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♪
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I don't like
living like this.
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Welcome to hell house.
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♪
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- Oh, my God!
- Air quality is horrible.
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Sick to my stomach.
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This is like a...
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a house of cards ready
to come tumbling down.
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- I get these dizzy spells.
- Oh, oh!
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- Oh...
- Whoa!
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He could die in
his dream home.
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It's an absolute nightmare.
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The only reason I'm
doing this is for you,
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you realize that.
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Oh, that's such bull----!
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As it stands right now,
she's leaving-
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for good-
me, everything.
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I need you to
get rid of stuff. Please!
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He doesn't want to let
go of his previous life.
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We keep holding on to
a version of us
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that no longer exists.
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Then why should I
damn well exist?
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- Get rid of it!
- I really want to keep them.
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[Screaming]
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I feel like I've just been
kicked in the gut again.
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Throw everything
in the garbage.
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I don't care anymore.
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♪
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♪
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♪ [Gentle instrumental]
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♪
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My name's David...
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and I am a hoarder.
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I've been in denial
for so many years.
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♪
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This house is very
near and dear to me.
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I broke ground in 1994.
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I designed it.
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I built it in my spare time.
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My dream was to have it
completed by retirement.
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That didn't happen.
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♪
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People would dream of
building a home that
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looked like this.
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Now it looks like a tear down.
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♪ [Suspenseful]
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♪
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Odette is the love of my life.
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As much as she loves me,
she's ready to leave.
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And I don't want another
marriage to end.
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My name is Odette,
and I'm David's wife.
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The house we're
living in right now
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is David's dream house.
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It's my nightmare.
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The entire front
entrance is blocked.
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The courtyard is blocked.
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Every inch of this house
is over capacity.
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The only way I can
get into the house is
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now through a
stepladder...
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into the kitchen.
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The kitchen is probably
15% functional-
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microwave,
hot plates-
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that's what we're
using to cook in.
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Little aisles, you have to
walk sideways
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to go anywhere.
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Living room, which is two
and a half storeys in height,
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beautiful fireplace-
which we can't see.
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Living room furniture that
is buried somewhere.
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♪
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David can hold on to a
dollar store wine glass,
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an old electric blanket
that no longer works.
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He can hold on to
absolutely anything.
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♪
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We have stuff that
should be in the garbage.
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Living in that house,
I feel humiliated.
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I can't live like this.
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♪
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I met Odette through...
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my daughter, and we share
the same grandchildren.
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I was going
through a divorce,
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and we became friends.
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We used to meet at a
coffee shop, and...
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talk and talk and talk
and talk and talk.
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We had lots of fun as friends,
and then it evolved.
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Then we ended up
getting married.
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We married two years ago,
on Valentine's Day.
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She chose that date...
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so I wouldn't forget it
because I've got,
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I have a terrible memory.
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♪
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Odette now feels that
I love the house
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more than I love her.
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The house is the most
important thing in his life.
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It's more important
than anything.
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It's more important
than I am.
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There's no happiness
within that house.
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All there is, is
just being miserable,
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right from the get-go
moving in there.
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When we moved in,
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we started off with the
furnace blowing up.
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Massive 1800-liter oil spill
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flooded the entire basement.
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My entire record
collection was destroyed.
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♪
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Sixty years of collecting.
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It broke my heart.
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♪
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I often tell David the
house is killing us both.
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Some of the breathing
problems and that,
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that I've had, I think
it's the air quality.
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♪
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♪
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My name is Edy, and I'm one
of Odette's best friends.
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She did come from wealth...
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and she was used to
having maids and
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people pick up after her.
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So, she's like a
little princess.
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She's not used to
living like this.
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It's not her lifestyle.
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And I think that's
an embarrassment.
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She won't even let me
in the house now.
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♪
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He's like a brother to me.
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It's sad to see what's
happening to him.
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I'm Mike, and I'm one of
David's best friends.
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When you walk
into David's home,
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you'll find anything from
baskets, magazines, books.
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Tools are a big one
with David, though.
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One time I went up there and
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we were gonna
do some tree work.
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He asked me to
bring my chainsaw.
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I did.
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He had a chainsaw
in the garage.
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There were four
chainsaws downstairs,
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three brand new in a box,
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and one brand new one
outside the box.
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Why does a man need
five chainsaws?
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It's ridiculous how
many tools he has,
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but he doesn't see that.
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He doesn't see
the absurdity of
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having so much
of one thing.
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♪
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Odette, she hates living the
way we are, but she has...
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discovered online auctions.
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She loves to bid on
stuff for the house.
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♪
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Odette feels very strongly
that it's all my stuff.
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She gets frustrated,
she gets mad.
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We end up arguing.
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We were certainly
a lot closer...
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before we moved
into this house.
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♪
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♪ [Gentle piano]
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My childhood was very much
influenced by my brother.
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There was a very large
age difference between us.
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22 years.
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Tony was very much
my mother's favorite.
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It made me feel that I wanted
to prove myself to her.
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It hurts, it- even
when I think of it now.
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Tony was successful.
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He was the person
that I wanted to be.
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♪
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I was taken advantage of by
my brother's partner
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many, many times when I was
in my pre-teens and...
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♪
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I was afraid to
say anything.
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I was afraid to
tell my parents.
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I was compromised,
that's it, you know-
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I didn't know where to turn,
and so I kept quiet.
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♪
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You bury these things.
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They're so difficult, too.
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♪
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My brother's partner,
he once told me:
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"You'll never amount to
anything in your life."
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I have pushed myself...
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to prove them wrong.
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I started my career
in advertising,
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as a layout artist...
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and quickly moved up
the ladder to become...
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the creative director for
the largest retail company
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now in Canada.
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I'd work 80, 90-hour weeks,
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and it destroyed my family,
my first marriage.
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I think I equate
this collection-
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that I call a collection-
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based on the more
stuff I get,
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the more successful I am.
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Bigger, the better,
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the more important,
the more impressive.
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♪
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♪
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The search for success
took a huge toll on
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my first marriage
and my kids.
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My two wonderful children
grew up without
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having me as a father.
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My name is Samantha, and
I am David's daughter.
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My dad was a workaholic.
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He was just always really
busy with his work,
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and it came first.
My mom, like,
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I remember her showing up
at the GO station to
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pick him up and he
wouldn't be there.
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Then- and she had us,
two little kids, in the car.
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No phone calls to
let her know that
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he is going to be late.
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It's been like
that all my life.
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I get very disappointed
quite often.
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♪
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I know my dad
loves us a lot.
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And, I know he wants a better
relationship with us and...
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I want it to happen.
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But, bringing the
kids up is impossible.
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It's not safe.
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There's four grandkids.
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I don't even think my
brother's children
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even know who he is.
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I lost my children
through work,
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now I'm losing my
grandchildren
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through hoarding.
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This makes me feel...
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like I'm nothing.
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I'm a loser.
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♪
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I can't even see my kids
'cause they won't...
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I'm sorry.
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♪
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When you retire,
life shouldn't be like this.
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These should be
the golden years.
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♪
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I'm living in...
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in a hell, because
it's brought so much...
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conflict, embarrassment,
and danger.
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If we ever had a fire,
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the house would go
up in seconds.
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That house is...
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it scares me.
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If David doesn't get
this house in order,
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his kids won't be here...
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his grandkids won't be here...
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I won't be here.
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♪ [Suspenseful]
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It's probably going
to be the end of Dave.
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♪
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David, because of
his hoarding,
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has alienated his,
his family.
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He's missed out on watching
his grandkids grow up.
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♪
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My worst fear is he's going
to have a heart attack and...
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nobody's going to know,
or a fire.
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I just feel like something
really bad is going to happen
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if my dad doesn't get
this house cleaned up.
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♪
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I'm Sarah Ahmed.
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I am a psychotherapist
who specializes in
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problematic behaviors,
including hoarding disorder.
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♪
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[Knocking]
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- Hi, are you David?
- Hello, I am David.
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Hi, David, I'm Sarah.
Nice to meet you.
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- So nice to meet you.
- Likewise.
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Come on in. Do you
need a hand, you okay?
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- I'm good, thank you.
- You made it up the ladder.
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I did, I did.
268
00:14:50,625 --> 00:14:52,917
Shall we? Okay.
269
00:14:52,917 --> 00:14:54,208
- Welcome to my humble abode.
- Thank you.
270
00:14:54,208 --> 00:14:56,125
It was a bit of
a maze to get in.
271
00:14:56,125 --> 00:14:58,375
♪
272
00:14:58,542 --> 00:14:59,917
This is the kitchen.
273
00:14:59,917 --> 00:15:01,333
It's terrible.
274
00:15:01,333 --> 00:15:05,833
Drives my wife crazy
trying to make meals here.
275
00:15:05,833 --> 00:15:07,417
Is this place a
source of tension?
276
00:15:07,417 --> 00:15:08,625
A lot of conflict
for the two of you?
277
00:15:08,625 --> 00:15:10,167
Terrible stress.
278
00:15:10,292 --> 00:15:12,167
The kitchen is not
at all functional.
279
00:15:12,167 --> 00:15:14,000
It's extremely cluttered and
280
00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:16,708
not a safe space to
cook anything.
281
00:15:16,833 --> 00:15:19,708
Well, I'll take
you through...
282
00:15:19,833 --> 00:15:23,167
to the dining room.
283
00:15:23,167 --> 00:15:25,833
Now, when was the last time
you shared a meal here?
284
00:15:25,833 --> 00:15:28,167
- Oh... 2008?
- With, with folks?
285
00:15:28,167 --> 00:15:31,958
♪
286
00:15:31,958 --> 00:15:34,833
Here's the front door
that I haven't used in...
287
00:15:34,833 --> 00:15:36,083
a couple of years.
288
00:15:36,083 --> 00:15:37,708
Everything here I
needed to protect
289
00:15:37,708 --> 00:15:40,667
because of the value of it.
290
00:15:40,667 --> 00:15:42,125
If something was to happen,
291
00:15:42,125 --> 00:15:43,750
you can't have
anyone coming in-
292
00:15:43,875 --> 00:15:47,000
No. I had an incident where I
had cut an artery in the leg,
293
00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:49,792
and the paramedics couldn't
get into the house.
294
00:15:49,792 --> 00:15:58,458
♪
295
00:15:58,458 --> 00:16:01,042
Odette had a heart problem
and the same thing happened.
296
00:16:01,042 --> 00:16:04,000
I had to help her
down the ladder...
297
00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,250
and wait in the driveway for
the paramedics to
298
00:16:06,250 --> 00:16:08,333
come and take her to
the hospital.
299
00:16:08,333 --> 00:16:13,750
♪
300
00:16:13,750 --> 00:16:15,208
This is the great room,
the living room.
301
00:16:15,208 --> 00:16:16,542
Right.
Beautiful skylights.
302
00:16:16,667 --> 00:16:19,083
As you can see, you can't move,
you can't see it.
303
00:16:19,083 --> 00:16:21,333
I'd like to introduce you
to Odette.
304
00:16:21,333 --> 00:16:22,833
- Hi, Odette.
- It's a pleasure to meet you.
305
00:16:22,958 --> 00:16:24,125
I'm Sarah.
Nice to meet you as well.
306
00:16:24,125 --> 00:16:26,458
- Welcome to hell house.
- Oh, thank you!
307
00:16:26,458 --> 00:16:28,917
Although, that's not
what we're hoping for.
308
00:16:28,917 --> 00:16:30,917
I'm here to help you
both through this.
309
00:16:30,917 --> 00:16:33,000
I know it's a lot.
310
00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:34,667
If I was to walk into
somebody's house that
311
00:16:34,667 --> 00:16:36,708
looked like this, I'd walk
right back out again.
312
00:16:36,833 --> 00:16:40,333
It's just unlivable, really.
313
00:16:40,333 --> 00:16:42,125
It's walking from one
end to the other and,
314
00:16:42,125 --> 00:16:45,833
and ending up in the kitchen
with bruised hips and legs
315
00:16:45,958 --> 00:16:48,000
because you're banging
against things.
316
00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,708
I have a problem with my
eyesight, so that ladder,
317
00:16:50,875 --> 00:16:53,167
for me, is extremely
dangerous.
318
00:16:53,167 --> 00:16:54,833
I don't know where
the stairs are.
319
00:16:54,958 --> 00:16:56,833
I'm feeling for them.
320
00:16:56,833 --> 00:16:58,333
And if he goes out,
I won't go out...
321
00:16:58,333 --> 00:17:01,542
because I'm afraid of
falling and he's not here.
322
00:17:01,542 --> 00:17:03,042
So, do you spend most of
your time in the house?
323
00:17:03,167 --> 00:17:06,333
- In the bedroom.
- And it feels overwhelming.
324
00:17:06,333 --> 00:17:08,083
Oh, it's more
than overwhelming.
325
00:17:08,083 --> 00:17:10,125
It's an absolute nightmare.
326
00:17:10,125 --> 00:17:12,042
So, I'm here to support
the two of you-
327
00:17:12,042 --> 00:17:14,417
not only just in terms of
items and the physical labor
328
00:17:14,417 --> 00:17:16,500
and all of that, but
emotionally as well.
329
00:17:16,500 --> 00:17:18,208
And, we are going to
figure this out together.
330
00:17:18,208 --> 00:17:20,583
And we very much
appreciate that help.
331
00:17:20,583 --> 00:17:22,042
- We need it.
- Thank you.
332
00:17:22,042 --> 00:17:23,125
David, so why don't
we go ahead and
333
00:17:23,125 --> 00:17:24,167
take a look at the
rest of the house?
334
00:17:24,167 --> 00:17:26,708
- We'll go upstairs.
- Okay.
335
00:17:26,833 --> 00:17:27,833
Just watch your step.
336
00:17:27,833 --> 00:17:29,000
They're very, very
dangerous now.
337
00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:30,458
I don't go upstairs.
338
00:17:30,458 --> 00:17:32,833
The stairs are temporary
construction stairs,
339
00:17:32,833 --> 00:17:34,417
and these are not safe.
340
00:17:34,417 --> 00:17:36,125
And, very narrow.
341
00:17:36,125 --> 00:17:38,333
[Breathing heavily]
342
00:17:38,333 --> 00:17:40,250
There's some shortness
of breath with David,
343
00:17:40,250 --> 00:17:42,583
and knowing that he has a
history of multiple
344
00:17:42,583 --> 00:17:44,875
heart issues, this is
something I'm going to keep
345
00:17:44,875 --> 00:17:46,500
a very close eye on.
346
00:17:46,500 --> 00:17:48,625
To your left,
this is my studio...
347
00:17:48,625 --> 00:17:51,667
Mhm.
348
00:17:51,667 --> 00:17:53,750
Which, unfortunately...
349
00:17:53,750 --> 00:17:56,917
I can't move in.
350
00:17:56,917 --> 00:17:59,542
There's a lot of
sideways walking.
351
00:17:59,667 --> 00:18:03,042
This is where I get a lot
of my frustrations out,
352
00:18:03,042 --> 00:18:04,917
in the creative
side of things.
353
00:18:04,917 --> 00:18:08,417
But I haven't been
able to use this for...
354
00:18:08,417 --> 00:18:09,542
around 10 years.
355
00:18:09,667 --> 00:18:12,583
When I took on projects,
I would put every effort
356
00:18:12,708 --> 00:18:15,125
into it because I would be
proud of what I was doing.
357
00:18:15,125 --> 00:18:17,958
It's the exact opposite
to what I am now.
358
00:18:17,958 --> 00:18:19,833
I've got nothing to be
proud of anymore.
359
00:18:19,833 --> 00:18:21,250
Removing some of
these items,
360
00:18:21,375 --> 00:18:23,375
getting rid of this stuff
will bring that joy back,
361
00:18:23,542 --> 00:18:24,875
and that's something
that's so important
362
00:18:24,875 --> 00:18:27,042
and necessary.
- Exactly.
363
00:18:27,042 --> 00:18:29,458
Shall we take a look at
the rest of the house?
364
00:18:31,875 --> 00:18:35,375
This area is a little den.
365
00:18:35,375 --> 00:18:37,458
[Sighing]
366
00:18:37,458 --> 00:18:45,083
♪
367
00:18:45,083 --> 00:18:48,542
The boxes are all Odette's.
This is all stuff- Oh!
368
00:18:48,542 --> 00:18:49,708
Oh, oh!
369
00:18:49,708 --> 00:18:53,333
[Crashing]
370
00:18:53,333 --> 00:18:57,167
I'm sorry, I get these
dizzy spells. Whew!
371
00:18:57,167 --> 00:18:59,208
Can we get some water?
372
00:18:59,208 --> 00:19:01,583
Let's, let's get you
to sit down.
373
00:19:01,708 --> 00:19:07,625
♪ [Suspenseful]
374
00:19:07,625 --> 00:19:12,125
♪
375
00:19:12,125 --> 00:19:14,833
I get overwhelmed and I-
and I passed out,
376
00:19:14,833 --> 00:19:16,167
a couple of times for no...
377
00:19:16,167 --> 00:19:18,625
apparent reason.
378
00:19:18,625 --> 00:19:21,333
♪
379
00:19:21,333 --> 00:19:23,500
Oh...
Oh, thank you.
380
00:19:23,500 --> 00:19:25,625
It just hits me
for a second and-
381
00:19:25,625 --> 00:19:27,667
Do you mind if I just
take your pressure,
382
00:19:27,667 --> 00:19:29,875
just lightly, just to see?
383
00:19:29,875 --> 00:19:32,958
♪
384
00:19:32,958 --> 00:19:35,208
Pulse is okay.
How's your dizziness now?
385
00:19:35,208 --> 00:19:36,500
I'm fine now.
386
00:19:36,500 --> 00:19:37,875
All right, I think we need
to get you outside,
387
00:19:37,875 --> 00:19:39,375
get you some
fresh air. Okay?
388
00:19:39,375 --> 00:19:42,542
- Alrighty.
- Careful when you walk out.
389
00:19:45,875 --> 00:19:47,833
♪
390
00:19:47,833 --> 00:19:48,833
We need to get
something in you.
391
00:19:48,833 --> 00:19:50,792
Yeah, here,
here, here, here.
392
00:19:50,792 --> 00:19:52,833
♪
393
00:19:52,833 --> 00:19:55,042
Here, I'll hold your water.
You can have both hands on it.
394
00:19:55,042 --> 00:20:00,708
♪
395
00:20:00,708 --> 00:20:02,667
- Are you okay with watermelon?
- Yeah, thank you.
396
00:20:02,667 --> 00:20:04,500
Eat a few of these.
397
00:20:04,500 --> 00:20:07,083
- I'm good, really.
- Okay.
398
00:20:07,083 --> 00:20:15,083
♪
399
00:20:15,083 --> 00:20:17,292
Watch your head...
400
00:20:17,292 --> 00:20:18,958
So, this is the
front entrance.
401
00:20:18,958 --> 00:20:23,000
So, everything that's here is
Odette's crafting materials
402
00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:25,750
that I could not
get into the house.
403
00:20:25,750 --> 00:20:26,833
There's no room for it.
404
00:20:26,833 --> 00:20:28,500
And most of it's ruined,
I'm sure.
405
00:20:28,625 --> 00:20:29,833
Has she brought
that up with you?
406
00:20:29,833 --> 00:20:31,542
Yeah, she's very
upset about it.
407
00:20:31,542 --> 00:20:32,625
Do you want a minute to sit?
408
00:20:32,625 --> 00:20:33,792
No, I'm feeling fine,
thank you.
409
00:20:33,917 --> 00:20:35,917
Okay. So, what are we
looking at over here?
410
00:20:35,917 --> 00:20:39,125
A lot of carpentry equipment
that I want to try and
411
00:20:39,125 --> 00:20:40,708
get into the garage.
412
00:20:40,708 --> 00:20:44,917
If an item is
totally functional...
413
00:20:45,042 --> 00:20:46,250
Are you okay?
414
00:20:46,250 --> 00:20:48,375
Yeah, just a little bit
of a dizzy spell again.
415
00:20:48,375 --> 00:20:50,500
Why don't you go ahead,
take a break?
416
00:20:50,500 --> 00:20:52,292
[Sighing]
417
00:20:52,292 --> 00:20:55,250
All of a sudden, my mouth
has gone totally dry.
418
00:20:55,375 --> 00:20:56,333
I'm worried for
David's health.
419
00:20:56,583 --> 00:20:58,542
The shortness of
breath worsens.
420
00:20:58,542 --> 00:21:01,917
Breathe in, breathe out.
Nice deep breaths, okay?
421
00:21:01,917 --> 00:21:03,458
I'm worried it's
going to impact
422
00:21:03,458 --> 00:21:05,458
his health significantly.
423
00:21:05,458 --> 00:21:08,292
This could mean that we have
to shut down everything.
424
00:21:08,292 --> 00:21:09,458
♪ [Suspenseful]
425
00:21:13,583 --> 00:21:21,000
♪
426
00:21:21,458 --> 00:21:23,375
If David doesn't take
care of his affairs,
427
00:21:23,375 --> 00:21:25,125
it's going to cost him
his health,
428
00:21:25,125 --> 00:21:27,417
his marriage,
and his family.
429
00:21:27,542 --> 00:21:29,542
He could die in
his dream home.
430
00:21:29,542 --> 00:21:36,958
♪
431
00:21:36,958 --> 00:21:38,500
Thank you.
432
00:21:38,625 --> 00:21:39,375
Keep drinking that, I want that
full bottle finished, okay?
433
00:21:39,500 --> 00:21:41,292
- Okay, yes, sir.
- All right.
434
00:21:41,292 --> 00:21:43,167
I'll come find you
if you don't.
435
00:21:43,167 --> 00:21:46,917
♪
436
00:21:49,750 --> 00:21:56,333
♪
437
00:21:56,333 --> 00:21:58,667
I, I can see a little bit.
It looks packed from here.
438
00:21:58,667 --> 00:21:59,833
Yeah, oh, yeah.
439
00:21:59,833 --> 00:22:01,958
So we'll have to be
careful when we go in.
440
00:22:01,958 --> 00:22:03,833
Definitely.
441
00:22:03,833 --> 00:22:09,167
♪
442
00:22:09,167 --> 00:22:10,542
My name is Effy Terry.
443
00:22:10,542 --> 00:22:12,125
I'm a professional organizer,
444
00:22:12,250 --> 00:22:15,208
and an ADHD and
hoarding specialist.
445
00:22:15,208 --> 00:22:16,500
When was the last time
you were in the house?
446
00:22:16,500 --> 00:22:17,750
About a year ago.
447
00:22:17,750 --> 00:22:20,292
Okay, and was it hard
to navigate a year ago?
448
00:22:20,292 --> 00:22:22,667
- It definitely was, yes.
- How are you feeling?
449
00:22:22,792 --> 00:22:26,292
Ah, a little nervous to see
how my dad's been living.
450
00:22:26,292 --> 00:22:28,333
Based on the outside
state of the home,
451
00:22:28,333 --> 00:22:31,542
I would say Samantha's
apprehensions are warranted.
452
00:22:31,542 --> 00:22:33,417
So this is the ladder,
I take it?
453
00:22:33,417 --> 00:22:36,000
- Oh my goodness.
- You can go up first.
454
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:39,000
- Oh, boy.
- Is this sturdy?
455
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,708
Not an easy task for anybody.
456
00:22:41,708 --> 00:22:44,750
I'm surprised that David and
Odette have been
457
00:22:44,750 --> 00:22:47,667
entering the home
like this for years.
458
00:22:47,667 --> 00:22:50,042
Oh, my gosh.
[Effort grunting]
459
00:22:50,042 --> 00:22:51,875
Oh, my God!
460
00:22:51,875 --> 00:22:54,292
♪
461
00:22:54,292 --> 00:22:56,333
- What do you think?
- It smells. It still smells.
462
00:22:56,333 --> 00:22:58,500
Is this-
is this how it was...
463
00:22:58,500 --> 00:23:00,042
a year ago,
when you were here?
464
00:23:00,167 --> 00:23:03,292
It's worse.
465
00:23:03,292 --> 00:23:04,583
This is crazy.
466
00:23:04,708 --> 00:23:06,375
There's not even
anywhere to cook, really.
467
00:23:06,375 --> 00:23:09,250
- Like there's no surface.
- No, no.
468
00:23:09,250 --> 00:23:11,917
I don't know how they've
lived here like this.
469
00:23:11,917 --> 00:23:14,500
The state of the house
was definitely shocking.
470
00:23:14,500 --> 00:23:17,167
I didn't understand
how bad it really was.
471
00:23:17,167 --> 00:23:18,875
When we have
things like this,
472
00:23:18,875 --> 00:23:21,375
then critters can hide
in there and bugs and...
473
00:23:21,375 --> 00:23:22,667
Oh, exactly.
474
00:23:22,667 --> 00:23:23,875
So, it's concerning
because we don't know
475
00:23:23,875 --> 00:23:25,667
what's hiding
underneath the piles.
476
00:23:25,667 --> 00:23:28,458
This is why I didn't
want to bring my kids.
477
00:23:28,458 --> 00:23:30,750
It is not clean,
it is not hygienic.
478
00:23:30,875 --> 00:23:32,958
There are a lot of
combustible materials.
479
00:23:32,958 --> 00:23:34,500
There are exposed wires.
480
00:23:34,500 --> 00:23:37,458
People should not be
cooking in this kitchen.
481
00:23:37,458 --> 00:23:39,292
Oh my gosh.
482
00:23:39,292 --> 00:23:41,625
It's more overpowering
as we've come in.
483
00:23:41,625 --> 00:23:43,833
Half the stuff's broken.
484
00:23:43,833 --> 00:23:46,917
When we're looking at the
actual things in the room,
485
00:23:46,917 --> 00:23:48,667
is it your dad's?
486
00:23:48,667 --> 00:23:51,500
To me, it looks like
it's half and half.
487
00:23:51,500 --> 00:23:54,042
My dad was the one that
started bringing everything
488
00:23:54,167 --> 00:23:58,750
in at first. But, then when
she moved in, Odette...
489
00:23:58,750 --> 00:24:00,750
wouldn't get rid of anything.
490
00:24:00,750 --> 00:24:04,125
And now she's found auctions.
491
00:24:04,125 --> 00:24:05,500
Oi...
492
00:24:05,500 --> 00:24:07,417
Oh, my gosh.
493
00:24:07,417 --> 00:24:09,833
The scale of what's
in here is a lot.
494
00:24:09,833 --> 00:24:12,583
This is like a house of cards
ready to come tumbling down.
495
00:24:12,583 --> 00:24:16,292
I agree- it's scary.
496
00:24:16,292 --> 00:24:18,167
Oh, my gosh.
497
00:24:18,167 --> 00:24:20,500
♪
498
00:24:20,625 --> 00:24:23,000
Yeah, these rails, anyone
could go tumbling right down.
499
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,167
I think it's all temporary,
he put it in years ago.
500
00:24:26,167 --> 00:24:28,125
I don't think he
ever finished it.
501
00:24:28,125 --> 00:24:30,542
Oh my gosh.
502
00:24:30,542 --> 00:24:32,250
There's a Christmas
tree in here.
503
00:24:32,250 --> 00:24:33,792
- Some ornaments.
- I know.
504
00:24:33,792 --> 00:24:35,667
Every year he's been saying:
"I'm going to get the house
505
00:24:35,667 --> 00:24:37,500
cleaned up so we can
have Christmas."
506
00:24:37,500 --> 00:24:41,500
Every single year. And I'm
like, just, you know,
507
00:24:41,500 --> 00:24:43,917
knowing that it's
not happening.
508
00:24:43,917 --> 00:24:45,458
♪
509
00:24:45,458 --> 00:24:48,875
So, more boxes piled up here.
510
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:52,167
Oh, oh my goodness.
511
00:24:52,167 --> 00:24:53,667
There's a mouse here.
512
00:24:53,667 --> 00:24:56,167
- Alive? Oh, God.
- No, it's dead.
513
00:24:56,167 --> 00:24:58,458
When we find a mouse...
514
00:24:58,458 --> 00:25:01,333
that's one,
there are many more.
515
00:25:01,458 --> 00:25:03,833
Sick to my stomach, honestly.
516
00:25:03,833 --> 00:25:06,667
Mice chew through cables,
they chew through wires,
517
00:25:06,667 --> 00:25:08,500
that's a real fire hazard.
518
00:25:08,500 --> 00:25:10,458
If that room goes
up in flames,
519
00:25:10,458 --> 00:25:12,333
it would be a catastrophe.
520
00:25:12,333 --> 00:25:14,542
This is not a safe
place to live.
521
00:25:14,542 --> 00:25:16,208
No one should live like this.
522
00:25:16,208 --> 00:25:19,833
How is it possible to
get this all out of here?
523
00:25:19,833 --> 00:25:22,958
It is a big job, and I have
my concerns about
524
00:25:22,958 --> 00:25:25,458
how we are going to get this
done in four days.
525
00:25:25,583 --> 00:25:28,292
It's all going to hinge on
your dad and Odette
526
00:25:28,292 --> 00:25:30,458
making the
difficult decisions.
527
00:25:30,458 --> 00:25:31,708
Shall we go downstairs
and meet with
528
00:25:31,708 --> 00:25:33,208
your father and Odette?
529
00:25:33,208 --> 00:25:34,917
I would like to do that.
530
00:25:34,917 --> 00:25:43,000
♪
531
00:25:43,125 --> 00:25:44,542
Welcome, everybody.
532
00:25:44,542 --> 00:25:46,542
I'm so glad we're all
here in the same space.
533
00:25:46,542 --> 00:25:48,625
We're going to come up
with a plan all together.
534
00:25:48,625 --> 00:25:51,167
You two are in
complete control.
535
00:25:51,167 --> 00:25:52,917
You make all the decisions.
536
00:25:52,917 --> 00:25:55,125
We will guide you
through the process,
537
00:25:55,125 --> 00:25:56,958
but it's in your hands.
538
00:25:56,958 --> 00:26:00,042
Sarah is here to help you
because it will be stressful.
539
00:26:00,042 --> 00:26:01,875
Samantha, I know
that you just did
540
00:26:01,875 --> 00:26:04,417
a walk through with Effy.
How are you feeling?
541
00:26:04,542 --> 00:26:07,708
A little shocked
and sad, and...
542
00:26:07,708 --> 00:26:09,042
it's hard to see.
543
00:26:09,042 --> 00:26:11,833
Like, I don't know how
it's even livable in there.
544
00:26:11,833 --> 00:26:13,792
I don't like
living like this.
545
00:26:13,792 --> 00:26:15,833
It's upsetting, obviously.
546
00:26:15,833 --> 00:26:17,625
I know exactly
what she's saying.
547
00:26:17,625 --> 00:26:19,125
It's disgusting.
548
00:26:19,125 --> 00:26:21,542
You can't have a
clean home like this.
549
00:26:21,542 --> 00:26:24,833
You can't, especially
with pets you can't.
550
00:26:24,833 --> 00:26:29,083
As much as I care, deep down,
I'm always so angry,
551
00:26:29,083 --> 00:26:31,125
and I'm so mad...
552
00:26:31,125 --> 00:26:33,542
And, it's embarrassing.
553
00:26:33,542 --> 00:26:36,125
You just wanna walk away,
and go:
554
00:26:36,125 --> 00:26:38,417
"That's it, I've had it."
555
00:26:38,417 --> 00:26:40,958
I just want to make
everybody aware that
556
00:26:40,958 --> 00:26:43,792
I'm doing this for
Odette, I- also,
557
00:26:43,792 --> 00:26:47,667
for Samantha, I want to spend
time with my grandkids.
558
00:26:47,667 --> 00:26:50,500
As lovely as it is for you
to do it for your bride and
559
00:26:50,500 --> 00:26:52,333
your children and
grandchildren,
560
00:26:52,333 --> 00:26:56,167
change is always sustainable
when it's done for yourself.
561
00:26:56,292 --> 00:26:57,333
I'd like you to think about,
562
00:26:57,333 --> 00:26:58,667
what are your
goals for the home?
563
00:26:58,667 --> 00:27:00,833
And that can be sort
of your compass in
564
00:27:00,833 --> 00:27:02,958
getting through
this next few days.
565
00:27:02,958 --> 00:27:06,833
- Christmas.
- Yes, we want Christmas here.
566
00:27:06,833 --> 00:27:09,333
♪
567
00:27:12,417 --> 00:27:21,750
♪
568
00:27:21,750 --> 00:27:24,833
David's dream home has
become a nightmare home.
569
00:27:24,833 --> 00:27:28,167
No one should live
in a house like this.
570
00:27:28,167 --> 00:27:31,333
My dad and Odette have
become isolated
571
00:27:31,333 --> 00:27:33,042
from a lot of the family.
572
00:27:33,042 --> 00:27:37,333
♪
573
00:27:37,333 --> 00:27:39,125
I just want to see him more.
574
00:27:39,125 --> 00:27:44,125
♪
575
00:27:44,125 --> 00:27:47,000
Good morning, everyone.
Nice to see you all here.
576
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,667
- How's everyone doing?
- Very well.
577
00:27:48,667 --> 00:27:50,417
- Great.
- We're good.
578
00:27:50,417 --> 00:27:52,542
Mike, how are you feeling
seeing your best friend
579
00:27:52,667 --> 00:27:54,167
going through what
he's going through?
580
00:27:54,167 --> 00:27:56,333
It's tough 'cause I enjoy Dave,
I enjoy his company,
581
00:27:56,458 --> 00:27:57,750
but it's...
582
00:27:57,875 --> 00:27:59,458
it's been hard to come
up here and see it.
583
00:27:59,458 --> 00:28:01,625
Unfortunately,
Odette is not here.
584
00:28:01,625 --> 00:28:03,708
David, do you want to
tell us what's going on?
585
00:28:03,708 --> 00:28:05,500
Well... [Sighing]
586
00:28:05,625 --> 00:28:07,792
She's...
587
00:28:07,792 --> 00:28:10,958
very, become very nervous
and embarrassed about
588
00:28:10,958 --> 00:28:12,708
what we're going through
right now and,
589
00:28:12,833 --> 00:28:15,083
she shouldn't be ashamed
or embarrassed.
590
00:28:15,083 --> 00:28:18,333
It's my fault,
it's not her fault.
591
00:28:18,333 --> 00:28:21,167
Samantha, how are you feeling
about what's going on?
592
00:28:21,167 --> 00:28:24,292
I don't believe it's
all my dad's fault.
593
00:28:24,292 --> 00:28:25,833
He's taking the blame.
594
00:28:25,833 --> 00:28:29,000
This house is the way it is
because of both of them.
595
00:28:29,125 --> 00:28:30,833
Well, it's a big job
that we're doing, right,
596
00:28:30,833 --> 00:28:32,875
which brings up a lot
of complicated emotions.
597
00:28:33,042 --> 00:28:35,167
But with Odette not
being here this morning,
598
00:28:35,167 --> 00:28:37,875
Effy is going to walk us
through the new plan.
599
00:28:37,875 --> 00:28:39,583
We have Extreme Clean Group.
600
00:28:39,708 --> 00:28:40,625
They're a wonderful group.
601
00:28:40,625 --> 00:28:42,167
I've worked with
them before.
602
00:28:42,167 --> 00:28:44,958
For now, we can set up tarps,
we can get ready outside,
603
00:28:44,958 --> 00:28:47,833
but until we have your
permission and
604
00:28:47,833 --> 00:28:52,333
Odette's permission,
we're, we're at a standstill.
605
00:28:52,458 --> 00:28:55,833
If Odette is not there,
we're stuck because we're
606
00:28:55,833 --> 00:28:58,625
only able to work with
David and his items.
607
00:28:58,625 --> 00:29:00,250
We can't work
with Odette or any
608
00:29:00,250 --> 00:29:04,083
mutual items that David
and Odette own together.
609
00:29:04,083 --> 00:29:06,417
David, I'm going to need
you to check in with Odette.
610
00:29:06,417 --> 00:29:07,667
Maybe I can come in as well,
611
00:29:07,667 --> 00:29:09,792
to get her permission to
move things along.
612
00:29:09,792 --> 00:29:12,042
- What do you think?
- Well, I'll do what I can.
613
00:29:12,042 --> 00:29:14,167
I'm here for Dave,
the daughter's here.
614
00:29:14,167 --> 00:29:16,458
And hopefully, Odette will
get in the spirit of it
615
00:29:16,458 --> 00:29:20,125
because if she doesn't, life
will be miserable out here.
616
00:29:20,125 --> 00:29:24,875
♪ [Suspenseful]
617
00:29:27,542 --> 00:29:29,542
Odette?
618
00:29:29,542 --> 00:29:32,333
♪
619
00:29:32,333 --> 00:29:34,000
Odette?
620
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,583
Can Sarah come in
and talk to you?
621
00:29:35,583 --> 00:29:38,750
[Odette]
No, I will talk to no one.
622
00:29:38,750 --> 00:29:40,750
I'm having a really
rough time
623
00:29:40,750 --> 00:29:42,708
getting through
all this----.
624
00:29:42,708 --> 00:29:44,917
But it's still
all about David.
625
00:29:44,917 --> 00:29:48,000
- Now, hang on a second!
- You care about David.
626
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,625
You could care less whether
I lived or----ing died.
627
00:29:52,625 --> 00:29:54,333
Can you do me a favor?
Sarah is-
628
00:29:54,333 --> 00:29:58,208
I said I will not
talk to anyone.
629
00:29:58,208 --> 00:30:00,583
Tell her how you're feeling.
I'm worried about your-
630
00:30:00,708 --> 00:30:02,167
I am not-
631
00:30:02,167 --> 00:30:04,167
Because it doesn't
make any sense to me.
632
00:30:04,167 --> 00:30:06,750
Well, nothing ever does,
does it?
633
00:30:06,750 --> 00:30:09,000
-- idiot.
634
00:30:09,833 --> 00:30:12,333
David, this is it,
this is the end.
635
00:30:12,333 --> 00:30:14,458
- What?
- I'm leaving.
636
00:30:19,167 --> 00:30:34,000
♪
637
00:30:39,083 --> 00:30:41,000
♪
638
00:30:41,875 --> 00:30:44,083
A lot of these items
are Odette's items,
639
00:30:44,083 --> 00:30:47,000
so hinge on Odette's
permission to unblock that
640
00:30:47,125 --> 00:30:49,833
front entrance- the key to
us being able to go
641
00:30:49,958 --> 00:30:52,167
in the house to bring
out everything.
642
00:30:52,167 --> 00:30:57,375
♪
643
00:30:57,500 --> 00:31:00,583
[Odette] My mind is made up.
I'm leaving.
644
00:31:00,583 --> 00:31:03,333
- Out of my life, right?
- Yeah.
645
00:31:03,333 --> 00:31:05,292
The only reason I'm
doing this is for you,
646
00:31:05,417 --> 00:31:06,375
you realize that.
647
00:31:06,375 --> 00:31:09,667
- Oh, that's such bull----.
- [David sighing]
648
00:31:09,667 --> 00:31:11,958
Don't bull---- me!
649
00:31:11,958 --> 00:31:16,417
Don't bull---- me, and
don't bull---- yourself.
650
00:31:16,417 --> 00:31:18,000
Then why am I doing it?
651
00:31:18,125 --> 00:31:20,333
You're doing it because
you love this house,
652
00:31:20,333 --> 00:31:22,625
and it comes first.
653
00:31:22,625 --> 00:31:32,042
♪
654
00:31:32,042 --> 00:31:34,042
Go.
655
00:31:34,042 --> 00:31:36,458
Shut the door, please.
656
00:31:36,458 --> 00:31:38,667
Shut the door.
657
00:31:38,667 --> 00:31:40,125
♪
658
00:31:40,125 --> 00:31:43,208
- Everything okay?
- No.
659
00:31:43,333 --> 00:31:46,208
No, she doesn't want to
talk with you, and...
660
00:31:46,375 --> 00:31:48,708
she says she's out of here,
she's leaving me.
661
00:31:48,708 --> 00:31:50,292
It's complicated and,
you know,
662
00:31:50,292 --> 00:31:53,833
there's a reason why she's
saying what she's saying...
663
00:31:53,833 --> 00:31:56,292
And I would love to
understand that better.
664
00:31:56,292 --> 00:31:58,667
I don't know, maybe I
could try my luck with her?
665
00:31:58,667 --> 00:32:03,458
Just knock on the door and...
- Yeah.
666
00:32:03,458 --> 00:32:05,167
- Thank you.
- Yeah.
667
00:32:05,167 --> 00:32:08,458
Just, if you want
to have a seat.
668
00:32:08,458 --> 00:32:10,208
Odette, it's Sarah.
669
00:32:10,208 --> 00:32:12,500
I'm not coming in, I just,
I'm standing outside here.
670
00:32:12,500 --> 00:32:13,667
I just...
671
00:32:13,667 --> 00:32:15,375
I'm not ready to
talk right now.
672
00:32:15,500 --> 00:32:18,458
Okay. Odette, I also just
wanted to clarify,
673
00:32:18,458 --> 00:32:21,000
specifically the items that
are in front of the door,
674
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:22,208
do I have your
permission to
675
00:32:22,333 --> 00:32:24,000
move your items
that are there?
676
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,583
Okay.
Anywhere David says.
677
00:32:26,583 --> 00:32:28,833
And is it okay if I check in
with you maybe in
678
00:32:28,833 --> 00:32:30,917
a little bit to see
how you're doing?
679
00:32:31,042 --> 00:32:32,167
- Okay.
- Okay.
680
00:32:32,167 --> 00:32:34,583
Talk to you soon.
Get some rest.
681
00:32:34,583 --> 00:32:43,000
♪
682
00:32:43,125 --> 00:32:44,917
David and Odette have
given us permission
683
00:32:45,042 --> 00:32:46,667
to start taking things
out of the house.
684
00:32:46,667 --> 00:32:48,792
Our first goal is the doorway.
685
00:32:48,792 --> 00:32:50,667
So, if you look behind you,
686
00:32:50,792 --> 00:32:52,042
you're going to
see some tarps.
687
00:32:52,042 --> 00:32:55,208
Nothing is to go in the keep,
donate or garbage,
688
00:32:55,208 --> 00:32:58,500
without the permission
of David and/or Odette.
689
00:32:58,500 --> 00:33:00,792
We want to get stuff
out as fast as possible.
690
00:33:00,792 --> 00:33:02,625
Let's do this.
691
00:33:02,625 --> 00:33:12,667
♪
692
00:33:16,042 --> 00:33:17,917
David, what do you
think about this old,
693
00:33:17,917 --> 00:33:19,708
waterlogged Christmas tree?
694
00:33:19,833 --> 00:33:23,167
It's not, it's actually a
wreath and it's Odette's, so...
695
00:33:23,167 --> 00:33:24,625
I'm going to take-
Yeah...
696
00:33:24,625 --> 00:33:25,917
You don't think that we're
going to be dealing with
697
00:33:25,917 --> 00:33:27,125
a lot of mold here?
698
00:33:27,125 --> 00:33:28,958
I don't know.
But it is hers,
699
00:33:28,958 --> 00:33:31,208
and I don't want to make
a decision for her.
700
00:33:31,208 --> 00:33:33,167
See, again,
that's all Odette's.
701
00:33:33,167 --> 00:33:35,625
David, this is
pretty water damaged.
702
00:33:35,625 --> 00:33:37,083
Do you still want it to
go in Odette's pile
703
00:33:37,083 --> 00:33:38,375
for her to decide?
704
00:33:38,375 --> 00:33:41,333
I'm very afraid of letting
go of Odette's stuff.
705
00:33:41,333 --> 00:33:42,958
I don't know what's going
on with Odette and myself
706
00:33:42,958 --> 00:33:45,000
at this point in time.
707
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:48,083
As it stands right now,
she's leaving-
708
00:33:48,083 --> 00:33:50,333
for good-
me, everything.
709
00:33:50,333 --> 00:33:51,625
Okay.
710
00:33:51,625 --> 00:33:53,792
Without a doubt, anything,
whether it's garbage,
711
00:33:53,792 --> 00:33:57,292
damaged, molded, Odette's
is going to go to her pile.
712
00:33:57,292 --> 00:33:59,292
You know what, you know how
they say we have to put on
713
00:33:59,292 --> 00:34:02,167
our own oxygen mask first
before we can help others?
714
00:34:02,167 --> 00:34:05,125
So, that's what
you're doing here.
715
00:34:05,125 --> 00:34:07,250
Watch out for black mold.
716
00:34:07,250 --> 00:34:17,167
♪
717
00:34:19,917 --> 00:34:21,667
Odette?
718
00:34:21,667 --> 00:34:26,958
♪
719
00:34:26,958 --> 00:34:28,417
Come on over.
720
00:34:28,542 --> 00:34:30,542
Odette asks for a private
space where she can connect
721
00:34:30,542 --> 00:34:33,292
with me, just to talk to me
about what's going on.
722
00:34:33,417 --> 00:34:36,333
And this is a great sign,
that she's looking for help,
723
00:34:36,333 --> 00:34:38,250
she's asking for us
to help her,
724
00:34:38,375 --> 00:34:40,208
and she's opening up
and inviting us in.
725
00:34:40,333 --> 00:34:42,083
Today is not the day
we're deciding
726
00:34:42,208 --> 00:34:43,500
whether we're gonna
get divorced or not.
727
00:34:43,500 --> 00:34:45,125
I think that's a
bigger conversation.
728
00:34:45,125 --> 00:34:46,833
Today is the day
where you can
729
00:34:46,833 --> 00:34:49,333
make changes for
your life. Period.
730
00:34:49,333 --> 00:34:52,667
I have lived in this house
with him- it's disgusting,
731
00:34:52,667 --> 00:34:55,000
and I've hated it.
- I'll tell you one thing-
732
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,083
I've only stayed
because of him.
733
00:34:57,083 --> 00:34:59,125
A lot of people want
to make changes,
734
00:34:59,125 --> 00:35:01,083
but they don't have
the right tools to.
735
00:35:01,083 --> 00:35:03,208
And I feel like he's at
place right where he quite
736
00:35:03,208 --> 00:35:06,000
literally has, like, the
physical and the emotional
737
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:09,167
tools to with the
support of the full crew.
738
00:35:09,167 --> 00:35:10,917
And you know, Odette,
you said:
739
00:35:10,917 --> 00:35:12,833
"I feel like there's
nothing I can do."
740
00:35:12,958 --> 00:35:14,375
And I want to challenge
you on that,
741
00:35:14,375 --> 00:35:16,542
because I'll tell
you what you can do.
742
00:35:16,542 --> 00:35:19,375
Your stuff that's here, we
can make changes with that.
743
00:35:19,375 --> 00:35:20,667
And you know
what that means?
744
00:35:20,667 --> 00:35:22,875
That means you and I sit
together, and we say:
745
00:35:22,875 --> 00:35:25,500
-"Keep, trash."
- That's true.
746
00:35:25,500 --> 00:35:28,083
You and I, we're going to
work through this
747
00:35:28,208 --> 00:35:30,167
entire thing together
to figure out
748
00:35:30,292 --> 00:35:32,708
what happens to your stuff
and belongings.
749
00:35:35,083 --> 00:35:36,333
- Yeah.
- Do I have your word?
750
00:35:36,458 --> 00:35:39,250
- Yes, you have my word.
- Okay.
751
00:35:39,250 --> 00:35:49,292
♪
752
00:35:54,333 --> 00:35:55,250
♪
753
00:35:55,250 --> 00:35:57,708
Holy Christmas.
I can walk in here.
754
00:35:57,708 --> 00:36:01,458
- How does this feel, David?
- This is feeling great.
755
00:36:01,458 --> 00:36:04,917
- You do the honors.
- Okay.
756
00:36:05,042 --> 00:36:07,167
Hello there.
Welcome home, Dad.
757
00:36:07,167 --> 00:36:10,958
I've got an entranceway,
my God! Wonderful.
758
00:36:10,958 --> 00:36:12,083
It's going to be
safe for you.
759
00:36:12,083 --> 00:36:13,542
Safe for Odette.
760
00:36:13,542 --> 00:36:16,833
Safe for everyone that
comes in this home.
761
00:36:16,833 --> 00:36:18,875
That's wonderful.
762
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,083
Guys, we have a front door.
763
00:36:21,083 --> 00:36:25,583
[Applauding]
764
00:36:25,583 --> 00:36:26,750
Thank you.
765
00:36:26,875 --> 00:36:29,500
I've been embarrassed by
this front entrance for...
766
00:36:29,625 --> 00:36:31,167
for two years now.
767
00:36:31,167 --> 00:36:33,750
At least I don't
have to be ashamed.
768
00:36:33,750 --> 00:36:36,792
How about we push the shame
away and we focus on you and
769
00:36:36,792 --> 00:36:40,042
getting things done and
building the future and
770
00:36:40,167 --> 00:36:41,875
the dream life
that you want?
771
00:36:41,875 --> 00:36:44,083
Momentum. Momentum
builds momentum.
772
00:36:44,083 --> 00:36:54,125
♪
773
00:36:57,208 --> 00:36:58,958
Let me give my
first contribution.
774
00:36:58,958 --> 00:37:05,375
♪
775
00:37:05,375 --> 00:37:06,958
- Blue ball.
- Garbage.
776
00:37:06,958 --> 00:37:09,083
- Garbage.
- Probably go.
777
00:37:09,083 --> 00:37:12,625
♪
778
00:37:12,625 --> 00:37:15,000
- Hey, Odette.
- Hi, sweetie.
779
00:37:15,125 --> 00:37:24,167
♪
780
00:37:24,167 --> 00:37:26,333
Holy cow!
781
00:37:26,458 --> 00:37:29,125
Go ahead.
Two years later.
782
00:37:29,125 --> 00:37:32,458
Yes. Holy----, I don't
remember- holy crap.
783
00:37:32,458 --> 00:37:34,667
- You're so sweet.
- [Laughing]
784
00:37:34,667 --> 00:37:37,000
- Okay, where am I going?
- Right here.
785
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:38,125
Where it says,
"Odette".
786
00:37:38,125 --> 00:37:40,375
Okay, like, these
can all go, I think.
787
00:37:40,375 --> 00:37:42,583
No decisions were made
until you made the decision.
788
00:37:42,583 --> 00:37:44,542
Oh, I'm just
making them now.
789
00:37:44,667 --> 00:37:46,958
Garbage.
I'll never miss any of this.
790
00:37:46,958 --> 00:37:48,458
- Okay, garbage?
- Get rid of it.
791
00:37:48,458 --> 00:37:50,000
That's garbage,
this is garbage.
792
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,125
You said baskets
are all garbage?
793
00:37:51,125 --> 00:37:52,292
Yeah, except for this one.
794
00:37:52,292 --> 00:37:55,167
- See? It's a lot of her stuff.
- Garbage.
795
00:37:55,292 --> 00:37:56,542
If she's leaving,
then she needs to take
796
00:37:56,542 --> 00:37:58,292
all her stuff with her.
- Yeah.
797
00:37:58,292 --> 00:38:02,083
If she doesn't take it,
then you throw it out.
798
00:38:02,083 --> 00:38:03,792
Oh, yeah, that's,
that's... certainly-
799
00:38:03,792 --> 00:38:05,625
You're gonna have to
make that ultimatum:
800
00:38:05,625 --> 00:38:08,083
If you're leaving, then
fine... she takes her----.
801
00:38:08,083 --> 00:38:11,000
What kills me is I paid for
most of that----ing stuff.
802
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:13,083
You gave a lot to her.
803
00:38:13,083 --> 00:38:14,375
That's the problem.
804
00:38:14,375 --> 00:38:16,792
And she gives
nothing back, Dad.
805
00:38:16,792 --> 00:38:18,333
I'm sorry.
806
00:38:18,333 --> 00:38:20,375
It really does make me
angry that
807
00:38:20,375 --> 00:38:22,625
she can be treating
my dad this way.
808
00:38:22,625 --> 00:38:25,333
I feel like she often
turns her back on him.
809
00:38:25,333 --> 00:38:27,667
It's more about her,
not him...
810
00:38:27,667 --> 00:38:31,250
in the relationship, which
makes me really sad...
811
00:38:31,250 --> 00:38:33,042
Just throw it all away, love.
812
00:38:33,042 --> 00:38:35,292
- Even this thing, too?
- That's David.
813
00:38:35,292 --> 00:38:36,833
If he's going to
buy a new one-
814
00:38:36,833 --> 00:38:39,333
Ask him if we can get rid
of the dresser. Okay, and-
815
00:38:39,333 --> 00:38:41,583
Yeah, I don't know if he
wants to use it or not
816
00:38:41,583 --> 00:38:42,917
because it's an
entire bedroom suite.
817
00:38:42,917 --> 00:38:45,458
Okay. Got it.
818
00:38:45,458 --> 00:38:46,833
Is she getting rid of that?
819
00:38:46,833 --> 00:38:48,500
She wanted me to make
sure it was okay-
820
00:38:48,500 --> 00:38:51,375
- To get rid of that? Yes.
- Um...
821
00:38:51,375 --> 00:38:55,500
Dad, yes.
...Yeah, thanks.
822
00:38:55,500 --> 00:38:56,667
- That's garbage?
- Garbage.
823
00:38:56,667 --> 00:38:58,833
Yeah.
824
00:39:00,542 --> 00:39:03,792
I just came over really
dizzy again. Oh, thanks.
825
00:39:03,792 --> 00:39:05,667
Come over and
sit in the chair.
826
00:39:05,667 --> 00:39:12,333
♪
827
00:39:12,333 --> 00:39:14,458
How you feeling?
828
00:39:14,583 --> 00:39:17,875
Ah, tight in the chest,
in all honesty.
829
00:39:17,875 --> 00:39:22,083
You're tight in the
chest right now? Yeah?
830
00:39:22,083 --> 00:39:24,000
- No pains in the arm, though.
- No?
831
00:39:26,292 --> 00:39:28,000
Garbage.
832
00:39:31,208 --> 00:39:32,500
- What drawers?
- These.
833
00:39:32,625 --> 00:39:33,625
So, these can all
go in the garbage?
834
00:39:33,625 --> 00:39:36,083
Wait a minute!
That doesn't belong to-
835
00:39:36,208 --> 00:39:37,500
Hold on-
Can I speak to David?
836
00:39:37,500 --> 00:39:39,333
- You said those were David's.
- Where is he?
837
00:39:39,333 --> 00:39:40,500
Just a moment.
Should we-
838
00:39:40,500 --> 00:39:42,167
Do you want to
go over to David?
839
00:39:42,167 --> 00:39:43,167
I want to know
if he's going to-
840
00:39:43,333 --> 00:39:44,500
One second,
Odette, Odette.
841
00:39:44,500 --> 00:39:46,833
Before we go over,
just a moment.
842
00:39:46,833 --> 00:39:49,458
- Let's take a deep breath.
- Don't kill him?
843
00:39:54,042 --> 00:39:58,958
♪
844
00:39:58,958 --> 00:40:00,375
Let's take a deep breath.
845
00:40:00,750 --> 00:40:09,333
♪
846
00:40:09,333 --> 00:40:11,500
Hey, David.
847
00:40:11,500 --> 00:40:13,375
You're trashing
my bedroom suite?
848
00:40:13,500 --> 00:40:14,708
I'm doing what?
849
00:40:14,708 --> 00:40:16,292
You're trashing
the bedroom suite.
850
00:40:16,292 --> 00:40:17,708
I'm not trashing it,
I said it was up to you.
851
00:40:17,708 --> 00:40:21,375
Just a moment, just a
moment, just a moment.
852
00:40:21,375 --> 00:40:23,708
There's a dresser
over there, right?
853
00:40:23,708 --> 00:40:25,667
Are you buying a new
bedroom suite for upstairs?
854
00:40:25,792 --> 00:40:27,333
No, I wanted to
use that one.
855
00:40:27,333 --> 00:40:29,500
I need it for my clothes,
but it's yours.
856
00:40:29,500 --> 00:40:31,917
There's a lot of items that
are overlapping, okay?
857
00:40:31,917 --> 00:40:33,542
So, what we are going to do
is we're gonna play
858
00:40:33,542 --> 00:40:35,042
a little bit of
a trust game.
859
00:40:35,167 --> 00:40:36,208
It's on my side,
so I'm going to
860
00:40:36,208 --> 00:40:37,667
go ahead and
make a decision.
861
00:40:37,667 --> 00:40:39,000
So, you want me to keep
the bedroom suite
862
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,042
for upstairs, right?
863
00:40:40,042 --> 00:40:41,625
- Yeah, I can paint it.
- Okay.
864
00:40:41,625 --> 00:40:43,333
- There we go.
- Or I can paint it.
865
00:40:43,333 --> 00:40:44,708
- Amazing.
- Or you can paint it.
866
00:40:44,708 --> 00:40:46,875
All right, shall we?
Settled.
867
00:40:46,875 --> 00:40:48,875
- [Sighing]
- So, we're keeping it.
868
00:40:48,875 --> 00:40:51,333
If David and Odette do not
figure out a way to work
869
00:40:51,458 --> 00:40:53,833
collaboratively together
over the next few days,
870
00:40:53,833 --> 00:40:56,792
this house is not going to be
cleaned, and that worries me.
871
00:40:56,792 --> 00:41:02,667
♪
872
00:41:02,792 --> 00:41:13,667
♪
873
00:41:13,833 --> 00:41:19,542
♪
874
00:41:19,667 --> 00:41:22,333
♪
875
00:41:22,333 --> 00:41:24,458
Mark Snider,
Snider's Sydenham
876
00:41:24,458 --> 00:41:25,667
Auction and
Appraisal Services.
877
00:41:25,667 --> 00:41:27,625
- I'm Dave.
- I'm Mike, nice meeting you.
878
00:41:27,625 --> 00:41:29,125
So, you've got some stuff
to show me, have you?
879
00:41:29,125 --> 00:41:32,375
Yes, I do. I'm not sure what
I want to part with,
880
00:41:32,500 --> 00:41:33,375
to be honest with you.
- Right.
881
00:41:33,375 --> 00:41:34,500
That's why I'm here,
882
00:41:34,625 --> 00:41:35,792
I'm going to do a little
twisting, Dave.
883
00:41:35,958 --> 00:41:39,292
We come across these,
these scenarios fairly often.
884
00:41:39,292 --> 00:41:41,500
This is a pretty severe case.
885
00:41:41,500 --> 00:41:44,625
The Bronco,
it's got 86,000Ks on it.
886
00:41:44,625 --> 00:41:48,292
The porcupines up here
ate the brake lines.
887
00:41:48,292 --> 00:41:50,333
Some cosmetic work
to do as well.
888
00:41:50,458 --> 00:41:51,667
This one I do want it.
889
00:41:51,667 --> 00:41:53,792
- I'll get rid of it.
- Right.
890
00:41:53,792 --> 00:41:55,583
Don't want to give
it away, obviously,
891
00:41:55,583 --> 00:41:57,792
I've been following
the prices and,
892
00:41:57,792 --> 00:42:00,667
I know that one just
sold for $187,000.
893
00:42:00,792 --> 00:42:03,500
- Well, it wasn't this one.
- No, it wasn't.
894
00:42:03,667 --> 00:42:06,250
It was same year!
Same model.
895
00:42:06,250 --> 00:42:07,750
Was it sold by
auction or privately?
896
00:42:07,750 --> 00:42:09,792
Yeah, it was sold,
it was sold by auction.
897
00:42:09,792 --> 00:42:13,333
99.9% of what we sell
is sold unreserved,
898
00:42:13,458 --> 00:42:15,208
to the highest bidder.
899
00:42:15,208 --> 00:42:17,208
Something's better
than nothing.
900
00:42:17,208 --> 00:42:19,625
Then it's not here and just
not rusting and wasting away.
901
00:42:19,625 --> 00:42:22,667
Right, if you can get a few
bucks for it and get it
902
00:42:22,667 --> 00:42:25,000
out of your hair, one less
thing to worry about.
903
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:26,250
Yeah.
904
00:42:26,250 --> 00:42:28,917
He's kind of going, "Well,
you can sell my stuff,
905
00:42:28,917 --> 00:42:30,833
but I want to get,
like, top dollar.
906
00:42:30,958 --> 00:42:32,250
If I don't,
you can't sell them."
907
00:42:32,250 --> 00:42:33,833
It's going to sit there and
rust by the time you
908
00:42:33,833 --> 00:42:35,333
get more than
20 bucks for it, Dave,
909
00:42:35,333 --> 00:42:36,875
it's been there for
ten years.
910
00:42:36,875 --> 00:42:39,750
He puts a lot of
value to things that
911
00:42:39,750 --> 00:42:41,917
isn't quite worth that.
912
00:42:41,917 --> 00:42:43,708
Did you buy the
tractor new, David?
913
00:42:43,708 --> 00:42:46,333
- Yeah, brand new.
- That would sell just great.
914
00:42:46,333 --> 00:42:48,792
I want to keep
the tractor until
915
00:42:48,792 --> 00:42:51,333
I'm finished
the landscaping.
916
00:42:51,458 --> 00:42:58,750
♪
917
00:42:58,750 --> 00:43:00,250
The dump trailer there,
that's something that
918
00:43:00,375 --> 00:43:01,792
certainly,
that would sell well.
919
00:43:01,792 --> 00:43:03,875
Again, I'm going to need
that while I'm doing the
920
00:43:03,875 --> 00:43:06,417
landscaping to bring in
gravel, etcetera, to,
921
00:43:06,542 --> 00:43:08,417
to redo the driveways.
922
00:43:08,417 --> 00:43:10,583
You won't do it, Dave.
You'll get,
923
00:43:10,583 --> 00:43:12,000
you'll get a load
of gravel, dump it,
924
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:13,375
and it'll sit
there as a pile.
925
00:43:13,375 --> 00:43:15,042
If you sold the tractor...
926
00:43:15,042 --> 00:43:18,375
and this, it might help
negate some of the costs.
927
00:43:18,375 --> 00:43:20,458
No, I know.
I know what you're saying.
928
00:43:20,458 --> 00:43:22,208
Conservatively...
929
00:43:22,208 --> 00:43:26,875
total landscaping, I've had
a quote for 28,000.
930
00:43:26,875 --> 00:43:28,500
So, the tractor and the
trailer would get you
931
00:43:28,625 --> 00:43:29,667
pretty close to
that probably.
932
00:43:29,667 --> 00:43:30,875
- Will it?
- Yeah.
933
00:43:31,042 --> 00:43:33,208
Oka, well, it's certainly
worth thinking about.
934
00:43:33,208 --> 00:43:34,500
Alright.
935
00:43:34,625 --> 00:43:37,375
Dave's being stubborn.
I'm disappointed.
936
00:43:37,375 --> 00:43:41,000
The auctioneer came by...
937
00:43:41,167 --> 00:43:44,417
and said I can probably
get about 30,000
938
00:43:44,417 --> 00:43:46,500
for the landscaping
equipment,
939
00:43:46,500 --> 00:43:49,000
which I felt was a little
on the low side.
940
00:43:49,167 --> 00:43:50,958
I'd let everything go.
941
00:43:50,958 --> 00:43:54,583
But I'm going to
need that to...
942
00:43:54,708 --> 00:43:56,333
finish the landscaping.
943
00:43:56,333 --> 00:43:59,083
If we could get the money
to pay to have it done,
944
00:43:59,083 --> 00:44:00,583
why wouldn't we?
945
00:44:00,583 --> 00:44:02,625
Then you don't
have to do it.
946
00:44:02,625 --> 00:44:04,250
Because you can't,
you can't do it.
947
00:44:04,250 --> 00:44:07,292
♪
948
00:44:07,292 --> 00:44:09,250
Come, come.
949
00:44:09,375 --> 00:44:12,208
David focusing on those
projects has given him
950
00:44:12,333 --> 00:44:14,792
a false sense of self-worth.
951
00:44:14,792 --> 00:44:17,000
And I'm worried that this
is going to continue on,
952
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:19,167
and the process of
hoarding is not going to
953
00:44:19,167 --> 00:44:21,000
ever stop for him.
954
00:44:21,125 --> 00:44:27,000
♪
955
00:44:27,125 --> 00:44:38,417
♪
956
00:44:38,542 --> 00:44:40,042
♪
957
00:44:40,042 --> 00:44:42,125
Where is that going?
That's a keeper.
958
00:44:42,125 --> 00:44:45,750
- That's not a keeper.
- I want it, I want it.
959
00:44:45,750 --> 00:44:48,583
- And you're not getting it!
- That was a gift.
960
00:44:48,583 --> 00:44:50,667
[Sighing] Okay...
961
00:44:50,667 --> 00:44:53,000
We need to start making
decisions a little bit faster
962
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,083
'cause we're, we're
running out of tarp space.
963
00:44:55,083 --> 00:44:57,958
You have delegated
Samantha and Mike?
964
00:44:57,958 --> 00:44:59,000
Yes.
965
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:00,667
You guys each make
each other's decisions.
966
00:45:00,667 --> 00:45:01,708
- That's okay as well?
- Sure.
967
00:45:01,833 --> 00:45:02,917
- Is that good?
- Yeah.
968
00:45:02,917 --> 00:45:04,625
One item at a time
isn't going to cut it
969
00:45:04,625 --> 00:45:05,833
for the schedule we're on.
970
00:45:05,833 --> 00:45:07,917
We've already missed
the entire morning.
971
00:45:08,042 --> 00:45:09,833
- The speakers.
- The speakers I'd like to keep.
972
00:45:09,833 --> 00:45:11,917
David, you never
turn them on.
973
00:45:12,042 --> 00:45:14,500
- I really want to keep them.
- [Screaming]
974
00:45:14,500 --> 00:45:15,083
That's right.
975
00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:22,833
♪
976
00:45:22,833 --> 00:45:25,250
People would dream of
building a home that
977
00:45:25,250 --> 00:45:26,542
looked like this.
978
00:45:26,542 --> 00:45:28,958
Now it looks like a teardown.
979
00:45:29,208 --> 00:45:37,208
♪
980
00:45:37,208 --> 00:45:39,208
Oh, my God!
981
00:45:39,208 --> 00:45:42,167
This is like a house of cards
ready to come tumbling down.
982
00:45:42,167 --> 00:45:44,083
It's scary.
983
00:45:44,083 --> 00:45:46,667
♪
984
00:45:46,667 --> 00:45:48,958
I'm always so angry.
985
00:45:48,958 --> 00:45:50,750
The only reason I'm
doing this is for you.
986
00:45:50,750 --> 00:45:53,708
- You realize that.
- Oh, that's such bull----!
987
00:45:53,708 --> 00:45:56,750
You're doing it because
you love this house.
988
00:45:56,750 --> 00:45:59,417
She's leaving- for good-
me, everything.
989
00:45:59,417 --> 00:46:07,875
♪
990
00:46:07,875 --> 00:46:10,208
You're tight in the
chest right now?
991
00:46:10,333 --> 00:46:13,292
His health could jeopardize
the entire process.
992
00:46:13,292 --> 00:46:15,208
♪
993
00:46:15,208 --> 00:46:18,667
My dad's hoarding has brought
out some more depression.
994
00:46:18,667 --> 00:46:21,750
He's already had that
problem in the past,
995
00:46:21,750 --> 00:46:24,708
but it's made it worse.
996
00:46:24,708 --> 00:46:26,708
It's his dream house, but...
997
00:46:26,708 --> 00:46:29,042
it's not a dream right now.
998
00:46:29,042 --> 00:46:35,833
♪
999
00:46:35,958 --> 00:46:38,417
I have to address this again.
Odette isn't here.
1000
00:46:38,417 --> 00:46:41,292
David, do you want to
tell us what's going on?
1001
00:46:41,292 --> 00:46:44,500
Last night we had a bit
of an emergency with...
1002
00:46:44,500 --> 00:46:47,708
our dog.
And, he's very ill.
1003
00:46:47,875 --> 00:46:49,250
She just wants to spend
some time with him.
1004
00:46:49,250 --> 00:46:51,750
Okay, so we'll go ahead,
we'll give her some space.
1005
00:46:51,750 --> 00:46:53,292
Yesterday was a huge day...
1006
00:46:53,292 --> 00:46:56,042
and I know, David,
this was a lot for you.
1007
00:46:56,042 --> 00:46:58,042
Today's going to be
another tough one.
1008
00:46:58,042 --> 00:47:00,833
David, I would like to
revisit your permissions.
1009
00:47:00,833 --> 00:47:02,833
Samantha, yesterday
you had given her
1010
00:47:02,833 --> 00:47:04,667
full permission to
make decisions.
1011
00:47:04,667 --> 00:47:06,500
Mike was assisting her.
1012
00:47:06,500 --> 00:47:08,000
Do you give Mike
full permission?
1013
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:11,583
- Yes, on all decisions.
- Okay, let's do this.
1014
00:47:11,583 --> 00:47:14,458
There are two roadblocks at
this point to being able to
1015
00:47:14,458 --> 00:47:18,208
get the job done: David's
attachment to his past and
1016
00:47:18,208 --> 00:47:20,833
his items that
represent who he was.
1017
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:25,125
Secondly, I feel the
dysfunction between
1018
00:47:25,125 --> 00:47:28,042
David and Odette, that will
slow us down as well.
1019
00:47:28,167 --> 00:47:41,958
♪
1020
00:47:41,958 --> 00:47:43,667
So, this needs to be
emptied out and
1021
00:47:43,667 --> 00:47:44,792
the guys can take it out.
1022
00:47:44,792 --> 00:47:47,625
Yeah, move it outside.
1023
00:47:47,625 --> 00:47:48,667
[Object hitting the ground]
1024
00:47:48,667 --> 00:47:50,125
Chuck it.
1025
00:47:50,125 --> 00:47:51,542
Including the green box,
then throw it in the bin.
1026
00:47:51,542 --> 00:47:53,458
Oh my goodness,
this is heavy.
1027
00:47:53,458 --> 00:47:54,875
♪
1028
00:47:54,875 --> 00:47:56,667
Oh my goodness. Ah!
1029
00:47:56,667 --> 00:47:58,917
There's like a mouse here.
1030
00:47:59,042 --> 00:48:00,750
Mice carry disease.
1031
00:48:00,750 --> 00:48:04,208
It's dangerous to have dead
animals rotting in your house.
1032
00:48:07,417 --> 00:48:08,667
I'm not trying to do that!
1033
00:48:08,833 --> 00:48:10,625
No, like this stuff,
that's garbage.
1034
00:48:10,625 --> 00:48:20,667
♪
1035
00:48:21,083 --> 00:48:24,333
My biggest hope is that I
could visit them more often
1036
00:48:24,458 --> 00:48:27,333
and, I would absolutely love
it if he would have a house
1037
00:48:27,333 --> 00:48:31,583
to live in that's not
so crowded with things.
1038
00:48:31,583 --> 00:48:35,167
- A bell!
-"Ring for love."
1039
00:48:35,167 --> 00:48:38,458
- [Bell jangling]
- That is disgusting.
1040
00:48:38,458 --> 00:48:40,042
Nice to see that there.
1041
00:48:40,042 --> 00:48:43,292
It's my wife's
memorial card.
1042
00:48:43,292 --> 00:48:45,333
Robin is my wife,
or was my wife.
1043
00:48:45,333 --> 00:48:47,458
She passed away
five years ago.
1044
00:48:47,458 --> 00:48:49,250
She and Dave were close.
1045
00:48:49,250 --> 00:48:51,500
Sam lived with us
for a while, so...
1046
00:48:51,500 --> 00:48:56,917
♪
1047
00:48:56,917 --> 00:49:00,750
Hm, you okay?
1048
00:49:00,750 --> 00:49:04,208
[Crying] She was the
sweetest thing ever.
1049
00:49:04,208 --> 00:49:05,833
My dad listened to
Robin all the time.
1050
00:49:05,833 --> 00:49:09,083
She'd give him heck for not
getting rid of things and...
1051
00:49:09,083 --> 00:49:12,958
clean up his act
kind of thing.
1052
00:49:12,958 --> 00:49:15,167
I'm going to put this
in important stuff.
1053
00:49:15,292 --> 00:49:16,833
Okay.
1054
00:49:16,833 --> 00:49:26,833
♪
1055
00:49:29,958 --> 00:49:31,667
- Oh!
- There she is!
1056
00:49:31,667 --> 00:49:34,042
- Aw, hi, precious.
- Oh...
1057
00:49:34,042 --> 00:49:36,333
- There you go, baby.
- Aw, poor angel.
1058
00:49:36,333 --> 00:49:40,708
- Now, I have Shazzy.
- Hi, angel.
1059
00:49:40,833 --> 00:49:43,833
- I'm going to put this up.
- How is he?
1060
00:49:43,833 --> 00:49:47,667
- He's breathing funny.
- Are you okay, sweetie?
1061
00:49:47,792 --> 00:49:49,458
I'm just worried.
1062
00:49:49,458 --> 00:49:52,667
The dog has definitely
slowed down the process.
1063
00:49:52,667 --> 00:49:55,000
But he seems a
little perked up.
1064
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,667
She'll perk up
as well, Odette.
1065
00:49:57,667 --> 00:49:59,792
We'll see what happens.
[Laughing]
1066
00:49:59,792 --> 00:50:01,667
Don't you be
doing stuff, Edy.
1067
00:50:01,792 --> 00:50:03,917
Well, I have to go through it.
1068
00:50:04,042 --> 00:50:05,458
Not keeping it, are you?
1069
00:50:05,458 --> 00:50:07,750
Damn right,
that's her party dress.
1070
00:50:07,750 --> 00:50:15,542
♪
1071
00:50:15,667 --> 00:50:16,833
- Here?
- This is kitchen stuff.
1072
00:50:16,833 --> 00:50:19,000
Let's start here, this----.
1073
00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:21,167
Have you ever used
that asparagus cooker?
1074
00:50:21,167 --> 00:50:22,708
It's brand new,
I just bought it.
1075
00:50:22,833 --> 00:50:25,000
Oh, so you've never used it.
1076
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:26,917
The chair, do you
want to donate it?
1077
00:50:26,917 --> 00:50:29,250
Ah, I just bought that, too.
1078
00:50:29,250 --> 00:50:30,667
- You want it?
- You betcha.
1079
00:50:30,667 --> 00:50:34,125
- Do you want these shoes?
- Yes, they're brand new.
1080
00:50:34,125 --> 00:50:36,667
Everything is
brand new to you.
1081
00:50:38,833 --> 00:50:42,667
Five minute warning until
the donation truck comes.
1082
00:50:42,667 --> 00:50:44,875
Five minutes.
David?
1083
00:50:44,875 --> 00:50:46,792
That's a big industrial
sewing machine.
1084
00:50:46,792 --> 00:50:49,042
That's for canvas,
for sails.
1085
00:50:49,167 --> 00:50:50,708
When was the last
time you sailed?
1086
00:50:50,833 --> 00:50:52,875
About 25 years ago.
1087
00:50:52,875 --> 00:50:57,000
Do you really think
you'll use this?
1088
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:58,667
- I might.
- [Laughing]
1089
00:50:58,667 --> 00:51:01,292
- Might doesn't cut it, Dave.
- I might cry.
1090
00:51:01,292 --> 00:51:04,333
He is not budging on
this sewing machine.
1091
00:51:04,458 --> 00:51:06,042
It's almost like a
game for him.
1092
00:51:06,042 --> 00:51:08,250
He's just sticking
to his guns.
1093
00:51:08,250 --> 00:51:10,208
Let's make a deal,
two for one.
1094
00:51:10,333 --> 00:51:12,167
I've got two Singer
sewing machines upstairs.
1095
00:51:12,167 --> 00:51:14,167
- Okay... okay.
- Both new.
1096
00:51:14,167 --> 00:51:16,000
Donate them,
and I'll let that go.
1097
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:17,417
I'll take those
and donate them,
1098
00:51:17,417 --> 00:51:19,500
but I'm not done on
this conversation.
1099
00:51:19,500 --> 00:51:20,958
I am!
1100
00:51:20,958 --> 00:51:22,625
Dad, we're
wasting time here.
1101
00:51:22,625 --> 00:51:24,125
Maybe this is a new craft!
1102
00:51:24,125 --> 00:51:26,167
I don't even think
he really wants it,
1103
00:51:26,167 --> 00:51:29,042
but I think he wants to
win this, this battle.
1104
00:51:29,042 --> 00:51:30,958
All right, so we'll just put
it over here and
1105
00:51:30,958 --> 00:51:32,208
Samantha will have a chat
with you later.
1106
00:51:32,333 --> 00:51:33,708
Yes.
1107
00:51:33,708 --> 00:51:52,083
♪
1108
00:51:52,083 --> 00:51:54,125
Ah, David.
1109
00:51:54,125 --> 00:51:57,500
Oh, come on!
1110
00:51:57,500 --> 00:52:00,667
It cost me a fortune, and
David should know better.
1111
00:52:00,667 --> 00:52:02,458
Just pitch it.
1112
00:52:03,708 --> 00:52:08,250
Yeah, this is all her domain.
Having a bit of a...
1113
00:52:08,250 --> 00:52:12,667
conundrum in making decisions
for her, I'm guessing.
1114
00:52:12,792 --> 00:52:14,333
- They're David's.
- Okay.
1115
00:52:14,333 --> 00:52:15,667
They're not mine.
1116
00:52:15,667 --> 00:52:17,667
I don't know whether she
wants the carved pig or not.
1117
00:52:17,667 --> 00:52:18,958
Probably,
because she...
1118
00:52:18,958 --> 00:52:20,208
[Mike groans]
1119
00:52:20,208 --> 00:52:21,875
Well, she collects pigs,
I don't know!
1120
00:52:21,875 --> 00:52:23,500
Yeah, but you got no fricking
room in your house, David.
1121
00:52:23,500 --> 00:52:26,167
- It's all her stuff.
- I don't care.
1122
00:52:26,167 --> 00:52:28,375
Okay, there's no thing to
hold the money in.
1123
00:52:28,375 --> 00:52:31,167
- Hang on.
- We need you here, David.
1124
00:52:31,292 --> 00:52:34,000
Can you do me a favor and
ask Grandma Odey
1125
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,958
if she wants to keep these?
1126
00:52:35,958 --> 00:52:38,208
David keeps passing
the buck to Odette,
1127
00:52:38,208 --> 00:52:39,667
and Odette does the same.
1128
00:52:39,667 --> 00:52:42,417
It's not as simple as
letting go of items because
1129
00:52:42,417 --> 00:52:44,458
it's very much tied
into his marriage.
1130
00:52:44,458 --> 00:52:47,708
I do not want to...
[Sighing]
1131
00:52:47,708 --> 00:52:49,375
...set Odette off.
1132
00:52:49,375 --> 00:52:51,792
She's got anger in her, and
it didn't take much for her
1133
00:52:51,792 --> 00:52:55,583
to say, 'That's it, I'm leaving
for good, I'm gone."
1134
00:52:55,583 --> 00:52:57,667
I know this is tough,
I know it's a
1135
00:52:57,667 --> 00:52:59,792
difficult conversation
I'm having with you.
1136
00:52:59,792 --> 00:53:01,667
- I'm tired of conflict.
- I know.
1137
00:53:01,667 --> 00:53:02,833
- I'm tired of...
- I know.
1138
00:53:02,833 --> 00:53:05,667
...of always being in flux.
1139
00:53:05,792 --> 00:53:07,667
You know what I mean...
1140
00:53:07,667 --> 00:53:09,792
Don't you?
1141
00:53:13,542 --> 00:53:14,667
Am I happy?
1142
00:53:14,667 --> 00:53:16,500
No, I'm not happy,
I'm bloody miserable.
1143
00:53:16,500 --> 00:53:18,542
- I have been since...
- I want you happy.
1144
00:53:18,542 --> 00:53:21,375
...I don't know
how many years.
1145
00:53:21,375 --> 00:53:23,000
How are you going to start
making those changes
1146
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,750
if you're waiting to not
piss off somebody?
1147
00:53:25,750 --> 00:53:29,208
Yeah, but it adds fuel
to the fire and that's...
1148
00:53:29,208 --> 00:53:32,625
Yeah, so the fire is the
problem, not the fuel.
1149
00:53:32,625 --> 00:53:34,417
And when you start
addressing things like that,
1150
00:53:34,417 --> 00:53:37,792
I guarantee you, the quality
of your relationship
1151
00:53:37,792 --> 00:53:39,500
is going to progress.
1152
00:53:39,500 --> 00:53:42,000
It's going to get ugly
before it gets better.
1153
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:43,167
That's what I'm afraid of.
1154
00:53:43,167 --> 00:53:45,708
That's how things
work in life.
1155
00:53:45,833 --> 00:53:47,375
- Is that right?
- I agree.
1156
00:53:47,375 --> 00:53:49,000
Okay, I'm going to get
a chair, I'll be back.
1157
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:51,042
- Okay, thank you.
- Okay?
1158
00:53:51,042 --> 00:53:52,750
Come give Grandpa a hug.
1159
00:53:52,750 --> 00:53:54,083
[David] Mike?
[Austin] Give me a hug.
1160
00:53:54,083 --> 00:53:56,375
[Sighing]
1161
00:53:58,833 --> 00:54:00,958
- Thanks, kiddo.
- It's alright, don't worry.
1162
00:54:03,625 --> 00:54:10,167
♪
1163
00:54:10,167 --> 00:54:11,833
- So, what I want to say...
- It's okay.
1164
00:54:11,958 --> 00:54:15,917
...is that I'm uncomfortable
making decisions for you.
1165
00:54:15,917 --> 00:54:17,458
When I'm being
pushed by Mike-
1166
00:54:17,458 --> 00:54:20,792
See, okay- I haven't made
a decision on any of
1167
00:54:20,792 --> 00:54:23,750
your stuff, not because
out of respect,
1168
00:54:23,750 --> 00:54:26,417
I just didn't want
to be bothered.
1169
00:54:26,417 --> 00:54:28,375
[Laughing] I have enough
of my own stuff.
1170
00:54:28,375 --> 00:54:30,958
Well, I'm doing mine
out of respect.
1171
00:54:30,958 --> 00:54:32,542
So, here's the reality.
1172
00:54:32,667 --> 00:54:35,375
There's a huge aspect of fear
that's there for you, David.
1173
00:54:35,500 --> 00:54:37,500
Well, that's because he
knows what I'll do to him.
1174
00:54:37,500 --> 00:54:39,625
That's no way to live
in a relationship.
1175
00:54:39,625 --> 00:54:41,667
Do we have each other's
permission to start
1176
00:54:41,667 --> 00:54:46,000
making executive decisions?
I know it terrifies you.
1177
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:48,833
And also, that's how we start
making progress and change.
1178
00:54:48,833 --> 00:54:50,292
That's how we grow.
1179
00:54:50,292 --> 00:54:52,333
Yeah, David can make
decisions for my stuff.
1180
00:54:52,333 --> 00:54:54,375
- I don't care.
- Alright.
1181
00:54:54,500 --> 00:55:02,458
♪
1182
00:55:02,458 --> 00:55:04,500
- I've gotta make decisions.
- Do you need help?
1183
00:55:04,500 --> 00:55:07,083
- Ah, sure.
- You're keeping this?
1184
00:55:07,083 --> 00:55:10,208
- I think for plants.
- This for a plant?
1185
00:55:10,208 --> 00:55:13,333
♪
1186
00:55:13,333 --> 00:55:14,542
That's my brush.
I want to keep it,
1187
00:55:14,667 --> 00:55:16,333
it's for my drafting board.
1188
00:55:16,333 --> 00:55:18,042
My mind's just like
a storm right now.
1189
00:55:18,167 --> 00:55:21,583
Like, figuring out if they
should keep that, keep that.
1190
00:55:21,583 --> 00:55:24,833
It's just I don't find
they need that stuff.
1191
00:55:24,833 --> 00:55:27,292
Like, you could
live without it, like...
1192
00:55:27,292 --> 00:55:29,250
- What do you think, kiddo?
- A lot of stuff-
1193
00:55:29,375 --> 00:55:30,875
- How are you doing?
- Good.
1194
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,167
Where's your hat?
1195
00:55:32,167 --> 00:55:34,500
I know how he feels,
and he misses Grandpa.
1196
00:55:34,500 --> 00:55:37,417
He's maybe seen them...
1197
00:55:37,417 --> 00:55:40,583
twice this year,
in a year,
1198
00:55:40,583 --> 00:55:43,333
which is really
rough on Aus 'cause
1199
00:55:43,333 --> 00:55:45,333
his dad's not around
very often for him and
1200
00:55:45,333 --> 00:55:47,292
he wants his grandfather.
1201
00:55:47,292 --> 00:55:49,250
He really wants
his grandfather.
1202
00:55:49,250 --> 00:56:02,250
♪
1203
00:56:02,250 --> 00:56:06,292
- Can I sit here with you?
- Yeah, it's okay.
1204
00:56:06,292 --> 00:56:09,792
- What's going on?
- It's just stressful.
1205
00:56:09,792 --> 00:56:15,042
I know, it's a lot.
What's stressful?
1206
00:56:15,042 --> 00:56:17,042
Okay, so, I'm gonna-
can Grandpa
1207
00:56:17,042 --> 00:56:18,000
come over here
for a second also?
1208
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:19,333
- Yeah!
- Okay.
1209
00:56:19,333 --> 00:56:20,417
So, you know how you
have like so much stuff
1210
00:56:20,417 --> 00:56:22,083
in your house, right?
1211
00:56:22,083 --> 00:56:24,208
And I don't want
it to, like...
1212
00:56:24,208 --> 00:56:26,333
crowd up your house
still too because like
1213
00:56:26,333 --> 00:56:28,292
that's still a lot of stuff.
1214
00:56:28,292 --> 00:56:31,208
Austin, what's so upsetting
about it, my dear?
1215
00:56:31,208 --> 00:56:33,833
I don't know, I just...
1216
00:56:33,833 --> 00:56:35,500
want to come up here
a bit more often and
1217
00:56:35,625 --> 00:56:38,125
spend more time with you.
1218
00:56:38,125 --> 00:56:41,000
Are you worried about...
1219
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:43,875
again, not being able to come
up here to visit with us?
1220
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:46,333
I mean, I love coming up here,
but it's mainly you,
1221
00:56:46,458 --> 00:56:49,500
like, being able to
live in a nice house.
1222
00:56:49,500 --> 00:56:53,833
It's just
overwhelming, like...
1223
00:56:54,042 --> 00:56:57,042
I didn't think it would be
like this hard.
1224
00:56:57,042 --> 00:57:00,375
But then here I am...
about to cry on camera.
1225
00:57:04,333 --> 00:57:13,708
♪
1226
00:57:13,833 --> 00:57:16,458
Seeing David not being able
to let go of items
1227
00:57:16,458 --> 00:57:19,333
was really scary for Austin.
1228
00:57:19,333 --> 00:57:21,000
He feels as though
if his grandfather
1229
00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:22,500
doesn't let go
of these items,
1230
00:57:22,625 --> 00:57:24,167
there's going to be
no space for him
1231
00:57:24,167 --> 00:57:25,958
in his grandfather's life.
1232
00:57:25,958 --> 00:57:28,583
- It's just been hard, I guess.
- Yeah.
1233
00:57:28,583 --> 00:57:31,792
My dream is, and
always has been,
1234
00:57:31,792 --> 00:57:34,833
to spend more
time with you.
1235
00:57:34,833 --> 00:57:37,458
And your grandpa's
working very hard on that.
1236
00:57:37,458 --> 00:57:40,583
- I know.
- You know we love you.
1237
00:57:40,583 --> 00:57:42,417
- I know.
- You know?
1238
00:57:42,417 --> 00:57:44,250
And we'll always
be there for you.
1239
00:57:44,375 --> 00:57:46,042
Mhm.
1240
00:57:46,042 --> 00:57:49,667
My greatest hope for my
grandparents would be...
1241
00:57:49,667 --> 00:57:53,167
to have a nice living space
and to live there good.
1242
00:57:53,167 --> 00:57:55,625
Have a happy life, I guess.
1243
00:57:55,625 --> 00:57:57,333
Don't feel sad, love.
1244
00:57:57,333 --> 00:58:00,000
You've done so
much to help me...
1245
00:58:00,125 --> 00:58:01,292
and Grandma Odey.
1246
00:58:01,292 --> 00:58:02,667
You have done so
much to help us.
1247
00:58:02,667 --> 00:58:05,583
- Mhm.
- And I'm very proud of you.
1248
00:58:05,583 --> 00:58:07,083
And your grandpa, look,
he continues to
1249
00:58:07,083 --> 00:58:09,125
work through all of this,
and the more he does,
1250
00:58:09,125 --> 00:58:11,500
the more space for you guys
to come hang out. Okay?
1251
00:58:11,500 --> 00:58:14,000
- You okay now?
- Yeah.
1252
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:16,500
I worry about you when
you're not smiling.
1253
00:58:16,500 --> 00:58:17,750
- There we go!
- You're always smiling.
1254
00:58:17,875 --> 00:58:19,333
- Look at that.
- There we go.
1255
00:58:19,333 --> 00:58:21,458
- He's always got a smile.
- He's so sweet.
1256
00:58:21,458 --> 00:58:24,208
I'm not good with teeth
smiles 'cause I'm trying to
1257
00:58:24,208 --> 00:58:26,167
get used to brushing
my teeth now.
1258
00:58:26,167 --> 00:58:27,333
- [Laughing]
- Thank you.
1259
00:58:27,333 --> 00:58:29,500
- No problem.
- Okay, Kiddo?
1260
00:58:29,500 --> 00:58:32,500
Mhm. We are
going to do this.
1261
00:58:32,500 --> 00:58:33,667
We are going to
clear this house.
1262
00:58:33,792 --> 00:58:36,500
We are going to do it and,
with your help.
1263
00:58:36,500 --> 00:58:39,667
Austin's been pretty upset,
which I think might have
1264
00:58:39,667 --> 00:58:42,833
helped my dad realize
how upsetting it is for
1265
00:58:42,958 --> 00:58:45,375
everybody else, and that
there are people out there
1266
00:58:45,500 --> 00:58:46,667
that want to spend the
time with him,
1267
00:58:46,792 --> 00:58:49,417
but are unable to because
of how the house is.
1268
00:58:49,417 --> 00:58:51,000
- Well, we can throw that out.
- That can go.
1269
00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:53,958
David and Mike, we only have
half an hour to get
1270
00:58:53,958 --> 00:58:56,208
as many donations as
we can on the tarp
1271
00:58:56,208 --> 00:58:57,792
because the place
closes at four.
1272
00:58:57,792 --> 00:58:59,000
- Okay.
- Why don't we donate that?
1273
00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:01,083
She just bought it.
It's a pet carrier.
1274
00:59:01,083 --> 00:59:02,542
Let me take it over.
1275
00:59:02,542 --> 00:59:04,333
It's okay, let's focus,
if we can, on David's stuff.
1276
00:59:04,333 --> 00:59:07,000
I'm donating the porcelain.
1277
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:09,542
Okay, so let's make
this your donation box.
1278
00:59:09,542 --> 00:59:11,042
I'll get rid of
the onion skin.
1279
00:59:11,042 --> 00:59:14,417
I can donate.
Somebody can appreciate it.
1280
00:59:14,417 --> 00:59:17,292
♪
1281
00:59:17,292 --> 00:59:19,833
Giving it to the dump,
it bothers me,
1282
00:59:19,833 --> 00:59:22,458
if an item is
totally functional.
1283
00:59:22,458 --> 00:59:23,458
- Dad?
- Yeah?
1284
00:59:23,583 --> 00:59:24,500
No, no, no, no.
1285
00:59:24,500 --> 00:59:25,750
- I want to talk to you.
- No.
1286
00:59:25,750 --> 00:59:26,833
You better get
over there, Dave.
1287
00:59:26,833 --> 00:59:27,833
No...
1288
00:59:27,833 --> 00:59:29,000
We gotta finish
talking about this.
1289
00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:30,000
No, we don't.
1290
00:59:30,125 --> 00:59:32,208
Look at me,
first of all, in the eyes.
1291
00:59:32,333 --> 00:59:33,833
Ah!
1292
00:59:33,833 --> 00:59:35,958
It would mean everything
to this one...
1293
00:59:35,958 --> 00:59:40,667
♪
1294
00:59:40,667 --> 00:59:44,125
- Ah...
- You know what she would say.
1295
00:59:44,125 --> 00:59:45,792
I know what she would say.
1296
00:59:45,792 --> 00:59:48,583
♪
1297
00:59:48,583 --> 00:59:50,292
She's looking at
you right now.
1298
00:59:50,292 --> 00:59:53,333
- [Laughing]
- Please? Seriously!
1299
00:59:53,333 --> 00:59:54,583
Quit being emotional,
come on.
1300
00:59:54,583 --> 00:59:57,292
Well! Look at...
1301
00:59:57,292 --> 01:00:00,417
You don't need it.
I know you don't need it.
1302
01:00:00,417 --> 01:00:02,917
- Dad...
- Okay, treat it gently.
1303
01:00:02,917 --> 01:00:05,792
Okay, we'll
donate it, nicely.
1304
01:00:05,792 --> 01:00:07,583
- We're gonna donate it.
- Donate it.
1305
01:00:07,708 --> 01:00:09,708
David has parted with
the sewing machine.
1306
01:00:09,708 --> 01:00:12,708
That one item represented
a block for David...
1307
01:00:12,708 --> 01:00:15,667
And, this is a really good
sign that things are
1308
01:00:15,667 --> 01:00:18,333
going to get moving again.
1309
01:00:18,333 --> 01:00:20,500
Can you not look
at it this way?
1310
01:00:20,500 --> 01:00:22,833
You still have me.
1311
01:00:22,833 --> 01:00:26,792
Yeah, temporarily, I guess.
[Chuckling]
1312
01:00:26,792 --> 01:00:29,333
No, give me a kiss.
1313
01:00:29,333 --> 01:00:38,667
♪
1314
01:00:38,667 --> 01:00:42,042
- Okay, guys, good work.
- My sewing machine...
1315
01:00:42,042 --> 01:00:43,042
Oh, David...
1316
01:00:43,167 --> 01:00:44,625
It's on the truck,
it got donated.
1317
01:00:44,625 --> 01:00:49,500
I was so happy to see that
donation truck pull away.
1318
01:00:49,500 --> 01:00:51,500
It meant that we
had more space,
1319
01:00:51,667 --> 01:00:53,792
and it also made David
and Odette happy.
1320
01:00:53,792 --> 01:00:56,000
And the speakers
are still here.
1321
01:00:56,000 --> 01:00:57,958
[Mock crying]
1322
01:00:57,958 --> 01:01:00,333
When we go back, I want you
to look at that "keep" pile,
1323
01:01:00,333 --> 01:01:02,250
because all of that has
to come back in the house.
1324
01:01:02,375 --> 01:01:03,833
So, let's try to
get this done.
1325
01:01:03,833 --> 01:01:05,750
- Okay.
- I'm just...
1326
01:01:05,875 --> 01:01:15,000
♪
1327
01:01:15,125 --> 01:01:16,583
So, all this is staying,
we can't get rid of anything?
1328
01:01:16,583 --> 01:01:19,708
No, it's all good.
1329
01:01:19,708 --> 01:01:21,167
And this is staying?
1330
01:01:21,167 --> 01:01:23,500
Yep, I don't have the
strength to carry stuff
1331
01:01:23,500 --> 01:01:24,458
through the house.
1332
01:01:24,458 --> 01:01:25,500
But when I first
walked in, like,
1333
01:01:25,500 --> 01:01:26,833
there was no room for-
1334
01:01:26,833 --> 01:01:28,667
like we had to go sideways
through the house.
1335
01:01:28,667 --> 01:01:29,917
How did you wheel
that thing through?
1336
01:01:30,042 --> 01:01:32,542
I don't know.
You know what?
1337
01:01:32,542 --> 01:01:34,667
I'm going to give you
a smack in a minute.
1338
01:01:34,667 --> 01:01:37,208
- [Laughing]
- No one's smacking anyone.
1339
01:01:37,208 --> 01:01:39,000
She's too cute to smack.
1340
01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:41,167
The sense I'm getting is
there was a lot of
1341
01:01:41,167 --> 01:01:43,042
keep, keep, keep and
not giving away.
1342
01:01:43,042 --> 01:01:45,500
Because this is
my "keep" pile!
1343
01:01:45,500 --> 01:01:47,375
I understand, and
you know what?
1344
01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,792
If I asked David
a "keep" pile,
1345
01:01:48,917 --> 01:01:51,000
you and I know the entire
house would be keep, right?
1346
01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:53,917
Mike, do you think there's
anything here that
1347
01:01:54,042 --> 01:01:55,625
shouldn't be in
the keep pile?
1348
01:01:55,625 --> 01:01:57,125
Just remember who you're
dealing with here.
1349
01:01:57,125 --> 01:01:59,333
- Hold on, hold on!
- I can run faster than you.
1350
01:01:59,333 --> 01:02:02,542
- Ah, you can!
- I can!
1351
01:02:02,542 --> 01:02:04,042
- David and Samantha?
- Yeah?
1352
01:02:04,167 --> 01:02:06,167
I need you to come to the
donation truck with me,
1353
01:02:06,167 --> 01:02:08,167
if that's okay, for a moment.
- Oh, okay.
1354
01:02:08,167 --> 01:02:17,000
♪
1355
01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:20,167
We went to three
different donation places,
1356
01:02:20,292 --> 01:02:24,083
and they took only 5% of
what was in the truck.
1357
01:02:24,083 --> 01:02:27,875
It's our last option always
to discard items to landfill.
1358
01:02:27,875 --> 01:02:29,833
- But at this point...
- That's all you can do-
1359
01:02:29,833 --> 01:02:33,833
- We have no, no choice.
- We have no choice.
1360
01:02:33,833 --> 01:02:35,542
Are you okay, David?
I can sense you're-
1361
01:02:35,542 --> 01:02:38,667
Ah not really, not really.
1362
01:02:38,667 --> 01:02:41,000
No, I think I need
to take a break.
1363
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:43,375
All right, let's go, let's go
get you to a break.
1364
01:02:43,375 --> 01:02:49,167
♪
1365
01:02:49,167 --> 01:02:51,458
- Have a seat.
- How's it going so far?
1366
01:02:51,458 --> 01:02:53,417
- Not good.
- Not good?
1367
01:02:53,417 --> 01:02:55,042
No.
1368
01:02:55,042 --> 01:02:57,625
Seeing that truck come back
with a majority of its items,
1369
01:02:57,625 --> 01:02:59,667
is a huge blow to him.
1370
01:02:59,667 --> 01:03:01,750
I'm not sure if he
can push through.
1371
01:03:01,875 --> 01:03:04,458
I feel like I've just been
kicked in the gut again.
1372
01:03:04,458 --> 01:03:08,417
I'm just fed up.
'F' it.
1373
01:03:08,542 --> 01:03:09,833
Throw everything
in the garbage.
1374
01:03:09,833 --> 01:03:11,292
I don't care anymore.
1375
01:03:15,375 --> 01:03:19,083
♪
1376
01:03:19,083 --> 01:03:22,375
Today has been a series of
starts and stops and
1377
01:03:22,542 --> 01:03:24,417
a roller coaster
of emotions.
1378
01:03:24,417 --> 01:03:27,333
David, when he saw that
donation truck come back,
1379
01:03:27,458 --> 01:03:29,417
he was devastated.
1380
01:03:29,417 --> 01:03:37,000
♪
1381
01:03:37,125 --> 01:03:40,167
David is holding on to this
false hope that there is
1382
01:03:40,167 --> 01:03:44,042
so much value in all of
these donated items.
1383
01:03:44,042 --> 01:03:50,500
♪
1384
01:03:50,500 --> 01:03:54,208
I've just lost that...
1385
01:03:54,208 --> 01:03:57,417
get up and go in me,
like I do every time.
1386
01:03:57,542 --> 01:04:00,042
You have made an immense
amount of progress,
1387
01:04:00,208 --> 01:04:01,250
both of you.
1388
01:04:01,250 --> 01:04:04,083
This truck coming back
is one tiny obstacle.
1389
01:04:04,083 --> 01:04:08,042
Do we stop or do we not stop?
1390
01:04:08,042 --> 01:04:10,167
It's both of your decision.
1391
01:04:10,167 --> 01:04:13,458
Why are you asking me?
I've got my stuff.
1392
01:04:13,458 --> 01:04:15,000
This is all I have.
1393
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:17,250
The rest of the stuff in the
house is David's.
1394
01:04:17,250 --> 01:04:19,833
Everything upstairs in the
front bedroom, for instance,
1395
01:04:19,833 --> 01:04:21,833
is all the stuff you bought
for the house online.
1396
01:04:21,958 --> 01:04:23,917
You both live here together.
1397
01:04:24,042 --> 01:04:26,083
I don't give a rat's ass if
we both live here together.
1398
01:04:26,083 --> 01:04:28,667
I have the right
to own something.
1399
01:04:28,667 --> 01:04:30,125
I'm not hoarding.
1400
01:04:30,125 --> 01:04:32,833
I just want to keep the
little bit of stuff I have!
1401
01:04:32,833 --> 01:04:35,542
Because that's all
I own in this life!
1402
01:04:35,542 --> 01:04:38,292
Clearly, both of you are
unhappy with what's going on.
1403
01:04:38,292 --> 01:04:42,750
- Take a little bit of time.
- Okay.
1404
01:04:42,750 --> 01:04:44,833
Odette completely
blames David
1405
01:04:44,833 --> 01:04:46,417
for his hoarding behaviors.
1406
01:04:46,417 --> 01:04:49,750
However, what's concerning,
is that there is a huge
1407
01:04:49,875 --> 01:04:52,000
lack of awareness on
her own behaviors.
1408
01:04:52,125 --> 01:04:55,167
She's so focused on David.
1409
01:04:55,292 --> 01:04:57,000
Ah, now I'm getting
dizzy again.
1410
01:04:57,125 --> 01:04:58,750
Okay,
please sit down, please.
1411
01:04:58,750 --> 01:05:00,750
Sit... Sit down.
1412
01:05:00,750 --> 01:05:02,250
- Oh!
- Whoa!
1413
01:05:05,083 --> 01:05:13,167
♪
1414
01:05:13,167 --> 01:05:15,167
Calm down.
1415
01:05:15,167 --> 01:05:18,333
♪
1416
01:05:18,333 --> 01:05:20,583
I am concerned with
my dad, and his health.
1417
01:05:20,583 --> 01:05:23,833
He seems to be getting up and
getting dizzy quite often.
1418
01:05:23,833 --> 01:05:26,292
The anxiety, the tight chest,
the fighting.
1419
01:05:26,292 --> 01:05:28,500
He's not looking
after himself.
1420
01:05:28,500 --> 01:05:38,500
♪
1421
01:05:38,625 --> 01:05:40,333
Team, we'll be
back tomorrow.
1422
01:05:40,333 --> 01:05:42,125
Okay, let's tarp.
1423
01:05:42,125 --> 01:05:52,167
♪
1424
01:05:55,542 --> 01:05:57,833
Today, we're going
to clear the catwalk.
1425
01:05:57,833 --> 01:06:00,333
We're going to clear
the drafting room,
1426
01:06:00,333 --> 01:06:02,167
and the guest
bedroom at the front.
1427
01:06:02,167 --> 01:06:05,750
I can't stress enough to you
how important it is to
1428
01:06:05,750 --> 01:06:08,000
get Odette here so
we can get going.
1429
01:06:08,125 --> 01:06:10,208
We need her on site
to make decisions.
1430
01:06:10,208 --> 01:06:12,042
Right now, though,
she's very tired.
1431
01:06:12,042 --> 01:06:14,917
Yesterday was a bad day,
but I feel positive today.
1432
01:06:15,042 --> 01:06:16,625
I think I can, I can...
1433
01:06:16,625 --> 01:06:18,333
weather through this.
1434
01:06:18,333 --> 01:06:27,000
♪
1435
01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:28,667
Are you okay to come out?
1436
01:06:28,667 --> 01:06:29,833
It's warm,
they've set up tents.
1437
01:06:29,833 --> 01:06:31,625
[Odette] Okay.
1438
01:06:31,625 --> 01:06:38,500
♪
1439
01:06:41,667 --> 01:06:48,333
♪
1440
01:06:48,333 --> 01:06:49,458
We didn't see you in
the morning meeting.
1441
01:06:49,458 --> 01:06:50,333
No.
1442
01:06:50,333 --> 01:06:51,833
I just wanted to
check in with you,
1443
01:06:51,833 --> 01:06:53,250
because yesterday was
difficult for David,
1444
01:06:53,250 --> 01:06:55,125
it was difficult for you.
You were upset.
1445
01:06:55,125 --> 01:06:58,125
I was a little...
1446
01:06:58,125 --> 01:07:00,208
upset when it
comes to hoarding.
1447
01:07:00,208 --> 01:07:01,583
You know, maybe when
I was working,
1448
01:07:01,583 --> 01:07:04,125
I used to hoard clothes.
1449
01:07:04,125 --> 01:07:06,167
Do you feel like you
hoard items for the house?
1450
01:07:06,292 --> 01:07:09,000
No, I think the idea is I
think maybe I've got
1451
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:11,000
a lot of appliances
right now.
1452
01:07:11,125 --> 01:07:14,000
The point is,
I don't own much.
1453
01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:16,417
I don't own the
stuff David owns.
1454
01:07:16,417 --> 01:07:20,042
He has the basement filled,
the garage filled.
1455
01:07:20,042 --> 01:07:22,250
You and David coming together
to work collaboratively
1456
01:07:22,375 --> 01:07:24,042
to make decisions on
behalf of each other-
1457
01:07:24,167 --> 01:07:25,708
That won't be an issue.
1458
01:07:25,708 --> 01:07:32,667
♪
1459
01:07:32,667 --> 01:07:35,792
I have now made this table
the David and Odette table.
1460
01:07:35,792 --> 01:07:37,333
Dun-dun-dah!
1461
01:07:37,333 --> 01:07:40,167
David and Odette can
make decisions together,
1462
01:07:40,167 --> 01:07:42,208
so that there's no,
"he said, she said,"
1463
01:07:42,208 --> 01:07:44,333
and no blame after the fact.
1464
01:07:44,333 --> 01:07:46,833
The objective is to keep
your favorite things,
1465
01:07:46,833 --> 01:07:48,750
the things that
bring you value,
1466
01:07:48,875 --> 01:07:50,667
now and going forward.
1467
01:07:50,667 --> 01:07:52,750
No explanations because
it just takes too long?
1468
01:07:52,875 --> 01:07:54,083
Yes, no explanations.
1469
01:07:54,083 --> 01:07:55,167
No, "I'm going to
do this with it".
1470
01:07:55,292 --> 01:07:56,833
Just keep or discard.
1471
01:07:56,833 --> 01:07:59,083
He needs to decide quicker or
it's not going to get done.
1472
01:07:59,083 --> 01:08:01,500
- Keep or discard?
- Discard.
1473
01:08:01,500 --> 01:08:04,083
- Keep or discard?
- Keep, that's for the...
1474
01:08:04,208 --> 01:08:05,292
your truck.
1475
01:08:05,292 --> 01:08:06,833
- Keep or discard?
- Keep.
1476
01:08:06,958 --> 01:08:08,917
- Discard.
- Discard pile right there.
1477
01:08:08,917 --> 01:08:11,208
- Oh, this is working.
- Keep or discard?
1478
01:08:11,208 --> 01:08:15,625
This is old software.
It's obsolete, outdated.
1479
01:08:15,625 --> 01:08:20,292
Okay. Ah...
1480
01:08:20,292 --> 01:08:22,083
These, I can use,
I still use-
1481
01:08:22,083 --> 01:08:25,833
David! Get rid of it!
Everything's downloaded now!
1482
01:08:25,958 --> 01:08:27,333
I know, but you
have to buy them.
1483
01:08:27,333 --> 01:08:29,833
- These I still use.
- You will use this?
1484
01:08:29,833 --> 01:08:33,083
Yeah! This is all the stuff
that I use in my design stuff.
1485
01:08:33,083 --> 01:08:37,000
- All of this?
- Yeah.
1486
01:08:37,000 --> 01:08:38,083
Do you want Word Perfect?
1487
01:08:38,083 --> 01:08:39,667
No, I don't even use
Word Perfect.
1488
01:08:39,667 --> 01:08:42,042
David, David, all of
these are obsolete.
1489
01:08:42,167 --> 01:08:44,583
- Get rid of it, David.
- No.
1490
01:08:44,583 --> 01:08:47,333
[Sighing]
1491
01:08:47,333 --> 01:08:49,250
You guys don't understand
the process.
1492
01:08:49,375 --> 01:08:52,333
This is what,
what I use to create,
1493
01:08:52,333 --> 01:08:54,750
and I intend to
continue doing so.
1494
01:08:54,875 --> 01:08:57,250
David,
come have a seat.
1495
01:08:57,250 --> 01:08:59,208
It's almost like he doesn't
want to let go of his
1496
01:08:59,208 --> 01:09:03,167
previous life, because the
only time he was ever
1497
01:09:03,167 --> 01:09:07,208
sure of himself and he had
confidence, was in his job.
1498
01:09:07,208 --> 01:09:08,458
I just want you
to think about it.
1499
01:09:08,458 --> 01:09:10,417
This is exactly the
same position we're in,
1500
01:09:10,417 --> 01:09:13,667
holding on to a version of
us that no longer exists.
1501
01:09:13,667 --> 01:09:16,208
Let me reiterate then,
if that part of me,
1502
01:09:16,333 --> 01:09:19,500
of my life, that part of me
specifically doesn't exist,
1503
01:09:19,500 --> 01:09:21,375
then why should I
damn well exist?
1504
01:09:21,375 --> 01:09:24,708
Because that was my life
for around 50 years.
1505
01:09:24,708 --> 01:09:26,125
Was.
1506
01:09:26,125 --> 01:09:27,667
That's a bigger question:
Why should you exist?
1507
01:09:27,667 --> 01:09:28,917
Exactly.
1508
01:09:28,917 --> 01:09:30,208
Is that for your
grandchildren,
1509
01:09:30,208 --> 01:09:31,458
for your children?
1510
01:09:31,583 --> 01:09:32,875
And this is what I mean by
we're trying to
1511
01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:35,250
bring about the
change in behavior.
1512
01:09:35,375 --> 01:09:36,667
♪
1513
01:09:36,667 --> 01:09:39,000
I don't want you doing
this kind of stuff.
1514
01:09:39,000 --> 01:09:40,833
I want you spending
time with me.
1515
01:09:40,833 --> 01:09:43,333
I still want to practice...
1516
01:09:43,333 --> 01:09:46,417
my creative side, which I
haven't been able to do.
1517
01:09:46,542 --> 01:09:55,625
♪
1518
01:09:55,625 --> 01:09:57,542
I'm just going to put them here,
so they don't fall over.
1519
01:09:57,542 --> 01:09:58,667
I'm just going to
put them right here.
1520
01:09:58,667 --> 01:10:00,000
That's my only concern.
1521
01:10:00,000 --> 01:10:01,625
I can't believe it!
And you know,
1522
01:10:01,625 --> 01:10:04,250
I'm having a hard time
realizing that
1523
01:10:04,375 --> 01:10:05,958
things got that bad.
1524
01:10:05,958 --> 01:10:07,583
I pictured hoarder
with David,
1525
01:10:07,583 --> 01:10:10,583
but not to the extreme
that he really is.
1526
01:10:10,583 --> 01:10:12,875
I thought he was
able to purge,
1527
01:10:12,875 --> 01:10:16,167
but he's really bad.
1528
01:10:16,167 --> 01:10:18,250
Let's go over and
chat with Odette.
1529
01:10:18,375 --> 01:10:20,375
Oh, don't chat with me,
you'll be sorry.
1530
01:10:20,375 --> 01:10:22,542
♪ [Suspenseful]
1531
01:10:22,542 --> 01:10:24,417
I don't think you should
chat with me right now.
1532
01:10:24,417 --> 01:10:25,708
But it's your stuff so,
1533
01:10:25,708 --> 01:10:28,000
I just need direction
where it should go.
1534
01:10:28,000 --> 01:10:29,875
I'd like to tell
you where to put it,
1535
01:10:29,875 --> 01:10:31,167
to tell you the truth,
right now.
1536
01:10:31,292 --> 01:10:34,042
I don't think you should be
talking to me right now.
1537
01:10:34,042 --> 01:10:36,208
- Oh, I'm sorry.
- I think you should let me-
1538
01:10:36,208 --> 01:10:38,750
I think you should just
leave me for a while.
1539
01:10:38,875 --> 01:10:39,875
Okay.
1540
01:10:39,875 --> 01:10:42,208
Because I'm not
a happy camper.
1541
01:10:42,208 --> 01:10:44,000
If there's stuff
left tomorrow,
1542
01:10:44,000 --> 01:10:45,708
I'll throw it away myself.
1543
01:10:45,708 --> 01:10:48,417
- I need some space.
- Yeah, absolutely.
1544
01:10:48,417 --> 01:10:50,458
You please take your space.
1545
01:10:51,167 --> 01:10:53,083
I can't live like this.
1546
01:10:53,208 --> 01:10:56,458
♪ [Suspenseful]
1547
01:11:00,542 --> 01:11:04,208
♪
1548
01:11:04,208 --> 01:11:06,250
- You okay?
- Mhm.
1549
01:11:06,250 --> 01:11:08,833
I had to leave David.
He's going so slowly.
1550
01:11:08,958 --> 01:11:10,500
He goes through everything.
1551
01:11:10,500 --> 01:11:12,917
He's getting very upset
when he finds things.
1552
01:11:13,042 --> 01:11:14,417
We can't live like this.
1553
01:11:14,542 --> 01:11:17,583
- It's just impossible.
- [Inaudible conversation]
1554
01:11:17,583 --> 01:11:19,167
That blue chair
is all stained.
1555
01:11:19,167 --> 01:11:21,750
I know it's new.
Green, I mean green!
1556
01:11:21,750 --> 01:11:23,542
Oh, the green one?
1557
01:11:23,542 --> 01:11:25,792
They're missing the legs,
it's all stained.
1558
01:11:25,792 --> 01:11:27,167
It's gross.
1559
01:11:27,292 --> 01:11:29,667
I'm sorry, I can't,
I can't do that.
1560
01:11:29,667 --> 01:11:31,167
Okay, I don't know,
you're going to end up
1561
01:11:31,292 --> 01:11:32,583
being back in the same spot.
1562
01:11:32,583 --> 01:11:34,167
Look, love, I know you're
trying to work in my
1563
01:11:34,167 --> 01:11:35,500
best interest, but there's
certain things
1564
01:11:35,500 --> 01:11:37,792
I cannot make decisions on.
1565
01:11:37,792 --> 01:11:44,083
♪
1566
01:11:44,208 --> 01:11:45,250
Can we get rid of
the broken one?
1567
01:11:45,250 --> 01:11:46,833
Money doesn't
grow on trees.
1568
01:11:46,833 --> 01:11:49,042
I can't afford to buy
this type of thing.
1569
01:11:49,042 --> 01:11:52,208
- You've got two carts still.
- She is going to go ballistic.
1570
01:11:52,208 --> 01:11:54,583
She's going to go ballistic
for everything anyway, Dad.
1571
01:11:54,708 --> 01:11:57,500
- Yeah, I know but-
- I just can't do this anymore.
1572
01:11:57,500 --> 01:12:00,708
[Crying] I need you to
get rid of stuff, please!
1573
01:12:00,708 --> 01:12:02,625
It's getting a
little nerve racking.
1574
01:12:02,625 --> 01:12:05,625
He's just back
to his old ways.
1575
01:12:05,625 --> 01:12:07,917
She wouldn't have bought
this if she didn't need it.
1576
01:12:07,917 --> 01:12:10,542
Odette's a compulsive buyer.
I'll take the heat for it.
1577
01:12:10,542 --> 01:12:12,125
- Not you.
- Well, I don't care.
1578
01:12:12,125 --> 01:12:14,750
- Is that garbage?
- That's garbage, thanks.
1579
01:12:14,875 --> 01:12:16,708
His daughter...
1580
01:12:16,708 --> 01:12:19,750
wants nothing but the best,
so, sad to see the
1581
01:12:19,750 --> 01:12:23,917
relationship get to where
it is because of junk.
1582
01:12:24,042 --> 01:12:33,958
♪
1583
01:12:33,958 --> 01:12:35,500
I don't see my dad.
1584
01:12:35,500 --> 01:12:38,167
And, with him getting
to the age he is...
1585
01:12:38,167 --> 01:12:40,167
it scares me.
1586
01:12:40,292 --> 01:12:41,667
- [Crying]
- Yeah.
1587
01:12:41,667 --> 01:12:43,292
And just with the
health concerns,
1588
01:12:43,292 --> 01:12:46,000
that he's doing too
much for himself and...
1589
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:48,500
I just want to
see him happy.
1590
01:12:48,625 --> 01:12:50,042
But what about you,
Samantha?
1591
01:12:50,042 --> 01:12:52,042
All my life, it's just kind
of always just having that
1592
01:12:52,042 --> 01:12:55,083
hope that he'll change, and
I'm hoping that this will...
1593
01:12:55,083 --> 01:12:57,833
[Crying]
1594
01:12:57,833 --> 01:13:00,375
It's no fun being raised
as a neglected child,
1595
01:13:00,375 --> 01:13:02,083
and then to see that
exact same pattern
1596
01:13:02,083 --> 01:13:03,500
in your own children.
1597
01:13:03,500 --> 01:13:05,375
You know, Samantha,
when I think about you,
1598
01:13:05,500 --> 01:13:07,500
I know there's so
much bubbling under,
1599
01:13:07,500 --> 01:13:09,708
and I wonder if you
may feel like
1600
01:13:09,708 --> 01:13:12,625
you not being able to take
care of this means...
1601
01:13:12,625 --> 01:13:14,792
you'll never get a shot at
building a relationship
1602
01:13:14,917 --> 01:13:15,750
with your dad.
1603
01:13:15,875 --> 01:13:17,333
Yeah, I feel that way.
1604
01:13:17,333 --> 01:13:21,208
I just want to spend
time with my dad...
1605
01:13:21,333 --> 01:13:22,917
before his years are up.
1606
01:13:22,917 --> 01:13:26,042
Just worries me and I've
been trying for so long.
1607
01:13:26,042 --> 01:13:28,625
♪
1608
01:13:28,625 --> 01:13:29,917
Sorry.
1609
01:13:29,917 --> 01:13:31,917
[Sniffling]
1610
01:13:31,917 --> 01:13:33,542
So... Yeah,
1611
01:13:33,542 --> 01:13:37,708
I just want this to work out
so we can come visit him.
1612
01:13:37,708 --> 01:13:40,375
I want you to get
out of your own way.
1613
01:13:40,375 --> 01:13:43,333
Look at things in
the bigger context.
1614
01:13:43,333 --> 01:13:45,542
Let's just say we stop
right now, and you say:
1615
01:13:45,542 --> 01:13:48,208
"Ah, I change my mind,
I'm keeping everything".
1616
01:13:48,208 --> 01:13:50,083
Where does this stuff go?
1617
01:13:50,083 --> 01:13:51,708
♪
1618
01:13:51,708 --> 01:13:53,417
It's all going to go
back in the house.
1619
01:13:53,417 --> 01:13:56,667
I'm just being brutally
honest with you right now.
1620
01:13:56,792 --> 01:13:58,708
It's been a roller
coaster of emotions.
1621
01:13:58,833 --> 01:14:01,000
It's tiring,
it's mentally exhausting,
1622
01:14:01,000 --> 01:14:02,833
it's physically exhausting.
1623
01:14:02,833 --> 01:14:05,417
And, we just want to get
the job done and leave these
1624
01:14:05,417 --> 01:14:08,042
people in a better place
than what we found them.
1625
01:14:08,042 --> 01:14:18,083
♪
1626
01:14:19,125 --> 01:14:20,833
I'm bringing everyone
together because I want to
1627
01:14:20,833 --> 01:14:23,167
address something
very, very important.
1628
01:14:23,167 --> 01:14:26,333
If you look around,
there's so much stuff here.
1629
01:14:26,333 --> 01:14:28,208
We cannot hold on to
everything because
1630
01:14:28,208 --> 01:14:29,542
it's not realistic.
1631
01:14:29,542 --> 01:14:33,333
It's a trade:
him versus things.
1632
01:14:33,333 --> 01:14:34,833
I want to spend
time with my kids.
1633
01:14:34,833 --> 01:14:36,667
I want to make up for the
time that I've lost
1634
01:14:36,667 --> 01:14:37,917
with my grandkids.
1635
01:14:38,042 --> 01:14:39,333
You can't spend time
with your grandkids,
1636
01:14:39,333 --> 01:14:40,625
and do this,
and that.
1637
01:14:40,625 --> 01:14:42,167
You can't do all of it,
and this comes back to
1638
01:14:42,167 --> 01:14:44,375
the idea of
unfinished projects.
1639
01:14:44,375 --> 01:14:45,917
It only gets in your way.
1640
01:14:45,917 --> 01:14:48,000
But I can go through this
very quickly, and say:
1641
01:14:48,000 --> 01:14:49,000
"Keep, keep, keep, keep."
1642
01:14:49,000 --> 01:14:51,000
But David, if it was
that easy and quick,
1643
01:14:51,000 --> 01:14:53,208
then why didn't it happen
over the last two days?
1644
01:14:53,208 --> 01:14:55,542
Because you chose the
closest thing to my heart,
1645
01:14:55,667 --> 01:14:57,250
and that's my arts.
1646
01:14:57,250 --> 01:14:59,500
- I thought I was.
- You are!
1647
01:14:59,500 --> 01:15:01,875
But you put me through
living like this.
1648
01:15:01,875 --> 01:15:03,500
I went down a ladder
for two years.
1649
01:15:03,625 --> 01:15:05,625
I know and I feel
terrible about it.
1650
01:15:05,625 --> 01:15:07,708
Not terrible enough, obviously.
1651
01:15:07,708 --> 01:15:10,500
- Oh, come on.
- No, seriously, David.
1652
01:15:10,500 --> 01:15:13,500
Austin, sweetheart,
are you okay?
1653
01:15:13,500 --> 01:15:19,500
Are you feeling frustrated?
Overwhelmed?
1654
01:15:19,500 --> 01:15:21,833
I hate to see him like this.
1655
01:15:21,833 --> 01:15:24,875
- Who loves you, David?
- Okay, so-
1656
01:15:24,875 --> 01:15:26,667
Isn't he the most important
thing in the world?
1657
01:15:26,667 --> 01:15:30,167
So, can I do this?
Can I just walk away?
1658
01:15:30,167 --> 01:15:31,792
No.
1659
01:15:31,792 --> 01:15:33,458
I don't want to be
here because
1660
01:15:33,458 --> 01:15:35,875
I'm going to get
very emotional.
1661
01:15:35,875 --> 01:15:38,917
If I can walk away from this,
whatever you want
1662
01:15:38,917 --> 01:15:41,750
to get rid of,
it's Odette's decision.
1663
01:15:41,750 --> 01:15:44,000
David, this is your home,
both your home-
1664
01:15:44,000 --> 01:15:47,292
- I can't do it.
- Odette cannot make decisions.
1665
01:15:47,292 --> 01:15:48,667
You're avoiding the issue.
1666
01:15:48,667 --> 01:15:51,667
No, I'm not. I'm saying I'll
give you carte blanche.
1667
01:15:51,667 --> 01:15:53,750
But you have to decide
that for yourself.
1668
01:15:53,875 --> 01:15:57,417
♪
1669
01:15:57,417 --> 01:16:00,333
Okay so, you and I will
stick together and say,
1670
01:16:00,333 --> 01:16:03,000
yay, nay, but I
need you with me.
1671
01:16:03,000 --> 01:16:04,000
Okay.
1672
01:16:04,000 --> 01:16:06,417
And making split
decisions right away.
1673
01:16:06,542 --> 01:16:08,833
We can get a conveyor
belt of people,
1674
01:16:08,833 --> 01:16:11,125
just pulling the boxes.
- Sure, okay.
1675
01:16:11,125 --> 01:16:12,000
And I'd like to try that.
1676
01:16:12,000 --> 01:16:15,208
- All right.
- Let's get started.
1677
01:16:15,208 --> 01:16:16,750
- You okay, sweetie?
- Yeah.
1678
01:16:16,875 --> 01:16:18,000
Come on, we got
a day and a half.
1679
01:16:18,125 --> 01:16:19,500
- We're going to push through.
- Can we start?
1680
01:16:19,500 --> 01:16:23,375
I'm all for the plan,
but if it bogs down and
1681
01:16:23,375 --> 01:16:25,833
you start going back into...
1682
01:16:25,833 --> 01:16:28,875
the storytelling and the
hemming and hawing
1683
01:16:28,875 --> 01:16:31,833
about stuff, I'm going
to say goodbye.
1684
01:16:31,833 --> 01:16:35,542
It makes me sick to
look at this stuff.
1685
01:16:35,542 --> 01:16:38,500
- If we stop working...
- Okay.
1686
01:16:38,500 --> 01:16:42,708
- I'll call you next year.
- Okay.
1687
01:16:42,833 --> 01:16:45,917
It's hard because I feel
like I'm threatening him,
1688
01:16:46,042 --> 01:16:48,208
you know, with an
ultimatum of, if we don't play,
1689
01:16:48,208 --> 01:16:49,875
I'm going home...
1690
01:16:49,875 --> 01:16:51,375
but it seems to be
the only thing that
1691
01:16:51,375 --> 01:16:52,667
makes him work sometimes.
1692
01:16:52,667 --> 01:16:54,708
Mike is key to this process.
1693
01:16:54,708 --> 01:16:57,750
If Mike walks off, I think
we're in real trouble.
1694
01:16:57,875 --> 01:16:59,333
Put those in the garbage.
1695
01:16:59,333 --> 01:17:00,708
Out of sight,
out of mind, okay.
1696
01:17:00,833 --> 01:17:02,583
Good job.
You're doing good.
1697
01:17:02,583 --> 01:17:04,708
Here, I know it's hard,
I really...
1698
01:17:04,708 --> 01:17:07,875
I don't know what
it's like to be you.
1699
01:17:07,875 --> 01:17:10,000
It's probably
hard right now.
1700
01:17:10,000 --> 01:17:10,833
Are you happy?
1701
01:17:10,833 --> 01:17:12,458
Yes, I'm actually
really happy.
1702
01:17:12,458 --> 01:17:15,167
You're doing great,
I like this.
1703
01:17:15,167 --> 01:17:16,458
Yay!
1704
01:17:16,458 --> 01:17:21,167
I have 150 laserdiscs
and four machines.
1705
01:17:21,292 --> 01:17:23,000
- Okay.
- Goodbye.
1706
01:17:23,000 --> 01:17:24,708
- Yay!
- That 'a boy, David.
1707
01:17:24,833 --> 01:17:26,500
These are going
right in the garbage.
1708
01:17:26,500 --> 01:17:28,667
Okay.
1709
01:17:28,667 --> 01:17:29,833
Help me.
Yes, no?
1710
01:17:29,833 --> 01:17:32,208
- No, no.
- Yes, no?
1711
01:17:32,208 --> 01:17:33,208
- No!
- I like that one.
1712
01:17:33,208 --> 01:17:35,792
I don't like it, no!
No!
1713
01:17:35,792 --> 01:17:38,667
Oh, no, no!
They're all dated!
1714
01:17:38,667 --> 01:17:40,833
- Well, I'm dated!
- No, you're not.
1715
01:17:40,833 --> 01:17:43,875
- I'm 94 years old.
- [Laughing]
1716
01:17:44,000 --> 01:17:53,333
♪
1717
01:17:53,333 --> 01:17:56,833
Mine, get rid of it,
all of it.
1718
01:17:56,833 --> 01:17:58,542
This is all garbage,
you can just take-
1719
01:17:58,542 --> 01:17:59,958
everything here is garbage.
1720
01:17:59,958 --> 01:18:01,792
We've got an
assembly line going.
1721
01:18:01,917 --> 01:18:03,167
Things are rolling
pretty good.
1722
01:18:03,167 --> 01:18:04,833
You know what, I'm going
to get rid of that.
1723
01:18:04,958 --> 01:18:07,417
Garbage.
1724
01:18:07,417 --> 01:18:09,292
And if they stop,
then I'm gone, so...
1725
01:18:13,375 --> 01:18:20,917
♪
1726
01:18:20,917 --> 01:18:22,250
Good morning, everyone.
1727
01:18:22,500 --> 01:18:26,000
We've had three incredible
days, lots of obstacles,
1728
01:18:26,000 --> 01:18:27,833
lots of difficult
conversations.
1729
01:18:27,833 --> 01:18:30,000
David and Odette,
how are you both doing?
1730
01:18:30,000 --> 01:18:31,667
I think the whole
neighborhood
1731
01:18:31,667 --> 01:18:34,542
heard me last night.
1732
01:18:34,542 --> 01:18:36,333
I picked up some stuff
around the property
1733
01:18:36,333 --> 01:18:40,542
to throw in the dumpster.
Over the next two hours...
1734
01:18:40,542 --> 01:18:44,125
here I am, 73 years old,
dumpster diving.
1735
01:18:44,125 --> 01:18:48,208
No, not again. We've just
spent four real tough days
1736
01:18:48,208 --> 01:18:50,792
taking things and
putting them in there.
1737
01:18:50,917 --> 01:18:54,167
And there he is, up to his
old tricks again. It's like,
1738
01:18:54,167 --> 01:18:57,083
Dave, we just got you
on the right path, so...
1739
01:18:57,208 --> 01:19:00,625
You know what I felt like,
my honest feeling
1740
01:19:00,625 --> 01:19:03,167
in that dumpster with
my flashlight...
1741
01:19:03,167 --> 01:19:06,625
was I'm a hoarder.
1742
01:19:06,625 --> 01:19:09,708
No ifs or buts about it.
I can now say that.
1743
01:19:09,708 --> 01:19:11,792
I now know that I am.
1744
01:19:11,792 --> 01:19:13,583
It's been really
quite stressful.
1745
01:19:13,708 --> 01:19:15,542
I'm a wife of a hoarder.
1746
01:19:15,542 --> 01:19:17,750
I'm not the hoarder.
1747
01:19:17,750 --> 01:19:20,708
Believe me, living with
one is more than enough,
1748
01:19:20,708 --> 01:19:22,667
It's been really
hard for me.
1749
01:19:22,667 --> 01:19:25,167
I'd love to actually
applaud the both of you.
1750
01:19:25,292 --> 01:19:28,500
You have been amazing
at letting stuff go.
1751
01:19:28,625 --> 01:19:31,333
These are habits that you
guys can build on, right,
1752
01:19:31,333 --> 01:19:35,000
and help each other when
David's struggling, Odette.
1753
01:19:35,000 --> 01:19:38,000
So, the plan for today is we
are going to get in there,
1754
01:19:38,000 --> 01:19:40,042
the Extreme Clean
Group will clean.
1755
01:19:40,042 --> 01:19:41,125
We're going to take
everything and
1756
01:19:41,125 --> 01:19:42,708
move it back
into the house.
1757
01:19:42,833 --> 01:19:44,417
We're going to hand
you back your home.
1758
01:19:44,542 --> 01:19:51,500
♪
1759
01:19:51,500 --> 01:19:52,750
This is, this is a
major piece that
1760
01:19:52,750 --> 01:19:53,833
I'm a bit worried where
it's going to go.
1761
01:19:53,833 --> 01:19:55,667
Okay, that goes in
the dining room.
1762
01:19:55,667 --> 01:19:57,583
Throw it out.
1763
01:19:57,708 --> 01:19:58,917
It's the final push,
1764
01:19:58,917 --> 01:20:01,250
and there's still so
much to be done.
1765
01:20:01,250 --> 01:20:04,167
David and Odette are still
making some final decisions.
1766
01:20:04,167 --> 01:20:06,917
I need to get everybody
focused and mobilized,
1767
01:20:06,917 --> 01:20:08,417
so we can really
get this done
1768
01:20:08,417 --> 01:20:10,417
before they get
in the house.
1769
01:20:10,417 --> 01:20:15,500
♪
1770
01:20:15,625 --> 01:20:16,958
Oh, it was a struggle.
1771
01:20:16,958 --> 01:20:19,333
From day one,
it's been a struggle.
1772
01:20:19,333 --> 01:20:21,417
Hopefully, this is the start
of a whole new
1773
01:20:21,417 --> 01:20:23,125
way of life for them.
1774
01:20:23,125 --> 01:20:26,042
♪
1775
01:20:26,042 --> 01:20:28,667
I'm really proud
of my grandparents.
1776
01:20:28,667 --> 01:20:31,417
Now that everything's
cleaned out,
1777
01:20:31,417 --> 01:20:33,542
they can be happy again.
1778
01:20:33,542 --> 01:20:40,792
♪
1779
01:20:44,500 --> 01:20:51,333
♪
1780
01:20:51,333 --> 01:20:53,458
- Wow.
- Oh.
1781
01:20:53,458 --> 01:20:57,708
♪
1782
01:20:57,833 --> 01:20:59,000
[Gasping] Oh,
it smells so clean!
1783
01:20:59,000 --> 01:21:01,667
- This is amazing.
- Whoa!
1784
01:21:01,667 --> 01:21:04,667
This is absolutely amazing.
1785
01:21:04,792 --> 01:21:06,208
It looks like a home.
1786
01:21:06,333 --> 01:21:09,250
[Crying]
1787
01:21:09,250 --> 01:21:11,250
This is amazing.
1788
01:21:11,250 --> 01:21:15,333
The smiles on their faces,
and the tears and...
1789
01:21:15,333 --> 01:21:17,583
I could see the
love for each other,
1790
01:21:17,583 --> 01:21:19,583
the two of them. I feel like
I haven't seen that
1791
01:21:19,583 --> 01:21:21,500
for a while from
either one of them.
1792
01:21:21,500 --> 01:21:22,750
That's nice.
1793
01:21:22,750 --> 01:21:23,917
So, you're going to
stay with me now?
1794
01:21:23,917 --> 01:21:26,333
- Yes.
- Forever?
1795
01:21:26,333 --> 01:21:28,708
Yes.
1796
01:21:28,708 --> 01:21:30,750
It's beautiful,
absolutely beautiful.
1797
01:21:30,750 --> 01:21:32,583
Extremely happy for
Odette and David.
1798
01:21:32,583 --> 01:21:35,292
It looked like you could
actually sit down, kick back,
1799
01:21:35,292 --> 01:21:38,208
have a cold one and
watch the football game.
1800
01:21:38,208 --> 01:21:40,167
It was nice,
nice to see.
1801
01:21:40,167 --> 01:21:43,333
Let's go take a
look at the kitchen.
1802
01:21:43,333 --> 01:21:44,750
All the fights we've had
in this kitchen
1803
01:21:44,875 --> 01:21:46,708
because you keep
tripping over-
1804
01:21:46,708 --> 01:21:48,917
- Well, you kept banging me!
- Oh, wow.
1805
01:21:48,917 --> 01:21:52,125
Oh, look at this!
[Gasping] Holy cow!
1806
01:21:52,125 --> 01:21:54,542
♪
1807
01:21:54,542 --> 01:21:55,708
Hey, guys.
1808
01:21:55,708 --> 01:21:57,167
I can't believe you
can walk in here.
1809
01:21:57,167 --> 01:21:59,000
- How are you feeling?
- I feel great.
1810
01:21:59,000 --> 01:22:00,333
There's space.
1811
01:22:00,333 --> 01:22:02,625
Everything was that you
had to walk sideways.
1812
01:22:02,625 --> 01:22:03,875
And how does it feel
to know that
1813
01:22:03,875 --> 01:22:05,750
you never have to use
that entrance?
1814
01:22:05,750 --> 01:22:07,250
- It feels great.
- It's incredible.
1815
01:22:07,250 --> 01:22:09,083
A weight has been
lifted off me.
1816
01:22:09,083 --> 01:22:11,375
I feel like I can breathe
and not have to worry
1817
01:22:11,375 --> 01:22:13,583
as much about my dad.
1818
01:22:13,583 --> 01:22:16,583
There's an incredible amount
of progress that's been made.
1819
01:22:16,583 --> 01:22:20,333
However, there's a lot that
still needs to be done.
1820
01:22:20,333 --> 01:22:21,667
There's still a lot
of boxes that
1821
01:22:21,792 --> 01:22:23,417
we weren't able
to get through.
1822
01:22:23,417 --> 01:22:25,792
You guys can take it
one box at a time.
1823
01:22:25,792 --> 01:22:27,208
This is going to
work perfectly.
1824
01:22:27,333 --> 01:22:31,125
It's a road map to get
you over the finish line.
1825
01:22:31,125 --> 01:22:34,625
It's chunking off the
chore into small segments.
1826
01:22:34,625 --> 01:22:36,333
That's exactly right.
1827
01:22:36,333 --> 01:22:37,833
Our friends at
Extreme Clean Group
1828
01:22:37,833 --> 01:22:41,750
took out 13 tons of stuff.
1829
01:22:41,750 --> 01:22:43,167
- 13 tons?
- What?
1830
01:22:43,167 --> 01:22:46,167
- 13 tons.
- That's incredible.
1831
01:22:46,167 --> 01:22:49,167
I'm so proud of these
two individuals...
1832
01:22:49,167 --> 01:22:51,958
working through things
together where they had
1833
01:22:51,958 --> 01:22:53,500
never done that before.
1834
01:22:53,500 --> 01:22:55,667
And I'm really hopeful
that going forward,
1835
01:22:55,667 --> 01:22:59,625
they're forging this great
new path to be able to
1836
01:22:59,625 --> 01:23:01,375
not re-hoard the home.
1837
01:23:01,500 --> 01:23:03,750
- Oh, wow!
- [Gasping]
1838
01:23:03,750 --> 01:23:06,042
♪
1839
01:23:06,042 --> 01:23:09,625
Oh, my God.
[Gasping]
1840
01:23:09,625 --> 01:23:11,875
- Whoa!
- It's amazing.
1841
01:23:11,875 --> 01:23:13,583
You've never seen
this room, have you?
1842
01:23:13,583 --> 01:23:15,917
It's gorgeous.
1843
01:23:15,917 --> 01:23:18,458
[Crying] It's so nice!
1844
01:23:18,458 --> 01:23:22,958
♪
1845
01:23:22,958 --> 01:23:24,917
- This is really cool.
- Yeah.
1846
01:23:25,042 --> 01:23:26,333
Are you ready to stay
up here on weekends?
1847
01:23:26,333 --> 01:23:28,833
- I'm excited for Christmas.
- Yeah, me too.
1848
01:23:28,833 --> 01:23:29,958
Oh, that would
make me...
1849
01:23:30,083 --> 01:23:31,833
That would make
Odey so happy.
1850
01:23:31,833 --> 01:23:32,917
Happier than anything
in the entire world.
1851
01:23:33,042 --> 01:23:36,000
You guys have been
wanting that for years.
1852
01:23:36,000 --> 01:23:37,167
We're gonna have
everybody here.
1853
01:23:37,292 --> 01:23:40,458
- It would be wonderful.
- Yeah, whole family.
1854
01:23:40,458 --> 01:23:42,083
Sorry, love.
1855
01:23:42,208 --> 01:23:46,500
♪
1856
01:23:46,500 --> 01:23:47,958
[Sniffling]
1857
01:23:47,958 --> 01:23:50,125
- I get the armpit.
- Come over here, Sienna.
1858
01:23:50,125 --> 01:23:52,250
[Laughing &
indistinct speaking]
1859
01:23:52,375 --> 01:23:54,542
Grandma Odey...
[Indistinct speaking]
1860
01:23:54,542 --> 01:23:57,667
Decluttering this home was a
huge healing process for this
1861
01:23:57,667 --> 01:24:01,875
entire family, and I'm so
happy to see how the family
1862
01:24:01,875 --> 01:24:03,208
has come together and
were able to
1863
01:24:03,208 --> 01:24:05,167
enjoy this moment together.
1864
01:24:05,167 --> 01:24:07,917
This is just the beginning of
a long journey that's ahead
1865
01:24:07,917 --> 01:24:10,750
and, it's up to the two of you
to continue doing that work.
1866
01:24:10,750 --> 01:24:13,792
And one of the things that we
want to discuss is aftercare.
1867
01:24:13,792 --> 01:24:15,083
That is a yes.
1868
01:24:15,083 --> 01:24:16,833
Odette, are you
interested in after care?
1869
01:24:16,833 --> 01:24:21,125
I am. I want to be
on board with David.
1870
01:24:21,125 --> 01:24:22,458
We have a chance now.
1871
01:24:22,458 --> 01:24:25,000
We really didn't
have a chance before.
1872
01:24:25,125 --> 01:24:27,167
I get my husband back.
1873
01:24:27,167 --> 01:24:29,125
We will always
be very grateful.
1874
01:24:29,125 --> 01:24:30,083
Yes, we will.
1875
01:24:30,083 --> 01:24:31,250
- Thank you.
- Always.
1876
01:24:31,250 --> 01:24:32,917
I want to give you
both a big, big hug.
1877
01:24:32,917 --> 01:24:34,542
Aw. [Laughing]
1878
01:24:34,542 --> 01:24:37,000
You were absolutely wonderful.
You have been such a help.
1879
01:24:37,000 --> 01:24:39,042
Thank you so much,
guys, both of you.
1880
01:24:39,042 --> 01:24:42,083
I really was just
living out my days.
1881
01:24:42,208 --> 01:24:44,500
I should go off and die
tomorrow, what the hell.
1882
01:24:44,625 --> 01:24:45,417
I couldn't care less.
1883
01:24:45,417 --> 01:24:47,542
Now I've got
something, a hope.
1884
01:24:47,542 --> 01:24:53,208
And I keep talking
about dreams. And...
1885
01:24:53,208 --> 01:24:55,417
my dreams are
going to come true.
1886
01:24:55,417 --> 01:25:04,292
♪