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[narrator]
Previously on Sister Wives...
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I've been waiting
for you, honestly.
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And I'm not coming.
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I know that.
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But you're not courting
me to that relationship.
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I didn't know
I was supposed to court you.
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I've had a lot of people say
to me, "Why are you still there?
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He clearly doesn't love you."
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This is a very conscious
choice that I'm making.
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It's very, very important to me
that we get out on that property.
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And I just hope we can, you know,
get this damn thing figured out.
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[Kody] Are you good with five?
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If everybody is okay with that.
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-[Kody] Are you good with four?
-[Janelle] Yeah.
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- You good with two?
- [Meri] Mm-hmm.
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- You good with three?
- [Christine] Yes.
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[Christine] I don't want
to move on the property.
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I want to move back to Utah.
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Kody and I are struggling
more than ever before.
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The best that I can give today
is just a pretend.
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Ysabel was diagnosed with
scoliosis when she was like 13.
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Scoliosis is an abnormal
curvature of the spine.
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And her curve
is over 50 degrees now.
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So, it's just time
to get the surgery.
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If we're going in September
for the surgery, I...
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I don't think
I'm going to be going.
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I don't want her to be bitter
that I wasn't there to do that.
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And so, it's hard that
they're doing this without me.
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[theme music playing]
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[Truely]
What am I thinking of?
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That you want to
eat food really badly.
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[Truely] No, koala.
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So, we flew to New Jersey
for Ysabel's scoliosis surgery.
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We found out she had scoliosis
when she was in middle school, like 13.
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And we've just been
fighting it for years.
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Ysabel's excited
to get the surgery.
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And Truely and Gwendlyn are
excited to be in New Jersey for a while.
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I'm doing my best to make
it as positive as possible.
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Okay. This is Ysabel's
last meal.
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[Christine] So, we're at my
sister's house in New Jersey.
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She's only like an hour away
from the surgery center and hospital.
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Wendy's my sister
from the same mom,
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but she's married
in a monogamous relationship.
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They're not going
to live polygamy.
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Nothing like that.
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And she's completely
accepting, though,
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of my family and us
living plural marriage.
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She's fine with that.
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We'll reach
New Jersey hospital like 7:00.
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- And then we got there at like 8:00.
- [woman 1] Okay.
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And then we talked to the
doctor about the surgery.
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And he explained
everything to us.
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[Christine] It was a fun day.
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Even though
it's Covid right now,
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we're still gonna
get the surgery.
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Like, Kody can't come with us
to the surgery because of Covid.
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And he would love it if we
waited so he could come too.
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But waiting isn't an option.
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Ysabel's in too much pain.
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We need to get it done.
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She is really, really
sad about that.
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She really
wants her dad there so badly.
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I mean, Kody and I
are in a tough spot right now.
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I don't mind getting away
for a while.
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But the thing is it'll still
be there when I get back.
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So, it's not...
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You know, but I don't mind
putting it on hold for a bit.
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Ysabel, you got flowers. Look.
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- [Ysabel] What?
- [Christine] These are yours.
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[Solomon] Oh, yeah.
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Somebody dropped them off.
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-[Christine] Who are they from?
-Oh, they're so sweet.
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There's a rift
with Christine and I.
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But it's sad that I'm not there.
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It's just one of those things.
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Circumstantially, I don't see
how I could have been there
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and been able to do that during
this whole Covid experience.
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Aw, it's from
Grandpa and Grandma.
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[Christine] How cute!
From Grandpa Rex?
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- Yeah.
- Oh, that's sweet.
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You know, I'm glad that Ysabel
is finally getting this done.
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You know, it would
have been nice
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if more people could
surround her
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and just
kind of be there for her.
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But you know?
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I'm sure Christine's doing,
you know,
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the best that she can, you
know, out there by herself.
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[Avery] This is what
I made for Ysabel.
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[Christine] Oh, my gosh.
Let me see, Avery.
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Oh, that is so sweet.
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That's for Ysabel?
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Covid has made everybody...
and not just our family,
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but so many other people feel
so distant from their loved ones.
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It's depressing and isolating.
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It's hard.
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It's really, really hard.
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I just wish we could kind of circle
around Izzy and Christine, so.
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- You excited?
- I'm excited, yeah.
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I'm sorry, I can't go.
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It's okay.
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I want to be there for her
to be a strength for her.
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-[Kody] You understand, right?
-Yeah, I get it.
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It's okay. Yeah, it's okay.
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You're not gonna become
a bitter old housewife...
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No. I guess not.
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'cause your daddy
didn't do this for you?
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No.
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[Ysabel] He has a lot of
kids to think about.
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It sucks.
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It sucks that he can't be there.
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I think it's been extremely
trying on Christine and Ysabel,
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especially to not have
all that support.
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I feel it deeply.
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I feel it very deeply
on an emotional level
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that we aren't there
to help them.
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[Christine] All right,
Ysabel, how are you feeling?
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I'm feeling pretty
good right now.
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[Christine] It's early.
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Yeah, it is just 4 o'clock.
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Today is the day that we have
been waiting for for a long, long time.
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[Christine] What are
you wearing for surgery?
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I'm wearing just sweatpants
and then Dad's hoodie
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-'cause he's not here.
-[Christine] Got Dad's hoodie. What was that?
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Yeah, 'cause he's not here.
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[Christine] That's cute.
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I mean, honestly,
the biggest struggle
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of all of this is that
Kody's not here.
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He was really sweet.
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He did give her this hoodie, and
he did say it was kind of like a hug.
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Look, he's been to every
scoliosis appointment.
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He went with us to Michigan.
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He went for the bootcamp.
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All of the appointments
in Vegas, I said,
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"You know, if it wasn't for
Covid, he would be here with you."
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And she gets it
on a logical level.
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But on an emotional level,
it's ripping her apart.
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That's the hard
part of all of it.
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And I think more than
anything, I don't want her to dwell
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on the fact that
he couldn't come.
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All right, this is the day
of surgery.
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- Yay!
- [laughing]
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Last night was your last night.
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I'm just... I don't know.
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I keep thinking like last
night, last night was like a...
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not nostalgic, but kind of like,
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"Man, today really is the
first day of the rest of your life."
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It still doesn't feel like it.
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- Really?
- Yeah.
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It hasn't set in, I guess.
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I really trust
Dr. Antonacci and his team.
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After talking with him
just yesterday,
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even if I was concerned,
I wouldn't be concerned today.
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[Dr. Antonacci] So, just like on her
x-ray, the curves go in and rotate.
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[Christine] Mmm-hmm.
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[Dr. Antonacci]
So, that's what we see.
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We see it's shallow here and
we see it coming off like this.
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[Christine] Mmm-hmm.
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[Dr. Antonacci] And when she shift
to the side shoulders down a little bit.
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Go ahead and bend forward.
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That raises the rib cage.
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But this is the part of the
rib cage that's the sidewall.
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We decided to not do
the traditional rod surgery.
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The usual surgery is opening up the
back and screwing rods down the spine.
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But we did find another
surgery, so, they go in through...
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they open up the side
and they slice
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between the ribs,
they pry the ribs apart,
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they collapse a lung and then
just move the lung out of the way.
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So, then they take these fibers
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and then they attach the
fiber with screws to the spine,
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and then they tighten
it up using the screws.
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And the fibers themselves
straighten the spine.
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And so, that's the one that
we feel more confident about.
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And that's the one that she's
expressed interest in having too.
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[Dr. Antonacci] And one
other thing you'll notice...
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you'll notice that she's
crunched over here
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- because of the shift.
- [Christine] Yes.
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And then she's lengthened
over here.
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So, you're going to notice
that, you know,
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next few days
when she stands up,
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you're gonna see her
really symmetric in here.
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And then this should be
a little fuller,
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and these should be
a little bit more leveled.
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[Christine] Perfect.
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After Dr. Antonacci left, the nurses came
in and they were all kind of chuckling.
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They're like, "You're
almost too big for this bed."
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She's just super tall
and she's still chatting
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with them
and just being awesome.
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Then they wheeled her away.
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I mean, they wheeled her away.
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I had to say goodbye.
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She said goodbye.
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We gave each other a hug.
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It is so hard to watch your
kid go and you can't help them.
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It's completely
out of your hands.
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I trust them. I do.
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I think they're are a wonderful
staff and everything, but,
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I wasn't ready for this.
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So, Ysabel was just taken
back to do the surgery.
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And it was
so hard to see her go.
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She's the most
incredible kid I know.
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And she's been dealing
with pain for so long.
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Wearing the brace
is hard because I look bigger.
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And it's hard
emotionally because...
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[sobs]
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it's horrible
wearing the brace.
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It hurts all over, like bruises.
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It is awful.
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We put her doing exercises
and all this stuff to help...
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possibly help reduce
the curvature of a spine.
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We've tried everything.
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And Ysabel has been
amazing through all of it.
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It's been nine months since she
told me she was in just pain every day.
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And as soon as I found out
she was in pain every day,
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I started applying
for insurance at that point.
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And it took this long
to get insurance.
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And then with Covid
and everything,
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everything just took
a lot longer.
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But here we are.
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And she is now back
in the surgery room.
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And we find out in about two
hours how the surgery went.
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So, prayers and prayers.
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Tons and tons of prayers.
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We have so many
people praying for her.
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And I'm so, so grateful
for the support that we have.
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And yeah, so, here we go.
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Christine's just fine with you
do what you do. You do you.
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I'm gonna do me.
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I am not the head
of this family,
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and that's not the deal
we made when we got married.
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You're either in complying with our
standard or I'm not coming around.
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I'm a polygamist.
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I did crazy [bleep]
to get into heaven.
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I'm gonna do crazy stuff to
prevent somebody going there early.
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Janelle's been back from North
Carolina for a couple of weeks,
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but because Garrison and Gabriel
still have lives outside of the home.
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I'm basically still
social distancing from them.
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Oh, those are fun colors,
aren't they? Look at all that.
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Oh, my goodness!
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So, I've just come over to
talk with Janelle about
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how we're gonna be able to
make it so I can be home.
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-Yeah, there we go.
-[Janelle] I think they're fine.
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Last year, I saved them all
because Axel came in October.
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But this year
he won't be coming.
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- They're not going to come at all?
- Mmm-mmm.
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You know, we had sort
of entertained the idea that
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Maddie and Caleb
may come to visit.
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But in the end, it just became
logistically impossible for her to come.
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Having Hunter on the
East Coast has been good
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'cause he sees them
pretty often.
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Hunter is going to school.
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He's getting his Master's
in Nursing at Johns Hopkins.
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And then he goes
and sees Maddie and Caleb
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periodically 'cause
it's about a five-hour drive.
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I'm like literally jealous
of people
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who aren't maintaining any kind
of standards of social distancing
256
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and stuff like that.
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Like, some of the family are really
diligent about preventing exposure.
258
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And some of the family are
really... almost lackadaisical about it.
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I got two portions of my
family that I'm not even seeing.
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You know, I mean, my family is
basically divided up by thirds in a sense.
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Christine's
traveling all the time.
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I don't see her almost at all.
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Janelle's got the boys.
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I don't see her very often.
265
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But the place I'm staying most
of the time is at Robyn's house.
266
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Okay, so, Garrison was
pre-approved for a mortgage.
267
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He has been saving this whole year
and has enough to cover closing costs.
268
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But he doesn't have
the down payment.
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They don't have first time homebuyer
type of incentives or anything like that?
270
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No.
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So, Garrison has been saving like crazy
for a year, and he saved up a good chunk.
272
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But with the price
of real estate in Flagstaff,
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he can't really buy
a house right now.
274
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So, he's stuck here, really.
275
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So, about six weeks ago,
Kody started to realize
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that maybe Garrison had more of
a social life than he thought he did.
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So, he wanted me to have
Garrison move out.
278
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But I felt like that
was the wrong move.
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Garrison has been
working very hard.
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I'm just gonna let
my kids try to get a leg up
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'cause the world
is a very different place.
282
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So, I'm not gonna kick him out.
283
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You're behaving, Janelle,
as though this is our problem.
284
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She's trying to get me to
help solve Garrison's problem
285
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because we need him to move
out of the house so that we...
286
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so that her and I can get
back to a normal lifestyle.
287
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He's an adult.
288
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He has to deal
with adult things.
289
00:13:46,459 --> 00:13:49,828
Well, honey, look,
we have always done
290
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what we could do to launch
our kids and stabilize them.
291
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- Yes, I know.
- And...
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Maddie and Caleb
moved in with us.
293
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And we gave Garrison
that launch years ago, okay?
294
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Yeah, but he never...
295
00:13:58,972 --> 00:14:01,306
we never had to help him
through school or anything like...
296
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We got Garrison a car.
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That was it.
298
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He went to the military and
did the rest of it on his own.
299
00:14:06,847 --> 00:14:08,780
So, look,
from the very beginning,
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we have done
everything we could,
301
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even sacrificing some of
our financial retirement
302
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and everything, just trying
to make sure
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these kids
were all launched and stable.
304
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So, I mean, the version of us
doing that for Garrison is this,
305
00:14:22,562 --> 00:14:26,698
like letting him stay here and save up
his money for a down payment on a house.
306
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He's not willing to maintain
the standards that we need
307
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for the social distancing,
and that's affecting
308
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my relationship with you and
my relationship with Savanah.
309
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So, I miss all my kids, okay?
310
00:14:39,512 --> 00:14:42,814
But Savanah and Janelle aren't
the reason that I have to be away.
311
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Gabe and Garrison are the
reason that I have to be away.
312
00:14:44,985 --> 00:14:47,552
They're making choices
that affect the entire family.
313
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They're making
choices that affect me.
314
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But now she's having to
choose between me and the boys,
315
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she's choosing the boys.
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[Janelle]
'Cause I just feel...
317
00:14:55,095 --> 00:14:56,661
See, you've always
had a problem with this.
318
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I can see in it your eyes, your body
language and everything is saying,
319
00:14:59,900 --> 00:15:03,268
"No, no, no, my babies
get to run my household."
320
00:15:03,270 --> 00:15:04,903
Okay, look. Yes, of course.
321
00:15:04,905 --> 00:15:07,538
- [Kody] Don't--
- I think my children are...
322
00:15:07,540 --> 00:15:10,541
I mean, they really are the
center of my world, right?
323
00:15:10,543 --> 00:15:12,844
And we're... I mean,
like, I don't know, honey.
324
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It's just part of plural marriage
like your children become...
325
00:15:15,081 --> 00:15:17,482
Well, I don't...
326
00:15:17,484 --> 00:15:20,518
I don't think this has to
be part of plural marriage.
327
00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:24,589
You know, I guess, I mean, at
least for me, in plural marriage,
328
00:15:24,591 --> 00:15:27,859
I learned early on not to make
my world center around Kody.
329
00:15:27,861 --> 00:15:29,827
And that was just
the way it was.
330
00:15:29,829 --> 00:15:32,463
Like, it just was part of
the lifestyle, I felt like...
331
00:15:32,465 --> 00:15:35,967
Like my focus has really
always been my kids
332
00:15:35,969 --> 00:15:37,835
'cause I didn't have a husband
that was there every single night.
333
00:15:37,837 --> 00:15:40,071
I had a lot more independence.
334
00:15:40,073 --> 00:15:42,440
So, I had a lot more time to
really just focus on the kids.
335
00:15:42,442 --> 00:15:47,145
I don't know if there's like a, you
know, your husband is, you know,
336
00:15:47,147 --> 00:15:49,614
before your children or your
children are before your husband.
337
00:15:49,616 --> 00:15:51,449
I think that they are equal.
338
00:15:51,451 --> 00:15:54,852
It's definitely
a hard balance sometimes.
339
00:15:54,854 --> 00:15:57,755
But I think that
it's important to strike.
340
00:15:57,757 --> 00:16:03,628
For me, like I still want
to have
341
00:16:03,630 --> 00:16:08,366
a good relationship with Kody,
regardless of the fact that
342
00:16:09,635 --> 00:16:12,904
it's kind of distant
and estranged in a way.
343
00:16:12,906 --> 00:16:14,839
So, that's still
very important to me.
344
00:16:14,841 --> 00:16:18,609
I don't think that you should
have to choose, you know,
345
00:16:18,611 --> 00:16:21,145
'cause they're both
equally important.
346
00:16:21,147 --> 00:16:23,681
Is it more important than
my relationship with Kody?
347
00:16:23,683 --> 00:16:24,983
Yes.
348
00:16:24,985 --> 00:16:26,317
I would do anything for my kids.
349
00:16:26,319 --> 00:16:31,456
My kids really have been my
companions through my life, honestly.
350
00:16:31,458 --> 00:16:33,424
Christine's given me
an ultimatum like
351
00:16:33,426 --> 00:16:37,395
either she's not going to conform
to it at all or else we've got to be
352
00:16:37,397 --> 00:16:39,497
able to do it in a way that
gets the whole family together.
353
00:16:40,766 --> 00:16:43,534
So, it's either the whole
family or nothing with Christine.
354
00:16:43,536 --> 00:16:46,070
That's the life that she wants.
355
00:16:46,072 --> 00:16:49,774
Yeah, I feel like we're just
in two totally different places.
356
00:16:49,776 --> 00:16:53,111
No effort to have me
around more.
357
00:16:53,113 --> 00:16:56,681
Janelle, if you want to play
Christine's game the same way, I get it.
358
00:16:56,683 --> 00:16:58,016
[Janelle] No.
Here's the thing.
359
00:16:58,018 --> 00:16:59,717
- I don't think that's fair to you and me.
- No, it's not.
360
00:16:59,719 --> 00:17:02,153
And I have hated this six
or eight weeks
361
00:17:02,155 --> 00:17:04,789
'cause in the middle of the
night, I'm like, "Is this personal?
362
00:17:04,791 --> 00:17:06,457
Does he not want to be here?"
363
00:17:06,459 --> 00:17:09,927
It makes me feel like
it's personal, Janelle.
364
00:17:09,929 --> 00:17:12,196
It makes me realize
that in plural marriage,
365
00:17:12,198 --> 00:17:16,968
I don't matter because Christine is
just fine with, "You do what you do.
366
00:17:16,970 --> 00:17:17,935
You do you.
367
00:17:17,937 --> 00:17:19,237
I'm gonna do me."
368
00:17:19,239 --> 00:17:22,607
She's really been complaining
about the lack of either romance
369
00:17:22,609 --> 00:17:25,476
or closeness in
the relationship for years.
370
00:17:25,478 --> 00:17:27,612
I can't start pouring
my heart out
371
00:17:27,614 --> 00:17:31,482
with poetry that
I'm not necessarily feeling.
372
00:17:31,484 --> 00:17:34,819
But, you know, that's gonna
be short lived, and it feels like
373
00:17:34,821 --> 00:17:38,923
sometimes that's what I'm doing
because it's constant pressure.
374
00:17:38,925 --> 00:17:42,927
It's really indicative of our
crappy relationship, I guess.
375
00:17:42,929 --> 00:17:44,862
But you and I don't have
a crappy relationship,
376
00:17:44,864 --> 00:17:48,332
and yet I'm still
being marginalized.
377
00:17:49,668 --> 00:17:53,738
She's taking risks
with our relationship.
378
00:17:53,740 --> 00:17:55,673
It's like we have
a good relationship.
379
00:17:55,675 --> 00:17:57,742
We should protect that.
380
00:17:57,744 --> 00:17:59,677
I feel like you're
not trying to protect it.
381
00:17:59,679 --> 00:18:02,914
I'm not gonna negotiate
with the kids on this.
382
00:18:02,916 --> 00:18:08,753
You're either in and you're complying
with our standard or I'm not coming around.
383
00:18:08,755 --> 00:18:09,687
I'm a polygamist.
384
00:18:09,689 --> 00:18:13,558
I did crazy [bleep]
to get into heaven.
385
00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:19,897
I'm gonna do crazy stuff to prevent
somebody going there early, okay?
386
00:18:19,899 --> 00:18:23,434
I know that I can't stay away
from you too much longer.
387
00:18:24,103 --> 00:18:26,337
I'm heartbroken about my boys.
388
00:18:26,339 --> 00:18:28,272
I don't know what to do.
389
00:18:30,509 --> 00:18:36,214
So, basically, she's stonewalling
me here, I'm not making any progress.
390
00:18:36,216 --> 00:18:39,484
She misses me, so, she wants me to
compromise so that I can come home
391
00:18:39,486 --> 00:18:44,789
rather than her making everybody
in the household obey the protocols.
392
00:18:44,791 --> 00:18:45,723
And I'm...
393
00:18:45,725 --> 00:18:47,458
I'm just done.
394
00:18:47,460 --> 00:18:49,293
We're not getting anywhere here.
395
00:18:51,730 --> 00:18:53,064
Plural marriage is a struggle.
396
00:18:53,066 --> 00:18:55,333
It's a hard thing.
397
00:18:55,335 --> 00:18:58,236
I am not
the head of this family.
398
00:19:00,839 --> 00:19:02,206
You know?
399
00:19:05,477 --> 00:19:09,480
I am the head of the household
some places, I'm just not right here.
400
00:19:10,449 --> 00:19:13,151
And that's not the deal
we made when we got married.
401
00:19:17,856 --> 00:19:24,162
So, the surgery took two
hours longer than they thought.
402
00:19:24,164 --> 00:19:26,464
And I still haven't
seen her yet.
403
00:19:26,466 --> 00:19:28,733
She's getting stitched up now.
404
00:19:28,735 --> 00:19:32,436
But Dr. Antonacci said it still
went well, but he looks tired.
405
00:19:32,438 --> 00:19:33,604
So, she did really well.
406
00:19:33,606 --> 00:19:34,906
[Christine] Yeah.
407
00:19:34,908 --> 00:19:37,808
And she was very stiff,
though, the curve got to the point
408
00:19:37,810 --> 00:19:39,744
where it didn't bend
on the x-ray,
409
00:19:39,746 --> 00:19:41,846
but then it really wouldn't
bend very much more.
410
00:19:41,848 --> 00:19:42,680
So, I had to release
it in several places.
411
00:19:42,682 --> 00:19:44,582
[Christine] Oh, really?
412
00:19:44,584 --> 00:19:47,451
I was expecting to release like
three places, but I released it six.
413
00:19:47,453 --> 00:19:50,788
It was a rougher surgery
than they intended.
414
00:19:50,790 --> 00:19:52,490
-[Dr. Antonacci] This is her curve.
-[Christine] Okay.
415
00:19:52,492 --> 00:19:54,559
Before the surgery.
416
00:19:54,561 --> 00:19:56,427
And then she has two screws,
pretty much at every level,
417
00:19:56,429 --> 00:19:57,995
- all the way down.
- [Christine] Okay.
418
00:19:58,463 --> 00:20:00,531
[Dr. Antonacci] So, it looks really
good. It's about 15 degrees or so.
419
00:20:00,533 --> 00:20:01,866
[Christine] Oh, nice.
420
00:20:01,868 --> 00:20:02,867
- That's what we were hoping for.
- Yeah. Yeah. So.
421
00:20:02,869 --> 00:20:04,969
[Christine] Oh, my gosh!
That's wonderful news.
422
00:20:04,971 --> 00:20:08,539
It's hard to see all
of this hardware in her body.
423
00:20:08,541 --> 00:20:11,442
There are a bunch
of screws in her spine,
424
00:20:11,444 --> 00:20:14,845
but yeah, 15 degrees is a huge
success, and it's for life.
425
00:20:14,847 --> 00:20:18,316
That's a lot better than 55.
426
00:20:25,757 --> 00:20:28,226
This is the first time
I get to see Ysabel.
427
00:20:28,228 --> 00:20:31,896
So, I walked in the room
and there she is, and she...
428
00:20:31,898 --> 00:20:34,465
[chuckles] she's fine.
429
00:20:34,467 --> 00:20:36,000
She's fine.
430
00:20:36,002 --> 00:20:40,471
She's under anesthetic
and everything is done.
431
00:20:40,473 --> 00:20:42,440
The surgery is complete.
432
00:20:42,442 --> 00:20:44,041
[Christine] Do you like the...
433
00:20:44,043 --> 00:20:46,110
[Christine] Yeah.
434
00:20:47,179 --> 00:20:49,046
- [Christine] I hope so.
- [woman 2] You do.
435
00:20:49,048 --> 00:20:51,349
[Christine gasps] She says
you do have a killer scar.
436
00:20:53,252 --> 00:20:54,986
- [Christine] No.
- [woman 2] No.
437
00:20:57,789 --> 00:20:58,456
[Christine laughs]
438
00:20:58,757 --> 00:21:00,124
I'm surprised.
439
00:21:00,126 --> 00:21:02,893
I thought the first thing she
would ask is, "How tall am I now?"
440
00:21:02,895 --> 00:21:05,162
So, I thought, height
was the biggest thing.
441
00:21:05,164 --> 00:21:07,932
But apparently, this killer
scar is the one that she wants.
442
00:21:07,934 --> 00:21:09,233
I'm gonna put some--
443
00:21:09,835 --> 00:21:11,068
[Christine]
I love you too, baby.
444
00:21:11,470 --> 00:21:13,170
[woman 2] I don't even know
where I'm gonna put it because
445
00:21:13,172 --> 00:21:15,940
- she's going to be rolling all around.
- I'm going to call Daddy.
446
00:21:15,942 --> 00:21:17,141
Yeah. We'll call Daddy. Okay.
447
00:21:18,110 --> 00:21:19,977
[Christine] I know.
I'll tell him you miss him.
448
00:21:19,979 --> 00:21:21,078
Okay.
449
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,882
It's on a level of importance
for him to be here,
450
00:21:24,884 --> 00:21:27,985
it's actually really high
for her.
451
00:21:28,787 --> 00:21:30,221
[Christine] Yeah,
I'll call Daddy right away.
452
00:21:31,823 --> 00:21:33,424
[Christine] I know, honey.
453
00:21:33,426 --> 00:21:37,028
I'm sure it's difficult
for him too, you know,
454
00:21:37,030 --> 00:21:41,832
without a doubt, I know that he
would love to be here if he could.
455
00:21:41,834 --> 00:21:42,833
And so, it's bittersweet.
456
00:21:42,835 --> 00:21:44,368
It's tough.
457
00:21:46,371 --> 00:21:48,773
You know, Kody and I,
we had a conversation
458
00:21:48,775 --> 00:21:53,811
recently that it just kind of
came down to that we're friends.
459
00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:56,981
My relationship with Meri
is not the kind of relationship
460
00:21:56,983 --> 00:21:59,083
where I'm going to talk
with her every day.
461
00:21:59,085 --> 00:22:01,085
I'm not going anywhere, y'all.
462
00:22:01,087 --> 00:22:03,254
You're stuck with me.
[chuckling]
463
00:22:03,922 --> 00:22:05,990
Whether you like it or not.
464
00:22:13,999 --> 00:22:15,933
[Christine]
How are you feeling, baby?
465
00:22:16,968 --> 00:22:19,303
So, Ysabel's surgery
was yesterday.
466
00:22:19,305 --> 00:22:22,106
And last night was brutal.
467
00:22:22,108 --> 00:22:23,841
Was brutal.
468
00:22:23,843 --> 00:22:24,775
I didn't know...
469
00:22:24,777 --> 00:22:27,945
I didn't know the pain
would be like this.
470
00:22:27,947 --> 00:22:32,149
The nurses were in all
night long trying to help her.
471
00:22:32,151 --> 00:22:33,651
She's never been
in this much pain.
472
00:22:33,653 --> 00:22:34,452
Never.
473
00:22:34,454 --> 00:22:36,787
And she kept asking
for her daddy,
474
00:22:36,789 --> 00:22:38,456
and I'm like, "Honey,
he's not here."
475
00:22:38,458 --> 00:22:40,424
And then a few moments later,
she'd ask for him again.
476
00:22:40,426 --> 00:22:41,992
I'm like, "What?"
477
00:22:41,994 --> 00:22:45,830
And the doctor explained to me that
when they're coming out of anesthesia,
478
00:22:45,832 --> 00:22:48,666
they don't really
register anything.
479
00:22:48,668 --> 00:22:51,969
So, she was gonna ask the
same thing over and over and over.
480
00:22:51,971 --> 00:22:53,838
It was so heartbreaking.
481
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:57,675
Late last night, when I knew that he
would still be awake, we video chatted him.
482
00:22:57,677 --> 00:22:59,810
Hi, sweetheart.
483
00:22:59,812 --> 00:23:02,646
Oh, you're not feeling good
right now, a little nauseous?
484
00:23:02,648 --> 00:23:03,981
[Christine] It really helped.
485
00:23:03,983 --> 00:23:05,216
He's great at
being a cheerleader.
486
00:23:05,218 --> 00:23:06,016
He really is.
487
00:23:06,018 --> 00:23:07,952
How you feeling, baby?
488
00:23:07,954 --> 00:23:09,787
[woman 2]
You don't feel very good?
489
00:23:09,789 --> 00:23:11,489
[Christine] Just a second.
You don't need to do anything.
490
00:23:11,491 --> 00:23:12,990
[woman 2] You are.
491
00:23:12,992 --> 00:23:14,892
We need to get out of
the hospital in five days.
492
00:23:14,894 --> 00:23:18,796
So, in order to get out, she has
all these things she has to do.
493
00:23:18,798 --> 00:23:20,998
She needs to sit up.
494
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:22,299
She needs to get her legs
on the ground.
495
00:23:22,301 --> 00:23:25,202
She needs to walk to this chair.
496
00:23:25,204 --> 00:23:29,807
At the end of all of this is you walk
to a map that's like down the hall,
497
00:23:29,809 --> 00:23:31,709
through these doors,
down the southern hall.
498
00:23:31,711 --> 00:23:34,044
So, that's like,
that's the big goal.
499
00:23:34,046 --> 00:23:35,746
Do you want me to lean against--
500
00:23:35,748 --> 00:23:37,014
[Christine] Not yet. Not yet.
501
00:23:37,016 --> 00:23:38,816
She's fixing your
back right now.
502
00:23:38,818 --> 00:23:40,751
[Ysabel speaking]
503
00:23:40,753 --> 00:23:43,621
The flight is next
Sunday to go home.
504
00:23:43,623 --> 00:23:46,257
It's only like ten days away.
505
00:23:47,159 --> 00:23:50,127
I have no idea how she's
gonna be ready to fly home.
506
00:23:50,195 --> 00:23:52,029
I'm sending this to Dad.
507
00:23:52,864 --> 00:23:54,498
He's gonna be so proud of you.
508
00:23:56,034 --> 00:23:57,101
I don't know when
we're going home.
509
00:23:57,103 --> 00:23:58,302
I have no idea.
510
00:24:11,016 --> 00:24:13,951
[Meri sighs] All right.
511
00:24:14,553 --> 00:24:16,754
I really just kind of
needed to get out today
512
00:24:16,756 --> 00:24:20,658
and just kind of like check out
from everybody and everything.
513
00:24:20,660 --> 00:24:24,762
So, there's a trial in Flagstaff
that I really enjoy hiking on.
514
00:24:24,764 --> 00:24:27,731
And so this is one of the
things I like doing is just kind of
515
00:24:27,733 --> 00:24:29,467
getting away from it all.
516
00:24:29,469 --> 00:24:30,968
We've got Covid going on.
517
00:24:30,970 --> 00:24:32,736
I'm running two businesses.
518
00:24:32,738 --> 00:24:35,172
We're quarantining
from each other.
519
00:24:35,174 --> 00:24:38,309
As a family, we really haven't
spent much time together.
520
00:24:39,311 --> 00:24:40,978
And...
521
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:43,214
it's...
522
00:24:45,917 --> 00:24:46,951
weird.
523
00:24:46,953 --> 00:24:48,919
It's lonely.
524
00:24:48,921 --> 00:24:52,256
Like, I live alone, you know?
525
00:24:52,557 --> 00:24:55,593
I just miss my family.
526
00:24:55,595 --> 00:24:59,830
If I didn't have my girls with
me during this whole Covid thing,
527
00:24:59,832 --> 00:25:01,932
I'm sure I would have been
going insane.
528
00:25:01,934 --> 00:25:05,469
It's funny 'cause I actually
do feel lonely through Covid.
529
00:25:05,471 --> 00:25:09,273
I'm isolated from the rest
of the family and from my...
530
00:25:09,275 --> 00:25:13,477
you know, my brothers and sisters
and my parents and then my friends, too.
531
00:25:13,479 --> 00:25:15,179
I will say,
532
00:25:15,181 --> 00:25:20,885
and not as often as I should, I do
try to at least text Meri or call her.
533
00:25:20,887 --> 00:25:21,986
It's not on the regular.
534
00:25:21,988 --> 00:25:23,854
It's not every week.
535
00:25:23,856 --> 00:25:26,957
Christine and I actually
interact a lot more
536
00:25:26,959 --> 00:25:29,693
via text and phone,
and we do some...
537
00:25:29,695 --> 00:25:32,630
like we've socially
met up during Covid.
538
00:25:32,632 --> 00:25:35,065
I always saw
one of the main benefits
539
00:25:35,067 --> 00:25:37,668
about plural marriage is that anybody
in the family would never actually
540
00:25:37,670 --> 00:25:40,704
suffer real true loneliness.
541
00:25:40,706 --> 00:25:45,476
But the way things have played out for
our family, that's not necessarily true.
542
00:25:45,478 --> 00:25:48,679
My relationship with Meri
is not the kind of relationship
543
00:25:48,681 --> 00:25:50,514
where I'm going to talk
with her every day,
544
00:25:50,516 --> 00:25:53,984
and my best guess
is that her sister wives
545
00:25:53,986 --> 00:25:57,254
don't feel like having an
interaction with her daily either.
546
00:25:57,256 --> 00:25:59,056
You know, Kody and I...
547
00:25:59,925 --> 00:26:00,958
Kody and I...
548
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,726
Oh, Kody and I. [chuckles]
549
00:26:02,728 --> 00:26:06,196
We had a conversation recently
that it just kind of came down
550
00:26:06,198 --> 00:26:12,169
to that we're friends, which I
guess is a good thing. [chuckles]
551
00:26:12,171 --> 00:26:14,305
It's a good thing.
552
00:26:16,908 --> 00:26:17,808
But, you know, I just...
553
00:26:17,810 --> 00:26:20,077
I don't know,
I guess I just kind of...
554
00:26:20,079 --> 00:26:21,912
I have hope for
more than that, so.
555
00:26:21,914 --> 00:26:25,115
Kody has said some things to me
556
00:26:25,117 --> 00:26:30,955
more recently that
leads me to believe that,
557
00:26:30,957 --> 00:26:34,758
you know, there's... there's
no repairing our relationship.
558
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,360
There are days when...
559
00:26:41,933 --> 00:26:44,602
I get very, very discouraged.
560
00:26:44,604 --> 00:26:48,172
But then there's days
that I have so much hope.
561
00:26:48,174 --> 00:26:52,943
If I quit, if I walk away, then it's
not... it's not going to get better.
562
00:26:52,945 --> 00:26:54,845
I'm not going anywhere, y'all.
563
00:26:54,847 --> 00:26:57,114
You're stuck with me.
[chuckles]
564
00:26:57,882 --> 00:26:59,383
Whether y'all like it or not.
565
00:27:00,819 --> 00:27:06,290
Because my family all saw
me go through a really dark spot,
566
00:27:06,292 --> 00:27:10,294
I think that they question
if I'm gonna stay.
567
00:27:10,296 --> 00:27:15,232
Through that time, I was considering
every single option that I had.
568
00:27:15,234 --> 00:27:17,001
Leave.
569
00:27:17,102 --> 00:27:18,769
Go do my own thing.
570
00:27:18,771 --> 00:27:21,238
I've considered everything.
571
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:24,742
And this is where I am,
you know, this is my decision.
572
00:27:24,744 --> 00:27:31,048
Honestly, I would rather that we have
a lot more interaction with each other.
573
00:27:31,050 --> 00:27:33,584
And I will tell you, I mean,
these are the two that
574
00:27:33,586 --> 00:27:37,988
I just keep coming
back to because I just...
575
00:27:39,457 --> 00:27:43,227
I know I have love 100%
unconditional from them.
576
00:27:43,229 --> 00:27:46,096
And that is Solomon and Ariella.
577
00:27:52,504 --> 00:27:56,974
I miss those two so bad.
578
00:27:56,976 --> 00:28:01,278
[Robyn] Meri shows a lot of
interest in being in Sol and Ari's life.
579
00:28:01,646 --> 00:28:03,447
And they love her.
580
00:28:03,449 --> 00:28:05,716
When they see her,
they just get really excited.
581
00:28:05,718 --> 00:28:08,886
You know, I feel like I've got
some really good relationships
582
00:28:08,888 --> 00:28:13,691
within the family, and I've
got some that are kind of rocky,
583
00:28:13,693 --> 00:28:16,126
and I've got some that
are basically nonexistent.
584
00:28:16,128 --> 00:28:19,463
I want to have a relationship
with Kody
585
00:28:19,465 --> 00:28:23,667
where we don't go for a week
without even acknowledging each other.
586
00:28:23,669 --> 00:28:25,335
He and I are better than this.
587
00:28:25,337 --> 00:28:29,640
I feel like that, you know, our family is
better than what we're doing right now.
588
00:28:29,642 --> 00:28:33,444
The fact is is I've got
four wives who,
589
00:28:33,446 --> 00:28:37,915
during Covid, have chosen
not to interact with each other.
590
00:28:37,917 --> 00:28:42,119
They're mad about it, but they're not
even calling each other on the phone.
591
00:28:42,121 --> 00:28:46,490
They're not even using video
media to talk to each other.
592
00:28:47,892 --> 00:28:50,027
Covid has revealed us.
593
00:28:51,663 --> 00:28:54,965
And we are sad, sorry,
lonely little people.
594
00:28:57,936 --> 00:28:59,603
[Christine] So, Mitch
and Aspyn are in town
595
00:28:59,605 --> 00:29:01,705
to support Izzy and to hang out.
596
00:29:01,707 --> 00:29:04,875
And Hunter 'cause he lives
three hours from Wendy.
597
00:29:04,877 --> 00:29:09,046
Aspyn, Mitch, and Hunter both
wanted to come and support Ysabel.
598
00:29:09,048 --> 00:29:10,280
It's a gray area.
599
00:29:10,282 --> 00:29:13,984
Is it the smartest,
safest thing to do on paper?
600
00:29:13,986 --> 00:29:14,952
No.
601
00:29:14,954 --> 00:29:17,020
You guys ready
to see Izzy's scar?
602
00:29:17,022 --> 00:29:19,823
I didn't even know
how much I needed them.
603
00:29:19,825 --> 00:29:22,459
It's like, we're gonna remember
this for the rest of our lives.
604
00:29:31,503 --> 00:29:33,904
So, today is the day
she has to take the walk.
605
00:29:33,906 --> 00:29:37,641
It's like this epic walk
where it's out the door,
606
00:29:37,643 --> 00:29:39,710
down the hallway,
you turn a corner,
607
00:29:39,712 --> 00:29:44,481
then at the end of that
hallway, there's a map.
608
00:29:44,483 --> 00:29:46,750
And the map, when you
put your sticker on the map,
609
00:29:46,752 --> 00:29:50,120
that's when you're actually
saying, "I'm going back home."
610
00:29:50,122 --> 00:29:52,790
- Okay, ready?
- [Ysabel] Yeah, I'm ready.
611
00:29:52,792 --> 00:29:53,457
[Christine]
You have the sticker?
612
00:29:53,459 --> 00:29:56,093
[Ysabel] Hmm? Uh-huh.
613
00:29:56,095 --> 00:30:00,164
And it just creates an awesome mindset
of I've completed this amazing thing
614
00:30:00,166 --> 00:30:02,399
and reached my goal.
615
00:30:02,401 --> 00:30:04,468
But that means I get to go home.
616
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,743
She's never gone this far before,
and without much of my support,
617
00:30:12,745 --> 00:30:16,046
I mean her hand's on me, but
that's more like, "Are you here, Mom?
618
00:30:16,048 --> 00:30:17,447
You know, are you here."
That's it.
619
00:30:21,986 --> 00:30:26,190
It's the most incredible thing
to see, her being so brave.
620
00:30:26,192 --> 00:30:30,027
Her recovery is all on her.
621
00:30:30,029 --> 00:30:35,165
And this final walk that she does just
shows it's up to her, that's she's got this.
622
00:30:35,167 --> 00:30:36,233
She's got this.
623
00:30:36,935 --> 00:30:39,002
All right. Nice.
624
00:30:39,170 --> 00:30:41,138
Oh, look at that.
625
00:30:41,140 --> 00:30:42,472
[woman 2] Very good.
626
00:30:42,474 --> 00:30:43,540
She did it. She did.
627
00:30:43,542 --> 00:30:46,810
She's the only one
in Flagstaff, Arizona,
628
00:30:46,812 --> 00:30:50,080
and she put the sticker on
the map, and she's done it.
629
00:30:50,982 --> 00:30:51,648
So, good news.
630
00:30:51,650 --> 00:30:54,818
We are going home today. Ah!
631
00:30:54,820 --> 00:30:59,890
Well, to my sister's house, so, it's
hard because she's still in a lot of pain,
632
00:30:59,892 --> 00:31:01,992
but we have a plan now.
633
00:31:01,994 --> 00:31:04,795
It took us five days to come up
634
00:31:04,797 --> 00:31:06,697
with a pain management plan
for her.
635
00:31:06,699 --> 00:31:09,800
I'm glad we're leaving, but
I'm not glad we're leaving
636
00:31:09,802 --> 00:31:12,903
'cause now I'm fully
like responsible for it.
637
00:31:12,905 --> 00:31:15,806
And I know that I won't be able
to help her as much as she needs.
638
00:31:15,808 --> 00:31:18,008
The pain is still way
too intense.
639
00:31:18,010 --> 00:31:20,978
All right. Ysabel and I
are leaving the hospital now.
640
00:31:21,913 --> 00:31:23,780
She's still
in the "Mother Lode of pain".
641
00:31:23,782 --> 00:31:27,784
We have this whole bag
of medication.
642
00:31:27,786 --> 00:31:30,287
I'm now in charge
of Ysabel's medication.
643
00:31:30,289 --> 00:31:31,421
And there's a lot.
644
00:31:31,423 --> 00:31:32,889
They gave me, like,
645
00:31:32,891 --> 00:31:35,959
a whole like booklet of what
medication can't go with other medication,
646
00:31:35,961 --> 00:31:38,262
what medication is for this
and things like that.
647
00:31:38,264 --> 00:31:40,030
And some of the stuff is crazy.
648
00:31:40,665 --> 00:31:43,066
- Sorry.
- It's all right.
649
00:31:43,068 --> 00:31:45,936
I'm going to drive as, like,
non-aggressive as possible.
650
00:31:45,938 --> 00:31:46,836
Okay, fine.
651
00:31:46,838 --> 00:31:51,775
Every bump,
every jostle of the wheel,
652
00:31:51,777 --> 00:31:57,047
everything that isn't just completely
smooth, she was crying out in pain.
653
00:31:57,049 --> 00:31:58,015
And it was terrible.
654
00:31:58,017 --> 00:32:00,951
It was terrible.
655
00:32:00,953 --> 00:32:05,455
So, Mitch and Aspyn are in town
to support Izzy and to hang out.
656
00:32:05,457 --> 00:32:07,824
And Hunter 'cause he lives
three hours from Wendy.
657
00:32:07,826 --> 00:32:09,960
Aspyn is my oldest.
658
00:32:09,962 --> 00:32:12,696
She married Mitchell
about three years ago.
659
00:32:12,698 --> 00:32:14,865
And they live in Utah now.
660
00:32:14,867 --> 00:32:16,767
And my girls love them.
661
00:32:16,769 --> 00:32:17,968
They love them.
662
00:32:17,970 --> 00:32:20,103
So, it's been really nice
being here for Ysabel.
663
00:32:20,105 --> 00:32:22,472
I'm really happy
I was able to make it.
664
00:32:22,474 --> 00:32:24,241
I hate seeing her
in all this pain.
665
00:32:24,243 --> 00:32:26,476
And I think after this big
surgery with all her pain,
666
00:32:26,478 --> 00:32:30,747
that's kind of like what's important
is just getting some family time in.
667
00:32:30,749 --> 00:32:33,383
And yeah, so, I'm just really
glad I could be here for her.
668
00:32:33,385 --> 00:32:34,818
Aspyn and Mitch, and Hunter
669
00:32:34,820 --> 00:32:38,555
both wanted to come and
support Ysabel after her surgery.
670
00:32:38,557 --> 00:32:40,557
So, I talked with them
for a long time about
671
00:32:40,559 --> 00:32:43,093
you need to be
super careful before you come.
672
00:32:43,095 --> 00:32:46,630
You really have to follow the strict
guidelines that we've been following.
673
00:32:46,632 --> 00:32:49,132
And it's a gray area.
674
00:32:49,134 --> 00:32:52,602
Is it the smartest,
safest thing to do on paper?
675
00:32:52,604 --> 00:32:53,937
No.
676
00:32:53,939 --> 00:32:58,442
But the look in Ysabel's eyes
and the happiness that she felt
677
00:32:58,444 --> 00:33:02,479
when she saw them
is exactly what she needed.
678
00:33:02,481 --> 00:33:04,281
It's exactly what we all needed.
679
00:33:04,283 --> 00:33:06,116
You guys ready
to see Izzy's scar?
680
00:33:06,118 --> 00:33:07,150
Here we go.
681
00:33:07,152 --> 00:33:09,052
[Hunter] Ooh, nice.
682
00:33:09,054 --> 00:33:10,887
[Christine] What do you think?
683
00:33:10,889 --> 00:33:12,122
- [Hunter] That's so legit.
- [girl 1] Whoa!
684
00:33:12,124 --> 00:33:13,390
What the heck?
685
00:33:13,392 --> 00:33:14,825
[Christine] What do you think?
686
00:33:14,827 --> 00:33:17,461
[Hunter] You're like one of the
Amazonian women, you're tall,
687
00:33:17,463 --> 00:33:18,762
- beautiful--
- [Aspyn] That's so true.
688
00:33:18,764 --> 00:33:19,896
It's incredible.
689
00:33:19,898 --> 00:33:22,199
They put their lives on hold
to just come be here.
690
00:33:23,101 --> 00:33:26,436
They took the risk,
the Covid risk.
691
00:33:26,438 --> 00:33:27,671
They made it a priority.
692
00:33:27,673 --> 00:33:31,808
This means the world to me
and to Ysabel, too.
693
00:33:31,810 --> 00:33:33,810
It's like, we're going to remember
this for the rest of our lives.
694
00:33:33,812 --> 00:33:35,712
Are these bandages also?
695
00:33:35,714 --> 00:33:37,981
[Christine] This is gonna be
a scar right here.
696
00:33:37,983 --> 00:33:40,650
It's where they did
the chest tube came out.
697
00:33:40,652 --> 00:33:43,653
I didn't even know how necessary
698
00:33:43,655 --> 00:33:46,556
it was for them to be here
and how much I needed them
699
00:33:46,558 --> 00:33:48,225
and how much Ysabel needs them.
700
00:33:48,227 --> 00:33:49,993
So, what do you think,
Isabel, about the scar?
701
00:33:49,995 --> 00:33:50,761
I like it.
702
00:33:50,763 --> 00:33:52,029
[Hunter] Beautiful girl.
703
00:33:52,031 --> 00:33:53,997
I like it that it is bigger
than I thought it would be.
704
00:33:53,999 --> 00:33:55,532
[Christine] Yeah,
that's an awesome scar.
705
00:33:55,534 --> 00:33:56,666
We all like it.
We're proud of you.
706
00:33:56,668 --> 00:33:59,102
And Ysabel is going to
remember always that Aspyn
707
00:33:59,104 --> 00:34:02,172
and Mitch and Hunter were
really, really there for her.
708
00:34:05,943 --> 00:34:06,710
[Kody] How are you doing?
709
00:34:06,712 --> 00:34:08,845
- [Christine]I'm exhausted.
- Oh, man.
710
00:34:08,847 --> 00:34:10,981
You know, when you're
nursing somebody back to health,
711
00:34:10,983 --> 00:34:13,884
you need breaks too.
712
00:34:13,886 --> 00:34:15,218
[Christine] Everything's
got to get better.
713
00:34:15,220 --> 00:34:17,821
It's been really, really hard.
714
00:34:17,823 --> 00:34:19,089
It can only get better.
715
00:34:19,091 --> 00:34:20,457
That's it.
716
00:34:20,459 --> 00:34:23,093
So, it can only get
better, honestly.
717
00:34:34,505 --> 00:34:37,140
The girls and I just got back
from getting Ysabel's surgery
718
00:34:37,142 --> 00:34:39,976
a few days ago, and I'm just
gonna have the adults
719
00:34:39,978 --> 00:34:43,213
come over so I can tell
them how it went and stuff.
720
00:34:43,815 --> 00:34:45,749
[Kody] They've been
gone for six weeks.
721
00:34:45,751 --> 00:34:48,852
I was very disappointed
that I wasn't able to go.
722
00:34:48,854 --> 00:34:51,621
But now that it's done, we'll see
how she's feeling about it all now.
723
00:34:51,623 --> 00:34:52,722
Hi.
724
00:34:52,724 --> 00:34:54,758
- [Christine] Oh, hi.
- How are you doing?
725
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:56,626
- [Christine] I'm exhausted.
- Oh, man.
726
00:34:56,628 --> 00:34:58,795
I need a nap without
any interruptions.
727
00:34:58,797 --> 00:35:02,132
But like every two hours,
Ysabel has a new medication
728
00:35:02,134 --> 00:35:04,501
she's got to take for pain,
like even through the night.
729
00:35:04,503 --> 00:35:06,236
- Are you just jet lagged then?
- No.
730
00:35:06,238 --> 00:35:08,872
I get up at 9:00 and then 11:00
and then 3:00 and then 6:00.
731
00:35:08,874 --> 00:35:10,774
- [Janelle] Is there any way...
- Every night.
732
00:35:10,776 --> 00:35:12,542
[Janelle] Is there any way
I could come help with that?
733
00:35:12,544 --> 00:35:13,844
[Christine] Oh, you're awesome.
734
00:35:13,846 --> 00:35:15,979
No, 'cause we all really
are quarantined for two weeks.
735
00:35:15,981 --> 00:35:18,849
When Maddie was a little girl,
she had her appendix out.
736
00:35:18,851 --> 00:35:20,550
I had to get up
in the middle of the night
737
00:35:20,552 --> 00:35:22,152
two or three times
to give medicine.
738
00:35:22,154 --> 00:35:23,954
And I remember
how grueling that was.
739
00:35:23,956 --> 00:35:27,324
So, I'm serious
when I'm offering here.
740
00:35:27,326 --> 00:35:30,227
What if I came and slept
in a tent in your yard
741
00:35:30,229 --> 00:35:32,996
and just sort of came in the house
to give medicine or something?
742
00:35:32,998 --> 00:35:34,464
[Christine] So cute.
743
00:35:34,466 --> 00:35:36,399
We're trying to wean her
a little different.
744
00:35:36,401 --> 00:35:39,002
I'm going to touch base
with her doctor today
745
00:35:39,004 --> 00:35:41,671
and see if we can get her off of
that stuff in the middle of the night.
746
00:35:41,673 --> 00:35:44,841
But in order for her to not be on pain,
it has to be regular through the night.
747
00:35:44,843 --> 00:35:47,177
I think it's just what we deal
with and just what we do.
748
00:35:47,179 --> 00:35:52,716
Ysabel would feel guilty if
she knew how exhausted I am.
749
00:35:52,718 --> 00:35:55,619
And this is the most
important job that
750
00:35:55,621 --> 00:35:58,889
I have to take care of my kids
and to take care of her.
751
00:35:58,891 --> 00:36:00,891
That's why it's just
stupid to complain.
752
00:36:00,893 --> 00:36:02,058
It's just stupid to complain.
753
00:36:02,060 --> 00:36:03,627
I hate it when I even do it.
754
00:36:03,629 --> 00:36:04,895
You guys can sit
here if you want.
755
00:36:04,897 --> 00:36:07,030
I'm gonna go grab Izzy's chair
and I'll be right back down.
756
00:36:07,032 --> 00:36:08,465
Where are you
going to put her chair?
757
00:36:08,467 --> 00:36:09,599
[Christine] In the corner.
758
00:36:09,601 --> 00:36:13,436
Yeah, we're still doing
the social distancing thing.
759
00:36:13,438 --> 00:36:15,839
Yeah, still the way that
it is right now,
760
00:36:15,841 --> 00:36:18,909
just with everything
that's going on
761
00:36:18,911 --> 00:36:23,880
with Covid and with the fact
that our family decided not to,
762
00:36:23,882 --> 00:36:26,983
you know, be united on this.
763
00:36:26,985 --> 00:36:28,285
But yeah, anyway.
764
00:36:29,887 --> 00:36:30,887
Hi!
765
00:36:30,889 --> 00:36:32,956
- [Kody] Hi!
- [Robyn] Hi!
766
00:36:32,958 --> 00:36:34,791
- [Kody] How's it going?
- Good.
767
00:36:34,793 --> 00:36:35,992
You look...
768
00:36:35,994 --> 00:36:37,460
- Taller.
- straight.
769
00:36:37,462 --> 00:36:38,294
[Janelle] You look taller.
770
00:36:38,296 --> 00:36:40,330
- She's so tall.
- [Kody] Really?
771
00:36:40,332 --> 00:36:45,302
So, how much was the height different
from prior to surgery to after surgery?
772
00:36:45,304 --> 00:36:47,204
It was only one inch.
773
00:36:47,206 --> 00:36:52,709
So, you've really actually got a full
inch out of moving from 55 degrees to 15?
774
00:36:52,711 --> 00:36:53,243
Yeah.
775
00:36:53,245 --> 00:36:55,745
Which is officially what?
776
00:36:55,747 --> 00:36:56,980
What's your height now?
777
00:36:56,982 --> 00:36:59,583
[Christine] 5'10"?
778
00:36:59,585 --> 00:37:01,051
- 5'11".
- [Christine] 5'11" now.
779
00:37:01,053 --> 00:37:02,752
- [Kody] Is it really 5'11".
- [Christine] Yeah.
780
00:37:02,754 --> 00:37:06,189
But we thought
it was 5'11" before.
781
00:37:06,191 --> 00:37:08,992
No, 'cause you weren't
taller than me before.
782
00:37:08,994 --> 00:37:10,193
But now you would be.
783
00:37:11,362 --> 00:37:13,697
There's this weird
thing that happens.
784
00:37:13,699 --> 00:37:18,468
I feel like a lot of the kids are very
competitive and moms are competitive.
785
00:37:18,470 --> 00:37:21,438
I don't know
if it's a polygamy thing
786
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:26,142
or if it's just the sense of competition
in the family that's been fostered.
787
00:37:26,144 --> 00:37:27,978
I'm not really into it.
788
00:37:27,980 --> 00:37:29,246
And so height is one of them.
789
00:37:29,248 --> 00:37:31,982
Height is one of
the competitive points.
790
00:37:31,984 --> 00:37:34,918
But there's a million
in this crazy family.
791
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:36,486
How are you feeling right now?
792
00:37:41,859 --> 00:37:45,061
Izzy is one of those kids
who's always smiling
793
00:37:45,063 --> 00:37:46,796
and she's so happy to see
everybody,
794
00:37:46,798 --> 00:37:50,000
but you can tell
she's definitely in pain.
795
00:37:50,002 --> 00:37:50,967
[Christine]
Everyone loved her scar.
796
00:37:50,969 --> 00:37:52,902
They were all like,
"This is a nice scar.
797
00:37:52,904 --> 00:37:54,604
It's really clean."
798
00:37:54,606 --> 00:37:56,873
We think it's pretty gnarly,
but apparently
799
00:37:56,875 --> 00:37:58,074
- it's a nice scar.
- [Ysabel] Yeah.
800
00:37:58,076 --> 00:37:59,175
[Ysabel speaking]
801
00:37:59,177 --> 00:38:00,877
[laughter]
802
00:38:00,879 --> 00:38:03,146
I can't wait to see it.
803
00:38:03,148 --> 00:38:05,882
Do... do you guys
want to see it now?
804
00:38:05,884 --> 00:38:07,317
- Yes. Yes.
- Sure.
805
00:38:07,319 --> 00:38:09,019
Oh, my gosh.
806
00:38:09,053 --> 00:38:10,420
[laughter]
807
00:38:12,757 --> 00:38:13,723
[Janelle] Oh, my!
808
00:38:13,725 --> 00:38:14,691
[Meri] Oh, look at that.
809
00:38:14,693 --> 00:38:18,161
That seems like
a pretty good size scar.
810
00:38:18,163 --> 00:38:20,764
I think it's bigger than I
thought it would be, for sure.
811
00:38:20,766 --> 00:38:22,832
It's a big scar.
812
00:38:22,834 --> 00:38:23,967
You can tell that
it's still healing.
813
00:38:23,969 --> 00:38:25,969
It's definitely in
the healing process.
814
00:38:25,971 --> 00:38:27,871
She's this beautiful girl
with a scar.
815
00:38:27,873 --> 00:38:29,839
You know, she's got a story.
You know?
816
00:38:29,841 --> 00:38:31,641
[Janelle] Do you know what
touched me the most?
817
00:38:31,643 --> 00:38:33,743
Your mom texted, she said,
you woke up from surgery
818
00:38:33,745 --> 00:38:35,478
and you're asking
for your daddy and Gwenny.
819
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:36,513
And I'm like, "Aw."
820
00:38:36,515 --> 00:38:38,181
[Ysabel] Yeah.
821
00:38:39,850 --> 00:38:41,718
- So, she woke up...
- [Kody] You don't remember it?
822
00:38:41,720 --> 00:38:43,320
- [Ysabel] I don't remember it.
- [Christine] No.
823
00:38:43,322 --> 00:38:44,621
[Ysabel] I don't
remember the first day.
824
00:38:44,623 --> 00:38:46,823
Very disappointed that I
wasn't able to go to the surgery.
825
00:38:46,825 --> 00:38:48,992
Would have really preferred
to have had them wait
826
00:38:48,994 --> 00:38:51,861
so I could be there with her,
so I could help support her.
827
00:38:51,863 --> 00:38:53,730
But we just agreed
that... well...
828
00:38:53,732 --> 00:38:55,932
finally agreed that,
you know what?
829
00:38:55,934 --> 00:39:00,970
They decided, and I agreed
that it was time to get it done.
830
00:39:00,972 --> 00:39:02,972
But we got there and it
was Dr. Cuddihy
831
00:39:02,974 --> 00:39:04,941
and she's like, "Your daddy's
gonna be here?"
832
00:39:04,943 --> 00:39:06,976
I'm like, "No, he's not."
She's like, "What?"
833
00:39:06,978 --> 00:39:08,478
And I said, "No,
he can't come. It's Covid."
834
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,880
And she's like, "Oh.
835
00:39:10,882 --> 00:39:12,082
Oh, I'm so, so sorry.
836
00:39:12,084 --> 00:39:12,682
But she won't remember."
837
00:39:12,684 --> 00:39:14,884
I'm like, "Okay."
838
00:39:14,886 --> 00:39:20,190
So, every like few minutes she would come
to again asking for Daddy and Gwendlyn.
839
00:39:20,192 --> 00:39:21,991
And I'd be like,
"Look, you get me.
840
00:39:21,993 --> 00:39:23,059
You get me."
Does she ever ask for me?
841
00:39:23,061 --> 00:39:24,561
No. No!
842
00:39:24,563 --> 00:39:25,562
[Meri] Like it or not?
It's me.
843
00:39:25,564 --> 00:39:26,996
I was just trying to make
light of everything.
844
00:39:26,998 --> 00:39:28,998
And there's no point, she
doesn't remember any of it.
845
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,967
She doesn't remember
asking for anybody.
846
00:39:30,969 --> 00:39:33,536
And I'm sure at one point
I was like, "No!
847
00:39:33,538 --> 00:39:36,840
You got me. That's it.
You're fine."
848
00:39:36,842 --> 00:39:38,541
- Yeah. I'm gonna go inside.
- [Kody] I love you.
849
00:39:38,543 --> 00:39:39,843
Bye. Love you guys.
850
00:39:39,845 --> 00:39:40,710
- [Kody] See ya.
- Thank you for coming over.
851
00:39:40,712 --> 00:39:42,379
Sorry, sorry.
852
00:39:42,381 --> 00:39:44,881
- Does she need help a little ways, Christine?
- [Ysabel] I'm okay.
853
00:39:44,883 --> 00:39:46,983
-Bye. I love you guys so much.
-[Kody] Are you sure you're okay?
854
00:39:46,985 --> 00:39:48,451
- No. Yeah.
- [Meri] Love you, Ysabel.
855
00:39:48,453 --> 00:39:49,686
- I'm okay.
- [Kody] No, you're not.
856
00:39:49,688 --> 00:39:51,221
- I love you guys.
- [Kody] Love you. Bye-bye.
857
00:39:51,223 --> 00:39:53,690
It was really good to have
them just want to see her scar.
858
00:39:53,692 --> 00:39:55,058
That was huge.
859
00:39:55,060 --> 00:39:57,026
Joking around
with her a little bit.
860
00:39:57,028 --> 00:39:58,862
And it was good.
861
00:39:58,864 --> 00:39:59,963
It was good to
see that side of her.
862
00:39:59,965 --> 00:40:01,731
Oh, my goodness.
863
00:40:01,733 --> 00:40:03,800
[Meri] I'm pretty sure
Christine probably stays
864
00:40:03,802 --> 00:40:05,235
right by her side
all the time, Kody.
865
00:40:05,237 --> 00:40:06,102
[Kody] Hmm.
866
00:40:06,104 --> 00:40:08,104
Christine was there perpetually.
867
00:40:08,106 --> 00:40:10,540
You know, when you're
nursing somebody back to health,
868
00:40:10,542 --> 00:40:11,941
you need breaks too.
869
00:40:11,943 --> 00:40:14,611
Somebody else needs to come in
and bear the burden.
870
00:40:14,613 --> 00:40:17,080
And so, Christine
hasn't really had any relief
871
00:40:17,082 --> 00:40:18,648
'cause I haven't been
there to help her.
872
00:40:18,650 --> 00:40:22,085
So, she's... she's in a good
mood now because she's--
873
00:40:22,087 --> 00:40:22,919
[Christine]
She's with you guys.
874
00:40:22,921 --> 00:40:24,954
She's miserable.
875
00:40:24,956 --> 00:40:26,790
She puts on a lovely
brave face for people but...
876
00:40:26,792 --> 00:40:27,857
[Robyn] Yeah.
877
00:40:27,859 --> 00:40:30,026
- [Christine] No, it's awful.
- That's really hard.
878
00:40:30,028 --> 00:40:33,897
I know she'll get to the point where
she's grateful she got the surgery,
879
00:40:33,899 --> 00:40:35,465
but that's not happening yet.
880
00:40:35,467 --> 00:40:36,633
It hurts too much still.
881
00:40:36,635 --> 00:40:39,602
It hurts worse than
it ever did before.
882
00:40:39,604 --> 00:40:43,039
I'm so glad we found
this alternative surgery.
883
00:40:43,041 --> 00:40:45,909
If all the effort and all
the struggle,
884
00:40:45,911 --> 00:40:47,477
and all the years of
what we paid
885
00:40:47,479 --> 00:40:50,947
for therapy and the travel
and all the exercise
886
00:40:50,949 --> 00:40:54,217
for nothing else other than
doing this surgery
887
00:40:54,219 --> 00:40:58,021
in lieu of the rods
was so important...
888
00:40:58,023 --> 00:41:02,459
Yeah, I'm saying we, but it really
was Christine that did all of this.
889
00:41:02,461 --> 00:41:04,994
I was saying we more
in reference to,
890
00:41:04,996 --> 00:41:07,730
you know, sort of a family
supporting her doing it,
891
00:41:07,732 --> 00:41:09,799
but she really did
everything here.
892
00:41:09,801 --> 00:41:14,871
So, as sad as it is that
she's in pain...
893
00:41:14,873 --> 00:41:17,040
Yeah, it's awesome.
894
00:41:17,042 --> 00:41:18,274
- [Kody] Yeah.
- We're so grateful.
895
00:41:18,943 --> 00:41:19,909
[Kody] I...
896
00:41:19,911 --> 00:41:21,778
I just want the best
for my little girl,
897
00:41:21,780 --> 00:41:26,783
and I want her to be happy
and pain free
898
00:41:26,785 --> 00:41:29,452
and hope that those are the
results we get here shortly.
899
00:41:31,255 --> 00:41:32,856
[Christine] Everything's got
to get better.
900
00:41:32,858 --> 00:41:35,158
It's been really, really hard.
901
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:36,726
It can only get better.
902
00:41:36,728 --> 00:41:37,794
That's it.
903
00:41:37,796 --> 00:41:40,330
So, it can only get
better, honestly.
904
00:41:45,002 --> 00:41:47,203
[narrator]
Next time on Sister Wives...
905
00:41:47,205 --> 00:41:48,605
You have a nanny over.
906
00:41:48,607 --> 00:41:50,106
She's over all the time.
907
00:41:50,108 --> 00:41:52,876
I don't understand why Ysabel
can't come over and hang out.
908
00:41:52,878 --> 00:41:53,810
She's devastated.
909
00:41:53,812 --> 00:41:56,779
What does the nanny do?
910
00:41:56,781 --> 00:42:00,383
Let's bring the family to a
consensus on what we're gonna do.
911
00:42:01,785 --> 00:42:04,020
[Janelle] Well, are these the
rules you guys follow at your house?
912
00:42:04,022 --> 00:42:05,755
[Robyn] I'm just gonna
going to say it out loud.
913
00:42:05,757 --> 00:42:06,990
[Kody]
These are what she follows.
914
00:42:06,992 --> 00:42:08,458
I know everybody's
like suspicious of me.
915
00:42:08,460 --> 00:42:09,859
Will you just please stop?
916
00:42:09,861 --> 00:42:15,098
My kids are blaming
Robyn for making the rules.
917
00:42:15,100 --> 00:42:19,002
I'm at my wit's end
with this whole [bleep] stuff.
918
00:42:20,170 --> 00:42:21,170
Are you the head of the family?
919
00:42:21,172 --> 00:42:21,871
- No.
- [Janelle] Kody, I was just...
920
00:42:21,873 --> 00:42:24,073
Sorry. Just stop.
921
00:42:24,075 --> 00:42:27,410
Why in the world would anybody
think that I'm somehow behind this?