Well, thanks for getting a hold of me.
I'm really excited about this.
Oh, I was so excited to find you,
because I don't know, hardly anything about my family tree.
This is a part of me that's excited.
You have good matches, so possibly,
you could have some half siblings.
Right. But, this is, like a shot in the dark.
You just get very angry recently.
That's what we don't understand.
I'm not a ----ing doormat. Your reactions are just,
like, over the top, and that's what concerns us.
So, I'm gonna do an event next week.
It's actually called Black Shabbat.
-A Jewish Shabbat dinner? -Correct.
-That's for Black people? -Correct.
I hope she's not gonna get on a soap box
-and start preaching to us. -I don't know what to expect.
-Where's Leah? -Okay, Leah, sadly,
was exposed, potentially, to COVID.
Oh, no.
So excited to have all of you here.
We are having a "Jew Belong" Shabbat tonight.
When I went to college, the Jewish people hated me.
-We're not talking about that. -I'm just saying.
Right now, we're talking about the Black race,
-and our Jewish friends. -I wished I was born Jewish.
-Ramona! -Sit down, shiksa!
We're not gonna make it about you and your white isolation.
Are we getting our first course?
-We're not done with Shabbat. -This is nuts, Leah.
Like this is why I needed you here.
I need food. What did they tell you to do?
I don't even understand what happened to Ramona.
I kinda regret doing this whole thing, by the way.
Like, why does Sonja get it,
Luann gets it, Ramona doesn't ----ing get it.
Well, I'm just gonna have a little something,
because I'm getting a little hangry.
Can I have this? This is my plate?
I'll eat it now. Okay, great. It's just, I need food.
You know, I was running all day. I went with my accountant,
I did business with real estate.
I didn't have time to eat. I really didn't eat.
And, we've been here now for two hours,
and I know we're doing all these prayers and stuff,
and you know, it was delicious, but I need food.
What can I say? Sometimes, when there's no food
to put in my mouth, my foot goes in my mouth.
Like, I feel like I'm being so diplomatic.
You know what I think?
I think we're flustering the host, the hostess.
Is it host or hostess? You know, they say,
it used to be waiter and waitress,
and now, it's just waiter, you know?
It's supposed to be, like, singular sex,
I mean, it's so confusing.
Her, she, uh, them.
You know, seriously, things have changed in this world.
I'm a little older, and I'm learning the new world.
But right now, I'm starving. [laughs]
I'm not gonna expose you to this, this is a sh-- show.
Yeah, I'll call you after.
Thank you, I love you, I'll talk to you later.
Thank you. Love you.
Listen, I bring you to a beautiful home, with beautiful
people, there's beautiful food, and beautiful drinks.
All you gotta do is shut the hell up
and enjoy, and Ramona can't even do that.
I think I left my purse in here.
So, it's like a feta, but better?
I left it in the other room, I think.
Oh, those look good. Oh, here it is.
But you didn't add too much of it?
And then the roasted red peppers are great.
-What are you doing? -I'm starving,
-I haven't eaten all day long. -You're kidding me.
They want to bless the bread yet.
-Oh. -We have another hour to go.
Ramona's in the kitchen, eating.
Lu, let her eat. That's fine.
What does that mean, she's in the kitchen eating?
-She's eating in the kitchen. -She's that hungry?
-Yeah. -She's a grown-up, like...
Thank you for making the effort.
Oh, effort! I'm having a great time.
-Are you having fun? -This is better than a show.
Good.
I'm giggling, because it's shocking, and embarrassing.
I just feel very misunderstood. Tonight wasn't even about,
actually, it wasn't about Black people.
This is supposed to be about human values that we all have.
Well, everybody doesn't have them.
When Ramona's hungry, the human values go out the window.
Shocking and embarrassing leads to me giggling.
What can I tell you, that's how I cope.
-Are you okay, baby? -I don't know.
I think, I had a, I had a meltdown. I had a meltdown.
I don't-- listen, I didn't eat all day.
You haven't eaten a morsel, so you're starving?
-You're hungry-- -No, it's hangry. Hangry.
I understand, you were hangry.
-We're ready to serve, right? -Okay, fine. Yeah.
I'm just gonna make the blessing over the wine.
-Perfect. -On page five.
-Where's Leah? -She said [bleep] us.
I don't blame her. I'd like to bless with tequila.
-Here's tequila. -I don't think the Jews do that.
-Yes, they do. -Do they?
-Jew Belong, are you kidding me? -I'll Jew Belong!
Let her do the toast, please.
You should worry about what you're saying.
Shh. Can I, can I have a little bit of--
-Shh, wait. Wait, just wait. -[speaks Hebrew]
Everybody stay with me: [speaks Hebrew]
[All repeat]
Sonja's been drinking non-stop since we got on the bus,
like, three hours ago, and with no food.
So, this is not going to be pretty.
Yes. Here's our entrees.
I'm gonna run off to the restroom.
-Okay, baby. -Thank you.
Thank you. This looks beautiful.
Challah!
- Challah! - Challah!
Eboni, I feel, were you happy?
-You feeling okay? -I'm good.
I just want my friends to see what we do.
We do this routinely. I mean, it's hard.
You know, in many ways, maybe Ramona's
outburst was accurate because everybody--
Everybody doesn't get what we do, Archie?
No, no, I do this with my friends.
A lot of my friends are Jewish, and I've gone to temple,
and I almost converted--
I would never think you were anti-Semitic,
but what I do want you to understand though,
Ramona, is the reason this is Black Shabbat
-is because there's a special-- -Bond...
...between Blacks and Jews.
-Yeah, between Blacks and Jews. -Yeah, I think it's fabulous.
-It's not meant to alienate... -Right.
...Italians or Scottish people or anyone else.
It's just to say that in this country,
we kind of share a unique experience.
I understand. I get it.
Thank you, Ramona, for being open
to revisit it, because that's important.
Guys, I hate to do this, but I'm going to pull us
-back to the Shabbat. -Don't hate to do it.
Don't hate to do it at all. This is a Shabbat dinner.
Okay, as I said at the beginning,
Shabbat is the perfect time to do soul searching.
For so many people, it's so hard to show their heart.
-So, show me your heart-- -I am.
Hold on, I have to think about my questions.
I don't wanna read anymore. I want talking now.
Wait, so I wanted to share Ramona, you're not running sh--.
You're running, alright? It's not yours.
So, the questions about the week are on page 20.
-So, everyone can pick one. -Okay, what makes my heart beat?
-Whoa. -More one-on-one relationships.
-Yeah. -More of the one-on-one.
I need that, and I'm not talking about with my girlfriends.
I'm talking about my philanthropy, and my message.
I'm talking about now more on a one-to-one basis for soul food.
You know what I mean?
Like I won't do the $1200 ticket bull----.
We raise real money for real causes that
a lot of people don't care about.
Sonja, a lot of times just has one drink too many,
she has diarrhea of the mouth,
she's like a broken record,
and she doesn't let anybody else have a chance to talk.
-It's annoying. -The dinners I do...
-Oh my God. -...don't even cover the wine.
So the wine that's donated is like, I don't know, $1200.
Alright, who has the next question?
-I don't, we don't have-- -Next.
Excuse me, jealous bitch.
-I'm not jealous. -Well, why'd you cut me off?
Because she took over the questions--
The charities I do have step and repeats.
-That's great. Are you next? -What you do you?
Why don't you tell us what you're doing on a daily basis?
Because this woman is on the ground, she is helping people
to come out of prison and get a home, and a job.
What are you doing on a daily basis to help somebody?
So don't shut me up.
-It's okay, Sonja, it's okay. -Alright.
So, don't you ever shush me
for my works of faith, and giving back compassion.
Never shush me. Please, have some boundaries
and do something for others, and stop social climbing,
social ----ing climbing for yourself.
For what? Another yacht?
Another plane? Another dress?
-Another Gucci? -Okay, Sonja, that's enough.
Wow. She's lost her mind. This is scary.
Oh yeah, I lost my mind.
-why don't you find one? -No, no, no, no.
Find a purpose.
Find a ----ing purpose.
Oh, yeah. I lost my mind. Why don't you find one?
Find a purpose.
Find a ----ing purpose.
Here's the thing. She needs to cool off.
Archie, don't worry about it. She's upset.
I feel nuts, but I feel like we need to continue Shabbat.
Luann, I raised money with Michael for AIDS awareness.
-I know, but don't, don't-- -These are not just
----ing people to social climb.
-I know. -She's not doing the hard work,
she's not doing the heavy lifting.
-She needs to do more. -But you know what? Now's not--
And then she sits at dinner being disruptive
and she needs to get real
and do the work and feel the other people,
-feel other people's pain. -I know, but for some reason,
I don't think we're going to change her mind tonight.
I'm gonna say this, and I mean it with love.
Time out on the white people for tonight.
-We're gonna go with-- -Oh, we're segregated now?
-That is so funny. -We've been segregated.
Well, I'm both. I'm white and Black.
Ramona just said she's white and Black.
Ramona is pulling a Michael Jackson tonight.
I go both ways.
We're gonna hear from the culture.
And, we're gonna go to Linara.
What question would you like to answer?
Yeah, Linara.
When did I feel that my life was most meaningful?
Last year, at this time, I gave birth
to a 29-weeker, and I was in the NICU for--
Wait, excuse me, time out.
-Mm-hm. -You gave birth early?
Because normal is what? 40?
-It's 40 weeks. -Wow.
So me and my son almost died.
-Oh my God, are you serious? -Shh.
I had some poor medical service, as most Black women experience.
Do you think that the treatment that you got
was because you were Black?
I know the treatment that I got because--
Because why?
I have fibroids, and I had a fibroid that was degenerating.
They just didn't believe that I was actually in
as much pain as I was communicating.
So, instead they thought that I was addicted to drugs.
-What? Oh, come on. -And they treated me,
as I was asking for pain medicine
for five days that I was trying to hurt myself and my baby.
And so because I was in pain for so long,
-it induced my labor. -So, how would a white woman
be treated differently than you?
-That's a good question. -Medically, medically.
How would I have been treated, may I ask?
Should that have been you, and there is a study
that just came out last week that a white woman,
you would have gotten the pain medicine
during the time frame
in which you needed to in order to manage it,
and get ahead of it. So, that, that would have
-never happened. -Let me tell you something.
I gave birth to my daughter,
and I was in major pain and I had a nurse,
and she was Black, and I said I am having
so much pain and she wouldn't believe me.
She goes, "You're not having pain." I was screaming
and I'm like, "[bleep] you, I need painkillers."
I mean, I didn't have a second baby because of the
pain I had from my first, and I was a white woman.
My doctor didn't take care of my pain, my nurses didn't.
That's not how it usually goes, is what she's saying.
I'm just saying I was in ----ing pain and no one paid attention
-to my pain. -Well, you're very special.
She's saying that's not how it goes normally.
I'm just saying.
I mean it happens to white people too.
Some white people, not most white people.
-Did you hear what she said? -This is a runaway train.
You jump out the window, you're doomed.
If you stay in the train, you're doomed.
I mean, either way, you're gonna crash.
I feel like you are the most graceful.
Thank you.
Like everything you say is with grace.
She is.
Most people would have cursed Ramona the [bleep] out
-when you ask them that. -Like me.
Well, I like to ask questions, I'm sorry.
I know, but it comes across, wait a minute,
Archie, Archie, wait, one second.
I need to speak on this.
What Ramona doesn't realize, and I think
I also have a high tolerance for Ramona's inquisition,
at some point, the questioning feels...adversarial.
-That's my personality. -I understand,
but I want you to know, because I do care about you.
-I question like a lawyer. -We talked about it.
-I question things. -Because I don't want you,
Ramona, looking unlike your spirit, so therefore you have to
make space for the fact that when you question this woman
about her experience giving birth, surely--
No, I'm in shock that a doctor--
So, then say "I'm in shock."
-I'm in shock. I am in shock. -Thank you. Say that.
Okay.
I believe in Ramona Singer. God help me,
I believe in Ramona Singer. And I really want Ramona to
understand that what she's saying
is not becoming, and I don't even think
it's really her on a visceral level, but I'm really about to
run out of patience with Ramona's ass.
That wasn't Linara's answer. Now, Lu's going to pick
-a number. -I just have one more question.
Did you, she was a different doctor?
-Yes. -Are we closing this up soon?
We're not closing it up. You can get an Uber.
-You need to go? -It's like nine o'clock.
I've been here for four hours. I'm tired.
-I want to go home and sleep. -Yeah, go home.
Things are happening here tonight.
Nobody that doesn't want to be here should be here.
-No, I'm just tired. -I understand.
You should go home, Ramona. Go ahead.
-I get it. -I'm not holding anybody hostage
-at god damned Black Shabbat. -No.
If you don't want to be here and listen to the spiritual
work being done, get the [bleep] out.
Nathan, I'm tired.
I've been studying, working, so call me an Uber.
I'm gonna say goodnight, okay?
Sorry, Archie, this is too much.
No, it's not.
-You have went out of your way. -I am so sorry.
I've been as patient as I know how to be
with your ----ing friend, Ramona.
You don't want to do the work, get the [bleep] out.
-Don't blame her on me. -I don't know what's going on.
Do you really want to leave?
Is this you trying to undermine this evening?
And what it's about?
Or are you just too damned selfish
to appreciate what is in front of you? Bitch, bye.
I mean, if I wasn't tired, I'd stay for another hour,
but I'm tired and you know what, I have to listen to my body.
I appreciate that.
It was already an hour and a half drive to get there.
I've been there for over three hours. Even weddings don't
last more than three or four hours, and this isn't a wedding.
Well, I'm leaving in a couple of minutes, so.
Oh, you're gonna take an Uber home?
Yeah. I'm tired.
You came, and you participated, which is what I appreciate.
Yeah, I was going to answer the question.
What would I like to change about myself?
-To be more filtered. -More what?
-More filtered. -Oh, more filtered.
because sometimes, I say things--
Okay, before, okay guys, guys,
Ramona's gonna leave us probably a few minutes early.
But, she wants to offer her answer first.
If I could change one thing about myself, what would it be?
Oh, I love that.
-To be less unfiltered. -Okay.
I sometimes speak without thinking.
I didn't mean to insult anybody tonight. I know I did.
I'm sometimes like a two year old,
-I'm trying to get better. -Yeah.
I know I'm not perfect.
No, that's what I'd like to change, and I want
to still be honest and say how I feel.
But sometimes, I don't think about other people's feelings
and I don't take in what they're saying, before
I jump on what I'm feeling and thinking so.
-Oh, wow, well said. -Have you always been like that?
-Even when you were a kid? -I was worse.
-I've gotten better. -No, you're much better.
-You don't understand. -They say she's better.
-She's much better. -That's embarrassing.
But I still gotta get better. I gotta get better.
Ramona's come such a long way and I thought we exhausted all
-that bad behavior. -So I don't get why he's here.
I heard that you never go out without him.
Is that really true? That's like so strange.
At least I have friends, you have no friends.
You have nobody in your life. Right now, you have Jason.
You'll probably mess that up too.
143 something?
114. Don't you think you should have written it down?
So you remember? So you don't have to ask me again?
You knew that if Avery was coming down here,
it was because I have a huge anxiety problem.
It would be to get me on the plane.
Aviva, you're missing the point!
-Don't yell at me. -Take a Xanax!
-Call my husband. -Calm down!
You're in the press now, being naked and doing soft porn.
Has anybody approached your daughter?
Have you explained to her the situation?
-At six? Yeah, she got a-- -No, I'm asking.
You look old for your age and I look
young for my age, and that's how it stands.
You are a bitch.
What did I say that was so mean?
I'm just amazed that she still
had this kind of behavior in her.
We want to acknowledge that you had
the self-awareness to say that.
I'm construing that as a bit of an apology to Linara.
-Absolutely, I apologize. -About her experience,
-Yeah -and that's good.
I apologize for losing it on you, because, you know,
I love you like family, and family does that.
-Y'all go ahead and do that. -They just do that.
-You know, family does that. -No, I'm serious.
They need to do that. I'm not sorry
for a god damned thing I said.
You have come so far.
-I mean every word. -You really have come so far.
I love you, but you have so far to go, still.
I'm grossed out. I am so grossed out right now.
I'm always there for Ramona, no matter what,
she has a soft place to fall and maybe, she learned something
tonight, but I'm not happy about what's transpired.
She eats, and she's done.
Yeah, she was hungry. She was a ----ing ----.
She ate, then she was less of ----, but still a ----.
Coming up...
Ramona and I are night and day,
and yet, we're very aligned. It's very weird.
And I never met someone that I bonded with so fast.
I wouldn't say that you are like Ramona
-but okay. -No, we are.
[festive music]
No Avery, no cocoa.
I'm home alone. Good thing I like myself.
[knocking on door]
-Hey, good morning. -It's me, hi.
I'm just talking about you, to myself.
You were talking to yourself?
-Yeah. -How's that going?
It's going, I mean, usually I talk to--
-It's hot here. -Really? I'll open the window.
Because I'm always hot, now I feel fine.
But, I'll open a window for you?
-Yeah. It's warm in here. -Okay.
How you doing? Oh my gosh!
This view, you can never get enough of this view.
I don't think Ramona even has a clue
that she was like over the top,
rude to so many people last night.
And uh, you know, I'm not here to
pour gasoline on the fire.
I'm here to, you know,
help her figure out how she's going to stand back up.
That was quite the night.
As soon as Sonja went nuts on me, I just like blocked it out.
I know, but it's not the first time she went nuts on you.
She started saying really disgusting things,
and I think she's just talking about herself.
I think she's projecting.
I do think it's sometimes a reflection of what's going on
the inside, when people do that.
I feel like I'm watching a train wreck.
I feel like, I feel like
she's on a train and I know she's gonna crash.
-I know. I feel helpless. -And there's nothing we can do.
Sonja, at this point, has no regard for people's
feelings, people's property and most importantly,
no regard for herself, the way she's acting.
I love Ramona. Deflect. Let's keep the focus on somebody else
like Sonja, and not myself. Have you spoken to Eboni?
Yeah, I did. Um, I mean I did.
First of all, let me just give you
my opinion, before I hear even what Eboni said.
First of all, it was so rude,
and I'm being totally honest with you.
-I was starving. I'm sorry. -I understand that, but you have
to reel it in and go, "Oh my God, am I being rude?
"And I should probably get back to the table."
I said, "Can I please get something to eat, because
"I'm really hungry. I haven't eaten all day."
They brought out all those appetizers.
It wasn't enough for me. I was still starving.
-If I don't get my sleep-- -Listen, then you go and sneak
a snack in the kitchen and you get back to the table.
I mean, you actually, you had a whole meal.
No, I didn't. I just had the corn, the--
I went past the kitchen to get a diet coke,
and I saw you had a full plate of food. So, come on.
I had too much to drink. I admit it.
You've done things on drinking. So you know what?
-Don't throw it out on me now -I'm--fine.
and attack me for my mistakes that I've made,
because that's, that's ----ing tone deaf, period.
I don't need to apologize to you.
You don't need to apologize to me.
-I apologized to Eboni. -I'm not looking for an apology.
I'm looking for you to be aware.
Of course, I'm aware. I called Eboni first thing
in the morning, and I said, "I'm sorry
"about what I did. I had too much to drink.
-"I'm tired--" -It was nine o'clock, Ramona.
-I was exhausted. -You go out dancing--
Not anymore, not in the past week.
No, but still. Not in the past week?
No.
The past week, I've been in bed every night
at nine o'clock, 9:30.
When she's not dizzy, she's hungry,
and if she's hungry, she has to pee.
I mean, there's one excuse after the other, why she
excuses herself from, typically, Eboni's parties.
And my lesson I've learned now, I'm never,
ever, ever, mark my words, I'm never gonna
drink on an empty stomach.
You're funny.
[upbeat music]
♪
Can you please bring the cheese and wine out
-for Eboni, so we're ready? -Okay. Yeah.
Are you, do you have any clothes on?
What? You know me, I hate pants.
-You have no pants on! -No pants.
Is that part of the fashion forecast
for next year?
I just started to wear proper,
grown woman dresses that come to the knee.
Now, you're telling me we're not wearing pants at all?
-Just the top? -Millennial, OK?
Oh, millennial. Not boomers.
-Lady Morgan! -Hi, Eboni.
I'm dying to meet you! I'm Christie!
-Christie? You're lovely. Eboni. -Yeah, nice to meet you.
You have no idea. Everyone heard you were coming.
Hey baby. Well, I met beautiful Miss Emma.
You finally met Emma. She's been dying to meet you.
I don't think last night went the way
Archie and Eboni planned.
But, the thing about Eboni is she has this quality
where she can discuss something with you in a very
calm manner without being accusatory.
At this dinner last night, I want to apologize
really, for losing it.
Because I was going through this emotional thing.
That's not you. I think you and Ramona need to talk.
You two have such a deep 30 year sisterhood, and I know you both
love each other dearly, but it's a little tense. You know?
But I don't want her walking all over me in front of people in
-front of people I don't know. -I know, baby.
And that's why you need to go to her--
She's putting out the wrong narrative.
And you controlled it.
I think that going back to Martin, you know, he struck a
chord in you and I've seen a difference that I love.
Which is you are not letting people run over you.
What does Luann call you?
A slut! A one night stand.
If I call you a stupid slut,
that's how hard you're gonna throw?
[cheering]
Show him he's a piece of sh--!
You are not letting other people tell your story.
So, when Ramona started doing that sh-- last night,
you were like, "No!" And you corrected the narrative.
But I want you two to do that, maybe over lunch, or dinner.
Intimate, loving, but say what you need to say to her.
You know? So that you don't snap like you did last night.
Well, I need that because, you don't act like
-that in front of mixed company. -That's why--right, no.
And you know better, Sonja. I'm proud that "Mission: Sonja
"stand up for yourself" has been successful.
I really am. But sis, there's a measure to these things, right?
Cheers to controlling the narrative, and self-control.
So, we're gonna try to work to find where that sweet spot is,
where Sonja does stand up for herself, she makes
it very clear what she will and will not take and stand for.
But also has like, some basic...
"social graces", we'll call them.
-Now, you, my love. -Yeah, and now about me.
I have to curse you out because why did Archie call
me this morning, and tell me-- you might not even remember
this, do you know you peed in Archie's driveway last night?
Yes, I did. At the back of the bus.
How you been? I'm just gonna pee behind the bus.
I'll be over--
Sonja, come on! Sonja!
Holy sh--, I'm peeing like a race horse!
-Sonja. The [bleep]? -I had to pee so bad--
-You were all in there. -But we peed before we left,
'cause I know I can't hold it 'til New York either, baby.
-I gotta tell you-- -I want you to--
I have done things like that before, peed wherever.
This is horrible!
They don't want pee on their corn!
Wait, Sonja, be careful!
You couldn't hold it until we got out?
It's not my proudest moment,
peeing behind the van, but if I had gone
into the restroom, Luann would've left without me.
Sonja, you are a woman of such elegance, and class.
Stop it, Marley, I'm mad at you!
Marley, you've ate the whole damn board!
You ate more than me, we didn't eat anything!
No, Marley at it all.
Marley, get the hell out of here.
Yeah, we're talking to you!
And by the way, I'm gonna talk to Ramona.
She did call me today to apologize
because she knew she was a ----ing hot ass mess.
Everything was designed to make all
of y'all comfortable and she was a sh-- show.
And you were great, and Lu was great,
and it was fun-- well, you were half great.
[laughing loudly]
I was 85% good, until I got
to the van and I was like, "Okay, I'm gonna pee."
Hey, baby.
I feel bad because I know Leah likes to see us.
-I know. -I missed her at Shabbat.
Oh, God. I missed her at Shabbat.
It was like I was missing my finger.
Having her at Shabbat is so important.
-Marley, are you serious. -Oh, Jesus.
-Is he humping your arm? -Marley's humping my arm.
You're like any other guy. You have your stomach
full, and now you're ready to have sex.
-Right! -Isn't that funny how men are?
As soon as they eat dinner, they want sex.
Marley, you're just full and humping.
You'd be humping Ramona's dog,
but you didn't bring your dog.
I can't wait for these two to meet.
Thank god I got her fixed.
Coming up...
So, I'm sitting there the first six months, no court date.
-But to make a very-- -Which is unconstitutional.
-Whoa, no, no, no, no. -17 years old.
-Ramona. -No, hello--no!
Oh sh--.
♪
- Hello. Darling, I'm in a Hutte.
I know right? It's like, it could be Colorado,
it could be Switzerland.
Look at this. Isn't it cool? Isn't it great? We miss you!
Aw, babe. Don't fall apart.
You're almost through it. You're almost there.
Who are you having dinner with?
I'm meeting up with the Fortune Society ladies.
Eboni and Ramona are coming,
Sonja, I don't know where Sonja is.
After the poop settled, and I started
plunging it, it turned into poop soup.
When you get the poop soup, and you
plunge it and it goes on the floor, that's really bad.
Hi, my love.
-Oh, look who's here! -Oh, Lele!
- Hi! -Hey baby,
look how naked you are.
Look how naked? She's so naked.
And we're in like turtlenecks in the middle of this alpine lodge.
It's really cute, though.
-Isn't it sweet? -It smells good.
I love it, it's like in our neighborhood.
It's like our go-to.
I thought maybe it would be nice to be isolated
for two weeks, but I'm actually having a little bit
of FOMO, and miss the ladies.
Oh, well, I mean...
How are they, Lu? [laughing]
Well, I mean, Ramona's coming tonight,
so we'll soon find out how Ramona is.
And Sonja, couldn't come. So, I don't know why.
If you leave the water, the poop disintegrates.
I talked to Sonja over the weekend. She was doing well.
Why would I pay for someone to...
Oh my god, when I poop, I feel so good.
-Hey baby! -Okay.
Look who just walked in the door.
Beautiful!
Wow, you're very elegant for our little chalet over here.
Well, you know, you did such, I have to say,
I had so much fun doing that video.
I know last time, I didn't want to do it when you
did it years ago, but had I known I'd have
that much fun, I should've done it. Your hair looks pretty.
Thank you, you too. You look lovely.
It's typical Ramona, you know. After she's burned
down the house, it's like, "Let's be nice.
"Let's make a grand entrance. Grand gestures, compliments."
There, she's very good. You look great.
So, okay, we're talking about Sonja and how we feel
like there was so much venom and bad stuff.
-Oh, I sent her a text. -You sent her a text?
So I wrote, "Sonja, do you remember
"all the very nasty comments you made to me
"at the Black Shabbat?
"You really hurt my feelings terribly."
-And she didn't get back to you? -Well, I only sent it
an hour ago. It'll probably take her three days to look at it.
-No, I know. - Oh, my food just got here,
-I gotta go, guys. -Okay.
- Bye guys. -Bye baby.
The last thing I wanna hear about is like
Ramona gaslighting Sonja.
So, I'm out.
-Hey, guys! -Hey, ladies.
Hi!
-Hi, my loves! -Hi ladies.
-You look lovely. -Oh, I love your mask.
I just got out of work, just now. Thanks for having us.
The ladies from Fortune and I have known
each other for the last couple of years.
We have 80 beds in here for people transitioning,
men and woman.
Been in prison, coming out of prison,
getting their life together.
Look at this team of people waiting for your girls.
I love you! Mwah! Thank you.
It always brightens my day when I see their faces because
they're such wonderful people and such good women.
How many people are living in the facility right now?
Well, I came home in 2007, and I lived at
the castle when I was there.
There were 56 men and three women.
So, I was one of the women. That was--
Are those good odds or bad odds? I'm not sure.
Yeah, Ramona.
But, you know, now I know there's maybe
more than 100 beds in there, now.
It's grown over the years.
How old were you when you went in?
Distribution?
I was at the wrong place at the wrong time.
Someone got shot. And I was there.
I didn't go inside of the building,
but I was outside of the building.
So, what were they convicting you of?
-Conspiracy. -Oh my god.
So, somebody was harmed--
Okay, conspiracy from a legal point of view...
-Go ahead. -is when you are aware.
And you weren't aware.
So, conspiracy is when you have knowledge of it.
-It was two weeks later. -And you're not participating.
Two weeks later, I never reported anything.
-News articles. -At some point,
-she did know that someone died. -Yes.
-Yeah, yeah, yeah. -It is, girl, a hot mess.
Just shut the hell up. We've seen this movie before.
So, now I'm sitting in Rikers Island.
There's always a glitch in the Rikers Island system.
So, it said my next court date was
December 31st, 20-9999999.
So, I'm sitting there the first six months, no court date.
-[gasping] -Which is unconstitutional.
No, no, no.
-Ramona. -No. No!
Where is the radar that Ramona was not born with
which says "Do not speak now."
♪
So, I'm sitting there the first six months, no court date.
-[gasping] -Which is unconstitutional.
-You're sitting in Rikers? -Oh yeah, I'm sitting in Rikers.
-No, no! -17 years old.
Ramona. Yeah.
No, I really have to pay attention to this.
So, they had no court date, and they're allowing you
- they make you stay there for like, forever?
I believe they have 90 days--
-Did they give you bail? -No. It's a murder charge.
-Multiple co-defendants. -But you didn't murder anybody.
You just heard about it down the road. You were only 17!
That's not how the law works, Ramona.
Well, okay, so ----ing change the law.
This is not good. I don't like this.
These questions Ramona's asking,
it's just her lack of awareness and knowledge on the issue
is a little, like, why would she know?
We don't talk about this stuff enough, so I think Ramona
in this moment is indicative of a lot of Americans.
So, I didn't have too many options.
A lot of people see murders and they don't talk about it.
Or know about it, they think hearsay or whatever,
So, I don't-- I think.
Unfortunately, the system sucks. It often does.
And I had to settle with three and a half years prison time.
-You plead guilty. -I plead guilty.
It's important to hear all of these stories
to make sure that more people have the knowledge
and can have, you know, more empathy and understanding
when it comes to these issues.
My first prison sentence, I went up, I wasn't ready.
I know, I had reservations,
I came back down, I relapsed, I went back up again.
When I came home, I knew everything
was gonna be different, you know.
What my downfall was, was that you know,
I used to have blackouts all the time.
-I know those. -I used to be able to call
somebody and tell me what I did. They'd say,
"Oh, Vilma, this is what you did." And I'd say,
"I don't wanna hear. I don't wanna hear."
This time, the last thing I remember was nine o'clock,
I woke up the next day, there was drugs, there was money,
and I still don't know to this day what happened to me.
-That was it. -That was your wake up call.
You gotta get to bottom.
I did five and a half years in prison.
And still, it took that moment to
realize this can't be my life. This can't be.
Can I ask you girlfriends something?
Let's say you have a friend that you really love,
-and you see her-- -Oh, sh--.
...down the rabbit hole. How do you like try to help?
-Oh gosh. -I'm not naming names.
-I'm asking a question. -I know.
The thing is you can try your best,
but it has to come from them.
You can be there, you can support them.
Yeah, just let them know that the door's always open,
but you have to let them go through their own process.
Like, I said, it wasn't 'til the rock bottom.
That's the problem, even if you say to her,
you know, "Oh, you did this, you did that.
You left with a guy, you forgot the caviar."
I would be mortified, and Sonja is not mortified.
Sonja's like, "I know, ha ha ha!"
In order for her to do something about it,
she has to realize what's really happening.
-Gotta hit bottom. -I don't want her to go to
rock bottom, that's the problem.
Yes, she beats up on me, yes, she verbally abuses me,
yes, she makes up lies about me. But I'm not giving up on her.
I don't want her to hit rock bottom.
I just don't want her to.
There might be something that's
just there that maybe she hasn't spoken to you guys about.
She might be fighting a bigger battle within herself.
And she's numbing. Sonja's numbing. She's numbing hurt.
She's been doing this for 10 years. It's nothing new.
And that's the part that you two - no!
I can't. No, you can't save her!
Listen, I don't like the way you acted at Shabbat
but I like you Ramona, and I don't want--
that is unfair to put on yourself.
No, I agree.
Sonja is accountable to herself, and all we can do as friends,
and all Ramona can do as a best friend
is love and support her friend, that's it.
I was supposed to be gone two hours ago,
but I can't leave these women.
Aren't they the best.
-I'm so glad. -I'm supposed to be at
an interview with somebody right now. Oh well, [bleep] them!
[all laughing]
To be honest, I just love this.
I'm actually having a really good conversation with Ramona.
-Oh, good. -We always do.
We do, we do. Ramona and I are night and day,
and yet we're very aligned. It's very weird.
Yeah, and I never met someone that I bonded with so fast.
I wouldn't say that you were like Ramona, but OK.
No we are.
But you see some things that are like
-uncannily similar, don't you? -Well, like your body types.
No, beyond that superficial though.
-Your shoe size. -No, meeting of the mind.
You're not that mind depth as we are.
Because I'm not mind depth? What does that mean?
What does that even mean? What's mind depth.
Ramona! Flag on the play! Flag on the play!
Abort! Abort!
I don't know what mind depth is.
We have this brain thing going on.
It's very peculiar. Yeah. It's surprising to me.
I want to be mad at you, but I can't.
-Thank you for Black Sabbath. -Thank you, Ramona.
Thank you for coming and looking pretty.
And being a hot mess. Love you anyway, though. Love you anyway.
[upbeat music]
♪
-[knocking] -Coming!
♪
Kiki!
[laughs] Hi! Oh my god, my baby!
Hi. I missed you.
No, you look so cute. Is this a new jacket?
-I got it with Skylar. -This is nice too.
You guys got all dressed up for me, I see.
I quarantined for two weeks, I'm all good.
I'm very excited to see Kiki.
-[Kier] I'm going to my room. -OK, you go to your room.
As much as I love Rob, I've probably
never been this happy to see him.
I want to make sure that we're on the same page
-with the school stuff. -Okay.
Like, all the schools that we're looking at
are like, she'll have a good experience,
you know, she'll have a lot of opportunities.
She's have a whole different experience than she did.
You know? Isn't that exciting?
Real talk, like, $60,000. You know.
I think, like, the money is a bit crazy
for a kid to go to high school at college prices.
Honestly, like, this is why I work my ----ing ass off.
This is why we work our ----ing ass off.
To give her opportunities. And yes, some of this sh--
is very elitist, and I'm not completely comfortable with it,
but at the same time, we have to separate that and think about
the education that Kier is going to be getting.
The private school application process,
when you hear and read things about it being so competitive,
it's not an over-exaggeration.
If I did not hire someone to help me with this process,
there's no way that I could do this on my own.
She's a smart kid. I don't really worry about her at all.
It's crazy. I don't know how she ended up like this.
They want to know what boards I'm on.
I'm not on the board of anything.
There's no hospital wings named after me.
I'm a little in over my head. I'm exhausted.
Yeah, I'm tired too.
-I'm gonna get going. -Okay.
Alright, well, 'til the next time.
Do you mind if I just sit here and not see you out?
-No. -Are you gonna be,
-don't be offended. -I'll be fine.
-Okay. -I'm gonna say goodbye to Kier.
Goodbye, miss.
-Love you! -Love you.
Make sure your mother behaves.
-Coming up... -Ultimately, your DNA results
were enough for me to then determine...
[upbeat music]
♪
You're so ridiculous.
♪
Hey, sis!
Girl, you know Carey's gonna do her lap.
Come on in. Thank you.
-How you doing? -Good! Oh, hey, Carey!
She's so crazy. Did you see Katie?
-No! -Yeah, Grandma arrived.
Get out of here.
Like, I never seen an urn in person.
-Me neither. -She was a small lady
but she filled this whole thing up.
Oh my goodness. She'll be with me always.
-Wow. It's really nice. -Only the best for Katie.
Today feels like a combination
of the first day of school, Christmas, and the SATs.
Cheers! I'm a bundle of nerves today
with Linda coming to give me her news.
You said a gene-- what? So, yes.
Her name is Linda, she came to the house a few weeks ago.
If I could find out who my father is, great.
If I could find out who some--
even half-siblings are, great.
-Yeah. -Just anything that gives me
a broader sense of who I am.
So what do you think she's gonna come back and say?
I don't think she's gonna be, "Eboni, I know your dad."
I think that's like a big ask. You know?
I'm excited, but I'm nervous because
depending on what she tells me,
here's yet another thing I now will need to process.
-[knocking] -Okay, that's the door.
You gonna answer the door, Carey?
Child, this year has been, like, the most.
Hi! It's good to see you.
-How are you, my dear? -My goodness.
Starting the year planning a wedding,
and planning a marriage,
ending my engagement, getting sick,
thank god recovering from COVID.
And now here comes Linda with more good news.
I just can't wait.
Alright, so you had tested at Ancestry DNA,
and ultimately, your DNA results were enough for me
to then determine that there are three candidates
for your father.
They're all brothers. They're all brothers.
So, it's from the same family line.
So, wait. One of these three men is my dad?
-Is that what you're telling me? -I am almost certain of it.
What?! Wait, wait.
She's like, "Don't graze over that."
Wait, I need to just - give me a second.
Process, yeah.
This is crazy.
It's exciting, yeah.
-And these men are alive. -Yes, they are.
Holy sh--.
-I know. -I have a dad.
Yes, you do!
Oh my god. No, this is nuts, y'all. This is so crazy.
So, the man who I believe to be, out of the three brothers--
Oh, so you have one that you think is--
I do, just based on his age. He's born in 1957.
Your mother's born in 1960.
-OK. -That's very close.
Yeah, the other brother is born in 1951.
-OK. -And then the other brother,
-he's born in 1939. So-- -Oh, it's probably not him.,
No. We would've been--
If she's anything like me, it might be.
[all laughing]
-That's true. -That's a good 20 years older.
Yeah, see, in [bleeped], he would've been 44,
so that's not out of the realm of possibilities.
-Definitely not. -And the one who I believe
is your father, he is married and he has two daughters.
♪
[crying] Oh, God! This is just a lot.
Yeah, no. It is.
I don't even think I was prepared for this.
I told Natalie before you came, I was like, "Maybe some cousins,
maybe at best, like an aunt or uncle."
The youngest daughter bears a very strong resemblance to you.
As does your dad. Who I believe is your father.
I think I hadn't allowed myself to, um...
entertain the possibility that I had a dad who was still alive.
And wow. Thank you.
I'm so so happy that I can help.
Oh god.
This is a lot.
And it's all extremely wonderful.
This is literally the best case scenario that could've happened.
She found him. He's alive. Amazing. And a half-sister!
I'll show you his picture.
Yeah. I do see the resemblance.
He's cute. He's an attractive man.
He even has that roundness to his face, like I do.
You know, those cheeks. This is crazy! I'm sorry.
But I wanna sit with it for a beat
before I start opening up a million new boxes.
I wanna just be really happy that I have a dad.
And just kind of bask in that truth
for the first time in my entire life.
It's beautiful, and like the fact that
this man who is my dad is alive
and after the new year I get to do the exciting work
-of potentially-- -That's what I was telling her.
2021 will be a year of renewal.
Amen. Thank you, sis. Yay!
Next time on The Real Housewives of New York City.
In high school if I hadn't gotten mixed up with clubs,
I could've been a star athlete, I could've gone to a probably--
That's what happens when you get involved with drugs and alcohol.
-Mom. -Mm. These are good.
Sonjarita! How are you, honey? You look so pretty.
We did a test last night for COVID, and--
She's so fine that she was totally wasted
yesterday when I spoke to her on the phone.
-Are you serious? -Good to see you? Bye!
Oh my god, I speak so much sh-- about Luann
-and I love her so much. -I can ----ing hear you!
You ready to play pin the tail on...
Harry!
Oh sh--! Oh my god.
I feel this is disrespectful to Harry, he's my friend.
He's not your friend, he's my ex-boyfriend
who cheated on me and ----ed all my friends!