn't really clock anything is different. 623 00:30:41,674 --> 00:30:43,640 I mean, for her, 624 00:30:43,642 --> 00:30:46,276 Kody's around just as much as he was before. 625 00:30:46,278 --> 00:30:50,113 She hasn't even asked why he's not around or anything like that. 626 00:30:50,949 --> 00:30:51,949 Thank you for coming! 627 00:30:51,951 --> 00:30:53,250 Whoo! 628 00:30:55,820 --> 00:30:57,187 I feel like I'm in a transitionary 629 00:30:57,189 --> 00:31:00,824 kind of a space right now. 630 00:31:00,826 --> 00:31:02,426 Like, I don't know what my future looks like. 631 00:31:02,428 --> 00:31:04,261 I don't know what anything looks like. 632 00:31:04,263 --> 00:31:07,064 I don't wanna stay in Flagstaff anymore, 633 00:31:07,066 --> 00:31:09,066 and I wanna go. 634 00:31:10,802 --> 00:31:14,338 I asked Kody not to stay in my room anymore 635 00:31:14,340 --> 00:31:17,708 and not to sleep in my bed anymore a few weeks ago. 636 00:31:17,710 --> 00:31:20,310 And he was shocked, he's like, 637 00:31:20,312 --> 00:31:22,212 "Okay, let's talk about this later." 638 00:31:22,214 --> 00:31:23,647 And I said, "No." 639 00:31:24,015 --> 00:31:25,115 Um... 640 00:31:25,183 --> 00:31:28,685 "You're really not welcome in my bedroom anymore." 641 00:31:28,687 --> 00:31:29,987 I just told him that flat-out. 642 00:31:29,989 --> 00:31:32,055 I'm like, "You don't wanna be there." 643 00:31:32,057 --> 00:31:33,824 So I just said, "I don't want you to stay in there." 644 00:31:33,826 --> 00:31:35,425 And he's like, "Well, we'll discuss it later." 645 00:31:35,427 --> 00:31:39,096 And I'm like, "No. No, there's no discussing it later. 646 00:31:39,098 --> 00:31:40,163 This is a final 647 00:31:40,165 --> 00:31:42,566 'I don't want you in my bed'." 648 00:31:44,869 --> 00:31:48,171 And then I got to thinking about what it would look like 649 00:31:48,173 --> 00:31:51,475 if he came back to pack up all of his stuff. 650 00:31:51,477 --> 00:31:53,877 So that would mean that every time he's over at my house, what, 651 00:31:53,879 --> 00:31:55,245 he's gonna be packing 652 00:31:55,247 --> 00:31:57,381 and not spending time with the girls? 653 00:31:57,383 --> 00:31:59,917 So I just decided to pack up his stuff. 654 00:31:59,919 --> 00:32:01,585 And I put it all in the garage. 655 00:32:06,124 --> 00:32:07,991 It is so heartbreaking 656 00:32:07,993 --> 00:32:10,594 to have his stuff everywhere 657 00:32:12,230 --> 00:32:15,198 and know that he doesn't want me, he doesn't love me. 658 00:32:17,669 --> 00:32:20,037 He says he'll take care of me. Anyway... 659 00:32:20,338 --> 00:32:21,571 He's not. He doesn't. 660 00:32:23,441 --> 00:32:26,343 And I promised myself our last anniversary... 661 00:32:28,846 --> 00:32:30,781 It ended so sad. 662 00:32:30,783 --> 00:32:32,883 You know, I just told myself I wouldn't do it again. 663 00:32:32,885 --> 00:32:34,651 I wouldn't have another anniversary with him. 664 00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,355 So I guess what I want to do is... 665 00:32:39,023 --> 00:32:40,190 [exhales] 666 00:32:40,725 --> 00:32:42,025 Keep it nebulous 667 00:32:42,860 --> 00:32:46,964 and "normal" looking as long as possible. 668 00:32:55,940 --> 00:32:57,341 I don't know what to tell my kids. 669 00:33:03,247 --> 00:33:04,381 [crying] 670 00:33:06,985 --> 00:33:08,518 What did I do so wrong? 671 00:33:12,523 --> 00:33:14,658 I've always wanted 672 00:33:15,393 --> 00:33:18,495 romantic marriage and... 673 00:33:20,898 --> 00:33:25,002 it's been so hard for so long. 674 00:33:30,408 --> 00:33:33,276 I feel like I don't have a choice but to throw his stuff out. 675 00:33:33,945 --> 00:33:35,112 'Cause I can't... 676 00:33:35,114 --> 00:33:38,315 It's too heartbreaking to be around his stuff. 677 00:33:38,317 --> 00:33:42,252 And it's too heartbreaking to be around him, 678 00:33:42,254 --> 00:33:47,391 and watch him with Robyn and Janelle 679 00:33:47,393 --> 00:33:49,493 and the kids and... 680 00:33:51,095 --> 00:33:52,262 [crying] 681 00:33:59,103 --> 00:34:00,971 I have to pack up his stuff... 682 00:34:02,373 --> 00:34:04,941 because it's too heartbreaking to have it around. 683 00:34:07,178 --> 00:34:09,946 Anyway, this is it. [chuckles] 684 00:34:09,948 --> 00:34:11,148 The last of his stuff. 685 00:34:14,485 --> 00:34:15,585 God. 686 00:34:18,189 --> 00:34:19,556 This is hell. 687 00:34:20,124 --> 00:34:21,958 I don't know what to do. 688 00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:24,327 I don't wanna live in Flagstaff any more, I wanna move. 689 00:34:27,198 --> 00:34:28,398 I wanna go somewhere... 690 00:34:30,201 --> 00:34:32,602 where people wanna be around us. 691 00:34:34,038 --> 00:34:35,505 Anyway. God. 692 00:34:36,007 --> 00:34:37,140 It's hard. 693 00:34:38,276 --> 00:34:40,243 Next time he comes over, 694 00:34:41,045 --> 00:34:44,047 he's gonna see that his stuff isn't here, 695 00:34:44,049 --> 00:34:47,851 and that it's all empty, and all of his boxes in the garage. 696 00:34:47,853 --> 00:34:49,386 And then, I guess he'll find out. 697 00:34:59,130 --> 00:35:02,666 So last week, Garrison started feeling really crappy. 698 00:35:02,668 --> 00:35:04,101 And then, the next day, Gabe did. 699 00:35:04,103 --> 00:35:08,672 So they both went and got tested for COVID, uh, five days ago or so. 700 00:35:08,674 --> 00:35:11,308 And a couple days later, it came back that they were positive. 701 00:35:16,881 --> 00:35:20,317 So I'm in the car and I'm waiting for Savannah to come out. [clears throat] 702 00:35:21,152 --> 00:35:23,253 We, uh, have to go do our tests today 703 00:35:23,255 --> 00:35:24,988 'cause it's been the right amount of days 704 00:35:24,990 --> 00:35:29,192 since Gabriel test... Gabriel and Garrison tested positive. 705 00:35:29,194 --> 00:35:30,393 Savannah and I are still feeling fine. 706 00:35:30,395 --> 00:35:32,095 I... I've picked up a little bit of a cough today, 707 00:35:32,097 --> 00:35:34,197 but I don't feel like it's COVID. 708 00:35:34,199 --> 00:35:38,502 It's just one of those real productive things. 709 00:35:38,504 --> 00:35:41,171 Anyway, I'm not too worried about it. 710 00:35:41,173 --> 00:35:44,107 But, uh, I guess... 711 00:35:45,209 --> 00:35:46,710 I guess we'll see. 712 00:35:46,712 --> 00:35:49,479 And so... I mean, Savannah and I have kept our distance. 713 00:35:49,481 --> 00:35:54,251 We've been... I've been taking every immune booster thing I can think of. 714 00:35:54,253 --> 00:35:55,919 I'm hoping I've escaped it. 715 00:35:55,921 --> 00:35:57,587 But, we'll know soon I guess. 716 00:36:12,103 --> 00:36:13,970 [Kody] Okay. 717 00:36:13,972 --> 00:36:16,106 The weirdest thing just happened. 718 00:36:16,108 --> 00:36:21,011 I came out to the garage while I was at Christine's house. 719 00:36:21,013 --> 00:36:23,680 And something weird is going on. 720 00:36:24,148 --> 00:36:25,415 Kody's books. 721 00:36:26,250 --> 00:36:27,617 Kody's books. 722 00:36:28,586 --> 00:36:29,953 Kody's clothes. 723 00:36:31,322 --> 00:36:32,355 Kody's clothes. 724 00:36:33,891 --> 00:36:34,991 Uh. 725 00:36:35,860 --> 00:36:37,561 I guess I've been moved out of the house. 726 00:36:39,163 --> 00:36:40,730 Personally, I don't know what to think about this. 727 00:36:41,098 --> 00:36:42,265 [chuckles] 728 00:36:44,168 --> 00:36:46,203 This is not something we discussed. 729 00:36:54,412 --> 00:36:57,047 I'm having a hard time not being a little frustrated by this. 730 00:37:07,124 --> 00:37:08,959 [Kody] So I came over to Christine's again. 731 00:37:08,961 --> 00:37:13,363 And I noticed more, uh... More boxes. 732 00:37:13,365 --> 00:37:17,234 Kody's nightstand. Kody's clothes from dresser. Kody's bathroom stuff. 733 00:37:22,139 --> 00:37:24,074 I guess it's time for me to talk to her about it. 734 00:37:24,942 --> 00:37:27,844 One, two, three, four, five, 735 00:37:27,846 --> 00:37:29,980 six, seven, eight, nine. 736 00:37:31,515 --> 00:37:33,350 Kody's dresser. Fragile. 737 00:37:33,352 --> 00:37:36,553 So I have been moved out of my house. 738 00:37:36,555 --> 00:37:38,088 [clears throat] 739 00:37:42,893 --> 00:37:44,160 Now that we're here, 740 00:37:44,162 --> 00:37:46,429 and now that Kody's not sleeping here anymore, 741 00:37:46,431 --> 00:37:48,131 I feel like I can take a breath. 742 00:37:48,799 --> 00:37:50,667 And get myself grounded. 743 00:37:51,402 --> 00:37:54,304 And get my head in a good place. 744 00:37:55,172 --> 00:37:56,273 And... 745 00:37:57,208 --> 00:38:00,243 just rest for a bit. 746 00:38:00,245 --> 00:38:02,445 And just settle for a bit here... 747 00:38:03,281 --> 00:38:04,414 independent. 748 00:38:08,519 --> 00:38:10,053 I don't know how I feel about this. 749 00:38:13,324 --> 00:38:14,557 Oh, there's another box. 750 00:38:16,527 --> 00:38:17,560 Jeez. 751 00:38:22,333 --> 00:38:23,600 Huh. 752 00:38:27,938 --> 00:38:30,040 I don't wanna take any of it even out of here yet 'cause... 753 00:38:31,108 --> 00:38:32,309 Um... 754 00:38:33,210 --> 00:38:35,578 I honestly didn't know she was this serious. 755 00:38:38,916 --> 00:38:42,485 I've had times past where she's said something. 756 00:38:43,421 --> 00:38:45,355 I didn't feel like she was serious. 757 00:38:45,357 --> 00:38:47,957 I don't know. I don't know what it all means. 758 00:38:47,959 --> 00:38:49,459 I don't know what the future looks like. 759 00:38:49,461 --> 00:38:52,028 I don't know what tomorrow looks like. 760 00:38:52,030 --> 00:38:53,363 I don't know what next week looks like. 761 00:38:53,365 --> 00:38:54,397 I don't know, I... 762 00:38:54,399 --> 00:38:56,232 There's so many uncertainties. 763 00:38:57,702 --> 00:39:00,870 Look, uh, Kody will come over and he'll spend time with the kids. 764 00:39:00,872 --> 00:39:02,706 And then, he'll leave and go somewhere else. 765 00:39:02,708 --> 00:39:04,174 And he won't sleep here any more. 766 00:39:05,976 --> 00:39:09,212 Um, I think I need to talk to her about how serious she is... 767 00:39:10,314 --> 00:39:14,017 Um, before I really decide how I feel. 768 00:39:14,019 --> 00:39:15,385 Because if I decide... 769 00:39:16,253 --> 00:39:18,021 I mean, honestly, I'm... 770 00:39:19,523 --> 00:39:21,124 Thinking about it a little bit, I'm... 771 00:39:22,927 --> 00:39:24,027 not angry. 772 00:39:24,495 --> 00:39:26,329 It appears to be a game. 773 00:39:26,331 --> 00:39:28,198 But it might not be, I don't know. 774 00:39:29,333 --> 00:39:32,235 Throwing my clothes out. Taking my stuff out. Taking everything. 775 00:39:32,970 --> 00:39:34,204 My clothes from the dresser. 776 00:39:35,673 --> 00:39:36,973 My books. 777 00:39:36,975 --> 00:39:38,074 Looks like a lot of books. 778 00:39:38,076 --> 00:39:39,242 I didn't know I read that much. 779 00:39:39,443 --> 00:39:40,944 My nightstand. 780 00:39:42,513 --> 00:39:44,547 Room stuff, and then fragile stuff. 781 00:39:47,351 --> 00:39:48,451 Um... 782 00:39:51,989 --> 00:39:52,989 I don't know why. 783 00:39:52,991 --> 00:39:54,090 Uh... 784 00:39:54,392 --> 00:39:55,492 But I'm... 785 00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:57,494 ambivalent. 786 00:39:57,496 --> 00:39:58,595 I... 787 00:40:01,332 --> 00:40:03,099 Uh, almost don't care. 788 00:40:05,903 --> 00:40:07,670 You can leave marriage in our church. 789 00:40:09,974 --> 00:40:14,077 If it's a marriage like mine and Kody had, where it's just a spiritual marriage, 790 00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:17,714 then they release you spiritually. 791 00:40:17,716 --> 00:40:20,049 And they... You go through them. 792 00:40:20,051 --> 00:40:24,387 As far as I'm concerned, that's just between me and God. 793 00:40:27,324 --> 00:40:31,561 I think I'm more afraid of what karmic value this has. 794 00:40:31,563 --> 00:40:34,464 The idea of divorce seems tragic. 795 00:40:34,466 --> 00:40:37,467 Seems terrible on my faith. 796 00:40:37,469 --> 00:40:42,038 My belief system is kind of anti-divorce, I suppose. 797 00:40:44,175 --> 00:40:45,475 I guess that's hypocritical. 798 00:40:48,846 --> 00:40:50,313 But I'm not bothered by this. 799 00:40:51,515 --> 00:40:53,082 Maybe it's just my initial reaction. 800 00:40:53,084 --> 00:40:54,551 I should be bothered by it, right? 801 00:40:58,155 --> 00:41:00,256 One first thought I have is this is my house. 802 00:41:00,258 --> 00:41:01,424 This is my stuff. 803 00:41:02,393 --> 00:41:03,960 We never discussed this. 804 00:41:05,329 --> 00:41:06,596 Second thought I have is... 805 00:41:08,799 --> 00:41:09,933 relief. 806 00:41:12,870 --> 00:41:16,139 Some kind of relief from the burden 807 00:41:16,974 --> 00:41:20,176 and the woe of a loveless marriage. 808 00:41:25,816 --> 00:41:27,951 And the fear of the culpability 809 00:41:28,419 --> 00:41:30,053 for my behalf here and my actions, 810 00:41:30,055 --> 00:41:33,056 and things that I've done wrong in this that have led to this point. 811 00:41:40,431 --> 00:41:42,432 I'm not really talking about how I really feel. 812 00:41:46,136 --> 00:41:47,704 Because I don't know what that is right now. 813 00:41:50,307 --> 00:41:52,942 [host] Next time, on Sister Wives: One on One. 814 00:41:52,944 --> 00:41:56,045 I'm sitting down with each one of the Browns individually 815 00:41:56,047 --> 00:41:58,548 to talk about the biggest events of this season. 816 00:41:58,550 --> 00:42:00,383 You emotionally have abandoned them. 817 00:42:00,385 --> 00:42:01,951 I take offense to that word. 818 00:42:01,953 --> 00:42:03,820 - Emotionally-- - When Meri had an affair... 819 00:42:03,822 --> 00:42:06,756 If he wants to give up, he can give up. 820 00:42:06,758 --> 00:42:08,958 I have been moved out of my house. 821 00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,727 What? So he gets to have an intimate marriage 822 00:42:10,729 --> 00:42:12,395 with other wives but not with me? 823 00:42:12,397 --> 00:42:15,331 I never said no, that we weren't going to be intimate again. 824 00:42:15,333 --> 00:42:16,933 Where are you and Kody right now? 825 00:42:16,935 --> 00:42:18,401 Kody and I are divorced. 826 00:42:18,403 --> 00:42:22,705 I don't see why giving up is an option when you haven't actually tried. 827 00:42:22,707 --> 00:42:25,675 She made a choice that she was never gonna have a functioning marriage. 828 00:42:25,677 --> 00:42:28,077 Did she ever hear you say I don't want you to leave? 829 00:42:28,079 --> 00:42:29,245 No. 830 00:42:30,247 --> 00:42:31,347 The hardest time of my life.