1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:04,413 Previously on Sister Wives . 2 00:00:04,448 --> 00:00:07,103 I present the family the idea of a one home. 3 00:00:07,137 --> 00:00:11,655 But I realized, this is a dogma of my religion. 4 00:00:11,689 --> 00:00:13,482 If you're in love with two women and you're married 5 00:00:13,517 --> 00:00:15,517 to them and they don't really like each other, 6 00:00:15,551 --> 00:00:17,137 having them live together 7 00:00:17,172 --> 00:00:19,310 would be soul killing for them. 8 00:00:19,344 --> 00:00:21,620 And Christine and I have had our little struggle 9 00:00:21,655 --> 00:00:22,793 because it doesn't work for her. 10 00:00:22,827 --> 00:00:25,137 It wasn't a little struggle, mind you. 11 00:00:25,172 --> 00:00:27,379 Why didn't he listen to what I said in the past, 12 00:00:27,413 --> 00:00:28,413 like, five or six years? 13 00:00:28,448 --> 00:00:31,586 I don't want to live together again. God. 14 00:00:31,620 --> 00:00:34,379 We've actually decided to move back to Utah. 15 00:00:34,413 --> 00:00:37,275 Isn't this exciting thing you've ever heard in your whole life? 16 00:00:37,310 --> 00:00:38,241 Yeah. 17 00:00:38,275 --> 00:00:40,103 It's time for us to be home. 18 00:00:40,137 --> 00:00:42,068 Especially now that we're really starting to think about 19 00:00:42,103 --> 00:00:44,620 like what starting a family looks like for us. 20 00:00:44,655 --> 00:00:46,517 -Don't worry. We'll get married first. -Yeah. 21 00:00:46,551 --> 00:00:49,172 So, you're not getting married in Chicago either anymore. 22 00:00:49,206 --> 00:00:50,724 No. We're going to get married in Salt Lake. 23 00:00:50,758 --> 00:00:54,448 I'm so excited to help them start planning the wedding. 24 00:00:54,482 --> 00:00:56,517 I'm just saying. [laughing] 25 00:00:57,517 --> 00:00:59,655 We will have to decide what we really want. 26 00:00:59,689 --> 00:01:02,241 Do you want to have a relationship 27 00:01:02,275 --> 00:01:04,034 with your sister wife? 28 00:01:04,068 --> 00:01:06,379 I don't see my sister wives very often. 29 00:01:06,413 --> 00:01:08,275 We do think separate now. 30 00:01:08,310 --> 00:01:10,551 Honestly, I just don't think my wives 31 00:01:10,586 --> 00:01:12,655 really want to be together that much 32 00:01:12,689 --> 00:01:14,689 because if they did, they would. 33 00:01:52,344 --> 00:01:53,482 [Robyn] A while back 34 00:01:53,517 --> 00:01:56,724 Janelle asked the five of us to go have lunch together, 35 00:01:56,758 --> 00:02:00,000 and kind of just discuss where we're at with our relationships. 36 00:02:00,034 --> 00:02:02,413 Yeah, I'm sure everybody hates me all the time. 37 00:02:02,448 --> 00:02:04,517 And then when I get together for family gatherings 38 00:02:04,551 --> 00:02:06,586 I'm like, why would I want to go? 39 00:02:06,620 --> 00:02:08,172 Because it's just gonna be a hostile environment. 40 00:02:08,206 --> 00:02:09,344 And no one there even likes me. 41 00:02:10,827 --> 00:02:13,827 I've just felt like I needed to talk to her more about it. 42 00:02:13,862 --> 00:02:15,517 I just, I'm concerned for her. 43 00:02:16,206 --> 00:02:17,931 [Knocking at door] Come in. 44 00:02:17,965 --> 00:02:20,379 -[Robyn] Knock, knock. Hey. -Hi, sweetie. 45 00:02:20,413 --> 00:02:25,241 Christine and I have had ups and downs with each other. 46 00:02:25,275 --> 00:02:27,620 There's times, when we have gotten along really well. 47 00:02:27,655 --> 00:02:29,793 and there's times, that plural marriage 48 00:02:29,827 --> 00:02:33,275 has ruled its ugly head and jealousy kind of reins 49 00:02:33,310 --> 00:02:34,758 and so sometimes it's good. 50 00:02:34,793 --> 00:02:36,482 Sometimes it's not so great. 51 00:02:36,517 --> 00:02:39,068 And we just kind of go with the flow of that. 52 00:02:39,862 --> 00:02:41,482 Hey, you, What's up? 53 00:02:41,517 --> 00:02:44,517 -Oh, just, I'm good. -Driving by? 54 00:02:44,551 --> 00:02:46,689 No, I wanted to come talk to you. 55 00:02:46,724 --> 00:02:50,862 -[laughing] Oh, God. -Not that's kind of talk. 56 00:02:50,896 --> 00:02:52,965 It's just... Oh gosh. [laughs] 57 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,896 It just got I don't really enjoy conversations at all. 58 00:02:55,931 --> 00:02:58,344 I just don't like being that vulnerable. 59 00:02:58,379 --> 00:03:01,310 I put myself out there and afterwards 60 00:03:01,344 --> 00:03:04,379 I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I was an idiot." 61 00:03:04,413 --> 00:03:05,965 you know, when we went and had dinner 62 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:07,689 and, Janelle, like, sat us down 63 00:03:07,724 --> 00:03:11,172 had that heavy, intense conversation and stuff. 64 00:03:11,206 --> 00:03:12,793 You said something about 65 00:03:12,827 --> 00:03:14,206 when you come to family gatherings 66 00:03:14,241 --> 00:03:15,758 you're sitting there, worried whether or not 67 00:03:15,793 --> 00:03:17,517 people are hating you. 68 00:03:17,551 --> 00:03:21,655 -I mean, that's a strong word, but I do worry sometimes. -That's okay. 69 00:03:21,689 --> 00:03:22,965 So I know that my imagination, 70 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,034 and the conversations that I have in my head, 71 00:03:25,068 --> 00:03:27,482 aren't always the most healthy things. 72 00:03:27,517 --> 00:03:33,965 I think that I've always been this way, just looking back with Mary and Janelle. 73 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,827 When it was just the three of us. 74 00:03:35,862 --> 00:03:37,206 It was the same kind of thing. 75 00:03:37,241 --> 00:03:39,517 I didn't always know if they were mad at me 76 00:03:39,551 --> 00:03:41,275 or frustrated with me. 77 00:03:41,310 --> 00:03:42,965 [Sighs] It's just hard. 78 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:44,896 It's just hard to know what to do. 79 00:03:44,931 --> 00:03:46,172 I just want to speak for myself. 80 00:03:46,206 --> 00:03:50,310 I can't I mean, I don't know what their relationships are. 81 00:03:50,344 --> 00:03:53,931 So I'm just saying, like for me, Robyn, 82 00:03:53,965 --> 00:03:56,758 Robyn does not feel that way about Christine. 83 00:03:56,793 --> 00:03:58,965 -Thank you. -Does that make sense? 84 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,931 I wouldn't imagine that anybody hates Christine 85 00:04:01,965 --> 00:04:05,827 just because I don't see that kind of behavior from them. 86 00:04:05,862 --> 00:04:07,068 But I don't know. 87 00:04:08,689 --> 00:04:10,068 Maybe somebody's a really good actor. 88 00:04:10,103 --> 00:04:11,379 I don't know. 89 00:04:11,413 --> 00:04:13,310 Do you want anything for breakfast? You're hungry? I'm hungry. 90 00:04:13,344 --> 00:04:14,827 -Yeah, sure. -Do you want a parfait? 91 00:04:14,862 --> 00:04:16,689 Sure. Yeah. 92 00:04:16,724 --> 00:04:19,862 Before family gathering, I think about it a lot. 93 00:04:19,896 --> 00:04:21,931 If it's in my house, 94 00:04:21,965 --> 00:04:26,724 then I know what to do to prepare for it, 95 00:04:26,758 --> 00:04:30,172 to try and make it so everybody feels comfortable. 96 00:04:30,206 --> 00:04:34,000 But when I go into to one of my sister wives' homes, 97 00:04:34,034 --> 00:04:35,241 I don't know how to feel safe. 98 00:04:35,275 --> 00:04:38,724 I don't know how to be me in their home. 99 00:04:38,758 --> 00:04:42,310 Yeah, super uncomfortable to even admit it because I sound stupid. 100 00:04:42,344 --> 00:04:45,482 You said something recently, where you said, it's hard for us 101 00:04:45,517 --> 00:04:48,586 to go into someone's house, too, because we don't know what role, 102 00:04:48,620 --> 00:04:51,413 we don't know who we are in someone else's home. 103 00:04:51,448 --> 00:04:53,413 You know, I know who I am in my house. 104 00:04:53,448 --> 00:04:55,448 I know what my role is. I know my identity is well. 105 00:04:55,482 --> 00:04:57,793 Well, we share that role so much for the time. 106 00:04:57,827 --> 00:04:59,793 I don't think everybody quite understands 107 00:04:59,827 --> 00:05:02,620 they're also sharing the role of mother constantly. 108 00:05:02,655 --> 00:05:03,655 Oh, yeah. 109 00:05:03,689 --> 00:05:05,172 There's some tension that can happen 110 00:05:05,206 --> 00:05:09,724 between the sister wives from that sharing of those roles. 111 00:05:09,758 --> 00:05:13,448 You got a kid sitting here doing something and then needs mothering. 112 00:05:13,482 --> 00:05:15,103 Do you step in or don't you? 113 00:05:15,137 --> 00:05:17,931 You're sharing that role with the other moms. 114 00:05:17,965 --> 00:05:20,310 We go to someone else's house, 115 00:05:20,344 --> 00:05:22,827 we walk in and you're like, okay, this is her home. 116 00:05:22,862 --> 00:05:24,241 -Yeah. -You kind of like 117 00:05:24,275 --> 00:05:28,241 you've sort of almost stepped down just a little, I feel. 118 00:05:28,275 --> 00:05:29,896 She's like Queen Wife. 119 00:05:29,931 --> 00:05:32,103 -Well, kind of, I mean. -Kind of. 120 00:05:32,137 --> 00:05:34,172 But it is. She gets final say. 121 00:05:34,206 --> 00:05:35,620 I think when we have 122 00:05:35,655 --> 00:05:41,275 a gathering in a wife's home that she's going to decide 123 00:05:41,310 --> 00:05:43,724 what we eat and how it's served, 124 00:05:43,758 --> 00:05:46,793 and she's going to create all of that. 125 00:05:46,827 --> 00:05:51,413 It's her home, so she should be able to be the most important. 126 00:05:51,448 --> 00:05:54,862 Make the final decision, you know, because it's her home. 127 00:05:54,896 --> 00:05:57,379 It's your domain and it's your castle. 128 00:05:57,413 --> 00:05:58,551 It is yours. 129 00:05:58,586 --> 00:06:01,689 And so there's a term of respect that goes with that 130 00:06:01,724 --> 00:06:03,310 and you should be able to be in charge. 131 00:06:03,344 --> 00:06:05,068 You should be able to make the call. 132 00:06:05,103 --> 00:06:09,655 Personally, I don't like the term queen wife 133 00:06:09,689 --> 00:06:13,034 or Queen Bee or, you know, whatever is used. 134 00:06:13,068 --> 00:06:15,379 I've heard a lot in the plural community, 135 00:06:15,413 --> 00:06:18,517 and it's definitely got a negative connotation. 136 00:06:18,551 --> 00:06:22,241 When my sister wives come into my home or when I go into their home. 137 00:06:22,275 --> 00:06:26,620 I don't think it has anything to do with who's Queen Wife. 138 00:06:26,655 --> 00:06:30,172 It has to do with, "This is their home. 139 00:06:30,206 --> 00:06:31,931 "And I'm going to respect her space." 140 00:06:31,965 --> 00:06:35,448 Being able to say something, it would be like a value, 141 00:06:35,482 --> 00:06:37,034 is important to us. 142 00:06:37,068 --> 00:06:39,206 You know what we want to matter. We want to count. 143 00:06:39,241 --> 00:06:42,206 And now you know about the one house versus poor separate houses. 144 00:06:42,241 --> 00:06:44,172 -Really? -Yeah. 145 00:06:44,206 --> 00:06:47,275 The one house was so hard, I never felt like I was queen. 146 00:06:47,310 --> 00:06:49,379 Wife or Queen Mom. Never. 147 00:06:50,448 --> 00:06:52,482 Everybody just needs came before mine. 148 00:06:52,517 --> 00:06:55,275 And everybody's, all the kids' whose needs came before my kids too. 149 00:06:56,586 --> 00:06:58,344 Janelle was gone all the time. 150 00:06:58,379 --> 00:07:01,379 And so I was kind, like her kid's mom, too. 151 00:07:01,413 --> 00:07:05,965 So it really mattered that I stood up firmly for her kids 152 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,758 and so I would put the needs of my kids after that. 153 00:07:08,793 --> 00:07:12,517 And they still, I love them, and I took care of them. 154 00:07:12,551 --> 00:07:15,379 But I could have done better. 155 00:07:15,413 --> 00:07:16,793 So we needed to take the basement. 156 00:07:16,827 --> 00:07:19,310 Not fun, not a fun choice to make, it was super hard. 157 00:07:19,344 --> 00:07:23,517 I hated it. Yeah, because I hate conversation so bad. 158 00:07:23,551 --> 00:07:26,551 I just put my needs last, every single time. 159 00:07:26,586 --> 00:07:32,103 In the plural community there is certainly a basement wife mentality. 160 00:07:32,137 --> 00:07:35,137 If you have a situation where there's a wife, it's a queen bee. 161 00:07:35,172 --> 00:07:39,379 While the other wife goes in the basement and she doesn't matter as much. 162 00:07:39,413 --> 00:07:41,034 And I've seen it enough. 163 00:07:41,068 --> 00:07:42,965 I've seen it a lot. 164 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,896 I put myself in the basement and became a basement wife, 165 00:07:46,931 --> 00:07:50,517 and I just feel like I stopped having a choice 166 00:07:50,551 --> 00:07:53,206 and I didn't really matter as much. 167 00:07:53,241 --> 00:07:55,793 [Janelle] I have never really heard or thought about 168 00:07:55,827 --> 00:07:57,896 somebody being called the basement wife. 169 00:07:57,931 --> 00:07:59,517 You know, we've had plenty of houses 170 00:07:59,551 --> 00:08:01,241 where I lived in the basement. 171 00:08:01,275 --> 00:08:03,103 Like, one house, there was a small kitchenette 172 00:08:03,137 --> 00:08:06,000 type thing in the basement, and it was dark. 173 00:08:06,034 --> 00:08:07,931 I mean, it wasn't quite like what Christine had, 174 00:08:07,965 --> 00:08:10,586 where she could actually see out the windows, 175 00:08:10,620 --> 00:08:12,413 like it was a true basement. 176 00:08:12,448 --> 00:08:15,586 And so there was some separation, but I never felt like it was a stigma. 177 00:08:15,620 --> 00:08:19,758 It was more like separation for me to live downstairs, so to speak. 178 00:08:20,482 --> 00:08:21,724 -I'm so sorry. -It was hard. 179 00:08:21,758 --> 00:08:25,586 So moving back to that, no, I don't care if Kody said 180 00:08:25,620 --> 00:08:27,931 it's different because there's thicker walls. 181 00:08:27,965 --> 00:08:29,896 -Space or whatever. -That doesn't matter. 182 00:08:29,931 --> 00:08:32,172 I would never be queen over my domain. 183 00:08:32,206 --> 00:08:34,172 I'm not doing it again. 184 00:08:34,206 --> 00:08:38,448 I'm not going to put myself in a situation where my kids' needs aren't met. 185 00:08:38,482 --> 00:08:41,310 I'm not going to do it. 186 00:08:41,344 --> 00:08:42,793 Also having a back door entrance. 187 00:08:42,827 --> 00:08:44,275 That was a really, really bad thing that, 188 00:08:44,310 --> 00:08:46,206 -I didn't feel like it was Kody's house. -Back door entrance? 189 00:08:46,241 --> 00:08:47,482 I had a back door entrance. 190 00:08:47,517 --> 00:08:50,344 So it's like Kody would come in, dump all of his stuff 191 00:08:50,379 --> 00:08:52,413 at Meri's house or Janelle's house. 192 00:08:52,448 --> 00:08:54,413 Never settle in mine. 193 00:08:54,448 --> 00:08:56,103 He wouldn't shower there. 194 00:08:56,137 --> 00:08:57,862 -He didn't get dressed there. -I heard about that. 195 00:08:57,896 --> 00:08:59,896 Yeah, until I find that brought it up to him. 196 00:08:59,931 --> 00:09:03,275 And I said, when you marry Robyn, you're going to shower at her house 197 00:09:03,310 --> 00:09:06,172 and he's like, "Well, yeah", I said that I need you showering here. 198 00:09:06,206 --> 00:09:10,551 It's like I do everything that I can to make my home, 199 00:09:10,586 --> 00:09:13,206 our home is like, Well, Meri's shower's just better. 200 00:09:13,241 --> 00:09:15,034 I'm like, "I don't care." 201 00:09:15,068 --> 00:09:18,862 I don't care, because what you're saying is, "I don't matter." 202 00:09:18,896 --> 00:09:20,206 So he did. He started showering, 203 00:09:20,241 --> 00:09:22,379 but I think it's also because Robyn said something. 204 00:09:22,758 --> 00:09:24,068 Honestly. 205 00:09:24,103 --> 00:09:26,689 I mentioned it a lot over the years, and he didn't change it 206 00:09:26,724 --> 00:09:28,310 and didn't change it. 207 00:09:28,344 --> 00:09:32,724 And it wasn't until Robyn's coming in the family that he changed it. 208 00:09:32,758 --> 00:09:35,000 I hated it. It really, really bothered me. 209 00:09:35,034 --> 00:09:36,931 That was the fourth year we were living there, 210 00:09:36,965 --> 00:09:39,517 and he's still didn't shower there. 211 00:09:39,551 --> 00:09:41,758 I mean, this is not something that Christine and I have 212 00:09:41,793 --> 00:09:48,586 ever talked about, but I know that she has problem, 213 00:09:48,620 --> 00:09:51,000 that he never showered at her house, 214 00:09:51,034 --> 00:09:55,655 but honestly, it was nothing that ever came from me. 215 00:09:55,689 --> 00:09:57,896 I never asked Kody to shower at my house. 216 00:09:57,931 --> 00:10:00,206 [Laughs] Like, I didn't care where he showered. 217 00:10:00,241 --> 00:10:02,896 It's like, "You want me to move back to that?" 218 00:10:02,931 --> 00:10:05,379 Thank you for bringing that up to him. It wasn't okay. 219 00:10:05,413 --> 00:10:07,241 Christine's memory of our experience in Lehi 220 00:10:07,275 --> 00:10:08,689 was that I never showered at her house, 221 00:10:08,724 --> 00:10:12,482 which isn't actually true, I showered at her house a lot. 222 00:10:12,517 --> 00:10:16,241 I tended to shower more often at Meri's house in the morning 223 00:10:16,275 --> 00:10:18,275 because Meri would be going to work. 224 00:10:18,310 --> 00:10:19,689 I would visit with Meri. 225 00:10:19,724 --> 00:10:22,310 Then I would have breakfast every morning 226 00:10:22,344 --> 00:10:24,793 at Christine's house before I went to work. 227 00:10:24,827 --> 00:10:29,344 And so I felt like I was balancing out something in the relationship. 228 00:10:29,379 --> 00:10:35,448 And so what I see Christine doing is that she twists the past experiences 229 00:10:35,482 --> 00:10:37,896 that we've had to a negative place, and that's the reason 230 00:10:37,931 --> 00:10:40,137 she's not wanting to be in one home. 231 00:10:40,172 --> 00:10:41,758 So it's not about the one home thing. 232 00:10:41,793 --> 00:10:46,379 It's about how she has twisted our past and made it negative. 233 00:10:46,413 --> 00:10:50,896 I need to talk to Kody. [whimpering] 234 00:10:53,620 --> 00:10:55,655 I feel like everything just kind of bad 235 00:10:55,689 --> 00:11:00,413 with Kody and I after honestly because he took so personal. 236 00:11:00,448 --> 00:11:02,000 -He took it so personal. -Yeah, but it's not. 237 00:11:02,034 --> 00:11:05,241 -I know that he... -It's not really that personal. 238 00:11:05,275 --> 00:11:06,931 It's an identity. 239 00:11:06,965 --> 00:11:09,482 I think it's because it's, in his head, 240 00:11:09,517 --> 00:11:11,137 It's about his family. 241 00:11:11,172 --> 00:11:14,517 But he's got to realize that everybody has to choose it. 242 00:11:14,551 --> 00:11:16,517 I can't keep bringing it up all the time. 243 00:11:16,551 --> 00:11:21,413 -But nor can it cause such a bad situation. -No, that's not fair. 244 00:11:21,448 --> 00:11:25,448 I think Kody needs to hear what Christine has just told me, 245 00:11:25,482 --> 00:11:27,620 and that might be hard for him to hear. 246 00:11:27,655 --> 00:11:30,551 Time to have conversation with him for a blunt, outspoken person 247 00:11:30,586 --> 00:11:33,344 about this thing he feels passionate about. 248 00:11:33,379 --> 00:11:37,344 You're just going to have to get that brave part of yourself and say it. 249 00:11:37,379 --> 00:11:38,724 I know it's not always fun. 250 00:11:38,758 --> 00:11:42,206 -No, it's not. Yucky. -[Robyn laughs] 251 00:11:50,965 --> 00:11:55,862 So I think that we don't have to do anything together. 252 00:11:55,896 --> 00:11:57,758 -We actually don't. -Oh, gosh. 253 00:11:57,793 --> 00:11:59,241 If I'm in a rough spot with Kody, 254 00:11:59,275 --> 00:12:03,482 it's really difficult to contribute to a sister wife relationship. 255 00:12:03,517 --> 00:12:06,482 [Robyn] You know that she's actually trying to sabotage 256 00:12:06,517 --> 00:12:08,034 your relationship with Kody, 257 00:12:08,068 --> 00:12:09,137 You can't trust her. 258 00:12:09,172 --> 00:12:11,000 How are you friends with someone you can't trust? 259 00:12:25,068 --> 00:12:27,379 [Robyn] So, like, can you tell me, like, what the difference was 260 00:12:27,413 --> 00:12:30,896 between living in one house in Lehi, 261 00:12:30,931 --> 00:12:33,379 and that culture that, I like, 262 00:12:34,206 --> 00:12:37,758 I came to know you guys with 263 00:12:37,793 --> 00:12:41,517 and then, like, what it was like in Las Vegas. 264 00:12:41,551 --> 00:12:42,517 Like, the difference. 265 00:12:42,551 --> 00:12:44,448 I want to sort of make peace with the idea 266 00:12:44,482 --> 00:12:47,413 that we aren't living in one home 267 00:12:47,448 --> 00:12:50,275 because that was the idea that I bought off on 268 00:12:50,310 --> 00:12:52,517 when I got to know and marry Kody 269 00:12:52,551 --> 00:12:54,758 and sort of fell in love with the family. 270 00:12:54,793 --> 00:12:57,724 Was that you know, someday we might live in one home. 271 00:12:57,758 --> 00:12:59,448 We did the right thing, right? 272 00:12:59,482 --> 00:13:00,896 I just want to know. 273 00:13:00,931 --> 00:13:03,517 Okay, what did Janelle and Meri talk about most of the time? 274 00:13:03,551 --> 00:13:05,482 -Because of the kids, right, we made it work. -For the kids. 275 00:13:05,517 --> 00:13:10,310 We made it work because of the kids. That is what it was. 276 00:13:10,344 --> 00:13:12,793 -We made it work because of the kids. -Okay. 277 00:13:12,827 --> 00:13:18,931 I don't know if we would have chosen to work things out 278 00:13:18,965 --> 00:13:20,724 for any other reason, necessarily. 279 00:13:21,586 --> 00:13:23,310 -Oh, gosh. -I don't know. 280 00:13:23,344 --> 00:13:25,482 It is confusing to me, because I'm like, 281 00:13:25,517 --> 00:13:29,448 "Did I just not see what was there in front of my face?" 282 00:13:29,482 --> 00:13:35,137 "Did I fall in love with a culture of a family that really wasn't real?" 283 00:13:35,172 --> 00:13:37,758 So I think what we're getting 284 00:13:37,793 --> 00:13:41,310 is more organic than it's more of a choice. 285 00:13:41,344 --> 00:13:45,517 Oh, I think is more between, because you when you came in the family, 286 00:13:45,551 --> 00:13:48,034 you stood up for yourself so much 287 00:13:48,068 --> 00:13:49,793 -and I was like, what the holy. -Really? 288 00:13:49,827 --> 00:13:50,862 [Robyn laughs] 289 00:13:50,896 --> 00:13:52,586 Yes. I didn't understand what that was like. 290 00:13:53,413 --> 00:13:54,448 I had no idea. 291 00:13:54,482 --> 00:13:57,000 No way. Like it was safe? 292 00:13:57,034 --> 00:13:58,137 I'm like freaking out here. 293 00:13:58,172 --> 00:13:59,551 It was so good. 294 00:13:59,586 --> 00:14:00,620 Was it harsh? 295 00:14:00,655 --> 00:14:01,724 Was it hard? 296 00:14:01,758 --> 00:14:03,068 No, no, no. Oh, no. 297 00:14:03,103 --> 00:14:05,620 You did great. There were so many conversations 298 00:14:05,655 --> 00:14:06,724 that you would have with Kody. 299 00:14:06,758 --> 00:14:08,482 -And I was like, "What?" -[Robyn laughs] 300 00:14:08,517 --> 00:14:12,000 She gets a choice, she isn't just told she has to do it? 301 00:14:12,034 --> 00:14:13,758 What does that mean? 302 00:14:13,793 --> 00:14:16,448 You mean, she's fighting about Christmas? 303 00:14:16,482 --> 00:14:19,448 We couldn't do that. What? 304 00:14:19,482 --> 00:14:21,689 For years, Kody tried to take Christmas away. 305 00:14:21,724 --> 00:14:22,896 And then Robyn came in the family. 306 00:14:22,931 --> 00:14:24,482 She started being like, "That's the stupidest 307 00:14:24,517 --> 00:14:26,068 "thing I've ever heard in my life." 308 00:14:26,103 --> 00:14:29,000 But she had magical conversations with Kody 309 00:14:29,034 --> 00:14:31,310 where he would come back and say 310 00:14:31,344 --> 00:14:34,862 "I think that we need to still have Christmas" and things like that. 311 00:14:34,896 --> 00:14:36,551 And she was totally heard. 312 00:14:36,586 --> 00:14:39,344 And it blew my mind. 313 00:14:39,379 --> 00:14:42,206 Because of my religious views and the way I felt about Christmas. 314 00:14:42,241 --> 00:14:44,379 I was specifically just trying to move ourselves away 315 00:14:44,413 --> 00:14:47,551 from such a commercialization of Christmas. 316 00:14:47,586 --> 00:14:51,655 Robyn talking to me about being cool about Christmas 317 00:14:51,689 --> 00:14:57,482 was simply an effort to keep me from taking away the spirit of Christmas. 318 00:14:57,517 --> 00:14:59,862 Personally, I think it was just a big misunderstanding. 319 00:15:00,620 --> 00:15:02,724 It did bring a change. 320 00:15:02,758 --> 00:15:04,068 But it was so good. 321 00:15:04,965 --> 00:15:06,758 Do you know became a stronger person. 322 00:15:06,793 --> 00:15:08,206 -I became a stronger person. -[Robyn] Yeah. 323 00:15:08,241 --> 00:15:12,034 -But you also like... -I'll get you something. 324 00:15:12,068 --> 00:15:14,689 -What? Oh, you got to get socks or sweater. -[Christine] I'm freezing. 325 00:15:14,724 --> 00:15:16,586 -[Christine] Freezing! All day. -No, it's cold. 326 00:15:18,172 --> 00:15:20,379 Conversations like this are hard to have a time limit. 327 00:15:20,413 --> 00:15:22,724 I swear. You have an inner time limit of an hour 328 00:15:22,758 --> 00:15:26,758 and after an hour, I'm like, "I need to breathe." 329 00:15:26,793 --> 00:15:28,034 [gasping] I really... 330 00:15:28,068 --> 00:15:31,000 And so Ah [groans] I'm running. 331 00:15:31,034 --> 00:15:34,448 I'm running away from all of my problems. 332 00:15:34,482 --> 00:15:36,827 [laughs nervously] 333 00:15:36,862 --> 00:15:39,310 I think it's all good. And I wanted to tell you... 334 00:15:39,344 --> 00:15:43,241 -I want to... -Everyone is grandizing, glorifying the past 335 00:15:43,275 --> 00:15:46,724 like "What we had was so good", I might [BEEP]. 336 00:15:46,758 --> 00:15:47,896 [Robyn laughs] 337 00:15:47,931 --> 00:15:49,344 No, it wasn't. 338 00:15:49,379 --> 00:15:53,551 We made it work because of the kids, [mockingly] because we had to. 339 00:15:53,586 --> 00:15:55,068 How is that good? 340 00:15:55,103 --> 00:15:57,689 -That's a good point. -I don't want to have to do anything. 341 00:15:57,724 --> 00:16:03,000 So when we lived separately in Vegas, we got back together again 342 00:16:03,034 --> 00:16:06,896 and we had to figure out the balance in the cul-de-sac, 343 00:16:06,931 --> 00:16:09,620 and it was very different than it was before. 344 00:16:09,655 --> 00:16:11,862 Well so now we're in Flagstaff we're all separate again. 345 00:16:11,896 --> 00:16:15,034 Then when we move on to Coyote Pass, it's going to look different again. 346 00:16:15,068 --> 00:16:20,172 We're just not going to bubble into this like, oh [singing] where we're all like 347 00:16:20,206 --> 00:16:24,724 best friends and the kids are all this is just, this magical all the time. 348 00:16:26,034 --> 00:16:27,137 I don't know. 349 00:16:27,172 --> 00:16:28,172 It's going to be different. 350 00:16:28,206 --> 00:16:29,551 We're going to figure it out. 351 00:16:29,586 --> 00:16:35,448 So I think that the Flagstaff reset has been a big, huge reset. 352 00:16:35,482 --> 00:16:39,793 -Yeah. -We don't have to do anything together. 353 00:16:40,482 --> 00:16:42,068 -We actually don't. -No. 354 00:16:42,103 --> 00:16:46,862 I have a full, amazing things that I do with my girls, 355 00:16:46,896 --> 00:16:50,965 that I love, but now it's the next step. 356 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,241 Do we want to just call people up like a girlfriend? 357 00:16:53,275 --> 00:16:55,275 We want to call each other up like a girlfriend and say, 358 00:16:55,310 --> 00:16:58,689 "Hey, I really need to go out to lunch today." 359 00:16:58,724 --> 00:17:00,413 So what's stopping us from doing that? 360 00:17:00,448 --> 00:17:02,413 Is it because plural marriage is hard 361 00:17:02,448 --> 00:17:04,689 and living by ourselves is hard? 362 00:17:04,724 --> 00:17:06,931 -I also get into my own head a lot. -Yeah. 363 00:17:06,965 --> 00:17:09,793 and I think that I have enemies when, in fact, you guys aren't. 364 00:17:09,827 --> 00:17:14,103 I think that it is easy to sit there and wonder, 365 00:17:14,137 --> 00:17:15,931 "Do my sister wives love me?" 366 00:17:15,965 --> 00:17:17,068 "Do they care about me?" 367 00:17:17,103 --> 00:17:18,724 "Do they hate me?" 368 00:17:18,758 --> 00:17:22,068 That is something that, I think, all plural wives 369 00:17:22,103 --> 00:17:24,413 sort of struggle with, and, I mean, I do. 370 00:17:25,620 --> 00:17:28,517 We're all so connected and so interconnected 371 00:17:28,551 --> 00:17:30,344 and not only their sister wife relationship. 372 00:17:30,379 --> 00:17:32,724 There's Kody in there, too. 373 00:17:32,758 --> 00:17:35,896 [Christine] When I'm in a good spot with Kody, it's super easy to have 374 00:17:35,931 --> 00:17:38,137 a great relationship with my sister wives. 375 00:17:38,172 --> 00:17:43,448 But if I'm in a rough spot with Kody, it's really difficult to get out of that 376 00:17:43,482 --> 00:17:48,310 and I feel like I want to even contribute to a sister wife relationship. 377 00:17:48,344 --> 00:17:51,827 This is something that, we treat each other 378 00:17:51,862 --> 00:17:53,965 like we're girlfriends where we're like, 379 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:55,724 "Hey, just thinking about you today. 380 00:17:55,758 --> 00:17:57,241 "I want to know if everything's okay." 381 00:17:57,275 --> 00:17:59,586 -Yeah. -Because I do that to my friends. 382 00:17:59,620 --> 00:18:03,551 -Or I say, -But that's you choosing to be safe for your friend. 383 00:18:03,586 --> 00:18:05,448 We have to choose to be safe for each other. 384 00:18:05,482 --> 00:18:07,103 That's a huge one. 385 00:18:07,137 --> 00:18:11,827 But here's the thing it's like if you can't trust your sister wife to look out 386 00:18:11,862 --> 00:18:16,724 for your relationship with your husband, then you can't be girlfriends. 387 00:18:16,758 --> 00:18:18,310 You can't be friends. 388 00:18:18,344 --> 00:18:21,482 That has to come like, one of the first things that you do, 389 00:18:21,517 --> 00:18:23,655 and then you can be girlfriends. 390 00:18:23,689 --> 00:18:27,965 But if you're sitting there and you know that she's actually trying to sabotage 391 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:33,896 your relationship with Kody, then you can't trust her. 392 00:18:33,931 --> 00:18:37,103 How are you friends with someone you can't trust? 393 00:18:37,137 --> 00:18:39,137 -I'm glad you came. Thank you, thank you. -Me too. 394 00:18:41,103 --> 00:18:45,793 You know, there's a bond that is unique to sister wife relationship 395 00:18:45,827 --> 00:18:48,896 where you're sitting there going, "We trust each other" 396 00:18:48,931 --> 00:18:52,068 to have each other's back when it comes to Kody. 397 00:18:52,103 --> 00:18:54,620 and our individual relationship with him. 398 00:18:54,655 --> 00:18:59,068 And in that place there is such a depth. 399 00:19:00,172 --> 00:19:02,931 And there's such a closeness and a connection 400 00:19:02,965 --> 00:19:10,689 and a bond that, um, you can't get anywhere else. [breath trembling] 401 00:19:10,724 --> 00:19:14,862 It's pure love and it's the potential that my sister wives 402 00:19:14,896 --> 00:19:17,482 and I have to have with each other. 403 00:19:21,896 --> 00:19:23,586 [Meri] We have come up to Salt Lake City 404 00:19:23,620 --> 00:19:25,758 to look at some wedding venue options 405 00:19:25,793 --> 00:19:27,103 with Mariah and Audrey. 406 00:19:27,137 --> 00:19:30,517 You guys could walk down an aisle that isn't a straight line. 407 00:19:30,551 --> 00:19:31,517 [Christine] Yeah. 408 00:19:31,551 --> 00:19:32,655 [all cheering] Hey! 409 00:19:34,724 --> 00:19:37,000 [Kody] Right there! 410 00:19:37,034 --> 00:19:40,034 That just, like, got me in the feels, you know? 411 00:19:40,068 --> 00:19:41,758 Yeah, we're not strange. 412 00:19:56,931 --> 00:19:58,758 [Meri] We have come up the Salt Lake City 413 00:19:58,793 --> 00:20:02,551 to look at some wedding venue options with Mariah and Audrey. 414 00:20:02,586 --> 00:20:04,931 [Kody] They decided to choose between three different venues. 415 00:20:04,965 --> 00:20:09,206 One is a botanical garden, one is a ski resort, 416 00:20:09,241 --> 00:20:12,448 -and the other is a family farm. -With a castle. 417 00:20:14,448 --> 00:20:15,862 With a castle. 418 00:20:15,896 --> 00:20:17,965 -[Christine] Are you excited? -[Mariah] Crazy, excited. 419 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:19,310 [Christine singing] I'm excited. 420 00:20:19,344 --> 00:20:24,379 So Mariah came out to us as gay about 421 00:20:27,482 --> 00:20:32,172 and I will never forget and always regret my reaction 422 00:20:32,206 --> 00:20:37,862 because I was completely clueless and I felt like such a bad mom 423 00:20:37,896 --> 00:20:41,724 like I felt horrible, I guess is about 424 00:20:41,758 --> 00:20:43,793 maybe three or four months later, 425 00:20:43,827 --> 00:20:46,551 she introduced us to Audrey. 426 00:20:46,586 --> 00:20:50,000 I have absolutely love seeing their relationship blossom. 427 00:20:50,034 --> 00:20:53,241 They are so good for each other. 428 00:20:53,275 --> 00:20:55,344 Now they're planning their wedding. 429 00:20:55,379 --> 00:20:56,931 It's kind of fun. 430 00:20:56,965 --> 00:20:59,896 Good to see you again. 431 00:20:59,931 --> 00:21:02,034 So Audrey's parents, Joanie and Rick, 432 00:21:02,068 --> 00:21:04,379 were able to come into town and look at the venues with us. 433 00:21:04,413 --> 00:21:06,310 I'm super excited to see them again. 434 00:21:06,344 --> 00:21:09,620 And also Mariah and Audrey's college friend Claire is here with us. 435 00:21:09,655 --> 00:21:12,793 She's actually going to kind of give us the tour here of the gardens. 436 00:21:13,655 --> 00:21:15,103 -Guys. -Hi. 437 00:21:15,137 --> 00:21:17,172 [chattering] 438 00:21:17,206 --> 00:21:19,275 We've never hung out with a polygamous family before, 439 00:21:19,310 --> 00:21:23,413 but we're from Utah with my friends when we're all out, or take a girl's trip 440 00:21:23,448 --> 00:21:27,793 and we tell somebody that we're from Utah, they immediately joke with us 441 00:21:27,827 --> 00:21:30,137 that we're sister wives or something along those lines. 442 00:21:30,172 --> 00:21:32,517 So anybody from Utah hanging out with other women 443 00:21:32,551 --> 00:21:34,034 get that kind of thing all the time. 444 00:21:34,068 --> 00:21:37,000 Okay? How many months from now are you guys getting married? 445 00:21:37,034 --> 00:21:39,241 We want to do August 2021. 446 00:21:39,275 --> 00:21:41,344 August 29th, right? 447 00:21:41,379 --> 00:21:43,793 -29th. -August 29th right? 448 00:21:43,827 --> 00:21:44,862 Why the twenty ninth? 449 00:21:44,896 --> 00:21:46,068 What's significant about that? 450 00:21:46,103 --> 00:21:47,413 My birthday is on the 29th. 451 00:21:47,448 --> 00:21:50,310 Audrey's Birthdays is on the 29th. 452 00:21:50,344 --> 00:21:53,482 We have to see if the date works with where we find, 453 00:21:53,517 --> 00:21:56,655 so that could a just a day or two, depending on your venue. 454 00:21:57,620 --> 00:21:59,793 It's just a month or two. 455 00:21:59,827 --> 00:22:01,965 It's going to be on the twenty nine. 456 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:07,379 We love being cheesy, like, just love being cheesy. 457 00:22:09,793 --> 00:22:13,448 So the first place that Claire shows us was an indoor garden 458 00:22:13,482 --> 00:22:16,241 Seems like an easy place to actually have a reception. 459 00:22:16,275 --> 00:22:17,724 So, Maria, I'm curious. 460 00:22:17,758 --> 00:22:20,413 Are you guys Are you guys planning dancing? 461 00:22:20,448 --> 00:22:21,379 -Yes. -Of course. 462 00:22:21,413 --> 00:22:23,689 -For sure. -What dance? 463 00:22:23,724 --> 00:22:28,172 -Rick looks like he's served-- -I served one idea. I do that. [laughing] 464 00:22:32,241 --> 00:22:35,517 -Like, I don't know who he is. -He is so... [both laughing] 465 00:22:36,620 --> 00:22:38,413 I don't know how I dance. 466 00:22:38,448 --> 00:22:40,448 This is your space right here? 467 00:22:40,482 --> 00:22:42,724 Elbows in, right here. 468 00:22:42,758 --> 00:22:44,793 I don't dance. I jump up and down in the mosh pit. 469 00:22:44,827 --> 00:22:46,310 That's my dancing. 470 00:22:46,344 --> 00:22:51,517 Maybe hips and shoulders or something kind of rolling, I don't know. 471 00:22:51,551 --> 00:22:55,586 I bounce, bounce, bounce, and then I pump dance. 472 00:22:55,620 --> 00:22:58,275 -And then you do this thing. -My pump dance. 473 00:22:58,310 --> 00:23:01,000 I am not gonna show you. t's a surprise. 474 00:23:01,034 --> 00:23:04,275 You'll have to see the wedding in order to see me dance. 475 00:23:04,310 --> 00:23:08,965 So you guys could walk down an aisle That isn't a straight line. 476 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,103 -That is true. -Hey. 477 00:23:11,137 --> 00:23:13,137 Okay. [all cheering] 478 00:23:15,413 --> 00:23:18,000 I think that was like so cute. 479 00:23:18,034 --> 00:23:19,965 We're not strange. 480 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:22,517 So, like, I've had conversations with these guys, 481 00:23:22,551 --> 00:23:24,620 and it's like, super important for them 482 00:23:24,655 --> 00:23:27,137 -to have people who are... -Supportive. 483 00:23:27,172 --> 00:23:29,896 ...super supportive of them to be here. 484 00:23:29,931 --> 00:23:35,379 Not everyone agrees with our right to marry. 485 00:23:35,413 --> 00:23:37,344 I don't want to be worried about them on our wedding day. 486 00:23:37,379 --> 00:23:40,655 Yeah, we just, like, realize that it's kind of a thing 487 00:23:40,689 --> 00:23:42,034 that some people struggle with. 488 00:23:42,068 --> 00:23:43,620 We don't need that there. 489 00:23:43,655 --> 00:23:45,448 Don't need you out there on our wedding day. 490 00:23:45,482 --> 00:23:48,137 You know, Utah is a very conservative state 491 00:23:48,172 --> 00:23:51,034 and we come from a very conservative church 492 00:23:51,068 --> 00:23:54,034 and yeah, there will be potentially people 493 00:23:54,068 --> 00:23:55,793 who would be a little bit intolerant of that. 494 00:23:55,827 --> 00:24:02,551 We had a polygamist wedding and we ended up having Robin when you and I get married. 495 00:24:02,586 --> 00:24:03,793 Oh, our wedding. 496 00:24:03,827 --> 00:24:06,000 [chattering] Which one. 497 00:24:06,034 --> 00:24:07,103 Well, hold on, hold on. 498 00:24:07,137 --> 00:24:09,448 This is really important. A lot of people who really 499 00:24:09,482 --> 00:24:13,655 had a problem at first serve lightened up through that process. 500 00:24:13,689 --> 00:24:17,827 You know, Mary and I, Even on our wedding day where we were monogamously married, 501 00:24:17,862 --> 00:24:19,551 Okay, it's just the two of us. 502 00:24:19,586 --> 00:24:21,793 We had people come to our wedding receptions 503 00:24:21,827 --> 00:24:23,758 that we're here because we love you. 504 00:24:23,793 --> 00:24:27,689 But this does not mean we're condoning your chosen lifestyle. 505 00:24:27,724 --> 00:24:31,758 And so, you know, Adrienne, Mariah, the parallels are very similar. 506 00:24:31,793 --> 00:24:35,482 And in fact, that kind of treatment where people were like, "Well, I love you, 507 00:24:35,517 --> 00:24:39,586 but I sure think your lifestyle, your religion are dumb." 508 00:24:39,620 --> 00:24:41,310 Because we dealt with that, 509 00:24:41,344 --> 00:24:47,172 That may very well have been something that helped me personally develop 510 00:24:47,206 --> 00:24:51,586 a high level of just acceptance of people who are gay. 511 00:24:51,620 --> 00:24:54,551 Because I like I know what it's like to be picked on. 512 00:24:54,586 --> 00:24:59,448 You never know whose mind you might open by the sacredness of your love. 513 00:24:59,482 --> 00:25:07,758 Invite all these people. force them to think openly about what would god have me do. 514 00:25:07,793 --> 00:25:13,000 Well, we've got have me ostracize these people because of their biology. 515 00:25:13,034 --> 00:25:15,517 -Make him think about it. -So open minded any good. 516 00:25:15,551 --> 00:25:20,448 I'm like no, I'm going to come if they love me already. 517 00:25:20,482 --> 00:25:22,137 So what do you do? I get a phone call. 518 00:25:22,172 --> 00:25:23,655 Do you support this wedding or no? 519 00:25:23,689 --> 00:25:25,965 Okay. No. Yes. 520 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,965 Kody has got a point. 521 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,103 If they do show up, then obviously they support you. 522 00:25:31,137 --> 00:25:32,793 You don't need that on your wedding day. 523 00:25:32,827 --> 00:25:35,827 You need love surrounding you. You're not wondering 524 00:25:35,862 --> 00:25:38,551 There's definitely people on both sides of the family, 525 00:25:38,586 --> 00:25:42,827 friends, whatever that have a hard time with homosexual couples. 526 00:25:42,862 --> 00:25:46,310 Gay couples, so don't invite them. I think it's great. 527 00:25:46,344 --> 00:25:49,344 So are there any other, like places that we would want to look at? 528 00:25:49,379 --> 00:25:52,275 There is great spots for, like your photos and things like that-- 529 00:25:52,310 --> 00:25:53,517 Let's go look at that. 530 00:25:53,551 --> 00:25:55,275 Lead the way ladies. 531 00:25:55,310 --> 00:26:00,482 weddings in the plural community tend to seem like I want to call it almost unfair. 532 00:26:00,517 --> 00:26:04,931 Some people have a big celebration, and some people have no celebration. 533 00:26:04,965 --> 00:26:08,000 It's because it is taught dogmatically 534 00:26:08,034 --> 00:26:11,931 that plural wives should not have a celebration. 535 00:26:11,965 --> 00:26:17,000 In our church, it was a little bit more of a tendency that the first wife would 536 00:26:17,034 --> 00:26:20,137 just because she could, you know, she's she's the first wife. 537 00:26:20,172 --> 00:26:23,310 There is no other. You know, she didn't have to stay hidden or whatever, 538 00:26:23,344 --> 00:26:25,000 But it wasn't always encouraged. 539 00:26:25,034 --> 00:26:29,620 And so a second wife's wedding they were discouraged from having a big celebration. 540 00:26:29,655 --> 00:26:34,344 You're way down played with Jenelle, reasonably small with Christine. 541 00:26:34,379 --> 00:26:37,068 It was never something that I really adjusted with 542 00:26:37,103 --> 00:26:38,965 and needless to say, I came to this point 543 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,655 where I was frustrated with that and it kind of made a commitment 544 00:26:41,689 --> 00:26:45,551 to myself that for my children and if I ever married again, 545 00:26:45,586 --> 00:26:48,724 -it was going to be a big celebration. -Like I think that's fair. 546 00:26:49,517 --> 00:26:50,931 It makes sense. 547 00:26:50,965 --> 00:26:53,827 I got to get back in the sun. I don't want to get chilled. 548 00:26:53,862 --> 00:26:55,655 Now with Corona virus going free. 549 00:26:55,689 --> 00:26:58,068 Our company, just the day before we were leaving, 550 00:26:58,103 --> 00:27:00,379 canceled all unnecessary flights. 551 00:27:00,413 --> 00:27:05,965 We're hearing a lot about this thing called Corona Virus, Covid-19, 552 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,827 and it's kind of a hot topic right now. 553 00:27:08,862 --> 00:27:13,275 Mary and Christine both had won a cruise, and they just canceled that. 554 00:27:13,310 --> 00:27:17,344 And now it's like my mom's 80th birthday party is Saturday. 555 00:27:17,379 --> 00:27:20,965 My brother just texted out to the family, reconsider if you're going to come. 556 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:23,068 -Yeah. -I think the fact that we just don't know 557 00:27:23,103 --> 00:27:26,379 really what it is yet or how bad it's going to be. 558 00:27:26,413 --> 00:27:29,689 But we're seeing these cruise lines quarantined. 559 00:27:29,724 --> 00:27:32,758 My cruise was canceled. 560 00:27:32,793 --> 00:27:35,517 It's really interesting, and we don't know what's going to happen with it. 561 00:27:35,551 --> 00:27:38,000 We love a garden. Now let's go check out a mountain. 562 00:27:38,034 --> 00:27:39,551 Let's do it. I'm so excited. 563 00:27:41,517 --> 00:27:45,241 There's not a lot at Red Butte that doesn't like work for us, 564 00:27:45,275 --> 00:27:47,931 that I can nearly think of so many. 565 00:27:47,965 --> 00:27:50,000 So many positives, mostly positives 566 00:27:55,068 --> 00:27:58,724 All right, guys here to load up one person personal mobile here. 567 00:27:58,758 --> 00:28:01,827 I didn't realize we were going to have to ride snowmobiles 568 00:28:01,862 --> 00:28:05,724 like, Seriously, I I'll be screaming the whole way out, probably. 569 00:28:05,758 --> 00:28:06,827 Oh, I'm very excited. 570 00:28:06,862 --> 00:28:08,655 -Let's do it. Let's go. -let's go. 571 00:28:22,551 --> 00:28:26,206 We went to Solitude Ski Resort to check out some venues up there. 572 00:28:26,241 --> 00:28:28,103 I've never been to the ski resort. 573 00:28:28,137 --> 00:28:30,172 It's really kind of cute. 574 00:28:30,206 --> 00:28:34,241 I mean, looks like it's going to be really expensive, actually. 575 00:28:36,655 --> 00:28:37,896 -How are you? -Good. How are you? 576 00:28:37,931 --> 00:28:40,206 Are you here for your wedding tour? 577 00:28:40,241 --> 00:28:41,413 This place is awesome. 578 00:28:41,448 --> 00:28:42,827 It is so cute. 579 00:28:42,862 --> 00:28:45,448 There's mountains, pine trees everywhere. 580 00:28:45,482 --> 00:28:49,000 It's not going to covered in snow in August. Wow. 581 00:28:49,034 --> 00:28:50,379 All right, guys, you know, load up. 582 00:28:50,413 --> 00:28:52,482 One person, personal mobile here. 583 00:28:52,517 --> 00:28:56,517 I think when we were talking about seeing menus, I didn't realize 584 00:28:56,551 --> 00:28:58,827 we were going to have to write snowmobiles. 585 00:28:58,862 --> 00:29:01,034 I just think that looks terrifying. 586 00:29:01,068 --> 00:29:03,793 To go up the hill and then to come down, down. 587 00:29:03,827 --> 00:29:05,724 We have to come down on the snowmobile. 588 00:29:05,758 --> 00:29:08,034 So, Mary, likes snowmobiles, she's going to be fine. 589 00:29:08,068 --> 00:29:10,172 She's going to think this is an exhilarating little trip. 590 00:29:10,206 --> 00:29:12,206 Christine May or may not. 591 00:29:12,241 --> 00:29:14,862 Robin might think, Oh, I have children at home 592 00:29:14,896 --> 00:29:17,344 and I've got to protect them from my death. 593 00:29:17,379 --> 00:29:22,000 Or she might be totally kamikaze and like I'm going to enjoy this ride. 594 00:29:22,034 --> 00:29:26,275 Jenelle is going to be scared now 595 00:29:26,310 --> 00:29:29,482 Jenelle is going to be white knuckling on this ride, that's for sure. 596 00:29:29,517 --> 00:29:32,000 Okay. Wee. I'm the most scaredycat person. 597 00:29:32,034 --> 00:29:34,586 So who can I go with that won't scare the crap out of me. 598 00:29:37,034 --> 00:29:40,896 No, like, seriously, I I'll be screaming the whole way out, probably. 599 00:29:40,931 --> 00:29:44,793 I have huge butterflies in my stomach, and I'm trying to not freak out, 600 00:29:44,827 --> 00:29:47,344 and I'm trying to not say anything, said I want to be the party pooper. 601 00:29:47,379 --> 00:29:50,310 Look at that hill and we're going to go up that hill 602 00:29:50,344 --> 00:29:53,551 on this thing That doesn't have any way to really hold on. 603 00:29:53,586 --> 00:29:55,137 -It'll make it. -Okay. 604 00:29:57,310 --> 00:29:58,793 Oh, I'm very excited. 605 00:29:58,827 --> 00:30:01,896 -Yeah, I'm a thrill seeker, so I am almost like, Let's do it. -Let's go! 606 00:30:07,931 --> 00:30:09,310 I had to close my eyes. 607 00:30:11,206 --> 00:30:13,965 Oh, yeah. Did you see that slope that we were going to go up. 608 00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,551 Honestly, it was a little bit more scary than I thought it was gonna be. 609 00:30:18,586 --> 00:30:20,413 It was like I felt like we slide a little bit 610 00:30:20,448 --> 00:30:22,655 and I like taking off that hill was just like 611 00:30:27,172 --> 00:30:31,000 It was crazy, scary for a minute, and then it was really fun. 612 00:30:35,551 --> 00:30:37,551 that was so awesome was so exhilarating. 613 00:30:37,586 --> 00:30:39,448 I'm right to do that again. For sure. 614 00:30:39,482 --> 00:30:41,793 Totally wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. 615 00:30:41,827 --> 00:30:45,241 Um, cos when you're on, it doesn't seem like you're doing this. 616 00:30:45,275 --> 00:30:48,551 Yeah, so it's really exhilarating. It's fun. 617 00:30:48,586 --> 00:30:52,172 It's gorgeous up here, but I really have a concern 618 00:30:52,206 --> 00:30:56,965 about guests who don't like heights getting a pair on the ski lift. 619 00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,586 Not everybody is going to be wanting to ride that ski lift. 620 00:31:00,620 --> 00:31:02,344 So I bring you all the way out here 621 00:31:02,379 --> 00:31:05,482 -just so you can get a feel for the actual ceremony space. -Yeah. 622 00:31:05,517 --> 00:31:08,620 You have some pretty amazing down Canyon use there. 623 00:31:08,655 --> 00:31:11,344 Then you also have some really great across canyon. 624 00:31:11,379 --> 00:31:12,413 -Yeah. -Wow. 625 00:31:12,448 --> 00:31:14,551 It's just absolutely gorgeous. 626 00:31:14,586 --> 00:31:17,551 Plus the things that you can't see up there like this smell 627 00:31:17,586 --> 00:31:21,620 when you got up there just is like, a little bit of like, a cool, crisp air. 628 00:31:21,655 --> 00:31:23,758 Like it was just such a beautiful space. 629 00:31:23,793 --> 00:31:26,344 Or if you're close enough to the end of August 630 00:31:26,379 --> 00:31:29,172 and you hit those fall colors, right, those aspins will really pop. 631 00:31:29,206 --> 00:31:30,275 Oh, that'd be so awesome. 632 00:31:30,310 --> 00:31:31,448 -Yeah. -That would be awesome. 633 00:31:31,482 --> 00:31:34,931 So August 29th was their wedding date goal. 634 00:31:34,965 --> 00:31:37,482 And the leaves change. 635 00:31:37,517 --> 00:31:41,448 -Right then. That would be really cool. -That will be so pretty. 636 00:31:41,482 --> 00:31:44,310 Aspens have been my favorite. 637 00:31:44,344 --> 00:31:46,068 We're connecting. We're bonding. 638 00:31:48,172 --> 00:31:49,586 Thank you. 639 00:31:50,965 --> 00:31:51,862 Thank you. 640 00:31:51,896 --> 00:31:53,137 Let's do it. 641 00:31:53,172 --> 00:31:55,379 So both Red Butte and solitude have a lot of great features 642 00:31:55,413 --> 00:31:57,724 that we're really looking for for a wedding. 643 00:31:57,758 --> 00:32:00,827 But it will be really exciting to see tomorrow,. 644 00:32:00,862 --> 00:32:02,413 I hear there's a castle, so I don't know how 645 00:32:02,448 --> 00:32:05,655 -We're going to castles... -Everything else we have seen. 646 00:32:05,689 --> 00:32:07,000 Guess we will find out tomorrow. 647 00:32:12,137 --> 00:32:17,310 So for our final wedding venue tour, we went and looked at Wellesley Farms. 648 00:32:17,344 --> 00:32:20,551 This kind of like legitimately looks like a castle. 649 00:32:20,586 --> 00:32:23,482 It looks very huge and extravagant, I would say 650 00:32:23,517 --> 00:32:25,689 are two really great words to describe it. 651 00:32:25,724 --> 00:32:27,931 -Hello. -Good morning. 652 00:32:27,965 --> 00:32:30,000 I heard hugs were still okay. 653 00:32:30,034 --> 00:32:31,172 Yeah, it's really the... 654 00:32:31,206 --> 00:32:33,000 It's the respiratory droplets that we are scared about. 655 00:32:33,034 --> 00:32:34,620 Hold your breath... 656 00:32:34,655 --> 00:32:38,965 Corona virus is going around right now, and it's kind of getting like scary. 657 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:40,517 I guess, so, 658 00:32:40,551 --> 00:32:43,034 I was like, hug with your mouth closed. 659 00:32:43,068 --> 00:32:45,379 -Welcome to Wellesley Farms. -Hi. 660 00:32:45,413 --> 00:32:46,482 I'm Susie. 661 00:32:46,517 --> 00:32:47,965 Hi Suzie, how are you? 662 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,275 This is the brides. 663 00:32:50,310 --> 00:32:52,172 We have done polygamous weddings before. 664 00:32:52,206 --> 00:32:54,655 It's just I think they're like any other wedding 665 00:32:54,689 --> 00:32:56,827 you wouldn't know unless they had told you. 666 00:32:56,862 --> 00:32:59,620 And we've had a lot of same sex marriage is here, so yeah. 667 00:32:59,655 --> 00:33:02,482 And again saying, you know, it's just two people in love, 668 00:33:02,517 --> 00:33:04,827 so, yeah, we've had our fair share of both. 669 00:33:04,862 --> 00:33:07,965 Yes, our date. We're thinking August 29th,2021. 670 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,344 -August is my favorite time of year. -Really? 671 00:33:10,379 --> 00:33:11,689 Magical. 672 00:33:11,724 --> 00:33:17,482 So far, this is kind of, yeah, leaning to be my favorite. 673 00:33:17,517 --> 00:33:20,379 Not that my opinion matters at all. 674 00:33:20,413 --> 00:33:21,517 Are you ready? 675 00:33:22,827 --> 00:33:24,034 Oh, God. 676 00:33:24,068 --> 00:33:27,965 -There's like, two stairways. -This is amazing. 677 00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,586 This'll place is so impressive. 678 00:33:30,620 --> 00:33:34,517 Who could afford a wedding here is I know who could afford this. 679 00:33:34,551 --> 00:33:38,068 Audrey, did you just turn into... 680 00:33:38,103 --> 00:33:39,275 I think we are castle people now. 681 00:33:39,310 --> 00:33:40,793 I think we have turned into castle people. 682 00:33:40,827 --> 00:33:42,448 I was like, I just think it might be too much. 683 00:33:42,482 --> 00:33:45,068 But then once he got in there, I was like, Oh, no, I'm a castle person is great. 684 00:33:45,103 --> 00:33:46,310 Yeah. Oh, yeah. 685 00:33:46,344 --> 00:33:48,241 I could absolutely do this. 686 00:33:48,275 --> 00:33:51,310 You know, I get the picture that this is a big dance floor here. 687 00:33:51,344 --> 00:33:52,655 This has been waxed. 688 00:33:52,689 --> 00:33:54,689 -This floor has been waxed. -Just for you today. 689 00:33:54,724 --> 00:33:57,241 -Special. -Yeah, they did it for you. 690 00:33:57,275 --> 00:33:59,034 Max. Max. Man, smile. 691 00:34:00,655 --> 00:34:01,724 Yes. 692 00:34:01,758 --> 00:34:03,620 We're gonna have a little dance party right now on. 693 00:34:03,655 --> 00:34:04,896 Let's look for you to test out. 694 00:34:04,931 --> 00:34:06,068 Let's try it. 695 00:34:15,172 --> 00:34:16,034 Really good. 696 00:34:19,655 --> 00:34:20,586 Where's your surfing? 697 00:34:24,448 --> 00:34:27,034 And so, lucky us. 698 00:34:27,068 --> 00:34:30,965 -We get to see Rick do his little surfer dance. -Do his surfer dance. 699 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:32,068 Oh, Gosh. 700 00:34:35,620 --> 00:34:37,551 Oh, Kody's got the moves. 701 00:34:37,586 --> 00:34:39,517 That was his key thing was the dance floor. 702 00:34:39,551 --> 00:34:41,965 So, yeah, he's going to make it a party that night. 703 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:43,413 So this is the courtyard. 704 00:34:43,448 --> 00:34:45,344 Oh, my goodness. 705 00:34:45,379 --> 00:34:48,344 I bet this is gorgeous when it is all bloomed. . 706 00:34:48,379 --> 00:34:54,241 It's just like through the whole, entire place, like wood and rock and metal. 707 00:34:54,275 --> 00:34:55,620 It's just gorgeous. 708 00:34:55,655 --> 00:34:56,724 Oh, my Gosh. 709 00:34:56,758 --> 00:34:58,000 I know it's your wedding. 710 00:34:58,034 --> 00:35:00,068 -But... -But what do you have to say? 711 00:35:00,103 --> 00:35:02,310 I don't know how I would pay for it. 712 00:35:02,344 --> 00:35:04,724 Dad, I just think that you're going to be surprised. 713 00:35:04,758 --> 00:35:06,172 -Really? -Yeah. 714 00:35:06,206 --> 00:35:09,344 I mean, this is the wedding capital of the world. 715 00:35:09,379 --> 00:35:12,586 They originally were going to talking about getting married in Chicago. 716 00:35:12,620 --> 00:35:14,896 This is going to be fairly reasonable. 717 00:35:14,931 --> 00:35:18,896 This is an old family farm in northern Utah. 718 00:35:18,931 --> 00:35:21,103 It's not going to Chicago pricing for sure. 719 00:35:21,137 --> 00:35:23,000 So let's go in and discuss... 720 00:35:23,034 --> 00:35:24,517 Discuss your price. 721 00:35:24,551 --> 00:35:26,724 -[Audrey chuckles] Yeah. -[laughter] 722 00:35:26,758 --> 00:35:29,344 [Kody sighs] Okay, steady me. Steady me. 723 00:35:29,379 --> 00:35:30,586 [Mariah] Drama, drama. 724 00:35:30,620 --> 00:35:32,206 [Kody] I have 11 daughters. 725 00:35:32,241 --> 00:35:33,413 [Janelle chuckles] God. 726 00:35:33,448 --> 00:35:35,965 Why does he bring that up now? 727 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,724 Like let's look and dream and think big, 728 00:35:38,758 --> 00:35:41,241 and then let's figure out the financial part. 729 00:35:41,275 --> 00:35:42,068 My hell. 730 00:35:42,103 --> 00:35:43,379 So what day of the week is that? 731 00:35:43,413 --> 00:35:44,172 Sunday. 732 00:35:44,758 --> 00:35:45,931 Our one day closed. 733 00:35:45,965 --> 00:35:48,724 -Oh you're closed on Sundays? -[laughter and gasps] 734 00:35:48,758 --> 00:35:49,965 It's Utah. 735 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:53,275 I totally forgot the close things on Sundays in Utah. 736 00:35:53,310 --> 00:35:55,413 That's kind of a serious buzzkill. 737 00:35:55,448 --> 00:35:56,758 Serious buzzkill. 738 00:35:56,793 --> 00:35:58,379 -You look a little bit sad. -I'm really sad. 739 00:35:58,413 --> 00:36:00,931 We kind of have our hearts set on August 29th. 740 00:36:00,965 --> 00:36:02,896 It was a day that we both really agreed on, 741 00:36:02,931 --> 00:36:05,862 and it just kind of feels special and significant for us. 742 00:36:05,896 --> 00:36:06,793 Yeah. 743 00:36:06,827 --> 00:36:08,413 [Kody] I'm funny about that personally. 744 00:36:08,448 --> 00:36:09,724 Just to share with you guys. 745 00:36:09,758 --> 00:36:11,620 -I'm funny about... -[Mariah] The two... changing the date? 746 00:36:11,655 --> 00:36:12,793 -Yeah. -Why? 747 00:36:12,827 --> 00:36:14,310 Because dates means something. 748 00:36:14,344 --> 00:36:17,275 That's the reason you celebrate your birthday and your birthday. 749 00:36:17,310 --> 00:36:20,827 I've had a lot of weddings that were just accidentally were wedding days. 750 00:36:20,862 --> 00:36:23,000 If I was picking my wedding day, 751 00:36:23,034 --> 00:36:25,206 and I was picking in advance like you guys were, 752 00:36:25,241 --> 00:36:27,482 I'd really seriously, consider that. Okay? 753 00:36:27,517 --> 00:36:28,551 -Okay. -Yeah. 754 00:36:28,586 --> 00:36:29,758 This is tough. 755 00:36:29,793 --> 00:36:33,655 And honestly, I'm emotionally invested in this place. 756 00:36:33,689 --> 00:36:36,275 But I know this date's important to them. 757 00:36:36,310 --> 00:36:37,655 So your price for a weekend... 758 00:36:37,689 --> 00:36:38,758 -Weekend. -[laughter] 759 00:36:38,793 --> 00:36:40,724 -...Friday and Saturday, is this. -[Mariah] Okay. 760 00:36:40,758 --> 00:36:42,655 Okay. Oh, my gosh. Wow. 761 00:36:42,689 --> 00:36:44,103 -Yes. -[Mariah] That's great. 762 00:36:44,137 --> 00:36:45,551 -See, told you, Dad. -[Audrey] Yeah. 763 00:36:45,586 --> 00:36:47,448 All right, my mind is blown. 764 00:36:47,482 --> 00:36:51,344 But the price is so competitive with other venues 765 00:36:51,379 --> 00:36:55,551 that for what I feel like we get here with this castle, 766 00:36:56,482 --> 00:36:58,517 the price is right. 767 00:36:58,551 --> 00:36:59,896 -Well, thank you so much. -All right, yeah. 768 00:36:59,931 --> 00:37:01,862 Susie, you've been a wonderful host. 769 00:37:01,896 --> 00:37:03,586 Yes, wonderful. Absolutely. 770 00:37:03,620 --> 00:37:06,034 There's this, like, so many incredible options to choose from. 771 00:37:06,068 --> 00:37:08,448 I felt like we were going to have that ah-ha moment 772 00:37:08,482 --> 00:37:11,103 where we looked each other in the eyes, and were like, "This is the spot." 773 00:37:11,137 --> 00:37:14,551 Yeah, I don't think that there's going to be a decision being made, like, right now. 774 00:37:14,586 --> 00:37:15,655 Right now, no. 775 00:37:15,689 --> 00:37:17,068 Thank you so much, Susie. 776 00:37:17,103 --> 00:37:18,344 -All right. -[woman] Thank you! 777 00:37:19,827 --> 00:37:21,655 Yeah, I'm very excited to get married to you. 778 00:37:21,689 --> 00:37:22,827 I'm so excited. 779 00:37:27,413 --> 00:37:31,620 Returning from my mother's birthday party in Lovell, Wyoming. 780 00:37:31,655 --> 00:37:34,793 There was a bunch of concern amongst all of them 781 00:37:34,827 --> 00:37:39,103 about having a birthday party with, uh, coronapocalypse. 782 00:37:39,137 --> 00:37:42,103 This week, it's just kind of gotten crazy. 783 00:37:42,137 --> 00:37:44,793 [Janelle] There was a lot of uneasiness at the airport. 784 00:37:44,827 --> 00:37:47,758 Flights were getting bumped, getting delayed, things were changing. 785 00:37:47,793 --> 00:37:49,344 It's not to be taken lightly, 786 00:37:49,379 --> 00:37:51,586 but I'm not the kind of guy who wants to panic. 787 00:37:58,241 --> 00:38:01,758 So three days ago, we went on some wedding venue tours 788 00:38:01,793 --> 00:38:04,758 with Audrey, Mariah, my wives and Audrey's parents. 789 00:38:04,793 --> 00:38:06,344 Okay, get back in the sun. 790 00:38:06,379 --> 00:38:09,586 I don't want to get chilled now with coronavirus going free. 791 00:38:09,620 --> 00:38:11,586 Then we all split, went different ways. 792 00:38:11,620 --> 00:38:14,551 So I went to Northern Wyoming for my mom's 80th birthday celebration, 793 00:38:14,586 --> 00:38:17,172 and my wives went home. 794 00:38:17,206 --> 00:38:23,448 So the news cycle picked up this coronavirus story in China 795 00:38:23,482 --> 00:38:24,586 back in December, 796 00:38:24,620 --> 00:38:26,758 and now it's here, and I'm wondering what the hell. 797 00:38:36,931 --> 00:38:41,068 Returning from my mother's birthday party in Lovell, Wyoming, 798 00:38:41,103 --> 00:38:44,344 the town of my birth. 799 00:38:44,379 --> 00:38:47,448 There was a bunch of concern amongst all of them 800 00:38:47,482 --> 00:38:52,068 about having a birthday party with, uh, coronapocalypse. 801 00:38:52,103 --> 00:38:56,034 First thing everybody saying is, "Don't touch, no high fives, no handshakes," 802 00:38:56,068 --> 00:38:59,103 and then toilet paper, for some reason, is flying off the shelves. 803 00:38:59,137 --> 00:39:01,137 It has an apocalyptic feel to it. 804 00:39:01,172 --> 00:39:02,689 It's not to be taken lightly, 805 00:39:02,724 --> 00:39:04,931 but I'm not the kind of guy who wants to panic. 806 00:39:04,965 --> 00:39:07,517 So I usually talk to my wives when I'm traveling, a little bit. 807 00:39:07,551 --> 00:39:11,241 I'll call in just to check and see how their trips are going and stuff like that. 808 00:39:11,275 --> 00:39:16,275 And, boy, their trip back to Flagstaff was a little spooky. 809 00:39:17,379 --> 00:39:19,793 [Robyn] I saw people in masks. 810 00:39:19,827 --> 00:39:24,275 I was like... It felt like everything I touched was infected. 811 00:39:24,310 --> 00:39:27,000 [Janelle] There was a lot of uneasiness at the airport. 812 00:39:27,034 --> 00:39:29,965 Flights were getting bumped, getting delayed, things were changing, 813 00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:31,586 [Christine] So we rented a car. 814 00:39:31,620 --> 00:39:35,413 Yep, we rented a car and just drove home. [chuckles] 815 00:39:35,448 --> 00:39:39,103 But it's so weird to sit here and have wives reporting to me 816 00:39:39,137 --> 00:39:42,827 that stores are closing, that the school's going to close. 817 00:39:42,862 --> 00:39:45,793 This week, it's just kind of gotten crazy. 818 00:39:45,827 --> 00:39:49,827 Is everybody unnecessarily panicking? 819 00:39:49,862 --> 00:39:54,758 It's like how do you know whether to continue living life? 820 00:39:54,793 --> 00:39:56,034 What do you do? 821 00:40:01,206 --> 00:40:03,689 I got home from Salt Lake and... 822 00:40:03,724 --> 00:40:06,655 yeah, this point, I'm just kind of, like, 823 00:40:06,689 --> 00:40:09,724 listening to the news reports and reading stuff 824 00:40:09,758 --> 00:40:12,896 and trying to figure out, like, really, what is going on. 825 00:40:12,931 --> 00:40:14,310 Do I need to be nervous? 826 00:40:14,344 --> 00:40:16,068 I can't decide if I need to be nervous. 827 00:40:20,103 --> 00:40:21,724 I have been going anywhere. 828 00:40:21,758 --> 00:40:24,827 I went to the grocery store and was uber, uber careful 829 00:40:24,862 --> 00:40:27,000 with sanitizing everything and washing my hands. 830 00:40:27,034 --> 00:40:28,448 and not touching my face. 831 00:40:28,482 --> 00:40:29,655 You know, you just don't ever know. 832 00:40:29,689 --> 00:40:31,517 So it's kind of like this... 833 00:40:31,551 --> 00:40:33,586 It almost feels like a roulette game when you go out. 834 00:40:37,724 --> 00:40:39,758 We're talking about shutting down 835 00:40:39,793 --> 00:40:41,827 like nobody's going to travel. 836 00:40:41,862 --> 00:40:44,379 They're talking about closing restaurants and businesses 837 00:40:44,413 --> 00:40:46,482 they're talking about closing malls. 838 00:40:46,517 --> 00:40:48,896 [Janelle] We're hearing that the kids are going to be out of school a week. 839 00:40:48,931 --> 00:40:50,931 We just need to kind of keep the kids safe 840 00:40:50,965 --> 00:40:52,655 while we assess what's going on. 841 00:40:52,689 --> 00:40:56,137 I feel scared, and I feel like, um... 842 00:40:57,517 --> 00:40:58,793 you know, it can get us, 843 00:40:58,827 --> 00:41:03,482 and it just makes me want to hole up here in my house 844 00:41:03,517 --> 00:41:05,862 and I don't know, it's... 845 00:41:06,724 --> 00:41:07,931 it's insane. 846 00:41:07,965 --> 00:41:10,655 It's going all over China, 847 00:41:10,689 --> 00:41:13,586 all over Europe, it's going crazy. 848 00:41:13,620 --> 00:41:15,862 It's just like tons and tons of people are getting it, 849 00:41:15,896 --> 00:41:17,827 and it's killing people. 850 00:41:17,862 --> 00:41:21,206 So everybody's got these opinions and nobody knows what to do. 851 00:41:21,241 --> 00:41:25,206 And I'm rambling because, frankly, I don't know what to do. 852 00:41:31,034 --> 00:41:32,137 What do we do? 853 00:41:32,172 --> 00:41:34,172 How do we maintain life? 854 00:41:34,206 --> 00:41:36,241 And when do I ever see my family? 855 00:41:37,448 --> 00:41:39,758 [Kody] Federal government arguing about what to do, 856 00:41:39,793 --> 00:41:41,896 the state government's, arguing about what to do. 857 00:41:41,931 --> 00:41:43,310 I mean, we're just... There's just... 858 00:41:43,344 --> 00:41:45,068 Nobody knows what to do. 859 00:41:45,931 --> 00:41:47,482 I don't know. I just feel scared. 860 00:41:53,206 --> 00:41:55,034 [Kody] Next time onSister Wives... 861 00:41:55,068 --> 00:41:57,551 The whole country has sort of been told 862 00:41:57,586 --> 00:42:01,000 that we need to start doing social distancing. 863 00:42:01,034 --> 00:42:03,103 I mean, if one of us gets sick, 864 00:42:03,137 --> 00:42:05,655 then it's literally quarantining the family. 865 00:42:06,620 --> 00:42:10,896 Flagstaff now has a case of coronavirus. 866 00:42:10,931 --> 00:42:14,310 Well, today, with coronavirus going on, 867 00:42:14,344 --> 00:42:17,896 not everybody wanted... no one to leave their house. 868 00:42:17,931 --> 00:42:23,793 I think maybe I better, like, not have Kody even come. 869 00:42:23,827 --> 00:42:26,931 If for some reason, we ended up infected, 870 00:42:26,965 --> 00:42:29,241 he would then bring it to all of you guys. 871 00:42:29,275 --> 00:42:31,103 It's, like, What are... What are we doing? 872 00:42:31,137 --> 00:42:32,137 I don't even know. 873 00:42:32,172 --> 00:42:34,068 Like, how can we work our relationships 874 00:42:34,103 --> 00:42:35,965 if you can't even see each other to talk to?