[ dramatic music plays ]
[ gasps ]
What is going on?
What is he doing?
♪
[ men shouting ]
THOMAS N.: First day in Auckland, New Zealand.
The weather is stunning.
I never thought in a million years I'd come here, you know.
Australia last week--
you know, bucket list, crossed it off.
New Zealand now, crossing off another one.
This is 100% the place I could fall in love with Jenn.
ALL: Jenn!
Auckland, New Zealand, this city looks absolutely amazing.
I'm just excited to explore it with Jenn.
[ laughter, cheering ]
MARCUS: I'm bringing a lot of positive energy here to Auckland.
Looking forward to-- to seeing Jenn
and see what she has planned for us.
- Man! - Need some energy.
Hey, we get some food. Look at it.
Alright, gentlemen, we made it to New Zealand.
We're in Auckland. Let's have a great week.
[ cheering ] - Cheers! Cheers!
SAM M.: I've been itching to see Jenn.
Best-case scenario, Jenn makes an appearance,
somehow, some way.
Worst-case scenario, I have to look at Devin all day.
I think this city is beautiful.
This country is beautiful.
It's-- It's romantic already enough.
I would love to share that with Jenn.
SAM M.: I don't have any respect for Devin.
In the real world, we would not be friends,
but I'm always going to keep the main thing the main thing,
be my true, authentic self.
And I'm so excited to see Jenn.
DEVIN: I'm looking forward to the opportunity,
and I would love to get some one-on-one time with her this week.
There's been a lot of conflict between Sam and I,
but for me, I'm not gonna let anything
that I can't control bother me.
And I feel pretty confident about my connection with Jenn,
and I can't wait to have that one-on-one.
JESSE: Well? JENN: How have you been?
JESSE: I've been amazing. How have you been?
JENN: Good. JESSE: Welcome to Auckland.
Yes. Thank you. I know.
It's my first time. I'm so excited.
I'm excited to try all the food here, see everything.
It's a gorgeous place so far. - Yeah.
Oh, thank you. - Got the snapper sliders
for yous here. JENN: Oh, my God.
Thank you. JESSE: There we go.
SERVER: Also got your potato skins.
JENN: Yum!
SERVER: I've got some tomatoes for you.
- Wow. - Skirt steak.
Oh, wow.
This table is full all of a sudden.
JENN: We're having a feast. I love it.
Oh, yum. Thank you. JESSE: I have a little--
I have an interesting piece of, uh, trivia for you.
What? Oh, tell me.
Have you ever wondered why you're not suppose to eat
whenever you're on a one-on-one date?
Like, eating is not, um, attractive?
I don't know. [ laughs ]
JESSE: Want to know why? - Why?
Is it your fault? - On my season--
- What did you do, Jesse? - On my season,
I was scarfing the food down on every single date,
trying to have this serious, hard-core conversation,
and I'm just literally talking through the food.
- Really? - That's like a football team
standing on the national championship.
I'm really bad at arguing.
Hard place to find a place to land.
And I think after that they had to stop doing it.
So I-I essentially ruined it for everybody.
Oh, that's so funny. JESSE: Cutlery, awesome.
Have a knife. - Mm. Thank you.
I hope you're not eating right away on your date.
I know.
I mean, you've been at this now for a couple weeks.
JENN: Yes. - How is this all
feeling to you? - Yes, I'm getting into
the groove of things
and growing into my own a little bit more, for sure.
This is the first week where I felt really excited about,
like, an engagement at the end of this,
and so I think feelings are growing.
I think it's a-- it's gonna be a really good week.
It's starting to feel real for you?
JENN: Yeah, it's definitely starting to feel real.
Like, I feel like I really know a lot of these guys pretty well.
So now it's kind of like they're--
I'm not just saying they're my boyfriends.
Like, I really do feel like they are my boyfriends...
Yeah.
...which is, like, the craziest thing ever.
But I really can say that 100%.
But, like, I feel like I will get engaged to someone here.
JESSE: Listen, you're a busy woman. You've got to go.
You know where to find me if you need me.
JENN: Okay. Thank you so much.
Have so much fun. Great chatting and catching up.
- I'll see you soon. - Alright, Jenn.
Okay? Bye.
Oh!
[ men shouting ]
Hey, speaking of...
- Hi, guys. - Oh!
How are we doing?
GRANT: Man, when I see Jenn, she looks beautiful.
She has style. She always smells good.
She has a great smile.
I'm hoping that I get the one-on-one time
so that I can show her that I'm willing to open up
so she can see the deeper side of me.
How are you guys doing? What's new?
- New country. - Well-rested.
- New country. - Beautiful day.
How do you guys feel about New Zealand so far?
Amazing weather. JENN: Yeah.
Through the rain and shine.
What do you guys want to do in New Zealand?
Anything on the bucket list?
We were saying not jump off that thing.
Don't even-- Don't even get me started.
As soon as I saw that thing, it's where I draw the line.
Anyway... - Uh-oh.
...it's time for a little date.
Yes! JENN: And, um...
it's gonna be a one-on-one date.
I promise you, she's like-- we're locking eyes, eye contact.
I'm thinking this is my chance to have a one-on-one finally.
JENN: So...
Sam M., do you want to come?
Absolutely. JENN: Let's do it. Okay.
SAM M.: I'm pumped. I'm so excited.
I've been waiting patiently for this.
It's been a long time coming, and it's here.
And I'm looking forward to it.
And I can't wait to make the most of it.
JENN: Alright. Bye, boys.
- Bye, guys. - Have a good day.
DEVIN: You know, I just got to make sure
I'm being my authentic self.
"Being my authentic self" is one of four lines
that Sam says on a day-to-day basis.
Eventually, he's gonna have to have a real conversation with her.
I do hope that he bombs conversation
like I think he will.
Jenn will see the same Sam
that I think a lot of people in the house see.
I'm hoping a group date comes my way at this point,
'cause a one-on-one is clearly not in my future.
Man, I'm gonna need a real drink, I think, at this point.
I haven't seen anybody not come back with a rose yet.
Maybe this will be the first time.
[ up-tempo music plays ]
[ indistinct conversations ]
THOMAS N.: Even though Jenn took Sam M. for a one-on-one,
I am super pumped to be here in Auckland, New Zealand,
and any time that I get to spend with Jenn,
I'm gonna make the most of every situation.
Whoa!
We walk in, and the rooms are perfect.
[ men shouting ]
It's so nice. The views are amazing.
You can see the liveliness of the city.
It almost kind of makes up for not getting the one-on-one.
Okay. DEVIN: I got the king's chair.
Look at your boy.
Everything about this place is beautiful.
But I was pretty upset when I found out
that Sam and Jenn were going on the one-on-one.
I think I'm still trying to process it.
MAN: This is huge.
DEVIN: I hope that he is forced to have to actually
have a meaningful conversation at some point,
because maybe this is a testing moment for her,
and I hope Sam really just blows his cover.
♪
JENN: I can't with you.
What have you been doing? When did you get here?
I'm so excited!
My first date in Auckland is with Sam M.,
and we're going to the top of that building right there.
I'm so excited to be spending the day
just taking in the 360 views of the city.
Wow!
I really like Sam.
I feel like we have a very strong physical connection.
And so today I really need to know if we can get deeper,
if that emotional connection is there and how deep can that go.
And I don't know.
Maybe hopefully fall in love in New Zealand.
Well, I brought you here for the best 360 views of Auckland.
I love it. I love it.
This is insane. JENN: Not bad, huh?
You've never been to New Zealand before?
No, never have. This is a bucket-list thing for me, so...
JENN: Really? Me too. - Yeah, I'm already blessed.
And-- And, yeah, now to do this?
What would you want to do on a first date?
Gosh. Well, see, I don't really consider this
a first date for us, so...
When was our first date?
The couch? Was the couch the first date?
What the [bleep] was that?
[ both laugh ]
All of a sudden I look out the window,
and I see a person falling.
What the hell is going on?
I don't know. I don't know.
SAM M.: [ laughing ]
I don't like how much joy you're getting
out of me being freaked out.
Come on, now. You know I got you.
I do? SAM M.: Yeah.
Hey, guys, I don't know if you guys noticed,
but we just had a fantastic jump from the roof.
That's actually something that happens here.
It's the famous SkyJump of Auckland.
It's a fantastic experience.
I've done it myself last Tuesday.
Okay. MAN: It's a unique
lifetime experience you should try.
JENN: [ clears throat ]
MAN: You can try if you want the walk that we do, as well.
So you don't have to jump.
But you can walk around the tower and just enjoy the view.
A walk sounds lovely. MAN: Yeah?
No, we would like to jump. MAN: Fantastic.
Excuse me. MAN: I'll get it ready, then.
This is a two-person decision. SAM M.: Awesome.
Thank you very much. I appreciate that.
MAN: It's a pleasure.
JENN: This is a two-person decision here.
You think you're just making the decision for me to jump?
Um, usually I'm not like that, but this one, yes.
- Why? - Because in 50 years from now,
you'll be able to look back and you'll be like, "Damn,
I'm glad I jumped off that."
I hate heights. I don't want to do this.
Yeah, I'm a little frustrated with Sam right now.
He made a decision for the both of us.
He tells the waiter that we're jumping
without even asking me how I'm feeling about it.
I'm annoyed. I don't want to.
Come on this is gonna be insane right here.
JENN: For you. - No, for both of us.
- This isn't fun for me. - Oh, I can't wait.
This is wild. - I'm not doing it.
You're gonna do it. Here. Cheers to growth.
JENN: I'm not jumping.
Cheers to conquering our fears...
I'm not jumping. SAM M.: ...with one another.
You can't convince me to jump.
I'll give you a little push.
You're annoying. I can't with you right now.
I-I can't.
It's not happening. I'm not doing it.
I hate heights. I'm scared.
I think he needs to be doing a better job of reading,
like, my emotions right now.
I don't think you're understanding
that I'm actually unhappy. and I don't want to do this.
Like, I need a little bit more than just,
"Oh, you're gonna do it."
SAM M.: I do understand that.
But at the end of the day, what I want to be able to do
is look back with hopefully my future wife and say,
"Hey, aren't you glad we did that in New Zealand?"
It's just a lot. It's overwhelming.
It's-- [ sighs ] It's frustrating.
So then let's just go on a walk upstairs, then.
Okay.
Let's go.
SAM M.: I'm pumped. I know she's a little nervous.
But I love the heart racing.
The adrenaline, I think, is one of the closest areas
you can get to really feeling alive.
SAM: Kia ora. - Hi.
- Hello. - I'm Sam.
It's good to meet you. SAM M: I'm Sam.
JENN: I'm Jenn. - Oh, easy to remember.
Jenn, nice to meet you. JENN: Nice to meet you.
Right. Are you ready for the SkyWalk?
- Yes. - Yes?
- Yeah. - Oh, yeah.
Very good. Grab your suits.
Go get changed, and I'll meet you back here very soon.
SAM M.: At the end of the day, I want her to be comfortable,
but I also want her to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
This is gonna be a moment for her
to kind of conquer her fears a little bit.
And at the end of it, she'll be happy that she did it.
[ bird screeches ]
[ dramatic music plays ]
♪
SAM: Now we're done, guys, you're gonna head straight up towards Keanu.
Welcome. Alright, let's start getting you attached.
Okay, so, Jenn, you are gonna come stand just here for me.
- Oh, my God. - You're good, you're good.
You got this. You got this.
You're gonna take one little step further forward for me.
Maybe a little bit more, a little bit more,
and beautiful.
JENN: I'm feeling honestly scared [bleep]
Like, we get on the SkyWalk
to see how I feel about jumping before making a decision.
And I feel as though if I don't get the support from Sam,
I won't be jumping today.
[ laughs ]
I-- [ laughs ]
- I can't. I can't look down. - That's okay. That's alright.
Look out at the view. It's incredible.
Alright, I want you to hold on to this.
JENN: Standing on the edge and seeing how far up we are,
I can see between the holes where the ground is.
And the ground is very, very far.
And I'm attached by one wire.
One wire that I don't even know if it's secure.
It's really windy.
KEANU: That's okay.
[ gate bangs ] Oh, well...
Alright, come on out for me.
You got this. Keep coming, Jenn.
I really don't like this.
KEANU: It's all good.
That's not bad.
KEANU: That's pretty insane. Are you excited?
JENN: I hate this. I hate it.
I hate every second of this.
I would rather be anywhere else in the world right now but here.
KEANU: Do we want to try a challenge?
I'll try one. KEANU: You'll try a challenge.
I'll-- I'll do whatever.
You tell me to do something, I'll do it.
KEANU: Okay. Okay. - And I'll let--
She-- She can watch if she wants.
JENN: This is worse than skydiving.
It's just a totally different experience
having to see the ground and know that you could fall.
Heels over the edge for me.
Bend in those knees.
And I want you to lean on back.
Beautiful!
I think you should at least come over here
and give me a kiss.
That's what I think you should do.
JENN: I am clearly terrified.
And Sam's not reading my emotions at all.
I'm absolutely petrified.
Every single part of my body is telling me not to do this.
I really do feel like I'm up here all by myself.
JENN: Guys, I can't-- I can't do this.
No, no, please.
KEANU: Let's just give it a go.
If you can do skydiving, you can do this.
And you got Sam right next to you.
[ laughs ]
JENN: I'm freaking out right now.
We're 629 feet above the ground,
and I feel isolated and alone in this moment
'cause I don't feel like Sam understands
exactly how I'm feeling.
KEANU: Would you like to give it a shot?
No, I'm all set.
I'm really all set. Yeah. Thank you.
Do you want to try leaning back next to him?
That's what I think you should do.
JENN: I just want someone to make me a priority,
and he's not.
It's like he's not wanting to really be there for me.
He's kind of just in this for himself.
So this does not feel like a date right now.
It feels like Sam just wants to lean off a building
because he's an adrenaline junkie
and he doesn't really care about me
and how I'm feeling right now.
KEANU: You can do it. You can do it.
Don't do it. Seriously, don't.
Alright? Don't do it.
JENN: [ sniffling ]
SAM M.: I told you I got you.
JENN: I'm ugly crying.
SAM M.: Don't-- Don't worry about that.
Seriously. Don't do it.
Jenn is really afraid of heights,
and I can see the fear in her eyes.
It just stops time for me,
and I want to be able to express to her
that, "It's okay. I have you.
Whatever that looks like, I got you."
This is a moment I'll never forget right here.
JENN: The ugly crying? You liked that?
SAM M.: There's nothing that you can show me
that's gonna push me away.
JENN: I don't think Sam really understood
the gravity of my fears,
but ultimately, Sam did show up for me,
and that's what I needed.
I just needed someone to understand how I was feeling
and be there for me, and he was.
KEANU: So what do we think? Good view? Enjoy it.
JENN: Very pretty view.
KEANU: Now, there is only one good way to get down from here.
And that would be the SkyJump.
What do you think? You ready? You excited?
Shall we do it?
- Sure. - Alrighty.
JENN: Now that I'm feeling more heard and understood by Sam,
I'm feeling a lot calmer.
I decide that I'm gonna do the jump
because I know that I have to do this for myself.
KEANU: Cool. I'm gonna have you come
and stand just there on that line for me.
I'm gonna guide you here. Imagine I'm the other Sam.
You can do this.
JENN: I know that I'm gonna feel so much better once I jump.
I just-- It's about overcoming that fear.
Aah!
I think when you feel safe and comfortable with your partner,
anything can be possible.
And sometimes in life, you just have to take a leap of faith.
Oh, I'm up.
KEANU: Yeah, that's what we want.
[ dramatic music plays ]
There we go.
I'm gonna give you a countdown, and off you go.
- Okay. - Alright, here she comes.
In three, two, one.
Aah!
KEANU: Go, Jenn! - Aah!
[ screaming ]
Oh! - Alright.
I jumped off of a building today!
I jumped off of a building!
Damn.
Am I happy that I did it once in my life?
Yes. Will I ever be doing it again?
No, but that was [bleep] cool.
At the end of the day, Sam really came around
and understood that I do have a serious fear of heights.
I think in that moment, Sam thought he knew me
better than he did, and he didn't,
and I think we learned a lot about each other today.
- I know, I know. - I tested it out for you.
SAM M.: We did it.
Watching Jenn, I felt so proud in that moment of her,
and I couldn't have pictured it going any better
than what it just did.
So here's to overcoming our fears.
Cheers to never having to jump off another building again.
Yeah, it's the last time I'm jumping off a building.
I should not cheers that.
Jenn took a huge leap for me today,
and I will make it back up to her tonight.
Let's go.
Sam and I have an undeniable physical attraction,
but going into tonight,
I really need to know if we can get deeper,
if that emotional connection is there and how deep can that go.
♪
JEREMY: I think Sam M. is coming home with a rose.
I'd be honestly shocked if he didn't.
JOHN: Right. From the jump he made a great impression on her,
so now is the time that he gets to just show his true self,
so he would have to mess some stuff up, honestly.
[ door opens ]
Gentlemen, we got a date card.
[ cheers and applause ]
Whoo!
SAM N.: I'm over being on group dates.
I'm sick of, like, having to constantly prove myself.
I want the one-on-one.
SPENCER: It's a group date.
Spencer.
Marcus.
Grant.
John M.
Austin.
Jonathon.
Dylan.
Thomas.
Jeremy.
And Sam N.
"Let's give love a try. Love, Jenn."
- Wait. - Well, well, well.
MAN: Wait. Whose name wasn't called?
Devin.
[ exhales sharply ]
I can't be happier, to be honest.
Getting the one-on-one date is a monumental moment.
I mean, this is my first date. I'm excited.
This is my first date, man. I'm-- I'm stoked.
I've been waiting to build on a lot of moments
that I feel like we've sparked a lot of fire,
but I haven't been able to catch that flame, so I'm excited, man.
♪
JENN: It's so pretty here.
SAM M.: It's stunning here.
JENN: What?
Nothing. I just like you.
You do?
I mean, you're alright.
Come on. - You're-- You're okay, too.
This date has been crazy.
It's just like a constant roller coaster of emotions.
I think at the beginning of the day,
Sam wasn't really understanding
of where I was coming from with the jump and my fears.
And by the end of the day, Sam really did come around
and ended up showing up for me.
Perfect. SAM M.: Let's go.
JENN: Sam and I have an undeniable
physical attraction to one another.
Like, I already know that.
But in the past, I've mistaken that
for having emotional intimacy.
That's where we were earlier.
I know. Doesn't look that high.
Perfect. You can go higher, and I will watch you.
And that will be so good for you, so good.
I still feel like there's more to figure out about him
before I feel confident about giving him the rose tonight.
But I want so badly
for there to be this emotional connection with Sam and I,
and I really hope that tonight
we'll be able to get to that place.
For you showing up for me today
and for us to have some new memories together.
New memories. Cheers.
- Cheers. - Thank you.
Oh.
It's been a long day. It's been a big day for us.
For me at least. - Yeah.
I think today really got the best of me.
- Mnh-mnh. - And it was a lot
for me to open up and tell you how overwhelmed I was today
because in previous relationships,
when I kind of let that wall down
and-- and show what I'm really feeling,
it's never really ended well.
And I'm afraid of someone not wanting to work at it.
That's what I'm most afraid of,
'cause I know that I will never stop working at something
that I truly believe in.
And that's where my fear is.
I would never stop working.
I don't need to have everything figured out,
but just as long as I have the right person in my life,
none of this other [bleep] matters.
How do you know it's the right person?
Like, what do you need in a relationship?
That love that I want is wild.
It's very passionate and intimate.
I understand the feeling of, like,
wanting to be a better person
for the person in front of you every single day
and knowing that the person on the other end
chooses you every single time.
That's love. That doesn't fade to me.
It's something that you never stop wanting to work at.
I am the type of person
to choose somebody endlessly, no matter what.
Like, that to me is what true love is.
But it's been hard for me to chase anything
with my full heart because I've been afraid.
My parents are divorced,
and they, um...
just they weren't the best example of love.
And I think because of that, for a long time,
I felt like I wasn't worthy of anything.
I wasn't worthy of true love.
I wasn't worthy of ever really being
in a-- like, a true relationship.
♪
You're worthy.
You deserve it.
♪
JENN: I think I'm getting emotional telling Sam about,
you know, everything that makes me me
because I feel like every time I show this side of me,
I've been laughed at or ran away from and just disposed of.
[ exhales deeply ]
♪
[ sniffles ]
All I've ever wanted was someone
to really love me on my worst days
and to be there for me
and to really see me and accept me.
[ sniffles ]
I just think, like, that's been the biggest barrier
in a relationship for me
is, like, I've never put my all into it.
I've never felt like I could open up
and really talk about what made me me
and why I am the way I am and-- and why I'm so messed up.
SAM M.: You're not.
You know, life-- Everybody has trauma.
And at the end of the day, I want you to know, like,
how serious I really am about all of this.
So, you know, for me...
you use those words "ferocious love."
JENN: Mm-hmm.
I know exactly what that means.
So my-- my past relationship, I was engaged.
Okay.
And she was somebody that I definitely thought
that I was gonna spend forever with.
And the second I got engaged,
it just instantly started to deteriorate.
And I knew something was wrong.
And I pried and I pried and I pried.
And she told me that there was another guy.
And, uh, that moment that I started to really feel
and really know that I wasn't being chosen
was such a gut punch.
And, you know, my dream in life was to find the girl,
have kids, have a family.
Um... JENN: Right.
Yeah, and all of it got pulled out
from kind of underneath my feet.
Wow.
SAM M.: Expressing my feelings through words
has never been a strong suit for me.
And it takes a level of vulnerability
to be able to do that.
But, you know, it's time for me to let go.
And she deserves to hear those things.
She deserves to know that I know exactly what I want,
and the way that she looks at me
just makes opening up 10 times easier.
If you love somebody so much,
there's nothing in the world that you wouldn't do.
There's no road that I will not travel,
no bridge I will not cross
for the people that I really care about and really love.
JENN: Me too.
I think this conversation with Sam is making me understand
that the fears that I had about him aren't real.
Like, he is the one who believes in love,
and he's been engaged before.
Like, he understands what a marriage is really all about
and what a true partnership is really all about.
[ sniffles ]
♪
I feel like we made a lot of progress tonight,
and I also appreciate your vulnerability tonight
and telling me what you've also gone through.
With that said...
Sam, will you accept this rose?
Of course I will.
Sweet of you.
♪
I am super happy.
To be able to connect on that level right there,
I feel extremely confident in her and I.
The way that it's all going right now,
it's tough to see anything else
other than being that one person there at the end.
You have no idea how bad I want this.
JENN: It feels amazing.
Tonight I learned that there is a lot more
than just a physical connection there.
You know, there is an emotional connection.
He saw who I was tonight and he accepted me for who I am.
And I feel so happy.
♪
Wow. Look at the tower.
Oh, wow. That's actually wild.
JENN: Mm-hmm.
It makes me really hopeful.
I feel like I was scared today.
And after tonight, like, I am falling for Sam.
He's someone I can see a future with.
♪
JENN: [ laughs ]
Run on three. One, two.
JENN: [ laughing ]
Geez. Ah!
Hi.
[ laughs ]
- Hello. Hello. Hello. - Hi. How are you?
That was a nice little race you guys got going on.
Today we got a fresh start. We have a group date.
And I think it's gonna be something a little active,
so I'm looking forward to it.
Hey.
Today I have an agenda. I have a goal.
And that goal is Jenn.
I'm not gonna care about others.
If I see a chance to talk to Jenn,
every chance I can I will,
and I'll walk all over them, you know?
Today we're gonna be doing something
that all New Zealanders do.
And you're gonna have to come with me to figure that out.
We're going to be playing rugby today.
I'm just excited to see these men
put everything on this field for me.
[ dramatic music plays ]
[ shouting in Maori ]
♪
JENN: But first, there's a ceremonial dance
done before a game.
[ shouting in Maori ]
JENN: The haka is a cultural Maori dance.
It's one of rugby's best-known traditions
done here in New Zealand.
And it's just such a special moment
to be able to embrace somebody else's culture
and for them to share it with us.
[ shell blowing ]
[ indistinct shouting ]
♪
JONATHON: The haka-- so sick to see.
[ grunting, hissing ]
You're watching me. Like, I'm kind of fired up right now.
I'm not even Maori, and I'm fired up.
[ shouting in Maori ]
SAM N.: The only word that can describe the ceremony
was beautiful and also respect.
I can really feel the passion, energy.
MAN: [ shouting in Maori ]
SAM N.: That was the motivation I needed.
It put me in that mindset that this is game on.
Welcome to North Harbour Stadium.
We're part of the All Blacks,
the most victorious rugby team in history,
and a part of that winning legacy,
it's all about hard work, determination, and grit.
Rugby, much like love,
it's a sport that requires a lot of passion
and a lot of toughness.
So today we're here to support Jenn
and to help separate the boys from the men.
There's been some pent-up aggression
happening in the house.
I think that there are some scores
that are gonna get settled on the pitch today,
and I think there's a bunch of people that can't wait to do that.
Ready to smash each other?
Bring it on.
It looks like we're playing some rugby today.
[ whistle blows ] - Ready? Go!
- [ laughs ] - Get it, brother.
JENN: Rugby's one of the most popular sports in New Zealand.
And what better way to get to know New Zealand
than to get to know their favorite sport?
Today's a big day, you know.
We've got 10 guys today,
and I'm excited to hang out with them all, honestly.
And I just-- I'm excited to see
who's gonna make little moments with me.
Okay, Sam, bring the heat.
Only boss-ass-bitch energy, baby.
JENN: I don't want any broken bones today.
I just want friendly tackling.
Someone can friendly tackle me, too.
- Oh! - Oh, what a catch.
SPENCER: Marcus is doing really well, which is no surprise.
I mean, he's the only one that's actually played rugby.
And then, you know, everyone else is a mixed board.
Is that in?
Oh! MAN: Get him out of there.
A few people I'm gonna say a little prayer for.
I got that. That's me.
Oh, never mind.
Oh. Oh!
STACEY: Catch, catch, catch.
- Somebody's got it. - Oh!
- Yeah! - Let's go, bro.
Who's-- Who's, like, surprising you, besides me...
- Oh. - ...out of the guys?
Who should I watch out for her?
Everyone's doing great, I think.
Frickin' Sam.
He's with our girl, Jenn, and it makes no sense.
JENN: Aah. [ laughs ]
What the hell is happening?
JENN: [ laughing ]
You can tell by my eyes I'm actually having a ton of fun.
Whoo! MAN: Nice. And again.
SAM N.: I'm not scared of any of the guys here.
I don't care about their feelings.
I've disassociated from them.
Screw the group. I'm my own group.
Alright, boys, I'm going.
And I'm ready to play ball. [ whistle blows ]
OFA: Head to the locker rooms,
and we'll see you back here for the game.
The craziness is coming out!
The guy that I could care for least is the one here-- Devin.
Today I'm really just gonna see if I can get to the bottom
as to why he acts like such a little bitch around me.
What's your deal with me?
I don't have a deal with you, bro.
I really, really don't.
Bro. Bro.
I know what you said whenever I walked down the stairs.
You know, you said something about.
"Hey, you know, I hope he puts his best foot forward.
You know, be his authentic self."
But that's not a personal attack.
Your name don't come out of my mouth.
I don't care enough about you
to even do that, to talk about you.
That's not what I'm here for.
I'm here for Jenn. That's what I'm here for.
But do you not see-- You say it's-- it's about Jenn.
But then you make it about me.
I don't give a [bleep] about you.
I don't respect you. - I don't respect you, either.
I'm not gonna put your name in my mouth.
Boy, you're not worth a [bleep] second of my breath.
I hope not, because it seems that way.
SAM M.: Okay, so then stop wasting yours on me.
And I literally got nothing to say to you, bro.
That's why you want to act like, why I don't talk to you.
Boy, I don't give a [bleep] - I don't [bleep]
whether you talk to me. There ain't no--
Did I say, "Oh, why don't you talk to me?"
See, I don't give a [bleep] bro. - Okay.
Time will tell, man. Time will tell.
I hope so.
♪
JESSE: Hello, Bachelor Nation, and welcome
to what is sure to be the most exciting sporting event
in Bachelor history.
I'm Jesse Palmer, and this is
The Bachelorette's Rugby Royale.
JENN: Bring on the men.
Yes, sir. Yes, sir.
Yeah!
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes, sir.
Stacey, you've won a World Cup championship.
You're a Olympic gold medalist.
You know one or two things about the sport of rugby.
How excited are you for this match?
I'm very excited.
I've seen them out there training, working hard.
You know, the main thing they have is passion for the game.
So I can't wait to see the energy out there.
They're gonna do well. [ all chanting "Jenn!" ]
This is for Jenn!
[ men shouting ]
The Bachelorette Rugby Royale starts right now.
Whoo! [ whistle blows ]
JESSE: The whole goal in rugby
is to advance the ball into the opponent's try zone.
You score a try, you get 5 points.
In rugby, you can pass the ball laterally or backwards.
The only way you can advance it
is by running or kicking it forward.
[ shouting indistinctly ]
I don't know if that was legal.
[ whistle blows ]
MAN: Forward pass.
JOHN: I feel like today is my time to shine.
This is the perfect day for me.
I almost feel like Jenn kind of drew it up for me.
[ whistle blows ] [ grunts ]
Go, go, go.
JENN: Oh, whoo. JESSE: Is that John?
With the speed for the try, and it's down.
It's try, All Jenns.
The orange team needs some points.
Blue team's just got a good runner.
So they got to figure out who their runner is.
[ whistle blows ]
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
JESSE: A scissor pass by Jeremy.
JENN: Oh, yeah! - The scissor pass works.
And it's Jonathon off to the races
for a try for the orange team. - Try.
- Cheeky. - Cheeky.
MAN: I'm with you. I'm with you.
JESSE: Wow. There's Austin.
- Oh! - Wow.
I'm having so much fun on this rugby date.
These boys are looking fine.
Honestly, I love that they're taking it seriously.
Like, these guys are tackling each other for me.
Well, I mean, I don't want them to hurt themselves,
and I don't want anyone to hurt anybody else.
Oh. Ooh, and Marcus, he was driven into the turf.
That's got to sting.
SAM N.: Marcus is a little hurt,
but I want to show Jenn I'm willing to break a leg.
So I'm gonna win this game!
I'm coming for that group-date rose!
I'm here for you, Jenn! Let's go!
[ whistle blows ]
JESSE: Okay. Here goes Jeremy on the outside.
What a tackle by Sam N.
I had no idea he'd be this aggressive
or this good at playing defensive.
Another tackle by Sam N.
JENN: Wow!
- Defense. - He's crazy.
Jenn, he's really out to impress, don't you think?
He is.
SPENCER: It's a lot more competitive
than I thought it was going to be.
Sam's coming out here to try to prove something to Jenn.
SAM N.: I have this "bad bitch" energy right now.
I'm the most confident guy on this field,
most confident guy in the world.
You know why? I'm Jenn's husband, baby.
Hey, Jenn. JESSE: Uh-oh, look.
Sam N. pointing out the name on the back of his jersey.
Oh. JESSE: It says Jenn's husband.
Manifestation, baby.
None of these guys scare me.
None of these guys should even scare me.
This is all about intimidation.
And I'm not intimidated by these guys.
JESSE: Look at Sam N. He knocks it out of the air.
Oh, my God!
STACEY: That was nice! JESSE: That was unbelievable.
That's physicality.
That's exactly what you need in the game of rugby.
[ whistle blows ] JESSE: And there goes Grant.
It is all tied up between the blue team and the orange team.
The next team that scores is going to win the Rugby Royale.
MAN: There you go.
JESSE: A little flip to John M.
Blimey.
JESSE: Back to Grant.
A little high stepping in for the try.
[ whistle blows ] - Come on!
Full time. Well done, mates.
JESSE: And that's it.
The blue team in a nail-biter.
They win The Bachelorette's Rugby Royale.
[ cheering ]
SAM N.: Today's just been a phenomenal day.
I'm excited.
You know why I put manifestation at its fines?
Kind of want to, uh, you know,
show the world who's a real boss.
Aah! Whoo!
"Jenn's husband."
THOMAS N.: I'm a little riled up about Sam.
You know, he made it a Sam show, and he thinks he's got 10 steps
ahead of all the other guys here.
But Jenn is a smart woman.
SAM N.: Goodbye, guys.
THOMAS N.: So going into tonight,
I hope that she can see through the [bleep]
[ dramatic music plays ]
♪
MAN: ♪ The sky's bringing out the bling tonight ♪
♪ And I'm like what the... ♪
He's on timing, bro.
JONATHON: Sam N. is rubbing people the wrong way.
Sam N. is rubbing me the wrong way in particular.
You know, we're walking into the house together,
and he's walking ahead of everybody,
chip on his shoulder, trophy in his hand,
like he was the sole provider of the-- the win today
and acting like he's the [bleep]
Today's the best day ever. [ chuckles ]
I love today. Today is amazing.
Everything I did today was for Jenn,
and going forward everything I will keep doing is for Jenn.
We're going this way, Sam.
SAM N.: My ambition, my drive is unmatched.
Nothing's gonna get in my way
to get that group-date rose tonight.
There is no plan B. It's plan A.
And part of plan A is to be the first person that talks to her,
explain my truth.
Then I'm gonna have my first kiss with my wife.
[ indistinct talking ]
Sorry. I'm right here.
I'm right here.
No, my water's right there.
Okay. I'm right here.
Just check yourself real quick, dude.
SAM N.: Focus on the reason you're here.
MARCUS: There's a couch over there. Scoot that way.
JONATHON: Marcus is looking for a place to sit,
and Sam just won't budge.
Marcus goes, "Dude, you need to check yourself."
And I hear that, and I'm like, yeah, he [bleep] does.
- Hey! - Oh, wow.
She wore orange way better than me.
JENN: The trophy's on the couch.
JONATHON: Sam being disrespectful as hell tonight,
and I am not having any of it.
Cheers to furthering our connections tonight.
- Cheers to that. - Cheers, cheers.
- Cheers. - Cheers, cheers, cheers.
- Cheers. - Cheers, gentlemen.
- Mind if I take you? - Sure.
MAN: Jenn? - Oh, sorry. Cheers.
I didn't get to have a sip. - Left you hanging.
Cheers, guys.
JENN: Thank you.
I'll see you guys in a bit.
Now we know why he was walking fast.
JENN: How are you doing?
Good. Sore.
He's got, like, the trophy in one hand.
He's got the jersey in another hand.
MAN: Jenn over his shoulder.
MAN #2: That was so weird. That was weird.
Bro, that was weird.
THOMAS N.: Sam has definitely ruffled everyone's feathers.
A lot of the guys were turned off
by the way that Sam carried himself today.
He's a 25-year-old boy who's never been in love,
and that shows that he's not here for an engagement.
- What-- What do you got there? - So...
JENN: "Sam's w--" Aah!
SAM N.: You believe in manifestation.
I told you I believe in manifestation.
Wait. This is the cutest thing ever.
There's four spots on the couch,
and he puts the-- he puts the trophy on the spot
where somebody could have sat down.
It's, like, crazy.
- I appreciate that. - I love it so much.
Thank you. - No, thank-- No, thank you.
That's so cute.
Here's the thing. At the end of the day,
Jenn's looking for a man, not a boy.
We're good.
MAN: Yeah, for sure.
Today I wanted to bring a different side of me.
And today it was all about you. I made everything about you.
The group date, third time's a charm.
It was the best group date in my life.
JENN: Oh, good. Good.
I was so happy to see a different side of you today.
Like, you were tackling all these guys left to right.
Like, you were really into it. And I loved that.
- Of course. - And like, you seemed
like you were just, like, having the best time ever today.
SAM N.: Yeah. You know why?
It's because in the past,
I was thinking too much about them
and, like, what I was not doing.
And for me today, my entire focus-- and going forward,
my entire focus is you.
the moment I saw you, I was dead set
on getting on one knee for you.
And as someone that you're gonna marry, right,
I'm keen on manifestation. - Mm-hmm.
Um, I want you to get to know me more,
and I want you to kind of understand, like, a lot.
No, I want to understand you more.
SAM N.: My conversation with Jenn went really well.
Today was a day about gaining my confidence back
and showing Jenn that I'm a confident man.
I'm on that "boss bitch" energy.
Hot energy only.
Really appreciate you. - Of course.
I appreciate you. Thank you so much.
SAM N.: And when I do get the group-date rose tonight,
I might go in for that kiss.
JONATHON: So...
First of all, these-- these are men's nets.
Yeah. So it's easier to catch.
That's messed up. I'm not used to a men's stick.
So there's only gonna be one rule to it.
JENN: What's the rule?
You drop a pass, you owe me a kiss.
[ gasps ] I'm never dropping a pass.
You ready? JENN: Let's see it.
JONATHON: Both Jenn and I played lacrosse in college.
It's really fun to just connect over that.
Look at you.
So fun to just mess around and have fun with the sticks
and kind of bring something together that we both share.
And she's a lot better than I thought she was going to be.
Alright, while we're here...
JENN: Yeah. - How was your day?
My day was amazing. How was your day?
This is so much more fun.
I love this.
Tonight has been amazing.
It feels good with Jonathon.
We always have a good laugh together,
no matter what we're talking about.
Should we do some drills?
JONATHON: Absolutely not.
JENN: I think Jonathon is a very hot man.
He was even hotter playing rugby today.
Alright, get over here.
♪
But I have a big group tonight,
and I have a lot of connections here.
And tonight is really about seeing
if those connections can sustain and continue to build.
So today it was a battle, like a fight.
And that's something that I want to do in a relationship
is, like fight for my woman and put it on the line.
I wanted you to see that today. Hopefully you did.
I appreciate that.
That is a really sweet sentiment.
I feel you have this, like, energy about you
where, like, you would do anything for me,
and I love that. - I would put it all up.
When I love somebody, I put it out there.
- Oh. - So I'm trying to--
Whoa. [ both laugh ]
I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.
And I've been waiting to give you a kiss.
Here.
♪
I always feel at ease when I'm with Grant.
That spark is definitely there.
He's always being intentional with where he's at with me
and so open with his feelings that it makes me comfortable.
He's someone who I want to be able
to explore our relationship a little bit more.
- Hey. - How's it going?
Some of these connections are starting to really blossom,
and it's all going too well.
Sam decided he wanted to walk ahead of the group.
I know we all saw it,
and that is not the page he needs to be on.
You know, that guy is--
He's a roller coaster of emotions, man.
That guy is-- He's either up here
or he's way down here, man.
And you should not be here
if you don't have a certain level of emotional intelligence.
Just be respectful.
- Yeah. - Yo, Sam.
Come take a seat.
Yo, we were just telling you, like,
the difference between being confident
and being, to a point, arrogant in a little way.
- Of course. - Like, I'm proud of you
for what you did today. - Appreciate that.
But when you win, you handle things with grace.
Look what you guys are doing right now.
And I don't mean this out of any disrespect.
You're talking about me when you have one conversation,
and that's with Jenn, right?
For me, this day, I made it about Jenn.
There's a fine line between doing everything for Jenn
and just being disrespectful with things
and being way too much.
You didn't have to bring the jersey and the trophy in.
This dude scored every one of your points.
You just don't carry yourself like-- like a man or an adult.
Like, you're a kid.
I don't have to apologize for this
because I made her my priority.
Yes, we are here for Jenn.
Our relationship is our relationship with her.
But when everybody is involved in a group scenario,
like when we were walking into a house,
not speaking to anybody,
holding the trophy in front of your face,
putting a trophy down where somebody else could have sat
is disrespectful as hell.
But at the end of the day, what are we discussing?
You're not hearing it. Like, you don't want to hear it.
And you're, like, stuck in this way of like, "It's about Jenn."
Jenn had nothing to do with any of this environment at all.
She was not watching us walk in the house.
She was not sitting in this room when we were in here.
All those were actions towards the group.
And they were disrespectful to the group.
SAM N.: What do you want me to say right now?
Like, I'm getting confused. Are you want me to apologize
for essentially taking Jenn first?
Honestly, at this point, I don't think there's anything
you can say, to be 100% real with you.
I think you could literally just not say a word,
and that would probably be the best-case scenario.
Relax, bro.
The emotional roller coaster that Sam rides is volatile.
It's toxic.
I don't think that he's ready for a relationship.
He's a [bleep] clown show.
He didn't understand a single word out of any of our mouths.
Zero.
SAM N.: I could care less about their noise.
At the end of the day, I'm not here for friends.
I'm not here for this bromance.
I'm here for Jenn. I'm here for love.
These guys are losing composure.
And I'm being calm and collected.
Who's gonna win?
Me.
JENN: Ohh. How are you doing?
MARCUS: I'm fantastic.
You know, I did see you get hurt.
I have no idea what you're talking about, but okay.
JENN: I di-- I-- No. MARCUS: Okay.
And, you know, I heard you got checked out.
- Mm-hmm. - But I feel like
it's always good to get a second opinion
- A second opinion, yeah. - You know, and, you know.
So, hi. My name is Jenn.
I'm a PA student. - Okay.
This is the best doctor appointment I've ever had.
- Is Really? Weird. - Yeah. Uh-huh.
Okay. Well, I'm just gonna listen...
- Oh, my God. - ...to your little heart.
Just-- I just want to make sure everything's okay.
Okay?
I brought my stethoscope, and I thought
that maybe I could share a special moment with Marcus.
You know, he did get injured in the rugby game.
And I think Marcus is not someone who opens up easily.
He's not someone who shows vulnerability easily.
But I care about him.
I actually did seriously. see you get hurt.
And first I'll just-- just tell me, like, are you okay?
I'm-- I'm tough as nails. JENN: No.
Tell me actually what happened.
I'm okay.
I'm serious. Don't lie to me.
You know, I, uh, you know, uh--
it hurt a little bit more than I was expecting,
but I think, um, I've been through worse.
I'll be-- I'll be okay. JENN: I know.
I keep thinking back to what you said on our one-on-one date
and how you felt like there was a period of time
where you felt really alone and no one was there.
And I want to be able to be there for you,
even in the little things, like--
Right, and I think I put, like,
a lot of pressure on myself
to, like, not be, like, perceived as weak.
I know. I know. MARCUS: Right? And I think,
you know, like, my livelihood
depended on that for a long time.
- I know. - And, yeah, it's, like,
not easy for me, you know.
Like, I, like, wrecked my shoulder today,
and the first thing that I thought of,
I was like, "Wow, this is embarrassing."
I'm nervous because to open up to Jenn
about hurting, about anything
kind of opens the door to hurting about everything.
And, um...
...that's, like, not something that I've--
that I open up about.
I think I have a problem with, you know--
Yeah, I just don't want anyone to feel bad for me.
Um, maybe I'm just asking for a little room right now.
Okay. MARCUS: Yeah.
- Well, I-- Last thing. - Mm-hmm.
Just wanted to let you know, you don't always
have to be strong for me. - Right.
Like, I can-- I can help carry.
Okay?
Thank you.
The most difficult things I've ever gone through in my life,
I went through them alone.
And, like, I just think that some of the burdens
that I've carried, they're--
Sometimes I wonder if I'm strong enough to carry them on my own,
and it just feels like a little bit selfish to...
ask someone else to-- to carry them.
So, yeah, I--
Yeah. I don't like doing that.
JOHN: There is a rose on the table.
How we feeling, guys?
GRANT: Yeah, I feel like me and Jenn have a connection,
but I'm sure everybody feels like that here.
MAN: Yeah. - For me, uh, in my mind,
I've already got the group-date rose, right?
Um, and that's it.
We will see who gonna get the rose.
SAM N.: There's only one thing on my mind tonight,
And that's to get the group-date rose.
I'm confident today. I went in first for Jenn.
And that's pissing the other guys off.
But these guys are nothing to me.
I'm here for Jenn. I'm here for love.
And that's it.
What's up, man? - Let's go have a talk.
SAM N.: That's fine.
THOMAS N.: Yeah, right here in the corner.
Boy.
[ breathes deeply ]
I got a bone to pick with you.
How does this, what you're doing right now,
improve your relationship with Jenn?
What did you do right now to me? What did you do?
Listen, listen, listen. Listen to me.
Let me speak this. Let me speak this,
and I'll let you speak.
Right now, what'd you do?
You pulled me outside.
You're pulling the wrong person outside.
You [bleep] got up and left the group.
- It doesn't matter. - Listen.
Just-- Just shut up.
Okay, you're not gonna belittle me and disrespect me.
Listen, bro, please.
I will give you the best piece of advice.
This discussion here, I won't hear it.
I'm not here-- And I appreciate you.
- Then get the [bleep] out. - Okay.
Yeah you should right now be talking to Jenn,
right, not talking to me. - Listen, bro.
Go talk to Jenn.
THOMAS N.: I wanted to speak my piece, my truth.
He wasn't having it, you know?
He-- He jumped down my throat.
Composure, baby. Composure. Composure.
Thomas, yellow is a good color on you, too.
Composure, bro. Composure.
Yeah. You're a child.
That's what a child will do. is walk away.
I don't respect Sam. I don't like Sam.
But I'm gonna keep the main thing the main thing.
I know what Jenn wants, and she wants that ferocious love.
10 toes [bleep] down.
My parents came to the U.S. 15, 12 years old.
- Wow. - Not a dollar in their pocket.
- Yeah. - Not a word of English.
SAM N.: Today my inner dog came out.
These guys, they don't like that.
They're intimidated now by me.
And tonight I will kiss Jenn because at that moment,
our relationship goes one step further
and we've introduced intimacy.
It's over.
And they came through and they were like,
"Hey, we're gonna make this work."
Yeah. They didn't know each other?
- No. - Okay, so they were separate
and then they met in the States. - Yeah, yeah.
JENN: Okay. THOMAS N.: So both my parents
were fostered when they came to the U.S.
JENN: Okay.
THOMAS N.: One family is Italian.
One family is Irish. - Wow. Okay.
So I was named after my great-grandfather Tommy O'Shea.
- Oh, my gosh, okay. - Yeah.
So-- So when I grew up, I was like-- I was like--
- You're like, "I'm Irish." - Yeah.
But-- But, like, the main thing that stuck with our family was,
hey, family, love.
My mom was going into pharmaceutical school.
JENN: Oh.
- Hey, Jenn. - Hey.
SAM N.: Can I have a moment with you?
Can you give me like five minutes?
No, man. I'm sorry.
Do you mind if I have a moment with you?
JENN: Okay. I'm sorry.
We'll have more time. We'll have more time.
Yeah. Thank you.
Hey. How are you doing? - Hey.
I'm doing good. Here, have a seat.
JENN: Thank you.
I know I might be walking on eggshells with the guys,
but I don't give a [bleep] about those guys.
- What's up, man? - Buddy.
You giving out the rose or what?
Two minutes of my talk, guess who [bleep] came and cut me off.
- You're joking. - Ohh!
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Yo, he needs some humbling.
He needs a spanking, bro.
Like, a verbal spanking, bro for real?
This is a very big moment, uh, for me,
and I really want to take our relationship to the next step.
So, Jenn, can I kiss you?
JENN: Um...
You know, I-I think a first kiss means a lot.
- Of course. - And what I really want to say
is I admire how open you are
and how vulnerable you've been with me.
And I want you to know, like, that's not an easy thing to do
in this-- in this journey. - No, it isn't. Yeah.
Like, I-- And I-- And I appreciate that so much.
Like, I want you to know how much that means to me.
I can only imagine how hard it was
for him to really put himself out there.
He's never been in love before,
and he's never had a girlfriend before.
So I really feel for Sam N. in the moment.
I want to be honest with you. - Okay.
I just don't know if I can see us getting there,
and I would never want to lead you on,
because I think it would be unfair.
I just, you know--
I think you have so much love to give, and I just--
You don't-- You don't have to.
I promise you, you don't have to defend yourself.
I just don't think that I'm the right person
for that right now.
And for that reason,
I'm gonna have to walk you out, if that's okay.
I respect that decision.
It takes a lot of guts to say that,
and I appreciate that, Jenn, seriously.
- Yeah. - Thank you.
You don't have to worry.
JENN: There's no doubt he will find his person
and he will have that amazing first kiss that he wants.
As tough as it is to send somebody home,
at the end of the day, I don't envision a future with Sam N.
♪
I'm leaving here...
♪
...confused.
I'm not feeling good. You know, I'll tell you.
I'll say that.
I feel like the biggest just fool of the century right now.
I did a lot of bold things.
I wore a denim jacket, so I thought I was, like,
you know, G.I. Joe in there
and basically just left out just...
in the worst way possible.
♪
Yeah, so...
tonight I had to send Sam N. home.
For me, at the end of the day, you know, he is a genuine guy.
He's such a great guy, and I saw that.
I really appreciate that.
But with him being so far along
and me not really seeing a future there,
I felt like it was unfair to keep him here.
I want you guys to know, like, you guys are all here for a reason,
and if I didn't see it, you wouldn't be here.
Um, and, Thomas, I'm sorry that our time was cut short tonight,
but I promise we'll have more time later.
SPENCER: Thank God.
It's so ironic 'cause he was, like,
trying to, like, fake all this confidence and everything.
And then the thing that would smack your confidence the most
happens where she's just, like, not about it.
This rose goes to someone who I feel like,
you know, being vulnerable is hard.
And I see this person trying,
and it's not always easy,
but I want them to know that I see them and I'm here for them
and I see the bravery in all of that,
and I'm excited to uncover more of that.
And so...
Marcus, will you accept this rose?
Yeah.
♪
Thank you.
Okay, well, it's been a really great day,
and I appreciate all of you guys.
Jenn put a rose on my chest. I wasn't expecting it.
She makes me feel like it's safe to open up about these things
that I've been struggling to open up about for...
for years.
I feel overwhelmed by it. Yeah.
I mean, like, obviously feeling super, super grateful right now.
I think the rose kind of just symbolizes
that she sees that I'm trying.
Um...
MAN: It's alright. DYLAN: We love you, bro.
That says a lot about the man that she's looking for,
and I will respect that for Marcus with Sam going home,
because, hey, you are a good man.
- Yeah, boy. - We love you.
♪
JENN: Waking up this morning, I'm feeling ready for a new day
and excited for my one-on-one date with Devin.
Today's really important because traveling to new places
and learning about the people that come here before us
is something that I want
to be able to do with my future partner.
Hey, there. - How are you?
JENN: And I do think today is a great opportunity
for me to open up to Devin about how I'm Vietnamese.
I'm also Buddhist, and, like, these are things
that are a part of me
that I want to be able to share in a relationship.
So I hope that Devin is going to be open to learning about,
you know, my spirituality and where I come from.
- How are you? - You look good.
Because I want to have a family
that revolves around the same morals and values.
So today's gonna be big on being able to figure out
if Devin and I are gonna be on the same page.
How are you? - I'm fantastic.
A little nervous. - Good. Why are you nervous?
Um, because I like you a lot.
[ both laugh ]
Yeah, it's a very, uh-- it's a very good nervous.
I want you to know that, okay? - Okay.
It's gonna be good. It's gonna be a good day.
Yeah? What do we have in store for today?
The Maori culture here is deeply rooted in New Zealand,
so I'm excited to learn more about it with you.
Ooh. JENN: So are you excited?
- Absolutely. - Okay.
Let's get after it.
It means the world to me to be here with Jenn today.
For me, it's all about finding out what makes Jenn tick,
because if I want to be with somebody,
I got to know everything about them, and vice versa.
She needs to know everything about me.
- [ speaks Maori ] - Hi.
DEVIN: So I hope-- I hope we can reach
a new level of connection today.
Welcome to our marae.
What you're about to be accorded is a traditional Maori welcome.
We're happy to host you today. - Thank you so much.
- Kia ora. - Thank you for having us.
- Appreciate it. - [ shouting in Maori ]
JENN: We walk into the marae,
and there is a welcome celebration for us.
[ shouting in Maori ]
JENN: To be here with Devin right now feels really special,
and we're gonna be learning about another culture.
And, you know, I want someone
who's curious about these kinds of things
because I think it gives you a broader perspective on life
and on the world.
Welcome into the sacred place,
into the body of our ancestor.
As Maori people, we call ourselves tangata whenua,
people of the land.
Um, so landmarks in our country have significance.
A specific mountain or a specific river,
they have the persona of living beings.
I'll start off by saying [ speaking Maori ]
Um, this is my mountain, my tribe,
and the canoe that my people came on.
And this is a chance to speak of yourself,
of what things that have significance to you.
I mean, and that could be where you've come from
and-- and what you bring from your home.
Or they could be about where you're going.
And don't worry if your mountains
don't connect to my mountains.
You don't have to be me. And I don't have to be you.
We just have to be who we are.
Few words, where you are, where you come from.
- You got it. - Stand up?
You got it.
Um, my name is Devin.
I come from many different places.
I'm what you would say a wanderer,
um, with my family.
Um, I've been all over.
My dad immigrated from Mexico.
Um, and they reside in California.
But, um, you know, I found a home in Houston, Texas.
So, you know, we don't have mountains
where we're from, unfortunately.
But, you know, I-I-I think the mountain,
in my mind, is-- is my mother.
Um, so that is a big thing for me.
But, uh, the protective attitude
that you have towards your culture
really meant a lot to me.
So I do feel like I can relate a little bit.
You know, thank you for having us here.
And I-I hope that we can continue to make you guys proud.
JENN: It's nice to see that side of Devin.
You know, this is the first time
that he's opening up a little bit more about how he grew up.
And, you know, he talks about how close he is with his mom,
and it resonates with me.
It definitely reminds me a lot of my mom
and how much she loves me and how resilient my mom is, too.
So I think we can relate on a lot of things there.
[ singing in Maori ]
♪
DEVIN: You know, I'm happy, man.
I couldn't be more happy in this moment, to be honest.
[ singing continues ]
Even just them singing those songs,
I am so inspired by how much they embrace their history
and how much they embrace their past.
That's how I want to talk about my life,
talk about my experiences.
So it was eyeopening for me to see that.
And that's something that I can learn from them.
[ singing continues ]
Maori!
- Oh. Oh, no! - Yes!
DEVIN: You know, we got to do a whole bunch of cool things
with these people
that I would have never thought would even be possible.
- Ah! - Oh!
It was fun.
And, you know, overall, it was a beautiful experience
and it was very refreshing
for me to be able to go through that with Jenn.
You know, just this place of the marae
represents the coming together of many people,
the coming together of cultures.
Today we've spoken a lot about the Maori culture,
but it would be awesome to hear a little bit about your culture
and kind of some traditions
that you'd like to take forward into the future.
Um, I think for me, you know,
my parents immigrated from Vietnam.
I lived in a very suburban town, and no one else was Vietnamese.
Um, and so growing up, it was hard for me
to kind of integrate both Vietnamese culture
and American culture
because I was so afraid of being different.
But I've-- over the years,
I've grown to love Vietnamese culture
and allowed myself to fully embrace it,
and I want to be able to, like, carry that
into, like, a marriage and with my kids, too.
My parents are Buddhist.
And so there's a lot of traditions there, too,
that I want to bring into the family, as well.
You know, we go to temple every Lunar New Year's
and some other holidays,
and that's something that I want to instill in my children.
Yeah. WOMAN: It's beautiful.
I love that.
Um, growing up, you know, I had split parents,
so I didn't actually get to see a lot of the cultures
of my families together.
I kind of had to experience them, you know, on its own.
But, um, I know that kids are something
that I have only ever wanted,
especially, you know, growing up without a full family intact.
WOMAN: Mm. - Um, a happy, healthy family
is all the tradition that I need.
JENN: Mm-hmm. I love that.
That's what it's all about. Yeah.
I feel really proud to speak about where I come from.
I think with Devin, it's been really nice
for me to be comfortable enough
to share these things with someone,
because I've never had that before.
I've never had conversations like these before
about my values and tradition
and what family looks like for me.
Devin said that he wants to be a dad,
and, like, hearing him say it is definitely a new step for us.
Last and first word of the day, kia ora.
- Kia ora. - Kia ora.
Kia ora means hi. Kia ora means hello.
Kia ora can also mean thank you.
I love that. WOMAN: Kia ora.
Lovely to meet you all.
And we'll take our leave from here.
- Kia ora. - Thank you so much.
Thank you. You too.
DEVIN: The love from the Maori people extended out to us
was something that I've never experienced before in my life.
And the fact that I got to do that with Jenn
was an amazing experience as well.
Our relationship flourished today.
I learned a lot about her culture
and things that made her the way she is,
and I want her to know about everything that's made me me.
Definitely scared. It's not easy to talk about.
But, you know, if I want to be with somebody
truly and open-heartedly,
she needs to know all those things about me.
♪
JENN: [ chuckles ] You excited?
Me? I was excited the moment I got out of the shower.
[ laughs ] DEVIN: I feel good.
Today was a monumental stepping-stone, I think,
for Jenn and I's relationship.
And I never say I've fallen for a woman after the first date,
but I think I'm falling for her.
Just the way she looks at me, man.
[ chuckles ]
Wow. JENN: It's pretty, huh?
DEVIN: Oh, my Lord. JENN: Mm-hmm.
DEVIN: Beautiful.
I talked to her a little bit about my family stuff today.
It's not easy for me to talk about that,
but the fact is, she-- she makes it
a story that I want to tell.
So the rose today would be the one that I want the most,
because this one is the one that she fully accepts me
after hearing everything that I've gone through.
JENN: Should we do a little cheers to the day?
DEVIN: Absolutely. Let me make a little toast.
Jenn, I'm thankful for every opportunity
I get to spend with you.
And cheers to many, many more.
JENN: Cheers. DEVIN: Cheers.
Cheers.
So, today was a surreal day for me.
Mm-hmm.
I wasn't expecting to talk about, you know, my mom.
- Mm-hmm. - She's done a lot for me.
And talking about her in that moment,
you know, she has been my mountain.
I grew up in a tough environment, you know,
so I kind of felt that was the best way
for me to approach that moment. JENN: Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm. - Um...
What do you mean by that?
So, like, you know,
I had issues with my dad growing up, obviously.
My parents were never together,
which was always, like, a weird thing for me.
Mm-hmm.
My mom was in school.
Casual fling turned into a pregnancy,
and that was me.
Um... - Okay.
You know, it's not how she wanted.
She had to drop out of college and end up taking care of me.
- Mm-hmm. - Um...
So my dad was around, but he was not really, like, around.
It was a very weird dynamic for me growing up.
Okay. Mm-hmm.
Um, we moved around a lot. JENN: Mm-hmm.
And it was, like, always a feeling of instability.
Mm-hmm.
My mom was always trying to figure things out, um,
but she was very strong in those tough moments, too.
And that taught me a lot of, like, how to navigate the world
even though things don't really look like
they have a solution at times.
JENN: Right. Right. - So...
Was she a working mom, too? DEVIN: Oh, yeah.
Yeah. DEVIN: Yeah, s-she worked--
she worked two jobs, she went back to college,
took care of me, my brother. - Wow.
DEVIN: Um, so she had a lot on her plate.
Wow.
DEVIN: I was such a...
not a bad child, but I just didn't understand
those things about her when I was young.
So, you know, I-I used to always idolize my father
as, like, some guy that I wanted to go live with
and wanted to be with, and, you know,
I saw how much that hurt my mom, because she--
she's the one who took care of me my entire life.
And he was never around for that.
Yeah. DEVIN: But with her
and everything that we've been through,
she never wavered once.
You know, no matter how I felt, no matter how much I lashed out
or how much trouble I got in, she never wavered.
And she has taken care of me
better than any father figure that I've ever had.
JENN: She seems like an incredible woman.
DEVIN: She is. JENN: An incredible,
incredible woman who raised an incredible man.
And she would be so, so proud of you.
For Devin to share with me
everything that happened when he was growing up
and all the struggles that he has,
like, really touched my heart.
I resonate with that so much,
and I feel like Devin and I have a very unique connection
that not a lot of people can understand.
For me, my mom is also my rock,
and she also is, like, the most impressive woman
in the entire world to have to deal with,
you know, my dad not wanting to be a father anymore,
not wanting to be a husband anymore.
And for her to try to be a mom at the same time,
like, it was a lot for her.
And I didn't see it at the time, but I do now.
So I can totally see where you're coming from.
Yeah, and it wasn't easy.
And that's why I wanted to maybe ask you,
like, is your relationship with your father present,
or is it something that you want to explore if it's not?
Um, growing up, I can think of maybe one to two
really good childhood memories of us together.
And then there was a certain point in time
where he just stopped being present.
And then when they finally got divorced,
he didn't want to be a dad to me.
He never, like, reached out and, like, asked me how I was doing.
He never really cared.
He never-- He didn't even know my birthday,
like, so it just got to a point where I got sick of it
because I was like, I don't want to keep someone around
in my life who doesn't want to be in my life.
Exactly. JENN: And I told him,
"You know what? You can't call yourself a father
if you don't, you know, check up on me,
you don't do these things," and he decided
to just not talk to me ever again.
Wow.
I feel absolutely moved for her to, like,
have somewhat of a father growing up,
and then to lose that entirely is devastating.
It's a tough situation to be able to acknowledge that.
JENN: Yeah. - And I can only imagine
how that makes you feel, you know, with him.
For the longest time, I did invest in guys
who weren't invested in me.
And it was a whole thing of, like, not knowing my worth
and not understanding, like, my value in the world.
But I was able to realize as I grew up
that just because my dad didn't want to be a part of my life
doesn't mean that I don't deserve love
and doesn't mean that I don't deserve
people who care about me... DEVIN: Right.
...because the people who want to care about me
are gonna stay in my life. DEVIN: Exactly.
So we are very similar.
JENN: We are very, very, very similar.
We're very similar.
Jenn, she's an amazing woman.
She's strong like me.
But she also is able to show her vulnerable side.
She makes it possible for me to open up
in ways that I didn't think was possible before.
She deserves to know what love from a man
can look like in life.
And the way that she's opened up to me
makes me want to push even harder to make that a reality.
Um...
I walked into today really liking you for a reason.
I knew that already.
But the way that you've opened up to me
and the way that you've given me the strength
to open up about myself...
Mm-hmm.
...did something crazy for me.
And that's what I mean by it.
Um... I'm falling for you, and I'm not afraid to say it.
You're an amazing woman.
[ chuckles ]
Like, when is this gonna stop?
You're an amazing woman.
And I just want to celebrate you every single day
for as long as I can.
- Devin. - [ laughs ]
Devin, Devin, Devin, Devin, Devin.
I don't know, I don't know. This is crazy.
[ laughs ]
Devin told me he's falling for me,
and I just-- I don't know
if anyone's ever said that to me before.
And he was the first.
And I've never felt appreciated
in the way that Devin makes me feel.
It's a new feeling.
[ gasps ]
You know, today has really all been about family and culture
and tradition and understanding how we connect as people.
And tonight I really found out that we connect
in a lot more ways than we really thought that we did.
And I'm excited to see what's to come for us.
So, Devin, will you accept this rose?
Without a doubt, I will.
MAN: [ singing in Maori ]
♪
JENN: I couldn't be happier.
And I'm feeling so hopeful.
I think that he is someone
who could very much be my future fiancé.
[ singing continues ]
DEVIN: Jenn and I are on a whole new high.
I am excited.
I can't hide how I feel about her anymore.
I can't play it cool. I can't play it safe,
because I see a future with Jenn and I'm confident in that.
I want it to be me so bad now, like, so bad.
[ singing continues ]
♪
JENN: Yesterday was a beautiful, beautiful day.
Devin and I had a very special one-on-one date.
I feel like I really saw a different side to him.
He's continuing to surprise me.
I never thought that I could go on this journey
and find not one, but a group of guys
who make me feel so safe and comfortable to be myself.
I cannot be more excited about this group of men.
I don't know how this journey can get any better.
JEREMY: I'm excited for the cocktail party.
It's just another day we get to see our girlfriend and have fun.
Um, I'm just looking forward to continuing the journey.
I've been trying to look for the best
in these rose ceremonies,
hoping that stuff doesn't self-destruct,
and I've been wrong every single time.
So now you know what?
I think things are gonna go to [bleep]
♪
Alright, so basically here's what's happening right now.
A guy from Jenn's past
has reached out to one of our producers.
It's obviously not normal. It's very unexpected.
I'm told that he has flown himself
halfway around the world here to New Zealand on his own dime
just to have a conversation with Jenn.
So his flight apparently has landed about an hour ago.
He's on his way to the hotel here right now.
I'm sure this guy is absolutely exhausted.
My plan is to meet him here at his hotel, talk to him,
uh, find out what it is he wants to say to Jenn.
The truth is, we just don't have a lot of time.
We're basically halfway through Jenn's season right now.
She's already hitting it off with a lot of these guys.
And we literally have a rose ceremony in a matter of hours.
So time really is, I think, of the essence right now.
Now, as for Jenn,
she is over at the harbor somewhere not far from here.
She's shooting with her producers.
It's what she'd normally be doing right now.
And Jenn, of course, has no idea this guy has shown up.
And as for the guys, they're back at their hotel right now,
and they're getting ready for tonight's rose ceremony.
Uh, this-- this could be the guy.
So we're just gonna let this thing play out
and see what happens.
I think he's, uh--
think he's gonna be here any minute now.
[ dramatic music plays ]
♪
Hey, man, how you doing?
Doing well. How are you?
- Matt, I'm Jesse. - Jesse, nice to meet you.
Good to meet you, brother. You too.
Um, look, my goal just to kind of meet you here
and just talk to you a little bit.
Is that okay? - Yeah, let's do it.
JESSE: Okay. I do want to say, I'm totally impressed.
It's not every day we see a guy just get on a plane,
fly himself halfway around the world for a shot at love.
And at the end, all of us just want what's best for Jenn.
Yeah. JESSE: Maybe that's you.
So help me understand how you two know each other.
Yeah, so Jenn and I, uh, dated about three years ago,
dated for about three or four months.
Since then, have found ourselves back together
throughout the past few years, and when she got up and left,
I just felt like I couldn't just let her go.
And I'm here to tell Jenn that I still love you
and that I'm here to show you that
and whatever I have to do to earn that trust back
and here to see if there's a future with us.
I'll tell you what.
Right now, Jenn's very close-by.
She's over at the harbor.
She's filming with our producers.
Our people can walk you over there
to have a conversation with her.
And I hate to do this and I hate to put you on the spot,
but there is a rose ceremony literally in a couple of hours.
So if you want to have this conversation,
you got to go do it right now. - Yeah.
Just head out to the left here towards the harbor.
- Okay. - Our people will take you
to her, okay? - Alright. Thank you, Jesse.
JESSE: Good luck. - I'll need it.
[ dramatic music plays ]
♪
[ gasps ] My God.
Oh, my-- I-I-- Sorry. I can't, I can't, I can't.
Weren't expecting to see me? Were you expecting someone else?
How are you here right now?
What?
JENN: What are you doing here?
What is going on?
MATT: I was really looking forward
to this trip to Colombia with you.
And I went for a few days,
and it wasn't the same without you there.
And I blew off both the weddings and--
You left the weddings?
Yeah, I didn't go to any of them.
I flew here from Cartagena to be here with you.
It's been a 24-hour journey.
I couldn't-- I couldn't go to the weddings without you.
Aah, Matthew! What are you doing?
MATT: I feel both a little bit nervous, a little bit excited.
We were in love,
and I think a part of us will always be in love,
and for me, it's just never been so strong.
Me being here, hopefully, is one step in the right direction
to proving to her how much she means to me
and how serious I'm taking this.
I'm not ready to just let you go and-- and get engaged
without telling you
that I still have really strong feelings for you,
more now than ever.
And so I'm just asking that you just give me the chance
to show you how much this all means to me.
Like what, you're ready to get engaged?
I'm ready to do it.
Matthew.
This is my ex-boyfriend.
For him to come here, I think it's just a big shock.
We dated three years ago.
Matt is not the toxic ex I'm referring to.
He is not the one who messed me up a little bit.
That's a different ex.
We recently reconnected in the past few months as friends,
or so I thought as friends.
Like I just-- I'm-- I'm so confused
what his intentions are.
We've had so many chances.
We've been through a lot.
And I'm just-- I feel like this is coming out of nowhere.
I mean, you don't feel like the last, say, few months
have-- have felt different to you?
I feel like we've been able to connect
on a deeper kind of level
and that you are one of the most important people in my life.
You know me more than anyone else in the world,
and I'm not ready to let it all go.
You know, you could have said this before I left.
I-I did say it.
But I didn't say it as grandly as this, I guess.
I'm sorry. I don't know what to say.
I just-- I am, um, overwhelmed, I guess.
I think you are, like, someone who is important in my life.
Um... I'm just-- I'm confused.
Yeah. I really care strongly for you.
And I know it's not the first time I've said this,
and I really hope it's not the last,
but I really do love you.
And I really hope-- - Matthew!
[ chuckles ] I do, I do.
My intentions are to be with you,
and I want to continue this journey together.
So you want to, like, date me
and my 10-- 11 other boyfriends?
Uh, I mean, dating just you would be great,
but [ laughing ] they can come along for the ride.
I would love to join you
for me to prove to you how much you mean to me,
to express to you how much I still strongly care for you.
Give me a second.
♪
Matt coming here just-- it confuses me,
and it-- it breaks me out of my head a little bit.
There are people here that I have really strong feelings for,
and I am afraid of what it might stir up in some of these guys
and how they might feel about it,
but I also know Matt a lot better than I know these guys
that I've just met a couple weeks ago.
He's someone I care about.
I have a difficult decision to make,
and I don't know where my heart is pulling me.
JESSE: Next week...
Jenn's past...
I hope that you can see how much that you mean to me.
JESSE: ...collides with her future.
My ex-boyfriend Matt he flew all the way here.
He wants to join this journey.
So he is here tonight.
JESSE: This decision will change everything.
MAN: With her ex walking in, it's changing people's--
people's hearts and minds.
JENN: I have one of the biggest decisions
that I've had to make yet,
and I have to follow my own journey.
You don't think it makes you look at me differently?
I trust you.
Lions don't concern themselves with the opinions of sheep.
DEVIN: We are working our hardest to be here.
And for some guy who wandered his way back in, I'm livid.
Ah!
What are you saying?
I'm saying I don't think it's fair to the other guys.
As much as I can see a future at the end of this,
I also see a future where I end up alone.
♪