1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:01,934 [narrator] Previously on Sister Wives... 2 00:00:01,936 --> 00:00:04,069 I've been waiting for you, honestly. 3 00:00:04,071 --> 00:00:04,903 And I'm not coming. 4 00:00:04,905 --> 00:00:06,038 I know that. 5 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:09,375 But you're not courting me to that relationship. 6 00:00:09,377 --> 00:00:12,011 I didn't know I was supposed to court you. 7 00:00:12,013 --> 00:00:16,715 I've had a lot of people say to me, "Why are you still there? 8 00:00:16,717 --> 00:00:18,484 He clearly doesn't love you." 9 00:00:18,486 --> 00:00:21,787 This is a very conscious choice that I'm making. 10 00:00:21,789 --> 00:00:26,125 It's very, very important to me that we get out on that property. 11 00:00:26,127 --> 00:00:31,764 And I just hope we can, you know, get this damn thing figured out. 12 00:00:31,766 --> 00:00:32,798 [Kody] Are you good with five? 13 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:34,967 If everybody is okay with that. 14 00:00:34,969 --> 00:00:36,835 -[Kody] Are you good with four? -[Janelle] Yeah. 15 00:00:36,837 --> 00:00:38,437 - You good with two? - [Meri] Mm-hmm. 16 00:00:38,439 --> 00:00:39,838 - You good with three? - [Christine] Yes. 17 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:41,440 [Christine] I don't want to move on the property. 18 00:00:41,442 --> 00:00:42,775 I want to move back to Utah. 19 00:00:42,777 --> 00:00:45,044 Kody and I are struggling more than ever before. 20 00:00:45,046 --> 00:00:51,517 The best that I can give today is just a pretend. 21 00:00:51,519 --> 00:00:55,721 Ysabel was diagnosed with scoliosis when she was like 13. 22 00:00:55,723 --> 00:00:57,990 Scoliosis is an abnormal curvature of the spine. 23 00:00:57,992 --> 00:01:01,026 And her curve is over 50 degrees now. 24 00:01:01,028 --> 00:01:02,928 So, it's just time to get the surgery. 25 00:01:02,930 --> 00:01:05,531 If we're going in September for the surgery, I... 26 00:01:05,533 --> 00:01:06,798 I don't think I'm going to be going. 27 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:10,869 I don't want her to be bitter that I wasn't there to do that. 28 00:01:10,871 --> 00:01:13,439 And so, it's hard that they're doing this without me. 29 00:01:14,140 --> 00:01:16,442 [theme music playing] 30 00:01:49,909 --> 00:01:51,877 [Truely] What am I thinking of? 31 00:01:51,879 --> 00:01:54,146 That you want to eat food really badly. 32 00:01:54,148 --> 00:01:55,547 [Truely] No, koala. 33 00:01:55,549 --> 00:01:59,718 So, we flew to New Jersey for Ysabel's scoliosis surgery. 34 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:04,022 We found out she had scoliosis when she was in middle school, like 13. 35 00:02:04,024 --> 00:02:06,024 And we've just been fighting it for years. 36 00:02:06,026 --> 00:02:07,893 Ysabel's excited to get the surgery. 37 00:02:07,895 --> 00:02:11,697 And Truely and Gwendlyn are excited to be in New Jersey for a while. 38 00:02:11,699 --> 00:02:13,732 I'm doing my best to make it as positive as possible. 39 00:02:13,734 --> 00:02:15,767 Okay. This is Ysabel's last meal. 40 00:02:15,769 --> 00:02:18,804 [Christine] So, we're at my sister's house in New Jersey. 41 00:02:18,806 --> 00:02:21,707 She's only like an hour away from the surgery center and hospital. 42 00:02:21,709 --> 00:02:24,042 Wendy's my sister from the same mom, 43 00:02:24,044 --> 00:02:26,478 but she's married in a monogamous relationship. 44 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:27,980 They're not going to live polygamy. 45 00:02:27,982 --> 00:02:29,481 Nothing like that. 46 00:02:29,483 --> 00:02:31,216 And she's completely accepting, though, 47 00:02:31,218 --> 00:02:33,919 of my family and us living plural marriage. 48 00:02:33,921 --> 00:02:35,187 She's fine with that. 49 00:02:35,189 --> 00:02:37,456 We'll reach New Jersey hospital like 7:00. 50 00:02:37,458 --> 00:02:40,125 - And then we got there at like 8:00. - [woman 1] Okay. 51 00:02:40,127 --> 00:02:42,127 And then we talked to the doctor about the surgery. 52 00:02:42,129 --> 00:02:44,463 And he explained everything to us. 53 00:02:44,465 --> 00:02:45,864 [Christine] It was a fun day. 54 00:02:45,866 --> 00:02:48,834 Even though it's Covid right now, 55 00:02:48,836 --> 00:02:50,669 we're still gonna get the surgery. 56 00:02:50,671 --> 00:02:54,106 Like, Kody can't come with us to the surgery because of Covid. 57 00:02:54,108 --> 00:02:57,910 And he would love it if we waited so he could come too. 58 00:02:57,912 --> 00:02:59,478 But waiting isn't an option. 59 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:00,712 Ysabel's in too much pain. 60 00:03:00,714 --> 00:03:01,880 We need to get it done. 61 00:03:01,882 --> 00:03:04,550 She is really, really sad about that. 62 00:03:04,552 --> 00:03:07,452 She really wants her dad there so badly. 63 00:03:09,556 --> 00:03:11,823 I mean, Kody and I are in a tough spot right now. 64 00:03:11,825 --> 00:03:15,227 I don't mind getting away for a while. 65 00:03:15,229 --> 00:03:17,496 But the thing is it'll still be there when I get back. 66 00:03:17,498 --> 00:03:18,830 So, it's not... 67 00:03:18,832 --> 00:03:20,899 You know, but I don't mind putting it on hold for a bit. 68 00:03:20,901 --> 00:03:22,834 Ysabel, you got flowers. Look. 69 00:03:22,836 --> 00:03:24,102 - [Ysabel] What? - [Christine] These are yours. 70 00:03:24,104 --> 00:03:24,836 [Solomon] Oh, yeah. 71 00:03:24,838 --> 00:03:26,104 Somebody dropped them off. 72 00:03:26,106 --> 00:03:28,874 -[Christine] Who are they from? -Oh, they're so sweet. 73 00:03:28,876 --> 00:03:32,077 There's a rift with Christine and I. 74 00:03:32,079 --> 00:03:34,413 But it's sad that I'm not there. 75 00:03:34,415 --> 00:03:35,881 It's just one of those things. 76 00:03:35,883 --> 00:03:38,951 Circumstantially, I don't see how I could have been there 77 00:03:38,953 --> 00:03:42,688 and been able to do that during this whole Covid experience. 78 00:03:42,690 --> 00:03:45,257 Aw, it's from Grandpa and Grandma. 79 00:03:45,259 --> 00:03:46,592 [Christine] How cute! From Grandpa Rex? 80 00:03:46,594 --> 00:03:48,660 - Yeah. - Oh, that's sweet. 81 00:03:48,662 --> 00:03:52,164 You know, I'm glad that Ysabel is finally getting this done. 82 00:03:53,466 --> 00:03:54,933 You know, it would have been nice 83 00:03:54,935 --> 00:03:58,103 if more people could surround her 84 00:03:58,105 --> 00:04:00,038 and just kind of be there for her. 85 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:02,608 But you know? 86 00:04:02,610 --> 00:04:04,576 I'm sure Christine's doing, you know, 87 00:04:04,578 --> 00:04:07,713 the best that she can, you know, out there by herself. 88 00:04:07,715 --> 00:04:09,848 [Avery] This is what I made for Ysabel. 89 00:04:09,850 --> 00:04:11,783 [Christine] Oh, my gosh. Let me see, Avery. 90 00:04:11,785 --> 00:04:12,784 Oh, that is so sweet. 91 00:04:12,786 --> 00:04:13,919 That's for Ysabel? 92 00:04:13,921 --> 00:04:18,023 Covid has made everybody... and not just our family, 93 00:04:18,025 --> 00:04:21,226 but so many other people feel so distant from their loved ones. 94 00:04:21,228 --> 00:04:23,095 It's depressing and isolating. 95 00:04:23,097 --> 00:04:23,729 It's hard. 96 00:04:23,731 --> 00:04:26,231 It's really, really hard. 97 00:04:26,233 --> 00:04:32,204 I just wish we could kind of circle around Izzy and Christine, so. 98 00:04:33,206 --> 00:04:35,040 - You excited? - I'm excited, yeah. 99 00:04:35,042 --> 00:04:35,841 I'm sorry, I can't go. 100 00:04:35,843 --> 00:04:37,542 It's okay. 101 00:04:37,544 --> 00:04:40,912 I want to be there for her to be a strength for her. 102 00:04:40,914 --> 00:04:42,614 -[Kody] You understand, right? -Yeah, I get it. 103 00:04:42,616 --> 00:04:43,982 It's okay. Yeah, it's okay. 104 00:04:43,984 --> 00:04:45,550 You're not gonna become a bitter old housewife... 105 00:04:45,552 --> 00:04:46,985 No. I guess not. 106 00:04:46,987 --> 00:04:47,953 'cause your daddy didn't do this for you? 107 00:04:47,955 --> 00:04:49,454 No. 108 00:04:49,456 --> 00:04:51,089 [Ysabel] He has a lot of kids to think about. 109 00:04:51,091 --> 00:04:52,791 It sucks. 110 00:04:52,793 --> 00:04:54,893 It sucks that he can't be there. 111 00:04:54,895 --> 00:04:58,997 I think it's been extremely trying on Christine and Ysabel, 112 00:04:58,999 --> 00:05:00,732 especially to not have all that support. 113 00:05:00,734 --> 00:05:02,901 I feel it deeply. 114 00:05:02,903 --> 00:05:04,936 I feel it very deeply on an emotional level 115 00:05:04,938 --> 00:05:10,309 that we aren't there to help them. 116 00:05:21,821 --> 00:05:23,755 [Christine] All right, Ysabel, how are you feeling? 117 00:05:23,757 --> 00:05:25,090 I'm feeling pretty good right now. 118 00:05:25,092 --> 00:05:25,824 [Christine] It's early. 119 00:05:25,826 --> 00:05:27,726 Yeah, it is just 4 o'clock. 120 00:05:27,728 --> 00:05:32,631 Today is the day that we have been waiting for for a long, long time. 121 00:05:32,633 --> 00:05:34,299 [Christine] What are you wearing for surgery? 122 00:05:34,301 --> 00:05:37,769 I'm wearing just sweatpants and then Dad's hoodie 123 00:05:37,771 --> 00:05:39,971 -'cause he's not here. -[Christine] Got Dad's hoodie. What was that? 124 00:05:39,973 --> 00:05:41,606 Yeah, 'cause he's not here. 125 00:05:41,608 --> 00:05:42,708 [Christine] That's cute. 126 00:05:42,710 --> 00:05:45,110 I mean, honestly, the biggest struggle 127 00:05:45,112 --> 00:05:48,146 of all of this is that Kody's not here. 128 00:05:48,148 --> 00:05:50,816 He was really sweet. 129 00:05:50,818 --> 00:05:55,020 He did give her this hoodie, and he did say it was kind of like a hug. 130 00:05:55,022 --> 00:05:58,056 Look, he's been to every scoliosis appointment. 131 00:05:58,058 --> 00:06:00,192 He went with us to Michigan. 132 00:06:00,194 --> 00:06:01,727 He went for the bootcamp. 133 00:06:01,729 --> 00:06:04,830 All of the appointments in Vegas, I said, 134 00:06:04,832 --> 00:06:08,633 "You know, if it wasn't for Covid, he would be here with you." 135 00:06:08,635 --> 00:06:12,204 And she gets it on a logical level. 136 00:06:12,206 --> 00:06:15,273 But on an emotional level, it's ripping her apart. 137 00:06:16,843 --> 00:06:18,043 That's the hard part of all of it. 138 00:06:18,644 --> 00:06:20,979 And I think more than anything, I don't want her to dwell 139 00:06:20,981 --> 00:06:23,048 on the fact that he couldn't come. 140 00:06:23,050 --> 00:06:25,917 All right, this is the day of surgery. 141 00:06:25,919 --> 00:06:28,120 - Yay! - [laughing] 142 00:06:28,122 --> 00:06:29,087 Last night was your last night. 143 00:06:29,089 --> 00:06:30,722 I'm just... I don't know. 144 00:06:30,724 --> 00:06:33,458 I keep thinking like last night, last night was like a... 145 00:06:33,460 --> 00:06:35,127 not nostalgic, but kind of like, 146 00:06:35,129 --> 00:06:37,796 "Man, today really is the first day of the rest of your life." 147 00:06:37,798 --> 00:06:39,464 It still doesn't feel like it. 148 00:06:39,466 --> 00:06:41,299 - Really? - Yeah. 149 00:06:41,301 --> 00:06:42,734 It hasn't set in, I guess. 150 00:06:42,736 --> 00:06:45,837 I really trust Dr. Antonacci and his team. 151 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:48,774 After talking with him just yesterday, 152 00:06:48,776 --> 00:06:52,911 even if I was concerned, I wouldn't be concerned today. 153 00:06:52,913 --> 00:06:55,981 [Dr. Antonacci] So, just like on her x-ray, the curves go in and rotate. 154 00:06:55,983 --> 00:06:57,149 [Christine] Mmm-hmm. 155 00:06:57,151 --> 00:06:58,817 [Dr. Antonacci] So, that's what we see. 156 00:06:58,819 --> 00:07:00,452 We see it's shallow here and we see it coming off like this. 157 00:07:00,454 --> 00:07:02,154 [Christine] Mmm-hmm. 158 00:07:02,156 --> 00:07:04,890 [Dr. Antonacci] And when she shift to the side shoulders down a little bit. 159 00:07:04,892 --> 00:07:06,825 Go ahead and bend forward. 160 00:07:06,827 --> 00:07:08,493 That raises the rib cage. 161 00:07:08,495 --> 00:07:10,495 But this is the part of the rib cage that's the sidewall. 162 00:07:10,497 --> 00:07:13,999 We decided to not do the traditional rod surgery. 163 00:07:14,001 --> 00:07:18,870 The usual surgery is opening up the back and screwing rods down the spine. 164 00:07:18,872 --> 00:07:22,340 But we did find another surgery, so, they go in through... 165 00:07:22,342 --> 00:07:24,543 they open up the side and they slice 166 00:07:24,545 --> 00:07:27,779 between the ribs, they pry the ribs apart, 167 00:07:27,781 --> 00:07:30,849 they collapse a lung and then just move the lung out of the way. 168 00:07:30,851 --> 00:07:33,485 So, then they take these fibers 169 00:07:33,487 --> 00:07:36,521 and then they attach the fiber with screws to the spine, 170 00:07:36,523 --> 00:07:38,790 and then they tighten it up using the screws. 171 00:07:38,792 --> 00:07:40,759 And the fibers themselves straighten the spine. 172 00:07:40,761 --> 00:07:44,696 And so, that's the one that we feel more confident about. 173 00:07:44,698 --> 00:07:47,833 And that's the one that she's expressed interest in having too. 174 00:07:47,835 --> 00:07:49,701 [Dr. Antonacci] And one other thing you'll notice... 175 00:07:49,703 --> 00:07:51,436 you'll notice that she's crunched over here 176 00:07:51,438 --> 00:07:52,704 - because of the shift. - [Christine] Yes. 177 00:07:52,706 --> 00:07:53,972 And then she's lengthened over here. 178 00:07:53,974 --> 00:07:55,574 So, you're going to notice that, you know, 179 00:07:55,576 --> 00:07:56,775 next few days when she stands up, 180 00:07:56,777 --> 00:07:59,644 you're gonna see her really symmetric in here. 181 00:07:59,646 --> 00:08:01,947 And then this should be a little fuller, 182 00:08:01,949 --> 00:08:03,482 and these should be a little bit more leveled. 183 00:08:03,484 --> 00:08:05,150 [Christine] Perfect. 184 00:08:09,755 --> 00:08:14,593 After Dr. Antonacci left, the nurses came in and they were all kind of chuckling. 185 00:08:14,595 --> 00:08:16,995 They're like, "You're almost too big for this bed." 186 00:08:16,997 --> 00:08:19,731 She's just super tall and she's still chatting 187 00:08:19,733 --> 00:08:21,399 with them and just being awesome. 188 00:08:22,735 --> 00:08:25,103 Then they wheeled her away. 189 00:08:25,105 --> 00:08:26,972 I mean, they wheeled her away. 190 00:08:26,974 --> 00:08:29,107 I had to say goodbye. 191 00:08:29,175 --> 00:08:29,841 She said goodbye. 192 00:08:29,843 --> 00:08:31,409 We gave each other a hug. 193 00:08:33,779 --> 00:08:38,049 It is so hard to watch your kid go and you can't help them. 194 00:08:38,051 --> 00:08:40,018 It's completely out of your hands. 195 00:08:42,755 --> 00:08:44,789 I trust them. I do. 196 00:08:44,791 --> 00:08:47,158 I think they're are a wonderful staff and everything, but, 197 00:08:49,428 --> 00:08:51,029 I wasn't ready for this. 198 00:08:52,231 --> 00:08:56,101 So, Ysabel was just taken back to do the surgery. 199 00:08:56,103 --> 00:09:00,305 And it was so hard to see her go. 200 00:09:01,807 --> 00:09:04,743 She's the most incredible kid I know. 201 00:09:04,745 --> 00:09:09,347 And she's been dealing with pain for so long. 202 00:09:10,883 --> 00:09:15,020 Wearing the brace is hard because I look bigger. 203 00:09:17,023 --> 00:09:19,357 And it's hard emotionally because... 204 00:09:24,997 --> 00:09:27,232 [sobs] 205 00:09:30,703 --> 00:09:33,071 it's horrible wearing the brace. 206 00:09:36,475 --> 00:09:39,444 It hurts all over, like bruises. 207 00:09:42,715 --> 00:09:45,016 It is awful. 208 00:09:45,718 --> 00:09:49,120 We put her doing exercises and all this stuff to help... 209 00:09:49,122 --> 00:09:53,892 possibly help reduce the curvature of a spine. 210 00:09:53,894 --> 00:09:56,294 We've tried everything. 211 00:09:56,296 --> 00:09:59,664 And Ysabel has been amazing through all of it. 212 00:09:59,666 --> 00:10:04,669 It's been nine months since she told me she was in just pain every day. 213 00:10:04,671 --> 00:10:06,871 And as soon as I found out she was in pain every day, 214 00:10:06,873 --> 00:10:09,774 I started applying for insurance at that point. 215 00:10:09,776 --> 00:10:12,844 And it took this long to get insurance. 216 00:10:12,846 --> 00:10:15,981 And then with Covid and everything, 217 00:10:15,983 --> 00:10:16,848 everything just took a lot longer. 218 00:10:16,850 --> 00:10:18,483 But here we are. 219 00:10:18,485 --> 00:10:22,120 And she is now back in the surgery room. 220 00:10:22,122 --> 00:10:26,925 And we find out in about two hours how the surgery went. 221 00:10:26,927 --> 00:10:28,026 So, prayers and prayers. 222 00:10:28,028 --> 00:10:29,427 Tons and tons of prayers. 223 00:10:29,429 --> 00:10:31,730 We have so many people praying for her. 224 00:10:31,732 --> 00:10:34,866 And I'm so, so grateful for the support that we have. 225 00:10:34,868 --> 00:10:37,969 And yeah, so, here we go. 226 00:10:40,006 --> 00:10:43,041 Christine's just fine with you do what you do. You do you. 227 00:10:43,043 --> 00:10:44,576 I'm gonna do me. 228 00:10:44,578 --> 00:10:47,379 I am not the head of this family, 229 00:10:47,381 --> 00:10:50,281 and that's not the deal we made when we got married. 230 00:10:50,283 --> 00:10:55,720 You're either in complying with our standard or I'm not coming around. 231 00:10:55,722 --> 00:10:56,688 I'm a polygamist. 232 00:10:56,690 --> 00:10:59,824 I did crazy [bleep] to get into heaven. 233 00:10:59,826 --> 00:11:04,996 I'm gonna do crazy stuff to prevent somebody going there early. 234 00:11:15,274 --> 00:11:18,443 Janelle's been back from North Carolina for a couple of weeks, 235 00:11:18,445 --> 00:11:22,080 but because Garrison and Gabriel still have lives outside of the home. 236 00:11:22,082 --> 00:11:26,184 I'm basically still social distancing from them. 237 00:11:26,186 --> 00:11:28,653 Oh, those are fun colors, aren't they? Look at all that. 238 00:11:28,655 --> 00:11:30,155 Oh, my goodness! 239 00:11:30,157 --> 00:11:31,656 So, I've just come over to talk with Janelle about 240 00:11:31,658 --> 00:11:34,726 how we're gonna be able to make it so I can be home. 241 00:11:34,728 --> 00:11:36,795 -Yeah, there we go. -[Janelle] I think they're fine. 242 00:11:36,797 --> 00:11:39,664 Last year, I saved them all because Axel came in October. 243 00:11:39,666 --> 00:11:40,865 But this year he won't be coming. 244 00:11:40,867 --> 00:11:42,834 - They're not going to come at all? - Mmm-mmm. 245 00:11:42,836 --> 00:11:45,537 You know, we had sort of entertained the idea that 246 00:11:45,539 --> 00:11:47,605 Maddie and Caleb may come to visit. 247 00:11:47,607 --> 00:11:51,876 But in the end, it just became logistically impossible for her to come. 248 00:11:51,878 --> 00:11:54,946 Having Hunter on the East Coast has been good 249 00:11:54,948 --> 00:11:56,748 'cause he sees them pretty often. 250 00:11:56,750 --> 00:11:58,950 Hunter is going to school. 251 00:11:58,952 --> 00:12:03,054 He's getting his Master's in Nursing at Johns Hopkins. 252 00:12:03,056 --> 00:12:05,824 And then he goes and sees Maddie and Caleb 253 00:12:05,826 --> 00:12:07,826 periodically 'cause it's about a five-hour drive. 254 00:12:07,828 --> 00:12:10,028 I'm like literally jealous of people 255 00:12:10,030 --> 00:12:14,466 who aren't maintaining any kind of standards of social distancing 256 00:12:14,468 --> 00:12:16,067 and stuff like that. 257 00:12:16,069 --> 00:12:19,437 Like, some of the family are really diligent about preventing exposure. 258 00:12:19,439 --> 00:12:24,476 And some of the family are really... almost lackadaisical about it. 259 00:12:24,478 --> 00:12:28,680 I got two portions of my family that I'm not even seeing. 260 00:12:28,682 --> 00:12:32,083 You know, I mean, my family is basically divided up by thirds in a sense. 261 00:12:32,085 --> 00:12:34,018 Christine's traveling all the time. 262 00:12:34,020 --> 00:12:35,120 I don't see her almost at all. 263 00:12:35,122 --> 00:12:36,354 Janelle's got the boys. 264 00:12:36,356 --> 00:12:37,789 I don't see her very often. 265 00:12:37,791 --> 00:12:41,526 But the place I'm staying most of the time is at Robyn's house. 266 00:12:41,528 --> 00:12:45,063 Okay, so, Garrison was pre-approved for a mortgage. 267 00:12:45,065 --> 00:12:49,234 He has been saving this whole year and has enough to cover closing costs. 268 00:12:49,236 --> 00:12:51,169 But he doesn't have the down payment. 269 00:12:51,171 --> 00:12:53,705 They don't have first time homebuyer type of incentives or anything like that? 270 00:12:53,707 --> 00:12:56,241 No. 271 00:12:56,243 --> 00:13:00,979 So, Garrison has been saving like crazy for a year, and he saved up a good chunk. 272 00:13:00,981 --> 00:13:03,815 But with the price of real estate in Flagstaff, 273 00:13:03,817 --> 00:13:06,684 he can't really buy a house right now. 274 00:13:06,686 --> 00:13:09,387 So, he's stuck here, really. 275 00:13:09,389 --> 00:13:12,257 So, about six weeks ago, Kody started to realize 276 00:13:12,259 --> 00:13:14,959 that maybe Garrison had more of a social life than he thought he did. 277 00:13:14,961 --> 00:13:17,962 So, he wanted me to have Garrison move out. 278 00:13:17,964 --> 00:13:19,864 But I felt like that was the wrong move. 279 00:13:19,866 --> 00:13:21,933 Garrison has been working very hard. 280 00:13:21,935 --> 00:13:25,003 I'm just gonna let my kids try to get a leg up 281 00:13:25,005 --> 00:13:26,571 'cause the world is a very different place. 282 00:13:26,573 --> 00:13:29,073 So, I'm not gonna kick him out. 283 00:13:29,075 --> 00:13:32,377 You're behaving, Janelle, as though this is our problem. 284 00:13:33,512 --> 00:13:37,182 She's trying to get me to help solve Garrison's problem 285 00:13:37,184 --> 00:13:40,151 because we need him to move out of the house so that we... 286 00:13:40,153 --> 00:13:42,854 so that her and I can get back to a normal lifestyle. 287 00:13:42,856 --> 00:13:44,622 He's an adult. 288 00:13:44,624 --> 00:13:46,457 He has to deal with adult things. 289 00:13:46,459 --> 00:13:49,828 Well, honey, look, we have always done 290 00:13:49,830 --> 00:13:52,063 what we could do to launch our kids and stabilize them. 291 00:13:52,065 --> 00:13:53,298 - Yes, I know. - And... 292 00:13:53,300 --> 00:13:55,066 Maddie and Caleb moved in with us. 293 00:13:55,068 --> 00:13:57,735 And we gave Garrison that launch years ago, okay? 294 00:13:57,737 --> 00:13:58,970 Yeah, but he never... 295 00:13:58,972 --> 00:14:01,306 we never had to help him through school or anything like... 296 00:14:02,107 --> 00:14:02,874 We got Garrison a car. 297 00:14:02,876 --> 00:14:04,642 That was it. 298 00:14:04,644 --> 00:14:06,845 He went to the military and did the rest of it on his own. 299 00:14:06,847 --> 00:14:08,780 So, look, from the very beginning, 300 00:14:08,782 --> 00:14:10,615 we have done everything we could, 301 00:14:10,617 --> 00:14:14,719 even sacrificing some of our financial retirement 302 00:14:14,721 --> 00:14:15,753 and everything, just trying to make sure 303 00:14:15,755 --> 00:14:18,523 these kids were all launched and stable. 304 00:14:18,525 --> 00:14:22,560 So, I mean, the version of us doing that for Garrison is this, 305 00:14:22,562 --> 00:14:26,698 like letting him stay here and save up his money for a down payment on a house. 306 00:14:26,700 --> 00:14:30,735 He's not willing to maintain the standards that we need 307 00:14:30,737 --> 00:14:33,104 for the social distancing, and that's affecting 308 00:14:33,106 --> 00:14:36,507 my relationship with you and my relationship with Savanah. 309 00:14:36,509 --> 00:14:39,510 So, I miss all my kids, okay? 310 00:14:39,512 --> 00:14:42,814 But Savanah and Janelle aren't the reason that I have to be away. 311 00:14:42,816 --> 00:14:44,983 Gabe and Garrison are the reason that I have to be away. 312 00:14:44,985 --> 00:14:47,552 They're making choices that affect the entire family. 313 00:14:47,554 --> 00:14:49,854 They're making choices that affect me. 314 00:14:49,856 --> 00:14:52,624 But now she's having to choose between me and the boys, 315 00:14:52,626 --> 00:14:53,892 she's choosing the boys. 316 00:14:53,894 --> 00:14:55,093 [Janelle] 'Cause I just feel... 317 00:14:55,095 --> 00:14:56,661 See, you've always had a problem with this. 318 00:14:56,663 --> 00:14:59,898 I can see in it your eyes, your body language and everything is saying, 319 00:14:59,900 --> 00:15:03,268 "No, no, no, my babies get to run my household." 320 00:15:03,270 --> 00:15:04,903 Okay, look. Yes, of course. 321 00:15:04,905 --> 00:15:07,538 - [Kody] Don't-- - I think my children are... 322 00:15:07,540 --> 00:15:10,541 I mean, they really are the center of my world, right? 323 00:15:10,543 --> 00:15:12,844 And we're... I mean, like, I don't know, honey. 324 00:15:12,846 --> 00:15:15,079 It's just part of plural marriage like your children become... 325 00:15:15,081 --> 00:15:17,482 Well, I don't... 326 00:15:17,484 --> 00:15:20,518 I don't think this has to be part of plural marriage. 327 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:24,589 You know, I guess, I mean, at least for me, in plural marriage, 328 00:15:24,591 --> 00:15:27,859 I learned early on not to make my world center around Kody. 329 00:15:27,861 --> 00:15:29,827 And that was just the way it was. 330 00:15:29,829 --> 00:15:32,463 Like, it just was part of the lifestyle, I felt like... 331 00:15:32,465 --> 00:15:35,967 Like my focus has really always been my kids 332 00:15:35,969 --> 00:15:37,835 'cause I didn't have a husband that was there every single night. 333 00:15:37,837 --> 00:15:40,071 I had a lot more independence. 334 00:15:40,073 --> 00:15:42,440 So, I had a lot more time to really just focus on the kids. 335 00:15:42,442 --> 00:15:47,145 I don't know if there's like a, you know, your husband is, you know, 336 00:15:47,147 --> 00:15:49,614 before your children or your children are before your husband. 337 00:15:49,616 --> 00:15:51,449 I think that they are equal. 338 00:15:51,451 --> 00:15:54,852 It's definitely a hard balance sometimes. 339 00:15:54,854 --> 00:15:57,755 But I think that it's important to strike. 340 00:15:57,757 --> 00:16:03,628 For me, like I still want to have 341 00:16:03,630 --> 00:16:08,366 a good relationship with Kody, regardless of the fact that 342 00:16:09,635 --> 00:16:12,904 it's kind of distant and estranged in a way. 343 00:16:12,906 --> 00:16:14,839 So, that's still very important to me. 344 00:16:14,841 --> 00:16:18,609 I don't think that you should have to choose, you know, 345 00:16:18,611 --> 00:16:21,145 'cause they're both equally important. 346 00:16:21,147 --> 00:16:23,681 Is it more important than my relationship with Kody? 347 00:16:23,683 --> 00:16:24,983 Yes. 348 00:16:24,985 --> 00:16:26,317 I would do anything for my kids. 349 00:16:26,319 --> 00:16:31,456 My kids really have been my companions through my life, honestly. 350 00:16:31,458 --> 00:16:33,424 Christine's given me an ultimatum like 351 00:16:33,426 --> 00:16:37,395 either she's not going to conform to it at all or else we've got to be 352 00:16:37,397 --> 00:16:39,497 able to do it in a way that gets the whole family together. 353 00:16:40,766 --> 00:16:43,534 So, it's either the whole family or nothing with Christine. 354 00:16:43,536 --> 00:16:46,070 That's the life that she wants. 355 00:16:46,072 --> 00:16:49,774 Yeah, I feel like we're just in two totally different places. 356 00:16:49,776 --> 00:16:53,111 No effort to have me around more. 357 00:16:53,113 --> 00:16:56,681 Janelle, if you want to play Christine's game the same way, I get it. 358 00:16:56,683 --> 00:16:58,016 [Janelle] No. Here's the thing. 359 00:16:58,018 --> 00:16:59,717 - I don't think that's fair to you and me. - No, it's not. 360 00:16:59,719 --> 00:17:02,153 And I have hated this six or eight weeks 361 00:17:02,155 --> 00:17:04,789 'cause in the middle of the night, I'm like, "Is this personal? 362 00:17:04,791 --> 00:17:06,457 Does he not want to be here?" 363 00:17:06,459 --> 00:17:09,927 It makes me feel like it's personal, Janelle. 364 00:17:09,929 --> 00:17:12,196 It makes me realize that in plural marriage, 365 00:17:12,198 --> 00:17:16,968 I don't matter because Christine is just fine with, "You do what you do. 366 00:17:16,970 --> 00:17:17,935 You do you. 367 00:17:17,937 --> 00:17:19,237 I'm gonna do me." 368 00:17:19,239 --> 00:17:22,607 She's really been complaining about the lack of either romance 369 00:17:22,609 --> 00:17:25,476 or closeness in the relationship for years. 370 00:17:25,478 --> 00:17:27,612 I can't start pouring my heart out 371 00:17:27,614 --> 00:17:31,482 with poetry that I'm not necessarily feeling. 372 00:17:31,484 --> 00:17:34,819 But, you know, that's gonna be short lived, and it feels like 373 00:17:34,821 --> 00:17:38,923 sometimes that's what I'm doing because it's constant pressure. 374 00:17:38,925 --> 00:17:42,927 It's really indicative of our crappy relationship, I guess. 375 00:17:42,929 --> 00:17:44,862 But you and I don't have a crappy relationship, 376 00:17:44,864 --> 00:17:48,332 and yet I'm still being marginalized. 377 00:17:49,668 --> 00:17:53,738 She's taking risks with our relationship. 378 00:17:53,740 --> 00:17:55,673 It's like we have a good relationship. 379 00:17:55,675 --> 00:17:57,742 We should protect that. 380 00:17:57,744 --> 00:17:59,677 I feel like you're not trying to protect it. 381 00:17:59,679 --> 00:18:02,914 I'm not gonna negotiate with the kids on this. 382 00:18:02,916 --> 00:18:08,753 You're either in and you're complying with our standard or I'm not coming around. 383 00:18:08,755 --> 00:18:09,687 I'm a polygamist. 384 00:18:09,689 --> 00:18:13,558 I did crazy [bleep] to get into heaven. 385 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:19,897 I'm gonna do crazy stuff to prevent somebody going there early, okay? 386 00:18:19,899 --> 00:18:23,434 I know that I can't stay away from you too much longer. 387 00:18:24,103 --> 00:18:26,337 I'm heartbroken about my boys. 388 00:18:26,339 --> 00:18:28,272 I don't know what to do. 389 00:18:30,509 --> 00:18:36,214 So, basically, she's stonewalling me here, I'm not making any progress. 390 00:18:36,216 --> 00:18:39,484 She misses me, so, she wants me to compromise so that I can come home 391 00:18:39,486 --> 00:18:44,789 rather than her making everybody in the household obey the protocols. 392 00:18:44,791 --> 00:18:45,723 And I'm... 393 00:18:45,725 --> 00:18:47,458 I'm just done. 394 00:18:47,460 --> 00:18:49,293 We're not getting anywhere here. 395 00:18:51,730 --> 00:18:53,064 Plural marriage is a struggle. 396 00:18:53,066 --> 00:18:55,333 It's a hard thing. 397 00:18:55,335 --> 00:18:58,236 I am not the head of this family. 398 00:19:00,839 --> 00:19:02,206 You know? 399 00:19:05,477 --> 00:19:09,480 I am the head of the household some places, I'm just not right here. 400 00:19:10,449 --> 00:19:13,151 And that's not the deal we made when we got married. 401 00:19:17,856 --> 00:19:24,162 So, the surgery took two hours longer than they thought. 402 00:19:24,164 --> 00:19:26,464 And I still haven't seen her yet. 403 00:19:26,466 --> 00:19:28,733 She's getting stitched up now. 404 00:19:28,735 --> 00:19:32,436 But Dr. Antonacci said it still went well, but he looks tired. 405 00:19:32,438 --> 00:19:33,604 So, she did really well. 406 00:19:33,606 --> 00:19:34,906 [Christine] Yeah. 407 00:19:34,908 --> 00:19:37,808 And she was very stiff, though, the curve got to the point 408 00:19:37,810 --> 00:19:39,744 where it didn't bend on the x-ray, 409 00:19:39,746 --> 00:19:41,846 but then it really wouldn't bend very much more. 410 00:19:41,848 --> 00:19:42,680 So, I had to release it in several places. 411 00:19:42,682 --> 00:19:44,582 [Christine] Oh, really? 412 00:19:44,584 --> 00:19:47,451 I was expecting to release like three places, but I released it six. 413 00:19:47,453 --> 00:19:50,788 It was a rougher surgery than they intended. 414 00:19:50,790 --> 00:19:52,490 -[Dr. Antonacci] This is her curve. -[Christine] Okay. 415 00:19:52,492 --> 00:19:54,559 Before the surgery. 416 00:19:54,561 --> 00:19:56,427 And then she has two screws, pretty much at every level, 417 00:19:56,429 --> 00:19:57,995 - all the way down. - [Christine] Okay. 418 00:19:58,463 --> 00:20:00,531 [Dr. Antonacci] So, it looks really good. It's about 15 degrees or so. 419 00:20:00,533 --> 00:20:01,866 [Christine] Oh, nice. 420 00:20:01,868 --> 00:20:02,867 - That's what we were hoping for. - Yeah. Yeah. So. 421 00:20:02,869 --> 00:20:04,969 [Christine] Oh, my gosh! That's wonderful news. 422 00:20:04,971 --> 00:20:08,539 It's hard to see all of this hardware in her body. 423 00:20:08,541 --> 00:20:11,442 There are a bunch of screws in her spine, 424 00:20:11,444 --> 00:20:14,845 but yeah, 15 degrees is a huge success, and it's for life. 425 00:20:14,847 --> 00:20:18,316 That's a lot better than 55. 426 00:20:25,757 --> 00:20:28,226 This is the first time I get to see Ysabel. 427 00:20:28,228 --> 00:20:31,896 So, I walked in the room and there she is, and she... 428 00:20:31,898 --> 00:20:34,465 [chuckles] she's fine. 429 00:20:34,467 --> 00:20:36,000 She's fine. 430 00:20:36,002 --> 00:20:40,471 She's under anesthetic and everything is done. 431 00:20:40,473 --> 00:20:42,440 The surgery is complete. 432 00:20:42,442 --> 00:20:44,041 [Christine] Do you like the... 433 00:20:44,043 --> 00:20:46,110 [Christine] Yeah. 434 00:20:47,179 --> 00:20:49,046 - [Christine] I hope so. - [woman 2] You do. 435 00:20:49,048 --> 00:20:51,349 [Christine gasps] She says you do have a killer scar. 436 00:20:53,252 --> 00:20:54,986 - [Christine] No. - [woman 2] No. 437 00:20:57,789 --> 00:20:58,456 [Christine laughs] 438 00:20:58,757 --> 00:21:00,124 I'm surprised. 439 00:21:00,126 --> 00:21:02,893 I thought the first thing she would ask is, "How tall am I now?" 440 00:21:02,895 --> 00:21:05,162 So, I thought, height was the biggest thing. 441 00:21:05,164 --> 00:21:07,932 But apparently, this killer scar is the one that she wants. 442 00:21:07,934 --> 00:21:09,233 I'm gonna put some-- 443 00:21:09,835 --> 00:21:11,068 [Christine] I love you too, baby. 444 00:21:11,470 --> 00:21:13,170 [woman 2] I don't even know where I'm gonna put it because 445 00:21:13,172 --> 00:21:15,940 - she's going to be rolling all around. - I'm going to call Daddy. 446 00:21:15,942 --> 00:21:17,141 Yeah. We'll call Daddy. Okay. 447 00:21:18,110 --> 00:21:19,977 [Christine] I know. I'll tell him you miss him. 448 00:21:19,979 --> 00:21:21,078 Okay. 449 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,882 It's on a level of importance for him to be here, 450 00:21:24,884 --> 00:21:27,985 it's actually really high for her. 451 00:21:28,787 --> 00:21:30,221 [Christine] Yeah, I'll call Daddy right away. 452 00:21:31,823 --> 00:21:33,424 [Christine] I know, honey. 453 00:21:33,426 --> 00:21:37,028 I'm sure it's difficult for him too, you know, 454 00:21:37,030 --> 00:21:41,832 without a doubt, I know that he would love to be here if he could. 455 00:21:41,834 --> 00:21:42,833 And so, it's bittersweet. 456 00:21:42,835 --> 00:21:44,368 It's tough. 457 00:21:46,371 --> 00:21:48,773 You know, Kody and I, we had a conversation 458 00:21:48,775 --> 00:21:53,811 recently that it just kind of came down to that we're friends. 459 00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:56,981 My relationship with Meri is not the kind of relationship 460 00:21:56,983 --> 00:21:59,083 where I'm going to talk with her every day. 461 00:21:59,085 --> 00:22:01,085 I'm not going anywhere, y'all. 462 00:22:01,087 --> 00:22:03,254 You're stuck with me. [chuckling] 463 00:22:03,922 --> 00:22:05,990 Whether you like it or not. 464 00:22:13,999 --> 00:22:15,933 [Christine] How are you feeling, baby? 465 00:22:16,968 --> 00:22:19,303 So, Ysabel's surgery was yesterday. 466 00:22:19,305 --> 00:22:22,106 And last night was brutal. 467 00:22:22,108 --> 00:22:23,841 Was brutal. 468 00:22:23,843 --> 00:22:24,775 I didn't know... 469 00:22:24,777 --> 00:22:27,945 I didn't know the pain would be like this. 470 00:22:27,947 --> 00:22:32,149 The nurses were in all night long trying to help her. 471 00:22:32,151 --> 00:22:33,651 She's never been in this much pain. 472 00:22:33,653 --> 00:22:34,452 Never. 473 00:22:34,454 --> 00:22:36,787 And she kept asking for her daddy, 474 00:22:36,789 --> 00:22:38,456 and I'm like, "Honey, he's not here." 475 00:22:38,458 --> 00:22:40,424 And then a few moments later, she'd ask for him again. 476 00:22:40,426 --> 00:22:41,992 I'm like, "What?" 477 00:22:41,994 --> 00:22:45,830 And the doctor explained to me that when they're coming out of anesthesia, 478 00:22:45,832 --> 00:22:48,666 they don't really register anything. 479 00:22:48,668 --> 00:22:51,969 So, she was gonna ask the same thing over and over and over. 480 00:22:51,971 --> 00:22:53,838 It was so heartbreaking. 481 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:57,675 Late last night, when I knew that he would still be awake, we video chatted him. 482 00:22:57,677 --> 00:22:59,810 Hi, sweetheart. 483 00:22:59,812 --> 00:23:02,646 Oh, you're not feeling good right now, a little nauseous? 484 00:23:02,648 --> 00:23:03,981 [Christine] It really helped. 485 00:23:03,983 --> 00:23:05,216 He's great at being a cheerleader. 486 00:23:05,218 --> 00:23:06,016 He really is. 487 00:23:06,018 --> 00:23:07,952 How you feeling, baby? 488 00:23:07,954 --> 00:23:09,787 [woman 2] You don't feel very good? 489 00:23:09,789 --> 00:23:11,489 [Christine] Just a second. You don't need to do anything. 490 00:23:11,491 --> 00:23:12,990 [woman 2] You are. 491 00:23:12,992 --> 00:23:14,892 We need to get out of the hospital in five days. 492 00:23:14,894 --> 00:23:18,796 So, in order to get out, she has all these things she has to do. 493 00:23:18,798 --> 00:23:20,998 She needs to sit up. 494 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:22,299 She needs to get her legs on the ground. 495 00:23:22,301 --> 00:23:25,202 She needs to walk to this chair. 496 00:23:25,204 --> 00:23:29,807 At the end of all of this is you walk to a map that's like down the hall, 497 00:23:29,809 --> 00:23:31,709 through these doors, down the southern hall. 498 00:23:31,711 --> 00:23:34,044 So, that's like, that's the big goal. 499 00:23:34,046 --> 00:23:35,746 Do you want me to lean against-- 500 00:23:35,748 --> 00:23:37,014 [Christine] Not yet. Not yet. 501 00:23:37,016 --> 00:23:38,816 She's fixing your back right now. 502 00:23:38,818 --> 00:23:40,751 [Ysabel speaking] 503 00:23:40,753 --> 00:23:43,621 The flight is next Sunday to go home. 504 00:23:43,623 --> 00:23:46,257 It's only like ten days away. 505 00:23:47,159 --> 00:23:50,127 I have no idea how she's gonna be ready to fly home. 506 00:23:50,195 --> 00:23:52,029 I'm sending this to Dad. 507 00:23:52,864 --> 00:23:54,498 He's gonna be so proud of you. 508 00:23:56,034 --> 00:23:57,101 I don't know when we're going home. 509 00:23:57,103 --> 00:23:58,302 I have no idea. 510 00:24:11,016 --> 00:24:13,951 [Meri sighs] All right. 511 00:24:14,553 --> 00:24:16,754 I really just kind of needed to get out today 512 00:24:16,756 --> 00:24:20,658 and just kind of like check out from everybody and everything. 513 00:24:20,660 --> 00:24:24,762 So, there's a trial in Flagstaff that I really enjoy hiking on. 514 00:24:24,764 --> 00:24:27,731 And so this is one of the things I like doing is just kind of 515 00:24:27,733 --> 00:24:29,467 getting away from it all. 516 00:24:29,469 --> 00:24:30,968 We've got Covid going on. 517 00:24:30,970 --> 00:24:32,736 I'm running two businesses. 518 00:24:32,738 --> 00:24:35,172 We're quarantining from each other. 519 00:24:35,174 --> 00:24:38,309 As a family, we really haven't spent much time together. 520 00:24:39,311 --> 00:24:40,978 And... 521 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:43,214 it's... 522 00:24:45,917 --> 00:24:46,951 weird. 523 00:24:46,953 --> 00:24:48,919 It's lonely. 524 00:24:48,921 --> 00:24:52,256 Like, I live alone, you know? 525 00:24:52,557 --> 00:24:55,593 I just miss my family. 526 00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:59,830 If I didn't have my girls with me during this whole Covid thing, 527 00:24:59,832 --> 00:25:01,932 I'm sure I would have been going insane. 528 00:25:01,934 --> 00:25:05,469 It's funny 'cause I actually do feel lonely through Covid. 529 00:25:05,471 --> 00:25:09,273 I'm isolated from the rest of the family and from my... 530 00:25:09,275 --> 00:25:13,477 you know, my brothers and sisters and my parents and then my friends, too. 531 00:25:13,479 --> 00:25:15,179 I will say, 532 00:25:15,181 --> 00:25:20,885 and not as often as I should, I do try to at least text Meri or call her. 533 00:25:20,887 --> 00:25:21,986 It's not on the regular. 534 00:25:21,988 --> 00:25:23,854 It's not every week. 535 00:25:23,856 --> 00:25:26,957 Christine and I actually interact a lot more 536 00:25:26,959 --> 00:25:29,693 via text and phone, and we do some... 537 00:25:29,695 --> 00:25:32,630 like we've socially met up during Covid. 538 00:25:32,632 --> 00:25:35,065 I always saw one of the main benefits 539 00:25:35,067 --> 00:25:37,668 about plural marriage is that anybody in the family would never actually 540 00:25:37,670 --> 00:25:40,704 suffer real true loneliness. 541 00:25:40,706 --> 00:25:45,476 But the way things have played out for our family, that's not necessarily true. 542 00:25:45,478 --> 00:25:48,679 My relationship with Meri is not the kind of relationship 543 00:25:48,681 --> 00:25:50,514 where I'm going to talk with her every day, 544 00:25:50,516 --> 00:25:53,984 and my best guess is that her sister wives 545 00:25:53,986 --> 00:25:57,254 don't feel like having an interaction with her daily either. 546 00:25:57,256 --> 00:25:59,056 You know, Kody and I... 547 00:25:59,925 --> 00:26:00,958 Kody and I... 548 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,726 Oh, Kody and I. [chuckles] 549 00:26:02,728 --> 00:26:06,196 We had a conversation recently that it just kind of came down 550 00:26:06,198 --> 00:26:12,169 to that we're friends, which I guess is a good thing. [chuckles] 551 00:26:12,171 --> 00:26:14,305 It's a good thing. 552 00:26:16,908 --> 00:26:17,808 But, you know, I just... 553 00:26:17,810 --> 00:26:20,077 I don't know, I guess I just kind of... 554 00:26:20,079 --> 00:26:21,912 I have hope for more than that, so. 555 00:26:21,914 --> 00:26:25,115 Kody has said some things to me 556 00:26:25,117 --> 00:26:30,955 more recently that leads me to believe that, 557 00:26:30,957 --> 00:26:34,758 you know, there's... there's no repairing our relationship. 558 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,360 There are days when... 559 00:26:41,933 --> 00:26:44,602 I get very, very discouraged. 560 00:26:44,604 --> 00:26:48,172 But then there's days that I have so much hope. 561 00:26:48,174 --> 00:26:52,943 If I quit, if I walk away, then it's not... it's not going to get better. 562 00:26:52,945 --> 00:26:54,845 I'm not going anywhere, y'all. 563 00:26:54,847 --> 00:26:57,114 You're stuck with me. [chuckles] 564 00:26:57,882 --> 00:26:59,383 Whether y'all like it or not. 565 00:27:00,819 --> 00:27:06,290 Because my family all saw me go through a really dark spot, 566 00:27:06,292 --> 00:27:10,294 I think that they question if I'm gonna stay. 567 00:27:10,296 --> 00:27:15,232 Through that time, I was considering every single option that I had. 568 00:27:15,234 --> 00:27:17,001 Leave. 569 00:27:17,102 --> 00:27:18,769 Go do my own thing. 570 00:27:18,771 --> 00:27:21,238 I've considered everything. 571 00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:24,742 And this is where I am, you know, this is my decision. 572 00:27:24,744 --> 00:27:31,048 Honestly, I would rather that we have a lot more interaction with each other. 573 00:27:31,050 --> 00:27:33,584 And I will tell you, I mean, these are the two that 574 00:27:33,586 --> 00:27:37,988 I just keep coming back to because I just... 575 00:27:39,457 --> 00:27:43,227 I know I have love 100% unconditional from them. 576 00:27:43,229 --> 00:27:46,096 And that is Solomon and Ariella. 577 00:27:52,504 --> 00:27:56,974 I miss those two so bad. 578 00:27:56,976 --> 00:28:01,278 [Robyn] Meri shows a lot of interest in being in Sol and Ari's life. 579 00:28:01,646 --> 00:28:03,447 And they love her. 580 00:28:03,449 --> 00:28:05,716 When they see her, they just get really excited. 581 00:28:05,718 --> 00:28:08,886 You know, I feel like I've got some really good relationships 582 00:28:08,888 --> 00:28:13,691 within the family, and I've got some that are kind of rocky, 583 00:28:13,693 --> 00:28:16,126 and I've got some that are basically nonexistent. 584 00:28:16,128 --> 00:28:19,463 I want to have a relationship with Kody 585 00:28:19,465 --> 00:28:23,667 where we don't go for a week without even acknowledging each other. 586 00:28:23,669 --> 00:28:25,335 He and I are better than this. 587 00:28:25,337 --> 00:28:29,640 I feel like that, you know, our family is better than what we're doing right now. 588 00:28:29,642 --> 00:28:33,444 The fact is is I've got four wives who, 589 00:28:33,446 --> 00:28:37,915 during Covid, have chosen not to interact with each other. 590 00:28:37,917 --> 00:28:42,119 They're mad about it, but they're not even calling each other on the phone. 591 00:28:42,121 --> 00:28:46,490 They're not even using video media to talk to each other. 592 00:28:47,892 --> 00:28:50,027 Covid has revealed us. 593 00:28:51,663 --> 00:28:54,965 And we are sad, sorry, lonely little people. 594 00:28:57,936 --> 00:28:59,603 [Christine] So, Mitch and Aspyn are in town 595 00:28:59,605 --> 00:29:01,705 to support Izzy and to hang out. 596 00:29:01,707 --> 00:29:04,875 And Hunter 'cause he lives three hours from Wendy. 597 00:29:04,877 --> 00:29:09,046 Aspyn, Mitch, and Hunter both wanted to come and support Ysabel. 598 00:29:09,048 --> 00:29:10,280 It's a gray area. 599 00:29:10,282 --> 00:29:13,984 Is it the smartest, safest thing to do on paper? 600 00:29:13,986 --> 00:29:14,952 No. 601 00:29:14,954 --> 00:29:17,020 You guys ready to see Izzy's scar? 602 00:29:17,022 --> 00:29:19,823 I didn't even know how much I needed them. 603 00:29:19,825 --> 00:29:22,459 It's like, we're gonna remember this for the rest of our lives. 604 00:29:31,503 --> 00:29:33,904 So, today is the day she has to take the walk. 605 00:29:33,906 --> 00:29:37,641 It's like this epic walk where it's out the door, 606 00:29:37,643 --> 00:29:39,710 down the hallway, you turn a corner, 607 00:29:39,712 --> 00:29:44,481 then at the end of that hallway, there's a map. 608 00:29:44,483 --> 00:29:46,750 And the map, when you put your sticker on the map, 609 00:29:46,752 --> 00:29:50,120 that's when you're actually saying, "I'm going back home." 610 00:29:50,122 --> 00:29:52,790 - Okay, ready? - [Ysabel] Yeah, I'm ready. 611 00:29:52,792 --> 00:29:53,457 [Christine] You have the sticker? 612 00:29:53,459 --> 00:29:56,093 [Ysabel] Hmm? Uh-huh. 613 00:29:56,095 --> 00:30:00,164 And it just creates an awesome mindset of I've completed this amazing thing 614 00:30:00,166 --> 00:30:02,399 and reached my goal. 615 00:30:02,401 --> 00:30:04,468 But that means I get to go home. 616 00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,743 She's never gone this far before, and without much of my support, 617 00:30:12,745 --> 00:30:16,046 I mean her hand's on me, but that's more like, "Are you here, Mom? 618 00:30:16,048 --> 00:30:17,447 You know, are you here." That's it. 619 00:30:21,986 --> 00:30:26,190 It's the most incredible thing to see, her being so brave. 620 00:30:26,192 --> 00:30:30,027 Her recovery is all on her. 621 00:30:30,029 --> 00:30:35,165 And this final walk that she does just shows it's up to her, that's she's got this. 622 00:30:35,167 --> 00:30:36,233 She's got this. 623 00:30:36,935 --> 00:30:39,002 All right. Nice. 624 00:30:39,170 --> 00:30:41,138 Oh, look at that. 625 00:30:41,140 --> 00:30:42,472 [woman 2] Very good. 626 00:30:42,474 --> 00:30:43,540 She did it. She did. 627 00:30:43,542 --> 00:30:46,810 She's the only one in Flagstaff, Arizona, 628 00:30:46,812 --> 00:30:50,080 and she put the sticker on the map, and she's done it. 629 00:30:50,982 --> 00:30:51,648 So, good news. 630 00:30:51,650 --> 00:30:54,818 We are going home today. Ah! 631 00:30:54,820 --> 00:30:59,890 Well, to my sister's house, so, it's hard because she's still in a lot of pain, 632 00:30:59,892 --> 00:31:01,992 but we have a plan now. 633 00:31:01,994 --> 00:31:04,795 It took us five days to come up 634 00:31:04,797 --> 00:31:06,697 with a pain management plan for her. 635 00:31:06,699 --> 00:31:09,800 I'm glad we're leaving, but I'm not glad we're leaving 636 00:31:09,802 --> 00:31:12,903 'cause now I'm fully like responsible for it. 637 00:31:12,905 --> 00:31:15,806 And I know that I won't be able to help her as much as she needs. 638 00:31:15,808 --> 00:31:18,008 The pain is still way too intense. 639 00:31:18,010 --> 00:31:20,978 All right. Ysabel and I are leaving the hospital now. 640 00:31:21,913 --> 00:31:23,780 She's still in the "Mother Lode of pain". 641 00:31:23,782 --> 00:31:27,784 We have this whole bag of medication. 642 00:31:27,786 --> 00:31:30,287 I'm now in charge of Ysabel's medication. 643 00:31:30,289 --> 00:31:31,421 And there's a lot. 644 00:31:31,423 --> 00:31:32,889 They gave me, like, 645 00:31:32,891 --> 00:31:35,959 a whole like booklet of what medication can't go with other medication, 646 00:31:35,961 --> 00:31:38,262 what medication is for this and things like that. 647 00:31:38,264 --> 00:31:40,030 And some of the stuff is crazy. 648 00:31:40,665 --> 00:31:43,066 - Sorry. - It's all right. 649 00:31:43,068 --> 00:31:45,936 I'm going to drive as, like, non-aggressive as possible. 650 00:31:45,938 --> 00:31:46,836 Okay, fine. 651 00:31:46,838 --> 00:31:51,775 Every bump, every jostle of the wheel, 652 00:31:51,777 --> 00:31:57,047 everything that isn't just completely smooth, she was crying out in pain. 653 00:31:57,049 --> 00:31:58,015 And it was terrible. 654 00:31:58,017 --> 00:32:00,951 It was terrible. 655 00:32:00,953 --> 00:32:05,455 So, Mitch and Aspyn are in town to support Izzy and to hang out. 656 00:32:05,457 --> 00:32:07,824 And Hunter 'cause he lives three hours from Wendy. 657 00:32:07,826 --> 00:32:09,960 Aspyn is my oldest. 658 00:32:09,962 --> 00:32:12,696 She married Mitchell about three years ago. 659 00:32:12,698 --> 00:32:14,865 And they live in Utah now. 660 00:32:14,867 --> 00:32:16,767 And my girls love them. 661 00:32:16,769 --> 00:32:17,968 They love them. 662 00:32:17,970 --> 00:32:20,103 So, it's been really nice being here for Ysabel. 663 00:32:20,105 --> 00:32:22,472 I'm really happy I was able to make it. 664 00:32:22,474 --> 00:32:24,241 I hate seeing her in all this pain. 665 00:32:24,243 --> 00:32:26,476 And I think after this big surgery with all her pain, 666 00:32:26,478 --> 00:32:30,747 that's kind of like what's important is just getting some family time in. 667 00:32:30,749 --> 00:32:33,383 And yeah, so, I'm just really glad I could be here for her. 668 00:32:33,385 --> 00:32:34,818 Aspyn and Mitch, and Hunter 669 00:32:34,820 --> 00:32:38,555 both wanted to come and support Ysabel after her surgery. 670 00:32:38,557 --> 00:32:40,557 So, I talked with them for a long time about 671 00:32:40,559 --> 00:32:43,093 you need to be super careful before you come. 672 00:32:43,095 --> 00:32:46,630 You really have to follow the strict guidelines that we've been following. 673 00:32:46,632 --> 00:32:49,132 And it's a gray area. 674 00:32:49,134 --> 00:32:52,602 Is it the smartest, safest thing to do on paper? 675 00:32:52,604 --> 00:32:53,937 No. 676 00:32:53,939 --> 00:32:58,442 But the look in Ysabel's eyes and the happiness that she felt 677 00:32:58,444 --> 00:33:02,479 when she saw them is exactly what she needed. 678 00:33:02,481 --> 00:33:04,281 It's exactly what we all needed. 679 00:33:04,283 --> 00:33:06,116 You guys ready to see Izzy's scar? 680 00:33:06,118 --> 00:33:07,150 Here we go. 681 00:33:07,152 --> 00:33:09,052 [Hunter] Ooh, nice. 682 00:33:09,054 --> 00:33:10,887 [Christine] What do you think? 683 00:33:10,889 --> 00:33:12,122 - [Hunter] That's so legit. - [girl 1] Whoa! 684 00:33:12,124 --> 00:33:13,390 What the heck? 685 00:33:13,392 --> 00:33:14,825 [Christine] What do you think? 686 00:33:14,827 --> 00:33:17,461 [Hunter] You're like one of the Amazonian women, you're tall, 687 00:33:17,463 --> 00:33:18,762 - beautiful-- - [Aspyn] That's so true. 688 00:33:18,764 --> 00:33:19,896 It's incredible. 689 00:33:19,898 --> 00:33:22,199 They put their lives on hold to just come be here. 690 00:33:23,101 --> 00:33:26,436 They took the risk, the Covid risk. 691 00:33:26,438 --> 00:33:27,671 They made it a priority. 692 00:33:27,673 --> 00:33:31,808 This means the world to me and to Ysabel, too. 693 00:33:31,810 --> 00:33:33,810 It's like, we're going to remember this for the rest of our lives. 694 00:33:33,812 --> 00:33:35,712 Are these bandages also? 695 00:33:35,714 --> 00:33:37,981 [Christine] This is gonna be a scar right here. 696 00:33:37,983 --> 00:33:40,650 It's where they did the chest tube came out. 697 00:33:40,652 --> 00:33:43,653 I didn't even know how necessary 698 00:33:43,655 --> 00:33:46,556 it was for them to be here and how much I needed them 699 00:33:46,558 --> 00:33:48,225 and how much Ysabel needs them. 700 00:33:48,227 --> 00:33:49,993 So, what do you think, Isabel, about the scar? 701 00:33:49,995 --> 00:33:50,761 I like it. 702 00:33:50,763 --> 00:33:52,029 [Hunter] Beautiful girl. 703 00:33:52,031 --> 00:33:53,997 I like it that it is bigger than I thought it would be. 704 00:33:53,999 --> 00:33:55,532 [Christine] Yeah, that's an awesome scar. 705 00:33:55,534 --> 00:33:56,666 We all like it. We're proud of you. 706 00:33:56,668 --> 00:33:59,102 And Ysabel is going to remember always that Aspyn 707 00:33:59,104 --> 00:34:02,172 and Mitch and Hunter were really, really there for her. 708 00:34:05,943 --> 00:34:06,710 [Kody] How are you doing? 709 00:34:06,712 --> 00:34:08,845 - [Christine]I'm exhausted. - Oh, man. 710 00:34:08,847 --> 00:34:10,981 You know, when you're nursing somebody back to health, 711 00:34:10,983 --> 00:34:13,884 you need breaks too. 712 00:34:13,886 --> 00:34:15,218 [Christine] Everything's got to get better. 713 00:34:15,220 --> 00:34:17,821 It's been really, really hard. 714 00:34:17,823 --> 00:34:19,089 It can only get better. 715 00:34:19,091 --> 00:34:20,457 That's it. 716 00:34:20,459 --> 00:34:23,093 So, it can only get better, honestly. 717 00:34:34,505 --> 00:34:37,140 The girls and I just got back from getting Ysabel's surgery 718 00:34:37,142 --> 00:34:39,976 a few days ago, and I'm just gonna have the adults 719 00:34:39,978 --> 00:34:43,213 come over so I can tell them how it went and stuff. 720 00:34:43,815 --> 00:34:45,749 [Kody] They've been gone for six weeks. 721 00:34:45,751 --> 00:34:48,852 I was very disappointed that I wasn't able to go. 722 00:34:48,854 --> 00:34:51,621 But now that it's done, we'll see how she's feeling about it all now. 723 00:34:51,623 --> 00:34:52,722 Hi. 724 00:34:52,724 --> 00:34:54,758 - [Christine] Oh, hi. - How are you doing? 725 00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:56,626 - [Christine] I'm exhausted. - Oh, man. 726 00:34:56,628 --> 00:34:58,795 I need a nap without any interruptions. 727 00:34:58,797 --> 00:35:02,132 But like every two hours, Ysabel has a new medication 728 00:35:02,134 --> 00:35:04,501 she's got to take for pain, like even through the night. 729 00:35:04,503 --> 00:35:06,236 - Are you just jet lagged then? - No. 730 00:35:06,238 --> 00:35:08,872 I get up at 9:00 and then 11:00 and then 3:00 and then 6:00. 731 00:35:08,874 --> 00:35:10,774 - [Janelle] Is there any way... - Every night. 732 00:35:10,776 --> 00:35:12,542 [Janelle] Is there any way I could come help with that? 733 00:35:12,544 --> 00:35:13,844 [Christine] Oh, you're awesome. 734 00:35:13,846 --> 00:35:15,979 No, 'cause we all really are quarantined for two weeks. 735 00:35:15,981 --> 00:35:18,849 When Maddie was a little girl, she had her appendix out. 736 00:35:18,851 --> 00:35:20,550 I had to get up in the middle of the night 737 00:35:20,552 --> 00:35:22,152 two or three times to give medicine. 738 00:35:22,154 --> 00:35:23,954 And I remember how grueling that was. 739 00:35:23,956 --> 00:35:27,324 So, I'm serious when I'm offering here. 740 00:35:27,326 --> 00:35:30,227 What if I came and slept in a tent in your yard 741 00:35:30,229 --> 00:35:32,996 and just sort of came in the house to give medicine or something? 742 00:35:32,998 --> 00:35:34,464 [Christine] So cute. 743 00:35:34,466 --> 00:35:36,399 We're trying to wean her a little different. 744 00:35:36,401 --> 00:35:39,002 I'm going to touch base with her doctor today 745 00:35:39,004 --> 00:35:41,671 and see if we can get her off of that stuff in the middle of the night. 746 00:35:41,673 --> 00:35:44,841 But in order for her to not be on pain, it has to be regular through the night. 747 00:35:44,843 --> 00:35:47,177 I think it's just what we deal with and just what we do. 748 00:35:47,179 --> 00:35:52,716 Ysabel would feel guilty if she knew how exhausted I am. 749 00:35:52,718 --> 00:35:55,619 And this is the most important job that 750 00:35:55,621 --> 00:35:58,889 I have to take care of my kids and to take care of her. 751 00:35:58,891 --> 00:36:00,891 That's why it's just stupid to complain. 752 00:36:00,893 --> 00:36:02,058 It's just stupid to complain. 753 00:36:02,060 --> 00:36:03,627 I hate it when I even do it. 754 00:36:03,629 --> 00:36:04,895 You guys can sit here if you want. 755 00:36:04,897 --> 00:36:07,030 I'm gonna go grab Izzy's chair and I'll be right back down. 756 00:36:07,032 --> 00:36:08,465 Where are you going to put her chair? 757 00:36:08,467 --> 00:36:09,599 [Christine] In the corner. 758 00:36:09,601 --> 00:36:13,436 Yeah, we're still doing the social distancing thing. 759 00:36:13,438 --> 00:36:15,839 Yeah, still the way that it is right now, 760 00:36:15,841 --> 00:36:18,909 just with everything that's going on 761 00:36:18,911 --> 00:36:23,880 with Covid and with the fact that our family decided not to, 762 00:36:23,882 --> 00:36:26,983 you know, be united on this. 763 00:36:26,985 --> 00:36:28,285 But yeah, anyway. 764 00:36:29,887 --> 00:36:30,887 Hi! 765 00:36:30,889 --> 00:36:32,956 - [Kody] Hi! - [Robyn] Hi! 766 00:36:32,958 --> 00:36:34,791 - [Kody] How's it going? - Good. 767 00:36:34,793 --> 00:36:35,992 You look... 768 00:36:35,994 --> 00:36:37,460 - Taller. - straight. 769 00:36:37,462 --> 00:36:38,294 [Janelle] You look taller. 770 00:36:38,296 --> 00:36:40,330 - She's so tall. - [Kody] Really? 771 00:36:40,332 --> 00:36:45,302 So, how much was the height different from prior to surgery to after surgery? 772 00:36:45,304 --> 00:36:47,204 It was only one inch. 773 00:36:47,206 --> 00:36:52,709 So, you've really actually got a full inch out of moving from 55 degrees to 15? 774 00:36:52,711 --> 00:36:53,243 Yeah. 775 00:36:53,245 --> 00:36:55,745 Which is officially what? 776 00:36:55,747 --> 00:36:56,980 What's your height now? 777 00:36:56,982 --> 00:36:59,583 [Christine] 5'10"? 778 00:36:59,585 --> 00:37:01,051 - 5'11". - [Christine] 5'11" now. 779 00:37:01,053 --> 00:37:02,752 - [Kody] Is it really 5'11". - [Christine] Yeah. 780 00:37:02,754 --> 00:37:06,189 But we thought it was 5'11" before. 781 00:37:06,191 --> 00:37:08,992 No, 'cause you weren't taller than me before. 782 00:37:08,994 --> 00:37:10,193 But now you would be. 783 00:37:11,362 --> 00:37:13,697 There's this weird thing that happens. 784 00:37:13,699 --> 00:37:18,468 I feel like a lot of the kids are very competitive and moms are competitive. 785 00:37:18,470 --> 00:37:21,438 I don't know if it's a polygamy thing 786 00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:26,142 or if it's just the sense of competition in the family that's been fostered. 787 00:37:26,144 --> 00:37:27,978 I'm not really into it. 788 00:37:27,980 --> 00:37:29,246 And so height is one of them. 789 00:37:29,248 --> 00:37:31,982 Height is one of the competitive points. 790 00:37:31,984 --> 00:37:34,918 But there's a million in this crazy family. 791 00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:36,486 How are you feeling right now? 792 00:37:41,859 --> 00:37:45,061 Izzy is one of those kids who's always smiling 793 00:37:45,063 --> 00:37:46,796 and she's so happy to see everybody, 794 00:37:46,798 --> 00:37:50,000 but you can tell she's definitely in pain. 795 00:37:50,002 --> 00:37:50,967 [Christine] Everyone loved her scar. 796 00:37:50,969 --> 00:37:52,902 They were all like, "This is a nice scar. 797 00:37:52,904 --> 00:37:54,604 It's really clean." 798 00:37:54,606 --> 00:37:56,873 We think it's pretty gnarly, but apparently 799 00:37:56,875 --> 00:37:58,074 - it's a nice scar. - [Ysabel] Yeah. 800 00:37:58,076 --> 00:37:59,175 [Ysabel speaking] 801 00:37:59,177 --> 00:38:00,877 [laughter] 802 00:38:00,879 --> 00:38:03,146 I can't wait to see it. 803 00:38:03,148 --> 00:38:05,882 Do... do you guys want to see it now? 804 00:38:05,884 --> 00:38:07,317 - Yes. Yes. - Sure. 805 00:38:07,319 --> 00:38:09,019 Oh, my gosh. 806 00:38:09,053 --> 00:38:10,420 [laughter] 807 00:38:12,757 --> 00:38:13,723 [Janelle] Oh, my! 808 00:38:13,725 --> 00:38:14,691 [Meri] Oh, look at that. 809 00:38:14,693 --> 00:38:18,161 That seems like a pretty good size scar. 810 00:38:18,163 --> 00:38:20,764 I think it's bigger than I thought it would be, for sure. 811 00:38:20,766 --> 00:38:22,832 It's a big scar. 812 00:38:22,834 --> 00:38:23,967 You can tell that it's still healing. 813 00:38:23,969 --> 00:38:25,969 It's definitely in the healing process. 814 00:38:25,971 --> 00:38:27,871 She's this beautiful girl with a scar. 815 00:38:27,873 --> 00:38:29,839 You know, she's got a story. You know? 816 00:38:29,841 --> 00:38:31,641 [Janelle] Do you know what touched me the most? 817 00:38:31,643 --> 00:38:33,743 Your mom texted, she said, you woke up from surgery 818 00:38:33,745 --> 00:38:35,478 and you're asking for your daddy and Gwenny. 819 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:36,513 And I'm like, "Aw." 820 00:38:36,515 --> 00:38:38,181 [Ysabel] Yeah. 821 00:38:39,850 --> 00:38:41,718 - So, she woke up... - [Kody] You don't remember it? 822 00:38:41,720 --> 00:38:43,320 - [Ysabel] I don't remember it. - [Christine] No. 823 00:38:43,322 --> 00:38:44,621 [Ysabel] I don't remember the first day. 824 00:38:44,623 --> 00:38:46,823 Very disappointed that I wasn't able to go to the surgery. 825 00:38:46,825 --> 00:38:48,992 Would have really preferred to have had them wait 826 00:38:48,994 --> 00:38:51,861 so I could be there with her, so I could help support her. 827 00:38:51,863 --> 00:38:53,730 But we just agreed that... well... 828 00:38:53,732 --> 00:38:55,932 finally agreed that, you know what? 829 00:38:55,934 --> 00:39:00,970 They decided, and I agreed that it was time to get it done. 830 00:39:00,972 --> 00:39:02,972 But we got there and it was Dr. Cuddihy 831 00:39:02,974 --> 00:39:04,941 and she's like, "Your daddy's gonna be here?" 832 00:39:04,943 --> 00:39:06,976 I'm like, "No, he's not." She's like, "What?" 833 00:39:06,978 --> 00:39:08,478 And I said, "No, he can't come. It's Covid." 834 00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,880 And she's like, "Oh. 835 00:39:10,882 --> 00:39:12,082 Oh, I'm so, so sorry. 836 00:39:12,084 --> 00:39:12,682 But she won't remember." 837 00:39:12,684 --> 00:39:14,884 I'm like, "Okay." 838 00:39:14,886 --> 00:39:20,190 So, every like few minutes she would come to again asking for Daddy and Gwendlyn. 839 00:39:20,192 --> 00:39:21,991 And I'd be like, "Look, you get me. 840 00:39:21,993 --> 00:39:23,059 You get me." Does she ever ask for me? 841 00:39:23,061 --> 00:39:24,561 No. No! 842 00:39:24,563 --> 00:39:25,562 [Meri] Like it or not? It's me. 843 00:39:25,564 --> 00:39:26,996 I was just trying to make light of everything. 844 00:39:26,998 --> 00:39:28,998 And there's no point, she doesn't remember any of it. 845 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,967 She doesn't remember asking for anybody. 846 00:39:30,969 --> 00:39:33,536 And I'm sure at one point I was like, "No! 847 00:39:33,538 --> 00:39:36,840 You got me. That's it. You're fine." 848 00:39:36,842 --> 00:39:38,541 - Yeah. I'm gonna go inside. - [Kody] I love you. 849 00:39:38,543 --> 00:39:39,843 Bye. Love you guys. 850 00:39:39,845 --> 00:39:40,710 - [Kody] See ya. - Thank you for coming over. 851 00:39:40,712 --> 00:39:42,379 Sorry, sorry. 852 00:39:42,381 --> 00:39:44,881 - Does she need help a little ways, Christine? - [Ysabel] I'm okay. 853 00:39:44,883 --> 00:39:46,983 -Bye. I love you guys so much. -[Kody] Are you sure you're okay? 854 00:39:46,985 --> 00:39:48,451 - No. Yeah. - [Meri] Love you, Ysabel. 855 00:39:48,453 --> 00:39:49,686 - I'm okay. - [Kody] No, you're not. 856 00:39:49,688 --> 00:39:51,221 - I love you guys. - [Kody] Love you. Bye-bye. 857 00:39:51,223 --> 00:39:53,690 It was really good to have them just want to see her scar. 858 00:39:53,692 --> 00:39:55,058 That was huge. 859 00:39:55,060 --> 00:39:57,026 Joking around with her a little bit. 860 00:39:57,028 --> 00:39:58,862 And it was good. 861 00:39:58,864 --> 00:39:59,963 It was good to see that side of her. 862 00:39:59,965 --> 00:40:01,731 Oh, my goodness. 863 00:40:01,733 --> 00:40:03,800 [Meri] I'm pretty sure Christine probably stays 864 00:40:03,802 --> 00:40:05,235 right by her side all the time, Kody. 865 00:40:05,237 --> 00:40:06,102 [Kody] Hmm. 866 00:40:06,104 --> 00:40:08,104 Christine was there perpetually. 867 00:40:08,106 --> 00:40:10,540 You know, when you're nursing somebody back to health, 868 00:40:10,542 --> 00:40:11,941 you need breaks too. 869 00:40:11,943 --> 00:40:14,611 Somebody else needs to come in and bear the burden. 870 00:40:14,613 --> 00:40:17,080 And so, Christine hasn't really had any relief 871 00:40:17,082 --> 00:40:18,648 'cause I haven't been there to help her. 872 00:40:18,650 --> 00:40:22,085 So, she's... she's in a good mood now because she's-- 873 00:40:22,087 --> 00:40:22,919 [Christine] She's with you guys. 874 00:40:22,921 --> 00:40:24,954 She's miserable. 875 00:40:24,956 --> 00:40:26,790 She puts on a lovely brave face for people but... 876 00:40:26,792 --> 00:40:27,857 [Robyn] Yeah. 877 00:40:27,859 --> 00:40:30,026 - [Christine] No, it's awful. - That's really hard. 878 00:40:30,028 --> 00:40:33,897 I know she'll get to the point where she's grateful she got the surgery, 879 00:40:33,899 --> 00:40:35,465 but that's not happening yet. 880 00:40:35,467 --> 00:40:36,633 It hurts too much still. 881 00:40:36,635 --> 00:40:39,602 It hurts worse than it ever did before. 882 00:40:39,604 --> 00:40:43,039 I'm so glad we found this alternative surgery. 883 00:40:43,041 --> 00:40:45,909 If all the effort and all the struggle, 884 00:40:45,911 --> 00:40:47,477 and all the years of what we paid 885 00:40:47,479 --> 00:40:50,947 for therapy and the travel and all the exercise 886 00:40:50,949 --> 00:40:54,217 for nothing else other than doing this surgery 887 00:40:54,219 --> 00:40:58,021 in lieu of the rods was so important... 888 00:40:58,023 --> 00:41:02,459 Yeah, I'm saying we, but it really was Christine that did all of this. 889 00:41:02,461 --> 00:41:04,994 I was saying we more in reference to, 890 00:41:04,996 --> 00:41:07,730 you know, sort of a family supporting her doing it, 891 00:41:07,732 --> 00:41:09,799 but she really did everything here. 892 00:41:09,801 --> 00:41:14,871 So, as sad as it is that she's in pain... 893 00:41:14,873 --> 00:41:17,040 Yeah, it's awesome. 894 00:41:17,042 --> 00:41:18,274 - [Kody] Yeah. - We're so grateful. 895 00:41:18,943 --> 00:41:19,909 [Kody] I... 896 00:41:19,911 --> 00:41:21,778 I just want the best for my little girl, 897 00:41:21,780 --> 00:41:26,783 and I want her to be happy and pain free 898 00:41:26,785 --> 00:41:29,452 and hope that those are the results we get here shortly. 899 00:41:31,255 --> 00:41:32,856 [Christine] Everything's got to get better. 900 00:41:32,858 --> 00:41:35,158 It's been really, really hard. 901 00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:36,726 It can only get better. 902 00:41:36,728 --> 00:41:37,794 That's it. 903 00:41:37,796 --> 00:41:40,330 So, it can only get better, honestly. 904 00:41:45,002 --> 00:41:47,203 [narrator] Next time on Sister Wives... 905 00:41:47,205 --> 00:41:48,605 You have a nanny over. 906 00:41:48,607 --> 00:41:50,106 She's over all the time. 907 00:41:50,108 --> 00:41:52,876 I don't understand why Ysabel can't come over and hang out. 908 00:41:52,878 --> 00:41:53,810 She's devastated. 909 00:41:53,812 --> 00:41:56,779 What does the nanny do? 910 00:41:56,781 --> 00:42:00,383 Let's bring the family to a consensus on what we're gonna do. 911 00:42:01,785 --> 00:42:04,020 [Janelle] Well, are these the rules you guys follow at your house? 912 00:42:04,022 --> 00:42:05,755 [Robyn] I'm just gonna going to say it out loud. 913 00:42:05,757 --> 00:42:06,990 [Kody] These are what she follows. 914 00:42:06,992 --> 00:42:08,458 I know everybody's like suspicious of me. 915 00:42:08,460 --> 00:42:09,859 Will you just please stop? 916 00:42:09,861 --> 00:42:15,098 My kids are blaming Robyn for making the rules. 917 00:42:15,100 --> 00:42:19,002 I'm at my wit's end with this whole [bleep] stuff. 918 00:42:20,170 --> 00:42:21,170 Are you the head of the family? 919 00:42:21,172 --> 00:42:21,871 - No. - [Janelle] Kody, I was just... 920 00:42:21,873 --> 00:42:24,073 Sorry. Just stop. 921 00:42:24,075 --> 00:42:27,410 Why in the world would anybody think that I'm somehow behind this?