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Previously onSister Wives.
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I think life's gotten
really easy for us,
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and we all go home
to our little houses
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and we complain
about somebody.
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We'll have to decide
what we really want.
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Do you want to have
a relationship
with your sister wife?
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Maybe there are some
of us who are like,
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"Look, I don't want
it anymore."
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It's hard to find that
balance of being strong
and not being a bitch.
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I want wives who get along
with each other
and who like each other
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and who don't sit there
and say snotty little
things
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to each other that
break their hearts.
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Would every one of these
women be better off
married to another guy?
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Meri, I have a very
difficult time, like,
visualizing us in the future.
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Dude, you've got
four wives and 18 kids.
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You're just going to pick
and choose
who you're gonna keep?
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Nobody likes what
we're having to do
for this COVID experience.
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And we're not gonna
see Dad anyway.
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Why would I social distance?
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I just feel all this pressure
on the family relationships.
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There's very separate
feelings starting to happen.
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When Kody proposed
moving back in Vegas,
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I, at first, really
wanted to go to Utah too.
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But then I thought,
"You know, I really
don't want that life."
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And then polygamy
got decriminalized.
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And I wonder
why we're still here.
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Oh, my gosh.
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We can be by family again.
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We can be back home.
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Once we basically
were kicked out of Utah,
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I've just kind of had
a feeling of,
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"Well, I'm not gonna grace
you with my presence then."
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There's
nothing for me in Utah.
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Nothing.
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We're not moving, are we?
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Come here. Come here,
come here, come here,
come here, come here.
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God. Come here.
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All right.
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So, Christine's her reaction
to the rejection of the idea
of moving to Utah
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was so negative,
so emotional.
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You know, basically
get up and walk away.
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And I don't understand
why really.
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I don't understand why
she was in that place.
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Meri,
I can't do marriage
with Kody anymore.
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I don't want to--
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Just look
at the mountain.
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I don't want
to do it anymore.
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I don't know
what she was talking
with Meri about.
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I think Meri might have been
just trying to convince
her that living here
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was beautiful and great.
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Two years ago,
we moved to Flagstaff
from Las Vegas.
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We bought property.
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We made plans to build
on the property.
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And so far,
we haven't done any building.
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Isn't it obvious that
we're not gonna build
on the property
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to anyone but me?
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You don't get to give up
like that.
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You know,
I see value in our family.
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I see value in all
the relationships.
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I know that things don't fix
or heal if you walk away.
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So when Christine is saying
these things to me,
um, I recognize the emotion.
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I have gone
how many years
without really having
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any relationship with Kody,
and I get really fed up
with it sometimes.
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You didn't put 30 years
into this, 25, 28,
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wherever you are,
to walk away.
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I didn't put 30 years
in to walk away.
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So Meri
and I haven't even been
in a full marriage
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for about five years,
you know.
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She went through
a catfishing experience.
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I really thought
she was gonna leave.
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Even our last anniversary,
I just kind of made it clear
to her that
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we probably weren't
getting back together
in a full marriage.
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I mean,
I'm not kicking her out.
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I'm just letting her know
where the relationship
with me is at.
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'Cause you're hurting.
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And when you're hurting,
you can't be real
with your feelings.
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I recognize the feelings,
you know, because
I've been there.
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I am there.
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- Okay?
- Okay.
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I appreciate
everything Meri is saying.
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I do.
She's lived through a lot.
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But her relationship
with Kody certainly isn't
one that I would want.
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So did you... did you hear
the angels sing again?
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- Not today.
Not today?
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Christine is upset.
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I understand it.
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It's scary.
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It's been absolutely
scary what our family culture
is looking like
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because we are not spending
time together.
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I don't know
if this is something that
fixes itself right away.
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So don't be thinking,
I'm thinking it's all done
and like it's all put...
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put to bed or whatever.
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I still want to,
I want to honor where you are.
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We have to get this property,
all the property boundaries
figured out, though.
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That we have to do because
we've got to be able
to move on that.
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Yeah.
We don't want
to wait any longer.
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This whole thing is hard.
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It's not just about
moving back to Utah.
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It's not just about that.
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Look, I'm not gonna make
any drastic decisions
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on what I'm gonna do
next today.
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I am hurt today.
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I think just getting
the different lots figured out
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will help us to start
visualizing better.
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That's what I need.
Yeah.
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I can't visualize anything
because I have no idea
where any property lines
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or like the best place
to build whatever it is
we decide to build.
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The only thing I can
visualize here is a pond.
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All right.
Let's break this up.
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I really
needed his support.
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I really did.
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Marriage is hard.
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But I never wanted
the kind of marriage
that I have now.
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I never wanted to be
so estranged and have
extremely limited
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physical contact,
not even handholding.
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It's sad.
My marriage to Kody is sad.
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So Christine went
from "Hey,
we should move to Utah"
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with a great
and enthusiastic disposition
and in what felt like
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five minutes to me
turned completely
to despondent and, um...
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and angry.
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I do want to go and visit
with every one of those wives
who rejected this idea
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why is Utah not an option.
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Wow, rhubarb
is looking really good.
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It's actually a green.
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It looks like rhubarb,
but it's a green.
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- Oh, it's... Oh, really?
- Yeah, look at the spinach.
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It's gone out of control.
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That's spinach?
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So I have always
enjoyed gardening.
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It's very therapeutic for me.
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But there's a bunch of apples
that I need to get
before they fall.
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Do you think
we should be pruning it?
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Look at that power line.
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Wow, that just looks like
a accident waiting to happen.
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Okay. So, but look,
there's a bunch right up here.
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Okay.
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All right,
I'll go grab the ladder.
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So I want
to grow produce.
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Maybe someday I'll have
a farm to table restaurant.
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Who knows? Like, I have
these big plans, right?
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Yeah. So I've got to talk
to you about our
last visit on Coyote Pass.
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This is like an area
that I grew up in.
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I flourish in this space.
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- You like it here?
- I do.
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Christine was pretty emotional
when she was talking to us
about going back to Utah.
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It's something that's
really important to her.
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Usually, when a wife cares
about something
to that degree,
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Kody's gonna do a deep dive
as to how everybody
really feels just to make sure
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that everybody is being
heard and listened to.
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And this is a--
this is major.
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She was very passionate
about moving back.
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Christine started going,
"Hey, I want to move."
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As soon as that law changed,
she was like,
"I want to move back to Utah."
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Would you be just as happy?
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Could you be just
as happy in Utah?
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I'm just...
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- Okay, no.
- I'm not trying
to sell you on this.
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- I'm just trying to just--
- No, I'm really not.
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I mean, at this point,
I would just be like,
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"You guys give me the property
and you can move."
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Like, that's how I feel.
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You can go be in Utah,
do your thing.
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I don't care.
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Yeah, I would stay.
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You would really leave this?
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So this
is the discussion
I've had with Christine.
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I'm totally interested
in living in St. George area.
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Mmm-hmm.
- Doesn't have to be
St. George.
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I'm suspicious that Robyn
would be okay with that
in some ways
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because her family
lives there.
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Okay. I still don't
want to go.
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Okay.
- I really don't.
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I would really be like,
"You guys leave me here."
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I've had three of these
four women threaten
to leave me
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for a significant
part of the marriages.
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She's bluffing completely.
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But it's not a new thing
to be threatened to be left.
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Well, I'm gonna check
with everybody.
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And your vote is just
absolute no.
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I hope it's not a vote.
I hope we're staying here.
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Well, I... I'm just...
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Listen, we got Christine
literally melting down because
she doesn't want to live here.
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She wants to live in Utah.
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It sounds like, obviously,
he's trying to make
the case for Utah,
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but then he
brings up Christine.
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And I'm like, "Okay,
so are you really just
trying to make sure
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Christine is heard
and that you're checking
everybody's temperature?"
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I mean,
that's what you want, right?
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You're not telling me that
we're taking a vote again
about going to Utah.
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You're just trying to take
everybody's temperature to see
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if anyone's in the same
boat as Christine.
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I'm not trying to put
a wrench in our plans,
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but then I have to consider
the whole big picture.
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We moved here for my sake
because I wanted
you guys to get...
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I wanted to get the family
out of Las Vegas.
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And we all bought off on it.
Even Christine.
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Like, we all bought off on it.
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Like, we all did.
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She's not kidding around.
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She's not-- She's not
going back and forth.
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She's like,
"I don't want to live here."
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This isn't home to me.
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Utah is home.
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No, there's nothing
for me there.
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- All right.
- Just want to know
where you're really at.
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I know
you're just checking.
I know.
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I'm just... I'm just...
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I'm just trying to get us
all to, essentially, just say
here's the baseline and...
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Okay.
-...and here
or this doesn't work.
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- I just want to know...
- I just, I--
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'Cause I feel like
I just blew her out
of the water.
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I was just like, "This is it."
Are you kidding me?
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I get it.
And I appreciate
because she was...
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I felt really bad 'cause
I could tell that
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it was really emotionally
important to her.
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And plus,
I want to move there.
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Okay.
- I mean, I've never...
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I've never lost that
sort of desire, but I'm not...
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I'm not moving the family
because of where
I want to live.
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But, you know, right now,
so far, it's just Christine
and Janelle and me
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more or less going,
"I would love living in Utah,
but I don't want to move."
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So it's kind of an either
or for me.
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Ultimately, what's happening
in my life now as this unfolds
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is two princesses
given ultimatums.
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So because of COVID-19,
for a few months now,
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we've been practicing
COVID protocols.
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It would be nice
if we could figure out
when, at what point
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we could be okay.
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It's not gonna go away.
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Like, I don't really
want to do Christmas via
Zoom with you guys. Sorry.
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I-- I just don't see that
we're getting together.
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Wow.
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Hey, Janelle.
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Hey, Meri and I are here.
Should we just
come around the back?
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Yeah,
I'm in the back.
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Today, all the adults
are coming over.
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It's been a couple of weeks
since the last time
we got together
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out of the property.
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I did melt down.
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It was a very difficult day.
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I found out that no one
really wants to move
back to Utah anyway.
242
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Okay, so then the $64 million
question or whatever.
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Do you have chairs already?
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Yeah.
- Oh, awesome.
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They might
be six feet apart.
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-I don't know.
- Okay, yeah.
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I just need to put
on a brave face
and be as enthusiastic
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as possible 'cause
this is where
we're going to end up.
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Hey, there!
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Hi. I love your shirt!
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Pretend. That's the word
I'm looking for.
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I have to pretend.
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Should I put my mask on.
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- I don't know.
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So because of COVID-19,
for a few months now,
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we've been practicing
COVID protocols.
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From the beginning,
we considered that
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we could all
completely sequester
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from the rest of the world
so that the family
could interact.
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But what happened ended up
being that we decided that
I would be the one
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that would move from house
to house because nobody
wanted to have to essentially
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quarantine from the rest
of the world that much.
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Who called this party?
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This party is a result
of my low-grade anxiety
the COVID's giving me.
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The one thing I've been
wanting to keep
from happening
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is have the virus go through
our family like a wildfire.
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But we've kind of gotten
to a place where
not everybody is in agreement.
268
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Christine has done
some traveling.
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It's also led to Janelle's
boys having social lives.
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And it's kept me from being
at Janelle's house as much.
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So it feels very separate.
272
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It feels very separated.
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So it's a lousy way
to spend the summer,
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everybody far apart
from each other.
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I can't say that Kody
never comes over
right now during COVID.
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But it's very, very rare
that he comes over.
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It would be nice
if we could figure out when,
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at what point
we could be okay.
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It's not gonna go away.
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I don't think it's gonna go
completely away for like
until next spring.
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I'll probably go
to North Carolina
for Christmas
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if we have to do
Zoom Christmas.
Sorry, guys.
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Well, hopefully,
it'll blow over by Christmas.
284
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It's like
they're constantly denying
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that anything could happen.
286
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You know, there's the
who goes and does
whatever they want
287
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and gets everybody sick.
288
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And that even happens
in flu and cold season.
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I've had somebody give me
an illness that went through
the whole family
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from a flippin' handshake.
291
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Let's... let's cross that
bridge when we come to it.
292
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But we're still
dealing with...
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right now,
with a situation that
hasn't improved.
294
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And I think that
some of this is right
on the mother's heads
295
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because Gabriel is constantly
blaming me.
296
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Garrison is calling me
and saying, "This is stupid."
297
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I can only assume
that Janelle,
under her breath,
298
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is saying that about me.
299
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I'm like, "Are we really
gonna make decisions
about Christmas now, though?"
300
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I can't tell you guys
what to do.
301
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I can decide
what I'm gonna do.
302
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And if the family wants
to get together,
they can figure it out too.
303
00:14:45,827 --> 00:14:49,965
We could have, right
from the beginning, just said,
"Everybody, just stay home.
304
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We'll wait this out."
305
00:14:51,655 --> 00:14:54,275
But I've got
one kid doing this
and another kid doing this
306
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and another person traveling,
another person traveling.
307
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I just don't see that
we're getting together.
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So for how long, though,
like through Christmas,
through like...
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Well, I don't know
how long the virus
is gonna last.
310
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But I'm not gonna have
a big Christmas gathering.
311
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Wow.
312
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So basically, unless
we all observe his uber,
uber, uber careful stance,
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forget holidays.
314
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I don't know.
315
00:15:17,586 --> 00:15:19,620
I guess there's really just
nothing to say but wow.
316
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I have to be really careful
here because
I think we all have really...
317
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and I'm trying to respect
everybody's place,
but I need you to be
318
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somewhat respectful
of my place, too.
319
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Yeah,
I understand, but...
320
00:15:30,827 --> 00:15:33,551
He's trying to push on me
and push on me and push on me.
321
00:15:33,655 --> 00:15:35,275
There's no optimism.
322
00:15:35,379 --> 00:15:37,137
It's like doomsday.
323
00:15:37,241 --> 00:15:39,379
But I've got kids calling
all the time saying,
324
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"Dad, when can
we all get back together?"
325
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I know.
The kids are all saying...
326
00:15:42,758 --> 00:15:45,551
Hunter said,
"This is the only time
in my entire career
327
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that I will have been
home this long.
328
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And I haven't even seen
Robyn's kids
or Robyn's family."
329
00:15:50,965 --> 00:15:53,896
To be honest, I mean,
like Janelle's saying
this about Hunter,
330
00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:57,551
and I'm just like, well,
he hasn't asked to come
over and visit outside.
331
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So if he wanted to come over
and we just sit outside,
socially distance,
332
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I'd be like,
"Yeah, bring it on.
333
00:16:03,724 --> 00:16:04,965
That'd be great."
334
00:16:05,068 --> 00:16:07,551
I hate that we're having
to social distance
from each other,
335
00:16:07,655 --> 00:16:11,517
but I understand that
everybody's got different
things they want to do.
336
00:16:11,620 --> 00:16:13,172
And so I guess
that's what we're doing.
337
00:16:13,275 --> 00:16:17,793
But I just feel like, you know
I tell the kids all the time,
we're just lucky
338
00:16:17,896 --> 00:16:20,275
because there's so many
people out there that
are suffering right now.
339
00:16:20,379 --> 00:16:21,655
We're still a family.
340
00:16:21,758 --> 00:16:23,241
That's never gonna change.
341
00:16:23,344 --> 00:16:25,137
The relationships
are struggling.
342
00:16:25,241 --> 00:16:27,068
My relationship with Kody
is struggling
343
00:16:27,172 --> 00:16:29,000
because he's not seeing
his family as much.
344
00:16:29,103 --> 00:16:31,206
I feel very helpless here.
345
00:16:31,310 --> 00:16:34,862
Everybody has...
has their opinion about
what we should be doing.
346
00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:38,275
And so everybody can just
do what they want to do.
347
00:16:40,344 --> 00:16:44,793
I've got to reassess
what I'm doing here
because I do not feel like
348
00:16:44,896 --> 00:16:47,206
I've made any traction
or any progress.
349
00:16:47,310 --> 00:16:51,068
I feel like the family
that we need to, like,
do some planning,
350
00:16:51,172 --> 00:16:52,620
do something hopeful.
351
00:16:52,724 --> 00:16:57,551
So I'm trying to get
a surveyor to meet with us
and sort of consult us
352
00:16:57,655 --> 00:16:59,689
about reconfiguring
the property.
353
00:16:59,793 --> 00:17:04,103
And by doing that, might
get our family focused
back on the dream
354
00:17:04,206 --> 00:17:07,413
and the hope of getting
on that property
and sort of take away
355
00:17:07,517 --> 00:17:10,517
some of these woes that
we're experiencing
with COVID-19.
356
00:17:13,413 --> 00:17:17,965
Christine, the talk we had
on the property,
I'm not trying to be pushy.
357
00:17:18,068 --> 00:17:19,448
Okay.
358
00:17:19,551 --> 00:17:22,034
She really wants
to move to Utah.
359
00:17:22,137 --> 00:17:23,862
I wish we could just
settle down.
360
00:17:23,965 --> 00:17:25,862
Like, we're here,
we're in Flagstaff.
361
00:17:25,965 --> 00:17:27,344
It's beautiful.
362
00:17:27,448 --> 00:17:31,275
Like, you guys are okay
moving all the time
constantly, I guess.
363
00:17:31,379 --> 00:17:32,655
No, I'm really not.
364
00:17:32,758 --> 00:17:34,344
Like, I'm so frustrated
that we're constantly
bringing up,
365
00:17:34,448 --> 00:17:38,103
where should we go?
I'm like, "We got to find
a place and make it home."
366
00:17:47,620 --> 00:17:51,310
Because of Christine's
reaction to our rejection
of the idea
367
00:17:51,413 --> 00:17:54,310
of moving back to Utah
when she pitched
it on Coyote Pass,
368
00:17:54,413 --> 00:17:57,137
I kind of felt like
it was necessary for me
to really dig down
369
00:17:57,241 --> 00:17:59,379
a little deeper
with each wife.
370
00:17:59,482 --> 00:18:01,103
I've already had that
conversation with Janelle.
371
00:18:01,206 --> 00:18:03,275
And now I'm gonna go
over to Robyn's.
372
00:18:04,275 --> 00:18:06,620
Right now,
the vote is just two to one.
373
00:18:06,724 --> 00:18:08,000
Me and Janelle.
374
00:18:08,103 --> 00:18:09,827
Janelle has certainly
strengthened my spine
in the idea
375
00:18:09,931 --> 00:18:12,068
that we need to stay
here in Flagstaff.
376
00:18:12,172 --> 00:18:13,655
Hey.
- Hi.
377
00:18:13,758 --> 00:18:18,034
I hate looking at it that way
because that separates
us from Christine.
378
00:18:19,448 --> 00:18:23,206
We have certainly got
to get our anchors dug
into Flagstaff
379
00:18:23,310 --> 00:18:28,000
or Christine's heart's desire
will continue to push us
to move to Utah.
380
00:18:28,103 --> 00:18:30,413
Okay. The reason I wanted
to come and talk with you
is just because of...
381
00:18:30,517 --> 00:18:31,517
Yeah.
382
00:18:31,620 --> 00:18:34,068
...Christine, the talk
we had on the property.
383
00:18:34,172 --> 00:18:38,241
- Okay.
And so
I'm not trying to be pushy.
384
00:18:39,517 --> 00:18:40,758
- Okay.
385
00:18:40,862 --> 00:18:44,931
I wanted to check
everybody's temperature
on it in private
386
00:18:45,034 --> 00:18:48,827
because I think the reason
she's bringing it up
is 'cause she's like,
387
00:18:48,931 --> 00:18:50,137
"I don't want to build
on the property
388
00:18:50,241 --> 00:18:51,655
'cause I want to move
to Utah."
389
00:18:51,758 --> 00:18:54,965
So why don't we figure
this out before
we build on the property?
390
00:18:55,068 --> 00:18:58,620
Okay, so when Christine
talked to us on the property,
I kind of thought
391
00:18:58,724 --> 00:19:00,137
it was just kind of a concept.
392
00:19:00,241 --> 00:19:03,482
It was an idea like,
"Hey, what do you guys think?"
393
00:19:03,586 --> 00:19:05,965
And now it sounds like
it's a...
394
00:19:06,068 --> 00:19:07,724
it's just not going away.
395
00:19:07,827 --> 00:19:11,103
This is...
this is so frustrating
that we're...
396
00:19:11,206 --> 00:19:12,724
that this is like a...
397
00:19:12,827 --> 00:19:14,206
a question.
398
00:19:14,310 --> 00:19:16,241
I mean, we just got here
to Flagstaff.
399
00:19:16,344 --> 00:19:18,379
And I've invested myself here.
400
00:19:19,827 --> 00:19:22,689
I would love to move
back to Utah too.
401
00:19:22,793 --> 00:19:26,551
But I made it really clear
once we moved here,
402
00:19:26,655 --> 00:19:29,586
like, I'm not interested
in being a transient family.
403
00:19:29,689 --> 00:19:33,000
My kids are very happy
here in Flagstaff.
404
00:19:33,103 --> 00:19:35,344
I want to make it work.
405
00:19:35,448 --> 00:19:37,034
This is what I want to do.
406
00:19:37,137 --> 00:19:38,103
This...
407
00:19:38,206 --> 00:19:41,344
this carrot is being
dangled in front of me.
408
00:19:41,448 --> 00:19:43,862
And it's very, very hard
for me 'cause I have...
409
00:19:43,965 --> 00:19:46,034
My dad and my mom
live in St. George.
410
00:19:46,137 --> 00:19:50,172
I don't feel like
I really have a choice
to move to Utah
411
00:19:50,275 --> 00:19:55,551
because of what people
in Utah will treat
our family like.
412
00:19:55,655 --> 00:19:57,896
You know, I was raised
in a plural family.
413
00:19:58,000 --> 00:19:59,206
My father has two wives.
414
00:19:59,310 --> 00:20:00,724
And I have eight siblings.
415
00:20:00,827 --> 00:20:03,965
I worried a lot about
being bullied and people
treating us like trash
416
00:20:04,068 --> 00:20:09,034
if I told anybody about
what my family structure
and my religion was.
417
00:20:09,137 --> 00:20:10,448
I kept to myself.
418
00:20:10,551 --> 00:20:11,965
I didn't try out for clubs.
419
00:20:12,068 --> 00:20:13,413
I didn't go to sports.
420
00:20:13,517 --> 00:20:18,448
My future was altered
completely by the fact
that I was scared.
421
00:20:18,551 --> 00:20:20,068
I mean, I could have been
a very different person.
422
00:20:22,034 --> 00:20:25,344
I was afraid of people
finding out about my family.
423
00:20:25,448 --> 00:20:28,000
I just keep thinking that
normal people in Utah...
424
00:20:28,103 --> 00:20:31,931
Mmm-hmm.
-...sort of see us separate
from those other Polygamists.
425
00:20:32,034 --> 00:20:33,137
They may or may not.
426
00:20:33,241 --> 00:20:34,896
It depends on whether
or not they know our story.
427
00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,344
They're just thinking
we're just a polygamist
family.
428
00:20:37,448 --> 00:20:38,862
And what do they know
about polygamy?
429
00:20:38,965 --> 00:20:42,172
Child brides,
welfare fraud, abuse.
430
00:20:42,275 --> 00:20:43,620
That's what they know.
431
00:20:43,724 --> 00:20:45,068
My kids will be the ones...
432
00:20:45,172 --> 00:20:46,862
our kids, our kids will be
the one that
433
00:20:46,965 --> 00:20:49,793
is put on the chopping
block, the altar.
434
00:20:51,620 --> 00:20:52,655
Okay.
435
00:20:52,758 --> 00:20:54,344
I wish we could just
settle down.
436
00:20:54,448 --> 00:20:56,655
Like, we're here,
we're in Flagstaff,
437
00:20:56,758 --> 00:21:00,068
it's beautiful like
you guys are okay
438
00:21:00,172 --> 00:21:02,000
moving all the time
constantly, I guess.
439
00:21:02,103 --> 00:21:03,310
No, I'm really not.
440
00:21:03,413 --> 00:21:04,896
Like, I'm so frustrated that
we're constantly bringing up,
441
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:06,068
"Where should we go?"
442
00:21:06,172 --> 00:21:08,172
I'm like, "We got to find
a place and make it home."
443
00:21:08,275 --> 00:21:10,689
No, no. No. I'm okay.
444
00:21:10,793 --> 00:21:13,793
I want you to understand.
I mean,
Christine brought this up.
445
00:21:13,896 --> 00:21:15,655
- I wanted to be
more fair with her.
- And I validate it.
446
00:21:15,758 --> 00:21:17,034
I really validate it.
I get it.
447
00:21:17,137 --> 00:21:19,103
And it was where I always
wanted to move
in the first place.
448
00:21:19,206 --> 00:21:20,586
I really get...
449
00:21:20,689 --> 00:21:24,310
I really validate and get
why she wants to 'cause
I want to, too,
450
00:21:24,413 --> 00:21:27,379
but I cannot indulge that...
451
00:21:28,551 --> 00:21:30,482
- that desire, I just can't.
- Okay.
452
00:21:30,586 --> 00:21:32,517
It's not just my kids
that we're considering.
453
00:21:32,620 --> 00:21:34,724
We're also considering
Christine's youngest.
454
00:21:34,827 --> 00:21:37,241
And we're considering
Janelle's youngest kids.
455
00:21:37,344 --> 00:21:40,551
And it's like that
is not fair to them.
456
00:21:40,655 --> 00:21:47,206
If I can get verification
that Meri is in the same place
which I'm assuming.
457
00:21:47,310 --> 00:21:49,793
I want to be able to go
to Christine saying,
458
00:21:49,896 --> 00:21:51,758
"I talked to these other
ladies.
459
00:21:51,862 --> 00:21:53,275
And I'm sorry, but--"
460
00:21:53,379 --> 00:21:58,689
Maybe you shouldn't say
it like that because
it is hard sometimes
461
00:21:58,793 --> 00:22:01,068
that you're outvoted.
I hate that.
462
00:22:01,172 --> 00:22:02,689
It's part of our
family structure.
463
00:22:02,793 --> 00:22:03,931
It has to be that way.
464
00:22:04,034 --> 00:22:05,103
It's the only way
that it's fair.
465
00:22:05,206 --> 00:22:08,758
But maybe it shouldn't be
that we are saying this.
466
00:22:08,862 --> 00:22:11,068
Maybe there's something
you need to figure out
a way
467
00:22:11,172 --> 00:22:12,896
- to say it to her without...
- Right.
468
00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:16,862
Making it about
her sister wives voting
against what she wants.
469
00:22:16,965 --> 00:22:18,344
- Okay. Okay.
'Cause I don't...
470
00:22:18,448 --> 00:22:19,862
I'd have a hard time
with that.
471
00:22:19,965 --> 00:22:24,000
I'd be like, "Wow,
my whole life is being
controlled by, you know--"
472
00:22:24,103 --> 00:22:25,793
That's kind of the game
we're in.
473
00:22:25,896 --> 00:22:29,896
Yeah. Our family has always
done the majority rules.
474
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,206
And sometimes you win
and sometimes you lose.
475
00:22:32,310 --> 00:22:35,206
I think that
that's probably the best
way to do it.
476
00:22:35,310 --> 00:22:38,620
You know, it's not like
we can just take turns
between the five of us.
477
00:22:38,724 --> 00:22:40,965
"Okay, this time,
whatever you say goes.
478
00:22:41,068 --> 00:22:42,896
This time, whatever
you say goes."
479
00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,689
Usually I'm like, "Well,
you guys do
whatever you want.
480
00:22:44,793 --> 00:22:46,034
I'm gonna do what I want."
481
00:22:46,137 --> 00:22:47,689
Yeah, but it's like
if you're not in a close
relationship
482
00:22:47,793 --> 00:22:50,689
with a sister wife
and she didn't vote
for what you wanted,
483
00:22:50,793 --> 00:22:52,413
- that's not easy.
Ooh, ooh.
I understand.
484
00:22:52,517 --> 00:22:53,931
Thank you for the tip.
485
00:22:54,034 --> 00:22:56,137
And I know she's agreed
to this, and I know
this is what we live,
486
00:22:56,241 --> 00:22:58,137
and I know this is how
we do it, and I get all that.
487
00:22:58,241 --> 00:23:03,482
But it's still the emotional
aspect of it is hard
to swallow sometimes.
488
00:23:03,586 --> 00:23:04,896
I want to tell you
that I've heard you.
489
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:06,724
Okay.
- Okay?
490
00:23:06,827 --> 00:23:09,793
It's just a real clear
reality.
491
00:23:09,896 --> 00:23:12,206
You've communicated
very clearly and very well.
492
00:23:12,689 --> 00:23:14,310
Yeah.
493
00:23:14,413 --> 00:23:17,689
I got to admit,
all this discussion
with my wives,
494
00:23:17,793 --> 00:23:23,068
I'm still really surprised
that Christine was so rocked,
that her world was rocked
495
00:23:23,172 --> 00:23:25,931
by this idea that
we're not moving back to Utah.
496
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:28,448
Love you.
- I love you.
497
00:23:28,551 --> 00:23:29,965
I guess
what I'm doing is I'm...
498
00:23:30,068 --> 00:23:33,172
I'm getting their
sort of for sure place,
where their positives
499
00:23:33,275 --> 00:23:38,379
are at so I can go back
to Christine and maybe gently,
500
00:23:38,482 --> 00:23:43,931
kindly validate
what she's been thinking
and what she wants to do
501
00:23:44,034 --> 00:23:47,482
but without having
to make a change.
502
00:23:51,275 --> 00:23:52,448
Mike, how are you?
503
00:23:52,551 --> 00:23:54,137
Good.
How about you, Kody?
Very good.
504
00:23:54,241 --> 00:23:57,931
Mike is going to basicallyreconfigure the Coyote Pass property.
505
00:23:58,034 --> 00:24:00,000
And so I want
to make five lots.
506
00:24:00,103 --> 00:24:02,586
I'm keeping myself.
I'm keeping one for me.
507
00:24:02,689 --> 00:24:05,655
I haven't really discussed
this with my wives,
necessarily.
508
00:24:05,758 --> 00:24:07,172
Whoa, what?
509
00:24:07,275 --> 00:24:10,137
I don't think
it's weird that
I have a lot myself.
510
00:24:10,241 --> 00:24:11,620
Why would that be weird?
511
00:24:11,724 --> 00:24:14,551
I was loving the idea
of a house right there,
but it sounds like
512
00:24:14,655 --> 00:24:16,000
that's not happening anymore.
513
00:24:16,103 --> 00:24:18,551
They just want some power
over the decision
or something.
514
00:24:18,655 --> 00:24:21,862
I'm just going to walk away
from this conversation
entirely.
515
00:24:32,793 --> 00:24:35,896
We're gonna all finally
meet at the property today.
516
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,827
Kody has finally made
the phone call I've been
asking him to make for,
517
00:24:39,931 --> 00:24:42,724
like, I don't know,
a year and a half,
two years,
518
00:24:42,827 --> 00:24:45,448
to get a surveyor
out to the property.
519
00:24:45,551 --> 00:24:48,068
I'm just a little bit
of a rollercoaster
ride myself.
520
00:24:48,172 --> 00:24:51,517
And I'm trying really
hard to be positive.
521
00:24:51,620 --> 00:24:53,827
And sometimes
I'm more positive than others.
522
00:24:53,931 --> 00:24:55,137
Mike, how are you?
523
00:24:55,241 --> 00:24:56,793
Good.
How about you, Kody?
Very good.
524
00:24:56,896 --> 00:24:59,206
- Mike, you and I've met.
Yes.
525
00:24:59,310 --> 00:25:01,206
So this is my wife Robyn.
- Hi, Robyn.
526
00:25:01,310 --> 00:25:02,689
This is my wife Christine.
Christine.
527
00:25:02,793 --> 00:25:03,931
My wife Meri.
Meri.
528
00:25:04,034 --> 00:25:05,862
- And my wife Janelle.
Janelle. Gotcha.
529
00:25:05,965 --> 00:25:07,827
Hey. And yeah,
you know
there's gonna be a quiz.
530
00:25:07,931 --> 00:25:09,655
I hope I can remember 'em all.
531
00:25:09,758 --> 00:25:12,206
Yeah, I always wonder
what the person is thinking
532
00:25:12,310 --> 00:25:14,413
when they get us
introduced to them.
533
00:25:14,517 --> 00:25:15,655
It's none of my business.
534
00:25:17,827 --> 00:25:20,413
Any time Kody calls me
a wife, I'm good with that.
535
00:25:20,517 --> 00:25:22,344
Let's act as such.
536
00:25:22,448 --> 00:25:25,862
And then maybe things
will get to be as such.
537
00:25:27,103 --> 00:25:29,448
Maybe from a distance,
we can all see what...
538
00:25:29,551 --> 00:25:31,655
- Sure.
-...what you've got
to show us.
539
00:25:31,758 --> 00:25:35,482
Mike is going to basically
go through the ideas
with us
540
00:25:35,586 --> 00:25:38,379
of how we would reconfigure
the Coyote Pass property.
541
00:25:38,482 --> 00:25:40,827
I don't like the lot
arrangement currently.
542
00:25:40,931 --> 00:25:44,344
We've basically got four lots,
and they're not quite
in the position
543
00:25:44,448 --> 00:25:46,034
we really want them.
544
00:25:46,137 --> 00:25:48,000
And so I want
to make five lots.
545
00:25:48,103 --> 00:25:49,379
I'm keeping one for me.
546
00:25:49,482 --> 00:25:52,896
I'm not gonna have
the four wives owning
that fifth lot
547
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:54,206
when I don't even own one.
548
00:25:54,310 --> 00:25:56,586
So I'm just gonna have
the fifth lot.
It's that simple.
549
00:25:56,689 --> 00:26:00,793
I've had a couple of ideas
for what works right now
and what works in the future,
550
00:26:00,896 --> 00:26:03,620
and I haven't really
discussed this
with my wives necessarily.
551
00:26:03,724 --> 00:26:05,344
Gotcha.
552
00:26:05,448 --> 00:26:06,965
The last time that
we discussed lots
here on the property,
553
00:26:07,068 --> 00:26:09,103
it was not a great discussion.
554
00:26:09,206 --> 00:26:11,551
Kody told me
where you guys were
all gonna be
555
00:26:11,655 --> 00:26:13,379
and I was going to be
back there.
556
00:26:13,482 --> 00:26:14,620
He told me
you didn't want that.
557
00:26:14,724 --> 00:26:16,068
You said
you didn't like it, so...
558
00:26:16,172 --> 00:26:18,482
Quit making up
crap of what I say.
559
00:26:18,586 --> 00:26:19,965
It's a delicate dance.
560
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:22,413
And Kody's not delicate.
561
00:26:22,517 --> 00:26:25,344
Meri doesn't want to be
back here,
and so Christine wants...
562
00:26:25,448 --> 00:26:27,034
Which he relayed
the conversation wrong.
563
00:26:27,137 --> 00:26:28,482
FYI.
564
00:26:28,586 --> 00:26:30,482
Can I talk
for a second, please?
- Sure. Got for it.
565
00:26:30,586 --> 00:26:33,344
It's looks like we're like
fighting with each other
or felt like it.
566
00:26:33,448 --> 00:26:34,655
And then we weren't really.
567
00:26:34,758 --> 00:26:35,931
Anyway, it's just funny.
568
00:26:36,965 --> 00:26:39,448
I'm just gonna number these.
This will be one.
569
00:26:39,551 --> 00:26:41,758
This location will be two.
570
00:26:41,862 --> 00:26:46,482
We have three, four,
and five total lots.
571
00:26:46,586 --> 00:26:49,655
The lot that would have
the pond would most likely
572
00:26:49,758 --> 00:26:52,620
be my lot for full access
for family.
573
00:26:52,724 --> 00:26:54,758
That can be done.
That can easily be done.
574
00:26:54,862 --> 00:26:57,862
This is a brand-new
configuration than
575
00:26:57,965 --> 00:26:59,931
I've ever heard Kody
talk about.
576
00:27:00,034 --> 00:27:03,655
When we talked last
about this property,
577
00:27:03,758 --> 00:27:06,310
we were talking about
four different lots.
578
00:27:06,413 --> 00:27:08,758
If you are all
going to own
your own house,
579
00:27:08,862 --> 00:27:11,758
why shouldn't
I own my own house?
580
00:27:11,862 --> 00:27:15,655
This whole thing that
Kody is talking about
is a surprise to me.
581
00:27:15,758 --> 00:27:18,344
But I think Kody
having his own house is silly.
582
00:27:18,448 --> 00:27:22,413
But I do think that
having a fifth home for us
583
00:27:22,517 --> 00:27:25,241
to all to gather
at is amazing.
584
00:27:25,344 --> 00:27:26,413
Does that make sense?
585
00:27:26,517 --> 00:27:29,620
Like, honestly,
I love my independence.
586
00:27:29,724 --> 00:27:32,206
And when Kody's there
for like more than three
or four days at my house,
587
00:27:32,310 --> 00:27:34,586
I'm like,
"You want to go somewhere?"
588
00:27:34,689 --> 00:27:35,758
I think it's stupid,
589
00:27:35,862 --> 00:27:37,551
Kody talking about
having his own house.
590
00:27:37,655 --> 00:27:40,689
I guess he's gonna use
it for like family gatherings.
591
00:27:40,793 --> 00:27:42,103
I'm like,
"What a waste of money."
592
00:27:42,206 --> 00:27:43,413
You guys all good
with that so far?
593
00:27:43,517 --> 00:27:46,206
I guess it really depends
on where everybody
wants to be.
594
00:27:46,310 --> 00:27:48,137
I have some
real concerns about the pond.
595
00:27:48,241 --> 00:27:49,275
I always have.
596
00:27:49,379 --> 00:27:51,413
I don't think it should be
on anybody's property.
597
00:27:51,517 --> 00:27:54,310
I just don't understand
why the pond
is a conversation
598
00:27:54,413 --> 00:27:55,344
because we're all family.
599
00:27:55,448 --> 00:27:57,034
We would all have
access to it, wouldn't we?
600
00:27:57,137 --> 00:28:01,620
We will always have access,
everybody, if this lot got
sold to somebody else,
601
00:28:01,724 --> 00:28:05,103
the lot with the pond,
you would still have
access to the pond.
602
00:28:05,206 --> 00:28:07,827
It sounds like Kody
wants the pond
or Janelle wants Kody
603
00:28:07,931 --> 00:28:10,586
to have the pond
or somebody wants Kody
to have the pond.
604
00:28:10,689 --> 00:28:15,689
I am just confused
of why the pond is such
a topic of conversation.
605
00:28:15,793 --> 00:28:18,448
I'm like, I don't care.
Have the pond property.
606
00:28:18,551 --> 00:28:23,034
I'm not gonna go swim in it,
probably, 'cause ew!
607
00:28:23,137 --> 00:28:25,827
I mean, I think
I've been pretty vocal
about that
608
00:28:25,931 --> 00:28:28,172
I want to have greenhouses
and I want to have...
609
00:28:29,068 --> 00:28:30,758
I mean,
how do we agree on that?
610
00:28:30,862 --> 00:28:32,379
I've got...
for the sake of the...
611
00:28:32,482 --> 00:28:37,413
the greenhouse
and Janelle being near
the greenhouse
612
00:28:37,517 --> 00:28:41,172
and near the growing area,
I was gonna have Janelle
613
00:28:41,275 --> 00:28:43,517
basically right along
that edge there.
614
00:28:43,620 --> 00:28:44,620
I want to move forward.
615
00:28:44,724 --> 00:28:46,034
I want to be able
to put a visual on it.
616
00:28:46,137 --> 00:28:47,344
Now, Robyn has always
made it clear,
617
00:28:47,448 --> 00:28:48,931
she doesn't want to be
in the trees at all.
618
00:28:49,034 --> 00:28:51,620
And so I would put her
on the farthest
lot number five.
619
00:28:51,724 --> 00:28:54,965
Christine and Meri,
both of them, you know,
whether they're in the trees
620
00:28:55,068 --> 00:28:57,827
or out of the trees,
we'll give them the option
by putting them
621
00:28:57,931 --> 00:28:59,275
in lots two and three.
622
00:28:59,379 --> 00:29:02,655
And I take a lot one
because that's the lot that
has the pond
623
00:29:02,758 --> 00:29:05,103
and everybody wants
access to the pond.
624
00:29:05,206 --> 00:29:08,103
And thus they'd all have
access to the pond
because it'll be my property.
625
00:29:08,206 --> 00:29:12,517
The conversations that
I've heard about
where houses want to be,
626
00:29:12,620 --> 00:29:16,689
this does not allow
for the houses that
some people want some places.
627
00:29:16,793 --> 00:29:21,275
It's the only configuration
I can manage to go,
"This works."
628
00:29:22,655 --> 00:29:24,137
I like where Meri
is going with this.
629
00:29:24,241 --> 00:29:26,137
I think when she's saying
some people, she means me.
630
00:29:26,241 --> 00:29:27,310
I'm just saying.
631
00:29:27,413 --> 00:29:29,379
This is the first time
I'm hearing about it.
632
00:29:29,482 --> 00:29:35,827
And I have to digest it
because this changes
everything already.
633
00:29:35,931 --> 00:29:41,034
I think it's really
important as women that
we have each other's backs,
634
00:29:41,137 --> 00:29:43,655
and I think there's a lot
of times that we don't.
635
00:29:43,758 --> 00:29:46,620
Like, there's a lot that
I don't know about Christine.
636
00:29:46,724 --> 00:29:50,241
But I do know that
she has said that
she wanted this property.
637
00:29:50,344 --> 00:29:54,517
So initially, I was loving
the idea of a house
right there,
638
00:29:54,620 --> 00:29:56,758
but it sounds like
that's not happening anymore.
639
00:29:56,862 --> 00:29:58,344
- Correct.
That's what
I was saying.
640
00:29:58,448 --> 00:30:01,482
I don't think that
from the conversations
that I've heard,
641
00:30:01,586 --> 00:30:05,758
this doesn't allow for people
to have a house
where they wanted it.
642
00:30:05,862 --> 00:30:07,827
Janelle has loved
gardening all of her life.
643
00:30:07,931 --> 00:30:11,379
Her and I have always
talked about the idea
of greenhouses.
644
00:30:11,482 --> 00:30:13,517
She's got to be able
to have access to water.
645
00:30:13,620 --> 00:30:15,793
She's got to have access
to the grow houses.
646
00:30:15,896 --> 00:30:20,517
I think we work that out
really easily by basically
having those
647
00:30:20,620 --> 00:30:23,068
grow houses on her lot.
648
00:30:23,172 --> 00:30:24,413
That doesn't allow for that.
- Right?
649
00:30:24,517 --> 00:30:26,448
'Cause initially
I talked about right there.
650
00:30:26,551 --> 00:30:28,206
But I don't think
that's gonna happen
anymore, is it?
651
00:30:28,310 --> 00:30:31,344
This is just the first
I've heard of this.
652
00:30:31,448 --> 00:30:34,862
So apparently,
there is no me in polygamy.
653
00:30:34,965 --> 00:30:37,655
What? Did I say that out loud?
654
00:30:37,758 --> 00:30:41,482
Basically, we really
all have to work together,
and I just can't be
655
00:30:41,586 --> 00:30:43,758
looking out for myself only.
656
00:30:43,862 --> 00:30:45,931
And I'm trying really
hard to be an adult.
657
00:30:46,034 --> 00:30:48,206
Huh? Polyga-me?
658
00:30:48,310 --> 00:30:50,724
It's just more about
having the space
so I don't have to walk
659
00:30:50,827 --> 00:30:54,482
ten thousand feet
all the time to, you know,
660
00:30:54,586 --> 00:30:56,482
the greenhouses
or whatever I have.
661
00:30:56,586 --> 00:31:00,310
So I want to be really,
really careful here because,
yes, the ideal place is right
662
00:31:00,413 --> 00:31:02,275
where Christine had
wanted to build her house.
663
00:31:02,379 --> 00:31:03,379
I could be anywhere.
664
00:31:03,482 --> 00:31:05,206
I could be close
to the road even.
665
00:31:05,310 --> 00:31:08,551
Would you want to have
to walk from here
to the garden all the time
666
00:31:08,655 --> 00:31:09,896
when you're wanting
to inspect it?
667
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:11,379
Kody, I don't know
if that's where the garden
is gonna go.
668
00:31:11,482 --> 00:31:13,551
That is where
it's gonna go.
- Oh, okay. Well.
669
00:31:13,655 --> 00:31:15,241
At this point, I'm like,
"Why does it matter
so much
670
00:31:15,344 --> 00:31:16,620
where the greenhouse goes?
671
00:31:16,724 --> 00:31:19,137
Why doesn't it matter
where we want
to build our houses?"
672
00:31:19,241 --> 00:31:23,206
Mike, is there a better way
in your head to subdivide
this
673
00:31:23,310 --> 00:31:24,793
for the five lots than
I've shown?
674
00:31:24,896 --> 00:31:28,827
From what
I hear from all of you...
675
00:31:28,931 --> 00:31:31,103
Well, I should say
from what I hear
from Kody,
676
00:31:31,206 --> 00:31:33,379
I mean, kind of what...
677
00:31:33,482 --> 00:31:35,034
I think that's the best way
to do it.
678
00:31:35,137 --> 00:31:36,034
I really do.
679
00:31:37,310 --> 00:31:43,413
I wonder if Kody
already had the conversation
with Mike and told him
680
00:31:43,517 --> 00:31:46,724
how he wanted the property
to be laid out and said,
681
00:31:46,827 --> 00:31:48,344
"Hey, Mike,
is this a good way?"
682
00:31:48,448 --> 00:31:50,551
And Mike is like,
"Yes, it is a good way."
683
00:31:50,655 --> 00:31:55,896
And then Kody is like,
"Okay, Mike, can you then
help sell it to my wives?
684
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,068
Because I think this is best.
685
00:31:58,172 --> 00:31:59,448
And so can you help me?
686
00:31:59,551 --> 00:32:02,517
'Cause, dude,
I need a man backing me
because these women,
687
00:32:02,620 --> 00:32:04,172
I'm telling you."
688
00:32:04,275 --> 00:32:07,241
I honestly have never
thought about being
in the trees.
689
00:32:07,344 --> 00:32:09,793
I just assumed everybody
would want to be in the trees.
690
00:32:09,896 --> 00:32:11,689
So I just ignored the trees.
691
00:32:11,793 --> 00:32:13,655
I don't want to even
commit to anything...
692
00:32:13,758 --> 00:32:15,448
- I'm not committing
to anything right now.
-...until I walk it.
693
00:32:15,551 --> 00:32:16,827
- Yeah.
-'Cause I don't know.
694
00:32:16,931 --> 00:32:20,413
They just want some power
over the decision
or something that.
695
00:32:23,655 --> 00:32:24,931
Yeah,
this is all just new.
696
00:32:25,034 --> 00:32:26,413
I've never thought about
anything different than that.
697
00:32:26,517 --> 00:32:27,862
Yeah,
it's just a conversation.
698
00:32:27,965 --> 00:32:30,551
If we can walk it,
that'd be like my favorite
thing in the world
699
00:32:30,655 --> 00:32:32,758
'cause I've been standing
here for a really long time.
700
00:32:32,862 --> 00:32:36,241
I'm losing my patience
with how they're behaving
here
701
00:32:36,344 --> 00:32:39,965
because I don't really care.
I just want to get it divided.
702
00:32:40,068 --> 00:32:41,965
I want to make sure that
we're just walking
the properties,
703
00:32:42,068 --> 00:32:43,310
we're gonna look at them.
704
00:32:43,413 --> 00:32:47,310
And then we need
to sit down offline
from this conversation
705
00:32:47,413 --> 00:32:49,241
and decide what names.
So I know
you're going to be like,
706
00:32:49,344 --> 00:32:50,724
"Oh, this is going to be
really great, Meri,
707
00:32:50,827 --> 00:32:51,827
don't you want to build here?"
708
00:32:51,931 --> 00:32:53,206
Like, let's just walk them,
huh?
709
00:32:53,310 --> 00:32:55,000
- Like, you think?
Okay.
710
00:32:55,103 --> 00:32:56,448
I appreciate
what Meri is doing.
711
00:32:56,551 --> 00:32:58,241
I'm just over
the conversation.
712
00:32:58,344 --> 00:33:01,620
I'm having a hard time
holding it all in anyway,
and we need to start
713
00:33:01,724 --> 00:33:03,103
walking or I'm going
to start crying.
714
00:33:03,206 --> 00:33:04,724
That's what's going
to happen here.
715
00:33:04,827 --> 00:33:07,517
If I express myself,
I'm just going to cry.
716
00:33:07,620 --> 00:33:10,689
We just want to get there
so we can sort of
get a view on it all.
717
00:33:10,793 --> 00:33:15,103
It's either walk the property
or I'm just going to walk
away from this conversation
718
00:33:15,206 --> 00:33:18,310
entirely 'cause
this is very frustrating.
719
00:33:28,551 --> 00:33:33,206
I wish that I would not
have allowed this family
to evolve to this point
720
00:33:33,310 --> 00:33:34,965
to where it's anarchy.
721
00:33:35,068 --> 00:33:37,896
And it's because
I sort of don't like
being controlled,
722
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:39,655
so I don't like
to control other people.
723
00:33:39,758 --> 00:33:44,793
But I am sick and tired
of sitting here
negotiating about it.
724
00:33:44,896 --> 00:33:47,620
So our property line
is here, right?
725
00:33:47,724 --> 00:33:49,448
So that's
kind of the corner edge.
726
00:33:49,551 --> 00:33:53,310
And so if I was to take
that and start walking
roughly about right here.
727
00:33:53,413 --> 00:33:54,586
It starts slanting,
doesn't it?
728
00:33:54,689 --> 00:33:56,137
It's feels like a slant.
729
00:33:56,241 --> 00:33:57,793
But it's not.
But it's not.
730
00:33:57,896 --> 00:33:59,034
You go here. You go here.
731
00:33:59,137 --> 00:34:00,551
You go here. You go here.
732
00:34:00,655 --> 00:34:03,620
That's how you have
to do plural marriage.
733
00:34:03,724 --> 00:34:09,103
I should wash my hands
of this, walk away,
and just let them hash it out.
734
00:34:09,206 --> 00:34:11,241
So you're basically
on the property line
right now?
735
00:34:11,344 --> 00:34:12,206
Roughly.
736
00:34:12,310 --> 00:34:13,896
And this is lot
number what?
737
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:15,206
One.
One.
738
00:34:15,310 --> 00:34:16,620
And this is yours.
739
00:34:16,724 --> 00:34:20,758
The only spot is to build
is in the trees then, right?
740
00:34:20,862 --> 00:34:23,103
- You can't build
on the pond, right?
Right.
741
00:34:23,206 --> 00:34:26,000
Lot number one for me
isn't even an option
because, right now,
742
00:34:26,103 --> 00:34:28,551
it's the lot that
has the pond on it.
743
00:34:28,655 --> 00:34:32,344
I'm pretty sure Kody
has spoken for this
lot right here.
744
00:34:32,448 --> 00:34:34,103
So Kody wants a doghouse.
745
00:34:34,206 --> 00:34:35,655
House.
746
00:34:35,758 --> 00:34:37,172
Freudian slip.
747
00:34:37,275 --> 00:34:38,758
Kody wants a house.
748
00:34:38,862 --> 00:34:40,482
His own house.
749
00:34:40,586 --> 00:34:43,000
And so now we're in lot two.
750
00:34:43,103 --> 00:34:45,379
And then
it would go down
to the other side of the pond.
751
00:34:45,482 --> 00:34:48,620
Yes.
Yeah, I have
no problem with lot number two
752
00:34:48,724 --> 00:34:49,931
if that's the way
that it goes.
753
00:34:50,034 --> 00:34:53,379
But I know that
we're not actually
making a decision today.
754
00:34:53,482 --> 00:34:56,655
We're gonna be getting
together after we all just
kind of wrap our minds
755
00:34:56,758 --> 00:35:01,310
around it all because,
you know, I know
I'm not the only one that
756
00:35:01,413 --> 00:35:04,724
this property layout is like
a new concept to.
757
00:35:04,827 --> 00:35:06,862
So, Kody,
I'm going to stay here.
758
00:35:06,965 --> 00:35:11,586
Will you walk to the edge
of what might be like
two to three?
759
00:35:11,689 --> 00:35:13,724
Yeah.
There's the pressure
to do something so that
760
00:35:13,827 --> 00:35:15,448
we can get moved
on the property.
761
00:35:15,551 --> 00:35:17,310
But then once I do
something,
762
00:35:17,413 --> 00:35:21,275
there's nothing
but resistance
to what I've done.
763
00:35:21,379 --> 00:35:26,586
There's no motivation here
for me to continue
going through this process
764
00:35:26,689 --> 00:35:28,034
with these ladies.
765
00:35:28,137 --> 00:35:29,137
Ladies, this way.
Everybody...
766
00:35:29,241 --> 00:35:30,689
This is personal
opinion, right?
767
00:35:30,793 --> 00:35:33,000
But he's got--
but you have also
the surveyor knowledge
768
00:35:33,103 --> 00:35:34,034
in it as well.
769
00:35:34,137 --> 00:35:35,551
Well, yeah.
Hey!
770
00:35:35,655 --> 00:35:37,000
What the holy hell?
771
00:35:37,103 --> 00:35:38,241
Did you just whistle at us?
772
00:35:38,344 --> 00:35:40,103
We're trying,
we're trying to talk to him.
773
00:35:40,206 --> 00:35:41,517
I...
774
00:35:41,620 --> 00:35:44,689
I'm furious at Kody right now
anyway and then
whistling at me?
775
00:35:44,793 --> 00:35:46,000
Well, yeah.
Hey!
776
00:35:46,103 --> 00:35:47,689
That's insulting and rude.
777
00:35:47,793 --> 00:35:49,724
So everything that
he says right now,
778
00:35:49,827 --> 00:35:51,551
I'm frankly not going
to listen to.
779
00:35:51,655 --> 00:35:53,206
I don't care.
780
00:35:53,310 --> 00:35:56,413
From a practicality
standpoint it's gonna,
it's gonna be a project
781
00:35:56,517 --> 00:35:59,413
putting it in on 'cause
there's gonna be lots
of rock on this hill.
782
00:35:59,517 --> 00:36:01,241
- Look at that.
I'm just trying
to move this along.
783
00:36:01,344 --> 00:36:04,344
Here's the thing,
I know darn well that
the longer
784
00:36:04,448 --> 00:36:08,689
I let them think about this,
the more challenging
their questions are gonna be.
785
00:36:08,793 --> 00:36:10,689
It's been two years now
786
00:36:10,793 --> 00:36:13,000
and we have been
hashing this
787
00:36:13,103 --> 00:36:14,448
and hashing this
and hashing this.
788
00:36:14,551 --> 00:36:18,965
It's been really,
really a frustration for me
all the way along.
789
00:36:19,068 --> 00:36:24,310
If you built right there,
I'm under no illusions
that you won't have to...
790
00:36:24,413 --> 00:36:25,551
Right here.
791
00:36:25,655 --> 00:36:27,241
- Could you build
right here? A house?
- Yes, you could.
792
00:36:27,344 --> 00:36:28,206
Then I'm sold.
793
00:36:28,310 --> 00:36:29,379
This is an awesome lot.
794
00:36:29,482 --> 00:36:30,793
I'd definitely take it.
795
00:36:30,896 --> 00:36:33,448
I know that Christine's
been in a little bit
of a tough spot
796
00:36:33,551 --> 00:36:36,551
because she's, like,
thinking about the idea
of moving back to Utah.
797
00:36:36,655 --> 00:36:40,241
So like for her
to kind of go, "Sold,
I want this!" It's like...
798
00:36:40,344 --> 00:36:41,379
it's cool to hear.
799
00:36:41,482 --> 00:36:42,620
I'm like, "Okay."
800
00:36:42,724 --> 00:36:44,586
I'm telling you,
this has been my favorite lot
801
00:36:44,689 --> 00:36:46,551
from the very beginning
right here.
802
00:36:47,827 --> 00:36:49,655
Let's get this done.
Let's get this figured out.
803
00:36:49,758 --> 00:36:51,172
Like, let's get back
together. Yeah.
804
00:36:51,275 --> 00:36:53,793
So is everybody clear
on what lot number three is?
805
00:36:53,896 --> 00:36:54,931
Kody's favorite.
806
00:36:55,034 --> 00:36:56,517
- The best spot
on the property.
Yeah.
807
00:36:56,620 --> 00:36:57,965
The big shebang.
808
00:36:58,862 --> 00:37:01,862
The Big Kahuna, the best ever.
809
00:37:01,965 --> 00:37:03,793
Shoot. Maybe I should
build here.
810
00:37:05,068 --> 00:37:07,034
Then he'd come and visit me.
811
00:37:09,758 --> 00:37:10,896
So where's our property line?
812
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:12,206
Where does it come to?
813
00:37:12,310 --> 00:37:13,689
Do you see that?
814
00:37:13,793 --> 00:37:15,827
I think that's the property
line right there.
815
00:37:15,931 --> 00:37:18,793
I mean, honestly,
I'm not excited to move
on to this property.
816
00:37:18,896 --> 00:37:20,310
But we are.
817
00:37:20,413 --> 00:37:23,034
So I'd like to be excited
to move on to this property.
818
00:37:23,137 --> 00:37:27,689
I just have to talk myself
into staying constantly now
instead of just walking away.
819
00:37:28,689 --> 00:37:30,344
So can
I just ask this?
820
00:37:30,448 --> 00:37:34,344
This is about the edge
of what lot four based
on the new concept?
821
00:37:34,448 --> 00:37:35,310
Correct.
822
00:37:35,413 --> 00:37:36,689
That's quite
a lot of land.
823
00:37:36,793 --> 00:37:40,793
The assumed premise
of wooded acreage
and non-wooded acreage
824
00:37:40,896 --> 00:37:43,103
is that wooded acreage
has more value.
825
00:37:43,206 --> 00:37:46,137
Every single time
we walk a lot,
it's my new favorite lot.
826
00:37:46,241 --> 00:37:47,758
- It is.
827
00:37:47,862 --> 00:37:48,862
I just keep going like--
828
00:37:48,965 --> 00:37:50,379
You can't have them all,
Robyn.
829
00:37:50,482 --> 00:37:55,517
So I'm assuming that
a four-acre lot with no trees
has approximately
830
00:37:55,620 --> 00:38:00,413
the same value as a two-acre
lot that has a lot of trees.
831
00:38:00,517 --> 00:38:06,000
What I'm trying to do
is get this as fair as I can
and put wives
832
00:38:06,103 --> 00:38:11,103
where they're going to be
benefited and benefit
everybody else.
833
00:38:11,206 --> 00:38:12,724
Everybody owns their lots.
834
00:38:12,827 --> 00:38:16,517
If you guys give me the pond,
nobody gets to tell me
what I do with it.
835
00:38:16,620 --> 00:38:19,931
If this lot is yours
and you don't want
to subdivide for your kids,
836
00:38:20,034 --> 00:38:21,137
your kids are screwed.
837
00:38:21,241 --> 00:38:23,241
None of my kids
are gonna stay in Flagstaff.
838
00:38:23,344 --> 00:38:26,758
They've all expressed
no desire to live
here whatsoever.
839
00:38:26,862 --> 00:38:29,413
They're all gonna settle
in Utah ironically enough.
840
00:38:29,517 --> 00:38:30,793
Huh?
841
00:38:30,896 --> 00:38:32,551
Just remember,
what you do with that
lot affects
842
00:38:32,655 --> 00:38:34,068
everybody else in the family.
843
00:38:34,172 --> 00:38:35,586
A COVID lesson.
844
00:38:35,689 --> 00:38:37,724
You know, everybody gets
to decide if they mask up,
845
00:38:37,827 --> 00:38:40,551
- but what you do affects
everybody else.
846
00:38:40,655 --> 00:38:41,724
Any questions?
847
00:38:41,827 --> 00:38:43,344
Can we hurry
before this rain comes?
848
00:38:43,448 --> 00:38:44,689
I don't know
what he's talking about.
849
00:38:44,793 --> 00:38:46,551
This has nothing to do
with what we're doing
right here.
850
00:38:46,655 --> 00:38:48,655
So I'm just gonna
stop it right now.
851
00:38:48,758 --> 00:38:50,724
I can't tell him
to not say that,
852
00:38:50,827 --> 00:38:53,310
but I'm gonna try
to change the subject.
853
00:38:53,413 --> 00:38:54,862
Thanks, Mike.
I appreciate it.
854
00:38:54,965 --> 00:38:56,103
- Thank you so much.
This has been huge.
855
00:38:56,206 --> 00:38:57,655
Oh, sure thing.
Thank you.
856
00:38:57,758 --> 00:39:00,724
Let's see if we can
get back to the cars
before the rain hits us.
857
00:39:04,586 --> 00:39:06,724
I'm just doing
my best to not be emotional.
858
00:39:06,827 --> 00:39:08,241
I'm just trying to let go.
859
00:39:08,344 --> 00:39:12,965
I'm just trying to let go
of having my house
be where I wanted it.
860
00:39:13,068 --> 00:39:15,517
And so I don't...
I mean, okay, that's fine.
861
00:39:15,620 --> 00:39:16,965
Let's just keep going.
862
00:39:17,068 --> 00:39:19,000
I thought we were gonna
try and build
the cul de sac again,
863
00:39:19,103 --> 00:39:23,448
like we had in Vegas and like,
have the four houses like
right there
864
00:39:23,551 --> 00:39:25,586
kind of close to each other.
865
00:39:25,689 --> 00:39:27,551
It just sounds really
separate.
866
00:39:27,655 --> 00:39:30,931
And I think it's kind of sad,
to be honest, you know?
867
00:39:31,034 --> 00:39:33,551
But I'm just not
interested anymore.
868
00:39:42,241 --> 00:39:44,068
When it comes
to the COVID virus,
869
00:39:44,172 --> 00:39:47,724
I'm not willing to gamble
a family member's life.
870
00:39:47,827 --> 00:39:51,344
We've basically
quarantined from each other
for the past six months.
871
00:39:51,448 --> 00:39:53,931
I'm the only one
that's going
from home to home.
872
00:39:54,034 --> 00:39:56,517
You know what,
COVID's brought out
is how much
873
00:39:56,620 --> 00:39:59,310
we want to be a family or not.
874
00:39:59,413 --> 00:40:01,620
Wow, are these
are the rules you guys
follow at your house?
875
00:40:01,724 --> 00:40:02,965
I'm just
gonna say it out loud.
876
00:40:03,068 --> 00:40:04,379
These are what she follows.
877
00:40:04,482 --> 00:40:06,620
I know everybody's like
suspicious of me
will just please stop.
878
00:40:06,724 --> 00:40:09,137
I didn't make up these rules.
879
00:40:09,241 --> 00:40:13,758
Kody is not somebody to be
run by one of his wives.
880
00:40:13,862 --> 00:40:16,482
Are you the head
of the family?
881
00:40:16,586 --> 00:40:20,413
It's pissing me off
they're looking to Robyn like
for some kind of approval.
882
00:40:21,413 --> 00:40:24,000
I don't have a head wife
in this family.
883
00:40:24,103 --> 00:40:25,413
You good with two?
884
00:40:25,517 --> 00:40:27,517
- You good with three?
Yes.
885
00:40:27,620 --> 00:40:33,620
We're all getting together
to discuss the lots
on the property.
886
00:40:33,724 --> 00:40:36,758
The best
that I can give today
is just to pretend.
887
00:40:36,862 --> 00:40:38,000
I don't want to move
on the property.
888
00:40:38,103 --> 00:40:39,827
I want to move
back to Utah.
889
00:40:39,931 --> 00:40:42,000
I've heard,
like you say, things.
890
00:40:42,103 --> 00:40:44,724
They question
if I'm gonna stay.
891
00:40:44,827 --> 00:40:46,827
I've considered everything.
892
00:40:46,931 --> 00:40:48,551
How's my three?
893
00:40:48,655 --> 00:40:52,689
I don't know
if Kody even wants to see
everybody all together again.
894
00:40:52,793 --> 00:40:55,034
Maybe he's fine,
just living separate.
895
00:40:55,137 --> 00:40:58,793
I'm at my wit's end
with this whole stuff.
896
00:40:58,896 --> 00:41:03,241
It's made me feel like
the foundation that our family
897
00:41:03,344 --> 00:41:05,896
was built on is, like,
crumbling.
898
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,241
I don't know.
899
00:41:07,344 --> 00:41:08,655
I would move to Utah
in a heartbeat.
900
00:41:08,758 --> 00:41:11,068
Are you kidding me?
Is it on the table still?
901
00:41:11,172 --> 00:41:15,000
This is a woman
who hasn't heard us
all say no.
902
00:41:15,103 --> 00:41:17,000
I'm not gonna talk to you.
903
00:41:17,103 --> 00:41:20,586
Why would I want to live
904
00:41:20,689 --> 00:41:25,517
on the same property
with a dysfunctional marriage,
905
00:41:25,620 --> 00:41:30,620
where right over there,
he's got a full functioning
marriage?
906
00:41:30,724 --> 00:41:34,724
Who would ever want
to live like that?