1 00:00:05,066 --> 00:00:06,600 Ramona was talking with me 2 00:00:06,633 --> 00:00:09,600 about how she does not like the way I talk about sex. 3 00:00:09,633 --> 00:00:11,266 I don't subscribe to the fact 4 00:00:11,300 --> 00:00:13,100 that to use those words mean you're unclassy. 5 00:00:13,133 --> 00:00:14,600 Yeah, but it has nothing to do with class, 6 00:00:14,633 --> 00:00:16,367 it has to do with education. 7 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:18,300 Well, no it doesn't have to do with education either. 8 00:00:18,333 --> 00:00:21,033 -I just tried to explain it. -No, I gotta clear this up. 9 00:00:21,066 --> 00:00:22,400 Why are you getting so angry? 10 00:00:22,433 --> 00:00:24,400 Oh, so now I'm the angry black woman, Luann. 11 00:00:24,433 --> 00:00:27,367 The term "angry" when referencing a black woman. 12 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:31,400 It's got a long, stereotypical history. 13 00:00:31,433 --> 00:00:33,433 I'm really sorry that happened. 14 00:00:33,467 --> 00:00:35,633 -Lu, make yourself comfortable -All right. 15 00:00:35,667 --> 00:00:37,633 It's election night, we have to make it fun. 16 00:00:37,667 --> 00:00:39,266 I mean, God knows, you know. 17 00:00:39,300 --> 00:00:41,333 -Are you coming to the party? -Yeah. 18 00:00:41,367 --> 00:00:44,266 A night in Harlem, with yours truly, Eboni K. Williams. 19 00:00:44,300 --> 00:00:47,100 Ramona posted you on Instagram! 20 00:00:47,133 --> 00:00:49,133 She also posted a picture of her new friend Bershan. 21 00:00:49,166 --> 00:00:52,433 Are y'all telling me that Ramona is posting pictures 22 00:00:52,467 --> 00:00:55,133 of Black women in her life 23 00:00:55,166 --> 00:00:57,266 to counter a narrative that she is racist? 24 00:01:00,300 --> 00:01:03,367 Of all my vices, being glamorous is one 25 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:05,100 I'll never give up. 26 00:01:06,300 --> 00:01:09,266 I'm sex positive and BS negative. 27 00:01:10,433 --> 00:01:12,233 I may say the wrong thing, 28 00:01:12,266 --> 00:01:15,400 but my intentions are always right. 29 00:01:15,433 --> 00:01:17,633 I've had to work twice as hard for half as much, 30 00:01:17,667 --> 00:01:20,367 But now, I'm coming for everything. 31 00:01:21,533 --> 00:01:23,233 Just like New York City, 32 00:01:23,266 --> 00:01:25,433 Sonja Morgan never goes out of style. 33 00:01:33,433 --> 00:01:35,166 All right, T, you ready? 34 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:36,667 Whenever you are, my dear. 35 00:01:36,700 --> 00:01:38,700 C'mon baby, let's go get our hair done. 36 00:01:38,734 --> 00:01:40,367 Ooh! Do I have ponytail options? 37 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,066 You do. 38 00:01:42,100 --> 00:01:43,233 This won't work because it's too-- 39 00:01:43,266 --> 00:01:45,066 this is this wavy texture. 40 00:01:45,100 --> 00:01:46,433 Yeah, but it's like a loose wave. But um-- 41 00:01:46,467 --> 00:01:49,066 No, but I'm excited about tonight. 42 00:01:49,100 --> 00:01:52,300 I'm excited to, you know, bring these women to Harlem. 43 00:01:52,333 --> 00:01:54,166 Some of them are comin' for the first time. 44 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,200 Ramona says she's bringing her friend Bershan. 45 00:01:56,233 --> 00:01:57,700 I have this lovely girl, her name is Bershan, 46 00:01:57,734 --> 00:01:59,333 I've gotten really friendly with her. 47 00:01:59,367 --> 00:02:01,300 Can I bring her with me, 48 00:02:01,333 --> 00:02:02,500 'cause I have plans with her that night. 49 00:02:02,533 --> 00:02:04,333 I just talked to the restaurant owner, 50 00:02:04,367 --> 00:02:06,233 and I said, "Bring two extra place settings, 51 00:02:06,266 --> 00:02:08,133 "because some of my friends might want a plus one." 52 00:02:09,500 --> 00:02:11,233 Some of these ladies, 53 00:02:11,266 --> 00:02:12,533 they're in their Upper East Side bubble. 54 00:02:12,567 --> 00:02:15,333 I hope that they will think Harlem, 55 00:02:15,367 --> 00:02:18,333 and the people of Harlem, and the culture of Harlem 56 00:02:18,367 --> 00:02:21,367 is worth the slight inconvenience of pushing outside 57 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,133 of your little... five block radius. 58 00:02:24,166 --> 00:02:26,133 That's what I hope. 59 00:02:26,166 --> 00:02:29,367 You know, I've got this which is very Harlem-nights. 60 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,367 I love the bell sleeve, 61 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:33,400 and it's also very pandemic-wear comfortable. 62 00:02:33,433 --> 00:02:37,300 I know Harlem, just almost as a tourist. 63 00:02:37,333 --> 00:02:39,500 I'm so lazy, I always stay in my own neighborhood. 64 00:02:39,533 --> 00:02:42,233 And if I can't walk there, you have to drag me there, 65 00:02:42,266 --> 00:02:44,300 or send a car service. 66 00:02:44,333 --> 00:02:47,266 And Leah wears God-knows-what, so I could show up in anything. 67 00:02:53,433 --> 00:02:55,133 Hi. 68 00:02:55,166 --> 00:02:57,367 Oh, hey. So I've got dresses laid out 69 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:58,467 for this Harlem nights thing. 70 00:02:58,500 --> 00:03:00,333 So, what are you wearing? 71 00:03:03,433 --> 00:03:05,266 You said you're wearing satin green? 72 00:03:05,300 --> 00:03:07,233 It's so funny, I have a satin green dress here. 73 00:03:07,266 --> 00:03:08,700 So, I'm gonna put that away. 74 00:03:08,734 --> 00:03:11,233 You know, I used to go to Harlem quite a bit. 75 00:03:11,266 --> 00:03:13,533 Jack and I were living on the Upper West Side, 76 00:03:13,567 --> 00:03:15,467 so we weren't far from Harlem, really. 77 00:03:15,500 --> 00:03:17,467 We used to go up there all the time to Sylvia's, 78 00:03:17,500 --> 00:03:20,233 and go dancing. You know, I'm a fan. 79 00:03:20,266 --> 00:03:22,233 Oh, Jesus. I've got long dresses, 80 00:03:22,266 --> 00:03:25,533 but, um. But they have very big slits. 81 00:03:39,633 --> 00:03:41,533 Oh, hey! 82 00:03:41,567 --> 00:03:44,433 -I'll scoot in the other side. -Yeah, that's easy, yeah. 83 00:03:44,467 --> 00:03:46,533 'Cause I have, like, heels and shoes, and--thanks. 84 00:03:46,567 --> 00:03:49,533 -Hello, hello, hello beautiful! -Hi! 85 00:03:49,567 --> 00:03:52,600 -You look very shimmery. -Sequins, hello, hello. 86 00:03:52,633 --> 00:03:55,000 Oh, your pants kinda match my dress. 87 00:03:55,033 --> 00:03:57,266 Cool! You at you, you rocked it. 88 00:03:57,300 --> 00:03:59,200 Every time I see you, 89 00:03:59,233 --> 00:04:00,633 -Right. -you're in six inch heels! 90 00:04:00,667 --> 00:04:03,166 I met Bershan through some mutual friends 91 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:04,600 during the summer. We started hanging out. 92 00:04:04,633 --> 00:04:07,433 She's a strong personality, she's like...she's there. 93 00:04:07,467 --> 00:04:09,433 And she's not afraid to make her opinion known, 94 00:04:09,467 --> 00:04:11,266 which I like. 95 00:04:11,300 --> 00:04:13,300 You said you've never been to Harlem, okay, 96 00:04:13,333 --> 00:04:15,300 -so this is it, darling. -Yeah, so this is it. 97 00:04:15,333 --> 00:04:17,533 It took Eboni and you to bring me here. 98 00:04:17,567 --> 00:04:19,367 So, there's always a first time for everything. 99 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:21,433 New Yorkers, you just stay within your region. 100 00:04:21,467 --> 00:04:23,400 Why didn't you go to their housewarming party? 101 00:04:23,433 --> 00:04:25,233 It's in Brooklyn. 102 00:04:25,266 --> 00:04:27,200 Where do you think Brooklyn is, Ohio? 103 00:04:27,233 --> 00:04:30,200 I don't live in Harlem, so I never go down there. 104 00:04:30,233 --> 00:04:32,000 You know the funniest thing you ever told me? 105 00:04:32,033 --> 00:04:34,233 Oh no, what? I put my foot in my mouth again? 106 00:04:34,266 --> 00:04:36,033 You said "Okay, I love your lashes, 107 00:04:36,066 --> 00:04:37,567 "but they're a little too long for the daytime." 108 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:39,333 Oh, right. 109 00:04:39,367 --> 00:04:41,233 I was like... I love you. 110 00:04:41,266 --> 00:04:43,233 I know, that's 'cause when I really like someone... 111 00:04:43,266 --> 00:04:46,367 But that's when I really realized I F with this girl. 112 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:48,300 I really did! 113 00:04:48,333 --> 00:04:50,333 I like you with the lashes, without the lashes, 114 00:04:50,367 --> 00:04:52,667 -I just like you. -I love it. I love it. 115 00:04:57,633 --> 00:05:00,333 Knock knock, hey queen! 116 00:05:00,367 --> 00:05:02,266 Hi! Eboni, how are you? 117 00:05:02,300 --> 00:05:05,500 Adriane! It is so beautiful in here! 118 00:05:05,533 --> 00:05:09,000 Adriane, you did it. Flowers are so perfect. 119 00:05:09,033 --> 00:05:10,600 It's like we transported in time! 120 00:05:10,633 --> 00:05:13,000 -Of course! -This is beautiful, baby. 121 00:05:13,033 --> 00:05:14,467 Thank you for realizing this vision. 122 00:05:14,500 --> 00:05:16,600 So I'm coming off of a massive dose 123 00:05:16,633 --> 00:05:19,266 of these women's world. 124 00:05:19,300 --> 00:05:21,266 Right? Like, spending that weekend in the Hamptons, 125 00:05:21,300 --> 00:05:24,300 at Ramona's house, literally on her turf. 126 00:05:24,333 --> 00:05:26,333 Now, it's time for them to come to my world. 127 00:05:26,367 --> 00:05:28,400 And there is no better place for them 128 00:05:28,433 --> 00:05:30,700 to get into the epicenter of Black culture 129 00:05:30,734 --> 00:05:33,400 and Black excellence, than Harlem, USA. 130 00:05:33,433 --> 00:05:35,100 And who is this lovely gentleman? 131 00:05:35,133 --> 00:05:36,600 Oh, this Gill. 132 00:05:36,633 --> 00:05:38,367 -Hello, I'm Gill. -Gale? 133 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:40,533 -Gill. -Gill! Oh, I heard the accent. 134 00:05:40,567 --> 00:05:42,333 You know tonight is a Harlem night 135 00:05:42,367 --> 00:05:44,066 with Eboni K Williams, moi. 136 00:05:44,100 --> 00:05:45,700 Adriane and me, we've created for you guys, 137 00:05:45,734 --> 00:05:47,500 amazing cocktails. 138 00:05:47,533 --> 00:05:50,367 -Good! -To make you feel Harlem, 139 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:52,266 and go back a little bit in time, no? 140 00:05:52,300 --> 00:05:55,433 The spirit and the elegance. Prohibition era--hey Nat! 141 00:05:55,467 --> 00:05:57,700 You just snuck up in here, hey baby! 142 00:05:57,734 --> 00:05:59,600 -How are you? -Good. 143 00:05:59,633 --> 00:06:01,367 -It's beautiful. -This is gorgeous. 144 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,066 I love this place. 145 00:06:03,100 --> 00:06:05,100 This is one of the few actual real speakeasies 146 00:06:05,133 --> 00:06:06,500 -still left in Harlem. -It is. 147 00:06:06,533 --> 00:06:09,433 It is true that you had to knock on this 148 00:06:09,467 --> 00:06:12,066 -at one point to get in? -And there's a password. 149 00:06:12,100 --> 00:06:14,300 Oh my God. These look like a ----ing death sentence. 150 00:06:14,333 --> 00:06:15,567 Are you kidding me? 151 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:17,100 Oh my God. 152 00:06:17,133 --> 00:06:19,333 I love a speakeasy, always have. 153 00:06:20,633 --> 00:06:22,533 -Hey, gorgeous! -Hi, sorry to interrupt. 154 00:06:22,567 --> 00:06:25,667 -So, this is my friend Leah. -Hi, Leah. 155 00:06:25,700 --> 00:06:27,133 You look gorgeous, welcome. 156 00:06:27,166 --> 00:06:29,367 Oh my God, look at you! Hottie! 157 00:06:30,700 --> 00:06:33,567 Oh my gosh. Um, okay. 158 00:06:36,166 --> 00:06:38,367 Meet handsome Gill, who's from Israel. 159 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:41,633 -Hi, nice to meet you. -Hi! Shalom! 160 00:06:41,667 --> 00:06:45,433 -Well, hello. -Miss Luann! Hey, gorgeous! 161 00:06:45,467 --> 00:06:47,567 Oh my God! Amazing! 162 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:49,300 Countess realness 163 00:06:49,333 --> 00:06:50,734 Hi, hi girls. 164 00:06:50,767 --> 00:06:53,700 -How you doin'? -Welcome. 165 00:06:55,734 --> 00:06:58,433 -Are you kidding me? -All right, good for you. 166 00:06:58,467 --> 00:07:00,667 Can we do one more of these Harlem spritz for Miss Lu? 167 00:07:00,700 --> 00:07:02,433 -Yes. -What is in that? 168 00:07:02,467 --> 00:07:04,567 -Love and happiness. -Love and happiness. 169 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:06,600 -And no alcohol. -And no alcohol, okay good. 170 00:07:06,633 --> 00:07:08,567 I'm not gonna be able to get out of here. 171 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,400 I'm gonna spend the night here, no kidding. 172 00:07:10,433 --> 00:07:12,133 Wouldn't be the first time. 173 00:07:12,166 --> 00:07:13,633 Ooh, this is delicious. 174 00:07:13,667 --> 00:07:15,633 -Isn't this great? -Thank you. 175 00:07:15,667 --> 00:07:17,667 Miss Morgan's here, hey baby! 176 00:07:17,700 --> 00:07:21,567 Hi! Look at you, you're wearing like, a tiara thing. 177 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:24,433 -I see headlights. 178 00:07:24,467 --> 00:07:26,567 I didn't even realize Eboni had those headlights. 179 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,333 She so lawyered up all the time, and prim and proper, 180 00:07:29,367 --> 00:07:32,467 the fact she's takin' the girls out tonight means a lot. 181 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:36,400 Let me see my girl Lu, 182 00:07:36,433 --> 00:07:37,734 'cause I know she's always gonna dress. 183 00:07:39,433 --> 00:07:40,567 Is there an elevator? 184 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:42,500 Hold your heels, girl. Lordy. 185 00:07:42,533 --> 00:07:44,367 -Is this Giovanni? -Of course! 186 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:45,667 I gotta go on my tiptoes. 187 00:07:45,700 --> 00:07:47,734 -C'mon. -Oh, here comes Singer! 188 00:07:47,767 --> 00:07:49,767 No one warned me about the heels situation. 189 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:51,567 Hi! How are you? 190 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:53,767 -Shimmer. -Thank you. 191 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:55,467 Hi! 192 00:07:55,500 --> 00:07:57,500 We're kind of like, matching. 193 00:07:57,533 --> 00:07:59,400 I know, similar, I love it! How are you? 194 00:07:59,433 --> 00:08:01,367 So nice to meet you. 195 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:02,633 Gorgeous, welcome to Harlem. 196 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:05,734 Oh my God, I've heard so much about you. 197 00:08:05,767 --> 00:08:07,467 I know, she says so much about you. 198 00:08:07,500 --> 00:08:08,767 Eboni, Bershan, Bershan, Eboni. 199 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,533 -Yes! I can't--oh my God. -Okay, I love this. 200 00:08:11,567 --> 00:08:13,467 You look amazing. 201 00:08:13,500 --> 00:08:15,200 Yes! I didn't know-sequins, I know, I love it. 202 00:08:15,233 --> 00:08:16,734 Guys, this is Ramona's friend Bershan. 203 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:19,500 Hi Beautiful, ooh I love this outfit too. 204 00:08:19,533 --> 00:08:21,200 -Oh, thank you. -I'll give hugs. 205 00:08:21,233 --> 00:08:22,700 -How are you? -Good, too. 206 00:08:22,734 --> 00:08:24,500 Hi, beautiful! 207 00:08:24,533 --> 00:08:26,200 I heard so many great things about you! 208 00:08:26,233 --> 00:08:28,500 -From Ramona? -Yes! I mean, amazing stuff. 209 00:08:28,533 --> 00:08:30,467 Now I feel so guilty! Ha ha! 210 00:08:30,500 --> 00:08:32,500 The funny thing about Ramona and I, 211 00:08:32,533 --> 00:08:33,767 is when we're with other people, 212 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:35,667 we do talk really well about each other, 213 00:08:35,700 --> 00:08:37,767 and we stick up for each other. But that doesn't mean 214 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:40,700 I haven't talked sh-- about her in our group. 215 00:08:40,734 --> 00:08:42,633 Okay, ladies. I know some people are hungry, 216 00:08:42,667 --> 00:08:44,700 so we're gonna get our mixology class started. 217 00:08:44,734 --> 00:08:47,700 We've got three choices to pick from for cocktails. 218 00:08:47,734 --> 00:08:49,633 Eboni Step! 219 00:08:49,667 --> 00:08:51,500 I do like the St. Germaine in the champagne! 220 00:08:51,533 --> 00:08:53,000 -Do you get that? -Yeah! 221 00:08:53,033 --> 00:08:55,767 We'll start with the Eboni Step. 222 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:59,233 Okay, so, we prepared you here, it's a very cool gin. 223 00:08:59,266 --> 00:09:00,667 It's a Mediterranean gin. 224 00:09:00,700 --> 00:09:04,433 I infused it with a flower from Asia. 225 00:09:07,567 --> 00:09:10,233 It's like-- Ladies, ladies I'm gonna separate you. 226 00:09:12,300 --> 00:09:14,467 I'm sorry, I'm sorry, okay. We're messin' up in class. 227 00:09:14,500 --> 00:09:16,000 Cheers for bringing us here. 228 00:09:16,033 --> 00:09:17,734 -Cheers, thank you. -Thank you ladies. 229 00:09:17,767 --> 00:09:20,233 I just had a long day, so I needed a shot. 230 00:09:20,266 --> 00:09:21,734 I think America's had a long day. 231 00:09:21,767 --> 00:09:24,600 -We did! 232 00:09:24,633 --> 00:09:27,667 The elephant in the room is that we're 24 hours after 233 00:09:27,700 --> 00:09:30,033 the election itself, and we really still don't know 234 00:09:30,066 --> 00:09:31,667 who our next president is gonna be. 235 00:09:31,700 --> 00:09:33,600 Does somebody have a phone with them? 236 00:09:33,633 --> 00:09:37,467 I want Gill to take a photo before we go up, if that's okay. 237 00:09:37,500 --> 00:09:39,633 Oh, watch out, Ramona's gonna whip that phone out. 238 00:09:39,667 --> 00:09:41,300 I appreciate that. Thank you Gill. 239 00:09:41,333 --> 00:09:43,667 -So let's get here. -I love that drink. 240 00:09:43,700 --> 00:09:46,633 I dunno, this kinda bothers me that it's white and Black. 241 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:51,567 Coming up. 242 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,533 I'm feeling a little tired, so I might leave 243 00:09:53,567 --> 00:09:55,600 -in the middle of a course. -You got that vertigo again? 244 00:09:55,633 --> 00:09:57,266 -How'd you know? -I know. 245 00:09:57,300 --> 00:09:59,066 Oh my god. You know me so well. 246 00:09:59,100 --> 00:10:00,734 -What is vertigo? -Here, I'll show you. 247 00:10:00,767 --> 00:10:02,734 You're gonna show us your vertigo? 248 00:10:09,667 --> 00:10:12,133 This kinda bothers me that it's white and Black. 249 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,533 -Can we mix? -Oh, we're segregated. 250 00:10:17,567 --> 00:10:19,700 C'mon, c'mon baby. 251 00:10:22,767 --> 00:10:25,767 What difference does it make? But you know what, she's right. 252 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,100 We're trying to have a night of cultural infusion. 253 00:10:29,133 --> 00:10:31,667 That's the point, so I'm gonna go with it. 254 00:10:31,700 --> 00:10:33,700 Yeah, let's alternate. 255 00:10:33,734 --> 00:10:35,667 No, no, no, because then it's too... 256 00:10:35,700 --> 00:10:38,567 -Then it's too...played off. -One and one, you know. 257 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:41,633 It's very telling that Ramona is even noticing this. 258 00:10:41,667 --> 00:10:43,533 You know, and is all of a sudden, 259 00:10:43,567 --> 00:10:45,667 the anti-segregation police. 260 00:10:45,700 --> 00:10:47,633 Making strides. 261 00:10:47,667 --> 00:10:49,700 And can you be kind enough to do up and down, 262 00:10:49,734 --> 00:10:51,367 because that's better for Instagram. 263 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,700 No, sir. Up and down. You go up and down. 264 00:10:53,734 --> 00:10:55,166 Ready? 265 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:57,600 Maybe Sonja Morgan was onto something. 266 00:10:57,633 --> 00:11:00,100 Maybe with Ramona, it is all about the 'gram. 267 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:12,367 Let's go up? Let's go eat, queens! Thank you, Gill! 268 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:14,033 -Enjoy. -Thank you! 269 00:11:14,066 --> 00:11:16,166 I can see Ramona's on her best behaviour 270 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:17,667 when she's like this. 271 00:11:19,066 --> 00:11:20,667 Hi everyone, how are you? 272 00:11:20,700 --> 00:11:22,133 So this is the owner, Adriane. 273 00:11:22,166 --> 00:11:24,133 Adriane, this place is so beautiful. 274 00:11:24,166 --> 00:11:26,667 This is Ramona. This has been in her family. 275 00:11:26,700 --> 00:11:28,400 I'm a, I'm a virgin to Harlem. 276 00:11:28,433 --> 00:11:30,600 'Cause I don't think you call Rao's really, Harlem. 277 00:11:32,066 --> 00:11:33,200 Not in that way that we mean. 278 00:11:36,100 --> 00:11:37,767 With an F, yeah, Fatima. 279 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,200 Rao's is like, East Harlem. It's an Italian restaurant. 280 00:11:41,233 --> 00:11:43,667 Baby, I'm bringing you to Harlem-Harlem. 281 00:11:43,700 --> 00:11:46,100 Okay, ladies. This is a Harlem night 282 00:11:46,133 --> 00:11:47,767 with Eboni K. Williams, let's go! 283 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:49,266 Let's be seated. 284 00:11:49,300 --> 00:11:51,433 -She loves her name! -I know. 285 00:11:51,467 --> 00:11:53,433 Ramona's here, Sonja. 286 00:11:53,467 --> 00:11:55,166 Sonja Tremont Morgan. 287 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:57,000 -Lu. -Fabulous, Eboni. 288 00:11:57,033 --> 00:11:58,266 Thank you, Miss Bershan. 289 00:11:58,300 --> 00:12:00,100 -Oh, look at this. -This is gorgeous. 290 00:12:00,133 --> 00:12:02,166 Welcome to Harlem. 291 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,100 We're gonna start with my favourite thing. 292 00:12:04,133 --> 00:12:06,166 Natalie knows this, my love language is gifts. 293 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,433 So I'm going to present each of you with a gift. 294 00:12:08,467 --> 00:12:10,700 -Leah, my dear. -Thank you! 295 00:12:10,734 --> 00:12:12,133 And you can open this right now. 296 00:12:12,166 --> 00:12:14,166 -Oh! -I love this. 297 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:15,600 Oh my God. 298 00:12:15,633 --> 00:12:17,100 A candle? I love candles. 299 00:12:17,133 --> 00:12:19,700 Essence of roses and sandalwood. 300 00:12:19,734 --> 00:12:22,100 Inspired by James Baldwin. 301 00:12:22,133 --> 00:12:24,233 I'm obviously very deeply indebted 302 00:12:24,266 --> 00:12:26,200 and in love with Harlem culture. 303 00:12:26,233 --> 00:12:28,233 But I'm, you know, going to give grace to the fact 304 00:12:28,266 --> 00:12:30,066 that these women might not be as familiar. 305 00:12:30,100 --> 00:12:31,633 I'm giving Lu "Savoy". 306 00:12:31,667 --> 00:12:33,066 Stompin' at the Savoy. 307 00:12:33,100 --> 00:12:34,734 'Cause our countess with the cabaret. 308 00:12:34,767 --> 00:12:36,667 Oh yeah! 309 00:12:36,700 --> 00:12:39,200 So I give every woman a particular individual candle 310 00:12:39,233 --> 00:12:41,633 from Harlem candle company, amazing. 311 00:12:41,667 --> 00:12:44,200 With her infamous Upper East Side townhouse, 312 00:12:44,233 --> 00:12:46,767 you are, my dear, getting the brownstone candle. 313 00:12:48,767 --> 00:12:50,633 Harlem, a lot of.. 314 00:12:50,667 --> 00:12:53,667 It's based off of how they show up in this culture, 315 00:12:53,700 --> 00:12:56,667 and in this world and I hope they can appreciate it. 316 00:12:56,700 --> 00:12:59,100 Ramona, I think we're gonna make great cocktails 317 00:12:59,133 --> 00:13:01,033 and friendship together. 318 00:13:01,066 --> 00:13:03,200 You my dear, are getting the speakeasy candle. 319 00:13:03,233 --> 00:13:05,467 I love that! Well, thank you! 320 00:13:05,500 --> 00:13:07,400 I'm a sucker for candles. 321 00:13:07,433 --> 00:13:09,300 -Hi guys, nice to see you! 322 00:13:09,333 --> 00:13:11,500 -Hi, good to see you! -Am I here? 323 00:13:11,533 --> 00:13:13,100 Okay, ladies. 324 00:13:13,133 --> 00:13:14,300 Miss Fatima's gonna take drink orders. 325 00:13:14,333 --> 00:13:16,233 Food's already in the works. 326 00:13:16,266 --> 00:13:18,100 First course will literally be out in five minutes. 327 00:13:18,133 --> 00:13:19,467 Can I just have a sparkling water? 328 00:13:19,500 --> 00:13:21,233 What do we do with this and this? 329 00:13:21,266 --> 00:13:22,700 Whatever you want, baby. 330 00:13:22,734 --> 00:13:24,166 You wanna put it in your hair... 331 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:26,000 What can I get for you to drink? 332 00:13:26,033 --> 00:13:28,233 -Ladies. 333 00:13:28,266 --> 00:13:30,100 Now that our orders are in, 334 00:13:30,133 --> 00:13:32,000 each of you have been assigned a particular icon 335 00:13:32,033 --> 00:13:33,500 from the Harlem renaissance. 336 00:13:33,533 --> 00:13:36,000 And as you might imagine, it's been with intention. 337 00:13:36,033 --> 00:13:39,133 I learned in the Hamptons, most of these women know 338 00:13:39,166 --> 00:13:42,266 zero about the true, authentic Black story. 339 00:13:42,300 --> 00:13:44,100 I live and breathe this stuff, 340 00:13:44,133 --> 00:13:46,000 I have an academic background in it. 341 00:13:46,033 --> 00:13:47,700 I think I'll stand. 342 00:13:47,734 --> 00:13:49,700 -I think you need to stand. -I think I'll stand. 343 00:13:49,734 --> 00:13:51,767 Let me tuck in my breast, hold on. 344 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:54,000 I'm Josephine Baker, 345 00:13:54,033 --> 00:13:56,266 because Josephine is the originator of my mantra 346 00:13:56,300 --> 00:13:58,133 in my book, Pretty Powerful. 347 00:13:58,166 --> 00:14:01,133 Josephine Baker had her fabulous breasts naked, 348 00:14:01,166 --> 00:14:03,533 for the world to see to get the attention of the world. 349 00:14:03,567 --> 00:14:05,233 And you know what she did with it? 350 00:14:05,266 --> 00:14:07,166 She spoke at the march on Washington, 351 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:10,033 she was sure to never perform in segregated audiences. 352 00:14:10,066 --> 00:14:13,000 She turned that aesthetic into power. 353 00:14:13,033 --> 00:14:16,066 So obviously, I am Josephine Baker. 354 00:14:16,100 --> 00:14:18,000 Obviously. 355 00:14:18,033 --> 00:14:20,100 Leah got--she's James Baldwin this evening. 356 00:14:20,133 --> 00:14:22,300 James Baldwin was an eloquent, beautiful, 357 00:14:22,333 --> 00:14:25,333 queer truth-teller. 358 00:14:25,367 --> 00:14:28,100 I that you are a straight shooter, Leah McSweeney, 359 00:14:28,133 --> 00:14:30,000 and so you my dear are James Baldwin tonight. 360 00:14:30,033 --> 00:14:31,533 Oh! I'm not worthy, but thank you. 361 00:14:31,567 --> 00:14:33,567 Yeah. Next up, Nat! 362 00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:39,333 So Eboni, she feels, I'm sure, a responsibility to do this. 363 00:14:39,367 --> 00:14:42,767 Nat's getting W.B. Du Bois, also pronounced Du-boys. 364 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:46,333 And it's not about having fun for her, or us. 365 00:14:46,367 --> 00:14:48,166 Even though that's what we're used to. 366 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,300 It's really about teaching. 367 00:14:50,333 --> 00:14:53,133 He was the first black man to get a PhD from Harvard. 368 00:14:53,166 --> 00:14:57,100 And he said, "I assure you, the pleasure was all Harvard's." 369 00:14:59,300 --> 00:15:03,166 But, I'm pretty sure the women are not into history. 370 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:05,133 Miss Luann de Lesseps! 371 00:15:05,166 --> 00:15:08,033 My dear, you're Billie Holiday for very obvious reasons. 372 00:15:08,066 --> 00:15:11,233 -I'm honored! -For very obvious reasons. 373 00:15:11,266 --> 00:15:13,567 The voice of Harlem, the voice of the Renaissance. 374 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,200 It's an honour to be assigned Billie Holiday, 375 00:15:16,233 --> 00:15:18,000 but you, I'm just feeling like, 376 00:15:18,033 --> 00:15:20,300 let's get things moving! Where's the food? 377 00:15:20,333 --> 00:15:22,100 Where's the music? 378 00:15:22,133 --> 00:15:24,066 This is not the Harlem I'm used to. 379 00:15:24,100 --> 00:15:27,200 Lady Sonja Morgan. You are Zora Neale Hurston. 380 00:15:27,233 --> 00:15:29,600 I look at Eboni as a mouthpiece, that's what she does. 381 00:15:29,633 --> 00:15:32,300 She is a speaker, she's a broadcaster. 382 00:15:32,333 --> 00:15:34,300 Of course, she's gonna suck the air out of the room 383 00:15:34,333 --> 00:15:36,200 and take the moment to speak her word. 384 00:15:36,233 --> 00:15:38,166 If you don't like it, you better not show up, 385 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:39,600 'cause that's what you're gonna get. 386 00:15:39,633 --> 00:15:42,066 So, I assigned you the most prolific writer 387 00:15:42,100 --> 00:15:44,000 of the Harlem Renaissance, Zora Neale Hurston. 388 00:15:44,033 --> 00:15:46,166 I'm feeling this is very informative, 389 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:48,000 but I thought we were just coming for dinner. 390 00:15:48,033 --> 00:15:50,066 Miss Ramona! My fellow taste-maker. 391 00:15:50,100 --> 00:15:51,333 You are Duke Ellington this evening. 392 00:15:51,367 --> 00:15:53,200 Wow. 393 00:15:53,233 --> 00:15:55,066 I like learning new things, but I wish the, 394 00:15:55,100 --> 00:15:58,400 she gave me a whole, like um, an agenda. 395 00:15:58,433 --> 00:16:01,100 A musician, a composer, the leader of the-- 396 00:16:01,133 --> 00:16:03,100 that's kind of the image we think of Duke Ellington 397 00:16:03,133 --> 00:16:04,233 with his white tux. 398 00:16:04,266 --> 00:16:05,633 one hour. 399 00:16:05,667 --> 00:16:08,367 Sarah is invoking Nella Larsen tonight, 400 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:11,000 who's a lesser known icon. 401 00:16:11,033 --> 00:16:12,600 one hour. 402 00:16:12,633 --> 00:16:15,233 -...Nurse, librarian. -Nurse! 403 00:16:15,266 --> 00:16:17,133 Shout out to nurses, Lu, exactly. 404 00:16:17,166 --> 00:16:19,033 an hour. 405 00:16:19,066 --> 00:16:21,367 She's got multiple ethnicities going on. 406 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:23,333 -Did you just eat my little-- -Yeah, I'm starving. 407 00:16:23,367 --> 00:16:25,333 -So welcome to Harlem, ladies! Cheers! 408 00:16:25,367 --> 00:16:27,600 All right, we've had enough. Can we just eat now, and just-- 409 00:16:27,633 --> 00:16:29,367 we'll get back to this tomorrow or next week? 410 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,166 She ate my sandwich! 411 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,333 I was starving, I couldn't help it! Here. 412 00:16:33,367 --> 00:16:36,033 Eboni's losing some of her students. 413 00:16:36,066 --> 00:16:39,233 I also am not sure how she's not seeing that this is like... 414 00:16:39,266 --> 00:16:42,200 not going great 415 00:16:42,233 --> 00:16:45,166 I love this, like, really showing our history, 416 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:48,100 our culture, we get sorta brushed over. 417 00:16:48,133 --> 00:16:49,667 -Thank you, queen. -We're one nation. 418 00:16:49,700 --> 00:16:52,300 Like, I'm tired of this whole divided, you know- 419 00:16:52,333 --> 00:16:54,200 "We're white girls from the Upper East Side, 420 00:16:54,233 --> 00:16:56,066 "you're Black girls from Harlem." 421 00:16:56,100 --> 00:16:57,433 I can't stand it at all. 422 00:16:57,467 --> 00:16:59,667 We're Americans, we live in United States of America. 423 00:16:59,700 --> 00:17:01,400 It pisses me off. Seriously. 424 00:17:01,433 --> 00:17:05,667 She's entitled to her opinion, but sis, no. 425 00:17:05,700 --> 00:17:07,667 We're all the same, like all that sh--. 426 00:17:07,700 --> 00:17:09,367 Well, I don't know that we're the same. 427 00:17:19,233 --> 00:17:21,200 We're one nation. Like, I'm tired of this whole 428 00:17:21,233 --> 00:17:22,734 "We're white girls from the Upper East Side, 429 00:17:22,767 --> 00:17:24,433 "you're Black girls from Harlem." 430 00:17:24,467 --> 00:17:26,200 We're all the same, like all that sh--. 431 00:17:26,233 --> 00:17:27,700 Well, I don't know that we're the same. 432 00:17:27,734 --> 00:17:30,300 I'm saying white, Black, Hispanic, Asian, 433 00:17:30,333 --> 00:17:33,300 we come from the same core, right? 434 00:17:33,333 --> 00:17:35,734 These bitches already think we're exactly the same 435 00:17:35,767 --> 00:17:37,433 in all the wrong ways. 436 00:17:37,467 --> 00:17:40,166 What they need is a better understanding 437 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:44,100 of our exceptionalism, and our uniqueness. 438 00:17:44,133 --> 00:17:46,233 I really in this moment feel undermined. 439 00:17:46,266 --> 00:17:48,100 -Mm. 440 00:17:48,133 --> 00:17:50,433 Thank you. I'm using the restroom really quick. 441 00:17:50,467 --> 00:17:52,266 You guys, start eating. 442 00:17:52,300 --> 00:17:54,133 You're not into the octopus. 443 00:17:54,166 --> 00:17:55,433 I have to pee-- no, I'm going to. 444 00:17:55,467 --> 00:17:57,400 Let me know, 'cause when you come back, 445 00:17:57,433 --> 00:17:59,300 it might not be there. 446 00:17:59,333 --> 00:18:01,367 You know what? Me too. And I got a small bladder. 447 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:02,567 Bon appétit, eat away everybody. 448 00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:04,300 All right, yeah, I'm starting, I'm eating. 449 00:18:04,333 --> 00:18:05,500 Adriane, this is delicious. 450 00:18:07,467 --> 00:18:09,333 Just so you know, I'm feeling a little tired, 451 00:18:09,367 --> 00:18:11,233 so I may, like, leave in the middle of courses. 452 00:18:11,266 --> 00:18:13,400 The fact that you came is all that I care about. 453 00:18:13,433 --> 00:18:15,233 -You got the vertigo again? -How did you know? 454 00:18:15,266 --> 00:18:17,667 Oh my God. You know me so well, it's scary. 455 00:18:17,700 --> 00:18:19,233 What is vertigo? 456 00:18:19,266 --> 00:18:20,500 Here, I'll show you. 457 00:18:20,533 --> 00:18:22,333 You're gonna show us your vertigo? 458 00:18:22,367 --> 00:18:24,233 Yeah, you'll see how I sway off to the side. 459 00:18:24,266 --> 00:18:25,767 But you have to catch me. 460 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:27,767 Is she more responsible? No, you'll catch me. 461 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:29,367 I can't catch you, don't trust me. 462 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:31,266 Show me your vertigo. 463 00:18:31,300 --> 00:18:33,700 Hold my hands, I shut my eyes. Watch, I sway. 464 00:18:33,734 --> 00:18:35,367 Oh my God. 465 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:37,333 You see? That's the inner ear. 466 00:18:40,533 --> 00:18:42,467 Yeah. She just got colon cancer, and she just... 467 00:18:42,500 --> 00:18:45,400 -Oh. -It's a big loss, like... 468 00:18:45,433 --> 00:18:47,166 And you know I'm a cancer survivor. 469 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:48,734 I know, that's what Ramona told us. 470 00:18:48,767 --> 00:18:50,567 -Yeah. Yeah, well-- -But, I don't even know how 471 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:53,166 you mentally dealt with that. On top of physically. 472 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:55,500 Stage four. Given three months to live. 473 00:18:55,533 --> 00:18:58,500 -You thought you were gonna die? -Told me I was gonna die. 474 00:18:58,533 --> 00:19:00,734 And I'm here, girl. Thirteen years cancer-free. 475 00:19:00,767 --> 00:19:02,734 Like, seriously. 476 00:19:02,767 --> 00:19:04,533 I have the chills right now, I have the chills 477 00:19:04,567 --> 00:19:07,400 Being diagnosed with a terminal illness 478 00:19:07,433 --> 00:19:10,333 and being able to live to talk about it... 479 00:19:10,367 --> 00:19:14,500 Is not something a lot of people get to do. 480 00:19:16,433 --> 00:19:18,300 Are you happier now than you were? 481 00:19:18,333 --> 00:19:20,367 Or do you see things totally different? Like how do-- 482 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:23,233 I live my ----ing life now. I do it all. 483 00:19:23,266 --> 00:19:24,767 -I'm vivacious. -Yeah, I love that. 484 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:26,533 -I used to be a people pleaser, 485 00:19:26,567 --> 00:19:28,467 I used to care about what people say about me. 486 00:19:28,500 --> 00:19:30,300 I don't give a 487 00:19:30,333 --> 00:19:31,600 Then we're gonna get along fine. 488 00:19:31,633 --> 00:19:33,567 Yeah, you know what I mean? Like... 489 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,033 It's the inner ear. I think, go to the doctors for it. 490 00:19:36,066 --> 00:19:37,500 -Oh, you said that. -And it's stress. 491 00:19:38,533 --> 00:19:40,400 I think I have to start doing some-- 492 00:19:40,433 --> 00:19:42,233 maybe you wanna do it with me. 493 00:19:42,266 --> 00:19:44,033 We have to do this uh... TM or something. 494 00:19:44,066 --> 00:19:46,333 -You didn't want me to leave it. -I stress myself out. 495 00:19:46,367 --> 00:19:48,367 What's TM that you were just talking about? 496 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,433 I have to start doing meditation. 497 00:19:50,467 --> 00:19:52,433 I just think she did take on too much 498 00:19:52,467 --> 00:19:54,500 with this whole group of us, and-- 499 00:19:54,533 --> 00:19:56,300 Oh, the Hamptons? 500 00:19:56,333 --> 00:19:58,600 Yeah, and she has vertigo again, it's a sign. 501 00:19:58,633 --> 00:20:01,300 I'm a perfectionist. I am a perfectionist. 502 00:20:01,333 --> 00:20:03,567 And I want everything, like, just like. I notice this table-- 503 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:07,333 This table is perfection, okay? Right down to these. 504 00:20:07,367 --> 00:20:09,533 Who did I give you, baby? Duke Ellington. 505 00:20:09,567 --> 00:20:13,367 I understand. And I'm glad you included my new friend Bershan. 506 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,333 I really actually, really like her. 507 00:20:16,367 --> 00:20:17,633 All right, ladies. 508 00:20:17,667 --> 00:20:19,500 Hello! 509 00:20:19,533 --> 00:20:21,367 Okay, this is called the Bershan. 510 00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:23,300 Oh, you made a drink? 511 00:20:23,333 --> 00:20:25,066 This is my first impression 512 00:20:25,100 --> 00:20:27,333 of having a personal interaction with Bershan, 513 00:20:27,367 --> 00:20:30,300 and because she chose to express 514 00:20:30,333 --> 00:20:33,333 those All Lives Matter vibes, I feel very dismissed, 515 00:20:33,367 --> 00:20:35,233 to be candid. 516 00:20:35,266 --> 00:20:37,233 Here, move closer to Sonja, 517 00:20:37,266 --> 00:20:38,700 because I'm not feeling well, and I gotta go. 518 00:20:38,734 --> 00:20:40,333 You outdid yourself 519 00:20:40,367 --> 00:20:42,233 -No, seriously. -Hey. 520 00:20:42,266 --> 00:20:44,333 -Bye, gorgeous. -Feel better. 521 00:20:44,367 --> 00:20:46,233 -Bye. -Bye, baby. 522 00:20:46,266 --> 00:20:48,400 -Do you want your corsage? -No, you can have it. 523 00:20:49,734 --> 00:20:52,500 So, this is funny. Just be honest, right. 524 00:20:52,533 --> 00:20:56,100 Me and my bestie, we were out, just four days ago. 525 00:20:56,133 --> 00:20:58,667 She's dating a guy she loves. 526 00:20:58,700 --> 00:21:01,734 He has a small penis. Would you break up? 527 00:21:01,767 --> 00:21:04,333 And look, Eboni put her head down, she's like, "Ugh." 528 00:21:05,667 --> 00:21:07,600 Maybe it was a good idea for Ramona to leave. 529 00:21:07,633 --> 00:21:09,500 Not because of the vertigo, 530 00:21:09,533 --> 00:21:11,367 but because we're all talking about small penises. 531 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,333 He's four, and it's not girth. 532 00:21:13,367 --> 00:21:15,400 Oh, four's not bad, you could work with that. 533 00:21:15,433 --> 00:21:16,700 Are you ----ing kidding me? 534 00:21:16,734 --> 00:21:18,500 No girth, skinny and four! Four is like this. 535 00:21:18,533 --> 00:21:19,700 Oh, that's two. 536 00:21:19,734 --> 00:21:22,066 No, two, girl, is like this. 537 00:21:22,100 --> 00:21:23,633 I don't think I've ever seen a penis that small. 538 00:21:23,667 --> 00:21:25,533 -No, it's four. -I mean same but-- 539 00:21:27,667 --> 00:21:31,667 I really do. I do. I have to have it, child. 540 00:21:31,700 --> 00:21:34,100 Well, you know, people say that you can't have it all, 541 00:21:34,133 --> 00:21:36,400 -but damn, I will die trying. -Amen. 542 00:21:36,433 --> 00:21:38,333 Y'all, thank y'all for coming to Harlem. 543 00:21:38,367 --> 00:21:39,734 I think actually all of y'all have been before. 544 00:21:39,767 --> 00:21:41,533 -Yeah. -Yes. 545 00:21:41,567 --> 00:21:43,400 I know Ramona was a Harlem virginite. 546 00:21:43,433 --> 00:21:45,667 I think this is a magical part of New York. 547 00:21:45,700 --> 00:21:47,667 It's Black excellence, 548 00:21:47,700 --> 00:21:50,533 that is a part of American excellence. 549 00:21:50,567 --> 00:21:52,767 You opened a package for us to discover. 550 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:55,300 It's right in your backyards, y'all! 551 00:21:55,333 --> 00:21:56,633 Upper East Side, right down the street. 552 00:21:56,667 --> 00:21:58,700 -Let's do this again. -Let's do this again 553 00:22:00,567 --> 00:22:02,300 Coming up. 554 00:22:02,333 --> 00:22:05,033 I put you through such hell for a long time. 555 00:22:06,633 --> 00:22:09,467 -Oh, it's all right. -I've made so many mistakes. 556 00:22:17,233 --> 00:22:19,633 All right, Coco. I'm gonna do a mask. 557 00:22:19,667 --> 00:22:21,533 Now, I forgot which side it's supposed to be on. 558 00:22:21,567 --> 00:22:22,767 I think this side, yeah. 559 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:24,567 Actually doesn't probably matter. 560 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,533 Feels very refreshing. Let's time it. 561 00:22:28,734 --> 00:22:30,467 Think it's like ten minutes? Five minutes? 562 00:22:32,567 --> 00:22:33,667 You want a treat? 563 00:22:33,700 --> 00:22:35,000 What do you want? 564 00:22:35,033 --> 00:22:36,500 Pumpkin spice! 565 00:22:36,533 --> 00:22:39,600 You like it, boy? You like it? 566 00:22:42,500 --> 00:22:44,467 -Hey, gorgeous. -Hi. 567 00:22:44,500 --> 00:22:46,500 -Oh my God, look at you. -Clips, look at you. 568 00:22:46,533 --> 00:22:48,600 You look beautiful. Good to see you, baby. 569 00:22:48,633 --> 00:22:50,500 -Good to see you. -Thank you. 570 00:22:50,533 --> 00:22:52,467 I was actually just looking at, like, the menu. 571 00:22:52,500 --> 00:22:54,433 Probably gonna get a tiny cocktail. 572 00:22:54,467 --> 00:22:55,734 All right. 573 00:22:55,767 --> 00:22:58,000 So... I thought Harlem went really good. 574 00:22:58,033 --> 00:23:00,633 I'm so glad you guys came. I planned so much. 575 00:23:00,667 --> 00:23:02,633 So much intricate detail. 576 00:23:02,667 --> 00:23:04,734 -I was just proud, honestly. -Yeah. 577 00:23:04,767 --> 00:23:06,700 Everybody there, I think, appreciated it. 578 00:23:06,734 --> 00:23:09,033 Do you think that it resonated with everybody? 579 00:23:10,500 --> 00:23:12,233 Yeah, completely. 580 00:23:12,266 --> 00:23:14,000 Yeah. I mean-- 581 00:23:14,033 --> 00:23:15,700 I mean, Ramona obviously didn't feel well, you know. 582 00:23:15,734 --> 00:23:17,700 No, and she sent me a really nice text message, 583 00:23:17,734 --> 00:23:19,500 actually, after. And so did Sonja. 584 00:23:19,533 --> 00:23:21,200 Sonja sent, like, the sweetest message. 585 00:23:21,233 --> 00:23:22,700 It was great. I mean, I thought Lu, 586 00:23:22,734 --> 00:23:24,500 I thought she was a tiny bit quiet, maybe? 587 00:23:24,533 --> 00:23:25,767 I mean, look. 588 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,000 Everybody can't be on all the time. 589 00:23:28,033 --> 00:23:30,433 -I didn't take it personally. -They can't be on all the time. 590 00:23:30,467 --> 00:23:31,734 I think that white people are scared to-- 591 00:23:31,767 --> 00:23:33,567 Get it wrong. 592 00:23:33,600 --> 00:23:35,667 Exactly, you know? And also like, look. 593 00:23:35,700 --> 00:23:38,000 You're ----ing like, I wouldn't wanna debate with you. 594 00:23:38,033 --> 00:23:40,233 You don't want the smoke, Leah? 595 00:23:40,266 --> 00:23:43,500 I don't know if I really want the smoke with you, you know? 596 00:23:43,533 --> 00:23:46,433 Of course the women are walking on eggshells 597 00:23:46,467 --> 00:23:48,233 after the weekend in the Hamptons. 598 00:23:48,266 --> 00:23:50,000 They really don't know how offensive 599 00:23:50,033 --> 00:23:51,533 they are sometimes. 600 00:23:51,567 --> 00:23:53,533 -Diana! -Are you talking to me? 601 00:23:53,567 --> 00:23:55,433 -Michelle. -No, I'm Michelle. 602 00:23:55,467 --> 00:23:56,700 -You meant Michelle. -I get my help wrong. 603 00:23:56,734 --> 00:23:58,500 She said she get her help wrong? 604 00:23:58,533 --> 00:24:00,533 Not only are you a black woman, 605 00:24:00,567 --> 00:24:02,033 -Mm-hm, but you-- -Have studied it. 606 00:24:02,066 --> 00:24:03,667 It's a different like- this is your-- 607 00:24:03,700 --> 00:24:05,533 -It's a different level. -This is my life's work. 608 00:24:05,567 --> 00:24:07,433 It's your life's work. 609 00:24:07,467 --> 00:24:09,000 Honestly, like, I love having conversations about race 610 00:24:09,033 --> 00:24:11,000 with my Black friends. It's ----ing interesting. 611 00:24:11,033 --> 00:24:12,633 It's ----ing dynamic, it's like, 612 00:24:12,667 --> 00:24:14,567 there's never something to not talk about 613 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,567 because everyone's experience is so different. 614 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:18,567 But you, I think you are very knowledgeable, 615 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,033 and you are very powerful when you speak, as you should be. 616 00:24:21,066 --> 00:24:23,100 And you shouldn't have to like, like-- 617 00:24:23,133 --> 00:24:26,467 Dumb it down, or quell my light. I just can't do that. 618 00:24:26,500 --> 00:24:28,533 No, no, no, and you shouldn't, you know what I mean? 619 00:24:28,567 --> 00:24:31,500 But also, just, I think, be aware of your power. 620 00:24:31,533 --> 00:24:34,233 Which, I think you are. But, maybe you're not as... 621 00:24:34,266 --> 00:24:37,266 -Some... I um, haven't been, Leah. 622 00:24:37,300 --> 00:24:40,500 You know, I think you can be a little intimidating, maybe. 623 00:24:40,533 --> 00:24:42,567 All right, and I receive that. 624 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,734 I never go into a space like, "I'm going to show this bitch." 625 00:24:45,767 --> 00:24:47,700 But you know, the reality is, 626 00:24:47,734 --> 00:24:50,567 I make no apologies for who I am. 627 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,000 Yeah, I'm a lot. You bitches are a lot too. 628 00:24:53,033 --> 00:24:55,667 If some of these women feel like they can't be open, 629 00:24:55,700 --> 00:24:57,600 then they are just going to be...right? 630 00:24:57,633 --> 00:25:00,000 Like-- so I don't know how to feel like they can, 631 00:25:00,033 --> 00:25:01,600 because it's a crazy... 632 00:25:01,633 --> 00:25:03,667 like, it's a landmine for a white person. 633 00:25:03,700 --> 00:25:06,166 -Do you know what I'm saying? -I do. No I do. It's just like, 634 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:07,667 I'm not a white woman, obviously. 635 00:25:07,700 --> 00:25:09,567 And like, I can have my best intentions 636 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:11,667 and want to do it this way that they're getting it, 637 00:25:11,700 --> 00:25:13,734 but, if it's not landing I need to know that. 638 00:25:13,767 --> 00:25:15,567 I don't know. It's not like I know. 639 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,333 Have you talked to them yet, yeah, you know. 640 00:25:17,367 --> 00:25:19,633 But I'm not saying that you shouldn't be doing this 641 00:25:19,667 --> 00:25:21,300 if you want to-- 642 00:25:21,333 --> 00:25:22,700 I know where you're about to go. 643 00:25:22,734 --> 00:25:24,500 I'm not, like, feeling I'm on payroll 644 00:25:24,533 --> 00:25:26,100 to teach white women about Black America. 645 00:25:26,133 --> 00:25:28,033 Exactly. Like, I don't want you to have to feel 646 00:25:28,066 --> 00:25:29,734 like this is your job, right? 647 00:25:29,767 --> 00:25:31,567 I want you to be able to chill, too. 648 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,066 But I also, honestly, Leah, feel like... 649 00:25:34,100 --> 00:25:35,734 if not me, then who? 650 00:25:35,767 --> 00:25:39,100 You know, no one's perfect. Especially these women. 651 00:25:39,133 --> 00:25:41,667 They do have some learning to do. 652 00:25:41,700 --> 00:25:45,133 But, she can also get to know them. 653 00:25:45,166 --> 00:25:47,100 I think, just her getting to know them 654 00:25:47,133 --> 00:25:51,033 and being their friend will teach them so many things. 655 00:25:51,066 --> 00:25:54,033 This summer, when George Floyd was first killed, 656 00:25:54,066 --> 00:25:55,533 and Breonna Taylor and everything, 657 00:25:55,567 --> 00:25:57,333 I did check out. And I actually was like, 658 00:25:57,367 --> 00:25:59,066 "I'm not doing this anymore. Y'all go find another, 659 00:25:59,100 --> 00:26:02,533 "like, Black teacher." And then, I felt like 660 00:26:02,567 --> 00:26:04,734 -I wasn't my purpose. I think-- -You've gotta do you. 661 00:26:04,767 --> 00:26:06,533 I've gotta do me, and I'll be honest, 662 00:26:06,567 --> 00:26:08,300 they could be a group of Black women 663 00:26:08,333 --> 00:26:11,066 -and I would be the same. -Right. Oh, I know you would. 664 00:26:11,100 --> 00:26:12,734 -You know what I mean? 665 00:26:19,667 --> 00:26:22,133 -You want some peanuts? -Sure. 666 00:26:22,166 --> 00:26:23,667 Yeah? Because you're on the keto diet, right? 667 00:26:23,700 --> 00:26:25,133 No, no, no. 668 00:26:25,166 --> 00:26:26,400 You're not? 669 00:26:26,433 --> 00:26:27,700 I thought you were on the keto. 670 00:26:27,734 --> 00:26:29,333 Hello? 671 00:26:29,367 --> 00:26:33,000 Oh, I just heard Victoria. It is you, indeed! 672 00:26:33,033 --> 00:26:35,567 Did you look through the-- your new peephole? 673 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,100 I looked through my new peephole. 674 00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,000 What do you want to drink? 675 00:26:41,033 --> 00:26:42,667 I don't know. Do you have your faux? 676 00:26:42,700 --> 00:26:45,667 -I've got my faux-se. -faux-se? 677 00:26:45,700 --> 00:26:48,066 So, Victoria hasn't been drinking for like a year now. 678 00:26:48,100 --> 00:26:49,667 -Congratulations. 679 00:26:49,700 --> 00:26:51,133 -Yeah. -Very proud of her. 680 00:26:51,166 --> 00:26:53,166 Very grown up to get it at this age. 681 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,700 -I mean, it's impressive. -A year and a half. 682 00:26:55,734 --> 00:26:57,667 But, you know, so when you brought it up, 683 00:26:57,700 --> 00:26:59,667 she was like, "Yeah, but we used to love to party." 684 00:26:59,700 --> 00:27:01,567 I'm like, "Yeah, I love to party, you know?" 685 00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:04,033 And I have great memories of those days. 686 00:27:04,066 --> 00:27:07,700 Listen, will I ever drink again? I don't know the answer to that. 687 00:27:07,734 --> 00:27:11,400 Anyway, I would like for Sonja to kind of reel it in. 688 00:27:11,433 --> 00:27:13,066 Wells Fargo! 689 00:27:13,100 --> 00:27:16,734 -It's not JP Morgan! -Stop the drinking! 690 00:27:16,767 --> 00:27:19,166 -Well the best thing you-- -Not gonna say anything. 691 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,100 A powerful example, you know? 692 00:27:21,133 --> 00:27:23,166 I'm a lot more calm and a lot more happy-- 693 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,000 I would say you are your true self. 694 00:27:25,033 --> 00:27:26,400 You know what I've mean? 695 00:27:26,433 --> 00:27:28,700 You've become nicer and calmer-- 696 00:27:28,734 --> 00:27:30,033 Totally more connected to myself, yeah. 697 00:27:30,066 --> 00:27:31,667 And that's the point. 698 00:27:31,700 --> 00:27:33,767 There's a delivery. I'm going to go get that. 699 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,166 When you're in a different place and you're grounded, 700 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,667 and you feel present, and you can actually be there 701 00:27:39,700 --> 00:27:42,033 for people, it's so different in terms 702 00:27:42,066 --> 00:27:44,200 of how my relationships have changed. 703 00:27:44,233 --> 00:27:46,266 It's a gift that you don't drink, Mom. 704 00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:49,066 I feel so much better. I do! 705 00:27:49,100 --> 00:27:52,133 You're a lot better, to say the least. 706 00:27:52,166 --> 00:27:54,133 You know what I mean? You're just my mom. 707 00:27:54,166 --> 00:27:56,433 I really don't feel that I-- I think when I was younger, 708 00:27:56,467 --> 00:27:59,033 I knew you as this... 709 00:27:59,066 --> 00:28:02,133 -Hi, mom! -Hi, you two! 710 00:28:03,266 --> 00:28:05,200 Hi, my sweetie. 711 00:28:05,233 --> 00:28:08,667 And then there was that... that period... 712 00:28:08,700 --> 00:28:11,233 -What did I do? -Leave your feet in the vehicle! 713 00:28:11,266 --> 00:28:13,200 What did I do wrong? 714 00:28:13,233 --> 00:28:15,633 Those years, you know, where I was growing up 715 00:28:15,667 --> 00:28:17,700 when I was your age, you know, 716 00:28:17,734 --> 00:28:20,767 dealing with my dad who had a drinking problem. 717 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,633 And, the same time from 8 to 18-- 718 00:28:23,667 --> 00:28:25,700 It's like a parallel universe. 719 00:28:25,734 --> 00:28:27,700 It's parallel, yeah. And I'm starting to connect the dots, 720 00:28:27,734 --> 00:28:30,467 you know, and so many things that I did. 721 00:28:30,500 --> 00:28:33,500 I mean, my father's the river that runs through my life, 722 00:28:33,533 --> 00:28:37,233 that I'm realizing now, like, how it affected me 723 00:28:37,266 --> 00:28:39,033 my whole life. 724 00:28:39,066 --> 00:28:40,767 This is all I wanted from you as a kid. 725 00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,233 I wanted you to be honest and acknowledge 726 00:28:43,266 --> 00:28:45,767 the insanity and say you're sorry. 727 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,166 You know what I mean? It's all I ever wanted. I didn't-- 728 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:53,100 Well, listen, I put you through such hell for a long time, 729 00:28:53,133 --> 00:28:55,066 so I just want to say I'm sorry. 730 00:28:55,100 --> 00:28:56,700 Mom, it's OK. 731 00:28:56,734 --> 00:28:58,200 I've made so many mistakes. 732 00:28:58,233 --> 00:29:00,300 It's OK, Mom. 733 00:29:00,333 --> 00:29:03,767 I love you so much. I do. 734 00:29:13,300 --> 00:29:15,066 I can't imagine the turmoil 735 00:29:15,100 --> 00:29:16,533 that we're going through right now, 736 00:29:16,567 --> 00:29:18,533 having to deal with a hangover on top of it. 737 00:29:18,567 --> 00:29:20,033 I really can't. 738 00:29:22,233 --> 00:29:24,233 Coming up.... 739 00:29:24,266 --> 00:29:26,133 America's daughters, they get to see 740 00:29:26,166 --> 00:29:28,000 a woman vice president. We've never seen that 741 00:29:28,033 --> 00:29:29,233 in American history. 742 00:29:29,266 --> 00:29:31,266 OK, I don't want to talk politics. 743 00:29:31,300 --> 00:29:34,700 -Right? Right? -I don't want to talk politics. 744 00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,133 I don't want you to hold back. 745 00:29:44,166 --> 00:29:46,066 I want you to be completely honest 746 00:29:46,100 --> 00:29:48,066 when we're talking to Whitney, you know what I mean? 747 00:29:48,100 --> 00:29:50,200 She's here to, like, guide us and help us. 748 00:29:50,233 --> 00:29:52,233 We need to, like, speak openly about, like, 749 00:29:52,266 --> 00:29:54,200 what you want out of a high school, your strengths, 750 00:29:54,233 --> 00:29:56,166 -your weaknesses-- -I don't know what I want. 751 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,066 Well, you know some things. You want to stay-- 752 00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:00,200 You're the one who wants me to go to private school. 753 00:30:00,233 --> 00:30:02,100 Oh, no, I don't-- I want you to have options. 754 00:30:04,033 --> 00:30:05,333 Oh, my God, OK. There's Whitney. 755 00:30:05,367 --> 00:30:07,367 We have to be on our best behaviour. 756 00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:09,200 -Hi! -Hi! 757 00:30:09,233 --> 00:30:10,767 It's so nice to meet you, finally. 758 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,300 Should I take this off? 759 00:30:12,333 --> 00:30:14,200 Oh, my God, you really are the hottest woman 760 00:30:14,233 --> 00:30:16,300 I've ever seen in my life. Sorry. Just come on in. 761 00:30:16,333 --> 00:30:18,166 -Beyond nice of you. -The same to you. 762 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,333 -Thank you. -Hi. 763 00:30:20,367 --> 00:30:22,133 I'm excited to meet you guys in person. 764 00:30:22,166 --> 00:30:24,066 I know. Come on in. 765 00:30:24,100 --> 00:30:27,166 Whitney is a consultant that I hired to help us apply 766 00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:29,200 to high schools for Kiki. 767 00:30:29,233 --> 00:30:33,066 Because this process is absolutely gruelling. 768 00:30:33,100 --> 00:30:34,600 So, one thing that we're gonna be looking for 769 00:30:34,633 --> 00:30:37,367 in a school is a school that promotes hands-on 770 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,433 project-based learning. 771 00:30:39,467 --> 00:30:42,233 Yes, and this is--sorry to just interrupt, but this is-- 772 00:30:42,266 --> 00:30:44,266 And you know, because you've been dealing 773 00:30:44,300 --> 00:30:46,200 with my mother, and I'm sorry about that. 774 00:30:46,233 --> 00:30:50,033 My mother is involved in pretty much every decision 775 00:30:50,066 --> 00:30:54,266 I make with Kier. Because she is obsessed with her. 776 00:30:54,300 --> 00:30:58,166 And Bunny thinks that Kiki will be the child 777 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,333 that I never was to her. 778 00:31:00,367 --> 00:31:04,433 She's been gung-ho on Kiki going to her high school 779 00:31:04,467 --> 00:31:07,133 that she went to, which is an all-girl Catholic school 780 00:31:07,166 --> 00:31:10,100 that's very much, like, writing and not project-based 781 00:31:10,133 --> 00:31:11,633 learning. And I'm like, she's-- 782 00:31:11,667 --> 00:31:13,433 I'm meeting so much resistance with her. 783 00:31:13,467 --> 00:31:15,333 My mother is hardcore. 784 00:31:15,367 --> 00:31:17,300 And she has the best intentions for my daughter, 785 00:31:17,333 --> 00:31:19,667 but I feel like I'm being pulled between my mom and, you know? 786 00:31:19,700 --> 00:31:21,266 -You are. -I am. 787 00:31:21,300 --> 00:31:23,433 I mean, you're in a challenging position. 788 00:31:23,467 --> 00:31:26,133 What I really want for Kier is for her 789 00:31:26,166 --> 00:31:30,333 to really have a great high school experience, you know? 790 00:31:30,367 --> 00:31:32,633 I don't want her running all over New York City, 791 00:31:32,667 --> 00:31:35,233 going out to raves, and then, like, ending up 792 00:31:35,266 --> 00:31:39,133 in a therapeutic community run by nuns. Like I did. 793 00:31:39,166 --> 00:31:41,500 So, we're gonna help guide you in the direction 794 00:31:41,533 --> 00:31:44,367 that we think is helpful. But ultimately, 795 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,667 I want you to own this process, OK? 796 00:31:46,700 --> 00:31:48,667 -Do you feel OK with that? -Yeah. 797 00:31:48,700 --> 00:31:51,066 -Yeah? -I feel fine. 798 00:31:51,100 --> 00:31:54,367 And it'll be awesome for Mom to see you rise to the occasion. 799 00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,200 So, I already emailed you your school list. 800 00:31:57,233 --> 00:31:58,467 I'm gonna kick you out of here 801 00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:00,367 and you're gonna go start your research. 802 00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:02,433 Oh, good idea. Yep, look up these schools, OK? 803 00:32:02,467 --> 00:32:04,400 OK, I will. Thank you. 804 00:32:04,433 --> 00:32:06,367 You're welcome. Text me later. You have my-- 805 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,300 Good job, Kiki, you're taking ownership, I love that. 806 00:32:08,333 --> 00:32:10,066 -You are. -Stop. 807 00:32:10,100 --> 00:32:11,633 How are you feeling? 808 00:32:11,667 --> 00:32:14,166 My mother makes me feel so guilty about everything. 809 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,500 It's like, I have loved Kiki being educated 810 00:32:16,533 --> 00:32:20,233 at a public school, having friends 811 00:32:20,266 --> 00:32:23,166 that are all different races and socioeconomics, 812 00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,233 and private school's a whole different ballgame. 813 00:32:25,266 --> 00:32:28,166 I'm like, can she handle that change? 814 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,333 I was going to a school where I was, like-- 815 00:32:30,367 --> 00:32:33,400 girls were pulling up in limousines and I was getting-- 816 00:32:33,433 --> 00:32:36,333 -It's different. -off the M5 bus. 817 00:32:36,367 --> 00:32:40,233 So, and I have my own issues about that stuff. 818 00:32:40,266 --> 00:32:42,400 But I don't want to project it onto her, you know? 819 00:32:42,433 --> 00:32:46,433 For Kiki, really I wanted to nurture a love of learning 820 00:32:46,467 --> 00:32:49,300 and a curiosity, but I also don't want her to be, like, 821 00:32:49,333 --> 00:32:51,333 in school with a bunch of elitists. 822 00:32:51,367 --> 00:32:54,734 And that's something that is, like, very hard to balance 823 00:32:54,767 --> 00:32:57,133 when you're dealing with, like, private school education 824 00:32:57,166 --> 00:32:59,467 in New York City. I'm like, so terrified 825 00:32:59,500 --> 00:33:02,100 that I'm gonna make a mistake. 826 00:33:02,133 --> 00:33:04,100 I feel like Rob's gonna be so awkward 827 00:33:04,133 --> 00:33:05,467 during the parent interview. We can't leave him out 828 00:33:05,500 --> 00:33:07,600 of the interview? He has to come? 829 00:33:07,633 --> 00:33:10,266 -We can't! -Can he just, like, not talk? 830 00:33:10,300 --> 00:33:12,266 "You're playing the role of silent." 831 00:33:12,300 --> 00:33:14,166 "Yeah, you're playing the role of mute. Thank you." 832 00:33:24,533 --> 00:33:27,433 I'm using paper napkins. I have too much laundry to do. 833 00:33:27,467 --> 00:33:30,533 Can you slow down? Mommy's a little tired today. 834 00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:34,433 I guess I should've waited 'til she got here. 835 00:33:34,467 --> 00:33:36,467 -Should I take the ice out? 836 00:33:36,500 --> 00:33:39,200 Oh, good, she's here. Ha, perfect timing! 837 00:33:39,233 --> 00:33:40,467 Perfect timing. 838 00:33:40,500 --> 00:33:42,500 -Oh, sexy! -Well, it's kinda warm out. 839 00:33:42,533 --> 00:33:44,233 You look beautiful. 840 00:33:44,266 --> 00:33:46,367 So do you. I had something else on, 841 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,500 but my apartment's a little warm 'cause it got so warm now. 842 00:33:48,533 --> 00:33:50,333 I'm holding Carey James, he's so excited. 843 00:33:50,367 --> 00:33:52,266 I don't want him to scratch your pretty legs. 844 00:33:52,300 --> 00:33:54,433 I invited Eboni to come over and she brought her dog, 845 00:33:54,467 --> 00:33:56,300 Carey, because I want to get into the meat 846 00:33:56,333 --> 00:33:58,166 and potatoes of her. 847 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,333 Yes, can she be a little preachy at times, yes. 848 00:34:00,367 --> 00:34:02,233 But I enjoy Eboni's company. 849 00:34:02,266 --> 00:34:04,233 She has a good heart, good soul and I respect her. 850 00:34:04,266 --> 00:34:05,533 Tremendously. 851 00:34:05,567 --> 00:34:07,467 -Ramona, this place is gorgeous. -Thank you. 852 00:34:07,500 --> 00:34:09,200 Look at this view! 853 00:34:09,233 --> 00:34:11,166 -All right, so cheers. -Cheers again. 854 00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:12,467 Lovely getting to know you, becoming good friends. 855 00:34:12,500 --> 00:34:14,266 Thank you, Ramona. 856 00:34:14,300 --> 00:34:16,200 And thank you for having me over to your home. 857 00:34:16,233 --> 00:34:17,567 What did you think of the Harlem night? 858 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,467 I was so excited you got to come. 859 00:34:19,500 --> 00:34:21,400 You know what? it was really nice to be 860 00:34:21,433 --> 00:34:23,400 in that type of an atmosphere. 861 00:34:23,433 --> 00:34:26,433 I really was, like, blown away by your attention to detail. 862 00:34:26,467 --> 00:34:28,500 You took it to another level. 863 00:34:28,533 --> 00:34:30,400 No, you did. It was just really beautiful and stunning. 864 00:34:30,433 --> 00:34:32,600 That's good. Um, so we don't have to talk too much 865 00:34:32,633 --> 00:34:35,400 about it, but how are you just feeling with the election 866 00:34:35,433 --> 00:34:38,600 and how our city and world will be 867 00:34:38,633 --> 00:34:40,166 in the next few months? 868 00:34:41,633 --> 00:34:44,500 Um, I really just don't want to think about it. 869 00:34:44,533 --> 00:34:46,400 I've been thinking about it a lot and-- 870 00:34:46,433 --> 00:34:48,433 If it goes how it's looking it's gonna go right now, 871 00:34:48,467 --> 00:34:51,467 what I'm very, very happy about is America's daughters, 872 00:34:51,500 --> 00:34:53,367 they get to see a woman vice president. 873 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,000 We've never seen that in American history. 874 00:34:55,033 --> 00:34:56,600 OK, I don't want to talk politics. 875 00:34:56,633 --> 00:34:59,200 -Right? Right? -I don't want to talk politics. 876 00:34:59,233 --> 00:35:00,633 Have we had a vice president woman, Ramona? 877 00:35:00,667 --> 00:35:03,266 That's an objective fact. 878 00:35:03,300 --> 00:35:05,300 Let's have a nice evening. I don't want to talk politics. 879 00:35:05,333 --> 00:35:07,266 I don't. 880 00:35:08,667 --> 00:35:12,333 I'm actually shocked that Ramona is so triggered. 881 00:35:12,367 --> 00:35:14,433 I thought, like, we can have middle ground. 882 00:35:14,467 --> 00:35:16,200 Like, I actually thought about this-- 883 00:35:16,233 --> 00:35:18,567 was we are woman. And she has a daughter. 884 00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,233 And can't we all agree how great it is 885 00:35:21,266 --> 00:35:24,333 to see women advance in American politics? 886 00:35:24,367 --> 00:35:26,600 You know, I'm not gonna let you off the hook that much? 887 00:35:26,633 --> 00:35:27,667 -You know what? -Only because-- 888 00:35:27,700 --> 00:35:29,433 You know what they say? 889 00:35:29,467 --> 00:35:31,033 Don't talk about politics with friends. 890 00:35:31,066 --> 00:35:33,033 So, we're not talking about politics. 891 00:35:33,066 --> 00:35:34,633 Does Eboni have to talk politics all the time? 892 00:35:34,667 --> 00:35:36,633 I know we have more in common than that. 893 00:35:36,667 --> 00:35:39,467 As my daughter Avery would say, "Peel back the onion." 894 00:35:39,500 --> 00:35:41,333 Eboni, can you peel back the onion, please? 895 00:35:41,367 --> 00:35:43,266 I'll change the subject. 896 00:35:43,300 --> 00:35:45,300 So, after that whole weekend that we had... 897 00:35:46,600 --> 00:35:48,567 Well, I'm happy about Kamala Harris, I'll say that. 898 00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,333 That's-- as your right to be. 899 00:35:50,367 --> 00:35:52,233 After our whole weekend in the Hamptons, 900 00:35:52,266 --> 00:35:55,533 you really opened up my mind to thing. 901 00:35:55,567 --> 00:35:58,567 -So, I first looked up what-- -Oh, white fragility. 902 00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,567 -microaggressions are. -Oh, microaggression. OK. 903 00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:02,400 Microaggression? What's that all about? 904 00:36:02,433 --> 00:36:04,367 It's about saying certain words that trigger people 905 00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,500 who are Black. 906 00:36:06,533 --> 00:36:09,066 OK. There is this issue and it's been an ongoing issue 907 00:36:09,100 --> 00:36:11,533 in this country. So, of course we're aware, 908 00:36:11,567 --> 00:36:13,300 but we are not-- 909 00:36:13,333 --> 00:36:15,033 -That aware. -that aware. 910 00:36:15,066 --> 00:36:17,066 Like, when a Black person goes into a store, they go, 911 00:36:17,100 --> 00:36:19,033 "Go to the sale rack." 912 00:36:19,066 --> 00:36:21,433 A Black person goes into a store, say, they follow you 913 00:36:21,467 --> 00:36:22,667 to make sure you're not gonna shoplift. 914 00:36:22,700 --> 00:36:24,500 Steal, yeah. 915 00:36:24,533 --> 00:36:26,367 Right. Or, like, "Oh, you have great hair." 916 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,600 "Is it yours?" They ask that, too! 917 00:36:28,633 --> 00:36:31,100 Add that, yeah. So, you opened up my mind. 918 00:36:31,133 --> 00:36:34,300 You seemed like you appreciated knowing, you know, 919 00:36:34,333 --> 00:36:36,066 -once you know. -No, absolutely. Absolutely. 920 00:36:36,100 --> 00:36:37,633 I think that I tend to be-- 921 00:36:37,667 --> 00:36:39,600 and it's probably just because of the experiences 922 00:36:39,633 --> 00:36:41,467 I've had in the world working at Fox 923 00:36:41,500 --> 00:36:43,600 and working in news. So, I kind of sometimes have a-- 924 00:36:43,633 --> 00:36:45,633 a bit of a grittier lens on our country. 925 00:36:45,667 --> 00:36:47,734 We are a divided country right now, Ramona, 926 00:36:47,767 --> 00:36:50,100 and we're in your home, and I'm gonna respect that-- 927 00:36:50,133 --> 00:36:52,433 But you know, when you think-- when you put out that energy, 928 00:36:52,467 --> 00:36:54,333 it's gonna happen, and I don't like that. 929 00:36:54,367 --> 00:36:56,467 We don't even know who the president is, 930 00:36:56,500 --> 00:36:58,467 which is indicative our nation is divided. 931 00:36:58,500 --> 00:37:00,367 Well, excuse me, we don't have a president 932 00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,400 'cause normally there weren't mail-in ballots. 933 00:37:02,433 --> 00:37:05,133 Everything changed. This is a whole-- the election's never- 934 00:37:05,166 --> 00:37:07,533 You said you didn't want to talk about politics. 935 00:37:07,567 --> 00:37:10,133 Well, you're bringing it up. can we just change the subject? 936 00:37:10,166 --> 00:37:12,633 I just, I'm gonna take a step away 937 00:37:12,667 --> 00:37:15,700 because, you know what, I don't want to do this. 938 00:37:15,734 --> 00:37:18,500 I don't. I'm liking you, and I just don't think you mix-- 939 00:37:18,533 --> 00:37:20,633 I don't know you that well. Feel like you're teaching me, 940 00:37:20,667 --> 00:37:22,700 -you're preaching me. -Tell me what I taught you. 941 00:37:22,734 --> 00:37:25,300 I don't know. You know what? I'm walking away for a minute 942 00:37:25,333 --> 00:37:27,367 -and I'm gonna come back. -OK. 943 00:37:35,500 --> 00:37:37,600 which is indicative our nation is divided. 944 00:37:37,633 --> 00:37:39,567 I feel like you're teaching me, you're preaching me. 945 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,734 Tell me what I taught you. I don't know. You know what? 946 00:37:41,767 --> 00:37:44,400 I'm walking away for a minute and I'm gonna come back. 947 00:37:44,433 --> 00:37:45,734 OK. 948 00:37:45,767 --> 00:37:47,700 Eboni's not having a conversation. 949 00:37:47,734 --> 00:37:49,633 It seems like she just wants to ram something 950 00:37:49,667 --> 00:37:52,734 down my throat, so to speak, and it's like her way or no way. 951 00:37:52,767 --> 00:37:54,467 And she's sounding a little preachy. 952 00:37:54,500 --> 00:37:56,600 Coco, we don't want to talk politics. 953 00:37:56,633 --> 00:37:59,600 It's been a crazy week. I'm stressed out enough. 954 00:37:59,633 --> 00:38:01,400 I know she means well, 955 00:38:01,433 --> 00:38:03,033 but I feel like she wants to educate me. 956 00:38:03,066 --> 00:38:04,767 I don't want to be educated. 957 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,567 I mean, I like my mind being opened up, and I just said, 958 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,633 "You opened up my mind." And then 959 00:38:10,667 --> 00:38:12,200 Wow, she can't, like, back off. 960 00:38:12,233 --> 00:38:14,500 Ramona needs to really understand, 961 00:38:14,533 --> 00:38:16,233 I'm actually just trying to connect with you, 962 00:38:16,266 --> 00:38:18,533 and really see not what your party politics are, 963 00:38:18,567 --> 00:38:20,400 'Cause I don't give a about that. 964 00:38:20,433 --> 00:38:21,767 I'm trying to understand what your values are. 965 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,600 Because if we can assess and have any alignment, 966 00:38:24,633 --> 00:38:27,767 right, on values, we can have a real friendship. 967 00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:29,767 You know what, Coco? This is why I'm not feeling well. 968 00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:31,633 I haven't put on my butterfly necklace. 969 00:38:31,667 --> 00:38:35,000 It's me and Avery. So, this is my happy necklace. 970 00:38:35,033 --> 00:38:37,500 This is me and Avery. 971 00:38:37,533 --> 00:38:39,233 -That's absolutely beautiful. -And it's a one-of-a-kind piece 972 00:38:39,266 --> 00:38:41,200 and everyone wants to know where they can get it, 973 00:38:41,233 --> 00:38:42,600 but it's specially made for me. 974 00:38:42,633 --> 00:38:44,200 And I haven't worn it for a while, 975 00:38:44,233 --> 00:38:46,400 and I just want to be in a happy place, so. 976 00:38:46,433 --> 00:38:48,533 Here's to being in a happy place and it's good to 977 00:38:48,567 --> 00:38:50,767 chat with you, but I just want to be in a happy place. 978 00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:52,600 I want to be in a happy place, too. 979 00:38:52,633 --> 00:38:54,533 But I also want to be in an authentic place. 980 00:38:54,567 --> 00:38:56,533 I want us to be able to tell the truth, Ramona, 981 00:38:56,567 --> 00:38:58,233 to each other. If we're gonna be good girlfriends. 982 00:38:58,266 --> 00:38:59,667 I want to have fun right now! OK? 983 00:38:59,700 --> 00:39:01,266 I had a really hard week. 984 00:39:01,300 --> 00:39:02,667 this is the white female fragility, Ramona. 985 00:39:02,700 --> 00:39:04,266 You're preaching me. 986 00:39:04,300 --> 00:39:06,000 -I'm not. -You are. 987 00:39:06,033 --> 00:39:07,667 -That's gaslighting. -I'm not gaslighting you. 988 00:39:07,700 --> 00:39:08,734 You're gaslighting me. 989 00:39:08,767 --> 00:39:10,600 I invited you into my home-- 990 00:39:10,633 --> 00:39:12,533 I want to have a real friendship with you, Ramona. 991 00:39:12,567 --> 00:39:14,667 -Fine. I do, too. -'Cause I like you. 992 00:39:14,700 --> 00:39:16,533 But you can't like me 993 00:39:16,567 --> 00:39:18,600 only when I say the things you want me to say. 994 00:39:18,633 --> 00:39:21,033 You can say whatever you want, I don't want to talk political. 995 00:39:21,066 --> 00:39:22,767 I don't want to talk about race, religion or creed. 996 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:24,600 -Is that OK? Creed. -Ramona, that's who I am. 997 00:39:24,633 --> 00:39:26,467 Well, then you know what? 998 00:39:26,500 --> 00:39:28,533 You need to back off a little, because, you know, 999 00:39:28,567 --> 00:39:30,433 The other girls are not feeling really good about this. 1000 00:39:30,467 --> 00:39:32,000 They feel like you're lecturing us. 1001 00:39:32,033 --> 00:39:34,000 It was a fun night, but we were just saying, 1002 00:39:34,033 --> 00:39:36,266 it's like being back at school. 1003 00:39:36,300 --> 00:39:38,000 Well, when you're with Eboni, 1004 00:39:38,033 --> 00:39:41,233 you feel like it's her platform to educate us. 1005 00:39:41,266 --> 00:39:43,467 It's a huge movement right now. 1006 00:39:43,500 --> 00:39:45,300 No, I know, and we respect that. 1007 00:39:45,333 --> 00:39:47,567 But I'm wondering when it's gonna loosen up with her 1008 00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,033 a little bit and we can talk about other subjects. 1009 00:39:50,066 --> 00:39:52,533 They should be big girls, 'cause everybody's an adult. 1010 00:39:52,567 --> 00:39:54,233 And they should say how they feel. 1011 00:39:54,266 --> 00:39:56,266 You invited me here, I thought that we were 1012 00:39:56,300 --> 00:39:58,266 -in a good place, Ramona. -We are in a good place. 1013 00:39:58,300 --> 00:40:00,600 But you can't tell me not to talk about how I feel. 1014 00:40:00,633 --> 00:40:02,100 You're too heavy for me right now. 1015 00:40:02,133 --> 00:40:04,000 This is too serious of a conversation 1016 00:40:04,033 --> 00:40:05,567 when I just want to enjoy my life. 1017 00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,033 I want to escape for 24 hours, OK? 1018 00:40:07,066 --> 00:40:09,033 Ramona, I'm glad you can do that. 1019 00:40:09,066 --> 00:40:10,667 I don't have the privilege to do that. 1020 00:40:10,700 --> 00:40:12,667 -Does that make sense to you? -Yes, you can. 1021 00:40:12,700 --> 00:40:14,467 I can't escape it. 1022 00:40:14,500 --> 00:40:17,100 Am I supposed to take this off and hang it up? 1023 00:40:17,133 --> 00:40:19,500 Do you have a coat closet for my Blackness, Ramona? 1024 00:40:19,533 --> 00:40:21,767 I'm feeling I'm being attacked, OK? 1025 00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,133 I really, you know, tried to understand 1026 00:40:24,166 --> 00:40:26,333 and I took things in. And I'm actually--you know, 1027 00:40:26,367 --> 00:40:28,100 I didn't have to bring this up. I mean, 1028 00:40:28,133 --> 00:40:30,133 the other person I want to bring up is EJ Walker. 1029 00:40:30,166 --> 00:40:32,066 She was the first frickin' millionaire and she was Black. 1030 00:40:32,100 --> 00:40:34,000 CJ Walker. 1031 00:40:34,033 --> 00:40:35,734 -Whatever, Walker, Walker. -No, not whatever, Ramona. 1032 00:40:35,767 --> 00:40:37,734 All right, you know what? I got to go now. 1033 00:40:37,767 --> 00:40:40,133 All right, lovely to see you. Thank you for the great gifts. 1034 00:40:40,166 --> 00:40:42,066 It wasn't lovely to see me, though. 1035 00:40:42,100 --> 00:40:44,066 You were upset and why? We don't have to be upset. 1036 00:40:44,100 --> 00:40:46,033 you're correcting me about "Oh, it's not C--" 1037 00:40:46,066 --> 00:40:48,066 Now, Ramona, you know I didn't do that. 1038 00:40:48,100 --> 00:40:49,734 How about just saying, "You know what, Ramona? 1039 00:40:49,767 --> 00:40:51,533 "That is admirable that you knew 1040 00:40:51,567 --> 00:40:53,066 "the first millionaire woman was a Black chick." 1041 00:40:53,100 --> 00:40:54,600 Instead of correcting me like a teacher. 1042 00:40:54,633 --> 00:40:56,734 -That's her name. -You're not getting it. 1043 00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,100 But Ramona, you know, that's not her name. 1044 00:40:59,133 --> 00:41:01,367 Oh, my God! It's not the point. I'm actually shocked right now. 1045 00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:03,734 I feel like she's just picking on me for no reason. 1046 00:41:03,767 --> 00:41:05,767 Before I leave, I do have to ask you one question. 1047 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:07,767 Sonja Morgan mentioned to me 1048 00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:10,700 that she had a problem with you posting the picture 1049 00:41:10,734 --> 00:41:13,767 that I liked and reposted of me and you. 1050 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,066 She was just jealous. Sonja loves the attention. 1051 00:41:17,100 --> 00:41:19,100 And when she saw I gave you attention, 1052 00:41:19,133 --> 00:41:21,633 -she was resentful. -Look who's lecturing now. 1053 00:41:21,667 --> 00:41:23,633 -I don't know, I just feel like -Look who's lecturing. 1054 00:41:23,667 --> 00:41:25,567 -I feel you're attacking me. -Look who's standing up here. 1055 00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:27,734 Miss Schoolteacher. 1056 00:41:27,767 --> 00:41:29,200 You're not being attacked, babe, 1057 00:41:29,233 --> 00:41:30,767 I just wanted you to know, CJ Walker, 1058 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:32,367 'cause I know you're gonna tell your friends. 1059 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,100 -All right. -That's it! 1060 00:41:34,133 --> 00:41:35,700 All right, all right. Come here. 1061 00:41:35,734 --> 00:41:37,567 -All right. -OK? 1062 00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:39,633 I'm not a big scary monster, you crazy lady. 1063 00:41:40,734 --> 00:41:42,400 You know? Like, let-- 1064 00:41:42,433 --> 00:41:44,600 and I don't want to feel like we have no fly-- 1065 00:41:44,633 --> 00:41:47,000 -you know what a no-fly zone is? -That--yeah. 1066 00:41:47,033 --> 00:41:49,767 -You know no-fly zone? -Yeah, yeah, yeah. OK. 1067 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,667 And I want to know about your feelings. 1068 00:41:51,700 --> 00:41:53,400 And I want to be respectful to that. 1069 00:41:53,433 --> 00:41:55,133 I think that you do. I think you do. 1070 00:41:55,166 --> 00:41:57,133 So, don't say, "I don't want to hear about you 1071 00:41:57,166 --> 00:41:59,000 being Black, and -" 1072 00:41:59,033 --> 00:42:00,667 I was up five o'clock in the morning researching 1073 00:42:00,700 --> 00:42:03,033 -all this sh--. -You're tired. And that's OK. 1074 00:42:03,066 --> 00:42:05,033 But- but I'm not gonna treat you with kid gloves 1075 00:42:05,066 --> 00:42:06,567 -and white fragility. -I don't want you to. 1076 00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:08,133 Because you're a strong white woman. 1077 00:42:08,166 --> 00:42:09,767 Yeah, and you're a strong Black bitch. 1078 00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,734 Yeah, I am. Strong Black bitch. I like that. 1079 00:42:11,767 --> 00:42:15,667 So, overall, a sh--show. This night was a sh--show. 1080 00:42:15,700 --> 00:42:17,367 But one that we survived. 1081 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,667 And I hope that it ends up bringing you closer, 1082 00:42:19,700 --> 00:42:21,133 in a weird way. 1083 00:42:21,166 --> 00:42:22,700 I wasn't gonna let you kick me out, 1084 00:42:22,734 --> 00:42:24,700 'cause you ----ing tried it. 1085 00:42:24,734 --> 00:42:26,700 -Bitch, you tried it. You were. -I said, "To be reconvened." 1086 00:42:26,734 --> 00:42:28,166 Well, actually what was funny was, 1087 00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,033 you were gonna leave your own house. 1088 00:42:30,066 --> 00:42:31,667 You were like, "I'm gonna leave." I'm like, 1089 00:42:31,700 --> 00:42:33,667 "Well, I don't even ---- ing know how to lock up." 1090 00:42:33,700 --> 00:42:35,433 Next time on The Real Housewives of New York City.... 1091 00:42:35,467 --> 00:42:37,700 I love men that can travel to other countries. 1092 00:42:37,734 --> 00:42:40,433 We don't want nobody broke. 1093 00:42:40,467 --> 00:42:42,200 Welcome to Salem, bitches! 1094 00:42:44,734 --> 00:42:46,734 -Is the hotel OK? -No, no, it's haunted. 1095 00:42:46,767 --> 00:42:49,600 -Only good spirts here. 1096 00:42:49,633 --> 00:42:52,000 Maybe I'll, you know, get lucky during the night. 1097 00:42:53,734 --> 00:42:57,033 -She's the Halle Berry Catwoman. -Wow! Ooh, you can twerk! 1098 00:42:57,066 --> 00:42:59,033 Wait, where-- 1099 00:42:59,066 --> 00:43:01,033 -Shut the up. -No, you shut the up. 1100 00:43:01,066 --> 00:43:02,633 You have no idea what you're talking about. 1101 00:43:02,667 --> 00:43:04,700 You are what's wrong in the world. 1102 00:43:04,734 --> 00:43:07,166 You're what's wrong in the world. 1103 00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:08,767 -Just listen! -You absolutely are. Trust me.