1 00:00:14,167 --> 00:00:16,958 - The house my mom is living in is horrible. 2 00:00:17,042 --> 00:00:20,333 I don't feel safe because there's a lot of people coming and going. 3 00:00:24,250 --> 00:00:25,542 - When Danielle went to fentanyl, 4 00:00:25,625 --> 00:00:28,333 everything just went downhill really fast. 5 00:00:28,417 --> 00:00:30,000 (dramatic music) 6 00:00:31,208 --> 00:00:33,458 - My mom has been locked in a cage, 7 00:00:33,542 --> 00:00:36,375 almost been chopped up, she's had an axe in her head. 8 00:00:36,458 --> 00:00:39,542 - Seeing the look in my kids' eyes, 9 00:00:39,625 --> 00:00:42,167 seeing the respect be gone 10 00:00:42,208 --> 00:00:44,250 is probably the worst thing. 11 00:00:47,167 --> 00:00:49,292 - It feels like she really does choose drugs 12 00:00:49,375 --> 00:00:51,125 over her family every single day. 13 00:00:54,250 --> 00:00:55,292 - Yeah. 14 00:00:55,375 --> 00:00:57,000 - It's like playing Russian roulette. 15 00:00:57,125 --> 00:01:00,000 The next hit could be your last. 16 00:01:00,083 --> 00:01:02,708 - We've got four SUVs out front. 17 00:01:02,792 --> 00:01:06,792 We've got three SWAT guys at the front door with a huge gun. 18 00:01:06,875 --> 00:01:10,125 Danielle could be in danger in the house right now. 19 00:01:10,875 --> 00:01:12,417 (♪) 20 00:01:13,875 --> 00:01:16,583 (theme music) 21 00:01:30,125 --> 00:01:32,708 (soft piano music) 22 00:01:38,625 --> 00:01:39,667 - Oops. Okay sorry. 23 00:01:39,750 --> 00:01:41,583 My name is Danielle. 24 00:01:41,667 --> 00:01:43,750 I'm 38 years old 25 00:01:44,042 --> 00:01:46,167 and I am a mother. 26 00:01:49,958 --> 00:01:52,417 I do have five kids. 27 00:01:52,875 --> 00:01:54,958 - Oh, she was a wonderful mother. 28 00:01:55,042 --> 00:01:57,542 She took great pride in being a mother. 29 00:01:59,042 --> 00:02:00,833 - Danielle's always been a beautiful girl. 30 00:02:00,917 --> 00:02:03,333 Energetic and fun. 31 00:02:04,500 --> 00:02:05,917 - I gotta do it all over again. 32 00:02:06,042 --> 00:02:08,167 - I did experience a lot of love as a child. 33 00:02:08,208 --> 00:02:10,167 Mainly from my mom, just... 34 00:02:10,208 --> 00:02:12,833 seeing how much effort she put into making sure 35 00:02:12,958 --> 00:02:14,417 we had what we needed. 36 00:02:19,542 --> 00:02:21,750 - Me and my mom were always really close. 37 00:02:21,875 --> 00:02:23,917 We'd stay up late and spend time together. 38 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,375 - I'm going to miss you. 39 00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:27,333 You're gonna have a good week at school? 40 00:02:27,417 --> 00:02:28,792 - I don't know what went wrong. 41 00:02:29,833 --> 00:02:31,208 - Love you. 42 00:02:33,167 --> 00:02:35,375 - Yeah. It just all went to (beep) really. 43 00:02:37,542 --> 00:02:39,500 (somber music) 44 00:02:41,458 --> 00:02:43,042 - Hailey! 45 00:02:43,125 --> 00:02:44,667 Hailey! - What? 46 00:03:01,208 --> 00:03:05,625 I'm currently in active addiction 47 00:03:05,708 --> 00:03:07,500 to fentanyl. 48 00:03:08,833 --> 00:03:12,000 I also use crystal meth. 49 00:03:12,833 --> 00:03:16,167 - If my mom doesn't have any fentanyl, she gets dope sick. 50 00:03:16,208 --> 00:03:18,583 It's like a really bad head cold. 51 00:03:18,667 --> 00:03:22,333 And um, that's when she will beg me for money. 52 00:03:22,417 --> 00:03:26,167 And when I tell her no, she'll tell me she hates me, 53 00:03:26,250 --> 00:03:28,167 she wants me to die. 54 00:03:28,708 --> 00:03:30,333 It's hurtful because... 55 00:03:30,417 --> 00:03:32,542 I don't want to give her money for something 56 00:03:32,625 --> 00:03:34,708 that she could possibly overdose on. 57 00:03:38,208 --> 00:03:39,833 (dramatic music) 58 00:03:52,542 --> 00:03:55,708 - The house my mom is living in is horrible. 59 00:03:55,792 --> 00:03:56,917 I don't feel safe, 60 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:58,875 because there's a lot of people coming and going. 61 00:04:02,875 --> 00:04:04,333 - Josh. 62 00:04:04,417 --> 00:04:06,750 Do you want to skip me up to the um, 63 00:04:06,833 --> 00:04:08,542 shoppers real quick? 64 00:04:10,583 --> 00:04:13,000 - I just don't want to sit there for two hours. 65 00:04:13,125 --> 00:04:14,542 Like that's my only thing. - Okay. 66 00:04:17,875 --> 00:04:20,083 - The hardest thing about my mom's drug use 67 00:04:20,208 --> 00:04:21,792 is her being so distant. 68 00:04:21,875 --> 00:04:23,458 I mean to actually spend time with... 69 00:04:23,542 --> 00:04:25,625 And then when you actually do get to spend time with her 70 00:04:25,708 --> 00:04:27,708 it's, you're just spending the whole time heartbroken. 71 00:04:27,792 --> 00:04:30,833 I'm 19 years old, like I do as much as I can. 72 00:04:30,875 --> 00:04:33,208 But just sometimes there's a boundary. 73 00:04:33,292 --> 00:04:35,542 - She's so unreliable. 74 00:04:35,667 --> 00:04:38,833 Like one minute she could have intentions of doing something 75 00:04:38,958 --> 00:04:41,625 and then you don't see her for three days. 76 00:04:41,708 --> 00:04:45,125 You know, it's, it's that, that's reality. 77 00:04:45,208 --> 00:04:47,625 (city hubbub) 78 00:04:50,792 --> 00:04:53,375 - I've given my mom money to help her out 79 00:04:53,500 --> 00:04:56,292 with rent before. I've given her money to help out with food. 80 00:04:56,375 --> 00:04:59,375 - I have given her my Christmas and birthday money. 81 00:04:59,458 --> 00:05:03,000 - I spend around 1200 bucks a week um, 82 00:05:03,125 --> 00:05:04,792 give or take a little bit. 83 00:05:07,542 --> 00:05:09,458 - Drugs have destroyed her. 84 00:05:10,417 --> 00:05:12,375 Her body, her mind. 85 00:05:12,458 --> 00:05:14,708 She used to be so beautiful. 86 00:05:14,792 --> 00:05:18,792 She's still pretty but she looks so dirty and gross now. 87 00:05:19,500 --> 00:05:21,542 - She has this weird tattoo on her face. 88 00:05:21,625 --> 00:05:23,875 I don't know. I don't really like it. 89 00:05:23,958 --> 00:05:25,375 - She has no sense of time. 90 00:05:25,458 --> 00:05:27,833 She's always late, irresponsible. 91 00:05:28,458 --> 00:05:30,708 Everything about her life is destroying. 92 00:05:32,458 --> 00:05:34,625 (dramatic music) 93 00:05:35,250 --> 00:05:37,125 It makes me feel sad and mad. 94 00:05:37,208 --> 00:05:38,417 I don't know. 95 00:05:39,375 --> 00:05:40,417 I just... 96 00:05:41,875 --> 00:05:43,500 hate the way that she chooses drugs over everything. 97 00:05:47,833 --> 00:05:48,875 (soft music) 98 00:05:48,958 --> 00:05:50,583 - Danielle was a happy child 99 00:05:50,667 --> 00:05:52,500 and very intelligent. 100 00:05:52,542 --> 00:05:54,750 Fluently read when she was two years old. 101 00:05:54,750 --> 00:05:58,083 - I had Danielle at the age of 17. 102 00:05:58,167 --> 00:06:00,833 I had a lot of family support. 103 00:06:00,917 --> 00:06:04,583 My parents were both very proud of Danielle 104 00:06:04,583 --> 00:06:06,333 and they were very close 105 00:06:06,417 --> 00:06:08,458 and they helped a great deal in raising her. 106 00:06:08,542 --> 00:06:11,042 Danielle's father was a severe alcoholic. 107 00:06:11,125 --> 00:06:13,375 He kept saying he was going to quit drinking. 108 00:06:13,500 --> 00:06:16,208 And unfortunately that has never occurred. 109 00:06:16,292 --> 00:06:19,458 So Danielle's father and myself we divorced. 110 00:06:23,083 --> 00:06:27,208 He became acting father figure for my three children. 111 00:06:27,333 --> 00:06:29,833 - I never played with dolls or Barbies. 112 00:06:29,917 --> 00:06:32,750 Like I would read a book. Like I was always independent. 113 00:06:32,833 --> 00:06:34,958 - She was put into private school. 114 00:06:35,042 --> 00:06:38,125 She went to the Montessori house of children program. 115 00:06:38,208 --> 00:06:41,708 Then she went to a different private school system. 116 00:06:41,708 --> 00:06:43,417 She was actually moved up a grade. 117 00:06:43,500 --> 00:06:47,458 So life was good for our family until the age of 12. 118 00:06:52,708 --> 00:06:56,167 - She met other wealthy kids at this private school 119 00:06:56,208 --> 00:06:59,583 and I think that a lot of times she was probably in their homes, 120 00:06:59,667 --> 00:07:01,125 and there was no parental supervision. 121 00:07:02,042 --> 00:07:03,625 And they had older brothers 122 00:07:03,708 --> 00:07:06,250 and I'm sure their older brothers were more or less 123 00:07:06,333 --> 00:07:08,333 really predators on these younger girls 124 00:07:08,375 --> 00:07:11,042 that were hanging out at these houses. 125 00:07:11,042 --> 00:07:14,083 - So my best friend, her parents were never home. 126 00:07:14,167 --> 00:07:15,667 They were loaded. 127 00:07:15,750 --> 00:07:18,083 Fully stocked bar, inside and out. 128 00:07:18,708 --> 00:07:21,167 And her brother, he would, you know he was older, 129 00:07:21,292 --> 00:07:24,833 so he would have girls in their grade over with them. 130 00:07:24,917 --> 00:07:27,167 And then those girls would go home. 131 00:07:27,208 --> 00:07:30,625 And then at the end of the night, us girls are left. 132 00:07:31,375 --> 00:07:33,583 If I tried to move to get away, 133 00:07:33,583 --> 00:07:36,625 there was no move. You know, Like, he was... 134 00:07:36,708 --> 00:07:39,875 He would hold, like, yeah, it was very, like, firm and... 135 00:07:39,958 --> 00:07:43,000 And then after too like he just walked away, 136 00:07:43,083 --> 00:07:46,333 like it was just like, okay see ya tomorrow. 137 00:07:46,417 --> 00:07:48,458 And it made me feel like, 138 00:07:48,542 --> 00:07:50,542 like I didn't matter. 139 00:07:51,875 --> 00:07:53,208 Yeah. 140 00:07:54,042 --> 00:07:57,458 - This child's father was a very prominent person 141 00:07:57,542 --> 00:08:00,875 and they just used their money to hire the right people 142 00:08:00,875 --> 00:08:04,375 to make him look less guilty. But he pled guilty, 143 00:08:04,458 --> 00:08:06,500 so we know it did happen. 144 00:08:06,583 --> 00:08:08,583 It was just brushed under the carpet. 145 00:08:08,667 --> 00:08:11,417 - After I found out about the sexual assault, 146 00:08:11,542 --> 00:08:14,333 I pressed charges against the individual. 147 00:08:14,375 --> 00:08:16,417 We noticed in Danielle's behavior 148 00:08:16,500 --> 00:08:19,333 she started to skip school, 149 00:08:19,417 --> 00:08:22,000 be more interested in partying 150 00:08:22,083 --> 00:08:24,208 and she just wasn't the same child anymore. 151 00:08:28,708 --> 00:08:31,042 - Danielle came to live with me 152 00:08:31,125 --> 00:08:33,208 to get her out of the city. 153 00:08:33,292 --> 00:08:35,875 She met a boy on the bus 154 00:08:35,958 --> 00:08:39,167 and ended up getting pregnant at 15 155 00:08:39,250 --> 00:08:40,542 and having his son. 156 00:08:41,708 --> 00:08:45,667 - Danielle gave birth to a baby boy. 157 00:08:45,708 --> 00:08:48,000 Um, his name was Owen. 158 00:08:49,583 --> 00:08:53,458 Unfortunately, he was born with half a heart, 159 00:08:53,542 --> 00:08:55,875 hypoplastic left-heart syndrome. 160 00:08:57,875 --> 00:09:00,750 - So he passed away when he was four days old. 161 00:09:02,667 --> 00:09:05,583 I can't even believe that it happened. 162 00:09:07,083 --> 00:09:08,875 Oh yeah. 163 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:15,333 It affected me by making me feel lonely. 164 00:09:15,917 --> 00:09:17,833 - After Owen passed away, 165 00:09:17,875 --> 00:09:22,250 Danielle was lost for a long time. 166 00:09:23,917 --> 00:09:28,792 Probably more than what we really can appreciate. 167 00:09:30,542 --> 00:09:32,292 - Danielle went on to have another son 168 00:09:32,375 --> 00:09:33,792 later in her teen years. 169 00:09:34,417 --> 00:09:37,583 And when Joshua was six months old, 170 00:09:37,667 --> 00:09:40,833 her and Joshua's dad ended their relationship. 171 00:09:40,917 --> 00:09:44,000 And then she got together with another boyfriend 172 00:09:44,083 --> 00:09:45,458 shortly after that. 173 00:09:45,542 --> 00:09:47,208 (soft music) 174 00:09:48,833 --> 00:09:50,458 - He was my everything. 175 00:09:50,542 --> 00:09:53,875 He was my best friend, my kids' dad. 176 00:09:54,375 --> 00:09:55,833 Every day we would take the kids 177 00:09:55,958 --> 00:09:57,958 and our dogs through the trails. 178 00:09:58,542 --> 00:10:00,667 We did everything together as a family. 179 00:10:00,792 --> 00:10:02,583 - She was always very caring. 180 00:10:02,667 --> 00:10:04,000 She was loving. 181 00:10:04,042 --> 00:10:06,500 She always made sure we had what we needed 182 00:10:06,542 --> 00:10:08,417 even if she had to go to a great extent 183 00:10:08,500 --> 00:10:10,375 to make sure that happened. 184 00:10:10,458 --> 00:10:11,833 (laughter) 185 00:10:11,917 --> 00:10:14,583 - He became her whole world. 186 00:10:14,583 --> 00:10:17,333 But there was a lot of abuse 187 00:10:17,417 --> 00:10:19,375 and control that went on. 188 00:10:19,458 --> 00:10:21,875 - In front of my children, 189 00:10:22,458 --> 00:10:24,708 he closed fist punched me. 190 00:10:25,583 --> 00:10:27,583 Get on top of me. 191 00:10:27,667 --> 00:10:29,333 Kick me. 192 00:10:30,250 --> 00:10:34,167 - I knew he was somebody that I didn't want her with. 193 00:10:34,792 --> 00:10:37,000 But you can't force somebody 194 00:10:37,083 --> 00:10:38,875 when they're already living on their own, 195 00:10:38,958 --> 00:10:41,208 who they pick and choose as a partner. 196 00:10:41,292 --> 00:10:44,000 - When (beep) left us 197 00:10:44,083 --> 00:10:48,917 for a girl he had been cheating on me with, 198 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,958 it felt like my life was over. 199 00:10:52,042 --> 00:10:54,833 - And I think that's when she started using drugs 200 00:10:54,917 --> 00:10:57,000 because my mom moved in with her boyfriend. 201 00:10:58,875 --> 00:11:00,833 - It went from crushing Percocets 202 00:11:00,917 --> 00:11:03,042 to fentanyl pretty quick. 203 00:11:03,167 --> 00:11:04,792 And then when it went to fentanyl, 204 00:11:04,875 --> 00:11:07,625 everything just went downhill really fast. 205 00:11:07,708 --> 00:11:09,583 - She started sleeping every day. 206 00:11:09,708 --> 00:11:11,375 She wouldn't make dinner anymore. 207 00:11:11,750 --> 00:11:14,250 She wouldn't eat. She was getting really skinny. 208 00:11:14,333 --> 00:11:16,917 And I was just a kid then, so I don't really... 209 00:11:17,042 --> 00:11:18,833 Didn't really think anything of it. 210 00:11:18,875 --> 00:11:20,500 She was just letting us do whatever we want. 211 00:11:20,542 --> 00:11:22,042 We wouldn't go to school. 212 00:11:25,250 --> 00:11:26,792 - We all got split up. 213 00:11:26,875 --> 00:11:30,875 I was in sixth grade when I went to my cousin's house and... 214 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:33,542 my two younger siblings went to an aunt's. 215 00:11:33,625 --> 00:11:37,417 I've kind of just blocked out all my childhood memories. 216 00:11:38,708 --> 00:11:40,917 - We've all been bounced around a bit 217 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,417 and right now I'm living with my uncle. 218 00:11:43,417 --> 00:11:47,417 My sister Hailey went to my nana's with my sister Alyssa. 219 00:11:47,500 --> 00:11:49,292 Josh has always been at my grandma's. 220 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,917 Yeah, we are where we are now. 221 00:11:56,208 --> 00:11:58,708 - I know he's gone and he's never coming back, 222 00:11:58,833 --> 00:12:02,000 but to actually know that I have to live that 223 00:12:02,042 --> 00:12:05,250 and live that sober is scary. 224 00:12:05,333 --> 00:12:09,000 Because when I do... 225 00:12:09,500 --> 00:12:11,583 it's... 226 00:12:11,667 --> 00:12:13,583 I feel like I'll never stop crying. 227 00:12:13,667 --> 00:12:16,333 - She's been like homeless. She has spent nights on the street. 228 00:12:17,208 --> 00:12:19,708 - One time last year when she was homeless, 229 00:12:19,833 --> 00:12:21,708 I took a bus downtown 230 00:12:21,833 --> 00:12:23,917 and I was looking for her but I couldn't find her. 231 00:12:24,042 --> 00:12:25,708 Is she dead? Is she alive? 232 00:12:25,833 --> 00:12:27,167 Am I going to hear from her tomorrow? 233 00:12:27,208 --> 00:12:29,875 - Sometimes she sells drugs herself. 234 00:12:29,958 --> 00:12:31,458 It's scary. Right? 235 00:12:31,542 --> 00:12:35,750 Meeting foul play, jumping in the wrong person's vehicle. 236 00:12:35,833 --> 00:12:38,458 - She's been locked in a cage, almost killed, 237 00:12:38,542 --> 00:12:41,208 she's almost been chopped up, 238 00:12:41,917 --> 00:12:43,833 she's had an axe in her head. 239 00:12:43,875 --> 00:12:45,958 All this crazy ass (beep). 240 00:12:46,042 --> 00:12:48,500 - There's a lot of stuff going around in London 241 00:12:48,542 --> 00:12:53,458 with um, girls being kidnapped and being murdered. 242 00:12:53,542 --> 00:12:56,708 It's sad to say but a lot of the drug addicts, 243 00:12:56,792 --> 00:12:58,875 that's what happens to them. 244 00:13:05,750 --> 00:13:09,292 - If something happens to me or Dianne, 245 00:13:09,375 --> 00:13:11,958 who's going to take care of these kids? 246 00:13:12,042 --> 00:13:14,250 We're not going to live forever. 247 00:13:14,333 --> 00:13:17,167 They need somebody they're going to be able to go to 248 00:13:17,208 --> 00:13:20,250 and right now it doesn't look like that it's gonna happen. 249 00:13:20,250 --> 00:13:23,375 I mean, it's now or never. If she doesn't get straight, 250 00:13:23,458 --> 00:13:26,792 then you may as well kiss her goodbye, 251 00:13:26,875 --> 00:13:28,500 'cause the way she's going right now, 252 00:13:28,583 --> 00:13:30,750 she's just getting deeper and deeper 253 00:13:30,833 --> 00:13:33,542 and rock bottom isn't too far down now. 254 00:13:41,833 --> 00:13:43,792 (tense music) 255 00:13:49,167 --> 00:13:50,917 - Oh, okay. 256 00:13:53,708 --> 00:13:55,333 Hey, Phillip? 257 00:13:55,417 --> 00:13:56,458 (indistinct chatter) 258 00:13:57,708 --> 00:13:58,792 - What? 259 00:14:02,417 --> 00:14:04,167 (moaning) 260 00:14:04,542 --> 00:14:05,583 - I need it. 261 00:14:05,708 --> 00:14:06,958 (groaning) 262 00:14:13,125 --> 00:14:14,667 - When my mom first wakes up, 263 00:14:14,792 --> 00:14:16,625 she smokes her fentanyl. 264 00:14:17,542 --> 00:14:19,917 And then when she actually wants to wake up-wake up, 265 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:21,833 she shoots up meth. 266 00:14:23,542 --> 00:14:26,042 (tense music) 267 00:14:35,917 --> 00:14:38,000 - A typical day in that house 268 00:14:38,042 --> 00:14:40,250 is just a bunch of drug use. 269 00:14:41,292 --> 00:14:43,708 And it's just, it's heartbreaking. 270 00:14:43,792 --> 00:14:45,583 - Well, I started cleaning the room. 271 00:14:45,708 --> 00:14:48,833 I've gotten a huge, huge garbage bag packed out 272 00:14:48,917 --> 00:14:51,125 and like a huge tote full of clothes. 273 00:14:52,042 --> 00:14:54,000 And then I still have that whole half to do. 274 00:14:54,625 --> 00:14:56,708 Okay, where's my purse? 275 00:14:56,792 --> 00:14:58,292 Because he said four minutes away 276 00:14:58,375 --> 00:15:00,000 and that was probably a minute ago. 277 00:15:12,583 --> 00:15:15,167 Okay, I'll link you, uh, I'll link you in a bit. 278 00:15:15,208 --> 00:15:16,875 - All right. - Okay. 279 00:15:18,708 --> 00:15:19,875 Hey. 280 00:15:20,500 --> 00:15:21,583 - Thank you. - Yeah. 281 00:15:37,667 --> 00:15:39,083 - Okay. 282 00:15:39,167 --> 00:15:41,708 - When it comes to money, I feel every drug addict 283 00:15:41,833 --> 00:15:43,000 has their own way of obtaining it. 284 00:15:43,583 --> 00:15:46,417 It's sad to... When you actually realize how they do it. 285 00:15:46,500 --> 00:15:50,333 - That $1,000 a week for my drug usage, 286 00:15:50,375 --> 00:15:53,458 I pull that money by hustling. 287 00:15:54,875 --> 00:15:58,208 Not every day is the right day for... 288 00:15:58,333 --> 00:16:00,000 you know. 289 00:16:00,042 --> 00:16:02,167 That day might call for a different hustle. 290 00:16:03,250 --> 00:16:06,333 One of them would be say boosting. 291 00:16:06,417 --> 00:16:10,208 So say you boost $600 worth of groceries, 292 00:16:10,208 --> 00:16:12,333 clothes, furniture, 293 00:16:12,417 --> 00:16:15,542 you're only gonna get paid $200 294 00:16:15,667 --> 00:16:18,000 worth of money or drugs, 295 00:16:18,042 --> 00:16:19,667 whatever you're looking for. 296 00:16:19,708 --> 00:16:21,375 And it's usually drugs. 297 00:16:23,167 --> 00:16:25,542 Never want to be in there too long. 298 00:16:25,625 --> 00:16:28,500 Shampoo, conditioner. 299 00:16:30,042 --> 00:16:33,000 - That's wild. - Yeah. So $140. 300 00:16:33,667 --> 00:16:36,375 (city hubbub) 301 00:16:38,375 --> 00:16:40,375 (soft music) 302 00:16:43,417 --> 00:16:44,250 - What's up? 303 00:16:44,333 --> 00:16:46,333 Nothing. Just you know, 304 00:16:46,375 --> 00:16:49,500 just trying to get a hold of uh Danielle. 305 00:16:49,583 --> 00:16:52,292 - My grandmother has been very stressed out 306 00:16:52,375 --> 00:16:54,500 since my mom's started the drugs. 307 00:16:54,625 --> 00:16:57,000 She's always putting missing person reports 308 00:16:57,083 --> 00:16:58,833 when she can't get a hold of her, just because of, 309 00:16:58,917 --> 00:17:01,042 you never know what could happen. 310 00:17:01,042 --> 00:17:03,292 - She left apparently at 4:00 in the morning 311 00:17:03,375 --> 00:17:04,500 and Hailey called. - 4:00 in the morning? 312 00:17:04,583 --> 00:17:06,125 - 4:00 in the morning and Hailey called 313 00:17:06,208 --> 00:17:08,333 and she left in a taxi. 314 00:17:08,417 --> 00:17:10,208 I've had to comb the streets 315 00:17:10,375 --> 00:17:12,542 and go looking in the homeless camps. 316 00:17:12,625 --> 00:17:15,500 I go because if I'm... 317 00:17:15,583 --> 00:17:17,750 looking for my daughter, I need to know that she's safe. 318 00:17:17,833 --> 00:17:20,833 She left with two guys and Hailey was really upset 319 00:17:20,958 --> 00:17:23,000 because Hailey's left in this house... 320 00:17:23,083 --> 00:17:24,500 - Wow. 321 00:17:24,542 --> 00:17:26,292 - ...with strangers, right? - Yeah. 322 00:17:26,375 --> 00:17:27,042 - So. 323 00:17:28,417 --> 00:17:32,083 Even just reading news headlines and similar situations. 324 00:17:32,167 --> 00:17:33,917 - Yeah. - People in the comment section 325 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:35,833 will be like, "Oh, well if they didn't-- 326 00:17:35,917 --> 00:17:37,458 The family didn't report them missing for 327 00:17:37,542 --> 00:17:39,500 like how many days or a couple weeks even?" 328 00:17:39,583 --> 00:17:42,792 That's because you know, what? How do the families know? 329 00:17:42,875 --> 00:17:44,458 Whether somebody's missing or not 330 00:17:44,542 --> 00:17:46,250 when somebody doesn't answer their phone? 331 00:17:46,333 --> 00:17:48,333 - They don't. - Or you can't maintain contact 332 00:17:48,375 --> 00:17:51,542 because the person's... Just doesn't maintain contact? 333 00:17:51,625 --> 00:17:54,917 How do you know whether they're okay or whether they're not? 334 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:58,708 Honestly, Josh that's the most frustrating thing that I deal with. 335 00:17:58,792 --> 00:18:00,792 - That's where the saying easier said than done comes from. 336 00:18:00,875 --> 00:18:02,375 - Yeah. 337 00:18:02,458 --> 00:18:04,542 - I've driven downtown London just kind of searching, 338 00:18:04,625 --> 00:18:06,708 trying to look for her. I found her a few times. 339 00:18:06,792 --> 00:18:09,750 But sometimes we don't find her which causes more worry. 340 00:18:13,458 --> 00:18:16,917 - It's not uncommon for many women living on the streets 341 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,500 in addiction to go missing. 342 00:18:19,583 --> 00:18:22,208 So that, as a mother, that's the biggest fear. 343 00:18:22,292 --> 00:18:25,333 Yeah it's just typical. 344 00:18:25,417 --> 00:18:27,000 - It's definitely hard for my grandma 345 00:18:27,083 --> 00:18:28,833 because that is her daughter. 346 00:18:28,875 --> 00:18:30,375 She is always overwhelmed. 347 00:18:30,458 --> 00:18:32,375 Not even just because of that. 348 00:18:32,458 --> 00:18:34,917 Like she's parenting her grand kids. 349 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,500 Like that... it's not normal. 350 00:18:44,792 --> 00:18:46,542 - Sadly, to a certain degree, 351 00:18:46,542 --> 00:18:49,958 I think the children have lost hope in her getting better. 352 00:18:50,042 --> 00:18:51,250 You know, they tell me, 353 00:18:51,333 --> 00:18:53,208 "Oh Nana, stop worrying about Mom." 354 00:18:53,292 --> 00:18:55,250 If Danielle accepts treatment, 355 00:18:55,333 --> 00:18:57,167 and gets over her drug addiction, 356 00:18:57,208 --> 00:18:59,792 I think it sets a good example for her children 357 00:18:59,875 --> 00:19:03,542 not to fall in the same problem that she has. 358 00:19:04,125 --> 00:19:05,875 (soft music) 359 00:19:05,958 --> 00:19:07,542 Sorry. 360 00:19:23,708 --> 00:19:25,917 (tense music) 361 00:19:32,333 --> 00:19:33,500 - We found her. 362 00:19:33,583 --> 00:19:36,042 It's-it's always super time-consuming 363 00:19:36,125 --> 00:19:38,167 and very frustrating, but it's how it is. 364 00:19:38,208 --> 00:19:39,250 That's the reality of it. 365 00:19:43,042 --> 00:19:45,667 Hey Mom, I'm downstairs. I'm just gonna wait down here for now. 366 00:19:45,750 --> 00:19:47,042 - Huh? 367 00:19:47,167 --> 00:19:48,792 - I'm just gonna wait downstairs. Okay? 368 00:19:48,875 --> 00:19:50,167 - Okay, wait, hold on. 369 00:19:55,917 --> 00:19:57,958 (Danielle): Well yes, we got to clean up this room. 370 00:20:00,042 --> 00:20:01,583 - Mom? 371 00:20:03,250 --> 00:20:04,708 (Danielle): Lose your attitude. 372 00:20:05,708 --> 00:20:06,875 Yeah? 373 00:20:06,958 --> 00:20:08,708 - You guys ready? 374 00:20:08,708 --> 00:20:09,958 - I'm almost ready. 375 00:20:14,708 --> 00:20:17,875 - Growing up, she was loving and she was a good mother. 376 00:20:19,583 --> 00:20:20,958 - Holy. 377 00:20:21,042 --> 00:20:23,792 - Since she's become an addict, she has a temper. 378 00:20:23,875 --> 00:20:26,667 She's manipulative. She fights. She argues. 379 00:20:26,750 --> 00:20:30,875 Honestly not sure how she deals with her emotions so... 380 00:20:34,250 --> 00:20:36,583 - Danielle's kids, um their whole life, 381 00:20:36,667 --> 00:20:38,667 they've had to be hardened. 382 00:20:38,708 --> 00:20:40,042 Because they weren't being parented. 383 00:20:40,125 --> 00:20:41,708 They were just surviving. 384 00:20:41,833 --> 00:20:44,500 - There's addiction on both sides of my family, 385 00:20:44,542 --> 00:20:46,667 which makes me worried not necessarily for myself 386 00:20:46,708 --> 00:20:48,333 because of the mindset I currently have. 387 00:20:48,417 --> 00:20:50,500 But it makes me worry about my siblings 388 00:20:50,583 --> 00:20:53,083 because of the path that they're laying out for them. 389 00:20:53,167 --> 00:20:56,708 And I'd like to help guide my siblings to become mature. 390 00:20:56,792 --> 00:20:59,208 I feel that's somewhat of my responsibility, 391 00:20:59,292 --> 00:21:01,083 given the fact that their fathers passed away 392 00:21:01,167 --> 00:21:02,250 and I'm their eldest brother. 393 00:21:07,958 --> 00:21:09,125 - Hello. 394 00:21:09,125 --> 00:21:10,375 - Hey, how are ya? 395 00:21:10,458 --> 00:21:12,250 - Good. How are you? - Good. 396 00:21:12,958 --> 00:21:15,917 So what have you got with you? - Just um, stuff. 397 00:21:16,750 --> 00:21:19,750 My mom and my stepdad 398 00:21:19,875 --> 00:21:25,750 they have had a long bumpy road with me. 399 00:21:25,875 --> 00:21:28,625 They've always stuck through it, though. 400 00:21:30,375 --> 00:21:32,917 - She said she needed to go to the bathroom before she comes down. 401 00:21:35,708 --> 00:21:37,333 - Nope. - The house we live in now, 402 00:21:37,375 --> 00:21:40,208 we bought that house 10 years ago, 403 00:21:40,333 --> 00:21:43,833 and had plans of fixing up that house. 404 00:21:43,875 --> 00:21:46,208 And it's just not happening because there's no money. 405 00:21:46,292 --> 00:21:49,083 A part of the problem is that I go to work 406 00:21:49,167 --> 00:21:51,708 before the sun comes up and usually I'm coming home 407 00:21:51,833 --> 00:21:54,458 when the sun's going down every day. 408 00:21:54,542 --> 00:21:56,375 And I'm sure this was part of the problem 409 00:21:56,500 --> 00:21:57,833 because I wasn't around. 410 00:21:57,917 --> 00:22:00,250 - Where's Mom, Austin? - Bathroom. 411 00:22:00,375 --> 00:22:01,375 - Bathroom? - Yeah. 412 00:22:01,500 --> 00:22:02,708 - She's upstairs eh? 413 00:22:05,333 --> 00:22:06,875 (chuckling) - Exactly what I told her. 414 00:22:06,958 --> 00:22:08,833 Everyone knows you're not going to the bathroom. 415 00:22:08,917 --> 00:22:10,917 - When's the last time you saw Mom, Austin? 416 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:12,625 - A few minutes ago. 417 00:22:12,708 --> 00:22:14,875 - Well, prior to a few minutes ago. 418 00:22:14,958 --> 00:22:16,708 What's the longest you think you've went without seeing her? 419 00:22:17,417 --> 00:22:18,708 - Like a year, two? 420 00:22:19,333 --> 00:22:21,125 - That's sad. 421 00:22:21,708 --> 00:22:23,208 Make sure you finish high school. 422 00:22:23,292 --> 00:22:24,458 - Maybe. 423 00:22:27,500 --> 00:22:28,750 - I don't know. 424 00:22:31,833 --> 00:22:34,167 - Oh, wow. You've told me that five times now. 425 00:22:34,208 --> 00:22:37,000 Like do you think I'm deaf, dumb or (beep)? Which one is it? 426 00:22:40,208 --> 00:22:42,292 - Actually that's the third time you've just told me. 427 00:22:42,375 --> 00:22:44,750 Is it like you say do it in the garage 428 00:22:44,875 --> 00:22:47,000 and I don't do it in the garage or something... (indistinct) 429 00:22:47,083 --> 00:22:49,292 - She's thinks she's gonna waddle down to the garage now. 430 00:22:49,375 --> 00:22:50,750 - Yep. 431 00:22:52,083 --> 00:22:53,583 - It's cold. 432 00:22:59,167 --> 00:23:00,667 - My mom can't be my mom right now, 433 00:23:00,750 --> 00:23:02,167 because she's using drugs. 434 00:23:02,625 --> 00:23:04,917 Out of this year, I've seen her twice I think. 435 00:23:05,042 --> 00:23:07,958 Last year, I've probably seen her about five times. 436 00:23:08,042 --> 00:23:09,125 I don't see her very much. 437 00:23:10,042 --> 00:23:14,208 - Seeing the look that I see in my kids' eyes 438 00:23:14,292 --> 00:23:16,417 every time I do see them, 439 00:23:16,500 --> 00:23:19,500 seeing that much more of the respect 440 00:23:19,583 --> 00:23:22,208 that they had for me be gone, 441 00:23:22,292 --> 00:23:25,125 is um probably the worst thing 442 00:23:26,042 --> 00:23:29,708 that's happened due to being addicted for so long. 443 00:23:29,833 --> 00:23:32,708 If I don't hurry up and change it, 444 00:23:32,708 --> 00:23:36,667 there's gonna be a day when I see one of them look at me 445 00:23:36,708 --> 00:23:40,792 and there's no respect left there for me 446 00:23:40,875 --> 00:23:42,500 and um, 447 00:23:42,542 --> 00:23:45,417 I think Hailey is really close to that point. 448 00:23:46,958 --> 00:23:48,083 Where's Hailey? 449 00:23:48,208 --> 00:23:50,167 - I don't know. Where is Hailey? 450 00:23:52,875 --> 00:23:53,708 - Hailey? 451 00:23:54,542 --> 00:23:55,542 - Come eat. 452 00:23:57,042 --> 00:23:58,750 - Honestly, think about it. 453 00:23:58,833 --> 00:24:01,833 How long has it been since we've all sat down together? 454 00:24:03,958 --> 00:24:04,958 - No, I wasn't there. 455 00:24:08,875 --> 00:24:10,708 Alyssa. - Bye. 456 00:24:10,833 --> 00:24:12,833 - Yeah, I think that dinner sit down 457 00:24:12,875 --> 00:24:15,667 lasted a total of 3.5 minutes. 458 00:24:15,792 --> 00:24:17,542 - That's what I mean. It's almost awkward at this point. 459 00:24:17,625 --> 00:24:19,250 - Mm-hmm. - You know what I mean? 460 00:24:19,333 --> 00:24:21,167 It's been so long to the point where they're feeling awkward. 461 00:24:21,250 --> 00:24:23,833 Like it's not even, it doesn't even feel like a family sitting down. 462 00:24:23,917 --> 00:24:25,958 It feels like you're sittin' down with a bunch of people don't know. 463 00:24:26,042 --> 00:24:27,583 - Yeah. 464 00:24:27,708 --> 00:24:29,833 - I stick around with my family because in this world, 465 00:24:29,917 --> 00:24:31,833 family's the only thing you have, 466 00:24:31,917 --> 00:24:34,000 so I choose to focus on them. 467 00:24:34,500 --> 00:24:36,750 (soft music) 468 00:24:46,958 --> 00:24:49,417 - My biggest hope is that my mom accepts treatment 469 00:24:49,500 --> 00:24:51,083 and she gets clean. 470 00:24:51,208 --> 00:24:53,625 I just want her back, you know? 471 00:24:54,792 --> 00:24:57,042 But I don't think she will. 472 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,208 - I feel like my mom does have a lot of guilt 473 00:25:00,292 --> 00:25:03,208 because she realizes how many years that she missed out 474 00:25:03,292 --> 00:25:05,250 of her watching her kids grow up. 475 00:25:06,208 --> 00:25:08,458 I just hope family is enough 476 00:25:08,458 --> 00:25:10,583 to pull her back from this addiction. 477 00:25:20,708 --> 00:25:22,500 (city hubbub) 478 00:25:32,958 --> 00:25:34,667 (tense music) 479 00:25:36,083 --> 00:25:38,417 - What's the word, Aussie? - She's not coming in. 480 00:25:38,500 --> 00:25:39,917 She's pissed. 481 00:25:40,542 --> 00:25:42,917 - About? - Everything. 482 00:25:44,292 --> 00:25:46,208 (dramatic music) 483 00:25:48,375 --> 00:25:49,792 - Out there. - She's in the hallway. 484 00:25:55,875 --> 00:25:57,958 - Good morning. My name is Geri Bemister. 485 00:25:58,042 --> 00:26:01,167 I'm an interventionist and certified addictions therapist. 486 00:26:01,292 --> 00:26:04,833 I'm here to help walk you through the process 487 00:26:04,958 --> 00:26:06,833 with your loved one today. 488 00:26:06,917 --> 00:26:09,417 And to help you, as a family, 489 00:26:09,542 --> 00:26:11,708 deal with your feelings 490 00:26:11,792 --> 00:26:15,583 and create what I like to call Team Danielle. 491 00:26:15,667 --> 00:26:17,542 We want a united front 492 00:26:17,625 --> 00:26:19,833 where everybody's on the same page. 493 00:26:19,875 --> 00:26:22,000 Josh, you wanna head us up? 494 00:26:22,042 --> 00:26:25,042 - Sure. When my mom did start to get into addiction, 495 00:26:25,125 --> 00:26:27,500 it was, it was hard to fathom that. 496 00:26:27,583 --> 00:26:30,208 It was so hard to see to the point where I had to suppress it. 497 00:26:30,292 --> 00:26:32,458 And it's been really hard to... 498 00:26:32,875 --> 00:26:34,292 To just live through this. 499 00:26:34,375 --> 00:26:36,667 Like it's, I'm tearing up right now thinking about it, 500 00:26:36,750 --> 00:26:39,125 because it's just... I so want my family back. 501 00:26:39,208 --> 00:26:41,167 You know what I mean? - I do know what you mean. 502 00:26:41,167 --> 00:26:44,208 You guys have been through an immense amount of pain, 503 00:26:44,333 --> 00:26:46,042 an immense amount of trauma. 504 00:26:46,125 --> 00:26:49,250 I'm sure many of you have gotten to dark places. 505 00:26:49,333 --> 00:26:50,833 - 100 %. 506 00:26:50,958 --> 00:26:53,125 - Austin, when you spend time with her, what is it like? 507 00:26:53,917 --> 00:26:56,500 - Hurt. She doesn't wanna spend time with us. 508 00:26:56,958 --> 00:26:58,958 All she does is care about her drugs. 509 00:26:59,042 --> 00:27:01,833 - I'm just talking about when, you know, 510 00:27:01,917 --> 00:27:03,667 it felt like you guys were a family. 511 00:27:03,750 --> 00:27:05,542 Do you have any of that? - Yeah. 512 00:27:05,625 --> 00:27:07,042 - Do you think about that sometimes? 513 00:27:07,208 --> 00:27:08,500 - All the time. 514 00:27:08,542 --> 00:27:10,542 But none of us will ever have that back. 515 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:12,625 - You will. You can. - No, we won't. 516 00:27:12,708 --> 00:27:14,708 We're all grown up. 517 00:27:14,792 --> 00:27:17,333 I see my siblings like three or four times a year. 518 00:27:17,375 --> 00:27:20,667 - It's not easy being separated from your siblings. 519 00:27:20,792 --> 00:27:23,625 - Exactly. - I'm not working. 520 00:27:23,708 --> 00:27:26,292 We're raising a seven-year-old. 521 00:27:26,375 --> 00:27:28,625 We have had her since she was two and a half. 522 00:27:28,708 --> 00:27:31,167 So at our stage in the game, that's... 523 00:27:31,208 --> 00:27:33,750 The dynamics for our household has changed. 524 00:27:33,833 --> 00:27:35,292 - Yeah. - Like I would... 525 00:27:41,083 --> 00:27:43,000 (soft music) 526 00:27:43,875 --> 00:27:46,833 - Ed, tell me how you're feeling. 527 00:27:46,875 --> 00:27:50,500 -Listening to the kids is... 528 00:27:50,583 --> 00:27:52,833 I-I know they're dealing with stuff 529 00:27:52,875 --> 00:27:55,542 but I don't know how they're dealing with it. 530 00:27:55,625 --> 00:27:58,333 It's affecting them, everybody differently. 531 00:27:58,417 --> 00:28:00,417 And it just hurts. 532 00:28:00,542 --> 00:28:03,583 But I don't know what to do to change it. 533 00:28:03,708 --> 00:28:05,167 - Powerless. 534 00:28:05,250 --> 00:28:07,792 - Because you have no control over what Danielle does. 535 00:28:07,875 --> 00:28:10,167 She's just oblivious. She's basically a zombie. 536 00:28:10,250 --> 00:28:11,667 - Exactly. 537 00:28:12,375 --> 00:28:15,167 - What kind of communication do you have with Danielle? 538 00:28:15,708 --> 00:28:17,792 - Um, it's off-and-on. 539 00:28:17,875 --> 00:28:20,833 She likes to blame me for a lot of things. 540 00:28:20,917 --> 00:28:23,875 I take a lot of heat from her. Um, but I'm not-- 541 00:28:23,958 --> 00:28:26,958 - Does that turn into like a verbal conflict? 542 00:28:27,042 --> 00:28:28,667 - Yes, it does. It does. - Okay. 543 00:28:29,208 --> 00:28:33,500 - I only want for my daughter to be happy and healthy 544 00:28:33,583 --> 00:28:35,667 and right now she's neither. 545 00:28:35,708 --> 00:28:38,250 - I'm not so concerned about your mom, 546 00:28:38,333 --> 00:28:39,917 because I think your mom's gonna go. 547 00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,250 Today's the most important day for me. 548 00:28:42,333 --> 00:28:45,500 Because this is where we get to talk about what's going on 549 00:28:45,667 --> 00:28:49,000 and we get to heal, right? So we need that united front. 550 00:28:49,042 --> 00:28:51,250 Right? She comes into the circle of love 551 00:28:51,333 --> 00:28:54,958 and tomorrow when we ask her to get the help that she needs, 552 00:28:55,042 --> 00:28:58,000 we're off and running. - I think she'll say no. 553 00:28:58,042 --> 00:29:00,333 - It's going to be very difficult for her. 554 00:29:01,042 --> 00:29:03,625 She wants her children back every day. 555 00:29:03,708 --> 00:29:05,417 - She is screaming out for help. 556 00:29:05,500 --> 00:29:06,875 - She's screaming out for help. 557 00:29:06,958 --> 00:29:09,500 You don't use a 6 to 8 grams of fentanyl a day 558 00:29:09,542 --> 00:29:12,333 unless you want to die. She's screaming for help. 559 00:29:12,375 --> 00:29:15,208 - When she first got to our house last year 560 00:29:15,333 --> 00:29:16,417 and stayed with us... 561 00:29:16,500 --> 00:29:21,167 She overdosed and Alyssa had to Narcan her. 562 00:29:21,250 --> 00:29:25,042 I have never seen any overdose before so I panicked. 563 00:29:25,125 --> 00:29:29,333 I called 911 and Alyssa just calmly took care of it. 564 00:29:29,375 --> 00:29:31,167 - How many times have you Narcaned your mom? 565 00:29:31,667 --> 00:29:32,833 - Two. 566 00:29:32,958 --> 00:29:36,125 - Austin and Alyssa have seen the most 567 00:29:36,208 --> 00:29:38,833 and lived through the most with Mom. 568 00:29:38,917 --> 00:29:40,875 - It's normal. 569 00:29:41,542 --> 00:29:42,833 - It's normal... - Yeah. 570 00:29:42,958 --> 00:29:44,500 - ...to watch your mom shoot up in her neck? 571 00:29:44,542 --> 00:29:46,000 - For me at least. 572 00:29:46,083 --> 00:29:49,250 - But it's normal for you. And I get that. I hear that. 573 00:29:49,375 --> 00:29:50,917 It doesn't have to be. 574 00:29:51,042 --> 00:29:53,125 We're gonna try and change that. 575 00:29:53,208 --> 00:29:55,667 Because what happens with CPTSD, 576 00:29:55,708 --> 00:29:57,167 which is what you guys have, 577 00:29:57,208 --> 00:29:59,042 complex post-traumatic stress disorder 578 00:29:59,125 --> 00:30:00,833 from the loss of your father 579 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,333 and your mother being in addiction for so long, 580 00:30:03,417 --> 00:30:05,042 everything is suppressed. 581 00:30:05,125 --> 00:30:07,250 So you're either reaching out for whatever it is 582 00:30:07,333 --> 00:30:10,333 you're reaching out for. Weed or... You shut down. 583 00:30:10,417 --> 00:30:12,042 Whatever the process is-- 584 00:30:12,125 --> 00:30:13,792 And it's different for everybody. 585 00:30:13,875 --> 00:30:15,292 But what we need to do, 586 00:30:15,375 --> 00:30:18,500 we need to start getting out of our heads 587 00:30:18,542 --> 00:30:21,542 and into our bodies and allow the emotions to flow 588 00:30:21,625 --> 00:30:24,333 because this process today, it's about you guys. 589 00:30:25,875 --> 00:30:27,833 We have chosen what I think 590 00:30:27,875 --> 00:30:29,792 is one of the best in North America, 591 00:30:29,875 --> 00:30:33,375 The Aurora Recovery Centre in Gimli, Manitoba. 592 00:30:34,292 --> 00:30:36,292 We can't do anything to blow this. 593 00:30:36,375 --> 00:30:38,750 This is her only chance for help right now. 594 00:30:38,833 --> 00:30:41,375 (tense music) 595 00:30:46,333 --> 00:30:48,125 (dramatic music) 596 00:30:55,708 --> 00:30:59,333 - So we've got four SUVs out front. 597 00:30:59,375 --> 00:31:02,917 We've got three SWAT guys at the front door 598 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,000 with bulletproof vests and one SUV slightly away 599 00:31:06,083 --> 00:31:10,000 from the house with a cop behind with a huge gun. 600 00:31:10,042 --> 00:31:11,667 I'm just very worried. 601 00:31:11,667 --> 00:31:14,542 If they think that Danielle had anything to do with this 602 00:31:14,542 --> 00:31:17,667 based on us, Danielle could be in danger 603 00:31:17,750 --> 00:31:19,250 in the house right now is my concern. 604 00:31:19,375 --> 00:31:21,167 - They're getting-- They're getting ready. 605 00:31:21,292 --> 00:31:22,792 - They're getting ready to go in. 606 00:31:22,875 --> 00:31:24,292 They're getting ready to go in, gotta go, bye. 607 00:31:30,042 --> 00:31:31,500 (theme music) 608 00:31:38,542 --> 00:31:39,875 - I am. 609 00:31:39,958 --> 00:31:42,792 - We are 30 degrees away from gunfire. 610 00:31:42,875 --> 00:31:44,333 You know what I mean? - Yes. 611 00:31:44,458 --> 00:31:46,000 - Someone makes a run this way... 612 00:31:46,083 --> 00:31:48,333 - Mm-hmm. - ...we're in the line of fire. 613 00:31:48,417 --> 00:31:50,333 - There's definitely movement at the front door here. 614 00:31:50,417 --> 00:31:52,250 They're definitely getting ready on the guns. 615 00:31:54,333 --> 00:31:56,167 (tense music) 616 00:32:09,250 --> 00:32:11,458 - So I don't know if everybody is aware, 617 00:32:11,542 --> 00:32:13,583 there was a raid at the house this morning. 618 00:32:13,667 --> 00:32:16,125 Not for Danielle, 619 00:32:16,208 --> 00:32:18,792 but for another individual in the home. 620 00:32:18,875 --> 00:32:21,583 So that's how serious this situation is. 621 00:32:21,667 --> 00:32:25,583 We are very, very lucky that it was not Danielle. 622 00:32:28,333 --> 00:32:31,000 So because you weren't here Hailey yesterday. 623 00:32:31,042 --> 00:32:33,750 Little bit of ground rules. No getting up. 624 00:32:33,750 --> 00:32:36,042 No fighting. No leaving. 625 00:32:36,167 --> 00:32:37,542 Take a deep breath. 626 00:32:38,542 --> 00:32:40,042 Remember why we're here. 627 00:32:40,125 --> 00:32:41,333 We're here to save Danielle's life. 628 00:32:43,833 --> 00:32:45,625 Channeling love to Mom. 629 00:32:46,917 --> 00:32:48,292 (♪) 630 00:32:52,083 --> 00:32:53,375 - Good morning, Danielle. 631 00:32:57,708 --> 00:32:59,833 My name is Geri, how are you? - Good. How are you? 632 00:32:59,917 --> 00:33:01,458 - I'm good. You look fantastic. 633 00:33:01,542 --> 00:33:03,125 Come on in. - Okay, I'm going to leave now. 634 00:33:03,208 --> 00:33:04,958 - Come on in for a sec. 635 00:33:05,042 --> 00:33:07,042 All I'm asking you to do is sit down... 636 00:33:07,125 --> 00:33:09,417 - You promised me. - ...and chat with your family for 15 minutes. 637 00:33:09,500 --> 00:33:11,458 Is that okay? Can you do that for me? 638 00:33:11,542 --> 00:33:13,375 - I'm not-- Yeah, that's fine. - Okay. 639 00:33:13,500 --> 00:33:16,500 Fantastic. Thanks for sitting down for 15 minutes with us. 640 00:33:16,583 --> 00:33:18,167 - Yep. - Okay. 641 00:33:18,250 --> 00:33:20,458 And Josh is gonna read something to you first. 642 00:33:20,542 --> 00:33:21,792 (sighs) - Mom, 643 00:33:21,875 --> 00:33:24,750 the love I have for you and our family is unbreakable. 644 00:33:24,833 --> 00:33:28,333 I understand that this is not who you are deep down inside, 645 00:33:28,375 --> 00:33:31,333 and where the need for a coping mechanism comes from. 646 00:33:32,042 --> 00:33:33,833 You are such a strong person 647 00:33:33,917 --> 00:33:36,875 and need to use that strength to fight this addiction. 648 00:33:36,958 --> 00:33:39,333 This truly is a possible endeavor. 649 00:33:39,458 --> 00:33:41,875 It would mean the world to us to have you back 650 00:33:41,958 --> 00:33:43,333 as you are our world. 651 00:33:44,458 --> 00:33:46,542 I cannot support you in the form of money 652 00:33:46,625 --> 00:33:48,500 if you don't take this gift of help. 653 00:33:48,625 --> 00:33:50,833 I will assist you in getting your life back. 654 00:33:50,875 --> 00:33:52,667 I love you. 655 00:33:53,333 --> 00:33:55,875 - Mom, I'm here today because I want to see you get better. 656 00:33:55,958 --> 00:33:57,500 I can no longer see you live like this. 657 00:34:12,375 --> 00:34:15,042 But honestly, feel like all you care about is drugs. 658 00:34:15,125 --> 00:34:16,875 I miss you and all my siblings so much. 659 00:34:16,958 --> 00:34:18,458 I just want my mom back. 660 00:34:19,708 --> 00:34:23,500 - Mom, I'm here today to make sure you know that I love you. 661 00:34:23,583 --> 00:34:25,667 I can no longer see you destroying yourself. 662 00:34:25,708 --> 00:34:27,667 I hate having to worry about you constantly. 663 00:34:28,250 --> 00:34:29,500 While I was in your care, 664 00:34:29,542 --> 00:34:31,542 I didn't receive a proper education 665 00:34:31,625 --> 00:34:34,667 and I had inconsistence in my living situation. 666 00:34:34,708 --> 00:34:36,833 I'm hoping and asking you to take the help 667 00:34:36,917 --> 00:34:38,500 that's being offered to you today. 668 00:34:38,542 --> 00:34:40,458 I love you and hope you make the decision 669 00:34:40,542 --> 00:34:42,458 that benefits you and us kids. 670 00:34:42,542 --> 00:34:44,083 (soft music) 671 00:34:44,167 --> 00:34:45,833 - Danielle, 672 00:34:47,125 --> 00:34:49,083 I was always so proud of you. 673 00:34:49,167 --> 00:34:50,792 You are so intelligent. 674 00:34:53,625 --> 00:34:55,667 Your life has had a lot of hurt and trauma. 675 00:34:57,917 --> 00:35:01,792 Danielle, you have five children that love you very much. 676 00:35:03,875 --> 00:35:05,333 They have lost their father 677 00:35:05,458 --> 00:35:07,125 and they don't need to lose their mother. 678 00:35:08,958 --> 00:35:10,958 You're strong and I have faith in you. 679 00:35:11,042 --> 00:35:12,958 I love you. 680 00:35:12,958 --> 00:35:14,792 Your stepdad, Eddie. 681 00:35:16,792 --> 00:35:19,625 - So Hailey, I'd like you to read your words to your mom. 682 00:35:19,708 --> 00:35:21,042 (sniffing) 683 00:35:21,208 --> 00:35:22,958 - Dear mom, 684 00:35:23,042 --> 00:35:26,500 addiction is many things but most of all dominating. 685 00:35:26,625 --> 00:35:29,208 You were once my best friend and in the future... 686 00:35:31,875 --> 00:35:34,167 (sobbing) 687 00:35:35,208 --> 00:35:37,375 (whispering): I don't know if I can read it. 688 00:35:37,375 --> 00:35:40,042 - You can do it. Just take a deep breath. 689 00:35:40,958 --> 00:35:43,792 - And in the future, I hope we can pick up where we left. 690 00:35:43,875 --> 00:35:45,208 Please know I do forgive you. 691 00:35:45,292 --> 00:35:47,792 I remember when your addiction first started, 692 00:35:47,875 --> 00:35:50,125 I was clueless and I was young. 693 00:35:50,208 --> 00:35:51,792 I had no idea what was going on 694 00:35:51,875 --> 00:35:53,625 and what my life was about to turn to. 695 00:35:55,958 --> 00:35:57,167 I often say I hate you, 696 00:35:57,250 --> 00:35:58,792 but please know it's just my anger talking. 697 00:35:58,792 --> 00:36:01,417 I love you and I always will no matter what. 698 00:36:02,208 --> 00:36:04,625 If you don't take this opportunity to get better, 699 00:36:04,708 --> 00:36:06,708 I really don't think I'll be able to talk to you anymore. 700 00:36:08,542 --> 00:36:10,500 Although I will always love you, 701 00:36:10,542 --> 00:36:12,417 I think it'll be time to move on with my life 702 00:36:12,500 --> 00:36:14,250 because I can't keep putting myself through this. 703 00:36:17,083 --> 00:36:18,708 - Good job, Hailey. 704 00:36:19,542 --> 00:36:22,042 - Dear Danielle, I am here today 705 00:36:22,125 --> 00:36:23,958 to tell you how much I love you. 706 00:36:25,542 --> 00:36:29,500 The worry over you going missing is constant for me. 707 00:36:30,500 --> 00:36:33,667 The many sleepless nights of worry that you are okay. 708 00:36:33,750 --> 00:36:36,667 I can no longer trust you and that hurts me. 709 00:36:36,750 --> 00:36:38,333 As your mother, 710 00:36:38,458 --> 00:36:41,333 all I want for you is to be happy and healthy 711 00:36:41,458 --> 00:36:43,292 and currently you are neither. 712 00:36:43,375 --> 00:36:46,083 I ask you to take this opportunity for yourself 713 00:36:46,167 --> 00:36:47,667 to obtain recovery. 714 00:36:47,750 --> 00:36:49,833 Danielle if you decline this treatment, 715 00:36:49,917 --> 00:36:52,833 I will no longer give you money as I am guilty of doing. 716 00:36:52,917 --> 00:36:55,833 I can no longer have you in my home while you are using. 717 00:36:56,375 --> 00:36:58,333 Please, my beautiful daughter, 718 00:36:58,375 --> 00:37:02,167 accept this help today and have a beautiful happy life. 719 00:37:02,208 --> 00:37:04,000 Love, your mom. 720 00:37:05,208 --> 00:37:07,417 - So... 721 00:37:07,500 --> 00:37:09,500 like I said Danielle, my name is Geri. 722 00:37:09,625 --> 00:37:12,500 I'm a recovering alcoholic addict. 723 00:37:13,042 --> 00:37:14,375 Uh, I was in your position 724 00:37:14,542 --> 00:37:17,167 and my family did this process for me. 725 00:37:17,875 --> 00:37:20,125 And I was able to turn my life around 726 00:37:20,208 --> 00:37:21,958 and get my kids back. 727 00:37:22,042 --> 00:37:24,250 But I have one question for you. 728 00:37:25,542 --> 00:37:28,625 Will you accept the help today? 729 00:37:29,208 --> 00:37:31,000 (tense music) 730 00:37:31,042 --> 00:37:32,542 - I don't know. 731 00:37:39,375 --> 00:37:41,417 - I believe, as an addiction professional, 732 00:37:41,542 --> 00:37:44,167 that you're playing Russian roulette, 733 00:37:44,250 --> 00:37:46,333 and that you don't have a lot of time left. 734 00:37:47,333 --> 00:37:49,458 And I believe you're going to lose your family 735 00:37:49,542 --> 00:37:52,250 if you don't take this opportunity. 736 00:37:52,250 --> 00:37:54,625 Today, you've got a different option. 737 00:37:54,708 --> 00:37:57,167 Everything is already laid out on your journey. 738 00:37:57,208 --> 00:37:58,583 You just gotta go grab it. 739 00:38:02,417 --> 00:38:04,333 - Yes, I will try. 740 00:38:04,375 --> 00:38:05,833 - Yes, you'll try? - Yep. 741 00:38:05,917 --> 00:38:07,333 - You'll go to treatment? 742 00:38:07,417 --> 00:38:09,292 I'm so proud of you, sweetheart. 743 00:38:09,375 --> 00:38:11,083 You're gonna get your life back. 744 00:38:11,208 --> 00:38:13,000 (sobbing) 745 00:38:14,417 --> 00:38:16,708 (emotional music) 746 00:38:18,375 --> 00:38:20,625 - I love you, buddy. - I love you too, Mom. 747 00:38:20,708 --> 00:38:22,583 - I love you, guys. - Love you too. 748 00:38:22,667 --> 00:38:25,000 - I'm sorry for everything. 749 00:38:25,083 --> 00:38:26,875 I love you, buddy. 750 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,417 - Don't worry, Mom. I'll make sure everyone's safe. 751 00:38:29,500 --> 00:38:32,333 - This is the time, baby. You can do it. 752 00:38:34,417 --> 00:38:36,208 - You are the role model now. 753 00:38:36,292 --> 00:38:38,375 The focus now is you. - Yeah. 754 00:38:38,458 --> 00:38:40,792 - The focus now is you for as long as you need. 755 00:38:40,875 --> 00:38:43,125 Right? - Yeah. Yeah, oh yeah. 756 00:38:43,208 --> 00:38:44,583 The focus is me 757 00:38:44,667 --> 00:38:46,458 because I have to be okay for them to be okay. 758 00:38:46,542 --> 00:38:47,583 - That's right. 759 00:38:49,625 --> 00:38:51,000 - Thank you for everything. 760 00:38:53,500 --> 00:38:55,833 - Ladies and gentlemen, please remain seated. 761 00:38:55,875 --> 00:38:58,125 Mesdames et messieurs, s'il vous plaît 762 00:38:58,208 --> 00:39:00,625 si vous pouvez rester assis avec votre ceinture. 763 00:39:02,125 --> 00:39:03,500 (soft music) 764 00:39:03,542 --> 00:39:05,500 - Hi. You must be Danielle. 765 00:39:05,583 --> 00:39:07,375 Welcome to Aurora Recovery Centre. 766 00:39:09,042 --> 00:39:11,333 The first big challenge that Danielle is going to face 767 00:39:11,417 --> 00:39:13,292 really will be her medical detox. 768 00:39:13,375 --> 00:39:16,375 Detoxing off opiates is very difficult, 769 00:39:16,458 --> 00:39:19,667 which is really a deterring factor for most people 770 00:39:19,750 --> 00:39:21,250 because they don't want to go through that. 771 00:39:21,333 --> 00:39:22,750 - How are you feeling? 772 00:39:22,833 --> 00:39:24,208 - Tired. 773 00:39:24,333 --> 00:39:25,833 - It takes a lot of courage for a person 774 00:39:25,875 --> 00:39:27,917 to even take a few steps to come in the door. 775 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:29,583 - You got this. - Yeah. 776 00:39:29,667 --> 00:39:31,542 - We're at Aurora. 777 00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:33,917 (♪) 778 00:39:45,208 --> 00:39:47,667 (birds chirping) 779 00:39:49,417 --> 00:39:52,458 - Since I got to Lily Rain, 780 00:39:52,542 --> 00:39:55,208 the biggest thing that stands out for me, 781 00:39:55,292 --> 00:39:57,542 I would say, my counselor. 782 00:39:57,667 --> 00:40:00,833 - When Danielle first arrived she was very quiet, 783 00:40:00,875 --> 00:40:03,250 didn't really participate a whole lot the first couple days. 784 00:40:03,375 --> 00:40:06,417 But as time progressed, she became very open with me, 785 00:40:06,542 --> 00:40:08,542 receptive, very engaged. 786 00:40:08,625 --> 00:40:09,750 She was very motivated. 787 00:40:09,750 --> 00:40:11,333 We talked about communication 788 00:40:11,458 --> 00:40:13,000 and being honest with each other, 789 00:40:13,042 --> 00:40:15,833 especially for her recovery because this is all about Danny. 790 00:40:15,917 --> 00:40:18,250 (bright music) 791 00:40:18,958 --> 00:40:22,583 - I am extremely excited to see my family, 792 00:40:22,667 --> 00:40:24,000 especially my children. 793 00:40:25,333 --> 00:40:26,333 It's been a long time. 794 00:40:26,375 --> 00:40:27,833 Hi. 795 00:40:30,542 --> 00:40:32,000 Look at you all tanned. 796 00:40:34,292 --> 00:40:36,125 You look so good. - Thank you. 797 00:40:40,042 --> 00:40:43,083 - I don't really even remember her not being on drugs. 798 00:40:43,208 --> 00:40:45,500 So it's just gonna be different seeing how she is. 799 00:40:45,583 --> 00:40:47,542 - Aww, thank you. 800 00:40:47,625 --> 00:40:49,000 Is that my Mother's Day present? 801 00:40:49,083 --> 00:40:50,000 - Yeah. - Yeah. 802 00:40:50,083 --> 00:40:52,167 - Do I look better? - Yeah, a lot better. 803 00:40:52,208 --> 00:40:53,875 - Yeah. - Yeah? 804 00:40:56,042 --> 00:40:58,208 Ooh! - That's-that's not a tester. 805 00:40:58,292 --> 00:41:01,667 No, it is a tester but there's only three flavors. 806 00:41:01,708 --> 00:41:02,833 There was this um ... - Three flavors? 807 00:41:02,875 --> 00:41:04,750 - No. - You want me to eat it? 808 00:41:04,833 --> 00:41:07,375 (laughter) I have clarity. 809 00:41:07,458 --> 00:41:08,667 I can think. 810 00:41:08,708 --> 00:41:10,375 I found my brain again. 811 00:41:10,500 --> 00:41:12,833 I don't even know who that was before. 812 00:41:12,958 --> 00:41:14,875 Remember we used to go to the trails every day? 813 00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:18,042 So yeah, it's amazing how, how different I feel. 814 00:41:18,125 --> 00:41:19,667 Like a completely different person. 815 00:41:19,750 --> 00:41:23,208 - She just looks more like herself and just happier. 816 00:41:23,292 --> 00:41:26,792 And it's nice to actually have my mom back for a change. 817 00:41:26,875 --> 00:41:28,833 - This is Hailey. - Hi. Nice to meet you. 818 00:41:28,917 --> 00:41:30,625 - Nice to meet you. - This is Austin. 819 00:41:30,708 --> 00:41:32,000 - Nice to meet you. - Hi. 820 00:41:32,125 --> 00:41:34,250 - And this is Alyssa. - I've heard all about you guys. 821 00:41:34,333 --> 00:41:35,917 - This is Jules, my counselor. 822 00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:40,542 I want to go to school for addictions counseling. 823 00:41:40,625 --> 00:41:44,500 Getting a career in that would be amazing. 824 00:41:44,542 --> 00:41:46,167 Aw that's sweet. 825 00:41:46,208 --> 00:41:48,542 Three months ago I would have never thought 826 00:41:48,625 --> 00:41:51,333 I would ever have a career or want a career. 827 00:41:51,458 --> 00:41:54,250 A priority wasn't even in my vocabulary. 828 00:41:54,333 --> 00:41:57,833 So I'm excited for the future 829 00:41:57,917 --> 00:42:02,042 with my family members, my children. 830 00:42:02,583 --> 00:42:04,333 Gaining their trust back. 831 00:42:05,708 --> 00:42:07,833 Just have hope for my recovery. 832 00:42:07,917 --> 00:42:11,542 (♪ The Strength I Need by Wolfgang Black) 833 00:42:24,875 --> 00:42:26,958 (♪) 834 00:42:39,292 --> 00:42:40,333 Subtitling: difuze